Life from the Top of the Mind: Recent Episodes
Bill Crawford, Ph.D.
This series of video podcasts is based upon a system for success developed by psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford, (Ph.D.). The basic premise of this philosophy is that the reason we are less than effective is that the problems in our life trigger the release of certain stress-related chemicals that engage the lower 20% of our brain which is incapable of creative thinking. This results in feelings of stress, frustration, and the desire to either lash out or escape. What makes Dr. Crawford's "Top of the Mind" system unique and powerful is that it shows us how to change the chemical make-up of our body and shift to the upper 80% of our brain where we can access the clarity, confidence, and creativity necessary to bring our best to all aspects of life.
"What we aren't changing, we are choosing." ~ Laurie Buchanan and,
“What we condone we codify.” ~ Bill Crawford, PhD( https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Criticism can be effective when there is something that must be destroyed or dissolved, but it is capable only of harm when there is something to be built.” ~ Carl Jung (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Meaning isn’t something we discover, it is what we bring to life, either by choice or by chance.” ~ Bill Crawford, PhD (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Until we consciously choose the beliefs that affect our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, we will be driven by the unconscious, fear-based part of the brain.” ~ Bill Crawford, PhD (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“If you want to change your life, you must first change your mind and then change your brain… on purpose.” ~ Bill Crawford, PhD (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Never make your highest purpose, or the most important thing in your life something that is outside of your control." Bill Crawford, PhD (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Until we make 'who we are' more important than just what we do, we will always be at risk for feeling like we are never enough.” ~ Bill Crawford, PhD (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“If you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its life believing that it is stupid.” ~ Albert Einstein (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Artificial Intelligence may shape more of what we do, but only our human integrity, wisdom, and character will shape who we are." ~ Daniel Pink (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"We are what we repeatedly do. Success, therefore, is not an act but a series of habits that define who we are and determine the course of our life." ~ Adapted from Aristotle (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now." ~ a Chinese Proverb - Our kids need us to act. Teach Mental Health Now! (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Action without knowledge can be destructive, but knowledge without action can be demoralizing.” ~ Bill Crawford, PhD (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
”To understand ourself, we must understand our “selves,” or the parts of us that motivate our thoughts, decisions, and behaviors.” ~ Bill Crawford, PhD( https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Anticipatory Anxiety is worrying about some future event that we can’t affect in the present. The Anxiety and Depression Association of American calls it “Bleeding before you are cut.” ~ Adapted from the AADA (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"You can’t get people to access their best by pointing out their worst." ~ Bill Crawford PhD( https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Self-righteousness isn't about confidence. It's a reaction designed to protect someone from the fear of what it would mean to be wrong." ~ Bill Crawford PhD (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“It's not how much we give but how much love we put into giving." ~ Mother Teresa (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Most of the problems in life are because of one two reasons - we act without thinking, or we just think (and think) without acting." ~ Unknown (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Gratitude makes sense of the past, brings peace to the present, and creates a vision of the future.” ~ Melody Beattie (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Never make your highest purpose, or the most important thing in your life something that is outside of your control.” ~ Bill Crawford, PhD (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"The most powerful times in our lives can be the time between times, or life's transitions that give us the opportunity to choose." ~ Bill Crawford, PhD (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“When faced with conflicting thoughts and emotions, we must decide what to trust, what we fear, or what we know. What’s important is that this decision be made by the knowledgeable versus the anxious part of the brain.” ~ Bill Crawford, PhD https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/
“Procrastination or avoidance is just prolonged suffering disguised as safety.” ~ Whitney Goodman (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"We suffer from the illusion that the faster we run, the more likely we are to grasp happiness. The truth is that the velocity necessary for success rarely exceeds the rate of reflection." Sam Keen
"The way to encourage people to be accountable is to change the meaning to "the ability to be counted upon." ~ Bill Crawford, PhD (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"The #1 regret of those on their death bed: I wish I had the courage to live a life that was true to myself, versus the life that was expected of me." ~ Browny Ware (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“It is often the thought behind the thought, or the sponsoring thought, that truly causes how we think feel and act.” Bill Crawford, PhD
"Problems occur when we tie our peace of mind to another's state of mind." ~ Bill Crawford, Ph.D. Bill Crawford, PhD (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"When our worries and fears just don’t make sense, it’s possible we are trusting the part of the brain that doesn’t make sense… it just reacts." ~ Bill Crawford, PhD (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Don't blame the clown for acting like a clown... Ask why we keep going back to the circus?" ~ Unknown (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Never make your highest purpose, or the most important thing in your life something that is outside of your control." Bill Crawford, PhD (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Change isn't the problem. People can deal with change, they just can't deal with being changed." ~ Adapted from Peter Senge (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Great solutions include serenity and acceptance as the precursors to courage and change." ~ Bill Crawford, PhD (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Each day befriend a single fear, and the miscellaneous terrors of being human will never join together to form such a morass of vague anxiety that it rules your life from the shadows of the unconscious. We learn to fly not by being fearless, but by the daily practice of courage." ~ Sam Keen (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Avoid the words "have to" it says we have no choice. There are only three things we 'have to' do in this world... we have to be born, we have to die, and we have to live until we die. Everything else is a choice!" ~ Bill Crawford, PhD (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"How old would you be if you didn't know how old you were?" ~ Satchel Paige (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Our perspective, or the meaning that we attach to our stories we tell ourselves makes us either bitter or better. I suggest we do this by choice, and not by chance.” ~ Bill Crawford, PhD (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"We don't have to learn to react…it happens automatically. We do, however, want to learn to respond in a way that we would recommend to someone we love." ~ Bill Crawford, PhD (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"The past doesn't exist as a factual recounting of what happened, but as an experience that we are constantly recreating in our mind… which means we can use the past to change the present and the future." ~ Bill Crawford, PhD (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"A life of denial can often be a form of self-delusion. . .What are we pretending not to know?" ~ Ken Frogley (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will control your life!" ~ Carl Jung (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Sustained exhaustion is not a sign of determination, it is a signal that we have depleted our resources, and are no longer able to function at our best." ~ Bill Crawford, PhD (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"When our purpose becomes avoidance, our life becomes a void." ~ Bill Crawford, PhD (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Stress is a chemical reaction in our brain and body designed to prepare us for fight or flight. These chemicals do not exist in the situation but in us. No situation is “full of stress,” and therefore, there's no such thing as a stressful situation.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Freedom isn't about having permission to do whatever we want...it's about having the courage to do whatever fills our life with meaning." ~ Bill Crawford, PhD (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“That’s just common sense” is used by many to justify their perspective. However, how we “sense” or understand life varies greatly from individual to individual. Therefore, rather than needing to justify our “sense” as “common,” how about we just ensure that our perceptions are purposeful, and congruent with what we would recommend to someone we love? ~ Bill Crawford, PhD (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"The best response to any insult or unwarranted criticism is to ask a question. Curiosity and confidence always go hand in hand. It does, of course, have to be the right question." ~ Bill Crawford, PhD (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"When our worries and fears just don't make sense, it's possible we are trusting the part of the brain that doesn't make sense… it just reacts." ~ Bill Crawford, PhD (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Often, the best gift isn’t what we buy, but who we are, and what we say and do with those we love.” ~ Bill Crawford, PhD (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"When you dance, your purpose is not to get to a certain place on the floor. It's to enjoy each step along the way." ~ Wayne Dyer (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Often reactions to life aren’t the problem… it’s our reactions to our reactions that get in the way of our clarity, confidence, and creativity.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Ask yourself every moment, 'Is this how I want to be thinking, feeling and acting?'…and only continue when the answer is yes.” ~ Adapted from Richard Bach (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"The question to ask each night before you go to bed: If I live every day the same way I did today, what kind of future would that create?" ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Sometimes our ability to accept what we can’t change is tied to our willingness to change what we can.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Autonomy, Purpose, & Mastery: If you are having difficulty creating the life you want, chances are one or more of these are missing." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Meaning isn't something we discover, it is what we bring to life, either by choice or by chance." - Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"One key to successful problem solving is knowing the how to choose between worry and awareness." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"When feeling angry, worried or frustrated, what if we are asking ourselves the wrong questions?" ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Stress is what happens when your gut says 'no way,' but your mouth says 'no problem'." ~ Unknown (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Regardless of the problem, as long as our solution requires someone else to change, we will never know the power and promise of self-determination.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"The test of our humanity, is the ability to have compassion for the people we know well enough not to like." ~ Adapted from the play After Ashley by Gina Gionfriddo (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Sometimes knowing what to do is knowing when to stop." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"The thing that kills motivation is, when thinking of a goal, people want to be the person who has done it versus the person doing it." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“When faced with conflicting thoughts and emotions, we must decide what to trust, what we fear, or what we know. What’s important is that this decision be made by the knowledgeable versus the anxious part of the brain!” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Given that students are experiencing increasing anxiety today, isn’t up to us to give them the information and tools they need to succeed?" ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“In order for people to take responsibility for their actions, we need to remove the fear of blame and shame from the equation.