How to Get Over Your Ex: Recent Episodes
Breakup Coach Dorothy
Breakup coach Dorothy, outlines the steps to get over your ex without it “just taking time”.
She has combined her background in psychology with her life coach certification tools to provide actionable insights so that you're not only learning the why but you're learning the HOW to getting over your ex.
Note: Dorothy utilizes the "he" pronoun when talking about her ex but this work can be applied to anyone. All genders and sexual orientations are encouraged to listen and apply the tools.
To get over YOUR ex in 3 months or less and build a life BETTER than the one you thought you had with him/her, I'd like to personally invite you to my next group course. Where we take everything you've learned on the podcast and APPLY it to YOUR life.
To learn more: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Have you ever felt like you've lost yourself? Like you're overthinking every decision, waiting until you have the perfect reason before taking action, or looking to everyone else for permission before trusting yourself? This episode is for that version of you. I share the three realizations that completely changed the direction of my life and business in less than 24 hours—and why I think they apply just as much to heartbreak as they do to any season where you feel stuck, scared, or disconnected from yourself. We talk about what happens when you stop needing to justify what you want, stop outsourcing your decisions to other people's opinions, and stop believing that healing or building a life you love has to be hard to be meaningful. If you're ready to feel more like yourself again but don't know where to start, this conversation may give you the shift you've been looking for.
Free consultation call w/ Dorothy: www.lifecoachdorothy.com
Leaving a marriage is one of the hardest decisions a person can make—especially when children are involved. It's easy to wonder whether you're giving up too soon, whether you'll regret it, or whether life on the other side could ever feel better than the one you're leaving behind. In this episode, I sit down with divorce coach Meagan Norris to talk about the comeback that followed one of the hardest choices of her life. We discuss the parenting differences that ultimately led to the end of her marriage, what it took to trust herself through that decision, and how she rebuilt a life that felt more aligned than the one she left behind. If you've ever questioned whether choosing yourself means sacrificing your future, this conversation offers a perspective on what's possible when you stop building a life around fear and start building one around what matters most.
Learn more about Meagan Norris:
Instagram: @meagannorriscoaching Website: https://www.meagannorris.com/
If every date ends with you thinking, "They're nice… but they're not my ex," this episode is for you. One of the biggest reasons people stay emotionally stuck after a breakup is because they unknowingly use their ex as the benchmark for every new person they meet. But comparing someone new to your past doesn't tell you whether they're the right partner—it usually tells you something about where you are in your healing process. In this episode, I walk you through the three-step framework I use with my coaching clients to figure out why your brain keeps making these comparisons, how to know whether you're truly over your ex, and what to focus on instead so you can start dating with clarity rather than constantly looking backward. If you're tired of wondering whether no one will ever measure up to your ex, this episode will help you understand what's actually happening and what to do next.
Reduce desire and attachment to your ex – Ep. 341: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/2026/05/18/when-youve-tried-everything-to-get-over-your-ex-and-nothings-worked/
Dating to engaged process - Ep. 162: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/2022/10/03/the-dating-to-engaged-process/
Does hearing a certain song instantly pull you back into memories of your ex? Maybe you're fine one minute, then a song comes on in the grocery store or during your drive home and suddenly you're replaying the relationship, imagining getting back together, and wondering if you'll ever stop missing them. If that cycle feels familiar, this episode will show you a different way to handle those moments. I walk you through the exact breakup protocol I use with my coaching clients to stop emotional triggers from turning into hours of rumination and longing. Instead of avoiding songs, memories, or places that remind you of your ex, you'll learn how to respond to them in a way that helps you move forward rather than keeping you emotionally attached. If you're tired of one song ruining your entire day, this episode will give you a practical framework you can start using the very next time you're triggered.
Free consultation call with Dorothy: www.lifecoachdorothy.com
If your breakup has left you questioning your own judgment, wondering how you could have loved someone who ultimately left, betrayed you, or wasn't right for you, this episode is for you. One of the most painful parts of heartbreak isn't just losing the relationship, it's starting to believe the relationship failed because you failed. That belief quietly chips away at your confidence, making it harder to trust yourself in dating, relationships, and even other areas of your life. In this episode, I share three questions I use with my coaching clients to help separate your identity from the outcome of the relationship, rebuild self-trust, and stop using your breakup as evidence that something is wrong with you. If you've been stuck thinking, "How can I trust myself after this?" this conversation will give you a completely different way to look at what happened and show you the first step toward believing in yourself again.
Free consultation call with Dorothy: www.lifecoachdorothy.com
After a breakup, it's amazing how quickly your brain can erase everything that wasn't working in the relationship. The arguments, the incompatibilities, the moments you questioned whether they were really right for you suddenly disappear, and all you can think is, "I lost the love of my life." If you've found yourself obsessing over why your ex didn't choose you while barely considering whether you would actually choose them today, this episode will change the way you think about your breakup. I'll walk you through three powerful questions I use with my coaching clients to help them stop idealizing their ex, reconnect with their own standards, and shift from feeling rejected to making intentional choices about the kind of relationship they actually want. And if part of you still hopes your ex comes back, we'll also explore why getting clear on what would need to change before you ever considered reconciliation can completely transform the way you move through heartbreak. This episode is a simple exercise with the power to change how you see your past—and your future.
Free consultation call with Dorothy: www.lifecoachdorothy.com
If something your ex did recently sent you into a spiral, they unfollowed you, started dating someone else, viewed your story, ignored your message, or did something that left you questioning your worth, this episode will help you get back on solid ground. The hardest part of these moments usually isn't what happened. It's the meaning your brain immediately assigns to it and the behaviors that follow.
In this episode, I walk you through the same three-step process I recently used with a client after one unexpected action from her ex unraveled an entire weekend. You'll learn how to uncover the thoughts fueling the spiral, challenge the stories keeping you stuck, and create a simple plan so the next trigger doesn't have the same power over you. If you're tired of one interaction with your ex undoing weeks or months of progress, this episode will show you how to recover faster, respond differently, and keep moving toward the life you actually want.
Free consultation call for private coaching: lifecoachdorothy.com The Get Over Your Ex Program w/ Coaching: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/ The Get Over Your Ex Self Paced Course: http://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourexcourse
Friendship breakups can be just as painful and confusing as romantic ones, yet most of us have no idea how to move through them. If you've been replaying conversations, questioning what you did wrong, wondering if you'll ever find friendships that feel as meaningful again, or feeling unexpectedly heartbroken over someone who was "just a friend," this episode is for you. I'm sharing my own first experience navigating a friendship breakup and walking you through the exact three-part process I use to help people heal romantic heartbreak, adapted for losing a friend. We explore the stories we create about ourselves after a relationship ends, why forcing yourself into strict no contact isn't always the answer, and how to stop organizing your future around a connection that no longer fits. If you're ready to grieve the friendship without carrying it forever and start creating friendships that feel even more aligned, this episode will give you a completely different way to move forward.
Schedule a free consultation call with Dorothy: https://lifecoachdorothy.com/
After a breakup, it's easy to think you're grieving the relationship when what you're actually grieving is the version of yourself you thought you were. The confident version. The chosen version. The version who never questioned her worth. If you've caught yourself wondering whether your ex leaving means you're not as lovable, valuable, successful, attractive, or capable as you once believed, this episode is for you. In this conversation, we unpack why heartbreak often turns into a crisis of identity and how your brain quietly uses the breakup as evidence against you. I share the exact exercises that helped me rebuild trust in myself after losing my engagement and pregnancy, along with the same work I use with clients who feel like they've lost their confidence, momentum, or sense of self after heartbreak. If you're tired of measuring your worth through the lens of what happened with your ex and ready to reconnect with who you are beyond the breakup, this episode will give you a completely different way to look at your healing journey.
Free consultation call to work together: www.lifecoachdorothy.com
Free on-demand video training on How to Fast Forward Getting Over Your ex: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/overyourexpodcast/
If you've drifted from the intentions you set at the beginning of the year, this is your reminder that you can always recommit. I'm sharing a personal mid-year check-in on marriage, movement, complaining less, and what helped me get back on track after a challenging season.
If you're ready to reset and move into the second half of the year with more intention, this episode is for you.
If you were the one who ended the relationship, but still feel heartbroken, guilty, or unsure if you made the right decision…this episode is for you. You'll hear about the emotional aftermath of leaving someone you still loved, especially when you felt like you had no other choice.
This episode explores the guilt of hurting someone, the pressure of feeling responsible for their emotions, and the confusing mix of desire, attachment, grief, and second-guessing that can happen after a breakup you initiated.
You'll also learn why doubting your decision is often connected to unresolved attachment and what it actually looks like to feel grounded and confident in your choice to leave. If you keep wondering whether you gave up too soon or replaying the relationship in your mind, this conversation will help you understand what's really underneath that spiral, and how to finally find peace with your decision.
Join the Get Over Your Ex program, enrollment ends on June 14th: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
This episode dives into one of the most complicated and emotionally loaded forms of heartbreak: affairs. Whether you were cheated on, were the one who cheated, are trying to repair a marriage, or are struggling to let go of an affair partner, this conversation explores the shame, attachment, grief, and confusion that can exist on every side of the experience.
You'll hear an honest and compassionate discussion about why affairs happen, what people are often truly seeking underneath them, and why judgment usually keeps people stuck instead of helping them heal. This episode also breaks down the role desire and attachment play in decision-making after infidelity, especially when emotions are running high.
If you've been silently carrying guilt, heartbreak, anger, or emotional chaos around cheating or an affair, this conversation will help you feel less alone and offer a more grounded path forward.
Join the Get Over Your Ex program, enrollment ends on June 14th: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
If you're navigating the end of a long-term marriage, this episode speaks directly to the grief, identity shifts, and emotional complexity that can come with divorce. You'll hear about what happens when the future you planned disappears, how heartbreak after marriage carries layers far beyond a typical breakup, and why healing in this season often requires a more nuanced approach.
This episode explores the emotional aftermath of divorce, including rebuilding trust in yourself, untangling the meaning you've attached to the end of the relationship, and learning how to move forward without living in bitterness or victimhood.
If you're struggling with the loss of your marriage, your family dynamic, or the life you thought you'd have, this conversation will remind you that healing and a meaningful future are still available to you, even if this was never the path you would have chosen.
Join the Get Over Your Ex program, enrollment ends on June 14th: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
I'm hosting an open house for the Get Over Your Ex in 90 days or less program where you'll get a tour INSIDE of the Braveheart Academy portal, an inside sneak peak of what's in our Get Over Your Ex workbook, what your first couple of days inside of the program would look like (hint: Breakup Bingo), and you get to ask any and all questions you might have to know if GOYE is right for you right now! Can't wait to see you there!
When: Thursday, June 11th at 3pm CT Where: zoom (link is here: https://us06web.zoom.us/j/83893739993)
If you're heartbroken over a situationship and secretly judging yourself for how much it hurts, this episode will help you feel seen. You'll hear why undefined relationships can create just as much attachment, obsession, and grief as fully committed ones… and sometimes even more.
This conversation explores the emotional impact of ghosting, mixed signals, fantasy futures, and the stories we build in our minds about what "could have been." You'll also learn why telling yourself it "shouldn't hurt this much" keeps you stuck and what actually helps you move forward instead. If you've been replaying a situationship that never fully became a relationship, this episode will help you understand the attachment underneath it and show you a healthier path toward letting go.
Join the Get Over Your Ex program, enrollment ends on June 14th: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
If you're stuck thinking "my ex was everything I ever wanted" this episode is going to hit hard in the best way. You'll hear from Sam, a Braveheart who walked away from a seven-year relationship with someone she deeply loved because one core desire never aligned: she wanted marriage, and he didn't. Even knowing that, getting over him felt impossible at first. In this conversation, we unpack what actually helped her release the emotional grip he had on her, stop romanticizing the relationship, and rebuild trust in herself after heartbreak. We talk about the exact mindset shifts and tools that helped her reduce desire and attachment to her ex so she could finally move forward instead of staying emotionally tied to someone unavailable. And the wild part? By the time her ex eventually got engaged, she had already met the love of her life, gotten married herself, had a baby, and genuinely didn't flinch at the news. If part of you still believes your ex was "the one" and you can't imagine wanting anyone else, this episode will show you what's actually possible on the other side of heartbreak.
DOORS ARE OPEN - The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
Doors close Sunday (this Sunday), June 14th.
If you feel like you've tried everything to get over your ex and nothing has worked, this episode will probably feel very familiar. From journaling, therapy, meditation, dating someone new, tarot cards, hypnotherapy, "feeling your feelings," and endlessly making lists of your ex's flaws… this conversation dives into why so many healing tools only take you part of the way.
You'll hear what's often missing beneath the surface of heartbreak recovery and why some people still feel emotionally stuck years later even after doing "all the work."
This episode breaks down the deeper patterns underneath attachment, obsession, and emotional looping while offering a more complete approach to finally letting go. If you're exhausted from trying to heal but still feel emotionally tied to your ex, this conversation will help you understand why, and what actually creates lasting change.
Join the Get Over Your Ex program, enrollment ends on June 14th: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
If you still have to see your ex every day, this episode will show you why healing is still completely possible. Whether you co-parent, work together, share mutual friends, or simply can't avoid crossing paths, you'll hear a different way to think about triggers, attachment, and emotional reactions after heartbreak.
Instead of obsessing over how to avoid your ex, this conversation explores what it actually looks like to reach true indifference, where their presence no longer controls your emotions, your anxiety, or your life.
You'll learn why trying to restrict yourself can sometimes create even more craving and attachment, and how reducing desire and attachment changes the entire experience of seeing them. If your breakup feels "different" because you can't fully cut contact, this episode will help you feel hopeful, empowered, and far less trapped by the situation.
Join the Get Over Your Ex program, enrollment ends on June 14th: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
If you logically know your ex isn't good for you… but you still want them anyway, this episode will help you understand why. You'll hear why heartbreak isn't just about logic, why making lists of your ex's flaws only gets you so far, and what's actually happening inside your brain and body when you feel emotionally attached to someone who's wrong for you.
This episode breaks down the difference between intellectually knowing something and fully embodying it, while giving you a new way to think about healing, attachment, and moving on. If you've been judging yourself for still missing them, wanting them, or feeling "addicted" to the relationship, this conversation will help you feel less broken and more empowered to finally change the pattern.
Join the Get Over Your Ex program, enrollment ends on June 14th: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
If you've been secretly wondering, "What if I never get over my ex?" this episode is for you. You'll hear a completely different perspective on obsession, rumination, attachment, and what it actually takes to move on for good. This episode will help you challenge the stories keeping you trapped, reconnect to what's possible for your future, and start believing that your life can become even bigger and better than the one you had before the breakup.
Join the Get Over Your Ex program, enrollment ends on June 14th: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
If you feel like your ex was your one shot at love and now you're terrified you'll never find someone like them again, this episode is going to challenge the way you're thinking about your breakup in the best possible way. We're talking about the painful belief that your ex was "everything" you ever wanted, why that thought creates so much hopelessness after a breakup, and how it quietly keeps you emotionally attached to someone who already chose to leave. I walk you through the mindset shifts and specific exercises I use with my clients to help you separate what you truly want in a partner from the fantasy your heartbreak brain has built around your ex. If part of you still believes you lost your future when the relationship ended, this episode will help you start seeing the breakup very differently.
DOORS ARE OPEN – The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Doors close Sunday, June 14th
If you've tried everything to get over your ex, no contact, dating again, therapy, journaling, staying busy, "focusing on yourself" and still feel emotionally stuck months or even years later, this episode is going to make a lot of things click. In this conversation, you'll hear from Lynn, a Braveheart who spent two years trying to move on after a breakup that continued to live in the background of her life no matter how much she accomplished on the surface. She shares what finally shifted when she stopped treating her ex like the actual problem and started uncovering what she was truly attached to underneath it all. We talk about the specific exercises, mindset shifts, and coaching tools that helped her go from constantly ruminating and feeling frozen about her future to feeling genuinely free in a matter of weeks. And the most powerful part? Once she stopped organizing her life around her ex, she started building a life that felt bigger, more exciting, and more aligned than the one she thought she lost in the breakup. If you feel like nothing has worked for you so far, this episode will finally show you why.
Join us for our free training June 1st – How to Get Over Your Ex in 90 days (Without going no contact, waiting for time to heal, or giving up on getting him back): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/overmyex
If you're dating intentionally and using dating apps, Lynn can help you get off the apps and into real life dates faster. If you work with her, she can get you 3 date offers in 7 days while loving dating apps. You can find her at @rightswipewithlynn on instagram or message her at lynn@rightswipewithlynn.com
If you've ever thought "I've tried everything to get over my ex and nothing is working" this episode is going to explain why. Maybe you've done the therapy, the journaling, the gym glow-up, the no contact, the dating apps, the "focus on yourself" advice, the lists of undesirable characteristics … and somehow they still take up space in your mind every single day. In this episode, I share the two biggest shifts that completely changed my own breakup recovery after spending a year and a half stuck obsessing over an ex who had already moved on. We're talking about the hidden reason time alone doesn't heal heartbreak, why most breakup advice only treats symptoms instead of the root problem, and what actually has to change if you want to stop thinking about your ex constantly and finally feel free. If you're exhausted from carrying the emotional weight of someone who's no longer in your life and scared this feeling will follow you forever, this conversation will show you a completely different way forward.
Join us for our free training How to Get Over Your Ex in 90 days (Without going no contact, waiting for time to heal, or giving up on getting him back) – June 1st: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/overmyex/
If you're stuck thinking "what if I never get over him… especially when I still have to see him at work?" this episode will hit a very real nerve. It's one thing to go no contact, it's another to keep running into your ex, hearing about their life, or overlapping professionally while trying to move on. In this conversation, you'll hear a real story of someone who faced exactly that. Still connected to her ex through work, still checking in on his life, still carrying anger and what actually shifted things for her. We get into the mindset and decisions that helped her stop engaging, release the emotional pull, and rebuild a life that didn't revolve around him anymore. And here's the part you won't expect: as she focused on creating something bigger for herself, everything about her dating life changed in ways she couldn't have predicted. This episode will show you a different path forward one where you stop chasing and start becoming the version of you that gets chosen.
[FREE TRAINING] - Get Over Your Ex in 90 Days (Without going "no contact", waiting for time to heal, or giving up on getting him back - June 1st: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/overmyex/
Get in touch with Nicole: Instagram: @thenicoleblanchard Email: nicole.blanchard@compass.com Website: https://www.nicolemblanchard.com/
If your brain won't shut off, replaying your ex, fast-forwarding into worst-case scenarios about your future, and pulling you out of the life right in front of you, this episode is going to feel very real. You'll hear what's actually driving those late-night spirals and why trying to "manage your thoughts" or stay busy hasn't worked the way you hoped. Instead of more surface-level advice, this episode breaks down a clear, structured approach that targets the root of the problem. So you're not just coping with the spiral, you're removing what's creating it in the first place. If you're tired of overthinking, checking, looping, and feeling like your future depends on your ex, this will give you a completely different way to approach it and a path that actually moves you out of it.
[FREE TRAINING] - Get Over Your Ex in 90 Days (Without going "no contact", waiting for time to heal, or giving up on getting him back - June 1st
https://dorothyabjohnson.com/overmyex/
If you've ever thought, "I know my ex isn't right for me… so why do I still want him?" this episode is going to land in a very real way. You'll hear a raw, honest conversation with someone who lived that exact experience—logically knowing the relationship didn't work, but still feeling pulled toward him and hoping it could somehow come together. Instead of forcing herself to move on or trying to convince him to change, she focused on something most people skip. In this episode, we unpack what shifted when she stopped centering him and started building a life she was genuinely excited about—and how that changed the entire dynamic between them. If you're in that space where you still want your ex back, this will give you a much more effective approach than chasing, waiting, or trying to "fix" yourself—and show you what becomes possible when you finally release the hold they have on you.
The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program (opens June 1st!): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
Listen to Ep. 60 - How to love your life without them: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/2020/09/29/how-to-love-your-life-without-them/
If you've been thinking, "If I could just fix myself, they'd come back," this episode will hit close to home. You'll hear a real story from a client who started her breakup convinced she needed to become prettier, more successful, or more "enough" to win her ex back—and how that mindset kept her stuck in the pain. What shifted everything wasn't becoming someone new for him, but learning how to reduce the desire and attachment that were keeping her emotionally hooked—and redirecting that energy into building a life that actually fit her. In this conversation, we walk through what that process looked like in real time, what changed internally before anything changed externally, and why the outcome surprised her the most. If you're still hoping your ex will come back, this episode will give you a completely different way to approach that desire—and show you what becomes possible when you do.
The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program (opens June 1st!): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
Learn more about Nyree: IG: @beauty_energy_exchange Website: https://www.beautyenergyexchange.com/
If you're stuck in the loop of "I know they're not right for me… but I still want them back" or wondering if fixing yourself will somehow make your ex return, this episode will meet you exactly where you are. Instead of forcing yourself to "move on" before you're ready, we break down what's actually driving that pull toward your ex—and why trying to think your way out of it hasn't worked. I'll walk you through the shift that changes everything, so you can finally get out of the mental tug-of-war and start showing up differently. Not from desperation, but from a place where you're building a life that feels better than the one you had with them. If you secretly don't want to move on yet—or you're tired of feeling like you're the problem—this episode will show you a smarter way forward that puts you back in control of what happens next.
The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program (opening June 1st!): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
In the past two episodes, I walked you through the 4 stages of heartbreak and the specific remedy that moves you from one stage to the next. But what does this actually look like when someone applies it in real life? In this episode, you'll hear a conversation with a Braveheart who used this exact framework after her husband unexpectedly ended their 22-year marriage. She shares what it felt like to move through the devastated stage, how identifying her stage changed the way she approached healing, and the specific shifts that helped her move forward much faster than she thought possible. If you've been wondering how to actually apply the stages and remedies to your own breakup and whether this process can really work when the relationship was long, serious, and deeply intertwined, this episode gives you a real example of what happens when you identify your stage, apply the right remedy, and get the right support along the way.
The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Last week's episode helped you identify which stage of heartbreak you're in, this episode will show you what to actually do about it. One of the biggest mistakes people make after a breakup is using the wrong solution for the stage they're in, trying mindset work when their nervous system is still in survival mode, or trying to build a bigger life when they're still secretly attached to their ex. No wonder nothing sticks. In this episode, I walk you through the exact remedy that corresponds to each stage of heartbreak so you can stop guessing and start moving forward with the strategy that actually works for where you are right now. When you match the right solution to the right stage, healing speeds up dramatically and the path to being truly free from your ex becomes much clearer. If you're ready to stop spinning your wheels and understand the next step in your healing process, this episode will give you the roadmap.
The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
If you feel like you've tried everything to get over your ex, no contact, journaling, therapy, working out, staying busy, but nothing is actually working, this episode might explain why. After helping people heal heartbreak for nearly a decade, I started noticing a pattern: most people are trying to heal using strategies meant for a completely different stage of heartbreak. In this episode, I break down the four stages of heartbreak I see over and over again in my coaching practice and how each stage has a completely different problem to solve. When you understand exactly where you are in the process, everything starts to make more sense and the path forward becomes much clearer. If you've been wondering why healing feels harder than it "should," this conversation will help you finally diagnose what's really going on and point you toward the next step.
If you've ever wondered whether your breakup means you manifested the wrong person or somehow "did manifestation wrong," this episode will challenge that belief in the best way. I'm joined by manifestation and money mindset expert Jamie Berman, and we unpack one of the most common fears people have after heartbreak: Did I create this? Did I mess it up?
Jamie offers a completely different lens on manifestation, explaining why painful events like breakups don't mean you failed at manifesting and how looking at them that way can actually keep you stuck in shame and self-doubt. Instead, she shares a perspective that helps you move forward with clarity, compassion for yourself, and a deeper trust in what's still possible for your life and relationships.
If you've been questioning yourself, your choices, or your ability to create the love you want after a breakup, this conversation will help you rethink what manifestation really means and why your story might be unfolding exactly the way it needs to.
Learn more about Jamie Berman:
Website: https://jamieberman.com
IG: https://www.instagram.com/jamieberman_/
Private Podcast: The Abundance Reset: https://jamieberman.com/5-day-abundance-reset/
If you've ever caught yourself saying "it's fine" about something that clearly isn't, this episode is going to hit. Maybe it's staying in contact with your ex because it's "temporary." Maybe it's continuing to sleep with them, keep their hoodie, answer their late-night texts, or stay in a living situation that drains you because "it won't be forever." On the surface, it feels mature. Low drama. Logical. But underneath? It's costing you energy, confidence, and momentum toward your Bigger & Better Life. In this episode, we unpack why "it's fine" is often just settling in disguise and how that mindset quietly keeps you from feeling lit up right now. I'll walk you through the shift that changes everything: becoming open to micro upgrades. The small, immediate decisions that elevate your present moment instead of waiting for some future version of your life to finally feel good. If you're tired of surviving the in-between and ready to stop postponing your own joy, this conversation will challenge you, and show you what's actually possible starting today.
Applications for the Bigger and Better Life Mastermind is Open: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/biggerbetterlifemastermind/
If you've ever caught yourself thinking "I shouldn't still feel this way by now" whether it's a wave of sadness years after the breakup or a gut-punch reaction to something like divorce paperwork, this episode will hit home. We're unpacking why judging your emotions is the exact thing that keeps you stuck and how that quiet internal pressure adds a second layer of suffering most people don't even realize they're creating. I share a powerful assignment I gave a client inside the GOYE program, that completely changes how you relate to your feelings and why building this emotional foundation makes everything else in healing move faster. If you're tired of fighting your reactions and wondering what's wrong with you, feeling like this healing journey is taking forever, this episode will feel like a deep exhale and give you a practical place to start this week.
If you're exhausted by the same breakup advice, wait for time to heal, go no contact, just focus on yourself, this episode is your permission slip to think differently. I'm sharing the heartbreak takes I usually keep to myself: the unconventional beliefs and strategies I've seen actually change people's lives after nearly a decade of coaching through real loss, real attachment, and real comebacks. This isn't about doing what everyone else is doing; it's about what happens when you approach heartbreak like the top 1%—with a sharper lens, more agency, and methods that challenge the status quo. If you're ready for ideas that might feel bold, a little controversial, and surprisingly freeing, you're going to want to hit play.
The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
If your ex's words say one thing but their actions say another and you keep replaying every text, conversation, and mixed signal trying to "figure it out", this episode is for you. In this episode, I break down why confusion isn't a sign of love or depth, it's a defense against a harder emotion your brain doesn't want to feel yet and how it quietly drains your agency, momentum, and self-trust. If you're tired of overanalyzing your ex instead of moving your life forward and you want clarity you can actually act on, this episode will help you drop the confusion and take your power back.
The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourexnd/
If you're trying again with your ex and suddenly your friends and family are questioning your judgment, warning you not to repeat the past, or flat-out refusing to support the relationship, this episode will help you breathe again. We're talking about what to do when the relationship feels right to you this time but the people closest to you are skeptical, protective, or openly disapproving. I break down a clear three-step process to help you stay grounded in your decision, stop over-explaining or defending yourself, and shift the dynamic so others either get on board or fade into the background without blowing up your relationships.
