Love Talk with Nicola Beer: Recent Episodes
NICOLA BEER
A show dedicated to providing practical strategies, compassionate guidance and ongoing support for individuals and couples looking to create more love in their life and relationships. Discover innovative ways to heal from the past, make positive changes and learn secrets to create more passion, happiness and love in your life today. Get more free resources at www.purepeacecoaching.com or read these episodes on our blog www.purepeacecoaching.com/blog
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Insomnia, Anxiety, Depression, Low Self-Confidence
Are common when a relationship breaks down or ends in divorce
Wondering what the future will hold and
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Marriage and divorce support
Everyone comes into relationships with a past. This past can bring with it unresolved issues that can affect the health of your current relationships. When our partner says or does something we may get triggered and over react. Bad experiences can make us more suspicious, anxious, jealous, careful and judgmental. I know I have been there. Perhaps you have too? Today I am going to outline 6 steps to help you, so you can start freeing yourself right now. Blog http://www.purepeacecoaching.com/when-past-hurt-affects-your-current-relationship
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I'm currently working with a couple in the U.S who are struggling to communicate and connect. They like many couples thought that when their baby was born they would be closer than ever. Instead 18 months later, they feel frustrated with one another and like they are drifting apart.
Sadly this is a common occurrence, in fact the highest risk of divorce is when children are between 1-5 years old. I've outlined some of the most common problems in this episode and some tips gained from my experience working with couples to save their marriage and supporting individuals through divorce, who shared what drove them to it. I've also included strategies from other relationship experts, so you have a range of ways to strengthen your relationship after children are born.
If you like this you may like my free e-book "7 Secrets to Saving Your Marriage" http://www.purepeacecoaching.com/services-4/marriagecounseling
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You can waste your food. You can waste your money. You can waste your clothes...
But wasting time is a whole other ball game. I'm not referring to the hour you spent in traffic or 2 hours you spent watching a trashy movie. I am talking about months and years of wasted time people stay in unhappy relationships. Where they either hope things will get better over time or don't want to give up on time they have already invested.
One of biggest regrets I hear time and time again is YEARS of wasted time. In this episode you will here 5 tips to really let go of regret and move forward. To get my free e-book "7 Secrets To Save Your Marriage" click here http://www.purepeacecoaching.com/services-4/marriagecounseling/
Whether you or your partners hobby is triathlon's, golf, video gaming, sailing, football... many marriages suffer from a hobby that one passionately embraces and the other sees as nothing but an intrusion. If not dealt with, the built up frustration and resentment can lead to explosive rows or distance and withdrawal.
So what can you do? Inside this episode you will get my 8 Keys to not let hobbies come between you. So they help the marriage instead of hurt it. Nicola Beer - International Relationship Coach - Get your free copy of my e-book here "7 secrets to saving your marriage" www.purepeacecoaching.com/services-4/m…gecounseling
When expectations are not being met on a consistent basis in a marriage it can often lead to disappointment, destruction and sometimes divorce. As our expectations of others, our relationships, our self and how we expect live our life directly impact our happiness it is important to know if our expectations are realistic or too high.
Knowing whether your expectations are too high or not, is a tricky one. Here I share 7 questions to know if your expectations are too high. P.S If you like this you may also like my free e-book http://www.purepeacecoaching.com/services-4/marriagecounseling/
It's extremely challenging to live with a negative person. They may have depression or they may be habitually negative and cannot see how miserable they are making themselves and the toxic effect they are having on others. They may even mock you for being positive or naive when you see the good in things and others. If you have already tried talking to them, asked if they need support and have been met with more negativity this article is for you. I will share with you my 5 secrets to keep you feeling good and your energy high, when living with a negative person. For more free resources visit www.purepeacecoaching.com
Nicola Beer - International Relationship Coach - Marriage I Infidelity I Divorce Support
During relationship challenges and divorce it is common to either overeat or not eat and neither aids recovery. To change your life "All It Takes Is Good Habits" - I borrowed this line from Carol Holditch founder of Good Habits UAE, it’s the slogan for her business which has helped hundreds of men and women change their eating and lifestyle habits. Her philosophy is that switching to good habits should be easy, fun and for life. Curious about how she does that, I jumped at the opportunity to interview her and find out more... Listen to the exclusive interview in this episode.
