Inner Bonding: Recent Episodes
Margaret Paul PhD
Dr. Margaret shares many aspects of the powerful mind/body/spirit Inner Bonding® self-healing process to help you learn to love yourself, take responsibility for your feelings and your health, and connect with your higher guidance to access love, truth, and wisdom. Through the practice of Inner Bonding, you can learn how to heal anxiety, depression, anger, shame, addictions, and relationship problems.
Are you aware of your relationship system? Is your system full of love, kindness, and support, or is your system rife with strife or distance? It’s often hard to see your own end of a dysfunctional relationship system, but this is essential if you have a chance of healing it.
Who makes your decisions - your wounded self, another person in authority, or your higher guidance? Did you grow up learning to not trust yourself? Do you believe that others know more about what is right for you than you do? Are you ready to become your own guru? The course of your life, and whether you are anxious or peaceful, is vitally affected by this choice.
Are you creating the life you want, or do you feel a victim of a disappointing life? Why are you on the planet? What is your life about for you? If you feel like you are done with life, you are likely missing the point of life.
How often have you shared your feelings, and the other person became angry and defensive? When is the sharing of feelings important information and when is it manipulative? Discover how important it is to be aware of your intent when sharing your feelings with a partner, friend, or family member.
Is there someone in your life whom you love and whom you keep hoping will change if you love them enough? Are you staying in an unloving or abusive relationship thinking that the problems are your fault? Do you think that if you change your partner will change? Or are you staying for the children?
Happily ever after can be a reality, but you need to be in reality about what it takes to create a happily-ever-after relationship. Are you willing to do the inner work necessary to create a truly loving relationship? Even soulmates have to do this inner work to live happily ever after with each other.
Sometimes we get stuck in our wounded self and we can't see how to get back into our loving adult. Often, once we get triggered into our wounded self, it is sometimes a challenge to get back in an intent to learn. But we do always have a choice, and in this podcast, we offer you some choices that may help you.
Are you stuck in procrastination or apathy, unable to do what you need to do to create safety, or get thing done, or get to places on time? Are stuck in not being able to organize your time and space? Do you often feel overwhelmed with trying to get organized? This podcast can help you understand what it means to show up as a loving adult – with ‘the force’ to guide you!
Do you make New Year’s resolutions, and if you do, are they from your loving adult or your wounded self? Are they just about goals, or also about who you want to be? This New Year is a great time to learn how to offer the best gift you can give a loved one. And discover the one New Year's resolution can change your life, heal your relationships, create health and wellbeing, and heal our planet.
Are you living in integrity with your own soul, or are you operating from "bad faith"? Do you think that you can go against yourself and still find joy? Do you have the courage to act with honesty and integrity, or would you rather sacrifice your integrity to avoid conflict in your relationships? A lack of integrity is rampant in our society. This podcast begins to explain the deeper causes of this lack of integrity.
How do you end up feeling when you try to convince someone that you are right and they are wrong? Are you afraid to be wrong and be accountable for your choices? Does this lead to power struggles in your relationships? Discover the blessings in making it okay to be wrong and to make mistakes, and the relief in not having to be right.
Do you feel trapped in some area of your life – trapped in your relationship, trapped in your work, trapped financially or with family issues or in a friendship? Do you feel trapped by your own procrastination and resistance? It’s time to free yourself!
It’s fall here in the U.S., which can be a metaphor for how we can see the beauty of our falls – our stumbles, mistakes, and failures. Do you judge yourself for your falls, or do you compassionately embrace yourself and open to the seeds of learning within them? Judging yourself keeps you stuck. Compassion and learning move you forward toward peace, joy, and success.
Sometimes, reaching for the help you need takes bravery and courage because of the fear of rejection and the heartbreak that follows this rejection. And it’s vitally important when asking for help from others or from your spiritual guidance to make sure you are asking from your loving adult rather than from your wounded self.
Are you addicted to perfectionism? Do you believe that if you are perfect, you can control how others feel about you? Are you aware that trying to control what you can't control makes you feel anxious and unhappy? Discover the 3 big false beliefs that lead to the burden of perfectionism, and the truth that heals these beliefs.
Do you know what your passions are? Do you know what you're here to offer the planet? Are you unhappy with your work? Do you have a sense that you have a calling, but you don't know what it is or how to find it? Discover what you need to notice that can lead you to your passions and life purpose and a life of joy and wellbeing.
Are you loving, caring, and supportive of your loved ones, or are you giving to them to get their approval? Are there people in your life who support you in being all you can be, but others who want to limit you from being in your personal power? Do you also limit yourself in being all you can be?
