Retrain your Brain for success: Recent Episodes
Dr Audrey Tang
If you want to make some positive changes, try the simple, practical and effective self - improvement tools in each 10 minute podcast with Chartered Psychologist Dr Audrey Tang.
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I'm transitioning my mental health tips and tools to Livestream, so Retrain Your Brain is no longer recording - but please head over to The Wellbeing Lounge my other podcast for interviews with experts in the field, or watch us on e360tv Fresh Takes in "Mental Health Matters" Thursdays 08:00PST (16:00GMT) from Feb 1st 2024
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This is the final podcast of this season and indeed this "run" of Retrain Your Brain. We're undergoing some changes, so please enjoy previous episodes in the interim.
...rather App-tly (see what I did) this episode looks at the value of wellbeing apps and how digital wellbeing can contribute to improving mental health.
wellbeingapps #digitalwellness #mentalhealthawareness #wellbeing
Financial Toxicity is when the cost of our treatment results in making us sicker.
This podcast explains the many ways "Financial Toxicity" manifests. It also looks at what is being done to tackle it, and outlines the many resources we might be able to use to help.
financialtoxicity #finacialstrife #helpwithdebt #illness #chronicillness
Retrain your Brain is undergoing some changes - in the interim, please enjoy previous episodes
Martin Seligman stated that "the skills of flourishing...go beyond those of minimising sadness" - we need to put different work in to thrive, compared with working to "feel better". This podcast gives you some ideas of simple ways you can make a start.
positivepsychology #martinseligman #thriving #flourishing #boosthappiness
Retrain your brain will be undergoing a change - in the interim, please enjoy previous episodes
We KNOW what we have to do - but somehow we fall off the waggon and stay off...and yet we seem to be so driven to do all the other things that, in perspective, matter less to us. Could it be we just don't care enough?
This podcast looks at some simple exercises we can do to improve our self care.
selfcare #change #healthyhabits #motivation
Retrain your brain will be undergoing some changes - in the break, please enjoy previous episodes.
What is quiet quitting? Why does it happen and what can we do about it - especially if we are feeling the urge to do so ourselves.
quietqutting #workplacehealth #workplacewellbeing
While I've spoken about managing grief in the past, this podcast gives you ways of dealing with it in the return to work:
- what conversations may you need to have
- remembering it's ok to talk...or not to
- the importance of practical support.
For more information: https://www.cruse.org.uk/organisations/grief-in-the-workplace/when-your-employee-is-bereaved/
griefatwork #movingthroughgrief #supportingsomeonegrieving
This podcast reflects on how sometimes we do need to break free from old ties in order to move forwards - as emotionally difficult as that may be. I also give a few practical ways to start the healing process.
movingon #healingafterbreakup #relationshipgoals #healthyrelationships
I've often said that being a "high achiever" isn't a compliment, because it often means you seek certificate after certificate - almost to find a sense of relief of attaining something, but no real fundamental joy, nor sometimes appreciation of nor learning from the process. I reflect on my process from not being a great swimmer to...NOT doing the Dart 10k in 2022
dart10 #swimming #highachiever #wellbeing
As adults we don't often get the same sort of praise and certification that we used to get as children, in a structured, schoolroom setting. Instead WE need to work out for ourselves what matters -and these changes, these developments, these learnings often need to be done explicitly - we don't just suddenly "Mature into realising it!" This podcast helps you identify and celebrate your achievements - in the world you live in now!
YOU are an amazing being! If you reflect on your own life, you will see that you have overcome so much - and although your story may be so unique that your journey isn't a mainstream film yet - you are still your own hero, and what you've been through matters. This episode reminds you that YOU need to start to accept that what you have overcome was tough - otherwise no amount of validation from others will make a difference. It also asks you to stop saying the phrase "you just do it don't you"...NO - maybe YOU just do it, but it isn't an easy task, and just because you tolerated so much adversity doesn't make it ok to have happened to you!
tolerance #adversity #resilience #validation #selflove #selfdevelopment
While there are many toxic behaviours in the workplace, not all of them are gaslighting. This episode explains what gaslighting is, and how it can manifest, but the difference between that and other toxicity is intent.
Saying that, whether intentional or not, toxic behaviour needs to be dealt with, and this podcast also gives you practical ways you can address it.
gaslighting #gaslightingatwork #toxicworkplaces #dealwithtoxicityatwork #healthyrelationships
When you've been given everything except what you really crave - emotional love and understanding - it can leave you in a bit of a dilemma. You don't feel authentic, because you may have been brought up to only reflect the wishes of the parent; or you may not feel quite complete because you've never really been tested - your parents have been so protective you've not learned to solve your own problems. This podcast looks at how that can feel and what we can do about it.
emotionalneglect #personaldevelopment #authenticity #parentsgaveeverything
It's not just about leadership skills including emotional intelligence (EQ - Emotional Quotient), but leaders are often in the place to support their teams who themselves don't always have a great amount of emotional intelligence! Leaders really need great EQ, because it's not always easy for everyone to develop it, and with a leader who has it, we've got another chance to learn. This podcast also gives tips on improving our own EQ.
emotionalintelligence #emotionallyintelligentleaders #eq #improveeq
I was recently asked to explore why people may feel so judged over their parenting and what they can do about it. In this podcast I look at just that, but the exercises and tips can also be used for anyone feeling judged or insecure about anything - for example, the job you're doing, the success rate you have and so on.
judgment #parenting #personaldevelopment #selfcompassion #selfesteem #comparisson
In preparation for May 4th, here are some leadership lessons from The Rise of Darth Vadar - which might be particularly important for today's corporate empires. Warning: contains spoilers!
starwarsday #mayfourth #leadershiplessons
A bit of a follow-on from last episode. Here I look at the reasons for people pleasing, as well as offer 4 practical tips that I have used - which have worked for me - to get better at setting boundaries and protecting my time and energy. Giving, kindness, compassion, "pleasing" in fact can be very positive - but it is a gift that must be offered discerningly if it is not to drain you.
peoplepleasing #selflove
personaldevelopment #sayingno #settingboundaries
If you are giving and giving and finding that you aren't getting something in return, you may need to explore:
- Why you placed a condition on the gift
- AND if the other person was even clear there WAS a condition!
