Families Navigating Addiction & Recovery: Recent Episodes
Jeff Jones
Our goal with “Families Navigating Addiction & Recovery” Podcast is to introduce our audience to interesting and authentic voices in the world of recovery. “Families Navigating Addiction & Recovery” is about families. It’s about communities. It places addiction in its proper context and empowers every family member to achieve a better outcome – a transformation. Part of our work is bringing together these voices. Providing a platform, for people like you, to share your stories and perspectives, creates an opportunity to reach someone. To touch their lives. To help improve outcomes for individuals, families and communities. Together.
“So much of what we do perpetuates problems, not by intent, but by a lack of understanding.” -Dr. Mike Barnes
The main focus of the recovery process is often given to the addict in the family and there’s nothing wrong with that. It is out of genuine love that they go to great lengths to make sure the needs of their loved one are well provided for. But for family recovery to be realized in its entirety, they must look into the often undermined effects of addiction: trauma. Family members don’t realize that they are traumatized until they start prioritizing their own needs. Hence today’s episode homes in on how to help family members realize that they are traumatized and help them recover from it. Our guest, Dr. Mike Barnes also talks about the biology of how we cope with problems and the epigenetics of addiction and trauma. This understanding will greatly help in the treatment and recovery process that families may choose along their journey. He also differentiates between problem and crisis and how our stories create an impact on the decisions we make. Dr. Barnes also gives some suggestions in making the paradigm shift in family recovery even more effective. It only takes one or two members to spark the change. The question now lies on who’s going to take that privilege.
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Highlights:
03:47 Serving Families With Addiction
10:47 Living in Recovery Together
18:32 Coping Begins With Family Goals and Values
23:48 Helping Families To Understand That They Are Traumatized
31:53 The Epigenetics of Addiction and Trauma
38:13 Understanding The Biology of How We Cope To And Solve Problems
44:50 3 Rules of an Alcoholic Family And How to Challenge Them
54:55 A Shift In Recovery Processes Needed
“We need to communalize rather than individualize. And we need to normalize rather than pathologize.” - Ed Tick
The society we’re living in today has forced veterans to carry the moral and social burdens of warfare alone. As a result, their unspoken pain and sorrows evolved into trauma and addiction problems which also affect the family unit that they belong to. From this, societal issues increase and communities sink into decay. To address this problem, Dr. Ed Tick and Denise Klein join the platform to share their wisdom. They impress on seeing beyond the surface recovery and diving deeper into the feelings associated with addiction rather than just the cessation of visible symptoms. They also expound on how to spark significant cultural changes as opposed to smaller individual changes and how to build communities through visualization, open communication, and creating opportunities. They also highlight the need to normalize rather than pathologize. Individual empowerment is the key to strengthen the family and eventually the whole community. Tune in and join the healing movement!
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Highlights:
04:00 Veteran Experience Help Heal Addiction
13:30 Symptoms That Causes Breakdown In Families
16:34 Trauma As Normative Part Of Experience
18:13 Educating People About Trauma
30:08 Everyone Gets Traumatized Everyday
35:45 Making Trauma More Visible
40:18 Move Into Normalization And Communalization
45:31 Warriors Return
48:07 Empowerment And Being Authentic
“The idea behind sex addiction is not to stop having sex entirely and remove sex from your life. The idea is to develop a healthy sexuality.” - Joshua Shea
The desire for love and pleasure is innate to all humans. However, as the world evolved, activities that were traditionally regarded as private and conservative are gradually becoming acceptable with the general public. Pornography is one of the industries that has dominated the web and access to it has become easier. As a result, even school-aged children are at risk of developing an addiction as their curiosity peeks and peer pressure pushes them deeper into the pleasure pool. Today, Joshua Shea, a former pornography addict, shares his battle with pornography. He lists the warnings signs of pornography addiction and differentiates the two types of pornography users. He also gives a comparison of different addictions and what makes them similar to each other. As we begin to understand pornography, the kind of intervention necessary becomes clearer and the motivation to stand against it becomes stronger. Pornography may have the power to destroy morals and psychological balance. But nothing is stronger than a family working together to uphold their integrity. Tune in and learn how to develop a healthy sexuality.
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Highlights:
05:50 Internet Has Changed The Game
11:38 Warning Signs Of Pornography
20:00 Two Types Of Pornography Users
23:01 Two Things Partners Need To Do
28:11 Parallels Of All Addictions
30:40 Standpoints Of Family Members
37:33 Understanding Pornography
43:13 Addiction Is A Disease
“There's no ruler until that addict bottoms out and wakes up into their conscious self, their authentic self, and starts the path of recovery.”
Codependency is a confusing topic under addiction. Numerous ideas branch out that often lead to misunderstanding and eventually, increased harm. Today, Rene Eram joins the stage to enlighten some of the misinformation on codependency and expound on the subject from a different perspective. He explains the nature of roles played out in the drama and points out to these roles as both inherited where one comes out as dominant. These invisible patterns create an obsessive connection that often leads to betrayal, rejection, and abandonment. Rene also discusses the hang-over stage in this type of relationship and nurturing broken programming as a means of coping mechanisms. We all can be addicted to something but this conversation warns mainly on a much destructive form of addiction: progressive addiction. The goal of recovery is to neutralize codependency and move to your authentic self. Don’t miss out on today’s episode.
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Highlights:
02:50 Fascination With Invisible Patterns
04:07 Invisible Patterns
06:09 Two Roles: Controller And Dependent
11:16 Codependent Mapping
20:26 Hang-over Stage
24:32 Inherited Pattern Of Codependence
37:12 Being Their Authentic Self
43:49 Self Rescue Mission
“The real key to success is what happens after they leave treatment.” -Stan McKnight
Technological advancement has really brought the world to a new era. Communication, education, travel and even relationships are not how they used to be decades ago. If you’re contemplating on finding an intervention that’s compatible with your situation and conditions, there are things that you must consider. Stan McKnight shares his expertise on navigating addiction and recovery. It’s rather imperative to know the do’s and don’ts before jumping in to a decision. The life of your loved one is at stake, hence, an uneducated or partially educated judgment can be very detrimental. This conversation is full of wisdom that can help you and your family before, during and after treatment. Stan also shares a useful tool to aid in developing accountability and trust in the family nucleus. Today’s episode is for everyone who is determined to get to recovery and change their life forever.
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Highlights:
02:48 Getting a Vital Lesson From Interventions and Recovery
07:38 Addiction- 2000 and Beyond
09:07 What NOT To Do
16:03 How to Diagnose Denial
17:24 What To Do
21:59 The Accountability Tool
27:29 Send the Right Message
32:42 Try IAM!
“All you need to do is take action every day to support your body and your body is going to take care of you.” -Nancy Miggins
To take care of yourself is to take care of others. The last thing we want is to fall ill when everybody has already recovered. It’s something everyone must do and gain mastery over. When we are at the negative end of the continuum, we cannot function at an optimum level. Therefore, any decision made while in that state of stress can mean only trouble. Joining us in today’s episode is Dr. Nancy Miggins, a seasoned expert in health and wellness. She provides practical guidance on how to master self-care in 8 simple steps. She also lets us in on some fun facts about detoxification and weight loss. The human physiological makeup is designed to be able to heal itself. Therefore, as the owners of our personage, it is our sheer duty to support it. Join in and “reclaim your power over health”!
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Highlights:
03:50 Reclaim Power Over Health Without Narcotics
08:13 How to Shift From Self-Destructive Patterns
17:49 Stress and Disease
21:06 Facilitated Pathway
24:39 How to Break Down Stress
29:37 How to Find Gratitude Amidst Crisis
40:30 Where Does Healing Really Happen?
46:52 8 Daily Practices to Master Health
“The first step is really just seeing what the pieces are at play and accepting the pieces at play as they are.” -Vincent Peronne
Sometimes what makes our fight harder is not the fight itself, but the things that we can’t control. In that event, what are we to do? Vincent Peronne sheds light on this topic and expounds on the inside out of neurology. He also shares about the Safe and Sound Protocol (SSP), a type of sensory-intervention developed by Dr. Stephen Porges and how it can complement recovery. You can move through adversities and win your battle. This conversation will help you determine the best possible steps to help your loved one.
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Highlights:
03:33 Learning the Inside Out of Neurology
12:48 Strength of the Family vs Strength of Addiction
24:44 The Safe And Sound Protocol and Sensory Healing
33:17 What’s In and Out of Our Control
38:50 Effective Handling of What’s In and Out of Our Control
46:52 Groups and Nervous System Regulation
49:46 Increase Your Resiliency
“The gut is the gateway to health.” -Stephanie Small
Want an intervention that’s effective and natural? We often resort to medicines to get a dose of relief without really understanding what we are treating. Healing comes from addressing the root cause rather than just alleviating symptoms. Apparently, biochemistry plays a huge role in symptoms we mistake as psychological or emotional. Stephanie Small joins us in another life-altering conversation on mental health nutrition. She expounds on the influence of gut health to body homeostasis. Occurring imbalances can create somatic chaos that often lead to inflammation or even depression. But, there is something you can do. Tune in to today’s episode and learn the healthy and effective way to recovery.
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Highlights:
02:57 Doing What Social Workers Do and Beyond
06:58 Before You Pop A Pill
11:34 How to Detect Imbalances
17:43 It’s Not Just About Eating More Vegetables!
26:08 Gut and Inflammation
31:38 The Body Under Prolonged Stress
37:04 Accountability and Recovery
41:23 When to Eat Potato Chips
“Your kid’s addiction or your family members’ addiction is not your responsibility. How you react to it is your responsibility.” - Kevin Petersen
Addiction is a worldwide trend. It comes in many forms and in varying degrees. Thus, families need to be on guard at all times. However, it’s really hard to exercise withitness in the family. Sometimes, we are not even aware that our own children are addicted. Dr. Kevin Petersen shares some tools and knowledge to help families move away from addiction. The family unit is a cradle of love, support, wisdom and protection. It is where life’s joys and sorrows are shared. If the family is able to perform its function, then addiction has lost its place in the family circle. Nobody beats addiction alone. When families work together, there is guaranteed success.
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Highlights:
02:30 Taking the Natural Evolution in the Addiction and Recovery Path
09:48 Setting Up Boundaries
14:51 Family Support is Essential
23:25 Reach out Early
31:06 Resources and Guidance for Families
37:18 Ask for Help
42:02 The Sooner, The Better
“There’s no such thing as drug treatment. What we really need is holistic counselling that incorporates work on the drug issue.” - Robert Schwebel
As individuals begin to see that they have addiction issues, they begin to think about change. But to go from contemplating about it to actually taking action is no piece of cake. Dr. Robert Schwebel expands on why people use drugs and why they hesitate on taking that first step towards recovery. He also shares about his Seven Challenges Program, which is used worldwide in motivating individuals to evaluate their lives, consider changes that they want to make, and take steps to implement those changes. But for transformation and recovery to really take place, people need to believe that their life could be better and get in touch with what truly matters to them. Join in to today’s podcast and discover how you can grab hold of that change and make it into a reality.
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Highlights:
04:30 The Spark of Interest
11:16 Feeling Powerless
17:44 Being Honest to Ourselves
26:25 Looking at What You Like About Drugs
29:00 Think About the Harm
31:00 Stop the Shame and Blame
33:00 Looking to the Future
40:07 What Will You Do?
