Best of Ourselves: Recent Episodes
Marcia Hyatt, PCC: Leadership and Life Coach
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Ever had a day where everything goes sideways at once? Mine included dog poo, burr-covered terriers, a broken garage door, and a nurse cheering for Tom’s phlegm. This episode explores what happens when we let go of how life “should” be and meet what’s real—with humor, honesty, and a bit of Anne Lamott–style grace.
Photo: engin akyurt
Resources
Living in Uncertainty
The Should Shower
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This is what is here now. An emotion, an irritating person or a disturbing situation. Learning to accept what is present and respond from a deeper place leads to a powerful shift.
Resources
Acceptance Podcast
Learning to Accept What Is Podcast
Tuning In V Changing the Channel Podcast
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When words fail us, what remains? Marcia shares a deeply personal reflection on caregiving, uncertainty, and the moments when experience reaches beyond language. Inspired by John O’Donohue’s blessing Beannacht, this episode offers quiet companionship for anyone navigating life’s darker waters.
Resources
Beannacht from To Bless the Space Between Us
Living in Uncertainty
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Learning how to get grounded helps us access more of our intelligence; we are not our brightest selves when we are reactive.
Resources
An Interview with Wendy Palmer
Mindtraps Podcast
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After thinking about Mary Jo Leddy’s talk “Surprised by Goodness”, I wondered how much kindness I do overlook each day? Where can I extend a bit more kindness?
Resources
Self Kindness – Neff
Self-Kindness – Germer
Random Acts of Kindness
Cultivating Appreciation
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It’s a subtle form of the inner critic, so subtle, you might miss it. Comparison to others does not support you become your own, unique best self. Being inspired is great, thinking you don’t measure up, not so much.
Resources
Disengaging the Inner Critic
Identifying the Inner Critic
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Silence can be a gift. The pause helps us step back from reactivity, gain perspective, and listen for something deeper than our internal chatter. But not all silence serves us. Sometimes silence protects comfort, allows harmful systems to continue unchecked, or keeps us from living our values fully.
Inspired by Martin Luther King Jr.’s 1967 speech A Time to Break Silence, this episode explores the tension between discernment and complicity, and the challenge of using our voices in service of love rather than fear, division, or self-righteousness.
Resources
Using My Voice
Silence: A Refuge or a Hiding Place
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Living from an appreciative stance can increase your life expectancy, resilience and creativity. And it is hard to do. This episode makes a case for increasing appreciation in our days and shares a few tips.
Resources:
Dr Rick Hanson on hardwiring our brain for happiness
Brother David Steindl-Rast TED talk
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We are stronger when we work together. Reflections on finding community all around me.
Resources
Habits of the Heart by Parker Palmer
Full Parker Palmer Interview
Trusting the Heart: Essential Connectedness
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Catching herself in a cycle of avoidance and self-judgment, Marcia explores the familiar urge to fix what feels off—and why that approach often backfires. Through a moment of honest reflection, she uncovers what was really underneath and discovers a quieter, more powerful starting point: acceptance. Not as a strategy, but as a doorway to real change.
Resources
Grounded Presence
Living in Uncertainty
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A simple, unexpected note interrupts a cycle of stress and worry, reminding us how easily we overlook everyday acts of kindness. This reflection explores how small, ordinary moments of care—across differences and in our own communities—quietly sustain us, if we remember to notice them.
Resources
Kindness Changes Everything
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When life changes and familiar roles fall away, it’s easy to feel unmoored. This reflection explores the quiet invitation in those moments—to pause, listen, and remember we are more than the roles we’ve played.
Resources
Connected or Separate? – The Wave Story
When I shared this radio show with my writing group, my friend Holly shared this poem facing the same question. Follow her on Substack: Holly Lamond
Abundance
That night I knew, the next day confirmed
Lost was the life I’d known
Down a dark road but never alone
Today, a river flows, altogether unexpected
A late-night work call with colleagues in the UK
A walnut-like lump found under my arm
That night I knew, the next day confirmed
Control is a delusion once diagnosed
I traded frequent flyer miles for frequent treatments
Lost was the life I’d known
Cancer caused me to change course
Treatments left me parched, cracked, uncertain
Down a dark road but never alone
Cancer drained my canyon of complacency
Opened me to the abundance of light and rain
Today, a river flows, altogether unexpected
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Our hard wiring response to change is exactly the wrong thing we need to thrive in turbulence, uncertainty and complexity. In Jennifer Garvey Berger’s practical new book, Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps, she boils down the problem and ways to free ourselves. In this podcast, we explore how to get out of the forth mindtrap – control
Resources
Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps
Living Authentically an Interview With Roxanne Howe Murphy
Interview with Jennifer Garvey Berger on Simple Habits for Complex Times
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Our hard wiring response to change is exactly the wrong thing we need to thrive in turbulence, uncertainty and complexity. In Jennifer Garvey Berger’s practical new book, Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps, she boils down the problem and ways to free ourselves. In this podcast, we explore how to get out of the forth mindtrap – control
Resources
Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps
Living Authentically an Interview With Roxanne Howe Murphy
Interview with Jennifer Garvey Berger on Simple Habits for Complex Times
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Our hard wiring response to change is exactly the wrong thing we need to thrive in turbulence, uncertainty and complexity. In Jennifer Garvey Berger’s practical new book, Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps, she boils down the problem and ways to free ourselves. In this podcast, we explore how to get out of the forth mindtrap – control
Resources
Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps
Interview with Jennifer Garvey Berger on Simple Habits for Complex Times
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Our hard wiring response to change is exactly the wrong thing we need to thrive in turbulence, uncertainty and complexity. In Jennifer Garvey Berger’s practical new book, Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps, she boils down the problem and ways to free ourselves. In this podcast, we explore how to get out of the third mindtrap – agreements
Resources
Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps
Interview with Jennifer Garvey Berger on Simple Habits for Complex Times
Social: Why Our Brains Are Wired to Connect
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Our hard wiring response to change is exactly the wrong thing we need to thrive in turbulence, uncertainty and complexity. In Jennifer Garvey Berger’s practical new book, Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps, she boils down the problem and ways to free ourselves. In this podcast, we explore how to get out of the second mindtrap – rightness.
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Our hard wiring response to change is exactly the wrong thing we need to thrive in turbulence, uncertainty and complexity. In Jennifer Garvey Berger’s practical new book, Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps, she boils down the problem and ways to free ourselves. In this podcast, we explore how to get out of the first mindtrap – creating simple stories.
Resources
Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps
Interview with Jennifer Garvey Berger on Simple Habits for Complex Times
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Our hard wiring response to change is exactly the wrong thing we need to thrive in turbulence, uncertainty and complexity. In Jennifer Garvey Berger’s practical new book, Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps, she boils down the problem and ways to free ourselves. In this podcast, we cover the overview of the book released in 2019.
Resources
Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps
Interview with Jennifer Garvey Berger on Simple Habits for Complex Times
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In Parker Palmer’s book, Healing the Heart of Democracy, he talks about 5 habits of the heart we need for a robust democracy. Habit 4 is A sense of personal voice and agency. “Insight and energy give rise to new life as we speak out and act out our own version of truth, while checking and correcting it against the truths of others. But many of us lack confidence in our own voices and in our power to make a difference.”
Resources:
5 Habits of the Heart by the Center for Courage and Renewal
Habits 1-3 podcasts
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Parker Palmer believes that if taken together, the 5 habits are critical to sustaining a democracy. The habits are described as deeply ingrained ways of seeing, being and responding to life that involve our minds, emotions, our self-images, our concepts of meaning and purpose in life. This podcast explores Habit 3: An ability to hold tension in life-giving ways.
Resources
To hear Parker talk about each of the 5 habits or his full interview
Non-violent communication resources
Dance of the Me and We by Dr Ginny Belden Charles
Power and Love – Bringing Out the Best Ourselves
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This podcast explores Habit 2 in the Parker Palmer’s 5 Habits of the Heart; habits that are critical for a vibrant democracy. This habit is entitled: An Appreciation of the Value of Otherness.
Resources:
Healing the Heart of Democracy by Parker J Palmer — link to the book, discussion guide and resources.
Full interview with Parker Palmer in 2012 and 2013
Don’t Take Things Personally – Podcast
Defensiveness – Podcast
Listening to Conflict – Podcast
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In Parker Palmer’s book, Healing the Heart of Democracy, he cites 5 habits of the heart that will help us move beyond fear. Using excerpts from a 2013 interview, we examine the first habit — we are all connected.
