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Tera Wages
After spending 5 years building a business & traveling to over 30 countries, Wes & Tera made the plunge to start their family. Now after 12 years, they have had their fair share of identity crisis, struggles with balance between home & work, and trying to create a home filled with adventure & love. They share how they create the moments they never want to forget, while battling the daily potty training struggles, and keeping things spicy in their marriage.
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We are taking a huge leap and relocating our family all while trying to buy a house in one of the worst housing markets in the country. But, more importantly, we are celebrating 14 years of marriage- lessons & takeaways. We talk sex, we talk divorce, we talk about how we have changed. And we get a bit cheesy, too.
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We know that there is a lot of exception and ultimately disappointment surrounding Valentine's day. But it is actually a great holiday at the heart of it. Today, we talk about setting realistic expectations, showing up for each other, and spreading love to those around you.
If you have ever wanted more in your sexual relationship OR you have found yourself being the person unable to give more... this episode is a moment for you to not feel alone. We break down our most recent fight and how we don't have any guilt in what we individually desire while struggling that those two things don't meet.
Fear in the bedroom can be a roadblock to having great sex. Today, Wes and Tera break down their 5 top fears and process them together. It is insightful the types of fears that Tera realized first compared to Wes... and it wasn't at all what she expected. Today is definitely funny, easy to listen to, and relatable... but it isn't for small humans.
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We haven’t left our house in a week- so the thoughts are getting a bit random. But that just means we are sharing thoughts from all the things- work life, marriage, friendship… nothing too deep. Just take a breath with us.
We are one week and it is easy to feel our momentum ball starting to grow smaller. Today, we talk about keeping the momentum going and how to start it back when we lose it.
In this episode we talk about how we're setting up goals and resolutions for the new year! Rather than just saying somethings we want to be better at or do in the new year, we talk about who we want to become in life and how we can use the new year to fuel these goals.
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The best way to end a year is to look back to both learn lessons & feel gratitude. You have to see where you have been so you can learn where you are going. Today's episode is personal, but there are a lot of lessons in it from financial vulnerability to our biggest marriage wins. We share mistakes and triumphs. We also show how to categorize your year to gain the best understanding of yourself.
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This is a quote I’ve heard more than once & while it may technically be true, viewing our life by the hours we have doesn’t actually correlate to how much we can achieve. Today, we talk about a different way to reframe our time when it comes to tackling our to do list.
Does your partner ever get mad just because you are mad? But you weren't even mad at them to begin with? Well, we struggle with that quite a lot around here. Today, we not so gracefully break down an argument we had just this past weekend. This is a real and honest play by play conversation between Wes and I, but at the end of it, we come to a nice resolution that if we can finally get into regular practice will change SO much about how we fight... and maybe how you do, too.
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If you are a mom or dad to toddlers & babies, this episode is for you. There is so much about being a new parent people talk about… but what they don’t mention is the disconnect that happens in the bedroom. Today, we are here to help you gain some perspective, offer hope, and give a few tips to help you through this season. It is a tough one. We have been there… (and still are with one kid)… we get it!
Do you ever wish your husband would watch your kids? I know so many moms who have to beg or bribe their man to keep the kids and then leave them notes on what to do. Today, I (Tera) am sharing how we took baby steps to have play an equal role in being the caregiver for our kids… it is much harder on me than it is on him. And just a warning- your toes may get stepped on a little. But it is all with love.
Feeling awkward about talking about finances is just as common in relationships as talking about sex. There is so much hesitation in relationships for fear of an argument. Ayana Campbell Smith is helping couples everywhere break down that fear, change their mindset, and become debt free while still enjoying their life. She is here to talk saving buckets, budgeting, and helps settle an ongoing dispute between Wes & I. Find Ayana: www.millennialmoney.guide
From the title, it seems we are all over the place today but we are both sharing where we are at. Haha Wes is recovering from his vasectomy & I’m recovering from his intense travel schedule. Loneliness is often an overlooked emotion because it doesn’t show up the way we expect it to. Today we talk about how it feels & what it’s long term effects can do. Trigger warning- we go deep & touch on suicidal thoughts.
If you have ever been curious about spicing up your sex life but don’t know where to begin, or you have wanted to ask your partner to incorporate a sex toy in the mix but are feeling nervous- this episode is for you. We dive into how we got started, what we have tried, and creating boundaries so you both feel safe. Obviously not a kid or my mom friendly episode.
