Hear I Am: Recent Episodes
Regina Carey
We are here today. Alive and strong. We often seek out advice, strategies, and inspiring content day after day to help move us along in life. Then one day we hear it differently - as if for the first time. It resonates and we accept it, adopt it, implement it. Listen in to find out if today is the day you hear what you need to hear at exactly the time you need to hear it. I am here for you. Hear I am.
This is it. After three years of sharing words you may never have heard from anyone in your life, my final message is to continue to be kind. I love you and thank you for listening. I’m not done…simply shifting. Shift happens.
Learning this from my Mom and Dad was a gift! It’s one of the single greatest lessons I’ve ever made a part of my daily existence. I have taught my children the same. How are you doing this in your life?
How have you been hard on yourself? Good people pick on themselves for not doing, being, or helping enough. Let’s all take a deep breath and take it easy on ourselves. At least for a bit.
As a society, we believe in miracles. I think we believe in them for other people. Not for us. Let’s shift that story NOW!
Meeting new people is easy. Making new friends is not. When you spend the time, make the effort, and take a chance, you might get lucky enough to find a friend for life. Just like I did.
Have you ever thought about the difference between our responses to physical pain versus our responses to emotional pain? Here’s one personal story.
As we round out Learning Disabilities Awareness month, please remember how wonderful it can be to see the world differently. We need people who are different! (Like me)
I was invited by one of my dearest friends to do something that scares me big time! After a lot of excuses, my family convinced me to say YES. (And so I’m doing it scared!)
This AHA! came as a surprise to me! It’s why this episode is just over 5 minutes. If you find yourself shrinking to avoid any part of life, this episode may be helpful to you!
Have you ever been told that your dreams are silly, unrealistic, or impossible? We often put our heart’s desires aside because of what other people think. That stops today!
We sometimes believe we are the sum of our thoughts and feelings. The “feels” can send us into negative self-talk, making us think there is something wrong with us. Untrue.
Let’s face it-we all have moments when we punish ourselves. It may be refusing to spend money on something we want, or passing on dessert or even talking badly about our bodies. We can decide at any point to stop. Maybe we could start shifting how we think about our lives (and even enjoy ourselves)!
These words of wisdom are for first-borns or anyone who has extraordinarily high expectations of themselves. Sit back and soak them in.
How do you know where you’re headed if you’re paying attention to everyone else’s chatter? There are so many paths, and you get to choose!
Do you ever feel like everyone else (EXCEPT YOU) is winning at life? When you experience this, please use this strategy.
Anywhere you look, you can find unrest. Question is, how do you respond? If you allow yourself to get swept up in it, you expend energy you do not have. There is an alternative.
How many times have you talked yourself out of doing something? Taking a chance? Moving on a dream or creative idea? Perhaps this is a sign!
When’s the last time you did something for the first time? Are you saying YES to living or are you playing it safe?
When’s the last time you crafted an email introduction? Or got creative about bringing two people together who have never met? We need be bringing together amazing people! Get out there and start introducing!
Are you trying to catch up on sleep, work, organizing, life?! Let’s get real about time and energy-ours and everyone else’s.
As we begin to come together again as families and friends, we must relearn how to enjoy the most precious of things-TIME.
How much are you carrying in your mind (negative thoughts) or on your heart (worry and fear)? Let’s take one small step in this moment to lighten our load.
When’s the last time you went out of your way for someone? I bet it was just recently. Are you keeping score? Do you wait for something in return? What if we let go of that?
We have one beautiful life, and we have got to start playing a bit more courageously! What does “living full out” look like for you?
Do you have a friend that enhances every part of your life? They may be a SWIRLER! Those are the best kinds of friends!
Think about how many things you have done for the first time-just about all the things! It’s okay to fell scared.
Oh how tightly we hold onto things, people, beliefs, and stories about our lives! That can turn into a death grip. Let’s start easing up and enjoy what is.
We tend to run from one thing to another. Hurry to get to work; hurry to get the kids; hurry to an appointment! Time! There’s never enough of it…or is there?
We are so used to setting DEADlines. What if we shifted the goal and the outcomes? It has the potential to shift our lives!
“Stressed” often feels like “alone.” Today’s message is all about remembering that you’ve got people in your life who can help. Accept the help.
How many challenges have you faced and overcome? You are so courageous! You are so smart! Remember that as you move forward!
It is time to stop searching outside ourselves for approval and permission. Look in the mirror and assure yourself that you choose you! Trust yourself enough to move forward!