Resources:
Parker’s full description of Habit One
An Hour Interview with Parker Palmer
For More Best of Ourselves Podcasts on Community and Relationships
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In this episode, I reflect on a familiar story about an elephant held in place not by a rope, but by a belief that trying no longer matters. Living in northern Minnesota, and hearing directly from friends and family witnessing events in the Twin Cities, I explore how that same limiting story shows up in moments when constitutional rights are being tested. Drawing on the First, Fourth, and Fourteenth Amendments—and Martin Luther King Jr.’s wisdom about power and love—I name what it means for ordinary people to stand together lawfully and nonviolently. This is a reflection on civic courage, community, and why showing up, even without certainty, is how democracy is sustained.
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A casual question during a cell phone upgrade sparked an unexpected political exchange—and a deeper inquiry into how we meet one another across difference. This episode reflects on presence, sacred engagement, and Martin Luther King Jr.’s reminder that love and power must work together if we’re to create justice and avoid becoming what we oppose.
Resources
Healing the Divide
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Thanks to Kathy Magnuson for sharing her Awe Journal practice and it’s impact on her life.
Resources
Finding Awe
Awe: The new Science of Everyday Wonder and How It Can Transform Your Life
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A Thanksgiving moment went wrong—a small dog, a sudden crisis, and my brain completely freezing. What followed wasn’t competence or quick thinking, but a powerful lesson in how stress disconnects us from our bodies.
In this episode, I reflect on what that scare revealed about presence, uncertainty, and the quiet wisdom our bodies carry—especially during long, difficult seasons. A reminder that when answers aren’t available, staying honest with what’s here may be enough.
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When we contemplate significant changes in our lives, our flight, fight, or freeze response may kick in. We tend to prioritize safety, and our autonomic nervous system can pose a significant barrier to transformation. Learning to move forward without waging an internal war is crucial.
Resources
Acceptance as a Step Towards Growth
Curiosity as a Growth Tool
Intentions: Allies for Growth
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What if strength isn’t something we build for ourselves alone? Inspired by the Grand Portage Band’s response to the closure of our local Coast Guard station, this reflection explores how Indigenous wisdom challenges our dominant story of competition, scarcity, and separateness—and invites us into a different way of living, grounded in connection, love, and shared belonging.
Resources
Imprisoned by Our Story
Suffocating
What Do You See?
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Many of us experience stress during the holidays. In this special episode we explore what helps us be resilient when stress shows up.
Resources:
University of Minnesota Center for Spirituality and Healing on Stress
Busy without Stress Podcast
Work Your Mindfulness Podcast
Accepting What Shows Up Podcast
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Being human isn’t tidy. In this episode, I share two moments—one small, one life-shaking—that pulled me right into the rawness of shame, fear, and uncertainty. What I’m learning is this: the struggle isn’t a failure. It’s the place where honesty and grace can actually reach us.
Resources
Living in Uncertainty
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A frown, a misunderstanding, and a lesson I’m still practicing: most of the time, it’s not about us. Here’s what that moment taught me about assumptions, boundaries, and staying true to ourselves.
Resources
Don’t Take It Personally
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Ever had a day where everything goes sideways at once? Mine included dog poo, burr-covered terriers, a broken garage door, and a nurse cheering for Tom’s phlegm. This episode explores what happens when we let go of how life “should” be and meet what’s real—with humor, honesty, and a bit of Anne Lamott–style grace.
Photo: engin akyurt
Resources
Living in Uncertainty
The Should Shower
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Gratitude is a choice despite what is happening around us. It is correlated with resilience, happiness and health. Gratitude is always an option.
Resources
More about the Haudenosaunee
Research on Gratitude
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Burnout doesn’t always show up as exhaustion—it can appear as impatience, numbness, or a heart that quietly tightens to get through the day. In this episode, Marcia Hyatt reflects on recognizing her own signs of burnout while navigating her husband’s medical care and life’s constant demands. Through the image “It’s hard to hold hands with a tight fist,” she explores how stress can close us off and how gentleness, awareness, and small acts of care can help us soften, recover, and reconnect—with ourselves and those we love.
Resources
Breathe
Living in Uncertainty
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Building our capacity to observe ourselves, builds our capacity to grow and change. It can be uncomfortable to wake up to our the ways we limit ourselves. And if you do, the quality of your life changes.
Resources
Freeing Ourselves From Our Stories Podcast
Tuning In Vs Changing the Channel Podcast
Anthony DeMello
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How much do we share — and with whom? In this week’s Best of Ourselves episode, I explore the fine line between privacy and authenticity… and what it means to let a little more light in through the cracks in our lives.
Resources
Help, Please: Lessons From An IKEA Box
The Should Shower
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Life doesn’t come in neat categories of good or bad. In this reflection, I explore how staying open to the mystery can transform how we meet whatever arrives.
Resources
Living in Uncertainty
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We are stronger when we work together. Reflections on finding community all around me.
Resources
Habits of the Heart by Parker Palmer
Full Parker Palmer Interview
Power and Love show on building community
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Some Assembly Required.
Turns out that’s not just a warning on an IKEA box—it’s a reminder about life. In this week’s show, I confess to my habit of saying “We’re fine” when we’re really… not. From sleepless nights to bolts and Allen wrenches, I discovered that asking for help isn’t weakness—it’s actually a gift to both giver and receiver.
Because maybe the real self-care isn’t doing it all ourselves, but remembering we were never meant to—life is always better assembled together.
Resources
Living in Uncertainty
Kindness Changes Everything
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I used to think “living one day at a time” meant glowing serenity. But lately it looks more like noticing my cranky, overtired self and walking her home before she has a meltdown. This show explores the messy, human side of being present in the moment.
Resources
Living With Uncertainty
Resilience or What
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Creating art has been shown to support healing. It has been shown to reduce loneliness, anxiety and mood disorders. Art and beauty have also been correlated with reduced need for pain medication an reduced recovery times. We all have access to this powerful and fun way to grow and heal.
Resources
What Have I Mythed? Stories for Reflection
Art and Healing Foundation
The Art of Healing
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In this episode, I share how unexpected gestures of kindness have touched me more deeply than I ever imagined. From potatoes harvested to simple words of encouragement, these acts have softened old walls around my heart. Together we’ll explore how the heart opens—not by force, but by tending the conditions of worthiness, courage, and compassion.
Resources
Kindness in Action
How to Open the Heart by Jeff Foster
Taking a Stand for Kindness
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Life with uncertainty can feel like riding a seesaw with a 1000-pound gorilla—hope one moment, despair the next. In this episode, I share how “widening the lens” through simple practices like breathing, noticing beauty, or reaching for connection helps us find a space of grace.
Resources
Living in Uncertainty
Should Shower
Resilience or What?
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Resilience isn’t about being tough — it’s about living the “both/and.”
When life brings hard news, can we let sorrow and joy share the same moment? In this episode, I reflect on how we adapt, what keeps us present, and why resilience might mean, as Joseph Campbell said, “joyfully participating in the sorrows of the world.”
Resources
Living in Uncertainty
The Should Shower
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The Should Shower 💦
Ever find yourself standing under a downpour of “shoulds”?
I should be doing more.
I should be feeling more.
I should be… well, different than I am.
In this week’s episode, I share what it’s been like navigating my husband’s health crisis while my inner critic offers constant commentary — and how I’m learning to step out of the should shower long enough to find what’s actually true for me.
We talk about:
🌧 The tug-of-war between productivity and permission
🌧 Why outside advice can sometimes drown out our inner knowing
🌧 One simple question that can help you cut through the noise
🌧 How grace can wash away the shoulds
If you’ve ever felt like you can’t get it “right” no matter what you do, this one’s for you.
Resources
Living in Uncertainty
Identifying the Inner Critic
Disengaging from the Inner Critic
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Life has a way of reminding us that uncertainty is the only thing we can count on. This week’s show is raw and real — no tidy answers, no “5 easy steps” — just what it’s like to live through sudden change and not know what’s next.
As Pema Chödrön writes:
“We think that the point is to pass the test or to overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don’t really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy.”
If you’re navigating your own uncertain world, I hope you’ll find a little companionship here.
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Conversations about race and other uncomfortable subjects require us to do our own work, to build capacity in ourselves to listen to learn.