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place." ~ George Bernard Shaw (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Patience isn’t simply the ability to wait, but the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting.” ~ Joyce Meyer (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"The problem with anxiety is that its main byproduct is more anxiety." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Lacking a sense of psychological safety, people shut down…often without realizing it. They are less likely to seek or accept feedback, and also less likely to experiment, to discuss errors, and to speak up about potential problems.” ~ Christine Porath (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“We can’t have constructive conversations with others while having destructive conversations with ourselves.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"When we put problems on the back burner, often they just sit there and burn." ~ Georgia Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Criticism can be effective when there is something that must be destroyed or dissolved, but it is capable only of harm when there is something to be built." ~ Carl Jung (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Under all anger is fear, and under all fear is fear of loss.” ~ Unknown (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"To deal successfully with difficult people and situations we must first see them as an opportunity to practice defining who we are." - Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"The need to be perfect is often driven more by fear of failure or disapproval than the joy of achieving one's goals." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"You can't create a solution-focused conversation from a problem-focused mindset." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"To influence ourself, we must understand our "selves," or the parts of us that motivate our thoughts, decisions, and behaviors, and then draw upon them as needed." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Bitterness does more harm to the vessel in which it is stored... than the vessel on which it is poured." ~ Anonymous (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Never make your highest purpose, or the most important thing in your life something that is outside of your control." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"When we take no responsibility for any aspect of our past, we limit our ability to respond in the present and the future." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Never define people or situations in terms of their effect on you, unless you want to give them the power to make you feel that way." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Stress is what happens when your gut says 'no way,' but your mouth says 'no problem'." ~ Unknown (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Leaders (and parents) must either invest a reasonable amount of time attending to fears and feelings or squander an unreasonable amount of time trying to manage ineffective and unproductive behavior." ~ Brené Brown (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Problems occur when we tie our peace of mind to another's state of mind." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"You don't have to attend every argument to which you are invited." ~ Unknown (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"In this new connection economy your success is no longer about your ability to simply do what you are told, and do it well." ~ Adapted from Seth Godin (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"The problem with anxiety is that its main byproduct is more anxiety." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place." ~ George Bernard Shaw (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"You don't have to become something that you aren't to become better than you are." ~ Sidney Poitier (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
The Four Fold Way
1. Show up
2. Pay attention to the meaningful
3. Say your truth without judgement
4. Be open to, but not attached to the outcome
~ Angeles Arrien (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Drama doesn't just walk into our life. We either invite it, create it, or keep it alive by associating with it." ~ Adapted from Brooke Hampton (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"When deciding what to do next, we can always ask: Does this thought, emotion, or behavior bring me closer to or take me further away from my center? ~ Adapted from Stephen Gilligan, Ph.D. (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Often, the best gift isn’t what we buy, but who we are, and what we say and do with those we love.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“In order to break the cycle of stress and frustration we must first be aware of the problem and then turn it into the practice field.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Sleep is simply a chemical change in our brain and body (melatonin) - It’s not a place we go, it is a state of being that we fall into.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Until we consciously choose the beliefs that affect our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, we will be driven by the unconscious, fear-based part of the brain." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"You can’t make a good deal with a bad person.” ~ Warren Buffet (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“To find the true cause of how we think and feel, find the ‘sponsoring thought’ that created the interpretation that influenced our experience of life.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“We all know that trust is the foundation for any meaningful conversation and/or relationship… what we often don’t know is the neuroscience required to make this happen.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“If we consume simply what we are fed with respect to ‘the news,’ we run the risk of being inflamed versus informed.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"To achieve anything, we must have three things, a clear purpose, a pathway, and the persistence necessary to see it through." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Those who are constantly at war with others are seldom at peace with themselves." ~ William Hazlitt (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“In order to be influential with others we must be coming from the best of who we are and reaching for the best of who they are.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"The Key to being heard and understood is to ensure we are engaging their receptive brain versus driving them further into the resistant brain." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"In order to prevent someone from attacking our defense we need to know the difference between defending and being defensive.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Anxiety is a signal that something needs to change…. Suffering is when we don't make the change." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Until we realize the trust cause of exhaustion, we will be forever trying to change those aspects of life over which we have no control.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Want to know how to keep people from jerking your chain? Don't give your chain to jerks!" ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Every time we interact with our children, we are teaching them something. This means that we can't teach respect by being disrespectful." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“We can’t teach our kids self-control when they are upset until they see us practicing self-control when we are upset.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“If we consume simply what we are fed with respect to ‘the news,’ we run the risk of being inflamed versus informed.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Sometimes we stay in Hell a long time because we have learned the names of the streets." ~ Michael Levine (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Dr. Crawford's master class was simply life changing. I feel like I'm already approaching the way I handle stress completely differently, and it hasn't even been a week since the class!". ~ Texas State University Student (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Our 'emotional wake' is how we affect others after we have left the room. Let's make sure we are creating this effect on purpose." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"When you're not used to being confident, confidence feels like arrogance. When you're used to being passive, assertiveness feels like aggression. When you're not used to getting your needs met, prioritizing yourself feels selfish. Your comfort zone is not a good benchmark." ~ Dr. Vassilia Binensztok (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“A Life lived by choice is a life of conscious action. A life lived by chance is a life of unconscious reaction.” ~ Neale Walsch (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Some people won’t change until it becomes too painful not to.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Never make the most important thing in your life something that is out of your control." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"What we aren't changing, we are choosing" ~ Laurie Buchanan (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks.” ~ Winston S. Churchill (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“In order to become more influential in our life and the lives of others, we must not only become clear about why we think and feel a certain way, but how to change those thoughts and emotions to ones that are more congruent with the life we want to create.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“People generally do not disengage from important discussions because they want to. They do so because there is no process in place to drive engagement and solution-focused conversations.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Our unsolicited advice often comes across as a lack of confidence in their judgment, knowledge, or ability to learn." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Healthy optimism simply as the belief that the future will be better than the past, and that I have confidence in my ability to influence the process." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Action without knowledge can be destructive, but knowledge without action can be demoralizing." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Until we learn to take care of ourselves the way we would take care of someone we love, we will forever be at the disadvantage of being taken care of by those who don’t know what we need or what makes us worthy.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"When we define difficult people and situations in terms of their effect on us (annoying, frustrating, irritating, and depressing) we give them the power to define us." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"The difference between perfectionism and healthy striving is the difference between improvement and approval. Healthy striving is an internal process designed to promote growth, while perfectionism is an external focus designed to obtain approval from others and is primarily fueled by the fear of not being enough.” ~ Adapted from Brené Brown (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Honesty isn't the best policy when it is driven by frustration, resentment, hurt, or anger because it is likely to trigger frustration, resentment, hurt, or anger in others." ~ Adapted from Brené Brown (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"We must be willing to be wrong in order to trust what we believe to be right." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Criticism can be effective when there is something that must be destroyed or dissolved, but it is capable only of harm when there is something to be built." ~ Carl Jung (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Just as we are to avoid the four horsemen of the apocalypse, we should also avoid the four “P’s” of anxiety and depression… the need to please, perform, prove, and perfect.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Honesty isn't always just saying the truth, sometimes it's about facing the truth. A life of confusion can often be a form of self-delusion. . .What are we pretending not to know?" ~ Ken Frogley (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
““Neuroscience tells us that our state of mind affects our body’s ability to fight off illness and get the sleep we need. Therefore, we must be purposeful about the former to be effective in the latter.” ~ Bill Crawford” (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“You can’t make a good deal with a bad person.” ~ Warren Buffett (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“In order to become more influential in our experience of life, we must become more selective to whom we allow inside our heads.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Empathy isn't just understanding another's position, it's connecting to the emotions that underpin that experience which is critical if we want to be influential with others." ~ Adapted from Brené Brown (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Any powerful idea is absolutely fascinating and absolutely useless until we choose to use it because behavior validates belief.” ~ Richard Bach (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"What we condone we codify." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“In order to influence our experience of life, we must have a deeper understanding of how the mind and body affect each other, as well as, a system for influencing this process.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"The only thing complaining does is convince other people that you are not in control." ~ Unknown (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Fear of failure is not something we are born with, but a fear that is learned and must be unlearned if we want to become more influential in our lives, and the lives of others.” Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Not being understood is a signal that there is much more to understand.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"True confidence is the ability to listen to anyone or anything without losing your temper or your perspective." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“The Brain doesn’t know the difference between a real and imagined event. Therefore, if it is out of your hands, put it our of your mind.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
