You're not crazy, or hysterical. You have emotions. I can help you deal with them.
Hi! I'm Amanda. I am a Certified Life Coach and I know a few things about being diagnosed with BPD.
Helping women who have been diagnosed with BPD learn the skill Self-Love is something that I was CALLED to do. Years ago I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). I remember the air stopped moving when I received that diagnosis. I had intense and immediate SHAME in being labeled with a personality disorder. It rocked me to my core.
“Sorry, Amanda. It turns out you’re definitely not like other people at all - you have an incurable personality DISORDER. All those years you didn’t fit in IS actually because you don’t fit in.”
Through years of meds, therapy and drinking myself into a stupor while riding the emotional rollercoaster of my brain, I finally stumbled upon Life Coaching.
Through coaching, I learned how to meet myself where I was at. I learned how to treat myself FIRST with love and respect and caring. I learned how to rewrite the story I told about myself and others. And in doing that, I changed my relationship with everybody and everything else.
I am a Certified Life Coach and I help my clients shake the stigma of BPD and live lives they never knew were possible for them.
I lead a life I once could only DREAM about. One where I get to be married to a wonderful man, one where I have a beautiful and loving and stable relationship with my children. I have an incredible career and live in a magical house tucked up into the mountains where I’ve always dreamed of living.
I’m called to help other women who have been through my hell create the same kind of success. So listen in, I'm sharing everything here.
Click here to find out more: amandahess.ca
In this episode, I delve deep into my personal journey and share insights on embracing and understanding emotions. As someone who has walked through emotional battles and navigated the ups and downs of diagnosis, I know how transformative it is to learn emotional resilience. We explore the essential nature of emotions, the importance of releasing judgment, and why moving beyond labels can unlock a more fulfilling life. This episode is about reducing suffering, increasing self-love, and finding a way to live joyfully, even with life’s challenges.
I reflect on the journey of this podcast and my personal growth in business. This podcast is more than just content; it's a heartfelt endeavor to help others.
Emotions are the core of a fulfilling life. We talk about how managing emotions is crucial for living intentionally and powerfully.
I share my past struggles with intense emotions and how they impacted my life, especially during early motherhood. Emotions can be overwhelming, but there is a way to navigate them.
My clients’ experiences vary widely—from inner battles to life-altering events. Regardless of their circumstances, it all comes back to how they handle emotions.
We're not taught how to feel or understand emotions deeply. I discuss how learning about feelings, their bodily sensations, and their impact on us is transformative.
A diagnosis doesn’t have to define you. I share my experience with clinical diagnoses and why I choose to see them as information rather than identity. Diagnosis can provide insight, but it’s not a life sentence.
The goal in coaching is to reduce suffering and increase life satisfaction. We start by managing pain, then look for ways to enrich and enliven life.
Compulsion often drives us out of fear, whereas desire is about genuine longing. Shifting from compulsion to desire is key to creating a life you truly want.
Imagine what life could be like if you let go of the belief that something’s inherently wrong with you. What if you could experience relief, joy, and love without fixing "everything"?
Connect with Me:
If you’re ready to work through emotional challenges, I invite you to book a free call with me at amandahess.ca to start the journey to reducing suffering and creating a life you love.
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Are you struggling with loneliness, craving genuine friendships, or feeling stuck in the same old patterns? I'm here to help. Join me as we explore the importance of human connection, the challenges of making friends in adulthood, and practical steps you can take to create meaningful relationships. Whether it's through my coaching insights or personal stories, I'm dedicated to helping you break the cycle of loneliness and build the connections you crave. Tune in every week for new episodes, and don't forget to book a free consult if you need personalized support. Let's make a real change together! – Amanda Hess
00:00 Introduction and Personal Message
01:19 The Reality of Loneliness
02:32 Understanding Coaching
03:31 The Importance of Friendship
06:06 Challenges in Making Friends
13:08 Steps to Build Connections
24:18 The Value of Being a Good Friend
25:48 Creating a Friendship Fabric
29:08 Final Thoughts and Invitation
30:45 Introduction to Friendship Topic
31:12 Understanding Coaching and Its Role
32:47 The Importance of Human Connection
35:04 Challenges of Making Friends as Adults
42:18 Steps to Build Adult Friendships
53:42 The Value of Being a Good Friend
55:13 Creating a Friendship Fabric
58:36 Conclusion and Next Steps
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Kathryn's Journey: From Therapy to Coaching Transformation
In this heartfelt podcast episode, I, Amanda, welcome my client Kathryn, who shares her incredible journey over the past year through life coaching. Kathryn talks about her background as a clinical psychologist, the distinctions between therapy and coaching, and how small, enjoyable experiences have led to major life changes for her. She opens up about her struggles with a difficult divorce and feeling emotionally shut down, and reflects on the impactful shifts in her mindset and beliefs. You'll hear about the 'Rat Park' concept, layering positive experiences, and the importance of letting go of shame. We also discuss my unique coaching style and how anyone, at any age, can experience personal growth. This episode is packed with insights and inspiration for anyone looking to transform their life.
If you are curious about working with Amanda, you can book a call to talk it over with her here: https://usemotion.com/meet/amanda-hess/call
00:00 Welcome and Introduction
02:15 Kathryn'sJourney to Coaching
03:32 The Impact of Coaching on Divorce Recovery
04:51 Understanding Emotional Barriers
07:38 Small Steps to Big Changes
11:45 The Rat Park Analogy
19:04 Releasing Shame and Embracing Pleasure
29:26 Shifting Perspectives and Expanding Capacity
32:09 Understanding Emotional Resistance
32:23 Growing Capacity for Emotions
32:41 Balancing Negative and Positive Emotions
33:17 Hyper Responsibility and Earning Joy
35:39 Parental Expectations and Happiness
37:23 Contentment and Optimism
40:23 Embracing Risk and Flexibility
48:32 Coaching vs. Therapy
52:41 Final Thoughts and Gratitude
When we start down the road of personal development - we quickly notice that negative self-talk is a problem. We see that our negative thoughts about ourselves create results that we don't want. The thing is, we think that what we need is to shut that voice up. But the problem is that we can't do it. I'm going to teach you what actually works.
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Burnout is something that everybody is talking about. If you think you might be burned out, you probably are. But that doesn't mean that is where you need to stay. Let's talk about it.
Making the decision to change your life can be so much easier than you think. The only reason decisions seem hard is because we think there are RIGHT decisions and there are WRONG decisions. But the truth is, you are only one decision away from changing the trajectory of your life at ANY given time. You don't need more time or more information, you need to learn how to trust yourself. Are you ready to change your life?
Ready for change? Book a call with Amanda and make real progress towards making that decision: https://amandahesscoaching.as.me/Discovery
Welcome to the Top Ten Podcast Episodes! Today we start with number 9: How To Love Yourself When You Think You Shouldn't.
Self-Love is hard even when we are trying to love things that other people say we SHOULD love. But what about the things people say we shouldn't? Learning to love everything about myself, including behaviors that could be viewed as unacceptable, has been the catalyst in changing my life. Take a listen to discover how loving the things you don't like about yourself could change your entire life.
Book a free Discovery Call with Amanda here: https://amandahesscoaching.as.me/Discovery
Join me as I walk you through what it was like to be a 48 year old adult in a tiny dress who stepped onto a cold rink and danced and jumped my way through a figure skating program 2 days in a row. I learned 2 very important life lessons from that experience, and today I am sharing them with you. Let me entertain you while I also show you how to transform your life. This is going to be so fucking fun!
You might think I am insane for signing up for this competition, but it might surprise you to know that I never used to believe I could do anything like that. In fact, I used to struggle figuring out what to even do with myself most days. If this sounds like you, I want to invite you to book a discovery call with me. This free call will help you start figuring out what you DO want. go to joinamanda.ca to set that up.
Welcome to the Top Ten Podcast Episodes! Today we start with number 10: Woman Guilt
If there is one emotion that I know that every women feels on a daily basis, it's GUILT. We feel guilt about everything: What we eat, what we drink, the time we spend on ourselves, the money we spend on ourselves, etc. We basically feel guilty about basically everything. And honestly, it's so fucked up! We feel guilty for taking up any space at all. And that has to stop. I'm breaking it all down in this episode and giving you some real tools to get started today.
Ready to drop the woman guilt? It all starts with booking a free Discovery Call: Book HERE: https://amandahess.ca
I have been told I was too emotional my whole life. I have always had big feelings and guess what? That is never going to change. AND it turns out that there is no such thing as being TOO emotional. There is just you and your emotions and the truth of what that looks like for you. We worry a lot about being too emotional and too much for other people, but instead we need to flip our thinking and supporting ourselves being the gorgeous emotional humans that we are. Listen in to find out how.
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This TikTok trend for Demure and Mindful seems like just a fun little trend. But it's actually perpetuating a female stereotype that you are going to want to distance yourself from with a 10 foot pole. You don't need to be more demure, or polite, or ladylike. You do want to know how to be strong and capable to actually enjoy your life while you get to be yourself. Give me 10 minutes to change how you think about yourself and watch your life change exponentially. You deserve a big and strong life.
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Stress. We have all had it drilled into us that we have to reduce our stress, but how are we supposed to do that with our busy lives? The truth is, if we had time for meditating and relaxing, we wouldn't be stressed, right? Today I am going to show you a different way to think about stress. Stress is a normal, human emotion. We are supposed to feel it. The issue is not that we experience stress, the issue is that the amount we feel is simply out of balance. In today's episode, I'm going to share how you can reduce your stress without reducing the quality of your life or making you into a different person. Let's go!
Hardship is a part of living. Sometimes it can feel like there is no way to go through hardship without losing yourself to sadness, depression and hopelessness along the way. I used to struggle with this too and I want to show you the way you can do it without getting emotionally lost. Navigating hardship is something that can get a lot easier, when we know how to handle our emotions. Today's episode is going to walk you through each step.
In this episode we cover:
The unique experience of hardship (we are all just human)
Grieving & handling emotions (how to do it in a way that you are not always falling apart)
Managing emotions (what to really do to process emotions)
Ways to experience happiness and joy when going through hardship
Want help with this? Let's get on a Strategy Session. Book here: https://amandahess.ca
If you worry about what other people think, Congratulations! This means you are human. It's normal to worry what other people think, but that doesn't mean we need to consciously keep it that way. One way to release what other people think, is to let them be wrong about you. It's simple and it works. Listen in to learn how to apply this in a way that can truly change your life and your ability to stop caring what other people think and instead start deciding what you want to think instead.
Ready to get on a call with me and find out how I can help you with this? Book HERE.
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You might already know that making yourself a priority is something you should be doing, but did you know that it's actually the number one factor in creating a life you love living? Without making yourself a priority, nothing in your life is going to work long-term. It's one thing to know this, and it is completely another thing to implement it. As women, we have been socialized for years to prioritize everything ahead of ourselves, including the family pet. Today I break down why you need to change your priorities and how to do it in a way that actually sticks.
Ready to get on a call to chat about it? BOOK HERE
I think by now you probably know that being overly critical of yourself is making things harder for yourself. But do you know WHY you criticize yourself? It's not because you are somehow messed up, a lot of it has to do with how the human brain is designed to function. Another big part of this is how we are raised and socialized as women. You actually don't need to stop criticizing all the time, but you do need to have awareness for when you are being overly critical and know what to do instead. That is what I am teaching you in today's episode.
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Are you a crier? Do you know somebody that cries a lot? Does crying make you uncomfortable? Do you wish you could stop yourself from crying? Do you think crying is weak? If so, this episode is for you. In today's episode I am going to show you why you cry and why it makes you feel embarrassed or even ashamed. Crying is complicated, but ultimately it is one of the truly vulnerable ways we show that something is emotionally difficult for us. You don't need to cry more and you definitely don't need to cry less. But we really do need to talk about what you are going to make crying mean. Discovering the key to crying when you are a sensitive soul will unlock a new level of deep knowing with yourself. I can't wait to show you how you can let go of feeling embarrassed to cry.
As always, you can book a free call with me to discuss this further. Book here: https://amandahess.ca
You also are invited to join my free community for neurodivergent & sensitive women here: Join the Self-Love Club
Today we delve into the concept of emotional independence. Most of us are raised to be emotionally dependent, which means we think our emotional safety comes from other people, but it's actually the opposite. If we rely on other people to make us feel emotionally safe, it is inconsistent at best. What we focus on today is increasing emotional independence. Emotional Independence is something you can increase with some simple tools that are accessible to everyone. Listen in to find out more
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You may already know that to change your life, you need to change the way that you think. But the question is, do you know how to change the way that you think? Do you know how to unwind the programming of your youth and how to think supportive and amazing things about yourself? Because this is what is required to change your life into something you want to be living. Today I am going to tell you about how you need to start going about TRAINING your brain. You might not know how to think differently yet, but this episode will change that.
Have you joined my free Facebook Community, The Self-Love Club, where I share tons of tips and inspiration to help you change the way you think? Join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ndselflove
Are you ready to have my help in changing the way that YOU think? Sign up for a free Strategy Session here: https://amandahesscoaching.as.me/strategy
Being supersensitive can feel like a curse. After all, everybody just keeps telling us that we need to "stop being so sensitive" and we need to just "calm down" or just "get over it". But the truth is that being supersensitive means that we feel deeply. And that can make things hard, because we end up reacting more to our emotions more than the neurotypical world and then they just really don't get it and end up rejecting us. The problem is that makes us less and less likely to be vulnerable and show our true selves to the world, and that in turn makes us feel more and more disconnected to the people around us. We end up surrounding ourselves with the wrong people, with the kinds of people we think we "should" be.
The way out is learning to own your super-sensitivity. It's learning to see it as your "magic" and not as your "curse". You need to learn how to use it so that you can truly start showing it to the world in a way that feels safe and ok. Is everybody going to get you? No they are not. However, the only way you fill your world with people who not only get you, but love you, is to learn how to be vulnerable again to show your true gift.
If you are looking for a community of sensitive women just like you, be sure to join my free community: The Self-Love Club. Join here!
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Fear is the number one reason I see my clients not reaching for the things they want in life. Whether it is the job, the career, the relationship or just the hobby, fear stops us from showing up in a big way for the life we want. Fear is insidious. Fear holds us back away from what we deeply desire. If you want to create a life that you love living, you must develop a better relationship with fear. In today's episode I am sharing how fear could be hiding in your life and what you are going to want to do about it if you want to stop feeling stuck and instead start feeling fully alive. Take a listen and be sure to leave a rating and review if you love this episode.
If you would like to talk to Amanda, you should consider booking a free Strategy Session. Book here: https://amandahess.ca
Ready to transform the way you approach your life, your work and self-care? Tune in to the latest episode of the podcast where I sit down with my phenomenal business coach Samantha Siffring.
Samantha is not just any business coach – she's the guiding light for women building thriving online businesses. In this episode, we delve into the transformative coaching that has shifted careers, the art of finding your unique path, and the surprising truths about self-love and leadership.
