The goal of this podcast is to hold meaningful and empowering conversations on subjects pertaining to relationship violence, assault, and abuse. As trained Prevention Educators, our day to day work is focusing on providing education on recognizing signs of unhealthy and abusive behaviors, and how to identify/provide resources for support in dealing with these issues. We also want these conversations to be a chance to provide self-empowerment by sharing out important concepts on how to take care of ourselves, especially so we can take care of others. This podcast is a place where we can extend these important conversations outside of our own communities, to educate, deconstruct, and come together in solidarity on these issues.
In this episode, Colin and Briana chat with author Delia Franklin about her book, Domestic and Intimate Partner Violence: A Holistic Perspective, and get her download on the state of DV, IPV< and SA, as well as some of historical and sociological learnings on how we address abuse, violence and assault on a national and global scale. Shop Delia's Book here: https://www.amazon.com/Domestic-Intimate-Partner-Violence-Perspective/dp/1793571597 Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444International/National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233International/National Domestic Violence Text Line: Text START to 88788Intro Music Provided By: Downtown Walk by | e s c p | https://escp-music.bandcamp.comMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comAttribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0)
In this episode, Lisa shares some common signs that indicate it might be time to re-evaluate, or end your relationship.
Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444
International/National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233
International/National Domestic Violence Text Line: Text START to 88788
One Love “How do I Know When It’s Time to Breakup?”: https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/how-to-know-when-its-time-to-break-up/
Time Magazine “How to Know When It’s Time to Let go of Someone You Love”: https://time.com/5373451/break-up-someone-love/
-Other Informational Episodes:
-The 5 Types of DV Abuse
-What Gaslighting Sounds Like
-Should I Stay or Should I go? A Common Question in DV Relationships
-Teen Dating Violence-One Sided Relationships
-Trauma Bonds
-The Cycle of Violence
-Red & Green Flags in Relationships
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*Disclaimer- In this episode Lisa discusses abuse that occurs in reactive abuse dynamics, and also shares a personal story that involves physical abuse. Listener discretion is advised***
In this episode Lisa discusses reactive abuse. She starts by giving an overview and definition of reactive abuse before talking about warning signs, why reactive abuse is helpful for the abuser, and even shares her own personal experience.
Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444
International/National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233
International/National Domestic Violence Text Line: Text START to 88788
Other Episodes Mentioned:
-Post Separation Abuse & How to Stay or Leave Safely
-Safety Plans- What They Are & When You Should Make One
-The 4 F’s of Trauma
-What Gaslighting Sounds Like
Emerald Aisle Health & Recovery “Reactive Abuse”: https://emeraldislehealthandrecovery.com/reactive-abuse/
Break The Cycle “Reactive Abuse, What it is And Why Abusers Rely on it”: https://breakthesilencedv.org/reactive-abuse-what-it-is-and-why-abusers-rely-on-it/
National Legal Service “What is Reactive Abuse”: https://nationallegalservice.co.uk/what-is-reactive-abuse/Choosing Therapy “Reactive Abuse”: https://www.choosingtherapy.com/reactive-abuse/
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In this episode we chat with Maddie Bishop, who is a psychotherapist that specializes in the neurobiology of trauma and chronic stress. Maddie has a private practice in South Lake Tahoe, and utilizes several unique methods to approaching trauma therapy. We chat about her approach, how to choose the right therapist, and debunk a lot of common misconceptions surrounding therapy.
Maddie’s Website: https://www.maddiebishoptherapy.com/
Info on “Building Balance, Kickboxing For Mind & Body” Group: https://www.maddiebishoptherapy.com/groups
Maddie’s Instagram: @therapymaddiebishop
Peter Levine’s Book: Waking the Tiger: https://www.amazon.com/Waking-Tiger-Healing-Peter-Levine/dp/155643233X
Bella Bishop Artwork Mentioned In Episode: @bellabishopstudio
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In this episode, Lisa talks about the all too common- ghosting. She starts by discussing some reasons why people choose to ghost others, and shares some of the consequences it has on the person who's been ghosted. She then shares some tips and phrases that can be used in some common dating situations to close the door on a relationship in an easy and honest way.
One Love- How to Let Someone Down Without Ghosting Them:
https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/healthy-conflict-how-to-let-someone-down-without-ghosting-them/
Scientific Article “Gone With The Wind: Exploring Mobile Dater’s Ghosting Experiences”: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/0265407520970287
Good Men Project “Don’t Ghost People, Pick One of These Excuses Instead”: https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/dont-ghost-people-pick-one-of-these-excuses-instead/
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In this episode Briana is joined by Brian Howard. Brian is a father, a podcaster, and a passionate volunteer for local causes. Brian vulnerably shares many of his life experiences and discusses how they have created an impact on who he is today. He also shares some of the most eye opening moments from his podcast, and advice for anyone who wants to start their own passion project.
Unfiltered Discussions Page: https://www.unfiltereddiscussionspodcast.com/
Brian’s Social Media: @unfiltereddis
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In this episode, Lisa shares out tips for how to navigate post-conflict situations. She shares some helpful questions and phrases that can be used to drive healthy conversations that come to a resolution, and can help repair damaged or hurt feelings.
National University “7 Conflict Resolution Tips for Couples”: https://www.nu.edu/blog/seven-conflict-resolution-tips-for-couples/
One Love “7 Tips for Handling Conflict in Your Relationship”: https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/handling_conflict/
Psychology Today “How to Heal After Upsets”: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/resolution-not-conflict/201501/how-heal-after-upsets-safe-4-step-route-recovery
The Gottman Institute “How we Used the Aftermath of a Fight to Repair our Relationships”: https://www.gottman.com/blog/how-we-used-the-aftermath-of-a-fight-to-repair-our-relationship/
MayoClinic “Forgiveness: Letting go of Grudges & Bitterness”: https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/forgiveness/art-20047692
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In this episode we begin our "Our Stories" series. In these episodes, the One Conversation hosts are going to be vulnerably telling our personal stories of who we are, where we come from, and how we got into the field of violence prevention work. Our host Colin starts us off and shares background of his upbringing, moving from the east coast to the west coast, working for the Kardashians, and what led him to work at Live Violence Free in Tahoe.
June is Pride Month. In this episode we chat with Claire McCully. Claire is an English professor, LGBTQIA activist, speaker, writer, a parent of 6, and a proud trans woman. Claire is also a TedX speaker, and has written an opinion article that was published on CNN. In this episode Claire not only shares her vulnerable story of transitioning, but we also chat about activism, having transformative conversations, and how important it is to share stories like hers in our current political climate. Lastly, she shares her wisdom for anyone out there who's in the closet, questioning, or transitioning.
Claire’s TedX Talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/claire_mccully_the_low_road_or_the_high_road
Claire’s CNN Response Article: https://www.cnn.com/2022/03/15/opinions/dont-say-gay-bill-florida-texas-trans-discrimination-mccully/index.html
Oriented to Love: https://christiansforsocialaction.org
Book “Walking The Bridgeless Canyon”: https://www.amazon.com/Walking-Bridgeless-Canyon-Repairing-Community/dp/1619200287
Trevor Project: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/
GLAAD Resource List: https://glaad.org/resourcelist/
International LGBTQIA+ Resource List: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/article/resources-for-international-lgbtq-youth/
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May is Mental Health Awareness Month. In this episode we have special guest Dawn Riddle, who is a certified guided meditation facilitator, to discuss some fascinating benefits of mindfulness and meditation. We chat about the several different types of mindfulness, some surprising health benefits achieved through consistent practice, and how to easily incorporate it into our everyday lives.
Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction: https://palousemindfulness.com/
Mayo Clinic “Meditation, A Simple Fast Way To Reduce Stress”: https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/meditation/in-depth/meditation/art-20045858
NIH Meditation & Mindfulness: https://www.nccih.nih.gov/health/meditation-and-mindfulness-what-you-need-to-know
Tara Brach Guided Meditation Library: https://www.tarabrach.com/guided-meditations/
UCLA Health Guided Meditation Library: https://www.uclahealth.org/programs/marc/free-guided-meditations/guided-meditations
Neuro “Does Meditation Help With Brain Fog?”: https://getneuro.com/blogs/thinktank/can-meditation-help-with-brain-fogCan
Meditation Help Your Immune System?; https://ranchcreekrecovery.com/blog/meditation-for-the-immune-system/#:~:text=What%20are%20the%20Benefits%20of,pressure%20and%20enhanced%20cognitive%20function.
The Recovery Village “Meditation For Addiction”: https://www.therecoveryvillage.com/drug-addiction/meditation/
New York Time’s List “The 3 Best Meditation Apps”: https://www.nytimes.com/wirecutter/reviews/best-meditation-apps/
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In this episode Lisa discusses vicarious trauma. She goes over the definition of vicarious trauma, how it can manifest, and how to provide support for someone who is experiencing this.
Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444
Self Care For Social Workers: https://onlinesocialwork.vcu.edu/blog/self-care-for-social-workers/
Self Care For Emergency Responders: https://emergency.cdc.gov/coping/responders.asp
CDCR Vicarious Trauma Fact Sheet: https://www.cdcr.ca.gov/bph/wp-content/uploads/sites/161/2021/10/Trauma-Fact-Sheets-October-2021.pdf
American Counseling Association “What is Vicarious Trauma”: https://www.counseling.org/docs/default-source/trauma-disaster/fact-sheet-9---vicarious-trauma.pdf
Psych Central “Vicarious Trauma”: https://psychcentral.com/health/vicarious-trauma#next-steps
Wendt Center Coping With Vicarious Trauma: https://www.wendtcenter.org/resources/for-professionals/
CBT Psychology “When Vicarious Trauma Goes Too Far & How To Cope”: https://cbtpsychology.com/vicarioustrauma/
Very Well Mind “Trauma Therapy”: https://www.verywellmind.com/trauma-therapy-definition-types-techniques-and-efficacy-5191413
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Disclaimer- In this episode we discuss domestic violence, listener discretion is advised
In this episode we interview Bonnie Welsh, a survivor of Intimate Partner Violence who now advocates for violence prevention. Bonnie vulnerably shares her survivor story and how, even as the victim, she found herself incarcerated when trying to leave. We discuss her story, the prevalence of abuse victims who are incarcerated, and why teaching about abuse is crucial.