Do you trust your own feelings, perceptions, and knowing, or do you believe that others, especially others who may be arrogant about what they think they know about what is right or wrong for you? Trusting our inner knowing can be challenging when someone we are close to, or someone we admire, or someone who insists they are right, tells us what is best for us.
Do you want freedom from anxiety and depression, a high sense of self-worth, loving relationships, an inner sense of safety, balance in your life, resilience in the face of challenges, freedom from past trauma, and inner peace? Discover how learning to love yourself creates all of these and more!
Are you an enmeshed, controlling, or helicopter parent? Do you have challenges setting appropriate limits and consequences for your children? Many parents try to be far better parents than their parents were, yet their children grow up feeling lost and empty. Discover what to do and what not to do to raise responsible
Do you receive joy from others’ joy? Or does being competitive get in the way of sharing the last cookie? There are many experiences that create momentary happiness, but there is only one experience that is truly the greatest joy in life.
Are you stuck feeling like a victim of your past, your circumstances, or of other people, often saying to yourself, “Why me?” or “It’s not fair.” Do you continue to believe, in the face of all evidence to the contrary, that life should be fair? Find the way out of feeling like a victim.
Discover how you can know the difference between the truth that comes from your spiritual guidance and the lies that come from the programmed mind of your ego wounded self. It's easier than you think to learn to discern the difference!
When you believe you are your wounded self, you end up with low self-worth, which can lead to feeling invisible and actually being invisible to others. Discovering that you are your soul essence, instead of believing that you are your ego wounded self, is a major step in becoming truly humble rather than invisible or arrogant.
Discover how to manage the major challenges of life when it seems like the lights go out, rather than get stuck in the dark night of the soul. Learn about the underlying causes of the dark night of the soul and how to move back into the light.
In this episode of the Inner Bonding Podcast, Dr. Margaret Paul and Erika Chopich, creators of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process, talk about the conscious choice of kindness, and how it’s shaped them.
Many people believe that kindness makes you weak, but that’s not true when it comes from the loving adult. The ego wounded self however, is.
Are you stuck in blame and resentment toward someone, feeling like a victim of another's choices? Are you keeping yourself miserable by holding on to anger? Are you confused between the difference between condoning and forgiving? Have you tried to forgive yourself and others, only to discover that you are still angry or judgmental toward yourself or them? Discover the path toward forgiveness.
Do you have the courage and grit to do the things you are afraid of, or do you allow fear to stop you? Do you have the courage to love yourself and others, even when you might encounter others’ uncaring or angry behavior, or is the pseudo-safety of control more important to you? Do you have the courage to go deeper into personal growth and learning, face your wounded self and discover your true soul essence?
Do you believe there is something wrong with you because you have been told that you are "too sensitive?" If you have the gift of high sensitivity, or if you are partnered with a highly sensitive person, it's vitally important to understand this soul gift.
Do you have a mother wound that plagues you in your life and your relationships? Are you still trying to figure out how to deal with a critical mother? Is there still a place within that yearns for loving mothering? The good news is that it is never too late to fill that empty place within.
Do the fears of rejection or engulfment control your life? Do you isolate yourself to protect yourself from the fears of rejection or engulfment? Are you constantly trying to control how people feel about you? Discover how you can heal these fears.
Do you feel guilty and responsible when others are hurting? Do you try to fix their pain rather than take care of yourself? Do you believe that you don’t have the right to be happy when someone you love is unhappy? Discover how to be happy when someone you love is unhappy.
Self-love and narcissism are actually opposites! But the ego wounded self in all of us exhibits some degree of narcissism, and discovering where you fall on this continuum can lead to deeper learning and healing. Also, discover how you can likely know a narcissist in advance of getting involved.
Are you stuck in some aspect of your life, or stuck with depression and a lack of motivation to take the loving actions for yourself? Discover some of the false beliefs that may be keeping you stuck and what to do about it.
Were you taught to believe that loving yourself is selfish? Discover the difference between taking care of yourself from your wounded self or from your loving adult. Also, discover whether you are inadvertently contributing to the darkness of our planet, and what you can do about it.
Failure! What do you feel when you think about failing? Inadequate? Unworthy? Unlovable? Have you learned to link failure to your value as a person? Does the fear of failure stop you from doing what you really want to do?
Do you know when you are being needy? Do you know the difference between needs and neediness? We all have needs that can only be met by another person, and this is vastly different than neediness. Learn what creates and heals neediness.
Are you paralyzed with fear in some aspect of your life? Is this keeping you stuck? Is the fear of the unknown keeping you stuck, not doing the things you really want to do? How are you viewing success or failure that might be keeping you stuck? Discover how to get yourself unstuck – how to feel the fear and do it anyway!
