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Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM
Do you long to be a more intentional mom but you feel overwhelmed or weary or just don't have a clear path to the next step toward a successful family life? The Practically Speaking MOM, Val Harrison, is here to bring some order to the chaos and some focus to the confusion. You don’t have to be the perfect mom to have a strong family, you need a plan! Join author, speaker, mother of seven, and grandma of two, as she shares wisdom and encouragement about the six areas of an intentional mom's life. You'll learn from her years of experience, successes, mistakes and redemption. Val and her husband Rich, married 28 years, have three married children, two more in college, and two in her homeschool. This podcast covers all stages of parenting, from babies to toddlers to teens and beyond. Val wants to encourage you to not become weary in your work as an intentional mom, "Even with all its unique personalities, imperfections and scars; your family is God's masterpiece. Your efforts matter in this worthy journey of motherhood." Galations 6:9 says, "Do not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time you'll reap a harvest if you do not give up." Let's walk this marathon journey of motherhood TOGETHER, right here, every Monday on the Practically Speaking MOM podcast, the place for an intentional mom to build a strong family.
How do we help our kids on their path to wholeness in a broken world? Daily our kids are facing the same world that we are facing. They're trying to navigate a world that is constantly pushing and pressuring. Our kids are facing burdens and burnout while dealing with their own insecurities, fears, brokenness, and overwhelm. What should our journey with our child toward wholeness look like in a broken world? This is the final episode in the series Clarity for the Mission of Parenthood.
All eight episodes have focused on something Val calls wholeness.
A whole heart is not depleted but thriving, not stagnate in our brokenness but growing healthier, not closed off but open to giving and receiving love. It is fully engaged in living out God's unique design. A whole heart isn't remaining hindered by lies, insecurities, deficiencies, wounds, unrepented sin, or fears. A whole heart has been freed from those hinderances.First, let me remind you about where we have traveled in this series. We began this series (called Clarity for the Mission of Parenthood) in episode 212, where Val shared how developing a parenting mindset of wholeness SIMPLIFIES your parenting decisions.
Then, Val's husband, Rich, joined in for a few episodes where Val and Rich discussed wholeness in marriage, wholeness in sibling relationships and in our family unit. Finally, last week, Val began her top 10 tips for walking WITH YOUR CHILD toward wholeness.
In episode 218, Val covered #10 thru #6. They were:
10. Give your child a vision of the concept of their own wholeness
9. Pray more than you pester
8. Help your kids interpret their failures and wounds
7. Ask and Listen
6. Be impeccably trustworthy
Resources mentioned in this episode:Audiobook of Wearing All Your Hats without Wearing Out $10
Your Love Becomes Their Strength workshop $12
Unfortunately, the preschool songs
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How do we help our child grow in wholeness? How do we help them to flourish in God's design for them? How do we reach their heart for maximum impact?
In this series, we parents have been learning how to be ambassadors of wholeness for our own lives, in our marriage, to our family and among sibling groups. Now, in episode 218, we are looking at Val's Top 10 Tips for Growing Our Child Toward Wholeness.
Here's three resources that Val referenced in this episode:
Episode 129 about Circles of Influence
God of the Garden, Andrew Peterson
Freedom in Christ study
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How can we foster healing and wholeness for our family unit when sibling conflict is a real thing? How can we improve the family culture and the atmosphere of the home? Val's husband Rich joins Val on the podcast as they cover a lot of various issues and practical solutions in our journey toward Wholeness in the family unit. Be sure to all the way to the end because there are two important concepts that could change the way you parent.
In this episode, Val referenced an earlier episode that she said you'd want to listen to - Episode 149 Life-giving words episode w/ Dakota Hammond
She also introduces two impactful concepts: The Hebrew word Shema which means "to listen, pay attention with your heart and head, and take action."
Then Val shares a parenting concept she has coined "Expectant reciprocity."
Shema and Expectant Reciprocity are two keys to a family culture that supports healing and wholeness.
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The Key to a Lasting Marriage and a Happy Life:
This is the day! 32 years ago, we made a commitment to forever.
We didn't know what all we were committing to, but that's kind of the point.
The first half of the 32 years we didn't know how to do commitment from a place of nurturing one another, blessing one another, seeking each other's wholeness and health.
The second half of the 32 years, we've been living as ambassadors of wholeness for each other, ourselves, and our family.
An ambassador is on mission for the leader. We are on God's mission of restoring and healing. Everything we say and do either hinders or helps restore and heal another person and ourselves. We choose to heal. This has changed everything about our lives, our marriage, our family, and anyone that God brings along our life journey.
Every day we strive to build up, mend, and bless. We don't get it right all the time, but I can tell you this - having a partner in life that is committed with me to creating a life that heals means that every day, little by little, our relationship becomes stronger, we become more stable for those around us, and we are more committed to each other than ever before.
We began to prioritize taking time to mend and nourish one another.
Arguments stopped being a tug-a-war for power and instead were discussions to find common-ground solutions.
We no longer were willing to make little "one-up" zingers at each other that would jeopardize healing.
Nitpicking was replaced with encouraging words and having grace for one another's imperfections.
Because my goal was Rich's healed heart, mind, body, and spirit, I no longer was willing to compromise his progress just so I could "win" an argument or get my way.
Likewise, because Rich's goal was my healed heart, mind, body, and spirit, he gave more effort in finding ways to affirm me and restore my injured areas.
We both began digging deeper into unhealthy emotions, facing past trauma and earlier malnourishment, identifying generational toxins, and seeking to forgive old resentments.
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OBSTACLES in our child are really OPPORTUNITIES
- Opportunities to discover your child's unique design and giftings
- Opportunities to bond as you discover and face life together.
- Opportunities to teach your child how to navigate life.
We mamas work hard every day at reaching our children's hearts. It's a BIG, important job, and boy, oh boy, are there a lot of obstacles that stand in the way of our mission.
When it all starts feeling too big and too overwhelming, what can we focus on to reach their hearts?
In "Clarity for the Mission of Motherhood," we learn steps to SIMPLIFY our mission of partnering with God in removing obstacles that stand in the way of reaching the hearts of our children!
Let's talk about it TOGETHER in this new series, Clarity for the Mission of Parenthood.
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We mamas work hard every day at reaching our children's hearts. It's a BIG, important job, and boy, oh boy, are there a lot of obstacles that stand in the way of our mission.How can we live a lifestyle of meeting the needs of our children's hearts. We have these messages that we want to reach our children's hearts, but it seems there are obstacles that stand in the way.
Some obstacles include: heart wounds, clashing family dynamics, walls that they have around their heart, warped thinking about themselves (false labels), discouragement, sin, and more.
We talk about the lyrics from the song, Maria, from the Sound of Music. This song mirrors what we experience as parents. There are three hidden special messages in this song that help bring home the point of episode 213. Ultimately my child is a magnificent masterpiece, even if they have a lot of ways they still need to grow and improve. How can we help them grow without discouraging them? We talked about it in this episode. We are going to look at how God helps us grow one small step at a time even though we have so many ways we need to grow. God has clarity about the true mission for our growth.
When it all starts feeling too big and too overwhelming, what can we focus on to reach their hearts?
In "Clarity for the Mission of Motherhood," we learn steps to SIMPLIFY our mission of partnering with God in removing obstacles that stand in the way of reaching the hearts of our children!
Let's talk about it TOGETHER in part two of this new series, Clarity for the Mission of Parenthood.
Link - Episode 61: Small Changes with Big Results
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Are you a parent whose been calling S.O.S, feeling like you're sinking under the mountain of responsibilities with never enough time to get to what matters most - the hearts of your children? In this new series of the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast, we are busting through the obstacles that stand in the way of reaching your children's hearts. Part 1, episode 212 helps you to get a handle on your responsibilities. You are 20 minutes away from a big sigh of relief as we get practical ways to simplify your to do list. Let's break down that heavy pile of obligations TOGETHER! Not only do we deal with the mountain of responsibilities but also the interruptions and how to handle those too. Let's get growing, together, in episode 212 of the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast and part one of Clarity for the Mission of Parenthood.
We mamas work hard every day at reaching our children's hearts. It's a BIG, important job, and boy, oh boy, are there a lot of obstacles that stand in the way of our mission.
When it all starts feeling too big and too overwhelming, what can we focus on to reach their hearts?
In "Clarity for the Mission of Motherhood," we learn steps to SIMPLIFY our mission of partnering with God in removing obstacles that stand in the way of reaching the hearts of our children!
Let's talk about it TOGETHER in this new series, Clarity for the Mission of Parenthood.
Link to the book Wearing All Your Hats without Wearing Out: Finding Focus for Your Family to be the Masterpiece God Intended. Related Podcast Episodes that would be a good resource to go with this episode: Episode 2- Time Saving Strategies for Busy Moms, part 1: Manager of the Monkeys (and I don't mean your children)
Episode
Episode 5- Time Saving Strategies for Busy Moms, part 2: Getting Kids to Listen the First Time and Other Mom Hacks
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How can we navigate the delicate dance of nurturing family time/sibling relationships alongside the growing need for personal friendships in the lives of our children?
I'm often asked by extended family and friends, how is that my kids get along so well and have close relationships.
Today we'll be looking at one thing we did in our family that made a big difference to cultivate unbreakable bonds. AND YET, as our kids get older, their need for other FRIENDSHIPS increases. Is it possible to grow and maintain sibling relationships while also growing friendships? It can be tough, but doable!
Let me share practical HELP for navigating your child's growing need for other friends while cultivating sibling relationships as well.
We will use a LISTENER QUESTION to talk about balancing these facets of family life. I'll provide heartfelt guidance on a listener's dilemma about an older child's yearning for exclusive time with friends.
This episode is an essential listen for parents who wish to foster deep connections within their family while respecting their children's social development.
Embark with me, Val Harrison, on a heartening journey towards strengthening the family unit.
Also be a part of our "Intentional Mom, Strong Family" Facebook community where wisdom and questions flow freely.
In this episode, I also share a personal update on how Rich and I are diving deeper into our calling to help struggling marriages.
This is more than a podcast; it's a community of intentional parents, and your enthusiastic participation makes all the difference in creating strong families anchored by love and understanding.
LINKS:
Episode: https://www.practicallyspeakingmom.com/podcast/episode/78020fe0/130-part-2-your-childs-nine-circles-of-influence-on-their-self-perception-from-the-life-giving-words-series
Ebooks: Homeschooling in Real Life https://www.practicallyspeakingmom.com/product-page/7-system-for-homeschool-success-simplifying-schedules-records-and-curriculum
Ebook: The Homeschool High School Roadmap to College https://www.practicallyspeakingmom.com/product-page/the-homeschool-roadmap-to-college
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Season Five is here! Let's talk heart-to-heart! Now is the best time to share with your kids from your heart about love, dating, and marriage. Do you have your philosophies and principles figured out about these topics? I'm here to help! Your philosophy will impact the words you say, the jokes you make, and the guidance you give your kids years before they're even dating, so don't wait to figure it out! Let's talk about it TOGETHER! Navigating the maze of romantic relationships can often feel like an untamed wilderness for parents, but fear not, we can take this adventure together!
Join us, as we continue the journey as intentional parents building strong families TOGETHER!
Here's links to earlier episodes about parenting principles regarding dating and marriage (episodes with were the ones that we shared clips in this episode):
#125 "Family Bonding Activity & Wisdom-giving about Love, Dating, and the Meaning of Marriage
97 Modesty, Pitfalls from the Purity Movement, and Treasuring Sexuality
96 Val & Abby Share Keys to Waiting with Grace, Part 2
95 Conversation with a Teen about Guarding Your Heart, Part 1
#72 Teach Your Kids the Truth about Love, Dating, and Marriage
#22 Moms Marathon Path, and Are We Going to Teach Our Kids that Sex is Sacred?
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Need a parenting pick-me-up? Join in an episode to encourage and equip intentional parents to build strong families. In episode 209 you'll find
More HELP for sibling issues
Emphasizing CONNECTION in the family
*Family Bonding Activities Through BLESSING Others
Whether you're stepping into motherhood or have years of parenting under your belt, there’s something here for everyone. Join our growing community of intentional moms and strong families. Let's navigate this journey together.
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If you have multiple children at your house, you probably have experienced one sibling intentionally irritating another sibling, maybe pestering them, causing them unhappiness on purpose, possibly even bullying. What do we do about this? We're going to talk about it today in episode 208, right here on the Practically Speaking Mom Podcast. It's the place for intentional moms to build a strong family. I'm Val Harrison, your mom friend for the journey.
Ever felt overwhelmed when your kids come to you with stories of sibling irritations, and you're unsure of how to handle it? Buckle up, as we bring you an enlightening episode dedicated to handling sibling bullying and pestering. Find strategies to help the child who is doing the pestering, and strategies to help the one who is being pestered. Get to the heart of these sibling dynamics, helping you decode the stories your kids bring to you, without labeling them as tattlers.
Our exploration doesn't stop there; we tap into the five Rs - reflection, regret, repentance, refinement, and restoration for your CHILD, powerful tools to help your children understand their actions toward their siblings. We put the spotlight on the kids who might be causing disharmony, identifying the root cause of their behavior to channel their energy positively and build better habits.
Prepare for a power-packed journey of building stronger families.
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"May the Words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, oh Lord, my Roc...
Ever wondered how to balance an organized home while raising kids? That's what we're chatting about this week with the delightful Tiffany Deschner, a mom of four who shares some helpful nuggets of wisdom with us about joy in the midst of housekeeping and enjoying quality time with her kids. "Let's Get Real w/ Tiff and Val" is an occasional series, this time it overlaps with our ongoing theme of Habits to Thrive - where everyday intentional moms share their habits to thrive with our listeners.
In episode 207, we talk about the challenges of fostering productivity in our everyday life. Tiffany shares with us about 'blessing her future self' and her clever way of anchoring new habits into existing routines. She even lets us in on her strategy of using time tracking to handle her tasks efficiently. Sprinkled in this rich conversation is a thought-provoking discourse on the impact of social media on our lives, along with Tiffany's recommendation of Wendy Speake's 40-day social media fast for reclaiming control.
Hear how Tiffany motivates her daughters to take ownership of their spaces and how her husband's organized nature serves as the perfect foil to her spontaneous spirit - a balance that keeps their home in harmony. Tune in and let's journey together.
Want to hear more from Let's Get Real with Val & Tiff? Listen to episodes 70, 71, 73.
Want to hear more from the HABITS TO THRIVE series? Listen to episodes 192, 172.
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"May the Words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, oh Lord, my Roc...
Have you ever felt that sinking feeling when your child's weakness continues to cause issues for your child or for the family? I understand and have been there too! Take heart, mom friend, as those weaknesses may be important guides to our child's strengths. Yet, we still have to manage and finetune the weak spots. How do we do this all at the same time and in a way that doesn't squash your child's gifts?! We can do this TOGETHER! We can manage our child's weaknesses without trying to change their unique personalities. I'm Val Harrison, the Practically Speaking Mom, and I'll be sharing some of the strategies I've discovered, and I'm also going to share an embarrassing family memory in hopes that it helps you see that yours isn't the only imperfect family. We are all beautifully flawed and, well, we might as well laugh about the mishaps! More so, I discuss how the habits we help our kids form today will shape their lives tomorrow and why a child's weaknesses can actually be a roadmap to their strengths.
Together, let's explore the importance of identifying and managing our children's weaknesses in a way that allows their strength to emerge!
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One Announcement, Two Lists, and the Next Confidence Manner...
Imagine unlocking the treasure of good manners in your children and seeing them navigate the world with poise and confidence. This episode includes my favorite manners books and a character development chapter book.
Some programs mentioned in this episode include: AmericanHeritageGirls.org, TrailLifeUSA.com, Meals on Wheels, CYIA, and Teen Pact, Speech and Debate Leagues, STOA USA and NCFCA, designed for homeschooling parents keen on teaching speech, debate, and apologetic skills. We wrap up by discussing the art of maintaining attention, and teach your kids to be like a carrot, not like jello!
Some books I mentioned in this episode (they are not affiliate links):
The Berenstain Bears Forget Their Manners: Stan Berenstain, Jan Berenstain: 9780394873336 - Christianbook.com
Pinocchio's Quest, Grade 5: Robert Rogland: 9781932971118 - Christianbook.com
The Children's Book of Virtues: William J. Bennett: 9780684813530 - Christianbook.com
Happy Day Books, Level 1: A Child's Book Of Manners: 9781414394626 - Christianbook.com
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Ever felt a sense of unease discussing current events with your kids? Fear not, as we're here to help you create a safe haven at home while maintaining awareness of the world around us. Balancing knowledge of global events with the well-being of our children is paramount, and we draw on scripture to guide us through this journey. Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM, chose to push pause on the scheduled episode for this week to address how to handle an international conflict (currently the crisis in Israel) when we also want to protect our kids' delicate hearts and let them be young as long as possible. Discussing complex issues with kids can be daunting, but we're here to help.
Here are links to the videos I recommended about the history of the crisis in Israel:
https://www.prageru.com/video/the-middle-east-problem?fbclid=IwAR0hPEHGvAgVfrhT-PzkM4C7vRmdL9KQ_cVuXkGVS3TKmofGQoZSlZHIsTU
Why Isn't There a Palestinian State? | PragerU
Here's a link to the Wallbuilders Podcast, that I recommend you listen to their podcast on Fridays when they do Good News Friday:
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"May the Words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, oh Lord, my Roc...
What age should you begin equipping your kids with self-confidence habits? Start now! Toddlers are not too young to begin developing habits that will help them be more confident. Have you ever wondered how to instill the habits of confidence in your kids from an early age? Did you know that when your kids display confidence that other people have more confidence in them - which means they get their messages across and achieve their goals more often? But how do we actually equip our kids with the right communication skills and confidence habits they need to enhance their life? Today in episode 203 of the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast, I share my personal strategies for raising self-assured kids! It's an episode full of SIMPLE techniques for every mom in the many stages of raising your kids and helping prepare them for life. I've got examples for you from what manners to practice with toddlers to conversations with teens on how to bring up difficult issues with someone. These are simple techniques to impact your kids' habits in how they treat one another, the messages they send through eye contact and posture. We've got strategies for helping your kids to rise above timidity, there's so much here today so be sure to listen through to the end.
This is episode 4 in our Confident Kids/Confident Teens series. The first three episodes were discussions between me, Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM and three of my kids Abby, Andrew, and Emma. Those were #175, 201, and 202, you can find links in the shownotes.
Today is jam packed with practical help in what I did with my own seven kids BEFORE teaching them to step out of their comfort zone and become open to opportunities, along with sharing some of the skills I have taught to many students from my speech and communication classes from the past 20 plus years.
Today is like a communication 101 guide that also introduces you to the many types of confidence from mental confidence to spiritual confidence to body confidence and more.
We will also look at the significance of eye contact in how it plays a pivotal role in conveying value and attention during an interaction. Hop in and join us, as we explore the art of raising self-assured kids.
Be sure to check out my book Gaining Momentum: Preparing Your Student for a Career With or Without Coll
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"May the Words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, oh Lord, my Roc...
How important is it to make the most of opportunities to build confidence in your kids? Join me and my daughter Emma for a chat about confidence opportunities and the blessings that follow. We underscore the importance of stepping out of comfort zones to make a difference for others and yourself. Isn't it interesting that saying "yes" to opportunities leads to more opportunities. Such are the blessings of nurturing confidence in our kids and teens.
Want more from the series Confident Kids/ Confident Teens?
Listen to episode 175 with Abby Harrison and 201 with Andrew Harrison.
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"May the Words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, oh Lord, my Roc...
I wish every parent plus children that are middle school or older would listen to this episode. It will nourish your soul first and then will give you practical action steps based on sound life principles. It will wrap up by challenging your spirit. There's lots of wisdom steps here, whether you need spiritual grounding, interview skills, time management help, or to be winning at life, this episode will not disappoint.
Confidence is essential for all of us on the road to life success. Perhaps confidence comes from an unexpected place! Join me, Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM, and one of my grown sons, Andrew, as we talk about many aspects of success and the purpose of our striving. We touch on
How to grow in wisdom
Time Management Skills
Interview Skills
Networking Skills
Study Skills
Teacher and professor interaction skills
College scholarship or admissions interview skills
How to develop lasting confidence
Brace yourself for an enlightening conversation with Andrew Harrison and Val Harrison. Together, we uncover essential communication skills that can help teens and young adults (and really everyone) forge stronger relationships and interact effectively even in stressful settings. Andrew shares his wisdom on setting healthy boundaries daily and weekly, revealing how communing with God positively impacts all life facets. He also opens up about securing his internship, offering invaluable advice on study and interview techniques.
In the second part of our dialogue, we enlighten you on preparing for interviews, placing a spotlight on understanding the values of the college or company you're keen on. Discover the benefits of researching your interviewer, their background, and leadership style. We close with a powerful exploration of recognizing your identity in Christ. While success in life is important, we remind you that cultivating a relationship with God and serving His purpose holds the ultimate fulfillment. Dive into this enlightening discussion and find out how to instill confidence in your kids/teens to help them grow toward success habits.
Want more from the Confident Kids & Teens series? Listen to episode 175 featuring Abby Harrison.
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"May the Words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, oh Lord, my Roc...
Do you wrestle with societal pressures of being Super Mom while learning how to balance time and priorities? Do you find it difficult to keep your priorities when life gets difficult? We talk about it this week in the 200th episode and four-year anniversary of the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast.
Val Harrison is joined by her husband, Rich. They've been married over 30 years and have seven children and four grandchildren. And is also joined by their youngest daughter, Emma to co-host this milestone episode! If you listen to the very end you'll also hear the debut performance of grand little VIP Felicity!
This might be a celebration episode, but it is still packed with wisdom for your busy and blessed mama heart, to help you and your family to thrive!
We’ve come a long way in the last four years, reaching out to moms all over the world who all share the same goal - being intentional in partnering with God to strengthen their families.
The celebration doesn’t end here! As we look forward to what lies ahead in the rest of season four and beyond, we’re inviting you, our cherished listeners, to join in. Get ready to participate in our special drawings! We will have one winner for every 10 entries up to six winners. Celebration drawings end 8/29/2023!
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If you don't know how to share, you could share the website in a post and it will take them to the podcast. Our website is www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com.
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"May the Words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, oh Lord, my Roc...
Navigating the tumultuous waves of parenthood, especially during trying times such as a high-conflict marriage or divorce, often feels like a daunting voyage. We're joined this week by Angela, a beacon of empathy and wisdom from Hope Works Counseling, helping us chart our course with invaluable guidance. Angela stresses the importance of forging supportive anchors outside our children, reminding us to avoid burdening them with our adult struggles. She also underscores the significance of our words when talking about the other parent and the detrimental effect of negative speech.
As we continue our journey, we learn that honoring our children's other parent is a critical aspect of their emotional well-being, irrespective of our personal sentiments or the status of our relationship. Angela lends her expertise on erecting healthy, Godly boundaries that are deeply rooted in love, serving as protective barriers for ourselves and our children against potential conflicts. Furthermore, she emphasizes the need for self-care as parents, equipping us to offer our children the requisite emotional support they require. With Angela's guidance, we aim to step up our parenting game by becoming more intentional and loving, thereby nurturing a healthier family dynamic.
Helpful links from this episode:
Called2Rise.com
Hopeworks Counseling
Coparenting International
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"May the Words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, oh Lord...
Wouldn't it be nice if our life really was a fairy tale, and everything turned out the way we wanted it to? But life just isn't like that. Things get difficult and today we have a guest to help us with difficult. Join Angela and I for an encouraging chat on how to handle some of the most difficult circumstances in life.
What happens when a passionate mental health coach, Angela Starts from Called2Rise, shares her insights on managing life's challenging circumstances? You get a treasure trove of relevant advice and transformative insights!
Join Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM and her guest for a lively discussion on all sorts of topics regarding healthy family dynamics. Trauma, a difficult marriage, divorce, co-parenting, making the stepmom an ally, decisional forgiveness, how our bodies hold on to stress, and living in victory after difficulty are some of the topics explored. Parental alienation is also sifted under Angela's expert gaze. We tackle strategies to identify and protect our children from this phenomenon and hear Angela's personal journey through trauma and divorce that's led her to her current ministry.
This conversation is sure to motivate and inspire every parent. Listen in for these and more transformative insights that could be the key to a harmonious family life. So, buckle up and get ready for a fascinating exploration into the world of emotional health and family dynamics!
- If you're a mom aiming to build a strong family, our episode wraps up with an invitation to join our Intentional Mom Facebook Group. It's a supportive community where mothers like you navigate the journey of motherhood, together. We encourage one another in our worthy journey of motherhood, a divine appointment from our Creator, full of lots of challenges but also exceptional reward! Motherhood is messy and marvelous; let's navigate it together in the Intentional Mom Strong Family Facebook group!
Helpful links from this episode:
Called2Rise.com
Hopeworks Counseling
Coparenting International
Dr. Everett Worthington - Forgiveness
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"May the Words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, oh Lord...
Discover the power of four simple words: See, Say, Sit, and Step; Val's fundamental formula to assist children in separating their identity from their emotions, and expressing these feelings in a healthier way. We'll also look into the significance of setting boundaries around emotions, a vital step in maintaining our overall wellbeing.
Further, we delve into the intricate process of managing emotions before acting, hear Val's 'I Am' statements designed to help manage emotions.
This is the final episode in a series of four on Managing Emotions. Here are the first three:
Episode 194: Raising Emotionally Wise Kids and Teens
Episode 195: Five Steps to Emotional Wholeness
Episode 196: Balancing Emotions and Actions; and Facing Difficult Things
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"May the Words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, oh Lord...
Share some laughs, vulnerable honesty, and getting to the heart of emotional issues in this mother/daughter conversation. Join Abby and me, as we embark on a heartfelt exploration of emotion management and the courage required to face tough situations. We tackle the dangers of letting our emotions dictate our actions and offer guidance on maintaining control.
EPISODES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE
Episodes with Pam Swanson about the Blueprint of Every Heart 183, 184
"Mom & Teen Daughter Talk about Knowing Your Value, Leading Your Heart, & Navigating Relationships, Book Pick #3, Episode 156"
"Val & Abby Review Abby's #2 Book Pick, Episode 158"
"Help Middle School & Teen Girls to Grow Before Guys, Walk in Purpose, Live as a Leader in this Mom/Daughter Conversation about Abby's #1 Book Pick for Girls, Episode 159" (159 is Abby's Top pick and the book she mentions this week - Lady in Waiting- It's a book about making the most of every season of life you are i
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"May the Words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, oh Lord...
Who knew that the journey to emotional wholeness could start with a conversation between spouses? That’s exactly what happened for my husband and I, and it's a journey we've not only embarked on within our marriage and family life, but also as a teaching tool for others. In our second week on Raising Emotionally Wise Kids & Teens, let's examine our five-step approach to managing emotions, from identifying and evaluating them, to meeting the root needs, mending emotional wounds and finally, creating a plan for managing and fostering growth.
CLICK HERE for a downloadable page of the five steps including questions to ask.
There's nothing more challenging than recognizing unhealthy emotions and setting boundaries. That’s why we've dedicated an episode to the art of recognizing negative emotions, triggers of those emotions, mending the damage caused by our own actions or words, and creating a game plan for managing and fostering emotional growth. We even delve into a set of powerful questions that can help you on this journey, so don’t miss it!
Thank you for joining us on the Practically Speaking Mom podcast as we continue nurturing emotional wholeness within ourselves, our relationships and our community.
Want more on some of the topics mentioned in this episode? Here's some recommended episodes for more!
Root Parenting Episodes 25 -26
8 Layers of Influence (Social/Relationship related episodes) 129-130
Luke 2:52 Episode 14
Pam Swanson Episodes 183-184
Mental Health- Dealing with Lies We Tell Ourselves 16
Self-Care episode 31
Stress Management 43-45
John Maxwell's book: Thinking for a Change
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"May the Words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, oh Lord...
OH Mama the emotions we deal with all day long! Whether it is figuring out our newborn baby's cries, facing our toddlers tantrums, our middle schoolers wide range of feelings, or whether it is our own hormones and tiredness and stress which all generate some internal turmoil, emotions are a big part of parenting. Today, we are going to talk about raising emotionally wise kids while we become emotionally wiser also! Let's go!
Today is a follow-up to last week's podcast. You're listening to episode 194. Last week, in 193, we listened in to a recording of me as the guest on the MOM MADE PLANS Podcast. Toward the end of that episode, we heard me share a conversation that recently took place between my college daughter and me. Let's listen again to that scenario and then we will unpack some principles about raising emotionally wise kids.
A phrase often heard these days is EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE. To me, emotional intelligence really means that we have become wise about emotions - we have an appropriate awareness about the role of emotions in life. We are honest with ourselves and others about the role that feelings play in life, while also having a game plan for growth and maintenance of those feelings. Let's break it down.
Are you or your kids a People Pleaser? We talk about some characteristics to watch for or overcome.
We talk about the importance of recognizing how our physical needs affect our emotions, how to respond to our emotions in a socially responsible way, and the power of introspection.
At the end of today's episode, we look at a big pendulum swing that has taken place in our society since the 1950's. We went from being an emotionally unaware society to being a society that is driven by emotions. What's a better balance and can we achieve it in our families?
Next week, I will be joined by my son, Andrew, to discuss building confident kids. So, stay tuned for more insights into raising emotionally wise and confident children.
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"May the Words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, oh Lord...
Ever feel challenged as a parent, trying to understand and connect with your children who have vastly different personalities than you? Guess what, you're not alone! Last week we had Guest Julie Redmond on the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast. This week, I join her on her podcast while you all listen in! Join me, Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM when I was a guest on Julie Redmond's show, Mom Made Plans Podcast.
We're pushing the parenting discourse beyond the conventional, delving into root parenting as a technique to tackle the heart of any issue our kids might be facing. Using the treasure chest illustration, we highlight how to help our children recognize and celebrate their unique qualities.
Not forgetting the power of empathy, we dig into the life-transforming impacts it has on our kids. The necessity of developing top-notch people skills, the understanding of different personalities in the home, and the art of equipping our children to handle emotional support are other vital topics we unpack. All these and more, just a listen away when Val Harrison from the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast visited Julie Redmond from the Mom Made Plans podcast. Buckle up for a journey that promises to be enlightening, empowering, and above all, full of love.
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"May the Words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, oh Lord...
Need some new momhacks to simplify life? This mom chat will help! Whether your struggle is overwhelm, a constant messy house, or never-ending negotiations with your kids, Guest Julie Redmond of the Mom Made Plans podcast has some fresh ideas for you. She shares a game changer that has brought a sense of order to her household. Val & Julie chat about eliminating the stress of constant haggling and other momhacks to simplify life in episode 191, that goes with the occasional theme "Habits to Thrive."
Discover the beauty of assigning specific times for tasks and the immense difference it can make to your stress levels. We also shed light on the significance of teaching our kids the principles behind what we ask them to do. We can teach our kids how to get things done in a way that isn't just issuing commands, but is also preparing our little ones to thrive in life.
Julie also shares about consistency, SIMPLE meal planning, and the stress relief that comes with some basic scheduling tips. Julie shares how you can tune into her podcast and gain more insights. Julie says, "No schedule is going to work until you know how you work."
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Link to Julie's site- Mom Made Plans
Link to Julie's podcast
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"May the Words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, oh Lord...
Division seems to have grown in recent years about how to look at America's past and how to teach it to our children, How do we teach our children to honor our nation while also acknowledging complicated past flaws in a way that inspires the younger generation toward a brighter future? Intentional parenting requires facing complex issues, but we've got this! Val Harrison is joined by Andrew and Emma in this episode to help you see that it is possible to take an honest look at the pas, the present, AND have great hope for the future at the same time!
Lyrics: Ragged Old Flag, by the late Johnny Cash and a prayer by the late Billy Graham.
In our troubled times, the power of prayer is as significant as ever We conclude this week's episode reaffirming the divine strength that operates in our lives, a reminder relevant to families worldwide. So, come along, let's embark on this effort together of finding patriotism in an imperfect nation.
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"May the Words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, oh Lord...
It's a mother & daughter talk - invite your kids to listen too! Topics: The Joy of seeing your child find the Pursuits that makes them Come to Life! Three Character Qualities (Compassion, Courage, and Conviction) that Grow from Learning about Ture Heroes,Voice of the Martyrs
Adventures in Odyssey
Experiencing God Bible Study
Jesus Freaks
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"May the Words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, oh Lord...
Do you need a simple checklist for your kids of things to do before they can use electronics? Summer can be fun and productive for our kids at the same time. Two of my daughters join me on the podcast this week! Emma helps me with a SIMPLE PLAN for kids to keep themselves off of screen time until they’ve GROWN in some main areas of life EACH DAY! Let a CHECKLIST be their guide to being eligible for SCREEN TIME for the day instead of you feeling like you have to nag and harp and grouch at them to get them to do something productive with their days! The beauty of a CHECKLIST – the kids follow it instead of mom needing to repeatedly ask them to do things or for mom to try to think of what she wishes the kids would do to be productive before they get on their screens.
Simple plans for ways your kids can engage their mind and body, be creative, build relationships, and make the most of their summertime, rather than spending all of their time on screens.
Here's a link to an old blog post of mine that contains this week's GROWTIME before SCREENTIME Checklist https://www.practicallyspeakingmom.com/post/podcast-blog-growing-our-kids-even-in-a-pandemic-plus-mom-what-s-your-harriet-road
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"May the Words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, oh Lord...
Summer can be relaxing and developmental all at the same time, but it will require a little brainstorming and planning to fit both of those aspects into the limited 8-10 weeks we’ve got.
I'm going to share my list with you and you can pick and choose the activities you think would work well at your house AND maybe it will help you think of activities that are JUST RIGHT for YOUR FAMILY!
Don’t worry, these activities are not all parent-centered activities. After all, our kids need time alone just as much as we adults crave time alone. This post is about making the most of your child’s summer days.
I would encourage you to pick out which of the following activities must be completed each day by your child before they get in front of a screen for leisure.
Blog Post Link
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"May the Words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, oh Lord...
Click here to read the full BLOG POST related to this podcast, containing links to All that was discussed in this week's podcast. Abby & Emma join me on the podcast to share some ideas that are better than screen time! Most of us parents want summer to be flexible and fun for our kids, yet we don’t want that to mean they have complete freedom for their brains to wither away in front of a screen all day.
So let me ask you a question: How many summers do we get with our children?
Suddenly the realization of having only 18 or less summers with our growing kids makes the summer days so much more valuable. It’s time to be intentional.
Yes, summer should be full of leisure, fun, and rejuvenation but what it should not be is wasted. Summer can be relaxing and developmental all at the same time, but it will require a little brainstorming and planning to fit both of those aspects into the limited 8-10 weeks we’ve got.
I'm going to share my list with you and you can pick and choose the activities you think would work well at your house AND maybe it will help you think of activities that are JUST RIGHT for YOUR FAMILY!
Don’t worry, these activities are not all parent-centered activities. After all, our kids need time alone just as much as we adults crave time alone. This post is about making the most of your child’s summer days.
I would encourage you to pick out which of the following activities must be completed each day by your child before they get in front of a screen for leisure.
Chuck Black Books
Lamplighter Theatre - books and audio
Diana Waring: History CD’s
Focus on the Family Radio Theater, also find Adventures In Odyssey
Awana Club Audio Books
YWAM Audio Biographies
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"May the Words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, oh Lord...
In this episode of the Practically Speaking MOM podcast, my husband, Rich, joins me on the show to talk about the negative communication games that we gave up in our marriage and we give some pointers for having a communication overhaul in your family.
I also continue my introduction on Living a Lifestyle of Feasting with the Father When You Feel Like a Frazzled Mama, by addressing the fact that, as parents, we are the atmosphere-setter of our home!Get Val's book Clash In Your HomeRead my blog post connected to this episode:
"Overcoming Negative Communication Habits" on my website www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com**.Quotes from Episode 23"The communication habits that are happening in your home today are going to impact the communication of all of your children’s relationships in their future." "As a parent, the condition of my heart determines the words I say & the tone with which I say things, which affects my relationships with my kids and affects literally the atmosphere of our home. We are the atmosphere setters in our family’s life... In our own strength we can maintain a good atmosphere for a little while but when my heart is anemic for the spiritual nourishment I need from my Creator, Provider, Counselor, and Guide, I simply can’t keep up that positive atmosphere in my own strength for very long. The atmosphere of our heart is dependent on filling from the Father."*
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I think every parent, from time to time, deals with a child/teen not following through with their responsibilities. It can be frustrating. What's at the root of the issue? Let's explore some possible causes and solutions this week in episode 185 of the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast. EPISODE 61 is a wonderful addition to this episode. It's called SMALL STEPS to BIG Growth. It hits on a lot of practical help that I didn't have time to cover in this episode.
RESOURCES MENTIONED:
Val shares from page 58-59 of her book Wearing All Your Hats Without Wearing Out: Finding Focus to be the Masterpiece Family God Intended Click Here to look at the book CLICK HERE to order the AUDIOBOOK
Three values to consider when figuring out how to deal with a child that is not following through with their responsibilities.
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Value your own words as a parent so that your kids will value your words. Here's an episode on Getting Kids to Listen the First Time: Episode 5
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Value family systems to increase peace and freedom. Here's an episode on how to add family systems one at a time: Overwhelmed? Reduce Chaos One System at a Time Episode 10
And along with having family systems, you want to learn how to hand off a chore effectively. Here's an episode for that:Episode 2 Manager of the Monkeys
Here's one on teaching your kids a solid work ethic: Episode 7: Work Ethic and the Habit of Happiness -
Value self-evaluation - teach your kids how to identify root causes in their behavior. Here's some episodes on Root Parenting vs Surface Parenting, episode 25
Root Parenting, Digging Deeper Episode 26
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Wouldn't it be awesome if we could see our kids hearts on the inside? See what they need to function at their best to produce the fruit of good character in their lives and to have a strong relationship with God? Did you know the Bible has a blueprint for this? I grew up reading the Bible regularly and yet I completely was overlooking some really important elements to the Christian life. It is right there in scripture, but I just wasn't connecting the dots. My good friend Pam Swanson has connected the dots in a way that has been very lifechanging for me. She has made 15 free videos to help us understand God's blueprint for how our heart can function at its best. Her videos series is called You are a Living Temple. I've actually watched each one about 4 or 5 times because I want to soak in all of the content until it becomes second nature for me. As I have experienced so much insight from these videos, I began applying these concepts to parenting my children -helping them learn how to partner with God in shaping their character. That's when I decided that Pam needed to come on the podcast and share some of these concepts with all of you, my dear intentional momfriends
Click here for Pam's guest blog post
Today and next week on the podcast, for our parenting-focused podcast, Pam applies her information on how we are a living temple of God to parenting. We didn't design our kids and we don't know what is best. But God did. And he does know what is best.
Here's some links to connect with Pam...
Planbible Website:
www.PlanBible.com
Living Temple video series
PlanBible School:
https://school.planbible.com/
Study guide to go along with Pam's videos:
https://school.planbible.com/p/my-downloadable-39768
Connect with Pam in the Facebook Group: Abiding in the Vine
Pam's videos on forgiveness (and other videos by Pam)
Heartmath
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I asked Pam to come on the podcast because her videos have been life-changing for me. Her information helped me understand myself and my relationship with God more clearly. In turn, I began applying these concepts to my parenting and teaching these concepts to my kids to help them partner with God in reshaping their character instead of trying to work on changing in our own strength. Let's be on the same side and partner together in growing our kids' character according to God's design of every heart, Today begins our first episode in this new series, rip off the blindfold, It is only fitting that I would begin this new series with my good friend, Pam Swanson. She, and I spoke together at an event in which we were both speaking on the heart. We spoke on the topic of Our Hearts from two different angles. I, of course, was speaking from a parent angle on impacting our child's heart specifically on the six fundamental questions or longings of their hearts and how to answer those effectively as parents.
Pam was looking at our hearts from another angle. She was teaching on how we all were designed to be a living temple in which God could dwell and how that needs to impact our life, daily life focus, and character development. I began watching her videos.. After implementing the principles from these 15 free videos in my own life, I wanted to teach these practices to my children as well. Now I want to introduce them to you so they can impact you and your children as well.
Today and next week on the podcast, for our parenting-focused podcast, Pam applies her information on how we are a living temple of God to parenting. We didn't design our kids and we don't know what is best. But God did. And he does know what is best.
Here's some links to connect with Pam...
Planbible Website:
www.PlanBible.com
Living Temple video series
PlanBible School:
https://school.planbible.com/
Study guide to go along with Pam's videos:
https://school.planbible.com/p/my-downloadable-39768
Connect with Pam in the Facebook Group: Abiding in the Vine
Visit Val's website: PracticallySpeakingMOM.com
Join Val's Facebook Group Intentional Mom, Strong Family
Follow Val on Instagram and her Facebook Public Page Practically Speaking MOM
This is a listener supported podcast.
To give a set amount each month click here. A few dollars a month would help so much!
