No Neutral Moments: Recent Episodes
Patrick Payton
The No Neutral Moments podcast challenges each one of us to be fully aware and engage to the fullest everything we have been Designed, Called, and Gifted to be. The show covers topics ranging from the five key categories of the Ideal Life, Servant Leadership, personal growth and interesting topics, and maybe even a little social commentary is thrown in as well. Thanks for joining us!
What an incredible launch day.Today we officially released my new book, The Middle: How the Quiet Majority Can Mend a Divided Nation, and I just wanted to take a moment to say thank you. The response has been overwhelming. From online orders across the country to the two book signings we held today where we actually ran out of books, I’m incredibly grateful for the support.I’ve received messages and texts from friends and readers from New York to Florida to the West Coast, and it’s humbling to see this message already traveling far beyond where it started.The heart behind The Middle is simple: many of us are growing tired of the yelling, the extremes, and the division that seem to dominate our national conversation. I believe there is a large group of people in the middle who want something better — people who still believe in the idea of being one nation under God, indivisible, with liberty and justice for all.Thank you to everyone who purchased the book, shared it, and showed up to support this message. We have more book signings ahead and hopefully some travel around the country soon to continue the conversation.I’m incredibly grateful for all of you.— Patrick Payton
In this special episode of No Neutral Moments, Patrick Payton announces the release of his new book, The Middle: How the Quiet Majority Can Mend a Divided Nation. Drawing from his journey through business, ministry, and politics, Patrick shares the heart behind the project — a call for the “quiet majority” to rise above today’s polarizing extremes and rediscover how to stand for truth while also standing for one another.Be among the first to order your copy of The Middle:Simon & Schusterhttps://www.simonandschuster.com/books/The-Middle/Patrick-Payton/9781637634943Amazonhttps://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1637634943?tag=simonsayscomBarnes & Noblehttps://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-middle-patrick-payton
In this compelling episode of No Neutral Moments, Patrick Payton introduces the powerful idea behind his upcoming book, The Majority Middle: Rescuing America from the Political Extremes (Spring 2026). This episode is a call to action for those who believe in the strength of civility, honest dialogue, and mutual respect.Patrick unpacks how "the majority middle" can become a movement—one rooted in love over hate, unity over division, and courage over silence. He explores how life’s tests and trials build stronger convictions and why it’s time to stop seeing people as enemies just because they think differently.If you’re tired of the noise and looking for a better way forward, this conversation is for you.👉 Like, comment, and subscribe to join us on this journey toward a more respectful and unified America.
Hosted by Patrick Payton, this episode features a profound conversation with our special guest, Cindy Payton, the driving force behind "Every Neighbor" in Midland TX.Every Neighbor is a Midland-based initiative striving to boost community engagement. By simplifying how individuals discover opportunities to serve, they're bridging gaps and fostering connections among Midland residents. Their guiding principles are:1. Recognizing the unique value in every person.2. Emphasizing the essence of community connections.3. Advocating that service can bring about transformative shifts in individuals and the broader community.Join us to learn more about their cutting-edge volunteer platform that champions the belief that every Midland resident has intrinsic value and holds the potential to contribute positively. Special mention to Leslie Crisp, Every Neighbor's Community Lead, exemplifying their unwavering dedication to community outreach and aid.Notably, Midland's community entities like 3:11 Ministries are transitioning to the Every Neighbor platform. Additionally, discover how St. Luke's UMC Midland showcases the spirit of service, aligning with Every Neighbor's mission.Join us on this enlightening journey and discover how Every Neighbor is shaping the future of Midland! Don't forget to like, share, and subscribe!#PatrickPayton, #CindyPayton, #EveryNeighbor, #NoNeutralMoments, #CommunityEngagement, #BuildingRelationships, #CommunityConnection, #ValueOfEveryIndividual, #PodcastLaunch, #ServeYourCommunity, #UniversalLove, #NonProfitChallenges, #ReligiousPerspectives, #EngageAndServe
Join Patrick Payton as he sits down with Bob Fu, the renowned founder of China Aid, for an in-depth and eye-opening interview. In this exclusive session, Bob Fu sheds light on the crucial work that China Aid is doing to promote religious freedom and human rights in China. Learn about the challenges they face, their incredible journey, and the impact they have made over the years.Throughout the interview, Bob shares personal stories, insights, and the motivations behind his unwavering commitment to this cause. Whether you are passionate about human rights, interested in the situation in China, or looking to learn more about the work of non-profit organizations, this interview is a must-watch. Don’t forget to like this video if you found it informative, share it with others who might be interested, and subscribe to our channel for more content like this. Your support helps us continue to bring important stories like Bob Fu's to the forefront. Leave a comment below with your thoughts or any questions you have, and we will be sure to get back to you. #BobFu, #ChinaAid, #PatrickPayton, #HumanRights, #ReligiousFreedom, #China, #Interview, #ExclusiveInterview, #NonProfit, #Activism, #Awareness, #Change, #Justice, #SocialImpact, #Inspiration
Join us on a profound episode of the No Neutral Moments podcast with Patrick Payton, featuring a panel of courageous survivors of sex trafficking:Lisa Bownds - Reflection MinistriesBekah Charleston - Bekah Speaks OutRachel Thomas - Rachel C ThomasRebecca Bender - Rebecca Bender InitiativeIn this gripping and insightful discussion, these remarkable women open up about their harrowing experiences and the journey to overcome the trauma of sex trafficking. They delve into the nuances of victim recruitment, societal misconceptions, and the complex path to recovery and empowerment.This episode not only highlights the personal stories of survival but also addresses the broader issue of sex trafficking in our society. It's a conversation that challenges preconceived notions and underscores the importance of community support and effective legal frameworks in combatting this global issue.Please support our mission to raise awareness by liking, commenting, and subscribing to our channel. Every action counts in the fight against human trafficking. Together, we can amplify the voices of survivors and take a stand against exploitation.#NoNeutralMoments, #SexTraffickingSurvivors, #LisaBownds, #BekahCharleston, #RachelThomas, #RebeccaBender, #SurvivorStories, #TraffickingAwareness, #CombatTrafficking, #EmpowerSurvivors, #RealSurvivorVoices, #HumanTraffickingDiscussion, #JusticeForVictims, #RaisingAwareness, #EndSexTrafficking
In this eye-opening interview, join us as we dive into the grim realities of human trafficking with the insightful Lisa Bownds, the driving force behind Reflection Ministries. Lisa shares her profound experiences and the critical work her organization is doing to combat this heinous crime.Lisa Bownds shares her invaluable insights on what constitutes genuine friendship, emphasizing the importance of standing by each other through life's highs and lows. Discover the power of vulnerability and transparency in building lasting bonds and the unexpected challenges that come along.Moreover, Lisa delves into her incredible journey with Reflection Ministries, a beacon of hope for those ensnared in the world of sex trafficking. She opens up about her personal struggles and the path that led her to dedicate her life to rescuing and rehabilitating victims. From detailing the alarming realities of trafficking to discussing the complexities of helping survivors, this video is a must-watch for anyone passionate about making a difference.If you're inspired by Lisa's story and want to learn more about how to support her cause, please visit Reflection Ministries' website or contact their office. Remember, every little bit helps in the fight against trafficking and in supporting those who have fallen victim to it.Learn about the role of technology in facilitating trafficking, the heartbreaking stories of victims, and how Reflection Ministries is making strides in providing safe havens and support for those affected. We urge you to support Lisa's mission in any way you can. For more information on how to help, please visit Reflection Ministries' website or contact their office. Let's join hands in this fight against trafficking and help give voice to the voiceless.https://www.reflectionministriestx.orgDon’t forget to like, share, and subscribe to our channel for more impactful content like this. Together, let’s raise awareness and ignite change.
