TalkItOver: The only dating show that begins in bed: Recent Episodes
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TALK IT OVER Show raises non trivial and practical questions about dating/relationship, intimacy and more. We start a conversation in one of the most intimate places to share...the bed. And now let's pull back the sheets
The battle between team Trish and team Olin is continuing. Are you ready for a pillow fight in our big Ole bed? The topic is as hot as usual and is obviously adding to the fire: What is a healthy relationship for you?
Does it mean a safe environment when you can be yourself and express your thoughts freely without being judged? Can a couple be in healthy relationships but have disagreements? Does it mean to keep your independence or spend every moment together? There are so many scenarios, healthy for one and unhealthy for another, and we are not trying to find the right answers.
Join us for the next round of Team Trish vs Team Olin. It is up to the audience to decide who will be the winner. Introducing Team Trish:
Najami Lezama aka Bush Woman, a Certified Professional Personal Development Awareness Life Coach
Rhea Parks, the owner of Mind, Body, & Spirit MFT, Marriage & Family Therapist. To find out more visit www.mindbodyspiritmft.com
Andrye Austin, a hopeless romantic guru, an up and coming comedian, living in Chicago by way of Tampa.
Inga-Lee Black, BEING INGA Podcast on Anchor.
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Producers: KI from Bed-Stuy and Anna Treyer-Simakova
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’; Podcast co-hosts: Tricia Grannum aka Trish
Co-producer: Hassan Booker, the author of "Success Inspirations 365. Success Inspirations and Meditations For Everyday Of The Year";
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
Finally, we have a battle that many were waiting for: team Trish and team Olin are meeting in one big Ole bed to duel it out. And the topic is hotter than ever: What is a healthy relationship for you? Does it involve honesty, transparency, give & take, trust, communication, empathy, or just a desire to talk it over? Is women's perspective on healthy relationships any different from male's? The conversation got so hot that the executive producer KI from Bed-Stuy couldn't help himself from jumping in.
Join us for the next 4 weeks for the fiery series: Team Trish vs Team Olin. It is up to the audience to decide who will be the winner. Introducing Team Trish:
Najami Lezama aka Bush Woman, a Certified Professional Personal Development Awareness Life Coach
Rhea Parks, the owner of Mind, Body, & Spirit MFT, Marriage & Family Therapist. To find out more visit www.mindbodyspiritmft.com
Andrye Austin, a hopeless romantic guru, an up and coming comedian, living in Chicago by way of Tampa.
Inga-Lee Black, BEING INGA Podcast on Anchor.
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Producers: KI from Bed-Stuy and Anna Treyer-Simakova
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’; Podcast co-hosts: Tricia Grannum aka Trish
Co-producer: Hassan Booker, the author of "Success Inspirations 365. Success Inspirations and Meditations For Everyday Of The Year";
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
Great minds don't always feel supported by their significant others. How do you succeed if your loved one doesn't believe in your dreams? Should you even stay in this relationship? Does every dreamer need to have a provider?
We are not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Producers: KI from Bed-Stuy and Anna Treyer-Simakova
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’; Podcast co-hosts: Tricia Grannum aka Trish
Our expert: Rhea Parks, the owner of Mind, Body, & Spirit MFT, Marriage & Family Therapist. To find out more visit www.mindbodyspiritmft.com
Guest co-hosts:
Debra Williams
Leon Ferguson, King Kong ain't got nothing on Leon
Quamaine 'Virtuoso' Daniels, Teaching Artist For Flexn Streetdance
Co-producer: Hassan Booker, the author of "Success Inspirations 365. Success Inspirations and Meditations For Everyday Of The Year";
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
What do you do if your significant other doesn't believe in you or your dreams? Will this relationship have a chance to survive? Not everybody is equally yoked: someone is learning by doing, someone needs to get inspired... Can one support his/her partner despite not seeing the big picture? How important is your partner's support for you? Where is the line between practical criticism and disbelief?
We are not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Producers: KI from Bed-Stuy and Anna Treyer-Simakova
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’; Podcast co-hosts: Tricia Grannum aka Trish
Our expert: Rhea Parks, the owner of Mind, Body, & Spirit MFT, Marriage & Family Therapist. To find out more visit www.mindbodyspiritmft.com
Guest co-hosts:
Debra Williams
Leon Ferguson, King Kong ain't got nothing on Leon
Quamaine 'Virtuoso' Daniels, Teaching Artist For Flexn Streetdance
Co-producer: Hassan Booker, the author of "Success Inspirations 365. Success Inspirations and Meditations For Everyday Of The Year";
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
Being alone isn't the same as being lonely. Can you be your own best friend? Or do you always need to be surrounded by people? What does aloneness mean to you? Would you consider yourself being alone while being in multiple situationships? How long would you wait before starting a new relationship?
We are not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Producers: KI from Bed-Stuy and Anna Treyer-Simakova
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’; Podcast co-hosts: Tricia Grannum aka Trish
Our expert: Naemmy Saldivar, LCSW and Trauma Therapist;
Guest co-hosts: Briana Fuller aka ‘Bri with a Tea’;
Antonio Cousins
Special guests in the audience: Quamaine 'Virtuoso' Daniels, Teaching Artist For Flexn Streetdance
Debra Williams
Co-producer: Hassan Booker, the author of "Success Inspirations 365. Success Inspirations and Meditations For Everyday Of The Year";
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
Everyone has limits, how long before being alone becomes intolerable? How comfortable are you with aloneness? Is going from relationship to relationship healthy? Do you give yourself enough time to reflect on a broken relationship before jumping to a new one? How important is giving yourself a break? Being in-between relationships, can you just focus on yourself?
We are not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Producers: KI from Bed-Stuy and Anna Treyer-Simakova
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’; Podcast co-hosts: Tricia Grannum aka Trish
Our expert: Naemmy Saldivar, LCSW and Trauma Therapist;
Guest co-hosts: Briana Fuller aka ‘Bri with a Tea’;
Antonio Cousins
Special guests in the audience: Quamaine 'Virtuoso' Daniels, Teaching Artist For Flexn Streetdance
Debra Williams
Co-producer: Hassan Booker, the author of "Success Inspirations 365. Success Inspirations and Meditations For Everyday Of The Year";
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
What is worse: to date a slob or a neat freak? When the obsession with cleanliness becomes a disorder? On the opposite spectrum, would you be with someone, who is a hoarder? How to find and set the right boundaries?
We are not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Producers: KI from Bed-Stuy and Anna Treyer-Simakova
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’; Podcast co-hosts: Tricia Grannum aka Trish
Guest co-hosts: Anjali Rebecca Abraham;
Chris Means, Founder/CEO of By All Means Leadership Alliance (BAMLA);
Geraldine Caldwell, live from North Carolina; @candie_girl_53
Co-producer: Hassan Booker, the author of "Success Inspirations 365. Success Inspirations and Meditations For Everyday Of The Year";
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
Is being messy a deal-breaker? Can a neat person date a slob? Does the untidy environment reflect the messiness of the inner world of the person? Is being busy an excuse to be a slob? What if you are an artist and you need a little bit of mess to create? How to find the balance?
