The Doctor's Wife: Recent Episodes
Sara Payne
The podcast for women who have supported their husbands through years of medical training and are now ready to rediscover themselves.
Have you ever wondered what your husband is really thinking?
Wonder no more.
I invited my colleague, Carrie Marshall, who coaches doctors and other professionals, to talk to us about what’s really going on in his head.
Our conversation is enlightening to say the least.
Listen in to better understand your husband, your relationship, and yourself.
Find out more about Carrie at www.instagram.com/drive_your_thoughts_coaching
It has been said that shame is the most human of all emotions--everyone feels it and very few understand it.
We are understanding shame on this podcast.
A shame-free approach, of course.
Join me as I teach you 5 important truths about shame and how you, the doctor’s wife, can use these truths to learn from your shame instead of being paralyzed by it.
Are you a people-pleaser?
Do you often feel exhausted, overwhelmed, and completely burnt out?
If so, this episode is for you.
Learn how people-pleasing could be creating resentment in your life, and how to honor your own needs and desires too.
Ready to rid yourself of resentment forever? Sign up for a free consult call with me at sarapayne.com/work-with-me and I'll help you get started.
In all my experience coaching doctors’ wives, I’ve noticed a cycle with resentment. Resent---React---Remorse. Here’s what I know about this cycle. It doesn’t get to the root of the problem. In today’s podcast I teach you how to stop the resent--react--remorse cycle and get your needs met. Listen and share it with your favorite doctors’ wives.
Ready to take this work further? Sign up for a free consult call with me at sarapayne.com/work-with-me.
What does it look like to choose love at a time like this? Love for yourself, love for others, love for every human being? The world needs love now more than ever. Are you willing to go first?
This week is all about MONEY.
I interview financial expert Ryan Inman of the Financial Residency Podcast and wouldn’t you know--he has a magical way of making finances not boring/scary/dreadful!
He breaks down 10 simple steps to organize your financial life, from creating a process for your bills to taking honest inventory about what you really want out of life and how your money can HELP you get there.
And guess what? Ryan only works with physician families (he’s married to a doctor himself), so he understands very clearly the unique financial circumstances that some many physicians deal with.
Give it a listen, and invite the hubs to listen,too.
Ahh, jealousy.
We all experience it.
But no one likes to admit they have it.
What if jealousy didn’t mean anything about you as a person?
What if jealousy could be your teacher?
This week’s episode will show you how.
Do you feel overwhelmed with everything on your to-do list?
Are you often frantically trying to get everything done at the last minute?
Do you feel like there's never enough time to take care of yourself?
You need time on your side!
Listen to this week's podcast to find out how to get everything done (minus the overwhelm).
We all know someone in our life who plays the victim.
The world is against them.
Things never go their way.
They blame other people, the weather, and just about everything outside of them for all their problems.
But what about you?
Do you ever fall into victim mentality?
Have you ever blamed your husband’s job for ruining your weekend?
For ruining your life?
What about your kids?
Do they make you {mad, frustrated, crazy, upset}?
I encourage you to give this episode an honest listen.
It’s not about blame.
It’s about empowerment and taking control of your own life.
Do you worry about the negative effects of technology on your children?
Are they even learning to communicate with real live people?
Are they looking at porn?
Are screens damaging them forever?
If any of these thoughts keep you up at night, today’s podcast guest has solutions for you.
Andrea Davis of Betterscreentime.com talks with me today about how coaching helped her build her business and teach parents how to worry less and connect more with their kids.
You won’t want to miss it.
Find more resources at betterscreentime.com
Looking to uplevel your life like Andrea has done? Sign up with a consult call with me at sarapayne.com
Do you find that you believe in others, but believing in yourself is so much harder?
Do you want to believe in yourself? Become more confident? And quiet the negative voices in your head, but you find yourself thinking, ‘How do I do that? How do I overcome self-doubt?’
What if you didn’t have to get rid of it? What if you could thrive WITH it?
Listen to this week’s podcast to learn just how to do that.
One of the most common questions that I get about thought work is this:
“How do I teach this to others?”
“How do I get my husband to understand how life-changing this is--do you have any books you could recommend?”
“How can I teach this to my daughter. She REALLY needs it.”
And it makes sense that you would want to share something you love with those you love, right?
The problem arises when they just aren’t interested in learning about it.
Now what?
Listen to today’s episode for how to navigate teaching thoughtwork when those you love don’t accept it the way you hope they will.
