The Confidence Podcast: Recent Episodes
Trish Blackwell
The podcast that helps you break free from the bondage of self-doubt, self-sabotage and small thinking. Pour truth into your mind with The Confidence Podcast so that you can live the calling God has put on your heart with more courage and confidence. You have purpose, a God-given one; it’s time to rise up, shine brightly, think on what is good and contribute to the world in a way that matters as you life life a beautiful, confident and abundant life.
ll learn how to recognize the difference between accountability and self-criticism, why your inner dialogue matters so much, and how to replace self-defeating thoughts with words that build confidence, resilience, and belief.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
re talking about the biased narrator inside your mind—the inner voice that remembers your failures more vividly than your victories and convinces you that its version of the story is the truth.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
s been keeping you stuck.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
In this episode, we break down:Why pressure feels so real even when there’s no true dangerThe difference between low-grade pressure and big dread pressureHow your nervous system mislabels effort as threatAnd exactly how to talk back to pressure in real time✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
s insecurities, and how to keep growing without becoming bitter, defensive, or lonely.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
re talking about the kind of commitment that most people never see—the commitment to keep going after the excitement fades, after progress slows, after you feel discouraged, and after nobody is clapping for you.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
re a high achiever with an identity gap, not an achievement gap.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
You can be accomplished, self-aware, and still not fully like yourself — and for high achievers, that gap is more common than anyone admits. In this episode, Trish explores why so many driven women have mastered the performance of confidence while still feeling unsettled about who they actually are underneath it.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
ll learn the difference between scarcity mindset, abundance mindset, and true wealth mindset—and why high-achieving women often struggle with covert scarcity without even realizing it.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
ve ever wondered why certain goals feel harder than they should, why you keep repeating the same cycles, or why success sometimes still feels unsatisfying, this episode will help you connect the dots.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
In this episode, we’re talking about the hidden emotional exhaustion that comes from obsessing over people you don’t even like — the coworkers, family members, acquaintances, personalities, or social dynamics that keep hijacking your peace.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
This episode will help you stop chasing validation and start becoming someone who actually likes being themselves again.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
In this episode, we’re talking about the self-critical voice — the exhausting inner dialogue that keeps high achievers stuck in cycles of pressure, overthinking, shame, and never feeling good enough.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
In this episode, we’re diving into the concept of negativity bias—your brain’s natural tendency to focus on problems, threats, and what’s going wrong—and how it quietly shapes your confidence, decisions, and results.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we’re breaking down how to say no with confidence—without overexplaining, people-pleasing, or spiraling about what others think.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
After 700 episodes of The Confidence Podcast, millions of downloads, and years of coaching high-achieving women—this is the most honest, distilled truth about confidence I’ve ever shared.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
This episode will change how you experience setbacks—and give you a new way to move forward with confidence, even when things don’t go as planned.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
If you’ve ever felt stuck, hesitant, or like you’re putting too much pressure on yourself to get things right… this episode will help you move forward with curiosity, courage, and momentum.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Today we’re going to talk about:• Why impostor syndrome never actually goes away• Why that’s good news• And how to build the kind of confidence where you keep moving forward anyway.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
In this episode, Trish breaks down how to actually rewire your thoughts using the science of neuroplasticity and practical daily mental training.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
If you want to feel more confident socially and build stronger connections, this episode will show you how.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
In this episode, we break down why being overlooked feels so personal — and why it triggers deep insecurity around belonging, worth, and identity.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
In this episode, we’re diving into the science of neuroplasticity and how your brain can be deliberately rewired to support the identity you actually want. Because real change doesn’t happen by trying harder. It happens by becoming someone new.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
This episode is for the moment when motivation dips, doubt gets loud, and quitting feels logical.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Self-consciousness isn’t the real problem—it’s just the symptom.In this episode, we’re breaking down what’s actually happening when you feel hyper-aware, awkward, hesitant, or overly focused on how you’re coming across. Most people try to “fix” self-consciousness by forcing confidence, faking boldness, or trying to stop caring what people think—but that approach never lasts.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
In this episode, we explore how the need to prove yourself slowly erodes confidence and keeps you stuck in performance mode. You’ll learn why trying to be impressive is often a sign of self-doubt (not confidence), and what changes when you stop managing perceptions and start trusting yourself.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
In this episode, I’m redefining failure in a way that actually builds confidence instead of destroying it. You’ll learn why failure is not the opposite of success, how willingness matters more than outcomes, and how to stay proud of yourself even when results don’t match your effort.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
In this episode, confidence coach Trish Blackwell breaks down how to be confident around intimidating people without feeling small, awkward, or self-conscious. You’ll learn why intimidation is usually an internal story (not a personality flaw), how to stop comparing yourself in high-pressure interactions, and how to stay grounded in your identity even when someone else has strong presence.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
When results feel invisible, it’s easy to stop believing in yourself — and that’s usually the moment people quit. In this episode, we’re talking about why effort always matters, how belief is trained (not hoped for), and what to do when your mindset starts questioning whether your small actions count.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
If you’ve ever thought, “Why would I even think this?” or “What does this say about me?” — this episode will help you feel calmer, clearer, and far less afraid of your own mind.Intrusive thoughts don’t mean what you think they mean — and today, we’re unpacking why. ✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
In this episode, I’m teaching you why your brain gets stuck in the replay loop, the hidden fear underneath it, and exactly how to break the cycle — without needing reassurance, overexplaining, or perfection.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
The way you think, decide, and follow through in the next year will be shaped by the questions you ask yourself consistently. In this episode, I walk you through the exact journal prompts I use to design a year with clarity, confidence, and momentum.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
This episode will help you protect your heart and stay open — so you can build friendships that feel steady, mutual, and life-giving instead of confusing or draining.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Your thoughts are either building your future or blocking it — and most people have no idea how many “normal” thoughts are quietly holding them back. In this episode, we expose the sneaky, subtle, everyday thoughts that create self-doubt, hesitation, and overwhelm… and we rewrite them using Narrative Intelligence so you can step into unstoppable confidence.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Most people think enjoying life depends on having more time, less stress, or finally reaching the next milestone. But the truth? Enjoying your life is a skill — one you can train, strengthen, and transform. In this episode, Trish breaks down the mindset shifts, daily habits, and narrative rewrites that help you feel more alive, more present, and more confident. ✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
In this episode, we’re breaking down how micro excuses show up, why your brain uses them, and how to outsmart them in real time. You’re going to learn the mindset shifts, narrative rewrites, and simple confidence tools that eliminate these hidden obstacles and help you stay consistent even on the days you don’t “feel like it.”✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Sneaky negativity is the quietest confidence killer in your mind — and the most dangerous.In this episode, we expose the disguises negativity wears: the doubts that dress up as wisdom, the self-pressure that pretends to be motivation, and the subtle ways high achievers accidentally talk themselves out of their own potential. Chances are, you’ve been thinking one or two of these thoughts this week — maybe even today. If you’ve ever wondered, “Why do I feel heavy even when nothing is wrong?”, this episode will finally make everything click.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
This episode is all about easy tools for a quick mindset shift — things you can do anywhere, anytime, even when you’re stressed, tired, or spiraling.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
In this episode, Trish unpacks how to train your mind to keep showing up when you feel behind — whether that’s in your business, your goals, your fitness, your finances, or even your personal growth. You’ll learn how to reset your mental game, manage frustration, and build momentum when nothing seems to be going your way.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Confidence doesn’t crumble overnight — it erodes slowly, through habits that seem harmless. In this episode, we’re exposing the three cancers of confidence: complaining, comparing, and criticizing. These habits quietly drain your joy, limit your growth, and keep you stuck in self-doubt. You’ll learn how to spot them in your daily life, stop them before they spread, and replace them with patterns that rebuild belief and peace.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
If you’ve ever spiraled in self-doubt, replayed a conversation on loop, or thought “I know better but I can’t stop thinking this way,” then this episode is your mirror moment.In today’s conversation, we’re unpacking Narrative Intelligence — your ability to recognize, rewrite, and reframe the stories you tell yourself. You’ll learn how to recognize when your NQ (Narrative Quotient) is low, what that looks like in real life, and the exact steps to strengthen it.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Confidence isn’t just one thing—it’s made up of four essential areas that impact every part of your life. In this episode, we break down the 4 categories of confidence everyone needs to know about: how you think about yourself, how you present yourself, how you show up for yourself, and how you interact with others. You’ll discover actionable ways to strengthen each category so you can feel more capable, courageous, and confident—no matter the situation.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Ever held back because you didn’t want to look bad or feel like the beginner in the room? In this episode, I share my own story of jumping into a hockey pick-up game where I was far from the best on the ice—and why that experience taught me more about confidence than any win ever could.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, Trish explores how to hold both contentment and ambition in balance. You’ll learn how gratitude keeps you grounded, why an abundance mindset eliminates comparison and jealousy, and how to use other people’s success as inspiration instead of intimidation. Expect practical tools, journaling prompts, and encouragement to help you pursue excellence, think bigger, and still rest in the truth that what you already have is enough.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
If you’ve ever felt invisible in your entrepreneurial journey, this episode will give you the perspective, tools, and encouragement to turn being left out into your superpower.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Do you ever feel invisible in conversations, overlooked in meetings, or ignored on social media — even when you know your ideas have value? In this episode, we dive into the art and psychology of being heard. You’ll learn why confidence alone isn’t enough, how to stop people from talking over you, what to do when someone takes credit for your ideas, and how to get the respect of others — both online and in real life. We’ll also explore leadership and parenting strategies, showing you why what’s taught is caught and how modeling behavior earns influence faster than any words ever could. Tune in for actionable tips, mindset shifts, and ready-to-use scripts that make your voice impossible to ignore.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Ever felt confident on the outside but full of doubt on the inside? Or believed deep down you were capable of more, but froze when it was time to act? That’s the difference between self-confidence and self-belief. Most people confuse the two—and end up frustrated when their confidence wavers. In today’s episode, we’re breaking down why you need both, which one is more stable, and how to train belief in yourself even if no one ever spoke that into you growing up. Let’s get started.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Have you ever spent 10 minutes fixing a tiny typo in an email, only to feel drained and frustrated afterward? Or maybe you’ve found yourself correcting a friend’s little mistake in conversation, and it left everyone—including you—feeling tense? If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Today, we’re diving into the sneaky habit of nitpicking and perfectionism: why we do it, how it silently drains our energy, and practical steps to break free and actually enjoy life without obsessing over the small stuff. Stick around—this episode is for anyone who’s ready to stop sweating the small stuff and start feeling a little lighter, a little freer, and a lot more confident.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Do you feel like no matter how hard you work, you’re always behind where you thought you’d be by now? Or maybe you keep comparing yourself to others who seem to be further along? In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, Trish introduces the 5xBy5 Method—a simple yet powerful system to create unstoppable belief in yourself, in an accelerated way. If you've always wanted to believe in yourself, this is the episode for you. ✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Are you tired of replaying past mistakes or missed opportunities in your mind? In this episode, we uncover why so many of us get stuck in the past—and more importantly, how to break free. You’ll discover practical strategies to release regret, reframe old experiences, and finally step into the present with confidence and clarity. Say goodbye to the weight of yesterday and hello to a future you actually want.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
We live in a world that rewards instant gratification, but the people who achieve extraordinary results think differently. In this episode, we’re breaking down the difference between short-term and long-term thinking — and why mastering the balance between the two is the secret to consistency, bold action, and creating the life you’ve always wanted. You’ll learn exactly how to spot when you’re sabotaging your future for comfort now, plus the mindset shifts and tools that will help you start making decisions your future self will thank you for.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Whether you’re single and hoping to meet your person, or in a relationship and reflecting on the journey that got you here, this episode is packed with mindset shifts and confidence coaching to help you thrive where you are. We’re talking about how to navigate singleness without shame, how to attract aligned love by showing up as your best self, and how to live fully — not just wait around — while “your person” is still on their way. It’s time to stop seeing singleness as a problem and start embracing it as a preparation ground for your next level.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
When things don’t go as planned — like a broken laptop, a delayed flight, or missing luggage — it’s easy to spiral into frustration. But what if those moments are actually powerful opportunities for growth? In this episode, I’m sharing the inconvenient (and unglamorous) lessons I’ve learned while traveling across Australia with my family. From tech failures to travel delays, I’ll walk you through how choosing a good attitude in the middle of inconvenience can actually become a confidence superpower — and how you can start practicing this mindset shift in your everyday life.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
We all have them—those people who just rub us the wrong way. The ones who challenge your patience, poke at your insecurities, or seem to test your emotional limits. In today’s episode, we’re talking about “sandpaper people”—the difficult relationships that actually refine us if we let them. You’ll learn how to shift your mindset, stay in your confidence, and use these interactions as unexpected opportunities for growth. If someone’s been getting under your skin lately, this episode is exactly what your heart needs.Have you ever met someone who just… grates on you? Not because they’ve done something awful—just their presence, their energy, or maybe the way they talk or act—it just rubs you the wrong way. I call them sandpaper people. And while they might drive you crazy, they also might be one of the greatest gifts for your personal growth—if you let them. Today we’re diving into how these frustrating people can actually shape your confidence, sharpen your self-awareness, and soften your heart… without letting them walk all over you. ✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
We often think of distraction as harmless—just a scroll here, a pause there, a busy day gone in a blur. But what if distraction isn’t just an inconvenience, but your greatest threat? In this episode, we're exposing distraction for what it truly is: the silent, seductive enemy that steals your time, sabotages your confidence, and slowly erodes your dreams. High achievers aren’t immune—in fact, they’re often the most vulnerable. If you’ve ever wondered why you’re doing all the right things but still feel like you’re stuck, this conversation will give you the clarity (and callout) you need. It’s time to stop letting distraction win and reclaim your focus, your future, and your fire.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Uncertainty is inevitable—but anxiety, doubt, and spiraling don’t have to be. In this episode, we’re diving into how to stay steady, confident, and grounded even when life feels shaky. Whether you’re navigating a big transition, facing unknowns in your career, relationships, or just feeling stuck, you’ll learn practical mindset shifts, calming confidence tools, and my personal go-to affirmations to keep moving forward when clarity is missing.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Disappointment stings. Embarrassment lingers. But what if they didn’t have to define you or derail you? In this episode, we’re normalizing these emotions, removing the shame around them, and giving you confidence tools to bounce back faster and stronger. Whether you missed a goal, fumbled in public, or felt exposed and judged—this episode will help you process it, reframe it, and rise anyway.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
If you’ve ever wished you could stop your spiraling thoughts in the moment—this episode is for you. In this coaching episode of The Confidence Podcast, I’m teaching you the “Catch & Correct Method,” a powerful, practical tool to help you stop negative thinking before it steals your joy. You’ll learn how to identify toxic thoughts quickly, how to interrupt the pattern, and exactly what to say to reframe your mindset back to peace and power.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
What would you do if you truly believed anything was possible for you? In this episode, we explore how to shift your mindset from “What if?” to “Why not?” and tap into the power of limitless possibility. Whether you're facing self-doubt, feeling stuck, or just need a reminder that you have the ability to create your dream life, this episode will help you break through the mental barriers that hold you back from reaching your full potential.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
You’re not average — but your results might be. And it’s not because you’re lazy, unmotivated, or unclear. In this episode, we’re breaking down the quiet ways high achievers sabotage their success: from half-committing, to making micro-excuses, to hiding from their own greatness. You’ll learn why driven people often fear being average — but also resist believing they’re extraordinary. If you’ve been feeling stuck at a plateau or tired of getting “meh” results that don’t reflect your potential, this conversation will light a fire under you.It’s time to rewire how you show up — and finally start getting the results that match who you really are.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
You’re not average — but your results might be. And it’s not because you’re lazy, unmotivated, or unclear. In this episode, we’re breaking down the quiet ways high achievers sabotage their success: from half-committing, to making micro-excuses, to hiding from their own greatness.
You’ll learn why driven people often fear being average — but also resist believing they’re extraordinary. If you’ve been feeling stuck at a plateau or tired of getting “meh” results that don’t reflect your potential, this conversation will light a fire under you.
It’s time to rewire how you show up — and finally start getting the results that match who you really are.
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If you’ve ever felt like consistency is hard for you—like you’re on fire for a few days and then fizzle out—this episode is your roadmap. In today’s show, I’m breaking down the three mindset shifts that make consistency feel natural, not forced. Learn how knowing your “why,” identifying your future self, and eliminating the option to quit can radically simplify the process of showing up every day.
Plus, I’ll share examples from my own routine and client wins that prove: consistency isn’t a personality trait—it’s a decision.
👉 Listen in and take the guesswork out of sticking with your goals.
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Are you constantly busy yet feel like you're spinning your wheels? Do your days end with a sense of exhaustion, but without meaningful progress on your most important goals? If this resonates, you're not alone.
In this episode, we delve into the common experience of high achievers who find themselves:
- Overwhelmed by endless to-do lists
- Avoiding significant tasks due to fear or perfectionism
- Feeling stuck despite constant activity
- Experiencing a disconnect between effort and fulfillment
We'll explore the underlying reasons for this cycle, including the psychological impacts of chronic stress and the societal pressures that perpetuate busyness as a badge of honor.
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Are you playing small, editing yourself for approval, or holding back from showing up online?
This episode is your confidence boost to break free from fear, be yourself unapologetically, and show up boldly in your life and business. Learn how to build social media confidence, express your opinions with clarity, and let yourself be fully seen—messy, real, and radiant.
You’ll learn:
- How to stop overthinking your online presence
- The real reason you're afraid of being visible
- Daily habits to grow your confidence muscle
- Affirmations and mindset tools to stop shrinking and start shining
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Your self-talk shapes your self-confidence — and if your inner voice is harsh, critical, or negative, it’s time to change that. Inside this episode:
• How to stop believing the mean girl voice in your head
• Real-life examples to help you rewire your daily thinking
• Why most people never change their self-talk — and how you can
Get ready to think better, speak to yourself with more kindness, and feel more confident than ever — starting today.
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Do you ever feel paralyzed by the fear of being judged? Or catch yourself judging others even when you don't mean to? Both sides of judgment—being judged and being the judger—can quietly erode your confidence.
Let’s be honest—being judged hurts. And judging others…well, sometimes it’s just a knee-jerk reaction we don’t even realize we’re doing. But here’s the truth: both receiving judgment and giving it out are confidence killers.
In today’s episode, we’re exploring what happens to our inner confidence when judgment—ours or someone else’s—gets loud. I’m going to coach you on how to protect your peace, stop overthinking what people think, and step into a mindset that gives others grace while staying grounded in your worth.
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Confidence in conversation is a skill — not a personality trait — and in this episode, you’ll learn exactly how to talk to anyone, anywhere, with confidence and ease. Whether you struggle with small talk, freeze in social settings, or just want to upgrade your people skills, this episode breaks down the mindset hacks and talking tips you need to shine.
Inside this episode, you'll learn:
• How to stop overthinking conversations
• Go-to phrases to start or carry a conversation
• What confident people do differently in social interactions
• How to feel good talking to anyone — even intimidating people
You were made to connect — and this episode will show you how to do it without fear.
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In a world where everyone seems to have an opinion about how you raise your kids—from social media to the school pickup line—it’s no wonder so many parents feel like they’re not doing enough or doing it "wrong."
In this episode, we’re unpacking the silent confidence battles most parents face: the fear of judgment, the trap of overthinking, and the constant comparison game.
You'll walk away feeling less alone, more equipped, and reminded that you don’t need to be perfect—you just need to be present.
This isn't just for parents though, as the fear of judgement affects everyone.
Let’s quiet the noise, reclaim your confidence, and trust that you are the right parent for your child.
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What’s the difference between being kind… and being nice?
If you’ve ever found yourself people-pleasing, avoiding conflict, or trying to “keep the peace” even when it costs you your authenticity—this episode is for you.
We’re talking about kindness versus niceness. Two words that sound similar, but are wildly different in how they impact your confidence, your boundaries, your relationships, and your self-respect.
If you’ve ever caught yourself over-apologizing, saying yes when you really mean no, avoiding conflict, or trying to keep everyone else happy—this episode is your invitation to pause and ask:
👉 Am I being kind… or am I just being nice?
Niceness often comes from fear—fear of rejection, fear of disappointing people, fear of not being liked.
But kindness—real kindness—is rooted in courage, clarity, and compassion.
Kindness might say no.
Kindness might speak up.
Kindness doesn’t always feel good in the moment, but it’s always rooted in truth and respect—for others and for yourself.
We’re going to talk about the difference, why “being nice” is often a confidence trap, how to detox from people-pleasing, and how to step into strong, gracious, authentic kindness—without losing your softness, your generosity, or your beautiful heart.
This episode is for the woman who’s done being walked on.
It’s for the woman who’s tired of playing small.
And it’s for the woman who knows there’s more to life than just being liked.
So grab a notebook, pour that second cup of coffee, and let’s shift some narratives together—because today, you’re going to start showing up in a new way… one rooted in confidence, courage, and kindness that actually transforms lives—starting with your own.
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Your thoughts shape your reality—but what if the thoughts you’ve been thinking aren’t actually true? In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're breaking down the life-changing power of reframing—the simple yet strategic mindset shift that helps you take control of negativity, reduce overthinking, and build unstoppable self-belief.
You'll learn how to identify thought patterns that keep you stuck, how to flip the script in real time, and how to start creating thoughts that empower rather than limit you.
Whether you’re battling self-doubt, imposter syndrome, or just ready to stop being so hard on yourself—this episode is for you.
The Reframe Formula:
- Notice the thought
- Name the feeling
- Neutralize the judgment
- Nurture a new narrative
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If you've ever felt disconnected from your body or caught in a cycle of self-doubt, you’re definitely not alone.
In today’s episode, we’re doing a special Q&A on body confidence, where I’ll be answering your most pressing questions on how to embrace the body you’re in and step into the confidence that’s always been within you. We’ll talk about practical ways to shift your mindset, let go of comparison, and silence that inner critic.
It’s time to stop letting self-doubt hold you back, and instead, start honoring and celebrating the amazing body you have. So grab a cup of coffee, get comfy, and let’s dive into today’s episode—I promise you won’t want to miss this one!"
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Pressure can either crush you or bring out your best—and the difference comes down to confidence. In this episode, we’re talking about how to stay calm, clear, and confident even in high-stakes situations. Whether you're stepping into competition, facing a big career moment, or just dealing with the everyday pressures of life, I’ll walk you through practical mindset shifts and confidence strategies that actually work.
🎧 Press play now to learn:
✅ Why most people lose confidence under pressure (and how to avoid it)
✅ The mindset shift that instantly makes pressure feel easier
✅ Practical strategies to perform at your best—even when the stakes are high
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If you’ve ever thought, I’ll feel confident once I have more experience or Other people are just naturally confident, and I’m not—you’re not alone. But here’s the truth: confidence isn’t about being fearless, perfect, or having it all together. It’s about recognizing and rewriting the sneaky lies that are keeping you stuck.
In this episode, we’re breaking down the five biggest confidence-killing lies, why you keep believing them, and—most importantly—how to replace them with thoughts that will actually help you feel as confident as you deserve to be. Get ready for a mindset shift that will change the way you see yourself, your success, and your potential.
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In this special listener Q&A episode, I’m answering your biggest questions about confidence—straight from real, high-achieving women just like you. From overcoming imposter syndrome to trusting yourself in big decisions, breaking free from people-pleasing, and building unshakable self-belief, we’re tackling it all.
Whether you struggle with self-doubt in your career, fear of failure, or body confidence, this episode is packed with practical strategies and mindset shifts to help you show up boldly, own your worth, and take action—even when you don’t feel ready.
If you’ve ever wondered, How can I stop overthinking and start believing in myself? or How do I finally stop comparing myself to others?—this episode is for you. Tune in and get ready to step into the most confident version of yourself!
💬 Got a confidence question for a future episode? Send it my way! Let’s keep this conversation going.
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In today’s episode, we’re talking about something that can feel a little scary: letting people have their own opinions about you—even if those opinions are negative. It’s totally okay for people to think whatever they want, and today, I’m going to show you how you can be confident no matter what others think!
Here’s what we’ll cover:
- Why it’s okay for people to have negative thoughts about you (and why it doesn’t mean something is wrong with you)
- How letting go of the need for everyone to like you can set you free
- Practical tips for feeling confident, even if you’re worried about being judged
- How to focus on being yourself and stop worrying about what others think
If you’re ready to feel more confident and less stressed about judgment, this episode is for you! Tune in and let’s dive into how to let go of the fear of other people’s opinions and start living your best life.
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⚡️POWER PHRASE PYRAMID⚡️
We all do it: I’ll be happy when I lose the weight. When I hit six figures. When I find the right person. When I get that promotion. But then, the moment arrives… and happiness still feels out of reach. Why? In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we’re unpacking the hidden confidence-killer of conditional happiness and how to break free from the “next-goal” trap.
You’ll learn the surprising reason why success doesn’t always equal joy, a simple daily shift that rewires your brain for lasting happiness, and how to stop feeling guilty for wanting more. Plus, we’ll talk about the “must be nice” mindset and how you can step into abundance—right where you are. If you’ve ever felt like happiness is just one more achievement away, this episode will change everything.
What You’ll Learn in Today’s Episode:
✅ Why achieving more won’t automatically make you happier
✅ How the “next goal” mindset is actually stealing your confidence
✅ A simple 3-minute daily shift to start feeling fulfilled now
✅ The secret to breaking free from the “must be nice” comparison trap
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⚡️POWER PHRASE PYRAMID⚡️
🔺TOP LEVEL (Ultimate Breakthrough Thought)
✨ I don’t have to wait for happiness—I create it now.
🔹MIDDLE LEVEL (Empowering Core Beliefs)
- My joy is not dependent on achievements.
- Confidence comes from presence, not pressure.
- Success without inner peace is not success at all.
- I allow myself to want more without guilt.
- I already have everything I need to feel fulfilled today.
🔻BOTTOM LEVEL (Daily Affirmations & Mindset Shifts)
- I am enough right now, as I am.
- I choose gratitude over dissatisfaction.
- I celebrate progress, not just results.
- Happiness is in the present, not the next milestone.
- I define success on my own terms.
Ever feel like people are constantly watching, judging, or keeping score of everything you do? Spoiler alert: they’re not. The truth is, nobody is thinking about you as much as you think they are—and when you fully embrace this, you’ll unlock a whole new level of confidence and freedom.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we’re diving deep into The Nobody Cares Theory—a game-changing mindset shift that will help you stop overthinking, take action without fear, and finally start showing up as your most confident self.
What You’ll Learn in Today’s Episode:
✅ The real reason people aren’t thinking about you as much as you believe
✅ How to stop overanalyzing and start taking bold action
✅ Daily confidence exercises to break free from self-doubt
✅ Power phrases to remind yourself that you’re free to be YOU
✅ Why shifting this one belief will change the way you live, work, and show up in the world
Get the transcript and full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/640
📌 ANXIETY NEUTRALIZATION TECHNIQUE: www.trishblackwell.com/anxiety 🎉STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK [THE NEW COURSE!] www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
🤑 THE FULLY BOOKED LIFE COACH METHOD, 75% Off! Limited Time! www.trishblackwell.com/fullybooked
🧠 THE NARRATIVE INTELLIGENCE BUNDLE www.trishblackwell.com/nq
🔥COMPARISON DETOX, Newly released!!! On sale now! www.trishblackwell.com/comparisondetox
💊DETOX YOUR SELF-DOUBT, Curently 98% Off, just $27 www.trishblackwell.com/selfdoubtdetox
📂THE 3|3|3 METHOD, FREE DOWNLOAD! www.trishblackwell.com/333method
✅ ACCELERATE YOUR CONFIDENCE, RISK-FREE:
Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com
🆓 FREE TRAINING: "HOW TO FEEL GOOD ENOUGH" Grab instant, free access at www.trishblackwell.com/goodenough
❤️ABUNDANT AND ACCELERATED, 3-month 1:1 program with Trish, find out more at www.trishblackwell.com/abundant
📓GET THE "JOURNAL MASTERY BUNDLE" for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/journalmasterybundle
🎉 7-DAY SELF-TALK / SELF -VALIDATION CHALLENGE, for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/validate
✅ STAY CONNECTED.
👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/
👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching
⚡️POWER PHRASE PYRAMID⚡️
People are too busy to judge me.
I refuse to overthink my own life.
They’ll forget—I might as well go for it.
I act boldly because nobody cares.
Fear of judgment won’t run my life.
Are you filling your days or truly fulfilling your life? In this episode, we’re diving into the difference between living bigand just staying busy. You’ll learn how to break free from the hustle mindset, prioritize what actually matters, and create a life that feels expansive, not exhausting. If you’re ready to step into more purpose, joy, and intentionality, this episode is for you!
If you’ve ever felt stuck in the hustle, like you’re doing a lot but not really living, you’re not alone. Somewhere along the way, we’ve been conditioned to believe that being busy is the same as being successful. That the more we do, the more valuable we are. But what if that’s a lie? What if busyness is actually the biggest distraction from living the life you’re meant for?
So if you’re tired of feeling overwhelmed, if you’re ready to stop filling your days and start actually fulfilling your purpose, this episode is for you. Let’s get into it.
In this episode, we’ll talk about:
✔ Why so many people get stuck in the trap of always being on the go
✔ The key shifts that will help you live more intentionally
✔ How to redefine success so that your life feels expansive, not exhausting.
You don’t have to stay stuck in frustration. You don’t have to let disappointment define you. You have more power than you think—and today, I’m going to show you how to take it back.
Get the transcript and full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/639
📌 ANXIETY NEUTRALIZATION TECHNIQUE: www.trishblackwell.com/anxiety 🎉STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK [THE NEW COURSE!] www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
🤑 THE FULLY BOOKED LIFE COACH METHOD, 75% Off! Limited Time! www.trishblackwell.com/fullybooked
🧠 THE NARRATIVE INTELLIGENCE BUNDLE www.trishblackwell.com/nq
🔥COMPARISON DETOX, Newly released!!! On sale now! www.trishblackwell.com/comparisondetox
💊DETOX YOUR SELF-DOUBT, Curently 98% Off, just $27 www.trishblackwell.com/selfdoubtdetox
📂THE 3|3|3 METHOD, FREE DOWNLOAD! www.trishblackwell.com/333method
✅ ACCELERATE YOUR CONFIDENCE, RISK-FREE:
Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com
🆓 FREE TRAINING: "HOW TO FEEL GOOD ENOUGH" Grab instant, free access at www.trishblackwell.com/goodenough
❤️ABUNDANT AND ACCELERATED, 3-month 1:1 program with Trish, find out more at www.trishblackwell.com/abundant
📓GET THE "JOURNAL MASTERY BUNDLE" for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/journalmasterybundle
🎉 7-DAY SELF-TALK / SELF -VALIDATION CHALLENGE, for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/validate
✅ STAY CONNECTED.
👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/
👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching
⚡️POWER PHRASE PYRAMID⚡️
I define success on my own terms.
I make space for what truly matters.
I choose a BIG life, not just a full calendar.
Life isn’t always fair. And if you’ve ever felt like you got the short end of the stick, this episode is for you.
So, what if the thing you’re most afraid of—failing—is actually the thing that’s going to push you to your next level?In today’s episode, we’re breaking down the power of failure—why it’s not the enemy, but your greatest teacher. By the end, you’ll know exactly how to reframe failure, learn from it, and use it to fuel your success.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
If you’re ready to break free from catastrophic thinking and gain more peace and confidence, this episode is for you! Tune in and learn how to take control of your thoughts and create a healthier, more balanced mindset.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Do you feel like you’re one mistake away from being ‘found out’?Do you constantly worry that everyone around you will see you for the fraud you believe yourself to be?Or maybe you’ve caught yourself holding back, scared that if you speak up or make a mistake, the world will find out you don’t actually know what you’re doing. Guess what? You’re not the only one. And you might be surprised at how many of us are silently living under the pressure to be perfect—terrified of being 'found out.'Have you ever caught yourself thinking, 'What if they find out I don’t really know what I’m doing?'You’re not alone.In today's episode, we're pulling back the curtain on impostor syndrome, self-pressure, and the fear of being exposed.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Embarrassment is something we’ve all experienced—those moments when the spotlight feels a little too bright, and you wish you could disappear. But what if feeling embarrassed wasn’t something to fear but an opportunity for growth and connection? In this episode, we’ll dive deep into understanding embarrassment and how to handle it with confidence and grace.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Dating doesn’t have to be overwhelming or filled with self-doubt—it can be exciting, empowering, and confidence-boosting when you approach it with the right mindset. In this episode, we’re breaking down the essentials of dating with confidence.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Today, we’re diving deep into how to shift from reactive to proactive—how to take action, plan intentionally, and live with purpose. By the end of this episode, you’ll have three clear strategies to make proactivity your new superpower.It’s time to stop waiting for life to happen and start making it happen. Let’s do this!✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Do you ever have those moments when you catch a glimpse of yourself and think, 'Ugh, why do I look like this?' Or worse, when you spiral into comparison mode, scrolling through perfect social media photos and wondering if you’ll ever measure up. Well, spoiler alert: you don’t need to measure up to anyone, because your worth is already infinite.In this episode, we’re diving deep into why we sometimes feel this way, how societal standards and overthinking play into it, and most importantly, how to stop letting these feelings control you. Whether it’s by shifting your focus, building daily habits that affirm your value, or embracing the beautiful quirks that make you, you, we’ve got practical strategies to help you move past the insecurities. ✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
If you’ve ever found yourself second-guessing your abilities, overthinking every decision, or struggling to find the courage you once had, you are not alone. Today, we’re uncovering the truth about why confidence can feel lost and giving you the exact tools to rebuild it—step by step.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Have you ever felt crushed by someone else’s words? Maybe it was a bully from your past, a toxic co-worker, or even just someone who was having a bad day and decided to take it out on you. It’s tough, isn’t it? Those moments can leave us feeling small, second-guessing ourselves, or even spiraling into worst-case scenarios. In today’s episode, we’re diving deep into the messy world of bullies, mean people, and catastrophizing. We’re going to break it all down—how to handle the hurt, why some people act the way they do, and most importantly, how to stop letting their words and actions take up so much space in your head. But that’s not all—we’re also going to tackle that sneaky little habit so many of us fall into: catastrophizing. You know, that thing where you convince yourself that one awkward conversation or one bad day means your whole life is falling apart. Sound familiar? You’re not alone. By the end of this episode, you’re going to walk away feeling lighter, more in control, and armed with the tools to rise above negativity—whether it’s from other people or your own mind.So grab your coffee, throw on your sneakers, or settle into your favorite spot. We’re about to get real, raw, and ridiculously empowering. ✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Are you tired of questioning whether you measure up? Do you find yourself constantly comparing your life, your work, or even your worth to others? And what would it feel like to finally believe that who you are, right now, is enough? How do we measure "good enough" anyways? And we're not just talking about it in general, like "you're good enough", but what is "good enough" in work, in friendships, in your fitness, in life? How do you know if you're doing enough? How do you know if you're settling? How do you know if you're living life in such a way that you can relax and truly be proud of yourself? Welcome to The Confidence Podcast, where we dive deep into the heart of self-worth, identity, and unshakable confidence. In today’s episode, we’re breaking down the lies that keep you stuck in self-doubt and replacing them with truth and actionable steps to own your enough-ness.Whether you’ve been chasing perfection or struggling with feeling "not quite there yet," this conversation will give you clarity, freedom, and confidence like never before.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Do you look around at other people's lives and wonder why they're happier than you, or least they appear to be? Have you ever said "Must be nice?" about someone who seems to do cool things with their life and you secretly wish you knew what you could do to make your life more exciting, but you feel stuck?✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
You're driven, and focused, but then life happens. You told yourself that you would be super consistent, but what are you supposed to do when there's a family crisis, when you get sick, or when you're just stretched too thin. This episode is going to offer simple hacks that will take you out of the overwhelm and fog that derails so many well-intentioned people and help you keep things simple, clear and progressively moving forward. ✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Do you want to be able to really love yourself, and your life, like, not just when things are going well for you or when you're getting external validation from others? This episode is for you. Look, I've been there … I put my worth and value, and my ability to love myself into the hands of what I couldn't control -- performance, affirmation, success and dating the right people. Ultimately, I loved myself when I got the positive feedback, but when I didn't, it felt like my world (and my worth) was caving in on me. You're not alone if you feel this way too, and in this episode I'm going to be coaching on exactly how to start the renovation process in your mind that will redesign how you think about yourself and how you feel about yourself, and about your life.
Get the full show notes and transcript at:
www.trishblackwell.com/625
📌 ANXIETY NEUTRALIZATION TECHNIQUE: www.trishblackwell.com/anxiety 🎉STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK [THE NEW COURSE!] www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
🤑 THE FULLY BOOKED LIFE COACH METHOD, 75% Off! Limited Time! www.trishblackwell.com/fullybooked
🧠 THE NARRATIVE INTELLIGENCE BUNDLE www.trishblackwell.com/nq
🔥COMPARISON DETOX, Newly released!!! On sale now! www.trishblackwell.com/comparisondetox
💊DETOX YOUR SELF-DOUBT, Curently 98% Off, just $27 www.trishblackwell.com/selfdoubtdetox
📂THE 3|3|3 METHOD, FREE DOWNLOAD! www.trishblackwell.com/333method
✅ ACCELERATE YOUR CONFIDENCE, RISK-FREE:
Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com
🆓 FREE TRAINING: "HOW TO FEEL GOOD ENOUGH" Grab instant, free access at www.trishblackwell.com/goodenough
❤️ABUNDANT AND ACCELERATED, 3-month 1:1 program with Trish, find out more at www.trishblackwell.com/abundant
📓GET THE "JOURNAL MASTERY BUNDLE" for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/journalmasterybundle
🎉 7-DAY SELF-TALK / SELF -VALIDATION CHALLENGE, for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/validate
✅ STAY CONNECTED.
👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/
👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching
⚡️ POWER PHRASE PYRAMID ⚡️
Top Thought: "I am becoming someone who loves their life - and all the ups and downs that make it up."
Medium Thought: "I like my life and I like myself: the best is yet to come."
Beginner Thought: "I am becoming someone who loves their life - and all the ups and downs that make it up."
🗣️Work your thoughts and your self-talk, grab access to Self-Talk Reset at www.trishblackwell.com/selftalk
Have you always wanted to ask me a question?
In this episode we talk about:
- How to advance in your career without sacrificing your close connection to your children?
- How to not be afraid of making the wrong decision...
- How to make big decisions in life without feeling overwhelmed, anxious and like you're second-guessing myself?
- How to stay confident after disappointments and failures, and it feels like nothing is working?
- What to do if you have high anxiety and feel unsettled in the workplace?
- How do you know if you should have boundaries and when it's time to move on from a job?
www.trishblackwell.com/624
📌 ANXIETY NEUTRALIZATION TECHNIQUE: www.trishblackwell.com/anxiety 🎉STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK [THE NEW COURSE!] www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
🤑 THE FULLY BOOKED LIFE COACH METHOD, 75% Off! Limited Time! www.trishblackwell.com/fullybooked
🧠 THE NARRATIVE INTELLIGENCE BUNDLE www.trishblackwell.com/nq
🔥COMPARISON DETOX, Newly released!!! On sale now! www.trishblackwell.com/comparisondetox
💊DETOX YOUR SELF-DOUBT, Curently 98% Off, just $27 www.trishblackwell.com/selfdoubtdetox
📂THE 3|3|3 METHOD, FREE DOWNLOAD! www.trishblackwell.com/333method
✅ ACCELERATE YOUR CONFIDENCE, RISK-FREE:
Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com
🆓 FREE TRAINING: "HOW TO FEEL GOOD ENOUGH" Grab instant, free access at www.trishblackwell.com/goodenough
❤️ABUNDANT AND ACCELERATED, 3-month 1:1 program with Trish, find out more at www.trishblackwell.com/abundant
📓GET THE "JOURNAL MASTERY BUNDLE" for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/journalmasterybundle
🎉 7-DAY SELF-TALK / SELF -VALIDATION CHALLENGE, for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/validate
✅ STAY CONNECTED.
👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/
👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching
🗣️Work your thoughts and your self-talk, grab access to Self-Talk Reset at www.trishblackwell.com/selftalk
Have you always wanted to ask me a question? Do you have burning questions about confidence that you just don't know who or how to ask? Do you wonder what other people want to know about confidence? Today’s episode is extra special because it’s all about YOU! That’s right, we’re tackling your listener-submitted questions. From how to handle self-doubt to building unshakeable confidence in everyday situations, we’re covering the topics you care most about. So get ready for some real talk, actionable tips, and a whole lot of inspiration.
www.trishblackwell.com/623
📌 ANXIETY NEUTRALIZATION TECHNIQUE: www.trishblackwell.com/anxiety 🎉STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK [THE NEW COURSE!] www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
🤑 THE FULLY BOOKED LIFE COACH METHOD, 75% Off! Limited Time! www.trishblackwell.com/fullybooked
🧠 THE NARRATIVE INTELLIGENCE BUNDLE www.trishblackwell.com/nq
🔥COMPARISON DETOX, Newly released!!! On sale now! www.trishblackwell.com/comparisondetox
💊DETOX YOUR SELF-DOUBT, Curently 98% Off, just $27 www.trishblackwell.com/selfdoubtdetox
📂THE 3|3|3 METHOD, FREE DOWNLOAD! www.trishblackwell.com/333method
✅ ACCELERATE YOUR CONFIDENCE, RISK-FREE:
Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com
🆓 FREE TRAINING: "HOW TO FEEL GOOD ENOUGH" Grab instant, free access at www.trishblackwell.com/goodenough
❤️ABUNDANT AND ACCELERATED, 3-month 1:1 program with Trish, find out more at www.trishblackwell.com/abundant
📓GET THE "JOURNAL MASTERY BUNDLE" for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/journalmasterybundle
🎉 7-DAY SELF-TALK / SELF -VALIDATION CHALLENGE, for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/validate
✅ STAY CONNECTED.
👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/
👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching
🗣️Work your thoughts and your self-talk, grab access to Self-Talk Reset at www.trishblackwell.com/selftalk
Do you want to know the secret to overcoming any obstacle that comes your way? It's not talent, luck, or resources - it's GRIT, or mental toughness! In this podcast, I'm coaching on the power of grit and how it can help you develop the resilience and determination you need to achieve your goals. I'll share some strategies and techniques to help you develop mental toughness, overcome obstacles, and achieve your goals. From building resilience to managing stress and anxiety, I'm going to cover it all. The truth is that you cannot become mentally tough doing comfortable or easy things. Mental toughness is what allows us to turn our doubt into motivation. After you listen to this podcast, you're going to want to take massive action on doing those hard things that you have been putting off, guaranteed.
