Through a Therapist's Eyes Podcast: Recent Episodes
Chris Gazdik
Welcome to Through a Therapist’s Eyes, where we invite you to see the world through the lens of a trained mental health and substance abuse therapist. Our goal is to foster emotional growth through feedback and discussion. We believe that emotional awareness is a powerful tool; one which should be continuously sharpened in order to operate at its full potential. We welcome you to come alongside us for the journey…
In this episode, we explore the profound impact of losing yourself in caregiving roles, relationships, parenting, and marriage. Have you ever felt like you've lost touch with your own identity? This conversation uncovers the signs of emotional burnout and identity loss, particularly in codependent relationships, parenting, caretaking, and long-term partnerships. We discuss practical strategies to reclaim your sense of self without sacrificing your supportive roles. From setting boundaries to reigniting personal passions, this episode offers a roadmap to prevent the mental and emotional toll of losing yourself while maintaining healthy connections with those you love.
Tune in to see the Danger of Losing Yourself Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In this episode, we dive into a crucial topic that can quietly erode marriages over time: resentment. We explore how lingering feelings of anger, bitterness, and unmet needs can lead to emotional distance, communication breakdowns, and even impact family dynamics. Through three key questions, we guide listeners to reflect on the sources of resentment in their own relationships, understand the lasting effects of unresolved conflicts, and discover actionable steps to address these challenges. With a focus on open communication, empathy, and rebuilding trust, we offer practical advice to help couples reconnect and strengthen their bond.
Tune in to see Resentments, a Marriage Killer, Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In this episode about Resentments, we dive deep into the complex and often overwhelming feelings of anger and bitterness that arise from past experiences or relationships. We explore the psychological and physical toll that holding onto resentments can have, from anxiety and depression to strained relationships and health issues. We discuss why letting go can be so challenging, touching on feelings of justification, lack of closure, and fears of vulnerability. Our conversation also covers current events, including the tragic school shooting in Georgia and the debate over banning cell phones in schools. Finally, we provide actionable strategies for overcoming resentment, such as practicing mindfulness, journaling, therapy, and setting healthy boundaries, all aimed at fostering healing and personal growth. You will learn how to transform your resentments into opportunities for peace and resilience.
Tune in to see Resentments Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In Episode 286 of Through a Therapist's Eyes - How to Overcome, we're diving deep into the power of resiliency with special guest Zay Grastley. From spending 14 years in prison to embracing his dreams and becoming an inspirational figure, Zay shares his incredible journey of overcoming adversity. We explore the impact of culture, the importance of vision, and how pivotal life events can reshape our paths. Zay discusses his affinity for Bob Marley, his strategies for managing anxiety and insecurities, and the importance of persistence. Join us as Zay opens up about his passion, the lessons he's learned, and how he's using his story to make a difference in the world.
Tune in to see How to Overcome Through a Therapist's Eyes.
In episode 285, "Willpower: It is a Challenge in Life," we dive into the complexities of willpower and its impact on various aspects of our lives. We'll explore what willpower truly is—an ability to control our actions, emotions, and urges—and discuss why it's crucial for achieving long-term goals, forming healthy habits, and maintaining strong interpersonal relationships. From overcoming temptations and procrastination to understanding willpower's limitations, we'll also tackle the factors that weaken it, such as decision fatigue. Additionally, we'll look at how the substance abuse field contributes to our understanding of willpower. Finally, we’ll provide practical tips for strengthening this essential skill, including mindfulness, goal-setting, and avoiding temptations.
Tune in to see Willpower Through a Therapist's Eyes.
In episode 284, Empathy: Have We Lost It?, we explore the complex and multifaceted nature of empathy and its significance in today's world. We dive into the definitions and types of empathy—cognitive, emotional, and compassionate—and discuss the factors that contribute to the current empathy deficit in society. From the overwhelming influence of social media to the rise of individualism and the constant exposure to negative stimuli, we examine how modern life affects our ability to connect with others. We also tackle the importance of empathy in interpersonal relationships, community building, and mental health, and provide practical strategies for cultivating empathy as a vital life skill. Join us as we delve into whether empathy can be nurtured and how we can all contribute to a more empathetic society.
Tune in to see Empathy Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In this episode of "Through a Therapist's Eyes," we explore the multifaceted nature of ambition—what it is, where it comes from, and how to cultivate it effectively. We discuss the balance between intrinsic and extrinsic motivation, the role of personal values, upbringing, and even trauma in shaping our drive. While ambition can lead to success, we also examine its potential downsides, such as burnout and toxic behaviors. Finally, we provide practical tips on how to nurture ambition in a healthy way, focusing on goal setting, self-care, and learning from failures.
Tune in to see Ambition Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In Episode 282, we review July's highlights and welcome new YouTube subscribers, Trevor Brown and Toshiaq. We revisit a listener email from Episode 221 on emotional detachment in intimate relationships, discussing the balance between being interconnected and maintaining boundaries. We also recap Episodes 278, 279, and 280, which cover therapy modalities, sensory defensiveness, and the impact of mental health on emotional intelligence. Listen for insightful discussions on these topics and practical tips for personal growth and relationship management.
Tune in to see June Month in Review Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In episode 281, "What are True Needs vs. Wants," we explore the difference between essential needs and luxury wants. We answer key questions about identifying and meeting your true needs, drawing on Maslow's Hierarchy and Andrew Benjamin George's comprehensive list. We also discuss the impact of unmet needs on mental health, social media pressures, and cultural influences. Look for practical tips on distinguishing and managing your needs and wants with mindfulness and gratitude.
Tune in to see True Needs vs Wants Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In Episode 280, we unravel the fascinating interplay between mental health, therapy, and emotional intelligence (EI). What exactly is EI, and can it be learned or is it hardwired into our nature? Can our EI be weakened or lost over time? We'll break down the key components of EI—self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills—and reveal how therapy can significantly enhance these traits. Discover how mental health conditions like anxiety, depression, and trauma impact EI, and gain practical tips to boost your emotional intelligence through mindfulness, journaling, and more.
Tune in to see Emotional Intelligence Through a Therapist's Eyes.
In Episode 279, we delve into sensory defensiveness, a condition where individuals experience extreme sensitivity to stimuli like touch, sound, light, and movement, often linked to sensory processing disorder, autism, ADHD, and anxiety. We explore its causes, ranging from neurological and genetic factors to early childhood experiences, and its impact on social interactions, education, and daily activities. We discuss therapeutic approaches, highlighting the role of occupational therapy and sensory integration techniques, and offer practical strategies for creating sensory-friendly environments and advocating for those affected.
Tune in to see Sensory Defensiveness Through a Therapist's Eyes.
In this episode, we explore the diverse world of therapy modalities, addressing key questions about therapy types and their significance. We cover eclectic versus specific therapies, the differences between substance abuse and mental health treatments, and the ideal contexts for various approaches. Learn about popular modalities like CBT, DBT, Psychodynamic Therapy, Humanistic Therapy, Family Therapy, ACT, EMDR, and more. Whether you're curious about mindfulness, art therapy, or motivational interviewing, this episode provides valuable insights into choosing the right therapeutic tools for your mental health journey.
Tune in to see Therapy Modalities Through a Therapist's Eyes.
Join us for Episode 277 of Through a Therapist's Eyes as we review the month of June. Dive into conflict resolution and the apology/forgiveness cycle from Episode 275, exploring key questions about resolving conflicts and understanding the nuances between conflicts and chronic problems. In Episode 276, we shed light on family life with Bipolar Disorder, distinguishing it from Borderline Personality Disorder and uncovering the emotional strains and challenges families face. Hear a personal story of diagnosis, medication issues, and practical coping strategies for families.
Tune in to see the Month of June Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In this episode of Through a Therapist's Eyes, we dive deep into understanding Bipolar Disorder and its impact on family life. We’ll break down the different types of Bipolar Disorder, the DSM criteria, and the nuances that set it apart from other mental health disorders. Through a compelling case story, we’ll uncover the challenges in diagnosing Bipolar Disorder. We’ll also discuss the emotional strain, unpredictability, and communication challenges families face, and offer practical strategies for coping and supporting a loved one with Bipolar Disorder. Tune in to see Bipolar in a Family Through a Therapist's Eyes.
In Episode 275 of Through a Therapist's Eyes, we delve into the intricacies of conflict resolution and the cycles of apology and forgiveness. We explore three pivotal questions: What distinguishes conflicts from problems? Should an apology precede forgiveness, or vice versa? And, how can conflicts be effectively resolved? We define conflicts as natural, non-violent disagreements arising from incompatible goals or values, contrasting them with more persistent problems requiring ongoing dialogue and trust-building. We also discuss Gary Chapman’s five apology languages and outline key traits and steps for resolving conflicts, including normalizing conflict, active listening, and seeking third-party help when necessary.
Tune in to see Conflict Resolution Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In Episode 274 of our "May Month in Review," we revisit Episode 272 on "Co-parenting in Divorce," discussing ideal co-parenting goals, managing children when the ex-partner isn't ideal, and knowing when to lean on legal processes, emphasizing self-recovery, self-care, and maintaining consistency with children. Finally, we review Episode 273 on the "Love and Logic" parenting approach, focusing on creating a high-structure environment with minimal power struggles and the importance of strong relationships in parenting.
Tune in to see May Month in Review Through a Therapist's Eyes.
In Episode 273 of "Love and Logic Reviewed," we explore the "Love and Logic" parenting philosophy, highlighting its key tenets such as shared control, empathy before consequences, logical consequences, and avoiding power struggles. Additionally, we emphasize the importance of maintaining a high-structure environment with minimal conflicts, building positive parent-child relationships, and understanding the challenges of parenting. This episode offers valuable insights for parents at any stage.
Tune in to see Love and Logic Reviewed Through a Therapist's Eyes.
In this episode of "Through A Therapist's Eyes," we delve into the complexities of co-parenting after a divorce. We explore the ideal co-parenting goals, such as respect, effective communication, and keeping children as the main focus. We also discuss strategies for managing situations when your ex isn't cooperative, including dealing with emotional hurts, practicing the serenity prayer, and maintaining respect. The episode further examines when to rely on the legal process, emphasizing it as a last resort and recognizing the variations in municipal systems. Finally, we cover the importance of self-recovery, self-care, and staying consistent with your children as new relationships form and priorities shift.
Tune in the see Co-Parenting in Divorce Through a Therapist's Eyes.