This podcast touches on the "corrective experience" which is the attempt to make up for feelings of loss in the past through actions in the present - with different people, which may not go as we intended.
gifting #expectation #correctiveexperience
While I'm not a fitness practitioner, I do understand the benefits that exercise can have on the brain and body - and I thought I would go through some of the "happy hormones" that are stimulated when we engage in this form of self care.
exercise #benefitsofexercise #strengthtraining #happyhormones
We often need to go BELOW the emotional "top line" eg "I'm sad" "I'm angry" to learn what we're really feeling and to make sure our responses are helpful to us. for example, if you say "I'm tired" but the truth is you're "tired of feeling second best" or "tired of people dumping on you"...then "getting more sleep is NOT going to help. This podcast explores what lies beneath and how we can access it.
emotionalintellience #understandingemotions #emotionalmanagement #emotions
"Social Wellbeing" - giving back to your community or volunteering or fundraising has a number of personal benefits as well as helping those you are getting involved to support. Reflect on a few of them in this podcast and see if they inspire you to inspire others to get involved.
socialwellbeing #benefitsofvolunteering #charitywork #fundraising
Learn about why we instinctively react or Knee jerk to strong emotional feelings, and what we can do to create some headspace to think more wisely, and act more effectively.
respondnotreact #personaldevelopment #emotionalmanagement
There are a lot of benefits of warm weather, but actually there are a number of problems associated with it to. Learn about both, and what you can do to minimise the negative impact of heat in this short podcast.
hotweather #heatrage #benefitsofsummer
We know that happiness is a STATE not a goal, but it's not easy to "choose to be happy" - so why not choose any number of these other positive emotions instead, and they may LEAD to the state of happiness.
positivepsychology #howtobehappier #personaldevelopment #positiveaffect #lifesatisfaction #valuesinaction
It's actually quite easy to "act nice" - that is "act nice", and it gets you quite far. But when you no longer get your way, the "nice" fascade can crumble leaving people thinking "WTF!?" In this podcast I explore the reasons why people learn to "be nice" - but also what we can do if we're on the receiving end of thinking someone was nice and finding out it may have been a very good act.
actnice #gaslighting #nacissism #relationships #authenticity
Sometimes, if we have grown up being a "fixer" for whatever reason, that becomes a strategy for getting praised, avoiding trouble and getting on with others - and it works, people like someone who can solve their problems, but do it too much (for other adults) and they come to rely on you, they may take advantage of you, and they also never learn to empower themselves. This podcast explores why it happens and what we can do about it.
fixer #peoplepleaser #problemsolver
I cannot guarantee these will work, and neither am I offering legal advice, but in this episode I break down my approach to making a complaint which has enabled me to achieve mainly satisfactory resolutions/refunds/compensation - without the need to resort to the courts or other formal action.
howtocomplain #makingacomplaint #takingaction
Feeling unseen? If we have grown up learning to supress our needs, we can become very good at seeing them in others, BUT ALSO less good at asking for what we need ourselves. This leaves us thinking - I'm so good to everyone, why don't they see me? Sadly, what you may need to do is learn to voice what you need, or at least don't make it seem so easy if you're doing something "nice" that really does put you out! AND spend time with those who really do appreciate you, and try and hear them fully. Explanations and tips in this episode!
getneedsmet #feelunseen
If you are giving and giving and giving because you believe it's the right thing, but you're exhausted and you're getting little in return, perhaps it's time to change the value a little to something a bit more discerning. This podcast explains why we do that, and how we can start to make healthy tweaks.
values #acceptancandcommitmenttherapy #selfworth
Using a reflection on my near acceptance of a potentially dangerous situation...because I really wanted it to work out as an example, I look at why we ignore red flags. If we are choosing to do this, we need to ask ourselves - how much of the potential consequences are we truly willing to get used to?
redflags #usedcar #selfawareness
Being a high/over achiever is not necessarily a compliment, especially if that is your only focus. While learning is wonderful, and it's important to grow, this podcast gives you ways in which you can press pause and reflect on how far you've come, which gives you a much more solid foundation to build further (as opposed to doing so - in case someone tells you you're not enough!!)
highachiever #overachiever #acceptanceandcommitment #presspause
While convenience is all well and good for the things that you are indifferent to, don't let it rob you of pleasure. Yes, the time and effort it takes to see the people you love or to do the things that make you feel fantastic may not always seem worth it, but they are going to be far more meaningful than a lifetime of "meh"
convenience #maketheeffort #selfvalue #worthit
Are you a bit of a "drama queen" - do you always seem to be solving everyone's problems...and is there a bit of a love/hate feeling about that? This podcast explains why we might feel that way and what we can do about it.
thefixer #whiteknightsyndrome #chaoticenvironment #reinforcement
If we don't role model wellbeing or expressing emotions in a healthy way - how can we expect our children to? This podcase episode offers simple tips and tools to support children in expressing emotions as well as healthy self-soothing to build empowerment and self-efficacy.
wellbeing #children #selfefficacy #empowerment #selfsoothing
This episode is about recognising that if we can draw from our own strengths we can BOOST what additional help we may have. Too often our pasts may have shaped us into something we believe is who we are...but that may not be true. Identify what YOUR authentic needs are with the prompts in this podcast, and start to reshape your life - YOUR way.
empowerment #selfhelp #changeandgrowth
While we know "the best things come to those who wait" - the world seems set up to make us want things now now NOW. Understand why, and use these tips to take a moment to press pause before jumping in too fast to something which might have been all the sweeter if you'd just waited a little while.
impusivity #benefitsofwaiting #presspause #ideallife
In part a reflection on one of the charity events I did - a karting race - with The Lewis Foundation, but very much a recognition of the true value of a gift. Often given short shrift as "materialistic" - gifts can actually be so much more. They are a real expression of love wrapped up in a package, and that is the most meaningful thing of all. I look at how gifting can also include time, knowledge and creativity - and along with a physical gift offer the message - I care.
For more on The Lewis Foundation
www.thelewisfoundation.co.uk
Are you a morning person? How do you feel about a date before work!? In this episode I reflect on the pros and cons of this new trend as well as offer some tips on making it as safe and conducive to relationships long term as possible!
Sometimes it's not about the ability to spin straw out of gold, with a better spinning wheel your output might be even greater. While we commonly say " a bad worker blames their tools" - sometimes it really is that the tool needs to be improved/ How can a business hope to go online if the WiFi cannot sustain that, or how can someone be expected to work from home if they aren't given permissions, or their equipment is too slow. We need to place the responsibility discerningly, and the solutions will be more effective!
I reflect on both my interview with the Hope Centre CEP, Robin Burgess and my own experience of sleeping "rough" in "The Big Sleep Out" to really shed some light on the "business of being homeless". It isn't necessarily mental ill health or drink and drugs that CAUSE homelessness, but it can be a by product of the hugely traumatic experience.
The content of this episode was created as part of a collaboration with VANQUIS BANK on financial compatibility. This looks at how behaviours around money can cause problems in relationships - not just because of the real consequences, but also because they can reveal attitudes and values when it comes to everyday actions. It includes red flags to be aware of and things to be mindful of if a partner is in debt.
Useful link: https://www.stepchange.org/
dealingwithdebt #financialcompatibility #talkingaboutmoney #moneyandrelationships #partnerindebt
We may watch scam programmes to gain insight into behaviours and think "it'll never happen to me" - but the reality is, in the context of life, we may not be thinking clearly...or worse our emotional draw is so strong that our logical mind looks for things to SUPPORT our view rather than question it. Here are some of the scams to be aware of and some little prompts to help you be mindful when something seems too good to be true.
scams #conartists #staysafeonline #romancescams
When we jump to conclusions we are only ever working on our own perceptions of life. If we take the time to ask why, not only will we learn more about the person, but we may also learn more about the world in general. Asking not only boosts our interactions, but it also boosts our cognitive empathy as we learn about the perspectives of others which we may never have experienced ourselves.
empathy #askdontassume #beingjudgmental #beingopinionated
This is a lovely little podcast which looks at 3 ways you can spread positivity with those you love - sharing good news, sharing gratitude and sharing time. Each of the elements comes with a challenge that you can put into practice right now!
sharepositivity #informalwellbeing #gratitude #positivepsychology
Talking is a performance skill, it gets easier with practice. So despite being told "it's good to talk" in this podcast I look at why it's so difficult, and how we can not only become better at expressing what we need to, but also how we can become better listeners for others trying to find their voice!