We are not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Producers: KI from Bed-Stuy and Anna Treyer-Simakova
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’; Podcast co-hosts: Tricia Grannum aka Trish
Guest co-hosts: Anjali Rebecca Abraham;
Chris Means, Founder/CEO of By All Means Leadership Alliance (BAMLA);
Geraldine Caldwell, live from North Carolina; @candie_girl_53
Co-producer: Hassan Booker, the author of "Success Inspirations 365. Success Inspirations and Meditations For Everyday Of The Year";
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
We are continuing to talk about the most common biggest first-date mistakes. Unfortunately, dealing with the first date disappointment is a natural process of dating. How to prevent common mistakes? How many phone conversations required before going on a date? How to manage expectations? Can you recover from a bad date? There is a lot to talk about in our big Ole bed. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Producers: KI from Bed-Stuy and Anna Treyer-Simakova
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’; Podcast co-hosts: Tricia Grannum aka Trish
Our Expert: Najami Lezama aka Bush Woman, a Certified Professional Personal Development Awareness Life Coach
Our Guests: Khadijah Tou Tou, an author, international educator, and motivational speaker;
Frederick James, better known as Everlasting
Leon Ferguson, King Kong ain't got nothing on Leon
Co-producer: Hassan Booker, the author of "Success Inspirations 365. Success Inspirations and Meditations For Everyday Of The Year";
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
This episode is about a 'failure to launch': the most common biggest first-date mistakes. What is more stressful for you: the first date or a job interview? In both instances, you need to sell your personality. How to keep your authenticity and not scare away a potential new love? How to make the first date enjoyable and not stressful? How to define mistakes that are irreversible or can be forgiven? Being late, constantly checking your phone, focusing on yourself, coming too strong, lacking manners... there is no unifying recipe for a failure on the first date, but we can talk about it on our big Ole bed. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Producers: KI from Bed-Stuy and Anna Treyer-Simakova
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’; Podcast co-hosts: Tricia Grannum aka Trish
Our Expert: Najami Lezama aka Bush Woman, a Certified Professional Personal Development Awareness Life Coach
Our Guests: Khadijah Tou Tou, an author, international educator, and motivational speaker;
Frederick James, better known as Everlasting
Leon Ferguson, King Kong ain't got nothing on Leon
Co-producer: Hassan Booker, the author of "Success Inspirations 365. Success Inspirations and Meditations For Everyday Of The Year";
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
Is it normal to have a 'wandering eye'? None of us are immune to temptation. We all have our own reasons. Is it ok if someone likes to 'check out the menu without ordering? Does a wandering eye have to lead to infidelity? Is there any difference between online and in-person wandering? Is it a sign of insecurity if your partner's 'wandering eye' makes you feel upset? Can you talk it over?
We are not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Producers: KI from Bed-Stuy and Anna Treyer-Simakova
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’; Podcast co-hosts: Tricia Grannum aka Trish
Our Expert: Jenn Infantino, a Pleasure Coach, a 2019 graduate of Layla Martin's VITA™ Coaching program, an engineer, an artist, and a Pleasure Goddess
Guests: Phons' Alphonso Vanlow, Founder of OpenMyNetwork.com;
Andrye Austin, a hopeless romantic guru, an up-and-coming comedian, living in Chicago by way of Tampa.
Special guest in the audience: Evbaguehita Odeh
Co-producer: Hassan Booker, the author of "Success Inspirations 365. Success Inspirations and Meditations For Everyday Of The Year";
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
How do you deal with conflicts? Are you critical or understanding? Do you have a conflict avoidance strategy or are you a straight shooter? How to deal with these differences? Is miscommunication ripping the fabric of your relationship? Can two people talk it over? How to resolve the conflict after the conflict? What does it take to start listening to each other?
We are not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed. And shout out to the comments from the streets. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Producers: KI from Bed-Stuy and Anna Treyer-Simakova
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’; Podcast co-hosts: Tricia Grannum aka Trish
Our expert: Rhea Parks, the owner of Mind, Body, & Spirit MFT, Marriage & Family Therapist. To find out more visit www.mindbodyspiritmft.com
Guest co-hosts: Anjali Rebecca Abraham;
Chris Means, Founder/CEO of By All Means Leadership Alliance (BAMLA);
Field Correspondent: Artist & Entrepreneur “Infitain”, www.timelessmasterpiece.com
Co-producer: Hassan Booker, the author of "Success Inspirations 365. Success Inspirations and Meditations For Everyday Of The Year";
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
Would you date a single parent? Do you have your own children? Are you ready to become a stepparent? Do you realize that when you dating someone with children you are not just dating - you are committing? Do you even like kids? What questions do you need to discuss with your potential loved one before stepping into this minefield? Are you ready to deal with teenager problems? Will your partner be ok if you start to discipline his/her child? It doesn't matter if you have answers now. When you start dating someone with young kids, get ready to roll up your sleeves but don't forget to have fun.
We have an amazing group of people in our big ole bed. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Producers: KI from Bed-Stuy and Anna Treyer-Simakova
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’; Podcast co-host: Briana Fuller aka ‘Bri with a Tea’
Our expert: Rhea Parks, the owner of Mind, Body, & Spirit MFT, Marriage & Family Therapist. To find out more visit www.mindbodyspiritmft.com
Our Guests: Geraldine Caldwell, live from North Carolina; @candie_girl_53
Leon Ferguson, King Kong ain't got nothing on Leon
Co-producer: Hassan Booker, the author of "Success Inspirations 365. Success Inspirations and Meditations For Everyday Of The Year"
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
Can you really be friends with your ex? Did you ask yourself, why you want to be friends with your ex? Are there still some feelings involved? Are you in a new relationship? How does your new love react to your ex's existence? Does your family support you? How do you avoid unnecessary drunken arguments that can often accompany transitions? How do you know when to set boundaries, and when to keep that person close?
There is a lot to talk it over. Please meet our amazing guests and let's pull back the sheets...
Producers: KI from Bed-Stuy and Anna Treyer-Simakova
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’;
Podcast guests: Ana Carolina Cassiano aka Carol, Trainer, Facilitator, Intercultural Learning & Global Competence Educator, live from Brazil;
Nicole Willheimer, Educator;
'Phons' Alphonso Vanlow, Founder of OpenMyNetwork.com;
Co-producer: Hassan Booker, the author of "Success Inspirations 365. Success Inspirations and Meditations For Everyday Of The Year";
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
How can religious/cultural/racial differences impact your relationships? What if your family or community does not support your choice due to historical or cultural experiences and/or prejudices? Is it bigotry, close-mindedness, or just preference? Is it a typical dilemma for families, where parents are following their traditional beliefs but children don't stay within the cultural/racial boundaries? How to navigate dating life when you are struggling to find your own identity? What is worse: racial or religious prejudice?
We have a very complex topic today and 50 min is not enough to cover all the nuances, so we might need to have a part 2. Meantime, let's pull back the sheets...
Producers: KI from Bed-Stuy and Anna Treyer-Simakova
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’; Podcast co-hosts: Tricia Grannum aka Trish
Guest co-hosts:
Anjali Rebecca Abraham; Chris Means, Founder/CEO of By All Means Leadership Alliance (BAMLA);
Naemmy Saldivar, LCSW and Trauma Therapist;
WIISE, Founder of the Comfort Kills Collective clothing line, designer, and recording artist;
Special guest in the audience: Azaili DSA, Model, Dancer, Actress;
Co-producer: Hassan Booker, the author of "Success Inspirations 365. Success Inspirations and Meditations For Everyday Of The Year";
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
One of the toughest struggles in the dating process is to create an open line of communication about money. What if your partner is experiencing a job loss due to the pandemic or going through a career change? Can you openly talk about it? Would you feel diminished if you are dating someone who has more money/status than you? How do you feel about a partner who earns less and cannot afford to pay for dinner? Is financial status one of your priorities in choosing a partner? What is the difference between self-worth and net worth?
We are not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Producers: KI from Bed-Stuy and Anna Treyer-Simakova
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’; Podcast co-hosts: Tricia Grannum aka Trish
Geraldine Caldwell, live from North Carolina; @candie_girl_53
Alexandra 'Sasha' Moncion, a star of Corporate Communications and Public Relations for 15 years, a writer, a progressive mind, podcast supporter
'Phons' Alphonso Vanlow, Founder of OpenMyNetwork.com
Special guest in the audience: WIISE, Founder of the Comfort Kills Collective clothing line, designer, and recording artist
Co-producer: Hassan Booker, the author of "Success Inspirations 365. Success Inspirations and Meditations For Everyday Of The Year"
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
We already know that there are 5 Love Languages (check the episode from Jan 26, 2021). Apparently, there are another 5 languages that define our relationship with sex and each other. How do you like to be loved? Have you ever felt like you and a partner were not speaking the same language in the bedroom? Have you ever felt misunderstood for your sex preferences or judged your partner for his/her? But wait, are there only 5 categories on what is turning us on and how we most like to receive pleasure? Aren't we all unique and sexually wired differently?
