Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix: Recent Episodes
Elix Cintron
Do you have a grip on your life or does life have a grip on you? This is Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix — a weekly radio show-turned-podcast that teaches you the strategies and tactics to get from where you are to where you want to be. If you're ready to move closer to your biggest goals and dreams, you're in the right place.
Elix Cintron is an executive coach best known for his G.R.I.P. coaching method. He's been helping people create lives without limits for over 20 years. Here on the show, he's not only coaching you, but having meaningful conversations with people at the top of their game so you can use their wisdom to change your own life.
Rewriting the Story We Tell About Age
What story are you telling yourself about your age?
Is it that you're too young to lead?
Too old to begin again?
Too late to change careers, pursue a dream, or discover a new purpose?
Too often, we allow age to become a limitation instead of seeing it as a source of wisdom, growth, and possibility.
But here's the truth: Age doesn't define your potential; the story you tell yourself does!
Join us on this episode as we explore how the beliefs we hold about age shape our confidence, our choices, and the opportunities we're willing to embrace.
Together, we'll challenge outdated assumptions, reframe what's possible, and discover that every stage of life has something valuable to offer.
It's never too early to make a difference or too late to begin again!
Join me, Coach Elix, and my husband, Steven the Medium, as we explore one simple yet powerful question:
What story have you been telling yourself about your age, and is it time to rewrite it?
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How much of yourself have you edited to make others comfortable?
How often have you softened your voice, hidden parts of your story, or changed who you are just to fit in, belong, or avoid judgment?
Many of us learn to shrink ourselves to gain acceptance. But authenticity requires courage.
Are you courageous enough to show up fully as yourself?
This Pride Month, Coach Elix explores the cost of editing ourselves and the freedom that comes from living authentically.
When we hide parts of who we are, we don't just lose visibility; we lose connection, confidence, and the opportunity to be fully seen.
Join me, Coach Elix, and my husband, Steven the Medium, as we discuss what happens when we stop performing, stop apologizing for who we are, and start embracing our whole selves.
Because the world doesn't need a carefully edited version of you.
It needs the real you.
How much of yourself are you editing just to fit in?
Many talented, capable people spend years becoming acceptable instead of becoming distinct.
They soften their opinions. Hide parts of their story. Downplay their experiences. And slowly lose the very thing that makes them unforgettable.
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix, Coach Elix sits down with renowned executive coach, leadership expert, author, and respected thought leader Donna Karlin to discuss her upcoming book, The Only: Perfectly Yourself. Impossible to Overlook.
Together, we'll explore:
✔ Why authenticity is a leadership advantage ✔ How over-editing yourself limits your influence ✔ The connection between life experience and leadership ✔ Why being impressive isn't the same as being fully known ✔ How embracing your unique experiences and perspective can make you impossible to overlook
Donna's book challenges readers to stop shrinking themselves and start embracing the wisdom, insights, and lived experiences that make them uniquely valuable.
The world doesn't need another version of someone else.
It needs the version of you that only you can be.
How often are the biggest limitations in our lives not external but internal?
Sometimes the box we are trying to escape was never built by others. It was built by fear, doubt, past failures, expectations, and the stories we keep telling ourselves about what is possible.
These invisible limits quietly shape our decisions, our relationships, and our future.
But what happens when we challenge those beliefs?
What happens when we realize the box was never locked?
Today, we're unpacking how self-imposed limitations hold us back and how we can begin breaking free from them.
We'll explore how self-doubt, comfort zones, and mental barriers keep us stuck and how real growth begins when we challenge the boundaries we've accepted as truth.
What would your life look like if you stopped believing the limits you placed on yourself?
Sometimes the box we feel trapped in was never locked; it was built by fear, doubt, and the stories we accepted as truth.
Breaking free starts with awareness.
It starts with questioning the beliefs that keep us small and choosing courage over comfort.
Growth does not happen inside limitations.It happens when we challenge them.
Join me, Coach Elix, and my husband, Steven the Medium on this episode as we discuss: Thinking Outside the Box: The Invisible Limits We Place on Ourselves.
A mother's love is often the first place we learn what love, sacrifice, resilience, and strength truly look like.
Some people celebrate Mother's Day with flowers and phone calls.
Others celebrate with memories, tears, gratitude, or quiet reflection.
Whether you are celebrating, remembering, grieving, or reflecting, this conversation is for you.
A mother's love does not disappear.
It echoes through our values, our strength, our memories, and the way we love others.
This special Mother's Day episode is dedicated to every mother, every mother figure, and every person carrying love and remembrance in their heart.
Join me, Coach Elix, and my husband, Steven the Medium, for a heartfelt conversation as we share stories about our mothers and the extraordinary women who taught us love, sacrifice, resilience, and strength.
"Have you ever been introduced… to yourself?
Not the version you show the world, but the real you beneath the roles, expectations, and survival mode.
Here's the truth; many of us are living as outdated versions of ourselves.
We've outgrown our thinking, our habits, and even our identity.
So why are we still holding on?
Because it feels familiar.
In today's episode of Get a Grip with Coach Elix, we're asking the hard questions:
👉 Who are you… really?
👉 And who are you becoming?
Because growth isn't about becoming someone new…
It's about rediscovering who you truly are.
Join me, Coach Elix, and my husband, Steven the Medium, as we explore self-awareness, identity, and what it really means to meet your authentic self.
Why Can't We Let Go? The Hidden Reasons We Hold On.
You're not holding on because it's right.
You're holding on because it's familiar.
Letting go isn't hard because you're weak.
It's hard because:
– You've invested time
– You've built memories
– You've attached your identity to it
But here's the truth:
Holding on is costing you more than letting go ever will.
Your peace.
Your growth.
Your self-respect.
Your alignment.
All waiting on the other side of release.
The question is…
What are you really afraid of losing?
Join me, Coach Elix, and my husband, Steven the Medium, on this episode as we talk about how letting go is not about losing but about choosing yourself.
A tradition is a belief, practice, custom, or way of doing something that is passed down from one generation to another.
Traditions are powerful. They connect us to where we come from, the people we love, and the memories that shaped us. But traditions should never feel like a burden we're forced to carry.
Some traditions bring us joy. Some traditions bring us pressure. And some traditions… we carry without ever asking why.
The truth is, we don't have to abandon traditions, but we are allowed to redefine them. We are allowed to keep the ones that bring us peace, let go of the ones that bring pressure, and create new ones that reflect who we are becoming.
In this week's episode of Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix, we're having a powerful conversation about traditions, what we keep, what we carry, and what we choose.
Because traditions shape our identity more than we realize. They influence how we celebrate, how we love, how we show up in relationships, and even how we see ourselves. But not every tradition still reflects who we are today.
This episode is about reflection, growth, and giving yourself permission to choose intentionally instead of living on autopilot.
Take a moment and ask yourself this: What tradition are you holding onto that no longer feels true to who you are?
Join me, Coach Elix, and my husband, Steven the Medium, as we reflect, question, celebrate, and maybe even let go of some of the traditions we've been carrying for years.
Do you know that time is lying to you?
You tell yourself:
"I'll start when the time is right."
"I'll change when things settle."
"I'll follow my dreams… later."
But what if later is the lie?
Time didn't stop you.
Fear did.
Comfort did.
Avoidance did.
The truth is—there will never be a perfect moment.
No perfect timing.
No magical green light.
So the real question is:
If not now… when?
If not you… who?
Join me, Coach Elix, and my husband, Steven The Medium on this episode as we break down why waiting for the "right time" is costing you your growth, your purpose, and the life you know you're meant to live.
What are you putting off?
Because every day you delay the decision, the cost grows.
Time doesn't pause.
Opportunities don't always return.
And the life you want won't build itself.
But here's the good news: the moment you decide to act, everything begins to change.
Not tomorrow. Not someday. Today.
Start the business. Make the call. Prioritize your health.
Walk away from what no longer serves you.
Step toward the version of yourself you know you're capable of becoming.
Your future is waiting on a decision.
Here's the truth: waiting has a cost.
Every day you delay action, you delay the life you say you want.
Make that decision today.
Join Coach Elix and his husband, Steven The Medium, as they talk about making the decisions that truly serve you so you can thrive on this episode.
Hate doesn't discriminate.
It targets race.
It targets identity.
It targets love.
This Black History Month, we honor the legacy of courageous love that marched with Martin Luther King Jr., endured prison with Nelson Mandela, and continues in every fight for dignity, including the fight for LGBTQ+ equality.
Discrimination against Black communities.
Discrimination against LGBTQ+ communities.
Different histories. Same root which is fear.
The only thing more powerful than hate is love, but not passive love.
It is courageous love.
It is collective love.
Love that stands up.
Join us on this episode, as we honor Black History Month, we're not just celebrating culture — we're celebrating courage.
The kind of courage that marched across bridges, endured prison cells, faced fire hoses, and still chose love over revenge.
Love is not passive. Love is not soft. Love is disciplined. It is strategic. It is revolutionary.
Today we're talking about collective courage and what it means for us right now.
Valentine's Day is right around the corner.
And while the world is busy buying flowers and making reservations, Steven and I wanted to talk about something deeper.
After 32 years together, what we've learned is this:
Love is not sustained by one romantic day. It's sustained by daily practice.
It's in how you speak to each other on a random Tuesday.
It's in how you handle stress.
It's in how you repair after you miss each other.
So today, this is simply a conversation between Steven and me about what actually keeps love alive beyond Valentine's Day.
Join us for this special pre-Valentine's episode as we explore love as a daily decision to stay, to grow, and to protect what we've built.
Some of life's most important lessons don't happen in classrooms. They happen in grief in midlife during heartbreaks and in healing.
Life doesn't stop teaching us once we leave the classroom.
Some of the most powerful lessons come in midlife—through loss, healing, spiritual questioning, and moments that ask us to slow down and truly listen.
on this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix, we're joined by Susan Chung Fontaine; humanities educator, podcaster, and co-host of Between the Lessons—for a deeply reflective conversation about spirituality, grief, health, and the quiet lessons life teaches us along the way.
With over 50 years of combined experience in education, Susan brings wisdom not just from teaching but from living.
In this conversation, we explore grief as a teacher, spirituality as an evolving journey, healing while still showing up for others, and what it means to live intentionally in the spaces between life's biggest moments.
This is a conversation about humanity, reflection, and the lessons that stay with us long after the bell rings.
Because grief can become a teacher. Midlife can become a mirror. And spirituality can become an anchor.
And the lessons we gather along the way don't just shape how we live—they shape how we love, lead, and show up for others.
Strength doesn't always look like pushing forward.
Sometimes it looks like standing still long enough to survive what you didn't choose.
So many people are exhausted by the pressure to be inspirational, productive, or "resilient" in performative ways—being told to bounce back when all they're really doing is holding steady.
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix, Coach Elix sits down with Donna Karlin, a renowned coaching psychologist with over four decades of experience, to talk about The Quiet Strength We Never Talk About—the kind of strength that isn't loud, visible, or celebrated but deeply human.
What about the strength it takes to simply hold steady?
To survive what you didn't choose—without turning your pain into a performance?
If you're tired of proving your resilience… this conversation is for you.
Happy New Year! ✨
When a new year begins, we often go into overdrive—planning, listing goals, and hoping this year will finally be better than the last.
But what if you didn't need a January 1st reset to begin again?
What if your dream life is already within you?
Waiting keeps us stuck because belief shapes behaviour.
When we believe we must wait, we postpone our becoming.
Today, we invite you to stop waiting and start living as your future self—now.
What if you didn't have to wait for January 1st to become who you're meant to be?
What if your future already exists and is simply waiting for you to step into it?
In our New Year special episode of Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix, join me, Coach Elix and my lovely husband, Steven the Medium, as we explore why real transformation doesn't follow a calendar, and how shifting your identity and beliefs can change everything.
The new year isn't about becoming someone new.
It's about remembering who you already are.
As we step into this year, remember: you are not behind, and you are not late.
Your future isn't waiting on a date, a moment, or permission—it's waiting on alignment.
When you shift who you believe you are, the way you move begins to change.
So instead of asking, "When will it happen?"
Ask yourself, "Who am I choosing to be today?"
Because the future you're hoping for doesn't start someday.
It starts the moment you decide to live it now.
The holidays can be loud with joy but quiet with grief.
Not all losses are visible. Some are carried silently.
What are you missing this season that no one sees?
You can love the holidays and still feel sad.
You can be grateful and grieving at the same time.
Emotional complexity doesn't make you ungrateful; it makes you human.
Invisible grief can look like smiling through gatherings, avoiding certain songs, or missing a version of life you once dreamed of.If this resonates, this episode is for you.
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. Podcast, we're naming the grief we don't talk about during the holidays—and giving ourselves permission to feel without guilt.
Join me, Coach Elix, and my husband, Steven the Medium, for this intimate conversation about invisible grief and silent heaviness.
Friendships: The Good, The Tough & The Transformational. Friendships are some of the most powerful mirrors we have in life. They show us who we are… who we're becoming… and sometimes, who we've outgrown. Some friendships lift you. Some challenge you. Some break your heart open. And some shape you into who you were always meant to become. On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix, we're diving deep into the relationships that define our lives; the ones worth fighting for, the ones that grow with us, and the ones we may need to release with love. This episode's questions: ✨How do you nurture the friendships that matter? ✨How do you protect your peace? ✨How do you know when it's time to walk away? Whether you're celebrating the friends who lift you higher, navigating a tough moment, or bravely letting go, remember this: you deserve relationships that honor your growth, your heart, and your truth. Join me, Coach Elix, and my husband, Steven the Medium, for this heart-opening conversation because your friendships deserve honesty… and so do you. 💛
We all have stories we tell ourselves, stories about who we are, what we deserve, and what's possible for us. Some of these stories empower us, but others keep us small, holding us back from the life we're capable of living.
On our episode of Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix, we're diving deep into the lies we tell ourselves; the fears, beliefs, and inherited narratives that shape how we see ourselves.
Many of these beliefs don't come from truth but from conditioning, past experiences, trauma, and the internal voice that whispers, "You're not enough."
The greatest prison we will ever live in is the story we never challenge.
This episode explores: – How self-deception forms – Why the brain prefers familiar limits over uncomfortable truth – The emotional cost of living in a small identity – How to rewrite the story into one that reflects who we're becoming
We don't just face obstacles in life, often, we carry them within us. The lies we tell ourselves can convince us we're not ready, not worthy, not capable, or not meant for more.
But what if those thoughts aren't truth?
Join me, Coach Elix, and my husband, Steven the Medium, as we break down how limiting beliefs are formed, why the mind clings to old narratives, and how to rewrite your story with power, honesty, and possibility
Permission to Want More" Do you know that wanting more isn't selfish, but it's sacred?
Society has taught us to play small. To be "grateful" for what we have, not ask for too much, and tone down our ambitions so we don't make others uncomfortable.
We've been conditioned to downplay our dreams, to confuse humility with limitation, and to see desire as greed. But what if wanting more is actually your soul asking for growth?
Your desire isn't greed; it's guidance toward the life you're meant to live.
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix, we're exploring why guilt often shows up when we dream bigger, how cultural and emotional conditioning can make us feel undeserving, and how mindset work helps us reclaim our right to want, to grow, and to thrive.
You don't need permission to want more, but sometimes, you have to give that permission to yourself.
Today, I, Coach Elix, and my co-host (and husband), Steven the Medium, are talking about how to break free from guilt, stop playing small, and reclaim your desires boldly and unapologetically.
Because you're not here to settle, but you're here to expand.
Remember: you don't need permission to shine; you just need the courage to say yes to yourself.
✨ What do you secretly want—but haven't dared to claim?
And more importantly; what are you going to do about it?
Do you know that the holidays are supposed to be joyful and cheerful, but too often, they become stressful?
The holidays are meant to bring warmth, connection, and joy, but for many of us, they bring pressure, exhaustion, and overwhelm instead.
Between endless to-do lists, family expectations, and the pressure to make everything perfect, we often lose sight of what the season is really about: connection, peace, and presence.
In this episode, Coach Elix and Steven dive into the neuroscience of holiday stress, why our brains go into overdrive, and how small mindset shifts and healthy boundaries can bring back balance and calm.
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix, we're talking about how to find peace in the chaos, release perfectionism, and create your own version of holiday joy.
Because the holidays aren't meant to be survived—they're meant to be lived.
Today, we're exploring how to stress less, laugh more, and feel truly present this season.
🧠 We'll uncover why holiday stress happens, how to set healthy boundaries, and simple ways to protect your peace and energy.
What's one thing that usually stresses you out during the holidays—and how are you choosing to handle it differently this year?
Grief isn't always about death. Sometimes it's about the dreams we outgrew, the relationships that changed, the expectations that never became reality, or the versions of ourselves we've had to let go of.
Grief is love that has nowhere to go—and healing begins the moment we allow ourselves to feel it.
On this episode, my co-host and husband, Steven the Medium, and I explore the invisible losses—and the power of honoring what we've quietly carried for too long.
💔 What loss have you carried quietly for too long?
We all grieve things no one else sees—dreams that didn't happen, people who changed, and parts of ourselves we've left behind.
Listen in as we talk about the grief we don't talk about.
What happens when the person who hurt you never says "I'm sorry"?
Do you hold on… or do you let go for your own peace?
We're talking about something every single one of us has struggled with at some point — forgiveness without an apology.
You know those moments when someone hurt you — and never owned it, never said "I'm sorry" — yet you're still carrying the weight?
Today, we're unpacking what it means to truly forgive, even when the other person never makes it right.
Because forgiveness isn't about them — it's about you: your peace, your healing, and your freedom.
This week on our episode, we open up about the power of releasing anger, resentment, and the need for closure — and how forgiveness is not for them; it's for you.
You deserve peace, not pain.
You deserve freedom, not resentment.
You deserve to move forward — even if they never said "sorry."
The question is:-
Who are you still waiting on to make things right?
Today, I invite you to release one thing, one person, or one story that's still weighing you down — and choose peace instead.
Trust is what makes us feel safe, connected, and willing to take risks with others. But it's also fragile—it can take years to build and only moments to break.
In this episode, we're exploring the neuroscience of trust—what's happening in the brain when trust is present, and what shuts it down. We'll talk about how to build—or rebuild—trust in both your personal and professional life.
Here's what we'll explore: 🧠 The neuroscience of trust 🗣️ Conversational Intelligence® ⚖️ Why trust matters more than control
Who in your life do you want to trust more deeply—and what's one action you can take to start?
Remember this: trust isn't about control—it's about connection. It's built in the small, consistent actions we take every day.
Who in your life do you want to trust more deeply—and what's one action you can take to start?
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix, we’re exploring how to navigate grief, endings, and the courage it takes to love again.
Love after loss is never simple. It takes: ✨ Courage to grieve ✨ Courage to stay open ✨ Courage to reimagine what love can look like after endings
Here’s what we’ll dive into: 🌟 Emotional courage after heartbreak 🌟 Staying open while healing 🌟 Honoring the past while embracing the future
Remember—honoring the past doesn’t mean you can’t embrace the future. Your heart has the capacity to heal, to expand, and to love again… sometimes even more deeply than before.