“Be your own favorite patient... And whatever you're struggling with makes life really deep and brings you growth and wisdom. Don't turn away from it; embrace it as riches for you to mine, to gain love and wisdom for the rest of your life.” –Dr. Ed Tick
There’s a strong diversion in the healing spectrum called denial. Apparently, it is the nation’s leading disease as well. It’s hardly pounded within cultures, ancestral lines, communities and families and there’s no escaping its grip. Learn how to combat denial and transgenerational trauma as the American shadow gets exposed and a new perspective on addiction leads to a new identity. Move towards an addiction-free and happy family life with today’s episode. An enduring positive change is on the horizon. Your next move is a step nearer that bright tomorrow.
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Highlights:
03:53 Dr. Ed Tick on Addiction as a “Symptom”
15:42 How Families Can Help and Receive Help
24:16 We’re Well or Ill Together
31:50 Denial & Transgenerational Trauma
39:01 Assume Your Identity
44:54 Sending Out Your Recovery Message
49:13 Ancestral Healing
55:34 The American Shadow Exposed
58:01 Be Your Own Favorite Patient
“I really have a lot of faith in the power of family coming together.” –Jeff Jones
We’re in for another special treat! In this episode, Rex West interviews our very own, Jeff Jones. Jeff shares a bit of his background and how he became “the Jeff Jones” that we know today. His story pictures how families deal with their own crisis and the role each one takes on which can potentially create a larger dilemma for their family. Jeff’s experiences helped him see the patterns around addiction and how this creates a massive impact around the family’s well-being as a whole. As a therapist, Jeff sheds light on the subtle aspects of addiction and which type of intervention is best for a specific family situation.
Jeff believes in the power of families. Of course, family crisis is inevitable and it comes in many faces and intensity. But a family is specifically built so that no one will have to face these problems alone. As a coach, Jeff helps families see their situation in a new lens, one that magnifies hope and gives a clear picture of how resilient they can be.
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Highlights:
03:20 The Inside Story of Jeff Jones
13:32 Why Families Do Not Understand Their Own Story
21:37 How the Past Haunt the Present
28:16 A Solid Decision to Change and Help Make a Change
31:23 The Role of Roles
40:03 The Neuroscience of Addiction
43:52 What Type of Intervention is Best for Your Situation?
52:01 The Family’s Recovery Message
54:06 Unique Intervention with Jeff
“It's never too late. And it's never really hopeless, ever.” –Dr. Adi Jaffe
Recovery is not a “fix” and neither is it measured by mere abstinence. The impression we get must go beyond what the eyes can see. To really work out the issue, a solid connection and understanding must be established. No one is better than the other. Some just had a better circumstance; thus, sympathy plays a major role in recovery. Discover the epigenetics of addiction and how shaming becomes a destroyer in a deeper sense. Travel through the untold stories behind why people become hesitant to undergo treatment and how to effectively address them. Today’s episode serves as a testimony that it’s never too late. There’s always a light at the end of the tunnel and it gets brighter every step you take. So go on and don’t lose hope.
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Highlights:
02:45 From Jailed to Hailed
10:25 5 Reasons Why People Shun Treatment and How To Address Them
16:40 Give Unconditional Help and Eliminate Shaming
21:16 Where the Problem is Lies
26:48 Epigenetics- When the Environment Controls Biology
31:26 The Inappropriate Way to Measure Recovery
39:09 Give Them A Break
“You don't have to be a coach, a professional coach, to cultivate some of the most important coaching skills.” –Barb McAllister
Perhaps, humans are endowed with that superhero attitude to go and rescue somebody. Sometimes, though, people tend to have a distorted view of a distress call. Not everybody needs to be rescued. Although the motive is right, the outcome may not be as beneficial for both the ‘rescuer’ and the person being ‘rescued'. This episode expounds on the drama triangle, particularly on the ‘rescuer’ role and the disadvantages of stepping into this role. Recovery is not far off from your reach. Sometimes, to help others, you might need to start with yourself. Listen in and see how the drama in your family can turn into happy ending story.
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Highlights:
01:30 Growing Up in a Family with a Lot of Drama
05:17 How to Relate to Yourself
15:14 The Drama Triangle
25:54 Maintaining a Healthy Boundary
30:29 The Door Out of the Rescuer Role
35:58 The Right Question Before Jumping In
40:49 Get Off the Roller Coaster
44:25 Be Aware of Your Own Triggers
“It's scary when your kids are going off the rails and you don't know what to do, and you're frustrated and feel kind of hopeless or helpless. That's when you need to take care of yourself so that the steps that you do take are informed by your best thinking. Take time… Find a way back to yourself so that you can bring your best self to this work.” –Brooks Witter
Raising an adolescent is indeed a really challenging role for parents. It’s when the kid is finally crossing the bridge between childhood and adulthood. Around this period, the family is turned upside down. As teenagers witness and experience the sufferings in this world, they become more and more confused. Others act out while others withdraw and in time it becomes a head-on family struggle. Today’s episode is packed with guidelines and wisdom to help you towards your goal to get them through this troubled years and launch them as happy, responsible adults. Take care of both your teens and yourselves. Don’t get your hopes up. You can be successful and fulfilled parents.
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Highlights:
02:21 Brook Receives His Call of Service
06:33 Being a Parent of a Child Who’s Acting Out
18:00 Being A Parent of a Withdrawn Child
22:38 How Parents Can Talk to Your Child
29:25 The Larger Picture of Human Suffering
36:15 Effective Family Time
39:48 A Resource for Parents
46:36 Take Care of Yourself
“The kid is not the problem… It's the whole system.” –Rex West
When kids demonstrate the problem in the family, they get criticized. There is an unheard message beyond the family culture. Today’s podcast navigates the larger context around these family issues. How families support individuation and deal with their sufferings can create change in their system. Learn the 3 simple rules that every family needs to start implementing now. Stabilize your family, for it is the foundation on which every member, present and future, will be holding on to.
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Highlights:
03:27 Growing Up in Colorado
14:09 From Teaching to Psychotherapy
21:29 Supporting Individualization
27:16 Brain Development & the Male-Female Biological Make-up
34:50 3 Rules for Families
41:11 The Impact of Family Culture in Various Forms of Subtle Addictions
49:09 The Truth-Teller
51:15 Change the System
“If we face it like we want to make this better for everyone, then that's when we come to the solutions that are going to… focus on the big picture, which is saving people's lives.” –Dr. Joshua Gowin
Nobody wants to fall prey into addiction. However, certain factors can increase a person’s susceptibility to addictive substances. Today’s podcast sheds light on these aspects that are sometimes not emphasized. Dr. Joshua Golwin also shares his research on the brain’s physiology and how this relates to possibility of relapse. This episode also teaches us an important lesson: Don’t let stigma and general opinion stop you from finding solutions. Focus on the big picture.
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Highlights:
02:31 Looking into the Human Brain
06:38 Addiction as a Brain-Based Disease
17:50 How Much of Biological and Environmental Factors Contribute to Addiction?
22:38 The Role of Stress and Family Patterns
29:59 A Look at Brain Regions as a Determinant for Relapse
36:51 A Message of Compassion
39:50 How Recognition Can Help
42:05 How to Deal with Addiction
“I was in more control of my world… It wasn't me trying to control my world out of fear; it was me controlling my world because it felt good.” –Josh Ritcher
If you’re struggling to start that transformation in your life, you must be misinformed about something: Change is NOT a big AHA! Learn how to control your mind, control yourself, and eventually, control your world. Today’s podcast will teach you how to empower your brain in the most satisfying yet simple ways that you can do right at this very second. It’s the little things that count.
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Highlights:
03:12 When Much was Too Much
08:02 “I Love Myself” Experiment
16:49 Shoulds to Coulds and The Need to Feel Valuable
22:22 The Best Mental Intervention and Body Fuel
29:34 Change is NOT a Big AHA!
36:09 Neurons That Fire Together, Wire Together
43:11 The “H” Word
53:49 Out of the Red Zone
“See it sooner so you can choose more powerfully faster.” –Donna Zajonc
The Drama Triangle has long been part of human story. But it is no ordinary drama like the ones we see on TV or movies. It’s a scenario where all participants can have a rotational switch of roles. It gets chaotic as the story progresses rather than being solved. The downside is, the drama never gets resolved and the story never ends. Today’s episode will help families get out of this zone and reach their own happy ending.
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Highlights:
04:07 Making Ideas Come to Life with David and Donna
05:58 The Drama Triangle
15:20 Flight, Fight, Freeze and Appease
24:03 Mindfulness Over Role Switching
29:36 Self-care
33:21 The Antidote for the Drama
40:00 Pseudo Relationships
46: 48 Do things Together
“When we change our pattern, often that entire family starts shifting without even realizing that they're doing it.” –Dr. Seth Kadish
Patterns- something that all people possess that they don’t even recognize. This conversation will shed light on how patterns naturally happen through the course of life. Though they move us in routine, patterns help us cope and defend ourselves. However, some of them are not beneficial to us or our family in any way and needs to be tweaked. Here’s a list of the top 3 common patterns in families with addiction from Dr. Seth Kadish. Rewrite your life with a new set of pattern that truly makes you feel safe and secure.
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Highlights:
01:01 Working with Varied Systems
03:12 Searching for System Patterns
06:43 The Negative Pattern of Thought-Emotion-Behavior
17:24 Addressing Addiction Patterns – Go Below
21:36 Caught in the Pattern
28:54 ‘The Positives and Negatives of You’ Exercise
32:55 The Top 3 Addiction Patterns
40:30 Intervention: Breaking the Patterns
“Take a look at and own the resiliency that you already have within you as a family member… whatever that strength is, that you honor that.” –Mary Gordon
Therapy sessions and medications help at a certain degree along the recovery process. But, more than that is needed. At a time when the family seems to be in the shipwreck of addiction, their strength and resiliency becomes their lifeboat. Today’s podcast centers on finding the soul of recovery by tapping into these assets and incorporating it into an artistic and holistic healing.
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Highlights:
02:52 Finding Light in Recovery
08:55 The Dance Movement Therapy
15:09 The Families’ Intrinsic Strength
21:24 A Lesson on Resiliency
29:14 Freedom From Relapse
33:28 The Power of the Group Energy
“One of the best aspects of healthy masculine energy is you do what needs to be done.”- Geoff Laughton
If you feel like your life is in a rut, don’t despair. It’s a good sign that you’re awareness and longing to connect is at work. Today’s episode is especially for those who desire to address the underlying issues within themselves, with their partner and with their family. Healing does not materialize in the form of temporary sobriety, rather in the context of continuous effort to grow. To do that, here are a handful of tips and a couple of helpful tools and opportunities that can help. Today’s episode does not only center on couples and families but to all the men out there who deal with the terror and embarrassment of getting help. It’s time to find your best man!
