Love Marriage Again with Dr. Chavonne: Recent Episodes

Dr. Chavonne Perotte: Transformational coach, author, and speaker.

Love Marriage Again with Dr. Chavonne empowers wives to love being married to their husbands. Each week she delivers powerful content designed to inspire wives to fully accept their husbands, be in control of their own happiness, and create a marriage that truly lights them up inside.

Join her here to learn the mindset, skills, and actions every wife needs to create a happy and loving marriage they desire.

Your marriage will thrive when you thrive! Let’s commit to loving your marriage again!

When you're struggling in your marriage, it's easy to believe your happiness depends on what your partner does next.

That they'll finally change.

That you'll eventually know what to do.

That somehow you'll stop feeling so stuck.

But what if the perspectives keeping you trapped are the very things preventing you from moving forward?

In this episode, we're exploring three powerful mindset shifts that can help you step out of helplessness, reclaim your personal agency, and begin creating meaningful change—whether that ultimately heals your marriage, yourself, or both.

Inside this episode, we:* Explore how shifting your focus from changing your partner to growing yourself can transform the way you experience your marriage * Talk about why "I don't know what to do" often keeps us stuck—and the mindset that creates greater clarity and confidence * Uncover how victim thinking quietly steals your power and what it looks like to reclaim it * Discuss the difference between waiting for your circumstances to change and intentionally creating a life you're proud of * Learn how acceptance, boundaries, and personal responsibility can exist together without giving up on your marriage * Explore how one perspective shift can completely change the way you approach your relationship and your future

Whether you're feeling discouraged, uncertain, or emotionally exhausted, this episode will help you step out of survival mode and reconnect with the one thing you always have the power to change:

The way you choose to think, respond, and move forward.

Feeling at a crossroads?If this episode resonated with you and you're feeling uncertain about what to do next in your marriage, you don't have to figure it out alone.

Whether you're trying to decide how to move forward, wondering if your marriage can change, or simply looking for clarity on your next step, I'd love to help.

I invite you to schedule a private consultation where we'll talk through your unique situation, uncover what's keeping you stuck, and explore the path that feels most aligned for you and your relationship.

Book your private consultation HERE

Sometimes the biggest breakthroughs in your marriage don't come from changing what you do.

They come from changing how you see it.

The perspective you choose can either keep you stuck in hurt, resentment, and disconnection—or open the door to healing, understanding, and deeper connection.

Today we're continuing our 3-part series exploring three powerful perspective shifts - and we are focusing in on what will lead to healing - for you and/or your marriage.

Inside this episode, we:* Explore why "I don't care anymore" is often protecting a much deeper emotional truth—and how acknowledging that truth creates space for healing * Talk about the shift from focusing on blame to taking ownership of the parts of the relationship that are yours to grow * Uncover how embracing your differences instead of fighting them can deepen acceptance, compassion, and emotional intimacy * Learn how changing your perspective can soften defensiveness, increase vulnerability, and create new opportunities for connection * Discover why some of the most powerful shifts in a marriage begin long before your partner changes

Whether your marriage feels disconnected, strained, or simply in need of a reset, these perspective shifts will help you approach your relationship with greater clarity, compassion, and hope.

Because sometimes the first step toward healing your marriage is healing the way you see it.

Ready to go deeper?If this episode resonated with you and you're ready to stop feeling stuck in the same emotional patterns, this is exactly the work we do inside my customized private coaching programs.

Together, we'll uncover the deeper dynamics beneath your struggles, help you heal the patterns keeping you disconnected, and guide you in creating a marriage that feels safe, connected, and strong.

If you're ready to explore what's possible for your relationship, I invite you to schedule a complimentary consultation call here.

So many couples settle into "We're okay " and "We're fine."

They do this without ever stopping to ask whether "fine" is really the marriage they want to build.

In this episode, we're exploring three simple perspective shifts that can change the way you approach your marriage—and open the door to greater connection, growth, and possibility.

Inside this episode, we:* Challenge the mindset of settling for "fine" when your marriage is capable of so much more * Explore how your beliefs about what's possible shape the decisions you make (or don't make) in your relationship * Uncover one of the most common thoughts that quietly keeps couples from taking action year after year * Talk about the difference between playing not to lose and intentionally building an extraordinary marriage * Offer practical ways to shift your thinking so you can begin creating the relationship you truly want—starting today

If you've been coasting along in a comfort zone, this is an invitation to create something that feels like a wow.

Extraordinary marriages aren't created by accident.

They're created one intentional decision, one meaningful conversation, and one small shift at a time.

Mentioned in this EpisodeMarriage Growth AssessmentInvest five minutes in your marriage's future. This complimentary assessment helps you identify your greatest strengths, uncover the areas with the most potential for growth, and receive personalized insights to help you build a marriage that feels more connected, fulfilling, and strong.

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5 Experiences That Help Marriages Continue to GrowA short video exploring five intentional experiences that help couples deepen their connection, strengthen their partnership, and continue growing together over the years. If you've ever wondered what healthy, thriving marriages do differently, this is a great place to start.

Watch the Video HERE

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In this episode, I'm introducing one of the most important coaching concepts I use with my clients: your Core Area of Focus.

Rather than trying to fix everything at once, we'll explore how identifying the one area that will create the biggest ripple effect can help you make faster, more meaningful progress in your marriage.

In this episode, you'll learn:

Why trying to improve everything at once often keeps couples stuck.
How focusing on one key area creates momentum throughout your relationship.
Real-life examples of how one intentional shift can improve communication, conflict, intimacy, and connection.
Why clarity is one of the greatest gifts you can give your marriage.

If you're wondering what your own Core Area of Focus is, I'd love to invite you to take my free Marriage Growth Assessment.

In just five minutes, you'll discover your relationship's strengths, identify your greatest opportunity for growth, and receive personalized guidance to help you know exactly where to begin. TAKE YOUR ASSESSMENT HERE

In this episode, I introduce a kind of couple I don't think we talk about nearly enough: The Relationally Ambitious Couple.

These couples aren't driven by problems.

They're driven by possibility.

They believe there's always another level of connection, partnership, friendship, and joy waiting to be created.

If you've ever wondered what it looks like to intentionally build a marriage that continues growing year after year, this episode is for you.

In this episode, you'll discover:* Why waiting until something is wrong may be one of the biggest mistakes couples make. * The surprising difference between couples who maintain their marriage and couples who continually grow it. * Why relationship ambition is just as important as career, financial, and health ambition. * The mindset shift that changes the questions you ask about your marriage. * Five experiences Relationally Ambitious Couples intentionally create to keep growing closer over time. * Why this way of thinking is available to every couple—not just a select few.

I invite you to take my new Relationally Ambitious Couple Assessment—a simple way to discover the mindset and habits currently shaping your marriage and identify your next opportunity for growth.

Take the 5-minute Assessment HERE

Most couples don't intentionally take action in their marriage until something feels wrong.

A major argument.

Growing distance.

A breaking point they can no longer ignore.

But what if waiting until your marriage is struggling is one of the biggest mistakes couples make?

In this episode, I share the six different types of couples I've observed over the years based on what motivates them to act in their relationship.

From reactive couples and those at a breaking point to proactive and relationally ambitious couples, you'll discover how your mindset toward growth is shaping the future of your marriage.

More importantly, I'll leave you with one important question:

What motivates you to take action in your marriage?

Whether your relationship is struggling, thriving, or somewhere in between, I hope this episode challenges you to think differently about what it means to intentionally create a marriage that continues to grow over time.

In last week's episode, we explored why feeling close to your spouse is one of the greatest gifts a marriage can offer.

But knowing why connection matters isn't enough.

In Part 2 of this series, we're talking about the intentional shifts that move couples from feeling distant and disconnected… to feeling closer, more connected, and more like true partners again.

Inside this episode, we:* Explore the mindset shifts that create the conditions for deeper connection * Talk about why your thoughts about your spouse matter more than you may realize * Uncover what often gets in the way of closeness—and how to begin moving through those obstacles * Discuss why staying connected to your deeper desire for your marriage changes how you approach conflict and disconnection * Explore the difference between simply spending time together and creating meaningful moments of connection * Help you think differently about what it really takes to build a relationship that feels emotionally close, safe, and strong

If you've been missing that feeling of truly being with your spouse—not just living alongside them—this episode will give you practical and meaningful ways to begin creating more connection.

Ready to create the marriage you've been longing for?If you're tired of feeling disconnected and you're ready to stop repeating the same patterns, this is exactly the work we do inside The Connected Marriage.

Together, we'll uncover what's keeping you apart, help you shift the deeper dynamics beneath your struggles, and guide you in creating a marriage that feels safe, connected, and strong.

If you're ready to experience real transformation in your relationship, I invite you to schedule a consultation by CLICKING HERE

Most people know they want to feel closer to their spouse.

But have you ever stopped to consider what you're actually longing for?

Because the pain of disconnection isn't just about arguing less or communicating better.

It's about missing out on some of the most meaningful benefits a connected marriage can provide.

In Part 1 of this two-part series, we're exploring what becomes possible when you feel truly close to your spouse—and why that closeness matters so much.

Inside this episode, we:* Explore the emotional benefits of feeling deeply connected to your spouse * Talk about what it means to feel truly seen, known, and understood by another person * Uncover why emotional support can make life's challenges feel lighter and less lonely * Discuss the power of shared joy and having someone to celebrate life alongside you * Explore the difference between simply being married and feeling like a true partnership exists * Talk about the deep human need to feel chosen, valued, and prioritized * Explore how healthy marriages help us become more fully ourselves over time

If you've been feeling disconnected, lonely, or like you're simply going through the motions in your marriage, this episode will help you reconnect with what you're truly longing for—and why creating closeness is worth the effort.

Because one of the greatest gifts of marriage isn't simply having someone to do life with.

It's feeling deeply connected to the person you're doing life with.

Ready to create more connection in your marriage?If you're realizing how much you miss feeling close to your spouse—and you're ready to do something about it—this is exactly the work we do inside The Connected Marriage.

Together, we identify the patterns creating distance, strengthen emotional safety and connection, and help you build the kind of relationship that feels like a true partnership again.

If you'd like to explore working together, I invite you to schedule a consultation HERE

One of the biggest mistakes couples make is confusing facts with stories.

Over time, it's easy to start treating assumptions, interpretations, and conclusions as if they're objective truth.

And once that happens, resentment, conflict, and disconnection begin to grow.

In this episode, we're breaking down the difference between what actually happened—and the meaning you've assigned to it.

Inside this episode, we:* Explore the critical difference between facts and stories in relationships * Uncover the assumptions that quietly shape how you experience your partner * Look at why certain conclusions feel true, even when they may not be accurate * Discuss the role hurt, fear, and resentment play in the stories we create * Help you identify common relationship narratives that keep couples stuck * Offer practical questions that can help you challenge your thinking and create more understanding

When you learn to separate facts from stories, you create space for curiosity, clarity, and connection.

And that can change everything.

If this episode resonated with you, and you are ready to see your partner and marriage more accurately and with a perspective that supports you feeling close and connected, I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call with me to discuss working together in my private coaching program, The Connected Marriage.

You'll learn the skill of separating the facts of what's happening from the painful story keeping your stuck. You'll gain new tools to help you come back together as a close, connected couple and finally create a marriage that feels strong and fulfilling again.

Book your call with me here.

When you hear the phrase "trust issues," you probably think about infidelity.

But some of the most damaging trust issues in a marriage have nothing to do with cheating. In today's episode I share with you the specific ways I've seen trust issues create disconnection in marriage.

Inside this episode, we:* Uncover the subtle experiences that slowly erode trust over time * Look at how emotional responsiveness, consistency, and follow-through shape the quality of your relationship * Discuss why many trust issues are actually rooted in everyday interactions rather than major betrayals * Help you identify the experiences that may have taught you it isn't safe to depend on your partner * Explore what it takes to rebuild trust and create greater emotional safety and connection

If trust feels fragile in your relationship, this episode will help you understand why—and what can begin to repair it.

Ready to go deeper?If this episode resonated with you and you're realizing that trust, safety, and connection have been slowly eroding in your relationship, this is exactly the work we do inside The Connected Marriage.

Together, we uncover the deeper patterns keeping you stuck, help you understand what's really happening beneath the conflict and disconnection, and guide you in creating the kind of relationship that feels safe, connected, and strong.

If you're ready to stop repeating the same painful cycles and start creating lasting change, I invite you to schedule a consultation here

What if some of the resentment, conflict, and disconnection in your marriage…

is being fueled by the stories you’re telling yourself about your partner?

In this episode, we’re looking at the thought patterns and misperceptions that quietly shape the way you experience your relationship—and how those perspectives can either deepen disconnection or create space for understanding, growth, and change.

Inside this episode, we:* Explore the negative beliefs and assumptions that often build up in long-term relationships * Uncover how resentment shapes the way you interpret your partner’s behavior * Look at the role attachment styles and coping patterns play in relationship misunderstandings * Challenge unrealistic expectations that may be quietly damaging connection * Talk about the importance of radical responsibility and seeing your own impact clearly * Explore how unacknowledged shame can sometimes show up as criticism toward your partner

This episode is a loving wake-up call to become more aware of the stories shaping your marriage—and to begin replacing emotional certainty with deeper understanding and truth.

A STEP DEEPER:

If this conversation deeply resonated with you, and you’re starting to recognize how much your internal patterns, interpretations, and emotional responses are shaping the experience of your marriage, this is exactly the kind of work we do inside The Connected Marriage.

I'd love to help you further. To learn more about how this private coaching program can support you, book a complimentary consultation call HERE.

Why do so many couples keep having the same arguments, the same disconnection, and the same frustrations… even when they genuinely want things to get better?

In this episode, we answer that question by looking deeply at what actually changes a marriage—and why so many couples stay stuck even while trying hard to make things different.

Inside this episode, we:* Explore why insight and good intentions alone don’t create lasting change * Uncover the deeper patterns that keep couples stuck in cycles of conflict and disconnection * Break down the internal shifts that have to happen before a relationship can truly transform * Look at the role emotional safety, self-awareness, healing, and regulation play in changing relationship dynamics * Talk about why growth feels uncomfortable—and why avoiding that discomfort keeps couples stuck * Help you understand what it actually takes to create a marriage that feels connected, strong, and sustainable over time

If you’ve been feeling frustrated that things still aren’t changing in your relationship…

this episode will help you understand why—and show you a clearer path forward.

Ready to go deeper?If you’re listening to this and realizing you don’t just want temporary improvements—you want real change in your marriage—this is exactly the work we do inside The Connected Marriage.

Together, we uncover the deeper patterns keeping you stuck, shift how you show up individually and relationally, and help you create a marriage that feels more connected, safe, and strong.

If you’re ready to stop repeating the same cycles and finally create lasting change, I invite you to schedule a consultation HERE

Few things feel more painful in a marriage than trying to express yourself…

and walking away feeling unheard.

In this episode, we’re looking at why you may not be feeling heard in your relationship—and the deeper dynamics that often get in the way of true understanding and emotional responsiveness.

Inside this episode, we:* Explore the subtle ways you may unintentionally contribute to not feeling heard * Uncover the most common responses that block emotional connection and understanding in relationships * Talk about why some conversations leave you feeling hurt, alone, or emotionally abandoned * Help you assess what may actually be getting in the way for your partner * Walk through how to care for yourself emotionally when a vulnerable moment doesn’t go the way you hoped * Explore the difference between resentment, compassion, and radical acceptance in long-term relationships * Discuss how to approach difficult conversations in a way that creates more openness, safety, and connection

If you’ve been carrying the pain of not feeling heard in your marriage…

this episode will help you make deeper sense of what’s happening—and what healing and connection can begin to look like from here.

Inside my recent Attachment Styles Masterclass, I break down even further the underlying dynamics that create this experience between anxious and avoidant couples. You'll learn more about that happens for both of you in these moments, and more importantly, how to create positive shifts that lead to productive conversations and you feeling seen and heard again. You can access this Masterclass, right now, on demand for free. CLICK HERE to receive this 2-Part Series.

One of the most challenging experiences is to feel alone inside a marriage. It causes you to question the entire point of being together. In this episode, we're having that conversation head on.

We will also look at the deeper dynamic beneath loneliness in marriage—and why so many couples end up stuck in painful cycles of disconnection without fully understanding what’s happening.

Inside this episode, we:* Explore the everyday moments that quietly create loneliness in a marriage * Uncover the painful conclusions people often come to when they don’t feel emotionally connected to their partner * Look at the common ways people try to solve this problem—and why those approaches often make the dynamic worse * Break down how anxious and avoidant attachment patterns shape the experience of loneliness and disconnection * Help you understand why this dynamic feels so painful emotionally and relationally * Offer a more hopeful and grounded way to make sense of what’s happening in your relationship

If you’ve been feeling disconnected, emotionally alone, or exhausted inside your marriage…

this episode will help you understand why.

And more importantly, what can actually begin to change it.

Want to go deeper?I recently taught a two-day masterclass on the anxious-avoidant dynamic in marriage.

Day 1 helps you deeply understand what’s actually happening beneath the conflict, loneliness, and disconnection.

Day 2 walks you through how to begin shifting those patterns to create more emotional safety and connection.

I’m making this masterclass available on demand for podcast listeners because I know how transformative this understanding can be.

ACCESS THE MASTERCLASS FOR FREE RIGHT HERE

What is it actually like to be married to you?

Not what you intend.

Not how you see yourself.

But how you’re experienced—day to day, in the moments that matter.

It’s a simple question…but it has the power to change everything.

Inside this episode, we:* Explore how your patterns shape your partner’s experience of you—often in ways you don’t fully see * Look at the difference between how you mean to show up and how you’re actually experienced * Uncover what tends to happen beneath the surface in anxious and avoidant dynamics * Help you recognize the subtle ways connection gets created—or missed—in everyday interactions * Offer shifts that can immediately change how you show up in your relationship

This episode will give you a new lens to look at yourself, your partner, and your relationship—and show you where real change begins.

Ready to go deeper?If this episode made you realize how much your patterns shape the experience of your marriage—and you’re ready to change that—this is the work we do inside The Connected Marriage.

Together, we identify what’s actually happening between you, shift how you show up, and help you create a relationship that feels more connected, stable, and aligned.

If you’re ready for that kind of change, learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/tcm/

You can want a better marriage.

And still be staying the same.

Avoiding the discomfort.

Repeating the same patterns.

Reacting in the same ways—again and again.

And wondering why nothing really changes.

In this episode, we’re looking at the truth most people don’t want to face:

Marriage requires you to grow.

And what happens when you don’t.

Inside this episode, we:* Explore why growth isn’t optional if you want a strong, connected marriage * Look at the real cost of staying the same—emotionally, relationally, and over time * Break down the patterns that keep people from growing (even when they want to) * Uncover the role of discomfort—and why most people avoid the very thing that would change everything * Identify the key areas where growth is actually required in your relationship * Challenge you to consider the kind of partner you’re choosing to be

This episode is an invitation to take a deeper look at yourself—and to decide whether you’re willing to grow into the version of you your marriage actually needs.

Ready to go deeper?If you’re listening to this and realizing you want more for your marriage—but aren’t sure how to actually create that kind of change—this is the work I do with my private clients inside The Connected Marriage.

We take the patterns you’re experiencing, slow them down, and help you understand what’s really happening—so you can begin to shift how you show up and how you relate to each other.

This is how you move from feeling stuck or disconnected…to creating a relationship that feels safe, connected, and strong.

If you’d like to explore what this could look like for you, you can schedule a consultation HERE

What actually creates connection in a relationship?

It’s not just about what you’re doing.

In this episode, we’re looking at what connection really is—and the conditions that need to be present for it to exist between you.

Inside this episode, we:* Break down why spending time together doesn’t always lead to feeling connected * Explore what connection actually is beyond conversation, time, or shared activities * Uncover the internal and relational conditions that make connection possible * Look at why connection can feel inconsistent—even when you’re trying * Help you understand the role your internal state plays in whether connection is created or missed * Identify what allows connection to feel natural, mutual, and real

When you understand connection this way…

You stop trying to force it.

And start creating the conditions that allow it to happen.

Ready to go deeper?If you’re listening to this and realizing you want more connection in your relationship—but aren’t sure how to actually create it consistently—this is exactly the work I do with my private clients inside The Connected Marriage.

This is where we take these moments that feel confusing or frustrating and slow them down so you can understand what’s really happening between you—and begin to shift it.

If you’d like to explore what this could look like for you, you can schedule a consultation here.

Emotional safety gets talked about a lot in relationships.

But if you’re honest, there are moments where something shifts, and you don’t feel safe anymore.

Maybe your partner said something a certain way.

Or didn’t respond how you needed them to. And suddenly, you feel guarded… distant… or unsure if it’s safe to open up.

In this episode, we’re looking at what emotional safety actually requires—and why it can feel so hard to create, even when you care deeply about each other.

Inside this episode, we:* Break down the difference between what disrupts emotional safety externally vs. what’s happening internally * Explore how your past experiences and attachment patterns shape how you interpret moments with your partner * Uncover why certain interactions feel so much bigger than the moment itself * Walk through the core conditions that actually create emotional safety in a relationship * Help you understand what allows you to stay open, grounded, and connected—even in difficult moments * Identify the kinds of experiences that teach your nervous system “it’s safe to be me here”

When you begin to understand emotional safety this way…

You stop looking for it in just one place.

And start learning how it’s created—within you and between you.

Ready to go deeper?If you’re listening to this and realizing you want more emotional safety in your relationship—but aren’t sure how to actually create it—this is the work I do with my private clients inside The Connected Marriage.

If you’d like to explore working together, you can schedule a consultation here

Today we’re looking at those moments where everything feels fine… until it suddenly isn’t. The conversation shifts. Your feelings get hurt. And before you know it, you’re in an argument that didn’t even need to happen.

If that feels familiar, there’s a deeper reason why.

And when you understand it, you stop getting pulled into the same cycle over and over again.

Inside this episode, we:

• Break down what actually happens in the moment a conversation takes a turn

• Look at how your mind quickly assigns meaning—and why that matters more than the comment itself

• Explore the emotional reaction that drives what you say next

• Walk through what’s happening on your partner’s side that you may not be considering

• Uncover the pattern that keeps these moments turning into bigger arguments

• Share the shift that helps you interrupt the cycle before it escalates

When you begin to see these moments differently, you don’t just handle them better, you change the entire direction of the conversation.

Mentioned in This Episode: The Connected Marriage - a private coaching experience where I help you go from feeling alone, frustrated, and disconnected in your marriage to feeling connected, supported, and truly together again. In this work we move you from being stuck in your problems to actually shifting the patterns that keep creating them.

If this sounds like what you are looking for, the next step is to book a complimentary Marriage Shift Session to make sure we are a good fit.

Schedule your call with me here.

Today we are looking at why you feel misunderstood in your marriage—and what’s actually happening underneath those moments where you’re trying to connect, but it’s not landing.

Inside this episode, we:

Explore why you and your partner are often having two completely different experiences in the same conversation
Talk about what your partner might actually be hearing when you’re sharing something vulnerable
Look at how emotional pressure—without realizing it—changes the energy of a conversation
Highlight the moment conversations shift from connection to self-protection
Introduce three powerful questions that help you approach conversations differently

When you begin to see these patterns, you stop focusing only on how to explain yourself better, and start understanding what’s actually shaping the conversation in real time.

That’s where things begin to shift.

Taking this a Step Further:

The work I do with my private clients is centered around helping you understand the deeper dynamics shaping your marriage so you can create a relationship that feels safe, connected, and truly supportive.

Together, we slow things down, bring awareness to the patterns between you, and create the shifts that change how you show up with each other.

If you’re ready for that kind of work, the next step is a consultation call. You can book yours here.

Conversations don’t break down because you don’t know what to say.

They break down because of what’s happening inside the conversation.

In this episode, we’re looking at the real reasons communication goes wrong in marriage—and why it keeps happening even when you’re trying your best to talk things through.

Inside this episode, we:* Explore how misperception leads you to react to meaning, not what was actually said * Talk about how needing something from your partner in the moment changes the energy of a conversation * Break down how judgment quietly enters and shuts down connection * Look at what happens when emotions get activated unexpectedly * Highlight why entering a conversation already dysregulated often determines how it unfolds

When you begin to see these patterns, you stop focusing only on what to say…and start understanding what’s actually shaping the conversation in real time. That’s where change becomes possible.

The Next Step

The work I do with my private clients is centered around helping you understand the deeper dynamics shaping your marriage so you can create a relationship that feels safe, connected, and truly supportive.

Together, we slow things down, bring awareness to the patterns between you, and create the shifts that change how you show up with each other.

If you’re ready for that kind of work, the next step is a consultation call.

If that feels like the kind of support you’re ready for, you can schedule your consultation here:

Today we are diving in to the difference between fixing your problems and transforming your marriage.

Most couples believe the problem they’re facing… is the problem.

The argument.

The disagreement.

The thing that keeps coming up again and again.

But what if that’s not actually what’s keeping you stuck?

In this episode, we move beneath the surface of conflict and into the dynamic that shapes how you show up with each other.

Because when you can see that clearly…

you’re no longer just trying to fix what’s happening.

You’re able to change it.

Inside this episode, we:

Distinguish between surface-level issues and the deeper relational dynamic
Explore how emotional meaning drives conflict more than the topic itself
Break down the protective responses that keep couples in the same cycle
Introduce a simple, powerful framework to help you shift the pattern in real time

This is the difference between working on your problems…

and transforming your marriage.

If you’re realizing that the issue in your marriage may not actually be the issue… and you’re ready to understand the deeper dynamic shaping your relationship, this is the kind of work I help my clients do every day.

Through coaching, we slow the patterns down, bring awareness to what’s really happening, and create the shifts that lead to a more connected and supportive marriage.

If you’d like to explore what working together might look like, I invite you to schedule a consultation call HERE

If you want to improve your marriage, the answer isn’t usually one big change. It’s a series of small shifts in how you think, communicate, and show up for each other.

In this episode, I’m sharing six simple upgrades that can make a meaningful difference in your marriage — whether things feel good but could be deeper, or you’ve started to notice some distance between you.

We talk about:

• The internal shift you need to make before your marriage can truly change

• A small adjustment in how you show up that can alter the entire emotional dynamic between you

• The quiet way couples start seeing each other differently over time — and how to reverse it

• One communication shift that instantly changes the tone of difficult conversations

• Why the way most couples spend time together isn’t actually building connection

• The overlooked ingredient that brings energy, playfulness, and attraction back into a relationship

These shifts may sound simple, but they can dramatically change the emotional climate of a relationship.

If you’re ready for your marriage to feel more connected, intentional, and alive, this episode will give you a powerful place to start.

If you’re ready for your marriage to feel more connected, more intentional, and more aligned with the kind of relationship you actually want, the next step is a conversation. I work with women and couples who want to strengthen their marriage and create lasting change. You can book a consultation call with me HERE, and we’ll talk about what’s happening in your relationship and what’s possible from here.

Friendship is the quiet foundation of everything that makes marriage feel alive.

It’s what makes desire sustainable.

It’s what softens conflict.

It’s what creates emotional safety.

It’s what makes being married actually enjoyable.

In this episode, we explore why friendship fades in the first place — and why that doesn’t mean anything is terribly wrong. Sometimes it simply means you’ve entered a new season that requires more intention.

We talk about:

• The subtle ways couples grow apart over time

• How stress, misattunement, and negative assumptions reshape connection

• Why resentment often begins with small unmet needs

• The quiet power of emotional safety

• And why friendship is more strategic than sentimental

If you’ve found yourself thinking, “We’re fine… but we’re not as close,” this conversation is for you.

Becoming best friends again doesn’t require starting over.

It requires awareness.

Willingness.

And a shift in how you show up.

This episode will help you do just that.

And if you'd like to discuss joining my upcoming couples retreat, you can book a private application call with me here.

You don’t have to be fighting to be drifting.

In this episode, we’re unpacking the subtle types of disconnection that quietly creep into good marriages — long before resentment or crisis ever appear.

If your relationship feels stable but flatter than it once did… if you love each other but feel less captivated, less curious, less connected… this conversation is for you.

Inside this episode, you’ll learn:

The 5 distinct types of disconnection most couples experience
Why “we’re fine” can be a turning point
How to identify whether you’re in the early, new-normal, or stuck stage
The mindset shifts that either deepen drift or restore connection
A simple process to interrupt disconnection before it becomes distance

Most marriages don’t fall apart dramatically. They slowly shift into autopilot.

The earlier you recognize the type of disconnection you’re experiencing, the easier it is to reset.

You don’t need a crisis to justify intention.

You just need awareness — and the willingness to act on it.

If this episode stirred something in you, that’s worth paying attention to.

I’m currently curating a small number of couples for the next Marriage UpGrade retreat — an intentional pause designed to restore connection, admiration, and desire. Learn more here.

In this episode, we’re talking about the quiet stage many couples find themselves in — not fighting, not falling apart… just operating on autopilot. Logistics over romance. Responsibilities over connection. “We’re fine” instead of “We’re thriving.”