Whether you're an entrepreneur or just trying to figure out how to get yourself to do hard things, Samantha's insights will inspire and equip you with the tools to succeed without sacrificing your well-being. Don't miss out on this episode packed with wisdom, laughter, and actionable advice. Hit play now and start your journey to a more empowered you!
Find out more about working with Amanda: https://amandahess.ca
About Samantha Siffring:
Samantha Siffring is a business coach, host of the Simple Online Business podcast, and author of the book, Copy That Compels. Since 2015, she has helped hundreds of women build successful businesses. Her non-work time is spent reading romance novels, antiquing, traveling with her family, cheering for the Denver Nuggets.
Find out more about Samantha Siffring: https://samanthasiffring.com
As a coach, I have heard every single one of my clients tell me that they don't feel good enough at least once. But did you know that you don't not "feel" good enough? You THINK you are not good enough. And that is a distinction that matters if you want to stop feeling this way.
Thinking you are not good enough comes from many places: Society, your parents, school, tv, social media, trauma, and just plain old life. Everybody thinks this way sometimes, but that doesn't mean you can't change it. But I am going to teach you a way to change it that you might not have thought about. Because rest assured, this line of thinking is fucking with your life.
Today's episode is a nuanced look at how you can finally start loosening your grip on "not feeling good enough". It's not what you might think. Take a listen and send me an email to let me know what you think to coach@amandahess.ca. Can't wait to hear from you
And hey, be sure to come join my free Facebook Community to have discussions like this every day: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ndselflove
Sensitive women struggle to feel seen in the world We are told that how and who we are is a problem, so we get really good at hiding and pretending to be somebody that we are not. We take other people's direction on how to live our lives, and end up feeling frustrated, resentful and stuck. After the death of my son's classmate, I can tell you for sure that you need to be living life according to your terms. Life is short my friend, it's time to live life on your own terms.
If you want my help figuring out how to do that, it's time to book a free Strategy Session. Book that right here https://amandahess.ca
ps: it's free
An emotional hangover is the emotional fallout that some of us experience when our circumstances create a heavy emotional load that we have trouble processing and end up having overflow after the events in question. Oftentimes this hangover can create very real physical symptoms that are difficult to navigate. On today's episode, I am sharing how to identify and emotional hangover, how to address it and how to reduce the impact moving forward.
If you would like my help dealing with this in your life, it is the perfect time to set up a free Strategy Session. You, me, on zoom talking about how we can make your emotional experience a hell of a lot easier.
Book your free Strategy Session here: amandahess.ca
Rejection hurts. This is a fact. It can be hard to know what to do when you are feeling rejected. What we tend to do is simply try and get rid of the feeling, but what we don't realize is that this makes the feeling of rejection persist and grow. In today's episode I am going to show you how to handle rejection in a way that allows you to go out in the world not fearing rejection. You don't need people to stop saying no to you to be able to create the things you WANT in your life. You need to learn how to be the boss of rejection. Listen in to find out more.
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As humans we tend to be pretty impulsive, and that's because we are driven by emotion. The stronger the emotion, the more impulsive and reactive we will be. Since neurodivergent people have troubles processing and since we are more sensitive to emotion, we will often do and say things using emotional fuel that is not great at creating results that we actually want.
This is why I implement the 24 hour rule. The 24 rule is a way of allowing an urge and allowing an emotion in your body, while not choosing to take any action. This is not always easy, but it is always a benefit. When we implement this in our day to day life, our relationships improve, our careers improve, our self-talk improves, and our LIFE improves.
Take a listen to see how this might benefit your life and possibly create some pretty amazing results moving forward. It can be easier than you think.
Ready to take this work to the next level? The next step is to book a Free Strategy Session with Amanda. You can book that HERE: https://amandahess.ca
When you are inside of a relationship that is not creating the kind of experience that you want to have, it is natural to want to complain. And when somebody tells you that YOU are doing something that they don't want or that they don't like, it is totally natural to want to defend yourself. But just because it's natural doesn't mean it's the best thing for us. And just because it's natural does not mean it's the best thing for the quality of relationship that we want to build.
I invited my former Life Coach, friend and colleague to be a guest on the podcast today and share a concept that she teaches called: No complaining. No defending. In today's episode, Maggie Reyes (Marriage Coach and Double Master Certified Life Coach) comes on to explain how applying this concept can create a major shift in ANY relationship (including the one you have with yourself)
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More About Maggie
Maggie Reyes is a Master Certified Life Coach and Modern Marriage Mentor who specializes in helping driven, ambitious women create their best marriages, without waiting for their partners to change or adding more work to their lives.
She is the creator of The Marriage MBA Program, a 6 month mentorship in creating a successful marriage using principles from positive psychology, cognitive science and simple coaching tools that you can learn today and apply tomorrow.
Maggie is the author of the best selling Questions for Couples Journal which has over 3,000 4 star ratings on Amazon.
And she is the host of the The Marriage Life Coach Podcast which is consistently ranked among the top 2 percent podcasts out of over 2 million podcasts tracked by ListenNotes.
When she isn’t teaching or coaching she loves obsessing over Formula 1 Racing, Bridgerton, reading fan fiction, sexy romance novels and watching superhero movies and Mexican Rom Coms with her hubby.
If you want to learn how to stop doing the things that poison the love in a relationship and start doing the things that make love stronger, you can find the tools to create your best marriage at MaggieReyes.com.
Links
https://maggiereyes.com/
https://maggiereyes.com/podcast/
https://www.instagram.com/themaggiereyes/
Sometimes life get's hard and shit get's real. Welcome to a raw and unfiltered episode where we dive deep into the complexities of navigating life when everything feels overwhelming. In this episode, we explore what to do when challenges pile up, responsibilities seem endless, and emotions run high. Join us as we uncover the strategies to handle life's real struggles with grace and resilience.
If you are ready to talk about this, let's get on a free Strategy Session! You can book that here: amandahess.ca
It can be really disheartening when the things you do to help yourself when emotions get high suddenly seem to stop working. It can be tempting to believe in these moments that something is wrong, that there is specifically something wrong with YOU. But that's not the truth. The truth is that nervous system regulation is not a set it and forget it game. We are humans and not robots, we need to really look at how to approach ourselves by looking at where we are at right now. Familiar routines sometimes are the worst ways to regulate yourself, and that's why I recorded this episode for you today. Nervous System regulation is all about hacking your brain. Sometimes the most regulating things we can do are HARD. And above all, we need to remember that we are always layering our tools for maximum results. So if you are struggling with enjoying the things that have always regulated you in the past, or if nervous system regulation has not been something you've really ever thought about, this is your episode.
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In a world that often touts quick fixes and instant solutions, the concept of an "easy button" can be alluring. We are constantly bombarded with messages that promise a simple answer to life's complexities, whether it's through a new course, a magic program, or a revolutionary coaching technique. But what if the key to real growth and transformation lies not in pressing an easy button, but in embracing the journey of self-discovery and personal development? The latest episode of the podcast delves deep into this very notion, challenging the prevalent narrative that there is a one-size-fits-all solution to navigating life's challenges.
As always, if you want Amanda's help in figuring out how to implement this, you should consider booking a free Strategy Session. You can book that here: Strategy Session
I guarantee you could ask 5 people in a row how they are doing, and all 5 of them would tell you that they are busy. Being busy has become a familiar refrain among the modern world, and the truth is, it needs to stop. If you are feeling anxious and depleted and like you are on your last nerve, busyness addiction is playing a much bigger part in this problem than what you might realize. Too many women are jumping from task to task with a to-do list that is a mile long and and a mile wide. You might think that the way through this is to get it all done, and I am here to tell you that you are dead wrong.
Let's dive into today's episode where I am going to break this all down for you and show you a real way out of breaking free of busyness addiction. It's easier than what you might think.
If you are ready to give up busyness addiction, you need to register for my free class: How To Get Out Of Survival Mode and Create a Fuck Yes Life. Register Here
Resentment cancer. Here's what you know, resentment is always cancer. Always. It hardens you from the hurt, it protects you from the pain, but the long game when it comes to resentment is one of loneliness, bitterness and despair. Resentment protects us, but it also blocks us. It keeps us from the things that we desperately want in the world because we decide that the world sucks, we decide people (or maybe just a gender) sucks and we decide that hope isn't worth it.
It takes courage to open back up to the world. It takes strength to open ourselves up to get hurt again. Resentment tells us the lie of "we don't need that shit", because the truth is, we actually DO need that shit. We need love, and acceptance, and romance and desire. We need connection and joy and fulfillment and fun.
Today's episode is going to walk you through why you want to learn how to let go of resentment and what to tap into instead. My friend, you are capable of far more than you know. Listen in, let's talk about it.
If you love this episode, make sure to join us in the Self-Love Club: A free Facebook community that dives deeper into all of these topics. JOIN HERE
Difficult relationships are just that ... difficult. The truth is, we all have difficult relationships. Even when we decide to stop contact with somebody, we still have a relationship with them, because the truth is, all a relationship is, is your thoughts about another person. I know it can seem like the only way to improve a relationship with somebody is for them to change, but I am here to tell you that is not necessarily the case. We have a lot more power than we think we do when it comes to relationships. Take a listen if you want to change a difficult relationship in your life. I'm going to teach you a whole new way.
If you want support, don't forget you can join us in the Self Love Club free Facebook group. Join Here
My son was told by a friend that somebody on his basketball team found him annoying. My response was that, first of all, that was his teammates problem. Because the truth is, being annoyed is a feeling and that means it's created by what we think. We can't control what somebody else thinks, and therefore we cannot control how somebody else feels.
Feedback like "you are annoying" can be tough to navigate as a neurodivergent woman. We have heard before and we have heard it a lot, but that doesn't make it true. We need to change the way we think about being "annoying" because it creates emotions like shame. Shame does not serve us, it does not help us and it will never improve us.
So instead, we need to give the people in our lives back their own feelings, and instead learn how to navigate our own.
Join me in today's episode where I am going to show you exactly how to do this.
And don't forget you can join my free Self Love Club Facebook Group HERE
And you can book a free Strategy Session HERE
I spent a lot of years of my life (over 40) being ashamed of being an outward verbal processor. It's a pretty common neurodivergent trait that can oftentimes end up with other people treating you poorly. Here's the thing, even thought a lot of people really don't get it, there ARE a lot of people that DO get it. Today's episode breaks down what life looks like as a verbal processor, how to get of the shame spiral, and how to help yourself process better so that this doesn't happen for you as much.
More than anything, what you need to know is that there are lots of people in this world that will not only not be bothered by this quality, but that will appreciate it and totally get it. You are not alone.
if you want some help with this, book a free Strategy Session. I can help you work through this.
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Step into a world of self-discovery and empowerment with me on today's podcast! Join me as we unravel the layers of your self-concept, exploring what truly shapes your beliefs about yourself and how they impact every aspect of your life.
In this episode, I'll guide you through thought-provoking questions and practical strategies to challenge your existing self-concept and pave the way for personal growth and fulfillment. You'll hear insightful anecdotes and coaching tips that will inspire you to embrace your worth and potential.
Discover how to break free from limiting beliefs, nurture a positive self-concept, and align your thoughts with your deepest desires. Plus, I'll share how you can take the next step towards transforming your life through personalized coaching sessions.
Don't miss out on this transformative journey towards a more empowered and authentic version of yourself. Tune in now and embark on the path to self-discovery and self-love. See you there!
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If you tell me that you are neurodivergent, I would bet money that you have a lot of lists. You probably think that those lists are what is keeping you from drowning in forgetting all the things you are supposed to be doing. But I am going to tell you something that might rock your world: The lists are making things so much worse. Lists are a way of confirming all of the things you "have to" do in the world. But have you ever stopped to think about what you might WANT to do? Probably not, because you are being buried alive by what you "have to" do.
Today's podcast breaks this all down and shows you how you probably want to redefine what you "have to" do in the world. Take a listen, and if you want my help, book a strategy call. I can help you.
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What do desperation, hopelessness, failure & winning have to do with each other? Everything. They have everything to do with each other.
So, why am I delving into these seemingly disparate topics? Well, because they're all interconnected. You can't fully understand one without considering the others. Desperation, hopelessness, failure, winning—they're all part of life's intricate tapestry.
During a recent strategy session with a client, the topic of desperation surfaced. She felt stuck in a cycle of setbacks, particularly in her career advancement. Rejection after rejection led her to question her worth and potential. Sound familiar? It's a narrative many of us can relate to.
Speaking of narratives, let's talk about my son's basketball journey. He's eager to join a new team where his friends play, but I'm more focused on finding the right coaching philosophy to nurture his growth. The looming prospect of failure—what if he doesn't make the A team?—stirs up a mix of emotions. As a coach myself, I'm acutely aware of the weight we sometimes carry for our loved ones.
But here's the thing: failure is not the end of the road; it's a detour. Just like in my own life, where setbacks paved the way for growth and resilience, our failures shape us. They teach us to navigate adversity without losing sight of our dreams.
Now, let's talk about dating. Ever felt like you're settling because finding the right partner seems like an impossible feat? I've seen it time and again. But here's the truth: the good ones aren't all gone. It's about maintaining high standards while embracing the journey, failures included.
So, how do we navigate these emotional rollercoasters? By reframing failure as an opportunity for growth and learning. Imagine approaching failure with a sense of curiosity and even fun. Crazy, right? But it's a mindset shift that can make all the difference.
And if you're feeling overwhelmed, remember: you're not alone. Building emotional resilience takes time, but it's worth the investment. That's where coaching comes in. Together, we'll reprogram your thinking, regulate your emotions, and chart a path toward a more fulfilling life.
So, friend, if you're ready to rewrite your story and embrace the journey of being human, I'm here to help. Book a free strategy session with me, and let's start turning those setbacks into stepping stones to success.
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Thanks for tuning in! Don't forget to leave a review if you enjoyed this episode—it helps me reach more people like you. And until next time, remember: failure is just another word for opportunity. See you soon!
Anxiety. We all feel it. It has been labelled as a problem emotion. It has been labeled as a disordered emotion. But what if I told you that it's actually an emotion we feel when we are terrified of feeling emotion? Today I am going to share what anxiety REALLY is. I am also going to help you break it down into bite size pieces so that you can finally start addressing anxiety in an empowered way. We don't need to get rid of anxiety, but we do need to learn how to handle it. This episode is going to show you how to do that.
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Neurodivergent women struggle with sensory processor overload. But that doesn't mean we have to change or be different to stop overloading. However we do want to make the overload our responsibility. Today's episode shares how we can begin with understanding how to give more time and energy to our sensory processor (aka our brain) so that we can create a life we enjoy living (every single day) without shutting down and burning out.
When we are aware of our sensory load, we can be aware of when the sensory load is going to increase. When we have an understanding of this, we can begin implementing proactive nervous system regulation, emotional awareness & allowing and productive thinking.