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The Get Over Your Ex Program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
The Bigger & Better Life Mastermind: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/biggerbetterlifemastermind/
Valentine's Week doesn't have to be something you do alone. Feb 9-13, I'm opening The Breakup Hotline. 5 days of live support and real-time coaching to help you create clarity and closure in your breakup so you can feel confident in a better future. Free to attend. The line opens Monday, February 9th.
Register here and submit for coaching: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/hotline/
Dorothy sits down with Kirstin Sarfde, expert binge eating coach and host of How to Stop Binge Eating, to talk about why breakups so often trigger binge eating and what actually helps when willpower, distraction, or "just stop" advice doesn't work. We break down how heartbreak dysregulates your nervous system, why food becomes the fastest coping mechanism in moments of emotional overwhelm, and the specific shifts that help you interrupt the binge–shame cycle without turning food into another thing you're fighting. This conversation is practical, grounded, and deeply compassionate, especially if you're scared something is "wrong" with you because you can't stop binge eating after your breakup. Kirstin shares tools you can start using immediately to feel more in control, less ashamed, and more supported as you heal.
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Website: https://coachkir.com/ Podcast: https://coachkir.com/mypodcast/ Instagram: @stopbingeeatingcoach
If you're in the middle of a divorce and quietly afraid that standing up for yourself will turn you into someone angry, bitter, or unrecognizable, this episode is for you. We're unpacking the very real fear of shrinking to keep the peace or swinging to the other extreme just to feel protected and why neither is actually power. I walk you through a real client scenario and the exact four-step framework we used to help her stay grounded, clear, and self-advocating throughout the divorce process without relying on anger as fuel. This episode is a practical guide to turning your power on, calmly, intentionally, and sustainably so you can move through divorce without losing yourself in the process.
Check out our breakup toolkit (a breakup first aid kit that not only helps you get over your ex but also takes you beyond your breakup): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/breakuptoolkit/
If you're spiraling about dating after your breakup, convinced there's no one out there for you, replaying every fight you had, and quietly wondering if the things your ex disliked about you mean you're asking for too much, this episode is for you. We're unpacking why the exact issue you used to argue about in your last relationship might not be a flaw at all, but a signal of misalignment, and why that same trait could become the foundation of real connection in your next relationship. You'll learn how incompatibility gets mistaken for unworthiness, why your brain keeps turning past arguments into evidence against your future, and how to stop shrinking yourself to feel chosen. This episode will help you see your desires clearly again. Not as liabilities, but as clues and restore hope that the right relationship won't require you to change who you are, only to be more of it.
Check out our free breakup clinic (go beyond your breakup to build your bigger and better life): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/breakupclinic/
Starting a new year after a breakup can feel paralyzing when the idea of a "clean slate" brings pressure instead of hope. In this episode, I walk you through a simple, structured process to help you move forward without forcing clarity you don't have yet. Using the Breakup Life Wheel (or Bigger & Better Life Wheel), you'll learn how to assess where you actually are, identify what needs attention now, and turn that insight into three clear intentions with concrete actions you can take in real life. We'll also land on a single word for 2026 that anchors your decisions and gives you direction when motivation wavers. If you're standing at the beginning of the year unsure how to rebuild after a heartbreak, but ready to start anyway, this episode will give you a grounded place to begin.
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If you're staring down 2026 wondering what your life is actually going to look like and whether anything is really going to change, this episode is for you. Dorothy pulls back the curtain on what determines whether the next year becomes a repeat of the last or a genuine turning point, and makes a direct case for why who you work with matters more than willpower, timing, or trying harder on your own. If you're done hoping 2026 will be different and want a clear path for how to make it different, this episode will show you exactly where to start.
The Bigger & Better Life Mastermind: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/biggerbetterlifemastermind/ The Get Over Your Ex Program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourexnd/
This week, I coached women who went from devastated to empowered in days, not months. Women who thought they needed all the answers before taking action. Women who discovered that external validation was always internal all along. This episode is a compilation of the most powerful coaching insights from just ONE week inside the Get Over Your Ex program—proof that when you have the right method and support, transformation happens fast. If you've been wondering what's actually possible when you stop doing this alone, listen to this.
The Get Over Your Ex - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
If the thought of running into your ex with their new partner makes your stomach drop, or you find yourself mentally rehearsing what you'll say, how you'll look, or how you'll fall apart, this episode is for you. Worrying about that moment keeps your nervous system on edge and your brain stuck in threat mode, even when nothing has actually happened yet. In this episode, Dorothy teaches a breakup protocol designed specifically for these high-stress encounters, so your brain can stop spiraling and start feeling prepared. You'll learn how to move from panic and comparison into calm, grounded confidence. If you're tired of obsessing over a scenario that hasn't even happened (or maybe it did and went very poorly) and want a plan you can actually use in the moment, this episode will change how you walk into those situations forever.
Get Over Your Ex: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourexnd/ Free training: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/overyourexpodcast/
If you're closing out 2025 in the middle of a breakup, this episode is your reset button. When everything feels like it's ending, your relationship, your plans, the version of you that existed with your ex, it's easy to panic and drag old patterns, fears, and expectations into the new year. But 2025 is a "completion year," and instead of fighting the ending, this episode shows you how to use it. I'm walking you through three journal prompts that will help you identify what's truly finished, what you're willing to make space for in the unknown, and who you're becoming as you step into 2026. If you want 2026 to feel nothing like the year you're leaving behind, start with these three questions. They will change how you end this chapter and how you begin the next one.
Get Over Your Ex Program is OPEN: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
If it feels like your ex walked out with your entire life and took everything with them, this episode is the reality check your brain desperately needs. We're breaking down what your ex actually took (and the list is a lot shorter than you think) and exposing the invisible gains you can't see yet because heartbreak has you zoomed in on the loss. You'll learn why the space they left behind isn't a void, it's raw, open territory that's now available for your next chapter. And I'll walk you through two questions and one action step that will show you, in real time, why you didn't lose everything… you gained room to build something better. If you're stuck in the narrative that they "took your life," this episode will give you back the power you thought you lost.
The Breakup Clinic (free live event Dec 8 - 11): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/breakupclinic/ The Get Over Your Ex Program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
If it feels like you "lost everything" when your ex left, this episode will change your life. Inside, Dorothy breaks down the difference between what you think was taken from you and what was never truly yours to begin with… and then shows you the invisible gains that heartbreak makes available the second someone walks out of your life. You'll learn the three concrete steps to make those gains visible THIS week, so you stop fixating on the life that ended and start building the one that just opened up. If you're done staring at the empty space they left behind and ready to see what's possible in front of you, you need this episode.
The Breakup Clinic (free live event happening Dec 8 - 11): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/breakupclinic
If your breakup feels overwhelming, impossible, or like you keep getting stuck in the same emotional loop, this episode will change the way you think about your "breakup problems." Most breakup suffering comes from low-quality breakup problems. The kind that feels justified and absorbing, but leads nowhere: Why isn't he texting me? Did he ever really love me? What if he moves on first? They feel important, but they keep you spinning, proving your pain instead of solving it. Dorothy shows you how to spot when you're caught in low-quality breakup problems, how to redefine them into high-quality breakup problems that actually move your life forward, and how to approach your breakup problem-solving with the same mindset you bring to challenges you want to solve. This episode will help you upgrade the questions you're asking so you can create solutions you're actually excited about.
Reminder! The Breakup Clinic (free live event, Dec 8 - 11): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/breakupclinic/
The Breakup Clinic is happening December 8-11. Four days to go from white-knuckling no contact to genuinely not wanting contact. Get your diagnosis, your prescription, and your treatment plan, plus live coaching from Dorothy. Free to attend.
Register now: http://dorothyabjohnson.com/breakupclinic
If your breakup has your body in panic mode, constantly tense, anxious, or waiting for the next shoe to drop, this episode is your lifeline. Dorothy breaks down why your nervous system doesn't feel safe, and reveals the three pillars that create real, grounded safety: spiritual, physical, and mental. You'll learn what's actually happening when your system codes loss as danger, how to rewire that response, and the practical tools that help you move from survival mode to expansion. Whether you're fresh in heartbreak or building your bigger and better life, this episode will teach you how to feel safe enough to move forward, for real this time.
The Breakup Clinic (free live event December 8 - 11): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/breakupclinic/
If you've been saying "I'm so overwhelmed" about your breakup, whether it's the grief, the urge to text them, or starting over… this episode is about to change everything. Dorothy exposes how that one word secretly convinces your brain you can't handle what's happening and gives you a simple, powerful switch that rewires your response in real time. You'll learn the one-word hack that turns panic into presence, helps you move instead of spiral, and proves that you're far more capable than your mind wants you to believe. If you've felt like you're drowning in the breakup waves, this is the episode that teaches you how to swim.
The Get Over Your Ex Program - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
If you've been stuck replaying the thought, "I wasted so many years on my ex," this episode is going to blow your mind. Dorothy breaks down why those years weren't lost, they were the reason your life is about to move faster, clearer, and bigger than ever before. You'll learn how to spot the exact places your breakup actually added years to your life, financially, emotionally, physically, and even generationally. And how to stop handing your ex both your past and your future. If you're ready to turn what feels like lost time into the greatest comeback advantage of your life, hit play.
The Get Over Your Ex Program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
You've done the work. You've cried, journaled, coached yourself through the heartbreak and then one text, one trigger, one spiral later, it feels like all your progress vanished. In this episode, Dorothy shows you why that's not true. She breaks down the real reason those moments don't erase your healing, the biology behind why your brain still reacts that way, and the three simple steps to close the gap between who you were in that moment and who you're becoming. If you've ever caught yourself thinking, "I should be further along than this," this episode will help you calm the shame, find your footing, and remember: all your healing still counts.
The Get Over Your Ex Program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourexnd/
If you can't stop thinking about the life you were supposed to have with your ex, the love, the home, the family, this episode will shift everything. Dorothy shares a personal story about realizing she did get the life she once imagined… just in a version that was richer, deeper, and more aligned than she ever could've planned. Inside, she helps you understand why it feels like everything you wanted was stolen from you, and how to see the missing piece that's actually being built for you right now. If you've been scared you'll never get what you lost, this conversation will remind you why your story isn't over, it's just getting a better rewrite.
Feeling stuck on how to actually build your bigger and better life after heartbreak? This episode takes you behind the scenes of Dorothy's Bigger & Better Life Mastermind and shows you why simply "wanting more" isn't enough to move the needle. Dorothy walks you through the Life Wheel assessment to pinpoint where you're stuck, explains how the Attachment Cycle helps you release the grip on what's holding you back, and shares three mindset shifts that have helped her clients collapse timelines on everything from career pivots to finding love again. If you're ready to stop circling the same goals and finally start living the life you say you want, this episode will show you where to start.
The Bigger & Better Life Mastermind: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/biggerbetterlifemastermind/
If your divorce or breakup feels like the worst thing that’s ever happened to you, this episode is for you. Dorothy walks you through why trying to squeeze your pain into cheerful reframes keeps you stuck, and demonstrates a clearer alternative: how to hold the real hurt without it defining you, rewrite the story in a way that’s honest and authentically yours, and use one simple prompt to start making calm, powerful decisions from. Listen if you’re done pretending your wounds look pretty and want a practical, compassionate way to move forward that keeps your integrity intact.
The Get Over Your Ex Program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
If you feel like you’re constantly on the edge of tears, terrified of your emotions, or stuck in a cycle of grief you can’t shake, this episode is for you. I’m sharing two powerful meditations that will completely shift how you relate to your feelings. The first helps you create safety inside yourself and build a healthier relationship with your grief instead of fighting it. The second guides you through a 5 minute process of emotional transmuting, so you don’t just sit in your pain, you actually move through it and feel a genuine release. If you’ve been scared of what might happen if you let yourself feel, or exhausted from “feeling your feelings” without relief, these practices will give you a new way forward.
Join us inside the Get Over Your Ex program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
You know thoughts create feelings. You understand that you create your own reality. You've read all the books, done all the courses, and can explain these concepts perfectly to your friends. So why can't you actually LIVE them when life gets messy? In this episode, Dorothy breaks down the real reason most people stay stuck in the knowing phase and reveals the three bridges that take you from intellectual understanding to embodied living. If you're tired of being a spiritual scholar who can't access her own wisdom when she needs it most, this episode will change how you approach transformation forever.
The Bigger & Better Life Mastermind Closes 9/30: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/biggerbetterlifemastermind/
When your breakup leaves you wondering how to create a life that’s actually bigger and better than the one you had with your ex, the advice out there usually falls short. “Just move on,” “go no contact,” or “time heals all.” But none of that shows you how to design a life that feels extraordinary on your terms. In this episode, I’m sharing the 3 steps of self-authorship. A framework that will help you stop living in reaction to your ex and start writing your own story. You’ll learn how to decide who you are without them, how to author your emotional experience instead of being hijacked by it, and how to create experiences that make your new life impossible to ignore. If you take these 3 self authoring steps today, by the end of this week you’ll feel like the main character of your own life instead of a supporting role in your ex’s story.
The Bigger & Better Life Mastermind: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/biggerbetterlifemastermind/
If you’d like to know if this mastermind is a fit for YOU, email us at dorothy@dorothyabjohnson.com with three dates/times (including your timezone) so we can hop on a call.
After a breakup, one of the most common (and painful) questions I hear is: “Who am I without them?” If you don’t know who you are apart from your ex, you can’t clearly see what you want, what’s possible, or how to build a life that’s truly yours. Instead, you risk creating a life that’s just a reaction to the breakup, or worse, one that keeps you tied to the person who left. In this episode, I’m sharing the exact process I use with my clients to help them uncover who they are without their ex. Inside, you’ll learn why knowing yourself is the foundation for not wanting your ex, how it changes the way you date (or don’t), and why it’s the only way to create a bigger and better life that feels authentic instead of accidental. You’ll walk away with a framework, five activation codes, that will help you finally shift from obsessing over them to becoming obsessed with your own life.
The Bigger & Better Life Mastermind: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/biggerbetterlifemastermind/
When heartbreak hits, it can feel unbearable, like you’ll never stop hurting, never find love again, and that maybe the problem is you. In this episode, I sit down with Braveheart alumni Anne, who knows that feeling all too well. After her breakup, she was consumed by fear, self-doubt, and the thought that she wasn’t enough. But everything shifted when she learned one powerful concept “I’m allowed to.” This simple reframe helped her release the weight of “I should” and “I have to,” and instead step into permission. Permission to not miss him, permission to move on, and permission to live her own life fully. If you’ve ever felt stuck in the loop of pain, wondering what’s wrong with you, Anne’s story and the mindset shift she shares will give you the exact perspective you need to take back your power and start moving forward.
The Comeback (starts TODAY): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/thecomeback/
What happens when you finally stop obsessing over your ex, the one you thought would give you everything you ever wanted? In this episode, you'll hear from Braveheart alum Allison, who went from feeling deeply attached and convinced her ex was her only shot at the life she dreamed of… to no longer wanting him at all. And ironically, that’s when everything shifted. Together, we unpack the trap of high desire and high attachment, how to loosen your grip without pretending you don’t care, and the powerful analogy that changed everything for her healing. If you’ve ever felt stuck in the loop of “he was the best I’ll ever get,” this one will hit home and give you a new way out.
The Comeback: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/thecomeback
You know you should move on, you even want to move on, but every time you start making progress, something inside you slams on the brakes. You sabotage your own healing, make excuses to stay stuck, or find reasons why you're "not ready yet." What if the thing keeping you trapped isn't love for your ex, it's fear of who you'll become without them? In this final episode of the series, I'm exposing the invisible barriers that keep you playing small and the exact process I'd use to shatter every limiting belief that's been keeping you caged. If you've ever wondered why you keep getting in your own way, this episode reveals what's really going on.
The Comeback - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/thecomeback/
You keep waiting for your ex to give you the closure you need, an explanation, an apology, some sign that what you had mattered to them. In this episode, I'm revealing the twisted psychology behind why begging for closure actually pushes your ex further away, and the counterintuitive approach that either gets you your ex back or something infinitely better. Plus, I'm announcing something I've never offered before that's going to change how you approach getting over your ex completely. If you're tired of waiting for someone else to set you free, this episode flips everything you think you know about closure upside down.
The Comeback - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/thecomeback/
You've been working on your nervous system and taking better care of yourself, but your ex is still living rent-free in your head 24/7. Every song reminds you of them, you're having fake arguments in the shower, and you keep replaying memories on repeat. You wonder if there's something seriously wrong with you. Why can't you just stop thinking about someone who clearly doesn't want you? In this episode, I'm revealing the real reason your brain is obsessed with your ex and the exact approach I'd use now to rebuild the most important relationship of your life. If you're tired of feeling like a prisoner in your own mind, this episode shows you the way out.
The Get Over Your Ex Program - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
You've been doing all the "right things" to get over your ex. Therapy, journaling, staying busy, even no contact, but you're still waking up at 2 AM thinking about them, still checking their social media, still feeling like your whole life is completely over. You're not broken, and you're not doing anything wrong. There's just one crucial piece missing that most breakup advice completely ignores. In this episode, I'm sharing exactly what that piece is and the simple approach that finally made the difference for me and thousands of my clients. If you've been wondering why you're still struggling when you're trying so hard, this episode has the answers you've been looking for.
The Get Over Your Ex Program - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
Two years ago, she moved to Hawaii for love and got dumped the moment she landed. No friends, no support system, completely alone. Today? She's calling in from a surf trip in Mexico, planning adventures to the Maldives, and dating from a place of complete confidence. This is a 2-year check-in with a GOYE alumni who proves that your breakup breakdown can become your biggest breakthrough. She shares the exact tools she still uses daily, how she learned to stop taking rejection personally, and why dating feels effortless now. Her biggest revelation? Realizing his emotional unavailability had nothing to do with her worth. Now when someone isn't a fit, whether dating or career, she doesn't spiral, she just moves on. If you're in the thick of heartbreak thinking this is the worst thing that could happen to you, listen to this. You're going to look back and be proud of yourself. The life you're building without him is better than anything you imagined with him.
The Get Over Your Ex Program is OPEN: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
Are you making decisions based on what will make you happy or what will make other people comfortable? In this final episode of the ceiling-breaking series, Dorothy tackles the biggest limitation of all: living your life by committee. Discover why the fear of judgment only kicks in when you're about to do something that would actually light you up, and learn the question that will free you from everyone else's opinions about your choices. Get the Come Alive Audit that will show you exactly where you've been dimming yourself for others' approval and how to start choosing what makes you feel most alive. If you're tired of seeking permission to live fully, this episode gives you the framework to trust your own compass over the committee's vote.
How to Fast Forward Getting Over Your Ex (1 hour free training) - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/overyourexpodcast/
The Get Over Your Ex Program - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
"I'm not ready yet." These four words are keeping you stuck in preparation mode while your dreams collect dust. In this powerful episode, Dorothy exposes the readiness myth that convinces you to wait for some magical moment when you'll feel prepared enough to go after what you want. Spoiler alert: that moment never comes. Discover why "begin before you believe" is the secret to quantum leaps and get the Begin Before You Believe Challenge that will prove you can start before you feel ready. If you've been waiting to feel qualified, confident, or prepared enough to make your move, this episode will show you why starting scared is exactly what successful people do.
How to Fast Forward Getting Over Your Ex (1 hour free training) - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/overyourexpodcast/
The Get Over Your Ex Program - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
Whether you're day one or year three post-breakup, there's an invisible trap keeping you playing small that has nothing to do with your ex. You're making "realistic" choices that keep you trapped in a life that's fine but not extraordinary. In this episode, Dorothy reveals why asking "What's realistic?" is the ceiling blocking your bigger life and shares the simple question shift that opens up possibilities you can't even see right now. Plus, get the Possibility Audit challenge that will show you exactly where you've been limiting yourself and how to break free. If you're ready to stop settling for what seems "realistic" and start building what's actually possible, this episode changes everything.
How to Fast Forward Getting Over Your Ex (1 hour free training) - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/overyourexpodcast/
The Get Over Your Ex Program - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
In this raw and honest episode, Dorothy exposes the dark side of our information-obsessed culture and how it's keeping you stuck in decision paralysis. After consuming countless expert opinions on everything from new motherhood to scaling her business, she found herself more confused and doubtful than when she started. Sound familiar? If you've ever felt overwhelmed by conflicting advice, paralyzed by too many options, or found yourself second-guessing decisions you used to make with ease, this episode will show you how to break free from information addiction and start taking action that actually moves you forward. Dorothy shares the exact steps she's using to cut through the noise and rediscover the decision-making confidence that built her dream life in the first place.
How to Fast Forward Getting Over Your Ex (1 hour free training) - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/overyourexpodcast/
The Bigger & Better Life Mastermind - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/biggerbetterlifemastermind/
Picture this: You finally get into that exclusive book club you've been trying to join for months. You walk in excited, ready to build your bigger and better life... and there's your ex. With their new partner. What do you do? Run? Hide? Or something completely different? Today I'm sharing a client's real-time experience that turned what felt like a setback into the most accelerating moment of her healing journey. If you've ever wondered how you'd handle running into your ex in the wild, this episode will change everything. The Get Over Your Ex Course - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourexcourse
How to Fast Forward Getting Over Your Ex (1 hour training) - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/overyourexpodcast/
When you’re heartbroken, your “bigger and better life” can feel a million miles away. Like something that happens someday if you can just survive the now. But what if the life you want isn’t actually far off… you’re just not stepping into the rocket that’s sitting right in front of you? In this episode, Braveheart Colleen and I discuss how we delay our own healing and growth by waiting for the ‘right time’ instead of recognizing the acceleration that’s available right now. If you’re feeling stuck or like things are moving painfully slow, this conversation is your invitation to shift gears, get in the rocket, and make real, tangible progress toward the life you say you want.
Colleen's Blog: https://yearofpink.blogspot.com/
Colleen’s Instagram: @colleenschwartz
You’re furious and you can't stop thinking about it. Your ex said or did something you completely disagree with, and even though you understand how they might see it that way, you know they’re wrong. The anger feels endless, and the more you think about it, the worse it gets. In this episode, I’m breaking down why rage after a breakup sticks around longer than it should, why it’s really there, and how to finally move past it without needing your ex to agree with you. You’ll learn the hidden role anger is playing in your healing, the three-step process to break out of the rage cycle, and how to take your power back when you’re stuck in mental arguments you can’t win. If you feel trapped replaying what they said and how wrong they were, you cannot miss this episode.
The Get Over Your Ex Program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
You're stuck thinking your ex was the only person you could ever truly want and every time you meet someone new, your brain seems to prove it. In this episode, we break down why you’re not just missing your ex, you’re caught in what I call a "mental hostage situation." I’ll show you how your brain is running two hidden tracks at once, how they’re keeping you stuck, and the simple shift that breaks the loop. If you feel like no one could ever measure up to your ex, this episode will change how you see everything and open up possibilities you can't even see yet.
The Get Over Your Ex Program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/ The Breakup First Aid LIVE (Replays): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/breakupfirstaidlive/ The Breakup Toolkit: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/breakuptoolkit/
You're terrified you'll never experience love again. Every dating app swipe feels empty, every "moving on" advice rings hollow, and deep down, you wonder if your chance at real love died with your relationship. But what if this fear isn't what's actually holding you back? In this episode, I'm exposing the hidden thought patterns keeping you locked in post-breakup limbo and sharing the exact mindset shift that transformed my clients' relationship with love after heartbreak. If you're haunted by the question "What if they were my last chance at love?" — this is the episode you need to hear.
The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Your ex left, but the thoughts didn't. Join Breakup Coach Dorothy for a free 2-day live experience that will completely change your relationship with your breakup. In this quick episode, she reveals what you'll discover during Breakup First Aid LIVE and why this approach works when conventional breakup advice fails.
Breakup First Aid LIVE: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/breakupfirstaidlive/
That quality you hate most about yourself? It might actually be your greatest strength. In this episode, I share how one of my clients discovered her "indecisiveness" was actually her hidden superpower and how this revelation transformed her healing journey. I'll walk you through the exact 5-step process to identify, reframe, and embrace the parts of yourself you've been at war with (often the same parts your ex criticized). When you finally love what you've been taught to hate, you don't just heal faster, you unlock the secret to building a life that's genuinely bigger and better than the one you had with your ex.
The Get Over Your Ex Program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
In this quick episode, Breakup Coach Dorothy reveals why you're still obsessed with your ex (hint: it's not because they were "the one") and introduces her free Breakup Toolkit that's helped thousands stop the 2AM thought spirals and social media checking. If you're tired of conventional advice that doesn't work, this 3-minute episode could change everything.
Download the toolkit now: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/breakuptoolkit/
You can't get over your ex. You've tried everything—journaling, therapy, unfollowing them, throwing yourself into work—but nothing sticks. Here's the uncomfortable truth: maybe you're stuck because you're forcing yourself to "move on" when deep down, that's not what you actually want. In this episode, I'm sharing a powerful mindset shift from a recent coaching session that completely transformed how my client approached her breakup healing. If you've been beating yourself up for still wanting your ex back, this episode will give you the permission and practical steps to find authentic relief without forcing yourself into an emotional state you're not ready for.
The Get Over Your Ex Program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
When Ariana Madix discovered her partner's betrayal on national television, no one expected what happened next: one of the most spectacular post-breakup transformations we've ever witnessed. In this episode, I break down the exact mindset shifts that allowed Ariana to not just survive her heartbreak but absolutely thrive in its aftermath. If you're struggling to see how your life can possibly get better after a devastating split, this episode will show you exactly how to engineer your own post-breakup glow up… not just to show your ex what they're missing, but to create a life that's genuinely bigger and better than the one you had before.
The Get Over Your Ex Program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
In this episode, I reveal the counterintuitive truth about why letting go feels impossible (even when holding on is blocking everything you want), and the unexpected place where freedom is actually hiding. If you've been feeling like you know exactly what you need to do to move on from your ex but haven't been able to actually "do it", it's a must listen.
You'll discover a simple 3-step mental shift that finally breaks the cycle of attachment… without the struggle you've experienced so far. By the end of this episode, you'll have a clear path to stop caring so much about your ex and start channeling that energy into building the bigger, better life that's waiting for you. Most importantly, you'll see how letting go isn't about losing something, it's about creating the exact runway needed for the love and life you truly want to finally arrive.
The Get Over Your Ex Program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
That life-changing decision you've been putting off? It's not procrastination, it's fear masquerading as "I need more time." Dorothy reveals how she shattered months of paralyzing indecision about her housing situation in just 20 minutes with the right guidance. The real reason we wait until the final hour isn't lack of information, it's our invisible ceiling of comfort protecting us from the unknown. Every day you postpone is silently draining your potential, one "maybe tomorrow" at a time. In this episode, you'll get the exact 5-step framework to transform your fear into decisive action. That flutter in your stomach when facing a big decision isn't a warning, growth calling. This isn't just content; it's the permission slip you've been waiting for to finally make the choice your future self is begging you to make.