Resources
The Mindtrap of Rightness Podcast
Resmaa Menakem Interview
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It was a retreat I will never forget. It was a precious time of connection and growth. It reminded me of a core truth, we are all “Walking around shining like the sun.” Resources Grounded Presence Healing the Inner Divide
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I recently came across a photo of myself as a Brownie—standing straight in my uniform, with this tight little smile on my face. I wasn’t carefree or joyful. I was trying hard to get it right. Even back then, I had already learned how to shape myself to be acceptable—to be “good.”Good as in quiet, […]
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It is important to find a way to take a stand for love and at the same time face our own shadows. Resources Understanding Our Shadow Implicit Association Test – About Implicit Association Test – Take the Test
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“What I think you should do is…” These words are often intended to be helpful but may miss the mark. Resources Moving from Judging to Encouraging Listening Between the Words
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Silence can be a refuge—or a hiding place.In this episode, we explore the ways silence shapes our inner and outer lives: when it helps us respond with clarity, and when it becomes a way to withhold our truth. What happens when we stay silent to stay safe? And what’s the cost of leaving our voice […]
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In this episode, the show takes a hard look at the power of words—how they shape our relationships, our communities, and the world we co-create. We challenge the old saying “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me,” because we know that words do hurt—and they can also heal. From […]
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When we know someone’s story, it is hard to make them an “other”. We can get past the labels and see the humanity in those who have different life experiences. Resources Friends with Those People A variety of podcasts on community
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This series explores tapping our full potential and living true to ourselves using the EnneaCrossings™ lens. This episode, the fifth in the series, explores the fourth portal or doorway to living a life true to oneself. Engaged Presence explores how to respond and participate in life from a place of wholeness, interconnectedness, and attunement to […]
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This series explores tapping our full potential and living true to ourselves. This episode, the fourth in the series, explores the third portal or doorway to living a life true to oneself. Essential Connectedness explores levels of consciousness and the mystery of the heart. Resources Deep Living Lab’s EnneaCrossings™ Episode One of this EnneaCrossings™ Series: Expanding […]
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This series explores how to tap our full potential and live a life true to ourselves? This episode, the third in the series, explores the second portal or doorway to living a life true to oneself. Essential Connectedness explores levels of consciousness and the mystery of the heart. Resources Deep Living Lab’s EnneaCrossings™ Episode One […]
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This series explores how to tap our full potential. This episode, the second in the series, explores the first doorway to living a life true to oneself: Essential Holding, the internally sourced experience of belonging, love, security, and guidance. Through awareness and practice, we can pause, notice our reactions, and access deeper wisdom, allowing us […]
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What supports us in accessing our true nature? What practices help us deal with whatever shows up with a grounded presence? This is the first in a series that explores a framework that supports this way of being in the world. This episode explores what happens when we open up the infinite realm. Resources EnneaCrossings […]
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We have a lot more choice than we remember. It is so easy to spend the day being reactive. And if we pause, and reflect on what we would like to create, we can focus our energy on what matters most. This show explores a few tips for living more intentionally. Resources Lessons from John […]
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There is no place like home. In this episode, we explore how to create more hospitality in the world. Starting with being at home with ourselves. Resources The Pyschology of Home A Force for Kindness Dealing with the Inner Critic Stop Feeding Your Inner Critic
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What are you noticing? Learning how to be present, to notice what is here, mindfulness — it can change your life. Many sources find it a key to resilience, creativity, health, and happiness. Resources Dr. Ellen Langer Talk Headspace Dr. Susan David Interview on the Daily Good
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Knowing our purpose makes us less vulnerable to reactivity and it has amazing health benefits. Taking the time to figure out your “why” is well worth the time. Resources The Ladder Out of Mindtraps – Podcast Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps Power of Purpose – TEDx talk by Richard Leider
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Some lessons I need to learn over and over again. One persistent struggle is learning to listen to my intuition. Most of the time the consequences of ignoring are small, sometimes they are not. Resources Old Patterns Identifying the Inner Critic
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Worrying can fill up a day. It has it’s uses but mostly it keeps us from enjoying life. Here are a few tips for freeing ourselves from our worrying mind. Resources Stop Imagining the Worst blog Reducing Worry Blog
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We think we experience “reality”. However, what we perceive is greatly filtered. One filter, that is helpful to understand, is how our mood impacts our perception. Resources Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett TEDx talk Emotions Drive Decisions – Psychology Today An Interview with Jennifer Garvey Berger on Mindtraps
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We have so much more capacity than we know. One key is to understand we are not our personality. In this episode, Roxanne Howe-Murphy talks about what is our personality. Resources Deep Living Lab Exploring a Transformative Lens Living Deeply with Roxanne Howe-Murphy
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It’s human to want to be in control, seek approval or try to look good. We can get beyond these ego needs access a more grounded presence. From this place we are more able to discern right action. Resources What Is OK To Be Podcast Finding Awe Working With Our Own Compost
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Are you hopeful? How do we re-frame hope to support us using our energy towards what matters most. Resources Active Hope Video on THE GREAT TURNING Video on the importance of honoring PAIN The Work That Reconnects Personal Guidelines
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Sometimes, our certainty can cloud our perception of reality, making it difficult to see things as they truly are. When we’re convinced that something is a certain way, we often overlook or dismiss evidence that contradicts our beliefs. This show explores the fascinating ways in which our minds can deceive us. Resources The Divided Brain […]
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Identifying the inner critic is present helps. Learning how to change our relationship with it, is critical for our growth and well-being. Thanks to Roxanne Howe Murphy for allowing me to replay portions of our 2017 interview. Resources Roxanne Howe Murphy and Deep Living Lab What is the Inner Critic? Podcast Identifying the Inner Critic Podcast
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How do I know it’s the inner critic and not my conscience? In this episode, Roxanne Howe Murphy, talks about how to identify when the inner critic is present. Resources Roxanne Howe Murphy Enoughness Podcast Underneath Personality
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One thing we can do to improve the quality of our lives is to change our relationship with the inner critic. In this episode, with the help of Roxanne Howe Murphy, we explore what is the inner critic? Resources Deeplivinglab.org Underneath the Personality Enoughness Podcast
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This series explores tapping our full potential and living true to ourselves using the EnneaCrossings™ lens. This episode, the fifth in the series, explores the fourth portal or doorway to living a life true to oneself. Engaged Presence explores how to respond and participate in life from a place of wholeness, interconnectedness, and attunement to […]
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This series explores tapping our full potential and living true to ourselves using the EnneaCrossings™ lens. This episode, the fourth in the series, explores the third portal or doorway to living a life true to oneself. Essential Connectedness explores levels of consciousness and the mystery of the heart. Resources Deep Living Lab’s EnneaCrossings™ Episode One […]
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This series explores tapping our full potential and living true to ourselves. This episode, the third in the series, explores the second portal or doorway to living a life true to oneself. Essential Trust explores living with a grounded presence in continuous change. Resources Deep Living Lab’s EnneaCrossings™ Episode One of this EnneaCrossings™ Series: Expanding […]
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This series explores how to tap our full potential. This episode, the second in the series, explores the first doorway to living a life true to oneself. Essential Holding is the internally sourced experience of belonging, love, security, and guidance. Through awareness and practice, we can pause, notice our reactions, and access deeper wisdom, allowing […]
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What supports us in accessing our true nature? What practices help us deal with whatever shows up with a grounded presence? This is the first in a series that explores a framework that supports this way of being in the world. This episode explores what happens when we open up the infinite realm. Resources Definition […]
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Many of us experience stress during the holidays. This special episode explores what helps us be resilient when stress arises. Resources: University of Minnesota Center for Spirituality and Healing on Stress Busy without Stress Podcast Work Your Mindfulness Podcast Accepting What Shows Up Podcast
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Instead of intensely reflecting on changing, I told a few funny stories. Laughter helps us navigate challenging times. Resources Stress Relief From Laughter: No Joke, Mayo Clinic
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Gratitude is a choice despite what is happening around us. It is correlated with resilience, happiness and health. Gratitude is always an option. Resources More about the Haudenosaunee Research on Gratitude
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Choosing our response versus reacting. What practices invite you to be fully present and grounded? Resources Wendy Palmer, Leadership Embodiment
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We are living in unpredictable times. It is a mistake to think tomorrow will be like today. The book Simple Habits for Complex Times has several very practical tips. Resources Jennifer Garvey Berger Just Ask – Podcast Hope Helps – Podcast
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What do you pay attention to? Where we focus makes a big difference in what we create in our days. This myth, orginally published in What Have I Mythed? reminds us to focus on the light.
Resources
Mything– How to order the book and listen to other myths
Intentionality podcast
Becoming What We Might Have Been
Painting by Anna Hess
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I notice how I stay comfortable and how that can keep me stuck. In this case, I noticed how I wouldn’t speak up, especially if I faced disagreement. Where was my voice?
I didn’t have time to share this quote on my 5 minute show, but I love it so I am sharing it here:
“I was going to die, sooner or later, whether or not I had even spoken myself. My silences had not protected me. Your silences will not protect you…. What are the words you do not yet have? What are the tyrannies you swallow day by day and attempt to make your own, until you will sicken and die of them, still in silence? We have been socialized to respect fear more than our own need for language.”
