Find Your Voice: How to Write When You're Not a Writer: Recent Episodes
Allison Fallon
It’s a podcast on writing for anyone who’s “not a writer.” Best-selling author and Founder of Find Your Voice Allison Fallon explores the power of the written word to create change in yourself, your community, and in the world through interviews with authors, reviews of powerful books, and short motivational prompts to get you moving in the right direction.
It’s been more than two years since I last posted an episode to this show. Here’s a little update about where I’ve been and what I’m doing now.
Have you ever voiced an idea or opinion, and then wished you could take it back?
As people who like sharing our stories with the world, we've likely all said or written something that we wish we hadn't. Our opinion changed, or we realized how we negatively influenced others. When this happens, it's tempting to wonder if sharing our stories is worth it in the long run.
If you're familiar with Josh Harris, you might know him as the author of 1997 book, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, or its sequel, Boy Meets Girl. He has a lot of regret over these books and other writing. After moving on from his position as pastor and publicly deconstructing long-held religious beliefs, he now finds himself in a new role: coaching all kinds of people as they, too, learn to live authentically through change.
Today's podcast episode covers the following questions:
- What to do when we wish we could take it back?
- How do we keep the fear of saying something we'll regret from paralyzing us?
- How do we move forward, knowing that we can't always control the impact of our words?
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Have you ever asked, "When is my big break?"
Thad has been a musician for years, and he was about to move on in his life when he got a call from Jimmy Fallon. This episode Thad shares how he, an artist who was about to stop making music, got onto Jimmy Fallon, the Today Show, and spoke to millions with his music.
Art transforms us, and it transforms others. It is worth your effort, even when you think no one is listening.
Thad's story on Rolling Stone
Website: thisisthad.com
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When is the right time to publish?
And, can a “normal” (and busy) person like me actually write a book?
Writer, speaker, teacher Caroline Cook has always seen herself as a writer, but the time was never quite right. Caroline is a regular person, with a job and with kids and with lots of responsibilities on her plate. Now, as her kids start leaving the nest, she has found an opportunity to share a message that’s been on her heart for a long time.
Caroline is taking her shot, and so can you. Your story is worth it.
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Instagram: @caroline.b.cook
Everyone has that one person (or people) in their lives: the people who have made life difficult. They might be loved, hated, or just inconveniently around, and you might find it hard to write about them honestly.
How do you write about the people who have hurt you?
In this episode, author and writing coach Allison Fallon covers:
- The narrative role of "villains" in your life
- Legal ramifications of writing about real-life people
- What gets in the way as we're writing about true stories
- Three important tips when writing about your villain
If you're writing a book for the first time, chances are you're hoping to traditionally publish.
What most first-time authors don't know is that there are several paths to publishing success out there, and self publishing is actually quite common (and can be quite profitable).
In this episode, author and writing coach Allison Fallon
talks with Julie Broad, an Amazon Overall #1 Best Selling Author, an International Book Award Winner, and founder of Book Launchers.
They'll cover:
- Surprising advantages to self publishing
- The biggest challenge for self-published authors and the common struggles of traditionally published authors
- The difference between self publishing, hybrid publishing and vanity presses
- How you can know what publishing path is right for you
book: Self-Publish & Succeed: The No Boring Books Way to Writing a Non-Fiction Book that Sells
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One of the top questions we get here at Find Your Voice is: "How do I find a literary agent?"
On this episode, we talk with literary agent Alexander Fields about everything publishing related! Listen to learn:
- What a literary agent is and what they do
- What to do before reaching out to an agent
- How to reach out to an agent
Website: thebinderyagency.com
Podcast: On Publishing
Links from the episode:
- Writer's Digest article: The Editor Behind the Curtain
- publishersweekly.com
- writersdigest.com
- publishersmarketplace.com
What do you think of when you hear the word "poetry"?
Maybe "difficult" or "boring"?
But what about "lifeline"?
Meredith Heller is a California-based poet, singer-songwriter, and author of Write a Poem, Save Your Life. But, more importantly, she was once a teen facing devastating life experiences, who found in writing a way through her pain.
In this episode, author and writing coach Allison Fallon and Meredith Heller cover:
- How poetry helps us makes sense of experience
- Where to start with poetry
- How poetry impacts us
- How to use poetry to heal ourselves
If you're curious about writing poetry but feel intimidated, this episode is for you.
Book: Write a Poem, Save Your Life
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Not sure if you should self-publish or go for a traditional contract?
Author and expert writing coach Allison Fallon debunks the myth that self-publishing is a B-level option. In this episode, she covers the major differences between the two most common publishing paths, highlights the strengths and drawbacks of each approach, and gives you the question which will help you choose a path forward.
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So many of us want to pass down family memories, so the next generation can know what it was like back then. But how do we transform our memories into one compelling story?
Without having ever written a book before, Jill Phillips set out on just this task. She shares with us why she started writing, what the process was like for her, and how she came to finish a memoir she's proud to call her own.
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Book: Lamlash Street: A Portrait of 1960's Post-War London Through One Family's Story *
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Interested in writing a memoir of your own? Sign up for our Memoir Masterclass.
Looking to self publish? Check out booklaunchers.com
We're all about summer beach reads—but we also know that not everyone is looking for light poolside distraction. For those of you wanting a book with more substance this summer, our FYV Director of Operations, Ashley Scoby, has five recommendations.
Ashley's background in is journalism and sportswriting. She’s written about Olympic athletes, covered a Final Four, and traveled to France to write about the 2019 Women’s World Cup.
But on this episode of FYV staff picks, the conversation goes beyond sports to her many other interests: the failings of the American prison system, the significance of single women in our political system, and how important it is for every woman to find their own way in the world and to speak their truth.
Here are her recommendations for summer, 2021:
- Halfway Homeby Reuben Jonathan Miller
- Know My Nameby Chanel Miller
- Educated by Tara Westover
- What I was Doing While You Were Breedingby Kristin Newman
- All the Single Ladies by Rebecca Traister
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Mentioned in this episode: innocenceproject.org
If you've ever thought, "I want to write a book, but I'm not sure if I have time for it," then may we introduce you to Kirbee Miller.
