The Boundaries.me Podcast: Recent Episodes
Dr. Henry Cloud
Dr. Henry Cloud's Boundaries.me podcast features inspiring stories about the benefits to your relationships, mental health, productivity and wellbeing that come when you implement healthy boundaries.
Dr. Cloud explores emotional regulation and the skill of "right-sizing" your responses to life events - learning when you're overreacting to minor problems or minimizing serious issues. He answers a written question about dealing with a narcissistic sister who escalates and spreads lies when ignored, then takes calls from a single father rebuilding after leaving ministry and facing unemployment, and a woman questioning whether to marry her fiancé after discovering he lied about contact with an ex-girlfriend. Dr. Cloud provides practical advice on building life structure during transitions and evaluating trustworthiness through behavior patterns rather than promises.
Relationships shouldn't leave you feeling anxious or exhausted. If you've struggled to deal with someone else’s toxic behaviors, Dr. Henry Cloud wants to help you find clarity and healing. Dr. Cloud’s free resource, "10 Strategies for Dealing with Toxic People," offers practical, compassionate guidance on recognizing unsafe people, handling manipulative behaviors, and setting firm, loving boundaries.
You deserve kindness and respect. Take the first step toward healthier relationships today at www.boundaries.me/free
Dr. Henry Cloud explores the critical role of attention in achieving life goals. He breaks down how executive functions of the brain—including attending to what's relevant, inhibiting distractions, and maintaining working memory—affect our ability to accomplish tasks ranging from daily errands to relationship repair. Dr. Cloud discusses how modern technology constantly competes for our limited attention and offers practical strategies for maintaining focus on priorities. The episode transitions to examining the concept of "enough" in various aspects of life, questioning how to determine sufficiency in areas like relationships, purpose, and material possessions. In the call-in segment, Dr. Cloud addresses a listener processing multiple traumatic life events and another navigating boundaries with family members who resist change. Throughout, he emphasizes the importance of intentional choices about where we direct our attention and how we protect our boundaries.
You deserve relationships that lift you up, not wear you down. If you're feeling exhausted by toxic people or unsure how to handle difficult behaviors, Dr. Henry Cloud is here to help. His free guide, "10 Strategies for Dealing with Toxic People," will show you how to recognize harmful behaviors like gaslighting and narcissism, how to confidently set boundaries, and how to finally take back your peace.
You're not alone—and things can get better. Download your free copy now at www.boundaries.me/free
In this episode of the show, Dr. Henry Cloud discusses the importance of developing a curious mindset rather than a critical one. He explains how snap judgments and rigid thinking limit our options and relationships, while seeking to understand others creates better connections. The episode includes a write-in question about anxiety that arises when experiencing happiness, with Dr. Cloud explaining how past experiences can create vigilance patterns in our brain's wiring. Callers ask questions about friendship insecurity, concerns about a daughter's fiancé, and dating someone who's recently divorced. Dr. Cloud provides advice on handling complex relationship dynamics and emphasizes the value of curiosity in resolving conflicts.
Are toxic relationships draining your energy and stealing your joy? You're not alone, and you don't have to keep feeling stuck. Dr. Henry Cloud has helped millions of people reclaim their peace by setting healthy boundaries. Dr. Cloud’s free guide, "10 Strategies for Dealing with Toxic People," teaches you how to spot harmful behaviors like gaslighting, effectively handle narcissists, and say "no" without guilt.
It's time to feel safe again. Download your free copy at www.boundaries.me/free
In this episode, Dr. Henry Cloud presents a systematic approach to identifying anxiety sources through targeted self-reflection questions originally developed for a CEO client. Dr. Cloud's detailed framework of questions is designed to help listeners pinpoint specific triggers of anxiety, including external stressors, relationship dynamics, internal pressures, and unresolved trauma. Dr. Cloud also addresses a write-in question about "rebooting life" after leaving a toxic relationship, offering strategies for building supportive community, creating beneficial structure, evaluating past patterns, and developing healing practices. The call-in portion features discussions about establishing boundaries with demanding family members and finding effective couples therapy for attachment and trauma issues in marriage. Throughout the program, Dr. Cloud provides practical guidance on anxiety management, boundary setting, and relationship repair techniques accessible to listeners facing similar challenges in their own lives.
You deserve relationships that lift you up, not wear you down. If you're feeling exhausted by toxic people or unsure how to handle difficult behaviors, Dr. Henry Cloud is here to help. His free guide, "10 Strategies for Dealing with Toxic People," will show you how to recognize harmful behaviors like gaslighting and narcissism, how to confidently set boundaries, and how to finally take back your peace.
You're not alone—and things can get better. Download your free copy now at www.boundaries.me/free
In this episode, Dr. Henry Cloud explores the concept of balance in life, focusing on the relationship between our relational and performance sides. He explains how integrity means being whole and integrated in both areas, using the metaphor of a boat's wake to help listeners evaluate their life patterns. Throughout the episode, Dr. Cloud provides practical ways to assess life balance, shares strategies for identifying narcissistic behavior, and offers advice on dealing with criticism and perfectionism. The episode includes call-in segments where Dr. Cloud helps listeners who are struggling with perfectionism in their creative pursuits and setting effective boundaries with difficult family members.
Are toxic relationships draining your energy and stealing your joy? You're not alone, and you don't have to keep feeling stuck. Dr. Henry Cloud has helped millions of people reclaim their peace by setting healthy boundaries. Dr. Cloud’s free guide, "10 Strategies for Dealing with Toxic People," teaches you how to spot harmful behaviors like gaslighting, effectively handle narcissists, and say "no" without guilt.
It's time to feel safe again. Download your free copy at www.boundaries.me/free
In this episode of the Dr. Cloud Show, Dr. Henry Cloud examines harmful parenting language patterns that may go unnoticed. He explains why phrases like "you need to" undermine children's autonomy and offers practical alternatives that help children develop their own sense of responsibility. Dr. Cloud also discusses the concept of "chunking" as a time management strategy - combining multiple activities to maximize efficiency in daily life. The show includes call-in segments where listeners receive guidance on setting boundaries with difficult family members and managing anxiety in professional settings, with practical advice for navigating complex personal challenges.
Are toxic relationships draining your energy and stealing your joy? You're not alone, and you don't have to keep feeling stuck. Dr. Henry Cloud has helped millions of people reclaim their peace by setting healthy boundaries. Dr. Cloud’s free guide, "10 Strategies for Dealing with Toxic People," teaches you how to spot harmful behaviors like gaslighting, effectively handle narcissists, and say "no" without guilt.
It's time to feel safe again. Download your free copy at www.boundaries.me/free
In a deeply personal episode, Dr. Henry Cloud reads a letter he wrote to his daughter when she turned twelve, revealing key markers of growing maturity that apply to adults of all ages. Through his letter, Dr. Cloud explores how becoming an adult involves learning to be your own source, guardian, and manager—vital skills many still struggle with decades later. Later, listeners call in with questions about overcoming fear of judgment, career anxiety, and finding courage to pursue new paths. Dr. Cloud guides callers through facing their 'boogeymen' and taking small, manageable steps toward growth and healing.
You deserve relationships that lift you up, not wear you down. If you're feeling exhausted by toxic people or unsure how to handle difficult behaviors, Dr. Henry Cloud is here to help. His free guide, "10 Strategies for Dealing with Toxic People," will show you how to recognize harmful behaviors like gaslighting and narcissism, how to confidently set boundaries, and how to finally take back your peace.
You're not alone—and things can get better. Download your free copy now at www.boundaries.me/free
In this episode Dr. Henry Cloud explores the mindset shift needed to navigate life's inevitable challenges. Beginning with the biblical principle that "in this world you have tribulation," Dr. Cloud examines how accepting reality—rather than fighting against it—makes us more resilient when facing difficulties.
The show also includes conversations with callers facing significant life transitions. Vanessa grapples with leaving a teaching job she once thought would be her forever career after contract disagreements. Rita discusses forgiveness. Having forgiven her brother's murderer she is now struggling to forgive friends for a seemingly smaller offense. They rejected her relationship with her husband due to small religious differences.
Dr. Cloud provides practical guidance on building support systems beyond workplace relationships, addressing broken trust, and understanding the distinction between forgiveness and healing. Listeners will learn ways to face difficult realities, build meaningful connections, and move forward after disappointment.
You deserve relationships that lift you up, not wear you down. If you're feeling exhausted by toxic people or unsure how to handle difficult behaviors, Dr. Henry Cloud is here to help. His free guide, "10 Strategies for Dealing with Toxic People," will show you how to recognize harmful behaviors like gaslighting and narcissism, how to confidently set boundaries, and how to finally take back your peace.
You're not alone—and things can get better. Download your free copy now at www.boundaries.me/free
In this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show, Dr. Henry Cloud explores the powerful impact of negative thought patterns and how they affect our mental health. Drawing from clinical experience, he addresses how automatic negative thoughts can function like "someone walking behind you banging you on the head with a stick" - a metaphor that captures how self-criticism operates in our minds. This episode features practical techniques for identifying and redirecting these thought patterns, from tracking negative thoughts to understanding their origins in past relationships and unresolved trauma.
The call-in segment showcases individuals navigating challenging life situations - from chronic illness and family relocation conflicts to narcissistic relationship patterns and relationship recovery after infidelity. Throughout these conversations, Dr. Cloud provides actionable insights on setting boundaries, seeking appropriate therapeutic support, and celebrating relationship victories even after significant struggles. His approach emphasizes both personal accountability and the healing power of healthy connections.
Relationships shouldn't leave you feeling anxious or exhausted. If you've struggled to deal with someone else’s toxic behaviors, Dr. Henry Cloud wants to help you find clarity and healing. Dr. Cloud’s free resource, "10 Strategies for Dealing with Toxic People," offers practical, compassionate guidance on recognizing unsafe people, handling manipulative behaviors, and setting firm, loving boundaries.
You deserve kindness and respect. Take the first step toward healthier relationships today at www.boundaries.me/free
Dr. Henry Cloud examines how social media platforms and advertisers deliberately target the brain's reward system. The episode explores how these entities track preferences and serve content designed to trigger dopamine releases, potentially narrowing users' experiences and creating unhealthy patterns. The discussion covers the neurochemistry of pleasure, explaining how the same brain mechanisms activated by problematic behaviors also respond to positive activities like social connection and completing small tasks. Dr. Cloud presents practical strategies for regaining control through intentional activities rather than passive consumption. The episode includes call-in segments where Dr. Cloud addresses relationship trust issues, catastrophic thinking patterns, and navigating complex family dynamics.
You deserve relationships that lift you up, not wear you down. If you're feeling exhausted by toxic people or unsure how to handle difficult behaviors, Dr. Henry Cloud is here to help. His free guide, "10 Strategies for Dealing with Toxic People," will show you how to recognize harmful behaviors like gaslighting and narcissism, how to confidently set boundaries, and how to finally take back your peace.
You're not alone—and things can get better. Download your free copy now at www.boundaries.me/free
In this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show, psychologist Henry Cloud explores the delicate balance of addressing relationship problems while preserving emotional connection. He examines how to separate behaviors from personal worth, and ways to provide feedback without damaging self-esteem or injecting contempt into important relationships. Dr. Cloud walks through practical applications with callers facing common challenges: a wife seeking family stability while her husband changes jobs frequently, an individual rebuilding career direction after marital separation, and adult children concerned about a parent's pattern of physical altercations. Each situation illustrates effective boundary-setting, conflict resolution, and communication techniques that maintain respect while confronting difficult truths. Dr. Cloud emphasizes that healthy relationships require both honesty and compassion—showing how marriage counseling, family therapy principles, and workplace communication strategies all benefit from addressing problems through a lens of acceptance rather than rejection. His approach offers practical tools for parents, couples, and professionals to evaluate behaviors constructively while affirming the inherent value of the people involved.
In this episode, Dr. Cloud examines the concept of incremental progress—explaining why personal growth happens little by little rather than all at once. The discussion covers how consistent small steps contribute to progress when dealing with depression, anxiety, relationship challenges, and health concerns. Dr. Cloud speaks with callers about establishing family boundaries after trauma, addressing chronic headaches in teenagers, and navigating the emotional aspects of infertility. Throughout these conversations, he outlines a framework for measuring progress, maintaining motivation, and finding peace when life takes unexpected turns.
You deserve relationships that lift you up, not wear you down. If you're feeling exhausted by toxic people or unsure how to handle difficult behaviors, Dr. Henry Cloud is here to help. His free guide, "10 Strategies for Dealing with Toxic People," will show you how to recognize harmful behaviors like gaslighting and narcissism, how to confidently set boundaries, and how to finally take back your peace.
You're not alone—and things can get better. Download your free copy now at www.boundaries.me/free
In this first episode of the new year, Dr. Cloud explores the architecture of personal resilience, using the metaphor of building a house to explain how people can strengthen their ability to cope with life's challenges. The episode opens with a thoughtful discussion about the devastating fires in Los Angeles, transitioning into an exploration of how people can build emotional resilience. Dr. Cloud addresses boundaries in toxic relationships, rebuilding trust after abuse, navigating a difficult breakup, and dealing with an unresponsive spouse. Each call demonstrates practical applications of emotional health principles while offering compassionate guidance for complex personal situations.
Feeling stuck in toxic relationships? Get immediate clarity and actionable advice with Dr. Henry Cloud's free guide, "10 Strategies for Dealing with Toxic People." Learn how to recognize gaslighting, handle narcissists, confidently say "no," and much more. Download your copy now at www.boundaries.me/free and take back control of your relationships.
Much of your thinking is automatic, and that can be a great thing. No one needs to analyze every stroke of the toothbrush, so to speak. The problem, Dr. Henry Cloud contends, is when we default to thinking patterns that don’t work for situations that require us to be more considered and deliberate with our minds. One of the issues is that automatic thinking can lead to deeply ingrained patterns of behavior that self-reinforce. You have to ask yourself some questions about these automatic thoughts. Here’s a big one: are these even thoughts? Maybe this won’t surprise you, but no, classically speaking many of these automatic thoughts don’t meet the criteria of thoughts. These ideas, constructs, or concepts might pop into your head, but they aren’t considered, they aren’t critiqued. They are thoughts, but they require no thinking. Dr. Cloud shares ways to start actively thinking again so that you can take control of your life in areas you’re overlooking.
Written Question:
Dr. Cloud addresses a question about dealing with a spouse diagnosed with narcissism who frequently turns conversations into arguments. He discusses the complexity of narcissistic personality disorder, emphasizing that not all cases are alike. Dr. Cloud suggests considering whether the narcissism is rooted in strength or weakness, as this affects the approach to dealing with it. The main advice Dr. Cloud offers is to stop engaging in these fights. He uses the analogy of a boxing match, explaining that it takes two people to argue. He recommends setting boundaries by refusing to continue unproductive conversations, suggesting phrases like "I don't think this is helping" or "I'm not comfortable talking about this right now." Dr. Cloud emphasizes the importance of removing oneself from the situation and proposing alternative ways to address issues, such as discussing them in a counseling session.