Our question is, if your heart could speak honestly right now, what would it say?
Our latest episode is all about building something meaningful—whether it’s a career, a business, or a personal dream, it all starts with courage, resilience, and an unshakable belief in your own worth.
From overcoming pain and breaking free from labels to embracing rejection as part of the journey, Natalie Banks—bestselling and award-winning novelist—is living proof that personal breakthroughs pave the way for professional success.
And perhaps most importantly, she’ll show us that the most powerful stories we can tell are the ones that come from our most authentic selves.
From this episode, we’ll learn from this powerhouse in storytelling and personal transformation:
💡 Building a brand from zero that’s deeply personal 💡 Overcoming labels & pain to reach the next level 💡 Why rejection doesn’t define your worth 💡 Sneak peek at her next romantic thriller & Letters Never Sent
Are You Living or Performing?
This week’s episode is one that will hit close to home for many of us.
The question we’re asking is simple, but powerful—are you living, or are you performing?
Too often, we get caught up in living for approval—saying the right things, doing what’s expected, fitting into a mold—while slowly losing touch with who we really are.
We’re digging into the difference between living authentically and living for validation.
What part of your life feels like a performance? And more importantly—what would your life look like if you stopped performing and started being fully YOU?
On Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix, we're getting radically honest about a question that can change your life:
✨ Are you living authentically, or are you performing for approval?
✨ What part of your life feels like a performance?
✨ Where are you hiding who you really are to “fit in”?
Let this episode be your permission slip to drop the mask and be YOU!
What are you afraid to say—and why?
What we don’t talk about often shapes who we become.
Today on Get a G.R.I.P., we’re exploring the courage it takes to speak the truth—even when it’s hard.
What is the power of radical honesty and emotional transparency?
Silence can be a safe space… but it can also be a prison.
We're challenging ourselves—and you—to break the silence and step into radical honesty, because healing begins when the truth is spoken.
💬 Your voice has power. Your truth matters.
And no matter how hard the conversation, your freedom is on the other side of it.
On this episode, we are asking, what’s the one conversation you’ve been avoiding—and what would happen if you finally had it?
We’re Back! Join Us for a Powerful New Episode of Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix
After a short time away, Coach Elix and Steven return this Friday with a brand-new Open Forum episode—and it’s one you won’t want to miss.
We’re catching up, keeping it real, and opening the phone lines to YOU. 💬 Got something on your mind? 💬 Struggling to navigate uncertainty? 💬 Want to hear what we’ve been up to?
Now’s the time to connect.
In times like these, connection is more than comfort—it’s power. And we want you to know: we’re here for it, and we’re here for YOU.
Let’s talk life. Let’s talk love. Let’s talk about what it takes to thrive—together.
In this episode, we will talk about life, love, and how to thrive in these uncertain times—together.
Today on our special pride episode, we’re honored to welcome a voice that embodies the true spirit of Pride—not just as a celebration, but as a powerful expression of resilience, equity, and transformation.
Iris E. Fernández Valdés is a wellness coach, a proud trans Puerto Rican, and an unwavering advocate who has turned community support and activism into a healing force for justice.
She joins us to share her remarkable journey, the impact of collective care, and what it truly means to create wellness that is inclusive, intentional, and rooted in equity.
This conversation is a timely reminder that healing is possible, wellness is a right, and meaningful change begins when we show up—for ourselves and each other.
Join @steventhemedium and me for this special Pride episode where together we are powerful in pride!
What if feedback wasn’t about criticism—but about care?
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix, we're joined by world-renowned leadership coach, author, and friend Donna Karlin, who’s here to change the way we think about feedback.
Her new book “Feedback Unfiltered: Say What Matters. Cut the Noise. Transform Everything” dives deep into how honest, timely feedback—when done right—can radically improve our careers, relationships, confidence, and personal growth.
We avoid hard conversations in our personal lives the same way we do at work—by sugarcoating, staying silent, or blowing up. But Donna is here to show us that feedback, when reframed, becomes one of the most generous, human things we can offer.
We’ll talk about:
- Why we fear feedback (and how to shift that fear)
- How to offer truth without harm
- Why clarity beats comfort
- And how feedback can deepen connection at work and at home
This episode is for leaders, parents, friends, partners—and anyone ready to say what matters, while there’s still time to change the outcome.
“America at a Crossroads: Whose Freedom Counts?” In a time when so many are screaming to be seen and fighting to be heard, we’re hitting pause to open up a real, unfiltered conversation.
This week’s episode is a powerful open forum where Coach Elix and Steven dive deep into the state of our nation—and how it’s impacting the lives of minorities, especially the LGBTQ+ community, people of color, immigrants, and other marginalized groups.
America is at a pivotal moment, and we’re asking the hard questions:
- Why do some feel more American than others?
- What’s it like to live as your authentic self in a society that sometimes demands you shrink?
- What happens when human rights become political chess pieces?
From civil rights and mental health, to cultural identity, religious tensions, and the growing social divide—we’re talking about it all. Because change only happens when people are brave enough to have the uncomfortable conversations.
I, Coach Elix, along with my husband @steventhemedium, invite you to join us for an honest, raw, and necessary conversation about the state of America in 2025, and the ripple effects it’s having on all of us—especially those in marginalized communities.
Remember: behind the headlines are real people. Real lives. Real stories.
This is your invitation to tune in, reflect, speak up, and stand tall. Because silence is not an option.
Who is truly free? Who is still fighting for basic rights? Listen in!
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix, we’re diving into one of the most urgent and powerful conversations of our time—immigration, civil rights, and the human realities at the U.S. border.
Our guest, Stephen Katsurinis, is a respected attorney, non-profit executive, and innkeeper who brings a rare combination of legal expertise and deep compassion to the table. He’s pulling back the curtain on:
✅ The constitutional rights every person in the U.S. is entitled to ✅ The evolving history of U.S. immigration policy and enforcement ✅ What ICE is doing now—and why that matters to all of us ✅ How to recognize and respond to civil rights violations ✅ The very real risks migrants face when crossing the U.S. border
Whether you’re directly impacted, an ally, or someone who simply wants to be better informed—this conversation is for YOU.
Stephen brings clarity, truth, and a deep commitment to protecting human dignity and human rights.
So if you care about justice, safety, and empowerment—this is an episode you simply cannot afford to miss.
We are living in uncertain times in our beloved America. More and more, we find ourselves walking in fear—questioning whether we’re truly safe, emotionally, mentally, and psychologically. Our psychological safety is under threat. So today, we’re asking the big question: Why does psychological safety matter? And just as importantly—how can we all contribute to building inclusive, empowering spaces where everyone feels safe, seen, and supported? This episode is about more than just theory. It’s about the lived experiences of LGBTQ+ individuals, allies, immigrants, and so many others who navigate a world that often feels unsafe simply for being who they are. And I am honored—truly honored—to be joined by someone who brings a rare combination of both personal insight and professional wisdom to this vital conversation. On this episode, join me and my beloved husband, Steven, as we unpack the realities, the challenges, and the opportunities for creating psychological safety in America—especially for those who are too often pushed to the margins.
What Are You Choosing This Season in Your Life?
That’s the question we’re holding space for this week on Open Forum: Real Talk, Real Life with Coach Elix and Steven.
Life moves fast. Seasons shift. And sometimes, we find ourselves reacting instead of choosing.
This episode is all about getting intentional—about the habits, beliefs, relationships, and mindsets that are either serving us… or holding us back.
What are you choosing?
✅ Rest or hustle?
✅ Boundaries or burnout?
✅ Faith or fear?
✅ Your healing or your history?
✅ Growth or comfort?
✅ Being seen or staying small?
Whether you're making bold moves or quietly protecting your peace, your choices matter—and they’re shaping your future right now.
In our episode today, join us for a vulnerable, judgment-free conversation. Let’s talk about what it means to:
✨ Choose yourself
✨ Set new intentions
✨ Let go of what’s no longer serving you
✨ Build a life aligned with your truth and your purpose
This season, choose with courage. Choose with clarity. Choose you.
Open Forum: Real Talk, Real Life is BACK this Friday with Coach Elix and Steven!
No filters. No scripts. Just real, honest conversations about life, love, challenges, and everything in between.
We’re diving into the everyday stuff that actually matters: - Mental health - Personal growth & relationships - Career curveballs
And what it truly means to thrive in a world that’s constantly changing.
Are you feeling stuck, motivated, confused, or inspired?
Afraid of what the future holds? You’re not alone.
Join Coach Elix and his loving husband, Steven, for an open, intimate conversation that reminds us: - Take one day at a time. - Be grateful. - And never lose hope
Because life isn’t about perfection—it’s about progress.
The past few days have brought uncertainty, fear, and even moments of hopelessness. But today, we’re here to create a space for open conversation—a forum where we discuss the real challenges people face and how we can rise above them.
We’ll be diving into topics that matter to everyday people—things that impact how we live, love, work, and thrive. No script, no filters—just real talk about the things we all face and how to navigate them to create our best lives.
This episode is all about thriving, healing, and finding the strength to push forward towards a fulfilling life. So sit back, relax, and let’s get into it!
Join me, Coach Elix, and my loving husband, Steven, for an intimate and open conversation.
Remember, life is about progress, not perfection. The key is to take even the smallest step toward the life you want to create.
Stay strong, stay inspired, and remember—you have the power to Get a G.R.I.P. on your life!
Strength isn’t just about physical capabilities—it’s about resilience, courage, and the power to keep moving forward.
At just 18, Chris Anselmo received life-changing news: he was diagnosed with limb-girdle muscular dystrophy, a rare disease that gradually weakens the muscles. Imagine standing at the threshold of adulthood, dreaming about your future, only to be faced with something completely out of your control.
But Chris refused to let his diagnosis define him. Instead, he found ways to take control of what he could, celebrate small victories, and embrace the power of asking for help—proving that true strength comes from within.
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix, we’re diving deep into Chris’s inspiring story. He will share how he learned to focus on what he can control, the importance of celebrating every win, however small, asking for help, which is a sign of strength, and how your mindset can make all the difference in facing our lives' challenges.
Tune is for a conversation about resilience, courage, and hope!
Valentine’s Day Special! ✨💖
Love isn’t just about fairy tales—it’s about commitment, growth, and choosing each other every single day.
This Valentine’s Day, we’re opening our hearts to share our journey—how we’ve chosen each other, day after day, for over three decades.
Join us as we take you back to the moment we met, the foundation of trust, respect, and deep connection that keeps our love strong, and the challenges we’ve faced along the way.
Because real love isn’t perfect—it’s powerful, resilient, and always worth fighting for.
No matter where you are in your love journey—single, dating, or married—this conversation will inspire you to embrace love in all its beautiful forms.
On our episode today, we have an intimate and heartfelt Valentine’s Day special, and we celebrate love!
Life is unpredictable, and learning how to navigate challenges, tune out the noise, and master the art of letting go is essential.
Letting go of expectations, judgment, and the need for control can open the door to true growth and fulfillment.
But how do we develop these life-changing skills? How do we learn to stand strong on our own, focus on self-growth, and create a life of thriving and happiness?
Tune in as we welcome Donna Karlin, a renowned Coaching Psychologist with 42 years of experience.
An international speaker, lecturer, author, and world-class leadership coach—Donna is not only an expert but also a friend!
In our episode today, she will share the pivotal moments that shaped her life, how she learned to trust her inner voice in a chaotic world, and the strategies she uses to let go and take charge of her life.
"I Am Woman, Hear Me Roar!"
As the New Year begins to take shape, we’re kicking off with an empowering conversation about owning your alpha identity! In this episode, we’re diving deep into what makes an alpha female, why the world is sometimes intimidated by strong women, and how to embrace your power unapologetically in every aspect of life.
As women, the world often expects so much from us, but when you’re an alpha woman, society tends to want you to shrink rather than rise to the occasion. But what if you could have it all?
Whether you're leading a team or nurturing relationships, this episode is your guide to balancing strength with authenticity. Don’t miss this empowering conversation that will leave you inspired to roar louder than ever before!
We are joined by Dau Tucker, a powerhouse executive who truly embodies the essence of the alpha female. Dau is the Chief Administration Officer (CAO) at Jet Health Inc., where she leverages her MBA and extensive background in human resources and communication to drive success.
This conversation isn’t just for women—it’s for anyone who is navigating family, relationships, and leadership roles. Whether you're a woman, wife, sister, daughter, or a man with family, this episode is for you. We’re celebrating the power, resilience, and unapologetic strength of the alpha woman as we dive into her journey, leadership, and how to unapologetically own your power.
A new year presents a blank page, an opportunity to start fresh and get things right. We all sit back and come up with new goals and resolutions, starting the year with high energy. But along the way, many of us lose motivation, falling back into our average ways of operation and hoping to restart again.
But do you know the power to make intentional goals and plans that work lies within you?
The power to decide the exact kind of year you want is within you!
In this episode, Coach Elix and his husband, Steven the Medium, dive into the transformative potential of mindset and intentionality. Together, they will explore how to harness your inner power to set clear goals, make impactful decisions, and navigate challenges with resilience.
Whether you're looking to excel in your career, strengthen relationships, or enhance personal growth, tune in to learn about the tools and insights needed to design a year that aligns with your highest aspirations.
The holiday season is a time for togetherness—a chance to gather with friends, family, and loved ones to celebrate cherished traditions and create new, lasting memories.
But let’s be honest: the holidays often come with a long list of expectations.
From finding the perfect gifts and hosting gatherings to managing family dynamics and tackling year-end goals, the season can feel more overwhelming than joyful.
Instead of the peace and happiness we hope for, we often find ourselves stressed, frustrated, and even burned out. But it doesn’t have to be that way!
In today’s episode, we’re talking about Holiday Harmony—how to stress less and enjoy more.
We’ll explore the brain science behind holiday stress, identify the common triggers that make this season so challenging, and share practical, effective strategies to help you reclaim the joy and meaning of the holidays.
So, whether you’re juggling a packed calendar, feeling pressure to meet expectations, or searching for ways to stay present, this episode is all about creating balance, finding calm, and truly enjoying the festive season.
Have you ever wondered about the unsung heroes behind the books you love?
Editors play a crucial role in shaping a manuscript into a masterpiece. Today, we shine a spotlight on one such hero who was instrumental in the success of The Suicide Gift.
In this deeply moving book, an eight-year-old boy loses his father to suicide, and his world is forever changed. Behind its poignant storytelling is Samantha (Sam) Clark, a passionate editor, proofreader, writer, and educator.
Sam worked alongside the talented Steven the Medium to bring this incredible story to life.
Sam’s journey doesn’t stop at editing. She’s here to share her inspiring transition from education to entrepreneurship, offering insight into:
- The challenges and triumphs of career shifts - Pursuing your passion fearlessly - Balancing work and life as a business owner
Join us as Sam opens up about her experiences, the hurdles she faced while working on The Suicide Gift, and her journey of following her dreams. This is a conversation filled with inspiration, wisdom, and real-life lessons.
The LGBTQ+ community continues to face significant challenges in society and needs all the support we can provide to navigate these difficult tides.
Today on this episode of Get a G.R.I.P with Coach Elix, we’re joined by Iris E. Fernández Valdés—a trans Puerto Rican coach dedicated to advancing mental health equity, promoting diversity, and creating safe spaces for LGBTQ+ individuals.
As a leader in DEIJ-B (Diversity, Equity, Inclusion, Justice, and Belonging), Iris shares powerful insights on the importance of belonging, addressing discrimination, and supporting the mental well-being of LGBTQ+ individuals.
Tune in as we explore:
- Unique mental health challenges faced by LGBTQ+ individuals
- The role of psychological safety in overall well-being
- Practical ways allies and professionals can make a meaningful impact
Whether you're part of the LGBTQ+ community, an ally, or simply passionate about fostering inclusive spaces, this conversation is for you.
Our lives don’t come with scripts, but they do offer us endless chapters, each one a new opportunity to shape our future. But what happens when our first chapter brings us pain, unfulfillment, and burnout instead of the thriving life we imagined?
The beauty of life is that we can always turn the page to Chapter 2. This chapter is a chance to reinvent, heal, rebuild, and finally pursue our deepest dreams. It’s a fresh start filled with wisdom, experience, and the courage to leave trauma and losses behind.
In this episode, we’re exploring what it means to embrace a new beginning—whether it’s a career shift, a personal transformation, or moving on from loss. Chapter 2 is where we get to rewrite our story and create the life we truly want. Joining us today is Flor Tejada, a talented filmmaker who’s making a difference through her powerful films and documentaries. Flor will share her personal journey of turning the page, starting fresh, and living her dreams with resilience and purpose.
Listen in as we talk about finding strength, embracing change (even when it’s scary!), and taking steps toward your dreams. Let’s create a Chapter 2 together—one where we’re living fully, healing deeply, and boldly chasing what we’re truly passionate about.
Do you know that a legacy isn’t just for the rich and famous?
It's something each of us builds every day through our actions, choices, and relationships.
Whether we realize it or not, we are all creating a legacy through the lives we touch, the choices we make, and the impact we leave behind.
But what does it mean to build a legacy that truly reflects who we are?
On our episode of Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix, we’re asking the powerful question: What is your legacy?
Together, we’ll explore the idea of legacy from multiple perspectives—our personal values, relationships, career, and beyond—and uncover how we can be intentional about the mark we leave on the world.
Join us as we dive into what your legacy truly means and why it matters to those around you.
We'll talk about how our daily choices and interactions can create a lasting impact and the role of values, relationships, and resilience in building a legacy worth remembering.
Finally, we’ll share practical steps to help you start crafting a legacy that aligns with who you are and the impact you wish to leave when you reach the next chapter of life. So tune in, and let’s explore how to live with intention and purpose!
The mind is often defined as the part of us that thinks, feels, perceives, imagines, remembers, and wills. It’s the core of all mental phenomena, from conscious processes where we’re aware of the world around us, to unconscious processes that shape our behaviors and decisions without us even realizing it.
On this episode of 'Get a G.R.I.P.' with Coach Elix, my husband Steven and I are diving deep into the incredible potential of the human mind. We’ll explore how your thoughts shape your reality, how mastering your mindset can transform your life, and how tapping into mental resilience can unlock possibilities you never imagined.
Whether you’re looking to overcome challenges, shift your mindset, or boost your mental strength, this episode is packed with insights and actionable steps to get you started on your journey toward a more fulfilling life.
Control is the ability or power to influence, direct, or regulate the behavior of people, processes, or events. It involves having authority or command over a situation and being able to manage or limit outcomes based on your actions or decisions.
Do you ever find yourself needing to be in control of every aspect of your life—whether it’s at work, at home, or in your personal relationships? The truth is, we all struggle with the desire for control, and it can often hold us back from truly thriving.
