Miss Amanda Chen Show: Recent Episodes
Amanda Chen
Welcome to the Miss Amanda Chen show! Ex-journalist turned retired entrepreneur turned motivational coach and speaker Amanda Chen is an expert in curiosity and now living in Mexico. Last year she bought a one-way ticket and never looked back. She’s tried everything in order to reach success and live the dream, only to realize that the dream she was chasing was never really hers. Realizing she has spent her whole life learning how to work, this season is focused on learning how to live. Each episode Amanda dives into what she calls the journey unravelled, in unlearning patterns, detaching from social concepts and generating pure self love. Join her as she questions why you do the things you do, why are you even thinking about doing anything in the first place, and how to find peace and just be. Subscribe for more thoughtful considerations on how to feel more alive each Wednesday.
Do you remember the last time you truly played, like as a kid at a playground?
If you feel guilty about having fun or doing literally anything that doesn’t bring you money or potential money, then this conversation is for you.
In today’s episode of Learning How to Live, we learn how to play with Jeff Harry, professional play expert who goes into the offices of some of the greatest places to work to teach us how to play. Yeah, thats a real job!
The biggest takeaway from this conversation is that it’s not our fault that we don't know how to play. We have been looking for happiness in all the wrong places, when we ourselves are already the most fun.
Connect with Jeff:
Website: RediscoverYourPlay.com
Instagram: @jeffharryplays
Welcome back to another episode of the Miss Amanda Chen Show podcast. We are in Season 5 - Learning How To Live. And a lot of that learning is about making the choice to live. And maybe that involves taking the risk to move your life to a brand new city you have never been before.
In today’s episode, I sit down with my new friend Kelly Stefanski, who literally just packed up her life and moved to Oaxaca, without ever even visiting before coming here!
She shares her story about living in a cabin in the woods for a year after leaving a partnership that suffered through the pandemic, going through some deep self reflection, and now all of a sudden she is living in Oaxaca City and just adopted a dog. Tune in to celebrate the courage it takes to actually pack up and go.
Follow her journey here: https://www.instagram.com/imitatenature/
I feel like we can all understand some concept of love, but how do we put it in practice? This week I really focused on the act of receiving love, and in that receiving I was able to give even more. In this episode, I talk about my friends visiting me in Oaxaca City for the first time. This is a big moment for me because I spent so much time giving my love by going to other parts of Mexico to see friends rather than having them to come to me. I never gave myself the space to receive love until now. Tune in to hear what happened and hopefully this might shift your perspective on how you think of love, and how you might give or receive love to both yourself and others.
Welcome back to another episode of the Miss Amanda Chen Show podcast. We are in Season 5 where I talk about Learning How to Live. And in learning how to live, the first thing is to reflect on how we’ve learned how to work, believing that working permits us to live. But we’re already alive, and yet we delay this blessing.
In this episode, I talk about redefining what success looks like and why I’ve changed the direction of this podcast to the style that it is today.
I used to think that success would be attributed by the amount of listens, the 100 hours of sound bites, or getting wild stories that would shock and amaze people. These are all external things that take the true power of success away from you.
Success for me now is just a realization of myself and who I am. That way no person or thing can take success away from me. I have the power to give it to myself and I have the power to withhold it from myself.
Make sure to subscribe and let me know if there is anything you would like me to talk about on the show. See you next Wednesday!
Welcome to Season 5: Learning How To Live. In today’s episode I want to talk about authenticity and showing up for yourself. I was inspired by the quote, “We are constantly invited to be who we are.” by poet Henry David Thoreau.
Listen to my experience this week going on a virtual meditation retreat and learning how to stand up and speak up for myself when I enter an aggressive situation with my neighbour.
At the end of the day, who is one person in your life? Why give them so much power to dictate how you are going to feel in your own skin? As painful and unusual and awkward as it might feel to show up, do it for you. There is no one saving me out here. I just have to show up or I go to bed as someone I know I’m not. And that I can’t live with anymore.
Let me know what you thought of this episode and send me your stories on showing up for yourself, as yourself. Make sure to follow and subscribe and I will see you next Wednesday with another episode on Learning How To Live.
Welcome to the first episode of Season 5: Learning How to Live. Today I talk about what a real day in the life looks like, and I ask the question - what makes a good day over a bad day?
If you’ve been following my journey you know that I bought a one-way ticket to Mexico, sold everything I own and have been literally just living for the last six months. And that means living, not working. Of course, I will find random ways to make money here and there, but there is no plan. Im not working remotely. There is no safety net.
I’m writing about this because I felt like my day kind of sucked with moving all my things and feeling obviously really uneasy about my decision, which is a generally daily activity. Without focusing on whether something good or bad is happening to you, you can choose to make things happen for you instead. You are no longer the receiver of good or bad news, you are the active creator of good or bad things. How incredible is that?
The biggest learning is that I have the power to change my day, and with that in mind, no day is ever a good or a bad day. It's just another day and we keep on living.
This is the Miss Amanda Chen Show Podcast with your host, Miss Amanda Chen! I'm an ex-journalist turned retired entrepreneur turned digital nomad turned nobody living nowhere just dropping truth bombs you may or may not resonate with.
Last year I started the 100 Masked Men Series and interviewed anonymous men from all walks of life about masculinity, self worth, and relationships. Over this time, I bought a one-way ticket to Mexico, sold everything I owned, walked away from hustle culture forever to live life in the wild. And in this journey I realized wow, I have spent so much time and energy learning how to work, how to be successful, how to survive, and how to thrive. And yes, I spent a lot of time speaking to men probably because I thought they were something for me to rise above, to overcome, again, speaking in work and success terms. But now I see men, people, and the world differently. And I m finally looking at myself differently. How will I show up in this world? How will I choose to live?
Join me on my adventure in Season 5: Learning How to Live, where I share my constant fears as a solo female traveler, hitchhiking in the middle of nowhere, not knowing the language, and not knowing anyone. As I am a full time straight-up traveler, I really try to stretch my dollar, negotiating on pretty much anything, sharing cars, beds, pots and pans with strangers and learning the local slang. The deeper I go in this adventure, the more I have to detach myself from the old life I had back home. Find out how I was able to make the official move, what my monthly budget looks like, how I can find temporary jobs and other remote ways to make money while I travel off-the-beaten path. Tune in as I share my incredible life lessons from the wildest experiences, learn how to solo travel Chen style and get tips on where to stay, what to do and how to get remote work, and enjoy some raw and honest interviews with beautiful strangers along the way.
Make sure to follow my journey on Instagram @missamandachen and send me a DM so I can answer any questions directly from followers like you. You’re not going to want to miss the fifth season of the Miss Amanda Chen Show podcast, so don’t forget to subscribe now and get the scoop on upcoming episodes. Until then, Amanda out!
Welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen show podcast, I know it’s been a while, but here I am. Today’s episode I am reflecting on the 100 Masked Men Series, where I anonymously interviewed a hundred random men from all walks of life to understand and better my own relationship with men. And listening back to this last season, wow. Things have really changed not because I selected 25 better men, but because I became better.
This last season was about making the active choice to change our relationships. Check out this summary on the definition of masculinity and gender roles, relationships with fathers, women and sex, and the undervaluing of platonic friendships.
It was really tough to listen back to these conversations, but as I listened and heard the encouraging words from these men I realized I had at least two men in my life, every week, encouraging me and supporting me for going on this journey. Thanking me for giving them this time to talk and allowing them the space to share things that they never even thought about before. And that was enough to keep me going. Here are the reflections I have had after interviewing 100 Masked Men. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show! This is the final episode of the 100 Masked Men Series, where I anonymously interview men from all around the world about what it’s like to be a man in the modern world today.
Masked Man #100 is the Last Man. I really took my time looking for this one and I’m really glad I waited to cross paths with this Englishman that happened to be in Mexico City.
After hearing a lot of personal accounts of perceived bad or toxic behaviour, it was interesting to find a man who basically ghosted his friend after suspecting that he might be abusive to his romantic partners. What happens when you know someone who might not actually be a harm to themselves, but more of a harm to others?
In this episode, he shares his story on discovering that his best friend may not be as honest as he claims to be. I think this is a valuable conversation in assessing how men can gaslight other men into thinking they are the crazy ones.
Make sure to subscribe and stay tuned to my last series summary on the 100 Masked Men and who knows what I will release in Season 5. Until then, Amanda out!
Welcome back to another episode of the Miss Amanda Chen Show! We are 99 episodes in the 100 Masked Men Series and today I sat down with our audio editor, Shyloe Fagan to reflect over a year’s worth of awkward silences and difficult conversations with a wide range of random dudes.
In this episode we reflect on all the crazy guys that we’ve had on the show, how foreign the concept of friendship is for men, and how vulnerability is often only acceptable if spoken about pain or trauma, when actually vulnerability takes many forms. Shyloe even reveals my famous power move in interviews that I didn’t even notice until she brought it up.
I’m so grateful for having the opportunity to share so many intimate conversations with you over this year and I can’t wait to wrap up this Series with the final episode for you next Wednesday. Bye for now!
Welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We´re in Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different types of men about masculinity, sex and relationships, and how that contributes to our self worth.
Masked Man #99 is the Accountability Act. He shares his story about how he followed a girl to hitchhike through Mexico, and 9 years later he’s permanently living in Costa Rica. And after that beautiful relationship, he admits he still ended up cheating on her with, of course, a young intern, and ultimately losing her trust forever.
In this episode, we hear how he voluntarily took to social media with his now ex partner to confess his failure and consulted her about what she thought would be a fair consequence for his actions. He says this is a way to take accountability, and be the example he has not seen in other unfaithful men he doesn't aspire to be. And I appreciate how he gave her the space to really express herself in this situation, but it makes me ask the question - does the public need to be involved to achieve accountability? Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about masculinity, sex and relationships, and how that contributes to our self worth.
Masked Man #98 is The Sex Addict. He joined the 12-step program for Sex Addicts Anonymous after his partner seeked help with Partners of Sex Addicts. After losing his best friend from a stint with sexual allegations from his ex and his behaviour with porn and sexting ruining his relationship, he shares his spiritual journey on finding compassion and forgiveness for himself. I think this is an incredible story to listen to as someone who also struggled with sex addiction where celibacy is the path I am on today.
In this episode we discuss how we might reproach consequences to sexual misconducts, but more importantly, what redemption and re-acceptance would look like, because if there is no way to be accepted back into your community after a mistake has been made, then why bother trying to be better? Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We’re in Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different types of men on dealing with relationships in today's modern world.