Welcome to the April Month in Review where we cover that last 3 episodes from a non-clinical point of view. In Episode 268, we uncover the struggles of male survivors of sexual abuse and domestic violence, highlighting their unique challenges and paths to recovery. Episode 269 revisits the concept of moral courage, discussing how to build it through resilience, supportive relationships, self-awareness, empathy, and handling criticism. Episode 270 decodes the language of addiction, providing insights into the addicts' worldview and the complexities of substance abuse.
Tune in to see the April Month in Review Through a Therapist's Eyes.
Embark on a journey into "The Language of Substance Abuse" (Ep270), where we decode the complex terminology and cultural shifts surrounding addiction. From exploring the perspectives of addicts to dissecting family dynamics, we delve into terms like recovery, relapse, and harm reduction. Join us as we navigate the evolving perception of addiction over the past two decades, addressing controversial topics like treatment methods and spirituality. This is an eye-opening discussion on addiction and the path to recovery.
Tune in to see the Language of Substance Abuse Through a Therapist's Eyes.
Join us for an intriguing exploration of "Moral Courage Revisited", where we start by talking about the conviction of James and Jennifer Crumbley and redefine the notion of ethical bravery. From defining moral courage to unraveling its origins and challenges, we draw inspiration from historical icons and confront modern-day pressures like cancel culture. Discover how to cultivate moral courage in your daily life through self-awareness, empathy, and resilience, as we challenge listeners to stand up for their beliefs and make a difference.
Tune in to see Moral Courage Revisisted Through a Therapist's Eyes.
In "Survivor Mode: Male Sexual Abuse/Domestic Violence" (Ep268), we tackle the under-discussed topic of men's trauma experiences. Through probing questions, we delve into survivor mode's genesis in family dynamics and the status of the HE TOO movement. Uncovering the cultural and psychological barriers men face, we explore recovery strategies, emphasizing the necessity of support networks and boundary management. We confront societal taboos and provide resources for healing and empowerment in the face of these profound realities. Tune in to Survivor Mode Through a Therapist's Eyes.
In the latest episode of "March Month in Review", where we dissect the highlights from our recent shows. From exploring the depths of loneliness and connection in "Alone in Plain Sight" with Ben Higgins to unraveling the secrets of genuine connections in "Do You Know How to Connect? The Bachelor Follow-Up", we delve into the complexities of human interaction. Plus, we dive into the importance of friendship and the pitfalls of going it alone, leaving no stone unturned in our quest for understanding. We then navigate through diagnoses and friendship dynamics, offering insights to enrich your relationships and your life. Tune in to see the March Month in Review Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
Join the panel as they unravel the secrets of connection and loneliness in "Do You Know How to Connect? The Bachelor Follow-Up". Delving into the depths of human interaction, they explore the fine line between isolation and community. Drawing from Ben Higgins' insights in "Alone in Plain Sight," they reveal strategies for reconnecting with oneself and others, challenging listeners to embrace shared experiences and shift from fixers to empathetic sharers. This episode is an insightful discussion on forging genuine connections and avoiding the pitfalls of isolation.
Tune in to see if You Know How to Connect Through a Therapist's Eyes.
Join us in Episode 265 "Alone in Plain Sight," where Ben Higgins, known from Season 20 of "The Bachelor," shares his insights as a guest. From his experiences since the show, Ben explores the complexities of loneliness, social media's impact on connection, and the path to genuine human connection. Drawing from his book "Alone In Plain Sight," Ben offers actionable steps to reconnect with oneself, others, romance, and spirituality. Through personal anecdotes and thought-provoking conversations, we invite listeners to explore the depths of human connection and find hope in the midst of isolation.
Tune in to see Alone in Plain Sight Through a Therapist's Eyes.
Dive into our last month of podcast episodes where we further discuss our latest thought-provoking episodes. In "The Adderall Epidemic," we uncover the truth behind Adderall usage, its societal impacts, and whether it's a valid response to ADHD. Then, in "Culture Wars and Professionalism: Jordan Peterson," we delve into the evolving landscape of professionalism amidst cultural shifts and technological advancements, alongside insights into mental health's role in this domain. Finally, "Compassion Confusion" unravels the intricate dynamics of codependency and compassion, offering eye-opening reflections on healthy boundaries and attachment styles.
Tune in to the February Month in Review Through a Therapist's Eyes.
In this episode, we explore the fascinating dynamics of codependency and compassion, inspired by Claudia Black's groundbreaking work. From personal stories to parenting insights, we uncover how codependent behaviors develop and their pitfalls, while also delving into the intriguing concept of counter-dependency. Through a compassionate lens, we discuss setting boundaries and fostering healthy relationships, offering practical tips for navigating these emotional terrains.
Tune in to see when Compassion gets Confused with Codependence Through a Therapist's Eyes.
In this episode, we explore the intersection of professionalism and mental health, discussing core components of professionalism and its modern challenges. We delve into how mental health impacts productivity, workplace culture, and decision-making. Additionally, we examine the role of mental health professionals in navigating today's cultural conflicts. Join us as we unravel these connections and shed light on this crucial intersection.
Tune in to see Culture Wars and Professionalism Through a Therapist's Eyes.
In this episode we took a deep dive deep into ADHD, focusing on the crucial role of Adderall. From unpacking ADHD symptoms to discussing its real-life impacts. With insights into the brain science of Adderall, personal anecdotes, and warnings about misuse, this episode was packed with eye-opening moments. Plus, we explored effective strategies for managing ADHD, blending behavioral interventions with Adderall's support. Whether you're living with ADHD or curious about its treatment this was a good episode to listen to.
Tune in to see the Adderall Epidemic Through a Therapist's Eyes.
This was a packed review show since we missed the one in November. We started with the discussions on Assertiveness and included the conversation about Santa and Holidays. While most people will see holidays as a joyous time, the reality is that they are usually accompanied by stress because of logistical challenges and seeing people you normally don't see. How do you handle yourself during and after the holidays. Then we did a quick overview on the shows about commitment issues and then we finished up with discussing how to repair false beliefs.
Tune in to see January and 2023 Through a Therapist's Eyes.
The show has talked many times about how implicit biases can affect a person without them knowing it. That means the first step a person must go through is to be able to identify the bias. Once identified, then you must take the time to work on repairing those false beliefs that have been created from those past experiences and traumas.
Tune in to see Repairing False Beliefs Through a Therapist's Eyes.
When we look at the trajectory of marriage statistics, there is an obvious change in the millennial generation than there was in previous generations. The question we are asking is why? Are there commitment issues? Do they just have a fear of marriage?
We look at the stats to see what has been happening and we discuss the trends in society and why we think these numbers are changing.
Tune in to see Millennial Fear of Marriage Through a Therapist's Eyes.
Holidays are a great time to reconnect and spend time with friends and family, but when doing that, it can lead to a lot of stress. There is the reality of trying to fit in as many meals to make sure you see everyone. There is the reality of spending more than you should. There is the reality of family dynamics and possible past arguments. How do you manage all of these situations, enjoy your holidays, and be able to recover afterward?
Tune in to see Recovering from the Holiday Hangover with a Plan Through a Therapist's Eyes.
When thinking about Holidays, the usual sentiment is that they are a joyful time that you get to spend time with family and friends. While this is true, the reality is that when looking at all the expectations that surround the get togethers and being around people that you normally don't spend as much time with, it can be very stressful and exhausting. Unless you are the kids in the family, they usually do not experience the holidays the same.
To help overcome that, the panel discusses what you can do during those times, why it affects adults more than children, and how you can make it through the holidays.
Tune in to the see the Cures when the Holidays are Hard Through a Therapist's Eyes.
Continuing the conversation from last week about the holidays, this time we look further into more general family holiday traditions. What they mean to you, how they start and when you might possibly want to change them to make new traditions. We then go back to the topic of Assertiveness by looking at why people struggle balancing being too passive or too aggressive. We then look at how you can overcome those tendencies to maintain assertiveness.
Tune in to see Holiday Family Traditions and Assertiveness Through a Therapist's Eyes.
Originally the show was going to just be about Assertiveness, but as the panel was discussing a current event, they decided to shift. The current event that was talked about was the Santa Claus Tradition. They look at when you should discuss this with your children and how to do it. Then they finish the episode by covering the topic of assertiveness and what are some of the benefits of it.
Tune in to see Santa and Assertiveness Through a Therapist's Eyes.
This month we started by looking at how you can use your friendships to help with your parenting. We then were led on a discussion by our own Mr. Pope where we did a deep dive on the idea of Emotional Freewill versus Determinism. Then to wrap up the time with the panel we discussed the ever-important topic of why you should talk about emotions or past events, in therapy or otherwise.
What did you think about those shows? Do you agree with the panel and where they landed on each topic?
Tune in to see the November Month in Review Through a Therapist's Eyes.
When a client starts therapy, one of the first thoughts that is brought up is why do I need to talk about my past traumas? When you first bring up past experiences, it hurts because it is painful. There is no way around those early experiences as you start opening up, but when you look at how a person heals and grows, it requires that you go through discussing those traumas.
Tune in to see Why You Talk About Emotions Through a Therapist's Eyes.
When brought up by our own Mr. Pope about the idea of a neurologist who thought that human's lives were determined for them, we had to dive into this topic further. Pope leads the conversation where we talk about the effects that genetics, experiences, traumas, etc. will dictate the life we are going to have. We push back on the idea of how free will can counter those tendencies. Whichever way you lean, it was a great conversation.
Tune in to see Emotional Freewill Vs Determinism Through a Therapist's Eyes.
This was an interesting topic when Chris produced it for the panel. It seems weird to discuss parenting strategies when it comes to adult friendships, but when you listen to the discussions it starts to make sense. We compare the how the love and logic approach is good for your adult friendships. Then we review the lost decade. This covers how not having those connections with friends outside of your spouse or your children can affect your mental health and how you must be purposeful in starting and building those friendships.
Tune in to see Using Friendship with Parenting Strategies Through a Therapist's Eyes.
This month was a short one for the show because we only recorded 2 episodes, but there is plenty of current events to cover that are affecting everyone’s mental health. We start the show talking about the wars between Israel and Hamas, and Ukraine and Russia. That also lead to the tragedy in Lewiston Maine. After discussing those we went back to talk about controlling our emotions from episode 247 and then about friendships from episode 248.
Tune in to see the October Month in Review Through a Therapist's Eyes.
Friendship is a topic we haven't covered on the show in a while so Chris thought it would be good to circle back to it. In this episode we start by looking at what friendship is, how do you make friends and how to maintain those relationships. We also look at how friendships are being devalued and leading to a rise in loneliness across many areas of society. Hopefully this episode will help you see the importance of your friends and gives you a few ways to find, build or rebuild your friendships.
