The Daughters on Fire Podcast: Recent Episodes
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Today, Melissa and Robyn will discuss boundaries and triggers in the caregiver journey. Listen in as they explore how stress can build up, leading to small issues that ignite larger disagreements, often unrelated to the caregiving experience. Stay curious and investigate what is truly going on beneath the surface.
After a long break, we are back with the podcast! In this episode, you will learn about the events that occurred during our time away and what is currently happening. We have rebranded as The Daughter on Fire. Stay tuned.
Today, we have a guest on our podcast: Ashley Coleman. Listen to our three-part series about her journey.
Today is part three, where Ashley discusses her journey as part of the "sandwich generation" and how she learned to balance caregiving with self-care. Join us as we explore the emotional and practical aspects of being a caregiver and discover critical insights from Ashley's experience.
Welcome back, everybody. It's Melissa Burton with Robyn Arab and our special guest, Ashley Coleman, for part two of Ashley's story. In this episode, Ashley delves deeper into her journey of caring for her mom, who moved into an assisted living facility in March 2022. Ashley shares the challenges and lessons learned, from dealing with staff issues to managing her mom's habits and the transition to memory care. Discover the nuts and bolts of Ashley's experience, including how she handled her mom's smoking, alcohol, and the presence of a beloved pet.
Join us for a special guest, Ashley Coleman, who shares with us her caregiving journey. This is a 3 part series.
In this podcast episode of Daughters on Fire, Melissa Burton and Robin Arab use their experiences and expertise to assist those caring for an aging parent. With the aim of promoting self-care, they discuss the vital importance of looking after one's mental and physical health while being a caregiver.
Discussing their experiences, they reveal how oftentimes, caregivers put their needs on the back burner, to the detriment of their health and their ability to provide care. This episode sheds light on the overlooked issues that run parallel to caregiving, such as chronic pain, sleep deprivation, and menopause, which can severely affect a caregiver's well-being.
With compassion, understanding, and actionable advice for seeking medical help and treating these issues, the duo stresses the need for open conversation about health-related concerns with professionals. Emphasizing that there is no need for caregivers to silently suffer, the duo underscores the importance of self-care as health care, igniting a conversation about breaking the stigma around seeking help for mental and physical health.
Serving as a safe haven for caregivers, the tips, discussions and community offered in this episode can help caregivers lead healthier, less stressful lives while providing the best care possible for their loved ones.
Stressed and burned out from caring for an aging parent? In this podcast episode, Melissa Burton and Robin Arum discuss the challenges and harsh economic realities many adult children face as caregivers. Not only will you receive actionable advice from seasoned professionals, but you'll feel a sense of camaraderie from a community that understands your struggles. You are not alone. Listen in as they provide insights into the effects of today’s economy on caregivers and offer strategies to alleviate some of the financial pressures.
They delve into how increased living costs and staggering caregiving expenses can be burdensome, affecting the quality and accessibility of care for aging parents. This is particularly true for the 'panini generation' – sandwiched between caring for their own children and their elderly parents. As incomes stagnate and expenses rise, many are feeling the financial squeeze more than ever before.
Are there subtle changes you could make to your lifestyle to help curb the financial stress? Melissa and Robin suggest taking steps like downsizing and cancelling unnecessary subscriptions. They highlight the importance of boundaries, especially when dealing with different family dynamics, and explain why they are essential for maintaining balance within the family.
Conversely, they shed light on the possible benefits of multi-generational living. With adult children and grandparents under the same roof contributing physically and financially, everyone might fare better. Of course, some careful planning and clear communication are required to make it work. They leave you pondering on whether it might be time to tap into the financial benefits of multi-generational living, may it be in crisis-driven or a healthier way.
Listen to this podcast episode as we navigate the complexities of becoming an empowered caregiver in today's economy, offering solutions and reassurances that you don't have to face these challenges alone.
Are you feeling overwhelmed and confused as you try to take care of your elderly parent? You are not alone. Welcome to another exciting episode of the Daughters on Fire podcast with Melissa Burton and Robin Arab. This episode focuses on the initial stage of the disease process, often referred to as the 'Twilight Zone'. We cautiously tread the difficult path that leads to a diagnosis and address the psychological hurdles faced by you and your loved ones in these initial stages.
Listen in as we delve into the weird, unexplainable signs that indicate the early stages of a memory-related disease. We also discuss how this phase often passes unnoticed, as the symptoms are usually written off as common age-related issues. This stage is even more challenging because you might not even realize you're already in it! However, awareness and understanding of these early signs can pave the way for compassion and better adaptation strategies.
