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The journey continues with Creativity and Curiosity! Be sure and check out episode 408 (part 1) to learn more about the benefits and barriers to creativity. In this episode, Dr. Bray dives into the five ways you can bolster your creativity and curiosity. Dr. Bray shares how these five steps impact your professional and personal lives. He also throws in a few New Years' Eve goals and resolution advice! You need to add and subtract this year. Finally, Dr. Bray builds a foundation for you to look at 2022 from a new perspective and change your roadmap a bit as you create the type of person you want to be. HBR Francesca Gino Oct 2019
As I contemplated what gift I could give our tribe of listeners this year, I concluded that Curiosity and Creativity would make the most significant difference for you in 2022. Curiosity and creativity work together as a spark for breakthrough innovation in your personal and professional life. At this time of year, we are thinking of what goals and new year’s resolutions we want to set for 2022. I suggest one of the most important goals you can set for yourself is to be curious about your life in 2022, which leads to increased creativity. In this episode, I dive into the benefits of curiosity and two barriers that keep you from being creative. I also explore how they impact both your personal and professional life. Using personal examples, a few case studies, and some outstanding research, I hope to open up a new perspective for you in 2022. Enjoy! Collisionconf.com HBR Francesca Gino Oct 2018 QUOTES BY DR. BRAY “Curiosity can boost your personal life!” “Curiosity & creativity can change the world through one person!” “Curiosity has positive effects because it leads us to generate alternatives.”
Dr. CK Bray’s new book is finally out, “How to Raise Remarkable Kids Without Talking To Them!” In today’s episode, Dr. Bray provides a behind-the-scenes look into how the book came about, his daughters’ reaction to his parenting idea and why every parent should read this book. You can find his book on Amazon, it will make a great holiday gift for any parent. https://amzn.to/3oQsHlG QUOTES BY DR. BRAY “I am so proud of what this book means and the meaning behind it.” “The book is written for you!” “You’ll be amazed at the differences you can make and the relationships that will grow by taking a few minutes each night to share a positive message with your children.”
What is luck? Is luck just fate, or can you control luck? Are some people luckier than others? Can you increase your luck? In this informative and exciting three podcast series, Dr. Bray dives into the science and phenomenon of luck. He takes that latest research on luck and shares the different ways in which lucky and unlucky people behave and how they make decisions. Dr. Bray also shares the four essential principles of luck and discusses how luck can be learned. You will gain insight into the lucky mind and, hopefully, change your luck. After listening to this podcast, Dr. Bray expects a small fee for changing your LUCK if you win the lottery!
What is luck? Is luck just fate, or can you control luck? Are some people luckier than others? Can you increase your luck? In this informative and exciting three podcast series, Dr. Bray dives into the science and phenomenon of luck. He takes that latest research on luck and shares the different ways in which lucky and unlucky people behave and how they make decisions. Dr. Bray also shares the four essential principles of luck and discusses how luck can be learned. You will gain insight into the lucky mind and, hopefully, change your luck. After listening to this podcast, Dr. Bray expects a small fee for changing your LUCK if you win the lottery!
What is luck? Is luck just fate, or can you control luck? Are some people luckier than others? Can you increase your luck? In this informative and exciting three podcast series, Dr. Bray dives into the science and phenomenon of luck. He takes that latest research on luck and shares the different ways in which lucky and unlucky people behave and how they make decisions. Dr. Bray also shares the four essential principles of luck and discusses how luck can be learned. You will gain insight into the lucky mind and, hopefully, change your luck. After listening to this podcast, Dr. Bray expects a small fee for changing your LUCK if you win the lottery! QUOTES BY DR. BRAY “Luck asserts a dramatic influence over our lives.”
In today’s episode, Dr. Bray discusses the six-lesson anxiety teaches us. Based on the work of Stephen Hayes, Ph.D. and creator of the ACT model of therapy, Dr. Bray discussed tools to help deal with anxiety and its terrible grip. If you or someone you know deals with anxiety or worry, this podcast is for them. As we move through the experience of a pandemic and all the changes over the last two years, the rise of anxiety and worry has significantly increased. Understanding the causes, triggers, and tools to deal with anxiety and worry is knowledge everyone should know. QUOTES BY DR. BRAY “ Take notes. Someone in your life will experience anxiety.” “Observe the anxiety as a 3rd person, you’ll learn a lot from these emotions.” “The healthy way to move forward is to open up to the anxiety.” “Mental and behavioral health involves developing psychological strength and flexibility for everybody!”
In today’s episode, Dr. Bray breaks down the anatomy of anxiety and worry. He will walk you through the cognitive and physiological aspects of anxiety and what triggers, heightens, and calms anxiety and worry. If you or someone you know deals with anxiety or worry, this podcast is for them. As we move through the experience of a pandemic and all the changes over the last two years, the rise of anxiety and worry has significantly increased. Understanding the causes, triggers, and tools to deal with anxiety and worry is knowledge everyone should know. **The Anatomy of Calm. Stephen Porges Ph.D. Psychology Today, October 2021 QUOTES BY DR. BRAY “Everyone has different things that trigger their threat state.” “You can reboot your body based upon breathing.”
Dr. Bray is spicing up your marriage or long-term partnership during this episode. If your relationship is low on desire and excitement, this episode may be the prescription you need to spark your love life. There are many reasons individuals have affairs, including excitement, mystery, and stolen moments but when the same aspects are applied to your spouse or significant other, be prepared for fireworks. Dr. Bray will walk you through the seven steps of having an affair with your partner, all based on science and psychology. You don’t want to miss this episode! *Suzanna B. Phillips, How to Have An Affair With Your Partner. Psychology Today, October 2021. QUOTES BY DR. BRAY “Is your relationship boring? You may need to have an affair…with your partner!” “To feel known and safe is crucial for every human being.” “Dare to become familiar strangers.”
Does a cold dip help you lose weight? Does sugar cause neurodegenerative diseases? Why do some stutterers only stutter in public and not when they are alone? And a landmark success in the treatment of depression! Today’s podcast shares the latest neuroscience research into these topics and Dr. Bray provides insight into the importance of brain health.
Everyone has fears. We are all afraid of something. We know what direction we want our lives to go, what we want to do, could do, and absolutely should be doing. Yet, something gets in the way. That “something” barrier is very familiar to us. It could be the voice in our head, the voice of our friends, or family in our head. So, how do we decrease our fears and increase our courage? In today’s podcast, Dr. Bray discusses 10 ways to overcome our fears and increase courage. Based on Ryan Holiday’s new book “Courage is Calling,” Dr. Bray shares why courage is a vital factor in having a meaningful and purpose-driven life. This is a must-listen-to podcast, and the book “Courage is Calling” is a must-read book! QUOTES BY DR. BRAY “We face many enemies in life, but they’re never as formidable as our mind makes us think they are.” “Fears are illusions.” “Our struggles become our experience and the strength to overcome them in the future, they make us better.