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Highlights:
03:35 Helping Men Evolve
09:35 The Frontend With Men
12:31 Addressing Denials
20:39 Kids Can Tell
25:35 The Perfect Set Up for Codependency
31:54 The Apple Doesn’t Fall Far From the Tree
36:20 The Thrill With Men’s Groups
43:10 Healing the Inner Child
“Well, one of the things is recognizing that rehab isn't for everybody... Not everybody with an addiction belongs in rehab.” –Anne Fletcher
On what basis is there for such a claim? Anne Fletcher, an award-winning health and medical writer and author of best-selling books on weight loss and sobriety, spends years of research, visiting programs, interviewing professionals and hundreds of people and families for an incredible, detailed exposé of what’s really in rehab. Her book has received starred reviews and she is ready to share the secrets lurking behind Rehabs. As you contemplate and decide which treatment center to go to, listen in as Anne opens the chapters of what you need to know.
There are hundreds, probably thousands of treatment centers around you. Have you ever wondered what’s in there? Here are some of the unspoken truths about Rehabs and primary care counsellors that you should get acquainted with. Get to know who to trust and who offers the care that will be effective for you and your family. This is not just about change, but how to maintain that change.
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Highlights:
02:29 Writing How People Maintains Change
15:47 What Do We Know is Effective for People with Addiction
20:55 The “One Size Fits All” Thinking
27:58 What You Should Know About Sponsors
34:08 Does Your Primary Care Counsellor Have Enough Credentials?
39:07 Ask the Questions
42:09 Family Involvement
49:24 The Gap Between Science and Practice
“You have to really look within to make sure that a family has what they need to be able to address the crisis.” –Lee Daly
Take that from a passionate family advocate who has a lifetime of wisdom to share for families struggling with addiction. Lee Daly was the daughter of an alcoholic. Meaning to find a solution, she drove to a recovery program only to her disappointment. She went through deep research and begged for help but was rejected by people she trusted due to fear and embarrassment. Although she lost her mom in this tragic story, she managed to turn her story to a better route. As a mom, she is determined not to lose her kids to addiction. Learn how she successfully helped her children and how she can help you too!
Have you ever doubted your gut feeling? Listen in as our guest explains why you should never question your judgment as a parent or a family member. “Crisis is a crisis.” See what outliers can help you address the crisis your family is into. Situations vary from one family to another so here are some tips in handling hard choices and dealing with your family member with addiction. Get ready for a big catch as a lifetime of wisdom is poured out in today’s podcast!
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Highlights:
04:03 50 Years with Substance Abusers
13:29 The Crisis and the Outliers
21:06 Handling the Hard Choices
26:14 Be Aware of Your Gut Feelings
29:55 Helicopter Parents
31:29 Enabling vs Your Gut Feel
40:04 Teach Me!
45:51 Be Transparent
51:10 Call This Mom
“You don't think your way out of stress; you feel your way out of it.” –Mary Bowles
Sometimes, there are things that we’ve been doing off beam yet we’re never aware until our understanding of things get flipped to the reality of matters. Therefore, it’s good to know how things really work lest we end up hurting ourselves and others. Listen in as our guest, Mary Bowles, gives us an enlightening elucidation on how our neural framework really operates.
Mary Bowles developed her fascination in the medical field at an early age. She grew up acquainted with her mom’s nursing manuals and decided this is where she wants to be. At that, she pursued her passion in Applied Neuroscience. She has undergone numerous trainings from renowned experts. At present, she helps her clients as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and founder of the MindWise Institute.
Everybody wants genuine recovery rather than just an ephemeral relief. To accomplish that, we must not depend on perfunctory procedures. Rather, we must ascertain what’s really effective and applicable. Join in to today’s podcast and deepen your understanding about neuroscience and memory reconsolidation as a way of effective recovery strategy. As said, recuperation occurs not by thinking, rather by feeling your way out of stress. Let your brain do the work!
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Highlights:
03:06 The Road to Neuropsychotherapy
07:07 How Neuroscience Helps Families Recover
11:54 Dopamine & The HPA Axis of Human Predictions
19:44 Letting the Brain Do the Work
26:25 Natural but Not Effective
31:56 What is Memory Reconsolidation?
42:44 Self-Treatment or Therapist?
47:54 Cutting-off Patterns
“The answer for all of our problems are in the same place as where the problem originates.” –Deborah Sandella
Humans are great at hiding what they really feel. Unknowingly, by restricting their emotions, they’re actually building a painful future. If you’re already in it, Dr. Deborah Sandella knows a way out. Dr. Sandella has received outstanding awards and has appeared on numerous shows for her works as a Psychotherapist, Professor and Author. Currently, she is on a mission to transform how we see emotions as the founder of RIM Institute.
Apparently, as the words above imply, all shudder-inducing experiences that everyone’s been running from holds the key to genuine healing. So if you’re already wondering what this RIM technique is all about, hit the play button and join in this information loaded conversation between our host, Jeff Jones and today’s guest, Dr. Deborah Sandella.
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Highlights:
05:30 From Spontaneous Healing to Intentional Healing
11:35 The RIM Technique
20:44 The Actuary and the Visionary
25:56 Unblock an Emotional Memory
31:54 Reconnecting and Regenerate
38:44 Trust Again… Feel the Feelings
42:00 Before You Jump In to Conclusions
46:48 Unlocking Your Emotions
“It’s all about taking action.”-Darlene Lancer
Just as how a plant withers or thrives by its roots, addiction can blossom or die by its core. However, you could do something about it. A lawyer turned Marriage and Family Therapist shares her experiences and expertise about co-dependency and labelling. Darlene Lancer, digs to the root of two of the ramifications of addiction to help families and individuals attain healing.
Conversely though, when things get messed up, it’s often hard to let go especially if emotions pull you like magnet. Nevertheless, for you and your family to thrive, there is something you must uproot. Join in to their conversation as Jeff and Darlene uncover the mysteries and false facts that surrounds co-dependency and labelling. As the words quoted above suggest, your happiness is yours, but, “it's all about taking action.”
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Highlights:
02:50 Changing Careers
03:56 The Less Talked Terms
05:00 Dreams Awaken
07:13 The Evolution of Codependency
12:00 A Different Approach to Healing
15:19 The Labelling Stigma
20:00 Where To Focus
25:21 Let Go of Codependency-Reconnect to Your Innate Self
“Keep loving your kids; love yourself. It's not easy, but don't think you're failing if you can't have a moment in a room with your son.” –Barbara Straus Lodge
They say a mother’s love is the purest love on earth. But, can that love prevail when addiction creates a barrier between a mother and her child? Listen to the story of Barbara Straus Lodge.
Barbara is a writer and an activist and her works revolve around addiction and recovery. She is also the Vice President of Above the Noise Foundation, a foundation that funds addiction-stricken communities by hosting music festivals. She also founded TruthTalks™, a workshop that helps families understand what’s going on in the mind and heart of their loved one who has a substance-use disorder. Currently, she is working to pass a bill on selling Nitrous Oxide, a gas that has been used as a recreational drug since the 1700s. Learn why she is so determined to win this fight.
Today’s episode is more than just a heart-warming story of a mother’s love. Behind all the emotions are a real reason for parents to be cautious. If you have seen canisters in your kid’s trash, be alarmed. Know what they are and how they can affect your child. But, what if your child has already been pulled deep into the abyss of addiction? Learn how love and understanding play a major part in rebuilding the trust and ties that has been broken by the addiction barrier. As the words above suggest, parents fail if they stopped trying to reach out to their child. Communication is essential, but in a stress-filled home, it might seem impossible. So here are some tips on how to improve your communication and start reconnecting with each other. As our guest said, ‘It’s all about your kid.’ Save them while you still can.
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Highlights:
03:22 Barbara Five Years Ago
06:46 Ask and Listen
10:00 The Writer Within
11:58 An Under the Radar Drug
17:16 Warning Signs!
22:47 Truth Talks
38:38 Breaking the Addiction Barrier
41:26 It’s All About Your Kid
“But I would say a lot of intuitive knowing; a lot of deep knowing has sort of been lost. And so it's helpful to remember and to plug back into how we came into being and what is really embedded in our sequence. Because from there are the tools for healing.”
Karen Strange is a Certified Professional Midwife and an instructor at the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP). Basically, her job is to educate midwifes about the latest techniques in birthing children. She also founded a workshop on neonatal resuscitation. But, why would there be an instructor for neonatal resuscitation in a podcast for families with addiction? Well, let our guest tell you the secret around your birth.
To know how to proceed, one must know where he came from. Karen’s words above give a glimpse of why this topic is essential. An individual’s personality is shaped as soon as we breathe life. Learn how one’s conception and birth has a bearing on one’s predisposition to addiction. And even if many unplanned events happened around this time where we didn’t have control, find out how ‘repair’ can still be done in order to attain this elusive healing. Today’s episode will bring you back to your memory that only your infant self can remember.
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Highlights:
04:59 An instructor for Neonatal Resuscitation in a Family with Addiction Podcast
10:53 How the Mother’s Emotional World Shapes Personality
17:33 Two Layers of Support- Essential for Healthy Neonatal Development
22:59 Our Implicit Memory
27:30 Repair of the Unplannned
30:33 The Birth Sequence
37:29 The Pacing Where Healing Occurs
46:20 Aware of How We Are In the Inside
“You deserve results…It's not your fault if you're not getting better. There's a hope for you. Keep searching, keep looking, never give up the answers… We are all working on this for you. And we will deliver answer soon.” -Dr. Meredith Sagan
An alarming issue has emerged in 2019! Dr. Meredith Sagan, the Founder of MindAlign Institute, has come across this human problem in her 20 years of research on human intelligence. And the rate to where we’re going in this artificial world is rapidly ravaging us since 2018.
A medical doctor and a holistic psychiatrist by profession, Dr. Meredith Sagan is a woman of varied career. She went in a child fellowship to residential treatment, behavioral health and a private practice. She has travelled around the world for many years to learn about human intelligence and the root causes of human problems. Join her in her quest as she shares with you her research and how her MindAlign method can help you with the struggles you are battling with right now.
Nobody knows how fast our world would change and what changes to expect. However, we know that our story us humans is colored with both brightness and darkness. Facing the dark side alone guarantees defeat. But Dr. Sagan’s words above echo a hope for many. So today’s episode especially highlights the trend that our world is in right now, especially at the start of 2018. Learn what causes the disorientation we experience, the many consequences that comes along with it and how this can be reversed. Also, find out how the MindAlign Method works and how to stay empowered when all your resources get exhausted. Take part in this enlightening conversation and pick rare insights along the way.
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Highlights:
03:29 A Woman of Varied Careers
06:12 Living in an Artificial World- The 2018 Massive Role Reversal
11:31 Social Media and Disorientation
19:20 The Family Structure in a ‘No Rules’ Era
24:31 Healing by Letting the Stigma Go
30:29 20 Years of Study on Mindfulness
34:42 The MindAlign Method
37:05 How to Stay Empowered When Resources Get Exhausted
“I think it's important that teens have some kind of role model… somebody in their life that believes in them.”-Kim Thompson
Sometimes, the harder we hide something, the more painful it becomes- both to the person hiding it and to the ones it was hidden from. This is what happened to our guest, Kim Thomson. Her teenage years was marked with unaddressed questions and emotions that became an empty space, which she constantly tried to fill in. But the path she walked expanded that empty space instead. Now an adult, she came to realize the words above, moving her to make it her mission to help teens of families with addiction. She is the owner of the Colorado Teen and Family Center and she also serves as a Family Program Educator at CeDAR UCHealth. As her story unfolds, discover what lies behind every secret and why changing this culture can help save both your teens and your family.