Carol needs help moving forward with her life after ending her relationship with her parents. She ruminates and finds herself playing back everything that has happened over the years. What can she do truly move on?
Written Question:
What kind of advice do you have for young leaders as they take on more responsibility?
Dr. Henry Cloud wants to help you take back control of your time and energy. You'll learn powerful strategies to prioritize what matters, set healthy boundaries, and achieve your goals with less stress and more joy. Time is a Finite Resource is a 2 hour workshop that will transform how you use your time. Go to https://www.boundaries.me/time to get a special offer on the upcoming workshop!
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Dr. Cloud discusses the concept of time management from a different perspective. He argues that rather than managing time itself, which is finite and unchangeable, the focus should be on how we manage ourselves within that time. Dr. Cloud identifies common reasons people may not use their time effectively, such as feeling emotionally isolated, having poor boundaries in saying no to requests, and excessive perfectionism. He gives the example of his father's philosophy of doing things "good enough for who it's for" to avoid wasting time on unnecessary perfectionism. Dr. Cloud suggests evaluating if an activity truly aligns with one's values and priorities before investing more time in it. The core idea is being intentional about how you "invest" yourself and your energy within the limited time available. Rather than time management tactics, this talk examines mindsets and motivations that can lead to poor time utilization.
Answering a viewer’s written question, Dr. Cloud addresses a common dilemma: how to manage time effectively in a busy life. Rather than encouraging viewers to do more, he suggests focusing on achieving greater effects with the time available. Using relatable analogies like mowing grass with scissors versus a lawnmower, he demonstrates how changing work methods can enhance productivity. Dr. Cloud also discusses outsourcing tasks and prioritizing what truly matters. He acknowledges that as one grows personally and professionally, demands increase, making strategic time management crucial. The key, he argues, is not to do more, but to identify and focus on high-priority tasks that align with one's goals and values.
Sandy has a 35 year old son who has overcome opioid addiction and is in a much better place. She’s noticed that he’s drinking far too much and seems like a functioning alcoholic. How can she have a conversation with him without bringing up the trauma of the past intervention they had over opioids?
Dr. Henry Cloud wants to help you take back control of your time and energy. You'll learn powerful strategies to prioritize what matters, set healthy boundaries, and achieve your goals with less stress and more joy. Master Your Time, Master Your Life is a 2 hour workshop that will transform how you use your time. Go to https://www.boundaries.me/time to get a special offer on the upcoming workshop!
If you want to call in or watch the show live, subscribe on YouTube and click the Bell icon. It will alert you whenever we go live and will be your cue to call in and ask Dr. Cloud for advice.
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
Dr. Cloud explores criticism and its role in personal growth and relationships. He argues that when done with the right approach, criticism can be an act of love that facilitates positive change. Dr. Cloud provides tips on giving and receiving criticism effectively. He emphasizes specificity over global statements, using "I" statements, setting a positive tone, making it a conversation, and offering actionable feedback. He also examines motivations behind unhelpful criticism like envy, anger, or control. The talk covers watching tone, making criticism timely and relevant, and distinguishing criticism aimed at helping versus hurting. Overall, Dr. Cloud offers insights into navigating constructive criticism, open communication, and fostering personal and interpersonal growth through this approach.
Dr. Cloud tackles a viewer's question about coping with a partner whose language inadvertently echoes her emotionally abusive father's. He discusses the term "emotional abuse," arguing that its overuse can diminish its impact when accurately applied. Dr. Cloud advises approaching the partner constructively, focusing on how they can communicate in ways that foster connection and avoid triggering past traumas. He suggests discussing specific language that helps or hurts, enabling better understanding of each other's sensitivities. Additionally, he recommends taking timeouts when triggered to prevent confusing past and present experiences. This video offers strategies for those whose current relationships are affected by childhood trauma.
Christie is having trouble receiving love. She has a transactional mentality about it where she feels she needs to be worthy of it.
Stacy is helping recovering addicts. Many of them have a victim mindset and cross her boundaries. How can she enforce her boundaries without exacerbating their victim mentality?
Tiffany has a difficult relationship with her father. He is addicted to TV and is constantly talking about conspiracy theories.
Dr. Henry Cloud wants to help you take back control of your time and energy. You'll learn powerful strategies to prioritize what matters, set healthy boundaries, and achieve your goals with less stress and more joy. Master Your Time, Master Your Life is a 2 hour workshop that will transform how you use your time. Go to https://www.boundaries.me/time to get a special offer on the upcoming workshop!
If you want to call in or watch the show live, subscribe on YouTube and click the Bell icon. It will alert you whenever we go live and will be your cue to call in and ask Dr. Cloud for advice.
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Dr. Cloud presents 10 tips to help individuals navigate through difficult times in a practical and actionable manner. He emphasizes the importance of seeking professional help when needed, but also offers self-care strategies to alleviate temporary distress. Key points include combating isolation, focusing on what's within one's control, setting boundaries, processing grief, challenging catastrophic thinking, practicing self-care (sleep, exercise, stress relief), taking breaks, and maintaining perspective. Dr. Cloud's approach combines cognitive, emotional, and physical aspects, recognizing that well-being is multifaceted. Through personal anecdotes and analogies, he encourages viewers to view challenges as temporary scenes in the broader narrative of life, emphasizing hope and resilience.
Nancy and her husband haven’t had contact with their son for 2 years. She needs help finding closure on this relationship for now.
Laura’s husband has ruined their financial future. She doesn’t know if the relationship is salvageable, and needs help in keeping her children safe from such recklessness.
Melanie and her brother used to be close. She thinks her sister-in-law might be jealous of their closeness. How can she figure out what’s causing the distance and mend the situation?
Kathy’s husband is in an alcohol recovery program. She still loves him very much despite all the problems in the past. She wants to work on their relationship, but his sponsor seems to think she’s part of the problem. How can she step back in a healthy way?
Dr. Henry Cloud wants to help you take back control of your time and energy. You'll learn powerful strategies to prioritize what matters, set healthy boundaries, and achieve your goals with less stress and more joy. Master Your Time, Master Your Life is a 2 hour workshop that will transform how you use your time. Go to https://www.boundaries.me/time to get a special offer on the upcoming workshop!
If you want to call in or watch the show live, subscribe on YouTube and click the Bell icon. It will alert you whenever we go live and will be your cue to call in and ask Dr. Cloud for advice.
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Dr. Cloud explores the idea that achieving anything of value in life requires doing things we don't want to do. He draws from personal experiences, such as pulling an all-nighter to meet a book deadline, and uses relatable examples like losing weight or building a successful marriage. Dr. Cloud emphasizes that embracing this mindset – that discomfort and effort are necessary for growth – is crucial. He touches on parenting styles that may inadvertently shield children from struggles, preventing them from developing grit. Overall, the talk encourages viewers to reframe their perspective on challenges, seeing them not as obstacles but as opportunities for personal development and ultimately creating a life of value.
In a written question, Dr. Cloud examines the "backfire effect" where people become more entrenched in beliefs when presented with conflicting evidence. He suggests first understanding why the issue matters to the other person - the stakes involved. Emotions also play a key role - hear their feelings before diving into differing perspectives. Dr. Cloud states differing viewpoints often stem from different perceived solutions to shared underlying goals. He advises separating the person from their position by acknowledging emotions and finding alignment on higher-level values first. He cautions that some topics incite too much emotion for productive dialogue. The desire for autonomy can trigger defensiveness when people feel controlled. He presents strategies like avoiding controlling language, finding common ground, and sometimes disengaging from unproductive debates. His analysis provides a framework for navigating the psychology behind these difficult conversations when beliefs clash.
Vanessa and her husband have gone no contact with his parents. She wants advice on how to support her husband through this situation.
Josh wants to pursue an advanced degree in addiction counseling. He feels like he’s being called from God to do it. How do you know when you’re getting a calling from God?
Dr. Henry Cloud wants to help you take back control of your time and energy. You'll learn powerful strategies to prioritize what matters, set healthy boundaries, and achieve your goals with less stress and more joy. Master Your Time, Master Your Life is a 2 hour workshop that will transform how you use your time. Go to https://www.boundaries.me/time to get a special offer on the upcoming workshop!
If you want to call in or watch the show live, subscribe on YouTube and click the Bell icon. It will alert you whenever we go live and will be your cue to call in and ask Dr. Cloud for advice.
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Ever feel like apologizing isn’t working? In this thought-provoking talk, Dr. Cloud delves into the art of offering a sincere and effective apology. He emphasizes that a genuine apology is a powerful tool for repairing and strengthening relationships. Dr. Cloud breaks down the essential components of a good apology, including expressing empathy, taking ownership without making excuses, acknowledging the consequences, and committing to preventing future occurrences. He also highlights the importance of understanding the other person's perspective and addressing their hurt feelings, rather than focusing solely on one's own guilt or justifications. With his insights, Dr. Cloud provides a framework for navigating the complexities of apologizing authentically and restoring trust and connection.
Alex’s father is moving to her town and wants to start having a relationship with her again. The problem is that her dad is a toxic person and a narcissist who blew up his family by having an affair. How can she get better at saying no to a toxic father?
Dr. Henry Cloud wants to help you take back control of your time and energy. You'll learn powerful strategies to prioritize what matters, set healthy boundaries, and achieve your goals with less stress and more joy. Master Your Time, Master Your Life is a 2 hour workshop that will transform how you use your time. Go to https://www.boundaries.me/time to get a special offer on the upcoming workshop!
If you want to call in or watch the show live, subscribe on YouTube and click the Bell icon. It will alert you whenever we go live and will be your cue
Dr. Cloud provides guidance for couples struggling to reignite their romantic spark. Drawing from biblical wisdom and psychological expertise, he explores the natural seasons of marriage and offers strategies to reignite passion. He encourages couples to reflect on how they prioritized careers over their relationship, examine psychological factors behind this shift, and revisit activities that fostered initial connection. Dr. Cloud recommends revisiting initial bonding activities, making time to listen/connect without household tasks, and sharing what drew them together originally. With empathy, he empowers the couple to rediscover their qualities and rekindle their marital flame.
Christian has a problem: he loves solving other people’s problems. How can he stop relating to others by trying to fix their issues?
Emily’s boyfriend recently purchased a home and she moved in with him. They are going to get engaged and have been together for a while. The problem is his mother (her future mother-in-law) acts like it’s her house. How can establish boundaries with her?
Elizabeth was in an abusive marriage for 24 years and got out of it about 4 years ago. She needs help with dating. How can she remain vigilant while staying open-hearted with her dates?
Dr. Henry Cloud wants to help you take back control of your time and energy. You'll learn powerful strategies to prioritize what matters, set healthy boundaries, and achieve your goals with less stress and more joy. Master Your Time, Master Your Life is a 2 hour workshop that will transform how you use your time. Go to https://www.boundaries.me/time to get a special offer on the upcoming workshop!
If you want to call in or watch the show live, subscribe on YouTube and click the Bell icon. It will alert you whenever we go live and will be your cue to call in and ask Dr. Cloud for advice.
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Dr. Henry Cloud takes a deep dive into the world of anxiety, honing in on a crucial aspect: learning to navigate internal anxieties without giving in to typical responses. From unraveling the physical effects of anxiety to unraveling the mind's interpretations, Dr. Cloud sheds light on the power of response inhibition in managing anxieties. With relatable stories and practical insights, this video guides you through the art of sitting with anxiety instead of running from it.
Audience Write-in Question: I come from a close-knit family that values togetherness, but I often feel suffocated by their constant need for communication and shared activities. How can I set healthy boundaries with my family members without hurting their feelings or causing misunderstandings?
Sarah has a sister-in-law that is dead set on vilifying her within her husband's family. The sister-in-law used to be very close to her brother (Sarah’s husband) and Sarah thinks she feels threatened by their closeness.
Finley’s parents are overly involved in her life. She’s a single mother and needs help from time to time, but her parents are overstepping in their helpfulness.
Dr. Henry Cloud wants to help you take back control of your time and energy. You'll learn powerful strategies to prioritize what matters, set healthy boundaries, and achieve your goals with less stress and more joy. Master Your Time, Master Your Life is a 2 hour workshop that will transform how you use your time.
Go to https://www.boundaries.me/time to get a special offer on the upcoming workshop!
If you want to call in or watch the show live, subscribe on YouTube and click the Bell icon. It will alert you whenever we go live and will be your cue to call in and ask Dr. Cloud for advice. https://youtube.com/drhenrycloud
Just knowing what gaslighting is can be a big first step to breaking free from it . The problem is that withstanding gaslighting is another matter. Dr. Henry Cloud discusses the concept of gaslighting, a psychological technique used to manipulate and control others by making them question their own reality. He delves into how gaslighters undermine individuals' subjective experience of reality to gain power over them. Dr. Cloud explains the impact of gaslighting on individuals, the vulnerable traits that make someone susceptible to it, and provides tips on how to recognize and deal with gaslighting behavior effectively.
Rachel has been facing lots of challenges accomplishing her goals and has sort of given up. How can she break the habit of feeling stuck?
Tracy and her boyfriend are in couples counseling. He’s been improving but she doesn’t know to what extent. What will it take for her to mend and truly see change in their relationship? Samantha wants help understanding the boundary between expressing needs and being controlling in her marriage. She fears that it’s turning into a parent-child relationship and wants to get back to being equal adults.
Dr. Henry Cloud wants to help you take back control of your time and energy. You'll learn powerful strategies to prioritize what matters, set healthy boundaries, and achieve your goals with less stress and more joy. Master Your Time, Master Your Life is a 2 hour workshop that will transform how you use your time. Go to https://www.boundaries.me/time to get a special offer on the upcoming workshop!
If you want to call in or watch the show live, subscribe on YouTube and click the Bell icon. It will alert you whenever we go live and will be your cue to call in and ask Dr. Cloud for advice.
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You may think you are a separate and free person when you look in the mirror. You’re not physically attached to someone else. As a person connected to others through relationships however you might not be the free and separate person you see in the mirror. Dr. Henry Cloud talks about how so many of us are not free and separate people within our relationships. You might not be in charge of making decisions, someone might be controlling the decisions and behaviors that should be yours! Here’s the question: Right now, do you have any relationships where you don’t experience yourself as free to make your own choices without losing love? Free to make your own choices without a guilt trip being put on you? Free to make your own choices without them pouting and feeling abandoned? Dr. Cloud teaches you ways to start regaining your freedom by using boundaries to limit the control others have over you.
Audience Write-in Question:
My boyfriend gets jealous easily, but my friends say that means he really loves me. Is that true, or is this a problem?
Kimberly has a 23 year old son that went through a truly terrible break up. He’s extremely depressed. She and her husband are actively getting them help but they don’t know what to do next.
Sal’s wife wants a divorce. She’s said she doesn’t love him and doesn’t know if she ever really did. What can he do to open up communication and how can he deal with the heartache?
Being estranged from someone you once were close to can be a painful reality to live in. Should you reconcile? When? How? How can we fix the pain of estrangement? Does it get easier? What is my role in this process? What is mine to own? What should I do?
Dr. Cloud wants to help you navigate this terrain. Go to https://boundaries.me/reconcile to find out more about the 2 hour live webinar with Dr. Cloud.