P.S Carole knows the struggles of dealing with weight management she lost 42 lbs 25years ago and has maintained that weigh loss. Which is why I wanted us to have access to her wisdom and tips. As to create a new beginning it takes a tremendous amount of energy and energy comes from our food. For more free resources visit www.purepeacecoaching.com
When couples come to me saying that "we're only together for the children" I can't help but feel concerned for their future happiness and marriage and like to suggest an alternative plan.
You see when couples think, say and believe that there is nothing else but their children holding them together, they destroy their connection. As it implies they have willingly agreed to a life of misery, accepting something they wish they could avoid.
If you have begun to associate your spouse and the marriage, with being negative, unhappy and trapped, unfortunately that is what you are likely to experience and this will typically grow worse over time not get better unless you change something...
In this episode you will learn what to do if you only believe your together for the children. From my heart to yours Nicola
Nicola Beer International Relationship Coach www.purepeacecoaching.com
When will I stop feeling guilty? Is a question that comes up frequently in my private online sessions. Typically it's where after much deliberation and consideration someone has decided to leave their marriage and cannot shake off the breakup and divorce guilt.
Some worry about how their ex has taken the news, others are consumed with fears about the impact it will have on their children. Then there are those who feel guilty for causing pain, shame and disrespect to their parents and extended family.
Often they will say to me:
"I know I've done the right thing, it would be far worse for all concerned if I stayed for guilt alone... BUT
When will I stop feeling guilty?" Here my reply and the 7 truths you need to know about Guilt to free yourself.
From my heart to yours Nicola,
Nicola Beer has more free resources to help save marriages or get through divorce just visit www.purepeacecoaching.com
Insecurity is a feeling of general unease that is triggered by perceiving oneself to be inferior in some way or vulnerable. Listening to our inner critic can do serious damage to our self-esteem. It can cause us to feel desperate toward our partner or pull back, get angry and reject them in fear of being rejected. It can also exaggerate feelings of jealousy or possessiveness or leave us feeling unworthy. It's perfectly natural to feel insecure from time to time, especially after an affair or break up. However if you are plagued by it, where you feel like it is getting in your way of getting things done... then I have 8 ways to overcome them listed below. For more free resources check out www.purepeacecoaching.com
Nicola Beer - International Relationship Coach - Infidelity Expert
This episode is for single men and women, looking for love. Want to know why so many people struggle with finding incredible relationships? No… it’s not because there aren’t any good women or men left out there, or because they are in the wrong city, profession, or wrong time in their life. And it’s definitely not because the kind of love and relationship they want doesn’t exist. The 3 main reasons people struggle will be explained in this episode...as well as some tips to help you set yourself up to win when it comes to finding love. to read this article visit my blog www.purepeacecoaching.com/blog
What is Your Reason for Being Together? Do you have a Purpose for sharing a Life with one Another? Gottman in his book "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work" that has sold over a million copies worldwide, states that in order to have a successful marriage we must create a shared meaning. I have found this extremely useful in bringing couples closer together and want to share this principle with you. Even if you are not in a relationship right now you may find it useful, as it helps to be clear on your values, vision, expectations, when considering potential partners. The more aware you are of what matters most to you, the more likely you will be able to attract the right match and quickly filter out those that won't make you happy long-term. For more resources check out www.purepeacecoaching.com Nicola Beer International Relationship Coach
Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems—problems at work, in relationships, and in the overall quality of life. Holding on to our Anger is not good either, it can be damaging for our health. I know I grew up with a lot of repressed anger, during my childhood & parents divorce. I buried my frustration and later got ill from it. Anger management coaching can free you from this. For more tips visit www.purepeacecoaching.com
So when does drinking become a problem in a marriage? Is it when the drinker recognizes they have a dependency? Is it when the non-drinker says they have a problem? Is it when the drinking is interfering with the relationship?
Alcohol consumption in my coaching has been linked to an increase in angry outbursts, arguments and aggression. It also blamed or used as an excuse for infidelity and being out of control. Others mention how drinking has caused; their sex life to dwindle, a lack of interest in family activities and depression.
