Dating, Relationships, and Love (DRL): Recent Episodes
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Dating, Relationships, and Love Podcast (DRL) shares life-changing lessons and explores unique dating experiences covering the full spectrum of relationships. Join dating coach and matchmaker Tennesha Wood every week for unfiltered and engaging conversations with everyone from singles sick of swiping on Tinder, partners exploring open/poly relationships, happily married couples in Black Love bliss, divorcees starting from scratch, to sex workers juggling careers with romantic connections. Full of eye-openers across 185+ bingeable episodes, DRL gives invaluable advice through coaching sessions with real clients, industry experts, and Tennesha's Jamaican mom, who isn't afraid to tell it like it is. DRL is your how-to guide on being your authentic self, understanding relationships, and creating the love you desire.
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Gentlemen's Factory founder, Jeff Lindor, is sharing why Black men need safe spaces and what men talk about when women aren't around. He's also discussing why getting married at 25 turned out to be his biggest blessing.
Tennesha's back! She's sharing where she's been for the last year and why she's still processing 2020.
Breakup Coach and Author Amy Chan is sharing what happens in the body and the brain during a breakup and how to work through the stages of heartbreak. She’s also sharing how her upbringing and the fantasy of the 'fairy tale' led her to ignore red flags that caused her own traumatic breakup.
Donnetta got married at 24, and divorced her husband after years of lies and infidelity. Now 41, she's having trouble trusting her instincts and the men she dates. Tennesha coaches Donetta on defining her own needs, being upfront, and the power of positive thought and manifestation. Tennesha is also sharing some exciting news that will redefine how Black professionals meet and date.
Kola and Kofie met on Facebook and instantly realized they were soul mates. They fell in love within a week, and Kola sold her house and moved to Georgia with her children to start a life together. The couple shares how working on themselves led them to love and why they have no doubts despite moving so quickly.
Tennesha and her boyfriend Chris answer listener questions and advise on preventing situationships, exposing screenshots from a cheater, and when men are actually ready to get married. The pair also share how they manifested each other and why they believe music perpetuates cheating.
Tennesha advises on how to handle the infamous "WYD" "good morning beautiful" and "we should hang out" texts that every woman has received from men. It's frustrating and wastes time, but men aren't the only ones to blame! She's sharing why it's happening and how you can end the ambiguity and establish quality communication while courting.
After ten years in a monogamous marriage, Kenya and her husband decided to embark on a new journey that began with seeing other people. Even after settling into a poly relationship, they still had to remove layers of conditioning that caused jealousy and anger. Kenya is sharing why she doesn't believe in monogamy, how she manages two husbands and other partners, and how her children view of their lifestyle.
Ryan was fairly certain she didn't want kids but assumed the urge might come someday. Although she never changed her mind, she met the love of her life and got married. Tennesha and Ryan discuss the stigmas associated with women that are childfree by choice. Tennesha also shares how a medical condition has not only made the topic of children a more imminent one but has also put her on the fence about having children of her own.
Divorce attorney Kimberly Cook is sharing the number one reason couples get divorced and the crucial conversations to have before getting married. She's also discussing why everyone needs to look into a pre-up and how to protect your future.
Renata noticed that Chris kept liking all her photos, so she slid into his DM to say hi. Soon they were talking for hours every day and fell in love. They are sharing why this relationship has shown them that love is possible at any stage and why they waited for two months to meet in person.
Spoiler alert: Since recording this episode, Renata and Chris got engaged!
Tennesha and mom Sonia answer listener questions and give advice about dealing with a monster in law, regrets about getting married too young, and a former player who 'thinks' he's ready to change. Sonia also wonders how Tennesha's OCD nature is impacting her relationship.
After years of dating in the U.S., Bako felt like men weren't pursuing her, so she left to work and date abroad. She's sharing some of her hilarious tales from dating in Japan and dispelling some myths about Asian men. Tennesha and Bako also discuss how she's been able to separate sexual connections from emotional ones and why her happily ever will always include a suitcase.
When 22-year-old Bri met her 62-year-old boyfriend Bill, friends and family were skeptical of the union and his circle did not initially accept her. Despite the 40-year age gap, the couple has forged a strong bond; Bri is now helping to parent his two youngest children and is open to having more in the future. She's sharing how she has learned to navigate his world and why she belives their age gap is not an issue.
Damilola was in a relationship with the woman he knew he would marry, but old friends still lingered, and eventually, he became entangled in an emotional affair. He’s sharing how his faith led him to come clean to his girlfriend and why he believes their connection is now stronger than ever.
Heather and Baxter answered a casting call for a "stranger session" photoshoot; something that was out of character for both of them. Their chemistry was clear in the photos that immediately went viral. They are sharing what really happened during the photoshoot and whether they have formed a romantic connection since then.
After a secret wedding in the Dominican Republic, LaRhonda found out that her new husband had children she knew nothing about. She's sharing how she learned to trust her gut and let go of old baggage and why she has never stopped believing in the wonder and adventure of dating.
Tennesha and boyfriend Chris discuss whether it's possible to overcome strained parental relationships and start fresh.
