RealTalk with Ola: Recent Episodes
Bròdá Olá
In this episode I share thoughts on what feedback is and how you can take it and use to fuel your growth. When you begin to see feedback as a gift, you'll learn to find a use for the opinion that is given to you as feedback.
We may never know how the mindset supports our desires or fights against, but we can examine how those who have gone ahead have positioned their minds to win. I see how the mindset can be a catapult to a higher level, or an obstacle.
'Fear not' doesn't mean that fear would leave you be. Rather, it means to find a way to do it regardless. "Just do it" by Nike is a catchy phrase until it comes to doing. Yet, anyone can do. Surprisingly, the world is full of smart people being ruled over by those with less intelligence but probably with more daring-ability.
Today is a good day, as any, to do and do and do of those things you've archived because of your perception that fear lives in your attic.
In this episode of The RealTalk Podcast, myself and my guest, Sering Jobe, talk about mental health and therapy from an African perspective. Sering shares his story to finding healing from trauma experienced in his journey from childhood to adulthood as an African man. In this open conversation on mental health, he talks about issues that affect a number of people of African descent, and the tipping point for him to finding wellness for himself.
The conversation on Mental Health never stops and wewill keep calling attention to it. One by one, we believe we would be able to change the narrative of the African from one where parents are mostly emotionally unavailable to one where parents are intentional with their children because they understand that their legacy is embedded in the gift oflove and light they give to their children and from their children's children.
We are probably only as strong as the communities we belong too. And because we tend to go to where we are seen and/or heard, the communities we belong to are usually the places where we find 'acceptance'. Unfortunately, this is not always what happens. Because we want to be accepted, many will go to where they percieve that they are being seen. Even when the seeing doesn't do any good, being seen anyhow to them is better than not being seen at all.
In this conversation with Tunmise Kuku, we talk about community - which really is bout the relationships that we have with the different individuals in our space.
I had fun with this conversation, I hope that you also have a good time listening.
In this episode I take a dive into the introverted/extraverted conversation.
Nature and Nurture shapes who we become. One, to a large degree, we have very little influence over. The other, we can do a reborn at it if we are unsatisfied with the outcome of its designs that we see in us. This is the case of our attitude; the single, probably, most important factor involved in the final outcome of our being.
While we make a lot of noise about our character/attitude, and some even using it as an excuse or a crutch, the fact remains that we can choose to either accept what we see or acknowledge it and choose and work something better.
Knowing who we are, why we behave how we do and what we can do to be better, can change the trajectory of our lives and put us on a pedestal far beyond what our background would have ever thought possible.
There really can't be fathers without men, hence the quality of fatherhood is dependent on the quality of manhood.
If there ever is an issue that we often play hide and seek with, I think this has to be it - "Boy-child, Manhood and Fatherhood". Maybe, there actually is a lot of talk around it, maybe we have just grown accustomed to a lot of words without seeing the men becoming better. Or maybe, it has become like the national anthem - a must to sing at such functions but not one that the words are allowed to dictate the terms of living as a citizen.
Boys become young men and soon they become fathers, and more often than not, they leave a trail of wickedness and suffering their wake. Why not? Broken people hurt people can never be truer than in the life of a man with deep rooted unresolved anger against fathers. This becomes their position of offence or defence against any authority, constituted or other.
That we may live lives in peace, I urge that you as a man, or you as a relative to a man, begin to see the man not as they are in this state of pain and brokenness, but as they can be, a state of wholeness. I believe that this is possible and I hope that you listen, dear man, and take the next step to finding liberation for the little bird inside of you that wants to sing to a new tune of freedom.
What exactly is the value of the people who play/work in your space? What’s your value in their space? Ouch! At some point, all of us humans will do the soul searching and decide if the people we are doing life with it are it or how much waste it was of those times we could have walked away to some places better but didn’t. Better early, I believe, to move when you can easily deal with the weight of those spaces than much later in life, wishing you had chosen you before all else.What sayest thou?
No one, almost, will tell you that they have to deal with envy or jealousy because that is usually a good place for the jury to congregate and delclare them guilty of wrong doing. However, sharing liquor and asun or vibing at the hairdressers or just 'catching cruise' are some of the most natural settings for codedly displaying envy and jealousy.
