Evolutionary Men: Recent Episodes
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In this episode I get into touch, why it lands or falls flat with a woman, and what her body is already reading in you before your hands ever move. I break down the physiology behind it, your breath, your nervous system, and the different kinds of tension that decide whether she melts into you or just tolerates you. I also get into my own history with touch, which wasn't pretty, and the frame I now use with the men I coach around all of this.
In this episode I break down what's happening when life looks fine on paper but you feel like you're not the one driving it. Losing direction is nearly inevitable once the track (school, career, mortgage, kids) runs out, and you can't think your way back. I walk through the two compasses I've watched work in hundreds of men's lives, the practice men have used to read them for thousands of years, and the one place none of us wants to look.
Get moving:* Master reading her breath to enhance her pleasure on August 10th * Grab one of the last Labor Day retreat spots * Snag the early bid on the Heart of Shadow men's group and retreat
You might also like...* EP85 - The Difference Between Waiting and Resting * EP29 - Three Questions Every Man Needs to Be Able to Answer * EP100 - Shadow Work for the Chronically Driven (with Luke Adler)
In this episode I get into the question most men never ask, why would she want to have sex with you? I break down Rosemary Basson's research on responsive desire, why her wanting often arrives through connection instead of before it, and what it actually takes to be a man she can open toward. I talk about tending your own nervous system, learning her warm up sequence, feeding the connection all week, and the real difference between reaching for her from tension release versus reaching for her by name.
What to expand your capacity as a lover? Learn from touch coach Elizabeth Anneka about the power of breath for good sex by signing up for How to Touch Women: It Starts with Your Breath Workshop on Monday, August 10th at 5:30pm Pacific. $97.
In this episode I bring on touch coach Elizabeth Anneka to break down why so many men have the desire to please a woman but not the skill. We get into her bullseye mismatch concept, the difference between penetrating and receptive states, how to keep touch alive once it's gone stale in a long term relationship, and the power of breath to guide it all for men.
Learn from Elizabeth about the power of breath for good sex by signing up for How to Touch Women: It Starts with Your Breath Workshop on Monday, August 10th at 5:30pm Pacific. $97.
Learn more about Elizabeth at https://www.howtotouchwomen.com
Prefer to read? The distilled version is on the blog: How to Touch a Woman: Start Outside the Bullseye and Follow Her Breath.
In this episode I'm joined by Gethin Aldous, co-director of The Work, the award-winning documentary shot inside Folsom Prison. We get into what happens when the hardest men in the system sit in circle and let themselves break, why prison cuts straight through the judgment that men's work is soft or goofy, and what it awakens in the men who witness it. If men most people have written off can go this deep, so can you. Go watch the film, then do your own work.
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- Gethin's Production Company MythoWorks
- All Kings NY
- Inside Circle
In this episode I talk about the real cost of staying numb and what's actually happening when a man feels flat. I get into the one-pipe reality, why clamping down grief and anger also chokes off joy, desire, and aliveness, the difference between a state and a stage, and why you can't think or read your way back to being fully alive and how important it is to plunge into spaces of depth to give you a lived experience of your power and vitality.
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In this episode I lay out a map I've been building for nearly two decades: nine specific capacities that separate the man who walks into a room and changes it from the man nobody quite remembers was there. I take them one at a time: vitality, devotion, curiosity, rigor, initiative, presence, empathy, depth, and discernment, go through what each one looks like when it's online and what it costs you when it's not, and why a tenth capacity, belonging, wraps around all of them.
Cultivating these capacities if the lifelong path of Evolutionary Men.
Discovery your capacity map by taking the Evolutionary Edge quiz at quiz.evolutionary.men
In this episode I'm joined by Dr. Luke Adler to talk about the shadow of shadow work, what it demands from us beyond catharsis, and why release is only the first step that must extend into accountability. We break down the three-phase arc of release, responsibility, and repair, sit with the cultural pressure on men's groups right now to do more than hold space for pain, and get into what real carefrontation looks like when you care too much to stay quiet.
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In this episode I sit down with my wife Violet Lange to talk about the gap no amount of solo work can close. You've done your reading, you've done your shadow work, you feel solid, and then a woman walks into the room and you freeze, shrink, or bury your desire. You can practice alone forever, but you only get good at the feminine in front of the feminine. We get into why so many men get so few reps, why the dating world is the worst possible place to learn, and what opens up when the container is built for practice instead of outcome.
Violet's frame is simple: this is practice, not pickup. When the agenda is gone and the safety is real, you stop managing how you come across and start meeting the parts of yourself you usually keep hidden. This is the work that pairs with men's groups, not the work that replaces them, the cross-training most guys don't know they're missing. If you've done your work with the men and still lock up the moment polarity enters the room, this one is for you.
Violet's co-ed practice container, the Love Field, opens this summer. Details at violetlange.com/thelovefield
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In this episode I take Scott Galloway's framework for young men, the provider, protector, procreator model, and make the case that it's necessary but not sufficient. I use Ken Wilber's four-quadrant map to show that the two quadrants Galloway skips, interior life and real male connection, are exactly where the crisis lives. Then I name the two missing pieces that round out his framework and don't replicate the same provider / manbox trap men have been stuck in for ages. Finally I point to the parts of Galloway's own life that have already shown him what he left out of the book.
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In this episode I sit down with Keith Martin-Smith, an award-winning author, Zen priest, martial artist, and one of my oldest, dearest friends. We've been sitting in circle together for almost 20 years.
Keith grew up in a working-class Irish Catholic family on the East Coast, where his father never shed a tear his entire life and shutting down was just what men did. We get into how he came out of that conditioning, what 20 years of Zen and men's work has transmitted to him, and why the most elite warriors on the planet are also the most sensitive men in the room.
More of what we cover:
- Why most men are reacting to their lives instead of responding
- The difference between being seen and being known in a group
- What a real men's group does that therapy structurally can't
- Why it's important for nice guys to feel their anger
If you've ever wondered what men's work actually is beyond the caricature, this is a solid place to start.
Learn more about KeithAttend the Strength with Heart Masterclass June 7th, 2026
In this episode I talk about freeze, the response in men that hides in plain sight. Fight gets respect. Flight at least looks like movement. Freeze just looks like you vanished, and most of the time nobody even clocks it, including you. Plus on top of that a lot of men get praised for being steady when what's actually happening inside them is immobilization.