Audre Lorde
Resources
Showing Up Podcast
Keeping Yourself Small Podcast
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How do we flatten the curve of hate (paraphrasing Rev. Rosemary Klass). A foundational study of boys in the 1950s provides some ideas of how we can find our way back together.
Resources
Study of 11 year old boys in the 1950s
Arlie Hochschild’s study of the divide
Adam Kahane’s work on Power and Love
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The paradox of sustainable change is learning to truly accept the parts of ourselves we want to “fix”.
Resources
Reacting Podcast
Christopher Germer
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Many think that leadership is the charismatic one; the one who has the answers. The irony is the hero leaders are not the ones who get great results.
Resources
Level 5 Leadership by Jim Collins
Leading From Within by Parker Palmer
Paradox of the Learning Organization
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When times are stressful, emotions run high. In this episode, hear an inspiring example of using kindness and love to counter agression.
Resources
Terry Dobson Aikdo Story
Taking a Stand for Kindness – Podcast
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They were our neighbors. They helped us. We helped them. We shared meals. And we were opposite sides of the political divide. How do we learn to respect the humanity of those who see the world differently than we do?
Resources
Encounter with Others
One Small Step
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We need to play hard in order to work hard. The quality of our restoration makes a huge difference in our productivity and health.
Resources
Resilience is About How You Recharge, Harvard Business Review
Laughter is the Best Medicine
The Importance of Play for Adults
Finding Happiness
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Some lessons I need to learn over and over again. One persistent struggle is learning to listen to my intuition. Most of the time the consequences of ignoring are small, sometimes they are not.
Resources
Old Patterns
Identifying the Inner Critic
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It’s a subtle form of the inner critic, so subtle, you might miss it. Comparison to others does not support you become your own, unique best self. Being inspired is great, thinking you don’t measure up, not so much.
Resources
Disengaging the Inner Critic
Identifying the Inner Critic
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Thanks to Michele Simon for sharing her reflections on her gratitude practice and on how awe is different.
Resources
Simple Abundance
Remembering Gratitude
Gratitude is a Choice
Finding Awe
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Sometimes, our certainty can cloud our perception of reality, making it difficult to see things as they truly are. When we’re convinced that something is a certain way, we often overlook or dismiss evidence that contradicts our beliefs. This show explores the fascinating ways in which our minds can deceive us.
Resources
The Divided Brain
Living in Uncertainty Podcast
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If we can practice opening ourselves to each other, we might learn how to build relationships one conversation at a time.
Resources
7 Tips for Difficult Conversations
Difficult Conversations Book Summary
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We become the stories we tell ourselves. Celebrating kindness to create a community of care.
Resources
Kindness as a Strategy
Taking a Stand for Kindness
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If we pay attention, we will notice there are patterns in our behavior. It is easier to notice these patterns in others. And we if learn how to pause a bit, we will see we have many more choices than we knew. In this interview, Roxanne Howe-Murphy shares how to tell if you are operating from your repeating patterns and how to access a deeper wisdom.
Resources
Underneath Your Personality
You Are Not Your Personality
Deep Living Interview
Deep Living Lab
Enneagram
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When we know someone’s story, it is hard to make them an “other”. We can get past the labels and see the humanity in those who have different life experiences.
Resources
Friends with Those People
A variety of podcasts on community
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We all have an limiting identity, the story of who we think we have to be. We usually do not see our own choices unless we have the courage to reflect. Harriet’s Load is a story I wrote years ago that was showing me I had choices I just couldn’t see (yet).
Resources
You can order copies of What Have I Mythed? from Drury Lane Books
Other Recorded Myths:
- Connected or Separate (NOT PUBLISHED)
- Looking Where You Want to Go (in What Have I Mythed?)
- Fear Gets a Hug (in What Have I Mythed?)
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We have lots of potential that we do not allow ourselves to access. It’s courageous work to reflect on our limited sense of identity and to open up to what else is possible. And we each have the capacity and resources to do it, given patience, curiosity and lots of compassion.
Resources
The Mindtrap of Ego
Acceptances as a Step Towards Growth
Change One Step at a Time
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How often are we hard on ourselves? How often do we deny our feelings or push through? What do we do when we REALLY see that we are being unkind? In this episode, we explore what to do when we observe harsh patterns.
Resources
Kristen Neff
Brene Brown TED talk
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Our hard wiring response to change is exactly the wrong thing we need to thrive in turbulence, uncertainty and complexity. In Jennifer Garvey Berger’s practical new book, Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps, she boils down the problem and ways to free ourselves. In this podcast, we explore how to get out of the mindtraps.
Resources
Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps
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Our hard wiring response to change is exactly the wrong thing we need to thrive in turbulence, uncertainty and complexity. In Jennifer Garvey Berger’s practical new book, Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps, she boils down the problem and ways to free ourselves. In this podcast, we explore how to get out of the fifth mindtrap – ego.
Resources
Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps
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Our hard wiring response to change is exactly the wrong thing we need to thrive in turbulence, uncertainty and complexity. In Jennifer Garvey Berger’s practical new book, Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps, she boils down the problem and ways to free ourselves. In this podcast, we explore how to get out of the forth mindtrap – control
Resources
Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps
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Our hard wiring response to change is exactly the wrong thing we need to thrive in turbulence, uncertainty and complexity. In Jennifer Garvey Berger’s practical new book, Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps, she boils down the problem and ways to free ourselves. In this podcast, we explore how to get out of the third mindtrap – agreements
Resources
Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps
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Our hard wiring response to change is exactly the wrong thing we need to thrive in turbulence, uncertainty and complexity. In Jennifer Garvey Berger’s practical new book, Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps, she boils down the problem and ways to free ourselves. In this podcast, we explore how to get out of the second mindtrap – rightness.
Resources
Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps
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Our hard wiring response to change is exactly the wrong thing we need to thrive in turbulence, uncertainty and complexity. In Jennifer Garvey Berger’s practical new book, Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps, she boils down the problem and ways to free ourselves. In this podcast, we explore how to get out of the first mindtrap – creating simple stories.
Resources
Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps
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Our hard wiring response to change is exactly the wrong thing we need to thrive in turbulence, uncertainty and complexity. In Jennifer Garvey Berger’s practical new book, Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps, she boils down the problem and ways to free ourselves. In this podcast, we cover the overview of the book to be released in April 2019
Resources
Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps
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Worrying can fill up a day. It has it’s uses but mostly it keeps us from enjoying life. Here are a few tips for freeing ourselves from our worrying mind.
Resources
Stop Imagining the Worst blog
Reducing Worry Blog
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It is radical to imagine we don’t have to fix, acquire or change ourselves to access what Sonya Renee Taylor calls our innate enoughness.
Resources
Brene Brown Interview with Sonya Renee Taylor
Sonya Renee Taylor
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We breath in a worldview from our culture and families. But, unless examined, it is just the way things are.
Resources
Brené Brown with Sonya Renee Taylor on “The Body is Not an Apology”
Exploring Race
Suffocating
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If we commit to listening, everything changes; our relationships deepen and our options open. It is very hard to listen, especially if it is not something we want to hear. It requires a commitment and practice.
Resources
Listening Between the Words
Who Do You Listen To?
Conversations That Build Relationship
Relationship Killers
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Although well-intentioned, and possibly even helpful, giving advice is more about us than the recipient.
Resources
Parker Palmer on Advice
Advice on Advice
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When we contemplate significant changes in our lives, our flight, fight, or freeze response may kick in. We tend to prioritize safety, and our autonomic nervous system can pose a significant barrier to transformation. Learning to move forward without waging an internal war is crucial.
Resources
Acceptance as a Step Towards Growth
Curiosity as a Growth Tool
Intentions: Allies for Growth
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This is what is here now. An emotion, an irritating person or a disturbing situation. Learning to accept what is present and respond from a deeper place leads to a powerful shift.
Resources
Acceptance Podcast
Learning to Accept What Is Podcast
Tuning In V Changing the Channel Podcast
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Kindness means being caring and considerate. It does not mean not speaking up or doing tough stuff. How would it change my days if I took a conscious stand for kindness?
Resources
Psychology Today – Importance of Kindness
Self-Compassion, Dr Kristin Neff
What’s Motivating You? by Jinny DitzlerRead More
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It is powerful to add a dose of curiosity to what you are experiencing, especially the tough stuff. And instead of rejecting or judging a reaction, getting curious can be quite illuminating.
Resources
Deep Living by Roxanne Howe Murphy
The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion by Christopher Germer
Acceptance as a Path to Growth
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Awe is an emotion we feel when we encounter something big, a mystery that we don’t understand and evokes wonder. Experiencing just 2 minutes a day has amazing health and collective benefits. Finding awe is not hard, we just have to pay attention.