'Too Much Soul' author Cindy Wilson was born in South Korea and adopted by a Black couple from Jackson, Mississippi. Cindy is sharing how she has navigated being of Korean descent but connected primarily to Black American culture while growing up in the deep south. We also discuss why Cindy had exclusively dated black men and how living in Atlanta has expanded her horizon.
Psychotherapist Kenya Crawford is joining Tennesha to talk about racial trauma, being mindful of your own mental health, and how to handle workplace discussions around race. Kenya is also answering a listener question from a woman whose boyfriend refused to join her at a Black Lives Matter protest.
Tennesha and her mother Sonia discuss her experience growing up in Jamaica and transitioning to the racial inequalities of America. Sonia also shares how she dealt with the systemic racism in the education system and why she continues to fight in the face of “Minnesota nice.”
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Tennesha revisits three interracial relationships to help navigate the rough week we've all been through.
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Although Dana is waiting on Mr. Right and believes in dating with purpose, she also believes that the wait should be fun. With age, Dana's non-negotiables have shifted and she's now dating people she didn't previously consider, including older men and white men. Dana also shares the hilarious tale of dating a man that was a few decades her senior.
Tennesha explores the process of egg freezing with Azella, Lauren, and Nubia, who have varying views on childbearing. The ladies also share the mental, emotional and financial impacts of the process and how it affected the way they date. They discuss whether it's possible for women to have it all, given all the sacrifices that motherhood brings and how gender roles also play into the equation.
Lashaun’s husband kept a secret from her and it eventually led to their divorce. After 15 years of marriage, she began dating again and had the time of her life, before meeting her new boo. She’s sharing how her divorce forced her to face her flaws and embrace her freedom.
At 47, Omar was single and wanted children but hadn't met the one. Just as he was about to start the surrogacy process, he met his now-fiancée Shar on the street. Though 20 years his junior, they knew it was meant to be and got engaged just two months later. Omar is sharing why he's glad Shar came later in life and how he knew she was the one he had been waiting for.
Mika is sharing how she grieved the death of her boyfriend Reggie and overcame the unhealthy coping mechanisms she used to numb the pain. Eventually, therapy helped her to face the grief head-on. She also reveals how Reggie's words gave her the courage to date again.
Financial dominatrix, Mistress Marley introduces us to the world of kink and domination. She's also sharing why she left her corporate job to be a 'fin dom', where men pay to worship her.
Tearra shares how becoming a mother has changed her perspective and taught her to live in the moment. She is also explaining how she learned to work through her traumas and how motherhood has impacted her relationship with her own mom.
Tennesha gives tips on how to date during a pandemic; from setting up a profile to creating a quarantine date. Chris and Tennesha also discuss why being apart during the formation of their relationship actually brought them closer together.
Tennesha is joined by her boyfriend Chris to answer listener questions and discuss "quarantine and chill" etiquette, why a pandemic is not a good excuse to reach out to your ex, and how soon is too soon to share your phone passcode with your significant other.
Essah is sharing how she learned to recognize what she needed instead of what she wanted and how it lead her to her husband. Tennesha and Essah also discuss how women's insecurities cause nice guys to finish last.
Married couple Dillion and Venza are sharing how they formed a partnership with their fiance Mari and why jealousy has not impacted their relationship. The throuple is also discussing how friends and family reacted to the decision to live a polygynous life, why they plan to add more women to their tribe, and why they believe polygyny is a part of human nature.
At 34, Arhonda felt the pressure to get married and start a family. Soon into the marriage, she realized that she ignored red flags and married her husband based on his potential. She's sharing why she waited almost 10 years to end the marriage and how divorcing gave her the freedom to explore what she really wants.
Erin never knew her father and felt like she chose the wrong men to fill the void, and ended up in an abusive relationship. She is sharing why she's has gotten a new lease on life after meeting the sister she never knew.
Elisha is sharing how taking time off her career gave her the freedom to just be and find "her most mature relationship" and why she actually enjoys being in a long-distance partnership. Tennesha and Elisha also discuss how the choice to delay marriage and children have afforded other opportunities.
Fatima lost her mother to suicide, at just two years old, and had no relationship with her father. The trauma of her past and never witnessing a successful relationship brought difficulty in her own relationships. She’s sharing how she learned to accept her past and gain strength from it. Fatima is also discussing why she believes it's important to keep your ego and your pride.
After leaving an 11-year toxic relationship, Eliana decided to clear all things from her life that no longer served her; including one-sided friendships and a career that brought her no joy. She is sharing her journey to self-love, empowerment and how becoming a plus-sized model has helped her to define her destiny.
Tennesha's mom, Sonia, shares wisdom on what to look for in a partner and answers listener questions. She also discusses why she chose the quiet guy despite being courted by so many eager men.
After nearly 20 years together, Tracy and her husband have been faced with infidelity and family tragedies; they reached a breaking point and decided to tear it all down and rebuild their marriage on their own terms. Tracy is sharing how they found new ways to deal with old issues and why they are honest with their kids about the work it takes to maintain a happy marriage.
Seven years into her relationship, Glaiza is debating about whether she should change habits her boyfriend doesn't like in order to get a ring.
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Lauren shares her journey to sex positivity and why she believed that she had to suppress her sexuality in order to find a good man. We also discuss how she learned to detach from the expectations and opinions of others when it comes to her sexual fluidity and desires.