Is drinking yours or your spouses drinking interfering with your relationship? Or is someone close to you going through this? You may find this episode useful.
For more free e-books www.purepeacecoaching.com
7 Secrets to Saving your Marriage
10 steps to Creating a New Life after Divorce
Protect Children through Divorce
Nicola Beer
What Do Men Need from Relationships? Well certainly the worst advice you can ever receive when it comes to meeting a man's needs is "treat them mean, keep them keen!" According to Dr Harley's research many of us fall in love with our partners partly because of the compliments they give us. Some of us just love to be told we are appreciated. attractive and admired for being a good worker, lover, parent etc. More men than women in his research had admiration as one of their top 5 needs. Listen to the other top 5 needs for men in this episode... From my heart to yours, Nicola P.S If you liked this you might like my FREE E-BOOKS 7 Secrets To Save Your Marriage - http://www.purepeacecoaching.com/services-4/marriagecounseling/ 7 Steps to Create a New Life After Breakup & Divorce - http://www.purepeacecoaching.com/manifesting-a-new-life/
Ever wonder why talking about your relationship issues can sometimes make you feel more annoyed, fed up or isolated than before you started? At the center of many relationship problems is the Shame-Fear dynamic Once you recognize this and follow the steps to overcome it, you like thousands of others can solve previously unresolvable relationship problems.
Inspired by the work of Love and Stonsy in their book: “How to save your marriage without talking about it.” I’ve added this principle to my marriage coaching packages and seen great results. I’m super excited to be sharing it with you. Let this be as helpful to you as it has been for the couples I’ve worked with…
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Whilst it is not good to deny or suppress your anger, lashing out is not a good for you and your relationships either. Anger is not a bad thing, it’s how you manage it that is crucial for a healthy life and fulfilling, happy relationships.
Nicola Beer – International Relationship Coach www.purepeacecoaching.com
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Angry outbursts can destroy love in relationships and holding Anger in can lead to built up resentment and emotional shut down, the hiding of feelings. In this episode you will learn what happens when we don’t process our anger in a healthy way and the 4 reasons we keep on using anger when it doesn’t serve us long-term. … Be sure to check out Anger Management Steps in Relationships and Dealing with a Loved Ones anger coming up next… Nicola Beer International Relationship Coach www.purepeacecoaching.com
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During the training I learnt about the different types of relationship needs individuals have. I became aware that many individuals like me, focused on giving their partner more of what they want and not what their partner needs. The problem with this was clear. When you do this you IGNORE your lover’s needs. Men and Women in my coaching would find despite all their best efforts their partner failed to respond, reciprocate or appreciate them. I noticed couples where it was obvious that they deeply loved and cared for one another just weren’t connecting. In this episode discover Women’s top two needs and men’s top two needs in the survey and why this is important to know… Nicola Beer International Relationship & Divorce Coach www.purepeacecoaching.com
Last week I received an email from a lady who asked me to warn others about loving too much. It was in response to my article loving through hard times, she felt she had done that too much. Which got me thinking can you really “love too much?” Hear my opinion from working with hundreds of individuals and couples in their relationships. Also learn about the questions that may be better to ask yourself if you think you love too much: 1, Do you love, respect, value and care for yourself enough? 2, Are you / they loving or smothering? 3, Are you / they score-keeping?
For more free resources visit www.purepeacecoaching.com for e-books
Receive Love to Transform Your Love Life
Did you know that the amount of love you feel inside and have in your life, isn’t determine by how much love you get from your spouse, partner, children or others, it’s directly proportionate to:
How much love you believe you deserve to have.
Whether you feel good enough to receive it.
How well you treat and value yourself.
In this episode you will learn my 5 step process to changing unhealthy beliefs so you can receive and feel more loved.
