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In this episode of "Session Voices" we chat with Grace Decker, coordinator of Montana Advocates for Children (MAC). We'll talk about how to engage with the legislative process, the unusual but necessary guidelines around clothing and decorum, and the value of building relationships with lawmakers year-round.
Links and Show Notes:
Montana Advocates for Children
MT Legislature Livestream
Public Participation Link (requires account set-up)
Guide to making public comment (from Zero to Five Montana).
gdecker@montanabudget.org
Host: Emily Freeman, HMHB Storytelling Coordinator
Music by Caroline Keys
Connect with Healthy Mothers, Healthy Babies
- Website
For statewide resources to support Montana families in the 0-3 years of parenting, please visit LIFTS ( Linking Infants and Families to Supports) at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
Guest: Amy Lowney, MSN-RN, LMT, CST (Prima Natural Wellness)
Amy pivoted from her work as a hospital labor and delivery nurse, and now offers complementary wellness services to moms and babies in Butte. We’ll talk about her own professional journey, as well as the emerging landscape of holistic providers in the mining city.
Connect with Healthy Mothers, Healthy Babies
- Website
For statewide resources to support Montana families in the 0-3 years of parenting, please visit LIFTS ( Linking Infants and Families to Supports) at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
Welcome to Session Voices, our special miniseries exploring the 2025 Montana legislative session. In this episode, Emily talks with Mary Collins, Project Director at the University of Montana’s Center for Children, Families, and Workforce Development. Mary walks us through some of the basics of how the legislature works, and the unexpected joys of watching the MT Legislative Session Livestream.
Host: Emily Freeman, HMHB Storytelling Coordinator
Music by Caroline Keys
Connect with Healthy Mothers, Healthy Babies
- Website
For statewide resources to support Montana families in the 0-3 years of parenting, please visit LIFTS ( Linking Infants and Families to Supports) at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
Guest: Jessica Walsh, IBCLC, BSN, RNC (Intermountain Health St. James Hospital)
In her role as Lactation Specialist, Jessica provides an invaluable resource for families, guiding them through their infant-feeding journey and supporting them as they navigate the choices and challenges of providing nutrition in a way that meets the needs of both mom and baby.
https://news.intermountainhealth.org/st-james-healthcare-offers-guidance-to-mothers-struggling-to-breastfeed-their-babies/
https://infantrisk.com/
Connect with Healthy Mothers, Healthy Babies
- Website
For statewide resources to support Montana families in the 0-3 years of parenting, please visit LIFTS ( Linking Infants and Families to Supports) at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
Guest: Dorothy Troutman, BSN, RNC, C-EFM, CLC, SBD, SpBCPE, CCE, CEIM, Certified Body Ready Pro, and Body Ready Birth Educator - Doula (Sacred Birth Doula Services); Labor and Delivery Nurse (Intermountain Health St. James Hospital)
Join Emily and Cass in conversation with Dorothy, who works with families at all stages of pregnancy and birth, and has been instrumental in increasing options for birthing families in the Butte area.
https://intermountainhealthcare.org/locations/intermountain-health-st-james-hospital
https://www.sacredbirthdoula.net/
https://www.spinningbabies.com/
https://bodyreadymethod.com/
https://evidencebasedbirth.com/
Connect with Healthy Mothers, Healthy Babies
- Website
For statewide resources to support Montana families in the 0-3 years of parenting, please visit LIFTS ( Linking Infants and Families to Supports) at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
This last spring we said a fond farewell to our incredible host Clair Larson and have been working since then to continue sharing the stories of moms, birthing people and their families to help people know they are not alone in their struggles and to inspire asking for help when they need it.
Coming this winter, HMHB will be releasing a multi-episode series to relaunch our Mother Love Podcast. The series tells the story of Cass Weber, a mom of two in Butte, America and examines the differences between her experience of two pregnancies. As a cohost, alongside Emily Freeman, Cass interviews providers who cared for her and her family, focusing on how their professional practice changes made a difference to her and her family. We hope you find and follow the MotherLove podcast in your feeds to listen to the teaser and to get those episodes as soon as they come out.
Connect with Healthy Mothers, Healthy Babies
- Website
For statewide resources to support Montana families in the 0-3 years of parenting, please visit LIFTS ( Linking Infants and Families to Supports) at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
Join us as we share a bittersweet episode as we wrap up this season of Mother Love and say farewell to our dear friend and host, Claire. Claire shares with us her experience of crafting and hosting the Mother Love podcast over the past three seasons. As we bid adieu to Claire, let's fill the digital airwaves with gratitude for her dedication, warmth, and the moments of inspiration she has shared with us. Join in as we celebrate her journey and send her off with love and well wishes for the adventures ahead.
Claire.sage.lavender@gmail.com
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
In this episode, Stephanie Hackman, LCPC, joins us to share her experiences and how they've made her the mom she is today. She is both present and attuned, not only to the needs of her family and those she works with, but also to her own needs. Stephanie's stories describe what it was like for her to suffer in silence during the time she and her family belonged to an oppressive religious organization/cult. She recounts the loss of her son, Johnathan, her journey back to her true self, and the unfolding of a beautifully uncommon love story. Stephanie shares her words in hopes that other voiceless and nameless mothers might have a chance to heal from the telling of their own stories.
Show Notes:
Robert J. Lifton - Cult expert and researcher mentioned by Stephanie
Modern Love Clip- Ann Hathaway (portrayal of life with bi-polar disorder)
Mary Oliver: poet, author
Jamie Anesi, LCPC, transpersonal and somatic therapist
Joan Didion: author- books mentioned: The Year of Magical Thinking, Blue Nights
Matt Haig: author and mental health advocate - books mentioned: Reasons to Stay Alive, The Comfort Book
Stephanie's writing (still waiting on link for this one)
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
Prairie Wolfe is passionate about healing, and, in this episode, it shows. Anytime an experienced therapist can speak about their own personal challenges in mothering and caregiving and offer tips, tools, and wisdom to help other parents overcome their struggles, we're all in. During our conversation, Prairie helps listeners understand their nervous systems, the under-resourced circumstances of modern-day parenting, and common caregiving woes that leave us feeling defeated and ashamed. How do we address and repair these wounds in order to show up more presently as parents and humans in general? Find out as Prairie weaves it all together to help us gather our scattered pieces and live with a sense of wholeness.
Books:
The Myth of Normal by Gabor Mate
Website:
https://www.somaticconnections.org/
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/SomaticConnections
Instagram:
@prairie.somaticconnections
LIFTS Online Resource Guide:
https://hmhb-lifts.org
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
Even though Flora McCormick spent years studying child developmental and psychology and ultimately became a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, her early years of parenting were very challenging. She remembers feeling frustrated and disoriented, and this business of mothering felt, well, unsustainable. So, she set out to find new tools, ones that fostered connection and encouraged healthy boundaries. Soon, balance and joy began to emerge. Today, she is the Lead Mentor and Owner of Sustainable Parenting and she's joined us to share her personal story and offer simple and effective tools that actually work! Tune in to learn about how firmness supports kindness and begin to shift from resentful exhaustion to predictable peace.
Website: sustainableparenting.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SustainableParenting
Instagram: @sustainable_parent_coach
Free sustainable parenting workshop: https://sustainableparenting.com/calm-confident-rsvp-2/
LIFTS Online Resource Guide:
https://hmhb-lifts.org
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
When preparation only takes you part of the way, support and a good care team can make all the difference.
Cass Weber, a mom of 2, and an active member of the Butte community, describes how support and a good care team can make all the difference when things do not go as expected. Her resilient and positive attitude is refreshing and she has very useful advice for parents.
After she had a caesarean section birth with her first child, Cass made sure to prepare for it all the second time around. Even though her second birth ended with a c-section as well, she says she did it on her terms, including having a favorite song playing in the OR when her daughter was born.
Cass talks pregnancy and birth during covid as well as making the decision to be a stay at home mom after serving in various roles in early childhood development and care in Butte.