Kirbee Miller is a multi-passionate person: She's an entrepreneur, founder of KiNiMi Kitchen. She works in the corporate world, and she's intentional about working creativity into her life.
Juggling relationships, responsibilities, and passions, we often make excuses about writing. We don't have time.
This episodes challenges that belief and encourages you to keep figuring out what works in your particular multi-passionate life.
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Books Mentioned*
- Everything Is Figureoutable by Marie Forleo
- On Being Human: A Memoir of Waking Up, Living Real, and Listening Hard by Jennifer Pastiloff
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So many people write to support their business and bolster their credibility. Sometimes, that book is a group project.
Writing a book with another person: does it lighten the workload or create "too many cooks in the kitchen"?
Shari Medini and Karissa Tunis are co-authors and co-owners of AdoreThemParenting.com. Between both mothers, they have six kids and plenty of work-from-home experience, which made the current shifts toward working from home something they could speak to parents about directly.
Then came the book journey. Shari recounts the unpredictable path they took to publishing this timely book and just how perfect it was for Karissa and her to write together.
If you're in business with someone and you're thinking of writing a book together, take notes! This is how it's done.
Book: Parenting While Working from Home: A Monthly Guide to Help Parents Balance Their Careers, Connect with Their Kids, and Establish Their Inner Strength
Website: adorethemparenting.com
Facebook: Facebook.com/AdoreThemCommunity
Instagram: @adorethemparenting
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Have you ever started a creative project and somewhere along the way become ... stuck?
Creative block is part of the process. And we're curious how everyone deals with it. This episode, author and writing coach Allison Fallon asks, "What do you do when you get stuck in your writing or in life?"
We get lots of different answers: everything from physical movement to letting distraction run its course, and Ally shares her own writer's block trick. If you're curious to hear more, check out Ally's post about it on Instagram. (And if you responded there, you might just get a shoutout!).
If you have a dream of writing a personal story, but worry that your story isn't interesting, this episode is for you.
Author, podcaster, and public speaker Mary Marantz covers two insecurities that keep writers from getting started, how to write about complicated people in our stories, and how to make a personal story appeal to others. Keep listening until the end to hear Mary's publishing path: she gets specific about her journey finding an agent and putting together her book proposal.
Book: Dirt: Growing Strong Roots in What Makes the Broken Beautiful*
podcast: The Mary Marantz Show
Mention: The Art of Memoir* by Mary Karr
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So many of us are burnt out: but, for some of us, it's not our fault. We've been led to believe lies about what we need or what we should be — and it has us running in circles.
Relationship coach and YouTuber Amy Young jumps on with Allison Fallon to discuss what keeps women restricted, and how to dismantle those lies and stand in your truth.
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What books should I read as a writer?
As writers, we owe a lot to other writers: they are the people who inspired us in the first place, and they are the ones who keep us writing. Author and writing coach Allison Fallon shares seven books she returns to when she's stuck, needs perspective, or is looking for encouragement.
If you're a writer (or want to be), your bookshelf might need these:
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Journal of a Novel: The East of Eden Letters. John Steinbeck writing about his writing to his agent and editor.
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The Artist's Way. Julia Cameron teaches a regular habit of writing to unlock creativity. (Also author of A Right to Write)
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The War of Art. Steven Pressfield addresses resistance in the creative life.
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Save the Cat. Blake Snyder writes about story structure.
5.Stein on Writing. Sol Stein answers your questions on writing technique.
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Bird by Bird. Anne Lamott's classic on writing and life.
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If You Want to Write. Brenda Ueland on how everyone has an interesting perspective worth writing down.
Bonus Book: The Power of Writing It Down. Allison Fallon on writing for personal growth.
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If you've ever dreamt of having more than one writing desk, this episode is for you.
Enuma Okoro is an award-winning author. Among many other places, her work has been featured in the NY Times and the Financial Times. On this episode, she shares her passion for the writing life and how the practice of writing is soul care.
Listen for:
- what it means to be a writer
- what it's like to write in multiple genres
- how "not writing" can actually help you write
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If so many of us feel lonely, what keeps us from reaching out to other people?
Laura Tremaine is host of the podcast 10 Things to Tell You and author of the book Share Your Stuff, I'll Go First. With Allison Fallon, she discusses loneliness, moving to LA and the early days of blogging, and, most importantly, practical ways to connect with others. This episode will make you a better friend and communicator and leave you feeling a little less alone.
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You may have heard of the Enneagram: the personality typing system that we mention fairly frequently on this show. This episode, therapist and Enneagram coach Katie Gustafson gives an overview of the Enneagram and its connection to narrative.
Katie says, "I believe your story is the most powerful tool you've got," and, with Allison Fallon, she discusses how this tool helps bring an editorial pen to our lives.
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You may have heard the term “ghostwriter.” And you might have some questions. (So did the author write the book or not?)
Not every author comes up with every sentence of their book. Many times, there’s a behind-the-scenes person (or team) involved. And it’s not as scandalous as it sounds. In this episode, writer (and ghostwriter) Allison Fallon interviews another ghostwriter and author, Ashley Abercrombie.
Both Allison and Ashley have both published under their own name and have written for other people. They talk about the challenges of each, when to know if you’re ready to share a personal story, and what it's like to help someone else’s voice come clear on the page.
And check out Ashley’s book, Rise of the Truth Teller. *
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We all have our doubts. Maybe you want to write your story, but you're not sure: not sure it's worth the effort, not sure you want to publish. What if no one even wants to read it?
Or maybe you definitely don't want to publish, but you have a story from your past that needs working out—a story you have questions about—and something is telling you to write it down. But you think to yourself, "That's crazy, I'm not a writer."
In this episode, author and writing coach Allison Fallon covers the compelling reasons to write your personal story, even if no one ever reads it.
Artist, poet, musician and author Morgan Harper Nichols' work has already touched so many people's lives—including ours!