You will notice it when you attend your fifteen or twenty-year high school reunion. Look around, and you will see a big difference in the trajectories that your former classmates have taken. The years seem not to be as kind to the men as they have been to the women. Many of the men are overweight, out-of-shape, and have a look that tells us their life has been rough. The giveaway is always the dead look in the eyes. What causes this? Soft Suburban Dad Syndrome. That is the topic of this week’s Dr. Ck Bray show. Brett & Kate McKay of the Art of Manliness website and podcast wrote an article called, “Are you suffering from Soft Suburban Dad Syndrome?” (you can read it here https://www.artofmanliness.com/health-fitness/health/soft-suburban-dad-syndrome/) Dr. Bray liked the article so much he wanted to share it with you and discuss a few of his favorite self-examination questions. The complete questionnaire is 50 questions, covering four topics of Physical, Mental, Social and Miscellaneous. Find out if you are suffering from SSDS and what you can do about it on today’s show.
In today’s episode of the Dr. CK Bray Show, Dr. Bray shares the latest and greatest research to come out in the last month. Dr. Bray discusses the topics of what foods you should be eating to ensure better cognitive performance, how to change your perception of stress, romantic passion related to how tan you are, and finally, how exercise lowers your risk of developing anxiety. (And we always wondered why Dr. Bray was so tan! Riddle solved.) QUOTES BY DR. BRAY “I’m a 10 out of 10!” “If your love life is suffering, it’s time to go out and get some sunlight!” “We create our own reality.”
This week Dr. Bray continues discussing topics worth thinking about in part 2 of his “thinking” series. We all need a Walden pond at certain times of our lives where we can think about what is most important, what we need to change, and what is going well in our lives. Today Dr. Bray discusses how we often show up when life becomes stressful, or we experience hurt, betrayal, or failure. Switching gears, Dr. Bray talks about Victor Frankl’s brainchild of a Statue of Responsibility to be erected in San Francisco. (Its twin statue is the Statue of Liberty). Dr. Bray then closes out with five quick thoughts on making sure you have the correct perception. QUOTES BY DR. BRAY “We must feel our feelings before we can relate to the situation and emotion of the others involved.” “How easy it is to tear down, but how difficult it is to build up.”
Sixty percent of our thoughts are exactly the same as yesterday! Dr. Bray wants to change that and dedicated this podcast to providing a few different topics to think about and talk about. Dr. Bray starts with your face and moves to other topics, including connecting in the new world of work and how your perspective is constantly creating your reality. This podcast will provide excellent dinner conversation and get your brain thinking in a new direction.
We live in a world that is so different from any previous generation. The iPhone in your pocket is 120 million times more powerful than the computer guiding the Apollo 11. With increases in technology and luxury, we are also seeing changes in well-being and fulfillment. Less people are able to find meaning and feel fulfillment. This podcast discusses why that is, and what habits you can create to find greater purpose and meaning in your life. QUOTES BY DR. BRAY "It is amazing how many people have turned off their emotions.” “The things that have the power to cause us the most pain are the things we care the most deeply about.” “As you fight, run, avoid, you become distant from your own life.” “Don’t do dumb things! They will make life difficult for you.” www.adaptioninstitute.com
SHOWNOTES Dr. Bray has received several requests to discuss careers after a pandemic and numerous other workplace changes over the last year. Is it wise to change jobs? What about returning to the workplace after being away 5, 10, or 15 years. The workplace landscape has changed, and organizations are looking for individuals who can help them grow and succeed. This week learn about what companies are offering individuals to come back who have been out of the workforce for several years. Dr. Bray also shares insights on how to best navigate a new organization. **Be sure and read Carol Cohen’s article in HBR September/October 2021 Issue. QUOTES BY DR. BRAY “You don’t care what people think because you know what you value, what’s important to you and and you know what type of person you want to be.”
Changes over the last two years have caused individuals to contemplate their careers. Is this career something I want to do for the rest of my life? Do I find meaning in my career? Do I even like my job? When life slowed down, the brain sped up, and people took time to think about their lives. Enter the “Great Resignation!” In early June, the Labor Department released a report revealing that a record four million Americans had quit their jobs in April alone. Then there is the idea of career downsizing. The big question of why we work so hard for non-essential things led to the desire to voluntarily reduce work hours to emphasize other aspects of life. Dr. Bray discusses both topics and shares insights into how your career may be evolving. **Be sure and read Cal Newport’s article in The New Yorker titled “The Great Resignation” Aug 2021. Dr. Bray shares some of his fantastic thoughts and ideas in this podcast.
Today’s podcast covers the latest and greatest research which has been recently published. Portions of the research provide insights into improving your life, while other research provides a strong dose of daily humor. Dr. Bray shares information on one of the best ways to improve your child’s brain function; he shares how sleep significantly impacts your memory and why it is essential to take breaks while learning. Dr. Bray also shares why your narcissistic neighbors or co-workers tend to be aggressive and violent! Yes, you read that right; new research suggests that regardless of gender, age, or country of residence if you are narcissistic, you have a significant risk factor for aggressive and violent behavior. The good news is individuals with narcissism are not particularly picky about how they attack others. Learn the true definition of narcissism and why researchers expect this to get worse! Don’t miss this 13 minute podcast. (Dr. Bray kept a podcast under 15 minutes!)
It is time to clear up a few common misconceptions about the brain and neurotransmitters. What is serotonin, and how does it work? What is dopamine, and how does it affect me? What occurs in my body and brain if I am low on any of these neurotransmitters? Today, Dr. Bray answers these questions and provides a deeper dive into how dopamine and serotonin have an incredible impact on your thoughts, behaviors, and perceptions. Learn what is floating around in your head. Thanks to James Lee for his words and his book, “Better Living through Neurochemistry.” Also, to Adam Gazzaley and his book, “The Distracted Brain.” Also, thanks to Harvard and their medical journals and commentaries that take complex concepts and make them easy for everyone to understand.
Fear is a topic that most individuals don’t like to discuss. It makes us uncomfortable for several reasons, but today Dr. Bray takes us into the world of Fear and Courage providing the neuroscience and the impact courage and fear have on our lives. Learn how fear is related to anxiety, how fear shows up in our brains and why having courage is a key trait everyone needs to learn. Be inspired and change how you think by listening to this week’s podcast. Researchers Ralph Adolphs Kay Tye *J. Peterson QUOTES BY DR. BRAY “Anxiety and fear are different.” “Fear is a standard condition of our existence.” “Map out your journey for your adventure!”
The Olympic dream continues as Dr. Bray dives into the mechanics of peak performance and mastery. Learn what steps many of the Olympic athletes have taken to become peak performers. It isn’t as difficult as you think and applies to all aspects of life. You will learn how to apply these methods to any new hobby or skill you decide to undertake. If you haven’t listened to episode 388, Dr. Bray recommends you listen to that first and then jump into this podcast. Peak by Anders Ericsson The Art of Impossible Steven Kotler (Great book to read on this subject)
The Olympics are on, and if you are watching as many sports as I am (so much for going to bed early and getting a good night's rest), then you may have wondered, "How do these individuals get so good at what they do?" That is what I am talking about on today's podcast. The information will shock you, as new research is teaching us the best way to learn quickly and master new skills. You don't want to miss this episode which is full of science to increasing your performance in both work and life. **Daniel Coyle wrote the book "The Talent Code" that is well worth reading and contains excellent research. I shared his outstanding work in this podcast, along with more recent research.