If you want to:

Bring back the spark in your marriage
Feel emotionally connected to your spouse again
Reignite passion and novelty
Stop co-existing and start engaging
Intentionally design a healthy, fulfilling marriage

This conversation is for you.

You’ll learn:

Why good marriages slowly lose momentum
The subtle signs you’re drifting (even if things seem stable)
How to reset your connection before irritation replaces intimacy
The power of shared vision and intentional romance
Why you don’t need a crisis to justify a relationship reset

Marriage doesn’t become exciting by accident.

It becomes exciting when you decide to design it that way.

If you’re ready to move from “fine” to fully alive in your relationship, this episode will show you where to begin.

And for couples who want a deeper, immersive reset experience, The Marriage UpGrade retreat was created specifically for this stage — where love is present, but intention needs to be restored.

You don’t have to wait for distance to force change.

You can choose excitement now.

In this episode, we explore a deeper layer of pain that can exist in marriage—one that doesn’t always come from big betrayals or constant fighting, but from what happens slowly, quietly, and repeatedly over time.

You’ll walk away with a clearer understanding of:

why certain interactions still feel charged long after they happen
why effort and “good intentions” don’t always lead to repair
how your body and nervous system may be responding before your mind catches up
why some couples feel stuck even when they’re trying to do everything “right”
what it might mean when a relationship no longer feels emotionally safe—even if it’s still intact

This episode is for anyone who knows something is off, but hasn’t had language for it yet.

Mentioned in this Episode:

All About Attachment Styles Series: Join me daily Feb 9-13 at 12:30EST for this free teaching series. Dial in to the confidential conference call line: (669) 274-9890

Join my email list HERE! Never miss anything I have to offer outside of the podcast.

Ready to heal the wounds you've accumulated in your marriage? Book a time to talk with me HERE about how my coaching approach will help you move forward in a more positive way.

Conflict in marriage isn’t usually about the surface issue—it’s about what gets activated underneath.

In this episode, I’m breaking down what’s really driving the arguments, shutdowns, and emotional distance so many couples find themselves stuck in.

We’re talking about the emotions that are hardest to feel, the coping strategies that keep backfiring, and why reacting in the moment so often makes things worse—even when your intentions are good.

You’ll learn what actually creates emotional safety between partners, how to stay grounded instead of reactive, and why regulating your own emotional experience is the key to calmer conversations, fewer blowups, and deeper connection.

If you’re tired of feeling like you’re either walking on eggshells or stuck in the same fights on repeat, this conversation will help you see a new path forward.

If this episode is describing your marriage, don’t wait for the next argument to try to put these things in place. The help you need is available now to avoid that fight altogether.

I invite you to book a consultation call with me and explore exactly how working together in my private coaching program will help you have calmer, more connected conversations that actually end well. BOOK YOUR CALL HERE.

Have you ever walked away from a conversation with your partner thinking,

“We’ve talked about this so many times… why does nothing ever change?”

In this episode, we’re talking about stuck conversations—the ones that keep looping around emotional needs, help and support, or personal growth… without ever really moving the relationship forward.

I break down what’s actually happening beneath the surface of these repeated discussions—especially the common dynamic where one partner has a clear vision and unmet expectations for the relationship and the other doesn’t share that vision, doesn’t fully understand it, or quietly resists it

I'll also walk you through what actually needs to shift—not just what to say, but:

what to decide before the conversation
how to redirect your energy during it
and how to be radically honest with yourself after, especially when the outcome isn’t what you hoped for

If you’ve been doing everything you know how to do—and still feel stuck—this episode will help you zoom out, see the pattern more clearly, and understand what might finally help break the cycle.

This is the Moment to Get Help:

These conversations don’t fix themselves—and repeating them without support often makes things worse. A private consultation call gives you the outside perspective and structure needed to finally break the cycle. You can BOOK YOUR CALL WITH ME HERE

And to sign up for my email list, CLICK HERE

In this episode, we zoom out and look at the stuck stage of marriage—what it really is, why so many couples end up here, and the different ways partners try to cope when forward movement feels impossible.

You’ll hear why “sweeping things under the rug,” trying harder in the same ways, or emotionally checking out can all keep couples locked in place—especially when you and your partner cope very differently. One of you may want to talk it through. The other may want space. And instead of helping, those differences can deepen the distance.

More importantly, we’ll talk about what actually helps couples move forward in a healthy, grounded way—without blame, pressure, or forcing change.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

What being “stuck” in a marriage really means (and why it’s more common than you think)
The hidden impact of different coping styles when both partners feel frustrated or disconnected
Why progress doesn’t start with fixing problems—but with stabilizing the foundation
How clarity about what you want moving forward changes everything
How addressing root issues (unmet emotional needs, negative stories, quiet resentment) opens the door to real collaboration
What it looks like to approach your marriage as a team again

This conversation is for couples who haven’t given up—but know they can’t keep doing things the same way and expect different results.

If you’re ready to stop spinning in place and start moving forward with intention, compassion, and clarity, this episode is for you.

Also mentioned in this episode:

My New Email Series: When Couples Get Stuck: The 10 Situations Couples Call Me for Help With Most SIGN UP HERE

Ready to move your marriage forward, get along, communicate better and feel close again? Book you Private Consultation HERE

If your marriage feels tense, distant, or emotionally exhausting right now, you’re not broken — you’re under-skilled.

Most couples who are struggling aren’t lacking love. They’re lacking the emotional tools to handle disappointment, resentment, stress, and unmet needs without turning against each other. So what comes out instead is criticism, shutdowns, defensiveness, and that painful feeling of being alone in the relationship.

In this episode, we talk about what it actually takes to love each other well when things aren’t easy — when you’re hurt, triggered, disconnected, or starting to wonder if you’re even on the same team anymore.

We look at the real foundations of a healthy partnership:

how to understand yourself, communicate without exploding or withdrawing, listen in a way that creates safety, show up with kindness instead of score-keeping, and keep choosing each other even when it feels hard.

You’ll start to see where your dynamic is breaking down — and more importantly, where there is still room for repair, closeness, and change.

This conversation is for couples who don’t want to give up, but don’t want to keep living like this either.

If you’re tired of feeling misunderstood, unseen, or emotionally alone in your marriage, this episode will help you understand what’s been missing — and what it would look like to start doing things differently.

Also mentioned in this episode:

Private Couples Coaching - Book a private consultation call with me here.

There’s a kind of inner strength that determines far more about your life than motivation, confidence, or willpower.

In this episode, we explore what it actually takes to build that kind of inner fortitude—and why it matters so deeply for the life and relationships you want to create.

After listening to this episode, you will:

See why many people quietly quit on themselves—and how to interrupt that pattern
Understand how to acknowledge disappointment and failure without letting them define you
Learn how inner strength is built through staying, not striving
Feel reconnected to the resilient, capable part of you that already knows how to endure
Walk away with a deeper sense of self-trust and resolve to keep going, even when things feel heavy

This is an invitation to stop underestimating what you’re made of—and to lead yourself from a place of quiet strength, clarity, and commitment.

To join us in The Well Made Woman: New Energy Challenge for free, go here: https://drchavonne.com/new-year-energy-challenge/

And to learn more about joining the Well Made Woman 6-month program, go here: https://drchavonne.com/wmw/

Before you set another goal, write another list, or map out another plan—pause and listen to this episode.

How you enter the year will matter far more than what you put on paper.

In this episode, I invite you to consider a different starting point for growth—one that most people skip entirely.

We explore why choosing your energy first, before the planning and the doing, becomes the invisible force behind your consistency, your follow-through, and the way you show up in your life and relationships.

If you want 2026 to feel different—not just busier or more ambitious, but more grounded, intentional, and aligned—this conversation will give you a powerful new lens.

And to continue this work together, I invite you to join my new free challenge: The Well Made Woman: New Year Energy. We start January 1st. For details and to sign up, go here: https://drchavonne.com/new-year-energy-challenge/

The Well Made Woman Audio Drop is a time-bound audio experience releasing a series of teachings that explore 13 inner skills for emotional self-leadership and healthy relationships.

Each episode addresses a specific struggle many women face — such as emotional reactivity, self-doubt, resentment, overgiving, mental exhaustion, and disconnection — and offers a grounded, practical framework for change.

After listening to the full series, you’ll be invited to choose one pillar to focus on and begin practicing intentionally.

What's Coming Next:

Beginning January 1st, Dr. Chavonne will host a free experience called

Well Made Woman: New Year Energy — a space to take what you’ve learned and start living it in real time as you step into the new year.

SIGN UP FOR THE CHALLENGE HERE:

https://drchavonne.com/new-year-energy-challenge/

The Well Made Woman Audio Drop is a time-bound audio experience releasing a series of teachings that explore 13 inner skills for emotional self-leadership and healthy relationships.

Each episode addresses a specific struggle many women face — such as emotional reactivity, self-doubt, resentment, overgiving, mental exhaustion, and disconnection — and offers a grounded, practical framework for change.

After listening to the full series, you’ll be invited to choose one pillar to focus on and begin practicing intentionally.

What's Coming Next:

Beginning January 1st, Dr. Chavonne will host a free experience called

Well Made Woman: New Year Energy — a space to take what you’ve learned and start living it in real time as you step into the new year.

SIGN UP FOR THE CHALLENGE HERE:

https://drchavonne.com/new-year-energy-challenge/

The Well Made Woman Audio Drop is a time-bound audio experience releasing a series of teachings that explore 13 inner skills for emotional self-leadership and healthy relationships.

Each episode addresses a specific struggle many women face — such as emotional reactivity, self-doubt, resentment, overgiving, mental exhaustion, and disconnection — and offers a grounded, practical framework for change.

After listening to the full series, you’ll be invited to choose one pillar to focus on and begin practicing intentionally.

What's Coming Next:

Beginning January 1st, Dr. Chavonne will host a free experience called

Well Made Woman: New Year Energy — a space to take what you’ve learned and start living it in real time as you step into the new year.

SIGN UP FOR THE CHALLENGE HERE:

https://drchavonne.com/new-year-energy-challenge/

The Well Made Woman Audio Drop is a time-bound audio experience releasing a series of teachings that explore 13 inner skills for emotional self-leadership and healthy relationships.

Each episode addresses a specific struggle many women face — such as emotional reactivity, self-doubt, resentment, overgiving, mental exhaustion, and disconnection — and offers a grounded, practical framework for change.

After listening to the full series, you’ll be invited to choose one pillar to focus on and begin practicing intentionally.

What's Coming Next:

Beginning January 1st, Dr. Chavonne will host a free experience called

Well Made Woman: New Year Energy — a space to take what you’ve learned and start living it in real time as you step into the new year.

SIGN UP FOR THE CHALLENGE HERE:

https://drchavonne.com/new-year-energy-challenge/

The Well Made Woman Audio Drop is a time-bound audio experience releasing a series of teachings that explore 13 inner skills for emotional self-leadership and healthy relationships.

Each episode addresses a specific struggle many women face — such as emotional reactivity, self-doubt, resentment, overgiving, mental exhaustion, and disconnection — and offers a grounded, practical framework for change.

After listening to the full series, you’ll be invited to choose one pillar to focus on and begin practicing intentionally.

What's Coming Next:

Beginning January 1st, Dr. Chavonne will host a free experience called

Well Made Woman: New Year Energy — a space to take what you’ve learned and start living it in real time as you step into the new year.

SIGN UP FOR THE CHALLENGE HERE:

https://drchavonne.com/new-year-energy-challenge/

The Well Made Woman Audio Drop is a time-bound audio experience releasing a series of teachings that explore 13 inner skills for emotional self-leadership and healthy relationships.

Each episode addresses a specific struggle many women face — such as emotional reactivity, self-doubt, resentment, overgiving, mental exhaustion, and disconnection — and offers a grounded, practical framework for change.

After listening to the full series, you’ll be invited to choose one pillar to focus on and begin practicing intentionally.

What's Coming Next:

Beginning January 1st, Dr. Chavonne will host a free experience called

Well Made Woman: New Year Energy — a space to take what you’ve learned and start living it in real time as you step into the new year.

SIGN UP FOR THE CHALLENGE HERE:

https://drchavonne.com/new-year-energy-challenge/

The Well Made Woman Audio Drop is a time-bound audio experience releasing a series of teachings that explore 13 inner skills for emotional self-leadership and healthy relationships.

Each episode addresses a specific struggle many women face — such as emotional reactivity, self-doubt, resentment, overgiving, mental exhaustion, and disconnection — and offers a grounded, practical framework for change.

After listening to the full series, you’ll be invited to choose one pillar to focus on and begin practicing intentionally.

What's Coming Next:

Beginning January 1st, Dr. Chavonne will host a free experience called

Well Made Woman: New Year Energy — a space to take what you’ve learned and start living it in real time as you step into the new year.

SIGN UP FOR THE CHALLENGE HERE:

https://drchavonne.com/new-year-energy-challenge/

The Well Made Woman Audio Drop is a time-bound audio experience releasing a series of teachings that explore 13 inner skills for emotional self-leadership and healthy relationships.

Each episode addresses a specific struggle many women face — such as emotional reactivity, self-doubt, resentment, overgiving, mental exhaustion, and disconnection — and offers a grounded, practical framework for change.

After listening to the full series, you’ll be invited to choose one pillar to focus on and begin practicing intentionally.

What's Coming Next:

Beginning January 1st, Dr. Chavonne will host a free experience called

Well Made Woman: New Year Energy — a space to take what you’ve learned and start living it in real time as you step into the new year.

SIGN UP FOR THE CHALLENGE HERE:

https://drchavonne.com/new-year-energy-challenge/

The Well Made Woman Audio Drop is a time-bound audio experience releasing a series of teachings that explore 13 inner skills for emotional self-leadership and healthy relationships.

Each episode addresses a specific struggle many women face — such as emotional reactivity, self-doubt, resentment, overgiving, mental exhaustion, and disconnection — and offers a grounded, practical framework for change.

After listening to the full series, you’ll be invited to choose one pillar to focus on and begin practicing intentionally.

What's Coming Next:

Beginning January 1st, Dr. Chavonne will host a free experience called

Well Made Woman: New Year Energy — a space to take what you’ve learned and start living it in real time as you step into the new year.

SIGN UP FOR THE CHALLENGE HERE:

https://drchavonne.com/new-year-energy-challenge/

The Well Made Woman Audio Drop is a time-bound audio experience releasing a series of teachings that explore 13 inner skills for emotional self-leadership and healthy relationships.

Each episode addresses a specific struggle many women face — such as emotional reactivity, self-doubt, resentment, overgiving, mental exhaustion, and disconnection — and offers a grounded, practical framework for change.

After listening to the full series, you’ll be invited to choose one pillar to focus on and begin practicing intentionally.

What's Coming Next:

Beginning January 1st, Dr. Chavonne will host a free experience called

Well Made Woman: New Year Energy — a space to take what you’ve learned and start living it in real time as you step into the new year.

SIGN UP FOR THE CHALLENGE HERE:

https://drchavonne.com/new-year-energy-challenge/

The Well Made Woman Audio Drop is a time-bound audio experience releasing a series of teachings that explore 13 inner skills for emotional self-leadership and healthy relationships.

Each episode addresses a specific struggle many women face — such as emotional reactivity, self-doubt, resentment, overgiving, mental exhaustion, and disconnection — and offers a grounded, practical framework for change.

After listening to the full series, you’ll be invited to choose one pillar to focus on and begin practicing intentionally.

What's Coming Next:

Beginning January 1st, Dr. Chavonne will host a free experience called

Well Made Woman: New Year Energy — a space to take what you’ve learned and start living it in real time as you step into the new year.

SIGN UP FOR THE CHALLENGE HERE:

https://drchavonne.com/new-year-energy-challenge/

The Well Made Woman Audio Drop is a time-bound audio experience releasing a series of teachings that explore 13 inner skills for emotional self-leadership and healthy relationships.

Each episode addresses a specific struggle many women face — such as emotional reactivity, self-doubt, resentment, overgiving, mental exhaustion, and disconnection — and offers a grounded, practical framework for change.

After listening to the full series, you’ll be invited to choose one pillar to focus on and begin practicing intentionally.

What's Coming Next:

Beginning January 1st, Dr. Chavonne will host a free experience called

Well Made Woman: New Year Energy — a space to take what you’ve learned and start living it in real time as you step into the new year.

The Well Made Woman Audio Drop is a time-bound audio experience releasing a series of teachings that explore 13 inner skills for emotional self-leadership and healthy relationships.

Each episode addresses a specific struggle many women face — such as emotional reactivity, self-doubt, resentment, over-giving, mental exhaustion, and disconnection — and offers a grounded, practical framework for change.

After listening to the full series, you’ll be invited to choose one pillar to focus on and begin practicing intentionally.

What's coming next:

Beginning January 1st, Dr. Chavonne will host a free experience called

Well Made Woman: New Year Energy Challenge — a space to take what you’ve learned and start living it in real time as you step into the new year.

It's here, The Well Made Woman Audio Drop!

I'm so excited to release this series to you.

In this episode, I share the story behind why I created this 13 episode series just for you, just for now.

I'll also discuss:

Why so many women feel stuck between knowing better and living differently
The difference between insight and embodied change
What it means to lead yourself emotionally and relationally
How this Audio Drop is meant to be experienced (not binged, not rushed)
Why choosing just one inner skill can change everything

GET READY!!

In today’s episode, I invite you into a different kind of conversation about goals, progress, and what really creates change. Not the hustle-hard, push-yourself-more kind—but the kind that asks a more powerful question:

Who do I need to become in order for what I want to be inevitable?

I talk about why so many capable, thoughtful women understand what they want—but get stuck in the follow-through. Why knowing the steps isn’t the same as sustaining the transformation. And why the “in-between” phase—the part most people abandon—is actually where everything meaningful is happening.

You’ll hear how I think about progress through the Well Made Woman lens:

not as a finish line to reach, but as a way of living, thinking, and relating to yourself—especially when results aren’t immediately visible.

This episode is for you if:

You’re clear on what you want, but unsure why it hasn’t fully materialized yet
You’re tired of motivating yourself through pressure, self-judgment, or external validation
You sense the real work isn’t out there… but somewhere deeper inside you
You don’t want to quit on your desires—you want to understand how to carry them differently

If you’ve been wondering whether you’re off track… or simply still becoming—this conversation will help you see what’s actually required to keep going.

And to learn more about how The Well Made Woman Program can support you in becoming more of who you want to be, go here: https://drchavonne.com/wmw/

In this episode, I break down why your progress towards your goals and desires can feel slow at the end of the year—even when you’ve been trying, growing, and taking the necessary steps.

I explore the two very different conversations women tend to have with themselves when the things they expected or wanted to happen have not taken place yet.

One is the honest, data-driven look at what may have been missing—clarity, belief, direction, or support.

The other is a more grounded, self-led perspective that asks a deeper question: Who am I becoming in the process of wanting this?

You’ll hear why stalled progress isn’t usually a motivation problem—and why giving up often comes from misunderstanding what real change actually requires.

I share how I personally continue toward my own goals using the Well Made Woman process, and why I see it not as a finish-line mentality, but as a way of life.

This episode is for the woman who doesn’t want to abandon what she wants—but also doesn’t want to relate to her goals through pressure, shame, or blaming others.

If you’ve been wondering whether you missed something… or whether you’re simply still in the middle of becoming—this conversation will help you see your progress more clearly and decide how you want to move forward.

And if you'd like to join us inside Your Well Made Woman Year 2026, here's the link:

https://drchavonne.com/wmwy2026/

And to join the full Well Made Woman Program, go here: https://drchavonne.com/wmw/

In this follow-up to last week’s episode, I’m sharing my side of A God Move—the powerful story my husband told about a life-changing encounter with a total stranger.

In this conversation, I open up about what was happening in my own world at that time, why his experience felt like divine confirmation, and how it represented an immediate answered prayer.

This moment reminded me that nothing in life is random. Even when you can’t see how things are coming together, God is already working for your good.

If you’ve been waiting for a sign that hope is not lost—this episode will speak to your heart and strengthen your faith that it all truly works out for you.

Today we’re celebrating 300 episodes of the podcast, and this conversation feels like one of the most meaningful ones I’ve ever shared.

In this episode, I’m taking you inside my own marriage to tell you a story that changed everything — one I call a God Move. It’s a story of divine timing, healing, and how God can use the most unexpected people and moments to remind us that He sees us, He hears us, and He’s always working for our good.

You’ll hear my husband share his own life-changing encounter — how a complete stranger spoke words that shifted how he saw himself as a man and as a partner.

The first time I heard him tell it, I cried for hours. It was that powerful.

Listen in to hear this story directly from him — and then come back next week when I’ll break down exactly why I call this a God Move, and what it revealed to me about love, faith, and transformation inside marriage.

In this episode, we’re unpacking what boundaries actually are (and what they’re not), why so many people only try to set them when they’re angry, and how to create limits that honor both you and the people you love.

You’ll learn how to:

Tell the difference between a request, an ultimatum, and a true boundary
Set boundaries that feel loving, grounded, and guilt-free
Stay calm and self-honoring even when others don’t like your new limits
Navigate the messy middle between people-pleasing and self-protection

If you’ve ever wondered how to protect your peace without losing connection—this conversation will show you how to do it with grace, strength, and self-trust.

To join Marriage Coach Monday's Dial: 669-274-9890

And for more about The Well Made Woman, go here: https://drchavonne.com/wmw/

If you’ve ever found yourself overthinking what to say, replaying conversations in your head, or holding back your true opinion because you’re worried about how others might react — this episode is for you.

We’re diving into the subtle and obvious ways the need for approval quietly runs your life — from how you spend your money to the decisions you make, and even how much joy you allow yourself to feel.

You’ll discover:

How your desire to belong and be accepted can keep you stuck in patterns of self-abandonment
The real reason you care so much about what others think (hint: it’s about safety, not weakness)
What it looks like to care more about your own opinion than anyone else’s — without guilt, rebellion, or fear
Simple, doable ways to start listening to your inner authority and take action from a place of worth

If you’re tired of second-guessing yourself or shrinking your desires to make other people comfortable, this conversation will show you a different way — one where you belong to yourself first.

It’s time to stop seeking permission and start living in alignment with who you really are.

If you’re listening to this and something inside you feels ready — ready to stop overthinking, ready to stop performing, ready to start trusting yourself again — this is your moment. The Well Made Woman is open for enrollment. This program will support you in build the kind of self-trust, emotional resilience, and inner authority that makes your life so much easier and more peaceful. Learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/wmw/

What if your worth wasn’t something you had to earn—but something you already are?

In this episode, we explore what it truly means to live from the truth that your existence makes you worthy—and how that truth can transform what you allow yourself to receive - in life, marriage and your relationships.

Worthiness isn’t just a belief; it’s a daily practice. It’s the sacred recognition that your needs, wants, and desires aren’t indulgent—they’re valid expressions of a life and love that’s meant to feel good.

Inside, we explore:

How early conditioning teaches you to question your value
What shifts when you stop trying to prove your worth and start embodying it
The mindset and practices that help you receive with confidence and grace

If you’ve ever felt like no matter how much you do, it never feels like enough—this conversation will help you come home to yourself and the innate worth that’s been there all along.

Also mentioned in this episode: The Well Made Woman is open for enrollment for our 2026 group. If you are ready to master self-worth, and many other pillars to elevating the way you life your life, I invite you to join us this round. You can learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/wmw/

Today’s episode is a special one — because instead of just hearing from me, you’ll get to hear directly from one of the women inside The Well Made Woman program.

She’s going to pull back the curtain on what really happens when you commit to your own growth — the fears that come up, the shifts that surprised her, the internal upgrades she didn’t even know she needed, and how she now thinks, feels, and moves through her life differently.

We talk about…

What made coaching finally work for her after multiple attempts in other programs
The mindset blocks she had around investing in herself again — and what pushed her over the line
How the tools received inside The Well Made Woman made this work finally stick
How she followed through, even when she doubted she would
What it actually feels like to become the Well Made Woman in your own life — not just in your journal, but in your marriage, your decisions, and your self-concept

If you’ve been curious about The Well Made Woman, or you’ve felt the nudge to invest in your growth but haven’t fully said yes yet… this episode will either confirm what you're already feeling — or shift something inside you that you didn’t even realize was blocking you.

And for more information on The Well Made Woman and how you can join for 2026, visit my website here: https://drchavonne.com/wmw/

In this episode, we’re exploring what I call The Way of the Well-Made Woman —

the mindset, energy, and emotional maturity that separate the woman who’s constantly reacting to life from the woman who leads herself through it with peace, power, and grace.

This episode is for the woman, who has a voice inside saying: “I don’t want to keep living this way.”

Not because everything is falling apart — but because how she feels inside no longer matches the woman she knows she’s meant to be.

The Way of the Well-Made Woman is how you bridge that gap.

It’s how you start experiencing your life — and yourself — differently.

In this conversation, I’ll share three distinctions that define a self-led woman — the ways she thinks, chooses, and responds that change everything.

You’ll walk away with reflection questions and practices to help you live with more gratitude, confidence, and grounded calm — starting today.

If you’re ready to stop running on autopilot and start leading yourself with intention, this is your invitation.

And to learn more about my signature program, The Well Made Woman, visit my website here: https://drchavonne.com/wmw/

In this episode, we’re having an honest conversation no one else in your life probably will — about the subtle, everyday ways we create our own suffering, and how to gently pull yourself out of that negative spiral.

You’ll learn how to:

Spot the stories your mind automatically tells you — and understand where they really come from
Choose thoughts that open the door to growth, self-love, and peace
And rewire your reactions so you stop repeating old emotional patterns that keep you stuck

This isn’t about toxic positivity or pretending everything’s fine.

It’s about reclaiming your emotional power — learning to see yourself and your life through a lens that brings healing instead of hurt.

If you’re ready to feel lighter, calmer, and more in charge of how you experience your life, this one’s for you.

Also mentioned in this episode: The Well Made Woman: Lead Your Life Masterclass Series. We start October 21 and you'll have lifetime access to the recordings if you cannot join us live each day. Learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/lyl/

In this episode, we’re exploring the idea of Emotional Wealth — treating YOU as the primary asset in your life.

Just like investing in property or stocks for long-term gain, emotional wealth is built by consistently investing in how you think, how you feel, and how you choose to respond… no matter what’s happening around you.

We’ll talk about:

Why emotional maturity is a long-game investment, not a quick emotional hit
What it means to see yourself as an asset that increases in value over time
How to stay steady when life throws disruptions, disappointments, or emotional storms
And why building emotional wealth is legacy work — something your children will inherit through the way you live, feel, and handle life

This isn’t about being positive all the time.

It’s about becoming emotionally abundant — able to feel deeply, recover quickly, and move through life with grounded confidence.

If you've ever wanted to feel unshakeable, more at peace, and truly proud of who you're becoming — this conversation will shift the way you see emotional growth forever.

Mentioned in this Episode: The Well Made Woman Lead Your Life Masterclass --> Learn More Here: https://drchavonne.com/lyl/

Do you ever feel like you’re always on edge—snapping quicker than usual, running on fumes, or just carrying a quiet sense of tension that never seems to go away?

In this episode, we’re breaking down what’s really happening beneath the surface when you feel like you’re at your limit.

You’ll learn how to:

Identify what’s actually fueling your reactivity (and why your mind keeps spinning there)
Reclaim your focus and calm by auditing where your attention is going
Ground yourself through simple, embodied self-care—so you’re not just managing stress but truly restoring your peace
Shift from constant problem-solving to genuine problem-healing

If you’ve been feeling stretched too thin, reactive, or stuck in survival mode—this episode will help you slow down, tune in, and finally exhale.

And if this resonated with you, I want to invite you to my private workshop, The Well Made Woman: Lead Your Life. Here we will go deep into how to live more authentically, feel fulfilled, and rise resilient without losing yourself. You can learn more and apply to join us here: https://drchavonne.com/lyl/

In this episode, we’re exploring a different way of looking at your life and your marriage: the belief that it all works out for you.

We’ll dive into:

Why releasing timelines and deadlines might be the key to more patience and peace
How every obstacle can become an opportunity to grow into the version of yourself who can have what you want
And how learning to loosen control and open yourself up creates the space for more joy, more ease, and even more of God’s presence in your life

If you’ve been tired of forcing things, rushing things, or stressing over why it hasn’t happened yet—this conversation will help you see your challenges through a whole new lens.

For more help and support making this perspective your way of LIVING, I invite you to consider working with me directly in one of my coaching programs. To learn more, go to: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

Over the past week, I released a special video series called The Mindsets for a Happier, More Connected Marriage. And in case you missed it — or just prefer to listen on the go — I’m bringing the full series to you here on the podcast.

In this series, I walk you through 5 powerful mindsets that can completely change the way you and your spouse communicate and connect.

Because the truth is, it’s not just about what you say. It’s about the mindset you bring into every conversation.

These 5 mindsets will help you:

Break out of the same old arguments
Reignite your closeness and intimacy
Build communication that feels safe, kind, and productive

So whether you’ve been following along with the videos or this is your first time hearing the series, I know you’ll walk away with practical shifts you can start using right now in your marriage.

And...

