Superfreak: Recent Episodes
Hayley Carr
Superfreak shares tiny insights to level up your performance, results, energy and experiences in every area of life. This is where we become immune to fear, failure and feeble thinking. With 9X world champion Martial artist & life-coach, Hayley Carr.
What if your results in business, relationships, health, and money were not about luck or talent at all?
What if they were simply a reflection of the standards you have set for yourself, often without even realising it?
In this episode, we talk about the quiet, unconscious benchmarks that shape every decision you make and every result you get. I share why raising your standards can feel strange or even unsafe at first, how they can erode without you noticing, and why even small, gentle upgrades can completely change your life.
We explore practical ways to start shifting your standards now, even if you are in a challenging season, so that the wins you create are not just one-offs but become your new normal.
If you have ever wondered why you keep slipping back after a big achievement, or how to break free from patterns that feel stuck, this is a conversation you will want to hear.
Mentioned:
1:1 NLP Breakthrough Coaching
The Fierce Salon: For those consistently making over $10k/month and ready to scale.
Links:
Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/
Instagram: @hayleycarr.tv
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hayleycarr.tv
Linkedin: https://au.linkedin.com/in/hayley-carr-international
You know that client who seems stuck no matter what you try? Who says they want change, but resists every invitation to actually do the thing?
Sometimes… that client is us.
This one’s a little spicy, a little sobering, and a whole lot clarifying. Because if you’re in the business of helping others grow, you need to be honest about your own coachability too.
And if you’re holding space for someone who’s starting to feel impossible to coach, you’ll want to hear this.
This episode is a compassionate deep-dive into:
- The two flavours of resistance that show up with uncoachable clients (and which one is sneakier)
- The patterns we all fall into when we say we want change… but don’t really
- How to spot uncoachability before it turns into resentment
- What to do when you’re the one hitting a wall (and how to get back into integrity without spiraling)
This isn’t about shame.
It’s about responsibility.
It’s about owning our resistance with curiosity, not judgement—and learning how to move through it, instead of dressing it up as strategy or mindset.
Whether you’re feeling stuck in your own journey, or working with a client who just won’t budge—this one’s here to clear the fog and bring you back to centre.
You’re not wrong. You’re just resistant.
And resistance? That’s just a breadcrumb on the way to breakthrough.
Mentioned:
Bloom Business Incubator: A mastermind for those building to their first $5–10k months as a coach or service provider.
The Fierce Salon: For those consistently making over $10k/month and ready to scale.
Links:
Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/
Instagram: @hayleycarr.tv
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hayleycarr.tv
Linkedin: https://au.linkedin.com/in/hayley-carr-international
G'day my loves – I'm recording this one from a very rainy, very cozy lounge room, with a fire crackling, some soothing music in the background, and the river quite literally creeping up to my window. So today's episode has big cozy, calm, candle-lit vibes. But we’re talking about something so many of us grapple with, clarity, especially when we’re trying to make big decisions or navigate uncertainty.
Here’s the truth:
Clarity doesn’t come from thinking harder or trying harder.
It comes when we stop pushing and start softening.
In this quick episode, I’m sharing:
- Why overthinking actually creates more confusion
- How to shift out of “mental gymnastics” mode and into embodied knowing
- My 4 go-to powerful practices to help you access real clarity
- My favorite questions to ask when I feel foggy or indecisive
- Why strategy should support your intuition – not replace it
Whether you’re in a season of transition, stuck in your head, or just deeply tired of trying to figure it all out, this episode is here to help you exhale, soften, and start creating the space for the answer to arrive.
Let this be your gentle reminder: You are not broken. You’re just human. And the clarity you’re craving? It’s already on its way.
Mentioned:
✨ Be Your Own Coach - NLP Immersive Training – Enrolment is open now
Links:
Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/
Instagram: @hayleycarr.tv
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hayleycarr.tv
Linkedin: https://au.linkedin.com/in/hayley-carr-international
You don’t have to be burned out to be stuck.
Sometimes “stuck” looks like being wildly capable… but quietly dissatisfied.
You’re busy. Booked.
On paper, things are working.
But underneath? Something’s off.
This episode is a loving call-out for creatives, high performers, leaders and business owners who feel like they’re doing all the things, and still not getting what they came for.
We're unpacking the sneaky, subtle ways high-functioning people stay stuck, the real cost of staying there, and what to do instead (without blowing everything up).
This isn’t about hustle or shame.
It’s about catching the drift before it becomes a landslide.
We cover:
- The difference between burnout and high-functioning stuckness
- Why staying in “almost good enough” situations is so exhausting
- The 14 most common stuck patterns (real examples for creatives, high performers, coaches + business owners)
- What these patterns are actually costing you (energy, joy, money, clarity)
- What to do instead — gently, sustainably, and with integrity
Whether you’re constantly refining, people-pleasing, overcommitting, hiding from visibility, or building a business that doesn’t quite feel like you — this episode is your permission slip to pause, reframe, and make a new choice.
You’re not broken. You’re not behind.
You’re just stuck in a pattern. And patterns can change.
Mentioned:
✨ Be Your Own Coach - NLP Immersive Training – Enrolment is open now
Links:
Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/
Instagram: @hayleycarr.tv
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hayleycarr.tv
Linkedin: https://au.linkedin.com/in/hayley-carr-international
You don’t need another planner.
Or a better routine.
Or more motivation.
What you might need is to rethink how you define discipline and why your strategies keep falling apart.
This episode unpacks the real reason so many smart, ambitious people fall off track.
And no, it’s not because you’re lazy, disorganised or uncommitted.
We cover:
- Why motivation is unreliable and what to rely on instead
- How structure can feel supportive rather than restrictive
- The identity shift that makes habits stick
- What sustainable discipline actually looks like when you're building a business and a life
This is not about forcing yourself to follow someone else’s system. It’s about designing a rhythm that matches your energy, values and season of life.
If you’ve ever thought “I just can’t seem to stick with it” and you’re ready for a different way forward, one that feels aligned, realistic and actually works.. this episode is for you.
Mentioned:
✨ Be Your Own Coach - NLP Immersive Training – Enrolment is open now
Links:
Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/
Instagram: @hayleycarr.tv
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hayleycarr.tv
Linkedin: https://au.linkedin.com/in/hayley-carr-international
If you’ve been doing all the “right” things but it still feels sticky, off, or oddly lonely, this one’s for you. You’re not broken. You’re not behind. You’re not missing anything. You’re just crossing a threshold most people don’t talk about. You're on your way to becoming exceptional. And yes, it can feel weird.
In this episode, we take a breath and a good honest look at:
- Why the road to mastery often feels quieter (and wobblier) than you’d expect
- The invisible gap between being high-functioning and being truly exceptional
- What it really looks like when you outgrow old tools, spaces, or people
- The internal shift that actually makes space for big, grounded growth
- The one skill that makes the whole thing smoother, more peaceful, and way less chaotic: self-coaching
This isn’t about hustling harder. It’s about softening. Unlearning. Noticing what’s no longer working, and gently letting go.
If you're in the middle of a stretch that feels like the old way is cracking and the new one hasn’t landed yet, this episode is your permission slip to keep going. You’re not off track. You’re ahead of your own curve.
Mentioned:
✨ Be Your Own Coach - NLP Immersive Training – Enrolment is open now
Links:
Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/
Instagram: @hayleycarr.tv
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hayleycarr.tv
Linkedin: https://au.linkedin.com/in/hayley-carr-international
If 2025 feels like a full-blown shitstorm of noise, fear, and "WTF is even happening right now?" this episode is for you.
Whether you're running a business, leading a team, raising kids, or just trying to be a decent human in a very loud world... this is your reminder: you don’t need to shout to be remembered. You need to be trusted.
Right now, people are more cautious than ever. Not just with money, but with energy, attention, and trust. We’re tired. And in a world where AI is automating everything and everyone is busy broadcasting, real connection has become the most powerful and rare currency there is.
You don’t need to be the loudest person online, or have the fanciest funnel, or churn out content like a machine. You need to be someone people feel safe referring. Someone who actually listens. Who leaves others better than they found them. Who knows how to hold space, even when no one is watching.
In this episode, I’m sharing why reputation is everything right now, and what it takes to be the kind of person people talk about in rooms you’re not in, in a good way. I’ll take you behind the scenes of a story that changed how I think about trust in business, and why the skills I teach inside Be Your Own Coach are more essential now than ever.
This isn’t about hype. It’s about doing meaningful, memorable work, and becoming someone people trust.
Links:
The NLP Immersive Training (Be Your Own Coach)
It’s been a while. I’m tucked up in my snuggliest clothes, recording this late at night - heart full, energy soft, and if I’m honest… a little bit nervous to be back behind the mic. But here we are!
This episode is tender. It’s about the messy middle. The quiet. The moments when things wobble, and no one’s watching, and it’s just you with you.
I’m sharing what brought me back, and what’s carried me through. The quiet, powerful work of self-coaching. Not the performative kind. Not the “push through” kind. The kind that holds you when you’re not sure what comes next.
Inside this episode, I chat about:
✨ Why I stepped away from the podcast, and why I came back before I felt “ready”
✨ The real question that rerouted me from fear (and how I use it with clients all the time)
✨ What self-coaching actually is.. and what it’s not.
✨ How to use the tools you already have, even if you’ve forgotten they’re there.
✨ My top 5 go-to processes I use on myself, from emotional clearing to good old-fashioned reframing
✨ The difference between waiting until you feel ready vs. just deciding to return
✨ Why self-coaching is the most powerful way to stay connected to who you are — especially when no one’s looking
This one’s for anyone who’s been quietly trying to find their way back to the centre. For the parts of you that feel like you’ve drifted. For the version of you that knows how to hold yourself — even if you’ve forgotten for a while.
I’m so glad to be back. Let’s begin.
Free resources & tools mentioned:
- Download the Self-Coaching Guide
- Grab the Weekly Review Template
- Join Be Your Own Coach – NLP Immersive - 2025 Cohort begins May 28
G’day, friends! In this episode, I’m sharing a new approach to sales and enrollment for coaches and service providers—one rooted in trust, transparency, and integrity.
Inspired by a sales training I couldn’t even finish, I reflect on the outdated, high-pressure tactics we’re so often taught and how they clash with the personal, transformative work we do. Instead, I explore how to create meaningful connections with potential clients, from empowering them to make their own decisions to being honest when coaching isn’t the right fit.
Sales doesn’t have to feel “salesy.” It’s about building relationships, not closing deals. And when we lean into generosity, empathy, and ethical practices, the results are better for everyone.
I’m also creating a short course on effortless client creation that dives deeper into these ideas. Join the waitlist via the link below to learn more!
Everything you want is closer than you think. Stay curious, stay open, and I’ll see you in the next episode.
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Authentic, Effortless Client Creation - A Tiny Course on building a reputable coaching or service-based business. Join the Waitlist
Links:
Submit your Question for the Podcast here
Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/
If you've ever had a huge dream but felt completely stuck because you have no idea how to get there—this episode is for you. I’ve been there too, and today we’re talking about how to get unstuck and move forward, even when the next step feels totally unclear.
One of the biggest things I’ve learned is that it's not about having the perfect plan. It’s about trusting the process, even when the path feels foggy. Sometimes, you’re not meant to know all the steps ahead. You just need to focus on one small step at a time and let the rest unfold.
I also dive into how important it is to make sure the advice you’re following aligns with your values. Not everyone will get your vision, and that’s okay—but don’t let their doubts cloud your path. And yes, fear will come up, but not all fear is bad! In this episode, we break down the different kinds of fear and how to tell if it’s guiding you forward or holding you back.
And lastly, if you’re feeling overwhelmed by pressure to make things happen fast, it’s okay to give yourself more space. Sometimes slowing down actually brings more clarity—and things start moving even faster when you do.
Trust me, you’re closer than you think.
Free Resources:
- Business Housekeeping Checklist: Simplify your operations to focus on what truly matters.
- Good to Great Guide: A free course on playing bigger and feeling better in your business.
My Masterminds:
- The Bloom Business Incubator: A mastermind designed for those looking to balance personal growth with professional success.
- The Fierce Salon: A high-level mastermind for ambitious women ready to redefine the way they work and live.
Links:
Submit your Question for the Podcast here
Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/
If you’re empathic, introverted, intuitive, or highly sensitive, you might feel like the typical business advice just doesn’t fit. Hustle culture glorifies burnout, always being "on," and chasing metrics, but that constant push can be toxic—especially for us.
Here’s the truth: You don’t need to hustle harder to succeed. You can thrive in business without sacrificing your well-being.
Signs You’re “Girlbossing” Too Hard:
- Burnout masked as productivity – You’re getting things done, but it’s draining you.
- Struggling with visibility – Showing up feels overwhelming.
- Perfectionism – Nothing feels “good enough.”
The Downside of Hustle Culture:
The rise of the "girlboss" movement originally empowered women to take control of their careers, but over time, it glorified overwork and individual success. It left many feeling isolated, burnt out, and disconnected from their own goals.
For sensitive entrepreneurs, there’s a more sustainable path. Focus on slow business—an approach that aligns with your values and prioritizes well-being as much as success. Set clear boundaries, redefine success, and embrace imperfection.
Ready to ditch the hustle and build a business that supports you? Let's slow down and create success on your own terms.
Check out my Fierce Salon or Bloom Business Incubator in the links below for aligned, sustainable growth.
Until next time, slow down, stay curious, and remember: everything you want is closer than you think.
Free Resources:
- Business Housekeeping Checklist: Simplify your operations to focus on what truly matters.
- Good to Great Guide: A free course on playing bigger and feeling better in your business.
My Masterminds:
- The Bloom Business Incubator: A mastermind designed for those looking to balance personal growth with professional success.
- The Fierce Salon: A high-level mastermind for ambitious women ready to redefine the way they work and live.
Links:
Submit your Question for the Podcast here
Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/
Hey, Superfreaks! Today's episode is all about the incredible power of a 90-day transformation. Whether you're stuck in a rut or just feeling like life is happening to you rather than for you, this episode is for you. We’ll be diving deep into how you can create meaningful, lasting changes in your life by focusing on just 90 days.
90 days is long enough to see real transformation, but short enough to stay committed without losing momentum. Whether you're looking to level up your business, improve your health, or make personal growth breakthroughs, I’m sharing actionable steps to help you achieve your goals.
If things feel hard or uncertain right now, know this—change can happen faster than you think. You’re just 1% away from a breakthrough that could turn your life or business around.
What You'll Learn in This Episode: Why 90 days is the perfect time frame for transformation * How breaking your big vision down into 90-day goals makes change feel more manageable and exciting. * The power of "1%" thinking * Learn why focusing on just 1% of your long-term vision in 90 days can lead to massive growth. * How to shift your mindset and become the person who achieves your goals * I’ll talk about the crucial shift from asking "How?" to asking "Who do I need to become?"—a question that changes everything. * How to create the habits that will transform your life * Small habits, repeated daily, have the power to create life-changing results. I’ll show you how to build those habits in a way that feels natural and sustainable. * A strategy for staying connected to your goals* * It’s easy to drift off track when things get busy or hard. I’ll share simple tips to keep your vision front and center every day for the next 90 days.
Free Resources: Business Housekeeping Checklist: Simplify your operations to focus on what truly matters.* * Good to Great Guide**: A free course on playing bigger and feeling better in your business.
My Masterminds: The Bloom Business Incubator: A mastermind designed for those looking to balance personal growth with professional success.* * The Fierce Salon: A high-level mastermind for ambitious women ready to redefine the way they work and live.**
Links:Submit your Question for the Podcast here
Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/
Mastermind groups and coaching programs are a growing trend in the business world, but are they truly worth the investment of your time, energy, and money? This article unpacks how to decide if a mastermind group is the right fit for you, the unique benefits these groups offer, and the red flags to watch out for when evaluating one.
Hayley Carr, with over 14 years in the coaching industry and 9 years running mastermind groups, breaks down the essentials. She shares her own experiences—both positive and negative—and offers insight into how to ensure a mastermind or group coaching program will align with your goals.
