Scared Confident: Recent Episodes
Tiffany Sauder
A show that seeks to honestly examine the vulnerable realities of a life with many roles. This is an unpolished space to learn what it means to face our fear and live life scared confident.
Are you struggling to find true rest amidst the chaos of daily life? In this episode, Tiffany talks about the surprising secret to sustainable rest, sharing research insights from leadership expert Nick Petrie. Tiffany explores how high-performing individuals avoid burnout by engaging in activities that create 'opposite worlds'—hobbies and tasks that provide a mental and physical counterbalance to their work lives. She discusses Petrie's six key areas for finding rest and recharge: physical exercise, artistic endeavors, being in nature, interacting with animals, volunteering, and home tasks. For more tips like this, sign up for Tiffany's newsletter.
Additional Resources:
- Nick Petrie’s article on “opposite world”
Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:01 The concept of “opposite worlds” 02:55 Six key areas for rest and recharge 07:39 Practical tips for implementing rest
Ever feel like the weight of leading leaves no room for your own voice and priorities?
In this episode, Tiffany sits down with Brian Kavicky to discuss the unique challenges female leaders face when balancing intuition, ambition, and the expectations of others. Brian discusses why it’s essential for female leaders to prioritize their gut instincts and recognize their value, especially in decision-making and team dynamics. Tiffany also shares her journey of embracing her priorities and how claiming her right to flexibility and growth transformed her approach to business and life.
Together, they offer insights to help you set intentional boundaries and reclaim your leadership on your terms.
If you want to learn more from Brian, reach out here. Tell him Tiffany sent you.
For more from Brian, check out these other episodes
- Dealing with Perfectionism and Overwhelm: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/dealing-with-perfectionism-and-overwhelm/id1555762235?i=1000672484253
- 5 Lessons to help you win in life and business with Brian Kavicky: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/5-lessons-to-help-you-win-in-life-and-business-with/id1555762235?i=1000669261940
Timestamps: (00:00) Intro
(01:50) The secret ingredient to women in leadership
(03:33) Trusting your gut in decision making
(06:47) The importance of support and priorities
(09:50) Living a Life of ‘And’
(16:52) Balancing personal and professional goals
(19:30) The importance of saying yes
(20:54) Owning your rights in business
(26:00) How leaders avoid mediocrity
Are you ready to balance the scales of family, career, and personal growth? In this episode, Tiffany opens up about her journey to creating a sustainable business while cultivating a thriving family life. She shares candidly about her fears, her pivotal moments, and the strategies she employs to manage her multiple roles effectively. With an emphasis on values and systematic approaches, Tiffany also reveals the parallels between leading a successful business and navigating family dynamics. For more tips like this, sign up for Tiffany's newsletter. Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 02:28 Being in control is not the best thing 04:04 Different ways being a CEO helps lead a family 10:08 Parallels from building Element Three and my family 13:20 What telling the whole truth does to your relationship and family 15:38 Understanding priorities as as family 21:14 Having clear expectations 27:30 Putting systems in place
Are you ready to turn burnout into a breakthrough?
In this episode, Tiffany talks with Allison Hare about the connection between burnout and not being aligned with your personal values. By sharing her personal story of struggling with burnout, Allison shares a transformative framework designed to energize, create margin in your schedule, and redesign life through creative experiments.
Tune in if you want to learn how to make essential changes without giving up on your dreams.
If you’re looking for more advice on how to achieve balance in a two-career home, sign up for Tiffany’s newsletter where she shares tips, how-to’s and encouragement for those living a Life of And.
Connect with Allison
- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/allisonhare
- Website: https://allisonhare.com/
Resources
- Free PDF download for finding what lights you up: https://allisonhare.com/energy
- Late Learner Podcast: https://podcast.allisonhare.com/podcast
Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[04:30] Burnout and misalignment
[05:24] Gaining the confidence to explore
[06:34] Finding what lights you up
[18:01] A framework for avoiding burnout
[26:05] How Allison navigated family dynamics
[39:05] Reflecting on positive memories
[40:24] Positive illusions in relationships
Are you struggling to balance your full-time job while dreaming of starting something new?
In this episode, Tiffany shares insightful, actionable strategies to help you carve out the life you truly desire—whether that means starting a passion project, launching an entrepreneurial venture, or simply adding a worthwhile hobby to your routine. She opens up about her own journey, revealing how she navigated her ambitions alongside her responsibilities as a successful business leader at Element Three.
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Jump into the conversation:
00:00 Intro
01:15 Concept of "earning the right"
02:21 Intentionally finding time for new project
03:44 Shooting bullets before cannons
05:12 Strat with limited resources and support
06:18 Set hurdles to clear before committing fully to a new project
10:06 Framework of bullets, hurdles, and intentional time management
Ever feel completely stuck because you're trying to get everything perfect and need all the answers before making a move? We've all been there. In this episode, Tiffany sits down with Brian Kavicky to discuss the paralyzing pursuit of perfection and its impact on our personal and professional lives. Brian provides a refreshing perspective on navigating the mental challenges of perfectionism, advocating for a mindset shift from striving for control to celebrating progress. Tiffany also shares her journey, emphasizing the value of moving past fear and acting with confidence, even when it feels overwhelming. Together, they provide personal insights and practical advice on how to embrace imperfections and make meaningful progress, even amidst chaos. If you want to learn more from Brian, reach out here. Tell him Tiffany sent you. Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:15 Meet Brian 02:29 Battling perfectionism 04:10 Understanding the roots of perfectionism 12:36 The 80 percent rule 16:10 Managing overwhelm and prioritizing tasks 24:00 The hero complex 31:13 Taking action in uncertain times 32:51 Moving forward with confidence
If you could do things all over again, what would you do differently?
In this episode, Tiffany dives deep into the choices that shape our personal and professional worlds. Whether you're a career-driven individual, a family-oriented parent, or juggling both, this episode will help you reflect on and refine your life decisions for a more abundant future.
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[00:32] The importance of asking for help
[04:57] Embracing vulnerability and authentic relationships
[09:24] Reflecting on foundational life choices
[12:28] Career considerations in family planning
[13:04] Acceptance and making the best of life’s outcomes
Transitioning back to work after having a baby is hard.
In this episode, Tiffany talks with Dr. Whitney Casares: Wife, mom, pediatrician and creator of The Modern Mommy Doc, helping working moms break the burnout cycle. Dr. Whitney shares empowering tips for setting boundaries, making informed trade-offs, and navigating the challenging transition into motherhood while maintaining your professional ambitions.
If you’re looking for more advice on how to achieve balance in a two-career home, sign up for Tiffany’s newsletter where she shares tips, how-to’s and encouragement for those living a Life of And.
Connect with Dr. Whitney
- Website: https://www.modernmommydoc.com/about
- Check out her book: https://www.amazon.com/Doing-All-Over-Functioning-Become-Person/dp/0760386994
Timestamps: [00:00] Intro
[02:15] Making Choices and Trade-offs
[08:30] Setting Boundaries and Prioritizing Self-Care
[14:52] Realistic Expectations and Resources for New Parents
[20:15] Dividing Household Tasks Based on Strengths and Skills
[27:40] Practical Tips for Managing Household Tasks
[30:08] Dr. Whitney’s Journey in Medicine and Writing
[35:35] Creating a Life You Don't Want to Escape From
What if your next big life change could be the catalyst for your personal and professional growth?
In this episode, Tiffany shares the leadership lessons gleaned from her maternity leave experiences—and how these lessons apply to any significant life change. Whether you’re a working mom, a leader in your organization, or someone striving for a balanced, fulfilling life, this episode is packed with motivational insights and actionable takeaways.
Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[00:42] Using maternity leave as a proxy for change
[01:22] Lesson 1: Reenter in a way that moves you forward
[03:12] Lesson 2: Allow others to step up
[09:09] Lesson 3: Realizing where you're a difference maker
[15:30] Allowing new leaders to norm into their roles
[20:07] Acknowledging the life of 'and'[22:39] Personal reflection: Present for family while achieving professional goals
What even is a Life of And? And how can you achieve it?
In this episode replay from Gut+Science, Tiffany joins Nikki Lewallen Gregory to share how she defines a Life of AND and the impact she hopes it will have in the world.
Get ready to be inspired to do the hard work and be equipped with tips and strategies to make your Life of And possible and be reminded why giving it your all is so important.
Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[02:45] The importance of systems and processes
[11:04] Scheduling cleaning and laundry services
[21:16] Tiffany's personal experiences shaping the podcast
[30:18] Understanding and overcoming struggles
[40:26] Tiffany's recharging rituals and hobbies
[43:09] Recommended reading: "The Hard Thing About Hard Things"
Do you ever feel overwhelmed by the clutter and chaos of family life?
In this episode, Tiffany, a working mom of four and an Enneagram three known for her love of efficiency, shares four game-changing house hacks that will transform your home into a peaceful, streamlined oasis. These simple yet powerful strategies are designed to lighten your mental load and help you balance the demands of a busy household with elegance and ease.
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[01:08] House Hack #1: Keep one empty drawer, shelf, or container
[03:03] House Hack #2: Treasure drawers for kids' favorite items
[05:09] House Hack #3: Memory boxes for keepsakes
[07:29] House Hack #4: Establishing play zones and no-play zones
[09:22] Keeping the house peaceful and streamlined
[10:42] Encouragement for listeners to share their own house hacks
Why do we wait to do the things we want to do? What if we just did them?
In this episode, you’ll hear how Renée Warren navigated this question for herself and how it’s transformed her life. She also opens up about her husband's successful ventures, the power of social media, and how love languages play a critical role in lasting relationships.
As Renée candidly discusses the challenges and triumphs of her entrepreneurial and personal journey, you'll gain insights on living with urgency, overcoming societal expectations, and stepping boldly into your authentic self.
This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to make their life more abundant, balanced, and true to themselves. Tune in to uncover actionable takeaways and be inspired to live life courageously and confidently, just as Tiffany and Renée encourage us to do.
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Connect with Renée
- Instagram: renee_warren
- Website
Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[05:45] Family Dynamics and Morning Snuggles
[09:30] Understanding Love Languages
[15:45] Living With Urgency and Prioritizing Goals
[22:12] Quarterly Couples Retreats and Life Goals
[29:00] Authority and Visibility for Female-Led Brands
[32:25] Authenticity and Engagement on Social Media
[38:45] Wrap-Up
Are you ready to transform the chaos of family life into an efficient and harmonious household?
In this episode, Tiffany shares three indispensable apps that every family-oriented, goal-driven individual should be using. Designed for those who strive to make their lives better, easier, and more abundant, Tiffany reveals practical, hands-on strategies to streamline your daily routines, delegate responsibilities, and create more time for what truly matters.
Tune in now and start implementing these life-saving tips to transform your household and make more room for the extraordinary.
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Resources:
- How to set up an Amazon Teen Account: https://www.amazon.com/gp/help/customer/display.html?nodeId=G9R5VY7C8DXFVKUB
- How to set up Instacart Family (https://www.instacart.com/help/section/360007797952/6552288064532#:~:text=your family account-,Log in to your Instacart account.,information and select Send invite.)
- How to Share and Collaborate on the Notes App (iPhone users): https://support.apple.com/guide/iphone/share-and-collaborate-iphe4d04f674/ios
Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[00:33] Empowering teenagers with responsibility and convenience
[03:18] Simplifying grocery shopping and sharing responsibilities
[05:25] Enhancing family planning and organization
How do you turn challenges into opportunities and thrive both personally and professionally?
In this episode, Tiffany sits down with Brian Kavicky to explore the transformative power of accountability and mindset in achieving both personal and professional goals. Brian, a significant influence in Tiffany's life and business, shares insights on how viewing goals as guides rather than mandates can lead to continuous improvement and growth. Tiffany reflects on her journey, discussing the evolution of her business and leadership style, and how embracing the concept of "and" has enabled her to balance multiple roles effectively. Together, they delve into the importance of responsibility, proactive problem-solving, and maintaining a positive mindset to navigate life's challenges.
If you want to learn more from Brian, reach out here. Tell him Tiffany sent you.
Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[03:08] The early days of Tiffany’s business
[07:07] The beginning of Tiffany's and Brian's professional relationship
[13:26] Lesson 1: If it's all your fault, then you can fix it
[19:53] Lesson 2: Goals are guides, not mandates
[25:44] Lesson 3: Your mindset determines your outcomes
[32:00] Lesson 4: Your success and dysfunction in life follows you
[35:47] Lesson 5: If everything is a big deal, then nothing ever becomes a big deal
[41:59] Brian’s final thoughts on responsibility and leadership
Are you struggling to balance work and parenthood without feeling overwhelmed by guilt?
In this episode, Tiffany opens up about her journey as a working mom, sharing valuable insights and practical strategies for anyone striving to make their lives better, easier, and more abundant. It’s a blend of personal musings and actionable advice designed to help you feel more equipped and confident in balancing the complexities of a modern, multi-dimensional life.
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[01:56] Raising capable children by balancing risks and independence
[03:29] Encouraging children to navigate situations on their own
[06:27] Kids as a significant part of life, but not the entire identity
[08:42] Viewing family as a team sport and setting goals together
[11:37] Delaying day one delays any outcome and the importance of starting
[16:26] Balancing church community expectations with working mom life
[19:08] Finding purpose and clarity in God’s calling
Ever wondered how to seamlessly balance your personal and professional life while staying organized and intentional?
In this episode, Tiffany sits down with Cherylanne Skolnicki to talk about how to live a more abundant, stress-free life. Cherylanne, a seasoned entrepreneur, high-achieving leader, and mom of three, shares her comprehensive system for personal planning that's become a game-changer for countless women.
Cherylanne shares her insights on a Content Diet and her 3 step calendar system for busy, two-career homes.
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Connect with Cherylanne
- Want a closer look at Cherylanne’s calendar system? Check out this link: https://brilliant-balance.com/calendar-control
Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[08:25] The importance of scheduling new exercise habits
[12:00] "Floating workouts" for unpredictable schedules
[20:15] Tiffany Sauder's six-week trial of new planning techniques
[30:47] Applying the 80-20 principle to household tasks
[37:10] Finding the right social circle and community
Ever wondered if it's truly possible to "have it all" as a working parent?
In this episode, Tiffany vulnerably shares her journey to becoming a working mom. It’s a candid exploration of her internal conflicts, societal pressures, and the resilience required to build a successful business amidst financial crises. We hope you’re inspired by her reflections on the harsh and often critical societal expectations of motherhood, and how she forged her own path to find fulfillment both in her career and as a loving mother.
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[05:12] Small-town upbringing and traditional expectations
[11:30] Meeting her husband and balancing early career
[20:15] Becoming a working mom
[30:18] Growth and resilience in marriage and business
[41:28] Realizing a deep connection with her children
[44:00] Navigating personal success and marital dynamics
Is it possible to live a life filled with abundant opportunities without feeling overwhelmed?
On this special episode, Tiffany dives into the heart of balancing a multifaceted life with her three older daughters, Aubrey (15), Ainsley (13), and Ivy (8). Recorded on Tiffany’s birthday, the Sauder girls open up about living in a family that embraces the “Life of And” — a philosophy of pursuing multiple passions and roles simultaneously.
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[01:05] Meet the Sauder girls
[03:30] Understanding "Life of And"
[04:32] Daily life in a busy household
[07:34] Differing roles of mom and dad
[11:26] Sibling relationships and support
[15:45] More than just dinner
[18:24] One word to define the Sauder family
[20:20] Future aspirations: exploring careers and ambitions
Ever wondered why you feel overwhelmed juggling family, career, and personal well-being?
In this episode, Tiffany dives into the world of un(Balanced) life characters, focusing on the 'Grumpy Servant.’ Discover the essential strategies to prevent slipping into this persona when life's demands seem insurmountable.
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Like this series? Check out the other un(Balanced) Character episodes here:
- The Pursuit of Balance
- Who is your (un)Balanced Character?
- Navigating your un(Balanced) Life Character: The Lonely Acheiver (add links once episode goes live on 8/12)
- Navigating your un(Balanced) Life Character: The Fearful Loyalist (add links once episode goes live on 8/19)
Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[03:49] The fear of imbalance
[04:31] Recap of the Lonely Achiever and the Fearful Loyalist characters
[05:18] Diving into the Grumpy Servant persona
[08:04] Balancing work and family life
[09:38] Managing household chores and parenting
[10:19] Juggling work, parenting, and personal goals
[12:37] Importance of self-care alongside family and career
[14:09] Challenge to make time for oneself and its impact on relationships
[16:15] Practical tips for finding time for self-care
[17:40] Staying out of the Grumpy Servant space
Ever wondered how to balance professional fulfillment and parenting without the guilt?
In this special episode, Michelle Gambs speaks with Emily Schwalbach, a mom of two young boys and the inspiring mind behind a successful online business dedicated to authenticity on social media. Together, they dive deep into the universal struggle of "mommy guilt" and the intricate balance between work life and motherhood.
If you want to learn more from Michelle, reach out here: https://www.michellegambs.com/contact. Tell her Tiffany sent you.
For more from Michelle:
- Pro tips on managing chores in your home with Michelle Gambs: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/pro-tips-on-managing-chores-in-your-home-with-michelle-gambs/id1555762235?i=1000662614525
- No such thing as perfect parenting with Michelle Gambs: https://podcasts.apple.com/no/podcast/no-such-thing-as-perfect-parenting-with-michelle-gambs/id1555762235?i=1000659616660
Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[02:30] Setting household rules and creating specific environments for kids
[05:15] Balancing food choices
[11:05] Practical tips for encouraging kids to try new foods
[14:20] Mom guilt and the struggle of balancing work with parenting
[17:55] Managing technology and screen time
[21:30] The changing dynamics and characteristics of firstborn and youngest children
[24:50] Authenticity in business and social media use
[27:15] Finding the right balance for the best parenting outcome
[29:50] Parenting's impact on child development and the importance of quality time
Ever felt stuck, anxious, and scared when thinking about balancing your family, self, and career?
In this episode, Tiffany dives deep into the concept of the "Fearful Loyalist," one of the three un(Balanced) life characters. Discover how fear can dominate your mind and keep you from reaching your true potential.
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Like this series? Check out the other un(Balanced) Character episodes here:
- The Pursuit of Balance
- Who is your (un)Balanced Character?
- Navigating your un(Balanced) Life Character: The Lonely Acheiver (add links once episode goes live on 8/12)
- Navigating your un(Balanced) Life Character: The Grumpy Servant (add links once episode goes live on 8/26)
Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[02:43] Fearful Loyalist: Definition and symptoms
[07:46] Dealing with feelings of being stuck and anxious
[10:30] Creating incremental career tests and managing fear
[17:05] Building confidence in the face of fear
[20:24] Detailing boundaries and realistic planning
[24:05] Seeking support to overcome the fearful mindset
Ever wondered how you can look and feel your best every single day without breaking the bank?
In this episode, Tiffany shares practical tips to make your life easier, your wardrobe smarter, and your confidence soar. You’ll hear about Tiffany’s deep-rooted passion for clothes as she provides her insightful seven hacks to find clothes that not only fit well but make you feel incredible.
Tune in for a motivational burst of wisdom, packed with actionable advice to elevate your everyday look and boost your self-esteem. Remember, looking good is not just about vanity; it's about expressing yourself confidently and feeling comfortable in your own skin.
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[01:01] Sewing with her mom and participation in 4-H
[02:09] Self-expression and feeling comfortable
[02:43] "Dress to forget yourself"
[03:18] Starting the seven tips to find clothes that look great on you
[04:01] Tip 1: Follow influencers with the same hair and skin color
[06:26] Tip 2: Column dressing for a long and lean look
[08:55] Tip 3: Take pictures of outfits you love and save them
[10:23] Tip 4: Know what you look good in and repeat it
[12:16] Tip 5: Do a huge try-on from your closet periodically
[14:04] Tip 6: Don't be afraid of mail ordering a ton of stuff
[15:45] Tip 7: Buy things before you need them to avoid panic purchases
Are you feeling isolated in your pursuit of success? You're not alone.
In this episode, Tiffany shares into the concept of another un(Balanced) character, the "Lonely Achiever" and explores the pitfalls of prioritizing career and self over family. If you've ever felt like no one understands the pressures you face or how to balance the extraordinary with the ordinary, this episode is for you. Tiffany not only identifies these challenges but also provides practical strategies to help you reconnect with your loved ones without sacrificing your goals.
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Like this series? Check out the other un(Balanced) Character episodes here:
- The Pursuit of Balance
- Who is your (un)Balanced Character?
- Navigating your un(Balanced) Life Character: The Fearful Loyalist (add links once episode goes live on 8/19)
- Navigating your un(Balanced) Life Character: The Grumpy Servant (add links once episode goes live on 8/26)
Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[01:45] Defining the "Life of And" with the Venn diagram – career, self, and family
[02:33] Introducing the "Lonely Achiever"
[04:17] The three unbalanced characters
[06:11] Characteristics of the "Lonely Achiever"
[09:59] Strategies for engaging with kids
[12:10] Emphasizing connection through parental interests
[15:17] Encouraging mother's acceptance of multitasking
[18:01] Providing grace to oneself when balancing family and work
Are you struggling to balance the demands of family, career, and personal aspirations?
