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Adaora Mbelu Lumina

Welcome to the Switch On Podcast! My name is Adaora Lumina Mbelu, Bright Light, Purpose driver and Your Number 1 Purpose & Productivity Coach. Each week, you will learn how to own your mind and body, and make it work for you on your life’s journey. I want to show you that while you may not always have control over external forces, you can create your own pathway to fulfilling your God given mission. And it all starts with your Mind.

Negotiation is an art. It requires technical skills, but also a lot of emotional intelligence. You are not negotiating with a robot, you’re negotiating with a human…and your advantage is your human-ness. Many times you’re not just negotiating money, you’re negotiating the scope, working conditions, terms. It’s a wholistic negotiation.

Lack of sleep is one of the highest rated reasons for poor mental, and physical health. Sleep is a time for the brain and body to engage in vital growth and repair. It’s an essential part of a healthy lifestyle. Many people are going short on sleep. Many people suffer from insomnia, sleep apnea, and just downright "I ain't be able to find no sleep". Sometimes it’s related to a health condition, and other times it’s just a habit that has been formed over time. In this video, I share some tips to help you get better quality sleep in 2021 and beyond.

Everyday on these social media streets, someone is asking a random person to mentor them, and expecting to receive a response. And when they don’t receive a response, they get upset. In this video, I share a few things to consider before you approach a potential mentor. I also share how to ASK them to mentor you.

About "Success is...": I think that when we talk about success, we tend to look at things in tangible form - awards, money, media mentions, social media engagement. We don’t really look at the micro aspects of success.. The day to day success that we have - whether it’s in our family, our learning, our health, friendships, professional career etc. In this series, I explore the various things that make up success.

About "Success is...": I think that when we talk about success, we tend to look at things in tangible form - awards, money, media mentions, social media engagement. We don’t really look at the micro aspects of success.. The day to day success that we have - whether it’s in our family, our learning, our health, friendships, professional career etc. In this series, I explore the various things that make up success.

About "Success is...": I think that when we talk about success, we tend to look at things in tangible form - awards, money, media mentions, social media engagement. We don’t really look at the micro aspects of success.. The day to day success that we have - whether it’s in our family, our learning, our health, friendships, professional career etc. In this series, I explore the various things that make up success.

About "Success is...": I think that when we talk about success, we tend to look at things in tangible form - awards, money, media mentions, social media engagement. We don’t really look at the micro aspects of success.. The day to day success that we have - whether it’s in our family, our learning, our health, friendships, professional career etc. In this series, I explore the various things that make up success.

About "Success is...": I think that when we talk about success, we tend to look at things in tangible form - awards, money, media mentions, social media engagement. We don’t really look at the micro aspects of success.. The day to day success that we have - whether it’s in our family, our learning, our health, friendships, professional career etc. In this series, I explore the various things that make up success.

About "Success is...": I think that when we talk about success, we tend to look at things in tangible form - awards, money, media mentions, social media engagement. We don’t really look at the micro aspects of success.. The day to day success that we have - whether it’s in our family, our learning, our health, friendships, professional career etc. In this series, I explore the various things that make up success.

About "Success is...": I think that when we talk about success, we tend to look at things in tangible form - awards, money, media mentions, social media engagement. We don’t really look at the micro aspects of success.. The day to day success that we have - whether it’s in our family, our learning, our health, friendships, professional career etc. In this series, I explore the various things that make up success.

About "Success is...": I think that when we talk about success, we tend to look at things in tangible form - awards, money, media mentions, social media engagement. We don’t really look at the micro aspects of success.. The day to day success that we have - whether it’s in our family, our learning, our health, friendships, professional career etc. In this series, I explore the various things that make up success.

Welcome to Day 5 of Success Is…. Why did I decide to do this series ? I think that when we talk about success, we tend to look at things in tangible form - awards, money, media mentions, social media engagement. We don’t really look at the micro aspects of success.. The day to day success that we have - whether it’s in our family, our learning, our health, friendships, professional career etc. In this series, I explore the various things that make up success.

Welcome to Day 4 of Success Is…. Why did I decide to do this series ? I think that when we talk about success, we tend to look at things in tangible form - awards, money, media mentions, social media engagement. We don’t really look at the micro aspects of success.. The day to day success that we have - whether it’s in our family, our learning, our health, friendships, professional career etc. In this series, I explore the various things that make up success.

Welcome to Day 3 of Success Is…. Why did I decide to do this series ? I think that when we talk about success, we tend to look at things in tangible form - awards, money, media mentions, social media engagement. We don’t really look at the micro aspects of success.. The day to day success that we have - whether it’s in our family, our learning, our health, friendships, professional career etc. In this series, I explore the various things that make up success.

Welcome to Day 2 of Success Is…. Why did I decide to do this series ? I think that when we talk about success, we tend to look at things in tangible form - awards, money, media mentions, social media engagement. We don’t really look at the micro aspects of success.. The day to day success that we have - whether it’s in our family, our learning, our health, friendships, professional career

Welcome to Day 1 of Success Is…. Why did I decide to do this series ? I think that when we talk about success, we tend to look at things in tangible form - awards, money, media mentions, social media engagement. We don’t really look at the micro aspects of success.. The day to day success that we have - whether it’s in our family, our learning, our health, friendships, professional career. etc. In this series, I explore the various things that make up success.

