Dateology: Recent Episodes
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We are a voice for Christian, metropolitan dating. On the show, we collect honest stories to find liberating wisdom for discovery and companionship.Cohosted by marriage & family therapist Candice Candelaria and pastor/spiritual director Matt Barrios; based out of the San Francisco Bay Area. Est. Feb. 2018.
Candice explores how mass use of AI chatbots for emotional support can create dependency, contribute to digital addiction, loneliness, and mental health struggles. Listeners are encouraged to self-assess their AI use, prioritize real human, spiritual connections, and to practice in-person social skills.
To watch her full TEDx Talk on YouTube click here: https://youtu.be/jSgmlI82LfQ?si=mvA9tCNvaOPWiTGt
Join us for an insightful episode where we delve into the hidden narratives that often hinder our confidence in dating. Discover how stories such as "I'm not good enough" or "I'm broken" can unconsciously affect your search for meaningful connections. We explore how to replace these limiting beliefs with empowering ones, shedding light on the beauty inherent in our humanity as believed by Christian faith.
Also, learn about an upcoming in-person event on May 29th at the Dutch Goose, where we invite you to meet new friends, enjoy structured activities, and participate in open socializing. With a focus on fostering authenticity and genuine relationships, this event is the perfect opportunity to engage with like-minded individuals. Keep updated on our upcoming content and events by following us on Instagram, and check out our new workbook on Dateologypodcast.com to guide you on this journey of self-awareness and personal growth in dating.
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Join Lisa and Candice as they dive deep into the complexities of heartbreak recovery. In this insightful episode, psychologist and author Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby shares her wisdom and experience on understanding the physiological and emotional processes involved in breaking up.
Discover the stages of healing after a breakup and the importance of embracing dark emotions as a path to personal growth. Lisa explains her eight-step process to help individuals move beyond pain and grow into stronger, healthier versions of themselves.
To learn more about Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby:
https://www.growingself.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/drlisabobby/
Greetings, Dateology! Welcome back for Season 3. Today, we will hear some live audio from our most recent event. Have you ever struggled with how to date in a large group of available men and women? What if there is more than one person of interest? In this episode, we explore getting to know people in a respectful way that makes it possible to date more than one person in a group.
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This week, I will be speaking at Peninsula Bible Church on Finding Freedom in Dating. To learn more visit https://pbc.org/young-adult
Stay tuned for upcoming episodes featuring special guests like Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby!
Welcome to another captivating episode of Dateology, hosted by Candice Thompson. We're excited to announce that Dateology now has a presence on Instagram (Dateology_events), where you can stay updated about our exciting in-person events, including the upcoming gathering in Menlo Park. Dive into today's episode as Candice shares invaluable insights into building meaningful relationships by focusing on what you create together rather than individual infatuation. Learn why understanding joint values, life rhythms, and personal growth are crucial for relational success, and discover the importance of being interesting rather than simply interested. This episode also explores the delicate balance between logic and emotion in love, urging listeners to approach dating with wisdom and compassion.
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Welcome back to another quick update! In this episode, Candice shares some exciting news and a few changes about upcoming events in the Dateology community.
First up, the highly anticipated Holy Chemistry Singles Mixer is happening on October 4th in Redwood City. This ticketed event will include a drink ticket, appetizers, and a speaking appearance by Candice. Don't miss this chance to connect with singles in person! For more details and registration, visit
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Unfortunately, the event with Menlo Church scheduled for September 15th has been postponed to January. Candice expresses her apologies and assures that future events will have concrete registration links before promotion.
Lastly, the Women's Wellness Day Retreat is still on for October 26th. This retreat will feature a yoga instructor, an art therapist, and Candice herself, focusing on connecting with your authentic self. Spots are still available, so register soon!
For more information and to stay updated on future events, visit www.candicethompson.com.
Greetings, Datology community! This is Candice, your host, with a quick event update. I have exciting news about several upcoming in-person events that I can't wait to share with you all.
