Real Counseling Podcast: Recent Episodes
Mark Tovar
We will explore growth, strength, leadership, positivity and mental fitness.
I am a Licensed Professional Counselor out of San Antonio Texas
The Personal Improvement Plan (PIP) is never welcome as it strikes at the heart of anyone's ego or sense of good work.
It is so important that this be done the right way with both employee and employer playing a role so that there is a positive outcome on the individual and work culture
We need to do this better and that means training and practice also trust that you have the best intentions
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If you are watching, you will see the reactions of players and fans that let you see their ability to show emotions at the right time.
There is an emotional positioning aspect of the competition that allows us to enjoy victory and even tolerate loss with grace
Next time your team loses, think about how your emotions show up. What purpose it serves? How can this help you in your professional or personal life?
Listen to the episode to find out
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Are we addicted to accomplishment?
Maybe we should stop making mountains for ourselves to overcome.
Pick something you are doing well and keep doing that.
Book choice From Strength to Strength by Arthur C Barnes:
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The common excuses for men not embracing mental health conversations no longer justify not seeking help. Today's emotional climate requires men to have good emotional skills to navigate the life today.
When someone says "I was not raised in a house that talked of emotions" or any other reasons that men do not search out mental health..... I am always troubled. Men continue to use the same reasons for not wanting to be uncomfortable with the topic of feelings, stress, and worry. Yet it is a universal struggle that we feel daily
It is our responsibility as men to find and invest in those relationships that will help us through the hard times. No excuses
If you or anyone is struggling reach out to those resources available https://988lifeline.org/talk-to-someone-now/
GREAT OPTIONS FOR DUDES AND MENTAL HEALTH
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https://headsupguys.org/mens-depression/self-check/
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Much of my work is with people who have to make difficult decisions in their company, business or personal life! They want to know how to make the best decision!
How does this relate to the Emotional Intelligent leader?
Most leaders with Emotional Intelligence expect some decisions to be difficult. They are willing to be uncomfortable. It is likely that they have experienced risk, luck, and failure
They are more comfortable with being uncomfortable
I mention the book The Lean Startup by Eric Ries
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Yeah, I spend my days thinking about how emotional Intelligence can help you be successful at business and career achievement. I have always maintained that a person who has good EQ performs better in their social and romantic relationships and has lower stress. so really EQ helps in every aspect of life
Sometimes a test of your skills comes at times you are not expecting. I was hungry and the world said, "Let's see if this guy is really committed to what he says,
Hold My Soft Drink"
Listen to this episode to see if I passed the test, and more importantly, would you be able to pass the test?
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You are probably not going to see these words a lot in podcasts about EQ. I believe that when you use them, its a sign that you are willing to display that you are Emotionally Intelligent in a way that really matters.
When these three words are used it changes the motion of the conversation, shifts power, and allows space for others to be useful. But we have to be willing to challenge the parts of us that value control and command attention to let this happen.
Listen to the episode to find out what they are
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It does not happen often, but a few weeks ago, I had one of those moments where I thought.
"What the hell Am I doing all of this for anyway?
What happens if it all goes wrong?
What was I thinking?
I was quickly saved from this downward spiral as I reached out to a friend to help me gain perspective.
WE CAN ONLY BE AS EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT AS THOSE WE SURROUND OURSELVES WITH
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This week was reminder of how great it is to just talk with other business owners and entrepreneurs outside of what you are doing. We are practicing emotional Intelligence when we not only relate but share with others like us what we have in common and how we struggle. THEN GUESS WHAT? THey share back, and we are reminded that we are humans who struggle together
I frequent these businesses and use them for myself so I know they will be good to you
SPECIAL recognition this week to my friends at:
- Raquel’s Skin Boutique ( Alon Town Center) THANK YOU Raquel! https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100063454576347&sk=about
- Mettenga’s Pizza (Callahan Rd across from Lowe’s) Thanks, Jeff! https://goo.gl/maps/hDMrqqdaXCeNm8qt5
- Evolving Bodywork Massage Joe and Shauna great hands! https://evolvingbodywork.com/
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Do you know the difference?How does this look in personal or professional space?Are we over using these terms?How do we position ourselves to advance? --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/eqready/message
It seems like I am always in a race for time. As I read The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks, I was surprised by how much I resist the idea of me owning time and using it versus not having enough.
I know that the things I resist are often what I am weak in. So let us test it and ask that you do it as well.
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In February, I attended an entrepreneurial retreat focused on the mindset and implementation of significant changes to their ways of doing business. Some of us even changed professional directions to accomplish to gain personal fulfillment.
This group of hand-selected, highly motivated humans shared what brought them to this point in their businesses and their lives Here are some distinctions that I think are valuable. All participants:
- Have high emotional Intelligence
-Are experts in the field of the human psychology and have spent two decades treating individuals.
