The Single Greatest Choice: Recent Episodes
Katie B
The Single Greatest Choice is a podcast about singleness, fertility, motherhood, and choice. This is a show for women who are grappling with what to do when life doesn't follow the love-marriage-baby carriage trajectory. It's about exploring the options when things don't seem to be turning out as we'd always planned. Most of all, is a place for women give and receive support as they grapple with these big topics - because what we decide to do with these years could be the single greatest choice we'll ever make - and we don't have to make it alone.
In this episode, we discuss:
- The lack of visible role models for women who consciously choose a childfree life;
- The struggle of making the life-defining decision of becoming a parent or not which feels deeply personal, yet often misunderstood;
- How societal expectations lead people to feel entitled to ask personal questions about choices like childfree living or solo motherhood;
- How Keltie supports women making the right decision for themselves around parenthood;
- How the decision whether or not to have kids isn’t always a binary choice;
- The emotional process of holding space for grief around a life that isn’t what you imagined it would be, and making it beautiful nonetheless;
- And more!
👩👧👦The Single Greatest Choice is here to support you in every stage of your SMBC journey through 1:1 coaching, community groups, group coaching and workshops, and retreats and SMBC family trips.
In this episode, we discuss:
- The pressures women often feel to fit men into their lives to fulfill societal expectation
- Jamela’s decision to pursue solo motherhood after her divorce at 37;
- How her mom played an active role in her decision to become a solo mom by choice;
- The emotional journey of mourning both her marriage and the traditional family dream;
- The challenges and rewards of being a single mother in African American culture;
- Her fierce advocacy for herself in the fertility process and how important it is to ask questions;
- How she leaned into her faith and her community when the path was challenging;
- The importance of prioritizing your self care and your own happiness, even as a mom of newborn twins;
- The biggest benefit of being a solo mom according to Jamela;
- And more!
Connect with Jamela on Instagram
👩👧👦The Single Greatest Choice is here to support you in every stage of your SMBC journey through 1:1 coaching, community groups, group coaching and workshops, and retreats and SMBC family trips.
Born and raised in a close-knit Michigan community, Whitney always knew she wanted to be a mom. But after years of dating and only one long-term relationship in her 20s, she found herself single at 34. Instead of waiting for the "perfect" time or partner, she took control of her fertility and started her journey to solo motherhood. Through IVF, multiple rounds of retrievals and transfers, and unwavering determination, Whitney welcomed her son into the world.
In this episode, Whitney opens up about the emotional and physical challenges of her fertility journey, how Instagram helped her connect with other women going through similar experiences, and how she's embraced life as a solo mom. She also sheds light on how she’s continued to follow her own professional dreams and passions, even as she’s parenting solo.
Whitney’s story is a powerful reminder that when it comes to following your dreams—especially the dream of motherhood, sometimes the time is now. If you’ve ever found yourself wondering, “What am I waiting for?” this episode will resonate deeply with you.
In this episode, Whitney shares:
- Why she decided to pursue motherhood on her own and what led to her 'aha' moment;
- The reactions from her family and how they supported her decision to be a solo mom;
- Her IVF journey: the reality of four retrievals and three transfers before achieving a successful pregnancy;
- The role social media played in connecting her with other solo moms and women navigating fertility;
- How she handled the societal responses to her pregnancy as a single woman;
- The joy and fulfillment she experiences now as a mom to a 1.5-year-old son;
- Her transition into motherhood and postpartum life;
- How she launched her company iWellness Center as founder and CEO.
You can connect with Whitney on Instagram @wjfoley and check out her business at www.iwellnesscenter.org.
👩👧👦The Single Greatest Choice is here to support you in every stage of your SMBC journey through 1:1 coaching, community groups, group coaching and workshops, and retreats and SMBC family trips.
In this episode, Virginia shares:
- How a surprise pregnancy and subsequent miscarriage reignited her desire to have another child, this time as a single mom by choice;
- The reactions she received from family and friends when she chose to pursue motherhood on her own;
- Why she traveled from Canada to the USA for her fertility process and the factors that influenced her choice of a donor;
- Her experience with IUI and the challenges she faced during her pregnancy, from intense morning sickness to balancing running a business and pregnancy;
- The importance of creating a nurturing space as a solo parent and how she applies Feng Shui principles to her own home;
- The experience of connecting with other families who used the same donor and what this could mean for her child in the future.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
- Ellis Kelly Interior Alchemy (Ginny's business, alongside her sister Natalie)
- October 7 Nursery Design Workshop with Virginia Drader & The Single Greatest Choice
👩👧👦The Single Greatest Choice is here to support you in every stage of your SMBC journey through 1:1 coaching, community groups, group coaching and workshops, and retreats and SMBC family trips.
Valerie Bauman, is an investigative reporter for Newsweek, solo mother by choice, and author of one of my favorite memoirs in the solo moms space, Inconceivable:Super Sperm Donors, Off-the-Grid Insemination, and Unconventional Family Planning. I devoured Valerie’s book during a 30-hour airport layover, and by the time I finished, I felt like I had spent the day with her, getting to know her as a friend.
We dive deep into Valerie’s journey, from her experience considering sperm banks or a close friend to ultimately finding a known donor on Facebook. She openly discusses the emotional challenges of navigating this path, including a heartbreaking miscarriage, before welcoming her now 3.5-month-old baby boy. Valerie's story is a testament to the resilience and strength of women who, as she puts it, "intentionally build what they want."
Our conversation also touches on important topics such as the bioethics of the sperm donation industry, the anxiety that often accompanies pregnancy, and making empowered choices as a mother. If you’ve ever felt torn between the life you want and societal expectations, this episode will resonate deeply.
