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From Crisis to Connection
The goal of healing from sexual betrayal isn't just stopping the crisis. It's ultimately moving into genuine and meaningful connection with ourselves, each other, and the world around us. Join licensed therapist and author Geoff Steurer as he interviews experts and other guests about how to move out of the crisis of sexual betrayal (affairs, sexual addiction, pornography addiction) and toward connection. The information in these interviews transcends religious and cultural lines, as we all seek the same healing power of connection.
This episode is taken from a presentation I gave at the Betrayal Healing Conference earlier this year, where I shared what later-stage recovery really looks like for couples working to rebuild trust and connection.In this episode, we talk about what it takes for couples to truly thrive after the initial crisis of betrayal has passed. We explore what “later-stage” recovery looks like: not just surviving, but building something new, strong, and deeply connected.
Key Takeaways
✅ Later-stage recovery is often overlooked, but it’s essential for rebuilding connection
✅ Surviving crisis is not the same as building a new relationship
✅ Emotional intimacy, shared vision, and curiosity fuel long-term healing
✅ You need new skills for this stage, old crisis tools won’t get you there
Free Video Training for Betrayed Partners: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/romance-after-betrayal
If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who might need it. And don’t forget to leave a review; we’d love to hear how this podcast is supporting your healing journey!
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If you’re navigating broken trust in your relationship, whether you’re the one who broke it or you’ve been deeply impacted by it, this free video course can help.
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If you’re looking for structured guidance, support, and a clear roadmap for recovery, check out my Courageous Together Program—an online course and support system designed to help couples rebuild trust and connection. Inside, you’ll get:
✅ A structured healing roadmap
✅ Live Q&A sessions with me
✅ Exclusive video lessons and worksheets
✅ Confidential and secure access
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About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
After more than 300 weekly episodes, we are taking a short pause from From Crisis to Connection.
In this brief update, we share why we’re stepping back for a couple of months. It’s not because of burnout but to make space for reflection, clarity, and growth. We want to continue serving you with intention and depth, and this pause is part of that process.
Here’s what to expect while we’re away:
- No new weekly episodes during the summer
- A weekly email with a curated past episode that’s worth revisiting
- A chance to stay connected and supported through the pause
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When it comes to betrayal, we often hear one story: the man cheats, the woman is hurt, and support rallies around her. But what happens when the script is flipped? In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Adam Nisenson, a coach and author who helps men navigate betrayal trauma—a subject that’s rarely talked about and often misunderstood.
Adam shares his own experience of being betrayed, the cultural narratives that silence men in pain, and why so many men suffer in isolation. We explore how betrayal crushes identity, triggers deep ego wounds, and leaves men unsure of how to move forward.
This episode offers insight, language, and hope for betrayed men—and for those who love them.
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About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum).
About Adam Nisenson: Adam Nisenson, LMFT, CSAT, known as the Betrayal Shrink, combines his extensive clinical skills with a deeply empathetic heart in his role as a Betrayal Trauma Coach. Licensed as a Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, Adam is dedicated to guiding men through the complex emotions and challenges of betrayal trauma. His methodology is deeply influenced by his intimate grasp of the trials faced by men confronting a partner’s infidelity. Leveraging his extensive clinical background and personal insights of being a betrayal partner himself, Adam creates a supportive and understanding environment, where clients are led through their journey of healing with compassion and wisdom.
Holding a degree from Pacifica Graduate Institute with a focus on Marriage and Family Therapy, Professional Clinical Counseling, and Depth Psychology, Adam has committed his career to addressing critical issues such as betrayal, infidelity, sex addiction, and the myriad life challenges that accompany them. With Adam, the journey is not just about recovery; it's about embarking on a path of profound personal growth and rediscovery.
Website:https://betrayalshrink.com
Adam’s book on Amazon: https://amzn.to/4jfG35e
Instagram: @BetrayalShrink
In early recovery, survival is the focus. But what does it look like for couples who’ve done the foundational healing work to move beyond crisis and start rebuilding true partnership?
In this powerful and relatable episode, we sit down with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith, a couple who have lived through the depths of betrayal trauma and are now guiding others in later-stage recovery. Together, we explore what healthy partnership looks like after the secrets, lies, and trauma are out in the open—and when safety, sobriety, and honesty are becoming consistent.
We dig into the real dynamics of post-trauma cooperation vs. competition, compliance, and conflict avoidance. The Raabsmiths share personal stories and practical tools that couples can use to rebuild trust and co-create a shared life vision.
🎁 Download My Free Course: First Steps to Rebuilding Trust
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About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum).
About Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith: Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith are clinicians, speakers, and authors with over 20 years of combined experience in counseling, coaching, and guiding couples toward healing and transformation. Their mission is to help couples navigate the complexities of relational challenges, particularly in the aftermath of sexual addiction and betrayal trauma, fostering deep restoration and growth.
Matthew is a Professional Certified Coach through the International Coaching Federation (ICF) with a background in pastoral leadership, while Joanna is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, EMDR practitioner, and Certified Clinical Partner Specialist through APSATS. Both hold Master of Divinity degrees and have served together on multiple church leadership teams. Currently, they co-lead their private practice, The Raabsmith Team, where they specialize in helping couples rebuild connection, trust, and intimacy.
Matthew and Joanna live in Memphis, Tennessee, with their three young children. They prioritize self-care through shared adventures, new experiences, and a weekly game of pickleball.
http://www.raabsmithteam.com/free
Episode 296
You’ve stopped the behavior. You’re going to the meetings. You’re doing everything the books and podcasts say to do. So why doesn’t your partner trust you yet?
In this honest and challenging conversation, we talk with Roland Cochrun, a recovery advocate and founder of SuccessfulAddict.com, about the biggest blind spots in early recovery—and why checking the right boxes doesn’t guarantee real change.
Roland shares his personal experience, the research behind what actually works, and why recovery must be more than just avoiding relapse. If you’ve ever felt stuck, discouraged, or unsure whether your progress is enough, this episode offers a much-needed reset.
If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who might need it. And don’t forget to leave a review—we’d love to hear how this podcast is supporting your healing journey!
🎁 Download My Free Course: First Steps to Rebuilding Trust
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About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
About Roland Cochrun: Roland Cochrun is the founder of The Successful Addict, a sex addiction recovery group designed specifically for high-achievers, executives, business professionals, and entrepreneurs. As a high-achiever and recovering addict himself, Roland found it very difficult to find like-minded men to connect with in recovery. The Successful Addict provides ambitious men with a deeply connected recovery group full of other successful professionals who are working hard to overcome their sex and porn addiction.
Roland is also the author of the book, The High Achiever's Guide to Sex Addiction Recovery, and the host of The Sex Addiction Podcast for High-achievers and Entrepreneurs, which applies sobriety and recovery principles specifically to the mindset of the high-achiever. You can find out more about Roland's recovery groups at successfuladdict.com
Buy Roland's book on Amazon here: https://a.co/d/4BHcwu8To join one of his recovery groups, go here: https://www.successfuladdict.com/To listen to Roland's podcast, go here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-sex-addiction-podcast-for-high-achievers/id1757165206To access the "good recovery" checklist:http://successfuladdict.com/goodrecovery
Betrayal trauma is devastating on its own—but for many betrayed partners, there’s a deeper, more disorienting layer they can’t name: covert abuse. In this eye-opening conversation, we explore how covert abuse operates beneath the surface of a relationship—often wrapped in kindness, plausible deniability, and social approval.
Our guest vulnerably shares her personal story of discovering the hidden abuse patterns that accompanied betrayal in her marriage, how she came to name them, and what she’s learned about reclaiming power, rebuilding trust in herself, and navigating confusing dynamics—even when the overt behaviors like addiction or infidelity have stopped.
This episode is a must-listen for anyone who feels confused, dismissed, or unseen in their relationship.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
⏳ [04:00] – What covert abuse is and how it differs from overt abuse
⏳ [06:30] – Why covert abuse is so confusing—and often goes undetected for years
⏳ [10:15] – How gaslighting, image management, and passive aggression show up in betrayal recovery
⏳ [11:20] – The difference between emotional immaturity and covert control
⏳ [18:30] – Why even “sober” partners can still use passive forms of control
⏳ [26:00] – The role of body intuition and emotional awareness in identifying covert abuse
⏳ [39:50] – How therapists and helpers can unintentionally enable covert abuse
⏳ [47:00] – Steps betrayed partners can take to protect themselves, find support, and reclaim power
If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who might need it. And don’t forget to leave a review—we’d love to hear how this podcast is supporting your healing journey!
🎁 Download My Free Course: First Steps to Rebuilding Trust
If you’re navigating broken trust in your relationship, whether you’re the one who broke it or you’ve been deeply impacted by it, this free video course can help.
📋Join me in the Courageous Together™ Program
✅ A structured healing roadmap
✅ Live Q&A sessions with me
✅ Exclusive video lessons and worksheets
✅ Confidential and secure access
Let’s Stay Connected:
🌍Website
📩Subscribe to My Email List
🎙️Listen to More Podcast Episodes
About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
Episode 294
Why do some people heal from betrayal and rebuild their lives, while others stay stuck in pain and resentment for years—or even decades? In this powerful episode, we speak with Dr. Debi Silber, founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation (PBT) Institute, about the three groundbreaking discoveries from her PhD research on betrayal.
Dr. Silber breaks down the specific symptoms of betrayal trauma, explains why time alone doesn’t heal it, and outlines the five predictable stages of healing she’s observed in over 100,000 participants. If you’ve felt like you’re stuck, looping through pain, or numbing out to avoid facing what happened, this conversation is for you.
You’ll walk away with clarity, encouragement, and a path forward—no matter where you are in the healing process.
If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who might need it. And don’t forget to leave a review—we’d love to hear how this podcast is supporting your healing journey!
🎁 Download My Free Course: First Steps to Rebuilding Trust
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About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum).
About Dr. Debi Silber:Dr. Debi Silber, Founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and National Forgiveness Day (celebrated annually on September 1st), is an award winning speaker, and a 2-time #1 International bestselling author. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she’s dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most.
https://thepbtinstitute.com
TEDx: “Do You Have Post Betrayal Syndrome?“: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iyqOR69dHiU
TEDx: Stop Sabotaging Yourself: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro
From Betrayal to Breakthrough podcast: https://thepbtinstitute.com/podcast/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@debisilber
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform
Linkedin/Instagram/YouTube: @debisilber
Episode 293
After betrayal, it’s common for women to turn inward, blaming their bodies and questioning their worth. In this important conversation, we talk with Dr. Lauren Barnes, therapist, researcher, and director of clinical training at BYU’s Marriage and Family Therapy program.
Dr. Barnes shares how her clinical and personal experiences led her to work with women struggling with body image and eating disorders. Together, we explore the connection between faith, culture, self-worth, and body image—especially in the aftermath of sexual betrayal.
If you’ve ever felt the impact of betrayal show up in your relationship with your body, this episode will help you understand why it happens, how cultural and religious messages shape that experience, and what you can do to reclaim your body as a source of power, connection, and joy.
🎁 Download My Free Course: First Steps to Rebuilding Trust
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About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
About Lauren Barnes: Dr. Lauren A. Barnes grew up in the Pacific Northwest. During her graduate programs in Marriage & Family Therapy, she became particularly interested in working with individuals struggling with body image, eating disorders, and postpartum depression. During and after her PhD program, she worked as a therapist at Center for Change, a residential treatment center in Utah for women and girls struggling with eating disorders.
Dr. Barnes is currently a Clinical Professor and the Director of Clinical Training for BYU’s Marriage & Family Therapy graduate programs. She also maintains a small private practice. She has researched and presented on family implicit rules in eating disordered and non-eating disordered families.
One of her current passions is speaking at women's retreats where women gather and engage in various adventures from river rafting to canyoneering to hiking and stargazing while having conversations and classes about body image and intuitive eating.
https://www.instagram.com/drlaurenabarneslmft/
https://www.facebook.com/drlaurenbarnes/
When betrayal strikes a marriage, the pain is immediate for the couple—but what about the children? In this powerful and eye-opening episode, we speak with Morgan Ellsworth, a board-certified betrayal trauma coach and MFT student, who brings both personal and professional experience to this often-overlooked topic.
Morgan was a teenager when her family experienced betrayal, and she vulnerably shares what it was like to navigate that chaos without support or guidance. Today, she works with families, betrayed partners, and children affected by betrayal trauma, advocating for a whole-family approach to healing.
We discuss how children experience betrayal, how parents can support them without oversharing or hiding the truth, and what it takes to repair the parent-child relationship over time.
If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who might need it. And don’t forget to leave a review—we’d love to hear how this podcast is supporting your healing journey!
🎁 Download My Free Course: First Steps to Rebuilding Trust
📋Join me in the Courageous Together™ Program
Inside, you’ll get:
✅ A structured healing roadmap
✅ Live Q&A sessions with me
✅ Exclusive video lessons and worksheets
✅ Confidential and secure access
Let’s Stay Connected:
🌍Website
📩Subscribe to My Email List
🎙️Listen to More Podcast Episodes
About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum).
About Morgan Ellsworth: Morgan Ellsworth is a board certified coach trained in betrayal trauma who works with couples, betrayed partners, and families who are navigating the waters of betrayal trauma and recovery. She has walked her own journey of healing as a betrayed child and has seen how remarkable individual and family healing can be. Morgan is an APSATS candidate and marriage and family therapy student, and has additional training working with children and betrayed families. She is currently accepting coaching clients from all over the world and starting in January 2025 will be accepting clients seeking therapy during her clinical internships for MFT in Arizona. Morgan has a passion for this work and is dedicated to helping individuals and families like her own heal from betrayal.
https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/team/#MorganEllsworth
Instagram @healing.betrayed.families
What if the things you dislike most about yourself aren’t signs of failure—but invitations to heal? In this episode, I sit down with Haley Hinkle, associate marriage and family therapist and IFS-informed practitioner, to explore a compassionate and non-pathologizing way to understand the parts of us that act out, shut down, or sabotage.
We dive into the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model—a powerful therapeutic approach that helps us relate to our inner world with curiosity, clarity, and compassion. Whether you’re dealing with betrayal trauma, relational conflict, anxiety, or self-sabotage, this episode will help you reframe your struggles and discover new ways to care for all the parts of you—especially the ones that feel hardest to love.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
⏳ [02:55] – What is Internal Family Systems (IFS) and why it’s not just “therapy talk”
⏳ [08:15] – How parts of us get stuck in protective roles and where they come from
⏳ [09:15] – The difference between “protectors” and “exiles” (and how they interact)
⏳ [13:40] – How IFS helps us develop self-compassion and stop trying to “fix” ourselves
⏳ [16:25] – The power of self-leadership: calmness, curiosity, compassion, and more
⏳ [30:00] – How childhood wounds shape our internal system—and how to heal
⏳ [34:30] – Practical tools to start using IFS in your daily life
If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who might need it. And don’t forget to leave a review—we’d love to hear how this podcast is supporting your healing journey!
🎁 Download My Free Course: First Steps to Rebuilding Trust
📋Join me in the Courageous Together™ Program
Inside, you’ll get:
✅ A structured healing roadmap
✅ Live Q&A sessions with me
✅ Exclusive video lessons and worksheets
✅ Confidential and secure access
Let’s Stay Connected:
🌍Website
📩Subscribe to My Email List
📍Instagram
🪧Facebook
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About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Haley Hinkle:
Haley Hinkle is an associate licensed marriage and family therapist based in Eastern Washington. As a wife, mother, and advocate for authenticity in intimate relationships, she loves people and their stories. Her clinical work mirrors this as she often uses Internal Family Systems (IFS) as a framework to understand our multifaceted human experience. She runs a hybrid in-person/online private practice that specializes in couples counseling, anxiety disorders, and recovery from childhood trauma. She holds a bachelor’s degree in Latin American Studies and a master’s degree in marriage and family therapy, both from Brigham Young University.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/haley-hinkle-kennewick-wa/975026
Episode 290
In this follow-up to our popular episode “What to Do When Your Partner Lacks Motivation,” we dive deeper into an important listener question: How do you tell the difference between a lack of motivation and a lack of ability in your partner?
At first glance, these two challenges can look the same—lack of movement, stalled growth, avoidance. But understanding what’s really happening changes everything. In this episode, we break down the differences between someone who won’t move forward (lack of motivation) and someone who can’t (lack of ability or skill) and what it means for your relationship.
We share personal stories, examples from our work with couples, and practical ways to recognize the difference—so you can respond in a way that creates connection instead of frustration.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
⏳ [01:30] – The energetic difference between lack of motivation and lack of ability (and why it matters)
⏳ [04:30] – How lack of motivation shows up as stagnancy, avoidance, and numbing behaviors
⏳ [05:45] – What lack of ability looks like—movement, effort, clunky attempts, and vulnerability
⏳ [7:40] – Why imperfect attempts still build connection and intimacy
⏳ [10:45] – How motivation shows up when someone is pushing their personal edge
⏳ [13:30] – The importance of appreciating progress, even if it’s not perfect or complete
⏳ [20:00] – Why expecting your partner to think and act like you is a relationship killer
⏳ [21:15] – The truth about real relationships: effort and caring matter more than perfection
🎁 Download My Free Course: First Steps to Rebuilding Trust
If you’re navigating broken trust in your relationship, whether you’re the one who broke it or you’ve been deeply impacted by it, this free video course can help.
📋Join me in the Courageous Together™ Program
If you’re looking for structured guidance, support, and a clear roadmap for recovery, check out my Courageous Together Program—an online course and support system designed to help couples rebuild trust and connection. Inside, you’ll get:
✅ A structured healing roadmap
✅ Live Q&A sessions with me
✅ Exclusive video lessons and worksheets
✅ Confidential and secure access
Let’s Stay Connected:
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About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
Healing from betrayal trauma is a deeply personal journey, but why do some people seem to heal and move forward while others stay stuck? In today’s episode, we welcome back Dr. Jill Manning, a renowned therapist, researcher, and speaker with over 20 years of experience in betrayal trauma recovery.
Dr. Manning shares the key factors that help betrayed partners heal, as well as the common obstacles that slow down the recovery process. She offers practical steps to move through the pain and build a life of stability, connection, and renewed purpose—whether or not the relationship survives.
If you’ve been feeling stuck in your healing journey, this episode will give you clarity, direction, and hope.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
⏳ [03:00] – The rising severity of betrayal trauma and why cases are more complex today
⏳ [08:15] – The 5 key factors that help betrayed partners heal (CAVED Framework)
⏳ [15:30] – Why connection is essential and how isolation keeps people stuck
⏳ [22:45] – The role of advocacy—having at least one person who truly understands you
⏳ [28:00] – Why validation is critical and how to avoid minimizing your experience
⏳ [34:10] – The impact of education—why learning about betrayal trauma helps you heal
⏳ [40:00] – Why having a clear roadmap (direction) makes all the difference
🎁 Download My Free Course: First Steps to Rebuilding Trust
📋Join me in the Courageous Together™ Program
Let’s Stay Connected:
🌍Website
📩Subscribe to My Email List
About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years.
About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum).
About Dr. Jill Manning: Dr. Jill Manning is a distinguished clinician, speaker, researcher, and thought leader with over two decades of experience in addressing sexual betrayal, compulsive sexual behavior, and the impact of internet pornography on marriages and families. Her work has been widely recognized, with features in peer-reviewed journals, national television programs, documentaries, radio shows, podcasts, and publications such as The Oprah Magazine.
As a Social Science Fellow in Washington, D.C., Dr. Manning was invited to testify in 2005 before a U.S. Senate subcommittee, where she delivered compelling testimony on the harms of pornography on the family. Her advocacy and expertise continue to shape the conversation around these critical issues.
https://drjillmanning.com/
https://drjillmanning.com/digital-downloads/
https://drjillmanning.com/intensives/
https://www.instagram.com/drjillmanning/
Have you ever felt stuck, unmotivated, or unsure how to move forward—especially in your relationship? In this episode, we’re flipping the script from our last discussion on what to do when your partner is unmotivated and speaking directly to the partner who feels stuck.
If you’re struggling with motivation, feeling overwhelmed, or comparing yourself to your more driven spouse, this episode is for you. We share why feeling unmotivated is a normal human experience, how to recognize if you’re actually doing more than you think, and most importantly, how to take small, imperfect steps forward—even when you don’t feel like it.
This is a judgment-free conversation about growth, movement, and self-compassion. If you or your partner are feeling stuck, we hope this episode brings clarity and encouragement.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
⏳ [03:00] – Why feeling unmotivated is normal (and why we all go through it)
⏳ [06:45] – The importance of movement—even small, imperfect action counts
⏳ [10:30] – How to recognize if you’re doing more than you think (you may not be as stuck as you believe)
⏳ [13:50] – The impact of shame and comparison on motivation
⏳ [16:00] – How to communicate with your partner about your struggles without feeling pressured or judged
🎁 Download My Free Course: First Steps to Rebuilding Trust
If you’re navigating broken trust in your relationship, whether you’re the one who broke it or you’ve been deeply impacted by it, this free video course can help.
📋Join me in the Courageous Together™ Program
If you’re looking for structured guidance, support, and a clear roadmap for recovery, check out my Courageous Together Program—an online course and support system designed to help couples rebuild trust and connection. Inside, you’ll get:
✅ A structured healing roadmap
✅ Live Q&A sessions with me
✅ Exclusive video lessons and worksheets
✅ Confidential and secure access
Let’s Stay Connected:
🌍Website
📩Subscribe to My Email List
🎙️Listen to More Podcast Episodes
About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
When betrayal happens in a marriage, the emotional impact on a betrayed partner is overwhelming. But what about the children? How can a mother (or father) navigate their own healing while still being present for their children?
In this powerful episode, we’re joined by Dr. Jenet Erickson, an expert in family relationships and maternal mental health. She shares research-backed insights into the connection between mothers and children, how emotional regulation plays a role in both healing and parenting, and why you don’t have to be a perfect parent for your child to thrive.
If you’ve ever felt guilt or fear about how your trauma is affecting your kids, this episode offers hope, encouragement, and practical ways to show up for your children while also taking care of yourself.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
⏳ [04:00] – The unseen impact of betrayal trauma on parenting
⏳ [07:10] – The science behind mother-child attachment and emotional regulation
⏳ [16:00] – The myth of shielding children from emotions—and why they need honesty instead
⏳ [20:00] – How taking care of your own healing benefits your children long-term
⏳ [24:10] – The power of small daily rituals (and why they matter more than hours of time)
⏳ [26:00] – How healing is possible no matter how much time has passed
⏳ [34:00] – Why your presence matters more than perfection in parenting
Key Takeaways:
✅ Children are resilient—they don’t need perfect parents, just present and emotionally engaged ones.
✅ Healing yourself first is one of the greatest gifts you can give your children.
✅ Small, predictable moments of connection (like bedtime stories or shared meals) are more important than constant time together.
✅ Children can handle emotions—what they struggle with is when their emotions are ignored or denied.
✅ It’s never too late to heal. Even if your children are grown, your healing still impacts them in powerful ways.
🎁 Download My Free Course: First Steps to Rebuilding Trust (link in bio)
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About Jenet Erickson: Jenet Jacob Erickson is an associate professor in Religious Education at Brigham Young University, where teaches the Eternal Family (Rel 200) course as well as the Introduction to Family Process (SFL 160) course for the School of Family Life. The 5th of 11 children, she was raised on a small farm in Orem, Utah, where they did lots of music together. She received a PhD in Family Social Science from the University of Minnesota, after completing a bachelor’s degree in Nursing, and master’s degree in Linguistics -TESOL at BYU. She is a research fellow of both the Wheatley Institute and the Institute for Family Studies and has been a columnist on family issues for the Deseret News since 2013. She and her husband, Michael, have been blessed with two children, LaDawn (age 13) and Peter (age 10), who provide them unending opportunities for learning and joy.
https://speeches.byu.edu/talks/jenet-erickson/designed-for-covenant-relationships/
What happens when you’re motivated, driven, and actively working on personal growth—but your partner isn’t? In this episode, we explore the challenges of navigating a relationship when one partner struggles with motivation—whether due to personal crises, depression, or long-standing patterns of complacency.
We discuss why this imbalance happens, how gender differences may play a role, and what you can do when your partner isn’t taking initiative in their own life. Whether you’re dealing with a spouse who lacks direction, struggles with personal responsibility, or seems stuck in shame or avoidance, this episode offers practical insights on how to stay focused on your own growth without losing connection in your relationship.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
⏳ [01:25] – The challenge of feeling “unequally yoked” in motivation and life direction
⏳ [02:00] – Why some people struggle with self-commitment and personal responsibility
⏳ [03:15] – How men and women often respond differently to feelings of failure or loss of direction
⏳ [09:50] – The two extremes: Over-independence (“You do you, I’ll do me”) vs. Over-dependence (“I have to carry you”)
⏳ [15:20] – Healthy ways to support your partner without over-functioning or losing yourself
⏳ [19:00] – The importance of boundaries, self-care, and focusing on your own life, goals, and well-being
Key Takeaways:
✅ You can’t force your partner to change, but you can focus on yourself and set healthy boundaries.
✅ The imbalance of motivation in a relationship can create frustration, resentment, and emotional exhaustion—it’s important to name it.
✅ Avoid falling into extremes: pulling away completely or over-functioning to “fix” the problem.
✅ It’s okay to live your life fully while still caring for your partner—but without enabling their avoidance.
✅ If your partner is making an effort, even in small ways, that can be a powerful sign of commitment.
🎁 Download My Free Course: First Steps to Rebuilding Trust (link in bio)
📋Join me in the Courageous Together™ Program
If you’re looking for structured guidance, support, and a clear roadmap for recovery, check out my Courageous Together Program—an online course and support system designed to help couples rebuild trust and connection.
Let’s Stay Connected:
🌍Website
📩Subscribe to My Email List
📍Instagram
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About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum).
Episode 285
In this episode, we explore the intersection of faith, mental health, and agency—how our ability to choose extends beyond simple decisions and impacts how we respond to betrayal, anxiety, depression, and life’s unexpected challenges.
Our guest, Brianna Holmes, joins us to discuss how agency is more than just free will—it’s deeply connected to truth, meaning, and the way we engage with our experiences. Whether you’re facing the emotional weight of betrayal trauma, struggling with mental health, or wrestling with faith-based questions about suffering, this conversation offers new ways to see your choices, reframe your experience, and reclaim your power.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
🔹 How agency goes beyond free will—it’s also about how we engage with truth
🔹 Why feeling powerless after betrayal is normal and how to regain personal agency
🔹 The role of faith and spirituality in healing mental health struggles
🔹 How the meaning we assign to our experiences shapes our healing
🔹 The power of asking better questions—to God, ourselves, and others
🔹 Practical ways to expand our perspective and find peace in difficult circumstances
Join Me in the Courageous Together Program!
If you’re looking for structured guidance, support, and a clear roadmap for recovery, check out my Courageous Together Program—an online course and support system designed to help couples rebuild trust and connection.
Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Connect with me on social media:
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum).
About Brianna Holmes:Brianna Holmes has a master’s degree in marriage, couples, and family counseling from Idaho State University and is currently a practicing therapist in Farmington, Utah. She is especially passionate about working with adults and couples navigating relationship issues, anxiety, OCD, PTSD, and postpartum disorders. In addition to working as a therapist, Brianna works for a faith-based magazine, Public Square Magazine, as an associate editor and has published many articles focusing on mental health and a variety of other topics. Brianna is a wife and mother of four. She enjoys spending time with her family, reading books, and cheering for her favorite hockey teams.
bholmes@publicsquaremag.org
In today’s episode, we’re talking about something so many people ask—What if I’m bad at connection? What if I don’t know how to connect? If you’ve ever felt disconnected or unsure how to build meaningful relationships, you’re not alone. We’ll walk through the developmental roots of connection, how it’s learned, and what you can do if it wasn’t modeled for you growing up.
We’ll also explore what real connection looks like in relationships—especially for couples healing after betrayal. You’ll learn why connection isn’t always natural but can absolutely be developed. So if you’ve been wondering if there’s hope to feel truly seen and known by others, stick with us. There’s good news ahead.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
🔹 Why most of us start off as bad connectors—and how to get better at it
🔹 How early attachment patterns influence your ability to connect as an adult
🔹 Why connection requires courage, vulnerability, and practice
🔹 The difference between performing connection and real connection
🔹 Simple steps to build deeper, more authentic relationships
Join Me in theCourageous Together Program!
If you’re looking for structured guidance, support, and a clear roadmap for recovery, check out myCourageous Together Program—an online course and support system designed to help couples rebuild trust and connection. Inside, you’ll get:
✅ A structured healing roadmap
✅ Live Q&A sessions with me
✅ Exclusive video lessons and worksheets
✅ Confidential and secure access
https://www.geoffsteurer.com/courageous-together
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About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
One of the most common questions I hear from couples navigating betrayal recovery is, “Is it even possible for us to heal?” If you’ve ever wondered the same thing, you’re not alone. In today’s episode, I’m sharing the five key things I’ve seen every couple do when they successfully heal from betrayal.
I’ll also help you reimagine what healing actually looks like—not just surviving, but creating a relationship that feels safe, connected, and even joyful again.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
- What healing from betrayal really looks like (it’s probably different than you think)
- Why both partners must commit to radical honesty—not just the one who broke the trust
- The personal growth work both partners need to do for lasting change
- How to integrate the betrayal into your story without being defined by it
- The power of community and why you can’t heal in isolation
- Why professional support is essential—and what kind of help actually works
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If you’re looking for structured guidance, support, and a clear roadmap for recovery, check out my Courageous Together Program—an online course and support system designed to help couples rebuild trust and connection. Inside, you’ll get:
✅ A structured healing roadmap
✅ Live Q&A sessions with me
✅ Exclusive video lessons and worksheets
✅ Confidential and secure access
💡 Stay tuned for the program launch! Join my email list to be the first to know when doors open.
If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who might benefit. I’d love to hear your thoughts—leave a review and let me know what’s working for you!
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
I was honored to be a guest on KayLee Dunn's "Navigating Betrayal" Podcast discussing: "Timing is Everything: When to Begin Rebuilding as a Couple After Betrayal".
Are you wondering when the right time is to begin rebuilding your relationship after betrayal? Join us as we dive into this critical question.
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Key times it's time to start rebuilding as a couple
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How to navigate the healing process together
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Practical tips to regain trust and connection
Whether you're in the thick of betrayal recovery or considering your next steps, this episode is for you. Let's uncover the path forward - together.
Join Me in the Courageous Together Program!
If you’re looking for structured guidance, support, and a clear roadmap for recovery, check out my Courageous Together Program—an online course and support system designed to help couples rebuild trust and connection. Inside, you’ll get:
✅ A structured healing roadmap
✅ Live Q&A sessions with me
✅ Exclusive video lessons and worksheets
✅ Confidential and secure access
💡 Stay tuned for the program launch! Join my email list to be the first to know when doors open.
Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:
Connect with me on social media:
INSTAGRAM
FACEBOOK
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
Meet KayLee:
❤️Founder of the Betrayal Navigation Academy
❤️Host of the Navigating Betrayal podcast
❤️Founder and Administrator of the Humans Navigating Betrayal Facebook Group
❤️Creator of the REBIRTH After Betrayal Coaching Program
KayLee is a compassionate clinician and coach, dedicated to helping individuals trust themselves again and move past intimate betrayals.
If you're interested in more, join us on our FREE FB group:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/humansnavigatingbetrayal
Find Free Betrayal Navigation Resources
kayleedunn.com/links
Connect with KayLee on:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heykayleedunn/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/navigatingbetrayal/
***While KayLee is and has been a Betrayal Trauma Therapist for over a decade, this material (and all material on social media) is educational in nature. It is not a substitute or replacement for treatment with a specialized therapist or doctor.
If you’ve ever caught yourself checking your partner’s phone, feeling anxious when they’re late, or wondering if you’ll ever trust again, you’re not alone. In today’s episode, I’m diving into the four hidden fears that keep so many people stuck after betrayal—and, more importantly, how you can move past them.
These fears aren’t signs of weakness. They’re normal responses to an abnormal situation. I’ve seen these fears show up again and again. I’ll walk you through each one and share insights on how to work through them.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
🔹 The fear of being hurt again—and how to regain a sense of safety
🔹 How to rebuild trust in yourself after betrayal
🔹 What to do if you’re afraid your partner will never change
🔹 Why it’s not necessarily too late to fix things, even if it feels that way
🔹 Practical steps to shift out of fear-based thinking and into healing
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About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
In this solo episode, I’m diving into three hidden barriers that can keep you stuck in the healing process after betrayal. Whether you’re the betrayed partner or the one working to rebuild trust, these common fears and beliefs can make it hard to move forward. I’ll walk you through why these barriers exist and share practical ways to navigate them so you can keep progressing in your healing journey.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
🔹 Why the fear of repeated betrayal is so powerful—and what you can do about it
🔹 The myth that trust can never be rebuilt and how to shift this belief
🔹 Why “once a cheater, always a cheater” is a damaging mindset
🔹 How to balance self-protection with openness and hope
🔹 The importance of recognizing and updating your emotional responses as healing progresses
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About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
In this episode, I address one of the most common questions couples ask when healing from betrayal: “How long does it take?” I discuss the factors that influence the timeline for recovery and highlights the challenges couples face along the way. I also explain the importance of creating emotional safety, overcoming fears of relapse, and synchronizing individual and couple healing journeys.
I'm also excited to introduce my new program, Courageous Together, designed to guide couples through this process with a clear and supportive roadmap. Stay tuned for more information about this groundbreaking program!
Key Takeaways:
• Why there isn’t a finish line in healing, but rather a lifelong journey of growth.
• The difference between healing and curing, and how betrayal recovery fits into this framework.
• How fear of relapse and repeated betrayal can slow progress and what can be done to address it.
• The critical role emotional safety plays in accelerating the healing process.
• Strategies for intertwining individual and couple recovery journeys to foster connection and trust.
Watch the Courageous Together Webinar
Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:
Connect with me on social media:
INSTAGRAM
FACEBOOK
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
In this episode, I discuss the common mistakes couples make during betrayal recovery and provide guidance on how to move forward with intention and clarity.
I also share the inspiration behind my work and introduce you to my upcoming program, Courageous Together, designed to give couples a trauma-informed roadmap to rebuild trust and connection. Stay tuned for more information about this groundbreaking program!
Key Takeaways:
- Why forgiveness should never be rushed and how timing impacts healing.
- The dangers of mutualizing blame in betrayal recovery and how to maintain clarity.
- How to distinguish between valid feelings and thoughts influenced by trauma.
- The reality that strong relationships require intentional effort and ongoing maintenance.
- How modern marriages face unique challenges and the importance of building support networks.
Watch the Courageous Together Webinar
Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:
Connect with me on social media:
INSTAGRAM
FACEBOOK
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
Every relationship has a power dynamic, whether it be equal or an uneven split. Focusing on empathy, generosity, and mutual respect are the keys to balanced relationships. In this episode we welcome Bonnie Young, a licensed marriage and family therapist, to discuss power dynamics in relationships. Through Bonnie's research and clinical practice, she shares her findings on the importance of power sharing and how power can be invisible and often misunderstood. Join us as we also cover gender roles and the influence of societal structures on power dynamics. Navigating these challenges, especially in light of betrayal can enhance relationships and provide more security and satisfaction.
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Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:
Connect with me on social media:
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
About Bonnie Young: Bonnie Young is a licensed marriage and family therapist, frequent presenter and podcast guest, and published author of several academic articles, essays, and a book covering topics including sexuality, religion and mental health. She is the founder of Azure Counseling, an online mental health clinic focused on treating clients/ couples with anxiety, religious OCD / scrupulosity, and sexual disorders. Bonnie holds a bachelor’s degree in history with an emphasis in Mormon women’s history and a master’s degree in marriage and family therapy, both from Brigham Young University. Born and raised in the Seattle area, she currently lives in Logan, Utah where she is completing her doctoral studies at Utah State University in marriage and family therapy. Her dissertation work explores questions about power dynamics in Latter-day Saint marriages.
www.bonnieyoungcounseling.com
www.azurecounseling.com
Bonnie Young - Instagram (@_bonnieyoung)
When we think of dishonesty in relationships, we often immediately think of the big, life-changing moments such as betrayal. But even very small instances of dishonesty, seemingly harmless, can accumulate and eventually harm the relationship. In this episode we discuss how not being completely truthful about our needs and wants can lead to a lack of connection and misunderstanding. When we are able to openly communicate about even the smallest issues, we build trust and connection. We encourage you to identify and address areas in your own relationships where greater honesty could improve connection and satisfaction.
The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!
Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:
Connect with me on social media:
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
How many of you have the exact life that you mapped out when you were younger? The perfect spouse, perfect children, perfect life, where everyone does exactly what you want them to? It’s pretty fair to say that how life plays out is vastly different than what we picture in our heads, especially considering that the people in our lives get to choose for themselves how they will live their lives. In this episode we discuss the challenges of unmet expectations in families, specifically as children grow and take different life paths than anticipated. Join us as we share insights on accepting these deviations, the importance of honoring individual journeys, and dealing with societal or familial judgments. We also explore how to manage unmet expectations in marital relationships and how to handle disappointment and maintain personal integrity amid life's unpredictable nature.
The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!
Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:
Connect with me on social media:
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
What do you think of when you think of a polygraph test? Do you think of a gimmick you’ve seen on TV, or do you think of a reliable truth-telling device? In this episode we welcome Jared Rockwood, a polygraph examiner with extensive experience and training, to discuss the role of polygraph tests in rebuilding trust after betrayal. Jared explains the process, effectiveness, and ethical considerations of polygraph testing, particularly in therapeutic settings. He emphasizes the importance of thorough preparation and clear communication in minimizing anxiety and maximizing accuracy. We also address common misconceptions, the impact of polygraph results on relationships, and the critical nature of working with experienced professionals.
The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!
Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:
Connect with me on social media:
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years.
About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum).
About Jared Rockwood: Before entering the field of polygraph, Jared Rockwood spent much of his adult life dedicated to helping troubled teens find recovery and safety. Jared became interested in polygraphs because of the consistent improvements he saw with his clients as they worked in therapy alongside polygraphs as a tool for aiding accountability and safety. Jared is dedicated to the science of polygraph and was educated and mentored in best practice through his initial training with the Academy of Polygraph Science with PCSOT training through Marston Academy. In private practice, Jared works with PCSOT clients both adult and youth, Pre-employment for a variety of Police and Sheriff Departments, Fidelity testing for a variety of treatment programs, and Forensic testing for defense attorneys. Jared has had an opportunity to contribute to the polygraph magazine and credibility assessment journal on a variety of topics and enjoy the opportunity to share his experiences through presentations at various seminars, associations, and podcasts.
www.intermountainpolygraph.com
Do you ever wonder if it’s necessary to praise someone for a basic action you feel they should automatically be doing? In this episode we have a nuanced discussion about the dynamics between being supportive and appreciative within a relationship, especially when partners start contributing to the relationship after a period of not doing so. We examine the differences between healthy partnership contributions and expectations of praise for basic responsibilities, particularly in the context of betrayal. There is an important need for genuine contributions, open communication, and mutual appreciation, while recognizing that recovery from betrayal requires patience and authenticity. We conclude by reflecting on the need for recognizing hidden efforts, exploring entitlement mentality, and practicing empathy.