goodtotalk #speakup #communicationskills #listeningskills
It's Dr Audrey Tang back again with her practical ways we can boost our sense of wellbeing every day. It doesn't need to be a formal therapy session, there are loads of little things we can do regularly that can build our positivity. This podcast gives you simply tips for joy which come from positive psychology which studies the science of happiness.
positivepsychology #everydaywellbeing
informalwellbeing #practicaltips #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth
Founder of Welltory, the app which can advise on your wellbeing through your phone camera talks about the importance of knowing some of our health stats for overall wellness, not just improving our fitness.
wellbeingapps #wellness #welltory #fitnessapps
Rob Hobson gives us his tips for choosing supplements, and discusses the benefits they can have on our physical goals.
fitness #supplements #healthspan
Eve Palinski of University Liggett School, Michigan discusses why it’s so important to balance support and empowerment as young people grow up – she also talks about “snow plough” parenting which can do more harm than good long term.
education #wellbeing #supportforyoungpeople
Alessandra Bester founder of social enterprise Nono Cocoa talks about her work in giving those sometimes marginalised visibility and employment – and we hear from Gemma and Gaby – two of her team who have a diagnosis of autism.
autism #diversity #inclusion #employment
Dr Carrie Ruxton talks about the many health benefits of tea across the lifespan.
tea #perfectcuppa #wellbeingforchildren #childrenshealth
Nicole Etienne, Author and Coach talks about how her book “Oliver’s Travels” is helping children talk about their diagnosis.
autism #diagnosis #childmentalhealth
Dr Sharon Hall of the UK Tea and Infusions Association discusses the importance of global connection AND connecting with ourselves – through tea!
tea #cuppa #wellbeing #perfectbrew
Ben Francoise of Saints Coffee Social Enterprise shares his love of artisan Coffee, but also how it is helping rehabilitation and mental health.
community #socialenterprise #wellbeing
Bernadette Barnes of Homestart talks about what the charity offers and how to support the healthy emotional, physical and mental development of young people
childrenandfamilies #headstart #homestart
Originally aired on International Women’s Day – Diane Danzebrink of Menopause Support discusses periods, perimenopause, and period poverty…there WILL be blood.
periods #periodpoverty #menopause #endometriosis
It’s all about getting involved in your local community this week. Louise Bates of the Alzheimer’s Society explains the benefits of volunteering
charity #volunteering #alzheimers
Peter Shorrick of Diabetes UK talks about their fundraising work, research, and what we can do to beat this relentless, silent disease.
diabetes #diabetesawareness #fundraising #charity
Lorraine Lewis from the award-winning charity, The Lewis Foundation (celebrating its 6th birthday this month) – a grassroots charity gifting care packages to cancer patients talks about how she started her charity, its growth and recognition, and her plans to continue to spread the hugely appreciated love.
Useful links
The Lewis Foundation
charity #fundraising #cancer #carepackages #gifting
Suzie Sawyer nutritionist for Alive Vitamins teaches us about the gut-brain relationship and how to choose the best supplements for you.
gutbrain #supplements #nutrition
A recent piece of research by Petit Filou noted that while parents want to support their children's bone health and nutritional needs, they don't necessarily know where to start...Dr Carrie Ruxton advises us on bone health for children.
bonedensity #nutrition #childrenshealth
Alessandra Bester of Nono Cocoa talks about how she founded her fabulous social enterprise inspired by her son who has autism, and how she is giving opportunities to those with a diagnosis of autism to work in a supportive and therapeautic environment.
Useful linksFunctional Food Co - Nono Cocoa, Vegan, Allergy friendly chocolates... (nono-cocoa.com)
socialenterprise #autism #diversityatwork #equalopportunities
With so many people starting a business, or scaling up a micro-business, Alexej Pikovsky of Alphagreen IO gives his tips for entrepreneurs.
business #scalingup #entrepreneurship
Dr Sharron Hinchliff, specialist researcher in the sexual rights of older adults leads an enlightening discussion on the issues we may face when it comes to our sex life as we age.
sex #relationships #sexualrights #sexaswegetolder #sexrightsmatters
Cyber Security Specialist Danny Eastman gives his top tips for staying safe online, and talk about the behaviours we need to be watchful for when it comes to staying safe online.
cybercrime #cybersecurity #staysafeonline #cons #scams #phishing
...and what we can do about it!
My special guest is Dr Helen McCarthy – The Appetite Doctor, and author of best seller – Retrain Your Appetite to discuss intuitive eating and why we need to make friends with hunger.
Useful Links
The Appetite Doctor ® | Lose weight for good, eating all your favourite foods
diets #nutrition #intuitiveeating #weightloss
Fern Overton, founder of Affinity Day Care for seniors talks about why we need to care for our older population – remembering they are as unique and wonderful with so much more to give – as ourselves!!
Useful links
Home | Mysite (affinitydaycare.co.uk)
‘Older people won’t be forgotten’ - Affinity Day Care C.I.C. vow, as demand soars in just 6 weeks - Northants Life | News | Events | Advertise | Northampton Magazine
seniorcare #gettingolder #daycareforadults #alzheimers
Britain's best known and best qualified beauty expert Gina Akers of Hada Labo gives us tips to look after our Skin - especially as we get older.
skincare #menopause #healthandbeauty
First aired on NLive Radio's The Wellbeing Lounge, Pete Spink of The Space and Talk MH Training revealed how men can sometimes face difficulties they were not prepared nor supported for when a partner unexpectedly becomes ill...and what he's doing to reach out and help.
mensmentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #wellbeingexpert #resilienceexpert #speakingup
We may be starting to explore longer holidays again, but research suggests that a micro-break can be just as refreshing, and possibly even kinder on your wallet...plus you might benefit from being able to spend time with friends as well as pets. This podcast looks at the advantages of building a micro-break into your life.
positivepsychology #wellbeingexert #resilienceexpert #microbreak
First Aired as part of our Wellbeing at Christmas Season on NLive Radio, I spoke with Gill Taha of Northamptonshire Mind on the ways in which we can look after our wellbeing, especially in chaotic times, as well as how we can let others know when we are struggling.
positivepsychology #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #wellbeing #radioshow #radiohost #radiopresenter
Compassion fatigue is something which affects care professions in particular - you can reach a point where you "just can't care anymore". This is often because you've been giving and giving and giving with little return or time for yourself, and you have nothing left. Unfortunately it is something that can affect all of us when we have been in "survival mode" for a long time (especially in 2 years of a global pandemic). This podcast will give you ways you can introduce more self compassion, empowerment, and a reminder that kindness isn't always about giving, sometimes it's knowing when to stand down.
positivepsychology #selfcompassion #kindness #compassionfatigue
First aired on NLive Radio's "The Wellbeing Lounge", Diane Danzebrink of menopausesupport.co.uk – Supporting You Through Change talks about how menopause is more than a hot flush. Our mental health can be affected, which in turn can lead to misdiagnosis - and given that menopause affects half the population - and in many ways also the other half who are sometimes at a loss to know how to support partners, colleagues or friends - normalising conversation around it is just the start.