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Much of how we bond and attach to others is formed in early childhood. Dr. Henry Cloud shows you how to look at your attachment style and find ways to get to a secure attachment. The attachments you have early on, whether healthy, inconsistent, or toxic, will have a huge affect on you. How do you experience your need for others? This is a critical aspect to how you attach. When your relationship with your needs are filled with conflict your attachment will be unsteady. Dr. Cloud breaks down the contributing factors that lead to secure attachment. This is a big talk, but you’ll understand so much more about how and why you’re having trouble with your attachments.
Audience Question:
I suspect my boundaries need some maintenance. What are the signs I can look for that will tell me if I need to set stronger boundaries?
Jackie recently had a second child. Some of the women in her family are critical of her for not losing her baby weight like she did with her first child. How can she get them to drop the subject as it’s not helping and making her not want to see them?
Jacqueline needs to unfriend someone. The silent treatment isn’t working. Is there a good way to break off a friendship and go no-contact?
Being estranged from someone you once were close to can be a painful reality to live in. Should you reconcile? When? How? How can we fix the pain of estrangement? Does it get easier? What is my role in this process? What is mine to own? What should I do?
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By and large, personality type tests are very helpful as an initial assessment tool. But Dr. Henry Cloud wants you to get a better understanding of what they are actually useful for and where they fall short. One of the great things about them is that they allow us to see that a person’s behavior might not be coming from some malicious place, but from a propensity based on their personality. That's a huge step forward in building healthy relationships! Here’s the problem: a lot of people will take these tests and see themselves and others in a fixed way. While the personality tests can show the result of certain traits, they don’t explain the “why” of it. Dr. Cloud walks us through the polarity of personality tests and how to use these types of tests in a more holistic way.
Written question:
My partner insists we stay up all night if we fight, saying we shouldn't go to bed mad. But this makes everything worse! Am I wrong for needing space?
Jessica has an estranged relationship with her mom and needs advice. Can she follow the Bible and honor her mother while also not communicating with her?
Maria is dealing with a triangulation problem. She’s separated from her husband and he is using her mother to persuade her. How can she stop this from happening?
Jenny’s mother has a drinking problem. She is constantly drinking wine and now she’s falling often. How can she encourage her to get help when her mother gets angry whenever the subject is brought up?
Being estranged from someone you once were close to can be a painful reality to live in. Should you reconcile? When? How? How can we fix the pain of estrangement? Does it get easier? What is my role in this process? What is mine to own? What should I do?
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What thoughts come to mind when you think of responsibility? Is it burdensome, negative, or toxic? If you think that you’re not alone. The word often gets twisted during our upbringing because it’s brought down on you, it’s used in a repressive and toxic way. Dr. Henry Cloud wants you to think differently about responsibility. Outside pressure and duty are often associated with responsibilities, and if those extrinsic factors went away you would not keep those responsibilities. Dr. Cloud elaborates on how to transform the external side of responsibility into internal choice. How you think about your responsibilities as a choice is critical for developing empowerment in your life. Reality will always hold you responsible, but whether you take responsibility for your role in what happens has to be your choice.
Write-in question of the day:
I haven't spoken to my son in several years and it's the most painful loss I've ever experienced. His father was very hard on him. Too hard, and I didn't step in when I should have. He was a very stern man. Never physically abusive, but highly judgmental and not an ounce of love to give. I'm now divorced and I want to reconnect with my son but he isn't returning my calls. What can I do?
Jill stores trauma from her past in her body. She gets tense pains in her neck, back, shoulders, and stomach when she needs to speak up for herself around the family that caused the trauma.
Jennifer and her husband are in disagreement about their church. Her husband is against the core principles of his church but she wants to stay.
Being estranged from someone you once were close to can be a painful reality to live in. Should you reconcile? When? How? How can we fix the pain of estrangement? Does it get easier? What is my role in this process? What is mine to own? What should I do?
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You may have heard from this show that motivation is not correlated with goal achievement–in fact it can be inversely correlated with it. What then are the factors that have the biggest impact on accomplishing goals? Dr. Henry Cloud shows us that what matters most is first the belief that your goal can be achieved. The second factor is prioritization. In this short talk, Dr. Cloud will help you get clear about what really works for making things happen in your life. Remember, if everything is a priority, nothing is a priority.
Write-in Question:
I haven't spoken to my son in several years and it's the most painful loss I've ever experienced. His father was very hard on him. Too hard, and I didn't step in when I should have. He was a very stern man. Never physically abusive, but highly judgmental and not an ounce of love to give. I'm now divorced and I want to reconnect with my son but he isn't returning my calls. What can I do?
Jaret got divorced 2 year ago and wants to reconcile the marriage. His big question is whether his desire to reconcile is coming from a good place or a place of fear.
Kathy lives with a friend that’s a hoarder. When Kathy throws things away they find their way back into the house. How can she confront the friend in a peaceful way about starting the cleanup process?
Laura feels stuck in a pattern of self-betrayal. She’s a journalist and doesn’t feel comfortable talking about her faith at work.
Being estranged from someone you once were close to can be a painful reality to live in. Should you reconcile? When? How? How can we fix the pain of estrangement? Does it get easier? What is my role in this process? What is mine to own? What should I do?
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“Resilience” is a word that is thrown around a lot these days, and for good reason. We could all use a little more of it. But what is resilience, and how does one become more resilient? Dr. Henry Cloud breaks down the subject like this: There are negative events in your life from a small problem to something potentially catastrophic. Those are the external things that happen. Resilience lies within the person responding to those events. How you see yourself, how you view your own strength and confidence, the experiences you have had–all of these lead to your resilience. Your resilience is your capacity to deal with these challenges that come into your life. So how can you change your capacity? Your words. Dr. Cloud wants you to look at your words, and to understand how much they can affect your resiliency. How you say things to yourself about what’s happening directly influences how you interpret the event and its outcome.
Write-in Question:
I've dealt with a lot of anxiety in the past, both social anxiety and just general panic-y feelings, crippling self-doubt. This has gone on forever. But lately my friends have been saying they think I have ADHD. They've been sending me memes about ADHD and saying, "This is SO you!" And I have to admit. It is! A friend said there is a connection between ADHD and anxiety. Is that true?
Tina has a son with severe mental illnesses. He’s 38 and is refusing medication. What are her option before involuntary commitment?
Kathleen wants to know when she should stop hoping for further improvements in her husband. He has bipolar disorder and has made great strides but is plateauing in his growth. How can she encourage him to keep growing when he might already be maxed out?
Beth’s husband is emotionally immature. Their therapist has confirmed what she already knows: he can’t take feedback and gets defensive easily. What are some strategies for getting him on the right track?
Being estranged from someone you once were close to can be a painful reality to live in. Should you reconcile? When? How? How can we fix the pain of estrangement? Does it get easier? What is my role in this process? What is mine to own? What should I do?
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Wanting to do something and actually doing it are two very different things. Dr. Henry Cloud wants you to stop thinking of motivation as the key to success. While of course motivation is an important part of getting started, it can also cause problems. Hope deferred makes the heart sick, as the Bible says, and motivations that don’t lead to actions can cause their own set of problems along these same lines. An addict may want to get clean and be motivated to do so, but at each turn they find an obstacle and it doesn’t get them to sobriety. As these motivations accrue and lead to dead ends a new pattern emerges: helplessness. You can’t depend on motivation to get you to where you want to go. It ebbs and flows and it will let you down. So what does work when you have the motivation? Prioritization, habits, patterns, practices, accountability partners. Dr. Cloud wants you to keep your motivation, but be mindful that it’s not the fuel that leads to the end game. Let your motivation lead you to a new habit that’s more sustainable than motivation alone.
Write-in Question:
I have a short temper and I often wind up alienating myself from others because I am quick to get angry. It's probably affecting my blood pressure (which is high) and my overall mental health, and obviously the quality of my relationships too. Even when I try to suppress my anger, I find myself acting in a passive aggressive way. How can I learn to control my anger before it controls me?
Lindsey needs help with reestablishing priorities again. She got on the wrong track and wants to rethink how she views prioritizing the healthy habits she used to have.
Leslie gets insecure about the men she’s dating and whether they are interested in other women. How can she tell if this is just jealousy or her intuition picking up on a bigger problem?
Theresa has a problem with a brother she loves that also has some anger issues. How can she bring peace to the situation without sweeping the problems under the rug?
Being estranged from someone you once were close to can be a painful reality to live in. Should you reconcile? When? How? How can we fix the pain of estrangement? Does it get easier? What is my role in this process? What is mine to own? What should I do?
Dr. Cloud wants to help you navigate this terrain. Go to https://boundaries.me/reconcile to find out more about the 2 hour live webinar with Dr. Cloud.
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Narcissism has become such a commonplace word that not only has it lost its specificity, but in doing so it has become difficult to identify the types of narcissistic behavior you might be dealing with. Dr. Henry Cloud wants you to learn what type of narcissistic patterns a person may have. Some narcissists can change for the better, and others can’t. Dr. Cloud describes the different underlying causes of this behavior and how you can address the entitlement that it presents as. In some cases you need to stay clear of these people, In other cases, through patience and love, they can find the vulnerability they need to become their real selves.
-Sarah has cut off contact with her mother but has family engagements where she can’t avoid her. How can she protect her sense of peace when her mother is around?
-Kimberly has experienced rejection, whether from romantic partners or her own kids. How can she stop ruminating and playing out regrets?
-Megan is a positive person, but when it comes to her future she has a really tough time seeing positive outcomes happening. What can she do to change her self-talk to something more positive?
Being estranged from someone you once were close to can be a painful reality to live in. Should you reconcile? When? How? How can we fix the pain of estrangement? Does it get easier? What is my role in this process? What is mine to own? What should I do?
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When you’re struggling, you’re usually going to have a symptom: you might be anxious, depressed, afraid, overreacting. You might be getting stuck accomplishing something. Whatever your symptoms might be, Dr. Henry Cloud wants you to see the key differences between symptoms and root causes. Learning more about your symptoms can help you see where your root causes are, but continuing to treat the symptoms without investigating the causes won’t lead to real change. Dr. Cloud wants you to stop and examine your symptoms so that you can get the help you need to address the real underlying causes behind them. It’s a great way to start feeling better.
Write-in Question: I was in a relationship for years with someone who made me question my own reality. By the end, I felt crazy and didn't know what was real anymore. I've been out of it for a while but I still struggle with self-doubt. Do you have any advice for overcoming the effects of long-term gaslighting?
Barbara wants to know what the process of healing from childhood trauma looks like in terms of time and commitment?
Joy got dumped by a widower after being together for two years, out of nowhere. When they started the relationship he had lost his wife only three months prior and isn’t sure if she was just a rebound-relationship to him.
Donna has a lack of trust that’s causing some serious problems. She doesn’t even trust her doctor. How can she assess trustworthiness better and gain some skills so that she can at least begin trusting at all again?
Being estranged from someone you once were close to can be a painful reality to live in. Should you reconcile? When? How? How can we fix the pain of estrangement? Does it get easier? What is my role in this process? What is mine to own? What should I do? Dr. Cloud wants to help you navigate this terrain. Go to https://boundaries.me/reconcile to find out more about the 2 hour live webinar with Dr. Cloud.
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While of course being your authentic self is always a good idea, "faking it" can be an incredible tool. Dr. Henry Cloud talks about the psychological power that comes from faking it till you make it. Whenever a new task is put in front of you that you don’t know exactly how to do, this technique can be used to give you the confidence you’ll need to learn. When we are put in a position where we don’t have the requisite understanding or skills to perform, the process of faking it till you make it can help you avoid the feeling of being an imposter. Imposter syndrome can make you feel like a fraud. There are two components to faking it till you make it. One is that ALL learning is faking it till you make it. You don’t know what you’re doing until you’re doing it, and the process is inextricably linked to learning. The second component is that you actually have to do something to fake it till you make it! Rather than sitting around pondering and wondering whether you can do something, faking it till you make it gets you going on the path! Growth is not easy, but it’s really hard if you need to be perfect and all-knowing in order to get started. Fake it till you make it and you are on the right track to getting a new ability.
Lori needs help managing her relationship with her her ex-husband. They are still financially intertwined, but she might also still have feelings of love keeping her stuck.
Write-in Question: I have been surprised recently to discover that my husband and I have very different positions on a major event that has been occurring in the global news. Through deeper discussion, it's clear that his values haven't changed, and I don't believe mine have either. We have always agreed on nearly everything when it comes to politics and ideals, and otherwise we still do. I want to have healthy separateness, but it is a strange feeling to disagree about something that we both have such strong conviction towards. How important is it for married people to have the same position about big topics like this?
Tasha wants to stop comparing herself to others. She can see that it's coming from a need to control her world that might stem from earlier trauma.
Being estranged from someone you once were close to can be a painful reality to live in. Should you reconcile? When? How? How can we fix the pain of estrangement? Does it get easier? What is my role in this process? What is mine to own? What should I do?
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What’s the first thing you think of when you hear the word “criticism?” How you handle criticism is not just a measure of your patience, it’s also a huge growth opportunity. Dr. Henry Cloud explains how changing the frame through which you look at criticism can greatly improve your relationships and your performance. How you feel about criticism can also tell you a lot about your character. Getting to the next level in your life involves improving on things or adding new things to your life, whatever they may be. If you are not willing to find out where you can improve from the outside it’s going to be very difficult to verify real changes. Dr. Cloud wants you to think about your reactions to feedback and how you can steer away from defensiveness. Not all criticism is warranted or justified, but when it’s coming from a trusted source that wants the best for you it can be a blessing and chance to change for the better.
Dr. Cloud answers this write-in question:
I have a getting-started problem. I am a 37 year old male and I know that I need to make changes if I want to live the kind of life I always imagined living. I could lose a few pounds. I could take my dating relationships more seriously. I could be more ambitious at work. I could play a few less video games and drink a bit less. But I don't, and feel like I'm always living in tomorrow. I come up with plans but I never get started. Is there something I can do today that will make the kind of difference that I'll feel immediately, and might help me get more motivated to get to work?
Heather needs strategies for staying emotionally centered when things get heated with family members she works with.
Regina has a daughter who is a pastor in Sweden. How can she make her relationship with her daughter work when her daughter is showing signs of contempt toward her at every turn?
Being estranged from someone you once were close to can be a painful reality to live in. Should you reconcile? When? How? How can we fix the pain of estrangement? Does it get easier? What is my role in this process? What is mine to own? What should I do?
Dr. Cloud wants to help you navigate this terrain. Go to https://boundaries.me/reconcile to find out more about the 2 hour live webinar with Dr. Cloud.
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How do you work on conflicts in a relationship? Dr. Henry Cloud wants you to think about which way you lean when something comes up that’s either uncomfortable, argumentative or otherwise conflictual in your relationships. Understanding that there are basically three types of behavior that you might engage in, one of them being more prevalent in your life. The three types are moving toward, moving away, or moving against. You will always move in one of these directions during a conflict. Where this gets interesting is when you see that rather than making a choice, you might be doing this automatically. You might be moving away from a conflict when you need to move against it. And so on. As you begin learning your conflict type, you’ll also see it in others and your relationships will greatly improve as conflicts arise.