Let's pull back the sheets and talk it over. All our guests are in a great mood and ready for a hot and fun discussion in our Big Ole Bed.
Producers: KI from Bed-Stuy and Anna Treyer-Simakova
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’; Podcast co-hosts: Tricia Grannum aka Trish
Our Expert: Jenn Infantino, a Pleasure Coach, a 2019 graduate of Layla Martin's VITA™ Coaching program, an engineer, an artist, and a Pleasure Goddess
Guest: Najami Lezama aka Bush Woman, a Certified Professional Personal Development Awareness Life Coach;
Leon Ferguson, King Kong ain't got nothing on Leon
Co-producer: Hassan Booker, the author of "Success Inspirations 365. Success Inspirations and Meditations For Everyday Of The Year"
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
Do you know what happens if you invite a writer, a comedian, a marriage therapist, a wellness coach, and a producer to the show and put them in one big ole bed? - you have an amazing episode of TalkItOver. And we are going to talk about the biggest fears in starting a new relationship.
Have you ever heard that the word FEAR is an acronym for False Evidence Appearing Real? Basically, there’s no threat or risk of a failure in the present but our mind reconstructs an illusion based on the past experiences that prevent us from doing what is good for us. So are fears of starting a new relationship real? Are they so powerful that they prevent you from love? Are you afraid to be misunderstood, hurt, or get disappointed? Do you have a habit of self-sabotage? Have you ever analyzed why you have these fears in the first place? Can a reasonable amount of fear be healthy?
Enough of the introduction, now let's pull back the sheets...
Producers: KI from Bed-Stuy and Anna Treyer-Simakova
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’;
Our expert & co-host: Rhea Parks, the owner of Mind, Body, & Spirit MFT, Marriage & Family Therapist. To find out more visit www.mindbodyspiritmft.com
Special guests:
Alexandra Khan, the author of a new book "What's not to date".
Andrye Austin, a hopeless romantic guru, an up and coming comedian.
Sean Ali, Holistic Health Specialist & Wellness coach; @sean.ali_healer.
Co-producer: Hassan Booker, the author of "Success Inspirations 365. Success Inspirations and Meditations For Everyday Of The Year"
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
Love languages: can you name all five of them? What if your partner's love languages don't match yours? Can you adjust if you really care about your loved one? What to do if your partner keeps misinterpreting your needs and, for example, brings you chocolate when what you really need is a hug? Should you learn all five languages to prevent any misunderstandings? Do your love languages change through time?
We have an amazing group of people in our big ole bed and even a professional audience next to it. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Producers: KI from Bed-Stuy and Anna Treyer-Simakova
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’; Podcast co-hosts: Tricia Grannum aka Trish
Our Expert: Jenn Infantino, a Pleasure Coach, a 2019 graduate of Layla Martin's VITA™ Coaching program, an engineer, an artist, and a Pleasure Goddess
Guest: Najami Lezama aka Bush Woman, a Certified Professional Personal Development Awareness Life Coach;
Changa Bell, eRYT+350, Sri Sri School of Yoga, Author of Affirmations for Dads, Georgetown University Certified Health Coach; www.bmyi.org
Chris Means, Founder/CEO of By All Means Leadership Alliance (BAMLA);
Special guests in the audience:
Aleta LaFargue a community organizer, activist, actress, education advocate, and champion of the arts. aletalafargue.com
Myrdith Leon-McCormack, founder of PR&Branding firm MLM Represents as well as the internationally-renowned multicultural publication, World Bride Magazine.
Andrye Austin, a hopeless romantic guru, an up and coming comedian, living in Chicago by way of Tampa.
Inga-Lee Black, BEING INGA Podcast on Anchor.
Co-producer: Hassan Booker, the author of "Success Inspirations 365. Success Inspirations and Meditations For Everyday Of The Year"
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
If you have ever created a dating account, you know that most dating sites require a short story/bio to complete your profile. But must the story also be 100% true to be effective? Can lies assist you to attract the right one? Or will it be a big turn-off when the truth is revealed? Is any lie a deal-breaker? Or can a small exaggeration get a pass? What's the fine line between deception and embellishment? A Kaspersky survey of online daters from around the world found that over half of online daters lie. Why are so many people making up stories about themselves? Are dishonest daters, first of all, lying to themselves?
This hot topic raised even more questions, but we are not looking for the right answers, we just talking it over in our big ole bed, which keeps growing. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Producers: KI from Bedstuy and Anna Treyer-Simakova
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’; Podcast co-hosts: Tricia Grannum aka Trish
Guests: Briana Fuller aka ‘Bri with a Tea’
Catherine Sha-Lisa Warren aka Kitty Rose, a One Woman Comedic Satire Monologue, @mskittyrose1
Chitown Don, Founder and General Manager @ And Yoga Studios, @chitowndon
Geraldine Caldwell, live from North Carolina; @candie_girl_53
Sean Ali, Holistic Health Specialist & Wellness coach; @sean.ali_healer
Co-producer: Hassan Booker, the author of "Success Inspirations 365. Success Inspirations and Meditations For Everyday Of The Year"
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
How soon is too soon to begin dating after a breakup? Is the first person you date after a breakup, the "rebound"? What are the chances that a post-breakup partner will heal the wound but also become the ONE? Do you need to have a rebound to fix a self-confidence breach? After being hurt by your ex-relationship, is it fair to use and potentially hurt someone else? We cannot control the pain caused by a breakup, but can we learn a lot from it? Would it be better to start re-building yourself from within before re-entering the dating world? All break-ups and experiences are unique, and we are not looking for the right answers, we just talking it over in our big ole bed. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Producers: KI from Bedstuy and Anna Treyer-Simakova
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’; Podcast co-hosts: Tricia Grannum aka Trish
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Briana Fuller aka ‘Bri with a Tea’
Leon Ferguson, King Kong ain't got nothing on Leon
Our Expert: Jenn Infantino, a Pleasure Coach, a 2019 graduate of Layla Martin's VITA™ Coaching program, an engineer, an artist, and a Pleasure Goddess
Guest: Shanice L Ashby
Co-producer: Hassan Booker, the author of "Success Inspirations 365. Success Inspirations and Meditations For Everyday Of The Year"
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
Can you have a full-on relationship with someone who is taken? What if you fell in love with a married man/woman? Is it an open relationship when all parties know what is going on? Or is it one gate play? Are you familiar with the phrase: if you have to hide it, you know it is wrong? Are you ok to be a second priority? What happens when you are married and get engaged in a side relationship? Is it possible to keep both parties satisfied? But is having an affair on a side indicates a deeper personal problem? Let's pull back the sheets and talk it over. We have amazing guests in our Big Ole Bed.
Producers: KI from Bedstuy and Anna Treyer-Simakova
Podcast co-hosts: Tricia Grannum & Mae Palm aka 'Maya-Mae'
Guest: Bruce Miller, a songwriter, producer, and TV/filmmaker;
Khadijah Tou Tou, an author, international educator, and motivational speaker;
Najami Lezama aka Bush Woman, a Certified Professional Personal Development Awareness Life Coach;
Robin Nestler, Founder of SetHerFree.org;
Alvin Palmer aka Chili Palmer;
Co-producer: Hassan Booker, the author of "Success Inspirations 365. Success Inspirations and Meditations For Everyday Of The Year"
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
We always start our episodes with a feel-good story to create unity among the guests and the right mood for the question-of-the-day conversation.