This episode, she shares about how she still gets nervous sharing new work with an audience (and how that's a good thing), the playlist she uses when she writes, and what is special to her about her latest book. She reflects on how words connect—or don't—with people, how art might only connect with one person—and that person might be you (and how worth it that is).
She defines "finding your voice" as that moment when you think, "Yes, that's what I've been trying to say, for a long time."
Order her newest book: How Far You Have Come: Musings on Beauty and CourageCheck out one of our favorites: All Along You Were Blooming: Thoughts for Boundless Livingmorganharpernichols.com
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So often, it's a childhood love of books and reading which inspires our own writing. But what makes a kid excited about reading and writing? How can we pass that on?
The mentors in our early lives make a huge difference here. Listen in on Allison Fallon's conversation with an early mentor of her own, her mom, Sandie Spotts. Sandie is a lifelong educator who has years of experience teaching kids to read (and to like reading). In this episode, she shares tips on cultivating a love of reading in the next generation.
So many of us are so focused on getting our stories out there that we forget that becoming "known" has consequences. When you decide to publish (or share your story in any public way), what was once personal and private becomes open for discussion. People will have opinions on your story—and you might not like all of those opinions.
When Sara Lewis shared her story on a podcast, she didn't think of herself as "brave." But when her story went viral, she quickly learned what it meant to be in the spotlight.
Follow Sara Lewis on Instagram @SpaceandPurpose
Check out Sara's Blog spaceandpurpose.com
Something Was Wrong Podcast, featuring Sara's story
Is there someone in your life trying to silence you? How do you fight for your voice when you are challenged, and what do you do when that resistance comes from someone close to you?
As an author, speaker, and influencer, Elyse Murphy uses words for a living. But she knows what it's like to have someone suppress her voice: She and Ally both left abusive marriages, and, on this episode, they talk about how you can use a tool like writing—specifically writing your story—to hold onto what you know to be true about yourself.
Instagram: @elyse Twitter: @elysemaree_elysemurphy.com
Maybe you doubt if you really have what it takes to write a book.
On this episode, Allison Fallon names five common myths about how books get written—misconceptions that SO many people have about this process. After debunking these myths, she reveals the truth.
Listen to hear about the myth of the writer's retreat, the typewriter myth, and then what actually happens behind the scenes.
Hopefully, you'll realize that you, too, have everything it takes to write your words down in the format of the book.
Is it worth writing even if no one will pay attention?
Melissa wrote a best-selling cookbook back in the height of the Paleo movement called Well Fed. But now, ten years later, she wants to write about something new, and she's not sure her audience will follow.
If you've ever struggled with having a "platform" or "audience" for your writing, today's episode is for you. Listen to hear about what it's like to change topics when the subject you've been writing about isn't where your heart is anymore.
A few of the many places to find Melissa on the internet:
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strongsenseofplace.com
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twitter.com/meljoulwan
instagram.com/meljoulwan
instagram.com/strongsenseof
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facebook.com/strongsenseofplace
Sometimes, we can see the light at the end of the tunnel. But what do we do when we feel hopeless?
On this episode, author, speaking coach, and founder of the Don't Give Up Movement Amy Wolff speaks with us about mental health, writing, and how living a life of impact can start small. She brings "hope" out of the clouds and down to earth: naming its components and giving insights on how to get back to feeling hopeful.
New book: Signs of Hope: How Small Acts of Love Can Change Your World*dontgiveupsigns.comamynwolff.comAmy is our first repeat guest. Listen to her first interview with us (recorded while writing Signs of Hope) here.
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As we approach the anniversary of the 2020 shutdown, we all need a place to process.
Author and writing coach Allison Fallon often praises journaling as a tool for personal growth and a form of self-therapy. But what exactly are the parallels between writing and therapy? And when is it best to simply go to the professionals?
Los Angeles Therapist Jessica Martindale uncovers what therapy is really about. Listen also for:
- Tips on how to find a therapist
- What to do if you can't afford therapy
- Reflections on how this last year has changed us all
There's no getting around it: over time, we change.
As the world shifts and as you change with it, you might find that your creativity is what grounds you to yourself and what connects you to others too.
This episode, Ally sits down with singer and songwriter Audrey Assad. She ask her about creativity as healing, her journey with writing, and her evolution as a creative person. The conversation touches on her fundamentalist background, what actually helps her write (this will surprise you), and a song that means something special to her.
What is clear from the conversation is this: creativity provides a way to be authentic to ourselves and to tap into something universal, throughout the constant change which is our lives.
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Do you feel like you're living in an unstable world? (We sure do!)
Today's guest, poet and a creative coach Mark McGuinness, outlines how we can find stability and assurance in our own creativity. Listen to this conversation to learn:
- how to use the unpredictability we live in to our advantage
- what to do instead of picking up your phone
- why to "forget the career ladder"
- what falling in love with your writing does for you as a person
Find Mark on the internet in these places:
- Mark's website
- Mark's 21st Century Creative podcast,
- Mark's books for creatives
- Mark's free 21st Century Creative Foundation Course
- Twitter: @markmcguinness
- Medium: @mark_mcguinness
Mothers notoriously have no time in the day and no grace for themselves. Bunmi Laditan, writer and mother living in Quebec, Canada, does it differently.
On today's episode, she shares about what a writing practice has meant for her, as a mother. She calls writing her nonjudgmental friend and encourages all writers (and mothers) that they are not alone.
Bunmi and Ally have a heartfelt conversation about motherhood, the writing life, and what it means to know we are not alone.
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Blog: The Honest Toddler
Books:
- Dear God: Honest Prayers to a God Who Listens
- Dear Mother
- Confessions of a Domestic Failure
Twitter: @honesttoddler
IG: @honesttoddler
FB: @BunmiKLaditan
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In the face of collective, systemic problems—where does one start?
Poet, entrepreneur, tech hybrid investor John Lee Gaston White has a suggestion: start with yourself.
John is working on a book on what it’s like to be Black in America and how trauma is passed down through generations. Recorded on the day of the insurrection at the US Capitol, Ally and John discuss what "finding your voice" means in light of current events.
Sometimes we get what we want in life ... and it's not what we imagined.