Continuing with this week's theme on the end of things, Masked Man #97 is the Self Made Man. He shares his story on fighting to be in his daughter's life, which is so different from the typical idea of a man being trapped into fatherhood and running out. His daughter is all grown up and just left for college so he's now a retired dad and we both relate to figuring out where we go from here once we reach the end.
In this episode he tells me how being a father at a super young age made him more ferocious rather than soft. I think that is an important distinction to make because we always think that men simply melt when they have a daughter, but perhaps there is more behind that? We talk about the inevitable mortality that comes with fatherhood and being called daddy in the bedroom isn't the same thing anymore. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about masculinity, sex and relationships, and how that contributes to our self worth.
It's the home stretch of the series, and this week's theme is all about the end of things. Masked Man #96 is The Masked Performance. He shares his story of a particularly memorable relationship with a woman that showed him a pure love, one that was unconditional, that didn't require him to have to work or perform for it. He wasn't ready to accept it at that time, and we talked about the end of things and how that shapes who we are today.
In this episode we challenge each other to give space to hear a perspective that doesn't align with our own. I always encourage normalizing more uncomfortable conversations and this one got pretty dicey! It was a perfect example to see how much of our habits are learned behaviours from what we saw on TV and movies. And how I am now actively working on removing those behaviours by simply not watching TV and movies, nor eating meat, or drinking alcohol, or even having sex. So let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello, you're listening to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. Welcome to Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different types of men on dealing with relationships in today's modern world.
Continuing this week's theme on boundaries, Masked Man #95 is the Travelling Therapist. We go in depth on mental health and the imbalance in our relationships, especially with your therapist, coach, mentor, someone in the field of personal development. We talked about how to cultivate collaboration rather than an expert-teacher relationship, and a topic I loved talking about, un-communicated expectations. He believes we should hold expectations for others as long as they are communicated, versus the more toxic thought that nobody owes you shit so we must detach ourselves completely from the actions of others.
In this episode we talk about the value we put in our relationships, and how much of it is really about seeming to be accommodating, or about just having a connection with somebody, having a person, settling with any person, because we are so afraid of being alone and without a person. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about masculinity, sex and relationships, and how that contributes to our self worth.
This week's theme is all about boundaries. Masked Man #94 is The Grand Gesture. He shares his story on thriving in one of those explosive, chaotic relationships that he was so proud to be in - you know what I mean! And in giving so much, pushing through the resistance, doing all that you can, and feeling immensely hurt and discouraged when you don't receive a standing ovation of a thank you for all your effort.
In this episode we talk about seeing both sides to the story, on setting your own boundaries as well as respecting the boundaries of others. I really enjoyed the authenticity in this interview and having this as yet another example of the wide spectrum of where we all are in our own journeys. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello, you're listening to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. Welcome to Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different types of men on dealing with relationships in today's modern world.
Continuing with this week's theme on building better relationships, Masked Man #93 is the Emotionally Illiterate Man. This is a term he actually used to call himself and it really shows how much we identify with our words. This is a powerful conversation about a man who learns how to love and really puts in the effort to articulate the pain involved in expressing emotions.
In this episode we talk about compromise in an analogy of meeting in the middle, and I am obviously a bit skeptical as I don't want women to keep having to over accommodate the emotional support in relationships. Can we find a common ground? Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about masculinity, sex and relationships, and how that contributes to our self worth.
Now that we are in the home stretch of the series, this week's theme is all about getting into new relationships. Masked Man #92 is The One That Got Away. He shares his love story on finding the right person at the wrong time. They dated briefly, separated, and came back together ten years later and recently got married,
In this episode we talk about what love means, and how we prove our love to someone versus how someone proves their love to us. We talk about compromise and what it means to truly work together in a relationship rather than one person just conceding to let the other win to maybe avoid a fight or something. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello, you're listening to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. Welcome to Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different types of men on dealing with relationships in today's modern world.
Continuing with this week's theme on communication, Masked Man #91 is the Green Flag. This young man shares his story reflecting on his last relationship and how his actions, or lack of actions, led to their separation. I appreciate this conversation because we go into how much we hurt others when we don't communicate.
In this episode we talk about how we might default to let men lead in a relationship, but then when does the woman ever get a chance to practice being in the driver's seat? It made us question why we default in general and the criteria we use to choose who should be in the lead. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about masculinity, sex and relationships, and how that contributes to our self worth.
This week's theme is all about the importance of communication. Masked Man #90 is The Question of the Day. He creates videos on a thoughtful question of the day to encourage more meaningful conversations. This man comes from a background in restorative justice and a lot of his work is around developing better relationships through communication.
In this episode we talk about what respect means, that it is typically thought of as something you can benefit from someone rather than something you give just for the sake of it. We talk about how to raise better young men and to move away from the drill sergeant intimidation technique and instead giving compassion and meeting people where they are. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about masculinity, sex and relationships, and how that contributes to our self worth.
Continuing with this week's theme on vulnerability, Masked Man #89 is the Ashamed Man. He shares his story about having HSV (or more commonly known as herpes) and how that has affected his romantic relationships. I really wanted to get into more of the physicality of our sexuality with this one, and we uncovered so much guilt and shame. I mean how many of you still make herpes jokes in the group chat?
I really appreciate the vulnerability in this episode, from the guilt in giving HSV to a partner without telling her to now making sure it is something he discusses straight away. I think it's a conversation we really need to dig into deeper. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello, you're listening to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. Welcome to Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different types of men on dealing with relationships in today's modern world.
Masked Man #88 is The Masked Provider. Rather than just defining what masculinity means, we take it one step further to speak about how we show up in relationships, what is the core masculine role that we embody, and do we switch roles depending on who we believe should lead?
In this episode we discuss the difficulty that we experience in wanting to follow our natural feminine or masculine energy, but resist it because of the shame we have received in our lives. Whether that is not letting a man open the door for you because you can do it all by yourself or you can't be vulnerable in front of a woman because what kind of man are you - it's like we're doomed either way as fulfilling or not fulfilling the stereotype. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about masculinity, sex and relationships, and how that contributes to our self worth.
Continuing with this week's theme on dismantling the social construct of gender, Masked Man #87 is the Drag Queen. He shares his story about how drag helped him come to terms with the shame he felt for being feminine.
In this episode we learn about how this man was continuously punished for performing any non-masculine behaviour, how that rejection made him repulse himself and try to follow the gender standards taught to him, to then find peace in drag.
We talk a lot about representation here, and how his experience was being a Mexican man embracing both his feminine self while also maintaining his family ties and culture, specifically with his relationship with his mother. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello, you're listening to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. Welcome to Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different types of men on dealing with relationships in today's modern world.
This week I'm questioning heterosexuality as a whole. Is straightness even real? Masked Man #86 is Cut Both Ways. In this conversation I learn about the risk involved in defining yourself as trans, the fetishization of the LGBTQ community, and practicing consent in a long-term relationship.
After hearing this person unveil the silliness of deciding to date someone simply because of what is inside your pants, I literally whisper that I don't believe straightness is real anymore. Rather, we are attracted to a lot of things, but the problem lies in trying to be the only thing someone is attracted to. Talk about control issues. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about masculinity, sex and relationships, and how that contributes to our self worth.
Continuing with this week's theme on miscommunication on relationships, how much do we play up our sexual attraction with friends, just for the drama? Masked Man #85 is the Selfless Man. He shares his story about a best friend he's in love with and is doing everything in his power to destroy his feelings for her because it would be selfish to go for it.
I'm still a bit unclear about all the details, but it sounds like your typical third party situation and I actually get pretty heated because I don't back down when he calls me selfish. We obviously eventually arrive at the conclusion that choosing love would be the courageous thing to do, but only if you have this conversation with the third party and figure shit out. I guess we'll have to tackle that confrontation another day. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello, you're listening to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. Welcome to Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different types of men on dealing with relationships in today's modern world.
This week I'm focusing on miscommunication in relationships. Masked Man #84 is the Giver. He is a newly single man that gets really open and honest about how his last relationship fell apart.
He talks about how he gives and gives and gives, and compromises his work and time for this girlfriend that apparently acted like it was never enough. And how trying to make her happy ultimately made him feel so trapped and stuck it sucked out all the love they had.
Now I have heard about this a lot from men on this show, on prioritizing a relationship over their work and feeling lazy or like they're not at where they used to be when she wasn't in their life yet. But how often does love enter your life? Wouldn't that be worth taking a break from whatever your goals are, live a little? Then what are we living for, if not for love? Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about masculinity, sex and relationships, and how that contributes to our self worth.
Continuing with this week's theme on platonic relationships, I noticed that a lot of straight men don't have friendships with not only women but also gay men. Masked Man #83 is the Masked Outsider.
This is a fun episode where I get to chat with a gay man about his perspective observing straight men as an outsider looking in. I discovered him from his videos on red flags with straight men in relationship with women and I find it interesting that no one ever said he was wrong, they just said he was gay, so what does he know.
I can really relate with this one being a female host trying to understand the position of straight men and how we can all work together on building better relationships. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello, you're listening to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. Welcome to Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different types of men on dealing with relationships in today's modern world.
This week I'm focusing on platonic relationships. Masked Man #82 is the Best Friend. I discovered him on TikTok from his video on the weirdness of having a best friend act like a romantic partner and crossing boundaries.
In this episode we talk about how we might like to remain in the grey zone in a friendship situation to feel like we can always get that ego boost with them, or maybe we want to use them to make our actual romantic partner jealous, whatever it is, it's just the fact that we are leveraging one person to affect our relationship with another person.
I really hope in this conversation we can try to open up the discussion of platonic relationships to show that this can happen and that not every interaction with the opposite sex has to result in a tumultuous movie scene situation. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about self identity, self worth and self love in relationships.
Masked Man #81 is the Disconnected Man. He bravely shares the three times he's been in a relationship and in all of those times he was abused, lied and cheated on. I think it's important to see that women do these things too, although it's just not spoken about that much.
In this episode I challenge him to think about how he might be in a cycle of repeating the same patterns, going for the same types of people, just to prove that he should be alone and that he can't trust anyone else but himself. It would be a different story if he tried things differently and got the same results. I guarantee you, just by changing you will receive a different result. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello, you're listening to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. Welcome to Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all around the world about masculinity, sex and relationships, and how that contributes to our self worth.
Masked Man #80 is Ex-Wall Street. In this episode we talk a lot about the imposter syndrome, of overcompensating to do a good job in case we might get found out we’re not actually who we say we are, and the courage in blocking out a poor mindset to realize how rich we really are.