I have found myself saying this phrase a lot recently then heard 4 other women mention their age as a barrier within 36 hours of each other. Is this a feeling carried only by women? Is this a thought valid? And what are we holding ourselves back from?
Even in the most wonderful marriages, there is no such thing as a "perfect" partner. There are always little things that we do as individuals that make the other person feel a tiny bit of rage inside. Today, we are sharing our pet peeves and showing no relationship is perfect.
Why do we talk about sex all the time? What is the big deal? Well, we all talk about it, even when we are avoiding the subject it is literally all around us. We want to change the narrative. We want to be in control of how that narrative affects us mentally. So, today we share why that matters and how bringing it up in the light actually opens us up to more freedom.
The wedding night was less than spectacular, and it set the tone for the next 12 years of our marriage. All of the fun stuff had been removed and now we were just getting it done. Today, we dive into mindsets, fears, and what held us back for so many years. THEN, we dive into what has pushed us forward into what we experience today. I will definitely have a vulnerability hangover after this one 😅.
Do you ever feel insecure when you enter a room filled with adults? I suddenly resort back to my 8 year old self of feeling awkward on the playground. Only now, I am 35 with 4 kids hanging from the monkey bars. I genuinely believed that friendships would get easier but in reality they just get more difficult to navigate. Today, we dissect why they are hard and what we can do to gain new ones.
Often times, women find themselves carrying the load of their home whether they are working full time or not. It is often invisible work that leads to resentment and burnout in marriage. Today, we hash through why we need to balance the weight and what it looks like to feel like the woman's time isn't valued. We also share about the book Fair Play by Eve Rodsky and the 100 tasks our household requires to help balance the scales.
I am guilty of saying... if you do____ I will have sex with you. But is sex meant to be earned? We have a few conflicting thoughts on the matter. Today, Wes & I share a conversation that breaks down what we think ACTUALLY creates a marriage where sex happens without the ultimatums.
Does having emotions or being rowdy make my kids bad? After reading an Instagram post about how parents should make sure their kids are “good,” I had to process a lot of emotions that I have battled from the time my first kid was 10 months old and hurt another kid for the first time. Being a parent feels impossible to navigate because each child is so different… and people without kids or “easy” (aka- compliant) kids are so quick to judge. We talk through handling those emotions and share the single most shameful moment we have had in parenthood.
Months since a date night shouldn’t be the standard. Today’s we talk about why they are important and what time together has done for our relationship.
We think just because we have a high school degree that we've learned all we can from grade school, but today we're learning about problems from one of our most favorite Kindergarten teachers taught us. When presented with a problem, how do we categorize it and then deal with the problem?
Wes & I have had our fair share of travel mishaps all across the world. After a recent trip that reminded us to expect the unexpected, we wanted to share our stories that are our once-in-a-lifetime moments. These are the stories we will tell our grandchildren to make their jaws drop. We will follow it up with why these things happen and why it is worth it anyways. If you like travel, drama, and "holy moly" moments, this episode is for you!
It is Tera's birthday week so she is jumping in to share 8 quick lessons that have impacted her life and who she is. This is an episode for anyone-- from friendship lessons to her motto for life to the purchase from 2020 that has put an extra pep in her step.
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I don’t care to have sex very often. But my partner needs to feel intimacy. Today, we talk about our journey & break down 4 questions to sit down & dive into if you are feeling off balance in your own sex life. Disclaimer: We are 13 years in & still have years to go. We are just working to figure it out together & share that journey openly with y’all. This is a no judgement zone in either direction. Here are our struggles… hope they give you hope that wherever you are on your journey you feel a little more seen today.
Parenthood can either feel very, very lonely or it can feel like two teammates working together to raise a child. Teammates is always the goal, but it takes a lot of intention. Today's episode, we break down what that actually looks like, conversations (and arguments) we have worked through, and how we approach parenthood... together... as one.
*as peaceful as summer can be with tiny humans trying to rule your home.
This week, we are talking all about actions Wes and I are taking to help cut down the 1,000 questions we get from our kids each day, to give them more control over their choices, and to create better daily habits. I will be honest, I didn't create ANY of these systems. I am sharing all of the goodness I have gathered over time and am putting into action. These systems aren't rocket science but they will help any parent looking for tips to create a more relaxing summer.
Today was a life day. Life was unexpected. So, Tera is popping on real quick to share a lesson & how she & Wes handled processing.