The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!
Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:
Connect with me on social media:
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
Trauma responses can alter how we see ourselves, our relationships, and the world. In this episode we focus on managing betrayal trauma and its impact on our self-perception of goodness. While this can be affected through other traumas, betrayal uniquely affects our core identity and sense of safety. Join us as we discuss the importance of boundaries, understanding and managing strong emotions like hate and disgust, and the misconception that being good means being a doormat.
The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!
Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:
Connect with me on social media:
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
If you could go back in time, what would you share with your younger self about their body, sexuality, relationships, and sexual connection? In this episode, we welcome Bonnie Young, a licensed marriage and family therapist, and founder of Azure Counseling. Bonnie discusses her book 'Sex Educated: Letters from a Latter-day Saint Therapist to Her Younger Self,' which tackles topics of body, sexuality, relationships, and sexual connection through a series of letters. Despite being written within a spiritual framework, her book offers scientifically grounded insights applicable to both men and women. We examine beliefs about body and sexuality to foster better relationships and provide accurate, non-shaming information to the next generations.
The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!
Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse
Connect with me on social media:
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, and snow ski.
About Bonnie Young: Bonnie Young is a licensed marriage and family therapist, frequent presenter and podcast guest, and published author of several academic articles, essays, and a book covering topics including sexuality, religion and mental health. She is the founder of Azure Counseling, an online mental health clinic focused on treating clients/ couples with anxiety, religious OCD / scrupulosity, and sexual disorders. Bonnie holds a bachelor’s degree in history with an emphasis in Mormon women’s history and a master’s degree in marriage and family therapy, both from Brigham Young University. Born and raised in the Seattle area, she currently lives in Logan, Utah where she is completing her doctoral studies at Utah State University in marriage and family therapy. Her dissertation work explores questions about power dynamics in Latter-day Saint marriages.
www.bonnieyoungcounseling.com
www.azurecounseling.com
Bonnie Young - Instagram (@_bonnieyoung)
When you are on the sidelines watching a friend go through the trauma of betrayal, it can be difficult not to choose sides or to know when to help and when to step back. In this episode we explore the importance of assessing your role in their support system, setting clear boundaries, and managing personal resources while offering support to an individual or couple. The overall aim is to provide compassionate, long-term support while maintaining personal well-being and effectiveness.
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About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
Discovering you have been betrayed is an extreme life-altering moment. Knowing what to do or where to turn next can feel insurmountable. In this episode I share 4 thoughts as a “pep talk” for the betrayed partner. Join me as I outline encouraging messages and steps to help you through the disclosure process and moving forward.
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About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
The road after a betrayal and disclosure can be long and arduous. In this episode I share 4 thoughts as a “pep talk” for the recovering partner who is inevitably facing extreme discomfort and uncertainty. Stepping into disclosure is an intense, demanding experience, but the aftermath is the time to really do the work as an individual and to support your partner in their new reality.
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About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
The need to be accepted, combined with the fear of abandonment and rejection can lead us into becoming what other people want us to be while hiding who we truly are. This can drive us to deceit, manipulation, lies, and betrayal. In this episode I have invited Dr. Robert Glover to discuss his book, “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. Join us as we discuss the need for emotional honesty and authenticity in order to build healthy connections. Dr. Glover also covers the impact of fathers and generational patterns, the need for masculine initiation, and the transition from ‘Nice Guy’ to authenticity.
The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!
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Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
About Dr. Robert Glover: Dr. Robert Glover, therapist, coach, speaker, and educator is a relationship expert with over 40 years of professional experience. The author of the groundbreaking, No More Mr. Nice Guy, the best-selling Dating Essentials for Men, and the recently released, Dating Essentials for Men: Frequently Asked Questions, Dr. Glover has helped thousands of men world-wide transform their lives and get what they want in relationship, sex, and career.
Websites:
www.drglover.com
www.nomoremrniceguy.com
www.datingessentialsformen.com
This week we are re-visiting an episode that aired one year ago, but is an important topic that is continually relevant as we navigate the ups and downs of life.
Life is full of situations that are out of our control. Once we have recovered from the initial shock of what has happened, how do we proceed? Do we continue to live as if we are powerless? Or do we make choices that we can control to heal and move forward? We have to be accountable and conscious with how we respond to what happens to us. Today we discuss the victim mindset and how that is often a default response mechanism, but how it is so important to choose to take ownership of our lives.
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
It's common for betrayed partners to wonder if they'll ever be themselves again. Enduring sleepless nights, constant stress, and regular emotional breakdowns can cause doubt that there can be a future worth looking forward to. This month we are going to focus on how betrayed partners can build resilience in the aftermath of betrayal. We've invited therapist and betrayal expert, Kaylee Dunn, to discuss how betrayed partners can begin developing more resilience in the face of devastating loss and betrayal.
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Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
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Connect with me on social media:
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
About KayLee Dunn: KayLee is the Betrayal Navigation Coach, speaker, and instructor. She has also been a licensed clinical social worker specializing in betrayal trauma, sexual addiction, and PTSD for more than a decade. Kaylee helps women trust again and reclaim the life that was stolen from them after betrayal and infidelity.Website: https://www.kayleedunn.com/ Linktree: https://www.kayleedunn.com/links FacebookGroup: https://www.facebook.com/groups/humansnavigatingbetrayal Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@heykayleedunn IG: https://www.instagram.com/heykayleedunn/
Narcissism has gained momentum in everyday conversation. While many individuals exhibit varying degrees of narcissistic tendencies, true Narcissistic Personality Disorder needs much more attention and diagnosing than a mere accusation. In this episode we welcome Tony Overbay to discuss the difference between emotional immaturity and narcissism. Join us as we break down both and the importance of understanding narcissism, emotional immaturity, and the challenges they present in relationships. We also discuss the impact of confabulation and gaslighting in relationships, where one partner may manipulate or distort reality to maintain a sense of control or avoid accountability. Tony emphasizes the significance of self-awareness, self-care, and setting boundaries as essential steps for individuals dealing with narcissistic behavior in their partners.
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
About Tony Overbay:
Tony Overbay is a licensed marriage and family therapist and certified mindful habit coach who has a significant online presence, including two podcasts named "The Virtual Couch" and "Waking Up to Narcissism."
One of the biggest casualties men experience, often when they are boys, is getting separated from their own hearts and living life on autopilot. Addictions, trauma, abandonment, and other challenges can create more separation and make it difficult for men to feel alive and energized. It can also make it difficult to connect to themselves, to God, and their most important relationships. We invited Kurt Francom, a board member of the non-profit men's organization, "Warrior Heart", to join us for a discussion on how men can find their hearts and re-energize their lives. This is a great discussion to listen to whether or not you're a man. We all have men in our lives who, as Kurt says, "Need permission to not need permission to reclaim their own hearts." We'd love to hear what you think of this interview!
The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!
Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
About Kurt Francom:Francom holds a bachelor’s degree from the David Eccles School of Business at the University of Utah. He previously worked as an adjunct professor at Ensign College, Director of Sales and Marketing for Fiddler Online, which he owned with his business partner, Tevya Washburn, who passed away in 2020. After graduating from college he worked as Western Region Business Director for Young Living Essential Oils. He and his wife, Alanna, are the parents of three children.
The Four Levels of Communication - with Nathaniel Gustafson- Episode 235
Communication in a marriage or committed relationship isn't always easy, especially in the aftermath of betrayal. We've invited fellow therapist Nathaniel Gustafson to teach us more about the four levels of communication and how to improve your ability to build a stronger connection. We make a special emphasis on how this can help men, who are often socialized to avoid anything emotional, deepen their ability to connect with their partner. Listen to this great discussion and make sure to follow the guidelines in his infographic so you can improve your connection with your partner.
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Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
About Nathaniel Gustafson: Nathaniel Gustafson is the founder of TenderHearted Men. TenderHearted Men is a counseling and coaching practice in Castle Rock, CO, which helps men feel and relationships heal. Nathaniel is unique in offering compassion mixed with challenge, holding the needs of the individual and the couple simultaneously. Nathaniel is a Licensed Professional Counselor holding both a Master's of Arts in Counseling and a Master's of Divinity. He is specially trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy and EMDR. On the days away from his kids and wife, you might be able to find Nathaniel fly fishing or disc golfing.
Links:Website: www.tenderheartedmen.comFreebie: Levels of Communication Infographic www.tenderheartedmen.com/loc-ctcKnow Your Why Workshop: www.tenderheartedmen.com/know-your-whyMonthly Both Sides of the Story Webinar with Tammy Gustafson: www.bothsidesofthestory.co
We've invited Julia Witt to join us for a great discussion on transactional versus transformational relationships. Geoff discovered Julia when someone sent him a Tik Tok video of her discussing this topic. He knew he had to invite her to share more with our community. Transactional relationship dynamics are so common, especially in couples healing from broken trust. So many guys who are trying to rebuild trust want to do the right things, but then inadvertently create a dynamic that creates more resentment. We discuss how to challenge this dynamic and create a more transformational relationship for long-term recovery.
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Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
About Julia Witt:
I have worked in the mental health and substance abuse profession for the past 20 years. Providing effective, evidenced based treatment, and working with complicated diagnosis with trauma focused care has been a passion of mine. My focus is on providing a platform of emotional literacy, somatic focused understanding, and learning how to let emotion integrate into our needs for authentic and autonomous living. Making peace with our emotions unlocks a level of flow and effectiveness for transformation. I continue to teach as an adjunct instructor, provide telehealth, and a coaching program focused on emotional regulation skills.
emotionalpeaceuniversity@gmail.com
In this episode we are joined by Jason Portnoy, who wrote a memoir called “Silicon Valley Porn Star”. Jason shares his personal journey of addiction, infidelity, and self-discovery. We discuss the importance of surrendering and taking responsibility for unhealthy patterns in order to heal, grow, and overcome addiction. As with any personal recovery story, please recognize that comparisons and criticism are normal reactions, as you may not agree with or do some of the same things he and his wife have done in their journey. As the famous 12-step saying goes, "Take what you need and leave the rest for someone else." We hope this interview helps strengthen your resolve to live a life of integrity and stay in the light.
The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!
Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:
Connect with me on social media:
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
About Jason Portnoy: Jason is an entrepreneur, venture capitalist, and began his career at PayPal, working closely with technology icons like Peter Thiel, Elon Musk, Max Levchin, and Reid Hoffman. He served as the first Chief Financial Officer of Palantir Technologies (NYSE: PLTR) and later founded Oakhouse Partners, a top-performing venture capital firm. In his own words:"I had a life many men dream of: money, titles, cars, women. Then one day it all came crashing down, and I realized that deep inside I was miserable, lonely, and scared. Where did I go wrong? A lifetime of messages from society told me if I had those things I’d be a “real man” and happy.
It was all a lie.
After years of intense work and study, I learned I couldn’t find happiness in material possessions or validation from society. It only existed inside of myself. In my book, I share the story of how it happened: my rise, my fall, and my redemption."
In this episode we discuss the topic of rebuilding trust and healing from betrayal. The concepts of 'worthiness' and 'trust' often get confused, and it is extremely important to maintain a clear distinction. 'Worthiness' is someone's inherent human value, which is unchangeable regardless of their actions, while 'trust' is about behavior patterns, competencies, values, and is earned by consistency and reliability. Join me as we caution against conflating these issues, as it can create confusion, suffering, and derail the recovery process.
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About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
When we have injuries, losses, disappointments, betrayals, and other painful things happen in our marriages, healing rituals are a way we can mark that things are different. We use rituals all the time to symbolically mark changes in our lives, such as graduation ceremonies, funerals, weddings, birthdays, baptisms, etc. We live in a world of symbols and meaning and we can use these things to help us move through our healing. We invited marriage and family therapist, Amanda Christensen, to talk with us about the importance of healing rituals in healing from betrayal.
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
About Amanda Christensen: Amanda is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specialized in treating couples affected by pornography and sexual addiction. For addicts, she focuses on accountability and teaches how to truly connect instead of escaping. She will also provide empowerment for spouses of addicts to help them create healthy boundaries and understand their betrayal trauma. Amanda will facilitate a full disclosure for the couple so they can heal and rebuild trust. Amanda is also trained in treating trauma through EMDR. She is a co-host of the podcast, Not The Experts, which focuses on betrayal trauma resilience and has been a guest on several other podcasts. She is on the board of Reach10 and has presented at multiple conferences and workshops. Amanda is also an AAMFT approved supervisor for therapists in training. She is currently adjunct faculty at Brigham Young University teaching practicum and Sexual Development and Analysis for MFT masters students.
https://hopemft.com/portfolio/amanda-christenson/
When you're healing from betrayal trauma, it's completely normal to still wonder how to keep the relationship alive. If you're completely done with the relationship, then this video isn't for you. However, if you are working toward relationship recovery or you think you want to move toward that as a goal, join in this discussion I had with KayLee Dunn during her "Love You Now" betrayal trauma summit.
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About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
About KayLee Dunn: KayLee is the Betrayal Navigation Coach, speaker, and instructor. She has also been a licensed clinical social worker specializing in betrayal trauma, sexual addiction, and PTSD for more than a decade. Kaylee helps women trust again and reclaim the life that was stolen from them after betrayal and infidelity.
https://www.kayleedunn.com/?r_done=1
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease.
Most couples never imagine they could find themselves in the crisis of an extramarital affair. The slope is slippery and every couple is at risk for infidelity issues unless they have intentionality and boundaries around their marriage.
We are joined in this episode by Shannon Brown, a licensed marriage and family therapist, who specializes in affair recovery. We discuss the risk factors couples should be aware of when protecting their marriage from infidelity. The majority of affairs in marriage begin with familiarity and emotional connection. We want to help couples understand these risk factors and work together to strengthen their affair-proofing efforts. This is a great discussion that will hopefully spark some conversation about how to protect your most important relationship.
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About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
About Shannon Brown: Shannon Brown is a licensed marriage and family therapist. Shannon has been in practice for over 10 years. Her experience includes working with the severely mentally ill, couples, families, and children. Currently Shannon works with individuals, couples and families (18 and older only).
http://www.shannonbrowncounseling.com/
In this episode we are wrapping up our 4-part series and focusing on spiritual intimacy. Join us as we not only discuss deepening spiritual intimacy when both individuals are on the same page, but as we explore the challenges that arise when couples have different beliefs, or when one person’s beliefs shift. These changes can feel threatening to the relationship, but we will dive into the importance of curiosity, communication, and respect in balancing the dynamics of spiritual intimacy.
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
In this episode we continue the discussion on intimacy, this time focusing on intellectual intimacy. Intellectual intimacy is the sharing of ideas, perspectives, and opinions, possibly challenging others’ beliefs, while simultaneously being willing to hear and learn someone else’s viewpoints. Join us as we discuss how asynchronous communication can impact intellectual intimacy in relationships, what to do when one partner hijacks conversations, the importance of curiosity, and tips to increase intellectual intimacy.
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About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
In today’s episode we continue the discussion on intimacy, this time focusing on emotional intimacy. Sharing your deepest thoughts, feelings, and fears requires safety and vulnerability. Join us as we discuss the importance of emotional intimacy and ways to improve and nurture this in your most valued relationships.
The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!
Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:
Connect with me on social media:
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
When the term “physical intimacy” is used, do you immediately assume that sexual contact is being inferred? In this episode we discuss the importance of healthy physical intimacy in a relationship and why that doesn’t always mean sex. Join us as we outline the additional benefits of prioritizing platonic touch, physical proximity, and more in relationships.
The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!
Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:
Connect with me on social media:
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
Sometimes betrayed partners struggle to manage the anger resulting from trauma and stay stuck in verbal and emotional abusive patterns toward their partner. For safety and other reasons, it is vital to take important steps toward interrupting and healing these patterns for both partners. In this episode I address a specific question from a viewer who finds herself in this dilemma over a year after she confessed to betraying her husband early on in their marriage.
The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!
Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
In this episode, we're going to take a broader look at the history of addiction to better understand how we see this universal human struggle. We're featuring an interview we did with Dr. Carl Erik Fisher from Columbia University and author of the book, "The Urge: Our History of Addiction."
Even though Dr. Fisher approaches this topic from the lens of substance abuse, there are parallels for all addictive and compulsive behaviors. As you listen to this interview and read his book, please recognize that this doesn't mean you need to suddenly drop your boundaries, make excuses, or allow harmful behaviors to continue. His validation of the human struggle isn't permission for engaging in harmful behaviors without consequences. We found this discussion enlightening, expansive, and compassionate.
The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!
Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
About Carl Erik Fisher:
Carl Erik Fisher, M.D., is an addiction psychiatrist, bioethics scholar, author, and person in recovery. He is an assistant professor of clinical psychiatry at Columbia University, where he studies and teaches law, ethics, and policy relating to psychiatry and neuroscience, especially issues related to substance use disorders and other addictive behaviors. He also maintains a private clinical practice focused on complementary and integrative approaches to addiction and recovery. He is the author of the nonfiction book The Urge: Our History of Addiction, named one of the best books of the year by The New Yorker and The Boston Globe. The Urge is an intellectual and cultural history of addiction, interwoven with his own experiences as an addiction psychiatrist at Columbia and as someone in recovery himself.
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Sexual drive is something all humans and animals were created with, but as humans where does the natural instinct end and the conscious care and concern for a partner begin? In this episode, we address a listener's question about the portrayal of male struggle with lust and its impact on a wife's sense of safety and cherishedness. We discuss the cultural messages surrounding male sexuality and the importance of self-restraint in healthy societies. The conversation explores the potential for healthy sexual expression within a committed relationship and the role of healthy attachment in redirecting sexual energy.
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About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
Over the many years of helping couples and individuals overcome addiction and betrayal, I’ve noticed it can be extremely difficult for the partner who betrayed trust to be able to confidently live authentically. Coming from a space of hiding, lying, and posing as something or someone they are not, to confronting their true feelings and behaviors can be terrifying for both the betrayer and the betrayed. Join us as we discuss helpful ways to live authentically while being conscious of the triggers that it may present for both partners.
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About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
We all have numerous emotions daily and must learn how to identify and use them in our lives. But in today’s society we are often taught that healthy emotional regulation means having no emotion at all. In this episode we discuss how unhealthy emotional regulation can undermine connection and repair, holding us hostage in our relationships, and 4 helpful ways to develop healthy emotional regulation.
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About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
Healing from sexual betrayal in a relationship is not a linear process. Through the ups and downs both individuals may see glimpses of safety and security, while at other times vulnerability and fear. In this episode I address the feelings that can come when it seems like the relationship is healing, yet the feelings of happiness may trigger shame, uncertainty, and cause a backslide in progress. Join me as I share ways for both the betrayed and the betrayer to process these emotions, and find ways to continue the progression in healing.
The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!
Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
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About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
“Holding Space” is a term that is becoming more popular, but can be difficult to define and conceptualize in language. In this episode, we are fortunate to hear from Heather Plett, co-founder of the International Centre for Holding Space. Heather shares her expertise as she expounds on the idea of lessening our reactive responses and supporting what others need in the moment without our personal input and projections.
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
About Heather Plett:
Heather is the author of the book The Art of Holding Space: A Practice of Love, Liberation, and Leadership and the co-founder of the international Centre for Holding Space. She is an international speaker, facilitator, writer, and life-long learner whose work has been translated into a dozen languages and quoted in such notable publications as Harvard Business Review. She has trained people from six continents, both in person and online. Before launching her work in holding space, Heather worked in leadership and communications in government and non-profit. She lives in Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada with her three daughters.
Book:
The Art of Holding Space: A Practice of Love, Liberation, and Leadership
In this profound book, facilitator and speaker Heather Plett empowers you with constructive, actionable practices for transforming conflict, building boundaries, and increasing sovereignty in your own life – and the lives of those closest to you.
During the process of recovering from betrayal trauma, couples will often find themselves in a passive or proactive state. In this episode we discuss how those who have betrayed trust are usually playing offense or defense as they work to rebuild trust. While both scenarios may include steps forward and not acting out anymore, both vary widely on the impact they have on the betrayed partner and their sense of safety and trust.
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Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
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Connect with me on social media:
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
In the aftermath of a betrayal, there is a delicate balance between forgiveness and trust. Oftentimes trust is expected as quickly as forgiveness, but it is important to understand the differences between the two, and their separate roles. Join us this episode as we break down each action individually and how both will severely impact every relationship.
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Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
In this episode I am joined by my friend and colleague, Sathiya Sam. Sathiya shares his own journey of addiction and recovery and what he has learned through his own journey and through his time helping other men fully recover from pornography addiction. We discuss the importance of open and honest conversations to lay a foundation of trust and understanding in a relationship, and how that can help eliminate shame and increase true recovery and healing.
The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!
Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:
Connect with me on social media:
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Sathiya Sam:
Sathiya Sam is a coach and speaker that helps men live with confidence and integrity. A recovered addict himself, Sathiya is the creator of DeepClean™ – a research-based and Bible-backed system for overcoming porn addiction and author of The Last Relapse. This work has helped everyone from college students to medical doctors regain control of their lives and walk in greater levels of freedom. Based out of Toronto, Canada, Sathiya is happily married and a die-hard basketball fan.
Website - www.sathiyasam.com
Free Online Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/deepcleaninnercircle The Last Relapse (Book) - www.sathiyasam.com/books
Unleash The Man Within Podcast - www.sathiyasam.com/podcast
Facebook - www.facebook.com/sathiyamesam
Instagram - www.instagram.com/sathiyamesam
Dr. Jacob Hess wrote an article in Public Square magazine that challenged the belief that we should abandon marriage if we're not feeling romantic or loving feelings for our spouse. He said that many of these marriages are not only worth saving, but are completely able to be saved. We invited him to join us on the podcast to talk about his perspective on how most marriages can be healed, even when they have serious challenges. In this episode, we discuss:
- The origins of this article and why this topic matters so much to him
- How this applies to couples who have experienced serious attachment injuries
- What couples can do to practice love when they're on the brink of divorce
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
More on Jacob's Background:
Jacob teaches Mindfulness-based Stress Reduction and has helped create mindfulness-based classes (Mindweather 101, Lift, Fortify) and the Council for Sustainable Healing. In addition to 14 peer-reviewed articles, Jacob has authored four books: You’re Not as Crazy as I Thought, But You’re Still Wrong, Once Upon a Time…He Wasn’t Feeling It Anymore and A Third Space: Proposing Another Way Forward in the LGBT/Religious Conservative Impasse & The Power of Stillness: Mindful Living for Latter-ay Saints. You can learn more about Jacob’s work at unthinkable.cc or contact him at jzhess@gmail.com
Recently I received a question from a woman whose husband is working to rebuild trust and recover from a pornography addiction. She shared that while he is making steps to change this part of his life, he still uses pornography every couple weeks. Join me in this episode as I share my answer with all of you and dive into a few key components that could be influencing his need to still use pornography, such as: unresolved trauma, shame, and the need for more thorough lifestyle changes.
The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!
Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
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Connect with me on social media:
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
Even after a thoughtful and sincere apology, with no strings attached, we often find ourselves stuck in a place of being unable to accept an apology and move forward. In this episode, we follow up to last week’s discussion of sincere apologies and look at it from the receiving end. Join us as we discuss the personal and past hurdles that often affect us being unable to accept apologies, as well as the importance of communicating why we can’t accept it in order to move forward.
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About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
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About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
Betrayed partners often have difficulty knowing where they're at in the healing process. After the chaos of discovery and early recovery, the rest can seem like a blur. My guest is Tammy Gustafson, therapist, coach, and writer, who helps break down four distinct phases of healing from betrayal trauma. In this episode, we cover:
- The 4 phases of healing after betrayal
- Why they are important
- How knowing where you are impacts the healing process
- How to balance the individual journey with the patterns of healing
- What things a betrayed wife should focus on in each phase
- What happens when the husband and wife are in different phases
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About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
About Tammy Gustafson:
She earned a Master’s Degree in Counseling from Denver Seminary and her passion is helping women recover from trauma, PTSD, as well as helping wives heal from betrayal. Her focus is to help them get unstuck, discovering ways to live with purpose, joy, and confidence so they are free to move forward and leave their past behind. Tammy is the founder and director of LiveFree Counseling in Colorado, a counseling center specializing in trauma recovery. Tammy has over a decade of experience. She is an EMDR Certified Therapist and a Consult in Training (CIT) through the EMDR International Association. She completed Bessel van der Kolk’s Certificate Program in Traumatic Stress Studies and is a certified NeurOptimal Neurofeedback Trainer. Tammy has shared with hundreds of people on the topics of healing from betrayal, understanding and managing the effects of trauma, setting healthy boundaries, and other mental health issues. She connects easily with audiences through her authenticity, humor, and compassion.
Website: www.betrayalhealing.com
Quiz: www.betrayalhealing.com/quiz
Instagram: www.instagram.com/tammylgustafson
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
Today we conclude our conversation with internationally recognized sex therapist, Wendy Maltz. She continues to discuss the steps that couples can take to relearn touch after betrayal. In this episode we cover:
- How couples can work together to relearn touch
- How couples can support each other during that process
- Relearning touch outside of sex
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About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
About Wendy Maltz:
Wendy Maltz is an internationally recognized sex therapist, author, and speaker. Wendy has more than forty years of experience helping individuals and couples overcome sex and intimacy concerns. She is the author of numerous acclaimed sexuality resources, including the recovery classic, The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse, as well as The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography and Private Thoughts: Exploring the Power of Women’s Sexual Fantasies. Presently retired from providing counseling services, Wendy remains engaged in the field through her popular educational website,www.HealthySex.com, which provides free articles, podcast interviews, posters, videos, and more to help people overcome sexual problems and develop skills for love-based sexual intimacy.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
Intimacy is a vital part of a relationship, and one that takes time and effort to create. After the betrayal of pornography addiction, the steps to healing and regaining that intimacy can be confusing and difficult to navigate. Internationally recognized sex therapist, author, and speaker, Wendy Maltz, joins us for the third time to address the process of relearning touch after betrayal. In this episode we cover:
- How a pornography addiction affects an intimate partner
- How pornography addiction robs the user of true sexual connection
- How couples can build a strong sexual connection after addiction
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About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 24 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 12 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
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Click here for more info. About Wendy Maltz:Wendy Maltz is an internationally recognized sex therapist, author, and speaker. Wendy has more than forty years of experience helping individuals and couples overcome sex and intimacy concerns. She is the author of numerous acclaimed sexuality resources, including the recovery classic, The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse, as well as The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography and Private Thoughts: Exploring the Power of Women’s Sexual Fantasies. Presently retired from providing counseling services, Wendy remains engaged in the field through her popular educational website,www.HealthySex.com, which provides free articles, podcast interviews, posters, videos, and more to help people overcome sexual problems and develop skills for love-based sexual intimacy.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
In an age of instant gratification and constant activity, we are left with little time to be bored or disconnected from stimulation. It is becoming increasingly challenging to sit with discomfort of any kind - constantly looking to avoid it, numb those feelings, or react with unhealthy practices. In this episode we discuss the importance of allowing discomfort in our lives and the safety we will find in regulating ourselves to properly process and deal with our emotions.
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Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
Do you have a hard time saying “no” and holding personal boundaries around your time, energy and resources? We often find ourselves socially conditioned to be agreeable, helpful, and willing to say “yes” at just about any cost. In this episode we discuss the importance of personal boundaries, and surrounding yourself with people who will accept you and grow with you as you develop the ability to hold back when you no longer have the capacity to blindly say “yes”.
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Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
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Connect with me on social media:
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
Masculinity has become a taboo topic in recent years, often being associated with sexism and misogyny. In this episode Ben Pacini, author of “The Case for Heroic Masculinity” and professor at BYU-Idaho, joins us to discuss the need for healthy masculinity in today’s society. What that looks like in different families, communities, and organizations may differ, but will ultimately benefit the whole for years to come.
“The Case for Heroic Masculinity” by Ben Pacini
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
About Ben Pacini:
Benjamin Pacini is faculty at BYU-Idaho in Elementary, Early, and Special Education. He’s a husband, father of four, general conference aficionado, and occasional writer. Tends toward the “obnoxiously happy” extreme of humanity. Really kind of insufferable about it. Talks too much about economics at dinner parties. Has aspirations to be a muppet.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
During my years working with couples dealing with addiction and betrayal, I’ve seen several key trends that have led to the most healing and recovery for the partner who has been betrayed. In this episode we discuss the top 4 principles that I see helping the betrayed partner to improve their own healing and recovery process.
The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!
Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
Join our new Connection Plus Community
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
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Connect with me on social media:
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
During my years working with couples dealing with addiction and betrayal, I’ve seen several key trends that have led to the most successful recoveries for those who have betrayed their partner. In this episode we discuss the top 4 things that I see helping those who have betrayed trust have the most movement and progress in their recovery and relationship.
The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!
Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
Join our new Connection Plus Community
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:
Connect with me on social media:
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
During my years working with couples dealing with addiction and betrayal, I’ve seen several key trends that have led to the most successful recoveries for those who have betrayed their partner. In this episode we discuss the top 4 things that I see helping those who have betrayed trust have the most movement and progress in their recovery and relationship.
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About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
Working through betrayal trauma brings up a lot of unknowns in a relationship. One of the most common questions is if the betrayer has the capacity and the willingness to change, or if they are tied to a compulsive or addictive behavior that is beyond conquering. In this episode we discuss each label and how at the end of the day, while each may give different connotations about the intent of betrayal, both have the ability to change.
The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!
Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
Join our new Connection Plus Community
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Connect with me on social media:
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
There is a fine line between words that empower change and words that drag us down and keep us stuck in a hamster wheel of unhealthy patterns. In this episode we discuss the importance of differentiating between shame and regret, and how recognition and action can do wonders for recovery.
The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!
Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
Join our new Connection Plus Community
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:
Connect with me on social media:
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
There is a fine line between words that empower change and words that drag us down and keep us stuck in a hamster wheel of unhealthy patterns. In this episode we discuss the importance of differentiating between shame and regret, and how recognition and action can do wonders for recovery.
The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!
Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
Join our new Connection Plus Community
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:
Connect with me on social media:
INSTAGRAM
FACEBOOK
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
Have you ever followed a rule or a request with the understanding, and even the intent, that the person setting that rule won’t really get what they want out of it? In this episode we discuss the term ‘malicious compliance’, and how that can play out in a recovery dynamic. Join us as we discuss the natural, reflexive responses to requests and how to transform those into a more mature, self-reflective response to benefit the relationship.
The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!
Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
Join our new Connection Plus Community
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:
Connect with me on social media:
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
Have you ever followed a rule or a request with the understanding, and even the intent, that the person setting that rule won’t really get what they want out of it? In this episode we discuss the term ‘malicious compliance’, and how that can play out in a recovery dynamic. Join us as we discuss the natural, reflexive responses to requests and how to transform those into a more mature, self-reflective response to benefit the relationship.
The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!
Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
Join our new Connection Plus Community
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:
Connect with me on social media:
INSTAGRAM
FACEBOOK
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
With an increase of activities, over-scheduling, and an overall feeling of “busy-ness”, our lives already seem full to the brim. When a betrayal or other traumatic event occurs, how do we fit in the time and effort to prioritize that recovery while moving on with the demands of every-day life? In this episode we discuss the necessity of slowing down and editing out the less important tasks in our schedules to open up time to properly address, grieve, recover, and heal from a betrayal.
The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!
Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
Join our new Connection Plus Community
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:
Connect with me on social media:
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
With an increase of activities, over-scheduling, and an overall feeling of “busy-ness”, our lives already seem full to the brim. When a betrayal or other traumatic event occurs, how do we fit in the time and effort to prioritize that recovery while moving on with the demands of every-day life? In this episode we discuss the necessity of slowing down and editing out the less important tasks in our schedules to open up time to properly address, grieve, recover, and heal from a betrayal.
The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!
Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
Join our new Connection Plus Community
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:
Connect with me on social media:
INSTAGRAM
FACEBOOK
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
We hear a lot of talk about “toxic” positivity versus being real, vulnerable, and open about our struggles and emotions. It can be hard to know how to balance the two vastly different emotions, especially when self-regulation has been damaged by trauma. In this episode we discuss the need for balancing the positivity and negativity in our lives and how having movement between both can actually make life richer and more well-rounded.
The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!
Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
Join our new Connection Plus Community
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:
Connect with me on social media:
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
We hear a lot of talk about “toxic” positivity versus being real, vulnerable, and open about our struggles and emotions. It can be hard to know how to balance the two vastly different emotions, especially when self-regulation has been damaged by trauma. In this episode we discuss the need for balancing the positivity and negativity in our lives and how having movement between both can actually make life richer and more well-rounded.
The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!
Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
Join our new Connection Plus Community
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:
Connect with me on social media:
INSTAGRAM
FACEBOOK
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
Relationship bonds come in all shapes and sizes. Friendships, acquaintances, family members, and intimate partners all have different levels of connection and familiarity that they are built upon. In this episode we specifically discuss the bonding that occurs when the focus is on the drama or superficial aspects of everyday life and how that can often quickly become a substitute for deeper connection and intimacy. While there is nothing inherently wrong with anything that connects people together in their interests, we give suggestions on how to use those lighter, superficial conversations to form deeper bonds and attachments.
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About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
Moving forward after a betrayal is critical, but when the past has not been fully addressed, it becomes difficult to focus on the future. If the betrayer does not disclose the important information to the betrayed partner, the past becomes bigger than the future. In this episode I continue the conversation on why formal disclosure matters after a betrayal to begin repairing the damage of living with lies in the relationship.
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Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
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About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
Moving forward after a betrayal is critical, but when the past has not been fully addressed, it becomes difficult to focus on the future. If the betrayer does not disclose the important information to the betrayed partner, the past becomes bigger than the future. In this episode I discuss the following reasons why a formal disclosure is important to betrayal healing:
- Help both partners enter reality
- Facing yourself by facing your partner
- Reduce shame
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Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”
Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.
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About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
We’ve all heard the terms “fight, flight, or freeze”. In a physical, adrenaline-filled situation, one could argue that any of these responses would be preferred over another. However, in an emotionally charged situation such as post-betrayal trauma, having your partner freeze when bringing up your pain, hurt, and emotional needs can continue to damage the relationship. In this episode we discuss different methods to manage this natural reaction, build resilience, and how to better react in the future.
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About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
One of the biggest effects of trauma, especially from betrayal, is the feeling of depersonalization; the feeling of watching your life unfold from the outside looking in. These feelings may be overwhelming, often accompanied by a sense of urgency to find yourself and your happiness. In this episode we share where to begin on the journey to finding your true self again, and how directly searching for it may actually be counterproductive in your efforts to reconnect.
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About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
We all have our own life experiences that shape our opinions, motives, and actions. While we are able to live our lives how it makes sense to us, inevitably we each have blind spots that may cloud our judgment or limit our ability to see ourselves clearly. In this episode we discuss methods to gauge our blind spots, receive productive feedback from our relationships with others, and hold ourselves accountable to those that need to be eliminated as we continually develop into who we want to be.
If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie
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About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
Betrayed women often find themselves questioning if their partner is still lusting after or objectifying other women, sometimes years after trust was broken. It can be difficult to know if actions match the thoughts behind them. In this episode we discuss the warning signs of objectification and how those red flags can point to something unresolved in recovery.
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About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
In the aftermath of betrayal it is very common for the betrayer to act from a place of fear; going through the motions of compliments, acts of service, and even grandiose displays of gifts or affection for fear of losing their partner. This behavior objectifies the betrayed as something to be kept or won, and can often feel manipulative, self-serving and insincere. In today’s episode we discuss how to switch the motivation behind these acts from fear to love. When the motive is genuine care and concern for the betrayed, a pathway to deeper connection and healing can begin.
If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie
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About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
Even though our focus on this podcast is helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of betrayal, we feel it's important to understand and support the behind-the-scenes efforts of groups who are protecting the innocent victims of the pornography industry. Healing is about embracing truth and we strongly believe that all those who are victimized need voices and advocates. It's a sad reality that as the demand for pornography increases, so does the violence behind it. The numbers of adults and children being sexually exploited are skyrocketing as this demand increases. Americans are the number one consumers of pornography, and more often than not, these “performers” have not consented, and are actually victims of sex crimes. In this episode we welcome Dani Pinter, Senior Legal Counsel for the National Center on Sexual Exploitation (NCOSE). Join us as we discuss the dark side of the industry that produces pornography and how we can help those who are exploited. Dani outlines how NCOSE is fighting to develop legislation to hold companies accountable, defend trafficked victims, and what you can do to take a stand against the injustices of sexual exploitation.
https://publicsquaremag.org/sexuality-family/sexual-abuse/money-shot-netflix-porn-hub-documentary-controversy/
https://endsexualexploitation.org/dirtydozenlist-2022/
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About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum).
About Dani Pinter:
Dani Pinter, Esq. serves as Senior Legal Counsel for NCOSE and its Law Center. In this role, Dani serves aes a voice for human dignity in precedent-setting legal cases on behalf of victims of sexual abuse and exploitation. She also drafts and consults on state and federal legislation to support victims of sexual exploitation and hold exploiters accountable. Dani speaks regularly on a variety of exploitation topics, with a special focus on protecting youth in a digital age and legal remedies for survivors of exploitation and abuse.
For your FREE ticket to the online Betrayal Healing Conference April 10th-14th, or to upgrade to an All-Access pass, please visit: https://gsteurer--betrayalhealing.thrivecart.com/all-access-pass/
If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie
During the aftermath of a betrayal, it is common for the betrayer to also have big feelings, emotions, and needs surrounding the incident, or in other aspects of the relationship. However, the partner who was betrayed will likely not have the capacity to address those needs in the depth of their own crisis and despair. In this episode we discuss the typical feelings surrounding the betrayer, how crucial it is for them to be emotionally stable for the partner they betrayed, and how both partners can navigate this extremely difficult dynamic.
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About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
A crucial developmental step in adulthood is differentiating from your first family; taking the things that worked from your childhood and leaving behind what didn’t, as you become the adult (or parent) you choose to become. In today’s episode we discuss the importance of these conversations between parents and their adult children. We discuss the balance between seeking acknowledgment from the parents and forgiving them for their mistakes to enable the relationship to continue to grow through the adult years.