If you could go to lunch with anyone in the world, who would you choose? A study done over fifty years ago asked those questions and the responses included the president of the United States, ivy-league college presidents, and world-renowned musicians and artists. The same questions were asked a few years ago and the two of the top responses were Britney Spears (free Britney) and Paris Hilton. When asked what they would like to be when they grow up the responses were rich, famous or to work with someone famous. Ouch! Today on the Dr. CK Bray show Dr. Bray shares the best way to create meaning, purpose, and fulfillment in your life. He discusses the best way to change the world and unfortunately, it isn't by being rich or famous. Learn what the research has to offer on this topic.
Today’s podcast focuses on Neuroscience in the News! Dr. Bray has been reading the latest research and found five topics that range from the important to the, well, let’s say less important! In less than 15 minutes, Dr. Bray discusses the latest research about: 1. Sleep 2. A new device to help with the OCD problem of hair-pulling. 3. Why food porn can increase your social media following. 4. How disadvantaged neighborhoods can influence the brain connections of children. 5. A psilocybin update on depression. Be up to date on the latest brain research and enjoy a laugh or two while listening to Dr. Bray explain the latest research.
All will be well with the world after you win your millions. Except it won’t, because of a scientific term called Hedonic Adaption. Hedonic adaption is a theory that people quickly become accustomed to pleasurable things in their lives and return to their normal set point of happiness. Today Dr. Bray shares the ways to raise your happiness setpoint! Research *Phillip Brickman & Coates; Costa & Marcea, Alice Boyes
Dr. Bray takes on the Mt. Everest of life’s questions on today’s show. Dr. Bray discusses the importance of having meaning and purpose in your life and what happens when you don’t. He also shares insights on discovering what brings meaning and purpose and the benefits of taking on one of life’s biggest challenges. This 20-minute show will have you laughing one minute and then seriously contemplating the direction of your life the next. **Thanks to Dr. James Pennebaker and Dr. Jordan Peterson for their research which contributed to this podcast.
If the doctor gives you a prescription, one-third of individuals won’t fill it. Of the two-thirds who do fill it, half won’t take the medication or will take it incorrectly. Yet if you take your pet to the vet, you are highly likely to fill the prescription and give it correctly to your beloved animal. Why is that? Why do you treat your pet and other people better than you treat yourself? A question that Dr. Bray will dive into on today’s podcast, along with understanding the importance of taking time to think about where your life is going and how your perceived value influences where your life is headed. Assignment: Take an hour or two over the next week to think about Dr. Bray’s value questions and the three step plan. Selfauthoring.com References: James Pennebaker Jordan Peterson QUOTES BY DR. BRAY “You are responsible to treat yourself well.” “Do what is more meaningful!” “It is a terrible strategy to be unaware so you don’t see yourself failing.”
A fable from Aesop, a trip to Moab, Utah, and a calendar with how many weeks Dr. Bray has left to live inspired this podcast on one of the most important human questions you will ever face. Don’t miss this episode as Dr. Bray discusses the science, psychology, and personal stories on a meaningful and purposeful life.
We slip into communication patterns when we fail to develop a variety of responses to people’s comments, we become predictable and we aren’t prepared for conversations where we’re caught off guard. We often go silent when someone says something we don't like, hurts our feelings or we disagree with. You can handle a political environment if you understand how the conversation works and how to turn it around.
Being rich is no longer all about money, it is also about time. The pandemic sparked thinking about how we spend our time and how we could choose to spend our time differently, in a way that would create a more rich, fulfilling and happy life. Today, Dr. Bray shares his thoughts and research on time poverty and time prosperity. As the world continues to change it may be the right moment to take a good look at how you spend your time. ***Please see Ashley Whillans article “ Which of these time traps is eating all your time?” Apologies to Ashley who Dr. Bray referred to as Jenny Whillans in the podcast.
What do you do with facts once you have learned them? Critical thinking is more than just accumulating information. A critical thinker is able to deduce consequences from what they know, is able to use information to solve problems and make innovative decisions. How can YOU become a critical thinker?
What would your life look like if it were better? Are you able to articulate what a better life for you would look like? Unfortunately, studies have shown that a majority of individuals in North America say a “better life” is found through material things. That answer gets nothing but a big red “wrong mark.” In today’s episode, Dr. Bray talks about two ways to make your life better. The answers may be hard to swallow, but human behavior research and thousands of individual's lives have shown it is precisely what you need.
It is always interesting to learn how research into specific topics begins. The topic for today’s podcast has an interesting beginning with a blockbuster movie sequel and a little green alien. The science of unlearning has become a much-debated topic in the last decade. Can knowledge be unlearned or eliminated to make space for new knowledge? Dr. Bray will discuss his unlearning viewpoint in today's podcast and how the brain learns, adapts, and changes. He also discusses the impact of unlearning and the one skill everyone needs. For a deeper conversation on the topic of unlearning, go to “The Wave Podcast” and listen to an in-depth discussion on unlearning with cohosts Paul Morris and Alyssa Walker.
We love to watch and admire those who have a cause. It stirs something in our souls to believe that there is a reason we are on the earth and that we can make a difference and impact on the world. In today’s episode Dr. Bray shares insights and personal experiences on why we need to find a personal cause and how it impacts those in our lives. Dr. Bray discusses why this is a topic we rarely hear about or discuss anymore and how we are replacing what might be the most important work we do.
Science is discovering aspects of stress that may surprise you. Fight, Flight or Food? During quarantine, many of us choose the food option to deal with stress. Over 42% of North Americans gained weight during the pandemic. An average of 1.5 pounds per month. In today’s episode, Dr. Bray unveils the research on stress and how it affects what you eat, how you behave, and your mood. New tests are on the way to market to help health providers treat stress, depression, and anxiety more accurately. All they need is a blood sample. Dr. Bray also discusses new research on how to better handle difficult, stressful situations. The answer is not only easy; it takes one decision!
Few individuals will ever admit they are at war with themselves. Research tells us differently. When you look at the mirror, you see five negatives for every positive attribute. When you maneuver throughout the day, you say eight to ten negative thoughts about yourself for every one positive thought. You don't even know it, but you may be a bully---to yourself. The power of negative thoughts goes by several names in the academic literature: negativity bias, negativity dominance, or the negative effect. All meaning that negative thoughts, events, and emotions affect us stronger and longer than positive ones. In today's podcast, learn how to win the war and adapt how your brain works to begin creating positive neural networks. Learn why our brains seek out negativity and how to tip the scales to recognize all the good things that happen to us in a day. This podcast is a must listen to for everyone who finds themselves struggling with the narrative running wild in their minds.
This week, three buddies catch up about, well, buddies! Paul Morris, Global Learning Consultant, kicks back and chats with Jason and Chris about the extraordinary, enduring power of friendship. In an increasingly digital world where we can simultaneously feel constantly connected yet deeply disconnected, the definition of 'friendship' is becoming more complex. Covering topics such as psychological safety, courage and social evolution - the friendship continuum is broad, let's explore and jump in! Welcome to The At Our Best Podcast - hosted by Jason Moore and Dr. CK Bray. Using a little science and a lot of common sense, some smart, funny, interesting people talk about the everyday strategies that help us be at our best. Interested to learn more and keep updated? https://aob.work/podcast
Everyone’s familiar with the sensation of being trapped in a conversation for too long – be that over the garden fence, by the office water cooler, or even on the phone. On the other end of the spectrum, we’ve also experienced conversations that seem to end prematurely, leaving us dissatisfied and maybe even a little hurt. A new study out of Harvard University provides insight into our daily conversations, and Dr. Bray reviews the Dos and Don’ts of conversations. The most important being how to end a conversation. Dr. Bray also shares the reasons why you should write every day. Yes, there are mental and physical health benefits, but writing 10-15 minutes a day not only improves your thinking but also helps reveal who you are. Writing is one of the critical ways for you to be self-aware. It doesn’t matter if you journal, blog, or post on social media—you just need to write.