Early Enrollment for The Marriage UpGrade is open NOW. See what bonuses and special incentives I have for you by joining the VIP list here: https://drchavonne.com/tmu-waitlist/

Have you ever caught yourself thinking… “We’re just stuck in the same patterns”?

Maybe you’re tired of the arguments that go nowhere…

Or feeling like roommates who just handle the day-to-day stuff but don’t really connect anymore.

You can have more than a marriage that just “functions.”

You deserve one that feels fulfilling—where you enjoy each other, laugh together, and feel like true partners.

In this week’s episode of the podcast, I’m sharing what it really takes to build that kind of marriage.

After listening, you’ll walk away with:

:: A way to get clear on what you actually want in your relationship (beyond just knowing what’s not working)

:: How to stop repeating the same old habits and start showing up differently

:: Why your growth matters just as much as your partner’s (and what that looks like in real life)

:: Simple shifts that make intimacy and connection easier

This episode will lay out the steps necessary to create a marriage you actually love living in.

Also mentioned in this Episode:

The Marriage UpGade is opening up for Early Enrollment September 23-30. This is my signature couples program designed to guide and coach you to creating a more fulfilling marriage - one with easier communication, deeper connection, and more passion and intimacy. Get all the details here: https://marriageupgrade.drchavonne.com/

You’ve built success everywhere else—your career, your family, your home life looks great on the outside.

But behind closed doors, it feels like constant miscommunication, emotional distance, or like you’re just roommates passing in the night.

In this episode, I’m breaking down why even high-achieving couples struggle in marriage, the common patterns I see that quietly erode connection, and the key shifts that help you communicate better, laugh more, and feel like a team again.

If you’ve ever thought, “We should be happier than this,” you’ll want to listen in.

And if you'd like my proven process designed to address your unique marriage challenges, I invite you to learn more about my signature couples coaching program, The Marriage UpGrade. You can learn more here: https://marriageupgrade.drchavonne.com/

Early Enrollment opens September 23-30.

When it comes to your marriage, progress doesn’t come from one big breakthrough conversation or waiting for your partner to suddenly change. Progress comes from habits.

Not the once-in-a-while things you do when you’re on your best behavior, but the predictable patterns you fall into over and over again.

In this episode, we’re talking about how to recognize these habits for what they are, and—more importantly—how to start changing them so you can create a different experience in your marriage.

You’ll learn:

How to spot the patterns that keep pulling you both back into the same fights.

Why self-awareness is the first step in shifting your behavior.

What it takes to experiment with new ways of responding—and why that matters.

How to create systems and structures (like code words or marriage check-ins) that make new habits stick.

And why celebrating small wins is just as important as the big breakthroughs.

If nothing changes about what you do, nothing changes about what you experience. But once you start shifting your habits, you’ll not only make progress—you’ll transform who you are to each other.

In this episode, we’re breaking down why managing your emotions is the key to making real progress in your marriage.

You’ll learn:

Why emotions are physical sensations that will pass—and how to ride that wave instead of getting pulled under.
How to see emotions as signals guiding you to something important.
What it looks like to truly take responsibility for your own feelings—without blaming or offloading them onto your partner.
Why “you can’t heal what you won’t feel” (and how to practice that in a safe, grounded way).
And how staying centered in your emotions actually makes it more likely that your partner will hear you.

If you’ve ever wondered why you keep ending up in the same fights, or why the same feelings seem to hijack your progress—this episode is going to show you a new way forward.

And for more personalized support using my proven process to making progress in your marriage, I invite you to work with me in one of my coaching programs. To learn more, visit my website: DrChavonne.com

In today’s episode, we’re digging into the simple but transformative truth that your thoughts create your results. Not just in your to-do list, but in the way you feel about yourself, your partner, and your relationship.

I’ll show you how to spot the thoughts that are quietly working against you, and how to start choosing thoughts that bring you closer to the peace, connection, and love you really want.

By the end of this episode, you’ll know:

How to recognize the kinds of thoughts that keep you stuck in overwhelm, disconnection, or resentment.
A simple way to reframe your thinking so it actually supports what you want in your marriage.
Why “choosing a better thought” isn’t fake positivity—it’s a skill that can change the emotional climate of your relationship.
What to do when your negative thoughts feel true and how to shift without dismissing your reality.

This is the work that changes you first—and when you change, your marriage begins to change too.

And if you are looking for help to develop the right thoughts and actions that ultimately create a better marriage, I invite you to work with me in one of my coaching programs. You can learn more on my website: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

Staying out of that negative cycle isn’t just about avoiding another argument.

It’s about giving your relationship the stability it needs so you can actually enjoy your time together…

… and so you have the runway to address the deeper issues that have been wearing on you both.

In this episode, I’m sharing the key shifts that help you:

Spot the patterns that predictably trip you up.
Calm your own triggers so they stop running the show.
And create moments of heartfelt connection, even when things feel tense.

This is how you break the cycle and start building a relationship that feels good to be in.

And for more personalized support to help you and your partner keep your marriage feeling better for longer more sustained periods of time, I invite you to consider private coaching with me. You can learn more about becoming Better Together by booking a complimentary consultation call here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

When you and your spouse aren't connecting, everything feels harder.

You might go from small misunderstandings to full-blown silence—or you’re stuck repeating the same argument over and over, never really resolving it.

That’s the disconnection dance or negative cycle—and it’s not just frustrating, it’s exhausting.

In today’s episode, I’m walking you through 5 powerful steps to help you break that cycle.

You’ll learn how to:

Recognize what’s actually driving your disconnection (it’s not just the surface argument)
Reflect on your own patterns with compassion and ownership
Get clear on what you really want—and how to create it
Self-soothe in moments where your partner isn’t able to meet you
And take meaningful steps—internally or together—to reconnect without pride or resentment getting in the way

This episode will challenge you. It might even stir something up. But if you’ve been waiting for things to shift—this is your roadmap.

And if you're looking for help and tools to support you in quickly getting out of these negative cycles, I invite you to consider signing up for one of my coaching programs. We can talk more about how I can help in a complimentary consultation call. Learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

There are three essential skills that often get left out of our upbringing—and they are crucial to creating a thriving, connected relationship.

Skills like:

Introspective questioning—so you can understand why you think, feel, and operate the way you do, and start asking: What if I’m wrong about this?
Perspective taking—so you can stop assuming the worst and start seeing the logic in your partner’s experience.
And truly listening to understand—so that curiosity, not defensiveness, becomes your default.

In today’s episode, we’re diving into these foundational shifts—what they are, why they matter, and how they can completely change the way you show up in your marriage.

If you’ve ever wondered why you keep having the same arguments, or why your good intentions still lead to misunderstandings, this episode is going to give you a fresh lens and powerful new tools.

And if you are looking for help creating positive change in your marriage and would like professional help, I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

So many of the ways we show up in our relationships—how we communicate, how we love, how we cope—aren’t actually conscious choices.

They’re inherited. Programmed. Conditioned from what we saw, experienced, or learned growing up.

In this episode, we’re talking about three ways of being you may have learned that are quietly wrecking the quality of your relationships—and your own personal peace.

You’ll hear how these patterns show up:

-When you’re constantly blaming others but feeling stuck

-When love becomes a reward instead of a reflection of who you want to be

-When avoiding your emotions becomes your way of coping—but keeps you disconnected from your own life

This is about unlearning the old survival strategies and stepping into a more grounded, emotionally resilient, and soul-aligned version of yourself.

It’s not easy work, but it’s the kind of work that changes everything.

If you’ve been feeling unfulfilled, irritated, or just tired of the way things feel in your marriage or within yourself—this conversation is for you.

In this episode, we’re unpacking exactly what happens when the anxious partner brings up an issue…and the avoidant partner immediately feels overwhelmed, blamed, or like they’re walking into another argument they didn’t ask for.

You’ll learn:

What each partner is really thinking underneath the surface
Why emotional safety is the missing ingredient that keeps you both stuck in this cycle
And what to do instead—whether you’re the one bringing up the issue, or the one on the receiving end of it

We’ll also talk about what it means to be a wounded partner vs. a wounding partner—and how this shift in mindset can change the tone of your conversations and help you actually hear and be heard.

If your marriage feels like one long loop of misunderstanding and miscommunication, and you’re both tired of repeating the same fight with different words…

This episode will give you a new perspective—and the tools to finally begin creating connection, instead of more conflict.

And for more help on creating more productive conversations and using your communication to bring you CLOSER as a couple, I invite you to consider one of my coaching programs. You can learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

In today’s episode, we’re diving into one of the most emotionally complex and frustrating dynamics between partners—what happens when one of you is anxiously tuned in to every emotion, every disconnect, every nuance…essentially hyper-self aware...

And the other is not able to see what's happening, unaware of the emotions often driving them, and has a harder time communicating what's going on for them...essentially lacking self awareness...

We’re breaking down why this mismatch in self-awareness and emotional processing leads to blame, shame, shutdowns, and emotional spirals—and how to begin shifting that pattern.

You’ll hear:

Why anxious partners can feel like they’re always solving the relationship alone
Why avoidant partners often feel like they’re being treated as a project instead of a person
And how this blame/shame cycle keeps both of you stuck, exhausted, and silently wondering if things will ever feel better

But more importantly—we’ll talk about what to do next. What actually helps. And how to start creating a new rhythm between you that leaves you both feeling seen, respected, and more connected.

If you’ve been feeling like you’re the only one clued in to what's happening…or if you’ve felt like your partner is always psychoanalyzing you—this episode is for you.

And if you are looking for help and would like to explore the ways my coaching program can help you, I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

In today’s episode, we’re unpacking one of the most frustrating—and misunderstood—dynamics in a relationship: the anxious partner who longs for emotional validation, and the avoidant partner who’s just trying not to drown in overwhelm.

If you’ve ever found yourself needing your partner to get what you’re feeling and help you through it…

Or if you’ve ever felt like your partner’s emotions are a test you’re destined to fail…

You’re in the right place.

We’re getting to the root of what’s really going on underneath these reactions:

Why anxious partners often feel like they can’t handle big emotions alone
Why avoidant partners often feel like emotions = failure
And how both sides are doing their best to feel safe—but in ways that unintentionally trigger each other

This episode will give you insight into your nervous system responses, the deeper emotional fears you might not even realize are running the show, and—most importantly—what to do about it.

Because once you understand the real reason this feels so hard, you’ll finally have a clear direction forward. One that doesn’t involve blaming, fixing, or giving up.r

And if you are looking for more help navigating these triggering cycles as a couple, I invite you to reach out to book a 20 Minute Marriage Solution Call, to experience firsthand the power of coaching to help you. Or if you are already interested in working with me through one of my coaching programs, you can book a complimentary consultation. Both links can be found on my website: DrChavonne.com

Have you ever felt desperate for more connection in your marriage—wanting to talk more, do more things together, feel like you're truly on the same page—but no matter how hard you try, your partner just doesn’t seem to meet you there?

Or maybe you're on the other side—feeling like your partner always needs more from you than you can give, and all you want is a little space to think, breathe, and just be without feeling like you're letting them down.

If either of those sound familiar, you're not alone—and you’re likely caught in the anxious-avoidant dynamic.

In this episode, we’re unpacking that exact struggle: what happens when one partner craves closeness and the other craves space. When one feels rejected, and the other feels pressured. When you both want peace, but your patterns keep pushing each other further apart.

You’ll learn:

Why the anxious partner often ends up feeling like they’re too much and not enough at the same time
Why the avoidant partner feels pressure to be someone they’re not, and shuts down to preserve their sense of self
What it really looks like to balance independence and intimacy in a healthy, respectful way
And the personal growth plans each of you can start implementing today to change the cycle and create something better

This is one of the most common dynamics I work with—and the good news is: healing is absolutely possible when you understand the deeper needs underneath the behavior.

In today’s episode, we’re breaking down the emotional tug-of-war between anxious and avoidant partners—and why it’s so hard to stop, even when you both want things to be better.

You’ll hear the real fears driving this dynamic:

Why the anxious partner is so afraid of being emotionally abandoned
Why the avoidant partner is terrified of not being enough
And how these fears fuel the very behaviors that keep you disconnected

We’re going deeper than just communication tips—this is about the belief systems that live underneath your patterns. The unconscious drivers that have you stuck in criticism, defensiveness, shutdown, and silent suffering.

If you’ve ever thought, “Why do we keep having the same arguments?”

Or felt like, “No matter how hard I try, I still don’t feel close to my partner…”

This episode will help you understand why—and what to do instead.

Because real change happens when you understand what’s really going on inside you… and inside each other.

If you are ready for help growing as an individual AND together as a couple, then I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call to discuss how my coaching approach can help you get there faster: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

You’ve probably heard the phrase “own your emotions”—but what does that actually mean in a marriage?

Does it mean your partner gets a free pass to ignore your feelings?

Does it mean you’re supposed to just “deal with it” when you’re hurt or disconnected?

Not even close.

In this episode, we’re unpacking the delicate balance between emotional self-responsibility and relational needs.

Because here’s the truth:

Yes, your feelings are yours.

But that doesn’t mean your relationship shouldn’t feel good.

This conversation is for you if you’ve ever felt stuck between two extremes:

“I shouldn’t depend on my partner for how I feel”

and

“But I also want to feel loved, valued, and supported in this relationship.”

We’re diving deep into how to own your triggers without abandoning your needs, and how to express those needs in a way that builds true emotional safety and closeness in your marriage.

This is where emotional intelligence meets healthy interdependence—and it might just change the way you show up in your relationship from this point forward.

And if you're looking for help creating a marriage where you grow both individually and as a couple, I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call to discuss how one of my coaching programs can help. https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

What if the friction in your relationship isn't just about unmet expectations, but a deeper misalignment in values and life goals? In this episode, we delve into the challenging yet liberating concept of recognizing when you and your partner might not be the right fit for each other.

We'll explore:

Identifying Core Misalignments: Understanding when differing values, unmet needs, and divergent life paths signal a fundamental incompatibility.
The Importance of Self-Work: Ensuring you've done the inner work to distinguish between personal triggers and genuine mismatches.
Navigating the Realization: How to approach this awareness with compassion, reducing judgment and the urge to change your partner.
Redefining the Relationship: Embracing the possibility of transforming the relationship dynamic, whether that means adjusting expectations or parting ways amicably.

This conversation isn't about giving up; it's about honoring your truth and creating space for both partners to thrive—together or apart.

Tune in to discover how acknowledging a mismatch can be a courageous step toward personal growth and authentic connection.

Also mentioned in this episode: It’s normal to have doubts—especially when love is there, but the differences feel hard to bridge. I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call with me to explore how my private coaching program can help.

This is your chance to explore those lingering “What ifs” with clarity and compassion. You don’t have to figure it all out alone. Let’s talk: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

Have you ever felt like your partner just doesn’t see eye to eye with you on some of the most important aspects of life? Maybe it’s domestic responsibilities, parenting styles, intimacy, finances, or even how you handle marriage challenges.

The truth is, when it feels like you're constantly clashing, it’s often because you’re not aligned on your values—the deeper essence of what drives your decisions.

In today’s episode, we’re unpacking why these differences can feel so intense and how they tie back to core values versus specific expectations. Whether it's a clash between traditional and modern views on roles, a difference in how you view intimacy, or how you approach finances, these fundamental values impact everything.

I’ll share key insights on how to:

Understand the root cause of your disagreements by uncovering your values.
Create a partnership where both of you feel equally heard, valued, and invested.
Move away from guilt, shame, and pressure to create intentional choices that actually work for both of you.
Accept that it’s okay if you’re not always a perfect match, and still find peace and respect in your relationship.

This episode is for anyone who’s feeling stuck in these deeper conflicts and wants to find real alignment and peace in their marriage. If you're ready to uncover the root issues and make empowered choices that bring you closer, tune in now.

And if you'd like my personal help navigating the biggest expectation clashes in your own marriage, I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

You’ve probably heard the term “inner work” thrown around in the personal development world, but what does it actually mean, and how does it impact your marriage?

In today’s episode, we’re digging into why inner work is one of the most powerful tools you can use to transform not just yourself, but your relationship. Whether you’re just starting your personal growth journey or looking to expand your current growth plan, this episode will help you understand why this work is essential—especially when it comes to the way you show up in your marriage.

Inner work isn’t just about self-improvement—it’s about understanding your triggers, breaking unhealthy patterns, and creating emotional resilience that positively impacts every part of your life.

So if you’re ready to start building a stronger, healthier version of yourself, and unlock a more connected, peaceful relationship with your partner, this episode is for you. Tune in and discover exactly how to get started on the path of personal growth and transformation, right now.

Also mentioned in this episode: If you'd like my personal help walking you through your own inner transformation, I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call by visiting my website: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

What if the secret to more peace, connection, and closeness in your marriage wasn’t about getting your partner to change, but instead, learning how to tolerate your own emotions?

In today’s episode, we’re diving into a game-changing skill that can dramatically shift how you handle those intense emotional moments in your relationship: emotional tolerance.

In this episode, I’ll walk you through how to:

Identify your emotional triggers and the knee-jerk reactions that come with them
Pause and tolerate discomfort instead of reacting immediately
Develop emotional resilience so you can choose how to respond, no matter how strong the emotion is

If you’re tired of feeling stuck in the same emotional patterns and want to break the cycle, this episode will show you how to start making lasting change—by learning to feel your feelings without letting them take over.

Also mentioned in this episode: If you’re tired of feeling stuck in the same emotional patterns and you’re ready to learn how to navigate your emotions with more ease, I can help.

Book your complimentary consultation HERE, and let’s explore how we can work together to help you respond, not react—leading to a more peaceful, fulfilling marriage.

Most couples get stuck in a pattern of blaming each other for the issues they’re facing—whether it’s the partner withdrawing, being overly critical, or just not feeling understood. But the key to shifting these dynamics lies in understanding yourself first.

In this episode, we are doing an even DEEPER dive into the often overlooked ways couples keep themselves stuck.

Continuing our previous conversations, I go layers deeper into the anxious and avoidant attachment patterns and how they contribute to common struggles, including:

How anxious individuals may unintentionally create negative cycles in their relationships by seeking validation and reassurance.
Why avoidants may struggle with passive-aggressive behavior, emotional withdrawal, and staying stuck in fixed patterns of thinking.
The shared challenge of avoiding emotional discomfort, whether by running from it or trying to fix it immediately.

Understanding yourself at this deeper level empowers you to break the cycle of frustration and move toward healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Tune in to learn how self-awareness can not only improve your connection with your partner but also help you choose the changes that will actually lead to lasting transformation.

Also mentioned in this episode:

If you're ready to stop feeling stuck in cycles of conflict and distance—and start creating the marriage you truly want—I invite you to consider private coaching with me.

Together, we’ll work week by week to:

✅ Break the patterns that keep you disconnected

✅ Build emotional safety and true understanding

✅ Create communication that brings you closer, not further apart

✅ Rekindle the friendship, warmth, and peace you both long for

You don't have to guess your way through this.

You don't have to keep hoping things will "just get better."

With the right support, you can rebuild a marriage that feels good again.

Book your complimentary consultation call here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

Ever feel like you and your partner cannot communicate effectively? You're talking one thing, and they are hearing and reacting to another. Communication break downs are very common for couples who have different attachment styles. Today we are taking another deep dive into how the anxious and avoidant dynamic leads to communication issues.

I break down exactly why communication breaks down between these two attachment styles, and how this pattern is secretly keeping you both stuck.

This episode is a must-listen if you're tired of feeling misunderstood and want to finally break the cycle. Tune in and discover how you can begin transforming your relationship—one conversation at a time.

Also mentioned: If you feel like you're constantly missing each other, getting stuck in misunderstandings, or just can't seem to get on the same page, I can help. I have a few spots open for private coaching, where we'll focus on transforming how you communicate with your partner—so you can feel heard, understood, and connected. Book your complimentary consultation today, and let’s start breaking down those communication barriers for good: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

In this episode, we’re breaking down one of the most common and challenging dynamics in relationships: the anxious-avoidant cycle. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a push-and-pull where one partner seems to be pulling away just when you need them the most, and the other feels suffocated by emotional demands, you’re about to discover why this happens—and how you can break free.

We’ll dive into:

Why one partner pulls away while the other feels desperate for connection
How each partner’s behavior creates more tension and confusion
What both partners can do to understand each other’s emotional needs and break the cycle

By the end of this episode, you’ll have a better understanding of what’s really going on in your relationship and how to take the first steps toward healing and reconnection. If you’re ready to stop feeling stuck and start building the intimacy and trust you both crave, this episode is for you.

if you are ready to get help navigating some of the unique dynamics of being an anxious-avoidant couple, I invite you to consider one of my coaching programs. You can learn more and book a complimentary consultation call HERE.

In today’s episode, we’re diving into the anxious-avoidant dynamic, one of the most common yet frustrating patterns in relationships. Whether you identify as anxious, avoidant, or somewhere in between, understanding this dynamic is the first step in breaking the cycle of emotional push and pull.

We’ll explore 10 key things you need to know about this dynamic—including why both partners feel unfulfilled, why communication often breaks down, and most importantly, how you can start shifting these patterns for better connection and deeper intimacy.

If you’re tired of feeling misunderstood or stuck in this emotional tug-of-war, this episode will give you the insights and tools you need to create more balance and understanding with your partner.

Also mentioned in this episode:

I have a few openings for private coaching. If you're looking to create a better dynamic in your marriage where you and your partner both feel close, I can definitely help. Book your complimentary call to discuss the ways my approach can support you: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

What if the key to transforming your relationship (and your life) isn’t about rushing to the finish line, but instead giving yourself the patience to truly grow?

In today’s episode, I challenge you to think differently about time, progress, and change.

For many of us, impatience leads to feeling stuck, frustrated, and drained. But what if the opposite—infinite patience—could actually be the secret to moving faster and feeling more aligned along the way?

I’ll take you through how giving yourself, and your process, a longer runway can provide the space to surrender and gain a new perspective that accelerates your growth. You’ll learn why this shift in mindset, combined with self-care, boundaries, and actively taking steps toward what you want, will help you experience less regret and resentment.

Most people wait for their marriage to improve before allowing themselves to feel happy, but this episode shows you how to enjoy the process and embrace change in a way that makes it sustainable.

If you’re ready to stop feeling behind and start moving forward with more joy, purpose, and clarity, this episode is for you.

Also mentioned in this episode: Get my direct help in creating positive change that lasts in your marriage. Schedule a complimentary consultation call here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

In this episode, you’ll discover the top 5 beliefs that are essential for transforming your relationship and creating lasting change. If you’ve been feeling stuck, frustrated, or disconnected, shifting your mindset is the first step toward a better, more peaceful partnership.

Inside you'll discover why these essential 5 mindsets are so important, how they will help you change the dynamic with your partner, and how they work together to create a more peaceful and fulfilling experience for you.

You'll also have the opportunity to uncover which mindset might be most valuable for you to work on so that you start to make more progress.

If you’re ready to dive deeper into these changes and want personalized support, I invite you to schedule a free consultation call to discuss ways we can work together to improve the way you feel and operate in your marriage. Visit DrChavonne.com

In this episode, we explore how different attachment styles define effort in relationships and why understanding these differences can be a game-changer. Whether you're more anxious, avoidant, or secure, your unique way of showing effort shapes how you connect with your partner and navigate challenges.

I dive into the primary driving factor that determines what effort looks like for each attachment style and how misunderstanding those drivers can lead to miscommunication, distance and resentment.

I also share where I see these differences show up the most: in domestic support, connection and vulnerability, personal growth, and the pace of progress in the relationship.

By understanding the underlying motivations driving each attachment style’s effort, you can better communicate, reduce frustration, and create deeper, healthier relationships.

Tune in for insights on how to recognize these patterns and start shifting them in your own relationship for more harmony and growth.

Also mentioned in this episode:

My practice is open to accepting new clients. Schedule a consultation call to learn more about my programs and how coaching can help you both come together and give your marriage the attention and effort it needs to truly thrive.

BOOK YOUR CALL HERE: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

In this episode, we dive into how to recognize where your triggers are really coming from—whether it’s from you, your partner, or the relationship itself. Understanding the root of your emotional reactions is key to breaking unhealthy patterns and building a stronger connection.

By identifying the source of your triggers, you can begin to heal, have more productive conversations, and break free from negative cycles. Not all triggers are the same, and understanding the difference is crucial for moving forward in your relationship.

This episode invites you to reflect on your emotional responses and offers strategies to create meaningful change.

It’s not easy, but it’s worth it. If you’re feeling stuck in the same patterns, this is the kind of work that can transform your marriage, and I’m here to help you through it.

Also mentioned in this episode

In this episode, we dive into the concept of communicating from the self. This is when, instead of blaming, shaming and criticizing your spouse, you simply express your feelings, your experience, and what's going on for you.

It's a powerful way to express your needs and work through issues in a way that opens up the lines of communication, increases understanding, and helps you feel seen and heard.

I give you 8 specific approaches to try, and encourage you to pick on to master in every conversation you have this week.

This work is simple to understand, but the real transformative power comes when you apply it regularly in your life.

And if you are looking for help improving your communication so you can have an easier, more connected and fulfilling marriage, I invite you to schedule a complimentary consultation call with me to discuss how my coaching programs can help you get the results you're looking for.

Visit my website here to do that: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

In this episode of the podcast we dive deep into the results you’re getting in your relationship—both positive and negative. Are you feeling connected, supported, and fulfilled? Or are arguments, frustration, and disconnection more frequent than you’d like?

We often point to surface-level reasons for struggles in relationships—poor communication, unmet expectations, and stress. But those are just the tip of the iceberg. To truly shift the dynamic in your marriage, we need to go deeper and uncover the root causes of these negative results.

In this episode, we explore the 5 underlying issues I see most often at play whenever a couple is producing results in their relationship that they don't want.

By looking beyond surface issues and addressing the real causes of conflict, you’ll gain insight into how to shift your relationship results, create deeper connection, and break free from unproductive cycles.

Tune in for practical advice on how to take responsibility for your role in your marriage and make lasting changes that support mutual growth.

Also mentioned in this episode:

How to Be Married Program

Private Coaching

In this episode of the podcast, we dive into the power of a marriage reset—why taking a step back from the chaos of everyday life can bring you closer together and reignite the spark in your relationship.

Whether you’re feeling emotionally distant, disconnected, or simply stuck in the day-to-day routine, a reset can help you reassess your connection and renew your commitment to each other.

You’ll learn:

The signs that your marriage might need a reset
Small, actionable ways to create space for reconnection
How stepping back from your busy life can deepen trust, intimacy, and communication

By the end of this episode, you’ll have practical tools to reset your relationship and start fresh, building a stronger, more intentional partnership.

Tune in for a conversation on how taking the time to pause and reconnect can transform your marriage—starting today.

Also mentioned in this episode: How to Be Married - my coaching program where you learn the 6 core skills all couples need - but no one teaches them. It's open for enrollment now! Learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/htbm/

In today’s episode, we explore how to manage intense emotional moments in relationships, especially when triggered by something your partner says or does.

I break down the four key steps that happen in these moments and provide practical strategies to help you slow down and navigate the emotional storm.

We start by understanding how a trigger is created and what it does inside your body and how to truly tune in to uncover your needs in the moment.

I share specific thoughts and actions you can use to calm yourself, reframe your reactions, and approach the situation with more clarity and compassion.

Plus, I’ll walk you through some reflective questions to process the deeper layers of what happened and how to heal from it.

Tune in for a deeper understanding of emotional triggers and how to handle them in a way that supports your relationship and your own well-being.

Also mentioned in this episode;

Marriage Fundamentals Masterclass - happening February 17th. Learn more and sign up for free here: https://drchavonne.com/fundamentals

How to be Married Program - opening for enrollment on February 17th - learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/htbm/

What makes a marriage truly thrive? Whether you're engaged, newly married, or years into your relationship, there are five key areas that every couple must get right to build a strong foundation.

In this episode, we’re breaking down the essentials that lead to long-term love and connection.

I cover:

How to communicate effectively (even when you disagree)
The money conversations that prevent stress and resentment
Navigating family dynamics, boundaries, and personal space
Conflict resolution strategies that actually work
Aligning your long-term vision so you grow together, not apart

If you want a marriage that’s built to last, don’t miss my upcoming Marriage Fundamentals Masterclass on February 17th! This live session will give you the tools and insights to strengthen your relationship at any stage.

Register now: https://drchavonne.com/fundamentals/

Also mentioned in this episode:

Communication Styles Masterclass

Attachment Styles Masterclass

In this episode, we’re diving into a transformative topic: Becoming the Partner You Want to Be Married To. Whether you’re engaged, newly married, or have been together for years, this conversation will challenge and inspire you to reflect on your role in creating the kind of marriage you desire.

What You’ll Learn:* The common trap couples fall into: focusing on your partner’s flaws while downplaying your own need for growth. * How self-awareness and accountability can create deeper connection, trust, and teamwork in your relationship. * Practical steps to embody the qualities of a great partner, such as patience, kindness, empathy, and reliability. * Small, intentional actions that lead to big shifts in your marriage.