Jacqueline wants to take care of her sister’s former foster daughter as a child advocate, but her sister is against the idea and sees it as a betrayal. What do you do when someone you love is preventing you from doing what’s right?
Anne is having difficulty accepting her decision to end a romantic relationship. Did she leave for the right reasons, or was it out of misplaced fears?
Written Question:
I am really interested in personal growth. Lately I feel like my enthusiasm for personal growth and development content might be going overboard though. I follow a lot of good folks on social media, read tons of books, watch Youtube videos, and attend seminars in person. These things all make me feel good and like I'm doing something right, but I'm not sure if I'm really doing all that much growing. Can you overdose on personal growth, or what am I doing wrong?
Being estranged from someone you once were close to can be a painful reality to live in. Should you reconcile? When? How? How can we fix the pain of estrangement? Does it get easier? What is my role in this process? What is mine to own? What should I do?
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One thing most of us do with the word “choice” is that we equate it with the power to make something happen. Dr. Henry Cloud wants you to rethink what choice is actually capable of bringing to your life. Choice is great, it’s important, but it’s not a methodology. That’s to say that willpower and choice are not a method of change alone. Your initial choice can set your direction, and that’s a hugely powerful start, but that does not lead to staying power. When you’re setting a goal, definitely use choice to get started, but remember that you will continue to employ choices at every step to get to your goal. One choice is never enough to make anything meaningful happen. You need to continue making choices along the way to make real changes.
Dr. Cloud takes a write-in question:
I think of myself as an emotionally intelligent person, but recently I got some feedback that has me wondering. A friend of mine reached out looking for support and I did what I hear a lot of men do and tried to give her some advice. She wasn't looking for advice. She told me in a kind way that my response lacked emotional intelligence. I understand now that what I did wasn't helpful. But that leaves me wondering: How do I assess my own emotional intelligence?
Sarah is having difficulty accepting her adult daughter’s decisions. How can learn to let her daughter make her own mistakes?
Kathy is having serious issues with her daughter and granddaughter who both live with her. They don’t talk to her, and when they do it’s rude and mean. What can she do to open up civil communication again?
Being estranged from someone you once were close to can be a painful reality to live in. Should you reconcile? When? How? How can we fix the pain of estrangement? Does it get easier? What is my role in this process? What is mine to own? What should I do?
Dr. Cloud wants to help you navigate this terrain. Go to https://boundaries.me/reconcile to find out more about the 2 hour live webinar with Dr. Cloud.
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Unlike in the distant past, we don’t really have a rite of passage to adulthood. Dr. Henry Cloud talks about how regardless of how many degrees you have, or how old you are, being an adult is not a guarantee on age or merit alone. So what is adulthood, and how do we get to it? You’ve probably met people that have made it far into their lives and still aren’t an adult yet. Dr. Cloud talks about what it means to be a responsible, independent adult. You may physically be an adult, but there are emotional, psychological and spiritual aspects to adulthood that you may need to grow in.
Written Question:I feel like fear is ruling my life right now. I can feel my life getting smaller and my dreams getting further away. How do I stop giving into fear? I find that my language around fear, the way I frame it, can feel very negative and avoidant, and I am prone to making excuses. I don't expect things to be perfect, but how can I feel more secure that things will work out?
Susan has discovered gaps in her memory most likely caused by childhood trauma. She asks Dr. Cloud to talk about dissociation. How can she get back in touch with her emotions? What does childhood trauma recovery look like?
Melanie has a sister that continues to belittle her and mischaracterize her as selfish when she’s setting boundaries. Her family doesn’t want to weigh in. When do you decide to stay away from a family member that won’t respect your boundaries?
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Regrets are inevitable in this life and can bring us great sadness. Dr. Henry Cloud wants you to think differently about how you look at your regrets. When we talk about regret we’re talking about loss and the emotional pain that comes with that. What can really be helpful is letting regret show us what we don’t want to lose. The trouble is that guilt will accompany the regret and that can prevent you from mourning what you’ve lost. Dr. Cloud asks you to transform your normal reactions of guilt and badness to one of godly sorrow. When you think about what you’ll lose by not changing, real change can come forward.
Written question: I find myself stuck between this sense that I'm constantly striving for MORE and BETTER versus the idea that it might be healthier to accept what I've got, what I've accomplished, and the way things are. Why do I always feel like I want and need more? Does it ever end?
Marshall is working irregular hours and wants to add meaningful structure to his time to maintain his relationships and his work-life balance. Linda has an adult son that has been violent with her in the past. How can she mend her relationship with her son, and what role does she have to play in her grandchildren’s lives? Karissa is a pastor’s wife and a mentor. She wants to know how to stop internalizing others’ failures. She feels like she has failed when they fall short and it’s affecting her.
Having trouble setting boundaries? Are you worried that boundaries go against your Christianity? Dr. Henry Cloud lays the foundation for how to build and maintain healthy boundaries that align with Christian principles. Check out the upcoming workshop and get discounted early bird pricing for a limited time. https://boundaries.me/myboundaries
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Our life is driven by two key drives and they are often at odds with each other. Dr. Henry Cloud talks about how these two drives can be worked together. Drive number one is our need to connect and feel connected. The second drive is our aggression. When when we can merge these drives together it’s called drive neutralization and it will greatly improve your relationships and your performance. Written question: How do successful people think differently about outcomes? Sally needs help with an intrusive father that spreads rumors. Sarah has two boys going through crises and feels like her parenting skills are being criticized.
Having trouble setting boundaries? Are you worried that boundaries go against your Christianity? Dr. Henry Cloud lays the foundation for how to build and maintain healthy boundaries that align with Christian principles. Check out the upcoming workshop and get discounted early bird pricing for a limited time. https://boundaries.me/myboundaries
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Loving someone and treating them with love are two different things. Dr. Henry Cloud reminds us of what we can do to be more proactive in our loving relationships. Written question: Do physical activities help people heal from trauma? Kerri is housing kids from a youth group and wants advice on how to help a traumatized 17 year old open up. Sarah feels like a crappy person and doesn't know why. What can do to get started unpacking these feelings? Margie is putting up simple boundaries and her in-laws cross them all the time. What is the right response when people cross your boundaries?
Having trouble setting boundaries? Are you worried that boundaries go against your Christianity? Dr. Henry Cloud lays the foundation for how to build and maintain healthy boundaries that align with Christian principles. Check out the upcoming workshop and get discounted early bird pricing for a limited time. https://boundaries.me/myboundaries
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Changing your life is always a difficult task, but it’s nearly impossible without accepting personal responsibility. Dr. Henry Cloud gets into what you should and shouldn’t take responsibility for and how this awareness can transform your life and the options you have. Written question: Lately I feel like my attention and ability to focus is being stolen away from me. There are so many distractions, from email to messaging apps, and group chats, and social media, and all of the other notifications. Are we meant to be able to manage all of this communication? Jill is setting "healthy boundaries" but doesn't want to sacrifice helping the people she cares about. Tamars seeks advice on how to look at a failed dating relationship. Betty is having trouble with some new people at her church that are questioning her integrity and spirituality.
Having trouble setting boundaries? Are you worried that boundaries go against your Christianity? Dr. Henry Cloud lays the foundation for how to build and maintain healthy boundaries that align with Christian principles. Check out the upcoming workshop and get discounted early bird pricing for a limited time. https://boundaries.me/myboundaries
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How do you stay positive when all of life is coming at you like work, kids, social issues, health problems etc? Dr. Henry Cloud discusses a key element that the mature possess and immature lack: being able to hold the good and bad together at the same time. Written question: Can you offer any advice or strategies to help me find my bearings and start moving forward with purpose and clarity? Connor is struggling with overreacting to his wife’s moods and wants to know how to be more centered. Written question: How does one deal with anxiety about their health? Kim is feeling overwhelmed by her New Year’s resolutions and doesn’t know which ones to prioritize. Melody has an adult son she's having trouble setting financial boundaries with.
Having trouble setting boundaries? Are you worried that boundaries go against your Christianity? Dr. Henry Cloud lays the foundation for how to build and maintain healthy boundaries that align with Christian principles. Check out the upcoming workshop and get discounted early bird pricing for a limited time. https://boundaries.me/myboundaries
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One of the worst feelings you can have in a relationship is loneliness despite being in the presence of another person. Dr. Henry Cloud works through how this all too common problem can be resolved. He uses the example of “I, Thou” where both people in the relationship are showing up with attunement. Written question: Is it better to have a counselor that didn't know you previously so as not to have biases? Jonathan wants to open up to others but doesn't know how to connect after a difficult divorce. Denise needs clarity on when boundaries are being misconstrued as a way to manipulate others. Chris is trying to rebuild trust with coworkers when trust was lost over a rumor. Mike's family is in crisis because of his debts and past behaviors. How can he reconcile with his wife?
Having trouble setting boundaries? Are you worried that boundaries go against your Christianity? Dr. Henry Cloud lays the foundation for how to build and maintain healthy boundaries that align with Christian principles. Check out the upcoming workshop and get discounted early bird pricing for a limited time. https://boundaries.me/myboundaries
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What you are capable of, what you are not capable of, and which one is true are all derived from how you perceive yourself within the context of the world and peoplearound you. Dr. Henry Cloud shares ways to expand how you look at yourself, what you’re capable of, and your relationships with what is outside you. Adrienne needs help dealing with a short tempered father. Lizzie doesn't know whether a romantic interest is safe after he withheld some important things from her. Donna is hoping for a Christmas miracle that thing will change in her family.
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How is it possible that your day to day life can heal you? Dr. Henry Cloud explains how specific but small changes in your day to day life can lead to big changes. Lauren asks Dr. Cloud how to grieve a friendship that's over. Erika is having trouble healing from financial trauma that's causing poor spending behaviors. Mandy was neglected by her mother and is still having trouble finding safe and meaningful way to connect with her.
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The past is the best predictor of the future. Dr. Henry Cloud explains how patterns can be utilized to change your future. By looking at the past honestly we can begin altering our present actions. Mary needs help addressing her in-laws' toxic behavior. Andrea wants to know when it's the right to time to get exclusive in dating relationships. Dan has started a successful business and is getting regular jobs but needs help focussing on the foundation of the business itself.
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Dr. Henry Cloud talks about why empathy is central to having deeper relationships than you have right now. The power of empathy is that it circles back to us. Dr. Cloud explains how as we listen to others and understand their feelings we will begin emotionally regulating ourselves. John is dating someone long distance and wants to know if there's a "right" way to do it. Sally had an affair a while ago and still feels shut out of the relationship. Ginger is trying to find peace after losing a sister she never fully reconciled with.
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Dr. Cloud explains how relationship pain can linger in our lives even when the relationship is over for the right reasons. He lays out ways to start reconnecting with others and working on healthier attachments. Joie's 21 year old son is getting married this weekend and she hasn't met his fiancé yet. Cheryl's 22 year old son went through a bad break up and is literally losing his hair. Emily is having trouble moving on from her alcoholic ex-husband. Kris needs help drawing boundaries around household chores with her adult kids.
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Welcome back to the Dr. Cloud Show! In this episode Dr. Henry Cloud talks about big obstacles and and small obstacles. How do you know which is which, and furthermore what kinds of tactics are you bringing to surmount them?
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Lori is having trouble managing a working relationship with an ex-husband she owns a business with. Jeremy has a 13 year old daughter that started dating and doesn't know where the line is with being overprotective. Therese went through a divorce and is wants to start trusting again, but she has misgivings about how she connect with dates when she doesn't have confidence.
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If you've listened to Dr. Cloud before then you know how much he cares about time and energy. Around the holidays this is especially important. He talks about how to utilize your time and energy so that you're getting the most out of this special time of year. Kieran is trying to spend more time with his girlfriend but her sister is getting in the way. Alexis wants to make peace with her mom without getting manipulated in the process. Maron is feeling dating fatigue and wants to know if she's bringing too much or too little enthusiasm on her dates.
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The Dr. Cloud Show returns! In this episode Dr. Henry Cloud talks about how to get through the holidays with a smile on your face. He takes a call from Betsy who is looking to help her friends through difficulty in their marriage. Carol needs help setting boundaries around financially helping her adult daughter. And Colleen is having trouble with the spiritual aspects of joining a secular support group.
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What is the psychology of becoming yourself? How is your identity formed? This is a deceptively layered question related not only to your past, but to your present and future. There is a concept here that’s important to understand: your true self, and your false self are not the same. We all understand who our true selves are, but our false selves are that person we show to the world out of fear, insecurity, or lack of understanding where we fit in. Sometimes, we lose track of who is who. Dr. Cloud delves into our need for acceptance, and love of who you truly are. We need to feel loved, not from within ourselves, but from outside ourselves in order to start the process of getting to our true identity. Are you so hung up in your past that you can’t get to the “why” of your life? This highlight will help you see where that “why” might be hiding.
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In this third final mini session on difficult conversations Dr. Cloud talks about getting clear about the purpose you’re bringing to the conversation. What are you trying to do? Are you trying to win, trying to persuade, to convince, to show you are right? Or, are you trying to find a solution? When we come with the goal of finding a solution that works for both sides it becomes motivational. This is how we leave a conversation with real change on the horizon. When we transform the other person from an adversary to a partner, with a common goal, that's when we’re on the path to positive changes.
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In this highlight, Dr. Cloud goes into part two of his session on having a difficult conversation. This one is all about preparation. How do you bring your best and keep your fear in check when entering into a difficult conversation? First, you have to have a difficult conversation with yourself. What splinter is stuck in your finger? We have to take that splinter out before we go into the conversation. Sometimes we do that by talking with someone that isn’t involved in the situation to bleed off that frustration. Taking air out of the balloon first is critical. Secondly, we need to take some time beforehand to get clear about what outcome we want. Third, we need to practice it or even write a script to keep on topic during that conversation. And last, start with the end-goal in mind by affirming the relationship and bring loving positive energy to it.
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This is part one of a short series on how to have difficult conversations. In this highlight Dr. Cloud talks about an important skill to build before having a difficult conversation. In this session, he talks about how to create safe space for conversations that could explode. There are a few major issues that arise in difficult conversations: fight, flight or freeze. Dr. Cloud shares ways to make the conversation psychologically safe for the other person. A psychologically safe space is where both sides can share their feelings and thoughts without worry. Without this crucial first step, a successful conversation is highly unlikely.
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In this highlight from the show, Dr. Cloud talks about how we hold ourselves back internally from being who we want to be, or doing what we want with our lives. As children we are kept on short leashes and as we become adults it can be extremely difficult to accept our freedom. No one is holding the leash anymore, but in our heads it’s still there. As long as we keep these mental leashes in our minds, our lives will stay very small. You might associate leash with a comfort zone, and that’s definitely one big reason that growing is so difficult. Dr. Cloud talks about how we can undo these mental leashes so that we can and start exploring our lives with greater freedom to do things we’ve set out to do.