In this episode, we discuss:
- Valerie’s decision to become a mom during the pandemic and what sparked her journey;
- Navigating the sperm donor process and finding a donor on Facebook;
- The shift from considering traditional sperm banks to seeking a known donor;
- Her miscarriage and the emotional toll of almost accepting life without motherhood;
- Anxiety during pregnancy and the struggle of waiting for the other shoe to drop;
- The power of creating the life you want as a woman—regardless of societal norms;
- Bioethics in the sperm donation industry and the need for better regulation;
- And more!
👩👧👦The Single Greatest Choice is here to support you in every stage of your SMBC journey through 1:1 coaching, community groups, group coaching and workshops, and retreats and SMBC family trips.
👩👧👦The Single Greatest Choice is here to support you in every stage of your SMBC journey through 1:1 coaching, community groups, group coaching and workshops, and retreats and SMBC family trips.
In this episode on the mating gap and egg freezing, we discuss:
- The challenges created by the shortage of eligible, educated men.
- How the education gap between men and women affects dating dynamics.
- How societal expectations and outdated gender norms are contributing to this issue.
- Why considering partners from diverse educational backgrounds can be beneficial.
- The psychological benefits of egg freezing for single women.
- How women are making empowered choices about their reproductive futures.
Marcia's insights reveal the unique struggles women face today and offer a fresh perspective on how assisted reproductive technologies are changing the landscape of motherhood. Tune in to hear more about her study, the concept of the "mating gap," and why so many women are rethinking what it means to have it all.
For full show notes, visit www.singlegreatestchoice.com/podcast-feed/s7-ep1-marcia-inhorn-motherhood-on-ice
👩👧👦The Single Greatest Choice is here to support you in every stage of your SMBC journey through 1:1 coaching, community groups, group coaching and workshops, and retreats and SMBC family trips.
My final guest of this season is Ashley Coates, a longtime Instagram friend and solo mom by choice living in Portland, Oregon. When Ashley decided to pursue solo motherhood, she decided to ask a close friend to be her known donor. What happened next feels almost too good to be true. Tune in as Ashley shares her experience of navigating conception, pregnancy and birth with a known donor and the unexpected joy of extending her family from coast to coast. 👩👧👦The Single Greatest Choice is here to support you in every stage ofyour SMBC journey through 1:1 coaching, community groups, groupcoaching and workshops, and retreats and SMBC family trips.
We discuss more about…..
- The transition from corporate life to focusing on solo motherhood.
- The joys and challenges of parenting during a global pandemic.
- Her mother’s health crisis and its impact on her responsibilities.
- The process of writing her book featuring stories of 20 Australian SMBCs.
- Strategies for achieving a better work/life balance.
- Prioritizing experiences over material luxuries.
- Tips and wisdom for other women considering the solo motherhood path.
This episode is a must-listen for anyone considering or already on the path to becoming a solo mom by choice. And if you missed her previous episodes on the SGC Podcast, make sure you tune into those by using the links below!
Connect with Alisha!
Follow her on social media! Website | Podcast | @solomumsociety | @noneedforprincecharming
Learn more and check out her latest book HERE
Mentioned Resources
S1, Ep 14: No Need for Prince Charming with Alisha Burns
S4, Ep 3: Books For Your Child's Bookshelf
Your Dream Life Starts Here by Kristina Karlsson
More info about coaching, community groups, and retreats at www.singlegreatestchoice.com/
We discuss more about…..
- Elizabeth’s journey to fostering and adoption.
- Balancing professional life with motherhood.
- The emotional and logistical challenges of fostering.
- dating and introducing our children to a future partner.
- Building and relying on a support system.
- Insights and advice for those considering fostering or adoption.
Connect with Elizabeth!
Website | Instagram | Instant Mom Podcast
Check out the Central General Store!
Website | Instagram
Learn more about the SGC Childbirth 101 Class for solo moms!
More info about coaching, community groups, and retreats at www.singlegreatestchoice.com/
We discuss more about…..
- Emily's initial adoption research and the steps involved in the process.
- The emotional journey and uncertainties of getting matched.
- The costs and logistical aspects of adopting in the U.S.
- Adjusting to motherhood and balancing work with childcare.
- The importance of support and strong friendships in solo motherhood.
More info about coaching and community groups at www.singlegreatestchoice.com/coaching
We discuss more about…..
- Celine's transition into embracing single motherhood.
- The challenges and emotional journey of egg retrieval and embryo transfer.
- Moving from the Netherlands to Sedona, and eventually to New York City.
- The vital role of community and support for SMBCs.
- Balancing business and motherhood, and the importance of surrounding oneself with supportive influences.
- Celine’s birth and postpartum experience.
Connect with Celine!
Follow her on social media! Instagram | Website |Media
More info about coaching and community groups at www.singlegreatestchoice.com/coaching
We discuss more about…..
- What the fertility process looks like in Colombia
- The raw emotions while undergoing IV
- Deciding whether or not to have a second child
- Support and expectations during pregnancy and postpartum
More info about 1:1 coaching, group coaching and community groups with The Single Greatest Choice at www.singlegreatestchoice.com/
When Danielle and Paige were ready to grow their family, they knew the route of a traditional sperm bank wasn't right for them. They went to great lengths to find a known donor by tapping into their own network and doing a TON of legwork. After walking that path themselves, they decided to create The Seed Scout to help other families who were looking for options beyond the big, impersonal and deeply flawed major cryobanks.
We discuss more about…..
- The journey of exploring alternative paths to parenthood beyond traditional sperm banks.
- The significance of building trusting relationships with potential donors.