An essential part of our discussion focuses on why observing rather than acting at this stage is crucial. Efforts to push the diagnosed individual to physicians may often lead to denial, further complicating the situation. We argue for a careful balance of observation and informed action to efficiently and sensitively navigate this stage. This episode is sure to help you make sense of these confusing times and allow you to provide optimum care amidst the uncertainty.
Interestingly, we conclude the discussion on an unrelated yet surprisingly relevant note.
In this enlightening episode, Melissa Burton and Robyn Arab discuss the importance of self-care for those caring for aging parents. They urge their listeners to prioritize their own health and wellbeing, stressing that you can't pour from an empty cup. The episode explores health issues that often coincide with the stress of caregiving, such as menopause, chronic pain, and sleep deprivation, and strongly encourages seeking professional help when needed.
Discussing their experiences with issues like hot flashes and menopause, they empathize with their audience. Drawing from personal encounters, they emphasize the necessity of seeking answers before health issues exacerbate. They also explore how life-changing simple solutions can turn out to be when it comes to self-care, with real-life examples explaining how attending to health needs can eliminate unnecessary suffering and effectively enhance caregiving capabilities.
The enlightening discussion outlines why women don't have to "suffer" through health problems like menopause. It brings to light how health issues can significantly impact your ability to care for others and your long-term health outcomes. The episode emphasizes that your health is worth it, and promoting personal health will inadvertently create a better environment for everyone around you.
Melissa and Robyn invite you to join them on this enlightening journey and remind you, amidst your battles as a caregiver, to never forget that your healthcare matters as much.
Today Melissa and Robyn talk about how we all want to make it the "perfect" holiday for our loved ones because it may be their last holiday with us. Are we really doing it for them or are we doing it for ourselves?
Today, Melissa and Robyn talk about the known. Many of our clients want to know the signs or information on how long caregiving will last. Will they decline? Will they go fast? Will they linger? Listen in and hear what they have to say.
Today, Melissa and Robyn discuss how hard caregiving can be, and we often get lost in the seriousness of it all. Today's reminder is to remember to go out and enjoy life.
Today, Melissa and Robyn discuss when to give it to the experts. Every journey has a time when you may not know all the answers. It is okay to reach out and ask an expert. We talk about four possible situations in which you may need to ask for help.
Caregivers are often called upon to make hard decisions during the caregiving journey. They can often suffer from guilt and trauma regarding the decisions they have made. Robyn and Melissa discuss some tools to work through some of these situations.
Today Melissa and Robyn talk about the ins and outs of admitting your loved ones into a mental health hospital for an evaluation.
In this episode, Melissa and Robyn talk about the importance of joining a support group.
Today Robyn and Melissa talked about how technology plays a part in your caregiving journey.
Today Melissa and Robyn talked about caring for the Caregiver. Taking care of yourself while caring for your loved one.
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In this episode, Robyn and Melissa go over some financial issues to be aware of as you age as well as some tips to keep you ready for the journey ahead.
For more information about the podcast, and caregiving resources, or to connect with Robyn visit:
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For counseling support in Tennessee, you can find Melissa at:
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In this week's episode, Melissa updates us on her dad's health journey with essential takeaways for other caregivers. Find out the impact of your insurance decisions and how to evaluate your choices to be prepared in a crisis.
For more information about the podcast, and caregiving resources, or to connect with Robyn visit:
www.yourcaregiverjourney.com
For counseling support in Tennessee, you can find Melissa at:
www.connectionfirstcounseling.com
In this week's episode, Melissa shares her experience as a caregiver dealing with her father's recent healthcare crisis. From the late-night wake-up call to dealing with the ER on a holiday weekend, find out how she navigated the frustrations and pitfalls along the way.
For more information about the podcast, and caregiving resources, or to connect with Robyn visit:
www.yourcaregiverjourney.com
For counseling support in Tennessee, you can find Melissa at:
www.connectionfirstcounseling.com
Has your loved one recently moved to a memory care facility and you are confused about how to navigate the holidays this year? In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about the considerations to be mindful of when celebrating the holidays in these situations.
For more information about the podcast, and caregiving resources, or to connect with Robyn visit:
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For counseling support in Tennessee, you can find Melissa at:
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In this episode, Robyn and Melissa discuss coping with your loved one's love life. As caregivers, navigating the complications related to your loved-one dating can be tricky. We will explore the emotions that come up and share tips on how to blend compassion and healthy advocating.