This keeps us in charge of our sensory processor and ensures that it doesn't burn out (no matter what might be happening)
Listen in and be sure to share your thoughts over on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theamandahess/
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As young girls, we are socialized to be "nice". In fact, we spent a vast amount of time focusing on how to stand up for ourselves and ask for what we want, but at the same time we try to do it in such a way that we don't come off as being bitch. The truth is, most of us (unwittingly) end up choosing to be unhappy and dissatisfied, rather than appear as "bitchy" in a hard situation. If you want to start finally feeling satisfied with your life you are going to need to let go of needing to be "nice".
In today's episode, I break down why being nice is sabotaging your ultimate happiness and I show you how to start tapping into Big Bitch energy instead. If you want to change the direction of your life and start feeling empowered and in emotional control, you are going to want to tune in. Let's all get a little more bitchy together.
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Are you settling in your life? Are you trying to get yourself to be ok with what you think you can get because you don't think what you actually want is possible. If that is what is happening for you, I want you to know that it is super common in neurodivergent people. In fact, many of us walk on this path for so long, that we stop wanting all together. Today I want to change that for you. One of the simplest ways to increase your quality of life is to raise your standards. This is true of dating, you career and basically every other aspect of your life. Listen in because I am sharing why you need to change this and how to do it.
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Join me as I interview one of my dearest friends and favorite clients: Tory Reade. In this episode Tory shares the impact and benefit of the quiet but profound change that coaching has brought to her life.
We cover how Tory was interested in coaching right away, and the reasons why I directed her to therapy instead. We talk about how she determined when she was ready for coaching, and we discuss the parts of coaching that were the hardest.
The biggest thing that we cover is Tory's transformation from someone who was plagued by anxiety and self-doubt into a woman who holds emotional maturity and is fully able to handle whatever the world decides to throw at her. Her journey is one that starts with emerging from an abusive relationship and a damaged spirit and ends with self-love, self-advocacy and the confidence to go after the life she deserves.
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Welcome to the first podcast episode of 2024! As we dive into this new year, I am beyond excited and filled with clarity about what I have in store for you. This year, my goal is to bring you my absolute best, sharing insights that will truly blow your mind.
In today's episode, titled "The Anti-Resolution," I address the common practice of setting New Year's resolutions, something I've grown to dislike – not just for myself but for you too. Why? Because resolutions often focus solely on taking action without considering the underlying intentions, thoughts, beliefs, and emotions.
I share a recent coaching experience where we explored the power of feeling emotions in the body, emphasizing the importance of understanding our emotions rather than suppressing them. The key is to move beyond mere willpower, recognizing that true change requires a deep dive into our thoughts and beliefs.
As we navigate through the episode, I challenge the conventional approach to resolutions, especially those centered around weight loss, fitness, or eliminating habits. Instead, I encourage you to question why you desire these changes and whether the underlying beliefs align with your true desires.
I open up about my own journey, recounting a time when I believed clearing my acne would bring happiness, only to realize that self-acceptance and approval were the true goals. This serves as a reminder that external changes don't guarantee internal fulfillment.
The core message of the episode revolves around the concept of an "anti-resolution." I'm not against creating new results in your life; however, I am against mindless action and setting resolutions without understanding why you want them. I urge you to ponder the question: Why do I want this result? And go beyond the superficial answers.
I introduce a crucial aspect of the anti-resolution approach – focusing on emotions. What negative emotions are you experiencing, and what positive emotions are you longing for? By identifying and understanding these feelings, you can begin the journey of creating a life you truly desire.
To assist you on this journey, I offer a simple exercise: write down the specific negative emotions you want to overcome and explore the corresponding positive emotions you wish to cultivate. This is the starting point for building emotional resilience and creating sustainable change.
As a preview to an upcoming masterclass, I invite you to join me on January 16th to delve deeper into the anti-resolution concept. The masterclass will provide a step-by-step guide on how to implement this approach and transform your life in 2024. Visit joinamanda.ca to sign up and mark your calendar for this empowering session.
Thank you for tuning in, and remember to leave a review if you enjoyed this episode. If you're ready to explore personal coaching and develop a customized plan to manage stress and anxiety, book a free consultation at amandahess.ca/bookacall.
Happy New Year, and I can't wait to share more insights with you in the coming weeks. Until next time, take care and be kind to yourself. Bye for now!
On today's episode, we are going to be talking about Crimbo Limbo. The time between Christmas & New Year's that sometimes feels ... gross.
I've struggled with this phenomenon throughout my life, and I suspect I'm not alone. This episode delves into the unique challenges neurodivergent individuals face during this time. The mix of high energy celebrations, overindulgence, and socializing followed by a sudden return to routine can leave us feeling disoriented and, at times, depressed.
I opted not to take an extensive break over Christmas intentionally, as I've found a balance and routine that keeps me energized. In this episode, I want to share how I've structured my life to navigate Crimbo Limbo successfully and help you do the same.
Even if you're familiar with the term, I believe there's value in discussing the shared experience and exploring strategies to cope with it. The holiday season, with its cultural peculiarities, affects us all, and understanding its impact can be a game-changer.
I'll share personal insights from my recent experiences, like a Christmas getaway to Sun Peaks, where I observed the familiar highs and lows of the season. The letdown after Christmas day, the sudden drop in stimulation, and the ensuing emotional roller coaster, especially for neurodivergent individuals, can be profound.
We'll explore the concept of "resetting" your nervous system during these moments. Whether it's through a high-intensity workout or a coaching session, finding a way to interrupt the stress cycle is crucial. I'll also address common challenges, such as difficulty switching mental gears from high to low energy.
Recognizing the truth of the situation is pivotal—acknowledging that these feelings are a natural response to the holiday season's dynamics. Instead of judging ourselves for not immediately embracing relaxation, we'll focus on providing self-support during this transitional period.
I'll offer practical tips, including leveraging your senses for comfort, engaging in movement to move emotions through the body, and incorporating small adventures into your routine. Remember, it's about adding supportive elements, not subtracting, during Crimbo Limbo.
As we approach the new year, I'm excited to share more insights and strategies to help you navigate the challenges life throws our way. If you resonate with today's episode or need personalized guidance, consider booking a strategy session on my website.
Thank you for being part of this community, and I look forward to reconnecting in 2024. If you enjoyed this podcast, please leave a review and share it with others. Your support helps this podcast grow and reaches more women who can benefit from these discussions.
Don't forget to follow and download the episodes to stay connected. And if you need help in navigating stress and anxiety, reach out for a free strategy session. Visit amandahess.ca/book-a-call to schedule a call and let's work together to create positive changes in your life. Until then, have a fantastic week, and I'll catch you in the new year. Bye for now!
Hello, and welcome to the podcast! As I record this on December 20th, 2023, the holiday season is in full swing. I've observed a unique vibe this year in my community, and it seems like many others are feeling it too. It's been an unusual year, marked by a lack of snow, turning our Christmas landscape into what I can only describe as a "not-so-brown Christmas."
In today's episode, I reflect on the hustle and bustle leading up to Christmas, the pressure, the added tasks, and the societal expectations that come with the holiday season. Even though my kids are still in school, the anticipation of the upcoming break adds an extra layer to the usual routine. It feels like we're all racing towards Christmas Day, pushing ourselves to the limit.
I've been contemplating the purpose behind this rush. Why do we strive for perfection and try to fit everything in? It all boils down to chasing a feeling—the desire to feel better. In the midst of the holiday chaos, our brains tend to be led by stress, anxiety, and panic, making it essential to be intentional about our thoughts and emotions.
As I navigate this season, I encourage you to consider what it would be like not to be in a rush, not to be in a hurry. The cultural pressure surrounding Christmas can be overwhelming, but what if we took a step back and questioned the purpose of it all? In this episode, I explore the concept of being the boss of our brains, intentional in our actions, and how it can significantly impact our overall well-being.
As we approach the Christmas break and beyond, I share a powerful resource, the "neurodivergent nervous system regulation triad." This triad focuses on pleasure, intense exercise, and connecting with nature, offering a practical approach to regulating our nervous systems and finding calm amidst the chaos.
Whether you celebrate Christmas or not, the lessons in this episode are relevant to various life events where we often find ourselves caught in a race towards an elusive happiness. Join me in unraveling the holiday hustle and embracing a more intentional, fulfilling way of living.
If you resonate with these insights and feel the need for personalized guidance, consider booking a strategy session with me at amandahess.ca. Remember, your life is built on the experience of every single day—choose to make each day amazing.
Thank you for tuning in, and I wish you a Merry Christmas or Happy Holidays, whichever you celebrate. Stay tuned for more episodes during the unique period of "Crimbo Limbo" to provide support and encouragement. Until then, take care, and let's boss our brains together!
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Hey there, it's Amanda! I'm thrilled to have you join me in this episode where we're shaking things up and challenging the idea that December is the time to throw in the towel. We're diving deep into a conversation about the common mindset that suggests the year is practically over by mid-December. I want to encourage you to finish strong, showing up for your life in a way that aligns with your goals and well-being.
As we approach the holiday season, it's so easy to buy into the cultural belief that the last weeks of the year don't matter. But I'm here to passionately advocate for the importance of these weeks and to remind you not to leave the good stuff behind. Let's tackle that "brace for impact" mentality head-on and challenge the notion that January is some magical reset button.
Instead of pushing through with force, I want to share a different approach to finishing strong — one that doesn't involve self-hatred, forceful actions, or exhaustive to-do lists. Drawing from my own experiences, we'll explore the unsustainable nature of forcing ourselves and the negative impact it can have on our mental well-being.
I invite you to consider an alternative path — making subtle shifts in mindset and embracing the journey of becoming the person you aspire to be. Let's talk about empowerment and the importance of internal empowerment. It's about building confidence, regulating our nervous system, and understanding ourselves on a deeper level.
We'll touch on the Holiday Magic Challenge, a 10-day training program designed to provide practical tools for approaching life from a different perspective. Whether you join me live on Facebook or catch the recordings on your podcast app, I promise a transformative experience that goes beyond toxic positivity.
This episode is a rallying call to finish the year strong, reject that chaotic mindset, and start the new year with a sense of empowerment. I encourage you to envision a journey of self-discovery and transformation because the person you become is just as important as the goals you achieve.
Join me in challenging the status quo and finishing strong. Don't miss out on the opportunity to create a narrative that empowers you to lead your brain, regulate your emotions, and experience a truly satisfying life. Tune in now, and let's finish strong together!
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Today we dive into the magic of the holiday season. As we approach the holidays, I share insights and strategies to help neurodivergent women navigate this time with ease and find the peace they deserve.
I'm excited to announce a 10-day challenge where I'll guide you through a transformative process to make this holiday season truly yours. Join the challenge in a Facebook group or access a private audio feed, making it convenient for your unique preferences. Register HERE
In this episode, we address the common struggles neurodivergent women face during the holidays, from overwhelming responsibilities to societal expectations. This challenge goes beyond generic advice, providing actionable tools tailored to your neurodivergent experience.
Discover the power of proactive nervous system regulation and how it can create a cushion for the inevitable "funnel of shit" that comes with the holiday season. We explore the importance of setting intentions and prioritizing self-care, with practical examples and troubleshooting for your unique situation.
As we venture into the challenge, we'll unravel the myths around boundaries, empowering you to create a safe space for yourself without the need to manipulate others.
The holiday season doesn't have to be a sprint with a missing leg. It can be magical, peaceful, and uniquely yours. Join me in this journey starting on Monday at joinamanda.ca. Even if you catch this episode later, don't hesitate to jump into the challenge—it's never too late to prioritize your well-being.
Let's redefine holiday magic together. Tune in, take action, and thrive this season. Your magical holiday experience awaits!
🌟 Remember, if you find value in this podcast, leave a review and share your thoughts on Instagram @theamandahess. And if you're ready to transform your life, book a free consult at amandahess.ca Here's to creating the holiday magic you deserve! 🌈
Join me as we dive deep into the often-overlooked world of rest—specifically, mental and emotional rest. In a culture that glorifies productivity and the ability to push through, we explore the undeniable need for true rest in our lives. Contrary to the societal narrative, I challenge the notion that rest is merely a means to enhance productivity; rather, it is an essential component for our overall well-being.
Drawing from personal experiences and coaching insights, we unravel the harmful mindset that associates rest with weakness. I share a transformative moment from my own life when a lack of rest led to a significant breakdown, highlighting the epidemic of sleep deprivation and exhaustion prevalent in our society.
As we navigate the modern era inundated with constant stimuli and technological advancements, we discuss the impact of these factors on our ability to rest and recharge—both mentally and emotionally. The episode explores the struggles faced by many, especially women dealing with anxiety and the societal pressure to conform to unrealistic expectations of what rest should look like.
We take a closer look at the relentless pace of our daily lives, where we often go from a hundred to zero without providing our brains the necessary transition to wind down. I share practical insights on achieving mental rest by giving our brains new jobs and engaging in high-intensity interval training (HIT). This approach provides a mental reset, allowing for a smoother transition into physical rest.
Additionally, we explore the concept of emotional rest, acknowledging the importance of accepting and processing our emotions without judgment. I recount a personal experience from a recent skating competition, emphasizing the significance of allowing ourselves to feel and process emotions, even in challenging moments.
Ultimately, the episode delves into the interconnected nature of mental, emotional, and physical rest, highlighting the importance of cultivating a supportive ecosystem for our well-being. Discover actionable steps to incorporate rest into your daily life and empower yourself with the understanding that true rest goes beyond the conventional narratives.
Tune in to this episode and embark on a journey toward embracing rest as a vital component of a rich and fulfilling life.
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Today, we dive deep into the concept of being the boss of your brain – a skill crucial for navigating the challenges of neurodivergence. Contrary to common misconceptions, being the boss of your brain doesn't mean eliminating all negative thoughts or self-doubt. Instead, it's about understanding and working with the natural tendencies of our brains.
Many of us, especially those who are neurodivergent, experience a unique relationship with our brains. It can feel like a constant battle with overwhelming thoughts and unhealthy coping mechanisms. The truth is, our brains are wired to identify problems and solve them, which can lead to a barrage of thoughts, creating anxiety and stress.
In this episode, we explore the idea that some people have naturally still minds, while others, like many neurodivergents, have busy brains that tend to fixate on problems. The key is not to suppress the busyness but to redirect it in a way that promotes peace and productivity.
I share insights from my personal experiences and coaching sessions, emphasizing the importance of giving your brain a job – a positive focus or goal. Whether it's aiming for a career milestone, enhancing relationships, or fostering personal growth, understanding the result you desire allows you to guide your brain toward supportive thoughts.
Towards the end, I introduce a three-part audio training available at joinamanda.ca, designed to help you navigate your brain and handle anxiety more effectively. Being the boss of your brain is an ongoing practice, and with the right tools, you can transform your mental and emotional well-being.
If you're ready to take charge of your brain and experience a positive shift in your life, don't miss this episode. And remember, you're not alone on this journey – we're in it together!
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Today, amidst the snowfall in Kamloops, we're diving into a captivating discussion about comparison. Join me as we challenge the narrative that comparison is the thief of joy and explore why negative judgment, not comparison itself, is the real culprit.
