Doorknob Comments: Recent Episodes
Dr. Fara White & Dr. Grant Brenner
Doorknob Comments was named for a phenomenon that sometimes happens at the end of a therapy session, when the patient may mention something important and riddled with conflict, right as you’re walking out the door. Equal parts frustrating and enlightening, it surfaces key issues which may--or may not!-- get addressed anytime soon.
In this episode, Grant and Fara have a conversation with Dr. Robin Stern, the Co-Founder and Senior Advisor for the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence. Dr. Stern is also the author of The Gaslight Effect and the host of The Gaslight Effect Podcast. They delve into Dr. Stern's journey in exploring gaslighting, the common tactics used by gaslighters in relationships, the role of shame and isolation for victims, and much more. Drawing from her 30 years of experience in treating individuals, couples, and families, Dr. Stern offers valuable insights into gaslighting dynamics and the steps to reclaiming one's narrative.
We hope you enjoy!
Key Takeaways
The longer you’re in a relationship where you’re second-guessing your reality and accommodating the other, the harder it is to leave.
Many times shame can begin to creep into gaslighting relationships. Victims might be ashamed to bring their gaslighters behavior up to family and friends, and can further isolate themselves.
In This Episode
[0:00] Introduction
[1:05] Episode Overview
[02:30] Robin’s Journey to Exploring Gaslighting
[10:10] Red Flags and Disavowal
[17:15] ‘Stage 3’ of Gaslighting
[18:40] Masquerading Gaslighting in Relationships
[22:10] The Role of Isolation and Shame
[24:30] Reclaiming Reality and Pushing Back
[27:40] Gaslighting vs. Other Forms of Dysfunctional Communication
[30:40] Navigating Behavioral Intention
[33:55] What about Gaslighters?
[35:40] Closing Thoughts
Resources and Links
Doorknob Comments
https://www.doorknobcomments.com/
Dr. Robin Stern
https://robinstern.com/
https://howwefeel.org/
Dr. Fara White
https://www.farawhitemd.com/
Dr. Grant Brenner
https://www.granthbrennermd.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/
In this episode, Grant and Fara discuss the recent criticism that therapy has faced following the release of several publications, particularly "The Therapist Who Hated Me" by Michael Bacon. They delve into the dynamics of the therapist-patient relationship in various therapeutic approaches and the potential challenges that may arise. They emphasize that there is no universal solution for therapy and stress the importance of evaluating treatment options to find what works best for each individual.
We hope you find this discussion insightful and enjoyable.
Key Takeaways
- No treatment is perfect, it is important to evaluate what's happening in therapy. Negative therapeutic experiences are valid, but hopefully shouldn't be the only experiences
- "Therapy is first and foremost meant to help facilitate development in a good direction"
In This Episode
- [0:00] Introduction
- [01:10] Episode Overview
- [04:50] "The Therapist Who Hated Me" and Melanie Klein
- [08:05] Exploring the Therapist/Patient Relationship
- [13:30] Finding the Right Fit, the Right Treatment
- [17:30] Boom in Popularity for Therapy
- [25:00] Different Definitions of Mental Health Care
- [27:15] Countertransference of a Therapist
- [34:30] Negative Experiences in Therapy
- [37:00] Evaluating Your Treatment
Resources and LinksDoorknob Comments
- https://www.doorknobcomments.com/
Dr. Fara White
- https://www.farawhitemd.com/
Dr. Grant Brenner
- https://www.granthbrennermd.com/
- https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/
In this podcast episode, George Grombacher, a seasoned finance professional, joins psychiatrists Fara and Grant to explore the psychological dimensions of financial behavior. They discuss how childhood experiences and observed behaviors from adults shape our financial habits, whether we lean towards saving or spending. Grombacher emphasizes the need to confront limiting beliefs about money, drawing parallels between people's discomfort with finances and math. The conversation touches on the impact of trauma on self-care, including financial health, and the importance of designing a life aligned with personal values. Grombacher's journey from a corporate environment to a more creative financial advisory role illustrates the transformative power of addressing one's relationship with money.