Get the full show notes and transcript at:
www.trishblackwell.com/622
📌 ANXIETY NEUTRALIZATION TECHNIQUE: www.trishblackwell.com/anxiety 🎉STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK [THE NEW COURSE!] www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
🤑 THE FULLY BOOKED LIFE COACH METHOD, 75% Off! Limited Time! www.trishblackwell.com/fullybooked
🧠 THE NARRATIVE INTELLIGENCE BUNDLE www.trishblackwell.com/nq
🔥COMPARISON DETOX, Newly released!!! On sale now! www.trishblackwell.com/comparisondetox
💊DETOX YOUR SELF-DOUBT, Curently 98% Off, just $27 www.trishblackwell.com/selfdoubtdetox
📂THE 3|3|3 METHOD, FREE DOWNLOAD! www.trishblackwell.com/333method
✅ ACCELERATE YOUR CONFIDENCE, RISK-FREE:
Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com
🆓 FREE TRAINING: "HOW TO FEEL GOOD ENOUGH" Grab instant, free access at www.trishblackwell.com/goodenough
❤️ABUNDANT AND ACCELERATED, 3-month 1:1 program with Trish, find out more at www.trishblackwell.com/abundant
📓GET THE "JOURNAL MASTERY BUNDLE" for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/journalmasterybundle
🎉 7-DAY SELF-TALK / SELF -VALIDATION CHALLENGE, for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/validate
✅ STAY CONNECTED.
👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/
👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching
⚡️ POWER PHRASE PYRAMID ⚡️
Top Thought: "I don't stop until I get what I want."
Medium Thought: "I am gritty."
Beginner Thought: "I can do hard things. My effort and my willingness are my superpowers."
🗣️Work your thoughts and your self-talk, grab access to Self-Talk Reset at www.trishblackwell.com/selftalk
Do you take things too personally? Or perhaps do you over-personalize things that aren't going well and over-compensate? Are you afraid of feedback because you know that you tend to take constructive criticism way too intensely.
This is something we all deal with…haters, critics, and feedback we don't like— and today I'm giving teaching how to rise above the negativity and opinions of others. If you’ve ever felt weighed down by what people say behind your back or let their criticism steal your joy, then this episode is for you.
It's time to develop a thicker skin, and we're going to talk about exactly how.
Get the full show notes and transcript at:
www.trishblackwell.com/621
📌 ANXIETY NEUTRALIZATION TECHNIQUE: www.trishblackwell.com/anxiety 🎉STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK [THE NEW COURSE!] www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
🤑 THE FULLY BOOKED LIFE COACH METHOD, 75% Off! Limited Time! www.trishblackwell.com/fullybooked
🧠 THE NARRATIVE INTELLIGENCE BUNDLE www.trishblackwell.com/nq
🔥COMPARISON DETOX, Newly released!!! On sale now! www.trishblackwell.com/comparisondetox
💊DETOX YOUR SELF-DOUBT, Curently 98% Off, just $27 www.trishblackwell.com/selfdoubtdetox
📂THE 3|3|3 METHOD, FREE DOWNLOAD! www.trishblackwell.com/333method
✅ ACCELERATE YOUR CONFIDENCE, RISK-FREE:
Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com
✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK
Don't forget to sign up for our free "How to Stop Caring What People Think" webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
🆓 FREE TRAINING: "HOW TO FEEL GOOD ENOUGH" Grab instant, free access at www.trishblackwell.com/goodenough
❤️ABUNDANT AND ACCELERATED, 3-month 1:1 program with Trish, find out more at www.trishblackwell.com/abundant
📓GET THE "JOURNAL MASTERY BUNDLE" for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/journalmasterybundle
🎉 7-DAY SELF-TALK / SELF -VALIDATION CHALLENGE, for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/validate
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⚡️ POWER PHRASE PYRAMID ⚡️
Top Thought: "Resistance and friction make me better and better."
Medium Thought: "I can turn all criticism into constructive feedback."
Beginner Thought: "Feedback is a good thing and I am developing a thick skin that will help me go to the next level."
🗣️Work your thoughts and your self-talk, grab access to Self-Talk Reset at www.trishblackwell.com/selftalk
You're a doer, and an achiever - you have high standards for yourself and you know that you're capable of so much. And you work hard. Like, really hard. So, when you make mistakes, especially avoidable mistakes, it hits you like. Like, super hard. You know it's okay to be human, but that's for other people - not for you, because, you have big goals and a ton of potential. I get it and if any of this resonated with you, this episode is for you. In this episode I'm going to be coaching on how to make more mistakes - but with confidence. What you hear today will help you let of mistakes more easily so that they no longer ruin your mood, your day or your week. We're also diving into how to leverage and increase your frustration tolerance to help you show up in the mistakes you do and will make with more authority.
Get the full show notes and transcript at:
www.trishblackwell.com/620
📌 ANXIETY NEUTRALIZATION TECHNIQUE: www.trishblackwell.com/anxiety 🎉STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK [THE NEW COURSE!] www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
🤑 THE FULLY BOOKED LIFE COACH METHOD, 75% Off! Limited Time! www.trishblackwell.com/fullybooked
🧠 THE NARRATIVE INTELLIGENCE BUNDLE www.trishblackwell.com/nq
🔥COMPARISON DETOX, Newly released!!! On sale now! www.trishblackwell.com/comparisondetox
💊DETOX YOUR SELF-DOUBT, Curently 98% Off, just $27 www.trishblackwell.com/selfdoubtdetox
📂THE 3|3|3 METHOD, FREE DOWNLOAD! www.trishblackwell.com/333method
✅ ACCELERATE YOUR CONFIDENCE, RISK-FREE:
Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com
✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK
Don't forget to sign up for our free "How to Stop Caring What People Think" webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
🆓 FREE TRAINING: "HOW TO FEEL GOOD ENOUGH" Grab instant, free access at www.trishblackwell.com/goodenough
❤️ABUNDANT AND ACCELERATED, 3-month 1:1 program with Trish, find out more at www.trishblackwell.com/abundant
📓GET THE "JOURNAL MASTERY BUNDLE" for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/journalmasterybundle
🎉 7-DAY SELF-TALK / SELF -VALIDATION CHALLENGE, for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/validate
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⚡️ POWER PHRASE PYRAMID ⚡️
Top Thought: "I use my mistakes to move me forward (in an accelerated and powerful way)."
Medium Thought: "Mistakes are opportunities for growth."
Beginner Thought: "I accept my humanity and give myself grace for mistakes."
🗣️Work your thoughts and your self-talk, grab access to Self-Talk Reset at www.trishblackwell.com/selftalk
Do you feel the pressure of too many expectations and too much to do? There's a tug-of-war between feeling like you're never "enough" in any role and a conflict in demand for your attention. You feel guilty all the time … mom guilt, not doing enough guilt, feeling inconsistent guilt, or maybe guilt about that cookie you just ate that wasn't on your planned eating for the day…the guilt is real (and you're not alone!). Look, you're balancing work, family, personal passions, and societal expectations. That's a lot. This episode will help air out the dirt cloud of guilt that feels like it is following you around all the time. I'm going to share exactly how to stop being so hard on yourself so you can start feeling better, starting today.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Do you feel the pressure of too many expectations and too much to do? There's a tug-of-war between feeling like you're never "enough" in any role and a conflict in demand for your attention. You feel guilty all the time … mom guilt, not doing enough guilt, feeling inconsistent guilt, or maybe guilt about that cookie you just ate that wasn't on your planned eating for the day…the guilt is real (and you're not alone!). Look, you're balancing work, family, personal passions, and societal expectations. That's a lot. This episode will help air out the dirt cloud of guilt that feels like is following you around all the time. I'm going to share exactly how to stop being so hard on yourself so you can start feeling better, starting today.
Get the full show notes and transcript at:
www.trishblackwell.com/619
📌 ANXIETY NEUTRALIZATION TECHNIQUE: www.trishblackwell.com/anxiety
🤑 THE FULLY BOOKED LIFE COACH METHOD, 75% Off! Limited Time! www.trishblackwell.com/fullybooked
🧠 THE NARRATIVE INTELLIGENCE BUNDLE www.trishblackwell.com/nq
🔥COMPARISON DETOX, Newly released!!! On sale now! www.trishblackwell.com/comparisondetox
💊DETOX YOUR SELF-DOUBT, Curently 98% Off, just $27 www.trishblackwell.com/selfdoubtdetox
📂THE 3|3|3 METHOD, FREE DOWNLOAD! www.trishblackwell.com/333method
✅ ACCELERATE YOUR CONFIDENCE, RISK-FREE:
Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com
✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK
Don't forget to sign up for our free "How to Stop Caring What People Think" webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
🆓 FREE TRAINING: "HOW TO FEEL GOOD ENOUGH" Grab instant, free access at www.trishblackwell.com/goodenough
❤️ABUNDANT AND ACCELERATED, 3-month 1:1 program with Trish, find out more at www.trishblackwell.com/abundant
📓GET THE "JOURNAL MASTERY BUNDLE" for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/journalmasterybundle
🎉 7-DAY SELF-TALK / SELF -VALIDATION CHALLENGE, for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/validate
✅ STAY CONNECTED.
👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/
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⚡️ POWER PHRASE PYRAMID ⚡️
Top Thought: "I am enough and I am doing enough.
Medium Thought: "I have outgrown beating myself up or putting pressure on myself." / "I choose peace, not pressure."
Beginner Thought: "I deserve the same kindness I give to others."
The things that are holding you back from what you most want aren't big things, and ya'll that 's good news. Consistency is the key to success, and if you've ever struggled with being consistent, or following through, this episode is going to help you. Most people have a hard time being consistent, and it makes sense: consistency can feel boring. Not only that, there are a 5 easy mistakes that people make (most of the time without realizing it) that destroys their ability to be consistent. You're going to learn what these mistakes are and how to know if you are making them. More importantly, you'll learn what to do and how to change if you are. My promise to you after you listen to this episode is that you will feel on fire to step up your consistency - and you'll know how to become someone who is massively consistent.
Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/618
📌 ANXIETY NEUTRALIZATION TECHNIQUE: www.trishblackwell.com/anxiety
🤑 THE FULLY BOOKED LIFE COACH METHOD, 75% Off! Limited Time! www.trishblackwell.com/fullybooked
🧠 THE NARRATIVE INTELLIGENCE BUNDLE www.trishblackwell.com/nq
🔥COMPARISON DETOX, Newly released!!! On sale now! www.trishblackwell.com/comparisondetox
💊DETOX YOUR SELF-DOUBT, Curently 98% Off, just $27 www.trishblackwell.com/selfdoubtdetox
📂THE 3|3|3 METHOD, FREE DOWNLOAD! www.trishblackwell.com/333method
✅ ACCELERATE YOUR CONFIDENCE, RISK-FREE:
Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com
✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK
Don't forget to sign up for our free "How to Stop Caring What People Think" webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
🆓 FREE TRAINING: "HOW TO FEEL GOOD ENOUGH" Grab instant, free access at www.trishblackwell.com/goodenough
❤️ABUNDANT AND ACCELERATED, 3-month 1:1 program with Trish, find out more at www.trishblackwell.com/abundant
📓GET THE "JOURNAL MASTERY BUNDLE" for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/journalmasterybundle
🎉 7-DAY SELF-TALK / SELF -VALIDATION CHALLENGE, for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/validate
✅ STAY CONNECTED.
👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/
👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching
⚡️ POWER PHRASE PYRAMID ⚡️
Top Thought: I do what I say I'm going to do.
Medium Thought: I am committed to doing little things with great consistency.
Beginner Thought:I am learning how to keep my promises to myself.
Rejection hurts. And the thing is, when we get rejected we also self-isolate and personalize the rejected state. This episode of The Confidence Podcast will help you know what to do to self-heal after the next rejection you experience (because let's be honest, you'll have them coming, we all do!) You can learn how to take every rejection and turn it into something good. This episode will teach you the steps how.
Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/617
📌 ANXIETY NEUTRALIZATION TECHNIQUE: www.trishblackwell.com/anxiety
🤑 THE FULLY BOOKED LIFE COACH METHOD, 75% Off! Limited Time! www.trishblackwell.com/fullybooked
🧠 THE NARRATIVE INTELLIGENCE BUNDLE www.trishblackwell.com/nq
🔥COMPARISON DETOX, Newly released!!! On sale now! www.trishblackwell.com/comparisondetox
💊DETOX YOUR SELF-DOUBT, Curently 98% Off, just $27 www.trishblackwell.com/selfdoubtdetox
📂THE 3|3|3 METHOD, FREE DOWNLOAD! www.trishblackwell.com/333method
✅ ACCELERATE YOUR CONFIDENCE, RISK-FREE:
Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com
✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK
Don't forget to sign up for our free "How to Stop Caring What People Think" webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
🆓 FREE TRAINING: "HOW TO FEEL GOOD ENOUGH" Grab instant, free access at www.trishblackwell.com/goodenough
❤️ABUNDANT AND ACCELERATED, 3-month 1:1 program with Trish, find out more at www.trishblackwell.com/abundant
📓GET THE "JOURNAL MASTERY BUNDLE" for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/journalmasterybundle
🎉 7-DAY SELF-TALK / SELF -VALIDATION CHALLENGE, for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/validate
✅ STAY CONNECTED.
👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/
👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching
⚡️ POWER PHRASE PYRAMID ⚡️
Top Thought | Rejection is part of my success.
Medium Thought:I can handle rejection without over-attaching to it or personalizing it.
Beginner Thought:Everyone gets rejected: I am okay.
Does your mind ever slip into a silent worry-zone about backsliding into your old habits or old patterns? You know, the kind of worry that you can't really talk to someone about because there's not really space in a conversation about it…but you worry about gaining the weight back, you worry about being awkward again like you were in middle school, you worry about losing your motivation or your vision…but it's weird because it's one of those things that you're afraid to talk about as if talking about it would make it reality?
Listen, I get it. This fear of regression is a narrative that my brain often offers to me and I've got an easy to implement strategy that will help you successfully talk back to the fear so that you can really believe and have confidence that you are not who you used to be -- and that your future self is only going to be more and more amazing.
Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/616
📌 ANXIETY NEUTRALIZATION TECHNIQUE: www.trishblackwell.com/anxiety
🤑 THE FULLY BOOKED LIFE COACH METHOD, 75% Off! Limited Time! www.trishblackwell.com/fullybooked
🧠 THE NARRATIVE INTELLIGENCE BUNDLE www.trishblackwell.com/nq
🔥COMPARISON DETOX, Newly released!!! On sale now! www.trishblackwell.com/comparisondetox
💊DETOX YOUR SELF-DOUBT, Curently 98% Off, just $27 www.trishblackwell.com/selfdoubtdetox
📂THE 3|3|3 METHOD, FREE DOWNLOAD! www.trishblackwell.com/333method
✅ ACCELERATE YOUR CONFIDENCE, RISK-FREE:
Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com
✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK
Don't forget to sign up for our free "How to Stop Caring What People Think" webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
🆓 FREE TRAINING: "HOW TO FEEL GOOD ENOUGH" Grab instant, free access at www.trishblackwell.com/goodenough
❤️ABUNDANT AND ACCELERATED, 3-month 1:1 program with Trish, find out more at www.trishblackwell.com/abundant
📓GET THE "JOURNAL MASTERY BUNDLE" for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/journalmasterybundle
🎉 7-DAY SELF-TALK / SELF -VALIDATION CHALLENGE, for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/validate
✅ STAY CONNECTED.
👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/
👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching
⚡️ POWER PHRASE PYRAMID ⚡️
Top Thought:I am getting better and better every day.
Medium Thought:I am committed to my continual growth and won't ever tire of self-reflection and personal improvement.
Beginner Thought:I am a product of my past and it has prepared me for the breakthroughs of my present.
Does it bother you when someone doesn't like you? Or maybe you struggle with decision making because you waffle back and forth between what you think you should do and what other people think you should do. Maybe you find yourself worrying about other people's opinions of you, even though you know it "shouldn't" matter, but you don't know how to not care. This episode of The Confidence Podcast will help you stop worrying about people's opinions so you can feel free to go be yourself and to create the life you want to live.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Does it bother you when someone doesn't like you? Or maybe you struggle with decision making because you waffle back and forth between what you think you should do and what other people think you should do. Maybe you find yourself worrying about other people's opinions of you, even though you know it "shouldn't" matter, but you don't know how to not care. This episode of The Confidence Podcast will help you stop worrying about people's opinions so you can feel free to go be yourself and to create the life you want to live.
Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/615
💡THE DREAM & DO PROJECT: 45-DAYS TO MASSIVE ACCELERATION www.trishblackwell.com/dream
📌 ANXIETY NEUTRALIZATION TECHNIQUE: www.trishblackwell.com/anxiety
🤑 THE FULLY BOOKED LIFE COACH METHOD, 75% Off! Limited Time! www.trishblackwell.com/fullybooked
🧠 THE NARRATIVE INTELLIGENCE BUNDLE www.trishblackwell.com/nq
🔥COMPARISON DETOX, Newly released!!! On sale now! www.trishblackwell.com/comparisondetox
💊DETOX YOUR SELF-DOUBT, Curently 98% Off, just $27 www.trishblackwell.com/selfdoubtdetox
📂THE 3|3|3 METHOD, FREE DOWNLOAD! www.trishblackwell.com/333method
✅ ACCELERATE YOUR CONFIDENCE, RISK-FREE:
Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com
✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK
Don't forget to sign up for our free "How to Stop Caring What People Think" webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
🆓 FREE TRAINING: "HOW TO FEEL GOOD ENOUGH" Grab instant, free access at www.trishblackwell.com/goodenough
❤️ABUNDANT AND ACCELERATED, 3-month 1:1 program with Trish, find out more at www.trishblackwell.com/abundant
📓GET THE "JOURNAL MASTERY BUNDLE" for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/journalmasterybundle
🎉 7-DAY SELF-TALK / SELF -VALIDATION CHALLENGE, for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/validate
✅ STAY CONNECTED.
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Feeling misunderstood or not supported by those close to you can feel isolating and hurtful. It can devastate your spirit and throw you into a spiral of resignation and depression. You are not alone, and the good news is that you don't actually need the support of other people in the way you think you do. The support you need comes first and foremost from within. I spent years of my life feeling misunderstood and like people in my life didn't quite support my big dreams or vision … but I pressed on because I learned these techniques that were taught to me. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're coaching on what to do when people in your life don't support you or understand you.
Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/614
💡THE DREAM & DO PROJECT: 45-DAYS TO MASSIVE ACCELERATION www.trishblackwell.com/dream
📌 ANXIETY NEUTRALIZATION TECHNIQUE: www.trishblackwell.com/anxiety
🤑 THE FULLY BOOKED LIFE COACH METHOD, 75% Off! Limited Time! www.trishblackwell.com/fullybooked
🧠 THE NARRATIVE INTELLIGENCE BUNDLE www.trishblackwell.com/nq
🔥COMPARISON DETOX, Newly released!!! On sale now! www.trishblackwell.com/comparisondetox
💊DETOX YOUR SELF-DOUBT, Curently 98% Off, just $27 www.trishblackwell.com/selfdoubtdetox
📂THE 3|3|3 METHOD, FREE DOWNLOAD! www.trishblackwell.com/333method
✅ ACCELERATE YOUR CONFIDENCE, RISK-FREE:
Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com
✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK
Don't forget to sign up for our free "How to Stop Caring What People Think" webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
🆓 FREE TRAINING: "HOW TO FEEL GOOD ENOUGH" Grab instant, free access at www.trishblackwell.com/goodenough
❤️ABUNDANT AND ACCELERATED, 3-month 1:1 program with Trish, find out more at www.trishblackwell.com/abundant
📓GET THE "JOURNAL MASTERY BUNDLE" for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/journalmasterybundle
🎉 7-DAY SELF-TALK / SELF -VALIDATION CHALLENGE, for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/validate
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Friendship as an adult can be hard. Everyone is busy, and you find yourself surrounded by co-workers who have nothing in common with you, or neighbors you don't like. You know you're great at friendship, and you love having a solid social group, but it feels like everyone you care most about is drifting and less available than ever before…busy pursuing a new relationship, starting a family or chasing a work career in a city that’s far away from you. You stay in touch, but it's just not the same. Or maybe you are surrounded by people, but you can't find "your people," you know, the group where you fit in and really feel like yourself and like you belong. The good news is that you're not alone, and that friendship doesn't have to be that hard. This episode will help you feel more confident in your proactive pursuit of being a social network that is right for you and that increases the satisfaction you feel in the day-to-day life you are living.
Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/613
📌 ANXIETY NEUTRALIZATION TECHNIQUE: www.trishblackwell.com/anxiety
🤑 THE FULLY BOOKED LIFE COACH METHOD, 75% Off! Limited Time! www.trishblackwell.com/fullybooked
🧠 THE NARRATIVE INTELLIGENCE BUNDLE www.trishblackwell.com/nq
🔥COMPARISON DETOX, Newly released!!! On sale now! www.trishblackwell.com/comparisondetox
💊DETOX YOUR SELF-DOUBT, Curently 98% Off, just $27 www.trishblackwell.com/selfdoubtdetox
📂THE 3|3|3 METHOD, FREE DOWNLOAD! www.trishblackwell.com/333method
✅ ACCELERATE YOUR CONFIDENCE, RISK-FREE:
Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com
✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK
Don't forget to sign up for our free "How to Stop Caring What People Think" webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
🆓 FREE TRAINING: "HOW TO FEEL GOOD ENOUGH" Grab instant, free access at www.trishblackwell.com/goodenough
❤️ABUNDANT AND ACCELERATED, 3-month 1:1 program with Trish, find out more at www.trishblackwell.com/abundant
📓GET THE "JOURNAL MASTERY BUNDLE" for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/journalmasterybundle
🎉 7-DAY SELF-TALK / SELF -VALIDATION CHALLENGE, for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/validate
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Anxiety used to rule my life. I woke up with it and went to bed with it. I felt like a prisoner to it. If you ever struggle with anxiety, this episode is for you. In the episode I'm going to teach you the two most effective techniques I have used that have enabled me to neutralize and have power over the anxious voice in my life. We're going to talk about management tools for those of us who are anxiety prone, and as someone with a history and intimate relationship with anxiety, I'm going to share some of my daily power phrases and affirmations that help me walk in peace and mute the voice of anxiety. ✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at https://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
If you've ever looked at someone else's life and thought to yourself, "must be nice," then this episode is going to fire you up about what is possible for you in your own life. The key isn't just to have a dream, but it's to believe that that dream is actually possible. It's only once you believe it's possible that you will have the drive and resilience to go build it and become it. Listen to this episode if you are ready to believe in the change you want - and the future of your dreams, and are ready to stop settling for less than is available to you. ✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
If you've ever looked at someone else's life and thought to yourself, "must be nice," then this episode is going to fire you up about the what is possible for you in your own life. The key isn't just to have a dream, but it's to believe that that dream is actually possible. It's only once you believe it's possible that you will have the drive and resilience to go build it and become it. Listen to this episode if you are ready to believe in the change you want - and the future of your dreams, and are ready to stop settling for less than is available to you.
Get the full show notes and transcript at www.trishblackwell.com/611
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Podcast #610CONFIDENCE FOR SALES AND FOR MAKING MORE MONEYEveryone sells something. We live in a world that operates on sales - selling ideas, selling products, selling personal opinions - and the more confidence you have, the better you will be at selling. In this episode I'm going to share the exact thoughts that will help you sell with confidence. The more confidence you have, the more you will sell. I'm going to pull back the curtain on the almost 20-years of sales training experience I have and share with you exactly how to have more confidence for anything you are selling.THE FULLY BOOKED LIFE COACH METHOD, 75% Off! Limited Time!www.trishblackwell.com/fullybookedTHE NARRATIVE INTELLIGENCE BUNDLEwww.trishblackwell.com/nqSales Confidence:Know the ins and outs of what you are selling exactly.Believe in what you're selling.Unleash your passion without fear of rejectionEmbrace rejection - you need "no's"I love sales. I didn't want to be in sales. I hated it.I just wanted to help people. I just wanted to personal train.I got good at sales because I decided to. I decided that my confidence would sell.You have to believe in what you're selling. Change your thoughts about sales.-It doesn't have to be icky.-Sales is service.-If you can sell, you will always have income and opportunity.-Sales is psychology - it's fun. Be Okay with Negative People:People say mean things to me and about me all the time.It's the cost of putting yourself out there.Hurt people hurt people.Get AttentionFor More Sales, You Need More Consults or More Traffic.It's a Number's Game. Be direct.Decide You Want More Money Money is simply a tool.It's okay to want. Know why you want it and what you will use it for.The more you work on your relationship with money - the more neutral you will be in selling or marketing whatever it is that you are selling.RESOURCES MENTIONED:www.trishblackwell.com/nq
Everyone sells something. We live in a world that operates on sales - selling ideas, selling products, selling personal opinions - and the more confidence you have, the better you will be at selling. In this episode I'm going to share the exact thoughts that will help you sell with confidence. The more confidence you have, the more you will sell. I'm going to pull back the curtain on the almost 20-years of sales training experience I have and share with you exactly how to have more confidence for anything you are selling.
Get the full show notes and transcript at www.trishblackwell.com/610
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If you've ever struggled with a deep desire to fit in, and yet at the same time you know that you also want to stand out, this is a podcast episode that you're going to love. As humans we're wired to be in community and to be connected with one another, and yet, we are each individually unique and created for a purpose that only we can activate and fulfill in this world. Your uniqueness and your difference is needed - but to live into your highest potential (and to be the difference-maker and world-changer I believe God made you to be), you have to be willing to be different, which requires not caring what people think. This episode will break down exactly how to have confidence in being different and how to unlock the freedom that comes with not caring what people think (while also still caring about people).✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
If you've ever worried about coming off arrogant instead of confident, this episode is for you. In this week's coaching I'm breaking apart the thought-pattern differences between arrogance and confidence so you can confidently navigate the grey line for yourself. If you are worried about being arrogant, you probably aren't - and you very well might be short selling and watering down the confident expression of yourself in the world. Learn the difference between confidence and arrogance, so you know exactly how to show up around others in a confident way…and we'll also be covering what to do about arrogant people - because let's face it, we all have to interact with them. You'll learn how to be unbothered and what their arrogance really means. ✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
If you want to have a happy and positive life, there's a small, toxic micro habit that you've got to start taking seriously. It seems innocent, and in many ways it's socially acceptable, but it's deteriorating your happiness from the inside out. The thing is, most of us don't intentionally do it, and when we do engage in it, we don't even realize how pervasively negative we are being. Remember this: negativity attracts negativity, and so allowing unmonitored, micro-negativity to run wild in your brain will snowball into larger, more burdensome negativity. Today we're talking about micro-complaining … how it sneaks into our thoughts and our conversations and what to do about it so that you can be and feel happier with your life.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
“Complaining is like bad breath. You notice it when it comes out of someone else's mouth, but not when it comes out of your own.” - Will Bowen
If you want to have a happy and positive life, there's a small, toxic micro habit that you've got to start taking seriously. It seems innocent, and in many ways it's socially acceptable, but it's deteriorating your happiness from the inside out. The thing is, most of us don't intentionally do it, and when we do engage in it, we don't even realize how pervasively negative we are being. Remember this: negativity attracts negativity, and so allowing unmonitored, micro-negativity to run wild in your brain will snowball into larger, more burdensome negativity. Today we're talking about micro-complaining … how it sneaks into our thoughts and our conversations and what to do about it so that you can be and feel happier with your life.
Get the full show notes and transcript at www.trishblackwell.com/607
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Don't forget to sign up for our free "How to Stop Caring What People Think" webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
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If you ever feel insecure around other women - or find yourself comparing yourself when you're in groups of other women, this podcast is for you. Maybe you turn down social opportunities, or you just don't get along with female coworkers or you just feel more comfortable around guys than you do girls … this episode is for you. The truth is, there are a lot of women who feel insecure around other women. From the pressure to impress and the culture of comparison and competition, to the pervasive thoughts of exclusion and inferiority, there's pressure when women gather. The good news is that there is a way to break the pattern and to disrupt this limiting pattern of thinking that makes you play small, or show up awkward, when you don't need to do anything but be the magnificent version of you that you are. ✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
If you ever feel insecure around other women - or find yourself comparing over-analyzing yourself when you're in groups of other women, this podcast is for you. Maybe you turn down social opportunities, or you just don't get along with female coworkers or you just feel more comfortable around guys than you do girls … this episode is for you. The truth is, there are a lot of women who feel insecure around other women. From the pressure to impress and the culture of comparison and competition, to the pervasive thoughts of exclusion and inferiority, there's pressure when women gather. The good news is that there is a way to break the pattern and to disrupt this limiting pattern of thinking that making you play small, or show up awkward, when you don't need to do anything but be the magnificent version of you that you are.
Get the full show notes and transcript at www.trishblackwell.com/606
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This episode of The Confidence Podcast will give you a better understanding of ghosting, why it happens and how not to personalize it, and more importantly, how to deal with it without letting it negatively impact your social confidence.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Getting ghosted hurts. When someone stops talking to you without saying why. When the texts are never returned or you get the cold shoulder in person. I've been hurt by it and I'm sure you have too. The more our culture becomes integrated into technology, the more normalized and easy ghosting has become. This episode of The Confidence Podcast will give you a better understanding of ghosting, why it happens and how not to personalize it, and more importantly, how to deal with it without letting it negatively impact your social confidence.
Get the full show notes and transcript at www.trishblackwell.com/605
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📓GET THE "JOURNAL MASTERY BUNDLE" for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/journalmasterybundle
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You asked, we answered! This episode of The Confidence Podcast is part two of a special listener-submitted podcast. ✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
You asked, we answered! This episode of The Confidence Podcast is part two of a special listener-submitted podcast. You'll hear the following questions answered (and more):
- How to do the right thing when others are doing the wrong thing?
- How to stay positive when doing things you don't want to do?
- Money and faith, what's the overlap?
- What to do if you're feeling behind in life?
- How to feel confident when you see your body changing and aging?
- Why do I feel insecure around other women and what can I do to change that?
- How to not internalize it when someone ghosts you?
Get the full show notes and transcript at www.trishblackwell.com/604
🔥COMPARISON DETOX, Newly released!!! On sale now! www.trishblackwell.com/comparisondetox
💊DETOX YOUR SELF-DOUBT, Curently 98% Off, just $27 www.trishblackwell.com/selfdoubtdetox
📂THE 3|3|3 METHOD, FREE DOWNLOAD! www.trishblackwell.com/333method
✅ ACCELERATE YOUR CONFIDENCE, RISK-FREE:
Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com
🆓 FREE TRAINING: "HOW TO FEEL GOOD ENOUGH" Grab instant, free access at www.trishblackwell.com/goodenough
❤️ABUNDANT AND ACCELERATED, 3-month 1:1 program with Trish, find out more at www.trishblackwell.com/abundant
📓GET THE "JOURNAL MASTERY BUNDLE" for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/journalmasterybundle
🎉 7-DAY SELF-TALK / SELF -VALIDATI ON CHALLENGE, for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/validate
✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK
Don't forget to sign up for our free "How to Stop Caring What People Think" webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
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You asked, we answered! This episode of The Confidence Podcast is a special listener-submitted podcast.
You asked, we answered! This episode of The Confidence Podcast is a special listener-submitted podcast. You'll hear the following questions answered (and more):
- What do you do when people don’t like your growth or success?
- How to not let others make you feel bad?
- How to handle situations where you feel left out?
- How to stay motivated when you don't see results?
- What if I'm not good enough to make it at the next level?
- Why do I feel so much anxiety and insecurity when auditioning for something?
Get the full show notes and transcript at www.trishblackwell.com/603
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Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com
🆓 FREE TRAINING: "HOW TO FEEL GOOD ENOUGH" Grab instant, free access at www.trishblackwell.com/goodenough
❤️ABUNDANT AND ACCELERATED, 3-month 1:1 program with Trish, find out more at www.trishblackwell.com/abundant
📓GET THE "JOURNAL MASTERY BUNDLE" for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/journalmasterybundle
🎉TAKE PART IN THE 7-DAY SELF-VALIDATION CHALLENGE, for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/validate
✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK
Don't forget to sign up for our free "How to Stop Caring What People Think" webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
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If you are the type of person to beat yourself up, this episode is for you. Does your mind play and replay a mistake or fumble you make when you do? Maybe this is something you said, something you did, or something you didn't do. You know the past is past, and that you can't change it, but something deep inside of you hopes that if you blame and shame yourself enough then you'll finally "do better'.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're going to talk about what to say to yourself when you make mistakes, and more importantly what not to say to yourself. You'll learn why mistakes are a good thing and a necessary thing in your growth journey.
Get the full show notes and transcript at www.trishblackwell.com/602
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Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com
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📓GET THE "JOURNAL MASTERY BUNDLE" for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/journalmasterybundle
🎉TAKE PART IN THE 7-DAY SELF-VALIDATION CHALLENGE, for just $7 at www.trishblackwell.com/validate
✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK
Don't forget to sign up for our free "How to Stop Caring What People Think" webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
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Maybe you find yourself overthinking social interactions or large group gatherings because you just aren't sure how to engage, how to start a conversation naturally, how to get out of one naturally or if anyone truly wants to talk to you, or you're the person waiting for the invite to the girl's night out or the group event, but you feel like you never get included and you're just not sure why. You're not alone, and you're not weird or broken or socially awkward … you're just human and in this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're diving exactly how to feel better, stop overthinking and show up better in social situations. ✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Have you ever been in a room full of people but felt like you didn't belong or that you were completely alone? Do you find yourself coming up with excuses to not attend a social event because you're not sure "it'll be worth it" or that people will notice or care if you attend or not? Maybe you love being around other people, and you're craving deeper relationships and friendships, but you find yourself overthinking every conversation you have and kicking yourself for not saying the right thing. Or, perhaps you feel the pressure to look or dress a certain way, and you spend way too much time thinking about how to dress, how to do your hair and how to fit in even though you don't it doesn't actually matter. Maybe you find yourself overthinking social interactions or large group gatherings because you just aren't sure how to engage, how to start a conversation naturally, how to get out of one naturally or if anyone truly wants to talk to you, or you're the person waiting for the invite to the girl's night out or the group event, but you feel like you never get included and you're just not sure why. You're not alone, and you're not weird or broken or socially awkward … you're just human and in this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're diving exactly how to feel better, stop overthinking and show up better in social situations.
Get the full show notes and transcript at www.trishblackwell.com/601
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Do you ever feel like you just don't measure up? You know a lot of it is in your head, but you can't help comparing yourself to others and find yourself always coming up short. You just feel like other people are prettier than you, smarter than you, more successful than you, more naturally popular and likeable than you … and you end up feeling, well, less than. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're going to give you practical tools on exactly how to stop allowing yourself to indulge in feeling "less than" and to start feeling good enough, worthy and absolutely unstoppable.
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Do you struggle following through for what you really want to do? You have a great idea, and you totally want to implement it. You make a plan, you get on board, and then you flake. You bail on yourself, you change your goal, you convince yourself that it doesn't matter or that you struggle with consistency and follow through, so you can't help it, right?But you can.Follow through is a choice.Consistency is a commitment.This episode will help you break free from the struggle of feeling like you can't be someone who follows through. Master consistency and you will dramatically increase your confidence in your life.
Do you struggle following through for what you really want to do? You have a great idea, and you totally want to implement it. You make a plan, you get on board, and then you flake. You bail on yourself, you change your goal, you convince yourself that it doesn't matter or that you struggle with consistency and follow through, so you can't help it, right?
But you can.
Follow through is a choice.
Consistency is a commitment.
This episode will help you break free from the struggle of feeling like you can't be someone who follows through. Master consistency and you will dramatically increase your confidence in your life.
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If you've ever felt like you didn't matter, or wondered what the point of it all really was, this episode is for you. If you've ever felt discouraged and like no matter what you did, you would never really stand out and never really matter, this episode is for you. If your brain has ever had the passing thought - I'm just a nobody - or I'm just average - even though you know that's not true, the thought is sometimes had to shake, this episode is for you. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on how to believe you matter, how to have confidence in the truth that you have significance and purpose in this world and how to talk back to the lies of insignificance and unworthiness when they whisper so convincingly to you. ✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
If you've ever felt like you didn't matter, or wondered what the point of it all really was, this episode is for you. If you've ever felt discouraged and like no matter what you did, you would never really stand out and never really matter, this episode is for you. If your brain has ever had the passing thought - I'm just a nobody - or I'm just average - even though you know that's not true, the thought is sometimes had to shake, this episode is for you. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on how to believe you matter, how to have confidence in the truth that you have significance and purpose in this world and how to talk back to the lies of insignificance and unworthiness when they whisper so convincingly to you.
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Can we talk about off days? Like, not necessarily "bad days," but just off days? Do you ever have them? You feel like you're in a funk that you can't shake and you can't quite identify, and you feel sort of disconnected from life. You go through the motions of your to do list for the day, but you find yourself looking forward to the weekend? You're a confident person, but your confidence feels "off" and like you aren't showing up as yourself. You feel awkward and not yourself, but you aren't sure what to do about it. This episode will teach you exactly what to do when you feel like you've lost your confidence or you feel like you're in a funk.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Can we talk about off days? Like, not necessarily "bad days," but just off days? Do you ever have them? You feel like you're in a funk that you can't shake and you can't quite identify, and you feel sort of disconnected from life. You go through the motions of your to do list for the day, but you find yourself looking forward to the weekend? You're a confident person, but your confidence feels "off" and like you aren't showing up as yourself. You feel awkward and not yourself, but you aren't sure what to do about it. This episode will teach you exactly what to do when you feel like you've lost your confidence or you feel like you're in a funk.