On this episode, Tiffany and J.R. dive into a listener Q&A session. They explore how they balance their demanding careers, family life, and personal goals. J.R. shares his journey to becoming more intentional with his time, while Tiffany reflects on their teamwork and the trade-offs of their lifestyle.
You’ll also hear their challenges of not always being present for every event, the guilt of pursuing personal ambitions, and the importance of planning and support.
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[01:41] Balancing personal information and confidentiality
[02:36] Intentionality in balancing time with wife, kids, and friends
[05:25] Importance of being thoughtful and planning interactions
[08:42] Handling travel and career demands relative to family
[10:47] Managing guilt about being away for goals and dreams
[17:12] Taking risks and managing opportunities within the family
[19:17] Team dynamics in marriage and addressing conflicts
Just because the answer is NO doesn’t mean you are wrong in asking.
In this introspective and motivational episode of Scared Confident, join Tiffany Sauder as she explores the impactful lessons learned from a simple parenting epiphany. Tiffany delves into the importance of saying 'no' and how it can be a powerful tool in fostering self-confidence and resilience in our children. Through a heartfelt conversation she had with her daughter, Tiffany uncovers the societal pressures that make us apologize for merely asking and the importance of dismantling those habits.
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[00:39] Apologizing after “no”
[01:58] The hair color debate
[03:47] Teaching to handle rejection without feeling guilty
[04:28] The importance of asking confidently regardless of the answer
[05:12] Accepting "no" with confidence and courage
Have you ever felt trapped by the life you’ve accidentally created instead of living the life you truly desire?
In this episode, Tiffany reflects on her journey to living her “Life of And”—a life filled with purpose, flexibility, and abundance. She shares four pivotal, yet uncommon decisions that propelled her towards this ideal life, offering you practical insights and motivation for your journey.
By the end of this episode, you'll be equipped with strategies to reclaim your time, make purposeful decisions, and step into a life you consciously create—balancing ambition with family, self-care with career, and passion with practicality. Remember, it’s the uncommon choices that lead to uncommon outcomes.
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[01:40] Concept of "Life of And"
[02:33] Importance of Uncommon Decisions
[03:15] Uncommon Decision 1: Working While Kids Were Young
[07:11] Uncommon Decision 2: Being Maniacal About Time
[14:07] Uncommon Decision 3: Paying for Services Instead of Things
[17:29] Uncommon Decision 4: Prioritizing Yourself
[22:52] Make uncommon choices to avoid feeling trapped by a life you did not intentionally create
[23:30] Final thoughts on the importance of stepping into uncommon choices
Wondering if you should keep pushing for more or finally rest on your laurels?
In this episode, Tiffany answers an intriguing listener question that explores the crossroads of success and personal growth. Tiffany brings her unique blend of vulnerability and expertise as she shares her personal journey from leading a thriving marketing agency, Element Three, to embarking on a new venture that fuels her passion for continuous growth and helping others.
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[00:33] Pivoting from a successful business to a new venture
[02:11] Recognizing the need for growth and new challenges
[04:10] The balance between personal growth and professional success
[05:13] Staying authentic while pursuing new endeavors
Lindsay Tjepkema is leaving her CEO position at Casted, a company that she’s spent years building and sacrificing for, and moving to Boston to support her husband’s career. Amidst this big life change for her family, she’s taking a break from her big career to focus on creative projects and building a personal brand. While exciting things are on the horizon, it doesn’t mean it’s without anxiety or uncertainty.
In this episode, Lindsay shares the courage required to embrace change. You’ll hear Tiffany and Lindsay explore the challenges of maintaining open communication, the significance of faith and surrender, and the value of resilience in the face of uncertainty.
Tune in as they delve into the importance of mutual support, the art of balancing work and family life, and the empowering notion of being "scared confident."
Whether you're navigating your own career moves or seeking inspiration to face life's uncertainties, this episode offers profound insights and heartfelt stories to encourage and uplift.
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Connect with Lindsay
Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[01:15] Moving from Indianapolis to Boston
[05:45] Embracing uncertainty and surrendering control
[08:30] Discussing the move with kids
[14:50] Balancing work and family responsibilities
[20:05] Facing fear and gaining confidence through faith
[33:45] Pursuing creative projects and taking a break
[38:20] Lindsay's final thoughts
Ever caught yourself bringing work frustrations home?
In this episode, Tiffany unpacks practical strategies to ensure your home remains a sanctuary, even after the most challenging days at work. Tune in to hear her tips for leaving your work frustrations at work and not bringing them home to the family.
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[00:31] How do you avoid taking work stress home?
[02:03] Communicating needs to family
[03:49] Taking personal time to decompress
[05:04] Long hugs and the science of physical touch
[06:25] The importance of analyzing persistent stress patterns
[07:17] Addressing relationship dynamics and building boundaries
[08:25] Final thoughts on protecting family from work stress
What are the benefits to children when they contribute meaningfully to the family environment?
According to parent coach Michelle Gambs, there are quite a few. In this episode, she dives deep into the art and science of managing chores and responsibilities in your household. She explains how important it is for kids to take on tasks suited to their age, and why allowing them to struggle through these responsibilities is vital for their growth.
Tune in for actionable advice on setting up a chore system that works for both parents and kids.
If you want to learn more from Michelle, reach out here: https://www.michellegambs.com/contact. Tell her Tiffany sent you.
Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[01:00] Parenting During the Summer
[02:38] Children Contributing Through Chores
[03:50] Visualization of a Task-Age Graph for Teaching Responsibility
[08:24] Michelle's Tips for Implementing Chores
[13:05] Setting Boundaries and Using Natural Consequences for Accountability
[16:34] Combining Chores and Allowance Without Direct Link
Have you ever wondered what simple acts might deepen your bond with your kids?
In this episode, Tiffany shares the two game-changing secrets to cultivating a closer, more meaningful relationship with your children. Through her own personal stories and insightful reflections, Tiffany explains the profound impact of these practices and how they've transformed her interaction with her kids, even on the most chaotic days.
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[00:35] The importance of apologizing to your kids
[03:42] Why apologizing sets a good example and helps maintain alignment with family values
[05:03] Speaking to kids in a loving tone, even during discipline
[06:59] Effects of the parental tone of voice on children's behavior toward each other
[07:16] Advice on practicing kindness and giving meaningful hugs to kids
In this episode, Jackie Hermes, the CEO of Accelity, joins Tiffany to discuss how they're growing and evolving both at work and at home. Jackie shares a big step she's taken recently—promoting a long-time team member to shareholder and partner, marking a transformative moment in her company's leadership. She and Tiffany really dig into why trust is so crucial when you're moving team members into big roles and how it's changed the way they lead.
Jackie also gets real about being a working mom and the wonderful, diverse family she’s created with her kids, both biological and adopted. She lets us in on what parenting looks like for her day-to-day and the deep impact adoption has had on her family. They don't shy away from the tough topics either, like dealing with uncertainty, the need to take a break for personal growth, and how they manage to keep a balance between their personal well-being and their professional lives.
This episode is a must-listen for anyone drawn to stories of leadership, family, and the courage to shape a fulfilling destiny while maintaining a supportive home and work environment.
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Connect with Jackie
- Website
Timestamps: [00:00] Intro
[03:53] Embracing unpredictability
[08:26] What got your attention?
[12:11] Giving yourself permission to say no
[15:20] Deciding to put a president in place
[19:06] Journey as a working mom
[21:25] The beauty of adoption
[26:13] Living a life of And
[31:23] What advice would you give to your 24 year old self?
[33:17] Connect with Jackie
Have you ever wondered what truly sets successful people apart from the rest?
In this episode, Tiffany explores the incredible impact of mindset on our lives and the unseen ways it can either unlock or limit our potential. Drawing on personal experiences, Tiffany takes a deep dive into the transformative power of believing in yourself and your vision, no matter how uphill the journey may seem.
Tune in for an inspirational and conversational episode that will motivate you and equip you with the tools to wear confidence as your daily accessory.
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[00:01] The power of mindset as a competitive advantage
[01:40] How mindset affects personal and professional abilities
[03:06] Believing in the possibility of success
[03:30] Internal ownership of confidence and success
[04:16] Identifying where mindset may be hindering progress
[04:59] The importance of spreading confidence and positivity
Have you ever wondered what it truly means to live a life in balance?
In this episode, Tiffany explores the meaning behind living a Life of And—a life where personal fulfillment, family, and career all coexist harmoniously. You’ll hear strategies for attaining balance and avoiding becoming an (un)Balanced Character: The Grumpy Servant, Fearful Loyalist and Lonely Achiever.
Whether you're an overachieving professional, a devoted family member, or someone trying to find time for self-care, this episode provides invaluable insights and practical tools to help you create a more abundant, fulfilling life.
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Additional Resources
- Want to hear more on the concept of balance? Check out this episode (link balance episode)
- Link to (un)Balanced Character diagram: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1PtQQdXRPRAXytaFWhACsgA4jwXPJm2aj/view?usp=sharing
- Minimums episode: https://www.tiffanysauder.com/scared-confident/the-power-of-minimums-achieving-more-with-less-stress
Timestamps:
[00:00] Components of a balanced life
[02:03] Tiffany’s journey to proactively controlling balance in life
[03:03] Defining self, family, and career within a Venn diagram
[04:59] Aligning priorities and values for sustained balance
[07:08] Identifying the "(un)balanced Characters"
[11:20] Tiffany’s "Grumpy Servant" character and overcoming it
[15:57] The importance of self-awareness
[17:30] Pursuing a balanced life and making thoughtful choices
Is your life truly in balance?
In this episode, Tiffany talks about the concept of balance and making it attainable for everyone. She’ll unpack her own definition of balance—living a life 100% aligned with your values and priorities—and shares actionable insights on how to achieve it amidst life’s chaos.
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- Click here to see the Balance Graph Tiffany refers to in the episode.
- If you’d like to be facilitated through defining your values and priorities, join the Life of And Academy waitlist. You’ll be the first to know when we open it back up.
Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[01:08] Is your life in balance?
[02:47] Struggles with balance
[04:07] Redefining balance
[05:05] Tiffany's definition of balance
[08:07] Addressing misalignment
[10:25] Visualizing balance
[14:37] Values vs. Priorities
[18:41] Aligning with values and priorities
Are you ready to take control of summer chaos and bring more ease into your life? Join Tiffany in this mini-episode of Scared Confident for practical tips to reclaim your sanity.
Tiffany shares essential strategies to manage midsummer madness, from the ten-minute pick-and-put routine to prepping fruits and veggies, creating a daily agenda, and planning family fun weekends.
Tune in for actionable steps to bring balance and joy to your daily routine.
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[00:22] Ten-Minute Pick and Put
[01:18] Fruit and Veggie Prep
[02:26] Creating an Agenda for the Day
[03:55] Weekend Chore List
Is there really such a thing as perfect parenting, or is there a more fulfilling path to improvement?
In this special episode, Michelle Gambs, renowned parenting and life coach, shares her insight on improving as a parent, not striving for perfection. She reminds us that it's okay to be imperfect and that the real goal is continuous improvement. If you’ve ever felt the weight of trying to do it all perfectly—balancing careers, businesses, and a bustling household—this episode is for you.
If you want to learn more from Michelle, reach out here: https://www.michellegambs.com/contact. Tell her Tiffany sent you.
Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[02:29] Summer Parenting Stress and Leaning on Experts
[04:19] Improvement, not Perfection
[07:06] From Reluctant to Devoted Parenting Educator
[11:37] Prioritizing Parenting Issues
[15:08] Options A to D in Parenting Responses
[17:27] Managing Parenting Stress
[18:14] Encouragement for Continuous Improvement
Small expressions of gratitude can transform your hectic week into a harmonious balance of work and home life.
Join Tiffany in this episode as she shares an intimate glimpse into her own busy, two-career household. From managing appointments and responsibilities to cherishing moments of genuine appreciation, Tiffany provides real-life strategies to foster gratitude and create a nurturing home environment.
Whether you're navigating the demands of a robust career or striving to cultivate a loving and supportive home, this episode offers valuable insights to help you manage both without feeling overwhelmed.
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Timestamps:
[00:01] A chaotic week
[01:36] Acknowledgement and gratitude
[02:49] Two-career household challenges
[04:12] Creating home and comfort
[06:45] Finding balance
[07:34] Encouragement and hope
Ever wonder, "When does being a working mom get easier?"
In this episode, Tiffany dives deep into this question, sharing her personal experiences and hard-earned wisdom. As an entrepreneur, CEO, wife, and mom of four, Tiffany reveals that while life may never be "easy," it can be peaceful and fulfilling when you embrace your choices.
Here are the important takeaways:
- Embrace Your Choice: Firmly decide what you want and stick to it.
- Understand Guilt: Use guilt as a guide, not a mandate.
- Build Your Toolbox: Equip yourself with the right tools and support systems.
- Reject the Illusion of Ease: No path is easy, but every path has its rewards.
Tune in now to start creating a life of AND that you love!
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[01:48] The reality of different mom roles
[03:36] Deciding what you want
[04:35] Building your toolbox
[06:29] Understanding and managing your guilt
[11:45] External expectations vs. internal desires
[13:44] Living with your choices
[14:21] Guilt as a guide, not a mandate
[15:16] Rechoosing your path in different seasons
[17:02] The illusion of an easy path
Are you reacting to change or proactively creating it in your life?
In this episode, Tiffany dives into the power of proactive change. She explores how to shift from merely reacting to life’s changes to actively creating the life you desire.
Here's what you'll discover:
- Reactive vs. Proactive Change: How to identify and harness both.
- Building Proactive Habits: Tips to cultivate a proactive mindset.
- The Power of Prioritization: How saying "no" can lead to more meaningful "yeses."
- Creating Room for Growth: Practical strategies for organizing your life to welcome new opportunities.
Tune in to start making proactive change happen!
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[00:07] Exploring the concept of change: reactive vs. proactive
[01:31] Discussing changes that are part of life’s infrastructure
[02:50] Importance of cultivating the ability to create change
[05:12] Practical strategies to organize life for new opportunities
Do you long to cultivate conversation, connection, and community?
In this episode Tiffany talks with Karen Mangia, an accomplished professional and author of "Sundays with Salvator," written with her 100-year-old grandfather. Karen shares insights on living a fulfilled, intentional life, drawing from her diverse experiences at major corporations and as a trained chef and writer.
Here’s what you’ll learn:
- Contentment vs. Chasing Metrics: Why choosing contentment over vanity metrics leads to fulfillment.
- Intentional Living: How to make choices that align with your values and avoid overcommitment.
- Traditions and Connection: The importance of family traditions in fostering community.
- Overcoming Fear: Practical strategies for managing fear through journaling, exercise, and mental fitness.
- Positive Intelligence: Using the Positive Intelligence framework to focus on positive outcomes.
- Empowerment through Choice: Making intentional pauses to reflect your true priorities.
- Balancing Life: Tips for balancing professional achievements with personal well-being.
Karen’s wisdom provides listeners with actionable advice for a balanced, abundant life.
Tune in to start your journey toward contentment and intentional living.
Resources:
- Connect with Karen
- Check out Karen’s book: Sundays With Salvator: 52 Recipes To Cultivate Conversation, Connection, And Community
- Take the Saboteur assessment
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[01:43] Meet Karen
[02:15] ‘Sundays with Salvator’ book
[07:05] Importance of Sunday dinners and maintaining traditions
[09:49] Intentional living and prioritizing commitments
[11:19] Making intentional choices to avoid overcommitment
[16:32] Contentment is the most worthwhile wealth
[18:27] The tightrope between contentment and achievement
[24:09] Karen’s experiences with managing fear
[29:30] The Ten Saboteurs
In this minisode, Tiffany’s mom, Wendy, gives advice about navigating life's seasons. Wendy shares her wisdom on giving yourself grace through each stage of life, from raising children to facing an empty nest. She emphasizes the importance of being kind to yourself and recognizing whether a challenge is a temporary project or a permanent situation. Tiffany and Wendy discuss practical tips for managing both "too much" and "too little" seasons, and the value of initiating help or service when you have the capacity. This episode is filled with relatable advice and comforting insights for anyone experiencing transitions and seeking balance in their lives.
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[00:06] Life's changing seasons
[01:20] Navigating "too much" and "too little" seasons
[02:05] Differentiating between project and permanent challenges
[03:17] Final advice
Are you prepared for summer break?
In this episode, Tiffany shares tips for managing a busy summer in a two-career home while balancing your career and family life.
Get ready to hear advice on:
- Identifying your family priorities
- Involving your kids in meal planning
- Updating kid zones
- Making time for yourself to enjoy the season
- Creating a visible schedule to reduce daily stress
Tune in for a personable and relatable discussion on how to navigate the challenges of summer as a working parent and make the most of this vibrant season.
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[01:13] Preparing for summer chaos
[01:51] Managing family summer schedules
[02:29] Setting family priorities
[03:39] Planning summer activities
[04:38] Involving kids in planning
[05:19] Ensuring self-care in summer
[06:49] Updating key kid zones
[08:49] Managing food and meal planning
[10:44] Shopping at Goodwill for projects
Have you ever felt the frustration of doing everything right but still feeling like it's not enough?
In this episode, Tiffany opens up about her struggle with impatience as she shifts her professional focus. Despite hitting all her first-quarter goals, she feels restless and frustrated with the pace of progress.
Drawing inspiration from a passage in James Clear's "Atomic Habits," she reflects on the importance of focusing on the journey rather than immediate results. Tiffany shares her personal challenges of staying patient and consistent, whether it’s in fitness, business, or personal growth.
Take a look at your own path. Are you focused on staying committed and trusting the process, even when progress feels slow? Tune in for an authentic discussion on managing impatience and embracing the journey.
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[00:47] Meeting goals, feeling restless
[00:47] "Atomic Habits" passage
[03:03] Challenges of staying patient
[03:53] Focus on trajectory, commitment
Are you ready to design a Life of And you love?
Tiffany sits down for a coaching session with Kate House, an Empowerment Coach and Behavior Change Specialist. They dive into "setting goals with soul," a unique approach to goal setting that focuses on making goals aspirational, attainable, meaningful, and seasonally appropriate.
Tiffany shares personal challenges in her two-career home, and Kate offers her wisdom, guiding Tiffany through practical steps to align her daily life with her core values and long-term dreams. As they chat, Kate’s insightful and down-to-earth advice helps Tiffany manage her feelings of overwhelm and cultivate a sense of presence and clarity.
This episode gives listeners an intimate peek into Kate’s coaching process and provides relatable strategies for designing a life you love.
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Connect with Kate
- 1:1 Coaching
- Live by Design Collective
Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[00:18] Kate's journey and Tiffany's roles
[01:27] Goals with soul
[03:15] Kate's intentional living transition
[06:37] Proactive change and inner tugs
[10:18] Establishing feelings and intentions
[14:15] Clarity in challenges vs. abundance
[18:42] Tangible actions and quarterly goals
[23:54] Defining daily/weekly habits
[29:36] Connect with Kate
[31:05] Tips from a two-career home
[33:30] The recap
In this minisode, Tiffany explores the rejuvenating power of friendships. She shares a few stories about how rekindling friendships has infused her life with joy and energy, highlighting the importance of carving out time for these essential connections amidst our packed schedules. She provides practical tips on how to blend social time with routine activities like jogging or group fitness classes, and underscores the impact of simple gestures of kindness among friends.
This episode inspires listeners to actively make time for friends and reconsider the priority these vital relationships hold in our lives.
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[00:01] The value of spending time with friends
[00:40] We forget we need to make time for friends
[01:41] The life-giving power of laughter and friendships
[02:33] Practical tips for incorporating friendships into existing routines
[03:08] The impact of small gestures
In building a Life of And, we all go through seasons of highs and seasons of lows.
Join Tiffany on a deeply personal journey as she reflects on a low season in her life, a period marked by both personal and professional challenges.
Tiffany shares invaluable lessons on resilience, patience, and the power of intuition. Drawing from her own experiences, she offers practical advice on navigating tough times while staying true to your dreams.
This episode isn't just about weathering the storm—it's about emerging stronger and wiser on the other side. Tiffany's words serve as a beacon of hope, reminding us that even in our darkest moments, there's always room for growth and transformation.
If you’d like to hear more tips and encouragement for challenging times in your business and life, watch Tiffany’s Keynote on YouTube here.
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[01:11] Hard seasons of life and business
[02:50] A letter to myself in 2018
[05:21] Patience is your friend
[05:55] Learning from Experienced Leaders
[07:10] Trusting Your Gut Instinct as a Leader
[08:35] The Relevance and Resilience of Your Dreams
[11:40] Debating the Need for External Financial Aid
[14:33] Closing Thoughts: Persistence and Vision in Tough Times
In this minisode, Tiffany tackles the theme of sacrifice and future planning. Sparked by a recently asked question, Tiffany shares how she balanced immediate desires with long-term goals. This episode isn't just about financial foresight; it's a broader look at how disciplined choices impact our futures. Tiffany gives an honest take on making tough decisions and advocates for a long-term perspective to validate present sacrifices.
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[00:42] What are you willing to give up to get what you want?