Are you surprised each time your family asks you when you’re planning to get married or do you feel angry when your friend constantly cancels on you last minute? Here is a fail-safe way to navigate expectations.
Are you too busy to “deal” with things right now? Does it feel too hard to have a conversation about what’s really going on with you, your life, or your emotional state? This might really help!
Do you use the word “gentle?” Not sure about you, but I have been using words like BE STRONG, PERSEVERE, and STAY DETERMINED! Pandemic words. I think we could all use some gentleness.
If you are having a difficult time, you are in good company. It IS possible to step in a different direction, access new environments, and take pause to figure out what’s next.
Breath is so vital to our health. It keeps us alive and also is a great way to gain back control of our thoughts and feelings. Use it more often!
We all feel like we never have enough time. What if you could change the world in five minutes? It’s possible!
Fall is a perfect time to take in the beautiful colors and really tap into all our senses. This is one way to fill up our spirits. It’s so important to remember to do that every day.
When you have an important decision to make, do you ask your best friend, a trusted colleague, the Magic 8 Ball? Why are we constantly looking outside ourselves for the answers?
In those difficult times, we may search outside ourselves for validation and support. It might benefit us to start by rallying internally.
Are you feeling lost? Have you wandered off the path you initially started down? One way to find our way back is to ground ourselves.
Our bodies are our biggest advocates! What do we do to show our gratitude? Badmouth, complain, and beat them up! How can we heal that most important relationship?
I like to be liked. I spent a lot of time during my life working hard to fit in, to conform to beliefs, and to act in a certain way. It often left me feeling icky.
Life’s challenges keep coming. That means we are ALIVE and growing! We are being called to think and behave in new ways and I believe in us! How are you staying strong?
We DO DO DO all day long. We learned early on that success looks a certain way. I believe who you are, not what you do, makes life successful!
We do a lot of things. What if we did less…before we were “forced” to due to illness or injury? Take a minute to think about what you would stop doing.
So much information! How do we know what to pay attention to, what’s important, and how much energy to spend on it? Take a minute to bottom line it.
It’s that time of year…preparations begin for the transition into the school year, routines, and weather shifts. It can also be difficult to begin the work.
What a JOY! My dear friend Kathleen joins me to discuss the power of staying the course. How are you doing with that?
We play small a lot. We fail to take chances in business and in life for so many reasons-too many to count. With family, we have a chance to play big-to love big. Give it a go!
Did you know children laugh an average of 350 times a day? Adults? Way less-more like a dozen times a day. Life is better with laughter!
Have you ever been lost or had your plans disrupted due to a change in direction? It can be upsetting! Is there a benefit to getting lost?
Just when we think all is lost, books like the Go-Giver and The Giving Tree offer us hope. How can we practice the lessons in these books to inspire others?
Do you remember what it feels like to finish something-for real? Lately, everything feels like it’s under construction! Let’s take the next step!
No matter what kind of relationship you have or had with your Dad, he taught you valuable lessons. Pay attention to how they surface in your life.
Have you heard of smudging? It’s a centuries-old practice for clearing negativity and renewing it with loving, positive energy. Message me to find out more! (@coachmecarey)
Remember this: our bodies never lie. If you are ignoring your pain-physical or emotional-it’s time to take a step toward healing. The world needs you to be strong and healthy!
What happens before you leave the doctor or dentist offices? They set the date for your next visit. It’s good business! Your life is your precious business! It’s time to get yourself on the calendar.
We have all seen a mom and made a judgment. I’m reminding you to be gentle, because we have no way of knowing the whole story.
How many things are you still holding onto from long, long ago? We all have a choice to let go and move forward.
Thank you for sharing in my journey of grief. This is the first time I’ve lost a dear friend without ever meeting in person. Have you experienced this?
We look for inspiration, laughter, joy, and good news outside ourselves. What if you initiated the goodness today? How many things could you share?
How long have you been keeping it all together? At work? At home? With friends? We deserve some space to feel our feelings-whatever they are. Exhale.
Have you ever been in a bad mood and tried to figure out why? Women do this a lot. I am giving you permission to have an “off” day without excuses!
We have forgotten the benefits of spending time in real life (IRL) with our friends. How can you get some IRL time with friends this week?!
We work so hard every day! When we’re on the go and relying on routines, even daylight savings time can throw us off. Give yourself a break!
What habit is keeping you stuck? You created these chains and you can break them. I believe in you! Question is: do YOU believe in yourself?
