Your Marriage Matters Podcast: Recent Episodes
Lynn Griesemer - Marriage Coach
Your Marriage Matters with Marriage Coach Lynn is a weekly podcast designed to help you make your marriage great.
"Podfading" refers to the end or transition of a podcast program. The Your Marriage Matters Podcast has consistently published a weekly show for almost 18 months, or 71 episodes. I must turn my efforts toward writing on the topics of marriage, family and childbirth and am no longer able to keep pace with a weekly show. Instead, I will look for opportunities to present sporadic programs in the future. Until next time, "make your marriage great." -Lynn, www.marriagecoachlynn.com and www.unassistedhomebirth.com.
Marriage: The Next Generation. Listen to Lynn and Bob talk about their experience at the wedding of their first child. What's it like when your adult child gets married?
This podcast episode is a book review of John Bosio's "Happy Together: the Catholic Blueprint for a Loving Marriage. It is also the foundation of the program "Happy Together: 6 Dates for Catholic Couples." www.happy-together.net. http://marriagecoachlynn.com/index.html - You're invited to join the Your Marriage Matters Movement if you support lifelong, happy marriage. https://www.facebook.com/MarriageCoac... https://www.amazon.com/Reenergize-You... https://twitter.com/MarriageCoachLn
What can you do when your marriage is hanging by threads? Many will give up, thinking they’ve exhausted all possibilities. But wait - listen to this podcast. There may be just one thing - one thing you can do that can turn things around.
What can we do when our marriage is at the end? Can we salvage it? How can we reconcile? What can we do when we’ve exhausted everything? Today we’ll take about Gary Chapman’s book, “One More Try: What to do When Your Marriage is Falling Apart.” Don’t lose hope! There’s a lot you can do.
Workaholic spouse? Non-communicative Spouse? Controlling Spouse? Abusive Spouse? Unfaithful spouse? How can we overcome some of the most difficult problems? Today’s episode is on “Loving Solutions: Overcoming Barriers in Your Marriage.”
Spring, Summer, Fall and Winter. What are the 4 seasons of marriage and what can we do if we find ourselves in a season that is not very enjoyable? Find out on today’s episode where we’ll discuss “The 4 Seasons of Marriage: Secrets to a Lasting Marriage.”
Do you know the 4 pitfalls to communication? 3 secrets you can easily do to ensure a thriving relationship? Listen to today’s podcast as we talk about Gary Chapman’s book, “Covenant Marriage: Building Commitment and Intimacy.
2 books will be discussed today: “Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married” and “The Marriage You’ve Always Wanted.” Do you have the marriage you’ve always wanted? Do you know what’s going wrong? Have you gotten off track? There are some simple areas to pay attention too. Let’s take the mystery and frustration out of relationships and focus on what matters.
We’re beginning a 6-part series on books by Dr. Gary Chapman. We’ll start with his most well known book: The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts. What’s your love language? Do you know your spouse’s? Knowing your love language and those around you is beneficial in building intimacy and improving your relationship. Speak your partner’s language, whether it’s words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, or physical touch.
"Blueprint for a Lasting Marriage: How to Create Your Happily Ever After with More Intention, Less Work," by Lesli Doares. A great book to give as a gift to engaged couples or newly married couples, Doares outlines 5 steps in creating a blueprint or plan for a marriage that will flourish if you do a few basic things.
How do we create a great marriage? That's the topic for today. When two people get married, they enter a process of creating a whole new relationship. What does it take? How do you do that? Does it naturally happen? Listen to today's episode to learn two ways or shortcuts to creating a great marriage.
If you are successful in most parts of your life, will you be successful in your marriage? Do you know what you want and are you working toward sharing your talents with the world? Knowing what you want not only effects you, but others. How does your success and happiness or lack of success and happiness effect your spouse and family? How do you deal with challenges and differences in your relationship?
Happiness. We all want it. What is it and how do we go about building a happy marriage? Today's episode is the first in a series about how to have a happy marriage.