Many people are confused regarding what a boundary is. Discover the big different between what you may believe is a boundary that come from the fear of your wounded self, and an actual boundary that comes from the love of your loving adult. Discover the major difference between actions that are controlling but that you might be calling a boundary, and actual boundaries.
Discover the underlying reasons you might be fearful of committing to a relationship, or to a job, or even to your personal and spiritual growth. Learn how to heal commitment phobia.
In this podcast Dr. Margaret Paul talks about both physical and emotional vitality and how connected they are.
Mucking your life is like mucking a horse stall of pooh. It about learning to clear out the pooh - the fears and false beliefs of your wounded self that are limiting you. It’s about moving beyond resistance and procrastination regarding learning to love yourself enough to create a life of love and freedom, rather than a life filled with the muck that comes from self-abandonment. Are you ready to learn to clear out the muck in your life?
Whether or not you have pets or other animals in your life, you can learn much about yourself from how animals react to you, and you can learn much about others from how their pets react to others. Discover the many good reasons for having animals in your life and how they can contribute much to your physical and mental health.
Most people who are not in a relationship want to attract a loving relationship, but often find themselves, over and over, attracting a needy, unloving, or unavailable partner. Discover what you need to do to attract a loving and available partner – a partner who is not needy, who is emotionally available, and who is available for a commitment.
We all want to experience real love, but how do you know when what you are experiencing is real love, or if what you are experiencing is infatuation or emotional dependency? Do you know the difference between real love and infatuation or emotional dependency? They are light years apart!
How often do you find that there are not only things you know you have to do, but things you want to do and somehow never get around to doing them? Do you find yourself procrastinating over and over and you can’t figure out why?
You might be emotionally dependent without knowing it – many people are. Discover in this podcast what emotional dependency is and how to attain emotional freedom and loving relationships.
Dr. Margaret Paul explores how to resolve conflict in ways that bring you closer to your loved ones. She teaches you how to learn from conflict rather than avoid it or give yourself up to keep the peace.
In this podcast, Dr. Margaret Paul, co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process, uncovers the two secrets to connect with your higher guidance. Not only will these two secrets help you achieve at-will divine connection, but they will also help you manifest abundance and lead a happier and healthier life.
Dr. Margaret also gives specific tips on how to raise your frequency, which will allow you to have healthy thoughts and a healthy lifestyle. By sharing a few case studies of her clients, she also teaches you how to overcome challenges when it comes to accessing your inner guidance.
Discover what creates those awful feelings of inner emptiness and aloneness, and how inner emptiness affects relationships. In this podcast, learn what you can do to feel the fullness of love within, so that you can share love with your loved ones.
In this episode of the Inner Bonding Podcast, Dr. Margaret Paul says that in the face of great suffering, such as the war in Ukraine, it doesn’t help to take on the suffering of other people. She continues that what does help is becoming a spiritual flashlight, which she explains further in detail in the podcast.
She also shares the concept of collective consciousness and the hundredth monkey theory where once a number of people or animals learn a certain behavior or think a certain thing, suddenly more and more people are thinking or doing this thing. When we’re aware that we can be the person to tip consciousness, we can focus on being a spiritual flashlight that shines a light on others. Dr. Margaret also explains the differences between operating from the left side and the right side of the brain, and how it’s affecting what’s happening in the world.
In this episode of the Inner Bonding Podcast, Dr. Margaret Paul, co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process, talks about how your intention, as well as others’ intention, affects your energy. She cites how compassion can handle both negative energy that you’re sending to others and negative energy that others are sending to you.
Additionally, Dr. Margaret provides several tips on how to tune into the people in your life and determine whether they energize you or deplete your energy. She also shares ways how to protect yourself from being depleted.
Dr. Margaret Paul starts this episode of the Inner Bonding Podcast with the story of the childhood of Dr. Erika Chopich, the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process. Despite growing up in an abusive environment, Dr. Erika has an extraordinary lightness of being.
Dr. Margaret then explains that lightness of being are those moments of enlightenment. It’s when we’re deeply connected with our beautiful soul and our higher guidance and receive the love, peace, and joy that spirit is always giving us. More importantly, she shares what we can choose to be our guiding lights so that we can experience moments of lightness of being.
In this podcast, Dr. Margaret Paul, co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process, talks about the difference between the intent to control other people and the intent to be loving to ourselves and to others. She cites several controlling behaviors people use, including being nice and asking questions, and how these could affect our relationships.
Dr. Margaret also shares a few stories about her clients that help us better understand what it means to be loving rather than controlling. She also teaches us several ways to determine whether we’re being controlling or being loving in any situation.