Here's some other ways to give:
Cash App: $valPSM
Paypal: val@PracticallySpeakingMOM.com
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All donations will be used for the ministry. Gifts are not tax deductible.
THANK YOU for partnering in this ministry to strengthen families and encourage intentional moms.
"May the Words of my mouth and the medita...
Weary Mama, I'm throwing you a lifeline in today's episode - sharing the way I have learned to daily replenish my heart and prepare for my day. I also do this with my daughter most mornings. (All of my other children have grown up. I will cherish this time with my last child and want to equip her how to handle the daily rigors of life from a place of peace, right in the middle of God's hands.
I want to welcome you to a different kind of practically speaking mam podcast this week. Today we are taking a slow pace - a peaceful, calm, rejuvenating pace. My desire. is that at the end of this episode, you will feel like you know a better way to be replenished in your daily life, This week also gives a little nod to a new series that I'll be introducing next week called "Rip Off the Blindfold" - I want to help you take off the blindfold that you may be wearing as you parent. We don't have to parent in the dark. Let's learn God's design for how our kids grow in character -that series begins next week. I introduce it this week. In this introduction to both my daily replenishing and introduction to a new series that begins next week, I tell you about my good friend and theologian, Pam Swanson from PlanBible.Com, who will be sharing such important and impactful content for two episodes beginning next week. This week is really my introduction of these two upcoming episodes!
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"May the Words of my mouth and the medita...
"Dear Younger Me" is an occasional theme on the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast. In this episode we feature Jyl Griffin - wife for 28 years and mom to five children, ages 25-11, with four biological and one adopted child. Jyl was also an adopted child. She beautifully shares how her being adopted impacted how she has chosen for her child's adoption to function.
Today's topics include:
*What an open adoption looks like in their family
*Things Jyl wishes she would have done differently in parenting if she could do it all over again
*22 Lessons she would tell her younger self -Dear Younger Me
Jyl is also a homeschool mom so some of her 22 points are specific to homeschooling, but most of them will also apply to all intentional moms.
CLICK HERE for the blog post from Jyl about the 22 things she would tell her younger self.
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THANK YOU for partnering in this ministry to strengthen families and encourage intentional moms.
"May the Words of my mouth and the medita...
No matter the age of your child/teen, there are ideas in this episode that can help you walk with them through anxiety, worry, fear, and also talking to your child about death or walking with them through the death of a loved one.
In episode 180, we're talking a little bit about breastfeeding, a little about parenting multiples, and a lot about helping your child to deal with anxiety, worry, and fear. This is a powerful episode for peace in you and your child.
Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM, is joined by one of her grown daughters, Becca Hammond, mom of three. Join them for a few laughs and a lot of HOPE & HELP for reducing fear in your hearts of your home.
Want to listen to more episodes with Val & Becca:
Episode 4 "Dealing with Lying in Your Child, Part 1, and Toddler Manners"
Episode 36 "Kids Emotions, Self-Sufficiency, and Talk with a Preschool Mom"
Episode 37 "Misbehavior: Opposition or Opportunity. Plus Potty-Training and Other Fun"
Episode 41 "Sibling Relationships, Family Values, and Lots of Laughs with Val's Four Daughters"
Episode 82: "Moms and False Inadequacy"
Episode 102 "Simplifying Hospitality from Teaching Your Kids to Be a Blessing series"
Episode 111 "Moms Health Journey & Managing Multiples with Becca Hammond"
Episode 149 features Becca's Husband: "Words that Impact, with Dakota Hammond"
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"May the Words of my mouth and the medita...
Change of plans! I had something planned for you (you'll hear it next week) but GOD had something different planned for you. So, I put my plan on hold for His. This week features some of the precious hearts that were in my home this week. I hope it brings you lots of encouragement!
*Because this was a last-minute change, we were not able to produce the sound quality that we usually bring to the podcast. I was hesitant to publish it since it doesn't meet our usual sound standards, but I didn't want to keep these messages from you. We'll get it better next time!
Link to episode with Andrew Dahilig: "Four Life Challenges for Boys, Reaching Middle School Boys with Guest Andrew Dahilig"
Link to The Knowledge of the Holy by A.W. Tozer
Next week: I'm joined in the studio with Becca Hammond, one of my daughters who is a mother of three. We talk about breastfeeding, parenting multiples, and we especially focus on HELPING OUR KIDS DEAL WITH FEAR. It's a great discussion so join us back here next Monday!
Visit Val's website: PracticallySpeakingMOM.com
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This is a listener supported podcast.
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Here's some other ways to give:
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All donations will be used for the ministry. Gifts are not tax deductible.
THANK YOU for partnering in this ministry to strengthen families and encourage intentional moms.
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Have you ever noticed that a bad attitude is contagious in the family? Parents have to get to the ROOT of the problem. In episode 178 we will look at how to deal with bad attitudes at various ages of our kids.
Link to earlier episode on teaching the habit of being joyful: Episode 7 "Work Ethic & the Habit of Happiness in Littles, Middles, and Teens"
Link to Root Parenting : Episode 25 "Root Parenting vs. Surface Parenting"
Link to Root Parenting Part 2: Episode 26 "Digging Deeper to Get to the Roots"
A lot of times, the unhappy child just needs to be shown how to handle life - how to handle circumstances around them, how to handle feelings, how to handle others around them, etc. As parents, we are not just making sure they are fed, clothed, and sheltered. Parents need to EQUIP our kids for the complex parts of life. We want to help them BLOOM in the aspects of their life. This episode will give you tools to help your children to deal with their bad attitude at various ages.
One person's attitude affects:
those around them
the atmosphere of our home
my attitude about other things
my attitude affects me physically
*my attitude prevents me from praising the Lord and glorifying Him
The habit of choosing joy, is better for me, for those around, and for God's Kingdom
Side note: Boredom, lack of direction, lack of accomplishment can be one contributing factor in a bad attitude. We really are designed to accomplish, overcome, discover, explore, investigate, and create. Kids need to be LIVING, not just existing. Are your kids spending too much time just being entertained? Let's get them moving and get their minds thinking.
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This is a listener supported podcast.
To give a set amount each month click here. A few dollars a month would help so much!
Here's some other ways to give:
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All donations will be used for the ministry. Gifts are not tax deductible.
THANK YOU for partnering in this ministry to strengthen families and encourage intentional moms.
"May the Words of my mouth and the medita...
When I was praying about who should be our initial guest for the first episode of "Dear Younger Me," God kept bringing my friend April Raccuglia to my mind. I am so glad she agreed to share her story.
God blessed April and her husband Mark with four adopted children and one biological child, all divinely designed.
In this episode you'll hear how God knit together this precious family as April shares four great lists with us:
Part 1, episode 176
Lessons Learned
Things I Did Right
Part 2, episode 177
Lies Moms and Kids Can Avoid
Seasons of Motherhood
"Dear Younger Me" is an occasional theme on the PSM Podcast where we bring on Seasoned mamas sharing what they wish they could tell their younger self - what I wish I would have known from the beginning of motherhood.
Visit Val's website: PracticallySpeakingMOM.com
Join Val's Facebook Group Intentional Mom, Strong Family
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This is a listener supported podcast.
To give a set amount each month click here. A few dollars a month would help so much!
Here's some other ways to give:
Cash App: $valPSM
Paypal: val@PracticallySpeakingMOM.com
Donate with a creditcard HERE
All donations will be used for the ministry. Gifts are not tax deductible.
THANK YOU for partnering in this ministry to strengthen families and encourage intentional moms.
"May the Words of my mouth and the medita...
When I was praying about who should be our initial guest for the first episode of "Dear Younger Me," God kept bringing my friend April Raccuglia to my mind. I am so glad she agreed to share her story.
God blessed April and her husband Mark with four adopted children and one biological child, all divinely designed.
In this episode you'll hear how God knit together this precious family as April shares four great lists with us:
Part 1, episode 176
Lessons Learned
Things I Did Right
Part 2, episode 177
Lies Moms and Kids Can Avoid
Seasons of Motherhood
"Dear Younger Me" is an occasional theme on the PSM Podcast where we bring on Seasoned mamas sharing what they wish they could tell their younger self - what I wish I would have known from the beginning of motherhood.
Visit Val's website: PracticallySpeakingMOM.com
Join Val's Facebook Group Intentional Mom, Strong Family
Follow Val on Instagram and her Facebook Public Page Practically Speaking MOM
This is a listener supported podcast.
To give a set amount each month click here. A few dollars a month would help so much!
Here's some other ways to give:
Cash App: $valPSM
Paypal: val@PracticallySpeakingMOM.com
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All donations will be used for the ministry. Gifts are not tax deductible.
THANK YOU for partnering in this ministry to strengthen families and encourage intentional moms.
"May the Words of my mouth and the medita...
Growing Confident Kids and Confident Teens happens day by day, so let's get growing in episode 175! This is a great week to let your kids listen to this conversation between Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM and one of her college-age kids Abby. Especially your middle schoolers, teens, and college kids will get a lot out of this episode. Moms with all ages of kids can get some great ideas to impact to confidence and success habits. This mom/daughter chat touches on volunteering, being proactive, learning how to network in life, realizing that you are always "building your brand," interview skills, and MINDSET that makes a difference. They talk about having healthy friendships, how to take constructive criticism, and who we allow to have the privilege of speaking into us. Then they end with some thoughts about parent/teen relationships.
Next week our topic will be Dear Younger Me. Val will bring on a seasoned mom of grown kids - one biological and four adopted children. She will share what she did well, what she wishes she would have done differently, and the important lessons she learned along the way in raising her kids.
Visit Val's website: PracticallySpeakingMOM.com
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This is a listener supported podcast.
To give a set amount each month click here. A few dollars a month would help so much!
Here's some other ways to give:
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All donations will be used for the ministry. Gifts are not tax deductible.
THANK YOU for partnering in this ministry to strengthen families and encourage intentional moms.
"May the Words of my mouth and the medita...
In episode 174 of the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast, we cover *resources for talking to our kids about current events and freedom, 2. spring break goals 3. Easter bonding plans, 4. Some details about parenting college age kids.
COUPON CODE is "MARCHsale" for 10% off anything in the PSM Store! Expires 4/1/2023.
Link to AUDIO BOOK of Wearing All Your Hats without Wearing Out $10 before coupon.
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THANK YOU for partnering in this ministry to strengthen families and encourage intentional moms.
"May the Words of my mouth and the medita...
Pull up a chair, grab a cup of tea, and let's encourage one another in our worthy journey of motherhood. Today on the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast we meet fellow mom podcaster Sasha Star Robertson. We're talking about keeping a "God first" lifestyle, Sasha's take on self-care (it might not be what you expect), and we even take a bit of a dive into church hurt. Do you have a church hurt experience? Sasha did but she found community again and we're gonna talk about it.
Meet our guest, Sasha Star Robertson. She is an Intentional Living & Biblical Mindset Coach for busy Christian moms, wife of 13 years to her best friend, boy mom x2 (blessed by adoption), travel addict, and Jesus freak. She is the founder of The Intentional Abundance Co., curator of the Life & Goals Planner, & host of the Intentional MomLife with Jesus Podcast.
Links to connect with Sasha:
Podcast: MomlifewithJesus.com
Website: https://intentionalabundance.life/
Freebie: SimpleBiblicalSelfcare.com
Facebook Community: https://intentionalabundance.life/community
Visit Val's website: PracticallySpeakingMOM.com
Join Val's Facebook Group Intentional Mom, Strong Family
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This is a listener supported podcast.
To give a set amount each month click here. A few dollars a month would help so much!
Here's some other ways to give:
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Paypal: val@PracticallySpeakingMOM.com
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All donations will be used for the ministry. Gifts are not tax deductible.
THANK YOU for partnering in this ministry to strengthen families and encourage intentional moms.
"May the Words of my mouth and the medita...
A stop at Lisa Beth's house will include lively discussion, a welcoming cup of tea or coffee, and smiles all around! Won't you join us for this friend talk?! Hear nine practical HABITS followed by a deeply meaningful one! Val says her good friend, Lisa Beth, is a simplicity master - she cuts out the fluff but not the love as she makes every day meaningful for her family. Get a sneak peek into life with Lisa Beth Hutchins!
While part 1 and part 2 are divided, we are publishing them both at the same time so you can keep right on listening if you want to. We are calling this a BONUS WEEK - when we have two episodes in one week. On a BONUS WEEK there will be NO EPISODE THE FOLLOWING WEEK. This keeps the workload manageable for Val's husband Rich who is the editor and producer of the podcast. Val and Rich are just keeping the ministry manageable for their family!
Here's a link to the Bible curriculum that Lisa Beth describes in part two, episode 172:
Bible Study Guide
Here's a link to the book Val and Lisa Beth discuss in part two, Irreversible Damage
About the NEW ongoing occasional Theme, "Habits to Thrive"...
Habits to Thrive - The actions that we do every day turn into who we are.
Our family's habits are shaping our home and our legacy, so we want to get them right. In this theme we hear from fellow mamas who have found some effective daily patterns for how their family functions. These are the habits that take us from surviving to thriving as a family. Whether these routine actions are about practical home system or about family relationship habits, habits about meal-making, spiritual disciplines, health disciplines or school habits, one thing is for sure, this theme will bring lots of hope and practical solutions to busy intentional moms! So, let's get started!
Visit Val's website: PracticallySpeakingMOM.com
Join Val's Facebook Group Intentional Mom, Strong Family
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This is a listener supported podcast.
To give a set amount each month click here. A few dollars a month would help so much!
Here's some other ways to give:
Cash App: $valPSM
Paypal: val@PracticallySpeakingMOM.com
Donate with a creditcard HERE
All donations will be used for the ministry. Gifts are not tax deductible.
THANK YOU for partnering in this ministry to strengthen families and encourage intentional moms.
"May the Words of my mouth and the medita...
A stop at Lisa Beth's house will include lively discussion, a welcoming cup of tea or coffee, and smiles all around! Won't you join us for this friend talk?! Hear nine practical HABITS followed by a deeply meaningful one! Val says her good friend, Lisa Beth, is a simplicity master - she cuts out the fluff but not the love as she makes every day meaningful for her family. Get a sneak peek into life with Lisa Beth Hutchins!
While part 1 and part 2 are divided, we are publishing them both at the same time so you can keep right on listening if you want to. We are calling this a BONUS WEEK - when we have two episodes in one week. On a BONUS WEEK there will be NO EPISODE THE FOLLOWING WEEK. This keeps the workload manageable for Val's husband Rich who is the editor and producer of the podcast. Val and Rich are just keeping the ministry manageable for their family!
Here's a link to the Bible curriculum that Lisa Beth describes in part two, episode 172:
Bible Study Guide
Here's a link to the book Val and Lisa Beth discuss in part two, Irreversible Damage
About the NEW ongoing occasional Theme, "Habits to Thrive"...
Habits to Thrive - The actions that we do every day turn into who we are.
Our family's habits are shaping our home and our legacy, so we want to get them right. In this theme we hear from fellow mamas who have found some effective daily patterns for how their family functions. These are the habits that take us from surviving to thriving as a family. Whether these routine actions are about practical home system or about family relationship habits, habits about meal-making, spiritual disciplines, health disciplines or school habits, one thing is for sure, this theme will bring lots of hope and practical solutions to busy intentional moms! So, let's get started!
Visit Val's website: PracticallySpeakingMOM.com
Join Val's Facebook Group Intentional Mom, Strong Family
Follow Val on Instagram and her Facebook Public Page Practically Speaking MOM
This is a listener supported podcast.
To give a set amount each month click here. A few dollars a month would help so much!
Here's some other ways to give:
Cash App: $valPSM
Paypal: val@PracticallySpeakingMOM.com
Donate with a creditcard HERE
All donations will be used for the ministry. Gifts are not tax deductible.
THANK YOU for partnering in this ministry to strengthen families and encourage intentional moms.
"May the Words of my mouth and the medita...
She's BAACCKK!! That's right, Val is back from her break, filled with inspiration and hope for all of you intentional moms building strong families. On this debut episode to Season FOUR of the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast, Emma and Rich join Val who introduces five new themes for this year:
*Habits to Thrive
*Operation Wholeness
*Confident Kids and Confident Teens
*Rip Off the Blindfold
*Dear Younger Me
While these five new themes are going to be great, you can still expect more from the old themes, such as Uniquely United, Guarding Their Hearts, Marriage Oneness, Lasso Your Life
In this episode Val also announces some new formats for the show such as Bonus Weeks, Power Punch Weeks, No Weeks, and Normal Weeks. That should liven things up!
AND Val and Rich share a great big THANK YOU to our audience about something great that happened over Val's break.
Link to Valentine's episode 72 "Teaching Your Kids the Truth about Love: What is Your Child Learning about Love and Marriage from You or From Culture?"
This is a listener supported podcast.
To give a set amount each month click here. A few dollars a month would help so much!
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All donations will be used for the ministry. Gifts are NOT tax deductible. THANK YOU for partnering in this ministry to strengthen families and encourage intentional moms.Visit Val's website: PracticallySpeakingMOM.com
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"May the Words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, oh Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer." Psalms...
The Practically Speaking MOM Podcast recently entered its fourth year and finished up our third season of the podcast!
Have you ever stood in a pool with your young child on the side of the pool in their water wings, held out your arms and said, "Come on. You can do it. Jump in! I won't let you go under." It is scary for a child to LEAP to a new level of ability, even though we parents know they are ready for the next steps.
God is a lot like that with us. He knows we are ready for growth, but we are timid and fearful. That's where TRUST comes in!
This week on the podcast Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM shares about TWO BIG LEAPS OF FAITH that God is calling her to with the Practically Speaking MOM Ministry. In episode 169, she shares about these two big leaps and encourages intentional parents to also be full of faith and to leap forward in whatever God is calling them toward as well.
Would you like to GIVE to the Practically Speaking MOM Ministry? Help improve the tech side of recording for the podcast and also help the ministry to afford some very part time help in editing and other office tasks so that Val can focus on content of her fifth book and also content for SEASON 4 of the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast!
Ways to give to support the Practically Speaking MOM Ministry
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The "Dominant Director" child you are raising is going to be a leader. They were born to lead. The question is, what kind of leader are they going to be? Will they lead by power and control, intimidation and trampling others? Or will they learn how to be humble and how to treat all people with dignity? Will they learn to value all the other personalities around them?
You will learn critical relationship, dynamics, and communication strategies for BLENDING BETTER and BRIGHTER as a cohesive family, even if you are each very different from one another.
We're in a four-week series about family dynamics and personality differences called, "Here We Go through Uniquely United 2.0." It's an eye-opening opportunity to learn how to improve family relationships by discovering the differences between you in how you think. This week we learn about the Sensitive Server. We're examining FOUR COMBINATIONS of personality traits, one combination each of the four weeks. As we take this tour through the unique family members in your home, we'll look at the following characteristics for each type:
✅What they FEAR
✅How to MOTIVATE them
✅What brings them JOY
✅How they view RULES
✅What they VALUE
✅Their Greatest STRENGTH
✅Ways to IMPROVE
✅Why they get ANGRY or HURT
✅Their Greatest NEEDS
When we start understanding ourselves and when we start teaching our kids to understand themselves and each other as well, we can really fine-tune our personality, allowing the good parts to SHINE, and allowing the weaknesses to be sharpened.
By listening to the Uniquely United series on the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast you are helping your child to be able to shine in a way that is a blessing to others. We're not trying to diminish that personality type, but at the same time, we want them to learn about themselves and be honing their personality to make it something that can mesh with the rest of the family,
God has called us to love one another. He's called us to be at peace with one another. He even says, they'll know us by our love, by the way, we love one another. A big way that we love one another within a family is to be considerate of the other personalities around you and be willing to speak each other's language a little bit more.
So hopefully this material can help equip you as mom or dad, to adjust some, and then also equip your children to know themselves and adjust as well.
Today we're talking about the fast people combination or the fast emotion combination that we call the Impulsive Impactors.
RESOURCESPERSONALITY CHART by Val Harrison- This chart coincides with two of Val's audio projects. 1. Her audio workshop recorded LIVE, "Help! My Home is Full of Difficult Personalities and One of them is Mine!" 2. The four-week podcast series "Here We Go through Uniquely United 2.0," episodes 165-168 of the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast."Help! My Home is Full of Difficult Personalities and One of them is Mine!" Recorded LIVE Audio Workshop by Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOMClash In Your Home: A Game Plan for Cleaning Up the Conflict book by Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM
What would we do without our Careful Calculator family members?! We need them!! They are often misunderstood, however. You will learn critical relationship, dynamics, and communication strategies for BLENDING BETTER and BRIGHTER as a cohesive family, even if you are each very different from one another.
We're in a four-week series about family dynamics and personality differences called, "Here We Go through Uniquely United 2.0." It's an eye-opening opportunity to learn how to improve family relationships by discovering the differences between you in how you think. This week we learn about the Sensitive Server. We're examining FOUR COMBINATIONS of personality traits, one combination each of the four weeks. As we take this tour through the unique family members in your home, we'll look at the following characteristics for each type:
✅What they FEAR
✅How to MOTIVATE them
✅What brings them JOY
✅How they view RULES
✅What they VALUE
✅Their Greatest STRENGTH
✅Ways to IMPROVE
✅Why they get ANGRY or HURT
✅Their Greatest NEEDS
When we start understanding ourselves and when we start teaching our kids to understand themselves and each other as well, we can really fine-tune our personality, allowing the good parts to SHINE, and allowing the weaknesses to be sharpened.
By listening to the Uniquely United series on the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast you are helping your child to be able to shine in a way that is a blessing to others. We're not trying to diminish that personality type, but at the same time, we want them to learn about themselves and be honing their personality to make it something that can mesh with the rest of the family,
God has called us to love one another. He's called us to be at peace with one another. He even says, they'll know us by our love, by the way, we love one another. A big way that we love one another within a family is to be considerate of the other personalities around you and be willing to speak each other's language a little bit more.
So hopefully this material can help equip you as mom or dad, to adjust some, and then also equip your children to know themselves and adjust as well.
Today we're talking about the fast people combination or the fast emotion combination that we call the Impulsive Impactors.
RESOURCES"Help! My Home is Full of Difficult Personalities and One of them is Mine!" Recorded LIVE Audio Workshop by Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOMClash In Your Home: A Game Plan for Cleaning Up the Conflict book by Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM
We're in a four-week series about family dynamics and personality differences called, "Here We Go through Uniquely United 2.0." It's an eye-opening opportunity to learn how to improve family relationships by discovering the differences between you in how you think. This week we learn about the Sensitive Server. We're examining FOUR COMBINATIONS of personality traits, one combination each of the four weeks. As we take this tour through the unique family members in your home, we'll look at the following characteristics for each type:
✅What they FEAR
✅How to MOTIVATE them
✅What brings them JOY
✅How they view RULES
✅What they VALUE
✅Their Greatest STRENGTH
✅Ways to IMPROVE
✅Why they get ANGRY or HURT
✅Their Greatest NEEDS
When we start understanding ourselves and when we start teaching our kids to understand themselves and each other as well, we can really fine-tune our personality, allowing the good parts to SHINE, and allowing the weaknesses to be sharpened.
By listening to the Uniquely United series on the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast you are helping your child to be able to shine in a way that is a blessing to others. We're not trying to diminish that personality type, but at the same time, we want them to learn about themselves and be honing their personality to make it something that can mesh with the rest of the family,
God has called us to love one another. He's called us to be at peace with one another. He even says, they'll know us by our love, by the way, we love one another. A big way that we love one another within a family is to be considerate of the other personalities around you and be willing to speak each other's language a little bit more.
So hopefully this material can help equip you as mom or dad, to adjust some, and then also equip your children to know themselves and adjust as well.
Today we're talking about the fast people combination or the fast emotion combination that we call the Impulsive Impactors.
RESOURCES"Help! My Home is Full of Difficult Personalities and One of them is Mine!" Recorded LIVE Audio Workshop by Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOMClash In Your Home: A Game Plan for Cleaning Up the Conflict book by Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM
Today we begin a four-week sub-series called "Here We Go through Uniquely United 2.0." We'll examine FOUR COMBINATIONS of personality traits, one combination each of the four weeks. As we take this tour through each of the four combinations we'll look at the following characteristics in each of the four combinations:
For Each Type: ✅What they FEAR ✅How to MOTIVATE them ✅What brings them JOY ✅How they view RULES ✅What they VALUE ✅Their Greatest STRENGTH ✅Ways to IMPROVE ✅Why they get ANGRY or HURT ✅Their Greatest NEEDS
When we start understanding ourselves and when we start teaching our kids to understand themselves and each other as well, we can really fine-tune our personality, allowing the good parts to SHINE, and allowing the weaknesses to be sharpened.
By listening to the Uniquely United series on the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast you are helping your child to be able to shine in a way that is a blessing to others. We're not trying to diminish that personality type, but at the same time, we want them to learn about themselves and be honing their personality to make it something that can mesh with the rest of the family,
God has called us to love one another. He's called us to be at peace with one another. He even says, they'll know us by our love, by the way, we love one another. A big way that we love one another within a family is to be considerate of the other personalities around you and be willing to speak each other's language a little bit more.
So hopefully this material can help equip you as mom or dad, to adjust some, and then also equip your children to know themselves and adjust as well.
Today we're talking about the fast people combination or the fast emotion combination that we call the Impulsive Impactors.
RESOURCES"Help! My Home is Full of Difficult Personalities and One of them is Mine!" Recorded LIVE Audio Workshop by Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOMClash In Your Home: A Game Plan for Cleaning Up the Conflict book by Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM
Rich joins Val for part 2 of Uniquely United, equipping parents to identify different characteristics in our family members, helping all of you to thrive and mesh and blend TOGETHER.
Part of Rich's role at his employment is to train trainers and some of that training involves personality training - increasing their empathy toward personalities that are different from themselves, yes, but also teaching these trainers how to COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY with different personality types, how to RELATE and build bridges with those they are training, no matter their unique characteristics. To do that you have to learn to READ PEOPLE - that is called EMOTIONAL APTITUDE. We hope that this there, Uniquely United, will help to grow the emotional aptitude in your family.
People's characteristics are not always obvious and do not always remain the same. However, we can still learn so much by studying ourselves and one another to help us relate to one another more effectively, reduce conflict, increase harmony, and learn how to highlight the unique value of each individual within the family unit.
What are some ways to identify whether you are people or task focused:
-what activities and environment fills you up, energizes you, makes you feel alive? What deflates you, depletes you, demotivates you? - what do you look forward to or dread?
EVERYONE has some TASK and some RELATIONAL aspect to them. You could really think of each of these characteristics as a sliding scale with TASK being on one end of the scale and PEOPLE or RELATIONSHIPS begin at the other end of the scale. Some people are going to obviously fall on one end of that scale but there are some people who are quite balanced between the two.
Our ultimate goal is to be the masterpiece God designed us to be.
Episode Mentioned in this Episode: Episode 20 - Family Spontaneous Friday and Sketchy Saturday
Other Uniquely United Episodes:
The Prequel to Uniquely United 162
Part 1: Fast-Paced vs Slow-Paced Family Members 163
CHALLENGES in a family unit are actually OPPORTUNITIES in a family unit, opportunities for self-evaluation, opportunities for identifying ways that we need to grow, opportunities for getting a gameplan for that growth. And family challenges are opportunities for family bonding.
Well, friends, let's take today in the next 30 min to learn how to better enjoy the gift of the family God has given you as we take a look at Slow-paced and Fast-Paced Family Members in the ongoing occasional series Uniquely United.
Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM Is the main host of the podcast. In this episode she is joined by her husband, Rich, the producer and occasional co-host of the show.
NEXT WEEK: Rich joins Val again as they discuss Task-focused vs. People-Focused family members.
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Today in episode 162 we lay the foundation for the Uniquely United series in the Practically Speaking MOM: Intentional Mom, Strong Family Podcast.
Note from Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM, about episode 162.
If you have listened to this podcast for a while, you know that I pray about every topic and every episode and really seek to listen to God's leading of what we air and when we air it. Well, God has given me some direction for how to proceed with our occasional series Uniquely United. We began this series a few months ago with part 1. My husband Rich joined me on the podcast for us to talk about Fast-Paced and Slow-Paced people and how to navigate having both types in your home. We have also recorded the next stepsin the series that is about People-Focused vs Task-Focused family members. When that episode airs you will learn how to handle parenting a child that is opposite of you. Maybe you are task-focused, and they are people-focused. Or perhaps you are a free spirit who likes to enjoy whimsy and spontaneity, but your child likes to be regimented and scheduled. How do we handle these differences within the family unit in a way that helps us all to flourish? As we prepared to air that episode for all of you, in my prayer time for the podcast, I felt God was telling me that we need to BACK UP. Let's do this more solidly, from the foundation first.
That's what today is. Today in episode 162 we lay the foundation for the Uniquely United series. You may have actually already heard this conversation, way back in episode 8. One of the things we did in that episode was to discuss what ONENESS in marriage means to us. While we were talking about ONENESS we also talked about the concept of UNIQUELY UNITED. We are going to back up and listen to that conversation now for two reasons: First, because this conversation is a great description of uniquely united, we want you to hear it again. and secondly, a family can be so much more uniquely united if the marriage is committed to that paradigm as well. So, if you are married, begin there first, in helping your family to be uniquely united. IF YOU ARE NOT MARRIED, your child may be some day and you want them to have a vision of what a healthy marriage looks like. This episode can help with that also.
SO, let's revisit this very early conversation in the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast as we set a strong foundation for being a family that is Uniquely United.
What's Coming:
9/19 Uniquely United - The Foundation
9/26 Part 1 Uniquely United Fast-Paced vs Slow-Paced
10/3 Part 2 Uniquely United People-Focused vs Task-Focused
10/10 Part 3 Uniquely United
It's important to equip our kids for life. One way we do that is by involving them in cooking. However, I was uncomfortable with my kids working with raw meat, so I needed a plan. Years ago, I came up with this "Save Your Sanity: One Hour a Week Meal Prep Plan" so my kids could cook meals but not deal so much with meat. This plan ended up saving me loads of time AND saved us lots of money also. Let's jump in to our second week of The Practically Speaking MOM's Guide to Saving Time and Money in the Kitchen.
MISFITS MARKET -* CLICK TO SAVE $10 at MISFITS MARKET**& it also allows me to save $10 when you use this link. Misfits Market is a subscription service for ORGANIC GROCERIES. It automatically creates a grocery order for you each week of about $35 and then you can click on your cart and change it or cancel it or postpone it. It's organic fruits, veggies, and lots of other healthy foods. I have been using them for about nine months. It's called "misfits" because it's the imperfect looking produce that wouldn't get chosen at the store but is still good. And the good news is, if I'm ever not pleased with the quality of an item, I just jump online in my account and click on that item and ask for the cost of it to be refunded. I have never had any trouble getting it refunded right away.
Top 10 Ways to Save on Groceries plus meal hacks, money hacks, and cleaning hacks by the Practically Speaking MOM, from the Lasso Your Life on-going occasional series, episode 160
What's coming Next on the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast:
"Before Uniquely United"
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Feeding a family of nine can be expensive. I learned to SAVE MONEY ON GROCERIES and SAVE MONEY ON CLEANERS. This podcast is bursting with mom hacks for meals, groceries, and cleaning. HI, I'm Val Harrison, the Practically Speaking MOM. I am passionate about helping intentional moms to build strong families. A big key in having TIME and ENERGY to focus on what really matters with your family is to get some systems in place for the "have-to"s in the momlife. This week I am excited to begin a new mini-series- The Practically Speaking MOM's Guide to Saving Money and Time in the Kitchen. And this HELP continues next week when I share my "Save Your Sanity, One Hour Per Week Meal Prep Plan." If you need to save money on groceries, save time in the kitchen, and use some more natural cleaning alternatives, you are going to love episode 160 & 161 of the Practically Speaking MOM: Intentional Mom Strong Family Podcast.
Top 10 Ways to Save on Groceries plus meal hacks, money hacks, and cleaning hacks by the Practically Speaking MOM, from the Lasso Your Life on-going occasional series, episode 160
What's coming:
"Save Your Sanity - Val's One Hour a Week Meal Prep Plan"
Want more from the Practically Speaking MOM? Visit her website www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com for blog, books, podcast, resources.
Join her Facebook community: Intentional Mom Strong Family.
Would you love to see your middle school or teen girl become more fully-devoted to living a life of growth, courage, patience, purpose, resilience? You're going to enjoy this fast-paced mother/daughter talk about being focused on GROWTH and LIVING a meaningful life rather than preoccupied with romance too young. There is time for romance in life AFTER growth. We want to help our kids to become confident, at peace, focused, aware of their value, and fully-devoted to God's best for their life FIRST, before romance. Our kids/teens don't need a romantic relationship to help them FEEL significant. They are significant, valuable, and have a purpose, but they need to KNOW it and live it BEFORE they are ready for a relationship. This conversation about a book that had huge impact on Abby's life, just might have the same impact on your teen or pre-teen's life also. Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM, brings on her 6th child, 18-year-old Abby, for an honest and lively mother daughter conversation.
My 18 yr old daughter, Abby, and I have been doing a series of talks on guiding your heart, navigating relationships, and knowing your self-worth. This week we go over Abby's #1 book pick for middle school and teen girls to GROW before GUYS. The book is called Lady in Waiting: Becoming God's Best While Waiting for Mr. Right**, but the truth is this book is not about WAITING for anything, it's about REFOCUSING on the right priorities FIRST.
To hear our discussion about Abby's 2nd book pick, listen to episode 158 and our discussion on her 3rd pick is episode 156.**
Val and her third daughter, Abby, a college freshman, discuss Abby's 2nd favorite book for understanding our self-worth, guarding and guiding our heart, and focusing on becoming God's design for our life BEFORE getting into a romantic relationship. This would be a great episode for your teen daughter to listen along with you.
Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity, and Identity
Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl's Heart
Check out our Spotify Self-Worth Playlist link
Episode on Overcoming Negative Self-Talk
Mending Your Child's Heart at Every Age blog & podcast
A Girl's Self-Worth, Parenting a Teen and Those Who Will Be, Part 1
Part 2
Mom/Daughter Conversation about Guiding Hearts in Middle School Part 1 Part 2
We hit the pause button for a week... Letting Go of the Old to Begin the New, Hard is Good, 5 Dual Credit Tips, and a Note from the Heart. Episode 157 of the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast is a little interruption in the plan.
Resources mentioned
The Homeschool Roadmap to College, $5 EBook Click Here
Homeschooling in Real Life, $5 EBook Click Here
Gaining Momentum: Preparing Your Student for a Career with or without College $13 Book CLICK HERE Order the book through Amazon Prime Click Here
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I want my kids to be confident in their value, have the ability to lead their heart and thoughts and identify their life principles without needing to be in a dating relationship to prove their worth. Abby (my 6th child and college freshman) and I, Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM, recorded this three week series that continues the conversation about Self-worth & Identity, Relationships & Choices, about Guarding and Guiding your Heart. When our kids reach the teen years or a little before, we like to start having them read some books on this relationship topics. Abby read fifteen books and this three week conversation is about her top three book choices, what she learned from them, and in the process of giving the reviews Abby and I talk about many important issues. Join Val & Abby for episodes 156-158 as we continue with the ongoing occasional theme of self-worth and guiding your heart.
Teen and Older Book Recommendations:
1. Lady in Waiting: Becoming God's Best While Waiting for Mr. Right (there are several books in this series for different ages of girls)
2. Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity, and Identity (this author has another book that Abby is reading right now that she is also really enjoying called "Sex,Purity, and the Longings of a Girl's Heart).
3. Quest for Love: True Stories of Passion and Purity by Elizabeth Elliot
Younger Book Recommendations
1. Pinocchio's Quest by Robert Rogland
2. The Princess and the Kiss for Girls and The Squire and the Scroll for Boys
Check out TrueGirl.com
Check out our Spotify Self-Worth Playlist link
Episode on Overcoming Negative Self-Talk
Mending Your Child's Heart at Every Age blog & podcast
A Girl's Self-Worth, Parenting a Teen and Those Who Will Be, Part 1
Part 2
Mom/Daughter Conversation about Guiding Hearts in Middle School Part 1 Part 2
Bible Verses to memorize Psalm 139:13-14, 1 John 4:10-11, Philippians 4:8, 2 Cor 10:5
The world is sending SO MANY messages to our hearts. As adults, we know to filter those messages and to guard our minds, but kids have a harder time doing that. In episode 155 of the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast, I am introducing a new series - a series in which we will look at many of the world's messages and identify how to talk with our children about them. Episode 155 is about being an INTERPRETER of the world's messages to our kids about their hearts and bodies and romantic relationships. The series that I am introducing is three weeks of mother/daughter conversations that begin next week about our TOP THREE BOOKS for teens to guard their hearts. These are books that I had my daughter read beginning in upper middle school but they are not kids books. They are for teens and young adults to help make decisions about standards regarding treasuring purity, honoring marriage, and so much more. The three weeks that we talk about these books are very lively discussion. This week is setting the stage for those three weeks. This week is about being an interpreter for our kids about the messages of the world.
Guarding your child's heart and equipping them to do the same is one of the reoccurring themes on the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast. For more on this topic, be sure to take a look at the following episodes. Just click on the green links below to listen:
148 Includes a section on "cautions about depleted hearts"
129-132 is a series about Life-giving Words that incorporates training kids about their self-perception & the CIRCLES of INFLUENCE in their lives 129 130 131 (131 is a mother/daughter conversation with my middle school daughter) 132
125 Love, Dating, and the Meaning of Marriage
119 Middles & Teens – overcoming negative self-talk
97 Modesty, Pitfalls from the Purity Movement, and Treasuring Your Sexuality
95-96 A Mother/Daughter Conversation about Guarding Your Heart & Waiting with Grace 95 96
❓Do you ever get tired of telling kids "no" they can't watch that movie or show or listen to that music or play that game? ❗Help is here!!! This week on the podcast, I share with you a plan to reduce that stress, to help you say "no" less because your child has learned to discern and filter to protect their own heart and mind - the process of teaching them to be a gatekeeper to their heart. ❤It's a week about Guarding Our Hearts - Body & Mind ✔I know you're an intentional parent. Now help them become intentional to establish good habits and be comfortable with tough conversations - learn how to do this with me on the podcast this week!
Proverbs 4:23 says, "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it" Please take the time to learn how to do that with your kids in our culture today by listening to this week's podcast!
I go into great detail for how we utilize Pluggedin.com at each stage of childhood from the younger years, to the middle years, to the upper years. You need a plan for protecting their heart and mind AND a plan for teaching them to protect their own heart and mind. Hear what alternative to rules we have for TV & movies, how we have conversations about culture topics, what our process is for gradually teaching our children how to be strong GATEKEEPERS OF THEIR OWN HEART & MIND.
If you want to see your child thrive, equip them for these life issues with a clear system that teaches them along the way how to BECOME their own gatekeeper. This is one of the most important things we can do - protect their heart & mind while gradually transferring that responsibility to them. Let me show you one way we do that at our house TODAY, on episode 154!
Business teacher Michael Hyatt, in an article, "Your Most Important Leadership Tool - Three Reasons Why You Must Guard Your Heart," says "If your heart is unhealthy, it threatens everything else 1. because your heart is extremely valuable 2. because your heart is the source of everything you do 3. because your heart is under constant attack
I am seeking to raise leaders who don't cower to bullies, shrink back from obstacles, or linger in the cesspool of the depraved alleys of our world. My long term goal is that they'd be in the habit of thinking before they expose their minds to the things that are destructive to their hearts..
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The Practically Speaking MOM Podcast is all about strengthening families and one important factor in a strong family is having a handle on internet usage in your home. After all, our children's childhood should be made up of lots of LIVING LIFE to the fullest through experiences and adventures and developing hobbies and talents, and so much more! We talk a lot on our podcast about taking control of the internet and Val thought it was time to bring on an internet expert to help!
Melanie Hempe, BSN, founder and speaker for ScreenStrong Families, helps families avoid problematic screen use - video games, social media, pornography - in their kids' lives. Through ScreenStrong she provides easy education on brain development, the effects of screen use on kids and solutions for parents who desire to free their kids from screen addictions. She helps parents reclaim their kids by delaying the use of toxic screens and helps families regain a healthier use of technology.
Slight caution is needed for very young ears due to the nature of this topic, there are a couple of online issues that are mentioned in name only, no prolonged detail about it and no description, but a couple of words that parents may not want to explain to younger ears.
ScreenStrong Families provides alternative ways to raise kids in a screen-dependent world. If you are ready to stop the screen conflicts in your home and prevent screen addiction, ScreenStrong Families is for you. It's a 501c3 non-profit that empowers parents to take the lead and rethink cultural childhood screen trends, rebuild life skills, and reconnect families distracted by screen overuse.ScreenStrong.com
Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM, also has an internet resource for your family, called a Family Internet Usage Packet that includes an INTERNET AGREEMENT for your children to sign. This agreement is the one Val uses at her house. It might be exactly what you are looking for or it may be a starting point for you to come up with your own family internet agreement. Val uses this agreement to make the family rules very CLEAR and CONSISE. Then it is also used for ACCOUNTABILITIY QUESTIONS, not in a "policing" kind of way but in a "partnering for your good" kind of way. Here's a link to Val's $2 Download Family ScreenTime Game Plan Packet.