Well, if you have asked yourself that question ever in your life-- I am here to tell you, NO! Today's episode, Wes and I laugh through some of the more embarrassing sex moments we have shared all just to let you know that it isn't always hot and steamy. We all think it is just us trying to figure it out and everyone else has perfected their moves. I am here to let you know we, too, had lessons to learn.
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Why does my spouse feel so distant from me? Well, it may be because we have created loneliness without even realizing we are doing it. Today we are talking about how even having the best of intentions sometimes doesn't keep us from damaging our relationship. We share how Wes and I have done it to each other and what we are doing to correct these habits.
“I’m just not in the mood.” Is definitely a phrase we are familiar with. Or maybe you are thinking, “my spouse doesn’t want to have sex anymore.” We all experience it at one time or another- we physically, mentally, or emotionally just can’t show up sexually. Today we are diving into how we cope in seasons where sex is not meeting expectations because life is throwing exhausting curveballs.
We always knew we wanted four kids, but we didn’t fully know what we were getting into. This episode we share the nitty gritty about life with a big family... the challenges & the unexpected.
We have had lots of people ask us, how do I get started in real estate investing. And we know it is stressful figuring out how construction loans work, or if it is better to longterm rent or Airbnb. Today, we share our financial background, what bank accounts we have, and the journey to owning 11 apartments, plus an office building. We talk about sacrifices we made, the fear we felt, the nitty gritty decisions that gave us these opportunities, and why we believe anyone can do this. Disclaimer: We are definitely not financial advisors. Use your money wisely and make calculated risks. If you have questions about your personal finances, find a financial planner that can help answer your specific questions.
Wes & I celebrated our 13th wedding anniversary this past week, so we are reminiscing on just how naive we were when we walked down that aisle. Getting married at 21 gave me the false courage to think I actually knew what I was getting into… but I was wrong. Today we share the 7 things we were clueless about when we got married & how we feel about it today.
Perfectionist, workaholics, humans who are living in boxes other people created... this episode is for you. Author Caroline McGraw is in the studio today talking about her new book “You Don’t Owe Anyone” which is all about breaking free from living a life by other peoples rules. This interview & book are game changers is breaking down shame and stepping into your own desires. Preorder your copy of “You Don’t Owe Anyone” - https://awishcomeclear.com/tera-wages
Today marks one year of the I Get It podcast and Wes and I are sharing what the last year has taught us more than anything. Spoiler alert: It is how vulnerability opens the door to change your life. Today we share what being vulnerable has looked like for us and reasons why you should push past your fear and share where you are with people around you. We also dive into what we see going forward in 2021 with the podcast.
We are just getting by this week being on vacation & getting over sickness. Wes takes over asking Tera questions that both embarrass her & reveal some of her hidden secrets. Enjoy a brain break & we will be back in 2 weeks!
After releasing last week's episode, I knew we needed more. There was so much feedback from people who related to being hurt by the church... but we can't just stop there. We need action. This cycle has to end, and it can with you and me. Today, I share ways that we can be apart of the change, we can be a part of breaking the stigma of who a Christian is viewed as in 2021. I share some of my realizations and things I have done to start this process in my own life. Of course, there is so much more and it would be easy to just say, "Stop being rude and just love people." But that isn't enough anymore. Listen in for 3 areas to focus on to be more like Christ... and less like.... well... the pharisees.
Christianity and faith are such personal topics to dive into... the fear of judgement or backlash if people disagree. But we are here today sharing our journey... from being heavily involved, to wanting to never sit in a pew again, to learning what boundaries we need to have a healthy relationship with the church. It has had ups and downs and we have certainly hit some walls along the way.
Disclaimer: I am a fallen human who is neither a pastor or theologian. Just a woman & man sharing their broken journey. In no way is our journey better or worse than yours. Not here to judge or compare. Just please do not hold me to a standard that is without mistakes, or think you stink if you have made some yourself.
It is Valentine's week and you may be wondering- What should I get my husband for Valentine's Day? Or is Galentine's worth celebrating? Maybe even, is this date even worth celebrating? Well today, we are diving into the 4 types of love are and tangible ways to show love to each other. It really isn't hard, but it does take intention. Listen for ideas, encouragement, and maybe even a small dose of reality.