Tennesha sits down with boyfriend Chris and shares why she feared losing her independence and how it led to a challenging long-distance relationship. They also answer listener questions from a guilty cheater and a frustrated app dater.
Erotic visual artist Sir Dashington is sharing how he creates intimacy and taps into a woman's body without sex and how he helps couples form a stronger bond through the work he was called to do. He is also giving advice on how to approach the conversation if you are not being sexually pleased in your relationship.
Lucy met a guy, they fell in love, and then things started to change. He began isolating her from her friends and family and it slowly escalated into a toxic and emotionally abusive relationship where he threatened to expose private photos. Lucy is sharing how she took matters into her own hands to regain control and how she now spots and avoids red flags.
Acclaimed author, Margaret Wilkerson Sexton, is sharing how she navigates being in an interracial marriage and the shifting racial dynamics throughout their 18-year partnership, including how becoming parents have changed the couples’ interactions with white friends. Margaret is also giving a preview of her latest book, The Revisioners, and discussing the link between her identity and her writings that interweave slavery, segregation, race and the lingering effects we still face today.
Tennesha and Rhonda are giving advice on how to let someone know when you’re not interested; while also debating whether it's okay to let partners know when they have a habit that bothers you. Rhonda goes on to share memorable dating adventures, including the awkward date that followed meeting a guy at a swingers club.
When they first met, Ruben had just gotten out of a relationship and Raul had just come out and never had a serious relationship. They are sharing how they got past the fears and decided to live in the now. Ruben is also sharing how healing his relationship with his father gave him the courage to let go of past hurt and love people as they are.
37-year-old southern bell, Dené, had everything mapped out; being married by 25 and having a child by 28, but things didn't work out that way. She is sharing how her time in NYC taught her to embrace her single life and independence. Dené and Tennesha also discuss how being the "single" one in a close-knit group of married friends has helped to understand both sides of the spectrum.
In part 2 of Panoramic Views, Lottie shares how meeting her father at 18 and watching her mother struggle in toxic relationships caused her to examine her own habits and strive to break generational curses.
In Part of 1 of 2, Lottie shares why she identifies as a pansexual, how she ended up with a girlfriend, and why she believes in living free after growing up on a refugee camp.
Enrico shares how focusing on intensive self-work put him on the path of living life with intention. He talks about fully opening up communications with his girlfriend (and business partner), understanding the source of his anger, and living authentically.
Tennesha helps Tori figure out why she isn't meeting the right guys online and gives tips on attracting the right men including defining what you want, avoiding men that aren't on your level, and teaching people how to treat you.
After a devastating breakup, Greg and his ex-girlfriend got pregnant and decided to have the baby but remain separated. Greg is sharing why he is choosing to stay single and focus on his son and how his own childhood has shaped the way is co-parenting.
After 10 years together, a 7-year engagement, and 2 kids, Maimon and her fiance finally decided to get married. She's sharing why they waited to tie the knot and do it their way. Tennesha's mom also pops in to talk about the one that got away...from Tennesha.
Grant used to have a reputation and it often landed him in "gamey" situations or the friendzone. Grant is sharing how therapy helped him see himself and why he needed to step back to be ready for his relationship. Tennesha and Grant also discuss why men lie about what they really want.
24-year-old Anna is on the fast track to career success and will soon be pursuing her Ph.D. Tennesha and Anna discuss whether it is harder to date with a higher education and the concept of being "equally yolked." Tennesha is also giving advice about what to ask on a first date to get past the nonsense.
After leaving her Catholic Church for a more lively one, Rachel developed a church crush. After a few months of dating he only wanted a friendship. Rachel is sharing how they went from just friends to married, why they prepared for marriage, and how they navigate their partnership with different racial and religious backgrounds.
Marwa grew up in a strict Muslim household where she thought she would be married by 24. She's sharing what it's like to "date" while Muslim and how she now balances marriage, work, and a toddler.
After a year-long situationship, Ondrea decided to take some time to re-evaluate what she was looking for in a husband. She got rid of the six-pack, six-foot, six-figure requirement and left only three things on her list. Ondrea is sharing how rethinking her list led her to the kind of man she's always wanted.
Tennesha sits down with her ex Jerry to get answers about the day he broke her heart and why he wasn't ready for a commitment.
Tennesha shares all the big changes in her life in 2019 and why she's happier than ever. She's also taking listener questions and giving advice on how to deal with mixed signals and cheapskates.
Have you ever made a SWOT analysis for your life? Haley did and she realized that she needed to spend some time getting to know herself after two long term relationships. Haley is sharing what three years of being singe taught her and why she avoids dinner dates at all cost.
Sylvia met a man who was perfect on paper; great career, attractive, and wanted to settle down and start a family. He proposed and they moved in together and were soon hit with the harsh realities of growing apart and being diagnosed with a life-threatening illness. She's sharing how she got through that dark time and where they are today.
After leaving an abusive relationship, Tazia is ready to date again. She's sharing what she learned from her last relationship and what she's looking for now.
Jennae got her fairy tale when she married her best friend and had children. The marriage took a turn when Jennae and her husband were forced to live apart and she was suffering from postpartum depression. Jennae is sharing why she sought emotional support from another man and how she fought to save her marriage.