We know that communication in the family is an essential ingredient in maintaining harmonious and happy relationships. Sometimes, however, older members choose to keep their mouth shut on certain things, assuming that the younger members don’t have to know about it. It maybe for protecting the kids from pain or protecting themselves from the pain of having to face the truth. But in reality, nobody’s protecting anybody. Teens can sense if there’s something going on. Keeping secrets from them is teaching them to keep secrets from you. So for today’s episode, learn how secrets in the family, especially the ‘addiction secret’, can cause enduring suffering to your teens. See how you can shield them from the adverse consequences that their suffering can lead them to. Taste the joy of helping your teens find their own role and place in the family. Build bridges and create the right meaning together before you get caught in the cycle of belief system. Feel your emotions as a family. Meanwhile, our guest will also introduce a program that can help teenagers deal with their thoughts and emotions. Hear more of these topics from today’s podcast.
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Highlights:
04:01 Igniting the Passion
09:28 The Belief System Cycle
12:49 Falling to Adverse Defensive Coping Mechanisms
15:22 Letting Out the ‘Secrets’ Sparks Healing
24:11 Building Bridges
29:06 The Trickledown of Addiction
31:25 Program for Teens of Families with Addiction-What’s in it?
39:24 Creating a Level of Safety
“How did I do it? Well, I just kept learning and paying attention to my inner emotions … It takes practice.” –Dr. Cheryl Scheurer
We all put a fight to live, but not everybody wins. From the moment we start breathing, obstacles, one after another, will tell us to stop. But, as for our guest, she survives the battle with the words quoted above. Be introduced to Dr. Cheryl Scheurer, an accomplished woman of many gifts. She is a doctor in Financial Management, a book author and editor, a minister, a producer and a host. But behind all these successes is a painful past. Addiction and abuse was like a shadow she couldn’t run away from. It was there with her family, then with her husband, then with her own daughter. Her story tells the story of many out there who are groaning in pain from the hands of addiction. Allow her to share her story of how she helped herself and how she helps others.
Addiction thrives in troubled conditions and that’s exactly where we are. It’s terrifying to even think about how many individuals are falling victim to addiction, pulling families further apart. Learn how to gather courage and break the cycle of unhealthy codependency. This way, you may save both yourself and your family. Even if you are alone in your fight, you can get through it by knowing how to manage stress and where to find your threshold of change. Also, turn unconsciousness to consciousness and get past the fear around money. All these and more from today’s episode!
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Highlights:
03:28 Cheryl’s Fight to Live
09:35 Gathering Up Courage
12:23 Breaking the Cycle of Codependency
19:37 Being a Mom to a Child with Addiction
26:24 Managing Stress
29:37 Helping People Get to Awareness
34:21 Threshold of Change
36:49 Helping People Get Past the Fear Around Money
“Community heals addiction… addiction hates community.” -Michele Ryan
The pain when you see your loved ones suffer from addiction is indescribable. The pain when you can’t help them because you are going through it yourself is even worse. While you have exhausted all your means and energy to get rid of your situation, you seem to be digging deeper down that abyss. The problem? You were fighting the battle alone. But you don’t have to. Michele Ryan, the Program Director at Behavioral Health Group in Longmont, learned that from experience. Tied up in the chains of addiction for many years and eventually watching her son fall into the same trap, made her feel like she was in a dense, dark forest with no way out. Allow her to share her own recovery journey and how the community has helped her along the way.
“Addiction is not a moral failing… it's a brain disease.” (Jeff Jones) The problem sometimes, is when people think that it isn’t. Then, medication is left out of the picture. This becomes problematic soon when overconfidence takes over, leading the person to believe the greatest lie: One won’t hurt- one drink, one pill. And then eventually, you’re caught in the same trap again. But, all of these can be avoided with the right perspective and a healthy dose of medication. Learn more about Medically Assisted Treatment (MAT) and its benefits as opposed to Abstinence-based Approach. Many are skeptical about this but it’s also good to know the common misconceptions on MAT before disregarding it entirely. Also, consider the factors that contribute to its effectiveness. There is however, one area which MAT cannot reach yet: the Meth epidemic. Known by many names, Meth is spreading like a wildfire and is affecting many people at any age, anywhere around the globe. Get a hint on this deathly plague from today’s podcast. The truth however is, it’s not only Meth or any other drugs or alcohol. There are a lot, in fact, anything can be addictive to a person overwhelmed with pain and sorrows. You were alone when your problems drowned you down. But this time, it’s up to you to reach your hand out. This episode can be your guide on how to do that. Surely a good pair of sympathetic ears and a warm pair of hands can lift you up.
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Highlights:
02:38 Medicating Addiction
04:23 Michele: 20 Years in Recovery
06:29 Medically Assisted Treatment (MAT)
09:21 Misconceptions on MAT
13:01 Factors for Efficacy of MAT
16:26 Finding Help
20:04 The Biggest Lie: One Won’t Hurt
22:44 The Meth Epidemic
“Recovery is a way of life.” –Marie Krebs
Are you looking for an intervention you can trust? Well, you just reached the right corner. No intervention works the same way for everyone and so assessment plays a crucial role. If the intervention seems to intervene blindly to your specific needs, then it probably is no intervention for you. To this end, asking the right question on the onset of mediation is imperative to getting the appropriate type of intervention. So today, let us get a hang on assessment in intervention with our guest, Marie Krebs- the Founder and Principal at Marie Krebs Consulting. As a professional in the addiction field for over a decade, she has already earned numerous trainings and certifications to work with people suffering from addiction and trauma. She is also a licensed professional counsellor and chemical dependency counsellor. Find out what she has to say on how a family can show that they are in solidarity with their loved one.
“Why?”- the hardest of questions yet the key to understanding the deepest of secrets. To be able to draw out water from a deep well, our string must be able to reach the bottom.If the goal of the intervention is just to make the substance or behaviour go away, it is not intervention at all. Therefore, interventionists must know from the standpoint of assessment for it to be truly successful in the long run. We do not want our loved one to revert or switch to a new form of addictive behavior. This podcast is packed with wisdom on that. And while there are hundreds of interventionists out there, caution is strongly recommended. Learn how to spot unscrupulous interventionists and the danger that comes with them. Never underestimate the power of your choice.
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Highlights:
03:51 The Assessment Process
18:33 Within Family Circle
27:22 When Does Recovery Really Begin?
31:54 Experiences: Stepping to Their Own Change Process
43:52 Watch Out for Unscrupulous Interventionists!
“Recovery is a practice of love.” -Dr. Michael McGee
Indeed! The one thing that love can change is everything. That is true as well in recovery. Without it, the only change that can happen is from bad to worse. In your journey, have you ever felt that things aren’t working out? Maybe our guest, Dr. Michael McGee can help. Growing up in a wounded family with an alcoholic father, an addicted brother and an abusive mother, Dr. Michael McGee felt broken and unloved. To get the love he earnestly desired, he became addicted to achievements, only to find that renouncing his ability to love under this pretence is a dark bottomless pit. His road to recovery brought him to where he is now- the Chief Medical Officer of The Haven, an addictions treatment facility based in California. With over 30 years of serving in the addiction field, he has already done researches that can help in spirituality and recovery. He is also an author and a geriatric, medical and general adult psychiatrist. And today, he’s going expand the definition of addiction and recovery in terms of integrating spirituality into modern medical treatment.
Addiction is a disease of habit, gratification and relief- the opposite of love. So in order to maintain our capacity to love and show unconditional kindness we must understand that being behind the eight ball doesn’t give us a pass to treat recovery as a hopeless endeavour. This is why, Dr McGee’s core principles for family members with a loved one at any stage of addiction or recovery can be a turnaround. Learn more about his six core principles to help get your loved ones sober. As he spills the beans of recovery, do not be surprised by how simple things like keeping yourself safe and maintaining vitality can affect your loved ones. On top of that, know how to properly reinforce a desired behaviour by knowing when to give rewards and when to take them away. Surely, you don’t want to shield your loved one from the consequences of their actions as that can thwart any progress you have made. So remember that whatever you do, a combination of hope and a therapeutic dose of pain is a transformative force for healing. Discover why holding them accountable can help them to behave at a level of functioning which they are capable. But of course, when our loved one does not respond favourably to our efforts, it can be a total bummer. Dr. McGee can give us advice in that area too. Also included in our table today: how healers can heal themselves. Don’t miss these and other valuable gems inside today’s episode.
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Highlights:
04:12 50 Cents
09:50 Addiction and How It Consumes the Capacity to Love
19:40 An Advice for Healers
20:59 Six Core Principles to Help Loved Ones Get Sober
31:00 Destigmatizing the Neutral Language of Codependency
“We need to have a space for families to go where they can connect because … the disease lives where there's disconnection.” –Denise Klein
There’s a great book coming to town! It’s called, The Truth About Rehab by Denise Klein, the Co-Owner and CEO of Milestones Ranch Malibu. Denise has been a social worker for nearly 30 years. And what can she say: ““I love what I do.” Allow her to tell you more about her book and how it can help everyone, family members and professionals alike. The truth is, a rehab should be more than just a ‘rehab’. As quoted above, it is “a space for families to go where they can connect.” This new book, written in collaboration with a couple of professionals, features important aspects in rehab; some of which are discussed in this episode.
Countless advertisements entice people with promising guarantees. Doctors, although being in the same field, have differing opinions and interpretations. That’s why families get confused in terms of choosing the right interventionist and the proper intervention for their loved one. And once they choose one, each member has to know what really is the family’s role in the family transformation. Are they observers? supporters? or are they much more than that? The thing is, healing takes on as a family and not individually. We don’t just leave our family members at the treatment center’s door, come back in a couple of months and become normal again. So how do we harness the family’s strength and resiliency and create this “space” for connections and genuine healing? Finally, we know that after the treatment process, stressors and the possibility of relapse will surround families every second of everyday. So how do we help ourselves and our family member look at personal boundaries and deal with grey areas? Well, we surely do not want to go down a rabbit hole on this one so listen in as we delve harder into these topics. The treatment may have ended but the healing continues. It’s a way of life at least from this point on.
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Highlights:
03:47 Thirty years and Still In Love
07:00 The Truth About Rehab
11:08 The Family in Transformation
20:57 Laughing Again
26:52 Dealing with Gray Areas
“And what they really need is a lot of hand holding and a lot of encouragement to say: ‘Well, let's start out!’ ” –Debbie Briem
So you got your loved one to treatment and it was successful. What now? Our guest, Debbie Briem will walk you through the halls of post discharge and help you to get pass through your dilemmas. Debbie is a licensed Marriage and Family therapist and is currently with Milestones Ranch Malibu as a Clinical Director. Her 20 years of experience says a lot about how she can help families explore out some of the precursors before treatment.
After the discharge, the family is pushed to a tight corner and they go into a cycle of worrying. They become too conscious of their actions to avoid disrupting the new pattern of recovery, which in turn, makes the patient uneasy and hurt. This causes an awkward atmosphere within the family circle which is definitely not healthy for everybody. So for starters, find out what miracle question can you ask to change the way you do things. Also, make a list of the do’s and don’ts of post discharge and learn how families can write their own discharge plan. It is good to note that a planned action is better than an unplanned regression.