“Optimism is a strategy for making a better future. Because, unless you believe that the future can be better, you are unlikely to step up and take responsibility for making it so.” ~ Noam Chomsky (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
“When something reminds us of a traumatic incident in the past, the brain reacts as if the traumatic event is happening in the present.” ~ Adapted from Bessel van der Kolk (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
“You can’t make people better by making them feel worse.” ~ Adapted from Pam Leo (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"In order to feel insulted by others, we must first value their opinion over our own… why would we do that?" ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Until we recognize that panic attacks are the result of a chemical change in our body triggered by a misinterpretation of the middle brain, we will forever be at the mercy of these frightening experiences.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Trying to control everything and everyone will almost always result in our feeling ‘out of control.’” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
“If there is one thing that is certain, it’s that we will always be dealing with uncertainty. The challenge, therefore, is to become certain about what we can know and control, which are the qualities and characteristics we are bringing to life.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Questions are the search engine for the brain. Make sure you are searching the right data base.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
“When the storms of life hit, the resilient adjust their sails.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
“Our frame of mind is determined by our frame of reference… best to create both of these by choice versus by chance.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"When people are being defensive, they aren’t just defending their position, they are defending their judgement… they are defending themselves!” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will control your life!” ~ Carl Jung (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"While we are not responsible for other people's reactions, we do play a role in how their brain interprets what we do and say, and this will determine our influence." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Self-righteousness isn't about confidence. It's a reaction designed to protect someone from the fear of what it would mean to be wrong." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Things that matter most must never be at the mercy of things that matter least." ~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Our 'emotional wake' is how we affect others after we have left the room. Let's make sure we are creating this effect on purpose." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
“There are too many people in the world today who decide to live disappointed rather than risk feeling disappointment.” ~ Brené Brown (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
“Physiologically, it simply doesn’t matter whether our anger or resentment is justified. The body doesn’t make moral judgments about feelings… it just reacts.” ~ Adapted from Doc Lew Childre, Jr. (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
“Nothing is meaningless… it’s how we assign meaning to the past that determines how we experience the present, and future.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
“All of life is a cycle of cause and effect. In order to break the cycle of stress and frustration we must do more than just change the cause or change the effect… we must become the cause.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"If our goal is to be influential, we must first ensure that those we wish to influence can't put 'You Stupid Idiot' on the end of anything we say." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
“Neuroscience tells us that our state of mind affects our body’s ability to fight off illness and get the sleep we need. Therefore, we must be purposeful about the former to be effective in the latter.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
“While we are not responsible for other people’s reactions, we do play a role in how their brain interprets what we do and say, and this will determine our influence.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
“As long as we use shame as a driver for self-improvement, or to learn from the past, we will forever be trying to do good by feeling bad… not a very effective strategy.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
“In order to have as much influence as possible in our life and the lives of others, we must be careful (full of care) not to mistake the “what” (or the triggers in our life) for the “why” (the cause, or reason we react the way we do).” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
“When we give unimportant people the power to trigger us, we make them the most important person in our life!” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"When convincing others, unless what you are saying resonates with how they see the world, what they care about, and how they see themselves, the only thing you are convincing them of is that you don’t know anything about them." ~ Adapted from Lisa Cron (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Regardless of the problem, as long as our solution requires someone else to change, we will never know the power and promise of self-determination." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"All of life is a cycle of cause and effect. In order to break the cycle of stress and frustration we must do more than just change the cause or change the effect… we must become the cause." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"When our purpose becomes avoidance, our life becomes a void." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"We must be willing to be wrong in order to trust what we believe to be right." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
“It’s not what we feel, but what we feed, that creates our experience of life.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
“The question that will stop any argument is, ‘Do you really want to understand my position, or do you just want to convince me that I’m wrong?’” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
“Anger can be a signal that something needs to change… however, it is often not the most effective energy to trust in making the change.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"The first key in being able to influence others, is to ensure that our insistence isn't creating more resistance." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn't know before you learned it." ~ Maya Angelou (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
“Fear of public speaking is like any fear… it is a learned perspective designed to keep us safe from failure and embarrassment by making us so anxious that we choose avoidance over engagement… Not something we would recommend to someone we love.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"In order to become more influential in our experience of life, we must become more selective to whom we allow inside our heads." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Every thought, emotion, and action is a statement about who we are, and who we are becoming. Why not make this statement 'On Purpose'?" ~ Neale Walsch (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Until we know the difference between stress and distress, we won't know what and when to change." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"In terms of teaching our children to be successful in the never-enough world, the question isn't "are we parenting the right way," as it is: "Are we the adult that we want our child to grow up to be?" Adapted from Brené Brown, Ph.D. (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"When our purpose becomes avoidance, our life becomes a void." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“When feelings run deep and positions are entrenched, then just listening often isn’t enough to move the conversation forward.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"When the alarm bell of the emotional brain keeps signaling that you are in danger, no amount of insight will silence it." ~ From The Body Keeps Score by Bessel van der Kolk (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"The reason some people get so defensive is not because they are defending their position…they are defending their judgment… they are defending themselves!” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
:Solution-focused questions about the future, that combine what is important to the other person with what is important to us, are the key to successful conflict resolution.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"The truth is that kids don’t like to feel bad. It goes against what they love which is to have fun and experience joy. Therefore, the key to helping them manage their emotions is first showing them how we manage ours and then making the process of influencing how we feel enjoyable.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"In order to become more influential in our life and the lives of others, we must not only become clear about why we think and feel a certain way, but how to change those thoughts and emotions to ones that are more congruent with the life we want to create." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"We have to believe we are enough in order to say, "Enough!" ~ Brené Brown (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"When our worry is feeding our anxiety, or our anxiety is feeding our worry, we need to stop the feeding frenzy and shift our focus from the problem to the solution, because it's not what we feel, but what we feed that will create our experience of life." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“While we are not responsible for other people’s reactions, we do play a role in how their brain interprets what we do and say, and this will determine our influence.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Confidence is the ability to understand another's perspective without needing to accept or reject it in order to move from conflict to consensus." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"When the storms of life hit, the resilient adjust their sails." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"If we don't pay attention to our focus, or what we are paying attention to… we will never know if the payment is worth the cost." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Until we understand why we react to certain situations with stress, anger, or frustration, we will not have the clarity necessary to deal with life from a place of confidence, creativity, or compassion.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Physiologically, it simply doesn’t matter whether our anger or resentment is justified. The body doesn’t make moral judgments about feelings… it just responds.” ~ Adapted from Doc Lew Childre, Jr. (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Core Values are only truly valuable when taken off of the wall and turned into behaviors that are embraced by all.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“You cannot have an argument with a fully conscious person.” ~ Eckhart Tolle (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“If buttons are to be pushed, let’s ensure we are doing the pushing, and the buttons represent what we want in ourselves and others.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Until we switch to asking solution-focused questions, we will be stuck in the problem-focused part of the brain." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Coping with change is much like just 'managing' stress...while better than the alternative, it will only allow you to survive versus thrive." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"To be heard and understood by anyone we need to first be perceived as someone that they trust.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"When our need to be seen as knowledgeable gets in the way of our ability to be seen as caring, our connections suffer." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Our frame of mind is determined by our frame of reference… best to create both of these by choice versus by chance.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"A life of choice is a life of conscious action, while a life of chance is a life of unconscious reaction. Unless we choose one, we will experience the other.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
”Helpful advice, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder. It must be seen as healing before it can be experienced as helpful.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Optimism is simply the belief that the future will be better than the past, and that I have confidence in my ability to influence the process." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"When day comes, we ask ourselves, where can we find light in this never-ending shade?