Shy guy Travis was excited when he met 'Karen' on Tinder and sparks immediately flew. He soon found out that she also attracted to women and wasn't willing to commit to just him. He's sharing how he navigated this uncharted territory and what he learned from it.
Married at 20, Asea is sharing why she got married so young and how she and her husband came together despite him not being her type initially.
Inayah is newly "un-single" and she's not quite ready to categorize it as a relationship until she's sure there's a future with her younger boo. Inayah is sharing what it's like dating a man four years her junior and how she's showing him the ropes of an adult relationship.
Model De'Ana Fierce made the decision to come out to her parents in college, and it put a strain on her family. De'Ana has stayed true to herself alongside her partner of 11 years. She's sharing how their foundation of friendship has brought them through difficult times. Tennesha helps De'Ana to move forward and share her future plans with her family.
Tennesha is talking about her recent life change and answering listener questions about what it's like dating a man with children. She's also giving advice on navigating communicating in your relationship, not straying your marriage, and sharing why you should ask for a credit score up front.
Essence is back for part of 2. Hilarity ensues when she shares her most memorable dates during the 12 years she's been single. She discusses everything from fancy dates at Chipotle knockoffs to the guy who was determined to feed her venison.
Essence has been singe for the last 12 years. During that time, she encountered many frogs, including a few who have gotten other women pregnant while dating her. She is talking about life in the friend-zone and sharing why she has given up on the 'Say Yes to the Dress' fantasy.
Giavanna is sharing how turning 30 caused her to re-evaluate her friendships and recognize that every friend is for every-thing. She also reveals why she wants kids but is okay without marriage. Tennesha and Giavanna debate about whether it’s really okay to “date the man that works at McDonald's.”
Jazmin remained celibate through an entire 7-year relationship, but that changed when she became "smitten" for the first time. She went against her better instincts and ignored red flags, which lead to heartache. Jazmin shares how she was humbled by that experience and the lessons it taught her about loving unconditionally.
Panama joined Tennesha on DRL over two years ago, where she labeled him as "the wild one" and "a player." Now, almost 30, Panama is back to share what he's learned about relationships and why he's gotten real with women about who is and what he wants.
Danielle recounts her journey from bride-to-be to single. She is sharing why she fell in love with the fantasy of marriage and how she realized she was with the wrong man which led her to embark on a journey of discovery and self love.
Michael and Meghan are back to share why they don't define their relationship and choose to focus on curiosity and exploration instead. They also discuss how they work through fear and jealousy and the impact their growth has on their other relationships.
Michael and Meghan are an interracial couple who met during the brutal summer of 2016 when several black men were killed unlawfully at the hands of police. Neither had seriously dated interracially and that summer they were forced to confront issues of race and class which set the tone of openness and communication in their relationship.
Do men have the same fears that women do at 30? Bryan is back on DRL is share his thoughts on everything from gender roles to rejection to text ghosting. Tennesha tries to get Bryan to re-enact the perfect bar approach and airs her frustrations on millennial dating.
Kara, founder of The Frugal Feminista, is sharing how she healed her relationship with money and is now helping others to do the same, after growing up witnessing her mother bear financial burdens to support her father's goals. Tennesha and Kara also discuss how your relationship with money effects how you see yourselves and your partners.
Michelle, aka Brunchnista, is sharing why she fears being "tied down" in a relationship and how she is learning to give men more grace. Tennesha and Michelle also discuss why women need to communicate their needs upfront; men are not mind-readers.
Open relationship coach Linda is back to talk about how she navigates her open relationship and how her friends and family reacted to her open status. She is sharing how she made the meeting of her boyfriend and her partner comfortable for everyone and giving advice to couples considering an open relationship.
Open relationship coach Linda shares what led her and her partner to open their relationship after four years of monogamy. She is also talking about how being in an open relationship has expanded her views on how partners interact emotionally and sexually.
Tennesha and boyfriend celebrate the 100th episode of DRL! They are giving an update on their 21 day journey to marriage and sharing lessons learned about themselves and each other in 2018. They are also taking listener questions and giving advice about everything from sugar daddies to dogs in the bed.
Major shares how having a flirtatious personality and unresolved traumas lead to the ending of a three and a half year relationship, and gave him the freedom to be himself. He also explains how he ended up with four wives in Lebanon and why he thrives in polyamorous relationships.
Houston native Mya, started a thriving business and moved to Ghana, where she dated men from various tribes and is now in a relationship with an alpha male from the Asante tribe. She is sharing her thoughts on building a successful relationship including being honest with yourself, accepting people as they are, understanding the propaganda that women are fed about men, and why she thinks African men have so much confidence.
Hamish talks about his view of the world from almost 7 feet above. He also lets us know what it's like to deal with reverse #metoo and "aggressive" women. Sharing lessons from his low points in dating, in which he was seeing 11 women at the same time, Hamish now knows exactly what he's looking for in his future wife. Tennesha and Hamish also debate on whether it's okay for significant others to let themselves go after getting into a relationship.
Tina’s husband asked for a divorce after sevens years of marriage.They maintained a friendship and continued to live together for months after their divorce. They now speak daily, maintain very close ties, and occasionally “date.” Tennesha and Tina discuss what this arrangement might do; block future partners, lead to a reconciliation, or leave her heartbroken.