If you feel alone, or like no one could possibly understand what you are going through, listen to this week's episode.
I recorded it just for you.
Listen to me. You don't lack will power. There isn't something wrong with you. You've just never been taught how to break a bad habit. I simplify it into 5 actionable steps that will have you letting go of those unwanted habits in no time.
The Doctor's Wife is a year old! We are celebrating with a giveaway. Listen to this episode for all the details, and head over to @sarapaynecoaching on instagram for more details!
Enter for a chance to win Apple Air Pod headphones, a $100 gift card to Target, or a Kavu Bag (my favorite "mom" purse).
Giveaway closes at midnight (Mountain time) on November 19, 2019.
Gratitude is one of my favorite emotions--it just feels so good!
But I've noticed a pattern.
Sometimes, as doctors' wives, we use gratitude as a way to punish ourselves.
Saying things like, "I know I should be grateful that my husband has a job at all, but it's just so hard to put the kids to bed on my own night after night."
The crazy thing about that thought is that it doesn't actually generate gratitude at all.
Listen to this week's episode to learn how to stop using gratitude against yourself.
In today's episode I interview one of my clients, Robyn Mons, about how she has set and achieved goals that she once thought were impossible by using the power of coaching.
You will surely be touched and inspired as you listen to Robyn talk openly about her struggles before she found coaching, and how she has changed her life using these tools.
I hope as you listen you will feel Robyn's love and be open to thinking, 'If she can do it, I can do it!'
Are you ready to lose weight for the last time? Robyn teaches women every day how to do just that. Find her on Instagram and Facebook @robynmonscoaching to learn more or to sign up for a free consult call with her.
I believe that most of us want to be happy when good things happen to other people.
Like your sister getting a kid-free vacation with her husband while your mom watches the kids.
Or your friend losing weight.
Or your husband's co-worker getting a raise at work.
Why, then, do we often find ourselves feeling jealous instead of genuinely happy?
Listen in to learn why this happens and what you can do when you want to be happy for others but find yourself feeling jealous instead.
From the time we are very very young, we are taught that we can control how other people feel: "Don't say that or you'll hurt your sister's feelings!"
"Grandma will feel bad if you don't give her a hug."
"You make me so angry when you color on the couch with permanent marker!"
The reality is, none of these things are true.
Listen to this episode to find out why, and for advice on what to do if someone tells you that you have hurt their feelings.
There are a couple of reasons why processing emotions is crucial to creating the life that we want.
Listen to understand more fully why emotions really are harmless and how processing them can help us get to the root of the problem.
This episode is one you won't want to miss!
"What's wrong with me?"
"Why can't I figure this out?"
"What's my husband's problem?"
I know your first grade teacher taught you that there's not such thing as dumb questions, but I'm going to show you otherwise.
Today's podcast will shed light on three areas of your life where you are asking yourself dumb questions (motherhood, marriage, to yourself) and how to ask yourself smart ones instead.
On today's podcast I interview one of my real life clients, Becca Lloyd, as we discuss why she decided to hire a coach and how her life has changed because of it.
Through coaching, Becca has been able to increase her confidence, stop worrying about things she can't control, and have the courage to truly be her authentic self.
Along the way, Becca has started a business, planning and executing art tours for couples around the US (and soon, internationally as well!). Find more information about these amazing tours on instagram @bowerbirdarttours.
Would you like to start a side business or passion project but you just don't know what you would like to do with your free time?
Are you confused about what your passions even are anymore?
You've spent so many years putting your husband through school and taking care of the family that you almost can't remember what you are interested in, right?
Listen today to find out why being confused is holding you back and how to stop feeling that way if you are ready to put your work out into the world.
For years, while your husband was in training and your children were young, you probably worried at one time or another that they were missing out. You simply didn't have the resources to send them to expensive camps or buy them fancy birthday presents (or even clothes--hello hand-me-downs from cousins!).
Now that your husband is finished with training and your income has increased significantly, you might find yourself with the opposite concern:
Am I raising entitled children?
They have so many more opportunities than they have ever had in the past, and often many more opportunities than some of their peers.
Listen to today's podcast to answer this question: Am I raising entitled children?
Have you ever wondered, "Am I a good mom?"
How would you know the answer to such a loaded question?
Am I a good mom if my kids are happy?
Am I a good mom if they listen to me?
Am I a good mom if my house is kept clean?
Learn how to set expectations for yourself as a mom that are completely within your control.