Next week, Val will be sharing a free resource our family uses to help us navigate movies and tv watching that also helps our kids to develop discernment - to help them make better decisions for themselves about what movies and tv they watch. The episode explains how we utilize this resource at each age level to move them toward discernment and self-control regarding movies and tv. That will be episode 154.
Then episodes 155-157 will be an awesome line up of mother/daughter conversations about guarding and guiding hearts and strengthening self-worth in a society that seeks to offer compromising perspectives about self-worth, singleness, romance, dating, and marriage. Join Val & Abby for these three episodes!
Three of today's topics are #1 Taking the plunge to SIMPLIFY & Reduce #2 Great family vacation spots in the US, and #3 helping our kids grow in wisdom, which for many these days includes homeschooling. Whether you homeschool or not, you will enjoy this lighthearted look at selling it all, traveling with your family, and living God's calling for your life.
We are talking about all of this with Yvette Hampton, mom of two and producer of the movie School House Rocked.
In episode 152 of the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast we meet a mom of two girls, Yvette Hampton. Her family family sold their home in California, along with most of their belongings, and traveled the US in an RV for five years while they filmed a documentary called Schoolhouse Rocked: The Homeschool Revolution.
**Did you know that Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM is also a homeschool mom? That's right, I have homeschooled for 24 years and have graduated six from our homeschool. All of them were accepted into colleges and have been able to pursue their passions and callings in life. I have two homeschool downloads to support your homeschool journey.
The first product is called Homeschooling in Real Life - it is basically the inside scoop on how I homeschool. It's only $5**48 page guide for setting up and maintaining your homeschool. ✔Simplifying Schedules, Records, & Curriculum ✔Saving Time & Keeping Your Sanity ✔Making a Student Checklist to Increase Accountability & Responsibility ✔Creating Learning Spots in Your Home ✔Determining Your Priorities & Implementing them into Your Days ✔Character Development & Success Habits ✔Curriculum Choices & Combining Ages ✔A Partnership between Parent & Student ✔Math Success Tips Building your family's days based on your priorities in a way that increases your student's success habits. Success isn't about perfection. Success is about lifestyle habits, character development, strong people skills, and seeking after God's will for your family. This guide is designed to help you do that. Perhaps you can implement some of these strategies in a way that brings some focus to your family's homeschool goals. This guide is specifically about homeschooling systems. If you would like help with home systems in general, my book Wearing All Your Hats without Wearing Out: Finding Focus to be the Masterpiece Family God Intended, would be another helpful resource for you.
The second product is called The Homeschool Roadmap to College. This is also only $5.Here's what's inside...Feeling Afraid of the Journey? Do I have what it takes to teach high school? Can my homeschool student get into college? What I learned from a college president and a college professor. Tools for the Road. Helping Your Student to be Equipped with the Necessary Skills and Habits for Success in College. Don’t Let FEAR Dictate Your Student’s Next Steps. Our Family’s College Perspective, Priorities, and “Requirements” What You Need to Know about the ACT, CLEPS, Dual-Credit, Diplomas, State Graduation Requirements, and more. What Records to Keep. Scholarships and Ways to Avoid College Debt. Making a “College Hunt” Notebook
This week on the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast (for intentional moms to build strong families), I will give you a game plan for getting your kids off of screens and on to activities that help them GROW in the four main areas of life - physical, mental, social, and spiritual. It's a plan called GROWTIME before SCREENTIME which is perfect for SummerTime - when kids have lots of time on their hands but are lacking direction. I also have a book recommendation, and a family vacation review.
If you believe your family is God's masterpiece and you want to be more intentional in your parenting, this podcast is for you. You can listen on your favorite podcast platform or at www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com where you can also find my blog, books and other resources for intentional moms building strong families. I also have a Facebook group Intentional Mom Strong Family.
RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE
Val's Family ScreenTime Game Plan including an internet agreement and accountability
Girl Defined book
Girl Defined podcast
Rainbow Resources
The topic of Junior High Boys can be very interesting. That's where this episode begins - with our guest, Andrew Dahilig who has worked with middle school boys for over twelve years.
He gives his boys FOUR CHALLENGES every week in four main life areas. We will learn about these challenges in episode 150 of the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast.
Our guest also shares with us an event he created for middle school boys that combines these life challenges - it was a physical obstacle course combined with interactive personal growth activities for the boys. It's an event that you could duplicate when coupled with the material that he provided free to our listeners. You will receive this in this weeks' ministry email from the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast if you are a part of my email list. Otherwise, go to my website, www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com, click on RESOURCES, and look for "Boys Journal Prompts Activity from Episode 150 and Guest Andrew Dahilig."
Then this episode ventures into some further topics about boys - including common differences in how girls and boys learn and how that may be impacting your son's self-perception regarding academics which would then in turn be impacting his school performance.
There's lots to ponder and pursue from listening to this week's episode, "Four Life Challenges Boys Need, Plus Reaching Middle School Boys with Guest Andrew Dahilig" from our RAISING SONS Series.
What's COMING on the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast:
151 "A Checklist for Kids to have GROWTIME before SCREENTIME in the SummerTime." Plus, a book review, and a family vacation review of the Grand Canyon, Petrified Forest, Horse Shoe Bend in Antelope Canyon, the Cliff Dwellings of Mesa Verde, and the Great Sand Dunes.
152 Guest Yvette Hampton of Schoolhouse Rocked is our guest. She will tell us about the movie she produced and the five year adventure her family took in selling most of their possessions to travel the U.S. in an RV.
**153 The founder of ScreenStrong Families is our guest to share the importance of having a family plan for internet use at your house, including helpful resources for parents.
Future Series Coming on the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast:
In the Kitchen with Val - Her Top Ways to SAVE MONEY and SIMPLIFY Cleaning & Cooking.
Abby & Val discuss books about Equipping a Girl to Guard Her Heart.
The words we choose with our kids can speak life into them, can transform their perception of themselves, can give them a vision for who they are becoming. This week's guest, Dakota Hammond (dad to our special VIPs) shares methods he uses to impact his sons. You will be inspired and challenged with some very practical steps you can take with any age child, from very young to grown. Dakota will share what he needed growing up, what impacted his heart, and how he uses words that impact.
Learn how to have a Bedtime Benediction that pours LIFE and VISION into your child's future. Words that IMPACT our child's heart - that's the topic this week in our third week of the Raising Sons series. Every parent will be inspired with these simple but mighty interactions that you can incorporate into your routine quality time with your kids. Four weeks and four guests in this series! Meet Dakota Hammond, husband of Becca, who you have met several times on the podcast. Becca and Dakota are parents of my most special VIPs. This episode will make you smile, but it will also possess the ingredients for changing your child's future for their good as they hear you, their parent, speak words that impact.
Resources mentioned in this episode
John Piper ministry and podcast
Give Them Grace
CONNECT with the Practically Speaking MOM - Val would love to hear from you!! Share your questions, thoughts and ideas with Val and the Intentional Mom community:https://www.practicallyspeakingmom.com/podcast -subscribe to the podcast
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From the Practically Speaking MOM ministry, you'll find practical ways to help you find your focus to be the masterpiece family God created you to be!
Music by NathanHarrison.music@gmail.com
We've done it this week! My husband Rich and I do some tightrope walking in this episode - difficult topics that I am a little nervous to address. Okay, I actually am not sure if we are on a tightrope or out on a limb, either way, there's some precarious issues we face in this episode. We were unscripted and ended up talking about some things I didn't expect, but boy, are these important topics. (pun may be intended). Won't you come be a part of the conversation?
In episode 148 we address topics such as, how to help our kids redefine failure, giving them age-appropriate challenges for growth, restoring with our kids when we have blown it in our parenting, and ways to show our kids we believe in them. We also tiptoe into some pretty difficult topics - such as the No-Father Factor, Toxic Masculinity, Cautions when our child's heart is depleted in an area.
All of this in our special Father's Day Week episode of the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast.
This conversation may in fact be in my top ten on the podcast so far, out of 148 episodes!
This episode is for all parents - from single moms to widows to parents who have a father and a mother in the home. No matter what your family looks like, it is time to take a look at failure, pitfalls to avoid as we give our kids the messages they need to feel believed in and supported in their life, what to do when we blow it as parents (restoring with our kids, even grown kids), and cautions for girls who aren't feeling treasured or sons who aren't feeling capable in life's challenges.
While Rich and I have four girls and three boys, our youngest two have been daughters, thus many times my examples on the podcast end up being daughter examples. And, so it is, that I had a goal of making the month of June a very special month on the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast - a month for celebrating sons! While the examples are about boys, the topics are very much applicable to both boys and girls.
"Teach your kids the principle: We are to do good in this world with the strengths we have been given. Use your Strengths for GOOD." - episode 148
Some questions our sons may be thinking but not saying:
Can I be depended on? Will I be able to come through in difficult situations?
Am I dependable? Am I capable? Can I achieve challenges that come my way?
What can a dad do? What does a mom do if there is no dad or not a healthy involved dad in their daughter or son's lives?
STEPS to Giving Kids GROWTH Opportunities:
1. Let them do hard things alongside us while we are doing hard things. Include them in our efforts, letting them see our example, and speaking wisdom into them in the skills and mindset needed for the challenges of life.
2. Provide opportunities (or identify opportunities) for growth and challenges in their life.
3. Prepare them for the opportunity - what tools will they need for success in this challenge?
4. Praise specific efforts.
5. Help them define their failures - those failures don't define them but are opportunities for motivation and growth!
6. Keep letting them work alongside you, Keep creating and identifying more opportunities for growth and continue the process over and over.
When a person is depleted in an area of our life (a question in our heart that is not being adequately answered = depleted), we may go searching for the answers or searching for fulfilling our depletion in unhealthy ways. Rich and I give some cautions about this in episode 148 - some cautions for parents of daughters, some cautions for parents of sons...
We've had multiple podcast episodes about teaching our kids to listen to us. This episode is about the importance of us as parents learning to effectively listen to our kids. It's also about the value of mentors for our teen kids and how to go about setting up a mentor, and it is about teaching them work ethic and lots more today in episode #147. Our featured guest is Amy Kusmaul, who is a mom of one daughter and four boys. Amy is our first of four guests this month who will have lots of examples about boys. That's right; we are are talking about Raising Sons for the month of June. The Father Factor will also come up quite a bit this month. No worries, if you don't have boys or if you are a single mom. All of these episodes for the month of June will be applicable to all moms even moms with girls only.
Episode 5 Getting Kids to Listen the First Time
Book - Mother and Son: The Respect Effect
For the rest of June, we've got three more guests to go with our theme of Raising Boys. Next week - in our Fathers Day episode, episode 148, - we're talking Failure is A-OK! Helping our kids to not allow failure to define us, but rather redefining failure (and we talk about so many other great things with our Fathers Day guest!)
The next week, in episode 149- our guest will inspire us with great ways to speak words of life and vision over our kids.
Then in the final Monday of June our guest will be talking about the benefits of CHALLENGES for older kids and teens.
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An unscripted, honest look at the difficult parenting task of talking to our kids about tragedy - facing fear with them, giving them tools to manage fear or anxiety, effective discussion topics to grow kids who become hope-filled, difference makers in our world, and looking at the question, "How could a good God allow bad things to happen."
This is our first ever "parenting in the trenches" episode - a new, occasional theme that is basically a conversation with Val without the music, without an intro or outtro. Val is just inviting you, her mom friend, over for a cup of coffee to talk about a parenting issue that she has been facing that may help you face the same thing.
Coming Up on the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast:
We've got a guest for each week of June.!
Wk 1 Amy Kusmaul, is a mom of four boys and one daughter.
Wk 2 of June, in our Father's Day episode, Rich Harrison will talk about failure- Shaping our Kids Perspective about Failure.
Wk 3, Dakota Hammond and Val have an awesome discussion regarding words of affirmation and visionary parenting
Wk 4, Andrew Dahilig, who has a heart for middle schoolers, will be talking about the importance of challenges in our kids' lives.
It's a great lineup for all parents of all kids, but I will say there will be extra attention given to examples regarding boys and fathers. Even if you are a single mom with only girls you will still get a lot out of each week in June, but if you are a mom of boys, you'll be feeling especially inspired in your parenting.
Be sure to connect with Val and other intentional moms in the private Facebook group Intentional Mom Strong Family. Look for the conversation where moms are sharing how they communicated with their kids about the tragedy this past week that took place in Texas, where 19 children and two lost their lives. How did you talk to your kids about it? Or did you choose not to discuss it with them?
Also you can get lots more help from Val Harrison, the Practically Speaking MOM, on her website www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com
"We chose to no longer have a Battle of Wits or a Battle of Verbal Arrows or a Battle of Stiff Silence. We were learning to lay down our emotional weapons and pick up tools for transforming our relationship."Celebrating 30 years of marriage, Rich & Val share some of the tools that transformed their marriage in episode 145 of the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast - the place for an intentional mom to build a strong family.
Even if you are a widow, divorced, or single mom, still you want to learn the principles for a healthy marriage as YOU are teaching your children about how to build healthy relationships and preparing them for their potential future marriage.
This week the Practically Speaking MOM, Val Harrison and her husband Rich are celebrating 30 years of marriage! In this episode they take a vulnerable and honest look at some of the things they had to STOP doing and some things they had to BEGIN doing if they wanted to transform their relationship and create a strong marriage that would last.
More Marriage Episodes from the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast
Episode 23 - Overcoming Negative Communication Habits in Marriage
Episode 54 - Nurturing a Sense of Security in Marriage
Episode 17 - The Value of Goal Setting and Dreaming Together in Marriage
Episode 8 - Redeeming Your Marriage
Link to the Marriage Suite of the Practically Speaking MOM's website. In the Master Suite you will find resources for a stronger marriage.
What's Coming on the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast:
5/30 Guest Yvette Hampton from School House Rocked, the movie
For the Month of June, we have a new guest each week! All of them will be showcasing raising BOYS - the principles apply to girls also, but our focus will be boys, and each guest will bring a very different angle each week. I am SO EXCITED about our line of guests and topics on the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast for June 2022!
CONNECT with the Practically Speaking MOM - Val would love to hear from you!! Share your questions, thoughts and ideas with Val and the Intentional Mom community:https://www.practicallyspeakingmom.com/podcast -subscribe to the podcast
https://www.facebook.com/groups/1467972243355843/ -joining Val's private Facebook Group "Intentional Mom, Strong Family"
https://www.instagram.com/practicallyspeakingmom/ -Follow Val on Instagram @PracticallySpeakingMOM
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Visit the website www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com
From the Practically Speaking MOM ministry, you'll find practical ways to help you find your focus to be the masterpiece family God created you to be!
Do Hard Things
Love Works
Episode 139 Link
Work Ethic Episode Link
Getting Kids to Listen the First Time Episode Link
Isn't it interesting that as moms we can LONG FOR alone time, when in the very same moment we feel LONELY. How is that possible to feel lonely when we are continually surrounded by our little darlings? It's because we long for intimacy, a relationship that challenges us and spurs us to growth through mutual edification. We long for this kind of relationship from our spouse, from our friends, and from God as well. We talk about it today in episode 143 of the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast.
This is the fourth and final episode in our Mother's Day Week of short episodes.
I end today with one of the mom prayers that I have on my website. It's a graduation prayer. Now you can find all of them HERE on my website www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com, which is set up as the six rooms of the intentional mom's home.
This is the third episode in our Mother's Day Week series of four short episodes about motherhood.
"Come to the Table: Feasting with the Father When You Feel Like a Frazzled Mama" is an event topic that I speak on from time to time at women's retreats or conferences. Some of the material from that is sprinkled into the following episodes: 22 Mom's Marathon Path24 How a Busy Mom Gets Quality Time with God Daily 27 Mom, Are You Out of Order29 Mom, What's Your Harriot Road
I end today with one of the mom prayers that I have on my website. Now you can find all of them HERE on my website www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com, which is set up as the six rooms of the intentional mom's home. The mom prayers are in the room called The Front Porch - Moms Finding Rest in God's Best
"Some moments in motherhood are pure bliss. It's the big moments of joy when our child learns to walk or say, "I love you" for the first time. Then there are moments in motherhood that are pure agony or fear or regret or concern..."Listen to episode 140, "Mom's feel the deepest feelings." This is the first of FOUR SHORT EPISODES THIS WEEK, celebrating MOTHERHOOD this Mother's Day Week.
I can remember the first time that my first grandson told me he loved me or the time when he was leaving my house from visiting us for a week. That little three-year-old said with his stumbling little words, "I love you, Grandma. I will be back." Oh, my heart melted with joy.
Then there are moments in motherhood that are pure agony or fear or regret or concern.
We mothers are the humans who feel the deepest of feelings as we have these human extensions of ourselves that walk around independently from our body.
And yet, they are very much a part of us forever as they grow. We learn to somehow cope with the fact that this extension of us is also separate from us, their own person, their own soul, their own heart, their own mind.
It's in those moments of reality that I in prayer place, this part of me, my child, into the hands of Jesus, asking Him to be with my child, wherever they go:
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to see what I can't see,
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to hear what I can't hear,
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to guide,
-to nudge,
- to whisper his love to their heart,
-to reveal truth to their mind.
I end today with one of the mom prayers that I have on my website. It's a graduation prayer. Now you can find all of them HERE on my website www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com, which is set up as the six rooms of the intentional mom's home.
Everyone in your family is God's precious, purposeful design. And yet, sibling squabbles, personality clashes, character issues, parenting mistakes... sometimes family life is uhh, colorful. We've created a new occasional, on-going series looking at the unique personalities in your home and how to get them to mesh, blend, and shine together as a family. Even with your parent imperfections, and your kids' one-of-a-kind differences, and all of those designed-by-God personalities, your family is God's masterpiece in the making!
In PART 1 Uniquely United, my husband Rich joins me in the studio as we discuss the differences between a slower-paced personality and a faster-paced personality. We look at both types of parents and the pitfalls that sometimes accompany those differences. I open up about some big regrets that brought some BIG LESSONS in learning to reign in my parenting type, to better blend with my kids that are different from me.
CLASH IN YOUR HOME: A GAMEPLAN for CLEANING UP the CONFLICT is a book I wrote about changes we made in our family to communicate better and find our way toward more teamwork and less conflict.
WHAT'S COMING ON THE PODCAST:
Episode 140-143 Mother's Day week* I will have four short episodes celebrating motherhood
Episode 144 Listener Q&A on work ethic and also a follow-up to today's episode on some positive ways to raise a slower-paced child.
Episode 145-147 Marriage Week - It's Rich and I's 30th anniversary so I've got three short episodes on Marriage
Healthy Sibling Relationships - Listener Q&A, episode 138
Resources Related to today's Topic
Val's book When Littles Are Loud: Maximizing the Moments without Drowning in Chaos
Val's book Clash In Your Home: A Game Plan for Cleaning Up the Conflict
The podcast series called Dealing with Lying in Your Child (This series teaches a way to deal with any heart issue that has been an on-going problem, not just lying. Lying is the example we use in the discussion).
Episode 4 Dealing with Lying In Your Child, PART 1, including dealing with lying in preschoolers.
Episode 12 Dealing with Lying in Your Child, PART 2, Dealing with the HEART of Your Child
CONNECT with the Practically Speaking MOM - Val would love to hear from you!! Share your questions, thoughts and ideas with Val and the Intentional Mom community:https://www.practicallyspeakingmom.com/podcast -subscribe to the podcast
https://www.facebook.com/groups/1467972243355843/ -joining Val's private Facebook Group "Intentional Mom, Strong Family"
https://www.instagram.com/practicallyspeakingmom/ -Follow Val on Instagram @PracticallySpeakingMOM
https://www.facebook.com/PracticallySpeakingMom/ -Like Val's public Facebook page Practically Speaking MOM
Visit the website www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com
From the Practically Speaking MOM ministry, you'll find practical ways to help you find your focus to be the masterpiece family God created you to be!
Music by NathanHarrison.music@gmail.com
Too often we moms get distracted by the smaller parenting issue right in front of us, missing the BIGGER, LONG-TERM issue behind it that matters even more than the immediate frustration or difficulty with our child. Or, sometimes, in an effort to deal with this immediate issue, we don't realize we are sacrificing the bigger priority. This parenting gig can be COMPLICATED. Today, in episode 137, I'm going to help you sort some of this out. We're going to get a long-term view about the immediate issue, focusing on making the most of the immediate issue by using it to DEVELOP GOOD HABITS for the long-term. Getting them to clean their rooms is one of those issues that is like that. Yes, having a clean room matters, but not at the expense of our relationship with them, SO... how can we do both - how can we use the issue of messy bedroom to develop some LIFE HABITS and keep your relationship in tact as well? Let's talk about it today on the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast. Listen to episode 137 and let's break it down into smaller, doable steps.
You see, it's not really about getting their room clean at this moment. What matters is taking this moment to move the room forward in a way that equips them more with positive HABITS regarding taking care of themselves and their things. AND, ALWAYS, NO MATTER WHAT, our bigger goals are about their hearts and our relationship with them. Are there ways that accomplish all of this at the same time? Yes. There are ways to FOCUS on what really matters while getting the general RESULTS we need for this moment as well.
"Lasso Your Life" is an occasional series on the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast in which we take a deeper dive into a particular mom responsibility and find some ways to SIMPLIFY and get a system for this responsibility so we REDUCE our TIME and MENTAL EFFORT on this "have to" to free us up to focus on what really matters - the hearts and minds of our kids and RELATIONSHIP STRENGTH.
Here's some more episodes from the Lasso Your Life Series:
Episode 5 "Getting Kids to Listen the First Time & Following Up After a Chore"
Episode 7 "Work Ethic & the Habit of Happiness in Littles, Middles, & Teens. Plus Teen Success Habits"
Episode 21 "Cut Laundry Chaos & Add Happy to Your Have-to's. Plus..."
Episode 74"What's in My MOM BOX? Common Tools to Make the Momlife More Manageable"
Episode 75 "Positive Reinforcement Tools & Making a Mom Brain Book"
Episode 85 "Tackling Your To Do List"
Episode 86 "Organize Your Papers and the Mountain of Mail"
As each weekend rolls around, what kind of goals do you have for your family? Today we're unpacking four simple goals that will bring much more meaning to your weekend.
Blog post and podcast episode about Spontaneous Friday and Sketchy Saturday
What's coming next Monday:
Kids HABITS, Mom HACKS, and How to Get Kids to Clean Their Room without Ruining the Parent/Child Relationship, Episode 137
Just a few days ago the ground looked dormant. The mulch had faded and decomposing leaves were burrowed all around the flowerbed.... For a moment I worried that my plants wouldn't emerge...
You know, mamas, parenting is a lot like raising plants. We’re tending these plants BEFORE the growth comes. Growth is not always visible at the moment and we are tempted to get discouraged to think our efforts are not paying off, or to feel undo pressure on ourselves or on our children to reach maturity immediately -mature in mind or in habits or in character development. Mama, plants just don’t grow like that. They grow in seasons of dormant and new growth.
Dear mom friend, my prayer for you today is that you would take care and keep putting in effort toward the tending of your children. New growth is coming. It might be just one rainstorm away from seeing a big growth spurt in their character, in their decision-making, in their attitude, in their soul.
Galatians 6:9 says, Let us not grow weary in well-doing, for in due time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.
Intentional Mamas! This week is a bit different on the PSM Podcast. This week I am doing three short episodes on M,W, and F. It’s a week of encouragement for you- my intentional mom friends. Then beginning next week we will be back to our usual Monday episodes again. This month we’ll be tackling the have-to's in life. That’s right, we’ll be beginning some new episodes in the Lasso your life series, including some mom hacks for figuring out how to get your kids to clean there room without it wreaking havoc on the parent/child relationship. We will also talk about Kid HABITS. It's all next week on the podcast. But first, this Friday we will wrap up our week of encouragement to moms.
If you'd like to learn more about how raising kids is a lot like raising plants, here's a link to the audio version of my book Wearing All Your Hats without Wearing Out. Or you can get the book from my website, www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com
The sound of home... a respite from the rest of life. Or is it?
The atmosphere of our mama heart spills over and becomes the atmosphere of our home.
Plenty of days I completely blow it when it comes to having an atmosphere of peace and joy inside my heart, and it is pretty obvious in my attitude, in my voice, in my eyes, in my facial expression.
Pressure, anxiety, worry, frustration, busyness - all of these can be culprits to steal our joy and rob us from a peaceful atmosphere in our heart. What's a mom to do? Let's talk about it today in episode 134 of the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast, the place for an intentional mom to build a strong family.
If you could use some new encouragement and motivation for your intentional parenting journey, you'll want to listen to this week's THREE episodes, on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday.
LINK to a list of resources to help kids to get God's word in their hearts
Intentional parent, we want to answer the question, “Am I worth knowing?” with the answer, *“I am honored and excited to spend my lifetime discovering God’s unique, masterful design of you, my precious child. I want to know you – not the surface you, but the deep in your heart you. I can handle knowing your fears, your struggles, what makes you angry, and what makes you want to hide from the world. That is the privilege of discerning your heart and I will maintain that privilege. I will be honoring of your heart."
As a parent, you are not going to always get it right. Sometimes, even though you mean well, you may cause a heart wound in your child's spirit that will require some repairing. Repairing is a slow, humbling process that reveals your commitment to your child's wholeness.Last week we talked about the question “Am I worth knowing?” as one of the six questions of our child’s heart and we're continuing this topic for a second week. "Am I worth KNOWING?" is partly a question about EFFORT - "Mom, are you willing to make the effort to pursue knowing me deeply, knowing the real me - my inner complex self?" And the question is also about CONTENT*, as the child's heart longs to know they have value, or, "Mom, if you make the effort to discover the real me, will it be worth it? Is there anything special about me to discover?"
Did you know that one of the most loving things you can do for your child is be excited about DISCOVERING who they are?
The following is a list of some of the questions your child's heart it asking, related to "Am I worth Knowing?"
What’s the point of me?
Why am I here?
Do I bring value to the world?
What difference do I make?
Am I a burden or a blessing?
Am I intentionally designed or an accident?
Does anyone find joy in my presence or am I a bother?
Do I have important thoughts or am I unintelligent?
**If you really knew me, would you still love me?
Are you willing to put forth enough effort and time to discover the real me?**
Intentional mom, we want to answer the question, “Am I worth knowing?” with the answer, “I am honored and excited to spend my lifetime discovering God’s unique, masterful design of you, my precious child. And I want to know you – not the surface you, but the deep in your heart you. I can handle knowing your fears, your struggles, what makes you angry, and what makes you want to hide from the world. That is the privilege of discerning your heart and I will maintain that privilege. I will be honoring of your heart."
CLICK HERE to read the entire blog post corresponding to this podcast episode and to see the list of RESOURCES mentioned in episode 64.
💜Raising a Luke 2:52 Kid: Val's bi-annual Evaluation Plan for identifying your child's strengths and weaknesses in four main areas of life
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Part of our role as intentional moms is to identify God’s unique design in our children, to help them to see it clearly for themselves, and, to help them to allow the Holy Spirit to HONE their gifts & strengths and work on their "weaknesses" that may be strengths that are just covered up. HOW DO WE DO THIS? How do we discover our child's design and impact their self-perception? We are continuing this topic this week as we also continue about dealing with negative self-talk.
This process is the tremendous privilege we are given in motherhood of partnering with our kids and with God to develop their lives into their purpose. Here's a link to the blog post for Episode 63.
"...snails are a lot like many kids (and even many of us adults) that only see the ordinary part of ourselves – maybe even see our ordinariness as unattractive and unwanted when all the while, we have wonderful, uniquely-designed-by-God qualities that we don’t see...."
Episode 63, Unlock Your Child's Strengths & Impact their Self-Perception, focuses on two of our child's heart-questions, “Am I worth Knowing?” and “Am I worth Believing In?”
It gives insight into how to DISCOVER your child's strengths that may be hiding behind "weaknesses" and also gives practical ways to impact your child's self-perception.
In this second week with my material, "Your Love Becomes Their Strength, Answering the Six Questions of Your Child's Heart," we join again with the Chosen Mamas Podcast, where I was asked to be a guest for an event followed by a Q&A session.
💚RESOURCESClick here to listen to Last week's episode: 62 Mending Your Child's Heart at every age.
💚Chosen Mamas Podcast is associated with CHOSEN, located in Derby, KS, a group for moms of all ages who want to intersect their faith in Jesus with the every day ups and downs of motherhood.
💚Another podcast episode that goes into more details about dealing with negative self-talk in our tweens & teens.
💚Link to my podcast series on Root Parenting
💚Here's a link to a LIVE workshop audio download where I share about all six questions of your child's heart.
💚 Wearing All Your Hats without Wearing Out: Finding Focus for Your Family to be the Masterpiece God Intended
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Self-Perception, overcoming internal lies we are tempted to believe about ourselves, speaking life and truth into our self-worth ...that's what Val and her daughter Emma are discussing in episode 131, in the occasional, on-going series "Life-Giving Words."
Be sure to check out the Spotify playlist they put together for you to listen to with your kids as you all work toward a healthier self-perception.
Spotify Self-Worth Playlist link
Episode on Overcoming Negative Self-Talk
Mending Your Child's Heart at Every Age blog & podcast
A Girl's Self-Worth, Parenting a Teen and Those Who Will Be, Part 1
Part 2
Bible Verses to memorize Psalm 139:13-14, 1 John 4:10-11, Philippians 4:8, 2 Cor 10:5
Belovedness by Sarah Kroger
Christy Nockels, music artist of Always Remember to Never Forget
Let's dive into a deeper understanding of Your Child's Nine Circles of Influence on their Self-Perception and the invisible labels they may be wearing, in Part 2 of "Your Child's Nine Circles of Influence on their Self-Perception, episode 130."
Click Here for Part 1 of Your Child's Nine Circles of Influence on their Self-Perception, Episode 129. Listen to episode 129 first!
Click Here for the Family Communication Scripture Reference Tool
Click Here to listen to episode 105 when Val shared practical solutions for growing your child's FRIENDSHIPS using the nine circles of influence.
NEXT WEEK: We continue this series with a conversation between Val Harrison, the Practically Speaking MOM, and her youngest daughter, twelve-year-old Emma, as they discuss self-image, combatting negative self-talk and learning to filter our thoughts.
CONNECT with the Practically Speaking MOM - Val would love to hear from you!! Share your questions, thoughts and ideas with Val and the Intentional Mom community:https://www.practicallyspeakingmom.com/podcast -subscribe to the podcast
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From the Practically Speaking MOM ministry, you'll find practical ways to help you find your focus to be the masterpiece family God created you to be!
Music by NathanHarrison.music@gmail.com
This episode will be beneficial for parents no matter what age their children may be. It is so important to understand these influences over your child's self-perception, whether they are four years old or twenty four years old. The more we understand these circles of influence, the better we are at filtering and guarding and impacting the world around us. Your child's self-perception is made of many facets, including the circles of influence in their lives. However, we can flip it! We can help our children become the influencers. We can help them filter and guard what they take it. We can help them to consider how they are impacting those around them. In episode 129, we look at these circles of people who are impacting your child.
Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM, shares three things that your child needs to know and three things your child needs to do about these circles of influence in their lives.
The circles of influence were first introduced in episode 105 when Val talked about helping your children develop friendships (see link below).
"Teaching Your Child to Be a Blessing" Series episodes:
101 - The Value of Volunteering
102 - Simplifying Hospitality
103 - Being a Blessing Among Siblings, Pt 1
104 - Being a Blessing Among Siblings, Pt 2
105 - Helping My Child Build Strong Friendships
Here's a link to the newest product from Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM. It's the audio version, read by the author, of her book Wearing All Your Hats without Wearing Out: Finding Focus to be the Masterpiece Family God Intended.
In Val's weekly emails every Monday in March 2022, she will include a coupon code for a discount on this audiobook! To join her weekly email list, go to www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com, scroll to the bottom of the page, and enter your email address. That's all it takes!
Season 3 Introduces several new themes for intentional parents...
Parenting in the Trenches
Uniquely United
Lasso Your Life
Life-Giving Words
Guiding Your Child's Heart
Healthy family communication habits is taught in my book and taught LIVE on audio MP3, Clash In Your Home: Getting a Game Plan for Cleaning Up the Conflict. https://www.practicallyspeakingmom.com/shop
"Help! My Home is Full of Difficult Personalities and One of Them is Mine!" is an mp3 recorded LIVE https://www.practicallyspeakingmom.com/product-page/live-audio-workshops-by-val
CONNECT with the Practically Speaking MOM - Val would love to hear from you!! Share your questions, thoughts and ideas with Val and the Intentional Mom community:https://www.practicallyspeakingmom.com/podcast -subscribe to the podcast
https://www.facebook.com/groups/1467972243355843/ -joining Val's private Facebook Group "Intentional Mom, Strong Family"
https://www.instagram.com/practicallyspeakingmom/ -Follow Val on Instagram @PracticallySpeakingMOM
https://www.facebook.com/PracticallySpeakingMom/ -Like Val's public Facebook page Practically Speaking MOM
Visit the website www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com
From the Practically Speaking MOM ministry, you'll find practical ways to help you find your focus to be the masterpiece family God created you to be!
Music by NathanHarrison.music@gmail.com
Moms have the most rewarding role in the whole world, by far. But with that reward comes some very heavy responsibilities as well, responsibilities that we must continue to carry even in the midst of tragedy or personal suffering. This seems almost impossible at times.
I've heard from several moms lately who are brokenhearted – newly widowed, a terminal cancer diagnosis, a grown child who seems to be walking away from truth, a high schooler who has run away, a family member sentenced to prison...
Those are some very painful burdens to carry. They’ve shared about sleepless nights, aching hearts, and not understanding how this could be happening.
If you also are going through some difficult times right now, if a dark cloud of suffering or fear or loneliness is hovering over your life, maybe this week's podcast episode and blog is for you.
Podcast episode 127 and its corresponding blog post are here to bring encouragement to the mama who is suffering or in despair. CLICK HERE to read the blog post.
CLICK HERE to listen to episode 60, "Let God Write Your Victory Song."
CLICK HERE to get to Val's blog post: "Prayers, Verses, and Moments with God for the Mom Life by The Practically Speaking MOM."
Quote from Episode 3, The Top Priority and Letting Them Grow Up:
*"I was so busy trying to make sure that they were good, that I failed to make sure they knew they were pricelessly treasured. Don't make the mistake I made."
Special Thanks to Liz Mall from the Chosen Mamas Podcast.HIGHLIGHTS of Episode:What's the Top Priority from Toddlers to Teens?
Fill their LOVE TANKS.
Fill the YOUNGEST "love tank" first. When a love tank is full they are able to play on their own better, be less clingy, and have more peace.
Set a Timer for 5-10 minutes at the top of every hour with the toddler for focused time together.
Middles - have a once a day "Mom & Me Time"
Eye Contact Close in proximity Light-hearted
RESOURCES Mentioned on this Episode (some of these resources are affiliate links):
The Five Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell (affiliate link)
How to Really Love Your Child by Ross Campbell
The Way of the Wild Heart by Jon Eldredge
Blog Post by Val related to todays' episode including the Prayer for her GRADUATE:
CONNECT with the Practically Speaking MOM - Val would love to hear from you!! Share your questions, thoughts and ideas with Val and the Intentional Mom community:https://www.practicallyspeakingmom.com/podcast -subscribe to the podcast
https://www.facebook.com/groups/1467972243355843/ -joining Val's private Facebook Group "Intentional Mom, Strong Family"
https://www.instagram.com/practicallyspeakingmom/ -Follow Val on Instagram @PracticallySpeakingMOM
https://www.facebook.com/PracticallySpeakingMom/ -Like Val's public Facebook page Practically Speaking MOM
Visit the website www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com
From the Practically Speaking MOM ministry, you'll find practical ways to help you find your focus to be the masterpiece family God created you to be!
Music by NathanHarrison.music@gmail.com
Our kids are constantly bombarded with messages even at a very young age about romance, love, dating, and marriage. Messages come from music, shows and movies, even video games with their seductive images. Most of these messages do way more harm than good in impacting your child's perception on these issues. Of course, reducing their intake of media goes along way in helping their beliefs about these concepts and parents can also speak a clear and impactful message on these topics with our kids as well. Podcast episode 125, will be two things:
1. A list of questions for you, the parent. Take some time to figure out what your message is going to be through your years of parenting in this complex issue. Don't wait to figure out your philosophy, because the messages they are getting are happening even at young ages, so your messages have to start young as well.
- The second part of this episode is a NIGHT OF FUN, BONDING, and WISDOM-GIVING regarding your child's heart, romantic love, dating, and the meaning of marriage.
With Valentine's one week away, this is the perfect opportunity to have a night like this, but you can also use these ideas anytime.
CLICK HERE for the THE BLOG POST THAT GOES WITH THIS EPISODE. IT HAS ALL THE QUESTIONS & IDEAS
Want some more podcast episodes on the topic? Here you go!
- Conversation with a Teen about Guarding Your Heart Part 1
96 The conversation continues. The Keys to Waiting with Grace, Part 2
97 Modesty Pitfalls from the Purity Movement and Treasuring Sexuality, Part 3
I'm on a mission to simplify my life and streamline my systems AND to teach gt my kids on board with the systems also. This frees me up to focus on what really matters - the hearts and minds of my children. Having the kids participate in the home systems grows their character and gives them a framework for living a self-disciplined, productive life. In episode 124, you'll learn about several of my systems to make life simpler for busy households. And I am so thankful that Amy Roberts from Raising Arrows joined us in this episode as our guest host!
Quotes:
"These systems increase simplicity and they also increase self-discipline in our kids." 'Why am I talking about our kids' internet usage in a time-saving strategies podcast? It's because having a family internet agreement saves us so much time in multiple ways. Such as, I don't have to wrestle with myself about what my rules are going to be today with the kids regarding internet. Otherwise, if I didn't have a clear plan for internet usage in our home, then on days when I was tired or sick or overwhelmed, then I would be very tempted to be very lax on those rules. And that's when things end up happening is when we're distracted as parents."
Resources Mentioned (some are affiliate links):
Internet Usage Agreement
Net Nanny Filtering service, Covenant Eyes accountability service
Simple Systems for Homeschool Success
Blog post about my sticky note system with three Brain Books.
Blog post about Save Your Sanity- one hour a week meal prep.
Raising a Luke 2:52 Child
When Littles are Loud: Maximizing the Moments without Drowning in Chaos
When Little are Loud, blog post part 1
The Tech Wise Family by Andy Crouch
Meet our guest host, Amy Roberts of Raising Arrows:
Blog - https://www.raisingarrows.net Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/RaisingArrows YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/AmyRaisingArrows Podcast - https://raisingarrows.net/podcasts/
Amy Roberts of RaisingArrows.net is a Christ-follower, devoted wife, homeschooling mother of 10, blogger, podcaster, conference speaker, and author. With practical and encouraging advice, Amy helps moms manage their large family homes and homeschools.
Amy Roberts - Raising Arrows®
Blogger, Author, Speaker, Podcaster
amy@raisingarrows.net | | | https://www.raisingarrows.net
Parenting is fabulous but it can also be really hard, with difficulties that come at you from all directions. Sometimes those difficult times last for a day or week. Other times, a difficult season seems it will never end. Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM, and her husband, Rich, take a lighthearted look at the valuable role of dreaming and goal setting as parents and in marriage when life gets tough. Listen as they share how to find renewed hope in the midst of Fire Swamp Parenting.
Want to hear more episodes with Rich and Val? Listen to episodes 106 54 23
Meet our guest host:
Guest host Yvette Hampton is the producer and host of the documentary, Schoolhouse Rocked: The Homeschool Revolution, The Schoolhouse Rocked Podcast and the Homegrown Generation Family Expo. As a mom who is concerned for the future of this generation and the future of our country, Yvette has a deep desire to see a culture shift by encouraging people through the truth of God’s Word. Her greatest joy in life is being a wife and mom! In the fall of 2016, Yvette and her family sold their home and most of their stuff, loaded up in an RV, and began traveling the country to film Schoolhouse Rocked. They have a passion for families and the homeschool community and are humbled and honored that the Lord has called them to tell the stories of the millions of families who have been impacted by the homeschool revolution. Find out more by visiting SchoolhouseRocked.com. SchoolHouseRocked.com
School House Rocked Podcast
I don't want my vision for my family's future. My vision is skewed. My motives are often selfish and my imagination of what could be is often way too small. I want new vision, but I want it to be God's vision for our family. He is the divine Way-Maker. He's the great Vision-Caster, truly the Master Artist of our family, if we allow Him to be. I don't want to be heading toward my own goals and agenda. I don't want my vision to have come from me. I want to be heading towards GOD's vision for my family.I believe that His ways are
1. better than my ways
2. bigger than I could have imagined
**3. more blessed than my own ways could have been
I want to live this out in my life and equip my children to do the same. This is an episode you will want your children to listen along with you. You'll be hearing from four of my children sharing from their heart about getting God's heart for their future.**
Isaiah 55:8 Says, “My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts,” says the Lord… “For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so My ways are higher than your ways and My thoughts higher than your thoughts.”