For more information about the podcast, and caregiving resources, or to connect with Robyn visit:
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For counseling support in Tennessee, you can find Melissa at:
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Have you noticed that your loved one is not as savvy or competent with money as they used to be? Have they been ripped off by a scammer or charged too much due to lack of attention? This can be a tough wake-up call that indicates you need to be paying closer attention to their care needs. Join Robyn and Melissa as they discuss this common but distressing realization.
For more information about the podcast, and caregiving resources, or to connect with Robyn visit:
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For counseling support in Tennessee, you can find Melissa at:
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa discuss a complicated family dynamic involving finances and boundaries. What do you do when an entitled family member takes advantage of their parent's generosity? This discouraging dilemma is more common than you might think. Listen now to get great tips on how to navigate this sticky situation.
For more information about the podcast, caregiving resources, or to connect with Robyn visit:
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For counseling support in Tennessee, you can find Melissa at:
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa discuss the financial missteps aging loved ones can make when they try to be generous to others. They may be putting their care needs and resources in jeopardy. In addition, caregivers need to be mindful that they too aren't jeopardizing their financial future caring for a loved one.
For more information about the podcast or for caregiving resources visit:
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For counseling support in Tennessee, you can find Melissa at:
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Robyn and Melissa return with more great insight and support for caregivers. This week they discuss the toll caregiving can take on your marriage and how to safeguard your relationship from any negative fallout.
For more information about the podcast or for caregiving resources visit:
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa discuss some scary situations that can arise when caring for someone with dementia. What happens when your loved one doesn't recognize you and is fearful? How do you handle angry or paranoid outbursts? Listen now to find out tips and insight around these complicated and sometimes scary situations.
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa tackle the maddening aspects of Showtiming! What is showtiming? It is what happens when your loved one with dementia presents to doctors as perfectly intact and healthy. It can be so frustrating, unproductive, and downright crazy-making. You think you know things at home are dysfunctional, but this put-together gem sitting in front of you and the doctor makes you question yourself. How can you anticipate this situation and troubleshoot it? Listen now to learn more about how to navigate around showtiming.
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about the importance of advocating for your loved one in healthcare settings. This might be an obvious statement, but knowing where to turn and when to speak up can be confusing. Listen now to find out the resources and tips on how to speak up for yourself and your loved one.
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about issues that arise with swallowing as Alzheimer's disease progresses. Changes in eating and drinking are normal as your loved one declines. What should you look for, and when should you reach out for help? Listen now as we explore these issues.
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa dive into the emotions that accompany aging and caregiving. Are you dealing with a moody parent? Are you a moody caregiver? How can you help, and when do you ask for help? We will walk you through the emotions of aging and when it is appropriate to cheer up or when it is better just to show up.
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa explore the tendency to revert back to our old childhood dynamics when we get together with our family. We may look like grounded and mature adults, but sometimes all of that goes out the window when we are around our loved ones. When this happens it can throw a wrench in the caregiving process. So, is this normal, and is there a way to manage this tendency in a healthy way? Join us now to learn insight and tips on navigating this caregiving dynamic.
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about caregivers going on vacation. This is a necessary time to unwind and recuperate from the difficult job of caregiving. But what happens if there is an emergency with your loved one back home? Should you be notified, do you come home early, or are you completely unplugged and incommunicado? Navigating these considerations and having specific and open conversations with the caregivers left in charge is a critical step in planning your next trip away from home. Listen now to find out more.
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about the common feeling of confusion amongst dementia caregivers. On the journey of dementia, caregivers are often the ones who feel lost and dumbfounded by the weird interactions with their loved ones. How do you know when to trust yourself and when to trust your loved one? It is not easy, and it is often a very fluid process. Join us as we explore this frustrating phenomenon.
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa dive into money matters. As your loved one declines, managing their own bills can become burdensome. This can be the first and best way to start assisting them as a caregiver. In this episode we explore what that might look like and tips on how to navigate this stage of the caregiving collaboration.
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa dive into the frustrating feelings that go along with the unanswered questions on your journey. You know, those circular conversations with your loved one with dementia. No matter how or how many times you ask them they just can't give you any answers. And, on a more critical level, sometimes even the professionals and experts don't have the answers you are looking for. Listen now to discover how to deal with this normal and irritating conundrum?
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa tackle the emotional logistics around adjusting to celebrations. As your loved one declines, large gatherings and celebrations can become burdensome for both of you. How do you deal with the changes, and how do you deal with the grief that comes from saying goodbye to traditions? It's not easy, but Robyn and Melissa have some ideas and suggestions on how to approach the summer festivities with a new perspective.