- Establishing The Seed Scout as a business.
- The need for ethical and transparent practices in the donor conception industry.
- Acknowledging donors as individuals and fostering a supportive environment.
Connect with The Seed Scout!
Follow them on social media! Website | Instagram | TikTok
More info about coaching and community groups at www.singlegreatestchoice.com/coaching
If you’ve been going back and forth about whether or not to have a second child as a SMBC, you’re not alone! I frequently get asked about this topic, and it’s one that’s on my mind a lot these days. From making decisions about egg and embryo freezing to deciding on spacing between children to weighing the pros and cons of being “one and done”...there’s a lot to think about!In this episode, I’m opening the conversation and asking SMBCs with one or more kids to share their thoughts about growing their families. What drives their desire to add more, or conversely, what factors help them decide their family is complete as it is? These audio clips provide a range of perspectives and bring up lots of important considerations. As always, the goal of this podcast is to help women like you and me feel less alone, and I hope these reflections help to do that in some small way no matter where you are in your motherhood journey!More info about coaching and community groups at www.singlegreatestchoice.com/coaching
For years, Meredith and her gay best friend had a running joke that if they were both still single without kids by a certain point, they’d have a child together. Recently, Meredith decided it was time to take that joke seriously. In our conversation, she’ll explain more about her decision, the arrangements she’s making with her known donor, and how she’s prepping for her future life as a single mom.
We discuss more about…..
- ICI/IUI vs IVF
- Prioritizing community as a single mom
- Finding a doctor that’s right for you
- Practical considerations when working with a known donor
- Living with her supportive mom
Check out The Backup Plan Podcast!
Website | Instagram | TikTok | Youtube
Mentioned Resources
Cosmo article with Lala Kent
More info about coaching and community groups at
www.singlegreatestchoice.com/coaching
Carla shares her experience from exploring surrogacy options to the complex matching process and the major impact of spiritual faith on her decision-making. She also reflects on the important trust and connection required in the surrogate relationship, and the joys and challenges of pregnancy through the lens of surrogacy. Join us as Carla's story inspires and illuminates the possibilities of motherhood that go beyond conventional norms, embracing the transformative power of love as a single mom by choice.
We discuss more about…..
- Carla’s infertility journey and Adenomyosis diagnosis.
- Navigating the gestational surrogacy process.
- The physical, mental, and spiritual toll of being fully present for the surrogate mother.
- The intersection of faith and fertility.
Mentioned Resources
https://www.familymatchconsulting.com/
More info about coaching and community groups at
www.singlegreatestchoice.com/coaching
New episodes coming every other Wednesday, starting March 20! Get more info and sign up for Guest Expert Workshops, Community Groups, and the SGC Directory at www.singlegreatestchoice.com.
Join Katie and the community for a 90 minute collaborative New Years goal setting and celebrating event! Get signed up at www.singlegreatestchoice.com/coaching. The event is Sunday, January 7 @ 6:30pm central. See you there!
Connect with Keina!
Website | Instagram | Facebook | Podcast
Mentioned Resources
Money Files - 96 | From Finances to Motherhood: Let’s Talk Money Coaching
Check out the SGC Directory!
Email Katie for the password: katie@singlegreatestchoice.com
Join us in El Cuyo, Mexico March 10-15, 2024!
www.singlegreatestchoice.com/el-cuyo-2024
More info about coaching and community groups at www.singlegreatestchoice.com/coaching
In this episode, we discuss more about…..
- Advocating for regulations and safety within the sperm donation industry.
- The dangers of excessively large sibling groups.
- Practical advice for prospective parents seeking donors.
- How to support donor-conceived children.
- Legislative initiatives such as the HR451 fertility fraud legislation.
Connect with Laura!
Follow her on social media! Instagram | Website | TikTok | Podcast
Watch Laura’s TikTok video rating sperm banks
Check out the SGC Directory!
Email Katie for the password: katie@singlegreatestchoice.com
More info about coaching and community groups at www.singlegreatestchoice.com/coaching
Join us in El Cuyo, Mexico March 10-15, 2024!
www.singlegreatestchoice.com/el-cuyo-2024
In this episode, we discuss more about…..
- Lack of regulation in the sperm donation industry.
- Dylan's personal journey, navigating the emotional complexities of moving from being an unknown to known donor.
- Ethical considerations and best practices for parents and donors.
- The shifts in attitudes among donor-conceived children as social norms and parenting practices are changing.
- The complexities of navigating roles and relationships with each of Dylan’s recipient families individually.
- Dylan's advocacy work and writing project focused on bringing more awareness to what needs to change with donor conception.
Connect with Dylan!
Follow him on social media! Website | Instagram | TikTok
Check out these organizations in the donor conception space!
U.S. Donor Conceived Council: www.usdcc.org
Donor Conceived Community: donorconceivedcommunity.org
Mentioned Resources
We Are Donor Conceived 2020 Survey Report
More info about coaching and retreats www.singlegreatestchoice.com/
We discuss more about…..
- Rose's transition from corporate law to fertility law.
- Sperm banks vs known donors: legal insights.
- Finding a reproductive attorney and questions to ask.
- Legal complexities of egg and embryo donations.
- Challenges in the world of fertility law.
Connect with Rose!
Follow her on social media! Instagram | Website
More info about coaching and community groups at www.singlegreatestchoice.com/coaching
In our conversation, Julie takes us through the hurdles of healing from past traumas, addressing fertility challenges, and how she first became a mom. She is extremely passionate about parents teaching their children how to become a part of their lives and encourages moms to take that vacation, kids in tow! She provides incredible tips on traveling with kids as a single parent that you will not want to miss. Trust me, she’s the expert, so get ready to take some notes!