Despite the fact that there were a lot of glamorous elements to her work in Hollywood, Alex Hudgens found herself feeling more and more distant from her true self the longer she worked in television—unsure of the difference between what she truly wanted versus what she was told she should want—until finally she couldn’t stand it anymore.
Alex is an actress, a writer, a badass business woman, an advocate for mental health, a personal coach, a former host for Access Hollywood, a two-time Emmy nominated multimedia journalist… and so much more.
Contrary to what popular opinion might suggest, Alex left behind the glamorous life in the spotlight to see if she could get back in contact with something that mattered much more to her than the success she always thought she wanted.
Since then, she’s spent the past few years taking back her voice.
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Do you feel like you matter? Like—really matter?
If you do feel like you matter, how do you know?
Today’s guest is a man who argues that one way to know that we matter—really know—is to do a thing that we tell you to do all the time: it’s to write. But not just write. It’s to have a daily practice of creativity (like writing) that brings you back to this conclusion everyday: I matter. My words matter.
Dr. Eric Maisel, the author of over 50 books, renowned coach to creatives, a columnist for Psychology Today and mental health advocate. His latest book The Power of Daily Practice teaches artists and creative people how to overcome blockages so they can finally meet their goals.
So if you’re sure you’re an artist or a writer but you keep thinking to yourself that you don’t have the “discipline” to follow-through on your creative dreams, you aren’t going to want to miss what Eric has to share with you today. Maybe more discipline isn’t what you need at all. As for what you do need… well, let’s get into the conversation.
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Most people go their whole lives without ever actually saying what's on their hearts. Yet we all have something we want to say. What's getting in our way?
It's launch week for Allison Fallon's book, The Power of Writing It Down: a Simple Habit to Unlock Your Brain and Reimagine Your Life. Listen as we interview our very own author, Allison Fallon, on what this book means to her.
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Looking for more? Listen to our episode Is Everyone Really a Writer?
In this final episode of our special podcast series called The Power of Writing it Down, I talk with my friend and someone you probably have heard about — her name is Ruthie Lindsey. This episode is the perfect capstone to what we’ve been talking about…
- Why writing is so hard but powerful
- How writing can act like therapy and reframe our experiences — even traumatic ones
- How writing has a tangible impact on our lives — and can make us feel more empowered
- Who gets to be a writer and how they actually get writing done
Ruthie puts all these pieces together as she shares her incredible and powerful personal story of using writing as a tool to heal from chronic pain (check out her book about her story here). She also shares a simple writing practice that you can use right away to put this tool to work for you in your personal life.This conversation doesn't end here, on the podcast. Order Allison Fallon's latest book, The Power of Writing It Down!
Maybe you want to write — but life gets in the way. You’re busy, you’re tired. You don’t have a cabin in the woods. How do all of these people actually get writing done? This is the fifth episode of a special series that’s all about the power of a writing process to create positive change in your personal life. We’re covering topics like why writing can be so challenging, what’s happening in your brain when you write, why writing is therapeutic, what it costs us when voices are silenced, and what a regular practice of writing looks like in real life.
The best part? This conversation doesn't end here, on the podcast. Order Allison Fallon's latest book, The Power of Writing It Down,for more on how a regular practice of writing can change your life.
Who gets to be a writer? It’s a question so many people ask themselves.
On today’s episode, I chat with some voices you’ll recognize, including Science Mike and therapist Elyse Snipes as well as a new voice: Rafik Wahbi, whose program with hip hop writing helped men in jail feel a sense of empowerment over their own stories. We talk about the voices we’ve silenced and the importance of diversifying the content we consume.
If you have ever felt like your story isn’t represented in books and articles—or maybe you’ve worried that your story isn’t all that different or interesting, you’re not going to want to miss this episode.
We need you. Your voice matters. Today’s guests will remind you why.
This is the fourth episode of a special series that’s all about the power of a writing process to create positive change in your personal life. We’re covering topics like why writing can be so challenging, what’s happening in your brain when you write, why writing is therapeutic, what it costs us when voices are silenced, and what a regular practice of writing looks like in real life.
The best part? This conversation doesn't end here, on the podcast. Order Allison Fallon's latest book, The Power of Writing It Down, for more on how a regular practice of writing can change your life.
If your life was a movie, what kind of story would it be?
Do you ever wish you could... pick a new story? (hint: you can!)
This week you’ll hear, again, from therapist Elyse Snipes and also from singer and songwriter Audrey Assad. You’ll get a sense of how writing about your own personal story might help you to reframe it and feel like the hero of your life — rather than just like things happen to you without meaning or purpose.
This is the third episode of a special series that’s all about the power of a writing process to create positive change in your personal life. We’re covering topics like why writing can be so challenging, what’s happening in your brain when you write, why writing is therapeutic, what it costs us when voices are silenced, and what a regular practice of writing looks like in real life.
The best part? This conversation doesn't end here, on the podcast. Order Allison Fallon's latest book, The Power of Writing It Down, for more on how a regular practice of writing can change your life.
The big secret about writing is: it doesn’t actually have to be that hard. It’s really simple to tap into the therapeutic aspects of writing.
This week you’ll hear from our favorite experts, Journal Therapist Deborah Ross and the infamous Science Mike, and I’ll introduce you to therapist Elyse Snipes, who will walk us through the Cognitive Behavioral Model.
You’ll get a sense of how easy it is to change your life: just write it down.This is the second episode of a special series that’s all about the power of a writing process to create positive change in your personal life. We’re covering topics like why writing can be so challenging, what’s happening in your brain when you write, why writing is therapeutic, what it costs us when voices are silenced, and what a regular practice of writing looks like in real life.
The best part? This conversation doesn't end here, on the podcast. Order Allison Fallon's latest book, The Power of Writing It Down, for more on how a regular practice of writing can change your life.
If I’m really a writer, why is writing so hard for me? Most people are shocked to find that writing is not only hard for them, it’s hard for anyone and everyone who has ever tried to write—even those people who are very gifted at their craft.