Also mentioned in this episode: How to Be Married Program - opens for enrollment on February 17th. This program teaches you the 6 most essential skills all couples need to not only become a great partner, but to build a lasting, fulfilling, and joyful marriage that thrives through every season of life. Learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/htbm/

Welcome to the NEW podcast! We’re shaking things up to better reflect the work I do with couples and individuals—helping you love your marriage again, navigate major decisions, or build a strong foundation for your future.

Marriage isn’t just about the partnership; it’s deeply tied to how you show up as an individual. Your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors shape the connection, communication, and fulfillment you experience in your relationship.

In this episode, we explore what it truly means to show up for your marriage by diving into five foundational areas of self-awareness and growth.

These five areas come together to shape your role in the relationship and define the experience you create—not just for your partner, but for yourself.

As we explore these concepts, ask yourself: What does my best self look like in this marriage? What do I want to contribute to this partnership, and how can I show up in a way that reflects that?

This is the work that creates real transformation—from the inside out. Let’s dive in and uncover what showing up as your best can mean for your marriage and your life.

Also mentioned in this episode, my new program, How to Be Married. Read all about it here: https://drchavonne.com/htbm/

Does it ever feel like you and your spouse just go around in circles over and over again?

It's so common for couples to stay in the same kinds of negative cycles.

In this episode, we dive into why we repeat unhealthy patterns in relationships and how to break free.

I share with you where your patterns come from, why we choose familiar over the "right and healthy" thing, and how our brains are driven to try to solve issues the same way over and over again.

I explain the greatest key in actually changing things for the better and offer you the three most important areas to explore when it comes to your current patterns.

Also mentioned in this episode: The Happy Marriage Checklist! The key to changing your patterns is being deeply aware of what they are. This checklist provides you with a complete self assessment process for you to uncover what you and your partner are doing that either brings you closer or drives you farther apart.

Get your free checklist instantly by going here: https://drchavonne.com/checklist/

What does it mean to grow together as a couple? It’s not always as simple as it sounds. This episode is all about navigating those differences and creating a process that works for both of you.

Here’s the thing: growth will look different for everyone. I break down what growing together as a couple looks like, particularly for couples that experience the anxious - avoidant attachment style dynamic.

In this episode, we dig into:

The real work anxious and avoidant partners need to focus on to grow individually and together.
Why setting clear goals and intentions for your growth is non-negotiable—and how to align those goals as a couple.
How to recognize when you’re making progress (and when you’re stuck), so you can celebrate wins and seek support when needed.
The delicate balance of respecting each other’s pace, without rushing or dragging your feet.
Why setbacks are inevitable—and how to handle them with trust, compassion, and resilience.

Growing together doesn’t mean you won’t stumble along the way, but it does mean committing to showing up—for yourself and for each other.

I've created a brand new resource to help you and your spouse have an initial conversation about where you are and where you want to be as a couple.

Download my free "Happy Marriage Checklist: 10 Essential Habits for Lasting Love" HERE

Even though it's so easy to avoid them, hard conversations have the potential to move your life forward in the direction you want to go.

Hard conversations can happen with yourself, with your spouse, with your children, and anyone else you have an important relationship with.

In this Episode of the podcast, I'm breaking down all aspects of having hard conversations. From your intentions and goals, to the barriers that get in the way, to how to have effective (yet hard) conversations.

It is my hope that you see having hard conversations as a tool to live a more authentic and fulfilling life, and to experience more out of your marriage and intimate partnerships.

As we end 2024 and begin 2025, these kinds of powerful conversations can literally change your life.

Also mentioned in this episode:

Work with me in one of my coaching programs. To learn more about working together in my couples or individual coaching programs, visit my website: DrChavonne.com

There are stages of changing your life. In this episode, I share with you the process of change, and offer the most important things to focus on when you are getting ready to change.

I also share one of the biggest obstacles to your success - managing your emotions. I walk you through a process that helps you to understand, process and manage your emotions in way that fuels you to move forward instead of remaining stuck.

Whatever you want to create for yourself in 2025 is totally possible for you. May this episode guide you and be one that you find incredibly helpful.

Also mentioned in this Episode: The Well Made Woman - my 6 month group coaching program for women. Learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/wmw/

What we all crave in our human existence is a sense of emotional fulfillment. We want to feel content, satisfied and happy.

Often we seek emotional fulfillment inside a marriage or within other intimate relationships. Yet, when for various reasons, when those relationships are not fulfilling or there is constant strain, it can be difficult to know how to create emotional fulfillment in other areas of life.

In this podcast episode, I'm essentially answering the question: "How do I create emotional fulfillment for myself when my marriage isn't happy?"

I offer four specific areas and give you suggestions on how to think about emotional fulfillment in an expanded way.

Also mentioned in this episode:

The Well Made Woman Year- This is a 4-session series where we set you up with a transformational goal that creates CHANGE in your life. We’ll create clear next steps for you and find new solutions to the biggest barriers keeping you stuck. You’ll walk away feeling clear, confident and prepared to make the internal shifts that you need for 2025 be a better year for you.

The Well Made Woman Coaching Program - This INCLUDES Your Well Made Woman Year, plus 6 months of weekly coaching and support as you grow and build the skills to create positive change in your marriage, life, or other relationships. You’ll become a more confident, calm, and empowered woman who has one of the BEST years of your life.

What would it be like to truly choose yourself? To have an lived experience where you WANT you? You are a priority to you. You fully accept and love you?

In this episode of the podcast, I invite you to overcome the specific obstacles that often stand in the way and prevent you from fully choosing yourself.

It is my hope that you walk away completely inspired and more committed to YOU and your wellbeing.

Also mentioned in this episode:

December 16 -19: Your Well Made Woman Year 2025 4 Day Workshop

The Well Made Woman 6-Month Program

I'm so thrilled to introduce you to my client Carolyn, who joined The Well Made Woman Program last year.

In this conversation, you'll hear what helped her go from being a long-time podcast listener (and note-taker) to officially joining one of my coaching programs.

You'll hear how her commitment to make the most out of the experience lead her to do the work and ultimately achieve the progress she was seeking.

Carolyn also shares how she is different now, and how this work has had many ripple effects in not only her life, but the life of her children and other family members.

Her story and relatable experience is so valuable and I am honored to share it with you.

And to learn more and join The Well Made Woman Program, visit my website, here: https://drchavonne.com/wmw/

Anger in relationships. It's a natural human emotion that when misunderstood can create a lot of conflict and disconnection.

In this episode, I break down the most common reasons for some of the anger you have been feeling and offer a pathway forward to help you use your anger to create positive progress in your life.

The work of navigating difficult emotions is so essential. When you have the tools to understand what's truly going on for you, then you have the power to change it.

Anger can be an incredible teacher and fuel to help you create the kind of dynamic you want.

This episode will help you do just that.

Also mentioned in this episode:

Marriage Coach Mondays: Learn more and get all the details by CLICKING HERE: https://drchavonne.com/mcm/

My recent IG Live Videos: Go here: https://drchavonne.com/iglivewmw/

The Well Made Woman Program: Go here: https://drchavonne.com/wmw/

Diana's story is that of a woman who is committed to finding her place of power rather than always blaming her husband.

Through our work together in The Well Made Woman, she realized how much of her resentment and frustration came from not being able to see her role, and not doing things to create better situations for herself.

In this episode we talk about her Transformational Goal, and how achieving that goal has had immense ripple effects in her life - not only herself, her marriage, but also her parenting, and now her career.

What's even more exciting about this interview is that Diana completed The Well Made Woman Program over a year ago. You'll have the opportunity to hear what an initial investment in herself and her growth 18 months ago has created for her even now. I could not be more proud of her progress.

Also mentioned in this Episode:

To connect with Diana and her parenting coaching business, call or text: 732-630-7818 to set up a free one-hour consultation.

And for more on The Well Made Woman, visit my website HERE

In this episode, we are diving into the idea of Transformational Goals - goals that change YOU, and thereby change your LIFE.

This is a new concept I created that I am SOOO excited to share with you. Because, it really does have the potential to change your life.

Whatever you are wanting to be better - in your life, your relationships, you marriage, it starts with critical shifts inside of YOU.

When you focus on the qualities and characteristics you want to embody and live out in your life, you evolve into the next level version of yourself.

This is the pathway to ultimately creating next level outcomes in your life like

-better communication

-an improved marriage

-a healthy, happy relationship

-a better career

-more supportive friendships

-greater life success

I'd love to hear about the transformational goal you are setting for yourself after listening to this episode.

Also mentioned:

Here are all those IG live videos I've done over the past couple of weeks:

FIND THEM HERE

And for more about The Well Made Woman Program, visit my website, HERE

In this episode, I have the absolute pleasure of sharing with you one of my clients' experiences inside my coaching program, The Well Made Woman.

I appreciate so much Cindy's willingness to share her relationship journey, all the transitions, and the power she has been able to reclaim for herself.

You will hear from her as she talks about attempting to get her partner on board with improving their relationship, and then coming to the realization that focusing on herself, her healing, her understanding, her growth was the BEST use of her time.

I know you will love her as much as I do. May her story inspire you to stand for yourself, see your worth, and go after what you deserve.

And for more information on joining the Well Made Woman, CLICK HERE

What comes to mind when you hear that something is well made? In this episode, we are diving into the concept of a well made woman and why becoming more intentional in the way you show up in your life has so many positive ripple effects.

We have goals for everything - work, finances, health - and today we are talking about the internal goals that create you being your BEST.

In this episode you will come to better understand yourself, what it would be like for you to become a well made women, as well as hear all the details of my coaching program, The Well Made Woman.

You can learn more, and enroll in our January 2025 cohort, by visiting my website, HERE

Whose opinion do you value the most? If the answer is anyone other than yourself, this episode will be eye-opening. We are conditioned from an early age to please others. To change the way we operate to accommodate how others feel.

As children this makes sense - it's essential for our survival.

But as adults, and especially in marriage, we want to cultivate the skill of internal validation. When you value, acknowledge and appreciate your own feelings, perspectives and needs, you become less co-dependent on your spouse to always agree with you.

A healthy, happy marriage requires TWO healthy, happy people. Mastering the skill of internal validation is one important way to create that.

Tune in to this episode as I break down the steps to doing so, and help you overcome the obstacles that have already been in your way.

Also mentioned in this episode:

The Well Made Woman - my 6 month group coaching program for women - is opening up for enrollment on November 20th for our January 2025 cohort. For all the details and to book an information call with me, visit: https://drchavonne.com/wmw/

If you've ever wondered "how do I communicate more effectively with my spouse"...then this podcast episode is for you.

I break down the hidden agenda behind this question, and help you determine what you true communication goals are.

You'll also learn the 3 essential components of effective communication, and what needs to happen in each category in order to your to truly be heard and understood.

This unique perspective will truly help you create the transformations necessary to improve the way you and your spouse communicate.

Also mentioned in this episode: The Well Made Woman Program is opening for enrollment on November 20th. This is my 6-month coaching program for women who want to become less reactive, and more effective in communicating and connecting with their spouse. You can learn more and book your initial program information call here: https://drchavonne.com/wmw/

What are your thoughts about your spouse? If I were to ask you to describe them on their worst day as a partner to you, what would you say?

Your answer is the Core Negative Image you have of them. It's the set of negative thoughts and beliefs you have that often you are responding to when you are angry, frustrated, sad or disappointed.

It's important to uncover these thoughts and to take a look at how they drive your energy, interactions and communication with your spouse.

In this episode, I break down WHERE these beliefs come from, and what you can do to reduce the negative impact they are having on your marriage.

Also mentioned in this episode: If you are ready to have objective and professional help for your marriage, so that you and your spouse can get along better and have a happier marriage, I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call with me to discuss my coaching programs and how I can help. Visit: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

How often do you sit and contemplate what's possible from a positive perspective?

Our brains are very good at asking the "what if" question when it comes to worry inducing thoughts.

In this episode of the podcast, I'm turning it upside down and introducing you to a powerful concept that will open your mind and accelerate your progress in creating more of what you want in your life and marriage.

You will learn the power of asking "what if" from the future you desire.

So much is possible for you.

But first, you've got to get your brain on board.

Tune in now for some incredible questions and the inspiration you need to grab on to what's truly possible for you.

And if this resonated with you and you're ready to start taking the steps to create a marriage that feels like a dream come true, I invite you to work with me in one of my coaching programs. Visit DrChavonne.com to learn more.

What you do, over and over again creates BIG gains. In how you feel, how you experience your marriage, and your overall life.

In this episode I share with you the concept of cumulative effect and why it's so important to create the healthy, happy marriage that you want.

It may seem like your day-to-day decisions to do the right and loving thing are slow in crating the BIG changes you want, but that's not necessarily the case.

Tune in to learn more about this power concept and what you can do right now to shift your mindset to appreciate exactly what it offers you and why it's so important in creating positive change for GOOD.

Also mentioned in this episode:

You can work with me directly in one of my coaching programs to create better communication and a closer connection week by week. You'll be amazed at how just shifting a few things in how you think and operate as a couple can produce massive improvements that you can tangibly feel and see. Book your complimentary consultation call with me HERE to talk more about what's possible for you with the right help and support.

What you do, over and over again creates BIG gains. In how you feel, how you experience your marriage, and your overall life.

In this episode I share with you the concept of cumulative effect and why it's so important to create the healthy, happy marriage that you want.

It may seem like your day-to-day decisions to do the right and loving thing are slow in crating the BIG changes you want, but that's not necessarily the case.

Tune in to learn more about this power concept and what you can do right now to shift your mindset to appreciate exactly what it offers you and why it's so important in creating positive change for GOOD.

Also mentioned in this episode:

You can work with me directly in one of my coaching programs to create better communication and a closer connection week by week. You'll be amazed at how just shifting a few things in how you think and operate as a couple can produce massive improvements that you can tangibly feel and see. Book your complimentary consultation call with me HERE to talk more about what's possible for you with the right help and support.

When a marriage experiences challenges, there are a set of predictable positions each person holds that create conflict, disconnection and dysfunction.

In this episode I'm taking you inside a concept I first learned about from world-renown couple's therapist Terry Real and sharing with you 4 common relational positions that perpetuate marital issues.

Knowing where you and your partner fall on each of these is incredibly important data to have in order to shift things in a more position direction.

The positive changes you are wanting to see start with an awareness of exactly where you keep getting stuck, followed by concrete steps to break your cycles, and create new healthier patterns of interacting.

As you listen to this episode, identify where you are, and where your partner falls.

Then I invite you to schedule a complimentary consultation call with me to learn more about the productive changes that can be made to move your marriage into one that is healthier, happier and more fulfilling.

You can book your call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

Have you ever considered how giving your spouse the benefit of the doubt can actually benefit YOU?

In this episode, I share with you the power concept of Benefit of the Doubt and talk you through why it will help you improve your marriage.

If you find yourself assuming and expecting the worst, this podcast will give point you in a more productive direction to experience more of what you want.

Also mentioned in this episode:

Work with me directly! There are a variety of options available for how you can have my direct help to support you and your spouse in improving your communication, reconnecting, and feeling like a united team.

Book a complimentary call with me here:https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

One of the most important distinctions you need to be able to make in your marriage is what is healthy vs. what is unhealthy.

So much unhappiness and conflict arises when one or both of you are operating from a relationally UNhealthy place.

In our episode today I'm breaking down the most common unhealthy dynamics I see - both those that I would considered "marital neglect" and those that I would define as "marital aggress".

When you clearly understand what is healthy and what is not, you are more able to see yourself, your marriage and your partner more clearly.

You understand what's yours to own and work on, vs. the work that belongs to them.

You also open the door to breaking some of the dysfunctional patterns you may have grown up with as a child.

Also mentioned in this episode:

New Masterclass: How to Create a Healthy, Happy Marriage that LASTS. Register for free here: https://drchavonne.com/hhm/

Book a complimentary consultation call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

Does your spouse sometimes feel like an enemy to you? Do you struggle to get on the same page about simple things? Find yourself always feeling like you are on the defensive with them? Does it feel like they look for ways to make things harder to you to get along?

If so, this episode will help you so much.

I'm breaking down the concept of the Enemy Mindset and how it's taking a toll on you and your marriage.

I also teach you a simple shift in your perspective to go from feeling like enemies to having more accurate and neutral thoughts about your spouse. This opens the door to you feeling better, and then ultimately having better interactions.

This episode will offer you relief for the heaviness and hardness of your marriage right now.

Also mentioned:

You can also work with me directly in one of my coaching programs and learn how to create a happier, more peaceful experience with your partner. I offer couples and individual coaching programs that teach you the mindset, skills and tools to have better communication and rekindle your loving connection. To schedule your call, visit: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

This one is a vulnerable and personal podcast about my own parenting challenges as my daughter enters her tween years. In several conversations I've had, I noticed the striking parallels between different seasons of the parenting relationship and different seasons of the marital relationship.

At the end of the day relationships are relationships are relationships.

As I've processed my own shifting dynamics as a parent, there are so many relevant lessons, take aways and helpful approaches that will support you in our own shifting dynamics with your spouse.

I walk you through a variety of valuable perspectives to help you navigate difficult moments with greater ease, and insight. I offer some specific tips and strategies you can use to keep yourself grounded and focused on the right things. I also help you understand some of your underlying fears and how to react differently to them.

Grab a coffee and let's connect with each other on this important conversation.

Mentioned in this Episode: If you're looking for help and support to improve how you and your spouse interact, and are ready to have an easier, more peaceful marriage, I invite you to book a private consultation with me where we will explore how my coaching program can give you the help and guidance you are looking for. BOOK YOUR CALL HERE

How do you lead yourself well in a challenging season of your marriage? What does it look like to still show up as your best, even when you are angry, hurt and upset? What are the standards you commit to holding yourself to, no matter what?

In today's podcast episode, we are diving into the topic of self leadership - showing up, doing what's right, with kindness, love and respect.

This concept is so important in order for you to create the experiences and positive changes that you want. Your ability to lead yourself well sets the tone for your marriage and can radically shift unhealthy patterns.

Today, I build upon two previous conversations I've had on this topic (see my YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@drchavonne) and you'll walk away with a deeper understanding of it's importance and some tangible next steps to create some positive momentum in the dynamics with your spouse.

And if you're ready to create a marriage where it's easy to talk to each other and you feel seen, understood, and on the same page, I invite you to book a private consultation call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

In this episode of the podcast we are having a sensitive conversation about the topics of grief, compassion and radical acceptance.

So many people struggle with what to do with their unmet expectations. The answer is to grieve.

So many people struggle with regret and shame for past choices. The answer is to have compassion.

So many people exhaust themselves trying to make their partner or marriage something different than what it is. The answer is to practice radical acceptance.

I break down each of these concepts today and show you what they mean and can look like for you in your marriage.

For more help and support moving things in a positive direction, I invite you to work with me privately in one of my coaching programs. To learn more and to book your complimentary consultation call, go to: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

We all have behaviors and actions we take that keep us from our goals. In marriage, there are likely things you have a habit of doing that keep you from experiencing the healthiest and happiest marriage possible.

In this episode of the podcast I break down some of the most common "bad" habits I see couples engage in. Underneath any behavior that keeps you from your goal is an underlying need. We will be discussing how to go beyond "will power" and "discipline" to change the foundation of how you operate so that forming more desirable and helpful habits becomes easier.

I walk you through a specific process for understanding "bad" behavior and leave you with a dose of inspiration to help you continue to do the work of creating positive shifts.

Also mentioned on this episode:

If you want to work with me inside of one of my coaching programs, I invite you to schedule a complimentary consultation. There you can share exactly what you want to work on, and I'll offer the exact process and support I can offer to help get you there.

Take the next step here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

In today's podcast, we are diving into the experience of being STUCK. So many people come to me feeling like they are not making the progress they want. And it's a long-term experience for them.

If you have this same experience it's important to identify exactly where you are stuck. There are 4 specific categories of "stuckness" to consider. Once you have more information about where the bottle neck is for yourself, then you have the roadmap for making positive changes that move you forward.

So whether you feel stuck with changes you want to make within yourself, confused about whether to stay in your marriage, or feel like you are at an impasse with your spouse on certain issues, this episode will give you the clarity you need to make progress.

If you'd like to learn more about my coaching programs and how I can support you in getting "unstuck", book a complimentary consultation with me here:

Does your life feel like groundhog day, where you're just going through the motions day in and day out with little that brings you joy?

Or maybe the troubles in your marriage weigh you down so much it's hard to find joy in the rest of your life.

If so, this episode is for you. We are diving into the topic of how to create a more fulfilling life.

No matter what circumstances you currently find yourself in, there is a perspective, way of thinking and being that can help you create more contentment and fulfillment.

You don't need to wait for things to change, or your spouse to change in order for YOU to have a life that feels good to you.

It just takes a commitment to following through on the process I outline for you in this episode.

So grab your pen and journal and get ready to do things differently so that you can feel great about yourself and your life.

Looking for some 1:1 support on creating your joy-filled and more fulfilling life? I have openings in my private coaching program. Your next step is to book a complimentary consultation call with me to get to know each other better and make sure it's a great fit.

GO HERE to schedule your call: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

When you read the words, Giving Up within the context of marriage, one idea may come to mind - ending the marriage.

But before a couple ever gets to that point, there are other decision points where the action is to give up.

In this podcast episode I break down the 3 most common ways I see people give up - on trying, on the process of help, and the marriage itself.

For each, I break down the mindset and circumstances that lead to giving up, and the specific questions you want to ask yourself to determine if giving up is the best option for you.

Giving up is often a last resort because it feels like no other options are working or will work. This is something that should be explored fully with help and support and through a process that will give you clarity instead of keeping you stuck.

If you are questioning if your marriage will work, and would like my help determining what to do next, I invite you to schedule a complimentary consultation call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

If you've ever wondered, what is marriage coaching, and exactly how does it work to improve a marriage, this episode is for you.

I share my own personal notes for how I move my clients from conflict and disconnection, to productive conversations and emotional closeness again.

There are 10 very specific, concrete skills, shifts, and approaches we take inside my couples coaching programs.

As you listen to me describe each one, assess in your own marriage, how well you are doing in these areas.

This IS the roadmap. There are no other steps needed to tangibly improve your marriage for good.

You'll have a crystal clear picture of what you could expect from coaching, and 10 huge things that will be better in your own marriage.

And to grab a spot to work with me now, schedule your initial consultation call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

We live in a day and age where having a safety response plan is essential. I'm taking this idea and concept and applying it to your emotional and relational safety as well.

In the podcast today we will be diving into the idea of a Trigger Response Plan - a set of steps you take when you are triggered that help you to process what's happening, understand what you need to feel better, and take the appropriate steps to resolve whatever has upset you.

Having a process to handle your triggers in marriage, or any relationship will do 6 very specific things for you. I break down each one so that you can truly experience the positive benefits of planning ahead for how you will treat yourself and your spouse when intense issues come up.

Also mentioned in this episode:

My private coaching program will help give you a step-by-step process of responding to any trigger you face. I provide you with several tools and approaches for handling triggers, managing your emotions and communicating effectively with your spouse so that you can feel happy, and close as a couple more often.

To learn more about how private coaching can help you, schedule a complimentary consultation call here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

Would you consider yourself a curious person? Do you approach conversations with a desire to learn, and with an open mind?

This is a superpower skills to bring to your marriage.

In this episode of the podcast, I share with you the difference being more curious can make in the communication with your spouse. If you find that your current discussions are filled with defensiveness and finger pointing, practicing more curiosity will create more understanding and vulnerable conversations.

I break down 5 steps to take to become a more curious person, as soon as your next conversation.

I'd love to know how this works for you, so please leave a comment and review!

Also mentioned in this episode;

If you are looking for professional support in your marriage right now, I invite you to schedule a complimentary consultation call with me. We'll talk about the issues you are facing, and I'll map out a very specific plan and process we will use inside one of my coaching programs. Schedule your call here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

Are you at a place where the attraction you feel towards your spouse has faded? You're not alone. This is a common issue so many people face.

In this episode of the podcast, I am breaking down exactly why this happens. It may seem like your spouse's appearance or their way of being is the reason you can't feel excited and attracted to them. But it's more than that.

Tune in to this episode to learn which of the 5 culprits of fading attraction are actually at play for you.

And if you are a woman who would love to feel more attracted to her spouse, have more positive thoughts about him, and feel excited and happy to be together, I invite you to join me inside my intimate group coaching program, The Well Made Woman.

There you'll get my direct support each week, and be surrounded by a community of other like-minded women who are working towards the same goals. You'll get to experience a safe, non-judgmental, and supportive environment to work through all those questions in your mind. You'll get effective guidance and strategies to help you get unstuck and feel like you are finally moving in the direction you WANT to go.

Learn more, and join here: DrChavonne.com/wmw

Anger. It's an emotion so many of us feel. And when I speak to women who are trying to address their anger, it usually involves blaming others. As human beings we are wired to protect ourselves by NOT looking inside to find answers. It's easier to look at what other people are or are not doing.

Yet, so often the REAL, CORE reason we feel anger in our lives has a lot to do with what I've defined as internal anger. The part of you that's angry at you.

In this episode of the podcast I dive into this concept and topic and provide some very specific examples of what it looks like to operate with internal anger.

When you can pinpoint the real and true source of your anger - you can actually shift it and then live a life that feels more authentic, at peace and enjoyable to you.

Tune into this episode and uncover where you might be angry at yourself and what to do about it.

Also mentioned in this episode: my new Well Made Woman Masterclass happening June 26th at 9pm EST. We will be diving into how to stop the cycle of self-sacrifice and instead start creating and implementing healthy boundaries in your life so you can be more at ease, relaxed and feel better.

Details can be found here: https://drchavonne.com/wmwm/

I wanted to make SURE your heard about my new Masterclass on June 26th. It's the Well Made Woman Masterclass and we are diving deep into how to stop self-sacrifice and how to implement healthy boundaries in your relationships and/or marriage.

If you find yourself feeling angry and resentful, and are ready to start taking better care of YOU, this is the masterclass that sets that in motion for you.

Get all the details, plus register for free here: https://drchavonne.com/wmwm/

This one hour will be an amazing gift and act of self love for yourself.

I'll be showing you EXACTLY what to do so you can actually implement those boundaries, honor your needs and still maintain a loving connection with those you love.

I look forward to seeing you there!

We live in a culture that would have us wear self-sacrifice like a badge of honor.

When we speak highly of others, it is usually touting how giving they are, how much they do for others, how they seem to accomplish so much.

Rarely do we hear accolades for how well a person took care of themselves, how they set healthy boundaries, how they prioritized their needs and goals.

Yet it is the latter that is associated with a greater sense of well-being, fulfillment, and happier, healthier relationships.

In today's episode, we're diving into the topic of self sacrifice - why we do it, the hidden benefits that keep us in this cycle, and 3 empowering questions that will radically change your perspective.

Also mentioned in this episode:

New Masterclass happening this month: Well Made Woman Masterclass: From Self Sacrifice to Healthy Boundaries CLICK HERE FOR DETAILS

Looking for my personal help addressing these and other issues creating stress and overwhelm in your life or marriage? Book a complimentary consultation call with me here.

As human beings, we are naturally curious and our mind will always want to ask the questions why. You can ask the question why in a way that empowers you or disempowers you.

In this podcast episode I am breaking down why it's so important to ask WHY, and sharing with you a process to help you use this question to motivate you to actually create what you want.

This is a powerful tool to shift your mindset, and to help you uncover the internal motivation that will best drive you to create more of what you want in your marriage and in your life.

And if you'd like more of my help to do this work effectively, I invite you to schedule a complimentary consultation call with me by visiting my website: DrChavonne.com

When you experience challenges in your life or marriage it can be easy to become hyper-focused on what's going wrong. Your brain will naturally want to ruminate on how bad things are, how disappointed you are feeling, and how unhappy your situation is making you.

However, the more you focus on what's going wrong, the more things go wrong. That's because your thoughts and beliefs direct your actions and responses.

In this episode, I'm sharing the power of focusing on what you WANT as the way to create positive shifts. The simple process of The Pivot will help you experience more contentment, happiness and fulfillment.

If you'd like to feel better and start having more positive experiences in your marriage and life overall, this podcast episode will give you the perspective and necessary steps to do that.

And if you are ready to have me as your coach guiding you through this work week by week, I invite you to schedule a complimentary consultation call with me by visiting my website: DrChavonne.com

One of the most important skills to develop toward the path of greater fulfillment in life is to be able to honor yourself.

Honoring yourself is a beautiful act of self love. It's you standing for you.

However, many people have the wrong idea of what this actually looks like.

In this episode of the podcast, I break down the 3 mistakes I see happen, that create unnecessary conflict and disconnection in your marriage.

I also leave you with 7 specific ways to honor yourself that are effective and come from a place of love and respect, which leads to healthier. happier relationships overall.

Also mentioned in this episode: I am accepting new coaching clients. If you're interested in working with me privately or one of my group coaching programs, visit my website at: DrChavonne.com

As human beings we are wired to judge. The idea of judgment helps us determine what is right and true for ourselves. It helps us discriminate and decide upon values, courses of action, and preferences. Inherently, it's not a bad thing.

But in marriage, judgment often shows up as making yourself right and the other person wrong. This leads to communication issues, disconnection and conflict.

