How To Hold A Grudge: Recent Episodes
Sophie Hannah
Many of us believe it’s always wrong, and bad for us, to hold a grudge. But what if our grudges, when handled correctly, can be positively good for us and for others? What if grudges are actually great — not a cause for guilt, but exactly what we need to lead a happier, safer, more fulfilled life? Join internationally bestselling crime writer and grudge-holder extraordinaire Sophie Hannah to find out all about the power of grudges to transform your life for the better and to make the world a more peaceful and compassionate place.
Is it grudgeworthy or crass to bring up the subject of someone's funeral plans/post-death wishes? Or is it fine? What about asking a loved one to consider changing their funeral requests, if there's something about them that you know you'll find difficult to go along with? Sophie and Nic discuss these knotty issues and more!
You can follow Nic on Twitter @NicAubury or visit his website www.nicaubury.com.
For more info about Sophie and her projects please visit www.sophiehannah.com
Sophie starts out thinking she's identified a new kind of grudge. She has, but it's not what she thinks. In fact, the true subject of this episode is the Boundary Mockery Grudge. Luckily, Nic is on hand to help clarify things, and some exciting new discoveries are made in the field of Grudge Studies.
You can follow Nic on Twitter @NicAubury or visit his website www.nicaubury.com.
For more info about Sophie and her projects please visit www.sophiehannah.com
Sophie and Nic discuss The Double Best Method, Sophie's recently-invented decision-making tool, how to avoid regret, and how most people were trained to think in the wrong way about making choices. Also featuring brilliant poems by Robert Frost and Nic about decision-making.
You can follow Nic on Twitter @NicAubury or visit his website www.nicaubury.com.
For more info about Sophie and her projects please visit www.sophiehannah.com
Sophie and Nic discuss 'Grudge Sentencing', the perfect enhancement both to good grudge-holding and to the ditching of no-longer-wanted grudges. Also in this episode: white lies. When is it grudgeworthy to tell them?
You can follow Nic on Twitter @NicAubury or visit his website www.nicaubury.com.
For more info about Sophie and her projects please visit www.sophiehannah.com
Sophie and Nic discuss six possible barriers to discarding a grudge, and two crucial questions we can ask ourselves. Also on this episode: seating plans! Are they inherently grudgeworthy, and if not, what differentiates a grudgeworthy seating plan from one that's fine?
You can follow Nic on Twitter @NicAubury or visit his website www.nicaubury.com.
For more info about Sophie and her projects please visit www.sophiehannah.com
Is it possible, or desirable, to cancel a grudge when the benefits of doing so would be considerable, in a situation where you would definitely not annul the grudge in exchange for no upside? Sophie and Nic discuss whether this is the best route, how one might pursue it, and whether it might be more possible and desirable to find a different sort of upside while keeping the grudge.
You can follow Nic on Twitter @NicAubury or visit his website www.nicaubury.com.
For more info about Sophie and her projects please visit www.sophiehannah.com
In this episode, Sophie and Nic discuss the recent controversy, apropos the Lucy Letby case, about whether or not convicted criminals should be compelled to come to court for sentencing.
You can follow Nic on Twitter @NucAubury or visit his website www.nicaubury.com.
For more info about Sophie and her projects please visit www.sophiehannah.com
Sophie and Nic discuss some frivolous grudges including: portmanteau words (like grudge-fest), conversational interruptors and the concept and practice of 'managing expectations'.
You can follow Nic on Twitter @NucAubury or visit his website www.nicaubury.com.
For more info about Sophie and her projects please visit www.sophiehannah.com
Sophie and Nic discuss the complex theological issue of whether or not animals have souls and are eligible for Heaven.
You can follow Nic on Twitter @NucAubury or visit his website www.nicaubury.com.
For more info about Sophie and her projects please visit www.sophiehannah.com
Is loyalty ever grudgeworthy? And can disloyalty be entirely non-grudgeworthy? Join Sophie and Nic to discuss these knotty problems!
You can follow Nic on Twitter @NucAubury or visit his website www.nicaubury.com.
For more info about Sophie and her projects please visit www.sophiehannah.com
What is an enemy? What is enmity? Does it need to be active, or reciprocated? Can we be someone's enemy without our own consent to the definition? What is the difference between strong dislike and enmity? And most importantly of all, does grudge-holding create enmity, or prevent it?
You can follow Nic on Twitter @NucAubury or visit his website www.nicaubury.com.
For more info about Sophie and her projects please visit www.sophiehannah.com
Sophie and Nic discuss the common social-conscience-driven practice of acknowledging disadvantage (as defined by the person doing the acknowledging) and whether it's more of a help or a hindrance.
You can follow Nic on Twitter @NucAubury or visit his website www.nicaubury.com.