Live Violence Free Crisis Line- 530-544-4444
National Domestic Violence Hotline- 800-799-7233
National Sexual Assault Hotline- 1-800-656-4673
RAINN Sexual Assault And Abuse National Website- https://www.rainn.org/
International Domestic Violence Resources- https://www.domesticshelters.org/resources/national-global-organizations/international-organizationsInternational
Sexual Assault Resources- http://www.ibiblio.org/rcip/internl.html
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In this episode we chat with the Mayor of South Lake Tahoe, Cristi Creegan. Cristi served as the president of the board of directors of Live Violence Free for over a decade. She has been actively involved in several non-profit agencies and other volunteer opportunities; her passion for conservation and the Tahoe community itself is abundant. We chat with Cristi about her time as president of the board, her new role as Mayor, and what it looks like to balance working in the civic arena while being a mother and having several other roles.
Live Violence Free's Crisis Line: 530-544-4444
California Local- Cristi’s City Council Bio: https://californialocal.com/localnews/el-dorado/ca/government/show/120-city-of-south-lake-tahoe/representative/417-cristi-creegan/
Cristi Creegan’s Instagram: @councilmembercristi
Earth Day Event at LTCC (April 22, 2023): https://visitlaketahoe.com/event/south-tahoe-earth-day/
Soroptmist Advocacy 101 (April 19th at the Tahoe Public Library): https://www.sislt.org/events/
State of South Shore Event at Tahoe Beach Retreat: https://business.tahoechamber.org/events/search?c=6
Opportunities to Get Involved in The Tahoe Community- WWW.CITYOFSLT.US
Books Mentioned-
The Singularities: A Novel by John Banville - https://www.amazon.com/Singularities-novel-John-Banville/dp/0525655174-
City of Bohane by Kevin Barry- https://www.amazon.com/City-Bohane-Novel-Kevin-Barry/dp/155597645X
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Disclaimer- In this episode we discuss sexual assault. Listener discretion is advisedApril is Sexual Assault Awareness Month. In this episode, Briana and Lisa dive into the issue of sexual assault. They discuss statistics, terminology, the short & long term effects of victimization, and how to support survivors.National Sexual Violence Hotline: 800-656-HOPE(4673)Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444National Suicide Hotline: Call or text 988International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlines/Episodes Mentioned-Episode 28- “Sexual Assault Exams w Debbi Robison, SANE’-Episode 80- Vulnerability Shame & Connection”-Episode 48- “What is Grooming?”The Hunting Ground Documentary Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jAcO6byawpoUnebelievable Series Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QTIkUzkbzQkI am Vanessa Guillen Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wpii7t26aZU RAINN’s Website: https://www.rainn.org/ UCLA Health: https://www.uclahealth.org/news/the-long-term-effects-of-sexual-assaultVAWNet Online Article Database “Effects of Sexual Violence” Article: https://vawnet.org/material/psychological-consequences-sexual-traumaRAINN Statistics on Sexual Assault: https://www.rainn.org/statistics/scope-problemRape Foundation “Helping Someone You Know”:https://therapefoundation.org/helping-someone-you-know/RAINN “Tips for Talking to Survivors”: https://www.rainn.org/articles/tips-talking-survivors-sexual-assaultWashington Coalition of SA Programs “Effects of SA”: https://www.wcsap.org/help/about-sexual-assault/effects-sexual-assaultIntro Music Provided By: Downtown Walk by | e s c p | https://escp-music.bandcamp.comMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comAttribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/
We are rounding out Woman's History Month with a candid conversation discussing the wisdom and insight we've learned from Brene Brown. Brene is a researcher and story-teller who has spent the last few decades researching courage, shame, vulnerability, and empathy. Lisa and Briana both have learned so many valuable lessons from her various talks, podcasts, and interviews, and share some of their favorite teachable moments they have learned from her work. Brene Brown TED Talk “The Power of Vulnerability”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o&t=2sBrene Brown TED Talk “Listening to Shame”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=psN1DORYYV0&t=23sBrene Brown TED Talk “The Price of Invulnerability”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_UoMXF73j0c&t=29sBrene Brown’s Book List: https://brenebrown.com/books-audioBrene Brown’s Podcast: https://brenebrown.com/podcasts/Brene Brown’s Website/Bio: https://brenebrown.com/aboutMotivational Instincts Video- Brene Brown: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6qfbpBzqitALive Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444Intro Music Provided By: Downtown Walk by | e s c p | https://escp-music.bandcamp.comMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comAttribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/One Conversation, The Podcast Where We Believe One Conversation Can Change A Life | www.liveviolencefree.org
Disclaimer- in this episode we touch on difficult subjects such as domestic violence, sexual and emotional abuse, listener discretion is advised
In this episode we highlight Bridey Thelen Heidel. We chat with Bridey about her blog and upcoming memoir which detail her upbringing in a household with domestic violence and abuse, and how sharing her story has been apart of her healing. Bridey has devoted her life to empowering the people around her, especially youth. She is a Tahoe local, English teacher, head of the ALLY club, and is soon to be in an off-Broadway production in New York City.
Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444
National Domestic Abuse Hotline: 800-799-7233
Bridey’s Blog: https://bridey-thelenheidel.com/
Tickets/Livestream Info for “Listen to Your Mother” Performance: https://theatre71.venuetix.com/show/details/TqcmhvqRVhNOGJrWs7ZY/1680375600000
Bridey on Dancing With The Tahoe Stars: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5p4lOsisxkc
National Domestic Violence Resources: https://www.thehotline.org/International Domestic Violence Resources: https://www.domesticshelters.org/resources/national-global-organizations/international-organizations
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March is International Women's Month. In this episode we highlight Mei Lee, who is an entrepreneur, and founder of "Ageless Zen" a local Tahoe beauty brand. Ageless Zen has partnered with Live Violence Free in an innovative community partnership, where shopping their clean ingredient products can directly benefit the clients we serve at our agency. We chat with Mei about the products in the Ageless Zen line, tips for other women starting a company, and discuss how other businesses can take this community partnership approach to support local agencies and non-profits
Ageless Zen's Community Partnership Link (proceeds of sales go to Live Violence Free): https://www.azcommunitypartnership.com/
Ageless Zen's Website: https://agelesszen.com/
Live Violence Free's Website: https://liveviolencefree.org/
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In this episode we have a deep conversation about relationship truths with Rio Timberlane. Rio is a Relationship Scientist and Author, helping others to recognize how their subconscious mind influences their day to day life, often causing fear, anxiety & worry. We discuss paradigm shifting concepts of how we hold power in our relationships, and the line between healthy and unhealthy. Rio discusses some of the 4 laws he has created in his book that identify how we can better navigate our relationships, and be the most authentic version of ourselves.
One Conversation Instagram to Provide Q & A Questions: @oneconversation_lvf
Rio’s Book “The Joy of Lucid Love”: https://www.riowrks.org/
Rio’s Biography Page: https://www.riowrks.org/rio-timberlane
Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444
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Disclaimer- in this episode, the topics of abuse and self-harm are discussed, listener discretion is advised
February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month. In this episode, Lisa has a comprehensive discussion on teen dating violence. She begins by defining teen dating violence before discussing some of the immediate and even long-term impacts that can come from having experienced intimate partner violence in these formative years. She shares out warning signs and red flags of teen relationship abuse that can be noticed by adults and teens themselves, and even shares some personal experience before sharing out what can be done to limit some of the negative impacts that can occur.
Live Violence Free Crisis Line- 530-544-4444
National Teen Dating Violence Hotline -866-331-9474
National Suicide Prevention Hotline- Dial 988
Teen Dating Violence Global Resources- https://www.domesticshelters.org/resources/national-global-organizations/teen-dating-violence
Episodes-
Ep 13: Teen Dating Violence
Ep 40: 5 Types of DV Abuse
Ep 68: Coercive Control
Ep. 2: Dynamics of Domestic Violence
Ep 61: Impact of Childhood Trauma & ACE Studies
Love is Respect- https://www.loveisrespect.org/
CDC Fast Facts- Teen Dating Violence
https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/intimatepartnerviolence/teendatingviolence/fastfact.html#:~:text=Violence%20in%20an%20adolescent%20relationship,risk%20for%20victimization%20during%20college.
USA Today- Teen Dating Violence Affects Well-Being in Adulthood
https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2012/12/07/teen-dating-violence-pediatrics/1749105/
Erin Levitas Foundation- Impacts of Teen Dating Violence in Adulthood
https://erinlevitas.org/2022/02/24/impacts-of-teen-dating-violence-on-adulthood/
Cornell Chronicle- Teen Dating Violence Linked to Long Term Harmful Effects
https://news.cornell.edu/stories/2012/12/teen-dating-violence-linked-long-term-harm
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Warning- listener discretion is advised for this episode due to the content and describing situations of violence. Please be advised this episode is for mature audiences only
January is Stalking Awareness Month. In this episode, Lisa dives into the realities of stalking. She shares how stalking is portrayed and discussed in media and current events, the different profiles or types/characteristics of stalkers, and goes over some myths and facts about this issue. She ends by sharing tips and options for victims of stalking, and how to seek support.
Live Violence Free Crisis Line- 530-544-4444
Episode 62- "Safety Plans, What They Are & When You Should Make One"
Episode 42- "How Technology Can Be Used In Abusive Relationships"
Stalking Awareness.org- Stalking Safety Strategies: https://www.stalkingawareness.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/11/Safety-Strategies.pdf
One Love- 5 Movies that Normalize Stalking IRL: https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/5-movies-that-normalize-stalking-irl/
National Domestic Violence Hotline- Stalking Safety Planning:
https://www.thehotline.org/resources/stalking-safety-planning/
Victim Support Services- Myths & Facts of Stalking:
https://www.stalkingawareness.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/11/Safety-Strategies.pdf
Charlotte Police Department- Myths & Facts of Stalking:
https://police.charlotte.edu/safety/what-if-i-am-being-stalked/stalking-awareness-fact-sheet
Scholarly Thesis- Behaviors Characteristics of Stalkers Who Kill: https://shareok.org/bitstream/handle/11244/331402/BrooksRL2021.pdf?sequence=1&isAllowed=y
Stalking Risk Profile- Types of Stalking: https://www.stalkingriskprofile.com/what-is-stalking/types-of-stalking
Domestic Violence Shelter Search (National/International):
https://www.domesticshelters.org/help
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January is Positive Parenting Awareness Month. In this episode, Lisa and Sara discuss the Triple P, or Positive Parenting Program. The Triple P is an evidence-based parenting method that is backed by 3 decades of research, and has been piloted in several countries across the globe. We share out some of the components of the program that make it different from other parenting styles, and share the core elements of the positive parenting method.