The Bigger & Better Life Mastermind: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/biggerbetterlifemastermind/
In this raw and revealing episode, Dorothy opens up about her journey through motherhood and entrepreneurship, sharing the profound realization that changed everything: the gap between "I can't do this" and "I am." Through vulnerable stories of 3 AM doubts and unexpected breakthroughs, she reveals how our most limiting thoughts often appear right before our greatest expansions. If you've created a life beyond what your heartbroken self could imagine but still feel like there's another level to reach, this episode illuminates why ceiling-breaking isn't a one-time event but a lifelong practice. Discover why "bigger and better" is a direction not a destination, why new ceilings don't invalidate past growth, and how to recognize when you're solving the wrong problems. For anyone wondering "what's next?" after healing from heartbreak, this conversation will transform how you view your evolution.
The Bigger & Better Life Mastermind (Closes March 31st): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/biggerbetterlifemastermind/
In this eye-opening episode, Dorothy challenges you to confront what’s actually holding you back long after you've "healed" from your breakup. Discover why so many people who are "over their ex" still find themselves recreating similar patterns and limitations in their new life. Learn the three critical mindset shifts that shatter this and allow you to quantum leap into the extraordinary life you deserve. If you've done all the right healing work but still don't wake up feeling like you've won the lottery every day, this episode will transform how you view your potential and what's truly possible for your post-breakup evolution.
The Bigger & Better Life Mastermind: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/biggerbetterlifemastermind/
You can’t stop thinking about your ex, and it’s exhausting. No matter what you do, they’re always on your mind—replaying memories, overanalyzing what went wrong, wondering if they miss you too. It feels like you have no control over it. But what if you could? In this episode, I’m giving you a simple, two-step process to break the mental loop and finally get relief. No fluff, no vague advice—just exactly what to do to stop obsessing over your ex and start feeling like yourself again. If you’re sick of them taking up space in your head, this episode is a must-listen.
The Get Over Your Ex Course: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourexcourse/
You're stuck on your ex, and you don’t know why. You’ve tried everything—cutting contact, waiting for time to heal, distracting yourself—but nothing is working. What if the reason you can’t move on isn’t what you think it is? In this episode, we’re uncovering the hidden force keeping you emotionally tied to your ex and why the usual breakup advice isn’t helping. If you’ve ever wondered, Why am I still not over this?—you need to hear this.
The Get Over Your Ex Course - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourexcourse
After a breakup, it’s painful to feel like you never mattered—especially when it feels like you don’t matter to the person that matters most to you in this world. When your ex acts indifferent, it can make you question your own worth. In this live coaching session, we unpack why their actions don’t define your significance and how to reclaim your sense of importance, appreciation, and power. You get to decide that you matter—no one else. If you're ready to stop looking for validation from the wrong place and start feeling unshakable in your worth, this episode is for you.
The Get Over Your Ex Course (available for a limited time at $997): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex5dtmcfa/
After a heartbreak, especially one where someone promised forever and then changed their mind, trusting again can feel impossible. You might be wondering, ‘How will I ever believe in love again?’ In this week’s episode, we unpack why shutting down trust isn’t the answer and how to move forward without fear. This isn’t about labeling your ex as toxic or rewriting the past—it’s about understanding that trust is meant for the right people, not withheld because of the wrong ones. If you're ready to stop feeling stuck and start feeling free, this episode is for you.
DEADLINE to join the Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program at ($1,500 off) is Friday, February 21st: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourexcelebrate/
Valentine’s Day can feel overwhelming when you're newly single—reminders of love are everywhere, and the loneliness can feel sharper than ever. But what if, instead of dreading it, you used this time to lean into love in a way that actually makes you feel connected, supported, and at peace? In this episode, I share three defining relationships—one where I was left, one where I did the leaving, and one where I stayed—to show you how love exists in every stage of your journey. You’ll learn how to shift your perspective, embrace love from your past, present, and future, and walk into Valentine’s Day feeling empowered rather than anxious. If you're ready to transform this holiday from painful to powerful, this episode is for you.
LIVE (Feb 10 - 14) 5 day How to Get Over Your Ex Training: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/5daylivetraining/
Enrollment for the Get Over Your Ex program opens FEBRUARY 13th! Save your spot here: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourexcelebrate/
Seeing your ex with someone new can feel like a punch to the gut—especially if you believe their new partner is somehow "better" than you. In this episode, I break down exactly why that feeling of jealousy takes over and how to take your power back. I'll walk you through three key steps to stop obsessing over your ex's new relationship and start feeling motivated to build the life you actually want. If you’re tired of comparing yourself, stuck in self-doubt, or feeling like you’ll never measure up, this episode will give you the mindset shifts and tools to move forward with confidence—regardless of what your ex is doing. Click play to get started!
5 months of healing in 5 days! Our LIVE event is February 10-14 2025! Come join us. It’s for heartbroken humans who didn’t want the breakup in the first place, those of you who felt forced to leave, and anyone working on building a life that is bigger and better than the one they had with their ex.
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After a breakup, many moms face the overwhelming challenge of feeling guilty for investing in themselves while their children are also hurting. It’s common to question whether you should be putting time, energy, or even money into your healing journey. In this episode, Breakup Coach Dorothy and Laura Conley (Founder of Yummy Mummy) tackle that guilt head-on by breaking down the two types of guilt: one that can actually help guide you and one that holds you back. You'll learn how to distinguish between the two and what to do with each form, so you can not only heal but show up even stronger for yourself and your children. This episode will give you the clarity to stop guilt from running the show and start focusing on your well-being without sacrificing your role as a mom.
Learn more about Laura Conley:
Website: https://www.lauraconley.com/
Instagram: @lauraconleycoaching
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lauraconleycoaching
Struggling to leave an unhealthy relationship or stand firm in your standards? In this episode, we dive deep into how the way you think about yourself today impacts the actions you take tomorrow. If you’ve ever found yourself holding onto a relationship you know isn’t right or letting someone treat you poorly, this episode is for you. We’ll explore why it’s so hard to break these cycles and offer two powerful steps to help you shift your mindset and start standing in your standards. No more beating yourself up—learn how to cultivate self-respect and take action that aligns with the life and relationships you deserve.
If you’ve found yourself comparing your new relationship to your ex, you're not alone—and it doesn’t necessarily mean you’re not over them. In this episode, I break down two powerful steps to help you move past those comparisons and focus on what truly matters: creating clarity and deeper connection in your current partnership. Whether you're sabotaging a great relationship, feeling like something is missing, or stuck in a conflict with your new partner, this episode will help you take the right actions to build the relationship you deserve. Tune in to find out how to stop looking back and start moving forward!
As we enter 2025, it's easy to get caught up in setting goals based on what our minds think we should achieve. But what if there’s a better way? In this episode, we’re exploring how to set your intentions for the new year by tapping into your inner voice, the part of you that knows what truly matters. Instead of letting your mind create goals driven by expectations, I’m going to guide you through a process that allows your inner being to take the lead. Discover how to align with what you really want, let go of mental limitations, and start creating a life that feels authentic and expansive. Ready to approach 2025 differently? Let’s dive in!
In this episode, Breakup Coach Dorothy and Braveheart Miranda talk about how to feel anchored in dating after a breakup. Miranda is a member of the Bigger and Better Life Mastermind, a 6-month immersive experience of creating your bigger and better future, whatever that looks like to you.
Tune in as they talk about 3 specific ways to feel anchored in dating after a breakup, diving deeper during the mastermind, the benefits of having a community around you, lessons and realizations while building a bigger and better life, learning to be unapologetically yourself, living your core values, and so much more!
Join the Bigger and Better Life Mastermind: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/biggerbetterlifemastermind/
Feeling burned out from constant self-improvement? In this episode, I’m sharing a practical 5-step plan to help you shift from revamping your life to fully living in and enjoying it. If you're at a place where you’ve built much of what you’ve envisioned for yourself but feel like it’s time to pause and simply be, this episode is for you. We’ll talk about reflecting on your personal growth, choosing areas for intentional integration, and creating simple, meaningful actions to flow through this season of your life. Plus, I’ve included a fun twist to keep things fresh with the “challenge box”. Ready to stop hustling and start living? Tune in now!
Bigger & Better Life Mastermind is OPEN for Enrollment: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/biggerbetterlifemastermind/
Imagine living a life that feels like you’ve won the lottery every day—where everything aligns with who you truly are, free from attachment, and grounded in emotional maturity. In this episode, I’m sharing the six lessons that Bravehearts have learned and lived through over the past six months in the Bigger & Better Life Mastermind. We’ll explore how they applied powerful tools like inner voice work, human design, and deep coaching to create lasting, meaningful change. Whether it’s building authentic relationships, setting boundaries, or stepping into their true worth, these lessons will show you how to amplify your own bigger and better life. Tune in to hear the exact steps they took, the beliefs they rewired, and how you can do the same.
The Bigger & Better Life Mastermind is now open for enrollment: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/biggerbetterlifemastermind/
In today's episode, we delve into a common yet often overlooked issue: lingering on undesirable outcomes, such as the inability to move past an ex. Discover a transformative, step-by-step process tailored to shift your perspective and actions to achieve more favorable outcomes in your emotional and personal life. We'll explore how taking ownership of your thoughts and behaviors provides a personalized prescription to change what feels unchangeable. This episode equips you with the tools to reconstruct your emotional state and behavioral patterns, paving the way for success and satisfaction in moving on and healing as well as building your bigger and better life. Tune in to learn how to meticulously craft a strategy that aligns with your unique circumstances and propels you toward the life and relationships you truly desire. This is about gaining clarity, taking control, and transforming your life trajectory.
In today's episode, we dive into a common post-breakup challenge: handling the happy memories with your ex that keep pulling you back. If you find yourself frequently lost in nostalgic moments, wondering how to balance these memories with your current path to healing, this discussion is for you. We explore a transformative approach that doesn't erase the past but empowers you to live fully in the present. Tune in to learn how you can reshape your relationship with these memories, allowing them to coexist with your journey towards a brighter, independent future. This episode offers key insights and practical strategies to help you navigate your emotional landscape more effectively. Join us to find out how to turn those memories into stepping stones for personal growth.
In this episode, join Breakup Coach Dorothy and Dana Evans as they discuss when to feel your feelings and when to shift your perspective. Dana is an emotional clearing expert and walks us through exactly “how” to process emotion with tangible steps as well as a clear guide on “how to get out of a funk”.
Tune in as they talk about how the mind can get in the way of the inner voice, reframing and checking the mind, shifting on an emotional level, dealing with your triggers, how to break out of your current state, and so much more!
Learn more about Dana Evans:
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/dana_evans
Instagram: @dana_evans
In today’s episode, we're diving deep into self-identity through life’s varied seasons. Whether you’re in the throes of personal transformation or navigating the complexities of self-discovery post-breakup, understanding and embracing the fluidity of your identity is crucial. We unpack the concept that our self-perception need not be rigid but can evolve gracefully with life’s inevitable changes. We’ll explore practical steps to align your self-identity with your current life phase without losing your core essence, focusing on maintaining authenticity and confidence regardless of external circumstances.
Are you worried that your expectations in a relationship might be too high? In this episode, we tackle the common fear of “am I asking too much?" when it comes to what you want in a partnership. If you've ever found yourself second-guessing your standards or wondering if you're expecting too much, this episode is for you. We’ll dive into two powerful questions that will help you get crystal clear on what you’re truly asking for and why it might feel like too much. These insights will help you stop settling for less and start believing that what you want is not only reasonable but also achievable. Join us as we explore how to shift your mindset and stand firm in your desires, so you can attract the partnership that truly aligns with your worth.
Are you struggling with the question of whether to reach out to your ex? In this episode, we dive into a practical 5-step process that helps you gain clarity and confidence in making the right decision for YOU. Instead of relying on advice from others, this episode guides you through a series of questions and scenarios to uncover what’s truly aligned with your needs and desires. You'll learn how to navigate your emotions, explore the best case scenarios, and connect with your inner voice, so you can move forward with confidence and peace of mind. Don’t let confusion hold you back—discover the clarity you need to make the best choice for your unique situation.
Did you know that what you eat, how you work out, and how you feel in your body, can affect your breakup journey?! Join us in today’s episode as Jenny (The Nutritionist) shares how food affects our body, how we can use nutrition to change our shape, how to prepare food in a way that truly satisfies us and how lifting weights improves our bodies all in relation to your breakup. Leave today’s episode knowing how to create and cultivate your revenge body!
Learn more about Jenny The Nutritionist:
Website: https://jennythenutritionist.com/create-your-shape/
Instagram: @jennythenutritionist
Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/create-your-shape-with-jenny-the-nutritionist/id1596687414
Take the Quiz: What are you missing to be fit, well-fed, and fully energized? (https://jennythenutritionist.com/create-your-shape/what-are-you-missing-quiz/)
Feeling stuck in your dating life, overwhelmed by advice, or just underwhelmed by the experience? This episode is for you. Today, we dive into a powerful coaching session that transformed one of my clients, helping her break free from the confusion and struggle (hustle) of dating. We explore the three core truths she embraced that allowed her to reinvent herself as a dater—authentic, confident, and aligned with her true self. If you’re ready to stop hustling and start dating on your own terms? Tune in to discover how you can create a dating life that feels right for you.
Struggling with the fear of being judged after your breakup? In this episode, I’m diving deep into how judgment—whether from others, your ex, or even yourself—can hold you back from true healing. We’ll explore the three essential truths about judgment that will help you break free from this fear and focus on your own recovery. Learn why judgment is inevitable, how to make sure you’re not the one unhappy with your life, and why following your own path is the most powerful step you can take. Listen in and discover how to shift your focus from external opinions to your own authentic healing journey.
Feeling stuck in your breakup? In this episode, I’m sharing five unconventional habits that my most successful students are using to accelerate their healing and build a life bigger and better than before. These aren't your typical self-help tips; they’re bold strategies like embracing “delusional” optimism, believing in your transformation before you see it, and focusing on growth instead of gaps. If you’re ready to break free from the stagnation and move forward with purpose, this episode is for you. Listen in to discover the habits that will fast-forward your journey.
After 28 years of marriage, Keisha was scared to be alone. She had always had her husband there to make joint decisions, to fall back on, and confide in. She was absolutely devastated when he had chosen to leave right as they were about to become empty nesters. Fast forward to today, she’s embraced her independence. She books flights and vacations on her own, figured out her finances and is living her bigger and better life! Join us in today’s episode as Keisha shares the tools that helped her most in her healing journey and how you can apply it to your life!
In this episode, we tackle the paralyzing fear that holds you back from making progress. Whether it's fear of grief, the unknown, or new challenges after a breakup, we explore how understanding the basics and mechanics of what scares you can reduce that fear just enough to take the first steps. Using real-life examples like overcoming a fear of roller coasters, swimming and spiders we'll show you how learning and experiencing can transform your mindset. Tune in to discover practical strategies to identify your fears, educate yourself, and build the courage to move forward with confidence. Click to listen and start conquering your fears today!
In this essential episode, we dive deep into understanding grief after a breakup or divorce. Many people fear grief because they don’t know what to expect or how to handle it. We’re here to change that. Consider this your Grief 101 class—covering myths about grief, its various forms, and practical steps you can take to navigate through it. By breaking down the basics and providing actionable advice, we aim to demystify grief and show you how it can become a pivotal part of your healing journey. Join us to learn how to manage grief so it doesn’t become all-consuming, and discover how to use it to enhance your human experience. Click to listen and empower yourself with the knowledge to face grief head-on.
Struggling through a breakup or divorce? Discover how fasting can be a transformative tool for your mind, body, and spirit. In this episode, I share my personal experiences with fasting and how it has been a game-changer during my toughest times. By abstaining from food and only consuming homemade green juice, I found a way to reset my digestive system, calm my nervous system, and gain clarity. This episode isn't medical advice, but a look into how fasting helped me reconnect with my inner self and glow from the inside out. Learn how this practice might be the unexpected reset you need to navigate your heartbreak and emerge stronger. Click to listen and explore the profound impact of fasting on your healing journey.
Disclaimer: do not attempt this alone. It’s important you find a guide that is trained, understands this process, and is someone you trust that can hold you through this experience.
My guide/support was Lyndsey Lee, she can be found on instagram at @lyndsaylee
Struggling with where to start in getting over your ex? This episode dives into the different starting points based on your unique situation. Whether you’re longing for your ex back, overwhelmed by emotions, obsessing over them, or uncertain about your future, we've got you covered. I break down the essential steps: decide to move on, commit to your healing journey, and practice becoming the person who’s already over their ex. Additionally, I provide specific tools tailored to where you're starting from. Join me for practical advice and actionable steps to help you navigate your breakup and start building a brighter future. Click to listen and take the first step toward reclaiming your life.
Yasmin Bahrami is a Braveheart alumni that took her heartbreak and turned into a successful career through art. Tune in as we talk about her heartbreak journey and how it led to not only art but also money and a career. If you’re struggling to figure out what to do with your pain, you’ll leave this episode knowing exactly what to do to turn into your power.
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/moonkissedcollective/
Website: https://moonkissedcollective.com/
In this episode, we dive into the challenges of trusting yourself to choose a new partner after a breakup. We'll address common fears like repeating past mistakes and struggling with low self-worth, and explore how to overcome these obstacles. Discover six powerful mindset shifts that will help you regain confidence in your decision-making and attract a partner who truly aligns with your values and desires. Tune in to learn how to build trust in yourself, set clear intentions, and embrace your journey toward a better, more fulfilling relationship. Click to listen and empower yourself with the tools to choose wisely and confidently!
Struggling to sleep after a breakup? In this episode, we tackle this all-too-common issue with practical, actionable advice. Learn how to improve your sleep with effective daytime strategies. We also dive into what to do when you find yourself awake at night, offering creative and productive activities to shift your focus away from anxiety and toward personal growth. Listen today and discover how to reclaim your nights and restore your energy for a brighter tomorrow!
Breakups are never easy, whether you're the one ending the relationship or on the receiving end. In this episode, we tackle the challenging task of breaking up with someone with intention and clarity. Learn five powerful journal prompts and three fundamental truths to guide you through this difficult decision. These tools will help you identify the best approach tailored to your unique situation, ensuring you handle the breakup with compassion and respect. Discover how to communicate your feelings honestly, consider your partner's emotions, and maintain your self-worth throughout the process. Click to listen and gain the insights needed to navigate breakups with integrity and intentionality!
Want to know when to leave a relationship? Listen to the podcast episode: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/2023/07/18/when-to-leave-a-relationship/
If you’re terrified you’ll never get over your ex, you’ve got to listen to today’s episode. Braveheart Summer and Breakup Coach Dorothy talk about Summer’s journey to being over her ex and what she found to be even more important than getting over her ex. If this is the worst case scenario, I want it!
The GOYE Course is now available! https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourexcourse
Are you stuck in the aftermath of a breakup, unsure how to move forward and build the life you deserve? In this episode, we delve into the power of intentionality in overcoming your ex and creating your bigger, better life. Discover how integrating the Thought Model and Living Visions can guide and direct your journey, helping you place a clear order with the universe. Learn to set meaningful intentions, analyze past actions, and blueprint your future self. With these tools, you'll gain clarity, purpose, and the momentum needed to transform your life. Click to listen and start setting your intentions for a brighter future today!
Resources From Episode:
- The Thought Model by Brooke Castillo
- Living Visions introduced to me by Jamie Berman from Living Visions by Michael Beckwith
Are you and your partner struggling to make things work but deeply desire to stay together? This episode introduces the transformative tool called the Feedback Wheel, where thought and mindset work are applied within the context of a relationship. Created by Terrence Real's groundbreaking book, "Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship," this tool helped save my marriage and can do the same for you. Learn how to communicate effectively, understand each other's perspectives, and find actionable solutions to your conflicts. Whether you're in the midst of a challenging period or want to strengthen your partnership, this episode provides practical steps to navigate and improve your relationship. Click to listen and discover how the Feedback Wheel can change the game for you and your partner (whether that’s your next relationship or your current).
Terrence (Terry) Real: https://terryreal.com/books/
Struggling with grief long after a traumatic event? In this episode, we explore the transformative concept of integrated grief, showing how to embrace and incorporate grief into your life rather than resist it. Discover how to turn grief from a painful scar into a meaningful beauty mark. Through personal anecdotes and powerful journaling prompts, learn to welcome grief, allowing it to shape and enrich your life. Click to listen and find out how to make your grief a part of your story, transforming it into a source of strength and inspiration.
Feeling helpless watching a loved one struggle through a breakup or divorce? In this episode, we tackle the challenge head-on with ten actionable ways to provide real support. From validating their emotions to shifting their mindset and offering practical resources, learn how to help them navigate this difficult time more effectively. Say goodbye to the usual advice like "it just takes time" and discover new strategies that truly make a difference. Click to listen and empower yourself to be the supportive friend or family member they need right now!
Resources mentioned in the episode:
The Get Over Your Ex Course: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourexcourse/
Why do I feel addicted to my ex? Podcast episode: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/2023/09/18/why-do-i-feel-addicted-to-my-ex/
If you feel like you lost yourself in your last relationship, today is the day we talk about how to feel like yourself again after a breakup. Leave with brilliant insights and mind blowing moments that will help you feel like yourself again TODAY.
The Get Over Your Ex COURSE: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourexcourse
Bravehearts, to truly learn something is not to simply “know it”. To truly learn something is to “master it.” You cannot master something unless you put it to practice. When I hear Bravehearts saying “I’m trying, I’m trying, I’m trying” or “I logically know…” it shows me they’ve learned to the point of “knowing” but not to the point of mastering.
You’re worth it to master the art of non attachment. You’re worth more than 5 days. You’re worth the time, energy, and effort you put into your last relationship.
THE GOYE COURSE (start today for only $185): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourexcourse
Feeling suffocated by your intense attachment to something, only to see it slip further away (like your ex)? In this powerful episode, we dive into “the attachment cycle” and how it's keeping you stuck, whether it's a relationship, a goal, or a dream. Discover how understanding and navigating the attachment cycle can help you collapse the timeframe to bring your desires into reality. Learn practical steps to recognize when you're gripping too tightly, move through resistance, cultivate curiosity, and ultimately release attachment. Join me as we explore how to create safety in your mind and body, propelling you toward the life you've always wanted (regardless of what your ex is doing). Don't miss this transformative discussion—click to listen now!
With a special announcement from Breakup Coach Dorothy that long time listeners will love!
PS. The LAST ENROLLMENT for the Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program is open. The deadline to enroll is Friday, June 14th at midnight: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourexcelebrate/
Struggling to manage anger after a breakup? You're not alone. In this episode, we tackle the challenge of dealing with post-breakup anger head-on. Learn why it's essential to let yourself be angry and how to channel that anger through physical movement. Then, discover how to identify the root causes of your anger and decide if you're ready to shift out of it. By following these steps, you'll find a healthier way to process your emotions and move forward. Tune in today to gain practical insights and exact steps to managing YOUR anger after a breakup.
5 months of healing in 5 days at the How to Get Over Your Ex 5 day training starting today! (June 3 - 7): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/5daylivetraining/
The last enrollment is open this week for the Get Over Your Ex program. Enrollment will close Friday, June 14th at midnight, if you’ve wanted to work with Dorothy, this will be the last chance for the remainder of 2024: http://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourexcelebrate
Join us in this week’s episode as we discuss what it’s like to grieve together and dream together. Friendship plays a huge role in the healing journey. You don’t have to go through this terrible heartbreak alone. Leave this episode feeling connected to others and confident in your ability to grieve and dream in a brand new way.
LIVE 5 day How to Get Over Your Ex training! Happening June 3rd - 7th. Come join Breakup Coach Dorothy and other bravehearts taking the work from the podcast and implementing these tools over five days completely free!
Accomplish 5 months of healing in just 5 days! https://dorothyabjohnson.com/5daylivetraining/
We dive deep today into the distinction between experiencing grief and truly being over your ex. Discover 5 different forms of grief that you have never heard of before and how experiencing these forms of grief cannot define your progress towards being over him/her. Listen today to transform your relationship with grief and take the next step toward a life that’s bigger and better than the one you had with your ex.
LIVE 5 day How to Get Over Your Ex training! Happening June 3rd - 7th. Come join Breakup Coach Dorothy and other bravehearts taking the work from the podcast and implementing these tools over five days completely free!
Accomplish 5 months of healing in just 5 days! https://dorothyabjohnson.com/5daylivetraining/
In today's episode, we're tackling a tough yet crucial aspect of healing post-breakup: sharing your story with friends and family. It's a daunting prospect, especially when loved ones were invested in your relationship. But fear not! We've got you covered with five key points to navigate this conversation with grace and empowerment. From avoiding the victim-villain narrative to setting boundaries on support, we'll guide you through each step. Tune in now for invaluable insights and practical advice.
Today, we're diving into a powerful concept: 'what you focus on grows.' It's a game-changer, especially after a breakup. Instead of getting stuck on what's broken, let's pivot towards what's working and celebrate our progress. We'll tackle how to redirect our focus for a smoother journey towards our goals. Let's choose progress over pessimism, celebration over stagnation. Tune in now for practical tips and inspiring insights. It's time to seize the day and create the life you deserve, not just the one you think you can get.
Ever felt overwhelmed by the sheer number of lifestyles you could pursue? Or perhaps you don’t even know where to start since you've been living for someone else up until this point? Join me as we cut through the noise and find clarity amidst the chaos. From past reflections to future aspirations, we're breaking down decision-making into actionable steps. It's not about finding the perfect path for eternity, but rather removing the “pressure” of a forever decision through the framework provided in the episode.
Join us in today's episode of 'The Breakup Police' as we dive into a world where justice for heartbreaks is served. Ever wished there were actual officers to ticket those who leave us feeling shattered? We get it. From unfair moves to blatant disregard, navigating post-breakup turmoil can feel like a solo journey. Explore with us as we unravel the power of perspective. Imagine feeling seen, validated, and liberated from the weight of proving your pain. What if you could reclaim your peace without waiting for external validation? Tune in to discover how to find solace, and embrace a future where your worth isn't defined by past hurts.
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Prepare to be captivated by an enchanting narrative of healing and transformation as our host unveils the secrets of the Heartbreak Hotel and her most recent journey from miscarriage, called off engagement, new home and marriage. Journey with us as we explore the transformative power of sacred spaces, the magic of self-reflection, and the art of finding peace amidst chaos. This episode promises to inspire and empower you to embark on your own journey of healing, growth, and self-discovery.
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Discover the key to breaking free from the endless loop of overthinking in today's episode. Whether you're stuck reminiscing about your ex, fixating on past mistakes, or worrying about what's to come, we've got you covered. Tune in to learn practical strategies for getting out of your head and fully embracing the present moment. By the end of this episode, you'll be equipped to live your life free from the shackles of rumination and truly savor every moment. Don't miss out on this opportunity to reclaim your mental freedom and start living fully today!