I've lived inside this one for most of my life, in the conversations that mattered, the choices I couldn't make, the moments I needed to show up and couldn't find my way there. In this one I get into what's actually happening in your body when you freeze up, why the pattern runs so deep, how to head it off at the pass when possible, and what happens when you do really freeze and can't get yourself out of it.
Curious which of the 9 masculine archetypes you embody? Take the free assessment at quiz.evolutionary.men.
In this episode my wife Violet and I break down why your relationship can’t always be sunny and perfect—and why that’s actually a good thing. We walk through the four seasons of relationships and the reality of how different parts of your partnership can be in completely different seasons at the same time. Your sex life might be in spring while your emotional connection is in winter, and not knowing that can keep you confused about what’s actually going wrong.
If you’ve ever wondered why the spark faded or why connection feels harder than it used to, this episode will help you understand what’s actually happening—and what to do about it before you lose years to autopilot.
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Learn more about our programs Evolutionary Couples and 12 Epic Dates at https://evolutionarycouples.us
In this episode Luke and I dive into the shadow of worry and rumination that keeps so many men trapped in their heads. We break down why living from the shoulders up isn't strength, it's avoidance. You'll hear about the subtle ways fear masquerades as logic, how productivity can become procrastination, and why jacking off might be your nervous system's go-to discharge pattern. We get into the real work of traversing from your head to your heart to your guts, and why community isn't optional for this journey.
Find out about the next Heart of Shadow Men's Group and retreat at https://evolutionary.men/heartofshadow
In this episode my wife Violet and I share the five scariest moments in our relationship. These weren't just hard conversations or minor disagreements, but the moments where both of us genuinely questioned whether we'd make it, whether we'd chosen the right partner, or whether we were trapped in patterns we couldn't escape. We get specific about what actually happened, the deep fears underneath each crisis, and the exact moves that allowed us to work through the terror instead of letting it end things.
If you've ever had that gut-punch moment in your relationship where you think "is this it, is this over?" then listen in! Every long-term couple hits these inflection points where fear can either derail everything or become the catalyst for deeper trust and connection. Tune in to learn how we did it, what we'd do differently, and why these scary moments became some of the most important turning points in building a relationship that actually works.
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In this episode I explore why so many good men still feel a quiet emptiness even when life looks full. We get into what’s really underneath the loneliness men carry today, and how brotherhood, real connection with men who both see you and call you higher, brings life back into your system.
This isn’t about fixing yourself. It’s about remembering what makes you come alive again.
Join a men's group at https://mens.group now
In this episode I sit down with Karen McMahon, a high-conflict divorce strategist who's been guiding men and women through one of the most painful transitions of their lives since 2010. Karen specializes in working with nice guys who are stuck in volatile marriages, paralyzed by guilt about leaving their kids or fear that their partner will harm themselves if they go.
We dig into why staying in an unhealthy marriage actually teaches your kids that conflict and disconnection are what intimate love looks like, how the legal system often fails men, and the specific inner work that's required to navigate divorce without losing yourself in the process. Karen breaks down the difference between codependent caretaking and healthy boundaries, why so many men struggle with receiving, and how breaking generational chains starts with you doing your healing work now.
Learn more about Karen's offerings at Journey Beyond Divorce
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In this episode I break down one of the most powerful investments you can make in yourself as a man: your social capital. Most men grind through life alone, trying to figure everything out by themselves, and it's killing us. The antidote is simple but countercultural: a men's group, a circle of guys you meet with regularly who actually give a shit about you and your life.
I introduce the metaphor of shock absorbers to explain what this kind of community actually does for you when life gets rocky. Tune in to learn why the sooner you start building these relationships the bigger the dividends over time, and why this type of connection is something that can never be bought, only built.
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In this episode, Luke and I dive into what’s really behind male depression. We explore why the things men typically do to feel better often make the stuckness worse, and then reveal the powerful connection between depression and unexpressed anger. Luke goes deeper and breaks down the physiology of depression from a Chinese medicine perspective setting the stage for how shadow work in men’s groups can be a powerful medicine for metabolizing depression.
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In this episode I dive into the hidden roots of nice guy syndrome with my co-facilitator Dr. Luke Adler. We explore how being a “nice guy” is actually one of six primitive nervous system survival responses rooted in fear of losing connection. Luke and I share vulnerable stories about how this shows up and why shadow work is the real pathway out.
We break down why cognitive strategies aren’t enough and how the consistent presence of loving masculine energy through men’s groups becomes the medicine that allows nice guys to drop the people-pleasing patterns and reclaim their authentic power.
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In this episode I break down the three types of disconnection that are crushing men right now and leading to depression, stuckness, and a sense that something’s just off in life. I walk through what each of these disconnections looks like, why they’re so common, and most importantly, what men can actually do to reconnect and start feeling alive again.
If you’re feeling stuck, depressed, or like you’re just going through the motions, this episode will help you figure out what’s really going on and give you a clear path forward.
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In this episode I chat with naturalist and poet Roy Arthur Blodgett to face what men inherit: numbness, isolation, and a grim overculture of masculinity. We get into men and land, how the wild helped Roy feel most himself, and what shifts when we stop spectating and start participating. We talk land literacy, seeing patterns of succession, the fear of causing harm that keeps men frozen, and the power of choosing responsibility anyway.
Follow Roy at www.royarthurblodgett.com
Join me and Roy and get your hands dirty with some land work at the next Evolutionary Men Labor Day Retreat at https://evolutionary.men/retreat/
Then face the shadows of your lineage in the next Heart of Shadow Men’s Group & Retreat at https://evolutionary.men/heartofshadow/
In this episode, I get personal and share about my top 16 moments that I’ve gotten to experience that’s to men’s work, all stemming from men’s groups, retreats, and community (and in no particular order).
These are all experiences that have enriched my life beyond measure, and were all possible because of the depth of connection I’ve cultivated with incredible men in my life.
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In this episode, Luke and I explore the complex narratives surrounding masculinity, particularly the idea of victimhood among men. We dig into the cultural reflections of masculinity, the evolution of men’s roles, and the importance of shadow work in reclaiming agency and responsibility from the oh so alluring victim masculinity being sold these days.
