Not Your College Life with Lesa Beals: Recent Episodes
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Sharing tips and answers for parents of college students to help make the journey a little less challenging and frustrating.
Special guest Coree Burton from Purdue’s Residence Life is back sharing important things to consider before deciding to live off campus.
- Consider how much work you want to invest in your independence.
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- Utilities (water, trash, wifi, electricity) 1. What if someone doesn’t meet their obligations
- Coordinate these with roommates
- Can you cook?
- Will you keep kitchen clean/sanitary
- meals/dining
- gym
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Special guest Coree Burton from Purdue’s Residence Life sharing his expertise on the top three things a new beginner can do to help set themselves up for a great university housing experience..
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- Everyone is coming in with their own unique set of expectations.
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- People from very different cultures and lived experiences are coming together
- Normal to you may not be normal to others
- Communication is key.
- Use the resources available to you.
I found an amazing and brilliant person that created a custom planner with college students in mind. She agreed to join me on my podcast this week to talk about how the adolescent brain works, how the role of the parent shifts from teller to coach, and the top 3 ‘adulting skills’ to teach your student before they head off to college. Lesley even threw out a bonus tip on the benefits for a student (and parents) to develop a mindfulness habit to truly take things to the next level.
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This week I’m talking about what happens when your college emails you to say you are not a student anymore. Your grades just didn’t make the cut for two or more semesters and now you aren’t a student there any more.
I got you.
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In this week's episode I'm revisiting my why with you and sharing some news about what is coming next.
This episode is dedicated to all the things the parent of a college student must figure out despite FERPA and HIPPA. Godspeed, friends! It is not easy.
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When we become mothers there is this seemingly natural phenomenon that happens to us. We tend to pay more attention to the health and care of our spouse and our children and let our own take the back seat. This week I’m talking with Alma about how to get your own health back.
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This week I’m covering my recommended To Do’s once Final Grades are released.
Where to find them, how to fix incorrect grades, and next steps depending on the grades.
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While May 1 has lost a little of the “umphf” it had prior to COVID it’s still an important date for every high school senior and college administrator.
For your student, the list of To Do’s seems to multiple like mushrooms at night and they all are very close together in due dates.
For college admin, it’s very similar. Lots of planning and anticipation based on those May 1 commitments before the first day of class.
Here are some things you can share with your student to help in their decision making process.
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I'm sharing the most wanted/appreciated gifts for gradation.
After searching the webs and Reddit threads I've created what I believe is a pretty comprehensive list with plenty of ideas for you to chose from...or enough to generate a thoughtful gift with your specific graduate in mind.
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This week I’m talking with a parent that had a freshman in fall 2020. She’s sharing her experience, her lessons learned, what she’d do differently with us.
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Let’s talk about a major issue.
Your student tells you they don’t think they are in the right major.
They need to apply but don’t know which major to apply to.
They are failing classes.
So what is a parent to do when your student wants to change majors? What does that do to timeline? Is there a way to save the current and add a minor/concentration/certificate in the other discipline that will allow them to complete on time.
Joy is back talking about the student loan servicers, forgiveness programs and which options may be best for you.
Teacher student loan forgiveness
Public service student loan forgiveness
Income based repayment student loan forgiveness
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Joy’s blog on student loan forgiveness.
Joy’s free and paid webinars.
Joy’s books.
This is for those with juniors or seniors in highschool considering dual credit or AP credit and for those with college students thinking about departmental credit.
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I’m sharing what they are, the difference between the two, why your students would consider one and then how they would go about getting one.
Give the episode a listen and then go share what surprised you on Instagram or Facebook.
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POS….curriculum…..degree requirements
They mean the same thing and there are many ways to get to the goal. I’ll share where to find degree requirements, the best way for your student to track their progress and when/how to ask for exceptions to the predefined path.
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Spring break 2021 is currently still on the books for a few colleges and are probably at risk of being canceled. Students look forward to and need the break. Many aren’t getting one this year. What can you do for your student to help them refresh? Here are a few ideas.
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Episode 56- Stimulus, student loan and financial literacy with Joy Alford-Brand
I’ve brought Joy back for more teaching. Her knowledge is amazing and it’s so great to have someone so much knowledgeable information to share. We dig into the revisions anticipated in the FAFSA this fall and how that might impact students and families in need. Next we move into the stimulus and tax documents and wrap up with financial literacy and loan servicer discussion where Joy gets FIRED UP!
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Joy’s blog on student loan forgiveness.
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Joy’s books.
In this week’s episode I’m sharing the collection of deadlines I’ve identified for the newly admitted, continuing, and graduating college student. Mom, this is not your list to own. For the newly admitted student you will be pretty involved but as your student progresses through college and matures, it becomes less you through your coaching. By the time you get to graduation you will be at a point to simply relish in your student’s success.