All around us are things we have begun. Books we started, workout equipment gathering dust, journals with only a few pages we have written in. Our house or apartment projects are 20 percent finished. Health foods and health supplements are wasting away in cupboards—Hobby paraphernalia is sitting in the corner of the garage. We love to start new things but often have a difficult time finishing them. Dr. Bray dives into a principle called the Law of the Long Haul. It is finding small moments every day to work on or do something important to us. Something that will make us more interesting, help us be fulfilled, and bring meaning to our lives. Dr. Bray provides both personal and professional examples to show the impact of this law. Today, learn one of the most powerful ways to become the person you want to be through micro-moments repeated each day. *Special thanks to Brett & Kate McKay for an article on this topic that inspired this podcast and the use of portions of their brilliant wording. (Art of Manliness – Long Obedience in the Same Direction)
I had to redo this episode several times because it isn’t exactly normal for me to be discussing mediums and what they hear from the other side. The learning may be a little light on this episode, but the entertaining information is off the scale. Enjoy!
There is so much talk about all the different aspects of Covid-19. Should you take the vaccine? Should you not? Should you wear a mask and what type of mask really helps? After watching the news (which I rarely do anymore - too depressing) I had an ugly realization. Many of the most important topics related to Covid-19 that you should know are being drowned out in meaningless noise. Today Dr. Bray talks about your brain and Covid-19. What happens when Covid-19 breaches your brain and what are the acute and long-term effects? Learn what researchers are finding out about the brain and Covid and the difference if you were hospitalized on a ventilator versus having it at home and recovering. Dr. Bray shares recent research published in the last two months on what researchers are doing to learn the long-term consequences of Covid-19 on your brain. This is a must listen to episode!
If you were allowed to change one decision from your past what decision would you change? A question whose answer will likely uncover a regret. Regrets can be dangerous as we focus on what has occurred in the past and wonder, “if only I would have done……..” In today’s episode Dr. Bray discusses regret and two books that helped him change how he views past experiences and choices he would have made differently. If you are stuck in regrets from the past and struggling to move forward this podcast is for you. Don’t regret missing this insightful look at regret. Matthew Haig, “The Midnight Library” Andrew Miller, “On Not Being Someone Else” *Psychology Today October 2020 “A Life Worth Living”
What makes your life meaningful? The answer to this question has strong implications to both your physical and mental health. Recent studies have highlighted some of the mechanisms that create meaning in your life and Dr. Bray shares them in this week’s podcast. Discussing research from the University of Sussex Dr. Bray highlights three important factors to a meaningful life, at what age individuals find most meaning and how ordinary, everyday experiences and routines may be the place to look for meaning. Dr. Bray also discusses the blockers to a meaningful life and how he was reprimanded by his 7-11 convenience store friend for what he said in a recent podcast. You don’t want to miss this episode!
I snuck into a new (and AWESOME!) Harvard course called “The Psychology of Eating (Culinary Psychology)” Well, to be honest, I didn’t officially sneak in, my wife is finishing up her master's, and she was attending class via zoom and I couldn’t help but listen in. The professors repeatedly taught how food can affect us in so many different ways. I agreed wholeheartedly as my lunch of Thai food with rice was causing a downturn in my energy and quickly sending me into a sleep coma. The Harvard class reminded me of all the small choices and events in our lives that can make a drastic difference in our day. I decided to share (or maybe remind you) of six evidence-based ways to change your brain for a good day. Tune into today’s podcast to learn about the six ways to jump start your brain and what research is teaching us about each of these factors. A few of them may sound familiar, but it is important to understand the new insights into why you should focus more on your brain health. I also share new neuroscience research on how caffeine effects the structure of your brain. This research was released February 15, 2021, so it is hot off the press! References for the article -- “Daily Caffeine Intake Induces Concentration-Dependent Medial Temporal Plasticity in Humans: A Multimodal Double-Blind Randomized Controlled Trial” by Carolin Reichert et al. Cerebral Cortex -- Theconversation.com: Six scientifically proven ways to help improve brain and mental health. 2020
For decades society has taught we are to be measured against the average. How successful we may be in life depends on how we compare to the average in our college admissions test, grade point average, performance reviews at work and personality assessments. It is being like everyone else, only doing a bit better. Dr. Bray doesn’t believe that and research is backing him up. In today’s episode Dr. Bray shares examples and personal stories on how comparing yourself to the average can limit your success, fulfillment and happiness. Utilizing research from Todd Rose, a Harvard Professor, and his fantastic book, “The End of Average” Dr. Bray shares why the science of individuality is always your best bet. If your life is feeling average this is the episode for you!
During a time of career upheaval, several listeners have asked if they should follow a boss or another leader to a new job. What a perfect way to advance your career, or is it? In this week’s podcast, Dr. Bray talks about the benefits and possible pitfalls to be aware of when you follow someone else to a new job. Dr. Bray will discuss six areas to assist you in making the right decision when leaving a job for a new job. Dr. Bray also shares new research that won’t be published until February of 2021. You don’t want to miss the inside scoop of the latest brain research and be the last to know! *Manager Tools – Following Your Boss to a New Job.
Everyone loves an underdog, the dark horse who has been overlooked because they did not fit the standard notion of a champion, yet beyond all odds emerges a winner. If you have ever looked in the mirror and realized, "this is not who I am or who I want to be, or there is more to me than this," you may be a dark horse. In today's episode, Dr. Bray talks about what a dark horse is and why most of us fit into this category. He also shares several stories of dark horses and what contributed to their success. Dr. Bray shares how an underdog utilizes life's experiences to increase their success and the dark horse's secret of happiness and achievement. You don't want to miss this episode. *Dark Horse: Achieving Success Through the Pursuit of Fulfillment by Todd Rose.
2021 is going to be a year of change and adapting. Dr. Bray is a big believer in being prepared, so today, he answers two questions that have repeatedly been asked over the last few months. “How do I have a great zoom interview?” “What are the signs that a layoff may be coming?” Both topics are critical to securing or maintaining your career in 2021. Join today’s podcast and learn how to have a phenomenal zoom interview (or even how to better show up for zoom meetings) and what signs to look for that may indicate an upcoming layoff. You don’t want to miss this crucial information.
We all have bad days. Days we feel we failed at life, and everyone seems to be more successful, and happier than we are. I had a day like this recently and decided to dive into the research on Late Bloomers. I focused on individuals who discovered talents, abilities and potential that came shining through later in life. It was a bit like walking down the stairs to my grandma’s dark and damp basement as a kid wondering what I was going to find. The data and information I found were inspiring. I considered forty to eighty-year-old individuals to be late bloomers. But the research added to the age span with many mid twenty somethings feeling like life has passed them by if they haven’t created and sold a multimillion dollar business by thirty. The late bloomer research applies to all of us. In today’s episode learn about individuals who have proven the late bloomer theory and what six strengths late bloomers bring to the table. At the start of a new year that will be different than any we have experienced before this podcast is critical to your future success, purpose, and understanding of what you and your brain can accomplish this year. “Late Bloomers: The Power of Patience in a World Obsessed with Early Achievement” by Rich Karlgaard https://amzn.to/35JhY2A
One of the easiest words for a toddler to say is “NO!” One of the most difficult words for an adult to say is “No!” What happened as we became adults? In today’s episode learn more about the importance of saying no and what interaction should happen between you and the individual asking you to do something should be. Dr. Bray also steps up on the soap box and provides a rant about why he isn’t a social media influencer. This doesn’t happen often so don’t miss his bitterness on today’s show!