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In this episode, I dive into what I believe is the new standard for powerful men: taking responsibility for our pain. Whether it’s personal, ancestral, or collective, owning our wounds is what separates conscious men from those stuck in blame or avoidance. I explore how trauma lives in the nervous system, how patterns are passed down through generations, and why the work of healing—though uncomfortable—is ultimately the path to true power, presence, and leadership.
In this episode, I sit down with my longtime brother and mentor Ted Riter for a conversation that goes straight into the heart of sacred masculinity, grief, and transformation. Ted is a former rabbi turned spiritual guide and relationship coach who brings over 30 years of wisdom into the space of men’s work, intimacy, and embodiment.
We explore how a collapse in his life led him to the very work he now teaches—how grief, shame, and mistrust of men became gateways into deeper integrity, love, and purpose. Ted shares how his lineage ultimately became a foundation for the spiritual and relational depth he offers today. We also chat about the sacredness of men’s circles, the difference between nice and loving challenge, and why decentralization and shared responsibility are the future of men’s groups.
Connect with Ted:Website: tedriter.comInstagram: @tedridertalks
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In this episode I unpack why mastering sexy hacks like alpha-drops and breath orgasms is just the tip of the iceberg. I explore how childhood attachment wounds, body neglect, and unprocessed relational pain set the real limits on your erotic charge, and I explain why the hard, unsexy healing work—therapy, men’s groups, shadow work, and nervous-system rehab—is the game-changer for lasting safety, trust, and deep connection.
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- Learn the foundations of masculine presence and remove your blocks to polarity via our Pillars of Presence program
- Want support starting or deepening your own men’s group journey? Checkout Men’s Group Experience or The Heart of Shadow
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In this episode, I explore four core capacities every man needs to start cultivating to stay vital and grounded in an AI-powered world. This isn’t science fiction—AI is already shaping how we live, relate, and make choices. I talk about the rising influence of automation, and four essential tools for thriving as a man in the world that is now here. If you want to stay human, creative, and trustworthy in a culture increasingly driven by AI, listen in now.
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August 28th - September 1st in Northern California. You'll walk away deeply embodied in your power, more connected to other men, and nourished by great food and inspiring nature. Head over to https://evolutionary.men/retreat to book your spot now.
Shame isn’t something to get rid of—it’s something to work with. And when we do, it can become one of the most powerful tools for growth, integrity, and connection in a man’s life.
In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Keith Witt—psychologist, author, and one of the most seasoned men I’ve had the privilege of learning from—to unpack the deeper function of shame and how it shapes our values, our relationships, and the kind of men we become. We explore how shame, when related to consciously, actually guides us back to our wholeness.
But we don’t stop there.
We also dive into the developmental arc of the masculine—from boyhood, to acolyte, to warrior, to man of wisdom—and why so many men get stuck along the way. We talk about the power of men’s groups, what creates true ownership and leadership, and why decentralization might just be the key to building lasting brotherhood.
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ABOUT DR. KEITH WITT
Learn more about Dr. Keith Witt (and get all his books for free!) at https://drkeithwitt.com/
In this episode, I drop in with Michael Holt, founder of the Savage and Saint Collective. We explore what it really means to live as a whole man—one who’s both deeply sensitive and unapologetically strong.
Michael shares his path from violence, rage, and addiction to embodiment, service, and sacred discipline. We talk about why the healed masculine isn’t soft, how true spiritual practice requires savage commitment, and why being dangerous and loving are not opposites—they’re necessary partners.
If you’ve ever wondered what it actually looks like to hold both primal power and deep presence, this one’s for you.
Learn more about Michael and subscribe to his free email course at https://savageandsaint.com
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In this episode, I unpack the concept of men’s groups as the essential “third way”—a relational container that fills the gaps left by coaching and therapy. Drawing on personal experience and cultural insight, I explore how these groups serve as both a third place and a missing medicine for modern men—offering brotherhood, real-time feedback, and deep presence in a peer-led structure. With loneliness, isolation, and performative masculinity on the rise, I make the case that decentralized men’s groups aren’t just helpful—they’re revolutionary.
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In this episode, I'm joined by my friend and brother in the men's work space Amir Khalighi. He shares his journey into men's work, discussing the importance of somatic healing and the role of community in personal growth. He emphasizes the need for men to reconnect with their true selves and the natural world, highlighting the challenges they face in today's society. Amir defines 'Embodied Masculine' as a unique approach that integrates somatic and shamanic practices, aiming to empower men to live purposefully and authentically. We explore the evolving landscape of masculinity, emphasizing the importance of men's circles, vulnerability, and the reclamation of feminine energy. Amir highlights the dangers of disconnected masculinity and the necessity for men to find their purpose within a community, ultimately advocating for a balanced approach to leadership that embraces both strength and vulnerability.
More about Amir Khalighi at embodiedmasculine.com
Learn more about Men's Group Experience and join Evolutionary Men at https://mens.group
In this episode, I share the deeper “why” behind launching my new program, Men’s Group Experience—and what I’ve learned after decades in the trenches of men’s work.
Yes, I’ve talked before about the power of decentralized men’s groups. But this conversation goes further. This one’s about what actually sustains a group—beyond the structure. What makes men stay, show up fully, and build something real together? I explore the difference between just “being in a group” and fully owning your seat in circle.
I also break down what inspired me to create this new offering, how it builds on everything I’ve learned from leading and being part of men’s groups for over 20 years, and why now is the moment to reclaim this kind of brotherhood.
If you've been circling around this work but haven’t taken the leap—or if you’ve done some groups but they didn’t stick—this is your invitation.
The Men’s Group Experience is a 12-week, no-BS initiation into what it actually means to be in a functional, supportive, and sustainable men’s group. You’ll get the framework, the practices, and the chance to keep your group going indefinitely—with or without me.
Learn more about Men's Group Experience and join us at https://mens.group
In this episode, I reconnect with one of the most important men in my journey—my first men’s coach, Tripp Lanier. We dive into a rich conversation around what it means to be a man today, the traps so many of us fall into with comfort and surface-level success, and why emotional intelligence isn’t optional anymore—it’s essential.
We explore what it means to be a dangerous man—the kind that comes from being truly alive and present, not just posturing or playing a role. Tripp shares hard-won insights from his book This Book Will Make You Dangerous, and we unpack why vulnerability, real connection, and doing the inner work are the gateway to actual freedom.
