Live Your Best Marriage Podcast: Recent Episodes
Pesa and Whitney Shayo
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Over the course of thirteen years, we’ve encountered a few situations - related to race - that I would say were just completely unfair and wrong. In the early years of our relationship, relatives on both sides did NOT approve of us being together. We stood our ground and made it clear that we would be together no matter what. However, those situations were still very difficult and emotionally hard for us a couple. In this episode we will be offering advice for ways that you, as a couple can stand up to the injustice of being judged because you’re an interracial couple. https://liveyourbestmarriage.com/fom
What To Do When Inlaws Interfere If anyone knows how much it hurts when in-laws undermine and interfere, it’s me. There were times when I wished my husband would speak up and defend my status/authority as the wife, and especially, as the mom of our children. What do you do when a relative gives your child something that you never allow them to have? How do you react when your husband’s/wife’s side of the family behaves as though you don’t even exist? Unfortunately not all family members are respectful of boundaries, and even more unfortunate, not every spouse is adamant about keeping boundaries in place. We’ll be talking about ways to get the respect you deserve.
How To Better Communicate With Your Spouse When we exchange words with the person we love most, it can be challenging to know exactly how to react. Communication brings a whole new challenge: interpretation. How do you know the difference between verbal abuse and just being easily offended? In this episode we’ll share personal stories about challenges we face when communicating. Learn how you can benefit from reass
Invest In Your Marriage Have you ever thought about your marriage as an investment? The more you put in, the more you get out. If your relationship is falling short of your expectations, we recommend spending more time and energy on it. Suggested reading: “One Life Solution” by Dr. Henry Cloud - http://amzn.to/2xoxr5S
Is Resistance Keeping You From A Great Marriage? Have you ever wanted to accomplish something great, but it just never seems to happen? We definitely don’t think laziness is the problem...it’s resistance! Resistance holds back so many people from completing projects, and it also holds back a lot of couples from living the life they crave. In this episode, we’ll provide tips that we’ve learned on how to overcome resistance.
The War of Art by Steven Pressfield http://amzn.to/2jKoDEc
What's Your Communication Style? Many husbands and wives have completely different ways of expressing their thoughts and ideas. And that’s okay! It would be boring if we all had the exact same style of talking. However, in this episode, we’ll share some of the personal struggles we’ve gone through with communication and the differences in our cultures.
The Grass Is Greener On The Other Side Here at Live Your Best Marriage, we usually talk about couples who go through the minor irritations of marriage, but what happens when one spouse has completely checked out? When the problem moves from contemplating divorce to actual divorce, we want you to know that there is hope for you, and there is help that you can get to navigate your way through the situation.
The term “work spouse” has become more common recently, and the idea is absolutely repulsive.
Episode 78 Get To The Promised Land, Together. Do you ever feel like the arguments never end? When my husband tells me that he wants us to stop being petty and put our energy together for something positive, I’m reminded of a story in the bible. When Moses was leading people to the promised land, they all ended up wandering through the wilderness for 40 years. In this episode, we’ll talk about ways that you and your spouse can reach the “promised land” together.
Ideas For Date night Honestly, date night deserves a lot of the credit for saving our marriage. When times were rough, it was nice to have this as an activity to look forward to. In this episode, we’ll talk about different ways to spice up your date night.
Episode 76 Leading Separate Lives One of the most devastating situations for a marriage to face, is when husband and wife live separate lives. When your attention is focused on something or someone outside the home, your marriage loses the precious energy it needs in order to thrive. Proximity, as well as intimate conversations with someone at work, divert your focus away from the one person who truly matters. In this episode, we’ll talk about ways to implement more shared activities with your spouse.
Episode 75 The Secret To Success [Audio] Ahh, the freedom which comes from realizing that the secret to success is, there’s no secret. We wait for the perfect solution, and it never comes. We search for the perfect spouse...and frankly they don’t exist. Also in this episode, we talk about how truly wonderful it is to feel grateful. Find out how awesome this can be for your marriage.