Happy New Year! 2020 is behind us, and our hopes for a better 2021 are at the forefront of our minds. Researchers have determined that a new currency is needed for 2021, the currency of happiness, mental health, and wellbeing. These topics are big and broad, so in today’s podcast, Dr. Bray will break down the change in currency from money, power, prestige, and things to happiness, fulfillment, meaning, and purpose. The shift began in 2020 and will be in full swing for 2021. Learn how to make a change in your thinking to induce happiness and wellbeing. This is a perfect podcast to start the year.
Happy Holidays! As we prepare to jump into 2021, it is crucial to understand how the world of work has changed. In this week’s podcast, Dr. CK Bray discusses important ideas you need to know in 2021. Learn how to redirect fear, take advantage of the changes in the way we work, and how to educate and empower yourself for a great year. You don’t want to miss this vital information. Thanks to #SethGodin for a great article related to his ALTMBA program and the 17 Ideas for the Modern World of Work.
From all of us at the Adaption Institute we wish you a Happy Holiday Season. In keeping with tradition Dr. Bray shares eight lessons of the holidays, may it add to your holiday spirit. *Stories taken from a devotional delivered by Thomas S. Monson on December 6, 1966.
The most popular course at Harvard was Positive Psychology 1504, taught by Tal Ben-Shahar. One of the reasons the course attracted so many students was the topic of Happiness and Purpose. What a great topic to discuss as we leave a difficult year behind and focus on a new year. Rather than focus our New Year’s resolutions and goals on what we can accomplish and attain, it might be useful to change direction and focus on how we can have more happiness, meaning, and purpose in our lives. In today’s podcast, Dr. Bray shares some insightful information from the course and also excerpts from Dr. Tal Ben-Shahar's book “Happier: Learn the Secrets to Daily Joy and Lasting Fulfillment.” Learn tools to become happier and why the journey is always more important than the destination. Don’t miss the knowledge you will need to make 2021 a great year.
They never saw it coming! Education both in the workplace and your four-year degree is dramatically being disrupted. In today’s podcast, Dr. Bray discusses how higher education institutions are being disrupted and how this will benefit you in the near future. You are going to see a change in how higher education will be available to more individuals than ever before. It will be less expensive, and the courses will have to be improved and more valuable. There is even talk of refunding your tuition fees if you don’t get a job within a specific time frame of graduation. This podcast is full of the information you need to know to fully understand the direction of learning and development in the future. For more information referenced in this podcast, check out Scott Galloway, a marketing professor at NYU Stern School of Business, and his article in NY Magazine from May of 2020.
You surely have heard of “The New York Times Bestseller” list. What makes a bestseller? In this episode, Dr. Bray discusses what that list is made of, and shares his personal experience writing his first book “Best Job Ever”. He gives insights and advice for those looking to write their first book, and gives statistics on what the release will likely look like. QUOTES BY DR. BRAY “The publishing industry is constantly changing.” “I’m better, not bitter.” -as Grandma would say “Writing a book is an experience I will never forget… it’s all about sharing and creating.”
It has been a tough year, and if we ever needed Thanksgiving, it is this year! Dr. Bray takes a brain break and discusses the top 20 reasons we need a Thanksgiving celebration no matter where you live in the world. Taking a day to be grateful for the people in your life, and all you have is the prescription the doctor ordered to end the year on a positive note. Enjoy this entertaining take on Thanksgiving and learn how to make this Thanksgiving special, even if you can’t be with family.
“We are in a race against ourselves”. Can we adapt and adjust quickly enough to keep up with what is happening in our world? Our world is constantly shifting due to changes in technology, lifestyle, and culture. While many changes are positive, there are many changes that are enemies to our mental and emotional well-being. Dr. Bray discusses the mental shifts necessary to preserve your brain health during times where change is constant.
In this episode, Dr. Bray begins with his recent experience of being attacked outside of a grocery store. He ties this bizarre experience into the importance of understanding what our values are. When was the last time you thought about what is most important to you? Perhaps it hasn’t crossed your mind, you don’t trust your sense of judgement, or are simply swamped in the day to day. Dr. Bray explains the importance and gives tips on having a clear sense of self direction.
EPISODE 352 Dr. Bray begins this podcast with a brain test, displaying the flaws in our human memory. We can be induced to recall things that never existed or happened. This manifests in courts of law, politically, in marital arguments, or even just as one friend recounts a story to another. This can transform our world, as some of our memories can be 50% false. This is exacerbated by the increased delivery of false information via the internet. Dr. Bray discusses a necessary awareness that we must have as we take in new information.
Ever thought that you could smell your way through a sailing race? Probably not. Dr. Bray discusses new ways of thinking that help you to learn how to adapt to changes in your life and “sail” in the right direction. Much has changed this year and routine does not work anymore. Your job may have changed, stores and gyms have closed, and the world is in a bit of upheaval. We look at the past and often get fixated on what is different. This podcast discusses skills necessary to help you orient yourself and move forward successfully, especially during times of change.
There is a lot of advice out there on how to prepare for the first round of job interviews. Generally, people do pretty well. Where job candidates seem to struggle most is the second interview. Perhaps you are newly graduated from college, or maybe you were established in your career and hit by COVID hard times and are now interviewing for a new job. Regardless of your circumstances, this week’s podcast will give you direction on how to interview well through the entire process.
It is not abnormal for negative thoughts to creep into your mind. The high school student feels that none of their peers like them. The employee assumes that they will likely be cut during lay-offs. The man feels that a break up with his significant other is quickly approaching, and that she could find someone better. These kinds of negative thoughts are common in the human experience, but must be dealt with in proactive ways to live a healthy life. In this podcast, Dr. Bray discusses how to detach yourself from negative thoughts if you are fused to them, and the science behind a healthy mind space.
We live in a world that is so different from any previous generation. The iPhone in your pocket is 120 million times more powerful than the computer guiding the Apollo 11. With increases in technology and luxury, we are also seeing changes in well-being and fulfillment. Less people are able to find meaning and feel fulfillment. This podcast discusses why that is, and what habits you can create to find greater purpose and meaning in your life. QUOTES BY DR. BRAY "It is amazing how many people have turned off their emotions.” “The things that have the power to cause us the most pain are the things we care the most deeply about.” “As you fight, run, avoid, you become distant from your own life.” “Don’t do dumb things! They will make life difficult for you.” www.adaptioninstitute.com
You have surely heard a majority of these names before: Georgia O’Keefe, Bill Gates, Martin Luther King Jr., Mozart, etc. What made them great? Was it work ethic? Creativity? Grit? In this episode, Dr. Bray discusses the making of a genius. Thank you to National Geographic for some of the insights on the science of genius.