What makes you feel connected with or disconnected from the important people in your life? Do you believe that in a good relationship, it is your partner's job to make you feel loved and worthy? Do you have the courage to hang in through the hard times and do the learning and healing we all need to do to create a loving relationship?
Do you believe your self-worth is in your looks and performance and if you do, is this working for you and bringing you joy? Do you fully understand the difference between your ego wounded self and your essence - your soul self? You might not know the truth of who you are, but if you have a pet, your pet knows!
Do you have problems speaking up for yourself when others are being uncaring? Do you even know what it looks like to speak up for yourself? How often to you withhold your truth from someone important to you because you are afraid of their anger? Get clear on when it's appropriate to speak up for yourself and when it isn't, and the major difference between speaking up to love yourself or to control the other person.
Are you love or approval addicted? Many people are. If you frequently feel alone and empty inside, and you often seek to get love, attention, and approval from others, you might be love-addicted. The good news is that you can heal from love and approval addiction.
How do you respond to your own and others' anger, hurt, anxiety, depression, fear, shame, and guilt? Do you believe you are responsible for causing these feelings in others, and others are responsible for causing your feelings? Discover some of the more common ways we dump our feelings onto others, and ways we take responsibility for others’ feelings, and what to do about this.
This year, make two New Year's Resolution lists - one for your external goals and one for who you want to be. And there is one New Year's resolution can change your life, heal your relationships, create health and well-being, and heal our planet.
Is conflict something you do anything to avoid, or do you embrace conflict as a wonderful opportunity to learn? Have you found it hard to stay open in the face of conflict? Do you get into fights that turn ugly as the conflict escalates? Learn how to avoid fighting in conflict situations and what needs to happen to resolve conflict.
Do you sometimes feel unseen and unheard? Do your conversations with others or with your partner sometimes feel like a one-way street? We become invisible to others regarding our feelings and needs and being heard and seen when our feelings and needs are invisible to ourselves.
Are you in a relationship with a partner who is addicted to sex or porn? Is it okay to say no to sex? While the answer to this question might seem simple, discover the subtleties within this question, and learn what would be loving to yourself with a sex addicted partner.
Do you know what triggers you and why? What do you do when a person or situation triggers your stress response? We create conflict and unhealthy communication when we act out in response to our triggers. Discover how to heal your triggers so that you can stay centered and connected rather than reactive.
Discover that opportunities to choose love occur in each moment, and that loving yourself and sharing your love with others is not about nature vs. nurture, but about nature and nurture. Each moment that you choose to make loving your highest priority, you will feel wholeness and joy.
Are you aware of the limiting beliefs that may be controlling your life? Discover some of the false beliefs that you might not be aware of, and how to heal them. Operating from truth rather than from your programmed false beliefs is life-changing!
Were you adequately mothered? Do you still have a little baby within you who did not receive loving holding? Do you feel a deep need for affection and holding that you don’t know how to get met? Are you confusing this need with sex? Learn about the difference between the need for mothering and sexuality, and how to heal the empty place within that may still need loving holding. The good news is that it is never too late to fill that empty place within.
Are you sometimes mystified when you believe you have been loving to your children, to a partner, to friends and family, and they don’t feel loved by you, or they disconnect from you? Discover the underlying reason others might not feel your love and what to do about it.
Who do you trust the most - other people, your wounded self, or your Guidance? Do you believe that your Guidance is controlling - that if you open to your Guidance, you will be told to do things you don't want to do? Or are you afraid to open to your Guidance for fear that is nothing there? Learn how to shift out of being guided by your wounded self and into trusting your guidance.
Discover why you can’t heal without a spiritually connected loving adult, and what to do when you get triggered into your ego wounded self. Becoming a trustworthy loving adult is essential for healing yourself and your relationships, and you become trustworthy as you learn to love yourself and share your love with others.
Most of us want loving relationships, but many people are doing the opposite of what they need to do to create loving relationships. Discover what you might be doing that’s ruining your relationships and what else you can do.
Is a lack of communication one of the complaints you have in your relationship? Does the communication between you and your partner often get confusing? Many couples claim that their problems stem from a lack of communication, and that they can’t resolve their problems. Discover the good reasons for this, what to do about it, and which forms of communication cause problems and which work to resolve issues and create intimacy.
Do you have the courage to love both yourself and others, or is the pseudo-safety of control more important to you? Discover why it takes great courage to learn to love, and why it's so important to make love your highest priority. Loving holds within it the greatest joy and the greatest pain in life, but without it, life is empty. If you feel some inner emptiness, it’s likely because you are allowing fear to stop you from loving yourself and others.
