Your Turned on Desire: Recent Episodes
Jamee Andelin
I am a mentor for women who are ready to enjoy sex in their marriage. This podcast is for you if you have an open heart, an open mind and you believe that you are powerful enough to create change (even if your spouse isn’t on board yet!). Life can be challenging & sometimes sex gets the blame. I show you that sex is simply a set of skills and lifestyle shifts that help you feel really freaking joyful and then enjoy a marriage of ease and deep loving connection of friendship and intimacy.
In this episode, Jamee uses some questions that she gathered from social media and emails that other women have sent her and she and 3 women who are enrolled in her online program answer and discuss the questions from their own perspectives. After this episode we hope that you will feel more at ease and at peace with being a sexual woman, your thoughts and feelings will be validated and hopefully you will get to relax a little more in your own sex life. That’s our hope for you. Welcome to Your Turned on Desire where Jamee talks about the lessons she learned when she decided to stop avoiding sex and look forward to and enjoy sex instead. She also shares how she uses the same lessons to help other women do the same in her online program. Prepare for something extraordinary because we’re about to create a magnificent sex life!Link to schedule your free consultation with me:https://calendly.com/coachingwithjamee/free-consultationFor $365 a year you get over 100 lessons and replay calls in Jamee’s online program. Plus you’ll enjoy live calls with Jamee and the other ladies in the program and as a bonus, a private community with like minded women working through the same struggles and celebrations as you are. This program also offers private call options. https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/yourturnedondesireSexual Success for Husbands online course (lifetime access, do at your own pace, I update and add curriculum as needed). Private calls with me are also included in this offer:https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/sexual-success-for-husbandsSometimes our sex hormones need a burst of help. And that is why I use Amares Ignite Her supplement for. I use it for a couple weeks to a month and feel the increase of arousal and desire and then take a break for a couple weeks and months until I need the boost again. Link to save $10 Ignite Her Supplement:https://www.amare.com/188812/en-us/shopping-cartHappy Juice: I drink this daily to balance hormones in my gut and enjoy a better mood! Try it out and save $10 with this linkhttps://www.amare.com/188812/en-us/shopping-cartLink for my free download, “Switching off your stress response and turning on your rest response”:https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/my-downloadable-39807I tried everything to change my sex life for the better. And it wasn’t when I was on a fancy vacation in Hawaii where I decided all the things I was trying weren’t going to work because my husband and I had been lied to and we needed to address these lies before things would change for the better for us. Read about that story here:https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/newsexlife?fbclid=PAAabM_AE3_5FfmI5t4wk6UDTtN58QRud3YsTLcOexXXfql9bOVFBbZkVB41g_aem_AcW5A0fihOVZF1WrXMNHqOD8B5QiWHBR6C22WjBHZ3uSLe_imBQNqjg5P8anNXz65G0
Our biggest sexual organ is actually our brain. And it’s the most under utilized organ for most women who are struggling with low libido and for couples who are wanting a better sexual connection. Let’s learn about how, as females, we can enjoy a better sexual experience by bringing in an intellectual aspect to our sexualities. Welcome to Your Turned on Desire where Jamee talks about the lessons she learned when she decided to stop avoiding sex and look forward to and enjoy sex instead. She also shares how she uses the same lessons to help other women do the same in her online program. Prepare for something extraordinary because we’re about to create a magnificent sex life!Link to schedule your free consultation with me:https://calendly.com/coachingwithjamee/free-consultationFor $365 a year you get over 100 lessons and replay calls in Jamee’s online program. Plus you’ll enjoy live calls with Jamee and the other ladies in the program and as a bonus, a private community with like minded women working through the same struggles and celebrations as you are. This program also offers private call options. https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/yourturnedondesireSexual Success for Husbands online course (lifetime access, do at your own pace, I update and add curriculum as needed). Private calls with me are also included in this offer:https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/sexual-success-for-husbandsSometimes our sex hormones need a burst of help. And that is why I use Amares Ignite Her supplement for. I use it for a couple weeks to a month and feel the increase of arousal and desire and then take a break for a couple weeks and months until I need the boost again. Link to save $10 Ignite Her Supplement:https://www.amare.com/188812/en-us/shopping-cartHappy Juice: I drink this daily to balance hormones in my gut and enjoy a better mood! Try it out and save $10 with this linkhttps://www.amare.com/188812/en-us/shopping-cartLink for my free download, “Switching off your stress response and turning on your rest response”:https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/my-downloadable-39807I tried everything to change my sex life for the better. And it wasn’t when I was on a fancy vacation in Hawaii where I decided all the things I was trying weren’t going to work because my husband and I had been lied to and we needed to address these lies before things would change for the better for us. Read about that story here:https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/newsexlife?fbclid=PAAabM_AE3_5FfmI5t4wk6UDTtN58QRud3YsTLcOexXXfql9bOVFBbZkVB41g_aem_AcW5A0fihOVZF1WrXMNHqOD8B5QiWHBR6C22WjBHZ3uSLe_imBQNqjg5P8anNXz65G0
When females are asked what they desire most in their sex lives, it’s freedom. And this is lovely. Except when they have the freedom there are a few obstacles that come up and this is overwhelming and makes them feel like they just took 10 steps backwards in all the work they were doing. So let’s talk about it. Welcome to Your Turned on Desire where Jamee talks about the lessons she learned when she decided to stop avoiding sex and look forward to and enjoy sex instead. She also shares how she uses the same lessons to help other women do the same in her online program. Prepare for something extraordinary because we’re about to create a magnificent sex life!Link to schedule your free consultation with me:https://calendly.com/coachingwithjamee/free-consultationFor $365 a year you get over 100 lessons and replay calls in Jamee’s online program. Plus you’ll enjoy live calls with Jamee and the other ladies in the program and as a bonus, a private community with like minded women working through the same struggles and celebrations as you are. This program also offers private call options. https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/yourturnedondesireSexual Success for Husbands online course (lifetime access, do at your own pace, I update and add curriculum as needed). Private calls with me are also included in this offer:https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/sexual-success-for-husbandsSometimes our sex hormones need a burst of help. And that is why I use Amares Ignite Her supplement for. I use it for a couple weeks to a month and feel the increase of arousal and desire and then take a break for a couple weeks and months until I need the boost again. Link to save $10 Ignite Her Supplement:https://www.amare.com/188812/en-us/shopping-cartHappy Juice: I drink this daily to balance hormones in my gut and enjoy a better mood! Try it out and save $10 with this linkhttps://www.amare.com/188812/en-us/shopping-cartLink for my free download, “Switching off your stress response and turning on your rest response”:https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/my-downloadable-39807I tried everything to change my sex life for the better. And it wasn’t when I was on a fancy vacation in Hawaii where I decided all the things I was trying weren’t going to work because my husband and I had been lied to and we needed to address these lies before things would change for the better for us. Read about that story here:https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/newsexlife?fbclid=PAAabM_AE3_5FfmI5t4wk6UDTtN58QRud3YsTLcOexXXfql9bOVFBbZkVB41g_aem_AcW5A0fihOVZF1WrXMNHqOD8B5QiWHBR6C22WjBHZ3uSLe_imBQNqjg5P8anNXz65G0
Underdeveloped Female sexuality causes low libido, frustrating sex lives and more importantly- an inability for a woman to experience a fullness of joy in her life. Welcome to Your Turned on Desire where Jamee talks about the lessons she learned when she decided to stop avoiding sex and look forward to and enjoy sex instead. She also shares how she uses the same lessons to help other women do the same in her online program. Prepare for something extraordinary because we’re about to create a magnificent sex life!Link to schedule your free consultation with me:https://calendly.com/coachingwithjamee/free-consultationFor $365 a year you get over 100 lessons and replay calls in Jamee’s online program. Plus you’ll enjoy live calls with Jamee and the other ladies in the program and as a bonus, a private community with like minded women working through the same struggles and celebrations as you are. This program also offers private call options. https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/yourturnedondesireSexual Success for Husbands online course (lifetime access, do at your own pace, I update and add curriculum as needed). Private calls with me are also included in this offer:https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/sexual-success-for-husbandsSometimes our sex hormones need a burst of help. And that is why I use Amares Ignite Her supplement for. I use it for a couple weeks to a month and feel the increase of arousal and desire and then take a break for a couple weeks and months until I need the boost again. Link to save $10 Ignite Her Supplement:https://www.amare.com/188812/en-us/shopping-cartHappy Juice: I drink this daily to balance hormones in my gut and enjoy a better mood! Try it out and save $10 with this linkhttps://www.amare.com/188812/en-us/shopping-cartLink for my free download, “Switching off your stress response and turning on your rest response”:https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/my-downloadable-39807I tried everything to change my sex life for the better. And it wasn’t when I was on a fancy vacation in Hawaii where I decided all the things I was trying weren’t going to work because my husband and I had been lied to and we needed to address these lies before things would change for the better for us. Read about that story here:https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/newsexlife?fbclid=PAAabM_AE3_5FfmI5t4wk6UDTtN58QRud3YsTLcOexXXfql9bOVFBbZkVB41g_aem_AcW5A0fihOVZF1WrXMNHqOD8B5QiWHBR6C22WjBHZ3uSLe_imBQNqjg5P8anNXz65G0
Needing/wanting sex from a low quality connection in your marriage contributes to a low desire, pressure and being unsatisfied in your sex life. Desiring sex from a high quality connection creates higher desires for sex and satisfaction for both people in the marriage. In this episode we are discussing low quality connection vs high quality connection. Welcome to Your Turned on Desire where Jamee talks about the lessons she learned when she decided to stop avoiding sex and look forward to and enjoy sex instead. She also shares how she uses the same lessons to help other women do the same in her online program. Prepare for something extraordinary because we’re about to create a magnificent sex life!Link to schedule your free consultation with me:https://calendly.com/coachingwithjamee/free-consultationFor $365 a year you get over 100 lessons and replay calls in Jamee’s online program. Plus you’ll enjoy live calls with Jamee and the other ladies in the program and as a bonus, a private community with like minded women working through the same struggles and celebrations as you are. This program also offers private call options. https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/yourturnedondesireSexual Success for Husbands online course (lifetime access, do at your own pace, I update and add curriculum as needed). Private calls with me are also included in this offer:https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/sexual-success-for-husbandsSometimes our sex hormones need a burst of help. And that is why I use Amares Ignite Her supplement for. I use it for a couple weeks to a month and feel the increase of arousal and desire and then take a break for a couple weeks and months until I need the boost again. Link to save $10 Ignite Her Supplement:https://www.amare.com/188812/en-us/shopping-cartHappy Juice: I drink this daily to balance hormones in my gut and enjoy a better mood! Try it out and save $10 with this linkhttps://www.amare.com/188812/en-us/shopping-cartLink for my free download, “Switching off your stress response and turning on your rest response”:https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/my-downloadable-39807I tried everything to change my sex life for the better. And it wasn’t when I was on a fancy vacation in Hawaii where I decided all the things I was trying weren’t going to work because my husband and I had been lied to and we needed to address these lies before things would change for the better for us. Read about that story here:https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/newsexlife?fbclid=PAAabM_AE3_5FfmI5t4wk6UDTtN58QRud3YsTLcOexXXfql9bOVFBbZkVB41g_aem_AcW5A0fihOVZF1WrXMNHqOD8B5QiWHBR6C22WjBHZ3uSLe_imBQNqjg5P8anNXz65G0
There are many things that women wish their husbands knew about sex and intimacy so they could be understood better and so that their sex lives could be amazing. In this episode we talk about 11 things wives wish their husbands understood about them sexually. Welcome to Your Turned on Desire where Jamee talks about the lessons she learned when she decided to stop avoiding sex and look forward to and enjoy sex instead. She also shares how she uses the same lessons to help other women do the same in her online program. Prepare for something extraordinary because we’re about to create a magnificent sex life!For $35 a month or $365 a year you get over 100 lessons and replay calls in Jamee’s online program. Plus you’ll enjoy live calls almost every week with Jamee and as a bonus, a private community with like minded women working through the same struggles and celebrations as you are and private call options. Check out the details of Jamee’s program here:https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/yourturnedondesireSexual success for Husbands online course (lifetime access, do at your own pace, I update and add curriculum as needed):https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/sexual-success-for-husbandsSometimes our sex hormones need a burst of help. And that is what I use Amares Ignite Her supplement for. I use it for a couple weeks to a month and feel the increase of arousal and desire and then take a break for a couple weeks and months until I need the boost again. Link for Ignite Her Supplement:https://www.amare.com/188812/en-us/shopping-cartHappy Juice: I drink this daily to balance hormones in my gut and enjoy a better mood! Try it out and save $10 with this linkhttps://www.amare.com/188812/en-us/shopping-cartLink for my free download, “Switching off your stress response and turning on your rest response”:https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/my-downloadable-39807I tried everything to change my sex life for the better. And it wasn’t until I was on a fancy vacation in Hawaii where I decided all the things I was trying weren’t going to work because my husband and I had been lied to and we needed to address these lies before things would change for the better for us. Read about that story here:https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/newsexlife?fbclid=PAAabM_AE3_5FfmI5t4wk6UDTtN58QRud3YsTLcOexXXfql9bOVFBbZkVB41g_aem_AcW5A0fihOVZF1WrXMNHqOD8B5QiWHBR6C22WjBHZ3uSLe_imBQNqjg5P8anNXz65G0