Loss. It’s complicated. Sometimes it feels like that’s all we hear about and experience. Eventually, we have to face our grief but we don’t have to do it alone.
Are you allowing other people’s behavior to affect you? Do you alter your plans to solve someone else’s problem? You have a choice in the matter!
What do you feel like when someone places your call on hold? Anxious? Impatient? Angry? Forgotten? Yet, we do it to ourselves all the time. What part of you do you have ON HOLD?
We are all waking up to new ways of existing. What are you doing with your inner-excitement? It’s time to take action! We have these awakenings for a reason!
My final episode of 2021! I’m taking my own advice and hitting PAUSE until 2022. I encourage you to circle back and listen in on previous episodes for inspiration!
We all face those times in our lives when we feel puny and unsure of ourselves. Instead of staying small, borrow a cup of hope!
It’s so easy to say YES to new opportunities! We want anything that feels fresh and hopeful after 20 months of a pandemic. Am I the only one suffering from Shiny Object Syndrome?
When we continually ask ourselves WHY something is happening to us, we set ourselves up for patterned living. Let’s break old patterns by shifting our questions.
We all go through doubt in our lives. Am I making a difference? Is this work really important? We all need the reminder that who we are matters!
When you want to stop, keep going. When you want to quit, take another step. When you want to get small, stand taller. Relentless cannot be defeated.
Sometimes saying YES to an opportunity can also be an invitation to shift how we view our world. Perspective is everything.
Time is an illusion. We have become especially aware of that during the pandemic. What if every moment of your life was perfectly timed? How would you perceive life today?
Life is an adventure of starts and stops. The dichotomy of giving to others and giving to self is a part of that journey. How do we learn to get better at both? Practice!
In our digital world, let’s remember that personal connection is still the way to heal our hearts. Do it safely, and please do it. Worry less about “likes” and start paying attention to the humans.
We can think that what we’re doing and how we’re behaving is helpful, but that’s not always true.
We are all singing different versions of the same song. The pandemic opened our eyes to just how many people are in the choir!
We are searching and reading and listening and downloading all day long for answers. Stop for one hour. Use that time to be with yourself so you can hear what your heart is saying.
If you were taught to do things “just so,” to follow every rule, and live your life to make other people happy, it’s time for a new path!
Do you think you need to get better at time management? What if we rethink our need to get a grip on time? Let’s attend to how we’re using it.
Do you want to share a message in the world? Are you ready to make a difference? What are you waiting for? Permission? You’ve GOT IT!
Life can become so challenging that we forget to believe in our dreams. Remember that everything is temporary and we will feel strong again! Keep showing up!
It is so easy to say “I can’t” when life, learning, or people become too difficult. No problem is unsolvable! Let’s come at our challenges with a new attitude!
We are great at accumulating stuff, including everyone else’s opinions about us. What if we started to get rid of that sticky thinking? It’s possible!
We can get very good at avoiding our emotions by distracting ourselves with other things, people, and responsibilities. The truth is, facing the unwelcomed takes courage and results in healing.
When we’re distracted or stressed out, we often fail to notice sparks of pure joy. I am asking you to not only notice those moments but make them public!
Life is always providing us with opportunities to learn. How will you greet this latest challenge? Open up those arms and bring it to you!
The world is slowly opening and life feels brand new! We must REMEMBER what we’ve just experienced and take nothing for granted! What can YOU do to help heal our world starting today?
We all face hardships and challenges during our lifetime. Isn’t it time to start doing things that make us happy? It begins with letting go of what others might think or say about it!
Have you ever had a feeling so strong that ignoring it caused you stress and anxiety? I’ve learned to pay attention to those clues from my body and so can you!
When is the last time you realized you needed help and kept quiet? We stop ourselves from asking for support for so many different reasons. It’s time to stop judging ourselves and open our mouths.
Have you found yourself lost in outer space? Fear of missing out on all the stuff happening online? Me, too. And it’s frightening what my mind does!
We worry about how situations are going to turn out. We fret, make ourselves anxious, and even avoid opportunities out of fear - fear of the unknown. What if everything amazing was waiting on the other side of that fear?
What are your first thoughts of the day - in the precious moments after opening your eyes?
We make plans. Life interrupts those plans. Remember all the ways you know how to shift! You’ve got this-even more so when you trust yourself!
Information Overload! Accessing knowledge used to require a lot more effort. How can we harness the abundance of information in today’s world?