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Having confidence in our marriage and life starts within ourselves. But how do we do it? Today, I sit down with Dr. Hillary Delarosa, skin care wellness expert, mom, & wife, as we discuss how to feel sexy, what beauty looks like to us, and what we do to show up in the world as our best selves.... even with tiny humans pulling on our legs. I also finally break down my experience with botox and give all the nitty gritty details. This is such a fun episode that will leave you feeling inspired to invest in yourself without the guilt.
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Have you ever watched a show or movie and been left dreaming for a life on the screen? Yea, me too. This past weekend. Then I had a HUGE realization that I had everything I wanted in front of me... maybe without the British accent. But listen to find out the simple act Wes did that made me love the reality I was in... and what you can do to be able to enjoy a show without feeling like you are missing something.
Do you feel disconnected from yourself? After a year of turmoil, and trying to just stand up straight, many of us have hit a wall. I am sharing today the realization of what has sent me over the edge, and how I am finding my way back to a healthy mental state. It isn't easy, and none of us are alone. Listen for action steps on how to find peace again in your home when outside our door is absolute chaos.
So often, we have an idea of what we think sex will be when we get married... then... 5 years down the road, we are often stagnate. We think "Why am I bad at sex?" "Am I broken?" or "What is the point?"
We sit down with sexologist & sex therapist Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill as they talk through creating a sexual connection with your partner. They share their journey of how they have completely transformed their sex life and what sex actually does... for the woman! It is hope giving to any couple out there struggling between the sheets... and for those who are too tired to care.
We don't hold back, so listen with tiny ears with caution ;)
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Why does my partner seem angry all the time? Why aren't we having sex anymore? How do I get my spouse to open up to me about how they feel? If you are finding yourself in a relationship that is filled with disconnect or uncertainty, you certainly are not alone. And today, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill are going to introduce what they did that took their marriage from painful to complete bliss. Using scientific data Dr. Glenn can explain how our brain reacts to emotions that cause us to either connect or disconnect from our partner. It is truly mind blowing. They also introduce their webinar series "New Year, New Connections" that teaches their connection codes. And I can personally say, it is transformative. Join us!
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After throwing out your 2020 planner in June, you may be hesitant to pick up a new one going into 2021. I get it. But, there are ways you can control your life in a world of chaos. On this episode, we are going to answer your questions, What goals should I set for 2021? How to I achieve goals? Is it ok if my goals are small? Should my husband and I have the same goals?
Setting goals doesn't have to be what you think it is... change your mindset, change your life.
Resources from this episode:
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Atomic Habits by James Clear - https://amzn.to/3rzp2Ia
Side Hustle School Podcast- https://sidehustleschool.com/
It is easy to get to the end of the year and feel like it was a complete failure to forget in move on. Ten years ago, Wes and I started doing a Year in Review at the end of each year & I have seen such a great change and focus in our marriage and lives over the years. I truly believe this is a guide if you are looking for clarity in your marriage and self. They say you learn from the past, but you can't learn from it if you never evaluate where you have been and what you learned. Join us as we dive into our 2020 and the lessons we are taking with us.
We have TWO weeks left of 2020. And right now, we are sitting in the breath. The tiniest bit of in-between with the most magical season upon us. Today, we are sharing how we are looking for signs of hope and what we are doing to make these last two weeks count as we come out of such a dark year.
Between the end of the year, seasonal depression, and the emotions wrapped up in the holidays, many of us are feeling disconnected and empty... or your partner is. Today, we talk about how Wes was finally able to open up about these emotions, what our conversation looked like, and what Tera did wrong as he was being vulnerable. Listen in, and don't be like Tera.
We are living proof that life isn't all you see on an instagram feed. After 18 days of being on the road, we have come home with some lessons & experiences that many would say "ruined their trip" but despite being tired... we are full.
Heading into the holiday season of the most difficult year many of us have ever seen, it is easy to focus on the bad. It is easy to only feel sad, angry, or overwhelmed. But Thanksgiving is all about gratitude. Today we talk about how we have incorporated gratitude into our lives and how it affects us. Crazy how our thoughts can control so much. We also invited our tiny humans on to share what they are most grateful for. It is fun, eye opening, and will leave you feeling lighter. Enjoy!
Wes and I learned early in our marriage that setting goals helped us live a full life. When we didn't have a plan, nothing was being accomplished which meant we were missing out on what we wanted in life. Today we talk about the three times a year we sit and reevaluate where we are and what we want in our lives. It doesn't just happen on it's own. We didn't just wander up to the Pyramids, but with knowing what we wanted in life, we got there.