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Why is it that some people are massively successful and others who try just aren't? How can you make sure that your goals aren't just ideas and that you don't end up like most people, feeling like they missed out on life and on their fullest potential but just don't know what they could have done differently? How is it that some people can confidently navigate public pressure and pivot with tenacity and total belief in themselves until they reach a goal while others get burdened and weighed down by discouragement, distraction and setbacks? The difference is that winners don't make these 5 toxic mistakes that squash your confidence. If you have a desire to do big things with your life, or you have a big goal this year, this is a coaching episode you don't want to miss. Settle in and let's make sure that you're not unknowingly falling into the trap of these results-sabotaging mistakes … and most importantly, if you are, what to do about it to change. ✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Do you find yourself feeling frozen when making decisions? Maybe you are the type of person who likes to field the opinions of everyone you know before making a decision…or are you the type of person who internalizes the decision and delays it from the pressure to make "the right decision"? If you struggle with decision-making and want to have more confidence in your decision making process, this episode is for you. You'll learn how to make good decisions with confidence, how to avoid the purgatory of indecision, and how to see yourself / and trust yourself as someone who makes good decisions. In the episode we're also exploring the relationship between confident decision making and confident (and effective delegating), because let's be honest, weak delegating is making your life harder than it needs to be. If you're craving more confidence in your decisions and in your delegating, this episode of The Confidence Podcast is for you. ✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
If you've ever worried about not maximizing your fullest potential, this episode is for you. Maybe you've had people tell you that you have so much talent, but you aren't sure if you believe them, or if you do believe them, you don't know how to really use what you've been given - it all just feels overwhelming. This episode is for you. Or, maybe you're like me, and as a driven high achiever, you're so used to self-imposed internal pressure that you think that there's no other way to really reach your potential without feeling stressed and pressured all the time … this episode is for you.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
You've heard that affirmations are a good thing to do, and you dabble in them sometimes, but they feel like they fall flat. This episode is for you. The words you speak over yourself matter and affirmations work, but most people are doing affirmations wrong. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're going to be talking about why your affirmations aren't working and more importantly, what to do about it to change it. This is not a woo-woo approach to affirmations, or a name-it and claim-it kind of thing, but rather an approach that will equip you to take back the inner narrative of your mind so you can harness it for the magnificent power that it has within. ✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Do you feel anxiety or dread on Sundays, especially Sunday evenings, when the weekend starts winding down? Maybe you feel it like resistance, or like something is looming in on you … you just want to be happy and to be "normal" about not letting work press into your life, but you just aren't sure how to or why your general stress feels so intense. Maybe you counterbalance this with an extra glass of wine or you start daydreaming about finding another job that you actually look forward to, but nothing ever comes of it or changes. You get through, and then you get to Tuesday and find yourself already counting down the days until Friday. If any of this resonated with you, this episode of The Confidence Podcast is for you. You are not alone, and there are a few hacks you can implement right away to make your weekends more enjoyable and to quiet the stressful voice that shouts at you when the Sunday Scaries press in.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
I used to be afraid to go all in on things because I was afraid of disappointment. When I learned that disappointment wasn't permanent and didn't have to define me, I shed the shame and learned how to allow it in my life. Once you allow something, you are no longer held back by the fear of it … you no longer spend your time avoiding it. Discouragement is similar. It doesn't have to suck you in and keep you stuck. I am a big feeler, and when I used to get discouraged, it was hard core and really deep. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast I'm going to share my exact strategies that I now use to talk back to my discouragement. You can apply these to your life and be able to accelerate your ability to move forward with confidence.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Do you ever have find your brain getting stuck in a self-talk loop of "what ifs?" What if it doesn't work out? What if you don't really lose the weight? What if you don't really have what it takes? When you learn these 3 proven strategies to talk back to your "What If's" so you aren't held back any longer. There's a fear narrative that chokes out the confidence of so many people without them even realizing it's happening. It speaks to you in statements that start with "What if…" and if left unanswered and unmanaged, can wreck havoc on your mindset and your confidence. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're unknotting the messy mental chaos caused by "what if" thinking. You'll learn how to talk back to your "What if's" so you have more peace and more confidence and so you stop being held back by them from the life you are meant to live. ✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
If you're someone who likes reassurance, or who needs the affirmation of others, then it's time to work on your skill of self-assuredness. Self-assuredness, like any other facet of confidence, is a skill that anyone can strengthen and improve. When you learn how to practice the skill of self-assuredness - and more importantly, what to say to yourself to prime your mind to be self-assured - you can confidently walk into any unknown or uncertain situation with confidence. This episode will give you the tools and exact thoughts to think to deepen this skill and to create unshakeable self-assuredness.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Self-doubt isn't a problem, unless you make it one. . If allowed to run wild, self-doubt can be a powerful force that holds us back from pursuing our goals and living our best lives. But with the right mindset and tools, we can learn to navigate self-doubt and maintain our confidence in the face of uncertainty. In this episode you'll get practical tips for managing self-doubt, including reframing negative thoughts, building a support system, and setting achievable goals so you can create an extraordinary life. ✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
You want to be liked, and at the core, you know people like you, but you still wonder if you fit in and if people really like you. You've accepted that there will be people who don't like you, but you still wish that you could be cooler or feel like you belong more than you do, and you wonder why you still struggle with some of the same social insecurities that plagued your mind when you were in middle school. This episode on social confidence, and knowing how to belong and feel confident in any social situation is for you. ✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
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Do you want to next-level your life, and you know some things you can do, but you're putting them off? Maybe it's joining the gym, or perhaps it's taking the first steps to switch your career. If you're an entrepreneur, this might be as simple as trying new ideas with more boldness and confidence, or investing in new training. If you want more from life or you know you have more within you than you're currently living out, then this episode is for you. ✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Do you have an inner mean voice that no one knows about? You know, that voice that is always beating yourself up, telling you that you could have done better, and putting pressure on you to lose weight, be cooler, do better or make less mistakes? We call that voice your self-talk. The self-talk narrative that you have determines everything about the level of confidence you feel. The great news is that you can change your self-talk. My self-talk used to be absolute trash, and it is now my greatest cheerleader and strength. If I can change my inner self talk around, you can too. This episode will teach you how.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
The world can be a negative place, and if you have negative people in your life or are fighting off internal negativity yourself, today's episode is for you. You're tired of the negative coworker, or perhaps the cynical family member, or just the negative weight of the world that feels like it's ever pressing in with every swipe of your social feed or story on the news. Maybe you're feeling weighed down by the negativity of the world, or maybe a nagging low-grade anxiety that follows you and wakes you up every morning, or the chains of depression and sadness that might feel all too familiar this season. This episode will give you a simple 3-step process to detox the judgment - and the fear of what others think - from adding any layers of negativity to your life. ✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Ever felt like you don't fit in? Or like you're just different from other people and you're constantly wondering what "they" think of you? Or maybe you have big dreams, and have been teased for it … or you're worried that your success will make other people feel bad. Perhaps you haven't go after what you really want, or allowed yourself to be yourself because you're afraid of what "they" will think, say or gossip about being your back. You know you shouldn't care what "they" think but you know you're holding back in life, or from being your full self, because goshdarnit, you just want people to like you. ✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Are you held back by the fear of others? Do you find yourself caring too much what people think, or watching critical hot messes piles up on social media threads, and as a by-standard feel burdened by the critical nature of the world we live in? Maybe your critics aren't "those other people" out there; maybe the critics you worry about are closer to home … either your own voice or that of friends and family. You "know" that what they think doesn't matter and shouldn't hold you back, but yet, you still aren't going all out on the life you want to live, or all in on the different you want to make. This episode is for you if you want to start speaking up more boldly, to take action more intentionally and to free yourself from over-caring what "they" might think.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
If you notice a difference between the confidence, and wages, of men and women in the workplace, and you want to know what's going on and what to do about it, this episode is for you. The confidence gender gap is a real thing, and today's episode is a conversation with one of the world's leading experts on the study of the phenomenon. Buckle up to be fired up about the role each of us plays in closing the confidence gender gap, and in breaking self-imposed limiting perspectives. If you want to break your own internal and external glass ceilings this year, this is the episode for you.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
You're fired up. It's a new year. But how do you make sure that you don’t lose the fire? How can you make sure that this year is different than any other year? It's all in the approach. Success is not a fluke, and it's not just for the lucky. It's for those who plan for it and who step into it. This episode will teach you exactly how to step into it - 24 ways to be exact - to exceed your own self-imposed limitations. ✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
If you're consistent, you can create any result you want. The truth is, most people give too soon. They stop right before the breakthrough. They tire of the uncomfortable feelings of boredom or disappointment and they become inconsistent in following through. The result? They don't get the result they want, and then they're discouraged. Too much discouragement deters you from your destiny and from remembering who you are and what you're capable of. Anyone can be consistent, if you decide to be. This episode will teach you the secret to consistency, and how to leverage the discomfort of keeping your word to yourself to expand your discomfort capacity … because when you expand your discomfort capacity, you exponentially scale what's possible for you in life.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Do you feel like you never have enough time to get everything done, and like you never will?Like the pressures of the world and your to-do list are in conflict with your dreams and passions and the life you want to live. Time management is a huge industry - with apps, calendars, planners, and hacks of all kinds - and yet, most people still struggle. What gives? I believe we've overcomplicated things, both in our minds, in our standards and in our expectations, and in this episode of The Confidence Podcast, I'm going to teach you the SIMPLE art of planning for success and making time to get things done. You'll learn time boxing, time assigning and time blocking, and how to implement them so that you get more done in less time and start having the time abundance in life that you desperately crave.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
In this episode we're going to reawaken the dream inside of your heart and reignite your belief that anything is possible, for those who believe and those who are willing to take bold, relentless action until they achieve what they want. We'll cover the 5 mistakes most people make when setting goals and designing their life so that you never find yourself thinking about your life, your gifts, your potential was "woulda, coulda, shoulda."✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
You know you're made for more, and you have big dreams, but how do you get past the overwhelm of putting yourself "out there"? What will people think? What will happen if you go after that big dream, you write that book, you put yourself up for the promotion, you speak up and start leading with your ideas … and people don't like it, or even worse, like you? If you want to have more confidence when it comes to taking the emotional risks involved with leveling up your life, this podcast episode is for you. I'll teach you why standing out and being extraordinary is easier than you think and I'll share 5 strategies I use to manage vulnerability and risk hangovers so you can use them successfully too.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
The darkness of the winter season is upon us and if you have ever struggled with winter sadness or holiday anxiety then this episode is for you. I'm going to share 3 simple strategies that I use that have been game-changing, as well as some mental shifts in how you can think about the seasonal sadness and allow emotional space for your heart and soul to feel all of the feelings this season without being burdened or side railed by them.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
f you've ever felt stuck in your own thoughts, this episode is for you. We're coaching on intrusive thoughts and what to do about them, as well as some confidence power hacks to help you stop over-personalizing what other people are saying or thinking.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're going to talk about how to reawaken the confidence inside of you, how to train the confidence muscle (even if its atrophied or you feel like you never had it), and what mistakes that you might be unknowingly making that are chipping away at your confidence instead of strengthening it. ✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
The secret to success is to have a bias for action. Those who train in themselves to become massive action takers increase their confidence, their self-esteem, their self-concept and their results. This episode will give you mindset hacks to help you train yourself into being a person who takes massive action with ease … and with the results that action brings. ✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
You may not be consciously making excuses, but chances are, you're probably holding yourself back with some of these common and sneaky excuses. If you want to stop tip-toing in life and playing smaller than your potential, then it's time to identify and put a stop to the excuses, subconscious or conscious, that are holding you back and keeping you stuck. This episode explores the excuse mentality in depth, our excuse culture and how it leads to micro-quitting, and how to become someone who makes excuses a thing of their past once and for all. ✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Everything is possible. Everything is learnable. Every problem is solvable. Every effort pays off and adds up. Your dream can happen. Your life can change. BUT you have to start. You have to be willing to do the work, to fail and to keep showing up. This episode will teach you how to get started, and more importantly, how to keep going. You'll hear Trish's full journey and how to train and increase your willingness and bias for action. ✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Those with unshakeable confidence have tapped into soul confidence. Soul confidence is different than confidence that is self-focused. It is God-focused, and it is strengthened by deepening one's relationship with God. This episode will help you find deep meaning and fulfilment through the deepening of your faith. It will also help you uncomplicate any challenging or painful past relationships with religion or faith that was imposed onto you.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Do you find yourself trapped in the cycle of self-criticism and "should haves"? It's time to break free! In this episode, you'll discover 10 compelling reasons to put an end to self-inflicted judgment and learn how to break the mental habit of beating yourself up. If you want to feel better in life, and not feel so much self-created internal pressure, this episode will give you your next steps. ✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
When you know what you want, like, really know, it's easy to stay consistent. Most people don't achieve their goals, not because they aren't trying, but rather because they don't have a clear idea of what they really, really want in life. Sometimes in order to know what you do want, you have to first get clarity of what you don't want. We call this process "Reverse Inspiration" and I'll teach you exactly how to go about it in this week's episode.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
When you like yourself, others will like you more. Increasing your likability factor can open doors of opportunity, expand favor in your life and make you appear more confident to others. But there's a difference between being likable and caring too much what people think. This episode will help you find the courage to be disliked, as well as how to increase your overall likeability, which all starts with first liking yourself. Listen to this for 19 ways to be more likeable, while also releasing some of the pressure you are putting on yourself about whether or not people like you.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
There's a fine line between fact and fiction in our thoughts. This episode will teach you how to understand the difference between thoughts you should believe and thoughts you should change, if you want to decrease your stress levels and enjoy your life more. You'll discover how to de-dramatize your thinking and determine with thoughts are creating "optional drama". These confidence tips this week will help you live with more confidence and ease, and mental peace.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Whether you're an early riser grappling with dawn's anxieties or a night owl navigating the challenges of evening unease, this episode offers practical strategies to help you find peace and balance throughout your day. Tune in to gain a better understanding of your anxiety patterns and learn techniques to enhance your mental well-being. Anxiety can express itself, and be triggered, differently depending upon the time of day and upon your core thought patterns. This is an episode you don't want to miss if you want to decrease your overall anxiety in life … and when you decrease anxiety, you increase peace and confidence.
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Whether you're an early riser grappling with dawn's anxieties or a night owl navigating the challenges of evening unease, this episode offers practical strategies to help you find peace and balance throughout your day. Tune in to gain a better understanding of your anxiety patterns and learn techniques to enhance your mental well-being. Anxiety can express itself, and be triggered, differently depending upon the time of day and upon your core thought patterns. This is an episode you don't want to miss if you want to decrease your overall anxiety in life … and when you decrease anxiety, you increase peace and confidence. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/564
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The "First Thought" concept is one of the quickest and easiest ways to boost your confidence and to improve your overall happiness and productivity rate. This episode will give you the step-by-step process to training your first thought and to tapping more easily into a more positive brain. This process will help you have more positive days with less effort … and to implement the process requires less than 30 seconds. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/563
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Never get nervous for an interview or important meeting again. This episode gives you everything you need to know to be confident for those big moments that matter the most. Discover how to harness positive self-talk, visualization, and active listening to transform nerves into empowerment. After this episode, you'll feel confident ahead of time for every big meeting or interview ahead, and you'll know how to manage any anxiety or nerves that come up along the way.✅ FREE CLASS! LEARN HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Don’t forget to sign up for our free “How to Stop Caring What People Think” webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring ✅ GET ACCELERATED RESULTS:Our next-level coaching happens at: http://www.collegeofconfidence.com✅ STAY CONNECTED.👉Facebook: www.facebook.com/TrishBlackwellCoaching👉Website: https://www.trishblackwell.com/👉Twitter: https://twitter.com/trainerTRISH👉Instagram: http://instagram.com/trish_blackwell
Never get nervous for an interview or important meeting again. This episode gives you everything you need to know to be confident for those big moments that matter the most.
Discover how to harness positive self-talk, visualization, and active listening to transform nerves into empowerment. After this episode, you'll feel confident ahead of time for every big meeting or interview ahead, and you'll know how to manage any anxiety or nerves that come up along the way. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/562
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Self-forgiveness is the start of freedom. If you're hard on yourself, and tend to beat yourself up for past mistakes or unhealthy habits, this episode is for you. Learning how to nurture a narrative of grace and compassion will open you to a powerful growth mindset and free you from the prison of a fixed and perfectionistic mindset. This episode will help you come to terms with your past self, and even find gratitude and appreciation for the mistakes, struggles and valleys you have walked through - even those that were self-inflicted - so that you can really maximize the person you have the ability to become in the present. Get the full show notes at ww.trishblackwell.com/560
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Self-forgiveness is the start of freedom. If you're hard on yourself, and tend to beat yourself up for past mistakes or unhealthy habits, this episode is for you. Learning how to nurture a narrative of grace and compassion will open you to a powerful growth mindset and free you from the prison of a fixed and perfectionistic mindset. This episode will help you come to terms with your past self, and even find gratitude and appreciation for the mistakes, struggles and valleys you have walked through - even those that were self-inflicted - so that you can really maximize the person you have the ability to become in the present. Get the full show notes at ww.trishblackwell.com/560
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In this episode we explore the balance between confidence, happiness, and the reality of experiencing negativity and sadness. When you give yourself permission to feel the full range of human emotions, your emotional fitness increases and your ability to take action in life when you're feeling down becomes more natural. This episode is for anyone who wants to live a positive life and make a positive impact; you'll learn how to not be discouraged by the negativity and setbacks you experience along the journey of purpose and impact.
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In this episode we explore the balance between confidence, happiness, and the reality of experiencing negativity and sadness. When you give yourself permission to feel the full range of human emotions, your emotional fitness increases and your ability to take action in life when you're feeling down becomes more natural. This episode is or anyone who want to live a positive life and make a positive impact; you'll learn how to not be discouraged by the negativity and setbacks you experience along the journey of purpose and impact. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/560
Self-love is the ability to have unconditional positive regard towards oneself, and no matter your personal background or current level of self-esteem, everyone can strengthen their foundation of self-love. A solid concept of self-love creates the base of confidence, self-trust and the ability to achieve anything you set your mind to.
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Self-love is the ability to have unconditional positive regard towards oneself, and no matter your personal background or current level of self-esteem, everyone can strengthen their foundation of self-love. A solid concept of self-love creates the base of confidence, self-trust and the ability to achieve anything you set your mind to. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/559
Break the cycle of overworking and learn to not let work dominate your entire life. This episode will break down why we get caught up in an overworking addiction and self-induced stress. We explore the alluring trap of excessive ambition and the toll it takes on achieving a balanced work/life harmony. Join us as we unravel the keys to breaking free from this cycle and creating a happier, healthier lifestyle. Discover how to trust yourself, work smarter, and achieve more without sacrificing your well-being.
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Break the cycle of overworking and learn to not let work dominate your entire life. This episode will break down why we get caught up in an overworking addiction and self-induced stress. We explore the alluring trap of excessive ambition and the toll it takes on achieving a balanced work/life harmony. Join us as we unravel the keys to breaking free from this cycle and creating a happier, healthier lifestyle. Discover how to trust yourself, work smarter, and achieve more without sacrificing your well-being.
If you've ever felt like you don't measure up in your life, this episode is for you. The feeling of not feeling "enough," or like you're not doing enough, or not popular enough, or not ready enough is not as uncommon as you think. The unnecessary pressure we put on ourselves can tarnish and damage our confidence and keep us from the life we are meant to life, not to mention make life harder on yourself than it needs to be.
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If you've ever felt like you don't measure up in your life, this episode is for you. The feeling of not feeling "enough," or like you're not doing enough, or not popular enough, or not ready enough is not as uncommon as you think. The unnecessary pressure we put on ourselves can tarnish and damage our confidence and keep us from the life we are meant to live, not to mention make life harder on yourself than it needs to be. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/557
In this episode, we dive into the world of coaching and tackle the question of whether becoming a life coach or a confidence coach is the right path for you. Join us as we explore the skills, responsibilities, and challenges associated with these coaching specialties. If you've ever wondered how to be a confidence coach, this episode will give you a clear path. Whether you're considering a career change or simply curious about the coaching profession, this episode will help you make an informed decision about your future.
Learn the art of positive self-talk and how to change your inner voice by learning the skill of "Reframing." Discover practical strategies to reframe your mindset, even on days when nothing is going right and the world feels like its against you. Master the skill of establishing mental standards aligned with the life you desire. This episode will help you master the most powerful tool available to our brains -- reframing. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/556
The way you think about money affects how much of it you have in your life. Confidence creates ease, and you can create more ease and positive flow in your financial life by increasing your money confidence and your money mindset, no matter your current financial status. This episode will teach you how to have more ease with money, how to manage it with confidence, and how to make more of it, without adding stress or overwhelm to your life.
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The way you think about money affects how much of it you have in your life. Confidence creates ease, and you can create more ease and positive flow in your financial life by increasing your money confidence and your money mindset, no matter your current financial status. This episode will teach you how to have more ease with money, how to manage it with confidence, and how to make more of it, without adding stress or overwhelm to your life. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/555
At any moment, you have the power to reinvent yourself and reinvent the story of your future. In this episode we're diving into the process of how to reinvent yourself, how to know what to drop and how to practice being the person you want to become.
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At any moment, you have the power to reinvent yourself and reinvent the story of your future. In this episode we're diving into the process of how to reinvent yourself, how to know what to drop and how to practice being the person you want to become. This is a transformation process that you can start, no matter your age. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/554
When you believe you matter, your core baseline of confidence increases. Knowing that you matter give you purpose on cloudy days and fire on sunny days. Everyone has days or seasons of self-doubt and overwhelm, but if you have a solid understanding that you matter in a magnificent way, then your confidence in how you show up in the world changes. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/553
In this episode, we're diving into the often-dreaded topic of doing what you don't feel like doing. We all have tasks on our to-do list that we'd rather avoid, but procrastination only makes things worse. So how do we push through and get things done? We'll explore practical strategies for overcoming resistance and building momentum, as well as the mindset shifts that can help us reframe our approach to challenging tasks.
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If you're struggling to follow through or take massive action in your life, but aren't sure why, this episode is for you. We all have tasks on our to-do list that we'd rather avoid, but procrastination only makes things worse. This episode explores practical strategies for overcoming resistance and building momentum, as well as the mindset shifts that can help us reframe our approach to challenging tasks. Whether it's a daunting work project, a tough conversation, or just getting to the gym, this episode gives actionable tips for doing what you don't feel like doing and becoming someone who always shows up. Listen to the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/552
Life can feel and be massively unfair. But you don't have to let unfairness be a disadvantage. You can create your own unfair advantage so that you no longer feel behind or feel like you're starting from a disadvantaged place. Learn exactly how to reframe how you think about your life so that you can use your exact circumstances to create confidence, power and breakthrough.
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Life can feel and be massively unfair. But you don't have to let the unfairness be a disadvantage.
You can create your own unfair advantage so that you no longer feel behind or feel like you're starting from a disadvantaged place. Learn exactly how to reframe how you think about your life so that you can use your exact circumstances to create confidence, power and breakthrough. You'll get all of the tips you need in this episode of The Confidence Podcast. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/551
The more you can get done, the more you will get ahead, and getting "ahead" will increase how confident you feel about a task or about your life in general. There are some simple time abundance hacks and strategies that will revolutionize how you approach time management and your pace of life. From time-blocking and prioritization to delegation and self-care, we'll share insights and actionable advice for increasing your productivity and making meaningful progress toward your goals. Join us as we dive into the world of productivity and learn how to get more done while staying focused on what truly matters to you.
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The more you can get done, the more you will get ahead, and getting "ahead" will increase how confident you feel about a task or about your life in general. There are some simple time abundance hacks and strategies that will revolutionize how you approach time management and your pace of life. From time-blocking and prioritization to delegation and self-care, we'll share insights and actionable advice for increasing your productivity and making meaningful progress toward your goals. Join us as we dive into the world of productivity and learn how to get more done while staying focused on what truly matters to you. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/550
In this episode, we're discussing the important topic of self-kindness, specifically for those who tend to be self-critical. It's all too easy to fall into the trap of negative self-talk and self-blame, but learning to treat ourselves with kindness and compassion is key to building a healthy self-image and improving our mental well-being. We'll explore practical strategies for cultivating self-kindness, including mindfulness, reframing negative thoughts, and practicing self-care. Whether you struggle with low self-esteem, imposter syndrome, or just the occasional bout of self-criticism, join us as we explore the transformative power of self-kindness and learn to treat ourselves with the love and respect we deserve.Start coaching at www.collegeofconfidence.com | Take Trish's free masterclass to Stop Caring What People Think at www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
In this episode, we're discussing the important topic of self-kindness, specifically for those who tend to be self-critical. It's all too easy to fall into the trap of negative self-talk and self-blame, but learning to treat ourselves with kindness and compassion is key to building a healthy self-image and improving our mental well-being. We'll explore practical strategies for cultivating self-kindness, including mindfulness, reframing negative thoughts, and practicing self-care. Whether you struggle with low self-esteem, imposter syndrome, or just the occasional bout of self-criticism, join us as we explore the transformative power of self-kindness and learn to treat ourselves with the love and respect we deserve. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/549
Self-doubt isn't a problem, unless you make it one. . If allowed to run wild, self-doubt can be a powerful force that holds us back from pursuing our goals and living our best lives. But with the right mindset and tools, we can learn to navigate self-doubt and maintain our confidence in the face of uncertainty. In this episode you'll get practical tips for managing self-doubt, including reframing negative thoughts, building a support system, and setting achievable goals so you can create an extraordinary life.Start coaching at www.collegeofconfidence.com | Take Trish's free masterclass to Stop Caring What People Think at www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
It's time to master the transformative power of self-talk and sharing strategies for shifting your self-talk to change your life. The way we talk to ourselves can have a profound impact on our mindset, emotions, and behavior. Negative self-talk can lead to feelings of anxiety, self-doubt, and even depression, while positive self-talk can boost our confidence, resilience, and overall well-being. We'll explore practical techniques for changing your self-talk, including mindfulness, visualization, and cognitive restructuring. These are the shifts in self-talk that changed my life, and can change yours.Start coaching at www.collegeofconfidence.com | Take Trish's free masterclass to Stop Caring What People Think at www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
In this episode, we explore the concept of "confidence immersion" and the power of "faking it until you make it" as a way to increase both our perceived and actual confidence levels. We discuss the science behind this approach and share personal anecdotes and expert insights on how to adopt a confident mindset and behavior, even in situations where we may not feel entirely sure of ourselves. From adopting confident body language to practicing positive self-talk, we provide practical tips for building confidence and projecting a confident image to those around us. Start coaching at www.collegeofconfidence.com | Take Trish's free masterclass to Stop Caring What People Think at www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
In this episode, we explore the concept of "confidence immersion" and the power of "faking it until you make it" as a way to increase both our perceived and actual confidence levels. We discuss the science behind this approach and share personal anecdotes and expert insights on how to adopt a confident mindset and behavior, even in situations where we may not feel entirely sure of ourselves. From adopting confident body language to practicing positive self-talk, we provide practical tips for building confidence and projecting a confident image to those around us. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com.546
In this episode, we tackle the topic of "compare and despair" and the negative impact that comparing ourselves to others can have on our mental health and well-being. We delve into the reasons why we engage in this behavior and provide practical strategies for breaking the cycle and cultivating a more positive and self-compassionate mindset. You'll get actionable tips for overcoming the urge to compare yourself to others and finding greater contentment in your own life. Start coaching at www.collegeofconfidence.com | Take Trish's free masterclass to Stop Caring What People Think at www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
In this episode, we tackle the topic of "compare and despair" and the negative impact that comparing ourselves to others can have on our mental health and well-being. We delve into the reasons why we engage in this behavior and provide practical strategies for breaking the cycle and cultivating a more positive and self-compassionate mindset. You'll get actionable tips for overcoming the urge to compare yourself to others and finding greater contentment in your own life. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/545
Get ready to boost your professional success with this episode where we dive into the crucial topic of work confidence. Discover how this elusive quality can make or break your career advancement and explore the many factors that contribute to our confidence levels in the workplace, from past experiences to our mindset and skills. With personal anecdotes and expert insights, we reveal practical tips and strategies that will help you build and maintain your confidence, including setting achievable goals, seeking feedback, and adopting a growth mindset. When you bring more confidence to your work, you'll enjoy less stress, better work/life boundaries, and faster career growth.Start coaching at www.collegeofconfidence.com | Take Trish's free masterclass to Stop Caring What People Think at www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
Get ready to boost your professional success with this episode where we dive into the crucial topic of work confidence. Discover how this elusive quality can make or break your career advancement and explore the many factors that contribute to our confidence levels in the workplace, from past experiences to our mindset and skills. With personal anecdotes and expert insights, we reveal practical tips and strategies that will help you build and maintain your confidence, including setting achievable goals, seeking feedback, and adopting a growth mindset. When you bring more confidence to your work, you'll enjoy less stress, better work/life boundaries, and faster career growth. Don't miss this essential episode that can transform your professional life! Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/544
Limiting language and thought errors can keep you from the live you were meant to live. In this episode, we explore the ways in which our use of language can inadvertently limit our thinking and hold us back from reaching our full potential. From using absolute language to engaging in black-and-white thinking, we discuss the common pitfalls of our everyday speech and provide practical strategies for expanding our language and shifting our mindset to overcome these limitations. Join us for a thought-provoking discussion on the power of language to shape our reality. Start coaching at www.collegeofconfidence.com | Take Trish's free masterclass to Stop Caring What People Think at www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
Limiting language and thought errors can keep you from the live you were meant to live. In this episode, we explore the ways in which our use of language can inadvertently limit our thinking and hold us back from reaching our full potential. From using absolute language to engaging in black-and-white thinking, we discuss the common pitfalls of our everyday speech and provide practical strategies for expanding our language and shifting our mindset to overcome these limitations. Join us for a thought-provoking discussion on the power of language to shape our reality. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/543
Inconsistency creates self-distrust and discouragement. Discouragement destroys hope.Knowing what you want to do, but not doing it, creates a sense of hopelessness.When you feel this, it feels like there's no point in trying - and it's easy to get overwhelmed with the bigger picture. And then, ultimately, your own thoughts, words and attitudes create lack of consistency and lack of follow through, and thereby failure. But, when you change your thoughts, you'll change your outcome. You can decide today to become someone who doesn't struggle with consistency or follow-through, and as a result, your confidence will skyrocketStart coaching at www.collegeofconfidence.com | Take Trish's free masterclass to Stop Caring What People Think at www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
Inconsistency creates self-distrust and discouragement. Discouragement destroys hope.
Knowing what you want to do, but not doing it, cerates a sense of hopelessness.
When you feel this, it feels like there's no point in trying - and it's easy to get overwhelmed with the bigger picture. And then, ultimately, your own thoughts, words and attitudes create lack of consistency and lack of follow through, and thereby failure. But, when you change your thoughts and you'll change your outcome. You can decide today to become someone who doesn't struggle with consistency or follow-through, and as a result, your confidence will skyrocket. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/542
Too many people put off their goals and their dream lives with the seemingly innocuous thought of "I'm not quite ready to start yet." Not Ready Syndrome is a sneaky way that you will stay stuck, even though you feel like you're "working" on your goal. Get out of the stagnation station of feeling "not ready" or "not good enough" and avoid the weight of impostor syndrome that comes with both by applying the tools of this episode to help you feel confident before you're "ready". This will help you become a massive action taker right away. Start coaching at www.collegeofconfidence.com | Take Trish's free masterclass to Stop Caring What People Think at www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
Too many people put off their goals and their dream lives with the seemingly innocuous thought of "I'm not quite ready to start yet." Not Ready Syndrome is a sneaky way that you will stay stuck, even though you feel like you're "working" on your goal. Get out of the stagnation station of feeling "not ready" or "not good enough" and avoid the weight of impostor syndrome that comes with both by applying the tools of this episode to help you feel confident before you're "ready". This will help you become a massive action taker right away. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/541
Confidence is easier to train within yourself than you might think. This episode explores the 5 simple core principles, or pillars that create, strengthen and scale one's confidence. By mastering each simple principle, you will feel and experience a massive shift in your confidence mastery. As you solidify your confidence foundation, doors in life will open to you, please will be attracted to you, and success will come more easily. It all starts with these simple focus areas - this episode will help you know which pillar to strengthen first. Start coaching at www.collegeofconfidence.com | Take Trish's free masterclass to Stop Caring What People Think at www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
Confidence is easier to train within yourself than you might think. This episode explores the 5 simple core principles, or pillars that create, strengthen and scale one's confidence. By mastering each simple principle, you will feel and experience a massive shift in your confidence mastery. As you solidify your confidence foundation, doors in life will open to you, please will be attracted to you, and success will come more easily. It all starts with these simple focus areas - this episode will help you know which pillar to strengthen first. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/540
Constantly trying to prove oneself can lead to feelings of inadequacy and burnout. It's important to recognize and appreciate one's abilities and accomplishments, rather than always seeking validation from others. Focusing on self-improvement and growth can be a healthier approach than striving for external validation. Remember that you are already enough and worthy, and that your worth is not determined by external factors or validation from others. We got all of this and more in this podcast episode! Start coaching at www.collegeofconfidence.com | Take Trish's free masterclass to Stop Caring What People Think at www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
Be happier and feel more successful today, right away. This podcast episode will give you an identity boost - and some power thoughts - to help you step more fully into a confident, happy, successful mindset where you feel good based on your thoughts, not on your circumstances. This is a must-listen for anyone who wants more joy and to feel better about where they are on the journey of their goals. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/538
The voice in your head can be incredibly powerful and informative - it creates the results in your life. It's your internal compass that guides you based on what you know, believe and feel. How we talk to ourselves matters because it affects how we show up in our lives. With a little work, we can learn to leverage the power of our inner voice for positive effect. Recognize when negative self-talk creeps in and replace it with more productive and supportive thinking. You'll learn this all in this episode, and it will change everything about how you experience life. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/537
It's critical to learn the skill of knowing how to stop caring what people think, especially in the modern, constantly connected world that we live in. Everyone experiences fear and anxiety over being judged by others, but there are ways to overcome it. By following the 10 principles discussed in this episode and practically applying them to our lives, we can become more comfortable with ourselves and be more confident and independent in our pursuits! Most importantly, we can stop living in constant fear of what others will think and instead focus on living life according to our own principles. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/536
Are you feeling stuck, weighed-down by self-doubt, or lack of control in your life? Do recurring negative thoughts seem to have a firm grasp on the way you think and feel about yourself? If this sounds familiar, it’s time to shift these damaging cycles and adopt new habits that lead you towards greater trust in yourself. In our latest podcast episode on Self-Talk and Keeping Your Promises to Yourself, we take an exploration into developing a more positive attitude about ourselves and increasing essential self-trust. When you learn to optimize the mindset dialogue within yourself, you can then create lives filled with fearless forward motion! Get the full show notes at: www.trishblackwell.com/535
Do you ever find yourself having unhealthy thoughts or feelings about food and your body image? Do you feel like you are constantly making decisions that aren't in your best interests when it comes to food and exercise? If so, then this is the perfect podcast episode for you! In this episode, we cover how to cultivate a healthy mindset around food and body image. We discuss different ways of approaching these issues from a mental health standpoint, offering valuable tips on how to free yourself from any negative self-talk and irrational beliefs. Tune in as we explore various strategies on how to step out of auto-pilot mode, stay mindful while eating, honor your body's needs and limits, eat with intention and gratitude - ultimately leading towards lasting positive change for healthier relationships with both food & our bodies. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/534
It is not uncommon for relationships to come with some anxiety; it is part of the process of opening up and building trust between two people. However, if the anxiety starts to become overwhelming, or gets you stuck in a cycle of worrying and mistrusting your partners intentions, then it's time to take steps to get out that loop. In this week’s podcast episode we will be discussing how relationship anxiety can quickly start dominating our thoughts and actions, as well as practical solutions that you can use right away -allowing us to reclaim self-confidence and let go of stressors so we can focus on creating healthier relationships. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/533
When life feels like it's happening to you, and everything that could go wrong is going wrong, it can feel hard to stay positive. You want to be strong, but the negativity feels overwhelming and the bad news just keeps coming. In this podcast episode you'll learn how to talk back to the victim mindset, how to not get sucked into the sinking sand of a pity party, and how to keep yourself encouraged through the season of suck so you get through it stronger because of your mindset. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/532
Are you an ambitious, driven high achiever? Do you strive for the most challenging goals and take on the heaviest burdens to achieve success? If so, chances are that you’re familiar with burnout. As hardworking people sometimes we go too far – overloading ourselves with tasks until our performance deteriorates or even collapses altogether. But it doesn’t have to be like this – there are strategies and techniques you can use to fend off burnout before it overwhelms you. In this podcast episode, I’ll share some easy-to-apply advice on how to beat burnout as a high achiever. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/531
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're doing some live coaching on how to believe in the highest vision you have for yourself - and then how to stretch beyond that even just a little bit further. If you want to do big things with your life - this episode is for you! You'll learn how to achieve more than you think is possible, and how to stay in a place of belief in yourself as you push yourself to new heights. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/530
You have greatness inside of you, but are you sharing it fully with the world? Are you experiencing a great life or just a good one? This episode dives into helping you know if you're playing small or wasting any of your talent … and if you are, what to do about it. Learn how to live up to your fullest potential with this coaching and the power thoughts that will equip you with the courage to live a bigger life. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/529
If you want to know how to reach your fullest potential this year, this episode is for you. In this live coaching session, you'll learn some core questions to ask yourself to help you really tap into and uncover your fullest potential. Once you know what the capacity of your potential is, you can set goals and standards for yourself to stretch you to maximize the gifts and potential that you have been given. This is a must-listen for anyone who has big goals this year. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/528
Are you constantly pushing yourself to reach higher and accomplish more, only to feel disappointed when the results don't match up to your expectations? Do you find that no matter how hard you work, it's never enough? If so, then it’s time for a reality check—because while there is great power in challenging ourselves, many people simply make life harder than they need to be. From unrealistic goals and crushing perfectionism to burning out before getting where we want to go, let's look at why this might be happening and what can be done about it.
If this sounds familiar, then it's time to start thinking differently about how we set ourselves up for success. In this podcast, I'm going to explore how being kinder to yourself can help unlock your potential and give you the confidence boost necessary for achieving things more easily!
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Wanting to make everyone like you could be standing in the way of reaching your fullest potential. Being accepted and respected by others can create an empowering sense of validation - but at what cost? It’s time to recognize that trying to make everyone like you can become counter-productive when not managed properly; it takes away our power and essential self-focus required for success. In this podcast, we'll talk about how letting go of striving for popularity will benefit not only your peace of mind but also help create stronger relationships with those around you. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/526
Do you often find yourself putting undue pressure on yourself to achieve more, accomplish goals faster, and be perfect? If so, it’s time to start being nicer to yourself. It’s difficult but essential if we want to truly live up to the highest potential of who we are capable of becoming. In this podcast I am going to provide tips for how you can become better at being nice – not only for your own well-being but also as paths that will lead us closer towards fulfilling our ambitions. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/525
For years, scientists have been studying the benefits of practicing delayed gratification. The findings have consistently shown that those who delay gratification tend to be more successful both professionally and personally. So what is this magical skill, and how can you start practicing it today? Learn how to master it and some power affirmations to support your efforts in this episode of The Confidence Podcast. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/524
In our fast paced society, it's all too easy to feel like we're constantly falling behind. Whether it's striving for the perfect body or working towards that corner office, it seems like we set unattainable goals for ourselves and then berate ourselves when we don't reach them. But what if I told you that you could achieve anything you put your mind to? With perseverance and a positive attitude, you really can do anything. So don't give up on your dreams; keep fighting for them no matter how hard they seem. This podcast episode will help you keep the belief going when the going gets tough. Get the full show notes atwww.trishblackwell.com/523
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If you aren't happy with your life, this is your invitation to change it. I'm inviting you to change your life in one year. It starts with getting $1000 off a year of transformational coaching. You won't recognize yourself or your life one year from now. Find out more at www.trishblackwell.com/blackfriday2022/
Negative self-talk can send us spiraling about ourselves, about our lives, and about our futures. Once the spiral starts it can feel hard to stop, but doesn't have to continue to keep you spinning in helplessness. This episode teaches strategies on how to effectively get out of the fog of mind drama, how to neutralize your brain when it feels overwhelmed with negativity and how to anticipate and exit negativity spiraling so that it stops getting in the way of your growth, your goals and your breakthroughs. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/522
Public speaking and speaking your mind no longer need to panic you or make you feel anxious and unsure of yourself. This podcast episode gives you practical and easy to implement tips to improve your self-confidence for the next time you need to speak in public, or the next time you're trying to speak your mind about something that matters to you. You don't have to be extraverted or 100% confident in yourself to appear more confident when speaking in front of others. This episode will teach you how to trust yourself and how to keep your thoughts in a place of confidence instead of self-judgement and fear for the next time you speak. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/521
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Public speaking and speaking your mind no longer need to panic you or make you feel anxious and unsure of yourself. This podcast episode gives you practical and easy to implement tips to improve your self-confidence for the next time you need to speak in public, or the next time you're trying to speak your mind about something that matters to you. You don't have to be extraverted or 100% confident in yourself to appear more confident when speaking in front of others. This episode will teach you how to trust yourself and how to keep your thoughts in a place of confidence instead of self-judgement and fear for the next time you speak. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/521
The brain is the most powerful thing we have in the world, and yet most of us are blocking ourselves from accessing its fullest capacity because we aren't managing it well. The result? You don't achieve as much as you want and your life feels good, but not great. The key to a breakthrough in your mental capacity is to learn how to cut through the fog and weight of overwhelm and overthinking, and the good news is that it's easiest to do than you think. Get the full show notes at: www.trishblackwell.com/520
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Beautiful things happen when you distance yourself from negativity. A negative mind will never give you a positive life. The less you respond to negativity, the more peaceful your life becomes. This episode will teach you how to distance yourself from negativity, how to create a positive mind (and a positive life) and how to stop reacting to negative people. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/519
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Beautiful things happen when you distance yourself from negativity. A negative mind will never give you a positive life. The less you respond to negativity, the more peaceful your life becomes. This episode will teach you how to distance yourself from negativity, how to create a positive mind (and a positive life) and how to stop reacting to negative people. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/519
Increased productivity and increased discipline means that you make more progress on what matters, and have more free time as you do. Learn how to increase your self-discipline and personal productivity with these time-management hacks and mindset shifts; you'll see a change in how you approach your life management right away. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/518
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Your happiness comes from your thoughts. In this episode you'll learn how to create the type of thoughts and type of thinking that creates happiness as a result, no matter what is going on in your life that's challenging, negative or hard. Happiness is a choice, and this episode will teach you how to be happiness, how your happiness creates good in the world, and how to use happiness to create more purpose with your life. Learn the exact 4 ways to give yourself permission to be happy and start feeling happier immediately today. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/517
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Your happiness comes from your thoughts. In this episode you'll learn how to create the type of thoughts and type of thinking that creates happiness as a result, no matter what is going on in your life that's challenging, negative or hard. Happiness is a choice, and this episode will teach you how to be happiness, how your happiness creates good in the world, and how to use happiness to create more purpose with your life. Learn the exact 4 ways to give yourself permission to be happy and start feeling happier immediately today. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/517
If you've ever struggled with loneliness or with feeling different, then this podcast episode is for you. You'll learn how to be confident in your differences, how to encourage yourself when feeling lonely or rejected, and how to create hope and purpose in your life when you feel down or "blah." Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/516
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Our habits help us live our days well; and when we can learn how to live one day well, we are capable of living a week well. Knowing how to live a good week gives you the power to know how to live a good life … and it all starts with your habits. The most important habits are your mindset habits. This episode will teach you the top mindset habits of highly successful and supremely happy people. Get the full show note at www.trishblackwell.com/515
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Our habits help us live our days well; and when we can learn how to live one day well, we are capable of living a week well. Knowing how to live a good week gives you the power to know how to live a good life … and it all starts with your habits. The most important habits are your mindset habits. This episode will teach you the top mindset habits of highly successful and supremely happy people. Get the full show note at www.trishblackwell.com/515
Podcast #514 WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU WAKE UP WITH ANXIETY
If you struggle with anxiety, this episode is a must-listen. Anxiety can feel like an unpredictable and powerful monster in your life, especially if you ever find yourself waking up feeling attacked by it before you even get out of bed. This episode will give you practical and easily applicable steps to victory over your morning anxiety in a way you've never heard before.
In this episode, we're coaching on:
What to do when you wake up with anxiety and what it means5 steps you can take when this happensMy favorite affirmations for morning anxiety
REVIEW OF THE WEEK
Just over a year later, I definitely woke up in a better mood. But in addition, this podcast and the support of the COC helped me to:
Stop having suicidal thoughtsForgive friends for serious past hurts, Carry out a consistent bedtime routineHold myself accountableRekindle my Christian faithStop obsessing over my food intakeDevelop a better relationship with my family and more
I recommend it to anyone who will listen!
WAKING UP WITH ANXIETY
Anxiety is a feeling of fear, dread, or uneasiness.
It is always concerned about the future and dripping in self-doubt.
How to know if you are experiencing this?
-Your body fills with dread.
-Your thoughts race with "what if"s or " I wish I hadn't"…
Physically, I get wide awake but restless and unable to get out of bed.
My heart races, my mind races, and the to-do list for the day go on a mental loudspeaker.
I get a pit in my stomach and tightness in my chest and I wish I was someone else.
Some of the thoughts I've had include:
What if I'm not good enough today?
What if I'm not pretty enough to matter?
What if I don't have the energy I need to get through the day?
What if I'm too tired?
What if I don't know what to do?
What if it doesn't work?
The first-moment anxiety reveals some of our darkest, most base fears about ourselves and about our futures.
I hate this and used to be filled with guilt; guilt that I was dreading my dream life. Guilt that I was so driven that I created negative emotions and extra struggle in my life.
Now I accept it because it's not who I am, it's just an old thought pattern and habits that I'm still deprogramming within myself.
FIRST STEP: AWARENESS & ACCEPTANCE
Recognize what's happening.
SECOND STEP: SHIFT ATMOSPHERE
Change the atmosphere of your thoughts.
-Gratitude on the go
-5 minutes of peace and breathing
-Prayer
-First thought concept
THIRD STEP: CREATE SMALL WINS
Do something physical to trigger a win
-Stretch + Abs
-Journal
-Read or listen to something uplifting
-Take a walk
-Put on music
-Smile and look at yourself in the mirror
-Self-affirm
FOURTH STEP: IDENTIFY WITH PEACE
Affirm that you are free from the chokehold of anxiety.
The opposite =
Calmness, serenity, peace, trust
Trust in core strengths, trust in resilience, trust in the process, trust in the discomfort, trust in God, trust in your preparation, trust in your capacity
-It is a burden you don't have to carry.
-It is a decision about how you will live
-Write an affirmation and speak out an affirmation
FIFTH STEP: CURIOSITY & CLEANSING
Get self-curious, not self-critical
-"I should be beyond this" or "I know better than this" or "I'm supposed to trust God" aren't helpful sentences to think
-Downplaying- "this is silly" doesn't help
-Guilt thoughts like "I love my life and shouldn't dread it" isn't helpful
Curiosity has helped me understand that this is both nature and nurture. God has done massive and revolutionary healing in my life - miraculously so with my levels of anxiety, however, I have default settings (due to my thoughts about myself and my life) that stir up the anxiety again.
I now see this area of my life as a place where I get revelation.