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
In this episode Lisa shares her survival story and teaches us about the subtle and overt forms of domestic abuse and interpersonal violence. There are multiple ways this can manifest (lovebombing, gaslighting, sexual violence, physical violence, emotional abuse, reproductive control, financial control, stalking) and many victims have difficulty recognizing that may be experiencing abuse due to the secret and pervasive nature of the issue. Lisa's story helps us to better understand some of the cycles and patterns that may exist behind closed doors even in, sometimes especially in the lives of those we may consider to be "perfect couples". What she shares is so important to understand.
And, she leaves us with so much hope. The strength and courage that survivors like Lisa embody is awe-inspiring, to say the least. Lisa describes what it's taken to find some semblance of peace, soothe her mind, body and spirit, and repair her relationships with her children. Hearing her speak with tenderness and tenacity is an honor and helps us to understand that sometimes, the issues we don't think we can bear to look at are the ones that need our attention the most. This is that.
Show Notes:
Lisa's Coaching Business, Helvick Coaching
Follow on Instagram
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
This episode on domestic and interpersonal violence is so rich and helpful. We are joined by Jaime Gabrielli and Gina Boesdorfer, two incredible women who are passionate about bringing hope to those experiencing domestic violence, sexual assault, and stalking. They take turns eloquently explaining the many different forms of abuse, debunking myths that often surround the this taboo topic. As the host of this episode, I (Claire) will just come right out and say that I learned so much and walked away feeling humbled by my long-held assumptions and how little I knew about this issue. I will be more able to discern red flags in my relationships as well as those of the people I love. The amount of respect that Jaime and Gina feel towards those they have the chance to work with is remarkable. Few people want to look at this issue, especially when pregnancy and small children are involved but staying silent is not the answer. The Friendship Center exists to help us understand the complexity of these relationships and they give us the language and tools needed to transform crisis and trauma to hope and resilience beyond belief. This is part 1 of a 2 part series; next week we get to hear from Lisa Croke, who credits The Friendship Center with saving her life and now helps others move from surviving to thriving.
Show Notes:
The Friendship Center's 24/7 confidential help line: 406-442-6800 (you do not need to identify yourself or be in crisis to call)The Friendship Center Website
Blog post by Jaime: Stalking: Homicide in Slow Motion
Email Jaime directly: jaime.g@thefriendshipcenter.org
Email Gina directly: gina.b@thefriendshipcenter.org
Lundy Bancroft (author and advocate recommended by Jaime)
The Stalking Prevention, Awareness, and Resource Center (SPARC)14 ways to support a domestic violence survivor
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
In this episode, we hear from Sarah Crowley, IBCLC and owner of Wee Bumble, a home visiting lactation consulting business in Helena, MT. Not only is Sarah an absolute expert in breastfeeding, she is also one of the most kind and compassionate humans we've ever met. We talk about her crash course introduction to breastfeeding after the birth of her first son, Amos and how the pain and suffering she experienced during that time motivated her to pursue a career in breastfeeding support. Since that time, Sarah has become a certified International Board Certified Lactation Consultant and has, for the past 16 years, been helping women and families with babies, navigate their own journeys. We cover a lot in this conversation: healing from birth trauma, "hamburger nipples", pumping recommendations, medication concerns during pregnancy and breastfeeding, baby friendly hospital initiatives, the beauty of holding space for new moms, questions around "pumping and dumping", and caring for moms who are struggling with addiction, including tobacco and nicotine use. Sarah shares so many resources she takes the cake for longest list of show notes to date! Plus, her voice is like honey and her presence feels like a warm hug from a trusted friend.
Wee Bumble Lactation Consulting Website
Wee Bumble Lactation Consulting Instagram
The Lactation Network (help with breastfeeding support insurance coverage)
Prepared Parenting Classes (free) St. Peter's Health
Find birth and parenting classes in your local MT community
St. Peter's Healthcare Baby Friendly Hospital Initiative
Melissa Zimmerman, Family Nurse Practictioner - St. Peter's Health
MT La Leche League List of Groups
Partners in Pediatrics (Helena)
Find pediatric clinics/care in your local MT community
Dr. Hale's Book: Medications and Mothers Milk
Lactmed (list of medications for safety concerns while breastfeeding)
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
In this episode, Rachael Watters, postpartum psychosis survivor and mother of four joins us to talk about her frightening and healing journey through severe mental illness as a new mom. Many factors contributed to Rachael's experience and as her children have grown and she has continued to heal and recover, she has become a passionate advocate and educator for Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders which are often largely misunderstood. As you'll hear in this conversation, Rachael has found a great senses of purpose in everything she and her family have gone through together. It's a part of their story and now that story is changing hearts and minds and has probably even saved lives. Her message is clear- no matter how terrible things may get, you're never alone and with help you can get better.
Show Notes:
Rachael Watters Ted Talk
Playing Monopoly with God (Melissa Bangs, Storyteller and Advocate)
St. Peter's Health Adult Behavioral Unit
Postpartum Support International (PSI)
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
In this episode we get to hear from Dr. Sam Greenberg, a Family Physician practicing in Kalispell, Montana. Dr. Greenberg (or Sam for short) specializes in Obstetrics, Maternal Child Health, Reproductive Health, and Adolescent Medicine. As you'll hear in this episode, Sam is passionate about providing patient-centered care and strongly believes in developing trust and mutual respect over time with her patients. When it comes to caring for those in the perinatal period, having a strong and open relationship between patient and provider is essential, especially when it comes to asking for help during such a vulnerable and personal time. Having experienced intense peripartum and postpartum anxiety herself, Sam brings her lived experience into the room every time, whether she's delivering "babes", screening a mom for a Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorder, or just holding space for parents to express their concerns and struggles. She loves the mountains, fresh air, and sunshine and brings an authentic and kind professionalism to the conversation. This is what great care looks like.
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
In this episode, Ashley Watson shares her family's journey to wholeness. When Ashley's son, Jase, was unexpectedly born with a rare craniofacial condition called called Apert Syndrome, she was stunned and so were the doctors. From that moment on, they spent 6 weeks in the NICU, were life-flighted from Missoula to Seattle where Jase would undergo his first of almost 20 surgeries while there. Since then, Jase and his older sister, Scarlett have both been diagnosed with autism and ADHD. Jase just celebrated his 6th birthday and although this family has had to endure some serious pain, they've also learned what it means to lean on each other and appreciate one another. Ashley, along with her husband Nate have seven children between the two of them and have learned to embrace all that comes with loving what she calls their "giant, chaotic, loving family."
Resources recommended by Ashley:
MT DPHHS Children's Special Health Services
MT DPHHS Early Intervention
Family Outreach
Embracing Us Facebook page
Mended Little Hearts
Angel Flight
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
Public Health Department RN Case Manager Marisa Johnson joins us to talk about what she's learned in working with families as a home visiting nurse. We get to hear about her own journey as a single mom and some of the obstacles she had to learn to overcome when it came to accepting help in order to heal, grow and build a beautiful life for her and her two daughters. Marisa is a joy to listen to- she cares deeply about the families she works with and believes in them wholeheartedly. When a home visiting nurse is honored and excited to show up at your door with lived experience, empathy, evidence-based resources, and a sense of humor, just go ahead and let her in. She's on your team.
Show Notes:
- Nurse Family Partnership (MT) (website)
- Learn more about NFP by watching this short video.
- Montana's Special Supplemental Nutrition Program for Women, Infants, and Children WIC
- Montana Asthma Home Visiting Program
- Montana Fetal Infant Child & Maternal Mortality Review (FICMMR)
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
Amy Stiffarm joins Claire for another conversation with Camie Goldhammer, who also happens to be one of our most celebrated #sheros at HMHB. This time, we focus on the topic of feeding choices and how important it is for families to be able to make informed decisions when it comes to feeding their babies. Which means they need adequate information and it shouldn't be all on them to find it.
Camie shares what it was like for her to learn to navigate the world of breastfeeding as an Indigenous woman with almost no knowledge on how things were supposed to go. When even a Google search left her with no where to turn, she did what she does best; created an organization that would grow to care for moms and families just like her. We also have the chance to talk about legislative action in Washington state around paid family leave and other maternal health advocacy efforts. Camie is an amazing teacher and her strength-based perspective is so refreshing.