[01:42] Example of saving for a house
[03:49] Making decisions in their twenties for their forties
[05:16] Falling in love with your future
In honor of Mother’s Day, Tiffany is joined by her mom, Wendy, who shares her rich life journey, from managing a home business and raising four children to now enjoying an active retirement filled with travel, community involvement, and continuous personal growth. Tiffany and Wendy warmly guide us through juggling family responsibilities and personal care, showing us how to enrich our lives with more "ands" without wearing ourselves out.
This isn't just a mother-daughter chat; it's a heartfelt lesson on handling life's phases with grace, resilience, and a sprinkle of humor, proving it's possible to pursue growth at any stage of life. Whether you're tackling a busy career, strengthening family bonds, or both, their open and honest conversation offers both inspiration and practical tips for flourishing in every part of your life.
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[06:30] Managing overwhelming yet thoughtful gift-giving
[07:47] Balancing daily routines, prioritizing rest and family
[11:38] Empowering women in their roles and opportunities
[15:07] Embracing risk, hard work, and overcoming challenges
[18:32] Active retirement: Travel and family time
[20:07] Comparing generational roles
[25:20] Advice from Wendy
[27:58] Importance of attitude and exercise for well-being
[30:19] Always express gratitude, conquer fear, and stay confident
In this minisode, Tiffany gives us a witty look into the chaotic world of parenting and the lessons learned. She shares the story about her daughter's impromptu decision to join the track team and the learning curve of navigating track meets. She paints a vivid picture of the family's amusing adventure, from getting to grips with the culture of watching track events to encountering a no-nonsense ticket lady. Tiffany acknowledges the beauty in the chaos of family life and the importance of maintaining a positive attitude, even in less-than-ideal situations.
Tune in to discover how to embrace your family's unique dynamics, adapt to life's challenges, and find joy in the quirks of everyday life.
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[00:49] Navigating our first track meet
[01:34] Entertaining the littles
[02:35] Handling unpredictable moments with positivity
[03:41] Be weird
In this relatable episode, Tiffany dives into the real-world challenges of balancing a career and parenting, especially on those curveball days when the kids are under the weather. Tiffany opens up about her personal tricks and routines to keep on top of work commitments while making sure her children feel nurtured and comforted. She shares invaluable tips for working moms and dads, especially those in dual-career families, reinforcing that it’s totally doable to handle parental responsibilities without putting your career on hold.
Join Tiffany as she offers a warm and practical guide to managing one of parenting’s inevitable challenges—sick kiddos.
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[01:13] Managing Sick Kids
[03:12] Acknowledging Challenges, Setting Minimums
[06:05] Pre-deciding Parental Duties
[14:22] Tools for Medical Emergencies
In this minisode, Tiffany invites you to explore the personal strategies she and her husband use to nurture their partnership and successfully manage their family life. As they celebrate their 19th anniversary, Tiffany unveils how they integrate quarterly relationship check-ins into their routine, perfectly balancing enjoyment with productive discussions about their family's future and needs. From instilling financial savvy in their daughters to planning exciting future trips, Tiffany shares the positive impact of this approach and offers listeners actionable advice on how to adapt these practices in their own relationships.
Tune in to learn how to seamlessly combine fun with functionality and make the most of your quality time together, ensuring that life's responsibilities are met with both love and foresight.
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In this episode, Tiffany navigates the quick turnaround between a family spring break and an upcoming work trip. She shares the five key strategies she employs to ensure her family operates smoothly in her absence.
Join Tiffany as she reveals the contents of a mom's backpack post-vacation, the unique requests of her daughters for the week, and the crucial importance of a family meeting. Tackling the notion of guilt and offering a powerful reframe on apologies to our children, Tiffany challenges the norm and fosters resilience and self-reliance within her family.
Learn how to execute your own version of a seamless "handoff" when duty calls you away from home.
- Link to editable Travel Plan
- Link to printable Travel Plan with Tiffany's example
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[01:24] Back from spring break and leaving again
[03:37] 5 ways to prep the kids before a work trip
[08:51] The COO of the household
[14:49] Pursuing a career and fulfilling your commitments
In this episode of Scared Confident, Tiffany openly and humorously recounts her unexpected journey through physical therapy and dry needling. Her story serves as a powerful metaphor for proactively tackling life's challenges.
This episode offers a blend of personal stories and life lessons, all framed by the theme of spring, symbolizing renewal and growth. If you're looking for motivation and inspiration to deal with life's minor troubles early on, listen in.
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Spring break prep
[00:38] Seeking physical therapy
[1:59] Dry needling experience
[04:59] The benefit of catching it early
[07:05] The joys of spring
How can the art of intentional living transform your marriage and personal growth?
In a heartfelt conversation on Scared Confident, Tiffany and her husband, J.R., dive deep into the nuances of nurturing a long-term marriage amidst the whirlwinds of a fast-paced life. With nineteen years of partnership under their belt, they unpack their annual marriage checkup – a ritual rooted in honest reflection and mutual understanding.
This episode peels back the layers of their relationship, examining how they've sustained their connection and navigated the ebb and flow of life's demands together.
Resources:
- Link to download: Marriage Checkin
- Link to last year’s podcast: Things we’re still learning after 18 years of marriage
- Link to Implied Expectations vs Explicit Agreements video: YouTube
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[09:30] Where is our marriage right now?
[08:28] New experiences create Mack truck moments
[14:56] Support, intentional effort, and sacrifices
[16:49] Understanding, communication, and consistency is key for relationships
[19:17] How to balance work and family during busy times
[22:42] Jealousy can lead to faster problem-solving
[28:03] Turning implied expectations into explicit agreements is key
[36:37] Choose your perspective, and be mindful of its impact
[38:41] Closing
Step into a moment of reflection with Tiffany on this reflective minisode as she shares how the poem 'Our Deepest Fear' by Marianne Williamson transformed her understanding of fear and encouraged her to stop playing small.
Join her on a personal exploration of fear — not as mere hesitation but as something that held back her true potential. Through the powerful words of this poem, Tiffany offers a pause for thought, encouraging you to tap back into the fearless confidence and pure self-expression we all remember from childhood. Releasing fear not only frees you, but also shines a guiding light for others, helping them overcome their own self-doubt.
This episode is an invitation to face your fears head-on, to rediscover your inner light, and to courageously step into a life that truly reflects who you are.
If you've never listened to Tiffany's first ever episode on Scared Confident -- her Fear Interview with Nathaniel McGuire -- check it out here
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[00:40] How this poem impacted me
[01:51] ‘Our Deepest Fear’ by Marianne Williamson
[03:23] We’re meant to shine as children do
[04:17] Where are you holding back?
Why do we cling to our problems like they’re part of us?
In this minisode, Tiffany explores the transformative journey of releasing the safety nets of familiar ruts and patterns that hold us back. She touches on the reluctance to address problems and change established patterns due to fear of work, failure, or simply not knowing what to replace them with.
Offering personal insights and steps for moving forward, like prioritizing relationships and breaking negative cycles, she motivates us to find the courage to shed the habits that don't align with our truest selves.
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[00:32] People can be protective of their problems
[02:10] We become rooted in ruts
[05:46] Where we are is not okay [06:14] Having the courage to let go
We often forget how little control our kids have.
Of course, they rebel and challenge; that’s the only control they have.
In this episode, Tiffany shares her chat with parenting coach Michelle Gambs, where they dig into three game-changing techniques that completely shifted Tiffany's approach to parenting.
They talk about the difference between consequences and punishments, how to empower your kids to own up to their actions, and ways to build respect in your family. Discover how these valuable insights can help you navigate the challenges of parenting with confidence and grace.
Because let's face it, when your kids feel respected and understood, they start feeling like they've got more say in their own lives.
If you missed the parenting episode with Michelle, check it out here.
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Unsure how to find more time in your life for the things that truly matter to you?
In this week's episode of Scared Confident, Tiffany shares a radical and time-saving piece of advice: stop doing your laundry. She challenges the conventional view of household chores and offers an alternative approach to reclaiming time and energy.
For her, outsourcing laundry has had a significant impact on her life as a busy mother and professional. She explores the various options available for delegating this never-ending task and emphasizes the value of allocating time to activities that align with your unique strengths and priorities.
Reclaim your time and free yourself from the burden of never-ending laundry. And if you've never tried Poplin, it's time to give it a go. Check it out here and get tips on how to make your experience the best here.
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[06:06] Schedule, communicate, and connect with laundry pro
[08:49] Impeccable customer service and peace of mind
[12:32] Teaches financial responsibility and time management
[14:32] Prioritize your time over mundane tasks like laundry
Wear whatever feels good, even if it means rocking a pair of purple boots.
Tiffany opens up about her own experiences and fears during her recent talk at Butler University. She dives into the challenges of her early 20s, sparking a conversation about intimidation and authenticity. One key takeaway was how crucial it is to stay true to yourself, especially when it comes to how you present yourself to the world. If you are comfortable, you make other people comfortable.
It's all about being approachable, whether it's in our personal lives or at work. It’s a nice little nudge to be kind to ourselves, acknowledge our quirks, and go through life with authenticity, comfort, and openness.
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[01:00] Wearing what makes you comfortable is important
[06:35] Acknowledging intimidating traits and softening your edges
[07:54] Creating genuine connections
[08:50] Closing
Tiffany shares how she kicked fear to the curb and took the plunge into the unknown. There is power in starting something new and embracing the discomfort of being a beginner. Everyone is a beginner at some point.
She addresses the internal dialogue of fear and the impactful statement she crafted to combat it in her premiere episode: I am not Fear, shedding light on the effect of focusing on serving others rather than dwelling on self-doubt.
See how diving into your creative side can shake things up. You’ll be surprised by how being brave ties into being awesome at what you do. And don’t forget the power of living true to what really matters to you.
Learn to challenge your inner critic and embrace the journey of growth and self-discovery.
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Timestamps:
00:00 Intro
04:19 Overcoming fear to share and communicate her story
07:36 Communicate, connect, achieve, and help others
13:18 Lean on your community and overcome your fears
18:57 Commitment + follow-through lead to competency
22:11 Tiffany’s responsibility is serving; others' opinions don't matter
24:43 Belief in success + helping others = personal growth
24:50 outro
Tiffany shares her experience in managing the hectic schedule of children's sports as a parent. With her daughter's volleyball tournaments and practices often taking her family on long drives and extended periods of waiting, Tiffany reveals her number one tip for keeping her younger children engaged and content during these events.
From creating a curated backpack filled with new and exciting activities to incorporating a variety of fun and affordable items, she provides invaluable insights for other parents navigating similar challenges. Tune in to this insightful minisode for practical tips on making club sports more enjoyable and manageable for the entire family.
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Timestamps:
[00:00:23] Managing younger kids while attending tournaments and practices
[00:01:02] Number one tip for keeping younger kids entertained
[00:02:52] A backpack filled with various activities and snacks
[00:04:49] Closing
Juggling career growth, parenting, and making a meaningful impact often seems overwhelming. In response to a LinkedIn message from Grace VanDenBrink, Tiffany engaged in a virtual coffee chat, leading to an inspiring discussion. Together, they unfold their transformative journeys marked by strategic risk-taking, intentional living, and mastering the delicate art of balance. The conversation dives into the challenges of entrepreneurship, motherhood, and accumulating diverse experiences.
Gain empowerment from their shared encounters with age-related stereotypes, imposter syndrome, and the transformation of youth into an asset. Discover the foundational role of strategic risks, emphasizing that it's not about taking leaps into the unknown but starting small – sometimes the bravest step of all – in building your path to success.
Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[01:52] Grace’s message and what prompted it
[09:22] Reconciling upbringing and future choices and family
[14:39] Work hard, gain experience, trust your instincts
[20:44] Avoiding over-scheduling kids, embracing simple childhood
[29:38] Considering parenthood and its impact on our careers
[39:19] Youth was an advantage, not an insult.
[45:49] Seeking feedback, curiosity, and problem-solving define entrepreneurship.
[56:29] Hindsight reveals the need for cautious decision-making in entrepreneurship
[57:47] Closing
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Hey, how are you doing?
Ever noticed how this question tends to make us think about our recent worries and challenges first? You are not the first to feel this way.
In this minisode, Tiffany’s all about challenging the idea of being overwhelmed by negativity and encourages us to highlight the positives while keeping it real about the challenges.
By flipping our responses to focus on the good stuff, Tiffany shares some personal stories – from dealing with a kid's anxiety to juggling a partner's travel demands. It's a reminder of how intentional responses can seriously shift our outlook and interactions.
See how answering an everyday question a little differently can encourage a mindset of mindfulness and intentional living.
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Sometimes, it takes a good day to really see how far you’ve come.
When it comes to our health, we all tend to set high expectations and unrealistic goals, especially when it comes to how quickly we want to see results.
Tiffany dives into her personal health journey, losing 20 pounds over three years. How did she do it? By setting workout minimums, emphasizing weightlifting for strength, exploring mindful eating habits, a three-bite rule for indulgences, and opting for real food over processed options.
It’s important to create sustainable habits. Setting goals with a heavy focus on restriction is like asking for failure.
Learn from challenging weeks, and remind yourself that life is not a dress rehearsal; embrace your journey and make the most of the present moment.
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Reaching uncommon destinations requires uncommon decisions. If everyone followed the same path, we'd all end up in identical places.
In this minisode, Tiffany confirms that attaining excellence involves pushing beyond the familiar, the comfortable, and the safe – venturing into uncharted territories. Embarking on this journey alone might feel isolating, a sentiment shared by many, including herself.
But through navigating her journey, she realized that acknowledging this loneliness, and vocalizing it could help release its hold.
When moments arise where you question your chosen path, remember: it's not that you're doing it wrong; you're simply on the road to excellence.
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Zach Pello, an entrepreneur and expert in the health wellness and fitness industry, has been Tiffany Sauder’s trainer for three years. A transformational three years which has led to inspiring progress for Tiffany. In this episode, Tiffany and Zach shed light on the power of strength training, especially for women embarking on their fitness journeys later in life. With a focus on progressive overload and the significance of tracking progress, they clarify the relationship between soreness and muscle growth, while highlighting the profound mental and physical benefits of small, consistent steps over time.
Establishing a sense of community and tailoring nutrition and lifestyle choices, with a focus on factors such as the impact of processed foods and strategic meal timing, has played a crucial role in propelling Tiffany forward on her fitness journey. They offer a discussion on the misconceptions around weightlifting and how it fosters not just muscle strength but also functional health and longevity.
Tune in to discover how to build resilience, embrace maintenance, and cultivate a supportive workout environment for a sustainable health transformation.
To learn more about Zach, visit his website or check him out on Instagram @pellofitness
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Introducing Zach
[04:08] Embracing beginner mindset and slow progress
[07:43] Improved gym knowledge and group accountability. Age impacts health and vitality goals
[11:27] Lifting weights improves flexibility and mobility
[14:01] Shift in women's mindset on weight loss
[18:14] Tracking workouts leads to a significant physical impact
[24:14] Measure progress, lift weights, & focus on main exercises
[27:11] Choosing rest will make you stronger
[32:53] Calories absorbed versus calories out
[34:08] Take control, decide, & improve without tracking
[40:33] Join this flexible and inclusive group
In this minisode of Scared Confident, Tiffany gets introspective. The topic? Self-love and its true meaning.
It’s easy to think of indulging in treats and luxurious activities as a form of self-love, but Tiffany questions whether keeping commitments to oneself might be a more powerful expression of self-love. She highlights the idea that long-term, consistent, and persistent investment in personal growth may be the embodiment of self-love.
Tune in to explore the concept of self-love and discover what kind of commitments you want to keep to yourself.
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Personal anecdote and self-love epiphany on the Peloton
[00:46] Self-love is unsexy, long-term commitment, not a box of chocolates
[01:40] Get good at keeping commitments
Erin Diehl effortlessly juggles the roles of a dedicated mom and an innovative entrepreneur, all while keeping her audience in stitches with her seasoned improv comedy skills. She holds the position of CEO at improve it!, an innovative professional development firm committed to fostering laughter, learning, and personal growth in others.
Erin’s passionate endeavors are deeply rooted in themes like radical empathy, the transformative power of humor within the workplace, and the vital practice of self-love, concepts cultivated from a rich tapestry of life experiences, both challenging and triumphant. Erin's zest for life shines through in her mission to elevate others by cultivating joy and unique learning experiences through her company.
Get ready to delve into a discussion filled with hearty laughter, heartfelt stories, and an insightful look into balancing family dynamics, career ambitions, becoming your most authentic self, and the impact of her latest endeavor, her book 'I See You.'
So tune in and join hosts Tiffany Sauder and Erin Diehl as they explore the intricate world of multi-career families and much more on 'Scared Confident.'
To learn more about Erin, visit her website.
Check out her new book, I See You!
Follow Erin on Instagram.
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Timestamps:
[00:18] Intro
[2:17] About Erin
[3:53] Life experience that shaped who she is
[04:55] Using comedy to teach and empower people
[08:16] Being Herself
[11:11] The 3 P’s
[14:23] Struggles of finding identity, burnout
[17:02] Four-day work week with optional Fridays
[20:00] Healing journey led to self-acceptance and love
[24:29] The job that changed her life
[26:14] Improv empathy activity
[31:49] Empath struggles with taking on others' energy
There’s nothing like your 3-year-old repeating back the words you say to them to make you realize that you need a hard mom reset.
insert face palm here, right?
Tiffany shares a recent breakthrough that she had with her 3-year-old who’s been–in her own words–”exhausting”. This simple reframe that she learned from recent guest Michelle Gambs has helped her say “yes” to more things, be more attentive to what she’s saying instead of just reacting, and genuinely enjoy family time even in the most simple moments.
She also shares a hilarious tip for anyone wanting to jump on the latest fashion trend (cargo pants) as well as a practical tip for making progress when tasks feel overwhelming.
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Timestamps:
[00:00] A recap of a recent amazing Sauder family staycation.
[04:47] A parenting ah-ha moment with the littlest Sauder.
[08:39] How to ID your ONE THING to start with.
[12:08] Navigating complexity, striving for excellence through clarity.
[13:35] Flexibility is key to balancing life's demands.
5 o’clock is creeping closer…and it dawns on you: I have no idea what’s for dinner tonight.
We’ve all been here before. In another Solve Session, Tiffany sits down with Taylor–mom of 2 kids under 4–to help her solve her biggest issue: family dinner.
With picky eaters (including her husband) in the mix and 2 careers keeping she and her husband on a tight schedule, she feels like she’s always behind the 8-ball when it comes to what’s for dinner each night. Tiffany shares her tips on creating a family-friendly kitchen environment, establishing reliable backup care for your children, and setting up systems for efficient and varied meal options.
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Timestamps:
[05:57] Balancing kids' needs and school induces stress.
[08:30] Balancing morning routines before starting work.
[15:07] Taylor’s current solves around the home that have been worth it.
[18:42] Encourage regular interactions for familiarity with backup.
[23:02] How to rely on others as kids grow up.
[23:33] Desire for family dinner and planned meals.
[29:05] A formula for solving for dinner.
[32:18] Meal prep tip with various healthy ingredients.
[41:06] Meal prepping for variety in home lunches.
[42:55] Prepping on Sunday makes Mondays less chaotic.
In this candid solo episode of Scared Confident, Tiffany challenges the myth of "balance" and offers a fresh perspective on aligning life's priorities with one's deepest values. Guiding us through the concept of minimums, Tiffany reveals how setting attainable commitments can lead to consistent success. She challenges the fear, survival, and resignation mindsets that often grip working parents, proposing a life of 'and' that celebrates both ambition and joy in every role.
Whether you're a working parent striving for balance or someone seeking to align your life with core values, Tiffany brings real working mom truths and practical wisdom to redefine your 'what' and figure out the 'how'. Tune in to embrace the power of choice and set minimums in your life for maximum impact.
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Sales presentation: understanding and addressing audience mindsets
[06:00] Seeking a sustainable, passionate, impactful life
[08:09] Optimize workout schedule by prioritizing morning routine
[10:57] ‘What’ and ‘how’ are two different questions
[14:23] Struggling to stick to fitness plan, found success
[18:40] Refining values and priorities through life changes
[24:41] Experiment, test, and try new things early
[27:17] Achieving balance by aligning priorities and values
[30:32] Choose what aligns with goals for best life
[31:41] Thanks for joining me on another episode
Amri Kibbler knows all about the challenges working mothers face, and the community they need to engage, support and empower them. In 2014, Amri, the Chief Community Officer of HeyMama, and her cofounder Katya Libin, set out to create what was missing in their own lives as new moms, a social network where women could celebrate both motherhood and their careers. And, it turns out, that was just the beginning of Amri’s learnings on what community meant to her as a working mom. In the years since, she’s faced a cancer diagnosis, hard decisions with her kids, and more.
In this conversation with Tiffany, Amri shares her philosophy for making tough decisions for your family (including a frank conversation on when each of them feel OK disappointing their kids) to managing stress in unexpected times of trial without becoming a victim to it.
Check out the HeyMama community
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Jump Into the Conversation:
[00:00] Balancing motherhood and professional pursuits.
[05:35] Growing self-awareness empowers generational personal growth.
[09:43] Community can be rich, overplayed, and misconceived.
[13:36] Women empower and support each other graciously.
[16:56] Learning to say no was a challenge. [19:26] Mother chooses tough love for daughter's growth.