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Today is the Election of 2020. And the country is divided in ways I haven't seen in my lifetime. And we are all voting out in fear. But, today it is over. I talk briefly about what to do now. Today. And tomorrow. And the next as we all recover from this experience, together, united.
Wes & I have both said this sentence to each other at different moments in our marriage. And, whoa, reality check. When we reach that point, we stop trying. And when we stop trying, our marriage suffers. And we as individuals suffer because our partner no longer wants to show up in that area.
We dive into this issue today- who has struggled with it the most in our relationship, the way we are changing our communication to support each other, and how this intentional change is giving us a rich marriage.
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Today we take a walk down memory lane and Wes goes as far as bringing out the first facebook messages we ever sent each other... I will admit it is embarrassing. Let's just say our romance is better than any you have seen on the Bachelor, and we would be a Jason & Molly for sure. But don't worry, there is also useful information about finding our own worth and where I believe our worth actually comes from. Enjoy this breather episode during a crazy week.
I am tired, and wiping baby booties doesn't exactly get me in the mood, so the last thing I want is my husband trying to feel me up at the end of the day. After years of trying to find our rhythm, we are finally in the groove, and I am no longer dodging him at the end of the day trying to put on my most unattractive sweats... and did I mention I am suddenly not feeling well? eek. Yea, it was rough at our house. Today we are talking about how we have taken the guessing out of it, and taking the guessing out of it ACTUALLY MAKES IT HAPPEN! Crazy stuff, hope you enjoy.
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We have spent most of our lives trying to only feel happy... anything else is bad, or wrong. But pain is inevitable and it is surrounding us right now... at every corner. How to cope with pain is up to us. It is our choice how we handle it, how we use it against others, or how we use it to stay numb so we feel nothing at all. We have been there and are dancing with the same feelings now. Today, we share how we are working to handle our hurt in hopes we make it to the other side of this mess whole.
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I have had moments that I questioned if my child was possessed by demons. Truly. The tantrums were out of control and happening daily. Where did I fail as a parent? Good news-- these fits weren't because I was a bad mom. I just didn't know how these kids brains worked and functioned. I had no idea their brains literally become disconnected from themselves. Today, I discuss the steps I take when my toddler starts kicking and screaming over the wrong color sippy cup.
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I have thought it.... "Why did I have my kids?"
"Why did I have so many kids?"
"My husband has it so much better than I do."
This season has been hard... for all of us. And, truthfully, I have had moments bitterness has tried to creep into my heart... ok, it has tried to storm in like the great flood. There have been dark moments of deep resentment as I stare over another sink full of dishes. I know I am not alone, and I know that it can happens even in the happiest of marriages. So, how do I fight it? How do I fight against the frustration I have because I am not fulfilled by teaching my kid 2+2? I break this down in this blunt, candid episode. Turn on the nightlight, because it gets a little dark in there.
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Marriages all go through seasons and with those seasons roles change, people change, and our ability to support each other in every way changes. But what is your goal? Who do YOU want to be in your marriage... roommates, teammates, partners, or one? We go through each one, times we have been there, and what we did to shift marriage to the next level.
So often we are held back not by our actual circumstances but because of the stories we tell ourselves. These lies can put us in boxes in our careers, marriage, and in creating the life we deeply want. We break down how to find out what beliefs you are holding on to, and how to work to overcome them.
You are tired, in a hurry, or emotionally spent, but your partner is practically begging you to take your clothes off. Yup! We are talking about sex in today's episode & the power & purpose of a quickie. We talk about the NEED of sex, the boundaries we have set, and what conversations we have before jumping in the bed... or the backseat of our van. Quickies serve a purpose but can be a fun way to enjoy sex!
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Have I mentioned that marriage is hard? haha. It is even harder when we don't have the foundational need of safety within it. Today, we dive into what Wes and I have done to keep each other safe in normal times, so in seasons of disconnect we can make it to the other side. Boundaries allow relationships to produce the love and intimacy we all desire. Your partner can't feel their love language you are giving them until they feel safe with you. We also talk about broken trust in relationships.
We have those long days, weeks, months (if you are someone who holds everything in)... then it just takes one wrong move... one side eye... one joke that throws you over the edge. It catches the other person off guard because normally, whatever happened wouldn't be a big deal. Why are you freaking out?? Well, because there is a lot going on under the surface. Today, we talk about how to worth through those moments, how NOT to work through those moments, and you get to hear some of our own personal triggers that I know many of you can relate to.