In this episode, we unravel the intricacies of comparison, acknowledging its natural existence in our minds. Instead of pushing it away, we discover the power of getting curious about why we compare and how our judgments play a pivotal role. Drawing on the idea that comparison is as inherent as breathing, we explore why attempting to eliminate it is counterproductive to our self-esteem and confidence.
Tune in to learn practical visualization techniques to let go of unproductive beliefs and judgments. Discover how comparison can be a neutral force and how our conscious thought processes can reshape our perceptions. As we navigate through the podcast, we explore body image, self-esteem, and money, emphasizing the importance of setting our own baselines.
Ultimately, the goal is to empower you to consciously craft thoughts that elevate your baseline. Let's redefine beauty, success, and fulfillment in a way that supports your unique journey. Join me in this episode to discover the transformative power of embracing curiosity and building a foundation for emotional health, resilience, and joy.
🎙️ Ready to shift your perspective? Hit play and embark on a journey to elevate your baseline for a more fulfilling life.
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In this episode, we'll explore the intricate world of negative thinking and how to break free from its grip. I'm Amanda, and I'm here to guide you on a journey toward a more fulfilled and empowered version of yourself.
We'll dive into the complexity of negative thinking and the common desire to replace it with positive thoughts. I'll discuss the various factors that influence our thought patterns, including genetics, upbringing, societal influences, neurodivergence, and relationships.
I'll encourage you to shift your focus away from the simplistic notion of positive thinking and instead concentrate on the results you want in your life. It's essential to define your specific goals and take emotional ownership of your feelings.
Throughout the episode, I'll walk you through the process of embracing emotional responsibility and expanding your emotional capacity. By taking control of your thoughts and emotions, you can embark on a transformative journey, becoming an empowered version of yourself.
Join me in this episode to discover how you can create the results you desire and set off on a path to self-empowerment. If you find the content insightful, please consider leaving a rating and review to support the podcast's growth.
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Self-Love. It's a much talked about subject that is often massively misunderstood. If you are neurodivergent, been told you are mentally ill or going through emotional distress, self-love is the number one thing that will take you out of emotional pain. How to love yourself no matter what was the original title of this podcast. Today i am bringing it back. You deserve to love yourself. It will change everything. Let's go.
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n this podcast episode, I'm thrilled to announce a new training program that's dedicated to helping individuals with neurodivergent brains effectively handle and manage anxiety. We understand that this can be especially challenging for those who have experienced trauma or received a mental illness diagnosis. The best part? This training is entirely free. All you need to do is sign up on our waitlist at joinamanda.ca, and it will be ready for you soon.
Now, let's dive into the heart of this episode.
First and foremost, let's talk about building emotional capacity. Emotional capacity is an essential aspect of our emotional well-being, and it's something I want to delve into today. It's all about our ability to feel both negative and positive emotions in a manageable way. I know that for those of us who struggle with our emotions, especially the negative ones, it can be a real challenge to experience joy or pleasure. That's why we're going to explore the importance of creating space for our emotions without being overwhelmed.
The primary tool we're going to focus on for building emotional capacity is something I like to call "silence." Now, it's important to note that silence doesn't mean absolute absence of sound. It's about finding moments of stillness where you can pay attention to your body, your breath, and your senses. In fact, during this episode, I'll guide you through a brief exercise where we'll take a few moments to focus on our breath.
Now, many of us with neurodivergent brains often grapple with the feeling that we're "doing it wrong." Society's expectations and standards can make us feel like we're not measuring up, and that can be paralyzing. What's crucial to remember is that there is no one-size-fits-all approach. You have the power to create a practice that works for you, one that respects your unique needs and strengths.
As we wrap up this episode, I want to extend a warm invitation to connect with me on Instagram. My handle has recently changed to "the Amanda Hess." I would love to engage with you, hear your thoughts on the practices we've discussed, and learn about your experiences in implementing them in your life.
To sum it up, this episode has provided an introduction to the concept of building emotional capacity, with a specific focus on using silence as a valuable tool. It encourages self-reflection, self-acceptance, and offers insights that are particularly relevant to those with neurodivergent brains. Thanks for joining me, and I look forward to sharing more with you in the future.
Welcome to the "Monday Mindset" podcast, where I delves into the essential topic of emotional capacity. I discusses the significance of emotional capacity and how it impacts those with neurodivergent brains. I explore ways to increase emotional resilience and enhance your ability to handle emotions effectively. Throughout the episode, I introduce five key elements to grow your emotional capacity: silence, senses, nature, cardio, and community. These five facets will be explored in upcoming episodes, providing a holistic approach to empower neurodivergent individuals on their journey to better emotional well-being. I will help you take control of your emotions and ultimately lead a more empowered and fulfilling life. Don't miss this transformative discussion, and stay tuned for more episodes on this crucial subject.
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Today, I really struggled with what I was going to talk about. Not because I didn't have enough ideas, but because I couldn't figure out what idea would be the best idea to talk about today. But I think that I've centered in on something that is worthwhile talking about, and it's something that I bring to my coaching clients all the time.
In life, we have a variety of emotional wells we can draw from, each serving a unique purpose. From the well of validation to the well of self-esteem, friendship, career, and more, these emotional wells are essential to our well-being. The challenge often arises when we unknowingly drink from the wrong well, leading to feelings of invalidation, frustration, or unfulfillment.
Join me as we explore the analogy of these emotional wells and learn how to become more self-aware, making conscious choices about which well to draw from. Are you drinking from the right well for your current emotional needs? Are you using the right source for the emotions you're experiencing?
We'll discuss practical examples and tips for building your emotional ecosystem and seeking the right sources for your needs. Discover how to create validation for yourself while also understanding the value of seeking support from others when necessary.
This episode is a guide to help you recognize and navigate your emotional wells, ensuring that you can draw from the right sources to promote your emotional health and overall well-being. By the end, you'll gain the tools and insights to make more conscious, purposeful choices in your life and emotional experiences.
So, hit play and let's embark on this journey of self-discovery together. Tune in to gain valuable insights and strategies for living a more conscious, emotionally healthy life.
Connect with me on IG @theneurodivergentceo , and don't hesitate to reach out if you need further guidance on building your personal emotional ecosystem. Whether you're looking to strengthen your self-esteem well, relationship well, or any other aspect of your emotional life, I'm here to support you.
Remember, you're not alone on this journey. Let's take the first step together.
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Do you find yourself trapped in a never-ending cycle of overthinking, racing thoughts, and logical decision-making that leads to more frustration than satisfaction? If so, you're not alone. In this episode we take you on a journey to explore the power of leading with your gut and embracing your inner navigator.
Many of us have been conditioned to prioritize logic and reasoning when making choices, often neglecting the intuitive signals our gut sends. But what if your gut could be your superpower? What if it could lead you to a life filled with peace, satisfaction, inspiration, and joy?
Join me as I share my personal experiences and insights into the transformative impact of following your gut instincts. Learn how to distinguish between fear-driven impulses and genuine calls for change, and discover how to tap into your inner sense of excitement and hope.
If you've ever felt stuck in a cycle of analysis paralysis, this episode will show you how leading with your gut can lead to a life that truly lights you up. Say goodbye to endless overthinking and hello to a new way of making decisions that align with your deepest desires.
Ready to embark on this journey of self-discovery? Connect with me on Instagram @TheNeurodivergentCEO and share your takeaways from this thought-provoking episode. If you're seeking more personalized guidance, don't hesitate to book a mini coaching session at joinamanda.ca. It's time to transform your life, one gut-led decision at a time. Tune in and start your journey today.
Disappointing other people feels hard. Full stop. It's hard. We don't want to do this as women. The part we miss thought is that it is also completely necessary. Women are raised to be people pleasers. We are raised to believe that it's our damn job to ensure that other people are happy. Many of us neurodivergent women have experienced significant trauma and people pleasing becomes an involuntary trauma response.
That being said, disappointing people is something we need to learn how to do. It's an art. It requires a fair amount of discomfort, combined with learning how to lean into our values. Most women I meet are completely unaware of their personal values, so if this includes you, don't click away. Today's episode is going to teach you exactly how to create your own personal value system so that you can start disappointing others and stop disappointing yourself.
You are going to want to save this one.
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Have you ever felt depressed? I know I have. I feel it today. But what I don't feel is hopeless, which is 100% what I used to equate with depression. It turns out that feeling depressed and feeling hopeless are 2 different things. In today's episode I am going to help you explore the difference between feeling depressed and feeling hopeless. It is a total game changer. Let's go.
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Hey, it's Amanda here, and I'm thrilled to have you join me for today's episode. We're diving deep into the art of rewriting our life stories, and this one's especially for my fellow neurodivergent women.
Have you ever noticed how we tend to tell ourselves stories about who we are? Sometimes we label ourselves as "too much" or "too emotional." But here's the thing: these stories are often based on old beliefs formed in childhood, like muscle memory for our minds.
In this episode, I want to challenge those narratives. Let's question why we believe these stories and where they really come from. I'll show you how these beliefs shape your interactions with the world and how they can hold you back.
But here's the exciting part: you can change the story. I'll guide you through the process of becoming the heroine in your own narrative. It's about having the courage to see your qualities in a new light and embracing them as strengths.
We'll also explore the brain's natural tendency to focus on the negative and how to shift that perspective. And remember, being different can be exceptional.
To help you get started on this empowering journey, I'm offering free 20-minute coaching sessions. Just head over to joinamanda.ca to sign up. It's time to take control of your narrative and rewrite your story as the hero you truly are.
So, grab your favorite drink, find a cozy spot, and let's dive into this transformative episode together. You've got the power to be the hero of your own story. Let's get started! 🚀
In today's episode, we're diving deep into managing fear with a powerful strategy: 'Bookending Your Day.' 💪 Fear is a universal emotion, but we don't have to let it control us. Discover how asking the right questions can help you take control of your thoughts and emotions. Learn to create productive thoughts, embrace courage, and conquer your fears. Plus, I have a special offer for you: free 20-minute coaching sessions! Tune in and let's face those fears together. 💥 #FearManagement #Courage #Coaching"
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Hey there, welcome to the podcast! Today, I'm diving into something that's been on my mind a lot, and I bet you've thought about it too. You know that feeling when you're absolutely convinced you should be doing something, but you just can't seem to take that first step? It's a struggle many of us face, and it's even more pronounced for those of us who are neurodivergent. We've spent a long time trying to fit into a world that doesn't always understand us.
So, we often turn to self-help books, right? I've read my fair share, and they've had their moments, but lately, I've noticed something. It's not about needing more information; it's about something deeper. We become information hoarders, thinking that the next book or course will finally reveal the magic formula to make us do what we want.
But let's be real – it's not that simple. I mean, I've struggled with completing things in my life, like not finishing university. Society makes us believe that not having that degree equals failure. And we do this in various aspects of our lives, constantly seeking that one thing that will make us feel confident and comfortable with change.
Now, here's the thing: comfort in change is a bit of a unicorn. It's elusive. But it doesn't have to be painful either. There's a middle ground. We often think something's wrong with us when we get scared, shut down, or quit. I've been there myself, and I see it in my clients too.
We chase after someone who promises certainty, a step-by-step guide, a shiny object that tells us what to do. But life isn't that predictable. There's a unique level of risk in our pursuits, and it's not the same as someone else's journey.
The point is, you're not alone in feeling like a quitter or that you're just not getting it. I've been there, and I'm sure many of you have too. But here's the kicker – it's okay not to be good at everything. It's not about shoulds; it's about finding what truly works for you.
Think of life as a dance. You're not on a fixed path; you're dancing. It's about learning what steps work best for you, just like in figure skating. Not everyone can do every move, but that doesn't make you any less of a skater.
So, let's ditch the "shoulds" and explore what really makes us tick. It's a journey, not a destination. And I promise you, it's liberating. Join me in a free workshop to dive deeper into this. You don't need to conform to what society says you should do; you can create your unique path to confidence and fulfillment.
I hope this episode inspires you to rethink your approach and consider that maybe you shouldn't always follow the traditional route. There's an exciting, authentic journey waiting for you.
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What if there's something better than perfect? And what if being better than perfect is simply being uniquely yourself and giving yourself permission to work with you and work with your brain the way you want to do it.
Come explore this topic with me in today's episode and let's explore how we could get your life working better than you ever thought was possible.
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I was curious about what people were complaining about when it came to neurodivergence. So I popped the question into Chat GPT and the answer really did inspire this entire episode. Today I am going to cover the most common hurdles for those of us that experience neurodivergence. I explain what they are, why we experience them and how we can move through them. If you want to stop letting neurodivergence stop you from living a f*ck yes life - this episode is for you!
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People pleasing is something that so many of us women do. Especially us neurodivergent entrepreneurs and leaders. It can seem like people pleasing is "nice", but what it actually is, is a trauma response. It's manipulating another person so that we can feel safe and ok. It comes from trauma and conditioning. And it keeps us stuck.
Ultimately, people pleasing can be a hard thing to break, but it's something that you are really going to want to get aware of to create the results you want in your life. Especially if they are different than the results you are creating in your life right now.
Listen in to discover why people pleasing isn't nice, and what you need to stop doing it.
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Discover why the quest to "get your sh*t together" might be holding you back in life. Join Amanda Hess in this eye-opening podcast episode as she reveals the pitfalls of this common belief and offers a fresh perspective on self-improvement and self-acceptance. Find out how reducing the pressure on yourself can lead to greater growth and fulfillment. Plus, don't miss her upcoming free workshop where she'll share practical strategies for thriving in your unique way. Tune in now for a dose of insight and inspiration.
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Welcome to another insightful episode of "Monday Mindset." Today, I dive deep into the intricate world of emotions and unveil how your unique relationship with your feelings can become your superpower. In a world that often defines normalcy in emotions, I challenge you to embrace your individual emotional experiences without judgment.
This episode highlights that we all experience emotions differently. Some of us are highly sensitive, while others may not appear emotionally sensitive at all. This episode passionately argues that there's no problem with either approach; it's just our way of navigating the emotional landscape.
This episode stresses the importance of recognizing that our emotional experiences fluctuate from day to day; we are not robots. Some days, certain things may deeply affect us, while on others, they won't faze us at all. I share my personal experience of accepting my emotional intensity and I offer guidance on how to handle those overwhelming days.
For those who may feel they experience emotions less intensely, I remind you that there will still be moments when we feel empty or numb. Learning to build capacity for all emotional states is essential.
In a world that often demands emotional resilience and capacity, this episode encourages us to honor our unique emotional journeys and equip ourselves with the necessary tools to navigate them effectively. Tune in and discover how embracing your emotions can indeed be your superpower. Don't miss out on this empowering episode of "Monday Mindset."
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It's a common question; Did I overreact? Was my reaction normal? It can be tempting to source out whether we should have had the reaction that we had. But the truth is that overreacting is up to the person receiving whatever is happening. It's subjective. And it's not actually necessary to answer this question. It's my belief that we are just reacting. And we don't have to focus on the reaction, instead we want to focus on the result it is creating. From there, we can start getting curious about all of the things that led us to this result and work on creating new results that serve us better. No shame or judgement required.