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about how fear and anxiety at the beginning of caregiving can lead to anticipatory dread. We can often get caught up in the overwhelming "what if" thoughts about the journey ahead. How can you avoid this dreadful state and learn to take caregiving one day at a time? Listen now to hear some powerful tips on how to ease your fear and anxiety as you begin your caregiving journey.
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In this episode, Robyn and Melissa reflect on how caregiving changes the relationship dynamics with our parents. Often this may feel like we are becoming our parent's parent. While the responsibilities feel like a role reversal, your parents will always be your parents. How do we honor and respect our parents while we balance taking on the responsibility for their care? Join us on this week's episode as we discuss the nuances of this complicated dynamic.
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In This week's episode, Melissa and Robyn talk about creating balance with expectations and visits with your loved one. Oftentimes during a crisis, around the clock attention becomes necessary, but once life settles back down we don't always readjust our focused attention. Is it time to evaluate your visits and responsibilities now that the caregiving crisis has calmed? Listen now to look inside this complicated caregiving dynamic.
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In this week's episode, Melissa and Robyn explore how to ask for help on your caregiving journey. We will dive into the strategies, mindset, and resources out there that make asking for and receiving help easier.
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In this week's episode, Melissa and Robyn talk about how to say "no" to all of the extra requests and responsibilities that bog you down on your caregiving journey. We all know setting healthy boundaries is necessary, but it can be hard to figure out the best ways to say "no" and set limits. Listen now for the strong, diplomatic, and strategic ways you can confidently say "no."
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In this week's episode, Melissa and Robyn round out their series on time management with some practical and mindset tips. These simple but useful tips can save you time and headaches as you manage your caregiving journey. If you are interested in learning more about time management tendencies be sure to check out episodes 59-61.
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In this week's episode, Melissa and Robyn wrap up their series on time management styles. Today we explore the tendencies of the "Analysis Paralysis" and "Second Guesser" types. As we have mentioned, these styles are not good or bad. They are just our unique way of engaging with the world around us. Each of them has strengths and weaknesses. So today you will learn tips on how to manage these two styles and how to identify and work with them on your caregiving team.
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa continue their deep dive into different time management tendencies and how the "McBossy" and "List Maker" styles operate. As we mentioned last week, these styles are not good or bad. They are just our unique way of engaging with the world around us. Each of them has strengths and weaknesses. So today you will learn tips on how to manage these two styles and how to identify and work with them on your caregiving team.
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In this week's episode, Melissa and Robyn launch a three-part series unpacking different time management approaches. These styles or tendencies are not good or bad. They are just our unique way of engaging with the world around us. Each one of them has strengths and weaknesses. Over the next three weeks, we will look at how six different types of time management tendencies affect caregiving. Learn tips on how to manage your own style and how to identify and work with the opposite styles of your caregiving team.
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The Daughters on Fire team has been hard at work developing more courses and tools to help empower caregivers. So while we are away for another week we want to bring you one more popular encore episode. We will be back with you next week with brand new episodes in our Time Management series.
In today's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about how to evaluate home safety for your loved one. From fall risks and fire safety to medication management, find out how your loved one can safely navigate staying at home longer with easy-to-implement tips and suggestions.
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In this week's episode, we bring you an encore of a fan-favorite episode with Christine Finnegan. Christine is a music therapist turned mental health counselor and private practice owner. She serves young women at her practice in Nashville called Replenish Her. She has also worked in the past with aging adults in multiple areas of mental health from Alzheimer's disease to depression. Christine talks to us today about the power of music and how it can be used as a tool to help calm us down during times of stress and anxiety.
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about the embarrassing but common problem of age-related incontinence. If you are taking care of your loved one on the go you may have to deal with bladder or even bowel accidents. It may sound scary and gross, but you can deal with it if you are prepared. In this episode, we will give you tips and tricks that will help you manage and maybe even avoid accidents on the go.
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about how to cope with the frustration around having a clingy loved one. Whether it's anxiety or confusion, being the only person that can calm or distract your loved one can be exhausting. It may feel flattering that you are their security blanket, but that can soon turn to you feeling overwhelmed. Listen now to learn how you can change that dynamic.
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa discuss a situation involving a declining patient that was sent to the hospital to treat a health crisis. Was this the best intervention for quality of life? Were there other options available that would have been better? Join us as we peel through the layers of this complicated yet common healthcare dilemma.