Do you sometimes find yourself angry and blaming in your relationships and you have no idea why you are behaving this way? Find out what is behind the need to blame. Discover the physical and emotional issues that your anger, blame and judgment are causing you, and what you can do to heal an addiction to blame.
Do you believe that if you learn to love yourself and you become happy and whole, will you end up alone? Will a partner want you if you are not needy? Were you brought up to believe that taking care of yourself is selfish, and that to be a good person you need to be self-sacrificing? Discover what might be stopping you from learning to love yourself and take loving actions on your own behalf.
Most of us like to think we are honest people, yet how often do you deny or withhold your truth to get approval or avoid conflict? Wouldn’t you rather know the truth, even if it's very painful, rather than be lied to? Isn't it even more painful to be lied to? Part of authentic love is being willing to tell the truth and receive the truth.
It’s more important than ever to learn how to access our right mind – our right brain spiritually connected loving adult. But once we get triggered into our lower left-brain fear-based programmed wounded self, it can be a challenge to get back in our right mind. It’s vitally important to know the pathway back because personal and planetary healing can happen only when we operate from our right mind.-
Have you lost the wonderful feelings of love and intimacy you had at the beginning of your relationship? It's never too late to reclaim them, but first you need to understand why they are gone. Emotional intimacy is essential for sustaining love in a committed relationship, but do you have trouble giving and receiving love? Discover what fears might be in the way of this for you.
Do you sometimes keep trying to connect with someone who is unavailable? Do you believe that you need to be connected with others in order to feel validated and connected with yourself? Do you have a connection addiction? Connection with others is vital for all of us, but when we disconnect from ourselves to avoid pain, we lose the possibility of connecting with others.
Are you longing for connection? Do you want to experience intimacy and connection with others, and the joy and aliveness that this offers? We all deeply desire connection with others, but what is necessary for us to have this? Discover what you need to do to create loving connection with another.
Have you been trying hard to think positively and visualize what you want, yet manifestation is eluding you and you’re staying stuck in your life? Are you getting frustrated that nothing you try is working to manifest what you want? Discover what might be in the way and learn about the deeper level that is essential for manifesting your dreams.man
When a loved one gets stuck in the state of feeling like a victim, and may be angry or raging, you might be able to be a lifeline for them. It can bring you great joy to learn to be a channel of love for them when they are in the rabbit hole of the darkness, fear and despair of their wounded self.d
Are you still doing the things you learned as a child to try to feel safe? Our wounded self is a survival mechanism, designed to keep us safe, but the ways that our wounded self goes about trying to create safety generally have the opposite result. Instead of keeping us safe, it creates fear and anxiety. Which do you believe keeps you safer - your wounded self or your spiritual guidance?
Do you suck the life out of others, trying to get the love you need, or do you allow others to suck the life out of you? Do you often feel empty inside? Do you believe that others should be filling you up with their love and attention? Discover the real cause of inner emptiness and what to do about it, and how to distinguish between legitimate needs and neediness.
Life changes completely when you learn how to love yourself rather than continue to abandon yourself. Today I want to share an example of a young woman who dramatically changed her life in learning to love herself physically, emotionally, financially, spiritually, organizationally and relationally.
Scapegoating goes on in many families. Were you the scapegoat in your family when you were growing up? Are you still being scapegoated as an adult in your family of origin, by your in-laws, or at work? Discover why you might be scapegoated and what to do about this.
Do you wonder why you often have the same conflicts over and over? The wounded self is quite sneaky when it comes to controlling behavior, so it’s important to discover what you do that perpetuates conflict. Our wounded self comes up with endless ways of trying to avoid and control, so we all have many ways of trying to control that you might not be aware of. Discovering and healing these levels of control, especially in relationships, is a major aspect of the healing journey.
How long into a relationship does it take you to discover that this person is not right for you? Have your past relationships left you relationship-phobic due to fears of losing yourself or getting rejected? Have you had sex with someone you thought was partner material, only to have the relationship disappear right after having sex? Dating provides many opportunities to learn and grow.
How often to you feel disappointed and rejected when someone close to you doesn’t meet your expectations? How often are you stressed and frazzled in trying to meet others' expectations? Discover what your expectations are, how you try to get others to meet them, what the result is regarding ruining relationships, and what else to do instead.
I’ve worked with many people who have been harmed rather than helped by healers, therapists, facilitators, coaches, doctors, or other helping practitioners. Discover what to look for in a practitioner so that you make sure you are helped rather than harmed, and so that you don’t needlessly spend money in ways that don’t support your physical, emotional, and spiritual health and healing.