Resources
Overview of Awe
The New Science of Awe interview
Awe Walks
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You are not your personality. When you learn that and learn how to access a deeper capacity, you show up differently. This is 4th in the series created from an interview with Roxanne Howe-Murphy talking about her new book, Underneath the Personality.
Resources
Previous interviews with Roxanne Howe-Murphy about her new book:
- You Are Not Your Personality
- Underneath Your Personality
- Developing a Healthy Relationship to Ourselves
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This is the 5th and final episode where we explore the Habit of the Heart from Parker Palmer’s book, Healing the Heart of Democracy. The 5th habit is: “A capacity to create community. Without a community, it is nearly impossible to achieve voice: it takes a village to raise a Rosa Parks.” Parker Palmer
Resources:
Parker’s full interview
Friends with “Those People”
Encounters with Others
Loving Our Community
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In Parker Palmer’s book, Healing the Heart of Democracy, he talks about 5 habits of the heart we need for a robust democracy. Habit 4 is A sense of personal voice and agency. “Insight and energy give rise to new life as we speak out and act out our own version of truth, while checking and correcting it against the truths of others. But many of us lack confidence in our own voices and in our power to make a difference.”
Resources
Parker’s full interview
Using My Voice
Voice Lessons
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Parker Palmer believes that if taken together, the 5 habits are critical to sustaining a democracy. The habits are described as deeply ingrained ways of seeing, being and responding to life that involve our minds, emotions, our self-images, our concepts of meaning and purpose in life. This podcast explores Habit 3: An ability to hold tension in life-giving ways.
Resources:
Parker’s full interview
Creating Inclusive Energy
Encounters with Others
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This podcast explores Habit 2 in the Parker Palmer’s 5 Habits of the Heart; habits that are critical for a vibrant democracy. This habit is entitled: An Appreciation of the Value of Otherness. Resources: Parker’s full interview Friends with “Those People” Encounters with Others Loving Our Community
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In Parker Palmer’s book, Healing the Heart of Democracy, he cites 5 habits of the heart that will help us move beyond fear. Using excerpts from a 2013 interview, we examine the first habit — we are all connected. Resources: Parker’s full interview Friends with “Those People” Encounters with Others Loving Our Community
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To show up as the best, we need to devleop a healthy relationship to ourselves. Roxanne Howe-Murphy, author of the new book, Underneath Your Personality, explains what is a healthy relationship and how to start. Resources You Are Not Your Personality Underneath Your Personality Deep Living Interview Deep Living Lab Enneagram
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If we pay attention, we will notice there are patterns in our behavior. It is easier to notice these patterns in others. And we if learn how to pause a bit, we will see we have many more choices than we knew. In this interview, Roxanne Howe-Murphy shares how to tell if you are operating […]
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We have so much more capacity than we know. One key is to understand we are not our personality. In this episode, Roxanne Howe-Murphy talks about what is our personality. Resources Underneath Your Personality (NEW) Exploring a Transformative Lens Living Deeply with Roxanne Howe-Murphy
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We have a lot more choice than we remember. It is so easy to spend the day being reactive. And if we pause, and reflect on what we would like to create, we can focus our energy on what matters most. This show explores a few tips for living more intentionally. Resources Lessons from John […]
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They were our neighbors. They helped us. We helped them. We shared meals. And we were opposite sides of the political divide. How do we learn to respect the humanity of those who see the world differently than we do? Resources Encounter with Others One Small Step Loving Our Community
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Many of us experience stress during the holidays. In this special episode we explore what helps us be resilient when stress shows up. Resources: University of Minnesota Center for Spirituality and Healing on Stress Busy without Stress Podcast Work Your Mindfulness Podcast Accepting What Shows Up Podcast
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In Barry Oshry’s latest book, Encounters with the “Others”, he succinctly shows how we get into trouble and can do great harm. Seeing patterns helps us see our choices. Then the challenge is learning how to navigate the tensions. Resources Encounter with the “Others” Barry Oshry’s Blog Interview with Barry Oshry on Systems Thinking Interview […]
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If you do any research on well-being, gratitude practices will likely show up. Learning that and incorporating that into my life are 2 different things. Resources Greater Good: The Science of Well Being Rick Hanson author of Buddha Brain
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Gratitude is a choice despite what is happening around us. It is correlated with resilience, happiness and health. Gratitude is always an option. Resources More about the Haudenosaunee Research on Gratitude
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If we commit to listening, everything changes; our relationships deepen and our options open. It is very hard to listen, especially if it is not something we want to hear. It requires a commitment and practice. Resources Listening Between the Words Who Do You Listen To? Conversations That Build Relationship Relationship Killers
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What do you pay attention to? Where we focus makes a big difference in what we create in our days. This myth, orginally published in What Have I Mythed? reminds us to focus on the light. Resources Mything– How to order the book and listen to other myths Intentionality podcast Becoming What We Might Have […]
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Taking time for a solo retreat is precious. It is a time to reflect more deeply. This time my challenge was to have a “should-free” retreat. My inner critic didn’t agree. Resources What is the Inner Critic Identifying the Inner Critic Working with the Inner Critic Listening to the Inner Voice
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It’s human to want to be in control, seek approval or try to look good. We can get beyond these ego needs access a more grounded presence. From this place we are more able to discern right action. Resources What Is OK To Be Podcast Finding Awe Working With Our Own Compost
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Thanks to Kathy Magnuson for sharing her Awe Journal practice and it’s impact on her life. Resources Finding Awe Awe: The new Science of Everyday Wonder and How It Can Transform Your Life
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Thanks to Michele Simon for sharing her reflections on her gratitude practice and on how awe is different. Resources Simple Abundance Remembering Gratitude Gratitude is a Choice Finding Awe
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How often are we hard on ourselves? How often do we deny our feelings or push through? What do we do when we REALLY see that we are being unkind? In this episode, we explore what to do when we observe harsh patterns. Resources Kristen Neff Brene Brown TED talk
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It is so easy to take other’s reaction to us as being a reflection of us. In reality, it is more a reflection of them. Learning to not take things personally is quite freeing! Resources The Mindtrap of Simple Stories Lessons in Projection
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Although well-intentioned, and possibly even helpful, giving advice is more about us than the recipient. Resources Parker Palmer on Advice Advice on Advice Humble Inquiry by Edgar Schein
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It is so easy to live our life habitually. Guided by the stories we tell ourselves, we do not always see our choices. Here a few tips to helps up open up to more choices. Resources Moving From Complaints to Choice What Do You Really Want? Intentionality
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Instead of the intense reflection on changing, I told a few funny stories. Laughter helps us navigate challening times. Resources Stress Relief From Laughter: No Joke, Mayo Clinic
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After going through many personality instruments, I did not think the enneagram would offer me anything new. I was wrong. Using this ancient and powerful lens began the process of freeing me from previously unseen patterns.
Resources
Upcoming Enneagram Offerings
Roxanne Howe Murphy Interview
Roxanne Howe Murphy website
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How do we strengthened our ability to love our neighbors? A few inspiring stories and lesson. Resources Fearless Dialogues, Dr Ellison Antoinette Tuff Caring for Shared Resources Changing the World 3 Feet at a Time One Small Step
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You may think you are doing well by repressing unwanted feelings. And you might, for a while. Eventually, what is repressed will find a way to express itself. This episode features the myth, The Lake of the Uncried Tears. Resources What Are You Hiding? Freeing Ourselves from Our Stories Working With Our Own Compost
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Discovering the ability to perceive and embrace every aspect of ourselves is remarkably liberating. Are there certain facets of your being that you keep hidden from both yourself and others? Resources Grounded Presence What Is OK to Be? Awareness Changes Your Life
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Building our capacity to observe ourselves, builds our capacity to grow and change. It can be uncomfortable to wake up to our the ways we limit ourselves. And if you do, the quality of your life changes. Resources Freeing Ourselves From Our Stories Podcast Tuning In Vs Changing the Channel Podcast Anthony DeMello
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Identifying the inner critic is present helps. Learning how to change our relationship with it, is critical for our growth and well-being. Thanks to Roxanne Howe Murphy for allowing me to replay portions of our 2017 interview. Resources Roxanne Howe Murphy and Deep Living Lab What is the Inner Critic? Podcast Identifying the Inner Critic Podcast
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How do I know it’s the inner critic and not my conscience? In this episode, Roxanne Howe Murphy, talks about how to identify when the inner critic is present. Resources Roxanne Howe Murphy Enoughness Podcast
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One thing we can do to improve the quality of our lives is to change our relationship with the inner critic. In this episode, with the help of Roxanne Howe Murphy, we explore what is the inner critic? Resources Roxanne Howe Murphy Enoughness Podcast
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Self compassion is a powerful form of self-care. It enhances our ability to be resilient and learn. Kristin Neff has expanded the definition of self compassion to include both nurturing and fierce self compassion. Resources Kristin Neff’s website with resources and information
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At the Gottman Institute, they can observe couples for 15 minutes and 90% of the time predict whether the relationship will last. Here are a few of their lessons. Resources Four Horseman – Gottman Institute Turning Towards – Gottman Institute
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Worrying can fill up a day. It has it’s uses but mostly it keeps us from enjoying life. Here are a few tips for freeing ourselves from our worrying mind. Resources Stop Imagining the Worst blog Reducing Worry Blog
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It was a retreat I will never forget. It was a precious time of connection and growth. It reminded me of a core truth, we are all “Walking around shining like the sun.” Resources Grounded Presence Healing the Inner Divide
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We value rational thinking. Logic. Focus. We tend to undervalue embodied wisdom, intuition, and interconnection. McGilchrist connects this to losing contact with our right hemisphere. The part of our brain that is wired for comprehension.