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I've got an amazing 'recovering attorney' (her words) Joy Brand on talking all things FAFSA.
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Coronavirus Response and Relief Supplemental Appropriations Act
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I'm sharing what IS the CARES act, how much money do schools and students get, how do they get it and what you and your student need to do now to get your share.
Part 2 finishing the amazing conversation I had with Alicia from The CollegeLifeCoach.
n this week's episode I'm joining forces with Alicia Sepulveda creator of the College Life podcast.
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In this week's episode I'm joining forces with Alicia Sepulveda creator of the College Life podcast.
We wanted to introduce our audiences since she speaks to students and I speak to parents of said students. We are covering three things every student wished their parents knew and three things every parent wished their student knew.
This was a great collaboration and we hope to do more.
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I know and you know you have no reason to feel guilty. About the year they’ve had, about the pandemic, about their feelings of isolation, about their grades, and the list can go on.
BUT I also know the feeling as a mom of wanting so desperately to save my kids any heartache or hardship. It hurts my heart to see them struggle. But that is the thing….they need to struggle to learn and become resourceful, resilient, strong, and successful. That is the juxtaposition.
Here are three tactics I’ve used to put that mom guilt back in the box when she surfaces.
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When your student doesn’t know what major they want, I’ll share some ways you can coach them about which program to start in….how to explore.
It’s never a good result when a student enrolls in a major of their parents choice. College is hard enough when you are motivated to succeed in a discipline of your choosing. It gets worse when you add the pressure and frustration that this is your parents choice.
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This is never a fun topic but it does happen. I’m going to walk you through the three things your student needs to do next.
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I hear it...I don’t know what happened. I registered for the course and it just disappeared. Here are the top 5 reasons why they may happen.
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As we begin to reflect on the past year and consider what 2021 may bring us I always appreciate others sharing their top podcasts for the year. Here are mine and why.
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Sneak peak into Module ONE
Let’s assess what got your student here. This is the shortest of the three modules but can be the hardest. Realizing that your student’s semester doesn’t reflect their true ability may be easy, but the hard work comes in when you and your student need to be objective in assessing how they got there.
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As we begin to reflect on the past year and consider what 2021 may bring us I always appreciate others sharing their top reads for the year. Here are mine and why.
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This is Not Your College Life with Lesa Beals. My mission is to provide helpful information to parent's of college students on topics like transitioning, studying, choosing majors, housing and roommates, grades, advising, etc. I want to provide answers to questions that you have now or that may come up in the future. I'll share my own experiences as a parent of a college student as well as stories from those students and parents I've helped in my university job. Thanks for listening and be sure to subscribe so you don't miss a thing.
This is a revisit of Episode 16 a bit because end of term business doesn’t change a lot. Even with COVID.
Let’s talk grades, what do they mean, how to access your GPA status and 3 things to do now.
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This one is dedicated to all the parents with highschool seniors. It’s my effort to help get you ready for what’s to come. In all fairness, you seasoned parents may get something new or yell out in solidarity with me! For full show notes head over to https://www.lesabeals.com.
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In an effort to get to know why I’m the way I am, a few episodes will be dedicated to sharing some of my story. This week I’ve decided to share some of my Drew’s story. For full show notes head over to https://www.lesabeals.com.
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If your student was lucky enough to go to campus then they are likely to head home soon. This is the last of four episodes to help you get ready. For full show notes head over to https://www.lesabeals.com.
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If your student was lucky enough to go to campus then they are likely to head home soon. This is the third of four episodes to help get ready.
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Advice from the Dean of Students and Parent & Family programs; the second in my four part series.
If your student was lucky enough to go to campus then they are likely to head home soon. This is the second of four episodes to help get ready.
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Episode 38 - Three things to think about before your student comes home for break
If your student was lucky enough to go to campus then they are likely to head home soon. This is the first of four episodes to help get ready.
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Check in. It should be at least monthly and a visual check in.
How are you emotionally/mentally?
How are you physically?
How are your grades?
Pretty good.
Don’t know.
Not good.
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My story...professional journey
Work history-
McDonalds- developed customer service
Mall clothing store- relationships with staff/subordinates
Bank teller
Emergency room
Marketing long term care
Indiana University
Purdue University
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How to stop worrying…..YOU DON’T
You balance the worry with the pride with the happy it's all about 50/50
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Am i getting old enough that some of you don’t get that reference? Yikes. I will share the who and the why to help provide a little clarity for you and your student.