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About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
We encounter food and eating more often that most other activities in our lives, yet it can be one of the most contentious rituals we participate in. In this episode we are pleased to welcome Emily Fonnesbeck, registered dietician, podcast host, and co-founder of Eat Confident Co. to discuss how our relationship with food often mirrors other aspects of our lives. Emily shares that "the way we do food is the way we do life." Join us as we dive into how to release shame, develop competence, and build healthy habits and self-talk around food.
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About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum).
About Emily Fonnesbeck:
Emily Fonnesbeck is a Registered Dietitian who owns her own private practice in Hyde Park, Utah, working with both local and virtual clients. Her treatment focus is on eating disorders, disordered eating and body image concerns. She is also the co-founder of Eat Confident Co., which offers group coaching programs for women struggling with disordered eating and negative body image, and co-hosts the Eat with Confidence podcast.
https://emilyfonnesbeck.com
https://www.instagram.com/emilyfonnesbeck_rd/
Healing from addictive and compulsive behaviors is a long road that often includes returning to old problematic behaviors. As disappointing and hurtful as it is for both the recovering partner and the betrayed partner, it is vital that the conversation around what happened is done with honesty, accountability, and compassion for the betrayed partner. In this episode we discuss the harmful effects of using minimizing language that can imply that the effect on the partner or relationship is minimal or inconsequential. We discuss the importance of emphasizing remorse and accountability when talking about returning to harmful patterns.
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About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The invention of modern-day conveniences have lowered our workloads and increased our free time to spend doing other important work. One thing they have tremendously changed is the need for families to work together doing both simple and more complex daily tasks to thrive as a family. In this episode we discuss the research behind the importance of working together as families and how that can shape the environment in our homes. With everyone feeling needed with their contributions, it can increase attitudes about caring for each other, while developing empathy, connection, and closeness.
To read the full article this episode was based on, please visit:
https://magazine.byu.edu/article/family-work/
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About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
Most of us can describe what it means to be physically safe, or to provide physical safety for another person. But are we able to understand and provide emotional safety for our partner? The water can get murky around this topic, so in this episode we dive in to further understand emotional safety and the impact on relationships, especially after a betrayal. It is important to note that emotional safety can only be present when there is also a baseline of physical and sexual safety. Join us as we discuss ways to be an emotionally safe partner in your relationship.
If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie
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About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
Today we discuss anger from the viewpoint of women, specifically betrayed partners. We dive into societal stereotypes about how women are perceived when they express anger, and how that can be damaging to their internal regulation of emotions. Using anger as a tool to determine actions, reactions, and boundaries is necessary, the key is how to process it and move forward in a healthy manner.
If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie
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About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
Through his extensive research and experience as a clinical psychologist, Dr. Adam Fisher joins us to discuss conflict patterns that couples fall into in their relationships. These patterns are the roles that individuals take on, not to be confused with their personalities. In recognizing these patterns, couples can better understand how to come together to resolve conflict. This is the continuation of two previous episodes (151 and 152), and outlines the final 6 relationship conflict patterns.
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About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum).
About Adam Fisher:
Adam Fisher, PhD, ABPP is a licensed clinical psychologist, AASECT certified sex therapist, and board certified in couple and family psychology. Adam is an assistant clinical professor at Brigham Young University, where he teaches in counseling psychology and student development, and sees clients for individual, group, and couple therapy in the counseling center. Adam also has a private practice, focusing on sexual health and relationship concerns, and co-leads an online therapy group for people who feel out of control with their sexual behaviors.
Web: www.adamfisherphd.com
Insta: @adamfisherphd
As Valentine’s Day quickly approaches, now is a great time to check in on your relationship. On a holiday that can sometimes feel over-produced on TV and in social media, it’s important to stay honest with where your relationship is at. Whether you’ve just discovered a betrayal, are moving forward after betrayal, or have never dealt with a similar trauma, today we discuss the importance of staying authentic to your relationship, regardless of how those around you are celebrating Valentine’s Day.
If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie
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About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
Children undoubtedly require a massive amount of time and energy. Too often parents slowly fall into a child-centered marriage and the marriage relationship itself is put on the back burner. In this episode we discuss the need for a marriage-centered marriage. Doing so creates the optimal secure, healthy environment for children as they grow and learn relationship skills of their own.
If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie
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About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
It is understandable that someone who has betrayed their partner often has their own past hurts and issues they need to address and heal. However, how is this supposed to happen when the focus needs to be turned to healing the betrayed partner's pain? Today we discuss this dynamic and how the betrayer can hold space for their partner to heal while also tending to their own wounds.
If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie
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About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
We know that those who struggle with addiction suffer in their own way, but how much compassion should the betrayed partner feel for them? One of the members of our private Connection Plus community asked this very question and we wanted to share our response to them here on our podcast. While compassion often comes to us easily in a variety of circumstances, it's a lot more complicated to access it when you've been betrayed by your partner. In today’s episode we discuss different facets of compassion and how to allow it to come about organically with time and the right circumstances. It's important to understand all of the factors that allow it to become a distant piece of the puzzle to healing the relationship.
If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie
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About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
A common reaction in hearing about a pornography addiction is wondering if something is “off” in the marriage, and especially in the bedroom. This assumption shifts the responsibility of the pornography addiction onto the betrayed partner and will create further damage. In this episode we discuss the harmful effects of this line of thinking, along with why a pornography addiction really isn’t about sex anyway.
If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie
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About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
In this episode, we tackle the challenging dynamic of how betrayal can turn a marriage into a parent/child arrangement. A balanced partnership is the goal for most couples with each individual carrying their share of responsibilities, supporting the other, and being a reliable second half. Couples going through betrayal issues will often have one partner over-functioning and the other under-functioning (this can also exist long before the discovery of a betrayal). When marriage partners fall into a parent/child dynamic, it breeds resentment and frustration, stalling the healing process for both.
If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie
For details on our new Connection Plus Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com
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About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
Healing from trauma, rebuilding relationships, and finding inner peace can often be a long, uphill battle. It can be easy to feel burned out or defeated in the baby steps we need to take during that process. Finding patience during our journey and recognizing just how important those micro adjustments are can give us the boost we need to keep going.
If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie
For details on our new Connection Plus Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com
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About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
Healing from trauma, rebuilding relationships, and finding inner peace can often be a long, uphill battle. It can be easy to feel burned out or defeated in the baby steps we need to take during that process. Finding patience during our journey and recognizing just how important those micro adjustments are can give us the boost we need to keep going.
If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie
For details on our new Connection Plus Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
Life is full of situations that are out of our control. Once we have recovered from the initial shock of what has happened, how do we proceed? Do we continue to live as if we are powerless? Or do we make choices that we can control to heal and move forward? We have to be accountable and conscious with how we respond to what happens to us. Today we discuss the victim mindset and how that is often a default response mechanism, but how it is so important to choose to take ownership of our lives.
If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie
For details on our new Connection Plus Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:
Connect with me on social media:
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
Our relationships, especially committed ones like marriage, give us the opportunity to influence and be influenced. We may value and prioritize many of the same things, but we will also have areas that are not congruent with our partner’s values. In those times, how do we react? Today we discuss the difference between trying to motivate and influence our partner in a healthy manner, and trying to manipulate and control them merely to get our own way.
If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie
For details on our new Connection Plus Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:
Connect with me on social media:
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
Our relationships, especially committed ones like marriage, give us the opportunity to influence and be influenced. We may value and prioritize many of the same things, but we will also have areas that are not congruent with our partner’s values. In those times, how do we react? Today we discuss the difference between trying to motivate and influence our partner in a healthy manner, and trying to manipulate and control them merely to get our own way.
If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie
For details on our new Connection Plus Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:
Connect with me on social media:
INSTAGRAM
FACEBOOK
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
Each of us have areas of our lives where we are naturally motivated, disciplined, and focused. In contrast, we also have areas that are not as important to our core values, or that we struggle to prioritize. Today we discuss extrinsic vs. intrinsic motivation and how those shape and evolve throughout our lives, especially through our relationships with others.
For details on our new Connection Plus Community and our special introductory “founder’s pricing”, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:
Connect with me on social media:
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
Have you ever wondered what motivates you to make good decisions, work hard, or put effort into the important areas of your life? Have you wondered the most effective way to motivate others around you, especially your children? Today we start a 3-part discussion on Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic motivation and how one can often influence the other.
Today we begin a new format for this podcast. Hopefully you have listened to last week’s episode where we announced the launch of our new membership program Connection Plus: a community for relationship recovery. In Connection Plus we will have expert interviews, group coaching, webinars, and other great resources to help you learn and grow in your most important relationships. Moving forward, the “From Crisis to Connection” podcast will be with my wife Jody discussing topics from our professional and every-day viewpoints. We hope you’ll continue to enjoy the topics and discussion we will provide in this podcast, and also consider joining our membership for further instruction, application, and resources!
For details on what’s included and our special introductory “founder’s pricing”, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:
Connect with me on social media:
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
Have you ever wondered what motivates you to make good decisions, work hard, or put effort into the important areas of your life? Have you wondered the most effective way to motivate others around you, especially your children? Today we start a 3-part discussion on Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic motivation and how one can often influence the other.
Today we begin a new format for this podcast. Hopefully you have listened to last week’s episode where we announced the launch of our new membership program Connection Plus: a community for relationship recovery. In Connection Plus we will have expert interviews, group coaching, webinars, and other great resources to help you learn and grow in your most important relationships. Moving forward, the “From Crisis to Connection” podcast will be with my wife Jody discussing topics from our professional and every-day viewpoints. We hope you’ll continue to enjoy the topics and discussion we will provide in this podcast, and also consider joining our membership for further instruction, application, and resources!
For details on what’s included and our special introductory “founder’s pricing”, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse
Connect with me on social media:
INSTAGRAM
FACEBOOK
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
We are thrilled to introduce Connection Plus, a one-of-a-kind community to give you direct support from us. This is our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships.
If you have been impacted by:
- Betrayal trauma
- Marriage/family conflict
- Compulsive sexual behaviors
- Abuse
- Infidelity
- Extended family drama
…then you are in the right place.
You will get expert, research-based content to help you stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and highlight a clear path to long-term healing. And you’ll get the added bonus of engaging with a community of people all committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships.
For details on what’s included and our special introductory “founder’s pricing”, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! https://www.geoffsteurer.com/newsletter-opt-in-podcast
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument
Connect with me on social media:
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
We are thrilled to introduce Connection Plus, a one-of-a-kind community to give you direct support from us. This is our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships.
If you have been impacted by:
- Betrayal trauma
- Marriage/family conflict
- Compulsive sexual behaviors
- Abuse
- Infidelity
- Extended family drama
…then you are in the right place.
You will get expert, research-based content to help you stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and highlight a clear path to long-term healing. And you’ll get the added bonus of engaging with a community of people all committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships.
For details on what’s included and our special introductory “founder’s pricing”, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! https://www.geoffsteurer.com/newsletter-opt-in-podcast
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument
Connect with me on social media:
INSTAGRAM
FACEBOOK
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:
Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
We are thrilled to introduce Connection Plus, a one-of-a-kind community to give you direct support from us. This is our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships.
If you have been impacted by:
- Betrayal trauma
- Marriage/family conflict
- Compulsive sexual behaviors
- Abuse
- Infidelity
- Extended family drama
…then you are in the right place.
You will get expert, research-based content to help you stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and highlight a clear path to long-term healing. And you’ll get the added bonus of engaging with a community of people all committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships.
For details on what’s included and our special introductory “founder’s pricing”, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! https://www.geoffsteurer.com/newsletter-opt-in-podcast
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument
Connect with me on social media:
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.
For the next few weeks we will be running previous episodes that you may not have heard before! With over 150 past episodes, we have so many great topics and guests in the archives to choose from. We are taking this break to gear up for another exciting announcement coming soon. We can’t wait to share more!
This is part 2 of my interview with Hank Smith, speaker, author, and professor, who did his doctoral research on building trust in relationships. We dive into the research on what it takes to build trust in our close relationships, especially after trust has been damaged. Hank shares stories, examples, and some really helpful acronyms to help us remember key principles in building trust with others.
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! https://www.geoffsteurer.com/newsletter-opt-in-podcast
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument
Connect with me on social media:
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Hank Smith:Dr. Henry “Hank” Smith grew up the son of a golf professional in sunny St. George, Utah. After earning a Bachelor’s Degree from Dixie State University, Hank earned a Master’s Degree in Business Administration from Utah State University and a Ph.D. in Educational Leadership from Brigham Young University, where he is an Assistant Professor of Ancient Scripture.
Hank enjoys speaking , writing, and podcasting, especially for members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.
His weekly podcast followHIM with Hank Smith and John Bytheway is enjoyed by millions across the globe and shares the gospel of Jesus Christ.
Hank has also authored many books, talks, and additionally speaks to tens of thousands of youth and adults each year.
Hank loves the Utah Jazz, biking, and running. He and his wife Sara are the parents of five adorable children.
- Podcast: followHIM with Hank Smith and John Bytheway
- Websites: http://www.hanksmith.com, http://www.followHIM.co (NO M), http://www.hankspeaks.com
- Instagram: @hanrkrsmith, @followhimpodcast
- Facebook: hanksmithcds
For the next few weeks we will be running previous episodes that you may not have heard before! With over 150 past episodes, we have so many great topics and guests in the archives to choose from. We are taking this break to gear up for another exciting announcement coming soon. We can’t wait to share more!
This is part 2 of my interview with Hank Smith, speaker, author, and professor, who did his doctoral research on building trust in relationships. We dive into the research on what it takes to build trust in our close relationships, especially after trust has been damaged. Hank shares stories, examples, and some really helpful acronyms to help us remember key principles in building trust with others.
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! https://www.geoffsteurer.com/newsletter-opt-in-podcast
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument
Connect with me on social media:
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Hank Smith:Dr. Henry “Hank” Smith grew up the son of a golf professional in sunny St. George, Utah. After earning a Bachelor’s Degree from Dixie State University, Hank earned a Master’s Degree in Business Administration from Utah State University and a Ph.D. in Educational Leadership from Brigham Young University, where he is an Assistant Professor of Ancient Scripture.
Hank enjoys speaking , writing, and podcasting, especially for members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.
His weekly podcast followHIM with Hank Smith and John Bytheway is enjoyed by millions across the globe and shares the gospel of Jesus Christ.
Hank has also authored many books, talks, and additionally speaks to tens of thousands of youth and adults each year.
Hank loves the Utah Jazz, biking, and running. He and his wife Sara are the parents of five adorable children.
- Podcast: followHIM with Hank Smith and John Bytheway
- Websites: http://www.hanksmith.com, http://www.followHIM.co (NO M), http://www.hankspeaks.com
- Instagram: @hanrkrsmith, @followhimpodcast
- Facebook: hanksmithcds
For the next few weeks we will be running previous episodes that you may not have heard before! With over 150 past episodes, we have so many great topics and guests in the archives to choose from. We are taking this break to gear up for another exciting announcement coming soon. We can’t wait to share more!
This is part 2 of my interview with Hank Smith, speaker, author, and professor, who did his doctoral research on building trust in relationships. We dive into the research on what it takes to build trust in our close relationships, especially after trust has been damaged. Hank shares stories, examples, and some really helpful acronyms to help us remember key principles in building trust with others.
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! https://www.geoffsteurer.com/newsletter-opt-in-podcast
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument
Connect with me on social media:
INSTAGRAM
FACEBOOK
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Hank Smith:
Dr. Henry “Hank” Smith grew up the son of a golf professional in sunny St. George, Utah. After earning a Bachelor’s Degree from Dixie State University, Hank earned a Master’s Degree in Business Administration from Utah State University and a Ph.D. in Educational Leadership from Brigham Young University, where he is an Assistant Professor of Ancient Scripture.
Hank enjoys speaking , writing, and podcasting, especially for members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.
His weekly podcast followHIM with Hank Smith and John Bytheway is enjoyed by millions across the globe and shares the gospel of Jesus Christ.
Hank has also authored many books, talks, and additionally speaks to tens of thousands of youth and adults each year.
Hank loves the Utah Jazz, biking, and running. He and his wife Sara are the parents of five adorable children.
- Podcast: followHIM with Hank Smith and John Bytheway
- Websites: http://www.hanksmith.com, http://www.followHIM.co (NO M), http://www.hankspeaks.com
- Instagram: @hanrkrsmith, @followhimpodcast
- Facebook: hanksmithcds
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
For the next few weeks we will be running previous episodes that you may not have heard before! With over 150 past episodes, we have so many great topics and guests in the archives to choose from. We are taking this break to gear up for another exciting announcement coming soon. We can’t wait to share more!
My guest this week is Hank Smith, speaker, author, and professor, who did his doctoral research on building trust in relationships. We dive into the research on what it takes to build trust in our close relationships, especially after trust has been damaged. Hank shares stories, examples, and some really helpful acronyms to help us remember key principles in building trust with others. This is part one of a two-part interview. Stay tuned for the second part of this interview in the following episode.
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! https://www.geoffsteurer.com/newsletter-opt-in-podcast
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument
Connect with me on social media:
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Hank Smith:Dr. Henry “Hank” Smith grew up the son of a golf professional in sunny St. George, Utah. After earning a Bachelor’s Degree from Dixie State University, Hank earned a Master’s Degree in Business Administration from Utah State University and a Ph.D. in Educational Leadership from Brigham Young University, where he is an Assistant Professor of Ancient Scripture.
Hank enjoys speaking , writing, and podcasting, especially for members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. His weekly podcast followHIM with Hank Smith and John Bytheway is enjoyed by millions across the globe and shares the gospel of Jesus Christ. Hank has also authored many books, talks, and additionally speaks to tens of thousands of youth and adults each year. Hank loves the Utah Jazz, biking, and running. He and his wife Sara are the parents of five adorable children.
- Podcast: followHIM with Hank Smith and John Bytheway
- Websites: http://www.hanksmith.com, http://www.followHIM.co (NO M), http://www.hankspeaks.com
- Instagram: @hanrkrsmith, @followhimpodcast
- Facebook: hanksmithcds
For the next few weeks we will be running previous episodes that you may not have heard before! With over 150 past episodes, we have so many great topics and guests in the archives to choose from. We are taking this break to gear up for another exciting announcement coming soon. We can’t wait to share more!
My guest this week is Hank Smith, speaker, author, and professor, who did his doctoral research on building trust in relationships. We dive into the research on what it takes to build trust in our close relationships, especially after trust has been damaged. Hank shares stories, examples, and some really helpful acronyms to help us remember key principles in building trust with others. This is part one of a two-part interview. Stay tuned for the second part of this interview in the following episode.
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! https://www.geoffsteurer.com/newsletter-opt-in-podcast
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument
Connect with me on social media:
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Hank Smith:Dr. Henry “Hank” Smith grew up the son of a golf professional in sunny St. George, Utah. After earning a Bachelor’s Degree from Dixie State University, Hank earned a Master’s Degree in Business Administration from Utah State University and a Ph.D. in Educational Leadership from Brigham Young University, where he is an Assistant Professor of Ancient Scripture.
Hank enjoys speaking , writing, and podcasting, especially for members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. His weekly podcast followHIM with Hank Smith and John Bytheway is enjoyed by millions across the globe and shares the gospel of Jesus Christ. Hank has also authored many books, talks, and additionally speaks to tens of thousands of youth and adults each year. Hank loves the Utah Jazz, biking, and running. He and his wife Sara are the parents of five adorable children.
- Podcast: followHIM with Hank Smith and John Bytheway
- Websites: http://www.hanksmith.com, http://www.followHIM.co (NO M), http://www.hankspeaks.com
- Instagram: @hanrkrsmith, @followhimpodcast
- Facebook: hanksmithcds
For the next few weeks we will be running previous episodes that you may not have heard before! With over 150 past episodes, we have so many great topics and guests in the archives to choose from. We are taking this break to gear up for another exciting announcement coming soon. We can’t wait to share more!
My guest this week is Hank Smith, speaker, author, and professor, who did his doctoral research on building trust in relationships. We dive into the research on what it takes to build trust in our close relationships, especially after trust has been damaged. Hank shares stories, examples, and some really helpful acronyms to help us remember key principles in building trust with others. This is part one of a two-part interview. Stay tuned for the second part of this interview in the following episode.
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! https://www.geoffsteurer.com/newsletter-opt-in-podcast
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument
Connect with me on social media:
INSTAGRAM
FACEBOOK
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Hank Smith:
Dr. Henry “Hank” Smith grew up the son of a golf professional in sunny St. George, Utah. After earning a Bachelor’s Degree from Dixie State University, Hank earned a Master’s Degree in Business Administration from Utah State University and a Ph.D. in Educational Leadership from Brigham Young University, where he is an Assistant Professor of Ancient Scripture.
Hank enjoys speaking , writing, and podcasting, especially for members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.
His weekly podcast followHIM with Hank Smith and John Bytheway is enjoyed by millions across the globe and shares the gospel of Jesus Christ.
Hank has also authored many books, talks, and additionally speaks to tens of thousands of youth and adults each year.
Hank loves the Utah Jazz, biking, and running. He and his wife Sara are the parents of five adorable children.
- Podcast: followHIM with Hank Smith and John Bytheway
- Websites: http://www.hanksmith.com, http://www.followHIM.co (NO M), http://www.hankspeaks.com
- Instagram: @hanrkrsmith, @followhimpodcast
- Facebook: hanksmithcds
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
For the next few weeks we will be running previous episodes that you may not have heard before! With over 150 past episodes, we have so many great topics and guests in the archives to choose from. We are taking this break to gear up for another exciting announcement coming soon. We can’t wait to share more!
This is the continuation of my interview with therapist and fellow podcaster, Tony Overbay, to talk about how couples can stay connected to each other when one partner leaves their shared faith. This is often a transition that is difficult for most couples to navigate, as a departure from the beliefs and values that brought them together can introduce new questions and fears about their future. In this episode, we discuss:
- How to talk with children and impart values without putting children in the middle
- How do talk with outside family/friends
- Healthy examples of navigating the faith journey as a couple
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! https://www.geoffsteurer.com/newsletter-opt-in-podcast
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument
Connect with me on social media:
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Tony:
Tony Overbay is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (CA LMFT#92443), a Certified Mindful Habit Coach (CMHC), and a popular motivational speaker. Tony regularly speaks at corporate training events, schools, and churches in formal and casual settings mixing humor, clinical experience, his Christian faith, and a wealth of personal stories gleaned from years of helping others achieve their goals.
https://www.tonyoverbay.com
Go to tonyoverbay.com/stages to download his stages of faith chart.
For the next few weeks we will be running previous episodes that you may not have heard before! With over 150 past episodes, we have so many great topics and guests in the archives to choose from. We are taking this break to gear up for another exciting announcement coming soon. We can’t wait to share more!
I'm joined by therapist and fellow podcaster, Tony Overbay, to talk about how couples can stay connected to each other when one partner leaves their shared faith. This is often a transition that is difficult for most couples to navigate, as a departure from the beliefs and values that brought them together can introduce new questions and fears about their future. In this episode, we discuss:
- Why it's called a faith crisis
- Why this is so difficult for couples
- The first thing couples should know if one of them begins to experience this
- The healthiest way for the one struggling with their faith to address their change
- How the other spouse can respond in a healthy way
- How couples can work together even though they're going different directions.
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! https://www.geoffsteurer.com/newsletter-opt-in-podcast
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument
Connect with me on social media:
INSTAGRAM
FACEBOOK
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Tony:
Tony Overbay is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (CA LMFT#92443), a Certified Mindful Habit Coach (CMHC), and a popular motivational speaker. Tony regularly speaks at corporate training events, schools, and churches in formal and casual settings mixing humor, clinical experience, his Christian faith, and a wealth of personal stories gleaned from years of helping others achieve their goals.
Once a promising baseball prospect (his high school coach once called Tony the “best bad ball hitter he had ever seen!), Tony was run over by a 28-foot dual-prop ski boat shortly after his senior year of high school on a trip with friends to Lake Powell, Utah, both of his legs receiving significant damage from the prop of the boat. Tony still carries the scars from the prop some 30 years later. Tony was told that he would regain the ability to walk, but that he would never be able to run quickly, or for distance, as an adult. The accident halted Tony’s baseball career, but it set him on a path that eventually led him to creating The Path Back. Tony spent 10 years as a software executive traveling the world presenting at conferences and trade shows and eventually started several of his own companies in industries from computer hardware, health and beauty, and nuts and bolts (literally!).
https://www.tonyoverbay.com
Go to www.tonyoverbay.com/stages to download his stages of faith chart.
The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
For the next few weeks we will be running previous episodes that you may not have heard before! With over 150 past episodes, we have so many great topics and guests in the archives to choose from. We are taking this break to gear up for another exciting announcement coming soon. We can’t wait to share more!
Todd Sylvester spent years in the grip of multiple addictions. A significant part of his journey to sobriety and long-term recovery was the realization that the way he saw himself impacted his drive to numb out and escape. In this episode he shares his hard-earned wisdom of how we can improve our self-talk to accelerate and deepen our healing. We discuss:
- The most common self-talk he hears with people in addiction
- Why our self-talk is so important
- Why our self-talk becomes so negative
- What happens when we change our self-talk
- How to change our self-talk
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! https://www.geoffsteurer.com/newsletter-opt-in-podcast
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument
Connect with me on social media:
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Todd Sylvester:
Todd Sylvester is the founder of Todd Sylvester Inspires, where he mentors and coaches’ people from all over the world. As a Mentor & Mindset Coach he has helped thousands find joy again in their lives. He also coaches at the greatest university on the planet – Wasatch Recovery!
In 1989 he founded the non-profit, anti-drug entity Sly Dog “Drug Free That’s Me, which features a sought-after education program for elementary schools. This program has encouraged over 250K school-age students, emphasizing principles of positive self- talk, personal commitment, goal setting, and character building.
Over the past 31 years Todd has discovered and taught universal principles that have empowered thousands to conquer addiction, crush compulsive behaviors and change their limiting belief systems.
Websites: www.toddinspires.com www.beliefcast.com
We are thrilled to announce Stronger Together: a marriage retreat hosted by Geoff Steurer and Mark Chamberlain. We are teaming up with our combined 50+ years of experience to help couples unify their efforts and build stronger marriages after betrayal. This exclusive retreat will be held November 10-13, 2022 at a premier location in St. George, Utah. Please visit our website for all details and the opportunity to apply!
For the next 2 weeks we will be running previous episodes that you may not have heard before! With over 150 past episodes, we have so many great topics and guests in the archives to choose from. We are taking this break to gear up for another exciting announcement at the end of September. We can’t wait to share more!
I interview author and psychologist, Dr. Mark Chamberlain, about our struggle to experience true enjoyment in today's desensitized culture. Screens, abundant food, and other forms of stimulation make it difficult for our nervous systems and bodies to truly enjoy life's little pleasures. It can also be a challenge to enjoy relationships, spirituality, nature, and other joys when we've been dulled by constant overstimulation. Dr. Chamberlain wrote a book called, "Wanting More: The challenge of enjoyment in the age of addiction", that presents a solution for how we can start savoring and enjoying the simple pleasures and joys of life.
Purchase "Wanting More"
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Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument
Connect with me on social media:
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Mark Chamberlain:Over the years, I’ve found some specific research-validated relapse-prevention skills to be quite helpful for individuals in the early stages of recovering from addiction. Over the long-term, most clients’ recovery is greatly strengthened by deeper emotional connections in relationships.
We are thrilled to announce Stronger Together: a marriage retreat hosted by Geoff Steurer and Mark Chamberlain. We are teaming up with our combined 50+ years of experience to help couples unify their efforts and build stronger marriages after betrayal. This exclusive retreat will be held November 10-13, 2022 at a premier location in St. George, Utah. Spots are limited for this private event, so please visit our website TODAY for details and the opportunity to apply!
For the next 3 weeks we will be running previous episodes that you may not have heard before! With over 150 past episodes, we have so many great topics and guests in the archives to choose from. We are taking this break to gear up for another exciting announcement at the end of September. We can’t wait to share more!
I was thrilled to have my friend and co-author, Dr. Mark Chamberlain, join me on this episode of the podcast. Mark and I co-authored the book, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity" back in 2011. In this episode we talk about the origin of this book, how it helps couples, and what things we would change if it were reissued today. We also discuss the challenging nature of couples recovery and what couples need to fully heal from the impact of pornography.
You can purchase "Love You. Hate the Porn" HERE
Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:
Connect with me on social media:
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Mark Chamberlain:
Over the years, I’ve found some specific research-validated relapse-prevention skills to be quite helpful for individuals in the early stages of recovering from addiction. The greatest reward comes when they discover that true, deep attachment is “the real deal” that old addictions could never counterfeit.
Credentials:
- Doctorate Degree in Clinical Psychology
- Licensed Psychologist
- Trained in Lifespan Integration
- Trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy
For the next 4 weeks we will be running previous episodes that you may not have heard before! With over 150 past episodes, we have so many great topics and guests in the archives to choose from. We are taking this break to gear up for an exciting announcement at the end of September. We can’t wait to share more!
Pornography isn’t a victimless pastime, especially when considering the role it contributes in the sexual exploitation and abuse of children. In this interview with Jessica Mockett from Safe Haven Holistic Recovery, we discuss:
- The impact of pornography on sexual abuse of children
- How pornography dehumanizes others and contributes to an abuse mindset
- Research showing clear links between sexual crimes and pornography
- Why it’s important to face these issues to protect children
- How awareness can prevent child sexual abuse
Guide to help children through sexual trauma
https://www.safehavenholisticrecovery.org/giving
Heart of the Matter Documentary - Directed by Jessica Mockett
https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=5&v=5EgztA-Racs&feature=emb_logo
This is the article that references the Michael Bourke study:
https://www.apa.org/monitor/2009/12/child-abuse
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About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jessica Mockett:
Jessica Mockett is the founder and executive director of the non-profit Safe Haven Holistic Recovery. She is passionate about helping women, children, families find healing from trauma and helping them discover how to be connected to God afterward and live joyful, healthy, fulfilling lives.
For the next 5 weeks we will be running previous episodes that you may not have heard before! With over 150 past episodes, we have so many great topics and guests in the archives to choose from. We are taking this break to gear up for an exciting announcement at the end of September. We can’t wait to share more! Enjoy this episode with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife discussing “Reclaiming Your Sexuality”. In this episode we discuss:
- How sexual betrayal impacts individual sexuality for both the unfaithful and the betrayed.
- The steps individuals might consider as they begin reclaiming their sexuality.
- The roadblocks that get in the way of reclaiming personal sexuality in the wake of sexual betrayal.
- The growth we see as individuals work to reclaim their sexuality.
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About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Dr. Finlayson-Fife:Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is a LDS relationship and sexuality coach as well as a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in the state of Illinois. She has a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology. Her teaching and coaching focuses on helping LDS individuals and couples achieve greater satisfaction and passion in their emotional and sexual relationships. In addition to consultation with couples and individuals (in person and online), she teaches online relationship and sexuality courses designed to foster self and sexual development and create happier relationships and individuals. Dr. Finlayson-Fife also offers many live workshops and retreats for couples and individuals. Jennifer is a frequent guest on LDS-themed podcasts and writes articles for LDS-themed blogs and magazines, on the subjects of sexuality, relationships, mental health and faith. You can learn more about Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife and her courses and workshops by visiting her website www.finlayson-fife.com
Today we conclude our conversation with internationally recognized sex therapist, Wendy Maltz. She continues to discuss the steps that couples can take to relearn touch after betrayal. In this episode we cover:
- How couples can work together to relearn touch
- How couples can support each other during that process
- Relearning touch outside of sex
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About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument
About Wendy Maltz:Wendy Maltz is an internationally recognized sex therapist, author, and speaker. Wendy has more than forty years of experience helping individuals and couples overcome sex and intimacy concerns. She is the author of numerous acclaimed sexuality resources, including the recovery classic, The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse, as well as The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography and Private Thoughts: Exploring the Power of Women’s Sexual Fantasies. Presently retired from providing counseling services, Wendy remains engaged in the field through her popular educational website,www.HealthySex.com, which provides free articles, podcast interviews, posters, videos, and more to help people overcome sexual problems and develop skills for love-based sexual intimacy.
Intimacy is a vital part of a relationship, and one that takes time and effort to create. After the betrayal of pornography addiction, the steps to healing and regaining that intimacy can be confusing and difficult to navigate. Internationally recognized sex therapist, author, and speaker, Wendy Maltz, joins us for the third time to address the process of relearning touch after betrayal. In this episode we cover:
- How a pornography addiction affects an intimate partner
- How pornography addiction robs the user of true sexual connection
- How couples can build a strong sexual connection after addiction
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Wendy Maltz:Wendy Maltz is an internationally recognized sex therapist, author, and speaker. Wendy has more than forty years of experience helping individuals and couples overcome sex and intimacy concerns. She is the author of numerous acclaimed sexuality resources, including the recovery classic, The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse, as well as The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography and Private Thoughts: Exploring the Power of Women’s Sexual Fantasies. Presently retired from providing counseling services, Wendy remains engaged in the field through her popular educational website,www.HealthySex.com, which provides free articles, podcast interviews, posters, videos, and more to help people overcome sexual problems and develop skills for love-based sexual intimacy.
We continue our conversation with Dr. Adam Fisher, discussing conflict patterns in relationships. In this episode we cover:
- What are some of the common patterns you see with couples when they present for therapy?
- How do you help couples understand their patterns without feeling blamed?
- How can couples escape unhealthy patterns?
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Adam Fisher:Adam Fisher, PhD, ABPP is a licensed clinical psychologist, AASECT certified sex therapist, and board certified in couple and family psychology. Adam is an assistant clinical professor at Brigham Young University, where he teaches in counseling psychology and student development, and sees clients for individual, group, and couple therapy in the counseling center. Adam also has a private practice, focusing on sexual health and relationship concerns, and co-leads an online therapy group for people who feel out of control with their sexual behaviors.
Web: www.adamfisherphd.comInsta: @adamfisherphd
For couple therapists and marriage counselors: Regardless of your preferred approach to couple therapy, The Doherty Approach training is designed to provide some additional skills, particularly when working with these interaction patterns and boundary issues: https://thedohertyapproach.com
Through his extensive research and experience as a clinical psychologist, Dr. Adam Fisher joins us to discuss conflict patterns that couples fall into in their relationships. These patterns are the roles that individuals take on, not to be confused with their personalities. In recognizing these patterns, couples can better understand how to come together to resolve conflict. In this episode we cover:
- What are some of the common patterns you see with couples when they present for therapy?
- How do you help couples understand their patterns without feeling blamed?
- How can couples escape unhealthy patterns?
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument
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www.instagram.com/geoffsteurer/
www.facebook.com/GeoffSteurerMFT
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Adam Fisher:Adam Fisher, PhD, ABPP is a licensed clinical psychologist, AASECT certified sex therapist, and board certified in couple and family psychology. Adam is an assistant clinical professor at Brigham Young University, where he teaches in counseling psychology and student development, and sees clients for individual, group, and couple therapy in the counseling center. Adam also has a private practice, focusing on sexual health and relationship concerns, and co-leads an online therapy group for people who feel out of control with their sexual behaviors.
Web: www.adamfisherphd.comInsta: @adamfisherphd
For couple therapists and marriage counselors: Regardless of your preferred approach to couple therapy, The Doherty Approach training is designed to provide some additional skills, particularly when working with these interaction patterns and boundary issues: https://thedohertyapproach.com
One commonality between betrayal and loss is that they are events out of our control. They are both circumstances that happen to us, and we must choose how to respond and heal. Today we continue the discussion with Lisa Valentine Clark on interpersonal loss. In this episode we cover:
- How to avoid treating grief too lightly with humor
- How tragedy sharpens what you know about yourself
- Allowing grief and living to take turns
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About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Lisa Clark:Lisa Valentine Clark graduated with a B.S. in English from Brigham Young University. She was part of the sketch comedy/improv troupe The Garrens, and co-founded the theater-as-improv troupe The Thrillionaires which performs original, improvised plays and musicals in a variety of genres. She has been featured in a variety of commercials, including the “real mom” in the viral videos for Chatbooks. Lisa works as a freelance writer for commercials, webseries, and scripts. She wrote the book, Real Moms Making It Up As We Go, hosted the feel-good service show “Random Acts,” and headlined the musical improv tv show Show Offs, for three seasons on BYUtv. She has starred in movies like Stalking Santa, and was a script consultant, producer, and starred as “Carrie Carrington” in the film Once I Was a Beehive and Once I Was Engaged. She currently hosts the weekly podcast The Lisa Show www.thelisashowpodcast.com on BYUradio. Lisa and her late husband Christopher have 5 children.
Interpersonal loss can look very different in any given situation, and is impossible to compare piece by piece. But whether it is the death of a partner or the betrayal of a partner, each person dealing with the aftermath will experience some level of grief and betrayal in their loss. Lisa Valentine Clark joins us to discuss how she has coped with those emotions after the death of her husband, and how she has turned to humor to help pull her out of the darkest time in her life. In this episode we cover:
- What are the similarities between loss and betrayal?
- The draw to prolong living as a victim
- How can humor aid in healing?
- How can humor aid in asking for help?
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Lisa Clark:
Lisa Valentine Clark graduated with a B.S. in English from Brigham Young University. She was part of the sketch comedy/improv troupe The Garrens, and co-founded the theater-as-improv troupe The Thrillionaires which performs original, improvised plays and musicals in a variety of genres. She has been featured in a variety of commercials, including the “real mom” in the viral videos for Chatbooks. Lisa works as a freelance writer for commercials, webseries, and scripts. She wrote the book, Real Moms Making It Up As We Go, hosted the feel-good service show “Random Acts,” and headlined the musical improv tv show Show Offs, for three seasons on BYUtv. She has starred in movies like Stalking Santa, and was a script consultant, producer, and starred as “Carrie Carrington” in the film Once I Was a Beehive and Once I Was Engaged. She currently hosts the weekly podcast The Lisa Show on BYUradio. Lisa and her late husband Christopher have 5 children.
We continue the conversation with Wendy Maltz as she describes the damages that pornography can cause on individuals and relationships. In this episode we cover:
- How is pornography harmful to marriages?
- What is the impact on each individual?
- What steps can an individual/couple take to heal from the impact of porn?
- How can a couple unlearn the harmful messages of porn and improve their sexual health?
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument
Connect with me on social media:
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www.facebook.com/GeoffSteurerMFT
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Wendy Maltz:Wendy Maltz is an internationally recognized sex therapist, author, and speaker. Wendy has more than forty years of experience helping individuals and couples overcome sex and intimacy concerns. She is the author of numerous acclaimed sexuality resources, including the recovery classic, The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse, as well as The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography and Private Thoughts: Exploring the Power of Women’s Sexual Fantasies. Presently retired from providing counseling services, Wendy remains engaged in the field through her popular educational website,www.HealthySex.com, which provides free articles, podcast interviews, posters, videos, and more to help people overcome sexual problems and develop skills for love-based sexual intimacy.