…there is always light, if only we're brave enough to see it…
If only we're brave enough to be it" ~ Amanda Gorman (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
""With great power comes great responsibility." ~ Spiderman (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Feeling powerless is a signal that we have given our power to people or situations that don't deserve the gift." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"The key to dealing with adversity and worry is first to become clear about the power of gratitude and optimism." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Until we teach our kids to self-regulate, we will be stuck trying to reason with their unreasonable brain, which will only leave everyone stuck in the cycle of conflict.” Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“When feeling rushed or anxious, rather than speeding up, try slowing down… just by 2%.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Sometimes we stay in Hell a long time because we have learned the names of the streets." ~ Michael Levine (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“In order to resolve (re-solve) the past versus continuing to relive it, we will need to access the part of the brain that solves problems versus remaining stuck in the part of the brain that continues to bring up painful memories thinking this will keep us safe.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Defining the people and situations in our lives as annoying, frustrating, irritating, and depressing only has us set up to feel annoyed, frustrated, irritated, and depressed.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"We can’t claim what we don’t name.” ~ Adapted from Brené Brown (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"One key to having peace of mind is having a high tolerance for ambiguity." ~ Dr. Sam Buser (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Narcissism is the shame-based fear of being ordinary.” ~ Brené Brown (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Regardless of the situation, as long as our solution requires someone else to change, we will never know the power and promise of self-determination." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Until we learn to create the sort of interactions that trigger psychological safety in others, we will forever be fighting the neurobiology of suspicion and resistance.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"You will never resolve a conflict by fighting another’s existing reality." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"The only time a mistake becomes a failure is when we look for someone to blame." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Be the kind of person you wished for, when no one was there for you.” ~ Nikita Gil (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“One question that can stop almost any argument is…are you wanting to understand my position, or do you just want to convince me that I’m wrong?” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"If we consume simply what we are fed with respect to 'the news,' we run the risk of being inflamed versus informed." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"In order to trust our own judgement, we must first determine if we are accessing the trustworthy part of who we are." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Anger can be a signal that something needs to change… however, it is often not the most effective energy to trust in making the change.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"A Life lived by choice is a life of conscious action. A life lived by chance is a life of unconscious reaction." ~ Neale Walsch (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“To create solution-focused conversations, we must be truly focused on the solution and the future, not the problem and the past.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“In order to deal with difficult people effectively, we must be coming from the ‘effective’ (versus the reactive) brain.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Dealing successfully with difficult people initially requires us being aware of two things… what we want to bring to the conversation… and what we want to bring out in others.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Until we understand the 'why' behind another's resistance, we will be forever stuck in a brainstem debate about who's right.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Compassion doesn’t make us more vulnerable to manipulation any more than understanding makes more vulnerable making bad decisions.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“When an argument is generating more heat than light, it’s time to stop fanning the flame.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"In order to break the cycle of stress, anxiety, and resentment, we must shift from trying to stop the problem, to starting the solution by accessing the clear, confident, creative part of the brain." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Any powerful idea is absolutely fascinating and absolutely useless until we choose to use it.” ~ Richard Bach (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Outrage is a natural, normal, heathy response to an outrageous event (especially when compared to apathy or indifference), and can be effective in initiating change. Rage, on the other hand, is an out of control, lower-brain reaction that can have us making decisions that we would not recommend to someone we love.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Anger and Outrage are valuable signals that something needs to change. However, they become less effective when used as the drivers of that change." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“In order to influence our experience of life, we must have a deeper understanding of how the mind and body affect each other, as well as, a system for influencing this process.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Grieving isn’t ‘losing it’… it’s finding it!” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"What we need is a GPS for life, or a system that shows where we are and where we want to go, and gives us turn by turn, step-by-step instructions on how to get there." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"We cannot serve from an empty vessel." ~ Eleanor Brown (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"In order to regain control, or have as much influence in our experience of life as possible, we must be willing to start where we have the most control, and make sure we know the difference between our circle of influence and our circle of concern." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"One key to having peace of mind is having a high tolerance for ambiguity." ~ Dr. Sam Buser (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"In order to reach the destination that we most desire, we must choose what to trust to show us the way." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Clarity, Confidence and Creativity: Strategies for Leaders (and everyone else) to Reduce Stress” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“In order to deal with the emotions triggered by COVID-19, we must be clear about the neuroscience behind the what, the why, and the how. What do we find ourselves thinking and feeling? Why is this happening, and how can we have more influence over these thoughts and emotions going forward?” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Neuroscience tells us that our state of mind affects our body’s ability to fight off illness, therefore, we must be purposeful about the former to be effective in the latter.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Problems cannot be solved at the same level of awareness that created them." ~ Albert Einstein (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Whatever we are not changing, we are choosing.” ~ Laurie Buchanan (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Regret acknowledges that I made a mistake. Shame says that I AM a mistake, and guilt is what others use to try to make us feel ashamed." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Don't take criticism from someone you would never go to for advice." ~ Unknown (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“You can’t make people better by making them feel worse.” ~ Adapted from Pam Leo (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“If it’s out of your hands, put it out of your mind!” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"If you want to change your life, you must change your mind and change your brain… on purpose." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Why are people so defensive? Because they aren't just defending their position, they are defending their judgement… they are defending themselves." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Action without knowledge can be destructive, but knowledge without action can be demoralizing." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Influence is the art of making a point without inflicting a wound.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Knowing what I know now, how would I do this differently in the future?" ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“We must be willing to be wrong in order to trust what we believe to be right.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Having a baby no more makes one a good parent than having a baby grand piano makes one an accomplished pianist.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"It's not what we feel, but what we feed, that creates our experience of life." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“While choosing the devil we know over the devil that we don’t know may seem like an effective strategy, when all is said and done, we still may find ourselves living in Hell.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Don’t blame the clowns for acting like clowns… ask yourself, why do you keep going to the circus?” ~ Unknown (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“If we don’t heal our wounds from the past, we will bleed all over people who didn’t cut us.” ~ Unknown (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
”Never Make the most important thing in your life something that is out of your control.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"In order to become more influential in our experience of life, we must become more selective to whom we allow inside our heads." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Until we know the difference between stress and distress, we won’t know what and when to change.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"What we condone, we codify!" ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Until we are trusted, our ability to influence others will be limited or nonexistent.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Until we know the true cause of our stress, frustration, and anxiety… we won't be able to do anything about it." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"In order to influence others to do and be their best, we must make a distinction between whether we are going for trust and cooperation…or obedience. Trust and cooperation create solution-focused conversations and build successful relationships…obedience is what you teach your dog." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"When the alarm bell of the emotional brain keeps signaling that you are in danger, no amount of insight will silence it." ~ From The Body Keeps Score by Bessel van der Kolk (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Feeling out of control and being shamed for those feelings is probably one of the most distressing feelings there is… especially if you are a kid.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“When worry and/or trauma hijack our imagination, they turn one of the most powerful tools we have for happiness and success against us.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“While we are not responsible for other people’s reactions, we do play a role in how their brain interprets what we do and say, and this will impact our influence.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
""You can't make a good deal with a bad person." ~ Warren Buffett" (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"The first thing we need to influence if we want to influence others is our state of mind." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“While understanding is necessary, it doesn’t necessarily mean agreement.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“In order to feel insulted by others, we must first value their opinion over our own… why would we do that?” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Change isn't the problem. People can deal with change, they just can't deal with being changed." ~ Adapted from Peter Senge (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
As Robert Burns said, "The best laid plans of mice and men oft go astray." So, let's make our plans, for sure, but always remember that our happiness and success is not about what happens in the future, but who we are now, and the qualities and characteristics we bring to dealing with the unknown. ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Until we can ask the right questions, we will rarely, if ever, find the right answers." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Until we shift our focus from trying to change the world around us so that it no longer "exhausts us," to triggering the chemicals in our brain and body that support our energy and effectiveness, we will forever be at the mercy of people and things that are out of our control.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Stress, anxiety, anger, and frustration are signals that something needs to change… Suffering is when we don’t make the change.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Until we make “who we are” more important than just what we do, we will always be at risk for being never enough.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"In order to be effective with others, we must know the difference between defending one's self and being defensive, and when (if ever) to use each." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"True empathy isn't simply understanding another's experience, it's connecting to the emotions that underpin that experience." ~ Adapted from Brene' Brown (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Never make the most important thing in your life something that is beyond your control.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Anxiety is a signal that something needs to change…. Suffering is when we don't make the change." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Patience isn't simply the ability to wait, but the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting." ~ Joyce Meyer (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“To achieve anything, we must have a clear purpose, a pathway, and the persistence necessary to see it through.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Wherever perfectionism is driving us, fear of not measuring up and shame are always riding shotgun.” ~ Adapted from Brene’ Brown (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"We will never get others to trust our best by pointing out their worst." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Until we are able to understand the neuroscience behind our communications with others, and frame our suggestions in a way that they hear as valuable, our advice will tend to go unheeded and unheard." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Surviving a breakup is hard - Especially if you are the one being 'broken up with'." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Criticism can be effective when there is something that must be destroyed or dissolved, but it is capable only of harm when there is something to be built." ~ Adapted from Carl Jung (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Until we recognize that panic attacks are the result of a chemical change in our body triggered by a specific part of the brain, we will forever be at the mercy of these frightening experiences.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Fear of public speaking is like any fear… it is a learned perspective designed to keep us safe from failure and embarrassment by making us so anxious that we choose avoidance over engagement… Not something we would recommend to someone we love.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Fear of failure is not something we are born with, but a fear that is learned and must be unlearned if we want to become more influential in our lives, and the lives of others.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Core Values are only truly valuable when taken off of the wall and turned into behaviors that are embraced by all." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"In order to become effective leaders, or become more influential in our lives and the lives of others, we must first master the concept of ‘internal leadership." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“In dealing with difficult situations, knowing what to say and how to say it can be the difference between creating meaningful solutions versus simply continuing to argue about the problem.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Are we worth taking care of? Until we are able to answer this question in the affirmative and take care of ourselves as we would take care of those we love, then the quality of our living and giving will be diminished." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Ask yourself every moment, 'Is this how I want to be thinking, feeling and acting?'…and only continue when the answer is yes.” ~ Adapted from Richard Bach
(https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“When our need to be seen as knowledgeable gets in the way of our ability to be seen as caring, our connections suffer.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Until we know the true cause of our stress, frustration, and anxiety… we won’t be able to do anything about it.” - Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"To be heard and understood by anyone we need to first speak their language." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"We will only change when what we want becomes more important than what we are afraid of." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"The only thing complaining does is convince other people that you are not in control." ~Unknown (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"I will not 'should on' myself today." ~ Unknown (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Let's not miss out on our life just because we are too busy scrolling through someone else's." ~ Adapted from Mel Robbins (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Until we minimize the impact of difficult people who aren't important, we will never be able deal effectively with those who are." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"We don't have to be selfless to avoid being selfish." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Have you ever wondered why we have toenails? I mean, don't they seem rather useless?” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
Until we are trusted, our ability to influence others will be limited or nonexistent. ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Negative habits are like chains that, at first, are often too light to be felt…until they feel too heavy to be broken." ~ Adapted from Warren Buffet (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Our reactions to life aren't the problem… it's our reactions to our reactions that get in the way of our clarity, confidence, and creativity.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Physiologically, it simply doesn’t matter whether our anger or resentment is justified. The body doesn’t make moral judgments about feelings…it just responds.” ~ Adapted from Doc Childre (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"One thing that holds us back is fearing our weaknesses more than having confidence in our strengths." ~ Adapted from the book "Now Discover Your Strengths" by Marcus Buckingham and Donald O. Clifton (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/
“Autonomy, Purpose, & Mastery: If you are having difficulty creating the life you want, chances are one or more of these are missing.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Those who are constantly at war with others are seldom at peace with themselves.” ~ William Hazlitt (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Until we understand the true cause of our thoughts and emotions (and the thoughts and emotions of others), we will never know who and what to trust." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"You cannot have an argument with a fully conscious person." ~ Eckhart Tolle (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Change isn't the problem. People can deal with change, they just can't deal with being changed." ~ Adapted from Peter Senge (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Until we can understand and partner with the vulnerability that relationships trigger, we will never be able to create the relationship of our dreams.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"There are two times that we will never be able to control…what has happened in the past, and what will happen in the future. Better to focus on the only time we can truly influence, which is now." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"You will never get to your destination if you stop and throw rocks at every dog that barks." ~ Winston Churchill (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Our 'emotional wake' are the stories that are told about us when we are not around." ~ Adapted from Susan Scott (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Until we are able to get others to shift from their resistant brain to their receptive brain, they will never truly hear and understand what we are wanting them to know.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Knowing who, when, and what to trust is hard until we are coming from the clear, confident, creative part of the brain." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Never mix bad words with a bad mood. We will have many opportunities to change a mood, but the words we speak will live in their minds forever." ~ adapted from Pinterest (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“We don’t create the life we want by faking anything. Instead, we access the best of who we are and practice it until it becomes our new habit.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"If our goal is to be influential, we must first ensure that those we wish to influence can't put 'You Stupid Idiot' on the end of anything we say." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"If buttons are to be pushed, let's ensure we are doing the pushing, and the buttons represent what we want in ourselves and others." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Does this thought or emotion take me closer to my center or farther away?” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change." ~ Brene’ Brown (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Don’t always follow the masses, because sometimes the “m” is silent." ~ Unknown (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Your reputation doesn't follow you everywhere; it gets there before you do." ~ Aliza Licht (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Why are questions more important than answers?" ~ Harvard Business Review (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Until we understand why we react to certain situations with stress, anger, or frustration, we will not have the clarity necessary to deal with life from a place of confidence, creativity, or compassion." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"If we don't pay attention to what we are paying attention to… we will never know if the payment is worth the cost." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"An unfulfilled life follows the path of least persistence." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
The Three Rules Of Life:
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If you do not go after what you want, you'll never have it.