For more info about Sophie and her projects please visit www.sophiehannah.com
In this special bonus episode of the HOW TO HOLD A GRUDGE podcast, Sophie speaks to life coach Natalie Roush about reckoning with your inner critic.
Natalie's website is website is natalieroushcoaching.com, and her podcast is here: https://www.listennotes.com/podcasts/hows-the-view-natalie-roush-z18ue2nMk6b/
Sophie and Nic Aubury announce the winners of the podcast’s first competition, and also discuss grudgeworthy hotels among other things.
This week Sophie and Nic debate the use of the term 'Karen' and also turn their attention to grudgeworthy song titles.
This is you last chance to enter Sophie's very special competition. All you have to do is buy Nic Auburey's new collection of poetry 'Ignore It All And Hope It Goes Away' now! Full details of the competition at the end of the episode. Entries close on 7th November 2022.
https://smarturl.it/GrudgeCastComp
Don't forget that you can still enter Sophie's very special competition. All you have to do is buy Nic Auburey's new collection of poetry 'Ignore It All And Hope It Goes Away' now! Full details of the competition at the end of the episode.
https://smarturl.it/GrudgeCastComp
This week Sophie welcomes special guest Kemper Donovan from the excellent ALL ABOUT AGATHA podcast to discuss the grudgeworthiness of using real life facts for the purposes of fiction. One for the crime fiction fans!
Don't forget that you can still enter Sophie's very special competition. Al you have to do is pre-order Nic Auburey's new collection of poetry 'Ignore It All And Hope It Goes Away' now!
https://smarturl.it/GrudgeCastComp
This week Sophie and podcast regular Nic Aubury dive into more grudge acronym goodness. Introducing GUBRIF! Can't guess what it is? Press play to find out!
Also in this episode, some all-new exclusive poetry from Nic!
Don't forget that you can still enter Sophie's very special competition. Al you ave to do is pre-order Nic's new collection of poetry 'Ignore It All And Hope It Goes Away' now!
https://smarturl.it/GrudgeCastComp
HOW TO HOLD A GRUDGE returns after quite a sudden end to season 7 last summer. Sophie and regular guest Nic Aubury pick up where they left off, delving into more fascinating (and tongue-twisting) acronyms and they grudges they represent.
Also in this episode, Sophie and Nic launch a VERY SPECIAL COMPETITION.
Pre-order Nic's new collection of poetry 'Ignore It All And Hope It Goes Away' now!
https://smarturl.it/GrudgeCastComp
This week Sophie and Nic Aubury look back on some of Sophie's recent grudges to make sure they pass muster and tackle important questions such as 'is it ever okay to put your dog poo in someone else's wheelie bin without asking?'
For more information on Sophie's books please visit www.sophiehannah.com
This week Sophie is joined by a special guest, food writer and journalist Bee Wilson, to discuss a hot topic. Resturants across the UK are now including calorie content alongside the dishes on their menu. Is this a positive step towards tackling a major public health crisis, or a grudgeworthy development?
You can find Bee on Twitter @KitchenBee
For morre information about Sophie and her writing please visit www.sophiehannh.com
This week Sophie and Nic Aubury discuss the subject of marketing. Can it ever be grudgeworthy for a company to try and sell you something? Can the way things are advertised be grounds for a grudge? And what about the products themselves? Are certain products so grudgeworthy that they should not be marketed? Let the grudge experts guide you through this complex and ever-developing issue.
You can follow Nic on Twitter @NucAubury or visit his website www.nicaubury.com.
For more info about Sophie and her projects please visit www.sophiehannah.com
In this instalment Sophie and Nic Aubury take a look at the thorny issue of online anonymity and its associated grudges.
You can follow Nic on Twitter @NucAubury or visit his website www.nicaubury.com.
For more info about Sophie and her projects please visit www.sophiehannah.com
This week sees the return of How to Hold a Grudge podcast stalwart and Grudge Poet Laureate Nic Aubury.
Sophie and Nic dive into the at times complex subject of intelletual property, in particular 'merch'. When is it grudgeworthy to make your own merch using someone else's IP? Can it be grudgeworthy to crack down on such endeavours? Look no further for the answers to these questions and more!
You can follow Nic on Twitter @NucAubury or visit his website www.nicaubury.com.
For more info about Sophie and her projects please visit www.sophiehannah.com
How to Hold a Grudge returns with a whole new set of additions to the grudge cabinet.
Sophie is joined by podcast regular and bestselling author Naomi Alderman. Sophie and Naomi dig into a new and hard to define grudge - the Too Much Information Grudge? Intrigued? Press play to find out more!
For more information about Sophie's books and other projects please visit www.sophiehannah.com.
In the final episode of season 6, Sophie and podcast regular Nic Aubury dive into what might be one of the biggest issues present in online discourse, the engine that drives many a Twitter argument and shouty Facebook post, perhaps the reason why we can't all just get along: Disagreemaphobia. Never heard of it? Press play to find out more!