Our brain has many superpowers, and we learn more of them each day. In today's podcast, we discuss some of these superpowers that shape your experience. These superpowers are what makes eating at a 5-star restaurant so fun, laughing with friends so enjoyable, and getting a massage so relaxing. Special thanks to the National Geographic special issue on the brain for the great research and case studies discussed in this week's show.
EPISODE 345 "I am just trying to survive right now". All of us have heard this, or perhaps been the one to say it. During difficult times, we often adopt a survivor mindset. What if, instead, you could thrive during difficult times? In this episode, Dr. Bray discusses a few tips that can immediately improve your well being, and help you to begin thriving today.
EPISODE 344 We are constantly starting over. You lost your job, you are starting a new health regimen, learning a hobby, or a big event in your life has dramatically shifted things. How can you start over in a way that is effective and long-lasting? In this podcast, Dr. Bray gives 4 tips on how to do it in the right way.
EPISODE 343 In a survey asking people what their preferred superpower would be, a vast majority answered "to read the minds of others". In fact, this was the second most popular answer amongst participants. All of us deeply care about our social health and status. Even if you do not think you care, it is something that affects you. Your brain devotes nearly all of its at rest time to this kind of thinking. We worry about where we fit, if we are invited, and how accepted we are by others. In this podcast Dr. Bray discusses social cognition and how we function and can thrive as social beings.
There have been many viral tweets and memes about the foibles of zoom calls. Some have had embarrassing moments, and others now have funny stories to tell others. “There was a guy eating cereal in his bed!” “My coworker forgot to mute themselves and said the funniest thing to their significant other that walked in.” How can we avoid these mistakes and become zoom pros? Dr. Bray discusses some zoom etiquette and tips on how to have the best zoom calls possible.
EPISODE 341 It’s a feeling. The car salesman seemed a bit sketchy. You had a bad feeling about your friend’s new girlfriend. Something just feels so right about your new job offer. Each of us are guided by intuition. You make many decisions and first impressions based on an emotional feeling. Dr. Bray gives insight on whether you should trust these feelings in decision making, and if it is possible to sharpen your intuition.
EPISODE 340 Do you know what your core values are? Drawing from Steven Hayes insight on values, Dr. Bray discusses how values can generate real meaning and purpose and help you to avoid the hedonic treadmill. From naming your heroes to recognizing hard times in your life, Dr. Bray gives questions that you can use to assess what your core values are.
EPISODE 339 Experts predicted that with many employees working from home that HR issues would decrease. But gossip, politics, and angry employees have persisted through the pandemic. Learn more about what is going on with HR during the covid crisis. This week Dr. Bray also discusses the benefits of reading. Every week there are hundreds of new books released, how do you decide which books are worth reading. Dr. Bray shares the best way to speed read a business book. He has mastered the process as he reads at least two books a week.
EPISODE 338 In this week's episode of the Dr. Bray show, Dr. Bray shares the story of a recent attack he experienced while at a local convenience store to grab a drink. (Yes, everyone keeps telling him to stop drinking soda). On a more serious note, Dr. Bray also answers a listener's question about how to move forward post-pandemic and the best way to examine her life. You do not want to miss this episode!
EPISODE 337 Every individual will experience a major disruption and transition, as we have all learned in 2020. This year we shared a common "lifequake" of profound change, which caused us to change how we view life and the expectations of what our life was "supposed" to be. Dr. Bray shares thoughts, stories, and ideas on why the linear life we once knew has now changed, and the average time a life transition can take. Thanks to Bruce Feiler (council of Dads) and his research into transitions that was used in this podcast. Bruce also wrote about transition in Psychology Today Magazine May 2020.
EPISODE 336 The media loves to hype the overnight success. The individual who had a fantastic idea and turned that idea into a million-dollar business in six months. This scenario is rarely the truth and spreads a harmful message to the truth of personal growth and development. There are laws that govern personal growth and development that are just as immutable as the laws governing the universe. These laws can be no more circumvented than the force of gravity. Dr. Bray discusses the truth of success, personal development, and excellence. Dr. Bray also talks about your brain and hobbies. Many of you have started a hobby or two during quarantine, and Dr. Bray shares insights into why this has positive long-term effects on your brain health. He also shares some hobbies that have made a comeback. If you have questions you would like Dr. Bray to answer on the podcast email your questions to Ck@DrCkBray.com. Thanks to Brett and Kate McKay from the Art of Manliness (AOM) for the best written article on the fallacy of hacks and shortcuts. Their article is titled, "There is no other way."
EPISODE 335 If you were an athlete looking to go pro or a musician wanting to be world-class, Anders Ericsson would be the one to speak to. The Swedish psychologist pioneered research that helps us better understand the art of expertise. You have likely heard of his research in “Outliers” by Malcolm Gladwell, which encouraged people to engage in 10,000 hours of deliberate practice to improve a skill. With the passing of such a brilliant mind just last month, this podcast highlights the research and legacy of Anders Ericsson.
EPISODE 334 Our early ancestors were forced to develop a strong sense of cognitive caution to keep them out of danger. This fight or flight trait that once kept cavemen and women alive can now have a negative impact on our lives. While our survival is no longer a daily concern, our emotional and mental health is in threat. Much of our suffering can be linked to our minds and how we think and react to everyday stressors. In today's podcast, Dr. Bray will share how to control our emotional and mental reactions better when things aren't going well.
EPISODE 332 Conversations at work don't always consist of work-related topics. We talk about our weekends, what we plan to do for our upcoming vacation and our favorite netflix series. Unfortunately, at times our conversations go to areas that don't belong in the workplace. Because your coworker's divorce is better than any real housewives episode, this isn't a topic for the workplace. These topics can have negative repercussions on your career. On today's podcast Dr. Bray discusses eight topics that we need to avoid in the workplace.
EPISODE 332 Unlike other emotions, anger is seductive. While sadness or loneliness are not emotions we like to feel, sometimes anger feels good. We have all had moments where everything comes to a head and we lose our temper. Today’s podcast is about how to harness anger in ways that are beneficial for us and others, while avoiding anger’s poisonous side effects.
EPISODE 331 These are unprecedented times in the world of work. First, the Covid-19 pandemic and then the killing of George Floyd and other black men by police officers. How leaders and organizations address race and the recent events in Minnesota is crucial for their employees. The Dr. Ck Bray show will be discussing an organization whose efforts are proving to be a case study in how to broach sensitive cultural issues in a workplace context. **Special thanks to Tatyana Walker and Shana Lebowitz for their June 1st article in Business Insider.
EPISODE 330 Revenge has been around for centuries. It has deep roots in our human behavioral experience. Through a personal experience, Dr. Bray shares insights into revenge and its effects on ourselves and others. He provides the science of revenge and how choosing how to behave before a tragedy strikes is key to surviving and overcoming difficult times. Thanks to Steven Berglas and his February 2019 article in Psychology Today on revenge. Thanks to Steven Sandberg for sharing the story of Victoria and her experience with Ryan.
FAN FAVORITE EPISODE 283 Bad days happen to all of us. Does the universe conspire against us or do we create it by our thoughts and choices? There are strategies we can employ to turn those bad days into good ones.
EPISODE 329 Science is only beginning to understand the power of the brain. In this mind blowing episode, Dr. Bray explores a few of the incredible feats of the brain and how implementing them can be life changing.