Purity culture had an impact on many of us. Purity culture was taught to many of us in varying degrees and seems to have began as a way to keep people from making harmful decisions around their sexuality, but instead led to many relationships and marriages starving from a lack of intimacy. My guest today tells us her story of being raised in a high demand religious upbringing and how the messages she absorbed impacted her and her then husband in harmful ways. She shares her story up until where she is today and the healing she went through and how she now helps people heal their wounds that were created by lies around sexuality. Welcome to Your Turned on Desire where Jamee talks about the lessons she learned when she decided to stop avoiding sex and look forward to and enjoy sex instead. She also shares how she uses the same lessons to help other women do the same in her online program. Prepare for something extraordinary because we’re about to create a magnificent sex life!Connect with Shauna ShaktiMa: Instagram: @shaunashaktiMa https://www.instagram.com/shaunashaktima?igsh=MW84ZWNxdTVneWQ4dg== Website: https://www.shaunashaktima.com/* More of her offerings and services: https://linktr.ee/shaunashaktima?utm_source=linktree_profile_share<sid=f7eb2e20-4924-495b-8552-b3e3a150cd55Erotic blueprint quiz:https://theblueprintbreakthrough.com/?_gl=1%2A1gqy4u8%2A_ga%2AMTQ2Mjk1MDMyNC4xNzA3NTIwNjkw%2A_ga_Y9LB6PMSWZ%2AMTcwNzUyMDY5MC4xLjEuMTcwNzUyMDcxNC4wLjAuMA..For $35 a month or $365 a year you get over 100 lessons and replay calls in Jamee’s online program. Plus you’ll enjoy 2 live calls a week with Jamee and as a bonus, a private community with like minded women working through the same struggles and celebrations as you are and private call options. https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/yourturnedondesireSexual success for Husbands online course (lifetime access, do at your own pace, I update and add curriculum as needed):https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/sexual-success-for-husbandsSometimes our sex hormones need a burst of help. And that is what I use Amares Ignite Her supplement for. I use it for a couple weeks to a month and feel the increase of arousal and desire and then take a break for a couple weeks and months until I need the boost again. Link for Ignite Her Supplement:https://www.amare.com/188812/en-us/shopping-cartHappy Juice: I drink this daily to balance hormones in my gut and enjoy a better mood! Try it out and save $10 with this linkhttps://www.amare.com/188812/en-us/shopping-cartLink for my free download, “Switching off your stress response and turning on your rest response”:https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/my-downloadable-39807I tried everything to change my sex life for the better. And it wasn’t when I was on a fancy vacation in Hawaii where I decided all the things I was trying weren’t going to work because my husband and I had been lied to and we needed to address these lies before things would change for the better for us. Read about that story here:https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/newsexlife?fbclid=PAAabM_AE3_5FfmI5t4wk6UDTtN58QRud3YsTLcOexXXfql9bOVFBbZkVB41g_aem_AcW5A0fihOVZF1WrXMNHqOD8B5QiWHBR6C22WjBHZ3uSLe_imBQNqjg5P8anNXz65G0
Trauma in our intimate and sexual lives is complex and sometimes difficult to understand. Sometimes women experience a resistance in their sexual relationship and don’t realize that the resistance is because of trauma. In this conversation Jamee has with her guest Meleah Manning, we learn what trauma feels like in the body and easy things you can do TODAY to relieve yourself of the symptoms so you can start to enjoy your sex life instead of dread it. Welcome to Your Turned on Desire where Jamee talks about the lessons she learned when she decided to stop avoiding sex and look forward to and enjoy sex instead. She also shares how she uses the same lessons to help other women do the same in her online program. Prepare for something extraordinary because we’re about to create a magnificent sex life!Connect with Meleah: Instagram: @Meleah_Manning www.instagram.com/meleah_manning/ * Website: www.sistersthatstray.com/rra Free gift for listeners: Masterclass to Overcome Relationship Anxiety & Attract Ideal Partner https://radiantrelationship.org/case-studyFor $35 a month or $365 a year you get over 100 lessons and replay calls in Jamee’s online program. Plus you’ll enjoy 2 live calls a week with Jamee and as a bonus, a private community with like minded women working through the same struggles and celebrations as you are and private call options. https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/yourturnedondesireSexual success for Husbands online course (lifetime access, do at your own pace, I update and add curriculum as needed):https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/sexual-success-for-husbandsSometimes our sex hormones need a burst of help. And that is why I use Amares Ignite Her supplement. I use it for a couple weeks to a month and feel the increase of arousal and desire and then take a break for a couple weeks or months until I need the boost again. Link for Ignite Her Supplement:https://www.amare.com/188812/en-us/shopping-cartHappy Juice: I drink this daily to balance hormones in my gut and enjoy a better mood! Try it out and save $10 with this linkhttps://www.amare.com/188812/en-us/shopping-cartLink for my free download, “Switching off your stress response and turning on your rest response”:https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/my-downloadable-39807I tried everything to change my sex life for the better. And it wasn’t until I was on a fancy vacation in Hawaii when I decided all the things I was trying weren’t going to work because my husband and I had been lied to and we needed to address these lies before things would change for the better for us. Read about that story here:https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/newsexlife?fbclid=PAAabM_AE3_5FfmI5t4wk6UDTtN58QRud3YsTLcOexXXfql9bOVFBbZkVB41g_aem_AcW5A0fihOVZF1WrXMNHqOD8B5QiWHBR6C22WjBHZ3uSLe_imBQNqjg5P8anNXz65G0
There are many remedies I used (and still use) to overcome intimacy challenges in the bedroom. In this episode I am sharing 4 of those remedies with you. Welcome to Your Turned on Desire where Jamee talks about the lessons she learned when she decided to stop avoiding sex and look forward to and enjoy sex instead. She also shares how she uses the same lessons to help other women do the same in her private coaching and online program. Prepare for something extraordinary because we’re about to create a magnificent sex life!Online course holiday bundle *expires January 3, 2024 and there are 100 coupons available. https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/comprehensive-bundleFree Sexual success for Husbands online course (lifetime access, do at your own pace, I update and add curriculum as needed):https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/sexual-success-for-husbandsLink for Ignite Her Supplement:https://www.amare.com/188812/en-us/shopping-cartHappy Juice: I drink this daily to balance hormones and have a better mood! Try it out and save $10 with this linkhttps://www.amare.com/188812/en-us/shopping-cartLink for my free download, “Switching off your stress response and turning on your rest response”:https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/my-downloadable-39807
Preferences in the bedroom are not that different from opinions and preferences outside the bedroom. For example, we tend to have an easier time accepting our partners different tastes in foods or if they use a top sheet or not, yet so many of us struggle with accepting preferences in the bedrooom when our partners opinions of our intimate lives are different than ours. In this episode we discuss what it looks like to have different ideas around our sex lives with our partners and what we can do to accept our differences and what it looks like to put this into action. Welcome to Your Turned on Desire where Jamee talks about the lessons she learned when she decided to stop avoiding sex and look forward to and enjoy sex instead. She also shares how she uses the same lessons to help other women do the same in her private coaching and online program. Prepare for something extraordinary because we’re about to create a magnificent sex life!Online course holiday bundle *expires January 2, 2024 and there are 100 coupons total available. https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/comprehensive-bundleFree Sexual success for Husbands online course (lifetime access, do at your own pace, I update and add curriculum as needed):https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/sexual-success-for-husbandsLink for Ignite Her Supplement:https://www.amare.com/188812/en-us/shopping-cartLink for my free download, “Switching off your stress response and turning on your rest response”:https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/my-downloadable-39807
Desire grows in an environment of love, connection, self respect, and knowing your desires. Sexual and nonsexual desires. When we do anything that takes us out of this environment then it turns down our desire (enter screeching brakes sound*). I share my favorite way to push the gas pedal on desire in this episode.
Sex is meant to be a form of play in our marriages. But in order to understand this we first need to understand what play even is and then how this understanding shows up to make our sex lives better or confusing. When you understand the game of sex, your struggles will melt away. If you don’t understand the game, you’ll stay confused for, well, forever. I have space for 10 more women to join my online program before enrollment pauses. Here is the link to check out all the details of my online program:
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This is a podcast episode I recorded for my friend Corrie’s podcast. Have you ever considered an Orgasm to be a physical, emotional, spiritual and mental experience?As Women, our bodies are built to experience Orgasms in multiple ways. In this episode, We talk about the conditioning us woman have around our bodies and the effects it plays on our sexuality. Whats happening in your intimate relationships is patterned in every area of your life.You are a sovereign human BEing. Your body is yours. It is for YOU.You are in charge of your sexual authority.If you have NEVER had an orgasm, this episode is also for you. The question for todays listeners is this: Does your sexuality exist for someone else or does it exist for you and then you get to choose if you share it and how you want to share it…?Find my online program here: https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/Find Corrie’s podcast called Be a Woman (Not a Weak Ass Bitch) here: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/corrie-woods3/episodes/Be-a-Woman-and-not-a-weak-ass-bitch-e2250bj
This is step 6 in the process of making sex a nonissue. This step is called Practice Growing Your Desire. This is where we understand the life of a turned on woman on a deeper level. Here is the link to check out all the details of my online program:
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Step 3 in the process of going from struggling with to enjoying sex is Permission to Seek Pleasure. Here is the link to check out all the details of my online program:
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Each of us experience our bodies and our sexual desires differently. In order to experience a good sex life with our spouses we have to be able to understand our unique body and desire and accept ourselves. We also need to be able to receive the information our spouse is sharing with us about their desire and accept this as well. In this episode we discuss this important step in the process of going from struggling with low desire to being at peace in our sex lives and enjoying sex with our husbands. Here is the link to check out all the details of my online program:
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Many women ask me what it means to embrace our sexualities and why it’s important to experiencing a great sex life. In this episode I explain the stages of embracing your sexuality so that you can understand it better. My hope is to make it easy and fun for you to do. And if joining my online program sounds like a fun way for you to embrace your sexuality because you’re wanting help and support while you do it because you’re not experiencing the results you want by doing it on your own, then come join!! Here is the link to check out all the details of my online program:
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Every good story has a stinky start and a happily ever after. In this episode we talk about the steps that take you from your stinky start of arguing about sex and being frustrated and not happy in your sex life to your happily ever after of being at peace with sex and therefore enjoying and amazingly easy and fun sex life with your husband. Here is the link to check out all the details of my online program:
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Lust gets a bad rap. Mostly because it’s such a strong force and people think that bad things happen from erotic and lustful feelings. But the truth is that lust is just a force and you get to decide if you want to use this force for good or for bad. The happiest marriages have two people who are cultivating both love and lust- because these feelings don’t just happen to people. Not cultivating lust can have a damaging effect on a marriage. In this episode we discuss love and lust and how the cultivation of lust is what creates sexual desire. If you’re a woman who is struggling with low desire, then this episode could be the catalyst that transforms your sex life.
A great sex life between a husband and wife happens when sex is how they celebrate an already great connection between the two of them.
Some people want to use sex as a way to fix the disconnect that is going on between them and their partners. These people are missing the mark.