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Back in 2010, I learned a theory that changed my entire life. Yup, I am literally a different person because of it. It is: You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. But there is more to it... listen to find out how to really know who is in your brain space & what they are contributing there. Because what they contribute... you contribute. Plus find out my original list that is a bit... awkward.
As always, thanks for being here.
About three years into our marriage I had a realization... I kind of sucked as a spouse compared to Wes. On today's episode, I talk about why, the questions I ask myself to change my mindset, AND the benefits of going the extra mile. It is all about showing up for each other and not just being on the team but working towards being MVP.
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This weekend Wes & I were able to have a last minute, much needed getaway. We were desperate to have time to reconnect with ourselves and each other. On today's episode, we talk about roadblocks couples face that prevent time alone together, how expectations will dictate if that time is a success, and give tangible tips. We also share why planning is SO important... so you don't find yourself in the same situation we did :/
Resources mentioned:
Best Self Intimacy deck: https://bestself.co/products/intimacy-deck
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I took away Wes' identity today within 1 hour of being awake. It was totally unintentional and a little out of my control but it affected the rest of our day. In fact, we hash our thoughts out here in this episode because we have barely spoken to each other all day. Ironically enough, that is exactly what this episode is all about- identity. How we gain it. How we lose it. And how we build on to it as seasons of our lives change.
This is for anyone who has recently changed careers, gotten married, had a baby, moved to a new place, broken a bone, ended a relationship, gotten in a fight with your spouse... cough cough... so yea, it is probably for you😉
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I want to go on the record and say that we don't fit society's definition of #couplegoals. Wes & I are NOT perfect. We have experienced a struggling marriage. And if you have or are currently in that struggle, this episode is for you. We give tangible tips and action steps to get you from disconnect to reconnect. It doesn't happen overnight. But know that you aren't alone! It is a season & with an intentional mindset you can get to the other side.
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It is finally time, a whole episode dedicated to the thing you either love most... or avoid at all costs & pretend to be snoring. Yup, let's talk about sex. Because we are all having it (or expected to) and many of us are silently struggling through it. Well, if you know me, I refuse to be silent. Join me in today's episode all about the roles Wes & I play within our own marriage... no, not role playing (yet)... and why sex matters!
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We are talking about the effects of cancel culture. It seems every time I get online someone else is being turned off. Should we be cancelling people? When is it actually ok? And what are the long term effects of this movement? I will admit things I have personally done that could cancel me. Yup, I am pretty dang scared because things get controversial. But I told y'all I was going to be real... so, here we go.
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There have been so many moments in recent months that Wes or I were just done with a conversation... but the other one wasn't. I even caught Wes hiding in the bathroom because his ears couldn't take one more minute of my passionate rants.
And can we please talk about decision fatigue?? Just buy the thing! As long as I don't have to hear about it anymore... I don't care!
Yup. Many of us have been there. This is how we cope.
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I'm 34 today... and it's awkward. I'm to the point of getting Botox, even though I said I never would. Meeting friends is super weird and I'm not sure it's going to get better... can you imagine having to meet new friends in the nursing home?!
Wes and I chat about how you can deal with getting older as a couple. Yes, we change throughout the years and we have to learn to accept each other. But that change is ok... and we talk about learning to accept who we are and stepping into ourselves as we get older. #alwayslearning
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Today, I interview Camille Bennett who is the founder of project say something & anti-racism leader located in Florence, Alabama. She shares about growing up as a black woman in Alabama, being a mom to two teenage sons, and how to be an ally to our black community. She has spent the last 3 years working towards the removal of a Confederate statue & shares her anger in what it has taken for the city to start to listen. I give an update on the removal of the monument after leaving the protest and city meeting. It will give a small glimpse into what our black communities are fighting.
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After this week, we feel like no American can deny the reality of police brutality and justice within our country. But the truth is, this has gone on long before now. Today, Wes & I unpack the racism we have discovered within our own thoughts, we talk what white privilege and what it actually is. We talk about the subtle, often unintentional messages that are said to our black community every day & how these microaggressions shape their identity.
Are protests actually effective?
And most importantly, steps white people should take to begin their journey to discover & fight their own racism.
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Today we will go over how to travel on a budget, the hardest part of traveling, and some of the best places to travel. We also share some of the crazy experiences we have lived through & why it was all worth it!