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In this highlight from the show, Dr. Cloud talks about love and limits. One of the more difficult things about loving others is that we make ourselves vulnerable. Codependency easily arises in relationships when we fear losing love and enable bad behavior to prevent that love from leaving. The question then is whether we’re loving them fully when we don’t set limits around bad behavior. Dr. Cloud argues that in fact love and limits working in tandem are required in order for healthy love. Limits provide the structures by which love can grow and thrive. Where confusion arises is when love is withheld unless expectations are met, or limits are broken.
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In this highlight from the show, Dr. Cloud talks about one sure fire way to ruin relationships: Fairness. Why would fairness ruin all of our relationships? Because it requires perfection, and none of us can live up to that. This applies to all of our relationships, not just our closest relationships. We must give grace to get grace. To improve problematic situations in relationships we have to rise above the issues and find solutions or we’ll only make things worse.
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In this highlight, Dr. Cloud talks about something all of us are guilty of: avoiding pain. The psychologist RD Laing said, “There is a great deal of pain in life and perhaps the only pain that can be avoided is the pain that comes from trying to avoid pain.” Avoiding pain is a prescription for more pain. Dr. Cloud shares ways to address pain with less fear, and stop avoiding pain.
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You’ll constantly hear about two main areas to improve on in your life: the physical and the metaphysical. But that’s not the whole story. In fact, it’s missing a HUGE part of our lives–the third leg of the stool if you will. In no particular order there are three areas we we need to maintain and improve on in our lives. One is our physical bodies. Next we have our metaphysical side (our thoughts, moods, spirit etc.). And third we have who we are connected with, our relationships. Having strong and supportive connections in your relationships or conversely having relationships that are lacking in some area will make as big an impact in your life as the other two areas. Are you working on all three legs of the stool today, or ever? All three require your effort and attention.
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Dr. Cloud's next workshop is on Healing Parental Wounds. In this 2-hour live streaming webinar Dr. Cloud will help you identify your parental relationship injuries, understand how to face them, and give you the practical tools and advice you need to grow past your suffering. If you can't attend live, don't worry, you can stream the recording as much as you like. To find out more about it go to https://Boundaries.me/parental
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In this highlight from the show, Dr. Cloud presents us with a seeming paradox of growth: developing new abilities and meeting challenges involves struggle. Trees need wind in order to stay standing–they need the stress of wind to stimulate the growth of deeper roots. It’s a parallel that applies to us humans too. Good stress fosters growth. Just like we need resistance to grow muscles, we need metaphysical challenges to grow spiritually and mentally. Not only do we need to change the way we see challenges, but we also need to stop rescuing people, especially our kids, from each and every challenge to bring about resilience and growth.
Dr. Cloud's next workshop is on Healing Parental Wounds. In this 2-hour live streaming webinar Dr. Cloud will help you identify your parental relationship injuries, understand how to face them, and give you the practical tools and advice you need to grow past your suffering. If you can't attend live, don't worry, you can stream the recording as much as you like. To find out more about it go to https://Boundaries.me/parental
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In this highlight from the show, Dr. Cloud talks about how and why we procrastinate and gives us some deceptively simple ways to address it. It starts with shrinking the task. Because the things we are putting off doing are always overwhelming in some way, the key is in breaking it down to one simple thing you can do. It’s not that you lack the ability to do the thing you’re avoiding, it’s just that you aren’t moving. Your emergency brake is engaged. Get that parking brake off, pop that tiny hole in the balloon, start the “leak” in that task and you’re off and running.
Dr. Cloud's next workshop is on Healing Parental Wounds. In this 2-hour live streaming webinar Dr. Cloud will help you identify your parental relationship injuries, understand how to face them, and give you the practical tools and advice you need to grow past your suffering. If you can't attend live, don't worry, you can stream the recording as much as you like. Discounted pricing is available until October 9th. To find out more about it go to https://Boundaries.me/parental
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Starting on a successful path of growth requires having a good accountability partner. So what makes for a good accountability partner? Dr. Cloud goes through a short checklist of what to seek out and what to avoid in our candidates.
Dr. Cloud's next workshop is on Healing Parental Wounds. In this 2-hour live streaming webinar Dr. Cloud will help you identify your parental relationship injuries, understand how to face them, and give you the practical tools and advice you need to grow past your suffering. If you can't attend live, don't worry, you can stream the recording as much as you like. To find out more about it go to https://Boundaries.me/parental
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Dr. Cloud's next workshop is on Healing Parental Wounds. In this 2-hour live streaming webinar Dr. Cloud will help you identify your parental relationship injuries, understand how to face them, and give you the practical tools and advice you need to grow past your suffering. If you can't attend live, don't worry, you can stream the recording as much as you like. To find out more about it go to https://Boundaries.me/parental
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One of the most powerful treatments for ailments like anxiety and depression is to change how you’re talking to yourself. So much of our self-talk is happens automatically, especially when we’re stressed. Dr. Cloud talks about how to start replacing those critical voices with positive ones, not just on your own, but with the people you surround yourself with.
We all want to be self confident but it’s often elusive. Dr. Cloud takes us through an introduction on how we acquire self confidence. Self confidence comes from trusting yourself and your actions. That’s hard to do when we doubt ourselves. Dr. Cloud brings it back to original sin, and the idea that we are able to judge like God does. When we commit to these types of self judgments we are no longer simply doing the thing in front of us, but also criticizing it in ways that cause anxiety, fear of failure and slew of other problems that trip us up. Self confidence comes from practice in the absence of judgment. Remember this, when you’re self confident, you’re never thinking about self confidence.
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In this highlight from The Dr. Cloud Show: When we’re trying to get from point A to B in a relationship or with a goal, a critical factor is our time. Literally anything we want to improve on–an addiction, finances, raising children, learning a new skill–requires time and prioritization. How we use our time is obviously important, but it’s very easy to miss the reality of what we’re doing with it. That’s where the time audit comes in. When you learn where you’re actually spending your time doing, you regain the opportunity to make decisions about how you’re using it. And that’s the key to the time audit: it clearly shows you where you’re spending your time, and where you can choose to spend it differently. It empowers you to make new and better decisions.
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In this highlight from the podcast, Dr. Cloud discusses the old cliche about how your thinking determines your feelings. Does your thinking change your feelings? Do your feelings change your behavior? Does your behavior change your thinking? In short, yes, to all of these depending on what you need to address. It might not be intuitive. You might be feeling anxious, and you know that changing your thinking will change how you’re feeling, but good luck! We often find that with anxiety, we need to change behavior first in order to change our thinking which in turn changes how we’re feeling, as one quick example. Dr. Cloud discusses how it’s often not one formula that’s going to get you to the solution and provides some useful illustrations on how this all works.
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Achieving the ideals in life–feeling good, having great relationships, and accomplishing goals–is something that all of us want. It’s funny that so many of us struggle with this right? So often the first crucial step is missing. You have to focus on the inside. Seeking internal growth is required to see the changes we want come into existence. Dr. Cloud asks: What path are you on to work on your internal growth?
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In this highlight from the Dr. Cloud Show, Henry talks about a key mental state for making big changes. 99% of what you’re trying to accomplish in your life has been done, even the really hard stuff. People have lost 100 pounds, they have turned around broken relationships, they’ve gone from bankruptcy to wealth. These things happen and they can happen for you, but it requires doing things differently than you’re doing them. The first step is believing it’s possible. The next step is getting help. After that we have to set out a plan and that’s where the “no choice choice” comes in. You choose that something you want to do is not an option, it’s not a decision. Dr. Cloud gives examples on how to get started in small ways and how those small steps make outsized impacts.
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In this highlight from the podcast, Dr. Cloud dives into an all-too common problem during confrontations: Hijacking. We’ve probably all had this happen at least once. Someone has done something that needs to be addressed and when we confront them they externalize it: it’s about someone else, or some other thing that happened. The problem is no longer in the room, and as we all know, you can’t fix a problem that’s not in the room. Another thing they might do is turn into the victim and shut down. When this happens they have effectively hijacked the conversation. Dr. Cloud gives examples on how to handle various types of hijacking.
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The word “hate” triggers lots of thoughts in most people, but there are good types of hate. It’s good to hate depression, poverty, lies, violence and so on. In fact, what we hate can actually define us in positive ways. At the core of this talk, Dr. Cloud points out that while hating is a very natural human emotion, it needs to be done the right way.
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There are two parallel tracks that run through just about everything we do: Love and Truth, or put another way–Love and Structure–or yet another Love and Limits. To get the good out of something we need to apply a structure, a method, a limit, but we need to do it lovingly. This applies broadly in life. Not just in how we treat others, but also in how we talk to ourselves. When you fail at something, do you give yourself feedback with love? Probably not. That’s the big divide. Get Love and Limits to be better friends and your life will be better. Start with yourself and you'll see how it pours into your relationships.
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What does happiness mean to you? 90% of it comes from things other than circumstances. We don’t have a lot of control over the circumstances in our lives, but we do have control over our practices and routines. No matter what circumstances happen to you, winning the lottery, buying something you’ve always wanted, whatever it is, you’ll come back to your set-point of happiness. Happy people put practices in their lives that lead to their set-point of happiness increasing, and you can too. So what are those practices? Dr. Cloud discusses the main factors that contribute to growing and lasting happiness.
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In this highlight from the podcast, Dr. Cloud comes back to a foundational, but oft overlooked aspect of boundaries. The Law of Respect. When we want people to respect our boundaries we in turn have to respect theirs, and it’s not easy. We have to learn to love and respect people’s “no’s.” It’s one of the hardest parts about setting boundaries.
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In this highlight Dr. Cloud talks about the gap between where we are now and where we want to be. It’s often fear that prevents us from getting where we want to be. Each person's fears are different. How are you afraid, and what does your reaction to fear look like? Dr. Cloud talks about how to find what those fears are in the different parts of your life.
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In this highlight from the show, Dr. Cloud addresses why we worry about people not liking us. It’s fine to be concerned about what people close to you think, but not everyone. If we can’t differentiate between who matters to us and who doesn’t, then anyone can affect us. We’ll start people-pleasing with everybody. The solution is not a solo-event. While there is some work one can do on their own to rewire their thinking, what matters is spending time in healing relationships. That could be a therapist, or wise friend, or mentor, or a coach–anyone you can feel vulnerable around and know you’re safe with. Dr. Cloud talks about how this changes our thinking in all of our encounters.
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In this highlight from the podcast, Dr. Cloud answers and a frequently asked question about getting a parent to seek therapy. For people of faith, belief in the power of prayer can sometimes prevent them from seeking professional therapy. When someone says it’s all just psycho-babble, the Bible says otherwise. We need help from others, for grieving, for addiction, for depression, and so much more, and the Bible backs that up.
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In this highlight from the podcast, Dr. Cloud answers a written question: How do I get started changing emotionally unhealthy patterns? The first step to breaking an unhealthy pattern is recognizing and owning the need to change it. Following that, we need to become comfortable with it taking some time. Unhealthy patterns are not changed overnight. Healing takes time, and growth takes time. Changing a pattern is not the same as fixing a problem. Patterns recur, problems are incidental. Which leads to the main step: How are you going to spend your time, and how do you stay on track? Dr. Cloud talks about how to change the way you’re thinking about failures and setbacks along the way.
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In this highlight from the podcast Dr. Cloud dispels the myth of “self-help.” All help comes from outside ourselves. We have to get out of our closed circle in order to break through and learn new things. But advice is cheap, and you can get it anywhere. You have to turn to people that have the skills, energy and or intelligence to really help you. Whatever gap you want to close in your life, try doing it on your own, but realize that you may need help. When you learn that you’re not in a closed circle with your problems, that you can open that door and get help from the outside that actually knows about the solutions to the problems you’re facing, you will grow and overcome.
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In this highlight from the show, Dr. Cloud talks about follow-through. We all commit ourselves to getting things done. Whether that’s helping out a friend, or telling our spouse we’ll do something, whatever it may be. When we fail to get those things done, we might think it’s because we lacked follow-through. But is that it? A lack of follow-through implies that something could have been done but we failed to execute for some reason. In many instances the issue isn’t the follow-through, it’s committing to something when it will overstretch our capacities or resources. How much is on your plate? What can come off your plate to open up your availability? Your problem might not be follow-through, but the inability to say no.
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In this highlight from the podcast, Dr. Cloud talks about why relationships require togetherness and separateness. You might have attachment issues, or anxiety issues. You might interpret separateness as abandonment. You might be feeling controlled because you don't have enough personal time. Start by asking yourself if you’re spending too much time together, or too much time apart. If you don’t have any togetherness, you don’t have a relationship. If you don’t have any separateness, you’re enmeshed. We were made to be together and separate without losing love for each other.
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In this highlight from the podcast, Dr. Cloud talks about how damaging triangulation can be in relationships. Triangulation is a common and often destructive problem in relationships in families, friendships, working relationships. When a conflict arises between two people, a third party is often brought in, unintentionally or intentionally, to ease the tension and pain. We’re not talking about professional counseling here or having a third person there for the conversation. That's one thing. But what often happens is a "Victim, Persecutor, Rescuer,"triangle. This is where the "victim" doesn’t talk to the "persecutor" but instead goes to the third party, the "rescuer." From there, matters tend to get worse. So what can you do about it? What matters most is that when a third party is involved they have resolution as their goal.
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In this highlight from the show, Dr. Cloud talks about our automatic tendencies in conflicts. Our default tendencies aren’t always so productive, fruitful or stellar. Sometimes they stem from conflicts or trauma and often do us a disservice. Dr. Cloud talks Dr. Karen Horney’s way of breaking down these tendencies into categories. Our automatic tendencies fall into one of three modes: Moving Towards, Moving Against, and Moving Away. The first step is figuring out what your default tendency is, and then making a thoughtful decision about whether that’s the appropriate way for you to respond to your situation.
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In this highlight Dr. Cloud talks about the path to finding peace. When we know we’re right in a conflict, it’ll often prevent us from making peace with the other party. How can we be bigger people and begin the process of reconciliation? You’re not just doing it for their sake, you’re doing it for yours too.
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In this short highlight from the podcast, Dr. Cloud addresses the old saying that a person's character becomes their destiny. It's often the little things, the small decisions, that over time become our habits. These habits become patterns, which become our identity and character.
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In this highlight from from the podcast, Dr. Cloud talks about why we need to practice gratitude to lead our best life. Psychologists researching happiness have found that practicing gratitude is crucial for a happy and fulfilling life. So how can we do it more often and more meaningfully?
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In this highlight from the podcast Dr. Cloud talks about how automatic thoughts are different from normal thinking. These automatic thoughts greatly affect our mood and outlook on life. So how can we avoid the spiral of negative thinking that they often cause?
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In this short highlight from the podcast Dr. Cloud talks about the importance of getting back to what really matters in life. We often find ourselves stressed out about the wrong things. Reprioritizing and remembering what matters gets us back on track.
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In this highlight from The Dr. Cloud Show, how can we become more comfortable with anger? Anger isn’t correct in anything other than signaling that something is wrong. When we can see that it's a signal to investigate, rather than an instruction to respond we can react well.