ABOUT TRISH BLACKWELL'S BUSINESS JOURNEY Trish launched her business in 2012 when she was working full-time (50 hours/week) and training for an Ironman Triathlon (20 hours/week). She went full-time for herself in 2015 when she became pregnant with her first child. She grew her business with minimal childcare, working around nap schedules and early mornings, and a second child was added in 2017. Her business hit 6-figures in 2018 while staying at home with young kids and hiring only 15/hours per week of childcare. She doubled her business between 2020 and 2022, also while working within the limitations of minimal childcare help due to the pandemic. She continues to increase her business by 50% per year while maintaining time freedom to travel and to spend quality time with her family. She is passionate about empowering female entrepreneurs to maximize their profit margins and their time freedom. The Business Mistakes I Made Too much pressure on myself. Too much comparison to others. Too much validity in vanity metrics. Too much value in my outcome. Too much over-learning. Too much worrying about what people think. Too much bleeding into my life (no boundaries) Too much hustle. Too much trying to do it on my own. Too much avoidance of data / too much personalization. Too much small thinking. The Business Action I Did Well Willing to be vulnerable Willing to be consistent Willing to do work on myself Willing to invest in coaching Willing to ask for help. Willing to fail. Willing to try new things. Willing to spend money on ads. Willing to learn hard things. Willing to seek out mentors. Willing to pivot, pivot, pivot. Willing to be uncomfortable. Willing to invite God into my business. Willing to expand my money mindset. My business journey: Swim lessons Launched non-profit in college Haultastic Fitness Apps Podcast Online courses Coaching College of Confidence High-performance coaching and speaking The Increase Mastermind is a 4-month intensive coaching experience for Christian women who want to increase their business, their reach, their profit, and their time freedom.
Put in an application for Increase at: www.trishblackwell.com/increase
Podcast #513 PROCRASTINATION AND PUTTING THINGS OFF
Procrastination and putting things off create a reactive, delayed life. No matter how deep your default patterns of procrastination or avoidance are, you can learn a new way to think and approach the things in your life that matter most to you. This episode will teach you the core tenants of how to stop procrastinating and settle for average. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/513
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on:
Why do we procrastinate and put things offHow to become someone who takes massive actionThe 7 steps to becoming someone who doesn't procrastinate.
REVIEW OF THE WEEK
Thank you Trish for this helpful, powerful podcast. I just discovered you today, and you have already helped me on my journey of self-improvement and building my confidence.
-carsck
ANNOUNCING, MY NEW MASTERMIND "INCREASE"
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Join Trish Blackwell and other Christian female entrepreneurs for a focused four months of strategic business growth. This faith-based approach to business is like nowhere else, and the coaching will include Biblical principles, prayer, and reliance on guidance from the Holy Spirit.
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Procrastination is a thief of time.
Time wasted is existence; used is life. -Edward Young
The only difference between success and failure is the ability to take action.
-Alexander Graham Bell
If you have goals and procrastination you have nothing. If you have goals and you take action, you will have anything you want. -Thomas J Vilord
KNOW WHY YOU PROCRASTINATE
Avoidance
The false narrative that you function better behind
Subconscious self-sabotage
Exaggeration of how hard something will be (lack of self-concept of how good you are)
Lack of positive self-concept of your own capabilities
WHAT ARE YOU PUTTING OFF?
What are you avoiding?
What will you regret not starting sooner?
We put off little things and big things.
Decide to be the kind of person who doesn't put things off.
Because, well, putting things off is so, well, average.
And you're not average.
Putting off your health changes?
Putting off your personal development?
Putting off investing in yourself?
Putting off budgeting?
Putting off starting your book?
Putting off making a commitment?
Putting off a big decision?
Putting off your workouts?
Putting off laundry?
Putting off volunteering?
Putting off being generous?
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HARD THINGS PYRAMID
I am open to hard things.
I don't avoid doing hard things.
I can do hard things.
I like doing hard things.
CHANGING YOUR PATTERNS
Approach Modification
What didn’t go well here and why?
What did go well that I want to keep doing?
What do I need to change next time?
1 Stop Doing
2 Do Less Of
3 Keep Doing
4 Do More Of
5 Start Doing
How do you want to be known? Average people procrastinate.
What kind of life do you want to create?
Understand why you procrastinate.Make a decision to be a different, more evolved version of you.Get to the work of being more disciplined.Seek accountability.Show up as your 2.0 self and behave in a way that your future self will thank you.Just start.Identify as a massive action-taker
LISTENER OF THE EPISODE
Hey Trish you are amazing - so inspirational.
I have. Quick question - what do you do if you don't k...
Podcast #512 TRUSTING YOURSELF AND YOUR DECISIONS
Trusting yourself to make good decisions, and trusting your ability to show up big in your life in your own personal follow-through changes everything. If you've ever struggled with indecision, overthinking or lack of self-trust, this episode is for you. This episode will teach you how to practice self-trust, how to not belabor or second-guess yourself, and how to get out of the spiral of overthinking.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:
How to build self-trust, and how to trust big decisions you need to make How to be someone who does what they say they will do How to become a good bet - trusting that your effort will always pay off
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
The COC takes the podcast to the next level. . I could have just watched the workshop to save myself hours of listening to podcasts. What I loved about this workshop were the exercises to help evaluate failures, and handle thoughts about future failures. -Trevor F.
TRUSTING YOURSELF - HOW TO DO IT
Know yourself.
Establish a baseline of friendship with yourself.
Actionables:
Write out a list of times when you have made good choices, worthy of trust.Write out another list where you didn't trust yourself - and why that makes sense.
PAST BROKEN SELF-TRUST IS A GOOD THING
I spent years second-guessing and overthinking because I trusted hard - and the wrong people.
Like anything, decision-making isn't something that just comes naturally.
It's a skill that we have to learn, we have to practice, we have to strengthen.
Therefore, the decisions you made in the past make sense.
How does it make sense?Would I do it differently?Next time what will I change?
We get stuck in overthinking and tapping into other people for decisions and over-confirming because we cast judgment on past "bad" decisions.
Instead of labeling a decision "good" or "bad," what would it look like to label it as the decision you wanted to make? … that whatever the decision, you know that you can make it a good decision.
HOW TO "BET ON YOURSELF"
The best thing Brandon has ever said to me is: "you're a good bet."
I'm going to say the same to you.
How can you create a personal where you are a good bet?
Show up for yourselfBe impeccable to your word.Have your own back.Train
Affirmations for Self-Trust:
I am a good bet.I made good decisions.I am worthy of trust and I act in a way that builds trust with myself.I have my own back.My inner voice is clear and strong.I trust God's plan for my life and I am practicing listening to His guidance. I have the courage to show up in the world as myself.I am okay making decisions other people don't agree with.I love trusting myself.Happiness is my natural state.It's safe to trust myself here.I always know what's best for me.I can make any decision a good decision. I make good decisions that make my life better. My gut tells me when something is off and I am good at listening to it. I seek inner peace and I can hear God's promptings. I believe in myself and in my potential. I am good at follow-through.I can create emotional certainty in the face of uncertainty. God guides me and will always be with me.
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Why trusting yourself matters:
You can set bigger goals, and really believe you can achieve them.You can free yourself from the self-critical voice that makes you feel never enough and always behind.You can get out of the overthinking cycle of self-doubt and indecision.You can decide what to eat, drink, exercise,
Podcast #511 MAKE MORE MONEY WITH CONFIDENCE
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:
How confidence makes you more money Financial blocks and thoughts to eradicate from your internal narrative Rewriting your money mindset narrative - and that you get to decide how much money you want to make and how much wealth you want to have
REVIEW OF THE WEEK
DH Cali
Hellow - walking with my friend yesterday as we were chatting she told me about your podcast that she listens to all of the time. I had no idea you were even out there and I am so glad she mentioned you, I immediately looked you up and now am hooked THANK YOU so much for your time putting these podcasts together, I will now be a forever faithful follower of you.
HOW CONFIDENCE MAKES YOU MORE MONEY
I'm afraid to face my finances
I'm worried I won't be doing a good job
I feel like money is hard to get / slips out of my fingers
Confidence helps you know your worth.
Confidence gives you the courage to ask for what you want.
Confidence frees you from the guilt of success.
Confidence creates more value.
Confidence means you take more risks and with less delay
FINANCIAL BLOCKS AND THOUGHTS TO OUTGROW
Why We Block Our Fullest Financial Potential
We haven't been taught how
We weren't told that we could
We find it overwhelming
We assume that we are asking for too much
We feel underqualified
We doubt our intelligence or ability to manage money
Truths About Money:
You can make as much or as little money as you want.
You only get in life what you have the courage to ask for.
Money is easy to manage.
Money is fun to manage.
Money is a privilege to manage.
Money isn't something to feel guilty about.
Money is something we get to be generous with.
Money does good in the world.
What annoys you about money?
-"Managing it is annoying" -> "Managing it is a privilege"
-"People want to take my money " -> "It's a game, fun to advocate for myself.
REWRITING YOUR MONEY MINDSET NARRATIVE
You Can Decide How Much Money You Want to Make
Your industry doesn't decide - you do.
You get paid what you're willing to ask for, and for the value, you can offer.
People who wait and are told what they will make will always be limited - people who believe they can make whatever they want will always have creativity and multiple streams of revenue.
How can you offer 10x more value than you currently do?
Money is simply an exchange for value put into the world.
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ABUNDANCE MONEY HABITS
Money Habits of Abundance
Have a money systemHave money goalsHave a money mentorHave a generous spiritHave a plan for money growthHave perspective on what you haveHave curiosity and humility to learn more
The Pillars of Confidence
Take Ownership of Your Thoughts
Take Responsibility
Take Action
Take Heart
LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:
Aleks
Hi, Trish1 I just want to let you know how much I enjoy your show! I love listening to your podcast, it always motivates me and lifts me up! I survived my first year as an RN with your help.
I wanted to ask if there is a way to have an episode on toxic friendships/relationships and have the courage and confidence to step out and end them.
I recently discovered that one of my friends is not as nice as I thought she was. I always worry about her ruining my other relationships and I just have a hard time listening to my guy and having the confidence to listen to my heart and do what's best for me. Thank you so so much for everything you do for us, your followers.
OTHER MUST-LISTEN EPISODES MENTIONED:
Episode #459: How to Be More Assertive
Episode #423: What Will "They" Say
Episode #437: Friends, How Many Should You Have?
Episode #461: How to Make People Like You More
Podcast #510 SILENCING THE SELF-CRITICAL VOICE
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:
The mean voice that lurks inside of you and spirals you into defeat, discouragement and discontentSelf-criticism as intentional self-sabotage Believing in the neuroplasticity of your brain - and your ability to change how you think
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
My dentist recommended me to this podcast. the kindness he shared so I could find and listen to a podcast that was able to start directing me. With always asking how and where even to start, this was an answer.
Thank you both for providing hope.
-G xD jsjduasio
ANNOUNCING, MY NEW MASTERMIND "INCREASE"
Put your application in now; we are allowing 20 participants, and applications are first-come, first-accepted (if you qualify).
www.trishblackwell.com.com/increase
The Increase Mastermind is a 4-month intensive coaching experience for Christian women who want to increase their business, their reach, their profit and their time freedom.
Join Trish Blackwell and other Christian female entrepreneurs for a focused four months of strategic business growth. This faith-based approach to business is like nowhere else, and the coaching will include Biblical principles, prayer, and reliance on guidance from the Holy Spirit.
www.trishblackwell.com.com/increase
QUOTES ON SELF-CRITICISM
One should never criticize his own work except in a fresh and hopeful mood. The self-criticism of a tired mind is suicide. -Charles Horton Cooley
You have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn't worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens. -Louise Hay
Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain - and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving. -Dale Carnegie
If babies held the same tendency toward self-criticism as adults, they might never walk or talk. Can you imagine infants stomping, "Aargh! Screwed up again!" Fortunately, babies are free of self-criticism. They just keep practicing. - Dan Millman
We all have the tendency to believe in self-doubt and self-criticism, but listening to this voice never gets us closer to our goals. Instead, try on the point of view of a mentor or good friend who believes in you, wants the best for you, and will encourage you when you feel discouraged. -Kelly McGonigal
DEFEAT, DISCOURAGEMENT, AND DISCONTENT
The inner mean voice.
We all have one.
What does yours say?
Acknowledge that you're the critic.Decide that criticism isn't necessary.Dare to try a new way - to try on kindness.Know what thought tracks you typically revert to (so you know the bully when you hear it)Understand what happens when you believe the voiceTalk back to the bullyGive birth to a baby believe that your brain is transforming
SELF-CRITICISM AS SELF-SABOTAGE
It keeps you stuck. It makes you tip-toe. It creates stagnancy. It makes your world smaller.
The voice, especially if you've practiced it a lot in your past, will still be audible, but it can be placed on mute, or have the volume turned down significantly.
Understand why self-criticism served you (or you thought it did)
Did it bring you to action
Did it make you feel shame
Did it motivate you to be better
Did it repeat a pattern you were taught?
BELIEVING IN THE NEUROPLASTICITY OF YOUR BRAIN, AND YOUR ABILITY TO CHANGE
Focused Attention
-grow new neurons by connecting them with stronger neurons that already exist; engage your brain in planning, complex concepts, self-reflection, and emotional self-regulation awareness
Deliberate Repetition and Practice
-structured mindset growth habits, journaling; new connections are fragile, massive repetition matters
Maximize your physical health
-there's a brain and body connection - hydration, nutrients, movement, sleep, and stress matter.
Spiritual Expansion
Podcast #509 LOVING LIFE WHEN YOU HATE YOUR JOB
You want to love your life, but you have things in your life right now that are less than ideal, and don't have a prospect of changing soon. Maybe you don't love your job, or maybe where you live, or maybe you find yourself in a season of challenge. This episode will teach you how to find happiness where you're at, even if where you're at isn't where you want to be. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/509 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:
Loving Life When You Hate Your JobHow to Accept Where You AreHow to Be Positive When Things in Your Life Stink - And Still Allow the Negative Emotions
REVIEW OF THE WEEK
Just happened. -GmaAdams
I have never done podcasts. I just happened upon your podcast and can't stop. You put things into perspective and I absolutely love it. I will be listening every day forever.
HAPPINESS IS UP TO US
We are only as happy as we believe we can be, and as we give ourselves permission to be.
But happiness doesn't mean that everything is perfect.
Happiness doesn't mean that you don't experience negative emotions, and often.
Happiness is determined by our commitment to intentional living, and to "me-search".
SPIRE
Spiritual, Professional, Intellectual, Relational, Emotional
Decide to be 1 notch happier in each of these areas.
To do that, what would you need to do?
Focus on what is within your control --- not what is out of your control (toxic co-workers, menial tasks, micro-managing, etc.)
*Poop plant story of Nick and Dad. Outcome - Nick learned exactly what he never wants to do. But he mastered his mindset, he committed to hard work, he resisted complaining because he was grateful for the money he was earning.
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REFRAME YOUR JOB, REFRAME YOUR ENJOYMENT
Jobs that stink, are well, stinky.
And annoying.
Whether it's a job you hate that you can leave or part of your job as an adult or parent that you wish you didn't have to deal with.
What are you avoiding and why do you find it annoying? Most of the time it’s not annoying it’s a privilege.
Try to understand what emotion is driving your discontent?
-Annoyance
-Irritation
-Boredom
-Monotony
-Frustration
Happiness is determined by what you allow yourself to have access to.
Do you have a job?
Do you have a career?
Do you have a calling?
Laying bricks
Building a wall
Constructing a cathedral to honor God
You can make anything you do fall into this category - and when you are able to move into a place of career and calling, even if it's a temporary position you don't plan on working forever, you can tap into a new level of spiritual fulfilment.
Instead of trying to be happy at your job, use your energy to be happier.
How to find a way to give yourself purpose:
Think beyond yourself
Think with gratitude
Think from a growth perspective
Think about what this is preparing you for
BEING EXCELLENT IN NON-EXCELLENT CIRCUMSTANCES
Toxic people are everywhere.
Micro-managing is part of the employment experience.
Podcast #508 STAYING CONFIDENT WHEN NOTHING IS WORKING
Life can feel massively unfair, and like everything is working against you. If you've found yourself ever feeling like nothing is working, or like things are happening for everyone but you, then this episode is for you. Learn how to reframe unfairness and stay confident when you feel discouraged or are losing faith. You'll also get the top 10 new thoughts you can practice thinking that will help you curate belief for when you feel down or discouraged. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/508 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:
Staying confident when nothing is working, and when life just feels massively unfairHow to reframe unfairness in a way that allows you to embrace the duality of feeling good and not feeling good as simply part of life10 thoughts to curate belief for when you feel down
THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF…
-Everyone else is getting pregnant, and you're struggling with infertility.
-All of your friends are married and you don't even have a boyfriend.
-Their business is taking off, and yours isn't
-They got their dream job and you can't get a second interview.
-Your best friend got into her dream school, and you've got 5 rejection letters.
-Your friend got a trust fund and a ridiculous starting salary and your parents have no connections
ANNOUNCEMENTS:
It's not too late to join the Stress Less Challenge.
Sign up at www.trishblackwell.com/stressless
Stress blocks happiness.
It limits belief.
It creates fertile soil for fear.
And that's why I’m inviting you to learn how to radically reduce the stress you feel - even if your circumstances in life right now don't immediately change.
The stress you feel is directly related to the thoughts you think, which means that we have more control over our stress levels than we think we do.
If you want to decrease your stress as we get ready for a new season of the year, you've got to take part in the STRESS LESS CHALLENGE, happening from August 15th - August 19th.
Sign up today at www.trishblackwell.com/stressless
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Amazing podcasts! Started with one and now I can't stop! I love the positivity and life lessons you can learn from these! Highly recommended.
-MaurerAM
HOW TO DEAL WITH WHAT FEELS UNFAIR
Life isn't fair.
Fair is a four-letter word in our family.
Fair is not a useful concept.
However, much of the "unfairness" that happens in the world is not within our control. And if that's the case, how productive is it to dwell on what's fair and unfair?
Unfairness creates victimhood. Viewing yourself as a victim tends to keep you in the past and promotes a sense of powerlessness.
Maybe you wish you had a different family
Maybe you wish you had a different body
Maybe you wish you had a different brain
Maybe you wish you had a different personality
Maybe you wish you had a different struggle
I was stuck in unfairness for years - and as a result, I missed out on much of the sweetness and blessing that I did have.
It felt unfair to come from a family with struggles.
It felt unfair to have to struggle with body image.
It felt unfair to be from a small town and have a dad who is a plumber.
It felt unfair to not be the girl the boys chased.
It felt unfair to not have a person to fall in love with until I was 30
It felt unfair to have someone squat on my property and make me lose thousands of dollars I didn't have.
Everyone here is a victim of life's unfairness.
This life is so unfair that we are being brought to this life without our consent, and as well die without death asking for our permission before taking us away.
The moment you start thinking about why life is hard for you, that's when you start being unfair to yourselves. Accept the fact that you can’t always be happy, winning, or not getting sick.
Bonus Episode: Stress, Overthinking, and Anxiety Reduction
Stress, overthinking and anxiety can weigh you down. There's a simple 5-step proven process that I want to share with you that will alleviate and reduce these heavy emotions in your life, no matter how chaotic your schedule feels right now. Sign up for the Stress Less Challenge Week, starting Monday, August 15th through Friday, August 19th now at www.trishblackwell.com/stressless
Stress blocks happiness.
It limits belief.
It creates fertile soil for fear.
And that's why I’m inviting you to learn how to radically reduce the stress you feel - even if your circumstances in life right now don't immediately change.
The stress you feel is directly related to the thoughts you think, which means that we have more control over our stress levels than we think we do.
If you want to decrease your stress as we get ready for a new season of the year, you've got to take part in the STRESS LESS CHALLENGE, happening August 15th - August 19th.
Sign up today at www.trishblackwell.com/stressless or hit the link in my bio.
Got questions about the challenge? Comment below or DM me and I'd be happy to reply! Already a member of the College of Confidence? You're already registered for the challenge as it's included in your COC membership.
Reduce your stress reactions, and increase your power to achieve and create in your life.
Day 1: Understanding the Thoughts Behind Your Stress
Day 2: Talking Back to Your Stress Effectively
Day 3: Reducing Your Stress Load with Strategic Habits
Day 4:Increasing Your Self-Concept to Decrease Stress | Becoming Someone Who Doesn't Stress
Day 5: Replacing Stress with Happiness and Flow (and therefore more success)
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Podcast #507 HOW TO BE A HAPPIER PERSON
Everyone wants to be happy, but not everyone knows how to be happy, and how accessible happiness is to anyone, no matter your circumstances. People are sadder and sicker than ever before, but it doesn't have to be that way for you. Learn some easy, free and simple methods that you can apply to your life right now that will increase your happiness and make your life feel more vibrant, fulfilling and happy. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/507 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:
How to be happy and feel like a happier personWhy happiness will create more success and opportunity in your lifeThe secret habits of happiness to apply to your life dailyBeing happy beyond your circumstancesHow to stay happy around unhappy or toxic people
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
"A blessing" - SuperTeacher!
Trish, thank you so much for your blessed knowledge and wisdom in the subject of confidence. You aare such a blessing and give me so much strength!
ANNOUNCEMENT:
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It's happening August 15th-August 19th.
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LESS STRESS, MORE SUCCESS
Stress blocks happiness. It limits belief. It creates fertile soil for fear.
Reduce your stress reactions, and increase your power to achieve and create in your life.
Day 1: Understanding the Thoughts Behind Your StressDay 2: Talking Back to Your Stress EffectivelyDay 3: Reducing Your Stress Load with Strategic HabitsDay 4: Increasing Your Self-Concept to Decrease StressDay 5: Replacing Stress with Happiness and Flow (and therefore more success)
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HOW TO BE A HAPPIER PERSON
Know that you have control over your happiness.
Play around with, and understand how you express happiness.
Have happiness habits.
Be intentional about the inputs in your life
Surround yourself with people who are happy.
Take responsibility - happiness is an inside job, not an outside one.
HAPPINESS - EXTERNAL CIRCUMSTANCES
Reduce toxic load of information
Separate circumstances from happiness - be wary of statements like "when I am_____, then I will be happy"
Minimize influence of toxic people
HAPPINESS - INTERNAL CIRCUMSTANCES
Do the work on your mental management
Do the work of emotional maturation and learn how to feel your feelings
Do the work of gratitude and learning presence
Do the work of fighting against the 4 C's of Negativity
HAPPINESS - ACTIONABLE THINGS TO DO
Happiness Habits
Focusing your attention and constant redirection / parenting your brain
Create more adventure in your life
Take more risks
Challenge the status quo you've accepted
Create financial freedom for yourself
Reclaim your voice
Help others
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Podcast #506 REJECTION AND NOT FITTING IN
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:
Rejection and Not Fitting In - What to do aboutHow to reframe rejection and move confidently through itWhy rejection can be a gift that you use for massive growth and increased happiness
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MY BABY BOY - BAKER IS 5!
REVIEW OF THE WEEK - ABOUT THE COC
I can't believe the success I'm already getting from being in this group for less than a month!
Thankful for COC helping me with my self-love and boundary setting already.
-Victoria
QUOTE OF THE WEEK:
“Over the years, I have come to realize that the greatest trap in our life is not success, popularity, or power, but self-rejection. Success, popularity, and power can indeed present a great temptation, but their seductive quality often comes from the way they are part of the much larger temptation to self-rejection. When we have come to believe in the voices that call us worthless and unlovable, then success, popularity, and power are easily perceived as attractive solutions. The real trap, however, is self-rejection. As soon as someone accuses me or criticizes me, as soon as I am rejected, left alone, or abandoned, I find myself thinking, "Well, that proves once again that I am a nobody." ... [My dark side says,] I am no good... I deserve to be pushed aside, forgotten, rejected, and abandoned. Self-rejection is the greatest enemy of the spiritual life because it contradicts the sacred voice that calls us the "Beloved." Being the Beloved constitutes the core truth of our existence.”
― Henri J.M. Nouwen
LET'S TALK ABOUT REJECTION
Relationship rejection - broken hearts.
Social rejection - feeling unincluded, unwanted, uncool, or like an outsider.
Family rejection - black sheep, mean siblings, given up, mistreated
School rejection - not accepted, feel marginalized
Job/opportunity rejection - impostor syndrome, fear of stagnation
Self-rejection - disappointment and disillusionment with the self
Note - for social rejection we often cast "projected rejection".
Be careful not to indulge in rejection when rejection isn't even happening.
Also, let's set some things straight.
Rejection is normal.
It's part of the human experience.
It means less about you than you think it does.
People naturally group, and exclude.
Opportunities are abundant, but some are going to be closed to you.
REJECTION REFRAMES
Rejection doesn't always mean what we think it does.
Sometimes it's not about us at all.
Sometimes it is about us but it's divine protection and direction.
Sometimes it is an opening, not an ending.
Sometimes it is an invitation into faith and an exit from self
Sometimes it is an opportunity to try again.
Sometimes it is meant to intentionally build our resilience.
Sometimes it is to thicken our skin and de-personalize circumstances
Sometimes it is to protect us from something that was not right for us.
Sometimes it is a "not now" instead of a "no".
Do what you feel in your heart to be right – for you’ll be criticized anyway.” -ER
“Never allow a person to tell you no who doesn’t have the power to say yes.” -ER
SELF REJECTION
“Be confident, not certain.”
Signs of self-rejection:
Always comparing yourself to others
Self-isolation
Adjusting goals or not committing to them fully
Creating smaller goals or not going for big dreams because of unworthiness
Letting others choose your path in life / make big life choices for you
Indecision and second-guessing
Ignoring your gut feeling and your instincts
Over-apologizing
Know how amazing you are.
Embrace your feelings
Practice self-trust.
FITTING IN / NOT FITTING IN
You decide if you belong - not others.
What does it mean to fit in?
Or to not fit in?
I have decided that I want to be different.
Podcast #505 THE ONE HABIT THAT CHANGES EVERYTHING: JOURNALING
Journaling is the single most effective tool for creating change in your life. People who journal achieve more and report overall better mental wellness and well-being. When it comes to your mindset, managing your thoughts, and becoming a more confident, courageous person, journaling is the one habit to prioritize every day that will make the biggest impact. Even if you don't feel like you have time to journal, or that you know how to journal the right way, it's never too late to learn effective journaling. You'll learn it all in this podcast episode. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/505 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about
Journaling ResistanceJournaling StylesJournaling BlockJournaling PotentialJournaling Resources
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REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Incredibly inspiring
his podcast is not only relatable but gives so many tools and inspiration to push past struggles and negative thoughts. Just incredible- hits every area everyone needs to hear!!
Kenos515
JOURNALING RESISTANCE
Our thoughts about journaling.
Our management of time.
Our distraction.
Limiting Journaling Thoughts:
I don't know what to write.
I don't have time.
It doesn't help.
Someone might read it.
I don't have anything to say.
I won't be able to figure out what I'm feeling.
I'll do it tonight.
I'm too busy.
JOURNALING STYLES
Expressive and Descriptive
Creative
Reflective & Contemplative
Belief Exploration
Thought Reframing
Brain Dumps / Thought Downloads
Gratitude Expression
Prayer Conversations
JOURNALING BLOCKS
Lack of continual prioritization
Rushing
Closed off thinking
Business
JOURNALING POTENTIAL
Self-discovery.
Personal healing.
A deeper relationship with God.
Intentional thought creation.
New belief development.
Visualization work.
Enriched memories.
Increased belief
JOURNALING RESOURCES:
Journaling for Self-Improvement
Journaling for self improvement
How to Feel Happier Through Journaling
How to Feel Happier through Effective Journaling
Christian Journaling Ideas:
Christian Journaling Ideas
Journal Prompts for Confidence and Self-Growth
Journal Prompts for Confidence and Self-Discovery
How to Journal Daily When You Don’t Have Time
How to Journal Daily When You Don't Have Time
Journaling for Anxiety and Depression Relief
Journaling for Anxiety and Depression Relief
How to Gratitude Journal
How to Start a Gratitude Journal that Actually Benefits Your Life
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Podcast #504 MONEY CONFIDENCE AND FEAR OF SUCCESS
Money scarcity and fear of success can keep you from your fullest potential. Learn how to think about money with confidence, how to manage it with confidence, and how to tap into more ability to create it with this coaching episode. You'll love the 9 money mindset affirmations and see massive changes when you put them to work in your own mind. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/504 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on:
How to have more confidence with money How to have more money - and stop feeling guilty about money abundance How to stop sabotaging your own success because of your fear of being too successful
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Excited for more -
Can't stop wanting to hear the next podcast! In the beginning of my becoming more and am excited to see what's ahead of me thanks to Trish!
HOW TO HAVE MORE MONEY CONFIDENCE
Understand your money past
Decide what your new money story will be
Know what money really means
Become a steward of money
Realize that you are already wealthy
Be proactive, not reactive or avoidant (pretend money is a person)
Have a money goal
Tell your money where to go
Automate your savings
Have God bless your money
Let go of past mistakes
Establish your why
Make money work for you
Be proactive about your credit card
Create an emergency fund
CREATING (AND BEING OKAY WITH) MONEY ABUNDANCE
Money is not bad.
The worship of money is where money goes wrong.
Money is an exchange of value you put out into the world.
Abundance blesses people.
Explore your negative thoughts about money.Explore your negative thoughts about people with money.
Decide what you want your relationship with money to be.
“Money and possessions are the second most referenced topic in the Bible – money is mentioned more than 800 times
We need to talk about money more.
Gratitude has 2 branches
-gratefulness
-thanksgiving
Life feels full and enough and sufficiency, the great fullness of life and provision from God. That bowl overflows into the spirit of thanksgiving
Gratefulness generates the spirit of thanksgiving
Sufficiency, or enough, is this experience of gratefulness and it is the portal of abundance.
You cannot get to abundance through the doorway of more. That door only brings you to lack.
Know the difference between greed and goals.
MONEY MINDSET AFFIRMATIONS
I am a woman who knows how to make money work for her.I am a woman who creates wealth in her life. I have all I need and I have fun creating more. My money is blessed, and a conduit of God's blessing to others.Money moves through me and flows continuously.Money is easy to get and always able to be created. I love stewarding my money well.My heart is generous and money flows through me generously.I am a child of the Most High, all of my needs are abundantly taken care of and I live in my life with radical joy and generosity
FEAR OF SUCCESS:
Ask yourself honestly what you are really afraid of.
Questions You Might Be Asking Yourself:
Can I handle it?
What if I mismanage it?
What if I become too successful?
What will "they" think about me?
Am I willing to be different?
Will people think less of me?
Will it make me change?
I don't deserve this success?
It wouldn't be fair if I had that much money…
Am I shooting myself in the foot with higher taxes?
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LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:
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Podcast #503 TOP CONFIDENCE TIPS FOR YOUR KIDS
Equipping your children with the tools of confident thinking will give them the ability to create a life of impact, and a life they love. The good news is that you can teach confidence while you are also learning to be more confident yourself. This podcast will teach you 15 specific ways to instill, encourage and inspire confidence in the kids you know. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/503
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on
The 5 self-esteem basics, and how to teach them to kids The 5 confidence-esteem basics, and how to teach them to kids The 5 core truths I want to instill in my kids
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
I found this podcast and I am glad I did. I believe that I am loved and seen by God. I know it won't be easy and a quick fix, but I have hope again. Thank you, Trish, for being you and being open and honest with your struggles. God bless you and your family.
HOW TO PARENT WITH CONFIDENCE:
Remember: they're God's kids first.
Your job is to shape them - it's their choice what they do with that shaping and the tools you have given them.
You can decide that you will always have a good relationship with your kids.
TEACH THE 5 BASICS OF SELF-ESTEEM
5 Core Categories of Internal Self-Esteem
How You Think About YourselfHow You Talk About YourselfHow You Present YourselfHow You Take Care of YourselfHow You Show Up for Yourself
Think About Yourself
-What you think you become
-Your subconscious creates your future
-You get to decide what to think
Talk About Yourself (And to Yourself)
-Your words matter
-Your subconscious hears everything you tell it
-Become powerful in your self-talk / self-coaching & become unstoppable
Present Yourself
-Be the first to say hi
-Be the most positive person you know
-Are you putting your best foot forward
Care for Yourself
-Prioritized self-care
-What are you avoiding - self-reliance
-Investing in yourself
Show Up for Yourself
-Your future self is formed from the action you take now
-Become a person who always does what they say they will do
-Always have your own back - trust your follow through and you can do anything
THE BASICS OF CONFIDENCE ESTEEM:
Move your body.Brush your brain.Stay in your lane. / Focus your ThoughtsKnow your worth. / Affirm Your ValueHave goals. / Priorities and Action
5 CORE CONFIDENCE TRUTHS FOR KIDS:
You are loved.You have a purpose.You are beautifully unique.You are seen and you matter.You have power in how you think and in what you believe.
Other core fundamentals:
Little things pay off.
Don't let negative people bother you.
Be bright, the world needs you to shine.
You are a world-changer, a difference-maker.
Little by little, big things get done.
Be someone who shows up.
Your integrity is everything.
Faith fuels a life of fulfillment.
COURSE ON "TEACHING GIRLS CONFIDENCE"
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NEW JOURNALS ON AMAZON:
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Direct Links for Your Convenience
The Confidence Journal for Girls
The 2 Minute Journal
The Extraordinary Things Journal
LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:
Good morning from Abu Dhabi
What am I most grateful for when it comes to my personal growth:
I’m most grateful for finding you Trish, you are a life changer and I wish I found you many many years ago. I'm grateful for finally starting to change my negative thought patterns and I’m so excited for continued growth. Thank you for all that you have done for me. - Tracy Tops
Podcast #502 Confident Communication: How to Have More Connection and More Influence with Others
Confident communication opens doors of opportunity and creates healthy relationships that thrive. Most people are too rushed or too timid to tap fully into the wealth that is available to them through confident communication. This is a must-listen for anyone who wants to improve their interpersonal communication, their professional communication, or their relational communication. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/502
REVIEW OF THE WEEK: "Continuous Elevation" I always find myself opening up this podcast every time I feel stuck in life. Every time a new obstacle gets in the way and makes me feel that because of where I've been, I can never get to where I want to go.
Well, this podcast remove those obstacles in a way that feels great.
Trish is relatable, credible, and inspiring. My life has forever been changed because of her words."
-Monjoa
NEW JOURNALING BOOKS BY TRISH Pick up your own copy at www.trishblackwell.com/journals
RELATIONSHIPS RELY ON COMMUNICATION
Communication is the key to life.
The more present you are, the better your communication will be.
COMMUNICATION WITH OURSELVES We have to start here. You can't communicate with others unless you actually know yourself first.
-Journal -Ask questions -Get curious and open -Be coached -Spend time with yourself -Explore your hobbies -Talk to yourself
You've got to figure out your own wants and needs - and you do that through inner communication; learning to listen to your inner voice and your inner wiring. COMMUNICATION MISTAKES
Mistakes We Often Make:
We assume people know what we are thinking
We assume we know what people want.
Not truly listening
Interrupting the speaker
Letting your emotions dictate your responses
Failing to account for cultural differences
Judging someone's poor communication skills
Personalizing poorly delivered communication
Avoiding communication
Not having an open mind
Speaking more than you listen
Not asking enough questions - not being interested
Looking beyond the speaker
Hoping something is forgotten
Avoiding conflict or difficult conversations
Not knowing how to speak up about your own wants or needs
Having negative or apathetic body language
Not paraphrasing or restating
Trying to be "right""
Perspective to Consider:
Communication is an artform
There's always room for improvement
Separate how you've always done this (1.0) and think about the type of person you want to become (2.0) who does this.
Ask for direct feedback
Marriage Communication:
How have I loved you well this month?
How can I love you better or more intentionally to your needs next month?
What am I doing well as a mom?
What do you think I can do better?
SNEAK PEEK TO NEXT WEEK
My top confidence tips for kids - don't miss this episode!
YOU SHOULD KNOW:
We have a Self-Esteem Basics Workshop happening Friday in the COC.
Sign up now and you'll also get to join me for my upcoming
How to Stop Giving up On Your GoalsHow to Stop Yo-Yo DietingBusiness & Money Mindset Coaching Workshop
Become a member at www.collegeofconfidence.com/join
CONFIDENT COMMUNICATION: Don't play small or undersell yourself. Don't over-explain. Know that you have something worthwhile to say - always. Believe that your voice, your ideas and your opinions matter. Be specific and use specific language Be ready to feel uncomfortable being direct Know what you want or what you want to express Maintain a positive attitude Listen with respect and curiosity Ask questions Establish a stable and clear voice tone Make eye contact Speak from the heart and seek to understand Look for win-win solutions Express gratitude Apologize when in the wrong - take ownership
3 SIMPLE EASY COMMUNICATION BOOSTS
Be Present. (Think about the other person,
Podcast #501 FEELING BETTER ABOUT YOURSELF WHEN YOU'RE SELF-CRITICAL
Self-criticism can absolutely destroy the light inside of you, and your ability to live life to the fullest, and with full joy. But for many of us, the self-critical voice is our internal voice, and the voice that we've always had, so it feels like it will never go away. But it can. You can learn how to ditch self-criticism and become someone who self-encourages … no matter how much of a perfectionist you or how long your critical voice has been around. This podcast episode will teach you 10 ways to stop being critical, 5 ways to take pressure off yourself, and the core way to catch criticism when it comes back.
How to take the pressure off yourself - 5 steps 10 ways to reduce self-criticism The core way I teach my students to catch their critical voice
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
"New me"!
Thank you, Trish! Your podcasts are amazing!
-Soans115
QUOTES TO INSPIRE:
Negative self-criticism is an iron chain that will never let you ascend to real greatness.-JewelYou've been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn't worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens. -Louise HayYour inner critics re-affirm untruths about yourself that you have internalized to be true. - Athena Laz
10 WAYS TO REDUCE SELF-CRITICISM:
Keep a gratitude journal. (You can pick up my new journal from Amazon)Track your wins and celebrate your winsKnow what success and happiness really mean and look like for youSwitch your desire - from wanting to be impressive to instead want to make an impression in your lifeTake the pressure off of yourselfIdentify as a learnerStop comparing yourselfForgive yourself - there's always a purpose in the pain you create for yourself.Release black & white thinking - and yes, you can help it. Explore what it means to create a beautiful life
Watch out for limiting language…
"I'll always be…" "I never could …" "I'm not ______" "I'm behind…" "I can't figure this out…" "I keep messing my life up…" "They're so much ahead of me…" "I should have done … / been …." HOW TO TAKE THE PRESSURE OFF YOURSELF
Write out the story you're telling yourself.De-dramatize the story.Know where your worth comes from.Rewrite a better story.Pursue your dreams with lightness and openness.
Watch out for pressure language…
"I just need to…"
" I have to do this right…""This is really important…"
"People are depending on me …"
CATCH THE CRITICAL VOICE
Recognize how it sneaks it - and what you allow and tolerate.
Get comfortable having conversations with yourself. -Trish, we don't do that anymore. -Trish, we're not mean anymore like that. -Trish, there's more to the story. -Trish, look at the whole, you're beautiful. -Trish, there's no timeline. -Trish, you're exactly where you need to be.
The more you do this, the more fluent you will become. SNEAK PEEK TO NEXT WEEK:
Confident Communication + Interpersonal Communication
YOU SHOULD KNOW:
We have a Self-Esteem Basics Workshop happening Friday in the COC.
Sign up now and you'll also get to join me for my upcoming
How to Stop Giving up On Your GoalsHow to Stop Yo-Yo DietingBusiness & Money Mindset Coaching Workshop
Become a member at www.collegeofconfidence.com/join
LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:
Ally Beckner
I love your podcast. It really resonates with me and makes me feel seen in a season where I'm feeling extremely lonely. Spending intentional time with this podcast daily and apply the things I've learned has renewed my sense of purpose and helped me reconnect with my faith. You have a greater impact than you know. Thank you, Trish
Podcast #500
BEING ENOUGH AND HAVING PURPOSE
Having purpose and feeling enough both start with the belief that you matter. This episode will coach you on how to believe this to be true in your life, and how to start showing up with bold belief and even bolder follow-through so that you tap into your purpose and make the difference in this world you were created to make. You are a world-changer and difference-maker…and the sooner you let go of the self-critical lie of not being "enough," the sooner you will stop being held back from the purpose God has for you.
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REVIEW OF THE EPISODE
"Trish's podcast makes me feel empowered. Being a member of the College of Confidence has given me the courage to be my true self and to change my thoughts. Trish feel like she's a sister or best friend I would always want in my life." -Rach and Rob
LET'S COACH ON ENOUGHNESS AND HAVING PURPOSE
Our most downloaded topics are on how to be enough, how to stop caring what people think, how to increase your confidence, how to find yourself, how to be assertive, and how to overcome social awkwardness.
Today we're exploring a combo topic - enoughness and purpose.
When you are able to answer the questions:
Am I enough?
Do I have a purpose?
With a CONFIDENT "yes," then you will be ready for a reinvention of your future self.
MY PODCASTING JOURNEY
500 Episodes.
9.61 years.
30 weeks of my first podcast.
10 Years.
4, 060,00 downloads
1,340reviews
156 countries reached
And ya'll. I'm just getting started.
But it all started because I believed something one mentor told me.
He told me that I could make a difference in the world.
He revitalized a belief I had as a child. I had lost it - from a series of life events that made me feel cynical, disheartened, and small.
I had believed the wrong voices.
Never underestimate what believing a new voice - thought can do.
So I am telling you this today.
You are a world changer.
You are a difference-maker.
You don't have to know the path - or the how - or what it will look like - you just have to believe that it is true.
You need to show up though.
The showing up is the work.
It requires inconvenience.
Failure.
Vulnerability.
Risk.
Commitment.
But the people on the other side the way you show up are worth it.
WHY MOST PEOPLE DON'T LIVE OUT THEIR PURPOSE
The wealthiest place in the world is not the gold mines of South America or the oil fields of Iraq or Iran. They are not the diamond mines of South Africa or the banks of the world. The wealthiest place on the planet it just down the road. It is the cemetery. There lie buried companies that were never started, inventions that were never made, bestselling books that were never written, and masterpieces that were never painted. In the cemetery is buried the greatest treasure of untapped potential. -Myles Munroe (minister from the Bahamas)
They disqualify themselves before they even start.
Because they don't think they're enough.
Good enough. Smart enough. Talented enough. Pretty enough.
HOW TO KNOW YOU'RE ENOUGH:
Always answer the questions your brain asks.
Decide that you are.
Face your fears.
Trust divine plans.
Become accountable.
Refocus on your goals.
Create a personalized plan of growth.
