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Hope isn’t just something we feel; it’s something we cultivate. Small, meaningful actions remind us of our power to create change, even when things feel overwhelming. This is how we grow hope. Whether you’re navigating tricky family dynamics, societal challenges, or simply trying to find your own balance, hope is the bridge to a better feeling and a […]
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This week on the podcast, I spoke about How to Take Care of Yourself During Crisis. Here are some key takeaways: 1. You Are Not Being Punished It’s not uncommon during tragedy to believe it is some sort of punishment or evidence of your bad character, unlovability, or unworthiness. You are not being punished, and you did […]
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Things feel hard for many of us right now. The world is shifting, life is unpredictable, and many of us are facing deeply personal challenges—loss, financial hardship, or heartbreak. Many of us are feeling a sense of disenchantment with life, and asking, “Is this all there is?” My life is in transition, too. Moving across […]
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Have you ever caught yourself hesitating—holding back your words, questioning your choices, staying in situations that feel wrong—all because you’re worried about what someone else might think? Maybe you’ve smiled when you felt upset. Nodded when you wanted to walk away. Said “yes” when every part of you wanted to say “no.” For so many […]
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Women have, both willingly and unwillingly, taken on masculine roles. It is not easy to remain connected to our femininity.
The word feminine is still connected to connotations women are admonished against. To some, it means weakness, to others, it’s a perception of inferiority to overcome.
Femininity is strength fueled by love. It’s a flowing power to transform, heal, create, and recreate. It’s as potent as any masculine power, and often it exceeds it.An obstacle to living immersed in the power of the feminine is a deep societal belief that the ideal woman is a superwoman workhorse fueled by self-sacrifice, competition, and disciplined deprivation. She’s a “beast.” Successful in her attempts to be like men and do everything a man can do, she starves her feminine aspects.
Something has to give, and it’s usually self-care softness, sweetness, and sensuality. The loss is tragic. Blocked from the wellspring of the feminine, she becomes a celebrated automaton. Everyone praises her superhuman efforts, high productivity, and how she thrives under stress. It’s a formula for burnout and disease.
Healing comes when she breaks down and is forced to take care of herself. The price is the loss of her hard-won superwoman title and the upset of all who no longer benefit from her overperformance.The ache for the healing powers of the feminine is subtle. It lingers in the recesses of our minds, rarely acknowledged. I’ve witnessed it most in small, intimate, and unstructured gatherings of women. These gatherings create a safe space for women to confess another unpopular desire: a hero, a man who will love, protect, provide, and worship her. This desire is expressed in hushed, apologetic tones, as though at any moment, secret agents will burst in and take her away for failing as a woman.
Embrace your authentic truth and accept yourself completely. It’s okay to tell your truth and to want what you want. Invariably, heroes abound when they do. They are desperate to be adored by Venus and to live in your tenderness. Give in to your deepest feminine desires and needs. Nurture your creativity. Write, paint, sing, talk, dance, plant, cook, and celebrate life.
Channel your inner Venus by honoring and approving her desires and expressing them in your life.
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Connect with Your Inner Goddess Meditation
When Resurrecting Venus was published in 2012, I set out to share my writings, learn to host a radio show and take my life in a new direction. Everyone told me what I needed to do to succeed and balance my family life. It was overwhelming. Much of the advice I received was well-intended and good but not good for me. I have always known that the ultimate wise woman in my life is my higher self, my inner Goddess. You may call this your soul, spirit, God, energy, or something else. The important thing is that you know there’s a power in you that knows what’s best for you. Then you must learn to access it. To help you do this, I created this meditation. Bookmark this page and return to it regularly, especially when you need a wise answer. Enjoy.
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Do you say yes when you really want to say no?
Do you say yes even if it may cause you upset, discomfort, or financial or emotional harm?
If so, you’re among a vast group of women who want to please others and struggle with setting or upholding healthy boundaries.
You want to be liked, and you worry that saying no will disappoint others, and they won’t like you.
I know just how it feels. I’m a recovering yes-aholic.
The need to please is often rooted in childhood. It comes from the deep desire children have to please their caregivers. It’s important to recognize that survival is the ultimate motivation behind the desire to please. Immature child minds reason that if their caregivers are happy, they will care for them, and they (the child) will live. If the caregivers are unhappy, they will withdraw or express displeasure causing the child to feel abandoned and her perception of survival threatened. Many of us are still moved by this old wiring.
For some women (men, too), disapproval is almost unbearable.
Thankfully, as adults, we can see this dynamic clearly and let go of the need to please. Our survival does not depend on pleasing others. In fact, it’s far more likely to depend on us making intelligent choices and upholding healthy boundaries so that we can invest our energy in life-enhancing activities.
