The Codependent Perfectionist: Recent Episodes
Alana Carvalho
The Codependent Perfectionist is a series on the dynamics of codependency and perfectionism. Alana self identifies as the Codependent Perfectionist, giving you a mix of psychoeducation and anecdotes from her own work as a therapist to understand how these issues play out in everyday life. Contact Alana: alana@alanacarvalho.com, alanacarvalho.com or following on Instagram thecodependentperfectionist for any questions or comments!
In this episode, Alana Carvalho, The Codependent Perfectionist, is discussing High Functioning Codependents (HFC) with Terri Cole - how to identify if you are one and steps you can take towards healing.
In this episode, we're exploring the connection between chronic pain, people pleasing, and perfectionism.
In this episode, we explore some key principles of recovery that Kim Gross talks about in her new book - Free to Be: A Pathway to Inner Liberation. Specifically, we touch on the importance of healing the inner child and also taking responsibility in recovery.
In this episode, we have special guest, Alana VanDerSluys, talking about body image, eating disorder recovery and the connection with perfectionism. Alana shares about her own recovery journey and talks about her book Freedom with Food and Fitness.
In this episode, Alana and Sheri are exploring narcissistic abuse and how to support someone who may be in a narcissistic relationship.
In this episode, we discuss the difference between support and enabling when it comes to a loved one struggling with a mental health issue.
In this episode, we have special guest Taylor Damiani. We're talking about how to cope with the holidays if you're an adult child of a narcissistic parents.
In today's episode, we have dating coach Sabrina Zohar from Do The Work Podcast discussing her own journey working through anxiety, learning how to depersonalize and make changes to support herself.
In this episode, we're talking all about how we tend to get repeated people and situations in our life and there's an important reason why!
In today's episode, we're talking about the importance of being thoughtful in how we communicate. Alana also shares on the difference of thinking through what we want to share versus walking on eggshells in relationships.
In this episode, Alana and Dr. Liz chat about codependency recovery and how early child dynamics impact our adult relationships.
In this solo episode, Alana speaks to how improper mirroring in childhood can impact our identity formation in our adulthood.
In today's episode, we're talking all about doing "the work" with Jacqueline Hurst and the willingness needed to go through the ups and downs of the therapeutic process. We chat about the difficulty of taking risks, putting up boundaries, and the benefits of getting to a place of peace.
In this episode, we're chatting with Candy Washington on all things codependency recovery. Candy shares how she moved from a place of codependency to self love, presence and peace.
In today's episode we're talking about mental health issues with young adults & teens. Megan shares her journey from discovering her own mental health issues to working on her recovery.
In this episode, we’re exploring the Jungian concept of the Shadow and how to relate it to recovery.
In this episode, we’re talking with Heidi Rogers about parenting “spicy” children and how this differs from parenting neurotypical kids. We talk about what it’s like to be a codependent perfectionist parents of these kids and offer parenting strategies to help you navigate it more effectively.
In today's discussion, we are talking all about inner voices. Specifically, we're explaining the difference between negative self talk and the inner self, how we distinguish between the 2 and how to show love to ourselves in recovery. Please excuse the technical issues
In today's episode, I chat with a listener named Susan all about parenting. We discuss topics including making space for ourselves as mothers, how to navigate issues around codependency and perfectionism and much more!
In today's episode, we're talking all about love addiction and codependency with Sherry Gaba, author of Love Smacked! We explore what love addiction looks like, trauma bonding, boundaries and more. You can find out more about Sherry and her online e-book & quiz here: https://sherrygaba.com/npquiz.
Today we're talking about some common questions people have when they're working on recovering from codependency. We'll clear up what codependency is not and consider where the line is between caring and codependency.
In this episode, we explore the use or Oracle Cards and how to use them in the healing process. We also discuss the concept of Truth and the different ways this relates to the recovery process.
In this episode, we explore how the mindset of victim can impact our recovery and ability to heal. We discuss what victim mindset means and how to go from disempowered to empowered!
In today's episode, we discuss trauma bonding and why it's important for us to recreate relationship patterns in order to heal.
In today's episode, we chat with Heather Chauvin, author of Dying to Be A Good Mother. We discuss issues around balance as a parent, codependency, perfectionism and Heather's journey through cancer recovery that helped her learn to take care of herself.
In this episode we'll explore how language is an essential piece to improving relationships in the recovery process.