Working with your spouse can be very rewarding in some of the most amazing ways. Through the ups and downs and frustrations, any couple can achieve results you’ve never dreamed of. Pesa and Whitney were viewed as the couple who would never be able to stay together. Now, 13 years later, we’re here to encourage all couples to stay hopeful - greatness is ahead of you.
Encouraging Bible Verses For Marriage In this uplifting episode, we hope that you enjoy the bible verses we share and become inspired. Encouraging bible verses for marriage is our way to let those who may be struggling right now, that it will get better.
Signs You Need To Visit A Marriage Counselor If you feel as though your marriage is struggling, then it probably is. If you and your spouse are talking less, or even keeping secrets, it’s a good indication the two of you need help from a neutral third party. Whatever the problem may be, we hope that signs you need to visit a marriage counselor will encourage you to seek help.
6 Ways To Avoid Arguments In A Marriage As a sneak peek to our latest free ebook, “21 Ways to Stop an Argument Before it Starts”, we’ll go over 6 ways to avoid an argument in this episode.
Be Sold On Your Spouse Once Again Deciding no matter what to be sold on your spouse means that there isn’t anything they’ll do to make you file for divorce. In this episode we’ll talk about how easy life becomes when you eliminate the option to leave.
4 Action Steps To A Better Marriage What does date night, more sex, texting, and working on a project together have in common? Improving your marriage. 4 action steps to a better marriage will help you discover how simple it can be to have a better relationship.
What To Consider Before Having An Affair If you’re marriage is struggling and you feel as though you’ve reached the point of no return, we’d like to discourage looking to have needs met elsewhere. Things are not always what they seem, and the temptations we face are not as glamorous as they seem. In this episode, we’ll discuss what to consider before having an affair.
7 Ways To Affair-Proof Your Marriage, Stop an affair We have been together for 13 years, and by the grace of God, managed to avoid infidelity. In this episode, we’ll talk about seven things we put into practice in order to stay close to one another.
5 Communication Tools To Save Your Marriage In this episode, we’ll share five of the communication tips which have helped our marriage the most. We’ve known about these techniques for a while, but it has taken us a few years to mature enough to the point of being able to implement.
WednesdayWisdom
Top 5 Parenting Habits For Raising Happy Kids. As stay at home parents to four children, we love it when people share their parenting tips! So, in this episode, we share five of our favorites! We hope that some of the ideas will be helpful, and also inspire you to create your own favorite habits.
Love Is The Way. What do you do, when you feel as though you’ve tried everything? In this episode, we’ll explore one of the best options that we learned from experience.
How To Have A Positive Attitude In Marriage. If having a great attitude can make life more enjoyable, then what about keeping a great attitude towards your marriage? In this episode, we’ll talk about practical steps you can take, start and implement today - so that you can experience the joy of a long happy marriage.
HowToKeepARelationshipNew As a hot trend on Twitter, we’ll discuss ways to keep your marriage new, and why it matters to make this such a priority. Why do break-ups happen? Usually it’s because the new wore off, and if “new” is the most desirable stage in a relationship, let’s make it happen!
To bless someone, simply means to show favor. Always find ways to show favor to the one person who means the most to you. The needs of your spouse should always be put ahead of the wants of relatives and friends. Even when your partner doesn’t reciprocate...just keep blessing
When we say ‘live your best marriage’, we cannot emphasize enough the fact that it is indeed yours. It’s best to avoid trying to keep up with someone else’s marriage. What works for others may not work well for your household.
Father’s Day was yesterday, and in this episode, Pesa is going to share some amazing advice with us on how to be a great dad. Raising strong kids starts with being a strong parent. #FathersDay
Whose side are you on? At all times, whatever the situation may be, let your spouse know that you will stand by them no matter what. It is easier to reach for the stars when you know that the one you love is in your corner supporting you.