Key Takeaways
- Childhood experiences and observed financial habits shape our approach to money and views on success and relationships.
- "Doorknob comments" can reveal deep-seated feelings and attitudes towards money.
- Emotional barriers and negative beliefs about money can hinder financial success.
- Overcoming financial challenges can improve self-confidence and discipline, impacting overall well-being.
- Financial self-care is crucial, especially for those with past traumas
- Money management is about achieving a balance in life, not just in finances
In This Episode:
- [[01:03] Introduction to George Grombacher
- [02:10] George’s background and philosophy
- [04:37] Negative beliefs about money
- [05:40] George’s career journey
- [07:40] Connection and collaboration
- [09:21] Financial challenges and seeking help
- [12:39] Common financial mistakes and debt
- [16:14] Designing the life you want
- [17:48] Wealth accumulation and financial mindset
- [21:10] Balancing present enjoyment and future planning
- [22:37] The evolution of money personalities
- [25:47] Intergenerational transmission of trauma
- [27:09] Understanding limiting beliefs
- [28:55] Impact of childhood experiences on financial habits
- [32:20] Psychological aspects of financial decision-making
- [35:03] Positive spillover effect of financial empowerment
- [37:12] Seeking mental health support for financial well-being
- [38:22] Financial success and personal responsibility
Resources and Links
Doorknob Comments
- https://www.doorknobcomments.com/
George Grombacher
- https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgegrombacher/
- https://moneyalignmentacademy.com/about-us/
Dr. Fara White
- https://www.farawhitemd.com/
Dr. Grant Brenner
- https://www.granthbrennermd.com/
- https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/
Join hosts Fara and Grant on the latest Doorknob Comments podcast episode, where they delve into the intricate dynamics shaping the therapist-client relationship. They dissect the subtleties of this bond, emphasizing its profound impact on therapy efficacy. Ethical dilemmas like confidentiality and intervention in client danger are explored, alongside the significance of self-awareness and transparent communication. The episode navigates the therapist's role in addressing risk behaviors and physical health, while tackling challenges posed by clients with trauma or depression. The paramount importance of prioritizing client well-being resonates throughout the discussion.
P.S. Remember, therapy is a journey we take together, and every step reveals new horizons. Let's discover them together. Tune in now and let's continue the conversation.
Key Takeaways
- Dynamics of the therapeutic relationship
- Ethical considerations: confidentiality, intervention
- Client autonomy and decision-making empowerment
- Potential pitfalls of therapist self-disclosure
- Addressing unspoken and unconscious aspects of therapy
Resources and Links
Doorknob Comments
- https://www.doorknobcomments.com/
Dr. Fara White
- https://www.farawhitemd.com/
Dr. Grant Brenner
- https://www.granthbrennermd.com/
- https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/
Tune in to the latest episode of the Doorknob Comments podcast, where hosts Fara and Grant take a candid dive into the intricate world of love and dating, perfectly timed for the approaching Valentine's Day. From dissecting the dynamics of romantic relationships to scrutinizing the impact of social media on our perceptions of love, they leave no stone unturned. Drawing parallels from the relationships of celebrities like Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce, they shed light on the societal pressures to find "the one."
But amidst the age-old topics, they bring a refreshing perspective, discussing the fascinating psychological concept of "doorknob comments" and advocating for personal growth and self-acceptance. With insights from therapists, they provide practical advice that listeners can implement in their own lives.
Join Fara and Grant as they navigate through the complexities of love and relationships, offering a blend of wisdom, humor, and relatability that is sure to resonate with audiences.
Key Takeaways
- Societal norms often create unrealistic relationship expectations.
- Establishing personal boundaries is essential in the face of external pressures.
- Social media tends to portray idealized relationships, distorting individual expectations.
- Understanding empirical findings on relationships can provide valuable insights.
- Celebrity relationship narratives may inadvertently influence personal relationship views.
- Effective communication, trust, respect, and mutual growth are cornerstones of healthy relationships.