FAN FAVORITE - EPISODE 297 More work equals more productivity, right? Wrong! Did you know that studies and research show that more “aha!” moments come to those who take strategic breaks? This week’s podcast touches on the power of a weekly break to allow your brain to heal and the science behind why that works!
EPISODE 328 Amidst all the news on health, I thought it would be fascinating to learn about areas called the “blue zone.” These are locations in the world where people live a full life into their nineties and even past a hundred years old. In the early 2000s, researchers identified a region of Sardinia’s Nuoro province as the place with the highest concentration of male centenarians in the world. The world’s longest-lived women are found on the island of Okinawa. In Loma Linda, California a population of Seventh-day Adventist’s life expectancies exceeds the average by about a decade. These are only a few locations that have been identified as blue zones. But I was more interested in why these individuals live so long and why they are also happier. What do they eat? How much do they sleep? What about exercise and do they have friends and what is their sense of social belonging. Those answers and more can be found in this fascinating podcast about the Island of Ikaria.
EPISODE 327 If you need a dose of hope today you have come to the right place. Dr. Bray shares insights and a few humorous moments into our current situation. Stay safe and stay well!
Joseph Campbell wrote about a hero’s journey. During difficult times a hero always seems to emerge. Dr. Bray shares a recent experience he claims was his own “hero’s journey” and uses the experience to remind us of the needs of others. During this covid crisis, while so many are in need, there is a tremendous opportunity to be the hero for a neighbor, friend, or even someone we don’t know. Brain science tells us that when we help others, our own pain and suffering is alleviated. Stay well, and stay safe!
EPISODE 325 The World is in turmoil, and your job may soon be affected. While this is not a topic that any of us want to think about, it is essential to be prepared. Understanding the steps of what to do after losing your job can make all the difference in how quickly you secure a new one. Dr. Bray shares questions you need to ask when you are notified you are being laid off. Dr. Bray also reviews the steps you need to take the first few weeks of not working.
EPISODE 324 The time available to us each day has increased as most of us are working from home. While our work schedules have been thrown to the wolves, demands for our time have changed. Homeschooling, quarantined relationships, and working from the kitchen table have changed our days. This change in the world has caused a pause in our lives and provided you with a gift. The gift of choosing what to do with time that you previously spent on children's activities, volunteer work and time spent with friends. You have a gift to spend time discovering more about who you are and what you want your life to mean. A gift like this may never come again, so learn how to make the right choice on the Dr. CK Bray show.
EPISODE 323 The world of work has changed for 2020. The way we worked in the past has changed, and the need to learn how to adapt and evolve is key to your ability to thrive and be successful. In this episode Dr. Bray discusses the benefits, and pitfalls of working from home. Not working in an office is a new adventure for many, so stay ahead of the game and learn how to make the most of this new landscape.
EPISODE 322 When I taped this show a few weeks ago I never could have imagined what our world would look like today. We are all experiencing massive change, sadness, loss, uncertainty and fear in what our lives will look like in the future. In this episode Dr. Bray will provide some strategies and thoughts on how to move forward in these turbulent times while focusing on the aspects of life that provide the most meaning and fulfillment. Be safe and please keep yourself healthy!
EPISODE 321 Who could have guessed what would happen in the three weeks since I taped this show! I have learned my lesson, I had no idea that things would progress so quickly with the coronavirus. I apologize that I didn't put this show out three weeks ago, but I figure the information contained in today's episode may still help. Be prepared!
EPISODE 320 Our lives are made up of daily moments. Often, these moments can become transformative. These turning point moments provide new direction; they alter the course of our lives and can create significant and meaningful connections with others. Turning points in our lives can be transformative and life-defining, they can teach us who we are and allow us the opportunity to make a personal change. Dr. Bray shares the importance of these individual transforming events and how to increase their frequency. You don't want to miss this episode!
Episode 319: What are the odds? In this week's podcast, Dr. Bray dives into serendipity and coincidences. The brain seeks out consistent patterns and craves control of situations to better understand the world we live in. We wonder whether things occur based on random luck or if something is actually "meant to be." Listen to this week's podcast and decide for yourself whether or not you believe in coincidence and serendipity.
FAN FAVORITE - EPISODE 169: For at least the last decade smart drugs have been common in American universities. Students are not taking these drugs to escape, they use them to think, focus and stay up longer to study. The pressure to perform has now brought those drugs into the corporate space in order to gain a competitive edge over colleagues. What does this mean for you?
EPISODE 318 Are you addicted? You have an addiction you don't even know about! It is the addiction to safety and the avoidance of loss. Safety bias may be influencing your life experiences and opportunities, and you aren't even aware it is happening. In this episode of the Dr. CK Bray show, Dr. Bray shares the impact of safety bias and how the brain's threat-detecting network is sensitive to danger and loss. The effect of your daily decisions and actions may unknowingly be impacted by the brain's threat state, which is many times larger than the brain's reward detecting network. We seek after the feeling of reward but often give in to the "I have to be in my comfort zone" mentality. You could be making choices to avoid loss when seizing opportunity may be your best bet for success and fulfillment. Learn the tools to recognize and prevent safety bias to seize more opportunities and create a fuller life.
Bad vs. Good. The age-long saga continues, but you might not have realized it is occurring in your brain. Neuroscience has taught us that negative thinking far outweighs positive thoughts. While negativity bias and threat state thinking improved the odds of your hunter-gather ancestor's survival, it may not be serving you well in your daily professional and personal life. Negativity bias can exaggerate a threat and hijack your thinking to catastrophize an event or situation that may not be as terrible as you think. Dr. Bray shares the science behind threat and reward state and provides practical, easy to implement tools to overcome negativity bias. This podcast can be life-changing if you find your brain focuses more on negative and the bad, then positive.
EPISODE 316 Organizations are constantly changing. Learning the signs of how those changes can impact you and your career is critical. Inspired by an article written by Susan Peppercorn I think the information is vital to know in a climate of constant change.
Episode 315 The New Year brings discussions of pay raises and salary increases. It is important to be prepared to negotiate. Learn from Dr. Bray what research you need to do, how much to ask for and what to do when your boss says "NO!"
EPISODE 314 Trying to fit too much into your day means you may be missing out on important moments in your life. You can begin to experience life differently after hearing Dr. Bray’s insights on making the most of each day. You don't want to miss out on aspects of your life that bring happiness , fun and fulfillment.
EPISODE 313 Are you thinking of moving to a new organization in 2020 or taking on a new position? Learn the essential questions you should consider before you decide to make a change. You will be surprised by Dr. Bray's suggestions, so be sure and listen to how to make a wise decision. The move may be right for you, but it may also hinder your career. You will learn the difference from today's podcast.
EPISODE 312 The concept of luxury is changing for 2020. Marketers and organizations want you to believe that luxury is an essential part of our society, but Dr. Bray intends to change your paradigm on what luxury means to you. Learn what pure luxury is, how to create it, and how it doesn't cost nearly what you believe. Find out how happiness, meaning, and purpose fit into your life of luxury in 2020.
EPISODE 311 It’s time to make New Year’s Resolutions! (That you will keep for an average of 2 weeks!) Society and the business success magazines will tell you to be more, accomplish more, buy more, do more, all while making it look like you didn’t break a sweat. Instead of focusing on all the things you can do to be great in 2020 let’s focus on WHO you are and what type of person you want to be.