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about saying goodbye. It is an unfortunate but ultimate ending for all of us on our caregiving journey. Sometimes we experience waves of grief on the long declining path, but it doesn't take away the heartbreak when our loved one passes beyond our caring reach. Join us as we explore the pain and sorrow that comes when our loved one passes away.
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about how to be prepared for an emergency as a caregiver. With the turbulent Spring months ahead it is good to have a bad weather plan in place. You have probably thought this through a thousand times before, but have you considered what to do as a caregiver? How is your loved-one protected? Are they a part of your safety plan now that they can't take that responsibility on by themselves? Join Robyn and Melissa as they talk through these considerations and tips for getting ahead of an emergency.
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about the difference between time and energy. Have you ever spent hours doing something you loved and completely lost track of time? Or on the flip side, has a ten-minute chore you hated consumed your thoughts with dread? These are some examples of the difference between time and energy. Join Melissa and Robyn as they explain why knowing the difference can make all the difference as you build your caregiving team around you.
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa have an honest conversation about the thoughts we struggle with as caregivers. There is an ugly side of caregiving that most of us feel embarrassed to talk about. So, we feel it is time to normalize this experience and bring the shame out of the darkness. As Brené Brown likes to say, shame can not live in the light. Join us as we destigmatize those darker thoughts of caregiving and bring them into the light.
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa take a look back at year one of Daughters on Fire. It has been a very exciting time for the podcast even in the midst of a hard and unpredictable year. Through all the ups and downs this new podcast and community have been dedicated to supporting the caregiving journey to make it just a little easier to navigate. We are proud of how far we have come, and we are also excited to talk about where we are going in 2021.
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In this week's episode, we wrap up our Holiday Encore Series with a favorite throwback episode. Melissa and Robyn have a candid conversation about the tendency for many of us to become people pleasers. This comes from an innocent place of wanting to be liked and get along, but it can get in the way of healthy confrontation. People pleasing can impede your ability to advocate for your loved one and advocate for yourself. Caregiving is hard work and healthy confrontation is required to get the best outcomes possible. Listen now to hear how Melissa and Robyn have navigated this tough topic and tips to implement on your own journey.
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In this week's episode, we present an encore presentation of Robyn's favorite episode. Can lying be a good thing? Melissa and Robyn explore the concept of therapeutic lying. Is lying always bad? Are there times when lying or protecting your loved one's dignity becomes more important than the truth? Listen now to see how you can navigate the pros and cons of therapeutic lying.
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about how isolation can take a toll on caregivers and our loved ones during the holidays. Yes, this year we are feeling the impact of physical separation, but there is also the painful impact of emotional isolation. This is when you feel disconnected from shared experiences, beliefs, and priorities. Join Melissa and Robyn as they explore what it feels like when you don't feel like you are on the same page with your friends and family during difficult times.
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about the importance of sleep for caregivers. Often times caregivers (especially women) put sleep on the back burner in order to power through the mountain of responsibilities on their shoulders. This habit can backfire on your health and on your ability to take care of those same responsibilities. Join Robyn and Melissa as they put a new spin on sleep and give you tips on getting those much needed zzz's.
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa discuss what it feels like, and how to manage, when you find yourself sick in the middle of caregiving. This very stressful situation can take a toll, both physically and emotionally. Find out what this can look like and how to be mindful if it is happening to your parents. Often older adults find themselves dealing with chronic issues and an ailing spouse. There are many complicated nuances to this topic and Melissa and Robyn dive right into this meaty conversation.
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about decorating for the holidays. What will that look like for your family? Are you going to pare down or go all out? Are you grappling with how to balance caregiving, decorating, and Covid stress? This year looks different for everyone, but caregivers have an added layer of preparing for the holidays and keeping the safety of their fragile loved-one in mind. Safety with from both Covid and decorating hazards. Join Robyn and Melissa as they provide tips and ideas on how to make this season festive and safe for everyone.
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa have some very exciting news and a special gift to share with you. In addition to this big surprise, they want to spread some holiday cheer with fond memories and funny stories from seasons past. This is a weird and difficult time for all of us in 2020, and for caregivers, it is doubly hard. So, let's take a moment to think about the joy of the past and create hope for the future.
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa tackle the complicated discussion around Thanksgiving and coronavirus. Caregiving is hard enough and when you add the virus to the mix, who knows what to expect! We are all dealing with the uncertainty of the season and longing for family connection, but it looks like surging virus numbers and tightening restrictions could jeopardize Thanksgiving Day plans. Join Robyn and Melissa as they talk about how to deal with the pain and uncertainty of this confusing holiday season.