- The phenomenon of "doorknob comments" highlights the challenge of expressing deep emotions and the stigma attached to singlehood.
In This Episode:
- [00:00:00] Understanding our needs
- [00:01:11] Romance and dating
- [00:02:21] Occupational hazards of therapy
- [00:04:07] Impact of social media on relationships
- [00:20:37] Core features of romantic relationships
- [00:22:46] Responsive Dating
- [00:24:02] Love Bombing and Authenticity
- [00:27:36] Pacing and Mutual Needs
- [00:35:10] Communication and Relationship Dynamics
- [00:37:18] Openness and Growth
Resources and Links
Doorknob Comments
- https://www.doorknobcomments.com/
Dr. Fara White
- https://www.farawhitemd.com/
Dr. Grant Brenner
- https://www.granthbrennermd.com/
- https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/
Join Fara and Grant on the latest episode of the Doorknob Comments podcast as they dive deep into the beautiful complexities of intercultural marriage. Le like to think that love knows no borders, but what about the hurdles that come with actually making it work? Together, they explore the ups and downs of love across cultures, from navigating emotional expressions to dealing with societal pressures and language barriers.
In this heartfelt conversation, Fara and Grant emphasize the importance of open communication and understanding each other's cultural backgrounds. They share personal anecdotes and insights, highlighting the need for creating a shared cultural space within the relationship.
And it's not just about the couples – they also touch on the broader societal challenges that impact all relationships. From there, they discuss the role of therapy in helping couples navigate these cultural complexities and build stronger bonds.
Ultimately, this episode is a reminder of the power of empathy, negotiation, and respect in fostering healthy and thriving intercultural partnerships. Tune in for heartfelt stories and valuable advice that will resonate with anyone in love, regardless of cultural differences.
Key Takeaways
- Intercultural marriages are Increasing due to globalization
- Partners from different cultural backgrounds may experience and express emotions differently
- Intercultural couples may face societal resistance or familial pressures
- Effective communication about cultural values and expressions is vital
- Couples can create a "third culture" within their relationship
- The Journey of Intercultural marriage Is both challenging and enriching
In This Episode:
- [01:05] Intercultural marriage and its rising prevalence
- [02:30] Challenges in intercultural relationships
- [10:16] Impact of cultural values on relationships
- [17:24] How cultural backgrounds impact the expression of emotions
- [23:42] US cultural perspective on friendship vs Russian and Lithuanian cultures.
- [26:03] Family and societal attitudes in Intercultural relationships
- [33:30] Creating a third culture in intercultural relationships
- [36:12] Evidence-informed relationship practice
Resources and Links
Doorknob Comments
- https://www.doorknobcomments.com/
Dr. Fara White
- https://www.farawhitemd.com/
Dr. Grant Brenner
- https://www.granthbrennermd.com/
- https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/
In this episode of the Doorknob Comments podcast, we are excited to sit down with Dr. Edward Shapiro, a distinguished author and psychoanalyst.
During our conversation, we discuss his book "Finding a Place to Stand.” We explore the significance of family dynamics, institutional roles, and citizenship. He highlights the value of self-reflection and the challenges of leadership in a polarized society. Dr. Shapiro also shares a story illustrating the importance of action in confrontational situations. His book serves as a testament to the value of this learning process and is a recommended read for anyone interested in leadership, group relations, and active citizenship.
Key Takeaways
- Engaged citizenship is vital for a cohesive society and involves active listening and open-mindedness.
- Group relations conferences provide insights into organizational dynamics and the role of authority.
- Leadership requires courage to act in challenging situations, as illustrated by a social worker's story.
- Learning from others and self-reflection enhance leadership.
- Asking “How are they right?” rather than “How am I right?” is a paradigm shift for effective listening and collaboration.
In This Episode:
- [04:30] Experiences and journey to Austin Riggs
- [14:30] Therapy and its role in family dynamics
- [19:49] The family as an institution
- [22:39] The book's idea in addressing societal issues
- [24:28] The concept of good citizenship
- [30:10] Group relations conferences and their impact
- [45:19] "Why do I have to do this?"