This one’s about breaking the mold, reclaiming our power, and leaning into the kind of masculinity that doesn’t run from feeling, but turns toward it. If you’re on the path—or ready to be—this conversation is a potent reminder of what’s possible when men come together and get real.
Ready to experience the power of a virtual men's group? Checkout the Men's Group Experience now at https://mens.group
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About Tripp:
Tripp Lanier is a professional coach, author of This Book Will Make You Dangerous, and host of The New Man Podcast: Beyond the Macho Jerk and the New Age Wimp which — for over a decade — has been downloaded millions of times.
In this episode, I sit down with my friend and collaborator Luke to unpack the enduring myth of the Marlboro Man—and how it’s still shaping men’s lives today. We explore the fantasy of the rugged, independent cowboy and how it feeds into the “lone wolf” mentality so many men have been conditioned to admire. Luke shares some powerful reflections from his own background in Western culture and rural communities, where this archetype is alive and well. Together, we shine a light on the emotional cost of stoicism, the pressure to “just get to work,” and the way this legacy leaves so many men isolated and unsupported. This conversation is a call to reevaluate what real strength looks like—and how connection, not detachment, might just be the most courageous thing a man can choose.
Ready to experience the power of a men's group? Checkout the Men's Group Experience now at https://mens.group
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In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy, to explore the root causes of why so many men feel stuck, frustrated, and disconnected—and what actually works to break that cycle. We dive into the cost of being a “nice guy,” how men’s groups offer a new form of masculine initiation, and why real brotherhood—not therapy, not status, not hustle—is often the missing piece for men.
Robert shares his personal story of transformation, how No More Mr. Nice Guy came to life, and the rise of a decentralized men’s movement that’s quietly changing lives around the world. We talk shame, leadership, male friendship, and why emotional honesty is the foundation of everything men are looking for—whether it’s a better relationship, more purpose, or real peace inside.
If you’ve ever felt alone, lost, or like you’re doing all the “right” things but still not feeling fulfilled—this conversation will hit home.
Learn more about Robert’s work and community at https://drglover.com
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In this episode, I’m joined once again by my brother-in-arms Dr. Luke Adler to dive into something a little different: a reaction and commenting on a recent Diary of a CEO episode featuring Logan Ury and Scott Galloway.
We discuss the external challenges facing men today — loneliness, economic shifts, the dating gap — while highlighting the deeper root causes we see in our work: emotional illiteracy, the collapse of brotherhood, and the loss of true masculine initiation. We lay out why pursuing excellence and money alone isn’t enough, and what it actually takes for men to thrive in the modern world. This one’s packed — tune in.
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In this episode, I break down one of the biggest keys to creating a men’s group that actually lasts: decentralization.
I get into why most top-down, subscription-style men’s groups eventually fall apart, why ownership matters more than convenience, and how shared leadership creates real brotherhood that sticks through every season of life.
I also share some personal stories — including how one of my very first men’s groups has been meeting for 14 years — and why decentralized groups aren’t just better… they’re the future of men’s work.
If you’re serious about finding your tribe and building something that lasts, this one’s for you.
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In this episode I’m once again joined by my co-facilitator and brother in the work, Dr. Luke Adler. We go deep into the energetic anatomy of wounding—mapping how blocked emotion and stagnation impact a man’s ability to access both love and purpose.
Luke shares powerful insights from decades of working with Eastern medicine and energy systems, particularly around the polarity between the heart and reproductive center. We talk about how those two forces must be in communication for us to feel alive, directed, and connected—and what happens when the system gets clogged or shut down.
We also explore why protection isn’t the enemy, how fear gates purpose, and what it really means to tend the fire inside. If you’ve been feeling stuck, numb, or like your spark is fading, this is one to listen to.
Join us for the next Heart of Shadow cohort at heartofshadow.com.
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What does it really mean for us men to get grounded? In this episode, I explore the crucial distinction between momentary grounding as a state experience versus what you're actually grounding into - the relationships, community, and life structures that catch you when you can't catch yourself. Most guys miss this entirely, focusing on quick fixes rather than building the root system that creates true stability and power as a man.
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In this episode I'm joined by Dr. Luke Adler to explore what we call "the masculine vortex" - that transformative space where men find healing through authentic connection. We discuss how masculine love provides the safety for men to let go of performance and truly be seen, creating a profound sense of belonging many have never experienced. Luke and I reveal the key elements that make our Heart of Shadow work so effective, where vulnerability becomes strength and pain becomes purpose. This isn't just about personal healing - it's about revolutionizing how men relate to each other and the world.
Learn about the Heart of Shadow program.
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In this episode I reveal how honest feedback from trusted brothers turbocharges male growth. "Carefrontation" breaks through limiting patterns and accelerates your journey toward authenticity. Real transformation happens when men confront each other with genuine care rather than criticism. Your path to becoming your best self begins with finding men brave enough to reflect your blind spots.
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In this episode I explore two fundamental needs that every man craves: purpose and belonging, and how joining a men's group can fulfill these essential needs. I discuss how purpose gives men a sense that their presence matters and impacts the world positively, while belonging provides the deep connection and sense of community that many men are missing in modern life. I explain how participating in a men's group offers both a tangible purpose through showing up for other men, and creates genuine belonging through sustained, intimate connections with fellow group members over time.
Head over to mens.group if you want to experience more purpose and belonging!a
In this episode, Dr. Luke Adler and I discuss the concept of anti-fragility as it relates to men's shadow work and personal development. We explore how anti-fragility goes beyond mere resilience, and is a state where challenges and stressors actually strengthen and energize rather than deplete. We highlight how the Heart of Shadow program can be an engine for anti-fragility for men by transmuting difficult emotions and experiences into vitality and connection. With this capacity, suddenly life's challenges become opportunities for growth and vitality rather than sources of breakdown.
In this episode, I explore the fundamental weakness of macho men and the "tough guy" culture that promotes isolation and emotional suppression. I explain how every man will eventually face physical challenges or illness that they can't simply "push through," revealing the critical importance of having a strong support system. Learn why posturing is still fear based and what you can do instead.