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Do you get the September Scaries? You know; when you start freaking out because there are only 4 months left in the year and you start panicking that 2023 wasn't everything that you wanted it to be. It's like we have this idea that September is "get serious" time and it freaks us right out and sends us straight into panic. Today's Monday Mindset is all about helping you get out of that fight/flight/freeze/fawn and into a more intentional and positive month for the month to come.
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If you find yourself venting or complaining, you are definitely not alone. It is very human to want to tell the story of how things are going wrong in your life. It can also feel like you need to be validated in this. But I need you to know that it's probably creating more problems than it's actually helping. This episode is going to dig deep into why we complain and what we are searching for when we do it. Then I am going to show you exactly why you want to stop any time you notice it and exactly how to do that too.
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We are brought up to believe that we need to convince other people of our worth and lovability to believe that we are worthy and lovable. And it's one of the major things I see women turning themselves inside out trying to create. The truth is, we are born 100% worthy and 100% lovable. This is always true. Listen in to find out more.
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Have you ever found yourself needing to protect your position on something that you feel certain about? I did recently. I was having a conversation with a good friend and I felt myself starting to "amor up" about this particular topic. So it was a relief when this friend helped me see why I might not want to be so certain about that. And it changed my entire outlook and decreased my anxiety 100%. When we feel threatened, we crave safety. One way we do this is through certainty. Certainty is a version of "armoring up" that might be creating emotional problems that you don't really need. Listen in to find out more.
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As human beings, we are emotional creatures. As neurodivergent human beings, we feel emotion more strongly. So we definitely want to be noticing what emotions are fueling our actions and thus our lives. We can take back control when we decide to focus on changing our emotional fuel. Take a listen and tell me what you think.
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it turns out that in order to really enact impactful self-care, you are going to need to decide you matter. In fact, you are going to need to decide you matter the most. If that sounds daunting that's because it's the opposite of what we are taught. In today's episode I am going show you why self-care is important, how what you have been taught so far is all wrong, and how to do it in a way that actually helps you.
If you want some help putting this in action, I am inviting you to my FREE Workshop on Friday, August 18 at 10am Pacific / 1pm Eastern.
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Welcome to your Monday Mindset. I posted this on a Tuesday. This is far from perfect for a Monday Mindset and that is why this is perfect. Giving up perfection is one of the ways I have transformed my ability to create results in my life and it is what I coach my clients through as well. Listen in to hear more about today's Monday Mindset: Giving Up The Habit Of Perfection
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Do you ever find yourself getting frustrated because you can't seem to commit to your fitness or nutrition regime and simply believe it's because you just don't have the mental fortitude to complete it? Well today I have the Women's Body Coach, Alexandra Stone on the podcast and she and I didn't pull any punches. I think it might surprise you to learn that you don't need more motivation or discipline, but instead need to figure out how to approach yourself through the lease of compassion. Listen in to find out how you can use this for your neurodivergent brain. I think you will find that it changes everything.
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Coaching and friendship. It's a powerful mixture and can change your entire life. Today I have my dear friend, colleague and coach on the podcast to talk about the power of coaching.
Alaina is a Unity and Personal Fulfillment Coach. She is a published author. She's a songwriter. She is a filmmaker. She is an incredible human being. I also consider her to be one of my closest friends.
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Too often we are told that we need to be "realistic". So we listen to them. And we drop our dream and aim for something "more realistic". Today's Monday Mindset is going to help you not let go of your dreams - so that you don't let go of your dream life. You ready?
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We are in too much of a hurry to move on. We are in too much of a hurry to "get over it". if you have experienced trauma, the first thing that needs to happen is building the base. Without it there is no moving in. Listen in, I'm going to tell you exactly how I help clients move through this. It's a simple process and it always works.
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Mindset is everything. Join me as I share one of my weekly affirmations and help you apply it to your life. Updated every Monday!
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As a neurodivergent woman, I can guarantee that you have become an expert at being a chameleon. What nobody told you was that doing this would ruin your experience of yourself and your life as you got older. In order to love your life as a neurodivergent woman, it's imperative that you unlearn this "skill". Today I am going to help you get started.
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Let me take you into the depths of my own brain and show you exactly the affirmations and mantras I am creating to create a fulfilling and joy filled life as a neurodivergent CEO.
I don't believe in random mantras or affirmations. But I do believe in the mindful practice of creating mantras and affirmations that allow you to tap into the very essence of what you are trying to create in your life.
I'd love for you to have a listen and try one on. Come on over to IG and let me know if one resonates for you.
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Summer brings sunshine and flip flops and BBQ's. But it also brings sensory overload, overwhelm, family dysfunction and a deregulated nervous system.
I teach my clients about emotional capacity and today I am teaching it right here on the podcast. If you want to experience less stress and anxiety and instead feel free and relaxed this summer, take a listen.
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Sometimes the best way to explain a new way to approach your life is to dive into a really good analogy. Today I am sharing what how gardening is a lot like the life you are living and showing you exactly how to use this as your advantage in your life. Tune in to find out how.
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If you identify as being neurodivergent, or you believe you might be, there are few key things that I am going to teach you that you probably haven't been taught before. The most important thing to understand is that there is no such think as normal.
You have been raised to think otherwise, but it's hurting you and not helping you to identify with being "not normal"
You are unique. Therefor however you are is normal for you. When you begin understanding this universal truth, you can really start enjoying your life.
Listen in, I break it all down.
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To transform your life, embracing risks becomes imperative. Join us in this episode as we delve into the essence of risks, their significance, and effective strategies to navigate them. Discover how building your risk tolerance can empower you as a neurodivergent leader, propelling you towards extraordinary success.
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A lot of the things we believe about ourselves are things that we have been told and things that we have been taught. Our beliefs about ourselves are powerful, and many of us remain unaware of the beliefs we carry and how they affect us. If you are a neurodivergent leader, I would be willing to bet that you have some beliefs right now that you probably want to look at asap. In today's episode we dive straight into discovering our beliefs and the path to changing them.
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Embarking on a journey of personal reinvention requires the courage to let go of the person we once were. In this thought-provoking podcast, we delve into the transformative power of shedding relationships that no longer serve us and bidding farewell to environments that fail to align with our aspirations. However, the process of reinvention necessitates more than just relinquishing external factors; it demands releasing the outdated version of ourselves that once sustained us. Join us as we explore practical strategies and insights that will empower you to navigate this profound metamorphosis and unlock the potential for authentic growth and fulfillment. Tune in and discover how you can embark on a remarkable journey of self-reinvention today.
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This week we are talking about WHO you are becoming. Too often we become bogged down on WHAT we are doing and WHAT worked before. I'm walking you through a completely different process. I am going to help you lean into WHO you want to be and how to use that to create the results you want in your life.
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How did I go from sad, depressed and anxious with a BPD diagnosis to a strong, independent, kick ass woman? Re-invention. I decided to reinvent myself and I haven't looked back since. I have helped so many other women do this exact same reinvention and today I am going to teach it to you. This is a 3 part series on re-invention and I can't wait to share it with you. Buckle up, change is in the air.
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Self-Care is more than just bubble baths and cups of tea. In fact, self-care is the number one thing you should be prioritizing if you feel emotionally unstable, anxious, stressed out or depressed. Today I have Diane Schroeder, MA, EFO, is a national speaker, writer, and podcast host focusing on helping leaders understand and appreciate the value of self-care.
As a leader in the male-dominated fire service for 24 years, Diane knows that practicing self-care enables leaders to find their authentic style, have a work-life balance, and increase productivity. Authentic leaders create healthy, inclusive, and diverse work cultures of belonging.
Diane and i share an honest and frank conversation about what self-care is, why it matters and how to make sure you prioritize it in your life.
More about Diane:
Diane Schroeder, MA, EFO, is a national speaker, writer, and podcast host focusing on helping leaders understand and appreciate the value of self-care.
As a leader in the male-dominated fire service for 24 years, Diane knows that practicing self-care enables leaders to find their authentic style, have a work-life balance, and increase productivity. Authentic leaders create healthy, inclusive, and diverse work cultures of belonging.
With a Master’s degree in organizational leadership, Diane combines her wisdom with data to guide leaders down the self-care path. She shares her knowledge with her community through email and her weekly podcast, The Fire Inside Her.
Diane speaks around the country, is a TEDx speaker, and is currently working on a book about leadership.
Website: thefireinsideher.com
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About Amanda:
Amanda Hess is an accomplished Certified Life & Success Coach, and the visionary Founder and CEO of Amanda Hess Coaching. With a passion for helping driven women who have been diagnosed or identify with having a Psychological Illness or Disorder, Amanda empowers them to break free from the stigma and create a life they truly desire - a "hell yes" life.
Amanda's extensive experience in coaching and mentoring has enabled her to help countless women overcome their mental health challenges and achieve success in both their personal and professional lives. Her compassionate and holistic approach, combined with her expertise in coaching, allows her to provide tailored solutions that address each client's unique needs.
Through Amanda Hess Coaching, Amanda is committed to providing a safe and supportive space for women to explore their potential and embrace their authenticity. Her unwavering dedication to helping women thrive has earned her a reputation as a trusted and sought-after coach in her field.
If you're ready to break free from the limitations of your psychological illness or disorder and create a life that's truly fulfilling, Amanda Hess is the coach you've been looking for.
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The "Truth" about you might seem very real. But did you know that it's actually just what you think about yourself? You can change what you think any time you want. Which means you can also change the "truth" about you. Listen in to find out more about how this might serve you and change the results you are creating in your life right now.
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Friendship. It's something that sometimes can fill us up but also can sometimes make us question our own self-worth. Why is making friends as an adult so difficult? Is there something innate in some of us that makes us un-friendable? The answer is no. Of course not. But that might not be how you truly feel and i want to help you think about this in a whole new way. Listen in. I am sharing how this shows up for me and exactly how I deal with it.
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If you have a complicated relationship with sex & intimacy you are not alone. Sex and intimacy are subjects that often come with a load of emotional baggage. As women, we've been conditioned to believe certain things about sex and our sexuality, but the truth is, those ideas are often misguided and broken. That's why I'm excited to introduce my special guest for today, Danielle Savory, a Sex and Pleasure Coach who's here to help us unpack our complicated relationships with sex and find freedom and pleasure in our bodies. If you're ready to challenge the outdated beliefs holding you back from experiencing the full range of sexual expression, stay tuned for this conversation.
About Danielle:
Danielle Savory is a highly experienced coach, podcast host, and expert in the fields of neuropsychology, mindfulness, and sexual pleasure and intimacy. Danielle brings a unique perspective to coaching, helping clients understand the ways in which the brain and body are interconnected and how this connection can be harnessed to experience the sensual pleasure the body is wired for.
As the host of the popular podcast "It's My Pleasure," Danielle has explored a wide range of topics related to sexuality, relationships, and personal growth - empowering women to embrace their sexuality and prioritize their pleasure. Danielle is a master certified coach with over 10 years of experience coaching hundreds of women with her proven process of increasing desire and expanding orgasmic capacity.
Danielle Savory
The Sex Coach For Women.
Host of "It's My Pleasure" Podcast
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We all have heard that setting goals is the what creates success, but so many of us are resistant to doing it. Guess what? It's not because you have a character flaw or personality problem. Trauma plays a big role in not being able to set or maintain goals. The reason why goal setting might feel like setting yourself on fire could be because of what happened to you in your past. But that doesn't mean goal setting isn't for you, it just means we need to approach it differently.
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Teenagers. Being one was hard. Parenting them can seem impossible. But it can be easier than you think. Today I have Cindy Thackston, a Certified Teen & Family Coach on the Podcast to talk about all things teen mental wellness. We talk about: Why teens act the way they do, Why we react the way we do , and what we can do about all of it.
About Cindy:
Cindy Thackston is a certified teen and family coach. As a parent to three teenagers herself, Cindy has made it her life’s work to understand the very real challenges young people face in today’s world. Challenges that have a direct impact on their mental health and overall well-being.
For 6 years, Cindy has been using powerful, proven coaching techniques, an abundance of empathy, and essential people skills to rebuild teens’ confidence and their connection with their parents.
Cindy mentors teens and young adults, as well as their parents through a variety of customized, proprietary programs.
Her heart-centered, compassionate approach to coaching builds a trusting connection that enables teens and their parents to communicate better, collaborate more successfully, and conquer today’s real-world challenges.
Sheilanova Cornelio is the Self Confident Dating Coach and is my special guest today. Dating is something that can seem really hard. It can be easy to believe that there is something with you or that dating is just not for you or that there are no good candidates for dating. But that just isn't the truth. The truth is, dating is for everyone. You don't need a special process or a magic formula. But you do need the confidence to show up in the world and be yourself. Listen in to change your whole mindset about dating.
About Sheilanova:
The Self-Confident Dating Coach — Sheilanova helps women stop spinning in their insecurity and develop outrageous self-confidence so they can show up powerfully in their dating lives. Connect with her over on IG: https://www.instagram.com/sheilanova/
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Do you wonder what the difference is between coaching and therapy? Do you wonder if coaching might be a better fit? I am breaking down what coaching is, how it is different from therapy and what you can expect from working with a coach. I break it all down in this episode and let you know what you really can expect through coaching.
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If there is one emotion that I know that every women feels on a daily basis, it's GUILT. We feel guilt about everything: What we eat, what we drink, the time we spend on ourselves, the money we spend on ourselves, etc. We basically feel guilty about basically everything. And honestly, it's so fucked up! We feel guilty for taking up any space at all. And that has to stop. I'm breaking it all down in this episode and giving you some real tools to get started today.
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Too many of us get labelled with some sort of disorder and then start believing: "This is what is wrong with me". And then we think the only way to happiness is to fix that thing. Which becomes impossible, because how do we fix how and who we are?
But what if that's not the truth? What if that's not the truth about you? What if that's not the truth about what's possible for you?
I am going to argue that it isn't the truth. Instead of fixing yourself, it can be life changing to simply meet yourself where you are actually at. When we drop the judgement and lean into self-love, life get's infinitely better. I can't wait to tell you all about it.
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A lot of us believe that we need to get rid of fear to do the things we really want to do in the world. But the truth is that you actually need courage. Getting rid of fear is impossible. Creating courage is not. Tash Marshall Bean is the EPITOME of courage and energy. She is a ball of joyous energy and nobody in the world can pump you up like she can. She also is Authentic As Fuck and get's real about the imperfect courage she uses to create results in her own life. Take a listen, she changed my life and she can change yours too.
About Tash:
Tash is incredibly, ridiculously, obsessively passionate about indoor cycling and group exercise.
Her fitness career started with Goodlife Fitness, and within eighteen months as an instructor, she was selected as a top 6 finalist for Instructor of the Year across Canada.
She now has over 20 years of experience specializing in customer service and indoor cycling.
As the founder of Authentic Instructor Training Inc., she leads a team of 7 master trainers, has worked with 70+ boutique spin studios, and has trained over 1900 instructors across North America and the UK.
Tash takes tremendous pride in authenticity and being true to herself – "Authentic AF" as she likes to say!
Her specialty is mentoring, training, and empowering individuals to find their authentic voice and their spin confidence.