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In a change to the episode trailed last week, Sophie speaks to Matt Williams, author of The Science of Hate: How prejudice becomes hate and what we can do to stop it.
The Science of Hate is published by Faber & Faber and is available now in paperback, eBook and audio.
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This week Sophie is once again joined by Miranda Jewess, editorial director at Viper Books to discuss a very specific kind of book-related grudge. Sometimes celebrities publish books, and some people consider this to be HIGHLY grudgeworthy. Confused? Listen on...
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Sophie is once more joined by bestselling author and game writer/designer Naomi Alderman to dicuss the phenomenon of the Covid Mitigation - do we more easily dismiss or forgive bad behaviour due to extreme mitigating circumstances and if so, should we be more careful about how dar we stretch the limits of acceptablity?
For info about Naomi and her writing please visit www.naomialderman.com.
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This week Sophie interviews lifecoach and podcaster Sarah Bond who specialises in forgiveness.
Sarah is the host of the Forgive Everyone For Everything Every Day Right Away podcast. you can listen and subscribe here https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/forgive-everyone-for-every-thing-every-day-right-away/id1530737246
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Sophie is once again joined by Nic Aubury to discuss the fascinating and divisive issue of punching up and punching down. Punching down is wrong, but is punching up really okay?
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This week Sophie and podcast regular Nic Aubury discuss the subject of The Onus. What is the Onus, where did it come from, and most improtantly, can it ever be grudgeworth to have the Onus placed on you?
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This week Sophie welcomes back Professor Nicholas Shackel for another philosophical deep-dive.
Sophie and Prof. Shackel turn their attention to the concept of The Neutrality of Circumstances and whether or not some things can in fact be inherently grudgeworthy.
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This week Sophie welcomes writer, psychologist and critic Dr Terry Apter to dicuss the subjects of being judgemental and passing judgement.
Dr Terry Apter is the author of Passing Judgement: The Power of Praise & Blame in Everyday Life. For more infomation about her books and other work visit www.terriapter.com.
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Sophie welcomes a new guest to the podcast this week to delve deeper into the world of grudges than ever before. Professor Nicholas Shackel is a lecturer in Philosophy at Cardiff University. He and Sophie tackle philosophical approaches to knowledge - how we know what we know and what 'knowing' really is. Plus of course how these philosophical perspectives interact with Sophie's philosophy of grudges!
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This week on HOW TO HOLD A GRUDGE Sophie and podcast regular Nic Aubury discuss a story from within Paul Zindel's classic novel THE PIGMAN which also acts as a personality test of sorts. What can your opinions on the story tell you about your personality, and perhaps more importantly, is the test grudgeworthy?
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How to Hold A Grudge returns for a brand new season!
In this episode Sophie and Grudge Poet Laureate Nic Aubury discuss the phenomenon of 'Whataboutery' and how grudgeworthy it is. Is it a single grudgeworthy behaviour? Are there different types of Whataboutery? Press play dear listener and find out!
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HOW TO HOLD GRUDGE returns for a brand new season. Featuring podcast regulars, fresh faces (voices?) and all-new grudges for your Grudge Cabinet, it's going to be the bigest and best season yet! Look out for episode 1 coming 15th April 2021.
In this special end-of-season bonus episode Sophie is once more calls on bestselling author Naomi Alderman to help delve into a new Presidential inauguration-inspired grudge classification type - the We Go High/We Go Low grudge.
For more information on Naomi and her work visit www.naomialderman.com
You can find out more about Sophie and her books at www.sophiehannah.com
This week Sophie and bestselling author Naomi Alderman turn their attention to self-help author ans speaker Byron Katie, and her method of self-inquiry known as "The Work".
For more information on Naomi and her work visit www.naomialderman.com
You can find out more about Sophie and her books at www.sophiehannah.com
This week Sophie welcomes back podcast regular Nic Aubury to address the subject of coplicity, and to what extent being involved with questionable people can be considered grudgeworth.
Follow Nic on Twitter @NicAubury or visit www.nicaubury.com for more information.
You can find more information about Sophie and her writing at www.sophiehannah.com
This week Sophie welcomes Dr Mark Aldridge to the podcast to discuss their shared love - the writing of Agatha Christie, specifically the books she wrote under the pen name of Mary Westmacott.
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This week Sophie goes it alone to address the annus horriblis that has been 2020, but is it right to hold a grudge against an entire year?
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This week, Sophie talks to bestselling author Naomi Alderman about the rules around apologising in Judaism, and how to apologise sincerely.
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This week Sophie is joined by Miranda Jewess, commissioning editor at Viper Books, the crime/gothic/thriller imprint of Serpent's Tail. Sophie and Miranda delve into the world of literary grudges, specifically literary prizes and whether or not the recent phenomenon of 'prize sharing' can be considered grudgeworthy.