When your marriage is in trouble and you’re desperate to save it, taking action is a must. In this episode, we’ll discuss three things you can do when you want to keep the precious bond you have.
Seeking freedom in all the wrong places only leads to bondage. Learn about the amazing freedom which comes from the beauty that commitment has to offer.
During the engagement, and when the marriage is still new, we usually don’t anticipate the frustrations which come from everyday life. No one is perfect, and disappointments will occur, so how do you react when reality sets in?
Whether you’re married, or not - doubt is something we all struggle with. In this episode, we’ll discuss different ideas for being able to overcome uncertainty.
Imagine what it will look like when you come out of the storm. When your relationship is restored, beauty comes from the bond which was strengthened.
When you reach the point of giving up, it looks as though there’s no hope. I’ve been there, and I’ll share what helped me continue building the relationship I have with my husband.
After so many years of resentment building up, the bitterness becomes overwhelming. Learn three of the tips you can practice in order to overcome resentment.
Many of us don’t question whether or not Facebook has a negative impact on our marriage. When our newsfeed is filled with images of opposite sex friends (shirtless gym pictures of guys, endless selfies of ladies in revealing clothing/bathing suits, etc.) it does NOT bring us closer to the person we married. Period.
Last weekend, Pesa and I fought, but we’ve moved forward. When a couple can disagree, or go through a tough situation, and come out of it without carrying a grudge, they make redemption a major part of their marriage.
We haven’t seen an overnight fix for marriage, yet. In this episode we’ll talk about three ways to connect and build a stronger bond one day at a time, so that you and your spouse will experience amazing results.
Questioning the intentions of your spouse creates a habit of assuming the worst. Learn the reasons why it is so vital to think positively about the things your spouse says and does - it could save your marriage.
People often ask us how they can know for sure, whether or not their marriage will last. In this episode we’ll discuss a few of the most helpful ways to ensure a long lasting, and happy marriage.
Pesa and I have enjoyed 13 happy years together and in this episode, we share three of the techniques we’ve used to keep our marriage strong.
Many of the fights that couples have, are the same ones over and over. Situations may seem to be unique, but the underlying cause of the problem is not different.
Focusing on blame is the natural inclination when our spouse says or does the wrong thing. However, we can learn to view the problem as something separate from their character, and attack it as a couple.
When couples don’t show unity, it doesn’t take long for others to assume the marriage isn’t strong. Learn how to safeguard your relationship by setting clear boundaries.
Attitude, Affirmation, and Attunement. Learn how to make the most of these three things and improve your marriage exponentially.
One way to ensure a happy marriage is being generous towards one another. Learn the many ways to be emotionally generous and see how much it impacts you and your spouse.
When one spouse is less passionate about something that truly matters to their partner, success in that area will be reach a ceiling. Learn ways to bridge the gap and go further - as a couple.
Learn how to handle and overcome intimidation, whether it’s at a family reunion, or even in a business setting.
We are super excited to say that this is truly the greatest communication episode yet. Learn ways to respond to conflict without conflict.
There is a need for tolerance in the world, and also in marriage. Imagine how nice it is to be treated the way you like to be treated. Let’s give that same courtesy to the person we married.
Not having the ability to reconcile is a major cause of divorce. Is redemption a part of your marriage? In this episode, we’ll talk about ways to pause and look at the big picture, so that an unwillingness to forgive does not come between you and your spouse.
Listen to your partner when they talk, and like the things that they like. Sounds easy right? Listening intently and respecting them enough to actually see their point of view takes work. We’ll discuss ways to show interest in your spouse and let them know they are respected.
Does it bother you when your partner reads and sends texts while you’re in the middle of a sentence? Learn ways to prevent others from crossing those invisible boundaries when technology interferes with your relationship.
The need to be recognized and appreciated is the greatest of the human needs. Learn how to meet the deepest human need, the craving to be appreciated.