Nadine stayed in an abusive marriage for years in fear of breaking up her family. She is talking about the warning signs she ignored, what gave her the courage to leave, and how she changed the trajectory of her future and is now living her best life. Tennesha and Nadine also discuss setting expectations when you’re new to the dating game.
Mildred talks about modern day dating in Ghana and the double standards that exist there and worldwide. Tennesha helps Mildred prepare for the "what are we?" and "what are you looking for" talks with a man she has been seeing - who started out persistent but hasn't kept it up. They also discuss why its important to re-evaluate your boyfriend wish list and the importance of reciprocity and balance in love given and love received.
Tennesha is giving dating tips including loving yourself, observing and obeying signs, staying in the moment, and all the things you need to know to enjoy a date.
Last year La left everything behind in NYC to live out her dreams of traveling the world. Her journey was filled with adventure and some Tinder dates along the way. She ended up falling in love with Ghana and a man that truly "got her." La is sharing the rollercoaster from love to heartbreak, as well as why she took the high road after the man she fell in love with got married just weeks after they broke up.
Fresh out of a 3 year relationship, Ayesha is exploring what marriage really means to her and deciding how to shape her future without blocking what it may have in store for her. Tennesha and Ayesha are discussing why it's problematic to have an "I am who I am" attitude in relationships, why there is no "one size fits all" for how relationships unfold, and whether their 30 something OCD lives are set up for children.
Lis spent her early dating years in long term relationships where she put herself and her needs second. She focused on helping her partners and attracted people that needed to be "saved." Since then, Lis has learned to make herself a priority. She's sharing how she developed a deeper love for herself, took control to live authentically, and became empowered to set boundaries while exploring and dating multiple people.
Elgin had the courage to blaze his own path and achieve success despite a childhood of adversity which included the death of his mother and his father going to prison. The same courage gave him the strength to leave a 25 year relationship where he was "just content" and unfulfilled. He is sharing why he end his marriage, how he knew it was time, and the transition into dating again.
Minnesota natives Marisa and Jarrell had a chance meeting in a parking lot in Atlanta after Marisa noticed his license plates. Marisa wasted no time in letting Jarrell know that she was looking for something real. They are sharing their journey from parking lot pimpin' to putting a ring on it; meshing opposite personalities, learning to live in the grey area, and the growing pains of a new marriage.
Jodi dated men for most her life, eventually married one, and had children. After her marriage failed, she fell in love with Kendra, a woman, and they are now having a baby together. They are sharing their journey; how Jodi broke the news to her ex husband and children, why they feel in love, and the process of becoming pregnant.
Singer and broadway star, Frenchie Davis is sharing how she turned the end of a toxic relationship into a journey of self love and joy. Frenchie also talks about the dating multiple people and enjoying each person for what they have to offer and having the strength to let them go when it's time.
Southern bell Chiquita recaps her most memorable dating experiences in NYC and shares the lessons that brought her to where she is today including, understanding your own traumas and how they manifest, understanding that every interaction is not about you, being comfortable with being yourself, and maintaining your standards. She also discusses how reconnecting with the father she barely knew, and the siblings she never met, changed dating and why she refuses to take on victim energy.
Sexologist Michelle Hope is sharing how she came to this work and answering listener questions about threesome boundaries, faked orgasms, and intimacy vs. sex. Michelle and Tennesha also debate about how soon is too soon to have sex with a new partner.
Liz is free spirited woman who spent most of her 20's in a long-term relationship. After her 30th birthday, she realized she had grown out of that relationship and desired independence and freedom. She is sharing her journey and talking about sexual fluidity and avoiding labels. Tennesha and Liz also discuss the conditioning that society puts on women such as getting marriage and having children.
Tennesha and boyfriend Chris are discussing the season 3 premiere of Insecure: bad decisions, double standards, and open relationships.
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Ebony dealt with several tragic events, including the passing of her mom, dad, and sister. She lived what many people only read about. Overcoming so much and growing up in the Bronx made her a tough woman, but also left her with insecurities when she began dating in a new circle. She's sharing how her and her husband came together despite their differences and how she learned to move past her insecurities.
Mark and Lesha had a chance meeting while he was DJ'ing at a club, their eyes locked and there was an instant connection. Both divorced, they got a second chance at love. Mark quickly moved to Miami to be with Lesha and they were married within months. They are sharing their incredible journey of love at first sight.
PJ's first love died tragically, unsure of how to mourn the loss, PJ sought refuge in new partners which led to a sex addiction. After ending up in an unfulfilling relationship, PJ got to know and love himself through celibacy. He is sharing his journey of self discovery and telling us why he's now ready for something real.
Tennesha walks down memory lane with her college ex Anthony to talk about everything from how they met through a prank call to how Anthony is dealing with his recent breakup after a 4 year relationship and how he has learned the difference between being selfish and taking care of yourself in a relationship. Tennesha also tells Anthony why she will always love him.
Unlike most women, Akilah wanted to date a man with kids because she always knew she did not want children of her own. Paul already had two kids and knew he didn't want more. They are sharing their story and talking about the importance of setting expectations and making no assumptions. Tennesha also gives a "days without incident" update.