Marriage Therapist and Author Dr. John Gottman has identified 4 kinds of negativity, if allowed to grow and fester, would be extremely lethal to a relationship: criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling. Listen to today’s podcast where we talk about the 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse. This concludes the Middle Years of Marriage Series. Remember to adopt the right attitude within. Practice gratitude, forgiveness and charity and your spaceship will soar to great heights.
What does your spouse do that bothers you? Today’s show might surprise you as we focus on YOU rather than what you think your spouse does that irritates you. Where do these irritations originate? What is the source of these irritations? What bothered you when you first got married and no longer bothers you? Why did this change? What did you do? We’re going to dissect irritations and how you can manage them. The first point we need to make is that irritations come in many forms and intensities. Irritations have to do with your expectations.
Do’s and Don’ts for the Middle Years and Beyond: Don’t be a complainer. Don’t neglect each other. Don’t deceive or lie. Don’t put excessive energy into your past or future and instead, live in the present - that’s all we’ve got. Do make your home a sanctuary, speak kindly to each other, bring pleasure to your partner, cultivate a proper temper and feed the heart.
Middle Age Malaise doesn’t have to creep into your marriage if you know what to look for and how to address important areas of your relationship. What are crucial things to look for? Boredom, neglecting the concept of LOVE MAPS - or sharing your inner world with your spouse, the importance of having a passion and shared goals. Today’s episode is the first in a 4-part series on the Middle Years of Marriage.
"What therefore God has joined together, let no man put asunder." (Matthew 19:4-6). A happy marriage usually contains happy people, better physical and mental health and a higher level of wealth. Author Steve Bollman ("The Choice Wine: 7 Steps to a Superabundant Marriage") says if you follow the 7 steps, your marriage will have a foretaste of paradise. The last chapter ties everything together and Bollman explains how the steps parallel the holy family. He says God wished to give couples the superabundant joy that was experienced by man and woman in paradise. He doesn't want us to have sufficiency, but superabundance - to truly thrive. Here are the 7 steps: honor your wedding vows, use money for other people, give God some of your time, set your mind on things above, find God in yourself, find God in other people, make it easy to be good and hard to be bad.
In "Three to Get Married," Fulton Sheen addresses the longings in our hearts, the imperfections of relationships, the relationship between man and God, and husband and wife. As you might have guessed in the title, it takes a husband, wife, and God to make a marriage profound and meaningful.
What is mature love? What is responsible love? Is chastity necessary in marriage? What about contraception? Is it harmful to marriage? If yes, how so? What are Pope John Paul II’s views on children and family? Listen to today’s podcast episode and discover some interesting viewpoints that run counter to our culture, but can bring great joy to marriage. We will review Edward Sri’s “Men, Women and the Mystery of Love: Practical Insights from John Paul II’s ‘Love and Responsibility.’ “
Although “Male and Female He Created Them” was written in 2003, it’s a book worth reading. From the history of marriage to marriage as a sacrament, there’s so much in this book that shows the beauty of marriage. I like how this book states plainly and clearly the reasons behind such topics as chastity, love, the indissolubility of marriage and many other topics. Here’s a question to ask: “Do I think about my duty to be for my spouse a support in his sanctification or his or her search for God?” Listen to today’s podcast for a good look at “Male and Female He Created Them” on Marriage and the Family, by Jorge Cardinal Medina Estevez
“Marriage: A Path to Sanctity,” by Javier Abad and Eugenio Fenoy
The sacrament of matrimony gives couples lasting strength to fulfill their duties as spouse and parent. Do you want a life filled with faith, hope and love? Than all you have to do is surrender with a cheerful heart, set aside your ego, and respect natural law. You have a higher probability for blissful harmony if you adhere to fidelity in marriage. Today’s podcast is a summary of this insightful book.