Notable Quotes
- [12:47] “People resist impatient people who are labeled by others as one of the problems of family dynamics.” - Ed
- [19:49] "The family is an institution and like any institution, it has a mission on behalf of society, and that mission is development - Ed
- [38:32] "I don't know that everybody wants to be a leader. Many people are afraid of leadership because of what's happened in their families around taking up leadership roles. We always bring our family role into our organization.” - Ed
Resources and LinksDoorknob Comments
- https://www.doorknobcomments.com/
Dr. Edward Shapiro
- https://www.edwardrshapiro.com/
- Finding a Place to Stand
Dr. Fara White
- https://www.farawhitemd.com/
Dr. Grant Brenner
- https://www.granthbrennermd.com/
- https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/
In this episode of the Doorknob Comments podcast, we are thrilled to be joined by psychoanalyst and author Johanna Dobrich.
In our conversation, Johanna discusses her book "Working with Survivor Siblings" and her research into the unique challenges faced by individuals who grew up with chronically or severely disabled siblings. The conversation examines the profound impact these sibling relationships have on personal development, the influence of parental dynamics, and the necessity for therapists to understand these complex peer relations. The episode also addresses the effects of medical trauma on families, highlighting the importance of increased awareness and therapeutic support for all members affected.
Key Takeaways
- Sibling relationships significantly influence personal development, especially when one grows up with a sibling who has chronic or severe disabilities.
- Survivor siblings face unique challenges, including balancing their own needs with the demands of their sibling's disability.
- Therapeutic approaches should be more nuanced and tailored to address the specific needs of survivor siblings.
- The resilience and strength of survivor siblings highlight the human spirit's capacity to cope with and adapt to challenging circumstances.
In This Episode:
- [01:46] Understanding sibling relationships/sibling rivalry
- [14:43] Defining survivor siblings
- [16:34] Impact of chronic medical conditions
- [22:20] Sharing life with a sibling
- [26:00] Siblings who disrupt family dynamics/troublemaker siblings
- [30:08] Transmission of trauma and attachment
- [33:24]The importance of children feeling delighted by their parents
Resources and Links
Doorknob Comments
- https://www.doorknobcomments.com/
Johanna Dobrich
- https://www.johannadobrich.com/
- https://www.linkedin.com/in/johannadobrich/
- Working with Survivor Siblings in Psychoanalysis: Ability and Disability in Clinical Process
Dr. Fara White
- https://www.farawhitemd.com/
Dr. Grant Brenner
- https://www.granthbrennermd.com/
- https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/
Have you considered how diabetes medication might affect your mental health and body image? While managing diabetes, it's essential to recognize the potential psychiatric implications of these medications.
In this episode of the Doorknob Comments podcast, Fara and Grant discuss the psychiatric effects of a new class of diabetes medications. They examine research on these drugs, their role in mental health treatment, and the influence of social media and celebrity endorsements. Additionally, they address the medications' impact on weight loss, mental health, body image, and the challenges related to misuse and strict regulations.
Key Takeaways
- Diabetes medications have shown potential psychiatric benefits, suggesting new treatment possibilities for mental health disorders.
- Social media and celebrity endorsements can both positively and negatively influence the public's perception and use of these medications.
- The use of diabetes medications for weight loss raises concerns about mental health and body image, highlighting the need for a balanced approach to weight management.
- Prescribing controlled substances presents a challenge for healthcare providers, who must navigate between preventing abuse and ensuring patient access to necessary treatments.
- The interconnection of medication, mental health, and societal factors is complex and requires ongoing research and responsible communication.