The Atlantic “Welcome to Parenting College”: https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2016/03/welcome-to-parent-college/473484/
Triple P “Find Out About Triple P”: https://www.triplep.net/glo-en/find-out-about-triple-p/
Triple P “Parenting FAQ”: https://www.triplep-parenting.com/us/about-triple-p/faq/
Positive Parenting Awareness Month Tools: https://www.positiveparentingtools.org/tools-to-use
CNBC “Here’s What Makes Positive Parenting Different”: https://www.cnbc.com/2021/12/04/why-psychologists-say-positive-parenting-is-the-best-style-for-raising-confident-successful-kids.html
Alfie Kohn “The Risk of Rewards” Research Article: https://www.alfiekohn.org/article/risks-rewards/
Positive Parenting During COVID: https://acrobat.adobe.com/link/track?uri=urn:aaid:scds:US:dcaf377f-ab12-300b-aa58-7a3eaf08877c
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In this episode Lisa breaks down what it looks like to be living in survival mode. She shares how trauma impacts the brain and causes the survival mode response. The warning signs of being in survival mode are shared to paint a picture of what this looks and feels like, followed up by some tips for alleviating the symptoms of frequent survival mode. This episode ends in a trauma informed guided meditation.
Episodes Mentioned:
-Episode 65 Overcome Trauma With Mindfulness With Marta McLean LMFT
-Episode 56 The 4 F’s Of Trauma
-Episode 27 Self-Compassion With Jen Kile LMFT
-Episode 1 Self-Care
Psychology Today “Why Living In Survival Mode Isn’t The Best Way To Live”: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/lifting-the-veil-trauma/202006/why-survival-mode-isnt-the-best-way-live
Rosen Institute “8 Signs You’re In Survival Mode (And How To Escape)”: https://roseninstitute.com/8-signs-youre-survival-mode-step-escaping/
Jefferson Center “What is “Survival Mode?”: https://www.jcmh.org/a-how-to-guide-for-surviving-survival-mode/
Genesis Shelter “Understanding PTSD”: https://www.genesisshelter.org/understanding-ptsd/
Dr. Gia Marson “Negative Impact of Prolonged Survival Mode”: https://drgiamarson.com/the-negative-impact-of-prolonged-survival-mode-what-can-you-do-to-thrive/
Child Guidance Resource Center Staff “Trauma & The Brain - Signs You Might Be Living In Survival Mode”: https://cgrc.org/blog/trauma-and-the-brain-signs-you-might-be-in-survival-mode/
Grounding Techniques Worksheet: https://www.winona.edu/resilience/media/grounding-worksheet.pdf
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In this episode we talk about the importance of healing your inner child. We chat about the process of reconnecting with our inner child through a process called re-parenting. We share some exercises for that reconnection process, and some tips and considerations along the way. We also discuss some other measures to address your inner child, and some helpful skills to strengthen that process.
Reparenting Your Inner Child: https://www.stepupformentalhealth.org/reparenting-your-inner-child/
Healing Your Inner Child: https://psychcentral.com/health/how-to-heal-your-inner-child#hug-yourself
Inner Child Healing Exercises PDF: https://www.zalmannelson.com/inner-child-healing-exercises-pdf
Forbes “5 Self-Soothing Techniques to Heal Your Inner Child”: https://www.forbes.com/sites/womensmedia/2021/09/02/5-self-soothing-tips-to-heal-your-inner-child/?sh=187ad0522f32
Carl Jung “Inner Child In Dreams” Book: https://www.amazon.com/Inner-Child-Dreams-Foundation-Books/dp/1570626790
Thich Nhat Hanh “Reconciliation, Healing The Inner Child” Book:
https://www.amazon.com/Reconciliation-Healing-Thich-Nhat-Hanh/dp/1935209647
Inner Child Healing Books: https://medium.com/the-conscious-way/7-books-that-will-help-you-heal-your-inner-child-583176bfaaef
Briana’s TED Talk “Preventing Teen Dating Violence From The Inside Out”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iwuy5UZy3Gw
Episode Mentioned Today:
-Episode 65: “Overcome Trauma With Mindfulness with Special Guest: Marta McLean LMFT
Video- Dr Dawn Elise Snipes “Healing The Inner Child” Using CBT: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IKJPtpaNP2A
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In this episode we talk about the attachment styles. These attachment types are formed in infancy, and can significantly affect our relationships with partners, friends, family, or in any relationship capacity. We break down the 4 attachment styles by sharing the behaviors, patterns, and triggers for each type. We also discuss how we can navigate dealing with the insecurities felt by each type, and how to maintain a healthy relationship with someone who has an insecure attachment style.
Discover Your Attachment Style (Free Quiz): https://www.attachmentproject.com/attachment-style-quiz/
The Attachment Project “Attachment Styles”: https://www.attachmentproject.com/blog/four-attachment-styles/
What is Attachment Theory?: https://www.attachmentproject.com/attachment-theory/
HelpGuide “How Attachment Styles Affect Adult Relationships”: https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/attachment-and-adult-relationships.htm
Mind Body Green’s “7 Expert-Approved Books To Take A Deep Dive Into Attachment Styles”: https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/best-books-on-attachment-theory
Psych2Go “The Four Attachment Styles of Love” Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=23ePqRkOKtg
Other Episodes Mentioned in Today's Episode:
Impacts of Childhood Trauma & The ACE Study- Episode 61
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In this episode Lisa discusses the dynamics of a one-sided relationship. She shares some of the signs of either being in, or perpetuating a one-sided relationship dynamic, and also shares how partners can work to overcome this. This episode ends with a guided meditation focused on dealing with difficult emotions.
Cleveland Health Clinic "4 Signs of One Sided Relationships": https://health.clevelandclinic.org/one-sided-relationships/
Very Well Mind "One-Sided Relationship Signs": https://www.verywellmind.com/one-sided-relationship-signs-causes-effects-coping-5216120
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Disclaimer- In this episode we discuss abuse and share statistics on relationship violence/fatality. Listener discretion is advised
In this episode we talk about Post Separation Abuse and how a victim/survivor can stay in, or leave, a domestic violence relationship as safely as possible. We break down the ways that someone can abuse a victim/survivor after separation, by explaining the types of manipulation provided on the Deluth Model "Post-Separation Abuse" wheel. We then move on to discussing tips for remaining in the relationship as safely as possible and some considerations to keep in mind. Lastly, we discuss important factors for maintaining safety after leaving a abusive relationship.
Live Violence Free Crisis Line- 530-544-4444
National/International Domestic Violence Hotline- 800-799-7233
One Conversation Episodes Mentioned Today-
Episode 62 “Safety Plans - What They Are & When You Should Make One”
Episode 41 “Should I Stay or Should I Go? A Common Question in DV Relationships”
Episode 65- “Overcome Trauma With Mindfulness With Special Guest: Marta McLean LMFT” (Explaining EMDR & Other Trauma Focused Therapy/Tools)
One Conversation Episodes Focusing on Domestic Violence-
Episode 2- “Dynamics of Domestic Violence”
Episode 3-”How to Support Domestic Violence Survivors”
Episode 30- “Unhealthy & Abusive LGBTQIA+ Relationships”
Episode 35-”Impact of Domestic Violence on Children & Survivors”
Episode 40-”The 5 Types of Domestic Violence Abuse”
Episode 42-”How Can Technology be Used in Abusive Relationships? With Special Guest Heather Anderson”
The Women’s Safe House “Stages of Leaving a DV Relationship”- https://twsh.org/community-education/stages-of-leaving-a-dv-relationship/
DomesticShelter.Org’s “8 Common Post-Separation Abuse Tactics”- https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/legal/8-common-post-separation-domestic-abuse-tactics
NCADV’s “Why do Victims Stay?”- https://ncadv.org/why-do-victims-stay
CTCADV’s “National Statistics About DV”- https://www.ctcadv.org/information-about-domestic-violence/national-statistics/
Duluth’s “Post Separation Power And Control Wheel”- https://www.dvact.org/post/the-post-separation-abuse-wheel
HelpGuide’s “How to Get Out of an Abusive Relationship”- https://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/getting-out-of-an-abusive-relationship.htm
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In this episode we discuss abuse that happens within coercive control relationships, listener discretion is advised
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. In this episode we spend time breaking down the prevalent and complex issue that is coercive control. We take time to not only define it, but also share some of the ways it can look or feel within the relationship. We highlight ways someone can recognize if they are in a coercive control relationship, and even share some of our own personal insight. Lastly, we discuss some tips for how to leave a coercive control relationship safely and some things to keep in mind.
Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444
International Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233
National Domestic Violence TextLine: Text “SMART” to 88788
Domestic Shelters.Org “Guide to Coercive Control”: https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/a-guide-to-coercive-control
Domestic Shelters.Org “Abuse That’s Hard to Recognize”: https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/abuse-that-s-hard-to-recognize-coercive-control
Psychology Today “4 Common Patterns of Coercive Control in Relationships”: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-ptsd/202206/4-common-patterns-coercive-control-in-relationships
VIDEO- Divorce & Beyond Podcast “UnderstandingCoercive Control With IPV Expert Christine Cocchiola”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V2lUeD1yI6E&t=4s
Book Link- “Invisible Chains, Overcoming Coercive Control in Your Intimate Relationship”: https://www.guilford.com/fontes3-forms
Domestic Shelters.Org Domestic Violence Book Guides: https://www.domesticshelters.org/resources/books
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In this episode, Lisa shares important insight for how to deepen our connection with our partner. The 5 Love Languages are different ways people give and receive love. Knowing the love languages is helpful for showing up for your partner in ways that make them feel seen and appreciated, and also the key for how your partner can show you that you are loved.