Gio and Alysse are opposites in many ways. Gio is a transgender black man and Alysse is a cisgender white woman and a plus sized model. Working as advocates for GLBTQ rights brought them together and their love bloomed. We discuss everything from how Gio's family handled his transition to why Alysse has always had an open mind and how she achieved body positivety and turned it into a modeling career.
After a year 7 year relationship ended in heartbreak, Greg moved across the country for a fresh start in L.A. where he worked through his feelings and learned how to play the dating game while having a monogamous mindset. He found love again, but was shocked to find out that his girlfriend had been unfaithful. Tennesha and Greg are talking about overcoming breakups and Greg is sharing what he learned through singleness and why he still has faith that the right one will come along.
Efion is a new father and also newly cohabitating with his girlfriend. He is talking about his transition from bachelorhood to fatherhood and how having a daughter has changed him. Tennesha and Efion also talk about the importance of clearing space for the right one to come along.
Arielle spent her early 20's dating, exploring, and searching for herself in Europe. Along the way, she discovered her semi-serial monogamous nature while also experiencing a sexual revolution. We discuss how winding up in relationships can happen without having "the talk" and how that can lead to falling in love with one part of a person instead of their entire being. Arielle also shares her latest adventures since returning to the states.
Tennesha helps strong silent type Chris navigate the do's and dont's of dating apps and the importance of being upfront about your needs even on a first date. Chris shares some details from the unfolding of an online match turning into real life dating.
Jenelle's independence has helped her achieve great professional success; but like many woman, she has to carefully navigate the line between independence and "I don't need a man." Tennesha helps her to find the balance and understand how men feel. Jenelle also shares some of her most memorable dates including a Trump supporter and the man with baby fever.
Mel and Jason are back for part 2 to continue the discussion on married life. Today they are sharing the things nobody tells you about having children, and how children can change your life and your marriage.
After a dozen years of marriage and four children, Mel and Jason deliver a very real point of view on being married with children. In part 1 of 2, we talk about everything from the frequency of sex and how men can feel rejected, to why you have to accept your partners "as-is" and agree to disagree. They also drop knowledge on what it takes to thrive in a marriage, and next week on part 2, how kids change the equation.
Nicole took a year off dating and decided not to date again until someone puts a ring on it. Tennesha and Nicole share why women need to raise the dating bar while avoiding blocking their blessings. They also give some tips on what men can do to set themselves apart.
Greg is back on the dating scene after his recent divorce. Tennesha and Greg discuss why standard and ideals must change once you're in a relationship. Tennesha helps Greg revamp his Bumble profile and explains why women are still getting dick pics.
Therapist and #Blacklove cast member, Cynthia Branch is back to give advice to Tennesha and other habitual "relationship runners." They discuss how independence can be detrimental to your relationship and why men need to feel needed. Cynthia is also giving insights on common therapy issues including abandonment, divorce, and mommy wounds. You'll also learn why we need to stop glamorizing shade and pettiness in order to become more self aware.
In her book Empathy and Eyebrows, Danni Starr describes finding herself while mourning the loss of her marriage. She sits down with Tennesha to share the lowest points in her life including dealing with cheating and divorce in the public eye. Danni is also talking about how she perfected the art of the bounce back which led her to a man who showed her the real meaning of love and support.
Tennesha sits down with John (who happens to be her ex boyfriend) to discuss rocket ship relationships, maturing vs. settling, and relationship PTSD.
Have you ever thought about buying a one way ticket, packing your bags, and moving somewhere new? Camille did just that when she left her hometown. Tennesha and Camille share their stories of taking risks, starting over, and dating in NYC.
Tennesha gives a life update and talks about how she is feeling about step-girlfriend parenting.
Vanessa had been in 10 weddings by the time she was 27. By 30, she realized that marriage and children were not the only path to happiness. Tennesha and Vanessa are talking about what it's like to be single in your 30’s, lessons learned from the 20’s, getting rid of the list, and the one thing that truly matters when looking for the right partner.
What is it like dating a woman when you have ONLY dated men your whole life? Donette considered herself "straight" for most of her life, then she fell in love with a woman! She is talking about living in her newfound queer identity, diving into the woman dating pool, and hope...heartbreak...and everything else that comes with it.
Have you ever gotten back together with a friend? Life coach SteFanie Fuentes is back on DRL to talk about healing broken friendships and why women need to have a chicks over dicks mentality. Stefanie is also giving advice on how to get through rocky times in your relationship and sharing why she is totally fine going to bed angry.
Marissa met a guy, they feel in love and started planning a future. Unfortunately, that's not what he really wanted. She's sharing her run with the "decepticon" and the aftermath, as well as the reason she is still a hopeful romantic.
Do women give men the benefit of the doubt or are they guilty of always jumping to conclusions? Why does "it's complicated" exists as a relationship status? Bryan, Jordon, and Sean, creators of the web series "Brian" are tackling these issues from the Brooklyn male perspective.
Could you be best friends with your ex? Crystal and her ex boyfriend are best friends and business partners. She's talking about how significant others deal with the friendship and why she's currently not "accepting applications."
Tennesha is joined by her boyfriend Chris to talk about how they became “we people,” made relationship rules, moved in together, co-parent without the drama, and how they plan to seal the deal in 21 days. Chris also shares why he isn’t jealous of that time Tennesha dated Drake...sort of.