Some people worry that if they don’t respond to their spouses expectations and requests in their sex life that they will disappoint their spouses and cause more disconnect. So instead of building the intimacy between the two of them, they oblige their spouses and go along with what ever their spouse is requesting sexually. These people are missing the mark as well. In this episode, we explore the 5 ways you can forget about using sex as a way to fix struggles and instead make sex a celebration of your intimacy together. If you would like to enroll in my comprehensive bundle as pre-work before you join my online program and you’re ready to begin your deep dive into intimacy and sex being a celebration use code: SELFLOVE to save $100 with this link: https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/comprehensive-bundle
In this episode, we're going to explore the idea of having sexual authority and what it means and then sharing this part of ourselves with someone else (if you choose to share that with them).
This episode is for women who are experiencing low sexual desire and are married to men who are experiencing high sexual desire. (Or least their desire seems to be higher than their wives desire and this is causing some frustration and friction in their marriage).
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Sex isn’t less or more important as everything else in our lives. But if we make sex seem more important to everything else then our spouses tend to make it less important. If we make it seem less important then our spouses tend to put extra emphasis on sex. What we are each really seeking is simply balance!
No matter where you’re at in your sexual relationship, there are good reasons why many women are resisting making sex more important, and we talk about them in this episode. In this episode, we talk about the challenges that husband and wives have to making sex an equal piece of the pie.
Learning to put sex in its rightful place will make sex a non issue in your marriage!
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On todays episode we get to hear from The Postpartum Coach Lizzie Langston. Lizzie is a friend of mine and a fellow advocate for women. In this episode we address this question from a listener: “I just had a baby and am cleared to have sex but I don’t know what to do because my libido is so low.” Connect with Lizzie on her website: https://www.lizzielangston.com/
There are 9 qualities that sexually successful people posses and are willing to work on. If you have these 9 qualities and are willing to work on them and exercise them like muscles, then you’re guaranteed a sex life that you’re proud of. If you don’t have these qualities and you’re not willing to practice them, then it’s a waste of time to pretend that your sex life will get better- that would be like laying in bed all day eating chocolate covered pretzels and telling yourself that you’re going to be the fittest you’ve ever been. You’re not going to get fit unless you eat healthy and exercise. You’re not going to bathe in the rewards of a great sex life unless you work on these qualities. Natural Herbal Arousal Supplement called IGNITE HER: https://www.amare.com/et/la5c2j/188812 Inquiries for private coaching? Email me at coachingwithjamee@gmail.com
In this episode we discuss female sex hormones and the impact they have on female sexual desire. Sex hormones are the foundation to a healthy desire. When we don’t understand the basics of sex hormones and our female biology, we will be unnecessarily frustrated. Misunderstanding female sex hormones will also make all the other work to increase desire really hard. I’m going to give you an inspiring amount of information, in this episode, that you can use to start supporting your sex hormones today. Get ready for:•Why we should stop blaming our spouses if sex is a challenge. •Why increasing sexual desire is a challenge for some people and why not every married couple wants to make sex easier in their marriage. •The 3 H’s women experience when their sex hormones are being produced at their peak. •What prohibits certain sex hormones from being produced at different times of our cycles•What are the different sex hormones and why they aren’t just important for a healthy sexual desire. Natural Herbal Arousal Supplement: https://www.amare.com/et/la5c2j/188812 Books: Fast Like a Girl: A Woman's Guide to Using the Healing Power of Fasting to Burn Fat, Boost Energy, and Balance Hormones https://a.co/d/gCF0qV6 Rushing Woman's Syndrome: The Impact of a Never-Ending To-Do List and How to Stay Healthy in Today's Busy World https://a.co/d/4NBbG9t Wild Power: Discover the Magic of Your Menstrual Cycle and Awaken the Feminine Path to Power https://a.co/d/axkwqjUEmail: coachingwithjamee@gmail.com
Improving your sex life and making it a non-issue is not a fairytale. It can happen for anyone who is willing to put in the work & take the steps. Email me at coachingwithjamee@gmail.com to set up a consultation for private couples coaching. The code to save $100 off all my online courses is SELFLOVE and here is the link to enroll:https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/comprehensive-bundleMy free download of 60 ways you can turn off your stress response is here: https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/my-downloadable-39807Find these links and connect with me more at:@jameeandelin on Instagram
The more you’re open to understanding your woman’s natural feminine nature, the better your sex life will be. The more you understand, the more you’ll be able to provide a space for healing. Which is a really important step in evolving from phase one into phase two sex. Email me at coachingwithjamee@gmail.com to set up a consultation for private couples coaching. The code to save $100 off all my online courses is SELFLOVE and here is the link to enroll:https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/comprehensive-bundleMy free download of 60 ways you can turn off your stress response is here: https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/my-downloadable-39807Find these links and connect with me more at:@jameeandelin on Instagram
The low desire isn’t resisting sex. They aren’t too tired for sex. They aren’t too stressed for sex. What they are resisting is PHASE 1 sex and the dynamics that are happening between them and their high desire partner. They are ready for phase 2 sexual dynamics in their marriage. Everyone who is SO DONE with the confusing and frustrating dynamics around their sex lives with a low and high desire partner will appreciate the understanding that there is hope and another way! Email me at coachingwithjamee@gmail.com to set up a consultation for private couples coaching. The code to save $100 off all my online courses is SELFLOVE and here is the link to enroll:https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/comprehensive-bundleMy free download of 60 ways you can turn off your stress response is here: https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/my-downloadable-39807Find these links and connect with me more at:@jameeandelin on Instagram
There are a few things that keep a couple stuck in phase 1 sex. One of those is a developed sense of entitlement. We talk about the signs of a development sense of entitlement, how this is keeping the couple stuck from evolving their sex life and of course what they can do to get unstuck and relax into phase 2 of married sex. It’s the best. Email me at coachingwithjamee@gmail.com to set up a consultation for private couples coaching. The code to save $100 off all my online courses is SELFLOVE and here is the link to enroll:https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/comprehensive-bundleMy free download of 60 ways you can turn off your stress response is here: https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/my-downloadable-39807Find these links and connect with me more at:@jameeandelin on Instagram
There are few different phases of sex that a married couple can expect to move through. But no married couple moves through the phases without intentionally deciding to evolve through phase 1 first. The transition between phase 1 and phase 2 sex is the hardest transition. Most people are staying stuck in phase 1 because they don’t know how to evolve through it. I explain the process in this episode and what you can do to evolve. Email: coachingwithjamee@gmail.com to inquire about private coaching with me for you as a husband who is tired of phase 1 sex and those challenges and ready to evolve to the next phases. The code to save $100 off all my online courses right now is SELFLOVE and here is the link to enroll:https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/comprehensive-bundleMy free download of 60 ways you can turn off your stress response is here: https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/my-downloadable-39807Find these links and connect with me more at:@jameeandelin on Instagram
When women decide to heal and evolve the sexual parts of themselves, this can really trigger their husbands for various reasons. You know your hubby is triggered because he will be impatient: (“Why don’t you want to jump my bones everyday yet?”) or (“You’re taking too long to change… 😩”). Or he can become insecure and become withdrawn. He can even start giving you ultimatums: (“If you don’t figure this out by this week then I’m going to move out” or something like this). Or husbands can even say: “Fine. I’m not going to talk about sex ever again. This is on you now. I’m staying out of it.” This isn’t easy to manage and can make wives feel lonely and confused which adds another layer of suffering on top of trying to learn new habits while learning how to turn on their desire. But it’s also completely normal for husbands to respond this way. It’s coming from their own need to emotionally and sexually mature themselves and their insecurities are being brought to the surface. In this episode, we talk about what these insecurities are and what you can do to get through this difficult time. Instead of staying stuck, you can actually evolve through all the stages of sex so you can end up where sex isn’t an issue anymore. The code to save $100 off of the bundle of all my online courses is SELFLOVE and here is the link to enroll:https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/comprehensive-bundleMy free download of 60 ways you can turn off your stress response is here: https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/my-downloadable-39807Find these links and connect with me more at:@jameeandelin on Instagram
A lot of men and women are afraid to say or do anything that might make their spouses uncomfortable. They are also afraid of taking 10 steps backwards when they are trying to move towards a great sex life- so a lot of us are unsure what To Do when we notice we want better for ourselves and our marriages in our sex lives. In this episode we discuss what to do so that we can evolve and mature in our sex lives together.
Why do we feel pressure to improve our sex lives? Because we want something. Our desires (what we really really want) come from inside of us. This internal pressure is nagging at us to take action towards what we want. Women who feel the pressure want an amazing sex life. Women who don’t feel the pressure aren’t listening to this podcast and aren’t bothered by the sex struggles in their marriages. Being bothered and annoyed and wanting the sex struggles to go away is a message from your internal desires. Are we going to listen to them or are we going to avoid them and push them away? Ignoring them doesn’t make them stop nagging at us. Enroll in New Year, New Sex Life here: www.coachingwithjamee.com click on “PROGRAM” for the details.
Are you open to just one shift changing everything for you? Are you open to just one thought or perspective being the one shift that created an amazingly fun and easy sex life for you? In this episode I share some of my shifts that have happened over time and some of my clients shifts that have happened. These shifts were the catalyst that changed everything for us. If you would like to invest a little bit more of your time, money and energy into dealing and healing your relationship with your sexuality and then ditching all the struggles that come with low desire, come join my online program. What you desire your sex life to be like is worth investing in. You’re worth investing in. I love you. Check out program details here: www.coachingwithjamee.com
Talking talking talking about why you don’t want more sex and how your husband needs more sex, doesn’t work. Because this isn’t addressing the actual problem of you, as the woman, not being turned on. You’re just not turned on. That’s simply put. The talk doesn’t turn you on either. If it did, you wouldn’t be having the talk. The not enough sex problem can only be solved when you learn the art of increasing your desire and how to be turned on. Waiting for your husband to turn you on isn’t going to work either because then you still don’t know how your sexual desire works. Sexual desire is an inside job and waiting for someone to figure out your own insides is low investment and will always create more low desire. Enroll in my new program here: www.coachingwithjamee.com enrollment ends Feb 1, 2023.
I didn’t realize that before I could enjoy my sex life with my husband there were some things that needed to be healed. We were trying all kinds of different things like herbs, position books, vacations, lingerie, weekly date nights etc…. And none of these were working because I wasn’t healing and learning about the art of desire. Sexual desire is an art form, an energy, a way of being…and without this awareness & knowledge- nothing else was going to work. Listen to this episode to ignite your curiosity about desire, healing & wanting. Enroll in my newest online program until February 1, 2023 here: www.coachingwithjamee.com
If we don’t deal with our sexuality, it will deal with us later. What does it look and feel like if we don’t deal with our sexuality? What does this mean? I talk about this in this podcast. I also share with you a snippet from a video in my new program called New Year, New Sex Life. I’m enrolling in this program all of January. Enrollment ends Feb, so if you are ready to make your sex life a source of joy in your marriage then I wouldn’t wait to enroll. The time time it will be available to enroll is next year at this time. Read about the details of this program and enroll here: https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/new-year-new-sex-life
There are several things happening in a low sexual desire marriage. And unfortunately the person who gets labeled as the low desire partner is usually dismissing several things that are under the surface for them. One way we create low desire is by self betrayal in many areas of our lives. Check out the details and/or enroll in my newest course/program here: https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/newsexlife Access program from my website: coachingwithjamee.com
Many times, women are labeled with low libido or sexual desire when really there are other underlying things going on with them and their relationship. Low desire is simply a symptom of these underlying things that could use some attention and maturing. Learn more about how good judgment gets labeled as low desire in this episode. Check out the details and/or enroll in my newest course/program here: https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/p/newsexlife Access program from my website: coachingwithjamee.com
If you’re struggling in your sex life (whether you have a low or high desire) the chances are there are parts of your sexuality that you’ll want to make peace with. And when you make peace, you’ll enjoy a peaceful sex life. New online course will be available soon!!!
What has more impact on a woman’s sexual desire than a biological or physical urge? Find out in this episode.
Sexual desire isn’t something you have or you don’t. Sexual desire isn’t something that diminishes with time. Sexual desire is a measuring stick or barameter for where the intimacy is at between the couple. What I’m most concerned about are all the missed opportunities that people experience when desire is thought of as something that is just there or it isn’t. It’s also concerning when people think that if someone doesn’t have much desire then there is something wrong with them. When someone is struggling with low desire this is a giant neon arrow pointing at the lack of intimacy between the two people.