Covenanted Happiness: Love and Commitment in Marriage by Cormac Burke. There are certain rules that couples can follow and this book explains why we get into predicaments and encounter unhappiness and demise in marriage. Love is other-centered, not self-centered. "A married love that is fully human is a compound of sense and spirit." A beautiful book with challenging concepts.
Nonviolent Communication is a way to create peace and calm in the home. Who wouldn’t want to make a connection in a way that everybody’s needs get met through natural giving? Listen to today’s podcast and discover the process of nonviolent communication, when the speaker cites an observation, feeling, need and request. For more information, look up Dr. Marshall Rosenberg and www.cnvc.org.
Arguments. We all have them. Sometimes disagreements can bring us down and keep us down. Some people say, “Don’t sweat the small stuff,” but it is said that the little things can do damage to a marriage - especially if those so called little things are left unsolved or unattended. A wall of resentment can build due to the little things. It’s much harder to demolish a brick wall, so let’s try to not build that wall in the first place and deal with conflict as it arises. Today, we are going to discover some secrets to dealing with conflict.
Are you a good listener? How do you know? Find out what it takes to be a good listener and how to go about listening for meaning. If you aren’t a good listener, chances are, you are not in tune with your spouse.
This is part 1 in a 4-part series on communication. Today’s episode will explore why we have breakdowns and what we can do about it. There are many ways we can ensure effective communication.
In this final part of our 6-part series on Emotional Fidelity, we discuss what you can do to repair and rebuild a relationship that has been rocked by a sexual and emotional affair. It will take time, vulnerability and reconnection to start anew. What else? Listen to today’s episode for guidance and suggestions.
Monogamy. Are We Kidding Ourselves? Find out why cheating is common, the 3 main reasons we cheat, and what we can do to prevent against it happening to us.
Pornography is contributing to a breakdown in love and marriage. People who regularly view pornography have a 300% increase in having an affair or hookup outside marriage. It is negatively influencing the way humans perceive and relate to each other. Pornography isn’t just an art form or harmless individual freedom, it’s the portrayal of explicit sexual subject matter for the purposes of sexual excitement and erotic satisfaction, minus love or mature relationships. Porn is disrespectful of women. It brings with it tremendous consequences that shouldn’t be overlooked. We’ll talk about those devastating consequences on today’s episode, episode 4 of the 6-Part Series “Emotional Fidelity.”
Emotional Infidelity is a silent killer. How can you guard against Emotional Infidelity? There are at least 8 ways. Can you name some? Here are 2: (1) Commit to love as a decision, not a feeling. (2) Don’t put energy into the past.
You must continuously tend to the garden of your relationship lest it become overwrought with weeds. There are many ways in which to ensure the emotional health of your marriage. Find out on today’s episode.
This is episode 3 of 6 in the Emotional Fidelity Series. Subscribe to Your Marriage Matters Podcast on your favorite platform.
Secrets to mastering emotional well-being.
Emotional health in marriage means developing a high degree of self-awareness. It means seeking a balance or control when emotions are strong. Emotional health means taking responsibility and not blaming or burdening others. What else can we do to increase emotional health in marriage? Today is Part 2 of a 6-Part Series.
What are the most common emotional needs we all have and how do we go about fulfilling those needs? Find out the 10 secrets to a great relationship and see how you measure up.
More marriages are ruined by dishonesty than honesty. What is the policy of “Radical Honesty?” According to Dr. Willard Harley, “Reveal to your spouse as much information about yourself as you know: your thoughts, feelings, habits, likes, dislikes, personal history, daily activities, and plans for the future.” Today’s episode will make you think twice if you conceal things from your spouse. Do you want an authentic relationship where your spouse understands you or are you building a “false harmony” partnership?
This episode poses over a dozen of important questions. For a full list, sign up for the YMM Movement by visiting marriagecoachlynn.com
EVERYONE LIES! Today’s podcast reveals why we lie and examines the detrimental effects of dishonesty. If you’re not honest with yourself or your partner, you’re shortchanging yourself. Discover why you’re at risk if you have too many little lies circulating and what you can do to get back on track.