[23:14] Prioritizing health and well-being through intentional self-care.
[25:03] Obsessed with keeping kitchen clean for peace.
[30:43] Connect with experts, set meetings, access events.
[31:41] Monthly Mama Matchmaking, inspiring workshops, summits.
Do you buy into the whole new year, new trend that rolls in with the change of each year? It seems like more and more our culture and social media feeds are telling us to turn over a new leaf, or get better at this and that.
Well, Tiffany has some thoughts! Fresh starts can happen at ANY time of year. And they are needed if you have just come off of a break in routine, or if you’ve had a significant life change. In this week’s episode, Tiffany comes clean about 2 things that really annoy her about the new year being a catalyst to change everything up. More importantly, she talks through her process of how to get back on track after a break in routine, and explains that it’s more about finding your rhythm again so you can settle back into your…you guessed it…system! Systems that are customized to work for you make a huge difference and help you pursue your Life of And, so you can say yes to the things that give you life!
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[01:42] New year resolution trends are annoying Tiffany!
[02:25] Do I really need to change anything?
[05:081] 500 days of no drinking trend
[07:00] Sick over the holidays, also travel
[08:05] How do you get back on track post holidays
[09:51] 3 things Tiffany does to get all systems back up and running
[11:35] There's a system for that
[12:50] Exciting 'Own the Ordinary' update
[15:10] Closing
Parenting. One of the most rewarding AND hardest jobs of our lives. All the do’s and don'ts of every age and stage can make your head spin. And it can sometimes make you question, Am I doing this right?
In this week’s episode, Tiffany welcomes psychotherapist, parent coach and author, Michelle Gambs, onto the podcast for an in-depth and revealing perspective on parenting. Her book, Stay Away from Option D, is based on her simple philosophy that gives parents permission to be faulty parents while still bringing peace into their home. Tiffany admits that Michelle’s candid guidance gave her pause and interrupted some of her own parenting patterns, and wanted to share this guidance with everyone who is searching out a plan for confident, empowered parenting…with no guilt.
Educated at the University of Notre Dame, Michelle has hosted the podcast ParentED, created YouTube tips for parents, and coaches parents in person and online with a virtual course. She can typically be found near water or on a yoga mat, and also at michellegambs.com.
So, grab a cup of coffee and listen in on this incredible conversation, and be ready to gain a whole new perspective on peaceful parenting!
To learn more about Michelle, visit her website
Michelle’s book, Stay Away from Option D
Learn about or register for her online course
Check out her workshop bundles
Follow her on YouTube,
Follow her on Facebook and Instagram @michellegambs
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Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[03:56] Michelle's book, 'Stay Away From Option D'
[04:25] Options A, B C and D
[07:56] Feeling of guilt
[10:17] Advice for different stages of parenting
[13:23] Proactive parenting
[13:50] Quality over quantity
[16:11] Teenagers
[23:32] Override the instinct to always protect your kids
[24:59] How do we prevent our kids from being spoiled and entitled
[27:25] Kids' allowances and money management
[34:30] Family meetings
[37:25] Raising capable kids
[48:46] More about teenagers
[51:04] Dispassionate cop
[52:35] Punishment vs. consequence
[57:31] Forbidden=attractive
[1:00:00] Michelle's access points
[1:01:21] Michelle shares an amazing connection to the meaning of Scared Confident
[1:02:01] Closing
What if you could begin this new year with even more capacity for extraordinary things in your life? How can streamlining your routines help in this area?
Download Tiffany’s Task Planner Worksheet here
Tiffany kicks off her 2024 season of Scared Confident with a practical plan that you can implement NOW to help you create more time for yourself, your relationships and all the extraordinary things in your life. By taking these first steps to better manage your daily routines, you’ll have more mental energy to put toward other things that matter. Tune in and begin to take control of it now, so you can keep the easy things easy and have more time to pursue your Life of “And”!
Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[0):48] Making the routine automatic
[01:34] Task planner tools for morning and evening
[02:06] Tiffany's evening wind-down routine
[04:26] Potential issues that this solves
[06:36] Tiffany's morning routine
[08:18] How to start your program
[10:55] Figure out what you want?
[11:27] How will you make that happen?
[12:53] Who is going to be responsible?
[14:22] Download and print the task planner
[16:23] More space for the extraordinary
[17:18] Closing
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Deciding to make a change in your life is hard, but actually executing that change is a whole other level of hard. Especially when you really commit to digging deep on a personal level.
Tiffany read a LinkedIn post by CEO Matt Tait, and it really piqued her curiosity. He candidly wrote about how he found being vulnerable really hard, and how he’s in a committed pursuit to change this about himself. Tiffany wondered what prompted this bold decision and how he got to this place. So she invited him to take the mic on this week’s episode to share his real-time reflections. And it’s really an inspiring listen.
Matt Tait is a CEO, husband and father, and also a recovering attorney who has spent his career as an entrepreneur, having previously launched two technology companies. He's always focused on helping businesses; making it easier for them to operate while creating great customer experiences. Continuing a people-first theme driven by technology, Matt launched Decimal with his Co-Founder Jacob Cloran to solve financial operations for small and medium-sized businesses.
Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[02:12] Matt's LinkedIn post and what prompted it
[04:11] Matt's journey of becoming more vulnerable
[12:22] The pandemic and forced vulnerability
[13:20] Pre-pandemic Matt
[16:18] Matt's journey with Decimal
[20:01] Decimal's remote culture
[23:03] Vulnerability, authenticity and transparency at work
[28:08] What Matt is learning about himself
[29:54] Challenges/solutions for Matt's two career family
[36:38] Looking forward to 2024
[43:21] Why the name Decimal
[45:57] Closing
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Merry Christmas and Happy New Year from Tiffany and the Scared Confident team!
Tiffany ends this amazing year with an interesting perspective about the relationship between love and attention. We’ve often heard her say of her own kids that ‘little kids demand attention and older kids wait for it.’ Who and what demands attention in your life? How often are you able to give your full attention to someone you love?
Listen in as she reflects on what she’s learned over the years, and how she challenges you to refine your 2024 intentions to ensure you are giving full attention to the people in your life that you love. Happy New Year!
[00:00] Intro
[00:43] A thank you from Tiffany
[01:49] 'There is no difference between love and attention'
[02:46] Little kids demand your attention
[03:25] Older kids wait for your attention
[05:17] Closing
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Have you ever been in a season of change that feels like it just doesn’t end, leaving you scrambling for some sense of normalcy? It can feel like a perpetual cycle of chaos because all the systems you had in place before are now broken. And that’s just not sustainable. Sometimes you need a fresh perspective on what you can actually manage.
Tiffany’s guest this week, Stephanie, is a mom of two, a CFO and business owner. She and her husband have endured many changes in the last few years and are still having trouble seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. Together, they come up with some creative solving. And Tiffany even learns a few great tips from her guest. If you’re experiencing an ongoing season of change in your life, tune in for some candid conversation and creative solving!
Download the worksheet from today’s episode here: https://tiffany-sauder.myflodesk.com/conversationguide
Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[02:29] Stephanie's background
[06:50] Stephanie's recent changes in life
[09:18] Stephanie's ideal to-do list
[11:30] Tiffany assigns 4 questions
[12:03] Stephanie's answers
[15:54] Tiffany coaches through some solutions
[27:29] Stephanie's advice for her kids at this stage in her life
[28:21] Are there things Stephanie thought she wanted but actually didn't?
[30:41] Glass ball theory
[37:26] Closing
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As Tiffany motors through the hustle and bustle of the holidays, she recently engaged in two conversations that gave her important reminders about having the right mindset.
What’s behind the feeling of making something competitive when it doesn’t have to be? Or undermining someone’s success for your own benefit? Have you ever found yourself feeling jealous or competing for something because you think that success in that area is limited or scarce? Tiffany tackles this interesting concept of contrived scarcity vs actual abundance, and gives tips on how to check yourself.
Or how about pointing the blame when you aren’t feeling success? Are you blaming the thing, the strategy, or maybe even the people around you? In actuality, the problem might just be you! Is that a good thing, or a bad thing? Listen in to find out how to manage your mindset to find success in your Life of And.
Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[01:54] Mindset of abundance vs. scarcity
[04:48] Applying it in business
[05:51] Mindset of not blaming the thing
[06:39] Tiffany's example in her own life
[08:30] Closing
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Life is all about choices. And if you and your spouse have chosen to raise your family in a 2 career home, there can be specific challenges that arise. How do you solve for things like who does what chores, and when? Who pays the bills? How do we know what we’re spending month to month? How can I better support my spouse when I barely have time for anything else?
Tiffany has lots of thoughts on this topic, so she welcomes Kyler and Morgan Mason on the podcast to test out some practical solving exercises she’s been working on. In this question and answer format, Tiffany listens in as the Masons share some of the pitfalls that they encounter as they try to get through their busy work weeks and care for their kids. Tiffany helps by giving her tips for creating systems and setting minimums for smoother weeks and a functional household.
Download the worksheet from today's episode here.
Kyler Mason is the President of Element Three and his wife Morgan has a full time career as well as a Training Support Specialist for an Indiana-based non-profit. They have a two year old and an infant at home.
[00:00] Intro
[03:05] Intro to Morgan and Kyler-background, childhoods and jobs
[08:48] Reactive vs. Proactive exercise
[11:07] Question 1: What is one thing you dread on your in home to-do list
[14:19] Creating new systems and minimums to help get it done
[18:36] Solving by 'Forcing Function'
[20:23] Question 2: What is one thing that you wish would happen more consistently in your home now that doesn't?
[31:36] What does balance look like for Morgan?
[32:30] Defining minimums
[38:16] Advice for your kids when they're at this stage
[39:17] Words to describe your relationship right now
[40:47] Closing
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Having a dual career household and a busy family schedule can leave very little time to focus on your marriage. What if you discovered the secret to keeping your marriage not only alive, but actually thriving year after year? One secret that will enrich your relationship, spark intentional conversation, benefit your family and even help you to understand one another better?
In this episode, Tiffany shares the one vital tip that she and JR have found to make their marriage last year after year…getting away together. She shares how having one yearly trip to look forward to has had an extremely positive impact on their relationship that continues to enrich their marriage all year long. Yes, it can be difficult to get away and you can find many reasons not to do it. But setting it as a minimum in your marriage is well worth it. Listen in as she explains why it’s so important, and how to make it happen in your own life.
Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[00:46] Chemical peel thoughts
[01:24] Why getting away with your spouse is important
[03:54] Advice on how to get away - Consider your calendar flow and childcare
[04:53] Get away for at least 5 days
[05:41] Plan for what you want to talk about
[07:24] Patrick Lencioni seminar/book: Six types of working genius
[08:12] Tiffany and JR's working genius results
[09:14] Tiffany as inventor; JR as discerner
[12:38] Excuses of not planning a getaway
[17:28] Time away is revealing and exhilarating
[20:40] Closing
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Happy Thanksgiving from Tiffany and the Scared Confident team!
Everyday we are faced with that fork in the road of choosing the easy path or the hard path. We come to it time and time again. The easy path is attractive and it calls out to us by making us believe that it will create more time and space in our lives. But do we really believe that to be true?
Tiffany comes to us this week with a power-packed reminder to never give into the easy path. It’s a temporary one that takes us farther away from who we are supposed to become. Instead, choose your hard…every time. Choose the path that aligns with who you are striving to be. Is it difficult? Yes. Is it worth it? Every single time. Listen in to be inspired to choose your hard and live your Life of And to the fullest.
Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[00:42] Choose your hard
[01:57] Great sailors were not made in calm waters
[02:30] Muscle memory
[02:50] Closing
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Juggling a big job, a two career household and raising your kids makes for a full life. And being the designated COO of maintaining your household, relationships and family schedule calls for a bit of creativity at times. Tiffany takes a deeper look into how to do just that.
In this episode, Tiffany is joined by Rachel Downey to expand on last week’s topic, ‘Do it or delegate it: An up close look at my in-home help.’ Rachel asks some candid questions about Tiffany’s take on what she means by ‘big job’, how to find time to maintain relationships, creative ways to show up for your kids and how to be judicious in spending your money on in-home help. If you find yourself wanting more ands in your life without sacrificing time for the things you love, you won’t want to miss this helpful conversation!
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Let’s talk about something very precious…your time.
Your career needs your time. Your relationships need your time. Your family needs your time. And what about you? Self-care is not optional to keep up with this pace. What can you exchange in your life to replenish that precious commodity of time?
If this is striking a nerve, maybe it’s time to consider some in-home help. And yes, Tiffany has some ideas!
Tune into this episode as Tiffany dives into all things covering the topic of in-home help. She explores different options and what has worked for her own family at different phases and stages. Getting creative in how you solve in exchange for more time can help you in your pursuit of a peaceful and sustainable Life of And.
Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[00:42] Let’s talk about having help inside the home
[02:14] Tiffany's background and childhood
[05:04] The time, mental and relationship demands in life
[06:29] Tiffany realized that there might be a better way
[08:25] Using your resources to get time back
[10:12] Everything you own takes more time from you because it has to be managed
[11:17] We can't just attend to our tasks and neglect our relationships
[13:34] Tiffany's phases and stages of care: Phase 1 - 1 kid, no money
[16:23] Phase 2 - 2 kids and a little more money
[18:12] Phase 3 - 3 kids, more help
[20:17] Phase 4 - 4 kids all in different stages, a traveling husband, and lots of help!
[22:43] Shared nanny, house manager, drivers, and laundry service
[25:27] Tiffany uses a laundry service called Poplin
[26:55] Summary of what it takes at this stage of Tiffany's family life
[27:31] Getting on the same page as a couple about the financial aspect of hiring help
[31:59] Being accountable to the time-exchange you've created
[34:15] Practical recommendations and resources to get started
[34:49] Task Planner resource reminder
[37:02] Closing
Link to the Task Planner tool: https://tiffany-sauder.myflodesk.com/taskplanner
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Do you find yourself in a two-career household trying to get all the things done?
It can feel like insanity!
Work and kids’ schedules can keep you on the go most weeks (and even weekends), and the simplest of tasks at home can pile up way too quickly. Laundry. Making food. Home repairs. Cleaning. Grocery shopping.
Not only does it clutter your house, but even worse it can clutter your brain.
In this week’s episode, Tiffany introduces the first tool in her Own the Ordinary course that will help you get those tasks out of your head, onto paper and into a system that works for you. By implementing the Task Planner tool into your routine, you will feel confident in knowing that your household tasks are already built into your busy schedule. Tune in to learn about this tool that Tiffany has created to help her family and yours Own the Ordinary things in life.
Timestamps:
[00:00] Intro
[03:01] Introducing the Task Planner tool and the 3 major components of it
[06:53] Task List PDF explanation
[08:40] Overview of the daily Task Planner
[11:10] What's in Tiffany's 'morning roundup'
[11:56] Tiffany's 'evening wind-down' list
[15:41] Overview of the weekly and recurring Task Planner
[21:10] An editable PDF is in process and will be available soon
[23:06] Closing
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Who has the better deal, the spouse who is traveling for work or the one who stays home to manage the family? Both roles have plenty of positives and negatives. But if you’re the one staying home, this episode is for you.
This week, Tiffany shares 5 practical tips to help navigate family life with a traveling spouse. Drawing from her own experiences, she explains how to take charge, plan ahead, get creative and have FUN. If you find yourself really struggling while your spouse travels, tune into learn some new strategies. This can be a win for your entire family!
Timestamps:
[00:00] Introduction to the episode
[00:24] Tiffany is touched by the most normal moments in life
[01:34] Navigating well a traveling spouse
[02:53] Ways to stay connected to your traveling spouse
[03:19] Send texts and pictures throughout the day
[05:21] Make sure you talk for at least 10 minutes each night
[06:24] Make the weekends fun
[08:32] Watch how you talk about your spouse to others
[11:08] Prep and plan your 'thing' before your spouse travels
[13:18] Keep in mind that it's hard to travel and be away
[15:17] There are both positive and negative things about staying home vs. traveling
[16:17] Getting creative and keeping busy
[19:59] Closing
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You want it all from life. A thriving family and a successful career. Good friends and authentic relationships. Personal growth and abundance. But how do you attain the goal of having it all?
Navigating your family, career and personal life can feel overwhelming at times. And yet, you want to excel in all of it, and you shouldn’t have to settle for anything less. Committing to certain behaviors and practices can help. In this episode, Tiffany explores six critical things to help you create space and balance for all the ‘ands’ in your life, so that you can say yes to more.
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We’ve all been there… A new opportunity comes your way, and it can be tempting to take on. It sounds interesting, fits your talents, and could lead to further personal growth. But would it take up too much time? Sounds like a conundrum, but it doesn’t have to be!
In this week’s episode, Tiffany shares the most fool-proof way to solve that problem - getting a firm grasp on your priorities. Setting your priorities and living by them makes it very easy to know what to say yes to and no. She also dives into the difference between implicit expectations and explicit agreements with people in your life and how that can help those relationships grow and thrive. Tune in and learn how to set your priorities to continue pursuing your Life of And.
Timestamps:
[00:00] Introduction
[00:34] Homecoming season in Tiffany’s household
[02:20] How do you know what to say yes or no to?
[02:40] Time is a non-renewable resource in life
[03:13] If you don’t know what to say yes or not to, it’s a YOU problem
[03:31] It’s a problem if you don’t know your priorities
[07:21] Check in with your stakeholders to help set your priorities
[09:02] Implicit expectations and Explicit agreements
[09:30] Agreement is important to both parties
[12:19] Women’s talk - Muffet McGraw quote
[14:42] Putting yourself at the table or on the ballot
[15:56] 2 tips for holiday prep to do NOW
[17:09] Outro
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If you have a dual-career family, chances are you’ve needed childcare, and know that that search can be daunting.
What type of care do we need? How many days a week? What will fit in our budget? There are so many choices.
In this episode, Tiffany invites her assistant, Samantha Johnson, onto the podcast to have a realistic chat about how they collaboratively solved both their childcare needs by sharing a nanny. This solution took some creativity and involved a well-thought-out process to hire the right person. They share their experiences and great advice for finding and hiring their nanny.
If you are considering hiring a nanny, tune in for a real-life overview of what it takes and how to begin!
Timestamps:
[00:00] Show Intro
[00:42] Introduce Samantha Johnson, AKA Sam
[02:03] Tiffany and Sam share their situations and experiences of what they looked for in a nanny and why
[07:05] They discuss the reasons that led them to do a nanny-share
[07:34] Where do you find a nanny?
[11:44] How to begin the interview process and what steps does it entail
[23:12] Five-week check-in… how it’s going
[27:35] Tiffany’s 3 pieces of advice if you’re considering hiring a nanny
[30:25] Sam’s 3 pieces of advice if you’re considering hiring a nanny
[35:11] Closing
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What does work-life balance mean to you? How will you know if you’re there? Does it have to be a 50/50 split to achieve that balance?
In this episode, Tiffany explores the concept of balancing work and life in relation to your goals. Different seasons demand different choices and there are consequences to those choices. But you can find peace in the end result. She gives personal examples of how her past choices have helped her to set the stage for this Life of And she lives right now.
She also shares a recent challenge she took on for her personal growth. She left fear behind with one big plunge! (hint) It’s a cool story…take a listen!
Timestamps:
[00:00] Introduction to the episode
[00:42] Tiffany talks about her recent challenge of doing a cold plunge
[02:13]] Tiffany explains reasons why she did it
[04:44] How the core tenets of living a Scared Confident life played into this challenge
[05:35] Tiffany believes that we become what we practice
[10:18] Concept of work-life balance
[14:09] Tiffany’s choices fall in line with what she is aiming toward
[16:36] She sees it as one life of choices and consequences
[20:05] Every decision has a set of consequences that follow
[21:15] Advice from Tiffany’s Grandma Marcella
[23:01] Closing
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Goal setting is important. But what if I told you it can also be unrealistic?
Setting goals helps you determine where you’re going, what you want, and what you’re working toward. However, a posture of constant goal orientation can be unrealistic and unsustainable.
In this week’s episode, Tiffany shares her struggles with setting high goals, only to find herself paralyzed by her lack of progress in certain areas. There is a better way.
She helps by giving real-life examples of how to set minimums to help you feel successful, peaceful, and fulfilled. This episode is a can’t miss for anyone trying to fit it all in while pursuing a Life of And.
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The results are in!
In Tiffany’s last solo episode, she promised to share results from a survey she put out regarding content that listeners just like you would like covered in her new online course, Owning the Ordinary, that’s now in development. The results are in and she is so ready and willing to share!
There are some very obvious overlapping themes that we can get stuck on, while doing our best to manage careers and families. How can we solve for those ordinary, everyday tasks? By curating tips from her own journey, Tiffany is sharing some freebies in this episode. Be sure to tune in to learn how to successfully begin to streamline the core areas of your life so you can own the ordinary and passionately pursue your Life of And.
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Knowing yourself well can help you to clearly see where you can have the most impact in a role of leadership. Bringing your experiences with you to each new level can be important too. But what about curiosity? How does that impact a pathway to leadership?