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If you do not ask, the answer will always be no.
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If you do not step forward, you will always be in the same place.
~ Unknown
(https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“You never want to tie your peace of mind to another person’s state of mind." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"The key to supporting improvement in others is turning a performance 'review' into a performance 'preview." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Confidence is a belief and feeling that things will turn out well because we are willing, worthy, and capable." ~ Brendon Burchard (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Is your insistence creating resistance?" ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Healing doesn’t mean that the damage never existed.He aling means it no longer controls your life!" ~ Akshay Dubey (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"We never want to make our Highest Purpose, or the most important thing in our life something that is beyond our control." ~Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“One of the ironic components of being influential is the willingness and ability to be influenced, or have what we say be informed by what they say.” ~ Adapted from Brendon Burchard (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Ask yourself every moment, ‘Is this how I want to be thinking, feeling and acting?’…and only continue when the answer is yes.” ~ Adapted from Richard Bach (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Negative thoughts can help us survive… but they won’t help us thrive.” ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"How we make others feel about themselves says a lot about us." - Unknown (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“To find the true cause of how we think and feel, find the ‘sponsoring thought’ that created the interpretation that influenced our experience of life.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Leadership is influencing others to do and be their best for the good of all concerned. Obedience is what you teach your dog." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Never let those you hate become more powerful than those you love.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Never let someone with the significance of a speed bump become a roadblock.” ~ Unknown (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Every time we interact with our children, we are teaching them something. This means that we can’t teach respect by being disrespectful.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
”Truly confident people don’t care about just being right. They care about understanding and being understood.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“In order to feel insulted by others, we must first value their opinion over our own… why would we do that?” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“I suggest that we continually ask ourselves the question, would I recommend the way I’m thinking, feeling, and acting to those I love, and only continue when the answer is YES!” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
“Autonomy, Purpose, & Mastery: If you are having difficulty creating the life you want, chances are one or more of these are missing.” - Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)
"Possibility is not the same as reality. But without belief in possibility, our reality is going to be severely curtailed. We can only do our work (life) justice by examining what's possible, and then deciding if we care enough to pursue it." ~ Seth Godin (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Success doesn't come from what you do occasionally. It comes from what you do consistently." ~ Marie Forleo (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"In addition to 'a purpose' or a clear sense of what you want and why, we also need 'a place' to practice. When this 'place' also includes being surrounded by others wanting the same thing, life gets much better, much quicker." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
“In order to create the life we want, what we want must be congruent with why we want it.” ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
“When the storms of life hit, the resilient adjust their sails.” ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"In order to make significant changes in the quality of our relationships, we must make the future more important than the past." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Let's be sure to taste our words before we spit them out." ~ Unknown (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
“Looking for the internal 'how' versus the external 'why' is one key to creating the life we want. We will have more success in influencing the world around us if we start with the world within.” ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"One key to creating a life worth living is to practice responding to challenging situations on purpose until these responses become reactions." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Confidence is the ability to understand another's perspective without needing to accept or reject it in order to move from conflict to consensus." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"To understand ourself, we must understand our "selves," or the parts of us that motivate our thoughts, decisions, and behaviors." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"The way to encourage people to be accountable is to engage the responsible, accountable, trustworthy part of their brain." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"What if we tweeted everyone the way we like to be tweeted?" ~ Adapted from Miri Rodriquez (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"A belief is not merely an idea that the mind possesses, it is an idea that possesses the mind." ~ Robert Oxton Bolt (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"When the storms of life hit, the resilient simply adjust their sails." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Sometimes, the best way to solve a problem is to stop participating in the problem.” ~ Jonathan Meed (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Deciding who and what to trust is an essential step in claiming and creating our lives as adults." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
“We are what we repeatedly do. Good habits, once established, are just as hard to break as bad habits.” ~ Aristotle & Robert Puller (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Simply striving for achievement can create a life of strife, punctuated by momentary victories, while a life of fulfillment imbues each moment with joy and meaning. Quite an achievement, don't you think?" ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
“Here is to that part of all of us that is not meant to be caged… the part that dreams, strives, bucks the system, dares to imagine what is possible, and relishes the process of bringing those dreams to fruition.” ~Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"What’s The Most Important Thing In Your Life?" ~Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
To worry or not to worry… What if the answer is neither?” ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"When we take care of ourselves like we would take care of someone we love, the quality of our living and our giving goes up." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"When truth is what we are looking for, let's make sure we are not trusting the "fake news" part of the brain." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with." ~ Wayne Dyer (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Patience isn't simply the ability to wait, but the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting." ~ Joyce Meyer (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Every successful person begins with two beliefs… that the future can be better than the present, and that I have the power to make it so." ~ David Brooks (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Serenity is the precursor to acceptance, courage, wisdom & change." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"The secret to happiness is a high tolerance for ambiguity." ~ Sam Buser, Ph.D. (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
Four Questions That Can Change Your Life! Or, The Four Criteria
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Am I doing/feeling/thinking this on purpose?
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How's it working for me?
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Is this the way I want to be defined?
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Would I teach this way of being to someone that I love?