We discuss more about…..
- Fitting our children into our lives, not the other way around.
- Adoption and healing from past trauma.
- Fertility challenges and the decision to be a single mom.
- The legal aspects of her parenting arrangement.
- Julie’s best travel tips as a single parent.
Connect with Julie!
Follow her on social media! Instagram | Website |Podcast – Launching Nov 2023 – Sign up to receive updates
Mentioned Resources - Check out these resorts with baby clubs & childcare options! All can be booked with Julie’s agency – www.influencedtravelagency.com
- Franklyn D. Resort
- Melia and Paradisus Hotels
- Palladium Hotel Group
- Coconut Bay - St Lucia
- Club Med
More info about coaching and community groups at www.singlegreatestchoice.com/coaching
Join us in Sedona December 29 - January 2! www.singlegreatestchoice.com/retreats-sedona-2024
In this episode, we discuss more about…..
- Becky’s decision to be a single mom by choice.
- Fertility issues and the importance of finding a doctor you can trust.
- Seeking support through online communities.
- Dating as a single mom by choice.
- How Becky unexpectedly found love.
- Growing a blended family.
More info about coaching and community groups at www.singlegreatestchoice.com/coaching
Join us in Sedona December 29 - January 2! www.singlegreatestchoice.com/retreats-sedona-2024
Throughout our discussion, Sara opens up about the series of events that led to the birth of her son, Micah, as well as her deliberate (sort of) decision to embrace single motherhood. We explore the advantages and challenges of co-parenting, examine the various choices available for expanding one's family with a second child, and gain insights into her journey within the coaching realm.
We discuss more about…..
- Defying norms and “choosing” an unconventional family structure.
- Co-parenting arrangements.
- Pursuing new relationships as a single mom.
- Knowing how/when to have a second child.
- The significant role of connection between loved ones.
Connect with Sara!
Follow her on social media! Instagram | Website | Podcast
Mentioned Resources
Lunchbreak Journaling For Moms: https://www.saragraybeal.com/lunch-break-journaling-for-moms
Supercharge Your Creativity: https://www.saragraybeal.com/superchargeyourcreativity
More info about coaching and community groups at www.singlegreatestchoice.com/coaching
Join us in Sedona December 29 - January 2!
www.singlegreatestchoice.com/retreats-sedona-2024
In this episode, we discuss more about…..
- What led Rachel to desire to become a single mom by choice.
- The unexpected turns in the search for a donor.
- How she’s changed since becoming a mom.
- Navigating pregnancy and postpartum while doing it solo.
- Launching her Instagram account and handling the critics.
Connect with Rachel!
Follow her on social media! Instagram | Facebook
Mentioned Resources
Instagram Reel on the psychological damage of not having a dad.
We Are Family by Susan Golombok: https://www.amazon.com/We-Are-Family-Transformation-Children/dp/1541758641
More info about coaching and community groups at www.singlegreatestchoice.com/coaching
Join us in Sedona December 29 - January 2!
www.singlegreatestchoice.com/retreats-sedona-2024
Elizabeth wears multiple hats as a postpartum doula, lactation counselor (soon-to-be consultant), infant massage instructor, and infant sleep consultant. After years of dedicated work, she took a courageous step towards single parenthood and welcomed her son in the midst of the pandemic. Join us as we delve into her fascinating journey, exploring her roles as a supportive professional and a mother who embraces the beauty of non-traditional family structures.
We discuss more about…..
- Elizabeth's journey to becoming a single parent.
- Her unique experience of selecting a donor.
- How she’s preparing for baby #2.
- Navigating career paths and growing her skills.
- Balancing professional and personal life as an entrepreneur.
Handling life’s transitions while maintaining her empowering roles.
Connect with Elizabeth!
www.empoweringmama.com
Follow her on social media! Instagram | Facebook | Tiktok
Enroll now for The Thriving Postpartum Course!
Mentioned Resources
Big Brother Learns All About Babies by Itty Bitty Newborn
More info about coaching and community groups at www.singlegreatestchoice.com/coaching
Join us in Sedona December 29 - January 2!
www.singlegreatestchoice.com/retreats-sedona-2024
Through her work as an author and speaker, Kiara has been on a transformative path connecting with donor-conceived children and prospective parents, opening the door to a world often overlooked in mainstream narratives. In our conversation, she describes more about her journey of self-discovery, meeting her donor siblings, and the beauty of creating her own family on her terms.
We discuss more about…..
- Writing Chosen Family and connecting with donor-conceived children.
- The power of honesty and representation in shaping Kiara's positive story.
- Redefining family and embracing the concept of chosen family.
- Building strong bonds with donor siblings and fostering connections.
- Embracing solo parenthood and reframing perspectives on motherhood.
Connect with Kiara!
www.kiararaeschuh.com
Follow her on IG: @kiararaeschuh
Chosen Family is available now on Amazon!
More info about SGC coaching and community groups at www.singlegreatestchoice.com/coaching
In this episode, Katie interviews another yet another smart, creative, soulful and wise SMBC in the making (seriously...I am so blown away by the women who are making this choice. It never gets old!). Chekwube is a 31 year old Black queer femme novelist, poet, artist, and professor living and working in Los Angeles. Her warmth and intentionality shine through, as well as her desire for motherhood. I hope you enjoy meeting her as much as I did!