Key Points:
- Define "Worth It" for Yourself: It’s crucial to know what you need from a mastermind group before you commit. Whether it's personal growth, business strategy, or peer support, clarifying your goals helps set expectations.
- Benefits of Mastermind Groups: Masterminds provide accountability, diverse perspectives, community, faster business growth, and holistic personal development. Being surrounded by like-minded, driven individuals can spark new ideas and accelerate your progress.
- Red Flags: Not every mastermind is the right fit. Ask yourself if the group’s focus aligns with your values, and whether the coach’s style complements your needs. If you feel pressured or your values don’t align, it might not be the best investment.
- When It’s Not the Right Time: Timing is everything. Joining a mastermind when you’re unable to dedicate the mental and emotional energy might make it feel like an added burden rather than an opportunity for growth.
Free Resources:
- Business Housekeeping Checklist: Simplify your operations to focus on what truly matters.
- Good to Great Guide: A free course on playing bigger and feeling better in your business.
My Masterminds:
- The Bloom Business Incubator: A mastermind designed for those looking to balance personal growth with professional success.
- The Fierce Salon: A high-level mastermind for ambitious women ready to redefine the way they work and live.
LINKS:
Submit your Question for the Podcast here
Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/
In this episode of the Superfreak Podcast, we explore the surprisingly powerful practice of slow living in business. I know this might sound counter-intuitive—how could slowing down possibly lead to more productivity and higher profits? But after years of integrating these principles into my own work, I’ve found that aligning with a more natural pace not only prevents burnout but actually leads to better results.
Throughout the episode, I’ll be sharing how I’ve applied these slow living strategies to my business. We’ll discuss how this approach has helped me grow sustainably and maintain a healthy work-life balance, and I’ll offer practical ways for you to start doing the same. Whether you’re feeling burned out, bored, or just stuck in the constant hustle, this episode is about showing you how slowing down might just be the key to moving forward faster and with more clarity.
You’ll learn how to recognise when it’s time to push for growth and when it’s time to rest, reflect, and realign. We’ll talk about why rushing through decisions often leads to mistakes, and how slowing down can lead to more mindful, impactful choices. And I’ll walk you through real-life examples from my own experience—how embracing slower, more intentional business practices has allowed me to build a business that not only performs better but feels more fulfilling.
If you’re curious about how this could work for you, I invite you to download my Good to Great Guide, a free resource I’ve created to help you play bigger while feeling better. Additionally, you can grab the Business Housekeeping Checklist, which will help you streamline the backend of your business and create a calm, organised workspace. Both of these guides offer practical insights to help you move from good to great and are perfect companions as you consider joining The Bloom Business Incubator or The Fierce Salon. These communities are all about creating success on your own terms, and I’d love to see you there.
Resources Mentioned:
Good to Great Guide: A free course designed to help you play bigger and feel better in your business.
Biz Housekeeping Checklist - A free guide to keep your business organised and running smoothly behind the scenes.
The Bloom Business Incubator: Join this mastermind to build a business that works at your pace.
The Fierce Salon: A community of high-achieving women committed to slow living and sustainable success.
LINKS:
Submit your Question for the Podcast here
Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/
In today’s episode, we delve into the critical signs that indicate it's time to elevate from good to great. Feeling stuck, stagnated, or frustrated isn’t a signal to give up; instead, it’s a powerful indication that you’re ready to level up. By recognising these signs, you can transition from merely good to outstanding in various aspects of your life, whether it's your career, personal growth, or any other area where you seek improvement. Here’s a breakdown of what we discussed:
Part 1: Recognising the Stagnation
- Plateaued Performance: Consistent effort isn’t yielding the same results, leading to frustration and burnout.
- Lack of Challenge: Feeling bored or too comfortable in your current role or situation.
Part 2: External Indicators
- Increased Competition/Saturation: A sign that your field is valuable and there’s an opportunity to stand out.
- Changing Needs: Whether it’s customer needs or your own, adapting to these changes can propel you forward.
Part 3: Internal Drives
- Desire for Impact: Feeling a deep craving to make a significant difference and reach more people.
- Passion for Excellence: A relentless drive for continual improvement and high standards.
Part 4: Opportunities and Risks
- New Opportunities: Recognising and leveraging new opportunities, such as technology, can act as a springboard for greatness.
- Risk of Obsolescence: The fear of becoming irrelevant can push you to innovate and stay ahead.
Part 5: Leadership and Influence
- Increasing Influence: Opportunities to step into thought leadership and expand your influence.
- Building a Legacy: The desire to create something enduring that outlasts you, whether it’s a business, a societal impact, or generational wealth.
Key Takeaways
- Recognise the Signs: These signals often feel frustrating but are opportunities for growth.
- Incremental to Exponential Thinking: Shift from small, incremental changes to bigger, bolder steps.
- Embrace the Journey: Moving from good to great requires courage, trust in the unknown, and a willingness to step outside your comfort zone.
Actionable Steps
- Download the Good to Great Guide: A free resource designed to help you understand the transition, set new goals, and make the switch to exponential thinking.
- Share the Episode: If you found this episode helpful, share it with someone who might benefit.
- Engage with Us: Leave a review and let us know your thoughts on the Good to Great Guide.
Remember, feeling frustrated is just the beginning. You are already on the journey from good to great. Stay curious, stay open, and keep dreaming big. Until next time, ciao for now!
LINKS:
Download the Good to Great Guide here
Download my Self Coaching Guide here
Submit your Question for the Podcast here
Join the waitlist for my Masterminds here
Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/
Life inevitably throws unexpected curveballs, like grief, illness and family emergencies. So how do you keep your business afloat while honouring what matters most—taking time to grieve, heal and be with loved ones?
This episode comes from a place close to my heart as I share with you my personal experiences and provide practical advice for how to keep your head above water.
Recognising Life's Impact
The first thing is we need to recognise the impact of life events. So often we set goals with this idea that, because we’ve set the goal or signed up for this mentorship or just started our business now, nothing is allowed to go wrong. And that's just not how life works. We actually have to live as though the unexpected emergencies are guaranteed. They might not always come as big tragedies - even little things can really disrupt the flow of what to do.
Self Compassion and Setting Boundaries
The next part of addressing setbacks involves having self-compassion and setting priorities and boundaries. During tough times, it's crucial to be compassionate with yourself. Self-compassion helps regulate emotions, improve decision-making and reduce stress and anxiety. Once you've practised self-compassion, it's vital to reassess and set priorities. It's okay to push some tasks to the side or reschedule them to ensure you have time for what truly matters.
Practical Strategies and Support Systems
Practical strategies are key to keeping your business running during personal crises. This includes automating tasks, utilising technology, delegating to virtual assistants and communicating transparently with clients about any potential delays. It's also helpful to explore business models and schedules that offer flexibility. Leaning on support systems is equally critical. Whether it's friends, family, professional networks, or a therapist, having a support system in place can provide the help you need to navigate tough times.
Remember, be gentle with yourself. Don't set goals or plans with this undercurrent of not being able to afford for this to go wrong. Instead, set your sights on creating achievement with space for life to do its thing, knowing you have tools in place to support you.
If you have any thoughts or questions about this episode, I’d love to hear from you. Feel free to message me via the link below. Much love!
LINKS:
Download my Self Coaching Guide here
Submit your Question for the Podcast here
Join the waitlist for my Masterminds here
Website:https://hayleycarr.tv/
When you’re going for big dreams, it can be hard to not feel completely crushed when things don’t go according to plan. How can you be more carefree when things shift and change, instead of it feeling like the end of the world? This idea of being more carefree is something that I’ve been speaking about with a number of my clients recently and it just so happens to be a listener question as well.
Before launching into any tips and strategies, I feel like an important aspect of this discussion is to clarify what being carefree means. To me, it’s about being present, enjoying the process, and not overly stressing about the outcome. This mindset is crucial for high performance and your overall sense of wellbeing, no matter what the thing is that you’re pursuing.
The pressure I felt to maintain success after winning a world competition in martial arts was huge. But, it taught me a valuable lesson: When we're too focused on the result, the journey becomes unenjoyable and stressful.
How to Be More Carefree: Ten Practical Tips
- Love on Yourself Really Hard
Practice self-compassion, self-love, and positive self-talk. Being kind to yourself during setbacks is crucial for maintaining a healthy mindset.
- Shift Your Perspective
Question your beliefs about your challenges. Is it the ultimate truth? Often, a change in perspective can make obstacles seem much more manageable.
- Develop and Keep a Growth Mindset
See every experience as a learning opportunity. Celebrate your efforts and progress, and never compare yourself to others—only to your past self.
- Stay Present
Focus on the now. Worrying about the future or dwelling on the past takes you out of the present moment where life actually happens.
- Pace Yourself
Set realistic milestones. Although it might seem counterintuitive when you’re aiming high, lowering your expectations in the short term can help you achieve great things over time without overwhelming yourself.
- Build Resilience
Develop coping mechanisms for stress and have a comeback strategy for when things go off track. This helps you recover quickly and keep moving forward.
- Practice Gratitude
Focus on what's working rather than what's not. Cultivating gratitude will keep you motivated and positive and is generally an amazing practise to have in your everyday life.
- Visualise Your Success
Your brain can’t tell the difference between imagining something and it actually happening. Visualise your goals as if they've already happened to build the neural pathways for success.
- Pleasure Over Pressure
Pursue activities that bring you joy. Finding pleasure in the journey decreases the pressure on achieving the end result. Again this one might seem counterintuitive but as you do things that light you up, you’ll naturally lean into success and joy in other areas of your life, including those big goals.
- Create a Supportive Environment
Surround yourself with positive, encouraging people and limit your exposure to negative influences as best you can. It can be really helpful to have a professional coach, mentor or therapist in your corner to help prioritise your mental health.
Embracing a carefree attitude doesn’t mean you don’t care—it means you’re more focused on the present moment than on a specific outcome. The ironic thing is that this mindset can make you more attractive to achieving your goals because you're not weighed down by desperation or stress.
I’d love to hear which of these tips resonates with you the most. Remember, everything you want is closer than you think. Stay curious and stay open.
LINKS:
Download my Self Coaching Guide here
Submit your Question for the Podcast here
Join the waitlist for my Masterminds here
Website:https://hayleycarr.tv/
On the road to pursuing big goals, there will be times when you feel ready to go to the next level but for some reason, you meet resistance. Even though you’re doing everything you know you should be doing, something is holding you back.
The reason for this resistance often lies deep within our subconscious. There's this thing called secondary gain, which is essentially an unnoticed benefit of staying right where you are. While logically, we want to grow and achieve more, our subconscious wants us to stay where we are.
Your subconscious mind is designed to keep you safe. It’s there to make sure that everything you do each day can be done without thinking about it. It controls the majority of what happens in your body, your mind, your heart, your actions, your feelings, your thoughts and your beliefs. But that can work for you and against you.
Tap into your Intuition
Where we need to start is excavating at the subconscious level to look at what is in the way between where you are now and where you want to be. This is where it’s really important to understand the difference between fear and intuition. Fear will always be loud and scary, but intuition will be constant.
In my opinion, the best way to tap into your intuition is by getting into your body. Movement, being in nature, noticing where you feel certain thoughts in your body. Make this a regular practice so you can make a distinction between the voice of fear and the voice of your intuition.
Pinpoint the Secondary Gain
Take some time to think about what benefits you might be getting from staying stuck. They might not be obvious right away but ask yourself questions like:
What am I afraid will happen if I actually reach my goal?
Is there a downside to achieving this goal that I’m not acknowledging?
What am I protecting myself from by not moving forward?
Once you have an idea of what’s going on, work on flipping those subconscious beliefs around. Create new, positive beliefs that match up with what you consciously want. Instead of "I might fail if I succeed," think, "Each effort I make brings me closer to success, even if I stumble along the way." Change "I will lose something important if I grow," to "Growth opens up new opportunities and can enhance what I value most."
Visualise a Safe Success
Your subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between you visualising something and it actually happening. Professional athletes use visualisation every day because they understand this.
Practice visualising achieving your goal and it going as well as possible. Feel the emotions that go along with that and make sure it’s a positive experience. Teach your body how it feels and that this is normal because when you can teach your brain and body where to go, it will naturally flow there.
Affirmation
A lot of people try using affirmations to progress forward but they’re going too far that it doesn’t feel achievable. The key to affirmation is to pick a better feeling thought. Instead of claiming these big bold statements that are a world away from your current reality, choose something just one level away.
Mindfulness and Presence
When you're in the process of working towards a huge goal, it can feel like everything is urgent. Stop a moment and ask yourself, “What’s important right now?”. Do the one thing that will move everything forward and make every other task irrelevant.
I find the best way to stay connected to the presence is through meditation. It creates space in your mind so you can pause and think before you do something out of a knee-jerk reaction.
Calm, Consistent Action
Teeny tiny movements towards what it is that you want will bring you a feeling of success and like you're on purpose. By taking small consistent actions towards your goals, it reinforces the fact that you have focused on what's important and affirms to you that you deserve what it is that you're working towards. If you’ve decided that you want to go to the next level, your action is the thing that cements your decision.
Get Support and Accountability
Sometimes an outside perspective is just what we need. Working with a coach or a trusted friend can provide the support and accountability you need to work through subconscious resistance.
Self Reflection
I do a weekly review as a way to check in with my goals and what's happened in the last week. This self reflection practice is a great tool to discover what you’ve learned, where your resistance is, what’s holding you back and what you might be avoiding.
Remember, everything you want is available to you in some version of reality and it's available right now. You just need to remove the resistance between where you are now and where you want to be.
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Last week I talked about getting good at failure and how real failure is only when you give up entirely. But I don’t think that conversation would be complete without talking about the fact that sometimes it is necessary and even beneficial to quit.
Knowing whether it’s time to let go of something is a topic that comes up quite regularly in my coaching, especially for people who are pursuing seemingly impossible or drawn-out goals. It’s not uncommon to arrive at the question: "Is it worth continuing?"
There’s a thing called the sunk cost bias, and it can trick us into staying committed to ventures that no longer serve us, just because we've invested so much into them already. Whether in relationships, businesses, or personal pursuits, recognising when to walk away is really important. The caveat here is that only you can really know when it’s time to quit and when it’s time to persevere.
Signs It Might Be Time to Quit (or at least change something)
Persistent Unhappiness
If you're consistently feeling unhappy, stressed, or unfulfilled despite your efforts to improve the situation, it might be time for a change.
Loss of Passion or Excitement
A significant decline in enthusiasm and energy for your venture could signal it’s time to re-evaluate.
Negative Impact on Health
Your body doesn’t lie. If your health is deteriorating due to ongoing stress or exhaustion, your body is trying to tell you something. Get out in nature, connect back in with your body and listen. It might surprise you what you hear.
Toxic or Abusive Environment
When you're in a consistently toxic or abusive situation, walking away is often the best option. For me personally, there isn’t even a question around this one.
Lack of Growth or Advancement
If there’s no room for growth or opportunities for advancement, you might have reached the end of the road.
Misalignment with Values
When the venture no longer aligns with your core values, it might be an indicator to move on.
Persistent Gut Feeling to Quit
Your intuition is powerful. If your gut is persistently urging you to quit, it’s worth taking seriously.
Think about the last time you quit something and felt good about it. What made you realise it was the right choice? Reflecting on past decisions can provide you with clarity on the dilemmas you’re currently facing.
Signs it Might be Worth Persevering
Temporary Setbacks
There’s a difference between a temporary setback and a permanent problem. Cash flow issues, tech problems, or health setbacks can often feel overwhelming but they might only be temporary hurdles.
Ongoing Progress
If you’re still making progress and seeing improvements, albeit small, it could be worth persevering. Progress is progress, and you might be just around the corner from an encouraging amount of growth.
Passion and Purpose
Over the 16 years of running my business, there have been hard times when I have seriously questioned whether I should keep going. In those times, I always came back to my passion and purpose. If you still feel a strong sense of passion and purpose in what you’re doing, it’s worth pushing through difficult times.
Supportive Environment
A solid support system can make a huge difference in your persistence. Whether it’s a mentor, a group of friends or a networking community, they can help normalise the challenges you’re facing and encourage you to keep going.