In this episode, Patrick speaks to Enes Kanter Freedom, a professional basketball player and activist. Kanter discusses his experiences in the NBA, his activism for human rights, and his plans for the future. He shares memorable moments playing against well-known NBA superstars such as Kobe Bryant and others and delves into his efforts to raise awareness about the oppression faced by various groups in China. Kanter emphasizes the importance of standing up for values, even at great risk, and advocates for being aware of the origins of products made with slave labor and to avoid the complicity that comes with supporting such products. He also highlights his foundation, NS Kanter Freedom Foundation, focused on raising awareness and educating youth about human rights.
In this episode of the No Neutral Moments podcast, the host welcomes Joshua Norman, a former football player, to discuss his journey from high school to college football, his NFL career, and his post-football endeavors. During the interview, they discuss the rigorous process of being drafted by an NFL team, Norman's high school football career, his recruitment to colleges and ultimately choosing to attend the University of Oklahoma. They also delve into the early days of the football program under Coach Bob Stoops, including the intense training and expectations set by strength coach Jerry Schmidt that eventually led to their national championship win.
Norman also shares his experience transitioning from running back to tight end and his struggles with injuries, bouncing around teams, and eventually deciding to focus on music ministry and a program called SOUL Mission that focuses on building players spiritually and mentally. They discuss the impact of the program on players and the importance of having support from coaches, administration, and nutrition staff.
The interview also covers a book written by Josh called "From the Field to the Firm," which emphasizes the importance of leadership skills and the need to create a culture that values growth and performance. They discuss the importance of small meetings, face-to-face engagement, accountability, and the need to live in the present moment.
Overall, the interview offers valuable insights into the world of football and the importance of building players' character off the field. It is a reminder that there are no neutral moments in life, and that success is achieved through hard work, dedication, and living in the present moment.
9. The best question a C-Suite can ask itself is “How does the competition kill us?” The problem is most C-suites don’t have the balls to ask themselves that question and honestly answer it. Reason #1…it will show how their leadership has made them vulnerable and they are not sure they know how to fix it! (2) The answers will demand hard work and most people are trying to slow their churn rather than increase their churn – which will be where you find out who stays and who goes.
I believe this is where coaching is at its best. I agree with Greenleaf when he asserts that a coach does not need to be a subject expert in the industry practice of those he consults and coaches. He needs to be able to view from a somewhat neutral position so as to have no bias filters and then have the ability to speak boldly into the blind spots.
10. Perks and privilege are culture killers. It is amazing how much people pay attention to this stuff and they shouldn’t have to.
One of the great habits a successful leader can cultivate is to not look or appear successful…the Sam Walton story visiting stores.
This is going to sound SO old school but I would encourage leaders to aggressively find ways to look normal and even do more for the “mid-level” than you do for yourself.
Walk the furthest to the front door!
11. Forgiveness and bitterness are still tough enemies of joy to fight back. But you have to. Great competition but not great grudges. Revenge will turn bitter eventually.
12. The Five Core Needs are still the five core needs and you ignore them at your peril.
13. Mind Styles still works.
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The church as I knew it will not be the church as we knew it in the years ahead. I’m wondering what this will look like while at the same time being more and more certain that this new church will be visible in the marketplace more than the traditional sacred space
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DEI and ESG are the proof of the right thing being ignored by the best business minds so the worst business minds (government) hi-jack the right thing and turn it into the wrong thing. The turning of the tide on this matter back to the better leadership of business will be a long, hard slog as radical elements (on both sides) have taken the issue and run with it with their viewpoints.
Just like my COVID experiences this is “leadership fulcrum” issue…the conversation is dominated by extreme actions and reactions. It is up to the best leaders to see beyond the smoke and haze and chart a path that best benefits humanity – capitalism at it’s best.
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The politics of social media and sound-bites is killing us; and will kill us if we do not find ourselves into a renaissance of thinking leaders who think long and hard before typing, texting and posting. Great thinkers and thought leaders will emerge (I hope); but cutting through the noise will be hard.
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The extremes are islands of safety where an absence of critical thinking takes place. It takes a brave new group to get off the islands and see what is in the ocean of opportunity and challenge.
I have a PLS friend who has quite the social media presence who says, “Stay in the deep end.” Not sure all he means by it but this is true. The shallow end has a lot of noise and a lot of people but the real adventure is in the deep end – and most of life is played in the shallows where so many actually believe they are really deep when they just stick their head underwater.
We need a lot more responding instead of reacting. That means we need thinkers and meditators. Critical, long term thinkers who take very few things at first glance or first blush. This will border on cynicism and negativism but it is really a matter of staying in the deep end and seeking to understand.
Lessons 1–4
- The circle of trust is still a small circle and you’d better have one! You can have thousands of friends but the circle of trust is rarely found in the large group who “like” you. This is the Covey idea of circle of concern and circle of influence. Where we spend out time and with whom we spend our time. One of the key disciplines in this space is you must be constantly self-evaluating and correcting. This is not a process that stops – it’s ongoing.
- The pyramid of performance is a real thing…still!
- Profit is good but you had better pay much closer attention to the holistic equipping of people or they will dump you. It is no longer about work/life balance…it’s the whole thing or its nothing – except for the 60%!
- People are looking for something soulish in all that they do…the marketplace is the perfect place for this search to find an answer. The employee has changed and is not going back to being a cog in the machine (even if they are a cog in the machine!). People and organizations have changed. Don’t fight it and don’t give into it…seek to understand how it is manifesting itself around you and be proactive in creating the best atmosphere possible in your “game”.
Check out the full episode: Broken Catholic podcast with Joseph Warren (October 29, 2022)
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Habits of the Household: Practicing the Story of God in Everyday Family Rhythms by Justin Earley, Zondervan, 2021
The Loudest Roar: Living in the Unshakable Victory of Christ by Judy Dunagan, Moody, 2022
Everyday Prayers: 365 Days to a Gospel-Centered Faith by Scotty Smith, Baker Books, 2011 (A game-changer for me!)
Praying Through the Names of God by Tony Evans, Harvest House 2014 (a reread/skim this regularly)
Celebrate Kids, Inc.
What I'm Reading
Note: currently pressing into the idea of reading deeply rather than reading for volume
The Score Takes Care of Itself, by Bill Walsh and Steve Jamison
Talking to GOATS, by Jim Gray
The Order of Time, by Carlo Rovelli
Party Like a Rockstar, by JT Harding | audiobook, narrated by the author
Surfing the Edge of Chaos, by Richard Pascale, Mark Milleman, and Linda Gioja | read part 3 and 4, then go back to 1 & 2, then 3 & 4 again
The Fifth Discipline, by Peter M. Senge
Spiritual Leadership, by J. Oswald Sanders
What Has Been Occupying My Mind:
- The search for the radical middle in every situation; every conversation is so extreme and radical to the right or to the left
- as I'm looking for the radical middle, I'm very concerned with the speed that information is coming at us through so many channels (not necessarily facts, just information)
- Social media is fast becoming a net loser as opposed to a net gain—not everything, but it's cheapening our dialogue; our search for truth is fast becoming an environment of sound bites and half truths
There's no such thing as an unsacred space or an unsacred moment, but people who behave in unsacred ways in moments we occupy are what desecrates the space. What makes spaces unsacred are people.
What I'm reading:
Surfing the Edge of Chaos, by Richard Pascale, Mark Milleman, and Linda Gioja
The Path of Least Resistance, by Robert Fritz
Harvard Business Review articles:
June 1, 2022 | What Leadership Development Should Look Like in the Hybrid Era
It's all sacred because humanity is at the center. And when humanity is involved a space becomes sacred—unless people are acting in an unsacred way.
Culture is a consensus of acted upon values within an organization. The actual values of an organization can be discerned by observing what behaviors and practices are honored and which ones are shamed.
We all know what it's like to be in an environment where values are trumpeted but the actual culture is different.