There are several causes of low sexual desire. In this episode, I share 3 causes of low desire that will blow your mind because they aren’t talked about often- if at all!
Welcome to step 8! This is the final step in the process of going from sex being a frustration in your marriage to being at peace with your sex life and looking forward to and enjoying sex with your spouse. Steps 1-7 start with episode 11 if you prefer to start at the beginning of the steps. In this episode we discuss what it means to delight in the wonderment that is your life with your spouse and how to keep evolving your sexuality so that you can be at peace with yourself as a woman and also with the man you choose to climb into bed with at the end of each day. After you listen ti this episode, if you would like to dive deeper into your relationship with your sexuality because your marriage is important to you, then find me @jameeandelin on Instagram and enroll in my online courses here: https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com
My guest on this episode is my very own husband, Daron Andelin. He is courageous and shares the pain and suffering he experienced when we struggled with sex being an issue in our marriage. We talk about some of the changes he and I both made so that we could be better friends and supports to eachother and we share (appropriate) personal stories of what our sex life is like now. There’s a happy ending! Link to enroll in my online courses: https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com if you enroll before August 22, 2022, you’ll be invited to join a private community for extra support from me.
This episode is step 7 of 8 that it takes to go from struggling in your sex life to sex being a non issue. And my online school is updated with a NEW course. It’s called Restore Your Sexual Pleasure. You can enroll here: https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com
Step 6 on the path to sex being a nonissue and enjoyable is: Practice Growing your Desire for Sex. In order to practice growing your desire we need to talk about how you relate to sexual and nonsexual desires. We need to know the difference between arousal and desire. We need to understand how meanings we attach to sex have the most impact on our desires. Even more than biology. And we also need to talk about gourmet sex. In order to take step six you’re going to need at least 4 skills and I talk about those 4 skills in this episode. And then I share the best way to get support while you’re working on taking these steps and learning the skills. Because this isn’t easy to do on your own!! To watch the video I refer to in this episode click here: https://youtu.be/3n-DOKBffuU My email: coachingwithjamee@gmail.com
A lot of times women have good judgement in their marriages which leads to them having what is commonly referred to as “low sexual desire”. But this kind of low desire isn’t a negative thing. A woman won’t open up sexually to anyone, including her husband, if she believes that he doesn’t see and treasure her as a whole woman. This good judgement can also be an invitation for her to be courageous and honest about why she doesn’t want to open up sexually. Another reason a woman won’t open up sexually to her husband is because her sense of self is strongly connected to her sexuality and if her sense of belonging with herself isn’t very strong then she will have what is referred to as “low sexual desire”. In this episode we discuss the connection between a woman’s sense of self and her sexual desire, when her good judgment kicks in, what she can do to create a stronger identity, a more confident self concept, and how this increases her sexual desire in her marriage. Website for checking out available courses in Jamee’s online school: https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/
Sexual desire needs incentives to show up and this episode is all about steps 4 and 5 in the process of going from avoiding sex to looking forward to and enjoying sex with your spouse: Step 4 learn how to make sex enjoyable for yourself.
Step 5 Make the sex you’re having something worth wanting more of.
These steps are the most fun and fascinating steps in this whole process and can’t be skipped by.
Irene Vivanco is our guest today. She is sharing about her experience with being one of my private clients for 6 months and all the benefits that came from our time together. Irene has also become a friend and I hired her to work with me on creating my ecourses for my online school, Your Turned on Desire. What’s in this episode for you: •Turning on your desire for sex is so much more than having more sex. •Learning how to prioritize what you want as a woman, wife and/or mother is beneficial for everyone. •When your sex life is fulfilling, and not a source of contention or frustration anymore, it’s amazing what doors open for you in your personal life. •In a sexually successful marriage, everyone gets what they want in life and this manifests itself in the bedroom. •What both people in the marriage want is a satisfied woman! •When she knows what she wants and isn’t apologetic, guilty or confused about herself- then everyone thrives. Links:
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I get a lot of questions from women about not being attracted to their spouses and how this brings them frustrations, pain, and confusion in the sexual part of their relationship and the pain sometimes leaks over into their whole marriage. So today we are addressing this topic and what to do about it if your goal is to not only remain in your long term monogamous relationship but to find deeper love and intimacy as well. To access my online school Your Turned on Desire for more education and the lifestyle skills needed for sex to be a non issue in your marriage then go here: www.coachingwithjamee.com
One of the several obstacles that get in the way of enjoying sex happens when life offers us struggles and when our relationships have breakdowns, moments of disconnect and suffering. You have good reasons for not wanting sex during struggles, and you also don’t have to stay in this cycle. You have permission to seek out anything that is good, even in the midst of pain. Here is a link to my online courses: https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/?_ga=2.91805786.1317859792.1652195534-2079670856.1643905528
Understanding your unique sexual desire will literally change every conversation you have with your spouse. When you understand your desire you will experience lots of body positivity, you can teach your spouse how you work, and if they don’t resist the process and are open to receiving your beautiful information, you will both enjoy a sexually successful marriage which means no more frustrating and annoying conversations about how you need to increase your desire. Plus you’ll feel really freakin happy. To great sex and beyond! Jamee xoxo and PS my online courses are available!!! Here is the link to the courses: https://the-turned-on-woman.teachable.com/?_ga=2.91805786.1317859792.1652195534-2079670856.1643905528
If we are tired of sex being an issue in our marriages then as women there are definitely some things we can do to get ourselves out of this challenge! There are 8 steps from going from sex being an issue to sex being a non issue and then, when you’re ready, sex being something you look forward to and enjoy. The first step is Embracing Your Sexuality. And there are 5 stages to understanding what embracing your sexuality means. In this episode we go over the last 4 stages of embracing your sexuality, what makes them hard, and what skills you’ll need to move through the stages and make sex a non issue. Link to courses: https://sso.teachable.com/secure/1209779/checkout/3938850/intro-to-turned-on-desire-bundle
Just like everything in life, if you want to move out of your sex challenges in your marriage and into your happily ever after of sex being a non issue in your life, then there are steps you will need take along the path. And while you take each step, you’ll need to practice the skills that will get you through to the next step. In this episode I will tell you what the steps are to sex being a non issue in your marriage, and we will focus in on step one- which is embracing your sexuality. Lucky you!! My online school is now LIVE: https://sso.teachable.com/secure/1209779/checkout/3938850/intro-to-turned-on-desire-bundle
Sex is an enjoyable activity you do with your spouse. If you and your spouse are not fully enjoying your sexual relationship there is no one to blame. You’re just trying to follow the wrong sex rules. All you need is to take the energy you used to use on blaming and trying to get your spouse to change and simply use that energy to practice the correct relationship skill set that will create an enjoyable sexual relationship.
In this episode we discuss the importance of Education, Compassion, and Partnership in creating a successful sex life in our marriages. I give a few examples on how to do this, focusing mostly on how to be more of a sexual partner. I also give a brief intro on how important the hormone oxytocin is for women when it comes to desiring touch, sex, and orgasms. And lastly, I explain 2 rules that need to be dropped in order for women to enjoy more pleasurable sex with their husbands.
We have so many competing wants. Things we want in the moment. Things we want in the big picture. Sometimes we lie to ourselves and say we want something when that isn’t really what we want at all. In this episode I’m going to draw attention to the lies that women tell themselves that really turn off our libido. And I’m going to draw attention to what we really want as women so that we can be on to ourselves when we start lying. WARNING: Possible side effects are feeling more rested, wanting more sex, husbands who help out around the house and with kids more, and having more fun.
When a husband is struggling with feelings of lack of sex in his marriage and wishes that him and his wife enjoyed more sex, this is a sign that he has some work to do too. This episode is for husbands and wives who desire a better sexual connection, don’t want to have the “we aren’t having enough sex” talk ever again, are ready to stop the blame game and just simply want to enjoy more good sex!! Cory Ivins, our guest today, is a coach, a father, and a husband of 13 years. He struggled with the frustrations of desiring sex more often then his wife and all the obstacles that come with that. He is now on the other side and can help men who are also struggling and desire to delight in the wonderment that is their lives with their wives, be much happier and more fulfilled sexually, and over all better men. Contact Cory at CoryIvins@gmail.com and connect with him on IG @coryivins
Women in thriving marriages where sex is a non issue believe that sex is not more important than anything else. They don’t believe sex is less important than any other part of their relationship or life. They believe that sex is an equal slice of the pie to every other slice. If you find yourself thinking that your spouse thinks about sex too much or you worry that if you don’t bring up sex that your spouse might forget about sex but you both want a stronger sexual connection, then this episode is for you. We talk about making sex equal and what happens when we don’t. Also what some of the obstacles are that get in the way of making sex equal- especially for women with responsive sexual desire (which is sometimes referred to as low sexual desire). Seeking this balance and equality with sex makes everyone relax and enjoy more good sex instead if sex looming so large in the marriage or being something that is dreaded. To contact me for anything (including a spot in my coaching group that is starting January 21st) email me at coachingwithjamee@gmail.com
This is a continuation of what to do instead of THE TALK THAT DOESN’T WORK. We focus on a skill that women need to desire more sex and 3 obstacles that get in the way. And we also discuss a mistake that men make when it comes to supporting their wives sexual desire and the skill he needs to increase sexual desire and to just feel more confident as a man and husband.
As I mentioned in episode 3, the “we aren’t having enough sex talk” isn’t helping couples have & enjoy more sex. It’s creating obligation sex or pity sex instead. Communication doesn’t always mean talking. Communication can happen through the vibe and energy we carry around with us and it can also happen through our behaviors, lifestyle choices and our inactions. There’s a certain set of skills and lifestyle choices that a husband and wife can learn that will turn on and up a woman’s sexual desire. I introduce some of them here in this episode. Its more productive to spend your time and energy in these skills and behaviors then to have another talk about needing more sex.
Everyone in the world says that communication is the most important part of a long lasting delightful marriage where sex is a non issue. And this may be true, but communication doesn’t always mean TALKING. There are many other forms of communication that work better than talking sometimes. And there’s one conversation that isn’t working if you are a woman struggling with a low sexual desire and a man wanting more sex.
In order for women to enjoy more sex they need to close their stress cycle BEFORE they will desire to turn to their spouses sexually. Men are different in that typically sex relieves stress. When women understand how their sexual desire works on a biological level and HONOR their own bodies and in turn communicate this to their husbands, then sex becomes a nonissue in marriage. They initiate sex equally as often as their spouse and they desire sex more often because they enjoy sex.
Women in thriving marriages understand that focusing on having more sex is not going to strengthen your sexual connection to your spouse. What should the focus be instead?
Instantaneous gratification vs big picture thinking. Women in thriving marriages understand that instant gratification doesn’t lead them to the thriving marriage they truly desire. Recognizing how you give into instantaneous gratification with yourself and your family and spouse on a daily basis and how this effects your relationship is the key to a thriving marriage with a strong sexual connection.
We are all sexual beings. And having a healthy sexual relationship between spouses is so important to a thriving marriage. There are a few obstacles that get in the way of a woman’s sexuality. I will address some of those here and what you can do about it so you can stop neglecting yourself and start thriving in your marriage and family.
Transactions aren’t inherently bad in a marriage. They can be good or bad and it depends on what your goals are and what you’re trying to create. Believing that transactions are just unhealthy in general stops the creative process that it requires for you to create a thriving marriage. Open up your mind and heart and start creating a more intimate and playful relationship…
Coaching With Jamee Favorite series When you realize a whole village used to do what you alone are expected to do now.
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Emotions are just energy. They are a part of you but they are not you. Even though we are just learning how to properly support our bodies as they do their jobs, we don’t have to be afraid of any emotion. The more you understand, the more clarity and peace you experience in your life. The more clarity and peace you have, the easier your life becomes. The easier your life is, then you enjoy your relationships more. The more you enjoy your relationships, the deeper your connections get.
You are a being of light and love. And you are experiencing a human experience. Part of your human experience is to ha e a brain and a body. Your thoughts have no moral value. They aren’t good and they aren’t bad. They are options. When you identify with a thought or opinion then you avoid looking at your thoughts because if you discover that you have “bad” thoughts then you will feel like a bad person. Or you will feel better than others if you think you have good thoughts. Identifying with your thoughts makes it hard to progress and keeps you stuck.
There is YOU. And then there is everything and everyone that is happening in the world. Bringing awareness to this for yourself in a daily basis makes your life so much easier to manage. Which in turn strengthens all your relationships.