This time, the story about JBJ Soul Foundation's initiative brought up by our co-host Maya-Mae engaged everyone in a 35 min stand-alone discussion about problems of homelessness in New York and beyond.
There are 57,341 homeless people, including 18,653 children, sleeping each night in the New York City municipal shelter system. New York City has more than 111,000 homeless students. Covid has only increased the size of the issue.
It just happened that our podcast guests are not only amazing human beings but in one way or another have been involved in community initiatives related to the homeless problem. And it is all started with talking it over in our Big Ole Bed. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Producers: KI from Bedstuy and Anna Treyer-Simakova
Podcast co-hosts: Tricia Grannum & Mae Palm aka 'Maya-Mae'
Guest: Bruce Miller, a songwriter, producer, and TV/filmmaker;
Khadijah Tou Tou, an author, international educator, and motivational speaker;
Najami Lezama aka Bush Woman, a Certified Professional Personal Development Awareness Life Coach;
Robin Nestler, Founder of SetHerFree.org;
Alvin Palmer aka Chili Palmer;
Co-producer: Hassan Booker, the author of "Success Inspirations 365. Success Inspirations and Meditations For Everyday Of The Year"
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
For the first time in the history of the TalkItOver show, we are going to talk in our big ole bed about SEX. Why so many people are afraid to talk about sex while dating? Is it a bad habit to avoid this conversation to keep the mystery? How to address sensitive issues without making a wrong impression? Does talking about sex mean that you up for it? Should you lay it all right away on the table or keep it to yourself? Can the first sex fiasco with a new partner kill the future of this relationship? Does an intimate relationship start long before intercourse?
We are not subject matter experts, but we have a special guest, who is a professional. Jenn Infantino is in the building. She is a 2019 graduate of Layla Martin's VITA™ Coaching program, an engineer, an artist, and a Pleasure Goddess.
Producers: KI from Bedstuy and Anna Treyer-Simakova
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’; Podcast co-host: Tricia Grannum;
Guest: Geraldine Caldwell, live from North Carolina;
Co-producer: Hassan Booker, the author of "Success Inspirations 365. Success Inspirations and Meditations For Everyday Of The Year"
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
There are multiple ways to break up. It appears that texting is not the worst method of all. There are Facebook, WhatsApp, Email, phone call, ask a friend-options that can be equally painful... How to end your relationship in a less harmful way? Does this way even exist? How to handle a break-up in an abusive relationship? Will the remote breakup come in handy? How to navigate your emotions and communication during pandemics? How to see the end of relationships as an opportunity and re-direction to better yourself? How to not let rejection define you but find lessons in you?
We are not subject matter experts, but some of our special guests definitely are. Rhea Parks, the Owner and Marriage & Family Therapist at Mind, Body, & Spirit MFT is in the building as well as Najami Lezama, known as a BUSH WO/MAN, a Certified Professional Personal Development Awareness Life Coach. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Producer: KI from Bedstuy
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’;
Co-host: Briana Fuller aka ‘Bri with a Tea’;
Special guests: Rhea Parks, the owner of Mind, Body, & Spirit MFT, Marriage & Family Therapist. To find out more visit www.mindbodyspiritmft.com
Najami Lezama, the CEO of BUSH WO/MAN Conversations Project Life Coaching Program, BUSH WOMAN Natural Living Tours, and a Certified Professional Personal Development Awareness Life Coach. To find out more visit bushwomanconvo.com or DM to 1.347.463.0907 or bushwomanconversations@gmail.com
Hassan Booker, the author of "Success Inspirations 365. Success Inspirations and Meditations For Everyday Of The Year".
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
Is marriage still seen as an essential step in a successful life? According to the Pew Research Center only about half of Americans over age 18 are married. This is down from 72% then we had 40 years ago, while divorce rates have been significantly raising especially among older Americans.
So, is Marriage still a goal? Why are men and women shying away from commitment? Is it a natural fear of rejection or being controlled? Could we see it as a positive trend? What if a delay in marriage allows young people to avoid mistakes, first learn about themselves before being responsible for another person’s life? Could it be that marriage in its traditional way is no longer the answer to the human desire for connection and belonging? Or is it still a social contract?
We are not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed and we have perfect guests, who happened to be marriage supporters... Now let's pull back the sheets...
Producer: KI from Bedstuy
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’; Podcast co-host: Tricia Grannum;
Special guests: Rhea Parks, founder Mind, Body, & Spirit MFT, Marriage & Family Therapist, www.mindbodyspiritmft.com;
Alexandra Khan, the author of a new book "What's not to date", a dating manual through the personal account of a woman who realizes that hospitality and dating scenes are not so different-ultimately, they reflect how we welcome people into our lives.
Hassan Booker, the author of "Success Inspirations 365. Success Inspirations and Meditations For Everyday Of The Year".
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
What are the emotional differences between males and females? Are women more complicated than men? How does this difference affect dating and relationships? What does a woman's "Fine" actually mean? What are the clues to read women's reactions? Is it even possible for men to understand women and vice versa? Is it going to remain an unsolved mystery? Or should you start by understanding yourself first?
We are not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed and we have perfect guests for a very frank conversation. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Creator/Producer: KI from Bedstuy
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’;
Co-host: Tricia Grannum
Podcast guests: Robin Nestler, Founder of SetHerFree.org;
Changa Bell, eRYT+350, Sri Sri School of Yoga, Author of Affirmations for Dads, Georgetown University Certified Health Coach; www.bmyi.org
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
While we are fast approaching the holiday season, it comes with the pressure of meeting with the family and socializing. Imagine on top of that you are planning to invite your significant other to the family gathering for the first time? Have you discussed it with your beau? What if your celebration-styles don’t match? What if your partner doesn’t like holidays or doesn't like your family? Do you need to make a choice and spend a holiday season with your partner or your family? Ultimately, holidays are often the test for relationships — it's actually the most common time of the year for couples break-up.
We are not subject matter experts, but one of our special guests definitely is: Naemmy Saldivar, LCSW and Trauma Therapist is ready to share her experience. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Creator/Producer: KI from Bedstuy
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’;
Podcast guests: Tricia Grannum, Mae Palm aka 'Maya-Mae', Alvin Palmer aka Chili Palmer
Special guest: Naemmy Saldivar, LCSW and Trauma Therapist, www.youtube.com/channel/UCjyaXPMVIoZWNACfwCKxU1A
or check the INSTA page: social_work_infomaniacs
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
Before going deep into the topic let's clarify the semantics: courting vs dating. What comes first? What term has a more serious connotation and consequences? Is it fair to your potential and yourself to be committed to monogamy from the first date? Or is dating a numbers game? At what stage of 'courting'/'dating' do two or people need to communicate their expectations and set the boundaries? Why is this conversation difficult for some? How do different attachment styles affect your dating behavior?
We are not subject matter experts, but one of our special guests definitely is. Rhea Parks, Mind, Body, & Spirit MFT - a Marriage & Family Therapist is in the building. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Producer: KI from Bedstuy
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’;
Podcast guests: Tricia Grannum, Mae Palm aka 'Maya-Mae', Leon Ferguson
Special guest: Rhea Parks, founder Mind, Body, & Spirit MFT, Marriage & Family Therapist, www.mindbodyspiritmft.com
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
What to do if you are dating someone who is on the opposite side of the political, cultural and/or religious spectrum? Would you date someone who didn’t share your political beliefs and voted for the "other guy"? It might have been harder to do during the current nontraditional presidency, but can we still listen to each other and cherish our shared values? Following famous JFK words: "ask not what your country can do for you, ask what you can do for your country" - can two people live, love and serve their community together despite their different party affiliation? Can you talk it over and continue to cultivate and nurture the relationship? Does a deep-dive conversation always help?