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Highlights:
02:38 Lovin’ the California Sun
06:25 The Miracle Question
08:46 The Precursors of Treatment
17:16 Integrating The Do’s and Don’ts in the Process
20:58 The Cycle of Worrying
“I’m not broken. I’m okay as I am.” –Jo Huey
Everyone refers to their environment before doing anything because, aware or not, we always seek the approval of others. We are all born with the need and want of belongingness. But if we constantly receive this false message, we forget who we are along the way by trying to be someone acceptable to anybody else but ourselves. Our guest, Joanne Huey has a story to tell that will change your outlook and create a different impression of self-worth. She experienced addiction in her own family which molded her opinion for many years. But after this amazing realization, she finally met with her true self, never to let go again. This transformation led her to be a Personal Change Expert, Neuro-linguistic Programming Practitioner and Inspirational Speaker.
The change in the family is often attributed to the addicted member who successfully walked the path to sobriety. But today’s story is about a daughter, a sister, a partner who was adversely affected not only by the addicted member but also the sober parent but was able to create that change in the family everyone is dreaming about. Join in her journey as she travels back to the past and share what false message about her was constantly sent by her alcoholic father, how this message was reinforced by the sober parent, how this message shaped her as she entered adulthood, and how this message was proven false to its power. Also, discover what the Drama Triangle is about and how to reopen the family’s connectivity. As much as we want to be somebody else to be accepted in the society that we live in, we must never forget that we are valuable and lovable in our own way. We can never be somebody else but we can be a better version of ourselves.
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Highlights:
03:44 Jo’s Story
16:28 How the Sober Parent Reinforces False Message
22:21 The Drama Triangle
29:04 Coping with Feelings of Insufficiency the Wrong Way
34:36 Shifting the Dynamic Through the Inner Voice
“Nobody comes to trauma, but through trauma.” – Karin Dremel
The true nature of addiction comes not from what we see at present but what we did not see in the past. And this is Science in what we call trauma. Our guest, Karin Dremel will expound the subject and enlighten us on the things we might not be aware of that has a direct bearing on family issues and addiction. She is a German psychotherapist, Naturopath and a Humanist Chaplain. Currently, her practice is situated in Boulder, Colorado where she helps individuals and couples through systems constellation groups.
Often, we see addiction through a limited perspective such that a present problem has something to do with how an individual copes that may potentially lead to addiction. But seldom do we consider what family origin has to do with how that individual arrived at choosing that particular type a coping mechanism. Join in today’s episode as our guest talks about the effects of generational trauma and silence, constellation healing, life-giving and life-limiting factors, belongingness and systemic trauma technology.
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Highlights:
03:30 Karin’s Family Origin
08:11 The Silence
20:05 What Is Constellation
36:24 The Essence of Family Constellation: Belongingness
44:13 The Systematic Trauma Technology
“Don't worry about trying to get the whole family to do it. You just start.” -JW. Wilson
Living in an ever-so-busy world keeps our toes tied up in our mundane activities. So getting the whole family to support the healing process can be a little bit short of impossible. But we can learn something different from our guest, JW Wilson. As his words above explains, initiative itself is the key. Does he have the claim for this? Absolutely. JW grew up in a family where most of those he eats with at the table are addicted to one thing or another. And the most painful part is when addiction finally claimed their life. So now, he dedicated his life helping others to understand the neurobiology of addiction. Currently, he serves as the Executive director of Advanced Learning Institute in Boulder, Colorado. The most significant attribute of this institute is their research on genes and gene expression that has a direct effect on human behaviour and predisposition to addiction.
Consequently, before we can get to healing, we must first consider what to heal. This subject may sound complex but we need not be apprehensive because our speaker has made it easy for us to understand. Listen in as he explains the connection of the brain and physiological processes, the biological and environmental causes of addiction, the shifting of our meaningful learning to less meaningful obligatory learning leading to addiction, the network of parasympathetic responses and the value of human connections. Most importantly, learn how JW Wilson can help in your journey to recovery.
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Highlights:
04:04 The Executive
12:06 Transforming Your Being
24:06 The Moon Network
30:00 The Flip Flop of Your Own Meaning
37:12 The Root of Addiction
“CRAFT” is “…evidence based practice.” –Jessica Triplett
The path to recovery can be appalling if the path you chose ended up in dismay. No path is perfect. Therefore, it is necessary that families choose a path that keeps the harm to a minimum. Our guest will introduce a model that accomplishes just that. Meet Jessica Triplett, a trainer for the CRAFT model. She’s been in the addiction field for a decade, starting her career in Nebraska then to Colorado. She worked with child welfare, substance abuse case and family addiction case. But these experiences were more than just a job. They became her own path to turning this interest into an avenue for hopeful families.
“Addiction rules the roost” as Jeff says and it can push the whole family even further down. But this CRAFT model, developed by Dr. Robert J. Meyer can be a turn around where the whole family can rule over addiction. Just what CRAFT stands for, what goals it has that make it effective, what strategies can each family member use to defuse potential outbursts, how CRAFT works to get the addicted member into treatment, encourage him to stay and finish the treatment and how the remaining members can prime for the return of their loved one are discussed in today’s episode.
Join the discussion and learn how to avoid “falling into pattern interns that… are hard to get out of.”
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Highlights:
03:31 Jessica: ‘There’s So Much We Can Do’
10:38 CRAFT and its Goals
20:01 Wiring Connection Strategies
24:05 How CRAFT works
38:15 In Probation
“So attachment based intervention is about bringing people together.” - Jim Thomas
In a world where no one seems to care, we often choose to be in isolation- away from people and things and situations that hurt. But in reality, nobody wants to be isolated. And that idea of ‘bringing people together’ is stressed by our today’s guest, Jim Thomas. Raised in a broken household, Jim himself struggled with adverse childhood experiences and went through his own recovery journey. Wanting to be a part of solutions, he pursued this course with a burning passion and is now a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, EFT Therapist and director of the Colorado Center for Emotionally Focused Therapy. Well, what can we say? Jim just love his job.
Years can go by but severed family ties never gets healed with time and that is, if the heart of the problem never gets fixed. Healing from the heart is a research-based approach that helps create meaningful experiences for everyone involved. It allows for varied and personalized avenues for the members to draw out their deepest emotions. Learn more about this type of intervention, how to get the family members out of the ‘bystanders’ lane, the role of emotion in relationships, how to foster these vulnerabilities to create an opportunity for family recovery and how to create a secure emotional family environment. Don’t miss all these intriguing topic from today’s podcast!
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Highlights:
02:48 The Happy Therapist and Joyful Trainer
09:15 Attachment Infused Intervention
19:33 Healing From Attachment Standpoint
33:14 Fostering Vulnerability
40:02 The Secure Emotional Bond
“It's very important that you start today to build an inner nurturing voice… because you're going to need that voice, even when you take your last breath.” -Julie Simon
Food! Food! Food! Who does not love food! Food is comfort. Food is life. Food is everything good in the world. We can say a lot about food but food can also say a lot about us. Today’s episode will give voice to that with our guest, Julie Simon. Julie is a licensed Psychotherapist and Life Coach and is specializing in emotional eating and food addiction. She has a private practice and is designing various programs for over 29 years now. Having experienced the struggle with overeating herself, she decided to listen to the voice that helped her reframe her life.
Often, we fail to see beyond what our eyes can see. And that’s not very helpful at all. Some people eat way too much and we say they lack self-control but the real reason beyond their overeating is unknown to us. Get the hang of the connection between early development and food, the role of your hormones in food addiction, the signs of an emotional eater, the skills needed to fight addiction and the right attitude towards those skills. Food need not be a problem anymore if you solve the problem behind food addiction. Engage in this yummy discussion that will arouse your appetite for recovery.
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Highlights:
02:54 Julie and the Surrounding Culture of Overeating
06:31 The Science of Overeating
16:07 Are You An Emotional Eater?
32:20 Learn The Skills
39:41 Practice! Practice! Practice!
“Everybody in the family has to make changes, and this is how we help parents make those changes.” –Aaron Huey
Whoever said that they sacrificed this and that because they didn’t have a choice is seriously disturbed. They often forget one thing and that will be reminded by our guest, Aaron Huey, the owner of Fire Mountain Residential Program for Young Adults. Working with kids and kids camps lead to this interesting story of Fire Mountain. The unique idea here is a dual diagnosis facility residential treatment for teens not just to get them out of crisis but also to build their confidence and become their best self. As a troubled teenager, Aaron have experimented on various forms of addiction but was able to get through with a lot of self-reflection and guess what! He is turning 22 years now in recovery. Let him share with you some of those reflections.
Nothing is impossible; nothing is hopeless until we start believing it to be. So, here is another recovery solution that you might be interested in. But there’s much more to it. There are a lot going on within a teenagers’ mind that we don’t know about which needs to be addressed, and immediately at that. Just how we know if the kid is in crisis and how parents should deal with it to avoid unnecessary sacrifices and recover from this draining situation while helping their child to heal is all in today’s menu. So, stay tuned in as Aaron Huey walks you through the often overlooked part of recovery: You!
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Highlights:
02:36 Aaron in the Ups and Downs
10:15 Warning Signs!
19:51 How to Reroute the Reaction-to-Response System
30:06 Say the Magic Word: Sorry
40:15 Unnecessary Sacrifices
“There's hope. There's hope. There's hope. It's not your fault and there's something you can do about it.” –Christina Vaselak
A casual conversation with an old acquaintance turns into a very enlightening discussion! Well, we’re still in the Winter Symposium with Jeff and he just had a great breakfast with Christina Vaselak, owner of Garden Gate Counselling and The Academy for Addiction and Mental Health Nutrition. She is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a certified nutritionist. She’s currently writing a book and today we are privileged to get a prevue of it.
So, our lesson for today is Biology 101. Science may not be your favorite subject when you were at school because of so many alien concepts and terms. But today you’re going to love it as it goes down to a personal level. What we’re made of- our genes and other biochemical molecules- basically constitute who we are and what we become. Aside from our physical appearance, our emotions and predispositions can be tracked down to a molecular level- even the generational pattern of addiction. Just how? Listen in as Jeff and Christina discusses the biochemistry of addiction, how nutrition can affect, why genes need to be considered by substance users and non-users alike, and what test can give you the answers that you need.
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Highlights:
01:34 About Christina
04:15 The Biochemistry of Active Addiction
28:17 Genetics 101
36:36 The Test
42:17 The 20-Minute Miracle
“And who holds our emotional heartstrings more than our children or our grandchildren.”- Jerry Moe
Welcome to the 45th Annual Winter Symposium! We know traditional conferences as a gathering packed with professionals and their talks but this one where we find our host is surely remarkable as it is designed to be educational in a fun and exciting way! Jeff surely is ecstatic about this conference and meeting field experts that can help us too to be conversant about new and multi-faceted ways of recovery.
Now, for the highlights of today’s episode: a very heart-touching interview with one of the featured faculty of this highly esteemed four-day annual addiction conference, Jerry Moe. We surely look forward to additional learnings from our guest who is a seasoned trainer, lecturer, author, Advisory Board Member of the National Association for Children of Addiction (NACoA), and National Director of the Betty Ford Children’s Program.