People often ask me if they will always be struggling with the effects of an abusive childhood. You CAN heal from childhood abuse. While it is very important to be working with a knowledgeable therapist or facilitator when experiencing abuse memories, there are many things you can also learn to do to help yourself. Inner Bonding is a powerful process that enables you to remember repressed memories and heal from traumatic abuse, along with other trauma-release modalities.
Worriers unconsciously operate under the false belief that worry will stop bad things from happening - that they can control the outcome with worry. Are you ready to move beyond obsessive ruminating and worrying? Are you ready to move beyond the fear, anxiety and depression that results from worrying and ruminating? Life is much more peaceful when you let of the illusion of control that you think worrying and ruminating give to you.
How often are you able to stay mindfully present in your body with your feelings, and take responsibility for them? Most of us are not taught how to take emotional responsibility. For most people, it takes practice to be willing to be fully present in your body, feeling your painful feelings, and even more practice to learn how to take loving care of your emotions.
Are you attaching your happiness and self-worth to others and outcomes, and then try to control what you can’t control? What do you do when you feel helpless over another's choices? We create relationship problems when we don’t accept our helplessness over other's feelings and actions, and we create anxiety, depression or shame when we don’t accept our helplessness over events and situations.
Are you struggling with whether or not to stay in a relationship? If you are in a challenging relationship, do you believe it’s easier to start over with someone new? Discover the surprising statistics about second and third marriages, and why they have such a poor success rate. Before leaving your relationship, you might want to heal your end of your relationship system and see what happens.
Walk with me through this podcast so that you can begin to see, value and love the goodness that you are. Embracing your essential goodness can move you out of fear and into joy and the sharing of love. When you learn to own your goodness, you can then experience the goodness and comfort of spirit that is always here for all of us.
Are you conscious of your own feelings? Do you find it challenging to be present in your body with your feelings? Do you judge yourself for your feelings instead of trusting them and taking loving action for yourself based on them? Is it hard for you to feel deep joy? Discover that keeping a lid on your pain also prevents you from experiencing your joy.
Do you believe that others or circumstances are responsible for whether you keep your heart open? Loving is about learning to keep your heart open. Do you cultivate your open heart enough to have love to share with others? Discover the secrets to keeping your heart open, and to discerning whether another person has an open or closed heart.
Are you aware of the voice of your ego wounded self that may be judging you non-stop in the background of your mind? Are you aware of who were the role models for this voice? Learn to shift out of being guided by your wounded voice and into the loving and truthful the voice of your guidance. Learn about the backlash of your wounded self when you are doing well, and how to take that toxic voice with lightness and humor.
Do you believe there is something wrong with you because you have been told that you are "too sensitive?" Do you often feel out of place and like an alien in some groups? Do you feel guilty and responsible when others are hurting? If you are a highly sensitive person, or if you are partnered with a highly sensitive person, it's vitally important to understand this essence gift, and this podcast may help you to value and embrace it.
We all want to feel safe, but which do you believe keeps you safer - your wounded self or your spiritual guidance? While you might believe that keeping your heart closed is the only way to feel safe from being hurt by others, there is a far better way of feeling safe. Discover what actually creates both a true inner sense of safety, and a deep level of safety and connection with others.
Have you been frustrated in not being able to easily access your Guidance? Your ability to connect with your higher guidance is about your vibrational frequency. A high frequency is necessary to feel joy and to manifest your dreams. Discover what raises or lowers your frequency and what you need to do to keep it high.
Are you stuck in blame and resentment toward someone? Resentment and blame are poisons to the soul - far more harmful to you than to anyone else, Are you confused between the difference between condoning and forgiving? Have you tried to forgive others, only to discover that you are still angry and resentful toward them? Discover how heal anger, blame and resentment.
Do you believe that your programmed ego wounded self is who you are? This is what your wounded self wants you to believe, but nothing could be further from the truth. Learn about who you are when you are operating from your wounded self, and how tricky the wounded self is. Much healing comes from unmasking the wounded self.
Are you afraid to open your heart to love, for fear of getting hurt? Are you putting off opening to another relationship for fear of getting hurt again? Do you isolate yourself out of a fear of rejection? Loving holds within it the greatest joy and the greatest pain in life. Without love, life is empty, yet do you find yourself being afraid of intimacy? Do you sometimes feel stuck with hurt and you don't know how to get beyond it? Discover how to heal the fear of getting hurt and open to love.
Do you believe that you or others are being selfish if they take loving care of themselves instead of taking care of you? Are you sometimes giving and caring to another and then wonder why your caring isn't appreciated? Are you a taker or a caretaker? Discover how the caretaker-taker relationship system is often the underlying cause of relationship problems, and what you can do to heal both yourself and your relationship.