Notable Quotes
- [02:40] "My review of the psychiatric literature is that it's equivocal; there's no strong evidence that these medications will be helpful with anxiety and depression." - Grant
- [10:20] "I think it's really important whenever we start any medicine to think about what role we want this to have in our lives. Being tethered to a medicine when we don't know what it's going to look like 20 or 30 years from now is not something that I would recommend." - Fara
- [25:05] “A lot of medications that turned out to be good for people were designed for one thing. And then we noticed that they helped with another thing.” - Grant
- [31:05] "We will never know what the effects are of not attending to a baby's needs, but I see people every day who are struggling because they didn't have their needs met." - Fara
Resources and LinksDoorknob Comments
- https://www.doorknobcomments.com/
Dr. Fara White
- https://www.farawhitemd.com/
Dr. Grant Brenner
- https://www.granthbrennermd.com/
- https://www.linkedin.com/in/grant-h-brenner-md-dfapa/
Disclaimer
Please note that we offer insights for educational purposes, not as medical advice. For diabetes or related concerns, consult healthcare professionals for personalized guidance. This podcast is no substitute for professional medical expertise. Enjoy responsibly.
In this episode, Grant and Fara discuss the topic of masochism. They explore what it means, how it shows up in our social media habits during difficult times, its connection to "doom scrolling", and strategies for coping with our potentially masochistic tendencies as we prioritize our mental health.
We hope you enjoy.
In this episode, Fara and Grant talk about the endings and transitions of therapy. They talk about why saying goodbye in therapy can be tough for both therapists and patients, highlighting the significant importance of the process. They share practical advice on how to navigate the challenges of therapeutic termination, providing an approach to closure that suits individual needs. It's an insightful conversation that encourages reflection on the various aspects of concluding therapy.
We hope you enjoy.
In today's episode, Fara and Grant have a conversation with Dr. Jonathan DePierro, an Associate Professor of Psychiatry at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai, and the Associate Director of the Center for Stress, Resilience and Personal Growth. Dr. DePierro talks with Fara and Grant about the research his team conducts on resilience, and how we might more productively think about resilience in our everyday lives through practice.
We hope you enjoy!
Today, Grant and Fara are joined by Keith Wasserman, who is a producer and a major figure in the film "Dear Ani". In this episode, they have a conversation with Keith about his life, the process of making the film, and his relationship with and understanding of his experiences of mania. "Dear Ani" is a journey that explores music, art, and mania. We hope you enjoy listening to this episode of the podcast.
You can follow Keith on Instagram at @the_deep_wink.
You can also follow us on Instagram at @doorknobcomments, and check out our TikTok account at doorknobcommentspodcast. Don't forget to visit our website too!
In this episode, Grant and Fara talk about something that psychoanalysts call enactment. They talk about the positive and traumatic experiences that shape enactments, and how we can use these moments for learning and therapeutic benefit—not only during therapy but also in everyday life. We hope you enjoy.
In this episode, Grant and Fara talk about transitioning into winter. They reflect on some of the physical and mental changes that might happen during the winter season, and how we can better react to these changes: seeking help, understanding and listening to our bodies, and more.
We hope you enjoy.
In today's episode, Fara and Grant explore the concept of authenticity. They interrogate what it means to be truly authentic, what people strive for when they aim to live authentically, and how we socially make sense of and understand what we call authentic behavior.
We hope you enjoy.
In this episode, Fara and Grant are joined by Dan Rocker, the President of the International Paruresis Association, and the Co-Director of the Shy Bladder Center. Dan Rocker is an expert on Paruresis (significant urinary hesitation and inhibition) and breaks down some myths and misconceptions about the social phobia. We hope you enjoy!
Follow us on Instagram at @doorknobcomments, on TikTok at doorknobcomments, and visit our website DoorknobComments.com.
In this episode, Fara and Grant talk about the way narratives shape self-identity. They discuss the constraints of certain personal narratives, the effects of trauma on narrative construction, and how altering our perspective on these narratives might offer us more mental and emotional clarity.
We hope you enjoy.
In this episode, Grant and Fara discuss intrusive thinking. What it may or may not mean, and ways to make sense of these thoughts. They touch on personal experiences with intrusive thoughts, research on the phenomenon, and pigeons!
We hope you enjoy it.
In this episode, Fara and Grant talk about ways that people make, grow, and end friendships. They discuss the anxiety around reaching out to new people, the difficult conversations that can come with holding friends accountable, and how we might part ways when we feel wronged in existing friendships.