When we talk about addiction, we customarily think of adults struggling to be sober and their adult family members supporting them along the way. Seldom though, do we recognize that this premise is lacking in many ways. On the other hand, the counterpart of this scenario is one that must be considered with all seriousness-the children of addiction and their role in the recovery of the whole family. Learn more about this intriguing topic as Jeff interviews Jerry about why it is important to give attention to children, how profoundly they are affected, in what ways they express their anxieties, how they can put a stop to the generational pattern of addiction and how their little voices can have the greatest impact in the family endeavor. Of course, knowing about all these is not enough without the life-changing topic: what adults can do.
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Highlights:
01:52 Children Centers: Walking Like You Own It
O8:08 Expressing Addiction Anxiety
21:09 A Child-Centered Family Program
28:29 The Invisible Story
33:22 The Power of a Group
“What Ibogaine does is it gives people the insight that they have to…have the courage to do something that they must do.” –Richie Ogulnick
Who would dare be a major proponent of an unfamiliar heroine detox with just a flickering assurance of success? Not even this man- Richie Ogulnick, a simple Jewish jeweler from the Bronx who has not even the slightest experience with addiction. But with just one phone call, he was off to Africa to embark on this very challenging adventure to become one of the pioneer enthusiasist of this method.
Dreaded about addiction are the agonizing effects that comes with withdrawal. It’s even worse than addiction itself that some have hesitated to walk the path of sobriety. As Jeff was one advocate of multiple avenues on healing addiction, he sits with Richie Ogulnick to talk about what this out of the box heroine detox is about and how one can be eligible to undergo the process. Contrary to conventional treatment methods, Ibogaine treatment promises a quick somatic reset without the anguish brought by withdrawal symptoms. Just how this happens and what true healing entails is discussed in today’s podcast. Listen in as Jeff and Richie revisit the story of this auspicious encounter with Iboga, the roots of addiction and what every family considering addiction treatment has to know.
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Highlights:
02:55 1989-An Intriguing Encounter
11:55 Off to Africa
19:05 Watch Out for Red Flags!
29:02 What Constitutes Healing?
46:09 What's There Yet to Dream
“My goal is to lift them up with the strength of their actions even if their actions haven’t always been productive.”-Dr. Robert Weiss
We do anything and everything for the people that we love. Sometimes we fall into crisis dealing with our own relationship problems but we fall even deeper into that crisis by people who ridicule the things we do for love. Dr. Robert Weiss became open in such a field by overcoming the troubled seasons of his life. At present, his expertise is spread as a psychotherapist, sexologist and international educator. As the CEO of Seeking Integrity LLC, he is also reaching out virtually to create communities for many troubled people whose voices are covered by fear mongering.
This interview does not only shift our view from what’s wrong in our society but also what’s wrong with the way we deal with our own remorse. A lot of concepts are contrasted which gave rise to a new model that will lead us away from the path of trauma to the path of love. Learn more about how this model is built and why it is necessary in this digital age.
Change is good! Want to know what’s new in Family Recovery and Solutions? Listen to today’s podcast and learn what our host has to say.
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Highlights:
01:42 The Problem Leading to Problem
14:42 The 1980’s
26:56 Creating the Right Stage: Protective not Inhospitable
37:06 Fear Mongering Social Media
49:58 Becoming More Invitational and Less Blaming
“A lot of what I’d like to do is to try to help people, if they are in a dead end, to get out and decide for themselves how it is to be human”
Started out in Engineering and found a drive to go to Med school, Dr. Michael Levin discovered his passion in Addiction psychiatry. He is now an accomplished psychiatrist for 20 years in Denver, Colorado.
During this episode, Dr. Michael Levin talks about how addiction has followed him throughout his career as a physician, from his first patient who was an alcoholic to the AIDS patients who were mostly heroin addicts.
He also talks about profound topics like how it is to be human, the connection of addiction to love, Helen Fisher and her research, and how to understand an addict brain.
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Highlights:
01:07 The General idea about Dr. Michael Levin
04:14 What is an Addiction Psychiatry?
09:24 Love is complicated
21:21 Breaking down love and addiction
29:44 That addict brain- what you have to understand
“The healing process is ...educating yourself on your own emotion.”
Meet the woman behind two best-selling books: “Running On Empty- Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect” and “Running on Empty No More-Transform Your Relationship With Your Partner, Your Parents and Your Children.” Dr. Jonice Webb. She is an expert in Psychiatry and is now dedicated to helping people recover from Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN).
Perplexed by the seemingly identical symptoms among her patients, Dr. Jonice Webb has named this subtle and serious enemy that many people suffer from. We know, but little do we understand how childhood experiences determine our adult life. Learn from this podcast how CEN is developed from something that a child did not experience and how this haunting condition can be reversed.
Get the show notes, transcription and resources mentioned at http://thefamilyrecoverysolution.com/2019/01/09/jonice-webb/
Highlights:
02:10 Discovering the Clues with Dr. Jonice Webb
05:39 The Leading Question
13:25 Linking CEN and Addiction
33:14 Feeling the Feelings
43:03 Timing the Initiation
“The family is core for everything.”-Pam Feinberg-Rivkin
Being a nurse by profession and having to serve in many areas of the medical field such as dialysis, homecare and case management, Pam Feinberg is an eyewitness of how addiction is gradually injected from vials of trauma and drug prescriptions to people of varying age and backgrounds. Her own experience with a family member who battled with addiction fuelled up her desire to help others through an approach that is deviant from the common rehabilitation method.
In this episode, we also learn that true healing comes from a much broader and deeper sense. Here, Pam talks about factors leading to drug abuse and alcohol addiction as well as the significant role that each family member has on the period of and surrounding period of the recovery. This is not just a common story of journey to sobriety but also a reality of how “addiction in the family can be turned into an opportunity for the whole family to change.”
Get the show notes, transcription and resources mentioned at
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Highlights:
01:58 Getting a Glimpse of the CEO
08:57 The Generational Pattern of Drug and Alcohol Addiction
17:01 Help for Opposing Family Origins
26:12 Getting the Right Attitude
33:01 Outside Individualized Plans-The Holistic Approach
“I firmly believe that unless the family begins to change, there will be no change”
Despite growing up within a family beset with mental illness, Dr. Louise Stanger is an accomplished individual in the recovery field. She is an author, a speaker, a professor, mother, grandmother, widow and above all these roles she is a licensed clinician.
In this episode Dr. Louise Stanger speaks of her passion for the family; not just her family but for all families and their role in the process of recovery. Here you will get a preview of her 12 step solution, her beliefs about addiction and all about reattaching neuro texts from addiction to health and wellness.
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Highlights:
01:08 Meet Louise
04:43 The 12 step solution
10:00 Shifting the attention to the family’s part in addiction
18:33 The power of speaking from the heart
30:00 Letting go of someone who can’t help
“We all get the perfect lessons that we need if we are open to seeing them” -Pamela Ziemann
Pamela Ziemann is a catalyst for creativity and confidence. She is a former real estate appraiser turned actress, who encourages people to express their authentic self.
In this episode, Pamela talks to Jeff about her amazing journey towards discovering her passion for self-expression and most especially acting. They also discuss how taking on the different roles of her family in her shows have proved to be therapeutic.
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Highlights:
2:22 Pamela’s 60 years in a summary
6:16 The roles in the family
16:44 Pamela’s inner conflict
25:42 Portraying a role with permission
38:00 Truth in safety
"I don't have to fall into the box...and nobody does...you don't need to fit in a box" -Dr. Reef Karim
A star at whatever he does, Dr. Reef Karim takes time to sit and talk with Jeff about his passion for helping people express themselves.
Raised in a strict Indian family where, at the very moment he was born, his parents decided he was going to be a doctor. Reef proved himself different. He is now known as a psychiatrist, international speaker, writer, entrepreneur and a philanthropist. Well trained in improvising through his life experiences, Dr. Reef Karim speaks about his story, immigrant mentality within families, rule of differentiation, how to remove yourself from attachment and coming into your authentic self.
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Highlights:
06:55 Immigrant mentality
16:59 A call from a higher power
25:39 Reef Karim's thing
29:12 Rule of differentiation
36:55 What can you do if you're in that spotlight role?
Connect With Dr. Reef
Website: http://reefkarim.com
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/ReefKarim
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/doctorreef
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drreef/
Instagram:https://instagram.com/reefkarim
Twitter:https://twitter.com/drreef
“Addiction shouldn’t be called addiction, it should be called ritualized compulsive comfort seeking” -Alida Schuyler talking about what Dr. Daniel Sumrok said about addiction
She is one of the most interesting people Jeff has come in contact with, and Alida Schuyler’s life is a story to be told. Jeff met her 8 to 10 years ago while he was doing the Crossroads Recovery Program. She is the co-founder of Recovery Coaches International and Director of Crossroads Recovery Coaching Inc. Aside from this she provides private coaching for select individuals as well. Alida got her training for coaching from the Academy of Coach Training now known as InviteChange.
A certified Professional Life coach, Alida gets her inspiration for her work from the experiences she had from her own life.
Alida talks to Jeff about her life, her addictions and experiences that led her to this path. They also discuss what ACE (Adverse Childhood Experiences) is about, Orphan Syndrome, principles of harm reduction and how providing stability to the life of your child can affect his or her future.
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Highlights:
02:27 What is ACE? (Adverse childhood experiences)
09:00 Alida is an 8
19:03 ACE being used within the community
22:52 Finding stability amongst the chaos
34:38 Principles of harm reduction
“I really see where addiction in the family can create an opportunity for transformation for everyone” -Jeff Jones
Tables have been turned and Jeff is being put under the spotlight for this episode. Cody Wooten will be interviewing and Jeff Jones will be the one answering the questions.
Just a bit of a background about our interviewer: Cody Wooten has his own podcast called “Emerge leadership connection” and it is centered around leadership ideas and concepts to unlock legendary leadership. Jeff is connecting with Cody in line with the similarity of their mission; what Jeff is doing in addiction Cody is doing in business and leadership.
Jeff has always been curious about families, addiction and trauma. As a therapist by trade, he has made it his mission in some way to understand and guide people through these circumstances. Jeff talks to Cody about his own journey with his own demons, how addiction can affect the whole family unit and the ways that can help them heal together.
Jeff also discusses the significance of his upcoming book entitled “It’s not your fault: Recognizing the family solution to addiction disruption” and how it can truly guide, not just the addicted party, but the whole family itself towards healing.
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Highlights:
07:25 What’s up with Jeff Jones?
14:09 What does addiction really mean?
33:45 And there is the Spotlight Diagram...
51:10 The labels are now identified
62:00 Jeff’s own story
73:18 The roles people play in the life of an addict
79:19 Jeff talks about his book “It’s not your fault: Recognizing the family solution to addiction disruption”
Josh discusses with Jeff Jones how he started, the demons that he overcame, how rehab is not just a journey for the addict but for the whole family, how hard it is to face the truths of addiction and how rehabilitation can really change the lives of people around you.