Positive Feedback
During the times I’ve felt like throwing in the towel, I would receive random positive feedback about the work I was doing. Good feedback, even a little bit, can be a strong motivator to keep going.
Continuous Learning and Growth
If what you have been pursuing still offers growth and learning opportunities, it might be worth persevering.
Reflect on past challenges you’ve overcome and how you felt during that time. They might have felt insurmountable at the time, but perhaps those situations can be an encouragement to keep going.
Deciding whether to quit or persevere is complex and nuanced. While persistence can pay off, sometimes quitting is the bravest and most productive decision you can make. Remember, the goal is to learn how to coach yourself, tune into your own needs and make choices that align with your long-term well-being and goals.
Everything you desire might be just a step away, whether it’s quitting or persevering. Only you can know the right answer.
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The fear of failure is the underlying topic beneath every conversation I have with my clients. No matter who you are, what you’ve achieved and what success you’re striving for, nobody is immune to the fear of failure. We all face it. The solution then isn’t so much about ridding yourself of the fear. It’s about getting comfortable with being uncomfortable because the fear will never not be there.
A fear of failure can come up at any stage of the performance spectrum. Maybe you even fear admitting what you really want because of the possibility of being ridiculed or people thinking your goals are unrealistic. People often claim they don't know what they want, but it's usually to avoid the difficult process of pursuing it.
Admitting what you want
Admitting your goals is just the first step. Then comes taking action, which brings its own set of fears. You might worry about looking stupid or being disappointed. These thoughts can be paralysing. And then there's the fear of success - what if achieving your goal changes your life in ways you're not prepared for?
The Illusion of Fear
The fear of failure is insidious and ubiquitous. Yet, on the other side of that fear lies total freedom. When you truly see “failure” for what it is, an incredible learning experience, the rest of your experience becomes a playground. The concept of failure becomes irrelevant once you realise your fear of failure is a total illusion.
Taking Action
This is where it’s so important to reframe your thinking around failure. Instead of letting the possibility of failure stop you from trying in the first place, think of any action you take as an opportunity to grow and get closer to your goal. Sure, you risk not getting what you want straight away, but that's just the price of entry for any worthwhile pursuit.
Being comfortable with Discomfort
Successful people aren't immune to fear; they've just learned to be comfortable with discomfort. And so can you. You build comfort with discomfort by continuously putting yourself in situations where you risk failure and learning from each experience.
Once you admit what you want and start taking action, despite the risks, the mere act of pursuing what you love will feel like success. The fear of failure is just a mental barrier. Once you begin, you realise the journey itself can be fulfilling.
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I’m no stranger to burnout. Starting in 2008, chronic fatigue had me pretty much housebound for years, and as weird as it sounds, I count that experience as a privilege. I was forced to set boundaries that I know I wouldn't have set had I not been forced to.
That experience changed the way I approached achieving success because I could no longer work myself to the ground. The consequences were too great. Instead, I had to find smart and unconventional ways of working so that I could prioritise my health. To me, that’s not a luxury, it’s a necessity.
Everything Counts
One thing I've come to realise through my coaching practice is that everything that is happening in a person’s life is relevant. Often when I’m working with a client, halfway through a program something unexpected will happen and that then forms part of the curriculum. Sometimes it doesn’t feel like a good thing, like a time of bereavement. Other times it can be a good distraction like a new relationship or pregnancy.
People often think they need to separate what’s happening in life from the work they need to do to reach their goals, but everything is connected. We need to make space for life to happen and embrace the fact that the journey might be a little more windy and slow than we initially thought it would.
Make Time For Yourself
One of the biggest precursors to burnout is ignoring the extra stuff that's going on in life and not acknowledging what they’re really spending their time on. They feel stressed and rushed all the time which is not at all conducive to being creative.
Life will always happen and extra pressures like everyday errands, commuting time, health challenges and relationships will use up mental, emotional, and physical bandwidth. It can be really helpful to write out everything you do on an average day to really see where you spend your time and then make extra space for yourself to breathe a little and do the things that light you up.
That way, the pressure is off, you feel calm and way more able to work toward the things you want to achieve. Yes, it might take a little longer, but maybe with this newfound peace, you’ll reach your goals way faster than expected. Either way, you’re moving forward.
Everything you need to achieve your goals is already in motion. By staying present, open, and curious, you can harness the magic of the present moment to propel you forward on your path to success. Trust in the process, honour your pace and expect the unexpected.
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I don’t believe in junk drawers. In fact, I’m a big believer that things should be as beautiful behind the scenes as they are front of house.
So, it’s somewhat embarrassing to admit that a few years ago, I realised the organisation I’d been so proud of in my home did not translate to my business! Things were super chaotic and none of the basics had their proper place.
I know I’m not alone in this. I’ve seen far too many people become dismayed and overwhelmed in their businesses due to a lack of solid systems and processes in the back end.
Today, I’m talking all about business housekeeping and how it can help you maintain a well-organised and efficient operation. We’ll discuss how incorporating regular tasks into your routine can save time, reduce stress and ensure the smooth running of your business.
Theming Your Days
Theming my days is something I find super helpful when allocating different admin tasks to certain days. You might have a couple of days where you do work in the business, and maybe two days or even 80% of your week where you work on the business.
It’s also important to think about who is going to complete these daily tasks. Is there someone on your team, or an option to oursource? Alternatively, if you’re running a one-man show, ask yourself how you’ll be reminded to make sure everything gets done. Whether it’s an analog calendar or task management software, find whatever works best for you.
Weekly Reviews
Once you have your daily tasks planned out, it can be really helpful to do weekly reviews on how things went. What lessons did you learn? Is there a process that needs tweaking? It’s also a good opportunity to check in with your team, look over finances and review any projects.This practice allows you to stay organised, identify areas for improvement and ensure that everyone is on the same page.
Regular Reporting
Something I do monthly is a memory clean for my computers. Removing unnecessary data and checking for manual updates can keep everything healthy and streamlined. Along with this, we do monthly reporting to look at social media analytics, subscriber count, cash flow and net worth.
You can set your own frequency, however. Weekly, bi-monthly, quarterly - whatever works. By regularly reviewing these metrics, you can identify areas of growth, pinpoint any issues or bottlenecks, and make informed decisions to drive your business forward.
Checking on Your Automated Systems
One thing we didn’t do so well in the business initially was regularly check over some of the automations we had set up. When our system broke and we didn’t have a task to make sure everything was running smoothly, things got messy - things like missed payments and out-of-date client details.
So not only do we now have automatic tasks that go to team members to check up on things, we have a backup task where every month we run a report to make sure everything is on track. This will give you so much peace of mind, knowing that your systems are still running efficiently even if your software glitches out.
Remember, the key to a successful business is not only what happens on the front end, but also what happens behind the scenes. By prioritising business housekeeping, you can create a harmony in your work environment that allows you to focus on what truly matters – growing your business and achieving your dreams.
So, take the time to implement these tasks into your routine and watch your business begin to truly thrive!
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Do you want to know the secret to figuring out how to do something you’ve never done before and do it successfully? Today I’m talking about how big thinkers and dreamers navigate unchartered waters, create amazing things and achieve epic results. The truth is, there’s no one size fits all approach. It’s about uncovering your unique strategy and allowing that to shape every aspect of your decision making across all areas of your life.
What is your unique meta strategy?
After coaching for over 16 years now, something I’ve recognised to be incredibly powerful is when people uncover their unique meta strategy. Everyone has one, even if they don’t know it. Your unique strategy is the underlying, high-level approach that you unconsciously use to achieve your goals. From buying a house to pursuing your biggest career dreams, every action is guided by a strategy unique to you.
Don’t follow someone else’s strategy
When we want to achieve something that we haven’t done before, it’s logical to look to other people for inspiration. How did they get there? What strategy did they use? It’s natural to want a step by step guide on how to navigate a path you haven’t walked before. But the problem with that is that it doesn’t take you as a unique individual into consideration. It doesn't take into account the nuances of your past, your experiences, your successes up until this point, your passions or your values. What worked for them might not work for you.
Another problem with simply following someone else’s strategy is that most of the time, we don’t see all the other work that goes on behind the scenes. We see a snapshot, the very last moments before the big win. We don’t see the thought patterns, the experiences that have shaped that person’s world view and how they landed on that strategy in the first place.
Your strategy is as unique as your fingerprint. It's not about following someone else's footsteps or copying external strategies. Instead, it's about embracing what feels good for you and your individual approach to problem-solving, decision-making, and achieving goals. And, your unique strategy will apply to every area of your life. It’s not something that will only apply to business or a specific industry so it needs to be vague enough to do so.
Clarify, not create
Your unique strategy isn’t something you have to design or create. It’s already there. Look back to times in the past when you have achieved something amazing or when something just flowed and felt good. It could be in any area of your life and they don’t have to be related in any way. Think about your career, your relationships, travel adventures… anything.
Once you’ve written down or talked through as many examples as possible, think about what you did to make them work. You’ll discover common threads throughout all these experiences that form your unique strategy for creating epic results.
It doesn’t have to be complicated
My unique strategy has four components: Go on adventures, do what feels fun, make new friends and express myself. This has absolutely nothing to do with business, and yet everything I create is based on this strategy.
I hope this episode really inspires you to go back over your own experiences and successes to uncover your unique strategy. This has been a game changer in my life and in the lives of so many of my clients. The challenge isn’t so much in understanding what your strategy is, but more so in trusting it.
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At its heart, coaching is an art form. Whether you’re a manager, leader, parent, counsellor, therapist, or coach in any capacity, the paradox lies in walking with someone through their journey, prioritising their autonomy and best interests, without dictating the outcome based on your opinions.
As a coach and mentor, I've discovered that holding solid, personal coaching philosophies not only sharpens my ability to make quick, impactful decisions but also enables me to truly listen and place my client’s needs ahead of what I think is best. Today I’m sharing 10 of my personal coaching philosophies, which I hope inspire you and get you thinking.
- People very rarely need or want what they think they need or want.
In my experience, people often have a set idea of what they should want, but when you peel back the layers, you discover they genuinely want something different. Your job as a coach is to go deeper and uncover the true desire or necessity behind a goal.
- Your strategy as a coach is completely irrelevant
Jumping straight into strategies without aligning with the client's actual needs is a complete waste of time. Before you start any strategy, first get super clear on what the client really wants or needs.
- Chemistry is more important than strategy
The rapport between coach and client is far more crucial than any curriculum or strategy. Ultimately, coaching is an intimate container and trust needs to be built in order for any change to occur.
- Slow Down. Speed Up
There's profound power in slowing down. It allows for clarity, deeper understanding, and contrary to how it might seem, you also reach your goals faster with less effort. It’s not about slowing everything down no matter what, it’s about taking considered action and wasting no effort.
- The curriculum is in the client
The coaching agenda should emerge from your client's unique journey and discoveries, not the other way around. Life is always going to happen, and making space for nuances and varied experiences will always be a priority.
- Be willing to let your client hate you
Sometimes promoting real growth means risking what someone thinks of you. A good coach or leader will set their ego aside act and speak out of integrity, even if it means saying something they might not want to hear.
- The more you live your life, the better a coach you will become
Coaching comes down to listening and learning and the more life experience you have to draw from, the more you understand that you don’t know it all. Listen well and empathise with people and from that place, you can offer a rich coaching experience.
- Make your wealth outside of your coaching business.
This is quite a controversial opinion but in my business, I know that separating financial success from coaching outcomes helps me maintain integrity and truly focus on my client’s success.
- Don't try to be a superhero. Aim to be unemployed
A natural tendency as a coach is to want to cling to clients and make them need you forever. But a good leader will make themselves dispensable, aiming for a relationship where the client feels empowered to create long-term success without you.
- Coaching is learning from the past and creating the future
If someone is stuck in the past, my goal as a coach is to bring them into the present. And if someone is anxious about the future, again the work is to bring them into the present.
These philosophies are from my worldview and you might agree, you might not. Either way is completely fine but I do hope these principles inspire you to think deeper about your personal philosophies and how you might be able to unlock a greater sense of intention into what it is you do.
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I want to share a life-changing story with you today which is the foundation of everything I do. It’s a story from my favourite book, "You Squared" by Price Pritchett, about the futility of trying harder and why sometimes, we just need to look at things from a different perspective.
We can all relate to those times in life and business when things just aren’t working. No matter how much we push ourselves to work harder, be better and grind our way through, we just keep banging our heads against the same wall. We get exhausted and discouraged, spending all our energy and resources on trying harder without pushing the needle forward.
For a lot of people, trying harder is the only solution they know. We’ve been taught not to give up, not to be weak and to just keep going when things are tough. And yes, there are times when we need to dig deep and work hard and there’s a sense of reward in doing so. But if you’ve been working harder and harder and you’re just not getting anywhere, this might be the perfect time to zoom out and find a different solution.
I've experienced burnout firsthand, spending years feeling stuck until I realised that trying harder wasn't the answer. But this isn’t just about burnout. This principle applies to any challenge you are facing or any time you want to take a leap to achieve something wonderful. When we learn to question our default mode of ‘trying harder’, we open our minds to the possibility that there might be a more effective way to achieve our goals. It’s about giving yourself permission for things to be a little easier, a little faster and done with a little less effort.
It takes courage to change course and to consider doing the opposite of what you've always done. But sometimes, that's exactly what's needed to break free from the cycle of futile effort and embrace new possibilities.
After listening to this episode, I invite you to reflect on where this pattern might be happening in your own life. What are the telltale signs that you're stuck in a cycle of trying harder but not getting results? By tuning in to your inner voice and being open to looking at things from a different view, you will discover an ease and way forward that you didn’t know was possible.
What got you here might not be the thing that will get you there. Maybe you actually need to do the opposite and you will achieve the same result without trying so hard.
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Along every path toward creating or achieving something, there will at some point be invisible hurdles that keep us from moving forward. These moments of stagnation aren’t just random misfortunes but the manifestations of resistance. So today I’m sharing with you one of the greatest secrets that I use in my coaching every single day to unblock resistance, struggle and the endless wheel spinning that can happen on our way to reaching goals and creating amazing things.
There are two types of unconscious resistance to achieving a goal. Whether you’re coaching yourself or someone else, part of your work as the coach is to determine which type of resistance a person is experiencing so that you know how to move through it.
Resistance to Action
The first form of resistance is the most familiar one – the resistance to taking action. This is where you know what needs to be done, but somehow, you find yourself doing everything but that. A big sign of this type of resistance is procrastination. You get lost in endless research or busying yourself with tasks that don’t drive your goal forward.
If you’ve identified that the resistance is toward taking action, here are three things you can do:
Break down the task to tiny chunks
If you are overwhelmed, your tasks are too big. Break things down into very small tasks so they can be achieved in 10 minutes. All success is about taking lots of tiny little actions inside of a bigger goal.
Don’t do pointless mindset work
Instead of doing mindset work on the massive goal, work only on the small task at hand. Doing mindset work on one specific area. This is about finding a way to connect how taking action on one tiny task is going to give you more of everything that is important to you and less of everything that you currently don't want.
Accountability
If you find you're not achieving what you set out to do, you're probably setting the bar too high and you need to lower it. Allow yourself to actually experience some wins because wins breed more wins. Accountability will bring you those wins if you combine it with taking tiny actions.
Resistance to the Result
On the flip side, there's a sneakier kind of resistance – resistance to the result, or as some might call it, the fear of success. It might sound paradoxical, why would anyone fear success? Yet, this type of resistance is deeply rooted in our subconscious fears and beliefs about what achieving our goals truly means. It embodies the fears of change, the unknown and what we might lose or sacrifice in the pursuit of our goals – even when we’re outwardly working hard to achieve them.
This type of resistance is likely when you have no hesitation toward take action and completing a task, but it feels like progress is never being made. It might feel ike it's been going on forever and you're just not satisfied with the progress that you're making.
Here are three things you can do to move through this sneaky type of resistance:
Identify your “interesting ideas”
These are your subconscious fears and beliefs that act as barriers. Challenge these ideas one by one. Write them down and really dig deep to discover all the weird and interesting ideas you have about what success might look like.