We welcome Wendy Maltz back on the podcast to dive into the evolution of pornography. She shares her research as she has watched the intensity and accessibility grow over the years, the harmful effects on the performers and viewers, and ultimately the impact that it has on marriages. In this episode we cover:
- How have your views of pornography changed over the past 40+ years as a sex therapist?
- How is pornography harmful to marriages?
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument
Connect with me on social media:
www.instagram.com/geoffsteurer/
www.facebook.com/GeoffSteurerMFT
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Wendy Maltz:
Wendy Maltz is an internationally recognized sex therapist, author, and speaker. Wendy has more than forty years of experience helping individuals and couples overcome sex and intimacy concerns. She is the author of numerous acclaimed sexuality resources, including the recovery classic, The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse, as well as The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography and Private Thoughts: Exploring the Power of Women’s Sexual Fantasies. Presently retired from providing counseling services, Wendy remains engaged in the field through her popular educational website,www.HealthySex.com, which provides free articles, podcast interviews, posters, videos, and more to help people overcome sexual problems and develop skills for love-based sexual intimacy.
Today we continue our conversation with Lisa Valentine Clark. We further discuss her journey through loss and the humor that helps her through it. In this episode we cover:
- Continuing life after the death of a loved one
- What's the role of humor and laughter in healing?
- Why does it help?
- Why are we sometimes afraid to use humor when we're suffering?
- How has it helped you cope with personal losses?
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument
Connect with me on social media:
www.instagram.com/geoffsteurer/
www.facebook.com/GeoffSteurerMFT
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Lisa Valentine Clark:
Lisa Valentine Clark graduated with a B.S. in English from Brigham Young University. She was part of the sketch comedy/improv troupe The Garrens, and co-founded the theater-as-improv troupe The Thrillionaires which performs original, improvised plays and musicals in a variety of genres. She has been featured in a variety of commercials, including the “real mom” in the viral videos for Chatbooks. Lisa works as a freelance writer for commercials, webseries, and scripts. She wrote the book, Real Moms Making It Up As We Go, hosted the feel-good service show “Random Acts,” and headlined the musical improv tv show Show Offs, for three seasons on BYUtv. She has starred in movies like Stalking Santa, and was a script consultant, producer, and starred as “Carrie Carrington” in the film Once I Was a Beehive and Once I Was Engaged. She currently hosts the weekly podcast The Lisa Show (www.thelisashowpodcast.com) on BYUradio. Lisa and her late husband Christopher have 5 children.
Chatbooks commercial
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=mF2eKaOc3wo
Christopher Clark Frankenstein Video
https://www.instagram.com/p/B3ft7FFhuCH/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link
https://www.byuradio.org/lisa
Each of us experience moments of tragedy in our lives. Some last for brief moments, others for periods of time that seem to become unbearable. Lisa Valentine Clark joins us today to share how her late husband, Christopher, encouraged those around him to continue using comedy in the face of his terminal diagnosis. In this episode we cover:
- Lisa’s story
- The concept of “Yes, and . . . ,”
- Life gives us so much material to work with. It practically writes the jokes for us.
- What’s the role of humor and laughter in healing?
- Why does it help?
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument
Connect with me on social media:
www.instagram.com/geoffsteurer/
www.facebook.com/GeoffSteurerMFT
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Lisa Valentine Clark:
Lisa Valentine Clark graduated with a B.S. in English from Brigham Young University. She was part of the sketch comedy/improv troupe The Garrens, and co-founded the theater-as-improv troupe The Thrillionaires which performs original, improvised plays and musicals in a variety of genres. She has been featured in a variety of commercials, including the “real mom” in the viral videos for Chatbooks. Lisa works as a freelance writer for commercials, webseries, and scripts. She wrote the book, Real Moms Making It Up As We Go, hosted the feel-good service show “Random Acts,” and headlined the musical improv tv show Show Offs, for three seasons on BYUtv. She has starred in movies like Stalking Santa, and was a script consultant, producer, and starred as “Carrie Carrington” in the film Once I Was a Beehive and Once I Was Engaged. She currently hosts the weekly podcast The Lisa Show (www.thelisashowpodcast.com) on BYUradio. Lisa and her late husband Christopher have 5 children.
Chatbooks commercial
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=mF2eKaOc3wo
Christopher Clark Frankenstein Video
https://www.instagram.com/p/B3ft7FFhuCH/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link
https://www.byuradio.org/lisa
In today’s episode, Lisa Renda and I continue our conversation of the very sensitive topic: when women abuse men. We wrap up this discussion as we cover:
- Why do men experience so much shame when they are abused?
- If a man has betrayed his wife/partner and she becomes abusive in her trauma, how much abuse should he take from her?
- Resources for abused men to heal and recover
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument
Connect with me on social media: www.instagram.com/geoffsteurer/www.facebook.com/GeoffSteurerMFTVisit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Lisa Renda:I have personal experience living in relationships affected by PTSD, ADHD, and addiction. I passionately support and educate clients around these concerns. I also counsel people living with sexual addiction concerns. I find joy in my work as clients move towards greater peace and hope in their lives.
I am trained in EMDR and am a certified sexual addiction therapist with the International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals. I am currently working towards my certification for Somatic Experiencing, a Somatic type of therapy to release trauma from the body. I currently serve as an AAMFT approved supervisor Candidate and am on the staff of Northpointe Recovery Intensive Outpatient Program for substance abuse recovery. I am passionate about attachment, Trauma, and neurobiology, and how they each have an impact on how we recover from trauma and addiction, particularly process addictions.
In my relaxing hours, I enjoy sleeping out in the Southern Utah wilderness to see the beautiful stars, hiking, kayaking, and reading historical fiction. Most of all loving my beautiful grandkids. I try to set a little time aside for some volunteer passion projects such as working at Encircle in Saint George. On the horizon, I hope to do more gardening and travel.
http://www.sequoiaintegrative.com/
In today’s society there are still many relationship roles and behaviors that are considered taboo and not widely addressed. I’ve invited Lisa Renda to join me as we tackle the dynamic of women abusing men. We discuss the stereotypes and shame that typically cause this form of abuse to be hidden or qualified by other experiences and excuses. In this episode we cover:
- What are the ways that women can abuse men?
- What are some of the hesitations men have when seeking treatment as victims of abuse?
- Why do men experience so much shame when they are abused?
- If a man has betrayed his wife/partner and she becomes abusive in her trauma, how much abuse should he take from her?
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Lisa Renda:I have personal experience living in relationships affected by PTSD, ADHD, and addiction. I passionately support and educate clients around these concerns. I also counsel people living with sexual addiction concerns. I find joy in my work as clients move towards greater peace and hope in their lives.
I am trained in EMDR and am a certified sexual addiction therapist with the International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals. I am currently working towards my certification for Somatic Experiencing, a Somatic type of therapy to release trauma from the body. I currently serve as an AAMFT approved supervisor Candidate and am on the staff of Northpointe Recovery Intensive Outpatient Program for substance abuse recovery. I am passionate about attachment, Trauma, and neurobiology, and how they each have an impact on how we recover from trauma and addiction, particularly process addictions.
In my relaxing hours, I enjoy sleeping out in the Southern Utah wilderness to see the beautiful stars, hiking, kayaking, and reading historical fiction. Most of all loving my beautiful grandkids. I try to set a little time aside for some volunteer passion projects such as working at Encircle in Saint George. On the horizon, I hope to do more gardening and travel.
http://www.sequoiaintegrative.com/
Today we continue the conversation with Sam Tielemans about identity vs. behaviors; getting to the root of the problem instead of just trying to fix the surface behaviors. How can we access this information in a helpful way to overcome addictions?
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About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Sam Tielemans:
Sam Tielemans is a licensed marriage and family therapist that specializes in helping couples overcome the effect of unhealthy porn use in their relationship. He has a private practice in Las Vegas, and after working with couples for over a decade, he has developed an approach to help couples restore their marriage, rebuild trust, and improve their sexual intimacy after betrayal.
www.coupleshealing.org
Podcast: Couples Healing from Pornography Addiction
Email: sam@healingcouples.org
It is human nature to bypass the root of our problems and instead focus on fixing or changing our behaviors. However, the behavior is usually a coping mechanism for something deeper. Today I am joined by Sam Tielemans to discuss the importance of addressing the core problem, and separating our identity from our behaviors. In this episode we cover:
- Why do we usually only focus on stopping the problem behaviors?
- What else should be the focus leading up to the problematic behavior?
Join us next week as we continue the discussion with Sam on accessing this information in a helpful way that fosters long-term healing and recovery.
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Sam Tielemans:
Sam Tielemans is a licensed marriage and family therapist that specializes in helping couples overcome the effect of unhealthy porn use in their relationship. He has a private practice in Las Vegas, and after working with couples for over a decade, he has developed an approach to help couples restore their marriage, rebuild trust, and improve their sexual intimacy after betrayal.
www.coupleshealing.org
Podcast: Couples Healing from Pornography Addiction
Email: sam@healingcouples.org
Today I am joined by Tim, a fellow marriage and family therapist, who shares his story of pornography addiction and his recent road to recovery. He shares the tools and resources that he has used to break cycles, stay accountable to himself, and move forward on a path of healing. In this episode we cover:
- Tim’s story with multiple crossroads
- The word “addict” and how it can be shameful
- Recovery vs. sobriety
- Inner peace/connectedness
- Becoming authentic vs. white knuckling
- Being in recovery for YOU
- If you are hiding things from your spouse, it will come out
- You are not alone
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
The statistics of sexual abuse are staggering. If you haven’t been sexually abused, you probably know someone who has been. Internationally recognized sex therapist, Wendy Maltz, joins us today to discuss the importance of sexual healing after sexual abuse. In this episode we cover:
- What are the sexual problems resulting from sexual abuse?
- What is sexual healing?
- What are the common stages for healing from sexual abuse?
- How can a partner be a resource in the sexual healing journey?
- What if the partner is the one who caused or perpetuated the sexual abuse?
- What tools and resources are most effective in the sexual healing journey?
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Wendy Maltz:Wendy Maltz is an internationally recognized sex therapist, author, and speaker. Wendy has more than forty years of experience helping individuals and couples overcome sex and intimacy concerns. She is the author of numerous acclaimed sexuality resources, including the recovery classic, The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse, as well as The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography and Private Thoughts: Exploring the Power of Women’s Sexual Fantasies. Presently retired from providing counseling services, Wendy remains engaged in the field through her popular educational website,www.HealthySex.com, which provides free articles, podcast interviews, posters, videos, and more to help people overcome sexual problems and develop skills for love-based sexual intimacy.
https://healthysex.com/self-help-articles/sexual-healing-from-sexual-abuse/
Although church is a place for imperfect people to go to become better, sometimes we find it hard to be accepted there through our own trials and imperfections, especially in the case of sexual brokenness. Today Daniel Weiss joins us to discuss how clergy and members of congregations can better approach this struggle and come together to help foster healing and acceptance. In this episode we cover:
- What do you see as God's design for healthy sexuality?
- How is this being distorted culturally?
- What do you mean when you say we're all sexually broken?
- How do you see us responding to this in unhealthy ways?
- What are the healthiest ways to respond to our own and other's sexual brokenness?
- How can we talk about sexual brokenness without inducing unhealthy levels of shame?
- How are you helping clergy teach and minister around these sensitive topics?
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About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Daniel Weiss:Daniel Weiss is the executive director of the Sexual Integrity Leadership Summit, which equips, supports, and collaborates with Christian leaders to promote Gospel-centered sexuality in the Church. Daniel has a passion for the sexually broken and the need for pastors, parents, and Christian leaders to respond with courage, compassion, and truth to the sexual challenges of our age. He is also a coauthor of Treading Boldly Through a Pornographic World: A Field Guide for Parents. In addition to his professional work, Daniel and his wife work daily to create a home of faith, forgiveness, laughter, and love in the Wisconsin countryside where they live with their five children.
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Coauthor of Treading Boldly through a Pornographic World: A Field Guide for Parents
Shame is one of the biggest obstacles in facing and overcoming any addiction, especially a pornography addiction. Sathiya Sam joins me to discuss methods to tackle crippling shame, and how to live with confidence and integrity after overcoming addiction. In this episode we discuss:
- Can you define shame and how it impacts us when we struggle with unwanted sexual behaviors?
- Why is shame so difficult to overcome?
- What are the ways that we usually try to overcome it (that don't work)?
- How can we leave shame in the past without feeling worse about ourselves?
- Can you describe the "Triple Threat?"
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About Geoff Steurer:
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Sathiya Sam:
Sathiya is a coach and speaker that helps men live with confidence and integrity. A recovered addict himself, Sathiya is the creator of DeepCleanTM – a research-based and Bible-backed system for overcoming porn addiction. DeepCleanTM has helped everyone from college students to medical doctors regain control of their lives and walk in greater levels of freedom. He is married to his lovely wife Shaloma and based out of Toronto, Canada.
CLICK HERE to view the Deep Clean (TM) porn recovery program
Website - www.sathiyasam.com
Free Recovery Guide - www.ultimaterecoveryguide.com
The Last Relapse (Book) - www.sathiyasam.com/books
Unleash The Man Within Podcast - www.sathiyasam.com/podcast
Facebook - www.facebook.com/sathiyamesam
Instagram - www.instagram.com/sathiyamesam
Dr. Barry McCarthy joins us today to dive into the very vulnerable topics of sex, eroticism, and intimacy between couples, and how they can contribute to the success or demise of committed relationships. In this episode we cover:
- Responsive sexual desire for men and women
- Valuing intimacy, pleasure, and eroticism
- Women and men as intimate and erotic allies
- Why the Best friend relational style and the Complementary Sexual Style is the best fit for most couples.
- What is variable, flexible couple sexuality and how does it help couples as they age?
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About Geoff SteurerI am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Dr. Barry McCarthyBarry McCarthy, Ph.D. is a professor of psychology at American University, a diplomate in clinical psychology, a certified sex therapist, and a certified couple therapist. He has published more than 110 professional articles, 29 book chapters, and 14 books. Barry has presented more than 450 professional workshops in the United States and internationally. In 2016 he received the Masters and Johnson award for lifetime contributions to the sexuality field.
Website: https://mccarthyonsex.com
Blog:https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-paradox-sex
Books: Couple Sexuality After 60, Contemporary Male Sexuality, Rekindling (Desire 3rd Edition), Enhancing Couple Sexuality, Finding Your Sexual Voice
In the realm of healing, there isn’t a one size fits all approach. There are many different ways to access deep emotions and needs. One resource for healing is the cleansing method of breath work. Roxanne Granata joins us to explain this healing practice and how to access emotions stored deep within our gut as opposed to those in our minds. In this episode, we discuss:
- What exactly is breath work?
- How does it help all of us, especially those struggling with trauma/addiction?
- What is revelation breath work?
- Where does someone start with breathwork?
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Roxanne Granata:Hi All! I like to get super open because vulnerability fosters connection and there’s nothing better. You will find that in everything I do I share personal life experiences. With over 1,000 hours of study, counseling, mentor groups, and facilitating 12-step partner groups, I became a specialist in navigating through Betrayal trauma as well as guiding individuals and groups through discovering what’s holding them back from living their divine purpose and passion. My rock bottom point turned me into the Author of Cutting Ties – Healing Betrayal Trauma as the Spouse of an Addict. I’m the Host of the Choose In Podcast, Motivational Speaker with over 15 years of experience, and a personal Coach for those ready to uncover what is holding them back. I am here to guide you to see your reality with truth so you can choose healing and move forward in life becoming the best version of yourself. My passion is to walk beside you giving you a direction so you can go from, “I don’t know what to do”, to taking action and creating a life you love. I am here to help you! Let’s get started.
https://www.roxannekennedygranata.com
In the realm of healing, there isn’t a one size fits all approach. There are many different methods to access deep emotions and needs. One resource for healing is the cleansing method of breath work. Roxanne Granata joins us to explain this healing practice and how to access emotions stored deep within our gut as opposed to those in our minds. In this episode, we discuss:
- What exactly is breath work?
- How does it help all of us, especially those struggling with trauma/addiction?
- What is revelation breath work?
- Where does someone start with breach work?
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument
Connect with me on social media:www.instagram.com/geoffsteurer/
www.facebook.com/GeoffSteurerMFT
Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Roxanne Granata:
I like to get super open because vulnerability fosters connection and there’s nothing better. You will find that in everything I do I share personal life experiences. All of this came to be because I embarked on a journey of healing from betrayal trauma being the spouse (now ex) of an addict. I had some serious dedication, and somewhat perfectionism (which has now been addressed and continually being conquered) to find recovery. With over 1,000 hours of study, counseling, mentor groups, and facilitating 12-step partner groups, I became a specialist in navigating through Betrayal trauma as well as guiding individuals and groups through discovering what’s holding them back from living their divine purpose and passion. My rock bottom point turned me into the Author of Cutting Ties – Healing Betrayal Trauma as the Spouse of an Addict. I’m the Host of the Choose In Podcast, Motivational Speaker with over 15 years of experience, and a personal Coach for those ready to uncover what is holding them back. I am here to guide you to see your reality with truth so you can choose healing and move forward in life becoming the best version of yourself. I'm here to help you. Let's get started!
https://www.roxannekennedygranata.com/
Dr. Jacob Hess wrote an article in Public Square magazine that challenged the belief that we should abandon marriage if we're not feeling romantic or loving feelings for our spouse. He said that many of these marriages are not only worth saving, but are completely able to be saved. We invited him to join us on the podcast to talk about his perspective on how most marriages can be healed, even when they have serious challenges. In this episode, we discuss:
- The origins of this article and why this topic matters so much to him
- How this applies to couples who have experienced serious attachment injuries
- What couples can do to practice love when they're on the brink of divorce
CLICK HERE to receive your free copy of Jacob's book, "Once Upon a Time...He Wasn't Feeling it Anymore"
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About Geoff SteurerI am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jacob HessJacob teaches Mindfulness-based Stress Reduction and has helped create mindfulness-based classes (Mindweather 101, Lift, Fortify) and the Council for Sustainable Healing. In addition to 14 peer-reviewed articles, Jacob has authored four books: You’re Not as Crazy as I Thought, But You’re Still Wrong, Once Upon a Time…He Wasn’t Feeling It Anymore and A Third Space: Proposing Another Way Forward in the LGBT/Religious Conservative Impasse & The Power of Stillness: Mindful Living for Latter-ay Saints. You can learn more about Jacob’s work at unthinkable.cc or contact him at jzhess@gmail.com.
Our children live in a wonderfully terrifying world of tech that can both build and destroy. It can feel overwhelming and exhausting to stay on top of all the changes and trust our kids are safe. We invited a teen who shares his journey from almost being destroyed by pornography, shame, and depression to now helping parents and teens understand how they can navigate this world safely. His name is Smith Alley and he's courageously stepping into the light to let others know healing is possible. In this episode, we discuss:
- Smith's story
- What it means to live life bigger
- What he want parents to know about the dangers of pornography, tech, and social media
- How parents can help their kids navigate today's tech challenges
- How speaking up about his story has helped him in his personal recovery
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff SteurerI am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Smith Alley
He is the founder of The Live Life Bigger Foundation. After deciding to change the course of his life at age 14, he faces his struggles with pornography and mental health head on, advocating about the effects of social media and pornography on teens. Now a senior in high school, Smith speaks to groups around the country, operates his non profit and continues to work on his business ProtechtStrong; helping parents set up their technology safely and spear the porn talk in the home. Smith keeps up his work while doing school, playing lacrosse, and continually entertaining his car and motorcycle hobbies. Smith hopes that his story and his young perspectives will inspire people to live a more fulfilling life beyond their screen, and his love for others will be felt in leaps and bounds.
Email: smithalley@livelifebigger.org
Website: www.livelifebigger.org
I'm joined by Kim, a woman who has found growth and purpose in her life despite going through her worst case scenario. Kim courageously tells her story about confronting the realities of her husband's addictive and abusive behaviors that ultimately resulted in her having to separate and file for divorce. During the separation and divorce proceedings, he committed suicide, leaving his four children without their father. Kim speaks candidly about her journey and how she has found growth and purpose in the aftermath of this tragic ending. In this episode, we discuss:
- Why isolation is a huge challenge for those who have been betrayed
- Why safety is critical when trying to heal
- Her post-traumatic growth and how she found hope in the face of tragedy.
- The reality that you're not alone and that you can thrive even if your worst case scenario happens
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About Geoff Steurer
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
When our sex lives are struggling, we have a tendency to drive up the intensity as a way to improve our experience. This often feels like an endless chase that leaves us feeling more defeated. Did you know that slowing down and practicing sexual mindfulness actually leads to more consistent orgasm, a sense of harmony in sexual interactions, and a feeling like the relationship was flourishing instead of floundering?Our guest today is Dr. Chelom Leavitt, a professor and researcher at Brigham Young University, who studies sexuality and mindfulness in relationships. She is the co-author of two books, "A Better Way to Teach Kids About Sex" and "Sexual Wholeness in Marriage ", along with other articles and resources available on her website. In this episode, we discuss:
- What is sexual mindfulness
- Her research project on sexual mindfulness
- The improvements she notices with the couples who practice this
- Ways couples can practice mindfulness in other areas of their relationship
- How sexual mindfulness can help couples healing from sexual betrayal
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About Geoff Steurer
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Dr. Chelom Leavitt
Dr. Chelom E. Leavitt is an Assistant Professor in the School of Family at Brigham Young University. She earned her PhD from Penn State. Chelom researches mindfulness and sex within committed relationships. Dr. Leavitt validated a sexual mindfulness curriculum as an effective method to increase emotional connection, sexual and relational satisfaction, and sexual functioning.
www.chelomleavitt.com www.instagram.com/sexualmindfulnessproject/ www.facebook.com/Sexual-Mindfulness-Project A Better Way to Teach Kids About SexSexual Wholeness in Marriage
Betrayed partners often have difficulty knowing where they're at in the healing process. After the chaos of discovery and early recovery, the rest can seem like a blur. My guest is Tammy Gustafson, therapist, coach, and writer, who helps break down four distinct phases of healing from betrayal trauma. In this episode, we cover:
- The 4 phases of healing after betrayal
- Why they are important
- How knowing where you are impacts the healing process
- How to balance the individual journey with the patterns of healing
- What things a betrayed wife should focus on in each phase
- What happens when the husband and wife are in different phases
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Tammy
She earned a Master’s Degree in Counseling from Denver Seminary and her passion is helping women recover from trauma, PTSD, as well as helping wives heal from betrayal. Her focus is to help them get unstuck, discovering ways to live with purpose, joy, and confidence so they are free to move forward and leave their past behind. Tammy is the founder and director of LiveFree Counseling in Colorado, a counseling center specializing in trauma recovery. Tammy has over a decade of experience. She is an EMDR Certified Therapist. She has shared with hundreds of people on the topics of healing from betrayal, understanding and managing the effects of trauma, setting healthy boundaries, and other mental health issues. She connects easily with audiences through her authenticity, humor, and compassion.
Website: www.betrayalhealing.com
Quiz: www.betrayalhealing.com/quiz
Instagram: www.instagram.com/tammylgustafson
After years of struggling to overcome pornography, my guest in this episode, Chandler, decided to create a solution to help combat the most painful part of his struggle - isolation. He is the co-founder of Relay — an app that helps people stay connected and accountable along the road to recovery. It makes it easy to find and maintain tight-knit support in a team-based environment. Listen to Chandler's experience in recovery and why creating community has been such a strong drive for him in his recovery.
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About Geoff Steurer
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
Self-awareness will improve your relationship with yourself and with others. My wife and I invited Genny Rumancik from the EQ School to join us for a discussion on how to build self-awareness. In this episode we discuss:
- The definition of self-awareness
- Why it matters individually and in relationships
- The origins of self-awareness
- The process for developing self-awareness
- What gets in the way of developing our self-awareness
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Genny Rumancik
Genny is the owner and lead facilitator at The EQ School, in Portland, Oregon, where she teaches online workshops on how to develop emotional intelligence. She's passionate about increasing the importance of and fluency around emotional intelligence in our society and communities, and uses her background as an educator to put everything she's learned about emotional self management, healing from trauma, and relational development into easy to follow workshops that focus on the "HOW," so people walk away with real tools they can apply to their lives.
Website: www.theeqschool.co
IG: @theeqschool
Online courses: https://the-eq-school.teachable.com/
We want our children to learn how to be healthy adults and develop the skills necessary for them to succeed in life. However, many young people experience anxiety, isolation, and depression that can turn into unhealthy coping strategies when they don't feel prepared to succeed in adulthood. And, many parents watching their young adult children struggle can get caught up in conflict, drama, angst, and struggle as they launch their teens into adulthood. I'm joined by my wife, Jody, and our guest Dr. Mark Mcconville, author of the book "Failure to Launch: Why Your Twentysomething hasn't grown up...and what to do about it" to talk about how we can help our young people thrive in adulthood. In this episode, we discuss:
- The modern challenges with teens transitioning to adulthood
- The three main tasks teens must master to be prepared for adulthood
- How we can help them with each of these tasks
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. I maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Dr. Mark McConvilleMark McConville Ph.D. is a Clinical Psychologist in private practice in Beachwood, Ohio, specializing in adult, adolescent, emerging adult, and family psychology. Dr. McConville is a senior faculty member at the Gestalt Institute of Cleveland, and has taught and published widely on the subjects of child development, parenting, and counseling methodology. His book Adolescence: Psychotherapy and the Emergent Self (Jossey-Bass, 1995) was awarded the 1995 Nevis Prize for Outstanding Contribution to Gestalt Therapy theory. He is co-editor of The Heart of Development: Gestalt Approaches to Childhood and Adolescence, vols. I & II,(The Analytic Press, 2001). His most recent book, Failure to Launch: why your twentysomething hasn’t grown up, and what to do about it (G.P. Putnam’s Sons, 2020), has received wide acclaim. In addition to his private clinical practice, Dr. McConville serves as Consulting Psychologist to Hathaway Brown School and University School, both in the Cleveland area.
Website:
https://markmcconvillephd.com/
Book:
Failure to Launch: Why your twentysomething hasn't grown up and what to do about it
If you're a woman and you have a low sex drive, please don't automatically assume you're broken. There are so many reasons this can be happening. Betrayal, family issues, relationship challenges, biological factors, illness, small children, sleep deprivation, and on and on. The good news is that with some education and skills, you can begin to identify those inhibiting factors so you can reclaim your desire. Of course, if you're going through some kind of sexual betrayal, your sex drive is going to be all over the place. Sometimes it will be high, sometimes it will be low, and sometimes you'll wonder if you'll ever find it again. Be gentle with your self as you listen to this great interview with women's sexuality coach, Jamee Andelin, who explains why you're not broken and how sexual desire isn't just something you can will into existence. In this interview, we discuss:
- What women often believe and tell themselves about their low sexual desire
- The origins of these harmful beliefs
- How societal / cultural messages impact women's sexual desire
- Other factors impact women's sexuality
- How women who have been sexually betrayed can reclaim their sexuality
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jamee Andelin
Jamee is constantly gaining education in all its many forms, applying it, and then sharing what works with anyone who wants to listen. She is most proud of her marriage, her children, and that one time when her dishwasher and dryer were running at exactly the same time.
Connect with her @jameeandelin on Instagram
Email: coachingwithjamee@gmail.com
Podcast https://anchor.fm/jamee-andelin
How do you know if it's safe to be in a relationship with someone who has struggled with pornography? Dr. Adam Moore returns to the podcast with his co-author, Wendy Morkel, where they talk about how to navigate dating someone who has struggled with pornography. This is a great episode to share with loved ones who are dating and wondering about how to bring up this potentially challenging subject.
In this episode, we discuss:
- What’s different about dealing with porn in dating relationships vs. married
- How and when someone should bring up the topic of pornography in a dating relationship
- What questions should people ask in this conversation
- What couples need to know if they’re going to successfully navigate a porn problem together
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Dr. Adam Moore
Dr. Adam Moore is a licensed marriage and family therapist, and co-owner of Sela Health, a mental health clinic that operates 5 locations in Utah and Nevada. He's a frequent guest at workshops and podcasts and host of his own podcast called Pocket therapist. He and his wife run their counseling practice together and try to homeschool their 5 kids.
About Wendy Morkel
Wendy Morkel is a writer, editor, web contributor, and a therapist. She has her master's degree in English language and resides in Mapleton, Utah. She is passionate about faith, her marriage and family (mother of six children ages 20-7), friends, and pebble ice.
I was thrilled to sit down with Jeni Gessel (aka: "Scabs"), who was the host of the podcast "Love Rice" and has coached and supported women healing from betrayal trauma for years. She is currently finishing her licensure to be a therapist. She's been on a long recovery journey through healing from betrayal trauma and I wanted my listeners to hear what it sounds like when someone has accepted and settled into the long journey of healing. She share lessons on acceptance, wholeness, authenticity, and how to surrender to the journey.
Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Jeni Gessel
I help people calm anxiety and rebuild after betrayal trauma. I believe that wellness is our natural state of being and because of this health and healing are within reach. I am your advocate during your personalized healing process. Betrayal Trauma, intimate deception, or infidelity is incredibly painful and complicated. You might feel confusing emotions like intense fear, numbness, and anger. You might feel lost or the intense anxiety of holding it all together. I help people like you find clarity, peace, and a sense of self-trust.
https://www.arizonafamilyinstitute.com/Jeni-Gessel-LAC
Family members can both help and harm those recovering from addiction. Having the right education and resources makes all the difference for families who want to help. I had the privilege of interviewing Danny and Emily Deaton from "Your Living Proof" about how families can make a difference in the lives of those they love who are struggling with addiction. In this episode, we discuss:
- Danny's journey through addiction and recovery
- How they see families helping/harming the addiction recovery process
- What families need to understand about addiction
- How family members can be most helpful
You can purchase a 4-course bundle from Your Living Proof. Use the code: GS10 to save 10%. Here are the details of their online course bundle:
This bundle is for every mother, father, sister, friend who is ready to know what THEY can do to start fighting for their loved one’s life. The bundle includes over 2 hours of personal instruction from Danny so you can learn and master the following concepts: * The three roadblocks families unknowingly place in their loved one’s path. * The four lies that keep everyone in a holding pattern. * Why it is impossible for your loved one to do this alone. * Two addiction principles that will move you from insanity to progress. * Addiction myths – busted * Three hinge points that will create the structure required to influence the outcome. * What you must immediately stop doing. * Creating your own emergency kit.
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About Danny and Emily Deaton
Once a homeless, incarcerated drug addict, Danny Deaton is now a husband, father of three, and 14 years clean and sober. Danny is the founder and owner of Living Proof Recovery Services; a company whose mission is to save families who are losing the battle of addiction inside their home. He also hosts the Your Living Proof Podcast and has produced workbooks and online courses for individuals and families who need support in understanding their role in their loved ones recovery.
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When you've been betrayed by your spouse, it's important to make room for the initial shock and work toward emotional and physical safety. However, it's tempting for someone who has been victimized to stay frozen in the victim position. Also, this doesn't only apply to betrayed spouses. Most individuals who struggle with sexually compulsive behaviors or other addictions often feel victimized by their histories, mental illnesses, relationships, or other outside factors.
In this episode, I interview recovery coaches, Lindsay and Danny Poelman, who teach about how to take personal responsibility through the recovery process no matter what has happened to you. In this episode, we talk about:
- Their recovery story
- Why couples focus so much on the other person's recovery/healing instead of their own.
- What focusing on your own healing looks like
- Actionable steps each person can do to take personal ownership of their own healing
- How to stay connected as a couple while they work recovery together
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
Lindsay and Danny's Websites and Social Media:
https://lindsaypoelmancoaching.com
https://www.dannypoelman.com
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/lindsaypoelmancoaching/ (@lindsaypoelmancoaching)
https://www.instagram.com/dannypoelmancoaching/ (@dannypoelmancoaching)
Creating a sexually safe relationship in marriage is difficult for many couples, even when there's not been betrayal. However, when you add the element of betrayal, it makes creating a secure sexual connection even more challenging. I invited Tammy Hill, LMFT and AASECT member, to join me on the podcast to talk about:
- How couples can begin exploring this topic safely
- What she considers the hallmarks of a sexually safe relationship
- What societal myths keep couples from experiencing a safe sexual relationship
- What men need to be aware of
- What women need to be aware of
- What if there is betrayal? Previous trauma? Health issues?
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
About Tammy Hill
Tammy Hill, LMFT, ASSECT Member has a private therapeutic practice, and teaches courses on marriage and sexuality at Brigham Young University. She has a new children’s book, “God Made Girls and Boys” that can be found on her website www.tammyhill.com Her second book, “Your Body and the Plan of Happiness” will be finished next year. She hosts the "Live Your Why" Podcast on Apple and Spotify. She snd her husband, Jeff Hill, have a combined family with 12 children, with 35 grandchildren and more in the way!
Some call them relapses. Others call them slips. Regardless of what you call it, setbacks in recovery are often a huge source of shame, disappointment, and emotional turmoil. They reopen old wounds, impact trust, and have the potential to generate a lot of hopelessness. The way you respond to your own setbacks in recovery can make all the difference in your progress.
In this episode, I respond to a few questions from a man who is working through his own recovery process and was feeling discouraged after a recent setback. Here are the questions:
- How do you find optimism and emotionally recovery quickly after a relapse?
- How do you deal with a sexual dream? They happen sometimes and, dang it, it always precedes a difficult day.
- How do you stay willing when you know your willingness is the only thing saving you from relapse? It gets tough to not worry when not worrying is the only thing saving you.
- How can I handle emotions of discontent or stress or loneliness when my normal schedule is interrupted by a trip or event? It definitely happens a lot, and I don't want it to be an Achilles heel for me.
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Geoff Steurer
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.
The Holidays are upon us and that means family and friends gathering. This can be something you dread or something you cherish. Either way, it's going to require healthy boundaries if you're going to stay sane! Join me and my wife, Jody, as we answer questions from our listeners on their most challenging holiday boundary questions.
My wife, Jody, is the co-host of the podcast, Speak up Sister
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It's possible to build a healthy marriage when recovering from a pornography addiction, but several important things need to be in place. I interview Hayden and Savannah Paul, a couple who are committed to building a shame-free marriage as Hayden works through his addiction recovery. Hayden was transparent about his struggle with pornography early in their dating relationship and has taken charge of his own recovery. If you want to hear what it takes to build a shame-free marriage in recovery, listen to what this couple is doing.
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About Hayden and Savannah
Hayden and Savannah Paul were married on January 24, 2020. Since then they’ve been living in Sandy, Utah. Hayden and Savannah seek to change the conversation surrounding pornography with a focus on de-shaming the problem so true healing can occur. They host a weekly podcast titled “I Stand at The Door.” It’s geared toward helping parents, youth and church leaders understand and navigate the complicated issue surrounding porn. Hayden personally fought a 10-year battle against this struggle and after learning many lessons has now, for over a year, felt the peace and freedom that comes from the Atonement of Jesus Christ. Savannah is a native of Illinois and a returned missionary from the Las Vegas West mission. She finished her degree in nursing at BYU this past April and gave birth to their baby, Walker, a week later. She loves to sing, play the piano, and watercolor. Hayden grew up in Sandy and served his mission in Budapest, Hungary. He is an infantry rifleman in the United States Marine Corp and currently serves in a reserve capacity with 4th LAR Charlie Company. He loves being a dad and throws their baby around more than Savannah would like. Hayden also works for Operation Underground Railroad, an organization dedicated to the rescue and rehabilitation of children who are in the bonds of sex trafficking.
https://www.istandatthedoor.com/
If you're feeling burned out, you're not alone! We're all feeling the effects of the worldwide pandemic, economic uncertainty, political divisions, and family challenges. It's a tough time and many people feel like they're reaching their limit. However, my guest on this episode, Valerie Hamaker, says that burnout is actually an invitation that puts us in contact with our true selves. She teaches that burnout is the perfect opportunity to dig deeper and do life in a better, more supportive way. Come listen as she breaks down how we can do this without feeling the need to do more.
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Valerie Hamaker is an individual and couples therapist with special training in trauma recovery, sexual health, depth psychology, and issues of spiritual development.
Valerie presents nationally on a variety of topics and most recently has turned her focus to the tackling of issues of burnout from a depth psychology lens.
Valerie’s podcast Generation Exhausted is a weekly commentary on the recovery of burnout in marriage, gender roles, parenting, institutional religion, and body image and she has recently launched an online community in her website [www.exhaustedGen.com] where she supports people live in their burnout recovery journey.
This is part 2 of my interview with Hank Smith, speaker, author, and professor, who did his doctoral research on building trust in relationships. We dive into the research on what it takes to build trust in our close relationships, especially after trust has been damaged. Hank shares stories, examples, and some really helpful acronyms to help us remember key principles in building trust with others. Make sure to listen to part 1 (episode 115) as well!
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About Hank Smith
Dr. Henry “Hank” Smith grew up the son of a golf professional in sunny St. George, Utah. After earning a Bachelor’s Degree from Dixie State University, Hank earned a Master’s Degree in Business Administration from Utah State University and a Ph.D. in Educational Leadership from Brigham Young University, where he is an Assistant Professor of Ancient Scripture.
Hank enjoys speaking , writing, and podcasting, especially for members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.
His weekly podcast followHIM with Hank Smith and John Bytheway is enjoyed by millions across the globe and shares the gospel of Jesus Christ.
Hank has also authored many books, talks, and additionally speaks to tens of thousands of youth and adults each year.
Hank loves the Utah Jazz, biking, and running. He and his wife Sara are the parents of five adorable children.
- Podcast: followHIM with Hank Smith and John Bytheway
- Websites: http://www.hanksmith.com, http://www.followHIM.co (NO M), http://www.hankspeaks.com
- Instagram: @hanrkrsmith, @followhimpodcast
- Facebook: hanksmithcds
My guest this week is Hank Smith, speaker, author, and professor, who did his doctoral research on building trust in relationships. We dive into the research on what it takes to build trust in our close relationships, especially after trust has been damaged. Hank shares stories, examples, and some really helpful acronyms to help us remember key principles in building trust with others. This is part one of a two-part interview. Stay tuned for the second part of this interview in the following episode.
Podcast listeners can receive a 20% discount on my Trust Building Bootcamp by entering the coupon code: PODCAST20 at checkout.
https://www.geoffsteurer.com/trust-building-bootcamp
Download Geoff’s FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument
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Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Hank Smith
Dr. Henry “Hank” Smith grew up the son of a golf professional in sunny St. George, Utah. After earning a Bachelor’s Degree from Dixie State University, Hank earned a Master’s Degree in Business Administration from Utah State University and a Ph.D. in Educational Leadership from Brigham Young University, where he is an Assistant Professor of Ancient Scripture.