Today we address the common anxiety of envisioning your ex-partner attaining perfection with someone new. We navigate through two scenarios, challenging you to confront the uncertainties of speculating about their ex's future. With empathy and wisdom, you’ll learn to refocus on your own worth, reminding you that your ex's actions do not define your value. Tune in to reclaim agency over your narrative and have exact next steps for when you find yourself consumed with how your ex will treat their new partner.
In today’s episode, Breakup Coach Dorothy and guest Luke Shillings, whose ex was a Braveheart, talk about getting over an ex who betrayed you and the lessons he’s learned from the betrayal.
Join them as they talk about Luke’s journey from his experience of betrayal, co-parenting and healing his relationship with his ex, learning to become a better parent, and becoming a coach himself. If you’ve experienced betrayal, today’s episode will leave you with tangible tools and also hope in overcoming and getting to the other side of betrayal. You’ve got this braveheart!
Learn more about Luke: https://www.lifecoachluke.com/
In today’s episode learn what you can do to feel better when you feel like your ex was everything you ever wanted. Through practical exercises and insightful anecdotes, discover the importance of separating fact from fiction post-breakup, and learn how relying on data over drama can empower you to reclaim your agency and uncover the truth about your past relationships. You’ll leave today’s episode knowing exactly what steps to take to go from panic and devastation to calm and hopeful.
How to Fast Forward Getting Over Your Ex – Without wasting months (or years) feeling angry, jealous or unlovable: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/overyourexpodcast
In today’s episode we delve into the theme of preventing past heartaches, urging listeners to embrace self-discovery, and cultivate inner peace instead of fixating on external threats. We talk about love bombing, is this lust or is this love, and the common fear of what if I get cheated on again? Through introspection and emotional grounding, we confront fears, acknowledge vulnerabilities, and empower ourselves to foster authentic connections rooted in mutual respect and understanding. Leave today’s episode knowing a 5 step process for leaving your fear of bad things behind and embracing the calm.
The NEW Get Over Your Ex Course: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourexcourse Deadline to enroll is Sunday, March 17th, 2024
Angie Griffith host of the “You Get What I’m Saying” podcast: https://apple.co/492qwiV Our episode together airs Tuesday, March 26th, 2024
In today’s episode, Breakup Coach Dorothy and guest Braveheart Melissa, a mom to two teenagers, talk about how she went from depressed to empowered after a breakup.
Join them as they talk about Melissa’s journey from splitting with her children’s father, meeting her now ex-boyfriend, feeling depressed and dealing with her breakup, to feeling empowered and reaching her goals.
Today, we're debunking myths about getting over your ex. We are going to cover 5 things you might THINK you need to get over your ex that in fact you don’t actually need. Join us as we uncover the truth and empower you to move forward into a bigger, better life. You’ll leave this episode feeling free to move on in a way that is way more simple than you ever thought possible.
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In today’s episode we explore common fears and challenges experienced post-breakup. Invaluable wisdom on navigating setbacks with resilience and grace is discussed. You will leave the episode knowing exactly what steps to take after a “breakup backslide” to reclaim your power towards emotional liberation and freedom from your ex.
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Join us as we delve into the complexities of secondary grief, exploring the myriad losses that accompany breakups and divorces. Beyond the initial heartache lies a landscape of secondary losses—shattered dreams, financial instability, and fractured social networks. But amidst the pain, there is resilience, as we uncover the concept of secondary gains: the hidden opportunities and newfound freedoms that emerge from loss. Through heartfelt stories and insightful coaching, we navigate the delicate balance of acknowledging our losses while embracing the potential for growth and transformation. So, grab your journal and prepare to journey with us through the depths of grief to the heights of healing.
And remember, Braveheart, your path to a brighter future begins with a single step—join us for our upcoming 5-day How to Get Over Your Ex training during Valentine's Day week and discover the power of reclaiming your joy and vitality.
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Let’s go build a bigger and better life than the one you had with your ex instead of wallowing Valentine’s Day week.
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In today’s episode, Breakup Coach Dorothy and Braveheart Maria talk about the tools to help you trust the process of moving on. Maria provides tactical tools for a variety of getting over your ex experiences.
Join them as they talk about Maria’s journey from dealing with her ex leaving, managing life changing exams, living alone in a different country, and working with her ex, to finally feeling free and secure on her own.
Today we explore the transformative concept of embodying a state of being rather than just attempting it, drawing inspiration from the book "A Happy Pocket Full of Money." Using the context of getting over an ex, the episode delves into the significance of aligning thoughts, feelings, and actions with the authentic self. The host emphasizes the power of deciding to be over an ex, challenging the conventional belief that actions and feelings precede the state of being. Drawing parallels with her personal life, the episode illustrates how decisive action yields more substantial results compared to scattered efforts. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their approach, confront self-deception, and truly commit to overcoming past relationships. Leave this episode knowing the exact steps to deciding to get over your ex.
Join me in this episode as we unpack a pivotal coaching session, where one remarkable client grappled with the concept of closure and moving beyond an on-again, off-again relationship.
Discover the journey of self-discovery and empowerment as we explore the fears that often anchor us to past relationships, the allure of familiarity versus the unknown, and the profound realization that progress isn't linear. Celebrating moments of growth, we unravel the client's initial doubts, ultimately revealing how not returning to her past was the true testament to her transformation. Reflect on your own journey and fears, and embrace the power of progress even in moments that might seem like setbacks.
Tune in for an inspiring discussion on embracing closure and the triumphs found in moving forward.
In today’s episode we explore the intricate layers of shame before, during, and after a breakup. Drawing from a recent coaching session, Breakup Coach Dorothy navigates the often-overlooked aspects of shame. This episode serves as a beacon for those wrestling with breakup-induced shame, offering actionable steps towards self-affirmation, self-love, and personal empowerment in the journey towards healing and self-discovery. Tune in for a heartfelt discussion on overcoming shame and embracing resilience in the aftermath of a breakup.
In today’s episode we discuss the broader issue of feeling behind in life due to attachments. Exploring the concept of time constraints and the freedom of choice, we realize life can be fulfilling both with and without specific outcomes. This philosophy extends beyond relationships, encompassing career aspirations and personal goals. Learn one question that will completely shift your perspective of being behind and running out of time after your breakup so that you can feel at peace without giving up on what you want.
Learn 3 mind blowing moments that will forever change your breakup journey with our free on demand video training!
How to Fast Forward Getting Over Your Ex – without wasting months (or years) feeling angry, jealous or unlovable: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/overyourexpodcast
In today’s episode, Breakup Coach Dorothy and guest Kara talk about breakups and the patriarchy.
Kara Loewentheil, J.D., is a Master Certified Coach, host of the top-rated podcast UnF*ck Your Brain, and creator of The Clutch, a feminist monthly coaching program that has helped tens of thousands of women across the world liberate themselves from the inside out. Kara specializes in teaching a step-by-step system that identifies and removes internalized oppression and creates new and unshakeable self-confidence.
Join them as they talk about the true impact of patriarchy on our brains and take a deeper look into this concept and how it applies to you.
Get a copy of her book: https://www.takebackyourbrainbook.com/
Join Breakup Coach Dorothy in this candid and soul-stirring episode as she reflects on her transformative journey throughout 2023. Dorothy shares her most pivotal lesson of the year, through personal upheavals. She dives deep into manifesting desires while finding contentment in the current reality, urging listeners to send coherent messages to the universe and appreciate life's unexpected joys. With vulnerability and wisdom, Dorothy invites reflection through thought-provoking questions, encouraging listeners to discover self-acceptance, gratitude, and empowerment. Tune in for an inspiring conversation that transcends setbacks, guiding you towards embracing life's uncertainties and finding beauty in the loss.
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In this episode we explore transforming post-breakup holiday blues into a joyful experience. Breakup Coach Dorothy challenges preconceptions, sharing personal insights from fasting and handling misconceptions around miscarriage. She encourages listeners to see breakup holidays as a menu offering various experiences beyond misery, emphasizing the power of perspective. You’ll leave with a 3 step process that helps you curate a fulfilling holiday season despite the breakup. This episode serves as a guide to reframe and create a joyous holiday experience on individual terms.
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In today’s episode, Breakup Coach Dorothy and guest Gabrielle Stone talk about all things love, heartbreak, divorce, cheating, and getting the f*%k over it all. Gabrielle Stone is a former actress in LA and author of two bestselling books, including "Eat, Pray, #FML" where she shared all the mistakes, all the lessons, and most importantly how she became a fearless leader from it.
Join them as they talk about Gabrielle’s wild adventure of self-discovery after heartbreak and her solo travels in Europe to heal her heart from the men who shattered her world and discovers that self-love is far more life-changing than anything she could’ve imagined.
Get a copy of her book: https://www.eatprayfml.com/
In today’s episode, Breakup Coach Dorothy and guest Stephanie talk about dealing with a breakup in your 60s. Stephanie joined the Get Over Your Ex program after a breakup with her partner of 9 years. Join them as Stephanie discusses her journey from losing her voice and walking on eggshells in her previous relationship to transforming herself, having a healed mindset, doing what’s best for herself and living her life from a new point of view.
Want to know how to fast forward getting over your ex? Grab your free on demand training here: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/overyourexpodcast/
In today’s episode we talk about navigating celebrations post-breakup. The host shares personal experiences and coaching stories, highlighting the struggle of wanting to share successes with an ex-partner who was once a part of those achievements. The episode emphasizes the coexistence of excitement and disappointment after a breakup, advocating for honesty about one's emotions. It encourages redefining celebration beyond past traditions and projecting positivity to create meaningful moments. Leave this episode knowing exactly how to navigate celebration amidst heartbreak.
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My gift to you this holiday season is a NEW (and free) on demand video training. Where I teach you how to FAST FORWARD getting over your ex — without wasting months (or years) feeling angry, jealous or unlovable.
You’ll learn…
How to stop letting your ex live rent free in your mind — even if you want to get back together later
How to be absolutely sure that your life will be better than the one you had with your ex post breakup without it “taking time”
The secret to feeling completely neutral about your ex without having to go “no contact”
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In today’s episode we talk about the intricate process of dealing with the common and often overwhelming feeling of missing your ex. With a warm and relatable approach, we explore the specific steps to regain control over your emotions and find acceptance and peace within minutes.
Say goodbye to the elusive grip of missing your ex and learn how to move forward with clarity and confidence. Share this episode with someone who needs this wisdom and don't forget to subscribe for more valuable insights on turning heartbreak into happiness.
Another episode about “I miss everything about my ex”: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/2021/05/31/i-miss-everything-about-my-ex/
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In today’s episode, Breakup Coach Dorothy and anxiety mindset coach Georgie Collinson talk about anxiety in relationships, breakups and in life. As a recovering perfectionist and proud high-achiever, Georgie was once a prime example of high-functioning anxiety and now helps women master their anxious minds and achieve unshakable inner confidence.
Join them as they discuss a holistic mind-body approach to overcome anxiety and stress through the thoughts you think, the food you eat, your gut health, and your hormones.
Get a copy of Georgie’s book: https://www.hachettebookgroup.com/titles/georgie-collinson/the-anxiety-reset-method/9780306834783/
In today’s episode, Breakup Coach Dorothy and guests Natalie and Kyra talk about the struggles of co-parenting with an ex, expectations about their roles as mothers, detaching from “what should be”, being comfortable with duality, and finding a support system.
Join them as they discuss changing their narratives as parents co-parenting with an ex.
Want individualized support, help, and coaching on your specific breakup? Join us in the Get Over Your Ex program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Today we talk about overcoming the fear of moving on from an ex. You'll discover the distinction between different types of desires, along with practical strategies to reduce desire in your brain. The episode highlights desire as the root cause of most breakup-related problems, leading to compulsive like behaviors. Fear not; reducing desire doesn't equate to vilifying your ex or giving up on your dreams but rather focusing on the desired outcome itself. This episode offers hope, guidance, and a path to healing for those navigating heartbreak. So, tune in and remember, reducing desire for your ex is not a daunting task; it's a step toward a brighter future where you're in control.
In today’s episode we talk about the damaging effects of worry and why it's particularly common during breakups. Worry is often an unproductive behavior, yet it's something many of us engage in regularly. Our braveheart community has shared their worries about breakups, ranging from the fear of being alone forever to concerns about future relationships, settling for less, and more. We explore practical methods to stop worrying. Leave this episode knowing exactly what you can do to end all worry in your breakup for good.
Today’s episode offers a straightforward yet effective strategy for alleviating breakup pain and propels individuals into action when they’ve been feeling stuck. Discover the simplicity of this technique as we guide you through its steps and share real-life examples of its effectiveness, providing you with an immediate sense of relief and empowerment. Tune in to equip yourself with this valuable tool and take your first step toward healing—because you don't have to face heartbreak alone. Subscribe now and let's embark on this journey together.
In today’s episode we explore a topic that has a significant influence on our life. Breakup Coach Dorothy encourages you to embrace a tool that fosters empowerment and personal growth rather than falling victim to a very common collective idea. Prepared to shift your focus from problems to solutions by emphasizing the control we have in influencing ourselves and taking decisive action towards neutrality and indifference. Learn the counterintuitive technique that has you going from disappointed in yourself to in control of yourself.
In today’s episode, Breakup Coach Dorothy and her client, Delanie, talk about finally asking for help, giving herself more credit, acceptance, self-love, letting go of the pain, and getting over an ex who struggled with addiction. Join them as they discuss Delanie’s healing journey and her personal ways of rewriting her story.
Want individualized support, help, and coaching on your specific breakup? Join us in the Get Over Your Ex program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Karilyn Ivers: https://www.karilynivers.com/
Podcast: Your Partners Addiction
Have you ever found yourself asking, "Why do I feel so addicted to my ex?" Well, today, we've got answers and a roadmap to help you break free from those compulsive behaviors that seem to take over your life. Breakups have a unique way of turning even the most empowered and resilient individuals into someone they don't recognize.
Join us in this eye-opening episode as we delve into the profound psychology of post-breakup attachment and the reasons behind those persistent, seemingly uncontrollable actions that are anything but characteristic of you. Whether it's the relentless calls to your ex, the incessant checking of your phone in hopes of their message, or the constant scrutiny of your social media stories for their engagement, if you're struggling to move on, this episode was crafted with you in mind.
In this transformative conversation, we'll equip you with practical steps and strategies to understand, cope with, and ultimately overcome your ex addiction. It's time to regain control over your emotions, thoughts, and actions and embark on a journey toward healing and self-empowerment.
Previous episode: Ep. 131 - When your ex is struggling with addiction w/ Karilyn Ivers
Karilyn Ivers Podcast: https://www.karilynivers.com/podcast
Biology of Desire: https://www.amazon.com/Biology-Desire-Why-Addiction-Disease/dp/1610397126
Ever wonder why breakups often leave us feeling embarrassed? Join Breakup Coach Dorothy as she shatters the silence surrounding this emotion. In this episode we explore how pursuing our desires garners more cheers than jeers, and dive into practical strategies for coping with embarrassment, including intentionally stepping out of comfort zones to befriend rejection and understanding that our self-perception matters more than imagined judgments.
In this episode, the Breakup Coach Dorothy addresses the complex emotions that follow a breakup when you’re the one who initiated it. She dives into the feelings of doubt and regret that can arise and outlines how to release regret and make decisions from calm clarity. Whether you’ve already made the decision to break up and you’re feeling regret or you’re worried about breaking up because you might feel regretful and second guess yourself, you’re going to want to tune in!
Breakup Coach Dorothy interviews her client Caitlyn, about her journey from struggling to take up space in her relationship, dealing with anxious attachment and breakup regrets, thinking they’re meant to be, to being over her ex. Listen in to learn more about her journey.
Caitlyn’s blog: https://journeytodpt.com/
Want individualized support, help, and coaching on your specific breakup? Join us in the Get Over Your Ex program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
In today’s episode we unravel the complex tapestry of breakup truths. In a world where perception shapes reality, discover how to find solace and strength through embracing contradictions. Breakup Coach Dorothy introduces the concept of "living in the AND," where opposing truths harmonize. Learn how to create your own breakup truths that empower growth and healing.
Join us in today’s episode as you learn what to do when it feels like it’s the end after a heartbreaking and earth shattering breakup/divorce. You’ll leave with next steps on what you can do to change and shift this feeling to reveal hidden opportunities that help you create everything you had or wanted with your ex and more.
In this episode, we dive into three distinct phases: those in urgent emotional turmoil, those seeking transformation while functioning, and those feeling stuck despite believing they've moved on. The central question we tackle is, "How do we know we are over our exes?"
Discover a powerful method to measure your emotional progress, set tangible goals, and identify signs that you've truly moved on and are over your ex. Whether you're fully healed, nearly there, or seeking guidance, this episode offers valuable tools to navigate the path from heartbreak to healed.
Want individualized support, help, and coaching on your specific breakup? Join us in the Get Over Your Ex program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
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Breakup Coach Dorothy interviews her client Felicia, who once struggled with debilitating panic attacks triggered by her relationship and then breakup. In this episode, they discuss Felicia's journey to overcoming breakup anxiety, providing listeners with valuable insights and practical strategies for their own healing. Join them to discover tools for overcoming breakup anxiety and building a brighter future beyond past relationships.
Join us in this heartfelt episode as we celebrate Tinkerbell's second birthday and delve into the complexities of pet custody after a breakup. Our host, who's experienced this journey firsthand, shares valuable insights from working with braveheart clients in the "Get Over Your Ex" program. Discover what works and what doesn't when it comes to ensuring the well-being of your furry companion during challenging times.
We explore the significance of considering the pet's overall well-being, the importance of clear boundaries, and the potential impact of joint custody on both the pet and the human parents. Listen closely as we unravel the emotions and practicalities of deciding who keeps the pet and the lessons learned from having a 130lb Great Dane for two incredible years.
Whether you're facing this situation or simply seeking compassionate guidance, this episode offers love, empathy, and valuable advice to navigate pet custody after a breakup.
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In this bonus episode Breakup Coach Dorothy and her good friend and colleague, Madi Maple, engage in a candid conversation about the complexities of getting back together with an ex. This episode builds upon the emotional journey explored in the previous episode, #198, where Dorothy shared her personal experiences with a miscarriage, emergency surgery, and a called-off engagement.
Dorothy and Madi approach the topic of rekindling a relationship from two distinct perspectives, reflecting their individual experiences and contrasting viewpoints. Their vulnerability and openness allow listeners to delve deep into the intricacies of relationships and the difficult decisions surrounding whether to stay or leave.
Madi Maple: https://www.instagram.com/madimaple/
Have you ever wondered when it’s time to leave vs when it’s time to keep working on yourself while staying? Today, we delve into the complex question of when it's time to leave a relationship versus when to keep working on yourself while staying. It's a dilemma that many bravehearts face, unsure of whether they should continue their personal growth within the confines of their current partnership or take the courageous step of moving on.
Join us as we explore five powerful indicators that your relationship may no longer be aligned with your personal journey, and learn practical strategies on what to do when faced with these signs. Just because the world may be advising you to leave doesn't necessarily mean you're meant to exit right this moment.
Want to get clearer or closer within your current partnership? We can help you inside of The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
In this episode, our host dives into the concept of "the real reasons" and its impact on decision making. She shares personal experiences from her coaching career and reveals how fluff reasons often mask deeper motivations. Using examples related to getting over an ex and building a better life, she emphasizes the importance of understanding the real reasons behind our choices. By uncovering these underlying motivations, we can find genuine solutions to our challenges.
The host also provides a simple question to help listeners explore their own real reasons and shares powerful insights from a recent survey she conducted. Tune in to discover how identifying your real reasons can lead to powerful transformations and empower you to make decisions aligned with your true desires.
For a limited time only the Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program has a new 6 month payment plan. To enroll, click here: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
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Have you ever felt like, if I just keep trying this relationship could work? Or maybe if I try harder? Or if I keep doing my work here, could this relationship work? So have we! Join us in today’s episode where Breakup Coach Dorothy and Jewel Hohman speak about this journey and how it impacted her heart healing journey after the ending of an important romantic partnership. If you’ve been wondering “is this a me thing or a time to change my relationship” this episode for you. Listen today to feel inspired into your next chapter!
Jewel’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jewel_hohman/
New 6 month payment plan for the Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program for a limited time (July): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
In today’s episode we tackle how to be ok single. We discuss common concerns like “feeling like there’s something wrong with me”, forgiving yourself, and the best next steps you can take if you’re working on wanting to feel and be ok single. Sierra discusses your personal journey from relationship anxiety, called off engagement to a rebound relationship and how she transformed her entire relationship with herself.
Enrollment in the Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program is now open!
https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Get in touch with Sierra:
https://m.facebook.com/sierrapoppleton
poppletonsierra@gmail.com
A question I get ALL of the time is how to deal with being ghosted? Sometimes being ghosted is a sudden ending of a relationship or sometimes it’s a gradual experience. Either way many people experience pain after being ghosted.
In today’s episode I want to explain exactly what you can do after being ghosted whether it was after a 10 year relationship, during your dating journey or anything in between. Leave this short episode knowing what ghosting actually is, why people ghost, and what to do about it.
5 months of healing in 5 days (June 19 - 23) only $17 – LIVE with Breakup Coach Dorothy: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/5-day-live-training/
The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Ep. 113 - The concrete steps to closure: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/2021/09/27/__trashed/
Getting over your ex includes building a life bigger and better than the one you had with your ex. A lot of times when I say this my clients ask, but what if I don’t know what that is? Or what does that look like?
In today’s episode I’ll teach you why it’s important you’re clear about what your bigger and better life looks like and you’ll leave knowing what yours is AND how to go out and get it no matter what your ex is doing.
LIVE 5 day training on how to get over you’re ex (June 19 - 23)! 5 months of healing in just 5 days. Me as your coach for 5 days, only $17, enroll here: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/5-day-live-training/
Waking up post breakup when you didn’t want the breakup in the first place is like waking up to a nightmare every morning. You dream about your ex, the only peace you get is when you’re sleeping and all of a sudden you’re thrusted back into a reality you didn’t want or ask for.
How you start your day post breakup significantly influences how and when you will gain a sense of normalcy after experiencing heartbreak. In today’s episode, Breakup Coach Dorothy will be outlining some of the best practices you can have post breakup when it comes to getting up and getting ready for your day. This podcast episode ends with a sneak peak into the pep talk library with a 3 minute pep talk from Breakup Coach Dorothy for days you wake up sad, heartbroken, hopeless, and disappointed.
LIVE 5 day how to get over your ex training (June 19th - June 23): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/5-day-live-training/
Next Cohort for the GOYE program begins Monday, June 26th! Are you coming?!
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In today’s heartfelt episode, our guest Erin (braveheart alumni) opens up about her personal breakup story and the transformative journey she experienced inside of the Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program. Join us as we delve into her experiences, struggles, and ultimate triumph in rebuilding her bigger and better life after heartbreak.
She shares candidly about the most challenging aspects she faced (like working with her ex) while trying to move on from her ex. Battling intrusive thoughts while grappling with self worth and questioning why she was still entertaining someone who didn’t treat her the way she knew she deserved - many Bravehearts will relate to her story. Get ready to be inspired and change your breakup journey just by listening to this episode.
The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program is now OPEN for ENROLLMENT: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
In this episode, we dive into the journey of self-love, worth, and the struggle of wanting a relationship while also feeling the pressure to be content alone. Join us as we explore a refreshing perspective that challenges the conventional belief that you "should" be happy on your own before pursuing a relationship.
Self Love Week (free event): https://www.thebraveheartacademy.com/offers/BPS6ivcp/checkout
The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program is now open! https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
Falling in love is one of the most amazing feelings we experience as humans. More often than not we associate that feeling with falling in love with another human. What if I told you, you could fall in love with yourself and feel that same way?
In today’s episode learn why it’s important to learn the skill of falling in love with yourself, how it will help your next relationship and the specific components that go into the art of loving (yourself or anyone else).
Resources in the episode:
From lost to loved in 4 days! May 23rd - 25th! Free! Sign up for self love week here: https://www.thebraveheartacademy.com/offers/BPS6ivcp
The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program is open for enrollment: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
The Art of Loving by Erich Fromm
Let’s tackle one of the most common questions after a breakup: how long does it take to get over it?
We'll explore why it's not about the length of the relationship or how long it's been since the breakup. People heal at different rates, and the process can vary depending on factors such as the level of attachment, what you’re making the breakup mean about you, and individual coping mechanisms. We'll talk about why relying solely on time as a metric for healing can be misleading and frustrating. Instead, we'll offer practical tips and insights on what really helps in the healing process.
After this episode you’ll know exactly what to do to get over your breakup without it “taking time”.
Want to have tangible tools to apply today's episode to YOUR breakup? Check out our resources here.
Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
5 months of healing in 5 days: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/5-day-training-course/
Other episodes on time:
Ep. 20 - Time has nothing to do with getting over your ex
Ep. 121 - I’ve been wasting your time
Bonus - More on time and heartbreak with Vikki Louise
*TRIGGER WARNING: contains talk of depression, hopelessness and suicidal thoughts.” In this podcast episode, Breakup Coach Dorothy addresses the heavy topic of overcoming the belief of "I don't matter" after a breakup or divorce. She shares her personal journey and how this belief manifested for her after a miscarriage. Dorothy talks about the main issues with this belief pattern, such as a lack of awareness and the actions it can lead to, like hopelessness and suicidal ideation. She encourages listeners to wake up to the fact that they may have this belief and discusses how it can affect their lives, while providing actionable next steps to heal from this belief. Although it's a tough topic, Dorothy believes it's essential to have a discussion about it to help anyone who may be struggling with this same belief.
Suicide and Crisis Lifeline (available 24/7): 988
You matter. You are important. You are not alone.
In this episode, we explore the idea that we don't have to feel terrible to prove to ourselves that someone treated us poorly. Often, we may feel like we need to be in a constant state of misery to justify making a change or taking action in our lives. But in reality, this mindset can actually hold us back from making positive changes and moving forward.
Through personal stories and reflections, we discuss how negative emotions can keep us stuck in a cycle of inaction, and how shifting our mindset can lead to more productive and empowering outcomes. We also offer specific steps that listeners can take to start breaking free from this cycle and move towards a more fulfilling and happy life.
If you're tired of feeling like you have to prove your pain to yourself or others, and are ready to start taking action towards mental and emotional freedom, this episode is for you.
That moment you’ve called your ex and reopened a can of worms you said you’d never get into again. Or the moment you called him 50 times with no response. The moment you went and looked at his new girlfriend’s instagram and here you are down the comparison rabbit hole when you thought you’d already done the work to be over this already.
In today’s episode:
- Learn why these moments appear during or even after our breakup
- Understand a new way of handling situations like
- Become someone who identifies exactly what went wrong and resolves it without overthinking or ruminating for days, weeks, or even months
Getting over an ex doesn’t “just happen”. Specific steps are taken consciously or unconsciously that get us over an ex. The interesting thing is that getting over a breakup or divorce is not seen by society as “important” like grieving a death but there are so many components that are the same.