5 Love Languages Website/Quizzes: https://5lovelanguages.com/start/romantic/
5 Love Languages Book on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Love-Languages-Secret-That-Lasts/dp/0802473156
Very Well Mind “5 Love Languages” Article: https://www.verywellmind.com/can-the-five-love-languages-help-your-relationship-4783538#toc-criticisms-of-the-love-language-theory
Family Centre “5 Different Ways To Show Love And Improve Your Relationship”: https://www.familycentre.org/news/post/5-different-ways-to-show-love-and-improve-your-relationship
Psych2Go Video "What is Your Love Language?": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0EEdwpAOg
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In this episode we discuss a topic that is near and dear to us: positive affirmations. Not only are we big believers in the power of utilizing affirmations, but there is also scientific evidence on how beneficial they are to our outlook and overall health. We talk about the research findings, share tips to help create a daily routine with affirmations. examples of affirmation statements, and even share some of our own personal experiences and insight.
National Library of Medicine “Self-Affirmation Activates Brain Systems Associated With Self-Related Processing and Reward and is Reinforced by Future Orientation”: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4814782/
Washington Post “How to Make Self-Affirmations Work”: https://www.washingtonpost.com/wellness/2022/05/02/do-self-affirmations-work/
Positive Affirmations for Self-Love, Self-Confidence, Self-Esteem Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yo1pJ_D-H3M
Positive Affirmations for Improving Your Mindset Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oQUkLue4Q-o
Huffpost “35 Affirmations That Will Change Your Life”: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/affirmations_b_3527028
Affirmations Journal Prompts: https://www.holisticwellnesspractice.com/hwp-blog/2021/04/22/21-days-to-a-positive-mindset-journal-prompts-affirmations
The “Love Girls” Online Magazine: https://www.lovegirlsmagazine.com/
“I Am” App Link: https://iamaffirmations.app/
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In this episode we are joined by special guest, Marta McLean, to have a deep conversation on how we can deal with trauma. Marta has been providing therapy services at Live Violence Free for 10 years, and specializes in trauma therapy. We define triggers before she shares a plethora of techniques that can be used when someone is triggered. We end with a special breathing technique for our meditation, that can be used to help ground and center you either during or after a trigger.
Live Violence Free Virtual Trauma Support Group: Every Wednesday at 10AM. Call 530-544-2118 for more information (Available to residents of El Dorado and Alpine County)
Trauma Survivors Network Peer Support Group: https://www.traumasurvivorsnetwork.org/pages/peer-support-groups
Healthline's "The 5 Best Online Trauma Support Groups: https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/ptsd-online-support-group
Kristin Neff's Website: https://self-compassion.org/
Kristin Neff's Books (Marta Recommended):
Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook: https://www.amazon.com/Mindful-Self-Compassion-Workbook-Yourself-Strength/dp/1462526780
Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself: https://www.amazon.com/Self-Compassion-Proven-Power-Being-Yourself/dp/0061733520
Fierce Self-Compassion: https://www.amazon.com/Fierce-Self-Compassion-Harness-Kindness-Thrive/dp/006299106X
Medical News Today's "Grounding Techniques for PTSD & Trauma": https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/grounding-techniques
Choosing Mental Health's "25 Grounding Techniques for Trauma": https://choosementalhealth.org/25-grounding-techniques-for-anxiety/
Very Well Mind's "Best Meditation/Mindfulness Apps of 2022": https://www.verywellmind.com/best-meditation-apps-4767322
Live Violence Free: https://liveviolencefree.org/
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In this episode, we explore and share some insight for foster, adoptive, and biological parents of children who have experienced trauma. We discuss how children in different age groups can be impacted from traumatic experiences, and what types of experiences can develop into childhood traumatic stress. We highlight the different risk and protective factors that can mitigate or worsen traumatic episodes, and even discuss some tips for how parents can help their child overcome living with trauma.
Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444
CSP Overview of Trauma in Foster Care: https://www.csp.edu/publication/trauma-children-in-foster-care-a-comprehensive-overview/
Washington Foster's "Understanding Trauma": https://foster.wachildrenandfamilies.org/blog/understanding-trauma-in-foster-children
Child Welfare's "Parenting A Child Who Has Experienced Trauma": https://www.childwelfare.gov/pubs/factsheets/child-trauma/
The Marshall Project "Hidden Trauma in Short Stays in Foster Care": https://www.themarshallproject.org/2020/02/11/the-hidden-trauma-of-short-stays-in-foster-care
Child Welfare's "Support For Foster Families": https://www.childwelfare.gov/topics/outofhome/resources-foster-families/supports/
National child Traumatic Stress Network "What is Trauma": https://www.nctsn.org/what-is-child-trauma/trauma-types
Treating The Effects of Childhood Trauma: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-are-the-effects-of-childhood-trauma-4147640
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In this episode, Briana and Lisa dive into a topic that they both struggle with - Imposter Syndrome. This phenomenon causes people to feel like they are a fraud in some area of their life, whether it's in their work, home life, or relationships. Are we really not doing enough? Or, are these feelings of falling short coming from somewhere else? They define the 5 types Imposter Syndrome and some of the ways we can challenge this limiting inner dialogue, while also taking time to spill some tea and discuss how this has impacted them personally.
Dr Valerie Young Imposter Syndrome Institute: https://impostorsyndrome.com/valerie-young/
“Thinking Your Way Out Of Imposter Syndrome” TED Talk, Dr. Valerie Young: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h7v-GG3SEWQ
APA “Feel Like A Fraud?”: https://www.apa.org/gradpsych/2013/11/fraud
Psychology Today “Imposter Syndrome”: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/imposter-syndrome
Very Well Mind “Imposter Syndrome”: https://www.verywellmind.com/imposter-syndrome-and-social-anxiety-disorder-4156469
PsychCentral “Imposter Syndrome Test” : https://psychcentral.com/quizzes/impostor-syndrome-test
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In this episode we are diving in to all things safety plans. We start off by talking a little about the different types of safety plans that exist, before sharing out important information on domestic violence safety plans. We go through the different types of questions a safety plan will ask, and also discuss some tips and considerations for creating one.
The Hotline National Call Line: 800-799-7233
The Hotline National Text Chat: Text SMART to 88788
Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444
National Search Tool for Domestic Violence: https://www.domesticshelters.org/help#?page=1
The Hotline “Interactive Guide to Safety Planning”: https://www.thehotline.org/plan-for-safety/create-a-safety-plan/#gf_1
Love is Respect “Create a Safety Plan”: https://www.loveisrespect.org/personal-safety/create-a-safety-plan/
RAINN “Safety Planning”: https://www.rainn.org/articles/safety-planning
“Victim Centered Safety Plan for Adults” Article: https://s3-us-east-2.amazonaws.com/ncall/wp-content/uploads/2020/03/20102351/SafetyPlanningOlderAdults.pdf
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In this episode Briana and Sara discuss the many ways that experiencing trauma in childhood can have negative effects across the lifespan. They discuss the areas of the brain that are most impacted by trauma before introducing the ACEs, or Adverse Childhood Experiences Study. They share out some of the groundbreaking research done by the ACEs research team that shows how trauma in childhood can lead to significant health or emotional issues later on in life. Lastly, they share how protective factors can help curb some of these negative health outcomes.
Not to be used as a diagnostic tool- Take the ACES Quiz: https://americanspcc.org/take-the-aces-quiz/
ACES “Who We Are”: http://aceresponse.org/who_we_are/ACE-Study_43_pg.htm
Traumatic Stress Impacts on Brain Study: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3181836/
APA Article “Trauma”: https://www.apa.org/topics/trauma#:~:text=Trauma%20is%20an%20emotional%20response,symptoms%20like%20headaches%20or%20nausea.
Nadine Burke Harris - How Childhood Trauma Affects Health Across a Lifetime TED Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=95ovIJ3dsNk
Find a Doctor Near You Search Page: https://doctor.webmd.com/
Find a Therapist Near You Search Page: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists
Harvard’s “ACEs and Toxic Stress Frequently Asked Questions”: https://developingchild.harvard.edu/resources/aces-and-toxic-stress-frequently-asked-questions/
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Some of the stories told today discuss abuse and mistreatment that could be triggering for some listeners. Listener discretion is advised
In this episode, Lisa and Sara take time to share out some of their most impactful stories from working in the field of violence prevention. Throughout the stories they discuss the importance of being a support system and how to be a strong advocate for others.
Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444
Live Violence Free Website: www.liveviolencefree.org
The Hotline Domestic Violence Call Line: 800-799-7233
The Hotline Domestic Violence Text Line: Text START to 88788
RAINN Sexual Assault Support Resources: https://www.rainn.org/resources
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Listener discretion is advised, as this episode discusses moments of harm and a mass shooting
June is Pride Month. In this episode, Lisa shares out an interesting mini-history lesson on the LGBTQIA+ movement. She starts at the very beginning, discussing some of the earliest documentation of individuals in the community, and the earliest activist groups. While touching on some important moments throughout history, she dives into the infamous Stonewall Riots, which was a pivotal moment for LGBTQIA rights, and the movement itself. The episode is concluded by discussing some current considerations, including the horrific Pulse Nightclub incident, before moving in to a guided meditation.
