Wholehearted: Love, Life + Intimacy: Recent Episodes
Isiah McKimmie
Weekly chats on relationships, love, sexuality and spirituality for women. Discover wholehearted sensuality, soulful intimacy and a spirit-led life with Relationship Therapist, Sexologist and Tantra teacher Isiah McKimmie.
I’ve been watching Corona’s journey for a while and love what she shares. But one of her posts* on Instagram a little while ago really caught my attention and prompted me to reach out. She spoke about divorce being the catalyst for an extraordinary life.
“Growth happens when we can lean in and embrace the discomfort and the unknown. No transformation occurs in the known.” CORONA BRADY
She was wonderful enough to accept my invitation to talk about that - and I’m especially grateful - because I think we’re all experiencing huge and unexpected changes in our lives right now.
Whether it’s divorce, a relationship breakdown, a lost job, business failure or unexpected life shift - I also believe that these things that we often think of as devastating at the time - can really propel our lives to somewhere different and much more amazing than we had planned.
Listen in as I talk with Corona, and she shares her journey through change.
Making the decision to divorce
What gets you through those early stages
Grieving for the hopes and dreams that we had for the future and how to cope with that
How to work through feeling like you’ve lost your identity
The importance of having a spiritual practice been while transitioning
I also ask Corona about her Kundalini yoga and the launch of her online school - which is such perfect timing for everyone who can’t get to their regular yoga session right now.
*CORONA’S POST:
At 37 I thought my life was over when I chose to make a scary but very brave decision that would change the whole course and direction of my life.
But today at 39 I realise my life is only beginning and I’m excited for this new chapter. Our bravery and courage will always be rewarded for!
It’s been an incredibly tough 2+ years (I’m not going to sugar coat it, I’ve literally walked through the fires of transformation) but I’m now out the other side and I’ve so much to share with you on topics such as conscious relationships, polarity in romantic relationships, when you know it’s time to leave a relationship, divorce/separation, the real inner work that’s required after the collapse of a marriage, grief, losing everything and beginning again, dealing with lies and deceit in relationship, opening yourself up to love again, living as an awakened empowered conscious woman, collapse of and rebuilding your foundations, working through sexual repression plus so much more!
Growth happens when we can lean in and embrace the discomfort and the unknown. No transformation occurs in the known.
Corona is a Holistic Life Coach & Mentor for Women, Mind Detox Therapist, Kundalini Level 2 Teacher, and Speaker! She is passionate about supporting and empowering high achieving corporate professionals, Women in Business, Entrepreneurs & Women in Leadership Roles. She is the founder and CEO of Energy For Life Academy where she takes busy professionals from burnout and overwhelm to energetic joyful lives in 8 weeks or less.
She is the creator of the Corona Brady Online Life Coaching App which you can download for free to your Apple and Android devices and she is the host of the Energy For Life Podcast show available on iTunes.
She is also the creator of a brand new online yoga and meditation school called Corona’s Online Kundalini School.
Website: https://coronabrady.com/
Free Webinar: https://joinnow.live/s/52LYNz
Free App: https://coronabrady.com/app/
Podcast Show: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/energy-for-life-podcast-with-corona-brady/id1278173651
Free Facebook Group:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/EnergyAwakenedForHighAchievingWomen
Kundalini Online School: https://coronabrady.com/kundalini-online-school/
Every now and then some alone time is great but social interactions are a massive part of our lives. Humans are wired for connection. What happens when we don’t get it? Well, my loves, that’s what many of us are now discovering. About 2.6 billion people on the planet are now in lock-down - that’s about one third of the world’s population. The reality is that for many of us, that means literally being alone, without in person interactions, or physical touch 24 hours a day. With the possibility of lockdown continuing for weeks still to come, I want to share some advice for surviving on your own. Footnote: I think we’ve all seen with the spread of coronavirus that our lives can change faster than we ever could have imagined. While much of that change has been difficult and painful - know that our lives can also change quickly in the opposite direction. Know that there is light at the end of this tunnel. Maybe you’re even feeling it now? This won’t last forever - and we still have so much to be grateful for. Do your best to take care of yourself right now. I truly believe this is an opportunity for us like no other. To follow my journey and see more of how I’m getting through lockdown, come on over and follow me on Insta as isiahmckimmie.sexologist. I love hearing from my podcast listers over there! Stay safe and take excellent care of you!
How many times have you thought ‘he’s driving me crazy’ or ‘she’s driving me crazy’ this week?
Living with your partner isn’t easy at the best of times.
Silly arguments often stem from minor things like leaving washing up in the sink or forgetting to put the toilet seat down.
But usually, these aren’t the end of the world.
However, when you’re stuck inside all day with your partner, having more interactions than usual, even the smallest thing can send you over the edge.
That, on top of financial pressure, uncertainty, disruption of routine, trying to homeschool kids and a change in roles can make everything feel like one giant shit show at the moment.
If you are struggling with your partner right now, I want you to know you’re not alone - many of my clients are experiencing heightened tensions - and I’m getting a LOT of people reach out to me to ask for help.
This is going to be make or break time for many relationships. I want this to be a “make it” time for you. A time that brings you even closer and shows you just how much you mean to each other.
Today I’m sharing with you some practical tips to help you navigate this rollercoaster of a time, like:
- Set boundaries on your time and attention
- Do your best to manage the kids together
- Try to keep structure and routine
- Be mindful of your own emotions + how you communicate
- Aim for empathy + understanding
- Continue to have ‘couple time’ together
- Reach out for other support
- Understand that your sex life might be affected
Stay safe and take excellent care of yourselves and each other!
We are all going to come out of this stronger than we ever thought possible.
Orgasms are great for everyone involved! They reduce stress, keep your skin healthy, improve circulation... oh and they feel amazing!
Some orgasms are explosive, others a light tingling sensation.
But there’s one orgasm that’s got everyone talking: The G-spot orgasm.
It’s likely at some point you would have heard about the G-spot, mainly because of all the speculation about whether it actually exists but one thing is for sure, once you’ll find it, you’ll never look back!
In this episode, I’ll be sharing:
- What exactly the G-spot is - and whether or not everyone has one
- How you find the G-spot
- My personal tips on experiencing G-spot pleasure, and
- How to experience the magic of a G-spot orgasm!
Whether you’re the owner of a G-spot or you love someone who is - this episode is going to change your life, my love!
Resources
Click HERE and HERE for details of the two vibrators I mention (available from www.Blissfor Women.com).
It's no secret that I believe in the power of Tantra to help us change our lives and have incredible intimacy.
Tantra has been my personal spiritual practice for over 10 years and I've used it to help transform the lives of thousands of people I've worked with.
One of the most powerful teachings of Tantra for me, has been the incredible feelings of love it's helped me open to - and the intimacy I see it create between couples.
First and foremost though, Tantra helps us connect more deeply to ourselves - so that we can connect more deeply with a partner.
In this episode I'm diving deep into how Tantra can help us deepen intimacy and facilitate our own growth and self-awareness.
Joining me is fellow Sexologist and Tantra Teacher, Waratah Kerlue.
Waratah works with men, women and couples to inspire greater fulfilment within intimacy, sex, love and life. She's a Sexologist, Intimacy Consultant and Couples Therapist, highly skilled in helping you to achieve contentment, fulfilment and empowerment within sexuality and intimacy.
Waratah takes a holistic approach to her work which is grounded in 20 years of mindfulness training, science-based advice and powerful practical tools. She's funny, wise and incredibly compassionate in her approach.
Listen in as Waratah and I discuss:
- The importance of starting with connection to ourselves
- The questions you need to ask on a first date to discover if someone is right for you
- Practical steps to discovering what you enjoy sexually
- The power of giving ourselves permission to ask for what we want in bed - and why that can actually be incredibly sexy
- How to talk to your partner about improving your relationship and sex life
I also open up about a recent experiment I did on another podcast
and
Waratah and I share our favourite Tantra practices that you can try with a partner tonight.
For more about Waratah check out her website or follow her on facebook @lovelifehealingtherapies.
One of the most common questions that I get asked as a Tantra teacher and sexologist is: "How can I increase my sexual desire"?
It might be that you’ve felt a steady decrease in desire, your partner has a higher sexual drive than you - or that your partner initiates sex at a time when you’re not really in the mood.
You might concentrating on something important, in the middle of cooking dinner or just at a point in your cycle where you’re not really feeling it.
I get it. I’ve been there too.
But there’s something powerful - and empowering about being able to connect to our sexual energy and cultivate it at will.
Sexual energy is life force energy. When we’re connected to it, we feel more energised and alive. We can engage more intimately with a partner and enjoy ourselves more sexually.
Today I want to share 5 of my favourite Tantra tools for igniting desire - even when you think you’re not in the mood or when you're caught off guard!
And, if after listening to this podcast, you want to learn more about Tantra and how it can help you create Wild Confidence, Loving Intimacy + Epic Pleasure, I invite you to join my latest online masterclass for women, Tantric Goddess.
We cover 8 powerful modules jam-packed with ancient wisdom and practical tools for the modern women.
When you join Tantric Goddess, you’re saying HECK YES to:
- Feeling WILDLY confident in bed
- Getting out of your head and into your body
- Creating deeper emotional INTIMACY in your relationships
- Igniting lasting sexual DESIRE; and
- Experiencing EPIC orgasms
Enrollment is OPEN until THIS Thursday, 5th of March only.
To find out more and join, head to isiah-mckimmie.com and go to the courses page OR come on over to Insta, find me as isiahmckimmie.sexologist and send me a DM to get your invite.
Hands up who ACTUALLY does their KEGELS?
I think that pelvic floor exercises like kegels are one of those things that as women, we all know we 'should' be doing… But we might not be.
Or, like a lot of women who get in touch with me, you might be doing them, but be unsure if you’re doing it right.
I have my own perspectives on pelvic floor exercises, as thankfully, they’ve always been part of my Tantra practice. In Tantra, we use pelvic floor exercises to help us BALANCE our lower chakras, CONNECT to and cultivate sexual energy and increase our PLEASURE during sex.
But, I wanted to get the low-down from someone who’s studied from a western perspective in this area too.
In this episode of Wholehearted, I’m talking to women’s Pelvic Floor physiotherapist, Anna Scammell, from The Whole Mother.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
- Exactly how we should be doing our kegel exercises according to an expert
- How we can tell if we’re doing them right or not
- The different ways we should take care of our pelvic floor before, during and after pregnancy - and why this matters even if we’re not planning on having kids.
- And you’ll also get Anna’s perspective on Vaginal eggs AND being able to weight lift coconuts!
LISTEN to the full episode THEN pass it onto your girlfriends, 'cause they need to hear this too!
FREE RESOURCES
Click HERE for the Free Pelvic Floor Guide mentioned in the podcast or below to find out more about Anna and the work she does :
Online Pregnancy Program: www.thepregnancyacademy.com.au
Instagram: @the.whole.mother
The very first time I walked into a Tantra workshop, I don’t think I was nervous. I don’t think I knew enough about Tantra to be nervous! I really didn’t know what Tantra was. I knew that it was spiritual - and that it had something to do with sex… but that was about it!
I would later learn that Tantra is a spiritual practice and a form of yoga and meditation.
Tantra totally changed my life and, in my journey to learn more about it, I ended up teaching.
Tantra is still part of what I do. Sometimes I share Tantra, but don’t necessarily call it Tantra.
I use it with my clients at times to help couples stop arguments or to reconnect in the bedroom again. It can help women learn to orgasm for the first time, help stop sex being painful or help women feel more confident in their sexuality.
When I mention Tantra to people - I get a whole lot of mixed responses.
Some people are excited and want to know more.
Some say ‘Oh Tantra - right, I’ve heard that Sting does Tantra and he has sex for 9 hours’.
I even once had a client say - ‘Omg, Tantra? Isn’t that group sex?’
So, if you’ve heard me mention Tantra and aren’t sure what it is - don’t worry.
In this episode I’m going to share:
- What exactly Tantra is (and clear up some of the myths and misconceptions around it)
- 6 ways Tantra can help you have mind-blowing sex
- How Tantra can help you have a more loving, connected, harmonious relationship
- And how you can use Tantra in your own life, right away.
I look forward to sharing this with you.
If you'd like to learn even more about Tantra, why not sign up for my next online Tantra workshop?
Our culture gives us a lot of screwed up messages around gender, intimacy and sex. I often focus on how these messages and our lack of education impact women and their relationship to their bodies and sex, but these messages affect men too - just in different ways.
I was super excited to explore this from a man’s perspective by interviewing Cam Fraser for this episode of Wholehearted.
Cam Fraser, or THE Cam Fraser as he’s known on Instagram is a Certified Professional Sex Coach, Certified Sexologist, Registered Counsellor, and Registered Tantric Yoga Teacher. His work integrates scientifically validated, medically accurate information about sexual health, with sacred sexuality teachings from the mystery traditions. As a coach, he helps men go beyond surface-level sex and into full-bodied, self-expressed, pleasure-oriented sexual experiences free of anxiety or shame.