In this episode, I'm tackling the topic of judgment, why it happens in the first place, as well as 4 specific and tangible benefits of releasing your judgment of each other. I also walk you through 3 steps to take in order to be less judgmental in your marriage towards your spouse.

If you are looking to feel better, enjoy the time you spend together, and ultimately create a happy, connected marriage, this episode is for you.

Also mentioned: Learn more about the ways to work with me and how my coaching approach can help you address any issues you are currently facing: DrChavonne.com

Emotions can be a BIG deal in your marriage.

Feeling angry, frustrated, sad or disappointed greatly influences the way you show up and interact with your spouse.

Many times, my clients experience such intense emotions that it's hard to get out of them and take the loving actions that will created connection and forward progress.

In this episode of the podcast, we dive into the experience of being "in your feelings" where you have an emotional block keeping you stuck in a state of conflict and disconnection.

I share the most common examples I see, why couples and individuals get stuck, and the 3 most important mindset shifts to help you move forward and actually create the loving, healthy connection you deeply desire.

Also mentioned in this episode:

Interested in learning more about the ways to work with me directly? Visit: DrChavonne.com

One of the most common questions I get asked is "what do you do when your spouse doesn't see the problems in your marriage?" Today I'm answering that question in detail with exactly what will help you move forward to have a better experience in your marriage.

Inside this episode you will understand WHY your spouse may have a blind spot, and how you can think about it in a way that leads to less frustration and disappointment, and actually helps you to connect with them and understand them better.

You'll also receive practical guidance for what you can do to get started creating positive shifts on your own.

At the end, you can expect your marriage to be better, or you will have the clarity you need to understand if your spouse is someone you can truly be happy with.

Tune in for this very real and honest conversation.

Also mentioned in this episode:

Communication Styles Masterclass - if you missed this value-packed training that outlined the 4 most common unhealthy communication styles and the 3 most important characeriistics of healthy communication, you can catch the replay here: https://drchavonne.com/communicationstylesreplay/

And if you want to have my direct help and support, walking you through the process shared in this podcast episode, I invite you to schedule a private consultation call with me where we will discuss options for how we can work together. Book your call here.

Do you and your spouse take a long time to recover from certain arguments?

In this podcast episode I'm diving into the topic of prolonged arguments - those times where one or both of you stay upset and in a state of conflict longer than you'd like.

There are 5 main reasons this happens and it's important you understand exactly WHAT is contributing to this dynamic in your own marriage.

I also share with you the three most important approaches that will help you repair quickly and get on to enjoying each other and feeling connected again.

Also mentioned in this episode: Communication Styles Masterclass happening May 1st at 9pm EST. Join me live to learn more about how your specific Communication Styles may be in conflict and leading to the arguments you have.

Register here: https://drchavonne.com/communication-styles/

If you find yourself having conversations with your spouse that leave you feeling frustrated, unheard, and misunderstood, this podcast episode will shed important light on what's been going on.

I'm diving into the most common examples of communication breakdowns I see in my coaching practice.

Understanding EXACTLY where things veer off course will give your the necessary information to actually course correct and ultimately have more productive conversations that move you forward together on the same page as a couple.

Also mentioned in this episode NEW MASTERCLASS: COMMUNICATION STYLES

This takes what is covered in this episode and shows you the mindset, assumptions and drivers of the way you and your spouse are uniquely communicating with each other.

If you want your communication to feel more easeful and effective, this is the masterclass that will show you what you need to pay more attention to.

Get all the details and sign up for free here: https://drchavonne.com/communication-styles/

In marriage, there will be things that trigger you. Your spouse will say or do something, and you have an intense emotional reaction. Reacting to triggers immediately can lead to arguments and conflict that spirals out of control.

When most people are triggered, their mind focused on all the things the OTHER person is doing wrong. But in this episode of the podcast, I'm sharing with you the benefits and opportunities for you to go INWARD when you are triggered.

I offer you the specific reasons this approach will help you move forward more positively, and ultimately lead to greater growth and peace for you.

And if you are looking for professional help and want to discuss working together in one of my coaching programs, please visit my website: DrChavonne.com

How do you deal with things when it's not what you want? From the small things like a wrong or delayed order, to bigger things like major disappointments in your marriage - the way you decide to handle situations matters.

In this episode of the podcast, I'm sharing both simple reminders and choice points you always have when things are not unfolding the way you would like.

This episode will help you assess how you are currently processing unmet expectations or frustrating circumstances and seasons in your life with a fresh and renewed perspective that can help you grow, feel better and more hopeful and move yourself forward in a more positive direction no matter what.

Also mentioned in this episode: If you are looking for professional support in your life or marriage, I invite you to sign up for one of my private or group coaching programs. I work with couples and individuals. Learn more at DrChavonne.com

Being busy is one of the most common distractions we use to keep us from truly connecting with ourselves.

We pack our days with too many things that are not important, stress us out, or cause us to stretch ourselves too thin.

One of the major reasons couples struggle in their relationship is a function of how much overwhelm they experience - often at their own hands.

There is a psychology behind being busy.

And learning how to break the addiction to always being on the go will improve your life in so many ways.

In this episode, I talk in depth about the value of doing less and lead you through a simple process to identify how you can give yourself more empty space in your life so that you can enjoy your life more.

Also, if you are ready to discuss working together, visit my website to schedule a consultation call: DrChavonne.com and learn more about private coaching, The Marriage UpGrade or The Well Made Woman.

If you'd like to solve some of your conflict for good, it's important that your get to the underlying core issues - these are the deeper needs, desires, values and expectations that drive you both,

Couples are in conflict because they are being driven by opposing core issues. When you understand this, and are clear about your specific underlying issues, the way you handle arguments, and disappointments changes dramatically.

In this episode, I share a process to help you uncover your underlying core issues. The five steps presented will help you have more awareness and insight into what's happening for you both, so you can get to the heart of the matter rather than continuing to have conflict that keeps you going around in circles.

Also mentioned in this episode:

The Marriage UpGrade - my 6 month couples coaching program to help you and your spouse come together to solve your issues, get on the same page, and move your marriage in the direction you want. For more information, go to DrChavonne.com

How often do you practice gratitude?

It's the one thing that will give you the perspective you need in order to feel better, solve your issues at a higher level, and move yourself forward in a more positive direction.

In this episode of the podcast, I"m diving deep into the process of gratitude and how you can use it as a power tool in your life.

Whether you're feeling blah, struggle with issues in your life or marriage, or just want to give your emotions a good boost, these principles for how to practice gratitude effectively will make a huge difference in your life.

And to learn more about my coaching programs and how we can work together directly, visit my website: DrChavonne.com

If you want your marriage to improve, it requires an identity shift. Usually in both of you. You have to go from a couple in conflict, to a couple that sees themselves as a united team.

In this episode of the podcast, I'm diving in to identity shifts. This episode airs on my actual birthday and I was reflecting on my identity this time last year, versus where I am this year.

WOW. What a difference.

Listen in as I share a simple process to create your own identity shifts and immediately step into more of what you want - not only in your marriage, but in every area of your life.

Also mentioned in this episode, The Marriage UpGrade, my signature 6-month coaching program for Christian P.O.W.E.R. Couples. To learn more visit my website DrChavonne.com and click Marriage UpGrade.

How often are you thinking about and moving in the direction of what you want?

Thinking about what you want is one of the most valuable uses of your time. When you focus on what you want, you give yourself the opportunity to create it. Your brain becomes more oriented to how it's possible vs. how it's not.

In this podcast episode, we are diving into the 5 steps that help you tap into the goals and desires you have for your marriage so you can actually make them a reality.

I also leave you with the most important daily habits that will help you create positive change faster and more effective than anything else.

Where were things in your marriage this time last year? Are they better, the same, or worse now?

So many couples find themselves stuck dealing with the same thoughts, feelings and issues.

In this episode of the podcast I talk through 4 questions you want to ask yourself to uncover and deeply understand why you are where you are.

This is a deep and profound conversation to have with yourself, and asking these 4 questions will help you see what's been happening and also what's possible for you moving forward.

I hope you walk away inspired and motivated to truly create the change you want to experience.

Pettiness in marriage. Even as adults, we can go there sometimes. It seems justified, but rarely leads to the type of communication and connection we truly want.

In this episode I'm breaking down the mindset of petty behavior, so you can understand why this way of showing up can sometimes be so tempting.

I also provide you with specific strategies to overcome any petty tendencies in your marriage and offer you the pathway to a more mature, vulnerable and healthy way of working through your issues.

Also mentioned in this episode:

Communication Masterclass Series - 5 full days of teaching and coaching to help you and your spouse stop arguing and communicate more easily. Sign up for this free Masterclass Series here: https://drchavonne.com/communication/

Whenever I am speaking on the topic of communication in your marriage, there are a series of questions that are commonly asked.

This week on the podcast, I'm answering them for you.

I dive into the following questions:

What to do when your spouse is super defensive
What to do when your spouse shuts down and refuses to talk about something
How to stop being so angry when you bring things to your spouse
What to do when your spouse is controlling your communication
How to stop finger pointing (policing each other)
How to de-escalate an argument

Tune in now to get the answers you need.

AND join me for my Communication Masterclass Series. This month, I'm hosting 5 Masterclasses all designed to help you and your spouse improve your communication.

All the details and free registration can be found here: https://drchavonne.com/communication/

Replays are available if you cannot join us live!

Your communication is the FOUNDATION of your marriage. If you can't communicate effectively, you can't connect. And if you can't connect you have two people essentially living separate lives.

In this episode, I have a special guest, and close coach friend, Julie Danielson join me for this co-podcast. Julie is a DIVORCE coach, yep you read that right. And the insight she shares about the communication breakdowns that were persistent issues in her clients previous marriages is enlightening.

In this episode, she shares 3 specific issues in communication, that when they are more the norm than the exception, completely erode the health of the marriage.

It is our hope that my sharing this information, you and your spouse can identify what might be breaking down in your own communication and get help NOW, before it's a crisis, or worse, before it's too late.

Mentioned in this Episode:

Get Over Divorce Podcast with Julie Danielson

The Marriage UpGrade - my 6-month couples coaching program to help you break the patterns of communication that damage your marriage, and replace them with positive communication approaches that bring you closer together.

Today we are talking about challenges - specifically, when you commit to a certain set of actions for a defined period of time in order to achieve an important goal.

Challenges can really support you in creating positive change in your life. And at this point in the year, you may have lost sight of a goal, or fallen out of the habits you are looking to change. This episode will give you the boost of motivation you need to get back on track.

I'm sharing 3 different types ways to do a challenge, and why they work so well to help you uplevel the way you show up to achieve what you want.

Marriage Challenges are an major component of my program, The Marriage UpGrade, and my clients are having massive success changing their patterns and becoming better partners to each other.

Tune in now and follow along to create your own challenge. You'll be so proud of who you become and the ways your life and marriage get better.

Also mentioned in this episode, The Marriage UpGrade is open for Pre-enrollment this week. This is my 6 month signature group coaching program for couples. If you are ready to stop arguing, recover quickly from conflict, and truly solve some of your long-standing issues for good, this is the program to help you. Learn more and sign up here: The Marriage UpGrade

One of the most commonly sited skills couples mention needing improvement in is LISTENING. They can recognize their mutual inability to truly listen to understand each other, and notice how often they are listening to PROVE their point.

In this episode of the podcast, we are diving into why this happens, and the specific steps you can take to become a better listener in your marriage.

When you both are practicing this work, you elevate your conversations and are able to be more productive and effective as a team.

Making decisions becomes so much easier. Expressing yourself and having your needs heard and understood becomes the new way of being.

I'm sharing with you the 5 most important steps to take so that you can increase your skill and have better communication in your marriage.

Also mentioned in this episode:

There are several ways I can support you in doing this work, having better communication, and improving the overall quality of your marriage. To learn about all your options for working with me directly, visit my website: drchavonne.com

We are tackling a tough topic today. What's normal? It's a question I get asked so often and while what's normal is in many ways subjective. However, in my conversations with many couples and individuals, there are some common things I see happening (or hear about happening) that are outside the normal range of what's healthy in a relationship.

In this episode, I break down the 5 most common not normal vs. normal behaviors and ways of interacting.

It is my hope that after listening, you have a better idea of things that can be improved, vs things that HAVE to improve in order for your marriage to be healthy, and ultimately thriving.

Let me know what you take away and how this conversation helps you in getting the reality check you may need today.

Also mentioned in this episode:

The Fresh Start Challenge - my 5-day video training series to help you reset your marriage, make important shifts, and set your communication and connection in a much better direction. It's free. Learn more and sign up here: https://drchavonne.com/fresh-start-2024/

Coaching with me - to learn about your options for private, individual, couple, and group coaching programs to help you feel better and create a better marriage, visit my website: drchavonne.com

One of the reasons couples have a hard time communicating is because they are not appropriately prepared for all the directions a conversation can go.

Often people come to me wanting to know how to handle certain situations that have happened and not gone well.

The key is to learn from what went wrong and to focus your energy on the most important aspects of creating a positive interaction.

Being prepared for anything requires you spend some time on the front end making decisions for how you will show up, rather than reacting negatively and then having to spend MORE time in frustration or trying to repair a broken connection.

In this podcast episode, I give you the process for how to be prepared for anything - any conversation, and any interaction with your partner.

There is a mindset you must adopt in addition to practical steps to take.

Tune in now to dive into both.

Mentioned in this episode: If you are looking for help to apply any of the skills we discussed, and are ready to improve your marriage, I invite you to work with me directly in one of my individual, group, private, or couples coaching programs. To learn more, visit DrChavonne.com

Happy Happy New Year!

This podcast episode is a great conversation to have with yourself if you have ANYTHING in your life or marriage you want to be different in 2024.

In it, I break down the 5 things you want to consider and think about in order to bring about lasting positive change.

I also share some of the things I am doing differently, and an important goal I have for my own life this year.

The freshness of a new year brings so many possibilities for newness. Tune in now to set yourself up for success.

Also mentioned in this episode:

Ready For Change Workshop, happening January 2nd and 9pm EST. Join me for this hands-on workshop where I'll walk you through a step-by-step process to create positive changes in your life and/or marriage this year. It's free to join and you can register here: https://drchavonne.com/change/

It's that time of year! That interesting week between Christmas and the New Year.

It's just quiet enough to reflect on what 2023 has been like, while also looking ahead to what you want in 2024.

In this podcast episode, I give you the opportunity to assess for yourself, if you are truly ready for change.

One of the reasons people find themselves stuck with the same issues year after year is because they embark on change in idea only.

They have not truly determined that they are ready to take on all that making significant change requires.

I also offer a process to get ready for change, and the 5 steps to actually making positive changes that last.

Tune in now to see where you land.

Also mentioned in this episode:

Ready for Change Masterclass - my all new and very hands-on workshop where I walk you through a process to reflect on 2023 and set yourself up to have a year of positive and long-lasting changes. Learn more and register here: https://drchavonne.com/change/

Today we are continuing to connect the dots between your childhood and your marriage.

Your formative years growing up in your family set the stage for so much about how you operate in relationships. This is the case for both you AND your spouse.

Understanding why you each think, react, and operate in various ways is so important.

When you can trace much of those things back to childhood, the issues you face become less personal. You have a perspective of greater understanding. That awareness and understanding opens the door to empowered CHOICE.

Because no matter what you learned in childhood, you can UNLEARN is now as an adult seeking to live a happy, fulfilling life and marriage.

In this episode, I break down 5 of the most important connections to make between your childhood upbringing and your marriage.

Tune in to learn more about the awareness you need, and the shifts you can make now to chart a new and better pathway for yourself and your marriage overall.

Also mentioned in this episode: There are several ways you can get my help and guidance to move yourself forward from any childhood experiences and learned ways of being that don't serve you now and how you want your life to be.

To learn more about working with me as a couple, or as an individual woman, visit my website: DrChavonne.com

Your childhood plays such an important role in how you experience and show up in your marriage.

Your relationship with your primary caretakers sets the stage and template for the expectations you have and how you become accustomed to feeling around others. More often than not, these early experiences become the patterns that you subconsciously replicate over and over again.

In this episode, I'm breaking down why understanding your childhood and having clarity on your specific attachment style is SO important in understanding the current dynamics in your marriage.

I briefly review what an attachment style is, and the 4 main attachment styles people typically fall into.

I discuss 5 very specific reasons why you must you understand your attachment style if you want to see and create real change in how you experience your marriage.

PLUS...I want to invite you to learn more and go deeper into not only uncovering your attachment style, but how to shift it so that you are more secure, confident and healthy in your marriage. I'm hosting a free pop-up Masterclass that's happening on Wednesday, December 13th at 9pm EST.

The details and registration link can be found directly on my website: DrChavonne.com

I look forward to seeing you there!

S E L F D O U B T

That twinge of, is this okay, or not?

Am I asking for too much or not?

Should I do this or not?

It's a very common issue I see a lot of women struggle with. It's something I've processed deeply in my own life and have so much insight to share with you on this podcast.

I break down the exact areas I see people (mostly us women) doubting themselves the most, as well as the factors that most contribute to experiences and periods of self doubt.

This is an issue that robs you of valuable time enjoying your life, and learning as you grow and evolve. The good news is you don't ever have to stay stuck in self-doubt.

I share with you a simple 3-step process to help you to always be able move yourself forward productively and confidently.

Mentioned in this episode:

Previous Podcasts:

Episode 151: 10 Things You Must Know About Yourself

Episode 163: Self Trust

Episode 188: Having Your Own Back

Well Made Woman Program - learn more about this 6 month group coaching program to help you live life more confidently and with intention and get clear on what you want and deserve in your marriage -> https://drchavonne.com/wmw/

Well Made Woman Experience - my recent 3-day workshop to help you build a joy-filled life, shift any limited thinking, and take better care of your emotional health -> https://drchavonne.com/3dayworkshop/

Marriage Coach Mondays - my free coaching call every Monday at 12noon EST. Simply dial 669-274-9890 and join to get any marriage related question answered.

Loneliness in marriage.

It's not a topic that gets talked about very much. It's more common than you think.

In this episode of the podcast I break down 8 different types of loneliness and and why they happen. It's important to narrow down to the specifics of your loneliness so you can start making positive progress more quickly.

I also share with you 4 specific questions to start answering for yourself so that you can navigate any lonely seasons in your life and marriage with a greater sense of well-being.

Also mentioned in this episode:

The Well Made Woman Experience - a 3-day workshop for women where you are supported in reclaiming your sense of identity, thinking more highly of yourself, and receiving tools to support you emotionally. This free workshop helps you be well from the inside out. It's happening November 28-30. Register here: https://drchavonne.com/3dayworkshop/

The Well Made Woman Program - an intimate 6-month group coaching program for ambitious women who are serious about their personal growth and emotional well-being. Enrollment is opening this week. Learn more and apply to join this program here: https://drchavonne.com/wmw/

Yes, you read that right! Just in time for the holidays, we are getting straight to it with people who get on your nerves. This episode is a GREAT listen for ANYONE who may encounter a friend, family member, or spouse who has a tendency to push ALLLLL your buttons.

There's so much to learn from the people who trigger us.

In this episode I am breaking down step-by-step exactly what you can do NOW to prepare yourself for more positive interactions and a greater sense of peace and calm when you spend time with people who are challenging for you - whether it's this week, or in the coming weeks of this holidays season.

Go ahead and SAVE this episode now, because you will want to come back to it again and again. It's also a GREAT one to share with anyone in your life you know struggles to get along with certain people they encounter over the holidays, or any time of year.

We are all human and it's ok if you have a hard time getting along with everyone.

Tune into this episode to understand more about what's going on for you AND this other person so you can consciously show up in a way that represents who you want to be.

Also mentioned in this episode:

Marriage Coach Mondays: We've got a few of these free coaching calls left. Simple meet me on the line every Monday until December 18th at 12noon EST. Dial 669-274-9890

Fight Free Holidays: This free, on-demand 3-part series will support you in having less conflict, and more enjoyment with your spouse this holiday season. Learn how to avoid unnecessary arguments, how to de-escalate tense conversations, and how to recover quickly if you do have an argument. Visit drchavonne.com to access this resource today.

How to Work with Me Directly: There are 4 ways to work with me in my coaching practice. Private Couples Coaching, Private Coaching for Women, The Marriage UpGrade, and The Well Made Woman. Visit drchavonne.com to learn more about each one, and schedule a consultation call with me to get the help and support you are looking for.

In this episode, we are picking up our conversation about getting on the same page. In Part I, I shared the mindset necessary to open you and your spouse up to being able to apply the approach and strategies I share in this episode.

Today, I'm sharing a 5-step process to help you have the conversation in a way that leaves you both feeling heard, respected, and valued for your opinions.

It's important to remember that getting on the same page about certain topics (parenting, finances, work-life balance) isn't necessarily a one-and-done conversation. It may take a period of experimenting and trying new things to finally land on a solution that genuinely works for you both.

Tune into this episode to hear more about the steps to take to get your process started in a more productive and effective way.

Also mentioned in this episode:

My practice is currently accepting new clients. If you would like my help and support getting on the same page, along with improving your communication overall, and becoming a close, connected couple again, I invite you to schedule a complimentary call with me by visiting my website: DrChavonne.com

And if you are a woman looking for marriage support on your own, this is also work I can support and guide you in doing. Learn more about my life and marriage coaching for woman by CLICKING HERE.

One of the most common issues couples struggle with is getting on the same page about important topics (money, parenting, work/life balance, etc).

The way to make massive progress in this area starts first with your mindset.

There are a set of thoughts and beliefs that make communicating with each other more difficult, or easier - even when you don't initially agree.

In this podcast episode I give you 5 specific mindset shifts to make in order to have better discussions when you are trying to get on the same page.

Making these shifts in your perspective completely changes the way you both show up to a conversation and helps you to make progress much faster.

If you have been stuck feeling on opposite sides of an issue, this episode will help bring you together.

This is just Part I. I give you a homework exercise to help prepare you for next weeks Episode where I'll break down the more tactical steps to take when discussing hot button issues you don't agree on.

Also mentioned in this episode: Marriage Coach Mondays is still happening. Join me for this free coaching call - conference style. Simply dial 669-274-9890 on Mondays at 12noon EST.

Self awareness brings choices.

When you can notice your tendency to do or think certain things, you now have the choice to move yourself in the direction that moves you forward or keeps you the same.

In this podcast episode, I offer 7 specific areas to examine where your commitment lies when it comes to your mindset about your marriage.

For each one, I encourage you to assess where you fall currently in terms of your commitment. Where are you spending most of your time and energy.

Whatever awareness comes up is a good thing and is pointing you in the direction you actually WANT to go.

Your commitments are what create the results in your life. Whatever you choose either intentionally or unintentionally will lead you toward progress or staying stuck.

Tune in to see where you land on the 7 most important topics.

Also mentioned in this episode:

Private coaching: If you are ready to take the steps to create a happier and more enjoyable experience in your marriage, I invite you to consider private coaching with me. To learn more and to book your complimentary consultation call, visit my website: DrChavonne.com

One of the greatest gifts you can give to yourself is deciding to have your own back.

This is where you consciously make the choice to take care of your emotions and operate from a place of love, grace, compassion, and understanding of yourself.

In marriage, there will be times when you will feel alone, rejected, dismissed or misunderstood by your spouse.

The solution is not to spend endless conversations trying to get them to understand you or change their perspective.

The most empowered, and peaceful place for you is to have your own back.

In this podcast episode, I dive deep into this topic and share the 5 most important times to have your own back.

Following this principal will help you avoid unnecessary arguments, days of feeling frustrated, and wasted energy trying to convince your partner to be different.

Tune in now and learn more about how to have your own back, and be a constant best friend to yourself.

Also mentioned in this episode:

Marriage Coach Mondays: Join me live for a public coaching call, each Monday (until Dec 18) at 12noon EST. Simply Dial: 669-274-9890

And if you are looking for professional help in your life or marriage right now, I invite you to schedule a complimentary consultation call with me. Visit DrChavonne.com to learn more and to book your time.

If it feels hard to talk to your spouse without them getting defensive, then this podcast episode is for you.

One of the most common questions I get it this: "What do you do when you spouse is so defensive every time you bring certain things up?"

I'm answering this question directly and sharing with you my 4-step Defensiveness Protocol for navigating this situation in your conversations.

You'll learn exactly how to think about your spouse's defensiveness in a way that leave you feeling less offended and frustrated.

You'll know how to respond to them better, and also how to address your needs that are likely not being heard in the moment.

This is an episode you will return to again and again.

Also mentioned in this episode:

Marriage Coach Mondays - my new 10-week free Marriage Coaching Call. Dial in directly and speak with me about any marriage related question and issue you want help with. It's a simple conference call, you can be anonymous, and get as much help as you need between now and December 18th. Meet me every Monday at 12noon EST and dial: 669-274-9890

Private coaching with me - if you, or you and your spouse would like support improving your communication, breaking unhealthy patterns of interacting, and reconnecting and feeling like a happy, close couple again, I can definitely help you. Schedule a complimentary consultation call with me to talk about working together in my 6-month highly supportive private coaching program. Details can be found here: DrChavonne.com

So many people struggle with feeling unheard and misunderstood in their marriage.

It's disappointing, discouraging and frustrating to bring issue and concerns to your spouse only to be met with defensiveness, or a dismissive attitude.

This podcast episode takes a deep dive into 6 main reasons why this is happening.

You'll uncover if there are specific things you could do differently to create a win-win conversation where both of you feel good about the interaction.

You'll also understand the things that may be going on with your spouse that prevent them from being able to hear you and respond with understanding, empathy and compassion.

Having this insights and awareness enables you to make the necessary adjustments and create a conversation that's helpful and healing instead of aggravating and contentious.

Tune in now to answer the important question of why you are not being heard.

Also mentioned in this episode: Private coaching is open. If you are ready to have more conversations where you are truly heard and understood, working with me in my private coaching program will get you there. I work with both couples and individual women to address the issues creating breakdowns in communication, and teach you new skills and habits that create more calm and peaceful discussions. Through my private coaching program, you'll feel better about yourself and the direction your marriage is headed.

To schedule a complimentary consultation call, visit my website: drchavonne.com

No matter what area of your life or marriage you'd like to improve, you will go through a predictable set of steps to making changes and then ultimately making the shifts your new reality. In this episode of the podcast, I break down what those steps are, what you can expect to experience and how to move yourself along with the right mindset.

You'll learn what keeps us from making positive changes in the first place, how looking toward your future self can help inspire action now, and how to set yourself up for success even when it feels like you are "failing."

If there is any area you want to be better or different in your life right now, this episode will give you the perspective you need to understand where you are, and to ultimately move yourself forward toward what you desire to create.

Also mentioned in this episode is my new Masterclass: Unbothered: How to be Less Reactive Toward Your Spouse. it's happening Wednesday, October 4th at 6pm EST. Sign up here for free: DrChavonne.com/unbothered

If you can't make it live, there will be a replay.

Every couple has a predictable pattern that leads them to become frustrated, disappointed, and disconnected from each other.

The more you understand your patterns the greater chance you have of truly changing them.

Inside my coaching program, The Marriage UpGrade, I teach my clients how to always identify their Disconnection Dance so that they can make the necessary adjustments in their actions to ultimately avoid arguments and remain in a more connected state with each other.

In this podcast episode, I'm sharing this concept with you. In addition, I will show you how to use the information you uncover about your own disconnection dance to heal the parts of yourself that are hurting so that your trigger moments with each other don't have to erode the closeness and enjoyment you want to experience.

Also mentioned in this episode is my new Masterclass: Unbothered: How to be Less Reactive Toward Your Partner. You can learn more about this Masterclass, and sign up for free here: https://drchavonne.com/unbothered/

Underneath every argument is a core issue that hasn't been addressed. The sooner you are able to identify what that is, the sooner you can get to the heart of the matter and spend less time debating the details of a situation.

In this podcast episode I share with you the 6 fundamental questions each of you is asking when you are in conflict. Your emotional needs are showing up as uncertainty in answering these questions. As a result, you push, pull, and try to control the situation to get your needs met and these core questions answered.

Understanding these 6 questions will help you to stop repeating the same patterns that keep you stuck, and help you to move forward.

Tune in now to uncover which one is driving your conflict so you can get the resolution you are truly looking for.

Also mentioned in this episode are several ways you can work with me to improve your communication and address the issues that keep you in conflict and disconnected as a couple. Visit DrChavonne.com to learn more about my private coaching options and my group program, The Marriage UpGrade.

Every person within a marriage has things about their spouse that bother them. It's to be expected.

The challenge is managing how you handle the common frustrations, annoyances, and aggravating things that come up for you.

Most conflict arises when you are not able to pause and reflect BEFORE reacting.

In this episode, I share with you 6 possible reasons you are bothered by certain things about your spouse.

Understanding these deeper issues will help you to be more empowered as you navigate trigger moments.

You'll be able to self-reflect before lashing out and creating a communication or connection breakdown.

You'll walk away from this episode understanding so much more about yourself, and what's actually happening when you feel bothered.