Do you suffer from social phobia or social anxiety? Do you suffer from anxiety and even panic attacks regarding social situations? Have you tried many things that have not worked? You don't need to stay isolated or go your whole life suffering from this debilitating anxiety. There is a way to heal!
Are you often angry and frustrated when people let you down by not doing what they say they are going to do? But, are you reliable and trustworthy with yourself and others? Not trusting others is often a reflection of being untrustworthy and unreliable with yourself. Most of us like to think we are honest people, people with integrity who speak the truth and are true to our word, but how often do you deny your truth to get approval or avoid disapproval or conflict? How often do you withhold your truth from someone important to you because you are afraid of their anger? You might believe you are withholding your truth to spare your partner pain, but is your real intent to protect yourself from the response you fear?
Are you aware of how you might be trying to control others' feelings or behavior? What limiting beliefs about controlling others are controlling your life? How are you limiting yourself to limit your partner? Are you aware of the feelings you cause yourself when you attempt to control others rather than love yourself? It is often tempting to tell others what to do, especially when it is obvious that they are not taking care of themselves. Discover why this usually backfires and what to do instead.
Will you always be struggling with the effects of an abusive childhood or other childhood or adult trauma or PTSD? You CAN heal from childhood abuse and other trauma. With Inner Bonding, other supportive trauma techniques, and the loving support of others, even PTSD can be healed.
How can you know if this is the right person with whom to spend your life? How long into a relationship does it take to discover if this person is right or not right for you? Learn about both red flags and promising signs, and why soul-mate relationships are not always the easiest relationships.
Do you keep attracting unavailable people or are you stuck in a relationship with an emotionally or sexually unavailable person? Are you addicted to trying to get love from unavailable, unloving people? Discover the cause of this and how to attract an available partner.
Are you a procrastinator? Do you find yourself procrastinating when you have hard or boring stuff to do, or even with things you want to do? Do you tell yourself that you will do the things you need to do, and then find yourself not doing them? Do you then judge yourself for procrastinating? Do you believe if you read enough self-help books and take enough seminars you will find the answer? Are you ready to get unstuck? There is a way out of this!
Fear is an important feeling. It can have much information for us or it can lead us down a negative spiral that feeds upon itself. Discover the two different kinds of fear and what each kind is telling you, and how to heal much of your fear.
Sex means different things to different people, and what it means to you might be very different than what it means to your partner. This might be having a negative impact on your relationship, or on creating a loving relationship.
Are you plagued with guilt? Do you feel guilty and responsible when others are hurting? Do you try to fix their pain rather than take care of yourself? Sometimes guilt is appropriate and often it isn't. Discover what causes guilt, the big difference between healthy and unhealthy, toxic guilt, and how to heal toxic guilt.
Dealing with depression often requires a multi-dimensional approach. Depression is not caused by a lack of drugs, nor do drugs heal the underlying causes. Discover the underlying causes of depression, as well as of the 'dark night of the soul', and what to do about them.
The problem of ending relationships gracefully arises because many people see it as a reflection of their worth when someone doesn't want to be with them. In this podcast, I address both what you might need to do to heal a disconnected relationship, and when it might be time to leave. Most unhappy couples think they know what the problem is, but rarely do they understand what the REAL problem is. If you are considering ending your relationship, this podcast will be helpful to you.
Anxiety holds within it much important information. Discover some major causes of anxiety, as well as how you may be creating your own anxiety, and what you can do to heal.
Loving relationships don't just happen. I've heard many of my clients state that, "If I have to work at it, then it's not the right relationship." This is not true, any more than it's true that you don't have to work at good physical health through exercise, eating well and stress reduction. There are some powerful choices you can make that will not only improve your relationship, but can turn a failing relationship into a loving one.
Are you being selfish when you do what brings you joy, even if others don't like it? Do you feel trapped, believing you can't really take loving care of yourself without being unloving to others? You might know that you need to be loving to yourself, but do you know what loving yourself actually means?
Over-talking is often a way to try to connect with others when you feel alone and disconnected from yourself, but it’s likely pushing people away. Are you aware of needing to talk too much, or have you been with people who go on and on? Do you know what to do when you are with an over-talker? Discover how to heal your over-talking and how take loving care of yourself around over-talkers.
When you share your feelings with a person you are upset with, do they get defensive? Do you sometimes feel trapped when someone is blaming you for his or her feelings? Do you struggle with knowing when to communicate with your partner about a problem and when to disengage? Discover when it is helpful to share your feelings, and when it’s controlling.
Are you resistant to being a loving adult and taking responsibility for your feelings and for supporting your highest good? Is it more important to you to resist being controlled by others, or by your higher guidance, or by your own ego wounded self, than it is to learn how to be loving to yourself and to others? Discover the way out of resistance.