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
In this lively discussion Camie happily teaches about so many things she's come to know in caring for families over the past 20 years. Her most powerful tricks of the trade are not complicated- building trust and connection, being fully present in every interaction, empowering families and birthgivers to trust themselves and honor their needs and desires, and offering traditional practices to heal, grow and nourish everyone. We also cover the unique needs of the Indigenous community that Hummingbird serves, the positive outcomes of having doulas present during pregnancy, birth and postpartum and how Camie's journey to motherhood shaped her and changed the trajectory of her life's work. Camie's knowledge is vast and her laugh wins the day, truly.
Show notes:
Learn more about Hummingbird Family Services
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
In this episode, we get to meet Erika Menning, part-time, hair stylist, full-time mom and natural comedian. This conversation covers so many things, from unexpected body image comments during pregnancy and postpartum depression and anxiety to preeclampsia and the significance of post-birth giving rewards, like Italian subs. We talk about mom guilt, how to regroup and repair after you've unraveled for the thousandth time, and just how important it is to be genuine with those around you. Erika is just a naturally hilarious and delightful person which makes this one a real treat.
Show Notes:
Hydrogel packs recommended by Erika for sore nipples:)
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
After struggling with severe Postpartum Depression following the birth of her daughter, Diana sought medical treatment but because this was in the early 90's, no one really knew what to do. Three long years later, she was given an accurate diagnosis, began the road to recovery, and has dedicated her career to helping women navigate similar terrain. She's been in the field of Women's Reproductive Mental Health for almost 30 years. Diana has had many roles- she is the former President of Postpartum Support International, has a private practice assessing, diagnosing and treating women around the childbearing years and, for 20 years has served as an internationally esteemed forensic expert witness in the criminal justice system. She's a triple threat when it comes to perinatal mental health: an expert in the field, an empathetic PMAD survivor who believes in the power of story, and a fierce advocate for justice and stigma reduction when it comes to perinatal mental illness . Oh, and she's a new grandma to twins! Hearing her talk about the healing, redemption and joy that's come along with grandma-hood is a treat.
*Note: we do discuss some of Diana's cases in detail and some of the stories are difficult to hear. When untreated, PMAD's can have devastating consequences but talking about these things can help reduce stigma and raise awareness which is so important.
Show Notes:
Postpartum Support International (PSI)
Research Articles regarding Postpartum Psychosis Addition to DSM.
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
In this episode, we meet Ashley Fish, a first grade teacher, wife, and mother of two. Ashley's road to motherhood took some unexpected turns as her first, Barrett, came early and, after just a few days at home, the family was transported to Missoula to the pediatric ICU to monitor and address respitory challenges. He recovered well but Ashley was left with intense anxiety. During her second pregnancy, Ashley's learned, at her 20 week ultrasound of concerns regarding abnormal brain development in her daughter, Ainsley. Eventually, Ainsley was diagnosed with an extremely rare genetic disorder called Pyruvate Dehydrogenase Complex Deficiency (PDCD). Ashley shares what it's been like for her to surrender control, accept help from those around her in order to keep her and her family well - self-care matters here- and embrace and cherish every moment they have together.
Show Notes:
These are the resources that have been helpful to the Fish family and Ashley highly recommends reaching out to them if you have a little one who needs special care.
The Jadyn Fred Foundation
Montana Hope Project
Angel Flight
Children's Flight of Hope
Ronald McDonald House
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
John Morrison, an attorney, former Montana State Auditor/Commissioner of Securities and Insurance, and long-time friend of Healthy Mothers, Healthy Babies, joined us to speak about a donation he facilitated and helped award to HMHB this past summer. The generous contribution resulted from a settlement in a legal case John filed and won on behalf of more than 2,600 Montana businesses. Morrison proposed, and District Court Judge Leslie Halligan approved, a $50,000 donation to HMHB because our mission to improve the health and well-being of mothers, children and families aligned with the core of what this case was all about.
We also get a chance to talk about John's life as a dad, what he and his wife, Cathy, learned along the way, and how incredibly proud he is of his two daughters.
Stories hold their own power and John has plenty of examples of how listening and learning about the life of one person can better the lives of many.
Show notes:
To watch the incredible video of John Butler, two time cancer survivor, pull a firetruck across the fairgrounds in Sydney Montana as John describes in this episode, click here.
To learn more about how the Commissioner of Securities and Insurance regulates the insurance industry in Montana and advocates for Montana consumers in disputes with their insurance company click here.
Check out the Ralli App! https://letsralli.com/
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
This episode captures a conversation between Dana Hillyer, PMHCNS and Claire, who, this time, plays podcast host and patient/case study. Dana approaches her work with exceptional warmth and kindness and is committed to continued growth and self-reflection. When it comes to helping with perinatal mood and anxiety disorders (PMADs), she is a pro. Dana is a shining example of a mental health professional who is willing to meet her patients where they and walk alongside them and, as Claire shares, this quality of care changes lives. If you could use a little boost of faith when it comes to the state of (maternal) mental healthcare, listen and enjoy.
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
In this final episode of our Native American Initiative Series, we welcome to the show, Chelsea Bellon, a mom of three and the Health Equity Community Engagement Specialist at the Western Montana Area Education Center. Chelsea offers her wisdom and insight to help identify and raise awareness of the racism that exists in education and academia as well as health inequities in rural populations.
Chelsea speaks about a few simple cultural considerations that made a huge difference for her and contributed to her healing while she was under medical supervision during a time of crisis.
Chelsea and Claire talk about what it's like to receive and accept their Bipolar II diagnoses and how, as moms, they've learned to cope in times of intense dysregulation. Mental health conditions, especially when exasperated in the perinatal period, can indeed be life threatening and sometimes look, feel, and sound differently than we might think. If you or someone you know suffers from a mental illness and no one knows what to say or do, this episode offers very helpful guidance and some practical steps to get them the help they need. Hope and healing are possible and these stories prove that. #maternalmentalhealth #indigenouswomen #WeAreListening #motherlovepodcast
IF YOU OR SOMEONE YOU KNOW ARE HAVING THOUGHTS OF SUICIDE CALL OR TEXT 988 IMMEDIATELY.
The 988 Lifeline is a national network of local crisis centers that provides free and confidential emotional support to people in suicidal crisis or emotional distress 24 hours a day, 7 days a week in the United States. We're committed to improving crisis services and advancing suicide prevention by empowering individuals, advancing professional best practices, and building awareness.
Please click here for a list of show notes and resources provided by Chelsea and Claire.
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
Joining us for our 4th episode in our Native American Initiatives Series is the talented Rachel Twoteeth-Pichardo. Since mom life is an all day everyday attempt to balance all. the. things., we cover a lot of ground in this convo: sleep struggles, tantrum trials (and how much grace and self-compassion they require), and how art and creative works have shaped Rachel. She talks about her artwork (which is amazing) and how her ledger art helps her honor her artistic heritage. Rachel is warm-hearted and, while she is so humble, her spirit sings.
To learn more about Rachel and to view her art:
Follow Rachel on IG: @ray2teeth
Follow Rachel on FB: @Rachel Twoteeth-Pichardo
Check out Omerta Arts
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
Before jumping into our time with our amazing guests, we wanted to share a conversation between Amy and Claire about Thanksgiving: what we learned in school, what we have needed to unlearn since then, and how we share hard truths with our families on a day that boasts feasting, abundance and gratitude. It's complicated but important and Amy is so good at embracing both with humor and grace.
Then, we have the privilege of hearing from Margaret Anne Adams and Mary Ellen Lafromboise. These two women will tell us about Life’s Blessing Day, a day of cultural immersion and community-based learning for visiting nurses who help serve Indigenous moms, babies and their families during the perinatal period. The Life's Blessings event was held in Browning, MT on the Blackfeet Reservation and its aim was to build relationships, share strengths and really allow participating nurses to learn from Indigenous people to experience the richness of cultural practices firsthand. Some things just can't be understood from a distance and the Life's Blessing day showed that when people gather face to face and heart to heart, they don't just learn, they are transformed.