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In today's episode, Robyn and Melissa tackle an often overlooked aspect of relationship building - our own trustworthiness. Sometimes we can get singularly focused on an objective or opinion and forget that we are dealing with humans who have feelings and their own perspectives. It is crucial to remember that as we build the best care team for our loved-ones, relationships matter. Join Melissa and Robyn as they navigate what trust-building looks like from the other side.
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about how caregivers often are their own biggest stressor. It's an uncomfortable truth, but necessary to face. We often get in our way when we lose focus on our caregiving goals. But don't worry, if you are the problem you are also the solution. Join Robyn and Melissa as they share their own experiences and tips on how to get out of your own way and become an empowered caregiver.
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa discuss insider tips on how to pick the best facility for your loved one. Hear Melissa's Fish Tank Rule and other tips the gals have learned from decades of working in and around facilities. Have you ever wanted to know how industry professionals evaluate facilities? Well now is your chance. Learn how to see beyond the enticing sales brochure and pick the best fit for your loved one!
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about the sticker shock of aging. If you haven't taken the opportunity ahead of time to prepare for the cost of senior care the cost can feel like a slap in the face. It is not cheap, this much is true. BUT, the good news is it can be manageable. Melissa and Robyn will break down the different costs involved and give you tips on how to be strategic in getting the biggest bang for your buck.
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa update you on the regulation and mandate changes related to COVID 19 and senior living communities. It has been a very long and difficult 6 months for our older, vulnerable population. In an abundance of caution, senior living communities have placed strict limitations on visitors and outings. This has taken a severe toll on our seniors and their families. In some cases, the precautions have proven more devastating than the virus. Finally, with policy leaders listening and improvements on the virus front, restrictions are beginning to ease. Visitation in these communities is opening up. Robyn and Melissa will walk you through these changes in Tennessee and give you tips on how to make sure you and your loved ones are benefiting from these changes.
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about the difference between venting and complaining. We have all been stressed out, overwhelmed, and even downright over it when it comes to caregiving. In those tough times, it helps to reach out to a supportive ear, whether that is family or friends. However, those sessions of healthy venting can sometimes turn toxic and become unproductive complaining. So, how do you know the difference and stay focused on the healthier track? Find out as Melissa and Robyn dive deep on how to navigate these emotional land mines.
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about the taboo topic of sex and the elderly. No use is avoiding these issues, because our loved ones want and still need intimacy in their lives as they age. How can we as caregivers be prepared to handle the issues around intimacy? Robyn and Melissa explore how you can lovingly protect your loved ones from harm and preserve their right and need for intimate connection at the same time. Yes, this can get awkward and a little embarrassing, but being prepared to deal with it is a necessary responsibility of a caregiver. So, let's tackle this issue together...
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In today's episode, Melissa and Robyn tackle the tough conversation around how to move your loved one to a memory care facility. The dreaded day has arrived and now you are scared to death that it will all blow up in your face and your loved one will be bitter and angry with you not to mention your family. Sound about right? Don't worry it doesn't have to go down like this. Robyn and Melissa have walked hundreds of families through this process and they will share their tips and tricks for making this a more peaceful transition.
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In this week's episode, Melissa interviews Kelsey Williams from the Middle Tennessee Alzheimer's Association. Kelsey shares her knowledge and experience supporting caregivers on their journey through the ups and downs of Alzheimer's disease. From support groups to fundraising and advocacy, there are many ways the Alzheimer's Association is stepping up to provide care and services to those families in need.
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In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa tackle another tough conversation. Literally, they are talking about how to cope when the going gets tough. Melissa and Robyn find themselves in two different places on the caregiving journey, and they dive into a personal conversation about their experiences. If you are in the middle of caregiving and are wondering what is ahead, or how you are going to make it through, tune in now to get sage advice and compassion from someone who has been on this road before.
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In today's episode, Melissa and Robyn talk about driving concerns with our loved ones. This touchy subject is a common problem when our loved ones lose their mental and physical abilities to drive safely. All too often they do not make the decision to stop driving on their own and interventions from caregivers are necessary for their safety and the safety of the community. How do you intervene and preserve dignity and connection? Listen now to get great tips and insight.
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In this week's episode, Melissa interviews Kayse Martin with the Council on Aging of Middle Tennessee. Kayse's career spans many decades of work in the world of geriatrics and aging. In her current role, she has been collaborating with employers and human resource departments. In this role, she has seen and heard first hand how caregiving is impacting companies and what proactive steps they are starting to take to meet the needs of working caregivers. It is an interesting deep dive into one perspective on the future of caregiving and employment.