Tennesha is back with an all new season of DRL. She spills all the tea regarding the last year, including where she has been, her letters to the universe, a healthy dose of world travels, and her new man.
Kara is in an 8 year, interracial, long distance relationship in the Trump era. We are talking about everything that means!
Flight attendant and southern bell Ondrea is talking about what it's like dating at 10,000 feet and sharing her hilarious intro to online dating and Tinder in New York City.
At 35, Liz was single and thriving in her career. She knew that she also wanted to be a mother but didn't have much time, so she made the decision to have a baby on her own. We're talking about her path to motherhood and all the options she considered including egg freezing and sperm donation. She's also sharing how dating has changed since having her son
Martine was a late bloomer when it came to sexuality. She didn't realize that she liked women until she was 23 and she later came out at 31. Although she is considered masculine she doesn't want to be treated as a man. We are discussing gender roles, sexuality, and she sharing why she only gets approached by straight women
After 15 years of marriage Robert and Dawn have learned to be students of each others changing needs. We are talking about why expectations without communication can be damaging in a marriage. They are also giving tips on how to maintain a healthy marriage during stressful times and giving tips on how to work thru disagreements; rule #1: never use the "D" word
Tennesha surprises the winners of the listener contest by bringing them in as her guests for the first episode of 2017.
Comedian Andrew Schulz from the Brilliant Idiots podcast tries to explain man behavior to Tennesha. They are talking abut the opportunity costs of sex for women, why men cheat, and gender roles. Andrew is also sharing his current relationship status and what he’s looking for in a woman
The #1 problem in relationships is a lack of communication which often leads to a lack of trust. Tennesha is joined by relationship coach Jay Cadet who is giving advice on how to maintain a healthy, open, and honest relationships. Jay is also sharing the deep friendship between he and his wife that built the foundation for their marriage.
The ladies of #Blacklove are back to talk more about what's happened in their lives since the show.
Blacklove was full of growth, new relationships, healing, and even some awkward moments. All the ladies of #Blacklove are joining Tennesha to talk about what has happened in their lives since the show. What ever happened with Monet and Kyle? Did Cynthia and the pastor go out again? Are La and Karl still together? Did Jae decided to settle down? Were Tennesha and Errol meant to be?
Tennesha sits down with doctor and self proclaimed southern gentleman Latif to discuss a range of topics including chivalry, the definition of cheating, chemistry, and the invisible lame factor. Latif also puts Tennesha on the hot seat.
Neither Henry or Joel was looking for a relationship when they met in Brooklyn. Joel was there on vacation and Henry was fresh out of a long relationship. Determined not to form a long distance relationship, Henry kept his distance, but Joel saw more and wrote him a letter everyday he was away. They are sharing ho they made it happen against all the odds.
After being in serious back to back relationships. Liz went on relationship detox where she dated herself and got to know men without the pressures of pursing a relationship. She's talking about the joys of singleness, dating yourself, and sharing why she's actively trying to avoid a relationship.
To celebrate episode 40, Tennesha is doing a full episode of listener questions and giving advice to followers including a wife finding gay porn on her husbands phone, an insecure fiancé, dating a hot woman, a teacher plotting to steal a man, and more.
Bree was 6'4" by the time she was 14 and grew up playing the role of the friend when it came to dating. She learned to love and embrace her tall stature and began dating men that could do the same. She is talking self love and body confidence at all heights.
Not everyone starts stripping because they need tuition money. Jaime is a stripper and a comedian with a unique story about how she got started in the industry and why she has stayed. She's talking about really happens behind the scenes and sharing the emotions that come with stripping.
Alicia got pregnant at 22 and was determined not be a statistic, so she stayed with her son's father too long enduring drama and lies. She is talking about her journey of growing up while raising her son and sharing how she learned to enjoy her youth and still be a great mom.
In this very personal episode, Tennesha interviews her ex boyfriend's ex girlfriend to discuss breakups, closure, patterns, swagability, stability, and much more.
In part 2 of this interview, Day's husband Rob is joining us to continue the conversation on marriage and race.
Day is a successful attorney that was raised in the projects of the Bronx by a single mother. Growing up, she always thought she would marry a black man. To her surpsirse, she needed up with a Jewish man from the suburbs.
Lyric was in a four year relationship that she hoped would someday lead to marriage, but after her boyfriend's constant cheating and lies, she had to make the decision to love herself more. She's sharing her journey to self love and the beauty of trusting your intuition.
Growing up in Kansas, Kam had big dreams of moving to NYC and starting a career in television. He didn't see anyone that was like him; black, gay, and successful. Kam is sharing his story of coming out and the anger and depression that came with it. He also explains why some gay men are on the "down low" and fear coming out.
After a very public engagement, Jeff and his ex-fiancee called off their wedding only two weeks before the date. He is sharing his journey of heartbreak, self discovery, rebuilding, and finding love again.
Tennesha gives an update on her dating adventures including the impolite doctor and the guy who tried to swallow her face. She also answering listener letters and giving some advice; what do you do when you've met the perfect man but the sex is bad.
Licensed therapist and Lifestyle Director at Ebony Magazine Tia Brown is giving Tennesha some expert advice on her dating outlook. She's also sharing some tips and strategies for the common dating issues and struggles we all share.