Tune in to see Friendship Through a Therapist's Eyes.
When looking at the question if you can control your emotions, you must first look at both parts of that question. First you look at what it means to control and then look at what are your emotions. After we answer those questions, we look at the difference between stopping your emotions versus controlling emotions.
Tune in to see if you Can Control Your Emotions Through a Therapist's Eyes.
This month was a special month for the show as we got to announce that we have a new sponsor for the show, First Horizon Bank. To celebrate that we welcome Evan Moss from the local branch to discuss finances and your mental health. We then followed it up with the topic of Emotional Freedom. Do you think you have emotional freedom, or do you know how you can go about getting it? Then we finished the month by talking about how when you get hurt by others it is not your fault.
What did you think about the shows? What kind of rabbit hole with Adam take us down this month?
Tune in to see the September Month in Review Through a Therapist's Eyes.
After you are hurt, the first thing that most people try to do is try to figure out what happened and ask themselves what they did to cause it. In a lot of situations, when you are hurt by someone else, the most important thing to remember is that it is not your fault. We further investigate this by re-addressing shame-based feelings and to look at how the blame game can easily be directed back to you when it should not be. To handle the emotional pain, we look at how you can manage these experiences.
Tune in to see that it is Not Your Fault When Hurt by Others Through a Therapist's Eyes.
The title might seem rhetorical, but when you really think about your life, do you have emotional freedom and do you really want it. We look at what that means to have emotional freedom, why it is important, and what barriers you might be running into to get it. Once we know that, we then look at what you can do to start achieving emotional freedom.
Tune in to see Emotional Freedom Through a Therapist's Eyes.
If there is anything that goes on in our life that can affect our mental health is your finances. To help with that we introduce our newest sponsor, First Horizon Bank and we welcome Evan Moss, one of their Branch Managers of the location in Mount Holly. We look at how your finances and mental health play off each other and what are some things you can do to help you when dealing with that part of your life.
Tune in to see Mental Health and Finances Through a Therapist's Eyes.
This month we only covered two topics, but one of them was so in-depth we had to split it into 2 parts. We review Menopause Normalized, parts 1 and 2, and Your First Love. These shows covered to opposite spectrums of a persons life so it was fun looking at those difference. Did you agree with the panel from the shows? Do we miss anything? What stood out to you from those shows? What rabbit hole does Adam take us down this month?
Tune in to see the August Month in Review Through a Therapist's Eyes
Do you remember your first love? Do you remember those new feelings? Do you remember the hurt after the relationship was over?
In this episode we explore the growth and differences of a teen crush, first love, and true love. While early and still developing, those feelings are still very real and very powerful, but how you handle them is what changes as you get older.
Tune in to See Your First Love Through a Therapist's Eyes.
After spending an episode talking about what menopause is, this time the panel talks about what can be done to help women during this transition in their lives. We look at how this affects the different aspects of their lives, especially in marriage or relationships. At the end we look at what we should be doing to help normalize this topic so more and more people are aware of this change in their lives.
Tune in to see Menopause Normalized Through a Therapist's Eyes...again.
This is one of those topics that Chris has been reluctant to cover because he wasn't sure how to broach it. Given his experience with some of his patients, he felt it is important to bring up this topic and make it a normal conversation that we can have in society. Menopause is something the women go through but many of them do not realize this is what is going on themselves. This will be a 2-part topic so we will start with what Menopause is and then look at when or how it occurs in woman.
Tune in to see Menopause Normalized Through a Therapist's Eyes.
This month we had a diagnostic show, another about what people are currently thinking about, and then one that a lot of people can relate to.
We started with talking about the diagnosis of schizophrenia, what it really is, and surprisingly how common it is. We switched to talking about the possibility of us being in a mental health crisis. We wrapped up the month by discussing the reality of shame someone goes through when they have a medical condition.
What did you think about the shows? Did you agree with the panel on these topics?
Tune in to see the July Month in Review Through a Therapist's Eyes.
What is the first thing that you think of when someone talks about a medical condition that makes people feel shame? I am sure anyone listening to this show will know of something or knows someone that has a condition that, while the person cannot do anything about it, they feel shame for having it. The panel looks at what is shame, why we need to be aware of it, what does it do to us medically, and how you can manage it.
Tune in to see Shame for Medical Conditions Through a Therapist's Eyes.
In the last few years, it seems like every time we turn around our world has been in one crisis after another. To add to that, in a recent survey of some people in the US, 90% of those polled think that we are in a mental health crisis. Do you think we are? What would you say might be the reason why so many people think this?
The panel breaks down what is a crisis, do they agree with this poll, and what can you do to help improve your mental health through times like these.
Tune in to see if We are in a Mental Health Crisis Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
What’s the point of having a panel of therapists if we don’t utilize them to share information about mental health illnesses. In this episode, we do a deep dive on schizophrenia. We talk about what schizophrenia is, how common it is in society, and what life is like for those that have it. Was there anything in this show that surprised you? Do you think you know someone that has schizophrenia? How would you handle yourself when interacting with someone that has it?
Tune in to See Schizophrenia Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
This month was a weird one as we only had two shows, but one of them was the introduction to something we have been spending months building. In episode 232, we introduce the This Will Not Defeat Me project that is designed to help those that have dealt with past trauma. To kick this off, we built a video experience for those that went through sexual abuse and talked to Chris Davios about his experience and what it means for him to work on this with us. The next episode was looking at the parallels of religion and mental health with Pastor Ray Hardee. Between him and our own John-Nelson, we had a great conversation covering the shift of religion and society over the last few decades.
Tune in to see the June Month in Review Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In this episode, we look to see what, if any, are the similarities between our mental health and religion. We bring in Paster Ray Hardee to discuss his experience at his church, what he preaches on, and how he leads his congregation when it comes to happiness.
Most of this show is spent allowing our guest Ray and our own panelist John-Nelson Pope talk about their experiences over that last few decades. This includes how they see religion as an important part of mental health, and how they have seen changes in society lead to our current state of mental health in America and around the world.
Tune in to see the Parallels with Mental Health and Religion Through a Therapist's Eyes.
After a few months of working behind the scenes, Through a Therapist's Eyes podcast wroked with Power of God Ministries & Media to create our first video experience to help those dealing with Past Traumas.
The first one is helping those that have experienced sexual trauma and are ready to start the journey to heal. This first step is crucial to allow you to work your way through the pain that was caused to you. That will begin the healing and can allow you to let go of the past so you can can get your live back on the path you want to go down.
If interested, go to https://www.thiswillnotdefeatme.com/after-sexual-abuse-course.
Tune in to see How This Will Not Defeat You Through a Therapist's Eyes.
This month we had great topics ranging from how nutrition can affect your mental health to what we control. The first show was important because the food you put into your body can give you a better chance to maintain a better mental health state. The next topic was discussing what do we really control emotionally. This allowed us to discuss our locus of control and how shifting it can help us manage ourselves in different situations. Finally, we wrapped up by asking the question, do we control our attraction? What do you think? Do you agree with the panel from the shows?
Tune in to see the May Month in Review Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
This show starts by asking the question "Are we in control of our own experience with attraction?"
We talk about the physical nature of attraction and how there are three different stages of romantic love: Lust, Attraction, and Attachment. During those phases our bodies will release specific hormones during each stage of a relationship. When then move on to the psychological aspect on how we handle attraction. Do we let those hormones take over? Do we continue the attraction to the other person even after the hormones have stopped being produced?
Tune in to see if We Do Control Attraction Through a Therapist's Eyes.
This is one of those questions that most people either think they know the answer or are afraid to really answer. What do we really control emotionally? When looking at how we act and how we let outside influences affect us are two ways we can start seeing what we really control. We talk about how sometimes not dealing with ourselves cause us to control others and how shifting your locus of control can make a big difference in how we let our emotions control us.
Tune in to see What Do We Really Control Emotionally Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
We re-introduce Cyrilla Purnell to the show, but this time we have an announcement that she will be joining Chris at his practice to help clients reach their mental and physical health goals through nutrition. They talk about how nutrition needs to start becoming a major foundation of a patient’s journey. They look at not only how food itself impacts your body, but also how your relationship with food impacts your mental health.
Tune in to see Nutrition Therapy Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
If you missed the last 3 episodes, you missed some pretty interesting topics. We started the month off by continuing our conversation on Addiction by discussing the impact after recovery and the estrangement of the family and friends of the addicts. The next week, we talked about womanizing and what that really is. Who normally does it and how you can avoid becoming a victim of it. We wrapped up the month with discussing conflict and how we need it in our life to grow, but normally people try to avoid it.
Tune in to see the April Month in Review Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
Inspired by a quote during a session, the Panel talks about the intrigue and attraction that humans have towards conflict. We look at what conflict does to a person and why conflict is good for growth and improvement. The biggest problem is that a lot of times people are either in a constant state of conflict or in a constant state of conflict avoidance. We look at the good and bad of conflict and then we give examples of conflict resolution you can use when needed.
Tune in to see Conflict Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
When a term like womanizer is brought up there are a lot of negative stereotypes and perceptions that come with it. As a show that likes to dispel myths, we wanted to do a deeper dive into what it really means to be a womanizer in today’s time. The panel looks at what it is, what are the effects of it and what are some of the common traits that come with people who are classified as womanizers. They then look further at what could cause people to act like this and give tips on how to avoid and get out of the cycle of womanizing.
Tune in to see What is Womanizing Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
After trying to cover this topic in episode 222, but being derailed by the question of “what is addiction”, the panel is talking about the impact of family when dealing with addictions. They start by looking at the topic of recovery and the reality that it is a continual process. As the addict struggles through that place in their life, the fact is that the family members and friends will need to also go through a recovery process as well.
Tune in to see Addiction Recovery, Estrangements & Family Dynamics Through a Therapist's Eyes.
How did this last month go? Did you find any help in episode 220 when we talked about wanting better self-esteem? Were you able to find ways to help you not take things personally in your marriage or with your family in episode 221? Did you get any clarity on what addiction is in Episode 222?
We get feedback from Adam and Neil to help recap each of these episodes and how they were received or understood by others outside of the therapy profession. What did you think about those shows?
Tune in to see the March Month in Review Through a Therapist's Eyes.
This show was supposed to about addiction recovery and the family dynamics, but as the panel started talking about addiction, it became clear that there is a lot of confusion about what addiction is. At one point the question came up about what is abuse and how is that different then addiction. This was a good question because it helped clarify the difference between the two and why there is more to an addiction then most people realize or want to admit.
Tune in to see What is Addiction Through a Therapist's Eyes.