- Had a recent misfortune in their life that caused them to reevaluate their life and work
-. Are moving into the business or entrepreneurial space
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Viewed as suspect from others in their profession for trying to incorporate business and entrepreneurial skills into the helping profession.
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Expressed gratefulness for being with a group of like-minded individuals at this retreat.
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Voiced great importance on being able to visualize, manifest and remain optimistic of results
-Embraced an abundance (Not scarcity) mindset and believed in sharing openly all they know
Books suggested That are crucial to unblocking old negative programming of the mind
-The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level by Gay Hendricks
- The Last Law of Attraction Book You'll Ever Need To Read: The Missing Key To Finally Tapping Into The Universe And Manifesting Your Desires by Andrew Kap
What followed all this learning, you ask?
a 30-day challenge to improve my thoughts and perceptions.
I recorded personal affirmations (Small sample) dealing with areas we all struggle with. I Included at the end of the podcast)
I would encourage you to build your own affirmations to fit your unique wants and challenges personally
Join me and lets elevate our minds together
IF there are any mental health professionals who might be interested in attending this retreat as I did. Reach out so I can get you the information.
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Since childhood, I have been able to connect with people quickly I rarely feel out of my element and fit into most social situations. What I didn't realize then was that I was using the skills of Emotional Intelligence to connect, build, and sustain relationships.
Today's episode is about recognizing the difference between Person vs. People. I explain how this can be used to focus your relationships through Emotional Intelligence.
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This month has brought much tragedy with the death of our family member.
Still, there is a reason for appreciation and gratitude for others
Emotional Intelligence can still serve us at our breaking point. We can be aware of our emotional situational awareness and remain kind and present. In doing so you provid stability and do not add additional stress to a situation.
We dedicate this episode to
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Our family member- Our love for you is eternal
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The staff of Methodist Hospital: Floyd Curl Drive, San Antonio TX
ER staff
7th- CENTRAL
9th floor- SOUTH
ICU STAFF -CENTRAL
P.A. Doctors, Nurses, Support Staff
You are the best at what you do, and we are grateful.
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Emotional Intelligence is about RELATIONSHIPS
An interpersonal relationship is one of the five pillars of the Emotional Intelligence model (Bar-on 1997). Without the ability to seek out and start and maintain personal relationships, there is no EQ. REMEMBER when you were in school and sat at a particular table? Did you ever wish to be invited into groups or tables? We are not far removed from this need to be included even in our adulthood.
Inclusivity is the key!
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Empathy is one of the most talked about subjects within Emotional Intelligence.
How do we get to Empathy? One does not just arrive at Empathy. There are levels of deeper communication. Even if this is a short encounter, the relationship can still be meaningful.
The secret here is active listening.
Here is an example of levels of communication. The further you move down, the greater the use of your Emotional Intelligence and likelihood of creating positive relationships.
Hearing You hear sounds.
Listening Something you hear has your attention, and you begin to tune in and pay attention.
Understanding cognitively, you are putting it all together
Empathy Making a genuine connection with someone on a level that you both feel
Compassion The connection is so genuine it moves you to action.
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If you are in any business that deals with people such as:
Educators
Mental Health Professionals
Retail
Healthcare
Legal
Be sure you are taking care of yourself .
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This is a chance to get ahead of the stress and anxiety of the holiday seasons. In this episode, we talk about why it happens, and how to keep it a bay
You don't have to sit next to aunt silly & uncle ridiculous this year.
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Our special guest this week
Randall Garza PhD(Educational Leadership)
Randall exhibits what it means to be a leader of the highest caliber. Originally from the Rio Grande Vally, now in San Antonio. His trajectory has been within the realm of college student success as he helps students and administration attain the skills they need to be exceptional leaders. Hear his story. His favorite past time is sports so we had to bring this into our discussion.
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I asked people what questions they had in mind for a therapist to answer.
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How do you bring up if you think your partner is cheating?
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What do I do if I keep getting attracted to the same people?
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How to date past age 30?
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How to deal with guilt after a relationship has ended?
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How to find balance in busy relationship?
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Forgiveness is very important for healing from ANY emotional trauma. I discuss some good reasons to consider forgiveness as part of your journey.
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It is easy to get lost in concepts and believe that we are mastering a high level of leadership without going far into our emotional motivations and worldview. I propose every leader is on a spectrum of Philosophy and Psychology within leadership. I ask every leader to take inventory of how one's philosophy affects the way we lead.
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We focus on:
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Hints that you should know about the people providing your therapy
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What questions should you be asking to make sure you get a good connection with someone who can help
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This episode is for people who wish to be more confident in their life.
Mark Tovar LPC talks about the ways in which people can become more confident in their personal and professional life.
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