History Channel- Stonewall https://www.history.com/topics/gay-rights/the-stonewall-riots
“Who Was At Stonewall?” Article: https://www.oprahdaily.com/life/a36319161/stonewall-riot-leaders/
Female Husbands of Kenya History: https://face2faceafrica.com/article/fascinating-history-africas-female-husbands
8 Things You Should Know About Two-Spirit People: https://indiancountrytoday.com/archive/8-misconceptions-things-know-two-spirit-people
National Park Service LGBTQIA History and Culture
https://www.nps.gov/ston/learn/historyculture.htm
Stonewall History 50 Years of LGBT History https://www.stonewall.org.uk/about-us/news/stonewall-uprising-50-years-lgbt-history
LGBTQIA American History Timeline https://www.lgbtqhistory.org/lgbt-rights-timeline-in-american-history/
GLSEN LGBTQ History https://www.glsen.org/lgbtq-history
American Psychological Association History of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Social Movements https://www.apa.org/pi/lgbt/resources/history
History Channel LGBT History https://www.history.com/tag/lgbt-history
NBC’s Queer History Book List https://www.nbcnews.com/select/nbc-out/11-books-read-lgbtq-history-month-ncna808486
Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444
GLAAD Resources https://www.glaad.org/resourcelist
Trevor Project Resource Center https://www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/
ConnectSafe Resource Hub https://www.connectsafely.org/lgbtq-resources/
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June is Pride month. In this episode we discuss the coming out process. We share some valid considerations for why someone in the LGBTQIA+ community might choose, or choose not to come out. We go over some tips for how you can prepare for the coming out conversation(s) if you are not out yet, as well as some ideas for how to make sure you take care of yourself before, during, and after that talk.
Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444
Trevor Project Coming Out Handbook: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/guide/the-coming-out-handbook/
Trevor Project: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/
Trevor Project Mental Health Hub: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/contact-us/
Coming Out For Teens: https://kidshealth.org/en/teens/coming-out.html
LGBTQIA Resource Help Center: https://lgbtqia.ucdavis.edu/support/hotlines
PFLAG Support Hub: https://pflag.org/needsupport
“Stop The Hurt” LGBTQIA Healthy Relationships: https://stopthehurt.org/lgbtq-relationships/
“Love is Respect” Healthy LGBTQIA Relationships: https://www.loveisrespect.org/pdf/Healthy_LGBTQ_Relationships.pdf
US LGBTQIA Shelters/Housing Options: https://nationalhomeless.org/issues/lgbt/
LGBTQIA Homelessness Services: https://www.hudexchange.info/homelessness-assistance/resources-for-lgbt-homelessness/#resources-for-homeless-lgbtq-individuals-in-crisis
International LGBTQIA Resources: https://www.stonewall.org.uk/our-work/international/international-resources
Stonewall UK’s “Advice for Coming Out LGBTQIA+”: https://www.stonewall.org.uk/help-advice/coming-out/coming-out-as-an-adult
UK Shelter Info: https://england.shelter.org.uk/get_help
Human Rights Campaign "Coming Out Resources: https://www.hrc.org/resources/coming-out
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In this episode Lisa, Sara, and Miguel share out some personal insight as to why they choose to work at Live Violence Free in the field of violence intervention & prevention. They share their motivations, difficult moments, successes, and what keeps them going and doing the work, Lastly, they discuss ways that you can become involved at Live Violence Free as a volunteer if you are local to the area. Below are links to numerous national and international organizations to get involved in violence prevention if you are not a Tahoe California local.
Live Violence Free Volunteer Page: https://liveviolencefree.org/get-involved/volunteer/
Live Violence Free "Crisis Intervention Training" Info Page: https://liveviolencefree.org/get-involved/crisis-intervention-training/
National Coalition Against Domestic Violence Volunteer Page: https://ncadv.org/volunteer
Partnership Against Domestic Violence Volunteer/Opportunities: https://padv.org/supporters/volunteer/
RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) Volunteer Page: https://go.rainn.org/l/699033/2021-01-13/5ql5p
RAINN Career Listings Page: https://www.rainn.org/careers
SafeBae Volunteer/Career Page: https://safebae.org/get-involved/
Futures Without Violence Volunteer/Get Involved Page: https://www.futureswithoutviolence.org/take-action/
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Disclaimer - This episode discusses trauma responses. Please be advised this content might be triggering for some
May is Mental Health and Trauma Awareness Month. In this episode Lisa introduces the "4 F's of Trauma" which are the 4 types of trauma responses. She discusses how trauma can manifest itself in individuals, including different types of situations where trauma can occur. Each one of the trauma responses (or the 4 F's) are broken down, discussing what kind of symptoms or behaviors stem from each. Lastly, she shares out coping techniques for each response, and talks about how you can support yourself, or perhaps someone else that is experiencing these trauma responses.
"Neurobiology of Trauma": http://stacarecenter.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/09/The-Care-Center-Neurobiology-of-Trauma-Nov-2016.pdf
PTSD and Reactions Article: https://www.ptsd.va.gov/understand/isitptsd/common_reactions.asp
UW School Research Article PTSD and Sexual Assault: https://newsroom.uw.edu/news/75-sexual-assault-survivors-have-ptsd-one-month-later
"Understanding The 4 F's of Trauma": https://bridgesmentalhealth.com/2021/02/12/understanding-the-four-fs-of-complex-trauma/
"Why We Do What We Do: Trauma Responses, The 4 F's": http://northstarcounselingcenter.com/trauma-and-stress-responses-the-four-4s
"Trauma, Helping Family or Friends": https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/conditionsandtreatments/trauma-helping-family-or-friends
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Disclaimer- in this episode we define all types of child abuse. This content can be triggering due to the nature of the conversation, so please be advised
April is both Sexual Assault and Child Abuse Awareness Month. In this episode we define and discuss child abuse. We discuss the different forms of abuse, and we talk about differences in child abuse laws state to state. We share out some red-flags and warning signs of abuse before we share out some tips and considerations for how we can hold conversations with kids and provide support for a child who has been abused.
http://criminal-justice.iresearchnet.com/crime/domestic-violence/global-perspective-child-abuse/ * International Perspectives for Research on Child Abuse and Neglect https://files.eric.ed.gov/fulltext/ED586148.pdf * Child Abuse and Neglect Prevention Organizations https://www.childwelfare.gov/organizations/?CWIGFunctionsaction=rols:main.dspList&rolType=Custom&RS_ID=75&rList=ROL * International Society for Prevention of Child Abuse & Neglect https://www.ispcan.org/?v=402f03a963ba * Child Abuse Prevention Curriculums https://www.childwelfare.gov/topics/preventing/prevention-programs/schoolbased/
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*Disclaimer*- This episode discusses sexual violence and suicide. Please be advised that this episode can be triggering for some listeners.
April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month. In this episode we go through Daisy Coleman's survivor story, and discuss the paralleled barriers and challenges that sexual assault victims may go through. March 30th, which was Daisy's birthday, is now known as "Daisy Day"; it's a day to remember the important and impactful advocacy work that she did. Daisy Coleman was featured in the award winning documentary "Audrie & Daisy" that highlights the sexual assault stories of both Daisy Coleman and Audrie Pott. We break down misconceptions and unfortunately common reactions that victims and survivors may face, in hopes of bringing awareness in how to better support victims and survivors. Rest in peace Audrie & Daisy.
SafeBAE “For Daisy” Remembrance Page: https://safebae.org/fordaisy/
SafeBAE: https://safebae.org/
Audrie & Daisy Documentary Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eMq9AL27gmo
National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673
National Suicide Support Hotline: 800-273-8255
International Suicide Support Resources Hub Page: https://support.google.com/websearch/answer/11181469
International Sexual Violence Resource Hub: https://www.rcne.com/links/international-organisations/
Start By Believing: https://startbybelieving.org/
Love Is Respect: https://www.loveisrespect.org/
Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444
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In this episode we had the pleasure of chatting with Alissa Nourse. Alissa is a Ninja Courage trainer and strategist, as well as a certified strengths and mindfulness life coach. She shares out some of her insight on how to be more courageous and how to own your individual qualities, strengths, and quirks to find success in leadership and life in general. Alissa provides a short activity that anyone can do to highlight your strengths and start the day feeling empowered, instead of feeling the weight of imposter syndrome.
Alissa Nourse's "Ninja Courage" Website: https://www.ninjacourage.com/about
Clifton Strengths Online Quiz: https://www.gallup.com/cliftonstrengths/en/252137/home.aspx
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Have you ever lied on a postpartum depression scale screening? You are not alone! Postpartum anxiety & depression is a conversation that is hard to have, but needs to be had. In this episode, host and new-mom Briana shares out her own personal experience with postpartum anxiety & depression to dive into the complexities of new motherhood, and some of the inherent challenges that can come along with it.
The Edinburgh Postnatal Depression Scale: https://www.sadag.org/images/brochures/edinburghscale.pdf
CDC Reproductive Health Postpartum Depression: https://www.cdc.gov/reproductivehealth/depression/index.htm
Georgetown Nursing "Postpartum Signs & Resources": https://online.nursing.georgetown.edu/blog/postpartum-depression-resources/
Postpartum Support International: https://www.postpartum.net/
Postpartum Support International Resource Finder: https://www.postpartum.net/get-help/international/resource/?dosrch=1&q=&wpbdp_view=search&listingfields
Postpartum Depression Alliance of Illinois "Postpartum help for fathers, dads, husbands, partners": https://www.ppdil.org/resources-for-dads/
Postpartum Support International "Help for Dads": https://www.postpartum.net/get-help/help-for-dads/
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In this episode, Lisa and Briana had the privilege of sitting down with relationship violence expert Jasmine Uribe to discuss the Teen Dating Violence Movement. She has participated in national conferences, panels, podcasts, radio, and network television shows. Jasmine is a leader in the dating violence and sexual assault prevention movement, with 15 years of experience working with youth and adult allies across the country to inspire leadership and amplify the voices of survivors of violence. As a nationally recognized consultant working to advance non-profit program development and sustainability efforts, she believes in empowering communities through the development of innovative programs and culturally specific resources that enact change. Over the past 11 years she led many initiatives with Break the Cycle, a former organization working to end relationship violence, and most recently served as their Chief Operating Officer. She is currently the CEO and Founder of Leaders Ending Violence, LLC where she works with organizations and advocates across the country to inspire change, adapt programs, and build youth leadership efforts around the issues of dating and domestic violence, sexual assault, stalking, and cyber-stalking.