In our episode today, we’re joined by an inspiring guest—Dau Tucker, Chief Administration Officer at Klarus Home Health (Jet Health)—who has carved out a remarkable career and life by redefining what control means to her. She shares her personal journey of understanding the need for control and how she learned to embrace flexibility and trust.
In this episode, we will explore:
- The root causes behind our need for control.
- How this need impacts our lives, both positively and negatively.
- How to learn to let go of control to empower yourself and truly thrive.
Adoption isn't just a story; it’s a lifelong journey!
On this episode of 'Get a G.R.I.P.' with Coach Elix, we continue diving deep into the heart of adoption and the search for belonging.
In this special episode, I’m opening up about my own adoption experience—sharing the highs, the lows, the twists, and the turns that have shaped who I am today.
Through every challenge and every triumph, we reflect on what it truly means to be part of a family, the power of love, support, and understanding, and the unique connection that comes from embracing someone with open arms and an open heart.
Join my husband Steven and I, as we unpack the joy, laughter, lessons, and, above all, the incredible blessing of offering a home and an identity to anyone seeking it.
This is more than just a personal story; it’s a universal message about belonging and the profound impact of creating a family beyond blood—one that resonates with anyone who has ever searched for their place in the world.
Whether you're an adoptee, part of the adoption community, a prospective adoptive parent, or someone who simply loves powerful, real-life stories—this episode is for you. We hope it inspires, comforts, and encourages those on similar paths.
Did you know that around 5 million Americans are adopted?
In the 2020 census, about 4.5 million adopted children were counted in the United States, making up 7% of the population. Adoption is all around us, even if we don't always see it. Every day, children are welcomed into loving homes, given the chance to thrive, and live the life they deserve.
Whether you're adopted, considering adoption, or simply curious, tune in to this special episode where we dive into this deeply impactful topic. One of our own has a powerful story to share!
Discover the life-changing power of adoption—how it shapes and transforms lives, unites families, and offers hope and a new beginning.
On this episode of 'Get a G.R.I.P.' with Coach Elix, my husband Steven and I will explore the emotional highs and lows, challenges, and unbreakable bonds that make adoption such a profound experience.
Today, we continue where we left off. In our last episode, we established that relationships are the cornerstone of a fulfilling life, but just like muscles, they need to be worked on to grow.
We will be talking about how to lay the foundation for meaningful and lasting relationships. Together, we will heal from past relationship wounds and gain insights on when it is time to release relationships that no longer serve you.
On this episode of 'Get a G.R.I.P.' with Coach Elix, join me and my husband as we empower you with the tools and insights needed to navigate the complexities of relationships.
A relationship is how two or more people connect and behave toward each other.
Having healthy social connections and relationships is good for your health and general well-being.
Just like every other area of our lives, relationships should be developed, nurtured, and protected. Relationships are the cornerstone of a fulfilling life, but they require effort, understanding, and sometimes, difficult decisions.
What if the relationship you love and treasure so much is not fulfilling or working at all?
What if there is more pain from the person you love most?
Is there hope to restore, build, and nurture a particular relationship?
When do you know when to let go and move on from any connection that is not working for you?
On this episode of 'Get a G.R.I.P.' with Coach Elix, join me and my husband Steven as we have candid conversations about our relationships, sharing our thoughts, experiences, and the lessons we've picked up along the way!
Are you ready to break societal rules and make your own? Join us for the second part of our special Pride Month series with Coach Iris Fernández Valdés, continuing the inspiring conversation from June.
Do you know the importance of cultivating authentic relationships and being attuned to your own needs and desires?
Discover how you can move towards your ideal, thriving life by replenishing your energy and creating your OWN life!
Our guest on this episode is Iris E. Fernández Valdés, a wellness coach at Abetter, an organization that brings hope and positivity while promoting a healthy lifestyle for everyone.
Let’s learn how to create empowering, meaningful, and collaborative spaces to explore your dreams and live a thriving life!
When we experience very stressful, frightening, or distressing events, we undergo trauma!
Trauma is beyond your control, but how do you overcome it? How do you find peace from the pain and live again? How do you get past your trauma and thrive?
Our traumas stem from painful encounters in our lives, but they can help us forge new relationships and make us grateful for the lives we have. Trauma can create lasting bonding experiences.
In this episode, we speak about our trauma, resilience, rising, and moving from pain to peace. We have Jeffrey Hull, Ph.D., the Executive Director at the IOC. He is an author, educator, and consultant. Dr. Hull is a highly sought-after facilitator, keynote speaker, and executive coach for both non-profit and for-profit global organizations.
In this introspective episode, we delve into one of the most profound questions of human existence: "Why am I here?" Join us as we explore the depths of self-inquiry and personal purpose. We'll guide you through reflective exercises, share inspiring stories, and discuss philosophical and spiritual perspectives on the meaning of life. Whether you're seeking direction, grappling with life's big questions, or simply curious about your purpose, this episode offers thought-provoking insights and practical guidance to help you uncover your own answers. Tune in and embark on a journey of self-discovery that might just change the way you see yourself and the world around you.
On this episode of 'Get a G.R.I.P.' with Coach Elix, join me, my husband, and fantastic co-host Steven F. Macek as we answer the big question, Why am I here?
Do you know that life is a journey filled with endless horizons and limitless potential?
What if you had an idea of what you were capable of if you allowed yourself to explore and discover your potential?
Whether you are dreaming big, setting new goals, or pushing yourself beyond your comfort zone, remember that the only limits are the ones you set for yourself.
Today, we are here to remind you that the journey starts now. Give yourself permission to explore new horizons, believe in your limitless potential, and step into a world of boundless possibilities.
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix, we have my good friend and colleague, Donna Karlin, The Shadow Coach®, who will talk to us about our endless and limitless potential and how we can step outside of our comfort zone and realize that there are no boundaries to what we can achieve.
Did you know that authentic relationships are the foundation of sustainable change? We all need genuine and encouraging connections that promote stepping out of our comfort zones and learning.
In the quest to find yourself, you need help—a wellness coach who will hold your hand and help you figure out what you truly want and what is important to you.
As we celebrate the diversity and dedication to uplifting LGBTQ+ voices, LGBTQ+ culture, and the support of LGBTQ+ rights, we have a conversation with a wellness coach who has dedicated her life to championing the belief in every person's inherent worth, dignity, and belonging. She does this without shying away from loudly calling out the damage that power and oppression do to communities and generations worldwide.
Her hope for everyone is that they can join and fearlessly fight for better lives and rights!
On this special Pride episode of Get a G.R.I.P with Coach Elix , we have Iris E. Fernández Valdés, a wellness coach at Abetter, an organization that brings hope and positivity while promoting a healthy lifestyle for everyone. She will talk to us about moving towards the future with intention and what this Pride Month means to her!
“Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life; define yourself.” - Harvey Fierstein
Happy Pride Month! 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
“Your Network is your net worth.” - Tim Sanders
Our world today is driven by connections and who you know! The relationships and connections you have will help you build a fulfilling life! When you build strong relationships, you foster genuine connections and nurture your network, which will impact your life positively!
Today we are asking, who is in your network?
Whom do you know at work, at home, and in life? Those connections will determine where you are headed and if you will succeed! On the other side, are you a worthy connection to your circle?
Can your network depend on you for support, connection, and success?
On this episode of 'Get a G.R.I.P.' with Coach Elix, join me and my husband, and fantastic co-host Steven F. Macek as we talk about investing in your relationships, cultivating meaningful connections, and how you can thrive because of the company you keep.
“The only love that I really believe in is a mother’s love for her children.” ― Karl Lagerfeld
Mother’s Day serves as a reminder to express gratitude for the countless sacrifices our mothers make to ensure our well-being and happiness.It’s a day that holds immense significance as it provides and opportunity to recognize and celebrate the invaluable contributions of mothers to society.
We honor our mothers at home; we will hug them, love them, and treasure every single day we have with them because that moment is precious!
Today, we honor our mothers in heaven. Though they are no longer with us physically, their love, guidance, and memories walk with us!
For the women who stepped into the roles of mothers, who guided and loved those children that they did not bring into this world biologically but loved them regardless with no discrimination!
Mother’s Day also celebrates the broader cultural celebration of the importance of maternal figures in our society. We honor not only our biological mothers but also our step mothers, grandmothers, aunts and all those maternal figures who have made positive impacts in our lives!
To our mothers here and in heaven, we honor you,we treasure you and we love you!
On this episode of 'Get a G.R.I.P.' with Coach Elix, join me, my husband, and fantastic co-host Steven F. Macek, on this special Mother’s Day episode where we celebrate and honor our mothers!
Do you know that women wear many hats, and this ability makes them better leaders? They can paint the future and have the ability to demonstrate superior leadership values, which enhances organizational teamwork.
Today's conversation is with an incredible woman who has made waves in Leadership and Human Resources, which span over 20 years in different organizations.
Our guest on this episode is Dau Tucker, Chief Administration Officer at Klarus Home Health ( Jet Health). She will talk about her quick jumpstart in Human Resources and her rise in different roles in the organizations she has worked in. Dau will share her take on work and work-life balance and how busy women can integrate and thrive in all aspects.
According to science, life is the period from birth to death, a condition that occurs in living organisms. Life is also the ability to be conscious, and self-aware, and the capacity to experience subjective thoughts and emotions. It can also encompass a spiritual or religious perspective, attributing the essence of life to a divine and transcendent force.
Today, we pose the question: What is life? Join us for a conversation on the human experience, delving into life in general. We will have a vulnerable, raw, and authentic discussion about the twists and turns of life!
On this episode of 'Get a G.R.I.P.' with Coach Elix, my husband, and fantastic co-host Steven F. Macek, we will explore life through an unfiltered lens, sharing our perspectives on different aspects that shape the essence of life.
Over the years before modernity, men had to be physically strong to survive and reproduce. Men have been expected to be strong, stoic, and unemotional. Still, this societal pressure has led to a culture where men are suppressing their emotions, which has created strained relationships, sad and miserable lives.
We get the silent struggles that men go through every single day of their lives; the societal expectations are wrong, and you deserve to be heard, to be helped, and to live a fulfilling and thriving life! You should know that emotional well-being is not a sign of weakness, and there is support all around you! Being vulnerable is not being weak.
In this episode, we talk to Jonathan Brajtford, Urologist, an integrative physician, and a men's lifestyle expert at Greater Boston Urology Jonathan Brajtford works with men on the inner work and is able to turn their lives and bodies around through an integrative approach to urology, nutrition, lifestyle, and emotional surgery.
Let us all tune in to learn how men feel like hapless passengers in their own lives and how they can turn that around and have fulfilling and thriving lives all around!
Today, we are stepping out of our personalities!
We are doing things differently on today’s episode, and our guest is my lovely husband and wonderful co-host, Steven F. Macek, the medium!
How do we define our personalities? What is yours?
What is the connection between a person's soul and personality?
On this episode, Steven takes the chair opposite me as my guest, and we will talk about our personalities, our beliefs, and our decision-making. At the end of this show, we should be able to be in sync with our souls!
Let us learn how we can replace our beliefs and be able to make decisions that will lead us to thrive and have the life we have always dreamed of!
Hate has been defined as an intense feeling or passionate dislike of something or someone. Hate is an intense negative emotional response towards people, things, and ideas.
Do you know that hate rarely arises from one experience or event, it comes from a compound effect of several incidents and traumas that a person has undergone.
On this episode of Get a GRIP with Coach Elix, we have Kelly Finn, LCSW of www.thrivemindtherapy.net and www.sunstone-coaching.com who works to collaborate with people to help them figure out the best solutions in their lives that work for them. We will hear his true passion for discovering inner resources and healing that people innately have and watch them grow, heal, and thrive!
Let us learn about the traumatic reactions of hate on the brain and how we can make the world a better place while we heal and grow.
What comes to your mind when you hear the word AUTHENTICITY?
Authenticity is being genuine, being you, and not imitating anyone or anything!
What is the importance of being authentic?
Authenticity instills a sense of trust, people will trust you more based on how they think and feel about you.
Being authentic helps to contribute to your holistic well-being, encouraging happiness and improving your self-esteem.
If you align your true self and nature, you can pursue your passions, believe in yourself, and be confident in pursuing your passions.
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. With Coach Elix, we are joined by Deborah, the founder of Sunstone Evolutionary Coaching and Consulting, a friend and colleague and we ask you, how authentic are you?
Self-reflection is the power to see and transform ourselves. How do you dive into the murky depths of your life and seek the shimmering treasures of insights and transformations?
Do you know that while traversing complex landscapes of our minds and lives, we need a faithful companion and self-compassion that offers you a warm embrace for both our strengths and vulnerabilities? Self-compassion is the antidote to the pressure of compassion and self-judgment.
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P with Coach Elix, we have my good friend and colleague Donna Karlin, The Shadow Coach®, who will talk to us about her latest book, Inquiring Minds Want to Grow: Harnessing the Power of Reflective Inquiry for Growth and Transformation, and her plans for the new year in her personal and professional life!
When a new year starts, we look at our past, our achievements, and our failures. We remember our losses and wins and plan for the best in the coming season.
A new year is a chance to start again, go for your dreams and goals, and keep working on creating a thriving life.
How do you move past the tears, failures, and pain of the previous year? How do you pull yourself, wipe your tears, and keep the focus?
Let us have a conversation today on the new year that we have been presented to by the universe. Let us talk of the pain and disappointment that is gone and the new life we are creating!
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix, my husband and fantastic co-host Steven F. Macek will talk about last year, the pain we went through, and the good things that happened to us!
"We write to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospect."
--Anaïs Nin
Writing a book is an opportunity for personal growth, you spend so much time alone with your thoughts to shape and hone your ideas!
By spending time developing your book idea, you fill in the gaps in your knowledge and develop new levels of resilience and determination!
When you write a book, you will learn about the unique value of your own willpower and gain perspective about what really matters to you!
My husband and fantastic co-host Steven F. Macek has taken a bold and courageous step and written a book, The Suicide Gift about his life before and after his father's suicide! I am so proud of him!!
Read about the race where this boy finds the strength to work throgh the effects of suicide and he finds himself again and it leads to an extraordinary gift!
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix, my husband Steven F. Macek will talk about his new book, his inspiration to write, and his personal experience through life after the traumatic experience that motivated him to pen down this powerful and emotional story.
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December is a month of unity, forgiveness, peace, charity, creativity, and joy! This is a season that brings spectacular moments alive!
As the new year approaches, let us take it as another chance to start again and get it right! Hold on to what is good and worked in the year and let go of what did not!
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P.with Coach Elix, my husband, and fantastic co-host Steven F. Macek and I will discuss how our year has been, our holiday plans, and the new year!
Do you know that youth mental health has a bearing on the rest of health care and society as a whole, and they need a voice, an advocate, and someone to stand up for them?
Mental health issues among juveniles can lead to a decrease in productivity, increased absenteeism at school, and even suicide. We should all be tasked with promoting the well-being of the young members of society to create a more productive and efficient society.
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P with Coach Elix, we are joined by Dan Kelly, a case manager supervisor with the Department of Mental Health (DMH ), which is an organization that provides mental health needs to adults, children, and youth with several mental health conditions.
Are you ready to embark on an immersive expedition, a journey where seasoned experts in the supernatural work partner with talented psychic mediums and investigators to uncover hidden stories and secrets concealed in different destinations?
This is all about the latest and most real paranormal TV show, the Dark Echoes, produced by my closest friend Matthew Kondracki. This is a show that features my lovely husband and cohost, Steven the Medium, and we look forward to hearing all about it in the latest episodes of the show!
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P with Coach Elix, we are joined by Matthew Ryan Kondracki, who will share with us how the production of the show has been and the first episodes of the show.
“Being disabled should not mean being disqualified from having access to every aspect of life. “ - Emma Thompson.
Do you know that over 40 million Americans live with disabilities? This is over 10% of the general population!
With such a big number, there is a need to empower people with disabilities, which involves teaching them their rights, privileges, laws, and information and equipping them with life-changing skills that will greatly improve their lives.
Empowering people living with disabilities and the community will provide equal opportunities, improve their general well-being, and instill a high sense of confidence, hence cultivating a sense of belonging in society.
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P with Coach Elix, we are joined by Paul Madeiros, the President and CEO of Easter Seals Massachusetts, a leading organization in the way of full equity, inclusion, and access through life-changing disability programs and community services.
We will learn all about the organization and the positive impact they are making in society through their programs countrywide.
As an executive coach, I have been helping people create lives without limits for over 20 years. Get a GRIP with Coach Elix is a show that I started, another platform to continue improving people's lives through meaningful conversations with different leaders in all areas of lives who share their wisdom and experiences with our audience.
As the show gets to its 100th episode and it is my birthday, I choose today to celebrate the journey, the lessons, laughter, and tears we have all shared along the way!
My guests and audience have been a pillar to lean on during not only my difficult moments but during my celebrations, too!
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix, my husband, and fantastic co-host Steven F. Macek, we celebrate the journey, our audience, our guesses, the lessons we have learned through the show, and how it has impacted our personal and professional lives.
We will have our past guest speakers call in and share a few words on what being on the show has meant to them.
Have you ever thought a business needs a holistic approach to fulfill its visions and achieve personal and professional goals?
Running a business should be based on something other than the old, rigid operations. Still, there should be methodological guidance on how a company can achieve balance among its owners and employees between their professional and personal lives.
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. With Coach Elix, we are joined by Hal Levinson, a former C.P.A., entrepreneur, and partner at Haefele Flanagan, where he and his partner focus on improving the fundamentals, financials, and people in organizations, business to add to the bottom line and help them to be more fulfilled.
Our lives have chaos, and accepting it is better than trying to fight them! Life is unpredictable and uncertain, but what if you can dance with the chaos, harness the changes move on, and thrive?
Our guest in this episode is my good friend and colleague Donna Karlin, The Shadow Coach®. Who will talk to us about creating great things in life, giving yourself to be unique, and enjoying your life where you are as you work on moving to a better position?
Donna is a pot stirrer, thought shifter, reality checker, international speaker, lecturer, author, and world-renowned leadership coach.
There should be a time in your life when you should reflect and question your beliefs. It would be best if you took a moment to inventory yourself!
What is taking inventory? This is reflecting inwardly and taking stock of what makes you. These are personality types, morals, and your interests, the truths that define you as an individual.
What are the benefits of taking personal inventory? What are the benefits of reflecting inward on your self-beliefs? Join us in this open, candid, and vulnerable conversation this week!
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix, my husband, and fantastic co-host Steven F. Macek and I will discuss taking personal inventory, reflecting, and planning the way forward in your life, no matter where and how you are!
Learn to fly by the seat of your pants and sit with uncertainty. Sometimes what we think we know blinds us to the opportunities available to us. It's in the limerence (in-between space) that we create meaning and heightened potential. - Deborah Horowitz
To succeed, you must fall in love with what you do! In fact, if you love what you do, you will never have to work a day in life!
That is the story of my long-term friend and colleague Deborah Horowitz, a successful coach passionate about co-creating with others in service to their personal and professional development.