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Highlights:
2:16 The new guy in Colorado
8:00 Learnings are for everyone in the family when it comes to rehabilitation
13:18 Chronic Uniqueness
22:50 Truth hurts
26:18 Family healing vs Silo healing
“Love brought me back to where I needed to be. If I didn’t have people that loved me and cared about me, I probably wouldn’t be alive.” ~Adam
So many families believe that if they can fix that one person that seems to need the most help, then the whole family dynamic will be fixed as well. Adam and Lindsay Yurack understood that this concept was far from the truth. While Adam was going through his rehabilitation, Lindsay sought her own therapy, allowing both of them to come out of their darkest times together stronger than ever. Join Jeff as Adam and Lindsay share their inspiring journey together to overcome Adam’s addiction, and a few key points such as: Lindsay’s understanding that they both had to do the work to rebuild their relationship, how Adam’s family’s love and connection saved his life, and what the family structure that they have built together looks like to continue to support and withstand the trials of recovery.
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Highlights:
01:42 In the beginning
05:20 Recognizing there was a problem
09:54 The unpretty breaking point
16:26 She had to let go, and he then realized he hadn’t been alone
25:18 Healing together as a family
33:16 What the family structure looks like now
“What I mean by being addicted to meetings was that I was getting something there that I really wanted and needed. What I understand it now to be is connection, relatability, community, and fellowship. All very important things.”
Almost 36 years ago Bill went to his first AA meeting and became sober from substances. While he was no longer drinking, he became addicted to AA meetings, or more importantly, what they offered him. He found a place for connection, relatability, community, and relationships. Tune in with Jeff as Bill shares his journey of sobriety, how transparency and connection with likeminded people helped him along his way, how we must listen to what our bodies are telling us, alcoholism is a family disease that all involved need recovery from, and his insights on living in the present and minding our own business.
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Highlights:
02:05 Who Bill is
05:14 Early recovery
10:26 Addicted to AA Meetings
15:08 Emulating those he admired
20:30 Sober but absent
26:38 Bill’s upbringing
30:05 Taking time to work on the internal healing
39:05 Alcoholism is a family disease
43:33 Trust your body
“I now know that when I feel resistance to something there is a lesson to be learned, there is something to free myself from, and there is freedom on the other side of it.”
Stephanie McAuliffe has had a lifetime of experience dealing with alcoholism. As a child, young adult, and two marriages, alcohol was a key ingredient in her closest relationships. Hindsight 20/20, she now understands that the universe always gives you exactly what you need, when you need it. Having the right focus on what you want, and the right energy behind it is crucial. Listen as Jeff and Stephanie discuss how energy can be harbored in certain areas of our bodies and cause ailments and how meditation can actually heal our bodies, the family needs recovery just as much as the alcoholic, how important it is to be honest about the situation and your part in it, and that there is no going back to normal once a loved one is in recovery- it is about establishing your new normal.
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Highlights:
02:34 Saw it, lived it, and married two alcoholics
11:15 Understanding body, mind, and spirit
16:02 Husband number one and husband number two
27:04 Not just the drinker needs recovery
38:10 How do you want to feel?
44:31 Feel Everything And Rise
“I’m all for tech, and all for the applications and the great things we’re doing with it. But I’m also all for a balance.”
Growing up, Doctor Dustin Weissman enjoyed the internet and gaming and was known as “Mr. Tv” as a kid to his mom. Being a millennial allowed him to grow with the internet age and the virtual world as it developed over time. While working on his dissertation he researched “MMORPG” (Massively Multiplayer Online Role Playing Games) and this has helped him to find his niche and specialty in internet addiction; specifically the five major areas of addiction in gaming, gambling, porn, social media/smartphone, and virtual reality. Tune in as he discusses the positive and negatives of the internet, creating healthy boundaries with your smartphone, three age groups and their suggested screen time use, and how important it is for parents to model the appropriate screen time behavior to set good examples for their children.
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Highlights:
01:05 A specialty in internet addiction
07:10 Cooperative and problematic use of technology
15:30 Creating boundaries for screen time
22:40 Appropriate screen time for children/adolescents
32:30 Parents are setting the example
38:05 It’s all about the balance
45:22 Connecting with Dustin
I am on this mission to really bring back empathy.”
Coming from a family where your only worth is what you do, Doctor Mark Goulston was feeling a whole new low when he requested to take his second leave of absence from medical school. Just as life seemed as though it couldn’t get worse, he was called into the dean’s office to be notified that he was getting kicked out of college. In that moment of worthlessness the dean was kind to him and told him that he had value, a goodness in him that they can’t teach in medical school, and a future. Doctor Goulston has made it his mission to pay it forward and to teach the world how to reach people in just the way that the dean reached him in a moment of true despair. Tune in as Doctor Goulston discusses with Jeff the plummet of being suicidal, masculine and feminine energy and its effects on cortisol, and his seven word technique of assertive empathy to break through the log jam of an addicted brain.
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Highlights:
01:34 A man of many stories and accomplishments
08:18 What happens when you are suicidal
17:01 Masculine energy and feminine energy
22:57 Interventional empathy and the seven word technique
31:00 Dealing with the irrational and the impossible
36:38 People are hungry for oxytocin
“While they are still with you, you let them know you love them. You let them know you believe that they can get well. That’s probably the only thing you can help with because we are really pretty powerless.”
First, Maureen Cavanaugh, Founder and President of Magnolia New Beginnings and author, is a mother of four. When raising her children, she did everything by the book. Maureen brought her children to church, they had family meals together, her children held jobs, they knew that they were loved, and yet her daughter stumbled into substance abuse. While missing the signs of her own daughters’ addiction, she has a determination to not allow another family to fall victim to this life-altering disease. Today, her daughter faces struggles but has been successful and doing fantastic for the last 14 months! Tune in as Maureen shares with Jeff the little warning signs and how to face them head on, the dire need to get rid of the shame and stigma around addiction, the value of reaching out and having support, and how Magnolia New Beginnings helps connect those in need with the right resources to guide them through the chaos.
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Jesse Harless: Focusing on Strengths
In this episode, Jeff and Jesse discuss:
· Addiction doesn’t always start with drug and alcohol addictions. It can start in childhood with coping mechanisms and pain and trauma in childhood.
· What Jesse has learned from journaling and how his style of journaling has changed over the years of recovery.
· How action plays a part in recovery.
· Awareness of the little things and not looking at things through one lens, but rather as a part of a larger picture.
Key Takeaways:
· Journal your journey – you’ll look back and be amazed at what has happened.
· Have love and compassion at all times, even when it’s difficult.
· Change has to come from within the person. It may take the consequences to be the catalyst of change, but the change still must come from within.
· Frame questions to pull a positive takeaway, even in negative situations.
"The big thing for me is having a sense of purpose. That’s really critical for long term recovery is having purpose, and that can mean different things for different people." — Jesse Harless
Connect with Jesse Harless:
Website: JesseHarless.com & MyRecovery.com
Email: Jesse@JesseHarless.com
Book: Smash Your Comfort Zone with Cold Showers: How to Overcome Bad Habits, Defeat Your Anxiety, and Boost Your Energy Using the Power of Cold Showers
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Jeff Jones MA, LPC, CACIII
The Family Recovery Solution: Addiction Navigation for Families
www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TFRSolution/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/TFRSolution
Online Family Recovery Community: www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com/community
Families Navigating the Rapids of Addiction & the River of Recovery
Show notes by show producer/podcastologist: Chelsea Taylor-Sturkie
Audio production by Turnkey Podcast Productions. You're the expert. Your podcast will prove it.
Heidi Le: Resource for Transformation
In this episode, Jeff and Heidi discuss:
- Her experience as a family member of an individual struggling with addiction and her own journey as a recovering co-dependent individual.
- There is no one answer, it may be an environment change, new relationships, a learning of new skills, or something else.
- Finding a safe community where you can be open about your journey.
- How her music has helped her through her journey and her recovery.
Key Takeaways:
- Just changing your environment and relationships does not change who you are and the ways that you may be struggling.
- When you reach a fork in your life, you get to choose - both paths are going to be painful, are you going to have the pain of getting stuck or the pain of getting well?
- Isolation feeds addiction, anxiety, depression, and all the other dark things. Community can help to counteract that darkness.
- If what you’re doing now isn’t working, don’t be afraid to try something new. The first group or meeting or counselor may not be the right fit, but just keep trying.
- Nobody is too far gone to find recovery and find healing.
"It’s a powerful thing to be able to take a break or move away from a dysfunctional environment, but that’s rarely the only solution. We still have to do our internal work to get well. Without our internal work to really get well from the inside, we tend, as humans, to recreate what feels familiar." — Heidi Le
Connect with Heidi Le:
Twitter: @HeidiLeMusic
Facebook: Heidi Le
Website: HeidiLeMusic.com
ITunes: Heidi Le
Book: Confessions of the Broken
Instagram: heidilemusic
Youtube: Heidi Le Music
Album: Confessions of the Broken
Spotify: Heidi Le
Blog: Confessions of a Codependent Rock Chick
References:
Book: Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie
Website: FacingAddiction.org
| Got ideas? Perhaps a future podcast? Schedule time with Jeff here: https://meetme.so/jeffjones Jeff Jones MA, LPC, CACIII The Family Recovery Solution: Addiction Navigation for Families www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TFRSolution/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TFRSolution Online Family Recovery Community: www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com/community Families Navigating the Rapids of Addiction & the River of Recovery Show notes by show producer/podcastologist: Chelsea Taylor-Sturkie Audio production by Turnkey Podcast Productions. You're the expert. Your podcast will prove it. |
Heidi Le: Resource for Transformation
In this episode, Jeff and Heidi discuss:
- Her experience as a family member of an individual struggling with addiction and her own journey as a recovering co-dependent individual.
- There is no one answer, it may be an environment change, new relationships, a learning of new skills, or something else.
- Finding a safe community where you can be open about your journey.
- How her music has helped her through her journey and her recovery.
Key Takeaways:
- Just changing your environment and relationships does not change who you are and the ways that you may be struggling.
- When you reach a fork in your life, you get to choose - both paths are going to be painful, are you going to have the pain of getting stuck or the pain of getting well?
- Isolation feeds addiction, anxiety, depression, and all the other dark things. Community can help to counteract that darkness.
- If what you’re doing now isn’t working, don’t be afraid to try something new. The first group or meeting or counselor may not be the right fit, but just keep trying.
- Nobody is too far gone to find recovery and find healing.
"It’s a powerful thing to be able to take a break or move away from a dysfunctional environment, but that’s rarely the only solution. We still have to do our internal work to get well. Without our internal work to really get well from the inside, we tend, as humans, to recreate what feels familiar." — Heidi Le
Connect with Heidi Le:
Twitter: @HeidiLeMusic
Facebook: Heidi Le
Website: HeidiLeMusic.com
ITunes: Heidi Le
Book: Confessions of the Broken
Instagram: heidilemusic
Youtube: Heidi Le Music
Album: Confessions of the Broken
Spotify: Heidi Le
Blog: Confessions of a Codependent Rock Chick
References:
Book: Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie
Website: FacingAddiction.org
| Got ideas? Perhaps a future podcast? Schedule time with Jeff here: https://meetme.so/jeffjones Jeff Jones MA, LPC, CACIII The Family Recovery Solution: Addiction Navigation for Families www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TFRSolution/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TFRSolution Online Family Recovery Community: www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com/community Families Navigating the Rapids of Addiction & the River of Recovery Show notes by show producer/podcastologist: Chelsea Taylor-Sturkie Audio production by Turnkey Podcast Productions. You're the expert. Your podcast will prove it. |
Morgana Rae: Abuse is NOT Personal
In this episode, Jeff and Morgana discuss:
· Morgana’s story of her experience with addiction through childhood and her teenage years.