Create your own unique strategy
Often people think that they need to change themselves in order to achieve new levels of success, but it’s important to identify your unique traits that got you to where you are now. It's your authenticity that makes you stand out and be able to work consistently and sustainably towards your goals.
Have a mission that trumps the how
Double down on teaching your nervous system that it's safe to have the result without needing to know all the things that are going to happen in between. Having a vision of where you want to go is a powerful practice and even further, allowing yourself to dream beyond your goal will make the original mountain seem like a mole hill.
As you move forward, remember that every struggle against resistance is a stepping stone toward greater self-awareness and achievement. It's about unlocking a deeper understanding of yourself and how you interact with your goals. Everything you desire is closer than it seem – it's just about peeling back the layers of resistance that stand in your way.
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When you’re at the beginning of your business journey, it can feel disheartening when you hear other entrepreneurs share their instant success stories. The truth is that the path to a sustainable business looks different for everyone. For me, it was slow and winding and I met some unexpected challenges along the way. But along the journey, I also experienced some profound personal growth and learned a lot about sustainability.
My journey into coaching began in 2007 when I had an inspiring experience with a coach which resulted in me breaking a world record in martial arts. This experience completely changed my life and I was hooked. In 2008 I signed up for a coaching course and made the brave decision to quit my well-paying full-time job in interior architecture and focus on karate and coaching training. My boss thought I was crazy because it was also in the middle of a recession!
After about three months, I was diagnosed with chronic fatigue and I hit rock bottom. I was coaching very sporadically and all I could do was focus on my health. From there it was a nuanced journey of recovery, finding different jobs, travelling the world and slowly building up my business to where it is today.
Find your definition of sustainability
Sustainability in business isn’t just about financial stability. You also need to think about your personal well-being and your capacity to continue doing what you love without risking burnout. It's about creating a business that not only supports your financial needs but also aligns with your values and lifestyle. That’s why it looks different for everyone. There’s no right or wrong strategy, it’s more about understanding what’s going to work for you.
Your Energy is Paramount
Sustainability begins with you. If your business demands more than you can give, it's unsustainable. It's crucial to find a balance where your personal energy and the demands of your business coexist harmoniously. This balance ensures that you can continue to serve your clients and grow your business without compromising your health or happiness.
Financial Management is Key
When I started my business, I was completely uninterested in tracking my money and actually had no idea what I was earning. Now, I understand that financial management isn’t just the boring stuff, but a critical aspect of building a sustainable business. You need to ensure your business revenue covers your monthly expenses and know how long it takes to turn prospects into paying clients. Grasping these components enables you to plan better, reduce stress, and have a clearer picture of your business's financial health.
Embrace Your Unique Journey
The road to success isn't linear. It's filled with nuances, mistakes, and lessons that are unique to your context and circumstances. Embrace this uniqueness and allow yourself to move at your own pace. Whether it takes you months or years to reach your goals, what matters most is that you're building a business that truly reflects your values and dreams.
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If you didn’t notice, it's been nearly an entire year since my last episode… but I'm back! The irony is not lost on me that when I last shared on the podcast, I talked about staying consistent - and then stopped releasing podcast episodes for an entire year. But, business has been running along as usual this whole time and I’ve been consistent in other areas. So today I’m back to re-launch the podcast and update you on everything that’s been happening behind the scenes.
Social Media Hiatus
In addition to pausing the podcast, I’ve also been completely off social media. Without going into the details, things were happening on the personal front as well as professionally, which led me to make the choice to scale back in order to preserve the quality of my work in other areas.
Taking the 30,000 Foot View
Having run my own business for 16 years, I know why it’s so valuable to understand the mechanics of business and how I can pull different levers at times to suit different stages and phases of business. We don’t always have to do the things we think we do.
I like to think of it as having a 30,000 foot view. When you’re up high, you can see all the wheels and cogs working together and how different things affect each other. When you have that outlook, you know which leavers to pull during different seasons of your life so that your business can keep running without having to pour time, money and energy into every aspect.
Booked Out Business Without Social Media
Someone asked me the other day how I’ve managed to market my business without social media. The thing is, my business has been fully booked out working in a variety of ways with my existing clients. All I had to do was send two emails to my existing clients, offering personalised ways that I could keep working with them. Again, this is one of those levers that I knew I could pull and I’ve really enjoyed working with these clients during what was a challenging time on other fronts.
Launching Programs for 2024
As I make my grand return to the podcasting world, I’m also launching two coaching programs in the coming months. I’ll soon be opening the doors to the ninth iteration of The Fierce Salon, which I’m really excited about. This program is for anyone in a leadership position who wants to go from good to great by letting go of what you no longer need and going to the next level.
I’ll also be launching The Bloom Business Incubator, which is my program for mission-based business owners who aren’t yet making their first 5k to 10k months consistently and sustainably. This is a group coaching program where I’ll be talking about taking that 30,000 foot view in business so you can make really strategic decisions. It’s going to be amazing.
I’m so excited to be back here with you all again. Remember, life's full of ups and downs, but it's how we navigate them that matters. So, here's to staying curious and taking the high view.
LINKS:
Join me in The Fierce Salon
Join me in The Bloom Business Incubator
Website:https://hayleycarr.tv/
Do you often find yourself feeling drained and lacking motivation to work on your business, while other times you're full of energy and ready to conquer the world? We’re often told that running a business requires consistent effort, but what do you do when your energy levels are all over the place?
In this episode, I’m sharing 4 of my secrets to running a business when you have inconsistent energy. You don't need to force yourself and keep pushing through. Unavoidable things will happen and you’ll need to take a break or recover from illness or help with family emergencies that pop up unexpectedly but if you set up your business using this framework, taking that time off won’t be a problem.
We’ll explore different paths of growing a business because there is no one way that works for everyone. We’ll take a look at what consistency actually means and how we can redefine it to work for you and your energy. I’ll show you how to examine your schedule and re-plan your days from the viewpoint of you on your worst day - not your best. Lower those expectations! And then I’ll take you through how I plant days and weeks into my own planning to ensure I have time and space to rest, recuperate, create or just be present.
I also have some very useful questions at the end of the episode for you to jot down and reflect on to work out how you can run your business using your own unique rhythms and keep you motivated for long term success.
Running a business with inconsistent energy levels requires flexibility and adaptability and if you plan for those dips in energy levels from the beginning, you can feel confident and reassured when you need to take time off. Neglecting your physical and mental well-being can further drain your energy, making it even more challenging to run a business. Make sure to prioritize your own self-care to boost your energy levels and maintain your overall well-being.
LINKS:
Join me in The Fierce Salon
Website:https://hayleycarr.tv/
https://hayleycarr.tv/superfreak-podcast
Are you trying to grow your winner’s mindset? Is it even worth your time and energy?
In this episode, I’m going to challenge you to consider developing a winner’s consciousness instead of a winner’s mindset because it will keep you on the path of winning, even when you’re not feeling it.
A winner's consciousness is a way of thinking that focuses on growth, abundance, and possibility. This means embracing personal growth and focusing on the learning that happens as a result of failures and mistakes. When you view every challenge as an opportunity to learn more about yourself and improve your skills, you can turn setbacks into successes and continue to move forward towards your goals.
So, do you have a winner's consciousness? Or, are you working towards something in your life, in your business, perhaps in your coaching or creative career, where you think it's a win or lose situation? Maybe you're launching a program and you feel like everything depends on this one thing working.
You're forgetting that there will always be another opportunity.
One of the most important aspects of having a winner's consciousness is being fully present in the moment. This means letting go of past failures or future worries and instead focusing on what you can do right now to move closer to your goals. By being fully present, you can take advantage of opportunities as they arise and make the most of every moment.
Remember, developing a winner's consciousness is an ongoing process. It takes time and effort to shift your mindset from one of limitation and binary win-lose thinking to one of abundance and possibility.
Listen to today’s episode to learn how you can propel yourself further than adopting a winner’s mindset to learning how to cultivate a winner's consciousness that will help you soak up every opportunity and succeed in business and in life.
LINKS:
Resources mentioned:
- Book: Flow: The Psychology of Happiness By: Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi
- The Flow Consciousness Institute
Join me in The Fierce Salon
Website:https://hayleycarr.tv/
https://hayleycarr.tv/superfreak-podcast
Today I’m spilling the tea on a really big part of my coaching philosophy and the secret behind the scenes of what I'm doing with all of my clients inside of my coaching program.
This secret allows my clients to make seemingly impossible results within a very short space of time. For instance, if you want to x5 your turnover while keeping the same cash profit margin or buy that unbelievably amazing dream house that was only ever a pipe dream. I’ve seen my clients inside The Fierce Salon achieve these remarkable results in only 6 months using this secret and now I want to share it with you!
I’m going to teach you a whole new way of looking at the very popular philosophy - there’s no such thing as failure, only feedback. I’ll show you how to understand and bring your self-awareness into your own life to create incredible feedback. This episode will also transform the way you look at the word “strategy” and how to strategize in a repeatable and proven way that gets what you want for the rest of your life.
Firstly, there are three different types of strategies: micro, macro and meta. Micro strategies are the small decisions we make daily that can have a big impact on our overall success. For example, deciding to wake up early or choosing to eat a healthy breakfast. These micro strategies can add up and have a significant impact on our lives and businesses.
Macro strategies are the big-picture decisions we make that have a long-lasting effect. These macro strategies can have a profound impact on our future and are the vehicles to deliver us to our meta goals.
Meta strategies are the overarching plans we create to achieve our long-term goals. They are made up of a series of micro and macro strategies that work together to achieve our desired outcome. These strategies are essential for success in both our personal lives and businesses.
We’ll explore how to take the emotion out of how we view ourselves and the labels we use, and look at undesired outcomes as symptoms of failed strategies. I’ll take you through examples of how I’ve seen my clients use this secret to create amazing results and show you how you can use it across different aspects of your life.
This is a mammoth masterclass episode and if you’d like to learn more, The Fierce Salon is open for enrollment and we’re starting soon!
LINKS:
Join me in The Plateau Playbook Masterclass
Check out my free Weekly Review Spreadsheet here
The Fierce Salon - https://www.thefiercesalon.com/
Website:https://hayleycarr.tv/
https://hayleycarr.tv/superfreak-podcast
When you’re working towards your big life goals and it feels like you’re not really getting anywhere or moving as fast as you’d like to and you’ve hit a plateau, it’s natural to start questioning if you’re even meant to achieve this at all.
Everyone around you may be telling you to go down the safe path because they care about you and don’t understand the journey you’ve embarked on. You’re feeling impatient with your growth but ultimately, deep down, you know it’s not about how much time it takes.
You’re on a different path - The exponential growth path.
This mammoth episode is perfect for you if you’re feeling frustrated with the plateau and you might not even realise you’ve chosen the exponential growth path. Many others around you will have chosen the incremental path where each step is predictable and steady. They went to school, then university, got a job, worked their way up in a company and bought houses etc. Their journey through life is predictable and safe.
But that’s often not the case for the creative entrepreneur and I want to talk about this with you today because too often people give up too early. They take the advice of people on an incremental path and choose to walk away. I want you to stay on your exponential growth path and wind up living a life you never thought possible.
In this episode, I’ll explore 9 phases where you may find yourself on your exponential growth path:
- A loose vision.
- Courage.
- Patience.
- Discipline.
- An exponential mind and openness to opportunities and knowing that anything is possible.
- Flexibility or agility.
- Know what to control and let go of the rest.
- Intuition.
- Sustainability.
Exponential growth requires an exponential mindset. You can be in any industry at any point and it can happen for you. You can switch to thinking exponentially, and it can make a difference to any path that you are on.
So join me to deep dive into your own growth path and together we’ll explore how you can expand and open up your thinking to get you ready for your quantum leap.
LINKS:
Resources mentioned:
- Incremental vs Exponential Thinking Graph
- How to create an exponential mindset by Mark Bonchek
Join me in The Plateau Playbook Masterclass
Check out my free Weekly Review Spreadsheet here
The Fierce Salon - https://www.thefiercesalon.com/
Website:https://hayleycarr.tv/
https://hayleycarr.tv/superfreak-podcast
Do you feel yourself stuck on a plateau so you start setting goals to try and break through?
It can often feel like setting a goal is shooting a paper aeroplane off a cliff and hoping it lands where it's supposed to go. It's full of wishing, hoping and visualisation and not being certain. Or we can become so fixated and we work ourselves so extremely hard that we end up feeling completely empty and not enjoying the process.
In today’s episode, I’m going to help you stop fixating over the outcome and to completely destroy the drama of the goal with my 42 reverse punch method that will help you actually get to WHO you want to become AND enjoy the ride. Because we don’t want to drag ourselves over the finish line with nothing left in the tank, feeling so incredibly burnt out and are so exhausted we never want to go for anything else.
I'm going to help you make it happen in a way that is way simpler, exciting and, most importantly, far easier to repeat again and again whenever you want.
I’ll show you how to destroy the glitz and glamour of your goal by using my 42 reverse punches that break down the outcome into easy, energising and sustainable steps. I used this method to win a world title in martial arts without being the biggest, the best athlete or with the most experience.
It’s all about finding order in chaos.
I’ll take you through these questions to prompt your journaling and figure out what your ultimate outcome is and the person you want to be when you get there:
- What's the thing I want? Everybody has a thing that they want. Take a moment to have a good think about it and don't lie to yourself.
- What characteristics do the people at the top of their game in this field embody? Or, what kind of characteristics do I know I need to embody?
- Outside of talent and the steps to get there, what are the tiny actions I could do every single day that I could track that would move the needle forward to becoming that person?
- How can I destroy this outcome to its most pure, raw 42 reverse punches form? Have I practised order from chaos?
Destroy all the drama and the glitz of the goal. You just need to be who you need to be, and it could happen at any moment.
LINKS:
Check out my free Weekly Review Spreadsheet here
The Fierce Salon - https://www.thefiercesalon.com/
Website:https://hayleycarr.tv/
https://hayleycarr.tv/superfreak-podcast
Have you begun a new path into unknown territory and feel a bit lost, a bit unsure, and like you’re a complete newbie again?
It’s both very exciting and very scary at the same time.
I work with a lot of creative entrepreneurs, coaches, people who are building businesses, and people who want to create an alternative life for themselves from the traditional job roles and so often I'm helping people transition from one space into another. What I’ve noticed is we start to believe we’re at the very beginning again and can feel like we're a little baby lamb coming out of our past industry or past career choices and standing on unsteady, shaky legs in the wake of something new.
If this is you and you’re transitioning from one place to another and you feel like you’re starting again, don't really know what you should be doing and it feels confusing and overwhelming - I’ll show you how to harvest the gold from your past to help you tap into your power of the present.
In this episode, I’ll guide you through my own method for finding and using past experiences and strategies to overcome uncertainty in the present. You already have access to an incredibly rich bank of golden knowledge and insights that are uniquely your own that you know will work for you, so let’s use them!
You’re absolutely not a helpless, unsure baby lamb - even when you’re beginning again in a completely different industry. By taking a moment to listen to this episode, grabbing a pen and paper and journaling through the exercises, you will have a specific, practical and unique list of strategies you can use immediately to feel confident and in control of your growth and where you want to be.
LINKS:
The Fierce Salon - https://www.thefiercesalon.com/
Website:https://hayleycarr.tv/
I get asked this question all of the time in my group training programs so I thought it would be really fun and helpful to share it today with you.
I know that often people think that the perfect marketing strategy or shiny new website will get you a whole heap of new clients but it’s just one piece in a pie. You can have the most amazing marketing, but if you provide a terrible customer experience, your clients feel incredibly stressed working with you, all the payments are clunky, and your clients can't get in touch with someone - marketing will actually kill your business as fast as it grows.
So today, I’m going to be sharing with you my experiences, how I’ve been trained and how I train my clients to think when looking for different places to find and enrol new clients.
We’ll go through how elements of high tech and high touch businesses can complement each other and 14 different ways to find new clients and start creating a customer experience.
The first 10 don't even have anything to do with having the perfect marketing strategy or your message being super clear or designing the perfect website. I didn't have any of that for the first 4 years of my business, and when I got really caught up in needing to have that, my business drastically slowed down. I stopped doing all of the things that made my business work, like going out and having fun - I learned it’s all about doing that combination of both high touch and high tech.