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Love. Love can feel amazing and love can feel impossible. Sometimes love event hurts. One of the key things I teach my clients is how to use love to change their lives, but sometimes accessing that love is hard. In this episode, I am explaining exactly why this happens, and what you can do about it so that you can improve your life. How I think about love is completely different from anything you might have heard before. It could just change your life.
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If I had a dollar for every time I was told I was too sensitive, I would be a millionaire. Here's the thing though: What if being highly sensitive isn't a flaw? What if being highly sensitive is simply what makes you the wonderful human that you are and what if the world needs MORE and not less of that? I would argue it does. PLUS, being sensitive isn't what you do, it's how you receive the world, and I have some proven tools and techniques that I am giving you on today's episode to help you cope with being a sensitive person in today's world.
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When Jeri and I first started working together, she experienced a lot of anxiety. She also had a hard time coming to terms with how her body looked. She new she wanted to change her experience of herself, but she couldn't figure out how to get there. In this episode Jeri shares exactly what it took to get over her anxiety and to start looking at herself through a compassionate and loving lense. She also shares how much her life changed for the better when she did. It's possible for you too.
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Toxic Relationships. They can show up anywhere and everywhere. Lot's of times we know we are in one, but what the hell do we even do about it. Today's episode covers the different types of toxic relationships and some solid skills that you can employ to change them.
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Do you set goals or New Year's Resolutions? I love goal setting, but I do not love setting goals to prove my worth and that's what a lot of us end up doing. It's time to change how we look at and set goals if we want our lives to start feeling purposeful and fun. I'm teaching about decreasing pressure and increasing your fun. Let's set some anti-resolutions.
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Have you ever considered the relationship that you have with yourself? Do you think that it's something within your control? Did you know it's what colors every single aspect of your life? The truth is, the relationship you have with yourself requires acceptance and love. This is the only way to change it. This can seem impossible, but it isn't. Listen in to find out more.
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FEAR. We all feel it. Sometimes it serves us. But a lot of times it keeps us from the life of our dreams. We are told we shouldn't feel fear, but that's a lie. We should. In today's episode I am going to show you the BEST way to deal with fear, create courage and create a Hell YES life.
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Parenting children is something that we are raised to believe should be innate. But the truth is, it's anything but. We parent based on how we were parented, either through modeling our parents or through making sure we are nothing like them. We take on society's views & beliefs regarding parenting and we also have our own childhood trauma that is added to the equation. Join me and Parent Coach Darlynn Childress where we discuss all things mental health when it comes to parenting and our relationship with our children.
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Darlynn Childress is the host of the Become A Calm Mama podcast & founder of the Calm Mama Club. A life and parent coach since 2012, Darlynn spends her days helping moms, while raising her teenagers and hanging out with Mr Childress and their dogs. When she’s not coaching, you can find her reading a book, hiking a hill, lounging on the beach or binge watching netflix.
You can find out more about her at www.calmmamacoaching.com or on Instagram @darlynnchildress
Do you wonder what coaching even is? Do you wonder how it works? Coaching is not the same thing as therapy. It is also different depending on who is coaching you and what you are coaching on. Today I am diving into the coaching I do, and how it can impact YOUR life.
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For far too long I lived my life believing that being different was what was keeping me from feeling happy and successful. I have been labeled with PPD and BPD and can tell you that none of those diagnosis are the truth about me. Your diagnosis is not the truth about you either. This podcast is a revolution of sorts. It's time we look at our differences as our strengths instead of our weaknesses.
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Believing in yourself is what is standing between you and the life you want to be living. I can tell you that creating it is a journey, but it's actually possible for everyone, you included. Listen in and I will explain exactly how I created it for myself and exactly how you can create it for yourself.
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What is mental health? It isn't feeling happy all the time. It's also not always acting calm either. Plus what is the difference between mental health and mental wealth? The answers to these questions might not be what you think. Listen in to find out more.
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It's here! Holiday Season. For many this can be a fun time of year, but for a lot of us it creates a lot of stress and anxiety. Today I am sharing a training that I did right in my free Facebook Group: Emotional Resilience. I cover how you can change your mindset and emotional experience without anyone else needing to be different. (including Uncle Jack with his off-side comments)
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What do you do when you feel like you no longer understand who you are? Why can other people see something in you that you just can't see? My client Angela worked through all this and more during our time coaching together over the past 18 months. If you want to know what it takes to go from "what am I even doing in life right now" to a purposeful and fulfilling life working as the County Attorney in Kentucky, you are going to want to take a listen.
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What is happiness? Does it matter? Where does it come from? Can you FIND it? How can you create it? Can you do it when you are going through hard things? How coaching enables this?
This episode answers ALL of these questions. It also helps you figure out how to put a plan in place to create more happiness in your life.
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How do you heal trauma? There are a lot of people with a lot of opinions about the best way to heal trauma. Here's what I have to say: Healing trauma begins with healing the relationship that you have with yourself. Start there and you can never go wrong.
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Self-Trust is a skill. It is also a feeling. It's an emotion. So the way we build self-trust isn't by proving that we can do something. Instead it's by believing that who and how we are is worthy of our trust. It's easy and it's hard. Listen in to find out how you can build it.
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Sometimes terrible things happen. Sometimes they are unavoidable things like Covid and Hurricanes. And sometimes they are things that seem like they could have been avoided like car accidents and divorce. The way we think about these things directly informs our emotional experience and also creates the life we end up living. I want to help you think differently.
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Grief is one of those emotions that we are all going to feel at one time or another and yet none of us really know what to do when we experience it. I had no idea what to do with my grief when my mom died, so I got to take a masterclass in the reality of it when that happened. Today I am going to share my story with grief, while also sharing a solid strategy for dealing with yours. The way I approach grief might surprise you, but it could also change your life.
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How do you move on? How do you know if it’s time to move on? Too often we’re in too much of a rush to get over things. Listen in to find out what really works.
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There's something about reaching middle age and realizing that your life is filled with a bunch of shit you don't even want to do. Here's the truth - you don't have a procrastination problem, you have a life you don't want to be living problem. Good news though: there IS a solution. You have to listen in to hear it. ❤️
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A lot of us believe that our disorder is the reason why our life is not exactly what we want it to be. I know I used to really feel that way. But the truth is, there are a lot of women out there with a lot of different disorders. There's the common ones like ADD, ADHD, Depression & Anxiety. But there is also BPD, OCD and disorders like Epilepsy.
We think if we were different we wouldn't have to feel so damn bad about ourselves all of the time. But it turns out that is not true at all. The truth is, we can feel better RIGHT NOW if we change our perspective. Take a listen and let me know what you think.
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Money, for many of us, is a 5 letter word that feels more like a 4 letter word. Many of us are taught that money is hard, money is scarce, and that we have to work hard for money. The problem is, our toxic relationship with money ends up causing us a lot of unnecessary stress & anxiety. Today I'm going to help you improve your relationship with money. No lottery win required.
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Making the decision to change your life can be so much easier than you think. The only reason decisions seem hard is because we think there are RIGHT decisions and there are WRONG decisions. But the truth is, you are only one decision away from changing the trajectory of your life at ANY given time. You don't need more time or more information, you need to learn how to trust yourself. Are you ready to change your life?
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Are you settling? Do you think your life is "as good as it's going to get"? What if you're wrong? I'm willing to bet that you are. Your life can be incredible, no matter what. No matter what's happened, no matter the mistakes you've made, no matter what anybody else says. Listen in to find out more.
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Did you know that forgiveness doesn't have anything to do with saying "I'm sorry"? In fact, you never have to apologize to forgive someone, because it never had anything to do with them anyways. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. In today's episode, Amanda shares what forgiveness is and what forgiveness isn't, why it matters and how to use it in your relationship with yourself and others. If you have someone you struggle to forgive, including if that someone is you, listen in to find out more.
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So often our brain believes that the way to solve our problems is that we need to know "why" things happened and we need to know "how" to do it. But actually you don't need to know that at all. Instead, you need to know "who" you are going to be. Are you the person that has her own back? Are you the person that's willing to fail? Take a listen to find out more.
There is one thing that you need to know: Judgement never serves you. What always will serve you is compassion and curiosity. Especially when you aim it at YOURSELF. Today I am getting personal and showing you EXACTLY how I apply this to my life when things feel like they are falling down around me.
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I have been told I was too emotional my whole life. I have always had big feelings and guess what? That is never going to change. AND it turns out that there is no such thing as being TOO emotional. There is just you and your emotions and the truth of what that looks like for you. We worry a lot about being too emotional and too much for other people, but instead we need to flip our thinking and supporting ourselves being the gorgeous emotional humans that we are. Listen in to find out how.
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So often we are "mad" at our brain and "mad" at our body for how they are looking and preforming. And it can seem like this is a useful way to go about it, except that all it tends to create is shame and worry. Nothing good comes from shame and worry.
Befriending your brain and befriending your body will change your relationship with yourself. Instead of constantly chasing motivation, you will be inspired to live the way you want to be living. Listen in while I explain exactly what this is, why it matters and exactly how you can implement this for yourself.
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We often only tend to our nervous system when things have gone haywire. Like when we are having a panic attack or when we lose our shit on a loved one. We think we should focus on the behavior. But it's been my experience that focusing on this never helps, proactively soothing your nervous system does. Today's episode breaks this down and gives you exactly what you need to do instead.
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When you have a BPD diagnosis, Love can be confusing to navigate. But it doesn't have to be. I know a few things about love that are going to change the way you think about it from this point forward. Even if you don't have a BPD or EUPD diagnosis, this episode might change how you look at love for the rest of your life. Because you deserve love, my friend. Let me share with you how to get it.
If you want to get to the heart of why love is so difficult for you to nail down, I want to invite you to a private free call with me. This call is an opportunity to finally have your problem heard and together we will come up with a real solution. You can thrive with this diagnosis. I promise. Book it here: https://amandahesscoaching.as.me/call
Fear. It's a challenging emotion that can keep us from the life we really want. There is a lot of advice out there on how to overcome fear. But I want to offer you an alternate way to deal with fear: Work WITH it. Learning how to work with fear and move through fear by partnering with it can change your life. Take a listen and let me know what you think.
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As women, we have had "don't be selfish" drilled into us since birth. But I guarantee that if you are currently feeling dissatisfied and unfulfilled by your life, it means that you are not taking any time for YOU.
If you want to change your experience of your life, it's time to get A LOT more selfish. Listen in to find out more.
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Trauma with a capital T often comes along with a Borderline Personality Disorder Diagnosis. And a lot of times this trauma is founded in both our upbringing and subsequent romantic relationships.
In today's podcast I am sharing a part of my trauma with you, so that I can demonstrate how to move forward into an incredible romantic relationship after trauma and abuse. If you yearn for a stable romantic relationship in your life, listen in.
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I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder over 10 years ago and I tried all the different kinds of therapy. But in trying to figure out my own "cure" I stumbled upon coaching. It turns out, it helped me change my entire life. Today I am sharing exactly what you need to do to do the same thing. Your life can be so much better than you think.
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When you have negative thoughts, it can be tempting to think that the way to fix your life is simply to start thinking positive. And that would be great, if it was that simple. But it isn't. In fact, if you have been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, it might just be impossible. You don't need to get rid of your negative thinking to change the results in your life. Take a listen to find out what to do instead.
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When you have been diagnosed with BPD, you probably have a pretty good library of things you have said and done that you think are pretty unacceptable. Maybe you've thought it or even other people in your life have said it. I too have done and said things that I have come to regret, but I have learned that the secret to changing unacceptable behavior is to stop focusing on the unacceptable behavior. In this podcast, I am sharing what I have done for myself and what I teach my clients. I am sharing what works, why it's different and how you can apply it today.
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Emotional hangovers are painful. What they really are is shame. Shame wants to hide but hiding will never heal. The truth is that emotional hangovers are perpetuating lies that we tell about ourselves and our lovability and self-worth. This episode is going to help you dispense with emotional hangovers for good.
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It's easy to believe that because you have been diagnosed with a disorder, it means that this is something you are going to have to deal with for the rest of your life. And that sounds as terrible to me as it probably does to you. The truth is, I don't believe that identifying your problems as being a result of your disorder helps anyone. Today I'm going to break your brain a little bit and show you a whole new way that's going to help you feel better and create way more empowerment.
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So often we are raised to believe that there is a "right" way and a "wrong" way to do our lives. We are taught to be authentic but to not be "too emotional". We are taught to follow the rules and not color outside of the lines. But then we become middle aged adults and are told that the only way to succeed is to hustle to point of failure. It's not surprising that we frequently feel overwhelmed and frustrated with our day-to-day lives. So often we believe that the answers to how to live our lives are found outside of ourselves.
That's why I decided to invite Tamara Becker on the podcast today. Tamara is one of the most grounded and real women I know and in this episode she is getting real with us on how to live an authentic life - according to your OWN rules. Tamara is a Photographer and Marketing Professional turned Herbalist and Energy Worker, a mother and a powerful human. She drops some very impactful truth bombs about being real with yourself and being willing to feel your feelings. Enjoy ❤️
About Tamara:
Having grown up in small town Wainwright, but residing in YYC since the year 2000, I have always been
fascinated by people and the web we weave through shared experiences.
With a background in marketing and design, mental health advocacy (@projectnightlightyyc) and fine
art, I am fascinated by history, the ‘why’’, and by the myriad of reactions to a single stimulus. That is the
main reason I love mixed media; you can explore a concept in several different ways just by changing
the material you use.
I primarily work with photography, acrylics, ink and textiles but nothing is off the table.
Through art, I get to further study people - their energy, how they move through the world, and the light
and interactions between form and space.
Website: www.empireimages.ca
Instagram: @empireimagesyyc
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Self-Love is hard even when we are trying to love things that other people say we SHOULD love. But what about the things people say we shouldn't? Learning to love everything about myself, including behaviors that could be viewed as unacceptable, has been the catalyst in changing my life. Take a listen to discover how loving the things you don't like about yourself could change your entire life.
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If you have Borderline Personality Disorder, suspect you do or you know somebody that does, you know that a fear of abandonment comes up often and is frequently the cause of extreme reactions caused by extreme emotions. Whether you have Borderline or not, this episode is going to explain why we are so fearful of being abandoned, even if we know it's illogical and what to do to reduce the impact of this fear.
If you want additional support as somebody who has or thinks they may have BPD or you are somebody supporting a loved one with BPD, I invite you to join my new Facebook group for women: https://www.facebook.com/groups/bpdreimagined
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Just because your emotional response is something other people don't understand does not mean that you are abnormal. In fact, I would argue that your emotional response makes perfect sense and is totally human based on your life experience thus far. Instead of solving the "problem" of your emotional reaction, let's start meeting you where you are at.
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Welcome to Season 2!
It's easy to look at my life now and not consider the life I had then. It's interesting to note that circumstantially my life was "good" 10 years ago. I was married, I had 2 small kids, I owned my house, I had a loving family, but the truth is: The difference is what was going on in my BRAIN. I was dying inside of my own perfect life. I was on an emotional rollercoaster and I was not in the drivers seat plus I was hanging on by my fingernails.