Diane is also my special guest on this week's Wellbeing Lounge for International Women's Day where we discuss periods and period poverty: The Wellbeing Lounge - NLive Radio (8/3/22 show)
menopause #menopausesupport #periods #menopauseandmentalhealth #womenshealth
Martin Seligman said while friendship doesn't guarantee happiness, happiness is not often found without it. We meet people all time time, but how many of them remain constant...and then for how long? Friendships of the "just passing through" nature can be as wonderful as the longer-term "Put the world to rights at 3am" type... and opportunities for both can occur every day - but are we forgetting how to get started?
positivepsychology #makingfriends #adultfriendships #conversationstarters #howtotalktopeople
First aired on NLive Radio in The Wellbeing Lounge (Tuesdays 9pm), I chat with stand-up comedian Gary Manhine about how he includes mental health within his work, as well as exploring the depth of trauma, and the power of hope.
positivepsychology #standup #mentalhealth #trauma
For a long time financial wellbeing has been the poor relation (pun very much intended) of other forms of wellbeing. This podcast reflects on how our mental health can be related to our money behaviours.
For more - my work with Vanquis: 5 key money questions to ask a new partner | NewsChain (newschainonline.com)
and my article on financial compatibility: Financial compatibility is as important as other types of compatibility for happy relationships (draudreyt.com)
positivepsychology #wellbeing #financialhealth #finances #financialcompatibility #moneyandmentalhealth
A damning Channel 4 report said - if you don't suffer from mental health issues, try being homeless. Contrary to mental ill health being the CAUSE of homelessness, the deterioration of our mental and emotional strength can easily happen THROUGH it...add to that the internalisation of others' judgments and all too easily you can begin to feel this is all you amount to.
First aired on NLive Radio, Robin Burgess, CEO of Hope Enterprises, speaks to me about the issues surrounding homelessness and the little things we can do to offer compassion, empowerment and hope to those who do not have a constant home.
positivepsychology #fundraising #charity #homelessness
This is less an episode about how diabetes affects my family, and more about how when there is a diagnosis, it has an impact on EVERYONE'S life. Don't be afraid to reach out yourself, to seek respite, to join groups of people who are going through something similar with loved ones... And ask questions, learn, even raise awareness, in your 'new normal'
positivepsychology #wellbeingexpert #selfimprovementtools #trainer #resilienceexpert #diabetes
I'm training for #swim22 (22 miles over 3 months). for DiabetesUK
To donate 🙏💙 https://swim22.diabetes.org.uk/fundraising/audrey-tang2022#share-page
First aired on NLive Radio in The Wellbeing Lounge (Tuesdays 9pm), I talk to Louise Bates from Dementia Friends about what we can do to better understand Alzheimers, support loved ones diagnosed with the disease, as well as make our organisations more dementia friendly.
alzheimers #dementia #helpingothers
Uncertainty has taken its toll on us mentally, but worse we haven't been able to predictably book or look forward to anything to relieve that pressure either.
This podcast gives you tips to be kinder to yourself as well as ways of grounding ourselves personally to keep flexing with the storm.
positivepsychology #uncertainty #burnout
First aired on NLive Radio, Natriece Westwood of Northamptonshire Domestic Abuse Service and Derya Yildirim a domestic violence worker spoke about what domestic violence is as well as how to get help. This podcast contains discussion that listeners may find triggering, and the following are helpful support links:
What is domestic abuse? - Womens Aid
Male Victims of Domestic Abuse – Please call 01823 334244 to speak to us confidentially - (mankind.org.uk)
ndas.co - Northamptonshire Domestic Abuse Service
domesticabuse #podcast #seekhelp #personalpower
I'm all for a helping hand, even if it's the placebo effect but while external tools can help, the internal work must still be done.
This episode takes a look at anxiety rings as well as offering ways to get that internal change started.
positivepsychology #wellbeingexpert #resilienceexpert #trainer #teachingpoints #selfimprovementtools #selfdevelopment #stressmanagement #goalsetting
First broadcast on NLiveRadio on my show The Wellbeing Lounge (Tuesdays 9pm), I'm delighted to bring you the inspirational guests I've been learning from. And it's a real treat this Lunar New Year!!
Veteran broadcaster, Terry Tan is no stranger to the media having edited Singapore's food and wine guide, worked as a media guest expert, written over 30 books, one recently awarded 'Best Chinese Cookbook', and of course heading the Rasa Sayang chain of restaurants in the UK before retirement and he talks to me all about his career as well as what all of us need in our kitchen.
positivepsychology #wellbeing #wellbeingexpert #resilienceexpert #trainer #podcast #radioshow #radiohost
With the Lunar New Year upon us, it's often another opportunity to resolve grievance and move forward positivly.
On this episode I discuss ways we can forgive, not necessarily 'forget' - because we can't 'undo' the past...but we can minimise its impact on us.
positivepsychology #wellbeing #wellbeingexpert #resilienceexpert #trainer #teachingpoints #selfimprovementtools #selfdevelopment #stressmanagement #forgiveness
Continuing with our showcase of NLive Radio www.nliveradio.com Wellbeing Lounge guest experts, is Fiongal Greenlaw of The Wellness Foundry.
Not only will he bust those unhelpful myths surrounding tarot and spiritual practice, but he also offers great tools to get on touch with our intuition.
www.thewellness foundry.co.uk
I am grateful to remain healthy and to have loved ones also healthy over these two years, despite a couple of 'moments', but I do notice that even with my mental fitness - I'm very fed up of 'same old' that we've been through over the last 2 years.
If you are too, here are some tips to boost your mood.
positivepsychology #wellbeing #wellbeingexpert #resilienceexpert #trainer #teachingpoints #mentalhealthmatters #stress #wellbeingtips #selfimprovementtools #selfdevelopment #stressmanagement
This season I'm also showcasing my guest expert interviews with wellbeing professionals who joined my Radio Show 'The Wellbeing Lounge' on NLiveRadio www.nliveradio.com Tuesdays 9pm.
First up is Juan Du whose Chinese Calligraphy Enhanced Therapy helps bridge the gap between therapy provision and uptake for the E and SE Asian community. Talking therapy is not always the easiest step for everyone, even though that's our 'norm'.
For more about Juan
www.juandutherapy.co.uk
positivepsychology #wellbeing #wellbeingexpert #resilienceexpert #wellbeingtips #podcast #podcasthost
Empathy helps us build stronger relationships, it's helps us show compassion and it can also help to evoke change when it comes to unfairness and discrimination.
This episode gives you 6 ways to improve your ability to empathise cognitively and emotionally.
positivepsychology #wellbeing #wellbeingexpert #resilienceexpert #wellbeingtips #selfimprovementtools #selfdevelopment #empathy
The last episode of this season looks at motivation and how we can stay focused on achieving our goals. It's not always about a strict rule - based approach (unless it works for you...but I know especially last year - rules tend to make me want to cheat/bend/circumvent - and unfortunately when it's health, we'll be found out in the end!)
So try these tips and tricks...I'm currently finding they're working for me!!
positivepsychology #wellbeing #wellbeingexpert #resilienceexpert #trainer #selfcoaching #selfdevelopment #goalsetting
We've had a lot of 'alone time' and many of us have found we rather enjoy it. This podcast looks at making the most of that little pleasure.
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Dopamine is our 'reward' chemical. Instinctively our brain is programmed to survive, and many many years ago survival was much harder. Now we need to think long term and seek fulfilment at part of that, and so sometimes, we need to reprogram what we recognise as positive.