We talk about leaving the matrix and traveling the world, and then returning home as a completely transformed person and how that can affect our relationships with our family and friends. What happens when you are so different you can't even recognize yourself? Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about self identity, self worth and self love.
On the theme of building better relationships, this week we're focusing on the most important relationship - the one we have with ourselves.
Masked Man #79 is the Isolated Man. He shares his experience about living alone for the first time and getting really comfortable with himself. So comfortable that socializing with people now is more of a challenge because he enjoys his company so much now. I'm sure we can all relate to this after the lockdown.
In this episode we talk about feelings of resentment when we feel the other person isn't valuing our worth or even considering us in their plans. I don't think anyone intentionally tries to exclude the other from making a decision for the both of us, but how do we keep our eyes open for those non verbal cues that might suggest someone is uncomfortable about speaking up. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello, you're listening to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. Welcome to Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all around the world about masculinity, sex and relationships, and how that contributes to our self worth.
This week we're moving on a higher vibration, so if you're into that self awareness thing, this one's for you. Masked Man #78 is the Conscious Man. He shares his story of coming from a very religious household, breaking out of that, and the isolation he received from choosing his own path.
In this episode we talk a lot about the guilt we carry for not doing the right thing. But what exactly is right or wrong? Out of this conversation I learned that we might stay in a relationship with someone who is going through a hard time out of guilt of setting them off. And we take it even further when I think about how much I celebrated that man, praised him, for tolerating me at my worst. How could he leave now? Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about self identity, self worth and self love in relationships.
Masked Man #77 is the Man Behind the Walls. He bravely shares two love stories and how those experiences have made it difficult for him to trust in relationships today. I really like how honest he is in explaining why he resorts to the shut down method not because he doesn't have feelings, but because he doesn't want to hurt or be hurt.
In this episode we discuss what it means to be truly in love, how much status is involved in how we choose partners, and the balance in having a desire to be needed in a relationship along with being able to fulfill your own needs. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello, you're listening to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. Welcome to Season 4 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all around the world about masculinity, sex and relationships, and how that contributes to our self worth.
It's been a wild time learning to speak dude and get a glimpse of how these guys think, but I really want to push it this season and see how we can build better relationships. Masked Man #76 is the Friend With Benefits. We talk about how to filter out Fuck Boys and how to have a healthy relationship with sex.
In this episode we talk about the new rules of dating, and how we are treating our partners like pets and use sex as a reward for good behaviour. We discuss what makes sex meaningful and share our thoughts on sexual health, from STDs to birth control.
And he shares an excellent example of a healthy Friends with Benefits situation. It can be done! Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
The theme for Season 4 is Choosing to Change. The final 25 interviews with anonymous men from all around the world as part of my 100 Masked Men Series will focus on changing our own behaviours to build better relationships with both ourselves as well as our interactions with those we care about the most. I hope you enjoy the show. New episodes drop on Wednesday.
Welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show and here is the Season 3 recap of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all around the world about masculinity, sex and relationships, and how that contributes to our self worth.
This took me FOREVER to edit. It was such a transitional time for me and it definitely showed in these interviews. From giving compassion to the men on this show, I was able to give compassion and love to myself. And I reflect on a lot of our understanding of self worth and sex stems from fear of rejection. And of course, we debate about whether there is a virtue in ghosting and how some men have defined masculinity and the role for men in this modern world. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about self identity, self worth and self love.
This week is the season finale and I’m finishing off our third quarter of the series with another stranger who dared to take the risk and live life on his own terms. Masked Man #75 is the Black Sheep. As the oldest in a household of 7 siblings, his decision to jump on a one-way ticket to Vancouver set the stage for his journey into the self.
In this episode we discuss checking our egos when we have to return to a conversation we didn't really handle very well the first time. And it made me start to think about how much we always come back to something that already happened and try to repair the situation. Can we start having conversations and set intentions and expectations before things have to turn south? And you know how much I love using analogies so this episode we talk about making a sandwich. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all around the world about masculinity, sex and relationships, and how that contributes to our self worth.
And this week is the season finale! So I went on a search for another man that also spends his time interacting with random strangers. Masked Man #74 is the Wandering Poet. He spends his life writing poems for people in the park and shares his observations on strange men.
In this episode we talk about getting intimate with strangers, the unspoken danger in social situations with acquaintances, how hurt people hurt people, what trust means in a relationship, our lack of vocabulary to articulate the breath of our emotions and whether there are good and bad aspects to ghosting. And in general, we discuss how to cultivate more compassion for shitty men. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about masculinity, relationships and self love.
Masked Man #73 is the Man With Intention. He shares his perspective on what it means to live with intention, as a balance of openness to receive what the world brings you through the interactions we have with select people in this world.
In this episode, we bring up the notion of getting burned when touching a hot pan and learning not to do it again. But then does that encourage us to seek out people to cook on our behalf? Or, do we learn how to hold a pan and then use that as leverage against those that have not learned? All about ego, intentions and expectations, layered in fear and self worth. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about masculinity, and how our relationships affect our self worth.
This week is all about the concept of love, how we define it, how we give it, and how we receive it. Masked Man #72 is the Grown Man. He shares his perspective on the balance in both accepting the truth as well as the consequences of articulating that truth.
In this episode we discuss whether or not we can go back to the past, and apologize for our mistakes. I think there is an element of not wanting to move backwards, but why do we think it is a step in the wrong direction? I think in focusing on moving forward, we might be too quick to cut out people in our lives when we were not our best selves. But that's not to say we can't come back stronger than ever. I am hopeful. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all around the world about masculinity, sex and relationships, and how that contributes to our self worth.
Masked Man #71 is the Loving Man. We talk about how to cultivate self love, and the concept of acts of service being more of a form of validation than a pure act of love. Should we be thinking more about acts of love rather than acts of service? How would that shift our understanding of love and how we act in relationships?
In this episode we also talk about ghosting and it has become more popular even though no one thinks highly about this behaviour - meaning that those who do it would rather be condemned in that shame than speak their truth? It's one thing to talk about the desire for communication, but what about those that can´t find the courage to speak? How much are we tortured in our silence? Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about self identity, self worth and self love.
Masked Man #70 is the Uncertain Man. We talk about expectations in relationships, of needing to become better to be with a more virtuous partner, the power dynamics in cheating and the uncertainty or doubt of whether or not it's going to work out in the long-run.
I think the biggest learning here is realizing that we can never be certain about the future, but we gotta be certain about how we feel. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all around the world about masculinity, sex and relationships, and how that contributes to our self worth.
Masked Man #69 is the Well-Sexed Prude. He shares his perspective on why he might engage in sex when he isn't in the mood, and we realize it is more about a fear of rejection the next time, so we say yes now. And I guess this is a huge contributor to feelings of worthiness when we are expecting men to perform a certain way in sex, as a way to prove their role in this situation.
In this episode we uncover why I felt so comfortable with the masked men series, as most of my intimate relationships have been with strangers. And in my opinion, there is more freedom when there isn't the attachment or expectation of a long-term commitment in place as an indicator of one's true intentions. Let's get into it.I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about self identity, self worth and self love.
Masked Man #68 is the Masked Outcast. Here's another Toronto artist, but his glow up is very different from the last one, I think because he actually admits to his feelings, specifically the pain. And this is where we can reflect and recognize our growth. He shares his healing journey of dealing with abandonment, from trying desperately to force people to stay in his life to letting it all go.
I am so glad to hear there's more of a demand for conversations on mental health, especially from men. There is always something we can learn from the stories of others, if we open our hearts to it. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about self identity, self worth and self love.
Masked Man #67 is the Inner Artist. He shares his journey of breaking free from the story that was given to him, and courageously made his own path. And now that he is his true self, he can be vulnerable and stand in his truth. But how does that affect how he interacts with others that may not be so authentic?
We talk about the energy we put into relationships that we feel may be unbalanced - maybe you are doing more work, and you go your separate ways. I get super vulnerable here and admit this hurts, every time, for me. Because I want better, this is the whole point of me reaching out to these 100 strange men. What would be the point if I was just going to be okay with the way things are right now? Join me as we talk about being better humans. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about masculinity, self worth and self love.
Masked Man #66 is the Uncomfortable Man. He shares his journey in self healing in dealing with anger and violence. I am so grateful to have this conversation to share with you, we both get really vulnerable here, we laugh, we cry - it's beautiful.
And even in this anonymous call, there is so much discomfort when we talk about love. His inability to accept love. The shutting down when we get into that subject and why it's so difficult for him, and maybe for a lot of men. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about self identity, what success means in society and how that affects our self worth.
Masked Man #65 is the Token Entrepreneur. He is basically retired at 25-year-old, moving out of his parents house and about to start a new chapter, into the unknown. And this episode is an introspective reflection of the concept of entrepreneurship and how it has been a trending topic lately as the ultimate form of success.
I really enjoyed talking to someone else who is in a similar position to where I am today, where I guess we're both just learning how to live. I love talking about consciousness and spirituality, on understanding the self, so guys if this is a topic you enjoy to chat about, you know what to do. Send me a message at missamandachen on Instagram. Make sure to subscribe to the show and I'll see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about self identity, expectations from society and how that affects our self worth.
June is pride month, so this week I sit down with men who are challenged about their personal understanding of gender when interacting with members of the LGBTQ community, and in sitting with the discomfort that comes with privilege.
Masked Man #63 is the Masked Inquirer. He shares his story about being a health visitor in the UK, which is basically a nurse that visits families to check on the health of a newborn baby. He reflects on how a lot of female health visitors and mothers would isolate men and how that could contribute to how men may feel like they have no role with childcare.
My question is, if women have been fighting to have a role in business, or other male dominated spaces, is it the role of men to fight for theirs in childcare, or do women have a responsibility to make space? Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about masculinity, expectations from society and how that affects our self worth.
June is pride month, so this week I sit down with men who are challenged about their personal understanding of gender when interacting with members of the LGBTQ. I'm really glad we touched on aspects of gender norms as a form of identity, that is wrapped up in wanting the approval of others or to be seen as you are approving of others that you might feel you have privilege or power over.
Masked Man #63 is the Modern Musician. At a ripe age of 22, he shares his introspective spirals on what matters most to him, especially when I ask him a profound question - what would you die for? We speak about the masculine trait of wanting a challenge, and the tension of becoming complacent without challenge or discomfort to push you. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series this week, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about self identity, expectations from society and how that affects our self worth.