Podcast #499 BEING POSITIVE WHEN YOU FEEL NEGATIVE OR DISCOURAGED
Positivity is a super-power; positive thoughts create a positive life. People who tap into the skill of managing their mind, and disallowing negativity, no matter the circumstances, achieve massively more in their lives than anyone else.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on:
How to create more results in your life - with more ease - by being positive How to become the most positive person you know Why positivity is a superpower, and how to 10X it in your thought life
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Great new year.
Denise-Pitman-Rosas
Every time I listen to The Confidence Podcast I have to pause it and take notes because it is so good and relevant to my life and that has never happened to me before! I get so much out of each episode and often forward them to friends.
MENTIONED:
Also, join me for the mid-year new year!
Monday, June 27th at 6 PM EST!!!!
www.trishblackwell.com/midyear
BECOME THE MOST POSITIVE PERSON YOU KNOW:
Sloppy, negative thinking.
Maybe you don't realize you're tolerating low-grade negativity.
Examples of unmonitored negativity:
You don't have any current stretch or reach goals.
You wake up with dread.
You avoid things that you aren't confident doing.
You engaged in cynicism or sarcasm.
You accept advice from negative people.
You complain - even micro-complain.
You are irritated by things that aren't a big deal.
You lose perspective and over-dramatize things.
You compare yourself to others and feel discouraged or down on yourself.
The Power of Positivity
What you feed your subconscious mind is what will grow.
Positivity gives you courage.
Emotional positivity creates action - and massive action gets more results.
Do not accept advice from people who are negative. Or from people not doing big things with their lives.
You're more negative than you think.
And the internal negativity is affecting you more than you realize.
It's keeping you from your fullest potential.
It's making things harder than they need to be.
It's distracting you.
It's stealing your full access to joy.
It's keeping you from God's fullest for you.
Negative Self-Talk that Many People Think is "Normal," but is Not:
This is too hard.
I don't want to deal with this right now.
It's not fair.
This is going to be a long day.
Why is this hard for me?
I'm tired.
What's the point.
If only…. Then I would ….
I'll start tomorrow…
I'll do that later.
Nobody cares.
I'll never be able to…
I'll always struggle with…
I guess I'm just…
I'm just being realistic.
I failed.
I'm afraid to hope.
I hope this works out.
I don't want to be disappointed.
Ugh. (insert any complaint)
It's your responsibility to stop and detox negative thoughts.
Don't complete a negative sentence.
-About yourself
-About others
-About your spouse
-About your situation
Intentional Thoughts to Create Positive Emotion
I have the resources I need.
I will figure this out.
I have decided to do this.
How to Be More Positive
Decide to be positiveDon't get out of bed until you have positive thoughts.Insist on positivity.Parent your thoughts.Commit to a positive routine.Put yourself around positive people.Limit negative input.Consider your voice of positivity to be a calling - a need.Play mental games to always find the good - condition of your brain.Learn how to self-affirm, self-encourage and self-validate.Journal daily.Win Today / Win Tomorrow Habit - train yourself to notice your momentumCelebrate othersSpread compliments like confetti bombsUse music to move youExercise dailyIntentionally have positive input
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Podcast #498 CALMING YOUR ANXIETY
Anxiety doesn't have the authority to dominate your life unless you give it permission to. This podcast episode will teach you how to talk back to your anxiety, how to minimize its effects on you, what to do when you feel overwhelmed by anxiety, and how to turn your anxiety issues into your greatest strength and gift.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on:
Active anxiety management Why you can get excited about managing your anxiety - the transformation you are embarking on has more overflow and impact than just anxiety healing 4 steps to alleviate your anxiety
Less anxiety, more faith.
ANXIETY QUOTES:
You don't have to control your thoughts. You must have to stop letting them control you. -Dan Millman
Every time you are tempted to react in the same old way, ask if you want to be a prisoner of the past or a pioneer of the future. -Deepak Chopra
Nothing diminishes anxiety faster than action. --Walter Anderson
When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. -Wayner Dyer
IN CASE NO ONE HAS TOLD YOU RECENTLY:
Words matter.
Often the people around us are distracted and busy, and they forget to slow down and build us up with words of encouragement and love.
That's why you can count on me.
In case no one has told you recently, here are a few things I want you to know today:
You are more beautiful than you think.
You have something no one else in the world has - the world needs you.
You are doing better than you think you are.
You're on your way.
You matter and you were made to do great things.
Please know that I am cheering you on.
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Uplifting, activating, worth it.
-SE VirginiaDC
Trish, I love the Confidence Podcast. From a fellow mom to another, simply - thank you - for sharing your gifts with the world by encouraging us to do the same.
I look forward to listening to an episode almost every morning to help set the mood for the day. I appreciate your uplifting energy so, so much. Thank you for what you do.
ANNOUNCEMENT:
I only have an open 1:1 coaching spot every few months.
One just opened up.
My client worked with me and reached his goals.
His win means a win for you.
Click here to fill out an application.
www.trishblackwell.com/coaching
Also, join me for the mid-year new year!
Monday, June 27th at 6 PM EST!!!!
www.trishblackwell.com/midyear
LET'S CALM YOUR ANXIETY:
Believe that anxiety doesn't have authority in your life anymore.
WHAT DOES ANXIETY TAKE FROM YOU?
Sleep
Confidence
Joy
Ability to be yourself
Belief in yourself
Your fullest potential
Your faith
Have a conversation with it. Uninvite it. Declare its authority voided.
Increase your awareness of anxiety - and your role in it (when does it happen and what are your thoughts … emotional ownership and personal responsibility --- I used to say "I can't help it, I'm just anxious," or "I don't know why I'm anxious." … we always know deep down, but we need to slow down and be curious and patient with ourselves to really know why.
Stop describing yourself as an anxious person. The way you speak about yourself matters.
Actively manage your anxiety daily. Know what works best for you.
My Active Anxiety Management:
Morning journaling
Word before world
Prayer
Affirmations
Exercise
Worship music
Fresh air
Gratitude
Reframing
Boundaries on screens/inputs
Self-encouragement
4 STEPS TO ALLEVIATE YOUR ANXIETY
Write it Out
Anxious thoughts can compound and cloud out every other emotion leading to overwhelm and panic attacks). Write down exactly what your anxious thought is when you first feel it, and you'll be better able to manage it and keep it from becoming bigger than it needs to be.
Talk Back to It
Podcast #497 HOW TO APPEAR MORE CONFIDENT THAN YOU ARE
You don't have to feel confident to be confident. Learn 4 easy ways to be confident for those moments when it matters the most (and when you feel it the least), in this coaching podcast. Being confident is always an option when you learn how to trust the process of showing up with confidence and as a confident person. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/497
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on:
Doubt is normal and how to have confidence in that which is controllable Curating Confident Self-Dialogue How to prepare for anything like a champion Mastering your morning routine How to expect the best - and feel confident even if it doesn't go as planned
ANNOUNCEMENT:
It's your LAST DAY to enroll in the June class of the 5 MINUTE MORNING CLUB.
Go to www.trishblackwell.com/club
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Blessed by Trish - em_horsch
Because of your podcasts, I am learning how to change my thinking when comparing myself to others and to set high dreams that are life-giving. Little by little I am experiencing freedom through this learning process, thank you!
BEING CONFIDENT VS. FEELING CONFIDENT
Carry yourself confidently.
You can always be confident - even if you don't always feel confident.
Describe what you look like and how you act/carry yourself when confident.
WHAT DOES CONFIDENCE LOOK LIKE TO YOU?
Decide what it looks like.
You can be confident from the outside in to then feel it from the inside out.
How to Appear More Confident than You Feel for When it Counts the Most (Without Faking it Till You Make It)
Check out the full Forbes article at:
www.trishblackwell.com/forbes
SPONSOR OF THE EPISODE
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FINAL THOUGHTS:
Your boldness might make others uncomfortable.
It's easy to be cynical. It's easy to think about setting goals or putting yourself out there.
Don't do what other people do.
Be bold enough to live a fully engaged life.
OTHER EPISODES YOU MIGHT ENJOY
476: How to Believe in Your Big Goal
426: Never Second Guess Yourself Again
432: How to Talk Back to Yourself When Negative
RECENT WORKSHOPS IN THE COC THAT YOU DON'T WANT TO MISS
elf-Esteem Basics Workshop
Thinking Bigger Workshop
Style and Surroundings Workshop
Dropping Perfectionism Workshop
How to Stop Comparing Yourself Coaching Replay
Better Routines Workshop
60-Day Confidence Boost Accountability Course
Join us and get instant access at
www.collegeofconfidence.com/join
LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:
Thank you!! I have grown so much listening to your coaching — oh my goodness, I wish I had you in my life earlier.
Thank you for stepping out when God called you to share your story and start the COC!
Blessings,
Podcast #496 HOW TO REACH YOUR FULL POTENTIAL WITH HEATHER MONAHAN
The pursuit of your potential comes with many obstacles. Join in on a conversation between confidence experts Heather Monahan and Trish Blackwell on how to know if your goals are realistic and how to go after them, no matter how many challenges get in your way along the journey.
In this episode, we're talking about …
Your potential, and how to reach it Overcoming your villains Confidence wisdom from Heather Monahan
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
-Lolor808
Trish is the BEST. Life-changing podcast, a must-listen.
JOURNAL WITH ME IN JUNE
It's available from today through May 31st.
This is a limited-time opportunity.
If you want a better mindset, and to feel less anxious on a daily basis, but keep struggling to make the time to journal or do the thought-work I suggest, this is for you.
It's called The 5 Minute Club, and it's the solution you've been looking for.
We'll meet live, for 5 minutes every morning, for a month, and we'll journal together.
I'll lead the group with timed journal prompts and guidance on creating an affirmation of the day.
We'll all journal together.
As a community.
You can have your camera on, or keep it off.
You can share some wins in the chat, or never share anything you write.
You can be sure that you will journal daily.
You can be sure that you will master your mindset for the day.
You can be sure that you'll stick to your morning routine.
The 5 Minute Club has guided mindset mastery in minutes, with some faith and thought reframing thrown in.
As with everything I offer, it's risk-free to try.
Join us, and if you don't love it in the first 7-days just let me know and we'll happily refund your money.
Joining the 5 Minute Club for the month of June is just $30. .
Go to www.trishblackwell.com/club to find out more and to be part of the first group in our journaling community.
ABOUT HEATHER MONAHAN
Heather Monahan is a best-selling author X2, Top 50 Keynote Speaker in the World 2022, Podcast Host of Creating Confidence, and TedX speaker and has most recently been appointed to the Board of Directors of Healthlynked Corp. Having successfully climbed the corporate ladder for nearly 20 years, Heather Monahan is one of the few women to break the glass ceiling and claim her spot in the C-suite.
As a Chief Revenue Officer in Media, Heather Monahan is a Glass Ceiling Award winner, named one of the Most Influential Women in Radio in 2017, Thrive Global named her a Limit Breaking Female Founder in 2018, and in 2021 Girls Club named her the Thought Leader of the Year.
Heather’s book Confidence Creator shot to #1 on Amazon’s Business Biographies and Business Motivation lists the first week it debuted on Amazon. Forbes named Confidence Creator one of the 5 must-have books for women in business in 2021.
Heather’s show, Creating Confidence, debuted on the Top 200 shows on the Apple podcast. Her guests include Sara Blakely, Gary Vaynerchuck, Ryan Serhant, and Kaitlyn Bristowe among many other noteworthy celebrities and entrepreneurs.
Heather was named one of the Top 40 Female Keynote Speakers in 2020 and Top 50 Keynote Speakers for 2022 by Real Leaders. Her TEDx talk was promoted to TED and translated into 6 languages. Harper Collins Leadership published her new book Overcome Your Villains in November 2021.
Heather has been featured in USA Today, CNN, Forbes, Fast Company, Gary V’s Audio Experience, and The Steve Harvey Show. Heather and her son Dylan reside in Miami.
CONNECT WITH HEATHER:
https://heathermonahan.com
Get her book: Overcome Your Villans (https://amzn.to/3w1VrLV)
QUESTIONS WITH HEATHER:
Tell us a little about your story - how you leapfrogged the tremendous obstacles in your life to reach the pinnacle of success in business—only to lose it all and then rebuild it.
And in all of that,
Podcast #495 DROPPING PERFECTIONISM AND EMBRACING B- WORK
The most successful people are the ones who are open to failure, not those who demand and expect perfection. The act of dropping unrealistic or perfectionistic pressure that is often associated with being driven is easier said than done. This podcast episode will teach you how to actually embrace B- work, be open to failure, and to still show up with focus and high standards at the same time so that you achieve more with more ease than you ever thought possible.
In this episode, we're talking about …
What happens to your happiness levels when you drop perfectionism The difference between perfectionism and excellence How to achieve big things, be driven, have high standards, AND embrace B- work.
BIRTHDAY NOTE:
Y'all, today I'm 39. What a gift - the gift of aging. If you haven't listened to my episode on how to age beautifully, be sure to listen to episode #443, How to Be Happy About Aging.
BIRTHDAY ANNOUNCEMENT
I have something new.
It's available from today through May 31st.
This is a limited-time opportunity.
If you want a better mindset, and to feel less anxious on a daily basis, but keep struggling to make the time to journal or do the thought-work I suggest, this is for you.
It's called The 5 Minute Club, and it's the solution you've been looking for.
We'll meet live, for 5 minutes every morning, for a month, and we'll journal together.
I'll lead the group with timed journal prompts and guidance on creating an affirmation of the day.
We'll all journal together.
As a community.
You can have your camera on, or keep it off.
You can share some wins in the chat, or never share anything you write.
You can be sure that you will journal daily.
You can be sure that you will master your mindset for the day.
You can be sure that you'll stick to your morning routine.
The 5 Minute Club has guided mindset mastery in minutes, with some faith and thought reframing thrown in.
As with everything I offer, it's risk-free to try.
Join us, and if you don't love it in the first 7-days just let me know and we'll happily refund your money.
Joining the 5 Minute Club for the month of June is just $30.
Go to www.trishblackwell.com/club to find out more and to be part of the first group in our journaling community.
30 DAYS FREE IN THE COC?!
I like doing big things on my birthday.
I want to share the life-changing gift of coaching with you, for free.
Coaching changed my life, and I want you to get a taste of what it could do for yours too.
That's why this week only we are offering 30 days of FREE access to the College of Confidence.
$0 to register.
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Click here for this incredible offer.
It ends on May 23rd, no exceptions.
You're going to love the COC, it's the most encouraging place on the Internet.
PS: This free month trial is only for people who have never been a member of the College of Confidence before.
Go to www.collegeofconfidence.com/birthday
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Game-changing.
Jessben88
This podcast has aided me so much in changing my mindset. The words year speak are true, I know this because I have applied them. We matter. I matter. Thank you.
MY B- BIRTHDAY LIST
Reviewed last year's list - I didn't complete the list.
And I only achieved about 80% of what was on the list.
That's a B-.
And it was quite possibly the happiest year of my life.
I am both someone who keeps their word to themselves and someone who accepts incomplete dreams because I've learned to focus on the GAIN instead of the GAP.
In my 38th year, we…
Took two different week-long trips to different beaches
Took a 5-day family trip to Breckenridge to snowboard
Took a week-long trip to Disney
Took a week-long trip to Rome
Took a week-long trip to Crete,
Podcast #494
HOW TO TRUST THAT WHAT YOU ARE DOING IS WORKING
You're doing better than you think you are. But often our brains convince us that we're "behind," not doing enough or that we're not making progress fast enough. This episode explores exactly how to believe that you are indeed right where you need to be and that everything is working. Listen in to learn how to be more patient with your growth and how to trust that you are on your way to reaching your biggest goals. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/494
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:
Future-self - how to believe that everything is working (and you're not delusional) Belief and peace about the futureCommitment to the behind the scenesHow to be patient with your growth
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Kristin - 5 Stars
Once I listened to one of your podcasts, I couldn’t stop listening and have been binge listening ever since! Thank you so very much for helping me realize my worth and that I'm not alone in this journey!
HOW TO STOP COMPARING YOURSELF
Comparing yourself is the fast track to self-doubt, spinning your wheels, and insecurity.
Are you ready to feel alive?
I'll teach you my proven 3-part strategy to break the pattern of comparing yourself to others.
Go to www.trishblackwell.com/comparison
HOW TO BE PATIENT WITH YOUR GROWTH (AND YOURSELF)
The results you've created so far are not flukes. The possibility of what you can create is limitless. The inspiration is all around you.
Talkback to the overwhelmed. Refuse to say "I don't know what to do." Disallow frustration, comparison, and impatience. Embrace 1000x failures. Create a win journal. (Track your growth) Have more champagne. (Celebrate your growth) Flip what you minimize/maximize Let go of timelines and be in the moment. Drop the self-judgment. Believe in the miracles you can't see, but are happening.
DON'T HOPE, PLAN.
Substitute every “I hope I can”… into an “I’ve decided that I can…” Don't ever say "this isn't working" Say, "I'm figuring out - I'm getting results, and results direct me to my next step' COMMITMENT TO BEHIND THE SCENES
What you do that others don't see is what creates movement in what others do see.
Have clear expectations and steps daily.Keep your promises to yourself.Affirm your thoughts daily.Discipline your mind - be the most positive person you know.Be proud of yourself for being different - be willing to do what other people aren't willing to do.Make yourself uncomfortable - put yourself in the way of emotional risk.Dare to think bigger, and talk back to the doubting thoughts that attack as a result.Show up with massive follow-through and action, never waiting for when you "feel like it"
Being the most positive person you know will ensure that you make waves of influence (and a difference) everywhere you go.
POWER PHRASES TO BUILD YOUR CONFIDENCE IN YOUR FORWARD MOVEMENT
Everything is working.
I'm on my way.
There's always a solution.
Little by little, big things get done.
I'm the girl for the job.
Today I have grown. Tomorrow there will be more.
Just take the next step.
SPONSOR OF THE EPISODE
Mineral deficiency affects everything from your connective tissue to your nervous system. What that means from a confidence standpoint, is you can be doing all of the right things- exercising, getting enough sleep, and eating well but you still don't feel your best. Being mineral sufficient on the other hand will lead to more energy, improved mental health including a positive mood, healthier brain function, and focus. And the added benefit of looking as good as you feel because MineralRich's 100% bioavailable formula promotes healthy hair, skin, and nails due to its natural healthy collagen support.
With thousands of reviews and many lifelong customers, we know you'll be satisfied and feel the pep in your step immediately!
Podcast #493
STOP DOWNPLAYING YOUR ACHIEVEMENTS AND YOUR POTENTIAL
If you've ever downplayed yourself or minimized an achievement, or perhaps feel like you're playing small with the real potential that you know God has placed inside of you, then this podcast episode is for you. This coaching podcast explores how to break this self-sabotaging and self-critical habit that's not only making you feel "not enough," but is keeping you from showing up fully and shining brightly in your life. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/493
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on:
How to stop downplaying your achievements How to know if you're playing small How to tap into your fullest potential with more confidence
HOW TO STOP COMPARING YOURSELF
Comparing yourself is the fast track to self-doubt, spinning your wheels, and insecurity.
Are you ready to feel alive?
I'll teach you my proven 3-part strategy to break the pattern of comparing yourself to others.
This is a FREE CLASS that you'll get INSTANT ACCESS to:
Go to www.trishblackwell.com/comparison
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Fan for a few years -
Texas Fan and Grandmother
Trish, thank you for speaking the truth to counteract so many of the subtle lies I believe every day about myself and my self-worth.
WHY DO WE DOWNPLAY
Feel bad for making other people not be so good
Uncomfortable with attention on us
Someone said something to you once (like Brent .. Who are you to…)
Self-protection from expectations or public failure
False humility - we don't want to make others "feel bad"
Is it wrong to be successful?
WHAT DOWNPLAYING AND PLAYING SMALL DOES
It leaves us with a smaller life.
It creates a smaller world.
It limits us.
It prevents us from living a big life.
A big life requires big thinking - and big self-concept - and big reasonability.
HOW TO BREAK THE PATTERN
Practice acceptance
Present yourself with openness
Celebrate the potential in others
Determine that your greatness is an example, not a discouragement
Accept some of the awkwardness
ARE YOU DOWNPLAYING YOURSELF?
Brush off compliments
Justify your success
Think you're just lucky
Tell yourself it's because other people helped you
Compare yourself to others as proof of diminishment
Maximizing what doesn't go well, minimizing what does
A self-critical voice is your dominant voice
THOUGHTS TO DETER DOWNPLAYING
Me dismissing my greatness is an insult to the God who put my talent inside of me.
I am thankful for the effort I put in.
I am an example of what is possible for others.
I am committed to a life of growth.
I will not insult who God made me be.
I am responsible for maximizing everything I have been given.
I pursue excellence, not perfection.
The world needs people to shine brightly.
I have permission to live a big life.
OTHER EPISODES YOU'LL ENJOY
443: How to Be Happy About Aging
483: Self-Validation: The Art of Not Needing Other People to Tell You "Good Job"
LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:
First of all, I want to say that you are doing amazing things. You are an incredible individual and have been making such a difference in my life already. I have been listening to your podcast for two weeks now and I have started to go on the path of making positive thoughts and choices. I am exercising and displaying outward gratitude and I already see a difference. I would like to continue on this path and gain more knowledge from you on how to better myself.
xoxoxo,
Kelly Chavers
Podcast #492
HOW TO ACCEPT COMPLIMENTS AND HOW TO RECEIVE CRITICISM
When you learn how to accept compliments, you appear confident, humble and open. And yet, most people resist compliments and downplay themselves. It's time to reprioritize the art of accepting compliments, which in turn, will empower you to be more generous in the compliments you give - to others and to yourself. This podcast will give you 20 practical and humbly confident answers you can say the next time you receive a compliment. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:
Why we struggle to accept compliments / why we resist this The #1 reason you're going to want to prioritize working on this skill 20 things you can actually say to practice accepting compliments
And some crazy things that our brain does when we are complimented… REVIEW OF THE WEEK
Trish is so relatable yet aspirational. Her nuggets of wisdom are just what I need.
-SierraDawnT
How to accept compliments WHY DO WE RESIST AND REJECT COMPLIMENTS?
EmbarrassmentWe don't believe people.Comparison to others makes us feel small.We're not comfortable with the attention.We are over attached to humility - afraid to be seen.Our subconscious thinks it creates more pressure.Social anxietyGeneral low self-esteemsOut of the habit of going through life with gratitudeCognitive dissonancePerfectionistic high expectations and personal dissatisfaction
WHY SHOULD YOU WORK ON YOUR SKILL OF ACCEPTING COMPLIMENTS?
It directly impacts your perceived confidence and how you carry yourself.
The more others see you at ease with yourself, the more you will internalize your own interpretation of that as well.
You'll break some of the patterns of fixed mindset that are keeping you stuck.
HOW TO WORK TO BEING OPEN TO COMPLIMENTS
Practice active appreciation
Ground yourself in gratitude
Break perfectionistic tendencies
Downplaying / false humility doesn't serve anyone
Reframe compliments as little jewels
Practice giving out more compliments - understand their power (when's the last time you had a good one? How did it change your day? Your sense of self?)
20 THINGS YOU CAN SAY TO ACCEPT A COMPLIMENT
“Thank you, it makes my day to hear that.”“I really put a lot of thought into this, thank you for noticing.”“Thank you, I really appreciate you taking the time to express that.”“Thank you, I am happy to hear you feel that way!”That's so kind of you to say, thanks.Thanks, I'm feeling good today.I so appreciate your kind words, thanks.Gosh, that's so nice of you to say, thank you.Thank you.Yeah, I love it too, thanks.Thank you - I am so grateful for this opportunity."Thanks so much- I love how (insert another personality trait) you are too.""Thanks- that's nice of you to say." "I appreciate you saying that." "That's nice to hear." "That's very sweet.""I so appreciate you saying that - that was so sweet of you!""Thanks - you made my day.""Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you." "That means a lot coming from you." "Your opinion really matters to me, so that's really nice to hear."
HOW TO RECEIVE CRITICISM
Change the label. It's constructive feedback.Look for the truth.Acknowledge what's unnecessary / what can be looked past.Take ownership of what is true and what you want to change.Don't dramatize it.Decide to be someone who doesn't take offense easily.
Criticism is just an opinion.
Allow people to have opinions.
Don't be so alarmed.
What happens when we are criticized:
-We feel shame / embarrassment
-We go to a place of self-righteousness, alarm and pride
-We puff up and react (through inaction, over-reaction or behind-your-back action)
-We victimize ourselves
OTHER EPISODES YOU WILL ENJOY
483: (Feb 2022): Self-Validation: The Art of Not Needing Other People to Tell You "Good Job"
481 (Feb 2022): Enoughness: How to Feel Enough and Increase Your Self-Worth
Podcast #491
MORE QUESTIONS ON CONFIDENCE - ANSWERED! [PART 2]
We gave you the opportunity to ask the confidence questions that most weigh on your heart, and you, our faithful listeners, weighed in! These are the most common questions that you want to know about confidence!
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:
Raising kids with confidence Social anxiety and confidence Overthinking and overwhelm And more!
REVIEW OF THE WEEK
I'm submerging myself in your content. It has helped me keep my thoughts captive. I am more self-aware of my thought and emotions and I'm better equipped to redirect the negative thoughts. Thanks again!Xavierwes
How to be confident questions YOUR MOST ASKED QUESTIONS ABOUT CONFIDENCE:
I've asked you what your biggest questions on confidence are:
How do you resist stress at work, which is getting harder every month? On the plus side, I am retiring 2/1/23-Matt
Does being fit and healthy give you confidence?What makes you confident you are loved just as you are? Karla
Is doing what I love and being myself without being so concerned with whatI may think others view me. Sometimes I'm very quiet and may appear unapproachable or stuck up but in fact, I just kept to myself. I tread lightly withWhom I allow into my life.
Another bad habit is overthinking everything. And second-guessing myself. I can’t stand that I do that. Thanks Trish for following up-Shao-ling
Regarding happiness and confidence, I think my biggest hiccups come after disappointments or mistakes. I can carry that negative energy with me much longer than it’s welcome.So, how do you stay unshakably confident and happy during or directly after a difficult situation? Something that’s embarrassing or shameful?
And part 2, what kinds of affirmations do you personally use for encouragement regarding happiness and confidence? Thanks for asking!-Ang(ela)
Lovely to hear from you. You always brighten up my day. Two questions I would like to ask about being confident are Have you any tips on how to remain practicing the confidence you have gained. I find it very hard to keep confident I always seem to have a setback and end up back at the beginning.
No matter how hard I try I always end up back comparing myself to others. I feel so inferior to other people. I never feel like I'm enough. Would you have any advice on how to stop comparing myself and also any advice on how to believe that I am enough?Have a wonderful evening Kindly always Audrey xx
How do I overcome social anxiety? How do I overcome feeling like I am that annoying little fly that keeps buzzing around your head and just about the time you think you got rid of it, it’s back! -Deb
Why can’t I find happiness? I’ve never been happy and confidence is out of the question -Sheila
When do I know, or how can I tell that I’m truly confident?And how can I be happy without being in a relationship? -Ida
My two questions about being confident and happy would be 1 Why can't I maintain them2 Why do I allow others to take them from me instead of standing up for myself-Edith
I'd love to learn more about how to raise confident kids... How to walk the fine line of getting after them but also building them up and encouraging them to be themselves. Also not let other people's moods affect yours. -Ranell RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE:
Affirmations Workshop:www.trishblackwell.com/affirmations 30-Day Journaling Course:www.trishblackwell.com/journal Stop Caring What People Think Masterclasswww.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
Forbes Article: How to Appear More Confident Than You Feel for When it Counts the Most
https://www.forbes.com/sites/forbescoachescouncil/2022/04/15/how-to-appear-more-confident-than-you-feel-for-when-it-counts-the-most/?sh=21a8c3a45397
SNEAK PEEK INTO NEXT WEEK:
When you learn how to accept compliments, you appear confident, humble, and open. And yet, most people resist compliments and downplay themselves...
Podcast #490
YOUR QUESTIONS ON CONFIDENCE - ANSWERED! [PART 1]
We gave you the opportunity to ask the confidence questions that most weigh on your heart, and you, our faithful listeners, weighed in! These are the most common questions that you want to know about confidence! Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/490 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:
Not personalizing failures
Staying confident when stressed or burdened by the world
How to stay on track when life throws a curveball
Overcoming social anxiety
Maintaining confidence and happiness
And so many more topics!
REVIEW OF THE WEEK
After only a couple of episodes, I have already started changing my thoughts and behaviors. I love this podcast and I love Trish - she is a light in this world through her work.
Amy Youssef
Your questions on confidence YOUR MOST ASKED QUESTIONS ABOUT CONFIDENCE:
I've asked you what your biggest questions on confidence are:
How to keep your mindset, stay on track when something unexpected happens and it throws you off(emotionally). I’ve felt this lately and I’m trying to be patient and just do little things during this time. But it has thrown me off from where I was 3 weeks ago. It feels like a setback and those old feelings of nothing will change come back. Any tips? Stress seems to be surrounding and uncertainty with the Ukraine/Russia situation. I want to have a plan, financially and in my career but I don’t know what lies ahead(tomorrow, next week, 3 months). In writing that, I think I take one day at a time and keep trying to explore career ideas as I’m able. Any tips for combating that feeling of uncertainty and reluctance?
That’s it for now, thank you. Darcey I want to know what problem do I have whenever I think of doing something new I overthink and can't be happy and confident like that was nowhere... please tell me anything about it as I feel stuck but also that truly being happy in my way isn't the real thing. Jabz I'm a perfectionist, and I'm hugely competitive, If I do something, I have to know that I am going to be successful, that I'm going to win. As a result, I procrastinate; rather than taking positive action, I'll delay until I'm so prepared for things I feel it's virtually impossible for me to fail, then, and only then, I'll act My biggest challenge is to stop being hard on myself, I expect perfection from myself all of the time, at work, in social situations, in leisure time, running, playing in bands; if I judge I've fallen short, I beat myself up. I can be sat at home, and out of nowhere will reflect on something that I felt went badly, something I'm embarrassed about or ashamed of, a failed project, a meeting that didn't go well, a wrong note, a social gaffe, and I will berate myself for it. I journal a little (need to make it a habit), and try to address this, I'm trying to shut the cruel voice down, and to find a positive to counter it. So, my question is, what is the single most effective tool that you've found to shut down negative thoughts? How do you stop them in their tracks, before they take root? Whilst I'm writing, I'm reading "Straighten Your Crown", and it is such a beautiful book, it's honest, sincere, and delivers such a positive and powerful message. It's many years since I attended church; when I took up running, my Sundays became race days, but I hadn't realized I'd stopped speaking to God. Reading Straighten Your Crown has changed this, I've started to listen to God day today, and I have started to speak to Him again. So thank you for this priceless gift. Even when we are rooted in the gospel, why is confidence so hard to strengthen within ourselves but, so easily broken by the people around us? I ask this because it’s so difficult for me to admit when I’m happy while also finding myself filled with absolute joy at the end of the day. (He really does provide the peace that transcends all understanding) - my q...
Podcast #489
SPORTS CONFIDENCE HACKS FOR ANY ATHLETE
Sports confidence is the key to supreme athletic performance, but most athletes don't know how to tap into their most confident athletic self. Explore the 10 confidence mistakes that keep athletes from peak performance, creating self-doubt and unhelpful self-pressure. Then, learn the 14 confidence hacks that the top athletes in the world employ to train their brains as successfully as they train their bodies. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:
The top 10 confidence mistakes that plague athletes and rob them of their full potential
The performance pressure hoax and the dangers of caring too much
The mistrust of self in the athlete and how to nurture self-trust for better performance
10 habits high-performance athletes do that elevate their confidence
ANNOUNCEMENT
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REVIEW OF THE EPISODE:
By Crabbyabby86
I cannot begin to thank you for the encouragement you've provided me over the last several years. Seriously, thank you! You've completely changed my life. Without even knowing it, you've been there for me through MANY stages in life and helped me seek out counseling You are amazing. You have no idea how many lives you've touched Thank you! Keep being you!
THE PERFORMANCE PRESSURE HOAX
The thought is: If I just worked hard and be better, I'll be the best.
Yes, work hard.
But double yes to working smart and hard.
Perceived expectations of us.
Fear of failure to let others down.
Over-attachment of value to performance.
The aggrandized perspective of the importance of the sport - makes you lose the fun.
The truth is that the more fun you have, the better you will do.
But with pressure, it's hard to have fun.
Working smart in sport means knowing how to train your brain - and have fun - while also working hard. Working hard in sport means learning how to stretch your belief in the capacity of your potential … not to hope for what you think you can achieve, but really, really believe that you can goal set with audacious confidence.
THE MISTRUST OF SELF
The more pressure you put on yourself, the less joy you have in your sport.
When you overthink a race or an outcome, you stop trusting yourself - you stop trusting your training, your coach, your teammates, yourself, your mind, and your body.
Lack of trust makes performance harder and more complicated.
Trust makes things light, and inflow - mistrust creates heaviness and sharp edges.
Mistrust hyper-focused on past failures and tries to avoid doing them again.
Trust embraces past failures as necessary and isn't afraid to make more.
THE TOP CONFIDENCE MISTAKES ATHLETES MAKE
Comparing yourselfFixed mindsetTrying too hard (not trusting self)OverthinkingSelf-criticismMismanaged pressureMental isolationNot having a thought coachOvertraining the body, undertraining the mindFear of emotions (pain, disappointment, etc.)
14 HABITS HIGH PERFORMERS DO TO ELEVATE THEIR CONFIDENCE
Warm-up their brain. (Journal)Get obsessed with excellence in their life (not perfection, and not just in their sport)Train their brain as much as they train their body (reframe, affirmations, visualization)Create anchor thoughts - power statements for specific thingsWork with a mindset coach or in a mindset programRead and apply personal development in their lifeListen to podcasts that spark their brainDouble down on their love for and passion for their sportSeparate their identity from their sports identityUnderstand the differences between Them 1.0 and Them 2.0Think like a goldfishUnderstand the compound effect and trust their trainingMaster staying in their own lane - detoxing their relationship with comparison/jealousyCommit to belief work - and have unwavering faith in what they cannot yet see.
ANNOUNCEMENTS:
Podcast #488
SELF-PITY IS KEEPING YOU STUCK AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT
Feeling sorry for yourself, or over-personalizing how hard things are for you is a sure-fire way to sabotage your confidence. Not only that, self-pity will make things feel 10x harder than they need to be, and will mentally and emotionally exhaust you. This episode will teach you to know if you're indulging in self-pity, and what to do about it. You'll learn how to move from self-pity to self-compassion, and then activated momentum forward, all just in the small shift of a mindset. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:
The difference between self pity and self compassion
The relationship between self pity and self criticism…and how they pal around with comparison to keep you absolutely stuck
The antidote to self pity
ANNOUNCEMENT
April 6th Webinar, are you signed up yet?!
Sign up now at www.trishblackwell.com/comparison
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Clrace02
I found Trish's podcast was the "reset" button I needed in my life to change my way of thinking. I find myself stopping negative thoughts in their tracks, acknowledging that thought, and redirecting it into a positive way. Something I've never bn consciously aware of before. I can't thank you enough, Trish.
LET'S COACH ON SELF-PITY AND VICTIM MINDSET
The relationship between self-pity and self-criticism. These intertwine toxically with comparison and you end up feeling overwhelmed by life and depressed even though at the same time you know that you like your life.
A self-pity is a form of living suicide.
Self-pity invites horrendous thoughts that drag you down the drain of poverty.
-Euginia Herlihy
Self-pity exaggerates personal suffering
Self-compassion allows one to acknowledge what’s happening without feelings of isolation, disconnection, and hopelessness/devastation
“Self-pity is a form of external validation that something bad has happened to us or that our circumstance is out of our control,”
Self-pity is self-victimhood --- and every victim needs a villain.
Maybe that villain is you, maybe it is your life, maybe it's the institution - but you're fighting the wrong battle. You're fighting the battle that is outward, and unnecessary instead of fighting the battle of your mind and your own thoughts.
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You must think big without any reservations and without any hesitation in order to contribute more, learn more, become more, and stretch yourself and your own abilities beyond their current psychological limitations.
SELF-PITY SAMPLES:
I don't have that edge.
It's not fair.
If that wouldn't have happened….
It should be easier.
I shouldn't have to work so hard.
Something is wrong with me.
Depression is unfocused self-pity.
Podcast #487
WHAT TO DO ABOUT OVERWHELM: HOW TO REDUCE IT AND MOVE THROUGH IT
Overwhelm is an indulgent emotion that will keep you stuck. You can cut through overwhelm by learning how to talk back to it and move through it with confidence and strategy. This coaching episode will teach you exactly how to reduce overwhelm, what to do to avoid an overwhelm overload, and 5 specific things you can do when overwhelmed. Goodbye overthinking and overwhelm, hello peace and presence. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/487 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:
What the brain does when stuck in overwhelm and why it's keeping you stressed Why you are feeling overwhelmed all the time, and what to do about it How to become a person who doesn't live and exist from a place of overwhelm
ANNOUNCEMENT:
You've waited and waited. And it's finally out. Straighten Your Crown, on Audible! Read by me, the author… If you loved reading the book, you'll love listening to it even more. Oh, and if have loved Straighten Your Crown, but not yet written an Amazon review, please click here to let me know in a review what you thought about the book or how it moved you!
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
So thankful for this podcast! Trish Blackwell is a gem and has created a podcast that reminds women of the fact that we are all gems and encourages us to see our value through God's eyes, which is where true confidence comes from. I can't give this podcast due justice with words. Please listen!
LET'S COACH ON OVERWHELM
“When my heart is overwhelmed, lead me to the rock that is higher than I.” -Psalm 61:2 “A woman who lives with the stress of an overwhelmed schedule will often ache with the sadness of an underwhelmed soul.” -Lysa Terkeurst “The secret of getting ahead is getting started. The secret to getting started is breaking your overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks, and then starting on the first one.” -Mark Twain Do your little bit of good where you are; it's those little bits of good put toghter that overwhelm the world. -Desmond Tutu
SIGNS THAT YOU'RE FEELING OVERWHELMED
Things to Remove From Your VocabularyI neverI'll neverI just can't…I just…I can't … You're stressed all the time.You're exhausted and stretched thin.You're worried or fearful about what you hope to do.
WHAT THE BRAIN DOES IN OVERWHELM
Shuts down or runs away.Procrastinates or tries to over-compensate. Listen - God does give you more than you can handle - so that you turn to Him.
WHY YOU FEEL OVERWHELMED ALL THE TIME
You're not managing your mind. (deciding what stays and goes)You're not guarding your thoughts (inputs)You're not self-affirming.You're not staying in your own lane.You're not creating systems or deciding on priorities.You're living a reactionary life, not an intentional one. Overwhelm happens when we succumb to too much output pressing in; most often, these are situations we can guard and moderate. When overwhelmed, we often go into buffering-overworking-overthinking-procrastination-avoidance-drinking-eating It's important that you know what you do on default mode when overwhelmed in order for you take back the narrative of what you want to do / how you want to react instead.
WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT
Stop indulging in it.What stays concealed can't be healed.You're tolerating a lifestyle that's less than what you were made for. Get honest with yourself. These questions will help:Am I allowing myself to feel like a victim?Am I overscheduling my life?Am I allowing small things to compound into big things?Am I speaking up for myself?Am I asking for help or support?Am I trying to be a hero?Am I purposely intimidating myself into overwhelm?
5 THINGS TO DO WHEN OVERWHELMED
Break it down - and move forward in 3 small ways. (this will help you move through it)Decide how you want to react and show up (not buffer, not hide, not overwork, etc.
Podcast #486
BEING HARD ON YOURSELF: IT DOESN'T WORK AND HOW TO STOP
Being hard on yourself might be the very thing keeping you stuck. We think that being hard on ourselves means that we are driven, or have high standards, but being too tough on yourself is an ineffective approach to any goal you have in life. Being hard on yourself increases stress, decreases results and is a mindset that is driven from self-doubt and insecurity. Learn 10 proven ways to break the pattern of being too hard on yourself, even if you have been hard on yourself your entire life. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:
How to know if you're too hard on yourselfWhy it doesn't work, and what to do about it10 ways to break the pattern of being too hard on yourself
AUDIOBOOK ANNOUNCEMENT:
You've waited and waited. And it's finally out. Straighten Your Crown, on Audible! Read by me, the author… Click here to grab your copy. If you loved reading the book, you'll love listening to it even more. Oh, and if have loved Straighten Your Crown, but not yet written an Amazon review, please click here to let me know in a review what you thought about the book or how it moved you!
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Full of Value - Sara Dianns Trish is so passionate and what she says makes sense. After listening you feel like you've just had a personal therapy session! Highly recommend.
CONFIDENCE COACHING ON BEING HARD ON YOURSELF
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU'RE TOO HARD ON YOURSELF
I'm just hard on myself thoughts:I’m not doing enough.I should have done better.I need to be better.I am disappointed in myself.I'll never figure this out.I need to stop messing up.I can't believe I ….This should be easier.I need to get this right.This is really, really important.What's the difference between being too hard on yourself and having high standards for yourself / being driven in a healthy way?You operate from a place of pressure and hustle, instead of peace and security (or confidence)Being Hard Doesn't Work.Why?
It creates unhelpful pressure and subconscious panic.It focuses on fixed things instead of growth potential and learningIt saturates your mind with stress
You don't need to "tough it out"You don't get to keep justifying it with things like "I just have high expectations…"
How to Stop Being Hard on Yourself:
Decide that you can.Accept that it's not been a winning strategy.Separate You 1.0 and You 2.0.Understand the power of flow and belief.Investigate and understand what you're actually thinkingTry a new way (and practice it 1000x times, being patient with yourself)Do intentional belief creation and confidence work.Keep perspective of how achievement really happens (failure collection and openness)Stop worrying what people think - and how you might look to them.Study people who are successful (success leaves clues) - not sure where to find those people? Join us in the College of Confidence.
What you conceal doesn't heal.
OTHER EPISODES TO ENJOY
481: Enoughness: How to Feel Enough and Increase Your Self-Worth
476: How to Believe in Your Big Goal
ANNOUNCEMENTS:
Take your next step: join us in the College of Confidence.Learn to great your own luck.Join at www.collegeofconfidence.com/join
LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:
rockstar_808Omg hi, Trish! I've been listening to your podcast for a long time now and I can't believe I'm just now following your IG! Better late than never! I was listening to one episode yesterday where you mentioned that someone was speaking negative about you and how you aren't this or that when it comes to your educational background and I just love how you didn't allow that to stop you. Every topic of your podcast is relevant to my life and I appreciate every single last one I have the opportunity to hear. You are a precious gift from God in my life and I even let my 9 year old daughter tune in at times. You don't need a special degree to help uplift others spirit...