Jasmine's Instagram :
@jas.cejauribe - personal account
@leadersendingviolence - consulting LLC page
@LBRyouth - youth led project that now is apart of Leaders Ending Violence
Jasmine's company website: www.leadersendingviolence.com
Jasmine's company email: juribe@leadersendingviolence.com
Link to MTV true life crime episode featuring Jasmine Uribe:
https://www.mtv.com/episodes/uiokbx/true-life-crime-runaway-twin-or-twin-in-trouble-season-2-ep-4
Advocacy, Education and Legal Resources - Washington DC Area
https://www.nvrdc.org/
Archived Break the Cycle resources
https://vawnet.org/publisher/break-cycle
SafeBAE - youth led/serving
https://safebae.org/
SafeBAE Instagram- @safe_bae
Esperanza United - work with Latinx youth and communities
https://esperanzaunited.org/en/
Esperanza United Instagram- @esperanzaunited
No More Dating Violence Resources and campaigns -
https://nomore.org/
https://nomore.org/campaigns/no-more-week-2022/
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In this episode we wanted to highlight some important tips on how to discuss teen dating violence with teenagers. We share out advice on how to comfortably hold these conversations with youth, and also share some great talking points and insight along the way. We give some specific advice and examples for parents of teenagers to start these conversations, as well as anyone who has teenagers in their life.
Live Violence Free Website With Anonymous Chat Feature (M-F): www.liveviolencefree.org
Live Violence Free 24/7 Crisis Line: 530-544-4444
The Hotline's National Teen Dating Violence Resource Line: 1800-799-SAFE
The Hotline National Text Chat Line: Text "START" to 88788
The Hotline Website With Anonymous Chat Feature: https://www.thehotline.org/news/new-national-teen-dating-abuse-helpline/
RESPOND Website For Teen Dating Violence: https://www.respondinc.org/teen-dating-violence/
Love is Respect National Website: https://www.loveisrespect.org/
"Is Your Relationship Healthy" Quiz: https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/
Love is Respect Relationship Quizzes: https://www.loveisrespect.org/quizzes/
TDV Month Resource Site: https://www.teendvmonth.org/
National Safe Place TDV Article: https://www.nationalsafeplace.org/teen-dating-violence
Futures Without Violence "How to Talk to Teens About Dating Violence": https://www.futureswithoutviolence.org/talk-teens-teen-dating-violence/
National Resources for Victims of Dating Violence: https://youth.gov/youth-topics/teen-dating-violence/resources
National Resource Hub: https://www.teendvmonth.org/resources/
Domestic Shelter's National and Global TDV Resources: https://www.domesticshelters.org/resources/national-global-organizations/teen-dating-violence
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February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month. In this episode we decide to kick off the month in a fun way, spending time going through different youth-created slang terms. Briana and Lisa look at different terms they have not seen or heard before, taking guesses on what they mean then revealing and discussing the answers as they go. Many laughs and insightful moments are shared as they learn more about the terms youth are using both in-person and online. Shoutout to Sara Daniel of Live Violence Free for creating this list of words.
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In this episode we focus on grooming, and how it is used to exploit or abuse youth. We define grooming before we discuss some red flags of grooming at different age groups, and the steps in the process. We draw examples from some recent high-profile trafficking cases to deepen the discussion.
NY Times: NXVIM Timeline: https://www.nytimes.com/article/nxivm-timeline.html
“Surviving R Kelly” Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vbjnkvxIoSI
“Jeffrey Epstein: Filthy Rich” Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-j0rjlfmDx4
Child Advocacy Center “Stages of Grooming”: https://www.albertacacs.ca/blog/stages-of-grooming
Darkness to Light “Grooming & Red Flag Behavior”: https://www.d2l.org/child-grooming-signs-behavior-awareness/
Defend Innocence “6 Perp Grooming Behaviors Every Parent Needs to Know”: https://defendinnocence.org/6-perpetrator-grooming-behaviors-every-parent-needs-to-know/
RAINN Grooming- Know the Signs: https://www.rainn.org/news/grooming-know-warning-signs
RAINN Survivor Stories- Adam:
https://www.rainn.org/survivor-stories/adam
RAINN Survivor Stories- Gail: https://www.rainn.org/survivor-stories/gails-story
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Do you have unresolved goals in your life? Do you set new years resolutions, only to forget about, or give up on them months later? In this episode we share out important tips, and ways to reframe the process to make your goals more attainable. We also share out some of our own personal challenges with resolutions, goals we have set for 2022, and relatable moments of our struggles along the way.
Goal Setting Journal Prompts: https://pinkfortitude.com/goal-setting/
https://zannakeithley.com/2021/07/26/journal-prompts-for-goal-setting/
https://lifegoalsmag.com/intention-setting-journal-prompts-2/
Videos:
Brian Tracy "5 Keys To Goal Setting": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GIhk1MCTqhc
"Atomic Habits": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s9uDVVWN_ZE
"Power Of Small Habits": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g2S2mhOisso
Goal Setting Books: https://www.amazon.com/goal-setting-books/s?k=goal+setting+books
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In this episode we dive into a conversation about online dating. We start by sharing some important online dating risks and considerations for both youth and adults. After sharing the risks, we discuss some tips for how to keep yourself safe while meeting people and dating online.
Investigation Discovery Financial Scam Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SGw6KE1xLR8
"The Top 5 Online Dating Scams": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f7G7ks70P4M
"Dangers of Online Dating" Article: http://www.thefamuanonline.com/2021/03/30/online-dating-is-dangerous-especially-for-women/
"Swipe-based dating applications use and its association with mental health outcomes: a cross-sectional study" : https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32127048/
"How Online Dating Affects Mental Health" Article: https://www.verywellmind.com/how-online-dating-affects-mental-health-and-behavior-5114576
"The Dark Side of Online Dating" BBC Article: https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20210623-the-darkest-side-of-online-dating
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In this episode Lisa discusses trauma bonded relationships. She shares out the definition of a trauma bond before providing some signs or examples of what a trauma bond feels like versus a healthy relationship, throwing in some personal examples as well. This episode is ended with a guided breathing meditation.
Oprah Daily Trauma Bond Article: https://www.oprahdaily.com/life/relationships-love/a36788688/what-is-trauma-bonding/
HealthLine Trauma Bond Article https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/trauma-bonding
Mind Body Green Trauma Bond Article: https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/trauma-bonding
Coalition Against Domestic Violence Resource Hub: https://ncadv.org/resources
National & International Resource List: https://www.domesticshelters.org/resources/national-global-organizations/international-organizations
"The Hotline" National Abusive Relationship Resource: https://www.thehotline.org/
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The holidays are fast approaching. Although this can be a wonderful time of year, for some individuals the holidays can produce a lot of anxiety. Awkward or triggering conversations that happen at family gatherings, and at the family table, can create a lot of unnecessary stress and pressure. Knowing that many people expect to have these uncomfortable or triggering conversations, in this episode we wanted to share some tips for navigating these moments. We share out 5 tips, and also provide our own personal input on how to get through the stress of gatherings in the best ways possible.
"Thanksgiving Tips- Navigating Tough Holiday Conversations" Article: https://www.courier-journal.com/story/life/wellness/health/2020/11/10/thanksgiving-2020-tips-to-navigate-tough-holiday-conversations/6144220002/
"Tricky Conversations At The Holiday Table" Article: https://www.gominno.com/parents/how-to-navigate-tricky-conversations-at-the-holiday-table/
"Navigating Difficult Conversations At Thanksgiving" Article: https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-navigate-difficult-conversations-at-thanksgiving-5086516
CDC "Coping With Stress" Article: https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/about/copingwith-stresstips.html
"How To Help Someone With Anxiety" Article: https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/treatment-tests-and-therapies/how-to-help-someone-with-anxiety
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*Disclaimer: In this episode we discuss abusive patterns which may be triggering for some listeners. Please take care during this episode.
In this episode we highlight and break down the cycle of violence. We discuss how this cycle is carried out in every abusive relationship before we share out the 4 stages and what they may look, feel or sound like. During our discussion of each stage we share how both the survivor, and the abuser may be feeling and rationalizing each stage.
Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444
Live Violence Free Website (chat line): www.liveviolencefree.org
Live Violence Free One Conversation Domestic Violence Info: https://liveviolencefree.org/oneconversation/
The Cycle Of Violence: https://domesticviolence.org/cycle-of-violence/
National Domestic Violence Website: https://ncadv.org/resources
International Domestic Violence Resources/Shelters: https://www.domesticshelters.org/resources/national-global-organizations/international-organizations
"The Hotline" National Domestic Violence Information: https://www.thehotline.org/
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In this episode we close out our Domestic Violence Awareness Month topics by having a discussion on technology abuse with paralegal/advocate, Heather Anderson. Heather has extensive training and knowledge of how technology can be used to gain power and control over victims in domestic violence relationships. We take time to break down different forms of technology that are commonly used in our lives, and how those devices or platforms can be unsafe. We also share out information and insight on how to be aware of tech abuse, and how to keep ourselves safe while using them.
Time Article "How Domestic Abusers Exploited Technology In The Pandemic" : https://time.com/5922566/technology-domestic-abuse-coronavirus-pandemic/
NY Times Article "Thermostats, Locks, Lights- Digital Tools of Domestic Abuse": https://www.nytimes.com/2018/06/23/technology/smart-home-devices-domestic-abuse.html
SafeSteps "What is Technology Abuse": https://www.safesteps.org.au/understanding-family-violence/types-of-abuse/technology-facilitated-abuse/
Technology Safety Plan: https://www.techsafety.org/resources-survivors/technology-safety-plan
"Abuse Using Technology": https://www.womenslaw.org/about-abuse/abuse-using-technology
Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444
Live Violence Free Website (Anonymous Chat): www.liveviolencefree.org
National Domestic Violence Hotline Website: https://www.thehotline.org/
National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800.799.SAFE (7233).
International Domestic Violence Resources: https://www.domesticshelters.org/resources/national-global-organizations
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**Disclaimer: Due to the content of this episode focusing on domestic violence, this conversati0n may be triggering for some. Please take care during this episode
In this episode we continue on our Domestic Violence Awareness Month theme by exploring a common question that occurs in domestic violence relationship contexts. The question "should I stay or should I go?" is a challenging and common narrative often being brought up in the minds of victims and survivors in the midst of a violent relationship. We discuss barriers, societal ideals, and other examples of why a survivor may toil with this question and decision to leave. We bring up some current media examples of how these messages are being either depicted in an accurate and meaningful way, or normalizing unhealthy and abusive behaviors.