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This episode, Sophie talks to life coach Felicity Morse about coaching others through their grudges, and how to mine what you can from grudgeworthy experiences.
You can visit Felicity at www.felicitymorse.com.
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For more info on Sophie and her projects please visit www.sophiehannah.com
This week Sophie and Grudge poet lauretate Nic Aubury discuss whether or not the truth can ever be grudgeworthy, or if it's never grudgeowrthy to tell the truth however painful or unwanted it might be.
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For more info on Sophie and her projects please visit www.sophiehannah.com
This week Sophie welcomes back bestselling novelist and games writer Naomi Alderman to talk about differing views on the value of forgiveness.
For more info on Naomi and her writing visit www.naomialderman.com or follow her on Twitter @naomiallthenews
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Many people have political grudges around the US Election - but that's not what we're discussing in this episode. Instead, we're talking about some intriguing behaviour that some people produced while being spectators to the election...intriguing for sure, but grudgeworthy? Nic and Sophie put some of these peculiar incidents in the hot seat and do some grudge-judging!
For more information about Sophie's books please visit www.sophiehannah.com
How to Hold a Grudge returns for a much-requested 5th season!
In this episode Sophie and regular grudge analyst Nic Aubury take a tour of the online grudge-scape to see what other grudge outlets are on offer.
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For more info on Sophie and her projects visit her official website www.sophiehannah.com
This episode, Sophie and Nic Aubury discuss the controversy surrounding Dominic Cummings's recent trip to Durham. Where does the grudge lie?
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Sophie's latest novel HAVEN'T THEY GROWN is out now in hardback, eBook and audiobook. the Daily Mail calls it 'fiendishly clever' and the Sunday Express dubbed Sophie 'a literary high-wire artist'.
Sophie finds her guest very close to home this week. She and husband Dan Jones discuss how the Church of England has handled the lockdown so far.
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Sophie's latest novel HAVEN'T THEY GROWN is out now in hardback, eBook and audiobook. the Daily Mail calls it 'fiendishly clever' and the Sunday Express dubbed Sophie 'a literary high-wire artist'.
This week Sophie speaks to novelist Naomi Alderman about grudges against politicians and the government, and they discuss ways to disagree without having a grudgeworthy experience.
Don't forget to rate and review the podcast, or share with a friend if you like what you hear.
Sophie's latest novel HAVEN'T THEY GROWN is out now in hardback, eBook and audiobook. the Daily Mail calls it 'fiendishly clever' and the Sunday Express dubbed Sophie 'a literary high-wire artist'.
Sophie and Nic Aubury talk about the new lockdown rules - are they grudgeworthier than the old rules, or better? - and whether sorting it out (after an argument) is a helpful or harmful practice. Also in this episode: Nic discusses a still powerful grudge he's been holding for more than 30 years, and it's all about custard!
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Sophie's latest novel HAVEN'T THEY GROWN is out now in hardback, eBook and audiobook. the Daily Mail calls it 'fiendishly clever' and the Sunday Express dubbed Sophie 'a literary high-wire artist'.
This week, Sophie welcomes back friend of the show Helen Acton to disuss the language surrounding illness, specifically Coronavirus.
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Sophie's latest novel HAVEN'T THEY GROWN is out now in hardback, eBook and audiobook. the Daily Mail calls it 'fiendishly clever' and the Sunday Express dubbed Sophie 'a literary high-wire artist'.
Sophie and podcast regular Nic Aubury disuss the strange new world of Coronavirus Lockdown curtain twitchers, rule breaking and police-themed grudges.
Don't forget to rate and review the podcast, or share with a friend if you like what you hear.
Sophie's latest novel HAVEN'T THEY GROWN is out now in hardback, eBook and audiobook. the Daily Mail calls it 'fiendishly clever' and the Sunday Express dubbed Sophie 'a literary high-wire artist'.
The How to Hold a Grudge podcast returns to provide fresh grudge-related chat to help keep you entertained during the time of social distancing.
In this episode Sophie and call up bestselling author and award-winning games writer Naomi Alderman to talk about two polar opposite approaches to dealing with living in lockdown, and what motivates people to loudly endorse either approach on social media.
Don't forget to rate and review the podcast, or share with a friend if you like what you hear.
Sophie's latest novel HAVEN'T THEY GROWN is out now in hardback, eBook and audiobook. the Daily Mail calls it 'fiendishly clever' and the Sunday Express dubbed Sophie 'a literary high-wire artist'.
The How to Hold a Grudge podcast returns to provide fresh grudge-related chat to help keep you entertained during the time of social distancing.
In this episode Sophie and psychotherapist Helen Acton pick up where they left off in episode 2 and deep dive into the subjects of negativity, anger and aggression and their place in the periodic table of grudges.