Resources
Podcast – The Mindtrap of Rightness
Iain McGilchrist TED talk
The Divided Brain
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It’s human to want to be in control, seek approval or try to look good. We can get beyond these ego needs access a more grounded presence. From this place we are more able to discern right action.
Resources
What Is OK To Be Podcast
Finding Awe
Working With Our Own Compost
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We learn early in life what is OK to be and what is not Ok to be. It frames our choices and limits us from accepting the whole of ourselves.
Resources
Old Patterns Podcast
Cleaning Out Our Thinking
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Awe is an emotion we feel when we encounter something big, a mystery that we don’t understand. Awe evokes wonder. Experiencing just 2 minutes of awe a day has amazing health and collective benefits. Finding awe is not hard, we just have to pay attention.
Resources
Overview of Awe
The New Science of Awe interview
Awe Walks
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Who was MOST influential in your life? It was a hard question. After considering many lessons from my parents, family, friends and teachers, I choose Uncle Bob. Reflecting on why, was a valuable exercise.
Resources
Uncle Bob’s Obituary
One Small Step – the conversation that inspired this reflection
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Once we have a story about what is going on, we are not very opening to other ways of thinking. It’s human to make up stories. It is human to avoid the discomfort of disconfirming data. And it greatly limits our ability to grow and change.
Resources
It’s Not Personal Podcast
Avoidance Podcast
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Taking time for a solo retreat is precious. It is a time to reflect more deeply. This time my challenge was to have a “should-free” retreat. My inner critic didn’t agree.
Resources
What is the Inner Critic
Identifying the Inner Critic
Working with the Inner Critic
Listening to the Inner Voice
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It is so easy to live our life habitually. Guided by the stories we tell ourselves, we do not always see our choices. Here a few tips to helps up open up to more choices.
Resources
Moving From Complaints to Choice
What Do You Really Want?
Intentionality
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We become the stories we tell ourselves. Becoming clear on what your story has been is an essential part of freeing ourselves. Using creative forms of reflection we see our story more clearly.
Resources
Mything
Awareness Changes Your Life
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When I catch myself complaining, I know I am not operating at my best. It’s time to slow down and explore my choices because living as a victim is depressing.
Resources
Intentionality
Getting Perspective
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We value rational thinking. Logic. Focus. We tend to undervalue embodied wisdom, intuition, and interconnection. McGilchrist connects this to losing contact with our right hemisphere. The part of our brain that is wired for comprehension.
Resources
Podcast – The Mindtrap of Rightness
Iain McGilchrist TED talk
The Divided Brain
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Knowing our purpose makes us less vulnerable to reactivity and it has amazing health benefits. Taking the time to figure out your “why” is well worth the time.
Resources
The Ladder Out of Mindtraps – Podcast
Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps
Power of Purpose – TEDx talk by Richard Leider
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At the Gottman Institute, they can observe couples for 15 minutes and 90% of the time predict whether the relationship will last. Here are a few of their lessons.
Resources
Four Horseman – Gottman Institute
Turning Towards – Gottman Institute
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Building our capacity to observe ourselves, builds our capacity to grow and change. It can be uncomfortable to wake up to our the ways we limit ourselves. And if you do, the quality of your life changes.
Resources
Freeing Ourselves From Our Stories Podcast
Tuning In Vs Changing the Channel Podcast
Anthony DeMello
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When I am defensive, my whole body is on alert? How do I increase my ability to hear feedback or different opinions with openness and curiosity.
Resources
Building Capacity for Uncomfortable Conversations Podcast
Harriet Lerner Interview with Brene Brown Part 1
Harriet Lerner Interview with Brene Brown Part 2
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We have a lot more choice than we remember. It is so easy to spend the day being reactive. And if we pause, and reflect on what we would like to create, we can focus our energy on what matters most.
This show explores a few tips for living more intentionally.
Resources
Lessons from John Lewis
Seeing our Choices
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Stumped by the question, “What do you really, really, really want? No really!”
Resources
Myth – Monkey Movement
Becoming What We Might Have Been Podcast
What Are You For? Podcast
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Many of us experience stress during the holidays. In this special episode we explore what helps us be resilient when stress shows up.
Resources:
University of Minnesota Center for Spirituality and Healing on Stress
Busy without Stress Podcast
Work Your Mindfulness Podcast
Accepting What Shows Up Podcast
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Wendy Palmer passed away on December 2, 2022. There are many of us around the world whose lives were changed by her teachings. In this episode, some of her lessons and how they have helped in day-to-day life are shared. Thank you Wendy for inviting us to be our noble, awesome and shiny selves!
Other Episodes Summarizing Lessons from Wendy
- Breathe
- Centering versus Reacting
- Creating Inclusive Energy with Wendy Palmer
- Exploring Forgiveness with Wendy Palmer
- Working With Our Own Compost
- What Energy Are You Bringing Into the Room?
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It is so easy to take other’s reaction to us as being a reflection of us. In reality, it is more a reflection of them. Learning to not take things personally is quite freeing!
Resources
The Mindtrap of Simple Stories
Lessons in Projection
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Resilience is a key to success, especially in times of change. Reviewing the literature, Diane Coutu summarizes the themes in her Harvard Business Review article – How Resilience Works?