When you are in a close relationship with anyone, there is the reality that when confronted by the other, you will be quick to get on the defensive. This is something that can cause a major problem in a relationship. You have to work on yourself to control your reaction because what is said is not always what you perceive it to be.
Tune in to see Why You Don’t Take Things Personally Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In a world of instant gratification and outside validation, one thing that can really help you through your daily struggles is to have better self-esteem. We know this is easier said than done. To get a good idea of what that entails, we look at what self-esteem means. How previous situations in your life can damage your self-esteem. We then wrap up the show by talking about how you can build or rebuild your self-esteem.
Tune in to see Better Self Esteem Through a Therapist's Eyes.
This last month the panel had great conversations around step parenting. They started with the boundaries and changes that appear when two families are brought together. They follow that up with looking at the positive that come with being and having a stepparent in a blended family. Then they finish the month by talking about how you can feel empowerment. Do you agree with their take on step parenting? Are you able to get yourself to a point that you can start feeling empowerment?
Tune in to see February Month in Review Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
Have you ever wondered about what people mean with they talk about being empowered? In this episode, the panel looks at what empowerment is. Explain the power structures in relationships. What living an empowered life is like and how to achieve empowerment. To wrap it up they talk about how to apply empowerment to the different aspects in your life.
Tune in to see How to Feel Empowerment Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
After last weeks show where we discuss the boundary adjustments and changes that a step parent brings to a relationship, this week the panel decides to focus on the celebration of step parents. They talk about the advantages that come with the addition to the family. They also talk about how important it is for not only the stepparent, but the biological parents to keep in mind what is best for the child and how their behavior affects them.
Tune in to see Part 2 of Step Parenting Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
This is a show that is a long time coming as we discuss step parenting and blended families. This topic has so many variations of possible family situations, that we decided that this will be just Part 1. In this episode we take a deep dive into the what is the role of step parent. We then discuss the boundary adjustments that have to happen as a new members become part of an existing family system.
Tune in to see Part 1 of Step Parenting Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
Did you catch the shows from January? We had some good ones this month starting with a great episode on Nutrition and your Mental Health with Cyrilla Purnell. We followed it up by looking at perspective and wrapped it up by asking the question if we are actually selfish when it comes to our marriage. Did you agree with the panel from those shows?
Tune in to see January Month in Review Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
With Chris doing therapy for almost 30 years, there is not much that is said in a session that really rattles him. But there was one question that he recently received that really made him rethink not only his professional opinion but also in his personal life. The question had to do with the idea of when you give more, you receive more, but is that true in relationships.
Tune in to see if We are Actually Selfish Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
Have you ever thought about the way you look at the world? Why what you are going through affects you differently than other people? A lot of this has to do with your perspective at that the time of your life. Our panel talks about how your perspective is developed, and how it operates. They then look at the effects of a negative perspective and a how to develop a positive one.
Tune in to see What is Your Perspective Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
This last month, the panel started out by talking about Intellectualization. Then they looked at whether you can Control Your Heart and Mind. Then wrapping up the month by talking about Dealing with Failure. Adam and Neil sit down with Chris to look at where the panel landed in the discussions and to see their opinion on what they thought about the shows.
Tune in to see the Month of December Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
On this show we have had a few conversations about nutrition but this time we brought in the expert Mrs. Cyrilla Purnell to discuss how much it affects your Mental Health. We look at not only what your food does to your mental health, but we also break down that your mental health can steer your food choices as well. This can either be a vicious or virtuous cycle depending how you choose what food you put into your body.
Tune in to see Mental Health and Your Nutrition Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
There are so many times in life that you will fail so this is a topic that everyone can relate to. The panel starts by talking about what is failure, and what does failure mean to you by looking at how you identify it. So how do you deal with the sense of grief that this brings when you fail? How do you overcome when an outcome happens that makes you feel like you failed?
Tune in to see Dealing with Failure Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In therapy there is a continual struggle is between what your emotions are telling you and what your brains says you should do. We have previously mentioned that your emotions are necessary for survival, but they can also lie to you. So how do you handle those situations where your emotions are dictating your logic. While it is hard to do, you can work to bring more balance between your heart and your mind in your day-to-day life.
Tune in to see if you Can Control Your Mind and Heart Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
Another month in the books with the TATE Panel. We go over the shows on Religious Trauma, How to Accept Yourself, and Political Trauma. Which show stood out to you the most? Do you agree with the panels thought about where they landed on the topics?
Tune in to see November Month in Review Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
When a person is dealing with a stressful situation, they will resort to many different copying mechanisms. In this episode, the panel dives into Intellectualization as one of those mechanisms. They look at how this can go past coping and will become a defensive mechanism if it is not addressed when it happens. This means that when in a relationship, intellectualization can cause stress to build between two people because the emotions that you are feeling are not properly expressed.
Tune in to see what Intellectualization is Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
We have recently talked a lot about the mental health trauma that organized religion can put people through, but not much has been mentioned about how politics can do the same thing. There is so much information and a lot of opinions that it is hard to know what is right and what is wrong. Then when someone takes the time to vote, they put a lot of pressure on themselves to vote for the “right” person.
Tune in to see Political Trauma Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In a day and time where everyone is looking to get social media attention, we discuss the topic of How to Accept Yourself. They look at how addressing this can help you attain the goals you are trying to attain in therapy. While this seems simple, there are barriers that you will face with trying to deal with acceptance of yourself. After addressing the barriers, the panel provides some solutions that you can use to help you.
Tune in to see How to Accept Yourself Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
After our first month with the new Panel, we bring back cohost Adam to give his perspective on the month that was. We also included Mr. John Pope to get his take on some of the topics he missed.
We went over the foundation of marriage, how emotions can drive you, and religious trauma. We recap the shows, what the panelists thoughts on the topic and Adam picks the show that he liked the best. Do you agree with him on which show stood out the most to you?
Tune in to See the October Month in Review Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
Most people are aware of the damage that a cult can do to its members, but what about the other experiences people can through with dealing with religious trauma. Chris and John sit down to discuss what it is means to go through religious trauma. John brings is decades of ministry work to give good insights of what can happen to members of churches and how those experiences should be handled to give them a change to recover.
Tune in to see Religious Trauma Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
How much do you think your day is dictated by your emotions? The panel discusses what are your primary emotions are and how they drive you. They look at early psychologist Adler and the importance of the social element to therapy. They then look at what emotions do for you and why they are crucial for human development and survival.
Tune in to see How Emotion Control Your Experiences Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
The show starts off the new panel to discuss what they feel are the Foundations of Marriage. They talk about what therapy methods they find the most effective and how marriage counseling has evolved. Has it become more effective than in the past? Do you think it is worth a couple to go to counseling even if they are not having problems?
Tune in to see the Foundation of Marriage Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
We did it!!! The show has made it to Episode 200. We introduce the new panel of therapists to accompany Chris. Each therapist is at a different part of their career and they each focus on different areas. This means we will have some great conversations about the different topics of the show regarding mental health.
To start off we will talk about EMDR and how it is used to help deal with traumatic experiences. Is it really the answer that some say it is to help patients deal with emotional distress?
Tune in to see EMDR Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
As the show approaches 200 episodes, Chris decides it is time to talk about how procrastinating. Producer Neil gives his insights as the master procrastinator as they talk about reasons why someone procrastinates, and what it’s like for those that struggle with it. During the research for the show, Chris realized that even though he never addresses it during therapy he noticed how much your mental health state affects it.
Tune in to see Procrastination Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
This episode does a deep dive on one of the subtopics on implicit bias and it is how you Refute Negative Messages. As a sub headline, Chris says this is about those messages that others have given you, unless they are true and usually, they are not. This means you must be able to build a way that you can take not only the messages you hear but also the ones you tell yourself and filter them in a way to know what is true and what is false. By the end of the show, you will be armed with tactics and ideas to help you through this.
Tune in to see how to Refute Negative Messages Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
Instead of this show being a host/co-host conversation, Chris and Matthew get to site down as friends to discuss the question “Do People Know How to Be Friends?” They look at what it means to be a friend and how to get friends. They talk about the hazards of friendships outside of marriage, and the transient nature of friendships. They finish the show by going through a list of some ways to solve common problems in a friendship.
Tune it to see if People Know How to Be Friends Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
We welcome to the show Daniel Gasser. He is a former drunk for over 30 years and since that time, he is working to help others that struggle with alcohol addiction. This was a fun discussion between a trained therapists and a recovered addict that pitted two trains of thought against each other. One is based on years of research and experience, and the other is what has worked for someone that struggled with addictions.
Tune in to see the Debate on Addiction Recovery Through a Therapist's Eyes.
We welcome to the show Daniel Gasser. He is a former drunk for over 30 years and since that time, he is working to help others that struggle with alcohol addiction. This was a fun discussion between a trained therapists and a recovered addict that pitted two trains of thought against each other. One is based on years of research and experience, and the other is what has worked for someone that struggled with addictions.
Tune in to see the Debate on Addiction Recovery Through a Therapist's Eyes.
In today’s society where we are in a constant state of stimulation and activities, we have a problem where we get to a point of numbness. We go through our day-to-day life following our routines and living our life doing the bare minimum. Today we look at how you can break through the cycle of numbness, develop a new pattern to live by and get back to being involved in every moment you experience.
Tune in the see why you should Stop Numbing and Start Living Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
This episode is an unintentional wrap up of our string of shows about the therapy process. We started with what to look for in therapy, how to get the most out of therapy, and now we talk about how to break up with a therapist. This is important because you must remember that therapy is about you and not the therapist. If you are not moving forward, you need to look at the possibly you need someone new. There is also the reality that you can “graduate” from therapy because you have put in the effort.
Tune in to see how to Break Up with Your Therapist Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
When looking at the statement Fearless parenting, it is not about being afraid of your children but that you are fearful for your children. This could be as simple as making sure they are safe when they play on the playground when they are younger. It could also be an internal fear you have that you are not doing what you, or society, thinks is the right way to raise them. We go over those and then ways you can manage those feelings of fear when you start having them.
Tune in the see Fearless Parenting Through a Therapist's Eyes.
After all the episodes we have done on this show, this is the first one where we go a little deeper on the grief process with a focus on broken heart syndrome specifically. We start with what exactly is this Broken Heart Syndrome. What are some of the causes or risk factors that could lead to it and the emotional factors someone might go as well? To wrap up the show they talk about ways to how to manage grief events to help make it through these tough, emotional times.