In this episode, Tiffany welcomes EOS Worldwide President, Kelly Knight to the podcast to share her insightful themes of leadership. Kelly shares about her professional journey and how it’s been extremely influenced by her own curiosities. Exploring those curiosities helped her to learn new things and ultimately has taken her to the next level in her career time and time again. If you’re curious about how to live your Life of And with grit and grace, this episode is a can’t miss.
Kelly Knight is the President and Integrator of EOS Worldwide, which is the Entrepreneur Operating System. She is a Forbes Business Council Influencer, a wife and mom of three and a proud Michigan Wolverine.
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Nobody ever promised a smooth path in life. There’s no guidebook for it and certainly no guarantee that the next stage will be easier! So, how can we make this moment of our life the best we can every single day?
In this episode, Tiffany shares some great tips to help solve for what you really want in this season of life. Whatever stage you or your family is in, you CAN solve for it. It just takes some creative thinking and framework to get the job done. And Tiffany is here to help with some practical ideas from making family chores fun, to your own personal goal setting. No path is perfect, and that’s okay. Listen in and be inspired to embrace your Life of And, and make the best of every single day.
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She has the heart of an entrepreneur and the soul of a visionary…
On this episode, Tiffany welcomes EOS Community Leader and Expert Implementer, CJ DuBé, for an insightful conversation about her unconventional path into the world of entrepreneurship. Her journey has taken her down many different roads and she’s navigated it with the foundational belief that she really could have it all. But how?
CJ’s pure grit, stubbornness and determination, mixed in with her intuitiveness and attention to self-care, has helped her to live the ultimate Life of And. CJ shares a lot about her life’s mindset, the ways she conquers fear and some real stories of how she found ways to rise above her circumstances. Her many words of wisdom and practical advice resonated with Tiffany and will surely benefit anyone pursuing a Life of And!
CJ DuBé is an Expert EOS Implementer, spending the last 13 years working with and helping to grow the EOS Worldwide community. Prior to that, she worked in a variety of business capacities including sales manager, director of operations and HR for a facilities management firm, and ultimately owned her own HR consulting firm. After selling that business, she was introduced to Gino Wickman’s book, TRACTION, and never looked back. As an EOS implementer, CJ has helped over 120 companies clarify, simplify and achieve their vision by leading sessions and speaking about the EOS platform. She is a Minnesota native who now splits her time between the Twin Cities and Arizona. As a mother of seven and grandmother of twelve, CJ is family oriented and lives life full circle.
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Brace yourself…summer is over! The kids are back in school! And let’s be honest…a change in routine can trigger a whole lot of mess. The question is, are you equipped to handle it?
Yes you are! Tiffany brings her best advice and tips in this episode to help you bring YOUR best into a season of transition. You can still show up for yourself, and for everyone else who is depending on you, by keeping a good attitude, knowing your minimums and setting realistic expectations. If you’re feeling the struggle of going from the carefree days of summer into a more structured routine, tune in. This episode is for you!
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Balancing a growing business and raising a family is not an easy task. At some point in the game, your client’s needs change. Your family’s needs will be ever-changing as well. How can you do what’s best for everyone, including yourself?
In this episode, Tiffany welcomes CEO of Ascend Strategy and Design, Anne Shenton, to the podcast to answer her questions about building an agency, raising a family and pursuing her Life of And. Tiffany guides Anne through some thoughtful ways to ask the right questions of herself about her goals for living her life. She shows how that process has given her the roadmap for achieving the best balance for her family, her business and herself. If you find yourself in the same type of balancing act, listen in for some valuable tips from Tiffany.
Anne Shenton is the CEO and co-founder of Ascend Strategy & Design, a digital marketing consultancy based in Valdosta, GA with employees working remotely along the US east coast. Ascend helps businesses reach their revenue and lead-generation targets through strategic digital marketing. Before Ascend, she ran marketing at a rapidly growing IT services firm until its successful private equity acquisition. Anne enjoys going to the gym, reading, and spending time with her husband and two daughters.
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Let’s face it. If you are passionately pursuing a Life of And, then most likely you are saying yes to a lot of things in your life. What happens when you feel over capacity? Do you give something up to make more space? Or is there another way…
In this solo episode, Tiffany takes you on a ride (literally!) to demonstrate how you can create space in your life by exchanging your time. Listen in as she shares her tips from the frameworks, tools and systems that she uses in her life to create space for the extraordinary. She also discusses how the importance of being vulnerable and transparent to the correct person really matters. Come along for the ride and take a listen!
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When a tragedy or a disruptive life event happens to someone in your organization, how do you handle it? As a leader, how do you approach that individual? Is it better to say something, do something or nothing at all? Sometimes it’s hard to know how to dance around the boundaries of personal and professional and empathy is not something that we are typically trained for in our organizations. When we think of workplace culture, we tend to look at other things to improve on, not how to handle a coworker or employee who is grieving. Should we be devoting more time to training on this subject?
Liesel Mertes thinks so, and has heartfelt experiences to back it up. Her journey of profound loss and tragedy in her personal life set in motion a deep look into how empathy is handled in a work environment. In this eye-opening episode, Tiffany talks with Liesel about empathy training within our organizations. She believes that empathy is not a nice-to-have personality trait, but that it’s an essential workplace skill-set which unleashes a thriving culture and soaring productivity.
Liesel Mertes is a workplace empathy consultant, writer, speaker, and host of the Handle with Care podcast. She is the founder of Empathy at Work, which helps equip leaders, teams and managers to create cultures of care at work.
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Am I enough for this presentation? Am I enough for this job? Am I enough to be a good parent? Am I enough to reach my goals?
We all question ourselves when it comes to being enough. It's human nature... and it all stems from fear and imposter syndrome. In this episode of Scared Confident, Tiffany has a raw and real conversation about her struggle in the past with fear and imposter syndrome in her life. Listen in as she shares how she overcame that mindset through consistently asking herself if she is going to show up today, or give up, and how choosing to show up everyday led her into the life she has always wanted.
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What happens when you are called to give direction and vision to a group of people and you feel that you don’t have the experience to back it up? We hear the words imposter syndrome a lot in the business world. And in terms of leadership, it doesn’t serve anyone well. It’s a choice…are you going to do the hard work to believe that you’ve earned the right to the opportunity you’ve been given? Or are you going to perpetuate the feeling that you’re sitting in a seat that you don’t belong in?
In this episode, Tiffany talks with Amber Fields, chief culture officer of trueU. Amber shares her inspiring journey of being called to a place of leadership and then having to trust that she actually belonged there. She shares about the importance of having mentors to push you into your potential, so that you can believe in yourself fully and take your seat with confidence.
If you have ever found yourself in a similar mindset of being an imposter in your role, this episode is for you. Pull up a seat and listen in.
Amber Fields is the Chief Culture Officer and Partner of trueU. She is a culture enthusiast committed to helping businesses drive results through their most valued asset, people. She has been the lead culture advocate and advisor to nonprofits and business leaders in our community, serving organizations such as Damar Services, The Dove Recovery House, Hope Anchor & Crew and others. She is a dynamic connector who is passionate about leadership development, and a philanthropist who cares deeply about serving the community through building awareness, raising funds and providing resources. Personally, Amber is an Indiana native and received her under grad at the University of Indianapolis. She has been married to her husband Daniel for 19 years, has five beautiful kids and resides in Fishers, IN.
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Guilt is a choice. Fear is a choice. Nobody can make us feel that but you!
When it comes to prioritizing yourself, a lot of guilt and fear can tag along… only if you let it. In this episode of Scared Confident, Tiffany Sauder shares how she unapologetically makes time for herself and squashes guilt and fear while doing so. She shares her tips and insights on what has helped her put herself first throughout her day of busyness, in hopes to help you find how you can do the same. Learn what she does on the daily to overcome it all.
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When you finally confront that one thing about yourself that wants to hold you back, what comes next? The good news is that there is a great gift on the other side of it, and that gift is self-acceptance. When you start to discover who you truly are, you can begin your journey into self-acceptance, and onto a path of knowing where you can make an impact in this world. But we have to go easy on ourselves…this process takes time and practice.
In this episode, Tiffany plays off of Kyler’s previous talk and draws from her own experiences to share her journey of self-acceptance and how it relates to who she is today. “There’s a peacefulness that comes with knowing yourself and accepting yourself. And it’s a critical part of how you can make an impact in this world.”
Continue to listen in as we explore the depths of personal growth, resilience, and the triumph over anxiety in this Kyler Mason takeover series. You won’t want to miss it!
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As high-performing leaders, we expect ourselves to show up at 100%, 100% of the time.
So, what happens when we can’t? How do we handle that? In the conclusion of Kyler’s takeover, we hear how Kyler is managing his performance anxiety today, and some of the tools and coping mechanisms he has learned in order to be the leader he passionately wants to be–and, how he plans to continue to lead Element Three to success, with zero excuses, even when his confidence isn’t at 100%.
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“Everybody has a thing. That doesn’t make us broken, that makes us human.”
In the previous episode of Scared Confident’s Summer Takeover Series, Kyler Mason candidly shared his one thing…anxiety. He calls it out by name and shares how he is courageously taking ownership over it.
In this episode, Tiffany dives in even deeper with some encouragement and enlightenment about facing your thing and finding your way through it. She shares about the power in acknowledging it, naming it and then finding resources and support from people in your life.
Join us as we explore the depths of personal growth, resilience, and the triumph over anxiety in this Kyler Mason takeover series. You won’t want to miss it!
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Struggling with anxiety and taking on a huge leadership role within a company is no joke. But doing the hard things will help you grow that much more.
In this episode, Kyler Mason, President of Element Three, is about to embark on his journey as President of E3. With his performance anxiety still getting in his way regularly, he’s looking for ways to cope and come into his own as a leader, all while embracing his own role in overcoming his imperfections as a leader. He shares about the people who helped him on this journey–both within the walls of E3 and outside–and, how they weigh in on Kyler’s growth.
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Leading people in your organization is an important part of being a leader. But what about leading the leaders? You want to ensure that the leaders within your company are up to that task with confidence and competency. But how?
Taking a deeper dive off of Kyler Mason’s previous takeover episode, Tiffany shares 3 ways that you can help your leaders grow. Leading people isn’t a mechanical exercise. It’s more about relationships and trust. So listen in to learn how you can get the best out of the people leading your organization. It’s a win-win for everyone.
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Every leader has "a thing" they need to overcome before they can step fully into their life as the leader they were meant to be. For Tiffany, that was fear. For Kyler Mason, president at Element Three, that was anxiety.
When you take on an executive leadership role at a purpose-driven company, there’s a lot of pressure to perform–largely, that pressure comes from within. That’s the truth for Kyler, and it’s been that way since he was a kid. Last we heard from Kyler in the First 17 Years series, he was taking over for Tiffany as President of E3, but the story we didn’t get was that of his own anxieties that he faced in taking on this leadership position. Anxieties–it turns out–that showed up long before he took the role.
Join us for the next 2 weeks as we dive into Kyler's journey with anxiety, and share some of the tools and tactics that can help you as a leader overcome whatever "thing" you're up against.
As the summer season emerges, it brings with it a refreshing break from the usual routines. And just like that, the podcast is also shaking things up! Tiffany is excited to kick off the Summer Takeover Series, where she passes the mic to Kyler Mason President of Element Three, as he fearlessly shares his personal journey.
Over the past year, Kyler has taken on the mantle of leadership at Element Three, and now he candidly reveals the transformative growth he has experienced. With unwavering courage, he delves into the genuine challenges of anxiety and fear that he has confronted along the way.
Throughout the upcoming weeks, Tiffany will interject with short episodes, providing her unique perspective and reflections on Kyler's experiences. This series offers invaluable insights that you won't want to miss. Join us as we explore the depths of personal growth, resilience, and the triumph over anxiety in this Kyler Mason takeover series.
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Join us in this captivating episode as Tiffany engages in a raw and honest conversation with Olympic athlete Katie Hoff Anderson, delving into her remarkable journey of self-discovery and resilience. Explore how Katie, who dedicated her entire childhood to becoming an Olympic swimmer, coped with the abrupt end of her competitive career at the peak of her success. Discover the extraordinary decisions and unwavering determination that enabled her to emerge from the darkness and forge a new path towards finding her true identity.
If you're currently on a transformative journey, seeking to replace a significant aspect of your life, this is an episode you simply can't afford to miss. Gain valuable insights, inspiration, and actionable advice from Katie's empowering story. Embrace the challenges, embrace the unknown, and unlock your own extraordinary potential.
Katie is a 8x World Champion, 2x Olympian - in Athens Greece and Beijing China - and earned a silver and two bronze Olympic medals in swimming. Hailed as the 'female Michael Phelps,' she withstood tremendous pressure and emerged from years of effort with valuable lessons learned on what it takes to succeed and power through bitter disappointment. She is a best selling author, speaker and entrepreneur. She and her husband, @Todd Anderson started their company, Synergy Dryland, to help train competitive athletes by customizing dryland training programs for swimmers.
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Summer is coming… And if you’re a working parent trying to do it all, summer planning can feel a little daunting. Juggling everyone’s schedules, including your own, can be overwhelming. You don’t want to feel that it passed you by, or that you missed out on all the summer fun. You want to get the most out of it. But how?
In this episode, Tiffany shares 3 practical tips to help you to crush your summer. The trick is to plan for it NOW. Camps, friends, parties, work…there are so many things competing for our attention. But the goal should be to make sure your home team is enjoying summer together by creating time for shared experiences.
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When your hobby becomes a business and then your business becomes the thing that is supporting your family, what does that look like?
Tiffany talks with business owner, strategist and consultant, Shanna Skidmore about her journey into accidental entrepreneurship and the road of curiosity that got her there.
Shanna is passionate about helping people start their business with all the fundamental tools and strategies that will lead them to be successful and happy.
Shanna Skidmore is a business strategist and life coach. Nicknamed the “dream-releaser” by her clients, she helps entrepreneurs make money doing what they love by building profitable & sustainable businesses. For the past 10 years she has been immersed in the world of small business development and finance. By studying patterns of success she created THE BLUEPRINT MODEL, an exclusive business development program based on principles she found to be key indicators of success. Her background in finance, psychology and art have allowed her to marry the world of business and creativity. Her greatest joy is watching others transform their stories and build businesses and lives they love!
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There’s a secret weapon in the workplace that you might not know about - or even how to use it. It’s called vulnerability, and it can be an extremely powerful if used in the right way.
In this episode, Tiffany shares seven helpful tips on how being vulnerable can build relationships and deepen your connection to other people. She takes it a step further and shows how you can use your vulnerability in leadership too, as it relates to humans leading humans in the workplace. Honesty can pay off more than you might think!
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Life gets chaotic. But living out all of the Ands in your life doesn’t need to add more chaos. Chaos is not sustainable. Putting the right systems in place for everyday areas of your personal life can make all the difference between a good week and a bad week.
In this episode, Tiffany shows how you can apply some of the same approaches used in business to streamline your personal life in order to create more capacity in your week. She helps you to identify your basic 5, create your minimums and set up an environment of systems to make your Life of And sustainable, and to keep the easy things easy.
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Be a team player…have a mindset of growth and abundance…know your strengths and weaknesses. Business talk, right? Nope, marriage talk!
Tiffany’s husband, J.R., joins her on this episode to reflect on their 18 years of marriage and some changes that they’ve had in the past year. Listen in as they make their way through a helpful check-in on their marriage and relationship, the things they are still learning after 18 years of marriage, and how it all fits into this Life of And.
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In this solo episode, Tiffany reflects on and explores her early beliefs of all things business, leadership and people. She talks about what she learned over the years, and focuses in on 6 beliefs that she got fundamentally wrong, so you don’t have to.
Living a Life of And requires the practice of self reflection to ensure you don’t make the same mistakes over and over again. Listen in as Tiffany shares her early mistakes in hopes that that you can accelerate your journey by getting it right now.
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Meet Katie Flannery. From walking into the family’s beef business at a young age, to now running it with her father, Katie has been on a constant journey of self-discovery and growth. Her grit, creativity and ingenuity have taken her to a place in life that’s both rewarding and demanding and requires much balance. This episode takes us into Katie’s amazing story of how she has evolved into being at the helm of her family’s business, Flannery Beef.
Much like the cattle whose beef she works with, Katie Flannery is something of a rare breed. She’s a butcher’s daughter who has quickly risen in her role in her family’s company. Together with her father Bryan, the duo has made the Flannery name become one of the most respected in the beef business. They are the leading prime partner to many top chefs across the West. Headquartered in Northern California’s San Rafael, Flannery supplies their beef for some of California and Las Vegas’ biggest chef names in the business. Katie is at the helm of operations and quickly growing their business.
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It’s a big risk to pivot your career after you’ve invested decades of your life building into your personal brand. But that’s exactly what personal finance expert, Peter Dunn, aka Pete the Planner, did. And it took courage and intuition to get to this newer version of himself.
In this episode, Peter shares his journey of how he actually came to be “Pete the Planner,” and what prompted his vision and evolution of becoming the founder and CEO of Your Money Line. He also sprinkles in tips and insights on how to take the fear out of talking about money and finances in your own life.
Peter Dunn is an award-winning financial expert and the CEO and founder of Your Money Line. He’s a columnist for USA Today and an author of ten books. He hosts his own radio show and podcast, The Pete the Planner Show, and appears regularly on TV and nationally syndicated radio programs.
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You want it all from life. A thriving family and a successful career. Good friends and authentic relationships. Personal growth and abundance. But how do you attain the goal of having it all?
Navigating your family, career and personal life can feel overwhelming at times. And yet, you want to excel in all of it, and you shouldn’t have to settle for anything less. Committing to certain behaviors and practices can help. In this episode, Tiffany explores six critical principles to help you create space and balance for all the Ands in your life, so that you can say yes to more.
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Feelings are information. What happens when you find yourself feeling burned out and not enjoying your job? It takes self-awareness and courage to know when you might need a break.
In this episode, Tiffany has an enlightening conversation with entrepreneur and investor, Jeb Banner, about his experience of taking a sabbatical. Jeb candidly shares his process of how he knows when it’s time to step away, what his version of a sabbatical entails, what type of person would benefit from taking one, and how it helps him rediscover his genius (and, may help you do the same).
Jeb is currently the CEO of Opendate, a venue management software company. Previously, he was co-founder and CEO of SmallBox and Boardable. Over the years he has founded or co-founded several nonprofits including Musical Family Tree, the Speak Easy and the Indiana Independent Venue Alliance. Jeb is happily married to his wife Jenny, and they have three daughters. He spends his free time making music, collecting records, foraging, cooking, reading, and traveling.
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It’s been officially two years of the Scared Confident podcast…completely mind-blowing!
Tiffany Sauder is a CEO, wife, mom, speaker, podcast host and mentor to high achievers in two career homes who want a lot out of life.
In this special episode, Tiffany introduces her new brand, as well as shares some clarity she’s gained around her personal mission—and, how that impacts Scared Confident in the coming years.
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The Scared Confident podcast inspires high-achievers to passionately pursue a Life of And. Host Tiffany Sauder shares lessons learned from the first 20 years of her career mixed with vulnerable, real-time reporting from her life, career, marriage, and parenting adventures today. Tiffany dives deep into the realities of a two-career family and passionately shares the journey to build the toolbox required to ‘have it all.’ This is a real and vulnerable space to break through the walls that fear builds so you can move into the confidence needed to chase the dreams in your life and career.
Being an HR manager is no joke. Hiring talent is no joke.
Element Three’s head of talent, HR-pro, Karen Seketa, talked all about her practices at Element Three, her version of the hiring process, and how she interacts with people. Through perfecting her craft over a span of 30 years, she has been able to attract and retain top talent to help push Element Three to new limits.
Listen in on this episode as she and Tiffany take a deep dive into the secrets of how she became a successful HR manager, how she attracts and retains employees, and what’s at stake when you don’t show up authentically in the interview process—even if it seems intense to the interviewee.
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In challenging situations, your mindset matters. Consider these scenarios:
you’re a business leader and the economy is looking pretty bleak as you move into a new year; or you’re a hiring manager and you need to let people go in your organization; or maybe you were just laid off and scramble as you jump into a new job search. Whatever the scenario, where is your mindset?
In this episode, Tiffany welcomes back Brian Kavicky, her longtime sales coach and mentor, to help you understand how the proper mindset is imperative in moving through tough situations.
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As we grow and reflect on our past, we gain more and more wisdom, wisdom that we can share with the younger generation.
So, as a 42-year-old, Tiffany shares some value that she would tell her 22-year-old self walking around campus. Tiffany dives into embracing your uniqueness, learning that it’s never too late to try something new, and more. Listen as she shares her wisdom with you.
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If you are going to try and do something really hard with your life, you need to accept that it isn’t always going to be a neat and tidy journey.
Joy Currey opens up on this episode of Scared Confident about the fork in the road that she is facing - the hardships of balancing family life with a passionate career. As a busy woman, she is on a pursuit to find a balance between work and rest while still pursuing her passions in life, and this conversation with Tiffany captures her in a genuine moment of real-time reflection as she wrestles with a big decision about this balance.
Joy is the CEO and founder of the nonprofit CORRAL Riding Academy, which provides equine therapy and college preparatory education to young women in high risk situations. She is a passionate advocate for equity and justice, and is navigating a two career home with her husband and two young children.