In this episode we discuss how spirituality can play an important role in recovery from codependency and perfectionism.
In today's episode we explore what the concept of gaslighting looks like in our interactions with children. We'll identify terminology that could lead children to feel less trust in themselves and how to change it.
In this episode, we’re talking depersonalizing and learning how to separate out what’s about us vs. what’s about someone else.
In this episode, I explain what oracle cards are, how they came about and how they can be used to strengthen one's healing journey and relationship to Spirit!
In this episode, Dani Bryant and I take a look at the connection between food as a coping mechanism and codependency. We tackle the Karpman's drama triangle, what it really means to binge eat, and having compassion for ourselves in how we deal with our emotional struggles.
In today's episode, Polina Shkadron and I explore the importance of prevention with children and what it looks like. Polina gives some practical tools that parents can implement to help their children learn coping skills.
In this episode, I explore how the daughter can go about healing a codependent relationship with their parent. We're talking taking risks and learning to stand in our power!
In todays episode I explore the mother-daughter dynamic. Specifically, I tackle how codependency and perfectionism can easily creep into the relationship and what we can do to begin to move out of the dysfunction.
In this episode, we're chatting with Christie Kim, LMHC on how healing can happen in a codependent relationship especially through the lens of Emotionally Focused Therapy.
Today we’re talking about how changing how we think can influence our ability to experience empathy rather than enmeshment.
In this episode, we explore the cultural context of codependency and perfectionism in the Black community with mental health therapists Ariel Emmanuel & Camille Lester.
Today we're talking codependency and perfectionism in women, especially people pleasing with Johannah Bogart! We also dive into the holidays and gives some thoughts on how we can work on people pleasing over the holiday time.
Today Robert and I are discussing relationships based on codependency, how we can make changes to support ourselves and our sense of self-worth.
Today we're talking all about body image with Dani Bryant! Especially it's connection with perfectionism, where this comes from and how we can work on healing it.
In this episode, Alana chats with Lindsey Pratt, the Discerning Drinker, discussing out of balance alcohol usage and it's connection with codependency.
Today we're talking about spirituality and it's connection to codependency & perfectionism. Codependency can be thought of as a lack of faith and perfectionism as a lack of trust. Listen to find out more about how to work through these spiritual issues!
In this episode, Dr. Sarah Bren and I discuss attachment, the good enough parent, attending to your child's emotions, postpartum anxiety and more!
In this episode, we're discussing the issues with your codependent parent. What it looks like, emotions that are often present, and why it's often dysfunctional.
In this episode we have 2 special guests: Alana Barlia and Lindsey Pratt! Together, we talk about narcissism, personality disorders and codependency, especially common narcissistic traits, relationship patterns, and what to do if you're in one!
Today I'm talking about parenting during the COVID-19 epidemic. Giving some support and tips on how to manage!
Today I interview 2 wonderful parents who have done some great work on their own codependency issues! Listen to them share their story of why they came into the support group and how they worked towards a new relationship with their children.
It's all about Karpman's drama triangle today! We're discussing and identifying the different roles codependents take on in relationships.
Today we're discussing codependency with siblings, adult and child! If you have this dynamic with any siblings or are concerned you're doing this as a parent, this episode is for you!
Today we're talking friendship & codependency! In this episode, you will hear some of the ways codependency can show up in a friendship. From putting in more than the other person to not saying no, we cover some big relational issues.
Today we're talking codependency in parenting with adult children. In this podcast, I explore what to do when you find yourself in an enabling dynamic with your adult child.
We're talking stages of change in the recovery process today! Learn how it looks and where you may be at. As well as common issues that come up when we're working on our codependency and perfectionism!
Today we're talking about parenting! Especially parenting "sensitive," "hyperactive" or children with mental health issues. We speak about how not to bring too much fear into your parenting as well as how to separate from codependency in your child's recovery process.
Today is examples day! As requested, we go through 4 different examples of codependency in action at different ages. As always, feel free to e-mail your questions and comments to alana@acarvalhotherapy.com. Thanks!
It's time for Q&A! In this episode, we take some time to answer listeners' questions regarding codependency in relationships. Hope you enjoy!
Episode 2 of The Codependent Perfectionist is here! Today, Lauren and I explore codependency and perfectionism in relation to both where it comes from and how it can play out in our romantic relationships. We also share some stories and tips on how to identify codependency in a relationship! We have so much more to discuss on these topics too!!