Learn more and find a men's group at evolutionary.men
In this episode, I share a powerful practice of choosing an annual "lens" - a perspective through which to view and experience your life throughout the year. I explain how this differs from traditional goal-setting, as a lens simply offers a way to reframe experiences rather than something you can succeed or fail at, using examples from my own journey. I describe how this practice has transformed both major life decisions and everyday moments, helping me navigate challenges, make bold choices, and experience life in fresh ways. I conclude by inviting listeners to try this practice themselves, either individually or through my guided workshop, emphasizing how a carefully chosen lens can bring novelty, energy and new possibilities to any situation.
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In this episode I dive deep into the three major energy drains affecting men today and share how to reclaim your vitality. Drawing from both personal experience and years of coaching, I explore how neglecting body nourishment, suppressing emotions, and mental rumination are secretly depleting your energy reserves. I break down why proper sleep, nutrition, and recovery are non-negotiable foundations, explain how stored emotions create physical tension that exhausts us, and reveal why constant mental chatter is more draining than you think. Whether you're feeling burnt out or simply want to optimize your energy, this episode provides the roadmap to get your power back.
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In this episode I explore the concept of tonic masculinity - a positive, generative force that brings vitality and growth to our world. Unlike its pathological counterparts, tonic masculinity represents the unique texture of masculine love that's deeply caring, attuned, and focused on creating positive change. I delve into how this manifestation of masculinity calls forth the best in everyone, creates containers for growth, and serves as a creative force rather than a destructive one. This form of masculinity that doesn't rely on domination or control is desperately needed in our culture, as it empowers others and creates structures that support collective flourishing and safety.
In this episode, I am joined by Dr. Luke Adler to expose the hidden price of success that's crushing high-achieving men. We reveal why driven professionals can't feel their own exhaustion until it's too late, and share the breakthrough solution we've discovered through our work with countless men. If you're winning at life but feeling empty inside, this conversation could be the wake-up call you've been ignoring. Learn why slowing down might be the most powerful move you'll ever make.
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In this episode, I dive into the crucial distinction between having needs and being needy. Understanding this difference is vital for fostering healthy relationships and ensuring that we connect with the right people in our lives.
- The characteristics of neediness and how it can push people away.
- The importance of expressing our needs directly and taking ownership of them.
- How neediness often stems from a sense of urgency and a lack of clarity.
- The empowering nature of owning our needs and the vulnerability it entails.
- Practical strategies for cultivating a supportive network to help meet our needs.
Tune in and learn how to transform your approach to needs and neediness for a more fulfilling life!
Discover the secrets to a sizzling sex life that keeps getting better and better year after year! In this episode, Violet and I reveal our sexual journey, sharing candid tips on maintaining erotic energy and emotional connection. Learn why safety, vulnerability, and shared responsibility are the keys to unlocking unparalleled pleasure and deepening your bond. Whether you're struggling with sexual challenges or looking to elevate your passion, this episode can revolutionize your approach to intimacy and reignite the spark in your relationship.
Whether you're newlyweds or celebrating decades together, this episode is your roadmap to unprecedented sexual connection.
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- Short on time? You can also experience 12 Epic Dates at your own pace and reignite the fire of your relationship
In this episode, my wife Violet and I dive deep into the raw, real, and often messy side of relationships by shIn this episode, my wife Violet and I dive deep into the raw, real, and often messy side of relationships by sharing our three biggest fights and lessons from them. From trust issues and emotional dysregulation to financial stress and fertility struggles, we explore how rupture and repair are essential for growth in any partnership. We also introduce our new programs, Evolutionary Couples & 12 Epic Dates, designed to help couples build stronger, more resilient relationships through skill-building, emotional connection, and polarity. Tune in for an honest conversation about the challenges of love, and how to navigate them with grace, tools, and support.
Find out more about Evolutionary Couples which starts October 19th and has Early Bird until October 7th, and sign up for 12 Epic Dates anytime at https://evolutionarycouples.us
If you only had about 2 hours a week to spend on your relationship, how could you use that time most wisely?
The truth is relationships can be incredibly challenging, especially in today’s fast-paced world where it can be hard to prioritize the relationship. Even when partners deeply love each other, they may face difficulties in maintaining passion, resolving conflicts, and growing together over the long term. Many couples are stuck in unfulfilling patterns, feeling more like roommates than lovers, or constantly bickering over small issues. Without the right tools and support, it’s easy for relationships to stagnate or deteriorate over time.
My wife Violet and I created the Evolutionary Couples program as a structured experience to help couples revitalize their relationships and foster deeper connection. Through 12 carefully designed “epic dates,” couples are guided to explore key areas like communication, intimacy, finances, and shared purpose. The journey provides a mix of themed dates addressing practical issues and polarity dates to reignite passion and play. With options for self-paced learning or a more immersive experience with coaching and community support, couples can choose the level of engagement that works for them. By dedicating just two hours a week to intentional relationship building, partners can develop new skills, heal old wounds, and cultivate a thriving, passionate partnership that just keeps improving over time!
Learn more and sign up at evolutionarycouples.us
In this episode, I challenge the negative perception of “nice guys” in the men’s work world. The truth is, being a nice guy is an evolutionary leap in masculinity as it brings online kindness and sensitivity in men. It’s not about killing or getting rid of our nice guy, but instead is all about integrating him along with our power.
In this episode I explore reveals three game-changing types of fluidity – nervous system, emotional, and polarity – that can skyrocket your personal growth and relationships. Learn how mastering these skills can help you effortlessly navigate stress, emotions, and social dynamics.
Join Dr. Luke Adler and I in this powerful episode in the Heart of Shadow podcast series as we sit down with three courageous men—Michael, Sean, and Shawn—who have undergone the transformative Heart of Shadow program. They open up about their journeys – sharing how the program helped them confront and heal deep-seated anger, fear, and past traumas.
The discussion delves into the unique and powerful process of shadow work, highlighting the profound impact it has had on their relationships, businesses, and personal lives. With candid reflections and inspiring insights, this episode is a must-listen for anyone curious about the life-changing potential of facing one’s inner shadows.
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In this episode, I’m again joined by my co-facilitator Dr. Luke Adler, a Chinese medicine doctor who’s led over 50,000 healing sessions. We discuss the intersection of Chinese medicine and shadow work and delve into the holistic approach of Chinese medicine and its connection to mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being. We highlight how physiology and visceral sensations play a vital role in understanding vitality, and how shadow work in essence is how we digest our lives.