Val's Book: Wearing All Your Hats without Wearing Out: Finding Focus for Your Family to be the Masterpiece God Intended
Content by Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM. Guest host today, Lisa Nehring of True North Homeschool Academy
Meet our guest host: Lisa Nehring directs True North Homeschool Academy, a full-service K-12th grade academy offering live online, small group, dynamic, interactive classes, clubs, Mom's Membership and more!
Lisa has been married for 36 years, has 5 grown children, 2 grandchildren and 2 Master's Degrees. Her heart is to come alongside other intentional moms to create a space that welcomes and nurtures truth, beauty and goodness in the world!
To find out about Lisa's classes, clubs, testing, Advising, weekly Blog and more: True North Homeschool Academy Listen to our weekly podcast: Soft Skills 101:Life Skills for a Digital AgeJoin in the conversation on FB: True North Homeschool Academy Get inspired on Pinterest Join in the fun on Instagram
Contact Val: www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com
Facebook Group: Intentional Mom, Strong Family
"Our kids need to know that SUCCESS IS IN THE JOURNEY AS MUCH AS IN THE END ACHIEVEMENT. Falling down and getting back up are important milestones in the journey." Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM
Three Steps to Teaching Your Kids the Success Habit of Goal Setting and Goal-mapping Skills.
1. Pray over your goal-setting before, after, and during the process.
We want God to be our partner in life. He knows us; He knows our circumstances; He knows our future. He knows all of those things better than we do. Having Him as our partner in all of these decisions and all o f these plans is so critical. Ultimately we want His will. We don't want our will. He can do this so much better than we can. I need Him to direct my life and I want to teach my children to allow Him to direct their lives also. We shouldn't expect that for their future behavior if we don't teach them how today.
"His ways are not our ways and His thoughts are not our thoughts. As far as the heavens are above the earth, so far are His thoughts above our thoughts and His ways above our ways." Isaiah 55:8.
2. Teach them to WRITE DOWN their goals and place them around the house where they can see them regularly.
3. Include a TIMELINE for achievable little steps as a roadmap to the big goal. If you only have the big end goal, it may stay too unattainable. You and your kids need some little successes to celebrate along the way! Let's learn how!
Quotes from the episode:
"Even if we never reach the end goal, we have succeeded by making progress."Val Harrison
"It's bonding to set goals together, to map them out together, and to watch God do great things." Val Harrison
Other Resources Mentioned:
Joni
A Man Called Norman
By the way, no shark was harmed - it was one that had died naturally.
Plugged In .com Media Review Website from Focus on the Family
Raising A Luke 2:52 Kid Podcast Episode and Blog Post
Raising A Luke 2:52 Kid Goal Poster download
Content by Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM.
Guest host today, Lisa Nehring of True North Homeschool Academy
Meet our guest host: Lisa Nehring directs True North Homeschool Academy, a full-service K-12th grade academy offering live online, small group, dynamic, interactive classes, clubs, Mom's Membership and more!
Lisa has been married for 36 years, has 5 grown children, 2 grandchildren and 2 Master's Degrees. Her heart is to come alongside other intentional moms to create a space that welcomes and nurtures truth, beauty and goodness in the world!
To find out about Lisa's classes, clubs, testing, Advising, weekly Blog and more: True North Homeschool Academy Listen to our weekly podcast: Soft Skills 101:Life Skills for a Digital AgeJoin in the conversation on FB: True North Homeschool Academy Get inspired on Pinterest Join in the fun on Instagram
"Hiding in the messy moments from our past are opportunities for new God moments with us and with our kids" - Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM from episode 68 & 120
We are always working on the growth of our kids' hearts. This episode is for YOU, intentional mom, to work on your heart. It's a process to recalibrate, to refine your mom journey.
Somewhere around eleven New Years’ ago, I began a personal mom tradition - taking some time alone to practice something I’ve come to call the Five R’s of Intentional Parenting: Reflect, Regret, Repent, Redeem, Refine. I would love it if you joined me in this practice!
As you go through this process, you are also learning a wonderful skill to teach your children as well! You are equipping them to face their mistakes in a productive, strength-building way.
CLICK HERE to read the full blog post that coordinates with this podcast episode.
Steps to the Five R’s of Being an Intentional Mistaking Parent1. REFLECT
❓What are some things that went great or is going well in our family?
❓What needs a little tweak of refinement because it’s not quite right but is on the right track?
❓What were big fails or is really not going well right now?
❓Where do I see relationship walls or other signs of potentially troubled hearts in your home?
(The hearts of your family are the most important things of all to zero in on for your time of reflection. Linger here the longest.)2. REGRET
I’ve learned to stay in this REGRET step for a bit - to go ahead and live in the pain on purpose for a little while, letting reality sting. I don’t want to avoid the important role of regret. It is like a refiner’s fire of my character. It sears into my heart the importance of not remaining the way I am.
There is healing in the refiner’s fire of regret. Don’t skip it, don’t undervalue it, but also don’t build a summer home in regret. It’s a temporary stop in your journey to refinement.3. REPENT
Repentance is a time of TURNING, turning away from my old ways and pivoting to a better way.
- REDEEM
This is the time for me to allow God to take my mess and RESHAPE it. He doesn’t wipe out the memory of the past, but He does give it new meaning.
- REFINE
Finally, learn to live a lifestyle of this REFINING PROCESS - refining your character, your perspective, your parenting habits, your priorities.
RESOURCES for Episode 68:Mending Your Child's Heart at Every Age, Episode 62, Blog Post & Podcast The Hope-Filled Life of the Mistaking Parent, Pt 1Full Length Workshop on Answering the Six Questions of Your Childs Heart - LIVE WORKSHOP & SLIDES to accompany audio, $12 download. These six questions include the steps of RESTORING relationships..
Episode 69 - The rest of my talk on the 5 R's of Intentional Parenting
Episode 16- The Power of Regret, Don't waste this Moment
"What they're struggling with on the inside, these are the more critical things than the things that they're struggling with on the outside."
What I've Observed in the middle years
1.They're figuring out social skills about themselves so be sure to be teaching them people skills.
2. There's a reason they're so absent-minded right now - have grace and try the two techniques mentioned.
3. They're turning more outward for their influences so pray for their influencers and build bridges with their influencers and take Val's tips on this point.
Watch carefully the different ways your introvert or extrovert teen or preteen handles this time.
Be a visionary to help them see what they don't see in themselves (learn about being a Visionary Parent in my book, Wearing All Your Hats without Wearing Out or the Ebook version - the Ebook is an affiliate link).
*Be their biggest cheerleader as you help them find something to win at, which volunteering can be a great way to feel like they're winning!
You met Tori a few weeks ago when you heard her own story through the young teen years and now you get to hear her as a youth director.
Val and youth director, Tori, on how to parent Gen Z'ers:
-Middle Schoolers, "Do you like me?"
-High Schoolers, "Do I like you?"
The world is telling them, "If you perform well, if you bring something to the table, if you have something to offer then you're worth something."
Val shares some lessons she learned the hard way in parenting teenagers including applying Mercy Seat Parenting to the teen years - and they discuss how to get teens to open up with parents about the hard things.
Resources Recommended:
Techwise Family by Andy Crouch
www.Axis.com especially the Culture Translator Newsletter
Special thanks to our guest host, Katie Waalkes of Life In the Mundane YouTube Channel....
Katie is a wife of 13 years, mother to 6 kids, and runs the YouTube channel "Life in the Mundane". She is passionate about encouraging parents in their biblical parenting and helping homeschool mom's in their journey. Katie has a unique perspective on homeschooling as both her and her husband grew up homeschooled. As a second generation homeschooler she has been both the student and teacher and has much to offer on the topic. She hopes to be able to help you start making the most of the little moments in life, as the mundane moments are often the most impactful.
You can find Katie at
youtube.com/lifeinthemundane
lifeinthemundane.com
instagram.com/lifeinthemundane
Intentional Moms, I pray that you and your family are preparing your hearts for a blessed Christmas in your home.
Today's episode is an inspirational devotional from guest host Jan Burt. She gives us encouragement that, because of the birth of our Lord Jesus Christ, we have reason to have hope and joy, even in the midst of the struggles we face in our world. Thank you, Jan, for pointing us again to the Savior this Christmas season!
Jan L. Burt is an author, speaker, podcaster, homeschooling veteran, mother to five, and has been happily married to Tony for twenty-nine years. She served in youth ministry alongside her husband for twelve years & has led several Bible studies for women as well as hosting an online prayer retreat.
Jan is the host of the podcast “The Burt (Not Ernie) Show” & author of the new book “The Power of God’s Will – 40 Days of God’s Promises Devotional” (available on Amazon) & “The Once-A-Year Homeschool Planner” (a multi-grade, multi-subject planning system) – which can be found at JanLBurt.com. She is also a regular contributor to The Old Schoolhouse Magazine. Find Jan Instagram: @JanLBurt or at her website JanLBurt.com
The Burt (Not Ernie) Show Podcast
(on Apple Podcasts)
The Power of God's Will - 40 Days of God's Promises Devotional on Amazon
JanLBurt.com
Next Week: Guest Host Katie Waalkes
Mama, Are you depleted? You can't pour out of an empty pitcher. Intentional Moms take time to have your soul nourished so that you can truly nourish the souls of your children. Today we look at the different ways a busy mom can get quality time with God to nourish her heart so that it's filled up in order to be poured out for her children.
The episode concludes with a look at four steps to being a Power House Parent.
Click here to Read Val's BLOG POST that coincides with this podcast
Power House Commitments:
1. I will model a God-First relationship with Jesus Christ.
2. I will honor my child's other parent.
3. I will guard my child's heart.
4. I will encourage other families to be a Power House family.
Quotes:
"God has an agenda for my day. I need to trust him to make me passionate about His agenda for my day and to have peace about the things that aren't going to get done."
"Time with the Lord is your daily spiritual nourishment to fill up your heart so that you can pour it out in leading your family to live a lifestyle of feasting with the Father."
"You can't lead where you aren't going. You can't teach what you don't know. Your relationship with Jesus is the most important relationship in your life."
Today's Guest Host: Jan L. Burt is an author, speaker, podcaster, homeschooling veteran, mother to five, and has been happily married to Tony for twenty-nine years. She served in youth ministry alongside her husband for twelve years & has led several Bible studies for women as well as hosting an online prayer retreat.
Jan is the host of the podcast “The Burt (Not Ernie) Show” & author of the new book “The Power of God’s Will – 40 Days of God’s Promises Devotional” (available on Amazon) & “The Once-A-Year Homeschool Planner” (a multi-grade, multi-subject planning system) – which can be found at JanLBurt.com. She is also a regular contributor to The Old Schoolhouse Magazine. Find Jan Instagram: @JanLBurt or at her website JanLBurt.com .
janburtauthor@gmail.com
Resources Mentioned
Youverision Bible
CONNECT with Val:
www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com Public announcements & Resources Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/PracticallySpeakingMom/
Val's Private Group: Intentional Mom, Strong Family
Instagram:@PracticallySpeakingMOM
An honest story of brokenness, redemption, hope, and beautiful scars along with SPECIFIC ACTION STEPS for INTENTIONAL PARENTS - steps for the role you play in your child's sacred journey to make their faith their own...with Guest Host Nina Baldwin, EverydayBlessings.net, Everyday Blessings YouTube Channel, featuring Victoria Dahilig.
What's so sacred about struggling? We don't realize it is sacred until later. And then, then we see that the time of struggling was just as sacred as the time of redemption.
Resources:
Clash In Your Home: Getting a Game Plan for Cleaning Up the Conflict EBook version"Welcome" "Whisper" "Be Still" written, composed, and performed by Victoria Dahilig. Copyright 2009
A note from Victoria about the final song, Be Still, in this week's episode...
*I was 14 and at a crucial point in my spiritual formation. Struggling between simply living out “my parent’s faith” and making my faith and belief in God my own, I had been in a battle between the knowledge in my head and the feelings in my heart. I was doubting the goodness of God. This battle culminated in a struggle with depression, loneliness, anger and fear – God gripped my heart, drove me to my knees and drew me back to Him through the light of others and the truth of His word.
As I searched Scripture, I re-discovered a loving Father who is attentive to every need and deep, heart-cry of His children and yet, sits in sovereign control of the Universe. A God who was not far from me, nor angry with me or disappointed in me but one who was close, constant and welcoming with open arms.*
As my soul finally began to find rest in the character and promises of God, this song, Be Still, was my response. Inspired by God’s own Words found in Psalm 46, Exodus 14:14, Isaiah 31:17 and Zephaniah 3:17, this was my heart singing in the assurance and confidence I had found in my place of belonging and safety in the arms of a good Father.
My hope is that as other’s hear the words of this song, that no matter what storms may be raging in their life, they can take a moment to trust again and simply rest in the assurance that God is still God." Victoria Dahilig, 2020
More Episode series w/ Victoria A Girl's Self-worth, Parenting Middles and Teens
NEXT WEEK
Guest Host Jan Burt. Check out her podcast HERE
Special Thanks to our guest host this week, Nina Baldwin of the YouTube Channel "Every Day Blessings" EverydayBlessings.net Everyday Blessings YouTube Channel
Nina introduces you to a conversation between myself, Val Harrison The Practically Speaking MOM, and my oldest daughter, Victoria Dahilig, a youth director.
"In all honesty I was tired of running from God. It’s hard work to run away from God because you’re running away from love and joy and hope. You don’t realize, until you’re away from all of those, the deep cavern that is inside of you without God filling it. So I came to this place of surrender and it was really GRACE. I was finally willing to admit that I was lonely and that I was hopeless… to admit that I couldn’t do this anymore on my own and I didn’t want to..." Victoria Dahilig, Episode 115This week and next, you get to journey to the heart of God through the testimony of Victoria Dahilig - church youth and ministry director, and one of my grown daughters. This two part series includes two original songs by Victoria - words God gave her because they were the words her heart needed to hear, and perhaps you need these words for your own heart or for the heart of one that you love who is running from God.
"Psalm 113:7-8 says 'He raises the poor from the dust and lifts the needy from the ash heap to make them sit with princes and the princes of His people.' That was exactly where I felt that I was at – that I was poor in the dust and needy in the ash heap. I had felt that I was in a place of dust and ashes and God was willing to lift me out of the heap... I grabbed a hold of the truth about the sovereignty of God - the mystery of Him and the assurance of Him... One of my songs was born out of this realization, in the act of turning back to Christ and realizing how heavy the loneliness, and dust, and ashes were weighing on me and taking the chance to open up in an honest prayer to God – lifting a raw prayer before Him.“
Victoria Dahilig, Episode 51Parents, one thing I feel very strongly is that how we help our younger children discover God is a very different parenting plan from when our teens and adult children wrestle with their faith. "Who is God?" and "Who am I in relationship to Him?" Are critical questions. As intentional parents, we can't have a "one size fits all ages" approach to this heart issue. We need to handle it differently at different stages of life. Next week, as we conclude this interview with Tori and introduce her next song, we’ll also talk about the Parent’s Action Plan - steps for helping your kids make their faith their own - different steps for different stages of childhood.
“God doesn’t eliminate the difficulties and trials for our children, but He does walk with them through these times. He is right there with them at every moment of every step, going in front, going beside, going behind, carrying them. He is totally surrounding our kids and we can trust Him."val harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM, episode 115
"Welcome Me" written and performed by Victoria Dahilig, Copyright 2009
Next week, I(Val, The Practically Speaking MOM) will share ACTION STEPS for PARENTS at each age and stage, to aid in the process of kids taking on their faith in God AS THEIR OWN, from the young to the grown, what we can do as intentional parents. (Episode 116). The story continues with the second song for the second step in Tori’s journey to the heart of God.
Thanks again, to Nina Baldwin of Every Day Blessings YouTube Channel and EveryDayBlessings.net
Strategies for being an intentional mom and a money making mom are packed into episode 113. Most families these days need mom to make some income also. Even most stay-at-home moms and homeschool moms I know are earning money on the side or more. This episode is about setting up strong home systems and work systems so that your FOCUS CAN BE ON YOUR FAMILY. Part of the episode is a conversation with one of my grown daughters, Becca, who is a work-from-home mom as well.
Then I share a list of tips for working smart instead of hard.
And I also share how I taught my kids about money management and more through incorporating them in my business.
We're in a series of guest hosts on the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast.
This week we are featuring Olivia Hayse, The Mama Marketer who is a wife, homeschool mom, podcaster, blogger, and business owner. She begins this episode with some of her own tips for being an income producing mom. She shares a bit of her story - leaving a successful business to be a farm mom! You also hear her heart in this episode to hear the importance of keeping your family way ahead of your business and how to make that happen.
Here's how to connect with Olivia: at The Mama Marketer:
The Mama Marketer website
The Mama Marketer Instagram
Resources MentionedTime Saving Strategies for Busy Moms Live Audio Workshop by Val $4 on her online shopPodcast episodes on Time Saving Strategies Episode 2 Episode 5 Episode 10
Not only are we talking about MOM PRESSURES on episode 112, we're also talking about the MOM PRESSURE that lead to my Big Announcement! And, no worries, it is a good announcement!
We are going to cover Four Steps to Dealing with Mom Pressure. Step two includes bringing our concerns to God in prayer. One of the great things about God is that His solutions to our obstacles come at just the right time and He orchestrates much better solutions than we could contrive ourselves.
So, jump on the podcast this week and hear the big announcement!
We mamas are on a constant quest for improving our health. We talk about that journey in the first half of today's podcast. In fact, the tips that guest Becca Hammond shares are the changes she made to help her third pregnancy to be MUCH healthier than her previous ones. She even says her delivery was a positive experience and she felt good, alert, and had energy. In episode 111, she shares three simple things that made a big difference for her.
Then the second half of this episode, Becca and I talk about important tips for thriving with multiple kiddos. Four key aspects to helping your kids to thrive daily:
1. Fill their love buckets - speak words of truth & hope & vision over them, make eye contact, give physical touch, show a smile on your face, relating on their level in a way that matters to them.
2. Get them moving!
3. Give them mental challenges.
4. Give them quiet time - a time alone to decompress, think, imagine, and self-regulate.
We talk about this and lots more on this mother/daughter conversation between a mature mama of seven, who is also a grandma, with one of her grown daughters, a mother of three.
RESOURCES:
Val's book When Littles Are Loud: Maximizing the Moments without Drowning in Chaos E-book of When Littles are Loud
Adrenal Renewal Drink:
- Organic Pulp-free OJ (not from concentrate) 4 oz
- Cream or Coconut Cream 2 tblsp
- Himalayan Sea Salt 1/4 tsp
- Cream of Tarter 1/4 tsp
- Collagen, serving size depends on collagen you choose (or Val uses protein powder, if you blend it)
- Optional if you use a blender or food processor - some greens such as spinach or kale or a greens powder
Val's TrimHealthyMama coach: Deann's Facebook
Links to Becca's health influencers (she follows all of these in Insta but here are internet links too)
Fallonstable.com
JessicaAshWellness.com
Real Food Ganstas Instagram
hormonehealingrd.com
CleanKitchenNutrition.com
MegLangston.com
ArmstrongSisters.com
STAY TUNED NEXT WEEK for a big announcement AND we'll be talking about dealing with mom pressure.
Connect with Val at www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com
Everything you do as a parent is an investment in your child's future. Therefore, let's be sure that the effort we are making is effective for strengthening their life steps. In Episode 110 we are going to have a checklist for growth steps toward the ultimate goal of helping our kids to live fully in God's unique purpose for their lives.
To do this, we look at Val's diagram of A Child's Hierarchy of Needs to God's Will for Their Lives, from her book When Littles are Loud: Maximizing the Moments without Drowning in Chaos. But this hierarchy of needs is not just about small children. It applies to every life - we need to progress to the next step on the ladder as a daily checklist, but also over their lifetime.
The levels of A Child's Hierarchy of Needs , which Val discusses in episode 110, are
-Safety Needs mentally, socially, spiritually, & physically
-Physical Needs
-Love & Justice Needs
-Knowledge of God and Who you are in relationship with God
-Need to Know your unique design from personality to gifts, talents, passions, experiences, strengths, weaknesses - our child needs to know that the unique design that is YOU is exactly what this world needs. Your life is a unique message to the world and PURPOSE in the world
- Need to Hear God's voice & do His will - how do we teach our kids to hear God's voice for the daily small stuff and the big decisions o f life.
On each step of the hierarchy, we want to take child through the following process:
1. Let them experience life with this step of life being HEALTHY. Are we giving them a healthy view of this part of life or a warped view?
2. Simultaneously, MODEL for them of how it looks for an adult to live out this area of life in a healthy way.
3. When they are old enough, EQUIP them to MONITOR this area of their life.
4. When they are old enough, EQUIP them to IMPROVE this area of their life.
RESOURCES mentioned in this episode
Tim Mackie - Justice and God's Story, pt 1
The Bible Project short family videos by Tim Mackie
Bible Study: Experiencing God - Henry Blackaby
About George Mueller
Val's hierarchy of needs for reaching God's purpose in your child's life comes from her book, When Littles Are Loud
"COMFORT ZONES are pretty dull places to live..." This week is about helping our kids to STRETCH for growth, to SPREAD their wings in order to fly. It's one of those episodes you will want your kids to hear.
"You become a leader by learning to serve others"
"Don't compare yourself to others"
"Everything you do speaks and you are constantly building your brand" are just some of the truths shared in this mother/daughter conversation.
As parents, our tendency is to want to make life easy for our kids.
However, a life of constant and immediate happiness, doesn't bring GROWTH.
If we want our kids to be strengthened, we must help them embrace challenges and obstacles as OPPORTUNITIES for their world to expand and for their abilities to increase.
Comfort zones are pretty dull places to live. And, usually God's design for our lives, is far bigger than our comfort zone.
In this episode, I'm joined by my daughter Abby to discuss the benefits of stepping out of our comfort zone, overcoming obstacles, and the good changes that can come from challenges.
This is the third week of the series on Preparing our Kids to SOAR. See episodes 107 and 108 for parts one and two of the series.
Bible Verse Philippians 4:8
This is the second episode in the new series "Preparing Your Child to Soar," where we're talking about how the best preparation is a holistic approach, based on Luke 2:52.
In this episode I'm joined by our youngest son Andrew to discuss specific and practical techniques for thriving. Today we cover the following topics:
Time management skills
People skills
Balancing Weaknesses & Strengths
Stress Management
How to Detox from Toxic (environment or people)
Work Ethic
What does EXCELLENCE look like - God's perspective over mine.
Links:
Episode 14: Raising a Luke 2:52 Kid
Book: Gaining Momentum - Preparing Your Student for a Career, With our Without College
I want my children to be well-prepared for life – a holistic view of life – prepared emotionally and socially, prepared academically and with wisdom, prepared spiritually and with discernment for their life purposes, prepared physically with healthy habits. I want my kids to be prepared. Do you agree? That preparation doesn’t begin when they’re 16, it begins from a very early age. We’re going to talk about all of this in our new series Preparing My Child to SOAR beyond the nest. The conversation begins this week in episode 107.
"Holistic" from the Greek root "Holo" meaning "Whole." Let's equip our kids through a WHOLE PERSON LIFESTYLE.
Four Steps for Moms to Equip Your Kids with a Whole Person Lifestyle
1. Parents model self-evaluation and growth in these four areas of life. The goal is growth, NOT perfection.
2. Continually seek to create and maintain a home environment that focuses on developing these four areas of life as a family. (Listen to episode 14)
3. In upper elementary or middle school, begin equipping your children to self-evaluate & set goals in these areas as well. (Listen to episode 107)
4. Throughout their lives, from young to old, be their biggest cheerleader in their pursuit of holistic living.
(Holostic, root word holo, Greek for whole) God introduces the holistic approach to raising our kids in Luke 2:52
This Checklist will be helpful to go along with this episode.
This week's podcast refers back to episode 14 in which I introduce a method for evaluating and goal-setting about our kids, called "Raising a Luke 2:52 Kid." Click the button below to listen to episode 14.
Episode 14 Raising a Luke 2:52 Kid
My husband Rich joins me in the studio this week to share about the BIG SURPRISE our children gave us!
Next week, we begin the series "Equipped to SOAR" - what are the ingredients to effectively prepare your kids to soar beyond the nest? It begins NOW, right where your kids are TODAY. They aren't too young to begin preparing them to soar!
In this final episode in the series, "Teaching Our Kids to BE A BLESSING," we look at HOW to help our children ESTABLISH and MAINTAIN healthy friendships .
One of the most common concerns that moms bring to me, is their heartache over their child's lack of meaningful friendships. What can be done about this concern?
In this episode we look at ALL the layers of RELATIONSHIPS that our children have and some ways to help them navigate these relationships and improve the important ones.
The episodes in this series of BEING A BLESSING are:
101 "The Value of VOLUNTEERING"
102 "Simplifying HOSPITALITY"
103 & 104 "Being a Blessing AMONG SIBLINGS"
105 "Build Strong FRIENDSHIPS"
PracticallySpeakingMOM.com, to listen to earlier episodes in the series.
Mentioned in this episode: Val's book - Gaining Momentum
"Who is My Neighbor" by Apologia Publishing
The next series that we will begin is "Equipping Our Kids to SOAR"
Here's an episode power-packed with examples and PRACTICAL solutions for your family. The focus is on improving sibling interactions. Intentional Mom, you can do this! There is HOPE for your family!
41 - Sibling Relationships, Family Values... Val's Four Daughters
53 - Sibling Squabbles, Bonding, Etc.
Gal. 5:15-24 (NIV)
"BLESSING ONE ANOTHER AMONG SIBLINGS," what does that look like?
How do we make this a reality in our imperfect home? It's going to take two episodes to share my answers with you. This is part one. Oh! This episode also talks about IDENTIFYING GOD's WILL FOR OUR OWN LIFE and OUR KIDS LIVES !
Read the BLOG POST that goes with this series, CLICK HERE.
This is the THIRD topic in the series on THE HABIT OF BEING A BLESSING.
The FIRST topic was VOLUNTEERING with guest Debbie Smith here to talk about family volunteering in episode 101. CLICK HERE to listen 101.
In episode102, Becca Hammond was our guest to talk about the benefits of incorporating HOSPITALITY into your busy family life - and how to do it SIMPLY. CLICK HERE to listen to 102.
WHAT is the Habit of Being a Blessing and WHY is it so important for our kids?
The lifestyle of being a blessing is the perfect vehicle to take our children to a life of COMPASSION, EMPATHY, ATTENTIVENESS TO OTHERS NEEDS, The ABILITY TO SPEAK BOTH HUMBLY & CONFIDENTLY AT THE SAME TIME to ALL PEOPLE – no matter their age, race, socio-economic status, or anything else.
What is coming in future episodes to wrap up SEASON TWO:
Next week - Part Two of Being a Blessing Among Siblings.
*The final series of SEASON TWO is called INGREDIENTS for LAUNCHING OUR KIDS FROM THE NEST - what do they need most.
*Season Two will end with a BLOOPERS episode hosted by Abby & Emma.
God's Artwork verse - Eph. 2:10
We're in the middle of a series on Teaching Our Kids to be a Blessing.
Last week we talked about being a blessing through VOLUNTEERING.
This week, we're looking at incorporating BEING A BLESSING through HOSPITALITY in your busy, hectic, imperfect family life. Learning to create a community right in your own home using your home to care about others while growing your children's character through these intentional community opportunities. HOW would we do this and WHY would we make hospitality a part of our family life? It can be easier than you may think!
I'm joined in the studio by Becca Hammond and she's going to help us SIMPLIFY HOSPITALITY.
If you're looking for a smile and a peaceful bit of encouragement, this episode is for you. I've listened to it several times and keep feeling a true sigh of relief from listening. You'll be inspired to change your perspective. Come on in and experience simple, pure hospitality.
The fear that arises in me when I think of hospitality is - my home isn't good enough for having company and I'm not a good enough cook and I can't afford it and I don't have TIME. Our guest will inspire us while she tells us how to keep it SIMPLE but IMPACTFUL.
Resources mentioned in episode 102:
Book - The Gospel Comes With a Housekey
Book - The Freedom to Flourish
**NEXT WEEK - "The Joy of Being a Blessing AMONG SIBLINGS"
Other episodes with Becca...**
Episode 82 Moms and False Inadequacy with Guest Becca Hammond and Val's VIPs.
Episode 36 Kid's Emotions, Insecurity, & Talk with a Preschool Mom
Episode 4 Dealing with Lying in Your Child, part 1, plus Toddler Manners
This week on the podcast I am joined by my dear friend, Debbie Smith. She inspires us to look for opportunities to impact our children and others through volunteering. This is part one of our series on Teaching Our Kids to Be a Blessing.
Volunteering is an opportunity to Impact those who need help AND impact our kids' heart, character, and life skills. The amount of confidence, flexibility, humility, determination, resilience, compassion, empathy, work ethic, communication skills, and more are all improved when we teach our kids the value of volunteering.
Next week, is part 2 of our series on Being a Blessing. I'll be joined in the studio by Becca Hammond. Her message - even busy mamas with limited time and energy can find some simple ways to give our children a lifestyle of hospitality.
Then in the third week of Being a Blessing, I will will talk about Being a Blessing AMONG SIBLINGS.
CLICK HERE to read the following insight that Debbie has pulled together for us intentional moms as we look for opportunities to impact! She provides a guest blog post for us this week. It will be live by noon on Monday.
Val and her daughters Abby & Emma celebrate the 100th episode
Plus, Val interrupts the celebration to share what God put on her heart to share with moms this week - Mom, stop fighting your battles yourself and make way for your Defender.
There's lots of drawings happening on the Intentional Mom Strong Family Facebook group this week in celebration of 100 episodes, so be sure to check there each day beginning Tues.
RESOURCES MENTIONED in this episode
Episode on Getting Kids to Listen the first time & Kids following through with chores because you've learned how to implement them and follow up.
Book Wearing All Your Hats without Wearing Out: Finding Focus for Your Family to be the Masterpiece God Intended
EBook Wearing All Your Hats without Wearing Out
Book When Littles are Loud: Maximizing the Moments without Drowning in Chaos
Ebook When Littles are Loud
Book Clash in Your Home: A Game Plan for Cleaning Up the Conflict
EBook Clash in Your Home
Book Gaining Momentum: Preparing Your Student for a Career with or without College
EBook Gaining Momentum
Download Booklet Homeschooling in Real Life: Simple Systems for Success
*Download Booklet Homeschool Roadmap to College
God has called me to encourage and equip ALL MOMS, no matter where your children receive their education. I know that circumstances are unique for every family. Even though I've been a homeschool mom for 24 years, my ministry is not limited to just homeschoolers. That being said, I do get a lot of questions about homeschooling, and this week I decided to answer your questions. I thought I'd give you a little peek into my heart and mind on my choices about education for my kids in episode 99 of the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast.
Here's the questions we'll be covering in Episode 99 of the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast:
Why do I not like the word, "Homeschooling" and what do I like instead?
How does Homeschooling differ from other options?
What are the PROS & CONS of homeschooling and what do I do about the cons if I decide to homeschool?
How can I manage my littles when I need to teach the older kids? Val will share SEVEN tips on this question!!!
What should my homeschool schedule look like?
How can I help my children reach MASTERY in their different subjects?
No matter what education option you choose, in this episode you will find some academic helps for all all of you! Such as, learning some skills for helping your student to achieve MASTERY of each of their subjects.
Doesn't it feel like we are constantly making difficult decisions about our children's lives. We wrestle with each choice. We stress. We pray. We just so badly want to choose well in our parenting. Where your kids go to school and how they get their education is just one of the many ways you strive to do what is best for your child. None of us are cookie-cutter families. We each have unique plans and purposes. It's okay for us to not choose the same options for our families.
RESOURCES mentioned in this episode:
Val's downloadable booklet for Simple Homeschool Systems "Homeschooling in Real Life." Val's downloadable booklet for the High School Years of homeschooling "Roadmap to College."
www.CrossSeven.org for awesome learning memory songs
Episode about the Work Ethic & the Habit of Happiness, Episode 7
Episode about Getting Kids to Listen the First Time, Episode 5
Episode for Scheduling a Littles Day, Episode 19
Join me, Val Harrison, for the Coffee Break Tour 2021: Wichita, KS, Thurs, Aug 12, 7-8:30pm
Tulsa, OK, Aug 21, 7-8pm
If you want to join me in Wichita or Tulsa, email me at Val@PracticallySpeakingMom.com and I will email the location to you.
Read the BLOG POST that includes more detail for this episode. You'll find it HERE by noon on Monday!
RESOURCES to HELP YOU WITH MORE ON THIS TOPIC:
If you’d like more encouragement in this area, visit the FRONT PORCH of my website. When you go to PracticallySpeakingMOM.com, you will see six rooms of the intentional moms home – you are the intentional mom and you have six rooms to your life. One of those rooms is the FRONT PORCH and it represents your refreshing relationship with our Creator. Click on the FRONT PORCH and find some more encouragement and equipping for your soul.
Also, you could go back to some of my episodes that takes this subject deeper. Here's a couple of them.
Episode 24, "How a Busy Mom Gets Quality Time with God Daily"
Episode 27, "Mom, Are You Out of Order."
IN THIS EPISODE I mention the former favorite, "YEAR ONE BLOOPERS Hosted by Abby & Emma."
You may want to grab your earbuds and listen to this one without the kiddos first. Then determine if you want them to listen afterward as a springboard for discussion, depending on their age. This is episode 97 of the Practically Speaking MOM podcast, the place for intentional moms to build strong families. The topic is Modesty & a reflection on the purity movement. Yeah, we’re goin there. Buckle up, you may experience a little turbulence on our journey to intentionality today.
Anytime I enter a critically important topic, I always feel like I’m walking into a minefield because there is SO MUCH that is important and I don’t want to leave any of it out and all of it feel volatile – partly because in any audience there’s a wide variety of people who have been through many different things. On this topic today some of you have been through unimaginable violations of your body others of you have had parents who were dictators and legalistic about the outside of your bodies while neglecting your heart (to be perfectly honest, that was partially me with our older kids). This week we’re in the minefield of modesty & the purity movement. This is an especially precarious minefield because not only is it an important topic but it is a HOT TOPIC. Hot topics are all the buzz and these days, any topic that is getting prime time attention means that lots of emotions are stirred up.
"Body shaming/ Body Positive" 'Sex Shaming/Sex Positive" ....These are just a few of the phrases and concepts swirling around society today regarding modesty and sexuality. In this episode, I hope I motivate you to give time and attention and prayer to your parenting perspective on modesty, the purity movement, and your child’s growing view of sexuality.
This week’s podcast would probably be best for you to listen first by yourself or with your husband because the two of you need to be having plenty of discussion and prayer together on how you are going to handle this issue with your kids – your kids, both boys and girls, and at every age, needs your GUIDANCE on this complex issue.
RESROUCES for this episode:
Materials for your daughters and few for your sons also... https://mytruegirl.com/
Book for you to do with your preteen or teen son - a book for teaching your sons to take responsibility for their thoughts Preparing Your Son for Every Man's Battle (the parent reads the first half of the book alone, then reads the second half of the book together with their son)
Last week, in episode #95, you listened to a conversation between me and my daughter Abby (at the time of recording she was a sixteen-year-old junior in high school). The conversation continues this week, recorded a full year later, in episode #96. Abby shares some keys that helped her slow down this process, how she waited a little longer than society around her to open the door of her heart to the complex world of romantic relationships, and what important purposes she was focusing on during the waiting.
She hasn't waited sequestered in her house, staring out an attic window, like the fairy tale character Rapunzel, in the movie Tangled. No, there has been important work to do in the waiting - there are vital GROWTH purposes in WATIING WITH GRACE.
It’s not really just about WAITING a little longer, it’s about PREPARING for something that is valuable, and it's about BECOMING who God created UNIQUE YOU to be, not just becoming who someone else is attracted to or that would gain the approval of a romantic interest.
CLICK HERE to listen to episode 96,
Books: Lady in Waiting
The New Lady In Waiting Book
And here's a book for your sons:
What He Must Be to Marry My Daughter
Earlier episodes that deal with this topic:
Episode 22 - Are We Going to Teach Our Kids that Sex is Sacred?
Episode 32 and Episode 33 - A Girl's Self-Worth, parts 1 & 2
Episode 72 - Teach Your Kids the Truth About Love
Bible Learning Resources that Abby used:
Awana materials
The Adventum
Adventures in Odyssey
NIV Live - Audio Bible Experience
The Bible Recap Podcast
Other dramatized Bible Audio CD sets
This is an episode about developing your parenting perspective on romantic relationships for your kids, SLOWING DOWN THE PROCESS, pushing back against the culture's messages about dating and romance. Our kids are bombarded with false messages constantly. Parents need to guard their hearts AND EQUIP OUR KIDS TO TREASURE & GUARD THEIR OWN HEART. In episode 95, "Conversation with a Teen about Guarding Your Heart," you will listen to a conversation between my daughter Abby & me. It's a conversation about SLOWING DOWN the process of romance and dating. It's about WAITING until they’re a little older before getting caught up in that complex and careful type of relationship. And it’s not really just about WAITING a little longer, it’s about PREPARING for something that is valuable, and it's about BECOMING YOUR BEST, not just becoming who someone else is attracted to or that would gain the approval of a romantic interest. In this episode, I was GOING to do book reviews on eight books with Abby. She had just read these books and she was going to give her opinion about them. Well, before we got into the reviews, I asked her a question and that question took us on a conversation from the heart. It was very revealing. This was recorded a year ago and was intended to publish a year ago, but God took me on a little journey of discovery and prayer about the topic of dating, romance, purity, and all the things related to these issues. I'm ready to dive in now, after a year of prayer and research.
Here's the blog post that goes with this episode CLICK HERE (it will be live by noon on Monday).
Earlier episodes that deal with this topic:
Episode 22 - Are We Going to Teach Our Kids that Sex is Sacred?
Episode 32 and Episode 33 - A Girl's Self-Worth, parts 1 & 2
Episode 72 - Teach Your Kids the Truth About Love
What's Coming on the podcast:
*Part 2, "Waiting with Grace - dating and love and romance and marriage... The conversation with a teen continues." Episode 96
"WHY & HOW I Homeschool" I'm about to begin my 24th year of homeschooling and lots of moms ask me WHY & HOW I homeschool, so I'm going to tell you! I'll answer questions like, "What are the pros & cons?" "What do you do with the littles when the bigs need detailed lessons?" and lots more....*
Becoming a VOLUNTEERING Family - for the joy, for the character development, for the worldview perspective with guest Debbie Smith
The 100th Episode!!!
In episode 94, Val shares two parenting topics that need extra preparation and prayer.
Plus Potty-training Tips!
Precious Mom, no matter your season of motherhood, it would be my honor to walk this worthy journey of motherhood right along with you. We’ll do that each week on this podcast, Practically Speaking MOM: Intentional Mom, Strong Family.
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From the Practically Speaking MOM ministry, you'll find practical ways to help you find your focus to be the masterpiece family God created you to be!
Music by NathanHarrison.music@gmail.com
Last week Emma & Abby helped Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM with ideas 1-5 in a Summer Success Plan to keep kids off of screens and on to truly living. This week, in episode 93, SUMMER THRIVING - Ways to GROW: No more bored kids staring at screens, Emma helps Val share Ideas 6-10 for really THRIVING this summer!
In episode 93, SUMMER THRIVING - Ways to GROW: No more bored kids on screens, Part 2, we look at ideas in
NATUJRE
READING
ENRICHMENT OUTINGS - including lots of serving ideas
PHYSICAL DEVELOPMENT -some ideas for physical activity this summer
RELATIONSHIP DEVELOPMENT - ideas for picking one relationship in your child's life that could use some attention and how to make a game plan for growth
After all, your kids only get 18 summer of being a kid. Let's make the most of them!
CLICK HERE to read the BLOG POST that goes along with episode 93.
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Click here to read the full BLOG POST related to this podcast, containing links to All that was discussed in this week's podcast. Abby & Emma join me on the podcast to share some ideas that are better than screen time! Most of us parents want summer to be flexible and fun for our kids, yet we don’t want that to mean they have complete freedom for their brains to wither away in front of a screen all day. We need a SUMMER SUCCESS PLAN for our kids that is fun, memorable, a change of pace that won’t break the bank, and it would be a bonus if our kids actually developed in key areas of life at the same time! That all seems a bit too much to ask for one summer, especially with the limited time we parents have to monitor and coordinate a meaningful break. So, what’s going to motivate us to make this SUMMER SUCCESS PLAN? Well, let me ask you a question:
How many summers do we get with our children?
Oh dear, that question kind of makes me hold my breath for a moment. Suddenly the realization of having only 18 or less summers with our growing kids makes the summer days so much more valuable. It’s time to be intentional.