With this new insight, and your intentional effort to address what's happening for you FIRST, you'll be able to more calmly discuss any challenges in ways you partner can hear you and respond to more positively.

And if you would like to learn more about working with me directly, visit DrChavonne.com to learn more about my coaching programs.

A common issue I talk with people about is what to do when it seems like you are growing at a faster rate than your spouse.

You are more self aware, working through your triggers, showing up as a better partner.

Yet, it seems like your spouse is stuck with the same issues, reactions and mentality that made your marriage hard in the first place.

It can be confusing for what you should do.

Do you just need to be more patient?

Will they ever come around?

How can you find happiness with someone who's not moving in the same direction you are?

I address these common questions inside this podcast episode.

This is a conversation where we normalize different rates of growth and transformation because that's what happens in marriage.

You grow, evolve and change at different paces.

Tune in to find out why this happens, and more importantly, what you can do to keep yourself well and on track with your personal growth.

I'll break down 5 specific steps to take, and also leave you with a pep talk to encourage you to keep going with your inner work so that you have more peace and fulfillment as your spouse walks their own journey.

Mentioned in this episode: I have openings for private coaching, or my group program, The Marriage UpGrade. If you are ready to improve the quality of your marriage, or learn how to be less affected by your spouse, I'd love to support you.

Visit DrChavonne.com to take the next step and book a complimentary consultation call with me.

There will be times in your marriage and life where it feels like you don't know what to do. The choices and next steps feel overwhelming. You have resistance or confusion about how to get unstuck.

Don't believe the lie.

Confusion, and :"not knowing what to do" is just your brain''s way of protecting you and keeping you in the same place.

In my years of coaching so many clients, I find that most times, we are not confused and in fact know what to do. Yet there are obstacles and limiting beliefs that make if difficult to see a path forward.

In this episode, I break down exactly what those obstacles are, where they come from, and what they are trying to do.

I also share a specific process for moving yourself from a place of not knowing to a place of greater clarity and certainty in your next action or decision.

This is a great episode to help you move forward in your marriage or in any other area in life.

Also mentioned in this episode: My 6-month coaching program, The Marriage UpGrade, is re-opening for enrollment. If you still want to join the Fall 2023 Cohort, now is the time to get in. The doors are open this week only, and close on September 1st. To learn more, visit: https://marriageupgrade.drchavonne.com/

One of the quickest improvements my clients experience is being able to recover more quickly from an argument. They are able to reflect on what happened and reach out to each other in a loving way to make amends.

Recovering from arguments quickly gives you more time to enjoy with each other, and less time spent not talking, feeling frustrated and resentful.

If this is something you struggle with, this podcast episode will take you through a series of questions that help you to recover more quickly from an argument.

By answering the questions presented, here's what you'll get:

-a deeper understanding of why sometimes you might not be ready to move on from an argument, and how to know what you need to feel better

an honest look at the role you might have played in an argument, and how acknowledging your part can empower you to avoid the same pitfalls the next time

-clarity around what was disappointing in your interaction and why it bothered you so much so you can get your needs met

-a vulnerable way to express how you're feeling so you can create a heart-to-heart connection with your spouse

-motivation to communicate from a place of love for yourself and your partner so you can recover in self-honoring ways instead of people-pleasing just to move on.

This is an episode you can return back to time and time again after any difficult conversations.

Also mentioned in this episode is the opportunity to work with me directly. You can learn more about my private and group coaching programs here: drchavonne.com

Do you ever find yourself experiencing resistance when it comes to taking positive steps to improve your marriage?

You resist pausing before saying a hurtful comment to your spouse.

You resist reaching out to your spouse when you're feelings are hurt.

You resist expressing your love when it feels unreciprocated.

You resist taking a long look at yourself and how you are contributing to your issues.

You resist letting go of resentment and continue to hold a grudge.

These are normal experiences that many people go through.

There are a number of reasons you may be experiencing resistance right now.

In this podcast episode I break down the 7 most common reasons I see among my clients and give you some specific next steps to take to move yourself forward.

Tune in and learn:

-what resistance in marriage looks like and how to know if this is where you are

-the specific emotions you may be feeling that lead you to not take action

-how you see your partner as a cause of your resistance

-how past failure can often create resistance to trying again

-how your view of yourself can help you overcome resistance

-how to avoid shaming yourself if you can't find motivation right away

Staying stuck in a state of resistance will only keep you from experiencing the kind of marriage you truly want.

Understanding your resistance and having specific steps to take will help you move forward in a more positive direction.

Also mentioned in this episode: There are several ways you can work with me directly if you are looking for help in your marriage right now. Private coaching for couples, private coaching for individuals, and my group program, The Marriage UpGrade.

Learn more about the programs I offer here: drchavonne.com

If your brain takes off down the negative thinking rabbit hole, this episode is for you. We are diving into the topic of rumination. If you struggle with this, I want to offer your comfort and solutions.

Rumination is something to understand, have compassion for, and then gently redirect your mind to focus on thoughts that serve you and help you enjoy your life and marriage more.

In this episode, I dive into the 4 ways we ruminate, the specific reasons why it happens, and a 5 step process to address the rumination happening in your own mind.

And if you are looking for professional help in your life or marriage right now, I invite you to schedule a complimentary consultation with me. This is a call where we explore if working together is a good fit. You will share what you'd like to change and I'll detail the exact process I will use to support you in your goals. To book your call, CLICK HERE

The mom struggle is REAL. And for many of my clients, it hits a bit harder during these summer months.

If you are feeling at your wits end, and want to find ways to get more help and support as you do "all the things," this podcast episode will really resonate and offer some practical next steps.

First, we start with a pep talk to help you remember your value and just how great of a job you are doing as a mom.

Then we dive into the exact steps I walk myself through to address some of the inevitable imbalances of the domestic load we as women often face. It's part rant, part tough love and empowerment, and part perspective shifting.

Whether you are in the throws of motherhood and raising young children, or there are other overwhelming things falling off your plate, this is an episode you will want to return to again and again as well as share with one of your favorite mommy friends.

Mentioned in this episode: The Marriage Maintenance Guide - the perfect way for you and your partner to start a 2-way conversation about what's working and what's not working in your marriage right now.

Download it for FREE here: https://drchavonne.com/marriagemaintenance

There is not a couple I've ever spoken to who doesn't want better communication. The way you exchange ideas, express feelings, and examine your relationship is the backbone of your marriage.

In this episode, I'm sharing with you 3 very specific steps to take to create more calm and productive conversations. When you apply these steps and master them in your discussions, you'll find it so much easier to get on the same page, understand each other, and ultimately feel more connected and united as a couple.

Also mentioned in this episode is my couples coaching program, The Marriage UpGrade, which is open for enrollment now until July 31st. Inside this program you will take these three steps and get the support you need to work through any challenges and breakdowns in making them your automatic way of communicating.

To learn more, and to join (your last chance in 2023), visit: DrChavonne.com and click The Marriage UpGrade.

Sometimes making decisions together as a couple can be challenging.

You both come with your various perspectives and ideas.

Getting on the same page can take a long time, or not happen at all.

In this podcast episode, I'm sharing the mindset and steps to take in order to have more productive conversations when you and your spouse are making big decisions.

This episode was inspired by several conversations I've had with people who want to do one thing, yet their spouse is unsure or a bit hesitant.

Tune in to hear the 3 thoughts that must anchor you in your discussions, and exactly what to do, and what not to do when you have that decision-making conversation.

Whether you are trying to come to agreement on joining The Marriage UpGrade, or some other important matter in your life, this episode will guide you through a process that works to much better for you both.

Mentioned in this episode: The Marriage UpGrade, which is open for enrollment now until July 15th. If you are looking to argue less, feel closer, and enjoy more time being a happy, loving couple, this is the program that will get you there.

To learn more, and join, visit MarriageUpGrade.DrChavonne.com

I'd love to see you inside.

I'm delighted to introduce you to my clients Antonette and Sylvester (Sly) who are members of The Marriage UpGrade. They have been married for over 30 years, and have unlearned and re-learned so many new ways of operating as a couple.

Antonette and Sly initially joined the first cohort on the brink of divorce, and quickly gained hope as they got new tools and were able to open up the lines of communication with the help of the program.

You will get so much out of hearing their story. We talked about:

-how things built up over time and created disconnection in their marriage

-what helped Sly the most in deciding to join the program

-what they've learned and how each of them has changed over the past year

-how they make the program work for them, even with busy schedules

-why there is no age-limit to start working on your marriage, and what they are doing differently 30 years in

-the value of the group experience and what it's like to be with other couples

They are so vulnerable and honest about their marriage journey. It's an honor to also share it with you.

And...The Marriage UpGrade is officially open for Enrollment! Grab your spot by going here: https://marriageupgrade.drchavonne.com/

This week we are celebrating The Marriage UpGrade turning one with podcast interviews of clients who have gone through the program.

Today you will hear from Mark and Diana who initially joined the first cohort, and have continued in the program joining the second group.

My heart exploded as I listened to how much has changed for them.

Here's what we covered that I know you will find especially valuable:

-the immediate difference they saw with this program compared to spending several months with a couple's therapist

-how doing the inner work has been the secret to creating a better dynamic between them

-the three areas of communication that have experienced the most positive shifts

-how they went to contemplating separation to having breakthrough after breakthrough

-what helped release years of resentment to create a more loving connection

-how being in a group has exponentially helped them grow

-what they think of me as their life and marriage coach

I know you will use their story and success to fuel your own.

And to learn more about The Marriage UpGrade, visit my website: DrChavonne.com and join the VIP List.

In this episode of the podcast, you will hear directly from my clients Matthew and Mary about their experience inside The Marriage UpGrade. We are only 3 months in the program, and so much has happened for them personally and in their marriage.

We had an amazing conversation.

Here are some of the topics we explored that I know you will find valuable:

-the automatic shift that happened for Mary just in the act of signing up

-how things changed for them immediately when they joined the program and used the resources

-how Matthew went from dreading coming home to genuinely looking forward to the time with his family

-the question Mary has learned to ask herself that keeps her and Matthew out of arguing

-a pivotal conversation they were able to have during one of the Virtual Date Nights

-how one phrase they learned has helped them de-escalate conflict immediately

-what they love most about doing this work in a group environment

I hope their experience inspires you for what's possible for you.

And to learn more about The Marriage UpGrade, visit my website: DrChavonne.com and join the VIP List.

How well do you and your spouse travel together? For some, the idea of traveling brings up stress, frustration and annoyance. Your ideas of what the time together are very different, and communication lapses can create additional strain.

in this episode, I give you 5 rules to abide by as a couple. These ideas work well if you are traveling together as a couple, with your kids, visiting family or even having a long weekend together at home.

There is a certain mindset you have to adopt and certain practical things to make sure you do in order to have an enjoyable time together.

This episode is perfect as we gear up for summer travel, or it can be one you save and return to later the next time you are planning a trip together.

Also mentioned in this episode is my couples coaching program, The Marriage UpGrade. This 6 month program helps you and your spouse communicate better, both feel seen and heard, and connected in a deeper more meaningful way. If you would like to enjoy your time more as a happy, close couple, this is the program that will help you.

To learn more, and get on the VIP list to access an entire library of resources, videos, and communication guides, go to DrChavonne.com and click The Marriage UpGrade. Enrollment opens July 15th.

The beliefs you adopt about your spouse, your marriage, and yourself matter. They create a lens by which you see everything you experience.

Many times when I'm working with couples, they have biased perspectives. They hold on to disappointments and frustrations of the past, and bring them into their present-day interactions.

They focus on what their spouse is doing wrong rather than taking personal responsibility.

They stay stuck re-hashing the problem instead of focusing on solutions.

In this episode, I dive into each of these topics and share how and why they keep you stuck feeling annoyed, frustrated, and unhappy.

I share with you some solutions and new perspectives to adopt so that you are more open, and available to actually experiencing more of the marriage you want.

Also mentioned in this episode is The Marriage UpGrade, my signature couples coaching program to help you and your spouse get along better as a couple, improve your communication, and operate as a more united and collaborative team.

To learn more, visit: DrChavonne.com

Are you a good student? I've been contemplating what qualities and characteristics help people succeed at things they set out to do.

Being good at marriage requires you demonstrate many of the same qualities you do when you are being a good student.

I've often said that marriage is a school for becoming who you are meant to be in life.

It will require you are clear about what you want, that you have a plan for getting there, and that you use any challenges as the opportunity to grow.

Tune into this episode where I dive into how you can be good at marriage and enjoy the easy communication and deep connection you truly desire.

Also mentioned in this episode:

The Marriage UpGrade Waitlist is OPEN. You'll want to join it now.

Being on the waitlist has the following benefits:

-You get first access to joining TMU during this pre-enrollment period (now until June 30) before it sells out

-You get an exclusive pre-enrollment bonus of 4 private coaching calls with me

-You get immediate access to a private library of masterclasses, communication guides and marriage challenges you can use NOW to improve your communication and connection

To get on the Waitlist, visit: DrChavonne.com and click The Marriage UpGrade

Emotional regulation is one of those super skills that will help you improve your communication better than anything else.

Having better, more productive conversations is all about how well you and your spouse are able to keep yourselves calm and grounded.

When you are emotionally regulated, you are intentional about your words, and able to solve problems and issues on a higher level.

When you are emotionally regulated, you can create safety and both offer and receive constructive feedback in ways that bring you closer.

Tune into this episode where we take a deep dive into the concept of emotional regulation, what it looks like in marriage, and 4 specific ways you can start building your skills in this area.

Emotional regulation is a topic we go in depth on inside my couples coaching program, The Marriage UpGrade. You get the exact tools and guidance you need to be able to master this skill and improve your communication for good.

To learn more about The Marriage UpGrade, and how you can join the next cohort, visit DrChavonne.com

In this episode, I share with you 7 things I deeply believe as a result of all my years of studying and coaching couples on marriage related issues.

These 7 concepts and ideas are the most profound and transformative in truly creating the change you want to see.

Listen as I share with you the truths, insights, and ah-has that have helped me personally and my clients to create better marriages.

And to learn more about working with me directly, please visit my website at drchavonne.com

In most of the couples I work with, one person has a tendency to shut down in conflict. This creates a wall to connection and understanding. Shutting down, like any reactive behavior is a coping mechanism designed to protect you. However, it creates a block in moving your marriage forward in a better direction.

In today's episode, I'm breaking down the 4 most common reasons this happens, and offering you solutions to help you break this unhealthy pattern. We dive into the mindset with specific beliefs to adopt as well as some initial steps to start taking now so that you can open up the lines of communication and have more productive conversations and resolution to your issues.

This episode is a great listen whether you are the person who tends to shut down, or the person who is on the receiving end of the silence.

Also mentioned in this episode is a portion of a talk I did on "How to Be Less Reactive". You can listen to that HERE

And if you are looking for help and would like to work with me directly on communication issues, or any other topic that will create a better marriage, please visit my website: drchavonne.com to learn more about my individual and group coaching programs.

So many times when I'm talking with women, I see the ways they give up their power.

How limiting beliefs for what's possible in their life run the show.

What they have to settle for in their marriage because of their husband's issues.

How they are reacting to life instead of intentionally CREATING the life they want.

In this episode I share with you 5 key distinctions for women who decide on purpose to create a marriage + life they love, vs. women who accept the status quo.

If you feel the tug for something more in how you experience your life, this episode is definitely for you.

It will leave you inspired, and with an elevated perspective that supports you in living a life of intention, and a marriage that is more of what you want it to be.

Also mentioned in this episode:

The Well Made Woman Program is OPEN for enrollment. This is my 3-month coaching program just for women. In it you'll learn the mindset and skills to help you become more empowered in your life and marriage, so that you can take the actions that create the positive shifts you are looking for.

To learn more and to join the program, sign up for the interest list at: drchavonne.com/wmw-interest

Self trust is one of the most important skills you can develop.

I define it as the ability to have your own back. To know what you want and not doubt it. And to believe you are worthy and deserving of the BEST things in life.

It's something that many of us as women don't have enough of.

We spend too much time comparing ourselves to others, feeling bad about our lives and marriages, and finding all the ways we don't measure up.

In this podcast episode I talk about self srust, how having more self trust will improve your life, and 5 steps to get starting building your ability to trust yourself more.

In addition, I announce the opportunity to work with me this summer in my BRAND NEW PROGRAM - The Well Made Woman. This is a group coaching program just for women. To get all the details, go here: drchavonne.com/wmw-emails

Welcome back for Part 2 of the conversation we started last week.

Today we are diving into how to address each other 5 Dynamics that keep your marriage stuck.

You'll learn both mindset and specific strategies to help you overcome these obstacles that keep you and your partner from having better communication and a stronger connection.

As you listen, identify ONE area to focus on for the next week.

And if you're ready to work with me in private coaching, there are spots available for new clients. You'll learn how to take all of these tools and make them your new normal and have a marriage that works to much better. For more information, visit my website: drchavonne.com

In the work I do with couples, there are a few dynamics that predictably create issues. These ways of being and interacting with each other can ultimately lead to years of disconnection, resentment and take the marriage completely off course.

In this podcast episode, I break down exactly what those 5 common dynamics are and how to recognize if they are happening in your marriage.

This week in your marriage be on the lookout for how you and your partner may be falling into these negative patterns.

Then be ready to tune in next week where I give you solutions for how to correct these issues and put your marriage on a better trajectory.

Disappointment is inevitable in your marriage.

From a response that you didn't like to lack of follow-through, there will be plenty of times where your expectations are not met by your spouse.

In this week's episode, we are talking about the most common examples of disappointment I come across in my practice, why disappointment is so hard to deal with, and the three specific ways people react to disappointment that strain their relationship even more.

I provide you with a 6-step process to dealing with disappointment that helps you navigate this emotion in more positive and productive ways that honor your desires and bring you together as a couple.

Today I am taking you deep inside a coaching conversation inside The Marriage UpGrade Virtual Retreat. "What do you do when you know better, but you are still not doing better?" This is the essence of the question one of my brilliant clients asked this past weekend.

We talked through the idea of having self awareness of your triggers, yet still choosing to react in ways that are not helpful, and in fact, hurtful to your marriage.

In this episode, I break down why sometimes self-awareness is not enough to help you change your habits and patterns of interacting. There is someone else running the show in these moments.

I also give you 5 specific strategies you can use to increase your ability to over-ride your innate desire to lash out or shut down when in conflict with your spouse so that you can truly improve your communication and connection and have a better marriage.

Mentioned in this Episode:

Self Soothing Podcast Episode

The Marriage UpGrade Program

In this episode, I am taking you deep inside The Marriage UpGrade In Person Couples Retreat. If you've been wanting to know what it's like FOR REAL, this episode will give you all the juicy details.

You'll learn:

-the mindset I adopt when creating this experience for couples

-how I prioritize making it a comfortable experience for everyone (introverts and extroverts alike)

-the 6 specific principles that guide all of the exercises and activities we do

-the changes couples experience in their marriage/relationship over the course of the two days

-the 3 most important takeaways from this retreat and how you can apply these ah-has to your own marriage today

This is the perfect episode to share with your spouse or partner if they have questions and are wondering if joining The Marriage UpGrade is something they are comfortable doing.

And for any additional questions you might have, feel free to schedule a consultation call and speak with me directly about the program and couples retreat HERE.

If you've been interested in joining The Marriage UpGrade, and really want an insider's scoop on what it's like, this episode is for you.

I break down some of the juicy details of the first cohort including how many couples joined, the results they created in their marriage, the breakthroughs they got, and their overall impression of the program.

After listening to this episode, you'll have a much better understanding of what it's like being in this group, and how it will help you and your marriage.

This is episode 1 of a 3-part series where I provide an insider perspective on the program. Stay tuned for the next 2 episodes as well!

For more information about The Marriage UpGrade, visit my website: drchavonne.com

Details about the Fall 2023 Cohort will be coming out soon!

In this episode, we are diving into the topic of regret. This is an emotion and experience that comes up often in marriage.

Whether it’s from uncertainty in your match as a couple, hurtful words that are spoken in an argument, or times when you let yourself down, regret can flood in and create a lot of shame and guilt.

This episode will help you understand regret in a way that empowers you to grow instead of spiraling into negative thoughts about yourself, your spouse and your marriage.

I share specific steps you can take to turn any regret into a learning opportunity.

Tune in how and find relief from regret and uncover how this emotion is an amazing teacher to you.

How much of a friend are you to yourself? Which voices have more weight in your head- the negative self-critical ones, or the loving, kind, and understanding ones?

Which one you give more airtime to matters immensely.

In this episode, I define Self-Compassion and why it's so important for everyone embarking on any marriage improvement process.

I break down the 5 most common situations where self-compassion is ESSENTIAL and give you practical examples of what it looks like to choose self compassion instead of self loathing, or self-pity.

Self compassion is the most loving power move you can make for yourself.

Tune in to learn how to apply this skill to your own life and marriage today.

This is 46.

I recently celebrated my birthday and found myself conflicted at how to respond to the many text messages and calls from loved ones wishing me the happiest celebration.

I am so grateful for my life AND have also been surprised by how down my emotions have felt the past couples of days.

For many of us, we expect to "arrive" in our forties. To feel more confident and self assured. But less talked about are the feelings and thoughts we can experience that make us feel inadequate, uncertain and questioning who we are in this world - even in midlife.

Join me in this podcast episode where I share vulnerably what it's currently like for me in at 46. Like you, I have a human brain that offers me thoughts which create feelings and experiences like self-loathing, comparison, anxiety, body image issues, and inner child triggers.

I also share how I am navigating these issues in my life with both the specific mindset I had adopted and the specific steps I am taking to care for myself and my emotions.

No matter what your age, if you are struggling with any of these issues, you'll find this episode, extremely honest, relatable, and full of value as you walk through your own life.

Feeling annoyed with your spouse is a normal, common thing that all couples experience.

There is no shame in acknowledging and recognizing this.

The better you are at understanding and processing emotions like annoyance, frustration and irritation, the better you can deal with any trigger in your marriage.

In this episode, I’ll teach you my 5-step process that explicitly answers the question, “what do I do when I’m so annoyed with my spouse?”

You’ll walk away with a better understanding of the purpose of your annoyance, how it can serve you and your marriage, and how to respond to this feeling in ways that help you understand yourself better. Applying these steps will help you remain grounded and have more conversations that lead to productive resolutions that you feel good about.

Vulnerability is one of the most important skills to develop in order to have a deep and meaningful connection with your spouse.

The more vulnerable you are, the more you allow them to truly see, understand and accept you.

Yet, there are so many factors AGAINST us being vulnerable in marriage.

In this podcast episode I talk about why it's hard to be vulnerable, how to overcome those challenges, and offer some initial questions and steps to take in order to create more vulnerability in your marriage.

Being vulnerable start first with being honest, loving, and compassionate with yourself. When you are able to do this, you can be more vulnerable with less fear.

I also share vulnerably from my own heart something I am working on in my own life that I hope allows you to see just how human we ALL are.

If you are wanting a deeper connection in your marriage, where your conversations go beyond surface level topics, I invite you to consider working with me in one of my coaching programs. To learn more, go to my website: drchavonne.com

How well do you know yourself? It's an important question to consider. The degree to which you truly know, understand, and acknowledge yourself is an important factor in how satisfied you will be in your marriage.

When you deeply know yourself, you can live a life that is truly aligned and brings you fulfillment. You are less dependent on your spouse NEEDING to show up a certain way. Your emotions are more regulated and you are less likely to argue, lash out or shut down in conversations.

Knowing yourself is the key to being able to make the right requests, set boundaries, and communicate your feelings and needs.

It's a foundational skill in having a better marriage.

In this episode, I share with you the 10 Essential Things to Know About Yourself. Spend some time going through each one and rate yourself on how well you are doing. Then pick one to focus on for the week.

Mentioned in this episode:

The Values Exercise: CLICK HERE

The Marriage UpGrade: MarriageUpGrade.DrChavonne.com

Working with me in private coaching: DrChavonne.com

Today is Valentine’s Day.

No matter how you are feeling about your spouse and marriage today, I want to invite you to experience and lead with love.

On the podcast today, we are diving into the question, “what would love do?”

I share some of the most common situations and experiences couples encounter that make it difficult to lead with love in the traditional sense - being kind, loving, and reaching out to each other for connection.

If you struggle to lead with love when it feels like your spouse is not making an effort, is too critical, or dismissive of what you feel - then this episode will provide you with a valuable perspective that helps you make sense of your experience and honors your reality. I offer tangible, practical advice that makes navigating these situations so much easier for you.

I dive into the idea that leading yourself with love means you take exquisite care of your own emotions, process what you are feeling, and feel better within yourself first. When you do this, it becomes easier to open yourself up to understand your spouse, and ultimately focus on your goal of having a better marriage.

There is no better feeling in the world than love. I want you to experience it at higher and deeper levels, not only today, but every day. Use this episode to help you start doing that from the inside out. Join us inside The Marriage UpGrade to master it for the rest of your marriage: MarriageUpGrade.DrChavonne.com

This week on the podcast I’m sharing with you one of the tools I teach inside The Marriage UpGrade.

While we definitely want to get you to a place where you are arguing less, disagreements will still happen. Sometimes your emotions WILL get the best of you, and so knowing how to recover and repair is an essential skill for every couple.

Tune in as I break down what repairing really is and the MINDSET to make coming back together so much easier. In this episode, I offer the specific thoughts to practice and the exact thoughts that hold you back and keep you disconnected.

In this episode, I mentioned 10 specific reflection questions to use after any argument:

At what point did the conversation turn?
What was I thinking in that exact moment?
How was I feeling? What did it feel like in my body?
What specifically did I react to? What bothered me most about what my spouse did or said?
What thought about my spouse did I form in that moment? How did I choose to see them?
What did I forget to keep in mind that would have helped the situation?
What could I have done differently to avoid having the argument?
What would I have liked for my spouse to have done differently?
If I were to rewind things, and come from a place of love, openness and compassion, what would I say to my spouse? What would I say to myself?
What is a lesson learned that I will take with me into the next conversation?

There's still time to register for my free Masterclass, How to Talk Without Arguing on February 9th at 9pm EST. To learn more and sign up, go here:

https://drchavonne.com/talk/

To master this skill, and spend less time giving each other the silent treatment, join me inside The Marriage UpGrade. Enrollment opens February 12-15th. Don’t miss your chance to get the skills and support necessary to keep your marriage in a good place. Sign up here: marriageupgrade.drchavonne.com

In the moments when you and your spouse argue, you are getting that short term relief. You have the last word. You get your point across. You hammer in on what they are doing wrong.

But have you ever considered the lasting impact of your arguing?

In this podcast episode I’m sharing the 5 unintended consequences of arguing with each other.

I define the 3 types of arguing I see most commonly in my practice, and then walk you through the long-term effects that your arguments are having on your marriage, your family, and your well-being.

In this episode, I also invite you to attend my free Masterclass: How to Talk Without Arguing happening February 9th at 9pm EST. For details and to register, visit: drchavonne.com/talk

Over time, a lot of negative thoughts can accumulate about your spouse. And just like the trash that needs to be taken out regularly, your mind needs to be cleared of the stinky thoughts you have about each other.

In this podcast episode, I share with you the process I teach my clients inside The Marriage UpGrade, that helps them to see each other in a more positive light.

You'll also learn about the Balanced Thinking concept, and exactly how you can apply this idea to a real scenario in your marriage this week. When you are able to do so, you become more grounded and calm, and the conversations you have go better and end on a more positive note.

If you want to be less frustrated and annoyed with your spouse, and be able to have more satisfying interactions, this podcast is a MUST listen.

And mark your calendars! Doors to The Marriage UpGrade are opening February 12th. You'll want to get in as soon as you can. Space for the in-person retreat is limited and you don't want to miss out.

Details can be found here: MarriageUpgrade.DrChavonne.com

A fresh start in your marriage can happen whenever you DECIDE it does.

In this episode I share what fresh starts are, what holds us back, and how you can create positive shifts in your marriage today.

What kind of marriage do you want to have?

It can start now.

This podcast will help you remove whatever is holding you back.

I also invite you to guarantee a noticeable difference in your marriage joining my Fresh Start Challenge for free: https://drchavonne.com/fresh-start-2023/

What if this was the year that you go the marriage you wanted?

I will show you how in a 5-step process called the Having What You Want Formula.

In this episode, I break down how to identify what matters to you, what it looks like for you to create it, uncovering the obstacles currently in your way, how to be decisive and committed and how to take consistent, persistent action.

If there's anything you want in your marriage, this episode will give you the road map to getting it.

Ready to have me as your personal coach?

Join my program, The Marriage UpGrade: marriageupgrade.drchavonne.com

Or schedule a consultation call to discuss private coaching HERE.

It's Christmas Week! Let me wish you and yours a happy, healthy, holiday season.

In this episode, I'm giving you exclusive content I shared at the recent Happiest Holiday Event I hosted inside The Marriage UpGrade.

You'll learn the 5 most important steps for enjoying this holiday season MORE as a couple.

Tune in, grab a notebook and pen and most importantly, APPLY what I share. It really will make such a difference in the dynamic between you and your spouse.