How many times have you waited to make a decision? Are you waiting for more information, more time, more money, or more advice? Start by acknowledging the number of decisions you already make-every day.
Every minute of every day, we make a decision about how we show up in the world. Do you want to be like everyone else? If not, how are you going to stand out in this moment?
Before you listen, I invite you to stop moving and rest. Notice where you are and trust that this message is coming at exactly the right time in your life. Breathe.
History is always happening, and it can be confusing. How will these recent events be interpreted in the textbooks? Perhaps Moms can help clarify.
We all have a pretty good idea about what our strengths are. How have you been using those gifts? Are you? The world needs you!
We’ve had almost an entire year to spend with ourselves. What have you learned? How have you changed? We all have the ability to better ourselves. What will you do differently moving into 2021?
We all have reasons for NOT doing things. What would it take to shift your mindset? Three simple words!
We have learned, during this year of a global pandemic, the importance of family. Bring traditions alive more than ever this year-it’s the special moments with those we love that make life wonderful!
We may not always agree with how life unfolds for us. Our response can be an easier one if we trust the timing of everything.
Do you ask for advice, or are you always the one giving it? We have to start trusting ourselves for the answers.
Think of the person who you can consistently count on. Reach out to him or her today. Check in and ask how you can help or perhaps ask for the help you need.
Life can be so big that we feel invisible. We believe others are judging us and that we don’t matter. I believe differently and you can, too!
What we know is that we are here today. We can choose to do something and be someone in the world. How will you decide?
We listen to other people all the time. We pay attention to the media, our social feeds, and television commercials. What if we started listening to the one thing that will always tell us the truth?
Many of us have lived through being teased for all sorts of things-even our own names. Thank you to my friend, Jill Salzman, for empowering me!
We are born to make a difference, to leave the world better than we found it, and to do good. Are you ready for that?
We all need a place that we can call our own. Where do you go to think, create, rest, or simply BE?
Our world becomes a better place when we begin to see the good in ourselves and others.
We are dedicated to many things in our lives-causes, partners, sports-but what about ourselves? How are you taking care of YOU?
We all have something that we are called to do, to say, to write, to create! What’s that thing for you? How long have you been waiting to do it? No better time than NOW!
We are doing things all day long. When we finish one task, we’re already thinking about what’s next. It’s time to not think of all the things, because our brains need a break!
We have control over our personal power and vibrational energy. It’s easy to give it away, but how do we get it back?
We learn how to stay quiet as a protective mechanism. Stay quiet long enough, and we begin to realize how silence can hurt us.
I walked a very long walk with a very heavy pack. What are you carrying that is weighing you down?
Our awareness changes over time, as do our sensations. Celebrate all of it and speak gratitude!
Let’s stop looking outside ourselves for the pieces that we believe will put us back together, because we are not broken.
We have all felt pressured to make a decision. Maybe we need to stop and BE in the moment.
Sometimes we forget how being joyful feels. There is a way to get that back into your life!
If you grew up around movers and shakers, you probably behave in the same ways! We’re exhausting ourselves. Let’s slow down for our own good.
Remember how often you smiled as a child? Me either. It might be worth the reminder. You are way more beautiful when you smile!
Life is moving forward with or without our approval. We can give it a thumbs up or a thumbs down. How are you responding to life’s unfoldings?
One of our biggest lessons in life is the lesson of impermanence. Nothing and no one lasts forever. That is as wonderful as it is sad.
We all get nervous about doing something we’ve never done before. It helps to know that someone else sees the courage in us that we cannot see in ourselves.
Our body never lies. The key to trusting those messages starts with trusting ourselves.
The most important thing is to make yourself proud! In the meantime, it’s nice to hear someone say it to you!
More than ever before, we need to hear that we have what it takes to both survive and thrive in this world!
My mother always told me how beautiful I was, but I didn’t believe her. Sometimes we learn how to be beautiful in other ways.
We spend a lot of time apologizing to other people. What could we gain from saying “I’m sorry” to ourselves?
We all deserve to feel safe. Many of us feel afraid, and we must remember that we are not alone in this.
Growing up with Catholic guilt set the stage for a lifetime of dismissing my pain and offering it up for others who were worse off.
We must remember this! I believe it EVEN though I failed to publish this on Sunday when I thought I did! HA! And so we go!
This is one of those statements I never recall hearing - perhaps because I was a girl growing up in the 70's and 80's or because "smarts" were not as important as how charitable, helpful, or gracious I was. Hear I Am.