Masked Man #62 is the Visible Man. He shares his transition from being an Asian American female to an Asian American male, and all the things that change, from not being able to smile at women on the street anymore, to having competitive banter with male colleagues. I think what is most interesting is the conversation on the power of sex, specifically moving from what might be considered the top of the totem pole to the bottom when it comes to what our society deems as sexually attractive.
It was so wild to hear the perspective from an individual that has literally experienced both sides of the gender game and how much race is a factor as well when it comes to power plays in society. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about self identity, expectations from society and how that affects our self worth.
Masked Man #61 is the Feeling Man. He shares his perspective on why he has more female friends than male friends mainly because he can talk about feelings. We get into the idea of competitiveness as a form of camaraderie among men and the confusion of what the role of men might be when interacting with women.
I'm very interested in the idea of what the role of men is and whether that confusion is a factor in the search of self identity. What are your thoughts?
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series this week, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about self identity, expectations from society and how that affects our self worth.
Masked Man #60 is the Only Child. In this episode, we hear the journey of a father-to-be reflecting on his childhood and his experiences that brought him to where he is today. I know some of you have been asking for some more practical stuff, and I am really glad there were a lot of practical strategies shared about this man's personal practice in self love and personal development.
I'm really glad to hear that there is more of a desire for guys to want to talk to each other about self awareness. And if you are someone or know of someone that would love to expand on the topic of practising this closer connection and conversation among male peers, send me a message at missamandachen on Instagram. Make sure to subscribe to the show and I'll see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men.
Hello and welcome back to another episode of the Miss Amanda Chen Show. I had the amazing opportunity to sit down with Cleo Stiller, author of Modern Manhood. As I just crossed the halfway point with interviewing over 50 men, I thought I’d get another perspective on the journey of interviewing men as a woman.
What’s really cool is that Cleo received countless messages from men responding to the wake of the Me Too movement in 2017 with men wanting to speak out, while I experienced resistance, hesitation and general silence as I was the one seeking particular men.
We talk about our role as women and what we can do to not have to have this conversation again 10 years from now. Can we be better today? Let’s get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Find out more about Cleo:
Website: CleoStiller.net
Get her book: Modern Manhood
Follow her: @CleoStiller
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series this week, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about self identity, expectations from society and how that affects our self worth.
As you know I went on a pretty spiritual journey here in Mexico, and had a chance to sit down with some men from the 10 day silent retreat I was on here in Mazunte.
Masked Man #59 is the Spiritual Man. He shares his story from living in Communist Romania and starting a new life in America, his battle with his own ego, and the idea that if everyone is wearing a mask, then we are all interacting mask on mask, the expectations to appear as someone else and the growing rejection of authenticity results in this frustration and pain.
Not sure how we ended up spinning the mic on me and my pain with this show, but it was a great reflection on my own struggle with trust and love. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series this week, where I anonymously interview different men from all around the world in an open conversation to learn more about what it's like to be a man in the modern world today.
This week I caught up with some beautiful souls from the 10 day silent retreat I went on here in Mazunte, this tiny little town on the coast of Oaxaca, Mexico. And from this experience there was a resounding desire to talk about self love and reflect on sex and relationships.
Masked Man #58 is the Nonsexual Man. What are the chances I would find another Toronto boy? He was my little slice of home, my twin, my mirror, we were instant bffs as soon as we broke out of silence. In this episode, he shares his spiritual journey and we reflect on how we were both using sex and dating to fill in the void of self love. We talk about the choice to be nonsexual and the power in that ownership of ourselves, of choosing to love ourselves first, and how that love then extends to others. This is such a beautiful conversation. I hope you enjoy the show.
I randomly decided to travel to a remote town called Mazunte, off the coast of Oaxaca, Mexico, to attend a 10 day silent meditation retreat and these are my learnings.
I want to take a moment to recognize all the tiny miracles that needed to happen in order for me to be here today, reporting back to you about this weird and wonderful time I had in silence. I needed to already have taken the leap to move to Mexico in February, so traveling domestically didn’t feel like too much of a hurdle. I needed to reconnect with a friend I had lost touch with to recommend the 10 day silent retreat. And I needed to have made a virtual female friend that was introduced to me from one of the 100 masked men, a total stranger, to feel safe with the thought that Id at least know one person in this tiny little remote town in Mexico. There was a lot of fear I had to overcome that I didn’t even realize. I was just excited at the thought of this retreat for no apparent reason. I didn’t even read up on the teachings, look at the schedule, or check out who was leading it. I just jumped in blindly. And to live life with that much vitality, you really have to stop and notice all the miracles that had to happen.
Welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series this week, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about self identity, expectations from society and how that affects our self worth.
This week was an open invitation for male travellers living in Puerto Escondido to have an open and honest conversation with me.
Masked Man #57 is the Farm Boy. He shares his perspective observing the relationship dynamic of his parents and the relationship between his father and his new wife. And of course we talk about communication and how things might be misunderstood.
I love how we get into a discussion about the idea that consent is ever-changing. We often think we have one conversation and that's it, we never speak about it again. Like i already did that, Now you're making me prove myself time and time again? But why do we think that way? Why is it a reflection of your worth? Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series this week, where I anonymously interview different men from all around the world to challenge gender roles and expectations in the modern world today.
This week was an open invitation for male travellers living in Puerto Escondido to have an open and honest conversation with me.
Masked Man #56 is the Heartbroken Man. I met up with this man within a couple hours of arriving in Puerto Escondido. We hiked to see the sunset, learned about each other, and then sat down to record his pandemic love story. In one swift year he sacrificed so much for this woman that he believed he loved so much and I hope this makes you ask yourself the question - what does true love mean to you?I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to another episode of the Miss Amanda Chen Show. Today’s episode is a reflection on talking to strangers. If you’ve been following this podcast I’ve spent the past 6 months interviewing men.
It’s a different world out there now. We already look away when we pass others on the street, pretend we don’t notice anyone, stick to our own personal space, but now with the pandemic we are super aware of keeping our distance.
And as we all congregate in our little bubbles, it gets increasingly difficult to meet new people. Let alone schedule an interview with them, ask them about themselves, get vulnerable with them, connect with them on a deeper level, and record it all to share with the public. I have no idea why I decided to speak to 100 men during the time that we are all meant to self isolate, but here we are. And it’s been a weird time, sending cold DMs to randoms on Instagram, asking female friends to connect me with men, texting exes, even using dating apps to find fresh meat.
The next couple episodes are a free flow of first-time engagements with men during my travels. It has been incredible capturing this intimate moment and I’m so excited to share it with you. I look at it like a verbal dance, asking questions, re-framing questions, feeling the flow of the other person and finding a groove. And just getting entranced in this other person’s energy, not knowing where it’s going to go. We usually talk to people with intention. We often want something out of them, or assume they want something out of us, an answer, a decision, something concrete to move forward with. But when the conversation is just for nothing, the conversation has room to play.
With season 3 being all about liberation through dialogue, let’s free ourselves from the constraints of expectations out of conversation. Let's stop rehearsing how we plan to speak to someone in our heads and just see what happens.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series this week, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about self identity, expectations from society and how that affects our self worth.
This is the first time I have heard of this, but it looks like we are entertaining a Sexual Renaissance. Or it might only be a Tulum 2021 thing, who knows.
Masked Man #55 is the Sensual Man. We talk about how we are breaking free from the repression of sexuality, where some perversions are no longer accepted, that we are more mature in our understanding of our sexual selves where we can now start to challenge the types of relationships and sexual interactions we have with others. He shares his perspective on breaking down the old perspective on sex and creating a new, blended, more inclusive one. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are now in Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series this week, where I anonymously interview different men from all around the world to challenge gender roles and expectations in the modern world today.
Masked Man #54 is the New Feminist. Now that we are past the halfway point, I thought I should bring back the conversation on what it means to be a modern male feminist today and bring back a similar conversation to very first interview I had on the show. In this episode we talk a lot about anger, how emotions manifest physically among men, and how suppression of emotions is the root cause to a lot of toxic masculine behaviour. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. If you’ve been following this podcast, I started a project about 6 months ago to interview 100 men all around the world anonymously to get a better understanding of what life is like for them in today’s modern world. And I’ve past the halfway point with over 50 interviews! You’d think, now there’s no turning back, right?
Even though I’m getting more listens, more people are sending me messages about how much they enjoy the show, more men are being referred to me to be interviewed, I’m constantly wanting to just drop the mic (literally) and quit.
What I don’t talk about is the fact that the wire on my mic cuts in and out, the zoom calls drop often with the inconsistent wifi in Mexico, and a bunch of guys I've personally reached out to refused to be interviewed for the show and in general, after speaking to more than 50 guys I still don’t think I can talk to men. For every positive there is a negative. It’s up to you to choose which to focus on.
Today I want to talk about keeping a commitment to yourself. Commitment is not something we just throw around, we do this out of loyalty and respect. We are so quick to make commitments for work or for others, always telling ourselves we'll get to ourselves at the end when everyone else is covered. If a commitment reflects loyalty and respect, why do we choose to break commitments to the one person that matters most? Keeping a commitment to yourself is the highest form of self love.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are kicking off Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series this week, where I anonymously interview different men from all around the world to challenge gender roles and expectations in the modern world today.
This week is all about challenges, so let's challenge some judgments about alcoholism and sobriety. Are sober people doomed to be boring people?
Masked Man #53 is the Cali Sober. We really connected on the topic of alcoholism, how it started out all fun and games, and then went really dark really fast. And the journey to sobriety - interacting with people again as this new version of you, and how that can look like in dating and sex. I honestly didn’t think I would find anyone who could relate with me and my struggle of having sex sober and I really enjoyed his open approach to this, allowing more space for each individual to pave their own path to recovery. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are kicking off Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series this week, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about self identity, expectations from society and how that affects our self worth.
This week we are challenging perspectives and approaches to communication. Masked Man #52 is the Renaissance Man. A modern philosopher who spends a lot of time reading about the habits of successful people and incorporating them into his own life. He shares his perspective on what modern masculinity looks like and how most of us are too busy trying to be heard before we try to understand. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We are kicking off Season 3 of the 100 Masked Men series this week, where I anonymously interview different men from all around the world to challenge gender roles and expectations in the modern world today.
Speaking of challenges, I found a brain to pick here in Tulum and I am so grateful to be able to share this conversation. We move from general concepts to get up close and personal, maybe even too personal for comfort.