In this episode Cam and I discuss:
- What Cam wishes women really understood about men and sex
- Why men need to engage with our cultural conditioning around masculinity for deeper sexual pleasure and fulfilling relationships
- How you can get a man to open up more emotionally
- How to start a conversation with your partner about learning Tantra and improving your sex life or letting him know if you want more foreplay.
I absolutely loved this conversation with Cam and I know you will too.
LISTEN in then pass it on to the MEN you love - they deserve to hear this too!
To follow or find out more about Cam's work: Instagram @thecamfraser | Kama Wellness
Have you ever found that you can’t stop THINKING during sex?
Many women struggle to ‘switch off’ and enjoy themselves when they’re making love.
They think about their performance, wonder if they’re doing the ‘right thing’, worry about their body - or even think about all the things they have to DO.
It stops you enjoying yourself and gets in the way of intimacy.
Today you’ll hear 5 practical tools that you can use TODAY to get out of your head and into your body in bed.
You know those people that just light YOU up when they walk into the room?
My guest today is one of those women.
I’ve been wanting to share her wisdom with you for the longest time!
Colleen Schell is a Fortune 500 leadership development expert turned love and intimacy coach. Her wisdom on emotional and erotic intelligence helps you have deeper connections, wider love and a more passionate, playful life.
She is currently writing a book called The Art of the Torrid Love Affair that gives people permission to enjoy, embrace, and learn from short term romantic relationships and master the magic of love and intimacy.
As someone who absolutely EMBODIES her mission to help people communicate more authentically, deeply and lovingly, she oozes sass, sex appeal, warmth and generosity.
I just know that if you’re someone who wants more meaningful connections with others, if you’re someone who wants to live a totally magic life - then you're going to LOVE my conversation with Colleen today.
On the episode you’ll hear:
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The vital role that YOU can play in deepening intimacy in your relationships
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How to share your desires with a love
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How to give feedback to a partner without causing an argument
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Colleen’s formula for powerful listening
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How to show up more authentically in your connection and communication
Get Colleen’s Desires Sharing Framework and other free resources HERE.
Follow her on Instagram HERE.
Feel like you might have dated, or be dating, a narcissist?
Or have you heard the term being used a LOT lately and wonder what it’s all about?
If you’ve ever encountered someone who appears grandiose, has an excessive need for praise, talks about themselves and their achievements a lot, but is also easily offended, there’s a good chance you’ve at least encountered a narcissist.
“Soul-destroying”, Emotionally abusive”, “Rollercoaster”, “Feel like you’re losing your mind”, “Walking on eggshells”… were just some of the words that you guys shared with me when I asked about your experiences dating narcissists.
Being in a relationship with a narcissist can be painful and damaging. We often don’t recognise the signs that we’re dating one until it’s too late.
In this episode, I’m sharing:
- The signs that someone is a narcissist
- The kind of person who will be most attracted to narcissists
- What you can do if find yourself in a relationship with a narcissist
- I’ll answer the question of whether you can ever have a happy relationship with a narcissist
- And I’ll share the telltale signs that show up early in dating a narcissist
Click HERE to access my blog and download the Signs You're Dating a Narcissist checklist.
What are relationship and intimacy expert’s relationships really like?
What challenges do they face? How do they make their relationship work?
They might not be what you think!
Real-life couple and intimacy coaches, Jodie Milton and Reece Stockhausen, started Practical Intimacy with the mission to transform how people do relationships. Through their one-on-one coaching practice, couple’s mentoring programs, online courses and blog, they help men and women all over the world to create deeply fulfilling intimacy, thriving long-term connection and a super hot sex life.
Their fresh and relatable approach has seen them work with clients across Australia and abroad, and their articles featured on sites such as The Huffington Post, Mind Body Green, Living Now and Raw Attraction.
Jodie and Reece join me on Wholehearted today to share:
- The challenges they face in their own relationship
- How they deal with (and overcome) disagreements
- The tools and strategies that make their relationship work
- How they take care of themselves while still having enough energy to give to their relationship
- Their fun unique take on initiating intimacy with each other!
If you’d like to find out more about Jodie and Reece and what they offer, you can reach out on their website, facebook or Insta.
We each give and receive love in different ways.
We often give love in the way we’d like to receive it - which is beautiful - but sometimes, that isn’t the way our partner gives love or feels most loved.
So what happens when we’re giving love in a way it isn’t understood?
Sometimes, two people can each be trying to give love to each other - but can both end up feeling unloved because they’re speaking two different love languages. You might even feel really frustrated, because you’re trying to do so much to show your partner that you love them, but for some reason, they still feel unloved!
Understanding the 5 Love Language, helps you understand and navigate these differences.
Understanding the different Love Languages has been so helpful for many couples that I work with. Many of them have found it pivotal in their relationship.
Instead of feeling unloved and uncared for, I’ve seen people suddenly realise their partner has been trying to show love for them all along. I’ve seen couples stop arguing about what they’re not doing for each other and finally understand each other’s needs better.
In this episode we’re going to cover:
- What are the 5 Love Languages? And how do you find yours?
- How can you show love to someone with each different Love Language?
- What should you do when you think your partner has a different Love Language to you?
- And how can you talk to your partner about your Love Language?
If you’re still unsure of your Love Language after listening to the episode, take the quiz here.
What do you do when your relationship gets a bit stale?
How can you bring the fun back when everything has become… routine?
That’s what my guest today found herself asking just a short time into her relationship.
In fact, she thought the relationship was probably over… until she found ways to bring the fun, excitement and playfulness back.
In today’s episode, I’m talking to Danielle Colley, founder of Your Good Life. Danielle is passionate about helping purpose driven women create extraordinary lives by inspiring confidence and self-worth in them so they can make empowered decisions about their careers, their relationships and their lives.
Fresh from Eloping in New York, she joins me as we share:
- Our meeting story and unique friendship
- How a relationship Bucket List saved Danielle’s relationship
- How she overcame feeling like she was sexually broken in her marriage to have a thriving partnership today
- Our tips for building confidence + loving your body
I’m sure you’re going to love Danielle as much as I do!
Listeners are invited to reach out to Danielle for a free 30 minute coaching session HERE or follow her on Insta at your.good.life.
Relationships are learned behaviours.
We often expect ourselves just to know what to do and get it right, but really, they’re skills that we learn.
What is normal, how to communicate, how to express your emotions to someone, whether to express your emotions at all, what kind of intimacy or affection to display are all things that we learn from our environment.
We learn these from our early caregivers, our family growing up, what we witness in the media, our wider culture and our past relationships.
Even those of you who did everything you could not to turn into your parents will still have learned about relationships from them! And you will have some patterns or traits that have carried through, because that’s just the way it works.
Our early relationships and even our past relationships have such a strong effect on us that they literally effect the way our brains are wired.
And then those impact the rest of our relationships going forward.
This wiring impacts how we show up in our relationships, how we communicate, react, deal with emotions and even our predisposition to conditions like anxiety and depression.
These past relationships and the ways our brains become wired, help shape what has become known in therapy as attachment style.
On today’s episode, you’re going to hear:
- How to work out which attachment style you have - and what your partner’s is
- Which attachment styles go together well - and which tend to have the most conflict
- Why most dating advice you hear is actually wrong - and how your attachment style explains what’s really going on instead.
- How you can adjust your attachment style for more harmonious relationships.
You guys know me. I’m a little bit woo-woo, BUT I’m also passionate about sharing proven advice and practical tools with you.
In today's episode, you’re going to get a lot of practical tools with just a little bit of woo to help you really embrace and step into your power as a sexual woman.
I’m talking to Sarah Marie Liddle about Erotic Identity Archetypes.
Some of you will remember Sarah from our episode All About Pleasure.
Sarah Marie Liddle is a writer, identity alchemist, teacher and pleasure advocate. Her work includes private sessions, online programs, and books.
I know that as you listen to us discuss each of the 5 erotic archetypes you’re going to recognise yourself, your strengths and you'll love the practical tools that will help you grow from where you are right now.
This Episode comes with a huge thank you to Bliss for Women.
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For a long time, I didn’t know what I wanted sexually.
I had very little idea of what turned me on.
I had some ideas… things I’d heard about that I wanted to try but I was far too shy to ask for it!
It was only after I began practicing Tantra and I felt like I was given permission to enjoy myself and express myself sexually that I started to feel okay with accepting pleasure and my sexual desires.
What I enjoy sexually has changed over time - it continues to change actually! I go through phases of really enjoying something and then kind of moving on a bit. Often it’s really dependent on my mood too!
I think one of the reasons I love helping women become sexually empowered so much is because I’m so aware of the whole range of possibilities there are for pleasure!
There’s a really common set of questions and statements I hear from women when we’re discussing feeling sexually empowered, confident and being well-pleasured. They go like this:
How do I tell my partner what I like?
I’m not even sure I know what I like.
How do you find this out? What do other women like?
I also hear women’s partners say things like:
I wish I knew what she really enjoys sexually. I try to ask her, but she says she doesn’t know. I just really want to know how to please her.*
In this episode of Wholehearted Love, Sex + Intimacy, I’m sharing advice and practical tips to help you discover epic pleasure. You’ll hear:
- The vital factors of a woman’s turn-on that you need to understand
- My 4 step formula to discover what you really enjoy
- Playful ways to explore what you enjoy with a partner - no awkward conversations involved
- Sexy suggestions from other women on what turns them on
This episode comes with a huge thank you to Bliss for Women….
Bliss for Women take a holistic approach to women’s sexuality, sexual wellness and menstrual health.
Bliss for Women stock pleasure-enhancing products and provide a unique shopping experience, erasing the taboo of shopping in an adult store.
Bliss for Women believe that women deserve a place where they can explore their own unique relationship to sex, desire and their bodies.
Bliss for Women is about you, your pleasure and your sexual wellness. Find out more at blissforwomen.com
What should you do if your man has sexual challenges, can’t ‘get it up’ or isn’t interested in sex? I’m sharing my personal experience with you.
Some of you will know that one of the experiences that led me to working in the field of sexuality, intimacy and relationships, was my time working as a Sexual Surrogate.
In this role, I worked intimately and practically with men experiencing sexual dysfunction such as low libido, premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction.
It was an incredible opportunity to see just how deeply sexuality impacts us as human beings, but also the professional possibilities for helping people. I struggle to put into words how profound, insightful and rewarding that work was for me.
Although I mostly work with women and couples now, it's still something close to my heart.
I receive a LOT of questions from women now on how to support their men with sexual challenges including low desire, ED and PE.
55% of men will have experienced a sexual dysfunction within the last 12 months. (Which means a significant portion of women will encounter these issues also.)
Our culture places high expectations on men to be sexually proficient and capable at all times.
When men experience sexual challenges of any kind, they often report it bringing into question their sense of worth and their masculinity.
They often express feeling:
- Shame/embarrassment
- Frustration/anger
- Disappointment in themselves
- Hopelessness/despair
Our culture also places an expectation on women to feel desired and sought-after.
When a woman’s partner is experiencing sexual challenges, it can sometimes lead her to question her own desirability (even though this usually has little to do with what’s going on!)
Women often experience a range of thoughts and emotions when their partner experiences sexual challenges, such as:
Feeling like they don’t know what to do to help
- Wanting to ignore the problem so they don’t embarrass their partner
- Frustration
- Rejection
- Helplessness
- Questioning their own attractiveness
How a partner responds to a sexual dysfunction can make a big difference to what happens going forward.
For some men, the negative reaction of a partner increases their anxiety about it happening again - almost guaranteeing it does.
But there are helpful ways a partner can respond and there are steps a man can take to overcome these sexual challenges.
In this episode of Wholehearted Love, Sex + Intimacy, you’ll hear:
- The 4 most common sexual challenges men experience
- The client who though he had premature ejaculation, but was actually experiencing something very different
- How men’s partners can respond in a way that’s supportive and can help a man recover faster
- The underlying causes of each sexual dysfunction
- Practical steps you need to take to fix them
Like any sexual challenge, these issues aren’t something you need to deal with alone.
If you’re ready to move forward to more satisfying, loving sex, book a call with Isiah.
It’s no secret the dating game has changed pretty drastically over the last decade.
Most of us are familiar with (or perhaps a little too familiar with) online dating and swiping apps.
It feels like norms and expectations are changing. Fast. Especially for people who might suddenly find themselves back in the dating pool after a long break.
And let’s be honest, dating was always complicated enough anyway.
In this episode of Wholehearted Love, Sex + Intimacy, I’m joined by my co-host Bec, where we talk about getting back to dating, what to consider following the emergence of the online dating culture and important questions like:
- Is it okay to lie about your age on your profile?
- Is making a list of what you want in a partner really helpful?
- What can you do to stay safe when dating?
- What are the dating red flags that should have you running?
- Is someone being super into you actually a bad thing?
Join us as we dive into dating!
My love,
Breaking up is never easy.
We experience all kinds of emotions – grief, anger, sadness, guilt, shame.
We sometimes begin to doubt ourselves and question our abilities. Perhaps wondering if we’re truly lovable. Or if we are capable of the kind of loving, satisfying, long-term relationship that we want.
I know I experienced all of these responses.
Especially after I’d become a therapist, I felt that perhaps I’d failed for having my relationship end.