Develop a Morning and Evening routine - Declutter Your Space - Declutter your devices - Back up devices - Exercise, Eat Healthy, and take your vitamins - DIY - Baking, Carpentry, Art, etc - Take time out Study Your Spiritual Book/Guide - Listen to Podcasts - break them out into learning, and fun - Take Breaks from everything - social media, work, even play. Take time to do nothing!

To put it simply, imposter syndrome is the experience of feeling like a phony—you feel like at any moment you are going to be found out as a fraud—like you don't belong where you are, and you only got there through luck. Today, I’m sharing How to deal with impostor syndrome. What I’m sharing is based on my personal experience, and I hope it helps you handle better.

When I wake up at 5am, I get some of the most subtle but interesting thoughts. As I go through the day, I hardly share these thoughts because they’re either “too random” or I forget them by noon. In march 2019, I decided to share 1 thought every morning for 31 days. #TodayAt5AM is a collection of these thoughts that I shared via Instagram. I believe that there’s a message in there for someone. The process allowed me to remain accountable to my morning start time, while simultaneously sharing the first thing on my heart each morning. I hope you enjoy it!

When I wake up at 5am, I get some of the most subtle but interesting thoughts. As I go through the day, I hardly share these thoughts because they’re either “too random” or I forget them by noon. In march 2019, I decided to share 1 thought every morning for 31 days. #TodayAt5AM is a collection of these thoughts that I shared via Instagram. I believe that there’s a message in there for someone. The process allowed me to remain accountable to my morning start time, while simultaneously sharing the first thing on my heart each morning. I hope you enjoy it!

When I wake up at 5am, I get some of the most subtle but interesting thoughts. As I go through the day, I hardly share these thoughts because they’re either “too random” or I forget them by noon. In march 2019, I decided to share 1 thought every morning for 31 days. #TodayAt5AM is a collection of these thoughts that I shared via Instagram. I believe that there’s a message in there for someone. The process allowed me to remain accountable to my morning start time, while simultaneously sharing the first thing on my heart each morning. I hope you enjoy it!

When I wake up at 5am, I get some of the most subtle but interesting thoughts. As I go through the day, I hardly share these thoughts because they’re either “too random” or I forget them by noon. In march 2019, I decided to share 1 thought every morning for 31 days. #TodayAt5AM is a collection of these thoughts that I shared via Instagram. I believe that there’s a message in there for someone. The process allowed me to remain accountable to my morning start time, while simultaneously sharing the first thing on my heart each morning. I hope you enjoy it!

When I wake up at 5am, I get some of the most subtle but interesting thoughts. As I go through the day, I hardly share these thoughts because they’re either “too random” or I forget them by noon. In march 2019, I decided to share 1 thought every morning for 31 days. #TodayAt5AM is a collection of these thoughts that I shared via Instagram. I believe that there’s a message in there for someone. The process allowed me to remain accountable to my morning start time, while simultaneously sharing the first thing on my heart each morning. I hope you enjoy it!

When I wake up at 5am, I get some of the most subtle but interesting thoughts. As I go through the day, I hardly share these thoughts because they’re either “too random” or I forget them by noon. In march 2019, I decided to share 1 thought every morning for 31 days. #TodayAt5AM is a collection of these thoughts that I shared via Instagram. I believe that there’s a message in there for someone. The process allowed me to remain accountable to my morning start time, while simultaneously sharing the first thing on my heart each morning. I hope you enjoy it!

When I wake up at 5am, I get some of the most subtle but interesting thoughts. As I go through the day, I hardly share these thoughts because they’re either “too random” or I forget them by noon. In march 2019, I decided to share 1 thought every morning for 31 days. #TodayAt5AM is a collection of these thoughts that I shared via Instagram. I believe that there’s a message in there for someone. The process allowed me to remain accountable to my morning start time, while simultaneously sharing the first thing on my heart each morning. I hope you enjoy it!

When I wake up at 5am, I get some of the most subtle but interesting thoughts. As I go through the day, I hardly share these thoughts because they’re either “too random” or I forget them by noon. In march 2019, I decided to share 1 thought every morning for 31 days. #TodayAt5AM is a collection of these thoughts that I shared via Instagram. I believe that there’s a message in there for someone. The process allowed me to remain accountable to my morning start time, while simultaneously sharing the first thing on my heart each morning. I hope you enjoy it!

When I wake up at 5am, I get some of the most subtle but interesting thoughts. As I go through the day, I hardly share these thoughts because they’re either “too random” or I forget them by noon. In march 2019, I decided to share 1 thought every morning for 31 days. #TodayAt5AM is a collection of these thoughts that I shared via Instagram. I believe that there’s a message in there for someone. The process allowed me to remain accountable to my morning start time, while simultaneously sharing the first thing on my heart each morning. I hope you enjoy it!

When I wake up at 5am, I get some of the most subtle but interesting thoughts. As I go through the day, I hardly share these thoughts because they’re either “too random” or I forget them by noon. In march 2019, I decided to share 1 thought every morning for 31 days. #TodayAt5AM is a collection of these thoughts that I shared via Instagram. I believe that there’s a message in there for someone. The process allowed me to remain accountable to my morning start time, while simultaneously sharing the first thing on my heart each morning. I hope you enjoy it!