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. With Coach Elix, we are joined by Deborah, the founder of Sunstone Evolutionary Coaching and Consulting. This firm has highly qualified and seasoned coaches on board and training specialists ready to support leadership development and organizational change at all levels. This firm is built upon celebrating one's capacity for change and growth.
Hard work is the key to success; it's the ingredient that leads to more outstanding achievements! Hard work coupled with resilience will help you develop skills, hone talents and overcome obstacles in your life!
Filmmaking is a career that requires a lot of commitment and willingness to update your skills constantly. It is a field that needs commitment, and a Never give up attitude despite facing failure!
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. With Coach Elix, we are joined by Mathew Ryan Kondracki of Dark Echo Productions L.L.C., a professional filmmaker who brings quality to your vision needs.
Mathew will share his journey in filmmaking, his resilience in pushing despite challenges in the industry, and his current project, the production of the paranormal T.V. show Dark Echos.
The role of discipline is the only way to success! Discipline helps you establish positive actions in life, go through discouraging situations and keep the focus on your goals.
Get disciplined today to train your mind and body, enabling you to focus on your goals and regulate your emotions.
Discipline helps preserve society’s peace and order!
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix, my husband and fantastic co-host Steven F Macek and I will talk about vulnerability and the benefits one can achieve when they open up and face their fears at work, at home, and in relationships.
Resilience is the capability to withstand and recover quickly from difficulties and the ability to spring back to normality after undergoing life challenges!
The recent days have been challenging for people globally, and the effects have affected homes and workplaces.
How do you bounce back after a life problem? How do you thrive through the setbacks you encounter in life?
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. With Coach Elix, we are joined by Phillip Brooks, an Executive and Leadership Coach from Fresh potential LLC, who will share his personal story in helping people define current situations and plan their future!
Do you know that listening allows you to look within yourself and become more aware of barriers that will stop your ability to listen effectively to conversations at home, in relationships, or workplaces?
Understanding yourself puts you in a better position to understand others and show compassion and empathy. Active listening helps you build trust, and strong relationships, resolve conflicts, and build more knowledge.
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix, we are joined by my husband and fantastic co-host Steven F Macek as we discuss the meaning of effective listening, the power of understanding the true meaning of words, and the benefits associated with being a good listener.
Personal resilience is important in helping people, communities, and systems thrive in crisis and during adversity. As much as change is inevitable, strength will propel you through the hard times and improve your leadership skills at home and at work.
Do you know that there is no greater value than making a difference that positively impacts life and lays a foundation for success now and in the future?
What if you had someone to show you how you can go through life at home and work instead of telling you?
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. With Coach Elix, we are joined by Jessica Jacobs and Allison Wright executive and personal coaches, and business partners who will share their personal stories in supporting and impacting the lives of people and teams at workplaces and home.
Do you know that "PRIDE" is a concept within the LGBTQ community that represents solidarity, collectivity, unique identity, and resistance to discrimination and violence? The month of June is dedicated to uplifting LGBTQ voices, remembrance, and celebrating diversity and community.
This community deserves to be affirmed, safe, supported and celebrated. We join together in celebrating this unique group!
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. With Coach Elix, we are joined by Gaby Garcia- Vera, a queer advocate in a special PRIDE show where we will learn more about his personal story, his passion for fighting and defending the rights of special groups on reproductive justice, racial equity, immigrant rights and LGBTQ Liberation.
Vulnerability is the core, the heart, the center, of meaningful human experiences
Brené Brown
Vulnerability is consciously choosing not to hide your emotions and desires from others. Vulnerability is the state of being exposed to the possibility of being attacked, harmed or hurt physically and emotionally.
Do you know that there is power in vulnerability? Real, genuine vulnerability represents a deep and subtle form of strength that you can use to thrive and live a fulfilling life.
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix, my husband and fantastic co-host Steven F Macek and I will talk about vulnerability and the benefits one can achieve when they open up and face their fears at work, at home and in relationships.
Our identities are the center of our existence; our identities are dynamic, fluid, and keep evolving with age, life situations, circumstances and changes.
When our identities change without control, we question our choices, lives and the next steps. We lose ourselves through the uncertainty that comes with the changes we experience.
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix, my husband and fantastic co-host Steven F Macek and I will continue our conversation about the loss of self, life dramas, and how to cope so that you do not lose your identity.
Join us live as we open up, and share our personal stories about the recent difficulties we have experienced and how we are coping.
In life, you will experience circumstances that will shake you and leave you wondering how to handle these situations. Do you know that you have the power to change how you react and view a problem in a positive manner despite the adversity you are facing?
We cannot change the cards life deals with, but we can change how we react and face situations. You do not have the power to change what is happening, but you can overcome the situation with a positive mind and good energy around you.
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix, we are joined by my husband and fantastic co-host Steven F Macek as we discuss life's unexpected challenges and how to navigate through the pain, anxiety, and pressure that comes with these situations.
Offering a second chance to an incarcerated person provides people with dignity and allows them to achieve their potential as contributing members of society. A second chance provides closure and offers the ability and support necessary to avoid future law-breaking activities and behaviours.
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix, we are joined by Jeffrey Abramowitz, a former trial attorney who was incarcerated while in prison; he developed a passion for educating and improving lives, especially for people who have been in the prison system. We will learn more about his personal story, his passion for improving lives, and his role as a CEO in an organization that transforms the lives of formerly incarcerated learners and educates justice-oriented citizens.
Mindset is your natural brain food that helps you with concentration, stress, and anxiety management. Your mindset will help you accomplish more in life and help you achieve your goals and dreams.
Do you know that mindset has everything to do with perspective and that our beliefs and attitudes affect how we process information and experiences in life?
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix, we were joined by my husband and fantastic co-host Steven F Macek as we discussed mindset, how to develop a winning mindset and how it affects our goal setting in this new year.
Did you know that 45% of New Year's resolutions are broken by the end of January? A resolution is a statement of what you want to change, while a goal is a statement of what you want to achieve.
Achieving goals take longer to work on, with a lot of critical planning involved. This planning and preparation will provide you with a clear direction that you will follow to reach your desired goals and outcomes.
Choose to rephrase your New Year's resolutions into goals. Skip those resolutions today!
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. With Coach Elix we are joined by my husband and fantastic co-host Steven F Macek as we discuss new year's resolutions, goals, and how to differentiate the two to live a fulfilling life.
"Producing is convincing people to become involved. It's the role of the producer to protect and take care of the talent." These are the words of Frank Durant, a well-known creative director and producer of the Lady of the Dunes, a documentary about a mysterious woman whose identity and murder went unsolved for decades.
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix, we are joined by Frank Durant, who will share more details about the Lady of Dunes documentary, the progress made since the film's release, and his career as an independent producer.
Grief robs you of any celebratory abilities, and holidays will magnify the loss. The grief, sadness, and loneliness can be isolating, but you are not alone! How do you deal with grief during the holidays? On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. With Coach Elix, we are joined by Fran Solomon, a certified Grief Recovery Specialist who is on a mission to ensure that there is always a safe space for people around the world to celebrate the lives of those they love and find support and guidance during grief.
She will talk to us about her personal experience with grieving, tools, and the available resources to help you manage grief, especially during these holidays.
Women in leadership offer uniquely important mentorship and positively impact the workplace and society. There is a connection between improved health and life through professional guidance and leadership.
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix, we are joined by Dr. Angel Marie Johnson, a urogynecologist passionate about improving women's quality of life as they get into menopause. Dr. Johnson will talk to us about bladder, bowel, and vaginal health and leadership as a woman with a successful career in healthcare and society.
Everyone feels stuck at one point or another. This can be from an unfulfilling job, failed relationships, or dreams. The feeling of being frozen in place can be overwhelming, but with the right direction, you can get back on track toward your ideal life.
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. With Coach Elix, we are joined by Paul Edelman, an executive coach and family business consultant who will talk to us about decision-making and developing awareness when you feel stuck.
Paul points out the challenges and conflicts involved in collaborative decision-making and why every person should be involved in making joint resolutions.
Change is inevitable, change is constant but does spirit change? In life, there is a transition from a physical being to a spiritual being, and a medium is an instrument that connects these two worlds!
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix, we are joined by husband and amazing co-host Steven F Macek, also known as Steven the Medium, as my special guest! He is a medium, attorney, healer, and teacher whose mission is to connect those in spirit and share messages that offer healing, love, and guidance.
He will share how he helps his clients find peace, connection, and clarity and move on after losing a loved one or any burden.
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix, we are joined by Marc Celentana, an experienced consulting psychologist and executive coach. Marc believes that during periods of continuous growth, the young generation can establish a successful foundation for their lives with the proper guidance.
He helps adolescents and young adults in identity formation and navigating their challenging lives from high school through college and into their early career development.
He will share the methods and strategies he has developed to help his clients set foundations and propel them toward achieving their success.
Good governance is the structure, systems, and processes by which an organization can operate and which people are held to account when there is no transparency. Education and experience will help leaders practice good governance and make democratic decisions in an organization. Whether a leader or a member, you need to understand the empowerment that good governance brings to the organization.
On this episode of Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix, we are joined by Diana Bacon, a Professional Registered Parliamentarian, founder, and instructor at Meeting Literacy™ Academy, to discuss good governance and its impact on an organization if there is no transparency. She will share her proven methods on how she helps leaders communicate with clarity, confidence, and credibility.
“Right here, right now!” is the motto that our guest lives by each and every day.
Our guest on this episode is my dear friend Mark Worster, The Medicine Men. Mark’s mission is to be the vessel that inspires people to step outside their human experience and embrace their true nature. He’ll share with us the tools he’s gathered over a lifetime of spiritual exploration and guide us into a new reality!
“Right here, right now!” is the motto that our guest lives by each and every day.
Our guest on this episode is my dear friend Mark Worster, The Medicine Men. Mark’s mission is to be the vessel that inspires people to step outside their human experience and embrace their true nature. He’ll share with us the tools he’s gathered over a lifetime of spiritual exploration and guide us into a new reality!
Effective networking is more than handing out business cards, having a LinkedIn profile, and hoping the phone rings. Whether you’re looking to connect within your organization, your industry, or are looking to get on boards, knowing who to contact – and having them return your call is essential.
On this episode, Diane Darling, CEO Skills4Today, and author of The Networking Survival Guide and Networking for Career Success, joins us to share the how and why behind effective networking, and her strategies for ensuring that you get the most out of every networking event you attend.
Effective networking is more than handing out business cards, having a LinkedIn profile, and hoping the phone rings. Whether you’re looking to connect within your organization, your industry, or are looking to get on boards, knowing who to contact – and having them return your call is essential.
On this episode, Diane Darling, CEO Skills4Today, and author of The Networking Survival Guide and Networking for Career Success, joins us to share the how and why behind effective networking, and her strategies for ensuring that you get the most out of every networking event you attend.
Do you sense you’re here to make a difference? Do you get the feeling that you can be, do, and have more? Are you ready for real advancement and transformation? You are in the right place.
Our guest, Dr. Teri Baydar, CEO of White Lily Individual Development, and creator of Love Conscious Human, joins us to share how we can raise our human consciousness whenever we can, wherever we can, and how together, we have the power to make a difference in the world.
Do you sense you’re here to make a difference? Do you get the feeling that you can be, do, and have more? Are you ready for real advancement and transformation? You are in the right place.
Our guest, Dr. Teri Baydar, CEO of White Lily Individual Development, and creator of Love Conscious Human, joins us to share how we can raise our human consciousness whenever we can, wherever we can, and how together, we have the power to make a difference in the world.
It’s the two-year anniversary of Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix on WARA 1320AM!
Another entire year full of content, amazing guests, and creating breakthroughs and transforming lives—YOUR lives.
Thank you to those who have been listening over the last year, following along, sharing your feedback and reviews, sending me DMs asking questions, and participating.
In this episode, we'll be taking a look back, and celebrating with a few special guests and lots of surprises!
Cheers to another year on the radio waves!
It’s the two-year anniversary of Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix on WARA 1320AM!
Another entire year full of content, amazing guests, and creating breakthroughs and transforming lives—YOUR lives.
Thank you to those who have been listening over the last year, following along, sharing your feedback and reviews, sending me DMs asking questions, and participating.
In this episode, we'll be taking a look back, and celebrating with a few special guests and lots of surprises!
Cheers to another year on the radio waves!
From Fear to Freedom - Channeling Your Inner Spirit
What is channeling? It’s not as mysterious as you might think! Intuitive, Channel and Workshop Leader, Kathy Clabby, returns to the show to share her experience channeling the guides, and shows how it is something that we all have access to in our own lives. She shares how it is possible for anyone to connect to their guides and how we can each develop and strengthen our own unique expression of Divine Energy. You will not want to miss this discussion to discover how to move from Fear to Freedom to Channel Your Inner Spirit.
From Fear to Freedom - Channeling Your Inner Spirit
What is channeling? It’s not as mysterious as you might think! Intuitive, Channel and Workshop Leader, Kathy Clabby, returns to the show to share her experience channeling the guides, and shows how it is something that we all have access to in our own lives. She shares how it is possible for anyone to connect to their guides and how we can each develop and strengthen our own unique expression of Divine Energy. You will not want to miss this discussion to discover how to move from Fear to Freedom to Channel Your Inner Spirit.
We’ve all seen the headlines, heard the news updates, and felt the impact of rising gas, food, and housing costs. How does this impact our positivity, balance and mental health, and what can we do to cope with “recession anxiety”.
In this episode of “Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix,” we're discussing how we can maintain a positive outlook when faced with so much uncertainty.
Sheila James, CEO & Founder of St. James Media, how we can re-examine, re-focus, and re-build our lives so we can live an empowered and inspired life starting today! We’ll also discuss what it was like to meet Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
Sheila James, CEO & Founder of St. James Media, how we can re-examine, re-focus, and re-build our lives so we can live an empowered and inspired life starting today! We’ll also discuss what it was like to meet Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
Dr. Charles Daniels, Jr. therapist and CEO of Fathers' Uplift joins us (again) for thought-provoking and much-needed conversations about new levels of fatherhood — in particular, within the black and brown communities. Specifically, we’ll be talking about his new book “Therapy for Kings.” Dr. Daniels will help us understand the problems that many black men experience every day — many of which are frequently misunderstood and ignored. This is a conversation you DO NOT want to miss!
John Lazar, Founder & CEO at John B. Lazar & Associates, shares his journey following his throat cancer diagnosis in March, the life lessons he’s learned, and how we can use these lessons to Optimize Human Potential. This heartfelt conversation will leave you feeling empowered and ready to live the life of your dreams.
Are you feeling overwhelmed and confused by the Supreme Court’s recent ruling to overturn Roe v Wade? You are not alone.
This week on “Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix,” I’m discussing the Supreme Court's decision and highlighting what this means for Americans. I’ll be sharing ways that you can find your personal power - and compassion - when faced with such a major life-altering decision.
Celebrating Pride Month: The Fight for Pride - How Respect and Determination Can Transform a Community
“Since the Pilgrims came here, it’s been the original safe space.” - Steve Katsurinis
On this week's episode of the Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix podcast, our guest, Steve Katsurinis, goes IN as we talk about the Fight for Pride — not only as a collective movement, but Steve's personal story.
Steven and I will chat with Steve about why the LGBTQ community is important to him, why he chose to leave his law practice almost 10 years ago to build a home and start a business in Provincetown, and why the Fight for Pride is still ever-present in his life and in the community.
Join us today as Steve shares about The (continued) Fight for Pride and how determination and respect can go a long way in our communities.
How to Live a Fulfilling Life and What It Takes to Get There with guest, Intuitive Channel and Spiritual Guide, Kathy Clabby
DO YOU HAVE A FULFILLED LIFE?
That's a huge question to ask ourselves — are we truly fulfilled? As a coach, Elix speaks to many individuals and corporate groups about this very topic. How do we live our truth? How do we live a fulfilled life and what does it take to get there?
Our guest this week, Intuitive Channel and Spiritual Guide, Kathy Clabby, will chat with Steven and Elix about how to get to that fulfillment. You'll hear about Kathy's rich and powerful story about how she did NOT live her truth growing up and how that could have had major and detrimental life consequences. But she was offered "another chance," and chose to look deeper into what she truly wanted for herself.
Out of that search, she left the corporate world of over 25 years to start her own business from nothing, offering unique and focused ways you can find your true self and gifts quicker than you could ever imagine. Kathy found life fulfillment and wants you to get there too.
We'll talk to Kathy about how to find fulfillment, even if you think it's not available. It's a show you do NOT want to miss.
We all have challenges in life... but how do we deal with them, and more specifically, how do we stay empowered?
It's so easy to lose power in the face of huge challenges such as the unexpected death of a spouse, our own illness, the loss of a job, or financial issues. But there is another way.
Join Steven and Coach Elix for a very personal and much needed conversation about being empowered inside life's challenges. They'll talk about how to create personal power, determine if there's a "normal" way to feel, and give tips on what to do right NOW to get peace and power back into your life.
“It is a privilege to feel an emotion. Embrace it.” - Dr. Charles Daniels
On this episode of “Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix,” Dr. Charles Daniels, Jr. (@fathersuplift) joins Elix and Steven (again!) for thought-provoking and much-needed conversations about new levels of fatherhood — in particular, within the black and brown communities.
Through conversations about his agency, Fathers’ Uplift, racism in our communities, and his new book “Therapy for Kings,” Dr. Daniels will help us understand the problems that many Black men experience every day — many of which are frequently misunderstood and ignored. This is a conversation you DO NOT want to miss!
On this episode, Steven and Elix have a great conversation around following one's passion and having the courage to pursue what you love in the face of fear.
Elix references one of his favorite articles: "7 Ways to Build Your Self-confidence," by Katalin Swann, Empowerment Coach (On Twitter: @empowercoachKS).
If you are having issues pursuing your dreams due to fear, this episode is definitely one to check out!
What’s the new normal for men? On this episode, Steven and I will be talking with Dr. Jonathan Brajtbord – Urologist, Integrative Physician and Men’s Lifestyle Expert about his Men’s Work Program - “The Guys Guide to Growth.”
I have no idea how we’re going to get to all the points about this powerful program in an hour, but I’ll do my best! And athough Jonathan’s program is for men, our show today is for everyone. I think we can all gain from Jonathan’s wisdom and experience as he shares about his challenges and wins and also how and why he created this amazing program.
Join us as we chat about Jonathan’s program and how men, specifically, can create a new normal and live a life they truly deserve.
Do you have passions that haven't become reality yet or maybe think it's impossible? Iwell... IT IS POSSIBLE!
Join us today on "Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix" as Elix and Steven welcome special guest Chris Setterlund.
They'll be talking about how his passion for writing in 2nd grade led to a short career in movies and then grew to him becoming a 7 time published author (soon to be 8!).
Chris' newest book "Lady of the Dunes" was written in tandem with the extraordinary documentary we talked about on our last episode of the same name.