Masked Man #51 is the Serial Entrepreneur. You know the type, a people person, able to connect quickly with anyone, and is always down for some business brainstorming. But what if we remove all those layers and we can only talk about feelings and who we are, not what we do? Challenge accepted. He shares his experiences meeting women in Tulum, his new approach to relationships following his divorce, and what really matters to him when he thinks about compatibility and his role as a man. I hope you enjoy the show.
The theme for Season 3 is liberation through dialogue. A conversation can set you free. A genuine exchange of ideas, thoughts, feelings and stories without judgment, without an agenda, without expectation. We don’t have enough conversations like this. We are all playing the lead in our own solo monologue with occasional, very selective, feature guests.
When I targeted specific men to talk about a subject matter, they had to wear a mask to show they held an opinion. Because otherwise why have the conversation, if not to present your unique perspective? What if there wasn’t a point to it. How would the conversation change? I hope you enjoy the show.
You’re listening to the miss Amanda Chen show! And this is the season 2 recap of the 100 masked men series, where I anonymously interview men from all around the world to learn more about who they are and why they are they way they are. Season 2 has been a very introspective series, with deep, thought provoking questions, I collected really diverse perspectives and some incredibly wild stories over the past three months and here are 25 things that men have learned about themselves. Thank you to all the beautiful men who took the time to be in this podcast. I am so grateful for you. See you next week when we open up Season 3.
Hello and welcome back to another episode of the Miss Amanda Chen Show. If you have been following this podcast, you know I just passed the halfway point in my 100 Masked Men Series, where I anonymously interview men from all over the world, asking them to look inward, talk about tough topics, and express themselves in open and honest conversations.
Season 2 has been a very introspective series, with a huge focus on mental health. It comes at no surprise that I would find another woman on the mission to help mens mental health. Today I have the opportunity to sit with Amanda Bender, founder of Kilo, an app designed to track mens mental health, and we discuss the importance of a woman’s role in this space. I hope you enjoy the show.
If you are interested in learning more make sure to check out Kilo.app and sign up for updates. Kilo is hosting its first ever men's mental health event! Tune in May 7th 12:00 - 1:00pm PST to hear from a few hu[man]s who will share their stories of homelessness, TBI, depression, therapy, psychedelics, self-improvement, and more. Here's the link to create a reminder and tune in on May 7th: https://lnkd.in/e9d_Ht5
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. This is the final episode in Season 2 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all around the world to challenge gender roles and expectations in the modern world today.
So much of what we hear about sex trafficking is just one story, an innocent girl is taken away from her home. But if the story doesn't follow that exact script, is it not deserving to be told? Today's episode challenges how we look at victims of sexual abuse, whose story is more valid than the other, and how do we go about understanding others experiences without having to experience it ourselves.
Masked Man #50 is the Resilient Man. He's a teen sex traffic survivor and how he stands up to share his story 10 years later with three others. I love that we talk about the movie Taken and the conventional version of sex trafficking and I really hope this broadens your perspective on the idea. That there is more to this than just someone being taken away against their will. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. This week I’m wrapping up Season 2 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about gender roles, expectations from society and how that affects our self worth.
I've noticed a trend of some guys speaking about the fear of getting 'me too-ed' like it's a verb now - so I sought out someone who actually experienced the process of allegedly being falsely accused for aggravated sexual assault.
Masked Man #49 is the Exonerated Man. He shares his side of the story, from the arrest coming out of nowhere on a typical drive to work, news stories using Tinder as the weapon, his relationship with a dispassionate lawyer and not one, not even two, but three allegations from three different women. Before you ask me if I believe him, let me ask you, does it matter? I'm just here to find out the truth. I hope you enjoy the show.
Welcome back to another episode of the Miss Amanda Chen Show Podcast. As we approach the first half of the 100 Masked Men Series, I am realizing the power of perspective.
I had the pleasure of interviewing the cast of Wounded, a play I had the chance to see in the comfort of my home. Leveraging Zoom choreography, inspired by the 5 stages of grief, Wounded is an exceptionally innovative theatre play about sexual violence highlighting not only the untold stories of victims, but their individual personalities, and what made them who they were.
I hope this episode touches you as it did me, in the need to have more conversations about tough topics, and to keep talking about them. Let's not wait for everyone to experience terrible things before we discuss it after the fact. Change comes through conversation. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We’re now in Season 2 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all around the world about gender roles and expectations in the modern world today. And this week we are getting pretty deep into taboo conversations, especially around sex, our kinks, and how to communicate and exercise consent.
Masked Man #48 is the Little Brother. With older sisters of 4 and 7 years, he shares his journey in understanding women by observing their behaviours. One of the most memorable experiences was in dating a feminist and learning about BDSM and consent in order to please his partner. As someone who always wants to encourage the subject of consent, I realized even I struggle with discussing it in practice and properly articulating my boundaries. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We’re now in Season 2 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about gender roles, expectations from society and how that affects our self worth.
Trigger warning on the content of today’s episode. The worst thing anyone has ever said to me was I deserved to be raped. And unfortunately I found another man who heard those same words said to him. And to take things further, the worst thing anyone has ever said to him, was to be called a rapist as a rape victim.
Masked Man #47 is the Rape Card. This gets interesting because we never hear a man’s perspective on this subject mainly because we only see a man raping a woman and perhaps it is too uncomfortable to see it reversed. We share both of our perspectives and notice how different it is for both of us. But what do we share in common? The desire for violence, aggressive, degrading sex. We unpack this in very granular detail, so get that popcorn going, this is a wild one. Cinematic even. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We’re now in Season 2 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all around the world about what masculinity means to them in the modern world today.
In the last interview we spoke about the ideas we create in our heads about who we think we are, and what we think we deserve. In this episode I found a man that is your conventional masculine looking man, and how he challenges the norm to redefine himself in modern society.
Masked Man #46 is the Redefined Man. As a man that you might consider the generic masculine man that followed all the typical tropes, in the military, in sports, in aggression, and in that process redefining what masculinity means to him. A really cool thing I learned about is how we avoid being completely seen. And yet we want to be seen, but we are afraid of the judgment that comes with it. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We’re now in Season 2 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about gender roles, expectations from society and how that affects our self worth.
This week we talk about self identity. In the story we tell ourselves about who we are, and where those ideas come from.
Masked Man #45 is the New Kid. He's in his early twenties, living humbly, doesn't use social media and yet shares his story of social anxiety as a teenager, and how that deliberate self isolation resulted in depression and ultimately forced him to drop out of school.
And it makes me wonder how much more amplified those feelings of unworthiness, of not being enough can be if he was actively on social media. I hope you enjoy the show.
Welcome back to another episode of the Miss Amanda Chen Show! I have been interviewing nonstop for the 100 masked men series, where I speak with anonymous men from all around the world about the invisible masks they are wearing, and really trying to learn about who they are, rather than what they do.
All throughout March have been working closely with our very first partner on this show, Tethr, an app that focuses on building community for peer to peer support for mens mental health.
I also challenged myself to be interviewed as a guest on other podcasts. It was a fun switch up. it was my turn to take a back seat and start answering some questions. Funny enough, I spoke on two podcasts about how gender plays a role in communication. one podcast was led by men, and the other by women. Make sure to check out A Coming Of Age Podcast hosted by Frank and Azam and Modern Romance Podcast hosted by Nicole. Links below!
A Coming Of Age Podcast - Communication
Modern Romance - Navigating The Male-Female Dynamics In Relationships
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We’re now in Season 2 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all around the world about what masculinity means to them, gender expectations and how that affects how they interact with women.
This month we are taking a special focus on men's mental health, sponsored by Tethr, The world’s first online, peer-to-peer support community connecting men for open and honest conversations about life. This week I'm highlighting the different lives of Asian men.
Masked Man #44 is the Masked Mentor. He shares his story on losing a relationship with a mentor he truly admired, and appreciating the growth of that loss as one of the most precious learnings towards his personal development. If there are no consequences, what is there to learn from a mistake?
We talk about what being a man of integrity means, which communication tactics that brings peoples walls down, and brings peoples walls up, and how to look at our emotions not as good or bad, but just acknowledge all the feelings that make us human. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We’re now in Season 2 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all around the world about what masculinity means to them and how we put our self worth in the hands of others.
This month we are taking a special focus on men's mental health, sponsored by Tethr, The world’s first online, peer-to-peer support community connecting men for open and honest conversations about life. This week I'm highlighting the many different lives of Asian men.
Masked Man #43 is the Successful Man. In his early 20s, who courageously walked out of a job at Amazon to start up his own venture, fail, and start again, is now on his own path to finding out what really matters to him. We talk a lot about the conventional idea of success, which includes money and power and access, but then when it comes to approval, respect, recognition, being seen, why aren't these measurements of success? I am so excited I finally got a chance to speak to the new generation of men. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We’re now in Season 2 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about gender roles, expectations from society and how that affects our self worth.
This month we are taking a special focus on men's mental health, sponsored by Tethr, The world’s first online, peer-to-peer support community connecting men for open and honest conversations about life. And this week I'm highlighting the many different lives of Asian men.
Masked Man #42 is the Hot Asian. On the search for what media would deem a hot asian man, I found a health and body transformation coach living in Bangkok and in this interview discovered he was from Toronto and learned how differently he was brought up than what we would consider typical Asian. Even though we come from very different places, we were able to deeply relate about similar experiences.
We learn about what it's like being raised by a strong Asian mother figure with three boys. And I get a glimpse of what it's like living in Thailand, and it makes me really reflect on the entitled behaviours of tourists that visit these hot destinations, especially with exotic services there. And what men do with money, and what women do for money. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We’re now in Season 2 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all around the world about what masculinity means to them, gender expectations and how that affects how they interact with women.
This month we are taking a special focus on men's mental health, sponsored by Tethr, The world’s first online, peer-to-peer support community connecting men for open and honest conversations about life. This week I'm interviewing men that are challenging gender norms, with a special focus on fatherhood.
Masked Man #41 is the Foster Dad. As a man that was brought up without strong parental figures, he found himself navigating through parenthood himself when he was left alone to raise a 12 year old girl. We get into depth about the foster care system, and how he's been able to give women space to be heard and understood.
I think the most interesting aspect of this conversation is my own struggle in challenging gender norms. I am very quick to state the way things are, but how often do we have a conversation about doing things differently? I was reminded about that today. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We’re now in Season 2 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about gender roles, expectations from society and how that affects our self worth.
This month we are taking a special focus on men's mental health, sponsored by Tethr, The world’s first online, peer-to-peer support community connecting men for open and honest conversations about life. And this week I'm challenging the judgment we receive from ourselves, and others, when we don't follow the path that's been set for us.