Yes, summer should be full of leisure, fun, and rejuvenation but what it should not be is wasted. Don’t waste this precious time. Summer can be relaxing and developmental all at the same time! But it will require a little brainstorming and planning to make it fit both of those aspects into the limited 8-10 weeks we’ve got.
How about I do the brainstorming and planning for you? Or, at least I'm going to share my list with you and you can pick and choose the activities you think would work well at your house AND maybe it will help you think of activities that are JUST RIGHT for YOUR FAMILY!
Don’t worry, these activities are not all parent-centered activities. After all, our kids need time alone just as much as we adults crave time alone. This post is about making the most of your child’s summer days.
I would encourage you to pick out which of the following activities must be completed each day by your child before he or she is free to get in front of a screen for leisure.
The following list is pretty much my “we never have ENOUGH time to give this subject the quality emphasis it deserves during the school year” list, but we’ll just call it the “SUMMER SUCCESS ACTIVITIES for KIDS” list for short.
crossseven.org
Adventures in Odyssey
YWAM Publishing Audio Books
Focus on the Family Radio Theater
Lamplighters Theater
What's Coming:
Next week's podcast & blog will be part 2 of our Summer Success Activities Theme!
God’s signature on the events were perfectly clear, but not until AFTERWARD. . HE knew what was coming. We thought we were making a Father’s Day gift for Rich but we were participating, unknowingly, in a divine and sacred gift from God. It was the Father’s Day we’ll never forget because our heavenly father came with His perfect compassionate arms to embrace our family’s father in a way that ONLY GOD COULD DO.
Every child longs for a loving father.
Every child has a perfect Heavenly Father, and either an imperfect or absent earthly father.
On today's podcast, we'll be talking about all of that - the harmful father, the absent father, the imperfect but loving father, and your child's Heavenly Daddy. This is an episode of honor and hope as well as some inspiration for marriage and some role modeling of fatherhood, too. Even the good dads aren't perfect, but those imperfect loving dads are probably accomplishing more than you might think!
And you'll be reminded that no matter what kind of father your child has experienced, they have a loving, Heavenly Daddy who is always with them!
Resources Mentioned in this episode
Focus on the Family Help line - 1-855-771-HELP (4357)
Book: Different Children, Different Needs by Charles Boyd
Val's workshop audio: Help! My Home is Full of Difficult Personalities, and One of Them is Mine!
Episode 26: Root Parenting: Digging Deeper into the Four Root Areas Behind Your Child's Behavior
Episode 25: Root Parenting vs. Surface Parenting
Andrew Peterson's music and products: andrew-peterson.com
CONNECT with Val: www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com
Instagram Practically Speaking MOM
Facebook Private Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1467972243355843/
We're taking a practical look at strengthening your marriage, no matter what it looks like today. Rich and Val have a conversation as they celebrate 29 years of marriage.
Here's what's discussed today in episode 90 of the Practically Speaking MOM: Intentional Mom, Strong Family Podcast...
Ingredients of a Good Get-away
What's a ONE-ness Checkup?
What tears you down, wears you out, or depletes you regarding our marriage?
Incorporating filling up our spouse and our marriage on a regular basis
Habits to develop to strengthen our marriage
Setting goals for our next step of marriage
Expressing commitment in the routine days of our life together
What about when my spouse is totally tuned out or is only a taker, can I still make marriage matter, even then?
If you enjoyed this episode, here are links to more episodes with Rich & Val together...
80 Four Steps of Transformation through VALUING One Another
54 Nurturing a Sense of Security in Your Marriage and Family w/ Rich & Val
50 Behind the Scenes - Rich interviews Val
23 Overcoming Negative Communication Habits in Your Family & Marriage
8 Intentional Marriage, Redeeming Your Marriage, & the Concept of ONEness
Connecting with Val to have her speak at a parenting or womens event: email Intro music by Nathanharrison.music@gmail.com
ONEness Song lyrics by Rich and Val Harrison, score by Nathan Harrison
Sometimes motherhood is like playing a life-size game of pinball and YOU are the ball, being pinged from one unexpected parenting dilemma to another? What's a mom to do?? Let's talk about it in Episode 89, "Pinball Parenting," with Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM on the podcast for intentional moms to build strong families.
Pinball Parenting is… being pinged from one issue to the next where the issues may be vastly different from one another, usually unexpected, and often require some type of Houdini-level of expertise.
After you listen to episode 89, CLICK HERE to read the corresponding blog post.
"Now we mamas are always multi-tasking moms – throwing in a load of laundry in the washer before heading out to take a kid to soccer practice and planning to have a character development talk with them along the drive while the toddler is snacking on a banana in the back seat. That’s being a multi-tasking mom. Multi-tasking is when we’re accomplishing multiple things.
Pinball Parenting is when we’re being thrown into the unexpected bullring over here with this issue and then immediately we’re tossed into a game of Wipeout over there with another issue.
Pinball Parenting is all the UNEXPECTED CURVE BALLS that require A LOT from a mama. How can we be intentional even with the unexpected? "
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Emma & Abby are back! They're hosting this light-hearted look at Listener Questions and I'm answering them!
From using a "Money Jar" to improve some family habits to what moms can do when they're feeling overwhelmed to how a parent's spiritual influence changes when your kid's near adulthood to how to handle a middle schooler or high schooler whose attitude and distance have been a problem, we talk about it all on this week's episode based on listener questions. Not to mention that any episode hosted by Abby & Emma never disappoints in bringing smiles and laughs.
I hope you enjoy it as much as we did in making it! You're listening to Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM. This is your home for an Intentional Mom to Build a Strong Family.
Here's links to resources we mentioned on this week's podcast:
Episode 5 "Getting Kids to Listen the First Time"
Episode 7 "Teaching Our Kids Work Ethic and the Habit of Happiness"
Episode 10 "Overwhelmed? Reduce Chaos One System at a Time"
Episode 14 "Helping Your Kids Grow in Character, Wisdom, Relationships, & Health: Raising a Luke 2:52 Kid"
Mother & Son: The Respect Effect by Emerson Eggerichs
The Way of the Wild Heart by John Eldridge AUDIO VERSION
Raising a Luke 2:52 Kid two page download from Val's website including a small poster
Wearing All You Hats without Wearing Out: Finding Focus to be the Masterpiece Family God Intended by Val Harrison Link to E-Book
Clash In Your Home: Getting a Game Plan for Cleaning Up the Conflict by Val Harrison Link to E-Book
Your Child's Heart is Asking, "Mom, Do You Believe in Me?" "What makes me significant in this world?" "Am I blessing or a burden?" "What else do you believe about me?"
You're answering their heart through the words you say, the tone of your voice, the look in your eye. You may be sending messages you didn't even know you were sending! I was.
Thankfully, I made some changes, made a course shift in how I was parenting and it improved my relationships with my kids as well as improving their perception of themselves.
And, as I've told you many times, "Who you believe you are has everything to do with who you become." Your child's belief about themselves affects their decisions about their life which shapes who they become. So, mamas, in this episode I'm going to give you some practical steps for sending the right messages! Being a Visionary Parent is one of the four key hats you are wearing as a mom, and I share about all four of them in my book, Wearing All Your Hats without Wearing Out: Finding Finding Focus for Your Family to be the Masterpiece God Intended
Also mentioned in this episode, 87, "Visionary Parenting," is my book
Clash In Your Home: Getting a Game Plan for Cleaning Up the Conflict
Some of God's Visionary Statements about us...
Jeremiah 1:5
Jeremiah 31:3
Psalm 17:8
Romans 6:2
Next week, in Episode 88, Val is taking your questions!! It's "Listener Q&A Hosted by Abby!"
CONNECT with VAL:
Website www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com
Facebook Public Page where Val shares resources & announcements:
Practically Speaking MOM
Instagram: @PracticallySpeakingMOM
Facebook private group: Intentional Mom, Strong Family
Email: Val@PracticallySpeakingMOM.com
Do you ever feel like you're drowning in papers?! It seems we moms deal with a constant flow of papers and mail coming into our house.
How about we tackle that mountain of papers and get a SIMPLE system for keeping it all straight! That's what we're talking about today in episode 86 of the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast, the place for an intentional mom to build a strong family.
Last week, in episode 85, we began a new theme called "Lasso Your Life." The idea is to lasso your life or it will lasso you. That's right, if we don't take control of our life, it will try to pressure us into a life of urgent stress, overwhelm, and honestly a feeling of defeat. In episode 85, we "lasso'd our momlife" by taking control of our To Do List. Now, in episode 86, we are "lasso'ing our life," by taking control of papers and mail.
"Lasso your Life," will be an on-going theme from time to time as Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM, gives you practical ways to get another area of your life under control. Keep your eye out for this occasional theme! Also, Val would LOVE to hear from you. Let her know what are of the momlife YOU need some help managing. She'll take your feedback into consideration when she is creating future episodes. You can contact her through her website, PracticallySpeakingMOM.com. Or, you can comment or post in her Facebook group Intentional Mom, Strong Family. Or, you can email her at val@practicallyspeakingmom.com. In fact, she's got some Listener Q&A episodes coming up. If you'd like your question included in one of her episodes, she'd love to hear from you about that also.
Next Week:
Episode 87, "Visionary Parenting"
Your Child's Heart is Asking, "Mom, Do You Believe in Me?" You're answering their heart through the words you say, the tone of your voice, the look in your eye. You may be sending messages you didn't even know you were sending! I was. Thankfully, I made some changes, made a course shift in how I was parenting and it improved my relationships with my kids as well as improving their perception of themselves. And, as I've told you many times, "who you believe you are has everything to do with who you become." Your child's belief about themselves affects their decisions about their life which shapes who they become. So, mamas, let's send the right messages! Being a Visionary Parent is one of the four key hats you are wearing as a mom, according to Val's book, Wearing All Your Hats without Wearing Out: Finding Finding Focus for Your Family to be the Masterpiece God Intended
Episode 88: "Val Answers Your Questions; Hosted by Abby!"
Wearing All Your Hats Without Wearing Out
"Mama, if you don't learn how to LASSO LIFE, it will LASSO YOU!" - val harrison, the practically speaking mom, episode 85
Today in Episode 85 we're talking about one of my favorite topics - ORGANIZATION!! This week we're organizing our TO DO LIST in an effective way for controlling life instead of letting it control you.
The better we mamas get at having some SYSTEMS to SIMPLIFY LIFE, the more FREE we become to FOCUS on what truly matters most in life. As we implement systems & organization in our homes, it frees us to spend less time on the mundane have-to's of life and more time on the hearts & minds of our kids, on our relationships with them, and on helping them BECOME all they were DESIGNED by God to be!
Next week, in Episode 86, I'll continue this theme as we go over the Practically Speaking MOM's Guide to Tackle the MAIL & all the PAPERS that constantly bombard us daily.
All of this and more can also be found in my book:
Wearing All Your Hats Without Wearing Out: Finding Focus for Your Family to be the Masterpiece Family God Intended
And if you want your teens to develop some systems and habits for career success, then you may want the book, Gaining Momentum: Preparing Your Student for a Career with or without College.
Want more help with organization from the Practically Speaking MOM? Listen to these podcast episodes on ORGANIZATION:
Episode 75, Making a Mom Brain Book
Episode 38, Mom Making Money: Work Habits that Work so Your Focus can be on Your Family
Episode 21, Cut Laundry Chaos and add Happy to your Have-to's
Episode 19, When Littles are Loud: A routine that fosters independence & reduces chaos with littles
Episode 10, Overwhelmed? Reduce Chaos One System at a Time
Episode 5, Getting Kids to Listen the First Time & Follow-up after a Chore
In this Mother's Day Special Edition episode, the secret is out! When you meet the guest on this week's episode, you'll be meeting the source of the Practically Speaking MOM's passion for encouraging and equipping moms. Our guest, Vickie Melton, is an intentional mother and an intentional grandmother.
Also this week...
The importance of speaking affirmation over our children and grandchildren
A faith-impacting gift for older children or grandchildren
Coping with miscarriage and the death of a child
The mighty role of motherhood
BE SURE TO READ THIS WEEK's BLOG POST - A collection of Mom Prayers for the Intentional Mom Life! CLICK HERE (blog post will be live by noon on Monday)
What's Coming on the Podcast Next Week...
The Practically Speaking MOM's Guide to Tackling Your To Do List
*Hey mom, could you take a quick minute and click the share button and let your friend group know about this podcast. My family and I take the time to produce this podcast because we want to strengthen families. Can you help us do that by showing some of your friends how to subscribe to my weekly email containing the podcast and blog. Just go to PracticallySpeakingMOM.com scroll to the bottom of the page and enter your email. That’s all it takes. We thank you ahead of time for joining in this mission to encourage and equip intentional moms to build strong families. See you next week!
Links to share:PODCAST:*https://www.practicallyspeakingmom.com/podcastBLOG:**https://www.practicallyspeakingmom.com/blog
Facebook Group Intentional Mom Strong Family: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1467972243355843
SHOP: https://www.practicallyspeakingmom.com/shop
WEBSITE CONTAINING ALL of the above: www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com
Today we’re continuing a conversation with Becca Hammond, mama of two preschool boys and a baby girl on the way. Becca is also one of my grown daughters. What a privilege to have her in the studio once in a while.
We begin this episode with the tough topic of disciplining our children - when, how, and where... AND I give FOUR ESSENTIAL STAGES of DISCIPLINING with LOVE.
Then we move on to the issue of MOM GUILT we so easily and often feel when we take a mom break.
We wrap up our conversation with some MOM HEALTH Tips Becca has discovered to help in her pregnancy and with blood sugar issues.
Be sure to check out my BLOG POST this week as I share the Four CAREFUL Stages to Disciplining Your Child with the correct HEARTSPACE and MINDSPACE. Click Here to Read "Before I Discipline....Four Stages of Loving My Child Through Discipline"
Here's links to the other podcasts that I mentioned in this episode.
Ep5 - Getting Children to Listen the First time
Ep4 - Dealing with Lying in your Child, Pt 1 (Episode 4&12 is great for any deep-seeded issue that you're dealing with in your child, or any character issue)
Ep12 - Dealing with Lying in your Child, Pt 2
Ep25 - Root Parenting vs Surface Parenting, Part 1
Ep26 - Root Parenting, Pt 2 Digging Deeper
EP28 - Root Parenting, Pt 3 Q&A
Hey mom, could you take a quick minute and click the share button and let your friend group know about this podcast. My family and I take the time to produce this podcast because we want to strengthen families. Can you help us do that by showing some of your friends how to subscribe to my weekly email containing the podcast and blog. Just go to PracticallySpeakingMOM.com scroll to the bottom of the page and enter your email. That’s all it takes. We thank you ahead of time for joining in this mission to encourage and equip intentional moms to build strong families. See you next week!
What's Coming Next:
Episode 84 - SPECIAL MOTHERS DAY EDITION of the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast
Episode 85 - The Practically Speaking MOM Tackles Your TO DO LIST
Do you ever feel inadequate as a mom? Boy I sure do.
Today on episode 82, "Mom & False Inadequacy," I discuss this topic with one of my grown daughters, Becca, who is a mom of littles.
Even the most intentional of moms battle the lie that says, “YOU are not a good enough mom. You don’t have what it takes to nurture and guide your children.”
I hope you enjoy my conversation today with one of my favorite intentional moms. But first, let’s hear an important message from her two little boys, and my favorite VIP guests hat ever come to the Practically Speaking MOM studio.
Next week we’ll talk about the issues of disciplining kids at multiple ages, we’ll talk about mom guilt, and finally health solutions that Becca has found for some physical concerns in her life. That will be Episode 83.
Then episode 84 will be my Mother's Day Special Episode!!
Hey mom, could you take a quick minute and click the share button and let your friend group know about this podcast. My family and I take the time to produce this podcast because we want to strengthen families. Can you help us do that by showing some of your friends how to subscribe to my weekly email containing the podcast and blog. Just go to PracticallySpeakingMOM.com scroll to the bottom of the page and enter your email. That’s all it takes. We thank you ahead of time for joining in this mission to encourage and equip intentional moms to build strong families. See you next week!
Resources Mentioned: bookA Shepherd Looks at Psalm 23, by W. Phillip Keller
Hey Mama, this week will give you some hope about your VALLEYS in life. You know they have PURPOSE, right? Not only that, but do you know that your valleys are often your victories in the making?! It's been a very busy seven days at my house! After a week of spending time with my favorite visitors of all - my grown kids and their kiddos (plus my kids that I'm still raising) - I thought I would share with you some things I'm getting right, some things I'm NOT getting right YET, and a mom hack that is actually from my daughter Becca, mom to my little VIPs that you met a couple of week's ago on episode 79. COMBO PARENTING, what is it and how do we handle it better? This is also on this week's podcast. If you have multiple kids at different ages or stages, then you're really going to want to learn about Combo Parenting. I introduce it this week, but I'm thinking maybe we should do an entire episode about it sometime. Let me know, do you want an entire episode dedicated to it? Listen to the episode to hear what it is, and then let me know if you want more about it!I gave you a mom hack this week that includes the use of protein powder. My favorite protein powders are...
Trim Healthy Mama (THM protein is a whey protein. Here's my affiliate link to Trim Healthy Mama. If you order through this link, it may help me a little financially. Click Here).
Arbonne (Arbonne's protein is a plant-based protein. Here's Steph Fisher's link Click Here). Steph has been a guest on the podcast a couple of times.
Orgain Simple (I buy this from Costco, but you can get it other places. It is organic plant-based made from almonds, peanuts, chia seeds, pumpkin seeds, and golden peas).
What's Coming on the Podcast:4/19 & 26/2021 Episodes 82-83 "Chat between Val & grown daughter, Becca, mother of two preschoolers" Want to connect on social media? Intentional Mom, Strong Family community is now in TWO locations: Facebook MeWe Want to connect with Val to have her speak at a parenting or women's event or for Rich & Val to speak at a marriage event? email
Let's identify what makes each family member feel VALUED and UNDER-VALUED, what BARRIERS are impacting their ability to RECEIVE messages of love & value, and more. We're healing marriages and families this week on episode 80, Transform Your Family Relationships with 4 Steps to VALUE EACH OTHER more Effectively.
Raise the bar in your ability to SHOW VALUE to your family more effectively and then WATCH THE TRANSFORMATION BEGIN!! It's a marriage and family episode with Rich & Val.
What makes you feel VALUED? What makes you feel under-valued?Today we've got Four Steps to Identify & Give Value more Effectively Among Family Members - Here's some of the necessary ingredients for transforming your family relationships.
Sometimes PAIN leads to beautiful TRANSFORMATION. This episode is one of the POSITIVE RESULTS of our past PAIN. We haven't always known how to EFFECTIVELY COMMUNICATE VALUE to each other and that led our marriage to a difficult place. As God transformed our marriage, He began teaching us many lessons about love & communication & family relationships.
God longs to RESCUE your RELATIONSHIPS as well! This episode could be the beginning of a beautiful transformation for your family.
What's Coming on the Podcast:4/12/2021 Episode 81"Trial, Triumph, & Fav with Val" 4/19 & 26/2021 Episodes 82-83 "Chat between Val & grown daughter, Becca, mother of two preschoolers" Want to connect on social media? Intentional Mom, Strong Family community is now in TWO locations: Facebook MeWe Want to connect with Val to have her speak at a parenting or women's event or for Rich & Val to speak at a marriage event? email
Meet my VIP's & hear about LEGACY including a tribute to my grandfather who passed this week. Family Easter Bonding is the focus of the remainder of the episode. Even if you're not in the mood to hear Easter ideas, don't miss meeting my VIPs!! Trust me, you will smile and laugh, and may wish you could start every single morning hearing from these two! CLICK HERE for full blog post correlating to this episode. Links mentioned on this episode:
Click Here to listen to episode 20 Family Spontaneous Friday & Sketchy Saturday. Plus Teaching Your Kids How to Goal Map
DIY Resurrection Eggs
Resurrection Rolls
Jelly Telly about Communion
What's Coming on the Podcast:
4/4/2021 Episode 80,"Rich & Val - What makes you feel VALUED? What makes you feel under-valued? Four Steps to Identify & Give Value more Effectively Among Family Members"4/12/2021 Episode 81"Trial, Triumph, & Fav with Val" 4/19 & 26/2021 Episodes 82-83 "Chat between Val & grown daughter, Becca, mother of two preschoolers" Want to connect on social media? Intentional Mom, Strong Family community is now in TWO locations: Facebook MeWe Want to connect with Val to have her speak at a parenting or women's event or for Rich & Val to speak at a marriage event? email
Let's explore together the heart of our ministry to moms. Episode 78 is full of parenting nuggets in all the areas of your momlife. Click here to read Val's Blog Post on episode 78, the expanded version of shownotes.
Motherhood is a sacred appointment. We have the divine role of shaping these little or big hearts that have been entrusted to us.
Only problem is, plenty of minutes in my day I feel more like a pinball being pinged from one issue to the next – whether I’m dealing with sibling squabbles, menu planning, pet stains, schedule challenges, or budget changes… the role of mom often feels more scattered than sacred.
This episode also takes a look back at the beginning of our podcast and episode 1. May these parenting principles bring you encouragement & new hope.
Links to mentioned episodes:
Episode 75 Making Six Mom Brain Books
Root Parenting vs. Surface Parenting
The Mistaking Parent
CLICK HERE TO SEE THE OTHER LINKS INCLUDING A MASTER LIST of Val's episodes divided into the six rooms
What's Coming on the Podcast:
"Rich & Val - What makes you feel VALUED? What makes you feel un-valued? Four Steps to Identify & Give Value more Effectively Among Family Members""Trial, Triumph, & Fav with Val"
"Chat between Val & grown daughter, Becca, mother of two preschoolers" Want to connect on social media? Intentional Mom, Strong Family community is now in TWO locations: Facebook MeWeConnecting with Val to have her speak at a parenting or women's event or for Rich & Val to speak at a marriage event: email
Listener Q&A is always a big hit on the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast and this special edition features Dr. Amy Barfield, our guest again this week in episode 77 "Dealing with Differences: Raising the ADHD Child."***** (With a few questions about kids on the spectrum as well)
Dr. Amy Barfield has been a general practice psychologist for over 10 years with experience working with a wide variety of issues and ages, including extensive experience with ADHD issues.
If you live in the state of Texas and would like to reach her for therapy for you or a family member, you can email her at a_stagg@yahoo.com
CLICK HERE TO LISTEN to Episode 76: Listener Q&A: Screen Time, Stress, Sleep with Guest Dr. Amy Barfield
What's Coming:
3/22/21 Episode 78"Reviewing the Six Rooms of the Intentional Mom's Home"3/29/21 Episode 79 "Rich & Val - Four Steps to Strengthen Self-Worth Among Family Members"Intentional Mom, Strong Family community is now in TWO locations: Facebook MeWeConnecting with Val to have her speak at a parenting or women's event or for Rich & Val to speak at a marriage event: email
Screen Time, Stress, Sleep Issues in Listener Q&A with guest, Dr. Amy Barfield. Episode 76
*Dr. Barfield will be our guest again next week in episode 77 "Dealing with Differences: Raising the ADHD Child."***
Because there was so much more that Dr. Barfield wanted to share with us about sleep issues than we were able to fit into this podcast episode, she was gracious enough to give us some additional help in this week's blog post! THANK YOU, Dr. Barfield, for all this excellent extra info to help us moms and our kiddos get better sleep! CLICK HERE for the blog post. *When I booked Dr Barfield to be a guest on the podcast, I went to our Intentional Mom, Strong Family community of intentional moms on Facebook and MeWe and asked them to share questions in four categories:
Screen Time Issues
Stress for mom and kids
Sleep Issues
Raising a child with ADHDIn episode 76, you hear these questions and Dr. Barfield's answers on the first three categories. Then episode 77 is dedicated entirely to "Dealing with Differences; Raising the ADHD Child."Dr. Amy Barfield has been a general practice psychologist for over 10 years with experience working with a wide variety of issues and ages. If you live in the state of Texas and would like to reach her for therapy for you or a family member, you can email her at a_stagg@yahoo.com
What's Coming on the Podcast:
3/15/21 Episode 77"Dealing with Differences: Raising the ADHD Child"3/22/21 Episode 78"Reviewing the Six Rooms of the Intentional Mom's Home"3/29/21 Episode 79 "Rich & Val - Four Steps to Strengthen Self-Worth Among Family Members"*
Intentional Mom, Strong Family community is now in TWO locations: Facebook MeWeConnecting with Val to have her speak at a parenting or women's event or for Rich & Val to speak at a marriage event: emailVisit Val's website for her podcast, blog, books, and other resources, **www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com.
Music by nathanharrison.music@gmail.com**
"One of the great privileges of motherhood is that we can praise and affirm our children in ways that spur them toward growth and good behavior." - Val Harrison, Episode 75, Positive Reinforcement Tools & Making a MOM BRAIN BOOK, What's In My Mom Box? Part 2
CLICK HERE for full BLOG POST In Episode 75, What's In My Mom Box? Common Tools that Make Motherhood More Effective, Part 2, we are looking at at POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT TOOLS and also looking at my BRAIN BOOKS. I share how you can make your own brain books to reduce overwhelm and help you keep track of everything you want to keep track of for the past, present, and future! Seriously, my brain books have been such a game-changer for my momlife.
"You want to always be in the process of discovering more about your child - what really motivates them to growth and self improvement and character development. We're talking about POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT TOOLS! "
"Kids need positive reinforcement. They need to know you are PLEASED & PROUD of them,
PRAISE what you want REPEATED - give positive attention to encourage positive growth."Here's some examples of Positive Words to Your Child that Motivates Future Behavior
"You have been a blessing to me today when you cleaned up before I even asked you to help!"
"I was so proud of you this morning when I saw you stop to help your younger sibling."
"It all depends on the kid when it comes to positive attention - do they like GROUP ATTENTION or do they like PERSONAL ATTENTION? Figure out what is effective affirmation for your child."
Here's some examples of giving your child PRAISE in front of a GROUP:
✅Clapping,
✅Cheering,
✅Giving them a Badge to Wear,
✅Calling their Grandparent and telling them about your child's positive actions
Some examples of giving PERSONAL PRAISE
✅Pat on the Back
✅High Five
✅Looking them in the eye and giving specific acknowledgment for specific actions
✅A note to tell them how proud you are of your child
Incentive Programs are another for of Positive Reinforcement. Some examples of different Incentive Programs for growth. This is a way to CELEBRATE GROWTH WITH YOUR CHILD.
The 2nd half of this episode reveals how to make a MOM BRAIN BOOK. This was a game changer for my life! I began with one consolidated brain book, but eventually this became SIX brain books - one for each of the SIX ROOMS OF THE INTENTIONAL MOM's HOME:
MY SIX BRAIN BOOKS- Reducing overwhelm as I put everything on sticky notes that can be moved around as new categories develop within these six categories (my website is also divided into these six sections as well). Listen to this episode to hear some specific examples of what are in these brain books and how it helps!
🏠KITCHEN - Healthy Mom, Healthy Family, Recipes, Meal Planning, Stress Relief
🏠LAUNDRY ROOM - Household Organization, Chores, Cleaning Tips, Gardening, Sewing
🏠FAMILY ROOM - Parenting & Relationships
🏠SCHOOL ROOM - Educational Helps, Tips, Websites, Extra Curricular Info, Systems
🏠FRONT PORCH - Spiritual growth, walking with God, journaling, thoughts, prayers, notes
🏠MASTER SUITE - Marriage helps, dreaming & goal-setting, planning
Intentional Mom, Strong Family community is now in TWO locations: Facebook MeWe
Coming in Episode 76 & 77: Listener Q&A with Dr. Amy Barfield
I used to give a talk years ago where I would show all the things in my mom box - literally a cute little box that contained mom tools, common objects, to make my life simpler, make my parenting more effective, and items that would help the RELATIONSHIPS IN OUR FAMILY. Today, in Episode 74, "What's In My MOM BOX?" part 1, we’re opening up my Mom Box to find my favorite tangible tools for making motherhood more manageable.
Some of the items that have been essential in my Mom Box have been items that REDUCE THE AMOUNT OF NEGATIVE NEWS THAT MY MOUTH HAS TO DELIVER TO MY KIDS. AND reducing negative news coming from me means better relationships! These tools are simple objects, but they are so helpful!
By the way, many moms don't like delivering negative news, so they simply don't, but the truth is, OUR KIDS NEED TO RECEIVE SOME NEGATIVE NEWS. They need to experience flexibility, stick-to-it-iveness, diligence, disappointment. They NEED negative news to be a part of their lives. (Negative news such as, "You left out an important step when you did that chore," or "You owe me $5" or "It's time to come inside from playing" or "Everyone come help cleanup.") There's SO many things in a day that must be communicated that is not happy news. How can we still get those messages to our kids, without it requiring my mouth? This was my question, years ago, and so I was on a mission to identify ways to accomplish this goal. Thus was born my MOM BOX.
What's Coming:
❤Next week, Episode 75, we get to switch gears to items that INCREASE POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT! Also next week, we will look at my "BRAIN BOOKS," and I'll tell you how you can make yours. I'm NOT talking about a craft project (trust me, I will never be teaching a craft project, not my skill set!). This is gonna be a game-changer for reducing overwhelm and stress in your life! I can't wait to share about my brain books with you! They aren't something you buy, they are a way of organizing your brain and all the things that you are trying to keep it that just won't fit!
❤Episode 76 & 77 Listener Q&A with guest Dr. Amy Barfield (mom of two and one of the members of our Intentional Mom Strong Family community). In 76, we look at questions related to SCREENTIME, STRESS, and SLEEP issues. In 77, the entire episode will focus on listener questions about ADHD.
RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Episode 12, T.I.M.E. rather than TIMEOUT.
Our Intentional Mom, Strong Family community is now in TWO locations:Facebook MeWe
Connecting with Val to have her speak at a parenting or women's event or for Rich & Val to speak at a marriage event: emailVisit Val's website for her podcast, blog, books, and other resources, **www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com.
Music by nathanharrison.music@gmail.com**
We finish up my discussion with Tiffany by looking at ways to personality parent – adjusting your parenting based on the personality of your child but not adjusting the standard, all with a goal of equipping your unique child to thrive in the world around them.
We look at specific parenting dilemmas in dealing with the unique personality of our child. You'll learn about the three options for how we as moms handle general STANDARDS when our kids are not general; they're each unique in their struggles and giftings . Are you a Standard Quitter, Standard Brute, or Standard Bearer?
Click here for the full blog post connected to this episode and theme
In this episode, Tiffany asks, "One thing I've been working on and working through and working on is making space for and validating those big feelings they are having - whether it is extremely emotional or frustration - without compromising respect, boundaries, or expectations in the process of working through them."
Parenting is a process, so there's no solution that can be implemented that immediately eliminates the struggle. Progress is usually gradual, not instantaneous. We want to help our kids understand themselves better and equip them to handle themselves throughout their life. We do this by managing them in ways that we want them to manage themselves in the future. You as mom are standing in the gap for now, until they are able to manage themselves.
1. Verbalize the standard we're working toward, make it clear in their mind
2. Give them a framework for understanding themselves better and equipping them to reach toward the standard
3. Stay clear, calm, and consistent with the standards
Resources related to this episode
Dealing with Lying in Your Child: Ways to Impact the Heart of Your Child part 1 episode 4 part 2 episode 12
Intentional Mom, Strong Family community is now in TWO locations: Facebook MeWe
Connecting with Val to have her speak at a parenting or womens event or for Rich & Val to speak at a marriage event: email **Music by nathanharrison.music@gmail.com
What's Coming on the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast:**Episode 74: What's in My Mom Box - Tangible Tools for the Busy MomLife, part 1: Tools that Reduce Negative News coming from my mouth
Episode 75: What's in My Mom Box - part 2, Positive Reinforcement Tools & Mom Brain doesn't have to be a bad thing!
Episodes 76-77: Q&A with Dr. Amy Barfield, psychologist, wife, and mom of two
76: Listener Q&A about Sleep Issues, Stress, Screen Time 77: Listener Q&A about ADHD
"First, WE guard our children's hearts. Then we teach THEM to guard their hearts. This episode will help you learn to do both." - Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM in Episode 72, What is Your Child Learning about LOVE & Relationships & Marriage?Click to Read Entire BLOG POST about this episode: The TRUTH, for Kids, about Romantic Love.
If you’re anything like me, you have a whole list of things you know are very important to teach your children – essential truths that you long for their hearts to know before they grow up and begin life on their own.
I wish I had MORE time in my days to huddle up with my kiddos to transfer as many of those essential truths as they need before they go.
There’s never enough time to download all of my heart to their hearts in the eighteen years I’ve got them.
Side note, you’re going to miss some things. We need to aim high and squish a lot of wisdom into these years, but we aren’t going to squeeze it all in and that’s where God comes in. He’s the Great Gap-Filler – you know all those gaps of imperfection or shortcomings in your parenting, No worries, He’s got your back! He is going to teach them plenty of lessons without you. Now, with that being said, we want to do all we can to make the most of every opportunity.
There’s two reasons why I think it is so critical that we spend time on this topic
1.The world is pummeling our kids constantly with lots of lies about love
- For most people, who they love and how they love will shape the moments of their lives more than almost any other aspect of their life. As parents, we must be intentional about shaping our kids' view of love and marriage.
If you look all around us and if you listen to all the messages, you will hear a constant bombardment of false messages in our society about love and about relationships and about marriage. Our kids see unhealthy relationships depicted in just about every movie out there today.
Don't even get me started on pop culture music lyrics and the love messages they send!
Then our kids get to see and experience many broken relationships all around them.
That’s a lot of information they’re taking in that is not setting them up for successful relationships.
❔How are you doing at
*limiting the bad relationship messages your child is receiving
*correcting the messages they couldn’t escape,
*and filling them with helpful, life-giving TRUTH about how HEALTHY relationships should look and of what healthy relationships CONSIST.
In this week's podcast I give action steps to help you begin the process of teaching your kids about love and relationships and marriage.
Resources related to Episode 73
Cinderella 2015 Starring Lily James, Directed by Kenneth Branagh
Emma 1996 Starring Gwyneth Paltrow Directed by Douglas McGrath
Sense & Sensibility 1995 Starring Emma Thompson & Kate Winslow
Short video basic reinforcement of love for young children
Short video Love is… I Cor 13 22 min video on the history of Saint Valentine
The Practically Speaking MOM, Val Harrison, and her guest, Tiffany Deschner (mom of three adorable daughters) continue their heart to heart about the momlife in Part Two of "Let's Get Real" with Val & Tiff, episode 71.
Episode 71:
❤Blanket Time for Littles - a strategy to go from Clingy to Independent Play,
❤The Key Ingredient BEFORE working on your child's character,
❤Lots of Tips for Busy Moms to Incorporate HEALTH in your family lifestyle
Episode 71 begins with Tiffany asking Val how to introduce "Blanket Time" with her littlest girl.
One of the Practically Speaking MOM's books is titled When Littles are Loud: Maximizing the Moments without Drowning in Chaos, by Val Harrison. Click here to go to the book
Click here to go to the E-Book. Val is known for her many activities that are designed to bolster young children's development in all areas, including ways that help them become less clingy and more confident for independent playtimes. Of course, these short activities are stepping stones toward confidence in general.
"Fill 'EM UP before you CHANGE IT UP"As Val and Tiff discuss Blanket Time, which would be a new activity for Tiffany's daughter, it serves as an example for the bigger issue of HOW TO IMPLEMENT A NEW GROWTH STRATEGY WITH YOUR CHILD. Don't just jump right in to growth! You've got to "prime the pump" first. Listen to episode 71 to find out how!
"To be at optimal performance, optimal growth potential, children need..." Listen to episode 71 to find out!
Tips & Tricks for a Busy Mom to have a more Healthy Family
Then in the last portion of today's episode, Val & Tiff discuss LOTS of ideas for incorporating more health into our busy families' lifestyles. Food Swaps and Secret Adds, Healthy Activities, whole food gummy vitamins, ,and even what to do about *CANDY are all a part of this conversation. If you'd like to order Juice Plus Gummies through Tiff's link, Click here.
Former episode mentioned in this episode: Click here to listen to, Effective Ways to Love Your Child from Toddler to Teen and Beyond
What's Coming:
"Let's Get Real" w/ Val & Tiff Pt 3: Dealing with our kids' unique personalities - from high emotion to high sensory. And the three types of moms: the Standard Quitter, the Standard Brute, and the Standard Bearer. What kind are you? Is it time to make a change? What's in Val's Mom Box: Useful Tools for the Mom Life - we're talking real, tangible tools here!
Intentional Mom, Strong Family Community is now in TWO locations:
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The mom life is so much more meaningful when we share the journey with a friend!
Today begins a mini-series with one of my dear friends, Tiffany Deschner, an intentional mama of three adorable daughters who is also on my PSM Leadership team!
In Episode 70, Let's Get Real, Tiff and I discuss several aspects of the momlife:
❤ Responding instead of Reacting
❤Learning to Lean In to God in a difficult situation rather than resisting it.
Questions to ask God when we are "leaning in" to the situation:God, what are you doing?
Where are you at work in this situation?
How can I join you in your work?
How are you shaping me as a mom through this situation?
Deut 8:2-3 says, "Remember how the Lord your God led you all the way in the wilderness... to humble you and to test you in order to know hat was in your heart..."
❤ Mom'ing Under a Microscope - It seems everyone is constantly evaluating us. That's a lot of pressure!
❤It's so important for moms, especially with little ones...to connect with other moms. We too often find ourselves isolated and lacking fellowship, support, wisdom from mamas who've been where we are at right now. We also need a BREAK from the kiddos once in a while. And we need to hear, "yeah, my kids are doing that too" or "what you're feeling is normal" or "this is what motherhood looks like" or "you've got this." And we need an opportunity to acknowledge the hard parts of the momlife that aren't on the social media news feed.
❤Tiffany shares some awesome tips for curbing fits or tantrums or bursts of misbehavior or bedtime drama. One of these tips will also help you figure out if the fit or tantrum is beyond your child's control.
❤The importance of follow-through with what you say to your kids. Whether you give a warning or a promise, either way, your word must be kept if you want them to listen and value your words in the future.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
MOPS
The Better Mom by Ruth Swanck
Podcast episodes on Root Parenting:
Parenting vs Surface Parenting, Episode 25
Root Parenting: Digging Deeper into the Four Main Roots, Episode 26
Q&A on Root Parenting, Episode 28
What's Coming:
Episode 71 Chat w/ Val & Tiffany Deschner Part 2: Blanket Time for Littles - a strategy to go from Clingy to Independent Play, The Key Ingredient BEFORE working on your child's character, Lots of Tips for Busy Moms to Incorporate HEALTH in your family meals Episode 72 Chat w/ Val & Tiffany Deschner Part 3: Dealing with our kids' unique personalities including high drama and high sensory kids. Episode 73 What's in Val's Mom Box: Useful Tools for the Mom Life (We're talking Tangible Tools for Moms, here!)
Intentional Mom, Strong Family Community is now in TWO locations:
Facebook
MeWe
Connecting with Val to have her speak at a parenting or womens event: email
We all want to grow and CHANGE, to eradicate the things in us that are unhelpful to our family and to ourselves; but real, lasting change is difficult to achieve.
For many of us, we don't find lasting change because we try to fast forward to growth, skipping essential stops in this worthy journey. We have to spend time at each of the Five R's of Intentional Parenting.
We also need to know where we are NOW if we want to NAVIGATE to where we want to go. Being honest with ourselves about our current location helps us make the necessary steps to head in the right direction of lasting growth and change. Mama, YOU CAN DO THIS!
It would be my honor to take this Road Trip to Refinement with you! Let's go!!
I believe there are five essential steps to refinement. If we want our kids to change, we must start with ourselves.
Here's the blog post that covers all five of the steps. Click Here
We began the topic of the 5 R's of Intentional Parenting in Episode 68. Click Hereto listen to episode 68.
"Hiding in the messy moments from our past are opportunities for new God moments with us and with our kids" - Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM, from episode 68, "Mom, Take the Time to REFINE - The 5 R's of Intentional Parenting, Part 1.
We are always working on the growth of our kids' hearts. This episode is for YOU, intentional mom, to work on your heart. It's a process to recalibrate, to refine your mom journey.
Somewhere around ten New Years’ ago, I began a personal mom tradition - taking some time alone to practice something I’ve come to call the Five R’s of Intentional Parenting: Reflect, Regret, Repent, Redeem, Refine. I would love it if you joined me in this practice!
As you go through this process, you are also learning a wonderful skill to teach your children as well! You are equipping them to face their mistakes in a productive, strength-building way.
CLICK HERE to read the full blog post that coordinates with this podcast episode.
Steps to the Five R’s of Being an Intentional Mistaking Parent1. REFLECT
❓What are some things that went great or is going well in our family?
❓What needs a little tweak of refinement because it’s not quite right but is on the right track?
❓What were big fails or is really not going well right now?
❓Where do I see relationship walls or other signs of potentially troubled hearts in your home?