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CORRAL Riding Acadamy’s website: https://corralriding.org/
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As a parent of pre-teens and teenagers, Tiffany has some questions: namely, about what the heck her kids are saying sometimes.
In this laugh-filled episode, Tiffany gets the chance to ask all-the-questions she’s afraid to ask her own kids to her high school-aged intern, Brianna. Tiffany and Brianna discuss everything from slang definitions to the expectations of social media—and Brianna has a beautiful, mature take on how she feels growing up in the social media generation. If you’re a parent of teenagers, around teenagers, or just want a belly laugh for the week, this is the episode for you.
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When Tiffany met Amy Brown, Amy was free-falling. A 42-year-old mother of three, she recently took a leap of faith, leaving her stable corporate job in order to pursue her entrepreneurial passion and teach her children the power of sacrifice, hard work and living with intention. She is a social work-educated entrepreneur and the founder of AuthentiCx, a healthcare organization that helps humans understand humans through conversational intelligence.
Join Amy and Tiffany in this intimate conversation as she shares her success journey, how fear and vulnerability can create transformation, and claiming authenticity as your own personal superpower.
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Sometimes we lose ourselves in the business of life when our partner is traveling.
In this solo show, Tiffany dives into 5 important tips for staying grounded to who you are while your partner is gone. She touches on everything—ranging from taking 30 minutes out of the day to focus on yourself, to an effective reintegration strategy for when your spouse comes back home.
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Commitment to a behavior gets you closer to your goal.
The perfect episode for anyone looking to hit their fitness goals in the new year. Tiffany's trainer Zach Pello joins her on the show to share tactical and science-based tips for fat loss, setting SMART goals, and being realistic about your minimums. Even if fitness goals aren't in your 2023 plans, this episode is a great road map to setting sustainable goals as we kick off the year.
Zach Pello, Owner, Pello Fitness, PN Level 2 Certified Trainer, specializes in one-on-one, small group, and online coaching for women. He started personal training at a local Muncie, Indiana gym in 2002 and has owned his own personal training and nutrition coaching company, Pello Fitness, since 2007, where he estimates he has worked with more than 1,000 clients. Zach holds a bachelor’s degree in Kinesiology and Exercise Science from Ball State University as well as personal trainer (ACE-CPT) and nutrition (PNL2) certifications and has competed in five bodybuilding shows.
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In Tiffany's first solo show of the new year, she's taking some time to share her family's ongoing New Year's Eve tradition, how you can create truly sustainable resolutions for 2023, and a reflection on why taking time to be present in your feelings is crucial to your growth this year.
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Are you in a "gap" season of life? One of those seasons where everything you knew was flipped on its head—whether by your own doing or by forces outside of your control? For Nick Smirelli, he's in one of those self-imposed gaps right now. And in this conversation with Tiffany, he's coming to a surprising conclusion about minding that gap.
Nick is the former CEO of GadellNet, an IT Solutions & Support Consultancy with nearly 200 employees across the U.S. And he recently made the decision to step down after his 12-year leadership tenure at the company. So, how does he spend his days now? Listen in to hear him process this recent change, share his insights on how he knew it was time to step away from his leadership position, and the lessons he's learned on prioritizing consistency over intensity as he's stepping into this new lifestyle.
Listen to Nick's podcast, Zero Excuses: https://gadellnet.com/thought-leadership/category/podcast/
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"What is that thing that you've planted, watered, tended to, wished for, and know is going to happen...but the people around you maybe can't see it as vividly?"
In this solo show, Tiffany is taking some time to reflect on those "carrot seeds" that she's planted in her life, and why acknowledging your own needs is so important in seeing those seeds sprout. And, Tiffany's 7-year-old Ivy shares a story. Sometimes the most inspiring messages are from the littlest voices. Thanks for listening, and happy holidays!
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Booking Reading by Ivy Sauder: The Carrot Seed by Ruth Krauss
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Merry Christmas week! In this episode of Scared Confident, Tiffany returns to the mic after our latest takeover and shares some tips and tricks she's found helpful for the Sauder household in this crazy holiday season. And, she's asked some of the special kiddos in her life to sharing their advice for parents this week. It's advice you won't want to miss—enjoy!
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When you take your business from "my business" to "our company", that shift has to be done with the right people.
For Rachel and Share Your Genius, those "first followers" were Jillian Hoefer and Kyle Stellhorn.
Both leaving stable jobs to leap into the messy middle of Share Your Genius, Jillian and Kyle share their why behind joining Rachel, and uncover some remarkable coincidences that led to the timing being perfect for these big bets.
Listen in to hear how Jillian, Kyle, and the growing Share Your Genius team are helping Rachel "Imagine If..." for the company's next million.
Listen to the first episode of The First Million: https://link.chtbl.com/KoREVkAA
To hear more from Rachel, check out her podcast, Voicemails with Rachel here: https://link.chtbl.com/ZY3ZvYFf
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Every entrepreneur comes to a fork in the road moment—the one that will change the course of their business (and life) forever. In this episode of her takeover, that's exactly where we find Rachel.
As part of Tiffany’s personal mission of being “for others”, she is intentionally inviting people in her community to host takeovers on the Scared Confident feed. This is week 2 of Rachel Downey's takeover—The First Million—where she's diving into the "messy middle" of building a business to its first million, in real-time.
Join Rachel as she shares how she navigated the big decision to either keep Share Your Genius a lifestyle business for her and her family or grow it into something that could have ripple effects far larger. In order to make that decision, she turned to the advice of her newfound friend and client, Tiffany Sauder. And, through their conversations, she got an unexpected proposition.
Listen in to hear how Tiffany helped Rachel "See Beyond" for Share Your Genius.
Listen to the first episode of The First Million: https://link.chtbl.com/KoREVkAA
To hear more from Rachel, check out her podcast, Voicemails with Rachel here: https://link.chtbl.com/ZY3ZvYFf
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As part of Tiffany’s personal mission of being “for others”, she is intentionally inviting people in her community to host takeovers on the Scared Confident feed. And in the next 3 weeks, you’ll be hearing from her first takeover: Rachel Downey.
Rachel Downey is co-founder and CEO of Share Your Genius, the podcast production company that Tiffany and her husband bought in 2021. After helping Tiffany create The First 17 Years series for Scared Confident, Rachel got to thinking: it’s amazing and inspiring to hear stories from a hindsight perspective, but what about sharing the real stuff while you’re in it? In this 3-part takeover series, The First Million, that’s exactly what she set out to do.
Rachel is sharing the journey to Share Your Genius’ first million—all of her stories from the messy middle of growing a company, its culture, and herself. In this first episode, you’ll hear from Rachel on the inspiring story of how Share Your Genius was born alongside her first daughter as she spent her first months in the NICU, and the mentor and co-founder who helped her coin their first company value: Be Great.
To hear more from Rachel, check out her podcast, Voicemails with Rachel here: https://link.chtbl.com/ZY3ZvYFf
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When was the last time you took time to actually list out 10 things you were grateful for? No better week than this week to do just that! And, Tiffany will lead the charge.
On this week's solo episode, Tiffany is taking time to pause in the midst of this crazy holiday week and reflect on 10 things she's grateful for. And, she's helping you create space to do the same.
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When someone asks Tiffany to coffee, she asks to do it on the mic. In this coffee over microphones chat, Andy Mork seeks out Tiffany’s advice on vision casting for his young business. Andy’s videography agency is in a comfortable spot, and Andy is unsure how (or if) he wants to scale. Tiffany helps him vision cast for himself and the business, and reflect on his own fears that may be holding him back.
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In this solo show, Tiffany takes a beat to reflect after a jam-packed six-week sprint in the Sauder household. Between Tiffany and her husband’s hectic travel schedule, sick kiddos, and seemingly never-ending house construction projects, Tiffany has learned a lot about her own “minimums”—and what happens when she lets go of them in busy seasons.
Queue this one up for your next drive and listen to Tiffany chat about setting your own minimums, knowing when to say “no” to things, and a reflection on how her recent trips to Washington D.C. have her thinking about service and sacrifice.
For more on minimums, listen to Tiffany’s episode with Zach Pello: https://www.tiffanysauder.com/scared-confident/health-is-more-than-looking-good-with-zach-pello/
Tiffany has noticed a trend lately—a link between vulnerability and fear. She’s been exploring this link over the course of the past few episodes of Scared Confident, and now she wants to bring a past guest back who was pivotal in her own journey with fear.
Nathaniel McGuire is a marriage and family therapist who helped lead Tiffany through a fear interview for the premiere of Scared Confident. In this episode, they dive into what Tiffany has learned about her own fear in the time since, and Nathaniel shares his clinical take on vulnerability and fear—and how they may be manifesting in your life in sneaky ways.
Listen to Tiffany’s Fear Interview with Nathaniel
Get in touch with Nathaniel
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No matter what stage or phase of life you’re currently in, Lara Heimann passionately believes that there is always space for movement. Lara is the creator of the LYT Yoga Method as well as the host of her podcast, Redefining Yoga. In this conversation with Tiffany, Lara shares her journey in founding and building LYT yoga’s online platform, as well as her practical tips for how you can prioritize and realize your movement goals—no matter where you’re starting from.
To learn more about Lara and LYT Yoga, you can visit LYTyoga.com
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When someone asks Tiffany to coffee, she asks to do it on the mic. In this coffee over microphones chat, Ashley Monk brings Tiffany her questions about sustainably scaling her young business, being a new mom, and balancing her big ideas with the pragmatism required to lead a company.
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“Fear is trying to keep us from being vulnerable because when we're vulnerable, that's actually when we reveal our gifts.”
Tiffany takes to the mic in her first solo show of the season, a new format where it’s just Tiffany and the mic—no prompt, no producer, all her.
In this episode, Tiffany is reflecting on vulnerability and how she’s found an unexpected connection between fear and vulnerability in her own live.
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There is always a hidden cost when you choose isolation over vulnerability: Relationships that don’t deepen; opportunities that pass by; wounds that aren’t healed.
For Carlie Oakley, her decision to be radically vulnerable ultimately saved her life and changed her perspective.
Listen in as Carlie shares how her busy life of “and’s” in a 2-career household came to a forced halt as she faced life-threatening medical conditions and bravely chose to open up in vulnerability.
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“It wasn’t about just building a business…it was about learning these rich truths in life.”
As Tiffany closes this chapter of reflection on the last 17 years of her life and career, she begins to think ahead to the next one…and what that means for Scared Confident.
Thank you for joining us on this journey through The First 17 Years. The next chapter of Scared Confident kicks off next week, as weekly episodes continue each Thursday.
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If you're going to build a business that lasts long term, you really can’t go it alone. And while Tiffany clearly leaned a lot on her mentors during the first 17 years of building Element Three, there was a tipping point when she knew it was time to build her support system from the inside. This is the story of the people who taught her this valuable lesson.
Chapter 9: Dedicated to my team
In this final episode of The First 17 Years, Tiffany introduces you to three key members of her executive team: Sarah Riggio, Darren Halbig, and Danielle Falconer. Each have challenged her, pushed back against her, and helped not only take Element Three to its next phase of growth—but Tiffany, too. Listen in for an intimate look at what it’s like to build a team who pushes you to become better every day.
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2018 was a critical year in Element Three’s business, and Tiffany was stuck. She needed someone who could help her scale the company in a way that was sustainable for everyone—herself included.
Chapter 8: Dedicated to Mike Keleher
In this episode of The First 17 Years, Tiffany reflects on how retired President and CEO of Royal United, Mike Keleher, impacted both Element Three and her personally. Dive into Mike’s “fanatic discipline,” and learn how you can harness the power of your own discipline to create a sustainable life you love, no matter your circumstances.
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On a December day in 2011, moments before meeting Tiffany for their first coaching session, Brian Kavicky sat in his car outside of the Element Three office and journaled:
”Today I will connect with Tiffany. I do not have to work to make that connection. God will open my heart to listen. God will open her heart to listen to my words…I will find the true pain that she needs help with. Help me to show her that I can help her.”
Chapter 7: Dedicated to Brian Kavicky
In this emotional episode of The First 17 Years, Tiffany takes a look back at her relationship with Brian Kavicky, her sales coach and mentor. Through living out his own ethos of “do right always and give first,” he taught Tiffany that a profession in sales can be fulfilling, impactful, and genuine. Listen in as Brian and Tiffany reminisce on a big discovery that led Tiffany to realize that it was time to truly become “scared confident”.
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Business is transactional. That is until someone decides to invest beyond what they can get.
Jack Burns and Tony Reisz made that deliberate decision, changing Tiffany’s life.
In this episode of The First 17 Years, Tiffany recounts the ripple effect of having clients who turn into mentors—even if they fire you. Listen to hear perspectives from Jack and Tony as they reminisce on their motivations behind offering their time and friendship to a young Tiffany. In what was a critical time in Element Three’s growth, unexpected mentorship changed the course of Tiffany’s life.
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From firing Element Three to then joining as a key executive, Karen Seketa is the leader Tiffany needed to take the company to the next level.
Chapter 4: Dedicated to Karen Seketa
Karen Seketa, VP of Talent at Element Three, is a leader who develops leaders, teaching Tiffany the importance of serving people first. In this episode of The First 17 Years, Tiffany shares the moment she asked Karen to take the risk without a clear job description, way to pay her, or true vision of what she’d be doing. It was Karen’s leap of faith that made all the difference.
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”Growing Element Three and growing our family happened on the exact same timeline.”
You often don’t imagine getting married and then quickly stepping into the opportunity to buy a business.
The pressures of maintaining a strong relationship, and managing a company through a recession while growing a family create a recipe for chaos. For Tiffany, it’s part of the journey to living a life of ‘ands’.
Chapter 3: Dedicated to JR Sauder “Hubs”
JR Sauder is proven to be steady, long-term, and understood Tiffany’s need to fulfill the dreams inside her. In this episode of the First 17 Years, Tiffany gives a glimpse into the early days of building Element Three while growing their family and JR's support along the way. There were several forks in the road moments both personally and professionally, begging the question, was it all worth it?
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”She somehow picked me to really impart what she had learned her whole career”
The calling of lifelong mentorship is one that can change a young woman’s life. In Tiffany’s case, the mentor who stuck with her through every twist and turn of her business and personal journey is one she couldn’t imagine her life without.
Chapter 2: Dedicated to Marcia Stone
Marcia Stone—former E3 Director of Brand and Tiffany’s personal mentor—is a master. In this episode of The First 17 Years, Tiffany takes us through the very beginnings of Element Three, how Marcia inadvertently made way for Tiffany to become president, and the lasting impact Marcia’s mentorship, friendship, and creative discipline has had on her life.
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Our lives are intertwined with our parents’. And, in many ways for Tiffany, her life is also parallel to her parents’.
Chapter 2: Dedicated to John and Wendy Schwab—my parents.
In this episode, we hear John and Wendy reminisce on growing a business while they grew their family. In the midst of their struggles and triumphs, there was Tiffany—their outgoing, relentless, joyful, stubborn, middle child. Listen in to hear a family share memories and revelations as they unpack their intertwined (and parallel) life stories.
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Building a business, when done correctly, should create incredible opportunities for worthy individuals. There is no one more worthy for this next opportunity than Kyler Mason.
Chapter 1: Dedicated to Kyler Mason
Kyler Mason—the once-22-year-old “basically intern” who joined E3 at a time in his life that was filled with grief and uncertainty. The same Kyler who Tiffany is now entrusting with an incredibly important role in the future of the company she built.
What did it take to get here? This chapter explores the incredible story of the young man who had an incredible impact on Element Three from a very young age, and continues to see the fruits of his labors as he takes on this next chapter.
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If there’s one thing Tiffany has learned in the first 17 years of her journey in building Element Three, it’s that she will never do it alone.
This is The First 17 Years, a new series from Scared Confident. In this special series, Tiffany will be reflecting on the “ands” Element Three has brought into her life, introducing you to the characters that built her character, and sharing the lessons learned for anyone who wants to step more fully into their life of “ands”.
In this episode, listen to a preview of what’s to come. After 17 years of building her agency Element Three, Tiffany invites her most intentional and impactful mentors and friends to walk through how her community has impacted her life, her “ands”, and her character.
Sometimes a story needs to be written before it’s finished. Tiffany is ready to share hers.
In this episode, listen to Tiffany explain why she’s felt called to reflect more intentionally on the first 17 years of her journey in building her agency, Element Three—and the characters who have built her character along the way.
Join us for the next several weeks as we journey into a new series from Scared Confident: The First 17 Years. In this special series, Tiffany will be reflecting on the “ands” Element Three has brought into her life, introducing you to the characters that built her character, and sharing lessons learned for anyone who wants to step more fully into their life of “ands”.
This one is for the younger listeners. Whether you’re just starting your business, growing one, or looking into the future.
There are 2 important factors here: what do you want your organization to look like–AND what do you want your life to look like as the leader of that organization (and at home)? Listen in as Tiffany shares her perspective on how casting her vision for both her life and her company has changed over time, and hear her practical tips for how you can keep your company’s vision at the center of your mission from day one and beyond.
”What does sustainable community look like for you as you add ‘ands’ into your life?”
And how does it shift as you move through those ‘ands’ and different life phases?
Life moves pretty quickly, and prioritizing community and relationships is a key part to growing personally, professionally, and even spiritually. Listen in on how Tiffany has approached maintaining sustainable, impactful relationships throughout her life, and how those relationships have made lasting impacts on not only herself, but also her family.
Lately, Tiffany has been reflecting on her journey in building Element Three (more on that soon…) so this week, we’re featuring a nostalgic replay of an episode from last year. In this episode, Tiffany gives advice to her 24-year-old self in a moment of growth for Element Three. Stay tuned for more next week…
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“What I started to realize is that on the backside of growth was making sure we had the operational stability, infrastructure, and maturity to be able to handle all that growth.” - Tiffany
You start a business. You’re selling, you’re making money. It’s exciting. But what happens when you don’t have the infrastructure in place to handle that growth? As Tiffany continues to give her 24-year-old self advice, she walks through her learnings of running and growing her business.
”What do you do when life is no longer sustainable?”
How do you know if it’s just a hard time, or if you actually need to get help?
Whether that means getting professional help or powering through things, Tiffany reflects on times in her life when she had to walk through those struggles. Listen in for tips on how to weather the storm.
What happens when you have the “ands” of marriage to a partner with a successful career, multiple kids, and owning a startup on your own? How do you keep things afloat, let alone find meaning and the depth along the way? Lindsay Tjepkema, co-founder and CEO of Casted, joins Tiffany to talk about finding encouragement, growth, and meaningfulness in a 2-career and multiple-kid family.
They discuss their similar paths in life, and what they wished they would have known sooner in their journeys. Owning a business, being a mother, and being an intentional spouse are all rewarding things that have taught these two women so many things over their lifetimes. Listen in to hear some of their own stories and advice.
Morning routines can make or break your day. Creating a streamlined, simplified morning routine is key to keeping things both moving and peaceful in a busy home.
In this episode, Tiffany discusses the vital role sustainability plays in her life of “and’s”, and how she has learned to help her kids have low-conflict experiences before school in the morning to start each day off in the right mindset.
Some "and's" are out of your control–couples who have experienced infertility and miscarriages know this well. Sam and Brice Johnson join Tiffany for this very personal episode about their experiences with miscarriage and loss.
They discuss what it's like to experience multiple miscarriages, the effects on their relationship, and how Sam and Tiffany unexpectedly found their careers intertwining in the midst of Sam and Brice's journey toward parenthood.
Sometimes life dictates which ‘and’ you get to add to your list...or, if you get to add it at all.
And sometimes, there is power in deciding what you CAN do. In this episode, Tiffany discusses how the power to choose the ‘and’s’ within your reach can add to your life and empower you to reach your goals.
100 episodes.
100 conversations on fear and love and parenthood and leadership and homemaking.
And...this is just the beginning. Thank you for joining Tiffany for 100 episodes of Scared Confident. In this episode, she reflects on how she has grown throughout her Scared Confident journey, and what comes next for her and for the podcast.
The And Network is premiering in Fall of 2022. Text Tiffany if you want to get a sneak peek of what’s to come for the And Network, Scared Confident, and beyond. 317-350-8921
”You pull a lot off and seem to be really happy most of the time—but how do you do that on the weeks where everything just stops? Where do you prioritize?”
This is a question that Tiffany gets often—and her response is simple: keep it sustainable.
In this episode, Tiffany discusses the important role sustainability plays in her life of “and’s”, and how she has learned to let go of the physical messes in her life in order to keep her relationships a priority.
A marriage changes and evolves over time. We all know it, but it’s different when you experience it.
This year Tiffany and J.R celebrate 17 years of marriage. In honor of the occasion, Tiffany brings J.R. back on the show to reflect on their relationship—where it started, how it’s evolved, and how they’ve grown together.
It takes a team to have a marriage, family, and career. All of it’s possible, but there are wrinkles couples have to work through.
In this short episode, Tiffany brings on her husband J.R. to share his advice for thriving in a relationship when you both have careers and a family to nurture.
Are there other questions you have for J.R.? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
What is your identity wrapped up in? Is it your performance at work? Your kids’ successes? How your marriage is going?
Brian Kavicky is here to tell you that your identity is inherent. You are a 10–regardless of what you think of yourself.