Masked Man #40 is the Childless Man. It's interesting how little we talk about a man's role in bearing children. I found a man who was involuntarily childless, who was jealous of other fathers in his peer group. And that comes at such a different space than with women trying to juggle motherhood and a career. I learn so much in this conversation, from a man from a completely different generation. And I wonder how much history will repeat itself. I hope you enjoy the show.
Hello and welcome back to another episode of the miss Amanda Chen show podcast. If you’ve been following this show, you know I have been relentlessly interviewing random men from all over the world, mostly virtually, about gender and social norms that affect how we identify ourselves and ultimately, our self worth, based on our interactions with others.
Most of you know that I have been living in sunny Tulum for a couple months now, the place where all digital nomads escape their hometown lockdown buzz kills to thrive, fuck, and join what we call here the Tuluminati.
Its taken me a while to get comfortable living here, without masks, with tourists coming in and out every day, without getting overcharged for tacos, without getting robbed. And one of my most privileged issues to date is finding decent wifi to conduct my podcast interviews. So I thought, why not find someone in town and interview them live, in person? Whoa, what a trip! Listen to the play-by-play on this podcast episode.
I’m sharing this story because I don’t owe this guy shit and I am not going to publish his interview, I am not going to promote his app, I am not going to ever speak to him again and I won’t try to convince myself to publish the content just because I made it. I’m not going to allow myself to validate the entitlement of others anymore. I almost slipped again, and this is why todays episode is so important. We never talk about these things. And the joke is this the Miss Amanda Chen Show and I’m still struggling to keep it mine.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We’re now in Season 2 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all around the world about gender roles, expectations from society and how that affects our self worth.
This month we are taking a special focus on men's mental health, sponsored by Tethr, The world’s first online, peer-to-peer support community connecting men for open and honest conversations about life. This week I'm interviewing men that are challenging gender norms.
Masked Man #39 is the Stay at Home Dad. What I loved the most about this interview is hearing about the jealousy other fathers felt for this man's life. Wishing they could spend more time with their children. I feel like most dads were always mysterious, had their own shit going on, and were generally unavailable, so you value their presence more. You'd never see dad doing the mundane everyday stuff, that was always mom's job. Have you ever stopped to wonder if dad knows your blood type? The last time you had a physical or dentist appointment?
And of course we have to get into the conversation of consent, but this time we unpacked sexual education in schools. This was such a cool chat, with how sex and consent needs to be discussed both in school as well as at home. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Challenge accepted, anyone want to share their stories on fathers giving the sex talk? Does the conversation happen between father and son? Or is it just father and daughter, or mother and son, or mother and daughter? I think it's wild to see the rise in pressure among young men. And if you are looking for a space to chat about sensitive subjects, check out Tethr. I think it's insane that we're in 2021 and we just have this tool available now.
Make sure to subscribe and if you’d like to be on the show or know of someone with a unique perspective, slide into my DMs at missamandachen on Instagram and see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We’re now in Season 2 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about what masculinity means to them, gender expectations and how that affects how they interact with women.
This month we are taking a special focus on men's mental health, sponsored by Tethr, The world’s first online, peer-to-peer support community connecting men for open and honest conversations about life. And this week I'm challenging the judgment we receive from ourselves, and others, when we don't follow the path that's been set for us.
Masked Man #38 is the Divorced Man. This is the first man (so far) that has come on the show sharing his divorce story openly and honestly with me. Isn't that crazy? I've heard a million divorce stories from women, but barely from the other side. And what I find truly refreshing is hearing about his journey to self love and how important it was to feel safe among other men.
If you haven't already, I really hope you guys check out the Tethr app if you are looking to find peer support along your journey. The more men I speak to, the more I see how important it is to have a safe space to express your emotions.
Make sure to subscribe and if you’d like to be on the show or know of someone with a unique perspective, slide into my DMs at missamandachen on Instagram and see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. If you’ve been following this podcast, I am almost halfway through the 100 Masked Men Series, where I interview men anonymously about what masculinity means to them and how their self worth is measured against their interactions with women.
This month we have had the pleasure of partnering with Tethr, the world’s first peer to peer community connecting men for open and honest conversations about life. I think it’s kinda crazy that this platform was created now, that it has taken this long for us to realize how important it is to have conversations among peers about what were going through, how were feeling, and be able to openly and honestly express ourselves without judgment. I guess that also explains why I was so compelled to start interviewing men and trying to understand why we are the way we are.
Today I’m sitting down with the founders of Tethr, Matt and Addison and we talk about how these two came together, the landscape for mens mental health, and how women can also get involved in this space to improve our relationships with one another. Let’s get into it.
Make sure to check out Tethr and let me know how it goes. And as always make sure to subscribe to the show and I’ll see you next Wednesday with more episodes of the 100 Masked Men.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We’re now in Season 2 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all around the world about gender roles, expectations from society and how that affects our self worth.
This month we are taking a special focus on men's mental health, sponsored by Tethr, The world’s first online, peer-to-peer support community connecting men for open and honest conversations about life. This week I'm interviewing men that have taken the courageous journey in making a deliberate change in themselves. And some even go on to help encourage others as well.
Masked Man #37 is the Life Coach. Overcoming obesity as a teenager and entering the coaching and mentorship world at a young age, this man shares his feelings of imposter syndrome when trying to lead others to change and betterment, yet actively choosing to value alcohol over his own life.
He tells me a huge turning point was when his wife asked him if he's a man that he would want his own daughter to marry. I find it so interesting, the impact this concept has on men, that comparison, that desire to be the representation of a man that would be suitable for the women that matter in your life. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
There's so much inadequacy we feel about our own gifts that really breaks my heart. I really hope this story gives you the courage to give the world your true authentic self. Like I've said before, i think we're more fearful of our own greatness than our failures.
Make sure to subscribe and if you’d like to be on the show or know of someone with a unique perspective, slide into my DMs at @missamandachen on Instagram and see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We’re now in Season 2 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about what masculinity means to them, gender expectations and how that affects how they interact with women.
This month we are taking a special focus on men's mental health, sponsored by Tethr, The world’s first online, peer-to-peer support community connecting men for open and honest conversations about life. And this week I want to talk about sobriety.
Masked Man #36 is the Certified Babe. If you tuned in to Season 1 and enjoyed the episode on the Band Boy, here's another member sharing his story as the sensitive one among very alpha, masculine males. He talks about playing up this energy in fitness and sports to avoid dealing with his emotions, and the discouragement he received from his male friends on his journey to sobriety.
We get into a lot of stuff on this interview, particularly on his stovetop analogy on rating the quality of women in different cities and how to have open and honest conversations about sex, before, during, and after the fact. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
So we've heard from two band boys now, and I am loving the growth. I really hope you guys check out the Tethr app if you are looking to find peer support along your journey. The more men I speak to, the more I see how important it is to have a safe space to express your emotions, and that is a space I can say I had the privilege of being a woman. Make sure to subscribe to the show and I'll see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men.
You’re listening to another episode of the Miss Amanda Chen Show. Everywhere I look today, there is a push for women empowerment. I used to think empowerment only meant strength. And that strength was a result of resilience. And that resilience could only be respectfully achieved by suffering through all the shit and coming up on top. It validated the pain. And it also normalized it. Making the pain something all of us women endured as part of womanhood.
This year, we have all had to build resilience. We have uniquely shared the experience of a global pandemic. And that made me think about strength differently.We’ve all heard the story that not all men are trash, and yet, almost all of us women have experienced trash men. That means all women have allowed trash men to plague the world.
With experience, with endurance, with tolerance, we have granted permission for this type of behaviour to continue. And what’s worse is we have used this terrible experience as a way to come together. Discussing the poor behaviour of men has been a toolbar us to add salt to the wound.
My problem is there is a gate with women movements. The fact that you’ve got to be one in order to participate. And that means you’ve got to be one that has suffered through some shit in order to feel compelled to want to impact change. With that mentality, every woman on earth will have to suffer an injustice in order for feminism to succeed. And now that I think about it, fuck, we’re pretty damn close to that.
The theme of International Women’s Day 2021 is Choose To Challenge.
And with challenge comes change. This year I did something different. Rather than showcasing strong, badass women, I have been sharing male vulnerability. I have been partnering with mens mental health resources, like Tethr, apps that I literally can’t participate in.And in sharing these stories, I now have the opportunity to penetrate the minds of men, to allow space for a unique role as a woman in their lives, and that is a newfound strength I never knew I could achieve.
Today I challenge us to rethink how we define what strength is, and which aspects of our shared experience as women we value over others.
Change begins when we welcome the challenge. Seek to understand, not just for what it can do for you, but for how it an help the larger conversations we are trying to have. Happy International Women’s Day!
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We’re now in Season 2 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all around the world about gender roles, expectations from society and how that affects our self worth.
This month we are taking a special focus on men's mental health, sponsored by Tethr, The world’s first online, peer-to-peer support community connecting men for open and honest conversations about life.
It's been a year since the pandemic hit and crashed the hospitality industry. Masked Man #35 is the Masked Bartender. In this episode we talk about how life has changed since then, and the judgment that comes along with drinking. Does everyone that is 'doing well' have to be sober too? Or can we be ok and also have a beer? I hope you enjoy the show.
Are we romanticizing the drama with mental health issues? I thought this was an interesting perspective, on the quote unquote 'normal guys' that seem to be doing okay. But nonetheless went through their own shit to be in a secure place today. This reminded me that not all of us have to speak out in order to normalize mental health.
Make sure to subscribe and if you’d like to be on the show or know of someone with a unique perspective, slide into my DMs at @missamandachen on Instagram and see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We’re now in Season 2 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all around the world about gender roles, expectations from society and how that affects our self worth.
This month we are taking a special focus on men's mental health, sponsored by Tethr, The world’s first online, peer-to-peer support community connecting men for open and honest conversations about life.
Masked Man #34 is the Honest Man. You might even call him too honest, he's an open book, completely transparent to everyone in his life, especially his parents. He shares his story on wearing many masks to conceal his honesty after learning very quickly that a lot of people just don't want to hear the truth. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
What a refreshing interview with a complete stranger. It's been very interesting seeing the difference from one conversation with the next. Would you be nervous having to talk about this topic instead of the conventional hey, what do you do?