You can connect with Chekwube and learn more about her work through her website: https://codanladi.com/ More info about coaching and community groups at www.singlegreatestchoice.com/coaching
I dare you to listen to this episode and NOT be inspired! Halima is a woman who is living life to it's fullest. A few years back, she began the process of shedding every part of life that didn't feel like the truest version of herself - and I am not talking about cleaning out her closet. We are talking about the big things...her job, her marriage, her home - Halima let it all go in order to pursue her deepest desire for motherhood. I am so excited for you to meet my friend and share in her absolute joy at the idea of becoming a solo parent. Halima is one of those people who makes me so very thankful to be on this solo parenting path, and I can't wait to share her story with you. If you want to connect with her, she's @halimaanderson on IG. Enjoy!
Meghann shares her incredible story of overcoming loss and serious health complications while on her path to solo motherhood. Listen to hear how she beat the odds and stopped at nothing to create her beautiful family as a solo mom to two beautiful donor-embryo conceived kids. Meghann is a trauma surgeon, a pregnancy loss survivor and an amputee. She's had many opportunities to allow circumstances to drag her down, but she's risen above them all to create a beautiful life for herself and her two children. You can connect with Meg on the Quora platfrom @Meghann Kaiser.For more information about The Single Greatest Choice Yoga & Coaching Retreat, visit www.singlegreatestchoice.com/retreats. To enroll in upcoming group coaching, visit www.singlegreatestchoice.com/group-coaching
In this episode, Katie talks to friend and former coaching client Anna. Anna worked with Katie back in early 2021 as she pursued her own solo mom journey in the midst of the covid-19 pandemic. After a significant breakup and a move back to her hometown, Anna decided to continue dating while she waited for the covid-19 vaccine to become widely available before she began trying to conceive with a donor. This episode tells Anna's story - one that didn't turn out the way she planned! For more information about coaching, community groups, and the Single Greatest Choice Yoga + Coaching Retreat, visit www.singlegreatestchoice.com
In this episode, Katie mentions @giftearlybird, an investing app where you can save for your child's future. If you create an account and use the code gifteb.co/3FZc2ob, you'll automatically get $15 deposited in your child's account. The app is super cool and customer service is excellent. I highly recommend this method of creating a little nest egg for your little one's future!
Christina Bernhard is a SMBC in Austin, Texas who Katie feels lucky to call a friend. Katie and Christina connected first on Instagram, then in real life. They share a passion for thought work and self-coaching, and both have used these tools to create a life they truly love as single mothers by choice. You'll love getting to know Christina, and I hope you'll go follow her and meet her gorgeous baby girl Aria over on Instagram @mschristinab. As always, you can find more info about the Single Greatest Choice Coaching & Community Groups over at www.singlegreatestchoice.com/coaching
Katie had a night off from parenting, and instead of drinking wine and reading an amazing novel (The Arc by Tory Hoen - you should definitely check it out!), she ended up recording this unscripted podcast about why she's hosting the Single Greatest Choice Retreat in El Cuyo, Mexico June 28-July 2 and why you might consider joining. Learn more at www.singlegreatestchoice.com/retreats and schedule a call with Katie if you think you might be interested. It's the trip of a lifetime!
In this episode, Katie chats with her friend and coaching client, Anne. Anne found the Single Greatest Choice community just as she was beginning her journey to conceive her baby girl. In this episode, Anne divulges what it's like to move forward with solo motherhood while still holding a deep desire for both partnership and travel. Anne is someone who will inspire you to go after it all! You can find her on instagram @alyneis424. Find out more about SGC coaching and community group opportunities at www.singlegreatestchoice.com/coaching
www.myperfectfamilybook.com
@myperfectfamilybook
@noneedforprincecharming
www.thejourneytoyouchildrensbook.com
@thejourneytoyouchildrensbook
"You're My Little..." boardbook series by Nicola Edwards and illustrated by Natalie Marshall
www.pinholepress.com for creating your own spiral-bound board books to tell your child's story
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In this episode, Katie talks with friend and former coaching client, Liz. While exploring the idea of solo motherhood by choice, Liz came across The Single Greatest Choice podcast and became one of Katie's early one-on-one coaching clients. You'll hear us discuss our shared apprehensions about conceiving via donor sperm and raising donor-conceived children. Spoiler alert: Liz worked through her concerns and is now a solo mama to the most adorable baby girl, Mira! Her process is a familiar one: research, research, research, then jump off the cliff! I am sure so many of you will relate to Liz's journey. You can find out more about SGC coaching opportunities at www.singlegreatestchoice.com/coaching
Welcome to a new season of the podcast! In this episode, Katie chats with her friend and coaching client, Lindsay. Lindsay first found Katie through the Single Greatest Choice podcast, then chose to participate in both Group Coaching and the first ever Single Greatest Choice Community Group. Lindsay shares her journey to solo motherhood and some of the resources that have helped her along the way. You can find out more about SGC coaching opportunities at www.singlegreatestchoice.com/coaching
Catch up with Katie after a long break from the podcast. Hear answers to your questions about solo motherhood, the latest on coaching and retreats, and find out Katie's favorite parts of life with a 20 month old toddler!
Join Katie in focusing on personal goals through a lens of self compassion and curiosity in the final quarter of 2022, so that you can start 2023 a better version of yourself. More info on Instagram - follow @single_greatest_choice to play along!
In this episode, Katie shares her favorite coaching tools by applying them to the sometimes emotional experience of choosing a donor as a solo parent. To learn more about these top 3 tools, visit:
- The Life Coach School Podcast by Brooke Castillo, Master Coach Instructor
- Self Compassion by Kristin Neff, PhD
- The Work of Byron Katie
You'll also learn about some upcoming ways to work with Katie, including very limited availability for one-on-one coaching, an upcoming discussion group in Oct-Nov, group coaching in Dec 2022, and the first ever Single Greatest Choice yoga and coaching retreat in Summer 2023! Find out more at www.singlegreatestchoice.com/coaching
In this episode, five women share their stories and perspective about choosing a donor on the path to becoming a Single Mother by Choice.