For more information about The Marriage UpGrade, visit my website: DrChavonne.com

There are a certain set of things that stand in the way of you having the kind of marriage you want. Most often, we look at our spouse as being the main obstacle. In this episode we take a deep dive into looking at the things within ourselves that might be affecting our relationships.

I share with you 5 specific internal obstacles that you want to explore and start working on. Making progress in these 5 areas will make conversations with your spouse much more productive, and create an opening for deeper and more meaningful connection.

Mentioned in this episode: The Marriage UpGrade - my 6-month couples coaching program created to help you improve your communication and reconnect as a couple. Early enrollment is open until December 15, 2022. To sign up, visit: https://marriageupgrade.drchavonne.com/

As humans living in the real world in front of us, it's sometimes hard to imagine things that are not our reality. Yet, believing in the possibility of something you don't see yet is exactly what's required to help you create it.

In this episode we are diving into the topic of seeing beyond what's currently happening in your marriage.

I'll offer some perspective and specific tools you can use to give you more hope and belief that what you want is possible.

Also mentioned in this episode is my couples coaching program, The Marriage UpGrade. There you AND your spouse will learn the mindset, beliefs, and thoughts you can start thinking on PURPOSE so that you show up better for each other and the marriage you want. To learn more and to sign up, go here: MarriageUpGrade.DrChavonne.com

Do you have the thought, "my spouse is not making any effort?"

If so, this podcast episode is for YOU.

I'll share with you the specific 5 reasons you are having this belief and exactly what to do about it.

Brace yourself, because this is a loving wake up call.

This is an unhelpful thought pattern that snowballs on itself to create more disappointment, frustration and disconnection.

Part of the process of loving your marriage again includes eliminating the thinking that keeps you stuck, assuming the worst about each other, and collecting a list of all that's not working.

This episode will help you do just that.

Today we are diving into the topic of having an ALL IN Mentality for your marriage.

This is one of the key differences between couples who make the improvements they want in their marriage, versus couples who stay stuck or ultimately separate.

When you have an ALL IN Mentality, you approach your challenges from a different perspective. You see them as learning and growth opportunities.

You keep going, even when it's hard. You get the help you need, even if it feels a bit vulnerable.

Listen in as I show you what happens when you are willing to go all in, and the results you can expect to come to you.

Also mentioned in this episode:

The Marriage UpGrade - my 6 month coaching program to help you and your spouse improve your communication, connect more deeply, operate as a better team, and increase your physical intimacy. Learn more here: MarriageUpGrade.DrChavonne.com

What do you WANT? Have you ever stopped and really answered that question when it comes to your marriage. Whenever I pose this to clients, they tell me what they DON'T want, which is a tale-tell sign they are focusing on what's negative.

One of the greatest skills you can develop in the journey to make your marriage better is to focus on what you want. To keep the goal right in front of you always.

In this podcast episode, I share with you exactly why you have a hard time articulating what you want, and provide you with some practical steps to help you start getting clear.

If you want to take this work deeper, I invite you to work with me inside The Marriage UpGrade. Learn more at my website: DrChavonne.com

Have you ever considered that your marriage is a living, breathing entity that needs you and your spouse to care for it? This is a perspective I teach - where you start thinking about caring for your marriage just as you would a newborn baby. In this episode I break down the 5 areas you need to focus on - why each is so important to the health of your precious marriage, and the specific questions you need to start asking yourself.

I also share more about The Marriage UpGrade and how you can get starting caring for your marriage in a much more intentional and elevated way. To learn more and to sign up for Cohort 2, visit this site: MarriageUpGrade.DrChavonne.com

Tune in to this episode where I introduce the concept of Spouse Sabotage. There are known and hidden ways you are thinking about your spouse that create the image of them being your enemy instead of someone you are on a team with. As a result of the way you think about them, you show up a certain way. Ultimately, this is the model or operating system that's creating your current results.

The human brain will always find what's not working and the ways your spouse is letting you down. Today we will be breaking down all the ways that happens. I'll also be sharing 3 specific tools and strategies you can use to keep you OUT of this habit.

If you'd like help and support managing your mind about your spouse so that your interactions can be better, I invite you to work with me directly and master this process. For more information you can visit my website: DrChavonne.com

In this training replay, I share with you my top 3 tips for addressing communication breakdowns, lack of connection, not being on the same page, and lack of physical intimacy.

Get straight to the point, honest advice about what you and your spouse need to start doing differently in order to have a better marriage.

Ready to join The Marriage UpGrade? Now is the time.

The marriage you want is truly possible for you if you both put in the work to create it.

I am here to support you in doing that with a process that works.

Join us here: DrChavonne

What if you could guarantee the success of your marriage?

What if the kind of changes you want to see were actually inevitable?

I think they are, and inside this episode, I show you how and why.

You'll learn the exact mindset necessary to create the successful and happy marriage you want. You'll learn how to actually measure progress in a way that motivates you to keep going. You'll understand the specific steps you need to take when things fall off track.

If there was any episode that will help you and your spouse make progress in new ways, this is IT.

Tune in now and get the perspective that will make all the difference.

And if you want to guarantee your success inside of The Marriage UpGrade, I invite you to enroll today. This 6-month coaching program will give you the guidance, tools, and support you need to break through the areas where you are stuck and FINALLY solve your marriage issues for good.

For details and to join, go here: DrChavonne.com

Enrollment ends July 29th, 2022.

In this training replay, we are diving into the topic of what really creates change in your marriage.

So many couples are trying to make their marriage better. They are having all the conversations. They are setting the plans and coming to new agreements. Only after a few weeks they find themselves right back to where they were before.

In this episode, I teach you about the most important factor in creating long-term change in your marriage - your IDENTITY.

The way you and your spouse are operating is a function of how you think about and see yourselves. So before any behavior changes can truly take root, we've got to aligns your identity to match.

Tune in and learn this little known secret that really will create the shifts you want to see.

If you LOVE this content and find that it's super helpful for what you are dealing with, join me inside The Marriage UpGrade. This is my 6-month coaching program that will help you improve your communication, connection, unity, and intimacy.

For more information, go here: DrChavonne.com

Enrollment ends July 29, 2022.

In this episode we are diving into the topic of Boundaries. In marriage, it's so important that you protect your relationship.

There are external boundaries - things outside the marriage that can help or harm your progress,

And things within the marriage - internal boundaries - that can help or harm your progress.

You'll learn exactly what these are and how they show up in your marriage as well as what to do to create a stronger container for your marriage to thrive.

If you find this information helpful and want to be part of a great environment for your marriage to thrive, I encourage you to join The Marriage UpGrade.

You'll work on the thing within each of you that need to change for your marriage to grow, and be surrounded by a community of other couples who are likeminded and working on the same goals with you.

To learn more and to enroll, please visit my website: DrChavonne.com and see the tab "The Marriage UpGrade."

Enrollment is open until July 29th, 2022.

You are in for a treat over the next few episodes.

In conjunction with the launch of my new coaching program, The Marriage UpGrade, I hosted a series of live trainings on the topics I know will be most valuable for you.

I'm releasing those training recordings in BONUS episodes.

Today, we are talking all about How to Get on The Same Page. This is a hot topic a lot of couples struggle with, and I know the perspective, mindset, and tools I offer in this training will help you and your spouse finally move forward in this area.

If you find this information helpful and want to take this work deeper so you can apply it and change your marriage for good, I invite you to join me inside The Marriage UpGrade, which is currently open for enrollment, now until July 29th.

Go to DrChavonne.com and click The Marriage UpGrade tab to learn more and to sign up today.

In this training replay you will learn all about the concept of The Finnish Line Mentality.

This is literally one of the MOST important concepts I teach.

Everything you create in life has to have a clear vision of what you want.

You have to spend time focused on the goals you have for the FUTURE, more than the disappointments of your PAST.

I dive deep into this concept because it is the difference maker for couples who create the kind of marriage they want, vs. couples who stay stuck in a marriage that feels disappointing.

Having a finish line mentality will help you to overcome any argument, tension, distance, or frustration in your marriage. It's always guiding you as a North Star.

This is something you will master inside The Marriage UpGrade, my new coaching program for couples.

To learn more about this work, and how it can help you, visit my website: DrChavonne.com

Enrollment is open until July 29, 2022.

Today we are talking about JOY and why it's so important to improving the experience you have in your marriage.

The joy and happiness you feel is totally under your control. In this episode I break down the critical elements to consider as you make your own intentional plan for more joy in your life.

You emotional wellness and well-being has a huge impact on how you interact with your spouse and how you see your marriage.

The Joy Plan concept will give you an instant upgrade.

And if you want to know more about working with me in my new group coaching program, definitely join me for THE LAUNCH PARTY. This is THE event for couples who want to improve their marriage in a powerful way that also incorporates more fun and joy.

For details and to RSVP YES, go to: https://drchavonne.com/launchparty/

See you there!

One thing most couples are not prepared for is how to navigate their differences, especially around topics that are very important to them.

In this episode, I'll share why that is, how dating sometimes sets you up for having the wrong expectations, and most importantly, how to work through the differences that might feel very hard for you.

In this episode, you'll learn:

-how your negative beliefs about each other make working through your differences harder

-how to normalize your differences and see that all couples experience many of the same things

-how to identify the right problem to be solved and stop blaming each other

-how to be more empowered in standing for the things that matter most to you

Tune in and be sure you are subscribed so you don't miss a thing.

In this episode, I also share information about my upcoming Launch Party in honor of my new group coaching program. You can get the details and register to attend this exclusive event by going to my website: drchavonne.com/launchparty

The experience you have in your marriage is based on three perspectives and in today's podcast episode, I'll break down exactly what they are.

There are a certain set of beliefs that most people have when it comes to these three "sides" of the triangle and they cause frustration, disappointment, and unhappiness. But when you are able to shift your perspective and find new ways of seeing things that serve you and the kind of marriage you want to create, everything changes.

Perception really is reality. And today, I'll take you through how to start creating a new and better reality in your marriage by focusing on three specific types of thoughts.

Marriage is spiritual. I think it's something we all know, but don't always access the full range of resources available to us on a spiritual level to ensure our marriage thrive.

In this episode we are diving into the spiritual side of things and discussing how many of the things we need to do in order to have healthy marriages defy our natural human tendencies. I share how tapping into the power available to us from God helps us overcome our own roadblocks to loving each other well.

I offer specific ways to incorporate spirituality into your marriage so that you and your spouse improve the experience you have with each other.

If you are ready to elevate how you show up, and the experience you have in your marriage, this episode is for you.

So many exciting updates on the podcast today. Be sure that you are plugged in to me at drchavonne.com or on IG @chavonneperotte

On this episode we are talking all about the purpose of marriage. How you define what marriage is about drives everything about how you show up.

I offer a perspective on marriage that will massively inform your goals, how you see yourself and your spouse. The way you see the purpose of marriage also significantly influences how you experience happiness and fulfillment.

Tune in now to get yourself grounded in your purpose driven marriage now.

We live in a world where it's not the norm to celebrate yourself. We worry about appearing "too much" or offending someone by doing big, amazing things for ourselves. But the degree to which you are able to love and celebrate yourself is the degree to which you can receive that from others.

In this episode, I'm sharing more on the concept of celebrating yourself, why it's so important, and the impact it has on your marriage. I leave you with specific ways you can start incorporating this practice now.

I recently celebrated my birthday in a big way and give you the inside scoop into what that experience was like for me.

I also want to invite you to join me for a new Masterclass I'm hosting Sunday, April 3rd at 8pm EST. It's called Happy Again. It' all about tapping into your own personal happiness as a strategy for improving your marriage.

Register for free here: https://drchavonne.com/happy-again/

In marriage, you will have communication breakdowns. They look differently for each couple, but it's not necessarily a sign that something is going horribly wrong.

In this podcast episode, I break down the most common forms of communication breakdowns and share with you the reasons why they happen.

I also provide you with a shift in perspective that will dramatically improve the way you handle and recover from communication breakdowns. You'll walk away with 3 specific things to think about in a new way so that you create more connection rather than distance in your marriage.

And if you are looking for more help applying this work and are ready to have my help through private coaching, reach out and schedule an initial call with me. Visit drhavonne.com/work-with-me to book your appointment.

Today we are talking all about Fresh Starts! You can create a fresh start whenever you want. The only thing that's required is a desire for things to be different.

In this episode I'm sharing with you my perspective on what it takes to create a fresh start in your marriage.

And to walk out these steps in creating desired shifts in your own marriage, sign up for my new Fresh Start Challenge by going to drchavonne.com/fresh-start-2022.

I am excited to share with you a really fun, powerful, and eye-opening conversation that took place a few months ago at the Millennial Marriage Toolkit Summit hosted by fellow marriage coach Shivonne Davis.

This was a deeply soul-stirring interview where we talked about God, marriage, and where I shared some life coaching tools along with Christian faith principles that you can use to improve your marriage and love each other well.

In this episode we discuss:

How to love WELL
The mindset of great communication
Two things that kill communication
How to walk through the discomfort of negative emotions
How to get to a deep intimate space in your marriage

Ready to sharpen your marriage so that it can get restored to its original intent? This conversation will definitely bring you some clarity on how to do that. Press play to learn more.

Are you loving this 3 part training on fight-free holiday? I had a wonderful time presenting this information to you and I know that you were able to gain some valuable insight that you can utilize to make this holiday season fight-free.

If you've been following along, day one was all about how to avoid arguments in the first place. Day two, we talked about how to de-escalate arguments, when you're in the middle of a conversation that's going down a road you don't want it to and today we are wrapping up with a discussion about how to recover after a conversation goes wrong.

I want to offer you that no one of those three things is better than the other. It's not necessarily better to avoid arguments or to prevent intense conversations from turning into arguments, or recovering. They're all equally valuable and important strategies to help you make your marriage better.

And so in this episode, I will share with you five points as it relates to the mindset of recovering because there is a certain way that you have to think about tense moments or difficult conversations or arguments that will help you recover well. Specifically, you will learn to think of these experiences as…

Just a moment in time
A learning opportunity
A forward-moving journey
An opportunity for a deeper connection

Press play now to learn more about how to actually recover after a conversation goes wrong.

Today we are continuing with Part 2 of our Fight-Free Holiday training and discussing how to de-escalate arguments.

It’s impossible to never have a disagreement. That’s not even the goal.

But when you do find your conversations veering off track, and you want to end on a good note, this episode will show you exactly what to do.

De-escalating arguments requires a different skill set than avoiding arguments.

That’s because there is actually a certain mindset that creates arguments in the first place.

In this episode you will learn:

the 4 thoughts that drive you to create arguments
specific strategies to use so that you calm yourself down during a heated discussion
how to end on a good note, or pause the conversation and come back when you can both talk more calmly.

There are a lot of gems in this episode, I encourage you to grab a pen and a notebook so you can jot down these nuggets and laser in on the one strategy that you will apply in your marriage.

This is my absolute favorite time of the year. The period between Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year is a time of major celebration for me and my family but I also recognize that while the holidays may be the most wonderful time of the year for some, that's not necessarily true when it comes to relationships.

When you're already struggling in your marriage, it can be a challenging time during the holiday season where you have the gatherings and additional time together than you might during other parts of the year, which can create a lot more opportunities for conflict and issues. And so in honor of this time of year, I want to provide you with an amazing resource that I created that will help you get through the holidays, fight free.

In this episode, we are going to discuss avoiding arguments in the first place. I'm sure all of us would like to have many fewer arguments or difficult conversations that don't end well. Specifically, you’ll learn:

How emotionally reactive are you, scale of one to 10
How to value your partner's perspective as much as your own
How to look at the positive in your communication with your spouse
Consider that there are multiple solutions that take both of you to figure out
How to tolerate negative emotions and not use them as an act of war

I encourage you to grab a pen and a notebook so you can jot down these nuggets and laser in on what is most applicable and relevant for you.

In general, a trigger is anything including memories, experiences, or events that sparks an intense emotional reaction, regardless of your current mood. On any given day, you probably experience a range of emotions such as excitement, unease, frustration, joy, disappointment. Your response to these events can vary based on your frame of mind and the circumstances surrounding the situation.

In marriage, a trigger is defined as an intense reaction to anything your spouse says or does. These triggers are usually there to teach us something, however, we don't pause to learn what the trigger is teaching us. Instead, it usually leads to us overreacting and arguments. That's why knowing what your triggers are and how to deal with them at the moment is important.

In this episode of the podcast, I share five steps you can use to handle your triggers at the moment and avoid tension in your marriage.

One of the greatest human needs is to connect. To be seen, heard, and known by a person you care about deeply.

When couples can’t connect, they experience communication breakdowns, unnecessary arguments, they don’t operate as a team, and they feel lonely.

However, men and women are wired to connect differently, and these differences are often misunderstood. Knowing and accepting these differences helps you to work with them instead of against them.

In this episode of the podcast, I share the steps to creating the kind of connection you want in your marriage. Specifically, you’ll learn:

the most important step in creating a deeper, more vulnerable connection
why it feels hard to connect with your spouse in ways you prefer
what you may be missing in your current level of connection
why starting small will create massive breakthroughs
the one habit you may have that’s making connecting with each other harder

If you’ve been struggling to connect and feel like your marriage operates on a surface level, this episode will really help you make progress.

Being married is the bringing together of two completely different people with two completely different ways of thinking, being, and operating in the world. There will be times when you don’t understand or agree with your spouse. In those moments, it is human nature to judge the other person as wrong. But judging each other only leads to conflict, tension, and distance - the exact things you DON’T want in your marriage.

In this podcast episode, we are tackling the topic of judgment. Here’s what you will learn:

what your exact judgment cycle looks like and the dance you and your partner are unconsciously doing with each other
the reasons behind your judgment of each other, and why you fall into the habit of judging each other
the specific ways judgment creeps in your marriage and creates a more undesirable experience for you both
the 5 most important personal shifts you each need to make in order to lessen the impact of judgmental tendencies.

This is the topic everyone is thinking about wanting help with and that help is finally here. Tune in now to address judgment in your marriage, and move into greater acceptance, understanding, and love for each other.

When it comes to relationships, we don't think of ourselves as being in need of skills, especially in marriage, because what brings us together most times is this natural organic connection for each other. It's not something we're even consciously working to create, it's just there. But it does take a certain set of skills to maintain the kind of marriage you want. You must be constantly aware of developing, cultivating, mastering specific skills to create the experience that you want together. And so that's what we're going to be talking about today.

In this episode, I’m sharing the 5 most essential skills you need in order for your marriage to thrive.

In addition, you will learn

the difference between skills you develop vs. traits you inherently have
the mindset required to build your own skills in your relationship
how you’ll know when you’ve mastered the marriage skills

As you listen to this episode, I want you to keep in mind, what is the marriage that you want? What is the relationship with each other that you would like to have? How do you want to be feeling? How do you want to be thinking about each other and treating each other and interacting with each other? Because whatever you want, if you're not currently experiencing it, there is a gap. And that gap includes a gap in skills. Press play to learn what these skills are, why they are important and how to cultivate them so that you can thoroughly enjoy your marriage.

Mentioned in this Episode: Better Together Couple’s Event: https://drchavonne.com/better-together-couples-event/

If you are interested in changing your life for the better, speaking with someone who is a professional in helping others meet the outcomes that will bring them success and fulfillment in all areas of life can be extremely helpful.

Therapy, coaching, and counseling are three services that can provide this type of assistance. These services have helped countless people live their best lives, but they are often confused. Although coaching, therapy, and counseling occasionally help clients with similar problems, their work is not the same.

In this episode of the podcast, I’m sharing my view of the unique difference between coaching, therapy, and counseling, and all the other things that people can do to access help for their lives and their marriage.

Lack of follow-through is a common issue so many couples face. Whether you are disappointed your partner is not following through, or you feel bad that you are unable to follow through, it’s an experience that puts a strain on your relationship.

When individuals in a couple don’t follow through, trust in the relationship is eroded. It sends the message “I can’t depend on you.” Conversely, when there is follow-through, momentum is built and you have greater confidence in the direction you want to be headed in together.

In this episode of the podcast, I’m sharing more about this topic. I break down what makes following through so difficult, and then walk you through a 6-step process for increasing your ability to follow through.

Here’s what you’ll find inside:

the top things couples WANT to follow through on but have a hard time doing consistently (see just how much you’re not alone)
a greater understanding of the relationship between lack of follow-through and your negative perceptions of each other
how being able to follow through creates a new identity for you and your partner
the most important 6-steps to take in order to be able to follow through on the things that matter most to you.

This episode is a MUST listen if you want to be a couple that follows through on your commitments and promises to each other.

There is probably no greater frustration in marriage than to not have your expectations met. Expectations are the rules we adopt that tell us what someone else is supposed to think, feel and act. In marriage, expectations are often the cause of a lot of unhappiness.

In this episode of the podcast, we are going to take a new look at the idea of expectations. You will have the opportunity to work through a current expectation that you have that is not being met in your marriage. I will talk you through my 5-part process of how to question your expectations and identify if they make sense to hold on to.

You will

distinguish between expectations and personal desires - and why knowing one from the other will change everything about how you make requests of your partner
learn how to tell if your expectation is causing you to create resentment and distance in your marriage
uncover the real reasons why you have expectations and honor what feels most right for you, regardless of what your spouse is doing
create a sense of peace for yourself when expectations are not being met

Expectations can be a great way to build the kind of marriage you want together. That process starts with questioning the ones you have now and making sure you end up with the right expectations for the kind of couple you are wanting to be together.

Listen to this episode now and walk away feeling great about your expectations instead of frustrated by them.

Today’s podcast episode will calm your fears and help you have the right perspective about doubting your marriage.

Having doubt about your marriage is more common than you might think. Many people question if their marriage will last, or if they married the right person. These thoughts, in and of themselves are not the problem - it’s what you do with them that either makes your marriage stronger or weaker.

In this episode, you will learn

what causes you to doubt your marriage
what it looks like to live in “Doubt Mentality” day to day with your spouse
what doubt really is (hint, it’s not what you’ve been told)
how being certain about your marriage is not dependent on the circumstances that are happening

In addition, I share with you a specific set of thoughts that will help you immediately step out of doubt and into a confident assurance about your future.

I’ll walk you through my 5-step process for managing doubt so that you get to create a marriage that feels secure and stable.

Knowing where you’re headed together as a couple is priceless. Listen to this episode now to get an approach that will help get you there.

Mentioned in this Episode: Better Together Couple’s Event: https://drchavonne.com/better-together-couples-event/

Today’s podcast episode will inspire you and show you all that’s possible for you with your spouse. One of the greatest assets you have in making your marriage better is a vision for what you want to experience together as a couple. When couples struggle, it’s because they don’t have a clear picture of what they are striving for. They get stuck in the “reality” of what’s missing and don’t focus enough on what can still be.

This week, I’m helping you reconnect with what it looks like for you to thrive together as husband and wife in a profound way. You will have hope again. You will allow yourself to dream again. You will remember what it was like to love your marriage.

In this deeply emotional episode I discuss:

the impact of having a better marriage and how your life will be different
what better conversations look like among a couple and what your communication goals should look like
what it really means to have a better connection and how it supports your overall emotional well-being
how having better thoughts about each other radically improves the day-to-day and long-term experience you have together

There is such value in having a better marriage, even beyond how you feel today. It’s about having a better marriage for the rest of your life. It’s about creating a legacy for your children, and their children.

Listen to this episode and then bring your longing to be Better Together as a couple to the virtual couple’s event I’m hosting on October 22-23.

It will set your marriage on the path of turning what you want most into reality. Details and registration information can be found at https://drchavonne.com/better-together-couples-event/

Making time for your marriage can sometimes feel like a sacrifice. There are many competing demands for your time and energy. But when you don’t treat your marriage as a priority, you and your spouse struggle to connect. And connection is what makes a marriage work.

In this episode:

you’ll learn how to use a simple framework to think about the time you invest in your marriage
you will determine if your motivation for how you spend your time outside of your marriage is coming from the right place or not
you will shift the way you think about making time for your marriage from looking at what you lose to focusing on all that you gain
you will understand the connection between making time for your marriage now and saving yourself time later

I also share a real-life example of how I recently applied this in my own marriage.

Making time for your marriage is an investment that always pays off. You’ll be more comfortable around each other, have better communication, and ultimately get along better. Join me on the podcast today for a valuable conversation about the importance of making time for your marriage.

Anytime a couple is not on the same page one person is likely to feel very disappointed or frustrated. Many people come to me asking the question of how to get their spouse on board with something.

In this episode, I give you my honest answer and introduce you to a 5-step process for having these types of conversations.

I make the distinction between inviting your partner to consider something versus trying to convince them.

In this episode you will learn:

-the right way to start an important conversation

-what energy do you need to bring to best engage your spouse

-how to make the invitation irresistible to your spouse

-how to get their buy-in without dragging them along

AND… I also share a SPECIAL invitation for you to join me at my Virtual Couples Event: Better Together. This event will be held from Friday, October 22 2021 to Saturday, October 23, 2021. Friday will be a virtual date night in and Saturday is an in-depth virtual workshop where you will be given the tools you need to create a marriage you love. To register and get additional details visit https://drchavonne.com/better-together-couples-event/

I know for many when you got married, you really didn't have many doubts. You felt like this was a great match that you were thrilled to be committing your life to spend together and you know, things happen. And maybe you're hoping to be back in that place again. I want you to know that no matter where you guys may find yourself right now. That connection, that enjoyment, that fun, that love, that passion, that excitement is still there. There may be things standing in your way right now. But all of those things can be removed. You can learn to love your marriage again and I want to help you with the “again part” of loving your marriage again. Tune in to learn more.

If you are at a place where you're ready to get some help with your marriage and work directly with a coach that gets exactly what you're going through, that knows the exact plan and process to get you to a better place. Then here I am for you. You can visit www.drchavonne.com to schedule a call with me directly.

Do you feel like you and your spouse are living like roommates? Whenever you hear about a roommate, it's usually a story of something that's not working well. You may currently be experiencing a rough patch in your marriage that’s making you feel this way but here’s the thing, you are roommates. You live in a home together, you share responsibilities, you do your thing, in some ways and your spouse does their thing in certain ways. So in actuality you are roommates, it is a part of being married.

I want to offer you the insight that roommate living is more of a mindset rather than an actual circumstance. A couple can spend very little time together and not feel like roommates. And a couple could spend a lot of time together and still feel like roommates because this roommate mentality is a mindset. The good news is that this is just a season in your marriage and it can change. Listen in as I share a few things that you can do and how to navigate this season in your marriage.

if you and your spouse are both interested in addressing how disconnection is a problem in your marriage. I am here to support you. Together, we will talk about what's been happening, what you want for your marriage and how to permanently move you out of the roommate living situation. Book your call now at www.drchavonne.com.

For many women, there's an emotional reactivity and a heightened sense of fear and anxiety that's often at play when it comes to parenting our children. It's like you reflect back on your own childhood and find yourself being in the space of not wanting to make the same mistakes with your children that you perceive that your parents made. This can result in having parenting differences in your marriage since you may not always be a united front in all of your parenting scenarios. This can be very frustrating but I want you to know that this is a very common topic that I coach on and it can get better. So what I'm going to share with you today are several perspectives and tips and strategies that you can employ when you find yourself growing more and more frustrated by parenting differences with your spouse.

I also want to offer that even though this topic is specific to parenting, you can apply these principles I'm going to share to any significant difference between you and your spouse.

If you are really struggling with some of the differences between you and your spouse, coaching can really help you. We can work together one on one and do a deep dive into, we can look at every aspect of your marriage, where it feels like you and your spouse are not on the same page, we can find how to think about it differently, how to feel differently about it, and how to approach the situations in ways that are really just going to be much more effective than maybe what you've been doing so far. If you're ready to do this work I want to invite you to a private call with me, it is a complimentary consultation, and you can book your call today at www.drchavonne.com.

Shutting down in a marriage may look like a lot of different things. You may find your spouse is more distant, withdrawn, distracted, or defensive. This can be a difficult time, especially if you deeply want to connect and work on things together. In this episode I share the reasons why your spouse may have shut down, and how you can still move yourself forward in a positive direction. I also share three critical things to keep in mind so that you remain encouraged and believe in a better future together.

You CAN have a marriage that you love, a marriage that your spouse loves and a marriage that you both are very proud of. Press play to learn more.

What does it mean to hold space for someone else? It means that we are willing to walk alongside another person in whatever journey they’re on without judging them, making them feel inadequate, trying to fix them, or trying to impact the outcome. For your spouse, this means the same thing. If we aren't as happy as we can be in the marriage, it's likely because we see something in our spouse that we would like to be different.

In this episode I offer you six steps that will help you hold the space and find peace with exactly where your spouse is. These steps will help you create a breakthrough for yourself and actually start feeling the way that you want to be feeling. Listen in to learn more.

So often we are unclear about where we are and what is necessary to take us to where we want to be. Knowing where you are right now in your marriage is such valuable information because it helps you know where to put your focus and effort. As a coach, my goal is all about getting you from where you are now, to where you want to be and help you to get super clear about the starting line. How you approach getting the results that you want will be different depending on where you're starting from but ultimately all we really want is to fully express ourselves, to be accepted and loved and feel connected to life, to other people, to ourselves. And so if that's what we're all after, at the end of the day, there's tons of different ways we can create that. And there are tons of different starting points.