Noticing that something is off with your spouse (or anyone in your life) means that you already are super connected to them. A lot people misinterpret noticing someone else’s “off” feelings or energy as evidence for distance between them. But the opposite is true. You don’t notice someone else and they might be feeling if you’re not connected to them. How does this improve your relationships? What you’re thinking determines how you treat someone. What you’re thinking and believing is who you are being. And this is either inviting or uninviting to someone else. I’ll share a personal example in this episode and show you how it works.
When I’m teaching about masculine and feminine energies I’m not necessarily talking about genders. I’m talking about the different kinds of energy that we all have inside of us. We each have access to masculine and feminine energies and it’s not about embracing one over the other. It’s deciding which energy will serve us best in any given circumstance. And it’s also about finding a balance in ourselves, our families, and our communities. Because we are conditioned to give priority to masculine energy that it’s not uncommon for us to prioritize masculine energy and experience over feminine energy and experience. We start with an awareness of how this happens before we can make some very beautiful shifts.
I define a patriarchal society as a set of belief systems that are centered around a masculine energy and masculine bodies. This lead to a society that builds everything from a way of eating to relationship dynamics that are not serving everyone (make and female) as a whole. The harmful effects of this are women don’t understand their own bodies and believe they are broken in some way. I have a goal to teach as many women as possible about their beautiful feminine bodies and empower them to live in a way that supports their own souls so they can have the best health of their lives. More energy! More peace! More love! Deeper intimate connections with other women and deeper intimate connections with themselves and their spouses!! Yes please. In this episode I’m sharing a couple patriarchal beliefs that are harmful to both men and women. The patriarchal beliefs are misunderstood to only serve men and not women but the truth is that everyone is harmed by these beliefs- I’ll show you how. My greatest motivation is I want women to know that they are not broken and nothing is wrong with them.
People pleasing, self sacrificing and seeking for others approval are cheap versions of the real deep & fulfilling love you’re actually searching for. You’re doing these things for the right reasons, but it’s not going to produce the results you’re really searching for.
Buck and Angie Swaney have developed a unique philosophical framework on modesty to support positive body image and healthy sexuality for their daughters and their son. Today Buck is here to share this unique way of teaching modesty with us. Get ready because Buck vulnerably shares personal stories from his own life so that we can see how he was able to come up with this fantastic outlook and way of teaching his children. Your mind is about to be blown away and you will have a completely fresh outlook on modesty and parenting after this episode.
Staying committed to a thriving marriage (as opposed to an average marriage) takes the same commitment you have to paying your bills. People who are in thriving marriages aren’t perfect. But they are committed to a few nonnegotiable things and they aren’t perfect at it but they are aware and willing to keep trying. It never takes perfection to succeed, it only takes willingness.
Resistance is hard for everyone. Not understanding resistance keeps us from strengthening relationships and also reaching goals we’ve had for years. When you understand resistance then your life gets so much easier and you reap all the rewards.
If you are not experiencing what you imagined for yourself in your marriage, then it’s mostly likely because your spouse doesn’t feel loved by you. This may be subconscious. They may not be aware of this but you can tell they don’t feel loved when they have certain behaviors (which we talk about in this episode) and if they aren’t giving to you what you need for your marriage to thrive. There are 3 areas in which you can start focusing on so your spouse can feel loved by you. They will naturally turn to you and give you want you desire without you needing to make sure they give you what you need. And you’ll be free of resentment- which opens the door for intimate connection.
Boundaries are essential in a thriving marriage. Especially when your spouse has any kind of mental illness. A lot of people don’t set boundaries in a marriage because they think that it feels like putting up a fence or a wall and it feels unwelcome. And on the surface this makes sense but if you take a deeper look at this you will see that boundaries simply mean, “I’m going to tell you the truth.” And when you are honest this equals an uncomfortable conversation. Uncomfortable Conversations equal vulnerability. Vulnerability equals intimacy. Intimacy equals a thriving marriage. This is part 2 of my interview with Jessica Farmer. Connect with her in IG @jessicafarmercoaching Life Coach for women married to spouses who suffer with their mental health in any way.
My guest, on my podcast this week, is Jessica Farmer. She is a coach for women whose spouses are diagnosed with a mental illness or suspect their spouse may have a mental illness but they are not diagnosed. This is part one of two episodes. Some of the topics we discuss include feeling stuck in the same challenges for years without much progress, not fixating on portraying perfection, and leaning into discomfort for change and growth... among other topics. Connect with Jessica on IG @jessicafarmercoaching connect with Jamee on IG @jameeandelin
We all know that complaining can be annoying. And most marriage advice is that you should just stop complaining. I have a different belief when it comes to complaining. I think if we all understand what complaining really is then we would all feel a lot more peace and love in our lives. Children who were taught the true meaning of complaining turn into adults who don’t complain. Adults who complain were never taught this skill that I’m going to teach you today. When you fully understand this skill then complaints won’t be part of what poisons your marriage.
You know how new fresh love comes with butterflies and just wanting to be around each other no matter what? Even if you’re not talking or doing anything spectacular? Well making things new again now (in a long term monogamous relationship) is possible. I’ll show you how!
Sex can be an issue in a lot of marriages. But a lot of couples don’t have an issue with sex. But this doesn’t mean their marriage is easy. They can have other issues too and then feel guilty that there are other issues because they think that if sex is going well then they should just be grateful and not make anything else a problem. Message me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jameeandelin/
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Women are socialized to believe that they should be appealing to their husbands sexually and if their husband doesn’t want sex as often as they do then they make it mean all this negative stuff about themselves like maybe he isn’t attracted to them and there is something wrong with them or their relationship. These are lies. In this episode I address this challenge and also show you where to start if you struggle with this challenge. Message me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jameeandelin/
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Most women are doing everything they are supposed to be doing. But then they are exhausted, stressed, and burned out. This is simply because they are doing everything but they are doing it backwards. I’ll show you how to switch your priorities around so that you can feel nourished, peaceful and present instead. Message me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jameeandelin/
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Leaning into discomfort is what leads to feeling nourished and creates the perfect container for you to thrive in your life and your marriage. We all want to live in the land of rainbows and butterflies (and you will!) but discomfort is the road there. Discomfort is where the growth is. To go from blah and fine to thriving, lean into discomfort and see what happens. You are worth it!!! In this episode, I share a friend’s experience of leaning into discomfort through a miscarriage, my personal experience of leaning into sadness a few weeks ago, a clients experience of leaning into discomfort through different sexual desires between her husband and herself and one of Jesus’s experiences of leaning into discomfort to begin His ministry. Message me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jameeandelin/
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Thriving marriages benefit your whole family and your whole overall wellness. Couples in thriving marriages experience all kinds of health benefits compared to couples in average marriages. In this episode I explain some of the benefits thriving couples are experiencing and I’ll compare some of the differences between a thriving marriage and an average marriage so you can take inventory on your own marriage and your own individual health and get yourself to THRIVING. YOU becoming a thriving woman benefits your whole family. But even if your thrivingness didn’t benefit anyone (which isn’t possible) YOU alone are still worth experiencing what thriving feels like. To look into working with me, Message me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jameeandelin/
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Just like brushing your teeth and eating dinner is nourishment for your body... so is sex. And it’s the kind of nourishment that also creates a thriving marriage. The way I talk about sex and teach my clients about sex is not commonly understood in the world. Some people may even be confused. But the proof is in the pudding!! My clients come alive! They are no longer going through the motions of life. They feel alive and find everyday life delightful and energizing. My clients discover their own sexuality and desire to have sex for them and not just to keep their husbands happy. In this episode I share a few of the ways in which you can make some life changes that make you sexy and nourished all over. Your husbands will be grateful. But more importantly, you will be more pleasured, more delightful, sexy, energized, a more creative woman in the world who isn’t bothered by the obnoxious things that can happen in their daily lives. You can be distinctly happy in a way that others secretly and openly ask: “What does she know that I don’t??? I want some of that!!” And it all comes from the work that you do to nourish your soul. To work with me privately, Message me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jameeandelin/
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No life circumstance is as easy as it looks from the outside. But it’s important to remember that you always always ALWAYS have a choice to leave a hard marriage or to stay in a hard marriage. Just know this: whether you stay or whether you go you will still have the same healing work to do either way. Sometimes it’s easier to heal leaving a marriage and sometimes it’s easier to heal by staying. And sometimes easy isn’t the answer. There is no wrong way. Divorce is not THE problem. Divorce is an accumulation of unhealthy relationship behaviors. Some people think that the longevity of a relationship means its successful. This isnt true. Sometimes changing the dynamics of a relationship means success. Message me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jameeandelin/
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The sexual connection you feel towards your spouse and your relationship with your own sexuality is an indication of whether you are moving towards a thriving marriage or not. Normal and average marriages include losing emotional and sexual connection the longer you have been married. People in thriving marriages are just as committed to their emotional and sexual connection as they are to paying their bills and going to work- this means you do it no matter how tired you are and how much you don’t want to because paying your bills is nonnegotiable to you. In this episode, I show you how you can tell how committed you are to experiencing pure joy, love, and a strong emotional connection in your marriage. If you lack commitment, this means having a thriving marriage is negotiable to you. But you can decide that it’s nonnegotiable and you have the power to recommit yourself to THRIVING.
My clients are ready to fall in love with their husbands again. They know that when their marriage is thriving then everything else in their lives is figure-out-able and so I show them how to thrive!! Life is hard and sometimes marriage gets the blame. But marriage is meant to be easier!! In this episode I share 3 skills to practice for an easier marriage. Start practicing one, two, or all three today and start loving your marriage again! Message me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jameeandelin/
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Coral is vulnerable and awesome as she is coached on this episode for all to hear! This episode will show you what being coached by me is like and how powerful coaching is in helping you overcome any challenge or reach any goal that you desire. Topics in this episode: Hard marriages Divorce Dating after divorce Having the marriage of your dreams Finding joy whether you choose to stay in a hard marriage or to leave. Connect with Coral and get updates on the book she is writing “No Matter Want!” Whether you decide to stay in a hard marriage or leave, you can find JOY No Matter What!” https://instagram.com/glutenfreewithcoral?igshid=n80k1o67hxh5 From now until Feb 1 I am currently enrolling women into my private coaching program who are ready to say yes to strengthen their marriages. If this is you please message me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jameeandelin/ Or Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jamee.andelin Website: www.Jameelee.com or send me an email at Email: coachingwithjamee@gmail.com we can set up a time to chat. I’m here to help you!
Lizzie is The Postpartum Coach. She specializes in coaching women through some of their darkest times after they have their sweet babies and step into motherhood for the first, second, third time and beyond. We talk about the signs of postpartum depression that aren’t obvious. “Suffering alone does more damage to your motherhood, marriage, and kids, which takes longer to recover from. My goal is to not just help you through this, but to teach you once-and-for-all how to have strong and healthy mental and emotional habits. If you do this, you’ll be more empowered to be the mom you want to be, the wife you want to be, and the woman you want to be.” Connect more with Lizzie on Lizzie’s website: https://lizzielangston.com/ & on her Instagram account https://instagram.com/lizzielangston?igshid=15t9kd4ur2fwm You’re ready to say yes to yourself? But not sure where to go next? Message me and I’ll take care of the rest.
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Goals and blessing are interchangeable and the same things to me. Wanting anything for ourselves is just wanting more blessings. And wanting more blessings just means we are ready to become the next version of ourselves. I have a practice that I use for my clients to say yes to anything they want and I’m sharing that 7 step process with you here in this episode today. I also have shared this process in my social media accounts and you can go back and watch those at your convenience. Message me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jameeandelin/
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In this episode I share an activity you can start implementing so you can make better friends. Deep and authentic friendships really add magic to our lives. But only if the friendships are enriching and not draining. Knowing how to make better friends (at any age!) is the secret sauce to a beautiful life. You’re ready to say yes to yourself? But not sure where to go next? Message me and I’ll take care of the rest.
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In Buddhism there is a teaching about a warrior who is hit with a first arrow. At this point he has the choice to properly care for that wound or to hit himself with second and third arrows. This may sound really silly for this warrior to do, but when I explain how we actually do this in our own lives you’ll see how we cause a lot of unnecessary suffering for ourselves. Work with me!! Message me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jameeandelin/
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This story about when my family went camping and a bear came into our camp and destroyed all of our supplies is a perfect example of how our circumstances don’t have power over us but we have power over our circumstances. Message me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jameeandelin/
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Acknowledging your strengths, loving yourself and saying yes to what you really want can feel selfish and/or vain. But you’re just confused. You don’t know how your brain and body work.