Hank enjoys speaking , writing, and podcasting, especially for members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.
His weekly podcast followHIM with Hank Smith and John Bytheway is enjoyed by millions across the globe and shares the gospel of Jesus Christ.
Hank has also authored many books, talks, and additionally speaks to tens of thousands of youth and adults each year.
Hank loves the Utah Jazz, biking, and running. He and his wife Sara are the parents of five adorable children.
- Podcast: followHIM with Hank Smith and John Bytheway
- Websites: http://www.hanksmith.com, http://www.followHIM.co (NO M), http://www.hankspeaks.com
- Instagram: @hanrkrsmith, @followhimpodcast
- Facebook: hanksmithcds
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Emily Jones, co-founder of Family Tech University, joins me to talk about the need to go beyond external filters and controls with our children's electronics and, instead, help them develop internal filters. Using powerful metaphors and stories, Emily share her own family's journey and the work she and her husband have done over the past several years building a powerful online educational resource to support parents and children. Our children are required to enroll in drivers ed and spent dozens of hours behind the wheel with a trusted adult before they venture off unsupervised. They created the Internal Filter Workshop to give parents powerful tools to help children navigate the powerful world of computers and smartphones. In this episode, we discuss:
- Why they created Family Tech University
- The concept of children developing their own internal filters versus only using tech to filter
- How parents can nurture this in their homes
- The appropriate balance between using tech and children having their own boundaries
- The most common questions she gets asked by parents when it comes to tech and families
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About Emily Jones
Dave is an IT professional with over 20 years of experience, and an outdoor enthusiast. Emily is passionate about mothering, and a published author. Years ago we began work on a sort of "driver's ed for the smartphone" for our children... a precursor to cell phone ownership. Family Tech University exists to strengthen families, with an emphasis on nurturing a young person's heart. Providing young people with powerful information, skills practice, and the opportunity to develop their OWN heartfelt opinions enables them to choose to be wise, of their own free will. The heart of our message? That heroic parents can nurture the internal filter™ of their children, preparing them to make wise choices with technology when they walk out the door... away from digital filters and parental monitoring.
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I bring back Dr. Wally Goddard to the podcast to talk about essential truths for all relationships. Wally has just released a new book called, "Discoveries: Essential Truths for Relationships", where he outlines important principles we can learn from personal experience, research, and scriptures. You can get a copy of Wally's new book HERE
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About Wally Goddard
Wally Goddard is a retired professor of Family Life having served in Arkansas and Alabama. He developed programs on personal well-being, marriage, and parenting. He is well known for his many creative family programs, including The Marriage Garden, The Parenting Journey, and Blueprint for Happiness. Wally has authored or co-authored several books including Between Parent and Child, The Soft-Spoken Parent, and Drawing Heaven into Your Marriage. He has been recognized by his colleagues with several awards including the Outstanding Family Life Educator Award. Wally and his wife, Nancy, have three adult children, fourteen grandchildren, and have cared for many foster children over the years. Wally describes Nancy as the finest human being he has ever known. For more about the books Wally has written, go to his Amazon author page: www.amazon.com/H-Wallace-Goddard…1566156161&sr=1-2
I welcome back my wife, Jody, and her sister, Jamee, co-hosts of the popular Speak Up Sister podcast, for the second installment of our interview talking about how we can know it's time to speak up and use our voices. We go through 9 indicators that signal that it's time to speak up about things that matter. In this episode, we cover the second portion of these items.
You can download a free copy of these steps on http://www.speakupsister.net
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About Jody Steurer
I’ve always been really interested in human behavior and interaction, so I studied it at Brigham Young University and graduated with a BS in psychology. While my husband, Geoff, and I raised our four lively children (two with neurodevelopment disorders), I stayed up with the latest research on how humans struggle and thrive. Life and my membership in the Church of Jesus Christ taught me how interconnected it all is to our relationship with the Divine. It’s still my favorite topic of conversation and I often get invited to speak about it at church and in the community. I am also a certified life coach, which allows me to support many people in living true to their values and aspirations.
About Jamee Adams
Like Jody, I have a deep interest in successful human relationships, specifically focusing on recurring patterns and large group applications. I have a Master’s degree from Tel Aviv University Israel in Public Policy, emphasizing conflict resolution, and currently work with a psychological testing company. I’m married to Jason (a clinical psychologist), I have 4 children, and my heart is planted firmly in the Church of Jesus Christ. Having had difficult experiences learning how to use my voice consistently and effectively, I know how challenging it can be. But speaking up shines a bright light into otherwise dim places, and the more light there is, the more we all can see together.
I welcome back my wife, Jody, and her sister, Jamee, co-hosts of the popular Speak Up Sister podcast, to talk about how we can know it's time to speak up and use our voices. We go through 9 indicators that signal that it's time to speak up about things that matter. In this episode, we cover the first portion of these items and will cover the remainder in the following episode.
You can download a free copy of these steps on http://www.speakupsister.net
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About Jody Steurer
I’ve always been really interested in human behavior and interaction, so I studied it at Brigham Young University and graduated with a BS in psychology. While my husband, Geoff, and I raised our four lively children (two with neurodevelopment disorders), I stayed up with the latest research on how humans struggle and thrive. Life and my membership in the Church of Jesus Christ taught me how interconnected it all is to our relationship with the Divine. It’s still my favorite topic of conversation and I often get invited to speak about it at church and in the community. I am also a certified life coach, which allows me to support many people in living true to their values and aspirations.
About Jamee Adams
Like Jody, I have a deep interest in successful human relationships, specifically focusing on recurring patterns and large group applications. I have a Master’s degree from Tel Aviv University Israel in Public Policy, emphasizing conflict resolution, and currently work with a psychological testing company. I’m married to Jason (a clinical psychologist), I have 4 children, and my heart is planted firmly in the Church of Jesus Christ. Having had difficult experiences learning how to use my voice consistently and effectively, I know how challenging it can be. But speaking up shines a bright light into otherwise dim places, and the more light there is, the more we all can see together.
I was invited to be a guest on Tony Overbay's podcast, The Virtual Couch, to talk about rebuilding broken trust in marriage. I had a great time connecting with Tony, sharing a bit about my journey, and diving into the intricacies of what it takes to rebuild trust when a marriage has been betrayed.
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About Tony:
Tony Overbay is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (CA LMFT#92443), a Certified Mindful Habit Coach (CMHC), and a popular motivational speaker. Tony regularly speaks at corporate training events, schools, and churches in formal and casual settings mixing humor, clinical experience, his Christian faith, and a wealth of personal stories gleaned from years of helping others achieve their goals. Once a promising baseball prospect (his high school coach once called Tony the “best bad ball hitter he had ever seen!), Tony was run over by a 28-foot dual-prop ski boat shortly after his senior year of high school on a trip with friends to Lake Powell, Utah, both of his legs receiving significant damage from the prop of the boat. Tony still carries the scars from the prop some 30 years later. Tony was told that he would regain the ability to walk, but that he would never be able to run quickly, or for distance, as an adult. The accident halted Tony’s baseball career, but it set him on a path that eventually led him to creating The Path Back. Tony spent 10 years as a software executive traveling the world presenting at conferences and trade shows and eventually started several of his own companies in industries from computer hardware, health and beauty, and nuts and bolts (literally!).
https://www.tonyoverbay.com
Todd Sylvester spent years in the grip of multiple addictions. A significant part of his journey to sobriety and long-term recovery was the realization that the way he saw himself impacted his drive to numb out and escape. In this episode he shares his hard-earned wisdom of how we can improve our self-talk to accelerate and deepen our healing. We discuss:
- The most common self-talk he hears with people in addiction
- Why our self-talk is so important
- Why our self-talk becomes so negative
- What happens when we change our self-talk
- How to change our self-talk
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Todd Sylvester Biography
Todd Sylvester is the founder of Todd Sylvester Inspires, where he mentors and coaches’ people from all over the world. As a Mentor & Mindset Coach he has help thousand find joy again in their lives. He also coaches at the greatest university on the planet – Wasatch Recovery!
In 1989 he founded the non-profit, anti-drug entity Sly Dog “Drug Free That’s Me, which features a sought-after education program for elementary schools. This program has encouraged over 250K school-age students, emphasizing principles of positive self- talk, personal commitment, goal setting, and character building.
Over the past 31 years Todd has discovered and taught universal principles that have empowered thousands to conquer addiction, crush compulsive behaviors and change their limiting belief systems.
Todd’s story was recently told through a popular YouTube clip that received over 5 million views and has been translated into 3 languages. Todd has conducted over 1,500 speaking engagements and close to 17,000 individual coaching sessions.
Todd is an author of the popular eBook “It’s Time to Start Living” and the #1 Best Seller, “I Am RecoverED”. He also produces a popular Podcast that he calls a Beliefcast that is ranked #170 in the world in mental health, that features great people doing amazing things.
Todd’s Story was also featured in Best Selling Author Simon Sinek’s new book, “Find Your Why”.
Today, Todd uses his firsthand fight against addiction to give hope to thousands of teenagers, young adults, and parents with passion and drive.
Todd has been married to his sweetheart for 29 years. They have four children, one granddaughter, and live a happy life together.
Websites: www.toddinspires.com www.beliefcast.com
Apple Podcast: Beliefcast Ranked #170 in the world in Mental Health https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/todd-sylvester-inspires-beliefcast/id1333144561?mt=2
Instagram: @tsinspires
Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Am-RecoverED-Simple-Overcoming-Addiction/dp/1513655760/ref=sr_1_3?dchild=1&keywords=I+am+recovered&qid=1612880965&sr=8-3
I had the privilege of interviewing one of my favorite thought leaders, Jacob Hess. We talked about one of his specialities, mindfulness, and how we can apply these principles to addiction and trauma. It's a fascinating discussion full of great insights. Specifically, we discuss:
- His definition of mindfulness
- How he sees mindfulness improving people's lives
- How mindfulness can help with addiction, mental health, sexuality, and even faith crises.
- How mindfulness can help those who have been betrayed or deeply injured
- How one can begin a mindfulness practice
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Articles by Jacob Hess
A Mindful Way Through Faith Crisis
A Mindful Way Through Faith Crisis, Part II: Five Heartening Possibilities
A Mindful Approach to Sexuality – Part I
Misconceptions about Mindfulness and Sexuality – Part II
How Mindfulness Can Help Bridge Political Divides
About Jacob Hess
Jacob teaches Mindfulness-based Stress Reduction and has helped create mindfulness-based classes (Mindweather 101, Lift, Fortify) and the Council for Sustainable Healing. In addition to 14 peer-reviewed articles, Jacob has authored four books: You’re Not as Crazy as I Thought, But You’re Still Wrong, Once Upon a Time…He Wasn’t Feeling It Anymore and A Third Space: Proposing Another Way Forward in the LGBT/Religious Conservative Impasse & The Power of Stillness: Mindful Living for Latter-ay Saints. You can learn more about Jacob’s work at unthinkable.cc or contact him at jzhess@gmail.com.
I continue my discussion with Thomas from episode 106 where we discuss what it means to sponsor someone in the 12-step program. These principles apply to supporting others as well. Thomas shares what it's been like to be sponsored and what he's doing to support the men he sponsors. This is a great episode if you're wondering how to best support anyone who asks for you help. Specifically, we discuss:
- The importance of the 12-step program in his life
- What it means to "recover by immersion"
- The importance of connection with one's higher power during sponsoring and for addicts to recover as well
- Honoring the need for mentors when there have been deep attachment injuries
- How 12 steps is not a place to coddle men in their addiction, it is to help men progress
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Links mentioned in the episode
https://www.destroytheplague.com
https://www.kershisnik.com/kershisnik-home
Thomas's life has taken a 180 degree turn since going into recovery from a thirty-year addiction to pornography that started when he was eight years old. His story told in Dark to Light gives hope that it is possible to escape from the dark trap of pornography and live in the light—free from lies, shame, and lust. Thomas hopes that sharing his journey will help others to enter the path of light in order to heal their lives and relationships.
Why 2.0? After beginning recovery Thomas started to feel like a different man. He began to loathe who he had been for thirty plus years. He really wanted to change—and he was changing. His wife began to feel like she was married to a new man. She was done with Thomas 1.0 and the damage he had caused, and she noticed he was becoming less and less like that old guy. He was becoming Thomas 2.0—a new and better version.
After 30 years of addiction to pornography and lust, Thomas began a recovery journey that began five years and continues to this day. In this episode, he shares his story and the recovery principles that are creating healing for himself and his marriage. We discuss:
- An overview of his personal recovery and marital healing.
- What has helped his wife in her healing from betrayal trauma
- How they are helping others along the way, especially teenagers who struggle
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Check out my NEW low-price course on how couples can heal from an affair: https://www.udemy.com/course/healing-from-an-affair-for-the-betrayed-the-unfaithful/
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Links mentioned in the episode
https://www.destroytheplague.com
https://www.kershisnik.com/kershisnik-home
Thomas's life has taken a 180 degree turn since going into recovery from a thirty-year addiction to pornography that started when he was eight years old. His story told in Dark to Light gives hope that it is possible to escape from the dark trap of pornography and live in the light—free from lies, shame, and lust. Thomas hopes that sharing his journey will help others to enter the path of light in order to heal their lives and relationships.
Why 2.0? After beginning recovery Thomas started to feel like a different man. He began to loathe who he had been for thirty plus years. He really wanted to change—and he was changing. His wife began to feel like she was married to a new man. She was done with Thomas 1.0 and the damage he had caused, and she noticed he was becoming less and less like that old guy. He was becoming Thomas 2.0—a new and better version.
I invited Richard "Papa" Ostler, host of this podcast "Listen, Learn, and Love" to join me on this podcast to talk about how we can stay connected to our LGBTQ friends and family. We discuss:
- What we can specifically do to better support our LGBTQ friends/family
- What he's learned from listening to so many unique voices/experiences on his podcast
- What does it mean to be an "ally"
- How we can view someone who identifies as LGBTQ as more than their sexual activity
- Why people still have difficulty loving/accepting our LGBTQ friends
- How to stay out of judgement when listening to stories different from our own
- How to truly see people who are different than us
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Richard Ostler Bio:
Richard H. Ostler, a former YSA bishop, speaks at firesides and conferences about how to more fully embrace LGBTQ Latter-day Saints, see their gifts and contributions, and better understand their unique road. He is the host of the Listen, Learn and Love podcast (listenlearnandlove.org) which provides a platform for Latter-day Saints to share their stores on a number of topics.
He is the author of the book Listen Learn and Love: Embracing LGBTQ Latter-day Saints available at Deseret Book (Deseret Book: www.deseretbook.com/p/listen-learn-and-love-embracing-lgbtq-latter-day-saints and Amazon (amazon.com/dp/1462135773)
He is also the author of two recent Ensign Articles:
“How the Savior’s Healing Power Applies to Repenting from Sexual Sin” (August 2020; YSA Digital Only https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ensign/2020/08/young-adults/how-the-saviors-healing-power-applies-to-repenting-from-sexual-sin) and “7 Tips for Overcoming Pornography Use” (October 2020; page 72, https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ensign/2020/10/young-adults/7-tips-for-overcoming-pornography-use).
He is deeply committed to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and to creating more understanding and support for LGBTQ members—a goal started during his service as a YSA bishop as he learned to set aside past assumptions to better fulfill his stewardship responsibility to meet the spiritual needs of LGBTQ ward members.
In addition to serving as a YSA bishop, stake young men’s president, high counselor, and ward mission leader. He currently services as a temple ordinance worker and Elder Quorum Secretary. He has BS from the University of Utah and an MBA from Brigham Young University, and is a small business owner. Richard and his wife Sheila live in Salt Lake City, Utah and have six wonderful children, and several grandchildren.
I had a great interview with Connor Beaton, the founder of Man Talks, to talk about how men can build solid friendships with other men. I also invited one of my sons to join me for this interview. Connor challenged both of us and opened up a great dialogue about how to improve our friendships with other men. In this episode, we discuss:
- Why men need friendships with other men
- How male friendships are protective for men's emotional health
- What healthy relationships with other men look like
- What prevents men from forming meaningful friendships with other men
- How we can help our sons and other young men form healthy male friendships
- What men can do to initiate and maintain healthy friendships with other men
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Bio
Meet Connor Beaton, the founder of ManTalks. He was raised to believe that being a man meant you had to follow certain rules. The most notable one is like the first rule of Fight Club: don’t talk about it. For most of his life, he believed all men had the same rule. Shut up and deal with it. Man up. So that’s what he did. Outside, he was successful, funny, and charismatic with a great relationship and rapidly rising career. Inside, he was full of all the pieces he didn’t want to talk about or admit to anyone. Every moment of shame, confusion, and anger urged him to lie and manipulate his way into feeling better. The lies kept growing and eventually, he lost someone very important to him and he couldn’t lie his way out of it this time. To avoid crushing shame, he shut everyone out and ran. One night, while living in the back of his car, his reality hit him like a ton of bricks. Finally, he had hit rock bottom. He tried everything except confronting all the shame, sadness, and anger he felt. And the whole time, he had told nobody. It was then that Connor realized he only had two options: to continue to hide and silently suffer, or shine light into the deepest corners of himself and start talking about it. Over the next few years, he learned to take his trauma, shame, and denial—all the shadowy parts of himself—and integrate them. He spent thousands of hours learning and training. He consulted psychologists, historians, neurologists, and authors. Connor trained for years under mentors and leaders in Jungian psychology, somatic therapy, and holotropic breathwork. He even apprenticed under a disciple of Carl Jung himself. In 2014, Connor founded ManTalks as a grassroots movement to further the cause: giving men the tools and training to create a truly self-led life.
https://connorbeaton.com
Join me as I chat with best selling author, world-renowned business coach, entrepreneur, and all-around happy guy, Richie Norton, about how we can choose faith over fear. Richie's life may seem like it's good vibes all the time (I mean, he does live in Hawaii, after all!), but you'll hear that he has deliberately chosen faith over fear after tragedy and betrayal countless times in his life. We talk about our tendency to gravitate toward fear and ways that we can live in faith. Richie shares powerful personal stories and lessons that will inspire you.
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Richie's website
Bio
Richie Norton is the award-winning, bestselling author of the book The Power of Starting Something Stupid (in 10+ languages) and Résumés Are Dead & What to Do About It. In 2019, Richie was named one of the world’s top 100 business coaches by Dr. Marshall Goldsmith. He is an international speaker (including TEDx & Google Startup Grind) & serial entrepreneur.
Richie is the host of The Richie Norton Show sharing stories and strategies for successful entrepreneurship, lifestyle and happiness with high-profile business and self-improvement leaders. He is the founder of Global Consulting Circle, creating/scaling business models for venture-backed startups.
Richie Norton is the Co-Founder of Prouduct—helping entrepreneurs go from idea to market full service w/ global sourcing & end to end supply chain. Norton founded Edit.Today—a multinational video editing service for vloggers.
Millions of entrepreneurial-minded people study Norton’s work & blended learning, modular educational programs (self-directed learning courses, masterminds, podcasts, articles, keynotes, interviews, books, mentoring, university lectures). Executives & celebrities alike seek out Richie to create new value-based products/experiences for their audiences.
Richie is featured in Forbes, Businessweek, Entrepreneur, HuffPo, Inc., etc. The 2013 San Francisco Book Festival awarded The Power of Starting Something Stupid first in business & grand prize winner overall. At age 29, Pacific Business News recognized Richie as one of the Top Forty Under 40 “best & brightest young businessmen” in Hawaii.
Richie founded a mentor capital org to help end poverty & establish the Willes Center for International Entrepreneurship—where he serves on the Mentor Venture Capital Board at BYU Hawaii. Richie is published in the Journal of Microfinance & is a ChangeAid Award winner for “outstanding accomplishment in international development, international relations, humanitarian aid and academic achievement.”
Richie received his MBA from the world’s #1 ranked international business school, Thunderbird School of Global Management. Richie is happily married, has four boys and lives on the North Shore of Oahu, Hawaii.
Join me and fellow therapist, Valerie Hamaker, as we riff about all things enabling. This episode is a replay of an episode we recorded for her podcast, "Voice About Living" and is the follow up to a previous episode where she interviews a former client about her enabling patterns. In this episode, we discuss:
- Why do we enable harmful behaviors in our loved ones?
- How does this happen?
- How can we know that we are enabling?
- How does the enabler feel?
- And most importantly, how do we stop enabling and heal our relationships from this pattern?
This is episode 97 from Valerie's podcast that provides background and context for our interview: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/voices-about-living/id1474263480?i=1000524513562
Connect with Geoff Steurer:
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Listen to Valerie's Podcast:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/voices-about-living/id1474263480
https://open.spotify.com/show/26D8Ty9ItzpYbbkaMPTxBE?si=OLZtsMgGTNq9M2XvYUD9Mg&nd=1
Valerie Hamaker has a Master’s Degree in counseling from MidAmerica Nazarene University with special training in marriage and family counseling. She is a Nationally Certified Counselor, a licensed professional counselor in Kansas and a provisionally licensed counselor in Missouri. She is a certified Sexual Addictions Treatment Provider and completing coursework to be a Certified Play Therapist. Valerie is a certified Prepare and Enrich marriage facilitator and has also completed Dave Ramsey’s Financial Coaching Masters Series. She also has a Master’s degree from UMKC and a Bachelor’s Degree from Brigham Young University.
Valerie owns and operates her own marriage and family counseling private practice called All About Attachment, LLC. Valerie enjoys working with individuals and couples in all life stages, weaving elements of emotional, spiritual, mental, and relationship wellness into her clinical work. Valerie has clinical experience working with high risk teens and recently she and her two adolescent daughters launched an anti-bullying campaign sponsored by the popular Discovery Girls Magazine, which they presented to over 500 adolescents in local schools and churches.
Valerie enjoys presenting on issues of marriage, family, and faith and has had many opportunities to do so over the past twenty years in professional, academic, community, and ecclesiastical settings. She is currently engaged in a qualitative research project focusing on the changing nature of intimacy due to the heavy influence of technology and social media. The most important part of Valerie’s life is her relationship with God and she feels fortunate that her work in counseling allows her to serve God, to be constantly attentive to improving her relationship with her own husband and their four children, and to work closely with those who seek her services.
In this episode I interview Dr. Stefanie Carnes, an internationally recognized expert on treating sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. We talk about the difficult subject of responding to sexual offenses. Even though sexual addiction is a serious issue, sexual offending directly violates another person and involves illegal activities. Sexual offenses can include behaviors such as eroticized rage, voyeurism of family members, revenge porn, marital rape, touching while asleep/unconscious, exhibitionism, child sexual abuse images, etc. Specifically, we discuss:
- The difference between addiction and offending behaviors
- The impact on partners and kids
- The necessary steps each person needs to take in these situation
- What the healing journey looks like when there have been significant boundary violations
- Examples of what long-term healing looks like
- Resources for both offending and betrayed partners
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Stefanie Carnes, Ph.D., CSAT-S is the President of the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals, a training institute and professional organization for addiction professionals, and a senior fellow for Meadows Behavioral Healthcare where she works with sexually addicted clients and their families. Dr. Carnes is the clinical architect for Willow House: Relationship Healing for Women struggling with sex, love and intimacy disorders, and works closely with the staff of Willow House and Gentle Path to bring her unique expertise to the programs and to aid the clients who suffer with intimacy and relationship disorders. She is a licensed marriage and family therapist and an AAMFT approved supervisor. Her area of expertise includes working with patients and families struggling with multiple addictions such as sexual addiction, eating disorders and chemical dependency. Dr. Carnes is also a certified sex addiction therapist and supervisor, specializing in therapy for couples and families struggling with sexual addiction. She presents regularly at conferences at both the state and national levels. She is also the author of numerous publications including her books, Mending a Shattered Heart: A Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts, and Facing Heartbreak: Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts, and Facing Addiction: Starting Recovery from Alcohol and Drugs. She currently co-facilitates Module 2 in the Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) and Certified Partner Trauma Therapist (CPTT) Training.
Websites:
Sexhelp.com
https://iitap.com
Books:
Courageous Love
Mending a Shattered Heart
Facing Heartbreak
From Crisis to Connection has reached it's 100th episode! Join me as I share a few things I've learned over the past 99 episodes.
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In this episode I interview author of the new book, The Secret Keepers, Heidi Tucker. The Secret Keepers is the true story of a woman, Margi, whose childhood mind captured scenes from her unthinkable abuse, then kept them deep inside as secrets. As Margi searches for answers to frightening memories, we witness her relentless perseverance in uncovering protected secrets to seek understanding and truth.
The Secret Keepers will take you on an emotional journey of life as a multiple. Margi’s touching story will both enlighten and uplift as you witness her valiant conquest to reach for faith and hope. It is an unforgettable story that exemplifies love, courage, and triumph over seemingly insurmountable odds.
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Bio
Heidi Tucker is an award-winning author and speaker. Her first two books Finding Hope in the Journey and Servie’s Song have won Book of the Year, Best Inspirational and Best Cover awards. Her new release, The Secret Keepers is now inspiring readers all over the world.
Heidi’s gift for writing and speaking about light and hope has inspired thousands. Heidi is known as a great storyteller who believes that every story not only teaches a gospel principle, but can make you feel it. She motivates many to rise up, cling to their faith and position their hearts to recognize God's hand in their life.
When Heidi isn't writing her next book or speaking at a conference, you'll find her spending time outdoors with her husband, four grown children and ten grandchildren. She loves sunflowers, hiking and ice cream . . . not necessarily in that order.
Website: HeidiTucker.com
We talk about individual mindfulness on a regular basis and my guest on this episode says that it's just as important to extend that mindfulness to our intimate relationships. My guest is Liz Higgins, licensed marriage and family therapist and the host of the Millennial Life Podcast. In this episode, we discuss:
- The increase in relational anxiety or relational FOMO
- Why some couples don't feel settled in their relationship
- The benefits of relational mindfulness
- How couples can create relational mindfulness
- How couples can rebuild and choose back in to the relationship
Connect with Geoff Steurer:
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Bio:
Liz is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, the founder of Millennial Life Counseling in Dallas, TX and the host of The Millennial Life Podcast. She is incredibly passionate about millennials and their journey toward health and wellness...most of all, in their committed relationships. Her writing on relationships has been featured on platforms including Huffington Post, The New York Times, Elite Daily, Today.com, and more. You can learn more about Liz at millennialrelationships.com
One of the biggest factors in healing from an addiction is community. Emi Bass is a student at Brigham Young University and wanted to do something to support those struggling with pornography addiction after being directly impacted by it in a former relationship. So, she decided to start a club. COVID hit and the club went to Zoom and has stayed there, as it became a safe place for those who are struggling to find community. Listen as I talk with Emi about her inspiring journey to create a space to share resources, hope, and friendship with those impacted by pornography. In this episode, we discuss:
- What inspired Emi to start the Un-Alone club
- The ways the Un-Alone club offers support
- Her doubts and reservations about starting a club like this
- The response she's had from club members
- The impact this has had on her personally
- Future plans for the club
- How we can support those who struggle
Connect with Geoff Steurer:
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https://www.instagram.com/un.alone.byu/
BIO:
Emi Bass is a senior at BYU, studying Classical Civilization. She’s from Tennessee and rock climbs too much. She’s spent the last year working to follow some inspiration that has resulted in the BYU Un-Alone Club, a group where those working to overcome pornography—and those that support them—can come for shame-free connection and helpful resources.
Couples healing is a long-term process and not only requires individual effort, but also solid guidance on the nuances of how to rebuild trust. My guests are Melanie and Seth Studley, a couple in recovery and podcasters/coaches who help couples find connection in the aftermath of betrayal. In this episodes, we discuss:
- What a growth mindset in a recovering marriage looks like
- How to get out our of comfort zones
- One of the best tools for communication
- How to improve sex and intimacy and the focus on (connection and pleasure).
Connect with Geoff Steurer:
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Bio
Seth and Melanie Studley have accomplished a tremendous amount in the short four years they have been podcasting. Their main show, Anatomy of Marriage: Real Help for Real Couples,recently topped over 3 million downloads. They’ve been guests on NBC News, The Love Hour Podcast, The Dad Edge Podcast, and have spoken on multiple stages all acrossthe the country.With the launch of two new shows, Anatomy of Sex and Anatomy of Family, they are poised to be the leading voicein all things relational. Taken from Seth's 15 years of clinical experience and Melanie's no limit approach to relationships, they provide sound and clinical advice with enough candor to relate to anyone
https://www.thestudleys.com/aom
https://www.thestudleys.com/coaching
If we want our children to learn from us, they have to trust us. I interview Emily Christensen, a Certified Life Coach, on how we can improve trust with our children to increase our influence in their lives. In this episode, we discuss:
- Why trust from our children matters
- Examples of trust and mistrust with a parent
- Areas in parenting where having trust really matters
- Things we do as parents that inadvertently undermine our children's trust in us
- Specific steps we can follow to begin building trust with our children
- How can we repair broken trust with our children
Connect with Geoff Steurer:
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Visit www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
Bio
Emily Christensen is a Certified Life Coach and active member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. She has presented to a variety of church groups, trained church leaders and spoken at BYU Women’s Conference on issues related to pornography. As the daughter of a recovering pornography and sex addict, Emily understands how pornography can impact families. As a coach, Emily specializes in teaching parents the tools they need to protect their children from the compulsive use of pornography.
Contact
Instagram: @emilychristensencoaching
Email: emily@emilychristensencoaching.com
This is the continuation of my interview with therapist and fellow podcaster, Tony Overbay, to talk about how couples can stay connected to each other when one partner leaves their shared faith. This is often a transition that is difficult for most couples to navigate, as a departure from the beliefs and values that brought them together can introduce new questions and fears about their future. In this episode, we discuss:
- How to talk with children and impart values without putting children in the middle
- How do talk with outside family/friends
- Healthy examples of navigating the faith journey as a couple
Connect with Geoff Steurer:
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Visit www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Tony:
Tony Overbay is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (CA LMFT#92443), a Certified Mindful Habit Coach (CMHC), and a popular motivational speaker. Tony regularly speaks at corporate training events, schools, and churches in formal and casual settings mixing humor, clinical experience, his Christian faith, and a wealth of personal stories gleaned from years of helping others achieve their goals. Once a promising baseball prospect (his high school coach once called Tony the “best bad ball hitter he had ever seen!), Tony was run over by a 28-foot dual-prop ski boat shortly after his senior year of high school on a trip with friends to Lake Powell, Utah, both of his legs receiving significant damage from the prop of the boat. Tony still carries the scars from the prop some 30 years later. Tony was told that he would regain the ability to walk, but that he would never be able to run quickly, or for distance, as an adult. The accident halted Tony’s baseball career, but it set him on a path that eventually led him to creating The Path Back. Tony spent 10 years as a software executive traveling the world presenting at conferences and trade shows and eventually started several of his own companies in industries from computer hardware, health and beauty, and nuts and bolts (literally!).
https://www.tonyoverbay.com
Go to tonyoverbay.com/stages to download his stages of faith chart.
I'm joined by therapist and fellow podcaster, Tony Overbay, to talk about how couples can stay connected to each other when one partner leaves their shared faith. This is often a transition that is difficult for most couples to navigate, as a departure from the beliefs and values that brought them together can introduce new questions and fears about their future. In this episode, we discuss:
- Why it's called a faith crisis
- Why this is so difficult for couples
- The first thing couples should know if one of them begins to experience this
- The healthiest way for the one struggling with their faith to address their change
- How the other spouse can respond in a healthy way
- How couples can work together even though they're going different directions.
Connect with Geoff Steurer:
www.instagram.com/geoffsteurer/
www.facebook.com/GeoffSteurerMFT
Visit www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Tony:
Tony Overbay is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (CA LMFT#92443), a Certified Mindful Habit Coach (CMHC), and a popular motivational speaker. Tony regularly speaks at corporate training events, schools, and churches in formal and casual settings mixing humor, clinical experience, his Christian faith, and a wealth of personal stories gleaned from years of helping others achieve their goals.
Once a promising baseball prospect (his high school coach once called Tony the “best bad ball hitter he had ever seen!), Tony was run over by a 28-foot dual-prop ski boat shortly after his senior year of high school on a trip with friends to Lake Powell, Utah, both of his legs receiving significant damage from the prop of the boat. Tony still carries the scars from the prop some 30 years later. Tony was told that he would regain the ability to walk, but that he would never be able to run quickly, or for distance, as an adult. The accident halted Tony’s baseball career, but it set him on a path that eventually led him to creating The Path Back. Tony spent 10 years as a software executive traveling the world presenting at conferences and trade shows and eventually started several of his own companies in industries from computer hardware, health and beauty, and nuts and bolts (literally!).
https://www.tonyoverbay.com
Go to tonyoverbay.com/stages to download his stages of faith chart.
What can someone who appears to have "arrived" teach us about living intentionally in the face of opposition? My guest on this episode is Kristin Andrus and she says that when we get focused on the destination as our source of happiness, we miss out on the gifts that journey offers us every single day. In this episode we discuss:
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Why the journey is actually the destination
- How doing the next right thing is more important than fixating only on the outcome
- How to influence the culture in your home for good
- What it means to be intentional in your areas of influence
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The importance of intentionally taking care of yourself physically (sleep, exercise, eating)
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The need to watch out for yourself and making sure your needs are met so you can care for others.
- How can all do something with what we have
Follow Kristin in Instagram @kristinandrus
Connect with Geoff Steurer:
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Visit www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
Bio
Kristin Andrus is the Chief Culture Officer in her home to six children. She is very involved in teaching classes, creating content, and working with Traeger Grills Culinary partners. She is often featured on Studio 5 cooking segments ranging from weekday dinners to entertaining, and always sharing her tips and tricks around the kitchen. Kristin loves creating workouts on her YouTube channel that get women moving and weight training in the comfort of their own homes. Kristin has shifted from a food blogger on Instagram to sharing more ideas on family, faith, and doing good in the community. Her goal is to provide value and inspiration to women and help them thrive rather than just survive. She is very involved with the Ronald McDonald house, Midvale family shelter, and the Utah Refugee connection. She is a board member of the Hope Squad working on suicide prevention in Utah schools.
Do you ever feel guilty for wanting to stay with the person who betrayed you? Do you sometimes feel insecure and clingy in your relationships? This is a struggle for many adults who believe they shouldn't need other people when they're feeling insecure. In this episode, I'm joined by Michelle Mays, LPC, CSAT-S for a discussion on why our attachment needs are not only normal, but essential for our emotional, mental, and physical well-being. In this episode, we discuss:
- A brief overview of the science of attachment
- What our culture does to shame and criticize our natural attachments to each other.
- How this shaming is harmful to our individual and collective wellbeing
- When dealing with betrayal, how cultural views of attachment make it tough for betrayed partners who choose to stay and work it out
- The balance between dependency and individuality
- How we can create balanced support for personal safety while honoring our attachment reflexes.
Connect with Geoff Steurer:
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Bio:
Founder and Clinical Director of the Center for Relational Recovery located in Northern VA, Michelle Mays LPC, CSAT-S has over 20 years’ experience in providing individual, couples and group therapy to those struggling with sexual addiction, betrayal trauma, childhood trauma and relationship issues.
Michelle is the founder of PartnerHope, an online portal offering authentic hope and healing for betrayed partners through information, resources, tools, and connections with one another, subject experts and inspiring pathfinders. Michelle is the also the creator of the Relational Recovery Disclosure Prep Model and provides resources, training and support to therapists to help them deepen their skill set around facilitating disclosures.
Michelle is the author of the books The Aftermath of Betrayal and When It All Breaks Bad: Ten Things to Do (and not do) After Betrayal and is the creator of the Relational Recovery Disclosure Prep Manual and Workshop Kit.
Michelle is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and Supervisor trained under Dr. Patrick Carnes. She is also trained in Post Induction Therapy by Pia Mellody for the treatment of relational trauma and is in the process of completing her certification in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples. Michelle is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Supervisor in both Virginia and Washington DC.
Links and resources:
Center for Relational Recovery - www.relationalrecovery.com
PartnerHope - www.partnerhope.com
PartnerHope blog for betrayed partners - https://partnerhope.com/blog/
Braving Hope: Becoming the Hero of Your Betrayal Story 12-week Online Coaching Program - https://partnerhope.com/braving-hope/
Hope After Betrayal Private Facebook Group for Betrayed Partners - https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeafterbetrayal/
I welcome Michelle Mays, LPC, CSAT-S to the podcast where we discuss the importance of creating space for our emotions. In this episode, we discuss:
- Why emotions matter to our individual and relationship wellbeing
- Differences between how men and women are socialized to deal with feelings
- How our family patterns impact the way we deal with emotions
- Why too much emotion is often viewed as dangerous
- What we can do with ourselves, our partners, and our families to create more space for feelings
- How we can gather more support from others for allowing feelings
Connect with Geoff Steurer:
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www.facebook.com/GeoffSteurerMFT
Visit www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
Bio:
Founder and Clinical Director of the Center for Relational Recovery located in Northern VA, Michelle Mays LPC, CSAT-S has over 20 years’ experience in providing individual, couples and group therapy to those struggling with sexual addiction, betrayal trauma, childhood trauma and relationship issues.
Michelle is the founder of PartnerHope, an online portal offering authentic hope and healing for betrayed partners through information, resources, tools, and connections with one another, subject experts and inspiring pathfinders. Michelle is the also the creator of the Relational Recovery Disclosure Prep Model and provides resources, training and support to therapists to help them deepen their skill set around facilitating disclosures.
Michelle is the author of the books The Aftermath of Betrayal and When It All Breaks Bad: Ten Things to Do (and not do) After Betrayal and is the creator of the Relational Recovery Disclosure Prep Manual and Workshop Kit.
Michelle is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and Supervisor trained under Dr. Patrick Carnes. She is also trained in Post Induction Therapy by Pia Mellody for the treatment of relational trauma and is in the process of completing her certification in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples. Michelle is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Supervisor in both Virginia and Washington DC.
Links and resources:
Center for Relational Recovery - www.relationalrecovery.com
PartnerHope - www.partnerhope.com
PartnerHope blog for betrayed partners - https://partnerhope.com/blog/
Braving Hope: Becoming the Hero of Your Betrayal Story 12-week Online Coaching Program - https://partnerhope.com/braving-hope/
Hope After Betrayal Private Facebook Group for Betrayed Partners - https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeafterbetrayal/
In this episode I interview KayLee Dunn, a therapist who specializes in treating betrayal trauma and sexual compulsivity. We discuss the common dynamic of the betraying partner emotionally shutting down in the relationship, which can trigger fears from the betrayed partner that she's being abandoned, manipulated, or abused. For couples to heal, both partners ultimately need to regulate their own emotions as they learn how to share their needs with each other. It's challenging to make room for the betrayer's experience, but necessary for long-term relationship healing.