In this episode, we hear from: Psychotherapist and Journal Therapist Deborah Ross, author of the book Your Brain on Ink: A Workbook on Neuroplasticity and the Journal Ladder and the infamous Science Mike on what happens in our brain as we write—and why it's so difficult.
This is the first episode of a special series that’s all about the power of a writing process to create positive change in your personal life. We’re covering topics like why writing can be so challenging, what’s happening in your brain when you write, why writing is therapeutic, what it costs us when voices are silenced, and what a regular practice of writing looks like in real life.
The best part? This conversation doesn't end here, on the podcast. Order Allison Fallon's latest book, The Power of Writing It Down, for more on how a regular practice of writing can change your life.
You know how sometimes no matter how hard you try to write, you just can’t seem to get any words on the page? Hello 2020. Today, poet, writer, two-time author and writing coach Nicole Gulotta shares why that can sometimes be a good thing, how inspiration ebbs and flows, and how in learning to be more present with our writing we do eventually get more writing done.Wild Words: Rituals, Routines, and Rhythms for Braving the Writer’s PathEat This Poem: A Literary Feast of Recipes Inspired by Poetrynicolemgulotta.com thewildwords.com Podcast: The Wild Words Podcast
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Do you consider yourself a confident person? If not, what's getting in your way?
Not only has Hilary Billings interviewed some of the biggest celebrities out there on the red carpet, she's been in the spotlight herself as Miss Nevada. Hilary is a self proclaimed recovering perfectionist, and, on this episode, she shares her journey from inadequacy to confidence. Hint: "fake it until you make it" isn't the answer.
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The chaos of 2020 can make us feel like our lives are going off track. But what if the frustrating detours of life weren't detours at all?
Christine Owenell is the woman behind Alchemy of Chaos: a group program experience for leaders, a podcast and a book.
While Christine has structured business deals for millionaires (and hung out with Richard Branson on his private island), her genuine spirit brings that same kindness, attention and honesty to everyone she meets.
This episode dives into how we can utilize chaos in our own lives: it's both easier and more difficult than you might think.
alchemyofchaos.com
evolution.team/christine-owenell
No matter who you are, it's sometimes difficult to access your intuition. Kim Chestney, author, creative business incubator, and intuition expert, joins us on this episode to dive into what intuition is, what keeps us from trusting ourselves, and how to use intuition to fuel a creative life.
Order a copy of her new book to learn more: Radical Intuition: A Revolutionary Guide to Using Your Inner Power
kimchestney.com
IG @Kim.Chestney
What happens when the story we've been working towards takes a sharp turn? What do we do when, despite our best attempts to prepare, difficult and painful moments come our way anyways? What do we do when we think to ourselves, "This is not how this story was supposed to go"?
In today's episode, Ally tells the story of her daughter's birth. To put it lightly, nothing went as planned.
Ally shares how she used writing to re-understand the pain, trauma, and beauty of her birth experience.
Why are some people happier and more successful than others? And is there anything we can do to move ourselves from here (discontent, striving, always looking for the next thing) to there?
Tim Schurrer, COO of StoryBrand and author of an upcoming book on success, says yes. Listen in to hear the mindset change which can make all the difference for you: in your personal life and in your career.
Instagram: @timschurrer
businessmadesimple.com
So often are we wonder, "Did I do it the 'right way'?"
But what if, instead, we asked ourselves, "Did I feel empowered by that experience?"
Brittany Ross is avoice on marriage, motherhood, baseball, and anti-trafficking. She's a writer and client of Find Your Voice. Her journey is one which makes us pause, reflect, and ask ourselves new questions.
mission108.com
instagram.com/britt_ross108
So many of us write for ourselves, but we wonder, “Could this be my full time gig?”
Author, TED speaker, blogger, and writing coach Hannah Brencher shares why (and how) she's made "writer" her professional title. She also reflects on her publishing experience: what she learned publishing her first book and all the ways she’s writing differently now.
Most importantly, Brencher demystifies what it means to write professionally and encourages all writers to fall in love with the process.
Preorder: Fighting Forward: Your Nitty-Gritty Guide to Beating the Lies That Hold You Back(January 2021)
Come Matter Here: Your Invitation to Be Here in a Getting There WorldIf You Find This Letter: My Journey to Find Purpose Through Hundreds of Letters to Strangers
hannahbrenchercreative.com
moreloveletters.com
IG: @hannahbrencher
IG: @moreloveletters
Twitter: @moreloveletters
What do you do when no one else seems to understand the story you’re living?
You write your story. And, in that process, you change yourself, your community, and make space for others who, like you, feel alone.
Paria Hassouri is a pediatrician, Iranian-American, and mother of three. Her book Found in Transition details her journey as a mother as her teenage transgender daughter transitioned. On this episode, Hassouri shares her wisdom on identity, healing, motherhood, and our own capacity to evolve and to love.
Maybe some people just don’t find value in writing.
Or maybe not.
Matthew Ford is not a writerly type. Founder and Executive Producer of an experiential marketing agency, he always had plenty to keep him busy with work and never felt the need to process through writing.
But like many entrepreneurs, he felt locked in the exhaustion of a 80-hour work week and weighed down by the relentless pressure of leading a growing business.
Then COVID hit, and he lost over a million dollars in business overnight.
So he turned to the tool he hadn’t really given a fair chance. And what came of it turned his life in a whole new direction.
wearebonfires.com
onsiteworkshops.com
Melissa Johnson, therapist, spiritual director, writer and podcaster, believes that the American version of beauty is way too small, which is why she started Impossible Beauty: an avenue for women to redefine beauty.
But Impossible Beauty would never have come into existence if Melissa did not have the courage to start writing her own story. Listen in as Melissa shares with complete transparency her book-writing journey, how it changed her, and where that path has led.
impossible-beauty.com
After uncovering trauma from his childhood, Robert Imbeault was set on ending his own life. But first, he felt compelled to write a letter. What started as a “goodbye letter” to his family and friends ended up instead turning his perspective around--he was saved by the very words that were meant to be his last.