Tennesha examines her theory that there are three different types of men that women date with guests Cameron, Panama, and Ryan. They also debate proper date etiquette and share stories of best and worst dates.
Not every culture defines marriage as one man and one woman. For many cultures polygamy is a welcomed way of life. An American 20 something is joining us on DRL to talk about what it's like being married to a man with two other wives.
Moke, a 31 year old native New Yorker knows a thing or two about dating in NYC. He's on coming to DRL to give the real deal on dating and expectations.
Natasha is an in shape 30 something with a preference for larger men. Tennesha explores what's behind this fetish, proper approach etiquette, and much more.
Olaide and Phyl, a young millennial couple, talk about their journey of meeting, dating, and falling love.
Can men and women really be just friends? Saleda and LaVarro started out as work buddies and blossomed into best friends. They are joining Tennesha on DRL to talk about the transition of their friendship when LaVarro got a girlfriend and how they handle having an opposite sex bestie.
When is a man truly ready to commit? Tennesha is in the studio with attorney and author David S. Mitchell to find out. They are talking about the politics of a relationship, including monogamy and honesty, as well as the breakup that led him to value commitment.
Friendships are the first relationships that we get to choose, and just like romantic relationships, they don't always last. Certified life coach Stefanie Fuentes-Kumnipa is joining Tennesha is share her personal growth and the growing pains of friendship. Stefanie also talks about the importance of defining friendships and courting your friends.
Tennesha is celebrating episode 20 of DRL by answering listener questions and dishing out some advice. DRL is also debuting a new segment; Moment of Inspiration.
Comedy Central's The Daily Show correspondent Roy Wood Jr. joins Tennesha to share some of his funniest dating stories and talk about the importance of sharing a sense of humor in a relationship.
Andrew and his wife met briefly almost ten years in Boston, just one issue; she lived in South Africa. The two remained long distance friends and then went on with their separate lives, which included a marriage and a baby. Today they are on DRL to share their story of patience, timing, and reuniting.
Tennesha is slowly getting back into the dating game and is disappointed about some of the latest trends in dating apps including excessive emoji use, speaking in GIF's and sliding into the DM. On this episode, Tennesha holds nothing back while sharing her dating app frustrations.
A happy marriage requires more than love, it takes sacrifice and hard work. Mike and Jacita were both ready for the ultimate sacrifice when they got married after only four months of dating. Today they are on DRL to talk about keeping the spark alive, con
No matter what causes a break up or how long the relationship lasted, the feeling of sadness and loss is inevitable. In this very personal episode, Tennesha shares her feelings after her recent breakup and the fear of being single all over again.
At 25 Raquel got married because it was what her family and community told her was right. Three years later she was divorced. Raquel joins Tennesha to share her story of young marriage, divorce, growth and reinventing her relationship with her ex husband.
For many entrepreneurs, their business is their first love and everything else comes after, which can make dating a real challenge. Jason, a 34 year old single entrepreneur is joining Tennesha in the studio to talk about being an entrepreneur and what he’s looking for in a woman.
It has been said that you haven't lived until you've lived in New York City, well you haven't dated until you've dated in New York City. Tennesha is catching up with her friend Kevin to talk about the magic of newly dating in NYC.
On #Blacklove, we saw Cynthia slowly swim back into the sea of dating. She encountered a few men that she had to throw right back into the sea, but she's still swimming. Cynthia joins Tennesha in the studio talk about the new man in her life as well as he
Online dating is not easy and recent data has shown that it is even harder for Black people. Tennesha is talking to the founders of the Bae dating app who are seeking to change the landscape of online dating for Black people.
Reiss, an unmarried man in his late 30's who has been in long term relationships for the past 17 years, sits down with Tennesha to talk about serial monogamy, shacking up, and what it's like being in an interracial relationship with a woman 13 years his j
From swimming with sharks to surprise parties, Karl was pulling out all the stops to win La's love on #Blacklove. They are in studio with Tennesha to talk about timing, travel, and interracial romance. You won't believe how far they've come!
Can you fart in front of a stranger if that stranger is your husband? Cortney from season 1 of Married at First Sight joins Tennesha to reveal how she ended up marrying a stranger on national tv, family, makeup, and much more.
Can you really be friends with your ex? Tennesha examines this with her ex Jarad and gives him some advice for nativgating future relationships.
Proper dating etiquette has hit an all time low. Tennesha gives step and step instuctions on planning and executing a proper date. Here's a hint, step 1: stop texting and pick up the phone.
Things were left up in the air at the end of season 1 of #Blacklove with Jae and Nneka. Has Jae finally decided to commit? They are back to give the scoop and talk depth about about labels, gender, sex, and identity.
Tennesha interviews Chris, a single man living in NYC, who has created a detailed list and formula in his quest to meet the perfect woman. Sans Radio Network / Tennesha Wood;
Guys; ever wonder why you're stuck in the friend zone and how you got there in the first place? Tennesha offers advice on avoiding the friend zone and shares her own story of being "date zoned."
Tennesha and Errol give a behind the scene look at what it's like dating on TV and share their future plans
Tennesha from the hit show #Blacklove explores Dating, Love, and Relationships in New York City.