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In this week's episode, Melissa and Robyn have a candid conversation about the tendency for many of us to become people pleasers. This comes from an innocent place of wanting to be liked and get along, but it can get in the way of healthy confrontation. People pleasing can impede your ability to advocate for your loved one and advocate for yourself. Caregiving is hard work and healthy confrontation is required to get the best outcomes possible. Listen now to hear how Melissa and Robyn have navigated this tough topic and tips to implement on your own journey.
In this week's episode, Melissa and Robyn explore the concept of therapeutic lying. Is lying always bad? Are there times when lying or protecting your loved one's dignity becomes more important than the truth? Listen now to see how you can navigate the pros and cons of therapeutic lying. You can also join us on Facebook to continue the conversation.
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In today's episode, Melissa interviews Christine Finnegan. Christine is a music therapist turned mental health counselor and private practice owner. She serves young women at her practice in Nashville called Replenish Her. She has also worked in the past with aging adults in multiple areas of mental health from Alzheimer's disease to depression. Christine talks to us today about the power of music and how it can be used as a tool to help calm us down during times of stress and anxiety.
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In this week's episode, Melissa and Robyn talk about how exposure to heat in these hot summer months can pose a serious danger to the elderly. There are some unexpected risk factors that caregivers need to be aware of as your aging loved one soaks up the sun this summer. We will also offer tips on how to avoid the dangers.
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In today's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about how to evaluate home safety for your loved one. From fall risks and fire safety to medication management, find out how your loved one can safely navigate staying at home longer with easy to implement tips and suggestions.
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In this week's episode, Melissa interviews Bethany Thomson, a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist (a real-deal food and nutrition expert) with extensive education and training in nutrition and wellness and a background in clinical dietetics. Bethany is going to dive deep into how we can combat insomnia. Many caregivers suffer from insomnia but think that it is just par for the course without much to do about it. It turns out that insomnia is very dangerous to our health and there are simple steps we can take to improve our sleep. What is even better is that these steps can improve our sleep and the sleep of our loved-ones we are caring for.
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This time of year often brings trips home to see mom and dad. As they age you may find each trip uncovers changes in how they are managing their lives and their home. In this episode, Robyn and Melissa discuss the red flags to look for when someone is starting to struggle with living independently. You will also get tips on how to be a detective and how to know when it is time to intervene.
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In this episode, Melissa interviews Laurel Burton on her relatable and inspiring caregiver journey. Often caregiving can feel like a lonely and overwhelming experience. So, Daughters on Fire wants to bring you our new segment, Stories of Strength, to introduce you to other caregivers who are also on this difficult journey. We will learn, laugh, cry, inspire, and support each other as we share in this experience of caregiving.
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In today's episode, Robyn and Melissa celebrate Father's Day with a special tribute episode. Today is the day to reminisce and honor the men in our lives who have shaped who we are today. We will also be discussing what it looks like when you become the caregiver for your dad. How can you navigate this sometimes complicated dynamic and role reversal?
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In today's episode, Melissa and Robyn talk about aging and lost friendships. Losing friends as you age is normal. Whether it's due to a move, decline, or death, losing friends is hard. It can be further complicated when dementia tears apart a friendship and the hobbies and routines you share. In today's episode, we will explore this issue and provide tips on how you as a caregiver can navigate this difficult scenario.
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In today's episode we welcome back Be Well Mel and she dives deep on the power of journaling. You might be thinking journaling is just one more item on your to-do list, but it doesn't have to be that hard. In fact, journaling can actually bring you stress relief and clarity. Listen now to find out how you can incorporate this tool into your life in a transformative way.
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In this week's episode, Melissa Burton interviews octogenarian James Vandiver in a 2 part series on caregiving topics including aging, gender, and the future of caregiving. Born and raised in Nashville, James has many connections and influences in our communities. Although retired, he continues to serve families on their caregiving journeys. James has worked with Resource Center on Aging, been a Sage Award recipient, and contributed to healthcare legislation as it impacts older adults. We are excited to share with you the powerful insight James has learned over his life in both the personal and professional realm.
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In this week's episode, Melissa Burton interviews octogenarian James Vandiver in a 2 part series on caregiving topics including aging, gender, and the future of caregiving. Born and raised in Nashville, James has many connections and influences in our communities. Although retired, he continues to serve families on their caregiving journeys. James has worked with Resource Center on Aging, been a Sage Award recipient, and contributed to healthcare legislation as it impacts older adults. We are excited to share with you the powerful insight James has learned over his life in both the personal and professional realm.