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In this episode, I explore the difference between temporary state experiences and permanent stage transformations, emphasizing that while retreats, workshops, and spiritual practices can provide powerful glimpses into new ways of being, the real work lies in integrating these experiences into daily life through consistent effort, community support, and structural changes that facilitate lasting growth.
That all said, join me for a live event at my Labor Day Men’s Retreat or in the Heart of Shadow program.
In this episode, I delve into the unique pain of debt - be it financial, health, or emotional. I share my personal experiences with credit card debt, weight loss struggles, and tackling years of accumulated clutter to highlight a common thread: the pain and paralysis of facing overwhelming debts in various aspects of life.
I explore the challenging journey of paying off these "debts," highlighting the tension between instant awareness and the time required for real change. Drawing on insights from Ken Wilber, I discuss the difference between "waking up" (instant awareness) and "growing up" (gradual change over time).
The episode touches on:
- The allure of quick fixes and why they often fail
- The paradox of change happening only in the moment, yet requiring consistent effort over time
- The importance of community support in overcoming debt and achieving lasting transformation
I conclude by emphasizing the need for sustained awareness, consistent action, and the value of supportive accountability in navigating the pain of debt and achieving meaningful life changes.
In this episode, I am joined by Luke Adler as we discuss the raw, unfiltered reality of personal growth and shadow work. We pull back the curtain on our own ongoing struggles with maintaining sexual vitality, showing up for our families, and confronting shame in long-term relationships. We explore how neglecting our core energies can lead to disconnection and unfulfilling patterns. We also dive into the transformative power of leaning into difficult conversations and prioritizing aliveness in our partnerships and parenting.
Join our next cohort of The Heart of Shadow at www.heartofshadow.com
In this episode, I tackle a critical mistake in personal development: setting ambitious goals without addressing our nervous system’s state. I challenge the “mind over matter” approach, introducing the counterintuitive concept of regulate first and action will follow. By prioritizing nervous system regulation and fostering genuine connection, we create a foundation of safety that enables meaningful risk-taking and sustained growth.
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Almost every man I work with struggles with either mental or emotional rumination throughout their life. In this episode, I explore 3 strategies to help you stop ruminating as a man.
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In this episode of the Heart of Shadow series, Luke Adler and I delve into the nuanced discussion of why men often fear coming forward emotionally, especially in intimate relationships. We explore the idea that while there is a growing expectation for men to be more vulnerable and emotional, there can be a disconnect when men express their emotions and their partners don’t respond as expected. We go deep into the changing societal norms around masculinity and the struggles we men encounter as we strive to express our emotions authentically.
In this episode, I break down the subtle but important difference between waiting for permission from the outside to take action, and the much deeper capacity to rest in consciousness until we get a clear signal inside ourselves that it’s time to act.
This episode explores the concept of masculine leadership via creating shared reality. Shared reality involves mutual understanding and connection, minimizing conflict that arises from a lack of being on the same page. This leadership is about bringing structure, clarity, and context to situations, making implicit things explicit that creates safety along the way.
In this episode, I further bust the lone wolf myth, highlighting how the “pick yourself up by your bootstraps” mentality isn’t all we think it to be, and why men grow best in a collective.
In this episode of the Heart of Shadow podcast series, Luke Adler and I talk about the habit of men using ejaculation for self-regulation, and how a powerful alternative is to step more into our experience via checking in with a men's group.
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In this episode, I explore the important difference between integrity and congruence, and how crucially important it is to understand the distinction for nice guys.
This episode is short and sweet and about the important reframe of focusing on a better, not easier life, and how connection and community are the most powerful ingredients for that to happen.
In this episode, I chat with my Heart of Shadow co-facilitator Luke Adler about the common experience of men wanting to understand everything and how that's often a way to resist feeling. We go deep into how this can lead to staying in the realm of the mind and avoiding emotional connection. We explore the power of moving from the head to the heart and body to come into our full power as men.
Inspired by one of my favorite Pearl Jam songs, in this episode I talk about what it means to "Do the Evolution", and its significance in personal growth and development. Drawing from developmental theory, I explore what it means to "do the work" through the lens of subject-object relations and how our awareness evolves allowing us to "see" more and more and thus make different choices in life.
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Every intimate relationship will cross a critical, often make-or-break threshold moment in which the two foundational components of polarity and intimacy invert. Tune in to this episode to learn about this important milestone, what often goes wrong, and what tools can support your relationship in thriving beyond this moment.
In this episode, I'm excited to welcome friend and healer David Romero to delve into the healing potentials of psychedelic medicines. David shares his fascinating journey from the military to yoga, mental health, and psychedelic healing. He shares the importance of developing a relationship with the medicines, how they aren't a magical cure-all, the power of mindset and setting when working with psychedelics, and the many benefits of micro-dosing psilocybin.
ABOUT DAVID
David Romero has walked a wonderfully rich life path, including serving a decade in the U.S. Air Force as an acquisitions program manager launching space assets, working in the heart of western medicine as a medical device sales with a focus on orthopedic spine and pain management, and becoming a certified yoga teacher with over 1000 hours of training. Romero's journey has seen him share his insights on grand stages like TEDx, foster mindfulness at prestigious institutions such as the University of Southern California, and lead transformative international yoga retreats. His commitment extends beyond the mat, with nearly a decade spent exploring plant medicines, positioning him as a wise guide toward heart-mind harmony and present-moment awareness.
ig: @theyogidr
In this episode, I delve into the transformative power of shifting our mindset from 'moving away' to 'moving toward', a crucial pivot that can radically alter our lives. I shine a light on our common male tendency to dodge emotional discomfort and the profound healing that unfolds when we bravely face our feelings. I then explore the vital role of vision in guiding our life's trajectory and the unparalleled support men's groups offer us along the way. In short, this episode is a call for us to embrace our emotions, foster a clear vision for our future, and explore the supportive spaces that empower us men to heal, grow, and realize our full potential.
In this episode I explore a lesser-known aspect of the saying "If it doesn't challenge you, it doesn't change you" that can be particularly hard for men!
In this episode, I explore the significance of having a safe place to return to after facing setbacks or feelings of shame in life, and how the power of a men's group and community can be the key to moving beyond our shame by giving us a place to consciously come back to relationship.