Don't forget to rate and review the podcast, or share with a friend if you like what you hear.
Sophie's latest novel HAVEN'T THEY GROWN is out now in hardback, eBook and audiobook. the Daily Mail calls it 'fiendishly clever' and the Sunday Express dubbed Sophie 'a literary high-wire artist'.
The How to Hold a Grudge podcast returns to provide fresh grudge-related chat to help keep you entertained during the time of social distancing.
In this episode Sophie and grudge poet laureate Nic Aubury return to their favourite source of grudges - schools! Pupils across the UK face the prospect of no exams and a grade based on their estimated performance, but is this fair, and is it grudgeworthy?
Don't forget to rate and review the podcast, or share with a friend if you like what you hear.
Sophie's latest novel HAVEN'T THEY GROWN is out now in hardback, eBook and audiobook. the Daily Mail calls it 'fiendishly clever' and the Sunday Express dubbed Sophie 'a literary high-wire artist'.
In the second episode of the week Sophie is joined by How to Hold a Grudge regular psycotherapist Helen Acton, to discuss new additions to the periodic table of grudges that have come about as a result of the current crisis and the on-going lockdown in the UK.
Don't forget to rate and review the podcast, or share with a friend if you like what you hear.
Sophie's latest novel HAVEN'T THEY GROWN is out now in hardback, eBook and audiobook. the Daily Mail calls it 'fiendishly clever' and the Sunday Express dubbed Sophie 'a literary high-wire artist'.
The How to Hold a Grudge podcast returns to provide fresh grudge-related chat to help keep you entertained during the time of social distancing.
In this first episode Sophie and Grudge Poet Laureate Nic Aubury talk about cancellations - highly topical, but are they always a bad thing?
Don't forget to rate and review the podcast, or share with a friend if you like what you hear.
Sophie's latest novel HAVEN'T THEY GROWN is out now in hardback, eBook and audiobook. the Daily Mail calls it 'fiendishly clever' and the Sunday Express dubbed Sophie 'a literary high-wire artist'.
Sophie is joined by psychotherapist and fellow Agatha Christie superfan Helen Acton to discuss grudges — valid/reasonable and invalid/unreasonable — in the novels of Agatha Christie, the Queen of Crime. Also in this episode: the beauty of three-layered puzzle solutions, the Insufficient Poirot Content grudge some fans have about novels like Cat Among the Pigeons and After the Funeral, and Sophie reveals her grudge-related theory about why Murder on the Orient Express and And Then There Were None are Agatha's two most popular and beloved books.
Sophie is joined by award-winning, bestselling novelist Naomi Alderman for this special bonus episode. They discuss the popular misconceptions that give rise to that widespread phenomemon, the Misunderstanding-of-Loyalty Grudge, and what loyalty truly means in a grudge-holding context. Also in this episode: when couples separate and friends pick a grudge side, why it's always grudgeworthy to write insulting blog posts about your best friends, and a grudgey dilemma involving a potentially devastating but brilliant cultural artefact.
Being judgemental is bad, we tend to think, but using our judgement is essential. So how do we distinguish between good judging and bad judging? Having a lower opinion of some people than others has to be okay, surely, even if one's aim and wish is to be all-forgiving and grudge-free. Sophie and Helen Acton discuss the ways in which our own ethics and opinions in relation to infidelity and meat-eating, among other things, can influence how lenient/empathetic we're able to be where those issues are involved.
There's always room for a newcomer — a new grudge type — in the Periodic Table of Grudge Categories. After a new TV crime drama attracts hundreds of comments that strike fear into Sophie's heart, she tries to find a name for this emerging grudge in order to classify it accurately. Also in this episode, Sophie plays a newly invented grudge game, Judge That Grudge, with poet Nic Aubury and psychotherapist Helen Acton. Grudge types receiving judgemental scrutiny include: people turning up on time instead of realising you'd love it if they were a bit late, and passive aggressive CC-ing of senior colleagues into work emails.
Sophie and Podcast Grudge-Poet Laureate Nic Aubury discuss those grudges that we might not need to hold if only we were better at creating and sticking to personal boundaries. If we're so busy people-pleasing that we allow ourselves to do things we hate in order to placate others, isn't that our fault rather than theirs? Also in this episode: what does American life coach Brooke Castillo have to say about boundaries and the 'manuals' we have in our minds for how other people should behave, and do Sophie and Nic agree with her?
https://thelifecoachschool.com/brookecastillo/
In a friendship, is it acceptable and necessary sometimes, or uncharitable and grudgeworthy, to say 'You did X and I didn't like it' or 'I'm angry with you because you said Y'? Sophie is joined by psychotherapist Helen Acton for much jolly disagreement on this subject. Why would Sophie never in a million years tell friends, family, acquaintances or anyone that they'd upset or annoyed her? And why does Helen adopt the opposite approach? Is it just down to personal preference or is there a better way to approach these things? Listen and decide for yourself!