Well... 50 min definitely is not enough for such a hot topic but we are not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed and we have amazing guests for a very frank conversation. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Producer: KI from Bedstuy
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’;
Podcast guests: Tricia Grannum, Mae Palm aka 'Maya-Mae', Alvin Palmer aka Chili Palmer
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
How to introduce your date to your colleagues and/or friends for the first time? What if you just run into your coworker or aunt while on a first or second outing with your new possibility? Is there a protocol? How to introduce someone without labels and further unnecessary questions? When should you discuss the 'introduction protocol' with your 'possibility'? Are you both comfortable with "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" titles? Is there recovery after the wrong introduction?
We are not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed and we have perfect guests for a very frank conversation. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Host & Producer: KI from Bedstuy;
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’;
Podcast guests: Tricia Grannum, live from Buffalo;
Geraldine Caldwell, live from North Carolina;
Leon Ferguson, live from Brooklyn;
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
Tit for Tat: who really does play the most games (innocent or otherwise) in courtship? According to some statistics, females give false names, males give a false relationship status. Females lie about their weight, guys lie about the height... Why do people lie when they are dating, especially dating online? Is dishonesty a part of human nature? Or is it a defense mechanism or a sign of insecurity? What lies are forgivable and what lies should raise red flags?
We are not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed and we have perfect guests for a very frank conversation. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Host & Producer: KI from Bedstuy;
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’;
Podcast guests: Alexandra 'Sasha' Moncion, Cris Epps, James 'Jimmy' Vickery, Robin Nestler, Tricia Grannum
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
Can love overcome any obstacles and conquer all? What is love and does it really have such powers? Is it the only ingredient that guarantees "happily-ever-after"? Or is it another 'big fat lie' about relationships? Where does love go when life is not perfect and/or when people aren't perfect? Or does real love help to get past the bad times and give you a reason to work harder at your relationship? Can love overcome hate and change the world?
We are not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Host & Producer: KI from Bedstuy;
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’;
Podcast guests: Robin Nestler, Founder of SetHerFree.org;
Mae Palm aka 'Maya-Mae', Jamaican-American Television/Film Actress/Model
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
Is jealousy healthy in a relationship? Part 2 - it is a revisiting of one of the hot topics/episodes posted in early 2020 and received the most attention from the podcast listeners. What is jealousy? Is it a symptom of insecurity? Or is it an indication of a lack of respect or attention from your partner? How should it be addressed? Can jealousy be cured? Or is it an integral part of love?
We are not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Host & Producer: KI from Bedstuy;
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’;
Podcast guests:
Briana Fuller aka ‘Bri with a Tea’;
Geraldine Caldwell, live from North Carolina;
Leon Ferguson, live from Brooklyn;
Anel Carmona, NY Actress and Singer
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
Draw me a picture: should goals and ambitions match? Should you be open about your intentions? For example, what if you want to get married or looking for a sugar daddy? Or what if you look for a business partner or investor? Should you be clear about your intentions from day one? Can you date a less ambitious person or do you need to be with someone who accepts your level of ambition and doesn't get in the way? Is there a healthy recipe for a healthy career path and love life?
We are not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Host & Producer: KI from Bedstuy;
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’;
Podcast guests: Briana Fuller aka ‘Bri with a Tea’;
Geraldine Caldwell, live from North Carolina;
Anel Carmona, NY Actress and Singer
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
What Is Love? Does it last forever? - it was the very first topic that TalkItOver podcast was launched with back in December and collected the highest number of listeners. Nine months later, we are revisiting this hot topic with the new guests and a new twist: Situationship vs Relationship. How to determine which of the 'ships' you are in? What is a situationship? Aren't we all in some sort of 'situation' as it pertains to relationships? Can a situationship become a relationship?
We are not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Host & Producer: KI from Bedstuy;
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’;
Podcast guests: Geraldine Caldwell, live from North Carolina;
Camilla Brito, live from Brazil;
Cris Epps, live from Queens, NY, Case Manager @ WeSettle.com
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
“As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him.” - Gandhi. Does the same principle apply to love-relationships? Do you even agree that personality is changing through life? Does true love mean that your love partner loves you as you are? When is it necessary to change because your bachelor's habits affecting your love-relationships? Or how to deal with your partner's personality change because of aging? If personality is not fixed, how much you can expect or ask your love-partner to change? Or should you first try to change yourself instead of trying to change your partner? Too many questions to cover.
We are not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Host & Producer: KI from Bedstuy;
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’;
Podcast guests: Robin Nestler, Founder of SetHerFree.org;
Changa Bell, eRYT+350, Sri Sri School of Yoga, Author of Affirmations for Dads, Georgetown University Certified Health Coach;
Alexandra 'Sasha' Moncion, a star of Corporate Communications and Public Relations for 15 years, a writer, a progressive mind, the podcast supporter.
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
Does sharing your life with someone mean being always honest? What if your 'past love' skeletons have the potential to harm your new relationships? What is a comfortable level of sharing? Do you need to tell your date about your strange little habits and/or a one-night stand in college? How soon into courting should you start to share information that might affect your relationship?
We are not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Host & Producer: KI from Bedstuy;
Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’;
Podcast guests: Robin Nestler, Founder of SetHerFree.org;
Changa Bell, eRYT+350, Sri Sri School of Yoga, Author of Affirmations for Dads, Georgetown University Certified Health Coach;
Geraldine Caldwell, live from North Carolina;
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
The topic of today's episode is: How to balance/choose between the desire to travel and being in relationships. What happens if your partner wants to settle down and not excited about the next flight and a hotel stay? What if your partner cannot travel with you, will you stay? Travel is supposed to broaden the perspective...can travel help you understand who you are? Do some people choose travel vs relationships to escape from the existing reality and run away from themselves? How to find the balance?
The same as last week, before jumping to a regular discussion, we invited our old and new guests of the show to reflect on the current social unrest and injustice. We welcome your opinion too. Please share your thoughts and join the conversation here or on Facebook or Instagram @talkitover.show. Now let's pull back those sheets!
Host & Producer: KI from Bedstuy;
Podcast co-host: Briana Fuller aka ‘Bri with a Tea’
Podcast guests: Robin Nestler, Founder of SetHerFree.org;
Changa Bell, eRYT+350, Sri Sri School of Yoga, Author of Affirmations for Dads, Georgetown University Certified Health Coach;
Kedsarin Kate Hasenfus, Founder/President milestonePR, award-winning PR professional with more than 10 years of experience in marketing and public relations for the travel and airline industries.
Jimmy, the rapper.
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Amin Entertainment LLC
Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
The topic of today's episode is: How to create a healthy well-balanced relationship with your parents? What if you are dating while living with your parents? What if your parents are too involved in your personal life? How to set boundaries? Is it your or your partner's responsibility? But before pulling back the sheets and jump to a regular discussion, we'd like to start our episode with the team's temperature check and reflection on the current social unrest and injustice.
The summer is over and let's admit, we are facing September with even stronger issues and uncertainty. The show is about building relationships and it includes a skill of having a conversation beyond dating and being able to freely speak about problems that affect our lives on a larger scale. We welcome your opinion, please share your thoughts and join the conversation here or on Facebook or Instagram @talkitover.show.