This episode explains the effects of dopamine.
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Adrenaline, because of its link to 'fight/flight' often gets bad press, but a little can do you good. For me, when it comes to self care I prefer to re-energise rather than relax - I dance, I perform, I see friends and do 'escape rooms' - these are very much about excitation over relaxation...so this episode gives some ideas to engage with the dynamic aspects of self care.
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It's known as 'cuffing season' - when we're forming relationships pretty quickly for reasons perhaps less related to attraction...but does 'Love at first sight' exist?
Many would say it does, of those, I hope they are still together(!), but there are definitely a number of physiological changes which can set our heart a-flutter initially, although whether they deepen into love is another matter.
Sometimes you don't need talking therapy, just some practical tools to get yourself back on track, and these can be used alongside professional intervention too to build emotional and mental fitness.
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Unfortunately, when I reflect on panic buying, the solution to the anxiety caused by not having the item - is to buy it... Of course in the case of creating a shortage this isn't helpful.
Before we all worry about turkeys and Walkers crisps, this episode reflects on the petrol shortage and the reasons why we panic buy, and what to try instead.
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Want some simple exercises you can do in under 2 mins to destress at your desk, this episode brings you my top 10.
For more practical tools, check out my YouTube channel https://youtube.com/channel/UCnn8-Waxrg6TmuNPHL1NQmg
Being well is for everyone
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I used to be concerned about 'alternative' therapies, but when it comes to psychotherapy (not necessarily medical) - I believe they are an option. Talking therapy isn't for everyone, it is not always accessible neither is it always effective, and for many with whom I've spoken, talking comes later. In this episode I look at the alternatives, or approaches that can be used in compliment to psychological intervention.
Note: I am not promoting one over another, but keeping an open - although critically aware - mind.
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The final episode of this season is about managing toxic friendships - how we can protect ourselves, as well as learn not to behave in ways that make others feel we are the problem.
Toxicity is not always malicious, so keeping relationships healthy can be about keeping communications open and behaviour choices flexible, while not being swayed from our core values.
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Often friendships, unless deliberately solicited to be so, do not start off as toxic, but they can become so. Sometimes it might be because behaviours have been allowed to happen without question, and it might be that voicing your thoughts may help realign. Sometimes as you get to know someone you traits you don't like, or perhaps circumstances changed and one or both of you are struggling to find a me balance. Healthy friendships take effort from both sides.
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The last 3 episodes of this season will be focused on toxicity in relationships:
- how to spot the signs
- why it happens
- what you can do about it (and how to avoid those behaviours yourself)
Friendships are wonderful but they take work from both parties, you are both making a regular choice to be there. That's why it can be so hard when they don't work out.
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A few breathing exercises at the point of crisis are unlikely to help you, the secret is to build mental and emotional strength BEFORE it, so you can
- buffer the roller coaster of 21century living
- revert to a state of calm after the adrenaline has pumped
- maintain your ability to progress effectively and thrive rather than simply survive
This podcast gives you informal, easy ways to exercise your mental and emotional fortitude regularly.
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Sometimes we need to live in the space between the buildings - that's where nature (and ourselves) get a moment to breathe.
This episode explores the many benefits of nature and how to incorporate them easily into your life.
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This episode looks at this evocative phrase 'skin hunger' - and the power of touch for wellbeing. Plus there are tips to engage your tactile sense...without having to ask for a hug!
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We know we need to show ourselves more compassion but don't always know where to start.
This episode reflects on the askewed thinking and critical voices we may have acquired and their effect on our behaviour BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY offers a simple way to show yourself or others compassion by asking one simple question and acting on the answer.
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Imposter syndrome is when you feel that, despite achievements, you're not good enough...and are going to be 'found out' at any moment. With only a finite amount of headspace and energy, that's a whole lot of anxiety we can do without. This podcast looks at how Imposter Syndrome (originally defined Imposter Phenomenon IP) might have come about as well as what we can do to address it.
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Back with another season. 10 minutes on my couch to reflect and reframe.
Wellbeing:check
Until workplace wellbeing focuses on addressing its practices as a culture, the psychologist offering stress-busting self efficacy can only go so far.
For some solutions, my article https://www.draudreyt.com/post/wellbeing-check-why-workplace-wellbeing-sessions-don-t-work
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Closing my guest season is the wonderful Dr Carrie Ruxton, dietician, award-winning writer and expert in the field of nutrition to give us simple tips to look after bone health in children - because if we're not doing it by the age of 20, the rest of us are playing "catch up"!
About Dr Carrie
Dr Carrie Ruxton is an independent dietitian with more than 30 years’ experience in nutrition and health. Since 2003, she has worked on a freelance basis across media, trade bodies and the NHS she publishes widely in scientific journals, textbooks and magazines, winning three awards for her writing. From 2007-2015, she served on the Scottish Food Advisory Committee. Carrie is also a regular contributor to national newspapers, magazines, radio and TV, most recently Food Unwrapped, Rip Off Britain and Food Detectives.
Nutrition Communications - Carrie Ruxton (nutrition-communications.co.uk)
Joining me this episode is Yoga Teacher and Health & Wellness coach Jamie Ray. We talk about the power of yoga for rehabilitation of the mind and body as well as its inclusion of all abilities and disabilities. Jamie also gives us an insight into overcoming his own health challenges and empowers us to meet our lifestyle goals head on.
About Jamie
Jamie’s passion is to help people live an entirely happy and energized life by looking at their health as a whole. He is especially devoted to supporting people with long-term illness notably HIV, cancer, and autoimmune diseases, because of his own experience with HIV & cancer. Jamie is able to truly understand and empathize with the difficulties and pressure that any ongoing health concerns can have on both the body, mind, and spirit.
His mantra is: with balance comes harmony and with harmony comes happiness.
CONTACT:
Wellness coaching London, – yoga, health coaching and yoga for cancer. (jamieraywellness.com)
"So do you have to stay one step ahead of the criminals?"
"It's about 10 steps..."
We are ALL too aware of financial crime - scams, money laundering, fraud... In this episode I take a peak backstage to learn from the people who work to keep our money safe.
About Jakub
Jakub is a financial crime analyst working with and creating the technology to look after our hard earned cash.
LinkedIn: Jakub Radomski https://www.linkedin.com/in/jsradomski
In this episode, Dennis Relojo-Howell and I discuss resilience, the transformational power of blogging, and the importance of remaining grounded through change.
Dennis is known as the world’s first blog psychologist and his site Psych Reg has won awards for its contribution to the field of mental health. While also a researcher and international speaker himself in the area of resilience, and the power of writing as a means of promoting mental wellness, he hosts his own interview show where he speaks with fascinating names in the field of psychology.
FOR MORE INFORMATION: Dennis Relojo-Howell | Founder of Psychreg www.dennis.psychreg.org
In this episode, with special guest John Goldwyn, SnrVP & Director of Planning & Landscape at WATG, I learn about how we can create an environment where every organism can thrive. From "Smart cities" to designing for wellness, and the things we can do to make our personal environment that little bit better - get ready to be inspired.