In today’s social media it often seems like you need to be the loudest and put so much of yourself out there…literally. But it's often the quiet, consistent things that make the biggest difference in people trusting and knowing you and feeling comfortable, safe and excited to work with you.
Resources mentioned:
- The Prosperous Coach by Rich Litvan and Steve Chandler
LINKS:
Check out my free Weekly Review Spreadsheet here
The Fierce Salon - https://www.thefiercesalon.com/
Website:https://hayleycarr.tv/
We all love planners. They’re cute, funky and bought with the best intentions to organise and revolutionise our lives so we get the most out of every day. I’m no different, I have the cutest little planner in the world and I love tracking everything BUT if we don’t have a practice and system for using them, they’re just going to be a fancy notebook sitting on our desk full of our hopes, dreams and lists.
In today’s episode, I’m taking you through the system that has changed my life - the weekly review. This system has been influenced by the Getting Things Done program by David Allen and my own coaching knowledge, experience and wisdom.
I’ll take you through the exact steps of how to do a weekly review and how you can tweak them to be specific for you because we’re not all the same. Trust me, by dedicating an hour or two every week to reset, clear out your inboxes, clear desks, look back on what you’ve done, celebrate the wins, learn from the losses, look at what worked and planning your week ahead - you’ll gain so much clarity around how you’re spending your time, what you’ve accomplished and where you need to focus in the upcoming weeks.
Life happens, stuff pops up and we get distracted. We’re human! By incorporating a weekly review in, you’ll be like a pilot constantly readjusting the flight path to stay on course.
This is the best method I’ve found to take control and stop just ignoring things and hoping they go better next time. You will start to feel organised when you bring attention to what is unconscious, reviewing weekly will change your life, I promise you that!
Resources mentioned:
- Getting Things Done by David Allen
- Omnifocus
- Todoist
Previous episodes mentioned:
- Episode 55: Listen to this if you never see the results in your physical world
LINKS:
Check out my free Weekly Review Spreadsheet here
The Fierce Salon - https://www.thefiercesalon.com/
Website:https://hayleycarr.tv/
Today I have something special for you if you want to become more productive, more energized, more joyful, and want to live a meaningful life that is specifically designed for you.
As creatives and high performers we tend to take on a lot of extra responsibilities and obligations because we don’t want to let anyone down and often they’re stressing us out and leaving us with no time to create. So how do we gain clarity around how we spend our time - by conducting an energy audit.
I invite you to grab a pen and paper and listen in to do an audit on everything that is energizing you and everything that is draining you every day. When you see it all on paper, you can start to focus on the things that are energizing you and filling you with joy and fulfillment, start doing less of what drains you, or if you can’t do less, intentionally shift your focus onto it to break it down so it doesn’t overwhelm you.
I managed to redesign my life and business when I did an energy audit and examine everything that energized me and everything that drained me and left me feeling exhausted. By making positive changes to how I structured my day, the environment I surrounded myself with and giving myself space to create, I was able to recover from almost three years of debilitating chronic fatigue and still be here running a business over ten years later.
I’ll run you through how to audit where you’re spending your energy and time to creatively redesign your life and business. We don’t have to follow society and work 9am to 5pm Monday to Friday! That’s the wonderful and incredible thing about owning your own business or being a leader - you have the ability to decide what works for you.
LINKS:
The Fierce Salon - https://www.thefiercesalon.com/
Website:https://hayleycarr.tv/
What happens when we feel we’ve achieved an amazing transformation internally but just don’t feel like the external world has changed that much? It can even often feel worse than it did before because you’ve made such incredible internal shifts while work, relationships or your finances feel stuck.
In today’s episode I’m going to teach you one of my favourite Superfreak high performance habits where we look at the extraordinary and bring the ordinary back. I use this tool every day to help my clients who want to create impossible things and achieve their big, audacious, hairy goals but don’t know how to bridge the gap between where they are and where they dream of being.
Let’s start by pausing and taking a moment to reflect on the little shifts in your physical world that are compounding over time to give you the success you are looking for. It can often feel like nothing is happening and you’re wading through honey but if you are consistent and keep going, the people surrounding you will start noticing and you’ll start seeing the external shifts around you so keep going.
I’ll take you through my tool to turn your big goals into process driven projects that you can start implementing in your everyday life. There will be tiny little actions you can start to work towards your vision of the future person you want to be and the life you want to have.
After listening to this episode, write down your huge audacious goal and start brainstorming the differences and actions you can take to become the person you want to become. Everything you want is so much closer than you think - so start today!
LINKS:
Previous episode mentioned:
- Calm Your Farm
Planner printables and inserts: https://8lotus.co/en-au (I use the habit tracker sheets!)
Weekly review downloadable
Uplevel with theBe Your Own Coach NLP Immersive - an NLP Certification Course with Soul.
The Fierce Salon - https://www.thefiercesalon.com/
https://hayleycarr.tv/self-coaching-gift
Website:https://hayleycarr.tv/
On today’s episode I’m checking in on how you’re implementing the advice I gave in my previous episode about ridding ourselves of New Year’s resolutions. Did you slip up and get absorbed scrolling endlessly through Instagram looking at the constant posts about setting resolutions? Don’t worry I’m here to help you unclench and start breathing again.
This episode is for you if you want to start 2023 differently from every other year but don’t know how to. You’re probably already feeling stressed, stretched and worried that we’re already in January and the year will zoom by.
Did you know that all of us overestimate what we can do in one year and underestimate what we can do in five years? Why? Because our brains can’t fully understand exponential growth and compounding interest. We need to look at achievement differently than the traditional, patriarchal and capitalist viewpoint and look at it as a journey of moving forward from just good to astonishment. This is the notion of compounding success where we see what’s on the other side of each step and are super excited to move to the next level.
I’ll take you through how to understand compounding efforts, compounding effects and how these lead to success in your life. You can start to transform your entire life by taking your first steps in the next 90 days. 90 days is long enough for you to decide if you hate something, leave, quit, stop, come back, start again, make mistakes and achieve results.
We’ll explore how compounding efforts lead to big changes by focusing on the tiny little things you do every day. I’ll take you through examples of how these compounding efforts lead to compounding success by showing you how real people have gotten there - it all starts with a tiny little step.
And most importantly, don’t get caught up in timelines, do what you can right now in this moment.
So if you feel like you’re already behind because it’s January - take a moment and breathe. Remember that you have so much time. Your timelines are yours and you can decide when things need to happen.
LINKS:
Previous episode mentioned:
- Let me ruin new years resolutions and plans forever
Weekly review downloadable
Uplevel with theBe Your Own Coach NLP Immersive - an NLP Certification Course with Soul.
The Fierce Salon - https://www.thefiercesalon.com/
https://hayleycarr.tv/self-coaching-gift
Website:https://hayleycarr.tv/
As a coach, I have a lot of conversations with my clients about the offerings that they’re putting out into the world. It is so exciting launching something new, running another round of a program or opening up a new way for someone to work with you, but how do you handle the inevitable rejection?
You can feel like you’re doing all the right things and It can be a real hit to the ego when your offer or service is met with a “no”.
I want to remind you that there are a number of reasons why someone might say no, and it’s totally okay. The four reasons I mention in today’s episode are:
- They don't see the value. This could be because they don't fully understand your work, or because it doesn't align with their priorities. If this is the case, it's important to try and clearly communicate the value of your work and how it can benefit the person you're trying to work with.
- No connection to you. If you don't know the person well, they can’t connect with you on social media or if you have different professional or personal interests, it might be difficult to get them on board with what you have to offer. They have to feel like they can relate to you in some way.
- The timing isn't right. The person you're trying to work with might be too busy with other commitments, or there might be other factors that make it difficult for them to work with you at the moment. In this case, it might be helpful to try and find out where they’re at and follow up with them next time you’re running the offer or program.
- It's just a no. Sometimes, people say no for no particular reason. It can be frustrating, but it's important to remember that everyone has their own priorities and motivations, and it's not always possible to understand why someone might not want to work with you. This is totally okay. Not everyone is going to be a yes!
Just because someone says no doesn't mean you're doing something wrong. It could be one of the four reasons I mentioned in today’s episode, or something else entirely. The important thing is to keep an open mind and try to understand where the other person is coming from. Check in with your ego, and keep going. Your people are out there and if you’re consistent, they’ll find you.
LINKS:
Uplevel with theBe Your Own Coach NLP Immersive - an NLP Certification Course with Soul.
The Fierce Salon - https://www.thefiercesalon.com/
https://hayleycarr.tv/self-coaching-gift
Website:https://hayleycarr.tv/
What’s the thing you hear most about at the beginning of the year? New years resolutions right?
As someone who is passionate about the topic of goal attainment, I’m telling you right now, don’t bother. If you’ve made new years goals and resolutions, I’m telling you today why you need to throw them out the window and what you should do instead.
Statistically speaking, only a tiny fraction of people actually reach their new years' goals. Most people plan according to their current reality and base what they think they can achieve on what they’ve done in the past. They think too small about what’s possible in one year, and not big enough about what can happen in 10.
We’re going about it all wrong!
So strap in, because in this episode, I’m out to ruin new years resolutions by letting you in on a superfreak secret. I share the 6 steps of a higher level framework that will help you plan without planning, be ambitious while remaining patient, and open to creating unexpected magic each and every day.
The problem with new years resolutions is that they’re an outdated plan. You won't be the same person in one year, let alone in one week. Today I talk about why you need to get clear on your desire and give yourself permission to want what you want, and to be open for that desire to change. And don’t underestimate the power of visualisation - you need to feel that desire in your bones.
Setbacks are inevitable - you should absolutely plan for those. And while you’re at it, begin to reframe the stories that create internal resistance. I talk about living as if your dreams were already a reality and tracking the little things you do because these contribute greatly to your overall strategy for success.
The big rule is don’t stop. Keep doing what’s within your power every single day and let the rest go. And even though you set an intention, focus on here and now with flexibility and openness and allow the magic to happen. Be patient, not passive because so much can happen in a year. Check in with yourself weekly, daily, moment to moment and be the person you want to be today, in whatever way you can.
LINKS:
Uplevel with theBe Your Own Coach NLP Immersive - an NLP Certification Course with Soul.
The Fierce Salon - https://www.thefiercesalon.com/
https://hayleycarr.tv/self-coaching-gift
Website:https://hayleycarr.tv/
My martial arts training taught me to take 24 hours to celebrate, commiserate and move on, no matter what happened. This is my final episode for the year, so I wanted to take this opportunity to do a little review, letting you in on the thoughts, feelings, challenges, and the highs and lows of my year. If one word could sum up 2022, it’s contraction.
As much as I’m not a fan of new year’s resolutions, I love a good personal review and do this on a very regular basis. I talk about staying focused, not making speculative decisions based on what has or hasn’t happened and building on the momentum of the year by reviewing, learning, transcending and casting a vision forward.
Sometimes we’re up and sometimes we’re down. I talk about taking lessons from the past, including what worked and letting go of what didn’t, viewing circumstances from a higher perspective. We don’t know what the future brings, but remaining curious and open allows us to learn, and expand with every contraction.
It’s the end of the calendar year so, take a breath. No matter what has happened for you this year, if it was a fabulous year filled with prosperity or if you’ve been in the trenches, it’s time to hit the refresh button. Celebrate, commiserate and move on.
I’ll be taking a short break over the holidays and back with a brand new episode in January 2023. No matter what 2022 uncovered for you, I hope you have a safe and happy holiday season and find enjoyment in the little things. I encourage you to take a little bit of a review as well, get honest, and start casting your vision forward.
LINKS:
Uplevel with the Be Your Own Coach NLP Immersive - an NLP Certification Course with Soul.
The Fierce Salon - https://www.thefiercesalon.com/
https://hayleycarr.tv/self-coaching-gift
Website:https://hayleycarr.tv/
Have you ever felt like you know what you should be doing but you just don’t do it?
Maybe you’ve made big goals that seem to fade away or you keep attracting the same circumstances into your life. These are all signs that there’s something happening on the subconscious level.
The amazing thing is, it doesn’t have to take a giant amount of effort to push against your nature and make real change in your life. There is an easier way.
In this episode, I’m talking about peeling back the layers and going directly to the source - our subconscious. I explain why success and failure aren’t conscious and how effortless change can come about when we align our subconscious with where we want to go.
Our subconscious mind makes up the majority of what controls our thoughts, actions, decisions and results. So if you’re seeing negative patterns repeat themselves and you’re trying to address the problem in the conscious mind, you’re looking in the wrong place.
I explore how the mind works to delete, distort and generalise information according to our filters and why everything flows effortlessly when you make changes on the subconscious level. What you believe about the world will create your future. I share some insights about the reticular activating system and the importance of looking at the patterns that are present in your life.
The best investment of time and energy you can give yourself is to start looking at the source. The more you can change subconsciously, the more effortless it is to create what you really want moving forward.
LINKS:
Uplevel with the Be Your Own Coach NLP Immersive - an NLP Certification Course with Soul.
Website:https://hayleycarr.tv/
A topic that comes up a lot in my coaching circles is making our spaces more beautiful and organised, to flow with our lives and express our personalities. A lot of us carry the mental load of the home, even while working, raising kids and all the other life things. So today, I’m talking about running your home like a business and 4 steps to domestic adulting freedom. This has been an absolute game changer in my home
I believe that simplicity and luxury are two of the top values defined by a superfreak and that treating your home like a sanctuary makes every aspect of your life better. Luxury looks different for everyone - we all define it in different ways and I talk about this in today’s episode. So whether you live alone, with a family or you travel a bunch for work, being intentional about running your home will make every aspect of your life better.
In this episode, I share some of the things I wish I knew before I started sharing housing with others. These are things you can apply as a solo home dweller as well, to create a life of luxury and simplicity, as defined by you. I talk about how to be intentional about running your home, thinking of it like a business, which allows you to both enjoy the beautiful mundane moments and deal with the unexpected things as they arise without feeling swamped.
Whether you consider yourself a domestic goddess or you want to do things the lazy way (like me), I know that as a superfreak you’re going to greatly appreciate this episode. I share some prompts and resources to help you create flow in your home that will directly impact every aspect of your life. If you want to create more time, more freedom, more fun and more flow, this is absolutely the episode for you.
LINKS:
Be Your Own Coach NLP Immersive
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Down to Earth - https://amzn.to/3gtvyQb
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We don’t rise to the occasion, we sink to the level of our training. You might have heard this before, it can be said in many different ways.
We can rise to the occasion but I’m asking you not to. Why? Because, as you’ll learn from this episode, too much pressure for too long causes really big problems. Problems like burnout, exhaustion, anxiety, depression, diabetes, and heart disease. All kinds of problems! But there is one thing that can help and that is preparation.
So many people go all in - burn their bridges, quit their jobs and shut everything off. And when our safety net gets taken away gravity changes. Adrenaline and pressure increase. We make decisions from a place of panic and fear. It can impact us in ways we can’t really predict or understand.
I talk about how to avoid the pressure of the gravity change, and what to do if you’re already in that situation.
Importantly, I take you through how to reframe pressure You can use pressure as an ally and a tool for peak performance. I explain how to do that by frontloading pressure - intentionally and on purpose.
I share three ways of doing this:
- Simulate the real thing
- Think about the ways it could go wrong and simulate those
- Seek out uncomfortable situations and experiences that will grow you as a human.
If something feels scary and exciting at the same time. If it terrifies you and it turns you on. Do it.
We don’t rise to the occasion. We can, but that’s unsustainable. We sink to the level of our training. That’s what superfreaks do. If you want to continue to improve your life, income, career, happiness and health sustainably, for the rest of your life, know this - intentional discomfort is the way to do it. Get to the training ground now.
LINKS:
Frontier Training - Clinton Swaine
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I have a lot of conversations with my high performing clients about imposter syndrome and often these clients don’t even identify as being high performers because of this issue. So today I’m tackling the topic of imposter syndrome and, as usual, I’m doing it in a way that you might not expect.