Host & Producer: KI from Bedstuy; Podcast host and co-producer: Briana Fuller aka ‘Bri with a Tea’, Podcast guests: Alexandra 'Sasha' Moncion, Geraldine Caldwell, live from North Carolina; Leon Ferguson; Engineer & co-producer: Amin Entertainment LLC; Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
What does it mean when your significant other calls you by the wrong name? Is it a big problem for you? Is it his/her ex or a family member or a boss? Did it happen more than once? Or what if your partner calls you by several different names? Is it enough reason to be suspicious? It is definitely enough reason to have a conversation and talk it over, the same way we are talking it over in our Big Ole Bed. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Host & Producer: KI from Bedstuy; Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’, Podcast guests: Briana Fuller aka ‘Bri with a Tea’, Robin Nestler, Leon Ferguson; Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Fun House; Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
According to Max Baucus: "A true definition of compromise – a little give, a little take”. As stated by Elitesingles.com: "Reaching a compromise is a chance to expand your emotional intelligence and capacity for empathy." Is the winning formula in compromise to incorporate both of your needs to create a new version? How to know when to compromise in a relationship and when to say no? What is a healthy compromise? Does compromise mean to surrender? How to find a happy medium? What are the areas of relationships for you that are non-negotiable?
We are not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Host & Producer: KI from Bedstuy; Podcast co-host: Briana Fuller aka ‘Bri with a Tea’
Podcast guests: Robin Nestler, Founder of SetHerFree.org;
Changa Bell, eRYT+350, Sri Sri School of Yoga, Author of Affirmations for Dads, Georgetown University Certified Health Coach;
Alexandra 'Sasha' Moncion; a star of Corporate Communications and Public Relations for 15 years, a writer, a progressive mind, the podcast supporter.
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Fun House; Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
What is your first reaction when you hear: "We Need To Talk"? Are you in trouble? How to address sensitive issues without hurting your partner's feelings? How to maintain healthy relationships and develop positive communications while raising unpleasant topics in personal life/work/family? According to a relationship coach Dr. Susan Edelman: "When you can express yourself to your partner in a constructive way, it often brings you closer together. You’re not likely to feel understood if you can’t tell your partner how you feel."
Are there certain sensitive topics that you should bring up with your potential significant other when you start courting? When is the best time to begin to talk it over?
Well, we are not subject matter experts but some of our guests are. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Host & Producer: KI from Bedstuy; Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’,
Podcast guests: Ana Carolina Cassiano aka Carol, Trainer, Facilitator, Intercultural Learning & Global Competence Educator, live from Brazil;
Changa Bell, eRYT+350, Sri Sri School of Yoga, Author of Affirmations for Dads, Georgetown University Certified Health Coach;
Alexandra 'Sasha' Moncion; a star of Corporate Communications and Public Relations for 15 years, a writer, a progressive mind, the podcast supporter.
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Fun House; Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
Should you be the most important person in your significant other's life? We all agree that great relationships don't happen by itself, they require constant work and effort. Does this involve prioritizing your partner before anything else: before Friends, before Family, before Children? If you met "the love of your life', does that mean that the majority of your time and attention must be devoted to him/her? Is it ok to tuck away some of your own goals and aspirations because something has to give?
We don't have the answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Host & Producer: KI from Bedstuy; Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’, Podcast guests: Robin Nestler, Geraldine Caldwell, live from North Carolina; Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Fun House; Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
Should your partner be your champion or your challenger? Can two people who are polar opposites on the political/social/cultural spectrum be in healthy relationships? Can you date a person with extreme political views? Can they talk it over? Who would you prefer to be locked with during pandemic? Can one person combine both characteristics depending on the situation?
We don't have the answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Host & Producer: KI from Bedstuy; Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’, Podcast guests: Changa Bell, Briana Fuller aka ‘Bri with a Tea’, Alexandra 'Sasha' Moncion, Robin Nestler, Leon Ferguson; Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Fun House; Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
While the summer temperature outdoor is rising, the TalkItOver team and friends are getting together to check up on the team's temperature. Dealing with Coronavirus since March has been a big test for everyone's sanity and well being, but it’s certainly not the only unprecedented challenge we’re facing right now. The social unrest we are witnessing in the US for the last couple of months revealed a bigger virus that we have been dealing for centuries.
Although the show is about dating and relationships, we decided that we cannot avoid this conversation that is affecting our lives and relationships on a much larger scale. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Host & Producer: KI from Bedstuy; Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’, Podcast guests: Briana Fuller aka ‘Bri with a Tea’, Alexandra 'Sasha' Moncion, Robin Nestler, Leon Ferguson; Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Fun House; Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
(April recording) Would you be open to having a conversation about opening your relationship? How is it different from other non-monogamy types? Why do some people still need to explore more options when they have great loved-one at home? Do open relationships require a certain level of maturity and communication? Is it for everyone? How important are emotional and sexual boundaries in open relationships? How is it different from the traditional ones? Do open relationships mean couples are having more sex or committed to more work?
Well, we are not subject matter experts but some of our guests are. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Host & Producer: KI from Bedstuy; Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’, Podcast guests: Camilla Brito, live from Brazil, Robin Nestler; Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Fun House; Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
How do you deal with the situation when you are in love with someone but yours and/or your partner's parents don't approve? How to deal with the parents not liking your boyfriend/girlfriend based on cultural, religious, racial, or social differences? Are there any peaceful ways to open parents' minds? What if parents may have a very legitimate reason for disliking their child’s choice? How to justify that they have the right concerns especially if you are in love? We are not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our Big Ole Bed. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Host & Producer: KI from Bedstuy; Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’, Podcast guests: Deydra Bringas, founder of TriviaforUs, James 'Jimmy' Vickery @ jamesvickerycomedy.com; Alexandra 'Sasha' Moncion; Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Fun House; Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
What love lessons did you have to unlearn from childhood? Where did you learn it? TV? Books? Parents? Peers? Or maybe your last break-up? How many of them does a person need to overcome and learn that there is no such thing as a perfect relationship? Is Love is a learning process with the main objective to learn more about yourself? And if so might it take a lifetime...? We are not subject matter experts and not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our individual beds, as the Talk It Over team takes social distancing very seriously. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Host & Producer: KI from Bedstuy; Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’, Podcast guests: Briana Fuller aka ‘Bri with a Tea’, Robin Nestler, Zen; Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Fun House; Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
"...dogs and cats living together... mass hysteria!" - Dr. Peter Venkman, Ghostbusters. Can dogs live with cats? Do you think a dog person and a cat person can date and get along as a couple? Are you a cat person or a dog person and does it influence your dating life? According to some surveys, a dog person is more outgoing, enthusiastic and easy to get along, while a cat person is likely to be curious, independent, and more prone to worry than dog people. But there is no one formula for all. Our latest podcast is a perfect example - we had a great group of wonderful dog and cat owners in our big ole bed and we had so much fun during the recording. Now let's pull back the sheets... Host & Producer: KI from Bedstuy; Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’, Podcast guests: Briana Fuller aka ‘Bri with a Tea’, Avis 'A Divine' Bey, Leon Ferguson; Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Fun House; Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
How to recognize when you have been emotionally manipulated? How to address it? There are many different forms of manipulation, ranging from a jealous, needy friend to an emotionally abusive partner. Some situations or behaviors are easier to spot than others. But what unites manipulators of all kinds is a desire to control other people. They are emotional black holes and can undermine your sense of who you are and even make you doubt your own sanity. How to protect yourself? Well, we are not subject matter experts but some of our guests are. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Host & producer: KI from Bedstuy; Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’, Podcast guests: Nicole Willheimer, Robin Nestler, Leon Ferguson; Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Fun House; Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
How do you know if it is love? We are in love with the idea of being in love perhaps. We are chasing this elusive feeling, the spark, the butterflies... but as soon as it fades away we are disappointed and ready for a new search. Being in love - is it just a moment? Is LOVE a feeling or a state of mind? Can one love and care about someone regardless of relationship status?