In today’s episode:
- Understand what’s keeping the world from prioritizing heartbreak
- Learn how to prioritize your breakup/divorce in a world that doesn’t
- Become fearless in your heartbreak journey through clarity about why it’s important
The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program is NOW OPEN FOR ENROLLMENT - doors close Friday, April 14th: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Getting excited about your future after your breakup/divorce is a pivotal step in creating the bigger and better life. This can and has been done no matter your age. Join Lisa as she talks about her experience in dating after 50 and how she’s learned to love the process.
Enrollment for the Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program opens APRIL 6th!
https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
Buying your own home after your breakup can be intimidating. Join Sara as she speaks about the three obstacles she had to learn to overcome to be able to buy her dream home in less than 3 months.
Disclaimer: this is not legal advice and housing markets vary over time and geographical location.
Enrollment for the Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program opens APRIL 6th!
Get Over Your Ex Program - Dorothy AB Johnson
Rebuilding your relationship with yourself after heartbreak can be difficult. Join Reanna today as she describes this experience and the HOW to doing this.
Enrollment for the Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program opens APRIL 6th!
Get Over Your Ex Program - Dorothy AB Johnson
Self abandonment is something many people in the self help industry are saying and using. What if instead we focused on how we are self partnering during your breakup/divorce instead of how we self abandoned?
In today’s episode:
- Understand why focusing on self abandonment might be hurting you
- Learn what self partnering is and how to use this tool
- Become someone who self partners to amplify your magnetic self during your glow up
The How to Get Over Your Ex 5 Day Training: http://dorothyabjohnson.com/live5dt
The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Knowing you deserve better is one thing, but showing up like you deserve better doesn’t come as naturally as we would hope. I hear it all the time “I know I deserve better but I secretly just want my ex to BE better.”
In today’s episode:
- Learn why we can conceptually understand that we deserve better but don’t show up differently
- Understand what next steps you can take to receive the kind of relationship you know you deserve
- Become someone who has a partnership they know they deserve
The How to Get Over Your Ex 5 Day Training: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/live5dt/
The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Oftentimes while we are in the midst of a breakup or divorce we desperately hope for things to go back to the way they used to be. We want our ex to come running back, tell us they messed up and are ready to get back to normal. Have we ever considered that perhaps, even if they did that, we wouldn’t be happy? Join us in today’s episode where we talk about the 50/50 of life and how that applies specifically to breakups and divorce.
Do you feel a lack of control in your life after your recent breakup or divorce? Join us in today’s episode where I’ll teach you how to regain control during a time that feels so out of your control.
Many of my bravehearts struggle with the idea that they didn’t want this divorce or breakup. If you’re someone who finds themselves saying “This isn’t what I wanted” or “I didn’t want this divorce”, I highly recommend listening to today’s episode.
Here's a love letter to Bravehearts from Bravehearts!
The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less closes Friday 2/17. To save your spot enroll here: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Here's a love letter to Bravehearts from Bravehearts!
The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less closes Friday 2/17. To save your spot enroll here: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Here's a love letter to Bravehearts from Bravehearts!
The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less closes Friday 2/17. To save your spot enroll here: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Here's a love letter to Bravehearts from Bravehearts!
The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less closes Friday 2/17. To save your spot enroll here: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Here's a love letter to Bravehearts from Bravehearts!
The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less closes Friday 2/17. To save your spot enroll here: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Let’s talk about rejection after a breakup. Many of my Bravehearts feel rejected by their ex’s, their ex’s family and/or friend group. Learn how to navigate rejection so that you won’t be scared of experiencing it again when you begin to date again.
In today’s episode:
- Learn what rejection really is and why you don’t have to be afraid of it
- Understand what keeps you stuck when you’re feeling rejected
- Become immune to rejection in the future
Have you ever been hesitant to move forward after a breakup or divorce. In today’s episode learn what it’s like to cancel the contract and catapult your heart healing experience.
Topics covered:
- The bigger and better life - when it’s not working
- High attachment to your ex and the real why
- Why it can be hard to cancel the contract and what to do about it
The Braveheart Festival is taking place THIS WEEK! Join us for a free live 2 day heart healing experience and leave with your biggest comeback yet!
Get your tickets here: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/2023braveheartfestival
On today’s episode learn about the love letter your heart needs this valentine’s day. I’ll teach you exactly how to write it and what to do with it so that you will leave feeling seen, heard, supported and loved.
ANNOUNCEMENT: The 2023 Braveheart Festival is now OPEN! Grab your FREE ticket here - spots will be limited!
https://dorothyabjohnson.com/2023braveheartfestival/
It’s so difficult when all of a sudden the person you thought you’d spend the rest of your life with decides you’re no longer the one for them. Maybe your ex decided that marriage was no longer for them. Maybe it was kids, commitment or responsibility. In today’s episode learn what to do when your ex changes their mind about what they want and how you can handle the impact of someone else’s decision on your life.
In today’s episode:
- Learn why someone changes their mind about you or important values in life
- Understand how that impact on your life can be handled in a way that helps you move on quicker
- Become someone who is no longer at the effect of your ex’s life decisions
One of the most common questions I love answering is how to stop comparing myself to my ex’s new partner. So far I’ve talked a lot on the podcast about how to stop comparing yourself to your ex but let’s talk about what happens when they begin to date someone new and what to do when you find yourself constantly comparing yourself to that new person.
In today’s episode:
- Learn why you compare to your ex’s new partner
- Understand what to do when you find yourself constantly comparing yourself to your ex’s new partner
- Become someone who is no longer consumed by this person
We’ve all been there… you just want someone to tell you “everything’s going to be ok”. In today’s episode I’ll be showing you how everything is going to be ok and truthfully how it’ll be more than ok no matter your situation. If you’re looking for a breakup pep talk, here it is.
In today’s episode:
- Feel certain even if you have an unknown future after your breakup/divorce
- Understand what to do next to take care of you during
- Become comfortable with not knowing what’s next
The annual Braveheart Festival coming soon. February 11th & 12th - mark your calendars! Details to come February 1st.
Happy New Year Bravehearts! Here’s a simple and profound message for your new year OR your new chapter (regardless of what time of year it is) that will change the dynamic you have with moving forward.
Sending you all the love!
Worried about being single during NYE? Whether you’re over your ex or you’ve recently gone through a breakup/divorce let me teach you how to thrive on NYE. No constant obsessing over your ex and what he’s doing, no worrying about who he’s with or being sad about being single. Let’s have an epic Braveheart New Years - learn how in today’s bonus episode!
Today’s Links:
One free 1:1 session when you sign up for the GOYE program before the end of the year: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
The 1:1 Next Chapter Mentorship (1 spot left): https://www.thebraveheartacademy.com/offers/P2sAs7ZM
When you're going through heartbreak the question "how are you doing?" is a complicated question. Do you tell them the truth? Do you just say "fine"? Maybe you're even to the point where you're so sick of your own internal answer to that question.
In today's episode: * Learn how to change the internal narrative to this question so you can feel calm and confident when asked how you're doing * Understand what's holding you back from being honest * Become sure of yourself and confusion free about this question moving forward in your heartbreak
Have you ever felt the pure panic of “something must be done”? The urgent emotions where you do everything in your power to “fix” what’s happening? During heartbreak I see many of my bravehearts struggle with feeling an overwhelming urgent emotion. The kind of emotion that completely derails your day to day life. Let’s talk about it.
In today’s episode: * Learn what an urgent emotion is and why you don’t have to be afraid of it * Understand why it feels so urgent * Become an expert at handling these kinds of emotions now and in your future
In today's episode, Braveheart Alumni Kara will share her breakup journey which included her strong faith. Which had her constantly hoping and holding out for her ex. We hope you enjoy!
Kara's Info Website: www.thewanderingsongstress.com Youtube: @karalockwood8306 Instagram @the.wandering.songstress
Are you having a difficult time co parenting with your ex? Perhaps you're triggered by the good things your kids say about your ex and maybe even the new partner. OR triggered by the bad things that your kids are exposed to when they are forced to be with a parent you don't align with. Join us in today's episode while we have expert parenting coach Crystal on as she discusses parenting and provides us with tangible tools to help us co parent during heartbreak.
In today's episode:
Understand what you can do to parent your children when you have no control over your exLearn how to overcome triggers (good or bad) that appear while co parenting
* Become a parent who can positively influence their child no matter what the ex is doing (or not doing)
IG: www.instagram.com/the.parenting.coach
Website: www.coachcrystal.ca
Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/group
The Parenting Coach Podcast with Crystal: www.coachcrystal.ca/blog (on all platforms)
Have you ever had a conversation with your ex that left you feeling confused? Or maybe your ex said one thing and then did another thing that went against what they just said. Instead of spending your precious time and energy being confused, spinning, and not making forward movement in your heartbreak journey, listen to today’s episode where we break down what’s really happening so you can gain clarity.
In today’s episode:
- Understand what’s causing the confusion
- Learn what steps you can take to create clarity
- Become clear about what next steps you can take today to get over your ex no matter how much confusion there is
Enrollment for the Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program is OPEN: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Limited time breakup boxes/breakup first aid kit - DEADLINE 11/18/22 at 8pm ET
Limited time How to Handle Heartbreak During the Holidays bonus course - DEADLINE 11/25/22 at 8pm ET
Open House house on Tuesday, November 11/22/22 at 6:30pm CT - join the zoom here.
Sending all the love,
Dorothy
Were you in a “situation-ship” that’s ended and now you’re left feeling heartbroken and ashamed that you feel so miserable when it wasn’t a defined relationship? Today, Braveheart Miranda and I discuss what heartbreak is like when you are going through a breakup of an “undefined” relationship.
In today’s episode:
- Learn how to create closure without a breakup conversation
- Understand why anger feels productive after the ending of a situation-ship
- Become connected with yourself so much so that you don’t reach outside of yourself anymore for validation, worth, or comfort
The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program is open for enrollment Thursday 11/17 - if you sign up by Friday 11/18 you'll receive a complimentary breakup first aid kit in the mail along with your physical GOYE workbook and the how to handle heartbreak during the holidays course - see you inside!
https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Were you in a “situation-ship” that’s ended and now you’re left feeling heartbroken and ashamed that you feel so miserable when it wasn’t a defined relationship? Today, Braveheart Miranda and I discuss what heartbreak is like when you are going through a breakup of an “undefined” relationship.
In today’s episode:
- Learn how to create closure without a breakup conversation
- Understand why anger feels productive after the ending of a situation-ship
- Become connected with yourself so much so that you don’t reach outside of yourself anymore for validation, worth, or comfort
The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program is open for enrollment Thursday 11/17 - if you sign up by Friday 11/18 you'll receive a complimentary breakup first aid kit in the mail along with your physical GOYE workbook and the how to handle heartbreak during the holidays course - see you inside!
https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Have you ever been in a situation where you loved everything that came with the relationship (like the house, family, friends) but then the relationship itself was lack luster? You then find yourself convincing yourself that “it’s not that bad” out of fear of losing what the relationship brings.
In today’s episode:
- Learn what’s really happening when you’re convincing yourself it’s not that bad
- Understand what’s holding you back from the greatness
- Become someone is confident that they are in control of having everything they had in the relationship even outside of it
Don't forget the LIVE 5 day immersive event where you can accomplish 5 months of healing in just 5 days happening SOON! Save your spot here: http://breakupcoachdorothy.com/nextsteps
Have you ever been in a situation where you loved everything that came with the relationship (like the house, family, friends) but then the relationship itself was lack luster? You then find yourself convincing yourself that “it’s not that bad” out of fear of losing what the relationship brings.
In today’s episode:
- Learn what’s really happening when you’re convincing yourself it’s not that bad
- Understand what’s holding you back from the greatness
- Become someone is confident that they are in control of having everything they had in the relationship even outside of it
Don't forget the LIVE 5 day immersive event where you can accomplish 5 months of healing in just 5 days happening SOON! Save your spot here: http://breakupcoachdorothy.com/nextsteps
Are you ready to learn tangible tools that go along with the How to Get Over Your Ex podcast? In need of Breakup Coach Dorothy’s advice but haven’t yet signed up for the Get Over Your Ex program? Come join me in a LIVE 5 day immersive event for only $17. This is where you’ll accomplish 5 months of healing in only 5 days to catapult your breakup journey so that you can get to building the bigger and better life! You do not want not want to miss this!
Sign up at: http://breakupcoachdorothy.com/nextsteps
Are you ready to learn tangible tools that go along with the How to Get Over Your Ex podcast? In need of Breakup Coach Dorothy’s advice but haven’t yet signed up for the Get Over Your Ex program? Come join me in a LIVE 5 day immersive event for only $17. This is where you’ll accomplish 5 months of healing in only 5 days to catapult your breakup journey so that you can get to building the bigger and better life! You do not want not want to miss this!
Sign up at: http://breakupcoachdorothy.com/nextsteps
After a breakup it’s easy to feel like you’ve lost yourself. Maybe you spent all your time morphing yourself into the ideal person for your partner. Maybe your partner questioned you so much that you’ve lost a sense of direction. Regardless of why you’re feeling like you’ve lost yourself, there’s a solution.
In today’s episode:
- Learn how to get direction to your life again
- Understand what’s been keeping you stuck in feeling lost, confused and purposeless
- Become the you that has drive, focus, and intention in their daily life
After a breakup it’s easy to feel like you’ve lost yourself. Maybe you spent all your time morphing yourself into the ideal person for your partner. Maybe your partner questioned you so much that you’ve lost a sense of direction. Regardless of why you’re feeling like you’ve lost yourself, there’s a solution.
In today’s episode:
- Learn how to get direction to your life again
- Understand what’s been keeping you stuck in feeling lost, confused and purposeless
- Become the you that has drive, focus, and intention in their daily life
The quality of my life is a direct reflection of the quality of my thoughts. If my life feels like a hot mess, it’s a direct reflection that my mind/brain/thoughts are a hot mess. No matter where you are in the breakup process, no matter how much you know about thought work, no matter how good you are at coaching - you will never be omitted from needing to be reminded that your circumstances do not cause your suffering.
In today’s episode:
- Learn one simple technique that will change everything
- Understand the problem that’s holding you back no matter where you are in your breakup or dating journey
- Become the one who’s in control of your experience
The quality of my life is a direct reflection of the quality of my thoughts. If my life feels like a hot mess, it’s a direct reflection that my mind/brain/thoughts are a hot mess. No matter where you are in the breakup process, no matter how much you know about thought work, no matter how good you are at coaching - you will never be omitted from needing to be reminded that your circumstances do not cause your suffering.
In today’s episode:
- Learn one simple technique that will change everything
- Understand the problem that’s holding you back no matter where you are in your breakup or dating journey
- Become the one who’s in control of your experience
Are you over your ex and ready to start the dating process but don’t have a real step by step guide to follow? Join me today as I share the entire dating to engaged process that not only worked for me but many of my clients.
In today’s episode:
- Learn what the dating process is
- Understand where you can improve your dating experience
- Be the person who actually enjoys dating (or become the person who gets engaged - if that’s what you’re looking for)
Links:
-
wants episode (117) found here
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falling madly in love while practicing non attachment (128) found here
Are you over your ex and ready to start the dating process but don’t have a real step by step guide to follow? Join me today as I share the entire dating to engaged process that not only worked for me but many of my clients.
In today’s episode:
- Learn what the dating process is
- Understand where you can improve your dating experience
- Be the person who actually enjoys dating (or become the person who gets engaged - if that’s what you’re looking for)
Links:
-
wants episode (117) found here
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falling madly in love while practicing non attachment (128) found here
A much needed breakup pep talk to uplift you through the rest of your week.
Recently inspired by Living Untethered by Michael A Singer - https://www.amazon.com/Living-Untethered-Beyond-Human-Predicament/dp/1648480934
Sending so much love,
Dorothy
A much needed breakup pep talk to uplift you through the rest of your week.
Recently inspired by Living Untethered by Michael A Singer - https://www.amazon.com/Living-Untethered-Beyond-Human-Predicament/dp/1648480934
Sending so much love,
Dorothy
The way someone else treats you isn’t your responsibility. Oftentimes we get confused about the “ownership” piece of “letting people treat you poorly”. Today I demystify this idea of letting someone treat you poorly and what to do with the shame you experience around your past relationship.
In today’s episode:
- Learn what it actually means to let someone treat you poorly
- Understand what’s been holding you back from letting go of the shame and potentially even embarrassment of what you allowed in your life
- Become proud and clear about your past so that you can let go of shame and move forward
The way someone else treats you isn’t your responsibility. Oftentimes we get confused about the “ownership” piece of “letting people treat you poorly”. Today I demystify this idea of letting someone treat you poorly and what to do with the shame you experience around your past relationship.
In today’s episode:
- Learn what it actually means to let someone treat you poorly
- Understand what’s been holding you back from letting go of the shame and potentially even embarrassment of what you allowed in your life
- Become proud and clear about your past so that you can let go of shame and move forward
After a traumatic heartbreak, many of us want to make sure that we pick the right person next time, that we don’t get hurt like we did and that we don’t avoid the red flags like we did that time. In today’s episode I’m going to help you pick the right person next time and provide you with the confidence you need to move forward in your healing journey.
In this episode:
- Learn how to pick the right person next time
- Understand what it means to pick the right person
- Become someone who’s confident in their decision making around dating
After a traumatic heartbreak, many of us want to make sure that we pick the right person next time, that we don’t get hurt like we did and that we don’t avoid the red flags like we did that time. In today’s episode I’m going to help you pick the right person next time and provide you with the confidence you need to move forward in your healing journey.
In this episode:
- Learn how to pick the right person next time
- Understand what it means to pick the right person
- Become someone who’s confident in their decision making around dating
After a breakup it’s easy to turn to the idea that we will never meet anyone as great as our ex again. It’s a common thought error that many of us have. Join me today as I explain what the real problem is about this thought (it’s not what you think) and how you can use this story to catapult your healing journey.
In today’s episode:
- Learn the real issue when you’re telling yourself “I won’t meet anyone like my ex again” (it’s not what you think)
- Understand how you can use this story to your advantage
- Become the version of you that catapults your healing today
Staying in a relationship that is “almost” everything you’ve ever wanted is pretty common. Typically it’s fear that keeps us from moving forward and exiting the half ass energy loop that is creating a half ass relationship. Join Nikki this week as she talks about what it was like to leave the half ass energy of a half ass relationship and build a bigger and better life for herself!
In today’s episode:
- Learn how to leave when it’s almost everything but not everything you ever wanted
- Understand what’s keeping you stuck in a mediocre relationship/life
- Become someone who only shows up for the bigger and better life and never settles for less than
https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Open Now^^Spots limited
You have the ability to get over your ex AND you could choose to do it differently. Not alone, not trial and error, not struggling your way through but in a way that is supportive, where you're held, given proven steps that get you to self security and oblitorates the fear of your future without your ex in it.
Be ready to blow your own mind: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
First come first serve, will be closed once all spots are filled. From the bottom of my heart, I cannot wait to meet you inside.
So much shame is created and cultivated by believing that we should already be over this… no matter our age, no matter how long the relationship was or how long the breakup happened - this seems to be a reoccurring theme among Bravehearts. Join me today with Gracie as she gives us words of wisdom around shame, what to do when your problems don’t feel big enough, when you think your best days are behind you, and when you care a lot about what your ex thinks of you.
In today’s episode:
- Learn how to no longer hold onto shame because you should already be over him
- Understand what’s holding you back from getting over your ex
- Become someone who is no longer obsessing over what your ex thinks of you
https://dorothyabjohnson.com/morethanmoveon/
The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less experience is almost open. Here's everything you need to know to be prepared to save your spot!
No matter how long you were together and have beent trying to heal, you can Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less. I want you to feel fully secure in yourself and confident in your choices -- so much so, you're no longer pining over someone who left you, but you're rapidly calling in all the things that are FOR you.
Let's do this!
https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Divorce after 24 years of marriage can be difficult. You took your vows seriously and your ex didn’t. How do you recover from that? Not only recover but can you even thrive after something like that? Listen in today as Lisa shares her story. She was committed to her ex, she took those vows seriously but after an affair while your mother was dying from cancer, she said enough was enough.
In today’s episode:
- Learn how you can let go of anger no matter your breakup situation
- Understand why celebrating along the way is so important to your healing
- Become the version of yourself your kids can be inspired by
www.breakupcoachdorothy.com/morethanmoveon
After a traumatic breakup experience it’s easy to feel like what you wanted with your ex is no longer available to you. Or at least it feels like it’s on pause until you find another partner. Listen in on today’s episode where Janet talks about her heart healing journey going from feeling like her future was gone at age 32 to feeling empowered to take the next step regardless of her relationship status.
In today’s episode:
- Learn the key to creating the life you want regardless of what your ex is doing
- Understand what the biggest obstacles is to creating the future you wanted with your ex
- Become someone who is no longer attached to their ex for their future
www.breakupcoachdorothy.com/morethanmoveon
Save Your Spot Today: https://breakupcoachdorothy.com/morethanmoveon
I’m ready to help you do more than move on - I want you to build a life your ex regrets leaving!! To build a life you deserve regardless of what your ex is doing. Come join me in a live 2 day immersive event FOR FREE where I’m going to give you tangible steps/”how tos” to actually creating the life that’s better than the one you had with your ex.
You do not want to miss this. Seats are limited, do not wait to sign up: https://breakupcoachdorothy.com/morethanmoveon
After a devastating heartbreak, Cara has ZERO answers about why or what happened. Crying all the time, missing him, knowing deep down that she had a good life but at the same time she had a really strong desire for her ex. At 46 years old, she wanted to find someone who was committed to her but felt so lost when it came to this area of her life.
In today’s episode:
- Learn how to commit to getting over your ex no matter what your breakup situation is
- Understand what’s kept you from the bigger and better life
- Become certain about your ability to do more than move on but to live a life your ex regrets leaving
www.breakupcoachdorothy.com/morethanmoveon
Now that you’ve learned that thoughts create feelings and you’ve been working on yourself since the breakup, you want your ex to see how well you’re doing. Maybe if they saw great you were doing they would want to come back? Or at the very least they would prove to them that you learned and are doing great after the breakup.
In today’s episode:
- Learn what the real problem is in wanting your ex to see how great you’re doing because it’s not what you think it is
- Understand the one thing you need to do that will ensure your ex witnesses how great you are
- Become the version of you that doesn’t even care if your ex notices
It’s not about the “doing” when it comes to getting over your ex. It’s about the “being”. Learning to “be” the powerhouse you already are. Learning to “be” the powerful, purposeful and peaceful self that already exists inside of you is where it’s at. And that comes from changing your brain. Literally changing the neuro pathways that have been embedded in you since you started your relationship with your ex. Changing the brain may feel effortful right now but that doesn’t mean it can’t be effortless.
In today’s episode:
- Learn let changing the stories you’ve been telling yourself for so long doesn’t have to be effortful forever
- Understand what’s been keeping you from making this new belief system effortless
- Become someone who more than moves, she builds a life bigger and better than the one she had with her ex
“Wanting” to get over your ex is the first step to actually getting over your ex. For some of us this step is more difficult than others. You may be someone who knows they shouldn’t want to be with this person but they feel addicted to them.. Or maybe you’re the person who truly thinks your ex is the most amazing human on the planet and that keeps you from committing to truly getting over your ex. Regardless, learning to decide to get over your ex because you want to is important.
In today’s episode:
- Learn the secret mind hack I’ve used with myself and many clients to get yourself to a place of “wanting” to get over your ex
- Understand what’s been holding you back from “wanting” to get over your ex
- Become the version of yourself that commits to truly getting over their ex and building the life that’s bigger and better than the one they had with their ex
If you’re feeling defeated in love, today’s episode with Garrett, author of Dare to Move is a must listen! Her breakup stories and dating experiences are not only interesting but inspiring. Learn all about the love story that inspired me to move into my own fairytale. Leave the episode feeling alive and full of fresh air around your love story.
In today’s episode:
- Learn what kind of dating experience is right for you
- Understand how heartbreak can fuel your love story
- Become reinvigorated around love within 30 minutes
Learn more about Garrett:
Website: https://www.garrettnicolewood.com/
Instagram:
Dare to Move Book: https://www.garrettnicolewood.com/dare-to-move-book/
Accepting the reality of a breakup when you didn’t want it in the first place is such a big pill to swallow. Today I’m going to go into the specifics around acceptance. I’ll show you why acceptance doesn’t have to be something difficult or scary and exactly how to get there.
In today’s episode:
- Learn what’s keeping you from acceptance
- Understand the key components of creating acceptance
- Become the version of you that finds acceptance and is able to move forward
Sometimes we must live with an ex before we can move out. It can be difficult watching your ex go on and live their life like nothing’s wrong while you’re completely devastated. Today I’ll show you the ins and outs of what it’s like to live with an ex and how you can navigate this sort of short term situation.
In today’s episode:
- Learn how to remain confident in yourself while living with an ex
- Understand how living with your ex can actually catapult your healing
- Become immune to what your ex says and does before moving out
Dreaming about your ex is bound to happen. The interesting part is what you do when you wake up from the dream. Too many of my Bravehearts spend countless hours ruminating about what the dream meant or wallowing in how they feel after waking from the dream. But here’s the simple solution when you’re feeling alarmed by the dreams you have about your ex.
In today’s episode:
- Learn why you’re dreaming about your ex
- Understand what to do with the dreams you have about your ex
- Become someone who doesn’t spiral into negative emotions after dreaming about your ex
As a society we have gotten used to using the word “failed” when speaking about a completed marriage or relationship. This has led many of my Bravehearts to believe that the ending of their relationship means “they are a failure”. No matter how many completed relationships you’ve had, telling yourself you’re a failure won’t get you closer to the kind of relationship you actually want.
In today’s episode:
- Learn why your divorce/breakup doesn’t mean you’re a failure
- Understand what a divorce/breakup actually means about you
- Become someone who changes the narrative around divorce/breakups
Cool article about the history of marriage sited in the episode: https://www.livescience.com/37777-history-of-marriage.html
Do you feel like your ex isn’t who you thought they were? Maybe they said they wanted children and to get married and now after years of dating they no longer want that. Or maybe they’ve had a hidden life the entire time you’ve dated. Either way - being stuck on how he wasn’t who you thought he was is super frustrating.
In today’s episode:
- Learn why we get super fixated on who our ex was or wasn’t after a breakup
- Understand what we can do about it
- Become who you want to be regardless of who your ex is
Grief is a natural part of life. During heartbreak it feels heavy sometimes almost debilitating. Join us in today’s episode with expert grief coach Krista St. Germain. She coaches widowed moms and will talk to us today about post traumatic growth and a new way of handling grief during heartbreak.
In today’s episode:
- Learn the basics about grief in a way you’ve never heard before
- Understand what it would look like to use post traumatic growth in your heartbreak
- Become the kind of person who moves through grief differently
Find Krista St. Germain here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/
“I wasn’t enough” “I will never be enough” “he’s become the man I always wanted and now I’ll never find a partner as good as him” – these are common thought patterns that happen in breakups and divorce. In today’s episode learn to how turn these common thought patterns into productive problem solving to help you create a life bigger and better than the one you had with your ex.