The first event is the long-awaited young adults dating event on Sunday, September 15th at 7 p.m. at Menlo Church in Menlo Park, California. This intimate gathering will feature a talk by me, discussion and Q&A time, and an opportunity to connect with the young adults group. Feel free to invite friends and spread the word to other churches across the Bay Area!
The second event is a fun evening social for singles, complete with drinks, appetizers, and an emcee. Although the date has not been released yet, it promises to be a fantastic opportunity to mingle and connect. Stay tuned for more details as they become available.
Lastly, I am thrilled to announce a women's only retreat in October in Woodside, California. Co-hosted by myself, a certified art therapist, and a OT/yoga instructor, this day retreat will focus on identity integration through yoga, art therapy, and therapeutic reflection. Space is limited to 20 women, so be sure to register soon by clicking the Women's Retreat button on my website.
I look forward to seeing many of you at these events. It's wonderful to have the chance to connect in person again. Thank you for being a part of the Datology community!
In this episode, we delve into the complex intersection of dating and politics. With the 2024 presidential election season in full swing, tensions are high, and political discourse is unavoidable. Our goal is to help you navigate these challenging conversations with thoughtfulness and respect, whether you're dating or engaging with others who hold differing views.
We'll explore the importance of self-assessment to understand your political stance and its impact on your relationships. We'll also discuss practical tips for handling political disagreements, maintaining balance in your life, and ensuring your mental well-being during these turbulent times.
Join us as we navigate this timely and essential topic, providing you with wisdom and strategies to manage political conversations in your dating life and beyond.
Welcome back to Dateology with your host, Candice Thompson! In this episode, Candice celebrates six years of the podcast and dives into a topic that surprisingly hasn't been fully covered here before: online dating.
Candice discusses the importance of online dating in today's world, especially for those who may not have many opportunities to meet singles in person. She provides practical tips on how to navigate the online dating world, from choosing the right platform to creating an attractive and honest profile.
She also shares her thoughts on the recent controversial Bumble marketing campaign and why certain dating apps may or may not be suitable for finding meaningful relationships. Candice emphasizes the significance of knowing your worth and setting clear expectations to avoid burnout and disappointment.
For those looking to dip their toes back into the dating pool or improve their online dating experience, this episode offers valuable advice and encouragement. Tune in to learn how to make the most out of online dating and set yourself up for success in finding a compatible partner.
Greetings, Dataology community! Candice here. Jumping on to release a bonus episode & to provide you with some updates.
In this episode, I explore the idea that sexuality beyond sex could involve moments of deep connection with God, providing a sense of oneness and fulfillment. This perspective could empower singles to find fulfillment outside of traditional sexual experiences, promoting a holistic understanding of sexuality.
Thank you for joining me on this journey. I'll be back with more fresh content soon. In the meantime, you can connect with me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/candice-thompson-lmft/ or check out my recent guest appearance on The Movement Soul Collective podcast https://www.buzzsprout.com/1978903/15070041
Stay tuned for more updates and insights!
What a good ol' fun time it's been, and now we're at the season 2 finale! On it, we do a total recap of some of our favorite moments on the show. Think of it like our greatest hits!
This marks the end of Matt's consistent involvement with the project, but he might pop in from time to time. And Candice will keep on delivering some sweet, sweet nuggets!
To learn more about the show and to connect with Matt or Candice, visit https://www.dateology.org/.
This is a very timestamped episode on the weirdest year of our lives: 2020! Matt and Candice are back to discuss what it looks like to date digitally and safely in a pandemic—including how there might be lots of room for creativity!
To learn more about the show and to connect with Matt or Candice, visit https://www.dateology.org/.
Is Valentine's really just for lovers? We think not. On the market, off the market or somewhere in between, Valentine's day can be enjoyed by all. How? We are glad you asked...
-Happy Valentines Day from all of us at Dateology.
To learn more about the show and to connect with Matt or Candice, visit https://www.dateology.org/.
Holiday season is upon us, and the office parties, trips home to family, and New Year's preparations are in full swing. In this season, dating seems to get extra amplified with each new Christmas romcom. What's God's message of empowerment and grace for dating couples and singles this time of year? Join Matt and Candice as they talk it through, share stories, and toss out some ideas and opinions about dating around the holidays.