When I wake up at 5am, I get some of the most subtle but interesting thoughts. As I go through the day, I hardly share these thoughts because they’re either “too random” or I forget them by noon. In march 2019, I decided to share 1 thought every morning for 31 days. #TodayAt5AM is a collection of these thoughts that I shared via Instagram. I believe that there’s a message in there for someone. The process allowed me to remain accountable to my morning start time, while simultaneously sharing the first thing on my heart each morning. I hope you enjoy it!

When I wake up at 5am, I get some of the most subtle but interesting thoughts. As I go through the day, I hardly share these thoughts because they’re either “too random” or I forget them by noon. In march 2019, I decided to share 1 thought every morning for 31 days. #TodayAt5AM is a collection of these thoughts that I shared via Instagram. I believe that there’s a message in there for someone. The process allowed me to remain accountable to my morning start time, while simultaneously sharing the first thing on my heart each morning. I hope you enjoy it!

When I wake up at 5am, I get some of the most subtle but interesting thoughts. As I go through the day, I hardly share these thoughts because they’re either “too random” or I forget them by noon. In march 2019, I decided to share 1 thought every morning for 31 days. #TodayAt5AM is a collection of these thoughts that I shared via Instagram. I believe that there’s a message in there for someone. The process allowed me to remain accountable to my morning start time, while simultaneously sharing the first thing on my heart each morning. I hope you enjoy it!

When I wake up at 5am, I get some of the most subtle but interesting thoughts. As I go through the day, I hardly share these thoughts because they’re either “too random” or I forget them by noon. In march 2019, I decided to share 1 thought every morning for 31 days. #TodayAt5AM is a collection of these thoughts that I shared via Instagram. I believe that there’s a message in there for someone. The process allowed me to remain accountable to my morning start time, while simultaneously sharing the first thing on my heart each morning. I hope you enjoy it!

When I wake up at 5am, I get some of the most subtle but interesting thoughts. As I go through the day, I hardly share these thoughts because they’re either “too random” or I forget them by noon. In march 2019, I decided to share 1 thought every morning for 31 days. #TodayAt5AM is a collection of these thoughts that I shared via Instagram. I believe that there’s a message in there for someone. The process allowed me to remain accountable to my morning start time, while simultaneously sharing the first thing on my heart each morning. I hope you enjoy it!

Listen to this episode of #SwitchOnWithAdaora, I share some tips on how to get & keep big clients.

Listen to this episode of #SwitchOnWithAdaora, as my business partner @mrphisha and I discuss the dynamics of our relationship and how we navigate business.

Pilot edition of #LuminationLive - our live versions of #TheLuminationShow. Our first guest for Lumination Live is the super talented and purpose-driven @taymesan_ .

Born and raised in Warri, Delta State, Temisan Ahwieh, 23, has been on an amazing journey of exploring and self-discovery. He is a graduate of the University of Lagos where he bagged a diploma in Law and a degree in History and Strategic Studies. His passion for the arts-informed his decision to venture into modeling, and he has walked major runways, been a muse for leading Nigerian designers, and featured on magazine covers and editorials. He is well known for TeawithTay, a one-minute tea time video where he shares life experiences laced with humor on social media.

Besides being a comedian on social media and a communications strategist, the multi-talented lad excels in everything - from singing in the church choir to hosting red carpets and TV presenting.

Temisan has hosted The Future Awards Africa, 25 under 25 awards and has worked with clients such as Uber, YouTube, Swatch, Nescafé, FCMB and Zenith Bank. With a penchant for media relations and content creation, the very ambitious Temisan is set to take on the world one dream at a time. .

Listen to this episode of the #SwitchOnPodcast, as Temysman shares his amazing journey of self-discovery in the creative space, navigating downtimes, limitations, etc.

Friendships are amazing although it involves a lot of growth and communication which could seem difficult sometimes because it involves dealing with different individuals at different stages in life and different personality types. Listen to this episode of #SwitchOnWithAdaora, as Akinlabi Akinbulumo and I talk about friendship dynamics and understanding communication, etc especially as it has applied to our own friendship. We also talk about navigating disagreements or conflicts that occur in friendships and choosing what is most important even in intense moments.

Listen to this episode of #SwitchOnWithAdaora, Tolu, and I discuss The Fear of Risk-Taking. Life in itself is a risk because we can not control all the variables. We talk about the fear of actualization which is fueled by the fear of taking risks. Nothing good comes in comfort, so diving in (taking a leap of faith) is the way to go, after all, nobody really knows what they are doing even the top billionaires we are all just showing up fully every day.

Show Note:

[1:17] Dictionary definition of Risk is essentially exposure to something dangerous.
[7:23] The reason why we think that something isn't going our way is because of the mental picture of what we think the outcome should be, sometimes it is going the right way not necessary as you expected.
[8:38] Tolu shares his personal experience of a risk he took: leaving his toxic job.
[10:17] Adaora shares her personal experience of a risk she took: moving back to Nigeria.
[14:39] Live in spite of the fear or the risk. Wake up every day and decide to live because everything is risky.
[16: 31] If you have a positive mindset towards what it is you're trying to accomplish you're going to be proved right and if you have a negative mindset towards what you are doing you are going to be proved right too.
[17:12] Take the risk! You will never know until you live forward and dive in.