Tune in to see Broken Heart Syndrome Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
Human beings are amazing creatures that are built to survive and thrive even under the harshest conditions, but that doesn’t mean we need to do it alone. In this episode Chris looks at what we do after we experience a traumatic event. He looks at the cool on the outside mentality that we strive to achieve because we do not want to appear weak. This leads to overcompensating in other facets of our lives. Chris gives recommendations how we should respond to these situations to better manger ourselves and our relationships.
Tune in to see How Cool Humans Can Be Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
What started out to be just a current topic at the beginning of the show, the discussion of the mass shooting event at the school turned into a more in-depth conversation between two therapists and the effects of mental health that lead to situations like this. They dive into what kids go through, how they can be aware of their peers’ struggles, what the school systems can do or have been doing, and what kind of involvement adults can have with children to help them manage their mental health.
Tune in to see Mass Shooting Events Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
Inside human nature there is an innate need for connections and friendships, but the question that we decided to try to tackle is, can you have a friend that is the opposite sex when married? A lot of times we acquire these friends through our workplace because of the exposure of many different people. We discuss the reality of what can happen as connections are made and friendships start to form outside of the marriage.
Tune in to see if Workplace and Friendships are A Danger to Marriage Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In this show, Chris discusses the question that almost every person looking to get into a serious relationship should ask themselves, When Do Marital Commitments Begin? This question may seem simple, but when you look at the commitment of marriage and what that means to someone, it can be a very heavy decision for someone. We look the fact that you need to be aware of what is important to you and that will give you the questions that you should be asking your partner before you talk about marriage.
Tune in to see When Do Marital Commitments Begin Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
With Chris starting his speaking engagements, he wanted to go over some of the topics he covers in his presentation about the Methodical Management of the Mental Health. We start with a foundation of human nature and how we can be affected when dealing with life issues and the stress they bring. Then they talk about the 3 steps that you can go through to tackle the initial problem and build yourself up to be able to manage those types of situations in the future.
Tune in to see the Management of Stress and Life Issues Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
As a continuation on the topic of getting the most out of therapy, Chris welcomes therapist Melissa Enoch. She has been practicing longer than Chris (by 1 year) and has been primarily focusing on mandated therapy vs voluntary therapy. This difference allows her to bring a fresh perspective of the course she follows with her patients and the important of being efficient with her sessions. Tune in to see How to Get the Most Out of Therapy Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
With coaching becoming a multi-billion-dollar industry, Chris talks with our resident coach Craig to look at the difference between therapy and coaching. They go through the process of working with a therapist and working with a coach to give a baseline to start. They look at the requirements that it takes to become each and then they breakdown how they work with their clients. With that, the guys give some guidance to which might be right for you.
Tune in to See Therapy vs. Coaching Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In this episode, we welcome back Craig to talk about the natural human defense mechanism that is Blame. While we use is similarly to how we use rationalizing, blame is more of a way to defect then it is to justify. To get a better understanding, they start with what is blame, and what are the effects of it. They dive into how blame is a big part in marriage or any close relationships and then wrap up the show with ways you can avoid the blame game.
Tune in to see Blame Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
Have you ever been in a situation where you talk your self into justifying your actions or someone else’s? This is what it means to rationalize. Chris leads the conversion from a point of understanding of what rationalization is and how you use it in your life. Some of the ways that we use rationalization is as a defense, justification, understanding and as protection. The goal you want to strive for is the balance between those uses and developing a destructive habit of over-rationalizing everything.
Tune in to see Why Do We Rationalize Things So Much Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In this episode, Chris and Cortney talk about one of the silent and most harmful feeling that appears in a marriage or any relationship. This show is all about resentment.
To address this, you must know what resentment are and what causes it to appear in a relationship. As they start to appear, you can see all the ways that the marriage is affected by these feelings, so you must learn to cope with them if you want the relationship to continue.
While resentments are normal to appear in any person, we must take to time to look at the how we can prevent those feelings from becoming chronic and toxic in a relationship.
Tune in to see Resentments in Marriage Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
As a follow-up to last weeks episode talking about children with special needs, cohost Cortney finishes her month by talking about the education system and they crucial part it plays in the mental health of todays children. To understand where we are, they start by talking about the origin of the modern-day systems and the current struggles our kids are going through. To wrap up the episode, Chris and Cortney do their best to offer their suggestions to possible answers for kids and the education system they are in.
Tune in to see Education’s Part in Mental Health Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In this episode Chris brings talks to two people that have firsthand experience when it comes to what it is like for parents that have children with special needs. We have cohost Cortney who has been raising her own children with special needs and Chris’s wife who has been working in a government agency that specializes in working on early intervention for kids that have special needs. One key they cover is the need to understand that each child as completely different needs and you have to take the time to work with them. Tune in to see the Mental Toll of Parenting Children with Special Needs Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In this episode, Chris and Cortney talk about what relationships in a workplace with a focus on how you can deal with a difficult boss. They start my looking at the purpose of personality inventories and why they think the premise of EFT is a better fit when looking at working with others. Then they talk about how managing yourself is a start to helping you work through challenges that you might experience. At the end they go over some things to look for in a good employee and a good boss.
Tune in to see How to Deal with a Difficult Boss Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In this episode Chris talks to fellow entrepreneur Matthew Hanks to discuss the process that a person can go through when they make that leap to start their own business. They talk about the importance of the mindset when starting, and what it means to be an entrepreneur. They discuss that it can be lonely going this path but go over some things you can do to combat loneliness.
Tune in to see Your Vision Entrepreneurship Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In this episode Chris goes over the topic of narcissistic personality disorder. He starts by looking at what narcissism is according to the DSM, then he looks at what life looks like when you are in a close relationship with someone who has it. To help give you a better context of the disorder, he also looks at what might have caused it for them and then finishes the show by talking about ways to help cope with it.
Tune in to see Narcissistic Personality Disorder Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In this episode Chris talks about the question that most parents face when raising their children today, filtering. They start the episode by discussing what is the end goal for parents when they make the decision to filter what their children experience. They talk about the areas of everyday life that your children go through and ways that you could filter them if you decide to.
Tune in to see How to and What to Filter for Your Kids Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
Welcome back to part 2 of Implicit bias and why we do what we do. In this episode Chris looks at what are some ways implicit biases can affect your positively, and what your goal should be when dealing with the negative aspects. As a therapist, the number 1 priority is de-escalation when the bias takes over. Once you get a handle on that, then you can develop a plan to follow that will help you adjust the biases that are causing problems. Tune in to see part 2 of why do we believe what we believe Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
Have you ever had a time when your reaction to a situation did not seem to make sense? That could because of something you experienced in the past that is now engrained into your subconscious. In this episode Chris brings back Matthew Hanks to talk to him about implicit bias. What it is, how it affects us, and what you can do to help minimize the impact it can have on you and those closest to you.
Tune in to see part 1 of why do we believe what we believe Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
As humans we need relationships, but sometimes they do not last forever. Kasie not only uses her therapy education and experiences to help you get through them, but she also talks about how she worked through the demise of her own past relationships. They talk about the process of grief that you go through, the fact the everyone is affected differently and then she gives you some things you can do to help you move forward. Tune in to see Dating After Demise Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
Adding to last week’s episode about resolutions, Kasie talks about one of the 5 that most people look to change - money. Just like last time, this episode is more about the mental state behind building and sustaining wealth versus the principles a person must do to accumulate it. She discusses with Chris what wealth really is and about five concepts that you would go through when trying to achieve it. One key to think about when listening is that wealth is not just about money.
Tune in to see How to Live Wealthy Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
After a couple weeks, we are ready to go in 2022 with co-host and fellow therapist Kasie Morgan. Since it is a new year, she decided it was important to discuss resolutions. She starts by giving us a quick history lesson where they came from and then she talks to Chris about why resolutions are a struggle for people. She then finishes by giving some recommendations on how you should pick your resolution to make them more successful. Tune in to see New Year’s Resolutions Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
This episode Chris talks with both Adam and Neil about what the holidays mean for your mental health. They look at all the different areas of the holidays that can cause a strain. Everything from family get togethers, family traditions, expectations parents put on themselves, and the need to try to accommodate everyone one. As a wrap up to 2021 they emphasize one last time the cornerstone to mental health: self-care.
Tune in to see the Holidays Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In this episode Chris looks at the other side of addiction by talking about the family dynamic is creates and the effect is having on each person. The primary topic that he wants to look at is the change that comes with continual traumatic experience and the shift to a survival mode. This mode is something the becomes engrained in each person and continues with them well after the situation changes.
Tune in to see Families with Addiction, Survival Mode Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
It’s the holiday season and Chris looks at how money can affect your mental health during this time. The key discussion is what is money’s meaning to people. While it’s just an object, the type of emotions that it can draw out of people can range from happiness to shame. How events earlier in your life can dictate your reaction and behaviors now. Then he provides some quick ideas to help you through this time of the year.
Tune in to see How Money Affects Your Mental Health Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
Craig takes the lead again and this time he talks about the effects of your mental health when you have a purpose. At the start of the show, he goes more in depth about the effects of nose breathing and how it should be the foundation of your daily practice. He walks Chris through how your breathing exercise is a great time that you can use to evaluate your current state and look deeper into you purpose.
Tune in to see Your Purpose Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
After all the shows we have done, Chris realized he never covered the topic Shame and how much it sucks. He has talked about how it makes you feel and how you can cope with those feelings, but now he will look at all aspects of shame. What it is, what causes it, and how it affects us. We then wrap up the show with ways that you can combat shame and the behaviors it causes us to do.
Tune in to see how Shame Sucks Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
We welcome back Mr. Craig Graves to the show, but this time we let him lead as he talks about Mental Toughness and what you can to do build that skill. He gives us a history lesson in why he started coaching and where Unbeatable Mind came from. Hint…it deals with the high success rate of candidates that complete Navy Seals training. Then he goes over the Big 4 that are used to instill and grow your mental toughness.
Tune in to see if Mental Toughness is a Skill You Can Learn Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In the last show with Cortney, Chris breaks down our core beliefs and how they affect us. He first covers the assumptions we carry with us and how this is the basis for Cognitive Behavior Therapy. They talk about what are some examples of how our assumptions can decide how we react to situations and then how we can learn to identify them. Once we learn to see them, now we can work to move in a different direction for improvement.
Tune in to see how we Challenge the Assumptions We Live By Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In this episode we look at the possibility of new dating patterns today and address the question that most couples face at some point - When do we move in together? They look at the reasons why couples would move in together, as well as the reasons why it would be worth waiting. In the end they provide their thoughts on this important decision and what the real criteria you should be looking at when moving in together.