DO YOU HONOR YOUR SPOUSE? Do you place your spouse on a pedestal? Listen to today’s episode and discover why listening, patience and trust are part of honor. We’ll talk about everything from creating a safe environment so that honor can flourish. We’ll talk about fidelity, openness and how to create more honor in your marriage. In four words: Be consistent, not conditional.
Today we will discuss friendship in marriage. Aristotle says there are 3 reasons for friendship: pleasure, utility and perfected friendship. Find out why you probably don’t have a perfected friendship on your wedding day and how to attain it through the years. Partners who are good friends with each other are likely to have long-lasting marriages that thrive.
THE BIG 4: Perfect these and your marriage will be highly satisfying. The Big 4 are forgiveness, friendship, honor and honesty. We’ll start the series with FORGIVENESS. Why is forgiveness important? What does it require? What blocks us from forgiving? What happens if we refuse to forgive? Listen to today’s episode and discover why forgiveness is important for marriage - and not just forgiving the big things. Make forgiveness an ongoing process in your marriage. Continue to forgive yourself and your partner and watch your relationship thrive.
This concludes the series “How Babies Impact Marriage.” Episodes: #28 - So, You're Having a Baby! How to Have the Pregnancy and Birth of Your Dreams #29 - Infancy and Postpartum Challenges for Couples #30 - And Baby Makes 3: How to Transition to a New Family Unit #31 - Tips for Marriage When Raising Young Children
Get enough rest; be a planner; make your marriage relationship a priority. Find out the top 7 tips you need to know when raising a family.
And Baby Makes 3: How to Transition to a New Family Unit
The birth of a child means changes for marriage. Who will do the chores? How can I get enough sleep in order to function? How do we balance home life and work life? What will our vacations look like? What will our life look like? We’ll talk about expectations and the many changes that happen in marriage when a baby is welcomed into the family.
Infancy and postpartum recovery pose different challenges for different couples. How will you adjust to your new life? What are some of the challenges that arise when a new baby joins the family? Today’s episode explores the adjustments that couples face when starting a family.
So, You're Having a Baby! How to Have the Pregnancy and Birth of Your Dreams
Your first pregnancy and baby are not only life-changing events, but add a whole new dimension to your marriage. How, exactly does this change your life? Today’s podcast explores ways of having a satisfying pregnancy and birth and how to navigate through the physical and emotional changes taking place.
This is Part 1 in a Series of 4 on "How Babies Impact Marriage." Subscribe to Your Marriage Matters Podcast and don't miss out on thought-provoking episodes.
Give the 4 Gifts of Love and watch your intimacy soar! The Gift of Care, Protection, Honesty and Time. What is most important to you? Your partner? Here’s a phrase that can change your life: “Honesty is the only way that you and your spouse will ever come to understand each other.” - Dr. Willard Harley. Inspired by Dr. Harley’s book titled “The Four Gifts of Love: Preparing for Marriage that Will Last a Lifetime,” today’s episode is bound to reveal something new to you. Listen and write down the four promises you can refer to that will keep you on the path to an amazing marriage. Isn’t that what you want?!
Do you want an AWEsome marriage? Affection, Warmth and Encouragement are the secrets! They are responsible for building physical and emotional intimacy.
Want to find out everything a newlywed needs to know? Here’s a list of the top 12 things to set you on the right path.
“What do I do if I married a Narcissist?!” This is not an unusual question. Today’s episode explains narcissism and some helpful techniques to consider if you live with a narcissist. Important resources are listed on website www.marriagecoachlynn.com and on youtube channel “marriagecoachlynn” during the last few minutes of the 7/30/18 video episode of Podcast #24.
Preparing for Marriage
What are you doing to prepare for a lifetime of marriage? Not the wedding day, the marriage? Find out the most important things you can to do to prepare for marriage.