Of course, that’s not how it works. No relationship is ever a ‘failure’, they’re all an opportunity for us to learn and grow.
I’ve also agonised over whether I was making the right decision.
Last week, we shared the questions you need to ask yourself before you decide to break up with someone. If you’re still in the process of deciding whether breaking up is the right thing for you, I highly recommend you listen to this episode.
We wanted to follow on this week with how you nurture, love and support yourself if that’s what ends up happening.
If you’re going through a break up right now, or have recently been through one, we want you to know, we see you and we feel you. We’ve been there too.
And we know it’s one of the most painful journeys you can go through.
It doesn’t matter how long you were with someone, sometimes break up affects us deeply.
In this episode, Bec and I share our own personal stories and the things that we know can get you through.
You’ll hear:
- The 3 things that got me through the hardest break up of my life
- Why the pain you might feel isn’t just in your head
- How long it ‘should’ take you to recover
- The vital role forgiveness plays in moving forward
- How to tell when it’s the right time to start dating again
Trust us when we say that something even more perfect for you is ahead.
You deserve great love.
And remember, that it’s okay to get support too. If you need someone to talk to about your break up, reach out to me here.
Sending love to your precious heart,
Isiah. x x
It took me months to decide to leave my last relationship.
There was so much good in it.
For a long time, I had thought I would spend the rest of my life with him.
I’d spent many phone calls with girlfriends discussing the situation, sessions with my therapist becoming clear and many attempts at conversation with my partner.
But clearly, there were things that weren’t working.
I thought if perhaps I tried harder… Or asked for what I needed in a different way… Or maybe if I just came to terms with him not being ‘perfect’… it might work.
But eventually I had to make the decision I’d known in my guts for months.
Our relationship was never going to be what I wanted it to be. And there were things missing that I couldn’t do without.
It still wasn’t easy.
If you’ve ever been sitting on the fence of leaving a relationship, you’ll know what I’m talking about.
No one gets into a relationship wanting it to end.
You invest so much, you wonder if you should just stay.
And then there’s other things…
Shame, not wanting to tell people it’s over, the hope that if you just try a little bit harder… and the practical things like the house, finances, the kids.
Last week Bec and I shared the 4 things that determine with 90% accuracy whether a relationship will succeed or fail and the 6 behaviours a happy, healthy relationship needs to survive.
So when the positive signs are missing… but the negatives are there in spades… How do you tell when it’s time to call it a day?
It’s a major myth that couples come to couples therapy to work on their relationship.
Many couples I begin working with in therapy don’t know whether they want to stay together when they first come to see me.
I help them through the process of determining whether they want to try to overcome the challenges and distance they’re facing.
In this episode, I’m sharing the questions and suggestions that I share with my clients who are making this decision… And the hard questions that we’ve had to ask ourselves too.
If you’re in the process of making this decision at the moment, our hearts are with you. We know it’s tough.
Should you make this decision, tune in again for next week’s episode, when we'll be talking about how you recover and begin to move forward with your life again.
Love & Light,
Isiah & Bec
I have to be honest… I feel a bit embarrassed about the degree to which I totally nerded out in this week’s podcast.
We wanted to bring you an episode sharing relationship tips that were totally grounded in facts and some of the best relationship research we have available.
It’s based on over 40 years of research by therapists who studied couples in a ‘love lab’. This research forms a large basis of my work with couples. It can predict with 90% accuracy which relationships will fail and which will succeed - without making changes or getting support through therapy.
But, I might have gone a bit far.
I’m not quite sure my co-host, Bec knew how to respond!
Not only will you get the facts and statistics, you’ll also get proven, practical strategies for avoiding these mistakes and learn what to do instead so you can have a rocking, thriving, lasting relationship.
In this episode of Wholehearted Love, S-x + Intimacy, you’ll discover:
- Which 4 communication strategies determine with 90% accuracy whether a relationship will succeed or fail
- This 1 thing that men do that means their relationship has an 81% chance of self-destructing
- What small trick happy couples do 86% of the time and couples destined for break-up do only 33% of the time
- 6 behaviours happy, healthy relationships need to survive
We need skills and love for our relationships to thrive.
I quite honestly believe they need to teach this stuff in schools. It can make such a powerful difference to our lives.
This is our most personal episode so far…
We get raw, we get open…we get vulnerable.
- If you’ve been hurt in a past relationship
- If you have difficulty trusting
- If you know you struggle to open up
- Or if you want closer connections in your life…
Know that you’re not alone. This episode is for you.
Brene Brown’s research has shown that vulnerability is the glue that holds relationships together.
But we completely understand that being vulnerable is hard, REALLY hard.
We’ve had a long journey to being vulnerable too and we still need to remind ourselves to practice vulnerability, to allow our walls to come down and our hearts to open.
We don’t always get it right.
Being vulnerable opens you up to pain, but it also opens you up to greater joy, to greater love and more meaningful relationships.
We quite simply can’t have intimacy without vulnerability.
So how do you tear down your walls and let more love in?
Join us for this intimate conversation as we share:
- What led us to want to protect ourselves (and you’ll hear us both cry as we do)
- The moment that changed Isiah’s life and relationships
- What Bec’s friend said that made her realise she’s not as open and vulnerable as she thought
- The consequences of shutting down your vulnerability and what can be gained by embracing it.
- How you can take down the walls (that we all build to protect ourselves) and let more love in
Connection is what gives purpose and meaning to our lives.
You are worthy of love and belonging.
We hope this episode helps break down those walls you may have built up.
We hope it helps you remember to always be kind to yourself, embrace your imperfections and embrace them in others.
Be authentically you… it leads to deeper connections.
And practice vulnerability - the irony is that is actually feels good when we’re vulnerable.
The more you practice anything, the better you get. Pretty soon, you’ll be a boss of vulnerability and master of your whole-hearted life!
With deep love and gratitude,
Isiah + Bec.xx
Links related to this episode:
We recommend checking out Brene Brown's TedX Talk - The Power of Vulnerability.
We’d love to hear from you:
How do you feel about vulnerability?
Was there a moment in your life that led you to put your walls up?
I remember the first time I kissed a woman.
It’s actually not the kiss that I remember most - it’s how I felt afterwards.
Confused.
Worried.
Embarrassed.
Excited.
Because, to borrow from Katie Perry: I kissed a girl. And I liked it.
I liked it a lot, you guys.
But I had always - and still do - consider myself heterosexual.
So how does that work?
We recently received a question from a woman who shared similar feelings about her sexual fantasies involving other women. She’s always considered herself heterosexual and only been in relationships with men, but she’s now wondering what these fantasies about women mean.
So in this episode of Wholehearted: Love Sex + Intimacy – The Podcast, we wanted to address her concerns, which are really common.
If you’ve also found yourself sexually attracted to the same sex, maybe watching lesbian porn and wondered ‘what does this mean???’ We’re answering it all;
We’ll talk about:
- How common it is…
- Why it happens
- Why more for women than for men?
- Is it normal?
- Does it mean I’m a lesbian?
- How do I feel okay with these fantasies or attractions?
- How societal conditioning has influenced how we see these desires?
I open up about my own experiences of being with women - and what it means for my own relationships.
Enjoy this episode, knowing you are DEFINITELY NOT ALONE!
It’s becoming a bit of a theme on the podcast, but our take home message is that we believe:
- Love who you love
- It’s time to break down the rigid labels and boxes we’ve been given
- Find what brings you pleasure, joy and love and give yourself permission to explore it wholeheartedly!
We think this quote from Kesha sums it up perfectly:
“I love people. It’s not about a gender. It’s just about the spirit that exudes from that other person you’re with.”
Have a topic you’d like us to cover? Let us know in the comments.
Am I in a Sex Rut and how do I get out of it?
Can you relate to the story of so many couples that have walked through my door?
Sex started out fun and exciting (and on a regular basis), but then life happened…
You got busy, tired and very familiar with each other. And you’ve now found yourself feeling a little lack-lustre in the bedroom.
Perhaps, like many of the couples I work with, you’ve noticed:
- Sex doesn’t happen very often any more
- You’re tired or lacking enthusiasm when you do have it
- If you’re honest, it’s not very exciting
- When you do have sex, it tends to happen in exactly the same way each time
- You’d like to find ways to bring the PASSION and PLAYFULNESS back
You, my friend, may be experiencing what we call a ‘sex rut’.
It’s common and you’re normal.
Sex ruts can even happen for happy couples and couples who once considered themselves pretty ‘adventurous’ in this area.
In this episode of Wholehearted: Love Sex + Intimacy – The Podcast**, we’re talking about signs you’re in a sex rut - but most importantly, how you can get out.
Helping couples rediscover fun, playfulness and lasting desire in the bedroom is something Isiah does every day (with incredible results!).
We’ll be sharing 10 ways to get out of a Sex Rut and rediscover playful, loving, satisfying sex. Yes, it’s possible!
We also share:
- The first step you must take if you want to get out of a sex rut
- The science of adding fun and playfulness back to your bedroom
- The simple step that helps you increase your chance of reaching orgasm
- One of Isiah’s favourite practical exercises to help you discover what you enjoy sexually (her coaching clients love this exercise!)
Listen in as Isiah shares 10 WAYS TO GET YOURSELF OUT OF THE SEX RUT.
For a copy of her FREE Resource check out this episode on her website's blog page.
Is there anyone who hasn’t argued with their spouse about chores? I need to know your secret!
It’s one of the top issues couples argue about and it comes up all the time in therapy.
This week on Wholehearted: Love, Sex + Intimacy, I answer a question from a woman who says her partner STILL expects so much of her around the house, even though she earns more money.
I shared some helpful statistics with her that every relationship can benefit from.
I also answer questions from:
- A husband wishing his wife wanted more foreplay
- A woman who thinks her new partner might be gay
We all have questions about relationships and intimacy. We’ve all felt stuck and we all benefit from support sometimes.
If there’s something you would like to ask me, submit your question anonymously here and I’ll do my best to answer it in our next monthly Q&A.
Over the last few weeks on Wholehearted: Love Sex + Intimacy – The Podcast we’ve been talking about self-love and body image, because we know what a huge impact this can have on a woman’s confidence, mental health, her relationships and intimacy.
I’m really passionate about women loving and accepting ALL of themselves and because, for me, that includes ALL of their bodies as well, we are going to talk about Vulvas and Vaginas today.
And this area - women’s genitals - is an area that we don’t really talk about – but they can really impact upon a woman’s confidence and pleasure.
So, we’re going to go there ...
We’ll talk terminology, because it is really empowering when we know the correct names and parts of ourselves.
We also talk labiaplasty and its rise in popularity.
We talk to some amazing women and men and find out how they feel about Vulvas and Vaginas and I hope after listening to this episode you feel more confident, more appreciative and more in love with your Vulva and your Vagina… after all they are part of you, and you are simply magnificent and perfect as you are.
In this episode:
We talk to some ladies (thanks to Rebecca, Karenna, Em, Richelle, Sarah, Trudi and Nathalie for being so open and willing to share) and ask;
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How do you feel about your vulva/vagina?
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Has this changed over time?
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What are some of the worries/concerns you’ve had about your vulva/vagina?
We get a man’s perspective on things;
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What are men's real thoughts about going down on a lady? Do they find it gross or a turn on?
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Do you care how a vulva looks, tastes and smells?
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How well do you think you know these parts of a woman's body, really?
And we also get a Professional Opinion asking:
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What is ‘normal’?
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Do our genitals change as we age?
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How does childbirth impact a woman’s vagina?
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What do you want women to know about their genitals?
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This week’s question is:
Question: What’s one word you’d use to describe your vagina?
Explore these Resources Here’s the video we promised explaining all the terms and anatomy of vulvas – this is out of Isiah’s online course for women Epic Os.
https://vimeo.com/258917126
We also recommend these empowering resources:
The Labia Library – a photo gallery of vulvas
The Vulva Gallery – an incredible Instagram celebrating the diversity of women’s vulvas
101 Vagina – A coffee table book showing the variety of vulvas
Betty Dodson explaining the internal structures of the clitoris
A big thanks We want to thank the following professionals for sharing their time and wisdom:
Anna Scammell M.Clin Physio (Continence & Women’s Health): The Whole Mother
Kathy Fray
Jeremy Lee Shrub
Kayleen Maree
Richelle Menzies
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For decades I hated my body and struggled with self confidence.
You might not know this about me, but I have a skin disease called Vitiligo. It leaves big white patches on my skin – all over my arms, legs and body.
For most of my life, I never thought of myself as beautiful.
I felt like the ugly duckling and wondered how anyone would ever truly love or be attracted to me.
It impacted my confidence, my relationships - and intimacy.
Because, let’s face it - self love is the foundation of ALL our other relationships.
I believe that every woman deserves to feel comfortable, confident and sexy in her own skin.
And I believe it is possible for every woman - regardless of our size, shape, colour or age.
Self-love and confidence aren’t things that we have or don’t have - they're things we can CULTIVATE.
In this episode of Wholehearted: Love Sex + Intimacy we get personal…
Podcast Producer, Bec Dent, and I share the insights we gathered during this Self Love Series and walk you through our journeys to loving ourselves and our bodies.