Tune in to see New Dating Patterns Through a Therapist’s Eyes
In this episode Chris and Cortney go from hosts to parents and talk about raising their teenagers. They work through what it means to have teenagers, how the teens think, and what they are going through. As the adult there are things that you need to do to be understanding by using your x-ray goggles and help them navigate this difficult time of change.
Tune in to see Parenting the Teenager Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In this episode Chris talks Self-Acceptance with new co-host, his editor, Cortney Donelson. He then talks about the opposite of that, self-critique. This is the demon that can lead you down a path of insecurities and self-destruction. He then talks about how you can learn to go from acceptance to loving yourself and how that then spills out to other people and how we treat them.
Tune in to see Self-Acceptance Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
Kasie wraps up her time as co-host by talking to Chris about the importance of being mindful and fully immersing yourself in the present. She discusses how your early live experiences influence how your mind and body are triggered and react now. Then she gives you some tips to get your mind back into focus when you start to wander.
Tune in to see Complete Immersion in Being Present Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
Kasie wraps up her time as co-host by talking to Chris about the importance of being mindful and fully immersing yourself in the present. She discusses how your early live experiences influence how your mind and body are triggered and react now. Then she gives you some tips to get your mind back into focus when you start to wander.
Tune in to see Complete Immersion in Being Present Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
Kasie continues to provide her great insight in helping building resiliency when dealing with one thing that most people have gone through and that is when a relationship ends. For a lot of people that means a divorce. She discusses what are some signs you can look for as a relationship starts to fade, and what are some of the first steps you can take to recover. Her primary recommendation is to look at Solution Focused Recovery.
Tune in to see Divorce Recovery Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
We live your lives full of positive thoughts and lifestyles, but what if we told you that might be toxic for you and your relationships. Kasie look at the mental wellbeing of those people that try to live a Good Vibes only type of life. She goes over what this toxic positivity looks like, and why it could be hurting you more than it is helping. She then wraps up the show talking about solutions to avoid getting to that point.
Tune in to the see Toxic Positivity Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In this episode Chris sits down with someone familiar with the AA 12 steps program to discuss the process and how it has helped him stay sober for the last 13 years. They talk about his life before AA, what lead him to get started, and what his life is like now. Chris then walks through each step to show how each one can be applied to everyone when dealing with their own struggles.
Tune in to see The Twelve Steps of Recovery for All of Us Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
This month Kasie steps in as host and she starts by talking about Generational Stereotypes. This means Chris gets to be on the hot seat answering the hard questions. She starts by covering what the requirements are for the different generations. Then talks about the uniqueness of today's society because there can be up to 5 generations in a family. They go over some suggestions on how to make multi-generational interaction work.
Tune in to the see Generational Stereotypes Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In this episode Chris sits down with fellow therapist Kasie to talk about what makes therapy work. They start by talking about what you should do when considering therapy and how you should pick your therapist. What you need to do once you commit to the sessions and what the therapist should do as well. Therapy is not a one-sided relationship, both parties need to be actively involved to make the changes that the patient needs.
Tune in to see What Makes Therapy Work Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In this episode Chris welcomes his oldest son and a friend to talk about the big life adjustments that happen after they graduate from high school. They look at how those changes have affected them and what they have done to help them make it through this time in their life. On top of that they also have had to deal with the reality of the COVID pandemic too.
Tune in to see Life Adjustments Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
Would you call yourself an Open Book or a Private person? In this episode Chris looks at those two personality types to discuss what that means for you and how these ties to boundaries. He discusses why boundaries are there for you and your relationships. He looks at what healthy boundaries look like and then he gives you some ideas that will help you set them.
Tune in to see Boundaries Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In this episode Chris talks about chapter 11 in his book, Accepting Things is Part of your Emotional Growth. One of the first thing that a person will do is Deny, Deny, Deny when something is hard for them to address about themselves. This means that when someone is looking to grow, they must first look at the parts that need to change that they are denying. While it is a struggle, the growth you will go through is worth it.
Tune in to see Accepting Things is Part of Your Emotional Growth Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
Chris welcomes in fellow therapist Anne Jurchak to sit down and discuss her experiences helping those affected by homelessness. They breakdown some of the common misconceptions for those that are dealing with it. How her organization works with and helps people that come to them. They close the episode by looking at how relationships are a key aspect of what is needed to not only help prevent homelessness but how it can get people back on their feet and headed in the right direction.
Tune in the see Experiences with Homelessness in America Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
Have you ever had a traumatic experience and for the following 30 days you struggle with affects from it? If so, then you have acute stress disorder. Chris will call this PTSD lite when describing it because a person will go through the same symptoms and struggles as someone with PTSD.
They discuss what you should be looking out for when you think you have it and provides some steps to help you get through it.
Tune in to see Acute Stress Disorder Through a Therapist's Eyes.
In this Episode Chris revisits the topic of Moral Courage with co-host Matthew Hanks.
Would they take action if they were in a situation that could cause harm for themselves or someone close to them?
What goes through a person's mind when they come across situations that they know are wrong or is dangerous?
What must a person do to have moral courage?
Why is it hard for someone to speak up in situations like these?
Tune in to see Moral Courage Revisited Through a Therapist's Eyes.
In this episode Chris welcomes our new co-host Matthew Hanks to discuss Empty Nesting. They go through what it means to have an empty nest. Address the concern that as kids get bigger, their problems also get bigger. They look at what it really means when letting go so your kids can grow and be on their own. Finally, they look at ways that can help you with the transition to the new part of your life.
Tune in to see If Empty Nesting Is Really an Empty House Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In this episode, Chris starts a 2-part podcast series on a healthy family environment with Unbeatable Mind coach Nicole Berschback. They talk about the Love and Logic parenting ideology and move on to the concern of codependency. After that, they dive into the idea of how self-development is key to making sure that you are the best you can be for yourself and your family.
Tune in to see A Healthy Family Environment in Parenting Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In this episode the guys talk about one of the reasons why you might be stuck and that is avoidance. They start by breaking down what avoidance is. They look at why it can take hold on you. Then they give you ways that you can manage avoidance to keep you moving forward. even though avoidance seems like a negative behavior, they wrap up the episode by talking about why it could be a good thing.
Tune in to see How to get out of Avoidance Through a Therapist's Eyes.
In this episode Chris relies on co-host Adam to get more insight on what it is like using dating apps. They start the conversation by bringing up the fact that Chris’s parents met because of a newspaper personal and look at how times have changed since then. They go through the many different apps available, how these apps are used, and while these apps have helped a lot of people connect, the amount of choices they provide can lead to issues with a user’s mental health.
Tune in to see Dating in a Social Media Environment Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In this episode, the guys continue the conversation about the different stages of parenting by talking about how to cope with aging parents. This stage in life is a major transition for both the parent and the child and is something that is handled differently from culture to culture. They talk about care taking role, how this responsibility should be handled, and then they go over different ideas on how to cope with this change.
Tune in to see How to Cope with Aging Parents Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In this episode, Chris sits down with new co-host Adam to go back and talk about the Lost Decade, the ten-year window parents go through when their kids are aged 4 to 14 years old. They talk about the reality of the shift in priorities as you have children, and as they grow. The effects this has on the parent and child relationship. Some tips you can follow to help maintain yourself as a person when you become a parent.
Tune in to see how you can Maintain Yourself While Parenting Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In this episode, we welcome back fellow therapist Kasie Morgan to discuss the effects hormones might be having on your mental health. They start by covering what hormones are and that there are hundreds in our body. Because of this, those in the medical field are starting to see that the hormones not only affect the person’s body, but also their mental health.
Tune in to see How Hormones might affect Mental Health Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
The guys sit down to look at that old adage “The Only Constant is Change”. They talk about the reasons people struggle as they go through changes. They look at the idea that change can be good for someone even if it does not seem like it at the time. Then they wrap up the show with how someone can cope when they go through a change whether it is their decision or not. Plus, the guys have an announcement about upcoming changes to the show.
Tune in to see Why is Change so Hard Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
After talking about what is it like to be a part of a cult, the guys welcome back La Vonne Earl to discuss the next steps that must be taken to help people that have experienced religious trauma. La Vonne discusses the steps she goes through to help a person rebuild themselves so they can move forward. These include dealing with denial, validation of the feelings they have, and helping them handle the freedom they now have.
Tune in to see Recovering from the Cult Mentality Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In this episode the guys discuss the stigma around Borderline Personality Disorder and why it is so misunderstood. They talk about what it is like when you have it, and how it is similar to another common disorder. When someone is experiencing this, it affects their relationships as much as it does themselves and the guys give some guidance on ways those close to the person can help.
Tune in to see Why is Borderline Personality Disorder So Misunderstood Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
The guys finish their conversation with retired police officer Mr. Chris Lowrance by talking about what needs to happen going forward. Mr. Lowrance talks about some of the changes needed in the department that he retired from. They discuss the new societal norms of those joining the force and the challenges they face everyday because of how law enforcement is now perceived.
Tune in to see the Police Office Experience and Changes Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
The guys continue talking to Mr. Chris Lowrance about ways that law enforcement can make improvements to their people and to the communities they serve. They wrap up the last suggestions to help handle the stress from their job and start the conversation about could be done to mend the negative perception of law enforcement in society.
Tune in to see the Police Office Experience and Improvements Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
The guys start off this week discussing coping and how to handle the transition after being on the police force with Mr. Chris Lowrance. They start by talking about what an officer can do to cope with the situations they go through while on the job and then how they can handle life after they retire and go back to being a civilian.
Tune in to see the Police Office Experience and Coping Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
The guys now talk about life after retirement with Mr. Chris Lowrance. After almost 30 years on the force, he sees what the time on the force did to him and others he worked with. Because of that, he decided he was going to do an across the country bike ride to bring awareness to the Blue Help organization. Many active and retired first responders do not address their mental health until it is too late.
Tune in to see the Police Officer Experience and Support Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
The guys continue their conversation with Mr. Chris Lowrance by talking about what it was like as a police officer and the trauma they go through. Mr. Lowrance opens up about situations that affected him. How police officers try to cope and manage themselves after those traumatic experiences. How being on a police officer changed how he perceived everything even when he was not on duty.
Tune in to see the Police Officer Experience and Trauma Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
The guys sit down with recently retired police officer Chris Lowrance. They talk about who Mr. Lowrance is, what got him into Law Enforcement, and what it was like working as a police officer. They then discuss what it is like working in any area of public safety, and how those experiences affect who you are and the relationships you build.
Tune in to see the Police Officer Experience Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
The guys wrap up the week talking about the Daily Behavior of Adults with ADD. When an Adult has ADD, the world will view them differently then when they were children. They look at what personality traits they have, how they are perceived in relationships, and the fact that usually adults have had time to learn how to cope and manage their ADD tendencies.