As a Project Manager on top shows, Nigerian Idol & Nigeria's Got Talent, one of my responsibilities included managing all the stakeholders on the show. This meant a lot of Emotional Intelligence, Consistent Communication, Clear Objectives, and more.

Listen to this episode of #SwitchOnWithAdaora, I share some of the lessons I learned from stakeholder management.

Show Notes:

[2:37] How to manage relationships and value propositions to each stakeholder.
[5:03] How to be flexible and handle expectations of all clients and stakeholders.
[6:20] Practical ways to effectively communicate and de-escalate arising issues with your clients.

In this episode of #SwitchOnWithAdaora, Tolu and I discuss The Danger of a Single Story. People perceive the world through their experiences so it is important to share from a contextual point of view, explain all the sides to the piece of information you are sharing, and as a consumer beware of consuming information hook, line, and sinker without looking at how it applies to you.

Show Notes:

[2:17] Why a single story is so dangerous.
[4:41] How to communicate holistically with context to prevent a single story.
[8:40] How to decipher and navigate a single story.
[11:33] The issue with Blanket Statements.
[15:35] How to handle situations where you communicated a single story.

In this episode of the #SwitchOnPodcast, I speak with Jimmy Odukoya aka Pastor J who is the Son of Pastor Taiwo and Late Pastor Mrs. Bimbo Odukoya. A Pastor, Singer, Rapper, Dancer, Model, Actor, Image consultant (Style & Image) Conference Speaker, Poet, and Businessman, this Renaissance man does it all.

PJ and I talk about his journey as a multipotentialite, and the lessons he has learned so far. We also discussed the importance of being comfortable with who you have been called to be versus fitting into expectations or narrative others may have of you.

Show Note:

[1:32] PJ talks about growing up, academics, and creative expressions
[3:47] PJ's journey into music making as side gig
[8:09] Your talents are God's gift to you and what you do with them is your gift to God
[9:40] If you decide that you are going to do A, B, C you got to do it excellently well
[13:19] You have to multitask but you have to be focused else it will all suffer
[36:15] You can have passion, but you need to have talent and you need to bring value
[49:12] We talked about old music genre and its ability to take you on an emotional journey
[52:16] PJ talks about his fitness journey and the lessons like, discipline, resilience, consistency etc he has learned so far

Becoming a better person isn’t always about learning new things; sometimes it’s about stripping yourself of layers and unlearning internalized beliefs and mindsets. Listen to this episode of #SwitchOnWithAdaora, as Tolu and I speak about our stories and experiences. We also share practical tips and benefits of introspecting, looking inwards, and unlearning.

Show Note:

[2:10] Some people are afraid to look inwards because they’re worried about what they’re going to find, and live in denial, not acknowledging their flaws.
[3:00] Tolu shares his experience about a recent flaw he discovered about himself, and how he handled it.
[4:50] Adaora shares her experiences about how she has been introspective and what she has learned about herself from her history.
[8:44] Adaora speaks about her many experiences with unlearning beliefs and mindsets.
[11:42] Tips on how to introspect, look within and unlearn behaviors and beliefs, especially as we live in a fast-paced world these days.
[14:05] Benefits of introspection and looking within.

When you go through a separation or divorce, they tell you in the court to make your child the primary focus in decision making. I also said this in my video about handling divorce. However, it’s really hard to raise a healthy child, if either parent is unhealthy. There’s so much pressure on the parent that’s the primary caregiver - insane pressure to always be on “best behaviour”.

So today, if you’re a co-parent that is watching this, I’m going to share 8 ways you can help the parent who is the primary caregiver.

Show Note:

[0:45] How to get rid of the assumption that you can take care of your child(ren) better than the co-parent who is the primary caregiver.
[2:12] How to manage financial contributions as a co-parent.
[3:52] How to manoeuvre communication with your child(ren) about the co-parent.
[5:26] Solving challenges concerning your child(ren) with your co-parent without caring who gets the credit.
[6:59] Navigating the mistakes of your co-parent.
[8:23] Managing the expectations you have of your co-parent.
[9:47] How to be considerate towards your co-parent.
[11:42] How to respect boundaries and manage communication with your co-parent.

Many studies show the link between social media use and different mental health challenges we go through as humans. Listen to this episode of #SwitchOnWithAdaora, as Tolu and I share our individual stories about social media-induced anxiety and tips on how to deal with it.

Show Notes:

[3:40] Adaora shares her personal experience with social media anxiety, particularly as a content creator.
[4:22] How to manage relationships and communication with other social media users.
[8:31] What to do when your content and posts do not go as viral and popular as you expected.
[10:05] Protecting your mental health and space, and creating healthy boundaries on social media.
[13:27] How social media amplifies your insecurities and anxiety, and how to deal with online bullying vs constructive criticism.
[24:42] Adaora and Tolu share practical tips on how they’ve gotten over their social media anxiety.

On this episode of the #SwitchOnPodcast, I speak with Denola Grey - a Nigerian-born, multimedia freelancer, with a successful career in Acting, Fashion Consultancy, on-air presenting and digital content creation.