Every woman is on a journey to fall in love with themselves.
Our goal from this episode, is to share our own stories and remind you, you are not alone.
You’re not necessarily born loving your body, or loving yourself.
And your relationship with yourself can change throughout your life. But it’s not the changes that matter- it’s how you feel about yourself through them.
Our aim is to remind you of how amazing you are and help you find ways to practice radical self love and remember your ‘enoughness’ in every moment… in this moment, just as you are.
We hope you enjoy this episode and can learn to love yourself even more after hearing it.
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This week’s question is: What's the one thing you'll do today to cultivate your confidence and self love?
In this episode of Wholehearted: Love Sex + Intimacy – The Podcast, we continue our self love and body love series.
Joining me today is Elysia Anketell who has dedicated her life to authentic expression, creativity, connection and owning and loving herself in all of her shades, shadows and colours. Raw vulnerability and openness encapsulate all that Elysia does, advocating for women to increase their self confidence, quieten their negative self talk and be more authentically themselves - all through her program and community; The Body Love Collective.
Today she's sharing her journey from body loathing to body love and how we have the ability to be our most full powered selves. Join us as we aim to help you remember your worthiness and beauty…exactly as you are in this moment.
In this episode, we discuss:
- What is beauty?
- Where we get the belief that we’re not beautiful or that our body isn’t ok the way it is?
- How societal body standards and how we see ourselves can be destructive to our relationships
- Social media - not exposing yourself to the things that make you feel like crap
- How the messages we get, not just from the media, but our mothers and friends affect us
- How letting an ‘active inner critic’ can lead to us making decisions that can hold us back
- How you can become the ‘CEO of your own needs'
- How altering our language and conversations in our daily lives can improve our body confidence and love
- Building your sisterhood connections
- How to cultivate compassion, love and admiration for yourself
- How you can help your partner who is struggling with their own body love
- How you can learn to receive your partner's love and appreciation for your body
Want more?
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This week’s question is:
Starting with just one thing - what about your body do you love??
Explore these Resources
In this episode, we mentioned the following resources:
Instagram: @thebodylove_co
Personal: @_thisiselysia
www.thebodylovecollective.com
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In this episode of Wholehearted: Love Sex + Intimacy – The Podcast**, Gina Swire, a truly inspiring self love expert, speaker, author, mentor and manifesting queen joins me to share her journey to loving herself one million percent and shares her tips on how you can too!
Gina is on a global mission to help a billion women fall madly in love with themselves. After struggling with her own self-worth and image issues, Gina quit her career as a plus-sized model at the height of her fame in order to embark on her own journey of transformation.
Today she travels the world leading live workshops, hosting retreats, coaching private clients, and speaking on stages from Burning Man to Bali Spirit festival, as she inspires women everywhere to love themselves, love their lives and use it all to do good for the planet.
This episode explores:
- What Self-Love is
- The simplicity of self love and how you can practice it whilst you go about your busy life
- Why it’s important to be kinder to ourselves
- That voice in your head… is it effective or ineffective for your life?
- Body image and the shame categories we have for our appearance
- Gina’s experience modelling and the way women don’t feel enough
- The importance of taking compliments
- How to play the ‘Appreciation Game’
- Tips for how to realise your ‘enoughness’ just as you are
- Remembering ‘should-ing’ yourself (saying the word should about you/ your behaviour) is giving yourself a hard time. And you need to be kinder to yourself.
We hope you enjoy this episode and can learn to love yourself even more after hearing it.
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This week’s question is: Who in your life would you want to share this message with?
Explore these Resources
Gina’s work has been featured in Vogue Magazine, Elephant Journal, Yoga Guide Magazine, Psychologies magazine, The love challenge. You can learn more about Gina and become a part of this self love movement at www.ginaswire.com or follow her on socials.
Gina Swire | gina@ginaswire.com
IG @ginaswire
FB @ginaswire and https://www.facebook.com/groups/infiniteselflovesociety/
Tips to Realise Your ‘Enoughness’:
- Give yourself Time and Space- just for you.
- Have a mindset shift… that you are ALREADY
- Spend time with people that lift you up and that model the changes you want to make in yourself.
- Have a social media clear out or detox; look at the accounts you see the most...and just ask yourself ‘do I feel good?’ And if it doesn’t – lovingly get rid (unfollow). And follow positive pages/ people that make you feel good/positive and show up as the kind of person that you want to show up as.
- Gratitude Journal and/ or daily forgiveness practice.
- Practice ‘Bliss-ipline’- do things daily that actually make you feel good.
- Give yourself 15 minutes a day (at least) to practice self-love. You inspire people in the process.
- Give yourself permission and let yourself celebrate the things you are good at – you give other people permission to do the same!
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Please visit our Contact Page and let us know how we can help you today!
In this episode of Wholehearted: Love Sex + Intimacy – The Podcast**, we are joined by the wonderful Susana Frioni.
Susana has been vocal in the space of sex, intimacy and desire for so long starting the ‘Love, Sex, Desire’ podcast five years ago. We've been on each others' podcasts before - sharing similar views on the need for us all to be more open when it comes to talking about relationships, sex and intimacy.
Susana is a podcaster, personal coach and embodiment teacher igniting women through erotic empowerment via her brand LOVE SEX DESIRE. With an audience in over 190 countries, Susana produces and hosts a weekly podcast series alongside her Sacred Dance events and online program, Dance Yourself Free.
She joins me for this podcast to discuss how you can reconnect to your sexuality, innate wisdom and learn how to prioritise yourself to fuel all areas of your life.
In this episode, we discuss:
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How people reacted to Susana starting her podcast and being so open about talking about Love, Sex and Desire. And how Susana’s journey evolved to get to this point.
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The need for all of us to be more open about these topics.
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How intimacy with self, intimacy with others and intimacy with life are core.
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Dance as a modality to intimacy and connection to your sexuality and innate wisdom.
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Seeing sex and relationships as skills that you need to learn, you’re not just born with the ability to be a master of them. Give yourself a break and time to develop these skills.
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You as a ‘Woman, Lover, Mother’ and how by prioritising yourself, filling your own cup, taking care of yourself and cultivating yourself as an individual without all the other labels or roles that you play.
Want to learn more?
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This week's question:
What do you wish you'd be told about sex and relationships when you were growing up? What would you tell your younger self now?
Explore these Resources
In this episode, we mentioned the following resources:
Susana’s Website
The Love Sex Desire Podcast Series
E: susana@susanafrioni.com
In this episode of Wholehearted: Love Sex + Intimacy – The Podcast, we open the floor to you, our amazing listeners, and answer the burning questions you've submitted on the website or through our Facebook page.
We can’t get to them all in this episode, but there will be many more Q & A episodes to come. So if there is something you would like to ask me (+ it can be anonymous) click this link.
Today, we discuss:
- how you can take more control in the bedroom,
- how you can increase your desire for sex when the feeling fades and (a big one)…
- "Do I stay quiet to keep the peace or voice my concerns with my partner?"!
Thanks for listening, we hope you enjoy it.
Isiah + Bec. x
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This week's question:
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In this episode of Wholehearted: Love Sex + Intimacy – The Podcast**, I asked one of my team members, Bec Dent, to ask the burning questions the average person has around open relationships and how to navigate them.
Our guests, Richelle and Jeremy are relationship experts, but have been in numerous open relationships themselves.
They offer a very candid insight into their transition into open relationships. They explain how they first knew this was the type of alternative relationship they would like to pursue and they share the pleasure and pitfalls of this choice.
We also get their top tips for making an open relationship work well and ask:
- How do you take care of everyone’s needs in this kind of relationship?
- How do you keep emotion separate? Can it really be JUST sex?
- What is ethical non-monogamy?
- How were your relationships affected by introducing other people into them?
Listen in and enjoy!
Our favorite part of recording a live podcast each week is participating in the great conversations that happen on our live chat, on social media, and in our comments section. So be sure to connect on our blog page, facebook group or on Insta and answer me this:
This week’s question is:
Question: Do you think an open relationship can just be sex with no emotional connection?
Thanks to Richelle and Jeremy for being so incredibly open. If you'd like to know more about them and the work they do check out the following resources:
Jeremy's website
Richelle's website
And a special thank you to Bec Dent for being a great co-host.
How would you feel if the person you loved wanted a relationship with someone else?
In this episode of Wholehearted: Love Sex + Intimacy – The Podcast, Victoria Redbard joins me to discuss open relationships and polyamory.
Victoria is a coach, counsellor, speaker, author, open relating expert and self pleasure activist.
She has studied Tantra and Sexuality and helps people have relationships that make them feel free and expansive.
She believes that by integrating our sexuality with our spiritual practices we can achieve anything in life.
She advocates for a new paradigm (and way of being) that creates space for us to move away from the expectations and traditions society had built up over time to move into a state of thriving.
Victoria’s message: how can we start to claim our desires and start to voice these things to the people that mean the most to us?
Join us as we delve into:
- What is an open relationship? and what's the difference between Polyamory and Open Relating
- How social conditioning influences our views to this form of relationship
- How can we claim our desires and voice them with the people that mean the most to us?
- Jealousy and Envy … where those emotions come from and how to handle them when they arise in your relationship
- Tips on how to approach the subject of open relating with your partner.
Our favorite part of recording a live podcast each week is participating in the great conversations that happen on our live chat, on social media, and in our comments section.
This week’s question is:
Have you tried an open relationship? Is it for you? Resources related to this episode:
In this episode, we mentioned the following resources:
www.victoriaredbard.com
Instagram: tantric.witch
Facebook: Victoria Redbard Tantric Witch
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In this episode of Wholehearted: Love Sex + Intimacy – The Podcast**, Janet McGeever joins me to discuss Tantra and Menopause and how to continue to have a thriving sex live as we age.
Despite popular belief our sex lives are not over once we reach a certain age, they just change and, as Janet explains, they can change for the better.
No matter what your age, Janet shares some amazing advice for women on how to have more fulfilling sex, how to trust your body, leave the mind and come back ‘home’ into your body.
Janet discusses how, when you learn how to relax and leave behind tension to become more receptive and relaxed in love making; you are able to connect with yourself more fully, which allows you in turn to connect more fully with someone else.
"I've become more liberated, more sensual, more interiorly alive, personally".
The conditioning of our modern world and society places a lot of shame on women’s cycles and worships the young and the beautiful.
This podcast aims to hold you and help you embrace whatever stage of life you may be in and leave you feeling your value as a woman and the meaningful way you can connect to the World and your relationships regardless of age.
Not only will you learn about the changes that can happen to you and your sex life as you age and during Menopause, but how you can embrace those changes to have even better sex.
In this episode, we discuss:
- Menopause and Tantra/ Sex and Aging as one of the most confronting things for women.
- How we can maintain our sex lives as we age and what changes happen when we get to menopause
- Debunking the belief our sex lives are over when we get to a certain age.
- How our sex lives change throughout our lives and how we can keep them thriving and passionate.
- That it isn’t just about sex, it’s not just about intercourse, but that there’s a part of ourselves that we can be in touch with. There’s an energy we can be in touch with, there’s a way of being in the World that is sensual and alive and connected that is really life affirming and life enhancing. And sex can be a part of that, but it isn’t the full picture.
- How women need to, and can learn to, trust their bodies.
- Menopause and some of the things that can happen with the onset of menopause.
- The gifts of menopause- yes there are gifts!
- How Tantra can hep you transition with this stage of your life
- How your breasts and nipples are your dynamic energy and how your sex life can be enhanced by focusing on them.
- How women of all ages need to learn to be gentle and give back to our bodies instead of constantly pushing them.
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This week’s question is:
Let's bust those myths - What have you been told about menopause that you're most worried about?
And for those already experiencing menopause - what have you found to be the best thing about menopause?
Explore these Resources
In this episode, we mentioned the following resources:
Email: info@janetmcgeever.com
Website: www.janetmcgeever.com
Website (Retreats): www.makingloveretreat.com.au
Book: Tantric Sex and Menopause- Practices for Spiritual and Sexual Renewal by Diana Richardson and Janet McGeever
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In this episode of Wholehearted: Love Sex + Intimacy – The Podcast**, Amy Towle joins me to explain Yoni Massage/Mapping, sexuality as part of our spirituality, self-love and the cultural conditioning that women get taught around their sexuality.
Yoni is a sanskrit word (pronounced yo-nee ) and refers to the female genitals as a sacred temple and source of life.
Amy believes that becoming a sexual being is a full-bodied experience and if you aren’t open and accepting of who you are as a sexual being, you’re never going to be able to fully embrace and step into that with another person.
Join us as we discuss how you can connect with the divine feminine within us, that is housed in our female reproductive organs.
Learn how Yoni Massage assists in this connection and how you can be more fearless with your sexuality and step into your power as a women to empower your entire life.
In this episode, we discuss:
- Sexuality as Spirituality
- What is Yoni Mapping/ Massage?