EPISODE 310 This is the season to make a difference! If you take the time to light up the lives of others it will continue to spread and make a difference. In today's episode Dr. Bray shares ideas on how to make this holiday season one that is full of joy, meaning and fulfillment.
EPISODE 309 To make next year one of your best, listen to a few chunks of wisdom from Dr. CK Bray. These bits of wisdom will not only help you out in the workplace but will also assist you with creating a meaningful 2020.
EPISODE 308 Ever feel like you work with a psychopath? Now is the time to find out. Dr. Bray shares the nine signs to watch for to identify a workplace individual who might suffer from psychopathic traits. Dr. Bray shares tools on how to survive working with these individuals!
EPISODE 307 Whether we’re 6 years old or 60, we all have something we’re scared of. It may be time to face your monster, go to battle and do what needs to be done so you can move on and sleep well. Maybe your monster is smaller than it seems and will be easier to conquer than you think.
Episode 306 We all need a day to celebrate and acknowledge all that we are grateful for. No matter where you live in the world today listen to the story of Squanto and how he changed Thanksgiving for numerous immigrants. Also, take up the Thanksgiving challenge to do service for others and be an individual someone else is grateful for! Dr. Bray starts off the United States Thanksgiving week right.
EPISODE 305 After taking a break from your corporate job, you may be wondering “What level job should I jump into?” I have been asked this question many times. Often times re-launchers will overestimate or underestimate where they fit.
EPISODE 304 In an age of complete freedom, that space can be great, but a bit daunting. Many people are being told to “shoot for the stars”, “do whatever you want”, or “just be you”. This can be great advice, but many are still discovering what their dreams really are, and who they really are. These phrases leave them inspired and directionless. In response, many seek out the “aesthetic life”, in hopes that these questions will be answered. Listen to discover what that is, if this is a philosophy you buy into, and how to discover who you are.
EPISODE 303 We are told time and time again that we need to live deeply-rooted and committed lives. We are told to seek joy allow it to permeate our experiences. Yet, rarely are we told “HOW”. How do couples stay together through hard times, and come out closer? How do people create experiences that create a space for joy in their lives? We will explore the difference between happiness and joy, discuss experiences of those who have been “successful”, and discover how to make your life grounded in commitment and joy.
What is your life about and who is your life about? Society tells us one story (and it is a powerful one!), but today Dr. Bray discusses a different view that can make all the difference. Join Dr. Bray for a three part series on examining different aspects of your life and questioning your motives, your habits and what it really means to have purpose and make a difference. This podcast series was inspired by the book, The Second Mountain by David L. Brooks.
EPISODE 301 Business etiquette on what is considered "being late" has changed in the last few years. When we show up for meetings, conference calls and even the start of the workday is in flux. Try to remember the last time everyone showed up on time for a conference call and you will quickly realize the stigma to being late isn't what it used to be. In today's episode learn more about the new concept of "being late" and what the future of time commitments may look like.
EPISODE 300 The stars aligned for Dr. Bray recently when he was in the same city at the same time with two friends he had worked with nearly 20 years ago. They met for dinner, lots of hilarious stories from the past and great conversation. Three hours later Dr. Bray knew he wanted to share some thoughts from that special evening of old friends getting together. Listen in as Dr. Bray shares some of the dinner conversation and what he learned by looking back.
EPISODE 299 Every individual in this world is different and because of that, we are bound to disagree. Those disagreements can be minute and fixable but with some relationships, bad blood runs deep. Either way, unhealthy work relationships cause deep stress and anxiety. In this podcast, Dr. Bray discusses 4 ways that you can improve relationships that are in a bad place.
EPISODE 298: You’ve heard about stress and stress reduction for years, but people rarely do anything about it. In this weeks’ podcast, Dr. Bray will provide adequate motivation (aka scare you) as he explains what acute and chronic stress is doing to your body!
EPISODE 297 More work equals more productivity, right? Wrong! Did you know that studies and research show that more “aha!” moments come to those who take strategic breaks? This week’s podcast touches on the power of a weekly break to allow your brain to heal and the science behind why that works!
EPISODE 296 The Brain is incomprehensible! The way you think can transform your life! Dr. Bray tells a handful of interesting brain stories, while helping us consider the impact of our own brain in our life! Take a listen.
EPISODE 294 We have beliefs about the brain and about ourselves that just AREN’T true! Today, Dr. Bray is debunking 6 common and interesting myths of the brain.
EPISODE 294 Have you ever been sick to your stomach when you realized the email or text you just sent went to the wrong recipient? Dr. Bray discusses strategies to deal with your faux pas, whether it’s a considerable mistake or merely an embarrassing incident. It’s happened to many of us!
FAN FAVORITE EPISODE 242 Most great chefs don’t use recipes when creating a great dish. A dash of this, a pinch of that and they make a mouth-watering masterpiece! In much the same way you have to learn the skill and art of negotiation. With some practice you can improve your ability to negotiate to a win for both parties. Understanding when to negotiate, the role your emotions play, what you do wrong, and the structure of effective negotiation increases the odds of creating value for both parties.
EPISODE 293 In this podcast, Dr. CK Bray delves into the difference between freelance work and being an entrepreneur. He will help you figure out if leaving your current job and “going off on your own” is the best decision for you and just how you can do it!
EPISODE 281 Conversations should be a two-way exchange, unfortunately, I have noticed a recent trend in one-way conversations.
EPISODE 279 “Choose me! Please choose me!” The job market is changing and your thinking needs to change along with it. It is time for you to do the choosing when it comes to your career.
EPISODE 280 We are so busy with so much to do! We have work, projects, errands and running kids around. Productivity has more than quadrupled since 1950, we even walk faster! The urgency to make every moment count has affected every aspect of our lives. This destroys pleasurable experiences because we’re worried about wasting time. Let’s talk about why you SHOULD be wasting time.
EPISODE 278 Real risk versus perceived risk and real fear versus perceived fear. Your brain doesn’t know the difference!
EPISODE 277 During times of stress, change and increased workload our ability to control our thinking and behavior rapidly declines. To adapt, succeed, and thrive requires the development of mental toughness. This week Dr. Bray shares how to develop mental toughness, no matter what your job.
EPISODE 276 Who wants to reinterview for their own job? Knowing exactly what to do and expect will calm your fears and prepare you to land your position.
EPISODE 275 One of Kevin’s daughters wrote, “My mom surprised us with a visit on Sunday with horrific news that our father had passed away. The devastation and shock were almost unbearable, and our minds were filled with so many “why’s.” We had seen Dad struggle with depression, but yet he was the most hilarious and lovable guy to anyone that knew and met him. He lived for adventure, his laugh was infectious, he was humble and generous with all he had, and he was genuinely interested in everyone’s lives. He had the capacity to love anyone and everyone, but he just couldn’t love himself to the same extent.” This topic is difficult to discuss. I am hoping it helps you or someone you know who may be in crisis.
EPISODE 274 No matter what obstacles life throws at you, you have control over how you act, the decisions you make and who you will be. You are never powerless.
EPISODE 273 Worried about hiring an "over-qualified candidate"? If you understand the risks and rewards you may be getting one of your best hires.
EPISODE 272 How do you see yourself? What are your self perceptions? A small difference or shift in how you view yourself can have a lasting impact on your identity.