Ask yourself: What do we actually honor? What do we shame? What do we say we value and what do we actually value?
There's a severe disconnect that our businesses often face. Your employees are the ones who see it.
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What makes things sacred is the presence of people.
Where people show up become sacred spaces.
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Visit Admarc online at admarc.com or email Darrell, darrell@admarc.com
Today's episode is brought to you by Luchini & Mertz Land Surveying Co., a resilient business on a mission to faithfully serve clients & empower employees—all the while, building lifelong relationships through the art, science, and process of land surveying. In business since 1952, Luchini & Mertz is known for their dedication to clients and their customer service.
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Show Notes:
We cannot separate what has been typically the "secular" (the things you do outside of your religious practice/church life) and the "sacred". The dichotomy has led us to the cusp of a great awakening of the soul in business. There is a longing in the workforce for the soul of business to be as important as the profit of business. We are only as healthy as we are on the inside.
It's very common for boards to come up with "values". Things like ethical practice and integrity are not valid values because the opposite is obviously not what your company is striving for. Those things are a given—not a stated value. Values are generally cheapened expressions of what is really the soul behind your company.
There is not such thing as a sacred space without humanity in it.
"Your doing always reflects your being." —Dr. Kathy Koch
The management craze of the 80s-90s came out of the previous craze of working your fingers to the bone and businesses were trying to shift the marketplace.
Galatians 5, the fruit of the spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control
Robert Greenleaf's definition of love: unlimited liability
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Visit Admarc online at admarc.com or email Darrell, darrell@admarc.com
Contact Reflections Ministries:
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Live Chat: humantraffickinghotline.org
Fu was born and raised in mainland China and was a student leader during the Tiananmen Square demonstrations for freedom and democracy in 1989. Fu taught English to Communist Party officials in Beijing for three years while simultaneously aiding the underground church network. He and his wife, Heidi, were imprisoned for two months for “illegal evangelism” in 1996. Bob and Heidi fled to the United States as religious refugees in 1997 and subsequently founded ChinaAid to bring international attention to China’s gross human rights violations and to promote religious freedom and rule of law in China. ChinaAid, based in Midland, Texas, is an international Christian non-profit organization committed to promoting religious freedom, human rights, and rule of law in China.
Living Lyrics: Poems from Prison
We make significant gains in certain areas of our life: personal, professional, fitness, hobbies, etc. We seem to have this wiring within us that when we get to a certain level, we sort of back away.
Challenges to leveling up:
- Comfort: we like where we are and the price to be paid to level up is too great. Vast majority land here and will discover it when they are pressed to level up.
- Laziness: it is just too hard to requires too much of me – akin to comfort
- Success: been good where I am and sense that I can keep being good where I am
- Fear: I might lose something or someone if I choose to level up…this can be true as some in your circle will not choose to pursue more and will not like what you are doing
- Arrogance: why would I want to get better?
- Atrophy: a lot of muscle has been used to get to where you are and through a season of comfort (#1 above) the work and effort muscles have gotten a little soft from lack of use. Getting them back into competitive shape will take some time
You have to decide what it means for you to pursue the best version of yourself in your given season of life, interests, passions, goals and pursuits. It must be a realistic assessment of where you are and where you want to go and in what categories. The key here is where you believe you want to go…not where others want you to go and where you think others want you to go but where you want to go and if you truly want to make the journey.
Some closing advice:
- This whole process works best when in alignment with your most closely held values – never give up on the clarity of this part of your journey
- Pursue this process in “pencil”…you will self-edit and adjust through this process. Don’t give yourself excuses but give yourself grace to learn and adjust – Example…running a marathon and having to deal with my achilles tendon.
- Keep the circle of knowing small…this does not need to be your social media journey but it should be a shared journey; accountability.
- Keep others in mind…Jim Collins is right when he says “Life is people”. It’s true because it lines up with the greatest command to love God and love people. Leveling up is at its best when we keep in mind that to become all we are designed, called and gifted to be directly affects the lives of those around us. We are connected and others get the opportunity to grow when we choose to grow and vice versa.
- Just don’t quit yourself.
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9 Lessons from 2021:
- The extremes are dangerous and they are not always the same as convictions.
- People are not as thoughtful as they should be when it comes to individual liberty, the price paid for it, and how easily it can be eroded or taken away by people in power or by people who say they have your best interest in mind.
- The extremes all like to claim that God is on their side. Proceed with caution.
- Great leadership and great management are not the same. They are both a necessity based on purpose and timing.
- James Bond is dead and that's tough for those of us that were raised on Bond.
- The vast majority of us unconsciously try to find our way back to the path of least resistance or the one that feels most familiar, comfortable, and safe; this is extremely detrimental to your growth, your excellence, and greatness, but it's a very hard natural tendency to break. The willingness to fight through complacency and mediocrity is oftentimes confessed with full intentions but rarely actually accompanied with follow through.
- The circle of trust is small, and it is not so much getting smaller as it is getting tighter. It's ironic that we are the most connected generation but we have the least amount of community and the least amount of trust.
- The only things I control are my thoughts, my words, my actions, and my emotions.
- Living as a fulcrum is not the easiest position or the most popular to choose, but it is a place where I can foster and create synergy. Synergy: the combined effect is better than the effect of the separate.
Reading Recommendations:
Can't Hurt Me, by David Goggins (warning! language and content)
Killers of the Flower Moon, by David Grann
The Fifth Discipline, by Peter Senge
Countdown 1945, by Chris Wallace
Leading Change, by John Kotter
Good to Great, by Jim Collins (see also How the Mighty Fall)
Surfing the Edge of Chaos, by Richard Pascale, Mark Milleman, and Linda Gioja
Specifically for high school and college grads:
Range, by David Epstein
Just Do Something, by Kevin DeYoung
Talent is Overrated, by Geoff Colvin
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, by Steven R. Covey
Today's episode is brought to you by Admarc:
The foundation of a product or company is its logo. Along with your brand identity it shapes how people define your company. For over three decades Admarc has designed logos for companies small and large across the Permian Basin and the country. After all, your identity is by design.
Visit Admarc online at admarc.com or email Darrell, darrell@admarc.com
Today's episode is also brought to you by Luchini & Mertz Land Surveying Co., a resilient business on a mission to faithfully serve clients & empower employees—all the while, building lifelong relationships through the art, science, and process of land surveying. In business since 1952, Luchini & Mertz is known for their dedication to clients and their customer service.
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3 buzz words: Vision, Mission, and Culture and they are all dependent on each other (but not equally)
Vision: the big why
Mission: the big how
Culture: the big who
Vision is probably the least fluid but the hardest to quantify, and you might be able to feel the vision more than you can see it. Mission is the most fluid, but this is where we get locked down in the method. Culture is the most powerful. The culture that is created in the pursuit of the vision will often times determine if you make it through the mission of the organization.
"Culture catechizes [teaches] us what matters and what views we should take about and what matters. People who want to be connected to their tribe subject themselves to the catechesis all day long, every single day, hour after hour." Alan Jacobs, Baylor University
Management manages the day-to-day, culture challenges the practices of the day-to-day, and leaders steps back to ask what is happening. Be observantly honest for a day.
Culture: beliefs, forms, traits, characteristic features of everyday existence shared by a people of place or time, a set of shared attitudes or practices
No matter you state as the outline of the vision or the mission, it's the culture—stated or unstated—that will determine if either the mission or vision has a chance at happening.
What's the culture around you? Family, career, church? What are you seeing, what's being overlooked, what do you feel, what are the facial expressions? Will you admit it, and does something need to be done about it?
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Consensus is the lazy leader's excuse to avoid conflict and discussion. Consensus is used a lot in terms like "climate consensus" or "scientific consensus" and it's used to silence a debate or control a narrative. Most of us don't know that it's happening to us but we know that it's happening around us.