Today, Grant and Fara talk about navigating those early stages of talking about a relationship: defining the relationship, having a conversation about where things stand, and communicating what we mean to the other person. Are we dating? Netflix-N-Chilling? Just hanging out? Should we even put a label on it? It can be tricky, but hopefully, this episode provides useful tips to help navigate these sometimes sticky situations.
In this episode, Grant and Fara talk about Therapy Speak outside of the clinical setting and explore the potential benefits. Join in to hear more about the interactional setting of the therapy session and what might be lost in translating this therapy speak to everyday life.
In today's episode, we're going to talk about the trials and tribulations facing people in the middle and upper middle classes as they try to work out what is meaningful in life. Is it about worldly success, money, and the schools you go to? Is it about how you live and how spend your time and with whom?
We'll be exploring the television series, Fleishman Is in Trouble, as an entry point for our conversation.
Today we cover what we see as some of the noise and disinformation around mental health treatment. We explore social media's benefits and pitfalls as a space for learning about potential remedies: from giving patients greater autonomy and information, to unsafe substance usage with potentially harmful outcomes.
We hope you enjoy it and take something away.
Today we talk all about motivation and New Year's resolutions. The episode was recorded early in January, but the conversation may be even more important today. Throughout the episode, try to reflect on some of the goals you may have set for yourself this year. And if you’re struggling with some of these goals, how might you reframe your motivations in a healthy manner? Thinking about the benefits can help respark motivation! And remember to give yourself credit for the progress you’ve made!
In this episode, Fara and Grant discuss recent mental health initiatives in NYC for hospitalizing unhoused people, school policies that may be harmful or stigmatizing to students, and the foundations of stigma and the implications for individuals and society.
Welcome Back to Season 2 of Doorknob Comments! Fara and Grant talk about taking time off and coming back strong.
As we wrap up season 1 of Doorknob Comments, Fara and Grant discuss the importance of taking calculated breaks as an act of self compassion and care.
Dr. Niobe Way talks about her research showing the crucial importance of friendship for boys. Friendship is healthy and normal for boys even though they may be taught as they get older to play cool. There are many simple things parents and educators can do to alleviate the problem.
Find more here:
https://steinhardt.nyu.edu/people/niobe-way
https://www.tedmed.com/speakers/show?id=729990
https://twitter.com/niobe_way
Fara and Grant discuss Terror Management Theory, which helps us understand how we cope individually and collectively when fears of death are heightened, and ways people can cope with mortality and help others around them do so as well.
In this episode, co-hosts Fara and Grant talk about their experience as psychiatrists who practice therapy. Listen in as we discuss important themes including the difference between treating illness and pursuing personal development, how to balance clinical care with coaching and self-help, and other key considerations in the complex, evolving landscape of wellness and self-care.
Fara and Grant speak with Jacob Appel, psychiatrist, author, and bioethicist, about important ways that the therapist-patient relationships may feel like a friendship (or just feel confusing). Well-intentioned actions may have unintended consequences when they cross the boundaries between clinician and friend. Dr. Appel helps give us clarity on how to manage when these moments come up, and advises us on how to preserve the treatment and act in the best interest of the patient.
Find more on Dr. Appel here:
https://www.mountsinai.org/profiles/jacob-m-appel
Fara and Grant host a wide-ranging conversation about the many things to think about as kids are returning to school as COVID continues to linger, ranging from complex emotional considerations, to social factors, to the political context, and beyond.
Fara and Grant speak with therapist and psychoanalytic candidate-in-training Hannah Weiss about therapy during the pandemic, video and in-person, our relationships with our bodies, and the future of psychoanalysis.
Read more:
Hannah Weiss: https://hannahweiss.org/index.html
Chicago Psychoanalytic Institute: https://chicagoanalysis.org
Fara and Grant discuss reasons it can be so hard to change even when we know what needs to happen, ways to become more aware when we don't know, and ways we can connect our dots to catalyze growth and change.