Denola and I talk about mindfulness, forgiveness, building confidence, vulnerability, and kindness.

Show Notes

[5:47] Mindfulness lies in unlearning a lot of the things that we've learnt over time and learning who you are outside the trauma of growing up.
[8:52] Over time, I’ve learnt that my sensitivity is not a weakness, and living in a country like Nigeria, I’m learning how to not take things personally.
[16:50] Dealing with Impostor Syndrome, I’ve learnt that confidence is a journey.
[18:42] “Every single time I’ve been through a serious meltdown, what comes after it is a newer, improved, more fearless version for me.”
[23:40] “Manifestation is not about an end goal; it’s about inviting the feeling that you think that end goal is going to give you into the present
[40:04] “I don’t think locally anymore, the world is so small now, with everything digitized. I think globally now.”
[42:03] Denola shares his favourite mantra
[43:17] Denola discusses how looking good influences his feelings, actions and life.
[43:25] “Your inner reality reflects your outside world

Are you continuously using phrases like I am exhausted, I am tired, I'm drained while there are many reasons why you may be feeling drained it may be excessive work, a tough relationship, the lethargy that comes with poor health it could be anything to be honest, not being yourself can be an underrated cause of exhaustion.

In this episode, I share some tips you can put to practice to help you be more excited, pumped and joyfully about life.

Show Note

[1:13] Be honest about your feelings and desires with people and situations.
[2:25] Let go of judgement; people judging you, and you judging others.
[3:47] Understand and communicate your values, to stop feeling triggered.
[5:16] Create a support system for your mental health that works for you.
[6:24] Your intuition is like seeing with your soul, everything doesn’t have to be black or white.
[8:00] Allow yourself evolve, unlearn and grow, and communicating these changes to your friends.
[10:39] Let go of your self-righteousness and unhealthy expectations you have for yourself

In this episode of #SwitchOnWithAdaora Tolu and I speak about how beautiful friendships are. How our friends make life better, support us in good and bad times and vastly improve the quality of our lives.

However, when friendships go sour or become toxic, they could be damaging.

Show Notes

[1:34] No, you’re not overthinking it: it’s possible for your friend to be a good person, but the friendship toxic to you and to the person.
[2:09] How to handle one-sided friendships where the efforts are largely unreciprocated.
[3:56] How to identify if you’re compatible with your friends; when there is no compatibility, it spirals into greater issues and arguments.
[4:42] Outgrowing friendships in certain phases of your life.
[6:38] Having tough conversations with friends and knowing when to let go momentarily for the person to evolve and grow out of their issues.
[14:10] The various levels of friendships: Acquaintances vs inner circle friends.

“Do whatever makes you happy”, “life is too short”, “you only live once! #YOLO”.

As exciting and fulfilling as all these sound, sometimes doing what makes you happy isn’t always as transparent as it seems.

In this episode of #SwitchOnWithAdaora, Tolu and I have a conversation about the Idea of doing whatever makes you happy in the light that happiness is very relative.

We talk about how these choices affect the different areas of life including Health, Relationship, Career etc.

Show Notes:

[3:46] Happiness in your Health, Career and Business: eating junk food just because it makes you happy doesn’t mean it’s good for you. Do what you know is right as opposed to doing what makes you happy. Simply, do what will make you happy in the long-run.
[8:07] Practicing self-awareness, and asking yourself, “why is this making me happy? Is there something I’m not seeing?”
[11:26] Prioritizing short-term happiness over long-term rewards: just because it’s tough doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it. Do what you need to do so you can do what you want to do.
[13:40] Stooping to conquer; the grass isn’t always greener on the other side, sometimes you have to be patient; time is a great storyteller.
[15:14] On Relationships: doing what makes you happy shouldn’t be at the expense of someone else.
[15:56] Happiness is infinite and not tied to a particular thing.
[21:38] Question whatever makes you happy.

In this episode of #SwitchOnWithAdaora, I speak with Tobi Bakre - Actor, Model, Host, Compere, Artist, and Photographer. We discuss everything from Multipotentiality to Character Building, Setting Boundaries, Learning & Growth.

SHOW NOTES

[4:30] Tobi, 2018 Big Brother Nigeria Housemate, speaks about his game plan going into the show.
[7:00] “One of the life lessons I’ve learnt is that sometimes, I don’t have the answers: I look for people with bigger minds whose judgements I can trust. That was my strategy before entering the house.”
[15:46] “I’m in a space where I’m thinking about having a family… My goals for the next 3, 4 years are outlined; I want to have my own thing”
[20:31] “After coming out of the house, I started exploring different things, and a lot of people warned me to focus, master and be known for one thing… I decided I was going to risk it and explore many things because I felt alive doing that”
[31:47] “Looking back to where I came from if I had remained where I was, the best that would have happened - which would have been magical, would be getting promoted in two years as a Banker. I’d choose my present life over again.”
[43:47] “One mantra I live by is to always be good to people; being good has a domino effect.”
[45:00] “I’ve shown up at engagements thinking “I’ve got this, I don’t need to prepare or rehearse”, and then I’d show up and get burnt. I’ve learnt to always do my homework across acting, hosting and everything else I do.”
[52:27] Tobi shares his third tip for productivity; #ChopLifeGang and how he unwinds, relaxes to get back to work stronger and better.