In this episode, Brian–owner of business training skills company Lushin Inc.–shares about I-R Theory, why you may deny that you’re a “10”, and how to solidify your identity in yourself and your inherent worth.
”You’re a girl, sit in the back of the room.”
Many women have experienced the feeling of being asked to shrink themselves for the convenience of others.
In this Q&A episode, Tiffany shares the practices that help her stand tall in any environment.
What things do you practice to build your confidence? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
In last year’s “fear journey” series, Tiffany discovered that the core of who she is all comes back to one statement: she is for others. In this episode, we get a glimpse into how this plays out through her investments in Rachel Downey and her business, Share Your Genius.
Rachel and Tiffany share an intimate conversation about how their paths crossed, how Tiffany decided to invest her time, treasure, and talent into Rachel’s growing business, and how they both help each other grow on personal and professional levels.
When you’re the youngest person in the room, it can feel like you don’t belong. Everyone else is older and more experienced. Why do you deserve to be there?
In this Q&A episode, Tiffany reflects on her experiences of being a young leader for Element Three. Listen in as she shares the mistakes she sees when young leaders try to “fit in” and gives advice on how to show up best.
What are other reasons you feel like you don’t belong? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
Embracing a life of “and’s” can be a big transition–there are lots of voices (inside and outside of yourself) that speak into your fears and make you believe that you have to pick a lane and stay.
But what if you learned to exist in the lanes that matter, and say “no” to the ones that don’t?
Zainab Bass, Director at Periculum Capital Company, is doing just this. She and Tiffany explore how their upbringings and views of motherhood affect their own motherhood journeys, and what they do to keep their marriages at the forefront in their busy lives.
”I just said I felt guilty because I felt like a monster if I didn't say I felt guilty.”
Guilt is a buzzword. Especially for working moms. But is it in our vocabulary because we actually feel guilty, or is it because it’s what we think we’re supposed to feel?
In this Q&A, Tiffany reflects on her debut as a working mom and how she came to her own conclusions about guilt and imbalance.
Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
Cameron Moberg is a rebel. And he’s a community-builder. And he’s a muralist.
When he was a teenager, he would graffiti the town by night. Now, he gets paid to paint beautiful, powerful murals in spaces–like the Element Three office.
In this episode, Tiffany and Cameron talk about the mural he recently painted in the E3 office and its meaning, as well as his personal journey through fear that led him to become a community-focused artist.
”If you aren't clear about what your gifts are, how in the world are you going to help the people you're being asked to lead find theirs?”
Society tells us we shouldn’t say what we’re “good at”. It’s braggadocios. It’s not humble. It’s presumptuous. In this episode, Tiffany reflects on two moments that made her realize the importance of breaking that cultural norm.
What are your natural gifts? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
Remember the story of the tortoise and the hare? The tortoise–slow and steady–wins the race, while the rabbit takes off like a bullet out of the gate, and runs out of energy before they can finish the race. Tiffany and her guest on this episode identify–for better or for worse–as that hare. Justin Maust is a certified EOS implementor, keynote speaker, and business coach. He and Tiffany met while he was implementing EOS at Element Three, and in their conversation this episode, they discuss what it’s like to lean into the discipline (even when it’s hard with their quick-start personalities), how they both discovered the “2.0” versions of themselves, and how they’re continuing to learn that slow and steady really does win the race.
”For a long time, I didn't want to be disciplined. I wanted all of the things discipline brought— to be fit, to have money, to have time—but I didn't want to be disciplined. I didn't think it sounded fun.” - Tiffany
In this short episode, Tiffany reflects on her journey towards becoming more disciplined and shares ways she’s made it a part of her mindset.
What practices do you have to make yourself more disciplined? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
”When you're not clear on what you want the business to be you can't understand how to create momentum in the organization.” - Tiffany
When building a business, knowing where you’re headed is key. In this episode, Tiffany sits down with Cat Edmonds, Sales & Marketing Executive at Blackink IT, to share her thoughts on building the strategy side of a business.
Listen in to hear how human capital, process, and commitment play a huge role.
”How we choose to show up on the hard days are actually the days that matter the most.”
As the Sauders go through a difficult season of life transition, Tiffany reflects on her mindset during the more difficult days.
How do you make sure you show up for yourself? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921
”My soul screams to live a life of ‘and’ where I can be Tiffany, and a wife, and a mom and have relationships with my kids, and a CEO, and an investor, and an owner of a business.”
Tiffany shares her journey going from saying “no” or feeling like she has to choose to now embracing what it means to have a life of “and.” Listen in as she explores this new chapter of life on this season of Scared Confident.
Every season of life has different challenges, and setting sustainable and attainable goals is a must for busy two-career households.
In this episode, Tiffany reflects on her health and wellness goals in this season of life, and she’s joined by a guest who is helping her set and achieve those realistic goals.
Tiffany spends 2 days a week lifting and training with her personal trainer, Zach Pello. Zach has a passion for coaching busy women like Tiffany, and in this conversation, he shares his insights on creating sustainable health goals, matching your habits to those goals, and the positive effects of “settling” for moderate goals.
”You must never see your kids. It must be nice to have in-home care to raise them.”
When Tiffany heard this untrue statement, her blood began to boil. In this episode, she reflects on how the perception others have about you can feed fear. Listen as she shares how she works through these moments and her advice for others experiencing similar situations.
What perceptions do you struggle with? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
”What do I want out of my life?” Many entrepreneurs ask themselves that question while building their business, but do they let it influence their business in a real way? Tiffany sits down with Element Three’s former art director Jenny Tod as she transitions into building her own business, Jenny Tod Creative.
Jenny and Tiffany talk about scaling your agency to fit your life, planning your business around the outcome you want, and family life amidst changes in your business.
Would you like to join Tiffany for a Live Q&A episode? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921 and let her know you want to chat!
When you depend on a person for in-home care and they can no longer help, what do you do?
Tiffany shares her experience in transitioning in-home care when their nanny, Mrs. Garcia, retired earlier this year. Listen to the full episode to hear how the Sauders approached and embraced the change.
“How will we get it all done?” may be the most commonly asked question in two-career households. Tiffany has been open about how their family depends on in-home care, but during seasons of change, it can be difficult to keep it all running. In this episode, Tiffany is joined by Ashley Butler, founder of MySherri, a home management services company that helps free up more time for relationships in working-parent homes.
Tiffany and Ashley talk about her journey in founding MySherri, making time for stillness in their two-career households, and how Ashley learned to stop fearing success.
If you could describe your household’s day-to-day in one word, what would that word be? Text it to Tiffany at 317-350-8921
Tiffany gets a lot of questions regarding work, life, motherhood, and balancing it all. Luckily, she’s an open book.
In this Q&A episode, Tiffany shares how she and her husband afforded in-home care in the earlier years of their career. She talks about choosing to be “time rich” over being financially rich, being intentional about spending as a family, and getting creative to allow for more flexibility in their family budget.
In this bonus episode, Tiffany shares what she is intentionally working towards in 2022.
Life, business, and motherhood all have peaks and valleys. Tiffany leans into all of them.
As she embarks on Season 3 of Scared Confident, Tiffany pauses to reflect on lessons learned in 2021. In this episode, she vulnerably shares her thoughts on embracing the good times, identifying how her fears manifest, and how she’s grown by leaning into more "and's".
To understand what that means for her and you, take a listen to the first episode of 2022.
What are you leaning into this year? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
Every family has its own holiday traditions. This season, Scared Confident brings you a sneak peek into how the Sauder's prepare for and celebrate Christmas.
On the twelfth day of Christmas, Tiffany reflects on what 2021 has brought into her life. Listen as she shares her wishes for the Scared Confident family in the new year.
What are you looking forward to in 2022? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
Every family has its own holiday traditions. This season, Scared Confident brings you a sneak peek into how the Sauder's prepare for and celebrate Christmas.
On the eleventh day of Christmas, Aubrey celebrates Christmas with her extended family. Listen as she shares her favorite parts about getting together with each.
What do you enjoy about celebrating with other family members? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
Every family has its own holiday traditions. This season, Scared Confident brings you a sneak peek into how the Sauder's prepare for and celebrate Christmas.
On the tenth day of Christmas, Tiffany prepares for the New Year. Listen to hear how they celebrate to make sure the adults and children have fun and fellowship.
How does your family celebrate New Year's? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
Every family has its own holiday traditions. This season, Scared Confident brings you a sneak peek into how the Sauder's prepare for and celebrate Christmas.
On the ninth day of Christmas, Ivy looks for Lulu, the Sauder's Elf on the Shelf.
What's your household's favorite Elf on the Shelf moment? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
Every family has its own holiday traditions. This season, Scared Confident brings you a sneak peek into how the Sauder's prepare for and celebrate Christmas.
On the eighth day of Christmas, Tiffany makes people feel expected in their home. In this episode, you'll hear her describe the benefits of preparing for when you have guests during the holidays.
How do you make others feel expected? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
Every family has its own holiday traditions. This season, Scared Confident brings you a sneak peek into how the Sauder's prepare for and celebrate Christmas.
On the seventh day of Christmas, Aubrey goes to the Christmas program. Listen as she shares what's so special about getting to participate.
What does your community's Christmas Program look like? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
Every family has its own holiday traditions. This season, Scared Confident brings you a sneak peek into how the Sauder's prepare for and celebrate Christmas.
On the sixth day of Christmas, Tiffany pursues experiences more than gifts. During her childhood, it was the experiences she remembers most. Listen as she describes how she prioritizes these moments for her family to make sure they don't get lost in the shuffle.
What is your favorite Christmas experience? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
Every family has its own holiday traditions. This season, Scared Confident brings you a sneak peek into how the Sauder's prepare for and celebrate Christmas.
On the fifth day of Christmas, Ainsley celebrates. In this episode, she recounts her favorite family traditions of Christmas day.
What is your favorite Christmas day tradition? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
Every family has its own holiday traditions. This season, Scared Confident brings you a sneak peek into how the Sauder's prepare for and celebrate Christmas.
On the fourth day of Christmas, Tiffany strives to put her kids first. With so many people to buy gifts for, sometimes family gets pushed to the back.
Listen to Tiffany as she describes how she prioritizes her family. What does putting your kids first during the holidays look like for you? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
Every family has its own holiday traditions. This season, Scared Confident brings you a sneak peek into how the Sauder's prepare for and celebrate Christmas.
On the third day of Christmas, Ivy goes to Nana's house. Listen as she shares some of her favorite memories.
What's your favorite childhood memory during the holidays? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
Every family has its own holiday traditions. This season, Scared Confident brings you a sneak peek into how the Sauder's prepare for and celebrate Christmas.
On the second day of Christmas, Tiffany decides what aspects of Christmas she wants to focus on. Listen as she shares how she gives herself grace to not score a ten in each category.
Which aspect are you going to lean into this holiday season? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
Every family has its own holiday traditions. This season, Scared Confident brings you a sneak peek into how the Sauder's prepare for and celebrate Christmas.
On the first day of Christmas, Ainsley describes their tradition of decorating their home. Take a listen to hear her favorite part.
What's your part about decorating for the holidays? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
“[The fear journey] forces you to understand how you view fear and how you think about fear. It helps you communicate with others who are in the same boat or who have lived through it.
It forces the conversation because you're communicating and talking about the struggle and how to shift the mindset. And it's given me a playbook of how to live a better life, understanding legacy, and changing the perception around the fear of failure.” - Kyle Lacy
In the conclusion of Kyle Lacy’s fear journey, we hear him share what he learned and what’s ahead as he reflects on this experience. Are you ready to join him on your own journey?
If you’re ready to understand the role fear may be playing in your life, text Tiffany to download a copy of the self-guided Fear Interview. Text: “FEAR” to 317.350.8921
As we are gearing up for season 3, we’d love your feedback. Please take a few minutes to complete this survey.
“Instead of saying, “‘F you,’ as my fear statement, it’s become, ‘what would Wendy do?” And I think that pretty much encapsulates this entire journey. - Kyle Lacy. When Kyle began his fear journey, he had recently experienced the loss of an important person in his life, Wendy Ramsey. She was, in his words, the center of their family.
Wendy left an impact on everyone she encountered, inspiring Kyle in more ways than one. Most specifically, prompting him to explore the role fear plays with death. What is her legacy teaching him? And what is it teaching you?
After You Listen: * Join the journey with Kyle, text Tiffany to download a copy of the self-guided Fear Interview. Text the word FEAR to Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
“I think fear is telling me what will happen when all these people who seek my advice or work with me find out that I have no idea what I'm doing.” Kyle Lacy
As the fear journey continues, Kyle Lacy, SVP of Marketing at Seismic, continues to uncover what fear is telling him. Helping him explore the topic is marketing leader Robin Daniels. As someone who has led companies public, Robin understands the pressures and responsibilities that come with impressive titles.
How does Robin tackle the fear? He reframes it. Continue the exploration as Kyle wrestles with his big question, “what is fear telling him?”
After You Listen: * Join the journey with Kyle, text Tiffany to download a copy of the self-guided Fear Interview. Text the word FEAR to Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
“Understanding what values are important to me — and I don't think I've spent a lot of time mapping that out. Not what Matthew, Mark, Luke and John told me. But me, Kyle.” - Kyle
For Kyle Lacy faith is a loaded word, bringing up negative thoughts and memories. Why is it such a trigger? As Kyle continues on his fear journey, he invites Joe Staples to help him talk through his fear of faith. As a man with strong convictions, Joe shares that for him, following a religion is only part of what shapes us. The other part is what Kyle may be missing.
After You Listen: * Join the journey with Kyle, text Tiffany to download a copy of the self-guided Fear Interview. Text the word FEAR to Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
“I think fear is telling me what will happen when all these people that seek advice or work with me or my friends and family find out that I have no idea what the fuck I’m doing.” - Kyle.
In episode one of Kyle Lacy’s Fear Journey, Kyle goes through his Fear Interview with Nathaniel McGuire, a Life Coach and Family Counselor in Indianapolis, exploring the role fear is playing in his life. Whatever the message fear is speaking, one thing is clear–the narrative of fear is a lie. As we go deeper into his journey, Tiffany joins the conversation unpacking what he’s experienced so far.
After You Listen:
- Think through your own fears. If you would like to explore them further, download a copy of the self-guided Fear Interview or text the word FEAR to Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
- Does this message inspire you? If yes, share this episode with a friend.
“I was looking at myself in my forties, and I thought, ‘Wow, I never thought I'd be here. What happened?’” -JoAnn E. Trudeau (JET)
As life’s challenges ebb and flow, fear can drive you to make decisions you normally wouldn’t. JET and her husband found themselves searching for comfort from the loneliness of their marriage in destructive ways. JET shares her fear journey of forgiveness, personal growth, and faith, which led them to find love in each other again.
In part 2 of the episode with JET, listen to how forgiveness brought her and Kevin towards a deeper-rooted love.
As we are gearing up for season 3, we’d love your feedback. Please take a few minutes to complete this survey.
“We all have a story. We all have a hole. We all have pain. It’s time for you to choose. Are you going to be a victim? Or, are you going to use this to grow and make your life better?” - JoAnn E. Trudeau (JET)
After a childhood of pushing fear aside to survive, JET chose acceptance. That one decision changed her and her family’s life forever, mending an area of her life drowned in chaos and confusion.
In part one, learn what happens when you choose to forgive.
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“It's something I have to make sure I'm intentional about preparing for. Otherwise, you feel like the whole week, you're just reacting.” - Tiffany
When you have a two-career home, odds are either you or your spouse will have periods when you have to run the household solo. In this episode, Tiffany shares some survival tips she’s learned to incorporate as J.R. travels for work and she has to temporarily act as a single parent.
What hacks help your household run smoothly? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
“Kids behave to your expectations.” - Tiffany Sauder
You can read all of the books on parenting, but when you’re thrown into it, you find your own style that fits for you and your family. In this Q&A, Tiffany shares the three principles that guide parenting in the Sauder household.
What principles guide you? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
As a working mom, Tiffany gets a lot of questions about how their day-to-day runs.
“What’s it like to have four kids and a two-career home?”
Instead of hearing her answers, she invites her four girls to join the show giving listeners a glimpse into their lives from the voices of who it impacts the most - her children.
And if you’re looking for Tiffany’s family check-in mentioned, shoot her text for a free download. Text ‘Family’ to 317-350-8921.
“Would I know my kids? Would it be possible for me to be in tune with their hearts, with their needs, with what it was that they needed from me as a mom?” - Tiffany
Balancing a career with being a mom has been a recurring theme in Scared Confident. For this episode, Tiffany talks through the difficulty of defining success as a mom. Listen as she identities how she knows she’s succeeded and what that means with each child.
How do you define success? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
“Eat the shit sandwich, don’t nibble on it.” - Tiffany
“The hard thing isn't dreaming big. The hard thing is waking up in the middle of the night with a cold sweat. When the dream turns into a nightmare.” - Ben Horowitz
When we have something really treacherous to do, there's a lot of risk. It's going to suck. But it doesn’t have to drag out forever. Listen as Tiffany shares the lessons learned from the book The Hard Thing About Hard Things by Ben Horowitz and where they show up in her life today.
Are you dealing with the truth head on? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
“We don’t get to win our lives without first mastering our days.” - Tiffany
Lesson learned from Mike Keleher
Are you maximizing the minutes, hours, and days that you’re given? In this episode, Tiffany shares a legendary piece of advice she learned from her friend Mike Keleher, on the importance of getting every bit of potential out of each day. Listen as she breaks down the ways this radical mindset shift has affected her life and the way she leads.
What does it look like for you to win your day? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
“When you try to be efficient with people, oftentimes what you're doing is saying your context must be the same as mine.” - Tiffany
Leadership is a slow, inefficient process. Yet, it’s important work that is worth doing. In this episode, Tiffany shares a lesson from Brian Kavicky that has significantly impacted the way she leads.
How are you underestimating the reasonableness and good intentions of your people? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
“You never feel safe until you know the information, even if the information is not what you wanted it to be.” - Tiffany
Are you keeping people in the dark, believing it will keep them safe? In this episode, Tiffany shares her key takeaway from the book, The Great Game of Business by Jack Stack, on the safety that comes with sharing information. Listen as she unpacks the ways this has affected her leadership.
How are you underestimating the reasonableness and good intentions of your people? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
“You don’t always need to be the one who says that the other person is wrong; sometimes you need to let it play out.” -Tiffany
Do you insist on proving people wrong in the moment? In this episode, Tiffany shares some advice from her dad on allowing the truth to play out–even if it takes longer than we’d like it to.
What is a truth you are taking the long view on? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
“I believe the research phase I'm in will make me more comfortable writing my music versus getting the megaphone just because I’m the CEO.” - Aman Brar
After two successful exits, Aman Brar, board member and previous CEO of Jobvite, joins Tiffany to discuss the evolution of his identity. From being a contrarian in high school, to balancing playfulness as the founder of two companies, Aman reveals how he leaned into those characteristics throughout his life.
During this next transition, exiting from his company, learn how Aman will try something different - pressing pause.
“If you're 22 and you're trying to figure out what you like, I would say yes to everything. Get your reps in. Get exposed. Go hard.” - Tiffany The beginning of your career is filled with uncertainty. With no more report cards, how do you determine your next move?
Colleen Kelly, an Account Executive at Blind Zebra, reached out to Tiffany for coffee where they discuss the foundation of a successful career. When Colleen read Tiffany’s post about when her fourth daughter was born, not only did the photo of four sisters look familiar, but Tiffany's message about being a mom, a wife, a business person, and a friend were all things she aspired to become.
In this episode, they discuss finding passion at work, being a working mom, and defining your identity. Tiffany shares what she’s learned along the way, including a principal moment: Reshaping her definition of success.
As you listen, ask yourself: What’s my next step?
“Life is not a series of luck events. Luck happens when you put hard work in.” -Tiffany You worked hard, showed up, stayed disciplined, and that great thing finally happened. Do you credit luck or your own effort?
In this episode, Tiffany tells the story of something good that happened in her early days as President of Element Three and how her mentor showed her that it’s not just luck, it’s about the hard work and the discipline that put them in a position to be lucky.
“I never moved work things to create room for my family. I was always moving family things to create room for work. I started to realize that my family was getting my excuses. Nobody at work was getting my excuses.” -Tiffany
You told your family you’ll be home by six o’clock only to show up at seven. Immediately you launch into all the reasons why you’re late. “Someone stopped by my office,” “There was a presentation I needed to finish,” “I had a client meeting that went over.” Whatever the case may be.
To conclude this five-part series, Tiffany reflects on what happens to relationships when they are filled with excuses. As she walks through her realization, what are the relationships you might be sacrificing? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
“What I started to realize is that on the backside of growth was making sure we had the operational stability, infrastructure, and maturity to be able to handle all that growth.” - Tiffany
You start a business. You’re selling, you’re making money. It’s exciting. But what happens when you don’t have the infrastructure in place to handle that growth? As Tiffany continues to give her 24-year-old self advice, she walks through her learnings of running and growing her business.