We discuss the following:
- Why it's hard to have empathy for the betrayer
- How the betrayed partner can have compassion without betraying herself
- The balance of expecting accountability while also inviting understanding of his experience
- The nature of shame in those who betray
- Fight/Flight/Freeze responses and shame
- Why it's hard to see the hurting/fearful/shameful guy
- "Quiet blame" and the damage it does
- What to do with a partner who is dysregulated
- How emotional dysregulation isn't always abuse or narcissism
Connect with Geoff Steurer:
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BIO
KayLee Dunn has been studying sexual and addiction/compulsivity and betrayal for 14 years and practicing as a therapist for 9 of those years. KayLee has extensive training in Attachment-Focused EMDR, Betrayal Trauma, Sexual Compulsivity, and Emotionally Focused Therapy. She has written articles, books, and podcasts on the topic. KayLee's biggest passion is to help her client heal from past traumas, see the present clearly, and ultimately build betrayal resilience. She currently co-facilitates a weekly free, private betrayal trauma group discussion for women across the world. For more of her work follow her on Instagram or YouTube.
solaceemotionalhealth.org/awake
kaylee@solaceemotional.com
IG: @kayleecdunn
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCdEYwhgdA8ODTWKKltdeLcg
https://www.facebook.com/groups/1667836370046685
In this episode I interview Melissa Ruff from Live Free Wives on the subject of trusting yourself after betrayal. We discuss:
- Why rebuilding trust with yourself matters
- What happens when someone is betrayed and why they begin to disconnect from their own sense of reality and truth.
- How to reclaim your sanity, your identity, and have healthy relationships.
Connect with Geoff Steurer:
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www.facebook.com/GeoffSteurerMFT
Visit www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Melissa Ruff
Melissa Ruff is the director for Live Free Wives, a long-time group leader for betrayed women, and is studying to become a Licensed Professional Counselor. She lives with her husband of 13 years and their three wonderful children.
m.ruff@livefreewives.org
Website: www.livefreewives.org
Instagram: @livefreewives
In this week's episode, I have a discussion with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife about how to reclaim personal sexuality in recovery from sexual betrayal. This is a confusing topic for those who have sexually betrayed their partner and for those partners who have been sexually betrayed. These are the some of the questions I hear on a regular basis from couples who are working through sexual betrayal:
- What to we do about sex after betrayal?
- My own sexuality feels so altered, how do I get it back?
- What if I don't want to have sex or be a sexual person?
This is an episode for people in all stages of recovery - from early in the healing process or later when you're trying to navigate a new sexual relationship.
In this episodes we discuss:
- How sexual betrayal impacts individual sexuality for both the unfaithful and the betrayed.
- What individual and couple factors influence how deeply sexuality is impacted.
- The steps individual might consider as they begin reclaiming their sexuality.
- The roadblocks that get in the way of reclaiming personal sexuality in the wake of sexual betrayal.
- The growth we see as individuals work to reclaim their sexuality.
Connect with Geoff Steurer:
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Visit www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.
About Dr. Finlayson-Fife
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is a LDS relationship and sexuality coach as well as a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in the state of Illinois. She has a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology. Her teaching and coaching focuses on helping LDS individuals and couples achieve greater satisfaction and passion in their emotional and sexual relationships.
In addition to consultation with couples and individuals (in person and online), she teaches online relationship and sexuality courses designed to foster self and sexual development and create happier relationships and individuals. Dr. Finlayson-Fife also offers many live workshops and retreats for couples and individuals.
Jennifer is a frequent guest on LDS-themed podcasts and writes articles for LDS-themed blogs and magazines, on the subjects of sexuality, relationships, mental health and faith.
You can learn more about Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife and her courses and workshops by visiting her website www.finlayson-fife.com
In part 2 of my interview with Dr. Mark Matheson, we continue the discussion on how to be more honest. He shares specific skills we can practice and teach to our families and organizations to improve our honesty. See below for a summary of the skills.
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About Dr. Mark Matheson
Dr. Matheson has an MBA from Harvard and a doctorate in organizational leadership from UoP. From 2010 to 2019 Brother Matheson taught at BYU-Hawaii and Southern Virginia Universities. Before his retirement, he has been a partner and senior analyst with three investment banks. He was also an Adjunct Professor for four years and guest lectured at eight other universities. Hetaught at BYU Education Week for four years, seminary for five years and for the last seventeen years, when he is in Utah, he has served as a volunteer teacher serving the Utah State Prison. He loves to mentor young adults as they face multiple important life decisions. He posts thought-provoking ideas daily under the titles @ScriptureAnalyst and @ConferneceAnalyst, the same on both Instagram or Facebook.
Show Notes
Three Facilitators of Honesty all starting with “E”:
Exemplify Honesty
Will your kids highlight your honesty at your funeral?
Accept the challenge to correct prior poor honesty modeling.
1) Practice Self Reminders
2) Guard Against Rationalizing
3) Recognize Your Own White Lies
4) Rehearse Honest Responses
Enable Honesty
Take down the barriers that keep honesty from thriving.
1) Avoid Presumptive Honesty – It can happen to your kids
2) Use One-on-One Interaction. Get them talking privately.
3) Do Not Abandon Rules and Honesty Enforcement
4) Disable Economic Motivators for Dishonesty
Encourage Honesty
Turn around dishonest practices.
1) Share Information in Openness and Transparency
2) Understand What to Disclose
3) Reduce the Fear of Reporting or Confessing Dishonesty
4) Implement an External Assessment & External Personal Honesty Accountability
In this episode, I interview Dr. Mark Matheson on the topic of honesty and how we can become more honest in our dealings with other people.
Connect with Geoff Steurer:
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Dr. Matheson has an MBA from Harvard and a doctorate in organizational leadership from UoP. From 2010 to 2019 Brother Matheson taught at BYU-Hawaii and Southern Virginia Universities. Before his retirement, he has been a partner and senior analyst with three investment banks. He was also an Adjunct Professor for four years and guest lectured at eight other universities. Hetaught at BYU Education Week for four years, seminary for five years and for the last seventeen years, when he is in Utah, he has served as a volunteer teacher serving the Utah State Prison. He loves to mentor young adults as they face multiple important life decisions. He posts thought-provoking ideas daily under the titles @ScriptureAnalyst and @ConferneceAnalyst, the same on both Instagram or Facebook.
Five preliminary basic steps in improving honesty:
1) Perceive Dishonesty as a Threat to the Well-Being of Your Family
2) Seek to Understand Why You and/or Your Family has Dishonesty Issues or Events
Here are two practices you can do now to analyze your level of honesty:
**Conduct an Honesty Inventory for a day or a week- keep a pad and pen with you and see if you can tally how many honesty situations you are in or how many times you lied.
**Do a Personal Honesty Assessment Reflect on your life and see where you have perhaps cut corners now or in the past.
3) Develop a Personal Commitment to Honesty
Here are some self evaluation questions I use:
Ask: Is honesty for you always a priority or only when someone calls you on it?
Ask: Is honesty a proactive core characteristic of the way you conduct your life or is dishonesty the ‘default’ mode?
Ask: Are we usually honest mainly when it is not inconvenient ? Is our internal consistent with our external?
4) As We Develop a Vision of Honesty for Your Family and the World
5) Trust inPositive Outcomes of Honest Behavior
--Believe that honesty is the best long term course of action.
--Believe that honesty is rewarded in the Long-run; not always in the short-run.
-- Honesty skills need to be tested over time and under stress.
I Found Two Related Core Traits of Honesty: Sacrifice & Humility
1) Sacrifice to Uphold Honesty
Admit mistakes even when it costs something significant.
You have to be prepared to walk away from profitable but dishonest dealings.
2) Embrace Humility as a Guard Against Dishonesty
Much dishonesty stems from attempts to limit ego damage.
We can improve in this by some simple actions:
Accepting feedback from others
Acknowledging error
In this episode, I'm joined by Creed and Crishelle, both young adults and the hosts of the podcast, "Breaking the Silence", sponsored by Reach 10. We talk about their own stories of breaking the silence around shame, pornography, family struggles, and other sensitive issues, and how others can develop the courage and permission to speak up about their own questions, struggles, and concerns.
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Reach 10 website https://reach10.org/
Breaking the Silence Podcast https://reach10.org/breaking-the-silence-podcast/
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Today’s young adults in their 20s were born as the Internet was gaining momentum. They’ve never known what it’s like to live life offline. Some have described them as the first digital natives. They also are also the first generation who were able to stream pornographic videos before they even had their first kiss. This cohort of adults have heard the porn lectures since they were teens and many of them know it’s a problem, but the big question of “now what?” leaves many of them without answers. Vauna Davis is my guest today and she noticed that young people needed more resources to help support each other since they were all swimming in the same polluted waters. She was the former executive director for the Utah Coalition Against Pornography and noticed a lack of resources specifically aimed at helping young adults know how to navigate these conversations amongst themselves. At the end of every UCAP conference, the president of UCAP, Pamela Atkinson, would invite the audience to share what they had learned with 10 people. Vauna ran with this invitation and started a non-profit called “Reach 10”. They reach out in two primary ways:
We reach out online We create and share resources on our website and social media that help young adults and those who love them talk about pornography in more compassionate and effective ways.
We reach out live In our community surrounding Provo, UT, we bring young adults together and train them to speak on this issue, then help them find opportunities to teach.
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Here are the links for Reach 10 for your podcast episode with me:
Reach 10 website https://reach10.org/
Breaking the Silence Podcast https://reach10.org/breaking-the-silence-podcast/
Instagram @reach.10 https://www.instagram.com/reach.10/
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/reachten/
Email vauna@reach10.org
Episode Description
This is part 2 of my interview with Rhyll and Steven Croshaw, founders of the SA Lifeline Foundation, a non-profit dedicated to Recovering Individuals and Healing Families from the effects of sexual addiction and betrayal trauma.
Rhyll and Steven share the mission behind the SA Lifeline Foundation and all of the resources they've created to support individuals and families in recovery. They discuss their free SAL 12-step groups and other ways they're supporting people all over the world.
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You can connect with SA Lifeline Foundation at:
https://salifeline.org
You can also attend free 12-step meetings for men struggling with sexual addiction and women impacted by betrayal trauma at:
https://sal12step.org
Follow SA Lifeline Foundation on Instagram at:
@salifelinefoundation
Episode Description
I'm joined today by Rhyll and Steven Croshaw, founders of the SA Lifeline Foundation, a non-profit dedicated to Recovering Individuals and Healing Families from the effects of sexual addiction and betrayal trauma.
Rhyll and Steven share their stories of working through the ongoing daily process of healing from sexual addiction and betrayal trauma.
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You can connect with SA Lifeline Foundation at:
https://salifeline.org
You can also attend free 12-step meetings for men struggling with sexual addiction and women impacted by betrayal trauma at:
https://sal12step.org
Follow SA Lifeline Foundation on Instagram at:
@salifelinefoundation
Ashlee joins me to tell her story of becoming hooked on pornography as young girl and making the commitment to overcome her struggle by opening up and reaching out for help.
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You can follow Ashlee on Instagram @ashleeayre
Show Description:
After recording over 80 episodes and 100,000+ downloads, I have more clarity about the mission and message of this podcast and decided to update the name of the podcast.
The format and content will stay the same, so if you love what you're hearing....you'll keep hearing more of it!
Can't wait to share the new name with you!
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In this episode, I'm the guest on the second part of the Healing with Worth podcast where I speak about the importance of therapeutic disclosure.
Website: http://healingwithworth.org/
Podcast: https://anchor.fm/healingwithworth
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In this episode, I'm the guest on the Healing with Worth podcast where I speak about the importance of therapeutic disclosure.
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Website: http://healingwithworth.org/
Podcast: https://anchor.fm/healingwithworth
Show description
I'm joined by Erica Wilcox, Licensed Professional Counselor, to talk about conversations we can have with ourselves to put things in perspective. She calls these "Pep talks!"
She wants to help listeners simplify their day to day problems related to boundaries and relationships with some down to earth, encouraging, and honest pep talks so they can use them to take a "Time out" and then get back into living full lives.
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Links
Erica's clinical practice: wilcoxwellness.com
Email: ewilcox@wilcoxwellness.com
Instagram: @ericawilcoxtherapy @wilcoxwellnesstherapy
Facebook: Erica Wilcox
For CT EMDR therapists if applicable:
https://www.ctemdrtherapists.com
About Erica Wilcox:
I consider it both an honor and a privilege to serve as an anchor and guide for hope, health and happiness for the individuals that I work with. I firmly believe in the resiliency of the human spirit to be liberated from emotional pain, end the cycle of unhealthy habits and to find purpose in painful experiences as a means of moving forward.
I earned my Bachelor's Degree in Psychology (Fairleigh Dickinson University, Magna Cum Laude) and Master's Degree in Professional Mental Health Counseling (Central CT State University). I am a Certified EMDR Therapist and EMDRIA Approved Consultant with advanced training in Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction, Traumatic Bereavement, Eating Disorders, Dissociative Disorders, women's trauma recovery, and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. I have a particular interest in the role that movement, music, wellness, and sex/intimacy plays in mental health and trauma recovery.
I specialize in the treatment of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD), Anxiety, and Survivors of Intimate Partner Violence. I provide direct feedback and teach evidenced- based strategies to help my clients reach their goals. I do not believe in a “one size fits all” methodology and take a holistic approach to therapy.
Show summary
I'm joined by Erica Wilcox, Licensed Professional Counselor, to talk about the power of EMDR therapy for treating trauma and other mental health concerns. Show highlights:
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Normalize and demystify EMDR to help educate and give hope to listeners that may not have otherwise sought it out so that they can heal from hurt
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EMDR in a nutshell: How and Why It works
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Words people have used to describe how they experience EMDR
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Quick Training Summary
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Who it Helps
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Examples of Obvious Things
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Examples of Not So Obvious Things
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Contact Erica
Erica's clinical practice: wilcoxwellness.com
Email: ewilcox@wilcoxwellness.com
Instagram: @ericawilcoxtherapy @wilcoxwellnesstherapy
Facebook: Erica Wilcox
Other resources:
Emdria.org (for EMDR information and therapist directory)
Books:
Getting Past Your Past by Francine Shaprio
EMDR: The Breakthrough "Eye Movement" Therapy for Overcoming Anxiety, Stress, and Trauma by Francine Shapiro (little more clinical but terrific)
For CT EMDR therapists if applicable:
https://www.ctemdrtherapists.com
About Erica Wilcox:
I consider it both an honor and a privilege to serve as an anchor and guide for hope, health and happiness for the individuals that I work with. I firmly believe in the resiliency of the human spirit to be liberated from emotional pain, end the cycle of unhealthy habits and to find purpose in painful experiences as a means of moving forward.
I earned my Bachelor's Degree in Psychology (Fairleigh Dickinson University, Magna Cum Laude) and Master's Degree in Professional Mental Health Counseling (Central CT State University). I am a Certified EMDR Therapist and EMDRIA Approved Consultant with advanced training in Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction, Traumatic Bereavement, Eating Disorders, Dissociative Disorders, women's trauma recovery, and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. I have a particular interest in the role that movement, music, wellness, and sex/intimacy plays in mental health and trauma recovery.
I specialize in the treatment of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD), Anxiety, and Survivors of Intimate Partner Violence. I provide direct feedback and teach evidenced- based strategies to help my clients reach their goals. I do not believe in a “one size fits all” methodology and take a holistic approach to therapy.
Episode description:
Conflict is a normal part of life, but when there has been a serious betrayal of trust and security, working through that conflict can feel impossible. Sometimes it makes sense to stay in the relationship and sometimes its best to part ways. However, we don't always realize it, but we stay connected to those we struggle with even if we're not talking or interacting anymore. We stay connected with our thoughts about them, our resentments, our avoidance, our anger, our fear, and so on. How can we navigate this conflict and find peace regardless of the outcome of the relationship?
In this episode, I interview author and professor Chad Ford, who is an world-renowned expert in conflict resolution. He recently wrote a book called "Dangerous Love" that opened my eyes on how we can better handle our own internal reactions to conflict so we can find peace and solutions.
Here's what Chad said about the book: "This book is about everything I’ve learned in the last 15 years working as a conflict mediator, professor and researcher trying to understand why I, and others, struggle through conflict and how to solve it. Dangerous Love explains why we struggle with conflict. How we disconnect from the people at the very time we need to be most connected to them. The predictable patterns of justification and conflict escalation that ensue. And most importantly, it gives us a path to let go of fear in the face of conflict."
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Chad Ford's website: https://dangerouslovebook.com
About Chad Ford:
After completing a Master’s degree in Conflict Analysis and Resolution from George Mason University and a Juris Doctorate from Georgetown University Law School in 2000, Chad was poised to begin his career as a conflict mediator and facilitator. In 2005 he left his full-time work with ESPN to become the Director of the David O. McKay Center for Intercultural Understanding at BYU-Hawaii.
In Hawaii, Chad created a major and certificate program in intercultural peacebuilding, mediation and facilitation. Chad and his wife Amanda, who teaches courses in family conflict transformation and mindfulness, have worked with thousands of students from over 90 countries in the world. Chad’s work has earned him Professor of the Year honors at BYU-Hawaii and made Intercultural Peacebuilding one of the most popular programs on campus.
Chad’s work has frequently taken him out of the classroom and into conflict zones around the world. He’s made nearly 50 trips to the Middle East and has worked on numerous other conflicts around the world as both a mediator and a facilitator.
Chad has served as a senior consultant, speaker and facilitator for the Arbinger Institute since 2006 — working with governments, NGOs and corporations like Nike and the US Olympic team. He’s also helped Arbinger develop trainings and curriculum on conflict resolution as well as a training guide on reconciliation based on the documentary Beyond Right and Wrong.
The book Dangerous Love weaves Chad’s experiences from those five lives into a deeply personal exploration of how we transform fear and conflict. Chad’s work with young people in the classroom, athletes on the basketball court, struggling families in the living room, executives in the boardroom, and divided communities in some of the most challenging conflicts in the world gives him a unique perspective and voice to the conflicts that plague our families, our organizations and the world.
In this episode I interview Kimberly Day, LMHCA, about how to better diagnose and confront abuse in marriage. Kim says that when we think of betrayal trauma and really understand the dynamics of a relationship when one partner is addicted to porn or sex, it's important to look at all abuse dynamics to get a complete picture. Abuse is an important and often underappreciated dimension in a multi-dimensional problem.
Download the graph that corresponds with this episode (https://geoff-steurer.mykajabi.com/abuse-download?preview_theme_id=3204962) and you'll see that one axis is our typical 'addict-mode' behaviors: acting out, lying, even gaslighting (even though that is abuse), etc.- these are behaviors that rise out of the compulsions to act out, keep it secret, addict-mode thought distortions, etc. Along this axis is where most all addiction and betrayal trauma is assessed and treated.
But there is another dimension that helps us explain and more deeply understand and support a lot of people - that is the dimension of the Abusive Attitudes and Beliefs held by the addicted partner, including entitlement and superiority, out of which abuses of power and control, objectification of family members, and other forms of dehumanizing treatment arise. These are the underlying currents of devaluing and dehumanizing the partner that are the source of a lot of trauma, though they are very rarely fully recognized or addressed.
This perspective/model helps us to explain some of the confusion that both practitioners and partners experience when the "acting out" is dealt with, but the treatment toward the partner does not improve.
In this episode, we dialogue around what it might look like in each of the four quadrants and how the experience and the sources of trauma and safety/lack of safety may be different in each. We contrast the "Acting out High/Abusive Attitudes Low" quadrant from the "Acting out Low/Abusive Attitudes High"- this type of differentiation is what Kim believes is being missed when we blanket cover all addiction as abuse, or when we ignore so many other forms of abuse and clump them all into addict-mode behavior.
Download the chart here:
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Kimberly Day Bio:
Kimberly graduated from BYU with a Bachelors in Psychology, served an LDS mission, and then went back to school to earn a Masters Degree from Washington State University in Counseling Psychology in 2007.
She loves to read, cuddle with her kiddos, eat ice cream, and trade stock derivatives. Despite her degrees, she took a fairly circuitous route into the professional counseling field. She worked in Higher Education for several years, at University of Idaho for Student Support Services (while earning her degree), and also Washington State and Boise State Universities in Financial Aid. Later she worked at a financial planning firm where she worked mainly with clients around retirement. But, as thrillingly predictable as risk analyses and investment return calculations, she felt the call to come back to her love for counseling and working with people through life’s challenges.
Her focus is working with individuals suffering from Betrayal Trauma, or other types of complex relationship traumas. She is action and results focused, and believes strongly in each individual’s innate abilities to move them toward healing and growth. She believes in the importance of establishing positive interpersonal connections, practicing healthy relationship patterns, and in owning your own story and personal empowerment as being critical to healing from traumatic life events.
*** This therapist is recognized by the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists as being trained in the Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model (M-PTM).
I interview author and psychologist, Dr. Mark Chamberlain, about our struggle to experience true enjoyment in today's desensitized culture. Screens, abundant food, and other forms of stimulation make it difficult for our nervous systems and bodies to truly enjoy life's little pleasures. It can also be a challenge to enjoy relationships, spirituality, nature, and other joys when we've been dulled by constant overstimulation. Dr. Chamberlain wrote a book called, "Wanting More: The challenge of enjoyment in the age of addiction", that presents a solution for how we can start savoring and enjoying the simple pleasures and joys of life.
Purchase "Wanting More" https://amzn.to/3lyfNUs
Mark Chamberlain Bio:
I love listening to individuals and couples in an effort to enter their world as they see it, and hopefully over time help them rise above the limits of their current perceptions to take a broader perspective and discover previously unseen possibilities. Over the years, I’ve found some specific research-validated relapse-prevention skills to be quite helpful for individuals in the early stages of recovering from addiction. Over the long-term, most clients’ recovery is greatly strengthened by deeper emotional connections in relationships. I use Sue Johnson’s Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy to help couples heal the negative cycles that can sabotage such closeness. The greatest reward comes when they discover that true, deep attachment is “the real deal” that old addictions could never counterfeit.
Credentials:
• Doctorate Degree in Clinical Psychology
• Licensed Psychologist
• Trained in Lifespan Integration
• Trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy
Geoff Steurer has created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store. Illuminate listeners can enter promo code: ILLUMINATE at checkout and save 15%.
I was thrilled to have my friend and co-author, Dr. Mark Chamberlain, join me on this episode of the podcast. Mark and I co-authored the book, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity" back in 2011. In this episode we talk about the origin of this book, how it helps couples, and what things we would change if it were reissued today. We also discuss the challenging nature of couples recovery and what couples need to fully heal from the impact of pornography.
You can purchase "Love You. Hate the Porn" HERE
Mark Chamberlain Bio:
I love listening to individuals and couples in an effort to enter their world as they see it, and hopefully over time help them rise above the limits of their current perceptions to take a broader perspective and discover previously unseen possibilities. Over the years, I’ve found some specific research-validated relapse-prevention skills to be quite helpful for individuals in the early stages of recovering from addiction. Over the long-term, most clients’ recovery is greatly strengthened by deeper emotional connections in relationships. I use Sue Johnson’s Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy to help couples heal the negative cycles that can sabotage such closeness. The greatest reward comes when they discover that true, deep attachment is “the real deal” that old addictions could never counterfeit.
Credentials:
• Doctorate Degree in Clinical Psychology
• Licensed Psychologist
• Trained in Lifespan Integration
• Trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy
Geoff Steurer has created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store. Illuminate listeners can enter promo code: ILLUMINATE at checkout and save 15%.
Betrayed partners are understandably terrified to offer forgiveness and compassion to their unfaithful spouse. They've often already offered the benefit of the doubt, forgiveness, understanding, and compassion over years when they were being lied to and manipulated. So, the idea of extending this back to their partner doesn't feel safe. I join my dear friend and mentor, Dr. Wally Goddard, to talk about how we can first feel compassion from Jesus Christ in our own lives as a way to begin offering compassion in our marriage in the wake of betrayal. Dr. Goddard frames the discussion on compassion through the story of the Good Samaritan from the teachings of Jesus Christ found in the Bible.
Wally Goddard is a retired professor of Family Life having served in Arkansas and Alabama. He developed programs on personal well-being, marriage, and parenting. He is well known for his many creative family programs, including The Marriage Garden, The Parenting Journey, and Blueprint for Happiness. Wally has authored or co-authored several books including Between Parent and Child, The Soft-Spoken Parent, and Drawing Heaven into Your Marriage. He has been recognized by his colleagues with several awards including the Outstanding Family Life Educator Award. Wally and his wife, Nancy, have three adult children, fourteen grandchildren, and have cared for many foster children over the years. Wally describes Nancy as the finest human being he has ever known. For more about the books Wally has written, go to his Amazon author page: www.amazon.com/H-Wallace-Goddard…1566156161&sr=1-2
Geoff Steurer has created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store. Illuminate listeners can enter promo code: ILLUMINATE at checkout and save 15%.
I join my dear friend and mentor, Dr. Wally Goddard, to talk about his blueprint for happiness. He describes five ways we can increase our own personal happiness regardless of what might be going on around us. You can download a copy of "Your Blueprint for Happiness" here: https://www.uaex.edu/publications/pdf/FCS813.pdf
Wally Goddard is a retired professor of Family Life having served in Arkansas and Alabama. He developed programs on personal well-being, marriage, and parenting. He is well known for his many creative family programs, including The Marriage Garden, The Parenting Journey, and Blueprint for Happiness. Wally has authored or co-authored several books including Between Parent and Child, The Soft-Spoken Parent, and Drawing Heaven into Your Marriage. He has been recognized by his colleagues with several awards including the Outstanding Family Life Educator Award. Wally and his wife, Nancy, have three adult children, fourteen grandchildren, and have cared for many foster children over the years. Wally describes Nancy as the finest human being he has ever known. For more about the books Wally has written, go to his Amazon author page: https://www.amazon.com/H-Wallace-Goddard/e/B001H6ND5A?ref=sr_ntt_srch_lnk_2&qid=1566156161&sr=1-2
Geoff Steurer has created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store. Illuminate listeners can enter promo code: ILLUMINATE at checkout and save 15%.
Dr. Jill Manning joins me in this episode to talk about how betrayed partners can stay safe in their relationship in the aftermath of sexual betrayal. She introduces her safety checklist and guide to help support betrayed partner (available with the link below).
You can find Dr. Manning and her digital downloads at: drjillmanning.com/digital-downloads/
Dr. Jill Manning is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, a Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS), a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional (CCTP), and a Board Certified TeleMental Health Provider (BC-TMH) who specializes in working with individuals impacted by sexual addiction, pornography or betrayal trauma in their primary relationship.
In addition to her clinical work, Dr. Manning is a researcher, author, consultant, professional speaker and activist whose passion and dedication to combating sexual exploitation and obscenity is evident throughout her diverse body of work.
Dr. Manning currently serves on the Board of Directors for Enough is Enough, a non-profit organization dedicated to making the Internet safer for children and families. Between 2016 and 2018, Dr. Manning served on the Board of Directors for the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS).
In addition to her volunteer work, Dr. Manning is committed to giving a portion of her annual practice income to charitable causes that strive to prevent or combat some of the very issues she treats. Enough is Enough and Operation Underground Railroad are two of the organizations Dr. Manning supports. She encourages others who are passionate about fighting obscenity and defending human dignity to consider donating as well.
Geoff Steurer has created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store. Illuminate listeners can enter promo code: ILLUMINATE at checkout and save 15%.
Dr. Jill Manning joins me in this episode to talk about self-care for betrayed partners. She emphasizes the need to care for yourself physically, mentally, socially, and spiritually while healing from the impact of partner betrayal trauma.
You can find Dr. Manning and her digital downloads at: https://drjillmanning.com/digital-downloads/
Dr. Jill Manning is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, a Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS), a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional (CCTP), and a Board Certified TeleMental Health Provider (BC-TMH) who specializes in working with individuals impacted by sexual addiction, pornography or betrayal trauma in their primary relationship.
In addition to her clinical work, Dr. Manning is a researcher, author, consultant, professional speaker and activist whose passion and dedication to combating sexual exploitation and obscenity is evident throughout her diverse body of work.
Dr. Manning currently serves on the Board of Directors for Enough is Enough, a non-profit organization dedicated to making the Internet safer for children and families. Between 2016 and 2018, Dr. Manning served on the Board of Directors for the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS).
In addition to her volunteer work, Dr. Manning is committed to giving a portion of her annual practice income to charitable causes that strive to prevent or combat some of the very issues she treats. Enough is Enough and Operation Underground Railroad are two of the organizations Dr. Manning supports. She encourages others who are passionate about fighting obscenity and defending human dignity to consider donating as well.
Geoff Steurer has created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store. Illuminate listeners can enter promo code: ILLUMINATE at checkout and save 15%.
Both men and women have the desire to be heard and feel part of an organization. As the world feels more divided, it’s essential to understand how to find unity.
Learn more from my wife Jody and her sister Jamee as they share their experiences with their podcast Your Place at the Table (UPDATE Their podcast is now called "Speak up Sister"). They discuss how to find unity with those who are marginalized and how to hear and help them. They also share how to understand anger while having authenticity in expressing emotions.
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/speakupsisterpodcast/
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/SpeakUpSisterPodcast
Website:
https://speakupsister.net
Geoff Steurer has created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store. Illuminate listeners can enter promo code: ILLUMINATE at checkout and save 15%.
Join me as I continue my interview with certified sex therapist, Laura Brotherson, as she discusses keys to healthy sexual intimacy.
We usually talk about unhealthy sex and the forbidden especially when it comes to healing from pornography and sexual addiction. Even though focusing on sex won't fix a pornography or sexual addiction, couples who are working solid individual recoveries need good information so they can learn how to create healthy sex in their marriages.
In this second episode of my two-part interview with her, we discuss:
- The "Characteristics of healthy vs. unhealthy sex” chart (items 11-20)
Handout - Characteristics of Healthy and Unhealthy Sexuality - https://maritalintimacyinst.com/wp-content/uploads/Characteristics-of-Healthy-and-Unhealthy-Sexuality-Raising-the-Bar.pdf
Book – Knowing HER Intimately: 12 Keys for Creating a Sextraordinary Marriage - https://www.strengtheningmarriage.com/product/knowing-intimately-12-keys-creating-sextraordinary-marriage-softcover/
Book – From Honeymoon to Happily Ever After: 23 Keys to Prepare for a Sextraordinary Marriage (newest book)- https://www.strengtheningmarriage.com/product/honeymoon-happily-after-23-keys-prepare-sextraordinary-marriage/
Book – And They Were Not Ashamed: Strengthening Marriage through Sexual Fulfillment - https://www.strengtheningmarriage.com/product/and-they-were-not-ashamed-softcover/
Handout – Knowing HER Intimately (OVERVIEW) – 12 Essential Ingredients for a Sextraordinary Marriage - https://maritalintimacyinst.com/wp-content/uploads/12-Essential-Ingredients-for-a-Sextraordinary-Marriage.pdf
Handout - First Steps for Him & Her in Creating a Sextraordinary Marriage - https://maritalintimacyinst.com/wp-content/uploads/First-Steps-Her-Him-Developing-Sextraordinary-Marriage-FINAL.pdf
Handout – Spiritual Surrender (7 Steps) – How to Do Spiritual Surrender - https://maritalintimacyinst.com/wp-content/uploads/how-to-do-spiritual-surrender-7-steps.pdf
Handout - "ACES" Diagram (Bridling or Embracing Sexuality) -- How She Can Want To - https://maritalintimacyinst.com/wp-content/uploads/ACES-i-want-you-sex-diagram.pdf
Handout - Fuel for Female Sexual Desire – How Women Get in the Mood (rocket diagram) - https://maritalintimacyinst.com/wp-content/uploads/Fuel-female-sexual-desire-Brotherson.pdf
Website - StrengtheningMarriage.com
Website - MaritalIntimacyInstitute.com (client handouts/resources)
Laura’s Podcast – The Marital Intimacy Show - https://www.strengtheningmarriage.com/podcasts/
Laura’s Social Media
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/strengtheningmarriage/
Facebook -https://www.facebook.com/StrengtheningMarriage/
Geoff Steurer has created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store. Illuminate listeners can enter promo code: ILLUMINATE at checkout and save 15%.
We usually talk about unhealthy sex and the forbidden especially when it comes to healing from pornography and sexual addiction. Even though focusing on sex won't fix a pornography or sexual addiction, couples who are working solid individual recoveries need good information so they can learn how to create healthy sex in their marriages.
Join me as I interview sex expert Laura Brotherson, licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist, as we discuss 20 keys to health sex.
In this first episode of my two-part interview with her, we discuss:
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Why pornography is a sexual mis-educator for both men AND women
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The "Characteristics of healthy vs. unhealthy sex” chart (items 1-10)
Handout - Characteristics of Healthy and Unhealthy Sexuality - https://maritalintimacyinst.com/wp-content/uploads/Characteristics-of-Healthy-and-Unhealthy-Sexuality-Raising-the-Bar.pdf
Book – Knowing HER Intimately: 12 Keys for Creating a Sextraordinary Marriage - https://www.strengtheningmarriage.com/product/knowing-intimately-12-keys-creating-sextraordinary-marriage-softcover/
Book – From Honeymoon to Happily Ever After: 23 Keys to Prepare for a Sextraordinary Marriage (newest book)- https://www.strengtheningmarriage.com/product/honeymoon-happily-after-23-keys-prepare-sextraordinary-marriage/
Book – And They Were Not Ashamed: Strengthening Marriage through Sexual Fulfillment - https://www.strengtheningmarriage.com/product/and-they-were-not-ashamed-softcover/
Handout – Knowing HER Intimately (OVERVIEW) – 12 Essential Ingredients for a Sextraordinary Marriage - https://maritalintimacyinst.com/wp-content/uploads/12-Essential-Ingredients-for-a-Sextraordinary-Marriage.pdf
Handout - First Steps for Him & Her in Creating a Sextraordinary Marriage - https://maritalintimacyinst.com/wp-content/uploads/First-Steps-Her-Him-Developing-Sextraordinary-Marriage-FINAL.pdf
Handout – Spiritual Surrender (7 Steps) – How to Do Spiritual Surrender - https://maritalintimacyinst.com/wp-content/uploads/how-to-do-spiritual-surrender-7-steps.pdf
Handout - "ACES" Diagram (Bridling or Embracing Sexuality) -- How She Can Want To - https://maritalintimacyinst.com/wp-content/uploads/ACES-i-want-you-sex-diagram.pdf
Handout - Fuel for Female Sexual Desire – How Women Get in the Mood (rocket diagram) - https://maritalintimacyinst.com/wp-content/uploads/Fuel-female-sexual-desire-Brotherson.pdf
Website - StrengtheningMarriage.com
Website - MaritalIntimacyInstitute.com (client handouts/resources)
Laura’s Podcast – The Marital Intimacy Show - https://www.strengtheningmarriage.com/podcasts/
Laura’s Social Media
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/strengtheningmarriage/
Facebook -https://www.facebook.com/StrengtheningMarriage/
Geoff Steurer has created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store. Illuminate listeners can enter promo code: ILLUMINATE at checkout and save 15%.
Amy Harman, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, shares some practical ways you can improve your body image right now. This episode is packed with actionable strategies you can use to help improve your relationship with your body.
Amy just released her new book, "Perfectly Imperfect: Compassionate Strategies to Cultivate a Positive Body Image" that you can purchase here: www.amazon.com/dp/1646116720
Amy Harman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Eating Disorder Specialist and has been treating clients since 2004. She was born and raised in Utah and graduated from Utah State University. She moved to the DC area two years ago where she is in private practice. She's passionate about helping people improve their body image and enjoys speaking to communities and professionals, and is working on a book about body image that will be out in August. She is a happy wife and mother of three boys. In her free time she enjoys reading, dancing, and watching fireflies. Learn more at www.reflectwholenesstherapy.com and follow her on Instagram at @amylharman
Geoff Steurer has created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store. Illuminate listeners can enter promo code: ILLUMINATE at checkout and save 15%.
I interview Amy Harman, LMFT about the challenge of making peace with our bodies in a body-obsessed and pornified culture. In this interview, we cover:
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The definition of good body image
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How poor body image really isn't about our bodies
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How poor body image impacts men and women
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How we develop poor body image
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The first steps to changing poor body image
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What we really learn about ourselves when we address our body image issues.
Amy just released her new book, "Perfectly Imperfect: Compassionate Strategies to Cultivate a Positive Body Image" that you can purchase here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1646116720
Amy Harman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Eating Disorder Specialist and has been treating clients since 2004. She was born and raised in Utah and graduated from Utah State University. She moved to the DC area two years ago where she is in private practice. She's passionate about helping people improve their body image and enjoys speaking to communities and professionals, and is working on a book about body image that will be out in August. She is a happy wife and mother of three boys. In her free time she enjoys reading, dancing, and watching fireflies. Learn more at www.reflectwholenesstherapy.com and follow her on Instagram at @amylharman
Geoff Steurer has created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store. Illuminate listeners can enter promo code: ILLUMINATE at checkout and save 15%.
I continue my interview with Jessica, Matt, and Steve from the podcast, "Husband in-law", where they get specific about how they've created a peaceful post-divorce co-parenting relationship. They are all committed to showing up in this co-parenting relationship to put their daughter first by building respectful relationships with each other.
Some of the areas we cover in this episode include:
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How to slow down before becoming reactive when the other parent does something you don't understand.
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Why communication is key
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The importance of extending trust to each other
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How to stay respectful
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Replacing blame and judgment with understanding
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Speaking to each other instead of speaking through your kid
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Staying proactive in your co-parenting relationship.
Bio: Steve and Jessica were happily married for 7 years until Steve came out as being gay which inevitably ended in divorce. Now, Matt and Jessica have been happily married for 6 years. Now the three of them have a co-parenting relationship and friendship that, by most standards, would be considered atypical. Sharing stories of love, marriage, children, divorce, the struggles of religious norms, homosexuality, and trying to be our best selves, they hold nothing back and share what most people are scared to talk about. Listen in as they take you on this journey of learning how to love and accept themselves enough to love and accept others for who they are during this experience called “Life”.
Links: Social Media www.instagram.com/husband_in_law/
Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/husb…aw/id1464470280
Jessica's Book and Journal: linktr.ee/theboldlogic
Geoff Steurer has created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store. Illuminate listeners can enter promo code: ILLUMINATE at checkout and save 15%.