Another barrier to saying no is worrying about what others might think. Here’s what you need to know:
–The people who love you love you, and they want you to make the best decisions for your life.
–The people who love you only when you do what they want are teachers here to motivate you to set healthy boundaries.
–You don’t know what other people think. You’re thinking for them.
–What YOU think of YOU matters more than anything anyone else thinks.
Consider the following questions:
What do you think of yourself when you go against your true desires? What do you think of yourself when you fill up your time with things that prevent you from doing what really matters to your life? What do you think of you when you can’t trust yourself to only make decisions that improve your life?
And here’s another good one:
When you meet someone who is happily in control of their commitments, joyfully agreeing to the things they choose, and graciously declining unwanted requests, what do you think of them?
I respect and admire them for living on purpose. I also feel comfort and ease because when they say yes, I can count on them to show up eager and content to be there.
I have little confidence in someone who goes against their own desires.
If you’ve struggled with setting boundaries, you can choose to end that era right now. You can choose to love, honor and support yourself.
How you treat yourself teaches others how to treat you.
Setting boundaries does not mean being rude, selfish, or acting like a jerk. It is a generous act that results in less stress, increased happiness, and more time for what matters most to you.
The next time someone:
–asks to stay at your house, and you don’t want them to
–asks for a loan $___ (btw, never make a loan, make it a secret gift, if you can’t gift it, don’t loan it)
–calls you incessantly to wear you down
–attempts to guilt you into doing something you don’t want
–solicits for the greatest cause ever
–hard sells you on what you don’t want
–you get the idea . . .
Remind yourself: It’s okay to say NO.
Next, kindly and firmly—using as few words as possible and little to no explanation—decline the request, set a boundary, or offer what you are willing to do.
If it makes it easier, use words like unable, can’t, or say you have other plans. It’s okay.
If you must, silently finish your boundary-setting statement with your truth: I cannot let you stay at my house (without feeling unhappy with myself).
Imagine all of the things you could enjoy, accomplish, and avoid if you said NO whenever you wanted to say it.
Everyone with a life you admire has learned this vital skill. It’s your turn.
Begin today. Leave me a comment and tell me one or two things you’re going to flex your NO muscles on.
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g Listen on iTunes. Listen on Stitcher Stream by clicking here. Download an MP3 of the show by right-clicking here and choosing “save as.” Description Today I sat down to prepare for Soulfest and I started to write a list of 10 tips to get the most out of the event. Once I […]
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Want to become a better lover? I’ve got just the thing. Listen on iTunes. Listen on Stitcher Stream by clicking here. Download an MP3 of the show by right-clicking here and choosing “save as.” Description A few years ago I wrote a couple of posts about things that men need to know about women […]
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How loving ourselves helps us, and others, live our greatest expressions. Listen on iTunes. Listen on Stitcher Stream by clicking here. Download an MP3 of the show by right-clicking here and choosing “save as.” Description Do you let the needs or insecurities of others stop you from pursuing your dreams? Do you hold others […]
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Numerous health and wellness modalities agree that stress is the leading cause of disease, but what makes stress? We do. Listen on iTunes. Listen on Stitcher Stream by clicking here. Download an MP3 of the show by right-clicking here and choosing “save as.” Description Numerous studies have concluded that stress is a leading cause […]
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Listen on iTunes. Listen on Stitcher Stream by clicking here. Download an MP3 of the show by right-clicking here and choosing “save as.” Description: Listen to this 3-minute holiday wish from my heart to you.
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How do you handle life’s challenges and changes? Do you white knuckle in stress, bury yourself in unhealthy habits, or ruminate on fearful projections of the future? Change shoves us outside of our comfort zones and into uncertainty. It forces us to find new ways of living and often triggers our deepest fears–just when we […]
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I am a coach and I know how powerfully this work shifts people’s minds, actions, and outcomes. The challenge for me is finding a coach who can do this for me. A while back, I started searching for someone who was versed in the business I do and also in more subtle and powerful aspects […]
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Hypocrite: a person who claims or pretends to have certain beliefs about what is right but who behaves in a way that disagrees with those beliefs ~ (Merriam-Webster Dictionary). Leah is the kind of woman we all want to have in our lives. She’s fun to be with, easy to talk to, and fiercely compassionate. If […]
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The holiday season is upon us. It seems to happen earlier each year. While it’s a time intended to be joyous and bright, it’s often chaotic, draining, stressful and emotional. I’ve got your back. Yesterday, we recorded a show with no guests. It’s just me sitting beside you and coaching you through. This season, before you have […]
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Have you ever heard a story so miraculous that you can’t retell it without sobbing? Today, my interview with Kristi Blakeway airs on Unity Radio. Kristi is a speaker, author, and school principal in Maple Ridge, BC. She’s a wife and the mom of two boys. Kristi takes students into the most impoverished areas of […]
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Healing from betrayal by a family member, partner, or friend is different than healing from other types of life crises. In this episode, transformational psychologist Debi Silber shares the five stages to healing betrayal and why some people heal and others don’t. LISTEN TO THE REPLAY NOW!