Listen as Chris talks about how the director of "The Lady of the Dunes" called him about the possibility of writing a book about this Cape Cod murder/mystery and why he was an "automatic yes" to his newest work.
This intriguing story is about an unidentified woman who was found murdered in the dunes of Provincetown in 1974. Almost 50 years later, new insights and developments have unfolded as her story continues to be told. Clues to her identity and that of her murderer are brought to light in the film. Coach Elix will be asking Frank about the making of the film, why he chose to take on this high-profile project and how this film has transformed his life.
Elix will also be asking Steven some questions too, as he was chosen to be one of 4 mediums featured in the film.
In this episode, Coach Elix discusses how to spot emotional burnout and provides actionable tips on how to relieve it. The pandemic has exacerbated emotional burnout; more and more people have been feeling burnt out lately. Tune in to explore how physical and emotional burnout are tied together, why you should address your burnout as soon as possible, and get lots of tips on how to immediately feel better after feeling burnt out.
Timestamps:
- [02:47] Updates and what everyone is up to
- [10:55] Episode overview: emotional burnout
- [13:02] Does emotional burnout lead to physical burnout?
- [16:17] Different types of emotional burnout
- [17:08] Why more people feel burnt out lately (and reasons you might be feeling burnt out)
- [24:16] Things you can do now to relieve burnout
- [27:55] Signs you might be experiencing burnout
- [30:56] Why empaths are most likely to feel fatigued by emotions
- [31:47] Deborah’s call in: her experience with emotional burnout
- [39:10] More things you can do to relieve burnout
- [48:23] Biggest takeaway from today’s conversation
5 Key Takeaways:
- There are many different types of burnout, but all types of burnout are centered on the unpleasant emotions that we feel. Emotional burnout is a state where someone feels worn out mentally and physically because of accumulated stress. Burnout happens when you’ve exceeded your capacity for stress.
- Reasons that have led to emotional burnout lately: pandemic, job loss, stress at work, and spending too much time on your smartphone.
- If you are experiencing emotional burnout you can take a walk or take a break. You must also constantly stay self-aware so you can detect burnout before it turns into clinical depression.
- Physical signs that you might be experiencing burnout: high heart rate, sweating, headaches, strange eating habits, heart palpitations, and obvious weight fluctuation.
- Mental signs that you might be experiencing burnout: feeling overly tired or irritable, feeling uninterested in things you were previously interested in, having a sense of hopelessness about the future, getting overwhelmed by small tasks, and feeling very little motivation.
CONNECT with Deborah Horowitz
Linkedin:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/deborahhorowitz/
CONNECT with Steven the Medium
Website:
https://www.steventhemedium.com
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/steventhemedium/
CONNECT with Coach Elix:
Website:
https://www.coachelix.com
LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachelix
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https://www.facebook.com/coachelix/
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https://www.instagram.com/coach_elix
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Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix airs live on WARA 1320AM out of Attleboro, MA every Friday at 1 p.m. Eastern. To listen live or be a caller, stream the show from anywhere in the world by visiting www.wararadio.com.
Marking the end of 2021, Coach Elix discusses how you can create a New Year’s resolution that you actually stick to throughout 2022. Nearly half of New Year’s resolutions are abandoned by February. By sharing his 5-step G.R.I.P. methodology, Elix walks you through the process of creating a future-proof resolution in real-time.
Remember: a year from now, you will be so glad you started today.
“A strong vision helps you see possibility.”
Timestamps:
- [02:13] Should you be happy to say goodbye to 2021?
- [05:45] What Steven is grateful for in 2021 and his plans for 2022
- [09:14] What Elix is grateful for in 2021 and his plans for 2022
- [13:10] Why do most New Year's resolutions fail?
- [18:09] Why is self-reflection so uncomfortable?
- [21:32] The express 5-step G.R.I.P. methodology
- [25:53] Step 1: Creating a legacy or purpose statement in real-time
- [36:07] The role of hope and faith in your personal vision statement
- [38:10] Step 2: Being grounded in gratitude
- [42:52] Step 3: Ask yourself what is holding you back from accomplishing your goals
- [44:34] Step 4: Ensuring that your actions are aligned with your goals
- [46:09] Step 5: Turning your goal into a plan
5 Key Takeaways:
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A vision without a purposeful action plan will probably flop. Having a vision alone is not enough.
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Fear gets in the way of meaningful self-reflection. It is easier to pretend something isn’t there than to address what isn’t. This is why the brain uses fear to protect you from the loss and risks that may happen if you chase your desires.
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What is your life legacy? What is your purpose statement? A purpose statement is a statement that reminds you of who you are. Ask yourself, what fuels your commitment? And, how do you want others to remember you? Reframe your answer into an “I am” statement.
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When you think about your legacy statement, think about how your legacy helps you feel grateful for your life. In doing so, while in deep thought, allow for meaningful goals to emerge.
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If your actions are not aligned with your legacy statement, you have to take corrective action. You must feel accountable for your legacy statement and actively hold yourself to staying true to it.
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In this episode, Coach Elix discusses the stress and anxiety people feel around the holiday season. There are probably all sorts of things that make you feel overwhelmed when thinking about the holidays. You are not alone. In fact, 45% of people in the United States would rather skip Christmas altogether. Tune in to find out why you feel stressed around Christmas and how to achieve a stress-free holiday season.
“Money doesn’t bring happiness. Happiness will bring you money”
Timestamps:
- [01:10] Episode overview and life updates: holiday anxiety during COVID
- [11:55] Statistics around nationwide holiday anxiety in the U.S.
- [14:12] Being stressed by the pressure to give during the holiday season
- [18:20] Why is stress around Christmas such a widespread problem?
- [25:42] Travel-related stress during Christmas
- [27:33] Fear of overeating during the holiday season
- [28:12] Dealing with family expectations during the holiday season
- [29:35] First Christmas after the death of a loved one or after a divorce
- [31:40] Managing mental illness in high-stress times such as the holidays
- [35:09] 9 actionable tips to cope with holiday anxiety and loneliness
5 Key Takeaways:
- Nearly 45% of people in the US report that they would rather skip Christmas. 70% of those people in the U.S. report feeling a lack of time around the holiday season. 69% of people who would prefer to skip Christmas are stressed by being perceived to have a lack of money around the holiday season. (These statistics are pre-COVID.)
- Some of the reasons people feel more stressed around the holiday season are: being afraid of being judged from a financial perspective, putting off holiday giving to the last minute, strained family obligations, and not having enough time to do holiday shopping.
- The holiday season is about having fun. Worrying too much about your family’s expectations or how people will perceive you takes the joy out of the holidays. We have to recenter and remember that the holiday spirit is, first and foremost, about being together. Pro tip: some of the best presents are presents that come from the heart.
- Anxiety around the holiday season is amplified for people who are experiencing mental illness.
- A few tips to help you cope with holiday stress: If you feel lonely or stressed during the holiday season, reach out to people or groups who can support you. Remember that holidays don’t have to be perfect. You can honor traditions in many different ways. Try your best to put aside pent-up resentment. At the same time, learn to say “no.” Know what your boundaries and budgets are.
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Deborah Horowitz joins Elix and Steven to discuss the difference between rote gratitude and active gratitude. They discuss how to reframe gratitude in a forward-thinking way, why asking “what are you thankful for” is not effective (and what to ask instead), the 9 fundamentals of actively practicing gratitude, and why you shouldn’t just do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
Deborah Horowitz is a consultant and clinical training specialist in transformational leadership.
“It’s not happy people who are thankful, but thankful people who are happy.”
Timestamps:
- [02:00] Life updates
- [10:14] Episode overview: thankful people are happy people
- [15:35] Who is Debora Horowitz?
- [16:49] Framing gratitude in a forward-thinking way
- [19:20] Why you shouldn’t ask “what are you thankful for” (and what you should ask instead)
- [26:11] 9 Fundamentals of active gratitude
- [30:04] The foundation of gratitude
- [32:03] Expanding the golden rule “do unto others as you would have them do unto you”
- [36:47] Listening to connect as part of your gratitude practice
- [39:54] Making a dedicated effort toward gratitude
5 Key Takeaways:
- Gratitude is one of the most scientifically studied proven ways to experience a greater sense of wellbeing in your life.
- Asking “what are you thankful for” has become such a routine question that people no longer internalize the grand meaning of the question. Instead, you can ask: “what can I do to make others grateful?”
- It’s important to think of gratitude as an active process. You can use the 9 fundamentals of gratitude to apply this, which are: greatness/grace, responsibility/recognition, appreciation, trust, intention, time, understanding, dedication, effort.
- Being present is the foundation upon which gratitude is built. Without being present and mindful in your life, it is almost impossible to be grateful. You cannot notice things to be grateful about if you aren’t aware of what is going on.
- Having a gratitude practice takes dedication and effort. You cannot passively be grateful. There must be an intention dedicated to gratitude.
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In this episode, Coach Elix discusses objective and subjective ways to define success. A key part of living a fulfilling and authentic life is defining what success means to you. Not being clear and honest with yourself about what you value can lead to your life being derailed by the expectations of others. Tune in to understand the anatomy of designing your own definition of success.
Timestamps:
- [01:52] Episode overview and life updates: reflecting on success during a magical trip
- [14:06] What happens if you don’t design your own idea of success
- [23:42] Objective (scorecard) and subjective (foundational integrity) metrics of success
- [28:21] Having objective success without subjective access (and vice versa)
- [31:06] Why presence is a key aspect of a successful life
- [33:38] How Coach Elix defines success
- [38:57] How 4,000 different people define success
- [41:09] 4 questions to ask yourself to create a definition of success for yourself
5 Key Takeaways:
- If you don’t define your own idea of success, someone else will define your path for you. It can be very easy to get pushed into bowing down to someone else’s version of success.
- Objective metrics of success: money in your bank account, job titles, salaries, personal achievements, where you went to school. These metrics do not determine how happy and fulfilled you are in your life.
- Subjective metrics of success give you an idea of your happiness and fulfillment levels. These include: having a level of satisfaction with your life, doing meaningful work, being excited to wake up every morning, and experiencing joy in your work and your relationships.
- There is nothing wrong with pursuing objective metrics of success. However, it should not be the only thing you value. Without subjective metrics of success, it is extremely challenging to live happily.
- Success is not defined by the material things you have, but the kind of life that you lead.
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In this episode, Coach Elix shares the story of his experience with caregiver burnout. He shares the story of his mom’s stroke for the first time publicly and how that experience has affected his mental health. Throughout the episode, Elix discusses the vital work of caring for the critically ill, how to spot caregiver burnout, how you can support loved ones experiencing caregiver burnout, and what you can do to prevent caregiver burnout.
Timestamps:
- [03:46] Episode overview and life updates: caregiver burnout
- [13:37] Sharing a very personal, heart-wrenching story for the first time publicly
- [26:46] Being overwhelmed by the fear of the unknown
- [32:14] Romanticizing caregiving and how it erases the harsh reality of caregiving
- [33:31] Why many people are caregivers these days
- [36:32] What is caregiver burnout?
- [41:35] Signs of caregiver burnout
- [44:11] Things you can do to prevent caregiver burnout?
5 Key Takeaways:
- When unexpected negative events happen, they give you a reality check and put things in perspective for you. They remind you of what really matters.
- It’s difficult to find support from doctors in a very complicated healthcare system. Sometimes doctors forget that for them, trauma is business as usual but for us, it is not. Nurses bear the brunt of caregiving in our healthcare system.
- Romanticizing caregiving erases the harsh reality caregivers find themselves going through. Caregivers have to deal with a complex health system and a plethora of heavy emotions including loneliness and stress.
- As the baby boomer generation continues to age, the number of caregivers will grow. Currently, one out of 5 people in the U.S. is a caregiver. The healthcare system in the U.S. relies on that army of caregivers.
- Caregiver burnout is the feeling of emotional depletion. It is a depletion of hope and the ability to be positive. Once you burn out, there is not much you can do for anyone. Caregiver burnout often happens because of a false narrative that you have to do things alone. You need to be able to ask for help.
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Your thoughts create stories, which lead to overarching personal narratives, ultimately creating limiting scripts about what you can and cannot do. Tune in to learn what scripts may be limiting you, how your mind may be using scripts to latch onto comfort zones, and how to shift your scripts and replace them with a positive and empowering personal narrative.
“If it was easy, everyone would be doing it.” –Coach Elix
Timestamps:
- [02:01] Life updates
- [09:08] Your doubting inner voice when you are making life changes
- [14:30] Why you need to fact-check your inner voice
- [17:37] Call-in from Miss K: being aware of your scripts
- [24:38] How you might sometimes wear your negative thoughts as a badge of honor
- [28:43] How scripts give you an “out”
- [32:10] Between breakdowns and breakthroughs
- [38:55] How and why scripts become automatic (and how to shift your script)
4 Key Takeaways:
- As you evolve, you need to fact-check what the voice inside your head tells you about yourself. You have to ask yourself: "is this story in my head serving me or limiting you?"
- Examples of limiting scripts you may be using to define yourself are: "I have to be perfect," "I’m too young/old," "my life is harder than anyone else’s," and "I’m just not that type of person."
- Scripts can provide you with an "out" of opportunities that you actually want to pursue. You can feel your fears, you just have to make sure not to feed your fears. Having an insight into what you’re going through gives you a choice to hold on to what is limiting you or letting it go.
- To shift your script, you have to complete your old scripts. One way to do that is to write a letter to yourself saying everything you need to say to put an end to the old script. After writing the letter, you can burn it—it can be quite cathartic to do so.
CONNECT with Steven the Medium
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If you’re hooked on being right, this episode is for you. Throughout the show, Coach Elix explains the neuroscience behind the human desire to be right and where this need originates from. He shares 6 signs that you may be addicted to being right, and provides coaching on how to manage that addiction.
Timestamps:
- [01:50] Why Halloween is so exciting for Steven, Elix’s mom’s 96th birthday, and more life updates
- [12:23] Episode overview: are you addicted to being right?
- [20:19] Why you should want to manage your addiction to rightness
- [23:43] Why do we feel good when we are right?
- [31:29] The next time you find yourself wanting to be right, ask yourself THIS question
- [39:20] Why you want your body to produce less dopamine and more oxytocin
- [46:14] 6 signs that you have an addiction to being right
- [49:22] Managing the addiction of being right
5 Key Takeaways:
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Being right is not wrong. Being right is perfectly ok. What is wrong is being addicted to being right, regardless of the context. When you feel powerfully right, you lack the perspective to connect with others and be open to their point of view.
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The most damaging response is oftentimes the most common response because of our primitive brain’s fight, flee, protect, defend, response. This prevents honest and productive sharing of information. Our brain responds to wanting to be right.
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When you have that urge to be right, ask yourself: what is this costing you? Is it costing you happiness, fulfillment, or joy? Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?
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Your desire to be right originates from something in your past. It is a learned trait and it can be unlearned.
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Some signs that you have an addiction to being right are: getting amped up about an opinion or point of view, telling someone how to do something, and interpreting or diagnosing other people’s thoughts or behaviors.
Book recommendations:
The Three Laws of Performance: Rewriting the Future of Your Organization and Your Life
https://www.amazon.com/Three-Laws-Performance-Rewriting-Organization/dp/111804312X
Conversational Intelligence: How Great Leaders Build Trust and Get Extraordinary Results
https://www.amazon.ca/Conversational-Intelligence-Leaders-Extraordinary-Results/dp/1937134679
CONNECT with Steven the Medium
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Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix airs live on WARA 1320AM out of Attleboro, MA every Friday at 1 p.m. Eastern. To listen live or be a caller, stream the show from anywhere in the world by visiting www.wararadio.com.
In this episode Coach Elix and Steven discuss how to stop giving regret too much space in your life. Regret is inevitable. You will not stop experiencing it. But, you know what you can do? Recognize it when it creeps up and reframe the toxic narrative it tries to infect your life with.
This episode will give you an introduction to the art of letting go of regret and help you take away power from the "woulda, coulda, shoulda" voice in your head.
Timestamps:
- [02:00] Life updates!
- [09:06] Why does regret feel so heavy?
- [15:26] Is regret necessarily a bad feeling?
- [16:33] Suffering is optional.
- [20:01] The common regrets most people have.
- [25:17] Why do we feel regret?
- [28:37] Why is it so hard to let go of regret?
- [33:30] How do you stop thinking of "what ifs"?
- [40:12] Practical ways to let go of regrets.
4 Key Takeaways:
- We feel more intensely towards the things we didn’t do rather than the things we did do. However, holding on to the narratives behind our regrets is a choice. Suffering because of regrets is optional.
- We have regrets because we compare our choices to an ideal: what we think we should be, what we think we should have done, etc. We have an idea in our minds of what could have been. It is an invented narrative.
- When we believe we’ve made a mistake, we feel like our identity has been attacked. However, it is impossible for your actions to always be aligned with your ideal self — simply because life happens!
- Regret is disempowering. The past is done. Focus on what matters NOW. Hit the pause button when the regret narrative creeps up on you. Interrupt the narrative. Embrace the different parts of who you are. Recognize that you will always fall into the pattern of "disappointing" the ideal version of yourself.
CONNECT with Steven the Medium
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We all think we are great listeners. But, are we really? Listening is a forgotten skill. One we often take for granted. If you are committed to being an extraordinary partner or friend, listening is perhaps one of the greatest tools at your disposal.
Tune in to learn exactly what it means to listen to CONNECT rather than merely to understand.
Timestamps:
- [02:00] Life updates!
- [04:30] Today’s topic: what great listeners actually do.
- [05:42] You cannot be listening well without doing this.
- [08:39] Listening from the lens of objection and judgment vs. listening from the lens of connecting (Simone Biles example).
- [15:23] What does it take to truly be able to listen well to your partner?
- [17:47] What does it mean to listen to connect?
- [20:41] An example of bad listening skills from the TV show Golden Girls.
- [25:50] We assume that we know how to listen, but do we?
- [30:44] 3 actionable ways to be a better listener ("double-clicking" and more).
- [39:00] Why are emotionally intelligent people better listeners?
- [47:08] Your assignment for next time you speak to ANYONE.
4 Key Takeaways:
- Emotional intelligence helps you become a better listener and more aware of your biases. It allows you to practice self-awareness and know how to regulate it. Self-awareness allows you to be present and thus be an effective listener.
- When you listen to someone, immerse yourself enough into what the other person’s world is like. Ask yourself: what is this person hoping I will get out of talking to them?
- Listening builds trust. When judgment creeps up when you are hearing someone speak, replace those thoughts with thinking “what is this person feeling?” “what are the real drivers behind this person’s emotions?”
- When interacting with someone, try to understand the purpose behind the conversation. This way, you prime yourself for connection. Listening is doing whatever you need to do to get into the other person’s world.