We are not subject matter experts but some of our guests are. Thanks to them we had an especially genuine and openhearted conversation in our TalkItOver bed beginning with Leon playing the guitar and our wonderful guests opening up their souls. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Host & Producer: KI from Bedstuy; Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’, Podcast guests: Briana Fuller aka ‘Bri with a Tea’, Avis 'A Divine' Bey, Leon Ferguson; Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Fun House; Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
How to know if you’re dating a momma's boy? There’s a difference between a man who is close to and loves his mother and a man who is still clutching his mother's apron strings. He still lives with his mom, needs her approval in everything, sleeps in a twin bed with Star Wars sheets and cannot do his own laundry... how do you deal with that? What about dating a daddy's girl? Should one expect the same issues? The Pew Research Center discovered that shockingly the majority of millennial men can be classified as momma's boys. The study found that about 35 percent of males between the ages of 18 and 34 live with a parent - just compare it to 28 percent of that same age group that lives with a partner. This means more guys are choosing to live with mommy and daddy rather than with their romantic partners. Surprisingly, the trend does not hold true for millennial women.
Well, we are not subject matter experts but some of our guests are. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Host & producer: KI from Bedstuy; Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’, Podcast guests: Nicole Willheimer, Robin Nestler, Leon Ferguson; Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Fun House; Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
How long before we reveal our true selves in a relationship? What is the timeline for the second-first impression? When does the real make-up come off? Anyone in a relationship will tell there’s no exact timeline when it comes to navigating the love territory. When is the right time to say ‘I love you’ or share dreams for the future? When is it acceptable to dress down in front of your partner or skip wearing make-up? When is the right time to start planning the first travel together? When do you start choosing Netflix over sex? We are not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our individual beds, as the Talk It Over team takes social distancing very seriously. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Host & Producer: KI from Bedstuy; Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’, Podcast guests: Changa Bell, eRYT+350, Sri Sri School of Yoga, Author of Affirmations for Dads, Georgetown University Certified Health Coach; James 'Jimmy' Vickery @ jamesvickerycomedy.com; Alexandra 'Sasha' Moncion; Anel Carmona, NY Actress and Singer; Robin Nestler, Founder of SetHerFree.org; Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Fun House; Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
Work romance: should you stay away from it? How to handle an awkward affair that isn't yours? Spending an immense amount of hours at work, an office might be the only logical way to find a partner. According to CareerBuilder.com over 30 percent of workers who started dating at work ended up getting married, although 41 present of workers had to keep their romance a secret. Getting involved in an office romance, it’s important to think through the risks and be mindful of possible consequences. What if a couple is working together on the same project? How to make it work? Or should you even try it to begin with? We are not subject matter experts but some of our guests are. We have three amazing guests: Cullen & Elitia from WhenLoveWorks and Alexandra 'Sasha' Moncion.
Now let's pull back the sheets...
Host & Producer: KI from Bedstuy; Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’, Podcast guests: Cullen & Elitia, WhenLoveWorks, Alexandra 'Sasha' Moncion; Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Fun House; Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
Maintaining a healthy relationship requires a lot of effort - while maintaining a long-distance relationship is an art form. It requires a lot of self-awareness, a high level of trust, confidence, and of course, a solid set of communication skills. With the advancement of technology over the last decade, long-distance relationships have become much easier to manage than in the past but it is still a lot of work. Would you be in a long-distance relationship? How long do these types of relationships last? What does it take to overcome distance, time differences, and geographical separation? How to make it work? In the times of social distancing that eliminates physical proximity from each other, we all are in some sort of long-distance relationship, so it is time to learn from other's experiences.
We are not subject matter experts but some of our guests are. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Host & Producer: KI from Bedstuy; Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’, Podcast guests: Camilla Brito, live from Brazil, Avis 'A Divine' Bey, Nicole Willheimer, Leon Ferguson; Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Fun House; Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova; Image courtesy of miljko/Getty Images.
Today's episode is all about “Selfishness”. Is "Being Selfish" unfairly depicted negatively? How can it affect the dating/relationship dynamics? What forms of selfishness are ok? What is the difference between self-care and selfishness? Is there a healthy amount of selfishness that actually can help to build a better relationship and beyond? We are spending every second with ourselves, don't we deserve more self-love? We are not subject matter experts and not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our individual beds, as the Talk It Over team takes social distancing very seriously. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Host & Producer: KI from Bedstuy; Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’, Podcast guests: James 'Jimmy' Vickery @ jamesvickerycomedy.com, Alexandra 'Sasha' Moncion, Briana Fuller aka ‘Bri with a Tea’, Avis 'A Divine' Bey, Leon Ferguson; Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Fun House; Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
She starts her day with 30 min run before the sunrise and practicing yoga in the evening, he sleeps late and is watching the sports channel from his favorite couch. Can these individuals find happiness inside of dating/relationships? Is it important for those in a relationship to have similar lifestyle priorities and habits, especially physical activities? To make a relationship work, do both people really have to be going at the same speed in the same direction at the same time? How do lifestyle differences connect to shared values? We are not subject matter experts and not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our individual beds, as the Talk It Over team takes social distancing very seriously. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Host & Producer: KI from Bedstuy; Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’, Podcast special guest: Changa Bell, eRYT+350, Sri Sri School of Yoga, Author of Affirmations for Dads, Georgetown University Certified Health Coach, Podcast guests: Maya Graffagna, Robin Nestler, Leon Ferguson; Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Fun House; Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
Times are changing and so are some rituals and rules of courting. The older generation keeps saying that the way millennials date can’t be called “dating”...well, wait until Gen Z starts setting dating trends. What was once unacceptable is considered to be the norm today and vice versa. How has dating changed through ages? How are people from different generations adapting to new realities? We've been lucky to get together an amazing group of people in our big ole beds to discuss this hot topic. We are not subject matter experts we are merely talking it over and sharing experiences: What do you miss about the dating of 70s and 80s? What has most surprised you in this new dating reality? Where do you see it going? Now let's pull back the sheets...
Host & Producer: KI from Bedstuy; Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’, Podcast guests: Doctor Jay Whitehead, CEO @FundMyTeam|MyDrCares| LeagueNetwork, Robin Nestler, Founder of SetHerFree.org, Anel Carmona, NY Actress and Singer. Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Fun House; Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
It is probably the best time to validate cliche phrases like: 'Love knows no boundaries or distance'... or 'When two or more people are meant for each other, no distance is too far, no time is too long', and no virus outbreak can break them apart. While dating or looking for love in the era of social distancing, what new measures should we take? Can we look at a new unfortunate reality as an opportunity to be creative in finding new ways to maintain relationships, communicate on a deeper level, learn to talk it over and become more intimate without physical contact? Perhaps it's time to dust off the old book "Love in the time of cholera" by Gabriel Garcia Marquez or as we can now apply to call it "Love in the time of the coronavirus".
We are not subject matter experts and not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our individual beds, as the Talk It Over team takes social distancing very seriously. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Host & Producer: KI from Bedstuy; Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’, Podcast guests: Briana Fuller aka ‘Bri with a Tea’, Nicole Willheimer, Robin Nestler, Leon Ferguson; Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Fun House; Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
Does age really matter that much in dating/relationship? Do couples with large age gaps experience poorer relationship outcomes? What is an acceptable range when it comes to our own relationships? What if age has nothing to do with the success of a relationship, which much rather depends on the extent to which partners share similar values, goals and lifestyles? So is age just a number? We are not subject matter experts and not trying to find the right answers. We are just talking it over in our 'Big Ole bed'... in our individual beds actually, as the Talk It Over team takes social distancing very seriously. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Host & producer: KI from Bedstuy; Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’, Podcast guests: Nicole Willheimer, Robin Nestler, Leon Ferguson; Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Fun House; Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
At what stage, if any, should you know all of your significant other's friends? When should you meet his/her parents? According to new data from dating app Hinge, millennials bring their dates home to meet mom and dad after 10 or more dates, or a little more than two months into the relationship on average. Although, relationship experts are recommending to wait at least five to six months until it's a serious, committed relationship. Is there ever a "right time" to meet the parents? And what about close and not so close friends? Do they need to know and how soon? What does it say about your partner if he/she doesn't want to be introduced or hesitant to let you into his/her inner circle? Can you live with this? Tough questions... but we are not trying to find the right answers, we are just talking it over in our 'Big Ole bed'. Now let's pull back the sheets... Host & producer: KI from Bedstuy; Podcast host and co-producer: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’, Podcast guest: Charmaine “The Maine” Delatour; Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Fun House; Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
(Part 2) Here is a preview of the TalkItOver video podcast, our 'big ole bed' and the show crew and guests. How far would you go on a first date? Now let's pull back the sheets and connect voices to the faces...