I’ll show you: Whatever qualities you extend towards yourself- is what you are telling your brain you want more of. Message me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jameeandelin/
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Of course our actions are important. But it’s the energy behind our actions that matter more. Becoming a new version of yourself is what actually creates the success and goodness you want in your life. In this episode I will teach you how how you trying to achieve what you want by controlling the wrong things. And then I will show what it is you can control so that what you want comes to you faster!! Message me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jameeandelin/
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Your relationship with stress can change everything in your life. First understand stress on a simple level and then practice a simple tool I teach my clients.
“Not saying yes to what I wanted was actually selfish because I was spending a lot of time feeling resentment, guilty, and pressured. I thought I had to be the one to do everything. I never felt all in on any part of my life. I felt drained of energy and yucky often. Saying yes to myself and working with Jamee actually meant that I started loving the way I showed up in my life. I felt way more joy, I started a business, I had more time and energy. I started feeling more love towards the people in my life more often. Small things like making dinner became a nourishing joyful experience for me.” This is just some of the gems Angie shares with us about saying yes to herself! There’s more: her relationships depend and learning to listen to her body. Of course her family benefits from all of this but what Angie enjoys most is how she feels on a daily basis. She has more fun and looks forward to her life. Connect with Angie on Facebook at https://m.facebook.com/angie.hunter.336 Message me about GROUP COACHING on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jameeandelin/
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What if we had the power to create a world where there were no walls, no wedges, and no addictions? Well we do! And it all starts with the way we think about our emotions.
This is a very special episode all about a clients experience with my group coaching program that I did with Deanna from @thehealthycreative_ What is possible for you? Love your body, learn to trust yourself deeply, find a wonderful balance emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Learn how to have difficult conversations. See how much of a gift you are to your family. And so much more. Group coaching starts in Jan 2021. Come join us!! You belong with us. FREE CALL DEC 2nd at 6pm PST: You will get an actual preview call of what our group coaching is like. You’ll get actionable tools on this free call and an opportunity to be coached and an opportunity to watch others be coached on anything. You totally belong here!!!! Link to call here: us02web.zoom.us/j/77486185873
Opinions of others are just like different food options at food buffets. We choose them based off of our own goals and desired results. Once we realize this then we get to focus on accepting the beautiful truth that we all have agency to choose. Message me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jameeandelin/
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I know you think about the gospel of Jesus Christ every single day and I know that one of the questions on your mind is what is the difference between the Holy Ghost and yourself. One way to understand this is to understand how your brain works, how your body works, and your spirit which is your highest most best self. Then to be able to separate all of these. Message me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jameeandelin/
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Elder Oaks said: “We need to be reminded that in total and over a significant period of time, seemingly small things bring to pass great things.” Message me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jameeandelin/
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Wherever we put all of our energy into is literally deciding if we are getting energy or being drained of it. When we figure out our top priorities based off of our values and then put all of our resources into those then we refuel ourselves. When we are putting all of our energy into priorities that are not our top priorities then we are drained of willpower, motivation, and energy. If we want to feel more energized and alive and fulfilled and happy with our lives then we will invest all forms of energy into the right areas. Message me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jameeandelin/
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In this episode we talk about our relationship with progression and growth. A lot of people confuse the feelings of growth with guilt, fear, and doing something wrong. But I want to clarify this for you so you can move forward and progress in your life instead of feeling stagnant and guilty and just plain yucky. I promise, something wonderful is about to happen. Website: www.Jameelee.com Email: coachingwithjamee@gmail.com Message me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jameeandelin/
Becoming like Christ and devoting qualities that He envelopes doesn’t have to be very hard at all. We are taught that by small and simple things are great things brought to pass. If we really believe this then we will notice how easily and quickly we can become like Him. We can do this!!!!!
There are hundreds of things you can do to increase your faith during trials. In this episode I will share 5 ways you can increase your faith during trials and then feel free to add to the list of things you do to increase your faith. But first we must normalize trials and I will show you that nothing is wrong with you ever.
True suffering is a part of being human. It’s true that there are many times that we experience challenges and suffering of all kinds. All humans do. You’re not alone in that-even though the temptation to believe you are is also part of being human. When you are experiencing any kind of suffering- having the ability to offer true self compassion towards yourself is a key component to thriving and feeling alive. In this episode I introduce you to what true self compassion is and give you the 4 steps to applying compassion towards yourself today. There is so much hope and peace to be experienced when you know exactly what to do with your suffering and when you understand it.
In order to get rid of drama in your life and to take every relationship you have up 10 levels, you need to understand how the brain wires qualities. What you focus on and what lens you see others through is a direct reflection of how you think about yourself. The qualities you extend towards yourself will be the qualities that are wired in your brain to see others through. Song reference: “I Get to Love You” by Ruelle Contact Jamee at coachingwithjamee@gmail.com schedule a phone call with me or message me at https://www.instagram.com/jameeandelin/
Special episode!! Do you want to take your marriage to the next level? Does sex feel like an issue in your life? Do you find yourself wanting more sex and also feeling obligated to have sex to keep your husband happy and your marriage strong? Do you struggle with confusion around understanding you lack of desire but then super inconveniently being turned on? Do you think life is too busy for sex? Do you think you’re just too tired and sex is hard? This episode will shift your thinking. Link to register for webinar: https://us02web.zoom.us/webinar/register/WN_xcaMCaELQ-yVpuC7MnX48g registration ensures that you will have access to a replay link if you need.
The story Kristina told herself about her adoption was that she wasn’t enough and that she was rejected. This story was creating a lot of suffering and this story showed up for her in her friendships, in her marriage, at church, at work, everywhere!!! However, it didn’t take a huge miracle to change things for her. It was a few simple words and things began to change. In this special episode, learn about the moment her “not enough” story started to evaporate and when she was able to open up to feeling loved. Continue to learn about your own stories that you tell yourself and get help with your own suffering by following Kristinajohnsoncoaching on Instagram at https://instagram.com/kristinajohnsoncoaching?igshid=g9c4ksj5k80c also connect with Kristina at Kristinajohnson.com and if you are wanting help with a story you are suffering with send me a message at coachingwithjamee@gmail.com to schedule a phone call with me or message me at https://www.instagram.com/jameeandelin/
Many women say yes to their husbands and no to themselves. Over time this creates a lot of resentment and creates a toxic marriage environment. Why is it so hard to say yes to ourselves? Because it’s the dang world that teaches women that saying yes to your self is selfish and that it’s more important to be accommodating to our husbands than to be ourselves. This is a lie and it’s also very harmful to your soul. Message me here: https://www.instagram.com/jameeandelin/ OR email me here: Coachingwithjamee@gmail.com
Knowing what is causing your actual problems is first a huge relief!!! Then you can actually start healing and moving in the right direction instead of feeling stuck and suffering. Message me here: https://www.instagram.com/jameeandelin/ OR email me at Coachingwithjamee@gmail.com to schedule your consultation with me.
You’re already busy so I’m going to tell you some things you can do to rejuvenate as a busy mama! Things you can do right now and easily add them into your everyday life. Message me for personal coaching here: https://www.instagram.com/jameeandelin/?hl=en. Or email me at Coachingwithjamee@gmail.com
In this episode I am going to share some secrets to feeling connected in your marriage. You cannot control your spouse but you can contribute to if they feel safe in your relationship or not. You cannot make your spouse love you more but you can become a more lovable person. You can spend your time wanting to be right or you can spend your energy on trying to connect and feeling a deep connection. You can worry if you’re spending enough time or thinking you’re not spending enough time together or you can learn the secret to ensuring that whatever time you do spend together is good. You can also learn the secret to having better sex. Sex is a fun and important part to connection in marriage. Learn all this and more when you register for my webinar that will be on Sept 14 at 9am PST. Here is the link to register: https://us02web.zoom.us/webinar/register/WN_i-9A_-07Qh2SkuseyDapgQ
Sometimes it feels like God is quiet because well... He is! You’re not crazy. Waiting on Him to speak may make you feel a little crazy though. When God is quiet it’s because He trusts you and is waiting for you to make a decision.
There are three things that make up a relationship. 1. Your thoughts about yourself. 2. Your thoughts about the other person. 3. What you think the other person is thinking. When you understand this then you have the power for any relationship to be whatever you want it to be. You have the power to strengthen any relationship you want to without the other person changing.
There are 3 things you can start doing right now that will strengthen any relationship. The first thing is that you are in charge of how you think and this will either create connect towards someone or disconnect towards someone. The second way is that love sometimes means no and has limits. Learning how to love yourself is just as important as loving someone else in a relationship. And the third way is to understanding what worrying about what others think of you means and what to do about that and people pleasing.
Fighting is totally going to happen in your marriage. Let’s just get that out there and not try to pretend it doesn’t. I also don’t want to anyone to think that fighting means you have a bad marriage. Because that isn’t true!! You can fight in healthy ways that will totally lead to more connection in your marriage. I give simple directions on how to do that in this episode.
Discomfort is a part of life. We get to celebrate the moment we realize that we are suffering in some way because then we have a choice. We can either stay in our current situation or we can choose to spend some money and time to get out of the suffering. You decide.
Life is 50% uncomfortable. What most people don’t understand is that you are in control of the discomfort. In this episode I teach you how I do this. On the other side is the wonderful blessing of nourishing your whole soul and having soaring confidence- if that’s what you want.
In this episode we are giving you a taste of some of the things we will be working on in our Group Coaching Program starting August 2020. Some of the concepts are:Radical Self-love, Self-acceptance, The story of your past, Circumstances vs thoughts & Story vs fact, Processing emotions & urges, Meditation and mindfulness, Manifestation. Belonging and connection with yourself and others. Being in body and using all senses. How to receive when you are so busy giving so much to everyone. Pleasure & Self-care. Better Sex with your partner. Boundaries & People pleasing. Learning how to say no. How to have more time. How to stop yelling at your kids. Macronutrients & blood sugar balance. Dealing with illnesses and physical pain.
Deanna of @thehealthycreative_ and I teach our clients that the way to get anything you want is to be willing to feel uncomfortable. One of the first things we teach our clients is that what they perceive as a weakness, is actually a strength they have that is being overused. And the next thing we teach is that the more willing you are to feel uncomfortable, the more you achieve in your life. One of the best ways to practice this is in our families. Noticing what you are feeling before you react or yell at your kids is a good indicator of what you are not willing to feel for very long. We talk about our most uncomfortable emotions: embarrassment, shame, irritation, and feeling annoyed.
The purpose of prayer is not to change other people and control their lives so you can feel better. The purpose of prayer is to connect to God. To feel His love and warmth.
A lot of times we focus on what isn’t working in our relationships and if our friends or partners are being good friends or not. In this episode I want to offer to you what does work in strong relationships and how you can be a good friend. Take your focus off what others are doing or not doing for a minute and focus on what you are thinking and doing instead.
Since the beginning, all satan has ever wanted was credit. Power. Glory. So when we give him credit and power then we are giving him exactly what he wants. In this episode I’ll teach you how to take the power back and stop giving satan what he wants.
Sometimes we feel guilty because we don’t fit into a box of rules that society or someone has made up. Ultimately what’s happening is we have thoughts and beliefs that we should be fitting into some kind of box and then if we don’t, we feel stressed or guilty or defeated. Deanna and I are professional rule breakers and rebels so we are here to help you feel better about not fitting in. Find Deanna @thehealthycreative of Facebook l. Find Jamee @jameeandelin on Instagram
Negative self talk and judgement is very common. Every human does it. In this episode we discuss a few skills you can develop that will help you handle the critical self talk and judgment in a healthy way. Connect with Deanna on Facebook. Her page is called The Healthy Creative. Our group coaching program starts the first week of August. We would love for you to join us. Email me at coachingwithjamee@gmail.com if you have any questions. Or come connect with me on Facebook or Instagram.
We all have a critical voice in our minds that we have been living with our whole lives. The way we interact with this critic will determine whether we are adding more love into our lives or more rejection. In this episode I explain an activity I do with my clients that helps with handleing the critical voice in our minds and you can do it too!!