Consensus: general agreement or a majority opinion
"...consensus is how we bully people into pretending that there's nothing to see, move along, everyone." (Tim Ferris interview with Eric Weinstein, episode 131)
Establish the habit of challenging that which has become the consensus in your life (personally, professionally, spiritually)
7 Practices/Suggestions:
- Realize the validity of occasional consensus
- Pay close attention to when you are operating by consensus and not by expectations, progress, and/or targets
- Get in the habit of regularly questioning the way you do things
- Intentionally challenge everything
- As you're challenging consensus, avoid challenging people
- Avoid guarding/protecting/defending/blaming when you're challenging consensus
- Accept the fact that some things will change and some will not
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Leaders start with an idea of what they want to be or become but they don't go back and revisit or revise. This is not really about setting goals (this is a secondary step).
The Franklin planner I use.
Value of Freedom and Opportunity: "I do whatever it is I can and must do to enable myself my family and others the opportunity to become and pursue all that God has designed, called, and gifted them be. I am committed to the tireless effort to remove obstacles that society and institutions erect in order to hold others back. I believe that the Lord is the final judge of what we can and cannot do, and it is not our place to make this call but rather to wholly trust in the Lord while at the same time offering every opportunity for others to live out a new life of freedom in Christ that chases after everything we are designed, called, and gifted to be." Verse references: Galatians 5, Ephesians 5, Romans 8
Roles: follower of Jesus / family man (roles have expanded within this) / friend / learner / innovator, instigator, and agitator / giver and philanthropist
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This word is misunderstood or overused in most circles: purpose.
Benjamin Franklin said there are three things that are very hard: steel, a diamond, and to know one's self.
"Of all the minds of treasure, one's own self is the last to be dug up." —Friedrich Nietzche
Purpose can become an unnecessary mystery. Your purpose, your company's purpose—it can often get lost in competing self-interests. We confuse purpose with desires and dreams, wants and ambitions.
We confuse purpose with:
- What we deeply want to do or accomplish
- Gain (and we confuse financial gain/loss with being on or off our 'purpose')
- Business ambitions and goals
- Believing there are multiple purposes in life
There's really only one purpose that should drive everything, and it's at the core of what we are designed, called, and gifted to be.
"Life's most persistent and urgent question is 'what are you doing for others?'." —Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
"True greatness, true leadership is found in giving yourself to service to others. Not in coaxing or inducing others to serve you. True service is never without a cost. We must aim to put more into life than we take out." —J. Oswald Sanders
"I experience more joy and discover more happiness in my life when I stop trying to get what I want and start helping others get what they need and want."
"One of the outstanding ironies of history is the utter disregard of rank and title in the final judgment that men pass on each other. The final estimate of men shows that history cares not an iota for the rank of title a man has bore or the office he has held, but only the quality of his deeds and the character of his mind." —Samuel Brinkle
Excerpt from Servant Leadership, by Robert Greenleaf
We have taught people to manage instead of teaching them to lead and to serve.
What am I ultimately after in my endeavors? The journey begins here.
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Spiritual Leadership, by J. Oswald Sanders
Leaders are readers! Reading is critical to personal development.
Chapter 13: The Leader and Reading
Why should we read?
We read to refill the wells of inspiration in our life. Bacon: "Read not to contradict or to confute, nor to believe and take for granted, nor to find talk in discourse. Read in order to weigh and consider." Read to think. To meditate. To be challenged.
- We read for the benefit of our soul/holistic benefit to ourselves
- We read for intellectual growth
- We read to learn how to speak and write better
- We read to acquire new information to keep up and stay well informed in our field of expertise
- We read to have fellowship with great minds (discern and determine if what you're reading is from a great mind)
A good book has great power. Sometimes we equate quantity of reading with quality of reading, and often times there are a smaller number of books that actually have great impact.
What should we read?
"If a man is known by the company he keeps, so also his character is reflected in the books he reads. A leader's reading is the outward expression of his inner aspirations. The vast number of titles pouring from presses today makes discriminating choice essential. We can afford to read only the best, only that which invigorates our mission. Our reading should be regulated by who we are and what we intend to accomplish." (p. 104).
the Payton rule on biographies: avoid biographies of those who are alive; memoirs are a bit different, and biographies tend to lean towards wisdom and lessons (historical founders, founders of faith, classic biographies)
How should we read?
"Unless our reading includes serious thinking, it is wasted time." (p. 106)
- If it barely has your interest, don't waste your time. Don't read to forget.
- Use the same discrimination in choosing books as in choosing friends.
- Read with pencil and notebook in hand to take notes; examples: highlights on digital, writing in the margin, highlighting, utilizing other note taking options, like Evernote or other apps
- Have a 'commonplace book' to record what is striking, interesting, and worth of second thought
- Verify historical, scientific, and other data
- Look up unknown words
- Vary your reading to keep your mind out of a rut. Variety!
- Correlate your reading—history with poetry, biography with historical novel. Example: if reading history, find a person you find interesting during that period and read a biography
Band of Brothers, by Stephen Ambrose
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What are your roles? Here are mine:
- Follower of Jesus
- Family man (husband, father, and now father-in-law, grandfather...)
- Friend (more than an acquaintance)
- Learner (know more in order to do more)
- Leader (engage deeply or not engage at all)
- Teacher/Communicator
- Innovator, Instigator, Agitator
- Visionary (believe what I see and act on it; boldly believe)
- Competitor/Athlete
- Giver/Philanthropist
Goals are lined up with values and also with roles.
5 Ways to Define Your Roles
- Clarify and prioritize your roles.
- Live out your roles appropriately (roles should fit into your positions that you hold).
- Claim lost roles.
- Let go of some labels that you've allowed to settle in as roles.
- Be prepared to make changes to operate in your roles (pruning decisions; rarely about adding but typically about subtracting).
Book recommendations for this episode:
The Path of Least Resistance, by Robert Fritz
The Highway to Leadership, by Margaret Slattery
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Can't Hurt Me, by David Goggins (warning! this book contains expletives and harsh language): "Are you willing to explore the possibilities of who you can truly become?"
Look at the possibilities in your: Faith, Family, Friends, Finances, Fitness, Servant-Leadership
Two groups: 1) non-competitive and softer and 2) competitive and fairly intense
The Path of Least Resistance, by Robert Fritz
We can intentionally push into what it takes for us to be better. To become better, we have to continually work towards being better and explore the possibilities of what we can truly become.
As a coach and consultant, I am struck by the lack of intentionality to pursuing 'better', and there is a lack of intentionality to fighting what has become our status quo.
Why is it so hard for us to press into becoming better?
- We don't plan for the exploration of possibilities, therefore, we are afraid of the exploration.
- We allow ourselves to become (or to be) constitutionally weak and afraid of challenge. It's much easier to settle than it is to be comfortable with drive.
- We believe it will distract us from the good that we already do.
- We think we are as good as we can get. The older we get (as people and companies), this is very easy to slip in to.
- We know how hard we worked to get to where we are, and we know how hard it will be to get to the next level. Our tendency is to get to a place where we are successful, and then we try to protect it.
Are you willing to think about (and do something about) how much better you can be? Are you willing to create and recreate yourself to become what you're designed, called, and gifted to be? This takes effort. This is not a motivational speech. This is just a gut-check. You don't get anywhere by motivation, you get there by determination.
Good to Great, by Jim Collins
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Don't go back as if nothing has happened, because something has happened to all of us. No one has been unchanged by this experience, whether personally or professionally.
How we have been changed:
- Assumptions and judgments based on actions of others
- A worldwide shutdown of all that is normal life
- Globally affected for an extended period of time
- Fear-based living
Faith: who or what you put your trust in
Family: what have you discovered that you want to hang on to?
Fitness: physical, mental, emotional
Friends: better, worse?
Finances: what lessons have we learned? Drastic? Tragic?