One way to look at imposter syndrome is that you just have an outdated idea of who you are. You’re still thinking about yourself as the way you were before and you need to update that picture of yourself. Shifting this mindset is important but there’s more to it than that.
There’s so much talk in the online space about empowerment these days. But if you feel like an imposter when you’re with an intimidating person, you’re faced with a challenging circumstance or a confronting conversation, empowerment in itself won’t do anything. What you need is skill.
In this episode, I talk about what happens when people try to replace skill with empowerment and why we need to focus on developing empowerment through finessing a skill. Empowerment without skill is just hope, and hope in itself won’t get you anywhere when you’re under pressure.
True power is born out of skill plus empowerment. If you can combine the understanding that you might have an outdated idea of yourself with the willingness to be constantly upskilling, you will have leverage when it comes to high stake circumstances and rise to the top effortlessly. That’s how genuine empowerment is fortified.
LINKS:
Uplevel with the Be Your Own Coach NLP Immersive - an NLP Certification Course with Soul.
Register for my FREE 2 day live event Play Bigger Feel Better
Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/
I am just back from a delicious three-week trip to the United Kingdom, to see my gorgeous friend get married and a side trip adventure to Scotland. It was wonderful. My husband and I ate cream tea, drank whiskey in bars, explored castles and did long beautiful drives (as well as picked up some cool new sayings along the way).
I am someone who, probably much like you, finds a lot of meaning, new perspectives, inspiration, energy, flow and mindfulness through travel and adventure. Travel makes you rich in memory and experience. And because we’re getting to the end of the year, when things get a little bit frantic, this is your reminder to book yourself a holiday.
There are two reasons for this. First up - you need to front-load, that is, put the things you know you need to take care of yourself into your calendar before you start committing to everything else. Make your business and career work around your life, not life work around your business. Second, is the s-word - space (not sleep, though I’m guessing you might need that too).
Even better, guess what?! Taking holidays actually makes you money. I take you through the five reasons it actually gives back more than what you invest in it.
And if that doesn’t convince you, I have 16 signs that you need a holiday. I have a feeling many of you will tick almost all of these.
Rest is one of the greatest acts of rebellion and I take this very very seriously. It is a non-negotiable aspect of life in business. By the end of this episode, you will understand why.
LINKS:
Uplevel with the Be Your Own Coach NLP Immersive - an NLP Certification Course with Soul.
Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/
Instagram: @hayleycarr.tv
The Business of You:https://hayleycarr.tv/business-of-you
International Women of Mystery: https://hayleycarr.tv/international-women-of-mystery
NLP Training: https://hayleycarr.tv/nlp-training
The Fierce Salon: https://hayleycarr.tv/fierce-salon-coaching
Superabundant: https://hayleycarr.tv/superabundant
Self Coaching: https://hayleycarr.tv/gift
Self-Hypnosis Workshop: https://hayleycarr.tv/hypnosis
In this episode, I encourage you to think about creating authentically - from your own inner desires, wants, values, time, energy and body. I use creating a coaching practice as an example but this can be applicable to anything.
I spent a lot of time in the early days of my coaching practice, doing things a certain way because that was how I thought they should be done. But what I have found more than anything, is that when I can tailor an experience for a client that suits me, it’s a hell yes for me and it’s a hell yes for my client.
If I had been paying attention to the rules, many of the containers and connections that I have created in my practice would never have happened.
The more you can create outside of the rules, while still keeping the parts that are important, the more likely you are to create something that is outstanding, long-lasting, memorable and something that people will treasure and truly value.
So I invite you to consider - what are the rules and are these actual rules? Is that how it needs to be?
Shaking up your belief system like this and letting go of the rules is how you will craft the thing you most crave.
LINKS:
Uplevel with the Be Your Own Coach NLP Immersive - an NLP Certification Course with Soul.
Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/
Instagram: @hayleycarr.tv
The Business of You:https://hayleycarr.tv/business-of-you
International Women of Mystery: https://hayleycarr.tv/international-women-of-mystery
NLP Training: https://hayleycarr.tv/nlp-training
The Fierce Salon: https://hayleycarr.tv/fierce-salon-coaching
Superabundant: https://hayleycarr.tv/superabundant
Self Coaching: https://hayleycarr.tv/gift
Self-Hypnosis Workshop: https://hayleycarr.tv/hypnosis
I don’t know who needs to hear this today but the things that are going on in your life right now, that are distracting you from achieving what you’re working towards? They are not distractions - they are diamonds. And they may just have the medicine you need.
The purpose of this episode is to help you see that every single thing that comes up along the road is part of the curriculum. If you can learn to be with life, alongside with achieving big things, you will create those big things sustainably and your life will be better off.
I used to make the mistake of setting a goal and putting the whole rest of my life on hold. I would ignore red flags, cast aside uncomfortable feelings, push my relationship to the side, all for the sake of being able to achieve my goal. Often I would achieve the goal, but I would be clawing myself over the finish line because I had pushed myself too hard and ignored other parts of my life.
If you can learn to be with life, alongside with achieving big things, you will create those big things sustainably and your life will be better off.
The invitation is to slow down, in order to speed up. Honour the fact that your whole life is happening, and it is certainly not a distraction, it is the curriculum.
LINKS:
The Fierce Salon. Shift the way you perceive, believe, receive and achieve — for good.
Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/
Instagram: @hayleycarr.tv
The Business of You:https://hayleycarr.tv/business-of-you
International Women of Mystery: https://hayleycarr.tv/international-women-of-mystery
NLP Training: https://hayleycarr.tv/nlp-training
The Fierce Salon: https://hayleycarr.tv/fierce-salon-coaching
Superabundant: https://hayleycarr.tv/superabundant
Self Coaching: https://hayleycarr.tv/gift
Self-Hypnosis Workshop: https://hayleycarr.tv/hypnosis
Today we are getting super freaky talking sex and Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP). That’s right folks, it’s not reserved for formal coaching situations - NLP transcends everything we do.
If you’ve never heard of NLP before I take you through exactly what it is, specifically the neuro component, the linguistic part and the programming bit. NLP is a way of understanding how we perceive the world, how we take in information, how we mess with it in our minds and how we put it back out in the world in the form of our experience, results, decisions, behaviours, thoughts and beliefs.
I’m really excited to deliver this episode because I believe that NLP can be such a powerful way to enhance your experience of intimacy and connection in your relationship. Also - sex doesn’t have to be on the table for you to get something from this episode. You can apply these principles to a relationship with yourself as well.
We discuss values, understanding complex equivalences, attraction and deep love strategies and exploring and deepening shared goals. We also explore anchoring and how to utilise this in the three stages of sex - initiation, escalation and climax.
Sex and NLP are intricately linked, just like NLP is linked to absolutely everything! Whether sex is on the table or not, no matter who you are and what you’re going through, it is safe and wonderful for you to feel pleasure.
LINKS:
Uplevel with the Be Your Own Coach NLP Immersive - an NLP Certification Course with Soul.
Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/
Instagram: @hayleycarr.tv
The Business of You:https://hayleycarr.tv/business-of-you
International Women of Mystery: https://hayleycarr.tv/international-women-of-mystery
NLP Training: https://hayleycarr.tv/nlp-training
The Fierce Salon: https://hayleycarr.tv/fierce-salon-coaching
Superabundant: https://hayleycarr.tv/superabundant
Self Coaching: https://hayleycarr.tv/gift
Self-Hypnosis Workshop: https://hayleycarr.tv/hypnosis
I really believe everyone can learn the skills of coaching and that if everyone had these tools, and the ability to practice them, the whole world would benefit.
However, having a successful coaching practice is an interplay of factors that go beyond being an incredible coach. The way I perceive it, there are three layers to a successful coaching business - 1) you and your own genius/niche, 2) understanding the way the subconscious mind works and 3) the business of coaching.
Understanding these three wheels is powerful when it comes to growing and expanding your business, your ability to hold space for people, amplifying your visibility, finding your perfect clients and developing and honing your business skills.
If you are someone who loves coaching and wants to grow a coaching business, you’ll find it really useful to learn about these three parts. Not only will you understand what goes into developing and honing your craft, but it will also help you plot what your next move might be.
LINKS:
Uplevel with the Be Your Own Coach NLP Immersive - an NLP Certification Course with Soul.
Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/
Instagram: @hayleycarr.tv
The Business of You:https://hayleycarr.tv/business-of-you
International Women of Mystery: https://hayleycarr.tv/international-women-of-mystery
NLP Training: https://hayleycarr.tv/nlp-training
The Fierce Salon: https://hayleycarr.tv/fierce-salon-coaching
Superabundant: https://hayleycarr.tv/superabundant
Self Coaching: https://hayleycarr.tv/gift
Self-Hypnosis Workshop: https://hayleycarr.tv/hypnosis
I want to talk with you about a conversation I have with pretty much everyone I’ve ever worked with as a coach - what’s really happening when your hard work isn’t paying off?
You can really start to question yourself here. Are you doing it right? Are you nuts for wanting it in the first place? The self-talk comes in at this point, and it can really alter your direction. You can choose to buy into those thoughts or you can keep going.
In the world of high-performance (be it business, sport, life) - there is a point where the hard work is being put in, and it hasn’t quite paid off yet, and we start to question ourselves. This is the tipping point. And we have to be willing to go through that tipping point in order for it to start paying off. However - this is where people will often stop, because it’s really uncomfortable.
In this episode I explore the seven fundamental things that are going on when our hard work isn’t paying off, and what you can do about them.
I am so excited to be back with you and I hope this episode helps you, especially if you’re right in the middle of that tipping point. Remember, everything you want is so much closer than you think so stay curious and stay open.
Also, if you’re really interested in learning how the mind works (and how the subconscious mind works) I would love to invite you to check out - Be Your Own Coach NLP Immersive. Doors open November 2022.
LINKS:
Uplevel with the Be Your Own Coach NLP Immersive - an NLP Certification Course with Soul.
Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/
Instagram: @hayleycarr.tv
The Business of You:https://hayleycarr.tv/business-of-you
International Women of Mystery: https://hayleycarr.tv/international-women-of-mystery
NLP Training: https://hayleycarr.tv/nlp-training
The Fierce Salon: https://hayleycarr.tv/fierce-salon-coaching
Superabundant: https://hayleycarr.tv/superabundant
Self Coaching: https://hayleycarr.tv/gift
Self-Hypnosis Workshop: https://hayleycarr.tv/hypnosis
Today I’m continuing with my business brand of Superfreak to share three tips for business inner peace. These simple reminders will help to support you in gaining a big picture perspective, making aligned decisions, and importantly, gaining inner peace.
I talk about learning to manage and understand time really well and why we must see this as a necessity instead of a luxury. The best ideas don’t always come when you’re thinking critically!
I dive into understanding cash flow, projecting what will be coming in if you do nothing and how this both did and didn’t save my business. Then I go into the importance of being authentic and making strategic decisions in your business that line up with who you really are.
Also, Bloom Business Incubator is coming soon! This is a 3 month intimate group-coaching deep-dive into the moving parts that make a business bloom. I’m excited to share more about what this experience will look like. It might just be for you!
LINKS:
Uplevel with the Bloom Business Incubator - an intimate group coaching experience.
Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/
Instagram: @hayleycarr.tv
The Business of You:https://hayleycarr.tv/business-of-you
International Women of Mystery: https://hayleycarr.tv/international-women-of-mystery
NLP Training: https://hayleycarr.tv/nlp-training
The Fierce Salon: https://hayleycarr.tv/fierce-salon-coaching
Superabundant: https://hayleycarr.tv/superabundant
Self Coaching: https://hayleycarr.tv/gift
Self-Hypnosis Workshop: https://hayleycarr.tv/hypnosis
Business is an incredible personal development journey. I’m so passionate about helping people have the full picture of business, not limiting themselves to classic business knowledge but broadening their awareness to develop the sustainable mindsets, strategies and skills they need to grow.
The biggest mistake I made in business was thinking I had the complete picture of business and getting frustrated when I wasn’t seeing growth. Great sales and marketing alone do not create a business owner who feels secure and peaceful inside their business. There is so much more to it.
In this episode, I share the story of where I was at when I started my own business 14 years ago. I talk about how I missed the bigger picture and the journey I went on to understand where my energy was best spent.
Classic business knowledge is important but it will never give you the full picture. To discover impactful growth on a personal and professional level, you need to expand your thinking beyond the basic principles.
If you’re in your own business, you’re going to love this episode.
LINKS:
Uplevel with the Bloom Business Incubator - an intimate group coaching experience.
Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/
Instagram: @hayleycarr.tv
The Business of You:https://hayleycarr.tv/business-of-you
International Women of Mystery: https://hayleycarr.tv/international-women-of-mystery
NLP Training: https://hayleycarr.tv/nlp-training
The Fierce Salon: https://hayleycarr.tv/fierce-salon-coaching
Superabundant: https://hayleycarr.tv/superabundant
Self Coaching: https://hayleycarr.tv/gift
Self-Hypnosis Workshop: https://hayleycarr.tv/hypnosis
Today, I’m talking about being seen and visible. This episode is for everyone who struggles with being seen. Maybe you’re in business for yourself and visibility can be an issue for you or you feel awkward having attention on you or you don’t let yourself be seen in your relationships.
I talk about this topic with clients all of the time in all areas of their lives. We start off by reflecting on how we want to be seen and take steps from there.
I realised I was holding myself back because I believed that my audience wanted to see my life a certain way as a life coach. We often believe that who we are is not enough so we just don’t want to be seen.
There is also a perceived (or real) risk of being seen as we are. But there is also a risk and cost of not being seen and massive energy used in hiding it.
We’ll discuss reprograming your mind to know you are enough, overcome the uncomfortable feeling of being visible and take action (more than once!).
Remember, on the inner landscape you’re worthy and valued, and on the outer landscape lock it in and practice.
LINKS:
Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/
Instagram: @hayleycarr.tv
The Business of You:https://hayleycarr.tv/business-of-you
International Women of Mystery: https://hayleycarr.tv/international-women-of-mystery
NLP Training: https://hayleycarr.tv/nlp-training
The Fierce Salon: https://hayleycarr.tv/fierce-salon-coaching
Superabundant: https://hayleycarr.tv/superabundant
Self Coaching: https://hayleycarr.tv/gift
Self-Hypnosis Workshop: https://hayleycarr.tv/hypnosis
Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant and Time bound goals. These are the only obtainable goals, right? Wrong!
The SMART method is just ONE way of thinking about goals. And quite frankly, it feels more like a to-do list than a dream that you’re turning into reality.
If you have some wild, impossible dreams right now, this episode is for you. You’re moving from highly functional to exceptional and I’m giving you permission to break the mold.
When you allow yourself to really dream, you’re breaking down the barriers of time, space, matter, and energy and tapping into the field where pure potentiality exists.
What is one thing you can do today to move in the direction of your dream?
Break it down to something very small and you’ll be so delighted to see how quickly your life transforms when you are willing to do that.
Most of all, allow yourself to dream.
LINKS:
Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/
Instagram: @hayleycarr.tv
The Business of You:https://hayleycarr.tv/business-of-you
NLP Training: https://hayleycarr.tv/nlp-training
The Fierce Salon: https://hayleycarr.tv/fierce-salon-coaching
Superabundant: https://hayleycarr.tv/superabundant
Self Coaching: https://hayleycarr.tv/gift
Self-Hypnosis Workshop: https://hayleycarr.tv/hypnosis
Are you anticipating a difficult conversation with someone? Whether it’s an unresolved tension in a personal relationship or asking your boss for a pay rise, these conversations can be challenging. We often anticipate what the other person will say and just don’t know what to say in return.
In this episode, I continue the theme of understanding your subconscious and break down some NLP techniques to help you foster the art of conversation and have great comebacks.
I talk about understanding the presuppositions of language and listening deeply to what someone is saying underneath their words. I discuss why specificity is so important and how bringing the conversation back to the specific situation will always help you.
Communication is more than talking. If you truly listen, there are many ways you can steer the conversation.