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In this short from The Dr. Cloud Show, forgiveness does not require us trusting someone to give it. Forgiveness is free, trust is earned. We often get hung up thinking that forgiving someone means that we'll trust them again. They're not the same thing.
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In this short highlight from The Dr. Cloud Show, what can we do to break the cycle of guilt? There is self-condemnation that keeps us stuck, and there’s remorse that can move us forward. The big delusion is that guilt keeps people in check, and it doesn’t. It makes them act out more and keeps the cycle going. It doesn’t help.
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In this short from The Dr. Cloud Show, how do we relinquish a victimhood mentality and regain control over our lives? You have to re-own that you have the power of choice. You may have been powerless over what happened, but you can’t internalize that powerlessness.
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In this short from The Dr. Cloud Show, overcoming obstacles can seem nearly impossible when we don't know what to do, or where to start. We often forget that we can learn new things we don't yet know. When we learn that we can learn is when we begin making progress. Share this with anyone that's stuck in a rut.
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In this short from The Dr. Cloud Show, why are you stuck repeating the same patterns, especially with difficult people in your life? How does confirmation bias keep us trapped in dysfunctional situations? What can you do to get out of it?
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Welcome to Shorts! These are quick podcasts that cover a subject we here on the team think is worth highlighting. This one is called Find the Misery and Make a Rule. Share it with anyone that's banging their head against the wall!
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On this special edition of the podcast we are shining the spotlight on Negative Thinking. Dr. Cloud shares his thoughts and insights on how to break negative thinking patterns and end the negative self talk and self criticism that we all fall prey to.
Jennifer is having difficulty letting go of negative thought patterns. How can she let go of regrets about her past that battle her positive feelings about herself?
Hannah is also trying to move on from her past mistakes. When self criticisms disguise themselves in the form of a question, like "Why are you so stupid," we have difficulty getting to the real question that can help us resolve the real issue. It's often fear that keeps us from breaking our negative thinking patterns.
David has become aware of his defensiveness and wants to work on it. How can he rewire himself to receive love in order to break the negative thinking patterns and self criticism?
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In this special edition of the podcast we're focusing the spotlight on anxiety.
Dr. Cloud talks about the difference between a gut instinct protecting us from danger, and anxiety preventing us from doing what we should.
Darlene has anxiety. What can she do to change her mental dialogue that leads her to anxiousness?
Erin needs help with her anxiety around her parents. They fight all the time. How can she embrace the anxiety she has when she's around them? How can "Decatastrophizing" the situation ahead of seeing time help ease her anxiousness?
Breanne is realizing that she's a people pleaser. It's a defense mechanism to combat her social anxiety. How can addressing past trauma play a role in reducing her social anxiety?
Dana has long had anxiety and fears about being hospitalized. In the face of Covid, many of those fears are no longer irrational. How can we deal with anxiety that's not based on irrational fear?
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In this special edition of the podcast we spotlight Dr. Cloud’s insights on the subject of narcissism.
Dr. Cloud's introduction covers the over-attribution of narcissism, what it is, and what it is not.
Shelly is seeing signs of narcissism in a man she's dating. She want to know: Can narcissists change?
Hayley has a narcissistic mom. She's been "gray rocking" her and it's working, but her sisters don't practice it. Dr. Cloud discusses how all narcissists are not the same and there isn't one strategy that's going to work for all of them. Many techniques can be employed.
Cheri wants to know if narcissists are aware of how their actions are perceived by others. Is it automatic for them to be manipulative, like a defense mechanism? Is there a way to make them see what they're doing to stop the behavior?
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Question: According to my spouse, I'm struggling with balancing priorities in my marriage. We both work and I spend my free time on the golf course. This seems to create conflict in our marriage. I only play on the weekend. How can I balance work, golf, and my marriage?
Question: Our daughter and her boyfriend have been dating for two years. They met in college. Both of them graduate in May with mechanical engineering degrees. They're discussing marriage. We suggested they wait just another year, but they are sure they want to get married. We're being supportive. How much say should we have in this?
Victoria is having trouble succeeding in career pursuits. She's reading books that are giving her lots of different things to prioritize. She's having trouble identifying the obstacles and causes of her negative thinking.
Question: I'm struggling over my feelings and thoughts of an ex-boyfriend. It's been a long time since we stopped seeing each other, but I can't stop thinking about him. How do I stop ruminating?
Question: How do you handle someone who tries to use guilt to manipulate you? When I try to address it, they won't listen to the hurt it causes me. Instead, they turn it back to how they are hurting.
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Question: How do you separate being a helpmate to your spouse versus being an enabler? How can you let them own their responsibilities and help them with kindness and love?
Anne is in couples counseling. Her counselor wants her to validate some pretty crazy feelings that her husband is having. It makes her uncomfortable. How can she balance out participating and boundaries?
Question: How can I have more balanced friendships? I tend to be the listener all the time and attract people that have no true interest in my stories. I feel used.
Jennifer had a six year relationship end because he was afraid her daughter would falsely accuse him of inappropriate behavior. How can she move on and process the loss?
Question: I have been on a healing journey from CPTSD and the Holy Spirit has been so present in all of it. How do I set myself free from feeling like I need to go back to relationships that were so unhealthy?
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Question: I am recovering from a bad relationship. I feel like I've come a long way but now I'm surprised by how much I miss him and the good times we had. Aside from therapy, what can I do for myself?
Lynn is feeling disconnected from her family and is learning about ambivalent attachment. What are Dr. Cloud's thoughts on ambivalent attachment?
Question: A bad relationship from my past wired me to be different. Can you talk to us about how to rewire ourselves into a newer version of ourselves?
Question: How can someone set boundaries on social media to protect romantic relationships without being controlling? One person has voluntarily deleted their accounts in an effort to gain trust back. How does a couple move on after a breach of trust?
Vanessa is trying to process the good and bad together after a relationship has ended. How can she process all the second guessing?
Question: How do you find dependable friends when all the people in your life are undependable? What the things to watch out for going forward?
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Cheri wants to know: Do narcissists know what they're doing or are they unaware of it? Is it automatic for them to be manipulative, like a defense mechanism? Is there a way to make them see it?
Question: What's the difference between shame and guilt?
Question: Disapproval triggers me and I'm hard on myself about it. I'm married with kids yet I still feel like a child. How do I get my needs met without feeling afraid and more insecure?
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Katherine wonders if she's an "unsafe" person, and if so, what can she do about it?
Question: How do I get over the guy I was in love with? We agreed to go separate ways because we want different things. It's been two weeks. I can't stop thinking about him. It makes me sick thinking about him with another woman.
Laurel's mother died recently. Her sister thinks she betrayed her when she didn't and the sister refuses to talk to her. She wants to keep her boundaries, but things are going to stay like they are unless she caves in. What other options does she have?
Question: How do I relax? I have good stuff going on in my life too, but it's hard to breathe in the midst of everything.
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Question: My husband and I are struggling in our relationship with his mother. When we put small boundaries in place, she gets upset and reacts with passive aggressiveness and tries to make us feel guilty. How do we create a healthy relationship with her?
Question: What are some good questions you can ask someone on a first date to really get to know their character?
Question: I struggle with letting my 23-year-old daughter face possible consequences. I think she has mental health issues and a drug problem. She calls crying when the bottom falls out. How do I "let go and let God?"
Question: As I get older, I find that my circle of friends is getting smaller and it becomes more difficult to make new friends. If I do make new friends, are there things I can look for in a person to know that they're going to be a good long-term friend?
Claire is close to her parents and puts their advice higher than anyone else's. They didn't let her date when she was a teen. She wants to talk to them about her dating life to get advice, but she's not sure how it will go.
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Question: I am seeing a guy who tells me he isn't looking for a relationship, but he always talks to me and makes time for me every day. Could this guy be lying about what he really wants?
Question: I have become a self-righteous witch to my husband. We have been in couples counseling for a year. The therapist says my husband is conflict avoidant and he now uses that as an excuse. What can I do to handle the conflict avoidant behavior without ending my marriage?
Stephanie is trying to figure out how to heal a friendship that became romantic. How can she stop blaming him for the things he can't control? What's the first step in restoring their friendship?
Lindsay needs guidance on setting boundaries with her husband as they work through issues in their marriage. They're in counseling, but she's feeling fatigued. How can they come to agreements that will prevent blow-ups?
Question: How does a parent gain trust with a babysitter for their special-needs child?
Question: My husband agreed to a joint checking account, but he still has a separate account and assets. He refuses to get a job and keeps taking money out of our joint account. Should I give up on him?
Question: My parents are struggling with my two teen brothers. There was a lack of structure and discipline early on. What are some ways they can set boundaries with teenagers?
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Question: I am mustering the energy and patience necessary to be a stay at home mom to three kids under seven years old. I have the hardest time not being an absolutely horrible person to my kids especially when I'm sleep deprived. Dow you have any advice?
Annalisa is naturally hard on herself. She's in therapy for it. Her self-critical ways have rubbed off on her son. What can she do to help herself and her son stop the self-criticism?
Question: Learning to lose well can involve a lot of grief, especially when you have teenagers making poor choices you feel responsible for. How do you move past the regrets of parenting and into a more loving and accepting relationship with you kids?
Question: Paul needs to set some boundaries with his wife but doesn't know how. A simple disagreement led to her locking him out the house. What can they do to get some help?
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Our call system ran into some issues on this episode so all of the questions below were written-in during the live chat on YouTube and Facebook.
If your future sister-in-law tells you that boundaries are unbiblical and that Christians are to instruct and rebuke one another, are boundaries worth discussing with her? She’s telling my fiancé and me how to live our lives: how many times to attend church, what are sexual activities need to be, what we should do with finances, etc. What’s the best way to approach this? Should we try to show her why boundaries are healthy? Or should we just say, “Please keep your unsolicited advice to yourself. We’re not interested.”
How does someone communicate a boundary when it is always met with anger and defensiveness? That anger and defensiveness causes fear in the one trying to communicate the boundary and the person trying to set the boundary is living with the other person?
How do you deal with a “Pharisee ” who thinks they are telling you truth when it is really their opinion that you don’t agree with? They have bible verses to back up what they say. When I disagree they tell me I just don’t want to listen to truth.
How do I know what is my gut instinct and what is my anxiety not wanting me to do something? I am learning how to trust myself when making decisions.
My boyfriend admitted he has low EQ and he wants to grow in it, but I don’t think he knows how or where to start. How can I help and encourage him without becoming controlling or having high expectations?
How can I recognize when I’m making an assumption about someone. Especially a wrong assumption?
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Question: Is it possible to rebuild trust with someone who has a personality disorder, like BPD, a learning disability like ADHD or some other developmental disability?
Question: As it relates to follow-through, who is the "irresponsible" one if we keep accepting checks from the repeat "bouncers?" Is it the person who accepts the check, or the person who writes the check that bounces?
Bethany's 22 year old daughter eloped. She got upset because she gave her daughter money for the wedding that never took place. She's had minimal contact with her daughter since. How can she fix this? She doesn't want this division.
Christina is engaged. How does she know if she should give up or needs to keep trying in her relationship? He's controlling, jealous and he's using religion to to control her. Is this something they can work through?
Shirley wants to get along with a difficult son-in-law. He is always right, and always has the right answer. Things are not open for discussion. How can she get along with a person like this?
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Question: What's the best way to change the narrative with a person who disguises control and manipulation as helpfulness and advice? I've run out of ways to say "no thanks!" and they won't stop!
Sarah has been processing her codependent ways and making real progress. How do can she get back to a "baseline" and what does that look like ? How can she become a healthy giver without reverting to her codependent tendencies?
Rebecca is a career teacher and is exhausted. She doesn't know whether she can commit two more years to teaching, or whether to just retire and wait tables at a restaurant. How can she delegate some work at home to ease her burnout?
Lynn is stuck. She's having unresolved conflicts with her husband about multiple viewpoints on issues. When she tries to work through it, he just chalks it up to having different perspectives. How do they come to an agreement and not leave things unresolved?
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Question: Could you explain cognitive dissonance?
Question: What is protective structure?
Marie isn't sure if she's enabling her brother. He's living out of a van but he's got a job. What plan could she put into place to assist him without creating dependency?
Kris's family of origin has trouble controlling their anger. The blow up all the time. She's forgiven them but it keeps happening. How can she deal with them in a positive manner when tempers flare? She wants to respond rather than react to their outbursts.
Question: How do you best confront someone who gets very easily offended and defensive? They then use multiple techniques to avoid the issue and get you off track in the conversation so you never get things solved.
Question: I need to get over my fears and my racing heart. I overthink when I need to discuss something with my husband, whether it's about a lie, or if I need to tell him about my daughter's problems. What is the best way to get over this?
Mariana has mom that keeps overstepping with advice about to parent her kids. How can she set a boundary with her mom about unsolicited advice? Whenever she confronts her, her mom stonewalls her.
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Julie's family left their church a year ago and started attending a new church remotely. They're ready to start attending a church locally but don't know what they're looking for. How do they start their search?
Question: If triangulation is an issue in my family of origin, how do I resolve it? I am the one everyone talks about. What do I do?
Question: Is couples therapy considered Triangulation?
Cindy has a triangulation question. She has a family business with her husband and son. She's constantly playing the mediator in their disputes. How can she get out of this role?
Question: What do you know about people that smoke marijuana--mentally, physically and emotionally? Some friends and family think it doesn't bother them in anyway.
Claire is a youth pastor. She's been setting boundaries and making new friends. Her new friends keep pressuring her into drinking and she keeps saying no, but they won't listen. What can she do next?
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Isabel has a friend that is depressed. She wants to be supportive but her friend is extremely isolated due to Covid restrictions of family she lives with. What can she do to lift her spirits?
Question: Am I "judging" my daughter when I ask her to go to counseling? She has addictions. I try to encourage without enabling her. What's the difference between evaluation and judgment?
Question: What is the best way to tell my 30 year old daughter she may have PTSD? We experienced an armed robbery when she was eight years old. She's been fighting with me and getting easily triggered.
Sue is in a Celebrate Recovery group. She's friends with a gal in the group that's told her some concerning things about her marriage but it hasn't crossed the threshold of the group's guidelines. Her husband also comes to the group. What should she do?
Jessica is seeing someone and they've been on four dates so far. She's worried that her expectations are getting in the way. how can she tell if her expectations are reasonable?
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Donna is feeling stuck in her marriage after 38 years. They're basically roommates at this point. She's running on an empty love-tank. What can she do to keep her emotional and mental health going?
Question: If I'm dating a person and he tells me that he's dating other people should I continue dating him? He's still on a dating site.
Christie needs help navigating her relationship with her in-laws without it affecting her marriage. If it were up to her, she wouldn't see them anymore.
Chris just went through a break up. They were together for six months. She is his sister's best friend. He got scared that neither of them were emotionally ready for the relationship. How can he heal and be more available?
Question: How do you say "I care about you, but it's not the right time to go to the next level?" He's going through a divorce and drinking more than he should.
Tammy's husband lives in another state and doesn't think there are problems in their marriage. She feels abandoned. What can she do to help their relationship?
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Question: How do you make dating fun? I feel like it's such an obligation for me. After a first date I always feel like things are more transactional where we measure up our accomplishments and it's disheartening.