Welcome to the “Before You Get Married” Series. 4 episodes have been designed especially for those who are unmarried and considering marriage. These episodes will remove any mystery or questions you may have.
Part 1: Episode #20: Know Yourself / Your Best Self / Be the Right Mate
Part 2: Episode #21: Know Your Partner/ Selecting the Right Mate
Part 3: Episode #22: “How Do I Know if He / She’s the Right One?”
Part 4: Episode #23: Preparing for Marriage
How Do I Know if He / She’s “THE ONE?” This is one of the most important question’s of your life! Episode #22 is Part 3 in the Four-Part Series, “Before You Get Married.”
Welcome to the “Before You Get Married” Series. 4 episodes have been designed especially for those who are unmarried and considering marriage. These episodes will remove any mystery or questions you may have.
Part 1: Episode #20: Know Yourself / Your Best Self / Be the Right Mate
Part 2: Episode #21: Know Your Partner/ Selecting the Right Mate
Part 3: Episode #22: “How Do I Know if He / She’s the Right One?”
Part 4: Episode #23: Preparing for Marriage
Before You Get Married: Knowing Your Partner
There are things you need to know before getting married. Why set yourself up for failure when success is at your fingertips - or eardrums? Don’t miss this episode!
Welcome to the “Before You Get Married” Series. 4 episodes have been designed especially for those who are unmarried and considering marriage. These episodes will remove any mystery or questions you may have.
Part 1: Episode #20: Know Yourself / Your Best Self / Be the Right Mate
Part 2: Episode #21: Know Your Partner/ Selecting the Right Mate
Part 3: Episode #22: “How Do I Know if He / She’s the Right One?”
Part 4: Episode #23: Preparing for Marriage
Before You Get Married:
Knowing Yourself and Being the Best Partner You Can Be
Stop right there! This episode focuses on knowing yourself and being the best mate you can be. It’s packed with valuable info you won’t want to miss. Everyone is looking for the perfect partner. Find out how and why YOU need to be the “perfect partner.” One of the most important things you can do: ADAPT, ADJUST, GROW.
Welcome to the “Before You Get Married” Series. 4 episodes have been designed especially for those who are unmarried and considering marriage. These episodes will remove any mystery or questions you may have.
Part 1: Episode #20: Know Yourself / Your Best Self / Be the Right Mate
Part 2: Episode #21: Know Your Partner/ Selecting the Right Mate
Part 3: Episode #22: “How Do I Know if He / She’s the Right One?”
Part 4: Episode #23: Preparing for Marriage
Why Bother Getting Married? What is the Purpose of Marriage? What is the reason people cite for getting married today? It’s not what it used to be. Listen today for some interesting statistics and a few things to consider - especially as you ask yourself and your spouse:
What is the purpose of our marriage?!
What’s it Like Raising a Large Family?
Join Lynn and Bob as they discuss what it was like raising a large family. What they have to say might surprise you.
What’s it Like Growing Up in a Large Family? Fun and fascinating - never a dull moment! Today Bob and I are joined by our six children who share their perspective on growing up in a large family. Our sons are 30 and 16, and we have four daughters in their twenties.
What Makes a Good Father?
Bob and I discuss key qualities for a fantastic father and vibrant family. What do you think is the #1 secret to a stellar father? Listen to today’s podcast and find out.
What Makes a Good Husband?
Bob and I discuss key qualities for a fantastic husband and marriage. What do you think is the #1 secret to a stellar husband? Listen to today’s podcast and find out.
Are you stuck in a marriage that feels more like a roommate situation rather than a loving husband and wife relationship? Do you feel your relationship is headed in that direction? You’re just not as close as you’d like to be. Maybe you’re too busy. STOP RIGHT THERE! There’s so much you can do to halt the process and restore the love.
Listen to today’s episode and discover at least 10 things you can do to turn around a marriage that’s going south.
Is Marriage Hard Work?
Ask your partner what he or she thinks. Is this a myth? Is there any truth to it? What exactly makes marriage hard?