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Elias Patras is a coach, author, psychic medium, Reiki practitioner, and ordained minister who helps people unlock their deepest desires and co-create them with God. Learn the manifestation equation and start cocreating today. LISTEN TO THE REPLAY NOW!
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Author, storyteller, and Hashimoto’s life coach Stacey Robbins returns to share insights, truths, and the mindset behind losing 100 pounds, being creatively homeless and healing your marriage, your body, and your life. LISTEN TO THE REPLAY NOW!
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Self-love junkie Irene Elias ran across the globe to escape her inner pain, but wherever she went there it was. Join us as she shares the journey from self-loathing to self-loving. Learn how your feelings of personal worth dictate how others treat you and the quality of the relationships you attract. Then discover how to fall in […]
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Are you terrified of speaking up? Does your fear stop you from giving your gifts? My guest, Shola Kaye, suffered from fear of speaking and a reluctance to be the center of attention. Today she’s a powerful speaker who teaches people around the world to speak up and shine. Learn how she transcended her fear and […]
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Learn to dismantle the good girl syndrome, tap into your courage, radically accept yourself, and embrace your too-muchness with author, speaker, goddess, and too much woman, Gina Hatzis. LISTEN TO THE REPLAY NOW!
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Share an experiential journey with author, storyteller, and Hashimoto’s life coach, Stacey Robbins. Learn how to take life’s most challenging circumstances and turn them into positive outcomes. From traveling across the U.S. and Italy while being creatively homeless to helping her sons heal from bullying and growing with a hubby who lost his job, Stacey will […]
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Alex Levy, creator of The Spirit Guided Oracle deck and process joins us to share how your intuition can deliver insights from broader perspectives. Learn how to direct your destiny, trust the invisible, and get into active conversation with your higher self and guides. LISTEN TO THE REPLAY NOW!
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As a teen, Jaitara was groomed and manipulated into teenage prostitution. She was lucky to escape. Like so many of us who’ve been through painful and violating experiences, she never looked back. She threw herself into making a life. It’s what we do when we’re trying to be strong, healthy, and good women. One day, […]
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People interpret life’s difficult events in much the same way. A friend gets fired, a marriage falls apart, an opportunity falls through and we feel sympathetic. When these events happen in our own lives, we often follow our conditioned reactions and view the event as negative, allowing it to change how we see ourselves and […]
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Most of us know what it feels like to face what seems like impossible problems. Once your mind agrees that the problem is, in fact, impossible to solve, it stops trying to solve it and becomes focused on all the negative outcomes and results. From there you slip into incessant cycles of worry. My friend […]
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When my mom passed away, I retreated from Los Angeles and took shelter in a tiny town in the midwest. I raised baby ducks and chickens and tried to figure out how to live without the one person who had loved me forever. I’d been through tough times before and I’d always responded with hope, […]
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You want to pursue something meaningful, but you never seem to have enough time. Months and years have passed and your desire has turned into a dream relegated to the realms of someday. You just can’t get out of your own way. Can you relate to this? Over Time You’re starting to feel a subtle […]
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Ruby was 44 and worn out. She had two nearly-grown children and had just exited a marriage that “felt more like we were siblings.” After 27 years of working hard to create someone else’s dreams, Ruby had little money, joy, or hope. She was tired, the kind of tired a week’s worth of sleep won’t […]
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92% of resolutions fail within two weeks. It doesn’t make the most sense to plan and prepare for an entire year of your life during the busy-ness of the holidays. It takes time to reflect, digest, and sift the good from last year. It also takes time to clean up and clear out our mental […]
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An angel disguised as a childcare center worker taught me how to meditate when I was five-years-old. She gave me access to an invulnerable source of power and a place of refuge that has sustained me through the darkest times. She also taught me to get quiet and ask what she called ‘kind’ questions. I have […]
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In general, people interpret life’s events in much the same way. A friend gets fired, a marriage falls apart, an opportunity falls through and we feel sympathetic. When these events happen in our own lives, we often follow our conditioned reactions and view the event as negative, allowing it to change how we see ourselves […]
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This week in our private Facebook Community we’re talking about following your bliss to create passionate and purposeful work. If you’re unsatisfied with your work, I encourage you to join the page and connect with real women, who despite life’s challenges, have found a way to be paid for their passion while offering real value to […]
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Femininity is anything but weakness. It is strength fueled by the omnipotent power of love. In its purest form, it is inclusive, focused on the highest good for all. Where masculine energy divides, conquers and controls (not inherently negative actions), the feminine unites, cooperates and supports. Most problems in the world can be traced to […]