Holly and Katie describe an unbelievable discovery on the path to solo motherhood. You don't want to miss this story!
In this episode, I mention a few courses I am working through in my final weeks of pregnancy. Here are links in case you are interested:
The Real Deal Childbirth Education (local to Austin, but currently online via Zoom)
The Positive Birth Company Hypnobirthing Digital Pack
Better Birth Stories Online Hypnobirthing Course
Austin Born Infant CPR + Choking + Safety Course (online, on demand)
Taking Cara Babies - First Five Months Bundle
Talitha is a successful, single woman in her 30s who has always known she wanted to be a mom. She took proactive steps in her early thirties to preserve her fertility, but now that she’s into her mid-thirties, she’s questioning what’s next. Should she freeze more eggs? Maybe embryos? Keep searching for that partner and a more traditional route to motherhood, or start considering doing it on her own? Talitha is open and honest about the struggles of being in the midst of this difficult choice of what to do about our finite fertility when life doesn’t work out the way we planned. I know listeners will relate to her story, as it’s one many of us have lived as well.
You can connect with Talitha on Instagram @talithabaker.
Lindsay shares her story of choosing to pursue solo motherhood through the foster-to-adopt system in the Los Angeles area. Listen as she shares the ins and outs of the process, as well as her own thoughts and feelings about marriage, dating, solo parenting and more. Lindsay shares great tips and advice for anyone considering solo parenthood, whether through pregnancy, fostering or adoption. I know you are going to fall in love with her big heart and generous spirit. Thank you Lindsay for sharing your story!
You can connect with Lindsay at: llamallamafostermomma@gmail.com Instagram @mysocalledfosterlife
This week’s guest is Whitney Bischoff Angel, and egg freezing nurse specialist at Ova Egg Freezing in Chicago. Fertility preservation is her career path, but it is also quite personal. Whitney chose to freeze her own eggs back in 2013, and she used her experience on the reality TV series The Bachelor as a platform to bring awareness to issues of women’s reproductive health and fertility. In this episode, Whitney will share about her own experience with egg freezing and motherhood, and she will also provide valuable information for listeners who are just beginning to explore fertility preservation through egg freezing. I am so happy to have Whitney on the show today, especially for listeners who are concerned about their fertility, but not quite ready to make the leap into parenthood.
Ova Egg Freezing can be found at: (312)800-0228 www.ovaeggfreezing.com whitney@ovaeggfreezing.com IG: @ovaeggfreezing
Stay tuned in the last 10 minutes of the show to hear a bonus mini-episode from an anonymous podcast listener!
This week I had the opportunity to talk with Maggie, who learned she has a gene mutation that put her at significantly higher risk for both breast and ovarian cancer. So on top of dealing with the ticking of the biological clock that we all hear to a certain extent, Maggie had even more pressing biological matters to address on her path to motherhood. To me, Maggie’s story stands out because these are exactly the kinds of circumstances that can make us feel hopeless and helpless, like a victim in our own story...unless we chose to write a different, more empowering narrative...which is exactly what Maggie has done. Listen as she shares the ups and downs of her journey in a very candid way. I hope that you’ll learn from her and be inspired by how she has persevered and chosen to see the good in very challenging circumstances.
You can connect with Maggie on Instagram @mwilson102
Heather is a single mom by chance to a preteen boy and a single mom by choice to a baby girl. In this episode, she shares the differences in those two experiences, as well as the joys and struggles of parenting solo. Heather is positive and real about her unconventional path to motherhood. You can find her on Instagram @momversuswild, and watch out for her forthcoming blog www.momversuswild.com, which will be full of tips and tricks for single motherhood!
Today I am doing something I've never done before and sharing an episode of another podcast with you. Kristy Katzmann, host of The Life Unscripted Podcast, generously invited me to be a guest on her new show. Together, we recap my journey to solo motherhood including going on over 50 first dates in order to meet my partner before deciding to embark on becoming a single mother by choice. Whether you've heard my story before or not, I hope you enjoy this recap and the perspective hindsight has given me. Please make sure to go over and subscribe to The Life Unscripted Podcast so that you don't miss a single episode!
https://the-life-unscripted-podcast.simplecast.com/
Nora DeBora is a Preconception Health Coach, Holistic Nutritionist and Yoga Instructor who helps women prepare their bodies for pregnancy and have a healthy baby after age 30. Nora’s connection to the topics we discuss on the show is both personal and professional. While her signature coaching program, Holistic Pregnancy Prep, teaches women to naturally achieve their best health before pregnancy so that mind and body are in the most optimal state to get pregnant, Nora is also a 37 year old single woman who’s passionate about preserving and optimizing her own fertility, as well as exploring the idea of solo motherhood herself in the next few years. You can learn more about Nora at:
www.naturallynora.ca IG @naturally_nora
Dr. Traci is a black, immigrant, queer single mother by choice, who came to the decision to parent alone after surviving an infertility diagnosis and pregnancy loss. She was born and raised in Trinidad & Tobago, where most of her family still lives. After moving to the United States for college and later, grad school, she’s made a life here as a psychologist who specializes in child, adolescent, and family psychology. Dr. Traci is passionate about mental health and access to care, particularly for minority and marginalized people.
Dr. Traci hosts the podcast Healthy, Wealthy Roots - a show born from her life experiences that delves into finances, mental health and parenting. She is passionate about sharing what she’s learning with those who may not have had access to this information before. She believes our futures grow from healthy, wealthy roots.