On this episode, Robert reflects on the power of writing down one’s story, his own publishing path, and what it takes to heal.
robimbeault.com
Book: Before I Leave You: a Memoir on Suicide, Addiction, and Healing
facebook.com/rob.imbeault
twitter.com/RobImbeault
Melody Miles is an infectious disease expert. For years, she worked to end malaria with the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation. She “had it all” by most standards: a meaningful career, a marriage, a mortgage. But when she had panic attack at work, it was wake-up call that she was ignoring the most important person in her life—herself. She “had it all” by most standards: a meaningful career, a marriage, a mortgage. But when she had panic attack at work, it was wake-up call that she was ignoring the most important person in her life—herself.
She turned to writing, she made some major life changes, and, most importantly, she turned towards herself for the first time.
Melody is now a coach, writer, and leading voice on rest and self care. She's coined the term "Soulcation": it's more than a vacation, it's a way to redesign your life around rest, freedom, and joy.
If you're exhausted, anxious, or wondering if there’s something more, if you’re scared to live the life you actually want to live, download Melody's Soulcation blueprint: melodymiles.com
Ever said something like, “Other people are really good at this, and I shouldn’t be doing it because I am NOT.”
Amy Wolff, executive coach, hears this all the time about public speaking. At Find Your Voice, we hear it all the time about writing.
In this episode, Amy dives into how to speak and how, through three small words, she gained the attention of her neighbors, her state, Good Morning America, and, eventually, a publisher. Whether on stage or on a yard sign, Amy has built her life on the belief that your words matter, no matter who you are.
dontgiveupsigns.com
distinctioncommunication.com
IG: @dontgiveupsigns
Facebook: dontgiveupsigns
Sometimes, it feels like we can’t escape from the life cycle that we’re living. No matter how much we try, we end up with the same relationships, life circumstances, or unhealthy patterns. As someone who has walked the road to recovery, writer, healer, and coach Sasha Tozzi shares her perspective on hypnotherapy and how we truly own the power to “re-program” what we believe about ourselves.
Recorded in the first month of the 2020 pandemic, Tozzi and Fallon also discuss how we can intentionally bring greater creativity and growth into a time of disappointment and restlessness.
sashaptozzi.com
Taylor Tippett is a flight attendant for American Airlines who started her writing journey through a project called "Words from the Window Seat." Now, she regularly writes travel guides on her website atravelinlady.com, and she’s currently working on a book.
In a frank conversation with Allison Fallon, Taylor shares on her mental health journey, what words and writing have meant for her, and what it’s like to be a first time author securing a book deal.
Through it all, Taylor insists, we’re the only ones that can be held accountable for creating the life that we want. Her advice? Just do it.
atravelinlady.com
IG: @taylortippett, @wordsfromthewindowseat
Your body might know more about you than you realize. Yoga instructor and Storybrand expert Koula Callahan describes the body as a library full of rich data on our experiences, thoughts, emotions—and the truth about our stories. This interview covers:
- How our body can communicate to us the truth of how we’re feeling
- How a regular practice of movement—not even necessarily yoga—gives us an integrated and holistic way to move through the world
- How to tap into the rich data that our body offers for the sake of our own creativity
Our favorite quote from Koula is when she says that it’s actually impossible to experience the truth of your story if you don’t incorporate the body.
IG: @koulacal
Twitter: @koulathanyou
Storybrand: storybrand.com
Allison Trowbridge, author and entrepreneur, is a woman full of goals and ambition. She has written books, argued with senators about the severity of human trafficking, studied at Oxford, traveled the world, and now she’s starting a company. The running thread? Good company along the way. As she dives into what it takes to write a book or pursue any creative project, her main advice remains: “Do something worth the journey.”
Podcast: Real Good Company
Book: Twenty Two
meetcopper.com
instagram.com/MeetCopper
instagram.com/alliebridge
Nicole Sachs LCSW, shares about her story of healing from chronic pain, how she helps clients through JournalSpeak, and what traditional medical practices completely overlook when it comes to curing your body.
thecureforchronicpain.com
The Cure for Chronic Pain with Nicole Sachs Podcast
youtube.com/channel
twitter.com/YourTruthNow
How can we, as writers, handle criticism (readers, trolls, and the inner critical voice)? Jonathan Merritt, award-winning contributor for The Atlantic, a contributing editor for The Week, and author of several critically-acclaimed books, has some thoughts on how to connect with an audience, how to connect with your own power as a writer, and how to deal with the voices of critics.
Jonathan Merritt is one of America’s most trusted and popular writers on religion, culture, and politics. This episode is for anyone who wants to write publicly, or who wants a behind-the-scenes look at one writer’s life.
jonathanmerritt.com
writebrilliant.com
@jonathan_merritt
facebook.com/JonathanMerrittWriter
twitter.com/jonathanmerritt
youtube.com/channel
What can we do when we feel “blocked” or “stuck”? Healer, writer and breathwork coach Jenna Reiss answers the question, “What is breathwork?” and dives into what to do when you feel unable to move forward—in our writing or in our lives. She’s also working on her first book, and she gets honest about her questions and fears as a first-time author with a book deal.
jennareiss.com@jennamreiss
Amy is a radio host on the Bobby Bones’ show, a mom of two adopted Haitian kids, and an entrepreneur several times over. While she has made a career out of speaking every morning, it wasn’t until recently that she embraced her passions. In this episode, she traces her evolution from “Radio Amy” to “Amy Brown,” a woman proud of who she is and unabashed about the projects which speak to her heart.
Amy Brown defines “finding your voice” as “finding what you’re passionate about, finding what you believe in, finding what makes you whole, finding what makes you happy, and sharing that with others.” At 38, she’s embracing who she is at a whole new level.
Podcast: 4 Things with Amy Brown
OUTWEIGH: A podcast series exposing the 'grey area' of eating disorders
4 Things Gratitude Journal
ESPWA
Pimpin Joy
radioamy.com
twitter.com/RadioAmy
facebook.com/radioamybrown
youtube.com/channel
instagram.com/radioamy
Actress, singer, songwriter and entrepreneur Caitlin Crosby knows about creating something from scratch. But in the midst of responsibilities, projects, and the craziness of life, how do we find what’s important?