Sophie is joined by this podcast's poet in residence Nic Aubury, who is also a Latin teacher at Oundle School. Together they discuss more shocking and frankly implausible (though entirely true) school-based grudge anecdotes, and whether all schools should be abolished for being too grudgeworthy. Also: when teachers lose their temper and yell and scream at pupils, or announce their intention to humiliate children deliberately, is this understandable and something that's just bound to happen now and then, or is it grudgeworthy? And what's the point of having 'best practice guidelines' when teachers who ignore them receive no punishment or sanction?
If you share a piece of life-changingly amazing good news with a close friend, lover, parent or sibling, and they respond simply with one yellow smiley face emoji and no words at all, is that innately grudgeworthy? Could and should they have done better? Is a diagnosis of envy any sort of mitigation? Or are you the one guilty of grudgeworthy behaviour in that scenario — for failing to take the happy emoji at smiley-face value? Sophie and psychotherapist Helen Acton discuss The Inadequate Congratulations Grudge and its sister type, The Withholding of Praise Grudge, and discuss the teachings of American life coach Brooke Castillo, who believes all circumstances are neutral and that we can always choose what we want to make them mean.
https://thelifecoachschool.com/brookecastillo/
Is it grudgeworthy if someone has a terrible spouse, even if they themselves are completely innocent? Why aren't more people alert to the grudgeworthiness of their romantic partners? Sophie is joined by this podcast's Grudge-Poet Laureate Nic Aubury to discuss what to do when you have a close friend whom you adore, yet you can't visit them at their house because it contains one of the grudgeworthiest husbands known to humanity (or at least to Sophie).
If someone has done or said something grudgeworthy, but it's the only grudgeworthy thing they've ever done, should we always let them off and treat is as a mere blip? Is it possible to sustain long friendships and relationships in which no grudgeworthy behaviour occurs? Should everyone get at least one 'get out of grudge free' card? And how relevant are patterns of behaviour and track record when assessing the grudgeworthiness or otherwise of a particular action? Sophie talks to psychotherapist Helen Acton about a recent 'blipping' involving an otherwise lovely close friend — should she hold a grudge or not?
Nic Aubrey is back to discuss grudges related to wills with Sophie - and how best to divide your money to avoid grudgeworthy feelings between siblings. This episode concludes the season, see you back for season 3 of How To Hold A Grudge!
Does the intention behind grudge-worthy behaviour change the nature of your grudge? This week Sophie welcomes back Ann Grey to discuss how we interpret other people's behaviour, why people would intend to cause pain, and why Sophie doesn't discuss her grudges with the grudgee.
In this solocast(!) Sophie looks at a variety of topics ranging from handy adjectives, how to identify a true grudge, and a behaviour that she believes to be grudgeworthy.
Sophie's book HOW TO HOLD A GRUDGE is out now in hardback, eBook and as an unabridged audiobook read by Sophie.
This week, Sophie is rejoined by Season 1 guest Ann Grey, a therapist, meditation teacher, and homeopath. Looking at grudges from a more psychological angle, Sophie and her guest discuss the effect of grudges on the mind, how empathy towards the grudges of others can be beneficial to everyone, and how a seemingly trivial grudge may actually be telling of deeper issues.
In this episode Sophie speaks to Rev. Stephen Heard about grudges and Christianity. Can you hold grudges and still be a good Christian?
In this episode Sophie welcomes back Season 1 guest Nic Aubury to talk about school bureaucracy related grudges. There's even a song from a play written by Sophie and her musical writing partner and podcast jingle contributor Annette Armitage.
In this episode Sophie discusses her grudge philosophy with author and mindfulness teacher Sylvia Clare, including the complex relationship between grudges and forgiveness.
Sophie' book HOW TO HOLD A GRUDGE is available now in hardback, eBook and audiobook.
This week, Sophie talks to Anne Welsh - author, librarian, and expert in cataloguing. Join Sophie and her guest in discussing the emotional energy associated with holding grudges, ‘caveats for continued friendships’, a whole new multi-faceted grudge-classification system, and the dangers of leaving your egg mayo sandwich in a library.
Sophie's new book HOW TO HOLD A GRUDGE: THE POWER OF GRUDGES TO TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE is available now in hardback, eBook and audiobook. Buy now http://smarturl.it/GrudgePodcast
The How to Hold a Grudge theme was provided by Annette Armitage, a composer, musician and teacher, and co-writer (with Sophie) of two mystery themed musicals: THE GENERALIST - A MURDER MYSTERY MUSICAL and WORK EXPERIENCE - A MUSICAL LOCKED ROOM MYSTERY.
In this episode Sophie turns her attention to some of the criticisms of her grudge theory with a little help from writer and critic Robert Hanks.