To be honest it has been a bit of a challenge finding men in the UK that are open to being on the show. So if you are someone from that side of the pod with a unique story to tell, slide into my DMs at @missamandachen on Instagram and make sure to subscribe to the show. I'll see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We’re now in Season 2 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about what masculinity means to them, gender expectations and how that affects how they interact with women.
This month we are taking a special focus on men's mental health, sponsored by Tethr, the world’s first online, peer-to-peer support community connecting men for open and honest conversations about life.
Masked Man #33 is the Masculine Man. He shares his transition from very rigid masculine views to finding balance with feminine energy. From past girlfriends, to watching himself on screen, he had to swallow his pride and ego, and seek help through therapy. I am so grateful to have this vulnerable conversation available for you to listen to today. I hope you enjoy the show.
Have your views about therapy changed since listening to this episode? I think the biggest takeaway from this chat was to realize that society changes all the time, but our way of thinking stays the same. And this is where the conflict comes.
Make sure to subscribe and if you’d like to be on the show or know of someone with a unique perspective, slide into my DMs at @missamandachen on Instagram and see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men.
Hello and welcome back to another episode of the miss Amanda Chen show. This week I interviewed two anonymous men for the 100 Masked Men Series, and its really interesting just reflecting off your own interviews and seeing how you react to complete strangers, people I haven’t established a safe space with yet, and what resulted from that was what you could perceive as the confident Amanda with strong opinions. But now I’m taking the time to think about exactly WHY I reacted the way I did.
One thing I learned from the interviews this week is the idea of setting boundaries for the sake of others. Thinking you’re doing this for the betterment of others, to tell yourself that you are a good person, a man of integrity, who respects others.
Boundaries need to be personal, they have to be a reflection of your core values and beliefs. You can’t enforce boundaries on another person because it isn’t about them.
If you establish a positive relationship with boundaries that is an expression of your core values and beliefs, you will be more inclined to communicate that to everyone you encounter. It won’t be a defensive conversation anymore, but a welcoming one.
Make sure to subscribe to the show and I’ll see you next Wednesday with more episodes of the 100 Masked Men.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We’re now in Season 2 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all around the world about gender roles, expectations from society and how that affects our self worth.
Lately I’ve been really curious about how men think, specifically about what they think about women. And the confusion that comes along in miscommunication. My thought is that we tend to be indirect in expressing ourselves with matters of the heart.
Masked Man #32 is the Five Date Guy. A very straight-laced, militant man who works a lot and does his best to give time, respect and energy to the women he engages in, he shares his 5 date rule with me. The idea is to learn more about each other over 5 dates before having sex. My question is, why is it all about the lead up to sex?
And how much can you learn about someone you're romantically involved in without sex? Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
I think these rules we place on dating say a lot more about the person putting in the rules than the person being tested. Although it doesn't feel that way. I've currently got a 3 month no sex rule with zero prospects on that front, but it's more for myself to give us the time to develop intimacy. Something I haven't spent nearly enough tie practicing. What are some rules you're implementing in your dating game today?
Make sure to subscribe and if you’d like to be on the show or know of someone with a unique perspective, slide into my DMs at missamandachen on Instagram and see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We’re now in Season 2 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about what masculinity means to them, gender expectations and how that affects how they interact with women.
This week I spoke with a man who works in construction, what we'd consider one of the breeding grounds of toxic masculinity.
Masked Man #31 is the Guy Card. This concept comes out from working in a space dominated by traditionally masculine men in physical labour. Although there may be differences in ethnicity, status or otherwise, at least they share the guy card.
What I found the most interesting is how diplomatic guys can be about men acting inappropriately toward women. Like how do you keep it light, keep it friendly, yet also say what is and isn't okay? And the request for women to be more gentle and patient with them as they adjust with the change in power. I don't know man, there's just a bit too many requests for women in my opinion. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
The Guy Card concept really makes me question, can I, as a woman, make an impact at all among men? Or can I only rely on other men to pave the way? And if not, can women be more patient with men as they continue to rise in their power? I don't know the answer, but I know that if we don't change anything, nothing's going to get better.
Make sure to subscribe and if you’d like to be on the show or know of someone with a unique perspective, slide into my DMs at missamandachen on Instagram and see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men.
Welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show! If you've been following this podcast you know I have a series called the 100 Masked Men where I investigate how our sexuality affects our self worth through the interactions of others.
In today’s episode I’m going to talk about using your sexuality to cultivate self worth and put it into practice. Lean in to your authentic self and accept every part of it, not just the parts you think are strong. Self worth is about the lesson you can learn from the interactions of others. Not about what you can do as a way to prove yourself to others.
I'm about a third of the way there now and spoke about this subject as a special guest with Dwight Heck on his podcast, Give A Heck. We uncover a whole bunch of amazing things on this episode, from my origin story that got me to become who I am today, dealing with the expectations of what he calls The Committee of They, uncovering the gender divide put on to us from society and how that ultimately affects both how we identify ourselves and how we interact in relationships. If you haven't already, go check it out!
Connect with Dwight Heck!
Website: https://giveaheck.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/give.a.heck/ Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/dwight.heck Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCF0i
As always, make sure to subscribe to the show and I'll see you next Wednesday with more episodes of the 100 Masked Men. Follow me @missamandachen on Instagram or check out 100MaskedMen.com for more updates on the Miss Amanda Chen Show Podcast and the #100MaskedMen Series.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We’re now in Season 2 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all around the world about gender roles, expectations from society and how that affects our self worth.
Lately I’ve been really curious about gender and linguistics, so today’s episode is all about the art of communication, and specifically, how to effectively give and receive rejection.
Masked Man #30 is the Master of Mirrors. I spoke to a professional that helps people communicate better, and learned that the main fear in public speaking has to do with the fear of how others will perceive them. I think it’s interesting that we’re more afraid about what people will think about what we’re saying, than what we’re actually saying. And also, how much of this is cultural? Are we more or less vocal depending on our cultural background? Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Do you change how you communicate with certain people or do you believe you should say things the same way regardless of who you’re speaking with? I sit on the latter end, and I don’t know, I’m feeling a little conflicted today but I still believe we need to push a little more from the interactions we have with each other. What do you think?
Make sure to subscribe and if you’d like to be on the show or know of someone with a unique perspective, slide into my DMs at missamandachen on Instagram and see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We’re now in Season 2 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about what masculinity means to them, and how that affects our self worth. This week I spoke with a male coach who runs mens groups and was curious to learn more about a space dedicated to male vulnerability. Masked Man #29 is the Masked Traveller. He’s been all around the world, but most consistently in Bali and Korea, where he was named Mayor of the Town in a space full of wanderers. Here we speak about gender roles and open up an interesting idea that the fear of being weak is probably more commonly felt than the desire to be strong. We get into a very interesting conversation about power, and the idea of men being the ones in charge, but for the purpose of making women happy. Let’s get into it. I hope you enjoy the show. I think the idea that people say they don’t know what they want because they don’t feel safe in asking for it was really interesting. Do you agree with this idea, that without permission to speak, we’ll just shut off? I still can’t believe how much men thought it was absolutely insane to tell a woman about their troubles. Like that would be the craziest idea. Make sure to subscribe and if you’d like to be on the show or know of someone with a unique perspective, slide into my DMs at missamandachen on Instagram and see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men.
Hello and welcome back to another episode of the Miss Amanda Chen Show. It's Valentine's Day and I'm in a little town in Mexico as I record this. I've fried my laptop and so this is completely unedited, authentically me.
We just opened up Season 2 focusing on full transparency this week, with three interviews of men sharing their open and honest thoughts on relationships. So I guess it's my turn to share my thoughts, where I'm coming from and how I'm looking at relationships now.
As someone who has spent the last year "pivoting" during the pandemic, I swallowed my ego, focused on myself, and here I am in a small town in Mexico sharing male vulnerability for you today. What began as the only way for me to make a change with my hateful habits with men to feeling compassion and a desire to learn more about gender linguistics, Valentine's Day feels very different now.
Without any sex toys, without dating apps to validate that I'm still a catch, and without the availability of dick at aarm's reach, I am overflowing with love and desire for myself. I never knew I could possess this much love for myself, this much respect for myself, this much compassion for myself as I do today. And whoever finds themselves in my presence is going to be really fucking lucky to love me just as much as I love myself.
Happy Valentine's Day, I love you. And as always, make sure to subscribe and I'll see you next Wednesday with more episodes of the 100 Masked Men.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We’re now in Season 2 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about dating, sex, gender roles, and the meaning of masculinity.
This week, we’re opening up Season 2 with full transparency. I speak to three guys for the first time, getting as real as possible, and get them to share their past, present and future when it comes to dating and relationships.
Masked Man #28 is the Sex Decoder. I had to speak to a tech developer to get his first-hand perspective on dating apps. Do they really work? Or are we preparing ourselves for a generation of romantic disaster? I appreciate his logical approach to communication and he brings up the importance of providing both positive and negative feedback on sexual performance. For both partners.
And the best part of this honest conversation is his resistance to get deep too fast. There’s a fear of getting too attached too fast and “wasting” all this time with the wrong person. But I wonder, does it also stop us from getting that deep emotional connection we all want so badly? Let’s get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
Do we dare speak ill about our partners and their sexual performance? I know for a fact a lot of women come to me complaining about the sex they’re having, and act completely different in front of their partners. From a female perspective, we don’t like fighting, it’s the opposite of intimacy, so we’d do almost anything to avoid it. But I’m not afraid to say what’s up, although I know I could be a bit nicer in my delivery. What are your thoughts?
As always make sure to subscribe and if you’d like to be on the show or know of someone with a unique perspective, slide into my DMs at missamandachen on Instagram and see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We’re now in Season 2 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about dating, sex, gender roles, and the meaning of masculinity.
This week, we’re opening up Season 2 speaking to three guys for the first time, getting as real as possible, and get them to share their past, present and future when it comes to dating and relationships.
Masked Man #27 is the Mr Transparency.
As always make sure to subscribe and if you’d like to be on the show or know of someone with a unique perspective, slide into my DMs at @missamandachen on Instagram and see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men. Visit 100MaskedMen.com to fill out a questionnaire to be on the show!
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We’re now in Season 2 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about dating, sex, gender roles, and the meaning of masculinity.
True to the focus on transparency and having real and open conversations, what can be more open than someone engaged in polyamory? In definition, it’s the practice of, or desire for, intimate relationships with more than one partner, with the informed consent of all partners involved. With all my confusion around general consent for the practice of sex, I had to know how some people practice consensual non-monogamy.