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John is the Senior Vice President and director of Master Planning & Landscape at WATG London. WATG are the architectural minds behind Dubai’s Atlantis, The Venetian in Las Vegas, and London’s Claridges, and their focus is not just on designing the outer beauty admired by the world, but ensuring it is a reflection of the inner strength and stories of the land and the communities engaging with it. John’s design style responds first to the place and the site – looking for the stories in the land. He is committed to finding sustainable solutions for clients that balance economic, social and environmental factors.
FOR MORE INFORMATION: london@watg.com
In this episode nutritionist Severine Menem not only gives tips as to how we can live our best life from the inside out, but also special support for menopause - a subject often overlooked. (Before you think "This isn't for me" - this is such an under-discussed topic, it can help for us all to learn ways we can support our mums, sisters, friends or partners...especially as menopause can happen earlier than the age of 50.)
About Severine
Severine Menem is a nutritionist and menopause & well-being consultant who specialises in helping organisations support and retain their top female talents during menopause. With over 10 years experience in the field of Financial Services, she understands the high-stress and high-stakes of that industry. Severine now uses a combination of workshops and 121 coaching to help women over 40 within organisations continue to thrive during their menopause years and increase their performance and productivity.
Get in touch:
www.severinemenem.com
We all know that clarity in our environment tends to lead to clarity in our thinking and in our life - but sometimes we can feel so overwhelmed by so much going on around us we don't know where to start. That's where author, professional organiser and decluttering consultant Sal Walford comes in and starts sorting out!
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About Sal
Sally is founder of Declutter Me, an inspirational lifestyle business helping people to prioritise their belongings and declutter their way to long term happiness, fulfilment and a clearer mind.
Sally’s life-changing philosophy and expertise can regularly be enjoyed in many top magazines such as Good Housekeeping, Tescos and many more. She is the Decluttering consultant for well known TV Shows and a regular speaker at the world renowned Ideal Home Show.
As well as decluttering your homes Sally also offers a packing a relocation service and has helped many celebrities, including Joanne Froggatt, (Downton Abbey) pack more efficiently for her trips away.
Sally lives in London and is author of The Clutter Monster and soon to be published , Mrs. Jumble encouraging children to tidy up and live with less stuff
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Who better than Business Consultant and Top Ballroom Dancer turned Stand up Comic to talk about the powerful benefits of laughter. Gordana Micic and I discuss comedy and connection in this episode.
About Gordana
Gordana is a leader in business strategy and transformational change. She has a multitude of industry experience and a consistent record of achievements across diverse disciplines. When she isn’t in the boardroom you’ll find her sparkling in the ballroom giving Strictly a quickstep for their money, and I’ve had the pleasure of watching her in stand up where she also offers opportunity to performers through her group the Balkan Comedy Bubble, and now the Groovie Comedy Club in Hammersmith.
To get in touch with Gordi:Gordana Micic MBA | LinkedIn
(7) Groovie GROVE Comedy - Events | Facebook
(7) Gordana Micic Comedian - Balkan Comedy Bubble | Facebook
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Season 9 is Guest Season where I learn from inspiring wellbeing experts and advocates, and reflect on their own experiences of resilience and growth.
In this episode Writer and Actor Mark Farrelly talks about acting, self expression and why we need to speak up about men's health.
Mark, is a double first class English graduate from Cambridge, is both author and star of two hit solo plays: The Silence of Snow (The Life of Patrick Hamilton, and Quentin Crisp: Naked Hope). He’s currently developing Howerd’s End exploring the life of legendary comedian Frankie Howerd, as well as Jarman – a portrait of the artist and activist Derek Jarman. Not only does he tackle mental health issues in all his work – but he is a champion and fundraiser for many mental health causes.
For more about Mark or to see his Tour schedule: MARK FARRELLY |
Please note that this episode contains discussion about suicide. Please see the support links if you are affected in any way:Samaritans:Contact Us | Samaritans 116123 Mind: www.mind.org.uk
NHS: www.nhs.uk/mental-health
Men’s health: www.manhealth.org.uk
"Admit mistakes - share your mistakes with the team...mistakes are great as long as they are shared quickly...so we can learn from that." (JP Courtois)
I am beyond thrilled to have had the opportunity to interview Jean-Philippe Courtois, the Executive VP and President, Global Sales, Marketing & Operations, Microsoft corp. on his approach to "Positive Leadership" and the "Coach-Care Model" to support and motivate teams in a fast paced, quick changing world. His insights on leadership, collaboration and business are inspiring and informative, and having had the pleasure to spend this time with him I hope you will be as inspired as I by this dynamic, motivating - and yet truly humble - gentleman.
About JP:
As executive vice president and president, Global Sales, Marketing & Operations, Jean-Philippe Courtois leads Microsoft’s commercial business across 124 subsidiaries worldwide. From Cloud services to AI and mixed reality, Courtois is responsible for driving strategic planning, growth initiatives, national digital transformation partnerships and running Microsoft global commercial business. Courtois is passionate about enabling businesses digitally transform with the right strategy, skills and technology to ignite new innovation, new ways of working, new business models and new revenue streams. He helps building vibrant ecosystems with small businesses, start-ups, public sector entities, partners all the way to global industry leaders. Outside of Microsoft, Courtois is chairman of the board of directors for SKEMA Business School, as well as a board member of Positive Planet, a worldwide leading NGO with a mission to help men and women across the world create the conditions for a better life for future generations.
Courtois is also on the board of directors of ManpowerGroup, the global workforce solutions organization. In 2015, he co-founded the Live for Good foundation, which aims to unlock the potential of young people from all walks of life through social entrepreneurship, driving societal innovation through a purpose led community.
If we always chase the next thing and the next and the next we're remaining in a mindset of 'lack'. By appreciating what we have (and even the things we DIDN'T get that worked out for us!), not only are we happier in the now, but we are better able to fully enjoy all the extra that comes our way.
For practical tools to thrive, my YouTube channel https://youtube.com/channel/UCnn8-Waxrg6TmuNPHL1NQmg
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An expectation is almost like setting yourself up for resentment! This episode looks at why we set them and what we can do about this when it comes to building healthy relationships with others and with ourselves!
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A short and sweet episode looking at 2 ways we can identify and start to live the life we want. A longer discussion of purpose is in this week's Wellbeing Lounge on NLiveRadio www.nliveradio.com/listenagain
We don't necessarily need a purpose but asking 'what do I want to do when I grow up' is not necessarily going to help. So try these tools instead.
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Those moments we connect (in real life especially) with others can be such a boost to our wellbeing, but we don't always get it right. This episode looks at listening errors, communication concerns and gives you ways you can sparkle socially. People always remember how we made them feel.
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Got a bit of a Batman/Bruce Wayne (or in my case Harley/Dr Quinzel) thing going on? This episode will examine the idea of authenticity and give you ways to start blending your adaptive and authentic self for a greater sense of grounding and fulfilment.
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Psychology never set out to say that whatever is termed 'normal' (or typical in one setting) is to be the aspiration!? It began as a means to explain behaviour, then predict, then improve.
So see your difference as an opportunity to contribute to areas the 'norm' may not reach, and embrace it in others as the broadening of our colour pallette of life!
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Keeping it short and sweet with this episode which talks about what makes a happy life, and how to recognise or cr eate those components in our own.
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This episode looks at what resilience is and gives you some tools to try out on helping you build yours.