Servant Leadership: what you have learned about seeing and serving others? What is your capacity to care?
Business: workplace, relationships in the workplace, discipline (or lack of) in the workplace; what about your employees?
- What are you going to change in order to leverage what you've learned during COVID?
- What are you going to appreciate more post-COVID?
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Leadershift, by John Maxwell (nimble, adaptable, and flexible)
1. Think
In the thinking process, we should always be reading as much as we can get our hands on. Read books about history so you can put things in historical context. Research, journal, discuss.
2. Plan
Planning involves writing things down and objectifying what you're going to try to do. Planning involves what you're going to measure.
3. Act
Try it, test it, measure it, execute it. Get after it! Never commit to do everything but always commit to experiment with everything.
4. Adjust
You have to do this with discipline, and adjustment has to go back around to thinking, planning, and acting. Sometimes you keep, sometimes you cancel. You always adjust so you can get to the objective.
MindStyles, Dr. Anthony Gregorc (not a personality test or assessment but how you take in information and what you do with that information) / email Patrick (patrick@paytongroupllc) to find out more about MindStyles for your business.
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Leadership In Turbulent Times, by Doris Kearns Goodwin
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, by Steven R. Covey
"Leadership is influence; nothing more, nothing less." John Maxwell
1. Value/Goodwin: Acknowledge when failed policiesdemand a change in direction.
Covey: Shifting your paradigm
*policies = efforts, strategies, plans
2. Value/Goodwin: Gather firsthand information and then ask questions (as well as understanding the emotional needs of each member of the team).
- Set a standard of mutual respect and dignity.
- Be accessible and easy to approach.
Covey: Seek first to understand before being understood. Practice win-win situations.
3. Value/Goodwin: Find time and space to think.
Covey: Sharpen the saw.
4. Value/Goodwin: Exhaust the possibilities for compromise before imposing unilateral decisions/executive power.
Covey: Working with a win-win mindset, seeking synergy, creative compromise
- You should know your people well enough to somewhat know their response before you bring things forward.
- Always shield your team/colleagues from blame.
- Go back to point 1; acknowledge if the policy has failed.
5. Value/Goodwin: Refuse to let past resentments fester; transcend personal vendettas.
Covey: Begin with the end in mind. You'll get where you going with people and not through people, and you set them free without holding grudges.
6. Value/Goodwin: Maintain perspective in the face of both accolades and abuse.
- Know who you are, what you stand for, and where you're going.
- Where does your identity lie? Is it secure?
Covey: Creating a personal vision of humility.
Maintain perspective. Be cautious of social media exposure, and watch how you read and respond to emails.
7. Value/Goodwin: Keep your word.
Covey: Putting first things first.
8. Value/Goodwin: Know when to hold back, and know when to move forward.
Covey: Begin with the end in mind. Think win-win.
- In moving forward, you have to apply the rest of these principles. These will help you know when to hold back and when to move forward.
9. Value/Goodwin: Balance transactional and transformational.
Covey: Paradigms of Interdependence; synergize
- You're not always wheeling and dealing.
- We live in a culture where most things are transactional and not big-picture transformational.
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Citizenship in a Republic, by Theodore Roosevelt
delivered at the Sorbonne, Paris, France, April 23, 1910
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Do not fear disagreement but rather mine it out to get what is best for all. The process of getting better always goes through friction and pruning.
Covey: seek to understand before seeking to be understood.
I do not mind if someone disagrees with me if they disagree with respect toward my views. There is not even respect towards one another right now.
Benefits of Disagreement:
- Exposes our prejudices, blind spots, and oversights
- Forces challenge to my paradigms and systems of thought and action
- Forces me to see if I truly respect with the one with whom I disagree (and vice versa)
- Forces me to think and decide if what I think I think is really what I think (let my thought processes me challenged)
- Refines all of the above
The greatest challenge of disagreement is pride.
Practices for Healthy Disagreement:
- Encourage others to disagree with you
- Be cautious
- Be compassionate
- Be courageous
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Eisenhower referred to the extreme left and reactive right.
Synergy: working together towards solutions that we could not come to separately.
The answer is not in everyone agreeing to one side or the other.
It doesn’t mean you have to compromise your convictions but it does mean you have to find a way to live together.
*Please see the excerpt below for a clarification on Lesson 9 regarding Shaun White.
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Note taking app: Evernote
Paper planner: Franklin Planner
2020 Audit / 12 Lessons from 2020:
- Write your plans in pencil
- Remember the 3 Circles (Concern, Influence, Trust) adapted from Steven Covey
- Rushed or hurried and ‘right now’ are rarely right
- Crisis always reveals character and conviction (so welcome the crisis/test)
- Find coaches, mentors, and advisors; we all need them. Blind spots and your success can be dangerous
- The greater your leadership load, the more valuable your time alone; therefore, plan for it.
- Keep practicing seeking to understand before demanding to be understood (The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Steven R. Covey; Habit 5)
- The 5 Plus 1 is still a good foundation (faith, family, friends, fitness, finances; plus 1: servant leadership) Servant Leadership by Robert Greenleaf
- *The Shaun White Rule works; Tools of Titans by Tim Ferriss
- You only control your thoughts, words, and actions; you cannot control other people.
- Read and keep reading, and read more and more about dead people.
In this episode, Patrick references the Shaun White interview in Tim Ferriss' Tools of Titans*. Patrick paraphrases White's response to one of Ferriss' questions and mentions his wife and children; In the interview, White uses the word 'family' as he is not married and does not have children. We apologize for the inadvertent error and have included the excerpt below to clarify:
TF: What’s your self-talk just before dropping into an Olympic run?
SW: “I say, ‘At the end of the day, who cares? What’s the big deal? I’m here, I’m going to try my best, and I’m going to go home, and my family’s there. . . . Even though my whole world’s wrapped up in this, who cares?’”
TF: The “and I’m going to go home, and my family’s there” is a line he adopted from Andre Agassi, one of his mentors. Shaun and I both love and recommend Andre’s autobiography, Open.”
In this final episode of 2020, Patrick takes a very personal look at the three areas of life that have helped him maintain a general sense of calm in such a volatile season of life in which we all find ourselves.
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Patrick references being on a local radio show on Wednesday mornings. You can listen online at 8:05 am at KWEL.com
This season is filled with noise and chaos, and there are two rules to be reminded of when tension and pressure in our lives is escalating.
24 Hour Rule
When it comes to anything that is not face-to-face or voice to voice (so digital, text, email, etc.) on important matters, you wait 24 hours to respond. With the exception of, you know if that’s not appropriate to wait to respond. This rule is highly beneficial when the stakes are high emotionally. Are you reacting or responding? Email and digital communication is someone else’s time imposing on your time. Your response to be planned and not a reaction. Again, these are in reference to emotionally charged matters.
Pro Tip: turn off notifications of texts and emails
See also Leaders Eat Last, by Simon Sinek, pages 41-45, 70
See also Why Leaders Eat Last, for a great overview of dopamine addiction in the digital age.
Drawing in the Dirt Rule
The accusation being brought up is literally one of life and death. And Jesus starts drawing in the dirt. We don’t know how long he paused for, but he paused, knelt down, and starts drawing in the dirt. You can just imagine the situation. He stands up and says, “He who is without sin can cast the first stone.”
Is your trust secure enough? Do you know who you are, have enough confidence in your belonging, and some sort of clarity in your purpose, and are strong enough as an individual, that when it all blows up around you, you can pause for a moment and draw in the dirt?
When implementing these rules, you can pause for a minute, gather your thoughts, work through your values and your personal constitution, and realize that many people want to see a reaction, but this is an engaged moment that deserves a responsible response.
In a day and age where they seems to be so little respect for humanity and everything is a reaction, maybe it’s time that we started a movement of people who choose to pause for a proper response instead of a cheap reaction.