Fara and Grant discuss common ways we approach challenges in personal and professional relationships. Using real-world examples, we bring in key concepts including attachment style, common pitfalls including ways we self-sabotage, and tips for successfully navigating tough situations.
Read more:
https://medium.com/beingwell/exploitable-me-how-we-leave-ourselves-open-to-people-who-use-others-9dfef7c43747
Fara and Grant speak with psychologist and psychoanalyst Leanne Domash about her new book Imagination, Creativity and Spirituality in Psychotherapy: Welcome to Wonderland (Psyche and Soul). Join us for a lively and pragmatic conversation about unleashing creativity in the pursuit of authenticity.
Find Dr. Domash here:
https://www.leannedomash.com
Dr. Domash's book: https://www.amazon.com/Imagination-Creativity-Spirituality-Psychotherapy-Wonderland-ebook/dp/B08HSMX7CD
Fara, Liz and Grant discuss relationships, hardship, and the crucial role of humour and empathy in overcoming challenges on the path to healing.
Find Liz here:
https://lizmiele.com
https://www.instagram.com/lizmiele/
https://www.youtube.com/user/LizMiele
https://twitter.com/lizmiele
https://www.facebook.com/lizmielecomedy
Guardian Article referenced by Liz:
https://www.theguardian.com/science/2021/may/24/research-reveals-why-some-find-the-sound-of-others-eating-so-irritating
Fara and Grant discuss the purpose of dependency, how it can be both problematic and useful, and work through ways of building mutuality through healthy interdependence. We also look at counterdependency, codependency, and the pattern of shared dysfunction called "irrelationship".
Fara and Grant talk about how people set the ground rules for relationships. Boundaries define areas which are off-limits, areas where we can freely interact, and the gray zone where effective communication is critical. With insightful examples, good humor and guidelines for how to navigate tricky situations, this episode is useful and engaging.
Grant and Fara break down some basic tenets of therapy, and give listeners some insight about the inner workings of the process. On this episode, we explore how we can make the most of the time with our therapists as a path to growth and change.
Fara and Grant discuss examples of how and why people drive each other "crazy", and what we can do about it.
Read more here:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/experimentations/202103/the-effort-drive-the-other-person-crazy
Join Fara and Grant with Dr. Terry Marks-Tarlow, psychologist, scientist, artist, author, and yogini for an eye-opening discussion of how we can understand the deep interconnections between people through the lens of fractal mathematics and psychology. Fractals show how nature and the mind is structured, giving us in sight into who we are and how we move through the world.
Read more at:
www.markstarlow.com
Fara and Grant discuss how to approach parenting by valuing the child's perspective, keeping firm boundaries and exploring one's own inner child to build a healthy, open connection with one's kids to last a lifetime.
We speak with Andrew "Doc" Berry, a seasoned psychologist who specializes in working with combat veterans and first responders. We talk with him about what it is really like for veterans, and how we can best recognize and respond to the needs of those who offer great sacrifice and service.
In this episode Fara and Grant discuss doorknob comments in more detail, the meaningful comments people make just as they are leaving a meeting when there won't be time to discuss them, and their implications for therapy.
We hope you enjoy this fascinating conversation with Nashville-based reproductive endocrinologist Dr. Meggie Smith. She is everything you’d want your doctor to be: open, honest and transparent. We talk about the issues surrounding family planning and how we can best make use of the latest medical advances.
On this episode of Doorknob Comments, Fara and Grant talk with Srini Pillay, a remarkable coach, author and business person who is adept at opening up minds, fostering creativity and unhinging people in the most delightful and loving way. Learn about his book Tinker, Dabble, Doodle, Try, including simple ways to optimize your creative problem-solving skills, and join in our lively and mind-altering conversation.
Learn more from Srini Pillay here:
https://twitter.com/srinipillay and https://twitter.com/ReulayOasis
https://www.instagram.com/drsrinipillay/
https://www.facebook.com/SriniPillayMD
https://www.facebook.com/NBGCorporate
https://www.facebook.com/NeuroBusinessGroup
https://www.linkedin.com/in/drsrinipillay/
Grant and Fara discuss the different models of personality and break down some of the major traits. Where do these traits come from? More importantly- can they be changed?