It's not just about 'standing strong and impermeable', but in being able to bend and flex, you are more likely to remain standing at all! Accepting vulnerability is not weak, it's simply appreciating things as they are - and knowing you can work with that.
I'm a positive psychologist, but that's A WORLD AWAY from 'toxic positivity' which is on fact something we all may be guilty of because it often comes from a, place of love. Learn about it here as we kick off Season 8,which is all about the Tools to Thrive!
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Psychology never started out to blame, stigmatise, nor rank 'good' traits over 'bad', it was created to EXPLAIN & understand. WE added the baggage, how about we remove it too?
Fabulous interview with best selling author of Beautifully Broken, Abigail Tennant about Neurodiversity and being able to thrive.
#neurodiversity #neurodivergence #dyslexia #mentalhealth
I can't believe it's the end of a season already!! This episode challenges you to rethink your mental health as something to be committed to, celebrated and worked at (like physical exercise) not just the absence of mental or emotional suffering...and of course there's tips to do just that! You can cope - now learn to THRIVE
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If you're constantly putting things off 'until tomorrow' - what makes you think tomorrow will be any different to today? The only time you can ever guarantee is right now - so use it, embrace it and make the most of it.
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The SWOT analysis is a common business tool but it is extremely effective to use on yourself if you are looking to grow or change. This podcast takes you through how to use it as well as challenges you to engage with your strengths, and improve on each weakness (even just a little bit) regularly
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With the theme for Mental health awareness week being 'nature' and our growing appreciation for green spaces over the course of the pandemic tours podcast takes advice from landscape architecture and master planning to add 'play' into our external - and personal - environments.
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You don't plant a seed and yell at it to grow, yet we seem to do this to ourselves. This podcast is slightly different - it's still got tips for being patient, but it's a personal reflection on my (in)ability to be patient at times and how I work at it.
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'Social prescribing' is GP encouragement to explore community-based hobbies. This podcast explores how art and other creative pursuits can work wonders for wellbeing...and how to get started!
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Delighted to have shared some of these as part of The Sun's #bouncebackbritain https://twitter.com/TheSun/status/1380202527971495938?s=19 campaign. If they whetted your appetite, here's the full list of things we can do to keep our motivation high to take on the world as soon as the world opens its doors to us once more!
Make your mental fitness something to commit to and be proud of...and thrive beyond (the new) normal.
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How do you see Daylight savings? A poll revealed 84% don't like it!! This podcast sets the context of the change as well as looks at ways we can utilise the hour gained, and minimise effects on any sleep lost.
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For those with social anxiety (and those who might have developed it this year) coming out of Lockdown may be a struggle
Here are some tools to cope.
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I'm joined by Award Winning Coach Sharon Lawton discussing her favourite tools for choosing the life you want to live. Overthinking? Surrounded by energy vampires? Need a nudge to get out of a funk? Sharon has practical solutions you can try right now.
Catch up with her on LinkedIn: Sharon Lawton, Head of Training at The Coaching Academy.
I can't believe it's the end of another series! So here's a thought to keep you on track until the next.
We're all busy people and it's so easy to lash out when someone lets us down...often because we're also taking it personally. This podcast offers a couple of exercises to ease that frustration and move forward in your journey, rather than letting anger (that someone else has 'given' you) hold you back
As we used technology to connect rather than compare, and perhaps because we went out less, the anxiety of FOMO seems to have eased. This podcast looks at what it is and why it affects us.
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People pleasing is not going to help you in the long run,and neither does it actually empowering the person asking (if they think you'll just get them out of it). The most successful people say 'no' all the time. This podcast gives you ways to show support while still giving others ownership AND protecting your time and energy.
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Posture can both betray and affect our mental state. While some of us still remain working from home, it's important to give your body some love - AND A STRETCH - once in a while. #psychologist #wellbeing #mentalhealth #speaker #author #consultant #mindfulness #resilience #wellness #positivepsychology #workingfromhome
With professors being targeted, and speakers being rejected, is cancel culture causing us to merely 'avoid' rather than learn the skills of critical thinking and debate?
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This episode seeks to explain 'cancel culture' as well as look at some of the benefits, but also problems arising from so called 'social media mob rule'.
The next episode explores its challenge to free speech on the academic context.
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A lot of big events have been postponed or cancelled and that's left us feeling down. Yet sometimes we may feel 'am I just being trivial when so much grief is around?!'. No matter what, it is OK to feel exactly as you do, and suppressing it can do more harm than good. This podcast looks at managing disappointment from cancelled plans.
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It's gone on a long time (at the time of recording) and there's still a few more months yet - these are my practical tips to beat lockdown fatigue living at home and working from it.
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Even animals have a sense of Fairness and will 'act up' if they feel they've missed out. So, are you 'shopping in' neighbours for covid breaches? Are you tutting at the lack of masks? Are you judging before processing the full situation (and could that be shielding you from dealing with your own stuff!?)
Why are we judgmental and what can we do instead?
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Acceptance doesn't mean 'giving up', but it does mean working from a point of reality. When we can be honest with where we are and what we want we can move forward with confidence and togetherness as we all know where we stand.
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Stress in the 21st century is often more psychological than physical, so we must tackle it in kind. While of course external support is both welcomed and helpful, we ourselves can build our inner strength - our mental and emotional fortitude - our personal power, in order to achieve what we desire. This psychological fitness will help us sustain our motivation, choose our behaviours for the best outcome and drive us forward even when we're exhausted. And the more give ourselves these little energy boosts, the stronger we become.
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You know you are in survival mode when your human nature to help is tainted by fleeting thoughts of 'No one helped me', 'How will you repay this' or 'Oh I have to worry about you too'
It's NOT self care that makes us selfish - that helps us bring back balance so we can function on the balance between emotion and logic. 'Survival mode' - is what makes us ask (even unconsciously 'what about me!?')
Giving or helping when in balance means we do so freely. And better recognise when we receive it in return.
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We're NOT in the same boat - but we all face the same storm and that gives us the compassion and empathy to help and hold onto each other. This uplifting podcast explores hope and how we can seek it from, and be it for, others.
Be strong.
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The secret to coaching is we always ALWAYS believe in your ability to make the changes you need and we help you with that though both the practical tools, AS WELL AS that safe, nurturing context to grow. While you don't always need a coach, you still need to see yourself as we see you - you CAN do it...and this podcast helps you with establishing that strength.
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We often develop what we know, but who we are gets left behind. This podcast looks at why it's sometimes our values, our actions, and our strength of character that count for much more than academic knowledge - with tips to get you started on nurturing yours.
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Learning to cope is one of the goals of therapy. Learning to succeed is one of the goals of coaching. Learning to love your life is the bolt on I add to all of my work.
This podcast explains why, and gives practical ways we can go about it.
Do you think resilience is learning how to survive? WRONG! It's not! MOST of us can already do that! For resilience you need more than survival instinct (plus practical capability(!)) you need mental, emotional and physical fortitude. This podcast gives you the practical tools - and the emotional ones to build it.
#psychologist #mentalhealth #positivepsychology #buildresilience #resilience #wellbeing #author
Some people cannot 'make lemonade' - they simply don't know why they would want fizz or sweetness. This podcast looks at how informal positive psychology exercises will help you move forward when you KNOW what you need to do, you just can't seem to do it!
Plus I set you a positive psychology challenge.