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531 Churn:
5 year projection / 3 year projection / 1 year plan (1 month, 1 week, 1 day)
531 Churn within:
Faith
Finances
Family
Fitness
Servant Leadership
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Servant Leadership, by Robert Greenleaf
Miracle on the 17th Green, James Patterson
All the Best, George Bush: My life and letters and other writings; George H.W. Bush
American Moonshot: John F. Kennedy and the Great Space Race; Douglas Brinkley
Confrontational Politics; H.L. Richardson
It’s the Manager; Jim Clifton and Jim Harter
Francis Schaeffer Trilogy; Schaeffer
The Moral Case for Fossil Fuels; Alex Epstein
Pagan Christianity; Frank Viola and George Barna
Range: Why Generalists Triumph in a Specialized World; David Epstein
The One Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results; Gary Keller
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Read more about Tony and why he is running as well as his values on his website:
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In this week’s episode Patrick takes us on an inward journey into what holds us back from the personal pursuit of our dreams and ambitions. With a personal conviction that all of us are designed, called and gifted for more than we would dare even hope or imagine, Patrick attempts to push us to think and dream differently for our greatest inward joy and ultimate gift of service to others.
Leadership has to be holistic when we are dealing with people.
The Doom Loop*
Orientation Perspective
Performance
Break between Expectations and Performance
Motivational Orientation (again)
These movements out of The Doom Loop are no longer leaps and bounds but very small adjustments. Tiny improvements will yield exponential results.
To move into Elite Performance (the hardest steps):
- A deep attention for Connective Communication (see episodes ); fight for connection; you are delivering perspective and addressing the unsaid; this pulls team members back into the big picture and this is ongoing
- Constantly reminding people about the greater cause and the strategy of what you're trying to accomplish; you must convey the cause and the strategy separate from just making money
- Organizational leaders have to be deeply committed to the personal growth of the people under your care from the inside out
- Objectives have to be clear: where are we headed? Every employee should be on a personal improvement plan (PIP)
You have to have a commitment to churn on this all the time.
Referenced literature:
*Jim Collins, Good to Great
Simon Sinek, The Infinite Game
John Maxwell, Everybody Communicates, Few Connect
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The need of competence is the thing we spend the most time on but is of least importance.
Orientation Stage: 30-90 days, maybe into two quarters; we give them our core values (which may be a representation of basic ethics), our vision, and our mission, some brief job expectations, some metrics, and then they begin.
Performance Stage: it's rewards based and not development based; we haven't put anything much bigger in front of them. There can be a breakdown of expectations and performance.
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The Fidelis Wealth Management Group at Morgan Stanley in Midland, TX, who see it as their responsibility to help protect and grow their clients' wealth, giving clients the freedom to focus on what matters most.
Morgan Stanley Smith Barney LLC. Member SIPC
Contact: Phillip Knight, Fidelis Group at Morgan Stanley
432-620-6079
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5 Core Needs, Dr. Kathy Koch: celebratekids.com
As employers and leaders, we are leading five-part human beings. People spend 40% (conservatively), and we cannot only focus on their competencies.
It does not take long for partners and employees to see what they think they deserve. The reason they are spiraling around is because we have not connected to them or communicated to them what we need them to see and we have not invested in them.
The "Guard, Blame, Protect, Defend" Cycle (see Episode 51).
Commensurate Effort: the employee gives you what they think you deserve.
When we hire people, we have to treat people as human beings, not human doings. Their effort is a response of our effort towards them.
The First 30 Days: A new employee comes on board and they have an orientation. We communicate the mission and the vision, and we speak to the whole person.
We orient to what we wish we were and what we think we are rather than what we are striving for. And then, within the first quarter, they realize that we are treating them as human doings instead of human beings.
The Breakdown Point: performance and expectations begin to collide.
Today's episode is brought to you by:
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5 Core Needs, Dr. Kathy Koch: celebratekids.com
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You have to create a "we" culture that is worthy of personal investment. If all you say is "we pay people well and we give them good benefits", you will reinforce the cycle with your employees of what they "see, want, and think they deserve". Pay is what employees think you owe them, what they think they deserve. It is not the driver to get peak performance.
Who stays early, who stays late, and who performs above and beyond?
- Early employees that are excited are usually these people, and then it starts to wear off.
- This can also be by people who want to be noticed, and if they aren't, they will go into protecting, blaming, and defending and spiral out of control.
- And the last group is the one motivated by the shared cause. It transcends pay.
60% of the people you employ (and that's generous) will never give you more than 60% unless they have a reason to believe in you with how you are answering the questions relating to security, identity, belonging, purpose, and competence.
An unmotivated employee can lead you to a few conclusions:
- They are not self-motivated and they don't want to be self-motivated
- They may be self-motivated but they haven't been connectively communicated with (see episodes 45 and 46) that encourages them in a way to excel and get better
- They may be very passionate about something outside of the office, but they don't bring that same passion into the office
Ask them: What are your dreams? What do you want to do? What do you do in your spare time?
As leaders, we have to nurture the souls of people. When you find dreamers, you always find people who want to achieve more. How are you helping them get to where they want to go? It's not an HR matter - it's a human development matter. If you're really investing in people, you have to invest in their soul. The more you invest in people and develop them the more they will invest and develop for you.
Today's episode is brought to you by:
Luchini and Mertz: Luchini and Mertz is known for their dedication to their clients and for their customer service. Their teams use cutting edge technology and efficient processes to ensure the work is completed in a timely fashion.
Contact: Bobby Burkholder, Luchini and Mertz
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Connect or get more info on sponsorship opportunities:
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Five Core Needs, by Dr. Kathy Koch, celebratekids.com
In order, from base to top:
Security (who can I trust? not 'what')
Identity (who am I?)
Belonging (who wants me? not 'who needs me')
Purpose (what am I here for?)
Competence (what do I do well?)
In your values clarification, the health of your soul is so important because otherwise you will misinterpret your purpose. Many of us build our lives on a competence we have mastered, only to have it taken away; when we build our lives on our competence, everything else is called into question.
"Leadership is influence, nothing more, nothing less." John Maxwell
Your employees will filter what you say through their core needs before they will filter it through the professional obligations of the company.
Responses:
Positive | Response Rooted in Perspective: seeing the bigger picture and more than the obvious; if you have been shedding light, and if your vision and mission have been big enough to welcome change and welcome choice, they will see it in the perspective of safety that you have been given them
Fear | Response Rooted in Low Security: what they see, what they want, and what they think they deserve; if we haven't created a culture that is ready to shuffle the deck, this is the response you will get, and that's still on us as leaders. The vast majority of people you deal with automatically response to challenge, change, and choice with what they see, want, and think they deserve. Then comes guarding, protecting, defending, and blaming. It occurs internally and then makes moving forward even more difficult.
SECURITY | Are you affirming trust and security with your people?
IDENTITY | Are you helping people under your leadership understand their identity beyond a title on a card?
BELONGING | Have you been clear about the desire that you want people there?
PURPOSE | Are you encouraging a bigger purpose in life?
COMPETENCE | Are you challenging people to improve upon their competencies?
Today's episode is brought to you by:
Luchini and Mertz: Luchini and Mertz is known for their dedication to their clients and for their customer service. Their teams use cutting edge technology and efficient processes to ensure the work is completed in a timely fashion.
Contact: Bobby Burkholder, Luchini and Mertz
luchinimertz.com
432-684-6728
2805 W. Kentucky Avenue, Midland, TX
The Fidelis Wealth Management Group at Morgan Stanley in Midland, TX, who see it as their responsibility to help protect and grow their clients' wealth, giving clients the freedom to focus on what matters most.
Morgan Stanley Smith Barney LLC. Member SIPC.