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In today's episode of Daughters on Fire, Melissa and Robyn explore the tricky process of taking a vacation as a caregiver. Sometimes caregivers forego this much-needed break because the planning and implementing seem like a big hassle. The problem is, caregiving without a break can lead to burnout and potentially even health problems. Melissa and Robyn talk about both the obstacles and opportunities that go along with vacations and respite.
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In today's episode, Robyn and Melissa explore how dementia can impact holidays and celebrations. When your loved-one forgets the precious milestones you shared together like anniversaries, birthdays, and special occasions it can feel devastating. How do you cope with your emotions and navigate the logistical issues that arise when dementia crashes the party? Listen now to find get some important insight and tips on managing this difficult situation.
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Melissa Burton welcomes back Jodi Jackson, RN, and president of LifeLinks Care Management. This time Jodi and Melissa talk about how COVID 19 is completely disrupting how families and facilities are caring for our frail and aging loved-ones. How has the industry adapted to our new norms? Are these changes temporary, or are we seeing a complete shift in the way care is and will continue to be provided? These questions and more addressed in this week's episode.
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On this special Mother's Day tribute, Melissa and Robyn share fond memories of their mothers and talk about the amazing role mom's play in our lives. As caregivers, we often find ourselves in the reverse role of taking care of our parents. Today, we want to remind you to look back on the amazing job your mom did raising you to become the powerful and compassionate caregiver you are today.
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On today's episode, Melissa Burton interviews senior resource consultant and guru Sheila Uselton. Sheila has a unique career that includes music, speaking, and teaching to young children and senior adults alike. She expanded her career to include senior living transitions which gave her a voice to express the struggles that she and her siblings experienced with their mother’s Alzheimer’s disease. Her insight and understanding have helped many families as they face the daily challenges of this journey in eldercare and aging.
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In today's episode, Melissa and Robyn explore the sometimes difficult issues around caring for someone who is mean to you. Is this normal? Is it personal? And most importantly, how can you navigate around it without making it worse?
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In today's episode of Daughters on Fire, Melissa shares some heartfelt insight on how can you live well and cultivate a mindset that benefits you not only as a caregiver but personally as well. It is simple but not easy. Listen now to learn how you can start to become more grounded and empowered.
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In this episode, Melissa Burton and Robyn Arab answer the question: Is it normal that our loved one acts perfectly normal around friends and healthcare providers when WE know something is NOT right?
Katherine Phifer from the Happy Love Project and podcast joins Melissa Burton to discuss love in a crisis. Caregiving can cause stress and disruption that ripples throughout your life, and sometimes what we love can get pushed to the back burner. Unfortunately, for our relationships, this can lead to resentment and possible rejection. Katherine shares some tips on how to avoid this relationship pitfall.
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COVID 19 is still disrupting our lives and forcing us into crisis management, but for caregivers, crisis management is nothing new. Robyn and Melissa share tips on how to navigate a crisis, and how to use this crazy time as a reminder to be better prepared for a future crisis.
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COVID 19 is shutting down the world and causing anxiety for all. Be Well Mel shares her own experience with the virus fallout and gives us a simple strategy on how to handle our collective anxiety right now.
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Jodi Jackson, RN and president of LifeLinks Care Management and Advocacy talks to us about how facilities are managing this COVID 19, and she offers tips on how families can advocate from afar.
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In today's episode you will meet certified holistic nutrition coach and yoga teacher Melissa Mooney Lopez otherwise known as Be Well Mel. Learn more about Mel's background and caregiving story that includes balancing many different roles including parenting, running a business and caring for a parent. We will also learn more about the symptoms of a Daughter on Fire and Mel gives us tips and steps we can take to ease our stress specifically the power of consistency. www.daughtersonfire.com www.bewellmel.com
Go on a deep dive with Robyn Arab, Social Worker, resource guru, and caregiving expert. Robyn will share her story of caregiving for her mom, and we will discuss tips and takeaways for your own caregiving journey.
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Caregiving is hard enough! Balancing caregiving with ALL of your other responsibilities can feel downright impossible! But it is not impossible, and there can be a better way.
Go from feeling burned out and burned up to calm and empowered. Join other caregiving warriors and heroes in a community of support and solutions. Learn inside tips to navigating healthcare & relationships, what to expect and prepare for, where to find support and love, and most importantly how to prioritize your own needs in order to sustain the journey ahead.
Together we will laugh, cry, inform and empower you to best caregiver you can be.
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