Have you tried unsuccessfully to heal your shame? Have you done a lot of work on yourself and you still often feel that you are not good enough? No matter how badly you currently feel about yourself, you can heal your shame and feel excited about your life. Discover the secret to healing shame.
Do you sometimes feel alone and empty inside? Do you believe that others should be filling you up? Do you turn to various addictions to try to fill up externally? Discover the real cause of inner aloneness and emptiness and what you can do to feel full and alive inside.
Are you ignoring your anger or dumping it on others? Do you find yourself getting angry and irritated, no matter how often you try to stay calm and accepting? Discover an underlying source of anger that, when addressed, will move you beyond reactivity.
Are you aware of your self-judgments? Are you aware of how often you judge yourself as bad, wrong, or inadequate? Are you aware of how you feel as a result of your self-judgments? Do know why do you judge yourself? Self-judgment is a major form of self-abandonment that may be keeping you stuck, anxious and depressed.
Are you jealous and fearful that your partner, or others, will find someone he or she finds more attractive, more lovable, more worthy than you? Jealousy is a big problem for many people and I often receive questions regarding this topic. Discover what you are doing that is causing you to feel jealous and how to heal this very challenging issue. You can heal jealousy!
With all the challenges we have today, being able to experience empathy for ourselves and others is vital. When you are capable of empathy, you can't hurt others, animals or our planet. Discover why some people are empathic and others are not.
Do you feel a deep inner sense of self-worth, or are you anxiously dependent on others approval and validation for your sense of worth? You CAN heal the anxiety that comes from defining your self-worth externally. It is not as hard as you may think to define your own worth, but most people go about it the wrong way.
When trust is broken, it need not be the end of a relationship. Much can be learned from staying in a relationship and learning from the challenging situation. Learn how you can mend the broken trust in your relationship.
Being in love is a wonderful experience, yet all too soon these in-love feelings fade away. Discover the ONE thing that diminishes love and how to keep it alive, no matter how long you’ve been together.
Discover the underlying causes of a lack of sex or a lack of passion in your relationship – and it’s not about longevity!
Are you suffering from emotional dependency? Discover what it is, how it affects your relationships, and how you can heal and attain emotional freedom and loving relationships.
What if there really is ONE major cause of relationship problems, one issue that if you address, would change everything? The good news and the bad news is - there is! The good news is that it makes it easier to understand why you might be having problems in your relationship. The challenging news is that to resolve the issue takes a deep personal commitment to heal.
All relationships have conflict, so you can either avoid it or learn from it. Do you believe there should be no conflict – just easy and smooth sailing? This will never lead to intimacy. Discover the two healthy choices that lead to connection, resolution, and intimacy.
Are you projecting on to others aspects of yourself that you deny, and are others doing this to you? In this podcast, learn what projection is, how you might be getting caught up in it, and what to do about it.
Many people have a fear of intimacy that stems from two underlying fears: fear rejection and a fear of engulfment – a fear of losing the other and a fear of losing themselves. In this podcast, I talk about why we have these fears and how to heal them so you can create a loving relationship.
Do you confuse spirituality with religion? We can be both religious and spiritual, or religious without being spiritual, or spiritual without being religious. Different people have differing beliefs regarding what it means to be spiritual. In this podcast, I share with you what being spiritual means to me.
Addictions to substances and processes are one of the main ways we’ve learned to avoid feeling our painful feelings, but addictions are a major way of abandoning oneself, which leads to inner emptiness and to more addictive behavior. Discover how learning to love yourself fills the emptiness and heals addictions.
Most people are appalled and heartbroken by the horrifying killing of George Floyd and many other black people by police and by others. Dr. Margaret talks about how and why this happens and how we can heal racism.
COVID-19 gives up an opportunity to vision a much better future than what we have come to expect as normal. I hope you join me in visualizing and creating a wonderful future.
The best protection against COVID-19 is a strong immune system. If your immune system is functioning well, then even if you do get the virus, it will likely be a mild case or you won’t even have symptoms. What better time than now to learn about how to create a strong immune system?
Now is a great time to learn how to connect with yourself and your higher guidance. It’s a great time to create your inner family of your soul, your loving adult and your higher guidance, and learn to share love rather than trying to have control over getting love.
We are facing a time of much helplessness, but there are things we can control. Learning to focus on what we can control rather than on what we can’t can help to bring greater inner peace.
COVID-19 is causing much loneliness, heartbreak, helplessness, fear, and grief. Most people have never learned how to lovingly manage these very painful feelings and release them from your body. Learn how in this episode.