What advice would you give a young business owner? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
"Don't discipline your child because you're embarrassed of what they did and how it may reflect on what people think of you. As adults, we need to understand how we're feeling about our own health and how that child is not a reflection of us. That child is their own little individual." - Wendy
Previously on the show, Tiffany talked with Johnna Meyers about her struggle with eating disorders and obsession over body image. Johnna shared that the number one thing that influences a young girl is often her mom's relationship with food and its demonstration. Revisiting this idea, Tiffany sits down with her mom, Wendy.
“If I tell people I don't feel guilty, they're going to assume I don't love my kids. And then they're going to think I'm a bad mom. And then they're going to think poorly of me. And that's what I'm afraid of.” -Tiffany
After Tiffany had her second daughter, she couldn’t help but feel guilty about returning to work. In her life planning class, she raised that feeling aloud, only for the facilitator to ask her, “Do you really feel guilty?”
Listen in to hear how that question helped Tiffany wrestle with her feelings of fear.
What advice would you give your younger self? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
“The one thing that other people cannot take from us is our character. It is the one thing that only we can give to others.” - Tiffany
What started with a basement mess turned into a teachable moment posing the question of who do you want to be? In this episode, Tiffany gives a sneak peek into the inner workings of her home as a mother of four girls. Listen as Tiffany leads her daughter through a seemingly kids-will-be-kids moment that ends in a life lesson on character, realizing it’s also something we need to consistently revisit as adults.
“Knowing that I know how to sell has created such an insurance policy around me being able to play the game a little bit more boldly.” - Tiffany In this five-part series, Tiffany answers the question, what would you tell your 24-year-old self to work on each day? Her first piece of advice is to learn how to sell. Listen to find out why. What would you tell your younger self? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
“We have no idea the number of people that want to help us. But the reason they don't is because we either don't know how to ask for or articulate what it is that we need.” - Tiffany In part two of this five-part series, Tiffany talks through the second piece of advice she would give her younger self. Listen as she shares a moment where she first realized that being vulnerable is the first step to harnessing the wisdom and help of others.
What advice would you give your younger self? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
“My fear was I wouldn't matter to anyone. In a world where we are told your size matters, your size is what gets you love, your size is what gets you attention, I didn’t want to go unnoticed.” - Johnna
Johnna Myers is an ambassador for truth. As a part of that calling she joins Tiffany to talk about her struggle in overcoming body obsession and an eating disorder.
When you’re all-consumed with something, it drains you. It takes everything you have and you can’t think about anything else. For 20 years, Johnna listened to the fear and the lies that she would never be good enough and that how she looked defined who she was. Finally brought to her knees, she asked for help and began to untangle her identity from the thoughts and words of others.
As you listen to Johnna’s story, it's important to ask yourself if what you’re pursuing is bringing you true satisfaction.
“The thing that changed my perspective forever is this idea that I am not my fear.” - Tiffany
Fear is not who you are. It is separate from your identity, and you choose whether or not it takes up any mental or physical space within you. Listen to this episode as Tiffany explains how this realization has helped her move forward.
Have more questions? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
“Guilt is a choice. Let's remember that. Nobody else can make us feel that way. We get to pick it.” - Tiffany
Prioritizing yourself is a choice, just like feeling guilty. In this episode, listen to Tiffany’s daily routine to ensure she gets what she needs. The biggest takeaway? Figure out your minimums — the basic things you need to feel strong and whole.
What makes you feel like you are spending time loving and prioritizing yourself? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
“When you get these squeeze moments, you need to get your heart back into it because it becomes a head commitment and you're not feeling it in your heart. It could mean that there's an ingredient missing and you need to resolve it differently so that it becomes sustainable.” - Tiffany
Give up. You can’t do this. You’re not as smart as they are…
All these lies and more have crossed Tiffany’s mind throughout her career, but she didn’t let negative thoughts defeat her. Instead she took them as a signal for her to recommit — to the team, the company mission, and even her family.
As Tiffany talks through realigning herself to get self-motivated, ask yourself what areas of your life need reevaluation.
Have more questions? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
“My performance is different from who I am as a person. And so, in the relationships I have, my value to the world and my value to the people that love me have nothing to do with my performance.” - Tiffany
Have you ever looked at your choices and wondered, is my path normal?
Abby Parker, COO and Co-founder of Elate, reached out to Tiffany for coffee, and in their conversation they discuss personal journeys. Abby's current situation reminds Tiffany of where she was in her mid-twenties: newly married, running a startup, and wondering if she has what it takes to be successful?
In their conversation, Abby and Tiffany discuss owning your choices, why uncommon outcomes require an uncommon effort, and why “normal” and “balanced” are overrated.
As you listen, ask yourself: What outcomes am I shooting for?
“Earlier I talked about the core five: the house, kids, food, laundry, and you. You have to solve for those five things every single week, and when we're in seasons of transition and craziness, I actually hold more tightly to the disciplines I know set us up for success across those five areas.” - Tiffany
Seasons of change are naturally disruptive, but they don't have to upend everything. When the Sauders undergo multiple life changes, how do they go with the flow? Listen to how clear communication and expectation setting sets them up for success.
Want to know more? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
“I'm afraid of most things and don't have that much confidence. So that will probably be the most surprising thing just to learn that I am scared every day. I'm Kyle Lacy, and this is my fear journey.”
In Season 2 of Scared Confident, you’re going to hear Kyle Lacy go through a fear journey. As Tiffany Sauder explored her relationship with fear in Season 1, similarly, Kyle will have some important conversations with people in his life.
He’s a person with many roles: the Chief Marketing Officer for Lessonly, a father, a son, a brother, an author, speaker, and the list goes on. Follow along as he gains a better understanding of what fear wants to say to him and how he uses a powerful statement to take back control of the narrative in his mind.
While You Listen:
- Join the journey with Kyle, text Tiffany to download a copy of the fear guide. What is fear telling you?
- Text: “I’m in” to 317.350.8921
After You Listen:
- Does this message inspire you? If yes, share this episode with a friend. And as thank you for helping grow our community, you’ll be entered into a drawing to win a fear interview with Nathaniel. Let Tiffany know by texting her at 317.350.8921.
“If doing the extra little things can work for me, it can work for you too.” - Lara Clark
Have you stopped investing in yourself? While waiting for her daughter in the gym parking lot, Lara realized her life had become focused on everyone but herself. At that moment, she knew two things: that wasn’t always the case, and something had to change.
If you’d like the chance to take part in your own fear interview like Tiffany did for Season 1 of Scared Confident, text the word FEAR to 317-350-8921.
“I will stand strong in my story that mental illness does not define me. Only myself and my God can define who I am.” - Chris Mills
As a high-performing woman, Chris lived by the mantra of “Suck it up, buttercup” because she believed all high performers do. But in a moment of clarity, she realized she needed help to overcome the trauma and the stigma that was holding her back and embrace her true identity.
If you’d like the chance to take part in your own fear interview like Tiffany did for Season 1 of Scared Confident, text the word FEAR to 317-350-8921.
“I'm right in the middle of what I used to look forward to.” - Kristi Kaiser
It’s easy to get lost in the things we look forward to. When Kristi realized she was spending too much time waiting for the next page of her life to load, she decided to focus on the process and the moments along the way. By changing her perspective, she began moving forward more intentionally and noticing the beauty of her story.
If you’d like the chance to take part in your own fear interview like Tiffany did for Season 1 of Scared Confident, text the word FEAR to 317-350-8921.
“You can be brave and scared at the same time.” - Whitney Dunbar
Throughout her journey to become a high-impact leader, Whitney felt the conflict between her ability to see things differently and her desire to be accepted. As she steps more confidently into her story, you’ll hear how she learned to be more vulnerable, take risks, and be brave in the midst of adversity.
If you’d like the chance to take part in your own fear interview like Tiffany did for Season 1 of Scared Confident, text the word FEAR to 317-350-8921.
“I'm scared to admit that I don't always have it all together. I'm scared of being viewed as a failure. And, quite honestly, I'm scared you won't like me.” - Stephanie Ewing As a “recovering perfectionist,” Stephanie often finds herself thinking about what she “should” have done or said in a given situation. After years of worrying about what people think, she learned to let go and be okay with not being liked by everyone. Listen as she shares her journey toward self-assurance and peace of mind.
If you’d like the chance to take part in your own fear interview like Tiffany did for Season 1 of Scared Confident, text the word FEAR to 317-350-8921.
“I've never been super confident in who I am. I've spent most of my life limiting myself, at least outwardly, to be the most agreeable, happy, positive, buttoned-up version of me.” - Holly Pels Holly often feared she would lose her identity in motherhood. But after three miscarriages, she wondered if she would get to be a mother at all. Listen as she shares her story and how becoming a mom helped her find out who she truly is.
If you’d like the chance to take part in your own fear interview like Tiffany did for Season 1 of Scared Confident, text the word FEAR to 317-350-8921.
“I pushed down all of those really hard things, and I just kept moving forward. I did not take time to investigate what those things meant for me, because I didn't want to feel it.” - Emily Perry
As a child, Emily Perry was bullied for her bad haircut and boyish looks. Now, she is the Founder and Executive Director of Susie’s Place, a child-friendly center for investigations of allegations of crimes against children.
If you’d like the chance to take part in your own fear interview like Tiffany did for Season 1 of Scared Confident, text the word FEAR to 317-350-8921.
“When we stand tall in our stories, we give others the invitation, the courage, and the confidence to do the same.” - Rebecca Fleetwood Hession
Rise and Thrive is a subseries of Scared Confident, highlighting the stories of seven women who took part in the Rise and Thrive Experience. Rebecca Fleetwood Hession, Founder of the Rise and Thrive Experience, is an executive coach and keynote speaker who is passionate about the power of building community.
This seven-month journey culminates in a grand finale called the “Stand Tall In Your Story” live event. Each participant shares how they have been learning and growing throughout the experience. As we share these stories with you, think about how you can stand tall in your own story.
If you’d like the chance to take part in your own fear interview like Tiffany did for Season 1 of Scared Confident, text the word FEAR to 317-350-8921.
The journey of Scared Confident started with Tiffany Sauder’s fear interview. To close the season, we asked Nathaniel McGuire to rejoin her in asking the question, what’s next?
“This season was a creative journey that I needed to go on. And so for me, as somebody who looks for other people’s approval in so many ways, I think this was a step of accepting myself...so that I could be completely true to the creative process.” - Tiffany
To thank you for joining the first season, Tiffany is gifting one fear interview to a listener. Simply text the word FEAR to 317-350-8921. Be sure to follow along wherever you get your audio in anticipation of what’s to come next.
One of Tiffany’s major goals with Scared Confident is to give language to fear. But words are not the only way we communicate. To create a visual portrayal, Tiffany reached out to Grace Johnson, former graphic designer at Element Three, and asked her to listen to the first episode with one request.
“Paint. Make what you feel.”
In this bonus episode, listen as Grace explains the meaning behind her painting at the Scared Confident launch event.
If you want to see Grace’s painting, check out the Scared Confident Instagram page.
“Give it language. The people around you need to know what you're trying to do. It helps you stay accountable to your actions and activities, because when they know that's your goal, they can remind you of it.” - Tiffany
It’s hard to stay focused on goals in a world of constant distraction. In this Q&A, Tiffany shares what helps keep her and her goals on track – not abandoning them for the next idea that pops into her head.
Want to know more? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
“If you don't set intention towards something, your behavior is erratic because you’re not aiming for something. Aiming for something is so much more powerful than aiming for nothing.” - Tiffany
Goal-setting has never come naturally for Tiffany. She’s had to work it intentionally into the framework of her life. Even if a goal is only a well-educated guess or a dream, once you aim for something, you get a different level of feedback from your decision-making.
What else does she think about when setting goals? Listen to this Q&A to find out.
“There's a phenomenon where what you're trying to either avoid or trying to attain you unintentionally draw out... And once you had shifted about making it good for them versus good for you, that was where you became confident again, because it wasn't selfish. It was for them, not you.” - Brian Kavicky
Tiffany asks Brian Kavicky, long-term sales coach, mentor, and business leader, to join Scared Confident. As they reflect on her journey over the years, Brian identifies areas where Tiffany still needs to grow. What’s her take? She’s in pursuit of truth not comfort.
“As long as J.R. and I understand what’s needed, that's okay. Not everybody is going to understand your plan for your life and what you're going after and why that's important to you. And so, sometimes they don't understand, and you maybe need to make those decisions because it's the right thing for your space and your family.” - Tiffany
In this Q&A, Tiffany describes her family’s process of sacrificing for one another to make space for what’s needed. Not everyone will understand your choices, but as long as your family members do, that’s all that matters.
Have more questions for Tiffany? Text her at (317) 350-8921.
“That's often when you figure out what you're really made out of because you have more capacity than you think you do. Some days it's just too much, and you have to do it anyway.” - Tiffany
Yes, at times it feels like it’s just too much to handle, but it’s how you deal with it that matters. In this Q&A episode, Tiffany talks through what she does to avoid feeling constantly overwhelmed, which means sometimes you have to say no.
As you listen, think through the areas in your life where you might need to adjust to help you sustain the life you need to live.
When both parents work full-time and you have young children, deciding what form of childcare you want and can afford can be a tough decision. What’s important to you and what factors do you need to consider?
Paige texted Tiffany asking just that. In this Live Q&A, Tiffany walks through her and J.R’s decision to have in-home childcare for their family and the benefits it has brought them personally. While it’s not a solution for everyone, it’s important to think about your family’s priorities and how you achieve them.
Have follow-up questions for Tiffany? Text her at (317) 350-8921. She’d love to hear from you.
“If you decide that you want to have a career and have young children, or multiple children, it is going to be really freaking hard, and you have to kind of armor-up for that.” - Tiffany
In this Q&A Tiffany shares what has worked for her when contemplating a career change or taking a break for kids. Ultimately, it isn’t easy, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t possible, especially if you have a clear vision of what you want your future to be like.
As you listen, ask yourself, what is your heart saying? What is your motivation and desire? Then text Tiffany your answer at (317) 350-8921.
“I'm not in this constant state of solving. I find when people can't figure out self-care, it’'s because they don't commit to something and they're constantly in solving mode instead of saying, this is fixed. This works for me. This is just what I'm going to do.” - Tiffany
Taking care of yourself is crucial to maintaining your well-being, and it looks different for everyone. In this episode, you’ll learn it’s not about overcomplicating. It’s about listening to your body and finding what works for you.
Listen as Tiffany shares how she takes care of herself in small ways first before tackling the big ones.
“When I feel like I've done something for myself at the beginning of the day, it doesn't matter how crazy the temperature gets in the house or at work or around me, if I've done that just for 20 minutes, it helps me really feel centered.” - Tiffany
With a household to maintain and a business to run, it can be hard to sustain a routine. But it is possible. In this Q&A, Tiffany shares what parts of her daily routine are absolute musts to help her feel centered and take on the day.
What aspects of your day help you perform your best? Text Tiffany at (317) 350-8921.
“I remember, so vividly, sitting on the floor in his office by the radiator and just being like, ‘Are we gonna be okay?’ And I knew he didn't know the answer in the short term. I think we always believed in us, long-term, like, we kinda knew we'd figure it out.” - Tiffany
To celebrate sixteen years of marriage, J.R. joins Tiffany in reflecting on their relationship and the story of building a life together. As you can imagine, fear has played a role every step along the way.
In this episode, you’ll hear their individual dynamics, how they have learned from each other and what it looks like to have a two-career home while keeping family at the center.
“Behind the question of, ‘How do you handle the mental weight of it?’ I think it is really the question, “Does it ever feel easier? Do I ever feel less stressed? Do I ever not feel so tired on Fridays? Do I ever feel safe?” - Tiffany
Tiffany shares her answers to the questions above while shedding light on what it takes to be an entrepreneur and business leader. And what’s a guiding principle that helps her address all the above? Listen to this Q&A and follow along to wherever you get your audio.
As Tiffany reflects on this question, one point emerges: how she answers this question has changed over time. When you listen, notice how she decides what to say no to and the filters she puts opportunities through to protect her time, energy, and capacity.
To get your question answered text Tiffany at (317) 350-8921 or reach out on LinkedIn.
For our final episode on values, Tiffany answers, “Are there any value minded-leaders that you respect and admire?”
“He said, ‘my values don't agree with what the research is saying and I'm going with my gut. We're going with our culture. We're going with our values, with what we know. We believe we'll be successful because that's who we are despite the risk that was clearly articulated as related to market acceptance.’ And I just thought that was incredible.” - Tiffany
Who is the leader behind the insight that inspired her values? Take a listen to this Q&A series on values.
Tiffany shares how her personal values affect her decision-making in a professional setting in our third episode on values.
“Be vulnerable. Pursue family, demand excellence, stay scared, serve others. Love God.” - Tiffany
Where do your values show up professionally? Are you living them out at home and work? Hear how Tiffany separates them while keeping her promises to her family, her employees, and herself.
“There's a lot of fear wrapped around race. On my side, as a white person, the fear for me is about just saying wrong things, not understanding that there are things I might say, unintentionally, that hurt and offend and cause harm. And so it's easier to just stay silent, stay in the background and not, I would say, pursue growth around that.” - Tiffany
Joining Tiffany is San Pathak, Chief Operations Officer of Element Three, as they take on the topic of fear and race. We ask you to come into the conversation open. This episode is about building human bridges, not political ones.
After listening, ask yourself, are you activating around your fear? Are you stepping into the discomfort? Instead of trying to convince other people of what you do or don't believe, are you stepping into the messiness of a relationship? From Tiffany’s perspective, as you’ll hear, that's where change actually takes place.
The second question on the topic of values is, how do your values guide your personal life?
“I think about it guiding two things: your decision-making and your time and what gets your energy and attention?"
As you listen to Tiffany share how she breaks down her personal values based on the questions she asked herself for the past twenty years, what comes to mind for you? Get into the community with other listeners by texting Tiffany at (317) 350-8921.
For the next four Q&A episodes, Tiffany digs into the questions she’s received on values. Starting first with how she defines them for her life. As you listen to her answer, think about your own.
“What I have found in my life...as it relates to values is that it's really about interrogating: ‘Where are the moments that you feel like you showed up in the way that you're really proud of and where the reflecting on those moments, where you showed up in a way that you're really disappointed in yourself? And to me that is how I've picked up and gathered my values in life.”
Share your thoughts with Tiffany via text at (317) 350-8921.
It all started with an email from Lindsay McGuire, Content Marketing Manager at Formstack, ShowRunner for Ripple Effect, and VP of Grants for the Junior League. Tiffany sits down with Lindsay to talk through questions she sent in a Live Q&A-style episode.
“This is a process of becoming selfless of understanding that for a period of time, my own physical needs are not the most primary one that I have to meet for a period of time.” - TIffany
The conversation they have explores a myriad of questions, how much space do you let your kids take up in your own life? How do you find the right balance? What does it mean to be more than just a mom? Who is going to help take care of my new baby when I go back to work?
This episode was produced by Share Your Genius with original music and sound design by Russell Bush.
“Being wrong in the short term and being together is far more important.”
Tiffany gives a sneak peek into the Sauder family home sharing what they keep on a three-by-five card, ‘don't be right at each other, be right with one another.’ It's a reminder that nobody wins when you're right at each other. The other person has to lose for you to be able to be right.
How did she get to this understanding and how does it impact her marriage and business? Take a listen. Does anything come to mind for you? Text Tiffany at (317) 350-8921.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. In those moments, fear asks us accusingly, “Who are you to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?” When we should be asking, “Who am I not to be?” - Tiffany
Mark Caswell, CEO of Resultant, joins Tiffany in exploring their earliest memories of fear and how those experiences shaped them as leaders. When Mark stepped into the role of CEO, fear began to challenge his identity and ability to do the job. How did his childhood fears impact his ability to move away from fear into reality? And how do your experiences wrestling with fear shape you to this day? Take a listen.
“The first six months will not be the rest of your life. And what’s going on now is not what it feels like to be a working mom.”
After having a baby, whether it’s your first or fourth, going back to work is an adjustment. As Tiffany shares her experience, she provides insights reminding you to give yourself grace while recognizing new baby demands change as they grow.
What’s on your mind for Tiffany? Send her a text (317) 350-8921.
"I can get Tiffany's attention when she has a really big idea about something. She starts to think through like anticipation and what might happen. And then she starts to think about what other people might think and their expectations." - Fear
In the first episode of Scared Confident, Tiffany opens the door to her fear interview conducted by Nathaniel Mcguire, a Life Coach and Marriage and Family Counselor in Indianapolis. It's honest, raw, and unedited.
You'll witness her taking on the persona of fear wrangling with the internal chatter that threatens to paralyze us.
After listening to her experience, we encourage you to think through your own fears. If you would like to explore them further, download a copy of the self-guided Fear Interview or text the word FEAR to Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
“You know how sometimes you're afraid to do something, but you do it anyway?” That is what Scared Confident is all about. We all are asked to do things we're afraid of and if we allow that first fear to be the thing that stops us, then we will never be able to grant ourselves the life that we all dream up.”Tiffany Sauder Introducing Scared Confident, a show from Tiffany Sauder taking an introspective look at one woman’s business and life lessons, as well the challenges she faces in real-time. You’ll hear her wrangle with internal chatter while providing insights to help listeners dealing with similar obstacles. And yet through all the conversations and questions, there’s one constant she’ll be exploring intentionally: what is fear telling you?