Book: Conversational Intelligence: How Great Leaders Build Trust and Get Extraordinary Results by Judith E. Glaser: https://www.amazon.com/Conversational-Intelligence-Leaders-Extraordinary-Results/dp/1937134679
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Strategist Kathy Gaalaas joins Coach Elix to discuss how to manage tough situations with grace. Not just by being graceful to other people — but, more importantly, by being graceful to YOURSELF. We often forget about ourselves when we think about grace, but we deserve to treat ourselves with kindness.
Tune in to learn how to be gracious with yourself and not impose too many responsibilities on yourself.
Kathy Gaalaas is a coach and strategist that helps artists, musicians, and small business owners perfect and grow their digital presence.
Timestamps:
- [02:25] A story aboutSteven that he wouldn’t want me to tell!
- [06:30] The most common definition of grace.
- [09:04] Why did Kathy choose to work with artists and musicians?
- [12:11] How Prince influenced the name of her business.
- [16:57] What does grace mean to YOU?
- [19:00] Why is it hard to be gracious to yourself?
- [24:00] Why do you always feel like you are not doing enough (and how to break out of that).
- [28:14] How can we define responsibility in a healthy way (without guilt)?
- [35:24] How do you thank yourself when no one is thanking you?
- [39:43] Actions you can take today to be more gracious with yourself.
- [48:15] Rapid fire round with Kathy.
5 Key Takeaways:
- Your business can only be sustainable if you actually enjoy what you are spending your time doing.
- It is much easier for us to be gracious with others than it is to be gracious with ourselves. Here are a few things you can do to be more gracious with yourself: Look in your life for someone who made a difference in your life and call them randomly to thank them. Write down 3 things that are unique to you that you add to the world (e.g., I make people laugh). Pick one day every month to dedicate to yourself.
- You might feel like there is always more to do, and there probably is. However, you have to accept moments for what they are and knowing that this moment will pass. Take a breath and center yourself. Ask yourself: "do I need to react right now or do I need to listen or do I need to observe?"
- When you think of responsibility, don’t start with blaming yourself or being on the defensive. Step back and ask yourself where you can make the biggest difference and sometimes the best way you can make a difference is by taking care of yourself.
- Give yourself kudos and know that what you are doing for yourself matters.
CONNECT with Kathy Gaalaas
Website:
https://www.thepurpleessence.com/
LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathyg/
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Website:
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Without feeling grateful for what you have, it's almost impossible to live a fulfilled life. But, do you take things for granted without noticing? In this episode, Coach Elix and Steven the Medium discuss how you can live a beautiful and fulfilled life just by being present in the moment.
In this episode you will learn:
- Why you take things for granted
- How to stop taking things for granted
- Practical exercises to train yourself to be present in every moment
“If it’s comfortable, it doesn’t change you.”
Timestamps:
- [02:00] Life updates!
- [06:32] Here is why you may be taking things for granted.
- [10:00] What does it mean to be present?
- [12:53] 2 questions for you to help you determine if you are present in your life.
- [14:53] What are the kinds of things that most people take for granted?
- [16:58] How to remember what actually matters.
- [22:13] The only thing you can do to STOP taking things for granted (and how your life loses balance).
- [29:00] A practical exercise to train you to stay present in ANY situation (7 day exercise).
- [39:53] 4 things you can do everyday to stay present every moment.
- [43:52] Why you should commit to being present.
4 Key Takeaways:
- When you don’t stay present in the moment life passes you by. It becomes really easy to take things for granted. We have a tendency, as humans, to assume that tomorrow is guaranteed. The reality is that it really is not. When you are present in the moment, you create an opening for things that you desire to happen.
- You are most likely to take for granted the steady things in your life. Examples can include your health and family. These things seem permanent, but they aren't. We know this on an intellectual level.
- If you are living in the present, you will be living a balance. You will be moving with the mothership. Not being present is what upsets the balance in your life.
- Getting to the present is like climbing a mountain. The top is the present, so think of it is a journey. You need tools to help you climb. One tool is the 7 day exercise (29:00). Another tool is establishing a daily gratitude practice.
CONNECT with Steven the Medium
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Coach Donna Karlin joins Coach Elix to discuss how you can silence your inner critic and amplify your positive voice. Tune in to the episode to learn a very clever way you can realize how unreasonable your inner critic actually is.
Donna Karlin, PCC, CEC, MLE℠, is a well known leadership coach best known as The Shadow Coach. Throughout her career, she has coached TED fellows and leaders of Fortune 100 companies.
“The inner critic is all our insecurities wrapped up in a tight little bow that you hold on to...and it constantly tells you what you lack.” —Donna Karlin
Timestamps:
- [08:36] Would you allow someone to speak to you like this?
- [14:07] Who is Donna Karlin?
- [16:26] Who is your inner critic?
- [18:25] Why do we allow our inner critic to talk to us in unacceptable ways? (and what to do instead)
- [21:00] When is our inner critic born?
- [24:21] How can you help yourself if you don’t have a support system.
- [26:59] What to focus on even when catastrophic events are happening.
- [32:44] Things you can do RIGHT NOW to mute your inner critic.
- [35:37] How to empower people without telling them what to do (and how to get on the TED stage).
- [39:12] What Donna Karlin learned from partnering up with TED fellows.
- [40:48] What is the No Ceiling, Just The Sky Institute?
- [42:01] How the people you surround yourself with can change your life.
- [46:12] Fire round of questions with Donna Karlin.
4 Key Takeaways:
- We all have an inner critic. To begin standing up to your inner critic, ask yourself: would you allow someone to talk to you the way your inner critic speaks to you? You can also ask yourself: would you allow someone to talk to someone you love the way your inner critic speaks to you? If the answer is no, why are you allowing yourself to operate based on that myth?
- We allow our inner critic to speak to us in unacceptable ways because we allow our inner critic to run on autopilot. We don’t question it. Instead, ask yourself: what is the story you want to own of yourself? Are you living it?
- If you don’t have a support system that already exists, find somebody out there who is struggling and support each other. You have an enormous contribution to give the world. You can make an impact.
- When negative events take place and your inner critic starts raising their voice, stay focused by going back to your purpose. Focus on what you are here on Earth for. Mute the inner critic by keeping your eye on the bigger picture. Disempower your inner critic by focusing on what you’re good at and leave your weaknesses behind.
“People don’t want to be told what to do. They want to hear what you did that was so mind blowing that they think they have the permission to be mind blowing as well.” —Donna Karlin
Connect with Donna Karlin:
Website: https://donnakarlin.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/donnakarlin/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/The_ShadowCoach
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/donnakarlin/
CONNECT with Steven the Medium
Website:
https://www.steventhemedium.com/
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/steventhemedium/
CONNECT with Coach Elix:
Website:
https://www.coachelix.com
LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachelix
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/coachelix/
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/coach_elix
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Coach Elix and Steven the Medium celebrate Pride Month this episode by reflecting on the Stonewall uprising, the origin of the pride parade, their personal experiences growing up gay, and why being gay is not a lifestyle.
“Queer people don’t grow up as ourselves, we grow up playing a version of ourselves that sacrifices authenticity to minimize humiliation and prejudice.”
Timestamps:
- [04:40] Why is pride month a whole month?
- [07:12] What was the Stonewall uprising?
- [15:06] What was it like to be gay in 1969?
- [18:12] Is the LGBTQ community fully equal to their heterosexual counterparts now?
- [20:42] What happened during the Stonewall uprising and why it makes sense that Stonewall had to be owned by the mafia.
- [24:51] Misconceptions that straight allies have about the LGBTQ community.
- [26:58] Why do we remember the Stonewall uprising? (the orign of the pride parade)
- [30:33] Coach Elix’s experience being gay as a young person.
- [35:46] Steven the Medium’s experience being gay (responding powerfully to a bully).
- [39:17] The simple reason that explains why being gay is not a lifestyle.
- [43:35] What you should do if you suspect someone in your life is gay.
3 Key Takeaways:
- The Stonewall uprising in 1969 was the catalyst for the LGBTQ civil rights movement. Stonewall was a filthy dive bar. It was the only bar that allowed people to fully be themselves without judgement or persecution. It took a lot of pain and suffering to achieve equal rights.
- LGBTQ persons still face discrimination despite equal rights laws. There has been a lot of progress since 1969, but the fight continues.
- Being gay is not a lifestyle. A lifestyle is golfing, wanting to cook, wanting to travel, etc. Being gay is being born gay. Nobody chooses to be treated as a second class citizen.
CONNECT with Steven the Medium
Website:
https://www.steventhemedium.com/
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/steventhemedium/
CONNECT with Coach Elix:
Website:
https://www.coachelix.com
LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachelix
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/coachelix/
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/coach_elix
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Today, I'm joined by the viral TikTok sensation: The Pelvic Health Ladies! During the pandemic, they racked up 332K followers on TikTok—by accident. Tune in to today’s episode to learn how they went viral, what being TikTok famous feels like, and how to transform obscure content into relatable snippets of content. The Pelvic Health Ladies is composed of two medical professionals Dr. Angel Johnson, a urogynecologist, and Alicia Jeffrey-Thomas, a physical therapist.
“If you want to be successful in business, you have to create more than you consume”
- Jeff Bezos
Timestamps:
- 05:48 Have you ever heard of the Pelvic Health Ladies? (turning something obscure into something relatable)
- 17:01 What is pelvic health and does it impact both men and women?
- 18:51 What is urogynecology?
- 20:08 How did the Pelvic Health Ladies meet?
- 23:39 What kind of solutions are ones that patients never consider?
- 24:33 The 3 most common myths about pelvic health.
- 28:18 Going viral on TikTok (332K followers): Why start a TikTok?
- 30:05 Going viral on TikTok by accident (she wasn’t using TikTok to grow an audience)!
- 30:38 How humor transforms dense information into something relatable.
- 32:37 What it feels like to go viral on TikTok.
- 33:17 Is it unprofessional for medical professionals to make fun social media content?
- 35:37 How do you get comfortable with the uncomfortable?
- 37:26 What opportunities have come to The Pelvic Health Ladies since they’ve gone viral?
- 40:26 How do we cultivate braver women leaders in male-dominated spaces?
- 42:09 The best advice for people who are seeking a career in pelvic health physical therapy.
- 43:24 What’s next for The Pelvic Health Ladies?
- 45:53 If you are stuck with your idea, listen to THIS.
- 47:07 The rapid questionnaire!
Key Takeaways:
- Pelvic health is anything to do with bowel health, sexual health, and bladder health. It is not just about the pelvic floor.
- Pelvic health impacts both men and women. Everybody has a pelvic floor.
- Urogynecology combines both urology and gynecology.
- The pandemic has afforded The Pelvic Health Ladies to build their social media presence.
- Having a coach is basically having an accountability partner.
- The most common myth about pelvic health that they debunk every single day is that it is normal to leak urine.
- There is a normalization of pain in a large way. For example: normalizing pain because of pregnancy. However, just because there is a normalization around something, doesn’t mean it has to be that way.
- There is also a myth that sexual intercourse is supposed to be painful.
- TikTok was a great way for the Pelvic Health Ladies to stay connected to their patients during the pandemic.
- Humor is a great way to share obscure information to a wide audience.
- Some people think that it is unprofessional for medical professionals to be creating fun social media content, but the best way to silence the naysayers is with your success.
- As a woman, own your voice. Even if you don’t know everything you need to know, keep going. Finding a mentor or a coach can be a great experience.
- If you have a vision but you are stuck, turn it into a list of actionable items.
- Goals take time to accomplish, you have to be patient in your pursuit to accomplish them.
- Common isn’t normal!
What going viral online makes you feel and how it empowers you:
“It kind of reinforced to me the power of an idea, that if you get this great idea and you launch with full velocity and put all of your passion and effort and energy behind it then it really can turn into something great and better than you expected.”
CONNECT with the Pelvic Health Ladies:
Pelvic Health Ladies’ TikTok:
https://www.tiktok.com/@scrambledjam
Pelvic Health Ladies’ Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/thepelvichealthladies
Pelvic Health Ladies’ Linktree:
https://linktr.ee/PelvicDanceFloor
Dr. Angel Johnson's Bio:
https://www.greaterbostonurology.com/providers/dr-angel-marie-johnson-m-d
Alicia Jeffrey-Thomas, PT, DPT, PRPC’s Bio:
https://www.greaterbostonurology.com/providers/alicia-jeffrey-thomas-pt-dpt-clt
CONNECT with Coach Elix:
Website:
https://www.coachelix.com
LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachelix
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/coachelix/
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/coach_elix
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Dr. Henry Kahn, professional personal development coach, joins Coach Elix to share a deeply personal story about his relationship with his brother that changed his life. He shares several anecdotes about how to overcome self doubt, impostor syndrome, and how to uncover what you have been hiding from yourself. Elbert Hubbard wrote: “We work to become, not to acquire” and Dr. Khan is a true embodiment of that. He is a physician turned coach that has dedicated his life to creating rather than consuming.
Listen in to learn about the experience that made him choose to save lives through coaching rather than through medicine.
Timestamps:
- 00:01 Episode overview and personal updates!
- 10:22 Who is a powerful person?
- 15:36 Who is Dr. Henry Kahn?
- 16:56 A tragedy that shifted his career from being a certified physician to a personal development coach (what happened?).
- 25:41 Taking decisions at crossroads.
- 27:38 How to stay resilient in the face of self doubt.
- 32:07 “Cancer is the best thing that happened to me”: how come?
- 36:37 How coaching can literally save lives (a real example).
- 40:58 Impostor syndrome: what we have to remove to find ourselves.
- 44:27 What story do you not want to tell?
Key Takeaways:
- A person of power never waits for a decisive moment, a person of power is decisive in the moment.
- We feel true joy in our work when we feel we are contributing to something bigger than ourselves.
- Looking at how others stay resilient in the face of roadblocks can inspire you to be resilient in the face of your own challenges.
- The story you do not want to tell may be the story you need to tell.
CONNECT with the Dr. Henry Kahn:
Dr. Henry Kahn on LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/henry-kahn-37281b8/
Dr. Henry Kahn’s page on the Institute of Coaching’s website:
https://instituteofcoaching.org/users/henry-kahn
Email:
henryjkahn@icloud.com
CONNECT with Coach Elix:
Website:
https://www.coachelix.com
LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachelix
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/coachelix/
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/coach_elix
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Having just gone through an extremely challenging unexpected situation myself, this episode is about navigating unexpected circumstances from a place of power. No matter how stressful an unexpected event may be, there is always light at the other end of the tunnel - especially with the four methods presented in this episode.
Tune in to learn how to correct yourself in real time and find the silver lining in every unexpected event no matter how bad it may seem.
We went through a situation
When life is interrupted, navigating the unexpected
Learn how to correct yourself in real time.
Timestamps:
- 00:01 We couldn’t get on the plane (life update)
- 09:23 Talking from real life experience of an unexpected breakdown
- 12:34 What is the larger meaning behind unexpected breakdowns?
- 15:37 Our whole world was collectively interrupted! (this is unprecedented)
- 16:30 What the way you handle unexpected circumstances tells you about yourself.
- 16:50 The main decision you must make when unexpected things happen.
- 17:15 What scientific research says about unexpected situations.
- 18:40 How mindfulness saves you TIME & EFFORT in tough times.
- 23:25 Dealing with the unexpected from a place of power vs. dealing with the unexpected as a victim.
- 24:30 4 ways to deal with the unexpected from a place of POWER.
- 24:47 Way #1: Pause before you act (reaction vs. response).
- 28:00 An example of something you might be doing unconsciously.
- 29:20 Way #2 Don’t assume that the things you don’t want are bad.
- 31:10 An example showing that there is always something to be grateful about even in terrible situations
- 33:48 Way #3: Plan for everything to turn out well (why I don’t hope for anything)
- 39:11 Way #4: Trust in your ability that everything will be okay
- 45:44 This is for my mom, and all the moms out there.
Key Takeaways:
- There is a larger meaning behind unexpected events that take place in your life. You might not always know yet why something is unfolding the way it is.
- There is always a silver lining, no matter how bad the situation you find yourself might be. Make an effort to view things positively with intention.
- Sudden interruptions in your life are an opportunity to practice mindfulness about what works and what may not be working with you.
- When faced with an unexpected situation, you have one main decision to make: Am I going to keep doing something that I know doesn’t work? Or am I going to make a correction?
- When negative unexpected events happen, we tend to focus on negative emotions. But, research shows that negative emotions make our brain’s decision making powers less effective. This makes mindfulness in tough situations all the more pressing.
- Mindfulness in tough situations gets you where you want to be faster! If you let something ruin your day, you lose the day. That is one day longer in a negative situation.
- Reactions come from an automatic part of your brain. A response is something that you intentionally choose to do. When an unexpected situation happens, as yours: am I reacting or am I responding?
- If you want a good outcome, you have to plan that outcome. Instead of asking yourself: what if it doesn’t work, ask yourself what if it goes well?
There is a lot more than what you see when a tough situation happens:
“If you only believe in what you see, then you are missing out on three quarters of what we are supposed to experience in this earth school...Trust that everything is going to turn out the way it is supposed to turn out. You don’t need to know how it is happening, or how quickly it is going to turn out, or how it is going to actually be processed. You just have to trust the outcome” - Steven the Medium
CONNECT with Coach Elix:
Website:
https://www.coachelix.com
LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachelix
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/coachelix/
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/coach_elix
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We all battle with self doubt, no matter how successful, smart, or talented we are. Best-selling author Natalie Banks joins me this episode to prove it. An award-winning author, she has been aware of her own self-doubt since childhood.
Battling with self-doubt doesn’t mean we cannot reach self-mastery. Tune in to this episode to learn how to reframe self-doubt in a way that empowers you instead of derailing you.
Timestamps:
06:56 Can self-doubt be healthy?
08:33 Practice this to live your truth
10:00 What does courage really mean?
11:28 Create the opening you need to live your truth
13:57 About Natalie Banks
16:48 The crazy thing Natalie did that launched her writing career
18:25 The first step in dismantling the power of self-doubt
19:16 Is self-doubt expressed in your voice?
24:09 What are defining moments?
27:07 Natalie’s defining moment
29:41 Did you create a life sentence for yourself?
31:26 How to immediately silence your self-doubt
34:42 Even amazing writers have self doubt
35:38 These are the ONLY people you should listen to
38:00 What does getting a grip even mean?
40:00 Ways we can free ourselves from self-doubt
40:16 Way #1 What we resist persists
41:26 Way #2 Be skeptical of your thoughts, they are not reality
41:58 Way #3 Give your inner critic a name, here’s why
42:52 Way #4 Cultivate your sense of purpose, you have to go after what fills you up
44:29 Way #5 Spend time with people who believe in you
46:13 Way #6 Practice self compassion, if you dont you are a bully of your bully
46:44 Way #7 Speak self gratitude everyday
49:18 Self-doubt is a habit, nothing more nothing less.
49:50 How to connect with Natalie
Key Takeaways:
- Imagine the ending you want in your life and work your way back from there
- The self doubting voice in your head sounds like you and feels like you. YET, it is not you. It is usually a voice from your childhood.