To learn more about the show and to connect with Matt or Candice, visit https://www.dateology.org/.
In some ways, all Candice and Matt do is talk about dating and faith on this show. But let's dive deeper into the number one question people have for us about dating: what do you think about Christians dating non-Christians? Join us as we seek out wisdom from the stories we've gathered and open the Bible to guide our path.
To learn more about the show and to connect with Matt or Candice, visit https://www.dateology.org/.
Audio engineered by Joey!
What about when your friend starts to seem oh so dateable? Join Candice and Matt as they discuss friendship and dating. Maybe the friend zone has more to it than first meets the eye. What if your next date might be with a friend from the past?
To learn more about the show and to connect with Matt or Candice, visit https://www.dateology.org/.
Back for part two of the conversation on Attachment Theory, Candice and Matt ask the important questions about attachment in dating: How would it actually if people who were psychologically secure dated one another? And how does the security of God help bring us into the freedom of more secure relationships?
To learn more about the show and to connect with Matt or Candice, visit https://www.dateology.org/.
How do our early established patterns of relating affect how we date? Listen as Candice expertly teaches about the psychology of attachment. And listen as Matt tries to keep pace with her psychological wisdom!
Referenced: How We Love by Milan and Kay Yerkovich
To learn more about the show and to connect with Matt or Candice, visit https://www.dateology.org/.
Sharing a quick nugget of wisdom (ain't it so Christian to refer to bits of wisdom as "nuggets??"), Candice speaks from her psychological expertise about boundaries. What are appropriate emotional boundaries to keep in relationships? When is self-disclosure a good idea, and when it is right to hold some vulnerable parts of your story for another time?
Plus, Candice announces our need for a sound engineer and the upcoming Happy Hour event in San Francisco on Thursday 6/27/19
To learn more about the show and to connect with Matt or Candice, visit https://www.dateology.org/.
How do you know when to get exclusive and when to keep it casual? Candice and Matt explore what goes into the conversation: "I want to be exclusive. How about you?" Plus, why not talk about Saved by the Bell and the Archie comics?
To learn more about the show and to connect with Matt or Candice, visit https://www.dateology.org/.
Taking a slight detour from a show all about Christian dating, Candice and Matt discuss singleness. What makes it so difficult? Why's it so beautiful? And hold on a sec... Jesus was single. That's a game changer.
To learn more about the show and to connect with Matt or Candice, visit https://www.dateology.org/.
Candice and Matt chat about the reality of rejection and its foreboding presence in dating. What does it look like to let someone down easily, and how can connecting with Jesus help us handle the pain of rejection?
To learn more about the show and to connect with Matt or Candice, visit https://www.dateology.org/.
Candice and Matt discuss all that is amusing, strange, illuminating, and sometimes painful about meeting your partner’s family. And ultimately, they discover how as followers of Jesus, there is great opportunity for honor, redemption and writing a new story.
To learn more about the show and to connect with Matt or Candice, visit https://www.dateology.org/.
Candice and Matt talk with Mark Scandrette about the many complexities of city life and how they can make dating relationships challenging — but not impossible! Mark has been doing Christian ministry in San Francisco for 22 years, so this an episode full of wisdom and opportunities for reflection.
Mark Scandrette is an author, teacher, activist, and coach, and you can find all his books and other resources at https://www.markscandrette.com.
To learn more about the show and to connect with Matt or Candice, visit https://www.dateology.org/.
Candice and Matt return for the first episode of season 2! This episode is all about where to meet people. And the question they spend a good amount of time on is... where are YOU?
To learn more about the show and to connect with Matt or Candice, visit https://www.dateology.org/.
How about we reflect on and celebrate some of what we’ve learned in a season 1 culmination? Join Candice and Matt as they enjoy a fun retrospective. Plus, they have a special word of blessing and gratitude for all their listeners.
And... they announce a new website where you can reach out! To meet, visit https://www.dateology.org/
How do race, ethnicity, dating, and the Gospel all come together? Race is a complicated thing to talk about, and Candice, Matt, and their guest Steve discuss it all in this vulnerable and thoughtful conversation.