LINKS:
Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/
Instagram: @hayleycarr.tv
The Business of You:https://hayleycarr.tv/business-of-you
NLP Training: https://hayleycarr.tv/nlp-training
The Fierce Salon: https://hayleycarr.tv/fierce-salon-coaching
Superabundant: https://hayleycarr.tv/superabundant
Self Coaching: https://hayleycarr.tv/gift
Self-Hypnosis Workshop: https://hayleycarr.tv/hypnosis
That time of year has rolled around again. We’re going to gatherings and festivities and it can be so easy to become triggered by friends and family in emotionally charged situations. Everyone has different filters for how the world works, and these ideas shape our values, interactions and conflict with others.
The purpose of this episode is to help educate and guide exploration into how to be more compassionate towards people you think are crazy or stupid. It helps to ground us when we recognise that everything we can see in another human being, we probably contain within ourselves as well.
There are so many ways to bring compassionate love into our lives.
I’ll explore the Graves Model (or spiral dynamics) with you and how humans operate from different values systems of thought. I’ll run you through the different values levels to help you understand the different ways people see the world.
Over time humans evolve and our values change. We think that people are stupid or crazy because we’re operating from different values levels. Just remember that we’re all doing the best we can with what we have.
LINKS:
Previous podcast mentioned: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1xeoD5uLQbBLApBcEse0qY
Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/
Instagram: @hayleycarr.tv
The Business of You:https://hayleycarr.tv/business-of-you
NLP Training: https://hayleycarr.tv/nlp-training
The Fierce Salon: https://hayleycarr.tv/fierce-salon-coaching
Superabundant: https://hayleycarr.tv/superabundant
Self Coaching: https://hayleycarr.tv/gift
Hypnosis Lead Magnet: https://hayleycarr.tv/hypnosis
As we move into the holidays, it’s really common for people to feel stressed about hanging out with family members. It can be a challenging time for many reasons.
If you are someone who is taking a stand for what goes on in your life, you are saying that the limiting ideas, struggles and beliefs that have been passed through the generations stop with you. You are shifting and healing your lineage and that can be hard work.
This episode is an invitation for you to let go of the need for validation and approval for the work you are doing. Not everyone will get it but the change you are making in your life will impact many.
Shifting lineage happens slowly over time but also in every moment you make a new choice. Feel proud about the way you are showing up in an intentional way. You are making a bigger difference than you realise.
LINKS:
Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/
Instagram: @hayleycarr.tv
The Business of You:https://hayleycarr.tv/business-of-you
NLP Training: https://hayleycarr.tv/nlp-training
The Fierce Salon: https://hayleycarr.tv/fierce-salon-coaching
Superabundant: https://hayleycarr.tv/superabundant
Self Coaching: https://hayleycarr.tv/gift
Hypnosis Lead Magnet: https://hayleycarr.tv/hypnosis
Tough love episode for you today.
Are you worried about sustaining your amazing business? Are you spending a lot of time worrying about something bad happening and everything coming crashing down?
As a result, you’re feeling scared, anxious, and apprehensive.
BUT I’m telling you that you’re not scared. You’re actually just at the edge of your comfort zone and you’re feeling all of the feels. Your fear mind wants to protect you so it throws all of these questions at you and keeps you focused on the ‘what ifs’.
Trust me, you’re not alone.
When we’re playing with high stakes we often tell ourselves - I’m scared because I’m doing the wrong thing, or my intuition is telling me not to do it, or I’ve gone too far.
I’m always reframing this with my clients. You’re not scared, you’re just at the edge. You are in the natural progression of moving through your comfort zone and when you come out the other side you will feel empowered and this edge will be your new normal.
I want you to get to know yourself at the edge, inhale deeply, and take a brave step forward.
You’re exactly where you need to be.
LINKS:
Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/
Instagram: @hayleycarr.tv
The Business of You:https://hayleycarr.tv/business-of-you
NLP Training: https://hayleycarr.tv/nlp-training
The Fierce Salon: https://hayleycarr.tv/fierce-salon-coaching
Superabundant: https://hayleycarr.tv/superabundant
Self Coaching: https://hayleycarr.tv/gift
Hypnosis Lead Magnet: https://hayleycarr.tv/hypnosis
We all have different things we feel are holding us back. There are roadblocks, things that need to improve and we think those things need to get sorted out before business can flow easily.
Whether it’s limited time, side hustles, children, or migraines, there is a myriad of factors that influence your focus and motivation.
For me, it was chronic fatigue syndrome. I believed I had to be completely healthy in order to run a business. How could I put in the excessive hours that society says I have to in order to begin a successful business?
But my willingness to let go of what it should look like and envision what it could look like has supported me to create an incredibly fun business and life. I started owning it and working within my circadian rhythms. I planned my work around what my body needed and my business flourished.
So I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to remove one to get the other.
It’s not migraines OR millions, it’s migraines AND millions.
We have an idea of what we think running our business should look like in order for it to be successful, and this idea doesn’t include migraines or any of our apparent limitations.
But it’s not your migraines holding you back… It’s this exact way of thinking that’s getting in the way!
Try to open your mind to see how your business COULD look. Trust me, it’ll be nothing like you imagined.
We all have something that we perceive is challenging and limiting our success.
However, none of this has anything to do with your ability to achieve everything you dream.
You can experience migraines AND millions.
This willingness to shift your way of thinking to accept that there will be both is the price of entry to no longer caring how it’s supposed to be done and doing it your own way.
Welcome to the Superfreak land.
LINKS:
Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/
Instagram: @hayleycarr.tv
The Business of You: https://hayleycarr.tv/business-of-you
NLP Training: https://hayleycarr.tv/nlp-training
The Fierce Salon: https://hayleycarr.tv/fierce-salon-coaching
Superabundant: https://hayleycarr.tv/superabundant
Self Coaching: https://hayleycarr.tv/gift
In the personal coaching field, you may have heard of the term ‘radical responsibility’.
By using radical responsibility, you take your power back.
You look for ways you can show up differently. You take responsibility for your actions, thoughts, energy, and words in each aspect of your life that is under your control.
It is common in the world for people to blame the government, the weather, and others for their problems. Radical responsibility gives us freedom to see where you can make a difference.
However, it is so important to highlight the difference between radical responsibility and OVER-responsibility.
Over-responsibility involves taking responsibility for things that have nothing to do with you.
You may feel this by blaming yourself for everything and not feeling like you are enough. The weight of the world is on your shoulders and this energy doesn’t allow you to problem solve or analyse the situation.
In this episode, I will ask you four questions to encourage you to enter your critical thinking awareness and not allow over-responsibility to derail your business.
I would love for you to listen and reflect. Please let me know your insights on radical responsibility and how you recognise the signs of over-responsibility in your business.
LINKS:
Website: https://hayleycarr.tv/
Instagram: @hayleycarr.tv
NLP Training: https://hayleycarr.tv/nlp-training
The Fierce Salon: https://hayleycarr.tv/fierce-salon-coaching
Superabundant: https://hayleycarr.tv/superabundantSelf Coaching: https://hayleycarr.tv/gift
Are you forcing your business to dance? Are you putting immense pressure on your business to reach specific goals in an arbitrary amount of time? Does this pressure leave you feeling like a failure if you don’t reach them?
In this episode, I share with you how to take all of that pressure off your shoulders. It is important to know when you need to slow down and calm your energy to take one small step at a time.
We often don’t step back and appreciate how far we have come and the little moments that have led us to the place we are now.
View your business as a soul that will evolve on its own. Observe what is working and observe what is not and then bring your energy back to a creative space. Forget about the past except for the lessons.
I invite you to look back and reflect on all of the things that you have been challenged by and have overcome.
Superfreaks do not make their businesses dance.
We do not put pressure on ourselves to succeed within a certain amount of time. We will give ourselves as much creative space as possible to thrive and flourish.
Connect with me if you are making your business dance. I want to know what you are going to do to slow down, to take the pressure off, to be present with what is, and to move powerfully into the future.
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A pilot’s job is to consistently bring the plane back on course throughout the journey. They do not immediately stop flying the plane as soon as there is turbulence or a disgruntled passenger.
Correct?
In this episode, I will discuss how it is important to refrain from making a conclusion about something while it is happening.
You can make adjustments moment to moment to consistently bring the plane back on course but you can not stop flying the plane.
When you have landed, you can then reflect on the experience and make assessments on what worked and what didn’t.
Before embarking on a new goal, set aside time to visualise the process and how it will succeed. If you are visualising everything negative that can happen it will end with anxiety and a raised heart rate. Aim to be someone who is in control of the situation, is calm and in control of their thoughts, and is the one programmed to win.
Even when we make blunders, it is not really over. We can recover, assess how we went, learn a lesson and have another go at it!
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Superabundant: https://hayleycarr.tv/superabundantSelf Coaching: https://hayleycarr.tv/self-coaching-gift
I’m back and I am so excited for you to join me again.
Life has been busy and I hope you have all been doing well.
For those of you that have been following me for awhile, or are familiar with my work, you’ll know that the term Superfreak is one that I use often.
So what does it mean to be a ‘Superfreak’?
Superfreaks are not in a particular demographic, they are in a particular psychographic. It is a mindset within a type of person.
Superfreaks are intensely curious about the world around them and love to be challenged.
Superfreaks often live on the fringes and outside of the norm, they are deep critical thinkers and wish to see the amazing results they have in one area, in every area of their lives.
These are the wonderful people I coach and I often find it incredible how they have such an insatiable drive to perform in every aspect of their lives.
Remember, you are not a freak… you are a Superfreak!
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With the rise of political correctness and a greater awareness of what’s appropriate, I’m seeing a lot of really powerful leaders and good hearted human beings becoming acutely aware of not wanting to upset people. So much so that the line between true service and lip service has become blurred. The desire to not offend comes from a good place but when is it ok to be upfront with your truth, and when should you let things be?
In this episode, I discuss the difference between actual service and something that will never really help anybody, lip service. I talk about setting boundaries and why they help you operate out of overflow and be of true service to others. I also share a story from my personal experience and discuss holding a powerful space in discomfort to be ok with confrontation and potentially disappointing people.
What does it mean to truly serve someone? Is it telling them what they want to hear? Or is it sharing from a higher perspective which they may reject but continuing to be loyal to the truth anyway?
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We all have challenges in life that are difficult to shake. Those niggling fears, the negative thinking and behavioural patterns that just seem hard wired into who we are. But imagine a future without that stuff getting in your way, bogging you down and stopping you from living the life you truly want. It’s actually quite a simple fix.
In this episode, I talk about how so much of what we identify with is actually from our past and that we don’t have to bring that into our future. I break things down from an NLP and quantum linguistics perspective to talk about the power of affirmations and I share some simple distinctions that will help you change your life.
I talk about how to slam your challenges back into the past and be present in the now where you have the opportunity to make a conscious choice about who you are today. We create the world we exist in with the language that we use. It really can be that simple.
RESOURCES MENTIONED:
Bob Newhart “Stop It”
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We are unlimited by nature. Humans are made of an unlimited source which means that infinite possibility is available to us all. So why do so many of us experience lack? Perhaps you struggle to get on top financially, maybe you’ve never been able to find the right person or things just never seem to go right for you. Wherever your lack, it all comes down to your beliefs.
In this episode, I discuss how your beliefs create your reality, whether you’re conscious of it or not. I talk about limiting beliefs, how we subconsciously search for evidence to confirm those beliefs and how this perpetuates the cycle of lack.
Some beliefs don’t serve us and once you understand the power your beliefs have, it’s a crazy simple hack to turn your entire world upside down. I share some keys to help you shift your beliefs and therefore change your life story. Are you ready?
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Superabundant: https://hayleycarr.tv/superabundant
By February, most of us are well and truly out of holiday mode and forced back into reality. The kids are back to school, extended Christmas holidays are over and now it’s back to the daily rush and the usual stress associated with it.
If that’s you and you’d rather go back to holiday mode, this episode is one you won’t want to miss. Today I share with you how to keep the holiday alive long after the holiday is over and how you can wake up excited about your day instead of it feeling like a massive mental slog.
In this episode, I talk all about anchoring and how these neurological stimulated connections can be used to trigger us into holiday mode or out of holiday mode. I talk about ways you can establish anchors in your everyday life to relive the feeling of holidays and why it’s so important to do this for your entire body, mind and spirit.
Get yourself a nice beverage and comfy chair for this one. Let’s keep that holiday alive.
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The calendar year has ended and a new calendar has begun. This time of year is a very potent time collectively where people all around the world are casting their visions forward. There is something very beautiful about a new year that creates a portal for people to consider who they are and where they are going. But how many of us have made new year’s resolutions only to forget about them a few weeks later?
In this episode, I offer an alternative way of thinking about how to set yourself up for the best year yet. And it starts with dropping the idea that you have to have your best year yet! I share why I did away with a yearly review and new year’s resolutions and what I do now to keep myself aligned.
I talk about carving out intentional time to constantly and consistently check in with yourself and the importance of making that a non negotiable part of your life. I share about having a big vision, breaking things down to a 90 day timeframe and the power of taking one tiny action toward the thing you want to see manifested in your life.
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The holiday season has begun and you might be on a high finishing up work for the holidays or, like a lot of people, you might be having a mini freak out about how you’re going to cope with all the pressure that this time of year can bring. Life isn’t a Hallmark card. It’s not always happy and bright, but there are ways we can learn to be at peace with our circumstances and embrace what is.
In this Christmas special episode, I share 4 tips on how to navigate the challenges that might come your way these holidays and how you can make it special even when you’re busy as hell, lonely or going out of your mind with people you don’t want to be around. I talk about the importance of taking care of yourself, even if it means being late for gatherings, being prepared for the people who rub you up the wrong way and reminding yourself of what’s really important to you.
Whatever this time looks like for you, I encourage you to do what lights you up. Reach out to people who might need some extra love and care right now. And to those who have had a really tough year, know you are not alone. Sending all my love to you this Christmas.
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Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) has always been the foundation of my coaching practise. After 13 years of coaching, it’s still something I’m practicing and learning every single day. I often get asked how I practically utilise the tools in my day to day life so in this episode, I take a dive into NLP, what it is, what I love most about it and 10 ways I use it in my daily life.
I talk about how NLP helps you see beyond the veil of the conscious mind deep into subconscious patterns. I share how utilising the tools helped me to clear mental and emotional blockages and start forging new patterns to overcome those barriers and bring about the results that I wanted.
Whether you’re aware of it or not, you’re already an NLP Master. Everything you do and think is based on a set of core beliefs, values and emotions that you learned at some point in your life and they run like a program in your subconscious, dictating how you act and think throughout every day. Wouldn’t you rather make those thoughts and actions deliberate?
You might have already completed your NLP training or maybe you’re just getting interested. Either way, this episode will inspire you to be your most authentic self and start creating the life that you want on purpose.
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What does success look like for you? As we can all acknowledge, success looks different for every person. What means a whole lot to you, might not mean anything to the person sitting next to you. How you want to live your life and the achievements you’re chasing are unique to you, but the way you achieve the success is universal.
It’s really simple.
Don’t stop.
When we are working towards something, it can be really difficult to keep going when things aren’t moving in the direction that we want them to. We all want a guarantee. We’re not focusing on the journey or the process, we’re just aiming for the finish line. We trudge along only with the end in mind, but there is no enjoyment in the journey.
If you can reframe and start to enjoy your process and the journey, you’re going to have a whole lot more fun and ultimately, success will probably be achieved a lot quicker. But the key here is to keep going. I’m not saying, don’t take breaks. You need to take all the breaks, but once you’re rested just keep going. Keep working towards the goal. Keep staying present in the journey and success is inevitable.
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No matter how confident or successful we are, there’s often one area in life where we’re afraid to ask for what we want. What we actually want. It could be asking for a raise, pitching a sale or telling our partner what we want in the bedroom. For some reason, we tell ourselves that we can’t have it all and the idea of asking for what we really want triggers all sorts of uncomfortable feelings.
In this episode, I share some of the philosophies I’ve learned on why we’re afraid, how you can overcome your fear and be inspired to really ask for what you want. I talk about being willing to hear a no, being bold enough to ask one extra question and why being too considerate actually robs you of liberation.