This conversation leads us down a path of the challenges of business ownership, balancing work and family, discovering what’s really important to you, and of course Caitlin’s journey to include her entire life story in a book.
Caitlin shares about the person behind the projects, and how she keeps embracing herself and what’s closest to her heart.
Websites: thegivingkeys.com, caitlincrosby.com
TED Talk about Giving Keys (1)
TED Talk about Giving Keys (2)
Podcast: Real Good Company
Writing holds up a mirror... and we don’t always like what we see.
In this episode, Hollywood producer and actor Alex Beh approaches the uncomfortable fact that writing reveals what’s inside—our biases, our addictions, and the ways we participate in objectifying systems. The good news? Writing doesn’t leave you there.
Part of finding your voice is learning to shut up, listen to others, receive feedback, and have the courage to admit when there's something you need to work on.
Beh gets very honest about the entertainment industry, about his personal life, and about what writing has revealed for him. Whether you’re creating a screenplay or a book, writing exposes what’s below the surface and, potentially, can bring transformation.
alexbeh.com
instagram.com/alexbeh
twitter.com/alexbeh
Mentioned: onsiteworkshops.com
It wasn’t that long ago the internet didn’t exist. Now, more than ever, who you are feels connected to how you present yourself online. Which brings up the question: How does the “real” you compare to the brand of yourself you put online? If you’ve ever thought about how the internet is changing the way we view ourselves, pick up Jia Tolentino’s Trick Mirror: Reflections on Self-Delusion.
Ever wondered if you’re “too young” to write a book? (or too—anything! You fill in the blank!) At age 19, Lauren Kinney decided that the only “qualification” she needed was her own permission. With her first published book, Unshakeable: Overcoming Fear to Discover a Life of Freedom, out now, Kinney’s story shows us all that, if we’re making excuses not to write, we’re getting in our own way.
Lauren Kinney is an author and blogger based in Arlington, Texas. Connect with her on Instagram @laurennkinney or at thelaurenkinney.com
Speaker and storytelling coach Mike Pacchione (miketalks.co) addresses the obstacles of “being yourself”—in life, on the stage, and on the page. While covering distinctions and similarities between speaking and writing, Mike provides practical steps for how to calm anxiety and how to design an engaging (and authentic) speech.
Mentioned:
Why Not Me by Mindy Kaling
Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me (and Other Concerns) by Mindy Kaling
Leslie Marmon Silko’s book Ceremonynot only displays the depth of creativity in Indigenous literature, it invites us all into a journey of reconciling ourselves, our past, and our future with the people around us. Listen to hear how this book impacted one reader's life, and then order a copy for yourself!
If you’ve ever wondered if full-time, successful writers struggle with self-doubt or procrastination—or if they've ever wished they could take back what they printed—Kirsten Powers has your answer. Kirsten is a bestselling author, a columnist, and political analyst. She writes for USA today and is an on-air political analyst for CNN. In this episode, she talks about finding her voice, writing, and the self-discovery happening in her own life right now.
Kirsten Powers' podcast: How to Do You
How to Do You episode "Processing Grief During the Coronavirus with Grief Expert David Kessler"
Books mentioned:
Fiancé Robert Draper’s next book: To Start a War: How the Bush Administration Took America into Iraq
The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles by Steven Pressfield
The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself by Michael A. Singer
The Road Back to You by Ian Cron
Kim Gravel is surrounded by hustle. She’s a TV personality, QVC host, hugely successful entrepreneur, business badass who built a multimillion dollar industry from scratch, beauty queen and pageant winner including a former Miss Georgia (one of the youngest Miss Georgia’s on record).
But she’s also learned that finding your purpose is not in the hustle.
Listen for insight on how to achieve your dreams, and, after all of her success and accomplishments, the message on this woman’s heart.
In Just Mercy, Bryan Stevenson eloquently displays how unjust our criminal justice system is. Read his book to face the real stories of the people on Death Row, what got them there, and what one man did to try for justice.
Book Review:Just Mercy by Bryan Stevenson
The Equal Justice Initiative: eji.org
This prompt is all about unpacking what we believe and why. Mary Oliver says it best in her poem "Angels."
Join thousands of others, creating positive change in their lives through writing: get free writing prompts in your inbox, every Monday: findyourvoice.com/prompts
Listen for two questions you need to ask to find your voice, Don's tips and tricks on writing, and how words can help you navigate times of crisis.
Donald Miller is the author of several best-selling books, including Building a Storybrand and his newest book Marketing Made Simple. He's also founder of Storybrand, a company dedicated to helping businesses clarify their message.
Now is the best time to write a book. Finish the book you've always wanted to write: findyourvoice.com/publish.
This prompt helps us focus on the fact that we are co-creators of the positive (and there's a bonus writing tip!).
Join thousands of others, creating positive change in their lives through writing: get free writing prompts in your inbox, every Monday: findyourvoice.com/prompts
A speaking career helps anyone who wants to be an author, refine their ideas, understand their audience, or grow a platform. Grant Baldwin, author of The Successful Speakerand founder of The Speaker Lab, shows us where to start when it comes to public speaking, demystifies the illusive speaking circuit, and leads us through what speaking has to teach us about writing (and, as a bonus, gives speakers advice for this current pandemic).
His book! The Successful Speaker: Five Steps for Booking Gigs, Getting Paid, and Building Your Platform
grantbaldwin.com
thespeakerlab.com/podcast
speakerlab.com/book
When it comes to self-improvement, it's easy to focus on what we want to change about ourselves. But what if we focused on our strengths?
Research shows that consistent writing can improve your mood, reduce your anxiety and even improve your immune system by over 50%! Sign up for weekly prompts, delivered straight to your inbox, at FindYourVoice.com/prompts.
In Daring Greatly, Brené Brown says, “If you own the story, you get to write the ending.” What does it mean to “own” the story—and what is the cost of ignoring parts of ourselves?
Book Review Book: Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brené Brown
Mentioned: The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown
Writing helps us identify our coping mechanisms and honestly evaluate what helps and what absolutely does not (and Ally shares her number one stressor right now). Listen and write for 5-20 minutes.