To learn more about the show and to connect with Matt or Candice, visit https://www.dateology.org/.
So the relationship is progressing… what happens now? In this episode, Candice and Matt talk about serious relationships and how they can trigger fears of intimacy and commitment. Plus, the team chats about how great it is to pray for God's guidance as a relationship becomes more serious.
To learn more about the show and to connect with Matt or Candice, visit https://www.dateology.org/.
Why are people drawn to one another? Join Candice and Matt as they talk about what tend to be attractive qualities and what theories explain attraction. Plus, they'll consider how living according to a God-given calling might be one of the most attractive things of all.
To learn more about the show and to connect with Matt or Candice, visit https://www.dateology.org/.
Ever had a crush on a friend? Or had a friend say they have a crush on you? Candice and Matt interview Emily, who shares her experience dating a longtime pal.
To learn more about the show and to connect with Matt or Candice, visit https://www.dateology.org/.
What can we learn from Cale’s reflections on the end of a relationship? Join Matt and Candice as they chat with Cale about our tendencies toward selfishness in dating. Plus, what about that one wild date with the woman who enjoyed dining with the dead?
To learn more about the show and to connect with Matt or Candice, visit https://www.dateology.org/.
When it comes to sex, what are the dynamics at play in Christian dating? Candice and Matt discuss sex from a few different angles — from intimacy to porn to celibacy and more. Also, as promised in the show, here are a few links to resources Candice and Matt have found helpful in understanding the Bible’s teachings about sex.
Sermons:
The Story of Sex: Essence - http://bit.ly/2J5hvKu
The Story of Sex: Ethics - http://bit.ly/2kFZMPy
The Exclusive Paul - http://bit.ly/2suLynX
Book:
Loveology by John Mark Comer - http://bit.ly/loveologybook
(P.S. Sorry for the sirens in the background. Just a little proof we live in a big city.)
To learn more about the hosts and to follow Dateology on social media, visit https://www.dateology.org/
When the breakup happens, where do we go next? Candice and Matt talk about breakups — in the midst of the conversation and in the aftermath. There's hope in knowing that God is always near to the brokenhearted.
To learn more about the show and to connect with Matt or Candice, visit https://www.dateology.org/.
What do you do when messy, broken stuff comes up in a dating relationship? Is it worth it to keep going? Candice and Matt talk about the brokenness that inevitably surfaces in every relationship, and how the good news of Jesus empowers us to persevere and grow through it all.
To learn more about the show and to connect with Matt or Candice, visit https://www.dateology.org/.
What's on your list for the person you're looking for? What's a core item, what's a preference, and how can you know the difference? Candice and Matt talk about ways that lists can be helpful (or unhelpful) and also the Gospel truths that empower us to make wise, healthy choices.
To learn more about the show and to connect with Matt or Candice, visit https://www.dateology.org/.
Growing up, did you have a dream about marriage? Candice and Matt discuss the various ideas we gather about romance and how they impact our approach to dating. What do we do when our dreams aren't fulfilled? And what does it look like to audaciously hold on to a dream anyway?
To learn more about the show and to connect with Matt or Candice, visit https://www.dateology.org/.
What are the best ways ask someone out, and when is the right time? Candice and Matt discuss their experiences and also some important factors to consider when asking someone out (or saying yes). What might it be like if we all had the courage and freedom to just make the ask?
To learn more about the show and to connect with Matt or Candice, visit https://www.dateology.org/.
What does it mean to pursue someone, and what's it like to be pursued? Candice and Matt share their experiences and thoughts on the kind of power dynamic that the pursuer/pursuee framework creates. Is there a different way that leads to deeper freedom, love, and companionship?
To learn more about the show and to connect with Matt or Candice, visit https://www.dateology.org/.
Glad to have you! Get a glimpse of what the show will be like, topics we'll cover, and learn about the hosts, Candice and Matt.
To learn more about the show and to connect with Matt or Candice, visit https://www.dateology.org/.