Join Lynn and Bob as they discuss this question: “Is marriage hard work?” What do you think?
Let’s Be Honest
Are you being honest with yourself? Have you faced what causes you pain? Have you reconciled with it and found ways to cope? If you can become comfortable with the answers to these questions, you will be better equipped to express vulnerability.
Expressing vulnerability is pivotal in becoming helpmates and forms a pathway to understanding each other. Today’s podcast will show why it’s important to be honest, how to be vulnerable and how to create a safe space in which to be vulnerable.
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What’s it like to be in a thriving marriage?
Find out today as we discuss the final level of the Sound Relationship House, “Create Shared Meaning.”
Your Marriage Matters has only been in existence for 11 weeks and we’ve shared a plethora of secrets, techniques and tips to get you to the highest level of a fully functioning marriage.
Isn’t it exciting?!
There’s much more to come.
But, for today, sit back, relax and contemplate the important questions as to why you are married, what is the purpose of your marriage, and where are you headed?
Strongly consider creating a mission statement for your marriage. Remember Stephen Covey? He’s got a lot of tools for you if this is something you’d like to do.
Don’t forget to subscribe to “Marriage Coach Lynn” Youtube channel. Each Motivational Monday episode is a companion to the podcast episode. If I zipped through the suggestion in a podcast episode, you will find a brief explanation on a video on the youtube channel.
Make Your Marriage Great!
Have you ever felt like giving up during the same old arguments?
WAIT!!! There’s hope!
With almost every argument, there is a dream lurking beneath the surface. Today’s episode, “Make Life Dreams Come True,” sheds hope.
Husband leaves the toilet seat up? Wife is defensive about spending money on trendy fashion items? Husband seems lazy around the house? Wife seems to spend more time talking with friends than her children?
Hold on. It’s not the issue that needs to be corrected. There’s something more going on.
Find out how and why disputes can drag us down and discover a way out.
Today’s mission is to think of an issue that seems to get blown out of proportion. Find out what’s really going on with the simple process outlined in today’s episode.
Visit marriagecoachlynn.com for more marriage hacks and help. Don’t wait for your marriage to slip into oblivion - perform marriage maintenance on your good or great marriage so that it will remain strong and fulfilling.
GO TO TIME OUT!
We send our children to “time out” when they’re misbehaving. It’s a chance for them to think about what they did wrong.
We need to take a voluntary time out when our arguments get heated. We need to disengage, walk away and regroup in the middle of a spat. Come back when we’ve calmed down.
When we get “flooded,” the best thing we can do is to “self-soothe” for 20 or more minutes.
Listen to today’s episode to make sure you don’t fall into the trap of a lose-lose argument.
“Practice Self-Soothing” is on the Manage Conflict rung of the Sound Relationship House and is the topic for today.
Do you want more sex?
Then you need to learn how to dialogue about problems.
You read that right.
Most people think fatigue, lack of libido or interest top the list of why people are not sexually interested.
Think again.
We don’t need to move to a quick resolution when we argue; we need to stop, slow down, listen, understand and show respect.
This is the key to peace among spouses and peace in the bedroom.
Stop being selfish and take time to listen. Learn how to dialogue and listen to this week’s podcast. Watch the weekly youtube video that accompanies this podcast episode on the Marriage Coach Lynn channel. The date of the podcast episode corresponds with the date of the youtube video.
Sound Relationship House, Level 5-Manage Conflict; “Dialogue about Problems.”
“What’s it like being married to me?” Ask your partner this question and listen to the reply.
Accepting each other’s influence gives you a firm foundation for compromise when compromise is called for. You’re sharing power and decision making. There is mutual respect. There is a stronger bond and friendship. There is probably more play and more sex in your marriage too!
What are the payoffs of accepting your partner’s influence? What are the risks of not accepting your partner’s influence? Today’s episode will clearly answer those questions.
Find out the 5 questions you must answer “true” to in order to have a thriving relationship by accepting your partner’s influence.