Host & producer: KI from Bedstuy; Podcast Hosts: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’, Briana Fuller aka ‘Bri with a Tea’; Podcast guests: Avis 'A Divine' Bey, Maya Graffagna, Anel Carmona, Cory Jimenez;
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Fun House; Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
A preview of the TalkItOver video podcast and our big ole bed is here. How far would you go on a first date? Now let's pull back the sheets and connect voices to the faces...
Host & producer: KI from Bedstuy; Podcast Hosts: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’, Briana Fuller aka ‘Bri with a Tea’
If you were wondering what our big ole bed looks like and the personalities behind the voices stay tuned for this week's dating/relationship question of the day. Here is a brief introduction from the show's creator KI from Bedstuy. Later on today we'll post a sneak preview into the video podcast as well as the sizzle reel for dating TV show that we've been prepping for months and filming all last weekend. Check our Instagram page Talkitover.show
While pop culture embraces gender-fluid-style in fashion, over 40% of American wives are making more money than their husbands, and more men are eager to take care of domestic tasks... the dating field is also experiencing a dramatic behavioral change as well. How are gender-roles transforming and pushing antiquated dating rules and stereotypes? Will the continuing shift in gender-specific behaviors lead to our extinction or evolution? We are not trying to find the right answers, we are just talking it over in our 'Big Ole bed'. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Host & producer: KI from Bedstuy; Podcast Hosts: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’, Briana Fuller aka ‘Bri with a Tea’, Podcast guests: Anna 'Banana' Simakova, Leon Ferguson; Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Fun House; Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
Remember the age-old question in the movie When Harry Met Sally: “Men and women can never be friends,” Billy Crystal’s character tells Meg Ryan, “because the sex part always gets in the way.” Is it still accurate for Millenials? Would you date a friend who might know too much about you? Does turning a friendship into a relationship ruin the friendship? We are not trying to find the right answer, we are just talking it over in our 'Big Ole bed'. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Host & producer: KI from Bedstuy; Podcast hosts: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’, Briana Fuller aka ‘Bri with a Tea’, Podcast guests: Anna 'Banana' Simakova, Sun Antonio; Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Fun House; Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
Let's talk about another hot topic of the day - POLYAMORY. What is it all about? Are we talking about emotional or just a physical connection? According to experts, polyamory is all about respect, communications and ability to live on the terms that work for the good of all involved. Is it the same requirements for any other form of relationship? Could you be in a relationship with more than one person? If you do, it must have been a very eventful Valentine's day for you. Let's pull back those sheets and talk it over in our big ole bed.
Host & producer: KI from Bedstuy; Podcast host: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’, Podcast guests: 'Phons' Alphonso Vanlow, Special Kat From BK; Special appearance: Charmaine “The Maine” Delatour; Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Fun House; Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
Don’t miss our special V-Day episode! What's the big deal with Valentine's Day? We almost ended up in a big ole pillow fight in our 'Big Ole bed' over the topic. Is it a festival of love or celebration of consumerism? How high are your and your friends' expectations? What if you love the holiday but your partner doesn't? Can you still talk it over? Now let's pull back the sheets...
Host & producer: KI from Bedstuy; Podcast Hosts: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’, Briana Fuller aka ‘Bri with a Tea’, Podcast guests: Anna 'Banana' Simakova, Leon Ferguson; Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Fun House; Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
How would you describe a soulmate? Is it the one and only to find and to live happily ever after? Do you even have to be in a romantic relationship with a soulmate? Can a person has multiple soulmates to come in and out of his or her life over the years? Or maybe you cannot find a single one... Sometimes we spend a lifetime looking for a soulmate... would it be easier to find your soul-self first? We don't know the answer, we are just talking it over in our 'Big Ole bed'. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Host & producer: KI from Bedstuy; Podcast Host: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’, Special guests: Avis 'A Divine' Bey, Charmaine 'The Maine' Delatour; Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Fun House; Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
What happens if your partner doesn't like your friend(s) or vice versa? Does it even matter if your friend(s) don't like your partner? It is hard enough to navigate relationships between two people, why add the third party, a best friend, in the dating equation? Who matters more? And does it have to be a competition? We are not trying to find the right answer, we are just talking it over in our 'Big Ole bed'. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Host & producer: KI from Bedstuy; Podcast guests: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’, Briana Fuller aka ‘Bri with a Tea’, Anna 'Banana' Simakova; Special appearance: Sun Antonio; Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Fun House; Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
Being in a relationship is hard, but being in a relationship with someone who has children can become a mission impossible. Would you date someone who has young children? What if you have determined the child (children) are a disruptive force in cultivating a relationship? What if the other parent is opposed to you being around their child? What if your partner's child doesn't like you? We are not trying to find a unified answer, we are just talking it over in our 'Big Ole bed'. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Host & producer: KI from Bedstuy; Podcast guests: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’, 'Phons' Alphonso Vanlow, Briana Fuller aka ‘Bri with a Tea’, Special appearance: Charmaine “The Maine” Delatour; Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Fun House; Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
There is a difference between working hard and be a workaholic, which in most cases is a sign of insecurity. What about people who are just passionate about their job? Work always will be their first priority. But it doesn't mean that all workaholics are doomed to be alone. According to EliteDaily.com, dating someone who will not invest as much time in your relationship as you want – can actually be healthy and make you a 'Power Couple' that motivates each other to succeed. We are not trying to find a unified answer, we are just talking it over in our 'Big O bed'. Now let's pull back the sheets...
Host & producer: KI from Bedstuy; Podcast guests: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’, 'Phons' Alphonso Vanlow, Briana Fuller aka ‘Bri with a Tea’, Special appearance: Charmaine “The Maine” Delatour;
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Fun House; Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
Jealousy - is it a signal of insecurity or low self-esteem? Is it a natural emotion that can and needs to be controlled? What is the difference between jealousy and envy? We are not subject matter experts but we are open for a heated discussion in one of the most intimate places to share...the bed. Let's pull back the sheets and talk it over.
Host & producer: KI from Bedstuy;
CAST: Olin T Gibson 'Big O', Briana Fuller aka ‘Bri with a Tea’, Chris Means 'Just Ask a BROTHA', Anna 'Banana' Simakova;
Special appearance: Bill Moore, Maya Graffagna, Leon Ferguson;
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Fun House;
Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova.
Are you ready to exchange your wedding vows or breakup via twitter post? Does the social media profile and number of likes validate your personality? How does social media affect the quality of our relationships? Or is it just a new electronic form of communication that should be accepted and mastered? KI and his guests are ready to pull back the sheets and talk it over in the bed.
Host & producer: KI from Bedstuy; Podcast guests: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’, 'Phons' Alphonso Vanlow, Special Kat From BK; Special appearance: Charmaine “The Maine” Delatour;
Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Fun House; Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova
Humans have been searching, praying, fighting and dying for it, praising and cursing it, but what is it? Romanticized by Holywood, finding true love has become a social requirement and confirmation of the main life accomplishment. But what is this love that many are so obsessed about? Does it last forever? And does it have to? KI and his guests are ready to pull back the sheets and talk it over in the bed.
- Host & producer: KI from Bedstuy;
- Podcast guests: Olin - ‘Big O - keeping you in the know’, Briana Fuller aka ‘Bri with a Tea’, Christopher Means 'Ask the Brother', Anna 'Banana' Simakova;
- Special appearance: Bill Moore, Maya Graffagna;
- Engineer & co-producer: Bumpy's Fun House;
- Co-producer: Anna Treyer-Simakova.