Be Better Than Before: Recent Episodes
Cole Johnson
Are you hurting?
Are you needing an answer?
Are you failing to see your way through?
Well - you have come to the right place!
Get 10 lessons on the go as you hear a personal account of author Cole Johnson of his divorce.
Do you have to throw your pain away? Well - listen to Be Better Than Before - the Get Over Divorce On The Go edition ... as this is exclusive. Only YOU get to hear this. Your answer is here! This is a companion to accompany the book "Be Better Than Before." Listen to these exclusive episodes - and you will be better than ever before!
The most precious commodity in your life, right now ... is you! You now are alone. You have no dates. You may not even have a Girls' Night Out or hang with the boys. You probably don't want to hang with anybody else. You may not want to spoil yourself.
That's why you should! Make it a circle of one night and enjoy yourself. It is allowed.
You need to find happiness right now. Enjoying your own space forces you to find things about yourself that you probably didn't know existed. Don't pay attention to the others. Only fill yourself with the joy you so richly deserve. Love on yourself!
Cole mentions when just a simple trip to the movies and dinner by himself filled him up in ways that, quite frankly, his marriage never did. More than having the freedom to do whatever he wanted, Cole learned to enjoy life again - and not be trapped in his house while his conscience would be busy convincing him of his false unworthiness. Just being among those living their lives made him feel worthy.
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OFF THE TOP ... ARTICLES
- Being alone after divorce: (Why it’s okay)
- Self-care strategies for how to deal with divorce
- When dating after divorce, start with yourself
SPIRITUAL CONNECTION LITERATURE
- Heal first, date later
- How to find hope in God in the loneliness after divorce
- God has a purpose for your painful divorce
EPISODE SCRIPTURE - Psalm 32:7
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One of the most painful moments during heartbreak or divorce is the moment loneliness seeps in so deep that it overtakes you. Some may be strong enough to avoid sinking deep into the clinical version of it. However, all go through feeling a heavy level of dejection at some point of healing.
What you are experiencing is something called depression. It is emotionally painful, mentally crippling and psychologically damaging ... should you not do things to confront, combat and overcome it. Sometimes, relief doesn't come in the form of another human being. This is one of those times.
Cole reminisces about a day where he drove for hours during the beginning of his divorce. He recounts the emptiness he felt for a long time - and how he covered up the feeling when around other people
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OFF THE TOP ... ARTICLES
- Dealing with a breakup or divorce
- Managing depression after divorce
- How to deal with depression after divorce
SPIRITUAL CONNECTION LITERATURE
- Coping with divorce and depression
- Surviving divorce depression
- A journey through divorce; grief, anger, depression and loneliness
EPISODE SCRIPTURE - Matthew 11:28
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"I hate you." "You disgust me." "I wish you were never born." "You need to die." All of these words you either have heard at one time or another ... or have said them - maybe even both. The feeling is hate. However, what if we were to tell you that it is normal for you to feel this way?
Of course, it's not something you should forever want to feel. However, when discourse happens - intense feelings start to develop. And what better (or worse) to feel - than hate.
Cole talks about the time he mentions this in counsel - and in conversation with his ex-wife as he goes through the unflinchingly painful ordeal of being emotional in the beginning of divorce. He had to understand the hatred - so he could ultimately destroy it.
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OFF THE TOP ... ARTICLES
- Why is it OK to be angry at your ex?
- Feeling hatred is normal in divorce
- 5 simple ways to deal with anger during a divorce
SPIRITUAL CONNECTION LITERATURE
- What the Bible says about anger (after divorce)
- Demystifying your anger during divorce
- How could God let this happen?
EPISODE SCRIPTURE - Proverbs 8:13
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You've cut yourself. You've fallen to the ground. You've accidentally slammed your hand in your car door. All those scenarios hurt ... but not like being rejected by someone you love.
There is something profoundly different about healing from a divorce. Healing from a break-up is bad enough. Literally seeing your family, your existence, your life split in two ... can prove to be devastating.
Cole walks you through the time when he recognized that divorce is something you can't simply brush aside and move forward. He mentions the time when the pain was so unbearable - the feeling of death felt better than the excruciating pain of being discarded.
Many thanks to the following resources for aiding in the production of this episode:
OFF THE TOP ... ARTICLES
- Emotional coping and divorce
- Reasons the pain of divorce is hard to get over
- Why divorce hurts
SPIRITUAL CONNECTION LITERATURE
- God is able to heal the pain of divorce
- Divorce: Will this pain ever go away?
- Healing the wounds of divorce
EPISODE SCRIPTURE - Revelation 21:4
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This is where it gets tricky. Treacherous waters are ahead - because, quite frankly, you are being a liability too those you love. If you don't watch out, you may alienate them for the rest of your life.
Many people feel like they are pawns in the huge chess game of life. Either they serve your purpose as your personal Amen Corner ... or they serve as a huge distraction when you aren't ready to hear the truth come out of their mouths about your erratic (and hurtful) behavior.