SHOW NOTES/RESOURCES
From Thanksgiving Intro:
Books:
Braiding Sweetgrass by Robin Wall Kimmerer
Living Resistance by Kaitlin Curtice
Online resources:
Thanksgiving Address
Potawatomi Website (the true dark history of Thanksgiving)
Dakota 38 Documentary
Follow Kaitlin Curtice on IG:
@kaitlincurtice
From Life's Blessings Interview:
Montana Maternal Health by the Numbers
Sun Tours transportation
Blackfeet Nation History
Yarrow Collaborative
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
In this episode, Claire shares the mic with Dr. Amy Stiffarm, HMHB's Native American Initiative's Program Manager, as they interview Dr. Janelle Palacios. The wealth of knowledge and experience that Dr. Palacios brings to her work is indescribable. She is a Nurse Midwife, a highly regarded researcher, an advocate for Indigenous maternal child health and a mom herself. Honestly, the list goes on and you'll see what we mean when you listen to her speak. Storytelling is at the heart of every move she makes and she is a master at empowering those with lived experience to share their stories to challenge assumptions, break down stereotypes and inspire change.
SHOW NOTES
Federal Indian Boarding School Initiative Investigative Report
https://www.bia.gov/sites/default/files/dup/inline-files/bsi_investigative_report_may_2022_508.pdf
Making Amends: Recommended Strategies and Actions to Improve the Health and Safety of American Indian and Alaska Native Mothers and Infants
https://www.hrsa.gov/sites/default/files/hrsa/advisory-committees/infant-mortality/birth-outcomes-AI-AN-mothers-infants.pdf
https://www.encoded4story.com/
https://www.squarerootstories.com/meet-our-team
https://hmhb-mt.org/native-american-initiatives/
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
In this episode, Amy and Claire have the chance to sit down and talk about the upcoming series featuring some of the most powerful leaders in indigenous maternal health. Each episode speaks for itself but we wanted to take a moment to acknowledge the importance of uplifting and highlighting some of the incredible work that is being done to improve health outcomes for native people both on the national level as well as in our own state and communities. We're thrilled and honored to be able to share these conversations with you. Amy will be our guest host over the next few weeks and this is a great opportunity to get to know her better.
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
I don't know how many times Ashley and I have walked into the office and opened with the typical "How are you?" only to dive into deep, honest mom to mom conversation that usually leads to laughter, tears and ultimately a deep sigh of relief. This episode is that and I have a lot of faith that the things we talk about and touch on might deliver the same strong dose of validation and encouragement to our listeners. Finding people who understand what we're going through is so important; we hope to become some of those people for you here at Mother Love. Thank you for all you do behind the scenes- we see you.
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
In this episode, Annie Tague and I talk about what it is like to discover and adapt when your kiddo is diagnosed with a food allergy. Her daughter, Sally, has lived with Celiac Disease all of her life and over the past 10 years, Annie has learned a lot about the adjustments and advocacy that is required to keep her family happy and healthy. What does eating out look like? Birthday parties and other social celebrations? Travel? It's not easy but the Tague family handles it with grace, humor, and love. Plus, Annie is as funny as she is real and brings her experience as the owner of Mountainside Montessori to the conversation; a perspective that always seeks to bring light and truth to any topic.
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
Miranda was placed in the Montana's foster care system at the age of 8 and she is a survivor, through and through. In this episode she shares her story which is, as you might guess, pretty emotional. Now that she has an 8-year-old daughter of her own, life looks very different, and she explains that she's had to face most of her parenting challenges by just thinking of what happened to her as a kid and then doing the opposite. We talk about what it's taken for her to build a life of peace and security for her and her family, about the importance of learning to accept help, and about the pieces of parenting that are often left out of the conversation due to stigma and shame but MUST be discussed. Today, Miranda is a fierce advocate for youth in Montana's care system and works hard every day to ensure that they get to participate in decisions regarding their care. Miranda is giving kids the chance to speak because she knows the pain of being kept silent. This one is POWERFUL.
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
Welcome to the first episode of Mother Love Season 3! This time, we meet Christina Hostetler, whose journey to motherhood was not an easy one, to say the least. She shares how struggling with infertility was emotionally difficult and, at times, super lonely and how she made it through. Then, when she was just about out of hope, TWINS! We get to talk about her incredible birth story and what those first few months of raising two babies was like for her. 3 years in, she's grateful and has super helpful insight on what's made all the difference during this intense time.
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
In this final episode of season 2, Claire has the chance to connect with Kyriaki Birkeland whose work on behalf of moms is almost too long to list. Kyriaki is a podcaster, blogger, mom, actress and, author. She her passion for helping other moms stems from the many trials she faced and overcame as a new mom. Her book, "Motherhood is Big Enough" is designed and illustrated for babies and young children but the words help moms to recognize that they are doing the hardest and most important job in the world and that is more than enough.
show notes:
visit Kyriaki's website: https://www.thedenmother.net/
order the book here: https://www.thedenmother.net/products
Listen to Kyriaki's podcast, The Denmother Podcast, on any mainstream listening platform.
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
Single motherhood. Leaving an abusive relationship. Starting over. C-section recovery. Facing fears. Finding hope. And, postpartum mood disorders. All of these led Brooke Campbell to what she now calls her "passion project". As Vice President of the Postpartum Resource Group (PPRG) in Kalispell, Brooke describes the incredible work being done to support new moms in the Flathead Valley and how community members are showing up to make sure moms don't feel like they have to do all of this alone.
Show Notes:
For information about services mentioned in this episode visit:
https://www.postpartumresourcegroup.org/
Certified Nurse Midwife Jana Sund's Clinic: Kalispell Midwives & Women's Clinic
https://www.kalispellmidwives.clinic/
Power: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse (book)
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
Anna Baker is a powerhouse of a person. It's just her nature. So, when the birth of her first went from a home birth plan to a hospital setting to the OR and resulted in a c-section she felt distraught, disconnected, and utterly disempowered. Anna was, of course, relieved to have a healthy baby but having to spend the first precious hour of motherhood completely isolated in a recovery room was traumatic, to say the least. This is the story of how she emerged from that experience, surrounded herself with supportive women and went on to have two successful Vaginal Births After Cesarean (VBACs) at home. Each of Anna's birth stories have impacted her in important ways and have motivated her teach, connect with and empower women in all sorts of ways. If you're a mom (or know a mom) who's had to toss her birth plan out the window and navigate the intense and complicated emotions that go along with that, this one's for you.
Show Notes:
Red Ants Pants Foundation
(organization through which Anna teaches workshops for women)
Redtail Woodworks (Anna's Website)
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
In part two this story, Kyla and I talk about life in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) (her experience) and Pediatric Intensive Care Unit PICU (my experience). Kyla says that that time felt like "forever and the same day, over and over" and I can't think of a better way to say it. Her baby boy, Conner, is now 6 months old and greets each new day with the a gummy smile and shining eyes. Life isn't all rainbows and butterflies, but Kyla and her family know what true gratitude feels like, deep down in their bones.
LIFTS online resource guide: https://hmhb-lifts.org
Specific services relevant to this episode (found on LIFTS.org)
Statewide Support Groups
Search " early intervention services" on
LIFTS online resource guide: https://hmhb-lifts.org
Search "counselors" on LIFTS online resource guide: https://hmhb-lifts.org
Hand to Hold - NICU Babies, Parent Support (website)
Hand to Hold (podcast)
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
In this episode, Kyla opens up about her experiences with pre-term birth, secondary infertility, and the anticipatory grief that happens when starting a family goes drastically different than expected. If you or someone you love walked a similar path and they seem overwhelmed and alone, this episode will feel like medicine. Or, if you're not sure what to say or how to empathize families that may face different challenges than your own, Kyla's journey will help guide you. She and her family are all survivors and their strength and grace helps to shed light and offer hope.