You can find Dr. Traci in the following places:
Website: https://www.healthywealthyroots.org
Instagram: healthywealthyroots
YouTube: Healthy Wealthy Roots
Clubhouse: hwr
Molly Hawkey is an actor, writer, comedian and host of the podcast SpermCast. In this episode, Katie and Molly talk about the decision to become single mothers by choice, our processes to become pregnant, and what it's been like to go through this experience publicly as podcast hosts. Molly is hilarious and open and has taught the SMC community so much about fertility and conception, miscarriage and pregnancy. I am so grateful that Molly was willing to share her time and her wisdom with us on the show!
Kristy Katzmann is most recently the star of Fox's new reality show, Labor of Love, which highlights the journey of a woman who "has it all," except one thing... a family of her own. At 40 and single, Kristy began actively researching and planning to pursue motherhood on her own when the opportunity to be cast on a show (that was quite literally her life) crossed her path.
She said "yes" in a last effort to meet "the one" or to be sure of her path to motherhood as a Single Mother by Choice. It was her greatest hope that by going public with such a vulnerable part of her life, she could help other women and bring more awareness and acceptance to this very relevant topic.
In her heart, Kristy believed she would ultimately pursue motherhood on her own (and meet the right partner later), and that's exactly what happened (TBD on the partner)! Kristy, like many of us, has had to grieve the loss of not getting the story she wanted, but today she is so grateful and excited to be a part of this amazing community. Now that she’s here, she says she truly wouldn't want it any other way. Kristy has never wanted a "normal" life, so this just seems like a very fitting part of the journey!
Follow Katie on Instagram for the pictures from this episode.
New Group: www.facebook.com/groups/singlegreatestchoice
You can find Dr. Crawford at:
- Instagram @nataliecrawfordmd
- TikTok @nataliecrawfordmd
- YouTube - Natalie Crawford, MD
- https://www.nataliecrawfordmd.com/
- As a Woman Podcast
In this episode, you'll hear about:
- how Mecca was blindsided by premature diminished ovarian reserve at age 36
- choosing to create embryos with donor sperm for fertility preservation
- the importance of talking with a reproductive psychologist as part of your fertility treatment
- what to consider when choosing a donor
- how race considerations can impact donor selection
- going through round after round of egg retrieval to bank embryos for the future
- Mecca's top three pieces of advice for other women on the path to solo motherhood
You can connect with Mecca on Instagram @thepathtomama
In this episode, Katie referenced:
- The Life Coach School Podcast with Brooke Castillo
- The Work of Byron Katie
- Christine Hassler
- Self Compassion with Dr. Kristin Neff
To learn more about working with me as your coach, visit www.singlegreatestchoice.com/coaching. I'd love to work with you!
After the unexpected death of her husband, Shelle became a life and grief coach to support other women through loss. She also became a solo mom via donor conception. Join us as we talk about grief, donor selection, pregnancy, coaching, and much more.
You can learn more about Shelle's coaching at www.shellelynncoaching.com and find her on Instagram @shellelynncoaching.
Jess & Lauren and two friends living in South Florida. After years of navigating the dating world and concluding that "all the men were shit", the two friends decided to go to a sperm bank and create babies on the own. Now the friends each have a daughter and they are building houses next door to each other...sounds like a dream come true! You can find out more about Jess and Lauren's story on Instagram @making_babies_alone.
In this episode, you will learn about:
- the importance of “building your village"
- how to create your “4th trimester” postpartum nesting plan
- preparing for the “5th trimester” as you reenter work and social life
- Kallista’s connection to the Single Greatest Choice community as an egg donor
- Katie and Kallista “rebrand” SMCs as “single mothers by intention”
You can learn more about Kallista and her work at www.newmomboss.com and @newmomboss on Instagram.
In this episode, you will hear about:
- Alisha’s marriage and fertility journey in her early thirties
- the loss of Alisha’s first baby, Jeremy
- rebuilding life after loss
- considerations of donor conception
- Alisha’s experience with two rounds of IVF
- the hidden blessings of giving birth during a pandemic
- Alisha’s birth story
- post-partum tips for SMCs and other fantastic SMC advice
Follow Alisha on Instagram @noneedforprincecharming
In this episode, you’ll hear about:
- overcoming the “shame” of becoming an SMC
- how fertility preservation eventually led to conception of two daughters via IVF
- connecting with the choice mom community
- how Summer finally got clear on “pulling the trigger” to become an SMC
- the joys of motherhood
- the importance of building community and creating your team
- why it was important to Summer to have two children as a choice mom
- letting go of regrets
- Summer’s YouTube video series for choice moms!
Find Summer @summerlovret on Instagram and on YouTube!
Instagram accounts to follow:
Alishia McCullough @blackandembodied
Ericka Hart @ihartericka
Gloria Atanmo @glographics
Lisa Hendrickson-Jack, FAE @fertilityfriday
Myisha T. Hill @ckyourprivilege
Rachel Cargle @rachel.cargle
Rachel Ricketts @iamrachelricketts
Organizations that support Black women, mothers, and birth workers:
Birth Workers of Color Scholarship
Black Mamas Matter Alliance
The Loveland Foundation
National Association to Advance Black Birth
Resources for Anti-Racist Parenting:
Books for explaining racism to your children from the NYT
Anti-Racism Resources for Parents and Kids
Find out more about Steadfast Life Coaching:
www.steadfastlifecoaching.com
@SteadfastLifeCoaching
In this episode, you will hear about:
- how cervical cancer acted as a fertility wake-up call for Ravid
- what it's like to try to conceive via IVF in a new relationship
- how Ravid used data and mindset to find success after 5 rounds of IVF
- Ravid's experience of going through a breakup in the midst of fertility treatment
- pregnancy as an SMC
- fertility treatment and donor conception in Israel vs. the U.S.