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In this episode of #SwitchOnWithAdaora, Tolu and I dissect the Status Quo and how limiting, old-fashioned and self-contradictory it can be across social, cultural and religious cultures.

Show Note:

[4:45] We begin by talking about a documentary, featuring a prison in Germany where every day, they attempt to rehabilitate the prisoners to make them a better version of themselves.
[8:03] The Social Status Quo: Concepts like “If you are friends with someone, you naturally should be friends with their friends or else you’re seen as Snobbish.”
[14:56] The Relationship Status Quo: The socio-cultural pressure that comes with timings and gender roles.
[24:25] The Religious Status Quo: The place of worship you are expected to attend and religious observations.
[31:28] The Finance, Founder and Business Status Quo.

In this episode of the #SwitchOnWithAdaora, I speak with Tolulope Oludapo, Founder of LifeGiva Consult, about identifying and overcoming self-doubt, on your journey to self-mastery and greatness.

Often, when people worry about not finding their purpose or using their gifts, it’s more about Self-doubt than ignorance. You’re always one step away from a totally different life; you are your only limit. Self-doubt makes you question your abilities and holds you back from who you’re meant to be.

In this episode, you will find How to handle the crippling effect of Self Doubt.

SHOW NOTES:

[3:51] Self-doubt often shows up when you invalidate your talents by comparing yourself to others, or not receiving the accolades or applause you thought you would from your parents, friends or the world.
[13:26] Self-doubt directly affects your perception of the value of your skills and offerings and your ability to monetize them.
[17:25] Seeing the value in other people, it’s a complete life shift; the law of attraction; if you don’t see value in others, or consistently underrate others, it would be the same for you.
[18:02] A compliment is another form of currency that can eliminate self-doubt.
[20:04] Acknowledging that it is there, is the first way to get over self-doubt, be true to yourself.
[22:37] Reminding yourself of the greatness within you by looking back at your past results and journey.
[23:42] Overcoming your fear of failure.
[30:18] Focusing on the message and the people that it’s for; making it more about others and the people that it’s for than you.

Comparison comes in different forms, it is relative and can be damaging in so many ways. Listen to this episode of #SwitchOnWithAdaora where I share a new dimension of comparison that we often ignore.

In my book, “This Thing Called Purpose”, I share a lot about comparison. I also have a short e-book on abandoning comparison and different ways to get over it; if you’d like to get this, you should definitely sign up for my newsletter on my Website, where I share a lot of information and my personal stories on Purpose and Productivity.

Show Notes:

[1:18] What we think of comparison vs what it actually is.
[2:29] My personal experience with comparison - in my marriage.
[6:00] Dealing with ego-driven comparison that serves as a glass ceiling and makes you comfortable with mediocrity.

In this episode of the #SwitchOnWithAdaora Podcast, I speak about leading yourself first and leading others by serving, listening and taking action.

In this episode, you will learn what leadership is

Show Notes

[2:34] To lead means the initiative in an action; an example for others to follow.
[3:20] We are all leaders in different ways and every leader is a follower.
[4:25] Leadership is about leading; leading others, and leading yourself.
[7:05] As a leader, do you listen to your own advice? Do you practice the things that you share? Do you listen to other thought leaders?
[7:40] The better you become, the easier it becomes to teach people and share from a place of knowledge; Lead yourself first.
[14:41] Leadership is about listening; being present when people are sharing their experiences and moments.
[16:16] Leadership is also about taking action

In 2020, personal branding has become an important part of positioning for anything whether it’s to showcase your talents, to search for a professional opportunity, to raise awareness for a cause, get people together to make a difference. In this class, I share some of the personal branding mistakes that you may be making, and how to fix them.

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Let's talk about 10 Personal Branding Mistakes you're making.

[1:25] Do not tie your brand too close to what you do; tie it to who you are at the core of your being.
[1:36] Personal branding is about making and keeping promises to people.
[2:57] Execute physically, amplify digitally.
[3:20] Do not be afraid to tell your true story; who you are now.
[3:45] Do not create a persona that you can not keep up with.
[4:48] Do not try to be on all media platforms when you initially begin so you do not spread yourself too thin.
[5:30] Begin with a platform that aligns with your personal brand.
[6:10} Start on a platform, build it then expand to other platforms.
[6:17] Do not try to attend every event.
[6:50] Showing up at every event is not equivalent to relevance.
[7:13] Attend events that are valuable or exciting to you and resonate with your personal brand.
[7:28] Do not respond to messages immediately when you are triggered.
[8:49] Have standardized rates that you charge based on your value so you are not tagged unprofessional.
[10:08] Do not partner with or promote brands that are not in alignment with your values.
[11:05] Your approach to brand partnerships should always be quality vs quantity; quality should always be your priority.
[11:29] Do not take your community for granted.
[11:43] Do not forget your Day-1s that have always been supporting you.
[12:03] Once in a while, take out time to appreciate and engage with your community.
[12:59] Do not lose yourself in the building of your brand; this is about who you are, not what you do.