Steve and Jessica were happily married for seven years until Steve came out as gay which inevitably ended in divorce. Now, Matt and Jessica have been happily married for six years. Now the three of them have a co-parenting relationship and friendship that, by most standards, would be considered atypical. Sharing stories of love, marriage, children, divorce, the struggles of religious norms, homosexuality, and trying to be our best selves, they hold nothing back and share what most people are scared to talk about. Listen in as they take you on this journey of learning how to love and accept themselves enough to love and accept others for who they are during this experience called “Life”.
Links: Social Media https://www.instagram.com/husband_in_law/
Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/husband-in-law/id1464470280
Jessica's Book and Journal: https://linktr.ee/theboldlogic
Geoff Steurer has created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store. Illuminate listeners can enter promo code: ILLUMINATE at checkout and save 15%.
I interview Dr. Julie Hanks, Licensed Clinical Social Worker, author, and assistant professor at Utah Valley University on the topic of why idealizing motherhood can be harmful to women's mental and emotional health. Specifically, we discuss:
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Why our culture idealizes mothers.
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How how idealizing motherhood can be harmful to women's mental health.
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The difference between "role and relationship".
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Why betrayed women feel shame that they're not available for their children and how idealizing motherhood adds unnecessary pressure.
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How betrayed women deal with the shame of not being best their self while healing from trauma.
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How women can challenge the glorification of self- neglect, especially when resources are low.
www.drjuliehanks.com
Julie de Azevedo Hanks, PhD, LCSW is a licensed clinical social worker and psychotherapist with 28 years experience specializing in women’s emotional health and relationships. She is an assistant professor of social work at Utah Valley University. Dr. Hanks is the founder and director of Wasatch Family Therapy, an outpatient therapy clinic in Cottonwood Heights and Bountiful, UT. She is author of The Burnout Cure and The Assertiveness Guide for Women, a blogger, a local and national media contributor, an online influencer, a private practice consultant, and an award-winning performing songwriter. A native Californian, Hanks currently lives in Sandy, UT. For additional resources visit DrJulieHanks.com or connect with @drjuliehanks on social media.
The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT.
Geoff has also created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store. Illuminate listeners can enter promo code: ILLUMINATE at checkout and save 15%.
I interview Dr. Julie Hanks, Licensed Clinical Social Worker, author, and assistant professor at Utah Valley University on the topic of helping betrayed women become more assertive with their needs. Specifically, we discuss:
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Why betrayed women need skills to protect themselves from harm, manipulation, and abuse.
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How assertiveness isn't the same as aggression.
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Why assertiveness is difficult for women.
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Why assertiveness can make life more peaceful.
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What to do if other people can't or won't hear your voice and needs.
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Three approaches to assertiveness and which one is more effective.
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Ways to begin practicing assertiveness.
http://www.drjuliehanks.com
Julie de Azevedo Hanks, PhD, LCSW is a licensed clinical social worker and psychotherapist with 28 years experience specializing in women’s emotional health and relationships. She is an assistant professor of social work at Utah Valley University. Dr. Hanks is the founder and director of Wasatch Family Therapy, an outpatient therapy clinic in Cottonwood Heights and Bountiful, UT. She is author of The Burnout Cure and The Assertiveness Guide for Women, a blogger, a local and national media contributor, an online influencer, a private practice consultant, and an award-winning performing songwriter. A native Californian, Hanks currently lives in Sandy, UT. For additional resources visit DrJulieHanks.com or connect with @drjuliehanks on social media.
The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT.
Geoff has also created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store. Illuminate listeners can enter promo code: ILLUMINATE at checkout and save 15%.
I interview Rick Thompson, Licensed Clinical Social Worker, on how to help full-time missionaries for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints who struggle with pornography issues. These missionaries aren't immune to the temptations and struggles of pornography, yet, they often suffer in shame and silence because of their calling as representatives of Jesus Christ to preach His gospel. In this podcast, Rick talks about ways to support missionaries who are preparing to serve, those serving, and those who come home with struggles.
Resources:
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Addressing Pornography: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/addressing-pornography?lang=eng
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Book about emotionally preparing for a mission: “Serve Strong but Stay Sane Book” by Gary Taylor, Ph.D: http://www.servestrongbutstaysane.com/
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Book about healthy sexuality: “A Better Way to Teach Kids about Sex”: https://deseretbook.com/p/a-better-way-to-teach-kids-about-sex?variant_id=151579-paperback
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Adjusting to Missionary Life: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/bc/content/ldsorg/languages/AdjustingMissLife_Booklet_6-7-13.pdf
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“Preparing Emotionally for Missionary Service,” Elder Robert K. Wagstaff https://www.lds.org/ensign/2011/03/preparing-emotionally-for-missionaryservice?lang=eng
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Resilience SPIRITUAL ARMOR FOR TODAY’S YOUTH: https://media.ldscdn.org/pdf/magazines/ensign-september-2019/18209-09-020-resilience-spiritual-armor-for-todays-youth-eng.pdf?lang=eng
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“This work is rigorous. It demands strength and vitality. It demands mental sharpness and capacity. … Missionary work is not a rite of passage in the Church. It is a call extended by the President of the Church to those who are worthy and able to accomplish it. …Good physical and mental health is vital. …There are parents who say, ‘If only we can get Johnny on a mission, then the Lord will bless him with health.’ It seems not to work out that way. Rather, whatever ailment or physical or mental shortcoming a missionary has when he comes into the field only becomes aggravated under the stress of the work.We simply must face up to the facts. President Gordon B. Hinckley speaks about physical and emotional challenges missionaries may have before serving missions. First Worldwide Leadership Training Meeting, January 11, 2003 Segment 1 (1:05)
About Rick
Rick Thompson is Utah Licensed Clinical Social Worker and has been working in the mental health field since 1997. After graduating from Ricks College in 1998, he received his Bachelors of Social Work degree from Brigham Young University-Hawaii in 2001, and received his Masters degree in Social Work from Boise State University in 2003. Rick did his training at LDS Family Services in Boise, Idaho while going through graduate school. Rick has been doing individual, marriage, group, and family counseling since 2003 with children, teens, and adults. He has worked with youth in group homes, detention centers, drug and alcohol rehabilitation centers, and residential programs. Rick has treated individuals with emotional and behavioral issues including depression, anxiety, anger, PTSD, self-mutilation, sexual abuse, drug and alcohol abuse, sexual addictions, and family problems. Rick and his family moved to St. George from Boise, Idaho in 2016 so Rick could work for LDS Family Services. Rick has been serving as Bishop in his ward since 2018 and enjoys seeing people make changes spiritually as well as personally. He married his best friend and beautiful wife Michelle in 2000 and they have three amazing children together.
**Geoff Steurer has also created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store
SALE - All of my online relationship courses are on sale for 50% off during the month of April 2020. This includes the 12-week Trust Building Bootcamp for those who want to rebuild broken trust in their relationship. Go to www.lovingmarriage.com and visit the online courses section to see the selection. At checkout, enter the code: COVIDHALF to receive 50% off your purchase.
Gaelyn Rae Emerson joins me to talk about the impact of abandonment on women dealing with betrayal trauma from pornography and sexual addiction. She outlines a method she uses to help women move toward healing when they've been abandoned. In this episode:
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She defines the term “sexual abandonment”.
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She describes the role pornography plays in this concept of sexual abandonment.
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She talks about the framework she uses to help her clients engage their grief with self-compassion?
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She shares why it's critical that women grieve and mourn this pain of sexual abandonment and why is it so scary to do so.
You can learn more about her method at: http://womeneverafter.com/swirl/
Gaelyn Rae Emerson works full-time as a betrayal trauma recovery coach, with advanced training in couples relationships, divorce recovery, problematic sexual behavior and sex addiction induced trauma. Within this field, she combines 16 years of personal and professional experience, “down in the trenches” with other women, reeling and healing together from the impact of sexual betrayal.
You can reach Gaelyn at: http://womeneverafter.com
Training:
Certified Professional Life Coach, Impact Coaching Academy (CPLC)
Certified Couples Relationship Coach, Impact Coaching Academy (CCRC)
Certified Divorce Recovery Coach, Impact Coaching Academy (CDRC)
Associate Certified Coach, International Coach Federation (ICF-ACC)
Certified Partners Coach, Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS-CPC)
The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT.
Please donate to support the Illuminate Podcast: anchor.fm/illuminate-podcast/support.
Geoff has also created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store
SALE - All of my online relationship courses are on sale for 50% off during the month of April 2020. This includes the 12-week Trust Building Bootcamp for those who want to rebuild broken trust in their relationship. Go to www.lovingmarriage.com and visit the online courses section to see the selection. At checkout, enter the code: COVIDHALF to receive 50% off your purchase.
The uncertainty of a potential relapse often leaves betrayed women anxious and tense. They wonder when the next betrayal will happen and how they'll respond. Even though there is no way to predict the future, my guest in this episode, Gaelyn Rae Emerson, says that women can prepare themselves and develop resilience in the face of future relapses, regardless of what happens to their relationship. In this episode we discuss:
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The definition of relapse preparedness and what caused her to start thinking about relapse preparedness.
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Some of the feelings women commonly express in the aftermath of a relapse.
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What she says to women who worry that “preparing” for a relapse is giving him permission to do it.
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Mistakes women sometimes make when approaching the idea of relapse preparedness.
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What to do when thinking about a relapse triggers anxiety and trauma.
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Who benefits most from Relapse Preparedness Planning?
Gaelyn Rae Emerson works full-time as a betrayal trauma recovery coach, with advanced training in couples relationships, divorce recovery, problematic sexual behavior and sex addiction induced trauma. Within this field, she combines 16 years of personal and professional experience, “down in the trenches” with other women, reeling and healing together from the impact of sexual betrayal.
You can reach Gaelyn at: http://womeneverafter.com
Training:
Certified Professional Life Coach, Impact Coaching Academy (CPLC)
Certified Couples Relationship Coach, Impact Coaching Academy (CCRC)
Certified Divorce Recovery Coach, Impact Coaching Academy (CDRC)
Associate Certified Coach, International Coach Federation (ICF-ACC)
Certified Partners Coach, Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS-CPC)
The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT.
Please donate to support the Illuminate Podcast: anchor.fm/illuminate-podcast/support.
Geoff has also created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store
Sheltering in place is tough for most people, but it's especially difficult for couples who were already distressed before they were required to spend days on end together. And, tragically, sheltering in place can also increase the risk of physical and emotional abuse for vulnerable family members. In this episode, I share eleven ways distressed couples can manage these difficult dynamics.
SALE - All of my online relationship courses are on sale for 50% off during the month of April 2020. This includes the 12-week Trust Building Bootcamp for those who want to rebuild broken trust in their relationship. Go to www.lovingmarriage.com and visit the online courses section to see the selection. At checkout, enter the code: COVIDHALF to receive 50% off your purchase.
The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT.
Support this podcast: anchor.fm/illuminate-podcast/support.
How do we stay emotionally healthy in the midst of a global pandemic? In this special episode, I team up with Amy Cluff, a therapist who specializes in working with betrayal trauma and child/family therapy, to talk about specific ways we can all maintain our emotional health when facing these unprecedented global fears and uncertainties.
We also address the specific concerns for those who are actively working a recovery process from pornography/sexual addiction and betrayal trauma and how they can stay healthy in their own recoveries as they deal with these unexpected and overwhelming challenges.
Regardless of whether or not you're dealing with an addiction or betrayal trauma, this episode will give you actionable and specific things you can begin doing to help you respond in healthier ways.
The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT.
Please donate to support the Illuminate Podcast: anchor.fm/illuminate-podcast/support. Geoff has also created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store
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Building an authentic community around those struggling with pornography addiction and betrayal trauma is essential for recovery. Steven, from Unashamed Unafraid, shares his experience of hearing how many couples have shared their story of addiction recovery. Geoff and Steven discuss why it is important for those struggling to share their story and how to do it in a safe and healing way. They also discuss strategies for spouses and family members to help invite addicts to share their stories.
The 12-week online Trust Building Bootcamp is now available for 15% off to Illuminate listeners by entering the code: ILLUMINATE at https://www.trustbuildingacademy.com/bootcamp
The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT. Please donate to support the Illuminate Podcast: anchor.fm/illuminate-podcast/support Geoff has also created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/illuminate-podcast/support
Steven and Kayla Shields are a couple working through recovery; Steven for his sexual addiction and Kayla for healing with her betrayal trauma. Kayla had no idea when getting married to Steven that he was view pornography daily and participating in prostitution. In this episode, they discuss Steven coming forward, early recovery, being disfellowshipped, excommunicated, and what they are doing in recovery today.
Steven founded a non-profit organization called Unashamed Unafraid in 2016, which shares couples stories of sexual addiction recovery and provides scholarships for treatment. They can be found at UnashamedUnafraid.com and everywhere podcasts are found.
The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT.
Please donate to support the Illuminate Podcast: anchor.fm/illuminate-podcast/support. Geoff has also created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store
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In this episode I interview Alice Taylor, author of, "Restored: A woman's guide to overcoming pornography addiction." We talk about the need to be more aware of the reality that many women and girls are battling addictions and struggles with pornography and unwanted sexual behaviors. Alice share ways we can become more inclusive of women who struggle and how we can be more sensitive to their struggles.
You can purchase Alice's book and follow her on social media using the links below:
Website: thegracespot.com
Buy Restored here: www.amazon.com/Restored-Womans-G…1576576148&sr=8-1
FB: www.facebook.com/thegracespotministries/
IG: www.instagram.com/thegspot_ministries/
Twitter: twitter.com/GSpotMinistries
Have you broken your partner's trust and want a structured process to help you repair it? Get instant access to my 12-week online Trust Building Bootcamp and begin repairing your marriage. Illuminate listeners can get 30% off the price of the course by visiting www.trustbuildingacademy.com/bootcamp and entering coupon code ILLUMINATE at checkout.
The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT.
Please donate to support the Illuminate Podcast: anchor.fm/illuminate-podcast/support
Geoff has also created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store
Pornography addiction isn't just a struggle for men and boys. Many women and girls also struggle with the same temptations, secrets, and shame. One of biggest differences, however, is that women and girls rarely get to hear other females acknowledge their own personal struggles and victories over addiction.
In this episode I interview Alice Taylor, author of, "Restored: A woman's guide to overcoming pornography addiction." Alice went public with her story of healing from addiction and abuse to help other women know they're not alone and that change is possible. Alice shares her story of leaving the darkness of shame and secrecy and embracing a life of recovery and healing.
You can purchase Alice's book and follow her on social media using the links below:
Website: thegracespot.com
Buy Restored here: https://www.amazon.com/Restored-Womans-Guide-Overcoming-Pornography/dp/0648722007/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1576576148&sr=8-1
FB: https://www.facebook.com/thegracespotministries/
IG: https://www.instagram.com/thegspot_ministries/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/GSpotMinistries
Have you broken your partner's trust and want a structured process to help you repair it? Get instant access to my 12-week online Trust Building Bootcamp and begin repairing your marriage. Illuminate listeners can get 30% off the price of the course by visiting www.trustbuildingacademy.com/bootcamp and entering coupon code ILLUMINATE at checkout.
The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT.
Please donate to support the Illuminate Podcast: anchor.fm/illuminate-podcast/support
Geoff has also created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store
I interview Dr. Wendy Ulrich, author and therapist, on the subject of forgiving ourselves. We discuss the importance of forgiving ourselves when we make mistakes. Specifically, we discuss:
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What it means to forgive ourselves.
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The ultimate goal of self-forgiveness.
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Why we struggle to forgive ourselves for making mistakes.
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The path to self-forgiveness, including:
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Clarifying our beliefs
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Qualifying for forgiveness and grace
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Overcoming internal obstacles to peace
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Trusting God
You can find Dr. Ulrich's books and workshops here:
www.amazon.com/Wendy-Ulrich/e/B001JP34F8
www.sixteenstones.net/retreats/
Wendy Ulrich, Ph.D., M.B.A., has been a psychologist in private practice, president of the Association of Mormon Counselors and Psychotherapists, and a visiting professor at Brigham Young University-Provo. She founded Sixteen Stones Center for Growth, which offers seminar-retreats for Latter-day Saint women and their loved ones (see sixteenstones.net). Her books include Let God Love You; Weakness Is Not Sin; Habits of Happiness; The Temple Experience; Forgiving Ourselves; and national best-seller The Why of Work, coauthored with her husband, Dave Ulrich.
Have you broken your partner's trust and want a structured process to help you repair it? Get instant access to my 12-week online Trust Building Bootcamp and begin repairing your marriage. Illuminate listeners can get 30% off the price of the course by visiting www.trustbuildingacademy.com/bootcamp and entering coupon code ILLUMINATE at checkout.
The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT.
Please donate to support the Illuminate Podcast: anchor.fm/illuminate-podcast/support
Geoff has also created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store
I interview Dr. Wendy Ulrich, author and therapist, on the subject of forgiveness. We discuss the challenges of forgiving others, especially when there have been serious betrayals. We discuss:
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Why forgiveness is such a sensitive topic
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How forgiveness is different than trust
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How forgiveness benefits the injured/betrayed person
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What makes it hard for betrayed people to forgive
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What a betrayed person can do to begin the forgiveness process
You can find Dr. Ulrich's books and workshops here:
https://www.amazon.com/Wendy-Ulrich/e/B001JP34F8
https://www.sixteenstones.net/retreats/
Wendy Ulrich, Ph.D., M.B.A., has been a psychologist in private practice, president of the Association of Mormon Counselors and Psychotherapists, and a visiting professor at Brigham Young University-Provo. She founded Sixteen Stones Center for Growth, which offers seminar-retreats for Latter-day Saint women and their loved ones (see sixteenstones.net). Her books include Let God Love You; Weakness Is Not Sin; Habits of Happiness; The Temple Experience; Forgiving Ourselves; and national best-seller The Why of Work, coauthored with her husband, Dave Ulrich.
Have you broken your partner's trust and want a structured process to help you repair it? Get instant access to my 12-week online Trust Building Bootcamp and begin repairing your marriage. Illuminate listeners can get 30% off the price of the course by visiting www.trustbuildingacademy.com/bootcamp and entering coupon code ILLUMINATE at checkout.
The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT.
Please donate to support the Illuminate Podcast: anchor.fm/illuminate-podcast/support
Geoff has also created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store
In this episode, I continue my discussion with Jessica Mockett, founder of Safe Haven Holistic Recovery, about how to prevent child sexual abuse and also respond to children who have experienced the trauma of sexual abuse. In this episode, we discuss:
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How sexual abuse impacts children physically, emotionally, spiritually, etc.
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How parents can best respond if a child discloses sexual abuse.
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Why immediately asking questions to children who disclose abuse isn't helpful.
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How parents and adults can prepare themselves to respond to a child's report of sexual abuse.
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Why a multi-faceted holistic approach is important for long-term healing of sexual abuse
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The need to respond immediately and get treatment and support to children who have been abused.
Guide to help children through sexual trauma
https://www.safehavenholisticrecovery.org/giving
Heart of the Matter Documentary - Directed by Jessica Mockett
https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=5&v=5EgztA-Racs&feature=emb_logo
Jessica Mockett is the founder and executive director of the non-profit Safe Haven Holistic Recovery. She is passionate about helping women, children, families find healing from trauma and helping them discover how to be connected to God afterward and live joyful, healthy, fulfilling lives. She is interested in alternative health, and is a licensed Emotion Code and Body Code practitioner – helping her clients through releasing negative energy and mentoring them in ways to change former beliefs and habits that are holding them back. She graduated from Brigham Young University and currently lives in Layton, UT. She is also involved in animal rescue and foster at risk animals and adopt them out to safe homes.
Have you broken your partner's trust and want a structured process to help you repair it? Get instant access to my 12-week online Trust Building Bootcamp and begin repairing your marriage. Illuminate listeners can get 30% off the price of the course by visiting www.trustbuildingacademy.com/bootcamp and entering coupon code ILLUMINATE at checkout.
The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT.
Please donate to support the Illuminate Podcast: anchor.fm/illuminate-podcast/support
Geoff has also created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store
Pornography isn't a victimless pastime, especially when considering the role it contributes in the sexual exploitation and abuse of children. In this interview with Jessica Mockett from Save Hafen Holistic Recovery, we discuss:
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The impact of pornography on sexual abuse of children
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How pornography dehumanizes others and contributes to an abuse mindset
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Research showing clear links between sexual crimes and pornography
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Why it's important to face these issues to protect children.
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How awareness can prevent child sexual abuse.
Guide to help children through sexual trauma
https://www.safehavenholisticrecovery.org/giving
Heart of the Matter Documentary - Directed by Jessica Mockett
https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=5&v=5EgztA-Racs&feature=emb_logo
This is the article that references the Michael Bourke study:
https://www.apa.org/monitor/2009/12/child-abuse
Jessica Mockett is the founder and executive director of the non-profit Safe Haven Holistic Recovery. She is passionate about helping women, children, families find healing from trauma and helping them discover how to be connected to God afterward and live joyful, healthy, fulfilling lives. She is interested in alternative health, and is a licensed Emotion Code and Body Code practitioner – helping her clients through releasing negative energy and mentoring them in ways to change former beliefs and habits that are holding them back. She graduated from Brigham Young University and currently lives in Layton, UT. She is also involved in animal rescue and foster at risk animals and adopt them out to safe homes.
Have you broken your partner's trust and want a structured process to help you repair it? Get instant access to my 12-week online Trust Building Bootcamp and begin repairing your marriage. Illuminate listeners can get 30% off the price of the course by visiting www.trustbuildingacademy.com/bootcamp and entering coupon code ILLUMINATE at checkout.
The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT.
Please donate to support the Illuminate Podcast: anchor.fm/illuminate-podcast/support
Geoff has also created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store
When we're abused or rejected, it's easy to form a victim mindset and believe that we're completely powerless to change our lives. In this interview with Troy Love, therapist and author, we discuss how to move out of a victim mindset and embrace a lifetime of healing, empowerment, and connection.
Purchase Troy's books:
Finding Peace - amzn.to/2QdmNKD
A Year of Self-Love - amzn.to/32JyF9A
Troy L. Love, MSW, LCSW, is an author, clinician, presenter, and Clinical Director of Yuma Counseling Services. Troy received his Master's Degree in Social Work from the University of Pittsburgh. With over 20 years of experience, Troy specializes in helping others heal from trauma, improve relationships, and overcome compulsive or addictive behaviors. He also works with organizations and leaders to develop intellectual authenticity.
Have you broken your partner's trust and want a structured process to help you repair it? Get instant access to my 12-week online Trust Building Bootcamp and begin repairing your marriage. Illuminate listeners can get 30% off the price of the course by visiting www.trustbuildingacademy.com/bootcamp and entering coupon code ILLUMINATE at checkout.
The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT.
Please donate to support the Illuminate Podcast: anchor.fm/illuminate-podcast/support
Geoff has also created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store
If you've ever been betrayed, rejected, abandoned, or betrayed as a child or adult, you know how painful and difficult it can be to find peace. I interview therapist and author Troy Love on how to heal in the aftermath of these types of injuries.
Purchase Troy's books:
Finding Peace - https://amzn.to/2QdmNKD
A Year of Self-Love - https://amzn.to/32JyF9A
Troy L. Love, MSW, LCSW, is an author, clinician, presenter, and Clinical Director of Yuma Counseling Services. Troy received his Master's Degree in Social Work from the University of Pittsburgh. With over 20 years of experience, Troy specializes in helping others heal from trauma, improve relationships, and overcome compulsive or addictive behaviors. He also works with organizations and leaders to develop intellectual authenticity.
Have you broken your partner's trust and want a structured process to help you repair it? Get instant access to my 12-week online Trust Building Bootcamp and begin repairing your marriage. Illuminate listeners can get 30% off the price of the course by visiting www.trustbuildingacademy.com/bootcamp and entering coupon code ILLUMINATE at checkout.
The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT.
Please donate to support the Illuminate Podcast: anchor.fm/illuminate-podcast/support
Geoff has also created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store
What are the most important things we should know when working with individuals impacted by pornography and betrayal trauma? A popular Latter-day Saint podcaster assembled over 20 presenters in a virtual conference to support those who minister to men and women affected by pornography addiction. In this episode Kurt Francom, founder of the Leading Saints podcast, shares what he learned after interviewing 23+ therapists, recovering addicts, betrayed partners, parenting experts, recovery coaches, church leaders, and advocates for his Liberating Saints Virtual Summit. He created this summit as a go-to resource for any spiritual leader, family member, or loved one who wants to learn more about how to minister to those impacted by pornography and betrayal trauma.
We discuss what he learned on the topics of:
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Identifying and working with shame
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Helping betrayed spouses
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Disclosing secrets
You can watch three of the presentations for free at: www.leadingsaints.org/liberating
Have you broken your partner's trust and want a structured process to help you repair it? Get instant access to my 12-week online Trust Building Bootcamp and begin repairing your marriage. Illuminate listeners can get 30% off the price of the course by visiting www.trustbuildingacademy.com/bootcamp and entering coupon code ILLUMINATE at checkout.
The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT.
Please donate to support the Illuminate Podcast: anchor.fm/illuminate-podcast/support
Geoff has also created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store
Have you broken your partner's trust and want a structured process to help you repair it? Get instant access to my 12-week online Trust Building Bootcamp and begin repairing your marriage. Illuminate listeners can get 30% off the price of the course by visiting https://www.trustbuildingacademy.com/bootcamp and entering coupon code ILLUMINATE at checkout.In this episode, I interview Mari Lee, LMFT, CSAT-S, CPTT-S, CMBAT-S on the topic of toxic giving and taking in relationships. She also wrote a helpful blog post addressing this topic here: http://www.growthcounselingservices.com/blog/2015/8/24/givers-and-takers-which-one-are-you
In this episode, we discuss:
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The differences between givers and takers.
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What a healthy balance of giving and taking looks like.
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What causes people to become toxic givers and takers
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How the giver and taker dynamic impacts recovery for trauma and sexual addiction.
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What needs to happen with givers and takers to create change.
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Specific tools you can use to change these dynamics in your relationships.
Mari A. Lee is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and Supervisor, a Certified Partners Trauma Therapist and Supervisor, a Certified Mindfulness Based Addiction Therapist and Supervisor, and the founder of Growth Counseling Services, a private recovery practice located in Glendora, California. Mari is recognized for her clinical work with sex addicts, traumatically betrayed spouses, and couples healing from infidelity.
Additionally, Mari is a trusted coach with 30 years of business experience. She is the founder of, "The Counselor’s Coach" and provides coaching and consulting, clinical materials, and dedicated support to therapists across the U.S. and around the world. Mari's specialized coaching is focused on helping therapists create and launch multiple income streams beyond the one-on-one clinical hour.
Mari is also a popular national speaker and presents across the country on the topic of sex and love addiction and betrayal trauma. She is the co-author of the bestselling book, “Facing Heartbreak: Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts”, and she is the author of, “Healing Betrayal”, and “The Creative Clinician”, and a contributing author to “Behavioral Addictions: Criteria, Evidence and Treatment.” Her next book, “The Gift in the Wound: Stories of Resiliency and Hope” will be out in 2020.
To learn more about Mari’s clinical work visit: www.GrowthCounselingServices.com
To schedule coaching session with Mari visit: www.TheCounselorsCoach.com
The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT.Please donate to support the Illuminate Podcast: anchor.fm/illuminate-podcast/support Geoff has also created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store
Have you broken your partner's trust and want to repair it? Get instant access to the 12-week online Trust Building Bootcamp and begin repairing your marriage. Illuminate listeners can get 30% off the price of the course by visiting https://www.trustbuildingacademy.com/bootcamp and entering coupon code ILLUMINATE at checkout.
I interview Mari Lee, LMFT, CSAT-S, CPTT-S, CMBAT-S on the topic of how mindfulness can help improve outcomes when treating pornography/sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. In this episode, we discuss:
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How she discovered the power of mindfulness in her personal life and professional practice.
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The definition of mindfulness
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Why mindfulness is an important piece for healing trauma and addictions
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What she noticed changing in her clients when she began incorporating mindfulness work in to their treatment
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How betrayed partners can benefit from a mindfulness based therapy plan
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How addicts can benefit from working with a therapist who weaves in mindful approaches in to the recovery work
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Why she believes therapists working in this specialization would benefit from training in mindfulness based therapy
Mari A. Lee is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and Supervisor, a Certified Partners Trauma Therapist and Supervisor, a Certified Mindfulness Based Addiction Therapist and Supervisor, and the founder of Growth Counseling Services, a private recovery practice located in Glendora, California. Mari is recognized for her clinical work with sex addicts, traumatically betrayed spouses, and couples healing from infidelity.
Additionally, Mari is a trusted coach with 30 years of business experience. She is the founder of, "The Counselor’s Coach" and provides coaching and consulting, clinical materials, and dedicated support to therapists across the U.S. and around the world. Mari's specialized coaching is focused on helping therapists create and launch multiple income streams beyond the one-on-one clinical hour.
Mari is also a popular national speaker and presents across the country on the topic of sex and love addiction and betrayal trauma. She is the co-author of the bestselling book, “Facing Heartbreak: Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts”, and she is the author of, “Healing Betrayal”, and “The Creative Clinician”, and a contributing author to “Behavioral Addictions: Criteria, Evidence and Treatment.” Her next book, “The Gift in the Wound: Stories of Resiliency and Hope” will be out in 2020.
To learn more about Mari’s clinical work visit: www.GrowthCounselingServices.com
To schedule coaching session with Mari visit: www.TheCounselorsCoach.com
The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT.
Please donate to support the Illuminate Podcast: anchor.fm/illuminate-podcast/support
I have also created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store
The Trust Building Bootcamp pre-launch 50% discount! http://bit.ly/trustbootcamp
I interview Dr. Carmel White, a researcher and author, who co-authored a book called “Love and Betrayal”, which is a collection of research and stories detailing the experience of what it’s like to be betrayed by a partner’s pornography use. In this interview, we discuss the impact of betrayal trauma on women's spiritual lives. She shares ideas and ways to spiritually support women in trauma for those who work closely with betrayed women.
You can purchase Dr. Carmel White’s book here: https://amzn.to/2NGXOxU
The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT.
Please donate to support the Illuminate Podcast: https://anchor.fm/illuminate-podcast/support
I have also created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store
Please donate to support the Illuminate Podcast: https://anchor.fm/illuminate-podcast/support
The Trust Building Bootcamp pre-launch 50% discount! http://bit.ly/trustbootcamp
I interview Dr. Carmel White, a researcher and author, who co-authored a book called “Love and Betrayal”, which is a collection of research and stories detailing the experience of what it’s like to be betrayed by a partner’s pornography use. In this interview, we discuss what betrayed women really need people to understand about betrayal trauma. Betrayed women face tremendous uncertainty and it’s critical that those who love and support them don’t create more confusion and stress.
You can purchase Dr. Carmel White’s book here: https://amzn.to/2NGXOxU
Additional Resources for betrayed women:
https://salifeline.org
https://utahcoalition.org/media/
The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT.
I have also created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store
This is a live recording of a Young Single Adult Devotional for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints presented by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT. Geoff speaks on how to find peace when anxious or troubled and shares personal stories about spiritual patterns that have helped him find peace in his own life. He presented this devotional address at the Dixie State University Institute Building of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in St. George, Utah on Sunday, June 30, 2019. Subscribe to Geoff and Jody Steurer's marriage education vlog: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCc05gV4t9A0B8-TDT1EfWhQ?view_as=subscriber You can purchase a six-hour audio course on healing your marriage from pornography ($29) here: geoff-steurer.mykajabi.com/p/marriage-recovery Geoff Steurer's Bio: Since 1999, I’ve been helping couples and individuals improve their most important relationships. It has been deeply rewarding to watch clients move out of patterns that have held them and their loved ones back from experiencing their full relationship potential. I completed a masters degree in marriage and family therapy at Auburn University in Auburn, Alabama. I also hold a bachelors degree from Brigham Young University in communications studies. Following my graduate work, I worked in community behavioral health where I gained experience working with a wide-range of mental health concerns affecting individuals, couples, and families. This experience helped me discover my strong interest in working with couples, especially couples affected by pornography addiction, affairs, and other betrayals. I eventually moved to St. George, UT in 2006 where I opened up a private practice. In 2009, I created the group practice Alliant Counseling and Education, which is home to a team of highly trained therapists who are specialists in their chosen areas of expertise. I have continued to seek advanced training in both pornography/sexual addiction treatment as well as Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT). I am the co-author of the book “Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity“, with Dr. Mark Chamberlain. I also recorded the 6-part series “Strengthening Recovery Through Strengthening Marriage: Healing from Pornography Addiction” with Dr. Kevin Skinner. I also was featured as a guest expert in the documentary "The Heart of the Matter". I also write a weekly column for the St. George News Online and the LDS online magazine Meridian Magazine. I frequently present at state and national conferences on the subjects of marriage, sexual addiction recovery, and other related topics. I was the co-founder of the Southern Utah conference put on by the Utah Coalition Against Pornography and have served as conference chair four times. I also provide workshops, trainings, and other presentations for local groups and clergy. Please contact me if I can assist your organization. I have been married since 1996 to my wife, Jody, and we are the parents of four children. I am active member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. I was raised in Oklahoma and have lived all over the United States and spent two years in the Dominican Republic serving a volunteer mission for my church. I enjoy working with people of all faiths and backgrounds. In my spare time, I like to hike, camp, listen to and play music, photography, and hang out with my family.
How does someone prove that they're truly healing from a pornography or sexual addiction? In this episode, Geoff Steurer shares six guideposts that indicate true healing is most likely happening. Even though the truth of someone's healing process is deeply personal and can't be measured by a list, these six areas of healing are consistently present in the thousands of people Geoff has guided over the past twenty-plus years of working as a licensed marriage and family therapist. The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT. Geoff Steurer's Bio: Since 1999, I’ve been helping couples and individuals improve their most important relationships. It has been deeply rewarding to watch clients move out of patterns that have held them and their loved ones back from experiencing their full relationship potential. I completed a masters degree in marriage and family therapy at Auburn University in Auburn, Alabama. I also hold a bachelors degree from Brigham Young University in communications studies. Following my graduate work, I worked in community behavioral health where I gained experience working with a wide-range of mental health concerns affecting individuals, couples, and families. This experience helped me discover my strong interest in working with couples, especially couples affected by pornography addiction, affairs, and other betrayals. I eventually moved to St. George, UT in 2006 where I opened up a private practice. In 2009, I created the group practice Alliant Counseling and Education, which is home to a team of highly trained therapists who are specialists in their chosen areas of expertise. I have continued to seek advanced training in both pornography/sexual addiction treatment as well as Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT). My focus in my couples work is helping individuals and couples heal the patterns of attachment in their relationships. I am the co-author of the book “Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity“, with Dr. Mark Chamberlain. I also recorded the 6-part series “Strengthening Recovery Through Strengthening Marriage: Healing from Pornography Addiction” with Dr. Kevin Skinner. I also was featured as a guest expert in the documentary "The Heart of the Matter". I also write a weekly column for the St. George News Online and the LDS online magazine Meridian Magazine. I frequently present at state and national conferences on the subjects of marriage, sexual addiction recovery, and other related topics. I was the co-founder of the Southern Utah conference put on by the Utah Coalition Against Pornography and have served as conference chair four times. I also provide workshops, trainings, and other presentations for local groups and clergy. Please contact me if I can assist your organization. I have been married since 1996 to my wife, Jody, and we are the parents of four children. I am active member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. I was raised in Oklahoma and have lived all over the United States and spent two years in the Dominican Republic serving a volunteer mission for my church. I enjoy working with people of all faiths and backgrounds. In my spare time, I like to hike, camp, listen to and play music, photography, and hang out with my family.
In this episode I continue my interview with Katy Willis and we give you the chance to experience components of yoga for yourself. You just have to double cross your heart that you will save it for a time when you are not driving, operating heavy machinery, or other activities that require your undivided attention :-) If you haven't listened to Episode 35, please go back and listen so you can have foundational information on the practices she is going to share. Resources: 1. Kirtan Kriya instructions: https://www.3ho.org/files/pdfs/KirtanKriya.pdf http://alzheimersprevention.org/research/kirtan-kriya-yoga-exercise/ https://kripalu.org/resources/incredible-power-kirtan-kriya-conversation-brain-health-and-longevity-dr-chris-walling https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4927889/ Katy will be offering two free trial yoga classes on http://btr.org (Betrayal Trauma Recovery) for any women. The two trial classes are free to all women, not just women who have a btr subscription. The classes will be Saturday, April 27 and Saturday, May 4 @ 8 am MST. She will start offering the Prana I Yoga Therapy course this fall in Logan, Utah at Addo Recovery. You can follow Katy here to learn more about her yoga classes online and in Utah: http://bestillservices.blogspot.com/p/christ-centered-yoga.html And, Katy's mentor, Sariah, offers online pre-recorded trauma yoga classes for $12/month here: https://backpocketyoga.com/register/ Books to consider for further personal reading: The Body Keep the Score, by Bessel van der Kolk MD Meditation as Medicine, by Dr. Dharma Singh Khalsa and Cameron Stauth Hatha Yoga Illustrated, by Martin L. Kirk, Brooke Boon, et al. The breath/brain article (qz.com/quartzy/1132986/neuro…t9mVqrPJ48AZVt7-NGL9Y) Eye focus/brain activation (www.3ho.org/kundalini-yoga/eye-focus) Katy's favorite Kundalini yoga website (www.3ho.org) 5. Instructions for basic Hatha yoga poses (backpocketyoga.com/how-to-pose/) 6. Mantra translation website (www.spiritvoyage.com/mantra) Katy's Bio: Katy Willis spends most of her time as a homeschooling mamma to her 4 energetic children. Katy and her husband, Mark, hope to add to their family through adoption. She graduated from BYU-Idaho with an Associate's degree in Nursing in 2005, as well as a Bachelor's degree in Music in 2006. Katy currently runs her own small business called Be Still Services. Her mission is to help support individuals physically, mentally/emotionally, and spiritually in the aftermath of trauma so they can be still and find Jesus Christ. Katy has retired from working on the cardiac floor; however, is using her nursing skills again, but this time in brain wellness as a Quantum Neuro Reset Therapy (QNRT) Practitioner. QNRT is part of an emerging branch of the medical field called Quantum Neurobiology. She trained with Sariah at BackPocket Yoga for her 200 hour Hatha Yoga Teacher Training and Prana I course. Katy is a certified Karma Kids Yoga instructor. Additionally, she has studied with Felice at Tree of Life for Kundalini Yoga. She dreams of opening a brain wellness center in Northern Utah some day. Jesus Christ has been her rock through healing from betrayal trauma after her husband's relapse with pornography addiction, as well as during high-risk pregnancies, miscarriages, and navigating through the world of adoption. The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT.