Sophie's book HOW TO HOLD A GRUDGE is available now in hardback, eBook and audiobook.
Season 2 of How to Hold a Grudge kicks off with the return of S1 guest Nic Aubury who joins Sophie to talk about the phenomena of the Grunch, or 'Grudge hunch'.
Nic Aubury was born in Watford in 1974, and spent most of the next eighteen years trying to get girls to laugh at his jokes. He went to Oxford to read Classics and met a girl there whose jokes made him laugh. They got married, and they now live in the provinces with their three sons. Nic has worked in advertising and teaching; he started writing poems by mistake.
HOW TO HOLD GRUDGE the book is out now in hardback, eBook and audiobook. For more information visit the official Sophie Hannah website https://sophiehannah.com/
Season 2 of HOW TO HOLD A GRUDGE is coming on March 14th!
In the meantime listeners can enjoy some bonus content taken from chapter 7 of the HOW TO HOLD A GRUDGE audiobook - The Grudgefold Path.
HOW TO HOLD A GRUDGE is out now in hardback, eBook and audiobook.
It's the holiday season! Grudges abound! Join Sophie and poet Nic Aubury for a festive analysis of why we're more likely to accumulate powerful grudges during 'special occasion' times of the year than at any other time, and to hear some Seasonal Grudge Tips and New Year's Grudge Resolutions!
Sophie's new book HOW TO HOLD A GRUDGE: THE POWER OF GRUDGES TO TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE is available now in hardback, eBook and audiobook. Buy now http://smarturl.it/GrudgePodcast
The How to Hold a Grudge theme was provided by Annette Armitage, a composer, musician and teacher, and co-writer (with Sophie) of two mystery themed musicals: THE GENERALIST - A MURDER MYSTERY MUSICAL and WORK EXPERIENCE - A MUSICAL LOCKED ROOM MYSTERY.
Since HTHAG began we've been receiving thoughts, opinions and questions from listeners. This week Sophie is answering those questions and responding to issues raised. These include: 'What does storytelling have to do with grudges?', 'Is it ever okay to tell someone that you don't believe their grudge is justified/grudgeworthy?' and 'Why do some people hold more grudges than others?'
Still not convinced that grudges are great or that holding them is good for you? Join Sophie and her special guest, poet Nic Aubury, to find out six concrete ways in which a grudge can enhance the life of its holder!
Sophie's new book HOW TO HOLD A GRUDGE: THE POWER OF GRUDGES TO TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE is available now in hardback, eBook and audiobook. Buy now http://smarturl.it/GrudgePodcast
The How to Hold a Grudge theme was provided by Annette Armitage, a composer, musician and teacher, and co-writer (with Sophie) of two mystery themed musicals: THE GENERALIST - A MURDER MYSTERY MUSICAL and WORK EXPERIENCE - A MUSICAL LOCKED ROOM MYSTERY.
This week Sophie talks about "about". Sophie outlines her belief that we should have a grudge 'about' somebody, and never a grudge 'against' somebody, and explains why the language we use around grudges matters. Also in this episode: Sophie welcomes back Helen Acton and Anne Grey to explore the strange phenomenon of the grudges we hold about entirely innocent people who have done nothing wrong.
Sophie's new book HOW TO HOLD A GRUDGE: THE POWER OF GRUDGES TO TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE is available now in hardback, eBook and audiobook. Buy now http://smarturl.it/GrudgePodcast
The How to Hold a Grudge theme was provided by Annette Armitage, a composer, musician and teacher, and co-writer (with Sophie) of two mystery themed musicals: THE GENERALIST - A MURDER MYSTERY MUSICAL and WORK EXPERIENCE - A MUSICAL LOCKED ROOM MYSTERY.
This week Sophie discusses karma with psychotherapist Helen Acton and meditation teacher Anne Grey. What is karma? Is is a real thing? Sophie and her guests explore the relationship between grudges, justice and karma. Also in this episode: is it ever fair to hold a grudge about a group of people, and in what circumstances?
Sophie's new book HOW TO HOLD A GRUDGE: THE POWER OF GRUDGES TO TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE is available now in hardback, eBook and audiobook. Buy now http://smarturl.it/GrudgePodcast
The How to Hold a Grudge theme was provided by Annette Armitage, a composer, musician and teacher, and co-writer (with Sophie) of two mystery themed musicals: THE GENERALIST - A MURDER MYSTERY MUSICAL and WORK EXPERIENCE - A MUSICAL LOCKED ROOM MYSTERY.
Holding grudges is perceived by almost everybody as thge opposite of forgiving. You either forgive and move on, or else you don't forgive and you hold a grudge instead, right? Wrong.
In this episode Sophie explains why holding grudges, as a practice, is precisely what you should be doing if you want to be a more forgiving person and enhance your ability to move on after a transgression or hurt. Sophie is joined this week by psychotherapist Helen Acton and emotional freedom therapist Anne Grey.