Question: I have a friend that I want to reconnect with but I'm not sure if, or how, I should. We used to date and he wants to date again.
Michelle from Australia is in a relationship with a man that lost his wife two years ago. How can she navigate through his grief with him?
Question: How long do you think a man should wait after wife passed to start dating?
Danielle is a nurse and is feeling exhausted. It's been her calling in life but now she is worried about the damage from burnout.
Question: I've been divorced for 20 years and had a couple of long term relationships since that were dysfunctional. I'm currently dating nice man and don't want to take out the sins of the past on him.
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Question: How do I overcome my fear of online dating?
Susan's needs to set a boundary with her husband. He is "best friends" with a single woman and talks to her all the time. How can she draw the line?
Marie gets anxious when she's around her mom because she's verbally abusive. How can she stop taking on responsibility for her mom's feelings?
Question: How do I overcome the fear of talking about the past with my parents?
Question: You've just talked about the anxiety of growth. I'm trying to set boundaries, but the people in my life aren't used to me saying no. How do I cope with the stress?
Question: If you're in a dating relationship with someone and starting to think about dating someone else, is that a sign to move on?
Bridgette is dealing with a mom that never wanted to let go. She's not sure how to set boundaries with her or where to get started.
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A listener wrote: Is it good to remain friends after a breakup? Are there guidelines that may help? Does proper healing mean total separation from your ex?
A listener wrote: What advice do you have to help me act like an ex-wife while I'm still living with my ex-husband? I'm unemployed and can't afford to move.
Kay's daughter is awaiting disability payments. She doesn't want to give her daughter any money that might enable further bad choices. How can she share her concerns with her daughter?
Jenny called back to get more advice on how to get her goals accomplished.
Abby is dating a great guy, and thinks things are going great, but whenever they're apart she gets anxious. Is this all on her, or is there a lack of communication causing her insecurity?
A listener wrote: My husband says all the right things, he loves me, and thinks I'm a great wife, but he doesn't make time for our relationship. He's always golfing, watching football, and working. When we're on a date, he'll watch football on his phone. I'm in a lonely marriage and wish his actions were as strong as his words.
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A live viewer wrote: What does a mentally healthy person get from prayer?
A live viewer wrote: Grappling with whether divorce is the right thing to do according to God's will. Am I listening to the will of God?
Jenny feels like she has talents she's not using. How can she get out of her own way and start accomplishing her goals?
Sue was physically abused by her ex-husband. How can she rebuild her trust and confidence around men? She gets triggered easily.
A live viewer wrote: My phone, television and other technology tends to overwhelm me. I'm limiting notifications but am I just treating the symptom and not the missing cause of why I'm overwhelmed?
Wendy isn't loving the messages at her church and feels disconnected. Her husband feels the opposite. She doesn't want to leave for emotional reasons, and would rather leave for rational reasons, but is that right? Should she trust her heart, or wait for more concrete issues to base a decision on?
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A live viewer wrote: Should we knowingly date a person who has been tested as a psychopath?
A live viewer wrote: How do you share the fights and arguments you're having at with your spouse without it leading to triangulation?
Jackie is working her way through postpartum depression. Whenever she feels like she's making progress she begins losing trust in her counselor and herself. How can she stop letting her doubts control the process?
A live viewer wrote: How do you handle a husband scripturally who won't leave and cleave from his family of origin? It's affecting our immediate family.
Maria doesn't know if it's time to cut ties with her mom. Every time they talk it devolves and triggers her. Is there a way to go no-contact that will improve the relationship?
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In the context of dating, how do you know if someone likes you for who you really are? Are there signs or behaviors to look for?
Starr's husband is a recovering alcoholic. He has become extremely lazy. She doesn't know how much of it is from brain damage, or whether she can hold him accountable.
A listener wrote in asking about how much she should share with her three adult children about their father after their recent divorce. He's been bad mouthing her.
Betty doesn't know if she's playing the role of supporter or codependent. She's got custody of her grandkids and doesn't know if the financial help, the moral support, or the chores and errands are making things worse. What does healthy support look like?
How much should you tell your date about your past relationships?
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How do you trust someone if you never know when they're telling the truth? Can you look at facts and actions instead?
Florence has forgiven her mom for how she was treated as child, but her mom hasn't really changed. She's not sure how forgiveness works. Should she just sweep this under the rug or is there a different path to forgiving her that will lead to some changes?
Robin is internalizing her anger with her dysfunctional bosses. they make a big deal out of small problems, and don't pay attention to pressing issues. Is there a better way to bring up her concerns without causing a backlash?
What do you do when your parents tell you that you don't love them unless you do what they say?
A viewer wrote in: How do I rebuild trust with my husband? He was addicted to pornography. How can she learn to trust herself too?
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Hannah is trying to move on from past mistakes and forgive herself. She keeps dredging up the past and it's stopping her from growing. What techniques can she use to dispute her negative thoughts?
Lily wants to know how to "radically embrace" herself. She often only presents certain parts of herself the the world and she'd like to live more fully and openly.
Referring to a back to a conversation on creating habits, an audience member wrote in asking about how it is that we get "sick" of something? They were on strict diet for two years then suddenly felt revolted by it and couldn't bring themselves to eat another bite.
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Sherry is trying to reconcile with family and wants to take the emotions out of it. She feels the need to appeal to the emotional aspects of their problems. It's exhausting and painful. Is there a healthier way to go about reconciling?
Written Question: When people you're close to cross your boundaries, is it too harsh to not want contact?
Benjamin's wife is distrustful of him in the most important areas like his love and faithfulness to her and in their finances. He's not sure what he can do differently.
Written Question: I'm returning to my ex-fiance after 2 years, they are working through issues. The problem is that the people closest to me aren't convinced things are all that different.
Robin and John are setting a boundary with their daughter-in-law. She's been rude in the past. As a result, they don't have the relationship they'd like to with their grandchildren. How can they find a middleground?
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Patty wants to know if the person she's dating is the right person to marry. She needs to know better how she's feeling. What's the right way to have that conversation with him?
What makes a good accountability partner?
Ryan is suffering from depression. He's seeing a therapist and it isn't going great. What's an effective strategy for finding a good therapist?
A viewer wrote in asking about goal setting. They want to get out of debt and lose weight. While they know what they should do, how do you get motivated to actually do it?
How do you set boundaries if you fear retaliation from people? What step can you take to reinforce your boundaries when people disregard them?
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Rebecca wants to know some techniques for being more like herself in front of men she's attracted to. She gets anxious and becomes less of her confident self.
Trying to reconnect with her passions in life, Collette, 65, is looking for tips to start her journey of self discovery.
Margot started a fast friendship with a guy. She says it's not romantic. They're close but he's backed away and she doesn't know why. How can she find out why he's gone cold? He's not open about it.
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
A viewer wrote in when we were live asking about their binge eating problem. They need help getting to the root of the problem.
Shanna has a mother-in-law that has relied on her and her husband as an emotional crutch for years. How can they remain compassionate while setting boundaries about not being a parent to their parent?
Katherine's boyfriend is a recovering alcoholic that relapsed. What's her role and what boundaries can she use to protect herself?
Kerri is 57 and is conflicted about getting back into the dating world. She freaks out when she starts connecting. How can she learn to get more comfortable with the process?
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
Brenda can't decide whether to contact her ex-boyfriend. He's ill and she doesn't know what the right thing is to do. Their relationship ended because of toxic behaviors.
Sandy's son-in-law has PTSD. He's a flight paramedic and sees the worst types of accidents. Sandy really wants to help him by not triggering him or making matters worse when they visit. What can she do to be a comforting person when she's around him?
Kelly is getting ready for the holiday's. She just wants some time with her immediate family, but it's causing trouble. Her husband thinks of the holidays as time for the whole family to get together and not exclude those that don't have other family to be with.
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
A viewer of the show wrote in asking about the difference between reacting and responding. When we react to another person, they're in control. When we respond, we're in control. Dr. Cloud provides examples.
Jessica is estranged from her brother. When she expressed her feelings to him, he put up a wall. It's been a year since they last talked. She's fine with the situation but their mom isn't. How can she get her mom to stop persisting with their reconciliation?
Paul is having trouble saying no to his wife. He feels guilted into making promises he can't keep regarding his time and his work. He feels like saying no to her requests isn't an option because every time he does say no, it causes a backlash.
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
Melissa's job brings her into people's homes. How can she set boundaries with people that see her like family?
What do you do about an impatient spouse?
Is sarcasm ever a good thing?
What is the difference between love and respect?
Chris and Kristen sent a letter to his mom about boundaries and it backfired.
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Elaine has questions about the right way to encourage her husband to grow.
Lance is dating a long time friend. Her words are kind, but her actions are cold. How can he get past her walls?
David runs an adult bible study. A common problem they have is about how to detach from their adult kids.
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Jennifer has a calling to help people and needs help deciding which direction to take.
Christine can't let go of being a parent to her son who is now an adult. It's affecting her relationships outside the family.
How do we create structure for our lives and establish healthy routines?
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Kevin wants to know himself better. How can he unpack why he thinks and feels the way he does?
Sheree has been married twice and doesn't trust her judgment with men. How can she know when she's ready to date again?
Lisa had a bad experience with a therapist and wants help finding one better suited for her.
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How do you handle yourself according to biblical principles through a divorce.
Nicole has been dating a guy that wants to be exclusive but is ghosting her now.
How are Childhood Emotional Neglect and codependency related?
Thought on the enneagram and its usefulness.
Matt's wife is emotionally distant and it's affecting his ability to perform at work and at home.
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Rebecca's son approached her about setting boundaries but then didn't set any.
How do you break the cycle of saying yes for fear of a negative response?
Cindy got intimate too quickly with a narcissist.
Samantha has a four year old that's taking on the role of the parent.
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Brittany loves her boyfriend, but his family is causing problems. They've broken up all of his past relationships.
What is the difference between causing drama and having a voice?
What do you do when grudges aren't forgiven?
Patty is suffering complex grief and it's affecting her current relationship.
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Joe had an emotional affair and it blew up his life. How can he get things back on track?
Lance is dating his best friend and it's not fulfilling. How can he talk to her about the issues in their relationship, or are they just not romantically compatible?
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Dotty has been diagnosed with Bipolar 2. How can she discern what she can work on, and what is part of the disorder?
How does sexual dysfunction mirror other dysfunctions in life?
JT feels forced to have a relationship with her brother's girlfriend and it's leading to division.
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How do you stand up for yourself at work?
Misty is on a healing journey but feels empty unless helping others.
Lexi is working the dating program but gets discouraged with all the failed dates.
Jacquelyne's sister is back in her life. Is a healthy relationship is possible?
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Alicia wants to stop carrying old family patterns into the future.
How set boundaries with a parent and not feel guilt?
Samantha has child with an agnostic and doesn't know if it's a dealbreaker.
Suzanne was betrayed. Her best friend had an affair with her husband and married him.
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April has anxiety about seeing her in-laws and her husband isn't helping things.
How do you set boundaries with your mom in a loving way?
Shannon doesn't know if she wants to be friends or in a romantic relationship with her partner.
How can you be supportive and not become codependent with your partner?
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What do you do when family members trigger you?
What is gaslighting and how can you handle it?
How do you find the right church?
How do you help a child emotionally regulate?
Is reparenting a good type of therapy for you?
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Jessica wants to break some bad relational patterns with her mom and establish a healthy new foundation.
Erin has friend that uses boundaries more like walls. How can she have a conversation about avoiding her triggers?
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Briana is feeling discouraged in the workplace and wants minimize her negative self-talk.
Sarah wants to have a holiday free of political talk.
Shauna and her ex-husband need to get on the same page about raising their daughter.
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Charity has been making good progress with her marriage and wants to know the next steps.
Anne needs help with a sensitive daughter. How can she stay sensitive and not be easily offended?
Danielle is worried she has narcissistic tendencies and that they've have led her away from her spirituality.
On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
Kay's mother has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. What kind of healing does she need to do to better withstand her mother's behavior?
Andrea wants to be less selfish. How can she go from a mindset of self preservation to a more selfless one?
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Elena is feeling a deep sense of loneliness, even around people that care about her.
Leslie got out of a marriage and is getting asked out on dates. The idea of dating seems like drudgery.
Becky has been struggling with her husband. They've been in counseling and nothing seems to resolve their issues.
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Sophie suffered abuse as a kid. Being around her family triggers her. Processing the pain seems to make things worse. When do you walk away from processing?
Tina's husband can't get over her brother's betrayal. It's driving a wedge into their relationship.
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Lynn comes from a dysfunctional family. After her father died, her mother left her son his watch, which he sold. How can she tell her?
Michelle has been in counseling and wants to apologize to her kids for how she raised them.
ZJ is a helper and recovering from codependency. How can she help--but not enable--her friend?
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Nicole's mom is drastically overstepping her role as a grandparent. How can she get her mom to stop parenting her kids?
Lysandra can't let go of a toxic relationship. She gets anxious thinking about seeing him.
How can Vanessa manage her mother-in-law's unrealistic expectations about her duties?
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Nancy is looking to make amends with her son after divorcing.
John is trying to heal his daughter's relationship with his ex-wife.
Marcia's self esteem is suffering from past traumas. It's causing performance anxiety.
Michelle's younger brother isn't going to school and her mom doesn't seem to know. How can she help?
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Katie wants to open up communication with her husband. He doesn't like talking through conflicts.
Amy has issues with how her husband's twin brother is treating him. How can she bring it up better?
Nubia wants to help her grandchild out, but her son's marriage is on the rocks and helping might strain the relationship.
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Sally is having difficulty with family she shares property with. Dr. Cloud parts with a great thought: Your choices aren't bad because someone else doesn't like them.
Maria has a sister-like relative that gaslights her. When Maria tries to bring up serious issues, the relative shuts down communication.
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Kim's is estranged from her son after a divorce. She needs help preparing for a difficult conversation.
Becky feels like her life is mediocre. How can she change her outlook?
Jessica is meeting her husband tomorrow after separating. What can she do to calm her anxiety and brace for bad news?
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Eliza's mom has dementia and the family isn't sure how to help her.
Dana's father lives with her and her husband. How can she find an alternative living situation for him?
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Rebecca is having marital problems but her parents are making things worse. How can she address their overstepping?
Gail's daughter in law doesn't get along with her and it's affecting her relationship with her grandkids.
Diane's siblings are judgmental and won't let go of the past. How can she start building a bridge?
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Henry talks about the importance of the family we choose to make, not just the one we're born into.
Jonathan is in a long term relationship. He doesn't think they're a good fit but doesn't know how to get out of it. He's feeling apprehensive about breaking it off and wants to make sure his motivations are right.
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Kate is waking up with panic attacks nearly every night. What can she do to calm her anxiety?
Kathleen wants to be supportive of her daughter without meddling. Her daughter's long-term relationship ended abruptly and it's opening old wounds.
Emily is good at helping others but feels empty inside. How she find peace and joy with herself?
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Geri is nearly out of debt and is getting anxiety that she'll fall back to her irresponsible ways.