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Am i getting old enough that some of you don’t get that reference? Yikes. I will share the who and the why to help provide a little clarity for you and your student.
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University regulations. Where to find them, why you need to know them and what they mean
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It’s Labor Day weekend. The first window to get to check in, lay eyes on them, hug them.
Except not this year cause #COVID.
You get the call or text that they are miserable. Alone. Don’t know how to connect.
You just want to go get them, hug them, call the RA or roommate to help.
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Episode 30- 7 Important Deadlines you’ve got to know
I’m sharing my top 7 important deadlines you’ve got to know and why.
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Hello, my name is Lesa and I’m a helicopter mom
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On this episode I’m sharing…
- the definition of a helicopter mom (different from a Karen)
- how I realized I was one
- My story
- How i am working on recovering and how you can to
Three areas you can “help” them with that will make you the cool mom
Or Tips for success
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Whether you are a tech savvy momma or can barely text... this episode is for you.
Don’t give away all these tips at once to your student. Instead check them out and then drop a tip here and there. You’ll gain credibility :)
This week I share some advice from a student, advice from a faculty member and a few things to consider before charging you to write a letter to your college student.
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Label it
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Describe the feeling in great detail
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Play out worst case scenario
BONUS- Brain dump
While your student is no longer a toddler and under your roof 24/7 your attitude and behavior still influence them and how they think/respond.
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How to help your college student by helping yourself
I'm covering the top 6 categories of campus that will look different for fall 2020.
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30 things you gotta teach your college student before you drop them off on campus.
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Gap Year, Yes or No
Reasons for a gap year.
The good things about a growth year.
The things to 'worry' about a gap year.
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Dorm rooms Do’s and Don’t Needs
- Homework
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What to buy now and take with you
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What to buy there or ship
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What not to buy
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Your kiddo wants to return to campus. Your stance on the pandemic….social distancing, masks, vaccines…..is important but I want to share some things you can help your student investigate and get prepared now….before they need it or to have it ready to go when they arrive.
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Sharing how to help your student really take advantage of their advising appointment.
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COVID-19 is not the reason for virtual orientations this summer.
Many colleges and universities have offered a virtual experience for the families that can’t make the trip for one or two days due to cost, work, or their student’s extra curricular activities. How do you and your student make the most of your virtual experience.
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How to host a graduation celebration at home....coronastyle.
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This is COVID-19 so the normal advice I’d give is not applicable. So here is a COVID-19 edition.
Let’s talk grades, what do they mean, how to access your GPA status and 3 things to do now.
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I'm sharing how the CARE Act may provide some emergency relief funding to students even though they don't directly receive stimulus checks.
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In this episode I'm sharing three steps to figure out how your student's dual credit is going to be used in their selected degree program.
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I'm sharing a few tips on how you can care for yourself and then your suddenly returned college student during COVID-19.
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I'll talk through the things you need your student to consider when determining if a Pass/No Pass grade option is in their best interest even with the crazy COVID semester they've had.
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I'm sharing the amazing group of women in West Lafayette called The Townie Moms....how they came about, what they do and advice people they've helped have to offer.
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With all the craziness in our world right now the topics I had planned don't seem relevant right now. So I'm handing the whiteboard marker to you to tell me what you want me to research and share with you.
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Sharing my behind the scenes as a college admin....
Everyone's lives have been turned upside down. I'm sharing what my daily work life has shifted to since COVID-19 hit the US around @ March 9.
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Part two of this episode is on You Tube only for now :)
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Planning the fall semester in the spring.
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I'm sharing my week in higher education as COVID-19 confirmed cases start to climb in U.S.
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Shout out to https://www.marcyholder.com/ my hair 'therapist'.
I'll review options for your new and continuing student to consider for their summer of 2020....and if you stay til the end I'll cover a what some schools are considering given the COVID-19 making it's way across the globe.
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This episode will cover-
- what is dual credit
- who should take it
- who shouldn't take it
- how to go in with your eyes WIDE open
- Bonus other suggestions for consideration
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Summer orientations are more than just registering for fall classes. For show notes go to www.lesabeals.com
How to set communication expectations with your college student before you drop them off.
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If you have a student with a chronic illness these are the three things you have to do before dropping them off freshman year.
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When your student calls to tell you they are homesick. Tactical advise to give them and how to know if it's mental health related.
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Listen in to learn how the newly admitted high school senior can save their freshman year of college now.
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I read an article that found the same student loan had over 150 different names associated with it. ...the same loan. No wonder understanding what a college is telling you is do darn confusing. I'm sharing the definition of many commonly used terms in college for you.
A quick welcome to listeners. I share why I decided to create this podcast and what I hope to offer parents of college students through this work.