"True confidence is the willingness to have our answers questioned." ~ Unknown (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"If we carry old bricks from our past to our future, we will end up being weighed down by situations and people we really want to forget." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Ships don't sink because of the water around them; ships sink because of the water that gets in them. Don't let what's happening around you get inside you and weigh you down." ~ Unknown (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"The Mind is a Powerful Force. It Can Enslave us or Empower Us. It Can Plunge us into the Depths of Misery or Take Us To the Heights of Ecstasy. Learn to Use the Power Wisely." ~ David Cuschieri (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"True confidence is the ability to listen to almost anyone or anything without losing your temper or your perspective.” ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Bitterness does more harm to the vessel in which it is stored... than the vessel on which it is poured." ~ Unknown (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Life gets better when we choose the desire to influence over the need to control." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"I wonder how much of what is weighing us down is truly ours to carry?" ~ Adapted from Aditi (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"'Peeves' make lousy pets. They bite, eat too much, crap all over the place, and don't clean up after themselves." ~ Adapted from Seth Godin (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by a lack of meaning and purpose." ~ Victor Frankl (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by a lack of meaning and purpose." ~ Victor Frankl (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Money is like energy, it should be conserved with purpose to serve with purpose." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit (even failure)." ~ Adapted from E.E. Cummings (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Worry doesn’t empty tomorrow of its troubles… it empties today of its strength!” ~ Corrie Ten Boom (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"We can't have constructive conversations with others while having destructive conversations with ourselves." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Remembering the best of the past can provide a foundation for a wonderful future… it's all about appreciation and application." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now." ~ Chinese Proverb (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"That the birds of worry and anxiety fly over our heads, this you cannot change, but that they build nests in your hair, this you can prevent." ~ Chinese Proverb (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"If I lived everyday the way I lived today... what kind of future would I create?" ~ Entrepreneur Magazine (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
“Never let the 'issue du jour' obscure what is really important.” ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Worrying about things going wrong isn't the way to make them go right." True, & not true. ~ Unknown (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"You can't change what's going on around you until you change what's going on within you." ~ Zig Ziglar (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Under all anger is fear, and under all fear is fear of loss." ~ Unknown (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"True confidence is the ability to own and learn from our mistakes, without the prospect of shame or blame." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
“Your reputation doesn’t follow you everywhere. It gets there before you do.” ~ Aliza Licht (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"The meaning that we attach to our stories makes us either bitter or better. I suggest we do this by choice, and not by chance." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Our kids won't always do what we say… but they will do what we do!" ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"There is no such thing as a selfless act… nor should there be. We don't have to be selfless to avoid being selfish." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Setting healthy boundaries may require that we reclaim personal properties that we may have unwittingly deeded to others in the past." ~ Steve Butler (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Just because people are fueled by drama, doesn't mean we have to attend every performance." ~ Cheryl Richardson (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Problems Occur When We Tie our Peace of Mind to Another's State of Mind." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"While understanding is necessary, it doesn’t necessarily mean agreement." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn't know before you learned it." ~ Maya Angelou (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Significance isn't about the number of friends we have on Facebook, but about how much we would be missed if we were gone." ~ Adapted from Seth Godin (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Resistance almost always triggers resentment, and is rooted in the powerless of childhood." - Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"When our purpose becomes avoidance, our life becomes a void." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
“If you want to change your life, you must change your mind and change your brain… on purpose.” ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Stress is a chemical reaction in our brain and body designed to prepare us for fight or flight. These chemicals do not exist in the situation but in us. No situation is "full of stress," and therefore, there's no such thing as a stressful situation." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"You don't have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” ~ Martin Luther King (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"The problem with anxiety is that its main byproduct is more anxiety." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"You never want to tie your peace of mind to another person's state of mind." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"There's a thread you follow. It goes among things that change, but it doesn't change. While you hold it, you can't get lost. Good things happen, bad things happen, and it is harder for others to see. Regardless, you never let go of the thread!" ~ Adapted from William Stafford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Stress is actually good information… a valuable signal that the middle brain (our limbic system) is interpreting, or misinterpreting, some situation as threatening." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Change isn't the problem. People can deal with change, they just can't deal with being changed." ~ Adapted from Peter Senge (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Saying 'Thanks' not only acknowledges appreciation for some act in the past and/or what we have now, it is also a powerful force for shaping the future." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"If buttons are to be pushed, let's ensure we are doing the pushing, and the buttons represent what we want in ourselves and others." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"You can't get people to 'Yes' by telling them 'No'" ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"When you dance, your purpose is not to get to a certain place on the floor. It's to enjoy each step along the way." ~ Wayne Dyer (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"What we feed our mind becomes the material with which we build our life." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"How do you keep people from jerking your chain? Don't give your chain to jerks!" ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Anxiety is experiencing failure in advance. Worry is not preparation. We can't access our best by fearing the worst."
and,
"That the birds of worry and anxiety fly over our heads, this you cannot change, but that they build nests in your hair, this you can prevent." ~ Seth Godin/Bill Crawford and Chinese Proverb (respectively) (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Worry doesn't empty tomorrow of its troubles… it empties today of its strength!" ~ Unknown (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
“That’s just common sense” is used by many to justify their perspective. However, how we “sense” or understand life varies greatly from individual to individual. Therefore, rather than needing to justify our “sense” as “common,” how about we just ensure that our perceptions are purposeful, and congruent with what we would recommend to someone we love? ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
“The problem with doing nothing is that it validates the fear that nothing can be done.” ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"The question to ask each night before you go to bed: If I live every day the same way I did today, what kind of future would that create?" ~ Entrepreneur Magazine (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"To find the true cause of how you think and feel, find the 'sponsoring thought' that created the interpretation that created your experience of life." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
When stress and anxiety have your system stuck in a brainstem loop… reboot. It’s I.T. for life! ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Each day befriend a single fear, and the miscellaneous terrors of being human will never join together to form such a morass of vague anxiety that it rules your life from the shadows of the unconscious. We learn to fly not by being fearless, but by the daily practice of courage." ~ Sam Keen (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
“Let’s not let our fear of dementia deepen our fear of dementia.” - Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Problems cannot be solved at the same level of awareness that created them." ~ Albert Einstein (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"The key to self-confidence is knowing that you would choose you & and why. In this way the chosen becomes the chooser, and love versus fear becomes the energy of choice." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"How old would you be if you didn't know how old you were?" ~ Satchel Paige (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"To understand ourself, we must understand our "selves," or the parts of us that motivate our thoughts, decisions, and behaviors." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Worry, shame, and fear can?t be the energy with which we deal with food and weight. It only spurs us to eat more food and produce more glucose/sugar which gets stored as fat." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"When we take care of ourselves like we would take care of someone we love, the quality of our living and our giving goes up." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"When our worries and fears just don't make sense, it's possible we are trusting the part of the brain that doesn't make sense… it just reacts." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Nothing is meaningless… it's how we assign meaning to the past that determines how we experience the present, and future." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"The past is experience, the present experiment, and the future expectations. Use your experience in your experiments to achieve your expectations." ~ Unknown (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Becoming critical in the face of criticism, only inspires more criticism." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Autonomy, Purpose, & Mastery: If you are having difficulty creating the life you want, chances are one or more of these are missing." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
If a cluttered desk is a sign of a cluttered mind, of what, then, is an empty desk a sign? ~ Albert Einstein (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"To influence others to change, you must be able to frame that change in terms of the future, and in a way that has value to all concerned. ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"To influence others, we must first know what is influencing them… and they must know that we get it." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"To be influential in our conversations, we must first be aware of two things, (1) what do we want to bring to the conversation and (2) what do we want to bring out in others." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal while blaming our misery on the one who started the fire." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"You can't use stress, anxiety, frustration, and worry to deal with your stress, anxiety, frustration, and worry. It's like pulling up to a burning building with a flame thrower. The energy of the problem can't be the energy behind a successful solution." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Responsibility is all about our ability to respond." ~ Unknown (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
Serenity is not just an escape, but a precursor to acceptance, courage, wisdom, and change. ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"The key to changing our past, present, and future is to create our piece of the PIE (our Perceptions, Interpretations, & Expectations) on purpose." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"I wish I had the courage to live a life that was true to myself, versus the life that was expected of me." ~ Browny Ware (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"A someone who travels around the world teaching people to deal with stress, I thought I would give you my top 10 tips on "stress free," or at least "stress less" travel." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"The key to being with family is to engage with those we love in a way we would teach to those we love." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"The past exists not as a factual recounting of what happened, but as an experience that we are constantly recreating in our mind… which means we CAN change the past!" ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
One key to creating a meaningful life, is choosing what we want to feel, and for how long." - Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
When faced with conflicting thoughts and emotions, we must decide what to trust, what we fear, or what we know. What’s important is that this decision be made by the knowledgeable versus the anxious part of who we are." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Sometimes our ability to accept what we can't change is tied to our willingness to change what we can." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"It's not what we feel, but what we feed, that determines our experience of life." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"The test of our humanity is the ability to have compassion for the people we know well enough not to like." ~ Adapted from the play, "After Ashley," by Gina Gionfriddo (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Sleep is simply a chemical change in our brain and body (melatonin) - It?s not a place we go, it is a state of being that we fall into." ~ Bill Crawford, Ph.D. (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"To spank or not to spank isn't the question… the question is whether whether we are teaching a quality we want our kids to have as adults?." ~ Bill Crawford, Ph.D. www.BillCrawfordPhD.com
"The problem with righteous indignation is that even when you're right, you're still left feeling indignant." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"People have the absolute right to be just as unhappy and miserable as they want to be." - Bill Crawford, Ph.D. www.BillCrawfordPhD.com
"Never make your highest purpose, or the most important thing in your life something that is outside of your control." ~ Bill Crawford, Ph.D. (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"One barrier to being a great parent is the mistaken belief that we are raising kids." ~ Bill Crawford, Ph.D. (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
“It’s not simply what we feel, but what we feed, that determines what we do and how we live.” - Bill Crawford, Ph.D. (www.BillCrawford.com)
The "Four Stages of Creating A Life Worth Living," …an excerpt from my book, "Life from the Top of the Mind" (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
“In order to become more influential with those who are resistant to our point of view, we must be willing to start with what is influencing them.” Bill Crawford, Ph.D. www.BillCrawfordPhD.com
"Under all anger is fear, and under all fear is fear of loss." ~ Unknown (www.billcphd.com)
"There are two ways to look at most problems… 'Oh Crap!' or, 'Good Information!,' and our choice will give us good information on how to deal with problems in the future." Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"You can't use anxiety to deal with your anxiety… it only makes you more anxious." - Bill Crawford (www.BillCrawfordPhD.com)
"Love will keep us safe when we commit to choosing the kind of qualities, characteristics, and relationships that we would recommend to someone we love." ~ Bill Crawford, Ph.D. (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Trust is simply a set of expectations about the present and the future. The key is to ensure that these are chosen and evaluated based upon awareness versus fear." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Each day befriend a single fear, and the miscellaneous terrors of being human will never join together to form such a morass of vague anxiety that it rules your life from the shadows of the unconscious. We learn to fly not by being fearless, but by the daily practice of courage." ~ Sam Keen (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"What we feed our mind becomes the material with which we build our life." ~ Bill Crawford (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"A healthy attitude is certainly contagious, but don't wait to catch it from others. Become a carrier!" ~ Adapted from Tom Stoppard (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Every job is a self-portrait of the person who does it. Autograph your work with excellence, regardless of the painters around you." ~ Anonymous (www.billcrawfordphd.com)
"Just because we have a thought, doesn't mean it is a thought worth having." ~ Bill Crawford, Ph.D. (wwwBillCrawfordPhD.com)
"There is more to life than simply increasing its speed." Mahatma Gandhi | www.billcrawfordphd.com
"When creativity is under the gun... it usually ends up getting killed!" - Harvard Business Review | www.BillCrawfordPhD.com
"Many of us go from being taken care of as children to taking care of others as adults. Shouldn't there be a time when we learn to take care of ourselves?" - Bill Crawford, Ph.D. | www.billcrawfordphd.com
"We cannot discover new lands until we first have the courage to lose sight of the shore." ~ Adapted from Andre Gide - www.BillCrawfordPhD.com
"The problem with always keeping your nose to the grindstone is that pretty soon, all you smell is grind." ~ Steve Butler | www.billcrawfordphd.com
"To change any aspect of our life we must be willing to change our mind… Unfortunately, that is the one thing most people are the least willing to do." ~ Bill Crawford, Ph.D. www.billcrawfordphd.com
"Mistakes are just "mis-takes," or an action that we took that missed." ~ Bill Crawford | There is another way to learn from mistakes other than feeling bad. www.BillCrawfordPhD.com
"Freedom isn't about having permission to do whatever we want ... t's about having the courage to do whatever fills our life with meaning. ~ Bill Crawford | Tired of needing to ask permission to do what you want? Watch this! www.billcrawfordphd.com
"There's no such thing as a 'stressful' situation" ~ Bill Crawford | Watch this to see why you want to drop the term "stressful" from your vocabulary. www.billcrawfordphd.com
"Never define people or situations in terms of their effect on you, unless you want to give them the power to make you feel that way." ~ Bill Crawford | Never describe others in terms of their effect on you. www.billcrawfordphd.com
"The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place." ~ George Bernard Shaw | What's the #1 problem is with communication?