Envision Counseling "Deciding to Stay or Leave" article: https://www.envisioncounsellingcentre.com/innerpage/resources/partner-abuse/deciding-to-stay-or-leave/
National Coalition Against Domestic Violence "Why do Victims Stay?": https://ncadv.org/why-do-victims-stay
"Getting Out of an Abusive Relationship": https://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/getting-out-of-an-abusive-relationship.htm
One Love's "Leaving Abuse is Hard": https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/why_leaving_abuse_is_hard/
Safety Plan App Download: https://www.joinonelove.org/get-help/#myplan
Global DV Resources: https://www.domesticshelters.org/resources/national-global-organizations
National resources: https://ncadv.org/resources
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* Disclaimer/Trigger Warning * This episode discusses and defines different types of abuse, please take care during this episode.
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. In this episode we start by sharing some statistics and defining domestic violence. We then discuss the 5 types of abuse that are defined under domestic violence and provide examples for what each type can look or sound like in a relationship. Throughout the episode we share resources and some personal insight on domestic violence we have gained from working in the field.
Domestic Violence Statistics: https://ncadv.org/STATISTICS
The National Domestic Violence Hotline "Types of Abuse" (Used In This Episode): https://www.thehotline.org/resources/types-of-abuse/
Global DV Statistics: https://www.unwomen.org/en/what-we-do/ending-violence-against-women/facts-and-figures#:~:text=Globally%2C%20an%20estimated%20736%20million,does%20not%20include%20sexual%20harassment.
List of global DV resources: https://www.domesticshelters.org/resources/national-global-organizations
Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444.
Live Violence Free Website (anonymous text chat): www.liveviolencefree.org
"Why Some DV Victims Don't Leave" TED Talk, Leslie Morgan Steiner: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V1yW5IsnSjo
"DV From a Son's Perspective" TED Talk, Adam Herbst: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bD52ne0rRw0
The Hotline, DV Informational Hub: https://www.thehotline.org/
National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV): https://ncadv.org/learn-more
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In this episode we discuss how common anxiety is. We start by defining anxiety and discuss how anxiety is a spectrum of different individual levels. We spend time sharing out different forms of treatment, or how we can deal with anxiety when it manifests in our everyday lives, as well as sharing our own personal tips.
Facts & Stats: https://adaa.org/understanding-anxiety/facts-statistics
How to Cope w Anxiety TED, Olivia Remes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WWloIAQpMcQ
National Institute on Mental Health Anxiety Overview: https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/statistics/any-anxiety-disorder
Mayo Clinic Anxiety Overview: https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/anxiety/symptoms-causes/syc-20350961
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-8255
https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/
International Suicide Resources/hotlines: http://www.suicide.org/international-suicide-hotlines.html
EMDR: https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/
CBT Therapy:https://www.apa.org/ptsd-guideline/patients-and-families/cognitive-behavioral
Choosing The Right Therapist For You: https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-choose-the-right-therapist-for-you-4842306
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In this episode we discuss narcissism and what it may look like if you are in a relationship with a narcissist. We start by defining narcissism and discussing the two most common types of narcissistic personality. After diving into some of the most common personality traits of individuals with narcissistic personality, we then share 12 examples of what it may look or sound like when dating someone who is a narcissist. Please keep in mind that this episode is not intended to diagnose anyone, as only a mental health professional is capable of diagnosing someone with this personality disorder; this is purely intended to provide insight.
Live Violence Free 24/7 Crisis Line: 530-544-4444
Live Violence Free Chat Line: www.liveviolencefree.org (chat button feature)
"5 Signs Someone Has Suffered Narcissistic Abuse" Dr. Ramani: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lt56nGmGG-0&t=295s
"The Psychology of Narcissism" TedED, Keith Campbell: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=arJLy3hX1E8
Mayo Clinic "Narcissistic Personality Disorder": https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/narcissistic-personality-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20366662
Alliance For Hope (International Relationship/Domestic Violence Support): https://www.allianceforhope.com/
Hot Peach Pages International Violence Resources List: https://www.hotpeachpages.net/
National Domestic Violence Resources: https://www.thehotline.org/
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Currently the Tahoe California area is facing devastating wildfires, so in this quick episode Lisa discusses safety planning and considerations for those who are living in the area, or other fire prone locations, We provide 6 tips for preparing for a mandatory evacuation, and share some useful information on how to prepare yourself and your loved ones.
Thank you to all first responders who are working around the clock to contain, rescue, and try their hardest to maintain Tahoe's beautiful landscape
Tahoe "Living With Fire" Preparedness Page: https://www.tahoelivingwithfire.com/get-prepared/
Wildfire Evacuation Checklist (PDF/Printable): https://naes.agnt.unr.edu/PMS/Pubs/1510200790.pdf?utmsource=publications&utmmedium=pub-download&utmcampaign=pub-link-clicks&utmcontent=2977
Wildfire Readiness: https://www.readyforwildfire.org/
El Dorado County Animal Services (small animals), Diamond Springs. For animal evacuation questions or assistance call: (530) 621-5795
Douglas County Animal Services (livestock) Douglas County Fairgrounds, Gardnerville. (775) 782-9061
Evacuation order live site: https://www.arcgis.com/apps/webappviewer/index.html?id=c995bf3816964e948d7d831d3ba938ff&extent=-13463583.5216%2C4641865.1142%2C-13344341.7574%2C4710429.1285%2C102100
Caldor Fire Updates: https://www.fire.ca.gov/incidents/2021/8/14/caldor-fire/
For animal evacuation questions or assistance in the South Lake Tahoe area call (530)-621-5795.
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In this episode, we begin by sharing out some statistics and defining sexual harassment. We then discuss the 3 different types of sexual harassment and give out examples for each type; we even share some personal experiences and examples as well. We cover some of the mental, physical and emotional effects that harassment can cause before sharing out a list of ways we can safely intervene if we experience or witness harassment.
Laura Bates TED Talk "Everyday Sexism": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LhjsRjC6B8U
Jess Leigh TED Talk "Street Harassment, It's Not OK": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bGZbyUGm3vs
NSVRC (National Sexual Violence Resource Center) Harassment Study: https://www.nsvrc.org/resource/facts-behind-metoo-movement-national-study-sexual-harassment-and-assault
RAINN "Sexual Harassment" Overview: https://www.rainn.org/articles/sexual-harassment
Washington Post "Difference Between Harassment & Assault": https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/soloish/wp/2017/12/21/whats-the-difference-between-sexual-assault-and-harassment-lets-break-it-down/
BBC "When Does Flirting Become Sexual Harassment?": https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-41665049
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Disclaimer- This episode may be triggering for some due to sensitive content, please be advised while listening to this episode.
In this episode we discuss the impact that domestic violence can have on both children, and survivors. We start by defining domestic violence before we provide some statistics for both. We then provide a list of examples of how witnessing or being subject to violence can have both short-term and long-term consequences for that individual, both physically and psychologically.
Live Violence Free Crisis Line: 530-544-4444
Futures Without Violence Impact Study (2018): https://www.futureswithoutviolence.org/2018-impact/
Child Welfare Agency DV Impact: https://www.childwelfare.gov/topics/systemwide/domviolence/impact/children-youth/
National Domestic Violence Hotline/Resource Hub: https://www.thehotline.org/
Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs: https://www.simplypsychology.org/maslow.html
Adam Herbst TED Talk "DV From a Son's Perspective": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bD52ne0rRw0
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In this episode we dive into what can make a friendship unhealthy or toxic. We share out a list of 12 common red-flags that may be visible in a toxic friendship, along with some personal stories of the red-flags we have experienced in our own friendships. We discuss considerations for how to navigate a toxic friendship, and insight on setting personal boundaries or leaving that relationship altogether.
"What is Respect in a Healthy Relationship?" (LoveisRespect.org): https://www.loveisrespect.org/resources/what-is-respect-in-a-healthy-relationship/
"How to Know if You're in a Toxic Friendship & How to Get Out" (Headspace): https://www.headspace.com/articles/toxic-friendships
Ted Talks for "Toxic Friendships": https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=toxic+friendship+ted
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In this episode we discuss Gaslighting. We start the episode by providing a definition, and some Gaslighting red-flags, before we go over 10 common phrases that can be heard in these situations. At the end of the episode we discuss how someone can support themselves or others if they are being Gaslighted.
Live Violence Free 24/7 Hotline: 530-544-4444
"What is Gaslighting?" The National DV Hotline: https://www.thehotline.org/resources/what-is-gaslighting/
"Gaslighting" DV Resource Center AU: https://www.dvrcv.org.au/knowledge-centre/our-blog/gaslighting-stalking-and-intimate-partner-violence
"Recognizing Gaslighting & How To Get Help" Healthline: https://www.healthline.com/health/gaslighting
"Gaslight" Movie Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0ToLfQU2xmg
"How To Spot The Hidden Signs of Gaslighting" Medcircle: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FISZshe9L3s
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In this episode, amateur MMA champion Chris "Coco" Cocores sat down on a windy Tahoe day to discuss his healing and rebuilding process after surviving a horrific and fatal car crash that claimed the lives of both his girlfriend, and his dog. Chris shares his story and his experience, and offers extremely thoughtful wisdom and advice he has obtained throughout his healing journey. Chris discusses where his resiliency and healing came from, and also offers some insight to others who have faced trauma in their lives.
Chris "Coco" Cocores Instagram: @chriscocores
Facebook: Chris Cocores
Chris's MMA Comeback Documentary "Momentum" (not yet released) Instagram Page: @momentumdocumentary
"Momentum" Website: www.southlakedocumentary.com
Chris's Shop: cocoshop.org/
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In this episode, we take time discussing some important red and green flags in relationships. Using a resource list from One Love, we go over the top 6 examples of each, and share some real life ways these flags can be seen or manifested in family, friend, or intimate partner relationships.