In this episode, I'm once again joined by Luke Adler to explore the sense of hurt and disconnection that many men are experiencing today, and how having the courage to feel is the medicine we desperately need as men to drop below all the surface-level forces that try to pull us away from our discomfort, whether it be relationally, politically, cultural, or from dopamine overloads. This is one of our widest-ranging discussions yet in the Heart of Shadow series and is a genuine call to all men in pain that there is a way forward.
Find out more about the Heart of Shadow men's group and program at heartofshadow.com
In this episode, I delve into the topics of purpose and passion, two crucial aspects of a man's life. Contrary to a lot of the talk in the world of men's work, finding our purpose is often a lot less straightforward than we think, and not always as simple as "do what you love" or "follow your passion". Whether you love what you do or are yearning for something more when it comes to your purpose in the world, this episode will point the way toward cultivating more meaning and fulfillment in your work.
In this episode of the Heart of Shadow series, Luke Adler and I discuss the impact of shadow work on long-term relationships. We share our own experiences of how shadow work has transformed our marriages and how important the work has been to maintain vitality and prevent stagnation. We explore the need for personal responsibility and owning one's pain and wounding in order to avoid projecting it onto our intimate relationship. In short, having a place to explore our shadow in the safety of a group of men is a potent way to keep our intimate relationship alive and healthy.
Learn more about the Heart of Shadow men's group and retreat at https://heartofshadow.com
Anger and aggression are NOT the same thing, and the most dangerous men are aggressive men who aren't aware of their anger.
In this episode I break down the all-important difference between anger and aggression, and talk about the three keys to embodying healthy anger in the world, and why our planet needs a whole lot more men doing it.
Want a safe container to explore your anger in? Check out the Heart of Shadow men's group and retreat.
In this episode, my co-host Luke Adler and I talk about why us men can be so hard on themselves. We delve into the roots of this harshness and scrutinize its impact on overall health and happiness. Drawing from personal experiences and knowledge gained from our work with men, we provide viable strategies to navigate through the maze of self-criticism and work towards a healthier self-perception. We talk about the strength that lies in vulnerability and the transformative magic of shadow work, and how truly healing a powerful group can be.
Learn more about the Heart of Shadow men's group and join our next cohort at evolutionary.men/heartofshadow
[00:00:38] Being hard on ourselves.
[00:03:26] Men's culture and criticism.
[00:08:14] Self-deprecation and its impacts.
[00:10:49] Our slow-to-update self-concept.
[00:15:41] The importance of group continuity.
[00:19:57] Celebrating vulnerability and self-deprecation.
[00:22:32] The power of vulnerability.
[00:25:31] Feedback and self-talk.
[00:27:50] Fear of being a failure.
[00:31:35] Rewiring the inner critic.
[00:38:07] Healing the inner critic.
In this episode, I explore 'Nice Guy Syndrome', its origins, and how to overcome it. Using Dr. Gabor Mate's idea of two primary human needs: attachment and authenticity, I explore how men often suppress their authentic selves to secure attachment, leading to Nice Guy Syndrome. I then discuss how reclaiming authenticity is one of the most powerful uses of men's groups, and how doing so can lead to healthier relationships and improved wellbeing all around for men.
Join the Heart of Shadow men's group now to reclaim your authenticity and power.
In this episode, Luke Adler joins me once more to explore an issue many men experience - stagnation, or feeling stuck. Men in particular often suffer from emotional stagnation, manifesting as feelings of despair, depression, or emotional numbness - all of which can have serious physical and spiritual consequences.
Luke enlightens us with his knowledge of Chinese medicine, explaining how emotional stagnation can disrupt bodily systems, promoting inflammation and potential loss of function. We also consider the societal construct of masculinity and the unique challenge men face in redefining their roles. Our shared goal is to shape a new cultural norm where men can connect, support each other, and break free of outdated masculine norms like "the macho man" or "the nice guy."
Experience the masculine vortex by joining our next Heart of Shadow cohort at evolutionary.men/heartofshadow
Discover the key to shifting your patterns and attracting better intimate partners and deeper connections through the power of inner work.
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In this episode, I discuss two important concepts related to men and masculinity: precarious manhood and the man box. The first refers to the sociocultural belief that manhood is a fragile status that needs to be constantly defended, while the latter is a societal construct that dictates norms and expectations for men. These concepts contribute to systemic issues that create many challenges for men. Replacing these implicit and unconscious expectations with more helpful ones is part of the work of the men's work movement right now.
- 00:31 Understanding Precarious Manhood
- 01:52 Exploring the Tenets of Precarious Manhood
- 07:42 The Man Box: A Societal Construct
- 09:07 The Impact of the Man Box on Men's Mental Health
- 11:56 The Role of Men's Groups and Rituals in Breaking Free from the Man Box
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In this episode, I once again explore loneliness among men and highlight the detrimental health risks associated with lacking meaningful connections. Then I break down the difference between loneliness and social isolation, the importance of the quality of our connections over the quantity, and how men's groups can provide the depth of connection so many men are missing.
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In this episode, I explore one of the main ways men often keep themselves stuck. Many of us will default to soothing ourselves when in distress instead of focusing on actual healing. Tune in to learn the difference between the temporary relief of soothing and the long-term change that comes from healing.
In this episode, discover the importance of doing your 'emotional work' as a man in order to thrive in life. Our emotions can greatly impact our stress levels, health, decision-making capabilities, and how much others trust us. This is a topic you won't want to miss.
In this episode I break down three of the big reasons I see men show up in men's group and step onto the path of men's work.
Long time listeners know that I believe every man should be in a men's group, and in this episode I dive into one of the many reasons why: they can help us get clear about what we need and want in our lives and relationships.
Attention and Tension are two terms that are deeply related when it comes to what makes the masculine inside all of us tick. The ability to consciously wield our attention is a great power and easier to do when we hold less tension in our bodies.
In this episode I unpack a common phrase: "Well, I had a pretty good childhood" to explore what lies beneath this common phrase, why it's so commonly used by nice guys, and how our childhood can be the key to our growth as adults.
An all to easy trap on the path of growth is to get hyper focused on enlightenment, which if we're not careful can become just another way to get away from one's experience. Join me and my fellow Heart of Shadow facilitator Luke Adler as we talk about what's possible when we focus on the path of intimacy instead. As a men's guide, I'm more and more convinced most men need to be focused on waking down, far more than waking up.Join us for our next The Heart of Shadow men's group and retreat at www.heartofshadow.com
One of the many gifts of shadow work is how it can help us crack open to the deepest parts of ourselves, bringing us into more intimate contact with all of who we are. In this episode, Luke and I explore what it means to crack open and bring our buried shadow elements to the surface to be met with awareness and light. Are you ready to dive into shadow work and experience the power of a men's group? Join us now at heartofshadow.com WATCH THIS EPISODE:Click the icon below to listen.