Rejecting certain parts of yourself is emotionally exhausting. I know, because I did it for years. I’ve also done the work to undo a lot of my emotionally unhealthy behaviors and have helped many woman fall in love with themselves and their lives as well. I’m starting a new opportunity for women who have been curious about coaching and desire some support and I share all about this new opportunity in this episode. For more details, email me at Coachingwithjamee@gmail.com or come find me on Instagram @jameeandelin and send me a message. I’m also on Facebook as well.
We all have an ideal in our minds: a perfect marriage, a perfect job, a perfect body or life. We can spend our lives trying to achieve this idea of perfection to realize that we don’t even like to spend our time doing the things that achieve that ideal or we can realize that who we are and what we have is actually what we want. And is that perfection? I think so. So maybe we all have actually reached perfection in the way we are going to in this moment...
Taking care of ourselves and meeting our needs is sometimes easier to do if you believe that you have others to take care of and others need your help. But over time, it’s important to believe that you alone are worth caring of just because you are alive on this planet. Olivia and I share some ways in which we feed our own self confidence and take care of ourselves.
Members of our teams (or families) can get side tracked from the actual problem. Members of the families can be so focused on trying to be right and not allowing other members to play their role that it creates more problems than the ones that are already there. And we all know that there are already going to be problems in a family without trying, so why create more problems if we can help it? In this episode we talk about moms wanting everyone to clean 😂, everyone in the family having different goals and roles, keeping our end goals in mind, what happens when we lose sight of what we really really really want, and how stay amused as opposed to getting frustrated.
My daughter Olivia is joining us and sharing life lessons she has learned from the Avengers Movies. In this episode we learn how to find peace when we feel annoyed with other people and the decisions they are making, why we are judging others harshly and how to find more compassion for others. Olivia shares a personal story about when she judged someone recently and how she handled that.
As humans we were not created to always feel happy. We are not designed to always look on the bright side and to feel happiness all the time. Sometimes we cover up our negative emotions because they feel crappy and our brain doesn’t want to feel any discomfort so our brains offer us the idea that our emotions are bad. But nothing is wrong with any emotion. In this episode we will investigate how positivity can be toxic and what to do with any emotion. Seeking pleasure and avoiding pain leads to an unauthentic life. Others are less likely to connect with you and you will find it difficult to connect with others. Understanding and nourishing yourself with allowing emotions leads to deeper relationships. Starting with the one you have with you!
Deanna is a holistic Lifecoach who specializes in helping people change their relationships with their bodies and with food from a place of radical self love. Some questions we answer in this episode are: •I’m not happy with my physical appearance (weight and strength) I know what I need to do to change it but I’m still not able to make myself do it. •What are some ways to deal with stress and anxiety and not letting stress control me? • Self care. What is this? • If I’m not hungry, then why am I eating? • People say I eat because of a deeper issue or problem but I think I just like to eat. And I am not aware of a deeper problem. • I’m not able to do active things right now because of the quarantine. This feels like a problem to me. What advise do you have? • How do I discover what I enjoy doing that doesn’t have to do with food? To connect more with Deanna find her on Facebook @TheHeathyCreative and on Instagram @thehealthycreative_
Your brain has 3 functions when it comes to your survival. It only wants to keep you alive. It’s not concerned with your overall happiness. So every thought that your brain offers you can be categorized into one or all of the 3 functions. These functions are also called motivations because it is motivated to keep you alive by 1) Seeking Pleasure 2) Avoiding Pain 3) Conserving Energy. Your brain does not care about anything else but to do these three things for survival. Knowing this gives you power over your brain. When you have power over your brain then you can overcome the natural man. Woot woot!! That’s why we are here. To not just survive and live at the effect of our brains but to overcome our brains and thrive. This doesn’t mean our brains are wrong all the time. But we decide if we want to believe them or not. And no matter what you decide, you were designed this way which means that you are enough either way.
In this episode: WHY I HIRED A SEX COACH • WHAT SEX COACHING IS AND WHAT IT IS NOT • OWNING YOUR SEXUALITY IS MORE THAN HAVING SEX • WHAT THOUGHTS AND MINDSETS KEEP US FROM CONNECTING TO OUR SPOUSES • WHAT DO YOU DO IF YOU HAVE THE HIGHER SEX DRIVE OR LOWER SEX DRIVE IN YOUR MARRIAGE • WHAT DOES CHOICE AND OBLIGATION HAVE TO DO WITH SEX? IF YOU ARE INTERESTED IN DANIELLES BETTER SEX IN 90 DAYS GROUP COACHING PROGRAM THEN GO HERE TO FILL OUT AN APPLICATION www.daniellesavory.com/group
Topics in the episode: • living paycheck • on the verge of divorce • wife and mom• working mom• the power one person has to change their marriage and finances •living in overwhelm • working for what you want • how Starbucks changed Brittany’s life • Don’t take marriage lightly •arguing about money • limiting beliefs about money • money is the source that we use to get what we need in life, why would we talk bad about that?• thoughts about money that serve. Connect with Brittany Deer on Facebook @BrittanyDeerCoaching
What is covered in this episode: •How do teens brains work? •Can I be a parent and a friend? Yes! •Rewards and consequences. What is necessary and what is optional? •Screens, screens, screens. •Enforce or not enforce? • How to keep from getting overwhelmed as a parent. Crucial Life Skills Program with Joey Mascio for Teens and Parents is found at firmlyfounded.com Podcast for Teens- “The Firmly Founded Teen” Book mentioned in episode: “Atomic Habits” by James Clear. Podcast episodes mentioned in this episode: Coaching with Jamee E 25 “You think you can do these things but you just can’t Nemo”. (More on how teens think) Coaching with Jamee E 82 “The Spiritual and Sciencey Side of Shoulding”
I am sure you have heard of someone saying the phrase, “don’t should on yourself.” I want to explain what that even means, what happens in our brain when we think the words should or shouldn’t, what happens in our bodies, and then spiritually. Applying this concept to our lives can ultimately reduce our stress by about 80%. But you don’t have to take my word for it. Try it out for yourself.
I am very grateful to be able to visit with one of my clients, Bre Rayner!!! It’s a vulnerable thing to share your experience with struggle and reaching out for help- and being excited to invest in yourself!! Bre shares her story of going from working mom to stay at home mom and the struggle that was. The relationship developed between coach and client is very special and I hope you’ll be able to feel some of that in this episode. Bre has decided to become a coach herself and help other people who are also struggling. Her clients feel that working with her feels natural and they love her. ❤️ you can connect with her on Instagram @lifecoachingwithbre and her website www.lifecoachingwithbre.com Not every client becomes a coach and that isn’t even why most people hire me. However, sometimes the transformation that happens inspires others to help people in similar ways. Nonetheless everyone who goes through my coaching program does choose to go out and serve and help in many ways that were unknown to them before we started working together.
Meditation strengthens different muscles in your brain so that it becomes natural to be present in your life, intentional, and to not give into urges for all those cookies that you’re trying not to eat because you want to feel better! In this episode I show you how easy meditation can be and how to get started.
In this episode we discuss what the purpose of taking responsibility for our own thoughts and feelings and action feels like and looks like. And this is IN FACT the purpose of the podcast. I teach you throughout all the episodes how to take full responsibility for your thoughts and actions. But what if others in your life don’t want to take full responsibility? What then? How does it feel waiting for others to take responsibility? How do you behave when they don’t? And is waiting for their to take responsibility taking responsibility for your own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Very interesting topic.
Pleasure- including sexual pleasure- is for YOU. Nobody else can feel your pleasure. And something wonderful about pleasure is that when you intentionally soak it up, your brain stored up those pleasure hormones to be released later during times of stress. Imagine the impact of that? The pleasure hormones take the edge off of stress on a daily basis. There are other benefits too. Imagine the possibilities!!!
In this episode I offer 4 tips that you can apply to your life during times of uncertainty to help you find some peace.
My beautiful guest on this episode today comes to us from Switzerland. She tells us the story of being in a toxic relationship and then deciding that she was worth more. She traveled the world and worked on her own self worth and value. She teaches everyone she can about believing in love again, starting with yourself. She says the key to getting anything you want is to know that you are worth it. This episode is for the single and the married and in a relationship of any kind. No matter where you are at in your life, this episode will show you where to begin if you feel like you could use some more love in your life. If you want to connect more with Fanny, find her at fannygippa.com and also find her on Facebook and Instagram @fannygippa_lovecoach
When you have the right mindset then your actions come so much more easily then if you’re trying to take action from the wrong mindset.
I love to help people move forward and accomplish anything!! Remember we are all learning and will be forever and ever AMEN!! In this episode I reveal the process by which you can accomplish anything you want.
Having choices and options and control is a good thing! All of our thoughts that our brain offers you is so nice of your brain. We don’t need to be mad. That would be like going to a food buffet and being mad at all the food options. How funny would that be?
“Let’s gets science-y, science-y” and dig a little deeper into how our thoughts create our feelings.
How important is your mindset when you are a business owner? Should you be working hard or having fun? How do I know what my customers want to buy? Why aren’t people buying from me? Why is it taking so long? What is a day in the life of a successful business owner? These and a few other questions are answered in this episode of Coaching With Jamee. Caryn is a successful coach for Entrepreneurs. She guides other entrepreneurs as they navigate the business world. Whether they’ve been at it for years or are just starting, Caryn has been there and done that and is here to help! She also shares how her personal life and business career are both strengthened as she is constantly improving in all areas. You can connect with her on all social platforms @caryngillen she is always providing service and working on something that can help you.
I love love love when a client says they are jealous of someone or something. What this means to me is we get to unpack the jealousy suitcase and find what they want for themselves. This isn’t meant in a competitive sense or to be prideful at all. Jealousy is a teacher that gives us insight into what we value and what we want to experience.
Brittany is the owner of a sleep consulting business called The Sleeper Teachers. I have many consultations with people and I’m actually surprised how often lack of sleep (and all that comes with that) comes up in my calls. We are all affected by sleep for good and bad and sleep affects our life in so many ways. Sleep is a basic human need, yet it’s not as easy as it seems like it should be for a lot of us. Brittany doesn’t hold back in sharing tips and tools on this episode and on her social media. Find her @TheSleeperTeachers Her website: Http://Sleeperteachers.com And here is a link to the UCLA body scan for sleep that Brittany refers to in the episode: https://www.uclahealth.org/marc/mpeg/Body-Scan-for-Sleep.mp3
We as humans do this all the time. We think what we are doing isn’t good enough; that there is always a better choice. We do this in our day to day lives and it can cause us to feel unfulfilled and unsatisfied with the way things are and who we are.
Love is a gift and an emotion in which we operate at our highest selves. I believe because God is love and we are created in his image then when we are operating through love then we are being our best selves.
Often we feel that uncomfortable feelings like stress, worry, frustration, anger are bad and that if our spouse is feeling them it is our job to make that feeling go away. This comes from the idea that you don’t like feeling uncomfortable and you are unaware that you are choosing the discomfort as is your spouse. They want to feel what they are feeling because of values they have. Allowing your spouse to feel what they are feeling is a form of love without feeling the need to control them. What do you think of that?
Most people think that they want more confidence and that it feels amazing. They think confident people just feel really good about life and themselves most of the time. I’m here to teach you the truth about confidence.
You get to be a fly on the wall and listen to Coral’s personal experience with forgiveness and how having the gift of forgiveness has enhanced the peace she feels in her life. You can connect more with Coral if you go to @servingceliacs on Instagram. She is such a huge resource for my gluten free friends who are living with celiac disease. You can also listen to her podcast called Gluten Free You and Me.
Other people create their emotions with their thoughts and if they are feeling negative it’s because they want to. We can allow others to feel however they want to feel. Sometimes we want other to change- but ultimately this is so we can feel better. But you don’t have to wait for them to change in order to feel better. You can feel however you want to feel whenever you want to.
Solving the problems that your brain tells you are small and stupid and silly actually helps you when the problems arise that your brain tells you are big problems. Cause they do come. Those big problems. And when they do, you’ve been proactive and taught your brain how to solve problems- which are all just thinking problems by the way.
I have had lots of people wondering lots of things about coaching and what signing up for coaching even looks like. So I recorded this podcast episode in order to answer those questions for everyone. Enjoy!!