Abby is separated from her husband after his infidelity. How can she stay firm that this is a necessary ending when the people around her aren't supportive?
Jane needs to give up the parenting role with her 29 year old son.
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Roz is the intermediary in a dispute between her sisters. When should she step in and when should she step back?
Wendy's son is about to come into an inheritance. She's worried it will worsen his problem behaviors.
Trigger Warning: Suicide is discussed in detail. Margaret has suffered the loss of her son to suicide and is feeling very alone.
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
Lily needs help forgiving her parents. She wants to move on to a healthier place in that relationship so that she can address bigger life issues.
Susan lost her job without much of an explanation. She's hurt and angry but wants to find a way to confront her former employer calmly.
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Samantha doesn't know how to address her ex's jealousy. They have a child together and she doesn't know how to confront him.
Maria isn't feeling loved by her new boyfriend. How can she communicate that and not make matters worse?
Mike is struggling with dating. He gets jealous and jumps in too deep too quickly.
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
Carol wants to find closure with her ex-husband but he's a toxic person. What can she do to find closure when conversation doesn't work?
Kendall wants to get closer to her sister but she keeps pulling away. Avoiding triggers might help.
Cindy needs to make a decision on whether her pastor is right for her.
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Fred's sister has been terrible to his wife. Now his daughter is friendly with the same sister. It has created a triangulation and he doesn't know what to do.
Cynthia's keeps bailing out her 35 year old son. How can break her codependency?
Becky was ghosted by her boyfriend after bringing up concerns about his ex.
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Katherine wants to be open with a date about her past sexual abuse but doesn't want to scare him off. At the same time she's really worried about being intimate.
Sheila's friend and accountability partner betrayed her secrets by gossiping with other members in her recovery group. How can she address this and rebuild trust?
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Gina is trying to rebuild trust after her husband's infidelity. How can she forgive him and trust that he's changing?
Lori pours herself into her relationships with everyone she's close to and becomes codependent. How can she break the pattern?
Stephanie's son is in an abusive relationship. She keeps wanting to intervene like a parent but he's an adult now. How can she let go?
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John is trying to understand why his wife is calling him a narcissist, amongst other things.
Patrice is really happy being single. Can't single people be just as happy as people in relationships?
Donna separated from her husband and is considering reconciliation. He's changed for the better, but how long will it last?
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Phil has had to break contact with his immediate family to maintain peace in his life and marriage. How can he get his family to accept his decision?
Marie and her husband work together. Their relationship isn't going great and she wants to quit her job in order to ease the tension, but her husband sees it as quitting the marriage.
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
Cole's parents are going through a serious conflict pertaining to infidelity. How can he help them and guard his heart at the same time?
Grace needs advice on how to confront a negative colleague.
Mandy got into a serious relationship too quickly. How can she tell him that she's uncertain without scaring him off completely?
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
Rose asks about how to address her people-pleasing nature with her counselor.
Rita wants to know how long it should take to recover from a breakup. Does setting a limit on grieving time work?
Teri is trying to decide if reconciling with her father is possible after he was recently diagnosed with terminal cancer.
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
Amber's mom has been dating a guy for two years. When can she and her family begin trusting him, and how do they test that trust?
Debbie is going back to therapy and doesn't know what goals to set or what to target the work on. What can she do to prepare for her sessions?
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
Nakeisha has tried bringing up her abandonment issues with her therapist, but it's not getting anywhere. What else can she try?
Susan is tired of escalating conflicts with her husband. What can she do to stop reacting with anger?
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Jolene follows up with Dr. Cloud about her husband entering rehab and asks about what comes next.
Samantha has remained friends with her ex-boyfriend. How can she let go of the failed relationship?
Helen gave her mom specific instructions about punishing her children and she broke them. What's the right response?
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
Molly asks about strategies for establishing boundaries with her parents. Her husband and parents don't get along at all. How can she start patching things up?
Megan has to confront her dad about his behavior, but every time she confronts him he gets defensive and plays the victim. Is there any way to break this pattern?
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
Lulu is a single mom and wants to raise her son right. How can she introduce healthy male role models into his life?
Carolyn is in a pickle. How can she tell her best friend that she's in love with him? Is it worth the risk?
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
Andrew has gotten back with his ex. How can he handle difficult discussions better this time around?
Mary survived a near death experience. She's wondering why she was saved and how can she find her purpose.
Kirsten's parents and husband do not get along...at all. She's feeling caught in the middle and doesn't know how to proceed.
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
Bonita needs help with her anxiety after a car accident. What can she do short of taking medication?
Joanna is trying to reconnect with her husband on their goals and dreams. How can they find a middle ground?
Ryan's wife has high anxiety from past trauma. What can he do to be more sensitive and grow their intimacy?
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
Susan misses her son and his family. She can't see them because of Covid. How can she manage these feelings?
Patrick is looking to improve his communication with his wife. How can he break his bad habits during their conflicts?
Nancy is living in pain after the murder of her son. She feels like she needs permission to move on.
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
Connie is confused about the line between honoring her parents while setting boundaries with them.
Vanessa was adopted and recently connected with her biological father. He wants more closeness than she's ready for.
Jolene asks how long sobriety can last when the person isn't addressing the underlying emotional causes.
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
When can you start dating someone after your spouse has passed away? How do you know when you're emotionally ready?
Rebecca wants practical steps to work on the anxiety that's keeping her disconnected from people.
Brenda wants to see her grandson but her daughter in law doesn't want her around. How can she patch things up?
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
Rose doesn't know how to confront her sister-in-law. How can she address her silent treatment?
Paige has homeschooled her 14 year old son until now. How can she detach and start preparing him for adulthood?
Marlena is recovering from codependency. When will she know she's succeeded in moving on?
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
Sarah has early empty nest feelings. How can she be different than her mom and detach from her kids with love?
Dawn likes the guy she's dating but he's forgetful. Is this going to be a bigger issue or just PTSD from her last relationship?
Chris's wife has lung cancer. How can he prepare himself mentally for what's ahead?
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
David is recovering from childhood trauma. What types of trauma therapy might be helpful and how should he get started?
Michelle has been procrastinating and wants to get out of her laziness. She's been comparing herself to others and that comparison is the obstacle keeping her stuck.
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
Mia is dealing with chronic illness and doesn't want to be a drain on her relationship.
Mary's daughter is having trouble adjusting to civilian life after military training. What can she do to help her?
Lynn needs to have a difficult conversation with her husband about getting mental health counseling.
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
Sue's son is getting a divorce. She wants to know how and when she can help.
Jodi's 30 year old son has severe autism. She's feeling isolated and needs support but doesn't know where to get started.
Jill's is having trouble with her son's parents-in-law. How can she establish a more calm line of dialogue and understanding?
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
Dave doesn't want to get attached too early. He has a tendency to be codependent quickly when dating.
Robert's son is suffering from severe mental illness. He feels guilt about the quality of care he can provide.
Natalina wants to get her relationship back to the way it used to be.
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
Emily is new to the dating scene and needs some help taking the pressure off.
Beth is trying to open up communication with her estranged son.
Elizabeth has questions about whether EMDR therapy might go against her Christianity.
Jamie started dating a great guy is having trouble accepting his past relationships.
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
Jodi needs help overcoming her fear of traveling. It's getting in the way of leading a normal life.
Laura found alcohol in her 18 year old's room. How can she assess the severity of the situation, and what are her options?
Shelly has to confront her sister about moving out of their mother's house.
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
Rebecca went on a fourth date with a good guy, and then wave a of sadness came over her. It's happened before and she doesn't know why.
Katherine is tired of getting through life one day at time. When will she start seeing the horizon?
Anna wants a therapist that won't prescribe solutions that go against her faith.
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
Jennifer can see how negative thoughts from her past are dragging her down. How can she replace those old thinking patterns with positive ones?
Donna wants to detach from her 18 year old daughter. How can let her make her own mistakes, and what's her role now?
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
Katherine wants to teach her kids how to protect their sense of self.
Anne's eldest sister died recently and her youngest sister doesn't seem to care. Anne can't help but resent her sister's apathy.
Tracy is trying to connect with her difficult dad before Father's Day. How can say hello without triggering him?
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
Sonya needs advice on how to have an intervention with her nephew who is in an abusive relationship.
Angela left an abusive home at 18 and now her family has cut her out completely. How can she find family-like support elsewhere?
Janice is concerned about her daughter's boyfriend. She wants to intervene without pushing her away.
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
Tatiana wants to get comfortable being uncomfortable as she fights unhealthy coping mechanisms.
Stacy is fighting the awkwardness of setting boundaries with family.
Shantal is struggling with anxiety and depression. She wants to know if time will make things smoother, or if medication is the route for her.
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
-Gail is concerned about sharing every last detail with her husband after an affair.
-Karen is grieving a pet that helped her through a divorce. The grief is so powerful she wonders if there's more to it.
-After recently getting married, Rebecca feels like she's in little girl mode. How can she come back to being an adult again?
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
-Lauren wants to be close to her family while working on her individuality at the same time.
-Rebecca is looking to rebuild trust in a marriage after her husband had multiple affairs.
-Claire needs to limit contact with her mom while also being there when she's really needed, but her mom keeps guilt tripping her.
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
-Brent needs advice about moving on after a break up.
-Rene knows she's being overprotective of her daughter. How can she resist her mama-bear instincts?
-Donna is looking to stop the having arguments that get nowhere with her husband.
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
-Laura is feeling stuck in life with her kids leaving home.
-Jo is starting a marriage support group and wants advice on how to graft maturity into marriage.
-Stephanie lost her mom two months ago and is having difficulty grieving while raising four children.
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
-Lynn's daughter is a hypochondriac. She needs help learning how to calm her down.
-Danielle is leaving her home state and seeks tools to cope with a big change.
-Erin is dating an awesome guy, but he has cancer. Is she ready to take this on?
-Jackie struggles with trusting herself and wants to be more independent.
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
-Brittany's boyfriend is setting terms and punishments with her 7 year old daughter.
-Tamara's long-distance boyfriend is moving much closer to her. How can she set boundaries and remain welcoming?
-Susan's husband left her for another woman and now wants to get back together.
-Darlene asks how to cope with leaving a destructive family.
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
-Tanya's ex-boyfriend wants to stay friends. Is that a real possibility?
-Lorie is seeking peace with those that wronged her. She wants to stop reliving the past.
-Alexis has 5 young kids and is worried about burnout.
-Jay's family is saying that she's spiritually oppressed. Could that be why she feels stuck in life?
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
-Elizabeth wants to know: How do you throw in the towel without feeling like a quitter?
-Sujani asks how she can tell the difference between love and lust.
-Nicole is is looking for advice on how to break up with her boyfriend peacefully.
-Samantha has difficulty making decisions. How can she overcome her anxiousness?
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
-Charity is being too critical of her husband, or so she thinks. She wants to know how to communicate openly without walking on eggshells.
-Anna has an employee she cares about and wants to see grow. The trouble is the employee is a people pleaser. How can she give her more autonomy?
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
-Brenda wants to know how to use psychology to help with neuroplasticity.
-Jackie has conflicts with her in-laws. She needs help on deciding whether to attend a family wedding.
-Angie is a worrier. She wants to know how to stop worrying all the time and address her anxieties.
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
-Bill has been stagnating in grief. He wants to move to a place of action.
-Tina wants to set a boundary with her husband but without sacrificing intimacy.
-Marie's boyfriend used to drink excessively. Now she gets triggered when he goes out.
-Kay wants to know how to stop internalizing her father's emotional tone.
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
-Elizabeth has a family that constantly complains. What boundaries can she use to cope with their pessimism?
-What are some ways to disarm a critical spouse?
-Sharon has grown a lot through counseling and wants to make her marriage stronger.
-How do boundaries change as we become more independent from our parents?
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
-April wants to control her anger. She's become "venomous" with her husband and her kids.
-Don is dealing with intense social fears. He can't be around people. What can he do?
-Grace is afraid of rejection and abandonment during dating and it's driving her to bad perspectives.
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
-Cassandra wants to know how to keep herself from unhealthily attaching in dating.
-Michele is grieving a sister that has gone no-contact.
-David has set up a small group and wants advice on how to promote sharing and vulnerability.
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
-Darlene and her husband are rebuilding their marriage after infidelity. What are some things they can do to reestablish trust?
-Marion's ex is back in the picture. How can she get clarity about how she's feeling about him?
-Joy has passive aggressive sisters-in-law. Her husband is playing the middleman, but it's not helping. What can she do?
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show Live:
-Trish is trying to connect to her 15 year old daughter and stop herself from trying to control her.
-Christina has gone no contact with her parents. Does she owe them and explanation?
-Maria is starting her own counseling service in Honduras and wants to know how to insulate from all the suffering she'll encounter along the way.
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
-Kim's son has been diagnosed with OCD. She needs pointers on discerning OCD behavior from rebellious teen behavior.
-Bridgette isn't sure she's engaged to the right person.
-Matthew and his wife need help dealing with his overbearing mother.
-Blaine needs advice on what's too little, and what's too much communication during dating.
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
-Amy is visiting the town of her estranged son and doesn't know whether to tell him.
-Laura's marriage is going through difficulty. She wants to know what she can reasonably expect to change.
-Cindy wants advice on graduate counseling programs.
-Gail's adult daughter has gone no-contact with her and she needs advice.
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
-Brian is trying to understand how his relationship to his mother is affecting his dating relationships.
-Julie's husband has left her after 42 years. What can she do to open up communication when his mind seems made up?
-Elle is concerned about her mom's mental health. If her mom outlives her dad she seems likely to make terrible decisions.
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
Rebecca is married and has a blended family. She and her kids are taking a backseat to her husband and his kids. What can she do?
Susan had a big fight with her coworker and they can't resolve it. How can she process the frustration better?
Megan's husband is being jealous. How can she put her foot down about it? She only has eyes for him.
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show Live:
-Katie's boyfriend has started backing away after two months and it doesn't add up.
-Bill has a brother with paranoid schizophrenia. He wants advice on how to intervene to get him to take his meds.
-Sarah is heading out into the dating world but doesn't want to settle. She's afraid that she might fall for someone that isn't right for her.
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
-Briana ended a long distance relationship but now she's having second thoughts. How can she move past her doubts?
-Jodie caught her husband cheating and is getting a divorce. As new painful information comes to the surface, how can she stay strong and start bootstrapping?
-Elaine's current husband triggers trauma from her previous marriage. How can they work through it?
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
TD Jakes joins Dr. Cloud for the full hour. In this conversation they cover too many topics to list, but some of which are faith, perspective, the importance of communication, and how crucial understanding one another is for the peace and connection we all seek. Check out Bishop Jakes new book Don't Drop The Mic on sale everywhere.
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On this episode of The Dr. Cloud Show:
-Angela needs options for a sister that won't respect boundaries.
-Aaron has a large blended family and between him, his wife and grandma, it's hard seeing who has the authority in the house.
-Tara needs advice on addressing a sensitive mom that moved in with her.
-Katherine is nearing a postnuptial agreement with her husband as a last resort
-Bo's husband is using her faith against her.
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