(The hearts of your family are the most important things of all to zero in on for your time of reflection. Linger here the longest.)2. REGRET
I’ve learned to stay in this REGRET step for a bit - to go ahead and live in the pain on purpose for a little while, letting reality sting. I don’t want to avoid the important role of regret. It is like a refiner’s fire of my character. It sears into my heart the importance of not remaining the way I am.
There is healing in the refiner’s fire of regret. Don’t skip it, don’t undervalue it, but also don’t build a summer home in regret. It’s a temporary stop in your journey to refinement.3. REPENT
Repentance is a time of TURNING, turning away from my old ways and pivoting to a better way.
- REDEEM
This is the time for me to allow God to take my mess and RESHAPE it. He doesn’t wipe out the memory of the past, but He does give it new meaning.
- REFINE
Finally, learn to live a lifestyle of this REFINING PROCESS - refining your character, your perspective, your parenting habits, your priorities.
RESOURCES for Episode 68:Mending Your Child's Heart at Every Age, Episode 62, Blog Post & Podcast The Hope-Filled Life of the Mistaking Parent, Pt 1Full Length Workshop on Answering the Six Questions of Your Childs Heart - LIVE WORKSHOP & SLIDES to accompany audio, $12 download. These six questions include the steps of RESTORING relationships..
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Merry Christmas, My Intentional Mom Friends!
This is Val Harrison the Practically Speaking MOM and host of the Practically Speaking MOM: Intentional Mom, Strong Family Podcast.
This week we’re all in for a Christmas crosscast! What's a "Crosscast?" It's a collaboration of podcasters. You'll be listening to a a collaboration of 12 fellow female podcasters. We were invited onto the All God’s Women Podcast. I hope you enjoy it!
Thank you Sharon Wilharm of the All God’s Women Podcast for allowing me to participate in this Christmas crosscast.
My Intentional Friends, I hope the next couple of weeks are a special time for you to honor our Savior Christ.
I am taking a few weeks off from the podcast to spend time with my family.
I will be back on Jan 11 and you’ll get to hear all of the Five R’s of Intentional Motherhood.
In the mean time, be sure to watch for an email from me next Monday as it will contain a coupon to use on website, PracticallySpeakingMOM.com If you don’t see it in your inbox next Monday, check your spam folder. If you aren’t receiving my Monday emails, subscribe by entering your email at PracticallySpeakingMOM.com.
Merry Christmas and I’ll see you Jan 11 right here on the Practically Speaking MOM: Intenitonal Mom, Strong Family Podcast.
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Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM, is joined by her two youngest daughters, Abby and Emma, as they share lots of laughter and family traditions to bring you closer to each other and to Christ. Some of the ideas are silly and some are serious, AND... they also share their favorite SIMPLE Christmas party recipes. All of this is in episode 66, Creating CHRISTMAS Memories with Abby, Emma, and Val.
Click here for the blog post that goes with this podcast episode
Since Val is taking a break from the podcast for a few weeks to enjoy Christmas with her family, be sure to subscribe to her Monday emails as she has a special Christmas email she'll be sending that includes some extras you won't want to miss. Watch for a Christmas gift from Val - a gift certificate to use at the shop on her website, PracticallySpeakingMOM.com. She'll also include some links to some of her former Christmas episodes and other favs.
To subscribe to Val's Monday emails, go to www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com and enter your email. It's simple and quick. Val will not spam your email and will never share your email address with anyone.
Resources mentioned on this episode:
Here's a link to some FREE advent resources
Link to more advent resources
The blog post has more links and the recipes for the SIMPLE Christmas Party Food I talked about in episode 66, Creating Christmas Memories.
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My dear mom friend, you do not need to be perfect to be an intentional mom. In fact, imperfect goes very well with intentional and in today's podcast & blog we're looking at the four life-changing benefits of being flawed!
I'm also sharing my Intentional Christmas ideas, including our family's Christmas Blessing Project!
I’m just a sister sojourner on the path to strengthening my family because it is worth it and encouraging you to stay the course, even when you feel like you're failing. Perfection is not required for this journey. In fact, I'd like to suggest that it isn't even a goal we should want because there are valuable benefits in your imperfections. They're a gift, really!
CLICK HERE to read the BLOG POST containing all four of the benefits of being an IMPERFECT, INTENTIONAL MOM.
"This podcast is filled with positive encouragement and practical ideas for intentional growth for your family!"
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Did you know that one of the most loving things you can do for your child is be excited about DISCOVERING who they are?
We talk about it on Episode 64, Made to SHINE: The Value of Your Child's Unique Identity.
Last week we talked about the question “Am I worth knowing?” as one of the six questions of our child’s heart and we're continuing this topic for a second week. "Am I worth KNOWING?" is partly a question about EFFORT - "Mom, are you willing to make the effort to pursue knowing me deeply, knowing the real me - my inner complex self?" And the question is also about CONTENT, as the child's heart longs to know they have value, or, "Mom, if you make the effort to discover the real me, will it be worth it? Is there anything special about me to discover?"
The following is a list of some of the questions your child's heart it asking, related to "Am I worth Knowing?"
What’s the point of me?
Why am I here?
Do I bring value to the world?
What difference do I make?
Am I a burden or a blessing?
Am I intentionally designed or an accident?
Does anyone find joy in my presence or am I a bother?
Do I have important thoughts or am I unintelligent?
**If you really knew me, would you still love me?
Are you willing to put forth enough effort and time to discover the real me?**
Intentional mom, we want to answer the question, “Am I worth knowing?” with the answer, “I am honored and excited to spend my lifetime discovering God’s unique, masterful design of you, my precious child. And I want to know you – not the surface you, but the deep in your heart you. I can handle knowing your fears, your struggles, what makes you angry, and what makes you want to hide from the world. That is the privilege of discerning your heart and I will maintain that privilege. I will be honoring of your heart."
CLICK HERE to read the entire blog post corresponding to this podcast episode and to see the list of RESOURCES mentioned in episode 64.
💜Raising a Luke 2:52 Kid: Val's bi-annual Evaluation Plan for identifying your child's strengths and weaknesses in four main areas of life
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Part of our role as intentional moms is to identify God’s unique design in our children, to help them to see it clearly for themselves, and, to help them to allow the Holy Spirit to HONE their gifts & strengths and work on their weaknesses that may be overshadowing those strengths, HOW DO WE DO THIS? Let's talk about it on Episode 63.
This process is the tremendous privilege we are given in motherhood of partnering with our kids and with God to develop their lives into their purpose. Here's a link to the blog post for Episode 63.
"...snails are a lot like many kids (and even many of us adults) that only see the ordinary part of ourselves – maybe even see our ordinariness as unattractive and unwanted when all the while, we have wonderful, uniquely-designed-by-God qualities that we don’t see...."
Episode 63, Unlock Your Child's Strengths & Impact their Self-Perception, focuses on two of our child's heart-questions, “Am I worth Knowing?” and “Am I worth Believing In?”
It gives insight into how to DISCOVER your child's strengths that may be hiding behind "weaknesses" and also gives practical ways to impact your child's self-perception.
In this second week with my material, "Your Love Becomes Their Strength, Answering the Six Questions of Your Child's Heart," we join again with the Chosen Mamas Podcast, where I was asked to be a guest for an event followed by a Q&A session.
💚RESOURCESClick here to listen to Last week's episode: 62 Mending Your Child's Heart at every age.".
💚Chosen Mamas Podcast is associated with CHOSEN, located in Derby, KS, a group for moms of all ages who want to intersect their faith in Jesus with the every day ups and downs of motherhood.
💚Another podcast episode that goes into more details about dealing with negative self-talk in our tweens & teens.
💚Link to my podcast series on Root Parenting
💚Here's a link to a LIVE workshop audio download where I share about all six questions of your child's heart.
💚 Wearing All Your Hats without Wearing Out: Finding Focus for Your Family to be the Masterpiece God Intended
💚Cross-Wired Science Discount Code CWS80Off at checkout
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Even intentional, loving parents are going to cause some heart-wounds in our children. How can we identify those wounds? How can we help them heal? That's our topic today on the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast, the place for an intentional mom to build a strong family.
Every child's heart is asking, "Do you love me enough to RESTORE our relationship, to REPAIR my heart?"
Today we're talking about the wounds we may cause in our children’s hearts (even unintentionally and sometimes completely unknowingly). We'll look at how to RESTORE with our children (even grown children), how to MAINTAIN OUR INFLUENCE in their lives, and how to remain vigilant in SEEKING OUR CHILD'S HEART-WHOLENESS.
Today's conversation centers around one of the six main questions of every child’s heart, "Am I Worth Restoring?" These six questions are from my material, "Your Love Becomes Their Strength: Answering the Six Questions of Your Child's Heart."
CLICK HERE to go to Val's BLOG POST for episode 62. (Link is LIVE BY NOON every Monday).
Next week, in episode 63, we'll continue the conversation with Chosen Mamas, looking at two more questions of our child's heart - "Am I worth Knowing?" and "Am I worth Believing In?"
💚RESOURCES:
❤Chosen Mamas Podcast is associated with CHOSEN, located in Derby, KS, a group for moms of all ages who want to intersect their faith in Jesus with the every day ups and downs of motherhood. They are a welcoming, loving group of dedicated moms. If you’re located near Derby, KS and would like to join them, they’re at South Rock Christian Church or email me at val@practicallyspeakingmom.com and I’ll connect you with Liz or Amanda. They are two of the moms you’ll hear on this podcast over the next two weeks.
💚Here's a link to a LIVE workshop audio download where I share about all six questions of your heart.
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Practical Parenting Hint - EXPECTATIONS and STANDARDS are not the same thing. Use expectations as a tool to move your child toward the fixed standard. Let's talk about it in episode 61, Giving Our Kids SMALL Steps to BIG Results.
*"Small steps takes you a long way over time. In fact, there are some things we accomplish in life that we would never be able to achieve except through little steps."
" Every Child needs opportunities to 1. LEAD 2. FOLLOW. 3. Be a TEAM PLAYER. We don't have to choose leader OR follower for our children. We don't have to choose leader OR follower for our child. We want them to be great at both! So, we should expect them to cooperate with good SOCIAL HABITS and humble obedience habits in addition to teaching them leadership skills, creativity, proactive problem-solving, and more."*
Click here for my blog post and detailed shownotes for episode 61, Giving Our Kids SMALL Steps to BIG Results & Littles Who Don't Listen.
Mom, what is a struggle area of frustration that you're having with your child?Maybe you feel like you've told them a million times but it's still a problem? Perhaps you need to break it down into small steps. We'll use an example of a three year old who isn't listening or obeying, but the principles can be applied with any age and most issues.
RESOURCES mentioned in episode 61:
✅Val's favorite Language Arts Curriculum: Shurley English Method I'm not an affiliate of this curriculum, I just love it! I've tried many and this has been the most thorough for teaching grammar to my children.
✅Episode 5 Getting Kids to Listen the First Time
✅Episode 7 Work Ethic and the Habit of Happiness in Littles, Middles, and Teens
This episode also includes a Marriage Minute with Rich & Val - Asking your spouse, "What makes you feel valued by me?"
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A NEW look, a new sound, and a new format is waiting for you in episode 60 of the Practically Speaking MOM: Intentional Mom, Strong Family Podcast. This is a SPECIAL SEASON TWO DEBUT episode! "Family Table Talk Ideas & Season 2 DEBUT - Let God Write Your Victory Song" episode 60.
Click here for the blog post, "Let God Write Your Victory Song"
Link to Operation World (Abby & Val talk about Operation World and their new app - a great GEOGRAPHY & PRAYER resource while we mention our top seven countries where we have listeners to the show: US, Canada, Australia, South Africa, Ireland, Hungary, United Kingdom). We are so grateful for our international listeners and we want you to know WE PRAY FOR YOU and YOUR FAMILIES).
Be sure to listen until the end of this episode as Val introduces a new segment called "In the Family Room with Val." On this week's Family Room segment she shares several ideas for Family Dinner Time Talk. These ideas were from other intentional moms who shared their ideas during a Q&A at one of Val's recent Intentional Moms events.
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BLOOPERS Year One! "Behind the Mic" hosted by Abby & Emma, episode 59.
This is Val Harrison, the Practically Speaking MOM and I approved this episode. What was I thinking?Link to blog post for Episode 59. It has a few behind the scenes pics related to this episode.
You’re listening to the final episode of Year One of the Practically Speaking MOM: Intentional Mom, Strong Family Podcast!
Rich and I handed over a year’s worth of bloopers to our youngest two daughters and set them loose to bring you, Behind the Mic with Abby & Emma. They created all of the scripts and give a stellar performance. If you're looking for some laughs, this episode will NOT disappoint.
"Gabby Abby" and "Emma Dilemma" bring you four categories of bloopers:
Mom Says It Nice
Surround Sound
Tongue Tied
Serious Hilarious
Join us next week for our Debut of Year Two, Season Two!
This is Val Harrison, the Practically Speaking MOM and I approved this episode. What was I thinking?
Electronic sound effects obtained from https://www.zapsplat.com
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Episode 58, BEST OF YEAR ONE - top episodes, top parenting principles, hosted by Rich and Val
It's time to CELEBRATE! This is the first of three episodes of celebration for our One Year Milestone with the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast, the podcast for an intentional mom to build a strong family.
Coming Soon:
10/26/2020 BLOOPERS - Behind the Mic with Abby & Emma - this one is hilarious!
11/02/2020 DEBUT of SEASON TWO!!! - Can't wait to share some NEW aspects of the show with all of you!
Click Here to read the Blog Post for this episode which contains the dialog and links to episodes that were showcased in this episode. (Sorry, usually the blog is usually published before noon on Mondays. It can't be published until the podcast goes live, thus I have to publish the blog post on Monday mornings. However, this Monday morning I am speaking to a group of moms and I'll hit publish as soon as I'm finished meeting with them. I'm sharing with them the material from Your Love Becomes Their Strength: Answering the Six Essential Questions of Your Child's Heart. Pray for them right now that they would receive the help they need to strengthen their relationships with their children. Thanks for your patience. I sure appreciate all of you dear followers of the show. It is such a joy to minister to you each week. Hugs, Val)
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Here is an episode full of wisdom nuggets for moms to keep the right PERSPECTIVE with your to do list, to keep your PRIORITIES in order, to find STRENGTH in difficult times, AND it wraps up with guest Steph Fisher leading us through a Stress-Relieving Deep Breathing Exercise. This is a conversation rich in wisdom, encouragement, and motivation for mamas between Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM and her cousin and wellness expert, Steph Fisher. All of this in episode 57, Motivation for Mamas to Reduce Stress, Keep Priority Focus, & Take Time to Breath with Guest Steph Fisher.
This episode ends with Steph Fisher walking us through a Stress-Reducing Deep Breathing Exercise designed to increase focus and decrease stress.
For this week's podcast notes, click here to go to my blog post for episode 57.
About our Guest, Steph Fisher @StephFisherWelnesswww.StephanieFisher.arbonne.com
Steph Fisher has been Fitness Director and Head Personal Trainer with several fitness certifications. She's taught Cycle, Kickbox HIIT, and Pilates for 20+ years, and recently added her 200hr RYT Yoga certification to her list of health leadership experience. She is also an ERVP with Arbonne. She's passionate about helping others discover their personal balance and strength. She's a mama to four great kids and wife to Joey. And she's also Val's cousin! But who she is most of all, is daughter of the King of Kings who brings her joy and sustaining grace every day!
Podcast episodes mentioned in this episode:
Episode 38: Mom Making Money: Strategies that Work So Your Focus Can Be on Your Family
Episode 14: Raising a Luke 2:52 Kid
Episode 22: Mom's Marathon Path
Here's more about the concept of Feasting with the Father Episode 24
Here's an episode where I talk more about my grandma and her time in the valley https://www.practicallyspeakingmom.com/post/podcast-blog-post-finding-joy-in-the-valley
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This week we look at lots of awesome strategies for FITTING HEALTH into our busy momlife!! Oh, Mama, you want to listen to this two-week discussion between Val Harrison, the Practically Speaking MOM, and Steph Fisher of @StephFisherWellness."When you take care of YOU well, then you're able to take care of your family well." Steph Fisher of @StephFisherWellness
Moms have a tendency to shove their own needs to the bottom of the pile. We're constantly inundated with obligations, little people tugging on our pant leg, older kids needing our help, and for many of us, we also have to add "making some income" to the list of responsibilities that volley for our time, our attention, and our energy.
For many years, my life was a series of days of neglecting me, especially my physical needs. Most afternoons I would find myself completely depleted and then realize that I had done nothing to take care of myself physically. In my warped perspective, I thought that was selflessly, lovingly caring for my family. I knew my children needed a mom who was nourished spiritually if I wanted to help bring them to relationship with our Creator, but I didn't realize that same principle applied to physical health.
Intentional Mom, I've told you before, IT IS NOT SELFISH TO TAKE CARE OF YOU. The opposite is actually true: Taking care of YOU is one of the most important gifts you give your family.
But how do we make it happen?! How do we make time for self-care? How can we develop a healthy lifestyle when we have NO TIME and NO ENERGY and NO MONEY?! And then how do we help our family be more healthy in a sugar-filled world?!
Steph Fisher to the rescue! She has been one of my top mom-health mentors over the last four years in my journey back to health, (I still have a long way to go, which is why I still need Steph!), and I'm so glad that you'll all get to meet her this week (and next) on the podcast! Steph is a fitness powerhouse with several certification and 20+ years experience in helping mamas become healthy physically. I'm also blessed to call Steph my cousin!
Next week, in Part two Staying encouraged even through tough times
Juggling income when your priorities are God First, Family Second, and then everything else
*Stress Relief including a Guided Breathing Exercise at the end of Part two that will leave you feeling mellow and energized. I put it at the end of the episode so it would be easy for you to return to it anytime you want a Stress Relief Guided Breathing Exercise with Steph!
Resourceswww.instagram.com/stephfisherwellness
www.StephanieFisher.arbonne.com
Steph Fisher has been Fitness Director and Head Personal Trainer, with several fitness certifications. She's taught Cycle, Kickbox HIIT, and Pilates for 20+ years, and recently added her 200hr RYT Yoga certification to her list of health leadership experience. She is also an ERVP with Arbonne. She's passionate about helping others discover their personal balance and strength. She's a mama to four great kids and wife to Joey. And she's also Val's cousin! But who she is most of all, is daughter of the King of Kings who brings her joy and sustaining grace every day!
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Click Here to go to Episode 55's BLOG POST. How Do YOU Measure MOM SUCCESS? Goodbye COMPARISON & PERFECTION!Have you clearly identified your family values? Until you do, you are likely to use the wrong measurement for gauging how you’re doing as mom, and how well your kids are growing toward a meaningful life.
Too often COMPARISON or PERFECTION sneaks in as mom's measuring stick for Mom Success. An INTENTIONAL mom TAKES THE TIME TO DETERMINE HER TOP VALUES and then those VALUES SHAPE her decisions, actions, words, goals, schedule, and perspective.
It’s not wrong to evaluate how you're doing in motherhood. In fact, I find it beneficial IF I evaluate how I'm doing based on a pre-determined CLEAR target of what I'm aiming for in motherhood.
📌Stop COMPARING yourself to other moms and your kids to other kids. 📌Stop aiming for PERFECTION and holding off on happiness until you've achieved perfection. 📌Identify Your Family Values - I share mine in this episode #55 📌**Determine HOW your Family Values are going to be incorporated into your life
Parenting without having CLEARLY ESTABLISHED VALUES is like shooting arrows while blindfolded- you're not going to reach the target AND someone is likely to get hurt.** Taking off the blindfold allows your eyes to be fixed on the target.
In episode 55,"Measuring Mom Success! Goodbye COMPARISON & PERFECTION," we talk about THE TARGET. I share my values with you and what that looks like in my family.
If you want an expanded version of shownotes, read my blog post for episode 55.
Also in Episode 55, I spend the last ten minutes talking about the next step of My Journey Back to Health, specifically talking about Adrenal Fatigue and ways I'm working to heal my adrenals, including some practical steps for improvement.
Resources mentioned in episode 55:
Link to adrenal fatigue article LInk to next week's guest, Stephanie Fisher Instagram.com/StephFisherWellness
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A Sense of SECURITY is a Fundamental Building Block in the Pursuit of Wholeness - the wholeness of an individual and of a relationship.
What if you had someone in your life who was fully committed to your wholeness as a person, someone who sacrificially pursued your sense of security every single day? How would that impact your ability to thrive? To stay encouraged? To pursue God's big and small purposes for your life? Today, we're looking at the important building block that is GIVING THE GIFT OF SECURITY to those you love. Our examples are regarding marriage, but you can take these principles and apply them to parenthood TO HELP YOUR CHILD THRIVE because of a sense of security.
In this episode I'm joined by your favorite host, and my all-time favorite person, my husband Rich.
Episode 54 is one more building block in helping those you love THRIVE and grow closer to WHOLENESS as an individual and WHOLENESS in your relationship.
Relational Security- Security within your RELATIONSHIP
- TRANSPARENCY- My spouse has the confidence that I am being open, fully honest, disclosing everything. It is vulnerable accountability and a commitment to complete truth. "Usually the things that I don't want to bring up... are the exact things that I need to bring up." "If you are fully, vulnerably honest with me... that gives me a real sense of security that I can really trust you."
- Maintaining agreed upon BOUNDARIES to honor the relationship
- Avoiding the self-protection trap - a barrier to oneness
- DEFENDING the one you love- "My level of defense for you reflects my value of you."
- GENTLENESS- treat their emotions and vulnerability with tenderness; not using what they say against them, not manipulating. Respecting, treasuring, "I'm a gentle cheerleader of the fact that you are willing to be transparent."
Provisional Security- Security in material aspects of life
- INCOME STABILITY- Healthy work/home balance, maintaining stability in job, partnering in position changes or potential job changes.
- FINANCES- Common financial goals and strategies (spending limits, budgeting, use of debt, etc.)
- MAINTAINING OUR RESOURCES- Honoring each other by each fully participating in keeping our things in good repair and manageable.
Family Security- Security regarding how we manage our family
- PARENTING- each parent equally engaged in raising children, identifying concerns, developing character, imparting spiritual truths and development
- SYSTEMS- Driving kids places, scheduling, laundry, meals, the kids' chores, maintaining the home... There are many aspects that play a role in how smoothly life happens as a family. It can be very demoralizing if only one parent is implementing the systems that help a family function with stability while the other parent is ignoring the systems or not contributing to the complex creating and maintaining of systems.
- LEGACY- "We're partnered together in our legacy, thinking long-term in impacting their view of God, themselves, relationships, family, work, citizenship, etc.
Resources:Episode 8 Redeeming Your Marriage and Developing ONENESS - choosing God's BEST in our marriage
Episode 23 Negative Communication Habits & Communication Games that have Got to Go
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Sibling Squabbles & Family Standards for Fighting Fair, Birthday Bonding, Listener Q&A, Changing Negative Self-Perceptions, and the Hard Work of Mending Relationships are all a part of Episode 53 of the Practically Speaking MOM: Intentional Mom, Strong Family Podcast.
How would you like to sit-in on a lighthearted chat with Val and her two youngest children? That's what you'll do in the first half of episode 53. Then Val continues with Listener Q&A. Announcement: Sign up for Val's Monday Email (containing podcast & show notes) by the end of September as all subscribers will receive a FREE Family Communication Evaluation Form emailed to you. Sign up at www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com
Click Here for Link to corresponding blog post which contains adding info: STEPS to MENDING RELATIONSHIP with YOUR GROWN CHILD.
In Episode 53, learn...
How we handle Sibling Conflict and Standards in Fighting Fair
A Birthday Tradition that promotes sibling bonding while also improving self-perception and even improves communication skills and character
*Listener Q&A
Episode 53 Listener Q&A includes...
What to do when our kids don't want to hear us say positive things about them. Often the root problem is Negative Self-Perception. What can we as parents do to help?
How should we handle it when we are personally inconsistent in enforcing boundaries, or enforcing chores and other behavior in our kids?
*Mending Relationship with our kids, especially older kids.... where do we begin? (See corresponding blog post for additional REPAIR STEPS that aren't discussed in the episode.)
Believe it or not, arguments DO happen at the Harrison household and thus we've developed some family standards for fighting fair - how we treat one another when we disagree. Abby and Emma help me tell listeners what sibling squabbles sound like in our home and we hope that this will give you some ideas and new perspectives for developing some sibling spatting standards at your home too!
"By treasuring the relationship enough to REPAIR after a disagreement, we are showing how much we value that relationship."
"Whether it is positive habits or negative habits, whatever habits of communication our oldest children are displaying, those behaviors will trickle down to the younger children as well."
Resources:Val's most popular podcast episode: Episode 6 "Parenting Middles & Teens, Overcoming Negative Self-Talk, & What Teens aren't Telling You."
*Clash in Your Home: Getting A Game Plan for Cleaning Up the Conflict or E-Book
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An honest story of brokenness, redemption, hope, and beautiful scars along with SPECIFIC ACTION STEPS for INTENTIONAL PARENTS - steps for the role you play in your child's sacred journey to make their faith their own.
What's so sacred about struggling? We don't realize it is sacred until later. Later we see all the ways that God weaves together our mistakes and poor choices, our moments of doubt and brokenness, followed by Him redeeming us from the pit, and it is that redemption that turns our scars into something beautiful. And then, then we see that the time of struggling was just as sacred as the time of redemption. This week you hear the rest of the story that we began last week - the story of God making our scars beautiful.
Resources:
Clash In Your Home: Getting a Game Plan for Cleaning Up the Conflict EBook version"Welcome" "Whisper" "Be Still" written, composed, and performed by Victoria Dahilig. Copyright 2009
A note from Victoria about the final song, Be Still, in this week's episode...
I was 15 and at a crucial point in my spiritual formation. Struggling between simply living out “my parent’s faith” and making my faith and belief in God my own, I had been in a battle between the knowledge in my head and the feelings in my heart. I was doubting the goodness of God. This battle culminated in a struggle with depression, loneliness, anger and fear – God gripped my heart, drove me to my knees and drew me back to Him through the light of others and the truth of His word.
As I searched Scripture, I re-discovered a loving Father who is attentive to every need and deep, heart-cry of His children and yet, sits in sovereign control of the Universe. A God who was not far from me, nor angry with me or disappointed in me but one who was close, constant and welcoming with open arms.
As my soul finally began to find rest in the character and promises of God, this song, Be Still, was my response. Inspired by God’s own Words found in Psalm 46, Exodus 14:14, Isaiah 31:17 and Zephaniah 3:17, this was my heart singing in the assurance and confidence I had found in my place of belonging and safety in the arms of a good Father.
My hope is that as other’s hear the words of this song, that no matter what storms may be raging in their life, they can take a moment to trust again and simply rest in the assurance that God is still God." Victoria Dahilig, 2020
More Episode series w/ Victoria A Girl's Self-worth, Parenting Middles and Teens
"In all honesty I was tired of running from God. It’s hard work to run away from God because you’re running away from love and joy and hope. You don’t realize, until you’re away from all of those, the deep cavern that is inside of you without God filling it. So I came to this place of surrender and it was really GRACE. I was finally willing to admit that I was lonely and that I was hopeless… to admit that I couldn’t do this anymore on my own and I didn’t want to..." Victoria Dahilig, Episode 51This week and next, you get to journey to the heart of God through the testimony of Victoria Dahilig - church youth and ministry director. This two part series includes two original songs by Victoria - words God gave her because they were the words her heart needed to hear, and perhaps you need these words for your own heart or for the heart of one that you love who is running.
"Psalm 113:7-8 says 'He raises the poor from the dust and lifts the needy from the ash heap to make them sit with princes and the princes of His people.' That was exactly where I felt that I was at – that I was poor in the dust and needy in the ash heap. I had felt that I was in a place of dust and ashes and God was willing to lift me out of the heap... I grabbed a hold of the truth about the sovereignty of God - the mystery of Him and the assurance of Him... One of my songs was born out of this realization, in the act of turning back to Christ and realizing how heavy the loneliness, and dust, and ashes were weighing on me and taking the chance to open up in an honest prayer to God – lifting a raw prayer before Him.“
Victoria Dahilig, Episode 51Parents, one thing I feel very strongly is that how we help our younger children discover God is a very different parenting plan from when our teens and adult children wrestle with their faith. "Who is God?" and "Who am I in relationship to Him?" Are critical questions. As intentional parents, we can't have a "one size fits all ages" approach to this heart issue. We need to handle it differently at different stages of life. Next week, as we conclude this interview with Tori and introduce her next song, we’ll also talk about the Parent’s Action Plan - steps for helping your kids make their faith their own - different steps for different stages of childhood.
“God doesn’t eliminate the difficulties and trials for our children, but He does walk with them through these times. He is right there with them at every moment of every step, going in front, going beside, going behind, carrying them. He is totally surrounding our kids and we can trust Him."val harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM, episode 51
"Welcome Me" written and performed by Victoria Dahilig, Copyright 2009
Next week, I will share ACTION STEPS for PARENTS at each age and stage, to aid in the process of kids taking on their faith in God AS THEIR OWN, from the young to the grown, what we can do as intentional parents. (Episode 52, publishes 9/7/2020). The story continues with the second song for the second step in Tori’s journey to the heart of God.
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Fifty episodes is something to CELEBRATE when you're a mom of seven, grandma to two, a homeschooler, and a Mompreneur! Val (and Rich too) are amazed that God continues to direct this ministry - now with registered listeners in over 40 countries around the world and thousands of downloads. Moms in all types of circumstances are becoming more intentional, growing stronger families, and celebrating the fact that God has designed their imperfect family as God's perfect masterpiece in the making! Celebrate this milestone with Val and Rich as you learn more of their heart for each one of you in this 50th episode special.
I may be the Practically Speaking MOM, but I'm not a perfect mom. All of my episode themes are based on my biggest failures and mistakes. I’ve just failed a lot. But I am willing to learn from my mistakes, seek forgive, and do the hard work of letting God mold me. It’s not that I’m a great mom, it’s that I’m a mistaking mom who is determined to not stay the way I am."
"In a marriage, God can take a great big mess and turn it into something amazing, if we let Him... if we lay down our weapons against one another."
"The ingredients for Healthy Family Relationships, or really any healthy relationship are HONESTY, HUMILITY, and HONOR. Those are the three ingredients we most strive for in our family. We're not going to get it right all the time, or even most of the time, but we keep striving toward this standard, keep developing these habits of HONESTY, HUMILITY, and HONOR."Here's the QUESTIONS Rich asked Val on this BEHIND THE SCENES episode of the Practically Speaking MOM: Intentional Mom, Strong Family Podcast!
❓So, what’s the deal with the long title for your podcast? "Practically Speaking MOM: Intentional Mom, Strong Family Podcast." That's a lot.
❔What happened to the Six Rooms of the Intentional Mom's Home, is that still a key part of the ministry?
❓What do you want the listeners to know about Val Harrison?
❔What's been the most challenging thing that's happened since beginning the podcast?
❓Why do you keep doing this ministry on hard days?
❔What's been the most rewarding part of being the Practically Speaking MOM?
❓What's the listeners' favorite episodes and what's yours?
❔Where are we going from here? What can the listeners expect?
Top Two Listened to Episodes:🎧Episode 6 Parenting Middles & Teens - Overcoming Negative Self-Talk - What Your Teens Aren't Telling You- Resources for those who love a child in the Gen Z world.
🎧Episode Trailer: Meet the Practically Speaking MOM
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LAUNCH Time: Legacy Building for what comes next & a Mother's Prayer at the Threshold, Episode 49.
If you'd like the words of the Mother's Milestone Prayer from this episode, you will find them on my blog that publishes Mondays by noon, at www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com. While there, be sure to take a few seconds to enter your email address to register to receive my weekly blog post and podcast right in your inbox.
Some questions that will be answer on this week's episode:
❓What's my family's identity - characteristics that represent our family?
❓What LEGACY am I building - the values I want to pass on?
❓What qualities do my kids need most to prepare them to launch into adulthood?
❓How can they develop confidence & humility at the same time?
❓When my child no longer lives with me, what is my role in their life and is it as important of a role as I had before?
❓How do I pray for my child?
❓How do I pray for my mourning mama heart?
Mom, don't wait to prepare your kids for adulthood! If you want them to have SOLID HABITS as adults, you want to help them develop those NOW. In the first part of today's podcast, my youngest son, Andrew, and I discuss four key areas in a strong foundation, from Andrew's perspective - work ethic, finances, social life, and spiritual life. This first section would be great for your middle school or high school son to listen with you. Then I continue the podcast looking at building LEGACY & building FAMILY IDENTITY. This all wraps up with a heartfelt prayer from a mama who is going through the mourning process of launching her child into adulthood.
Every mom has a vital role to play in the next step of your child's life - whether your kiddos are little are fully launched. No matter what stage of motherhood you are in, from new mom to grandma, this week's podcast will touch every heart and give you fresh perspective in your next step on this worthy journey of motherhood.
Resources:
Chip Ingram - Living on the Edge
Alistair Begg - Truth For Life Val's Book: Wearing All Your Hats without Wearing Out: Finding Focus to be the Masterpiece God Intended Podcast Episode 3: Ways to Love Your Child from Toddler to Teen, and Learning to Let Them Grow Up
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**Growing Heroes & Helping Weaknesses - the positive habit of audio adventures w/ guest Jim Hodges, Episode 48.
Read Val's Blog Post regarding this episode HERE (get Val's weekly podcast & blog emailed to you every Monday by going here and entering your email address)
If you’ve known me for awhile, then you know that I’ve been living the mom life for almost 27 years. From those nearly three decades of raising seven children, I would rank what we’re talking about today in my top ten habits that shaped my children’s character, shaped their worldview, their wisdom – the application of knowledge, and shaped their life pursuits – their perspective on venturing into the unknown, setting goals, being obstacle over-comers.
Today, we’re talking about making quality, wholesome, character-building AUDIO ADVENTURES a routine part of your child’s life. Our family has had many family adventures thanks to our podcast guest this week! He is a professional voice performer and one of my family's favorite story tellers, Jim Hodges of Jim Hodges Audio Books. Jim & I have a lively discussion about lots of things, including how weaknesses in our kids can lead to great adventures, a game-changing tip for slow readers, and the impact of quality content on the shaping of our child's character!
About this week's guest, Jim Hodges:
https://jimhodgesaudiobooks.com/ Jim Hodges is a committed Christian, husband to Monica for 40 years, father of 3 grown home-schooled children, and Navy retiree. Monica once asked what his dream job would be? He answered "I'd record books." And so began Jim Hodges Audio Books, producing (at last count!) 30 unabridged recordings of the G. A. Henty historical novels, plus 50 other family friendly recordings.
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Intentional parents, it is never too late to pivot, apologize, and course correct. The sooner you do, the sooner you'll get to enjoy the wonderful, undeserved harvest even for the mistaking parent. When we parents learn the hard way, we aren't the only ones who suffer. Our children bare the brunt of our errors and for those of us who love our kids deeply, which is most of us, the guilt can be overwhelming! We serve a redeeming God and He's good at giving us second chances to love well.
I've come to find that God our Heavenly Father is the perfect example of boundless love that is full of both mercy and high standards all rolled into one. I call it Mercy Seat Parenting and you can read about it in my book Wearing All Your Hats without Wearing Out: Finding Focus to be the Masterpiece Family God Intended. or E-Book
💕If you want your kids to come to you when they're wrestling with life's sticky issues, 💕if you want them to hear your warnings and reproofs,💕 if you want to be a main voice in their decisions as they get older, you have to have proven to them that you are a safe haven for their hearts and thoughts.
We earn the right to maintain influence in our older children's lives. Your reaction determines their future openness with you.
Read more on my blog (publishes noon every Monday).
Click here to go to Val's BLOG for Episode #47
ResourcesVal's book, Clash in Your Home: Getting a Game Plan for Cleaning Up the Conflict E-Book
Val's Live WORKSHOP Download only $4 for a limited time. Clash In Your Home LIVE Workshop
Your Family, God's Masterpiece THREE BOOK SPECIAL on $32: Click Here (Includes Clash In Your Home, Wearing All Your Hats without Wearing Out, and When Littles are Loud)
Click here to listen to Part 1: The Hope-Filled Life of the Mistaking Parent
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The Hope-Filled Life of a Mistaking Parent including a Mother & Son Discussion between The Practically Speaking MOM and her oldest son, Nathan.
This week's podcast is a lesson learned the hard way by a Mistaking Parent (me), and God's grace for all of us imperfect moms! You'll also hear the beginning of a mother and son discussion between me, The Practically Speaking MOM, and my oldest son, Nathan, who is now grown and married. That conversation will finish up next week. We're calling this series The Hope-Filled Life of the Mistaking Parent. Now that might not sound like a very hopeful topic, but it is. The wonderful thing about letting our merciful God lead us in parenthood is that he can bring HAPPY HARVEST even into the lives of IMPERFECT PARENTS. After all, we're all imperfect.
As an intentional parent. I am constantly in the process of peeling away the layers of me that are not good for me, or not good for those around me.
Today I'm being vulnerable and sharing some of the layers I had to peel away. But as I mentioned, there is victory at the end of this story, a time of harvest for a very imperfect parent.
"Moms, I know you wouldn't be checking out a blog or podcast on "becoming more intentional to build strong families" if you didn't already love deeply. I know you love deeply. I loved deeply, but I wasn't loving as well as my kids needed me to be. My husband was sweet but not strong enough and I was harsh and unpalatable. We needed to learn that we had some work to do on learning to love well. We needed God to direct us to a better way, so we became very open to God's direction on parenting. We studied and grew and studied and grew. Eventually God gave us a guide for parents that we call "Your Love Becomes Their Strength: Answering the Six Questions of Your Child's Heart." This material, that eventually developed from our searching the heart of God regarding loving our children well, became something we taught in Sunday school class settings, large convention settings. I've taught to moms' groups and small groups. It's now my most requested speaking topic! These questions are:
💎Am I worth treasuring?
🎁Am I worth knowing?
🔒Am I worth protecting?
🥇Am I worth believing in?
👪Am I worth including?
🤗Am I worth restoring? "
For a short time, I have a full-length workshop "Your Love Becomes Their Strength" on my website for only $4. Click here if you're interested in that download. All workshop downloads are only there for a limited time, so you might want to get all of them before they're gone.
Resources:
Val's Blog: Hope for the Mistaking Parent (new blog post publishes every Monday at noon)
Val's Workshop:Your Love Becomes Their Strength
Val's Book: Wearing All Your Hats Without Wearing Out
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Pt 3 of Managing STRESS in Mom & Child: Counteracting the Harmful Impacts of Stress w/ guest Amanda Colliatie, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
(Be sure to checkout the coordinating blog post on Val's website)
In this episode Amanda shares all of these Buffers to Stress:How to have Good Sleep Habits
STATUE PARENTING for teens and tweens
The role of Exercise and a Healthy Diet in diminishing the affects of stress including reducing inflammation
PLANNING AHEAD - when we have a plan we feel like we have structure and this also REDUCES TIME URGENCY. Find things you can do slowly ON PURPOSE.
Deep Breathing, Prayer, Meditation
Maximizing your best times of day to have an UP time and a DOWN time or rest time. Both are important. Quiet Family Time or Alone Quiet Time to de-stress
Journaling (see the coordinating blog post to see a list of questions to use for de-stressing journaling) Mental Health - finding a buffering person, or a small group such as a church small group, where you feel safe sharing, or it could be that you need to reach out to a licensed therapist, such as Amanda.
All of these layers of human connection can help your mental health:
One on one buffer person
Small Group (such as a church small group)
Large Group worship
Therapist
And then sometimes, you may need to "ditch a group" if that group isn't helping your life or your relationships.*
"It's important to remember that regardless of the stress that is going on, you are unbelievably powerful for buffering your family's stress. Studies show that you really only need to get it right about 35% of the time. You don't have to be perfect to have kids that are doing okay. So be encouraged!" Amanda Colliatie, LMFT
Val talks about how to get kids' on board with monitoring their stress levels and reminds us that kids' minds need time to create, problem solve, hear God's voice, reflect - Don't keep noise such as the t.v. or radio- as a CONSTANT wallpaper in their life. They need time for quiet, too!**This episode ends with Val and Amanda praying for all the wonderful intentional mamas that listen to this ministry.Amanda Colliatie is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Wichita, Kansas. Her practice at Encounter Freedom Therapy Center website or Facebook page is dedicated to providing skilled therapy that is safe, affordable, and practical.
Resources
Sources for some of Amanda's concepts: A Mind Frozen in Time: A PTSD Recovery Guide by Dr. Jeremy P. Crosby, Dr. Nadine Burke Harris’ book The Deepest Well: Healing the Long-Term Effects of Childhood Adversity, SAMHSA Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration's National Child Traumatic Stress Initiative (NCSTI), https://www.samhsa.gov/childtrauma/understanding-child-trauma Brandon Peters, MD, https://www.verywellhealth.com/30-days-to-bettersleep-3973920)
Episode 13 Mom's mental Health w/ Amanda Colliatie.