Some things just aren’t a problem for me. Some things are. But when they are it’s because of the thoughts and stories I’m believing that make it a problem. It’s what I’m making things mean that cause it to be a problem in my life.
Do you want to reach every goal you have for yourself? Try in some of these thoughts to see if being an Emotional Adult sounds like something you want to do.
In this episode, Monica and I (Jamee) invite you to listen in to part of a conversation we have about marriage. Let us know of any insights you have and come connect with us on Instagram. To connect more with Monica Tanner head over to her podcast called, On The Brighter Side.
Thinking that when something is hard it must be bad or wrong- just creates more resistance and intensifies the struggle. Which is ok. But I really enjoy just dropping the thought that hard isnt bad. Who would you be without this thought that hard is bad?
Lenaya Andersen joins me today. Lenaya is an English professor, Author, Mother, and Wife. In no particular order. She shares with us several stories in which our perspective on life will shift and the way we think may be different.
You, your brain, your body, and God are all separate. But all of you are a team. You’re not against each other and your body, your brain, and God are all doing exactly what their supposed to do. Your Job is to see this as a superhero team and work together to achieve anything you desire.
The bad news is that there is no college for teaching grown ups how to be an adult- How to be in emotional adulthood. Bummer!! But I have good news too. The good news is that I can teach you. And we start with these podcast episodes .
This concept is a great way to shift your mindset and perspective on anything. Where are you suffering in your life? Where are you offended or sad? Its probably coming from the definition that you give to your circumstance. Its fun to feel empowered and to redefine every word or quality.
In this episode I will teach you how you can make some changes in your life rather quickly. You can change in a day! And each day you do this will add up to 365 changes in a year! You could be a completely different person one year from now.
In this episode I address the idea that we all choose to suffer. Sometimes we suffer because we want to, other times we suffer unnecessarily. Sometimes we don’t realize that we are choosing to suffer and we think the suffering is just happening to us. In what areas of your life do you choose to suffer because you want to and what areas do you not see that you are choosing to suffer?
Circumstances really are neutral you guys!!! We get to decide what we think about everything. There are very little facts to the circumstances of our lives and a lot I mean A LOT of thoughts and stories. Sometimes we confuse the thoughts for the circumstances but that is just not true. In this episode I tell you how you can see more clearly that the circumstances are neutral.
In this episode I teach you how to make decisions. I also teach you how to know if coaching is even right for you. We also talk about magic. All the things you guys. All the things. Be inspired!!!
In this episode I will show you how to get it all done and feel productive and accomplished every single day. No joke!!!
Ever feel run down and exhausted from serving in the church? Have you ever wondered what it would be like to not feel obligated to participate in all the meetings and opportunities available? I hear you!! I’m a lot like you and have had thoughts that make me feel resentful and jealous of those who seem to be living quiet peaceful sabbath days without me. Listen to this episode for an experience I had today that changed my mindset. Mindset is everything. The way we think about everything is what creates our relationship with it.
Everything thing we want in life is because of the FEELING that we think we will feel when we have that thing.
In this episode we dive a little deeper into entitlement and I provide an exercise for you to do if you so desire to be honest with yourself and see where you are holding yourself back from getting results in your life. Good luck!!!
I love bonuses. So here is a little nugget for you. Let’s talk about being grateful now. Not just after the fact, but actually now. Like when things feel kinda horrible.
In this episode I explain how entitlement might be sneaking into your life. I share a couple of daily examples of how choosing the opposite of entitlement can change your life for good!
Do you feel overwhelmed with your ever growing checklist of things you should be doing? Do you feel like the people around you should be doing things better so your life would be easier? I have a simple solution for you in this episode.
In this episode I show you how to break down your goals into real actionable steps that will lead you to any goal you desire to reach.
Do you have a goal or a problem that you are trying to solve for and you just feel like you’ve been exhausting yourself trying to solve it and feel like nothing is working? Well I have some awesome news for you!!! You probably are trying to solve for the wrong problem. This is good news!!!!!
Everyone has a different sexual desire. If you think there is something wrong with your sexual desire or your spouses sexual desire then listen up!! I’m here to tell you what the problem is and how to fix it!!!!
Jesus said that “as thou hast believed, so be it done unto thee.” Jesus knows that whatever result we want in our life comes back to what we believe. Wherever you are in your life all comes back to you. Your beliefs. You have the power to create whatever experience you desire. In fact, whatever experience you are currently having all comes back to your own beliefs.
Owning your decisions and just deciding that every choice you make is the right choice will save you time, energy, brain juice, and build confidence.
Thoughts are just stories l. They aren’t true facts. Can you sit with that for a while and just start recognizing that? And then can you tell yourself stories that help you instead of hurt you?
The point to all of this work isn’t necessarily to change all of our thoughts. The point is to recognize that we are not our thoughts and that thoughts are options.
When we decide that we want to feel better and we are practicing this work then we realize that we need to change our thoughts and beliefs in order to change our feelings. So here are a few tips that I use in my life in order to do that. It feels empowering.
Give it a try! Try separating yourself from your feelings. Cause you are not your feelings.
Sometimes we are mad and then we feel guilty about being mad. And that feels worse than just being mad. Do you want to feel better in your life? Then stop layering your emotions.
I do a little more coaching in the part two of my interview about being authentic with Hillary Hess. Find more about Hillary on her blog: helpingofhappiness.com
This is part one of my interview with Hillary Hess of helpingofhappiness.com I do a little coaching and we do some talking. Hillary is awesome and I’m glad she was vulnerable and authentic with us as she is navigating confidence and serving others!
It’s never about the money. It’s always about your belief in yourself. When we order something online we believe it will be delivered on our doorstep and we don’t doubt. But when we decide to invest in our own mental and emotional wellbeing we doubt if we will get the results or not. What if you decided to believe and decided to give it a try and create some evidence that you can get the results you desire?
People pleasing is lying. It’s deciding for other people how they will think and feel. It’s saying you want to do something even though you don’t want to. It creates resentment. It creates evidence that you don’t like something. It’s a lot of drama.
As you notice that sometimes you decide ahead of time what other are going to think and feel about something you can see that it’s possible those are your feelings and not theirs. Maybe?
Do you find yourself thinking and feeling for your spouse or others in your life and making decisions for them before they have a chance to make it for themselves? It’s an interesting concept that can change your life when you decide to stop doing this.
Here is something you can do to increase your connection with your spouse. It takes 5 minutes. About the same amount of time that it takes to listen to this episode. Just saying.
In this final part of my discussion Whitney shares her advice for divorced and single women in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and her thoughts on failing, fear and courage.
In this episode, Whitney breaks down the cost of her dresses and how it differs having a business in the USA as opposed to over seas. We also go into some thoughts and beliefs about money that we have. These thoughts make me feel happier and live a happier life.
I had the honor of interviewing Whitney Lundeen of the company Sonnet James. In the episode she tells her story of starting a business as a single mother of two young boys and not knowing anything about business.
This is a small analogy I like to use when I’ve noticed that I’ve let my brain take over my life and I’m listening to the ideas and stories that my brain is telling me instead of me actively choosing the story I want that will lead me to the experience that I want.
Can you talk to your brain more than you listen to your brain? The thoughts and ideas and stories that your brain tells you are not TruFax they are just thoughts and sometimes they are lies.
If you can’t control your value, then what is the point to this life? I want to offer you the idea that the point of this life is to experience what you choose to experience-for the fun of it and for the joy of it.
Try letting go of the idea that you can control your value and your worth with things you say and do and think and don’t say or do or think.
Humans are smart. And when we tell them that they can’t do things that people are actually doing in the world then it can be confusing. Especially for children. It helps to tell them that they can do those things and then teach them. It doesn’t ensure that they won’t do things that you don’t want them to do, but you will like who you are as a parent. The Family: A proclamation to the World- https://www.lds.org/manual/the-family-a-proclamation-to-the-world/the-family-a-proclamation-to-the-world?lang=eng
Is it possible that all the qualities that make up YOU are what make you the most lovable character in your story?
In this episode I share another activity you can do to help yourself see how many options you have, how empowered you are, and that busyness is only created in your mind.
What do we really HAVE to do? Maybe everything we do in life isn’t because we have to do anything but because we want to.... maybe.
We all pretty much realize that we choose to be offended and that others don’t have the power to make us feel anything. I dive a little deeper on this and a special guests joins me at the end.
One of my greatest assets I let become a weakness and a limiting belief in my life. What are your beliefs about yourself that are holding you back from being the best version of you?
Most of us think that relationships are based off of what others say and do. But the truth is that all relationships with others are in your own mind. This is great news, right?! It means you are in charge of how you feel about everyone.
So. Many. Emotions!!!! Did you know that? I’ll read some to you here. And then I remind you how feelings and emotions are created.
If you desire to feel more joy or happiness in your life then you need to start allowing uncomfortable feelings and processing them.
Our bodies are meant to process emotions. Most of us have not been taught this and how to process our emotions. In this episode I offer an example of how to process and why. And how to teach your kids!
There is opposition to everything in life including our FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS. In every thing turn.... turn.... turn... there is a season turn... turn ... turn.... THIS 50/50 rule sure does help me stay away from thinking that things have gone wrong. I’m just human!!!!!! And this is LIFE.
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In this episode I give 5 tips on dealing with PMS and all the stuff going on during “that time of the month”. Take what you like from these tips and let me know what works for you!
You are most likely, like 99%, not a victim every single day. Things happen in the world and it’s what you think about those things that are creating your feelings. You get to own all your feelings. What are you thinking that is causing you to feel that feeling?
This episode includes the simple way in which I have learned to access love so that I can be confident in all my decision making. Plus it just feels so amazing to feel love as often as I want to.
Whatever you are thinking about and looking for is what will become true for you. Your brain only wants to prove your thoughts right and doesn’t want to help you. Look for what you want your reality to be and that is what you’ll find. Practice this and you will see.
Being alive doesn’t mean trying to be happy all the time. It means feeling all the feelings. The more we allow ourselves to feel the uncomfortable feelings, the more our ability to feel the opposite and comfortable feelings expand. Uncomfortable feelings can be linked to a value or a belief that we have and we get to decide if we like that value or belief and then own our feelings. So empowering!
I interview my daughter and help her work through a problem she is having using The Model as a tool.
In this episode I introduce a tool to you called, The Model. I use this tool to help my clients (I am a Lifecoach) solve all of their problems.
Your brain has the most energy in the morning. Most of us let our brain go on autopilot in the mornings and just let it offer us all kinds of thoughts. Sometimes those thoughts create feelings we don’t like. We don’t have to be in autopilot if we don’t want to. But being aware of this is the first step.
These tools that I share are meant to enhance and augment your experience on this earth and be applied to your own mental and emotional health no matter where you are at on that journey. Some of us have been diagnosed with mental illness of some kind whether it be clinical depression, anxiety, bi-polar, or anything else and these tools are meant for you to add to whatever medical regiment you are choosing to follow. I am 100% in support of therapy and medication. I am 100% in support of humans doing what they need to do to prioritize their mental and emotional health.
Your actions create your results. Your results are your reality. Your reality doesn’t have anything to do with anyone else’s experience because everyone can only create their own reality with their thoughts and feelings and actions. Your brain proves all of your thoughts true. Whatever thoughts you choose to believe, will become your reality because your brain will find evidence for that thought. Your brains job is t to help you, but to prove thoughts true. Your job is to choose the thoughts that you want your Brian to find evidence for- that will become your reality.
The lasting way to make changes in your life is to change from the worlds view which is muster up a ton of self discipline and take some action, then get a result which will make you feel better. This view is not a lasting way to make any changes. We only have so much will power to continue on like this. In order to really take the actions we want to take in life we must first choose thoughts and beliefs that will create the feelings that will fuel the actions we want.
We are just beginning to discover what feelings and emotions are. An emotion or feeling is what is felt in the body after you think a thought and the brain releases chemicals and hormones into the body. Your body was made to be able to handle ANY feeling and emotion. Everything you desire in life is because of a feeling you think it will give you. The worst thing that will ever happen to you is a feeling that you will feel. We create feelings to fuel our actions or inactions.
Thoughts are created in your brain and then your brain creates chemicals that are sent into your body. Those chemicals in your body are called feelings and emotions. Circumstances such as the weather and things other people do or say do not have the power to give you feelings. You have all the power. You create your feelings with your thoughts. This is great news!!