One Love "10 Signs Of An Unhealthy Relationship":
https://www.joinonelove.org/signs-unhealthy-relationship/
One Love "6 Relationship Green Flags":
https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/6-relationship-green-flags-to-look-for-in-a-new-relationship/
Your Life Your Voice Youth Resources:
https://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/Pages/Tips.aspx
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In this episode, we discuss what makes up an unhealthy or abusive LGBTQIA+ relationship. We discuss and share out the LGBTQIA specific power and control wheel, which shows different examples of abuse and manipulation that can be carried out in relationships. We take time to discuss how we can support someone in an unhealthy/abusive LGBTQIA relationship, including supportive language useful for difficult conversations, and other considerations. At the end of the episode, we discuss resources specifically for the LGBTQIA community.
LGBTQIA Power & Control Wheel: https://www.loveisrespect.org/lir-files/LGBT-Power-and-Control-Wheel.pdf
Gender Spectrum Resource Hub: https://genderspectrum.org/
Trevor Project (LGBTQIA Youth Resources/Ally Resources): https://www.thetrevorproject.org/
Society for Sexual, Affectional, Intersex, and Gender Expansive Identities: https://saigecounseling.org/
LGBTQIA Resources/Empowerment: https://itgetsbetter.org/
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June is pride month. In this episode, we start by introducing our new co-host, Miguel Porcayo. We define the terms in the acronym LGBTQIA, before sharing out tips and considerations on how to be an ally for the community, as well as some of our own personal experiences being allies. During our conversation we share some insightful resources, documentaries, and other literature regarding the LGBTQIA+ community and allyship.
Human Rights Campaign Ally Resource Packet: https://hrc-prod-requests.s3-us-west-2.amazonaws.com/ComingOut-Ally-Resource-2020.pdf?mtime=20201009121120&focal=none
"Intersexion" Documentary Trailer/Site: https://intersexionfilm.com/
Trevor Project: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/
"Schitts Creek" Youtube Channel (Clips/Bloopers): https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVmFdp0CSRyvSCAsQjwkRuA
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Disclaimer- In this episode we discuss sexual assault examinations. This content may be triggering, so please be advised while listening to today's conversation.
In this episode, we are joined by Debbi Robison, who is a SANE (nurse) with over 20 years of experience conducting sexual assault examinations. during our conversation we discuss many topics including: what the process is like, the options survivors have during the exam, and some misconceptions and considerations of the examination process. Debbi shares out extremely important considerations for survivors, and the options they have following an assault.
If you were assaulted, it was NOT your fault, and you are NOT alone!
Assault Hotline: 800.656.HOPE (4763)
Child Advocacy Center : https://www.washoecounty.us/da/childadvocacycenter/index.php
Live Violence Free's 24/7 Crisis Line: (530)-544-4444
Live Violence Free Chat Line: Located on our website www.liveviolencefree.org and look for the chat bubble on the screen to start an anonymous conversation.
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In this episode we have an important discussion on self-compassion with Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist Jen Kile. During this conversation, we share several valuable tips and resources on how we can practice self-compassion in our everyday lives. Jen also introduces a powerful 4-line mantra that we can use to empower ourselves in times of difficulty.
Dr. Kristen Neff "The Three Components of Self-Compassion": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=11U0h0DPu7k
Jen Kile LMFT Resource Page: https://www.integratetherapy.us/resources
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May is Mental Health Awareness Month, so in this episode we are holding space for an extremely important conversation regarding suicide. In this episode we have special guest Lisa Utzig-Schaffer of the Suicide Prevention Network. During our conversation Lisa shares some very important tools, considerations, and resources for someone who is experiencing these thoughts, or knows someone who is. We discuss best-practices, and important things to remember if we are having a conversation with someone who may disclose feeling this way.
Suicide Prevention Network (El Dorado County): 775-783-1510
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1800-273-8255
Crisis Text Line (Any crisis, NOT suicide specific): 741-741
Black Line Project: 1800-604-5841
Trevor Project (LGBTQIA+): 1866-488-7386
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In this episode we kick off Mental Health Awareness Month by discussing self-love, and introducing the 5 self-love languages. We provide examples of how self-love can be practiced in everyday life, and end with a self-love mindfulness meditation.
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In this episode we are finishing off Sexual Assault Awareness Month by discussing Rape Culture. We define the meaning behind rape culture, including examples and how it is upheld within our society, and we also talk about ways we can help challenge it within our culture. We lastly introduce "Denim Day", an important awareness day in April, with the purpose of coming together in solidarity with survivors, and challenge rape culture norms.
Denim Day history: https://www.denimdayinfo.org/
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In this episode we discuss victim blaming to expand on our conversations for Sexual Assault Awareness Month. We define what victim blaming is before going into some common examples of what it sounds like, and how it happens. We also share out considerations to avoid victim blaming, and how to hold supportive conversations with survivors.
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*DISCLAIMER* Please take care when listening to this episode, as we are defining and discussing sexual assault. After we define sexual assault and a few crimes that full under that umbrella term, we share some statistics and cultural insights into this issue.
Me Too Website: https://metoomvmt.org/
"The Hunting Ground" Documentary Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GBNHGi36nlM
"Unbelievable" Limited Series Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QTIkUzkbzQk
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In this episode we have special guest Marcella Maggio who is the Prevention Coordinator for the California Partnership to End Domestic Violence. In this conversation we discuss several important insights and considerations on how we can show up for youth, especially in these unique times.
California Partnership To End DV: https://www.cpedv.org/who-we-are
CPEDV Prevention Across CA Interactive Story (described in episode): https://www.cpedv.org/preventionacrossca-your-interactive-story-tool
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In this episode we have an important conversation on how to teach body safety to children. We provide 5 tips for how to discuss these important topics in an engaging, and developmentally appropriate way.
"My Body Belongs To Me" : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a-5mdt9YN6I&t=130s
"Some Secrets Should Never Be Kept": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4YjJ1MreZqs&t=61s
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In this episode we have a very raw and vulnerable conversation discussing the top 5 things we have learned while working in this field.
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In this video we explore boundaries. After we spend time defining and exploring the different types of boundaries, we share out some of our own experiences while we discuss some tips and best practices for setting boundaries in our everyday lives.
"Your Body Language May Shape Who You Are" - Amy Cuddy: https://www.youtube.com/results?sp=mAEB&search_query=ted+talk+your+body+language+shapes+who+you+are
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In this episode, we have a vulnerable discussion on how we speak to ourselves, chat about the expectations we place on our lives, and share out some insight and tips to promote a healthier self-relationship.
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In this episode we hold an important conversation about consent. We describe the importance of consent, share a useful acronym to help remember important "consent rules" and even share out some of our own experiences as examples as we break down widely misunderstood topic.
"FRIES" Acronym Resource: https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/relationships/sexual-consent
"Consent Tea" Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fGoWLWS4-kU&t=2s Worldwide Consent Ages: https://www.ageofconsent.net/world
Eleven 24 Website: https://www.eleven-24.org
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Disclaimer- This episode contains stories of sexual assault cases, listener discretion advised.
February is Black History Month. In this episode, we follow along with a timeline of historic events and highlight several black pioneers that were involved in the movement along the way.
NJ Coalition Timeline: https://njcasa.org/news/honoring-our-history-leaders-in-the-anti-sexual-violence-movement/
Harriet Jacobs Biography: http://www.harrietjacobs.org/bio.html
Ida B Wells Biography: https://www.womenshistory.org/education-resources/biographies/ida-b-wells-barnett
Recy Taylor Case & Rosa Park's Anti-Violence Work: https://www.thelily.com/when-recy-taylor-was-gang-raped-in-1944-no-arrests-were-made-the-naacp-sent-rosa-parks-to-investigate/
Tennessee Civil Right's Archives (Memphis Riots): https://tennesseeencyclopedia.net/ecms/civil-rights/
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This episode features special guest Leanne Wagoner, a prior Executive Director of Live Violence Free. We discuss our agency's humble beginnings in a one-room cabin, providing services on a payphone in the birth of the anti-violence movement, and highlight the growth that has occurred over the years.
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February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month. In this episode, we share some of our own survivor experiences after we define and discuss examples of manipulation and abuse in teen relationships.
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In this episode we extend our conversation on human trafficking by discussing important vocabulary, sharing some real human trafficking survivor stories, timely statistics, and discuss the platform "OnlyFans".
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January is Human Trafficking Awareness Month. In this episode we invited Melissa Holland who is the founder and director of Awaken. Awaken is a non-profit agency in Reno, NV that focuses on providing services and support for victims & survivors of sex trafficking. In this powerful conversation we define and discuss some common warning signs, red flags, and misconceptions of sex trafficking.
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January is Stalking Awareness Month. In this episode we define what stalking is, how stalking happens, and some resources and considerations to help maintain safety. We share different examples of stalking and cyber stalking, and include tips for documenting incidents, and how to support yourself or someone else who is experiencing stalking.
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In this episode, we circle back to our conversation on gender, and the expectations or stereotypes we see played out in media through advertising. We take time searching the internet for advertisements to discuss the kinds of messaging that we see. Also, we share out some actual subliminal messaging techniques (shapes, colors, imagery) that are used in advertising to draw our attention.
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In this episode we start to break down the gender role expectations and stereotypes that are created by our society, and then reinforced through media messaging. We discuss our society's expectations of how to "be a man" and "act like a lady", and the kinds of toys, direct messaging, and advertising that speak directly to those roles. We even share our own personal experiences feeling the pressure to conform to these gender expectations, and how it has impacted those around us.
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In this episode we discuss how we can deal with stress, trauma, difficult conversations, and setting boundaries during this challenging holiday season.
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In our first guest interview episode, we talk about the services provided at Live Violence Free, we then hold a fun and insightful conversation with our new Executive Director, Chelcee Thomas.
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In this episode, we discuss breakups and share best-practices for how we can deal with breakups effectively, not only for ourselves but also to provide support to someone else who is experiencing a breakup.
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In this episode, we have a candid and personal conversation about some of the biggest challenges in relationships.
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In this episode we discuss best-practices for how to have a conversation with a domestic violence victim/survivor, including language choices, and other trauma-informed considerations.
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Trigger Warning: In this episode, we discuss types of abuse and domestic violence. This may be triggering to listeners with (or without) similar experiences.
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. In this episode, we discuss the pattern of abusive and unhealthy relationships, abuse and manipulation, what makes up a healthy relationship, and available resources.
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In this episode we dive into self-care, what it is, and how we can incorporate it into our everyday lives.
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