Whether you’re a professional speaker or speaking is a side gig for you, I believe structuring your booking process such that you can focus on the actual delivery, and impact that you’re trying to make with your speech. For you to do this effectively, you need to ensure that you or your team, have a process in place that allows for efficiency and excellence. In the previous episodes, I shared about how to become a better public speaker. I also shared how to manage your public speaking engagements.

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On this episode, I share 9 tips to handle your speaker bookings.

[1:08] Create a speaker deck containing your bio, what you speak on, past events, rates and any other information you need to communicate to your client.
[1:50] Have a booking form to receive information about your audience, logistics and other event details.
[2:21] Have a speaking fee for your value.
[2:57] Do not be afraid to charge money or you would shortchange yourself.
[3:10] Paid Bookings vs unpaid bookings; clearly outline your goals for the year.
[3:44] How to determine which bookings ought to be paid or unpaid for and other benefits you could gain asides monetary compensation.
[4:52] Invoice properly for your services and keep records over email.
[5:04} Include your terms and conditions in your invoice and clarify the intricacies of your speaking engagement.
[6:03] Always confirm the details of your logistics.
[7:36] Always ask about your target audience; this determines your presentation and other details, down to your appearance.
[8:48] Always show up on time.
[9:41] Ensure there is constant communication with the event organizers.
[10:38] Always ask upfront if you can bring any materials to showcase or sell.
[11:55] Always send a Thank You note to the organizers and include feedback on how they can improve.

In the previous episode, I shared some tips to become better at public speaking. If you’re trying to do this more professionally, amongst the other things you have going on, it becomes important for you to structure and plan out your speaking engagement, to allow you focus on effective delivery. On this episode, I share 6 tips to help you plan your speaking engagement.

SHOW NOTES

[0:54] Know your audience; always find out the details and target demography of those you would be speaking to.
[1:27] Do not go in blindly; knowing your audience allows you to plan your content and delivery more effectively.
[1:43] Talk about what you know about.
[1:54] Avoid topics you are not conversant with. However, if it is unavoidable, invest time in researching and learning more.
[4:01] Keep track of your time by segmenting your presentation.
[5:04] Leave time for questions if required.
[5:08] Take time to rehearse and go through your presentation.
[5:33] Preparation helps you with your delivery and makes you more comfortable and confident.
[5:57} The size of your audience does not matter; speak to 10 people the same way you would speak to 1,000 people.

Every day people around the world stand in front of some audience to speak. Chances are, you find yourself having to convince someone about an idea that you have. Or you may need to motivate someone to go out and do something. Or you may want to advocate for cause, or sell your product, or inspire a group of people. Public speaking is an important part of your purpose journey. Many people have the ability to speak, but very few have the ability to communicate clearly. Communication skills are crucial for personal and professional success, and improving this area is one of the greatest benefits of public speaking. Communication is an art. Public speaking is an art too. On this episode, I’m going to share some steps to becoming a better public speaker, so you can go on to tell your story and make amazing impact in the world.

SHOW NOTES

This 12 minutes Podcast is filled with practical hacks to speak like a Pro.

[0:55] Many people have the ability to speak, but not many people communicate; communication is an art, public speaking is an art too.
[1:31] Begin with some fun things about yourself to break the ice and reduce the tension.
[2:01] Speaking to people is about connection and humanity.
[2:34] Focus on the message and not the verbiage or the words to use.
[2:50] Do not equate intellectual ability to complex grammar.
[3:33] Tell personal stories that emphasize your experience and understanding of the subject matter.
[4:18] You do not have to infuse humour; find your strengths and build upon them.
[5:21] Pause if you have to; you came to speak, not rap.
[5:57} Take your time and focus on your message; it reduces your umms and ahhs and allows you to think and communicate effectively.
[6:29] Be charismatic and make eye contact; confidence is everything and it makes people listen to you.
[7:17] Watch your body language; do not slouch and keep your chin up.
[7:23] Do not be vague; use convincing language to communicate your expertise, confidence and understanding.
[8:05] Do not focus too much on your audience’s reaction.
[8:13] Do not make assumptions about your audience’s reaction; focus on your delivery.
[9:08] Be honest about everything.
[9:32] It is okay to not have answers to everyone; you can refer them to a person or resource.
[10:14] Speaking is responsibility; you have to make sure you are giving the right information.
[10:32] Personalize your experience.
[10:48] Anxiety is normal; even the best speakers go through moments of anxiety.
[11:07] Public speaking can be improved upon.
[11:18] Pat yourself on the back at the end.

Beliefs are strong. I didn’t start asking for what I want and need, until recent years. The moment I started asking, it changed the dynamics of some of my relationships, friendships, and even business relationships etc. It also helped me value my contribution to anything - work, and personal.

It is easy to underestimate history. But history is important in order to understand your present. Ask Questions. Find out the WHY from the people who raised you - whether its your parents, your siblings, or someone else in your family. The more you ask to understand, the more you’ll find out about why you carry some of your beliefs.

Keep in mind that things grow exponentially - one thing leads to another. So, just take action today, and know that your action sets off another action, which sets off another, and another and another, and it keeps going.

I’m a super fan of affirmations. They help us build self confidence, and push ourselves towards the lofty goals that we envision. However, what happens when you continuously tell yourself that you’re all these things, and will do all these things, when in fact you’re doing nothing to work towards being and doing what you envision.