Resources
Acceptance Podcast
Simple Habits for Complex Times
Jennifer Garvey Berger’s applying Simple Habits for Complex Times
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When we are committed to “it shouldn’t be this way”, we are stuck. Learning to accept what shows up is not passive. It is starting with a solid foundation. (Original Painting by Anna Hess) Resources Acceptance Podcast Acceptance as a Path for Growth Podcast Play the Ball Where the Monkey Drops It
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Irma Velasquez memoir, Fish Dreams, chronicles her journey of shifting from trying to cure her son’s autism to loving him as he is. She learned simple practices that changed everything for her. Thanks to Irma and the Deep Living Lab for allowing me to share a portion of our interview. Resources Listen to the full interview with […]
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Once we have a story about what is going on, we are not very opening to other ways of thinking. It’s human to make up stories. It is human to avoid the discomfort of disconfirming data. And it greatly limits our ability to grow and change. Resources It’s Not Personal Podcast Avoidance Podcast
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Too often, we push to make things happen. Sometimes, it will serve us to watch what is unfolding. The wisdom is in diserning what is called for. Resources Compose with the Unfolding Podcast Intentionality Podcast
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Have you ever walked into a room and felt the tension? Have you ever walked into a home and felt welcoming energy? In a 2014 interview with author and aikdo master Wendy Palmer, we explored how we can be responsible for the energy we carry into the room. Resources Full interview with Wendy Palmer in […]
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We are stronger when we work together. Reflections on finding community all around me. Resources Habits of the Heart by Parker Palmer Full Parker Palmer Interview Power and Love show on building community How to Call a Circle by Christina Baldwin
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It is so easy to take other’s reaction to us as being a reflection of us. In reality, it is more a reflection of them. Learning to not take things personally is quite freeing! Resources The Mindtrap of Simple Stories Lessons in Projection
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What does it take to forgive? And what is the gift we give ourselves when we do. A conversation with Wendy Palmer, author of Leadership Embodiment. Resources Full interview with Wendy Palmer in 2014
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Wendy Palmer is the founder of Leadership Embodiment, a process that uses principles from the non-violent Japanese martial art of Aikido and mindfulness to offer simple tools and practices to increase leadership capacity and respond to stress and pressure with greater confidence and integrity. Excerpts and lessons from an interview with Wendy in 2014. Resources Full 2014 Interview More […]
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What we avoid can lead to great suffering. We have learned to avoid pain as a matter of survival. However, we cannot selectively numb. Lessons from Brene Brown and Ron Siegel. Resources: Learn More about Dr Brene Brown’s research Learn More about Dr Ron Siegel’s work
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I was wrong, I didn’t know any better. My coaching on how to change the channel on our feelings was wrong. Resources Centering v Reacting Acceptance Dr Susan David TED Talk
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Some lessons I need to learn over and over again. One persistent struggle is learning to listen to my intuition. Most of the time the consequences of ignoring are small, sometimes they are not. Resources Old Patterns Identifying the Inner Critic
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Identifying the inner critic is present helps. Learning how to change our relationship with it, is critical for our growth and well-being. Thanks to Roxanne Howe Murphy for allowing me to replay portions of our 2017 interview. If you would like to learn more about the inner critic, join the Deep Living Lab free dialogue […]
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How do I know it’s the inner critic and not my conscience? In this episode, Roxanne Howe Murphy, talks about how to identify when the inner critic is present. If you would like to learn more about the inner critic, join the Deep Living Lab free dialogue on September 1, “Is the Inner Critic Running the […]
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One thing we can do to improve the quality of our lives is to change our relationship with the inner critic. In this episode, with the help of Roxanne Howe Murphy, we explore what is the inner critic? If you would like to learn more about the inner critic, join our free dialogue, “Is the […]
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Imagine your mother telling you, at an early age, you are not a label, you are a being. My One Small Step conversation partner agreed to share the lesson he learned from his mother. Resources Reflection on the One Small Step Conversation Story Corps One Small Step Program
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Who was MOST influential in your life? It was a hard question. After considering many lessons from my parents, family, friends and teachers, I choose Uncle Bob. Reflecting on why, was a valuable exercise. Resources Uncle Bob’s Obituary One Small Step – the conversation that inspired this reflection
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Self compassion is a powerful form of self-care. It enhances our ability to be resilient and learn. Kristin Neff has expanded the definition of self compassion to include both nurturing and fierce self compassion. Resources Kristin Neff’s website with resources and information
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One Small Step is a iniative by StoryCorps. The intention of this program is to strengthen communities, one conversation at a time. In this episode, Marcia shares reflection on her time with another community member with different political leanings. Resources One Small Step at WTIP One Small Step Initiative Turning Off Our Alarm Systems Podcast […]
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Instead of the intense reflection on changing, I told a few funny stories. Laughter helps us navigate challening times. FeBe (January 28, 2011 to July 13, 2021) featured in the photo above, made us laugh every day. Such is the gift of our pets. Resources Stress Relief From Laughter: No Joke, Mayo Clinic
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It is one thing to learn that outside judgment cannot touch you unless you already carry that critic on the inside. That awareness is great but learning to release the inner judgment requires us to be brave enough to feel it and release it. Resources What is OK to Be? What is the Inner Critic? […]
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When I am defensive, my whole body is on alert? How do I increase my ability to hear feedback or different opinions with openness and curiosity. Resources Building Capacity for Uncomfortable Conversations Podcast Harriet Lerner Interview with Brene Brown Part 1 Harriet Lerner Interview with Brene Brown Part 2
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Shifting her focus from fighting hate to focus on leading a movement called Revolutionary Love, Valarie Kaur is an inspiration. Resources Valarie Kaur’s movement Interview with Kaur on The Good Life Project
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Conversations about race and other uncomfortable subjects require us to do our own work, to build capacity in ourselves to listen to learn. Resources The Mindtrap of Rightness Podcast Resmaa Menakem Interview
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Conversations about race and other uncomfortable subjects require us to do our own work, to build capacity in ourselves to listen to learn. Resources The Mindtrap of Rightness Podcast Resmaa Menakem Interview
Too often, we push to make things happen. Sometimes, it will serve us to watch what is unfolding. The wisdom is in diserning what is called for. Resources Compose with the Unfolding Podcast Intentionality Podcast
We learn early in life what is OK to be and what is not Ok to be. It frames our choices and limits us from accepting the whole of ourselves. Resources Old Patterns Podcast Cleaning Out Our Thinking
It is so easy to spend time judging ourselves or others. Often it is a waste of energy. How do we convert our tendency to judge to create a tendency to encourage? Resources Listening Between the Words Acceptance
Stumped by the question, “What do you really, really, really want? No really!” Resources Myth – Monkey Movement Becoming What We Might Have Been Podcast What Are You For? Podcast
It is so easy to take other’s reaction to us as being a reflection of us. In reality, it is more a reflection of them. Learning to not take things personally is quite freeing! Resources The Mindtrap of Simple Stories Lessons in Projection
It’s inspiring to witness small groups of people using their energy to make a positive difference in the world. Resources Changing the World Three Feet at a Time Loving Our Community Finding Community
A gratitude practice has proven results, so why don’t I (we) do it more regularly? Resources The Benefits of Gratitude – Dr Robert Emmons Gratitude is a Choice Podcast
Our hard wiring response to change is exactly the wrong thing we need to thrive in turbulence, uncertainty and complexity. In Jennifer Garvey Berger’s practical new book, Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps, she boils down the problem and ways to free ourselves. In this podcast, we explore how to free ourselves from these mindtraps. Resources Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps […]
Our hard wiring response to change is exactly the wrong thing we need to thrive in turbulence, uncertainty and complexity. In Jennifer Garvey Berger’s practical new book, Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps, she boils down the problem and ways to free ourselves. In this podcast, we explore how to get out of the fifth mindtrap – ego Resources […]
Our hard wiring response to change is exactly the wrong thing we need to thrive in turbulence, uncertainty and complexity. In Jennifer Garvey Berger’s practical new book, Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps, she boils down the problem and ways to free ourselves. In this podcast, we explore how to get out of the fourth mindtrap – control Resources […]
Our hard wiring response to change is exactly the wrong thing we need to thrive in turbulence, uncertainty and complexity. In Jennifer Garvey Berger’s practical new book, Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps, she boils down the problem and ways to free ourselves. In this podcast, we explore how to get out of the third mindtrap – agreements Resources […]
Our hard wiring response to change is exactly the wrong thing we need to thrive in turbulence, uncertainty and complexity. In Jennifer Garvey Berger’s practical new book, Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps, she boils down the problem and ways to free ourselves. In this podcast, we explore how to get out of the second mindtrap – rightness. Resources […]
Our hard wiring response to change is exactly the wrong thing we need to thrive in turbulence, uncertainty and complexity. In Jennifer Garvey Berger’s practical new book, Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps, she boils down the problem and ways to free ourselves. In this podcast, we explore how to get out of the first mindtrap – creating simple […]
Our hard wiring response to change is exactly the wrong thing we need to thrive in turbulence, uncertainty and complexity. In Jennifer Garvey Berger’s practical new book, Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps, she boils down the problem and ways to free ourselves. In this podcast, we cover the overview of the book to be released in April […]
Old patterns are quite persistent. Even if we can see our behavior is no longer working for us, it is hard to change. Noticing is an important first step. Resources Feeling into Change Podcast Awareness Matters Podcast
You can teach an old dog new tricks. Our brains are malleable and change with every interaction. Yes, we are wired to operate from habit but we can cultivate change. Resources Interview with Dr David Eagleman
Sometimes we confuse our thoughts with reality. And our thoughts can imprison us into patterns that are limiting. Resources Psychology Today – Thinking about Thinking Stillness Even When There is No Time Podcast Neither Good Nor Bad Podcast
I am working on my intention to “trust the unfolding”. It was amusing to find a myth I had written years ago, reflecting the same question. Resources Between Trust and Effort Podcast Imprisoned by Our Story Podcast
Too often, we push to make things happen. Sometimes, it will serve us to watch what is unfolding. The wisdom is in diserning what is called for. Resources Compose with the Unfolding Podcast Intentionality Podcast
Having a reflective practice is not the same as becoming more self aware. How do we increase our ability to observe ourselves. Resources Showing Up Freeing Ourselves from Limiting Stories
We have more power than we usually tap to create our dreams, paraphrasing George Eliot, to become what we might have been. Resources Intentionality Podcast
Many of us experience stress during the holidays. In this special episode we explore what helps us be resilient when stress shows up. Resources: University of Minnesota Center for Spirituality and Healing on Stress Busy without Stress Podcast Work Your Mindfulness Podcast Accepting What Shows Up Podcast
Identifying the inner critic is present helps. Learning how to change our relationship with it, is critical for our growth and well-being. Thanks to Roxanne Howe Murphy for allowing me to replay portions of our 2017 interview. Resources Roxanne Howe Murphy and Deep Living Lab What is the Inner Critic? Podcast Identifying the Inner Critic […]
How do I know it’s the inner critic and not my conscience? In this episode, Roxanne Howe Murphy, talks about how to identify when the inner critic is present. Resources Roxanne Howe Murphy Enoughness Podcast
One thing we can do to improve the quality of our lives is to change our relationship with the inner critic. In this episode, with the help of Roxanne Howe Murphy, we explore what is the inner critic? Resources Roxanne Howe Murphy Enoughness Podcast
How do we flatten the curve of hate (paraphrasing Rev. Rosemary Klass). A foundational study of boys in the 1950s provides some ideas of how we can find our way back together. Resources Study of 11 year old boys in the 1950s Arlie Hochschild’s study of the divide Adam Kahane’s work on Power and Love
We think we experience “reality”. However, what we perceive is greatly filtered. One filter, that is helpful to understand, is how our mood impacts our perception. Resources Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett TEDx talk Emotions Drive Decisions – Psychology Today An Interview with Jennifer Garvey Berger on Mindtraps
How often are we hard on ourselves? How often do we deny our feelings or push through? What do we do when we REALLY see that we are being unkind? In this episode, we explore what to do when we observe harsh patterns. Resources Kristen Neff Brene Brown TED talk
We are stronger when we work together. Reflections on finding community all around me. Resources Habits of the Heart by Parker Palmer Full Parker Palmer Interview Power and Love show on building community How to Call a Circle by Christina Baldwin
We can learn about about ourselves when we pay attention to what bothers us about others.