Podcast #485 THE ART OF HAPPINESS, EVEN IF YOUR LIFE IS A MESS
Everyone wants to be happy, but most people aren't. You can learn how to tap into a life of happiness, even if your life is a mess, once you learn the art of happiness. In this coaching podcast, learn why happiness sometimes eludes you and how you can create more happiness in your life, without your circumstances changing. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/485 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:
How happiness isn't an accident, and you can create it for yourselfWhy some people are happy and others aren'tThe art of happiness, and how to engage in it daily The messiness of a happy life and what happy really looks like
Happy International Women's Day!
REVIEW OF THE WEEK
Go glad. Hi Trish, I had found your podcast via "keep the faith" about 4 years ago. I do believe God led me to you. Growing up I had a wonderful loving family (still do) however I always felt sad. IT made me feel even worse because I didn't have anything to make me feel that way. I 've always had felt left out and struggled with friend issues that made me feel like something is wrong with me. I have been hooked on your podcast and I tell everyone about you because I have feel myself improving!!! Slowly but surely. I not longer thank I'm the only one. And boy, is that a relief! You have BLESSED me for these past 2 years and all for FREE!!!!! I feel the LOVE and "back at cha baby!" So glad I joined the college for the next chapter of Happiness! Love, Deanna
Everyone's life is messy. Your circumstances aren't what make you happy - your thoughts are.
HAPPINESS ISN'T AN ACCIDENT
It's not just for the lucky.
It's for the intentional.
It's available to everyone.
Decide to be happy.Study happy people.Know your happy habits.Practice the art of active appreciation.Ground yourself in gratitude.
NBC news poll recently found that only 14% of Americans reports to be very happy. That's down from 31% who said the same in 2018. 45% of Americans reported feeling isolated or lonely.
Two thirds of adults globally (64%) report being happy: 14% very much so and 50% rather so. Countries with the highest proportion of adults considering themselves as very happy are Canada (29%), Australia, Saudi Arabia and India (28% each), Great Britain and the United States (27% each). (Global Happiness Study 2019) WHY AREN'T YOU HAPPY?
Most likely because you're looking to your circumstances to make you happy.
It's your thoughts that creates happiness, not what happens in your life.
Too focused on the wrong things
-fear
-what could go wrong
-"being realistic"
-avoiding emotions
-what other people might think
-achievement for fulfillment
We're distracted by our own business
We stay too busy to be happy.
UNHAPPINESS CONTRIBUTORS
Comparison to others.Lack of gratitudeStuck in comfort zoneYou don't move your bodyYou are always in your past or your futureFlawed beliefs (thinking it's supposed to be easier, or that negative emotions shouldn't exist)Busyness (too busy to think, reflect, notice, self-care, live well)
95% of our 60-80,000 thoughts per day are repeated thoughts.
THE ART OF HAPPINESS
HAPPINESS HABITS
Activate appreciation
Reframing thoughts
Mental maintenance
Physical activity
Time to be
Other Contributors to Happiness
Adventure
Falling is learning
Openness
Curiosity
Happiness doesn't mean that it's a state of permanence.
It's an emotion, that ebbs and flows, and when you feel it, you ride it. When is recoils, you know another wave is coming - nothing has gone wrong.
"there is taken care of"
Intentional and active appreciation
What about others who drag you down?
"must stink to be in their brain…"
"there thoughts are their choices, I'm grateful I know how to not stay in a funk
OTHER RECOMMENDED PODCASTS:
Podcast #484
WHY IT'S EASIER FOR OTHER PEOPLE
If you struggle with comparison, or with the assumption that no one else is having a hard time like you are, then this episode is for you. In this episode we're coaching on how to stop being jealous of others, how to stop comparing yourself, and how to see that your life is going better than you think it is. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:
How to stop getting stuck up in comparisonHow to have a better lifeThe difference between a good life and an extraordinary one, and how to get the one you want How to parent your thoughts to stop worrying if other's are "better" or happier than you
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Thank you for this podcast and for encouraging us in achieving these great big goals. Thank you for speaking truth in our lives that we may be encouraged to do so with others!-
Cheyenne - Maui
LET'S COACH
Let's be honest together - when's the last time you were jealous?
What makes you say "gosh, must be nice."?
What makes you assume "her life is easier…"
I used to look at people skinnier than me, or prettier than me, and I deeply wanted to be them. I assumed that just because I presumed that they didn't struggle with the pain points I struggled with, that their lives were easier or happier
Ya'll. Life is good and bad.
How to Have a Better Life
Stop Thinking That Everyone Else Has a Better One Than You
-Understand your false assumptions (she's pretty - her life is better)
-Catch your words by noticing your thoughts
-Know the lies you tell yourself (they are more successful = they are better)
Challenge:
Write down the lies you think - challenge them.
Lies I used to tell myself:
When I'm skinnier I'll be more loveable.
If I were prettier, I would have a happier life.
Being successful will make me feel fulfilled.
Once I do ________, then I'll be satisfied.
I need to know what I’m doing.
I can make everyone happy - and then I can be happy.
If I fail publicly, people will remember.
- Take Ownership of Your Ability to Create an Extraordinary Life
-Stop settling
-Stop thinking that circumstances dictate or determine your story
-Stop comparing yourself
- Mind Your Thoughts
-Don't allow yourself to say "must be nice" (notice your jealousy)
-Detox any thoughts that allow you to settle for less or for averageness
Limiting Beliefs
Comparison
Mattering / Purpose
Indecision / Procrastination
Other Episodes on Comparison You Might Like:
479: How to Stop Settling and Playing Small
471: Comparison is Killing Your Confidence and Happiness
441: How to Successfully Turn a Negative Thought into a Positive One
454: The Courage to Believe in Possibility
LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:
Hi Trish, stumbled across your podcast on Spotify today - #465 on loneliness was honestly a word in a season. THANK YOU. Bless you.
-Sarah H
Podcast #483
SELF-VALIDATION: THE ART OF NOT NEEDING OTHER PEOPLE TO TELL YOU "GOOD JOB"
Self-Validation, or the art of not needing other people to tell you "good job," is a skill that the most confident people learn how to master. Even if you consider yourself a words of affirmation person, you can learn how to self-affirm and self-validate. Self-validation keeps you from the traps of people pleasing, of striving and of hamster wheel of external validation.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about…
The art of self-validation and how to cheer yourself onHow to not need external affirmation (even if you're a words of affirmation person)A 30-day challenge to implement into your daily journaling
HAPPY MAGICAL BIRTHDAY TO MY MAMA:
70 on 2-22-22
ANNOUNCEMENT:
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I'll teach you the 5-step framework to feeling worthy, loved and called to greatness - it's a week where you will learn to see yourself how God sees you, how to drop the baggage and trash thoughts that are holding you back and how to live a life of extraordinary enthusiasm, confidence and impact.
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REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
The perfect podcast at the perfect time!
DMars1206
I started listening to podcasts recently. Trish' podcast was one of the first that I stumbled upon and I am so glad that I did. Trish is relatable, honest and encourages you to ook at situations differently. Her topics are so relatable to my life and I use so many of her technique in real life to better my thoughts and fee more confident. Thank you, Trish for your advice, your humble but confident spirit and the joy and assistance you bring to your listeners. We appreciate you!
COACHING ON SELF-VALIDATION
How do you tell yourself good job?
Or do you even intentionally practice this?
I used to be addicted to affirmation.
The need for affirmation drives us into many unhelpful life patterns:
People pleasingToxic relationshipsInconsistent securityAttention seekingHustle and overworkingSocial media obsessionBody image manipulation and concentrationIndecisiveness / changing opinions
I have a constant dialogue going, continually affirming myself.
Self-validation frees you from
-the need for permission
-the external affirmation you crave
-the drama of overthinking
-the fear of not doing enough
-the unquenchable desire for approval
-the obsession with social confirmation
-the conflict you have with yourself
Things my mind says:
Good job, Trish.
Wow, nice effort, Trish.
Trish, that was kind, good work.
You didn't give up, good job Trish.
I'm proud of you for putting yourself out there, Trish.
Way to show up today, that's all that matters, Trish.
Trish, you look nice today.
Girl, your smile is magnetic today.
Yes, this is good work.
You have shown up with excellence, well done, now rest with excellence, Trish.
You were made for this.
HOW TO NOT NEED EXTERNAL VALIDATION
Notice where you crave it.Understand why you're craving and seeking approvalStop judging yourself so fiercelyStop comparing yourself to others.Stop measuring yourself by false belief systems (like social media likes)Tell someone - and it's okay sometimes to need it (share how this works with me and Brandon - and how I've weaned myself off in some areas when I recognize that I can give it to myself)Practice your self-coaching voice.Get serious about replacing that mean voice in your head.Get coached.Minimize your social media exposure and have high awareness of what trigger...
Podcast #482
HOW TO STOP GIVING UP ON YOURSELF
The way to stop giving up on yourself is through knowing how to follow through on your belief in yourself and your belief in a goal. Confidence Coaches Trish Blackwell and Christina LeCuyer jam out on a powerful and strategic episode to teach you how to have belief, faith and follow-through that really produces results in your life.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about.
How to stop micro-quitting on yourself and the real secret to having follow-through in your beliefsHow to decide, have unwavering faith and take massive actionTwo top tips from two confidence coaches
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Trish, I want to infinitely thank you. God has really worked through you and just listening to the few episodes that I have, I have not only leaned into my faith but also, into the belief that God is who HE says He is and loves us more than we could ever comprehend. I
To every girl out there, just click play. It's WORTH IT and so are you.
-Tay Duggan
ANNOUNCEMENTS:
It's not to late to join us for WORTH WEEK.
Five days live with me, February 21-25th.
I'll teach you the 5-step framework to feeling worthy, loved, and called to greatness - it's a week where you will learn to see yourself how God sees you, how to drop the baggage and trash thoughts that are holding you back and how to live a life of extraordinary enthusiasm, confidence, and impact.
ABOUT CHRISTIAN LECUYER
https://christinalecuyer.com/
As a former professional athlete and television personality, Christina's life 10-15 years ago looked awesome. She was living a life many would dream of, yet the reality was that she was at her rock bottom. She hated herself, felt without a purpose, had an awful eating disorder, and didn’t believe she was ever going to amount to anything that made her come alive. She was caught in the trap of living a life she “should” love instead of one that she DID love. She was completely out of alignment and had no confidence in herself or her decisions. She knew something had to change or the consequences would not be good… By the grace of God, with plenty of hard work, killer mentors, and strategists she can wholeheartedly tell you today she is OBSESSED with her life and business. She knows with 110% certainty if you are ready to decide it’s your turn she can help you have the same.
Connect with her at:
IG @bechristina
Website: https://christinalecuyer.com
Podcast: "Decide It's Your Turn" https://christinalecuyer.com/podcast/
HOW TO FOLLOW THROUGH ON A BELIEF
We have so much in common - athletics, eating disorders, the "dream life" that was actually the rock bottom life. Did you ever experience feeling like you "believed" in that vision for yourself, but just didn't know how to consistently hold the belief? How did you bridge that gap and really start following through on a belief?
Do you have some basics on belief follow-through?
Ok, so someone has a goal - and is believing for something, but they don't identify themselves as someone who follows through? (They've broken so many promises to themselves in the past, they find it hard to believe that this time will be different.) What should they do differently and how should they start?
Now let's talk about people who don't know what they want to believe is possible. They want to follow through on a belief or goal BUT they don't know where to start or what to really even believe for. What advice do you give someone who feels stuck here?
Alright, we have listeners who know they can believe in something is possible, but they lose the momentum of the belief and start to believe the self-doubt. How do you coach on doubt management?
Social media creates micro-comparisons; your brain takes what it sees as truth and the need to remind yourself of its invalidity is hard.
Less screens, more books, more people =
More life
Podcast #481
ENOUGHNESS: HOW TO FEEL ENOUGH AND INCREASE YOUR SELF-WORTH
If you've ever felt "not enough," this episode is for you. However the voice of inadequacy speaks to you, this coaching will give you practical ways to talk back to the feeling of "not enough" and "feeling behind" so that you can talk yourself to a place of secure self-worth. When we know that we are 100% worthy we can start to do bigger, bolder, braver things in the world -and you were made for such a time and thing like this.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about.
Why we don't feel "good enough" and the struggle that our not-enoughness creates in our lives - how we have more control over it than we think we doHow to increase both self-image and self-worth
WORTH WEEK:
Announcing WORTH WEEK.
Five days live with me, February 21-25th.
I'll teach you the 5-step framework to feeling worthy, loved and called to greatness - it's a week where you will learn to see yourself how God sees you, how to drop the baggage and trash thoughts that are holding you back and how to live a life of extraordinary enthusiasm, confidence and impact.
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Your podcast has helped my life change dramatically for the better. I've shared you with anyone I can think. You're truly an angled waking on Earth and have given me so much hope that I can be confident.
-Haleyyyyyy B
WHY WE DON'T FEEL ENOUGH:
Decisions set you free.
Decide to be a discipline.
A lie can keep you bound. If you believe it is true.
Lies create blind spots.
You're not trash, you just need new truth.
Don't do the devil's job - finding evidence of your limitations and how messed up you are - make him keep his own hours.
What you're wandering in for 40 years, God can bring out of in 11 days.
Lying to yourself excuses you - allows you to not accept ownership of your potential.
When you are worthy - you can drop the trash and keep the truth.
What's the difference between self-worth and self-esteem?
WHAT DOES NOT DETERMINE YOUR SELF-WORTH
Your to-do list
Your achievements
Your dating status
Who you date
What people say about you
Your job
Your social media following
Your age
What you can physically do
Your grades
Your intelligence
Your net worth
The number of friends you have
Your likes (good taste or not - sophistication or style or preferences)
HOW TO BUILD SELF-WORTH
Increase your self-understanding
Know your true identity in Christ
Boost your self-acceptance by finding things you like about yourself
Enhance your self-love (tone, etc, kindness, compassion, generosity)
Take responsibility for yourself]
Believe that you have a higher purpose
LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:
Liz Handy
Tirhs - I'm so glad you stepped into your calling for such a time as this. God led me straight to your podcast. Iwas praying last night just asking God how in the world I was going to get over people pleasing. Over the past few years I've done some realy difficult and exstremly draining yet so rewarding personal work - healing childhood truamsas and tracing the root of a lot of my pooor habits that have been eating away at my health and life. People pleasing is just one of those for me that is going to take a lot of cutting and snipping before it's uprooted. But your podcast is such a godsend! After praying this morning, God led me straight to it and told me to lisen to episdoe 421. I resonated so much with what you said especialy being perfect so many parents could be happy. I've read a lot of materail on people-pleasing but somehow, only your podcast has hit me on this level. I appreciate your wilingness to be a vcessle for God and I'm signing up for as much of your materia on people-peasing as I can afford. God bless you and please keep doing what He's purposed for you. You've already made such a huge difference im my life and I know others have said the same...
Podcast #480
HAVING RELATIONSHIPS WITH CONFIDENCE
Dating gets better results when you date with confidence, curiosity and courage. Marriage is better when the relationship is approached with confidence, curiosity and connection. Get coaching on how to add the spark of confidence to the relationships in your life, either the relationships you already have, or the ones you hope to have. A life with confident, life-giving relationships is a life well lived. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about.
Dating with confidenceKnowing your standards, creating a relationship you love (how to have confidence in your own relationship with yourself so that you can have confidence in all of your relationships)Marriage with confidence
WORTH WEEK:
Annoucing WORTH WEEK.
Five days live with me, February 21-25th.
I'll teach you the 5-step framework to feeling worthy, loved and called to greatness - it's a week where you will learn to see yourself how God sees you, how to drop the baggage and trash thoughts that are holding you back and how to live a life of extraordinary enthusiasm, confidence and impact.
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
I don't know how I stumbled across Trish's podcast but I thank God every day that I did. Her content is so real and relatable.
-Mariela Coleman
DATING WITH CONFIDENCE
Let go of the pressure.
Be open to the adventure.
Be yourself, be yourself, be yourself.
Accept that some people don't like chocolate covered strawberries.
Demand respect.
Don't settle
Pray over your future spouse.
Trust God's timeline, not your own.
Shift from "do they like me?" to "Do I like them?"
Take the initiative- you have the ability to choose
Keep an open mind - what matters in the long run
Don't ignore red flags
Live your life as if you'll never find the one
Address any false beliefs about your worth
Own your style and feel good in what you like
Neutralize rejection as simply part of the process
Remind yourself that you are fabulous
Practice, be proactive, ditch the pickiness
www.trishblackwell.com/479 How to Stop Settling and Playing Small
CONFIDENCE IN YOUR OWN RELATIONSHIP
You can only have a relationship with others to the measure in which you have a healthy emotional relationship with yourself.
Make the time for yourself.
Take ownership of your emotional responsibility.
Love the person God made you to be, and be excited about who you are becoming.
Guard your thoughts from comparison, criticism and cynicism
Value what you bring to the table so you know your standards.
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MARRIAGE WITH CONFIDENCE
Date your spouse.
Create joint vision together.
Put each other first.
Decide to have a different type of marriage.
Know your spouse's love language.
Refuse to settle into complacency.
Communicate, communicate, communicate.
Talk about sex, pleasure and joy.
Have marriage meetings.
Podcast #479 HOW TO STOP SETTLING
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about.
How to know if you are settling or putting up with less than you deserveThe 4 reasons we settle: fear of failure, fear of disappointment, fear of unworthiness, fear of embarrassment2 sets of things to start + stop + keep to help you stop settlingWhat to do to start creating change
REVIEW OF THE WEEK
The COC Podcast and Trish Blackwell are the most positive, inspiring, faith-based motivation a person can find on the internet. I have been listening to Trish for a year and a half. I am a member of the COC. God is using Trish to take me from feeling lost, insecure, and very down about myself to being someone who's grounded in faith in God and His Word, and who I am as His child. -AmyJoC
ANNOUNCEMENTS
January is a big month!
It's the LAST month you can get into the College of Confidence for just $57. Our rates are going up, but you don't ever have to pay more if you get in now. Plus, when you join this month, I'm gifting you my exclusive book of FAITH-BASED TRANSFORMATIONAL AFFIRMATIONS. This is only available this month. Go to www.collegeofconfidence.com/join today!Straighten Your Crown has gone on sale to celebrate the New Year! Get paperback copies of it for just $9.99 and Kindle copies for just $2.99. Go to www.trishblackwell.com/crown
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE SETTLING:
Here's how to know whether you're putting up with less than you deserve:
When you have to work yourself into a state of excitement rather than naturally experiencing joy and passion, you're probably settling. When you bargain with yourself about what you can do without rather than feeling gratitude for what you already have, you're probably settling. When your focus is on the time and energy you've invested in an endeavor rather than the love, joy and gratification you've gained, you're probably settling. When you're making excuses about why you should stay put rather than going for what you truly want, you're probably settling. When you spend more time complaining about what you have than appreciating it, you're definitely settling.
WHY WE SETTLE:
We settle because we don't think we deserve anything better.
Fundamentally, we settle because we don't trust that God has something better for us.
We settle because we have lost our imagination
We got too focused on what is "realistic".
We settle because we are afraid of being disappointed.
It depends upon your reasons and your goals
We settle because we refuse to fail.
QUOTES ON COURAGE: COURAGE IS THE ANTIDOTE TO THE SPIRIT OF SETTLING
Courage is the commitment to begin without any guarantee of success.
-Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe
Success is not final, failure is not fatal; it is the courage to continue that counts.
-Winston Churchill
Courage is the most important of all virtue because without courage, you can't practice any other virtue consistently.
-Maya Angelou
Do what you can, with what you have, where you are .
-Teddy Roosevelt
If one has courage, nothing can dim the light that shines from within.
-Maya Angelou
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Podcast #478
Think Bigger, Believe Bolder (How to Do Both)
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about.
How to cultivate big thoughts and believe in your big dreamsHow to start seeing yourself as someone worthy of big dreams and big abilitiesHow to find other big thinkers to share your big dreams withThe game-changing affirmation you need to use this year to help you dream bigger than you ever thought you could
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
I truly believe that God led me to Trish's podcast. Her message is so inspirational, healing and motivating. -Lookingglasslady
PATREON UPDATE
Announcing new options for supporting this amazing show.
Hop over to my Patreon page for all of the options, including a new $7 /month support option that delivers Weekly Journaling Prompts. Additionally, you can become part of my VIP Squad, which includes all of our normal patron goodies, AND a shout out on the air, as well as the right to personally request the topic for an upcoming podcast.
This week we're shouting out to Ryan Painter for being our first to snag one of the VIP Squad spots! Thank you for your support, Ryan!
Go to www.trishblackwell.com/patreon to get started
ANNOUNCEMENTS
January is a big month!
It's the LAST month you can get into the College of Confidence for just $57. Our rates are going up, but you don't ever have to pay more if you get in now. Plus, when you join this month, I'm gifting you my exclusive book of FAITH-BASED TRANSFORMATIONAL AFFIRMATIONS. This is only available this month. Go here to join: www.collegeofconfidence.com/join
Straighten Your Crown has gone on sale to celebrate the New Year! Get paperback copies of it for just $9.99 and Kindle copies for just $2.99. Go to www.trishblackwell.com/crown
THINK BIGGER / BELIEVE BIGGER
I dare you to think bigger, to act bigger, and to be bigger, and I promise you a richer and more exciting life if you do. – William Danforth
The desire for growth is simply a desire to make the most out of the life you have been given.
Growth is the love of an engaged existence and a deep desire to fully explore life.
Always make your future bigger than your past.Always have courage to think big.Always make your learning greater than your experience.Always make your contribution to the world greater than your reward.
The Believe in Your Goal Process
Take the parameters off what's "realistic" (BHAG, Impossible Goal, etc.)Understand the "point" of a big goal.Give yourself permission to think it.Decide that it's available to you. (People like you do things like that)Bring it to life (Get it out of your head - on paper and with someone you trust)Decide to do it - and that you are already on your way. (Release the "how").Write the belief you want to hold onto the entire way to the goal.Create a belief thought ladder of progressive affirmations.Commit to a daily affirmation to redirect your belief.The proclamation declaration of your goal has taken the idea from a possibility to a piece of potential
What separates the most successful people from the rest begins with a THOUGHT.
A thought, if cultivated, grows into the empowering habit of thinking big.
Thinking big propels our behavior forward in powerful ways.
To think big, you must think from a perspective where limitations and fears are completely suspended and separated.
Why Aren't You Thinking Bigger?
Common Practical Limitations
Your life feels too cluttered (too busy, no time to spend)You don't have a clean physical space that inspires you (most of the time, in our dwellings where we have the most security to think, we feel overwhelmed and cluttered - just reminded of how much we have to do, and why thinking becomes one of the last priorities)You have misinterpreted what failure means and over-personalized it to always be that wayYou aren't tapping into your imaginationYou're trying to do too much - practical bandwidth issues...
Bonus Podcast
Instantly Increase Your Confidence
The way to instantly increase your confidence is to learn to say "yes" to yourself. You can give yourself approval and permission to live a life worth telling a story about if you first believe that you're worth saying "yes" to. This episode will help you feel empowered to bet on yourself and to believe that your future is going to be greater than your past
The way to instantly increase your confidence is to SAY YES to yourself. You won't feel ready. You won't feel "good enough"You need to say yes anyway.
Saying "yes" to an investment of belief in yourself. -be it of time -be it of money -be it a little or a lot It teaches your subconscious that you matter.
It is literally an instant boost to your self confidence.
No longer are you waiting for the perfect time. No longer are you needing approval from others.
Saying yes to yourself - to getting coaching, to being educated on how to proactively live an intentional and fruitful life - is your first act of giving yourself approval - of giving yourself permission to thrive.
When someone joins the COC for the first time, it is a proclamation to themselves that
They are worth it Their future matters They want more powerful thinking They have big goals and they are going for them They have decided to live with no more excuses They are advocating for themselves They are giving themselves permission to do things differently than ever before They will have a return on their investment They deserve a coach and to be surrounded by positive people They have decided that they're capable of more - and want to tap into their potential
Click here to join us and become a member yourself.
ANNOUNCEMENT: LAST CHANCE OPPORTUNITY
This is the LAST month you can join the COC for just $57.
Plus, join us and you'll get access to everything we have going on this month:
A new course…Mastering Your Money Mindset
Activating Next Level Courage Workshop
How to be Someone Who Does Big Things Workshop
2022 Goal Accountability Support Coaching
And of course, Q&A with me on a live call where you can get coached on anything.
Click here to join the COC at our lowest rate.
Podcast #477
How to Have the Courage to Be Disliked
Having the courage to be disliked gives you personal power. It gives you the freedom to be yourself. It elevates your emotional maturity and it frees you from the cycle of overthinking from worrying what other people think. If you want to learn how to stop caring what people think, stop people pleasing, or stop overthinking about your social life, this coaching episode is for you. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/477
In this episode, we're coaching on
The real truth about being dislikedThe 4 keystones to have courage to be dislikedTips to open you up to the risk of being disliked
REVIEW OF THE EPISODE:
The most helpful brain training program
-Kelsey Siss
This podcast came at the perfect time for me personally. I cannot recommend it enough and continue to tell all my friends (and counselor - had to give that a plug because I know you read these and are pro therapy!) about it as well, Trish, I'm your biggest cheerleader right now!
Having grown up in the church and worked in ministry for several years alongside my husband (before pursuing alternative careers) I am realizing how ill equipped and uniformed I was on what it meant to "take my thoughts captive." That verse just always felt like a nice suggestion, certainly not something that was ever possible.
Trish takes this verse and concept and through er podcast equips us with the tools and practies necessary to TRULY take our thoughts captive. Whether you consider yourself faith-based or not this is the most practical podcast I have ever listened to when it comes to training our brains. I believe for me personally it's the faith aspect that's helped it click in a whole new level for me spiritually.
So grateful you've pursued this calling. I’m signing up for Patreon as well - I'm all ears on any advice Trish has to offer. The real deal.
ANNOUNCEMENTS January is a big month!
It's the LAST month you can get into the College of Confidence for just $57. Our rates are going up, but you don't ever have to pay more if you get in now. Plus, when you join this month, I'm gifting you my exclusive book of FAITH-BASED TRANSFORMATIONAL AFFIRMATIONS. This is only available this month. Straighten Your Crown has gone on sale to celebrate the New Year! Get paperback copies of it for just $9.99 and Kindle copies for just $2.99. Go to www.trishblackwell.com/crown
STRAIGHTEN YOUR CROWN REVIEW:
"A beautifully written account of how profound and intimate God's love is for us. Trish weaves her personal story with scripture in intricate detail. She impactfully draws the reader into her story and captures the reader's heart with her words. This was a book I savored, so I could create time and space to soak in her words and personally process how God delights in me. A must-read!" -Ashtyn Circle NEW VIP PATREON SUPPORTER! NEW VIP SUPPORTER: Ashley Strand Want to support the show? Go to www.trishblackwell.com/patreon
THE REAL TRUTH ABOUT BEING DISLIKED
So often we don't pursue our real possibilities in life because we are trying to self-protect from the potential of other people not liking us.
Let's get some things straight.
No matter who you are.
People will like you.
People will not like you.
Famous, forgettable, fat, skinny, rich, poor.
Resisting reality makes us spin our wheels and miss out on life.
The reality is that people will not like you.
Decide to have the courage to be disliked.
It's what you make it mean when you are disliked that really matters.
What most people make it mean:
Something is wrong with me.
I can change something about how they are thinking about me.
I don't belong.
I don't matter.
What you can choose to make it mean:
Nothing is wrong with me, I'm just not for them.
I don't need them to love me.
We're just not a great fit together but we can do life together.
Podcast #476
How to Believe in Your Big Goal with Confidence
You were probably told to believe in yourself, and to believe in your dreams. But, where you ever taught how to actually believe? What the steps are? How to build belief? Approach your goals entirely differently, with more confidence and bold belief than ever before by learning how to believe in your big goal with confidence. This coaching podcast will teach you what you need to know to start believing with unwavering confidence. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/476
In this episode, we're coaching on
The process of believing in your goalsForgiving yourself for giving up in the pastSelling yourself on the reality of your future self as successful
REVIEW OF THE EPISODE:
I get so super motivated each time I listen to you that I do something bold midway through the podcast, replay, etc.
Thanks for being you
-Holly Sexton
ANNOUNCEMENTS January is a big month!
It's the LAST month you can get into the College of Confidence for just $57. Our rates are going up, but you don't ever have to pay more if you get in now. Plus, when you join this month, I'm gifting you my exclusive book of FAITH-BASED TRANSFORMATIONAL AFFIRMATIONS. This is only available this month. Straighten Your Crown has gone on sale to celebrate the New Year! Get paperback copies of it for just $9.99 and Kindle copies for just $2.99. Go to www.trishblackwell.com/crown
NEW VIP PATREON SUPPORTER! NEW VIP SUPPORTER: Ashley Strand Want to support the show? Go to www.trishblackwell.com/patreon
THE PROCESS OF BELIEVING IN A GOAL
Set a goal that makes you giggle, or almost embarrassed to say.Decide that it's possible.Write the goal down.Spent time being the type of person who achieves the goal.Identify subtle shifts to start making.
Take the parameters off what's "realistic" (BHAG, Impossible Goal, etc.)
Understand the "point" of a big goal.
Give yourself permission to think it.
Decide that it's available to you. (People like you do things like that)
Bring it to life (Get it out of your head - on paper and with someone you trust)
Decide to do it - and that you are already on your way. (Release the "how").
Write the belief you want to hold onto the entire way to the goal.
Create a belief thought ladder of progressive affirmations.
Commit to a daily affirmation to redirect your belief.
The proclamation declaration of your goal has taken the idea from a possibility to a piece of potential
FORGIVE YOURSELF FOR GIVING UP IN THE PAST Be honest. The last big goal you had. Why didn't it happen?
Most of the time we stop too soon. We get distracted by comparing. We become impatient. We spend more time thinking than boldly doing.
What is the next best thing I can do? Is there a dream I need to resurrect? SELL YOURSELF ON YOUR FUTURE SELF
Who is your future self?
Identify your 1.0 and your 2.0
Know your name differences
Commit to the vision of being different
Always make your future better than your past.
What does it look like to be friends with her?
First, you need to be spend time with her.
Next, visualize her - imagine her - make her real.
Talk to your 2.0 and give her a name.
Believe in who you are becoming.
Where there is vision, there is provision.
Believe in what God has put in you at birth - and the transformation He can do in you.
Collect evidence of how far you've come and the progress you are making
-Keep a journal
-Write champagne moments down
-Slow down and celebrate
Become someone who celebrates life.
Celebrate yourself.
Celebrate others.
Celebrate your growth.
Celebrate progress.
ANNOUNCEMENT: LAST CHANCE OPPORTUNITY
This is the LAST month you can join the COC for just $57.
Plus, join us and you'll get access to everything we have going on this month:
A new course…Mastering Your Money Mindset
Podcast #475 HOW TO STOP DREADING THINGS AND STOP PROCRASTINATING
When you dread things, those things become harder. Dread is just an emotion, resulting from a mismanaged thought that leads to procrastination and avoidance. This podcast episode will teach you how to identify what you are avoiding, when dread shows up, and how to start making those tasks and important things in your life easier to accomplish and more enjoyable to do. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/475
In this episode, we're coaching on
How to look forward to what you previously dreaded - and understanding how dread is making your life so much harder What things you might be dreading / avoiding without knowing it How to stop dreading things or putting them off - even it it's goal setting for next year :)
REVIEW OF THE EPISODE:
I love Trish! She has helped me through so much! When I’m down I just put on her podcast!
HOW TO WRITE CUSTOM AFFIRMATIONS
Sign up at www.trishblackwell.com/affirmationsworkshopWednesday, December 29th at 6PM ESTI'll be teaching you:
Why affirmation work, and how to use them successfully in your life to have more joy, more peace and more confidenceHow to write your own custom affirmation; including how to incorporate your faith and scripture into themThe top three mistakes people make when incorporating affirmations into their lives, nd what to do instead
THINGS THAT WE DREAD / PROCRASTINATE ON
Little Things:
Meetings
Doctors appointments
Chores
Grocery shopping
Making decisions
Big tests
Asking someone out
Meaningful Things:
Setting Goals / Changing Habits
We put too much pressure on themWe want them to be perfectWe over-emphasize our past failures and fear we can't do it
Conversations that might have conflict
We avoid themWe make conflict mean that there's a problemWe play small and sabotage our real relationships
Thoughtful Ideas
Random gifts to neighborsHand-written cardsReviews for people who encourage us
Adulting Things:
IRS / TaxesOrganizing an area of our home that bothers us
Creating / improving our professional systems
Menopause / aging
Risk-taking
Emotional Things:
Loneliness
Change
Failure
Rejection
Uncertainty
Something bad happening
Getting hurt
Being judged
Inadequacy
WHAT DOES DREAD TO WHEN IT DOES UNDETECTED AND UNADDRESSED? It creates a baseline of negativity in our cognitive atmosphere. It makes things 10x harder than they actually are. It makes us behind and drives us to overthinking / procrastination. It creates mountains out of molehills. It slows us down and incites buffering / self-sabotage It causes us to second-guess ourselves and to pay too much attention to our emotions HOW TO STOP DREADING THINGS - 10 THINGS YOU CAN DO
(Even if it's goal setting)
Identify as an action-takerUse the 5-Second RuleShow up for your future-self as a friend todayBelieve in a different future than what you've experienced in the pastCreate better self-care reward systemsGet accountabilityCalendar everything (don't give yourself a choice)Cultivate the emotions you want that will lead to easier and more confident actionUnderstand how long the task / thing really is - make it not a big dealBe honest about the cost - and write down your real desire
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We're also doing a 2022 Goal Setting and Vision Casting Workshop soon; enroll with us today and you'll get access to that deep coaching session - it will be worth the cost of membership in and of itself!
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Podcast #474
AFFIRMATIONS FOR A HAPPY HOLIDAY
It's the most wonderful time of the year, if you don't count of the stress, all the expectations, all the people-pleasing and all the things to do. This year doesn't have to exhaust you like previous years have when you use the simple practice of affirmations and thought re-framing. This podcast episode will provide a solid foundation of holiday affirmations to help you feel centered and focused, this is an episode everyone can benefit from this holiday season! Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/474
In this episode, we're coaching on
The power of affirmations - and even how to do it from a faith-based perspectiveHoliday affirmations and setting holiday goals and expectationsThe basics of reframing holiday drama when it happens so you can continue to enjoy the good parts of this time of the year
REVIEW OF THE EPISODE:
Trish, this is long overdue but wanted to say THANK HOU for the great work you do with your podcast. It's like having a coach right through m earbuds. I'm thankful I found your show. Keep doing what you do! -Aprilkaye.1217
HOW TO WRITE CUSTOM AFFIRMATIONS
Sign up at www.trishblackwell.com/affirmationsworkshopWednesday, December 29th at 6PM ESTI'll be teaching you:
Why affirmation work, and how to use them successfully in your life to have more joy, more peace and more confidenceHow to write your own custom affirmation; including how to incorporate your faith and scripture into themThe top three mistakes people make when incorporating affirmations into their lives, nd what to do instead
21 AFFIRMATIONS FOR A HAPPY HOLIDAY
My home is a happy place to be during the holidays. I will find the beauty in every simple moment today and I will neutralize anything that my brain wants to dramatize with emotion.Throughout the holidays, I am centered, calm and balanced. I release my expectations of others and I choose to just love them.I give love no matter what I get back.Delays and changes of plans are an opportunity to reflect, give things and create new possibilities.It's okay to delete some things from my to-do list.I value taking time to recharge my batteries and priorities my self-care.Who I am is enough.I feel the love of the season, the joy of the season and the peace of the season. I am loved for more than the gifts I give.I'm focused on what Christmas means to me instead of what it means to the world.I refuse to allow guilt to be part of my Christmas season.When I make Christmas about sharing rather than getting, I always feel better.Today I am breathing in the light and love of the season and sharing it with everyone I meet.My mind is filled with hope. My heart is filled with joy. The sights, sounds, joy and smells of the season fill me with sweet goodness. All that matters is that I show up as myself and with love.I create the amount of peace I experience this season by the thoughts I intentionally think. My holiday memories are entirely within my control and I diligently make the time to think and savor my thoughts.I love helping other people in the holidays and I always have time to make a difference. Traffic jams and inconvenient things around the holidays give me more time to do affirmations and to be with my thoughts.
CREATE A HOLIDAY VISION BOARD Theme to Create Gratitude Guide Special Food Special Drink Entertainment Quality Time Reflection Time THE REFRAMING OF HOLIDAY DRAMA
The Mental Tea Method
The Situation / The StressorDefault Thought vs. Determined ThoughtEmotional State I Want to Create
Your outcome experience will be guided by how you feel overall.
We remember how we felt, not always what happened.
OTHER RESOURCES YOU MIGHT LIKE
In the College of Confidence, we recently did a Holiday Overwhelm Workshop and Happiness Optimization Workshop. Go to www.collegeofconfidence.com/join to get instant access to both workshop replays and full workbooks.
Podcast #473
How to Know Exactly What You Want
It takes confidence to know exactly what you want, and then courage to believe in yourself enough to create the result you want. This episode will teach you how to do both - how to know exactly what you want and how to really get it in your life. We'll deconstruct the reasons why being bold and clear in knowing what you want it tough in the first place, and how to trust yourself enough to think big and believe big. This is coaching for anyone with big goals for 2022! Get the full show notes atwww.trishblackwell.com/473
In this episode, we're coaching on
The reasons we don't know what we wantHow to figure out exactly what you wantA mental strategy to have the confidence that you will follow through
REVIEW OF THE EPISODE:
Your words have been extremely eye opening and provided such helpful, enlightening guidance that encourages me to learn to look at things from a different perspective and with true positivity. Thank you for your dedication, continuous drive to share your knowledge and sharing your personal growth to inspire others. -Meredith381
HOW TO WRITE CUSTOM AFFIRMATIONS
Sign up at www.trishblackwell.com/affirmationsworkshopWednesday, December 29th at 6PM ESTI'll be teaching you:
Why affirmation work, and how to use them successfully in your life to have more joy, more peace and more confidenceHow to write your own custom affirmation; including how to incorporate your faith and scripture into themThe top three mistakes people make when incorporating affirmations into their lives, nd what to do instead
PATREON UPDATE
Announcing new options for supporting this amazing show. Hop over to my Patreon page for all of the options, including a new $7 /month support option that delivers Weekly Journaling Prompts. Additionally, you can become part of my VIP Squad, which includes all of our normal patron goodies, AND a shout out on the air, as well as the right to personally request the topic for an upcoming podcast. This week we're shouting out to Ryan Painter for being our first to snag one of the VIP Squad spots! Thank you for your support, Ryan! Go to www.trishblackwell.com/patreon to get started
REASONS WHY WE DON'T KNOW WHAT WE WANT
We haven't taken the time to ask ourselves.We are limiting ourselves from what we consider is available to us.We hold onto fictions that we tell ourselves from our past, limiting our future.We are afraid of what we might be able to get / do / achieve.We sabotage our own happiness and are comfortable in being disappointedWe falsely think that vague ideas protect us from disappointment
HOW TO FIGURE OUT EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT
Know what you don't want to help you figure out what you do.Ask yourself what would make your soul singDo a vision board.Free think with the thought "What if…."Release the idea that your "exact" vision needs to be perfect - it just needs to be clearThink big, and then think bigger - make it big enough that it feels laughable.Release the "how" as you think about your "why" and your "what".
Vision builds upon vision.Often, we can't get to the next vision until we first experience the growth that will take us to the first level.
HOW TO GET WHAT YOU WANT
Decide firmly what you want.Sell yourself on the belief that it's available.Collect evidence of its availability.Write it down daily.Visualize yourself already where you want to be.Commit to your thought work. (Belief ladders, daily toxic reframes, custom affirmations)Commit to feeling all your feelings.Commit to failing with confidence and gratitudeTell others about your want - and start normalizing it as something you're already on your way to creating.Get a coach, a community and accountability.
FRESHBOOKS ANNOUNCEMENT
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Podcast #472 Confidence for Entrepreneurs
Increase your confidence, increase your income. There's a direct correlation between confidence and professional potential, and this episode will help you learn how to scale both in your life. Whether you're an entrepreneur or work in a corporate job, wanting to grow within your company, these 10 strategies will help you increase your professional confidence, and ultimately, your income potential. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/472
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:
The 10 things to do to improve your professional confidence The relationship between your confidence and your income How to think bigger than you ever thought possible
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
My confidence and luster for life was nose-diving. I decided to click on your show and I listened to several episodes immediately - in just a few months you built me up and I am so grateful! - Ms. Awesome
PATREON UPDATE
Announcing new options for supporting this amazing show. Hop over to my Patreon page for all of the options, including a new $7 /month support option that delivers Weekly Journaling Prompts. Additionally, you can become part of my VIP Squad, which includes all of our normal patron goodies, AND a shout out on the air, as well as the right to personally request the topic for an upcoming podcast. This week we're shouting out to Ryan Painter for being our first to snag one of the VIP Squad spots! Thank you for your support, Ryan! Go to www.trishblackwell.com/patreon to get started
WEBINAR REPLAY
Believing that you can build, and building a bigger business is not selfish, it is generous.The bigger you believe, the more you can give to the world.Business Affirmations.First decide what you really want to build.Then believe. People like me build business like that.Next, invest in your belief and your follow-through will result in profit.What does a 10x more confident version of you look like?Identify 3 things you do in your business if you were more confident.
Know How to Differentiate Between Your 1.0 Versus 2.0 SelfKnow How to Take Action When Flooded With DoubtKnow How to Believe in Success Before it HappensKnow How to Feel and FailKnow How to Train Your Thoughts
Don't hope you'll be successful.Decide that you will be.Your level of success is directly related to your level of willingness to be bold, to be vulnerable, to feel and to fail.-----------
Know How to Show Up BoldlyKnow How to Maximize AffirmationsKnow How to Operate from AbundanceKnow How to Think Bigger Than Feels ComfortableKnow How to Grow With Ease, Not Hustle
FRESHBOOKS ANNOUNCEMENT
This episode is brought to you by FreshBooks. There’s a lot to love about being your own boss,but trying to figure out your financials on your own isn’t one of those things. Luckily, there’s FreshBooks: The all-in-one accounting solution that’s built for business owners like you. FreshBooks takes all the not-so-fun parts of running a business—from building and tracking invoices, to organizing expenses, to managing online payments—and automates and simplifies them, saving you up to 11 hours a week in the process. FreshBooks has your back at tax time, too. With a ton of reports to choose from, you’ll know exactly where your business stands, and you can easily hand the keys over to your accountant so they can take over when it’s time to reconcile everything for the year. Try FreshBooks free for 30 days, no credit card required. Go to www.freshbooks.com/CONFIDENCE to get started today. And get more time back to build the business you love.