- The disconnection women often feel from their genitals
- How society and cultural conditioning has affected how we see sexuality and ourselves as sexual beings
- How women can connect with this part of their body (your yoni)
- How you can love yourself completely and feel empowered around sex
- Tips to help you learn to love this part of yourself even more
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Amy is a Certified Intuitive Guide, Registered Midwife and Yoni Massage Practitioner and Trainer. Amy founded Temple Of She, offering willing women services to explore the relationship between their spirituality and sexuality. She supports women as they permanently shift subconscious fears and negative self beliefs, while they explore who they are sexually, to a deeper connection with their sexual self and power.
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In this episode of Wholehearted: Love Sex + Intimacy – The Podcast**, Kate Toon joins me to dive into the art of talking dirty with your partner.
When Kate reached out to me and said she gave 'great pod' - and had worked on a sex chat line, I knew I had to have her on the show.
Talking about sex and what we want can feel uncomfortable and just downright weird when we’re not used to it.
This podcast episode aims to empower you with some tips to get the sexy conversation started with your partner without it feeling forced or unnatural.
We all have the ability to ‘talk sexy’, you just need to find what works for you and ultimately your relationship.
In this episode, we discuss:
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Kate Toon’s experience working on a phone sex line.
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Something I talk a lot about on this show and in my work are the ways women hold themselves back during sex. We are given so many cultural messages that it’s not okay to be a woman who enjoys or feels comfortable with sex. And we’re not taught how to do it. This episode offers advice on how to become more comfortable with sex.
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Kate’s a copywriter and therefore master of words with some great tips or talking dirty and words that work/ don’t work to get you in the mood. HOT TIP: it doesn’t need to sound unnatural or over-the-top to be sexy.
- Sexting is also something women ask me about a lot! I did a survey as part of some research I was doing last year and I was overwhelmed with women telling me they would love to sext their partner but feel like they don’t know how. Kate and I discuss some great sexting tips.
- How ‘good sexual communication helps improve our sexual satisfaction.’
Learn to:
Ask for what we want / don’t want in the bedroom
Share appreciation or tell your partner what you like.
- Getting out of the ‘functional sex’ rut – how can you reignite the flame after having kids / being in a long term relationship?
- Kate’s experience at a Fellatio workshop. Learn how to making fellatio work for you and your partner.
- Shift your mindset of fellatio ‘as a gift for him or a reward or chore’ to ‘learn how to get pleasure out of doing it for yourself.’
- We’ve grown up in a society where we’re not given the skills or the right attitude towards sex. How can we move past that for ourselves and a healthier relationship?
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Tips for talking dirty with your Partner :
- It doesn’t need to sound unnatural or over-the-top.
- Good sexual communication helps improve our sexual satisfaction – learn to:
- Ask for what we want/ don’t want
- Share appreciation or tell your partner what you like.
- An easy place to start is giving compliments to your partner. Positive feedback i.e. How much you’re enjoying it and how they make you feel, how great they look etc.
- Even start after sex, because it’s harder in the moment. Remember: to tell your partner what you enjoyed NOT what you didn’t enjoy.
- Start by sending messages, because it’s less confronting and gives you more time to think.
- Read for inspiration - discover what you like. How? ‘Do a bit of googling and find some ‘sexy articles/ tips’ i.e ‘5 new sex positions to try’ and send those articles to your partner. There’s a lot of good content out there that you can share. If you don’t have the words yourself- use someone else’s’ –Kate Toon's!
- Do your research- read a sexy novel- choose the parts that turn you on and put it in a text message to your partner. Or tell them this is something you want to try.
- Send a voicemail to your partner.
- It gets unsexy when you get analytical about it.
Some tips to help you in the sexting department from Kate Toon
https://www.katetooncopywriter.com.au/how-to-write-sexy-copy-six-sensual-tips/
1: Use unexpected and sensual words to describe everyday objects. 'How about the gentle curve of the bath tap, or the soft undulating feel of that doona?'
2: Appeal to the senses ‘Describe the touch, smell and even taste. Sound can also be useful.’
3: Don’t overdo it ‘I have a three adjective rule, which means I never use more than three in a row.’
4: Avoid the Mills & Boon effect ‘choosing the right sexy words can be tough…’
‘Here’s some help in choosing the right ones:’
Phrases we loved
Phrases we hated
‘Copy that tries too hard to be sexy just causes a snigger rather than an emotional or sensual response. So if in doubt, don’t.’
Check out more about Kate at her website: https://www.katetoon.com
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Sarah Marie Liddle has been a Pleasure Coach for over a decade and today I’m speaking with her not only about sexual pleasure but being open to all of life's pleasures.
Pleasure can seem quite selfish– but Sarah Marie suggests we re-frame our beliefs around that – and by letting go of our association with “guilty pleasures” we allow ourselves to take pleasure in its entirety.
We live in such a fast paced world now but by slowing down, being present and mindful, living with intention and attention your energy changes - you see things, feel things, experience things differently.
When we can learn to let go of the ego and can step fully into ourselves, our relationship with the world changes –
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we show up differently
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life flows
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we experience things from a place of love, and
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we give the best version of ourselves – in life and in the bedroom.
We discuss the steps we can take
Let’s have fun and explore … all about pleasure.
Sarah Marie Liddle, Pleasure Coach & Host of the Pleasure Rising Podcast is an Aussie-Kiwi obsessed with pleasure – a former lawyer turned pleasure coach. She shows you how to bring pleasure back into your life, relationships & business. Sarah has written for Thought Catalogue, Huffington Post, Elephant Journal, YFS Magazine and more. Learn more on Sarah Marie's website or follow her on Insta.
In today’s episode I’m speaking with fellow sexologist, Lauren White.
And we’re talking about something near and dear to both our hearts - women giving themselves permission to be sexual as they are - rather than trying to be something that they're not.
Lauren recently published her first book, Permission, that speaks to this topic.
She’s here to lift the veil on what sex can be, other than just what we see in the media, in movies or on television. She’s a big advocate of vanilla as her favourite flavour and encourages us all to own what it is we like - rather than striving for something we're not and feeling that we are falling short in sex and intimacy.
She questions what would happen if we could drop all of the pressure, expectation and judgment. Just turn up in sex as we are and see what happens! Drop all pretence, be in the moment and see what beautiful things can happen – like feeling open, luscious and orgasmic!
We talk about:
- what to do when you’re not in the mood
- how to build connection with a partner
- what to consider before experimenting sexually
- the roles we take on in life and sexually
- the importance of a reset button
And one quote I love from Lauren “There is liberation in being satisfied with connected, loving sex that is pleasurable. I love vanilla!” Nothing wrong with vanilla! Let’s take a listen …
LAUREN WHITE is a qualified sexologist, but also describes herself as a "devoted mama, balanced Libran and lounge room dancer extraordinaire". She assists her many satisfied clients to drop the anxiety and reinvigorate their sexual power in their intimate lives. Through her one-on-one sessions, writing and events, she helps women to release their physical and psychological blocks so that they can liberate their libidos for intimacy, sex and life.
Check out her website or follow her on facebook or Insta @laurenwhiteau.
Hey loves - and welcome the penultimate podcast of Orgasm week!
We’ve had a whole week of shows on the female orgasm to celebrate my Epic Orgasms Course which is being released next week. If you’ve missed any of them make sure you go back and listen in.
Today I’m answering a final question from someone in my community.
She says: I have had orgasms before. Most of the time by myself and sometimes with my partner, but the thing is, I don’t always with him. It’s really frustrating. I don’t really know what it is. Do you have any tips for someone like me?
Do I have any tips?
Of course I do! It’s this kind of real sex ed that I’m passionate about sharing.
If you’ve never had an orgasm, I suggest going back to listen to the show we did a couple of days ago “Can every woman reach orgasm? What should I do if I can’t?”
But if you have had orgasms, but just can’t seem to have them frequently or reliably, listen up as I delve into 7 practical suggestions for you.
I’m going to be including a whole bonus module on getting what we want in bed in my online course, Epic Orgasms. I’ll be sharing exact scripts and techniques that you can use to ask a partner for exactly what you want and give them feedback on how they’re going, so be sure to check that out next week.
In the meantime why not download my latest e-book EPIC ORGASMS: Everything you need to know about the female orgasm? In it I share more tips, practical exercises and Tantric secrets to help you have epic orgasms. It’s totally free for a limited time only.
Hey loves - and welcome back to Orgasm week!
We’ve had a whole week of shows on the female orgasm to celebrate my Epic Orgasms Course which is being released next week. If you’ve missed any of the 4 episodes so far, make sure you go back and listen in.
Today we’re talking about one of my favourite topics…. The 7 different kinds of Orgasms women can have!!
I like to think of all these different kinds of orgasms as just different ‘flavours of pleasure’. Sometimes, I want different orgasms at different times. Any orgasm is a great orgasm if you ask me. The science behind all of this is fascinating too.
I love sharing on this! This is information that I think every woman and man should have.
In this episode, I’ll be guiding you through the 7 different kinds of orgasms and what they feel like.
In Epic Orgasms, my new online course for women, we look at each different type of orgasm possible in more depth and get you detailed instructions on how to have them. It’s going to be a super fun, juicy course and I cannot wait to share it with you.
In the meantime, my latest e-book EPIC ORGASMS: Everything you need to know about the female orgasm is NOW available. In it I share more tips, practical exercises and Tantric secrets to help you have epic orgasms. So be sure to head to my website and download your copy. It’s totally free for a limited time only.
Hey loves - and welcome back to Orgasm week!
My new online course for women - Epic Orgasms is being released next week, so to celebrate, I’m sharing a whole week of shows on the female orgasm. If you’ve missed the first few episodes so far, make sure you go back and tune in.
I’m answering more questions from my community today.
Can every woman reach orgasm? What should I do if I can’t?
Sex absolutely doesn’t need to end in orgasm for it to be enjoyable, fulfilling and satisfying but if you want to reach orgasm and can’t, it can be incredibly frustrating.
Fact is, 30% of women struggle to reach orgasm on a regular basis and 1 in 10 of us have never had an orgasm at all.
And, if you’re one of the 10% of sexually active women who have never had an orgasm, you might be wondering if it’s even possible for you to have an orgasm?
It’s a good question.
The good news is that the vast majority of women can learn to orgasm when they have the right information and support.
Think of it as a skill you just haven’t been taught yet.
In this episode I talk about the many reasons women may have difficulty reaching orgasm and I share with you the 6 steps you can take to learn to have an orgasm for the first time.
My latest e-book EPIC ORGASMS: Everything you need to know about the female orgasm will be available later today! In it I share more tips, practical exercises and Tantric secrets to help you have epic orgasms. So be sure to head to my website and download your copy. It’s totally free for a limited time only.
Welcome back to Orgasm Week!
My new online course for women - Epic Orgasms is being released next week, so to celebrate, I’m going to be sharing a whole week of shows on the female orgasm.
If you’ve missed the first two episodes so far, make sure you go back and listen in.
Today, I’m answering another question sent in to me by a woman in my Facebook group. She wrote:
“I am interested in why it’s easier to orgasm alone? There have been times when I’ve been with a partner and they have said “Wow you take ages to orgasm”, and I’ve said “Yep” - but if I did it myself it could be over in three minutes. It can seem like they are doing exactly the same thing but it feels more harsh when they do it. Why is it easier to orgasm alone than with a partner?”
I know this can be really frustrating.
We think that orgasms should just happen - easily, often and loudly. And the especially should happen through penis in vagina intercourse - preferably at the same time.
But honestly, this just isn’t the case for many women.
The truth is 30% of women struggle to orgasm through partner sex.
You can wonder if your partner isn’t doing something right. You can feel embarrassed or like there’s something wrong with you. You can worry about hurting your partner’s feelings. You partner may also feel confused, inadequate or frustrated. And together, you might even give up trying.
It’s really important to keep in mind that it’s not your fault - and it’s not your partner’s fault either. You can both let go of any guilt, shame or blame right now.
In this episode we look at the many reasons why women can struggle to orgasm with a partner and delve into 4 steps to help you do it:
- Work on having an orgasm by yourself
- Work out the kind of stimulation that feels really good to you
- Learn to communicate that to your partner
- Explore and have fun
Go to my website to join the waitlist for your copy of my e-book EPIC ORGASMS: Everything you need to know about the female orgasm. In it I share more tips, practical exercises and Tantric secrets to help you have epic orgasms. It’s totally free for a limited time only.
Welcome to what I’m calling Orgasm Week!
My new online course for women - Epic Orgasms is being released next week, so to celebrate, I’m going to be sharing a whole week of shows on the female orgasm.
Today I’m answering a listener’s question: Will I always know if I’ve had an orgasm? How can I tell if I’ve had an orgasm?
So often, I hear that women have been told things like ‘you’ll just know when you’ve had one’ or ‘well, if you don’t know, you haven’t had one’.
The truth is, that’s not always true.
I share the scientific definition of an orgasm … then add some feeling to that!
We often have these huge expectations on orgasm now. You know that scene from ‘When Harry met Sally’? I can tell you that my orgasms don’t always look like that - and many women’s don’t.
Orgasms can be different sizes and intensities. Sometimes, they are huge, whole-body, toe-curling experiences, and sometimes, they’re small, silent, little releases.
Remember, what an orgasm feels like will be different for every woman - and will be different on different days.