LIFTS online resource guide: https://hmhb-lifts.org
Specific services relevant to this episode (found on LIFTS.org)
Statewide Support Groups
Infertility and Pregnancy Loss Support Group (Billings)
Taking Charge of Your Fertility (book) by Toni Weschler
Hand to Hold - NICU Babies, Parent Support (website)
Hand to Hold (podcast)
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
Priscilla Ellis joins us to talk about a few of the things she's learned during her mothering journey. We talk about mental health challenges and how therapy and medication have helped and the ways in which social media can sometimes hurt and sometimes help, especially when it comes to sharing our parenting triumphs and struggles. We also nerd out about ways we've attempted to address our own wounds and past traumas and how our toughest parenting moments can trigger and reveal what most needs to be healed. Priscilla has learned over the years to prioritize self-care, embrace her needs as an introvert, and continue to deepen her understanding of what matters to her most: connection and growth. Plus, she's hilarious and extremely easy to relate to which is always a bonus.
Show notes:
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
In this second episode of our series, "Behind the Scenes", Dawn Gunderson joins us to share with listeners some of the work she does as HMHB's Program and Communications Coordinator as well as her life-long struggles with anxiety which (spoiler alert!) intensified when she became a mother. Almost two decades later, after welcoming all six of her children into this world, Dawn's anxiety was worse than ever and, with strong encouragement from her family and faith community, she flew across the country to engage in faith-based inpatient treatment for her anxiety. Her story is powerful and offers hope to those whose anxious thoughts and behaviors have highjacked their lives and impacted their relationships. It's never too late to get help, repair is real, and grace exists.
Show notes:
WIC Website: https://dphhs.mt.gov/ecfsd/wic/
Sanctuary Clinics Website: https://sanctuaryclinics.com
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
There's a reason we chose Brooke to be our Mother Love producer. We knew she would get it. We knew she would listen back to each episode carefully and considerately. We knew she was skilled and enthusiastic about the work. But what I didn't know until I sat down with her to plan and record an episode with her, is that she has been through some really rough times as a mom, especially in the first years of her kiddos' lives. In this episode, Brooke and I begin with current (and hilarious) banter about what parenting looks like for us today- think toothpaste crusted sinks and back to back tummy bugs that wreak havoc on our lives, before moving into more serious territory. In the second half of the episode Brooke reflects on her difficult pregnancy, birthing experience, work discrimination, health and relationship challenges, breastfeeding battles and mood disregulation. Mostly, we talk about how asking for help saved our lives and what that looked like (and continues to look like) for each of us.
Show notes:
Postpartum Support International Helpline:
Call 1-800-944-4773 (4PPD)
1 En Español or #2 English
Text in English: 800-944-4773
Text en Español: 971-203-7773
National Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Call 988 or text MT to 741-741
Montana Warm Line:
Call 877-688-3377LIFTS Online Resource Guide**:
Search "Mental Health Providers" in your area
Help for those helping moms:*PRISM for Moms Psychiatric Consultation Line* Call:** 1-833-837-7476 or submit an e-consult form
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
On this week's episode of Mother Love, meet Paige Reddan, a Registered Dietitian, Certified Eating Disorder Registered Dietitian Specialist, Licensed Nutritionist, Certified Diabetes Educator and co-founder of the Eating Disorder Center of MT. Paige shares with us what it was like for her to heal and recover from her own severe and long-lasting eating disorder during a time when quality treatment did not yet exist. Decades later, she works hard to help patients discover ways to live free from preoccupation with food, and work with the guilt, shame, confusion and fear that can accompany the basic need to eat and we have the chance to talk about some powerful tools that can help, new moms and others with young children reconnect and honor their needs in order to heal and nourish their minds, bodies, spirits and relationships.
Show notes:
Eating Disorder Center of Montana:
https://edcmt.com/
Follow on social:
Instagram:
@eatingdisordercentermt
Facebook: @eatingdisordercenterofmontana
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
Want to know what true community-based support looks like? Give this episode a listen and meet three incredible people who spend their days going to bat for families in so many ways at the individual, local and state levels. Chelsea Solberg, RN, CLC, perinatal education leader and mom of three (I could go on) joins Ty LaFountain, Behavioral Health Peer Support Specialist (who's also training to become a Certified Recovery Doula), and Pam Ponich, LCPC and Clinical Supervisor of Montana's Peer Support Specialist Program. As you can imagine from their title's alone, these three are changing the ways we support moms and families, especially those facing mental illness and substance use disorders. Their stories and insights will bolster your faith in humanity and give you hope for Montana's future generations. Raise your hand if you could use a little of that right about now? 🙋♀️
Meadowlark Initiative
MOMS (Montana Obstetrics & Maternal Support)
One Health
- One Health Lewistown
New Baby & Me app (powered by YoMingo)
Montana Healthcare Foundation
- Heather Bear Cloud: Care Coordinator/Peer Support Specialist Relationship
Reach out to Pam at pam.ponich@onechc.org if you're interested in learning more or would like to donate to help fund the work of Peer Support Specialists in Montana!
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
As you can imagine, being pregnant, giving birth, and mothering/parenting while incarcerated can be extremely challenging. For many women, it is the one of the most shared experiences with their fellow inmates and a huge motivator when it comes to recovery and rehabilitation. Several programs have been developed to equip these women with the tools they need re-claim their lives and heal their families. In this episode, we talk with the Warden of the Montana Women's Prison (MWP), Jennie Hansen. She is joined by Kendra Miller, the Director of Parenting at MWP. You won't believe how much heart goes into their work and how far things have come in recent years to support incarcerated parents in Montana.
Show notes/resources:
The Family Tree Nurturing Center
- Parenting Classes
- Facebook: @thefamilytreenurturingcenter
Babies Beyond Bars
- Donate today!
More about Warden Hansen's Mission: (article)
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
In this episode, Tess Carlson joins us to share her story of becoming a mom. We talk about PMADS, working in the service industry, drastically shifting identity pieces and the ever-unfolding healing journey that is mothering. When it comes to her work and research, Tess harnesses her hard-won wisdom while interviewing moms and birth givers in communities throughout Montana. The hope is that collecting these stories (specifically around screening practices) and sharing findings will help raise awareness of perinatal mental health issues and help build better systems of support to truly serve families in Montana.
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
In this special episode Claire's mom, Carrie, sits down to have an honest conversation about learning from the past, cultivating self-compassion for our former selves, and explains her experience of parenting through some really tough times. We talk about Claire's eating disorder and mental health struggles as a teen, intergenerational post partum depression and what support looks like in the face of crisis. Carrie is a counselor and mental health advocate (the apple doesn't fall far from the tree), and one heck of a grandma. Carrie also shares tips and tidbits that have helped her understand how to show up as a supportive (but not overbearing) grandparent in today's crazy world
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
In this episode, Patrick Duganz shares his own personal experiences of his rough and abrupt entry into fatherhood. He is walking proof that Perinatal Mood Disorders can affect dads too and that, when they do, they're often compounded by layers of misinformation and feelings of helplessness. As Patrick's son grew, so did he and Patrick discovered his passion for helping other dads find their way too. Now, Patrick is the Father Engagement Specialist for Gallatin County Public Health and his story is enlightening and vital to understanding a less talked about topic when it comes to supporting new moms and dads.
Gallatin County Public Health- Dads Matter
Gallatin County Public Health- Home Visiting
The Good Men Project article by Patrick Duganz: "100 Words on Love After Divorce"
Lori Newman - Bozeman Health
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
In this episode Suzanne Bendick of Roots Family Collaborative in Bozeman, joins us to discuss, among other things, her work as the Executive Director of an organization that has revolutionized family support in Gallatin County. Suzanne has gathered and harvested the wisdom of many women and family experts and is dedicated to helping mothers and families heal and get the support they deserve during one of the most crucial times in their lives. Suzanne was originally motivated to dive into her work after navigating her own overwhelmingly challenging initiation to motherhood. Along the way, she's formally trained as a Postpartum Doula and Certified Lactation Counselor. She is a Volunteer Coordinator with Postpartum Support International, hold a B.A. in Anthropology and is currently working on her education and training as a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner. All that to say, she showed up for this interview with her whole heart that will inspire you in countless ways.