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BUFFERING Techniques for Stress in Our & Our Kids' Lives - from Guest Amanda Colliatie, LMFT Click here to read Blog. 1. Build Up - Be a force against the negativity in our kid's life. Notice the things they're doing well. Praise them for what they're doing right. Be quick to repair when the relationship has been compromised. Choose your words carefully when you need to correct them.
2. Meaningful Touch - It's connecting and reassuring, especially in times of stress. (If they, by nature, don't like to be touched, this would be an exception to keep in mind.)
3. Finding a HEALTHY Escape - such as reading, playing with a pet... Do something to step out of the stress for a short time. But notice when the escape becomes unhealthy.
4. Be Responsive - We were made to connect with people. Eye contact, talking, interacting are all ways to be responsive and thus bring soothing to your stressed out child.
Pt 3 will contain the rest of Amanda's list!
Val on Transferring Self-Sufficiency to our Kids even regarding Stress:"As intentional Moms, we want to be constantly in the process of Transferring Self-Sufficiency to our kids in all areas of their life. This is a long process, but an important one."Here's how to Transfer Self-Sufficiency to our kids in every area, including in equipping them 1. Set a good example of monitoring your own stress, mom. Taking time for MARGIN & watching for SIGNS & SYMPTOMS of stress reaching an unhealthy level.2. Equip your kids with Good Stress Management Habits3. Teach them the philosophy behind the good habit - teach them why it matters.
Amanda Colliatie is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Wichita, Kansas. Her practice at Encounter Freedom Therapy Center website or Facebook page is dedicated to providing skilled therapy that is safe, affordable, and practical.
Don't ignore the SIGNS that your stress is too much for your body. Don't make the mistake I made by waiting until the road back to health is a very long road. At the end of today's episode I share a way that I've found to reduce inflammation in my body. Here's a brand that I like (this is not affiliate link) Look for 95% curcuminoids as an ingredient and Black Pepper (BioPerine).
Amanda's Sources: Dr. Nadine Burke Harris’ book The Deepest Well: Healing the Long-Term Effects of Childhood Adversity, The Gottman Institute, https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-magicrelationship-ratio-according-science/
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2020 has provided plenty of stress for ALL of us. Today, on the Practically Speaking MOM podcast we're learning how to identify signs of stress and deal with the Grizzly Bears in the room! We're facing stress head on with our guest stress expert, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Amanda Colliatie!
In week one of three, we look at the aspects below regarding stress. Then the next two weeks we'll talk about ways to BUFFER stress.
Everyone will experience stress and it's normal and healthy, as long as it stays in a healthy level. We don't need to try to keep all stress away from our children. Equip our kids to read stress signs and handle stress effectively.
Two Types of Stress
1. Physical Stress, positive or negative
2. Psychological Stress, positive or negative
Levels of Stress
1. Normal level of stress that is healthy to experience, mild hassles, minor issues.
2. Moderate stress from major life changes - job promotions, move, new baby, death of a loved one, medical diagnosis.
3. Toxic stress - stress overload, chronic, overwhelmed, circumstances seem unmanageable feeling hopeless or helpless, thinking about giving up
Warning Signs to watch for in Toxic Stress
Small things trigger big feelings
Increased levels of worry, insecurity...
Changes in mood - anxiety, impatient, hopeless
Trouble Sleeping
Consuming more substances that is more than your usual
Life is feeling out of control and you decrease in your ability to function
When you see these symptoms, don't REACT but DIG DEEPER, and have an appropriate RESPONSE that can move toward healing or calm.
How are you doing at watching for the symptoms in yourself and family members? Are you overlooking the signs?
Are you reacting quickly or having thoughtful response to your stressed-out family member.
We also look at some of the physical affects of stress in your body. Toxic stress affects your body, mind, and emotions. Extreme stress impacts our bodies as if you're being attacked by a grizzly bear. What feels like a grizzly bear in your child's life? Or in your own life?
It's time for us to face the bears in our life or the life of our kids - whether they are in us or in our environment. When is it time to get professional help? We talk about EMDR, a brain-based therapy and finding healing with this method.
Amanda Colliatie is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Wichita, Kansas. Her practice at Encounter Freedom Therapy Center website or Facebook page is dedicated to providing skilled therapy that is safe, affordable, and practical.
Resources
Sources for some of Amanda's concepts: A Mind Frozen in Time: A PTSD Recovery Guide by Dr. Jeremy P. Crosby, Dr. Nadine Burke Harris’ book The Deepest Well: Healing the Long-Term Effects of Childhood Adversity, SAMHSA Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration's National Child Traumatic Stress Initiative (NCSTI), https://www.samhsa.gov/childtrauma/understanding-child-trauma
Episode 13 Mom's mental Health w/ Amanda Colliatie.
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Every child longs for a loving father.
Every child has a perfect Heavenly Father, and either an imperfect or absent earthly father.
On today's podcast, we'll be talking about all of that - the harmful father, the absent father, the imperfect but loving father, and your child's Heavenly Daddy. This is an episode of honor and hope as well as some inspiration for marriage and some role modeling of fatherhood, too. Even the good dads aren't perfect, but those imperfect loving dads are probably accomplishing more than you might think!
No matter what kind of father is in your child's life, even if they have no father at all, your child has a faithful, perfect, loving Heavenly Daddy.
We'll take a brief look at three types of fathers:
⬜The Harming Father
⬜The Absent Father
⬜The Loving, Imperfect Father
And you'll be reminded that no matter what kind of father your child has experienced, they have a loving, Heavenly Daddy who is always with them!
Special Thanks, this week, to four dear mamas who were kind enough to share some wisdom. They each had an absent or harming father experience, and I asked them if they could give me words of wisdom to pass along to all of you, our Intentional Mom community. We have moms in all kinds of circumstances, including moms who are raising their children alone. This is a message of hope for you as well as some practical steps to take if your children don't have a loving father in their life.
But that's just a portion of today's special edition episode! You'll hear from all seven of my children as they recorded some surprise messages. Each shares from their heart about what mattered most in their life regarding their dad, my husband, Rich. This entire episode was a surprise to my husband, Rich, as he is the editor and publisher of the podcast each week. Sneaking in an episode without him was a lot of fun for me and the kids Join in our little surprise, won't you! It even ends with a short tribute song to their dad, sung by our three youngest children.
Resources Mentioned in this episode
Focus on the Family Help line - 1-855-771-HELP (4357)
Book: Different Children, Different Needs by Charles Boyd
Val's workshop audio: Help! My Home is Full of Difficult Personalities, and One of Them is Mine!
Episode 26: Root Parenting: Digging Deeper into the Four Root Areas Behind Your Child's Behavior
Episode 25: Root Parenting vs. Surface Parenting
Andrew Peterson's music and products: andrew-peterson.com
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Behind the Scenes w/ Four Sisters and their Practically Speaking MOM, Episode 41.
Join us today for lots of laughs and lots of honesty!
This episode is a special treat to me - visiting with all four of my daughters together in the studio. We all gathered around the microphone to laugh and to tell the truth about sibling life, family values, fighting fair, and more.
The Practically Speaking MOM podcast is unique in that it's a family podcast - you've met all seven of our children in different episodes (except Nathan, who produces the music and we have an episode lined up for you to meet him later this summer). My husband, Rich, and I give several hours a week to the podcast and then all the rest of the family chips in with their abilities or experiences.
Here's what we talk about on this special sisters edition of the podcast (I ask questions and they answer them):
💞 What were our CORE FAMILY VALUES and how did we implement them in our home?💕 What SIBLING RELATIONSHIP BELIEFS did we establish and how?💞Because children aren't born knowing how to interact in conflict in a healthy way, we have to teach them how. In the podcast we talk about SIBLING SQUABBLES & I share a simple method for teaching kids how to REPAIR RELATIONSHIP...💕**To share bedrooms or not to share sibling bedrooms...
💞Sibling Arguments - Should we let our kids "work it out for themselves" or should we step in to help them resolve conflict?
💕What was effective in helping to grow such strong sibling bonds between you seven kids? What fostered life-long friendships between you?**
💞**How did it affect the relationship to work hard together?
And what was some of the hard work you did?
💕When parents fall short, as I did and do many times, how does this affect you guys? What about the gaps in our parenting? How did that impact you kids?**
💞Was limiting technology an important part of building strong sibling bonds?
💕Volunteering taught you...
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Chat with Val - Favs for a Healthy Body & Mind. Also, a Legacy Dream Come True! Episode 40
❓Do you ever get tired of telling kids "no" they can't watch that movie or show or listen to that music or play that game? ❗Help is here!!! This week on the podcast, I share with you a plan to reduce that stress, to help you say "no" less because your child has learned to discern and filter to protect their own heart and mind - the process of teaching them to be a gatekeeper to their heart. ❤It's a week about Guarding Our Hearts - Body & Mind ✔I know you're an intentional parent. Now help them become intentional to establish good habits and be comfortable with tough conversations - learn how to do this with me on the podcast this week!
Proverbs 4:23 says, "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it" Please take the time to learn how to do that with your kids in our culture today by listening to this week's podcast!
The episode wraps up as I share about a DREAM COME TRUE for me and my husband's legacy! What legacy dreams do you have and are you praying for and working toward?
I go into great detail for how we utilize Pluggedin.com at each stage of childhood from the younger years, to the middle years, to the upper years. You need a plan for protecting their heart and mind AND a plan for teaching them to protect their own heart and mind. Hear what alternative to rules we have for TV & movies, how we have conversations about culture topics, what our process is for gradually teaching our children how to be strong GATEKEEPERS OF THEIR OWN HEART & MIND.
The culture plan that I share in this episode cuts down on so much stress about the loud cultural messages on TV, movies, music, and games - all of which are reviewed thoroughly on Pluggedin.com and I teach you how to use it to it's greatest potential in this episode, so please listen to this important topic.
If you want to see your child thrive, equip them for these life issues with a clear system that teaches them along the way how to BECOME their own gatekeeper. This is one of the most important things we can do - protect their heart & mind, and transferring that responsibility to them. Let me show you how TODAY, on episode 40!
Business teacher Michael Hyatt, in an article, "Your Most Important Leadership Tool - Three Reasons Why You Must Guard Your Heart," says "If your heart is unhealthy, it threatens everything else 1. becasue your heart is extremely valuable 2. because your heart is the source of everything you do 3. because your heart is under constant attack
I am seeking to raise leaders who don't cower to bullies, shrink back from obstacles, or linger in the cesspool in the depraved alleys of our world.My long term goal is that they'd be in the habit of thinking before they expose their minds to the things that are destructive to their hearts.. Learn how on today's podcast!
Mentioned: Spice and Tea Exchange that's located at the Branson Landing. When you go, also visit Nika's Olive
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Every day a new page of history is written.
Are we teaching our children how to ✅examine it, ✅respond to it, ✅be impacted by it, ✅lead others through it, ✅LEARN FROM IT?
No one would argue with the fact that 2020 has been an unprecedented collection of new days of history. Are we engaging our children in the treasured task of being shaped by history and simultaneously shaping it? I want my kids to be leaders in tomorrow's pages of the past. If we want them to be effective, loving leaders, NOW is the time to take our role seriously.
Click here to go to Val's blog post on this episode, which contains all the links to
Resources for You and Your Family as you Become a Social Studies FamilyWe’ve all heard the quote by Winston Churchill saying, "Those that fail to learn from history, are doomed to repeat it." I would suggest that when we hear that quote we often fail to pay attention to one key phrase,“LEARN FROM” – "Those that fail to LEARN FROM history, are doomed to repeat it.” Reading some facts in a textbook about a past event, cramming lots of those facts into our brain while we study for a test, and then quickly forgetting those facts, that is not LEARNING FROM history. That is more like window shopping through history – taking a shallow little scenic tour but not going in and
experiencing it,
allowing it to impact our perspective,
shape our worldview,
affect our decision-making,
form our character,
and compel us to lead others toward truth and good deeds.
These are the things that I want history, including current history-in-the-making to accomplish for my kids.
Well, my friends, I tell you all that to explain why I brought a history guy ontothe podcast this week. It’s becauseI believe that LEARNING FROM history with our children is an important part of intentional parenting to build strong kids who become strong leaders who shape history. At the end of this blog post, be sure to use the link to a FREE 90 Day Membership to the Notgrass History resources site!
Can we have a heart to heart right now?
In recent days, a series of tragic racial scenarios emerged in the news followed by peaceful protests and dangerous, destructive riots, yet the interview fits perfectly with this important time.
These current events, that have been heavy on all of us, are reshaping my heart and what conversations I am having with my kids in hopes that it shapes their hearts, in hopes that the world we hand off for our children to lead, will be a place that they’ve been equipped for the challenges at hand.
How do we do this? Listen to Raising Loving Leaders, episode 39 to find out!
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Today we're looking at strategies for being an intentional mom and income provider. Now it just so happens that I love business, so this is a super fun topic to me! Click here for the blog post that goes with this episode.
Most moms have to at least contribute to the family income. Whether single or married, the cost of living these days demands a lot of creativity in making enough money to pay the bills. Even most stay-at-home moms and homeschool moms I know are making some type of income.
The first half of today’s podcast, I share a list of tips and tricks that I have done to make income while momming. Then the second half of the podcast, we listen to the last part of the conversation between one of my grown daughters, Becca, and me, as we discuss juggling an at-home business and raising kids.
Listen to the podcast to hear how I implement these **"Tips for Making it all Work"
1 Allow God to be the CEO of your business.
2 Get your household systems in place.**
#3 Focus on People over Profit.
**#4 Success Habits.
5 Involve your kids in your work – there’s many great life skills for them to learn.
Above your income, doing the more valuable work of nurturing your child's heart.** No one else can monitor their heart like you can. No one else can nurture their heart, search their heart, discover their heart, shape their heart like you can.
Please don’t ever compromise their heart for any amount of money. Please do whatever it takes to treasure this dear soul that God has entrusted to you. There will be time for accolades and accomplishment and career fulfillment down the road when they’re older. If income making jeopardizes your relationship with your kids, as it sometimes did with mine (sometimes I was too busy and missed important soul issues), please vigilantly watch for this in your family, and leave wide wide margin of time for your children.
Resources
Val's consultant site to Usborne Children's Books https://u9822.myubam.com/
Val's consultant site to Mary Kay https://www.marykay.com/vharrison1
One of Val's podcast episodes to help with household systems:
Getting Kids to Listen the 1st Time & Following Up after Chores
Being a Manager of the Monkeys (and I don't mean your kids)
Val's podcast episode called Raising a Luke 2:52 Kid
Connect with Val: www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com & in the Facebook group Intentional Mom, Strong Family.
Family communication habits, mutual respect, getting a new perspective on our kids' misbehavior, potty-training, getting littles to eat healthy... this is what we're talking about in part 2 of a conversation with Becca Hammond. Free Family Communication Evaluation mentioned in this episode. Link to Pt. 1 - the blog & podcast, Next week we conclude this conversation on the topic of Mom making money - strategies that work, so you can focus on your kids.
Mutual Respect between Parent and Child We know it's important for our kids to show us respect, but how are we doing at showing our children respect?
Opportunity or Opposition - How are you looking at the misbehavior of your child?
How are we looking at the misbehavior of our children? Is it a reason for conflict or an opportunity to explore their heart, to discover how they’re growing and developing and trying to figure out the world?
Butting Heads or Habit Change? Cleaning Up Family Communication Habits Today most of our examples our from the life of very young children, but if your kids are older, please listen up to what I’m about to share with you about a free resource on my website called a Family Communication Evaluation Form. Protect the strength of your family by putting down your emotional weapons and take a fresh look at the situationVal's Book: Clash In Your Home: Getting a Game Plan for Cleaning Up the Conflict
Val's Book: When Littles are Loud: Maximizing the Moments without Drowning in ChaosClash in Your Home E-Book When Littles are Loud E-Book
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Parenting Principles in this episode: Mom-dependent vs. Independent, Helping Kids deal with their emotions, Your child's weakness may be a strength in disguise, Having Kids Take Responsibility for the Ripple Effects of Their Actions is the Best Teacher of All. We talk about all of these parenting issues today on the podcast in a conversation between myself and my grown daughter, Becca, the mother of two preschoolers . While most of the examples today are about young children, the principles can be applied to all ages.Here's the parenting principles we're talking about on the podcast today...
*Independent versus mom-dependent, which type child do you have?In the area of self-sufficiency, kids tend to fall into two categories: the “Mom, you do it. It’s too hard for me. I can’t do it.” mom-dependent types, OR, the self-sufficient types, “Mom, let me do it myself. I can do it” all while pushing mom away. Each child-type needs to learn different lessons in the area of sufficiency.
*Teach Kids to deal with their EMOTIONS😁😫😥🙄🤣🥰 Throwing things or stomping off or shutting down are not helpful and, in fact, they cause further troubles.. As parents, one of our main roles is to raise up strong people who can handle their defeats and disappointments in productive ways that don’t throw them into tailspins or immobilization.
Might that weakness actually be a strength in disguise? Honing your child's strengths...*Moms, I’ve told you before that our kids' weaknesses are usually a strength in disguise – a strength that is out of balance, needing some shaping. We can help our kids with a little strategic parenting.Being strategic is really what intentional parenting is all about!
Taking Responsibility is the best teacher of all (and is usually better than punishment). Keep it simple, Mom, teach your child to take responsibility for their actions - accidental and intentional. We talk about the importance of having our kids clean up their own life messes – both the accidental mistakes and the messes that come from poor decisions or poor attitudes or poor behavior. *Do you realize that there are wonderful and simple parenting strategies that are right there in those messes!
I also share a healthy daily sipper with you! To read the ingredients list, click here for my blog post on this week's episode: Kids' Emotions, Self-Sufficiency & Talk with a Preschool Mom.
Resources discussed today*Val's Affiliate Link to Trim Healthy Mama Podcast Episode 19 - When Littles are Loud: A Routine that Fosters Growth...
Podcast Episode 4 - Dealing with Lying in your Child, Part 1
Podcast Episode 12 - Lying, Part 2: Dealing with the Heart of your Child
Val's Book: When Littles are Loud: Maximizing the Moments without Drowning in Chaos When Littles are Loud E-Book*CONNECT with Val: www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com
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Are you operating from empty? Do you think it is selfish to dedicate TIME to replenish YOU? Click here to read Val's blog post, "Depleted? Mom, It's not selfish to replenish." The first half of this episode is a vulnerable topic for Val as it includes her road back to health and she reminds moms that when you are depleted, it often leads to defeated. It is not selfish to take care of yourself! In fact, neglecting YOU is harmful to your family. We cannot replenish others when we are depleted.
We moms often neglect ourselves emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Let's talk about the road back to healthy.
Then the second half of this episode is a listener Q&A where we focus on the four key elements of communicating boundaries to kids effectively and getting them on board with taking the necessary growth steps to increase their freedoms.
1. Empathy – see it from their perspective. Have compassion on their PERCEPTION of what’s going on and VERBALIZE your empathy. 2. Humility - even parents need humility and need to give mutual respect 3. Consistent and Clear boundaries and expectations - are the lines constantly changing or difficult for your child to identify? 4. Visionary Standard - avoid negative labels, your words should point them toward who they are capable of becoming * you believe they are more than their current behavior and weaknesses.
Boundaries increase with level of Responsibility Wisdom Honesty "As they display these characteristics in an area, that they are faithful with the amount of freedom they’re at, then you can begin considering increasing the freedom. COMMUNICATE all of this to them all along the way, so they understand that their freedom is in direct proportion to their level of Responsibility Wisdom and Honesty"
"When our kids have constant access to social media, it means that Peers & Strangers are given an influencing-role & constant access to our kids’ heart & mind. Intentional parents need to have reoccurring conversation family agreement that includes actions to take, actions to avoid, clear boundaries, and how to maintain those boundaries accountability filtering"
Resources mentioned in this episode
Internet Family Agreement
Val's affiliate link to Berkey Drinking Water Filters
Val's affiliate link to Trim Healthy Mama
Val's affiliate link to Covenant Eyes
The following three episodes are from the Learning to Feast with the Father series:
Podcast Episode 24: How a Busy Mom Gets Quality Time with God Daily Podcast Episode 27: Relationship Killers, Maintaining Influence & Mom, Are You Out of Order? Podcast Episode 29: ScreenTime, Chores, Habits of Blessing - Help our kids GROW, even in a crisis. Plus, Mom, What's Your Harriet Road? CONNECT with Val: www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com&
This week's podcast has three parts: The Practically Speaking MOM listeners share their thoughts about positive changes their family is making due to the pandemic experience. Val shares some a paradigm shift that she developed about Mothers Day. The spotlight of this week's podcast is a short story Val wrote about a time when the great pause button of life was pushed and all the world went home... The year families familied in the first time in a very long time, or the first time in forever.
"People Were Going Everywhere and Nowhere All at Once..."
The Year the World Paused"Life was flying by at maximum speed.
Parents, often working and worrying, missed out on discovering the deep hearts of their children. Some siblings knew their peers, but not each other. And often artificial masks were worn to reduce vulnerability and hide true selves.
Datebooks and calendars and schedules were the driving force of pressure, fitting in more and more and more until TIME was bursting at the seams.
Most people rode a vast merry-go-round of life, bobbing up and down while the music played, scurrying everywhere and nowhere all at once.
Most were consumed with excelling at everything from education to sports to career to appearances, seeking accolades of all kinds while also consumed with entertaining themselves at theaters and stadiums and restaurants and amusement parks.
And so, performers performed and consumers consumed on the great merry-go-round, speeding quickly everywhere and no where all at once.
Many. people. could. fit. no. more. into. their. busy. lives.
Then Suddenly a great pause button was pushed, and everything shut down. The merry-go-round of life stopped turning..." The rest of this story is in the following blog post, click here: To read "The Year the World Stopped Turning"
A few areas of life to examine, thanks to the pause (the blog post goes into more detail about these):Margin & Having enough time to just be Present at Home
Being in Community with our Neighbors
Front Porch Living
Priorities
Nature
Resources Mentioned in this episode
Link to Life in the Mundane 10 Games to Play on Zoom/Video Chat
Link to Life in the Mundane Finding the Good in Covid-19
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A teenage girl's life is full of emotions, friend-drama, guy-drama, self-image, and lots of conflicting and confusing culture messages. These are the topics discussed in Pt. 2 of Girl's Self-Worth.(Additional help in the accompanying blog post, click here.) The Practically Speaking MOM, Val Harrison, is joined by her oldest daughter and youth director in Christian ministry, Victoria Dahilig to discuss the important topic of a girl's complex teen years. For more discussion like this one, also listen to episode 6 when Victoria visited the studio to talk about the middle & teen years - overcoming negative self-talk and what your teens aren't telling you.
The good news is, it's not too early and it's not too late to have an impact on your daughter's self-worth, your relationship with her, and her standards for her own relationships. However, there's some tough news also... listen to the podcast and then read Val's blog post for additional help including two parent checklists for navigating these complex issues and reaching your daughter's heart along the way. As a loving mom, I know you want to have a positive impact in how she navigates these years of decisions that will shape the rest of her life. The older our kids get, the less we have a free-pass to their heart and mind. There are some keys that will unlock your access to the intimate view of your daughter's heart.
RESOURCES MENTIONED in this episode To be in the True Girl product drawing, go to Val's Facebook group to see the drawing announcement, ending 5/3/2020. Click Here to go to our private Facebook communityIntentional Mom, Strong Family*
Val's Podcast Episode 6: Parenting Middles and Teens: Overcoming Negative Self Talk, What Your Teens Aren't Telling You
True Girl - mytruegirl.com www.GraceandTruthBooks.com
Crushed: Why Guys Don't Have to Make or Break You
The Princess and the Kiss and the companion guide to The Princess and the Kiss
Backwards Beauty: How to Feel Ugly in 10 Simple Steps by Jessie Minassian
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Part 1 of Parenting Middle School and High School girls. If your kids are younger than this age, please listen also. Intentional Mom, now is the time to determine where you stand on many complex issues and now is the time to begin impacting your daughter's perspective while also planting seeds of the right values. Then too, if you are a mom with girls in this stage right now , you are needing some clarity of mind on all the complex issues you are currently facing. My prayer is that this two-part series will provide that for you.
Click for Val's Blog post with additional Parent Helps on this topic
In this first part, we're looking at the complex messages that the culture is telling your daughter. We look at the UNIQUE ROLES of moms and dads and how each shape their daughter's perspective about herself. Your daughter is watching you (even in the teenage years). Mom, she's seeing how you treat yourself - both in words and actions. And, Dad, she's watching you too -to see how you treat her, her mom, and all the women around you. Are you living out the same values and perspectives that you want your daughter to have about herself? What's your daughter's view of MODESTY, SELF-PERCEPTION, her SELF-WORTH? How are you shaping her definition of BEAUTY according to God’s perspective instead of culture’s perspective. NOW is when you shape their perspective about RELATIONSHIPS, helping them see that their value is NOT DEPENDENT on having the approval or acceptance of any boy or their ability to get a boyfriend. We'll go into more about relationships and other topics in Part 2.
RESOURCES MENTIONED in this episode
Click Here to go to her Facebook community Intentional Mom, Strong Family Val's Podcast Episode 6: Parenting Middles and Teens: Overcoming Negative Self Talk, What Your Teens Aren't Telling You
Book: Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know by Meg Meeker
Book: Backwards Beauty: How to Feel Ugly in 10 Simple Steps by Jessie Minassian
Book: Captivating: Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman's Soul by Stasi and John Eldredge
True Girl - mytruegirl.com
CONNECT with Val:*
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It's a mother & daughter talk - invite your kids to listen too! Topics: The Joy of seeing your child find the Pursuits that makes them Come to Life! Three Character Qualities (Compassion, Courage, and Conviction) that Grow from Learning about Missionaries, and Six Steps to THRIVE in Crisis-Schooling including some tips for Sibling Squabbles & Rivalry. PLUS a very special ending by Abby Harrison.Six Steps to Thrive in Crisis-Schooling
1.Ideas to ENJOY some quality FAMILY TIME every day
2.Designate an ALONE TIME each day (technology free)
3..Have a CHECKLIST of things for them to do before they can do technology. Listen to Episode 29 for what to put on your checklist. Too much technology can cause depression, moodiness, and apathy. Limit it, Monitor it, and have them Earn it.
4. Physically Work Together - Val discusses the benefits.
5.Teach them to Value Each Other - Tips for improving Sibling interactions. Romans 12:10
6. Discover Together You'll need a Discovery Notebook and an adventurous spirit as you search and collect info, put it in the Discovery Notebook, and share about it at dinner that evening. Learning doesn't have to be boring!
The value of helping your kids discover their passions to pursue & also highlighting the character growth of Compassion, Courage, and Conviction are a big part of this week's episode! Teach your kids the habit of playing I SPY - looking for God at work and figuring out how to join Him in his work. :
"In the center of God's will is the safest place to be." Rich and Val Harrison
Resources we mentioned:
Academic and Bible Memory Songs: www.CrossSeven.org
Affordable, wholesome material for kids: Miller Pads and Paper and Rainbow Resources
Missionary Resources: YWAM Voice of the Martyrs free magazine Jesus Freaks book
Adventures in Odyssey audio drama Missionary Stories and the Millers
Lyrics to It is Well Adult Bible Study Experiencing God
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Can Crisis Parenting and families celebrating Holy Week fit together?
Well, it does this week! These two issues come together on the Practically Speaking MOM: Intentional Mom, Strong Family Podcast. Val talks about Essentials in Parenting, even in Crisis. We hear about Val's Ladder of a Child's hierarchy of needs to reach God's will for their life both daily and long term. We look at the first three rungs of the hierarchy and Val tells parents, if you aren't able to provide these essentials for your child, then it is time to get help. Val's Blog this week.
Here's a link by Jelly Telly, to help young kids to understand the purpose of communion in Easter Celebrations, JellyTelly Link.
Link to Val's 2019 Easter Blog post Listener Debbie's link to a make-at-home game
Essentials for Crisis Parenting: 1. Speak up - “Don’t rob people of the blessing of being a blessing.”
2. Make a list – moving the load/stress from your head to paper.
3. Be honest with your family - productively brainstorm together including 4 categories A. Do - what only mom can do B. Delegate - what others can do C. Dump it -sometimes even good things need to be reduced D. Leave UnDone and handle with prayer -"God, give me Passion for YOUR purposes in my day and Peace about the things that you don't want me to get done" Your child should not partner with you in the burden, but can help in the solution. Your children will be more on board with the solution when they help to create it. Not all family decisions are supposed to be a group decision or group plan, but you might be surprised at what your kids are capable of and may even enjoy being a part of the solution!
4. Write Clear Expectations– Let the chart provide the accountability so that your words can be preserved more for words of Hope, Trust, Love, Truth. 5. Remember your personal essentials: rest, nutrition, margin & boundaries, time with your Heavenly Father who has spiritual nourishment for you. CONNECT with Val:
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A SIMPLE SOLUTION to STOP the magnetic pull of the screen to your child is included among the ideas Val shares this week on our series Parenting in the Pandemic. You'll learn about Val's GROWTIME before SCREENTIME Checklist, a Blessings Calendar (to help kids develop the HABIT of being a blessing to their family members and others), making a Grateful Poster, and having your child begin a Discovery Notebook.
This podcast episode also contains the conclusion to Living a Lifestyle of Feasting with the Father. Val wants to know, Mom, What’s Your Harriet Road?
Two of my daughters join me on the podcast this week! Emma helps me with a SIMPLE PLAN for kids to keep themselves off of screen time until they’ve GROWN in some main areas of life EACH DAY! Let a CHECKLIST be their guide to being eligible for SCREEN TIME for the day instead of you feeling like you have to nag and harp and grouch at them to get them to do something productive with their days during this crisis-schooling or whatever it is we're doing right now!
The beauty of a CHECKLIST – the kids follow it instead of mom needing to repeatedly ask them to do things or for mom to try to think of what she wishes the kids would do to be productive before they get on their screens.
Make a checklist for kids to complete each day BEFORE they get screentime! That's what you'll learn about on this podcast episode.
Go to my blog post for this week to see our GROWTIME before SCREENTIME Checklist, Blessings Calendar, Grateful Poster, Discovery Notebook and more. Resourceswww.CrossSeven.org is my favorite educational resource to recommend. It's a subscription website of academic memory song videos in all the key area of learning, plus quizzes and lots of other helps besides the memory songs. I was not paid in any way by Cross Seven. I just love how much my children have learned in the many years that we've used this resource. Even with a checklist, you should still have BOUNDARIES for your child’s screen time:
I've got an example for you on my website. It's a Family Internet Agreement that is ready to go with some blanks for you to fill in and then you and your child signs it. Then you can keep some accountability with your child each week or so. Our agreement includes -WHERE in the house they can have devices -WHEN the internet is on -WHAT is allowed on the screen and what to do if something comes on the screen that isn't good -WHY they want to learn to filter content...Find all of these on my Family Internet Agreement
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Oh, Mom, how is your family holding up? Are you feeling confused, overwhelmed, and stunned? Since our current world crisis doesn't seem near its end, we parents are looking at how to bring normalcy to this new and unusual reclusive life. I thought I would begin a series to help us find our new normal, however temporary it might be, called Parenting in the Pandemic.This first episode of Parenting in the Pandemic, focuses on getting your family's focus clear.
Your child's perspective is going to come from whatever their eyes have been seeing and their ears have been hearing. So, what are they seeing and hearing during this time? Parents, don't waste this pressure gift of TIME and AUDIENCE that we've been given with our children. What a priceless gift! To help them gain perspective, focus on achieving two main things:
1. Let your kids see TRUST in God and HOPE for the future.
2. Inspire them to DEMONSTRATE LOVE in tangible ways.
Don't view this time as something to survive or to just GET THROUGH. No, this is a time to THRIVE ON WHAT MATTERS MOST. Parents, please don't waste this opportunity.
Q&A Root Parenting: Discovering the deeper roots of our child’s behavior requires getting them to open up. Val shares some different ways to help our children share the reserved thoughts of their hearts with us.
Val also explains about nourishing our child's roots and protecting them from the "weather” until their roots are deep and healthy in the early years. Then the next phase is teaching them how to nourish and filter for themselves as they get older. It’s a process that we don’t want to rush or neglect, but give our child what they need in each stage.
Resources:Click her to watch a video workshop of Val teaching about chores, and homeschool, and reducing chaos at home.
Link to Val's Simple Systems for Homeschool Success, a $5 download packet for setting up school at home
Jim Elliott story & questions for your kids
Jim Elliott video on Amazon Prime from TorchLighters missionary videos (All ages would enjoy this except for young children - too harsh for them. Adults will learn a lot too from this series).
Book: The Five Love Languages of Children
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Val's Private Group: Intentional Mom, Strong Family
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So much parenting wisdom is tucked into this week's episode. First, Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM, reminds moms that INFLUENCE in our child's heart is a PRIVILEGE and thus we must delicately guard it from relationship killers. Then Val looks at the first half of the key elements of learning to live a lifestyle of Feasting with the Father - by helping moms to not get "the cart before the horse." We moms have a tendency to push our kids to a relationship with God when our own relationship with Him is suffering. We must love Him first and then draw the hearts of our children to Him.
Read Val's blog post that corresponds to this episode, click here.
Influence is a privilege*. We want to continually have a mindset of maintaining the right to influence our child’s heart if we want to continue to have that privilege in their lives on a long-term basis. Don’t waste this privilege. Don’t squander it. Be careful to not allow walls to build up in relationship between parent and child. There are many ways we can lose influence because we allowed relationship killers to infiltrate.Watch out for these relationship killers!** They come in as disrespectful attitudes. They sneak in through selfish actions. Parents are often as guilty as children in having disrespectful attitudes and selfish actions. Beware of these sabotages to our family relationships!
*Mom, are you out of order? What do kids need most from their mom? They need a mom who is Living a Lifestyle Feasting with the Father in the midst of our worries, fears, celebrations, prayers, decisions...In Matt 22:37, Jesus sums up the law of God's heart, "Love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength. Then secondly, love your neighbor as yourself." As moms we have a tendency to get those two out of order by thinking that loving on our kids and pushing them to God’s banquet table is more important than us personally loving Him with all our heart, soul, mind, and strength. We need to love God first, then draw the hearts of our children toward Him, instead of pushing them from behind. Pushing them is ineffective. I want God’s kingdom to come in my family’s life, and I need to do that God's way, not mine – being kingdom minded, “how can I help His Kingdom to happen in our family? How can I encourage an atmosphere of heaven on earth, a safe haven for my family, a place of peace and love and joy for my home, and how can I be living out the fulfillment of who God created me to be as a mom? It is by keeping these two commandments in order – loving him first and drawing the hearts of my children to him second.
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There's so much going on below the surface in your child, and all of these things impact your child's attitude and behavior. It's our tendency to respond to the surface behavior without giving attention to the hidden mysteries of your child's heart, where in lie, the reasons why they're doing what they're doing. So it becomes our goal to figure out what's going on below the surface that's bubbling up and out in less than healthy ways. That's what we're talking about today - the four main roots of our child's heart and how their perceptions and beliefs in those four areas affect their attitudes and behavior."The four main roots of our child's heart:
Knowledge Root (what they've learned, what they've experienced, their perceptions of what they've experienced & learned) Spiritual Root (their perceptions of who God is, who God made them to be, and the condition of their soul - are they feeling guilt, are they harboring sin, do they believe they are continually disappointing God) Relational Root (their perceptions about the interactions they have, the social labels they give themselves, their perceptions of the labels that others have given them, the health of their relationships) Physical Root (there are so many ways that your child's physical condition affects their attitude and behavior. Are you teaching them to monitor these conditions and to become self-sufficient and self-controlled?)It's important not to UNDER-REACT or OVER-REACT when we're dealing with misbehavior, as our RESPONSE teaches the child the VALUE of that behavior. Under-reacting, can send the message that the behavior was "no big deal," while OVER-REACTING is a distraction that keeps the child from the lesson. They're so distracted by the OVER-REACTION, that they can miss the lesson all together!Read the blog post that goes with this episode.RESOURCES
Blog & Podcast: Raising a Luke 2:52 Kid Podcast Episode: Dealing with Lying in Your Child Part 1 Podcast Episode, Dealing with Lying Part 2: T.I.M.E. not Time Out, Dealing with the Heart of Your Child Through Mercy Seat Parenting.
The Attributes of God for Kids: A devotional for parents and kids ages 4-11, by Lydia White
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"Root Parenting requires extra time observing when we are busy with other things; it requires listening with our heart when we feel like snapping back; it means shouting a silent, pleading prayer for God to give us discernment when we feel like using our own judgement. Possibly hardest of all, it requires slowing the pace of family life to make time for soul discussions and soul growth. Parenting on the root level involves wholehearted focus on the souls of our kids and that is wildly difficult while completely essential.You do realize that what I’m asking you to do is impossible – to accurately read the soul of another human, even if it is your own child? The only way you can discern the deeply complex tunnels buried below the surface of your child’s behaviors is for you to be connected to the Creator of our souls, our all-knowing, all-loving Heavenly Father. Plant your roots deeply in His Word and regularly be nourished by Him. Only if you are committed to healthy roots in your own soul will you be able to identify the mysteries of your children’s deep and complex root system."ResourcesRead the blog post that goes with this week's podcast topic of Root Parenting versus Surface ParentingCONNECT with Val:
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Val shares a way you can plan a family night where each family member contributes to the evening, expressing that you all treasure one another AND to teach your kids to LEAD THEIR HEART.
Then, as Val continues the theme of Living a Lifestyle of Feasting with the Father, we talk about the different ways a busy mom can get quality time with God to nourish your heart so that it's filled up in order to be poured out for her children.
The episode concludes with a look at four steps to being a Power House Parent.
Click here to Read Val's BLOG POST that coincides with this podcast
Quotes:
"God has an agenda for my day. I need to trust him to make me passionate about His agenda for my day and to have peace about the things that aren't going to get done."
"Time with the Lord is your daily spiritual nourishment to fill up your heart so that you can pour it out in leading your family to live a lifestyle of feasting with the Father."
"You can't lead where you aren't going. You can't teach what you don't know. Your relationship with Jesus is the most important relationship in your life."
Resources Mentioned
Movie Emma
Youverision Bible
Power House Commitments:
1. I will model a God-First relationship with Jesus Christ.
2. I will honor my child's other parent.
3. I will guard my child's heart.
4. I will encourage other families to be a Power House family.
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In this episode of the Practically Speaking MOM podcast, my husband, Rich, joins me on the show to talk about the negative communication games that we gave up in our marriage and we give some pointers for having a communication overhaul in your family.
I also continue my introduction on Living a Lifestyle of Feasting with the Father When You Feel Like a Frazzled Mama, by addressing the fact that, as parents, we are the atmosphere-setter of our home!Read my blog post connected to this episode:
"Overcoming Negative Communication Habits" on my website www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com**.Quotes from Episode 23"The communication habits that are happening in your home today are going to impact the communication of all of your children’s relationships in their future." "As a parent, the condition of my heart determines the words I say & the tone with which I say things, which affects my relationships with my kids and affects literally the atmosphere of our home. We are the atmosphere setters in our family’s life... In our own strength we can maintain a good atmosphere for a little while but when my heart is anemic for the spiritual nourishment I need from my Creator, Provider, Counselor, and Guide, I simply can’t keep up that positive atmosphere in my own strength for very long. The atmosphere of our heart is dependent on filling from the Father."* Details about my next event:** Link to register for the Moms Winter Summit retreat with Val Harrison, Roxanne Parks, and Valerie Rose, Feb 28-29, in Tulsa, OK.
RESOURCES:
Clash In Your Home: Getting a Game Plan for Cleaning Up the Conflict by Val Harrison
E-book of Clash In Your Home Live Workshop of Clash In Your Home CLARIFICATION: In this episode I share that I was selfish in pointing out my needs. I should have explained that better. It is right and good to be aware of your own needs and to address those with your spouse. I was doing this in a selfish way - only seeing his shortcomings in our relationship and not appreciating his sacrifices NOR recognizing my own shortcomings. I would hold my needs over his head as a control factor in our relationship. That was selfish and unhealthy of me. We should deal with our own needs AND make sure we are doing all we can for our spouse's needs as well. There's no room for selfishness in a healthy relationship. If my spouse needs to step up in a way that he hasn't been doing so far, I need to communicate that to him lovingly and by asking questions, seeing where he is at on that topic, finding out how I can help him and I get on the same page.
CONNECT with Val: www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com Val's private Facebook group: Intentional Mom, Strong Family
This week's podcast has two blog posts connected to this episode:
Read Val's post about Living a Lifestyle of Feasting with the Father
Read Val's post about Are we going to teach our kids that sex is sacred? When a society has lost its way...
If you are wanting a complete transcript of this episode, email val@practicallyspeakingmom.com and ask for episode 22.
Details about Val's next event: Link to register for the Moms Winter Summit retreat with Val, Feb 28-29, in Tulsa, OK.