Tune in to see Daily Behavior for an Adult when they have ADD Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
The guys continue talking about the Daily Behavior of someone with ADD. This episode they focus on what that looks like when a kid has it. They go over what behaviors can be expected. What could possibly be causing, or amplifying ADD tendencies. They then talk about the difference between when a child is being a kid or if they are diagnosed with ADD.
Tune in to see Daily Behavior for a Kid when they have ADD Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
This week the guys go back to the subject of Attention Deficit Disorder or ADD and how it plays a part in a person’s daily behavior. They talk about the different types of ADD, how it affects people whether they are children or adults, and possible reasons for the increase in diagnosis of ADD.
Tune in to see the first part of Daily Behavior with ADD Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
The guys wrap up the discussion about Gottman’s four horseman of bad behaviors in a marriage by covering Contempt. Usually when this horseman arrives, it is after a long time of hurt for one or both people in the relationship. Even though it is very hard to come back from this, Chris and Craig provide actions you can take now to start making improvements to your relationships to keep these horsemen away.
Tune in to see Contempt Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
The guys continue to talk about bad behaviors in marriage by going over defensiveness and stonewalling. When working on keeping a healthy relationship or trying to improve an already strained one, these two behaviors will cause your relationship to stall. These can also lead to the final horseman of Gottman’s that we will talk about tomorrow.
Tune in to see Defensiveness and Stonewalling Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
After going over the Golden Circle of Marriage last week, the guys look at bad behaviors of marriage by talking about Gottman’s Four Horsemen of Marriage. This episode introduces criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling, and contempt. They then go deeper into criticism by talking about what it is, why someone would become critical, and the effect it has on the other partner.
Tune in to see Criticism Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
The guys close the Golden Circle of Marriage talking about Receiving. As the final piece in a good marriage relationship, receiving shows that you are accepting your partner as they express and convey how they feel and think. Sometimes this might be a struggle for both of you, but it is one of the great parts of a long-lasting marriage.
Tune in to see Receiving in the Golden Circle of Marriage Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
The guys continue around the Golden Circle of Marriage by discussing what it means to Express and Convey in a marriage. They go over how each person expresses themselves differently depending on their personality. Each person needs to be aware of that and how their partner will receive what they are saying. That person then needs to take the time to convey what they are saying is understood.
Tune in to see Expressing and Conveying in the Golden Circle of Marriage Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
The guys open the new podcast format by discussing the Golden Circle of Marriage. The first part of the circle is acceptance of your Spouse. You would think that it would be easy to accept someone that you have committed to, but Chris discusses the struggle that happens with each person. Acceptance is also a continual process as the relationship changes and grows.
Tune in to see Acceptance in the Golden Circle of Marriage Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In this episode the guys recap that last two episodes about parenting and spoiled children. They provide action steps you can follow to help you with your parenting and help raise children that are not spoiled. Before they dive into that, Chris discusses the Facebook Oversight Board that was created to give an unbiased committee to help tackle the question of what posts should be allowed and what should be removed. We also announce that we will be changing the format of the show.
Tune in to see What Parents Can Do Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In this episode the guys sit down to discuss what a spoiled child really is. You have seen them at stores and playgrounds throwing tantrums and making a scene. Does that mean that all those kids are spoiled? Chris breaks down what could be going on with them, what lead to that point, and what you can do as a parent to help your kid not become spoiled.
Tune in to see what it really means to be a spoiled child Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In this episode the guys sit down together and talk about the hopelessness and helplessness that you might go through when parenting. Today the pressure from social media and society can cause a lot of depression because of judgement. This puts a lot of stress on your mental state when taking care of your children. Chris addresses these issues and then he goes into what you can do to become empowered. Being a parent is not just about you, but about your relationship with your children and this is something that you can control.
Tune in to see Hopelessness and Helplessness in Parenting Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In this episode, the guys welcome back Tom Dutta, The Quiet Warrior. After a great 1st episode, Chris and Craig took up Tom’s invitation to come back on the show as he dives in further about the importance of corporate culture. In this impromptu part 2 of CEO Anxiety, Tom discusses how mental health awareness plays into the corporate environment. He explains to the guys what courage culture is and why that is the type of environment you want to create. Everything in a corporation starts from the top and the company follows from their example.
Tune into to see CEO Anxiety Part II with Tom Dutta Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In this show the guys talk CEO mental health and anxiety with Tom Dutta, CEO, business leader and #1 international best seller. He brings his expertise with mental health and relationship in corporate America. Tom was a CEO of multiple companies in multiple industries and a traumatic brain injury changed his perception of mental health in a corporate environment. His view of mental health in a corporate changed 2.5 years ago, now he spreads the message of lifting the stigma of mental health in corporate America through his book, podcast and social media.
Tune in to see CEO anxiety and mental health Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In this episode the guys invited La Vonne Earl to the show. La Vonne is a life coach at YKI coaching who specializes in helping people with Religious trauma recovery. She shares her experiences with being in a cult, getting out of the cult, and she shares tips on how others can do the same.
Tune in this episode to see Cults Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
In part 2 of the conversation with Dr. Craig Chepke the guys continue the discussion on Ketamine as a treatment for depression.
Dr. Chepke takes a holistic approach to mental health including psychotherapeutic interventions, physical health and wellness through exercise, dietary modification, and supplementation.
Tune in to see Ketamine Through a Therapist’s Eyes!
In this fascinating conversation the guys talk to Dr. Craig Chepke. Dr. Chepke takes a holistic approach to mental health including psychotherapeutic interventions, physical health and wellness through exercise, dietary modification, and supplementation.
Another interesting thing and the topic of the show is his use of the psychedelic ketamine to treat depression. Many don’t know that this treatment has been approved by the FDA for over twenty years.
The conversation revolves around the treatment, it’s requirements, and Dr. Chepke’s experiences treating depression with the drug. And believe it or not Dr. Chepke begins to change Chris’s admitted skepticism to the use of psychedelics to treat these conditions.
Tune in to see Ketamine Through a Therapist’s Eyes!
Continuing the theme of Hope, the guys bring in Casey Stevens to talk about healing. She is a highly trained traditional therapist that incorporates many non-traditional practices that she uses to help her clients.
When she starts working with a new patient it always begins with the traditional therapy practices and because of her expertise, she knows when to bring in alternate healing practices. With over 30 different holistic trainings and accreditations, she has plenty of options to best help her patients heal!
Tune is to see Holistic Alternative Energy Medicine Through a Therapist’s Eyes!
After a rough 2020, the guys sit down to discuss 2021 with a focus on Hope. They look at what it Hope really is. How to create a sense of hopefulness. What you can do to maintain that sense of hopefulness you created. They also cover steps you can take to avoid losing it.
Tune in to this episode to see Hope Through a Therapist’s Eyes!
Kasie Morgan is the newest member of Chris’s practice and she sits down with the guys to discuss her experience with an abusive relationship. We talk about the cycle an abusive relationship can go through that can keep someone involved. She then reveals what she did to get out of it, to be able to move on, recover, and heal.
Tune in to see How You Can be Deceived in Dating Through a Therapist’s Eyes!
Aaron Garcia was not raised in a broken family, but a decision one night changed his life that would send him down the path of drug addiction and trafficking. Aaron talks with the guys about the path his life took, where he ended, and how he was able to get himself back. He talks about where he is going and how he was able to find purpose to help.
Tune into this episode to see Drug Addiction and Trafficking Through a Therapist’s Eyes!
Leslie Nafus is a #1 Amazon International Best Selling author, professional copywriter, coach, speaker, wife, mom and lifelong entrepreneur who helps women & men become better entrepreneurs by teaching them the foundational skills they need to start and grow a successful business.
In this episode she comes on to talk about her experience with trauma and healing.
Tune into this episode to see Trauma and Healing Through a Therapist’s Eyes!
If your spouse or a loved one has experienced trauma in the past how to you talk to them about it?
In this episode Chris lays out the do’s and don'ts of having these discussions. He takes the listener through his “trauma rules of therapy”.
Tune in to see ‘talking to traumatized loved ones’ Through a Therapist’s Eyes!
Veteran suicide is a huge problem. Some studies say as many as 22 vets per day are taking their own lives.
In this episode the guys talk about the issue and encourage veterans who need help to get it. The soldiers are not committing suicide because of the way they receive treatment, but because they are NOT receiving it. The guys also talk about problems with the VA and the Government as it relates to taking care of our veterans.
Tune in to this episode to see the VA and veteran treatment Through a Therapist’s Eyes!
We've done a few shows on Social Media and Mental Health but we do something a little different here. Chris and Craig started this show, stopped it, watched the "The Social Dilemma" on Netflix, and came back to give their thoughts.
Tune into this episode to see "The Social Dilemma" and Mental Health Through a Therapist's Eyes!
In this episode we talk about Chapter 19 in Chris’s upcoming book. Chapter 19 is on Taking Action!
Taking action has tons of benefits for our mental health while not taking action or procrastinating can wreak havoc on our mental state.
The guys share some tips on ways to be more decisive and take action even if we’re not 100% sure what the best path is. Taking some action is better than doing nothing.
Tune in to this episode to see Taking Action Through a Therapist’s Eyes!
Join us in welcoming Trish Murray to the show to talk about being single. Trish has never been married and talks about her experience with being single and how it’s changed over the years.
Being a therapist herself she talks about EFT, how she manages emotions, her friends and family, and options for having children for singles.
Tune into this episode to see “Being Single” Through a Therapist’s Eyes!
Election Anxiety! No that’s not a diagnosable condition but a lot of people are experiencing anxiety, fear, anger, and a lot of emotions because of the election.
In this episode the guys invite Neil, our new producer, on to the show to have an open conversation about the election and the emotions that go along with it.
Tune into this episode to see the US Election Through a Therapist’s Eyes!
If you’ve listened to our show you have heard Chris talk about the dangers of sex and porn addictions. We’ve done two shows with Joshua Shea who shared his experiences with porn and sex addiction.
But what about the casual porn user; someone who looks at porn but is not addicted. What impact does that have on someone’s mental health? Or does it have any impact at all?
In this show we explore and answer those questions.
Tune in to see Pornography and Mental Health Through a Therapist’s Eyes!
Now that we are clear on EFT (listen to the last show) we can start building on that to solidify our marriages.
In this episode we talk about Managing Expectations in Marriage. We all have expectations whether they are part of our conscious or unconscious. We develop these expectations from experiences in life including our parents, our childhood, past relationships, and other things. All these experiences mold our beliefs.