In today’s episode:
- Learn what productive problem solving in your breakup is and why you haven’t been doing it
- Understand how not using productive problem solving is hindering your progress
- Become someone who uses their default thought patterns to their advantage to problem solve in a way that creates a life their ex regrets leaving
Leaving an on again off again relationship is difficult. You’ve built up a reward loop in your brain that makes it feel like an addiction. You’re not crazy, you’re simply human. Join us today as Monique talks about her experience finally leaving her relationship for the last time. She’ll discuss her biggest obstacles like guilt about leaving and how she overcame them with certainty, clarity and confidence.
In today’s episode:
- Learn why you haven’t left for good even though you really want to
- Understand what’s holding you back and how to overcome it so that you can leave and start fresh in a healthy and kind way
- Become certain, clear and confident in your decision to leave
Hello Bravehearts! The @breakupcoachdorothy instagram account has been HACKED. Do NOT interact with this account.
They are pretending to be me (posting old stories and such), sending people to @iron_oliver for bitcoin mining. I have NEVER worked with this person, he is scamming people. DO NOT interact with him.
Please report the @iron_oliver account as a scam. And please report my account @breakupcoachdorothy so it can get shut down. I have not had access to this account since May 4th, 2022 at 4am CT.
Send questions or information to: dorothy@dorothyabjohnson.com
Sending all the love,
Dorothy
Building everything on your own doesn’t mean you’re alone forever. I talk about the concept of building a bigger and better life than you had with your ex. Learning to build that on your own so that no one can take it away like your ex did. People get this confused and think I’m saying … let’s get good on your own so you can be good in a relationship. Close, but not that’s not exactly what I’m saying.
In today’s episode:
- Learn what it looks like to build the life you always wanted regardless of what your ex is doing
- Understand how to build that life on your own while also finding “the one”
- Become the person who has everything they ever wanted with or without a partner
In today's episode real parents share their real advice on parenting dos and don'ts while experiencing a divorce/breakup.
These parents have been through the Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program and have been avid listeners of the podcast just like you!
Today's episode is with my friend Daisy (11 year old) author and illustrator of the book called "A Kids Guide to Divorce and Life After It".
Her book releases on Thursday, April 28th 2022 and you can sign up here to be alerted when it goes live for 99 cents on Kindle!
http://www.daisyfreestone.com/
How do I help my kids process the change? What do I do when my child is constantly asking to go back to live with my ex? How do I help them through emotional turmoil? Some childrens’ first heartbreak is the heartbreak of their parents. In today’s episode learn how to help your kids while going through your own heartbreak.
In today’s episode:
- Learn what you can do to help your children with their emotions during a time that is emotional for you
- Understand what is most useful for them during this time
- Become the kind of parent you want to be while experiencing heartbreak
Teen Coach Sami can be found at: https://knowingup.com/
She thought buying a home after her divorce was impossible. The data was stacked against her odds. Money, time, what her ex had done - there was no way. But in 3 short months of healing, getting over her ex, and believing in the not yet seen - she did it! In today’s episode join fellow Braveheart Sara as we show you how to create the impossible when all the odds are stacked against you.
In today’s episode:
- Learn how to believe in what feels impossible to you when getting over your ex
- Understand what’s been keeping you from what you REALLY want
- Become the person who creates the impossible when all the odds are stacked against you
Have you wanted to feel indifferent towards your ex? Like no matter what he did or didn’t do, it just didn’t affect you? You don’t have that knee jerk emotional reaction to seeing him, his words, or anything about him? Join me today as Bravehearts Emily and Heather talk about how they got to indifference when it came to not only their ex but everything else in life too.
In today’s episode:
- Learn how to feel indifferent about your ex
- Understand what’s been holding you back from feeling indifferent
- Become the person who doesn’t care when someone doesn’t message you back or want to hang out because you truly just enjoy being on your own.
Hey Braveheart!
We have a special announcment that we are excited to share!
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Many Bravehearts think that their ex was the best they could do, that there’s no one else out there for them. But Braveheart Robyn realized that in reality, she could now get married. That she now could have a step dad for her children that would actually BE and SHOW up as the dad she always wanted her children to have. This realization changed the game for her getting over your ex journey. What would that be like for you?
In today’s episode:
- Learn how to overcome the constant thought that your ex was the best you could do
- Understand what’s holding you back from feeling content, calm and proud when it comes to life after your ex
- Become the version of you that knows their ex wasn’t the best they could do - it was just the beginning
Getting negative feedback is difficult, especially when it’s from your closest friends/family/loved ones. If your ex said negative things about you during or after the relationship ended take a listen to today’s episode where we get clear about what negative feedback is and what to do about it. Sometimes we want to work on the things we got feedback on and other times it’s simply mind drama that we can become aware of and address.
In today’s episode:
- Learn the difference between the simple fix or mind drama when it comes to negative feedback from your ex
- Understand how to use negative feedback to fuel a life your ex regrets leaving
- Become the person who doesn’t let negative feedback from her ex get to her
I spent an entire month letting my inner voice make the decisions. Here’s what happened. How I navigated a number of big losses and huge successes while building a deeper connection with my inner voice/intuition/inner alien.
Learning to utilize the inner voice during deep sadness, pain, grief, and loss is a tool that has been overlooked. It can be used in processing emotions, making decisions, and finding guidance in times that are filled with overwhelming uncertainty.
In today’s episode:
- Learn how to use the inner voice in your breakup
- Understand how using the inner voice in your breakup will lead to a life bigger and better than the one you had with your ex
- Become someone who turns inward more often than seeking validation from outside world
Find Dana Evans at: https://www.instagram.com/dana_evans/
At the end of your relationship were you living a dream? Or were you living off the potential of the dream? Looking at and acknowledging the potential of your ex or the dreams you both talked about? Sometimes we are mourning/grieving something we never even had. Grieving the life you thought you were going to have with your ex.
In today’s episode join me as I walk through a real world example of what it was like for me to lose something that never even existed and how I used this experience to open up a portal of possibility so that you too can create what was once conceptual into your reality!
In today’s episode:
- Learn how to grieve the life you thought you had with your ex while also using the portal of possibility concept
- Understand what it means to use the portal of possibility
- Become someone who takes loss and turns it into real tangible life changes
Are you feeling guilty for the reasons your ex broke up with you? Responsible for how the relationship ended? Or maybe you feel guilty because you promised to love him forever and now you’re ready to end things? Or maybe you’re feeling guilty because after you left he didn’t have support and help which caused a downward spiral in his life. Or guilty because if roles were reversed, he wouldn’t do this.
In today’s episode we are going to be talking all about guilt. Guilt when leaving/left a relationship, guilt for staying when you don’t want to be there, guilt for the way you showed up that may have caused the breakup in the first place.
In today’s episode:
- Learn why you’re feeling guilty and what to do about it
- Understand how guilt specifically affects your present and future
- Become the person who utilizes guilt in a productive way and then moves forward
Join me today with expert Karilyn Ivers as we discuss what it’s like to get over an ex who is struggling with addiction. We will answer all your burning questions about guilt/shame in leaving someone who relies on you for stability, whether or not to get back together with someone once they are clean, and how to move on after those overdose moments.
In today’s episode:
- Learn how to move on from someone who is struggling with addiction
- Understand the ins and outs to overcoming shame and guilt associated to getting over someone who is struggling with addiction
- Become the person who gets over their ex even when their ex is struggling with addiction
Karilyn Ivers: https://www.instagram.com/karilynivers/
Running into your ex happens. Or better yet, running into your ex’s family or NEW PARTNER. Join Breakup Coach Dorothy and fellow Braveheart Alumni Julia as they discuss how to become an expert at handling situations like these.
In today’s episode:
- Learn what happens naturally when you run into your ex/their family or new partner
- Understand how to handle those kinds of situations differently
- Become the kind of person who feels calm, comfortable, and PROUD of the way you show up when running into your ex or ex’s new partner
https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
After a breakup your identity often feels completely shattered. Something you thought you knew so well is no longer a part of your life and you begin to question who you are, what you know, and what you want in your future.
Join us today as we talk about what it’s like to recreate your identity after a breakup including tangible next steps that you can take today to begin this rebuilding process.
In today’s episode:
- Learn the most common mistakes people make after a breakup when it comes to recreating their identity
- Understand the how to steps to recreating your identity after your breakup
- Become the most beautiful re-creation that your ex regrets leaving
https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
I’ve had many Bravehearts ask “how do you practice detachment while in a relationship to not get overly attached too fast?”. When you learn how to reduce desire and attachment inside of the Get Over Your Ex program this is a skill you’ll have for a lifetime.
In today’s episode:
- Learn how to practice detachment while in a relationship while also falling madly in love
- Understand that detachment and falling in love are not mutually exclusive
- Become the person who is no longer overly attached to a partner
www.dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Happy February and EARLY Valentine's Day Bravehearts!
This year, I'm celebrating YOU with the Braveheart Festival, an all day event dedicated to celebrating the love you have for yourself.
You'll leave feeling proud, powerful, and fully yourself prepped and ready to handle Valentine's Day like a champ!
Learn all the details inside today's episode.
Here's the link to register: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/braveheartfestival
We often hear that the journey should be better than the destination. You should love the process as much as you love the outcome you’re creating. Well… my 26 year old self (I’m not 31) would be saying “you made it!” “you’ve arrived” - but my current self feels like that’s not really true.
What if there were multiple fairytale “endings” within our life? And what if we allowed ourselves to experience them while they were happening instead of looking towards our past or our future?
In today’s episode:
- Learn how to identify and acknowledge your fairytale
- Understand why we tend to downplay our fairytale
- Become the main character in your fairytale ending (even if you’re fresh from heartbreak)
Sometimes it feels easier to hate your ex. Hating that person might seem easier than loving someone who no longer wants to be with you. But how’s the one left experiencing negative emotion when you hate on your ex? You.
In today’s episode:
- Learn how hating your ex is more hindering than you realize
- Understand what it looks like to redirect hate towards your ex to something else (not loving your ex - don’t worry)
- Become the version of yourself who turns that pain into purpose
Many of my Bravehearts use connection, attraction, and chemistry as a way to increase desire for their ex. They think that they can’t have that kind of connection with anyone else. They won’t find anyone as physically attractive as they did their ex.
Join us today as we talk about how connection, attraction, and chemistry is the perceived problem but not the real problem in this situation. I’ll explain what’s actually happening and how to create real connection, intimacy and chemistry with someone else other than your ex.
In today’s episode:
- Learn why you don’t feel deeply connected to anyone other than your ex
- Understand how to create connection with someone other than your ex
- Become the person who no longer feels like they only person they’ll ever be connected to is their ex
Many times throughout my life, I’ve been asked “when is the deadline” - even I’ve asked others “when is the deadline?”. It recently hit me, why do we ask others when a deadline is for something WE desire? Why do we leave it up to someone else to decide when we start or finish something that is important to us?
In today’s episode:
- Learn why we look towards others to determine our own deadlines
- Understand how to begin setting your own deadlines in life
- Become someone who creates and follows through on deadlines for you instead of others
Welcome! To the 10 things you need to know after a breakup. I will be sharing with you 10 core messages I hopes all Bravehearts know after having gone through a heartbreaking and devastating breakup or divorce. I hope you not only hear these lessons but I hope you embody them, live them, and take them on as your truths. You are special, you are worthy, you are enough, and you are so taken care of. I love you.
Sending all the love,
Breakup Coach Dorothy
https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
Welcome! To the 10 things you need to know after a breakup. I will be sharing with you 10 core messages I hopes all Bravehearts know after having gone through a heartbreaking and devastating breakup or divorce. I hope you not only hear these lessons but I hope you embody them, live them, and take them on as your truths. You are special, you are worthy, you are enough, and you are so taken care of. I love you.
Sending all the love,
Breakup Coach Dorothy
https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
Welcome! To the 10 things you need to know after a breakup. I will be sharing with you 10 core messages I hopes all Bravehearts know after having gone through a heartbreaking and devastating breakup or divorce. I hope you not only hear these lessons but I hope you embody them, live them, and take them on as your truths. You are special, you are worthy, you are enough, and you are so taken care of. I love you.
Sending all the love,
Breakup Coach Dorothy
https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
Welcome! To the 10 things you need to know after a breakup. I will be sharing with you 10 core messages I hopes all Bravehearts know after having gone through a heartbreaking and devastating breakup or divorce. I hope you not only hear these lessons but I hope you embody them, live them, and take them on as your truths. You are special, you are worthy, you are enough, and you are so taken care of. I love you.
Sending all the love,
Breakup Coach Dorothy
https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
Welcome! To the 10 things you need to know after a breakup. I will be sharing with you 10 core messages I hopes all Bravehearts know after having gone through a heartbreaking and devastating breakup or divorce. I hope you not only hear these lessons but I hope you embody them, live them, and take them on as your truths. You are special, you are worthy, you are enough, and you are so taken care of. I love you.
Sending all the love,
Breakup Coach Dorothy
https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
Is it wrong to be friends with your ex? Can it happen? How can I be friends with my ex? Should I be friends with my ex? How do I know? What do I do if my ex wants to be friends? All questions answered in today’s podcast where we talk all about being friends with an ex.
What to expect:
- Understand how to identify for yourself if you can/should be friend with your ex
- Learn what to do if your ex reaches out and wants to be friends
- Become immune to friend drama even when it’s your ex
Today’s episode is inspired by multiple DMs I’ve received regarding feeling like you’re over your ex and on to building a bigger and better life but don’t feel over the moon about everything IN your life. Are you seeing your limitations and do you have a concrete action plan for the limits that are keeping you from your “epic sundae”?
What to expect:
- Learn how to identify the real limitations that are keeping you from a life bigger and better than the one you had with your ex - they aren’t what you think they are
- Understand how to create your concrete action plan on how to overcome those limits in a way that aligns with who you want to be
- Become the kind of person who is over the moon about all areas of their life
Listen in to a very special bonus episode of a casual conversation recorded with one of my coach colleagues Vikki Louise about the concept of time and heartbreak. Extending the conversation from the original episode 121 - I’ve been wasting your time.
What to expect:
- “The sooner you’re willing to feel vulnerable and be hurt is the moment you’ll have the aha.” - Vikki
- “None of it takes time, it takes managing your mind, making those quick decisions and being willing to be hurt and vulnerable.”
- “What’s so damaging about saying “it takes time” is it leaves people disempowered with nothing to do but wait and let time take the responsibility and all the credit.” - Vikki
Early enrollment is open: https://www.dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Vikki Louise: vikkilouise___
https://linktr.ee/vikkilouise
Time has nothing to do with getting over your ex. It doesn’t take time to build a life bigger and better than the one you had with your ex. Everything you desire appears within a moment. That doesn’t mean we “rush” our healing. It doesn’t mean we are in a “hurry” to get over our exes. It means we are not at the effect of the man-made concept of time. We trust in divine timing but we don’t sit around “waiting” for something different to happen. We become the active force within the passive concept of time.
In today’s episode, meet Elsie (Lauren Cash), time queen who happens to be one of my best friends. We talk all about heartbreak, time and explore healing in a way that doesn’t follow society’s go to “it just takes time to heal your heart”.
What to expect:
- “We bring the same thinking that we currently have to solve current problems, but it doesn’t work that way.” - Elsie (Lauren Cash)
- “We think a lot of things are a time issue that aren’t a time thing.” - Elsie (Lauren Cash)
- Understand how to overcome time within your heartbreak and when it comes to building a life bigger and better than the one you had with your ex.
- Become the person who can find the balance of trusting divine timing while taking ownership of what you have control over
Early enrollment is open (holiday bundle): https://www.dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Lauren Cash: @thelaurencash
https://vivere.co/
How often have we been allowed to really speak about our most painful heartbreak in the open to other humans? Rarely ever. It’s still considered taboo to be open and honest about how much we are truly hurting during our breakup or divorce. It’s seen as being “too emotional” or “too open” in a lot of settings. Inside the Braveheart Community, it’s normal. It’s freeing. It’s safe and it’s ok.
In today’s episode learn about what it’s like to be a part of the braveheart community while healing from heartbreak from two Bravehearts who got the support they didn’t know they needed.
Enrollment opens December 9th: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
What to expect:
- “I felt less crazy because no one in my life was going through a breakup but I was with 20 some women all experiencing a breakup.” - Annie
- “I was surprised by the amount of people who have the same thoughts and problems I did.” - Annie
- “It was really valuable to me to have people from different stages of life. It was this moment where I realized no one is exempt from pain and even if I got what I wanted, I could still experience pain.” - Amanda
- “I needed a support group and I literally got it. I was on my own but had an AA group for people going through breakups, which was so amazing for me.” - Amanda
Does age matter during heartbreak? How do I build a life bigger and better than the one I had with him when I’m over 40? In today’s episode listen in as 4 Bravehearts all over 40 talk about their experience healing heartbreak and building a life that is bigger and better than the one they had with their ex.
What to expect:
- “It’s not the age it’s actually the heartbreak.” “What I’ve done in the last 3 months compared to what I’ve done in the last 6 years is incredible.” - Julie
- “I thought I missed my chance... the reality was that I had built a false reality of what could go wrong instead of what could go right.” - Melanie
- “There was a huge piece of shame built into our society about age and what you should already have, I thought I should have already known this and gotten it right. I couldn’t control where my thoughts come from but I could control what I subscribed to from society.” - Marisa
- “How will I recreate myself at this age? Do I have that much time left? Thought work changed that story for me.” - Tammy
Getting over heartbreak is universal. The feelings are the same, the process is the same. There are Bravehearts around the world all working towards learning to get over their ex in a new way, regardless of where they are physically located.
Meet Franzi, a millennial from Germany who travels the world and experienced a year and a half of back and forth with her ex. Learn about her heart healing journey and how she took her pain and turned it into power.
How do I know what important aspects to look for in my next partner? I thought I knew, but now I’m questioning it. In today’s episode, learn how to curate and craft your own Want Match Questionnaire. So that not only do you know what aspects you’re looking for but also how to find out early on in each prospect.
What to expect:
- Understand what’s important to you when it comes to your next partner
- Learn how to get clear about the aspects you’re looking for and how to find out if that person has those aspects
- Become confident in your ability to attract the right person for YOU
I was asked by many of you to share my experience starting Breakup Coach Dorothy LLC. This is an episode outlining what it was like to start a business that many doubted.
I'm so grateful to be able to impact the world in this way. Helping humans heal their heart so they can go on to help heal the world in their own unique way is my life's work.
Thank you for being a part of the journey. I hope whatever I've shared here helps you in your journey to helping the world in your own unique way.
Today’s episode was inspired by a Braveheart question on instagram asking how do I handle “starting over” after hanging out with an ex? Most of us have been there, felt like we were starting over in our healing journey after a hiccup in our recovery.
Learn how to handle situations like this in a new way that catapults the recovery process and helps you show up differently in the future.
What to expect:
- Understand why you do the things you wish you wouldn’t have
- Learn how to recovery from behaviors you’re not so proud of quickly and effectively
- Become the person who up-levels after each breakup hiccup
One of my clients wanted a happy, healthy, beautiful family. She built that. But then, when her husband decided he no longer wanted to be a part of that family she then thought she wouldn’t be able to have what she wanted anymore because he chose something different.
Do you resonate? Whether that’s a family, a life partner, a lifestyle that you had in mind that no longer feels possible to you because your ex chose something different. I’m here to talk about how that’s simply not true.
What to expect:
- Understand why your brain thinks what your ex does controls what you get or don’t get
- Learn what to do when it doesn’t feel like your choice
- Become the person who’s not at the effect of what their ex chooses
Have you ever felt like what you really really wanted in life was totally and completely 100% IMpossible? You’re not alone. A part of getting over your ex means building a life bigger and better than the one you had with your ex. Many of my bravehearts get hung up on the idea that it’s even possible.
In today’s episode, I share my technique called “thought shifting” that takes you from impossible to probable, no matter what feels impossible to you today will feel probable by the end of this episode.
What to expect:
- Understand what is keeping you in impossibility
- Learn how to navigate from “impossible” to “probable” no matter what it is you really desire
- Become the kind of person who has goals that are “as good as done”
Hey Braveheart! Meet Emily, a braveheart alumni that had healed heartbreak and began using the tools she learned inside the program to amplify her coaching practice. She coaches powerful female leaders.
Listen in to learn what she's been up to since completing the Get Over Your Ex program.
PS. If you're new here, welcome! So excited to have you here. To make the most use of your time, I'd be sure to check out episodes 1-5 before checking out the bonus episodes.
Wanna hang out on instagram? Find me at @breakupcoachdorothy
Are you using closure as a permission slip for something? If you’re searching for closure, you probably are. In today’s episode learn the concrete steps to creating closure so that you’re moving forward in life regardless of what your ex is doing.
What to expect:
- Understand what it means to use closure as a permission slip and what to do about it
- Learn how to implement the concrete steps to creating closure so that you can move forward in life regardless of your breakup situation
- Become clear about what closure is and how to achieve it
Enrollment for the Get Over Your Ex program RD7 closes 10/1/21: https://www.dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Hey Braveheart! Meet Ashton, a braveheart alumni that who healed heartbreak during the pandemic. What was even cooler, she realized what she thought was her weakness was actually her super power!
Listen in to learn what she's been up to since healing her heartbreak.
PS. If you're new here, welcome! So excited to have you here. To make the most use of your time, I'd be sure to check out episodes 1 - 5 before checking out the bonus episodes.
Wanna hang out on instagram? Find me at @breakupcoachdorothy
Hey Braveheart! Meet Camilla, a braveheart alumni who healed her heartbreak and then realized her purpose in this lifetime was family. Learn what it looked like for her to build family during a pandemic and after heartbreak!
Listen in to learn what she's been up to a year after completing the Get Over Your Ex program!
PS. If you're new here, welcome! So excited to have you here. To make the most use of your time, I'd be sure to check out episodes 1-5 before checking out the bonus episodes.
Wanna hang out on instagram? Find me at @breakupcoachdorothy
You’re not over your ex because you still strongly desire your ex. Desire is created within, it’s not something that just happens to you. It’s something you can turn up and turn down like the volume to the radio. Today, learn how to reduce the desire you have for your ex to treat the root cause of your breakup instead of breakup symptoms.
What to expect:
- Understand the exact steps you need to take to get over your ex for good
- Learn the how desire is created and removed by you
- Become less attached to your ex and more committed to a life bigger and better than the one you had with your ex
Enrollment opens for the Get Over Your Ex program September 23rd, 2021. Usually spots sell out within the first day, please be sure to put this date in your calendar.
https://www.dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
It’s not really a question of “if my ex comes back” it’s about “when my ex comes back”. When we spend time thinking about if our ex comes back we live in a land of “waiting” instead of “becoming”. Today learn not only what to do when your ex comes back and how to handle that situation but more importantly what to do in the meantime before your ex gets back.
What to expect:
- Understand what’s happening when we are holding on to our ex coming back and why we do this
- Learn exactly what to do when your ex comes back
- Become clear on what you’re doing in the meantime
Enrollment opens for the Get Over Your Ex program September 23rd, 2021. Usually spots sell out within the first day, please be sure to put this date in your calendar.
https://www.dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Hey Braveheart! Meet Jake, author of "The Department of Heartbreak". He's a braveheart alumni that healed multiple relationships at once within the Get Over Your Ex program. It's been a year since working together and he's gone on to do so many amazing things using the tools he learned.
Listen in to learn what he's been up to since!
PS. If you're new here, welcome! So excited to have you here. To make the most use of your time, I'd be sure to check out episodes 1-5 before checking out the bonus episodes.
Wanna hang out on instagram? Find me at @breakupcoachdorothy
Hey Bravehearts! Here's another bonus episode that if you're not on Instagram you might have missed. I'm sharing the fun coffee chats I have with Bravehearts talking about where they are now after graduating the Get Over Your ex program.
If you're new here, welcome, so thrilled to have you! I'd highly recommend listening to episodes 1-5. Do not start here, this is not a typical episode.
Today, meet Jocelyn, a Braveheart who decided to heal her past heartbreak while inside a new relationship. She talks about learning how to hold happiness within her life and share her favorite tools and how you can use them to advance your heart healing journey!
Wanna hang out on instagram? Find me at @breakupcoachdorothy
Once you’ve healed, and you’ve built this beautiful life, bigger and better than the one you had with your ex, you might find yourself feeling terrified to lose it all by falling in love with someone.
How do I remain open now that I know I was the one who made my last relationship great?
Today, learn the 3 step process to getting back out there once you’ve healed and are ready to begin dating again. Episode was inspired by Braveheart Rachel - one of the first of many questions to be answered from the Braveheart Hotline!
This one’s for you Rachel!
BH Hotline: 850-988-4177
What to expect:
- Understand what’s really happening in your brain when you’ve built a life you love and you’re feeling hesitant to date again
- Learn how to remain open to others after you’ve built a life you’re obsessed with
- Become crystal clear with how to enter the next relationship
Enrollment opens for the Get Over Your Ex program September 23rd, 2021. Usually spots sell out within the first day, please be sure to put this date in your calendar.
https://www.dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Getting over your ex and learning to not be emotionally reliant on other human beings, isn’t just work for people who are single. Sometimes we find ourselves in new relationships with really great people and we begin to see the same patterns reappear. Other times we notice we keep attracting the same kind of partner that isn’t a great match for us.
Meet Joumana and Jocelyn, as we discuss what it’s like to get over your ex and build a life bigger and better than the one you had with your ex, while in a new relationship.
What to expect:
- Learn that you’re not the only who may have already moved on but still struggling to let go of that past relationship
- Understand what’s keep you stuck and how to truly let go so you can enjoy your new relationship
- Become the person who heals while in a new relationship
Happy Friday Bravehearts! Thought I'd share the fun coffee chats that are taking place on Instagram as bonus episodes on the podcast, just in case you're not on the gram.
Today, meet Chelsey! A long time alum who went from heartbroken to engaged in 6 months and now is living her dream life, in her dream location, with her dream humans. Hope you enjoy!
PS. This is straight from Instagram LIVE, I'm a one woman show over here so there's no intro, no outro and no edits.
Wanna hang with me on instagram? Find me at @breakupcoachdorothy
When should I start dating? If you’re finding yourself asking this question, you’ll want to listen in on today’s episode where I talk with 3 braveheart alumni (Jessica, Katy and Carol), all in different “dating stages”.
We talk about my recommendations on when to start dating again, how to get excited about dating, when to start, how their dating experiences are going, and so much more. You won’t want to miss out on their nuggets of advice around dating!
What to expect:
- Learn how to love falling in love again
- Understand exactly how you’ll know you’re ready
- Become the person who is excited and optimistic about falling in love
NEW NEW NEW - Brand new content and features are happening over here at Breakup Coach Dorothy LLC. Excited to bring you more integrated approaches to healing heartbreak as well as more content relating to your “next chapter”!
Today, I’m sharing all the juicy details of all these changes. We will be integrating thought work, the woo woo, human design and more into healing heartbreak. More conversations about the next chapter, interviews of Braveheart alumni and experts in other fields and how it can help you and your breakup. More BTS and … a BRAVEHEART HOTLINE.