- all about the Embie app!
- advice for advocating for yourself
Check out the Embie app at https://embieapp.com/, and follow Ravid on Instagram for regular updates @embie2baby
In this episode, you will hear:
- knowing when it's time to "pull the trigger" and become an SMC
- moving into confidence and empowerment
- benefits of single motherhood by choice
- benefits of PGS testing
- preparing your body for IVF
- mindset and single motherhood
- pregnancy and preparing for motherhood during a pandemic
- letting go of blaming our past, ourselves, and other people
- advice for women considering single motherhood
Books referenced in this episode:
Brighton Baby by Roy Dittman
It Starts with the Egg by Rebecca Fett
In this episode, you will hear:
- considering single motherhood by choice
- discovering platonic coparenting and modamily.com
- how Sarah "dated" her coparent and decided to take the plunge
- the process of getting pregnant with a platonic coparent
- pregnancy and living arrangements for coparenting
- the pros and cons of platonic coparenting
- why you should potentially consider platonic coparenting
- dating while coparenting
Find out more about platonic coparenting at https://www.modamily.com/
In this episode, Katie references and draws upon these teachers:
- Dr. Kristin Neff, Self Compassion
- Brooke Castillo, The Life Coach School Podcast
- Christine Hassler, Over It and On With It & Expectation Hangover
- Byron Katie, The Work
In this episode, you will hear:
- why Emma feels comfortable with and actually prefers the idea of single motherhood over a more "traditional" family structure
- family structure and the idea of "chosen family"
- trusting divine timing and being in the right energy to conceive
- are there ethical concerns with bringing a child into the world right now?
- carrying on the family name
- choosing a sperm donor in the U.K.
- the importance of choosing the right clinic
- the difference between the NHS and private healthcare in the states
- advice for women who are questioning if, when and how they will become mothers
- why it is so important to share our stories
- how to know if you're ready
Connect with Emma on Instagram @project_chickpea
In this episode, you'll hear:
- how Michelle'e experience with acupuncture in her twenties led to her eventual career pivot
- combining acupuncture and hypnosis to treat both the body and the mind
- how to start paying attention to signals your body is giving about your own fertility, including tracking basal body temperature and other signs of ovulation
- how environmental toxins can affect hormones
- how supplements can increase fertility
- the importance of creating calm and balance in the body through mindfulness and breathwork
- bringing spirituality into reproductive medicine
- The Wholesome Fertility Method, a seven-week online program
- preparing for and detoxing after and IVF/egg freezing cycle
- how to choose an acupuncturist
- and a bonus candid conversation, where Katie shares her thoughts about spirituality and conception via fertility treatments
www.thewholesomelotus.com
www.thewholesomefertilitymethod.com
@thewholesomelotusfertility on Instagram
https://www.facebook.com/thewholesomelotus/]
Connect with Krista and see photographs of some of what's mentioned in the episode @project.pickle on Instagram.
Learn more at www.singlegreatestchoice.com and @single_greatest_choice on Instagram.
In this episode, you'll hear about:
- how Brenda had to make a now-or-never choice about motherhood at age 37
- the importance of having an SMC community
- why you should consider egg freezing
- why statistics don't always matter...and then we talk about a bunch of unverified statistics!
- using donor embryos
- adoption vs. pregnancy
- parenting donor conceived children
- advocating for awareness of non-traditional family structures
- Brenda's upcoming memoir, Kindness Among Us
To connect with Brenda, you can follow her @notnuclearfamilies on Instagram.
Learn more at www.singlegreatestchoice.com and @single_greatest_choice on Instagram.
In this episode, you'll hear about:
- how Gloria decided she was ready to become a mom
- how connecting with other women through social media makes considering single motherhood easier
- how loss impacts the desire for motherhood
- how COVID-19 is affecting Gloria's TTC plans
- the process of choosing a donor
- thoughts about choosing a donor outside of your own race
- worrying about the ways we might screw up our kids
- dating while planning to become an SMC
- sharing TTC plans with family and friends
- Gloria's post-baby plans
In this episode, you'll hear about:
- deciding to become a single mother by choice
- the importance of creating strong community
- the process of choosing a donor
- how the corona virus has interrupted plans to TTC
- what Chelsea has learned that she wishes she'd known earlier
- the frustration of spending large amounts of money to get pregnant , while couples often get pregnant "for free"
- how other people have reacted to her decision to become a mom on her own
- considering whether to have more than one donor-conceived child
- why you may or may not want to search for Facebook groups that connect you to recipients who share your same donor
- donor sibling considerations
- sperm bank considerations - anonymous vs. open ID donors, family limits, etc.
- considering the possibility of a known donor
- perks of being a solo parent
- dating while planning or trying to conceive
- staying open to the idea of a relationship while staying firm in your solo plans
Learn more at www.singlegreatestchoice.com and @single_greatest_choice on Instagram.
You'll hear Katie reference her fantastic reproductive endocrinologist, Dr. Natalie Crawford. Dr. Crawford has a podcast and YouTube channel that provide incredible information for any woman, whether you are trying to conceive or not. Check out her website HERE.
Learn more at www.singlegreatestchoice.com and @single_greatest_choice on Instagram.
Referenced in this episode:
- EverlyWell At Home Ovarian Reserve Test (this is the one Katie used)
- EverlyWell Women's Fertility Test
- The Modern Fertility Test (this company also provides a TON of great research!)
Learn more at www.singlegreatestchoice.com and @single_greatest_choice on Instagram.