This is where Cole gets with you and mentions the ways we all use other human beings (parents, friends, co-workers, associates ... and most importantly, children) to advance your personal gain of masking the pain that still resides within you. He knows ... because he's been there.
Many thanks to the following resources for aiding in the production of this episode:
OFF THE TOP ... ARTICLES
- When children become pawns
- Ways you're using your children as pawns
- Things divorced parents should do to avoid screwing up their children
SPIRITUAL CONNECTION LITERATURE
- Co-Parenting with an ex: Advocate or adversary?
- When hate comes before children
- Don't pawn the children
EPISODE SCRIPTURE - Matthew 7:15
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One of the greatest tools known to a divorcee is never discussed. Considering the volatile state you are undergoing, being away from others is a good thing. No, scratch that. It's a great thing.
Going through any journey alone is never fun. However, it sometimes is necessary. this is when you can gather your thoughts, lick your wounds, and - most importantly - learn who you truly are.
Cole speaks about the times that he needed to undergo being alone in order to be a better friend, mate and man to society, at large. It was a tricky tightrope for him, but he expresses how he navigated his way through it.
Many thanks to the following resources for aiding in the production of this episode:
OFF THE TOP ... ARTICLES
- Being alone after divorce ...
- Living alone after divorce
- How I overcame my fear of being alone
SPIRITUAL CONNECTION LITERATURE
- Choosing singleness after divorce is a good thing
- Beautiful truths every divorced Christian needs to know
- God has a purpose for your painful divorce
EPISODE SCRIPTURE - 1 Samuel 12:22
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So ... you made that decision to separate. Your world of debating over assets, blame, events of the now-former union and sanity now begins.
And we haven't gotten to the biggest collateral damage whenever divorce happens ... children. Innocent figures almost overnight turn into bargaining chips between two people who are no longer in love with each other.
Every divorcee goes through the raw, unrelenting process of pain. You experience a death on earth, and Cole describes his moment in great detail. The most beautiful part about experiencing death on earth ... is there is life after death!
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OFF THE TOP ... ARTICLES
- Death or divorce: Which is worse?
- 5 crappy things you need to feel ...
- Divorce is like death without the support or rituals
SPIRITUAL CONNECTION LITERATURE
- With Christ, you can overcome the pain of divorce
- 12 steps for overcoming the pain of divorce
- The devastating effects of divorce
EPISODE SCRIPTURE - Ezekiel 18:32
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Going into a death spiral after matrimony is not an easy decision to make. It should never be taken lightly. In fact, divorcee-to-be, your life will never be the same should you go through with marriage dissolution.
Before you enter the realm of separation, think it over ... and over .. and over. Do everything you van to avoid going through a divorce. If you see a way to resolve your marriage, please take the opportunity to do so.
Cole expresses his journey in entering a world where loneliness became an everyday companion. Divorce is not for the weak, and whenever anyone mentions the possibility, this is his first piece of advice he offers every single time.
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OFF THE TOP ... ARTICLES
- A good reason to think twice ...
- Slowing down and thinking twice about divorce
- Here's ... what to think about before divorce
SPIRITUAL CONNECTION LITERATURE
- 5 tips for Christians considering divorce
- Why you shouldn't give up on your marriage
- To a spouse considering divorce
EPISODE SCRIPTURE - Ephesians 4:32
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It is well known that divorce is like a death on earth. You go through a grieving process. However, to say "get over divorce," it sounds callous, harsh and cruel.
This episode explains the title of the podcast. Divorce is a stigma. You get through the pain. In order to get to a better place in life, you must get over all the generalizations of it. You have permission to rip off the scarlet letter 'D' for divorce ... forever!
Cole candidly talks about the moment he realized divorce wore him like a cloak. Just like being 'under the weather', he was 'under the influence of divorce'. He also mentions the moment he made his way out of that stigma - and into the better life which still lay before him.
Many thanks to the following resources for aiding in the production of this episode:
OFF THE TOP ... ARTICLES
- Divorce’s Problems with Social Stigmas
- The Divorcée Stigma That's Alive and Well
- Divorce Without Shame
SPIRITUAL CONNECTION LITERATURE
- Spiritual cul-de-sac: How the church fails the divorced
- Dealing with Guilt, Shame, and Social Stigma of Divorce
- The Stigma of Being a Divorced Christian Woman
EPISODE SCRIPTURE - Psalm 73:26
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It is never easy for you to go through heartbreak.
You don't know what do you .. where to turn ... how to be.
Well ... your answer is right here!
The way all of us can get to the ultimate level of joy and optimal happiness is if we tend to our hurt.
Cuts need care. Wounds need to be treated. Your heart is no different.
Before any lesson can be administered - this is the first step to your 'new day' and 'new you.'
This is how ... you heal ... from heartbreak ... forever!
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