In this episode I talk about this two culprit and how I shoot at them when they begin to fly over my head before they 'shit on me head' or worse build a nest on it.
I hope you find it interesting and instructive as much as I think that you would.
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"We making money this year" by Jaywon is a song that comes to mind. While this episode is not necesarily about money, I can imagine that a lot of the listeners are finding their path in life and money and the expressions we make it from are important to our lives and living.
In this episode, I sit with Mayokun for a brief but interesting conversation on starting a business, guarding his mind space and the relationships and support system that helps to keep in going.
I enjoyed having this conversion and I am sure you will enjoy listening to it.
In this podcast, I share my opinions on expectations - having them and holding each other to a mutually agreed level.
The struggle can be very real. It's me also having to deal with the emotional baggages of the year and all that.
Peace can be as elusive as emotional fitness. The way you look forward to being whole physically is the same way, and much more, to chase after emotional wholeness. A sound mind is a strong weapon of the body. Don't lose your mind as you chase after living your life.
Saying “I understand” or “I feel you” when your actions don’t show any empathy to the other party, is not only discomforting it’s also quite insensitive to the pain they are going through.
There really is nothing new underneath the sky, I agree. The new things are insights that happen for us that allows us go beyond what we thought was doable or even ready to do.
In this episode, Okewa shares simple strategies and insights in to how she made over 3 million Naira from her side hustle in 1 year. This episode is loaded. Don't try to get all the gems, just get one and squeeze it till it works for you.
Okewa Owoeye is the Founder of Okewa Hair Products. She is on instagram @okewahaircare
In this episode I share a few random thoughts that go on in my mind and talk about the most recent important event in my life.
In this episode I’m a little philosophical about life. I think everyone should do some thinking so that living life would be more a more mindful thing.
Probably the most misunderstood generation the world has seen yet. Not exactly their fault though. With the amount of information out there and the way they consume content, they are quick to let you know what they think even if the thinking is far from 'ok'. The Generation Z will appear to have it all figured,don't be fooled. Their search for answers also seems to surpass that of any other generation that mankind has studied.
Here, you'll learn the secret key to tuning these folks. Let's get it on.
More than you will ever know, the things that you allow to go through your ears make a lot of impression on your mind. In this episode, you'll hear how words helped and is helping to shape the lives of two gentlemen.
Guard your heart with all diligence for out of it flows the direction that your life will follow.
Most people, and they usually are the extroverted ones, think that introverted people are not fun. All lies. Anyone who isn’t fun just chooses to be not fun. In this episode I share a little of what it is like being introverted.
In this episode of The RealTalk podcast, I talk about how I’m working on keeping myself and my space positive. It’s a forever process as far as I’m concerned and I’m certain that something that’s working for me today may be changed or revamped in months or even weeks, if not days, to come.
Cheers to a fabulous month✌🏽🎊
In this episode of The RealTalk Podcast, I share some inside gist of my life - my love for food; good food!
We move is one phrase that seems to be a recent invention that basically just indicates moving on. Well, wish it was as easy as that to move on when we are hurt. Moving on however we must.
Here, in this episode of The RealTalk Podcast, I share how I’m still learning to deal with the shitty things that fellow humans do to me.
Words are powerful, no doubt. Just how powerful? we usually never comprehend. I got some gist for you on this podcast, something to give some thoughts to.
Happy New Year!!!
One of the flaws of our humanity has got to be the desire to always want to please, to be liked by all. Well, it comes with a price. Sometimes the price is a bit of our soul.
Can we go through life some other way?
In this podcast, I share my opinion on how to cross the divide and land safely on the other side.
Sometimes, how we choose to see things are often more critical than what we see. Most of us will look at an object or scene and mostly agree on what we see. What differentiates us most often is how we interpreted what we have seen, the 'how we see'. It is a case of half empty vs half full or in as may be in the case of two mountain climbers, one saying "I am too far from the top of the mountain and I am tired I can't continue" and another saying "I am a considerable distance from where I started from the bottom of the mountain, I might as well get on to the top". How do you see?