- When you hear negative things about you from others or from your inner voice, you can take things one of two ways. You can either say “this person is speaking truth” or you can say “I don’t want to be the person they are describing.”
- Defining moments can be life sentences where we spend the rest of our lives trying to prove ourselves guilty of ‘not being good enough’ — OR, they can drive your passion.
- Self-care and self-love are the answer to keeping your self-doubt in check. It is cheesy, but it is true.
- Don't entertain self-doubt. Silence it straight up. Don't allow yourself to go into the rabbit hole. Don't feed it.
- Don't ever give value to other people's opinions, no matter if it is positive or negative, unless it comes from somebody who has a stake in your success (NBA champion Brian Scalabrine’s advice to Elix from episode 4).
- Getting a grip means getting a hold of what you love and not giving up on yourself.
- If you think you are not good enough, write down that you are not good enough then write 5 things that you are amazing at right next to it. Prove your inner critic wrong.
- You dont get what you want, you get what you are.
Say this to your inner critic (instead of just calling it a liar):
“I hear you. I hear you don’t feel good enough and I understand why. But, it is not MY reality. My reality is that I have everything it takes.”
How do you silence your inner critic? What works best for you? How do you avoid falling into the rabbit hole? Tell us in the comments!
Also don’t forget: “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” -Jim Rohn
This is the book Elix mentions (Three Laws of Performance)
CONNECT with Natalie Banks:
Natalie's Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/officialnataliebanks
Natalie's website:
https://www.nataliebanks.net
Natalie’s email:
nataliebanksnovels@gmail.com
CONNECT with Coach Elix:
Website:
https://www.coachelix.com
LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachelix
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/coachelix/
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/coach_elix
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Self-forgiveness is your ticket to freedom. There are no shortcuts. In this episode, we give you a practical guide to get started on the right path. In this episode you will learn:
- Why we struggle with forgiveness and resentment
- Five questions to ask yourself to help you become your best self
- Actionable steps to help you free yourself through self-forgiveness
Timestamps:
- 03:01 What happened on our run this morning
- 06:19 Personal updates
- 10:03 What does forgiveness mean?
- 15:07 Why do we struggle with forgiveness?
- 19:04 How resentment punishes the wrong person
- 19:45 How to finally let go of survivor’s guilt
- 22:22 This is the first step to setting yourself free
- 23:03 How the way you grow up can influence your ability to forgive
- 26:30 My rough childhood: growing up with a lack of self-love
- 30:14 You cannot live your best life without doing this
- 33:24 How to forgive yourself (a practical guide)
- 38:21 Actionable process to start forgiving yourself STEP 1: letting your emotions out and releasing negative energy
- 40:55 Actionable process to start forgiving yourself STEP 2: Give yourself grace and encourage yourself
- 41:40 Actionable process to start forgiving yourself STEP 3: give yourself this powerful gift
- 42:00 Actionable process to start forgiving yourself STEP 4: shift your focus from the past to the future
- 42:46 5 questions that can help you become your best self
- 45:45 Never forget this!
- 46:53 A symbolic ritual that you can start today
Key Takeaways:
- Forgiveness is a difficult but necessary journey. There is no time limit. There are no limits. It is a process.
- Forgiveness is a type of self-love.
- Forgiveness is very intimidating because we have to open closed boxes.
- Self-forgiveness can set you free. You cannot step into your best life without forgiving yourself and without letting go of things that hold you back.
- Ask yourself “what happened” and “what specifically went wrong” to figure out what you need to forgive yourself for in the first place.
- You cannot truly forgive others without first forgiving yourself.
- The first step to forgiving yourself: Think about why you are holding on to the emotional pain, what purpose is it serving, and how would your life look without it.
- Self forgiveness is an opportunity to embrace all parts of yourself, even the parts of yourself that you don’t like are there to serve a purpose. You cannot discover that purpose without first forgiving yourself.
Why being resentful is a boomerang:
“Being resentful is when you take poison expecting someone else to die.”
CONNECT with Coach Elix:
Website:
https://www.coachelix.com
LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachelix
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/coachelix/
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/coach_elix
If you found value in this episode, please leave a 5-star review so we can continue inspiring you!
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Defining moments can be building block of excellence, but they can also derail us. As children, we start creating narratives about our lives. If we are not careful, we may let limiting narratives gain control of our adulthood. In this episode, we discuss how defining moments can act like a double edged sword.
Coach Elix spills the beans on HIS defining moment at age 10 when he felt rejected by his grandma. Tune in to find out how the small moment affected him throughout his childhood and adulthood as well as what happened when he finally confronted his grandma about the event.
This particular story made a high achiever out of Coach Elix, but is that really a good thing?
“I was already a go getter, I was already a high achiever, but this time it was not on top of some story of what I was not.”
Timestamps:
- [01:44] Episode overview: Harnessing the power of defining moments
- [09:54] The amazing effect of openly discussing your defining moments (Steven’s experience)
- [14:29] What is a defining moment?
- [16:00] Coach Elix’s defining moment story (“I didn’t know I was adopted”)
- [21:49] The positive side of defining moments (“I was determined to prove otherwise”)
- [23:55] Are you a hamster stuck in a wheel?
- [25:30] How your inner child might be managing the adult you are.
- [27:55] Confronting his grandma (and what he was surprised to find out).
- [33:17] Reinventing your life after resolving defining moments.
- [38:39] Three things you can do to recognize defining moments.
- [44:44] What would happen if you don’t take action to resolve defining moments?
Key Takeaways:
- Sharing your defining moments openly can lead you to reevaluate them and gives you a fresh perspective on your life.
- Getting a sense of awareness of what the defining moments of your life are gives you the clarity you need when making decisions in your life.
- Defining moments have the power to define us. They also have the power to transform our lives.
- Even though negative defining moments can lead to seemingly positive things like being an overachiever, you might find yourself like a hamster stuck in a wheel because you are basing all of your positive achievements on the basis of a negative event.
- “If you do not define a defining moment, it is going to define you”
- There are three things you can do to recognize defining moments: (1) embrace adversity and stay resilient by quickly finding purpose; (2) acknowledge fear and learn to quickly recalibrate; and (3) create a solution based action plan. Insight is not enough, action is also necessary.
CONNECT with Steven the Medium
Website:
https://www.steventhemedium.com/
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/steventhemedium/
CONNECT with Coach Elix:
Website:
https://www.coachelix.com
LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachelix
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/coachelix/
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/coach_elix
If you found value in this episode, please leave a 5-star review so we can continue inspiring you!
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In this episode, we discuss what defining moments are and how your inner child may be controlling the adult you are today. Throughout the episode, Steven the Medium delves deep into his defining moment. He was only a child when his father committed suicide. This is that story. Unpacked.
There may be two people inside you, which one is in control?
If you feel life is happening to you, then this episode was recorded with you in mind. Tune in to start reinventing the narrative that may be holding you back.
“When you know that something is there then you can choose, because when you know that something is there then you can choose”
Timestamps:
- [0:01] Life updates!
- [07:35] Episode overview: the power of defining moments.
- [10:20] Do you always know when defining moments are happening?
- [14:40] What ARE defining moments?
- [15:16] Are defining moments positive or negative?
- [16:30] When lots of defining moments happened (two real life examples).
- [20:04] Steven The Medium’s defining life moment (“I must have been the reason…”)
- [27:25] The sneaky way defining moments influence the rest of your life.
- [33:33] Does the influence of defining moments ever end?
- [38:23] How can you get through a pivotal moment?
- [39:30] Passage from the book Three Laws of Performance (being two different people)
- [42:54] What to ask yourself to discover what defining moments took place in your life?
- [45:47] Why you MUST find out what defining moments happened in your life.
Key Takeaways:
- You have to have enough self awareness to be able to spot defining moments as they are happening.
- Defining moments are points in your life when you are urged to make pivotal decisions about yourself and who you are and when you experience something that changes you. They usually make you challenge your norms and beliefs.
- Often, when we experience defining moments they accompany negative events. However, transformative moments can also be positive.
- If we do not unpack our defining moments and understand the effect they have on us, lots of our life events and behaviours may be built on top of or influenced by how these defining moments have shaped our character and beliefs.
- To find out what defining moments took place in your life ask yourself “what happened to me” and try to go as far back in the past as possible, then ask yourself “am I that person?”
CONNECT with Steven the Medium
Website:
https://www.steventhemedium.com/
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/steventhemedium/
[Book] Three Laws of Performance: https://threelawsofperformance.com/
CONNECT with Coach Elix:
Website:
https://www.coachelix.com
LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachelix
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/coachelix/
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/coach_elix
If you found value in this episode, please leave a 5-star review so we can continue inspiring you!
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Mark Worster, co-founder of The Green Nurse, joins Coach Elix to share his rock bottom story. His main message? Rock bottoms can be the unexpected catalyst you need to start building a life you love.
After a series of catastrophic events, Mark was on the verge of committing suicide. After checking in to a facility, he heard magic words by a caretaker. Words that would ultimately change his fate for the better.
“I heard that voice that said 'you’re not done.'”
But, words was not all it took. Mark worked extremely hard to reinvent himself and, in this episode, tell us everything he did to become the successful entrepreneur and author he is today.
Tune in to learn how you can use your own negative events to accelerate towards a life you WANT to wake up for.
Mark Worster is the CEO of The Green Nurse. He is also a certified yoga intructor, author and speaker. He is the author of the book Absolutely Fking Amazing: Living a Life You Love, an Amazon number one best seller.
Timestamps:
- [11:07] Who is Mark Worster?
- [15:08] Building a successful family business from the ground up.
- [16:18] Why did he sell his profitable business?
- [18:56] Hitting absolute rock bottom.
- [21:40] A sentence that saved his life and turned it around in just one weekend.
- [25:50] Why hitting rock bottom can be a blessing and a catalyst.
- [27:12] How to figure out your path after hitting rock bottom?
- [28:20] Stepping into what you want to do.
- [29:37] How to make peace with negative events.
- [30:59] If you say “but X person is different,” listen to this.
- [33:55] Why did Mark start his company?
- [35:28] There’s so much unpredictability in the world, what should you do?
- [39:11] How unique is your experience?
- [40:51] How to connect with Mark Worester, Green Nurse
- [41:46] Rapid fire questions
- [46:04] Why do people struggle with forgiveness?
Key Takeaways:
- You can build a successful business and yet discover that it is not your calling and that it does not align with your passions and vision for your life.
- At crossroads, ask yourself: can there be more to life than this?
- Hitting rock bottom can be a blessing. When life seems to be going fine it is so hard to step out and look for areas of improvement. However, when traumatic events happen you have no choice but reconsider your life and ask yourself how things can be better than they are today.
- Coming from a place of trauma, you can go into places that you could have never imagined.
- The story you create is itself what creates your life. You have the ability to create any story you want for yourself. You choose what gets in your way and you choose where it can take you.
- The person of power doesn’t wait for a decisive moment, the person of power is decisive in the moment.
- Perfect happiness is not being attached to any outcome.
Remember, you can do ANYTHING:
“There are lots of people out there who suffer from mental illness that say I can’t do what I want to do because I am flawed and you know what, that’s just a story, it’s not the truth. The reality is that you can do anything you want to do, you just have to step into it.”
CONNECT with Mark Worster:
The Green Nurse:
https://thegreennurse.com/
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/nursemarkw/?hl=en
Website:
https://nursemark.co/
Book:
https://www.amazon.com/Absolutely-king-Amazing-Living-Life/dp/1945849967
CONNECT with Coach Elix:
Website:
https://www.coachelix.com
LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachelix
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/coachelix/
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/coach_elix
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Donna Karlin, who's coached Fortune 100 leaders and TED Fellows, joins me this episode. She is far more than an accomplished business woman. She also survived cancer and a tornado that destroyed her home. This is why you can trust her when she says: you can control your story, even if you can’t control the circumstances.
In this episode, Donna discusses how we can face life head-on and be masters of our own stories no matter what we've gone through. The way we narrate our lives — to ourselves and others — literally shapes what they become. That’s both the danger of our stories... and their power.
Tune in to find out 3 actionable steps you can take to get back on track.
Timestamps:
6:02 Why wouldn’t you rewrite your story into a bestseller?
8:15 The myths you probably tell yourself
9:18 Is the story you tell yourself serving you?
14:10 Who is Donna Karlin?
15:44 Do you own your story, or do you own someone else’s story of you?
17:50 Should you learn from the past?
18:57 How can you find out more of who you are?
21:23 Should you care about what others think?
22:50 Why do we always think negatively of ourselves?
26:58 Hanging on to judgement.
28:07 You can’t walk in someone’s shoes.
30:36 Don’t be like me, do this instead.
34:26 What is dancing with life?
35:54 One question that can change your life: the "what-if" question.
40:05 What if you fail?
40:51 How you can learn more about yourself.
43:12 The best way to reach Donna.
47:27 A gratitude challenge for you.
Key Takeaways:
- There are plenty of things that we cannot change about our past but we can change the story we tell ourselves about our past.
- We don’t always have control over the circumstances that we face, but we have control over how we relate to these circumstances.
- If you don’t create your story, somebody else is going to do it for you.
- The best way to figure out who you are is in conversation with others. The role of a coach is to help reveal you to yourself.
- Take away blame from others and suspend judgement so that you can see yourself more clearly. Ask yourself: how are you helping yourself?
- Look at what life throws to you head on and ask yourself “what can I do with it,” not in spite of it.
- Instead of asking "what if you fail" ask "what if you could?"
- Ask the people who know you best, what are they seeing in you that you are not seeing?
How you will own your story:
“How many times do we go through our lives where we adopt the stories that our parents have of us, our siblings have of us, that are so outdated it's not to be believed?...It’s really important to craft the story not only that you want people to know of you, but that you want to live.” -Donna Karlin
What would you do if you knew you wouldn’t fail? What is the first step you will take to start rewriting your story. Tell us in the comments!
Connect with Donna Karlin:
Donna Karlin’s website
Donna Karlin’s LinkedIn
Donna Karlin’s Twitter
Donna Karlin’s Instagram
CONNECT with Coach Elix:
Website:
https://www.coachelix.com
LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachelix
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/coachelix/
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/coach_elix
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The world is changing because leaders are changing and leadership is changing too. Leaders are more diverse today than ever before. Leadership is more centered around empathy and collaborative listening. This is creating an undeniable shift in the way things work.
Psychologist Dr. Jeffrey Hull joins me to discuss the new leadership landscape, the science explaining the most effective leadership approaches, and his new book Flex: The Art and Science of Leadership in a Changing World. Dr. Hull is a psychology instructor at Harvard Medical School and an executive coach. He has worked with plenty of high profile clients such as HSBC, Tiffany & Co, Unilever, Dropbox, and Reuters.
Tune in to this episode to understand how you can be an even better leader, even if you’ve never thought of yourself as one.
Timestamps:
04:14 A few definitions of leadership
11:24 The biggest misconception about leadership
13:39 Who is Dr. Jeffery Hull
14:46 Why is everything we know about leadership wrong?
15:32 What is the quiet revolution?
17:46 How did COVID-19 transform leadership?
20:29 This is what effective leaders when our lives moved online
22:26 Does the conversation about leadership apply to you?
24:30 Why are frontline workers great leaders?
27:30 Should you be an authoritarian leader?
31:26 What kind of leader does science say you should be?
33:47 6 focus areas of the F.I.E.R.C.E methodology
35:45 Do you have to change your personality to have a growth mindset?
38:15 How has Dr. Hull’s leadership style changed over the years?
40:13 What is stopping you from becoming the leader you can be?
42:14 Are leaders born or made? (a surprising answer)
43:25 Connecting with Dr. Jeffrey Hull
45:43 Reflections & Day 14 of the gratitude challenge
Key Takeaways:
- A leader is somebody who creates the opening for others to be their best self.
- We all have the ability to be leaders everyday in the many different things we do.
- When it comes to leadership, emotional intelligence is more important than being smart.
- Learning to be more flexible and know when to be authoritative and when to be a curious collaborative listener is one of the keys to being successful in today’s world.
- Creating an environment where people have a sense of autonomy and a sense of connection are crucial to the success of any team.
- To be better leaders and better people we have to learn our strengths and learn how we can grow. Listening to others collaboratively and being empathetic are great ways to accomplish that.
- Everything we know about leadership is outdated. Today, leaders are more diverse than they used to be in all senses of the word. For example, in the past an introvert would not have been thought of as a leader - this is not true in today’s world.
- The key to developing your agility is to view your stumbles and mistakes as learning opportunities. There is no such thing as failure.
- Leaders are both born and made. Everyone is born a leader, but not everyone puts in the work to fulfil their potential as a leader.
Here is why the conversation about leadership applies to you:
“Anyone that doesn’t think of themselves as a leader but can step up and be involved with their community, with non profits, anywhere where you are out doing good work in the world, you are probably more of a leader than you even realize” - Dr. Jeffrey Hull
Do you think of yourself as a leader? What do you think people misunderstand about leadership?
CONNECT with Dr. Jeffrey Hull:
Dr. Jeffrey Hull's Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/drjeffreyhullphd/
Dr. Jeffrey Hull's website:
https://www.jeffreyhull.com/
Dr. Jeffrey Hull's email:
jeff@jeffreyhull.com
Dr. Hull’s Book Flex: The Art and Science of Leadership in a Changing World https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07L2HZBKH/
CONNECT with Coach Elix:
Website:
https://www.coachelix.com
LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachelix
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/coachelix/
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/coach_elix
If you found value in this episode, please leave a 5-star review so we can continue inspiring you!
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Unlock the possibilities of the future by valuing your present self through gratitude, find out how in this episode. Coach Elix explains the science behind why and how gratitude creates a virtuous cycle in your life that can elevate you to new levels.
Tune in to find out several science-backed tips you can start using today to start a gratitude practice and unleash your potential.
Timestamps:
4:05 Gratitude seems too easy, does it even work?
05:17 When should you practice gratitude?
06:04 What is gratitude and what does it do?
07:13 What does gratitude bring to your life?
10:59 Should you hope or wish for things?
15:00 Does practicing gratitude mean I have to feel good all the time?
16:52 How does gratitude change your brain?
19:37 The 4 components of emotional intelligence.
21:13 How you can use the upward spiral theory to change your life.
24:09 Gratitude can be embedded in every part of your life
25:05 What is the most important characteristic of effective leaders?
25:53 How does gratitude make you more resilient?
27:10 Invent the life you desire by focusing on abundance
29:43 Coach Elix’s actual gratitude practice.
35:39 If you try any of these powerful practices, gratefulness becomes present.
41:09 A gratitude practice specifically for managers and leaders.
42:48 Finding gratitude through taking daily photos.
43:21 A challenge for YOU.
45:57 Saying you are grateful is not enough, you must do this as well.
46:50 Next week’s episode previewand more announcements
Key Takeaways:
- There is a lot of scientific research backing up the effectiveness of gratitude.
- When you switch from feeling victimized to feeling grateful, you activate the prefrontal cortex of the brain and transform your thoughts into positive ones.