Learn how to handle and overcome intimidation, whether it’s at a family reunion, or even in a business setting.
It’s nice to feel accepted for who you already are, especially by the one person who matters most. Learn the difference between encouraging your spouse to grow, and pushing them to change according to what your standards are.
Understanding the difference between a complaint and a criticism, can mean the difference between a happy marriage, or one filled with resentment.
After a tough battle against postpartum depression, it would be an understatement for us to say that stay at home parents need time to care for themselves, so that they will have enough energy to continue giving care.
Not that other things aren’t important, but your partner and children are more important. Getting advice from friends and relatives who have little understanding of the path you wish to take in life, can be detrimental to your marriage. Get tips for making sure that your decisions are a good fit for your family.
Being able to differentiate your partner from a problem they have caused, is huge. In this episode, we exchange ideas regarding ways that help us play fair, so that we can respond instead of react.
How To Deal With Disappointment In Your Marriage. When expectations are left unmet, it doesn’t take long for bitterness to start making its unpleasant appearance. Learn how to view disappointment from a different perspective.
Positivity In Marriage; At times, we forget how important it is to keep a positive attitude and that we made a commitment to bring out the best in one another. So, when negativity and pessimism take over the way a spouse views life, their marriage trajectory can go downhill, fast. Learn how to make forgiveness and love the center of your relationship and work to prevent a cynical outlook.
Keeping unity front and center as you make decisions will help you avoid the isolation that comes as a result of one person feeling left out.
In today's Podcast Pesa and Whitney Shayo will share how mindfulness and being present are huge for achieving happiness with your spouse. Learn tips that you can practice right along with your partner to move from having your mind full to being mindful.
The positive traits your spouse has - even the ones you find most attractive - can have a downside. Learn how to identify what your strengths and weaknesses are, as well as how to take advantage of them in ways that will benefit your marriage.
When couples disagree, it doesn’t take long for things to get heated. However, it is possible for both people to be correct about the same topic at the same time. Learn two tips you can use to have a discussion without anger and frustration taking over the conversation.
Be Crazy For Your Marriage
Show Notes
Episode 12 Be Crazy for Your Marriage
The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts http://amzn.to/2l6NIbb
Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs http://amzn.to/2kG1CjY
To have an awesome marriage it's important to remember that you are both on the same team, when working together. Does the bible say that men are superior to women? We have several bible verses that answer this question. Is it possible to achieve balance in your life? We try to shed some light on this issue.
In this episode of the Live your best marriage podcast, we will have tips on how to strengthen your marriage, conflict resolution and the have 3 tips to help reduce resentment in your marriage.
Two major threats to marriage are pornography and exhaustion. In this episode, we will talk about how to fireproof your marriage from these two things. Also the concept of leaving, cleaving and weaving as it relates to marriage. Finally, we will discuss the use of the word DIVORCE during family conflicts.
Shout out to our big supporters on twitter, In this episode we talk about Dr Gottman research on predicting divorce using the 4 horsemen! The realization that it does not take more energy to get a great marriage vs a mediocre one, it just depends where you direct your energy. Also we talk about our family's fall pictures and how it was a funny disaster. Finally Whitney talks about Mom's day out and the benefits it can have for moms with toddlers.
In today's episode, of Live Your Best Marriage Podcast by Pesa and Whitney Shayo will be discussing homeschooling, raising kids, bedtime and waking up horror stories, their marriage and how to have an awesome marriage while having a house full of kids.
In this episode, we will explore setting boundaries on your marriage and in the use of smartphones, snooping in marriage, how to keep your marriage strong. There is a BONUS near the end on how we get to keep the sizzle in our marriage. Keep in contact @PesaShayo and @WhitneyShayo
In this episode Pesa and Whitney (married for 11 years) talk about how they avoided a divorce during a difficult season which lasted a year. Also they take your questions from Twitter. LiveYourBestMarriage.com