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We all endure losses, big and small, some more intense than others, and some of us experience more than others, but we all go through it sooner or later. For me, the experience of loss and grief is what I would imagine being dropped out of a plane into the middle of a seemingly endless […]
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I had a particularly intense negotiation recently. I wanted to make a deal with the person on the other side of the table. I wanted to be a part of their business and I wanted it to work. I am a strong advocate of using feminine power to help me achieve my goals. This […]
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Most spiritual and religious people agree that God is within us. “Neither shall they say, Lo here! or, lo there! for, behold, the kingdom of God is within you.”~Luke 17:21 “If you search for God within you, with all earnestness, you will surely be able to find him.”~Sai Baba Gita “You are of God, little […]
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How do you handle challenging changes? Do they bowl you over and make you question whether you’ll survive? If you answered yes, then you’ll benefit tremendously from understanding the process of change. Knowing what’s happening doesn’t stop it from happening, but it can keep you grounded and help you feel secure in knowing the ultimate […]
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A crucial element of effectively caring for ourselves is the development and application of discernment in our relationships. Unfortunately, many of us maintain relationships with people who drain our energy, resources, confidence, joy and/or dreams. These light-thieves show up as friends, family members, business partners, co-workers and even people in our spiritual community. Identifying Toxic […]
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Nearly every day someone asks me: Is it really possible for me to have my deepest desires and dreams? My answer is always: ABSOLUTELY. The following ten tenets, when absorbed and applied, will shift the trajectory of your dreams and life. Make them yours. 1. You are enough. The starting point for any successful journey […]
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Life’s challenges often call up our skeletons, dirt, pains and “toxic holding-on.” This creates the opportunity to heal and release them. This is the time for facing, acknowledging, learning and trusting the process so that we can emerge better than before. When painful feelings or situations arise, our natural tendency is to shut down or […]
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READY TO GET HAPPY? I had the tremendous good fortune to stumble across the work of Sonja Lyubomirsky, the genius extraordinaire, who did us all a huge favor when she took up the study of what it takes to be happy. Sonja has written two outstanding, research-based, books (links below) on the whys and hows of […]
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I used to be poor—my bank balance had little to do with it. I was soul-poor. I saw the world as a place of lack and unfairness. I constructed a whole story around it. This was my story: I’m broke. I don’t have money, talents, opportunities, people to help me, or hope. I’ve suffered much […]
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“They are tossed to drunken heights, only to be brought down into a sludge of headachy despair; their arrogance gives way to humiliation at the next curve of the switchback.” —Patrick White It is easy to lose sight of yourself as the most powerful person in your life. Reinforced by the masses and the […]
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1. Only YOU can define what success means to you. Success is achieving something that is deeply fulfilling for you. It doesn’t have to include wealth, recognition or acclaim, though it can. The girl in the picture above looks pretty successful to me.
2. Successful people doggedly pursue their interpretation of success. They do so without regard to what others think of them. Did you know that when the show Seinfeld debuted audiences, focus groups and critics hated it?
3. People who are successful know how to fail. Failure is an inextricable part of success. Accept it and expect it and you’ll handle it better. Did you know that Stephen Spielberg was rejected by both UCLA’s & USC’s film schools?
4. Successful people know to count the “no’s” they receive because they bring them closer to “YES”. Requests for assistance, work, representation and consideration hinge on two things: 1) the quality of your offering (you, your idea, item or product) and; 2) the ability to persevere. There will be at least 10 no’s for every yes. Depending on the industry, there can be hundreds of rejections before success. Jack London received more than 600 rejection letters.
5. People who are successful pursue their passions. Persevering through the challenging times requires real love; if you don’t love what you’re working for, you won’t have what it takes to stick it out.
6. Successful people delay gratification. The ability to delay your comfort, desires, and rewards is strongly correlated with the amount of success you’ll achieve. Instead of having a little now, put your head down and focus. Work smarter and harder now and you’ll have a lot later.
7. People who are successful feel worthy of succeeding. If you don’t feel worthy of your dreams you’ll sabotage yourself. Jumpstart your self-worth and personal power.
8. Success is usually guarded by a paper dragon –a fear that proves impotent when faced. Acknowledge the fear and walk through it.
9. Successful people take consistent action toward desired outcomes. All things are created in thought first, but it takes ACTION to manifest the non-physical in the physical realm.
10. Successful people protect their dreams from people who undermine, predict their doom or criticize them. They know that other people can only speak from their beliefs, perspectives, limits and fears, not yours. Seek out supportive people and communities that encourage and motivate.
Cheers to your success!
~ Cynthia
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Do you want to reach for your dreams, but you’re afraid?
NOT. ANYMORE.
Watch this twice.
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