Today I want to share with you the three places that I find most people start out from and how the work of marriage coaching, the work of life coaching applies, and is beneficial to these scenarios. And as long as you are open to coaching, you are really committed to doing the work and getting the outcome that you want, I can help you. If you would like to work together, I encourage you to go to my website at www.drchavonnne.com and schedule a complimentary call with me. I will be really clear with you about where you are and we will map out your exact pathway to getting to where you want to be.

Today’s episode will help you to be intentional about the marriage you want and deserve. If you want a great marriage, it won’t happen by chance. Great marriages happen by choice. When it comes to #marriagegoals, I want you to look at what you have now and build from there rather than focusing on the future idealistic version of the marriage that you want. Making what we have now be enough to work with in creating the marriage of your dreams is the best place to start. The next step is looking internally to identify what needs to shift inside of you to make your marriage better. These are the things that you have 100% control over and these are the things that can make your marriage 100% better. Listen in to learn more about setting marriage goals from an internal place.

If you are ready to have a better marriage, I invite you to work with me in accomplishing your marriage goals. I can help you get clear on your goals, what's standing in your way and your exact roadmap so that you can get unstuck and transform your marriage into a loving and enjoyable experience. Go to www.drchavonne.com/ to book your Complimentary Call today.

It's a celebration guys! This is our 100th podcast episode! I am so proud. Thank you all for your continued support. I appreciate you listening to the podcast and taking the time to leave a comment and a review. Thank you.

So to celebrate, I thought it would be fun to share with you a few books from some of the experts in the marriage space that have really shaped my thinking and enhanced my marriage and my coaching business. Listen in as I discuss my faves and how these books and ideas can help you. And if you decide to read any of them, I'd love to know your thoughts, so let me know about it by leaving me a comment!

If you are looking for more guidance and 1-on-1 support, I invite you to reach out to me by scheduling your complimentary call to see if working together is the right next step. Go to https://drchavonne.com/ to book a call.

We all have expectations of how we want things to be in our life and our marriage is no exception. And so when our husband is not exactly how we would want him to be, we feel disappointed. I want to offer to you that loving your marriage is a mindset that is not dependent on the circumstance being perfect. There are certain foundational items that are important to the success of your marriage. By removing the expectation for things that are non-essentials you will be able to focus more on the essentials. Listen in as I share some of the foundational ingredients for a marriage to be healthy and why these basics are crucial if a marriage is going to flourish. These are the seven ingredients to loving your marriage again.

If you would like help to really manage your mind about the situations and circumstances of your marriage right now, I want to invite you to reach out to me. I offer a complimentary consultation call where you and I will speak directly and have a two-way conversation where I will hear everything that is happening in your marriage and then share the exact pathway forward by providing a systematic roadmap of the things YOU need to do to reach a place of contentment.

You can go to, www.drchavonne.com/ to book your Complimentary Call today.

We sell ourselves on things every day. Whether it’s the thing we don’t need at Target or a new habit we want to adopt, we come up with reasons to say yes. Today I want to challenge you to sell yourself on a better marriage. This involves focusing on what you want MOST which then leads you to take action in the right direction. The more time you spend thinking about the marriage you want, the more motivated you become.

Listen in as I share a process for selling yourself on a better marriage so that you can more easily create it in your life starting today.

And if you’re ready for private coaching with me, visit my website drchavonne.com and schedule a complimentary call. Over the next 6 months, you can have my help walking you through all of the shifts necessary to create a marriage you love again.

Sharing your life with another person can be a challenge. Marriages take work and some of this work is work that you have to do on your own.

Our guest today, Dr. M., will share her success story of how she improved not only her marriage but your emotional well-being after deciding to work with me via private coaching. You will hear how she has gained the clarity that she needed to move from where she was in her marriage to where she wanted to be. There is a lot of valuable information in this conversation that you can implement in your own marriage. By gaining control of your thoughts you can THINK yourself to a GREAT marriage. Tune in to learn more.

If you are ready to improve your marriage and want my help and guidance, go to , www.drchavonne.com/ to book your Complimentary Call today.

How self-aware are you? Self-awareness is probably one of those things where you have an idea of what it is, but if someone asked you to define it, you might stumble a bit to find the words. By definition, self-awareness is a conscious knowledge of one's own character, feelings, motives, and desires. Being self-aware is how you live as your true, authentic self. When we know ourselves deeply, we are able to live more fulfilled and happier lives.

In today’s episode, I will share with you the power of self-awareness as it relates to marriage. When you and how you can access your innermost thoughts and your real feelings and clearly understand what's happening for you, the way you interact with your husband will be different. You’ll also be able to make the powerful connection between how you are showing up in the marriage and the impact of that in relation to your desired results. I’m sharing four specific and amazing things that self-awareness offers to you that you can use to transform your marriage. Tune in to learn more.

If you are ready to master self awareness to create a marriage that you love, private coaching with me is the next step. I invite you to visit my website at drchavonne.com to schedule a complimentary call. During that conversation, I’ll hear more about what’s going on, and show you the very specific ways coaching will help you make the shifts to have a better marriage.

It's not easy to see your husband's imperfections and then choose to allow him to be who he is without you complaining or trying to fix him. But exercising allowance makes your marriage more peaceful and enjoyable. Allowance is you suspending your thoughts and beliefs of who you think your husband should be according to your opinion. This does not mean that you don’t ever stand up for yourself. You should create boundaries in order to protect yourself, your values and what's important to you but you should not use boundaries to manipulate or control what your husband is doing. Boundaries are not ultimatums. Listen in to learn how you can allow your husband to be who he is, just the way he is and still set boundaries to protect your values and ultimately have a better marriage.

If you want to create an easier marriage and stop feeling so frustrated with your husband, I invite you to private coaching with me. Over the course of 6 months you will learn how to master the mindset that will help you love being married again. To schedule a complimentary call with me by visiting my website at www.drchavonne.com. This is the pathway to creating different results in your marriage and I can 100% help you with that.

Throughout your marriage, there will be times when you need to have "must-have" conversations to work out some issues. Other times you may just need to manage those perceived issues differently in your mind. If you find yourself often struggling to have productive conversations it could be a sign that the approach to those must-have conversations needs a revision. Today, I will share five reasons why talking about your issues in marriage doesn’t always work. Listen in to gain some clarity on how to view the issues differently to then move in a more productive conversation.

If you are looking for help to improve your marriage and are ready to make more progress than you have ever made before, I invite you to consider private coaching with me. To explore if this is the right next step for you, schedule a complimentary call with me by visiting my website at www.drchavonne.com.

Improving your marriage can be very hard and confusing when you don’t have a step by step plan. There are stages when going from a relationship where you don’t get along, to one where you are passionately in love again. In this episode I’m sharing the 5 phases of making your marriage work. As you listen, think about which stage you are in and what needs to happen to move you to the next stage. Understanding the natural progression to making your marriage better will give you a goal mark to reach for and builds your hope in your ability to reach the final outcome you want.

I also want you to know this is something I can help you with directly. I help my private clients get unstuck and transform unhappy marriages into loving and enjoyable marriages. I invite you to connect with me to discuss how my private coaching program can help you love your marriage again. Just go to www.drchavonne.com/work-with-me to schedule your complimentary call.

Do you feel like you are doing all the things to improve your marriage but you still feel stuck? This is a common situation that many people have faced at some point in their marriage. You diligently take all the right actions and patiently wait for that new season of your marriage to arrive but it feels like your marriage is nowhere near what you dreamed it would be.Though it may feel overwhelming, the good news is that there are solutions for every problem and today I’d like to give you some additional tools to help you on this journey by sharing with you five reasons you're not making progress and how to change that now.

If you need help to change the experience of your marriage, connect with me. I can help you with the process of becoming unstuck. I encourage you to visit my site at www.drchavonne.com to schedule a call today.

Today I want to share with you a new concept that I created and recently shared with my private coaching clients. I call this concept the Trigger Triad and it’s all about self-awareness. This idea offers you an opportunity to navigate and quickly recover from your triggers so that you can move on to the […]

When people think of self-care they usually think of ways to physically care for themselves. Physical self-care is important and should not be ignored. There is, however, another type of self-care that I would like us to discuss today and that is emotional self-care. This form of self-care is important because when a spouse who […]

It’s perfectly normal to disagree from time to time. But when your focus is more on being right and convincing your husband to see things your way, it can lead to bickering and arguing. If this unhealthy communication habit has created a wedge between you and your spouse and if you are ready to get […]

Do you ever do something not because you truly want to, but because you feel like you should? We are currently living in a unique time where life feels like it’s happening to us and you’re just going through the motions. Obligated living can create stress and strain in marriage as you deny parts of […]

Every marriage is going to have some hard, rocky times that you will need to navigate. The goal is not to be happy all the time, but to maintain your inner joy and contentment even in the hard times. The best way to do this, regardless of external circumstances, is to focus on self-improvement and […]

Our brains are wired to want more. This happens all the time in marriage. It could be wanting more help, communication, attention, or passion. Having more of whatever that thing is, seems to be the cure-all to the marriage struggles. What I have observed is that in the various scenarios, most people are making some […]

Loving your marriage again is something that is within your control. It doesn’t require your husband to do a complete 180. It doesn’t need to take a long time. In this episode, I break down five specific mindset shifts that can change your experience in your marriage and get you back on track with loving […]

Welcome to another episode! I am so happy that you are here. Today we are going to talk about God and your marriage. I believe that if you want to transform your marriage, consider how you can make God’s presence the center of your union. I would like to share with you five practical steps […]

Happy New Year! Welcome to 2021. Today, I want to continue the conversation from last week’s episode. I hope that you took some time to answer the 20 questions provided to paint a clear picture of 2020’s lessons and successes in your marriage. It is now time to focus on how you want to experience […]

It is that time to wrap up 2020 and make way for 2021. This year is definitely one for the books. Whether you experienced successes beyond your wildest dreams or became a stronger person for the hardships you endured.

Merry Christmas to you all! This is the time of year that we can be refueled with hope, joy, and reminded of the miracles of this world. The level of your belief in what’s possible is one important key to your happiness, growth, and success in your marriage. Your beliefs determine your actions and your […]

What if I told you that the fastest way to change your husband is to change the way you think about him. I know you’re probably thinking, “why am I always the one who has to change something to make our marriage better, he’s most of the problem?” It seems unfair, but it can also […]

Becoming your best self involves enhancing all areas of your life to encourage growth, reduce distractions, and focus on the goals you want to achieve. While you may feel that your best self is an unattainable version of you in the distance, you can take action now that allows you to start experiencing a better […]

Oftentimes we ruminate on the things about our husbands that we don’t like. But these things are beyond our control. Doing this makes us feel worse instead of better. I want to offer you another option that will make you feel empowered and positive about your marriage. This involves focusing more on you – your […]

As‌ ‌the‌ ‌Thanksgiving‌ ‌Holiday‌ ‌approaches,‌ ‌I‌ ‌am‌ ‌reflecting‌ ‌on‌ ‌the‌ ‌meaning‌ ‌of‌ ‌gratitude,‌ ‌and‌ ‌in‌ ‌particular,‌ ‌about‌ ‌how‌ ‌feeling‌ ‌and‌ ‌expressing‌ ‌gratitude‌ ‌can‌ ‌help‌ ‌us‌ ‌create‌ ‌a‌ ‌marriage‌ ‌we‌ ‌genuinely‌ ‌enjoy‌ ‌again.‌ ‌Gratitude‌ ‌helps‌ ‌us‌ ‌feel‌ ‌more‌ ‌positive‌ ‌emotions,‌ ‌improve‌ ‌our‌ ‌health,‌ ‌deal‌ ‌with‌ ‌adversity,‌ ‌and‌ ‌build‌ ‌strong‌ ‌relationships.‌ ‌If‌ ‌your‌ ‌marriage‌ ‌is‌ ‌already‌ ‌happy,‌ ‌gratitude‌ ‌can‌ ‌make‌ ‌it‌ […]

It’s common for many couples to fall out of sync. If you are looking for ways to improve the dynamics in your marriage, this episode is for you. Today I’m sharing a three-step framework that will bring you immediate improvements to have a better experience in your marriage. These strategies will help you argue less, […]

The goal of marriage for all of us is to have a happy and nurturing relationship. This goal can seem impossible when you don’t get along with your spouse. So what do you do if this is the reality of your marriage? Well, there are many ways to revamp your relationship to make it better […]

In every marriage, there are things about our spouse that are going to irritate, annoy, and frustrate us. Whatever it is that you feel is not balanced or moving in a positive direction for your marriage, I’ve come up with a tool that will be extraordinarily helpful for you. This exercise will direct you with […]

Today we are going to talk about the difference between responsibility vs. responsiveness. Typically, when we experience a negative emotional reaction towards someone else, our first inclination is to blame the other person. I want to empower you to own your emotions and not make anyone else responsible for how you feel. I also break […]

Welcome to part 2 of Let It Go! In today’s episode, I will be sharing 3 impactful principles that you can use to actually let go of that issue or situation that you have been holding on to that has been hindering the growth, joy, and peace in your marriage. To get the most out […]

Too many people go through their marriages confined in the space of negative experiences. You don’t have to be one of them. It takes energy to make positive things happen. Holding onto an undesirable past or present takes up too much mental and emotional space and energy. So, how do you get to that point […]

No one expects their marriage to arrive at a place where things are not good. We all want a marriage that feels amazing and one that is happy. If you are on a journey to make your marriage good again, this episode is for you. I break down exactly how marriages become “not good” and […]

Today is the final part of the mini-series and we will be exploring why your life seems worse off because of your marriage. I know that it may feel that everything that is wrong about your marriage may require your husband to change somehow to make those things better but I want you to check in […]

Welcome to part 2 of the mimi series! In today’s episode, we will dive into why you may be feeling so miserable in your marriage. Feeling unhappy in a marriage is normal. All relationships have ups and downs. However, this should not be the overwhelming emotion that you feel in your marriage on a regular […]

Hello and welcome back to another episode. You are in for a treat because today's episode kicks off part1 of a three-part mini-series breaking down 3 of the most common experiences people have when their marriage feels like it's fallen off track.

The mini-series will cover the following topics:

Part 1. Why You Feel Stuck

Part 2. Why You Feel Miserable

Part 3. Why Your Life is Worse Off

In today's episode, Why you feel stuck, I will reveal to you the one and the only reason you continue to feel stuck in your marriage. I then share exactly what you need to think about and get really clear in order to move forward.

And if you are looking to hire a coach and want more of my help in doing the things that work in improving your marriage, reach out for a complimentary consultation. Simply visit my website, www.drchavonne.com/ to book your FREE 1-hour call today.

If you are wondering how to respond to your husband who has grown cold and distant, this is the podcast episode for you. I know it feels like a lonely time and that the answer is to just have your husband snap out of it. However, there are things you could be doing to either help the situation […]

So often we exacerbate issues by making a circumstance worse than it really is simply by layering on so much more to the facts than necessary. This causes a situation to be heavier, harder and more difficult than it needs to be. When we react to these exacerbations we say things that are unkind and […]

How do you know if you are making decisions from a place of clarity? When it comes to your marriage you might currently be in a space where you feel that your decision to stay is cloudy or muddy. If that is you, listen in as I introduce the concept of clean and clear decisions […]

Today we will be discussing a very common desire among many of us. And that is our desire for our husbands to change. It seems like THE answer to so many things in our marriage. I’m going to share with you four very specific things that I have personally tried that have helped to spark […]

Today I would like to introduce the concept of Emotional Training. This concept can be compared to working out. You build muscles because you push yourself beyond what is comfortable and then the muscle gets stronger and bigger and you're leaner. It is the same for emotional training. It is the idea that you are willing to push yourself past what feels comfortable in order for you to grow and for the growth of your marriage. The more expansive you are in your emotions, the more life you get to experience. The benefits are endless.

In this episode, I share three powerful questions to ask yourself. Listen in to learn more.

We don’t often have the full awareness of our impact on our husband and on the dynamics within the marriage. We are never taught how to truly self-reflect and use that for our growth. Today we will be discussing the Growth Effect and exploring the new outcomes you can create in your life/marriage as a result […]

Hello there! I am so happy to be back and to be spending this time with you. Today I want to share with you the concept of Radical Responsibility. Radical Responsibility is you taking full ownership of the experience you have, the result you create, or dynamics between you and your husband. This is not something we […]

During times of crisis, who do you choose to be? During this episode, I share 5 major distinctions between what is considered the “norm” or “ordinary” and how to rise and elevate yourself to the level of extraordinary.

No matter what is happening outside of you, you control how you respond and your thoughts about it all. Tune in and assess where you’ve been keeping yourself during the current health crisis we face as a world.

We are still navigating unprecedented times. This past week has been unexpected and for some extremely nerve-racking. As a wife and mother myself, I share some of the same concerns, questions, and issues. This week I want to offer how I’ve personally been managing being at home, juggling work, homeschooling my kids, and interacting with my husband.

Tune in as I offer both the mindset and strategies I adopted to have an incredible week.

And if having my support is what you need right now, reach out today to schedule your complimentary call to discuss working together: bit.ly/schedulewithchavonne

Things are very uncertain right now. If you are experiencing anxiety and worry this episode is for you. In it, I break down why you are feeling the way you feel, and what you most need to know in order to access a sense of peace. There are 5 specific things I recommend you focus on so that you don’t spiral into panic and despair. Tune in as I provide some of my most effective coaching tools to help you process worst-case scenarios in these trying times.

And if you would like to work with me 1-on-1 to manage your emotions, schedule a complimentary call using this link: bit.ly/schedulewithchavonne

In this episode I’m sharing a 7 step process to manage your mind during stressful and anxiety-provoking situations. Whether it’s something in your marriage, or something related to the current health crisis, tune in and receive the tools you need to remain in a peaceful emotional state. And if you are looking to hire a coach and want more of my help in doing this work more deeply, reach out for a complimentary consultation at bit.ly/schedulewithchavonne

We all have the tendency to tell ourselves the story that we are doing everything we can but that our efforts are not producing the result we want. If you ever felt like you are doing what you “should” be doing or that you’ve tried all you can and things are not working out as you expected in your marriage then this episode is for you.

I challenge you to look deep within and determine how committed you are to doing all that it takes. In this episode, I share ideas for why you may not be getting the results you want, and what simple question you can ask yourself right now that would make all the difference.

And if you are looking to hire a coach and want more of my help in doing the things that work in improving your marriage, reach out for a complimentary consultation at bit.ly/schedulewithchavonne

Most of us have heard the saying before that pain is inevitable. This is definitely true in marriages. We all have experienced disappointments, let downs or a mismatch of expectations that led to us grieving the loss of what we expected marriage to be like. When we don’t know the purpose of this pain this can be really difficult.

What I want to share with you today is how you can make your healing process from that pain more productive and purposeful. Press play and get ready for a powerful conversation.

If you are currently on a healing journey and you feel like you need coaching...you need my assistance, I invite you to reach out to explore what working together could look like. Visit bit.ly/schedulewithchavonne for a free one-hour discovery call.

Today we will be exploring the concept of Emotional Laziness. And no, I’m not calling you lazy! This is where you have the energy, the ability or the capability to do something but you are just not doing it. In other words, when it comes to your marriage, you prefer for your husband to take care of your emotional needs of connection, happiness, […]

Today we will be exploring your thoughts. Your thoughts over time become deeply engrained beliefs that affect your perception and interpretation of reality. The very thoughts running through your mind can help to manifest the marriage/life of your dreams but first, you need to shift and control them.

I will be sharing with you some valuable tips on how to challenge your thoughts and current beliefs to change your perception about your life/marriage.

Press play and let’s get to work on creating thoughts that serve you.

I hope that 2020 has been amazing for you so far. I believe that 2020 will be an awesome year. Everything you want is in your reach. As you may have noticed, I took a hiatus from producing podcast episodes. It’s been a while but I’m back and it’s on and popping! During my break, […]

In my experience as a coach, I find that when women come to me about an issue they are facing in their marriage, the issue is usually not new. It’s been brewing for years. As a result, they feel stuck as if their marriage will never get better. The great news is that being in […]

Happy Anniversary to US! Today as my husband and I celebrate our 8th year of marriage. We would like to spend some time in conversation with you to share 8 lessons that we have learned in our time as husband and wife. This is a real conversation. Invite your husband to join you as you […]

I’ve got 2 BIG announcements/surprises for you this week! I’m not even going to give you a hint. You just have to listen in to hear them yourself. But I will tell you that the content for this episode is so important for you to grasp. Every marriage has its ups and downs. And if […]

One of the greatest ah-ha moments of my life is truly grasping the idea that your thoughts create everything about how you experience your life and marriage. We often look outside of ourselves and feel as though life happens to us. But I believe life is just happening and that we always get to choose our thoughts about it. When […]

Today we are talking about GUILT. We ALL feel it. We all act out of it. It’s a normal human emotion. The problem comes when we don’t know how to manage guilt in our lives. We over-extend ourselves, we get resentful when we feel taken advantage of, we sacrifice our needs for the needs of […]

Today I want to ease us both into new, uncharted territory for this podcast episode. Yup, we are going to have the sex talk! We will be discussing sex in the form of a checkbox. The reason for this topic in this format is because some of us may view sex as a task, an […]

In this episode, I share the 5 Marriage Power Tools everyone should have. As you work to improve and rebuild your marriage you want to focus on mastering these very specific things. Creating a happier marriage involves reducing tension and arguments, rebuilding friendship and creating emotional intimacy. Listen in as I show you exactly how […]

Today we are talking about conflict in marriage. It’s something every marriage experiences and I believe it can be an extraordinary teacher. In this episode, I’ll share 5 specific ways that conflict can help you grow and actually strengthen your marriage if you allow it.

Parallel Lives in Marriage is a concept of separateness while living in the same home. It may or may not include tension and conflict, but in most cases, there is no passion or intimate connection. This is a real phenomenon that is happening in many marriages and can be for short or long periods of […]

Today we are talking about competition matches in marriage. I am sure that when you got married you never imagined that you would be in a competitive match. The goal was to create a unified life with your spouse and live a seamless life together. However, somewhere along the lines, you deterred from the same path. Today we […]

Today our discussion will be centered around The Hard Part of Getting What You Want. The journey to creating anything different in your life requires growth. With growth sometimes comes discomfort, and sometimes things go wrong that makes you think you...

In today’s episode, we will be discussing practical strategies that we can implement to begin changing our situation. We all have things that we are dreaming, hoping and wishing to be different. To begin this process of change there is one critically ...

Warning! This episode is not for everyone. My main intention today is to create a major shift in set of beliefs adopted by the majority of the population that create unnecessary and undue suffering. It may take some time for you to warm up to the content being shared, but please consider it a seed […]

How do you show up? This is an important question to consider. Showing up cones in a variety of forms. Being present physically. Being intentional emotionally. All of it matters when it comes to creating a marriage or life you love.

Today we are talking about discontentment in marriage. What that means is that we experience a lack of satisfaction in our marriage or we feel a complete failure as it relates to the things we hoped for and desired in our marriage or we are craving som...

When it comes to marriage, what we all want MOST is to feel loved. But have you ever considered your capacity to actually receive the love you desire? I want you to come to this conversation with this question in mind…are you open and available to rece...

So today, we are exploring a very common desire that most wives have. Even though everyone knows you can’t change a person, many of us wish some things about our husbands were different. We send hints, and then move to complaining if he’s not getting t...

In today’s episode, we are discussing a concept that I call your Thinking Threshold. This idea was inspired by a quote I kept seeing repeatedly. The quote is “The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking with which we...

If you are in a difficult place in your marriage, where you feel like everything is going wrong and you’re just generally upset and unhappy with the world and especially your husband then this is for sure the episode for you.

In today’s episode, we will be discussing how to have FUN in your marriage even while working on making it better. Having fun is vital to improving any situation yet is not made a priority. Everyone wants to enjoy spending time together,

Today we are discussing three of the most important habits of Empowered Wives. It’s critical that we learn how to step into ours. Atrial power to create the marriage we want to have. When you feel empowered you show up in ways that position you to rece...

I am feeling so energized and refreshed after coming back from a 3-day retreat with some amazing women. I wanted to come back and share with you some of the transforming experiences that I had and give some of those gifts back to you.

Welcome back to another episode of the RelatAble Podcast. I am excited to have you join me today. Today we are discussing a topic where I recently had a breakthrough and wanted to share my thoughts with you.

If you are in a place where you are not feeling great about much of anything, this is the episode for you. I’m here to remind you that nothing is impossible and you can feel happier and more fulfilled any moment you choose.

When you got married, I’m sure you had some amazing dreams and expectations for what your life would be like. You expected your husband to show up a certain way. You took your vows seriously and really expected that you’d still say yes for better and f...

How would you describe your relationship with money? And what in the world does this have to do with your marriage? We all know that money problems are one of the top issues couples face. In this episode, I’ll be sharing why your relationship with mone...

Our topic today is one of high importance. We are discussing restraint from the context of communication. I personally have been working on this habit for the past 18 months and I have a lot to share with you.

Today we are going to be talking about how to fall in love with your husband again. If you’re truly open to it and you actually apply the five steps I share, you will really be able to recreate all of those emotions of being in love.

Today I am discussing the topic of how to want to the things that serve you, your husband and your marriage. Specifically, I’m talking about how to generate motivation to put forth the effort to continue to try to work on your marriage,

How many times have you thought to yourself, my husband should be saying, be thinking, be doing, etc.? My guess would be that you’ve had that thought several times in your marriage. This thought is in part because we come to marriage with certain exp...

Sometimes there are things that you don’t want to hear but often it’s those very things that transform you forever in the best way possible and I believe that this episode will be one of those things for you.

Today we are discussing when you don’t get what you want. How do you react when your husband doesn’t give you what you want or expect from him? I’m sure if you’re honest, it’s not something you’re proud of.

Today’s topic is one that every wife thinks about from time to time and that is how to change the way you feel about your husband. You may be in that place right now where when you look at your husband you just feel like there’s so much wrong with him ...

Today we are discussing 3 things you MUST stop believing about your husband. These are the things that do not serve you. These are the things that do not help your marriage and actually take you away from everything you really want.

Today we are discussing essential marriage mindsets. I strongly believe that the making or breaking of your marriage is largely a function of your mindset. Your mindset is comprised of the thoughts you have that you continually repeat over and over aga...

Happy New Year to you! I am speaking amazing blessings over your life for 2019. I pray that it will absolutely blow your mind. Today I will share with you 5 marriage habits that you should consider incorporating into your marriage this year.

We make decisions all the time whether we are aware of them or not. Today we are focusing on those major decisions that can change the trajectory of your life. It’s so important to ensure that you know what you want.

If you’ve ever wondered what your husband wants to hear from you then you have tuned in to the right place. In the spirit of Christmas and gift giving, I want us to stretch our imagination a bit and think about the gifts you can offer your husband thro...

Today we are talking about how to get what you want. You probably have your hand raised right now and you’re saying, yes sign me up for that all day, every day. LOL Good! Because I have a 3-step formula for you to be able to get what you want in your m...

Merry Christmas to you and yours! Christmas is my favorite holiday for many reasons. I love spending time with my family and celebrating the miracle of Christ. Today we will be talking about how to create a miracle in your marriage.

Communication. It is probably one of the biggest issues that people come to me about regarding their marriage. Many couples feel like they can’t communicate well and want help learning how to do so more effectively.

Today, we’re talking about setbacks in our life. I’d like you to get an example in your mind now of a time where you had a set back and felt like you were not making any progress. It can be in any area of your life. How did you see that situation?

Today we are going to talk about how to control our emotions. I think as women we are very tuned into our emotions. We are very conscious of when we over react or when we’re in an emotion that we rather not feel.

In this episode, I am spilling the tea on the insider secret to a better marriage. Many people think that they will experience a better marriage when communication improved, they have better interactions together,

Today we are going to talk about being let down. Many of us have had the experience of being let down at some point in our life. I’m going to be speaking from the context of marriage. I want you to think of an instance where you felt let down because o...

Hello there! I am thrilled to be sharing with you today. Thank you for tuning in. In this episode, we are discussing the concept of being an empowered wife. What does that mean? Well, it is the process of becoming stronger and more confident in who you...

Hey there! Thank you for joining me. I am so happy that we are spending this time together. Today’s conversation is one that is very important. It’s the topic of when your husband says no to therapy. There is nothing more devastating and disheartening ...

Welcome back! I’m so glad to be back with you today thanks for tuning in. In today’s episode, we are going to look at foundational ingredients to turn a marriage around. The nuggets that I will share can be easily digested and incorporated it into the ...

Well hello there! Welcome back to the Relatable Podcast. I’m happy you stopped on by to listen in. This is episode 2 and in today’s episode I will share will you 5 things about myself. I will discuss, my faith, my family,

Hello there! Welcome to the Relatable Podcast. I am happy that you stopped by. As this is the first episode of our podcast, I’d like to help you determine if this Podcast is right for you. If you’re currently married and want more out of the relationsh...