And, if you still think you’ve never had an orgasm - or can orgasm by yourself, but not with a partner, stay tuned to the next couple of shows.
I’ll be talking about how you can have your first orgasm, have reliable orgasms with a partner and orgasm more frequently.
FYI, I’m sharing more tips, practical exercises and Tantric secrets to help you have epic orgasms in my latest e-book - Epic Orgasms.
Be sure to head to my website and join the waitlist to download your free copy of EPIC ORGASMS: Everything you need to know about the female orgasm. It’s totally free - for a limited time only.
Have you heard of the Orgasm Gap?
The orgasm gap is a scientifically documented gap in the rates that men and heterosexual women achieve orgasm during sexual encounters together.
Men are twice as likely to have an orgasm in heterosexual sexual encounters than women.
I don’t think sex needs to end in orgasm for it to be enjoyable, satisfying and loving, BUT, disparity in arousal and lack of sexual enjoyment can impact our confidence, sexual desire and our relationships.
In this episode, I talk about what the orgasm gap is, what causes men to be more likely to have an orgasm and what we can do to close the gap.
- Getting out of our heads and into our body
- Deciding that your pleasure is important
- Empowering yourself by choosing empowering sexual beliefs
- Educating yourself
- Learning to ask for what you want in bed.
With my new e-book, Epic Orgasms, coming out later this week we’re go to make this Orgasm Week on the podcast. In just a couple of days I’ll be sharing an episode with 7 Ways to Increase Your Chance of Reaching Orgasm tonight, where I’m going to share really specific tips on how to reach orgasm. Make sure you stayed tuned to O week to hear it.
And why not head to my website NOW and join the waitlist for your free copy of EPIC ORGASMS: Everything you need to know about the female orgasm. It’ll be totally free for a limited time.
Today I’m talking about Gas Lighting.
It’s something I’ve been seeing too much of in my world at the moment.
I’m seeing it in my personal life - amongst my friends, in my clients - and on a much larger scale in world politics at the moment too.
And - I just can’t stay quiet about it anymore!
Gas lighting is a form of manipulation and control that can occur in relationships causing the victim to question their own feelings, instincts and sanity. It is emotional and psychological abuse.
In gas lighting, the abuser sees the victim as an object, a possession, something to control - although they might not necessary be aware that’s what they’re doing.
And it doesn’t just happen in intimate partner relationships – it can happen in the work place by bosses, it can happen from friends and unfortunately from other family members like parents.
In this episode I’ll be sharing
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What gas lighting might look like and the signs to look out for that you’re being gas lit
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What to do if you’re in a relationship with someone who is gas lighting you, and
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How to avoid this form of manipulation and control.
We’ve been talking about this in my Facebook group, Wholehearted Love, Sex and Intimacy - which is for women only - and I’d love you to come and join the discussion and share your experiences with this.
We all want love - we want to believe the person we love and know that we can trust them.
We all deserve a healthy, stable, loving and respectful relationship.
And you need to know that it IS possible.
If this is happening to you and you’re ready to move on to a healthier, more loving relationship, this is something that I support people with, so please visit the coaching page of my website and book a 20 minute call with me so we can find out if we’re a good fit for working together.
Do you feel like men and women just communicate differently?
Have you ever wanted to understand how the other sex thinks?
I know you’re going to love this episode, where I take a deep dive with "the relationship guy”, Gideon Hanekom.
When I announced to my Facebook community that I was going to be chatting to a male relationship expert for insights into how men and women communicate, I was flooded with questions.
Questions like:
- How do I talk to a man about emotions?
- How do I get him to open up when he’s in shut down?
- Why is sex so important to a relationship?
- And - we keep fighting over chores - how can I get my partner to do more housework?
We’re answering all of these questions and more.
We’ll cover the key needs men and women have in a relationship + the one emotion men are always trying to avoid.
We talk about the differences that happen in men and women’s bodies when we try to communicate + how you can effectively understand each other.
We also talk about the role of sex in vulnerability and intimacy.
ABOUT GIDEON
Gideon Hanekom is known as "the relationship guy" and creator of GideonHanekom.com – a top dating and relationship advice blog. He is a trained professional counsellor, hypnotherapist, relationship coach and one of New Zealand’s top dating, relationship, and marriage bloggers. Gideon coaches troubled couples in stress-filled and stagnant long-term relationships how to create happier, healthier and more intimate love lives.
He also holds Bachelor and Master degrees in the field of Theology and is a Marriage Celebrant. He’s been happily married for twelve years with two beautiful kids and lives in New Zealand.
Check out more on his website or connect on Facebook or Instagram.
Those of you who know me know how I feel about this! I’m all about us being empowered in our sexuality - and having it be as enjoyable as possible. We deserve to feel pleasure. We deserve to fully enjoy sex. And making sure we do that is our responsibility.
There is so much to be said for us discovering what it is that we enjoy.
None of us are born great at sex, or innately knowing what we like. We have to figure it out through exploration.
We’ve got to stop expecting a partner to just know what to do - or blaming them if we’re not enjoying what’s happening.
Women say things like:
I’m afraid to tell my partner that I don’t like what they’re doing.
I don’t want to hurt his feelings.
I just don’t know what to ask for.
Sometimes I ask for something and he doesn’t do it right.
I often hear women say they’re afraid to ask for what they want - I also hear men say they really wish they had more direction, because they really want to please their partner - they’re just not sure how. This sucks for women - and it sucks for men too.
Over and over I hear men tell me that they feel performance pressure. They feel like they’re expected to know what to do. And they feel out of their depth and a bit clueless.
So I'm going to share with you how and when you can start the conversation. And don't worry, with a bit of practice, this gets easier - and we tend to get more creative with practice! So give yourself permission to start. Most partners will love you being more open and expressive about your sexual wants and needs.
My hope is that today’s episode helps you think differently about your pleasure and how to get more of it!
I’m going to be talking about this more in my Epic Orgasms Course coming out soon.
So make sure you head to my website and join the waitlist to be the first to hear when it opens.
I talked to the beautiful Aesha Kennedy of Brilliant Misfits Podcast about how I have never felt as if I fitted in (even as a child) BUT how I’ve turned that into a gift.
You know I really believe that the world needs (and deserves) us to really “bring” and “share” our unique gifts and talents, not be just what others expect us to be, not to hide our light or to make ourselves smaller.
When we love ourselves for who we really are and feel good about ourselves we make better choices – for ourselves, those we love and for the world around us.
In life you may plan to head in one direction, but you have to trust your intuition and allow the universe to guide you.
Something that Aesha said really resonated. She said “We live in a creative universe. If we can trust in that & not try to control it, it won’t lead you astray, everything is divinely perfect.”
I love that. That so much resonates for how I live my life.
Some of the highlights from our chat:
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Investigating unconscious beliefs
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What does an embodied practice mean?
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Tips and tools to care and connect, first with yourself and with others.
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Unpacking taboos around being a sexual being
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embracing who you truly are
Take a listen. And I hope my story inspires you to connect with your true self and to confidently be the best version of your own “Brilliant Misfit” that you can be.
Aesha Kennedy is a Certified Life Coach, a teacher and practitioner of Yoga and Mindfulness and a Visual Arts Practitioner. Her podcast Brilliant Misfits is about women who didn’t fit in and explores how this has helped them create amazing lives and businesses by courageously following their heart and doing it their own way.
You can find out more about Aesha on her website, her facebook page or check her out on Insta.
And to read more about my daily practices, check out my website.
Do you ever wish you could ‘let go’ during sex and really enjoy yourself? Feel relaxed around sex? Do you want it to be fun, adventurous or more playful? Want more pleasure?
In today’s episode I want to share what it is that’s helped me on my journey to becoming a sexually empowered and liberated woman.
I did not start my journey with sex feeling confident, empowered or sexually free. I was actually incredibly shy around sex.
I enjoyed sex, but I felt guilty about it for a long time. And I was too embarrassed to ask for what I wanted in bed. I would hear my friends talk about how incredible sex was - or the things that they’d tried as I felt like I was missing out. I just felt like I was holding myself back.
In discovering my sexual freedom, I’ve learned to feel at home in my body. I’m more connected to my intuition. I feel more pleasure and flow in my entire life. My relationships are deeper, there’s an incredible intimacy in them now. Sex is more enjoyable than I imagined it could be. And I feel radiantly alive, sexy and confident - on a daily basis.
So, how do we get there? Well, having coached women for over 10 years, I can tell you it’s different for all of us, but we’ll start today with:
- Getting out of your head + in to your body
- Making your pleasure a priority - in life and in the bedroom
- Shining a light on your inner sexual beliefs + break free
- Getting real sex education + pleasure education
- Learn to say no - so you can also say “hell yes!”
- Explore and practice
Becoming a sexually liberated woman is a journey well worth taking. I encourage you to take the first step.
If you haven’t downloaded my e-book Liberated yet, head over to my website www.isiah-mckimmie.com and get your free copy.
One of the most important relationships we have (besides the one we have with ourselves) is with our partner. But life gets busy, we work so hard, we get stuck in a routine and, so often, we let our relationships fall into neglect. How do we get back in touch with ourselves - our wants, desires and our own sensuality - and reconnect with our partner?
Speaking with Intuitive Guide and Sacred Circle Holder, Mitle Southey on her Spirited Sisters Podcast, we take a deep dive into:
- self worth and connecting with your sensual female energy
- sexual and emotional intimacy
- what ‘sensually embodied’ and ‘erotically empowered’ mean
- connecting with your partner outside of the bedroom
- the role of a sexologist
- how a sexologist works with women and couples
- how to communicate your needs to your partner
- when to seek support and help; and
- I guide you through a short exercise to become present and connect with your body.
As a woman, know that you can learn to draw on your divine feminine energy, expand your potential for pleasure and create the life and relationships you want.
To take the first step to connecting with yourself and/or your partner, download a copy of my e-book Liberated, join the waitlist for the Sensual and Soulful Online Programme or if you’d like to connect and talk about if/how coaching might work for you book in for a Get in Touch session.
If you’ve enjoyed this podcast, I’d love for you to head to i-tunes and leave a review.
More about Mitle Southey
Mitle is a former lawyer turned Intuitive Guide and Sacred Circle Holder. She has been trained in the leading edge science of intuition and as a modern day Priestess and contemporary Mystic with the Institute for Intuitive Intelligence. Her role as a sacred circle holder is to guide women to discover their unique purpose, innate self-worth and deepest wisdom.
She brings a modern spin to the ancient and sacred tradition of women’s circles to women online, through her Spirited Sisters Podcast (was Dare to Flourish) and in person in Australia and around the world.
To connect with Mitle, check out her website or follow her on facebook or Instagram.
When my clients come to me experiencing painful sex, they often tell me they feel embarrassed and ashamed and like they can’t talk to anyone about it. I’m passionate about changing that.
Challenges with sex or our genitals shouldn’t be treated any different to a challenge with any other part of our body. It’s biology - it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you.
Incredibly, painful sex effects up to 20% of us women at some point in our lives and, just to put that in perspective, that means it’s more common than asthma, cancer and heart disease!
It impacts our enjoyment of sex, can dramatically reduce our sexual desire and can place strain on our relationships - or lead women to avoid relationships completely.
If you are experiencing sexual pain at the moment you might be feeling: frustrated, guilty, confused, upset embarrassed or all of the above.
It may be impacting your self confidence and even your daily functioning.
So, I want to assure you that you’re not alone.
Painful sex doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. And it doesn’t have to mean the end of your relationship.
And, although what exactly is causing painful sex can often be difficult to diagnose, there is always a reason and usually treatments that can be found. There are also caring, understanding and qualified professionals that can help you through the process.
In this podcast I’m talking about:
- The names that you might have heard painful sex called and what exactly they all mean
- The different types of pain that you may be experiencing
- What causes sex to be painful?
And of course
- How we can treat it - my recommendations for your diagnosis and treatment journey
Over the past 10 years, I’ve helped many through the process of diagnosing and treating sexual pain, giving them emotional support, helping them ease the burden on their relationship and re-introduce sex when the time is right.
While I hope you find this episode helpful, it doesn’t replace a detailed consultation with a medical professional or therapist.
Head over to my blog page for more advice and resources on painful sex and please reach out and get support from a professional. You really don’t need to go through this alone.
I’m sending you all my love, blessings and good luck to you in this journey.
If you found this episode helpful, I’d love for you would head over to iTunes and leave me a rating for this podcast. It will help me reach other women who might need support or encouragement around sex, love and intimacy too.
Thanks so much for listening beautiful.
I recently had a wonderful conversation with the lovely Sarah McGahan on The Truth Podcast.
I believe giving ourselves permission to feel pleasure is so important. Take a listen as Sarah and I chat openly about Pleasure, Intimacy + Desire as we touch on:
- the dichotomy that exists between the ‘good woman’ and women who are seen as overly sexual
- the connection between shame and sexual desire and how to manage it so we feel sexually empowered
- Getting out of your head and coming back into your body to experience increased pleasure
- making intimacy a priority
- the importance of foreplay
- how to recreate a spark between a couple who are experiencing a decline in their sexual desire for one another
- my advice to women who struggle with pleasure or reaching orgasm
- why stress is both bad and good for our sex life
- allowing and embracing sexual energy as life-force
- learning to listen to the subtle nuances, reactions and emotions in our body to distinguish between intuition and fear.