What to expect:
- Learn what’s been going on behind the scenes at Breakup Coach Dorothy LLC
- Understand what to expect moving forward on the How to Get Over Your Ex podcast
- Become clear on how you can get involved if you feel called to
Braveheart Hotline: 850-988-4177
Call in and leave a voicemail with YOUR question and it could be answered here on the How to Get Over Your Ex podcast!
Did you and your ex truly want the same things in life? If you’re anything like me you probably found yourself over compromising who you were and not even realizing it until the end of your relationship you realized that you morphed into someone unrecognizable to yourself.
I’ve also experienced the other end of the spectrum where I didn’t compromise at all and therefore felt more alone inside the relationship than just being single. How do you find the balance? How do you create an amazing life on your own and begin dating? How do you know when to do thought work around someone or change the person? Today, I will answer it all.
What to expect:
- Learn how to stand in your most authentic self while also dating and/or being in a relationship
- Understand how to stop compromising yourself and find someone who wants the same epic life as you
- Become confident in your ability to know when it’s time to do thought work vs move on
Wanting to win your breakup isn’t bad. How you approach it will determine if you “win”. The secret to winning your breakup doesn’t have to do with what your ex is doing and everything to do with what you’re deciding.
In today’s episode I’m going to teach you exactly how to “win” your breakup. Because I’m all about you going out and creating a life bigger and better than anything you had with your ex and that to me is #winning.
What to expect:
- Learn how to “win” your breakup
- Understand what has been preventing you from “winning” up until this point
- Become the ex that “wins” regardless of what your ex is doing or not doing
https://www.dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
***PLEASE NOTE: Mr. Tom Brady plays for the Tampa Bay Buccaneers (please do not take sports advice from the How to Get Over Your Ex podcast).
We all hear that hurt people, hurt people. But have we ever considered that healed people, heal people?
Special guest, Katrin Berndt, the coach of grumpy girlfriends joins us to talk about hurting and healing when it comes to being in a relationship. We talk about breakup baggage, how to learn from the breakup to make your next relationship better, and so much more.
What to expect:
- Learn how your breakup impacts future relationships, for better or worse
- Understand what you can do now to positively impact your next relationship
- Become the kind of partner you want to be before you’re even in the next relationship
Katrin Berndt: https://www.katrinberndt.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katrinberndt/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/Katrinberndt
https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
After a big heartbreak in life, where everything you thought you knew is no longer standing, it’s easy to slide right into thinking you’re too far gone, that you can’t be helped, what’s the point or you’ll never be able to make it out.
Too many of my bravehearts get stuck in this thought pattern that literally keeps them from getting over their ex and building a life bigger and better than the one they had with their ex. I promise, you’re not too far gone, you’re actually only one thought away from life changing transformation.
Today, hear from two Braveheart Alumni who talk about their heartbreak experience navigating heartbreak, devastation, and built a relationship with themselves that no one could ever take away.
What to expect:
- Learn how to change one thought that will catapult your heart healing journey
- Understand how to build a relationship with yourself that you can depend on
- Become the transformation you so desperately want
https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
When you’re going through a breakup, you’re focused on just making it through the day. You so badly either want your ex back OR to just stop thinking about it already.
The beauty of learning how to truly get over an ex and become the person who’s totally in love with themself and their life is the limitless opportunities that come along with being that version of yourself.
In today’s episode, Braveheart Samantha shares her journey of getting over her ex, building self confidence, and becoming a woman she’s proud to be. Her healing and results have compounded through continuous coaching and it all started from a breakup.
What to expect:
- Learn what happens when you go all in on yourself
- Understand how learning to get over your ex compounds the results you have in all areas of your life
- Become the version of you who’s committed to creating a life bigger and better than the one you had with your ex
https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
Missing your ex comes with almost any breakup. I see Bravehearts mired with how much they miss their ex and what they make it mean about being able to get over their ex. But missing your ex is not impacting your ability to move on from your breakup.
Learn how to let go of “missing” your ex by learning the truth behind what missing your ex actually means about you, your breakup, and your future.
What to expect:
- Learn why you miss your ex and the truth behind it
- Understand how missing your ex can actually help you get over your ex faster
- Become someone who no longer misses their ex
Your breakup is just the beginning. The beginning of a life that is bigger and better than the one you had with your ex. It’s just the beginning to all of your wildest dreams coming true. This is true for so many of my Bravehearts and I want it to be true for you too.
What to expect:
- Learn the “it’s just the beginning” mindset and how to use it
- Understand how to make a life your ex regrets leaving
- Become the type of person who never sees it as an “ending” but as a bright new “beginning”
www.dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
A lot of times we want to get over our ex so that we can find the next partner. And girl, I’m all here for it! But there are some things you should know first.
Today I bring on a special guest, Madi Maple who is a pro at manifesting. We talk about manifesting your next partner, what is required for us to do that, and what that looked like for her.
What to expect:
- Learn how to manifest your next partner
- Understand the workings of manifestation and what is required from you before you manifest your next partner
- Become clear on the steps to manifestation
It’s not your fault your ex left. But it feels like it when you did something they asked you not to do or you showed up in a way you’re not proud of.
Tune in today to learn how to stop ruminating and overthinking about how you might still be together if only you had done something differently. It’s a simple shift. You’re one thought away from knowing it wasn’t your fault and it never will be.
What to expect:
- Learn what happens when you continue to believe it was your fault
- Understand how to stop ruminating and overthinking what you could have done differently to stay together
- Become clear on what will really get you a different outcome
What if you learned a lesson from every single ex you ever had? Have you ever spent time looking at this and understanding what you learned from each person/relationship/experience?
In today’s episode, join Breakup Coach Dorothy as she unpacks her previous exes and what she’s learned from each of them. From selflessness to good sex, we cover it all today. And of course, she’ll leave you with next steps on how to do this for yourself so you can leave feeling fulfilled regardless of how many relationship endings you’ve had.
What to expect:
- Learn what lessons you’ve found through your previous exes
- Understand how these lessons can help you moving forward in your next relationship
- Become a Braveheart who grows exponentially after every relationship ending
Many times we look to our external observations to determine and dictate our internal beliefs of ourselves. That’s why it’s so hard not to take a breakup or the ending of a relationship so personally. We look to that relationship as a part of our identity.
We then use the breakup, the words and actions of our ex to inform what we should believe about ourselves.
And my Bravehearts, we are doing it wrong. Today, learn how to make your internal beliefs stronger than your breakup.
What to expect:
- Learn how your internal beliefs are stronger than your breakup
- Understand how your internal beliefs fuel your external observations rather than the other way around
- Become someone who uses their internal beliefs to strengthen themselves and naturally get over their ex
When getting over an ex there are a lot of commonalities I see between my clients. There are themed thought patterns which lead to a lot of the same feelings and behaviors. I’ve seen and experienced a number of events that were planned and unplanned like running into an ex at the store or at a party. Seeing an ex with a new girl for the first time. Seeing something triggering on social media. The ex coming back. The ex reaching out.
You name it, I’ve seen it.
This is why I’ve created breakup protocols. PLANNING. Being able to plan for these events sets your mind at ease. You’ll know exactly how and what to do in moments others are normally totally caught off guard by. Today, I’m teaching you the ins and outs of this iconic tool in the Get Over Your ex program.
What to expect:
- Learn what a breakup protocol is
- Understand how to create your own breakup protocol
- Become the person who handles herself with grace and poise in all breakup experiences
I have 4 brand new breakup workshops taking place LIVE this week, starting TODAY that you won't want to miss out on! Join us inside as we tackle, thoughts about the ex, urgent emotions, closure, believing new thoughts in a way that sticks, and a never seen before tool called "The Why Game".
www.dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Many Bravehearts come to me saying “I should have seen it coming”. And my answer is the same every single time.
No, you weren’t.
You were never supposed to see it coming. Maybe you’ll see it coming next time. But this time, it went exactly as it was supposed to. No one goes into a relationship expecting it to end. Telling yourself “I should have seen the red flags” or “I missed something” only keeps you feeling like there’s something wrong with you that needs to be fixed. No part of you needs to be fixed, all that needs to happen is self-acceptance.
What to expect:
- Learn what “I should have seen it coming” is creating in your life that you didn’t even realize
- Understand why your brain wants to tell you that you should have known
- Become the person who accepts the situation and themselves fully
It’s not just about getting over him. It’s about creating a life better than the one you had with him. Maybe even creating a life your ex regrets leaving. Because when you build that beautiful epic amazing life, it doesn’t even matter to you if he regrets it. That, my Braveheart, is priceless.
For so long I just wanted to feel “taken care of” in my life. After my 7 year relationship ended, the last thing I felt was “taken care of” … by the universe/God, by others or even by myself. Pretty much I was certain that I was forgotten. Security and stability felt like a long-gone notion that was something I’d never be given.
In today’s episode learn how to go from feeling forgotten to fully supported, seen, secure, stable, and 100% taken care of regardless of your relationship status.
What to expect:
- Learn why it’s so important to cultivate security, stability, and safety in your life
- Understand the workings of creating an environment where you always feel “taken care of”
- Become self-sufficient in security and stability regardless of your relationship status
ENROLLMENT OPEN: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
Getting over your ex is a decision AND a process. Many times my bravehearts think that just because they made the decision to get over their ex that means they will never experience emotion around their ex ever again. Then when they do experience emotions around their ex (from certain triggers like when their ex starts to see someone new or when they see a text from their ex) they think they are “failing” at being over their ex, when in reality it’s quite the opposite.
Today, learn how false failure is holding you back from celebrating your ability to get over your ex, move on, and create a life better than the one you had with your ex.
What to expect:
- Learn what false failure is in regards to your breakup
- Understand how your false failure is holding you back from creating a life better than the one you had with your ex
- Become someone who’s over their ex for good
Free 5 Day Training: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/5daychallenge
Thought work alone isn’t the same as thought work with other humans. Hence why braveheart alumni continue to work with me even after they get over their ex. Today we are going to explore how I’ve seen old breakup trauma show up in new relationships. You’ll learn how to make sure you’re not letting old breakup trauma with your ex infiltrate new relationships with potential love interests.
What to expect:
- Learn how and why breakup trauma from your past affects new relationships
- Understand what you can do to avoid letting your ex ruin your new love interest
- Become someone who doesn’t drag old baggage into new partnerships
Free 1 Hour Training: https://www.dorothyabjohnson.com/3secretswebinar
The last thing I wanted to do after my ex broke up with me, taking the life I had envisioned with him and handing it over to his new girlfriend was to “surrender”. In my mind “surrendering” meant to give up control. Again, the last thing I wanted to do was give up what little control I had left in that situation.
Little did I know that “surrendering” really meant taking back my control and allowing something bigger than me to create something better than I had ever imagined out of the life that felt so broken.
Today, learn how to take control through surrendering to your breakup journey in a way that feels natural and doable, no matter how terrible your breakup went.
What to expect:
- Learn what surrendering to your breakup journey means
- Understand the workings of surrender and how it will help you get over your ex
- Become a pro at surrendering to your breakup triggers
The reason for your breakup is also the cure for your heartbreak. This is a very important piece of heartbreak that is easily overlooked. When we can take a moment to see that the cause is also actually the cure, it makes the moving on process more peaceful.
In today’s episode learn how this is true for you and what you can do to find more peace amidst the heartbreak and take control of your healing.
What to expect:
- Learn what “the cause IS the cure” really means
- Understand the workings of “overdue growth” and how you can use yours to make the moving on process more peaceful
- Become the person who takes control of their healing no matter what their ex did or didn’t do
Many of my bravehearts work with their ex. Being constantly reminded of what you don’t have while trying to do your job that pays the bills can be excruciating, however, it doesn't have to be.
In today’s episode learn how to handle the terrain of working with an ex whether virtual or in-person this is your moment to shine and show up as the badass braveheart you are regardless of who you work with.
What to expect:
* Learn what prevents you from not being at the effect of your ex at work
* Understand how to show up, keep your cool, and stay focused on the job when you work with your ex
* Become immune to your ex being at your job
Oftentimes after a devastating heartbreak we are mired with the idea that “it just felt so right”, “I thought he was the one” or “something right went wrong” which can lead to us questioning our judgment. “How did I not catch that?”
In today’s episode, learn why it felt so right, why that’s not a problem, and how to find out what’s right for right now. What to expect:
* Learn the real reason it felt so right
* Find what’s right for right now
* Become someone who no longer questions their judgment because of a breakup
Happy early Valentine's Day my Bravehearts! If you didn't have plans for Valentine's Day... YOU DO NOW.
Surprise! The first annual Braveheart Festival. An all-day event that's all free for you! So excited to hang out with you all.
See you Sunday (2/14/2021)!
Grab your itinerary HERE.
“I wasn’t worth fighting for” is a common storyline that plays over and over in many brains after the end of a devastating breakup. It hurts, you feel inadequate, rejected, and unworthy of your ex, life, and new partners. I see this story break amazing, accomplished, and wonderful humans down.
Today, we talk about how to drop the idea that you weren’t worth fighting for and show you how to stand up and fight for the life you actually wanted.
What to expect:
* Learn why the “I wasn’t worth fighting for” storyline feels useful
* Understand how to stand up for yourself again
* Become the person who allows the universe/God to do the fighting for her/him
During a breakup, there are many moments where you are overwhelmed with huge pangs of negative emotion. In those moments most are quick to react to them, and if they know their thoughts create their feelings, they want to quickly find a new thought to make them feel better.
When we do this, it robs us of the real lesson within the pain. Today, learn a tool called “compassion blankets” that provides you relief in the midst of pain while you navigate your breakup. Compassion blankets: “Laura Swartzbaugh” - Life Coach for Life Coaches What to expect: * Learn what to do with the overwhelming pain/loss/sadness you experience during a breakup
* Understand how to gift yourself relief within the pain
* Become your own safety net in the darkest times
In today’s episode Breakup Coach Dorothy answers questions asked by Bravehearts covering a variety of breakup topics. From how to move on when your family loves your ex to how to handle your ex treating their new partner better than they treated you to how to stop comparing your new love interests to your ex and so much more. Join Breakup Coach Dorothy for a casual chit chat about all things breakups, healing, and moving forward.
After a breakup many of my bravehearts have brains that consume them with the “what ifs”. “What if I would have acted/shown up differently?” “What if I would have loved him differently?” They could go on for hours asking these questions and forming alternative realities in their head.
The problem is, when you’re busy asking the wrong questions you never solve for the right questions that actually move you closer to getting over your ex. Today, learn how to let go of the questions that keep you stuck and start asking yourself the questions that actually help you get over your ex for good.
What to expect:
- Learn what why you’re asking the “what ifs”
- Understand the right questions to ask to get over your ex
- Become someone who’s more consumed with finding solutions vs spending all day in their head thinking about their ex and the “what ifs”
You’ve decided you no longer want to be in the relationship you’re in. Or, if you’re being honest, you’re still not even sure but “think” you don’t want to be in the relationship anymore. But how do you actually leave?
In today’s episode we talk about how to leave a relationship. We cover obstacles you may face and how to overcome them when deciding to leave your significant other.
What to expect:
- Learn what holds you back from leaving your relationship
- Understand the obstacles that may occur throughout the breakup process when you’re the one who is choosing to leave
- Become the type of individual who feels, peace, certainty, and confidence while going through a breakup
What if your ex really was meant to be? Believe it or not, as a breakup coach, I’ve had clients that got back together with their exes. In this episode, I bring in these Bravehearts to tell you how exactly they got their second chance. Sometimes all it takes is working on ourselves to create a new, better relationship with the same person. Tune in if you’ve believe there’s still something left with your ex—you won’t want to miss their stories!
Cheating is a touchy and intense topic for those who have gone through it. In this special episode, I bring on my clients who have been on both sides of the situation. This conversation unravels the topics of dealing with anger, the true meaning of forgiveness and how to let go of something even if you don’t believe what happened was right.
We always talk about the dumpee but not the dumper. The truth is, there is still plenty of pain in breaking up with someone, just as there is in being broken up with. In this special episode, I interview my former—and healed—clients who were the ones that got away. This episode talks about the perspective, personal stories, and regret that come with leaving someone you loved.
Living your life heartbroken is miserable. How are we supposed to be our best selves when we’re consumed with thoughts about someone else? As a breakup coach who has helped thousands, I am certain that healing is possible for everyone—but most of us aren’t given the right tools. Freedom from pain begins when you prioritize healing your heart.
What to expect:
· What being “over” someone means
· Understand what keeps you heartbroken
· Practices that will heal your heart faster than you ever imagined
What if you guaranteed yourself that after this breakup you were a brand new version of yourself? Many people do this during the new year #newyearnewyou. But what if that didn’t require a new year. What if simply required you to heal your heart in the most powerful, transformative way?
What to expect:
- Learn what a new you will create in your life
- Understand how to guarantee yourself a new you
- Become the new you, you always knew you could be
A part of heartbreak includes unfulfilled expectations. Expectations of yourself and expectations others had for you. During the holidays, these expectations are typically top of mind, as the year ends, family gathers (or not) and feelings are felt about everything that didn’t happen.
Learning to feel content and do I dare even say “proud” during this time is possible. Learn to stop focusing on what you don’t have so that you can focus on what you do.
What to expect:
- Learn how these expectations hold you back from feeling content and proud
- Understand what to do about expectations (from yourself or others)
- Become immune to unfulfilled expectations
When you’re heartbroken, you’re either stuck in the past or afraid of the future. But to heal, we have to move outside the chatter in our heads and into the moment we’re living right now. This episode, I’m going to make this process simple for you to practice.
What to expect:
- Learn how “being here now” will propel your healing
- How the subconscious brain keeps you from moving on
- How to “be here now” to find peace and calm in the midst of heartbreak
Do you feel like you need answers from your ex? Many of my clients suffer because they are “confused” about how their breakup went and wish for clarity. The truth is, trying to figure out every detail of your breakup is why you haven’t moved on. Let me show you how to reach peace without making things more complicated.
What to expect:
- Understand what is causing your confusion
- Why confusion worsens heartbreak & how to move on
- A fast & simple way to heal without relying on external validation
Whether you’ve been cheated on or cheated on your partner, this episode dissects what it is about cheating that keeps you from getting over your ex. Resentment and guilt are emotions that can eat you alive—but it doesn’t have to be like this.
What to expect:
- The root cause behind why people cheat
- How not healing from cheating can affect future relationships
- Clear steps on how to let go of you or your partner’s infidelity so you can finally move on
Dreading that feeling of loneliness during the holidays? It doesn’t seem possible to appreciate this magical time of year when you’re heartbroken. Tune into this episode and learn how to not let your breakup control your joy this season—or any other. What to expect: * Why being heartbroken during the holidays is actually an advantage * Learn how to feel good internally no matter the outside circumstances * Steps on how to heal from your breakup during the holidays this year
What do you believe are priorities in your life? Look at your calendar. Do your daily tasks match what you believe to be important? Most people will find that the things that matter to them (loved ones, self-care, hobbies) are pushed aside for other things & people. This episode will teach you what it means to invest in yourself and how it will change your life.
What to expect:
- How time, energy, effort, & money matter in a breakup
- Why getting over your ex is a priority
- Learn how to use the investment to get over your ex faster & for good
Do you ever wish that life was like the movies, where everything always works out in the end? Well, I’m here to tell you you’re one step away from a life that feels like your favorite movie: you have to identify as the “main character.”
Breakups (and hard times in general) make us feel so down about ourselves that we feel like we’re on the sidelines. This episode will teach you how to romanticize the life you have as a single person.
What to expect:
- How to prevent being a “side character” in life
- Why identifying as the “main character” is empowering
- How to live a life where everything works out for you
Emotions can feel overwhelming at times. But if we learn how to feel them instead of trying to “fix” them, we come out the other side as a healed person. If you’re tired of hearing that you need to “feel your feelings” without further explanation, this episode is for you.
What to expect:
- Four ways to feel your feelings so you can heal
- How to release emotions in 30 seconds or less
- Tips on being present + letting go of pain long-term
The #1 struggle I see in my clients is thinking their breakup should’ve gone differently. Without exception, this thought process always leads to more pain. In this episode, I’m going to teach you how to embrace the reality of your breakup so you can have peace of mind. Your healing process begins with acceptance.
What to expect:
- Why rejecting reality leads to pain
- How to begin accepting what has happened/how they acted
- Finding empowerment in the circumstances of your breakup
They say once you have awareness, half of the job is done. There are things that are holding you back from getting over your ex that you may not even recognize—and therefore can’t fix!
This episode is here to solve that problem for you. It isn’t as obvious as “I’m still in love with him” or “I need closure.” And your solution is as simple as one thought away.
What to expect:
- Learn what is holding you back from moving on
- Understand why your unchecked brain may be sabotaging you
- Leave knowing how to regain control of the healing process
https://www.dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
How would your actions change if you /knew/ you’d always get the result you wanted? Living in fear isn’t protecting you, it’s sheltering you.
This is a big part in getting over your ex—knowing that your life will 100% be better on the other side. I call it living with “calm confidence”: a mindset that whatever you want, you shall have. It’s the empowerment you need.
What to expect:
- Get practical examples of what “calm confidence” looks like
- Understand why it works
- Learn how to apply it to your heartbreak so you can heal
Have you gotten over your ex through google searches, shopping, or your friend’s advice? If you’re reading this, the answer is probably no. And it’s not your fault.
I’ve led thousands of people to handle heartbreak in a new way. Spoiler: time and distractions aren’t the answer. Today I brought on six of my clients who have gotten over their exes in three months or less. Their insight could be your answer.
What to expect:
- Six transformational stories
- Learn new ways to cope with your breakup
- Leave knowing what the next step is for you
www.dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Healing begins when we stop going in circles. To do that, you have to break the cycles with your ex that hurt you, like: breaking up/getting back together, blocking/unblocking their number, & hating/loving them.
Today we have Lisa, who talks about how she overcame the cycles that she thought were impossible to break.
What to expect:
* Learn how to get unstuck from negative behavior
* Recognize what keeps you making the same mistakes
* Find out what Lisa did to propel her forward & finally let go of her ex
www.dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Grief isn’t based on time—but practice. My client, Chelsea, is giving you insider info on her first four weeks of working with me, and why she felt the need for coaching just days after her breakup happened.
- What to expect:
Understand what grieving is in the context of a breakup - Learn to distinguish what kind of grief gets you better vs worse
- Develop the skill to let go of the negative emotions that run through you
www.dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Find Chelsea at: @clham_ on Instagram
Sometimes, life throws us chaos that we feel we don’t deserve. Maybe we don’t “deserve” bad things to happen to us, but these events work in our favor—if we let them.
Today, my client Jake tells his story on how his chaotic breakup turned out to be his path toward ultimate peace.
What to expect:
- Identify the difference between the pain of your breakup and the pain you create
- Learn how to rewrite negative stories so they empower you
- Become so peaceful that your ex’s actions don’t affect you
www.dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
My former client, Purvaja, is like you: she thought an ideal life meant having a partner. However, this need to find someone to be happy kept her from creating the life she really wanted.
In this interview, you’re going to learn how Purvaja threw away this belief and became the Braveheart she is.
What to expect:
- Be in love with your life w/o a partner
- Let go of the pressure to find someone and trust a higher power to figure it out
- Create calm confidence within & attract the people meant for you
www.dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Imagine how life would feel if we didn’t spend time worrying about the worst-case scenario. If you’re heartbroken, you’re already in pain—you don’t the extra anxiety.
Today, I’m interviewing my former client, Ellie, about her very first heartbreak. You will learn how she handled her breakup so that her pain would turn into power.
What to expect:
- How things got better for Ellie when life got “worse”
- Learn why investing in yourself leads to fearlessness
- Why Ellie is her best self & how you can be too
www.dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Breakups don’t have to be a drag. It can be the time where you find the best, most liberated part of yourself—and become a “Badass Braveheart.”
A “Badass Braveheart” is someone who has been heartbroken and manages to stand up taller than before. They are their own #1, self-loving and confident. Today, I’m teaching you how to be a BB.
What to expect:
Why being a badass = being over your ex
Learn how to show up like a BB in your everyday life
Leave knowing your next step towards your best self
Free 5 Day Training: www.lifecoachdorothy.com/5daychallenge
Get Over Your Ex in 3 Months or Less: www.lifecoachdorothy.com/getoveryourex
Everything you’ve been told about how to get over your ex is wrong. If you had the right tips, you’d have the right results. But I have good news: the real answers aren’t even complicated.
In today’s episode, I’m going to outline the three steps that have left 100% of my clients over their ex. You don’t have to wait for time to heal you; it’s all in your hands.
What to expect:
- Learn the 3 steps that have always succeeded in healing heartbreak
- Tips on how to apply them practically to your life—no matter how hurt you are
- Leave empowered knowing what next step you have to take toward your better future
Free 5 Day Training: www.lifecoachdorothy.com/5daychallenge
Get Over Your Ex in 3 Months or Less: www.lifecoachdorothy.com/getoveryourex
What is the “right” way your ex should act after a breakup? Your many answers to that question are the set of rules you’re expecting him or her to follow—and it’s keeping you heartbroken. So, in this episode, I’m going to help you break them. Unlike laws, there aren’t established “breakup rules.” Like laws, even if there were legitimate policies on how to act, people are going to disobey them anyway. That being said: in order to get over our exes, we have to learn to let go of these personal expectations for our greater peace of mind. Today, I’m going to make sure you leave knowing just how to do that. What to expect: * Learn what rules you’re holding onto during your breakup * Understand the workings of your subconscious brain and why it keeps you enforcing these “rules” * Become immune to your ex’s actions even when they break these said rules
In what I believe to be my best episode to date, I will be teaching you how to authentically feel like you’re over your ex—even when you don’t have the evidence to back it up yet.
This teaching is based on a piece of wisdom that shouldn’t be underestimated: you have to believe in something before you can see it. You may have heard this as the common phrase “fake it ’till you make it” but, slang or no slang, this stuff is SO real! When you’re sitting on your bed blowing more tissues than your body weight, it’s going to be hard to imagine getting over your ex. It all starts with the belief that you can, and if you don’t have that belief—you’re not getting over them.
But of course, I won’t leave you to it alone. In this episode, I’m going to make this sacred wisdom applicable and simple for your heartbreak journey. You might think right now you need the results before you can have the faith, but I’m here to show you—it’s actually backwards.
What to expect:
- Learn how to begin believing that you CAN get over your ex
- Understand your own resistance toward that belief & how to break it down
- Leave knowing what you have to think and feel in order to get over your ex—even if you have nothing so far to back it up!
Are you feeling out of control in your breakup because of your ex’s actions? Whether they were the one who ended things or you felt forced to break it of because of something they did, it’s common to feel helpless when you’re heartbroken. However, your feelings of helplessness aren’t giving you the empowerment you need.
In this episode, I will teach you how to take control in a situation that feels out of control—a lesson that will aid you through your lifetime. Through my coaching expertise, I’m going to show you that you actually have more control than you think, and how specific thought work is the only thing you need to do to recognize it yourself. I’ve coached numerous clients with varying breakup stories and found transformational revelations through understanding this concept.