- If you are grateful, you get rid of negative thoughts in your mind. Gratitude immediately transforms thoughts from negative to positive.
- Practicing gratitude cultivates greater emotional intelligence.
- The four components of emotional intelligence are: self-awareness, self-regulation, self-motivation, and understanding others.
- Upward spiral theory teaches us that when we start thinking about positive emotions, it leads to positive behaviors, which then lead to positive emotions and so on. This is how you can change your life.
- Emotional intelligence is the most vital characteristic of an effective leader.
- Gratitude helps you boost motivation, energize your stamina, improves patience, and keeps you focused on abundance rather than what you may lack.
- There is no right way to practice gratitude, just do what works for you.
- A few practices that invite gratitude into your life include: keeping a gratitude journal, writing a gratitude letter to someone (it can be someone who is around or someone who isn’t), finding gratitude in your surroundings, and doing a guided meditation.
- Managers and leaders should invite gratitude into meetings by starting the meeting with the question: "What’s going well for us?" Or "What are we doing right?" And discuss how they can elevate it into the next level of greatness.
- Being grateful is not just about telling yourself things. You must add practices that reinforce your gratitude and create openings for yourself.
Coach Elix’s gratitude practice that you can copy, or make up your own:
“I am happy and grateful that I am living the life of my dreams. I am living the life that I want. I am living my best life and I am a magnet for abundance, prosperity, health, happiness, wealth, and success in all areas of my life. Thank you.”
You can repeat it as many times as you like and go into examples of things you have and grateful for. Look around your surroundings for inspiration.
What do you do to invite gratitude into your life? Which practice will you be using throughout our 30-day gratitude challenge? Tell us in the comments!
Read more about Dr. Barbara Fredrickson’s upward spiral theory here: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/1745691617692106
If you are interested in learning more about Daniel Goleman and emotional intelligence, you can visit his website here: https://www.danielgoleman.info/
Learn more about Dr. Jeffery Hull’s book Flex: https://www.jeffreyhull.com/flex
Learn more about moving from fear-based conversations to trust-based conversations, grab a copy of Changing Conversations for a Changing World here: https://www.amazon.ca/Changing-Conversations-World-European-Collective/dp/1735358525
CONNECT with Coach Elix:
Website:
https://www.coachelix.com
LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachelix
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/coachelix/
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/coach_elix
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You’ve definitely heard of emotional intelligence, but have you heard of Conversational Intelligence®?
Join me and Dr. Richard Glaser on this episode to get the introduction you need.
Dr. Richard’s late wife Judith Glaser coined the term Conversational Intelligence® and was a pioneer in the field — so you are really hearing about this from the experts. Dr. Richard Glaser is the founder of CreatingWe, a 41 year old consulting and coaching company that works with CEOs to reshape corporate conversations.
Mastering Conversational Intelligence® is key to transforming your conversations from fear-based to trust based. Tune in to understand the neuroscience behind how you feel in conversations and how you can use this new understanding to have better conversations.
“The brain does not speak French or English, it speaks neuroscience” - Judith Glaser
Timestamps:
07:52 What is Conversational Intelligence®?
13:18 Who is Dr. Richard Glaser?
15:39 If you've never heard of Conversational Intelligence®, this is what you need to know
20:25 A simple technique you can use to make your next difficult conversation easier
24:10 Three levels of conversation (which one do you engage in most?)
30:42 How Burberry put itself on the map using richer conversations
35:33 Moving beyond polarized political conversations
38:28 How do we listen to people without judging them?
44:05 What can corporations do to change biases?
47:00 What is moving from "I" to "We" thinking and why you must do it
51:00 How to connect with Dr. Richard Glaser
Key Takeaways:
- Conversational Intelligence® is learning how to shift from fear-based conversations to trust based conversations.
- Conversational Intelligence® is very powerful because it has a strong scientific foundation. It is based on anthropology and neuroscience.
- When questioning your biases, sit back and ask yourself, “how did I get to that belief system?”
- There are three levels of conversations: Level 1 is sharing information; Level 2 is advocating for what you believe (make sure not to prophesize your beliefs); and Level 3 is asking questions that open up a dialogue (builds trust, makes you feel you are listened to and creates safe space for innovation and creativity)
- Double-clicking is a useful technique to help you overcome difficulty in conversations. It is asking questions such as, “can you tell me more about that?” Essentially, it revolves around asking questions you don't have answers to so you can understand where somebody else is coming from.
- Diffusing tensions in conversations through asking questions helps you understand the person you are talking to. By moving closer into their space, you are able to make the conversation more positive.
- When you understand how chemicals affect your brain in conversations, you can fight imbalances and shift from having fear-based conversations to trust-based conversations.
This is what happens in your brain when you feel attacked in a conversation:
“Amygdala Hijack is what people go through when they are attacked. You can be attacked in many ways, not just physically. You can be attacked by being ignored, you can be attacked by being insulted, and so on. You get the same reaction, you get that cortisol level that rises up, and it makes you react in a way that you might not want to react in.” - Dr. Richard Glaser, Ph.D.
Had you heard of Conversational Intelligence® before? What techniques do you use to have calmer and more productive conversations? How will you use your new knowledge about Conversational Intelligence® to regulate your future conversations?
CONNECT with Dr. Richard Glaser:
LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/richard-d-glaser-09a2102a/
The CreatingWE® Institute website:
https://creatingwe.com/
Email:
ciqconcierge@creatingwe.com or
info@creatingwe.com
Buy the book Changing Conversations for a Changing World here: https://www.amazon.ca/Changing-Conversations-World-European-Collective/dp/1735358525
CONNECT with Coach Elix:
Website:
https://www.coachelix.com
LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachelix
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/coachelix/
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/coach_elix
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You've probably often heard that you need to know your purpose, but rarely does anyone show you how to find it! This changes in today’s episode. Tune in to to unlock a practical way to seek and connect with your purpose so you can authentically commit to the life you truly want to live.
Timestamps:
08:36 What is G.R.I.P?
10:25 The first step towards achieving your goals.
10:53 What if you don’t know what your purpose is?
14:30 Find your purpose through this exercise.
17:49 Being resilient in the face of stress through purpose.
19:06 How most people react when they are asked, “what is one thing you really want to do” and why.
20:55 How you can engage a different part of your brain.
21:26 Where do you stand in the conversational dashboard and what is a fear-based conversation?
25:53 If you want to learn more about the neuroscience of fear and trust, tune in next week.
27:04 Do this practical visualizing exercise with Coach Elix now.
31:00 After the exercise, Steven articulated this purpose for the FIRST time.
34:04 How you can change the neurochemistry of your mind.
34:54 What Mark visualized during the exercise.
36:36 How often you need to do the visualizing exercise.
39:21 Coach Elix’s self doubt story.
41:12 Should you fake it until you make it?
42:08 Comparing yourself with others is toxic.
42:41 A caller: What if people don’t like what I do?
48:26 Listen to this if you say, “I can’t because I don't have money.”
Key Takeaways:
- G.R.I.P. stands for Greatness Requires Intention and Purpose, it is a 4-step methodology giving you access to move towards your goals.
- Only once you connect with your purpose will you be able to commit to your goals. Not having a purpose is like driving a car without a destination and just burning gas along the way.
- When you start connecting with your purpose, you start to desire more out of life.
- Questions you can ask yourself to start discovering your purpose: "When do I feel most vibrantly alive?" and "What do I feel drawn to?"
- When most people are asked “what is one thing you really want to do” they begin to resist even committing to something because fear is so strong in the background.
- Learning to visualize your purpose is a practical way to move yourself away from fear and engage in trust instead.
- When you talk about your future and think about what is possible, you change the neurochemistry in your mind and body.
- Training your brain to visualize your future requires practice, it is not a one time practice, it is an exercise you need to engage with regularly to get more intimate with your purpose
- If you fake it until you make it for long enough, your brain will begin to think it is real. You can approach fulfilling your purpose in that way.
- Some people may not like what you do, that’s ok. Concern yourself with the people who do like what you do.
- Fear is designed to keep you safe and when you are safe nothing happens. But, that’s the issue: nothing happens.
- The words you say to yourself have the power to change your fate.
This is the power of the words you tell yourself:
“There is an abundance of everything, an abundance of opportunity, you just have to learn to speak it. If you don’t believe me, tomorrow morning wake up and say “Today I’m going to have a shitty day” and let me know how that day works out for you.” - Coach Elix
What did you visualize when you did the exercise with Coach Elix? What did you learn from doing the exercise? Tell us in the comments!
If you are interested in learning more about moving from fear-based conversations to trust-based conversations, grab a copy of Changing Conversations for a Changing World here: https://www.amazon.ca/Changing-Conversations-World-European-Collective/dp/1735358525
CONNECT with Coach Elix:
Website:
https://www.coachelix.com
LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachelix
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/coachelix/
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/coach_elix
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Summary:
NBA legend Brian Scalabrine joins us this episode to share his personal story and inspire us. The White Mamba didn’t have it easy growing up, but that did not stand in his way. He became iconic against all the odds. You can beat the odds too.
Tune in to this episode to find out how to flip the narrative about your life with anecdotes from White Mamba’s childhood and his journey to triumph.
Bonus: Brian Scalabrine also fills us in on his new venture Scal’s Vodka Lemonade!
Timestamps:
03:17 A few words about 9/11
07:50 Our guest today: The White Mamba!
08:19 Why Coach Elix uses sports metaphors
11:09 Athletes use the power of visualizing to win, you can too!
14:50 How the pandemic is affecting the White Mamba
18:13 Mastering flipping the narrative (and one time White Mamba did it)
23:50 Do you care about what people think? Adopt this framework to reduce the noise.
28:36 What Brian would say to kids who don’t have a lot, but want to play for the NBA.
35:28 White Mamba’s tough childhood: how the people around you influence you greatly despite money
38:07 How hard are you actually working?
40:49 Why investing in people is White Mamba’s strategy
43:30 Why White Mamba thinks he can’t give you good advice
45:57 What does having a grip on life mean?
47:35 How Brian just gave us the best advice, even though he said he couldn’t.
51:50 Connecting with White Mamba
Key Takeaways:
- Athletes are great role models in getting comfortable with the uncomfortable.
- Flipping the narrative, reframing a negative narrative into a positive one, is a great strategy to get comfortable with the uncomfortable.
- Don’t worry about what people think, it is more important that the people you work with respect you.
- What people think matters, but only those who have a stake in your success. You can’t please everybody, but you can please those who care about you.
- Passion without direction doesn’t lead you anywhere.
- Look at what is around you and find an environment that is convenient and conducive to what you want in life.
- Finding a great environment is key to an athlete’s success. It’s the first step you must take.
- The people around you can help propel you forward, even if you don’t grow up around money.
- Finding the right environment is not about finding a wealthy or luxurious environment. It is about finding a healthy place to thrive.
- You get to choose your environment, no matter how hard the circumstances are.
- Having a grip on life means you are connected with something you love and in the midst of whatever the breakdown is, you find a way to move forward.
- Your life feels happier and lighter when you are doing something you are passionate about, no matter what else may be in the background.
- If it doesn’t challenge you, it doesn’t change you.
Living a life of passion is the best life you can give yourself:
“It is good in life that you get an opportunity to do something you love. So, if that entails you working your tail off on something you maybe don't like so that you can do something that you do like, then that's fine. I do believe that your life has a different lens to it when you are living a life of passion. The grass looks greener, the trees look better, the weather is warmer, the skies look bluer.” - Brian Scalabrine
How do you create a good environment for yourself? How do you try to flip negative narratives into positive ones? Tell us in the comments!
CONNECT with Brian Scalabrine:
Brian Scalabrine's Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/whitemamba/
Brian Scalabrine's Twitter:
https://twitter.com/Scalabrine
Scal’s Vodka Lemonade:
https://www.barrelg.in/scals
CONNECT with Coach Elix:
Website:
https://www.coachelix.com
LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachelix
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/coachelix/
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/coach_elix
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Guided by curiosity and a courageous mindset, James Mamary left his family healthcare business to fulfill his dreams of owning a distillery. He's since partnered with NBA champion Brian "White Mamba" Scalabrine on a popular ready to drink canned cocktail line. In this episode, he takes us through how the unexpected circumstances of 2020 helped him connect with his purpose leading him to take advantage of new opportunities.
James Mamary, a former healthcare executive, now runs Crooked Oak Distillery with his wife Melissa and in partnership with the Boston Celtics' Brian Scalabrine.
Timestamps:
04:31 Today’s discussion is about transforming your mindset.
08:17 What you need to interrupt a downward spiral.
10:47 Beating the common objection: “it doesn’t seem realistic that my dreams can come true.”
14:18 A 6-month challenge for you.
16:46 James’ story: taking the leap from healthcare to opening a distillery.
17:54 Why James quit the family business.
21:14 This is what it takes to take a leap of faith.
24:01 Focusing on what you can control: how James transformed adversity to opportunity during COVID-19.
30:08 How important is mindset?
31:49 Concrete things James has done to shift his mindset from negativity into positivity.
35:16 The 3 elements key to shifting your mindset.
35:46 Finding new strategies in the face of COVID-19.
37:27 This is an integral part of leadership.
38:25 Advice to anyone who is struggling.
39:44 Connecting with James.
41:47 Why some people don’t achieve their dreams.
42:55 Do I have to start a business, like James, to be successful and happy?
44:30 Mark’s anecdote: doing something he thought he couldn’t.
46:03 Follow your curiosity to find your purpose.
47:11 The 6 rules of learned bravery (do these to become a better version of yourself).
Key Takeaways:
- The most important things in saving yourself from a downward spiral is to be kind to yourself.
- People get caught up on “anything is possible” in the negative sense rather than in the positive sense. Because of the pandemic, people have come to expect more negativity.
- If you want to win your own game, you have to get on the court. You cannot stay on the sidelines wishing for something.
- Your mindset can be infectious, it does not only affect you it can also impact those around you.
- Changing your mindset can be as simple as telling yourself: failure is not an option.
- Pursuing what you want requires bravery, bravery is taking action in the face of fear.
- Things you can do to shift your mindset: connecting with purpose, shifting negative conversations into positive conversations, and having the courage to move forward.
- Part of leadership is getting comfortable surrounding yourself with the right team and not doing everything yourself.
- You define what winning means in your book. It doesn’t have to be starting a business. It can be starting school or shifting to another career. You decide what your life looks like.
- Curiosity is a key element in discovering what your passion is.
- To move forward you need bravery. Here are the 6 rules of learned bravery: connect with purpose (what is you "why"), take off your mask (be authentic), be optimistic (be grateful), stop comparing yourself to others, get comfortable with the uncomfortable, get better at willpower.
- Ask yourself: What is the unimaginable good that you can create for yourself and for your life?
Advice to anyone who is struggling right now:
“There’s opportunity everywhere, look around and it's there you just have to take a deep breath and center and look around and it's not traditional opportunity...you know capitalism is always about creative destruction. So, just because things are falling down around you doesn’t mean there’s not an opportunity to advance. You just have to be comfortable pivoting towards that new opportunity. It's not ever going to be easy, even in good times.” - James Mamary
What untraditional opportunities do you think might be around you? What might help you connect with your purpose? Tell us in the comments!
CONNECT with James Mamary:
Crooked Oak Distillery Website:
https://www.barrelg.in/
Distillery's Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/scalsreadytodrink/
CONNECT with Coach Elix:
Website:
https://www.coachelix.com
LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachelix
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/coachelix/
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/coach_elix
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Summary:
You are more powerful than you tell yourself. In fact, a lot of your power lies in what you tell yourself. Join Coach Elix, Steven, Mark, and two guest callers to find out how to knock over the roadblocks separating you from a better life, reframe conversations, and reflect on whether you might be playing a winless game.
Tune in to get introduced to what fear-based conversations are and how to be guided by a commitment to extraordinary living instead.
Timestamps:
01:39 Who is Coach Elix?
02:40 What does G.R.I.P. stand for?
06:02 A poll Coach Elix ran on Instagram (find out the shocking result).
06:56 Does being a coach mean my life is better than yours?
08:35 A lightbulb moment for me.
10:33 What if a coach says something that doesn’t ring true to you?
15:07 Karen calls in: What is the power you have to change your circumstances?
22:14 Two things to do as soon as you feel upset.
24:39 Am I a giver or am I just a taker? (A narrative that takes away your power.)
28:40 Dr. Johnson calls in: Why coaching works.
33:36 Why you should be unrealistic.
35:45 What does it take to make your dreams come true?
38:00 The story you tell yourself is made up, so you might as well do this.
39:47 What is your "oh my god" moment?
41:00 How what you tell yourself changes your reality.
42:07 If you are having these conversations, you are playing a winless game.
47:12 What is a winless game and how to stop playing them.
50:00 How I got my power back.
Key Takeaways:
- G.R.I.P stands for Greatness Requires Intention and Purpose. So, if you are telling yourself to "get a grip," reframe it in that way.
- The circumstances are what the circumstances are, but who you are in those is what you have control of.
- When you feel a sense of anxiety, it has less to do with the facts of our lives and more to do with the narrative you tell yourself.
- In the face of despair ask yourself: what is factual about my circumstances and what is part of the narrative I tell myself.
- When you give way to negative voices in your head, you are playing a winless game. Negative voices are designed to lead you to nothing but more of the same.
- Coaching only works if you take it seriously and put in the work.
- “Being realistic is the most commonly travelled road to mediocrity. Why would you be realistic? What's the point of being realistic?” - Will Smith
- Breakdowns are necessary. They give us the opportunity to learn. What you have to do is keep moving in the face of the breakdown.
- Words create reality. What you speak is what you get.
- If you take a shot, you may win and you may lose but you cannot win if you don’t go on the field and take a shot.
- You must play out your life with a commitment to winning rather than an attachment to winning.
Extraordinary living begins with knowing what you can control:
“So that's not to say that we should dismiss, you know, our current reality. What I'm saying is that the circumstances are going to be whatever the circumstances are. That's just how it is today. It happens to be sunny and beautiful. Tomorrow could be stormy. You could create a different story about it but that's not going to change the circumstances. It is what it is. However who you are going to be in the face of that is what you have control of. It is where you have the power to reframe, the power to change, that conversation” - Coach Elix
How do you speak to yourself? What do you tell yourself as soon as you wake up? Tell us in the comments!
Learn more about moving from fear-based conversations to trust-based conversations, grab a copy of Changing Conversations for a Changing World here: https://www.amazon.ca/Changing-Conversations-World-European-Collective/dp/1735358525
CONNECT with Coach Elix:
Website:
https://www.coachelix.com
LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachelix
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/coachelix/
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/coach_elix
If you found value in this episode, please leave a 5-star review so we can continue inspiring you!
Get a G.R.I.P. with Coach Elix airs live on WARA 1320AM out of Attleboro, MA every Friday at 1 p.m. Eastern. To listen live or be a caller, stream the show from anywhere in the world by visiting www.wararadio.com.