In this episode, I interview Katy Willis and discuss how the body can be affected by trauma. We explore common changes to the brain, and basic options to help balance the brain again in the aftermath of trauma. We go into depth about the science behind yoga, and how it works for trauma healing. Resources: Books to consider for further personal reading: The Body Keep the Score, by Bessel van der Kolk MD Meditation as Medicine, by Dr. Dharma Singh Khalsa and Cameron Stauth Hatha Yoga Illustrated, by Martin L. Kirk, Brooke Boon, et al. The breath/brain article (https://qz.com/quartzy/1132986/neuroscientists-have-identified-how-exactly-a-deep-breath-changes-your-mind/?fbclid=IwAR1V8xEn2C4Dbv15nW5P6g8ZolSMyLT_7u9FaQt9mVqrPJ48AZVt7-NGL9Y) Eye focus/brain activation (https://www.3ho.org/kundalini-yoga/eye-focus) Katy's favorite Kundalini yoga website (https://www.3ho.org) 5. Instructions for basic Hatha yoga poses (https://backpocketyoga.com/how-to-pose/) 6. Mantra translation website (http://www.spiritvoyage.com/mantra) Katy's Bio: Katy Willis spends most of her time as a homeschooling mamma to her 4 energetic children. Katy and her husband, Mark, hope to add to their family through adoption. She graduated from BYU-Idaho with an Associate's degree in Nursing in 2005, as well as a Bachelor's degree in Music in 2006. Katy currently runs her own small business called Be Still Services. Her mission is to help support individuals physically, mentally/emotionally, and spiritually in the aftermath of trauma so they can be still and find Jesus Christ. Katy has retired from working on the cardiac floor; however, is using her nursing skills again, but this time in brain wellness as a Quantum Neuro Reset Therapy (QNRT) Practitioner. QNRT is part of an emerging branch of the medical field called Quantum Neurobiology. She trained with Sariah at BackPocket Yoga for her 200 hour Hatha Yoga Teacher Training and Prana I course. Katy is a certified Karma Kids Yoga instructor. Additionally, she has studied with Felice at Tree of Life for Kundalini Yoga. She dreams of opening a brain wellness center in Northern Utah some day. Jesus Christ has been her rock through healing from betrayal trauma after her husband's relapse with pornography addiction, as well as during high-risk pregnancies, miscarriages, and navigating through the world of adoption. The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT.
The discovery of pornography and other sexual secrets is a trauma that throws most couples into a tailspin. The tendency is to rally around the marriage and do everything possible to save the marriage. But, is that really the best first-line approach? In today's episode, Jeff Ford and Geoff Steurer, both licensed marriage and family therapists talk about critical considerations to make when determining the best time to begin working with a couple during addiction recovery. The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT.
Taylor Chambers, licensed marriage and family therapist, shares an important recovery and healing concept: mindfulness. Find out what it is, why it matters, how it can be developed, and what you can do to start practicing this skill. Taylor is a licensed marriage and family therapist. Taylor graduated with a bachelor's degree in Family Science from Brigham Young University and then obtained a master's degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from Abilene Christian University. Taylor's career has focused on treating sexual addiction, depression, and anxiety, especially with teens, young adult men, and their families. Taylor is the founder of Porn-Resilient Parenting, and currently works with LifeStar St. George and with Forte Strong, a failure-to-launch program. He enjoys helping people grow as well as reading, hiking, and birding. The most important thing in Taylor's world is his family. Download the free Porn-Resilient Family assessment at www.taylorjchambers.com and learn more about the upcoming parenting workshop. The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT.
In this interview, Taylor Chambers, licensed marriage and family therapist, shares his approach to helping families cultivate resilience to pornography. - Learn why a prevention mindset is not enough - Discover what steps your family can take to be more resilient - Includes resources that can support you in this process. Download the free Porn-Resilient Family assessment at taylorjchambers.com and learn more about the upcoming parenting workshop. The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT.
I interview Michelle Linford, the founder and administrator for LDS Hope and Healing, on the subject of sexual wholeness in marriage. Couples in recovery from pornography / sexual addiction and betrayal trauma often have questions and struggles around how to bring sexual wholeness to their marriages. We discuss: - How to seek true principles to guide the discussion as a couple - How to spot counterfeit and harmful information about healthy sexuality - How each person in the relationship is responsible for developing their own personal wholeness so they can offer themselves fully to their relationship. - Understanding the difference between fragmentation of ourselves in the sexual relationship versus being a whole and complete person. More on Michelle's background: Michelle's online volunteer work took an unexpected turn in late 2011 when search engine data showed the desperate need many LDS women had for help and support because of the sexual addiction/compulsion of a loved one. In response to that need, in January 2012, Michelle created HopeandHealingLDS.com (a blog and private forum) with the belief that if women knew they weren't alone, had others with whom they could connect, and had resources and information available to them, real healing could begin. Her motto was: "Let's use the tool that has brought so much pain to bring hope and healing to people!" In addition, inspired by her research about addiction recovery and the hope-filled stories of recovery from addicts and loved ones alike, Michelle chose to do 12-step work in her own life to find healing from shame, perfectionism, and fear-based living. She has been participating regularly in the Church’s 12-step program for six years, and is currently a facilitator in ARP. Michelle has a bachelor's degree in Psychology and an MBA, with an emphasis in organizational behavior and change. She is the Executive Director of EPIK Deliberate Digital, and is a member of the prevention task force (the Safeguard Alliance) for the National Center on Sexual Exploitation. Michelle and her husband, Matt, are the grateful parents of three, beginning the tender stage of launching their children into the world. In addition to being an ARP facilitator, Michelle also is grateful to serve as a facilitator in the Church's Self-Reliance Services program. Additional Resources from Michelle www.hopeandhealinglds.com/2017/02/14/o…e-resources/ Slides link (this was a presentation last February on dating in a pornified world at a BYU Women's Services conference last year): wsr.byu.edu/sites/default/files…wer%20-%20Final.pdf This is a podcast with LDS Perspectives www.ldsperspectives.com/tag/michelle-linford/ ldsmag.com/author/michelle-linford/ realintent.org/out-of-the-corner/ realintent.org/healing/ This is a compilation of thoughts and resources that assimilate learning from her role at EPIK, at HopeAndHealing (including all that research), and in her own personal experience in 12-step as a participant, sponsor, and facilitator. docs.google.com/document/d/1dn9ny…/edit?usp=sharing The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT.
This episode features an interview with Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP where we discuss group therapy for treatment of pornography / sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. In this episode, we discuss: - Why group treatment is often difficult for people - The definition of group therapy and how it works - How group therapy helps people heal their attachment wounds - The different types of therapy groups - How group can be a “classroom for connection” - Why group can create ongoing accountability for recovery - How group can be a bridge back to a relationship with God. Group resources mentioned in the show: www.forestbenedict.com www.lifestarnetwork.com www.salifeline.org http://arp.lds.org Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, is the author of the highly-acclaimed book Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery (www.amazon.com/Life-After-Lust-S…1487134790&sr=8-1). Forest uses online group therapy to guide sexually addicted individuals through recovery, serving all of California (forestbenedict.com/online-program-details/). He leads sexual addiction workshops and co-facilitates intensives with LifeSTAR Sacramento (lifestarsacramento.org/team-view/forest-benedict/). Forest is the Program Coordinator of the Sexual Addiction Treatment Provider program at Mid-America Nazarene University, training therapists to do sexual addiction work (www.mnu.edu/graduate/programs/s…rtification-program). He is a husband and father who is in recovery. To work with Forest, email him at forest@forestbenedict.com. Check out his website forestbenedict.com for additional recovery related resources . To learn about Forest’s recovery story, click here: forestbenedict.com/2017/03/17/cele…-gifts-for-you/ Additional links: Please follow Forest on the following platforms: Newsletter: us14.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=60…&id=b625e28c00 Youtube: www.youtube.com/channel/UCOx7994oK_wpXKchrO9GdtA Blog: forestbenedict.com/blog/ Twitter: twitter.com/ForestGB Facebook: www.facebook.com/ForestGBenedict Instagram: www.instagram.com/forestbenedictlmft/ Pinterest: www.pinterest.co.uk/forestbenedict/ Please SHARE this valuable content with others.
I interview Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP about how men in recovery from pornography and sexual addiction can care for themselves in long-term recovery. He teaches that men with addictions are "masters of self-neglect" and don't have habits of taking good care of themselves. He is also in recovery himself and shares both his clinical and personal wisdom about how to build a strong self-care program. Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, is the author of the highly-acclaimed book Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery (https://www.amazon.com/Life-After-Lust-Strategies-Pornography/dp/0998468215/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1487134790&sr=8-1). Forest uses online group therapy to guide sexually addicted individuals through recovery, serving all of California (https://forestbenedict.com/online-program-details/). He leads sexual addiction workshops and co-facilitates intensives with LifeSTAR Sacramento (http://lifestarsacramento.org/team-view/forest-benedict/). Forest is the Program Coordinator of the Sexual Addiction Treatment Provider program at Mid-America Nazarene University, training therapists to do sexual addiction work (https://www.mnu.edu/graduate/programs/sexual-addictions-treatment-provider-certification-program). He is a husband and father who is in recovery. To work with Forest, email him at forest@forestbenedict.com. Check out his website https://forestbenedict.com for additional recovery related resources . To learn about Forest’s recovery story, click here: https://forestbenedict.com/2017/03/17/celebrating-13-years-free-from-porn-addiction-with-2-gifts-for-you/ Additional links: Please follow Forest on the following platforms: Newsletter: https://us14.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=606ca501b3df1322f502c4672&id=b625e28c00 Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOx7994oK_wpXKchrO9GdtA Blog: https://forestbenedict.com/blog/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/ForestGB Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ForestGBenedict Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/forestbenedictlmft/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.co.uk/forestbenedict/ Please SHARE this valuable content with others.
Our kids are tired of the same "porn is bad" talk and need better information from us on how to navigate the sex-saturated world that surrounds them. Dr. Dean Busby, director of the School of Family Life at Brigham Young University, co-authored a book called "A Better Way to Teach Kids About Sex", which includes a chapter on how to have a better conversation about pornography. In this episode, we cover: * What conversations need to happen before you can have an anti-pornography talk with your children. * Why jumping into a conversation about pornography without preparation is harmful to children. * How we unintentionally teach our children that sex is shameful. * Why taking an alarmist approach toward pornography prevents kids from being open. * How to validate healthy sexual attraction while setting limits with lust. * How to create a meaningful discussion vs. a one-sided lecture about pornography. * Three talking points that are critical to cover when talking about pornography. * Paying attention to your child’s personality and communication style so you can have a more productive conversation. You can purchase the book "A Better Way to Teach Kids About Sex" here: www.amazon.com/Better-Way-Teach-…veASIN=1629723738 Dean M. Busby is the director of the School of Family Life at Brigham Young University. Recently he has been teaching the healthy sexuality in marriage course at BYU. His research has garnered university and national awards and been funded by federal and state grants and has been presented to scholarly and lay audiences around the world.
The ways we've attempted talking to our kids about sex often leave everyone feeling uncomfortable and fearful. The focus is often on what NOT to do instead of teaching joyful truths about bodies, relationships, and bonding. In this episode, I interview Dr. Dean Busby, the director of the School of Family Life at Brigham Young University, who is one of four co-authors of the new book, "A Better Way to Teach Kids About Sex". In this episode, we discuss: - How to move past setting up "the talk" and, instead, helping your child feel comfortable talking about sex, sexuality, bodies, and relationships in a loving and safe relationship. - How this conversation can help prepare your child to have these same kinds of conversations down the road with their future spouse. - The myth that talking about sexuality encourages sexual behavior - Why ignorance around sexuality is no longer bliss...especially in today's world. - How to promote healthy attitudes around sexuality so our kids are comfortable discussing these topics in the future in their own marriage and family. - Why traditional metaphors around sex are a poor substitute for more direct conversation and can actually do more harm than good. - How we can develop a more playful and joyful attitude about sexuality without being inappropriate. You can purchase the book "A Better Way to Teach Kids About Sex" here: https://www.amazon.com/Better-Way-Teach-Kids-About/dp/1629723738/ref=as_sl_pc_tf_til?tag=alliacounsa03-20&linkCode=w00&linkId=8c414345596d94f864764e401ece3176&creativeASIN=1629723738 Dean M. Busby is the director of the School of Family Life at Brigham Young University. Recently he has been teaching the healthy sexuality in marriage course at BYU. His research has garnered university and national awards and been funded by federal and state grants and has been presented to scholarly and lay audiences around the world.
You can purchase the six-hour audio course on healing your marriage from pornography ($29) here: https://geoff-steurer.mykajabi.com/p/marriage-recovery In this episode I interview Dr. Don Hilton, a world-renowned neurosurgeon and expert on the impact of pornography on the brain. He is the author of "He Restoreth My Soul: Understanding and Breaking the Chemical and Spiritual Chains of Pornography Addiction Through the Atonement of Jesus Christ". In this episode, we discuss: - Is pornography really an addiction? - What pornography does to the brain and why pornography is so addictive. - The different parts of the brain that are impacted by addiction - How the brain becomes out of balance so it’s more difficult to resist the addiction. - How can brain heals from the impact of pornography. - A challenge to the belief that it’s religious shame that causes pornography problems, not pornography itself. - How modern pornography is exploiting our mirror neurons to create more addiction. - The difference between “viewing" pornography versus “participating" in pornography and how future innovations in virtual reality and haptic devices will make pornography even more addictive. - Why we can’t minimize the need to do more in-depth treatment with individuals participating in pornography Biography Donald L. Hilton, Jr. M.D. graduated summa cum laude with a bachelor’s degree in biology from Lamar University, and cum laude with a medical degree from the University of Texas, where he was elected to Alpha Omega Alpha Medical Honor Society. He was trained as a neurosurgeon at the University of Tennessee, and is a clinical associate professor of neurosurgery at the University of Texas Medical School at San Antonio. Dr. Hilton speaks nationally and internationally in the field of minimally invasive spinal surgery, and has published book chapters, peer-reviewed journal papers, and developed techniques widely used in this subspecialty. He is currently listed in Best Doctors in America, and as a Texas Super Doctor and is a fellow of the American College of Surgeons and the American Association of Neurological Surgeons. Dr. Hilton also publishes and speaks on the subject of pornography and sexual addiction. He and his wife received the “Guardian of the Light” award from the anti-pornography organization Lighted Candle Society in 2008, where Dr. Hilton gave the keynote address, “Pornography and the Brain: Understanding the Addiction.” He authored the book He Restoreth My Soul, which explores the effects of pornography on the brain, along with spiritual paradigms of healing. His publications on the subject include Pornography Addiction: A Neuroscience Perspective. Surgical Neurology International, manuscript in press, Donald L. Hilton Jr., MD, Clark Watts, MD, JD. Slavemaster: How Pornography Drugs and Changes Your Brain. Salvo Magazine. Hagelin: Addiction to Porn is Real, Destructive. Washington Times “As a Swallowed Bait: How Pornography Addicts and Changes the Brain.” BYU Law School, “Stand for the Family” Symposium. He and his wife, Jana, are the parents of five children and have three grandchildren. Contact Dr. Hilton at dhiltonjr@sbcglobal.net.
Geoff Steurer and Vauna Davis discuss how couples can respectfully address the issue of pornography when dating. She also shares a free resource to help couples navigate this conversation to build more honesty and growth in their relationship. You can learn more about Reach 10 on the website at reach10.org Vauna Davis has been involved in the cause opposing pornography for many years. She is founder and director of Reach 10, a nonprofit that empowers young adults to speak, teach, and lead on the issue of pornography. She also is happy to be working with Protect Young Minds as the Outreach and Education Coordinator. She serves as chair for The Safeguard Alliance of the National Center on Sexual Exploitation, and is former director of Utah Coalition Against Pornography. She received an MA in Communications from BYU and lives with her husband, Michael, in Springville, Utah. They enjoy spending time with their grown-up children and grandkids. She loves yardwork - it gets her away from her desk! Reach 10 is a team of young adult speakers that inspire courage, compassion, and connection to overcome the shame, silence, and fear that keep people stuck in pornography. Our name is a call to action – we believe that one person can make a difference as they reach out to 10 people with a message of hope and connection.
In this episode I interview Vauna Davis, the founder and director of Reach 10, and organization that helps young people start healthy conversations about the impact of pornography on individuals and relationships. We discuss: * How to take pornography from being a punchline to a productive conversation. * What young people can do beyond recognizing that this is a problem for individuals and relationships. * How to create real solutions using “courage, compassion, and connection.” * How dealing with this issue builds stronger people and how not talking about this produces more self-criticism and shame. * What loved ones can do to offer immediate support to young adults who struggle with pornography. You can learn more about Reach 10 on the website at http://reach10.org Vauna Davis has been involved in the cause opposing pornography for many years. She is founder and director of Reach 10, a nonprofit that empowers young adults to speak, teach, and lead on the issue of pornography. She also is happy to be working with Protect Young Minds as the Outreach and Education Coordinator. She serves as chair for The Safeguard Alliance of the National Center on Sexual Exploitation, and is former director of Utah Coalition Against Pornography. She received an MA in Communications from BYU and lives with her husband, Michael, in Springville, Utah. They enjoy spending time with their grown-up children and grandkids. She loves yardwork - it gets her away from her desk! Reach 10 is a team of young adult speakers that inspire courage, compassion, and connection to overcome the shame, silence, and fear that keep people stuck in pornography. Our name is a call to action – we believe that one person can make a difference as they reach out to 10 people with a message of hope and connection.
I return with a second interview with Roxanne Kennedy, author of "Cutting Ties", where she talks about how women healing from betrayal trauma can learn to take charge of their own healing regardless of the outcome of their marriage. She shares the hopeful message that healing is possible, even though it's messy and difficult. She also share details of her specific recovery plan and how she worked her way toward peace and freedom. You can follow Roxanne and learn more about her book at www.cuttingties.com and www.facebook.com/RKennedyCuttingTies/.
Many couples who work through recovery from sexual addiction, pornography addiction, and betrayal trauma end up staying together, but what happens to the betrayed women whose husbands choose not to continue working their recovery process? In this episode, Geoff Steurer interviews Roxanne Kennedy, author of the newly released book "Cutting Ties", where she shares her story of healing through the trials of sexual betrayal, fighting to save the marriage, divorce, and rebuilding her life. Not only does she share her personal story, but she also offers hope to all women that they can heal no matter what happens to their marriage. You can follow Roxanne and learn more about her book at https://www.facebook.com/RKennedyCuttingTies/.
In this episode, Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT interviews Brandon and Jaylynn, the couple who were featured in Episodes 1-6. This is a follow-up visit to understand their recovery journey almost two years after the original interviews. In this interview, we talk about: - How change happens in addiction and trauma recovery - What boundaries and rules are still in place to keep them progressing - The reality that deep and lasting change is possible You can follow Jaylynn on Instagram @latterdaywarrior and contact Brandon at outofthedarkaddict@yahoo.com.
Media is all about messages. Every post, every commercial, every shot, every movie is full of messages that try and convince us to think, feel, talk, dress, eat, and act a certain way. How in the world can we decipher these messages? And, how can we help our children see what’s going on around them? In the previous episode (episode 19), Dina Alexander from Educate & Empower Kids told us how we can begin to “read” the images and messages around us. It’s called media literacy and she says it’s a skill that we can teach ourselves and our children. In this podcast, Dina teaches us: - How the media is constantly telling us what we should wear, think, eat, etc. - How everything in the media is designed to profit off of us - we are being sold something with every message - That our children are being turned into professional marketers by the media culture they’re living in and now have more influence with more people than ever before. - How we can help our children be authentic when they’re posting on social media - We can use these media messages as an opportunity to connect with our kids Dina Alexander is the founder and president of Educate and Empower Kids, and the author of several books on helping parents talk to their children about their bodies, sexuality, pornography, media literacy, and smartphones. The book featured in this podcast episode, "Petra's Power to See", can be purchased here: educateempowerkids.org/products.
We live in an image-based culture and even though we see hundreds of images everyday, most of us don't know how to "read" images the same way we know how to read words. In today's episode, Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT interviews Dina Alexander from Educate and Empower Kids on the topic of media literacy. She teaches us how we can become more literate in reading images and understanding the messages they're sending us. We also discuss: - How to give our children the power to see what they're being sold in today's multimedia world - How to help our children make decisions from a place of personal agency - How parents can break down what we’re seeing so parents and children aren’t overwhelmed. - What questions to ask when critiquing images, such as, "why was this made, who made it, who is their audience, what is the main message, what’s the hidden message, what’s included, and what’s left out?" Dina Alexander is the founder and president of Educate and Empower Kids, and the author of several books on helping parents talk to their children about their bodies, sexuality, pornography, media literacy, and smartphones. The book featured in this podcast episode, "Petra's Power to See", can be purchased here: https://educateempowerkids.org/products.
In this episode, I continue my interview with Amy Cluff where we discuss self-care in recovery from pornography addiction and betrayal trauma. Specifically, we discuss: * How to set up a long term self-care plan to thrive * Learning how to move from unhealthy coping to healthy coping and how to move from crisis state to peaceful state. * How to keep self-care from feeling like a burden. * Specific examples of ways to include physical, emotional, sexual, relational, and mental area of self-care. Amy Cluff is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and has been serving Southern Utah in social work capacities since 1999. Amy received her Master of Social Work Degree from the University of Utah in 2004. She is a member of the National Association of Social Workers, Association for Play Therapy, and the Association of Mormon Counselors and Psychotherapists. Amy specializes in therapy for women, children, and families. She is licensed to provide assessment, diagnosis, and treatment for most mental health disorders. Her training is in mood disorders, anxiety, trauma, attachment and relationship therapy, attention and impulse control, blended family, co-parenting, and divorce issues. She also specializes in working with partners and family members of addicts. Amy is committed to providing excellent treatment for her clients and staying educated in her field. She is available in her community for presentations, workshops, and service opportunities.Amy has a private therapy practice in St. George, Utah. She and her husband are raising two wonderful children, and her family is her greatest joy. She enjoys the outdoors, reading, yoga, and exercise.
Self-care is a critical component of healthy recovery from betrayal trauma and addiction. In this episode, Amy Cluff defines self-care and teaches why it matters. She shares practical ways to begin practicing self-care. Amy Cluff is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and has been serving Southern Utah in social work capacities since 1999. Amy received her Master of Social Work Degree from the University of Utah in 2004. She is a member of the National Association of Social Workers, Association for Play Therapy, and the Association of Mormon Counselors and Psychotherapists. Amy specializes in therapy for women, children, and families. She is licensed to provide assessment, diagnosis, and treatment for most mental health disorders. Her training is in mood disorders, anxiety, trauma, attachment and relationship therapy, attention and impulse control, blended family, co-parenting, and divorce issues. She also specializes in working with partners and family members of addicts. Amy is committed to providing excellent treatment for her clients and staying educated in her field. She is available in her community for presentations, workshops, and service opportunities.Amy has a private therapy practice in St. George, Utah. She and her husband are raising two wonderful children, and her family is her greatest joy. She enjoys the outdoors, reading, yoga, and exercise.
Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT finishes his interview with Dr. Adam Moore on common questions about recovery from pornography and sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. In today's episode, we cover the following questions: * How does disclosing secrets help couples in recovery? * Is the wife responsible for her husband's pornography addiction? * If he wants to stop, why can't he just stop by using his willpower? Dr. Adam M. Moore is a licensed marriage and family therapist and co-owner of Sela Health, which operates mental health counseling offices in Lehi, Utah; Provo, Utah; Mapleton, Utah; and Las Vegas, Nevada. Sela Health employees have provided over 38,000 hours of counseling since the company's inception in 2013. In addition to managing his counseling practice, Dr. Moore hosts a mental health podcast called Pocket Therapist. He also manages My Recovery Portal, a website that has provided on-demand addiction recovery content to people all over the world. Dr. Moore regularly engages in public speaking events on the topic of pornography and sexual addiction recovery, and has presented workshops to over 12,000 people since 2013. Currently, Dr. Moore serves as president of the Utah Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. Here are some online resources from Dr. Adam Moore: * Guide to support LDS bishops working with pornography addiction and betrayal trauma utahvalleycounseling.box.com/v/bishops-guide * Pocket Therapist podcast -- a podcast about how to use words and language to create the life you want -- www.yourpockettherapist.com * My FREE content about pornography addiction recovery -- www.adammmoore.com/media * The counseling practice I manage - Utah Valley Counseling -- www.utahvalleycounseling.com * The counseling practice I manage (outside of Utah) Las Vegas Counseling -- www.lasvegascounseling.com * My Recovery Portal - my online education portal for free and paid content for pornography addiction recovery -- www.myrecoveryportal.com * Pornography addiction recovery workbook - www.myrecoveryportal.com/product/the-…l-behaviors/
Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT interviews Dr. Adam Moore on common questions about recovery from pornography and sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. In today's episode, we cover the following questions: * How can you know if the therapist you’re working with is qualified to treat pornography addiction? * Does pornography addiction progressively get more severe? * Do all women married to a pornography addict experience betrayal trauma? * Do couples need to work with multiple therapists to treat pornography addiction and betrayal trauma? * Is everyone who looks at pornography an addict? Dr. Adam M. Moore is a licensed marriage and family therapist and co-owner of Sela Health, which operates mental health counseling offices in Lehi, Utah; Provo, Utah; Mapleton, Utah; and Las Vegas, Nevada. Sela Health employees have provided over 38,000 hours of counseling since the company's inception in 2013. In addition to managing his counseling practice, Dr. Moore hosts a mental health podcast called Pocket Therapist. He also manages My Recovery Portal, a website that has provided on-demand addiction recovery content to people all over the world. Dr. Moore regularly engages in public speaking events on the topic of pornography and sexual addiction recovery, and has presented workshops to over 12,000 people since 2013. Currently, Dr. Moore serves as president of the Utah Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. Here are some online resources from Dr. Adam Moore: * Guide to support LDS bishops working with pornography addiction and betrayal trauma https://utahvalleycounseling.box.com/v/bishops-guide * Pocket Therapist podcast -- a podcast about how to use words and language to create the life you want -- www.yourpockettherapist.com * My FREE content about pornography addiction recovery -- www.adammmoore.com/media * The counseling practice I manage - Utah Valley Counseling -- www.utahvalleycounseling.com * The counseling practice I manage (outside of Utah) Las Vegas Counseling -- www.lasvegascounseling.com * My Recovery Portal - my online education portal for free and paid content for pornography addiction recovery -- www.myrecoveryportal.com * Pornography addiction recovery workbook - http://www.myrecoveryportal.com/product/the-recovery-workbook-for-sexual-addiction-compulsive-sexual-behaviors/
Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT continues his interview with CEO and co-founder of Fight the New Drug, Clay Olsen. In this episode, we talk about: - How pornography struggles aren't just a "guy problem" and how girls can struggle just as much - The most helpful ways parents can respond to their teen who is struggling with pornography - How Church leaders can respond best to teens who struggle - Resources that are available to help parents and teens confront pornography You can learn more about Fight the New Drug at: www.fightthenewdrug.org
Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT interviews CEO and co-founder of Fight the New Drug, Clay Olsen. In this episode, we talk about the new digital landscape facing our teens and young adults and how parents can begin having courageous and honest conversations with our young people about the dangers they face. You can learn more about Fight the New Drug at: http://www.fightthenewdrug.org
This is part 2 of my interview with Kristen Jenson, founder of Protect Young Minds, and the author of the children's book, "Good Pictures, Bad Pictures." In this episode, we continue our discussion about how to protect children from the harms of pornography and give parents action steps they can begin taking immediately to help their children. Here is more information about Kristen's organization and resources: * The Quickstart Guide for Proactive Parents protectyoungminds.org/prepare/ * The SMART Plan for Parents (help for parents of kids who have viewed porn) protectyoungminds.org/heal/ * Share & Speak Up protectyoungminds.org/share/ * Art vs Porn: How to Explain the Difference to a Child protectyoungminds.org/2016/09/08/por…explain-child/ * Feelings 101: A Simple Exercise to Build Emotional Wellness in Kids protectyoungminds.org/2017/10/12/exe…wellness-kids/ * Block Porn Interest: A Proactive Parenting Plan protectyoungminds.org/2016/03/17/blo…porn-interest/ Also, listeners can get a free CAN DO Plan poster by texting CANDOPLAN to 44222. They can find out more about her books here. protectyoungminds.org/books/
Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT interviews author, speaker, and founder of Protect Young Minds, Kristen A. Jenson. In this episode, Kristen shares how parents need to begin planning how they will talk with their young children about the dangers found online and how they can prepare their children to respond. Kristen is the author of the children's books, "Good Pictures, Bad Pictures" and "Good Pictures, Bad Pictures, Jr". Here is more information about Kristen's organization and resources: * The Quickstart Guide for Proactive Parents https://protectyoungminds.org/prepare/ * The SMART Plan for Parents (help for parents of kids who have viewed porn) https://protectyoungminds.org/heal/ * Share & Speak Up https://protectyoungminds.org/share/ * Art vs Porn: How to Explain the Difference to a Child https://protectyoungminds.org/2016/09/08/porn-vs-art-explain-child/ * Feelings 101: A Simple Exercise to Build Emotional Wellness in Kids https://protectyoungminds.org/2017/10/12/exercise-build-emotional-wellness-kids/ * Block Porn Interest: A Proactive Parenting Plan https://protectyoungminds.org/2016/03/17/block-porn-interest/ Also, listeners can get a free CAN DO Plan poster by texting CANDOPLAN to 44222. They can find out more about her books here. https://protectyoungminds.org/books/
Geoff Steurer continues his interview with Jeff Ford, licensed marriage and family therapist, about the sensitive topic of disclosure. In this episode, they discuss the following points: * The differences between disclosing to a bishop versus a spouse * How do decide who to tell in the disclosure process * What a woman should do if her husband doesn’t want to open up to others about this * Why the advice, “stop bringing up the past” isn’t helpful in the disclosure process * How “letting the past go” is a process, not an event * What type of information should be shared with a betrayed wife in a disclosure? * Why the betrayed wife gets the final say about what gets disclosed
Geoff Steurer interviews Jeff Ford, licensed marriage and family therapist, about the sensitive topic of disclosure. In this episode, they discuss the following points: * What is a therapeutic disclosure and why is it important for healing? * How should disclosure be approached? * Who needs to know the information? * How does a disclosure facilitate healing in addiction recovery and marriage recovery?
In this episode, Geoff Steurer presents his second half of his interview Michelle Linford, the founder and administrator for LDS Hope and Healing. In this episode, we discuss: * How breaking out of isolation can help you feel more hope * The difference between a healing community and a support group * Why joining a healing community is essential for your recovery * Why forgiveness and trust aren’t the same thing * Why rebuilding trust requires time * The three most important indicators that someone is in recovery * Why the betrayed partner and the recovering addict need their own recovery processes * How the focus of recovery needs to be on restoring each person to spiritual health before any relationships can be healed More on Michelle's background: Michelle's online volunteer work took an unexpected turn in late 2011 when search engine data showed the desperate need many LDS women had for help and support because of the sexual addiction/compulsion of a loved one. In response to that need, in January 2012, Michelle created HopeandHealingLDS.com (a blog and private forum) with the belief that if women knew they weren't alone, had others with whom they could connect, and had resources and information available to them, real healing could begin. Her motto was: "Let's use the tool that has brought so much pain to bring hope and healing to people!" In addition, inspired by her research about addiction recovery and the hope-filled stories of recovery from addicts and loved ones alike, Michelle chose to do 12-step work in her own life to find healing from shame, perfectionism, and fear-based living. She has been participating regularly in the Church’s 12-step program for six years, and is currently a facilitator in ARP. Michelle has a bachelor's degree in Psychology and an MBA, with an emphasis in organizational behavior and change. She is the Executive Director of EPIK Deliberate Digital, and is a member of the prevention task force (the Safeguard Alliance) for the National Center on Sexual Exploitation. Michelle and her husband, Matt, are the grateful parents of three, beginning the tender stage of launching their children into the world. In addition to being an ARP facilitator, Michelle also is grateful to serve as a facilitator in the Church's Self-Reliance Services program. Additional Resources from Michelle www.hopeandhealinglds.com/2017/02/14/o…e-resources/ Slides link (this was a presentation last February on dating in a pornified world at a BYU Women's Services conference last year): wsr.byu.edu/sites/default/files…wer%20-%20Final.pdf This is a podcast with LDS Perspectives www.ldsperspectives.com/tag/michelle-linford/ ldsmag.com/author/michelle-linford/ realintent.org/out-of-the-corner/ realintent.org/healing/ This is a compilation of thoughts and resources that assimilate learning from her role at EPIK, at HopeAndHealing (including all that research), and in her own personal experience in 12-step as a participant, sponsor, and facilitator. docs.google.com/document/d/1dn9ny…/edit?usp=sharing The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT.
In this episode, Geoff Steurer interviews Michelle Linford, the founder and administrator for LDS Hope and Healing. She talks about patterns of healing she's seen as she's supported and connected with women in recovery from betrayal trauma. She wanted to access the same healing they had in their lives, so she began doing her own 12-step work. In this episode, she share lessons she's learned in both her own personal journey and witnessing the journey of hundreds of others in recovery. More on Michelle's background: Michelle's online volunteer work took an unexpected turn in late 2011 when search engine data showed the desperate need many LDS women had for help and support because of the sexual addiction/compulsion of a loved one. In response to that need, in January 2012, Michelle created HopeandHealingLDS.com (a blog and private forum) with the belief that if women knew they weren't alone, had others with whom they could connect, and had resources and information available to them, real healing could begin. Her motto was: "Let's use the tool that has brought so much pain to bring hope and healing to people!" In addition, inspired by her research about addiction recovery and the hope-filled stories of recovery from addicts and loved ones alike, Michelle chose to do 12-step work in her own life to find healing from shame, perfectionism, and fear-based living. She has been participating regularly in the Church’s 12-step program for six years, and is currently a facilitator in ARP. Michelle has a bachelor's degree in Psychology and an MBA, with an emphasis in organizational behavior and change. She is the Executive Director of EPIK Deliberate Digital, and is a member of the prevention task force (the Safeguard Alliance) for the National Center on Sexual Exploitation. Michelle and her husband, Matt, are the grateful parents of three, beginning the tender stage of launching their children into the world. In addition to being an ARP facilitator, Michelle also is grateful to serve as a facilitator in the Church's Self-Reliance Services program. Additional Resources from Michelle https://www.hopeandhealinglds.com/2017/02/14/our-favorite-resources/ Slides link (this was a presentation last February on dating in a pornified world at a BYU Women's Services conference last year): https://wsr.byu.edu/sites/default/files/u3/Patterns%2C%20Principles%2C%20and%20Power%20-%20Final.pdf This is a podcast with LDS Perspectives http://www.ldsperspectives.com/tag/michelle-linford/ https://ldsmag.com/author/michelle-linford/ http://realintent.org/out-of-the-corner/ http://realintent.org/healing/ This is a compilation of thoughts and resources that assimilate learning from her role at EPIK, at HopeAndHealing (including all that research), and in her own personal experience in 12-step as a participant, sponsor, and facilitator. https://docs.google.com/document/d/1dn9nybwJn1wO8b8fG2Oz6T5HqLD3PnqyxkMj9oOQLJI/edit?usp=sharing The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT.
In this episode, Geoff Steurer shares the second part of his interview with Jaylynn, a woman who was betrayed by her husband's secretive pornography use. She talks about the healing process she's been involved with for the past few years. Program highlights include: - What her life is like now versus in the beginning of her journey - How the nature of her prayers has changed through this process of healing. - She talks about why she began helping other women and wanted to talk openly about this problem. - She shares why she believes we need to be more open about our personal struggles and share our stories with others - She identifies two things that have made the biggest difference in her marriage - Why “surrendering” is more of an active process than passively giving up. - She identifies the initial boundaries she set up in the beginning of her recovery process and how she learned to set healthy boundaries. - She shares advice she gives bishops who are working with betrayed women. - How women can get started in their recoveries, including the one thing a betrayed woman can do now to start the process of recovery Links from this episode: LDS 12-Step Program https://addictionrecovery.lds.org/?lang=eng https://salifeline.org/ Setting boundaries in recovery: https://utahcoalition.org/project/how-do-i-set-boundaries-in-recovery/ The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT.
In this episode, Geoff Steurer interviews Jaylynn, a woman who was betrayed by her husband's secretive pornography use. She talks about the healing process she's been involved with for the past few years. Program highlights include: - This process has taught her that people can change - Healing can’t be rushed. Forgiveness and trust will come with time - Getting triggered by past betrayals is her “new normal” and how she copes with this new reality - It’s normal and healthy to feel these strong emotions as part of the healing process - Why forgiving and forgetting isn’t a helpful approach for women who have been betrayed. - Why it’s important to slow down and heal thoroughly instead of trying to get better quickly - The nature of betrayal and how it overwhelmed her ability to cope with life - How to find peace regardless of what your addicted spouse chooses - Why making your addicted husband your focus creates more chaos. The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT.
In today’s Illuminate podcast, Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT continues his interview with Brandon Bryson who shares how he finally broke out of the hopeless cycle he’d been stuck in since he was a teenager. He had spent years trying to do things halfway and completely alone until he finally realized he was stuck in the same cycle. He had to make some dramatic changes to his environment and to his routines and reach out in completely honesty, but he says that’s made all the difference. Brandon also talks about the devastation he caused in his marriage and how he’s working to rebuild a strong bridge between himself and his wife. In this episode, Brandon shares: * Why he finally decided to come out of hiding and get help. * How he cycled in and out of abstaining, relapsing, hiding, and abstaining and finally confessing and surrendering his way of doing things and opened up to a more complete healing process. * Why getting “caught” versus “confessing on your own” makes recovery and rebuilding trust so much harder. * Why he had to completely overhaul his environment and his lifestyle so he could break the addiction cycle. * What it means to really change your heart. * How he began to help his wife heal after he had broken her heart for a third time.
Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT interviews Brandon, a man recovering from a decades long pornography addiction. In this episode: * Brandon share his most important advice to men struggling * He talks about the common excuses/reasons why men try and handle this on their own without getting help. * The role of agency in addiction - if we have the power to choose to stop, why can’t people just stop? * He talks about how early exposure and denial kept him from being healthy and honest about this as he grew into adulthood. * The importance about talking about this as parents and couples. * Brandon reveals his thought process for living a double life - pretending to be a worthy priesthood holder while secretly viewing pornography * Why forming a “band of brothers” in recovery is essential. Why telling one person about your struggle isn’t going to be enough to ensure long-term success. * Why you need a place outside of your marriage to talk about your struggles.
Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT, interviews an LDS couple who are in recovery from pornography addiction and betrayal trauma.
Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT, interviews an LDS couple who are in recovery from pornography addiction and betrayal trauma.