So today's episode I am sharing who I was and what was going on THEN, and how I transformed into who I am and what's going on NOW. If you're looking for a transformation, take a listen.
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Having a bad day? Feel like you are getting it ALL wrong? Feel unloved, unworthy, stuck, confused or just plain bad. This episode is for you.
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Losing our shit on our family is a common thing - so much so that there are entire memes dedicated to this problem. Yet, it is also our dirty little secret. Today I am sharing WHY we lose our shit and HOW to stop. It's not what you think. Take a listen and tell me what you think!
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A LOT of us struggle with being TIRED. In fact, so many women tell me that they are EXHAUSTED. So today, I brought an expert onto my podcast to talk all things energy. You might be surprised by some of what Tanessa shares, it's not all just going to bed earlier or convincing yourself that you're not tired. Have a listen and tell me what you think!
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More about Tanessa:
TANESSA SHEARS is a Kinesiologist, Certified Sleep Science Coach, health consultant and host of the Becoming Limitless podcast. She helps entrepreneurs scale their business by optimizing their health, focus & productivity with science and biohacking. Her passion is working closely with business owners to implement effective sleep, nutrition, movement and out of the box stress management strategies to eliminate brain fog and wake up feeling well rested, energized and focussed. She does this by optimizing the performance capacity of your body & brain so you can produce more meaningful, impactful work output and scale your business faster.
tanessashears.com/energy (12 ways to biohack your energy)
Tanessashears.com/podcast (Becoming Limitless Podcast)
instagram.com/tanessashears (IG)
tanessashears.com
Failure. It's not a dirty word, but we treat it like one. We WANT to get good at failure because it is the way to success. If you are failing, the truth is, you are on the right track. I know that might sound crazy, but my ability to fail fully, has deeply impacted my satisfaction with my own life. So take a listen, and let me know - are you ready to go out and fail more?
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Vera is my newest addition to the podcast interview series, and I hope you are ready to be struck by inspiration. Vera is a past client, a coach, a colleague, a friend and person who is dedicated to personal self-growth and helping others Vera used coaching to upgrade her mindset and finally break free of self-doubt. She is one inspiring human, and I can't wait for you to have a listen.
Vera Ilnyckyj (il-nits-key)
Vera is a certified Life Coach whose mission is to help people shine their light more brightly. There
was a time in her life where Vera lacked clarity about her life purpose, didn’t feel that she was
making a meaningful contribution, and was also going through two major life changes (a divorce and
loss of a job). Hiring a coach was one of the best things she did to help move through her self-doubt
and gain a newfound sense of purpose and meaning in her life. Fast forward a decade, and Vera is
now a coach helping people get unstuck in their own lives. She’s passionate about helping people
find clarity about what's important to them, connect with their purpose, and create strategies for
reaching their goals.
Vera’s other passions include leadership, personal development, physical activity, wellness,
connecting with people, and supporting local businesses. Her soul gets revived in the gorgeous
Rocky Mountains through hiking, skiing, snowshoeing, running, and cycling. She has recently taken
up mountain biking and enjoys travelling, camping, reading, cooking, and spending time with
friends.
Connect with Vera on Facebook or Instagram: @vaicoaching and learn more about her at her
website: vaicoaching.com
I will never forget the day that the psychiatrist told me that I had Borderline Personality Disorder. That day is seared in my memory for life. What I heard: THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG WITH YOU. It took me 15 years and finding a really great coach to find out that wasn't true. I was told that my emotions were the problem. They were not. I have learned how to work WITH my brain and WITH my emotions. Take a listen to find out what actually did help me and what might ultimately help you.
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Today I am talking all things marriage with MY Marriage Coach and very first Life Coach: Maggie Reyes. Maggie changed my life, she is one of the greatest humans that I have ever had a chance to meet, and it's my distinct honor for you to be able to meet her here on the podcast. She shares a lot of wisdom about life, love and marriage in this episode. Grab your favorite drink, a pen and some paper and enjoy.
More about Maggie, and where to find her:
Maggie Reyes is a Life Coach and Modern Marriage Mentor who specializes in helping driven, ambitious women create the marriages of their dreams , without waiting for their partners to change or adding more work to their lives.
She is the creator of The Marriage MBA Program, a 6 month mentorship in creating a successful marriage using principles from positive psychology, cognitive science and simple coaching tools that you can learn today and apply tomorrow.
Maggie is the author of the best selling "Questions for Couples Journal" and the host of the Top 100 "The Marriage Life Coach Podcast."
When she isn’t teaching or coaching she loves reading fan fiction, and watching superhero movies with her hubby.
If you want to learn how to stop doing the things that poison the love in a relationship and start doing the things that make love stronger, you can find the tools to start becoming your best loving self at MaggieReyes.com.
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There is a common misconception in the world that women should not experience and should never exhibit signs of feelings like rage, anger and frustration. So it makes sense that when we experience these emotions in their most extreme state, we are ashamed to admit that they get the better of us. The truth is, we women experience constant hormonal changes throughout our lives, and these hormones can affect our emotional experience in a very direct way. When we experience extreme emotions, we need tools to be able to deal with them rather than ways to get rid of them. Because the truth is - these feelings are normal. Let's talk about what's normal, what isn't and what we can actually do about it.
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When I met Robyn, she felt stuck. She knew she was unhappy and unfulfilled and she was ready for change. Investing in coaching was scary for her, but she also knew she didn't know how to get herself out of this rut. Her story is inspiring and she goes on to show us how you can actually change the entire trajectory of your life in just 6 months.
Do you want this kind of change? I invite you to book a Mini-Coaching Session - you can book that here: https://amandahess.ca/bookacall/
I know this episode title is a mouthful - to be honest I used to cringe when somebody used to say "the patriarchy" to me. But the truth is, the way we think is highly influenced by the society we grow up in. Does this mean we have to "burn down the patriarchy?" - NO. But it does mean that we want to be aware of what we think and understand why we think it - YES. What matters here is understanding those thoughts that come unbidden, they don't come because there is something wrong with you, they come because that is what you have been socialized to think.
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Today is part of a special series where I am doing conversations with clients and colleagues. Up first, I invite you to join me with my client, friend and colleague Erin Harmon where we discuss how coaching has changed her life. We go through the ups, the downs, and literally EVERYTHING she did to change her life.
About Erin:
Hey Guys! I'm Erin and I am a Financial Life Coach that helps you get a hold of your finances and your brain to create the life and money of your dreams!
My family and I just bought our first house in the Bay Area of CA with our 3 little girls, cat and new puppy! Over the last 7 years we have taken control of our finances, our mindset and showed ourselves that all of our dreams are inevitable as long as we keep taking steps towards them and I am so blessed to be able to help my clients do the same! I love to get real nerdy in the spreadsheets, read, cuss, and a good margarita!
Website - www.tranquilfinancecoaching.com
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There is a difference between feeling unloved versus feeling unlovable. Too often, we experience something that triggers us to feel unloved, and we immediately head down the rabbit hole of feeling unlovable. Today I'm going to show you the difference, and help you see how you actually can't EVER be unlovable, even if you do feel unloved.
Do you want help working on your lovability? I am offering 3 free mini-sessions this week to help you discover where you are lovable. They will go fast. Book it here: https://amandahess.ca/bookacall/
As women, we carry an enormous emotional workload. The truth is, the world expects us to be perfect and also to show up for everyone else perfectly. We take on all of the roles and responsibilities for both women AND men. We are the everything in our lives, and we are drowning under the heavy responsibility. Today I'm going to explain why this is so damaging and how to fix it.
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If you want to know how to get rid of your emotional workload, be sure to book a mini-session. You can book that here: https://amandahess.ca
We believe that we know everything there is to know about ourselves, and we believe that what we believe is the TRUTH. But it isn't, it's simply our interpretation. The truth runs deeper than what we are often willing to go hunting for. But our peace and satisfaction with ourselves and our lives depends on discovering the truth. Listen in to find out how.
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It's easy to think that feeling misunderstood is a "them" problem. But when we think of it that way, it becomes an unsolvable problem. My goal for YOU is to be empowered, so listen in to find out how you can start feeling UNDERSTOOD today!
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Sometimes life is hard, and asking for help can feel impossible. Today i am sharing why asking for help is always beneficial and what you might want to think to ensure you get some.
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When we start down the road of personal development - we quickly notice that negative self-talk is a problem. We see that our negative thoughts about ourselves create results that we don't want. The thing is, we think that what we need is to shut that voice up. But the problem is that we can't do it. I'm going to teach you what actually works.
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Loving yourself unconditionally is a radical act. It goes against our natural instincts and it's not what we are taught. Today I'm going to explain what Radical Self-Love really is, why it matters and how to create it.
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Personal Growth can change your life, but we have all been led to believe that means that we should feel amazing when we do it. The truth is, growing doesn't always feel good, in fact, it often feels bad. Sometimes we grow so slowly that we don't know that we are growing, but sometimes we grow so fast that it is incredibly painful. Nothing has gone wrong.
I'm not saying you shouldn't go for growth, but I am saying we make it so much worse when we think that something is going wrong because we are experiencing negative emotions and anxiety.
Take a listen to find out why personal growth doesn't always feel good and why this is actually really great news.
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Today I want to talk about what you think is wrong with you. And the best way I could think to do it was to share with you what I used to think was wrong with me. Today I am sharing my story and I am giving you the inside scoop on how to find actual fulfillment and happiness in 2022.
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Were you taught you should always aim for an A Plus? Me too. But all this does is create perfectionist thinking. If you truly want to see results in your life, you should be aiming for a B-minus. Take a listen to find out why.
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If you want 2022 to be your year, there is only one thing you need to do: Change the story you tell yourself about 2021. Today's episode is going to teach you how to use the right fuel to create your dreams. We have been taught to be critical of our lives, I'm going to show you what to do instead!
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Have you heard of body dysmorphia? Where you have exaggerated beliefs about negative things about your body that might not even exist? Well this episode is about LIFE DYSMORPHIA, where you have exaggerated beliefs about negative parts of your personality or your life that might not even exist. You probably have it, most people do. It's toxic as hell, so listen in and I will share exactly what to do about it.
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Have you heard of muscle memory? When your body just automatically does something without you having to think about it? Well I'm here to tell you that we also have emotional memory. When our brain automatically creates an emotion without us having to actually think anything. It's one of the biggest things I see get in my clients way, and today I am going to share exactly what to do about it.
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What is a narcissist? How do you know if your ex is a narcissist? What to do if you are dealing with a narcissist. These are some pretty popular searches on google. But here is what I want to know: Why does this matter? Today I'm sharing with you some really good reasons to take this word out of your vocabulary. Take a listen and let me know what you think.
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I'm frequently told that women feel unfulfilled, especially when middle age hits. And then I'm also told that women don't have time to do what they want to do and sometimes i'm told that women don't know what they actually even want. That's what today's episode is all about - let's dig in. Because it 100% does not have to be this way.
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So often we say that we want to be "normal", but what does that even mean? What if I told you that it means you want to be average? Is that what you really want? Or do you want to be exceptional? How about being exceptionally yourself?
The reality is that when we chase normal, we are actually running away from ourselves. Take a listen to find out how to feel "normal" inside your own skin with nothing else needing to be different.
And if you are ready to dive in and start changing the way you look at yourself so that you can lead an exceptional life, you can book a free consult with Amanda here: https://amandahess.ca/bookacall/
If you spend any time reading self-help books or consuming information about mindfulness, you know that allowing emotions is incredibly important. The problem is, nobody ever really explains how to do it. So today I'm bringing you along while I process MY painful emotion. Buckle up and take a listen, I don't hold anything back.
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It's natural to worry what other people think, but that doesn't make it useful. Find out why you worry about what other people think and what you can do about it instead.
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Money. As women, we have been taught a lot of different things about money. And the truth is, a lot of what we have been taught doesn't help us and isn't true. Today I have Kalee Boisvert on the Podcast and she is helping break down how you can change YOUR relationship with money starting today.
Kalee Boisvert is a financial advisor who has spent over 14 years in the industry. She is a strong proponent of empowering women in their financial lives. Her absolute passion lies in creating new possibilities in women’s lives by showing them the ropes when it comes to their money. She strives to spark healthy and positive conversations around wealth and investment and create a world where nobody is limited by their financial situation.
Website: https://www.raymondjames.ca/kaleeboisvert/
Email: kalee.boisvert@raymondjames.ca
IG: @kaleeboisvert
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kaleeboisvert/
Do you look at your life and think that there is no way you are going to be able to recover from what has happened? When I met Ginelle, this is how she felt too. Coaching changed her life, and in today's episode she shares what worked, what didn't and how she completely rewrote her story.
Ginelle was my client for one full year, and in today's episode she vulnerably shares her story of her separation and subsequent divorce along with the amazing life she created on the other side. If you feel stuck, lost or alone please take a listen.
If you want to connect with Ginelle, you can find her Facebook page here: https://www.facebook.com/Grit-Grace-102160782123552
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Big Emotions. Anxiety. Depression. Rage. Shame. The big ones. The scary ones, We are taught to fear them, but what if I told you that you can embrace them? That they can actually help you. Listen in to find out how.
I know that big emotions are scary. That's because we have never been taught how to handle them. This episode gives you the tools you are going to want to master if you are ready to use your big emotions instead of running away from them.
And if you are ready to go all in and figure this out, you can book a consult with Amanda here: https://3sconfidence.com/bookacall/
Are you an empath? Do you experience anxiety? Maybe you don't know, but I'm going to share with you what an empath is and why anxiety is harder for you. I'm also going to teach you what to do about it. Buckle up!
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Listen, if you procrastinate, get stuck, buffer and escape instead of going after what you say you want, it's not because you are lazy. You are not broken or somehow deficient in some way. You are HUMAN. And the truth is, that when we are not taking action in the way we originally would have liked, it's generally because we are experiencing negative emotions.
You are not lazy. You do not need motivation. Instead, we need to understand what's going on UNDERNEATH. Take a listen to find out more.
And if you need HELP, then it's time to book a consult with Amanda. If you are ready to start changing your life, it's time to see if working Amanda is the answer you have been looking for. Book here: https://3sconfidence.com/bookacall/
We fear suffering. So much so, that we are willing to do almost anything to avoid it. The thing is, if we allow ourselves to experience suffering then we allow ourselves to no longer be afraid. What might you do if you were no longer afraid? Take a listen to find out how suffering can serve you.
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What would happen if you just assumed everyone was good? It's been my experience that YOUR life gets better. They actually don't have to be different in order for you to be able to change your whole experience.
Life gets so much easier when we assume that everyone is good and whole and has your best interest at heart. Take a listen and tell me your thoughts over in my free Facebook community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/loveyourselfnomatterwhat
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Too often in life we are chasing happiness. And the problem is, when we approach it this way, we are never going to find it. Instead, we need to learn how to create satisfaction with the life we have right now.
Today's episode is all about why this is important and how we can go about doing this.