· Morgana’s relationship with her parents and sister and how they have continued to affect her into adulthood.
· The need for healthy relationships, even if you have to create them.
· Even when it feels personal, it’s not. It’s a person with a disease and a person in pain, whenever you can, remove yourself from the line of fire.
· The connection with loving one’s self and one’s self and world.
Key Takeaways:
· Our pain humanizes us. Our experience of pain gives us the capacity to respect the experiences of other people.
· Look for the gifts that you learned through someone else’s addiction and the wounds that came from that experience.
· Be willing to set boundaries and hold to them. You deserve that for your own life.
· You can love someone without allowing them to abuse you.
· Fill your life with real, quality relationships everywhere else. Don’t look for something where you aren’t going to get it.
"Her disease is not personal to me at all. It has nothing to do with me. I just happened to be the person in the room. Mom needs a villain, she does, she doesn’t even know who I am. And that takes away a lot of the pain so that I can really love her." — Morgana Rae
Connect with Morgana Rae:
Website: http://www.morganarae.com/
Got ideas? Perhaps a future podcast? Schedule time with Jeff here: https://meetme.so/jeffjones
Jeff Jones MA, LPC, CACIII
The Family Recovery Solution: Addiction Navigation for Families
www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TFRSolution/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/TFRSolution
Online Family Recovery Community: www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com/community
Families Navigating the Rapids of Addiction & the River of Recovery
Show notes by show producer/podcastologist: Chelsea Taylor-Sturkie
Audio production by Turnkey Podcast Productions. You're the expert. Your podcast will prove it.
Donna Deluca Marston: Donna’s Journey
In this episode, Jeff and Donna discuss:
· Taking care of yourself, even in the midst of someone else’s struggle with addiction.
· How she realized her emotional state and was able to work her way back up to a higher state of emotional wellbeing.
· The importance of contracts between yourself and the individual struggling, especially if you are co-habitating.
· Labels and the problems that come along with labelling a person.
· Creating a love code with your children.
Key Takeaways:
· When we hit our enough, we are able to detach with love.
· Someone else’s struggle with addiction is not your fault.
· Don’t rely on verbal agreements, get it in writing.
· Educate yourself between co-dependency and enabling, and helping verses enabling.
· Mean what you say, say what you mean, but don’t say it in a mean way.
"It is really important that we see the person first, then their disease." — Donna Deluca Marston
Connect with Donna Deluca Marston:
Website: www.donna4support.com
Email: donna@donna4support.com
Book: Peeling the Onion
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Jeff Jones MA, LPC, CACIII
The Family Recovery Solution: Addiction Navigation for Families
www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TFRSolution/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/TFRSolution
Online Family Recovery Community: www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com/community
Families Navigating the Rapids of Addiction & the River of Recovery
Show notes by show producer/podcastologist: Chelsea Taylor-Sturkie
Audio production by Turnkey Podcast Productions. You're the expert. Your podcast will prove it.
Lynda Hacker Araoz: Mother’s Journey
In this episode, Jeff and Lynda discuss:
- Lynda’s background with teenagers, as a teacher and counselor, and how addiction has affected her life.
- Windows of opportunity and ways to work with other inside the system to take advantage of those windows.
- The importance of preparing yourself for the long haul – it may not be a short term process.
- Timing and communication make all the difference – when to talk makes as much of a difference as what you talk about.
Key Takeaways:
- Formulas don’t work for everyone. There is no one formula. It’s a moment by moment decision.
- An admittance of addiction is not always a cry for help and a desire to get better.
- Addiction is like a game of Chutes and Ladders – there will be ups and downs on the journey to recovery.
- Having a safe space where you can go and just be and let go of everything for a time.
- Recovery is not an event, it’s a process. Maintaining a relationship with the person struggling with addiction throughout can provide stability through the process.
"We are all so much more than the circumstances that we face. And yet, the circumstances we face are what often consume us." — Lynda Hacker Araoz
Connect with Lynda Hacker Araoz:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lynda.hacker.5
Website: https://www.weightofafeather.com/
Book: The Weight of a Feather: A Mother’s Journey Through the Opiates Addiction Crisis
LinkedIn: Lynda Hacker Araoz
Blog: http://www.opiatecrisiscommentary.com/
| Got ideas? Perhaps a future podcast? Schedule time with Jeff here: https://meetme.so/jeffjones Jeff Jones MA, LPC, CACIII The Family Recovery Solution: Addiction Navigation for Families www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TFRSolution/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TFRSolution Online Family Recovery Community: www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com/community Families Navigating the Rapids of Addiction & the River of Recovery Show notes by show producer/podcastologist: Chelsea Taylor-Sturkie Audio production by Turnkey Podcast Productions. You're the expert. Your podcast will prove it. |
Stewart Michaelson: There’s Always Hope
In this episode, Jeff and Stewart discuss:
· Stewart’s story and how he got involved in the addiction/recovery community
· Ways in which parents/families both help and hinder individuals with addiction
· Mental Health as a public policy issue
· The importance of environment and of having a safe space with like minded people
Key Takeaways:
· You can’t help somebody who doesn’t want to be helped, they must take the first step
· Addiction is a structural problem, family is a structural solution
· People don’t want to talk about mental health (including addiction) and they think it doesn’t affect them – this is the first part of the problem
· Don’t give up – there’s always hope.
"For anyone who’s in addiction, it’s not a sprint. It’s a long term journey." — Stewart Michaelson
Connect with Stewart:
Twitter: https://twitter.com/jtnnetwork
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jointhenationnetwork/
Website: http://www.askme4myhelp.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jointhenationnetwork/
Podcast: Join the Nation Radio - http://www.blogtalkradio.com/jointhenation
Phone: 305-290-6090
Show notes by show producer/podcastologist: Chelsea Taylor-Sturkie
Audio production by Turnkey Podcast Productions. You're the expert. Your podcast will prove it.
Got ideas? Perhaps a future podcast? Schedule time with Jeff here:https://meetme.so/jeffjones
Jeff Jones MA, LPC, CACIII
The Family Recovery Solution: Addiction Navigation for Families
www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com
Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TFRSolution/
Twitter:https://twitter.com/TFRSolution
Online Family Recovery Community:www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com/community
Families Navigating the Rapids of Addiction & the River of Recovery
In this episode, Jeff discusses:
- The three stakeholders in addiction: individual, family, community
- The trajectory of impact and the addiction disruption
- The importance of changing the way we think about addiction
- The structure of the online community is to flip the trajectory of impact to the trajectory of healing
Key Takeaways:
- When families are preoccupied with the tragedy and chaos are not able to contribute to their community in the same way
- Community impact with anonymity – allows you to do things at your own pace and build trust
- You can implement what makes sense to you from the community into your family situation
- Changing your behavior can help change those around you.
"One of the things I think about is, underneath changing the conversation is, changing the way we think about addiction." — Jeff Jones
| Got ideas? Perhaps a future podcast? Schedule time with Jeff here: https://meetme.so/jeffjones Jeff Jones MA, LPC, CACIII The Family Recovery Solution: Addiction Navigation for Families www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TFRSolution/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TFRSolution Online Family Recovery Community: www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com/community Families Navigating the Rapids of Addiction & the River of Recovery Show notes by show producer/podcastologist: Chelsea Taylor-Sturkie Audio production by Turnkey Podcast Productions. You're the expert.Your podcast will prove it. |
Emerald Green Forest: A Soul’s Healing Journey
| In this episode, Jeff and Emerald discuss: · Emerald’s story and how she has gotten to where she is now – including the ongoing chapters of her life · Power as a dynamic in relationships – power over and power with (or true power) · The power of love as a tool and a strength for positive growth – as the antithesis of fear, which only fuels the negative · Seeing addiction as an invitation for individual and family transformation Key Takeaways: · Act from love - self love, don’t react from fear · You only have power to do your own work – but that power will allow you to navigate to the highest outcomes possible · Nurture the moments of beauty, joy, wonder, and miracle · Nothing is stronger than love and it starts with loving yourself. "The only connection that you can really, fully, 100% count on, is your connection to your own self – your own heart."—Emerald Green Forest Connect with Emerald: Website: emeraldgreenforest.com Show: Men On Purpose Free Gift: The Instant Clarity Meditation Got ideas? Perhaps a future podcast? Schedule time with Jeff here: https://meetme.so/jeffjones Jeff Jones MA, LPC, CACIII The Family Recovery Solution: Addiction Navigation for Families www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TFRSolution/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TFRSolution Online Family Recovery Community: www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com/community Families Navigating the Rapids of Addiction & the River of Recovery Show notes by show producer/podcastologist: Chelsea Taylor-Sturkie Audio production by Turnkey Podcast Productions. You're the expert.Your podcast willprove it. |
| Addiction – It’s Personal In this episode, Jeff discusses: · Why he is doing what he is doing · Stories of his grandfather’s addiction trickling down to his mother’s trauma/coping and then realizing his own · The 4 recurring themes: Positive Regard, Secrets, The Gift is the Wound/The Wound is the Gift, & Curiosity · These themes will impact the questions and conversations in the podcast Key Takeaways: · Addiction may not seem chaotic, but will always have an impact · The impact from addiction manifests as different strategies or survival roles in the family · Each role is a strategy to cope with what’s going on around them, the impact to their own nervous system, compensate for the addiction and stay connected as a family · Recognizing your own coping and learning new skills is how individuals and families make change "What this podcast is about is about shining light on family challenges and the strengths they have to become a stronger part of the solution for addiction in their own family, but also together, building social capital and, ideally being able to make change in the statistics with addiction today.”— Jeff Jones Got ideas? Perhaps a future podcast? Schedule time with Jeff here: https://meetme.so/jeffjones Jeff Jones MA, LPC, CACIII The Family Recovery Solution: Addiction Navigation for Families www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TFRSolution/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TFRSolution Online Family Recovery Community: www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com/community Families Navigating the Rapids of Addiction & the River of Recovery Show notes by show producer/podcastologist: Chelsea Taylor-Sturkie Audio production by Turnkey Podcast Productions. You're the expert. Your podcast will prove it. |
| Welcome to Families Navigating Addiction & Recovery Our goal with “Families Navigating Addiction & Recovery” Podcast is to introduce our audience to interesting and authentic voices in the world of recovery. “Families Navigating Addiction & Recovery” is about families. It’s about communities. It places addiction in its proper context and empowers every family member to achieve a better outcome – a transformation. Part of our work is bringing together these voices. Providing a platform, for people like you, to share your stories and perspectives creates an opportunity to reach someone. To touch their lives. To help improve outcomes for individuals, families, and communities. Together. Got ideas? Perhaps a future podcast? Schedule time with Jeff here: https://meetme.so/jeffjones Jeff Jones MA, LPC, CACIII The Family Recovery Solution: Addiction Navigation for Families www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TFRSolution/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TFRSolution Online Family Recovery Community: www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com/community Families Navigating the Rapids of Addiction & the River of Recovery Show notes by show producer/podcastologist: Chelsea Taylor-Sturkie Audio production by Turnkey Podcast Productions. You're the expert.Your podcast will prove it. |