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Podcast #471
Comparison is Killing Your Confidence and Happiness
Comparison is a default thought pattern that is killing your confidence and happiness, however, you can learn how to neutralize its negative impact on your life. This podcast episode gives 21 comparison detox strategies, along with 12 happiness hygiene habits to help you be victorious in your mental management of comparison in your life. Comparison is rooted is fear, and you can uproot both from your life, starting with this coaching. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/471
The sneaky way that fear shows up in comparison and what the fear underneath the comparison is doing to your confidence and your futureHappiness hygiene habits and how they help you detox toxic comparison from your default thinking patternsUnmanaged comparison versus managed comparison and what to do about it other than saying "I know I shouldn't be comparing myself, but …" Taking ownership of your relationship with comparison and your relationship with the level of happiness you have in your life.
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Just what I needed, 5 Stars, Christina Slater
From the first episode I listened to I was completely drawn in. I felt like I was being heard and that this is where I was going to get that extra help, that boost that I needed. I'd highly recommend this podcast.
PATREON UPDATE
Announcing new options for supporting this amazing show.
Hop over to my Patreon page for all of the options, including a new $7 /month support option that delivers Weekly Journaling Prompts. Additionally, you can become part of my VIP Squad, which includes all of our normal patron goodies, AND a shout out on the air, as well as the right to personally request the topic for an upcoming podcast.
This week we're shouting out to Ryan Painter for being our first to snag one of the VIP Squad spots! Thank you for your support, Ryan!
Go to www.trishblackwell.com/patreon to get started
LET'S COACH ON COMPARSION
Can we get real? Comparison is fear-based.
Fear that we aren't enough.
Fear that we don't belong.
Fear that we aren't doing enough.
Fear that we don't measure up.
And the last time I checked, fear is not of God.
I love this because it frees me.
I can give my brain permission to feel the fear and then let it pass through, because it doesn't belong in me or on me. It's human to have, and the enemy of my soul uses fear to try to persuade me out of the light and joy into sadness and depression - but God always wins; since I know that, that means I have the victory (and the permission) already to live by faith, not fear.
So, pause this for a minute.
Think about the comparison in your life.
And then fill in this sentence:
…When I feel "not enough" in this area _________ I am actually just afraid that _______________.
For me, it's been:
When I feel not popular enough, I am afraid awkward and that I don't belong.When I feel not fit enough , I am afraid that my body will keep me from being loved.When I feel not pretty enough, I am afraid that people won't like me or see me.When I feel not successful enough, I am afraid that I am wasting my potential.
Notice how you will recognize the "feeling not enough" … and when we pull back from our feelings to our thoughts, it's our thoughts that are FEAR BASED THOUGHTS that are creating the NOT ENOUGH FEELING … and those thoughts and feelings are both driven from the ACTION of COMPARISON.
UNMANAGED COMPARISON JUST ISN'T HELPFUL
Learn to let go of unhelpful thinking.
Unmanaged Comparison > unaware, focused on others instead of yourself, default, comparing up / comparing down, fear-based motivationManaged Comparison > intentional, internally focused in a healthy way, data-driven or focused with purpose outside of oneself
Comparing. Looking around. Makes your journey longer and you less effective.
Stay in your own lane.
Trust the story God has given you.
Podcast #470
You Deserve Better: Rejection Reframing
The pain from past rejection keeps many of us from our fullest potential in life, both personally and professionally, but it doesn't have to when you learn how to reframe rejection. You deserve better than to expect to get hurt, to expect things not to work out or to expect disappointment. This podcast coaching session will inspire you with the tools for rejection reframing so you can start being more brave with your life. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/470
In the episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about…
Shifting out of self-indulgence and self-rejectionHow to separate romantic rejection from your self-worthReframing rejection so that you don't fear future rejectionLoving yourself through rejection and why rejection is actually sometimes a good thing
WOMEN RISING INSPIRE OTHER WOMEN TO RISE
Oh my gosh. Just had such a fun week, speaking at the Women's Legal Forum at The Notre Dame Law School.
I help driven women overcome self-doubt, impostor syndrome, and perfectionism so that they can stop playing small with their lives and start making the bold difference in this world God created them to make.
That's why I'm loving the ability to do more workshops.
As you know, I specialize in working with high-achieving women who work in male-dominated fields, and a large majority of my private clients are women working in high-pressure, high-achieving fields, like the legal field, medical field, and financial field.
I'm really excited about creating an experience with strategies for confidence and positive mental health that these driven women can use throughout their entire careers. I can offer these services either virtually or in-person.
The main two workshops I'm delivering are:
Strategies in Confidence: Finding Your Voice in a Male Dominated IndustryStrategies in Confidence: Navigating Law School with More Success and Less Stress
Email me directly if you want me to come and support your organization in this high level way. [Trish @ TrishBlackwell . com]
REVIEW OF THE WEEK
Thank you for being my on the go coach
5-Stars
I've been listening daily ... it truly have helped me work as a manager instead of feeling like an impostor.
-RN manager / mom to. Be
BLACK FRIDAY ANNOUNCEMENTS
Most of my students and clients start with the intention of working with me for a few months, but stay for years.
That's the beautiful thing about coaching.
Once you achieve one goal, or experience one breakthrough, you create a new focus, and have even more confidence to tackle it with the confidence and support that comes from being coached.
That's why today THROUGH Cyber Monday, I'm offering $800 the cost of a Lifetime Membership to my coaching in the College of Confidence.
Pay just $1500 once, and know for sure that I'll be in your corner for you, and you'll get access to every new course I ever. create for the COC for as long as the COC exists!
Go to trishblackwell.com/blackfriday to grab it.
I DESERVE THIS … I DESERVE BETTER SEQUENCES
I deserve to take a break > I deserve better than to feel stressed tonight.
I deserve to eat this ice cream > I deserve better than to have a stomach ache.
I deserve this extra glass of wine > I deserve better than to feel hungover tomorrow.
I deserve to buy myself this > I deserve better than to go deeper into debt
Countering "I deserve this"
With "I deserve better."
REJECTION AND HOW IT LIMITS OUR LIVES
Self-Rejections / Ways we reject ourselves: We convince ourselves we are not good enough. I might as well not try. Self-harming. Procrastination Isolating oneself. Always comparing yourself to others. Adjusting goals unnecessarily Letting others choose your path in life Ignoring your true feelings and gut Not speaking up
Social Rejections:
We convince ourselves that other people don't think we're good enough.
Podcast #469
Confidence Strategies for Your Body Image
Body confidence is a thought process that anyone can learn to strengthen, and these confidence strategies for your body image will help. Learn 10 strategic things you can do to improve your body image and 5 life-giving, confidence-evoking affirmations to help you learn to love the body you are in right now. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/469 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about…
I'm sharing my two-decade long battle with poor body-image and how God healed me; how I went from body dysmorphic to body confident10 strategies for better body image5 important things to tell yourself daily to bloom in your body's beauty
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Full Review: “Trish,I cannot express how phenomenal you and your podcast have been in the last few months. I am currently in law school and learning to navigate a new threshold of stress/pressure. While I'm fortunate to be able to pursue my career goals, there have been times when I felt incredibly lost, alone, and defeated. Enter "The Confidence Podcast". I consider myself to be a fairly confident person, however you've taught me that developing healthy self esteem is not like learning to ride a bike: it's something that requires repetition, patience, and practice. You were the Full Review: “Trish,I cannot express how phenomenal you and your podcast have been in the last few months. I am currently in law school and learning to navigate a new threshold of stress/pressure. While I'm fortunate to be able to pursue my career goals, there have been times when I felt incredibly lost, alone, and defeated. Enter "The Confidence Podcast". I consider myself to be a fairly confident person, however you've taught me that developing healthy self esteem is not like learning to ride a bike: it's something that requires repetition, patience, and practice. You were the first person I felt that "got it", that understood the mindset, goals, and internal struggles of someone who pursues excellence in every area of life. You provide women with tangible skills and practices that can ACTUALLY be applied. It was so different than the generic advice we're all used to hearing (“love yourself", "be okay not being okay" etc).You are a gift to humanity. Thank you thank you for all you do! Your reach is so much more than you could imagine!” Wellington1180
PATREON UPDATE
Announcing new options for supporting this amazing show. Hop over to my Patreon page for all of the options, including a new $7 /month support option that delivers Weekly Journaling Prompts. Additionally, you can become part of my VIP Squad, which includes all of our normal patron goodies, AND a shout out on the air, as well as the right to personally request the topic for an upcoming podcast.
Go to www.trishblackwell.com/patreon to get started
HOW I WENT FROM BODY DYSYMPORHIC TO BODY CONFIDENT
Etre bien dans sa peau. Instead of expecting your issues to disappear, focus on the development of your relationship with your body. For years I limited my growth and healing because I expected perfection in my body and my thoughts. I had to learn to think more openly, more kindly and more critically about why what mattered to me mattered. Pay attention to thought patterns and assumptions you make about yourself, and about others. (For example, I assumed I was broken, a freak and that change was impossible - I didn't even realize I had settled into a state of despair but I had. // I also assumed that no one else struggled like I did. So I looked at people and always thought to myself, "must be nice"...to not think about everything, to not count every calorie, to not question every thing that you think or to look in the mirror without criticism.) Instead of generalizing your desired change - use the power of specificity to start the transformation process. Ask yourself what you want to be different, and get specific.
Podcast #468
How to Drop Limiting Beliefs and Believe Better Things About Yourself
Just because you have always thought one way in the past doesn't mean you have to always think that way in the future. This episode of coaching explores what you believe about yourself, how to drop limiting or negative beliefs, and how to pick helpful, life-giving and positive beliefs to start believing. You can learn to believe new things about yourself and this coaching is your first step. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/468
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on…
A discussion on belief, on unbelieving certain things, and how to believe better things.Understanding what you believe about yourself and what you don'tHow to drop old beliefs that are holding you back and develop new ones that transform your life, your body, your relationships and your work
ANNOUNCEMENT:
JUST A REMINDER…
People who you need to stop caring about.
-toxic people
-critical people
-sidelines people
-lazy people
-fake people
-random people
REVIEW OF THE WEEK
Young, dumb and broken down... 5 STARS
Grace-A
I have never felt so connected with my mind, body and soul until I listened to Trish Blackwell. Being a teenager in college, I constantly struggle with relationships with food, positive body image, self love nad confidence. I have wanted to be the best me I can be for a long time, but never had direction. Trish is my spirit guide. She empathizes, inspires, empowers, and uplifts me whenever I listen to her. She is my go-to whenever I am in a bad gplace or when I need a boost of confidence. I'm always tleling my friends to listen to her podcasts. Because of her, I am living my best life and continue to see my inner light. Thank you Trish!!! <3
LET'S COACHING ON LETTING GO OF OLD BELIEFS! MY STORY …..
I'll never forget when my ex-fiancé told me I was a nobody.
It was about 15 years ago, right before moving from a smaller town to a big city.
He told me that I WASN'T going to be as successful in that city as I was where I had been before.
He told me that I WASN'T going to stand out, that I was just a little, forgettable fish in a big pond.
He told me to SETTLE for just being average and to let that be good enough for me, you know, in the big city.
But he was WRONG.
His words were meant to initiate and control me, but they unleashed something epic in my drive.
No less than 3 months later, I had established myself as a leader in my industry in that city.
I exceeded my employer's expectations and broke company sales records.
I was cast to be on the revived television show, American Gladiators (which I ultimately turned down).
He had told me that I was just a nobody.
I decided not to believe him.
So, I don't care what someone once said to you.
I don't care about anything negative anyone has spoken over you.
It doesn't mean that it has to be true.
You and only you are responsible for what limitations are in your life.
You belong.
You can be more than you imagined.
WHAT DO YOU ACTUALLY BELIEVE ABOUT YOURSELF AND WHY?
I'm not good at friendship.
I'm not pretty.
I'm not smart.
I'm just average.
I'm not funny.
People don't go out of their way for me.
I'm a burden.
Write down 5 beliefs that you have carried deep in your subconscious - that you just unknowningly accept as truthIdentify where you first learned or heard this or why your brain decided to make this a filtering truth in your life.Muster up emotional courage - be bold enough to ask yourself: "What if I’m wrong."
Freedom Looks Good On You , Maverik City- YouTube Song
Freedom Looks Good On You (feat. Israel Houghton, Bri Babineaux & Ryan Ofei) | Maverick City | TRIBL
Gone are the chains that were holding me Gone is the person I used to be Free from the fear by Your perfect love This is my exodus This is my exodus
Podcast #467
How to Believe that You Matter in the World
Knowing that you have a purpose, and knowing yours, will make your life come alive. It gives meaning to the mundane and puts fire in the places you want to wake up in your heart. Purpose is the drive of confidence that we all crave, but most people feel lost in this area. This episode will coach you on how to believe that you matter in the world, and then how to start showing up in a way that makes a difference. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/467 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on…
How to know you matter in this world, especially if you're feeling unfulfilled, without purpose or lost right nowHow to figure out your higher purpose and get started on itHow to continually support yourself and step into a bigger version of yourself, and your impact, with positive (and effective) self-talk.
I want to talk about this topic because I have had too many conversations with high-achievers who are just so in the zone on putting pressure on themselves that they have entirely lost their sense of humanity and purpose.
There's immense pressure we put on ourselves, but why?
When you don't know why you matter, the pressure, the performance, the achievements, they're meaningless. I don't talk about this often but I went through a season of my life, specifically after what happened to me that I share about in episode #444 and in Chapter 2 of Straighten Your Crown, that made me wrestle with meaninglessness and search for meaning.
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
I love Trish! Aap915
She has helped me through so much! When I'm down I just put on her podcast! I also read her books! Thank you for being you!
PATREON UPDATES!!!
Announcing new options for supporting this amazing show.
Hop over to my Patreon page for all of the options, including a new $7 /month support option that delivers Weekly Journaling Prompts. Additionally, you can become part of my VIP Squad, which includes all of our normal patron goodies, AND a shout out on the air, as well as the right to personally request the topic for an upcoming podcast.
This week we're shouting out to Ryan Painter for being our first to snag one of the VIP Squad spots! Thank you for your support, Ryan!
Go to www.trishblackwell.com/patreon to get started
BELIEF STARTS WITH UNDERSTANDING:
The world needs you.
God created you.
Go to work.
Putting pressure on yourself doesn't work.
You don't do better by being mean to yourself.
Make your life count by being yourself.
God given potential. --- > Your moral responsibility.
How are you stewarding what was planted within you?
How willing are you to cultivate it?
How are you downplaying it or mis-tending it?
How do you discount it by comparing to others?
HOW TO FIGURE OUT YOUR HIGHER PURPOSE AND GET STARTED ON IT
It's time to think about legacy.
But first, extend yourself grace by knowing why legacy hasn't been at the forefront of your mind.
Too busy.Too worn down.Too low in opinion of self.Too discouraged from comparing to others.Too rushed to believe you can do more.Too disappointed from your past to think you matter now.Too overwhelmed with how to have a plan to move forward with confidence.
You were placed in the world for a reason.
We don't get to see the full picture. Just a puzzle piece at a time.
We do get to believe that the big picture is a masterpiece.
We get to decide to be involved - or to pass our piece to someone else.
We get to live with purpose and on purpose.
Your legacy confidence will be attacked - do not be alarmed.
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Bonus Podcast Episode [Limited Time Access] No Negativity November: How to Detox Negativity
Negativity steals from you. 👎🏻 It limits your happiness. 😩 It reduces your confidence.🙇🏼♀️ It squashes your dreams.😳 It tarnishes your relationships.🤦🏼♀️ It restricts your motivation.😬 It makes you want to stop trying. 🙅🏼♀️ But it doesn't have to anymore.❤️ Join me for my 7-Day Challenge, NO NEGATIVITY NOVEMBER 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻 In No Negativity November I'll teach you ✔️how to catch the negativity that is sneaking into your thoughts AND exactly what to do about it to turn the negativity into something more helpful for your life. 🔥It starts Monday, November 1st.🔥 But if you join now, you get BONUS ACCESS to the entirety of my coaching in the College of Confidence, for FREE! ❤️Register at www.collegeofconfidfence.com/nonegativitynovember There are 4 categories of negativity I'll coach you on reducing in your life: 1️⃣ Filtering 2️⃣ Polarizing 3️⃣ Catastrophizing 4️⃣ Personalizing And we're going to be tackling detox strategies to remove the 10 most common expressions of negativity from your thought life: 1️⃣ Self-Doubt 2️⃣ Fear 3️⃣ Cynicism 4️⃣ Sarcasm 5️⃣ Self-Pity 6️⃣ Criticism 7️⃣ Complacency 8️⃣ Perfectionism 9️⃣ Judgment 🔟 Worry Detoxing negativity in this challenge isn't fluffy, Susie-Sunshine, pie-in-the-sky stuff. You're going to get actual strategies and tools on how to be more positive, feel happier and not feel burdened by the heaviness of life. This is not a challenge you want to miss. I believe this challenge can be the turnaround for your happiness and your hopefulness in life. So much so that if you aren't wowed by the coaching and the challenge, I'll happily refund your money. Banana-pants, 🍌👖 I know. RISK-FREE. Join us! 🙌🏻 ❤️ Register now at www.collegeofconfidence.com/nonegativitynovember
Types of Negative Thinking:
Filtering (magnifying the negative in a situation and filtering out the positive ones)Personalizing (automatically blaming yourself or making it about you)Catastrophizing (anticipating the worst and carrying a bad experience beyond the moment , expecting it to bleed over into the rest of the day)Polarizing (things are only good or bad)
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Podcast #466
How to Think Better Thoughts, Even If You Struggle with Anxiety or Overwhelm
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're coaching on…
The key to being more than just a "positive thinker," but becoming a "powerful thinker."How to manage your thoughts and make your brain work for youMy method to confidently manage my anxiety, overwhelm and self-doubt
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Life changing! Dgreenw4 I listen to your podcast every single day! I get in these awful funks and it's literally like going to a therapist. Love that you're Christian and that you love fitness! I am a CPT and personal trainer at Burn Boot Camp so I have to keep my confidence and self love up so I can show that to others. You literally do that for me. I've tried so many podcasts and yours always helps my day out. None of the others ever compare. I can't even explain how much you have poured into my soul. I had an unfortunate event where you were talking about in order for a better door to open you have to close that other one. I closed that toxic door that day.. guess what…2 days later, my most incredible door opened. Just know, you are changing lives and helping people that truly struggle with intense anxiety and depression but that also has to radiate confidence in their career…you do that for me everyday. Thank you again for pouring into us that listen. You are touching love s and changing the world. Hoping to join your College of Confidence one day.
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LET'S COACH!
Powerful self-talk goes beyond just positive thinking, it's a combination of a few types of thinking.
Positive thinking.Powerful thinking (intentional thought creation)Repeated thinking.
Types of Negative Thinking:
Filtering (magnifying the negative in a situation and filtering out the positive ones)Personalizing (automatically blaming yourself or making it about you)Catastrophizing (anticipating the worst and carrying a bad experience beyond the moment , expecting it to bleed over into the rest of the day)Polarizing (things are only good or bad)
HOW TO MANAGE YOUR THOUGHTS AND MAKE YOUR THOUGHTS WORK FOR YOU:
I get asked all the time how to reframe thoughts, and how to actually talk back to yourself effectively, so I thought I'd share the answer here.First, you have to write down your thought that you want to replace. Keep it simple and in as plain of language as possible. Then, answer it back directly, compassionately and with the truth, as if you were talking to a friend.I teach a few methods:
Mental TeaThe Confidence JournalAffirmation ProclamationsGratitude on the GoThought ReframingIntentional Thought CreationBrain Dumps
Have a Cup of Mental Tea.What's happening… (circumstances, situation)T: ThoughtE: EmotionA: ActionWhat happens next… (outcome, results)
What is Intentional Thought Creation:Know the difference between an intention and a goal. Goals are future-focused, typically on a destination or specific achievement. Intentions are in the present moment, something to live out each day.
Recognize unwanted thought patterns (gain awareness)Practice hearing your inner voice as an observer (assess what's happening in your mind, without judging your thoughts)Play around with what thoughts attract what result in your life (example: thankfulness attracts and creates joy and happiness)Define what you want in your life - make it clear...
Podcast #465
Being Yourself When You Feel Disconnected from Others
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about….
What to do when you feel like you don't belong, and you're not happy alone and not comfortable around people.How to connect when you feel unable to connect or connecting feels flat or insincere and unfulfillingManaging the fear of being misunderstood and hesitation in wanting to speak up, post or have a voice out of fear that good intentions might be misconstrued
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
I am so excited to writing this review. I have listened to a lot of podcasts…but this one takes the cake for me. Not only does it provide me with positive and encouragement, but it is so relatable to my life experiences, and genuinely brings me closer to God. Trish is so personal and connects with every path of life that you could be headed down. She encourages you to take that step back to really focus on your life and the goals you have for yourself, and gives you the tools to make it what you've always imagined it to be. Thank you Trish for your guidance and continuous support. I'm so blessed by and grateful for you and this podcast. My path has never been so clear.
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WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE YOU DON'T BELONG
Learn how to be by yourself, and what the normal amount of down time is by yourself.
Know what your head says to yourself when you're lonely.
Mine says:
You don't matter.
No one cares about you.
What you do doesn't matter.
You're alone.
Nothing matters.
Everyone else is doing something interesting.
Recognize the lies.Learn to like spending time with yourself.Normalize boredom.Admit that you're lonely, but know you're not alone; it's not just you.Write down positive memories or gratitude.Intentionally pursue connection with others- people or animals, known or unknown.Create a schedule, including a bedtime. (Sadness amplifies at night)
It's harder to feel alone when you have a plan and a purpose.
HOW TO CONNECT WHEN YOU FEEL UNABLE TO CONNECT
…Or connecting feels flat and insincere and unfulfilling
Take away the vanity metrics of superficial and insincere relationships and connections on social media.
Every connection you have is gold - don't downplay connection you do have because that person "is supposed to like you or help you"
Connection is vulnerable.
But you are brave, and open.
You are willing to be seen, and if you are, you will be able to connect.
But to be willing to be seen you have know that you are enough.
You are worthy of being seen.
Your story is interesting and matters.
Your hobbies and likes are not random, or boring.
Connection takes time, and practice.
It's created tiny moment at a time.
Practice with strangers, where there's no risk.
Give a compliment.
Start up a conversation.
Go out of your way.
Get curious.
Connection comes from curiosity and conversation.
MANAGING THE FEAR OF BEING MISUNDERSTOOD
Being misunderstood doesn't mean that you don't belong.
We crave understanding.
"I believe you have to be willing to be misunderstood if you're going to innovate." -Jeff Bezos
Left unchecked, the fear of being misunderstood will:
Stop you from being you
Slow down your creativity
Create overthinking and overwhelm, making you stuck in your own head
Prevent you from creating connection with others
Put blocks in your exploration of new ideas or thoughts
Adjust your expectations.Decide how you want to define and understand yourself.Recognize your own place in the world and how you contribute.Be open to mistakes, failures and embarrassment as neutral experiencesAcknowledge your vulnerability and embrac...
Podcast #464
Confidence Affirmations that Actually Work
Affirmations can transform the way you think about yourself and your life. They are one of the most powerful thought-habits we can have to tap into next-level excellence, and even though most people know this, most people don't do affirmations effectively or consistently. Learn how to write your own affirmations and how to create an affirmation practice that actually works, and that you keep doing. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/464
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about….
Why Affirmations Work Affirmations to Stop Caring What People Think Affirmations for Body Confidence Affirmations for Those Who Are Too Hard on Themselves Affirmations for Dreaming Bigger How to Write Your Own Affirmations How to Make Your Affirmations Work for You
ANNOUNCEMENT:
My mentorship program, the College of Confidence, is where real change happens in your life.This month we're going deep on:Improving your internal self-talk.You'll also get access to our awesome live coaching this month, including:
Detoxing Stress-Inducing Self-Talk WorkshopHow to Talk to Yourself Effectively WorkshopQuick Win: How to Detox ComparisonOur newest course, Stopping the Cycle of Stress will be released on Monday, October 25th! Be sure to keep an eye on your inbox as there will be an email sent out with all the details the day it releases! The course will teach you why the stress cycle starts, how to disrupt it, and how to manage your mind, and your life to minimize the negative impact of stress on your happiness and confidence.
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
A true blessing. -itsbrazybaby Trish, words can't describe how thankful I am to have stumbled upon your podcast but I am incredibly blessed to have been led to hear your words of encouragement! After a very difficult breakup 4 months ago, I was searching for something to help the heartache and brokenness I was feeling. I listened to probably 15-20 different podcast that led me nowhere, until I found yours. You have COMPLETELY changed my life!!!! I've been taking steps and listening to all the great words of wisdom you share, I've noticed an amazing shift on my perspective of things and small daily situations that come up at work or in day to day situations. I catch myself course correcting and thinking "what would Trish do" again the way that you help me and everyone else who listens to you is priceless. Keep being awesome!!!
WHY AFFIRMATIONS WORK:
They set your mind on what you want to think for the day.They are your daily GPS, pointing you to where you want to go.They help you cut through the noise of the world.They challenge and overcome self-sabotaging or negative thoughts.They release you from fear, negativity, worry and anxiety. Evidence based research shows that affirmations, like prayer, actually rewrite the brain on a cellular level. Through repetition, affirmations reinforce an intention so deeply that it bypasses your conscious mind, and goes straight into your subconscious creating new neural pathways within your brain.
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AFFIRMATIONS TO HELP YOU GROW IN KEY AREAS:
Affirmations to Stop Caring What People Think:
I love being myself and when I am most myself, the quality people I want in my life are most deeply drawn to me.I embrace today with lightness and joy for the freedom I have to be myself, to pursue the things that make my heart come alive and to lead with authenticity in my life. I love not being chained or distracted by the burden of caring too much what people think; instead, I now have energy to just love people and love being myself at the same time.I release any attachment to people's opinions that have ruled in m...
Podcast #463
How to Do Conflict with Confidence
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we have a special guest, couples coach Marie Anderson, and we're talking about….
How to understand how to navigate conflict and communicate in a marriage. What does it mean to fight fair? The 4 things that trip up conflict dials
This woman is fundamentally one of the reasons my marriage is what it is. She raised her son to be interested in what it means to be a man of excellence, what it means to fight fair, how to love someone through deep hurt and with profound patience, and what it means to love well. REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Thank you. -Paulina_Nina You are amazing. I love you so much. Keep doing your best.
MARIE ANDERSON BIO
Marie works with couples who want to have a better relationshipIf this (communication and conflict) are where you are getting tripped up, she can help you. Contact Marie directly at:ktamta88@comcast.net
QUESTIONS FOR MARIE:
How did you get interested in conflict and relationships in the first place?In your work with couples, how do you recommend that people learn to navigate conflict and communicate in a marriage?What types of conflict are most common in relationships?Where do you see communication most often break down, and why? What are the communication mistakes most commonly made and why?What does it mean to fight fair?How do you keep a short list of offenses when you're frustrated, hurt and angry?What are the 4 things that trip up the conflict dials?
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QUESTIONS ON CONFLICT FROM MY COMMUNITY
But how do you encourage your partner to be motivated without seeming "naggy" or triggering conflict? Question: what do we do when our spouse spills the details of our conflicts with friends and family? I feel a betrayal of privacy and trust. And how do we get the other person to actually listen and hear us during disagreement? I'm not sure how to word this but basically how to be respectful, yet strong in your stance when the other person is adamant they are right and unwilling to budge. How do you work together when the other person isn't willing to.
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LISTENER OF THE WEEK:
Tatiana on IG You are definitely an inspiration! I love what you are doing. You have made such an impact in my life as well as many others!
Podcast #462 Confidence For When You Feel Different or Just Plain Discouraged
We live in a chaotic world filled with conflicting opinions everywhere you turn. In a world that is more connected than ever, we are more divided, more lonely, more isolated and more conflicted internally on standing strong in our own opinions, even when they are unpopular or simply opposed by those closest to us. This podcast goes into depth on how to stay confident in yourself, in your relationships and in your hope for the future when the evidence you have in front of you is that division is pressing and discouragement is around every turn. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
How to feel confident about the future when the future feels so discouragingCreating connection with others in a world of divisionThe secret to believing that life is different, but still good.
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Trish Blackwell Confidence Podcast - 5 Stars, A Will NC Trish - you never disappoint. I have been a listener for years, a member of your college, and we worked one-on-one, as well. I am on the edge of a big change at work and needed some extra confidence. I was feeling myself teeter into thinking about staying small instead of taking the risk and chasing my purpose .I needed several hours of you in my ear to straighten my backbone. Thank you for hanging with me all day. It started with the very timely assertive podcast, followed by your entire people pleaser course in the College of Confidence. I knew from our work together that I was beginning to give into other people's comfort and sacrificing my goals and my gifts. I am happy to say that I am forging ahead and will be having a tough, but needed conversation today, unapologetically, I might say, because other people's feelings are not my responsibility! Cheers to being me and being free. Thank you!!!!
THE QUESTION THAT PROMPTED TODAY'S EPISODE:
How do we appropriately "mourn"/bid farewell to life before 2020 and then still be filled with hope for life beyond it, beyond now? I keep getting so overwhelmed with feelings of will people always disagree? Will I ever travel again? Will my kids ever see the rest of the world? I know these are all "what ifs" and not at all productive. I also know that covid won't ever fully go away any time soon. So how do I find a peaceful reality affirmation that life is different but still good?
HOW TO STAY ENCOURAGED WHEN THE FUTURE FEELS DISCOURAGING
Thank you for this question. I too am having all of the thoughts, and here's how I'm exiting them from taking unnecessary space in my brain. I encourage myself that of ALL the years of the history of the world, God decided that I was best fit to live HERE, NOW, in 2020, 2021. I want to argue with this, but I trust His sovereignty and that makes me feel capable of standing strong in believing that yes, I AM WELL ABLE to not just survive these years and this transition of culture/life/limitations/pandemic, but to THRIVE in it. What our new "normal" looks like is going to be different, but I assure you, it will be good. Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time. You arrange your mind to be happy, you don’t wait for life’s circumstances to arrange themselves for you to be happy The happy brain is the person who experiences a happy life.A happy life doesn't happen because of the way normal looks like, the amount of travel we get to do or the circumstances in our lives. A happy brain is arranged to be happy. So, I can't arrange the future, but I can arrange my brain on how I want to think about the future, how I want to think about the past, and how I want to think about the present. If you're always holding onto what could have been, you'll completely miss what can be.I am determined to fix my focus not on what could have been, but instead on what can be and how I still believe with total crazy faith that the best is yet to come.
Podcast #461 How to Make People Like You More
Wanting people to like us is a part of being human, but sometimes a misplaced desire, or ineffective ability to connect with others creates inner insecurity. Get coached on the 3 basics on how to make people like you more, starting with first learning how to like yourself. When you master your focus on these 3 basics, you'll be more able to stop caring what people think and to have more social confidence when meeting new people and wanting them to like you. It's okay to have a desire to be more liked. Let's just go about it in a confident, courageous, authentic, and powerful way. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about ..
How to make people like you moreThe secret to not caring what people thinkHaving confidence when meeting new people (and wanting them to like you)
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
The Most Helpful Brain Training Podcast on the Internet.- 5 Stars (Kelsey Sis) This podcast came at the perfect time for me personally. I cannot recommend it enough and continue to tell all my friends (and counselor - had to give that plug because I know you read these and they are pro-therapy about it as well, Trish, I'm your biggest cheerleader right now!) Having grown up in the church and worked in ministry for several years alongside my husband (before pursuing alternative careers) I am realizing how ill equipped and uniformed I was on what it meant to "take my thoughts captive." That verse just always felt like a nice suggestion, certainly not something that was ever possible. Trish takes this verse and concept and through her podcast equips us with the tools and practices necessary to TRULY take our thoughts captive. Whether you consider yourself faith-based or not, this is the most practical podcast I have ever listened to when it comes to training our brains. I believe for me personally it's the faith aspect that's helped it click in a whole new level for me spiritually. So grateful you've pursued this calling. I'm signing up for Patreon as well - I'm all ears on any advice Trish has to offer. The real deal.
THANK YOU!!! Ya'll, Straighten Your Crown has hit a #1 Spot for New Releases on Amazon, and I have YOU to thank!!! You are royalty.What if you could experience the ups and downs of life with deep confidence and profound security? What if you felt so deeply loved that you stopped caring what people think of you, that you stopped second guessing yourself? What if you really walked with the dignity and grace of divine royalty? That's what Straighten Your Crown is all about. This book is the mirror that you have been looking for your whole life. It's a mirror that reflect how God sees you and the delight that He feels about you. You will see that you make Him smile. These pages will open new options to you. The option to say no to self-doubt. The option to choose your thoughts. The option to achieve anything you want. The option to believe that you are enough. As you read, each chapter will invite you to step fully into being God's daughter. You're the daughter of the King. The King's fingerprints of love and protection are evident in every area of your life, from the mountaintop moments to the darkest valley, and as you read, you will see His love for you shows up in ways you have never before considered. It's time to know what it feels like to be enough. It's time to know what life feels like without anxiety, without stress, and without self-doubt. It's time to stand tall with confidence and shine like the light you were created to be. It’s time to straighten your crown. Order 3+ copies of the book and you'll get an invite to my upcoming workshop, A Walk in Worthiness. Yes, there will be a beautiful, accompanying workbook to go along with it. Yes, it will be recorded and sent out to you afterward to watch and review whenever you want. Once you order 3+ copies, just email my team at book@trishblackwell.
Podcast #460 How to Be Confident in Uncertainty and with the Unknown Ahead
Life is filled with uncertainty and tons of unknowns, so learning how to stay confident in unpredictability is key to living with unshakeable confidence. Get a sneak peek into a chapter of my newest book, Straighten Your Crown, and how I have learned to embrace the unpredictability of life with an adventurous, open and light spirit, and how you can too. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, I'm giving you a sneak peak like I've never done before.
You'll hear one of my favorite chapters of my newest book Straighten Your Crown: Rediscovering that You are Seen, You Matter, and the King Delights in YouMy favorite thoughts that I go to when finding myself in a place of uncertaintyThe affirmations I use when I feel overwhelmed with the unknown or life that feels out of my control
SNEAK PEAK TO THE AUDIOBOOK
Chapter 6: Discovering Delight in the Unknown[INSERT IMAGE OF BOOK "BUY NOW" HERE and link to:https://www.amazon.com/Straighten-Your-Crown-Rediscovering-Delights/dp/0578943298/ref=sr_1_2?crid=9H7DZQLZ3ETY&dchild=1&keywords=straighten+your+crown+trish+blackwell&qid=1631396746&sr=8-2]
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Anointed, refreshing! 5-Stars -boisanadarapsan
I recently heard Trish read one of her one star reviews in which someone said that the podcast was "basic" and that Trish was not a psychologist so maybe she should not be teaching on these things. I could not disagree more. I am a marriage and family therapist, and even though I am a professional in the mental health field, I can tell you for a fact that Trish has amazingly FRESH insightful ways of presenting information that will change your life. It's not so much about education…don't get me wrong, it's important, sure - but I can tell you from being in the field in a formal capacity that the most likely predictor of someone actually changing/growing is the connection they have with the therapist, not how "trained" they are.
So when I relate that to Trish, the relationship we listeners have with her as a podcaster has so much to do with her God-given anointing in the way that she teaches and her God-given amazing personality!!! Some of the most influential and best teachers of all time had no formal training. When God anoints you, that is what matters!!! "God doesn't call the qualified, he qualifies the called.!" If God's hand is on you nothing is going to stop you and his hand is clearly on Trish. I adore your personality Trish, I am a faithful listener, you are so amazing and I learn from you all the time! Keep up the amazing calling God has put on your life. You are a blessing to so many, myself included! We love you. God bless you.
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What I love about it the most is that you can send a message to your counselor at anytime. You’ll get timely and thoughtful responses plus you can schedule weekly video or phone session.
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MY GO-TO INTENTIONAL THOUGHTS FOR UNCERTAINTY
Podcast #459 How to Be More Assertive
Assertive confidence will open doors in life you didn't know were accessible to you. But how do you learn how to be the type of assertive that will be well received instead of the type of assertive that comes off pushy, demanding or bossy? You'll find out exactly how to do just that in this episode of The Confidence Podcast.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
The relationship between fear, people pleasing, perfectionism and lack of assertivenessThe skill of being assertive, and how to learn it in a natural way for youWhy we aren't assertive enough, and what you're missing out on because of it (why you should want to be more assertive!)10 ways to practice the skill of being more assertive
OH MY GOSH. IN PERSON COACHING AGAIN.
My time with the NC State Wolfpack Women Swimmers & Divers and Wolfpack Women Gymnasts was absolutely incredible. It's been a week since I was with these rockstars from @packswimdive and @wolfpackgymanstics, and I'm still absolutely BUZZING with excitement about the season these women have ahead of them. These ladies are some of the top athletes in the country, and in the world. And last week then gave me their full focus, their total buy-in and their hearts for over 12 HOURS of workshop time with me. It was epic. I have a ridiculous amount of confidence in what this year holds for these swimmers, divers and gymnasts. They are more mentally primed and deeply confident in the belief of their future success --- I can't wait to watch them wow themselves this year and exceed even their own expectations. Thank you Wolfpack Women for the privilege of being your mindset coach and confidence coach. Here's to an amazing year ahead!!! In these workshop weekends I teach athletes how to use the power of words to their advantage to become better athletes, better teams and better individuals. In my workshops we work to unify the mind and body to work in perfect symmetry, ensuring that physical talent and training is also matched by mental resilience and a desire for mental excellence. If you and your team want to rise up to your highest potential, I would be privilege to work with you. DM me to see if I would be a good fit for your organization.
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
AMAZINGGG - 5 Stars, CWiphoneThis podcast is not just for helping your confidence, but has helped me get to know myself better and understand my subconscious better! Psychology is so interesting to me, and Trish does a great job of including psychology into her motivation. I absolutely love this podcast!!!
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My book releases in 3 days!!! Eekkkk!Will you help support it's success?Here's how you can help.
Preorder a copy. (www.trishblackwell.com/preorder)Purchase a copy or two for friends.Write a review on September 10th.Write a review.Write a review.
WHERE DO YOU WANT MORE ASSERTIVENESS?
Delegation at work.Distribution of work in the home.Boundaries with people in your life.Freedom from feeling like a burden, demanding, inconvenience.Assertiveness to be yourself unapologetically.Time management with your family (asking for what you want and need)Self-care prioritization with yourself.Saying no to people. Passive - Sure! I'd love to help.Aggressive - I'm tired of helping, sorry, you're going to have to do this by yourself.Assertive - I'm not going to be able to help at this time.
WHY YOU AREN'T ASSERTIVE
Fear of what people think.People pleasing.Perfectionism. Have you ever thought these things… I don’t want to be a burden.I don't want to bother them.I don't want to seem too demanding.I don't want to inconvenience anyone.I don’t want to be an imposition.I don't want to embarrass myself. When you don’t show up with confident assertiveness, you can end up… ResentfulBlamingDoing too muchDoing what you don't wantAccommodating everyone elseMissing outPaying moreBeing taken advantage ofMisunderstood
Podcast #458 Better Sleep, More Confidence
A better rested you is a better you. We all love sleep, but what if sleep is hard for you, or life circumstances are keeping you up at night, tossing and turning with anxiety and overthinking? Your relationship with your thoughts at night is within your control, and this is good news for anyone who wants more hours or more restful sleep. A well slept you is more emotionally and mentally sharp, and will show up in your life with more confidence and courage.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:
The relationship between sleep and confidence, and how to scale up both in your lifeWhy putting pressure on yourself to sleep better doesn't workHow to stop tossing and turning at night - 5 practical habits everyone should be doingWhat to say to yourself at night when you can't sleep and you're stressed about it
REMINDERS:
Ever just wish you could buy me a cup of coffee? Well, you can! That's what my Patreon page is for. You can support my free podcast work and help me cover the production costs of the show by being a $5/month Patreon. Just go to www.patreon.com/trishblackwell and I'll feel the love!
Ever wish you could access all 458 episodes of the show, but can only see the most recent 300 in your podcast app? Good news for you! You can listen to the ALL on my website. Just go to www.trishblackwell.com/podcasts
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Such a game changer in my life!
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I've been listening to this podcast for a few months now and it's made such an impact on my thought life and the way that I approach each day! I'm really working on my confidence and Trish is such a gifted communicator and incorporates God and her faith so well in each episode! I'm a young 22 year old and I’m growing so much by listening to your podcast every morning! Thank you for all you do!
THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN SLEEP AND CONFIDENCE
A well rested you is a fully alive you.
Starting the day on empty gives you a mental handicap.
The better you feel, the more courageous you will be.
Sleep helps us recover from mental and physical exertion.
Sleep helps our emotional load stay at more even keel.
Fatigue exaggerates emotional load.
WHY PUTTING PRESSURE ON YOURSELF TO SLEEP BETTER DOESN'T WORK
There are three things that can happen at night.
SleepRestRestlessness
Ideally, we would all want to always choose "sleep," but realistically, you sometimes can only choose your back up option. You get to pick two, and by picking two, you're eliminating one. You get more of what you focus on. If you are tossing and turning, and afraid of not getting a good nights sleep, you're focused on restlessness, and therefore you create a night of restlessness as a result.
5 HABITS TO PREVENT TOSSING & TURNING
Optimize your sleep hygiene (WLWB list for night?)Have a simple and specific nighttime routineTrigger your nighttime routine to startMake your bedroom inviting and screen freeEmpty your mind (journaling, prayer)
My WLWB for nighttime rest:
Small and extremely moderate alcohol intake, stop social media scrolling at 9PM, ice cold water before bed, kitchen clean, drinks ready for next day, schedule reviewed for next day, nighttime skin care routine, beautiful pajamas, clothes laid out for next day, 1 minute of stretching, linen spray, iPad reading.
WHAT TO SAY TO YOURSELF AT NIGHT WHEN YOU CAN'T SLEEP
Yay! This is an opportunity I didn't expect to get to manage my thoughts.I don't have to sleep to be rested.I choose sleep and rest, and I release restlessness.I'm alive, I'm grateful and I was awakened to pray for someone.Those thoughts that are racing in my mind? I give them permission to pause - they'll be taken care of in full tomorrow and it will all be okay.