"Wisdom is our reward for being willing to listen... all those times when we prefer to talk." ~ Adapted from D.J. Kaufman | What if listening actually improved our ability to be influential when disagreements arise? www.billcphd.com
"Setting healthy boundaries may require that we reclaim personal properties that we may have unwittingly deeded to others in the past." ~ Steve Butler | What if setting healthy boundaries wasn't about protecting one's self, but becoming the landlord of our "land"?
"Our success and happiness depends not on simply knowing where we stand, but in where we are wanting to go." ~ Bill Crawford, PhD, www.BillCrawfordPhd.com, In order to bring our best to life, we must be clear about what that "best" looks like regardless of the situation
"Never define yourself in terms of how you are negatively affected by others."-Bill Crawford, Ph.D. www.BillCrawfordPhD.com -When our desire for agreement (or fear of disagreement) interferes with what we feel in our gut...
"Never define yourself in terms of how you are negatively affected by others." Check out this video on minimizing the effect "annoying" people have in our lives.
Every connection creates change. The only questions are: How will they be different, and how will we be different as a result? - Adapted from Seth Godin
Becoming "Resolute" - The Power of "I Am" As We Go Into The New Year & Beyond - “ I will" is a statement that merely speaks to some intention in the future... to influence your life in the most powerful way now, begin with the words "I am." ~ Bill Crawford
"When" To Deal With Problems Can Be Just As Important As "How" - "When we put problems on the back burner, often they just sit there and burn." Georgia Crawford
How To Influence The Most Influential Aspect Of Our Lives - "Just because we have a thought, doesn't mean it is a thought worth having." Bill Crawford, Ph.D.
"Want to change your experience of life? Change the problem to the practice field." - Bill Crawford Ph.D. www.BillCrawfordPhD.com
Never Tie Your Responsibility To Another's Irresponsibility - "You never want to tie your responsibility to another's irresponsibility."
Becoming "More Serious" Often Results in Our Kids Becoming Less Cooperative. “The cooperative, creative, and flexible parts of your children reside in the joyful part of their brain." ~ Bill Crawford & "Do not train children to learn by force and harshness, but direct them to it by what amuses their minds, so that you may be better able to discover with accuracy the peculiar bent of the genius of each." ~ Plato
"Trusting fear, while fearing trust and happiness often creates a less than happy life."
"Change isn't always easy, but with purposeful practice, any old habit can be replaced with a way of being we would recommend to those we love." Bill Crawford, Ph.D. www.BillCrawfordPhD.com
The key to a child's self-esteem - Know this - Children don't know that they are lovable until they are loved. They need to see it in our eyes before they can accept it in their hearts.
Dr. Bill talks about how to shift from being effected by life, to becoming the cause! "All of life presents itself as a cycle of cause and effect. When this cycle is negative, there are three ways to change. You can change the cause, change the effect, or choose the most powerful option… become the cause!"
"When the question is either/or, the answer is almost always?both/and." - Dr. Bill Explains How Masculine & Feminine Energy Can Create Misunderstandings In Relationships, & What We Can Do About It
"The most powerful times in our lives can be the time between times, or life's transitions that give us the opportunity to choose." Dr. Bill identifies yet another opportunity to become more influential in our experience of life.
"All of life is an announcement of who we are. The only question is whether this proclamation will be made by choice or by chance." Check out this video from Dr. Bill on how we can be more influential in our lives and the lives of others.
Dr. Crawford gives us THE secret to acing an interview. It all has to do with knowing our self worth.
"There are only three things we 'have to' do in this world... we have to be born, we have to die, and we have to live until we die. Everything else is a choice!" Check out this video to see how we can become more influential in the choices we make.
Psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford, looks at our tendency to see our worries as certainties, and hope and optimism as risky. He suggests that, not only is this belief inaccurate, it can be keeping us from achieving our goals and leaves us trapped in the reactive part of the brain.
In this video Dr. Bill looks at change and dealing with problems, not in terms what to stop, but what to start.
Dr. Crawford gives us some tips on how to deal with negative people, or as his weekly quote says, "Problems Occur When We Tie our Peace of Mind to Another's State of Mind." - Bill Crawford, Ph.D. Read more about his unique philosophy at www.BillCrawfordPhD.com.
Dr. Bill Crawford gives us his take on what we need to be successful in this new economy.
Most of us have experienced disapproving of another's behavior and letting them know of our disapproval, only to have them begin to defend the very behavior we want them to change. Unfortunately, this often sparks more disapproval on our part (which the other person interprets as criticism,) and the cycle of conflict is created and exacerbated.
If you have ever been frustrated by bad customer service, check out this video by Psychologist, Bill Crawford, Ph.D. on how to improve your chances of getting great customer service in the future.
This quote came to me as I became increasingly aware of how problematic it can be to create the life we want when we don't know our own value. In other words, when we are unclear about why someone would want us as a part of their organization and/or want us as a relationship partner, friend, husband, wife, etc., we will always be looking to others to "fill in the blanks," so to speak.
As the father of two boys and an author of a book on parenting ("How to Get Kids to do What You Want!"), I found this quote on the difference between procreation and parenting to be especially meaningful. Unfortunately, in my humble opinion, this distinction isn't shared by most people. In other words, the conventional wisdom is that once someone has a baby, they are by definition "a parent," and while this is understandable, I believe that this automatic status is responsible for much of the problems associated with bad parenting.
Hello loyal viewers:-) This week's video is on knowing when to stop, or how to listen to our body's signals so that we don't over work, over eat, and/or "over talk" when we are wanting to convince someone of something - Leave a comment and tell your friends if you find this valuable:-) Bill - www.BillCrawfordPhD.com
Psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford looks at the effect practice, or doing something over and over has on our lives. Given this effect, and the fact that we are always practicing something, Dr. Crawford suggests that we become more purposeful with our practice, and learn to enjoy the process.
Psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford looks at the experience of trying new things without needing to be immediately successful. He borrows the phrase "momentary incompetence" from Seth Godin's book, The Icarus Deception, and talks about why this often gets in the way of us accomplishing our goals, and what we can do about it.
Psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford looks at the energy we trust to guide our lives. He suggests we purposefully choose love as the energy we trust versus fear, and gives us some tips on how to make this choice in all aspects of life.
Psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford looks at four concepts by author Angeles Arrien that can give those looking to create a more purposeful life four more powerful tools.
Dr. Bill Crawford looks at our tendency to focus on what we don't want, or what we are trying not to do or not to feel. He shows us how this engages a part of the brain that actually keeps us from achieving our goals and what we can do about it.
Psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford looks at our desire to become centered and gives us a simple tip for accomplishing this that we can use anytime and anywhere.
Psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford looks at the problem of heated discussions, or those interactions with others that seem to generate more heat than light.
Psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford looks at a problem we all encounter in a new way. To deal with the anxious, manic, and stressed feelings we get when we rush around, he suggests what he calls his "2% Solution." Watch the video to see what that is, and how it can help.
Psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford describes a new seminar that he will be debuting in Grand Cayman on April 22nd, 2013. Here he will show leaders, supervisors, and managers how to become more influential in their lives and in the lives of others, and how to bring their best to life, even in the most difficult situations.
Psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford looks at how to move forward by understanding what to leave behind. Whether we are talking about a relationship, a job, a new city, or just a stage of life, knowing what to leave behind and how to pull that off is essential to being successful in the future.
In this video, Dr. Bill Crawford looks at the concept of taking responsibility for choices we made in the past (as adults), allows us to have the ability to respond and the ability to be successful in the future.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford examines the concept of shame. How we learned to be ashamed, why we continue, and how to choose another energy to create the life we want.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford draws from the wisdom of Seth Godin to help us understand what it means to be indispensable and how to do our work in such a way that changes from "a jog" to art and brings more meaning to our lives and the lives of others.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford gives us information on following our dreams and how this can serve us later in life. He does this from a hotel in Chicago where thousands kids (including his son Nik) are following their dream of getting into a quality theater school.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford Continues to pursue his mission to help more people this year by first thanking everyone who has responded to his request from last week. He then goes on to reinforce the concept of how doing good in the world around us, brings us so much of what makes life rewarding.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford looks how we can create more happiness, fulfillment, and peace of mind in our lives by "doing good in the world around us." He looks at how this is backed up by research and identifies four other proven techniques to enhance the quality of our lives.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford looks at the problem conflict among coworkers and family members and gives us a new way to look at both the problem and the solution.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford looks at the problem of fear and lethargy and the need to feel better before we can do what we want. He suggests reversing the process of creation and shows us how this is done.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford suggests a way to begin the new year that has been proven by science. Plus, he shows how "realistic optimism" engages the clear, confident, and creative part of the brain, which allows us to bring our best to life.
In this video, psychologist, and parent, Dr. Bill Crawford shares a gift he and his wife Georgia received from their two sons Nicholas and Christopher. This most precious gift comes in the form a letter written my Nik and read by Chris, and it is Dr. Bill's gift to you this holiday season.
Psychologist and speaker, Dr. Bill Crawford describes a surprise gift that he gave to students in Mexico City and how this might be something you could give as well this holiday season. (www.BillCrawfordPhD.com)
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford looks a quote adapted from James Thurber that says: "What we should learn before we die is what we are running from, and to, and why." And how we can use this quote to create the experience of life we want.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford talks about the value learning from, or letting go of the past from the famous pyramids of Teotihuacán near Mexico City.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford looks our tendency to define ourselves by what we do versus who we are. He then gives us information on how to shift from the external definition to a more internal focus that has the potential to bring the happiness and peace of mind we all want.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford looks at the tendency to focus more on taking a stand versus moving forward after an election and how this relates to relationships, friends, and families.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford gives us his best thoughts on how many people may be sabotaging their success by using their imagination to scare themselves to death versus bringing themselves to life. He then shows us how to fix this problem.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford talks about how carrying grudges is like being stung to death by just one bee! Learn how to let go of the past and move on in this video.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford addresses the problem of trying to change others, and/or needing them to change before we can be happy and successful.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford gives us three ways to change or address a problem. We can change the cause, change the effect, or become the cause. Watch this video to learn how to choose the most powerful option.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford talks about how families can leave the past behind and become the place where no one needs fearing rejection.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford takes a quote from Plato on how to best educate our children and backs it up with cutting edge research on the brain.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford brings a new perspective to the subjects of mistakes, failure and blame, and gives us new ideas on how to handle mistakes in the future without blame guilt or fear.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford shares his thoughts why we struggle with the fear that we are not enough, or tend to see our value based upon what we can do for others versus who we are. Then he offers a new way of looking at this issue and how to bring our best to life.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford shares his thoughts on what's really going on with all those angry people we keep running into. And, how to diminish their influence in our lives!
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford talks about how wisdom, influence, and listening are related and how to use one to obtain the other two.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford shares his thoughts on why we stay in bad situations when we know that something needs to change.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford shares his thoughts on why we sometimes avoid addressing a problem because we are afraid of what might happen. And how to do this differently in the future.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford gives us his thoughts on how to avoid those arguments that seem to create so much stress in our lives.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford shares his thoughts on how we make changes in our lives. He shares a quote from Sidney Poitier that says, "You don't have to become something that you aren't to become better than you are." As well as, how to access our best in any situation.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford gives us his thoughts on our tendency to demonize the opposition, or describe those with whom we disagree in the worst of terms. You may be surprised at the effect this has on us!
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford discusses why just coping with change doesn't work and shows some rather dramatic footage using rapids as a metaphor for change.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford looks at the tendency to beat ourselves up when we make a mistake and gives us options on how to change this destructive behavior. Please pardon the low volume... new mic. Future videos shouldn't have this problem:-)
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford shares his thoughts on being a father and the experience he had with his father. Plus he gives us information that we can take forward with our children that support their becoming confident, creative, and compassionate adults.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford shares his on the power of words and how the phrase "I'm just sayin'" may not communicating what we really want others to hear.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford looks at how to decide what we "take to heart" or chose to use to create our experience of life. Then, he gives us 4 questions that can help us make this decision in the future.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford looks at why so many people are so unhappy in life. He uses one of his favorite quotes to illustrate the problem and then gives us ways we can be more influential in how we look at the past, present, and future.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford shares a magic question that can help us become, and stay more centered in our lives.
With the support of the Santiago Rossi Foundation, and help from students attending Colegio Anglo Mexicano de Coyoacan in Mexico City, Psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford gives us his thoughts on why diversity alone may not help us reach our goals. Learn what he believes must be combined with the concept of diversity to allow people of different cultures, races and belief systems to work together successfully.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford reveals what he recommends to leaders to ensure that they are having the desired impact on their organization.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford speaks to the fact that anger doesn't like to be "managed" and gives us a new perspective on this emotion that allows us to protect ourselves AND accomplish our goals.
In this video, psychologist and speaker, Dr. Bill Crawford shows you how to increase the marketing value of your presentation and ensure everyone walks home with your business card!
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford gives managers, supervisors, and parents his secret to giving successful feedback, or helping others learn from their mistakes.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford shares new information on why we have so many problems with weight, and how to approach the subject in a very different way.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford explains why our grief can be so hard to cope with and shares his own experience of losing his parents and what it taught him about "Grieving the Shattered Dream."
In this video, psychologist, speaker, and author, Dr. Bill Crawford discusses why so much the information we hear on women and stress is not helpful. In fact, it may be making the problem worse! He then describes a new course that teaches women to take care of themselves without feeling selfish.
In this video, psychologist, speaker, and author, Dr. Bill Crawford uses one of his quotes to help us ensure that what matters most is not at the mercy of what matters least.
In this video, psychologist, speaker and author, Dr. Bill Crawford uses one of his quotes to examine how courage and fear influence our ability to make changes in life.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford addresses the power our words have on our life and gives tips on how to avoid arguing for our limitations, or defining our selves based upon our fear of failure or fear of appearing conceited.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford addresses the problem of people trying to fight fear with fear, or solve a problem based upon their worry and anxiety. He presents new information on why this doesn't work, and offers an alternative that allows us to bring our best to the problem-solving process.
In this video, Dr. Bill Crawford addresses the concern that many people have about becoming trapped in a conversation. We can't fight back or the difficult person will get worse, and yet, we also feel we can't leave. Check out this short video for a new perspective on this problem, and a creative solution.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford brings new information to the subject of stress that shows us how to change it from a problem to a big part of the solution. If you would like to become more influential in this area of your life, watch this short video.
In this video, Dr. Bill Crawford looks at the fear behind the difficult people we encounter and gives us a new perspective that is based on a 17th century quote. If you find this valuable, this is just one segment in a series of quotes and comments that you can receive each week for free by subscribing.
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford helps us understand why our children can be so resistant, and what we can do about it. He comes at this from a very unique perspective that says "One barrier to being a great parent is the mistaken belief that we are raising kids."
In this video, Dr. Bill Crawford shares one simple question that can minimize the effect many difficult people have in our lives.
In this video, psychologist, author, and speaker Bill Crawford, Ph.D. shares his philosophy on the two ingredients necessary to create successful relationships and why almost no one ever learns #2. He lives with his wife of 24 years and two sons in Houston, TX
For the first time psychologist Bill Crawford shares his new information on how to create the life you want for kids!
In this video, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford describes how he has helped clients change their relationship with their family in such a way that doesn't require the family to change.
If you have kids, are thinking of having kids, have kids who have kids, or deal with kids in any aspect of your life, you will love this video that brings you new information on how to get them to do what you want
If you are looking for a speaker who isn't just going to tell stories or spout "motivational" cliches, check out this short video. Psychologist and speaker, Dr. Bill Crawford believes today's professionals are looking for solutions... new solutions in fact, that they can apply to the problems they face on a daily basis. That's why he brings cutting edge content to all his presentations, and delivers this new information with such energy and humor that people keep saying he reminds them of Steve Martin! Check out this new information here!
For anyone who has been laid off or is concerned that they might be laid off, psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford, offers new information and concrete steps to deal with the situation in a new way. Using his "Top of the Mind" system for success, Dr. Crawford gives listeners information that allows them to move beyond past resentment and fear of the future, and access the clarity, confidence, and creativity necessary to do more than just survive after losing a job.