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
In this episode, we welcome our newest Healthy Mothers, Healthy Babies team member Amy Stiffarm, cPhD, MPH. As HMHB's Program Manager for Native American Initiatives, Amy brings a unique perspective and shares her knowledge specific to Indigenous Maternal Health. But that's not all. Amy also speaks honestly about her personal experience in having survived and grown from her journey through postpartum depression and anxiety. This conversation holds so much hope and celebrates the resiliency achieved through hardship.
Camie Jae Goldhammer: Hummingbird Indigenous Family Services
Abigail Echo-Hawk, "Decolonizing Data: Restoring Culture, Building Beauty"For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
In this episode, Stephanie Hackman, LCPC, joins us to share her experiences and how they've made her the mom she is today. She is both present and attuned, not only to the needs of her family and those she works with, but also to her own needs. Stephanie's stories describe what it was like for her to suffer in silence during the time she and her family belonged to an oppressive religious organization/cult. She recounts the loss of her son, Johnathan, her journey back to her true self, and the unfolding of a beautifully uncommon love story. Stephanie shares her words in hopes that other voiceless and nameless mothers might have a chance to heal from the telling of their own stories.
Show Notes:
Robert J. Lifton - Cult expert and researcher mentioned by Stephanie
Modern Love Clip- Ann Hathaway (portrayal of life with bi-polar disorder)
Mary Oliver: poet, author
Jamie Anesi, LCPC, transpersonal and somatic therapist
Joan Didion: author- books mentioned: The Year of Magical Thinking, Blue Nights
Matt Haig: author and mental health advocate - books mentioned: Reasons to Stay Alive, The Comfort Book
Stephanie's writing (still waiting on link for this one)
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
In this episode, Greg Daly takes the mic to share the wisdom he's acquired over his many years as the Home Visiting Coordinator for Lewis and Clark Public Health. Greg is a trusted and well-known advocate who supports and educates families in the community. In typical Greg fashion, we cover a wide range of topics like Circle of Security, attachment theory, addiction and substance use disorders and how trauma has multi-generational impacts. Greg holds more hope than ever that parents can heal their own wounds and, in doing so, their children have the chance to thrive.
Healthy Montana Families:
https://dphhs.mt.gov/ecfsd/homevisiting/
Attachment and Bonding Support:
https://hmhb-lifts.org/services?service_type=Attachment+and+Bonding
Health Outcomes of Positive Experience (HOPE) Report (The Montana Institute):
https://static1.squarespace.com/static/51c386a4e4b0c275d0a5bbf2/t/591b191ecd0f68438d8b913d/1494948133553/Balancing+ACEs+with+HOPE+WEB+v.5.pdf
Adverse Childhood Expieriences (ACEs) information and quiz:
https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2015/03/02/387007941/take-the-ace-quiz-and-learn-what-it-does-and-doesnt-mean
Montana Nurse Family Partnership:
https://www.nursefamilypartnership.org/locations/montana/
Gabor Mate:
https://drgabormate.com
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
Megan had dreamed of being a mother her whole life. Her pregnancy was wonderful and she "loved every minute." But, following the birth of her daughter, things did not go as planned. She faced physical trauma, undiagnosed postpartum depression, and total disillusionment. Years later, she was unable to conceive, and she and her family decided to adopt. Which was both really hard and really healing. This conversation blew me away, really and truly.
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
In this episode, Vanessa and Claire get real about stress, substance use, and parenting in an ever accelerating world. The imbalances many of us experience as mothers can lead to some to unhealthy (and unhelpful) ways of coping and Vanessa came to understand that as her dependence on alcohol became both very serious and very destructive. It takes a lot of courage to be honest about our hardest struggles both with ourselves and those we love. Vanessa shares insights, tips and stories that will inspire you to heal, grow and rediscover your true self.
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
Savanah grew up in Los Angeles where her family modeled the "fast life". Secrecy, addiction, money and power were constants in her upbringing. When she came to Montana, she brought it all with her. But, becoming a mom changed everything and healing became her full-time job. Now, she works with other women struggling with addiction and substance use disorder as a Peer Support Specialist at the YWCA.
https://www.ywcahelena.org/
Meadowlark Initiative: https://mthcf.org/meadowlark/
Specific services relevant to this episode (found on LIFTS.org)
Substance Use Disorder Treatment Providers:
https://hmhb-lifts.org/services?service_type=Substance+Use+Disorder+Treatment
Peer Support Specialists:
https://hmhb-lifts.org/services?service_type=Peer+Support+Specialists
Medications for Opioid Use Disorders:
https://hmhb-lifts.org/services?service_type=Medications+for+Opioid+Use+Disorders+%28MOUD%29
Meadowlark Initiative: https://mthcf.org/meadowlark/
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
When Kate Sexton agreed to foster little Will, she thought the arrangement would be temporary. But soon, it became clear that this Will's biological mom was battling severe addiction and was unable to provide for him and offer him safety. So, just like that, Kate began her journey to motherhood. Immediately, she had to learn everything from clipping tiny toenails and bottle feeding to helping Will heal from trauma, neglect and very early exposure to substances. Kate will be the first to tell you that mothering Will helped her to heal her own wounds and expanded her capacity in ways she never thought possible. Their story is beautiful and inspiring, and Kate truly demonstrates what it means to commit to a life of care and compassion.
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/hmhb-lifts.org/
Episode specific searches on LIFTS:
"Circle of Security" to learn more about classes offered in communities across the state.
"Foster" or "Adoption" to access different services and supports for fostering and adoptive families.
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
Carson Rose is a mom of two and works to support mothers on their breast feeding journey. She also provides support to moms experiencing postpartum depression, anxiety and loss by offering resources within the local community. After her own experiences of intense isolation, chronic illness, loss and depression, she hopes to help other moms know they are not alone in their struggles. In a letter written to her younger self, Carson urges herself to just keep going. She holds onto hope for moms who might be feeling lost and alone.
LIFTS Online Resource Guide:
https://hmhb-lifts.org
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
Wesley Royce Stops, Jr. joins us to share his journey from wreckage to resilience. In 2018, Wesley was charged with 3 felonies and lost custody of his children on the spot. He was full of unaddressed pain and attempting to numb his feelings through substance abuse and food. The challenges and obstacles he faced were more than most people can handle.
In this episode, Wesley shares how his life has been transformed in ways he never could have imagined. He is a proud full-time single father, a Care Coordinator and Peer Support Specialist for the Meadowlark Sacred Families Program near the Apsaalooke Crow Indian Reservation (the tribe to which he belongs) in Hardin, Montana. Plus, he's also a Daddy Doula in training.
Wesley attributes his success to his strong faith and traditional and cultural beliefs. As the podcast host, I'll just say that I gleaned so much wisdom and inspiration from this conversation I couldn't stop thinking about it for days afterwards.
https://www.onechc.org/hardin
THE H.O.P.E. DROP-IN CENTER
Health Opportunity Prevention Education
809 N. Custer, Hardin, MT 59034
406.629.3024
https://hmhb-lifts.org
Episode specific services on the LIFTS online resource guide:
Substance Use Disorder Treatment Providers:
https://hmhb-lifts.org/services?service_type=Substance+Use+Disorder+Treatment
Peer Support Specialists:
https://hmhb-lifts.org/services?service_type=Peer+Support+Specialists
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
Prairie Wolfe is passionate about healing, and, in this episode, it shows. Anytime an experienced therapist can speak about their own personal challenges in mothering and caregiving and offer tips, tools, and wisdom to help other parents overcome their struggles, we're all in. During our conversation, Prairie helps listeners understand their nervous systems, the under-resourced circumstances of modern-day parenting, and common caregiving woes that leave us feeling defeated and ashamed. How do we address and repair these wounds in order to show up more presently as parents and humans in general? Find out as Prairie weaves it all together to help us gather our scattered pieces and live with a sense of wholeness.