On my self awareness journey, I've been cautious about clarifying context. If I don't understand something, I search for clarity/ask questions. This has truly helped me not to just digest assumptiously - I'm intentionally protecting my programming. There are so many messages these days talking to us about consistency, and these messages can be a hindrance.

How do you get your brain to do exactly what you want it to do ? By Tricking it !

As a kid, when you’re asked what you want to be when you grow up, the expected response is usually one thing – a Lawyer, Banker, Engineer, Teacher, maybe President even. You are subconsciously taught that you can only choose one career path and that’s it. At the time, society does not consider that you may have different interests, and might be equally good at many things, everything just points to ‘Choose ONE’. Well, guess what society? While a lot of people are great at choosing one path and sticking to it, some of us have multiple passions and are very well able to manage them all and produce brilliant results. Whoever coined the phrase ‘Jack of All Trades, Master of None’, clearly was biased and had not met us – the multi-passion driven ones who kick major ‘you know what’ working in various industries at the same time.

Juggling multiple passions and interests is not an easy feat, and it’s certainly not for everyone. But if you choose this path, you've got this!

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Hi Guys, if you've read my book "This Thing Called Purpose", it's no news to you that I went through a separation about 2 years ago, and a divorce. At the time when my divorce process started, I tried to search for content that talked about how to handle things. I couldn't find anything in this part of the world, that I could learn from. I realize that Divorce is a "taboo" subject, and many people are either too ashamed to talk about it, or just don't want to deal with 3rd party. I've just done a video on my YouTube channel, where I share 10 Things I learned from my divorce. I'm an advocate for trying to fix broken relationships, so...No... I'm not asking you to get a divorce.😑. (Had to get that disclaimer in, because some of y"all can tell your pastor that Adaora said....). This video is for people who have either been through a separation/divorce, going through one, or for anyone who has been in an intimate relationships that ended. . In this video, I talk about some of the things I've learned, and how I believe it's best to handle the entire process.

We all go through various points in life where our friendships break for whatever reason. During this time, we can either decide to let them deteriorate and disappear... or... we can decide to fix it. If you're looking to rebuild a friendship, this one is for you. On this episode, I share tips that will help you confront the issues, and reconnect to rebuild your friendships. Subscribe To This Channel for more Insightful, and Impactful messages.

On This Episode of #SwitchOn I share why it's important to be more intentional with your time, and also tips on HOW to manage your time.

On this episode of The Lumination Show, Ladi Okuneye, Life Coach and Counsellor, shares on his passion for helping people understand themselves in order to achieve self-mastery, and integrate better with others. We talk about the Enneagram Test, Personality types and Behavioural Traits and how all these determine the way we interact with everything and everyone around us.

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On this episode of The Lumination Show, Adenike Oyetunde discusses finding out at young age, that she had cancer, losing her limb, and her journey to becoming all that she believes she can become in this world, against all odds. She also talks about why she started Amputees United Initiative, and the impact that this initiative has had over the years. Adenike bares her heart out in this inspiring conversation with Lumination Host, Adaora Mbelu.

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On this episode of The Lumination Show, Olanrewaju Ogunmefun (Vector Tha Viper), talks about the realities of growing up in the barracks and learning to fight for himself. He tells a story about how he got the name “Vector”, and what it means to him. Vector shares his personal philosophy, his love for humanity and securing your identity.

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On this episode of The Lumination Show, Akinlabi Akinbulumo, Dreamterpreter and Brand Strategy Expert, talks about Imposter Syndrome, Ego and the Creative Process. He shares his journey growing up in the North, studying to become an Engineer, and moving to pursue his dreams as a storyteller. We also discuss being a multipotentialite, the importance of telling not just your story but the story of the work that you do and about learning to learn.

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On this episode of The Lumination Show, lifestyle Blogger, Vlogger, and Content Creator, Sisi Yemmie talks about how she discovered her love for creating educational and entertaining content.She also talks about the growth of her community and channel subscribers, and what these milestones meant for her. She shares about her belief in doing what you truly enjoy regardless of how the world perceives it, and the patience/resilience required to harness the potential of whatever path that you choose in life.

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On this episode of The Lumination Show, talent manager and entertainment consultant, Godwin Tom, shares his journey managing some of Nigeria’s top talents in the entertainment industry, what he’s learnt from the experience, and what he believes people need to know in order to improve upon the existing structures in the industry. He also talks about some of the challenges he has encountered on the way, and his shift from the hustle mentality to living a more balanced life, after he went through a health scare that challenged what he knew about hard work. He discusses his legacy, and what he wants his children to say about him.

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On this episode of The Lumination Show, renowned consultant, motivational speaker, and author, Steve Harris, shares about his journey into creating several platforms that help entrepreneurs build thriving businesses through strategic positioning. He discusses his influences, and the role that family has played on his journey. He also talks about what he wants his legacy to be.

Show Bolts!

You have to keep showing up. Be consistent. Don’t do it for the claim or likes, Do it because you want to satisfy your conscience that you’ve put something out into the world that is right.
I find that people are chasing the forest, instead of focusing on the tree. There is no perfect scenario, just start.
I will throw everything God has given me out to the world. Whatever it is that I have, I’ll throw it out.

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