Contact: Phillip Knight, Fidelis Group at Morgan Stanley
432-620-6079
phillip.knight@morganstanley.com
6 Desta Drive, Suite 1900, Midland, TX
We rarely take the time for perspective, which requires either populist sages on the stage or it requires guides on the side.
Find a way to listen, and seek to understand.
Where there is uncertainty, there is fear.
See episodes 45: Connective Communication Part 1 and 46: Connective Communication, Part 2
Quotes and References:
“The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them.” Albert Einstein
"The words of the wise heard in quiet are better than the shouting of a ruler among fools." Ecclesiastes 9:17 (ESV)
"There is one whose rah words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing." Proverbs 12:18 (ESV)
"A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion." Proverbs 18:2 (ESV)
Today's episode is brought to you by:
The Fidelis Wealth Management Group at Morgan Stanley in Midland, TX, who see it as their responsibility to help protect and grow their clients' wealth, giving clients the freedom to focus on what matters most.
Morgan Stanley Smith Barney LLC. Member SIPC.
Contact: Phillip Knight, Fidelis Group at Morgan Stanley
432-620-6079
phillip.knight@morganstanley.com
6 Desta Drive, Suite 1900, Midland, TX
Apple Podcasts:
The Tim Ferriss Show, Episode 438, Interview with George Raveling
The Tim Ferriss Show, Episode 332, Interview with George Raveling
Google Podcasts:
The Tim Ferriss Show, Episode 438, Interview with George Raveling
The Tim Ferriss Show, Episode 332, Interview with George Raveling
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Without connective communication, what people see, what they want, or what they think they deserve will become the primary perspective. You have to give a proper, broad based point of view. If you do not connectively communicate, they [your employees] will always assume money is more important than they are to you. Without connective communication, security is always called into question, due to the idea that something damaging is not being shared. Connective communication is always breeding security and fighting for trust. It is always better than an assumed, uninformed story.
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Without connective communication, based upon an assumed perspective, people will start protecting their turf, defending their agendas, and place the blame on you. Connective communication pulls the team back from the spin of isolation.
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Without connective communication, little circles of safety will pop up to fill the void of lack of security. This audience will reinforce their narrative and perspective.
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Without connective communication, there’s an assumed divide between those who matter and those who don’t: the “us” and “them”. In our arrogance, we may birth or deepen this divide. Sometimes our communication sounds very corporate rather than trying to connect with those actually doing the work. This can be called the “Tenth Floor Syndrome”. It’s just as important in good times as bad times.
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Without connective communication, the just cause/why/big purpose is called into question as nothing more than a motivational or manipulative trick.
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Connective communication must occur repeatedly. You can’t measure it, but you’ll feel it.
Connective communication understands if you have a bigger purpose.
References:
Simon Sinek, “just cause”, The Infinite Game
Simon Sinek, “circle of safety”, Leaders Eat Last
Jim Collins, “doom loop”, Good to Great
Connective Communication answers questions and even understands the questions before they're asked. Bring clarity, bring details, and bring data.
In times of stress and uncertainty, if there is a void of information, people will fill it.
Connective communication reaches into the feelings of those you are seeking to lead.
My communication must:
- provide security; give them someone to trust
- clarify corporate and personal identity
- reinforce belonging; communicate the want to be with people
- reinforce the purpose
- guide people to their competencies
Part 1:
Without connection when you are transmitting information, communication has not taken place. Connective communication moves beyond the employee/employer connection of production and reward.
Without connective communication, perspective is left to the imagination. Connective communication grants perspective and answers the why. When your employee goes home to tell their spouse or family what you said, will it be accurate?
Without connective communication, security is called into question. Connective communication breathes security and establishes trust. Your employees and team members know whether you're telling the whole story.
Additional references in this episode:
Brene Brown
John Maxwell: "Everyone communicates, but not everyone connects."
Dr. Kathy Koch, 5 Core Needs; celebratekids.com
Simon Sinek: The Infinite Game; Start with Why
Steven Covey
Today's episode is brought to you by:
Luchini and Mertz: Luchini and Mertz is known for their dedication to their clients and for their customer service. Their teams use cutting edge technology and efficient processes to ensure the work is completed in a timely fashion.
Contact: Bobby Burkholder, Luchini and Mertz
luchinimertz.com
432-684-6728
2805 W. Kentucky Avenue, Midland, TX
The Fidelis Wealth Management Group at Morgan Stanley in Midland, TX, who see it as their responsibility to help protect and grow their clients' wealth, giving clients the freedom to focus on what matters most.
Morgan Stanley Smith Barney LLC. Member SIPC.
Contact: Phillip Knight, Fidelis Group at Morgan Stanley
432-620-6079
phillip.knight@morganstanley.com
6 Desta Drive, Suite 1900, Midland, TX
Celebrate Kids (Dr. Kathy Koch)
What you choose to work on and who you choose to work with are far more important that how hard you work.
What List:
- What fires me up?
- What do I wish I could do?
- What problems should I be solving?
- What do I need?
- What do I want?
- What do I need to get rid of?
Who List:
- Who do I want to work with?
- Who do I NOT want to work with?
"The tranquility that comes when you stop caring what they say. Or think, or do. Only what you do. Not to be distracted by their darkness. To run straight for the finish line, unswerving.” -Marcus Aurelius
In the true spirit of No Neutral Moments, we present to you something of a re-run. No, it is not a podcast you have heard before, but rather a past teaching from Patrick as he was in his final weeks of service at Stonegate Fellowship. Patrick recently came across this teaching through a series of events and though it is directed specifically to a men’s Bible study group he decided the content was worth sharing to the wider No Neutral Moments audience. We hope you not only enjoy but find some encouragement in these tough days we find ourselves in and when we might all need to know if there is a deeper lesson we should be getting ready to learn.
New book recommendation:
“The Choice: Embrace the Possible”: Dr. Edith Eva Eger.
SHOW SPONSORS
- Morgan Stanley Smith Barney LLC. Member SIPC.
The Fidelis Wealth Management Group at Morgan Stanley in Midland, TX, who see it as their responsibility to help protect and grow their clients' wealth, giving clients the freedom to focus on what matters most.
Contact: Phillip Knight, Fidelis Group at Morgan Stanley
432-620-6079
phillip.knight@morganstanley.com
6 Desta Drive, Suite 1900
- Luchini and Mertz
Luchini and Mertz is known for their dedication to their clients and for their customer service. Their teams use cutting edge technology and efficient processes to ensure the work is completed in a timely fashion.
Contact: Bobby Burkholder, Luchini and Mertz
luchinimertz.com
432-684-6728
2805 W. Kentucky Avenue
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Learn to ask great questions (stop asking, "what do you think about this?" and switch to something like, "have we left anything/anyone out here?" or "are we skipping any steps?") Ask questions in person to be relational.
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Reject the practice of silence. Use an agenda for your meeting, and give people a heads up on being ready to address their thoughts on a particular question for the meeting.
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Know in advance what your people are going to know and what they are thinking so you can ask the right questions. The more you observe people, you know how they think and operate. Pay attention.
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Don't always believe your 'positive press' (compliments). You can easily fall into a trap of hearing what people think you want to hear, instead of people telling you what you need to hear.
Resources to check out:
John Maxwell,
The 5 Levels of Leadership
Jim Collins, Good to Great
Today's episode is brought to you by the Fidelis Wealth Management Group at Morgan Stanley, in Midland, TX, who see it as their responsibility to help protect and grow their clients' wealth, giving clients the freedom to focus on what matters most. Connect with them:
online at the Fidelis Wealth Management Group
call: 432-620-6079
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In this episode Patrick takes us back to six critical life markers we often need to review in times of turmoil and uncertainty. When the world around us is filled with uncertainty, and even fear, the time is right to pause and check how you are doing in six vital arenas of daily life.