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The number one thing I hear from women is: I don't have enough time and I don't have enough money. One of these things is a renewable resource and one of them isn't. What's interesting is how we treat them in reverse.
What if I told you that time is not renewable but it is controllable? What if I told you that you have the ability to create as much money as you want? I want you to be empowered when it comes to time and money, and that is what this episode is all about.
If you are ready to start spending your time and money to create a future you deeply desire, then it's time to book a consult: https://3sconfidence.com/bookacall/
Are you safe right now? And what I mean is, are you emotionally safe?
So many of us are not. We are either knee deep in the shit of our lives just praying we survive, or we managed to survive it but we can't quite seem to pick ourselves up all the way.
Either way, we are stuck in survival mode. It's exhausting and hard.
The way out is to build emotional safety. And that's why I created this podcast. I'm going to show you how to create it. Because listen, we all deserve to feel safe.
If you think you want help creating this, head on over to book a consult with Amanda: https://3sconfidence.com/bookacall/
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Do you feel unappreciated by the people in your life? Do you wish there was a way you could teach them how to appreciate you more? I get it. It's not a nice feeling to feel underappreciated. But I'm going to let you know a secret, what our mom's taught us about appreciation was all wrong. The truth is, you can feel appreciated TODAY if you want to. And nobody else needs to change either. Take a listen to find out how.
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Shame, guilt, disappointment, regret are difficult emotions. But that doesn't mean that you can't create amazing results feeling these things. We have been taught to believe that negative emotions create negative results and this is not true.
Take a listen to learn how negative emotions are not only NORMAL but manageable. Negative emotions serve us when we use them properly. It's time to start allowing for all of the emotions in our lives so that we can lead full and productive lives.
If you are ready to HEAL and really start doing this work, book a consult with Amanda here: https://3sconfidence.com/bookacall/
I promise you, you have everything you need already to start living a life you love.
Do you want to feel empowered but have no idea how to get there? What if I told you that nothing about you needed to change for you to feel empowered? This episode is going to show you exactly how to create personal empowerment in your life today.
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I know how easy it is to be hard on yourself, I used to be an expert at it. But I also know it is going to be impossible to create a life you love if you don't drop it. Listen to hear why this practice is so damaging, where it comes from and what to do about it.
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Today's episode is an interview with a VERY special guest. Master Certified Life Coach Corinne Crabtree has lost over 100 pounds AND her business made $10 MILLION dollars last year. You are going to want to listen to what she has to say - I know I did!
Here is where you can find more information on Corinne and what she has to offer:
Advanced Weightloss Certification
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Corinne Crabtree
Founder and CEO of The No BS Weightloss Program
Host of the Losing 100 Pounds Podcast with over 32 million downloads
Corinne Crabtree is a top ranked health podcaster, Master Weightloss and Life Coach, motivational speaker, and all around badass. She's an expert in the field of weightloss where she teaches her unique No BS Weightloss Program that helps women lose weight the way they want to live their lives. She is known for telling it like it is, showing up looking sassy or showing up with morning hair getting sassy. She lets nothing stop her from helping her women figure out their shit so they can live the healthy life of their dreams. She's a proud Mommy Tiger to Logan, wife to Chris, devoted cat lady and holds it all down in Nashville, TN.
What is a perfect relationship? And how do you get one? Whether you are in a relationship that isn't working or you simply want to finally find a relationship you love, this episode is going to break down how to get it.
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Life is hard. That's what we are taught right? The thing is, when we think life is hard, we only make it harder. I know how to make life easier, it's not easy, but it's simple. Take a listen to find out how.
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Rather than thinking positive, I believe the thing you need to do the most is get vulnerable. The truth is, if you want to change your life, this is the way you do it. Take a listen to find out how vulnerability has changed my life and how you can use it to change yours.
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Nobody likes fighting, but it seems like an unavoidable part of life. Whether you fight loud or avoid any confrontation at all costs, I guarantee it's creating results in your life that you probably don't love. I've learned a simple tool to help solve confrontation and I'm teaching it to you in this episode. Are you ready to find a new way to disagree?
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Hope and desire are the emotions that will allow you to create the life you want to live. But how do you generate these emotions? Especially when you feel hopeless and stuck? Tune in to today's episode for the exact steps of how to do this.
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We spend a lot of time trying to be normal. Trying to look normal, act normal and have normal lives. But who decides what normal is anyways? Let's talk about why being normal should NOT be the goal.
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We have been conditioned to be extensively critical of our appearance. in fact, with society's obsession with appearance it takes up more headspace than any other part of our life. And the truth is that it is insanely damaging. In today's episode, I'm going to explain where this comes from and how to change it
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We all know that people pleasing is bad. But why do we do it? How do we stop? This quick episode is going to give you the solution. And guess what? it always works!
I have created a Cure People Pleasing Training. Get it here: https://3sconfidence.com/peoplepleaser/
And if you are simply ready to start dialing into self-love, then head on over to my website and book a consult: https://3sconfidence.com/bookacall/
Do you want more joy in your life? What if I told you that the only thing that stands in the way of getting it is you? Today I'm sharing how you can start creating more joy in your life TODAY.
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We are taught that confidence and self-confidence are one and the same. But the truth is, they are not the same at all. Self-confidence is not something you are born with, it is something you create. Tune in to find out how to get more of it.
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A thought versus a fact. It's easy to get confused. After all, what we are experiencing often feels very true. But a lot of what we experience in our life is not caused by the facts, but instead by what we make those facts mean. Which means changing our experience is in our direct control!
If you want to dive deeper and really implement this for yourself, be sure to join my FREE 5 day training: How to Feel 10% Better in an Anxious World. You can join here: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/608c0f5d99645e6856e2ec63
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Are you sick of being afraid of feeling anxious and worried? Are you tired of listening to your thoughts?
Today I am speaking to one of my clients: Audrey. Audrey worked with me for 6 months to build her love and trust for herself and she has changed her life.
One of her biggest take-aways was that she is no longer afraid of herself. If you want this for yourself, then take a listen to see how she did it.
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We are programmed to build our financial wealth, but what about building our emotional wealth? Your emotional well-being matters and it's time to learn how to start prioritizing it!
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And if you are READY to start investing in your emotional well-being, you can book a free consult here: https://3sconfidence.com/bookacall/
I am a Certified Life Coach AND a Certified Weight Loss Coach. I have decided to lose 5 lbs and decided it would be fun to invite you to do it with me. You can keep the wine! You can keep the food you love! You don't need to work out like a banshee either. Want to do it with me? I'm going to show you exactly how.
And maybe you don't want to lose weight - but you do have a goal you'd like to reach and still love yourself? Don't hesitate. This is for you too!
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Many people look at being in neutral as a bad thing. They think they are stuck. But neutral is required to be able to move forward. If we are experiencing a life we don't like, the first step MUST be neutral. Today's episode breaks this all down so that you can start healing your past and create a life you LOVE.
Want to find out how to get YOUR life into neutral? Book a free call with me here: https://3sconfidence.com/bookacall/
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Have you been cheated on? Do you feel lost and worthless and angry and ashamed? It doesn't have to be this way. I want you to know that you CAN feel better. I have a proven system to take your life back. Take a listen to find out more.
And if you are ready to get out of pain and finally take your life back for good, book a free consult here: https://3sconfidence.com/bookacall/
Negative thoughts. Self-doubt. Worry. Anxiety. There are thousands of books and podcasts and videos and courses on how to get rid of these. But the problem is, none of them actually work. Which is why you are here. Let me show you what does work. It's not what you think.
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Do you think you need someone to hold you accountable to be successful? I used to, but I've learned that this is just really not true. In fact, accountability could be the reason you are NOT reaching your goals. Listen in to find out what works instead.
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I understand wanting to feel better. But skipping over feeling bad is why you haven't been able to feel better. Tune in to find out why just "thinking positive" and "getting over it" hasn't been working and find out what actually does.
And if you really want to understand the real reasons for why you can't change the way you feel, book a free consult. I can help you.
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Have you been bullied? I get it. Me too. So has my friend and colleague Elyse Conroy and that's why we decided it was ESSENTIAL that we have this conversation about it.
If you have experienced bullying, as a kid, as a teen, as an adult, then you need to take a listen.
We talk about why it matters.
We talk about how to heal and why it's important.
Healing yourself matters.
Have you been shoving it down? Telling yourself you should just get over it? Wondering why it keeps popping up and can still bring you to tears when you even think about it? Then this episode is for you.
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About Elyse Conroy:
Find her here:
CEO/Founder of Soul Makeup
www.soulmakeup.com
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More about Elyse:
After spending 15 years as a Corporate Executive in the Beauty Industry, Elyse Conroy quit it all.
Why?
Because she failed.
Now, it’s important to know that when Elyse got into beauty, she aspired to make women feel beautiful & confident with the products she created.
But after launching thousands of products for some of the biggest beauty brands in the game, she realized that the products she created were serving as a band aid & when woman washed their face, there went their confidence, security, and feelings of beauty right down the sink.
She saw that women wanted more out of life but were stuck in the pattern of trying to fix themselves from the outside in.
So, she got to work, left her corporate 9-5, embarked on a world-wide self-development journey and learned that all the feelings we want are created from the inside out.
She now coaches high-performing women how to take confident action now in their lives through 1:1 Programs, Retreats & Virtual Workshops.
We all experience negative situations in our lives. We know this is simply part of being human. But there is a difference between the pain we feel and the additional pain we create. If you want to decrease the pain you are feeling in your life, this episode is for you.
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Are you constantly trying to change your life, but nothing seems to work. Maybe you create small wins, but eventually you end up right back where you started? In this episode I am going to explain why everything you have been trying isn't working, and I'm going to show you what to do instead. It works every time.
If you want to up-level your self-love skills and really learn how to change your life for good, be sure to head on over to my free facebook group: joinamanda.ca
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Responsibility. Do you take on responsibility for things that are beyond your control? Other people? How they act? What they feel? If you do, then you are a responsibility hoarder. We can't ever control other people and we will drive ourselves crazy if we try. I have an intervention for you and it is this episode.
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Why do you want to change your life? I'm guessing it's because you want to FEEL better. This is why we do mostly everything in our life. We normally focus on changing the external factors in our life. But I'm going to fill you in on a secret: The internal matters more.
Today's episode is going to teach you how to actually move the needle on changing your life. What I am teaching you is fool proof and it always works. Take a listen, and if you want help, be sure to book a free discovery call. Changing your life does not have to be long and complicated. I can help you:
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We have all kinds of relationships: Romantic, business, family, friendships, and many, many more. It can be difficult to navigate all of these relationships and it can be especially difficult to navigate the ones that seem broken. Today I am breaking down the exact steps needed to fix your relationship problems for good.
And if this podcast hits home, be sure to register for my free class: Relationship Rx - Register here: https://3sconfidence.com/relationships/
The pursuit of perfection is a trap for unhappiness. The problem with perfection is that it is both unattainable and impossible to define. It becomes a drug, and you become an addict.
I'm a recovering perfectionist, and I have seen first hand how releasing perfection sets you free. If you want more joy, more peace and more fulfillment, take a listen and find out how to drop perfection and your addiction so that you can leave the pain behind you.
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Listen. We have been taught to believe that the only way to like what we see in the mirror is to be young and skinny. Not only is this bs, it is also one of the most damaging beliefs that we hold onto that we don't have to.
In this episode I will teach you what you are doing that keeps you from liking what you see in the mirror and I'm going to teach you what to do instead. No cardio or restrictive meal plan required. Take a listen and tell me what you think.
And if you want to take this to the next level, book a free discovery call with me. You deserve to like what you see in the mirror.
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Feeling Sh!tty.
Let's be honest. Feeling Sh!tty feels
sh!tty. Am I right? So because of that, we go out of our way so that we do not have to feel it. At all. Ever.
In fact we go to great lengths to avoid it. Binge eating, drinking, binging Netflix, obsessive organizing. Pick your poison. We all have one. Or ten.
The problem is, it doesn't get rid of the problem. Avoiding feeling negative emotion only serves to perpetuate it.
Tune into today's podcast episode where I explain what you should REALLY do when you are feeling sh!tty.
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Learning how to change your life is a lot like learning how to do a jump in figure skating. If you don't know how to figure skate, it's going to require more than a "how to" book. This episode explains why learning the basics about yourself is the most important step that you cannot skip when going out and attempting to change your life.
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Anger and anxiety are viewed as "Bad" emotions. We are taught we shouldn't feel them and we work HARD not to feel them. We resist them and react to them and we buffer through them. But where we will find relief is instead allowing them.
Take a listen to find out more
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New Year's Resolutions seem like a good idea at their core. To improve yourself should never be a bad thing, right? Wrong. Take a listen to why New Year's Resolutions will only keep you sad and stuck.
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Loneliness. People Pleasing. Second Guessing.
These things all come from the same place. Take a listen to discover why you are lonely when you are alone and why you are lonely in a room full of people. Today I talk about what you can REALLY do to feel less lonely, and what you can do to stop caring what other people think about you.
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Is coaching a scam? Is it voodoo?
It's easy to believe that coaching isn't all that it seems. Take a listen to find out what coaching is and what coaching is not.
If you have decided coaching might just be what you have been looking for, then head on over and book a free consult here: https://3sconfidence.com/bookacall/
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Conflict is something we experience in every level of our life. But the way we have been taught to handle it (or more specifically the way we haven't been taught at all) is what keeps us from forming deep and meaningful connections.
Take a listen to figure out how you probably have been doing conflict wrong, and some effective ways to increase connection and decrease conflict immediately.
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Do you think being "responsible" is key? Do you think problems should always be somebody's fault? Take a listen to find out how blame takes you from empowered to stuck in 5 seconds flat.
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I am sharing my latest workshop for you to listen to for FREE. If you want to stop doubting yourself - do yourself a favor and have a listen.
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Self-Doubt will kill your dreams if you let it. Today's episode talks about where self-doubt comes from and how to kick it to the curb
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Do you get hung up on " being good enough?" We all do really. Today's episode talks about how keeping score keeps us stuck and what you can do instead.
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Think Positive - It's what everyone tries to tell you when you are feeling down or depressed or anxious or really any other so called negative emotion. Here's the thing, it doesn't work, and in this episode I am going to explain why.
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Self-Belief is often elusive. Today's episode talks about why it's an integral step to building confidence and how to go out and get it.
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What is a beating stick? it's what we women pick up to try and motivate ourselves. Today's episode explores where the beating stick comes from, why we shouldn't use it and how to put it down.
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Self-Love is one of the essential building blocks to achieve Self-Confidence. Join me in this week's podcast where we discover how true self-love is really built.
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Listen in to find out what anti-trust is and why it needs your attention ASAP. Self-Trust is one of my 3 pillars of true confidence and we are discussing how to get it.
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Everything you have ever wanted is on the other side of Self-Love, but if it was just mantras and meditations, let's face it, everyone would have it. This podcast is about developing the actual skills that will create self-love and self- acceptance. Amanda Hess is a self-love expert and a certifed Life Coach. She helps her clients discover how to fall in love with themselves again.