Masked Man #26 is the Adventurous Man. He’s engaged with two partners that both have partners. And his role is being the one to take you on adventures with, and he’s fine playing that role, and doesn’t try to be anything more than that. Contrary to the typical masculine traits we’ve heard in earlier episodes on the man having to be everything for her, I can see why a lot of men wouldn’t be ok with this type of relationship. It’s allowing permission that you are actually not enough. Can we be ok with that? .
How opportunistic are we on trying to get the freedom to do anything, and how often are we confining ourselves to having to be everything? This was a fun chat on masculine and feminine energy and finding balance to understanding more about the “lifestyle” of polyamory and how much communication plays a role in helping rid ourselves of jealous, ego and feelings of making ourselves feel we are “enough” by the approval of others.
As always make sure to subscribe and if you’d like to be on the show or know of someone with a unique perspective, slide into my DMs at @missamandachen on Instagram and see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men.
Welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show! Over the last three months I've dropped 25 interviews of the 100 Masked Men Series, where I anonymously interview men from all around the world about what masculinity means to them, how their sexuality affects their self worth, and how media and pop culture has shaped the gender roles we play in.
To sum up the first season, I was seeking anyone with a penis to get on the show. Friends, family, friends of friends, I was desperate for male voices. And all it nerves, or guilt for silencing men every chance I had, I was pretty sure no men would want to speak with me. Surprisingly, that wasn't the case at all, and in fact, I realized something about myself - I had set the bar so fucking low for men that I welcomed basically anything with arms wide open. And this is when I learned that I had also set the bar so low for myself, that I would have to tolerate shitty guys on the show as a way to appease my own feelings of being just as toxic to them as they have to me. And the biggest learning is that the world is not equal. And definitely genders are not equal. We can't just swap one for one and call it a day.
This week I'm opening up Season 2 with the second quarter of the 100 Masked Men Series, with full transparency. This time, we're going to find out how much do men actually know about themselves? We'll interview men that are fathers of daughters, that work with other men in men's groups, advocates for mental health for men, and just regular ass men trying to figure it all out.
Make sure to subscribe as I'll be coming hard with 2-3 interviews every Wednesday of the 100 Masked Men Series. Go to 100MaskedMen.com to learn more!
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen show! If you’ve been following this podcast, it’s been nearly 3 months and I’ve dropped 25 interviews of the 100 Masked Men Series, where I anonymously interview men from all around the world about how their sexuality affects their self worth and how media and pop culture has shaped the gender roles we play in.
When I first started this podcast I expected some friendly debate. I was a woman scorned and I had questions. I wanted answers. And I hoped that some of these men would speak on behalf of some other ghosted guys in my past and tell me what I always wanted to hear. That they were wrong, that I was right and that my feelings are valid and they’re so so sorry for undervaluing my worth. I wanted to restore my hope in men. I wanted to give them a chance to get involved in women's issues. I wanted them to openly and honestly about their feelings, why they do what they do, what their thought process is, and why we butt heads so badly.
During this time I’ve been getting really curious about linguistics and gender - how men talk to other men and how women talk to other women. And this is where things break down, we literally don’t know how to speak to the other, and so we might not speak at all. I learned that there’s a pecking order with men, who’s the lead and who follows. There’s a winner, there’s a loser. There are games, there are rules, there is a fuck ton of strategy. Girls? It’s about establishing relationships and intimacy. We don’t play sports or indulge in friendly competition with each other, we play house. We share stories. We play roles. Not responsibilities. And back in the day men enjoyed women because they knew who was boss, and women didn’t know better so they obliged to the subordinate role. Now in 2021, everything has shifted, and one thing’s for sure - we are all just really fucking confused.
As we close off this chapter I learned that courage and vulnerability best comes out when I express those characteristics myself. I didn’t expect to bring up rape and consent as much as I did in these conversations. And I didn’t expect not to bring up masturbation or sex toys as little as I did. I guess we all just had so many feelings we needed to get out first.
In these first 25 episodes we have real conversations with real people in real situations. Sometimes I can’t even listen to another famous podcast sponsored by a famous person interviewing another famous person in shameless self promotion with the smallest attempt to relate to “regular people.” I hope this raw, informative, expressive, emotional series touches you as much as it has touched me to host it.
Let me know which episodes you resonated with the best, and which ones you liked the least. And if you’re interested in being interviewed, go to 100maskedmen.com and fill out the questionnaire. Make sure to subscribe and I’ll see you next Wednesday with some more episodes of the 100 Masked Men. Amanda out.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen show! If you’ve been following this podcast, it’s been nearly 3 months and I’ve just wrapped up the first season of the 100 Masked Men Series, with 25 interviews of anonymous men from all around the world talking about what masculinity means, and how that affects how they interact with women.
I know you’ve all been waiting for this episode. I can’t let the first season go without talking about something that I’m actually an expert on - sex toys and masturbation. I am actually really surprised that most of the conversations I’ve had with these anonymous men ended up being way more emotionally charged around fear of disappointment rather than a desire to connect and garner more intimacy through sex.
This week I interviewed three men in hopes of breaking barriers of what we're allowed to talk to one another about our sex. The awkward stuff that really turns us on that we might be too afraid to admit. For fear that people might look at us differently. From someone that was in the sex toy industry 10 years ago when the world was still way too timid to talk about masturbation, let me be the first to tell you it's not worth holding this stuff in. We shouldn't all be into the same type of sex and I'm worried that we're all striving for that. Stay unique, stay weird, stay you. Here's a little summary of insights I got from these three brave men this week and a little bit of an introduction to how I look at sex and sex toys. I hope you enjoy it.
Make sure to subscribe and I’ll see you next Wednesday with more episodes of the 100 Masked Men. Amanda out!
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. I’ve got some new episodes for the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all around the world about how gender roles, sexuality, and our self worth are all intertwined in the relationships we have with others.
This week, I wrap up the first quarter of men with a special focus on my favourite topic - taboos with sex! We get up close and intimate with what some of us are hiding behind closed doors that we’re too afraid to publicly share.
Masked Man #25 and our final episode of this season is the Naked Man. He shares his story of entering the nudist and swinger community with his partner, that he actually feels more natural naked than he does clothed. Listen to this if you want some real experiences and reflections on nudist resorts and swingers clubs, and how contrary it may be to how society portrays them. We have a heated discussion on how society tends to over sexualize us while we’re clothed and shame us for natural things like having sex or being naked.
What I found most interesting is hearing about some people try swinging as a way to ‘take one for the team’ for the sake of making their partner happy. How important is it to keep our partner sexually satisfied, and how do we do this in a safe way? We tackle this thought and how we might be able to have more sex, better sex, and improve our relationships overall. We can have it all. At least, I believe we can. I hope you enjoy the show.
Well, that wraps up the first quarter of guys in the 100 Masked Men Series. And what a way to send off - can we talk about improving our relationships please? I feel like having these open and honest conversations will most likely result in better sex, and isn’t that what we all want? I was so intrigued by this conversation and I hope you enjoyed it just as much. Who were your favourite men so far? Who were your least favourite? Who’s missing that needs to be on the show? Let me know as we prepare for Season 2.
As always make sure to subscribe and if you’d like to be on the show or know of someone with a unique perspective, slide into my DMs at @missamandachen on Instagram and see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men.
Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/missamandachen/support
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. I’ve got some new episodes for the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about dating, sex, gender roles, and the meaning of masculinity.
The internet is a wonderful thing, loaded with more than enough information and the ability to connect with anyone in the world. And here I found myself with a gay man who writes in the woman’s voice for erotica novels and I needed to learn more.
Masked Man #24 is the Erotica Writer. We talk about the cliches we always see in erotica novels, that there’s a rich attractive man that somehow takes interest in this lowly woman who obviously works for him. And how this titillating content can bleed into our own desires for relationships in real life. Does it need to feel like a romcom to be worthwhile, or are we doomed to always be wanting to live out someone else’s sexual desire?
It makes me wonder, how much do I really know about what I’m attracted to, versus what I’ve been trained to think I’m attracted to? And even though we may think there’s every type of porn available on the Internet, maybe it’s not as accessible as we think. I hope you enjoy the show.
Ok yes, we all know there’s more to relationships than just sex, but with all the focus on how attracted we are to our partners, how much is it really about that connection than it is just checking off the box we set for our sexual fantasies? And to take this even further, are we being set up to all think the same one type is the one and only type we should all be attracted to? What does that say about us if we’re not attracted to the standard society has set up for us? This has been an exciting conversation and I hope you enjoyed it as well.
As always make sure to subscribe and if you’d like to be on the show or know of someone with a unique perspective, slide into my DMs at @missamandachen on Instagram and see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. I’ve got some new episodes for the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about dating, sex, gender roles, and the meaning of masculinity.
This week, these guys get real intimate with their sexual kinks as we break barriers to what most men say are off bounds when it comes to sex talk.
Masked Man #23 is the Masked Caller. One of the very few guys that really focus on listening to women, he often has phone sex with platonic female friends. He has a curiosity to learn more about people’s sexual desires, and says this type of conversation is off bounds when it comes to his male colleagues.
But there are consequences to being a rare breed - this man shares his disappointment with romantic relationships that involve damaged women projecting their past experiences onto him. And the unfairness of having to undergo undeserved punishment from the actions of other men in her life. Well I guess in this story we can really say, “not all men.”
Here’s a rare story of the guy that never gets a break because so many of us are hurting and used to hurting back. I am definitely guilty of bad decisions in my own relationships and I honestly am still struggling on not putting all men in the same bucket. But I do like the idea of breaking barriers when it comes to sharing porn, talking about masturbation and having phone sex. What do we think guys, can we open up this conversation with people we’re not actually having sex with?
As always make sure to subscribe and if you’d like to be on the show or know of someone with a unique perspective, slide into my DMs at @missamandachen on Instagram and see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men.
Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. I’ve got some new episodes for the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about how gender stereotypes contribute to our values of self worth and self identity.
If you listened to the last episode on the pressure to follow the status quo, we dig even deeper in this conversation with an actor that puts on multiple masks for a living. Masked Man #22 is the Unbroken Man. He shares his story about the journey in finding his true purpose, letting go of the expectations of others, and how acting was always with him, all he had to do was find it within himself.
We get into some interesting conversation about the roles women and men play in his life based on their expectations for him, and how he navigates around the definition of what it means to be a “good man” - is there only one type of good man? Let’s get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.
As always make sure to subscribe and if you’d like to be on the show or know of someone with a unique perspective, slide into my DMs at @missamandachen on Instagram and see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men.