In this episode, Patrick shares with us two stories – one recent and one from a few years back – in order to ask us one simple question. So get ready to listen quickly and answer slowly as Patrick challenges you to take a good hard look inside yourself and your self-imposed limitations.
In this final episode in the “Pit of I Quit” series Patrick walks us through a series of checkpoints and practices to assist in navigating our way out of the pit we might find ourselves in.
Emotions & feelings in the pit:
5:27 | 1. Sudden and unreasonable fear
7:40 | 2. Near cowardly escape or desire to flee
12:35 | 3. Intense seclusion and isolation
14:50 | 4. "I am the only one" syndrome (see also 1 Kings 19:4, 10, 14)
17.25 | 5. Complete loss of vision/sight of the bigger picture or purpose
Patrick finishes up this series of podcasts on change with five reasons why we choose to change. With the backdrop of realizing for personal growth to occur change has to happen; Patrick weaves together five drivers to embrace personal change.
In this episode Patrick picks up where he left off preparing us, and challenging us, to pursue rest, change and growth in all areas of life. Specifically, Patrick pushes into how tradition either helps or hurts us as we engage life and choose to move towards growth and change. Pay attention at the end for Patrick’s most recent book recommendation!
Building a StoryBrand, by Donald Miller
In this episode Patrick begins a multi-part teaching on the subject of rest, readiness and change as we move into a new year and new decade. Asking us to consider where we need personal and professional change, Patrick then moves into principles of change we can all apply in all levels of our practice of life.
In this episode Patrick takes you on a journey through eight questions you can ask yourself as you consider a career or life change. Whether one question, three or all eight, this podcast will guide you through an in depth personal journey of testing personal change and transition.
In this episode Patrick presses into the paradigm shifting practice of Servant Leadership. Many people talk about Servant Leadership but often we don’t think about what it really means. Through this episode it is our hope that you will take a deeper look into your leadership paradigm and begin the needed shift into Servant Leadership
Almost everyone describes their lives as very busy. We move so fast and churn and burn in so many directions we begin to believe we will get behind or even fail if we are not churning and burning at a break-neck pace. In this episode Patrick talks about practical ways we can slow ourselves down in order to be better thinkers and leaders.
In this episode Patrick defines the fruit of leadership introduced in Episode 24. While defining the fruit of leadership Patrick then challenges us to look deep inside and ask ourselves what areas we need to work on so we are leading from the inside out.
In this episode Patrick argues that an often taught concept in the church of the “Fruit of the Spirit” is actually a foundational concept for leaders. Patrick will argue that the fruit of leadership is necessary if we will lead in such a way that the character of our lives gives life to the marketplace.
In this episode Patrick finishes unpacking his observations regarding a leadership cultural kick back taking place in the market. Patrick describes how one generation of leading will not suffice for the next generation of leadership because leadership is based in core needs and not just what we do for a living.
In this podcast Patrick continues to unpack his observations about what is happening in the work place. Specifically, the cultural kick-back – or adjustments – Patrick asserts is at the heart of the tension between Millennials and the generations of leaders who have come before them.
In this series of pod-casts Patrick unpacks his observations about what is happening in the work place. Specifically, the cultural kick-back – or adjustment – Patrick asserts is at the heart of the tension between Millennials and the generations of leaders who have come before them.
In this final installment of paradigms Patrick explores three things that can drive us to want to change our paradigms and seven ways we can take control of our mental maps and create brand new paradigms that enable us to move closer to everything we are designed, called and gifted to be.
In this episode, Patrick continues to press into the issue of our controlling paradigms. With more insight and more examples Patrick continues to challenge us to discover our own controlling ways of thinking about, and seeing, our world before he helps us to see how we might change our paradigms for a better, more engaged, life.
In this first of several episodes Patrick begins to explore how powerful paradigms are in our daily lives. From defining what paradigms are to discovering how to change them, this series of episodes will assist you in identifying your paradigms and maybe even changing some of them.
In this episode Patrick discusses the power of influence we have in the lives of others and how to be prepared for these engaged season of life. Using stories, bible based guidelines and personal challenge Patrick’s aim is to remind us we matter in the lives of others.
In this final installment of Patrick’s series on fear he not only finishes the teaching but takes the time to share with you an amazing No Neutral Moments story that just took place in his own life .
In this episode Patrick continues to unpack some of the reasons we have fear in our lives, what might be driving those fears and how we can recognize if we are operating out of a hindering sense of fear.
In this episode Patrick reaches back over five years to teaching he did in how to deal with fear. In a very stressful season marked by tragedy and fear Patrick takes this time to help us process what we are feeling and fearing and hopefully find a healthy path out of fear and into a greater hope.
Referenced Books:
The Hunt for Red October, by Tom Clancy
The Hunt for Red October (series), by Tom Clancy
The Making of a Man of God, by Alan Redpath
If You Can Keep It, by Eric Metaxas
Desiring God, by John Piper
Real Christianity, by William Wilberforce
Start with Why, by Simon Sinek
Leaders Eat Last, by Simon Sinek
The Moral Case for Fossil Fuels, by Alex Epstein
Tools of Titans, by Tim Ferriss
Good to Great, by Jim Collins
Servant Leadership, by Robert Greenleaf
Dare to Lead, by Brene Brown
Measure What Matters, by John Doerr
Range, by David Epstein
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, by Steven Covey
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (workbook), by Steven Covey
In this episode Patrick revisits the topic of Killing Giants. Over the last few weeks many have asked for a little more detail on what to do; so, Patrick presses into the small matters that make for giant victories.
In this episode of No Neutral Moments Patrick takes us on a challenging journey to write and sing the song of our lives. A song we might be tired of, or even try to run from; but a song filled with life and lyrics those around us long to hear and might even join us in singing.
In this episode, Patrick puts the finishing touches on this three-part discussion about defeating the giants that hold us back from becoming everything we are designed, called and gifted to be.
In this episode Patrick picks up where he left off in episode 8, discussing how to deal with the giants in our lives that seem to hold us back from becoming everything we are designed, called and gifted to be.
In this episode of the No Neutral Moments Podcast Patrick takes us on a different type of journey through an old story filled with lessons about “reclaiming what is rightfully yours”. In the ongoing mission to help you unpack, discover and enjoy all you are designed, called and gifted to be, sometimes you have to make a move to reclaim what is yours. Hopefully, through this story you will be encouraged to cross the street and go get it.
In this episode of the No Neutral Moments podcast Patrick explores the reality that everyone is a person of faith. Patrick outlines a clear definition of what faith really is – detaching it from a purely religious idea – and how all of us choose to trust, believe and place our faith in a person, place or thing. Finally, Patrick outlines what an adequate object of faith must do for us while encouraging each of us to truly consider if the object of our faith, belief and trust is adequate for the No Neutral Moments lifestyle.
In this episode of No Neutral Moments Patrick presses into the matter of how powerful our personal, self-written script is. Spurred on by the challenge of whether our self-worth and self-identity are separate from our jobs and careers Patrick unpacks how self-limiting our personal scripts are and how we can go about re-writing the script in order to unpack and become all that we are designed, called and gifted to be.
In this episode, Patrick explores four fundamental practices of every leader. Having been personally challenged by the lack of these practices over two decades ago Patrick has adopted, adapted and made his own this revised list of the four power practices of the No Neutral Moments lifestyle.
Patrick interviews Diana Mao, Co-Founder and President of the Nomi Network, a non-profit organization working to create economic opportunities for survivors and women at risk of human trafficking (www.nominetwork.org) and discovers what fueled Diana to live a no-neutral lifestyle in the face of overwhelming odds.
Patrick continues to set up the idea that your life holds great value and how important that is to understand for this idea of no-neutral-living to take effect. When you know you are valued, you can value others and this is the no-neutral lifestyle that we talk about!
Patrick Payton introduces this new podcast by discussing the initial idea of living life "non-neutrally" and identifying the influence that comes from that.