Sophie's new book HOW TO HOLD A GRUDGE: THE POWER OF GRUDGES TO TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE is available now in hardback, eBook and audiobook. Buy now http://smarturl.it/GrudgePodcast
The How to Hold a Grudge theme was provided by Annette Armitage, a composer, musician and teacher, and co-writer (with Sophie) of two mystery themed musicals: THE GENERALIST - A MURDER MYSTERY MUSICAL and WORK EXPERIENCE - A MUSICAL LOCKED ROOM MYSTERY.
How many different grudge types are there, and how should we classify and arrange them? This week Sophie takes a look at some everyday grudge varieties as well as some rare specimens.
Tweet us @GrudgesAre Great if you can think of any sub-genres of grudge that have been overlooked!
Sophie's new book HOW TO HOLD A GRUDGE: THE POWER OF GRUDGES TO TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE is available now in hardback, eBook and audiobook. Buy now http://smarturl.it/GrudgePodcast
The How to Hold a Grudge theme was provided by Annette Armitage, a composer, musician and teacher, and co-writer (with Sophie) of two mystery themed musicals: THE GENERALIST - A MURDER MYSTERY MUSICAL and WORK EXPERIENCE - A MUSICAL LOCKED ROOM MYSTERY.
When we describe our latest grudge to a friend, they might say something designed to try and cheer us up. How we're likely to feel about their intervention will depend on whether they're sugar-coating or offering us something genuinely positive.
In this episode, Sophie looks at the difference between the two approaches, and how to distinguish one from the other.
Also in this episode, Helen Acton and Anne Grey join Sophie to discuss how to embrace but not inflame negative feelings.
Sophie's new book HOW TO HOLD A GRUDGE: THE POWER OF GRUDGES TO TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE is available now in hardback, eBook and audiobook. Buy now http://smarturl.it/GrudgePodcast
The How to Hold a Grudge theme was provided by Annette Armitage, a composer, musician and teacher, and co-writer (with Sophie) of two mystery themed musicals: THE GENERALIST - A MURDER MYSTERY MUSICAL and WORK EXPERIENCE - A MUSICAL LOCKED ROOM MYSTERY.
This week, Sophie talks about why a grudge is not, and cannot be, a feeling. And if it isn't a feeling, then why do nearly all the available dictionary definitions tell us that it is? What would be a more accurate and helpful definition of the word 'grudge' that doesn't discourage us from holding them? Also in this episode: some brilliant grudge poems by Sophie's two favorite living poets: Wendy Cope and Nic Aubury.
The How to Hold a Grudge theme was provided by Annette Armitage, a composer, musician and teacher, and co-writer (with Sophie) of two mystery themed musicals: THE GENERALIST - A MURDER MYSTERY MUSICAL and WORK EXPERIENCE - A MUSICAL LOCKED ROOM MYSTERY.
Sophie's new book HOW TO HOLD A GRUDGE: THE POWER OF GRUDGES TO TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE is available now in hardback, eBook and audiobook. Buy now http://smarturl.it/GrudgePodcast
In this first episode, Sophie explains what made her - a crime writer and poet - decide to write a self-help book on the subject of grudges. Sophie talks about why she's firmly convinced that our grudges can and should be good for us and explains how, precisely, we can benefit from our grudges.
This week Sophie is joined by special guests psychotherapist Helen Acton and mentor, coach, meditation teacher and therapist Anne Grey, to discuss grudges in all their glory.
Sophie's new book HOW TO HOLD A GRUDGE: THE POWER OF GRUDGES TO TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE is available now in hardback, eBook and audiobook. Buy now http://smarturl.it/GrudgePodcast
The How to Hold a Grudge theme was provided by Annette Armitage, a composer, musician and teacher, and co-writer (with Sophie) of two mystery themed musicals: THE GENERALIST - A MURDER MYSTERY MUSICAL and WORK EXPERIENCE - A MUSICAL LOCKED ROOM MYSTERY.
Many of us believe it’s always wrong, and bad for us, to hold a grudge. But what if our grudges, when handled correctly, can be positively good for us and for others? What if grudges are actually great — not a cause for guilt, but exactly what we need to lead a happier, safer, more fulfilled life? Join internationally bestselling crime writer and grudge-holder extraordinaire Sophie Hannah to find out all about the power of grudges to transform your life for the better and to make the world a more peaceful and compassionate place.
If you’re intrigued and want to know more, you can listen to a new episode of this podcast every Thursday evening between 25th October and 27 December.
Sophie's new book HOW TO HOLD A GRUDGE: THE POWER OF GRUDGES TO TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE publishes on 1st November 2018 in hardback, eBook and audiobook. Pre-order now http://smarturl.it/GrudgePodcast