We cannot selectively numb our feelings. In other words, if you avoid suffering, you also miss out on joy. And when joy comes, many of us forbid it to linger, mentally rehearsing what could go wrong. In this episode we will explore: Why joy is considered a terrifying emotion What helps us be more present […]
Defensiveness is a relational disease. How do we move beyond it to increase the quality of our relationships? Resources Tuning in vs Changing the Channel Learning to Receive Feedback
It is radical to imagine we don’t have to fix, acquire or change ourselves to access what Sonya Renee Taylor calls our innate enoughness. Resources Brene Brown Interview with Sonya Renee Taylor Sonya Renee Taylor
Shifting her focus from fighting hate to focus on leading a movement called Revolutionary Love, Valarie Kaur is an inspiration. Resources Valarie Kaur’s movement Interview with Kaur on The Good Life Project
I was wrong, I didn’t know any better. My coaching on how to change the channel on our feelings was wrong. Resources Centering v Reacting Acceptance Dr Susan David TED Talk
“What I think you should do is…” These words are often intended to be helpful but may miss the mark. Resources Moving from Judging to Encouraging Listening Between the Words
It is hard to stay open and curious when someone give us feedback. Especially when the feedback doesn’t match our self-image. It is an important skill to receive and learn from feedback. Resources Listening Between Words What Are You Referring To?
Working with the intention, compose with the unfolding, has supported me in being more present with what is emerging (even the not so fun stuff). Getting Perspective Acceptance Deep Living Lab (my “Hell yes” endeavor)
Self compassion is a powerful form of self-care. It enhances our ability to be resilient and learn. Kristin Neff has expanded the definition of self compassion to include both nurturing and fierce self compassion. Resources Kristin Neff’s website with resources and information
It has been a tough time. We have been dealing with illness, death and uncertainty. With all of the heartache, there have been some valuable lessons. Resources Laughter Podcast Acceptance Podcast
It is so easy to spend time judging ourselves or others. Often it is a waste of energy. How do we convert our tendency to judge to create a tendency to encourage? Resources Listening Between the Words Acceptance
If we are going to have productive conversations and build community, we need to grow our capacity to listen. And we need to reduce our capacity to get defensive or need to be right. Resources Lerner Intervew on Unlocking Us with Brene Brown Encountering Others Podcast Encounters With the Other, by Barry Oshry
We are not truly free when we are trapped by hatred and prejudice. What supports us being more free of reactions, blaming and instead choose our responses. Resources Dr Edith Eger Interview with Brene Brown Be Impeccable With Your Words
We need to conscious about what we pay attention to. If we only focus on what is wrong, we lose perspective. Resources Brene Brown “Ask Me Anything” Part 1 Remembering Gratitude
How do we focus our attention to positively impact the three feet around us? Resources Loving Our Community Change is Always Possible Fearless Dialogues, Gregory Ellison
One key to a construction conversation, is to be genuinely curious about the other person’s experience. Otherwise, we are just debating conclusions and never learning how we came to such different conclusions. Resources Institute of Cultural Affairs Focused Conversation Method The Art of Focused Conversations Book
Choosing our response versus reacting. What practices invite you to be fully present and grounded? Resources Wendy Palmer, Leadership Embodiment
How do we strengthened our ability to love our neighbors? A few inspiring stories and lesson. Resources Fearless Dialogues, Dr Ellis Antoinette Tuff
Conversations about politics, race, the environment or other heated topics are hard to have. How do we create an agreement that allows us to fumble with our words and stay engaged? In this episode, we look at Donna Mejia’s framework called Fumble Forward. NOTE: Mejia is pronounced Meh-hEE-yah, my apologies that I mispronounced her name […]
To become fully free, we need to learn how to own the whole of our story with compassion. We need to integrate all of our experience, even the cringe-worthy stuff. Resources Acceptance Podcast Imprisoned by Our Story Podcast Change is Always Possible
Dr Arlie Hochschild traveled from Berkley to Louisiana to understand our political divide. Her clear purpose supported her in turning off her alarm system and to listen to those who think very differently. Resources Strangers in Their Own Land Review of Strangers in Their Own Land
When I catch myself complaining, I know I am not operating from my best self. It’s time to slow down and explore my choices because living as a victim is depressing. Resources Intentionality Getting Perspective
We need to heal to create joy in our lives. We need to heal to make social justice possible. But first, we need to stop hiding…
Resources
Change is Always Possible Podcast
Sounds True Interview with Rachel Ricketts
Turning Off Our Alarm Systems Podcast
Anne Swallow Gillis is a recently retired Protestant Pastor, aspiring writer and jigsaw puzzle fan. In this edition of Best of Ourselves, she shares her reflections on these puzzling times.
Resources
Easy Questions for Complex Times Podcast
Getting Perspective Podcast
Acceptance Podcast
The paradox of sustainable change is learning to truly accept the parts of ourselves we want to “fix”.
Resources
Reacting Podcast
Christopher Germer
Is there still an issue with women’s voices? Sure. But the trick is to notice when it’s happening.
Resources
Whe We Aren’t Making More Progress Towards Gender Equity
We Won’t Reach Gender Equity Until the 22nd Century
We can support our thriving by avoiding negativity and managing our energy. We all need a bit more TLC right now.
Resources
How to Thrive When Everything Feels Terrible
It is radical to imagine we don’t have to fix, acquire or change ourselves to access what Sonya Renee Taylor calls our innate enoughness.
Resources
Brene Brown Interview with Sonya Renee Taylor
Sonya Renee Taylor
Instead of the intense reflection on changing, I told a few funny stories. Laughter helps us navigate challening times.
Resources
Stress Relief From Laughter: No Joke, Mayo Clinic
We breath in a worldview from our culture and families. But, unless examined, it is just the way things are.
Resources
Brené Brown with Sonya Renee Taylor on “The Body is Not an Apology”
Exploring Race
Suffocating
You must never confuse faith that you will prevail in the end
—which you can never afford to lose —with the discipline
to confront the most brutal facts of your current reality,
whatever they might be.”Admiral James Stockdale
In this episode we explore what it means to hold both a clear-eyed view of what is happening and faith that some form of what you are committed to will prevail.
Resources
The Stockdale Paradox described by Jim Collins
Conversation with researchers and authors Jim Collins and Brenè Brown
We become the stories we tell ourselves. Celebrating kindness to create a community of care.
Resources
Kindness as a Strategy
Taking a Stand for Kindness
Rituals provide comfort, especially in stressful times. The pandemic is providing us with an opportunity to think through what is a “should do” and what rituals have meaning. It is an opportunity to create new practices that reflect what matters and create connection.
Resources
Why Rituals Work
You can teach an old dog new tricks. Our brains are malleable and change with every interaction. Yes, we are wired to operate from habit but we can cultivate change.
Resources
Interview with Dr David Eagleman
When I catch myself complaining, I know I am not operating from my best self. It’s time to slow down and explore my choices because living as a victim is depressing.
Resources
Intentionality
Getting Perspective
We have to stretch our capacity to thrive in complex times. Dr. Jennifer Garvey Berger offers 3 simple questions to help us open up to new possibilities.
Resources
Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps – Interview with Dr. Berger
Change is Possible – Podcast