Nicola Beer, International relationship coach www.purepeacecoaching.com
Expressing your feelings is key to overcoming Gridlock and withdrawal. Successful couples in marriages, express themselves a solid relationship is based on emotional honesty. Working with couples, I recognized that not sharing is unhealthy as unresolved annoyances, anger, doubts, hurts, fester and leave you to build up resentment and frustration, which can lead to explosion, angry outbursts or further withdrawal and shut down. The shut down and emotional dishonesty leaves a couple grid locked unable to solve problems which can lead to separate lives and affairs. Here I explain what you can do if this is resonating with you. It’s from our lessons we can get true peace. Peace with the past, peace in the now and peace for our futures. For more free resources and free e-books visit www.purepeacecoaching.com Nicola Beer – Pure Peace – International Marriage and Divorce Coach
Dealing with infidelity can be a huge challenge for a marriage. Unfortunately, cheating can come at any point in a relationship, whether newly wed or married for years. In this episode I will give a brief overview for the Cheated Spouse and the Cheater of some tips to heal and move forward. Nicola Beer - International Relationship Coach www.purepeacecoaching.com
What do you do if you’re sick and tired of your partner’s behavior? Perhaps you used to be closer, but sometimes you find you simply don’t want to be around them or that things they do really wind you up. It can be hard to give your love.
What do you do if you are co-parenting with a difficult ex but need to keep the peace for your children?
Today I will share with you my 5 steps to loving through hard times.
As let’s face it it’s far easier to love someone when they are fulfilling our relationships needs, showing us love and respect in the way we want to receive it. Whether that’s affection, words of admiration, through physical touch, giving us gifts or doing things for us. When they show us they for care and appreciate us, it feels good. Doesn’t it?
Not so easy is loving someone when we feel they are not saying, doing and behaving how we wish they would. Sometimes this could be to a disagreement on a topic, like child rearing, finances, family interference, putting work or friends before the relationship or their actions…
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Your inner critic can destroy a relationship just as much as criticism from a spouse can. As it blocks love from being received, it stops appreciation from being accepted and it prevents love & care from being felt within.
It’s ideal for individuals who:
Negatively analyze themselves
Berate themselves over past events
Have to be best or perfect at everything
Fail to recognize or celebrate their achievements
In this episode you will learn how to erase your inner critic to transform your relationship or if you are single attract someone new and great to you.
My program Receive Love to Transform Your Relationship addresses this http://www.purepeacecoaching.com/relationshipgoals
It was my most popular program last year, as it looks at healing the relationship starting from within. Nicola Beer - International Relationship Coach
Jealousy is a natural and normal emotion, but if you let it erupt inside or explode it can be extremely destructive to relationships and marriages. For some couples it can be so damaging it ends in Divorce. Jealousy can also tear a person apart, nothing is more annoying than over reacting or over thinking situations, it is draining. In this episode you will first discover the most common reasons jealousy comes up in relationships the Triggers. Then learn some steps to help deal with it. Whether it is you that is more prone to jealousy or your spouse, there are actions you can take to tackle it and create a happier, healthier relationship. For more great free resources visit www.purepeacecoaching.com and get free e-books today.
I don’t believe “Constructive Criticism” works in close relationships, especially between husband and wife.
Criticism kill passion, love and closeness
Just the same way Self-Criticism diminishes self-esteem, confidence and overall happiness.
Even in business surveys and statistical data show that frequent Criticism is responsible for millions of employee sick days, job dissatisfaction and resignations. Which in turn contributes to a decrease in productivity and profits.
Ongoing Criticism between parents and children can lead to built up resentment, rebellion, rows, and long-term fall out.
Having seen the damaging affect frequent criticism has in a relationship and to a person, where an individual loses their sense of who they are and happiness. I wanted to share some insights and new ways of expressing complaints.
Nicola Beer - International Relationship Coach - For more FREE resources visit www.purepeacecoaching.com
7 Secrets To Save Your Marriage
7 Steps to Create a New Life After Divorce
Are you too or your partner too busy with work for your marriage? Does your profession own you? Does work keep you away from quality time – or any time from your relationship and family? Do the demands of errands, meetings and emergencies keep you from catching your breath? If you answered yes to this you could be suffering from workaholism. In this episode I cover 7 tips to stop work from interfering with your marriage and family time.
Also get my free e-books available at www.purepeacecoaching.com Nicola Beer – International Relationship Coach