One of the many gifts of shadow work is how it can help us crack open to the deepest parts of ourselves, bringing us into more intimate contact with all of who we are. In this episode, Luke and I explore what it means to crack open and bring our buried shadow elements to the surface to be met with awareness and light.
Are you ready to dive into shadow work and experience the power of a men's group? Join us now at heartofshadow.com
Dating can be an exhausting enterprise for many men and can feel like a neverending battle that can get very disheartening, especially if we lose sight of the true purpose of dating. Tune in to this episode to find out how to reclaim your power as a man so that you know your purpose in dating.
Want to take your relationship to the next level as a man? One of the more important changes you make has to do with how you receive feedback or hurt from a partner when they've been impacted by you in a negative way. It's easy for us guys to "lawyer up" in these moments instead of showing up first as a lover. Listen in to learn more about being a lover, not a lawyer!Click the icon below to listen.
Want to take your relationship to the next level as a man? One of the more important changes you make has to do with how you receive feedback or hurt from a partner when they've been impacted by you in a negative way. It's easy for us guys to "lawyer up" in these moments instead of showing up first as a lover. Listen in to learn more about being a lover, not a lawyer!
Sexuality is one of the most powerful energies on the planet and one that can easily cause great harm if not matched with consciousness. We're living in a time when we men have the opportunity to take charge of our sexual charge and use it generatively rather than destructively.
In this episode of our Heart of Shadow series, my co-facilitator Luke Adler and I talk about how important it is for men to consciously work with sexuality to keep it out of the shadow so we can wield it as the creative force it's meant to be.
Sexuality is one of the many topics Luke and I cover in our program The Heart of Shadow, our 9-week virtual experience with a live retreat halfway through. If you're a man who's ready to transform, learn more and sign up here.
When it comes to any kind of meaningful practice, the aim is to train at the edges of our capacity and stretch ourselves so that we can live with more ease back in the middle. Tune in to find out how this shows up in all facets of men's work, be it physical, emotional, or spiritual practice.
Ever had one of those moments or days, when you just FEEL OFF, be it stressed, depressed, anxious, or unmotivated? Listen to this episode as I explore the three keys you can use to regain your center and come back to yourself in a grounded and regulated way.
Men's work is a powerful way to put these combined keys into action, so check out my upcoming 3.5 day retreat over Labor Day if you'd like to experience it firsthand. (https://evolutionary.men/retreat)
Leading with vulnerability is one of the most potent things I coach men on and it creates some unique challenges for us as men. Tune in to learn what I mean by vulnerability, what it often means when our partners say they want us to be more vulnerable, how we can bring it as masculine leaders, and what exactly makes it a significant act of leadership.
Want to dive in and do some men's work in person? Check out my Labor Day Men's Work Retreat, and our upcoming fall cohort of The Heart of Shadow program/retreat.
I’m again thrilled to be joined by Luke Adler, my friend and co-facilitator of The Heart of Shadow program. In this discussion, we share about…
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There is a crisis of male loneliness, and it started long before COVID. In this episode, I chat with friend and co-facilitator Luke Adler about…
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Dabble in men’s work long enough and you’ll hear the term “holding space”. In this episode, find out what holding the moment actually means, and…Click the icon below to listen.
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Tune in to learn how a potent piece of philosophy can dispel the myth that women only want to be with jerky guys.Click the icon below to listen.
Joseph Campbell’s work on the Hero’s Journey provides an incredible roadmap for what so many men are missing and yearning for these days. Men’s Work and in-person retreats can fill that gap. When you hear the call, it’s crucial to leave your ordinary world and find out what you’re made of with other men. Learn Read the full article...Click the icon below to listen.
One of the most powerful shifts men can make in relationship is to be the kind of man your partner can push INTO, and not just push over. Tune in to learn about the power of welcoming it all.Click the icon below to listen.
If you want to be a man of integrity in this day and age it’s absolutely crucial you have other men in your life that can tune you up and call you on your bullshit.Click the icon below to listen.
There is one thing that is utter kryptonite for men, causing us enormous suffering and pain with little to no upside that so many of us do all the time. It often starts at a biological level and can encompass our entire lives. Tune in to learn what this process is, and what to do Read the full article...Click the icon below to listen.
As a guide and men’s group facilitator, time and time again I’ve seen men make a crucial mistake when they’re suffering or in pain that often only makes things worse. Tune in to learn about one of the most powerful shifts you can make as a man to do things differently when everything is telling Read the full article...Click the icon below to listen.
There are three questions I’ve discovered that every man needs to be able to answer to live a meaningful life of freedom, service, and integrity. Knowing the answers can guide our relationships, careers, health, and so much more.Click the icon below to listen.
Want to know the single most important thing that will lead you to experience amazing sex? Tune in and learn how to please her in bed as Sex Researcher and Men’s Dating Coach Melanie Curtin reveals what she’s learned from surveying thousands of women about what works, and doesn’t work in the bedroom. Listen to Read the full article...Click the icon below to listen.
Learn about the power of embodiment to create more attraction and lead more effectively when it comes to your sex and love life.Click the icon below to listen.
In this episode I pose a question for men to consider seriously – who do you have in your life that holds the totality of your story with you? Listen in to learn why it can be so powerful to have others know and see you and the journey you’ve been on.Click the icon below to listen.
A big trap for a lot of us guys into men’s work and personal growth and development is the belief that growth follows a straight path. Tune in to learn how growth really works, and how to prepare yourself for the different seasons along the way.Click the icon below to listen.
There’s a huge difference between a woman feeling safe with a man and TRUSTING that man. Tune in to learn about one of the big confusions many nice guys make.Click the icon below to listen.
There is an incredible amount of power on the other side of shame, and it all starts with how we relate to it ourselves.Click the icon below to listen.
With porn being more present in most men’s lives than ever before – today’s episode explores the impact it can have on men. You can hear more about my personal journey with porn addiction https://evolutionary.men/blog/the-costs-of-porn-addiction/.Click the icon below to listen.