Books:
The Myth of Normal by Gabor Mate
Website:
https://www.somaticconnections.org/
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/SomaticConnections
Instagram:
@prairie.somaticconnections
LIFTS Online Resource Guide:
https://hmhb-lifts.org
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
Even though Flora McCormick spent years studying child developmental and psychology and ultimately became a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, her early years of parenting were very challenging. She remembers feeling frustrated and disoriented, and this business of mothering felt, well, unsustainable. So, she set out to find new tools, ones that fostered connection and encouraged healthy boundaries. Soon, balance and joy began to emerge. Today, she is the Lead Mentor and Owner of Sustainable Parenting and she's joined us to share her personal story and offer simple and effective tools that actually work! Tune in to learn about how firmness supports kindness and begin to shift from resentful exhaustion to predictable peace.
Website: sustainableparenting.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SustainableParenting
Instagram: @sustainable_parent_coach
Free sustainable parenting workshop: https://sustainableparenting.com/calm-confident-rsvp-2/
LIFTS Online Resource Guide:
https://hmhb-lifts.org
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
Susie Zeak, the Director of Toby's House, a crisis nursery located in Great Falls, Montana, joins us for an important discussion on the importance of free, open-late, non-judgemental childcare. The services and relationships that happen at Toby's House are crucial and, at time, lifesaving. Susie also opens up about her own mothering journey and how surviving the incredible challenges of being a teen mom in the 80's has turned her into a humble, empathy-driven super-hero. Her story is tremendously hopeful, and she insists on "keeping it real", which is always refreshing. Meet Susie and hear about the incredible work being done to support families when they're struggling.
https://tobyshousemt.org
Facebook or Instagram: @tobyshousemt
Subscribe to Toby's House's newsletter:
https://tobyshousemt.org/subscribe/
LIFTS Online Resource Guide:
https://hmhb-lifts.org
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
In this episode, Darci Wiebe, the Health Resources Division Administrator and former Bureau Chief of the Medical Marijuana Program for the state of Montana, sits down with us to share her story. Darci takes her work very seriously because of what she and her family have been through. Her youngest child, Mcki, began experimenting with substances at a very young age and became addicted to meth as a teen. She was also an athlete, artist, actress and star student who came from a loving and supportive middle-class family. During our conversation, Darcy shares what it was like for her to fight for her daughter's recovery, heal alongside her family, and welcome her grandson, Finn into the world. Her story is powerful, and we are so grateful for the compassion, empathy and determination she brings to those who are lacking resources and are in need of support.
LIFTS online resource guide: https://hmhb-lifts.org
Specific services relevant to this episode (found on LIFTS.org)
Substance Use Disorder Treatment Providers:
https://hmhb-lifts.org/services?service_type=Substance+Use+Disorder+Treatment
Peer Support Specialists:
https://hmhb-lifts.org/services?service_type=Peer+Support+Specialists
Medications for Opioid Use Disorders:
https://hmhb-lifts.org/services?service_type=Medications+for+Opioid+Use+Disorders+%28MOUD%29
Medicaid Enrollment Assistance:
https://hmhb-lifts.org/services?service_type=Medicaid+Enrollment+Assistance
Meadowlark Initiative: https://mthcf.org/meadowlark/
For statewide resources please visit the Linking Infants and Families to Supports at
https://hmhb-lifts.org/
Co-parenting is hard. Sure, there are moments of deep appreciation for some of the things we often hear about: breaks on the days the kids are at their other home, the chance to reflect and recover during the in-between times. But, ultimately, none of those moments happen without an undercurrent of grief and an intense longing that doesn't go away. And when it comes to that, no one really talks about it. So, in this episode, Brie and Claire do.
In this Episode, Joe Salyer joins us to share his story of addiction, substance abuse, recovery and how all of those experiences led him to where he is today. Joe works as the social services care manager for the Montana Obstetrics & Maternal Support (MOMS) program, which aims to elevate maternal health in Montana. Which is all just a fancy way of saying that Joe sits with new or expecting mothers who are struggling with substance use disorders and says to them, “I’ve been there. I know how you feel. You don’t have to lose what I lost. Let’s get you some help.” He does this with compassion, humility and the strong belief that, given the right resources, every human can feel empowered and inspired to attain joy and fulfill their glorious purpose in life.
Micah Fiske and her husband Dave have three sons Emerson, Owen, and Archer. Micah is a stay at home mom and also teaches a dance fitness/ movement therapy class called Oula. Micah found Oula while suffering from PPD and attributes her recovery to the healing power of dance, music and community she found through that format. She is passionate about sharing her personal story of high risk pregnancy, infertility, and loss in order to bring awareness to how common those obstacles are today.
Haley Peters is here for the first episode of season 2 and we're so glad she is. In this episode, she shares with us what it's been like to enter into motherhood while juggling a budding nursing career, unresolved trauma, the grief and loneliness of a suddenly disrupted partnership with her husband due to work schedules, injury and chronic pain, and how this all led to the manifestation of intense postpartum mood disorders. If that sounds like a lot, it's because it is. But it all adds up to something beautiful and rare: a Family Nurse Practitioner who wakes every day eager to treat those who find themselves facing similar hardships. Haley is an actively healing wounded healer full of hope and purpose.
In this rare episode, the tables are turned as our host, Claire, shares her own personal journey through a recent mental health crisis in order to shed light on some difficult topics. We talk about what falling apart, intervention, and recovery looked like for her. We don't want to spoil it all here but have a listen to find out what these changes look like for the podcast going forward. At Mother Love, we believe that hope and healing arise when we share our stories. So, we're not going to stop anytime soon and we hope you don't either.
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Raise your hand if, as a mom, you've tried really, really, really hard to "keep it all together". There are so many reasons we do this, particularly in what is referred to as the 4th trimester when we're juggling so much but want to appear that we've got it all under control. In this episode, Kendyall generously shares her experience of Post-partum Anxiety and how scary things got when, after giving birth to her third baby, Abel, keeping things under control really began to feel very out of control. We're so grateful for her courage.
Kendyall Cheff lives in gorgeous Polson, Montana with her Husband, Toby, and their 3 children- Elly (7), Olive (4), and Abel (20 months). Kendyall is a registered nurse on the Labor, Delivery, Post-partum Recovery floor at a critical access hospital. She and her husband own and operate their outfitting business, Cheff Legacy Outfitters.
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Jessica (Jesse) Peterson, joined us to share her wisdom on many subjects including pregnancy, birth, co-parenting, blending of families, supportive and healthy partnership, and how her passion for perma-culture has transformed the way she views the world. Among the many, many roles Jesse has played in her life, she is now the owner of Wild Willow Wellness where she offers beautifully crafted, hyper-local apothecary products as well as healing and heavenly massage experiences in Helena, Montana. We're grateful for Jesse's kind and powerful presence, her willingness to have honest conversations, and her commitment to walk in her values every day. Hope you enjoy this conversation and that Jesse's strong confidence boosts yours.
Show notes:
- Wild Willow Wellness (Jesse’s apothecary and massage offerings): https://www.wildwillowwellness.com/
- The Bradley Method:http://bradleybirth.com/
- More about Jesse: https://www.permaculturewomen.com/jessicapeterson/
Book Recommendations:
- Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth
- Spiritual Midwifery
- Naturally Healthy Babies and Children: A Commonsense Guide to Herbal Remedies, Nutrition, and Health
- Nourishing Traditions for Babies
Videos that Claire mentions (if you need a good laugh)
- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mh4f9AYRCZY
- https://youtu.be/-Ojvk-4IcOE
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In this episode of Mother Love, Krysti Walker and Sabrina Navarro share their experience of starting a family via in vitro fertilization with the help of their dear friends Sarah and Tyler Gregson. In episode 14, we got to hear from Sarah and Tyler about what this experience was like for them. Now, we have the chance to talk with the moms little Elliot and how their unique but very natural experience of conception, pregnancy and birth has been a huge gift in their lives and the lives of their family members. Their son Elliot, now four, brings so much light and love along with him. He’s quick to tell everyone he loves them. To Elliot, saying “I love you” is just as common and natural as saying “hello” or “goodbye”. As Krysti describes him she says, laughing, “Elliot thinks everyone is his best friend.” He lives with his heart wide open thanks to all those who’ve steeped him in love from the very beginning.