What to expect:
- Learn why we feel out of control during our breakups
- Understand who is actually in control of getting over their ex and why
- Leave knowing how to take back your control and get the results you want
Creating a compelling reason to get over your ex is one of the most important pieces to getting over your ex. Without it you won’t succeed. Secondly, it’s important that your compelling reason isn’t “demotivating” meaning you feel deflated and defeated when you think about it. The difference between my successful bravehearts and my struggling bravehearts is simple, their compelling reason withstands the voice in their brain that wants to reach out to their ex, or stalk him on social media. It uplifts them in the most devastating moments of their heartbreak. Listen in today to learn how to create YOUR compelling reason to get over your ex.
In this episode:
- Learn what a compelling reason is
- Why it’s important
- How to create your own compelling reason to get over your ex that uplifts you in the darkest moments of your heartbreak
Sometimes our ex says things about us. Sometimes we interpret those words as “hurtful” or “mean”, we think we feel hurt and betrayed because of what they said. As an expert at breakups and helping women no longer feel hurt by what people say about them I was shocked I was feeling hurt by something my braveheart told me the other day. Listen in as I described my experience in correlation to an experience my client had with her ex to let go of and no longer feel hurt by what other people say about you.
In this episode:
- Why people say what they say
- How to redirect your hurt into relief, curiosity, and gratitude
- The exact steps to have the same transformation as my clients
Decision making is so important when it comes to rebuilding your self-confidence. In today’s episode, I share a sneak peek of the decision making content I provide in module 6 of the Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or LESS program. We talk about 3 main areas when it comes to learning the skill of decision making that will help you not only rebuild confidence in yourself but also show up and make NEW decisions and feel AMAZING about them.
In this episode:
- 3 important tips about making decisions
- How to create new results in your life by making new decisions
- How to feel good no matter what decision you make
The tools section of this had to remain in the program because without the context of the modules 1-5 the exercises wouldn’t make sense.
If you’d like to use the tools, I’d highly recommend getting signed up for the Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or LESS program at www.dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Many of us have heard that our worthiness is 100%, your productivity doesn’t equate to your worthiness. Something that hasn’t been talked about much is WANTING from inadequacy which is tied to how worthy YOU feel. In this episode, I share with you a sliver of what is shared in module 5 of the Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or LESS program.
www.dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
In this episode:
- The truths about worthiness that haven’t been shared
- The worthiness tree
- What’s keeping you from believing you’re enough, you’re worthy
As an expert at breakups, I see two forms of regret after a breakup occurs. The first kind is regret about how you behaved during the relationship, especially after you’ve learned everything I’ve taught you in the podcast. The second kind is regret about your decision to leave the relationship (if you’re the one who left). In today’s episode, I talk about how regret can be useful and how it can also (and more oftentimes) be used as punishment. I of course will finish up the episode giving you tangible next steps towards letting go of regret and using it as a tool in your future!
In this episode:
- The types of regret
- How regret can be useful
- How regret can be used as a punishment
- What to do with your regret
Many of my clients have brought up this topic of wanting to feel validated by others and their ex. I’m here to tell you two truths about external validation that you’ve never heard before and the specific techniques I use with my clients to let go of the graspiness. You’ve never once been externally validated nor is validation a problem. Learn more in today’s episode as I unpack this all with you.
In this episode:
- The two truths about external validation
- What to do about it
- Specific breakup related examples to help you apply it
If you’re anything like me, learning to trust after a horrific breakup was the biggest hurdle that seemed to last forever! After overcoming that hurdle I found that trust was the missing piece I needed for so many areas of my life. It changed EVERYTHING. Join me as I talk through the 2 types of trust you need to have prior to placing your trust on anyone else.
In this episode:
- What is trust?
- The types of trust.
- How to trust in a higher power, yourself, and others to be able to stand in your power again
We’ve all heard rejection is god’s way to redirect you. I’ll be giving you the real explanation of this along with, of course, the HOW do we implement this into our life though. By the end of this episode, you can and will be able to turn your rejection into curiosity and compassion for yourself and others. Which will leave you responding to rejection in a whole new way.
In this episode:
- What is rejection and how we typically respond to being rejected
- How to respond to rejection in a whole new way
- Transforming your rejection into curiosity and compassion
Loving yourself is not the equivalent of self-care. We can take all the actions in the world and do self-care routines but if we don’t change our brains we don’t change the feelings. Instead, you might find yourself forcing the self-care routines vs letting them come to you naturally and organically. Two of my clients recently mentioned that “dating someone will have to be better than what it’s like to hang out with myself” and getting to the place where you are so obsessed with you than any other relationship has some serious competition to your relationship with yourself is where you’re headed with true “loving yourself”.
In this episode:
- What does it mean to love yourself
- How do I know if I’m actually loving myself vs just doing the self-care actions
- 3 simple steps to loving yourself during your breakup
What he’s saying about you doesn’t have to be your truth. Just because he says "You don't make me a priority" "You're crazy, you need to stop acting like I'm the problem, you're the problem" "You're a hypocrite" "You were the one that messed up" "You're just seeking attention" -- doesn’t mean it’s your reality. Nor does it mean you need to convince him otherwise.
In this episode:
- Learn how to let him have his own thoughts about you without it affecting YOU
- Identify your true identity
- How to not let your past dictate your present or future
- Productive disagreement
Living your life just tiptoeing around your pain doesn’t work, it’s actually more miserable than it is to just experience the heartbreak of heartbreak. Learning to dive headfirst into this experience will transform your life by awakening the dull dead pain you’ve been carrying for far too long. On today’s episode, I bring on my client Megan who talks about her experience of living and LEANING into her heartbreaks of life and coming out on the other side fully HEALED. She rewrote so many stories to end old patterns, got over her ex, dated healed, bought a new home, and SO MUCH MORE!
In this episode:
- What it’s like to tip toe around your heartbreak pain
- How to live with “alive” pain
- Rewriting old stories and patterns, really doing the work
- Dating when healed
- From heartbroken and devastated to over her ex, new home, new boy, new vibes
Sign up for the Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program to be over your ex by September: https://www.dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
When we are in the thick of it it's hard to really even imagine what it would be like to truly get over your ex. It seems impossible even which can make you feel oh so defeated in life and 100% not like yourself. In this week’s episode hear from 5 bravehearts who are between week 5 and 12 of working together and their experience in recently getting over their ex.
In this episode:
- From 10 year relationship to divorce to a motivated, happy, badass in 6 weeks
- From a broken hearted birthday to grateful, confident in herself and over him to so magnetic and in love with herself that she attracted her ex back into her life in 10 weeks
- From calling her ex 30 times in a row and traumatized to uncovering and letting go of shame to living herself for the first time in 12 weeks
- From hung up on her ex from years past while in a relationship with her current boyfriend to letting go of anger and resentment from the past to getting engaged in 10 weeks
- From a back and forth and rocky relationship to no longer reacting to her emotions to standing in her power in all aspects of life including totally over her ex in 12 weeks
Sign up for the Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program to be over your ex by September: https://www.dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Hear from 5 of my clients who have worked with me from 9 months to a year and a half! We talk about what led them to coaching, who they are in comparison to who they used to be. The results they have created in their life BECAUSE of their heartbreak and their most important words of wisdom.
In this episode:
- Inspiration from fellow bravehearts
- How to believe you’ll get through this on purpose
- Making this the most transformational time of your life
- Words of wisdom from those who have gone through the thick of heartbreak
Info from speakers:
- Jessica - www.jessicaharkins.com
- Katie - @betweenourroots
- Michele - www.heartbreakcoachmichele.com @heartbreakcoachmichele
- Chelsey
- Tela - @tela_hill102
I think all of us can agree that going through a breakup tends to be a lot of high highs and low lows. We have a lot of emotions. This goes for people who are broken up with AS WELL as those who did the breaking up. What if I told you, that YOU had control over these? What if you weren’t at the effect of him calling or texting? What if you weren’t at the effect of him being or not being with another girl? What if you weren’t at the effect of hearing his name or seeing him in public?
In this episode:
- Why do we have an emotional rollercoaster during a breakup?
- How to not be at the effect of what other people do or don’t do
- The exact steps to get comfortable in the emotional rollercoaster and learn how to steer it in the direction you actually want to go in
I’m obsessed and totally in love with the braveheart community and the wonders I’ve seen through my group coaching that I include with my one on one clients. Healing while also watching others heal gives you connection, stability, security, and certainty. In today’s episode, I’ve outlined the problems we have that are keeping us from that kind of healing and what to do about it.
In this episode:
- The main problems that keep us from healing our heartbreak with others
- The transformation you can have when you heal with the group
- The steps to create your own break UP transformational experience
Notes: www.dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex ask any questions you might have at dorothy@dorothyabjohnson.com
“He’s not hurting” “He’s not upset” “He didn’t choose me” “He didn’t love me” “I’m always replaced” “He’s not the same person” -- All very real statements my bravehearts come to me with. They feel like its all SO true. And when they do, it creates so much pain for them. So I’ve created an episode that will be a GAME CHANGER for any of you who feel like your pain is so heavy. Let’s turn your pain into power!
In this episode:
- Why statements like “he’s not hurting” feel so true to you
- What to do with breakup truths
- How you’re not required to believe something that is seemingly true
- Next steps to turn your pain into your power
After a breakup rebuilding confidence is SO important. This week I’ve invited a special guest, expert confidence coach Christina Kwan to talk to us about confidence specifically related to after a breakup.
In this episode:
- Why is our confidence lowered after a breakup?
- Confidence, self-worth, self-esteem, what are the differences between them?
- Why is self-confidence so important?
- Next steps to help rebuild confidence after a breakup
Christina Kwan:
website: theroaduncovered.com
IG: @theroaduncovered
Oftentimes we leave closure up to someone else. We think we need to have a conversation with our ex but closure isn’t what we think it is. And we have the power to create it for ourselves. Stop giving away your power and learn how to close this chapter on your own without his input.
In this episode:
- Why we tend to give him the power when we’re looking for closure
- Why we don’t want his input in the closure discussion
- The exact steps to find closure for yourself without having a discussion with the ex
Why does it seem like we are in constant competition with our ex? We were once a team and now all of sudden I feel like I’m losing at life. Comparison is normal however I’m seeing with my clients that we use it against ourselves instead of to help us.
In this episode:
- Learn why we compete and compare ourselves with our ex
- The different types of comparison
- The exact steps to use comparison as a way to catapult yourself into the life results you actually want
When we choose to find limitations in our life we will find limitations. It’s so hard to see opportunities and possibilities in the midst of heartbreak but doing so can be the difference between you staying stuck in heartbreak or finding the life you’ve always wanted.
In this episode:
- Learn about opportunities vs limitations
- What’s on the other side of heartbreak
- How to focus and find your opportunities
I often hear people talking about others as “toxic” or a relationship was “toxic” when in reality there are no toxic people, only toxic thoughts. And when we choose to think of someone as toxic, we are only doing ourselves a disservice.
In this episode:
- Learn how there are no toxic humans just toxic thoughts
- How it hurts us to think about other humans in that way
- How to deal with “toxic” humans and relationships
Yay, you Bravehearts ask and I’m here to ANSWER. Today we are talking about frequently asked questions aka a question and answer session. I am here to serve you so therefore I wanted to answer some of your most burning breakup questions!
In this episode:
- I can’t break away from wanting him back, I’ve tried to change my thinking but I just can’t
- Revenge
- Closure
- Getting back together with your ex
- Reaching out during isolation
- Guilt of leaving
- He moves on quickly
- Forgiving myself
Today we talk about how having fun during your breakup journey is 1) possible and 2) super transformational. We explore a specific client example of this and how having fun helped her let go and move on from her suffering and feeling sorry for herself.
In this episode:
- How can we have fun during a breakup
- Why it’s so important to have fun during healing
- How having fun will speed up getting over your ex
Today we are talking about breakup lies that I’m seeing so many of us mistake for truth. They are common and oh so sneaky. Many of us think them, believe them, and mistake them as facts when in reality there is so much evidence for how false the lie actually is.
In this episode:
- What is a breakup lie
- How do I identify it and change it
- The steps to crack the lie so you can move on
There are two types of pain going on during heartbreak. We have clean pain which is the typical grief, sadness and loss we experience with heartbreak but I also see a secondary pain that is being compounded which holds us back from actually getting over our ex and moving on. That pain is called “dirty pain” where we tend to shame ourselves because we are even experiencing emotional suffering in the first place.
In this episode:
- What is clean pain vs dirty pain?
- How do I know if I’m experiencing dirty pain?
- What do I do about it?
Post-traumatic growth is something I talk about with my clients pretty often however it’s very relevant to what everyone is experiencing in the world right now so I wanted to make sure to cover it with all the Braveheart listeners. During times of trauma or crisis, we can come out of it stronger and more developed than prior to the event taking place. What would it be like if you used this heartbreak as one of those moments to up-level your own personal development?
FREE How to Get Over Your Ex 5 Day Training: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/5daychallenge/
In this episode:
- What is post-traumatic growth?
- How do we apply it to our situation?
- Why should we utilize post-traumatic growth?
Overall this is a time to rise up. In 3 to 4 months from now I want you to be STRONGER I want you to come out of this like OMG what did she do?!?! This is not a time for vacation, this is not time to buffer away our lives and just eat, drink, watch Netflix and chill. It’s time to step up, to provide value to the world, to create our goals, to overcome this all, together, as one. This is the time to CHANGE YOUR LIFE. This is the opportunity you’ve been looking for, you just haven’t seen it yet.
In this episode:
- How humans are handling chaos right now and why
- What obstacles do we have when there is chaos and heartbreak at the same time
- How do overcome each of those obstacles
- What you can be doing to better yourself during the pandemic
This topic is the most life-changing topic for my clients. This is what CHANGED the game for me after my breakup and it took me a YEAR to figure this out, and now you won't have to. Learning to forgive will be what changes it all for YOU. It has nothing to do with him, you don’t even have to have a conversation with him. Learn how to forgive and let go so that you can move on!
In this episode:
- What does it mean to forgive?
- Why forgiveness has nothing to do with your ex
- The exact steps to forgive?
- The 4 options you have when it comes to forgiveness
The reason this is so important is because we MUST show up as future you. Future you who is over her ex, who is THRIVING not just surviving, the woman who knows her worth, attracts what she wants in life, and makes decisions that benefit her long term not short term. The woman who isn’t constantly obsessing over her ex, stalking his and her social media. You are NOT That person.
Being committed and determined and dedicated to your growth will be the difference between incremental growth vs entire life transformation. It’ll be the difference between merely surviving this vs THRIVING.
In this episode:
- Why commitment and determination is so important during a breakup
- Why we don’t just automatically feeling that way
- How to do feel committed and determined ahead of time
Going through a breakup (and obviously divorce) costs money. Not only do your expenses double but you are also struggling with scarcity around your life in general, so living in financial scarcity can be an easy subconscious decision that leads to missing opportunities to make or save more. Join me as I discuss breakups, divorce, money and scarcity with my million dollar money coach Jill Wright.
In this episode:
- Why are we living in scarcity when going through a breakup?
- What to do when we feel like we don’t have any choice in the matter
- How do we afford coaching or really anything we want during a breakup?
- How to make financial decisions during the breakup
- How to see opportunities vs limitations during the breakup
Jill Wright is a life and money coach who helps women who are new entrepreneurs work through the barriers keeping them from making money in their business. She helps them track down all the excuses, all the drama and all the self-doubt and discover the MORE they were made for!
Book a free strategy session with her at https://jillwrightcoaching.com/
#JillTheMoneyCoach on Facebook
@JillWrightCoaching on Instagram
Should I leave the relationship or should I stay? Many individuals come to me confused, doubtful, and full of fear trying to make a decision because they think they’ll feel better either with or without this other human. What if I told you, you could make this decision and feel great no matter what? Let me teach you how!
In this episode:
- We talk about why you’re struggling to make this decision
- Why you’re feeling confused and in limbo
- How to make this decision and feel great no matter what
I found out my ex got married this weekend via an Instagram story. Gotta love the gram. It’s been almost 4 years and ultimately I’m so grateful for him and have so much love towards him and now his new wife, I was surprised that I had overwhelming emotions from so long ago, bubble up. I share this experience and a new concept that was created through this called “the grief bubble”.
In this episode:
- What a grief bubble is
- How to notice and become aware of a grief bubble before reacting to it
- How to experience a grief bubble
- How to release the grief bubble
I don’t know about you, but for me, I did everything I could to not be alone after my breakup. I was busy during the week and ensured I was away for the weekend so I wouldn’t be alone with my thoughts. I didn’t want to feel lonely. I hated feeling lonely and even felt it when I was in a crowd of people. Learn how to love your loneliness through this new experiment.
In this episode:
- Why do we hate being alone after a breakup?
- How can we learn to love our loneliness
- The learn to love your loneliness experiment
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Time has nothing to do with getting over your ex. Most people will say, “it’s just going to take some time for your heart to heal” but I’m here to tell you that’s ALL WRONG. After going through my own experience and spending years of helping women through breakups and divorce I know without a doubt time has nothing to do with it, but I know what does. Join me today as I explain this concept and what you can do about it.
In this episode:
- Why time has nothing to do with heartbreak
- What actually does have to do with heartbreak
- What to do instead of focusing on time
Valentine's day is neutral, what are you making it mean? Are you dreading the day? Are you content about the day? Are you excited about the day? How are you thinking and feeling about valentines day and what kind of experience will be created because of that? Learn how and why Valentine's day is neutral and how to create and decide your experience for the day AHEAD of time!
In this episode:
- How and why is valentines day neutral?
- What it means to create your own experience ahead of time
- The exact steps on how to decide YOUR experience today
- Client examples
This is one of my most frequently asked questions on consultations. We think that him moving on or him acting like everything is fine equates to him not hurting. But that’s simply not true.
In this episode:
- Why do we let how he’s coping dictate how we feel?
- A specific client example
- The exact steps on how to overcome this for yourself
Immediately following heartbreak we often just want to feel better, the pain coming from the end of the relationship can be so overbearing. But what if I told you that by switching “I just want to feel better” to something else, you would find so much relief?
In this episode:
- How to find relief in the overbearing emotions of heartbreak
- 4 steps to feel better
- My experience with feeling better
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Memories are sentences in our brain ABOUT our past. Not everyone will have the same thoughts about the past but after a breakup those thoughts and feelings that come with the past can be overwhelming. Often times we feel at the effect of our emotions in that moment but I promise you, YOU have control.
In this episode:
- Why the overwhelming memories of him flood in
- How to cope with those thoughts and feelings in the moment
- What to do about the memories
Why are we focused on him not giving you what you want? This isn’t about him, it’s about YOU. Out of all the things we could be wanting and creating in our life why are we focused on changing other people? Why is this a problem and what can we do to overcome our “wants”?
In this episode:
- What does wasting our wants mean?
- 3 biggest problems about “wanting”
- How to overcome wanting
I have many women that come to me who are experiencing an unexpected change in their life because of their heartbreak. They are left wondering, “how did I not see this coming?” “what was I thinking?” and it leads to them questioning and doubting their own judgment. Smart, successful, bomb AF women, questioning their own judgment. In today’s episode, I unwrap, what we tend to do this, why it’s a problem, and what to do about it.
In this episode:
- Learn why we question and doubt our judgment after heartbreak
- Why it’s a problem
- And what to do about it
There is a lot of information out there about why the no contact rule after a breakup is a good or a bad thing. The pros, the cons, the benefits, and why it works or doesn’t work. Here’s my two cents. Everyone is different. Everyone’s relationship is different. I don’t think it needs to be a blanket statement. I have some clients that cut everything off and have zero contact, and that works for them. I have other clients who remained friends and hang out in the same friend groups and that works for them. And other clients who have a mixture of the two. The secret is having an “ex communications protocol”.
In this episode:
- Learn the no contact rule you haven’t heard of before
- My secret “ex communications protocol”
- How to use the protocol for yourself
- Examples of the protocol in action
Nothing is worse than running into your ex unexpectedly, showing up all kinds of weird and awkward. So many of my clients live in the same area as their ex and know they may or may not run into them. However, they don’t create a plan for how they want to show up in this moment. SO, in today’s episode, I give you the step by step process I walk through with my clients to create a plan on purpose for running into their ex so they are 100% never caught off guard!
In this episode:
- What to do when you run into your ex
- Learn the 3 steps to create your plan for running into your ex
- Client example
Today is the first interview I’m launching on the How to Get Over Your Ex podcast! So excited! Alexander James and I talk through the book Conscious Uncoupling by Katherine Woodward Thomas and his personal experiencing using this book to breakup with his partner.
In this episode:
- What is conscious uncoupling?
- How can I use this in my breakup? What are the biggest takeaways from the book?
- What if it’s just me and my partner doesn’t want to read it?
- What is the best way to breakup with someone?
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In today’s episode, I cover the third phase (getting excited about life again) to getting over your ex in 90 days. I remember freaking out about my future after my breakup. The future I built was with him so how in the world could I be excited about what is in the future if there was for certain no way I’d have that future without him?
In this episode:
- Why it’s so important to build a future you’re obsessed with
- How to get excited about life again after a breakup
- Tactics and tools I used along my journey
In today’s episode, I cover the second phase (rebuilding your confidence and rewriting your breakup story) to getting over your ex in 90 days. Rewriting your place from a confident place is vital to not recreating your past over and over and over again. I give you the next steps to go and implement the second phase into your life so you can start the process of getting over your ex.
In this episode:
- What does it mean to rebuild confidence and rewrite your breakup story?
- How do I build confidence?
- How do I rewrite my breakup story so I don’t see old patterns in my present and future?
Getting over your ex doesn’t have to just take time. Time has nothing to do with it. In this three week series, I walk you through the three phases to getting over your ex in 90 days. This 3 phased approach is the process I take my clients through and today we take a deep dive into phase #1.
3 Phases:
- Taking back control of your emotions
- Rebuilding your confidence to rewrite your breakup story
- Getting excited about life again
In today’s episode, I cover the first phase with you and give you next steps to go and implement this first phase into your life so you can start the process of getting over your ex.
In this episode:
- What is the 3 phased approach to getting over your ex in 90 days
- What is emotional maturity/responsibility and why is it important
- How do we take back control of our emotions?
This past weekend I had the opportunity to speak at The Summit of Love. I did a working session on following your intuition to live a happier and healthier life. So in the past 4 months I've done a DEEP DIVE into what does that actually mean? And what can I provide to the audience in this area?
One of the biggest reasons people don’t listen to their intuition/inner voice is because of fear. Fear of failing, fear of uncertainty and ultimately it comes down to fear of feeling a negative emotion.
Are you willing to listen to the answers you already have?
In this episode:
- What is intuition/inner voice?
- Are you listening to the answers you already have?
- How do I overcome fear to listen and follow your intuition?
- 4 tangible solutions to overcoming fear and following your intuition
Your relationship with yourself is EVERYTHING. It’s the number one relationship you’ll have in your life. It’s vital to build that relationship with yourself for two reasons. 1) to rebuild your confidence with yourself 2) learn to love spending time alone.
If you’re anything like me, this was a new concept. I had built my life around someone else. I wasn't even aware that I didn't have true awareness around who I was, what I liked and what I disliked. I had no true sense of identity. I had to learn how to build that relationship with myself from scratch without the other person.
In this episode:
- Why it’s important to build a relationship with yourself
- The 6 components to building that relationship
- Examples on how to tangibly do that in your day to day life
If you’re anything like me during a breakup, you’ve jammed your schedule full of things to do to avoid being alone and feeling your loneliness. I would try to distract myself until I had to sleep so that I wouldn’t have to sit with my own thoughts by myself.
But what happens when the distractions stop working? Or we can’t use a distraction? We must sit with our thoughts and learn how to handle our negative and painful emotions.
Our life is 50% positive and 50% negative. Learning how to experience the 50% negative without avoiding, resisting and reacting to it is vital to your human experience on this earth.
We must learn how to FEEL an emotion, to process it in a way that doesn’t keep recreating our past and therefor eliminates the need to distract ourselves.
In this episode:
- The 50/50 experience and how it plays out in a breakup
- What you might be distracting yourself with now and don’t even realize
- What to do when you stop distracting yourself
- The step by step to FEEL an emotion
The day is here! I’m sharing my breakup story with all of you which includes a third person. Learn what I was making the new girl mean about me and how in reality our ex dating someone new has EVERYTHING to do with them and nothing to do with us.
Our brain’s default is to 1) compare and despair or 2) make it mean something about us or 3) both. How is this playing out in your life and what can we do about it?
Finding compassion for the human he is, experiencing the 50% negative and 50% positive was my way of doing this and what I teach my clients. Learn more about this process in today’s episode!
In this episode:
- What it really means when he/she is with someone else
- What we make it mean
- The compare and despair affect
- How to find compassion in the moment to feel better
Social media has forever changed heartbreak. It’s this added layer of complexity. We continue to look at his feed even when we know it’s not gonna make us feel better after the fact. Why?
We tend to scroll the social for two reasons 1) to avoid feeling negative emotion 2) we actually get a hit of dopamine when we look at his/her feed. It’s like an urge you get when you’ve given up sugar and flour for an extended period of time.
There are two methods I teach my clients to ensure scrolling his/her feed is left to a minimum.
In this episode:
- Why do we want to stalk his/her social media
- What happens when we do
- How to not stalk his social media
I get it. It’s so damn annoying.
Your brain is CONSUMED with him/her. It’s all you can think about… I would have paid big money to just mechanically erase him from my brain. I haven’t found that solution but I found something else that works!
Our brain has 60k-80k thoughts in a day, and the brain is an efficient organ. So when it can run on default it wants to and it will. So when someone used to be in our life every day, it’s easy for the brain to focus on that person not being in our life.
We must learn to manage our brain, to purposefully decide and rewire it to focus on the thoughts that serve us, that propel us forward in our future, instead of keeping us stuck in the past.
However, the #1 mistake I see people doing when attempting this is trying to paste a positive sticky note over a negative event or situation, that will not create lasting change. Learn how to find neutrality in your situation to then refocus your brain on what you can control, which is YOU.
In this episode:
- Why your brain can’t stop thinking about him/her
- How to find neutrality in your breakup to manager your mind to feel better
- Letting go of beliefs you no longer tolerate
- Find evidence to support a new story about your breakup
When I went through my earth-shattering breakup after a 7 year relationship I googled “how to get over my ex” for a full year. I did everything I could to figure out how to forgive and move on.
Everyone kept telling me it was just going to “take time”. After a year of waiting for the time to heal my heart I was over it.
That’s when I found out, time had nothing to do with it. It had everything to do with what I was making my breakup mean about me that was holding me back. I was angry and resentful which was making me show up angry and resentful in all facets of life which only created more anger and resentment.
The way we think creates the way we feel and the way we feel creates the way we show up in the world.
When I learned that what I was making the breakup mean about me was optional, everything changed and my anger and resentment melted away in a minute.
You too can have the same transformation, AWARENESS to the root cause of the problem is your first step to getting over him and moving on.
In this episode:
- Why you’re not over your ex yet
- Why time has nothing to do with it
- The first step you can take to getting over him/her
- Identifying as the person who’s already over their ex