Accepting Your Partner’s Influence is on the 5th Level (“Manage Conflict”) of the Sound Relationship House. (www.gottmaninstitute.com).
50 Half Marathons in 50 states! My guest, 56 yr-old Olivia Story accomplished this amazing feat on 1/14 /18, when she crossed the finish line of the Maui Oceanfront Half Marathon in Lahaina, Hawaii.
From Florida to Alaska and all points in between, Olivia maintained a consistent training routine for 6 years, amidst a busy life as a full time CPA in the Sunshine State.
Olivia is a wife, mother of a young adult, dog owner, and active in her community. How does one find the time to travel and complete a major goal in 6 years? What were some of the challenges she faced? How did she maintain a long-term training schedule that excluded injury?
Listen to today’s show and she’ll reveal how and why she decided to run, and what her technique and approach to a long-term goal involved.
You’ll see obvious parallels between her success as a 50-state runner and creating a fulfilling marriage. Olivia talks about patience, being sensible in your goal accomplishment, and mapping your route with care and consideration.
Olivia overcame setbacks, persevered and conquered an enormous undertaking. This is what we need to do in our marriage! Don’t give up. Find a way. Work hard because the payoffs are abundant.
A true inspiration, Olivia encourages others to choose a goal and do something exciting with your life! She enjoyed traveling around the country with friends, meeting new friends, and celebrating with runners in the running community. She will receive the Fifty State Endurance Challenge Award in Ocean City, New Jersey at a special awards ceremony in September. Did I mention that two of her states were full marathons?!
If you enjoyed today’s episode of YOUR MARRIAGE MATTERS podcast, please subscribe, and post a rating and review. This is the first of many interviews and this interview is available in video form on my Youtube channel, Marriage Coach Lynn. Check it out, subscribe and take a look at other videos. I have many playlists on various topics for you as you build an amazing marriage.
Please visit marriagecoachlynn.com, take a look around, and join the Your Marriage Matters Movement if you support and value lifelong marriage. In 2018, I will be offering members an exclusive and free book titled, “Make Your Marriage Great: Clean of Heart.” As we grow this community of pro-marriage supporters, you are invited to join the Facebook group “Your Marriage Matters Podcast” and Facebook page Marriage Coach Lynn. Who doesn’t want to be happy and fulfilled in their marriage?! Until next time, make your marriage great!
Psst…
Want to know the best ways to insure your marriage? No monthly or annual installments here. Can you guess what two simple ways are (in addition to daily hugs, of course)?
You’d be right if you guessed the following:
Create a stronger friendship with your spouse. Adopt a positive perspective to ensure a positive view of your spouse. When the going gets tough, you are equipped with good thoughts and can overcome disagreements more easily.
Today’s episode centers on the “Positive Perspective,” the 4th level of the “The Sound Relationship House” (www.gottmaninstitute.com). Find out how understanding negative and positive viewpoints can create either poisonous roots or blossoming flowers in your marriage.
Don’t be surprised when you hear of a spouse getting blindsided by the partner or a couple you thought had a solid marriage announcing their separation or divorce, with “no clue” or warning to at least one of the partners. I bet they weren’t incorporating the principles of The Sound Relationship House in their marriage.
If you haven’t already done so, please listen to the previous three episodes so that you can create a relationship in which you won’t be blindsided. Visit www.marriagecoachlynn.com for a model of the Sound Relationship house in the Resources section.
A great resource for strengthening your friendship and putting a little more sizzle into your marriage, download a copy of “Reenergize Your Marriage in 21 Days” on Smashwords.com or Amazon.com.
How can we insert more romance into our marriage without trying?
In today’s episode, you’ll discover easy ways to keep your relationship traveling in the direction of comfort and closeness. This episode is short and to the point!
Wipe out neglect by turning towards your partner rather than away from him or her.
This is so simple, yet is one of those things that causes a slow erosion and distance between spouses.