I believe our desires are meant for us. They are in our hearts for a purpose and we should be unapologetic that they exist. When you start giving yourself permission to have what you want you’ll begin to understand that the limits of your capacity are so much further away than what you think they are. You just have to be willing to be uncomfortable. You just have to be willing to ask.
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Do you have so many things to get done, so much you want to do and not enough time to do it? That’s a stressful place to be in. Obviously the solution is to make a great schedule, right? Get really organised and take back control of your life. Or not. What if time was irrelevant and all you had to do was focus in on the very next moment, let your thoughts of the future melt into the abyss, and just breathe? That is what I call Superfreaking it.
I get asked for tips on time management and productivity all the time and I have two philosophies that I share with my clients. In this episode, I talk about what those philosophies are and how you can apply the same principle to productivity as I did to pushing through pain in the ring as a martial artist. It’s all about staying in the present and not getting sidetracked with the future.
All you can do is what you can do in this very moment. This episode will challenge you to take another look at the way you see time and help you take back your power by saying yes. It’s possible to do the things you love and the things you need to do without burning out.
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What is the thing you want? What do you really really want? How would you feel if you had it right now? On a quantum level, there is a frequency, a vibrational factor involved in manifesting the life that you want. It’s actually in your power because you create the world that you want. All you need to do is align yourself and get in flow.
This episode is all about how you can start emanating a frequency that creates the world that you want. I use the example of money in my personal journey and how two missing parts stopped me from manifesting the freedom I desired.
I share some practical hacks on how you can start reframing your mindset and shift your fears of what could go wrong. What if it all went right? Tune in and get ready. It’s time to start creating the life you want.
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Being an adult is awesome. When I was a kid, I couldn’t wait to grow up so I could finally do what I wanted when I wanted to. As adults, however, we don’t always have this freedom. Or do we?
This episode is all about reframing the limitations of responsibilities and pressure that come with being an adult and start looking at things with that childlike playfulness again. Yes, you have responsibilities, but they don’t have to limit you. Remember this, in everything you have a choice. You CAN do whatever you want.
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I work with a lot of amazing clients on a daily basis; people who are highly sensitive, empathic leaders and a topic that arises on the regular is one that I like to call controlled demolition.
Have you ever seen a situation on the horizon and wanted to call it out, wanted to do something to prevent this disaster from occurring? Quite often the people who are more sensitive and aware can see things coming before others do but hold themselves back from taking action for fear of looking crazy or pessimistic. They’re too afraid of what other people will say and think.
In this episode, I share a deeply personal experience that helped me trust my intuition and be willing to deal with the fall out of following my own truth. I talk about the importance of calm and conscious conversation, setting boundaries and being willing to make others uncomfortable to avoid the gigantic eruption on the horizon that others just don’t see.
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The gender role conversation is a hot topic that carries a lot of weight for so many men and women. As humanity evolves, the roles are evolving too and we’re no longer bound by the stereotypical conventions of male and female conditioning. We have a choice about everything.
We get to choose how we live our lives and in this episode I’m going to unpack the topic of female breadwinners and debunk some of the reasons why there is so much guilt, resentment and bitterness attached to the idea.
I’m going to let you in behind closed doors and get quite personal to open up the discussion of female breadwinners and why maintaining polarity in your relationship is so important. I share details of some of the conversations Jamie and I have had and the decisions we’ve made to be in a place of agreement about the roles we both play in our partnership. I dive into my personal experience growing up with a fear of being the breadwinner, how social conditioning impacted my internal script of how things should go and the mental hurdles I overcame to be in the place I am today; happy, successful, running my own business and in a supportive, loving and healthy relationship.
Whether you’re the breadwinner or you’re relying on the income of your partner, this episode is for you. It’s time we stop feeling guilty for living the life we want to live.
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Youtube video: Being the Breadwinner in Your Relationships
We’re all carrying extra stress at the moment. Let’s face it, 2020 has been a year. Some people are natural hustlers and love to keep busy but at some stage, your body needs some down time. Without knowing it, it’s possible that your body is in a constant state of stress and running on adrenaline, placing your mind and body under an unhealthy amount of pressure.
In this episode, I share some really practical tips on how to transition out of fight or flight mode and into rest and restore. These are practises that I continue to return to and always work for me. I explain a little about the autonomic nervous system and why it’s so important to operate out of our parasympathetic nervous system.
This episode is just skimming the surface of a topic that is worth a lifetime of exploration. In times of stress and busyness, it’s imperative that we take care of our minds and bodies because the things that help us survive are actually the things that make us thrive.
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Hold onto your seats. This episode is going to blow your mind. I’m going to introduce you to some of the fundamental concepts that I have built my life on which have helped me shape my thinking to create my reality. It’s time to talk quantum physics.
In basic terms, quantum physics has proven that at a subatomic level, everything is pure potentiality. It only becomes matter when it is observed and what you are looking for influences what you find. In this episode, I’m going to unpack how our thoughts, feelings and beliefs about money impact the manifestation of it in our reality. If you believe that money doesn’t grow on trees, that will become your physical experience. What if you believed something different?
I’m giving you yet another opportunity to explore your thoughts, break down the limitations and align yourself with what it is that you want. It might not be money for you but perhaps relationships, health, success. Whatever it may be, you create your reality with your thoughts and beliefs about life. Perhaps it’s time to think again.
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There are a lot of people thinking a lot of different things at the moment. It takes only a glimpse of social media to discover the many polarising opinions and hot topics causing a divide amongst the human race. So what do you do to get someone else to see your side? How can you convince them that you’re right and they’re wrong? Let’s be honest, we all think we’re right. But perhaps the answer is not so much about convincing the other person of your truth, but about evolving beyond arguments and debate to a space of safety and mutual understanding.
Our beliefs and opinions are not fickle things. They are formed above a large foundation of culture, personal experiences and the people around us. Do we really think that an argument over the dinner table is going to shift the fundamental beliefs of another human? In order for someone to change their mind, they have to question everything they have believed to be true up until that moment. They must feel safe to be vulnerable and have the courage to admit that they are wrong and nobody wants to admit that, especially when they feel threatened.
In this episode, I’m going to challenge you yet again to expand your thinking. Seek first to understand and instead of focusing on changing another person, simply be a shining example of what you believe. When you create an atmosphere around you that enables others to feel safe, valued and understood, it might surprise you how little you care about changing their mind anymore.
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There are moments in life when things can become abundantly clear, our priorities are aligned and purpose is reframed. The news of a baby on the way, the death of a loved one, an unexpected diagnosis; these are the life altering events that, whether we’re ready or not, will completely change the shape of our hearts and cause us to reflect on what life is all about and the way in which we want to live it.
But why wait for those monumental moments? Why not reflect now and live the life you’ve always wanted to live? It’s easy to be complacent when life keeps ticking along but in reality, we have no idea what will happen next. There is no time for apathy.
When I was in the ring as a world champion martial artist, I was acutely aware of the three minutes I had to fight. The pressure was intense to say the least. Everything I had worked for, the blood, sweat and tears poured into thousands of hours of training, paying my way to travel across the globe all for the purpose of those three minutes. In life, there’s no opponent and no timer but we don’t know when something could kick us in the guts and make us grateful for everything that we have now.
Life can change in an instant but you don’t have to wait for those moments to review your life and start being the person you want to be. In this episode, I challenge you to question your mortality, open up your mind to new possibilities and start being comfortable with being uncomfortable. So buckle up. This is a big one.
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When you reach a point where it seems that creativity has fizzled, the usual advice you’d be given is to change it up, be closer to nature, go for a long drive and let your mind wander. But with lockdowns in place for a lot of people around the world, the typical ways of getting inspired aren’t necessarily available to us. So how do you fire up creativity when you’re stuck between four walls?
In this episode I’m going to share some really practical tips on how to find that spark again, even during this crazy period of a global pandemic. Covid has placed a huge amount of pressure on our shoulders and I’ll teach you how to decrease the pressure and increase the pleasure for creativity to thrive. You’ll also learn an invaluable Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) tool to reignite the state of creativity within your body. This is something that, if made a habit, will completely change the way you function as a creative being.
You may not be able to go for that long nature walk or weekend away, so it’s times like these we need to think bigger. Creativity is everywhere and it never runs out. We simply need to access it and it can be as easy as it sounds. So find a comfy spot, get yourself a cuppa and let’s unleash that creativity together.
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Some people are born with the skill of thinking big. They dream, they know how to push the boundaries and do things differently to solve problems and achieve the things they desire. For most of us however, it’s a skill that requires practise. But that’s actually the good news. If you want to start thinking bigger and approach the circumstances of your life with more ease and more joy, all you need to do is practise.
Thinking bigger might sound daunting to some. Attached to the concept are connotations of working harder, pushing more, becoming a better person and that all sounds really exhausting! Thinking bigger doesn’t necessarily mean doing bigger. What you’ll learn today is that it’s not so much about pushing through, but about stepping back and asking yourself a different question.
In this episode, I share some tips on how to start flexing your mind muscle and give yourself the time and space to start thinking bigger. As you practise and start dreaming, you will allow new perspectives to shift your current thinking to go outside the boundaries of your problem. I’ll also give you some simple questions that you can ask yourself to start opening up your mind to more expansive possibilities.
Thinking bigger is by far the most fun skill that I have cultivated in my life. Remember, dreaming is free. Thinking is free. So allow yourself to go there and stretch into the truth of what might be. There will be hurdles to overcome but when you start opening your mind to what could be, there is no such thing as a problem without a solution.
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We live in a time of unprecedented heightened awareness of what’s happening in the world. Everyday, we are bombarded with constant information and it can seem as though everything is a crisis that needs to be dealt with urgently. In this paradigm, life becomes a disaster and we so easily get caught up in emergency thinking fuelled by adrenaline, fear and anxiety.
I believe there is a more sustainable option. A way of thinking and responding from a place of solidarity, able to focus on the task at hand and be present in each moment. In this episode, I’m going to help you unleash your superpower. The superpower of calm.
Life brings enough drama of it’s own each day and we all want to be good humans and help the planet. But we only add fuel to the fire when we go into stress and fretful thinking. When we learn to step back, even for a brief moment, to focus on what is in front of us, we place ourselves in the best possible position to truly be able to help ourselves and each other.
Can you identify today where you are allowing emergency thinking to take over? Imagine what it would look like to step into your superpower, to be calm and respond to each moment as it occurs. Take a deep breath, step back and let this sink in. It will change the way you do life forever.
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We all have inherent belief systems that shape the way we live, the way we respond to circumstances and make decisions throughout our lives. Whether you’re conscious of it or not, the things you believe to be true about yourself and about life affect every decision you make, even down to the smallest and seemingly insignificant things.
At times we come to a crossroads where our thoughts and actions don’t seem to measure up with what we thought we believed. We can think we believe something, yet find ourselves responding to circumstances as if we believe something completely different. Why is that? And how do we start fully believing something so that it permeates every area of our lives?
In this episode I share a personal experience where my beliefs about money were challenged (all because of a darn shower head) and how in that moment I embraced the opportunity for breakthrough. You’ll learn how to discern when your beliefs aren’t fully aligned and how simple it is to transform your thoughts and tap into a greater flow for your life.
Buckle up and listen. This episode will challenge you to take a solid look at your life. I encourage you to take that leap of faith required to actually start believing what you want to believe.
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Have you ever been in a situation where conversation is flowing, everybody’s calm and then all of a sudden you hit a roadblock? It’s like something was said that caused the other person to instantly put up a wall and shut down your opinion. Or perhaps it was you who decided to end the conversation because you simply couldn’t agree with what was being said and there was no point in taking it any further.
All we know is our lived experience. Our opinions toward everything in life are based on our belief system which is fuelled by our experiences in life, by what has been modelled to us, by what we have seen with our own eyes. So when someone else challenges that belief system, it has the potential to shake the very core of who we are.
Most people don’t like being shaken to the core. It’s uncomfortable, it’s confronting and unravelling and therefore it’s one of the most bravest things you could ever do. To look outside your paradigm, embrace a new thought that contradicts your inherent belief requires a lot of bravery because that process might actually bring you to the realisation that everything you’ve believed about that subject is a lie.
It’s easy to have an opinion. But in order to have a well rounded and formed opinion, we must explore all the options. We must take our natural belief system and question if the opposite could be true. When we are brave enough to challenge our own opinions, we open our minds up to a greater understanding of ourselves and each other. It will lead you to a place of freedom, of choice and the potential to completely change your trajectory in life. Are you ready?
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The world is filled with uncertainty right now. There is a lot of fear, particularly around finances with the state of the world as it is. Despite what it looks like, I truly believe that each individual can still have financial autonomy and authority over their future, but only if they choose to look at it that way. To negate the fear, we must have empowering thoughts and empowering actions.
In this episode I’m going to tackle the issue of asking for a pay rise, a topic that might make some people feel uncomfortable and perhaps even fearful at the thought of it. But why? Why are we so afraid to ask for more money? The idea of having the conversation often triggers underlying fears that we all carry; fear of failure, fear of looking stupid, fear of being told no. These fears affect us in all areas of our life, not just wage negotiations, which is why it’s so important to recognise what’s going on and not let these fears hold us back.
I’m going to share my insights on this subject and give you some tips on how you can approach wage negotiations with confidence. I’ll give you some questions that you need to ask yourself and you’ll hear my thoughts on what to do when a ‘no pay rise policy’ is in place.
Statistically, women make $1m less than men over the course of their working lives. This is due to a number of factors, one being that generally speaking, women simply don’t ask for pay rises. It’s time to open up that conversation. It’s time that we take authority over our future and advocate for ourselves. And I ask you this, what is the one thing that is holding you back from asking for a pay rise?
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Have you ever been travelling and felt like you were a whole new person? All of a sudden, you no longer have a routine or the normal triggers and reminders of who you are in the world. You can be whoever you want to be, do whatever you heart desires. You come home feeling reinvented with brand new experiences that have transformed you in some way.
Reinvention isn’t only reserved for the jetsetter. In fact, it can happen in a moment. Reinvention is a matter of mindset and you are simply one thought away from having that transformation you desire.
In this episode, I talk about what reinvention is, how simple it can be and what steps you can take toward building the necessary belief structure to facilitate it in your life. We are constantly shifting and moving energy on a physical, mental, emotional and spiritual level. Reinvention is actually a natural part of our DNA. The only thing that stops us is our own idea of what’s possible.
Any type of change you desire requires a certain amount of reinvention. Change will always require growth and, as we all know, growth isn’t necessarily a comfortable thing. It requires us to face our fears and insecurities, it necessitates a commitment to expansion and a responsive mindset.
You can reinvent yourself in a heartbeat. It doesn’t have to take 90 days or even 30 days. The moment you take on a new thought, you’ve done it and the results will follow. It starts at the end of this episode with one simple breath. Tune in to discover how you can reinvent yourself today.
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Imagine yourself doing the thing you really want to do, being the person you know you can be and reaching the goals that you set out to achieve. It’s one thing to dream of that incredible future, but it can also be so discouraging when the rubber meets the road. To achieve any level of success, it will always require hard work and discipline. So how do we get motivated and maintain that motivation through the ups and downs of the journey? The truth is, people who perform at the top of their game don’t wait for motivation. They ask a more powerful question.
In this episode I’m going to break down the mythical creature of motivation and give you four powerful and practical tips that you can implement in your life. You’ll learn about the importance of visualisation, trusting in your intuition and how to ask yourself the right questions.
Don’t wait for the magical feeling of motivation to arrive. You already have what it takes to start moving forward. The most important step is to just begin.
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I’m so excited to be sharing the first ever Superfreak episode with you. I’m choosing to be brave and enter into this unknown territory with no rules and no pressure. Who knows what this will become! All I know is that I’m taking the bull by the horns and choosing my own path.
It’s so easy to be led down a path paved with preconceived ideas and past conditioning. When we have references in our mind as to what something should be, it’s like we’re walking blind, unable to see the other possibilities of what could be. We get stuck before we even begin!
For others, there is no reference and it’s scary, unchartered territory. Or is it? It’s only when we’re free of learned behaviour and references from past experiences that we are liberated to make our own rules. It’s in this place of the unknown that you can choose your own thoughts and create your own future.
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