We also talk about what it takes to show up every day in your truth and be vulnerable.
I hope you embrace the practical tools we share to enhance your experience of powerful intimacy, loving sex, more pleasure ad meaningful connections.
I’d love to hear what resonates most with you so please feel free or leave me a comment or connect with me on Insta.
Sarah’s Story:
Sarah is an Intuitive Mentor who moved to Bali on a whim, with nothing more than a laptop and a dream to live a life beyond the constraints of society.
Fast forward four years and she now offers sessions and programs (creating profound shifts at an energetic and cellular level) to clients worldwide. Sarah guides her clients to move beyond their mind and into their heart (AKA their intuition), She helps people, just like you, release negative emotions and stuck energy so that you can uncover your truth, unlock your potential and live a life of soul purpose.
You can check out more on Sarah’s website, facebook page (sarahmcgahanmentoring) or on Instagram (sarah.mcgahan).
I believe in showing up honesty and authenticity. I believe in having REAL, OPEN conversations about sex, love and intimacy. So, I want to share some of my reflections and how I’m dealing with my own relationship break up.
Here’s the thing that I notice most - when our relationship ends - for whatever reason - there’s a sense of shame and a sense of failure.
I hear the mean girl in my head saying things like ‘why couldn’t I make it work’. I’ve ‘FAILED’. And - the big one for me, ‘who would want to see me as a Couples Therapist when my own relationship has just ended?’
I feel some FEAR too – fear that I’ve ‘wasted my time’, it’s too late for me, I’ll NEVER find someone I’m compatible with again.
I’ve blamed myself and I’ve blamed my previous partners. But I'm not doing that this time. And I don’t think anyone else should either.
In this episode I share some raw and real reflections (and sorry, you'll hear me get a little teary about 20 minutes in - but don't worry I'm okay):
- Should relationships try and stay together not matter what?
- How do you know what's the right decision for you?
- What to do with those feelings of shame, fear and blame
- Is there a way to walk away a better, stronger person?
If you’re going through or have been through a break up lately, you’re definitely not alone. Take a listen as I share my Survival Guide (of sorts) - the top 10 things that I turn to for support after a break up and that are supporting my clients too.
What I can promise you is that there is light at the end of the tunnel. Things will get better - and you can find happiness again. I’m sending all my love and thoughts to any of you going through the transition.
Wherever you’re at right now:
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Whether it be in a relationship and you’re contemplating leaving,
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right in the middle of a break up
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or you’ve just come through one
I'm here to support you. Reach out, book in a 20 minute "Get in Touch" session and let's talk.
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I am super excited to be speaking to my guest today. She is a woman whose work I have admired for a long time and who is out there radically changing people’s lives.
Rosie Rees is a Women’s Nude Yoga facilitator, a certified Kundalini & Hatha yoga teacher and a Relationship Coach. She is also a crystal sex toy entrepreneur.
We're chatting about:
- What inspired Rosie's idea to teach yoga naked
- Her journey from that first small class to sell-out workshops around the country; and
- We get up close and personal talking about self-pleasure and discovering what we like.
Enjoy beauties!
MORE ON ROSIE:
Rosie shares the message of self acceptance, liberation and body-love through feminine breath, sound and movement techniques. She also shares the Yoni Egg and Crystal Pleasure Wand practice with women who want to connect with their Yoni and boost their life-force energy through sexual healing.
You can find more about Rosie and her work on her website or Instagram or the Yoni Pleasure Palace website or Instagram pages.
Today we’re busting myths and exploring the facts of Female Ejaculation, also known as ‘Squirting’. I share my personal story of learning to ejaculate (referred to as Divine Nectar in Tantra) and share steps by steps tips on how you can learn to ejaculate too. This is a juicy episode with lots of practical tips.
For more, visit isiah's website at: www.isiah-mckimmie.com
My gorgeous friend Stacey, from Mind Interiors, reached out to chat to me about one of the Chakras - in particular, the Sacral Chakra.
Despite the fact that I teach Tantra, I often don’t share on the Chakras, because I know they can seem esoteric - and I like to be really grounded in my approach. But one of the things I really love about Tantra is that it’s not only spiritual, but incredibly practical.
So although we’re talking about Chakras today, you’ll find our conversation practical, insightful and powerful.
Before we dive in, I want to share just a little on what Chakras are for those of you that might be unfamiliar with them.
Chakras in Eastern mythology and philosophy are spinning wheels of energy and light. We can’t see them or actually find them in the body.
There are 7 Chakras aligning with our physical body. Each Chakra has it’s own energy that corresponds to areas of our lives - and we work a lot with these in Tantra.
Stacey and I are talking about the Sacral Chakra, sexuality + creativity and explore:
- Are personal power, sexual power + creative power the same energy? and how do they affect our self worth?
- How to recognize when we’re squashing down our energies
- The interconnectedness of the chakras
- Activating the life force of your sacral chakra and how that manifests/is expressed
- How we can reconnect and give ourselves permission to be our true selves
- How to communicate our needs, wants and desires (to ourself + our partner)
- Preparing the perfect physical space to engage all the senses ahead of intimacy
- Giving and receiving with gratitude
- Sensuality and sexuality
I hope you enjoy this glimpse into Chakras, creativity and sexuality…
Today I’m sharing just how and where you can start when you haven’t been intimate in a really long time.
One of the most common reasons couples see me as a therapist is because they’re not having sex anymore - or at least not being intimate as often as they’d like.
Becoming intimate again can make such a huge difference to our relationship and overall happiness.
We tend to think everyone else has a great relationship and sex life. We can think that there’s something wrong with us because we’re the only ones not having sex – or arguing about it. But couples who are struggling in this area are not alone. It’s far more common than we might think.
What’s really important to know is it doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you.
If it’s been a while since you were intimate you might be able to relate to this:
- Perhaps you’ve been wishing this will just ‘fix’ itself, or wished that you could just get on with your relationship without sex.
- Maybe you build yourself up, telling yourself ‘I know I need to do something about this – tonight’s the night.’ But then you forget or feel too nervous or just don’t feel in the mood anymore.
- The longer you go without it, the more awkward and uncomfortable it can feel.
- You wish you could just want to ‘want to’ again. But you don’t know how or where to start. And it seems like all the sex advice in the world can’t get you over that first hurdle.
For this episode we’re going to talk specifically about how to take small, practical steps towards regaining intimacy when it’s been a long time, including:
- Asking yourself how important it is to you
- Understanding desire
- Sharing appreciation with your partner
- Spending quality time together
- The small steps back to intimacy using non-sexual physical touch
Starting again when your sex life has been in decline isn’t easy, but it is possible.
Often, taking the first step is the hardest. By listening to this podcast, you’ve already begun the journey.
And I want you to know you don’t need to do it alone. I'm here to help. You can reach out via my website and book a short 20 minute call to see if we’re a good fit for working together.
You can also find more free resources on my website on building connection and reigniting intimacy. And for more on Desire – check out my recent podcast, Desire – everything you need to know.
In this episode, I’m back talking with Julia Hasche on The Single Mother Survival Guide Podcast and this time it's all about ORGASMS.
We discuss:
- if orgasms are possible for everyone
- if it is normal to struggle to reach an orgasm
- what kind of factors can get in the way of reaching an orgasm
- what you can do to find your orgasm
and lots more!
And I answer questions from listeners such as:
- Is it common for mothers over 40 to lose their sex drive completely?
- How do you get your orgasm back after having a child?
- When it comes to sex, is it a case of “use it or lose it”?
It’s an interesting one! I hope you enjoy. And if you have any girlfriends out there who should take a listen, be sure to share.
More About Julia
Julia Hasche is a blogger, podcast host, author, and mentor for single parents. She became a single mother in 2013 when her daughter was just a few months old and created Single Mother Survival Guide in 2016 to assist newly single mothers in all things they may need to know about.
It aims to inform single mothers on relevant issues, support single mothers on their journey, inspire them, and motivate them to create the happy single mother life that they want. She does this by providing a community for single mothers, providing honest and inspirational content through her website, blog, podcast, and social media, her one-on-one mentoring and her online courses.
If you want to find out more about Julia check out her on her website or on facebook or Insta.
You know those conversations that you wish you could have with your girlfriends?
Today’s episode is one of those conversations. I’m talking to my friend Sal from Mojoco about anal sex.
We’re having an open (and very candid) conversation about our own experiences and some of the things you might need to consider if you or your partner are interested in exploring anal play.
Here’s what we cover:
- Why I love it and why Sal still isn’t interested in trying it
- Where to start with anal sex
- My first experience with anal sex and why it was terrible
- The hygiene issues you need to consider
- We also get honest about any ‘messiness’ that might arise
Take a listen in ...
And you can find out more about Mojoco and their products here.
Tantra is the incredible practice that really began my journey with sexuality, sensuality and intimacy - and still provides the foundation of so much of the work I do.
I hear all kinds of things when I tell people I practice and teach Tantra.
I’ve heard "Oh Tantra, that’s about group sex right?" or
"Oh, I know all about Tantra. Sting does Tantra and he can have sex for 9 hours."
In this episode, I’m:
- sharing what Tantra is
- busting myths on what it isn’t
- sharing what my own personal Tantra practice involves; and
- sharing how you can try Tantra yourself - tonight if you want to!
If you feel disconnected from your partner OR struggle with recurring arguments. If you find yourself replaying the same patterns in relationships OR if you wish you could feel more confident with sex and your body … then this episode is for YOU.
Recently I was interviewed by Naturopath Jules Galloway as part of her podcast, Shiny Healthy You, in what has jokingly been labelled her Vag series! We stepped away from discussing lady bits to delve more into relationships.
Whether you’re single, or in a relationship, there will be plenty of “aha” moments!
We talk about what to do
- if your partner wants more sex… and you’re too exhausted to say yes
- If you’re feeling up for it… but you’re not getting the kind of attention and desire that you want from your partner
- to reignite the spark and reconnect with your loved one
- to “get back on the horse” if you haven’t had sex for a reaaaaaally long time. (It can be super awkward and weird, but it doesn’t have to be!)
“It’s actually really normal for there to be different desire levels for sex in a relationship.”
Learn/discover:
- the step by step formula to rebuilding your sex life (and your relationship…yay!)
- how to check in with your own needs and desires, so that you can communicate better with your partner. Because sometimes our needs change over time, and we don’t even realise at first.
And if you’re single, find out tips for attracting a partner that will be the right person for us, and how to stop repeating old patterns when it comes to the lovers we’re drawn to.
“A partner’s desire for sex is actually a desire for connection and intimacy.”
We also chat about body image, and what it means to feel happy in your body (and sexy!) as you age and as your body changes.
“Once you’re naked, your partner’s just really grateful.”
Hahaha! Yes, it may really be that simple! Listen in to find out why.
MORE ABOUT JULES
Jules Galloway is a passionate naturopath, speaker and podcaster.
With over 10 years of clinical experience, Jules has made it her mission to help women find their shine again. She’s guided hundreds of women through her eCourses, sees clients individually and her podcast gets thousands of downloads every month.
You can find Jules at http://julesgalloway.com, on Facebook and Instagram at @julesgallowayhealth, and check out her podcast on iTunes - just search for Shiny Healthy You.
What makes us emotionally resilient? How does being self aware benefit our relationships? How do we find time for ourselves - and our relationship once we've had kids?
In this episode I'm talking to parenting expert Dina Cooper on all this and more.
This is a must-listen episode whether you have kids or not. We're taking a deep dive into managing emotions, prioritising relationships and putting ourselves first.
For more on Dina and her services visit hoogi.com.au
For more on Isiah visit www.isiah-mckimmie.com
How do you initiate sex?
Does it ‘just happen’? Do you make the first move? Do you usually leave it up to a partner?
This is a topic that comes up a lot with couples that I’m working with in therapy and the articles I share on this topic are always popular.
Initiating sex can be incredibly anxiety provoking. We’re all sensitive to feeling unloved.
If we make a move, and our partner doesn’t reciprocate, we can feel like they’re rejecting us - and no one wants to feel that way.
Many women I speak to, tell me that they psyche themselves up all day to make a move on their partner when they get home, but then, they feel too nervous and back out. Or they just feel like they don’t even know how to…
Or that they try - and their partner doesn’t seem to be interested.
In this episode I share some of the common challenges of initiating sex and then ways you can initiate that are intimate, fun and sexy.
I hope you enjoy!
So many women express a longing to be more in touch with their sexual selves.
To be able to ask for what they want, give themselves permission to feel pleasure, to be sexy…
And yet, so many of us feel stuck and unsure where to start.
My journey started with Tantra and in this episode of the podcast, I’m talking with Ly from Zensual Woman about my journey and how YOU can connect with your sensual soul too.