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When Tyler and Sarah Gregson were invited to help their friend’s Sabrina and Kristi start their family, they knew almost instantly that their answer was a strong yes. They had both known Kristi for years and were thrilled to photograph the magical day that she proposed to the love of her life, Sabrina. Naturally, they also captured their wedding day and left feeling especially connected to both Kristi and Sabrina’s families. Before long, Tyler and Sarah were ecstatic to learn that Sabrina had become pregnant right away via in vitro fertilization with Tyler’s sperm donation - which they hand-delivered in a brown paper bag on a freezing winter day. Trust me, you'll want to hear this piece of the story. Over the next several months, the four of them celebrated the life that would become Elliot, now 5. Tyler describes the unique structure and abundance of love surrounding Elliot "an avalanche of love”. This is the story of how that one single snowflake gathered speed, grew in size, and is barreling down the mountain in a deafening roar.
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After decades of dreaming about becoming a mom and what felt like an equally long time trying to conceive, Carly and her husband Bryan were elated to discover that their dream had finally become a reality when she became pregnant. Weeks later, at their first ultrasound, time stood still as the tech struggled to find a heartbeat. The shock and grief of this trauma consumed them as their heavy loss sunk in. Carly was astounded to find that this very common experience existed mostly in silence. Why aren’t people talking about this? Why are women and families left to suffer these devastating losses in isolation when they could be comforting and supporting one another? She decided to start a conversation by courageously posting their experience on her Facebook page and was amazed at how many people responded with gratitude and encouragement after voicing her pain which, in turn, gave others the permission to voice theirs. We are grateful Carly was game to share here on Mother Love and hope her story breaks even more of the silence surrounding infant loss and miscarriage.
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We felt it was high time to have a heart to heart about what it is like to be a parent during the COVID-19 Coronavirus Global Pandemic. Spoiler alert: it’s not easy. No matter what stage of development your child is currently in, they’re feeling the energy and impact of a world turned upside down. As caregivers, we’re constantly trying to access compassion and empathy while, at the same time, we’re all pushed to our capacity. Please join us as we discuss coping strategies and the lessons we’ve learned (but haven’t yet mastered) during this trying time. It’s okay to not be okay.
Stuff we talked about:
- https://www.crisistextline.org/
- https://dphhs.mt.gov/amdd/covid19#9394810461-resources-for-families
- https://dphhs.mt.gov/suicideprevention/suicideresources
- https://dphhs.mt.gov/amdd/covid19
- https://parentingmontana.org/
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In this episode, Jenny reflects on the intense ripple effects she and her family have endured since the birth of their daughter, Jovie in mid-March, just days before Montana’s Governor issued the statewide Shelter-In-Place order. Jenny has had to call upon her experience as the Chief Culture Officer at Shodair Children’s Hospital, as well as the skills she learned while earning her Dare to Lead certification alongside Brene Brown, to cope during this intense time. Jenny beautifully and honestly articulates the ways in which she and her husband have chosen to embrace the current reality of raising an infant and toddler during COVID-19. We talk about the dark days and hopeful moments, the widespread fear and disconnection, and the unexpected rewards that are emerging during this time of great change.
Stuff we talked about:
- Shodair Children’s Hospital
- Jenny and James Buscher’s new LLC, Overstory
- Brene Brown- Dare to Lead. Shop local by ordering or pick up a copy at http://www.mtbookco.com/
- Become a dare to lead facilitator (certification)
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In this episode, Lacey openly shares her journey from active addiction to stable recovery. While still actively using, she discovered she was pregnant and made the extremely difficult decision to seek support in order to keep her son and get clean. Having lost her own mother to alcoholism and, ultimately, suicide at the age of 14, Lacey was faced with breaking the cycle of addiction that had claimed those closest to her. Her father still struggles with addiction today. Lacey speaks with humility, courage and unmistakable love as she describes how her son brought she and her partner (now fiance!), James, back from the darkness they’d become so accustomed to. You won’t want to miss this one.
Stuff we talked about:
- Smart recovery
- Narcotics Anonymous
- The Meadowlark Initiative
- St. James Healthcare
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In this episode, Sylvia speaks about the stories and circumstances that brought about the conception of her daughter, now eight years old. Sylvia openly shares her struggles in overcoming domestic abuse and alcohol addiction. These were long, challenging paths to walk but she continues to put one foot in front of the other in order to show up for her daughter and provide a safe and healthy life for them. Her strength is authentic, her honesty is so needed. Resilience is an unfolding, a constant act of courage. It does not require perfection.
Stuff we talked about:
- Smart Recovery (mentioned by Sylvia)
- STARLUST Design Shop (Sylvia’s Esty Shop)
- Montana Center for Somatic Therapy (FB Page
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In this episode, Natasha (Tasha) shares her experience of becoming a mother which, in her case, includes difficulty becoming pregnant, the endurance of an extremely high-risk pregnancy while serving in the National Guard, surviving antepartum depression that turned to postpartum depression w/suicidal ideology as well as a difficult and traumatic birth. She encourages other moms to seek help early on and openly shares how crucial the support she received was to her own healing process. She is a living, breathing example of strength, endurance, and love. And, yes, she's one heck of a warrior in every single sense of the word. Time to pour yourself a cup of tea and open your heart to the Mother Love.
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This conversation was so rich and divided, we had to slice it in two. In Part 2 of this episode, April Lemieux continues her story. Her's is a heartwrenching tale of soul sacrifice in the name of survival. She's a powerhouse of strength and wisdom and, when it comes to mothers, she's known many versions and reflects on the early pieces of a story that brought her to be the fiercely loving mother she is today.
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This conversation was so rich and divided, we had to slice it in two. In Part 1 of this episode, April Lemieux describes her experiences growing up in the foster care system in Montana. Hers is a heartwrenching tale of soul sacrifice in the name of survival. She's a powerhouse of strength and wisdom and, when it comes to mothers, she's known many versions and reflects on the early pieces of a story that brought her to be the fiercely loving mother she is today.
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Stephanie shares the story of her unexpected pregnancy at the age of 18. Now 20, she speaks about the difficult decisions she has faced, her commitment to her daughter, Tyla, and how she has learned to persevere despite great obstacles. This conversation takes a beautiful turn when Stephanie describes her work as a Mental Health Tech at Shodair Children's Hospital and explains how that work has been instrumental in developing healthy coping skills and emotional processing tools that have helped her tremendously in navigating life as a single mom.
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In this episode, Tia openly discusses her lifelong search for true belonging. She shares what it feels like to be on the receiving end of racism (both overt and subtle) and describes the incredible people who've shaped her life. Somehow, while juggling infant and toddler care, being the principal of an elementary school during COVID-19, and witnessing the Black Lives Matter movement as a person of mixed racial heritage, Tia practices cultivating love and hope in the present moment. And, as if that weren't enough, the Wilkins' newest family member, Oryn, has recently been diagnosed with cystic fibrosis. If you've ever wondered what resilience sounds like, grab a beverage and have a listen.
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Emily Tosoni shares her story of becoming a mother to her son, Cohen. This is an honest, raw, brave account of how infant loss changes everything. It is heart-wrenching and bold, with glimmering nuggets of hope and wisdom throughout. Emily's experience serves to connect others who've lost children, to teach people what (and what not) to say to survivors, and inspires all of us to live from the heart, even when it hurts to do so.
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In this episode, Claire and Sheri discuss the importance and value of quality support before, during, and after birth. We examine the twists and turns that brought Sheri to this line of work, why she is passionate about it and how supporting families through her small business, Aurora Birth Song, feels like her true calling.
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Visit the Great Helena Area Early Childhood Coalition at www.helenaecc.org.
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In this episode, Trista and I talk about her experience of pregnancy and early motherhood. We laugh, cry, and share what was hard and how we came through. Trista speaks about her related work and her passion to advocate for parents, families, and caregivers. We talk about the importance of awareness when it comes to mental health, especially for new mothers.
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