The last couple of days has seen a number of young people standing for something beautiful, yet it has also brought to the fore a lot of hideous things that has been happening that need to stop. Through all these, we need to be able to stay sane while fighting for what we believe.
In this conversation with Michael Oyebade, a teenager and business person, you would come to see why giving the young people a chance is very well a need of our nation. I'm sure you'll find this quite interesting.
Most of us have had a very poor understanding of what mental health is and the impact it has on society. The more I look at the issues of mental health, the more I feel that it is not getting the right amount of attention it requires. Heal the mind and you are almost certain to keep a fit body, my opinion.
Smurf, as she prefers to be called, and I have a lively and insightful conversation on the issue of mental health. Don't be let your mind go, guard it carefully for out it flows the direction of your life.
Most of us have had a very poor understanding of what mental health is and the impact it has on society. The more I look at the issues of mental health, the more I feel that it is not getting the right amount of attention it requires. Heal the mind and you are almost certain to keep a fit body, my opinion.
Smurf, as she prefers to be called, and I have a lively and insightful conversation on the issue of mental health. Don't be let your mind go, guard it carefully for out it flows the direction of your life.
Rufai Aliyu speaks on real issues affecting the Northern part of Nigeria and the prevailing paradigm amongst people there. A long conversation, but I promise you it is an interesting one.
Some conversation this was. Adeyemi Adesanya joins me on this episode and shares his life and some of his very expensive mistakes with us. This is not about those mistakes, this is about how he is turning the mess he found himself in into some useful message for his world.
A gift of perspective - day 2 with Sola Akinyemi, the founder of Apata Tv. In this conversation, his first-ever interview, he speaks about work, moving to The States, starting life freshly out there, failing and then picking himself up to do something new. Lessons upon lessons here. My take away was 'just do it'; don't let the fear of living in a safe zone rob you off of a life that could very well be amazing.
A gift of perspective episode that will tune your mind to little things that become huge things. In this conversation with Muheez Busari, an astute administrator, he talks about how he's used everything within his reach, most especially time, to his advantage.
When does faith stop being just a head knowledge thing? How do we involve the heart also?
Some conversations you just don't want to end. In this conversation with Ruth Oluwatoni, we scrape beyond the surface of what really is this faith thing to how to get some, and grow it.
Amazing how playing a game can reinforce lessons that are critical in life. Listen to what I learnt playing Candy Crush.
If you've ever felt that you deserved something because of some reason, you probably have allowed that sense of entitlement to have its way at some point. To live freely, I've started deleting every single form of entitlement that's robbed me of my freedom to be me and gradually finding sweet peace.
Say what ye?
Parenting requires so much more skills than we think we need. There can and should be no excuse to not wanting and working to be a better parent than you were parented.
We all have to decide how we want others to treat us and begin to treat ourselves as such.
Growing up is incumbent on all of us; how we choose to grow, is the only difference between us all.
That we still don't appreciate our mental health when it is in a good state is an issue that we have to continual deal with till we understand that the mental state of our health is not second class to the physical state and the spiritual state of our health.
We all have emotions, but we don't all feel them. Like chimneys we must allow the smoke/fumes to have an outlet so that it doesn't become toxic in the system, same thing with our emotions.
In this episode, Justice Nefe, software developer and a bit more, shares his story and how he has been able to build a life for himself. A must listen for anyone.
We all have something we can do fabulously well, unfortunately between growing up and adulting most of us lost it. Can we go back and find that thing that we had that made us happy and satisfied with us being different?
A man's gift, a woman's gift, makes room for him/her and gives them access to greater opportunities...
Communication really has got to be the soul of relationships in every way we can think. Getting this right might be all that you need for the next level.
Becoming more of who we were designed to be is the best appreciation we can give to the universe for being here.
Self-awareness is not a cliche and neither should it be treated as a fad. Understanding oneself is the beginning of life!
We usually think that anger is the problem, I'm not a shrink so I'm not delving into the intricacies of the mind, but what if anger is just a symptom?
As you figure 'you' out, begin to note the things that people say or do, or even the smell around that causes you a strong emotional reaction of fear, shock, anger, or worry. Hopefully, removing yourself from these things or removing them from you, will promote a better mental health.