In this stressful season, sign up for GrowWrite, a 90-day program to help you grow through challenges by putting pen to paper.
Writing can impact your personal and professional life in ways you might not expect. Laura Youngkin is an entertainment producer, writer, creative consultant, and former Disney Imagineerwork. She shares how the practice of writing impacts, shapes, and transforms her life.
Ted Talk mentioned: Hardwired for story, Sarah-Jane “SJ” Murray, TEDxSanAntonio
thebravemillennial.comtwitter.com/llyoungkin
People say that roadblocks can become opportunities. But how does that happen? It’s not a flip of a switch. This episode provides a case study on how an obstacle at Find Your Voice, through an intentional shift in perspective, became an opportunity. Now, it’s your turn.
GrowWrite, a 90-day program to help you grow through challenges by putting pen to paper:findyourvoice.com/growwrite
Healing takes time—it’s true. And yet, there are still ways we can help ourselves heal (and make more progress than we ever thought imaginable). Miles Adcox is a speaker, podcast host, business leader, and coach. He’s also the CEO of Onsite an internationally-known emotional wellness center that delivers life-changing personal growth workshops, founder of Inspire Nashville, a regular guest presenter on the Dr. Phil Show and author. A leading voice in mental health, he speaks, here, on change, creativity and the writing process.
MilesAdcox.com
Unspoken Podcast
What do we do to cope with stress? Writing helps us see clearly how we are responding to a crisis, and empowers us to make choices about what’s helpful and what’s not. Take a moment this week to tune in to your own pain and fear and imagine a new way ending.
findyourvoice.com/prompts
In the midst of kids going off to college and other chaos, Amy Brown read The Road Back to You—it turned out to be just what she needed to make personal changes, connect with others, and rediscover herself.
Book Reviewed:The Road Back to You: an Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery by Ian Cron and Suzanne Stabile
Book mentioned:The Wisdom of the Enneagram
Anxiety is an incredibly normal part of life—a natural, biological response to danger. But in times of crisis, how do we keep our anxiety from hurting us more than it helps?
For Laura McKowen, writing, sobriety, and the life she always wanted are inextricably linked. Laura is a leading voice in the sobriety movement—she’s helped THOUSANDS on the road to healing through her writing, speaking and teaching, and especially through her newly released, thought-provoking memoir, We are the Luckiest. She opens up here on her own journey, and what role writing had along the way.
Find Your Voice is so proud to have worked with Laura on her most recent book, We are the Luckiest: the Surprising Magic of a Sober Life.
“We Are the Luckiest is a masterpiece. It’s the truest, most generous, honest, and helpful sobriety memoir I’ve read. It’s going to save lives.” — Glennon Doyle, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Love Warrior: A Memior
It’s the age-old question: go with your head or your heart? In situations of love, work, and day-to-day life, we’re faced with this question all the time. Writing about it sheds light on the unexpected answer.
Sign up for FREE weekly writing prompts.
Anne Bogel, creator of The Modern Mrs. Darcy and podcast What Should I Read Next?, gets real about the wandering process of writing, what makes books different than other media, and why people still go to the library. Purchase her brand new book, Don’t Overthink It: Make Easier Decisions, Stop Second-Guessing, and Bring More Joy to Your Life.
Let’s talk about decision-making. What can we do to listen to our gut, prioritize what matters, and sort through the myriad of choices available to us instantly (seemingly from anywhere, on any device)? Mentioned in the episode: NY Times article: Do You Suffer from Decision Fatigue?
Sometimes, we want to make life decisions which "break the mold." How do we find that confidence—and what happens when we take that leap of faith? Today's book recommendation is Elisabeth Eaves' Wanderlust: A Love Affair with Five Continents, a travel memoir, reviewed by Prepare to Publish alumni Emily Booth. Another travel memoir, Find Your Voice founder Allison Fallon's first book, Packing Light, also mentioned in this episode.
Write to reimagine what "success" might mean for you (and try this simple writing tip!).
Join thousands of others, creating positive change in their lives through writing: get free writing prompts in your inbox, every Monday: findyourvoice.com/prompts
One writers's journey from blogging to published author and teacher. Emily P. Freeman, writer, podcast host and speaker, talks about the art and business writing: the tension between them, the importance of knowing the difference, and the power of combining the two.
emilypfreeman.comhopewriters.com@emilypfreeman @thehopewritersMadeleine L'Engle - Walking on WaterParker J. Palmer - Let Your Life Speak
Ever think about how the people around you shape your life? Write to find out why your life looks the way it does, and to identify where you'd like to make some changes. findyourvoice.com/prompts
For Caleb Campbell, finding his voice meant leaving his career in the NFL to clean toilets in Canada. Now, Caleb is a professional speaker, life coach, and co-host of the podcast, Kara and Caleb: Live in the Questions Now, and he’s writing a book about his journey to accepting himself. Join us as we discuss writing, purpose, and what it means to start over, completely.
calebcampbell.me@calebcampbellpodcast: Kara and Caleb: Live In the Questions Now
Can you name what you love about yourself? Writing empowers us to change what we see in the mirror. Get free writing prompts in your inbox: findyourvoice.com/prompts
Prepare to Publish alumni Brooke Johnson dives into a time in her life when she wasn't motivated to read—and the surprising book which brought her the words she needed to hear.
Get your copy here:
The Boy in the Black Suit by Jason Reynolds
For Mary Hyatt, Brene Brown’s Daring Greatly **was a wake up call. What does it mean to live authentically? Now a guide for others on this journey, life coach and meditation teacher Mary Hyatt discusses practical steps to access your inner wisdom through writing, meditation, and small first steps towards a new story.
Books mentioned in this episode:**
- Daring Greatly
- Loveability by Robert Holden
More of Mary Hyatt:
- Living Fully Alive podcast
- MaryHyatt.com
- YouTube channel
A practice of writing has more impact than you think . . . and you might be the one standing in your own way. Best-selling author and Find Your Voice founder Allison Fallon shares how she discovered the far-reaching influence of a writing practice and the story of when she first saw herself as a writer.