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How do we move forward? As states start to open, we are finding ourselves standing in the middle of our old lives and the expectation of stepping into a new one. Today, Wes & I talk about how we are evaluating this season, what we want out of life looking ahead, and the parts of us we want to leave behind.
This episode will start the conversation in your own home to offer reflection and a shift. This is a chance to realign with what you want because so many of us had gotten off course one way or another.
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Wes & I dive into a time in our marriage that we were ready to call it quits. We talk about how outside stress (family issues, job loss, death, life changes) can affect our mental state. Life is hard! We talk about how counseling ultimately saved our marriage, and helped Wes work through the emotions he was working to escape. This episode is all about how to find a counselor, why go, and when! We want to alleviate any shame you currently associate with it and give you hope for what is to come.
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Becoming a mom is the biggest transition of your life. There are so many questions, fears, anticipation. On today's episode, I am talking through things Wes and I did as we prepped to become parents. I talk about birth plan, breastfeeding, in-laws, postpartum, and expectations. Take a listen with your partner to get on the same page about what is to come. And welcome to the club! Excited for you for what is to come.
We all "know" what it is like to be a parent before we are one. Right? haha. Not a single clue. Today, I am sharing 6 lessons motherhood has taught me, when we made the decision to become parents, and what I am still struggling with today in the process. Even after traveling the world, nothing I saw compared to that tiny baby who was laid on my chest. In that moment, my life shifted and I gained insight and purpose far greater than any I had ever known. I was also peed on immediately and would never pee normally again. Motherhood changes everything. If you are a momma, this is for you. Local to North Alabama and looking for the perfect Mother's Day gift? Go to www.terawages.com/book to purchase a gift card for a Mom & Me session by Tera! Follow on Instagram www.instagram.com/terawages
It doesn't matter how close we watch our kids, accidents happen. Yup, even to the helicopter moms. Today, we talk about how our kids have taken us by surprised even when they are right under our nose. We talk mindset shifts in how to create space for your kids to explore while keeping them safe.... at least as safe as we can. We talk mom shame, guilt, and how passing blame can wreck a marriage.
Disclaimer: I talk about locking my kids out of the house... it was only the big kids. I don't recommend locking a baby outside. Just don't do it. When you ask the question, could my kid die? Don't do it. If they may scrape their knee... let them go!
Moral of the story... Put the helmet on! But you eventually have to take off the training wheels & let them fall.
Either way, accidents happen, stop beating yourself up when they do.
Motherhood is not for the faint at heart... I get it!
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Today we bring on Breana Spain who is honoring infertility awareness week by sharing her diagnosis with endometriosis, making the decision to try IVF (in vitro fertilization), and how to support other women who are suffering through infertility. Infertility affects women so much more than on the surface. Breana shares how every aspect of her life has changed, starting with her job as a mother baby nurse nurse. I hope that this conversation will help all women understand how to support each other & come alongside our friends who are suffering.
Corona is still in full force and our mental health is more important than ever! Today, we are sharing three areas to reevaluate in order to cut toxins and control the narrative in your head. From your social media to your nightly detox, you can eliminate external negatives and create space for joy. You aren't alone in this... I get it!
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In this episode, we dive into the love languages and enneagram test to explain how getting to know your spouse can transform how you communicate. You may "think" you know each other already... we certainly did. But taking these tests have transformed how we see each other, talk to each other, and understand each other's needs. It is so much easier to not get stuck a cycle of feeling empty and unseen.
I believe this is the funnest way to take your marriage to the next level.
All marriages go through different seasons of chaos. It could be loss of a loved one, financial stress, birth of a child... or you know, a worldwide pandemic. We cover ways to connect with your spouse, love languages, how to support each other, and working from home.
In total, we have 6 tips of how to keep your marriage a priority and centered while the world feels like it is falling apart.
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We often allow fear to hold us back from experiencing peace and joy in the daily life moments. We all experience different types of fear that originate from those ideas our mom put in our heads to the neighborhood we were raised. Tera talks about where many of our fears were born and offers tips on how she overcomes the moment to moment fear battle.
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After spending 5 years building a business & traveling to over 30 countries, Wes & Tera made the plunge to start their family.
Now after 12 years, they have had their fair share of identity crisis, struggles with balance between home & work, and trying to create a home filled with adventure & love.
They share how they create the moments they never want to forget, while battling the daily potty training struggles, and keeping things spicy in their marriage.
This podcast is for women who want to live deeper, dream bigger, and create a life they love. It isn't always easy... I GET IT 👊🏻
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