If our spouse doesn’t live up to these expectations conflict can arise. So how do we manage all these expectations?
Tune in see Marriage Expectations Through a Therapist's Eyes!
One of our most popular episodes was Episode #11 on EFT and Marriage Counseling.
In this episode the guys revisit the topic and talk about Abandonment and Engulfment, the two traits that are the basis of EFT. Chris says this is the foundation of his marriage therapy approach and says he has better success with marriage counseling since he integrated the concepts into his practice. It has completely changed his approach to marriage counseling.
Want to understand your spouse better? Don’t miss this episode.
Tune in to see EFT Through the Eyes of a Therapist!
The term “Defunding the Police” has become a political hotbed in recent weeks and months. Some say it means just that, taking money from police and reducing the force. Others say it means reallocating funds to change the way police work.
In this episode Chris and Crag continue the conversation after the episode with Carole Shrader to the go a little deeper on what it means to “Defund”. Maybe the answer is to actually INCREASE funding.
Tune in to this episode to see “Equipping the Police” Through a Therapist’s Eyes!
The term “Defunding the Police” has become a political hotbed in recent weeks and months. Some say it means just that, taking money from police and reducing the force. Others say it means reallocating funds to change the way police work.
In this episode we invite Carole Shrader to the show to share some personal experiences of police interactions with the mentally ill and we examine what it means to “Defund”. Maybe the answer is to actually INCREASE funding.
Tune in to this episode to see “Defunding Reframed” Through a Therapist’s Eyes!
In this episode we invite Clair Thetford to the show to talk about Nutrition and Mental Health. How do the foods we eat effect our mental state?
We talk about carbs, fats, micronutrients, macronutrients, the link between the gut and the brain, and much more.
Tune in to this episode to see Nutrition and Mental Health Through a Therapist’s Eyes!
Burnout is defined as a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged stress. Burnout is common especially in the trying times we are in at the present moment. It is as commonplace as grief and depression.
How does burnout impact our mental health and what can we do about it? The guys talk about some solutions in this episode.
Tune in to see Burnout Through a Therapist’s Eyes!
People spend hours working on their physical health. But did you know your Mental Health can be worked just like a muscle?
In this episode the guys talk about building Mental Health using strategies such as Self-Care, Breathing, Journaling, Exercise, Friendships, Nutrition, and others. Implementing some or all of these techniques can make you more mentally and emotionally resilient.
Tune in to see Mental Health Strategies Through a Therapist’s Eyes!
The guys welcome Cortney and Marc Donelson back to the show to discuss forgiveness in marriage.
They are a happily married couple for 21 years, but Marc had an addiction that he was dealing with that he had to tell Cortney during the 13th year. At that time, he was unsure if his life would unravel and he would lose everything he had.
Through the power of prayer, digging into the Bible, and listening to God, forgiveness was achieved, and the relationship was salvaged. Since then, Cortney and Marc have built a ministry to help couples through their marriages, the good, the bad, and the ugly.
Tune into this episode to learn about the power of forgiveness Through a Therapist’s Eyes!
Janice Holly Booth is a National Geographic author who chronicled her solo adventure travels in a book called “Only Pack What You Can Carry.”
In this episode she joins the guys and shares how she used challenges to help her overcome fear, manage her emotions, and build her courage muscle in a process she calls “Letting Go”. She also shares how you can do the same in your own life.
Tune in to see “Letting Go” Through a Therapist’s Eyes!
The guys continue onto part 2 talking to Scotty Reid about Racism and look for answers to stop it.
After discussing some current events in our town with a Confederate Soldier monument and how Mental Health plays into that, the guys continue talking about what it would take to help society with the issue of Racism. Scotty Reid gives great insight adds what actions people need to do to stop racism. Scotty also shares personal experience with Racism long ago as a child that still affects him viscerally today. Afterward, Chris and Craig continue to go over different ideas on how different people have provided ways to help and create a more harmonious life through good mental health practices.
Tune into this episode to listen to Part 2 to see Racism Through a Therapist’s Eyes and a coach!
The guys are back after a little break and they invite Scotty Reid to the show to talk about Racism.
There are some things going on in the local community that relate directly to the racial issues that are going on in our country and Scotty has some interesting insights. They talk about current affairs, statues and monuments, the police, George Floyd and how it all relates to our Mental Health. They also ask and talk about the answer, “what is the answer to Racism?”.
Tune into this episode to see Racism Through a Therapist’s Eyes!
We have a new teammate at Through a Therapist’s Eyes and in this show we introduce him. Neil will be more of a behind the scenes guy to help us increase our reach. Look for some changes coming to the show. And speaking of changes we are taking a little time off to prepare and will be back in a few weeks.
Chris also shares an interview he did of some of the peaceful protestors in our hometown. Tune in to this unique episode and look for us to come back better than ever.
48% of COVID-19 deaths were in nursing homes. A nursing home in Washington was hit very early in the US. Bodies of the dead were found in a nursing home. You may have heard bits and pieces of news about how the coronavirus has impacted nursing homes, but in this episode the guys talk to an ombudsman and two doctors whose mother is in a nursing home facility in NYC. “Shocked" is an understatement of how the guys felt after having this conversation. A must hear about how our elder generations have been treated, and why, during the pandemic.
Tune in to see Nursing Homes and COVID-19 Through a Therapist’s Eyes.
COVID-19 has created a situation where we need to social distance. But how do you social distance and protect patients in Inpatient Recovery Facilities?
In this episode we talk to Mandy Baker with the BRC Recovery Family of Programs. She discusses how COVID-19 has impacted their center. Obviously close quarters is a concern, testing new patients as they come in, and pivoting on some of the treatment strategies.
Tune into this episode to see COVID-19 and Recovery Centers Through a Therapist’s Eyes!
The Coronavirus lockdown has created many challenges in our lives and especially in the lives of our kids.
Chris shares his thoughts on the impact it's having on our children, their social lives, learning, and much more.
He also talks about the impact of no Sport on our society. Sports has become such a big part of our society and it's been almost three months since we've seen live sporting events apart from the UFC.
Tune in to see Kids, Sports, and the Coronavirus Through a Therapist's Eyes!
In this episode we welcome Marc and Courtney Donelson.
Marc and Courtney have been married for 21 years, have two children, and they are marriage mentors through The Basic Idea Ministry based in Georgia.
In this episode they join us to talk about marriage and parenting during the quarantine.
Tune in to see Marriage and Quarantine Through a Therapist's Eyes!
A lot of people are working from home due to the Coronavirus lockdown. In a recent survey 35% of respondents reported that working from home has had a negative impact on their mental health.
In this episode Craig shares some of his experiences working from home and how the Coronavirus quarantine has impacted his work.
They also discuss ways you can overcome some of the issues and challenges of working from home during this time.
Tune in to see Working From Home Through a Therapist's Eyes!
Joshua Shea becomes our first repeat guest.
Joshua was on earlier to talk about pornography and sex addiction, and he joins us this time to talk about pornography and the coronavirus.
As a result of the lockdown, pornography usage is up 18%. Joshua talks about how porn websites are promoting themselves by giving away free premium content and how that is making the pandemic even more problematic.
Tune in to see Pornography and the Coronavirus Through a Therapist's Eyes!
In this episode the guys continue the conversation with Thomas Martin. Tom has been a Private Investigator since the early 80's when he retired from federal law enforcement.
We talk with Tom about divorce, cults, mass shootings, drugs, the opioid epidemic, terrorism, and also Tom's experience with Charles Manson.
Tune in to see Private Investigation Through a Therapist's Eyes!
Thomas G. Martin represented the US DOJ in 50 foreign countries and the USA. After retiring he founded Martin Investigative Services and now employs 22 former federal agents.
In this episode he discusses Human Sex Trafficking and he calls it the biggest crisis we face in our country. Bigger than drugs, the opioid epidemic, mass shootings, etc. It didn't take him long to convince Chris and Craig.
Tune in to see Sex Trafficking Through a Therapist's Eyes!
In this episode we sit down with Roger Sarrow to talk about mass media. Roger spent a long career in various forms of media at various levels.
We talk with Roger about deregulation, news and opinion, the history of media, media bias, "fake news", and more.
Tune in to see media Through a Therapist's Eyes!
In this episode we talk with singer, songwriter Estelle California.
She was a victim Domestic Violence and Discrimination while in France: born and raised… has dealt with the effects of both. Now creates music and a community. Blues jazzy and soul vibe with messages about hope and overcoming and gratitude for being where she is now.
Hear her amazing story and be inspired on this episode of Through a Therapist's Eyes.
In our 80th episode Chris talks with mother and author of "Weight of a Feather - A Mother’s Journey Through the Opiate Addiction Crisis" Lynda Hacker.
Tune into to see a mother, son, and addiction Through a Therapist's Eyes!
In this episode the guys talk about how the Coronavirus Pandemic is affecting mental health and how to ease your concerns.
Tune in to see Coronavirus Through a Therapist's Eyes!
This episode is a personal story from Chris. His sister unexpectedly passed away last week. In this episode we bring on a special guest who shares his own experiences with death.
Tune in to see The Business of Dying Through a Therapist's Eyes!
Have you ever heard of someone having a "Nervous Breakdown"? Do you know what a "Nervous Breakdown" is? Is it a real mental health condition?
In this episode the guys talk about and define "Nervous Breakdowns"
Tune in to see "Nervous Breakdowns" Through a Therapist's Eyes!
In this episode the guys welcome DW from Metrolina Psychotherapy Associates to talk about Managed Care and Insurance.
I know that sounds like a dull topic but DW has forgotten more about these topics than most will ever know and she offers some GREAT insights.
If you have no idea what your insurance covers, and surprisingly most don't, tune in to hear what DW says are the essential four questions to ask and be informed.
Tune in to see Managed Care and Insurance Through a Therapist's Eyes!
In our first listener request for a specific show we talk about 'Functional Alcoholism'.
Some people seem to be just fine even though they abuse alcohol. Experts call these people 'functional' or 'high-functioning' alcoholics.
In this episode the guys talk about this topic and Chris explains why he doesn't like the term.
Tune in to see Functional Alcoholism Through a Therapist's Eyes!
In this episode Chris and Craig go deeper on friendship types (acquaintances, fun friends, good friends, and best friend and intimate relationships) and why we need each of them.
Why do we need each of these? To quote The Science of Friendship, "“Friends are important. So important, in fact, that it’s proven that friendship can extend life expectancy and lower chances of heart disease. Friendship helps us survive."
Tune in to see Close Friendships Through a Therapist's Eyes!