“Turn Towards Your Partner Instead of Away” is the third level of “The Sound Relationship House” Theory as proposed by Dr. John Gottman (www.gottmaninstitute.org).
Be sure to listen to Your Marriage Matters episodes 2 and 3 in order to benefit fully from this process. We will continue with The Sound Relationship House for 6 more episodes. By the time you are finished with this series AND if you practice the suggestions and techniques provided in this series, you will lay a foundation that can eliminate the threat of divorce and discontent in your marriage!
Please don’t think divorce is not a possibility. It’s occurring in 40% of the population. Almost all couples who walk down the aisle of love on their wedding day will proclaim: “It won’t be us!” So who are these 40% of first marriages that end in divorce?
No one knows what the future holds. But we do know there is so much we can do in the present!
I meet men and women almost on a daily basis who are BLINDSIDED. They are SHOCKED that they ended up in a place of separation or divorce. They never thought it would happen to them. And guess what? Do you know what might have saved their marriage?
Are they following this model? Do they know one another’s world (Building Love Maps)? Are they fond and admirable of each other? Are they turning towards each other on a daily basis? Hmm. Something to think about…
Don’t end up going down the path of estrangement and do yourself a favor and take 10 minutes to listen to today’s episode. You won’t be sorry.
Do you want to know how to eliminate the threat of an affair? Want to be in a relationship where the D-word won’t surface? (The D-word = divorce) Give me 12 minutes of your time and you’ll see what I mean.
Do you like your spouse? How do you show it?
Are you fond of your spouse? Do you admire your spouse?
Today we will talk about why it’s important to honor, respect and be kind to your spouse. Some of us take it for granted, but did you know that if you are fond of your spouse and show admiration, then the likelihood of contempt or an affair is DRASTICALLY reduced?
It takes conscious effort to set aside the flaws, annoyances and teeny, tiny criticisms of our beloved, but it can make or break your marriage over the long haul.
Please, no eye-rolling of public criticisms of your spouse. No one benefits.
Did you know that couples get stuck in a cycle of conflict and miscommunication based in large part because they don’t understand each other?
Does your spouse GET you? Does he or she know what’s going on with you? Do you GET your spouse?
On today’s show, we talk about LOVE MAPS - what it means, why it’s important and how you can create an accurate love map.
“Building Love Maps; Knowing One Another’s World” is at the foundation of the Sound Relationship House Theory (as proposed by John Gottman; gottmaninstitute.com). A love map is a road map of one’s inner psychological world.
Do you know the one quality essential for accurate Love Maps? I’ll give you a hint. Unscramble these letters: S-T-O-N-E-Y-H
Today’s show went beyond 15 minutes, in part because I wanted to review 4 secrets on how to build an amazing marriage:
Self-awareness. You must seek the truth about yourself, and not be afraid to be vulnerable. YOU are responsible for a big part of your marital happiness, so STOP staring at your spouse for answers or blame. Teamwork. Always keep in mind that the husband and wife dynamic is like a team, working for the “greater good” and end goal of a fully functioning family unit. Say that 10 times fast. Fully functioning family unit….. Stick with Your Marriage Matters and you won’t become a statistic! It is my hope that you become a pillar of your community, with an amazing marriage. Very few marriage counselors and coaches make guarantees and promises, but I do.
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On this debut episode, you’ll discover that creating a happy, lifelong, fulfilling relationship is not rocket science. I can’t wait to share all of the secrets that will help you grow in love and contentment.
In fact, I’m giving all of my secrets away, as liberally as I can. In this debut episode, my gift to you includes 4 secrets to building a happy marriage. Are you ready?!
Warning! The honesty of this podcast might rock your world, and it’s not for the faint of heart. You’ll want to subscribe to the podcast so that you don’t miss out on the obvious, foolproof ways you can create a sizzling and meaningful marriage. I KNOW what causes marriages to fail and what causes success. It’s up to you. What will you choose?