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In this 'Relationships Special', I chat with guest Heather Carr about Love in Lockdown. What do we really mean when we ask 'have you been tested?'; never mind first base, how close do you stand on a first date; and does bubbling mean we're getting closer faster?
In the light of this year, an insight into how grief can affect us, what 'complicated grief' is and how to support ourselves and others is important. This gives an overview of the Kubler-Ross model of grief and the symptoms where it may be best to seek professional support.
This is purely intended as informative in order to raise awareness of the symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). This podcast also offers some ways which compliment any current treatment someone with BPD is using, but should not be seen as therapy nor a substitute for professional help.
The symptoms are often misunderstood and it is important to appreciate that the nature of BPD means they are not necessarily under the person's control - hence the need for professional intervention if someone has been diagnosed.
Related to Gaslighting, this podcast gives a snapshot into the behaviours common in Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and some tools to cope as both the person with NPD and those around. However, do note that NPD is on the 'psychosis' side of disorders so it is the brain that functions differently causing behaviour rather than NPD symptoms being a conscious choice.
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Gaslighting is a form of psychological and emotional abuse. It isn't easy to spot by the person within the abusive relationship because many compassionate people will often try to explain or excuse the behaviours, made worse by the effects of the abuse itself.
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Emotions, although sometimes painful or overwhelming are there to protect us. This slightly longer episode (13 mins) explains why and how we can make them work FOR us.
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Breaking up really is never easy, but these 5 tips may help you find your inner strength to grow through.
Relationships are teams and it never hurts to check that you are still on the same page. Here's a quick 5 question relationship audit to get you reflecting on what you want out of your commitments and how best to achieve it.
Relationships take work but it doesn't need to be tough! While many people talk about compromise, I believe the best relationships are built on collaboration - put two amazing individuals together and you're unstoppable!
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Season 4 focuses on relationships and this episode covers why we may be attracted to certain 'types' or people, but also how you can train yourself to look beyond that for lasting satisfaction
One of my favourite podcasts - a bit of background into my approach as a positive psychologist and how it not only supports prevention and treatment of mental illness, but it can help you thrive beyond ordinary when in mental health! It's a slightly longer podcast as I offer you an insight into my perspective and how and why it works, and of course give you 3 excellent daily practices to help you flourish.
In the same way that a crime needs 'Desire, Ability and Opportunity' to occur, behaviour change needs the same. We're often good at the desire and ability, but we need to learn to give ourselves the best opportunity to progress. Here's how.
If I want something I'll ask for it, and shouting into the void of social media is not always the healthiest option. ARE you guilty of subconsciously asking 'Do you like me like this' when you post a selfie? This podcast looks at how what used to be a way of curating our identity within a trusted group can sometimes be an open season with people playing by different rules.
You can FIND YOURSELF or you can CREATE yourself. It's just over 10 mins but these 6 powerful coaching exercises (I use them, my clients use them) will help you get started. Be strong and be you.
As a psychometric profiler I hate it when people use the outcomes like some sort of horoscope - you're XYZ that means you're... It's the same with introversion and extraversion...this podcast I'm celebrating the introverts.
This episode looks at the power of saying 'thank you' and also discusses the importance of receiving it! A greater focus on both can immeasurably enhance the sense of positivity in our lives.
Just because someone has handed you negativity, it doesn't mean you need to accept it. I appreciate that's easier said than done, but try these tips in this short podcast for saying 'no' to someone else's bad behaviour.
Chasing after the little dopamine hit from a like is just not dignified...try any of these different ways of not only achieving that warm and fuzzy feeling but making that sensation last!
Season 3 is all about getting a handle on our emotions which in turn will help us with decision making and taking action. Emotions are wonderful, just make them work FOR you! This episode helps you regain balance rather than let negativity ruin your day, or over positivity lead you into making questionable choices.
A difference of opinion is a chance to learn not a threat. This podcast explains why a broad awareness gives us greater influence, and ways in which we can avoid defensiveness if our view is not the same as someone else's.
If we don't express how we feel, truthfully, how can we blame others when they don't understand?
This podcast gives tips to improve assertiveness on conversation.
You can relax or you can re-energise - these are my tips for both. When you look after yourself you can better look after others.
When we feel inadequate, to counter it we sometimes place ourselves in the position of superiority and tell ourselves things like “Well, she may have that job, but she’s fat; or he might be the leader but his marriage is falling apart…”. This episode gives you ways to avoid playing out that little psychodrama in our heads which can negatively affect our behaviours, our relationships, and also our own success as we get caught up with feeling better rather than making ourselves better!
Life is tough and we're all trying to fit in. But the best thing we can be is ourselves not a copy of someone else, no matter how well we adapt. Of course 'Authenticity is easier when your brand of authentic is in' (Billy Porter), so let this podcast help you untangle who you believe you are so you can BE who you are.
Following on from last episode on SELF compassion, this podcast looks at how too much compassion for others can turn into self sabotage. I look at the reasons we might do it and the key questions to ask ourselves before devaluing our precious time and energy through throwing it about without discernment.
Self compassion and self esteem have similar benefits but are different in their essence. The first builds on and appreciates our value as humans, self esteem sometimes does this in comparison with others, which is less emotionally healthy.
These are 5 ways to get more self compassion into your life.
The best thing you can give others is you...not you as you think they want you to be nor you as you hope they'll shape you, just you.
This episode encourages you to:
1. Look at and live your values
2. Keep updating your skills and thought processes
3. Recognise what 'achievement' means to you so you don't exhaust yourself on futile pursuits.
Season 2 of Retrain Your Brain is all about self development and this episode looks at why the best time to do it is BEFORE you realise you need to!
My top 10 Tips to improve your personal growth so when you need to step up, you can do it with confidence and success.
This podcast explores why we feel guilty and explains ways we can alleviate the unpleasantness practically and emotionally.
Stories are a great way to discuss and learn lessons as the Tale removes you from the event and becomes the proverbial 'I've a friend who...' In this episode I look at the 5 interpersonal lessons we can take from James and the Giant Peach.
This podcast encourages you to see everything you do as a learning experience - you'll be surprised at WHAT skills you are building if you take time to reflect on them. Sorting out a dispute between children can give you a means of managing colleagues. Just because the context is different, YOU and YOUR ABILITIES are the same!
Here's a quick question from today's podcast. Would you want to work for a manager who was critical and called you 'Stupid' for failing? If not, why on earth do you think you can motivate yourself with critical self talk?
Reframe your language in today's episode.
Lockdown has left many of us feeling lonely. These are some tips to manage 'alone time' as well as create a social future - if that's what you want. Some people enjoy solitude too!
This podcast draws inspiration from the Wonder Woman comics to give you 5 ways to build a world you can be both comfortable and thrive in.
The brain is very good at allowing us to believe what we want to, even if it isn't helpful to us. Using visual representations to keep you accountable as well as focused.
Why adapt to a world that may never let you win, nor see you for the amazing person you are? Live your values and change it for the better.
In this episode I give you ways to best manage stress, and none of them include venting! Research has shown that 'going on about it' can make the unpleasant feelings last longer rather than release tension, so try a few other techniques...
In today's session I look at what motivates us but also why we might procrastinate, and how to overcome that.
In this today's consultation session I look at the Transactional Analysis approach to mind games, why they happen and how to 'win'.