In our intimate conversation, you’ll hear:
- The importance of giving ourselves permission for pleasure and exploration
- How pleasure in our bedroom is directly related to pleasure in our lives
- How we begin to call in a life partner
- What to do when we find we’re attracting the same wrong people over and over
- Practical steps you can take to begin connecting to your sensuality
I hope you love what we have to share.
More about Ly:
Ly Aunapu is a leadership coach, accredited Journey practitioner, founder of Zensual Woman, and on a big mission to help women feel confident without having to fake it.
Despite being a published journalist since age 16 and obtaining a masters in journalism, she realized later in life that her true passion is to help women. She now works spreading her message globally through live workshops, running monthly Women's Circles, coaching women one-on-one, and by supporting her community on social media.
You can find more about Ly on her website: www.zensualwoman.com on Instagram and in her FB group.
Discover how to connect to your Sensual + Sexual self with my new ebook Liberated - it’s FREE for a limited time only.
I love giving oral sex to my lover.
There's something deeply intimate and incredibly arousing about oral sex to me.
Giving oral sex is an almost guaranteed way for me to turn myself on... But more important than that, it also opens my heart. It feels like a gift I'm giving my partner. It requires trust and surrender, especially if I'm in the mood to take my lover deep. I need to trust that he'll pay attention to me and not push too far. I need to feel like he's connected to me and appreciating me.
I know that not everyone shares my enthusiasm for it... It's one of those contentious issues that shows up with couples I work with in therapy sometimes.
Believe me, I get it.
I understand how it isn't everyone's cup of tea.
In today’s podcast I’m talking to Roger from curious creatures about oral sex. We share:
- Our likes and dislikes
- How to talk about oral
- How you can learn to feel more comfortable giving oral sex (if you want to)
More about Roger:
Roger Butler is the driving force behind Curious Creatures. Roger was brought up white, middle-class, mostly heterosexual, and male. In addition to that lineage, they now identifies as kinky, tantric, polyamorous, queer, and very, very curious. Their training is in Process Oriented Psychology and the facilitation of groups, coupled with an extensive education in sexuality.
Curious Creatures believes that sex is about delicious, hedonistic experience as well as being a path of self development and a contribution to a less violent world. They run workshops in a whole range of related topics in cities across Australia.
On their podcast Curious Conversations about Sex, Rog speaks on topics as broad as complex relationship dynamics, body image, gender issues, sex in long-term relationships, kinky sex, abuse and trauma, modern tantra, and sex work.
To find out more or contact Rog, you can visit their website at: https://www.curiouscreatures.biz
If there are any other topics you want me to cover, people you want me to talk to or questions you want answered please connect with me on Insta!
I believe that all women deserve to feel confident, empowered and deeply pleasured around sex.
And yet, there’s so much about it that we’re not taught.
Knowledge is power beauty - so today I’m talking about orgasms.
It’s stuff that I believe we all should have been taught, but probably weren’t.
If we believe movies, TV and porn, we’re told that women orgasm easily, loudly and frequently, with hardly any effort and certainly no foreplay at all.
Unfortunately these myths just don’t hold up in the real world.
At least not for most of us.
So, let’s look at the numbers on orgasm.
30% of women struggle to reach orgasm on a regular basis.
and 10% of sexual active women have never had an orgasm at all. That’s 1 in 10 of us.
Men are twice as likely to orgasm than women during heterosexual intercourse. (Lesbians have a higher rate of orgasm that women having sex with with men.)
Sex can be amazing, fulfilling and fun without having an orgasm, and we certainly don’t need to have an orgasms every time we have sex.
But it can also be frustrating when we want to have an orgasm and can’t.
I want you to have all the info you need to make them as awesome as they can be, so let’s dive in to today’s episode.
It’s normal to feel shy and worried about raising the topic of sex with your partner.
In this episode, recorded as part of the Women’s Sexuality Conference, I talk to Maya Melamed about the most common issues that couples seek help with in therapy - and how to talk about them together.
You’ll discover:
- how to talk about sex from an empowered place,
- how to ask for what you want in the bedroom and
- tips to discover what you enjoy to begin with
Useful links from Maya’s Episode:
Listen to the entire Women’s Sexuality Conference here
Connect with Maya here
If there are any topics you want me to cover, people you want me to talk to or questions you want answered please connect with me on Insta!
Tantra is a topic close to my heart and something I know so many of you are interested in too.
I was recently told by someone who came to my workshop years ago that the lessons Tantra shares on cultivating more feminine energy actually changed her life - she credits it with attracting the gorgeous man she’s now married to!
This is why I’m thrilled to be talking about all things Tantra and the Divine Feminine with the gorgeous Elise Carr from Stella Muse today.
Here’s just some of what we talk about:
- Elise’s journey from model to foreign correspondent to Tantra teacher
- What exactly Tantra is
- Why we believe that so much of what is shared about Tantra is misleading
- What feminine energy looks and feels like
- How to embody more feminine energy in your life
Elise's Show Notes
Descent to the Dark Mother Goddess
Sacred Sessions - Scheduling Love Making
Boundaries On the Conscious Path
Discover how Tantra can change your life
If this has peaked your interest and you'd like to explore Tantra, I'd love to have you join my 8 part Wholehearted Tantra for Women online course - click here for details.
It's a topic that I'm asked about more than any other in my work.
Women's sexual desire can seem like a mystery - there is often so much about it that we're not taught and don't understand.
Lack of desire can be frustrating - and we can wonder if there's something wrong with us for having not enough of it or for having too much desire.
In today's podcast I discuss:
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The science behind desire we all need to know
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Common myths around desire
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Why we would even want to be connected to our desire
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How we can cultivate desire
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10 practical tips for increasing your sexual desire
Resources
Click here to download your copy of Spark + Reignite Desire: Your guide to feeling in the mood again.
In this episode, I'm interviewed by Julia Hasche from The Single Mother Survival Guide and talk about all things SEX AND BODY IMAGE.
We discuss:
- The perception that mums can’t be sexual
- Why mothers are struggling to find their sense of sensuality and desire again,
- The male perspective of a mother's sexuality
- What celebrity mothers are doing for the perception of sexuality in society
I also share my advice on:
- Getting yourself out there and feeling confident sexually -even if it's been a while
- Having sex with a new partner; getting emotionally ready, and the potential of carrying forward old issues from the past
- Getting past the body image insecurities which can lead to feeling extremely self-conscious when it comes to getting naked and having sex
- Shutting the inner critic down during sex
- And LOTS MORE!
For information about the single parent mentoring programs available with Julia, visit Single Mother Survival Guide Services: https://www.singlemothersurvivalguide.com/services/
Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/singlemothersurvivalguide/
Connect with Isiah at: http://isiah-mckimmie.com/
Or on Insta: https://www.instagram.com/isiahmckimmie.sexologist/
What’s the secret to rocking, soulful sex?
How do you learn to love again after gut-wrenching heartbreak?
How do we move on from self-criticism to truly and deeply love ourselves?
Just how important is sex to a relationship?
In today’s podcast episode, I’m talking to the incredible Melissa Ambrosini.
Melissa is the bestselling author of Mastering Your Mean Girl, host of the number one podcast The Melissa Ambrosini Show, a speaker, and self-love teacher. Her mission is to inspire women to create a heart-centred life one that’s wildly wealthy, fabulously healthy, and bursting with love. She has just released her latest book Open Wide: A Radically Real Guide to Deep Love, Rocking Relationships & Soulful Sex.
We’re answering all these questions and more.
I think you’ll love our conversation.
Connect with Melissa via:
Melissa’s Website https://melissaambrosini.com
Melissa’s Instagram https://www.instagram.com/melissaambrosini/
Connect with Isiah at www.isiah-mckimmie.com
Welcome to the first episode of the Wholehearted: Love, Sex + Intimacy Podcast.
After a looooong break from podcasting, I’m pretty damn excited to be back on the airwaves for you.
I’m looking forward to sharing honest conversations, real sex education + powerful advice to help you revel in deep intimacy, loving sex and wholehearted relationships!
In this first episode, I’ll be sharing my own journey to sexual freedom and how I ended up becoming a sexologist including details I don’t share very often.
Tantra is a spiritual and sexual practice that completely changed my life.
In 2009, after I had been studying Tantra for several years, I went to a workshop that I thought would be like others I had been to before.
I had heard that one of the teachers had a wonderful reputation, but when he walked through the door, I was disappointed.
He looked so… normal.
He looked the least like a Tantra teacher of anyone I had ever seen.
But within the space of a week, this rather normal-looking man would deepen my knowledge of Tantra, relationships, spirituality and myself beyond anything I had known before.
This week on the Soulful Bedroom Goddess podcast, I’m interviewing my Tantra Teacher, Kip Moore. Kip also shares deep wisdom on intimacy, the dance between the masculine and feminine and the powerful, sacred nature of sex.
Hear are some of the highlights of this intimate and insightful conversation:
- How sex can be a transcendent experience deepening connection to each other and all that is
- How a man can respond when a woman is sexually afraid or anxious
- The importance of presence in a relationship and during love-making
- How women can step into their feminine energy for deeper intimacy, desire and passion
Kip also offers one of the best definitions of Tantra I’ve ever heard:
“Tantra is letting all the facades go, being absolutely open and honest and present as a man with your beloved and with her trusting you enough to reveal her innermost Divine energy.”
More About Kip Moore
Kip has taught with some of the most renowned Tantra teachers on the planet including Charles Muir, Margot Ananda and Bodhi Avinasha. He has been my Tantra teacher since 2009.
To book a free 15 minute session with Kip, you can email him: tantricsky[at]aol[.]com
More About Isiah McKimmie
Isiah McKimmie is a Relationship Therapist, Sex Therapist and Tantra teacher passionate about helping people discover wholehearted sensuality, soulful intimacy and spirit-led lives. Visit her here to let your inner bedroom goddess shine.
Join her in The Sensual, Soulful + Spirit-led Woman Facebook group here.
How do you cultivate a life of desire and aliveness?
What does erotic mean to you?
And how do you open to pleasure in everyday moments?
In today’s podcast episode, I’m talking to Susana Frioni creator of the Love, Sex, Desire Podcast (which happens to be the very first podcast I was ever interviewed on) and Sacred Dance Parties.
Susana and I talk all things Love, Sex, Desire this episode. It’s a juicy, rich, intimate conversation.
Here are my highlights:
- How to find pleasure and aliveness in everyday life.
- How being with our emotions can support us to feel more pleasure in our body.
- Susana’s take-aways over 62 episodes of talking to experts on sex and intimacy
- What she learned from her most potent podcast episode ever
- The importance of finding out what works for us an individuals sexually
About Isiah McKimmie
Isiah McKimmie is a Relationship Therapist, Sex Therapist and Tantra teacher passionate about helping people discover wholehearted sensuality, soulful intimacy and spirit-led lives. Visit her here to let your inner bedroom goddess shine.
Join her in The Sensual, Soulful + Spirit-led Woman Facebook group here.
About Susana
Susana Frioni is a speaker, personal coach and embodiment teacher igniting women through erotic empowerment via her brand LOVE SEX DESIRE. With an audience in 127 countries, Susana produces a weekly podcast series alongside her sacred dance parties and other workshops and intimate gatherings, both online and in person.
Visit her website here: http://susanafrioni.com
Tantra is a hot topic right now. I feel like everyone is asking me "what exactly is Tantra?" "How can I do Tantra?"
It’s really begun to gain popularity in the west in the past few years, though I know there is still some confusion about what exactly Tantra is.
Just last week a client told me that until she met me, she thought Tantra was about group sex - yikes!
And then at a Soulful Bedroom Goddess Workshop, someone told me that for years all they knew about Tantra was that Sting does Tantra and ‘he can have sex for 9 hours’.
While Tantra can definitely help you enjoy yourself more in the bedroom, discover wholehearted, sensuality and soulful intimacy with a partner - it is also so more than that.
Today’s podcast episode is dedicated to letting you know exactly what Tantra is, what Tantra can include and how Tantra can benefit your life and your relationship.
I share with you my own journey of ‘discovering’ Tantra in my early 20s and just why it had such a big impact on me. Even now as a Relationship Therapist and Sexologist, I sometimes include Tantra in what I share with my clients.
I also want to explain why you don’t need a partner to do Tantra and why you can share Tantra with a partner of either sex.
I tell you what is included in my own personal Tantra practice and what else you can do to bring Tantra into your life.
And for those of you who still want to find out more after you’ve listened to this episode, I invite you to check out my latest online program - Soulful Bedroom Goddess Online, a 6 week Online journey of Tantra, Self-love, The divine feminine and soulful intimacy.
Here is some of what you’ll discover in the course:
- Powerful Tantra practices you can use right away (for cultivating feminine and sexual energy)
- Increased confidence and self-love (the keys to being sexy and irresistibly magnetic)
- Secrets of female sensuality and sexuality for better sex
- The 7 kinds of orgasm a woman can have (and how you can have them!)
- Tantric secrets for balancing emotional and physical intimacy
Here's the link for Soulful Bedroom Goddess Online beautiful.
I hope this podcast demystifies Tantra for you and helps you see that this incredible ancient practice is also hugely beneficial and practical for today’s world too.
Thank you so much for listening today beautiful.
Lots of love,
Isiah.xx