Quotes from this episode:
Mom friends who listen to my podcast and read my blog,you are intentional moms who recognize that God is your source – even as multi-tasking marathon mamas, you know that God has prepared a banquet table for you all along your marathon path.What our children need most from us is a mom who is living a lifestyle of Feasting with the Father. Our kids don’t need all the latest gadgets. They don’t need to have a hip mom who knows all the right lingo and dresses in the cutest yoga pants on the block. Your kids don’t need all the greatest entertainment or all the expensive events nearly as much as they need a mom who recognizes that God is her source – her source of strength, of wisdom, of direction, of peace in the midst of life.
This is what I'm wrestling with - do I speak up for the children and the future of our society or do I remain silent so that the Christian community is not viewed as hateful?? This dilemma will lead one Christian voice to stand for the children and another Christian voice to whisper lovingly to the lost. Both voices have merit. And I will pray for the effectiveness of both of those voices as I pray for all the rest of us to humbly, passionately, intentionally wrestle with these issues.
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Music by nathanharrison.music@gmail.com
How do you bring HAPPY to the Dol-drums in your Days? The last five minutes of this episode Val share's how she adds a little sunshine to the less-lovely parts of a mom's routine responsibilities.
This episode begins with Val sharing some laundry tips that were shared from her Intentional Mom, Strong Family Facebook group.
Then she shares her 8 Steps to Cut Laundry Chaos, and she ought to know since she's the mom of seven kids - four girls and three boys.
Teaching your kids how to help with the laundry in a way that increases their character development and decreases mom's workload sounds like a winning combination to me! That's what you find in my 8 Step plan to cut laundry chaos! I tell all about it on this week's podcast, episode 21, "8 Steps to Cut Laundry Chaos and add HAPPY to Your Have-to's, from a mom of 7. Plus listeners' laundry tips." I also share several other mom's tips about laundry AND let you know how I bring some HAPPY to my HAVE-TO's. I hope you'll let me know what YOU do to bring Happy to your Have-to's.
Resources:
Val has put some pics of her laundry room in a short blog to coincide with this podcast episode (The podcast episode publishes at midnight every Monday morning and her blog posts at noon every Monday).
Val's Podcast Episodes on Household Management Topics
Episode 1: The Six Rooms of the Intentional Mom's Home. (Also, go to my website to see all the ways to help intentional moms to get their six rooms to be, well, more intentional!)
Episode 2,5, 10 make up the series on Time Saving Strategies for busy moms. Those episodes are:
Episode 2: Mom is Master Gardener & "Manager of the Monkeys (and I don't mean your kids)"
Episode 5: Getting Kids to Listen the First Time & Following Up After a Chore
Episode 10: Overwhelmed? Reduce Chaos One System at a Time
Want to listen to Val's complete workshop on Time Saving Strategies for Busy Homes? Get the download here: Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM's Audio Download LIVE workshop Time Saving Strategies.
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Val's Facebook community: Intentional Mom, Strong Family with Val Harrison, the Practically Speaking MOM
FamilySpontaneousFriday was God’s solution to our family’s heartache.
This week you're going to learn all about the Family bonding plan that became a big hit!
Want to read the BLOG POST about #FamilySpontaneousFriday and #FamilySketchySaturday? Read it here.
In the first half of this week's episode of the Practically Speaking MOM podcast, Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM, shares about one of the recent #FamilySpoontaneousFriday nights that the Harrison had. Then Val interviews two of her daughters on recent goals they've set and helps them get a ROAD MAP for MEASURING how to reach their goals without getting discouraged.
The second half of this week's episode tells you what #FamilySpontaneousFriday and #FamilySketchySaturday is all about! After all, you just might want to begin this tradition in your family.
Resources Mentioned in this episode:
The Bible Recap with Tara Leigh Cobble - a podcast and on Youversion Bible app
Here's the blog post Val mentioned, What to do with the Sad Little Sisters: Seasons of Change
To connect with Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM:
Go to her website www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com
Follow her on Instagram and Facebook PracticallySpeakingMOM
*Join her private Facebook community for Intentional Mom, Strong Family
When Littles are Loud:A routine that fosters growth, reduces chaos & whining, Episode 19.
Resources for Today's episode:
Today's episode is PART 2 of a series, When Littles are Loud. Here's the blog post that coincides with today's episode, here. Each part of the series stands alone, so no need to start with part 1.
I hope you'll also listen to Part 1 Showing Love to Your Child from Toddler to Teen as an important part of your child's routine as well.
Here's the blog post Part 3, The Little Imitator Lives Here. Part 3 is only a blog post for now.
Also see Val's book, When Littles are Loud: Maximizing the Moments without Drowning in Chaos. Or as an E-book, here.
***Reduce chaos, whining, & the “I’m bored” attitudes.Today just may provide some fresh solutions for your family! Help children feel safer and more confident about their days while giving moms less stress and chaos to deal with. THIS ROUTINE will reduce decision-making for mom and reduce mom’s role of making sure that children’s minds are occupied. It focuses on growing your child’s manners & people skills, their physical ability, and even the beginning stages of academic skills, and most importantly of all, today we’ll be talking about some ways to grow their knowledge of God and the Bible and how to get them in a lifelong habit of spending daily time with God.
THIS ROUTINE adds time to mom’s day once you get the kids use to the schedule. There's lots of examples for moms of littles this week, but the principles can be applied to children of many ages. As a child grows, the activity is modified to fit their mental and physical ability. So, even if you no longer have littles, I hope you’ll listen and see how you can modify the example to fit the age and ability of your child. If you homeschool, this should be inspiring to get your kids on a daily routine. If your kids go to a group school setting, these routine ideas can apply for school breaks, summer, or just select which activities you feel should be a priority no matter where they go to school.
Let's establish relative peace, help the whole family to be a blessing to others and our home to be a joyful place to live. Children of all ages tend to be happier, better behaved, and quicker to learn from their environment when their day has a predictable schedule. The routine from The Practically Speaking MOM will help to grow your child's abilities while reducing the chaos for mom!
CONNECT with VAL:**PracticallySpeakingMOM.com*Val's Facebook group of Intentional Moms ***You can also connect with Val on Instagram and Facebook by going to Practically Speaking MOM
music by nathanharrison.music@gmail.com***
In this episode, Val asks her four youngest kids - Josh, Andrew, Abby, and Emma a question about choosing God's way over their way. Then Val shares her 2020 goals for the six main areas of intentional motherhood and she encourages you to do the same.Read Blog Post Here Resources Mentioned:
Val's Book: Wearing All Your Hats without Wearing Out: Finding Focus for Your Family to be the Masterpiece God Intended Ebook Click here
Episode 18, God's Ways Over Our Ways:
On my more tiring and hectic days of motherhood, I have described my day to my husband Rich, and said that I feel like a pinball being bounced from obstacle to problem to squabble between kids. Motherhood - I know it's not one giant pinball game, though it feels like it sometimes. While we're definitely going to have days like that, no matter how well-planned we might be, at the same time we don't want our mothering to only be reacting and bouncing from one issue to the next. Intentional motherhood means that we've got a long-term vision. *We know where we're striving toward. We can see our goal in our mind, and we've set our feet on a particular path that leads to a particular place.
But, here's the thing, I don't want to be heading toward my own goals and agenda. I don't want my vision to have come from me. I want to be heading towards GOD's vision for my family.*I believe that His ways are
1. better than my ways
2. bigger than I could have imagined
3. more blessed than my own ways could have been
Isaiah 55:8 Says, “My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts,” says the Lord… “For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so My ways are higher than your ways and My thoughts higher than your thoughts.”
I don't want my vision for my family's future. My vision is skewed. My motives are often selfish and my imagination of what could be is often way too small. I want new vision, but I want it to be God's vision.
Motherhood is going to be full of unpredictable moments, unforeseen obstacles, and requires plenty of flexibility. But we definitely want to be grounded in God's specific vision for our family. He is the divine Way-Maker. He's the great Vision-Caster, truly the Master Artist of our family, if we allow Him to be.Contact Val in her Facebook Group: Intentional Mom, Strong Family or through her website www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.comIf you found this podcast helpful, would you please consider leaving a review and sharing this with other moms who are seeking to be more intentional.
Teach Your Kids Goal-Setting. Plus, Rich & Val on the Value of Dreaming & Goal-Setting in Marriage, Episode 17.
2020 brings 52 opportunities for you and I to get more intentional together every Monday on the Practically Speaking MOM podcast. The podcast for an Intentional Mom to build a Strong Family.
*Val's BLOG POST on GIVING YOUR KIDS THE GIFT OF GOAL-SETTING***
"Our kids need to know that SUCCESS IS IN THE JOURNEY AS MUCH AS IN THE END ACHIEVEMENT." Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM
Three Steps to Teaching Your Kids the Success Habit of Goal Setting - Goal-setting and Goal-mapping Skills.**
1. Pray over your goal-setting before, after, and during the process.
We want God to be our partner in life. He knows us; he knows our circumstances; he knows our future. He knows all of those things better than we do. Having Him as our partner in all of these decisions and all o f these plans is so critical. Ultimately we want His will. We don't want our will. He can do this so much better than we can. I need him to direct my life and I want to teach my children to allow Him to direct their lives also. We shouldn't expect that for their future behavior if we don't teach them how today.
"His ways are not our ways and His thoughts are not our thoughts. As far as the heavens are above the earth, so far are His thoughts above our thoughts and His ways above our ways." Isaiah 55:8.
2. Teach them to WRITE DOWN their goals and place them around the house where they can see them regularly.
3. Include a TIMELINE for achievable little steps as a roadmap to the big goal. If you only have the big end goal, it may stay too unattainable. You and your kids need some little successes to celebrate along the way!
Quotes from the episode:
"Even if we never reach the end goal, we have succeeded by making progress."Val Harrison
"It's bonding to set goals together, to map them out together, and to watch God do great things." Val Harrison
Resources Mentioned:
Raising a Luke 2:52 Kid download $2
Raising a Luke 2:52 Kid laminated poster mailed to you $7 including shipping
Joni
A Man Called Norman
By the way, no shark was harmed - it was one that had died naturally.
Val and her husband, Rich, talk together on the second half of this episode about the valuable role of dreaming together and goal-setting in our marriage.
Some of our goals includie topics such as:
-Our kids' eternities
-Finances and Debt-free living
-How our family can represent Christ well
-Our family ministry, The Practically Speaking MOM
www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com
music by nathanharrison.music@gmail.com
Let’s Not Waste This Moment; it’s the perfect time to do something very difficult but very good. We’re going to look at our regrets for just a moment, but it is for a purpose. The important purpose of growing. A powerful part of living well is taking time to reflect, even on the tough stuff, be willing to be honest with ourselves about the messes we may see and do what it takes to clean them up and grow from them!
See the full transcript and blog post by clicking here: https://www.practicallyspeakingmom.com/post/podcast-blog-ending-the-decade-well-let-s-not-waste-this-moment-it-s-the-perfect-time-to
Contact Val in her Facebook Group: Intentional Mom, Strong Family or through her website www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.comIf you found this podcast helpful, would you please consider leaving a review and sharing this with other moms who are seeking to be more intentional.
Christmas with Val's Friends. Plus, The Life of Saint Nicholas that Inspired some of Today's Most Popular Christmas Traditions, Episode 15.
Meet some of Val's friends and her daughters' friends who share quick thoughts about Christmas at their houses.
Plus, Val spends the last seven minutes of this episode sharing some of the inspiring history of the real Saint Nicolas and the heroic things he did that began many of today's popular Christmas traditions. This would be a great episode to have your children listen to as well. Let them learn about the true meaning of Christmas, the great Christian hero, Saint Nicholas who is the true origin of Santa Claus, the reason why Christ's birth is worth celebrating each year, and hear Val's heartfelt message to each of you, her beloved listeners and friends.
Resources
The Plan Bible
The Faith of St. Nick
The Legend of St. Nicolas: A Story of Christmas Giving
Recipes
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What if there was a SIMPLE PLAN for helping your child GROW in CHARACTER, WISDOM, HEALTH, and RELATIONSHIPS on a regular basis? Here's your road map to more intentional parenting!
Luke 2:52 says, referring to when Jesus was a child, “And Jesus grew in WISDOM, STATURE, FAVOR with GOD, and FAVOR with MAN." (NIV) I’ve used this verse for many years to set goals twice a year regarding my kids in the following four categories: "Wisdom is the application of knowledge" "Stature refers ro physical skill and health" "Favor with Man means manners and relationships" "Favor with God refers to a growing relationship with God"
Read the corresponding BLOG POST by clicking HERE.
Val's "Raising a Luke 2:52" Resource: Laminated Poster $7 OR download $2
Laminated 8.5x11 poster w/ instructions on back. $7 & free shipping OR $2 for a download www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com/shopVal's Blog Post, "Raising a Luke 2:52 Kid"- Helping Your Child Grow in the Four Main Life Areas, includes The Practically Speaking Mom's Family Fav's List of God & Us Audio/Visual Resources here's a few items from it but you really want to see the entire blog post.
What’s in the Bible series by the original creator of Veggie Tales; The Bible Project (FREE videos);Who is God and Can I really Know Him? (this is the first book in a fantastic series that is engaging for all ages, by far my most favorite book series of all family books. It's also available as an mp3. The books are hard cover and beautiful pictures. We buy both the books and the audio. My ten year old daughter listens to them over and over.)
www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com Val's Facebook Group: Intentional Mom, Strong Family
Episode 13, Mom's Mental Health, Our Drive for Perfection, The "Hurt Cycle," and Finding Joy in the Valley - Val interviews Amanda Colliatie, Marriage and Family Therapist with a Live Studio Audience.Mom, you’re committed to monitoring your child’s mental and emotional health, but what about your own? Today we’ve got a LIVE studio audience and a marriage and family therapist to help us turn the mirror on ourselves, take a gentle look to make a doable action plan for heading toward healing.
You are a mom who is seriously trying your best to be a great mom. You are all in. You are focused and you are daily growing and seeking new ways to better be there for your family to pull your family to a better place. You’re a marathon mom! Sometimes we marathon moms can quickly slide into perfectionism -seeking perfect actions, decisions, and results. What pressure! When we get our expectations set on perfection and it doesn’t come, what’s our response then?
Amanda Colliatie will walk us through four buckets - Blame, Shame, Escape, and Control- that moms find themselves pulling from in their moments of distress. We’ll learn to recognize this in ourselves and get some action items for stopping the cycle? Regardless of if we're struggling with perfectionism, anxiety, depression O. C. D. parent-child conflict, the “Hurt Cycle” is one to be aware of and have solution steps in place for stepping out of the cycle of blame, shame, escape, or control (from the Restoration Therapy Model).
Amanda Colliatie is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Wichita, Kansas. Her practice at Encounter Freedom Therapy Center website or Facebook page is dedicated to providing skilled therapy that is safe, affordable, and practical. Amanda likes to talk emotions! She is passionate about mental health and creating space for intentional conversations about difficult things. Today we are going to discuss how our pursuit of perfection can often give us short term solutions that create long term pain.
Amanda introduces S H A L T. - an acronym that stands for Am I “sad, hungry, angry, lonely or tired?” Then Val mentions her Hierarchy of Needs that lead to God's will for your life, both God's daily and long term will and also learning to recognize if you're a "high physical needs person." Val goes on to share how her spiritual hero, her grandmother, handled tragedy by praying for two specific things: 1-Joy and 2-To forget the toxic details of the past. The author of the plaque she mentioned was by Morris Cerullo, World Evangelism.
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Episode 12, T.I.M.E., not Time-Out. Dealing with the HEART of Your Child through Mercy Seat Parenting. Lying, Part 2. (Lying Part 1 is in episode 4).
Quote"I have got to spend some time praying and evaluating my own self in the situation because this is a big deal. I don't want to handle it wrong. I need God's help. I need God's wisdom and I also need to evaluate what could have I been doing differently..." Resources
Proverbs for Parenting (affiliate link)
Val's blog post on getting the word of God into our kids
Val's blog post on Root Parenting vs Surface Parenting
Val's blog post on helping littles to not have idle time that makes them bored and clingy
No Room for Emotions - when mom is emotional, walls can go up causing the child not to learn the lesson Sort of like Time-out Together
SOS to the True Expert
Evaluate YOU and Your child in specific areas before responding
Identify the root cause behind the behavior
Use Mercy Seat Parenting
T.I.M.E.
Talk about the TRUTH
"I" statements from mom When we take the time to share vulnerably from the heart with our kids, even if that means confessing how we have messed up in this area, it helps to keep walls down as we move to the next step in this important character and relationship conservation. MEND relationship
EQUAL consequences
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Quotes from Episode 11, A Christ-Filled Christmas:
"We don't want to waste any holiday opportunity to pour into the life of our kids - to grow some character, to make some memories, and to build some traditions that our kids will want to come back home to later."
"Learning to serve helps their heart and also develops people skills."
So, let's get kids involved in:
Making some of the food and/or prepping the house (our preparation let's our guests know how valuable they are to us) Hosting includes thinking of the others' needs ahead of our own, learning to honor them and also serve them Kids can make some cards in the shape of leaves with words on it of thankfulness for each special guest that is coming, or words that they feel describes that guest
What values do you want your kids to know you hold in the Christmas season?
Val's Wassail:
one carton OJ one carton Apple Juice one carton Cranberry Juice cocktail Optional one carton of Lemonade one Tablespoon Cinnamon Heat on the stove top or crock pot
Val's favorite thing on Katie Waalkes' YouTube channel, Life in the Mundane, is her Morning PlayList Here's Katie'sChristmas Playlist!!
Katie Waalkes' List of Christ-filled things to do this Christmas:
Make a "Wish List" of people we can pray for and help in some way this Christmas season.The Sparkle Box by Jill Hardy -" the first gift we open each Christmas is the Sparkle Box"The Truth and The Tinsel
Val mentioned having an Advent Wreath - four candles representing Hope/the Promise, Peace, Love, Joy that are lit many evenings in December and we sing a couple Christmas Carols and invite neighbors over for wassail and cookies and a couple Christmas carols by the light of the advent candles.
"If we really want to keep Christ as the focus of the season, we really just have to infuse every aspect of the season with the truth,"* Katie Waalkes
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Episode 10: Time-Saving Strategies for Busy Homes, Part 3.
Quotes
"These systems increase simplicity and they also increase self-discipline in our kids."
"Recognize that your kids' hearts and souls require tending to build their character and to help them to become the people that God really created them to be. Having systems in place allows you more time with your kids. Maybe one of them is going through a difficult thing and you want to slow down and pray with them, let them know that the God of the universe is also personal and loves them specifically and directly.That requires slowing down a little bit. That is why I've got these systems for you."
'Why am I talking about our kids' internet usage in a time-saving strategies podcast? It's because having a family internet agreement saves us so much time in multiple ways. Such as, I don't have to wrestle with myself about what my rules are going to be today with the kids regarding internet. Otherwise, if I didn't have a clear plan for internet usage in our home, then on days when I was tired or sick or overwhelmed, then I would be very tempted to be very lax on those rules. And that's when things end up happening is when we're distracted as parents."
Resources (some are affiliate links):
Internet Usage Agreement
Net Nanny Filtering service, Covenant Eyes accountability service
Simple Systems for Homeschool Success
Blog post about my sticky note system with three Brain Books.
Blog post about Save Your Sanity- one hour a week meal prep.
Raising a Luke 2:52 Child
When Littles are Loud: Maximizing the Moments without Drowning in Chaos
When Little are Loud, blog post part 1
The Tech Wise Family by Andy Crouch
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**Listener Q&A (consequences, child's weaknesses, mom's mistakes), Episode 9. Plus Meet Val's Son, Andrew.
Resources (some are affiliate links)**
Free Val's video workshop on Time Saving Strategies (slides in youtube shownotes)
Free Slides to Time Saving Strategies printable
Love Works: Seven Timeless Principles for Effective Leaders by Joel Manby
Strength Finders 2.0 by Tom Rath
Do Hard Things by Brett and Alex Harris
Question: "How do we handle it when we make a mistake as a mom?""Sometimes, when we make mistakes as a mom and we apologize to our kids about that, that's a more effective lesson in their life than if we had gotten it right at the beginning... It's not our role to be perfect. It's our role to model for our kids how to apologize when we've made a mistake, to learn from our mistakes, to listen to God for direction in our life and that we're mold-able to his direction. Let them see you be excited that God is showing you something new in your character that you can work on."Question about dealing with our child's weaknesses
"Most of the time, our kids' weaknesses are strengths in disguise. It's like the strength is inside a treasure chest and the weaknesses have it all locked up and we want to help them throw off the weaknesses or work on the weaknesses so that you can unlock that treasure chest and fully experience the strength!""We want to be discovering our children. God created each of them uniquely with all of these wonderful hidden, uhhh wonderfulnesses! And we want to discover those and hone them and help them to balance their life. And that's just one of the great privileges of being a parent - studying your child."Topic of appropriate consequences
"Appropriate consequences, coupled with a gentle, humble, grace-filled spirit helps their heart today and prepares them for life tomorrow".
"Our consequences are going to be given lovingly and mercifully and appropriately... Either they're going to learn from appropriate consequences in our home where we can save them from a whole lot of heartache later or they're going to learn from consequences in the world later in a much more heartache-filled way."
Consequences should match the offense.
Too small of a consequence
-teaches them to have a low standard
-teaches them not to value your word
-teaches them to harbor complacency in their heart which makes us feel badly about ourselves
Too strong of consequences can cause wounds in the relationship and actually are counterproductive in keeping the child from learning from their error. They are distracted by the inappropriate consequences and learn nothing, yet grow resentful.
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Intentional Marriage, 8: Moms find serenity moments in your day Single mom's marriage perspective Your marriage can be redeemed!! *Meet Val's husband as they discuss what principle God used to transformed their marriage, including a short, original marriage song at the end Quotes from Episode 8
"Mom, find some serenity spots in your life so that you can have a moment of peace every day."
"Single moms, I know you're probably feeling like tuning out for this episode. I just want to encourage you not to do that. If your child marries some day, you want them to have a strong marriage and a healthy perspective about marriage and you can influence that even if you are not married. No matter your situation with your child's other parent, you can honor them in your attitude, actions, and words. You may not be able to respect them or trust them or condone their actions, but you can be honoring about them for your children's sake."
"I had to care enough about the strength of our marriage to set aside my emotions that I wanted to have and replace them with what is best for our marriage. If I do that, then in the end that's best for me too - to be in the middle of a strong marriage is of course more blessing-filled in every possible way than if I just stand on my end of the tug-of-war rope and pull with all my might."Main Points:
Times away together to re-calibrate on what is important and how are we doing at it?
Praying with our Creator to show us what healthy marriage looks like.
Keep a notebook - writing down what we were doing right, what we were doing wrong, and what's the better way.
ONENESS, a pinnacle philosophy that shaped several principles that we are very committed to now in our marriage. We'll be sharing these principles with you in marriage moment segments in future podcasts
ONENESS is...
a mini picture of what the Trinity is (Father, Son, Holy Spirit) three separate personhoods with unique personalities yet completely one. Nothing separating them. Fully aligned. It's a mystery.
Oneness is... a healthy marriage, a little mini Trinity, of husband and wife and God all working together to be more than we would be on our own.
Oneness is a new entity that needs to be nurtured and cared for with intentionality- complete truth, openness, honoring my spouse, honoring oneness, tenderness, sensitivity, vulnerability, faithful physically, mentally, and emotionally, accountability (wife & husband).
Action Steps:
1. Identify in your marriage what nourishes this marriage and what safeguards do we need to protect it?
2. If we want our family to be Uniquely United, that begins with our marriage first. How can we better honor the unique qualities that each of us bring to the betterment of our marriage? Are we allowing that blend to produce something greater than we could be on our own?
"We are learning a different perspective.
Turning our struggles from different directions
into striving together.
We're striving together for more than we could have been on our own before.
Still you. Still me. With a new Entity of One."
Instrumental music written by NathanHarrison.music@gmail.com. Lyrics by rich and val harrison.
Resources
Every Man's Battle Every Woman's Battle Preparing Your Son for Every Man's Battle (these are affiliate links) Value Cards (not affiliate link)
NOTE: While we only talk about the husband's accountability in this episode, it is something for BOTH spouses to do. I'll share more about that later!
CONNECT :* Val would love to hear from you!! *Share your questions & thou
7. Giving Kids the Habit of Happiness. Work Ethic in Littles, Middles, and Teens; Success Habits for Teens from GAINING MOMENTUM: Preparing Your Student for Success with or without College
Quotes from Episode
"We want our kids to fully experience what God created them to be, in the life He created them to live."
"We want them to become strong leaders who are leading people in the right direction, which builds stronger communities and a stronger nation. And leading them to Christ and a life in Christ."
John Maxwell says, "Leaders don't rise to the pinnacle of success without developing the right set of attitudes and habits. They make every day a masterpiece."
Top 4 Skills for Equipping My Kids for a Successful, Abundant Life:
1. People Skills - interacting effectively and positively with others
2. Adaptability -flexibility, overcoming obstacles
3. Integrity - doing what is right no matter what
4. Wok Ethic - having a high standard of excellence in all we do
-having good follow through, even when it's difficult,-able to work independently
-maintaining a good attitude
Negative Things that Happen when Moms Try to do Everything Themselves:
1. You don't accomplish what you're supposed to, because you're busy doing other things
2. Others don't accomplish what God intended for them to accomplish because you're doing their things.
3.You end up being at your worst because it's all too much for you
4.If you try to do everything for your family, it makes your family weak by missing opportunities for your children to develop good character qualities through hardwork
When your child hasn't done a good job at a task, evaluate if you taught the task thoroughly and clearly:
-Did you SHOW them how to do it, talking about all the details?
-Did you WATCH them do it while talking about all the details?
-Did you EVALUATE it with praise and correction with a high STANDARD of excellence?
-Did you continue to FOLLOW UP with praise and correction the next several times after teaching the task?
If you didn't do these steps, don't be upset with them on their performance. Reteach them better this time.
Teens Success Habits, Success Portfolio, and Parent/Teen Young Adult Relationship Help is in Gaining Momentum: Preparing Your Student for a Career with or without College or as an Ebook (the ebook is an affiliate link to Amazon. I will get a small commission from anything you purchase from Amazon in the next 24 hrs if you purchase through this link, even if you don't end up purchasing the Ebook).
Recommendation
For Teens and Older: Failing Forward by John Maxwell (an affiliate link)
For teaching chores: Wearing All Your Hats without Wearing Out or the Ebook version - the Ebook is an affiliate link).
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Quotes from Episode 6 Parenting Middles & Teens, Negative Self-Talk, What Teens Aren't Telling You:
"We can either fight the reality that they're starting to look more outward now for their influences rather than toward us, or, we can face this reality, decide to be intentional about it, and get a game plan for the teen years."
"What they're struggling with on the inside, these are the more critical things than the things that they're struggling with on the outside."
What I've Observed in the middle years
1.They're figuring out social skills about themselves so be sure to be teaching them people skills.
2. They're being absentminded for a reason - have grace and try the two techniques mentioned.
3.They're turning more outward for their influences so pray for their influencers and build bridges with their influencers. Also
- Watch carefully the different ways your introvert or extrovert teen or preteen handles this time.
-Be a visionary to help them see what they don't see in themselves (learn about being a Visionary Parent in my book, Wearing All Your Hats without Wearing Out or the Ebook version - the Ebook is an affiliate link).
-Be their biggest cheerleader as you help them find something to win at, which volunteering can be a great way to feel like they're winning!
Val and youth director, Tori, on how to parent Gen Z'ers:
-Middle Schoolers, "Do you like me?"
-High Schoolers, "Do I like you?"
The world is telling them, "If you perform well, if you bring something to the table, if you have something to offer then you're worth something."
Val shares some lessons she learned the hard way in parenting teenagers including applying Mercy Seat Parenting to the teen years - and they discuss how to get teens to open up with parents about the hard things.
Resources Recommended:
Techwise Family by Andy Crouch
www.Axis.com especially the Culture Translator Newsletter
Your Love Becomes Their Strength: Answering the Six Questions of Your Child's Heart mp3 download by Val Harrison, LIVE Workshop with slides included Only $4
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From the Practically Speaking MOM ministry, you'll find practical ways to help you find your focus to be the masterpiece family God created you to be!
Music by NathanHarrison.music@gmail.com
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Episode 2, Getting Kids to Listen the First Time:
"Delegating Chores to your child isn't about making life easier for you. It's about growing your kids' abilities, character, and work ethic, teaching them responsibility, building up self-esteem based on accomplishment and capability, equipping them for success habits in life, and to be over-comers in whatever obstacles that come up in their lives."Four Options with each Obligation in your life
1. Do it (put it on a to-do list)
2. Delegate it (keep a to-do list of the obligations that have been delegated so that you can followup)
3. Dump it (sometimes even good things need to be reduced)
4. Leave UnDone and handle it with prayer -"God, give me Passion for YOUR purposes in my day and Peace about the things that you don't want me to get done"
Create a code for your to-do list:
C- calls you need to make
E- electronic tasks
O- errands that I will do when out
Initials of the people to whom I delegated tasks so that I can follow up
Star by the "frog" task that you don't want to do and do it first!
100% Habit - give full attention and full effort to whatever you're doing and teach this habit to your children. This is learning to live life abundantly -John10:10 and doing well for the Lord's sake - Col 3:23.
How to Followup with chores or tasks:
Have a high yet attainable standard - a Standard of Excellence within reason
Praise what you want Repeated
Appropriate consequences when they don't follow through with what they're capable of and have been clearly prepped by you to do
Getting Kids to Listen the 1st Time, Obey, or Obedience:
Think before you speak: "Is what I'm about to say, am I willing to enforce it?" "Is what I'm about to ask them to do consistent with our family values and rules?"
Be calm, clear, follow through consistently, have good eye contact when you tell them to do something and if they're little, also be near them.
Mean what you say or don't say it.
No must mean 'no' or it will mean, "Mom doesn't really mean no"
*Say it once and then enforce so that you value your word
Be sure to hold to compliance to your word even when it's inconvenient to do so*
Resources:**Book: Eat that Frog: 21 Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done (this is an affiliate link so Val may receive a small percentage of this purchase).
Book: Gaining Momentum: Preparing Your Student for Success with or without College. Book:Wearing All Your Hats Without Wearing Out
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(Part 2 of Dealing with Lying can be heard in Episode 12).
Today you're listening to Episode 4, "Dealing with Lying in Your Child, Part 1." For the first ten min of the episode, Val is joined by her grown daughter, Becca who has two preschoolers. They discuss some techniques for developing Manners in your toddler.
Then the final 20 min of the episode focus on how to handle lying in children elementary-age and up, including Root Parenting vs Surface Parenting and Mercy Seat Parenting.
Steps to Dealing with Lying:
1. Slow down to take time to do it well in order to preserve your relationship and to be the most impactful in reaching their heart on the issue. Fight the urge to be reactionary.
2. Let your child know that you need to take some time to pray while they're taking time to reflect on why they did it and possibly praying also. In this step you really are getting God's direction on what to do next.
3.Evaluate if lying is a regular habit in your child or if it hardly ever happens (months between times).
4.Evaluate how you as a parent have been modeling truth - valuing TRUTH, valuing truth in your relationship with your child AND in your relationship with God?
5.Root parenting vs. Surface parenting. Evaluate what is going on in their heart right now? Being a barometer.
6. Go back to your child and ask questions. Not getting emotional or defensive with their answers.
7.Mercy seat parenting. This step will be explained in part 2 of Dealing with Lying in your Child
Resources:Being a barometer of your child's heart is taught in Val's book, Wearing All Your Hats Without Wearing Out. https://www.practicallyspeakingmom.com/product-page/wearing-all-your-hats-without-wearing-out-from-chores-to-character-issues-to-ch?fbclid=IwAR0ktH4g78ZOJomwMe3_Ho9eSbcBAsX9WpHvjVAby8Ig9tLLZqE85EaHShs
Root Parenting is taught Val's books Clash in Your Home: A Game Plan for Cleaning Up the Conflict. https://www.practicallyspeakingmom.com/product-page/clash-in-your-home-a-game-plan-for-cleaning-up-the-conflict-our-family-god-s-m?fbclid=IwAR0ktH4g78ZOJomwMe3_Ho9eSbcBAsX9WpHvjVAby8Ig9tLLZqE85EaHShs
and Wearing All Your Hats Without Wearing Out (linked above)
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From the Practically Speaking MOM ministry, you'll find practical ways to help you find your focus to be the masterpiece family God created you to be!
Music by NathanHarrison.music@gmail.com
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Quote from Episode 3, The Top Priority and Letting Them Grow Up:
"I was so busy trying to make sure that they were good, that I failed to make sure they knew they were pricelessly treasured. Don't make the mistake I made."HIGHLIGHTS of Episode:What's the Top Priority from Toddlers to Teens?
Fill their LOVE TANKS.
Fill the YOUNGEST "love tank" first. When a love tank is full they are able to play on their own better, be less clingy, and have more peace.
Set a Timer for 5-10 minutes at the top of every hour with the toddler for focused time together.
Middles - have a once a day "Mom & Me Time"
Eye Contact Close in proximity * Laughter or *
RESOURCES Mentioned on this Episode (some of these resources are affiliate links):**
The Five Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell (affiliate link)
How to Really Love Your Child by Ross Campbell
The Way of the Wild Heart by Jon Eldredge
Blog Post by Val related to todays' episode including the Prayer for her GRADUATE:
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From the Practically Speaking MOM ministry, you'll find practical ways to help you find your focus to be the masterpiece family God created you to be!
Music by NathanHarrison.music@gmail.com
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Episode 2: Time Saving Strategies for Busy Homes
Morning Prayer for Moms by Val:
"God, Help me to have PASSION for YOUR Purposes in this day and PEACE about the things you don't want me to get done."http://practicallyspeakingmom.buzzsprout.com/ - for complete transcript HighlightsI spoke about the book, Wearing All Your Hats without Wearing Out, and we focused on the first two hats for reducing chaos and getting systems in place and changing your perspective about your role as mom:
Master Gardener - Planting seeds of growth in our kid's hearts, pulling out weeds of poor character, protecting them until their roots are deep enough to keep them strong to withstand the elements of the world, til we are at our ultimate goal of seeing them blossom into whoever God designed them to be!
Manager of the Monkeys (all the obligations that pester moms constantly)- you're the MANAGER of all the monkeys not the DOER of all of the monkeys. Each obligation: DO, DELEGATE, DUMP or LEAVE UNDONE.
We talked about importance of giving a chore to your child in a way that teaches them responsibility and excellence, not just giving a chore to a child to make things easier for you as mom. Evaluate which child should have which chores based on the ways they need to grow. "We don't want to do what is easy for us, but what is effective for them to grow their abilities and character."
Ephesians 2:10 "You are God's artwork created in Christ Jesus to do good works that He prepared in advance for you to do."Resources: Wearing All Your Hats Without Wearing Outhttps://www.practicallyspeakingmom.com/product-page/wearing-all-your-hats-without-wearing-out-from-chores-to-character-issues-to-ch?fbclid=IwAR0ktH4g78ZOJomwMe3_Ho9eSbcBAsX9WpHvjVAby8Ig9tLLZqE85EaHShs
CONNECT with the Practically Speaking MOM - Val would love to hear from you!! Share your questions, thoughts and ideas with Val and the Intentional Mom community:https://www.practicallyspeakingmom.com/podcast -subscribe to the podcast
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Visit the website www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com
From the Practically Speaking MOM ministry, you'll find practical ways to help you find your focus to be the masterpiece family God created you to be!
Music by NathanHarrison.music@gmail.com
http://practicallyspeakingmom.buzzsprout.com/ - for complete transcript
Quote from Episode 1, Introduction to the Six Rooms of the Intentional Mom's Home:
"If we can learn how to deal with the hectic obligations in a more effective way to simplify and to reduce chaos, then we're able to really focus on the things that we're designed for - such as living an abundant family life." That's what this podcast is all about - helping a mom to be more intentional with her time and about her obligations, so that her family can thrive!Episode HighlightsSix Rooms of the Intentional Mom's Home:Family Room: Parenting children of all ages and stagesKitchen: Simplifying Meals, Healthy Meals Family Style, Mom's Health MattersLaundry Room: Organization, Chores, Household ManagementMaster Suite: Marriage IssuesSchool Room: Education Helps for All, plus HomeschoolingFront Porch: My Quiet Place with God and Mom Prayers, Self-care, Family Hosting, Family Volunteering, Home RenovationResources Mentioned in this Episode: "Your Love Becomes Their Strength: Answering the Six Questions of Your Child's Heart"
-Am I worth TREASURING?
-Am I worth KNOWING?
-Am I worth PROTECTING?
-Am I worth BELIEVING IN?
-Am I worth INCLUDING?
-Am I worth RESTORING?
The above is an MP3 recorded LIVE and is available https://www.practicallyspeakingmom.com/product-page/your-love-becomes-their-strength *and includes printable workshop slides
I teach about Root Parenting, Being a Barometer of Your Child, and Mercy Seat Parenting in Episode 4.
Healthy family communication habits is taught in my book and taught LIVE on audio MP3, Clash In Your Home: Getting a Game Plan for Cleaning Up the Conflict.* https://www.practicallyspeakingmom.com/shop
"Help! My Home is Full of Difficult Personalities and One of Them is Mine!" is an mp3 recorded LIVE https://www.practicallyspeakingmom.com/product-page/live-audio-workshops-by-val
CONNECT with the Practically Speaking MOM - Val would love to hear from you!! Share your questions, thoughts and ideas with Val and the Intentional Mom community:https://www.practicallyspeakingmom.com/podcast -subscribe to the podcast
https://www.facebook.com/groups/1467972243355843/ -joining Val's private Facebook Group "Intentional Mom, Strong Family"
https://www.instagram.com/practicallyspeakingmom/ -Follow Val on Instagram @PracticallySpeakingMOM
https://www.facebook.com/PracticallySpeakingMom/ -Like Val's public Facebook page Practically Speaking MOM
Visit the website www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com
From the Practically Speaking MOM ministry, you'll find practical ways to help you find your focus to be the masterpiece family God created you to be!
Music by NathanHarrison.music@gmail.com
http://practicallyspeakingmom.buzzsprout.com/ - for complete transcript
Welcome to the Practically Speaking MOM podcast - the place for an Intentional Mom to build a Strong Family.
I’m Val Harrison, mom to seven and wife to Rich for 27 years. I love warm drinks in my favorite mug, future-dreaming with my favorite guy, and listening to music by any of my favorite kids (that’s all of them). We have three married children, two college students, a Sophomore in high school, a fifth grader, two adorable grandsons, and our dogs Copper and Cali. I'm also a home school mom. That all means the Lord definitely gets an earful of prayers every day from this mama regarding Team Harrison!
Our family isn’t perfect. We’re full of mistakes and redemption and lots of love. We’re strong, not because we’re exceptional (we’re not) but because we’re intentional! I love using my stories of valleys and victories to encourage and equip moms for this worthy journey of motherhood.
What can you expect on the Practically Speaking MOM podcast for the the Intentional Mom, Strong Family? We’ll work together to find your FOCUS for your family to be the masterpiece God intended! I’m praying for you, mom. No matter what season of motherhood you are in, God has a purpose for your steps and He is walking right beside you through all of the stuff. When you weep, He weeps with you, and when you are anxious, He wants to be your comfort and your peace. And then, when your journey begins to reveal the redemption and victory that he was working on for you all along, God is going to be rejoicing with you on that day too! Mom, can I walk your journey with you a little each week? I’m going to share practical solutions and encouragement and sometimes I’m going to tell you the hard things to motivate you to change but it’s all because I love you and I want victory for your family.
Seasons of Motherhood by the Practically Speaking MOM.
There's a season for everything under heaven;
A time to get married and a time to raise children;
A time to make mistakes and a time to learn from them;
A time to mourn
the death of a friend, the death of dream, or the death of a fairy tale;
A time for your children to grow, change, succeed, fail, flourish;
A time to watch them marry and say "goodbye" to the child and "hello" to the grown child-friend;
A time to meet your first grand baby;
A time to begin new adventures, make some more mistakes, and the seasons go on... Precious Mom, no matter your season of motherhood, it would be my honor to walk this worthy journey of motherhood right along with you. We’ll do that each week on this podcast, Practically Speaking MOM: Intentional Mom, Strong Family.
CONNECT with the Practically Speaking MOM - Val would love to hear from you!! Share your questions, thoughts and ideas with Val and the Intentional Mom community:https://www.practicallyspeakingmom.com/podcast -subscribe to the podcast
https://www.facebook.com/groups/1467972243355843/ -joining Val's private Facebook Group "Intentional Mom, Strong Family"
https://www.instagram.com/practicallyspeakingmom/ -Follow Val on Instagram @PracticallySpeakingMOM
https://www.facebook.com/PracticallySpeakingMom/ -Like Val's public Facebook page Practically Speaking MOM
Visit the website www.PracticallySpeakingMOM.com
From the Practically Speaking MOM ministry, you'll find practical ways to help you find your focus to be the masterpiece family God created you to be!
Music by NathanHarrison.music@gmail.com
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