We are joined by this talented producer, singer-songwriter, and native New-Yorker for a discussion on how to design a fulfilling career and a supportive peer group alongside.
Grant and Fara speak to an old friend who's leaving entertainment after nearly a decade of managing actors, and hear about why shifting to a career in therapy makes a lot of sense.
Grant and Fara discuss how to let go of (and heal from!) a pretty rough year. We touch on what it means to reflect during this time and think about ways that 2021 can be better for us- on both an individual and collective level.
Vanessa is a multi-talented artist with a lot to say about violence towards women. We hear how she uses performance to shine the spotlight on difficult topics.
Fara and Grant offer up strategies for coping with difficult family dynamics, accepting and embracing "the new normal", and making the most out of the season this year.
Dr. Sidor is an esteemed colleague, psychiatrist, and educator who joins Grant and Fara to discuss the science of suffering and the importance of a good team.
Find more about his work here: https://www.sweetinstitute.com/
Dr. Harvey White, psychiatrist and family therapist talks to us about how to stay connected (but not too connected!) to our families during COVID-19. Managing stress, isolation and uncertainty is challenging but made easier with these sound suggestions.
We are honored to be joined by psychiatrist Uma Naidoo, a trained chef and leader in the field of nutritional psychiatry. Here, she graciously talks about some of the most important parts of the mind-gut connection.
Drs. Brenner and White talk about everything that is going on nowadays - COVID, global events, the US election, and how to navigate the great sense of uncertainty, even dread, with which so many are confronted.
Sleep expert Josh Tal, PhD joins us to discuss some common sleep issues and treatment options for insomnia. We were delighted to hear about his boot camp approach, which incorporates CBT-I to effectively improve sleepless nights.
Grant and Fara discuss the many reasons that people break up and get back together. We explore how self-concept clarity plays into our relationship habits.
Fara and Grant discuss key elements of traditional insight-oriented talk therapy, focusing on what to consider when searching for a well-suited therapist.
Mark Borg joins us to reflect on years of co-authorship with Grant Brenner and Danny Berry. Hear different perspectives on the same experience to learn how the "Three Amigos" have produced two books together, with a third on the way!
Johanna Dobrich talks to us about dissociation, disabled siblings, and how to navigate complicated family dynamics and challenging life experiences.
Mark O’Connell explains how acting techniques can enrich the experience of insight-oriented psychotherapy. His methods help us understand the importance of finding our most authentic selves inside the therapy session, as well as outside of it.
Find more on Mark O'Connell here:
http://markoconnelltherapist.com/
Drs. White and Brenner discuss self-care, compassion, and the promises and challenges of cultivating a deep and fulfilling relationship with yourself. Treat yourself right and others will treat you right, too.
Join us for a unique conversation between Drs. White and Appel. Hear from this thought leader as he asks tough questions, and unpacks some of the complexities of human decision-making.
Find more on Jacob Appel here: https://www.mountsinai.org/profiles/jacob-m-appel
Lisa Levy is a performing artist and comedian with her irreverent radio show “Dr. Lisa Gives a Shit”. Here we speak with her about the trials and tribulations of a marketing pro turned artist, performer, and comedian as she discusses her experiences with various therapists over the years and how she uses her own experience to help her live audience.
Find more on Lisa Levy here: https://radiofreebrooklyn.com/show/dr-lisa-gives-a-shit/
Cognitive Behavior Therapy is a straightforward approach to addressing underlying problems by seeking to change how we think about ourselves. Learn how CBT works from expert therapist Dr. Gluhoski.
Find more on Vicki Gluhoski, PhD here: http://www.vickigluhoskiphd.com/
Welcome to Doorknob Comments! Doorknob Comments was named for a phenomenon that sometimes happens at the end of a therapy session, when the patient may mention something important and riddled with conflict, right as you’re walking out the door. Equal parts frustrating and enlightening, it surfaces key issues which may--or may not!-- get addressed anytime soon.