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Podcast #457 How to Give Yourself Approval and Believe You're Good Enough
Not feeling good "enough" and always needing the affirmation, approval or acceptance of others can severely limit your ability to tap into your fullest potential and greatest amount of joy in life. This coaching explores how to give yourself approval, believe you're enough and trust your own decisions, even if you've struggled in the past with being a people-pleaser or with thriving on words of affirmation or on someone else telling you what to do. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:
How to break over-attachment to other people's affirmations, approvals and opinions, even if you're a words-of-affirmation-love-language-personLearning how to give yourself approval, trust yourself and be your own voice of encouragement … how to know you're on the right path when the path isn't visible or laid out by someone elseA list of affirmations you can use to speak life into yourself - the ones that will help you believe you are good enough and that will help you trust your own voice, intuition and innate, God-given potential
REVIEW OF THE WEEK
Awesome podcast - 5 stars
Trish's calming voice, relatable storytelling and spot-on advice has been SO helpful for me. I just started a new job within my company and the confidence and stop caring what people think specific episodes have been really beneficial to me. I love that she has so many episodes that I can glance through and take what I need for the day.
-SageSC
LET'S COACH!
The path is unknown.
Even if you think it's obvious for others, it never really is.
The acceptance of the unknown is an acceptance of our humanity.
It invites us into a life of faith, and confidence.
It challenges us to think with belief and active mental management.
We grow up in a very directional, progression-based environment. You complete first grade, you move to second grade. You advance your skill set in a sport, and you progress to the next level of mastery, training or competition. You graduate high school, and you move onto college.
And in many ways, this structure is excellence.
But in some ways, it handicaps our confidence in our own choices.
You have a path unique to you.
You get to learn how to trust the direction you choose to go.
Whichever direction I take, it will be awesome.
OVER-ATTACHMENT TO PEOPLE'S AFFIRMATION
I needed applause, affirmation - but this belief limited my full growth, my access to impenetrable peace and real freedom.
It's okay to be a words-of-affirmation person, and feel loved by compliments and affirmation; we all need that to some extent … but, we also have power when we learn how to give it to ourselves.
If you wait for others, then you'll get stuck in the performance/pressure cycle…or people-pleasing, and you'll get the affirmation you crave, but perhaps not for an area of life you want or care about.
Overly relying on other people's validation or direction removes you from your own natural ability to trust your own judgment.
GIVING YOURSELF APPROVAL
Yep, good job, me.
Yes, that's a good decision.
Yes, I've got this.
Sure, I can probably figure that out.
Absolutely, I'm growing and on my way.
We do this as young children, and so why did it lose it's luster?
We shout "I did it!" or "I can do it!" and yet we outgrow that as adults?
It became uncool at some point.
But what's more uncool than that, is the self-doubt that suffocates the real you from shining. The desperate need we all have within, hoping we are accepted, loved and noticed.
You don't have to wait for someone to notice you, you can notice yourself.
When you decide to think that you are amazing, you'll feel amazing.
When you feel amazing, you'll carry yourself amazingly.
And when you carry yourself amazingly, people notice.
Podcast #456 What to Do When There's No End in Sight
Overwhelm, whether it's in your personal life or your professional life, can derail your confidence, drown you in self-doubt and leave you feeling flailing for hope and purpose. In this coaching, you'll learn what to do when there's no end in sight. You'll learn how to stay filled with faith, how to have peace in your confidence, and how to think the right thoughts that will fill you with power and perseverance.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:
Overwhelm, and what to do when you feel burdened by it.How to have hope when there feels like there's no end in sight.The belief thoughts and self-talk that will help you neutralize overwhelm
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Diving ProvidenceOnetwobree Inspired scripture tells us clearly that the one true God has predetermined every moment of suffering and joy we will ever have, but it's always incredible when you can step back and say "Ohhhh, I see why you did that there." It's funny to me how fast I found Trish once I took a tiny step towards growth. God really odes open the door when you knock. Trish tackles the real things that go through our heads in such an authentic way, but then she brings it back to Christ. It's rare and refreshing to find a coaching podcast that is more than what it seems. I'm so grateful for you, Trish! Can't wait to read your new book! -Quick announcement, opening up my waiting list, so if the Fall is the time of the year you are looking for change, go to www.trishblackwell.com/coaching
OVERWHELM & WHAT TO DO WHEN BURDENED BY IT
Overwhelm is a feeling.It is a feeling we choose.It is brought on about our thoughts. I used to think "I'm overwhelmed, I just can't help it." Or, "I can't see an end in sight." But another point of consideration is: do you really need to see an end in sight to know that there's an end? Yes, I like knowing there's an end, but when my mind plays this game and needs proof, it's an invitation to expand my faith and my ability to callous and numb my mind to bounce back from the future moment and to stay in the present moment. Being overwhelmed feels like being flooded - it's an overload on the nervous system and brain by looking at things with a limited and small perspective, or from a place of exhaustion and hopelessness. Notice >>> It happens because we keep going without listening to ourselves (we aren't friends to ourselves … either not slowing down, not asking for help, or not creating better habits or boundaries) … and so we miss the signals that our body or our schedule has had enough. Types of 'no end in sight feelings' >>> financial seasons of struggle, sickness and never-ending bad news, weight loss or goals that take a long time, feeling stuck or in a dead end place in your life, anxiety and depression, email inbox or work projects, your parents expectations - or the expectations of the world for you to keep achieving… What you think on will multiple.Dwell on the bad news, and you'll feel the weight of it even more.Dwell on the hope within the bad, and you'll see pockets of peace and strength. A few mental techniques that might help: The Trampoline MethodBrain DumpToxic Thought ReframeSelf-Affirming Coaching Phrases (we'll get to those shortly)Being in a community for support (like the COC)
HOW TO HAVE HOPE WHEN THERE'S NO END IN SIGHT
Everything does end.We know this.We can't see everything.Keep perspective.Fight for hope.When everything is going wrong, find adventure in looking for what is going right.Get curious about how and where overwhelm shows up in your life.I've been working on reframing overwhelm for the past 5 years in my own thoughts, and I still have ways that it sneaks up on me. (For example, when I get sick, my brain has a habit of panicking and then I think that I will be sick forever.)Watch for language your brain likes to indulge in. Phrases like:It's just too much.It'll never end.
Podcast #455 Still Caring Too Much, Even Though You "Know Better?''
You "know better" to care so much what other people think about you, but you're still feeling stuck in the people-pleasing, perfectionistic, desire-to-be-liked thought loop? This podcast episode is for you! Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/455
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:
Exactly how to get out of the thought loop that is keeping you stuck7 critical things to remember to help you break this sloppy thought patternHow to find the place of mental power where "you can help it"
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ANNOUNCEMENT
I'll keep the story short.I wanted to be a cool mom, so I hopped on my 4-year-old son's skateboard.Insert cartoon image of someone flailing while slipping on a banana peel.And voila.I have a broken foot.For someone who loves to run, and runs between 35-55 miles per week, not being able to walk without pain, let alone run, is an adjustment.But a good one.I love the challenge of it.I love that God is inviting me into rest.I love that it's going to be a mental challenge, and I'm not going to back down from it.Remember, it's the challenges in our lives that make us into the people we become.That setback?If you look at it the right way, it's a beautiful thing.It's just the right thing that you've need to give you growth in an area you wouldn't have gotten otherwise.And so, this month, I rest.Which is a-okay with me, because behind the scenes here, I'm having an amazing month, with my foot elevated on my desk as I work.My newest book, Straighten Your Crown releases soon.Have you pre-ordered your copy yet?Don't forget that, when you do, you'll get a free audiobook copy.And, if you preorder 3+ copies, it gets even better.Anyone who preorders 3+ copies will get an invite to my upcoming live VIP Workshop on WORTHINESS .You're not going to want to miss this.Just click here to preorder. >>> www.trishblackwell.com/preorder
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
NEVER disappointed on a Tuesday!!!-Ashmccoy1234 I have been listening to Trish for a few months now. This time last year I was in a completely different head space. Trying to "get my life together" so my weeks were scattered with good habits and good intentioned but swamped with bad and destructive choices/habits. I was so in my head - I could not get out of my negative thoughts and feelings for the life of me. Trish has taught me it's not about the actions that go into "getting my life together" but the thought work behind the actions. One of my favorite lines taken from the show: "Your mind is your most valuable real estate and you decide what you build on it." I didn't realize I actually had control of what comes in and what goes out until I started listening to Trish. When I actually started training my brain I realized she was right: it is ALL in your head, and thank God for that because I have the power! I am not a victim! God has without a doubt used her in the process of my mental healing (Also we are enneagram wing sisters, I'm a 4w4 and she's a 3w4 so that's cool). Thank you so much, Trish!
HOW TO GET OUT OF THE "CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK" THOUGHT LOOP
Techniques:Specify the exact thought loop and the exit ramp.Give people permission to think differently than you do.Assume the best.You can pick any thought, take power back.Go for a net positive result, instead of net negative.Since we don't know what people are thinking, we can choose to think whatever we want to think. Those people who have RBF's? I used to be convinced they hated me. Now I like to assume they are just waiting for me to be friendly to them. I assume they admire my happiness, not that they're bothered by it, and even if they're bothered by it, I am okay with them not being okay with me.Some Thought Replacement Suggestions When In the Loop:I...
Podcast #454 The Courage to Believe in Possibility
Believing that change is possible in your life, or that you can actually create a life that you love takes emotional and mental courage. Too often we short sell ourselves, our potential and our impact in this world because we aren't daring to think big enough. This podcast episode will help you understand the deeper reasons why you are holding yourself back, and, more importantly, how to start thinking differently.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:
How to know what's possible for youHow to believe in what's actually possible and available to youHow to start seeing what you thought was impossible become possible
If you truly believed you could have something in your life, you would go after it.
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
You are amazing Trish, thank you!!!Sophia71411 Your podcast has given me so much hope and guidance. The cards I was dealt as a child were rough, this caused me to go into a survival mode during the years that were supposed to form me into the person I am. With that being said now I am 22 and with the guidance of God and my loved ones I have reached so many goals. But when I look in the mirror I have no idea who I am, I've never asked myself what I want or who I truly am. You are forcing me to become real and raw with myself. I am so happy I have you to help guide me in this journey of finding myself, I look forward to listening to you every day and you are truly sunshine. Thank you x 1 million!!! ((( Wiggle hugs )))
HOW TO KNOW WHAT'S ACTUALLY POSSIBLE FOR YOU:
Anything is possible.The results in your life are a reflection of the thoughts in your brain.You can achieve anything that matters enough to you.Giving yourself permission to want something takes courage.One of the hardest questions to answer is this:What is it that you really want?You know deep down, but telling others, or admitting that you really, really want it, takes courage.Courage takes guts.It's showing up and not knowing how the outcome will be, but being willing to show up anyways.We all have it within us, but it's your choice to light up the fire within.
And when you do, life unleashes.Question to think about:What have you decided isn't possible that you really want?Is it actually impossible? Why or why not?
HOW TO BELIEVE THAT POSSIBILITY IS AVAILABLE TO YOU:
Let's talk about the courage to believe in possibility.Why don't we do it?
Fear of disappointmentUnwillingness to be embarrassedSelf-consciousness and fixed thinkingWe think it's supposed to be easySometimes we stop ourselves because we don't yet know our future selvesWe fear it might be too much to handle
What is possible when we open up to have the courage to believe in possibility?Spend time curating and befriending your future self.-I'm conversational with my 20-minute future self-I'm respectful of and excited for my 20-year future selfEnvision, describe, aspire, and try on the role so that the future version of you is more than a fantasy and is someone you can trust. You are trustworthy of the success ahead of you, even if you don't feel capable of handling it right now.
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Podcast #453 Why You're Not Doing What You Want to Do
Not doing what you say you want to do is one of the most frustrating patterns that is easy to fall into and will perpetuate low self-esteem and stagnancy. Be kind to yourself though! This isn't an issue of lacking discipline, laziness or not caring - it's a belief issue, and in this episode of The Confidence Podcast you'll learn exactly what you can do to break the cycle. It's time to be a person of absolute self-integrity who always keeps their promises to themselves.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
The 3 main reasons keeping you stuck and holding you back and resulting in your feeling like you're a person who doesn't do what you want to toHow to really decide and commit to doing what you say you want to do5 things you can do right now to start being someone who does what they say they're going to do
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Pixelover4487 Hiii - 5 stars I'm loving this podcast and I'm a guy. I struggle with anxiety and no confidence and I can't stop listening. Thank youuuuuuu.
WHY NOT DOING WHAT YOU WANT TO DO IS TOXIC
It breaks your integrity with yourself.It creates an atmosphere of self-doubt and hesitation.It imposes self-limitations that actually don't exist.It convinces you that things are harder to achieve than they actually are.It sabotages your confidence and courage.It discourages you and disappoints your self-concept.It invites you to play small and justifies a "I can't help it" victim mentality
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YOU HAVEN'T REALLY DECIDED TO DO IT
Sure, you think you have.But deciding to do something means that you're committed completely - anticipating the challenges, the resistance, the times when you aren't going to feel like it.You haven't created a plan for the days when it sucks. You can commit to self-doubt, or you can commit to your goal – you can’t do both.The emotion of confusion is keeping you in doubt.
YOU DON'T REALLY BELIEVE YOU CAN DO IT
You're burdened and bogged down by the evidence of the past and you're misinterpreting it. Instead of seeing it as an example of how not to do it, or a way you have grown and learned doesn't work, you see it as a limitation and prediction of what is possible in the future. “It’s never worked out before” is the one thought that keeps us from our potential. It drags our past into our present unnecessarilyEverything in the future should be something you’ve never done in the pastIt's time to create and foster new belief.Belief creation comes from intentional thought creation.I have a course on this in the College of Confidence, but for now, here's what you need to know:
Decide what you want to believe.Write down a thought - or list of thoughts - that bridge the way to that belief.Repeat these daily.Catch and substitute every thought that doesn’t align with your new belief.Track the evidence of how you are changing on the inside out.
YOU HAVE CONVINCED YOURSELF IT WILL BE TOO HARD
And therefore it doesn't feel worth the effort. It's not too hard.
Podcast #452 Confidence For Physical Intimacy
You're not alone in feeling insecure about how you engage and interact with others physically. But there's no reason to stay stuck in this avoidance of or minimization of physical intimacy. No matter your background with others or with yourself, you can learn how to safely and comfortably connect with yourself and others with confidence in a physical way. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/452
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
· Physical intimacy blocks and how your lack of confidence might be hindering your overall confidence and connection with others
· How to have more body confidence and self-intimacy so that your physical intimacy with others - both platonically and romantically improves
· 5 techniques to proactively improve your confidence in physical intimacy in your romantic relationship
REVIEW OF THE WEEK
Holly Sexton 5-Stars, Not only and…
This is the podcast for you if you need help in ANYTHING!
Not only is it faith-based, and for entrepreneurs, and for moms, and for anyone dealing with diet issues, Trish hits all topics! When I don't even think I need to listen to that episode, I still get something from it!
WHAT'S BLOCKING YOUR INTIMACY?.
Past sexual trauma or abuse
Distrust of others
Body dysmorphia
Identity misalignment
Preferences (lots of physical touch or not)
Blocked intimacy means that you might…
Avoid dating because you don't want to have to be physical
Sabotage relationships to hide yourself
Body shame yourself and heighten your self-critical voice to create physical change
Overdrink or use substances to help you not overthink
Minimize social situations where hugs or interaction make you uncomfortable
Stand with guarded and closed off body language
Hinder the openness and deep intimacy of allowing yourself to be known by your spouse
Undereating or protocol to allow yourself to be worthy of receiving touch
Never get self-care like massages or pedicures
PHYSICAL INTIMACY WITH YOURSELF
Stretching
Hugging
Touching
Massaging
Allowing yourself to have self-care
Lotion
Skin care routine
Intimate understanding of food that feels good on the inside
Intimate conversations with yourself
Challenge:
Write your future self a love note at night for the next day.
Learn to be friends with yourself means learning to come from a place of love.
Love is the most powerful emotion we can be in; it opens up our creativity, our confidence and our connection.
What you feel yourself with you have to continue using - fuel with love not self-criticism. Criticism and pressure is heavy and forced, love is light, airy, easy and exciting
PLATONIC AND FAMILIAL INTIMACY
Hugs, touch.
Family background.
Understanding your affection preferences
Communicating to others your preferences
-I'm not a hugger, I love hugs, come - sit closer, etc.
ROMANTIC INTIMACY
Allowing someone to be with you fully, without numbing yourself or hiding anything, opens you to true connection and deep intimacy.
You have to decide to allow yourself to be known.
Physical intimacy isn't going to give you physical confidence if you don't already have it --- physical intimacy grounds your confidence and your hard wiring to connect deeply with another human being at your base level.
Methods to improve your confidence in physical intimacy:
1. Spend more intentional time naked by yourself
2. Thank your body for how it looks and compliment it
3. Practice proactively escorting out negative thoughts - unwanted guests for when your mind wanders - refuse to allow your intimacy experience to be cheapened by your trash thoughts.
4. Speak openly with your spouse and experiment with a variety of physical intimacy that isn't sexual.
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Podcast #451 Black and White Thinking is Hurting Your Confidence
Black and white thinking, or all or nothing thinking, is a thought strategy often used by highly driven people that actually stunts progress, deteriorates happiness and limits potential. If you have ever described yourself as an "all or nothing" person or as a "black and white" thinker, this podcast coaching is for you. It will help you with the steps to take on how to get out of the black and white thinking loop and how to have more mental flexibility and self-kindness in the process. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/451
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
· How black/white and all-or-nothing thinking shows up in driven people and why we cling to it like a security blanket when it's really suffocating us
· The process to disassociate this type of thinking from your identity
· How to become a flexible, happy thinker
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Confidence and Wisdom - 5 Stars
I am forever thankful for Trish's passion, for helping me help myself by understanding that loving myself means taking care of the thoughts I create and pay attention to on a daily basis.
Trish, I love that you see emotional self-care and self-reflection as a daily practice, much like brushing our teeth. Part of my work is with inpatient Psychiatric patients dealing with sever depression, and oftentimes I hear myself quoting your "brushing teeth" analogy to help them understand that taking care of our mental health is something that should be practiced every day, like brushing teeth. Trish, thank you for helping me find the confidence I have been searching for year, I cannot wait for what the future holds. Sincerely, Cinthya Mena, PA-C
(CinthyaMena)
BLACK & WHITE THINKING / ALL-OR-NOTHING IS FOR THE BIRDS
Chances are, if you're driven, you've tapped into extreme thinking. As a result, you get results in some ways, and then get addicted to the method that you thought got you the results. But, you got the results from clean thinking - not the flawed thinking of black and white.
I held onto black and white thinking for way too long because I misidentified where my results came from, and I didn't trust myself or my natural drive.
Your thoughts are what create your results in life --- not your extreme control or categorization of things.
Just because you have a natural inclination or preference to think this way doesn't mean that it's hard-wired into you. :)
My black and white thinking -kept me stuck in my eating disorder longer -slowed my business growth with narrow focus on the "how" of the right way versus the wrong way -put me into a place of judgment of others instead of love and grace -created an internal state of self-criticism and unrealistic, non-human expectations -drove me to a place of trying to prove myself and absolute exhaustion.
How is it hurting your confidence? -Keeping you limited in a one-dimensional type of thinking? -Making you obsess about doing things a certain way? -Having unreasonable standards for others? -Driving you to extremes; pendulum of intensity vs. passivity -Convincing you to not even start? -Addicting you to external affirmation / being the best? -Plunging you into scarcity thinking and comparison? -Creating a mental atmosphere of hyper-criticism and extremism SPONSORSHIP NOTE: BETTERHELP
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Bonus Podcast How to Create Real Change In Your Life
The second half of 2021 can be better than your first half. This podcast episode will help guarantee that you actually believe in yourself and achieve whatever you dare to dream is possible for yourself in the next 6 months. Join us July 12-16th, 2021 for CREATE CHANGE WEEK. Space is limited; this is the week that turn the rest of your year around completely. Save your spot at www.trishblackwell.com/createchange
Today, we’re going to project how we want to feel, and move into our goals from a place of love and confidence, not pressure and drive.
Whatever fuel you use is the fuel you’ll have to continue to use.
That might be why you ran out of gas halfway through the year.
It’s hard to keep being so driven, so focused; it feels heavy, and important, and exhausting.
What if it could be easier?
Think for a minute about the wildest thing you can imagine achieving in the second half of the year.
And now write it out and say “I’m doing __________________ with ease and excitement.
You won’t run out of love to fuel your progress if you approach your goal with the confidence strategy I’ll be teaching July 12-July 16 in Create Change Week.
What is a Confidence Strategy?
It’s a strategy of faith.
Victory always comes from faith, from the belief and certainty (or confidence) in that which you cannot see.
For every child of God defeats this evil world and we achieve this victory through our faith.
-1 John 5:4
Victory in all things comes from faith.
So, suspend all doubt with me for a minute.
· What do you really want?
· Why do you want it?
· What has prevented you from reaching it?
· What are you willing to do differently?
When I am discouraged, and stuck in inflexible thinking, I have to force myself to remember that “nothing has gone wrong here.” The opposite is true, actually. Everything is going according to plan and I am gaining the information of what strategies aren’t effective so that I can find the ones that are.
Most people don’t reach their goals because they don’t believe they can, and since they don’t believe they can, they give up too early.
It’s time to believe you can.
It’s not just work that will take you where you want to go. It’s work PLUS belief.
Without belief, hard work is just hard work.
Sure, you’ll get some results, but not big ones.
Big results come from big belief, paired with consistent, smart work.
The Confidence Strategy I will be teaching July 12-July 16th will help.
Now, let’s play a game. It’s December 31, 2021.
You’ve blown your own mind and achieved that thing.
It’s amazing.
You feel amazing.
What exactly are you feeling?
More importantly than that, what is the thought that you think when you find out you did it?
-You checked your bank account, and you’ve doubled your income
-You verified the total amount of debt paid off, and you did it
-You reflect on the new dream job you have, and you love waking up on Mondays
-You step on the scale and see the number you’ve worked for and believed in
-You finished the final paragraph on that book you’ve spent years talking about
-You pressed publish on that website and now are seeing yourself with limitless future
How is this version of you on December 31, 2021 different than the version of you right now, today?
JOIN US FOR "CREATE CHANGE WEEK"
July 12th-16th
Create Change Week is for anyone who wants the 2nd half of 2021 to be better than the first half.
Think back on your 2021 goals.
How are they going? Are you halfway there or are you off-track?
That's why I created CREATE CHANGE WEEK.
Do you want
-more progress on your physical transformation
-more income in your business
-more connection with your spouse
-more freedom from a habit that's keeping you stuck
-more belief in your wildest dreams
Podcast #450 How to Stop Feeling Awful About Yourself
Beating yourself up, or indulging in the emotion of feeling awful about yourself, when you're not where you want to be isn't effective. It's not a helpful thought pattern, and yet, we find ourselves in places of despair. Despair drives us to desperation, depression and disillusionment. It morphs our ability to see where we are, how well we are actually doing, and intimidates us on how far we have to yet go. This podcast episode covers how to break the cycle of self-criticism so that you can start feeling encouraged, hopeful and like you like who you are again. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/450
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
· Indulgent emotions, and how to know when you need to really take control of them (and how to do just that)
· A 3-step, simple process to help you stop feeling awful about yourself, whatever the situation is
· How to stop believing that you're stuck or will always feel this way … and some specific thought substitution examples for you to try on in your own brain
REVIEW OF THE WEEK
Awesomeness - 5 stars
Hooked oof of the first episode I heard on self-criticism! Felt like she knew me personally … and she's faith based!!!
(brenelso)
INDULGENT EMOTIONS AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT THEM
Indulgent emotions are emotions that keep you stagnating in a place of self-pity and powerlessness.
For me, these emotions were
-self-hated
-disappointment (most notably in myself)
-disgust (most notably about my body)
-hopelessness (most notably about my progress)
-confusion
Recognize that you are in power.
You are choosing to indulge your toddler, dramatic brain.
The more you indulge it, the more convincing, and a monster it becomes.
Put the toddler in the corner.
Remember that you have a bigger perspective than the thought.
Decide to not give into the dramatization or catastrophizing … and that all of the narratives you have created about what other people are thinking about you are just not happening.
HOW TO REALLY NOT BELIEVE YOU'RE STUCK
I've been in places of awfulness.
1. Body dysmorphia, insecurity and eating disorder.
2. Financial rock bottom and hopelessness / powerlessness
3. Hustle mindset and entrepreneurial comparison.
Most importantly: stand firm against the pitiful thought … "I'm stuck".
How to Not Believe You're Stuck?
Believe in the compound effect.
Take your thought management seriously.
Credit yourself for the new tools you have.
Acknowledge your dissatisfaction with stagnancy.
Remember you can create anything.
Success leaves clues - keep yourself inspired.
Take your commitments and plans with yourself seriously - be of integrity.
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Podcast #448 Tips for Social Awkwardness to Help You Be Yourself
Everyone experiences social awkwardness; it's what you do when you're experiencing it that determines whether or not it will mess with your confidence and with how you come off to others. This podcast episode will coach you to a place of confidence for the next time you find yourself in a socially awkward situation, wishing that you could stick your foot in your mouth, or just generally wishing you were cooler when in social situations. You are not alone, and these tips and this confidence coaching will help. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/448
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about
. Social awkwardness, and how it manifests in your life· 10 instant ways to be less awkward· How to be yourself when you're feeling the pressure of social overthinking You don't need to beat yourself up about being socially awkward or keep wondering how to be less awkward, here are 10 instant ways that will help you feel more confident and cool in social settings. Social awkwardness is something everyone feels, whether you feel social insecurity, you find yourself overthinking conversations, you feel like you don't have any friends, you feel like you don't fit in, you think that no one really likes you, or you find yourself putting your foot in your mouth and saying the wrong thing all the time, these confidence tips will help you chill out and feel more okay. In this episode you'll learn how to create you own social confidence and you'll get coached on how to be patient learning how to create the social life you want.
THANK YOU: PATRONS
Just some special love and deep gratitude your way for how you support the show. You are a small and mighty group and each and every one of your contributions feels like a big, warm, wiggle hug. Thank you. Want to be part of the people who help keep this show going? Consider becoming a patron. Just go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
"Confidence Boost and a God send," by laurabj1 I have been listening to your podcast for seven months now. I found you on Keep the Faith website. I saw your Detox Fear program. That helped me a lot and then I saw your podcast. Your podcast helped me with my confidence and is still helping me. It also helped me with my self esteem. I like that it's faith based too. I know God better in the last seven months, I know He is helping me still. Thanks for everything you do.
SOCIAL AWKWARDNESS: HOW IT MANIFEST IN YOUR LIFE
Simple social situations:Avoidance of themDisrupted social potentialNegative self-talk and insecurity (lack of belonging)Disengagement from confident body languageComes off as disinterested in others or RBFIntense feelings of anxiety of fear in social situationsIntimidation and fear of speaking to another personRambling conversations - unable to stop talkingOverdrinking or overeating or over-scrolling Obsessing over every word that comes out of your mouth Relationships and FriendshipsAvoidance of conflictLack of depthPerpetuation of people pleasingSocial overthinkingPeer pressure Obsessing over every conversation you haveFeeling like you are being judged during conversationsNot pursuing expressing yourself or your interestsLack of meaningful conversations with others
10 INSTANT WAYS TO BE LESS AWKWARD
1. Stand with confidence.2. Walk with confidence.3. Make eye contact.4. Own your space.5. Say hello.6. Start conversations and be interested in people.7. Leave when you want.8. Know what you bring. (Know yourself; do you bring humor, a listening ear, etc.)9. Be yourself.10. Remember that everyone is awkward. Face awkwardness head on.Practice interacting with others.Put yourself in situations to stretch your comfort zone. Play around with your voice inflections, and your transition statements.
Podcast #447 Career Confidence: How to Have More of It, No Matter What Type of Work You Do
How you think about your work directly impacts the confidence with which you show up for it. The more career confidence you have, the more opportunities you will create. The reality is that most of us feel stuck, dissatisfied or overwhelmed with work and end up not showing up as our best selves. Your work takes of 1/3 of your life, the level of confidence you have in it has a profound effect on the confidence you carry into other areas of your life. This episode will boost your career confidence, whatever type of career you have. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/447
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:
· The reasons we struggle with confidence in the workplace
· The key to career confidence, whether you work a 9-5, own a company, are a stay-at-home mom, or have your own online brand
· 10 ways you can appear to be the most confident people in your field
REVIEW OF THE WEEK
Djosephine - 5stars
Trish speaks to my soul! In every podcast, she says something that resonates with me that I have to pause the show and reflect. I always walk away from her podcasts filled with positivity and encouragement. I highly recommend her podcast.
REASONS WE STRUGGLE WITH CONFIDENCE IN THE WORKPLACE
Traditional Careers:
We wait to be discovered.
We label environments "toxic" too quickly and don't manage our minds.
We settle for less than what we want.
We get pulled into complaint culture.
We buy into the separation of departments and forget the value we bring.
We don't commit to being the best employee in the building.
We forget to ask for what we want.
We play smaller than we need to.
We care too much what people think.
We second-guess our career choice and live in the past.
We fantasize about other workplaces and companies.
We don't ask for new opportunity or increased pay.
We think we can't be ourselves.
We want the group to like us and we get distracted by things that don't matter.
We lose sight of the value of the work we do, even if in thankless or unnoticed tasks.
We allow self-pity to keep our attitudes from being excellent.
Entrepreneur Careers:
We try to copy what everyone else is doing.
We put too much attention in social media instead of email nurturing.
We obsess over the product instead of mastering the offer.
We personalize rejection and want success to be easy.
We compare our step 10 with someone else's step 100.
We measure our worth by our income and get too in the weeds of the numbers.
We don't set our beliefs with focused intention.
We aren't hyper-focused on creating change for our customers - it becomes too much about us.
We get distracted by new courses, strategies and learning.
We see the green grass of other methods and forget to water our own.
We think of our industry as competition instead of proof of concept.
We get small-minded and scarcity-focused (there are more than enough people to serve)
We are afraid to charge for the result we offer people.
We pretend to be perfect and are afraid of being human / real.
We put too much emphasis on our website / looks instead of on creating connection.
We believe the vanity metrics of other people's success.
We haven't actually set work hours and boundaries.
We don't really even know what "success" means to us.
We go it on our own, without a coach.
THE KEY TO CAREER CONFIDENCE
Have joy in how you contribute through what you do and how you grow daily in the process of doing the ordinary in extraordinary ways.
Every life shift begins with a mind shift --- > lift your mind to carry yourself with more confidence and commitment in your work, and your career will open opportunities you didn't even know were there.
Contribution: gives purpose.
Podcast #446 How To Find Yourself and Your Confidence
The need to find yourself, to figure yourself out, to learn to love yourself and how to figure out who you are is part of the journey of being a human committed to self-improvement and positive personal development. This video will teach you how to find yourself again when you feel lost, how to find yourself and redefine yourself after a relationship and how to become the person you want to be in the process. You'll learn 3 simple ways to rediscover who you are, how to know who you are, how to like yourself and how losing yourself will actually help you really find yourself.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:
· How to rediscover who you are if you feel lost, uncertain or rock bottom
· 10 reflective questions to help you figure out who you really are
· How to get an aerial view and understanding of where you are and where you want to go
· 3 strategies on how to start the process of finding yourself again
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Hi Ms. Blackwell -
I connected to you on Instagram because I regularly listen to The Confidence Podcast on Google for post of the last year. I know you say at the beginning of each episode that it's made to help women, but your messages have been helping me immensely in my goal of being confident in myself and I thank you for being part of the journey.
A thousand thank you's for helping to create the roadmap in my journey to define the person that I want to become.
Michael
ASK CHALLENGE - 30 DAYS OF ASKING
The Art of Asking.
Buckle up for a month of coaching that will scale your confidence for sure!
June is "Ask Month."
Yep, together, we are going to master the art of asking. Because, remember, you don't get in life what you hope for, or even what you deserve, you get what you are confident enough to ask for.
This applies even in your own self-asking and self-reflection. How you ask yourself what you want from life will determine how you design your life and ultimately live it out.
Asking is a powerful thing, but too many of us tip-toe around it. And we end up missing out on what is actually available to us.
I'll be doing some spot coaching throughout the month on the "art of asking," and will be doing it in multiple contexts - relationships, financial, career, sales, and more. Get excited because the more you practice asking, the better you will be at it.
Together, we're practicing 30-Days of Asking with our 30-Day Ask Challenge.
Get involved at www.collegeofconfidence.com
First: know this: you are not stuck where you are standing.
WHERE ARE YOU, HOW DID YOU GET HERE, WHERE DO YOU WANT TO GO?
I. When did you lose yourself?
II. Who's voice got you lost?
III. What narrative have you used to keep yourself there?
10 Questions to Help You Figure Out Who You Are
1. What do people often tell me about me?
2. What things do I enjoy doing?
3. What interests capture my curiosity?
4. Who am I not?
5. Who do I want to be?
6. How do I want to be remembered?
7. What difference do I want to make with my life in this world?
8. What is the best compliment people could ever say about me?
9. What type of work makes my heart come alive?
10. If I could create anything with my life, what would that be?
5 Resources in the College of Confidence on this topic
1. How to Know Your Purpose
2. How to Know Who You Are and What You Want
3. Getting Beyond Overwhelm
4. Transforming Your Trials into Triumphs
5. How to Train Your Thoughts
The framework of confidence --- simple and accessible --- take my new course. How to Exude Confidence. It's free. And it's for you. (Don't worry, are you already a COC member, this course is now posted in our Courses section for your instant access as well).
Podcast #445 Talking Back to Your "What If's"
If you have ever worried about backsliding in life, things not working out or that the good things in your life are too good to be true, this podcast episode is for you. In it you'll learn the how to talk back to your "what if's" and how to stay positive about being able to design your life, trust God's goodness and look at life as an adventure to be explored.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
· What your "what if's" are really saying about your thoughts
· How to reframe your negative and fearful "what if's" into positive and powerful ones
· Intentional thought creation and belief curation and affirmation
· How to trust what you've learned and how you have grown
· Believing in the decisions you make and have made
ANNOUNCEMENT
The Art of Asking.
Buckle up for a month of coaching that will scale your confidence for sure!
June is "Ask Month."
Yep, together, we are going to master the art of asking. Because, remember, you don't get in life what you hope for, or even what you deserve, you get what you are confident enough to ask for.
This applies even in your own self-asking and self-reflection. How you ask yourself what you want from life will determine how you design your life and ultimately live it out.
Asking is a powerful thing, but too many of us tip-toe around it. And we end up missing out on what is actually available to us.
I'll be doing some spot coaching throughout the month on the "art of asking," and will be doing it in multiple contexts - relationships, financial, career, sales, and more. Get excited because the more you practice asking, the better you will be at it.
Together, we're practicing 30-Days of Asking with our 30-Day Ask Challenge.
Get involved at www.collegeofconfidence.com
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Absolutely Love It - 5 Stars, by lizardexum
Trish's podcast is the best addition to my day. I found myself falling in love with her podcasts after the first 5 minutes with her inviting attitude and love for Jesus. Since then I have binge listened to so many of her episodes. They bring me so much joy and have helped in my own struggles with confidence. I recommend this podcast to anyone looing for a dose of confidence or just something to brighten their day.
STEP ONE: Reframe the "what if" into what it really is > a direct, fearful thought.
1. Turn the what if into a thought.
2. Ask yourself if that thought serves you.
3. Pick a new thought that you want to make serve you instead.
Let's play a game of "positive what if's."
How does it work, you ask?
For every negative "what if" is holding you back, I want you to pause, and write down the ultimate positive example of what COULD happen. I'm talking, best-case-scenario, most optimistic, intentional thought belief you can think.
Most of the time our negative "what ifs" are costing us more than we possibly realize. It's time to break the pattern.
So tell me, how are you going to turn a negative "what if" into a positive one today?
Samples:
What if this doesn't work? = This might not work.
What if I can't keep this up? = I don't think I can do this.
What if I go back to how I used to be? = I don't really believe I have changed.
What if no one reads my book? = What I say doesn't matter.
What if they hurt me? = I want to avoid all possibility of any negative pain.
What if I end up alone? = No one really enjoys me and I might never really connect with others.
STEP TWO: Affirm that everything is actually working.
1. Quit convincing yourself that worry works - it's a time waste and you do have power over it.
2. Practice your intentional thought creation and belief curation.
3. Commit to unwaveringly believing until you see.
4. Remember - it's actually perceived to be "safer" to prepare ourselves by focu...
Podcast #444 Healing Your Confidence After Abuse or Trauma
Healing your confidence after abuse or trauma is something not often talked about, but widely needed. If you have experienced abuse or trauma, and your confidence can be rebuilt. Reestablishing a new self-concept, healthy boundaries and new thoughts about yourself and about those you can or cannot trust in your life will take time, but will change your life for the better. This episode shares some effective tools that will help you in the process. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/444
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're chatting about:
· How to reestablish confidence in yourself when you feel like a shell of a person· What tools helped me find myself again and trust after abuse and trauma· The key to creating joy and trust in your future relationships
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Thank you Trish - 5 stars, DaisieH I came across this podcast a couple months ago and I listen to about 5 a week now. I needed a good confidence boost so I searched "confidence" and am so grateful to have found your podcast. I newly struggle with breakouts and it's crazy because I can be confident in every part of me but when I experience a bad breakout, my confidence goes down in every aspect. You have helped me because now I do things like look in the mirror and smile, and focus on the thing I do like instead of the things I don’t. You have also helped me to renew my relationship with God which I desperately needed. Thank you for your encouraging words and I love your soothing voice. Also the ones where you talk to your daughter as so adorable and she's so lucky to have a mom with your words of wisdom. Thank you for what you do. Your book is on my books to read list. :)
THANK YOU: PATRONS
Just some special love and deep gratitude your way for how you support the show. You are a small and mighty group and each and every one of your contributions feels like a big, warm, wiggle hug. Thank you. Want to be part of the people who help keep this show going? Consider becoming a patron. Just go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast
HEALING YOUR CONFIDENCE AFTER ABUSE OR TRAUMA IS POSSIBLE
Listener topic request:
Would you be able to do an episode on your past abusive relationship and what you learned from how you healed and the joy you have in your relationship with Brandon now? (Rachel)
I've been a listener of The Confidence Podcast for about a year now, and you have no idea how much your words have positively impacted my self esteem. I always look forward to Tuesdays when I get to hear the radiant message you get to share with the world. As a graduate student, I easily let my self-worth depend on my work or school-related accomplishments, and your podcast has helped me realize that I am worthy because of WHO I am, regardless of WHAT I do. I am working on my self confidence every day, and building my sense of self piece by piece. Thank you for all that you do! You are such a light in my life.
TOOLS THAT REBUILT MY CONFIDENCE AFTER ABUSE
o The Nick and Joanie Experience (Take the challenge yourself - listen to episode #431: How to See Yourself Differently Than You Do)
o Victim vs. Victorious.
o Coaching and Personal Development
TOOLS THE REBUILT MY CONFIDENCE AFTER TRAUMA
1. Therapy. > Supportive space to bring the darkness into the light.
2. Writing. > Prayers, Journals, Books.
3. Kindness. > Self-compassion.
4. EMDR. > The courage to relive and process the trauma.
5. Boundaries. > Mental and physical standards for myself
6. Decisions. > Intentional thought creation.
THE KEY TO CREATING JOY AND TRUST IN YOUR FUTURE RELATIONSHIPS
1. I decided to believe that there are good people.
2. I decided to be emotionally courageous and open.
3. I decided to communicate fully.
4.
Podcast #443
HOW TO BE HAPPY ABOUT AGING
Positive aging and pro-age confidence is an important element of self-confidence that everyone should work on, no matter what age they are. Aging is an inevitable part of the journey of life, but it doesn't have to be negative, as so much of culture and society tries to convince us that it is. This podcast episode explores the relationship between your thoughts about aging and actually aging with more confidence and beauty, and how to start liking yourself right now at the age that you are. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/443 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're chatting about:
· How to be happy about aging --- believing your life will improve as you go· 10 reasons I'm thankful to be turning one year older … and the last chance birthday gift I have from me to you· My favorite positive aging / pro-aging affirmations that you can steal from me REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Totally Needed! -Tish MarieI received a text from another famous entrepreneur and he is a guy and I just clicked his link and accidentally hit Trish's podcast. I stopped listening to him and didn't finish and OMG her message what was I needed and hooked me!
PRE-ORDER BOOK ANNOUNCEMENT!!!
Straighten Your Crown
REDISCOVERING THAT YOU ARE SEEN, YOU MATTER AND THE KING DELIGHTS IN YOU
Here's what you'll discover as you read Straighten Your Crown:· Why you've struggled with believing in your worthiness … and no, it's not because you aren't at the weight you want!· Why it's absolutely possible to stop playing small with your life even if you still struggle with self-doubt and direction.· How to start seeing God show up in your daily life - and how He doesn't simply love you, but rather deeply delights in the details of your day.· An eye-opening journey into seeing God's delight for you express itself in the unlikeliest of places, even in heartache, suffering, anxiety and places that feel like dead ends in your life. · How to live with more confidence, peace, power and joy, really believing that you are a daughter of the King of Kings, and how this plays out in your real day-to-day life. · Why you're stuck in the cycle of perfectionism, proving yourself and stress, and how to let go, stop striving and really own the identity of being a worthy, perfectly loved child of God.THINK YOU'RE NOT CAPABLE OF BEING CONFIDENT?This Book Will Teach You How.It starts with actually believing that God loves you. And that you have purpose.Order the book. Read it. Listen to it. And then ditch theself-doubt and go be light in this world. Preorder now at www.trishblackwell.com/book or www.trishblackwell.com/preorder ________________________ Here's what you need to know: I. If you pre-order now, you'll get a free audiobook copy. II. If you pre-order 3+ copies, you'll get an invite to my A Walk in Worthiness Workshop III. If you are on fire about this book, join my book squad and help us get this book into the hands of more people --- plus get some more goodies from me, including a live Q&A and some behind the scenes of the writing process. Join the book squad at www.trishblackwell.com/booksquad
Y'ALL. AGING IS GOOD. THE BEST IS YET TO COME BECAUSE YOU'RE TRAINING YOUR BRAIN.
I. Happy 38th birthday to me. :) II. Aging affirmations III. Youthful spirit determines the outlay of your life Take care of your body and your mind now, so that you age well and with the ability to live life to the fullest. For years I wanted to care for my body simply to look how I wanted to look - but about ten years ago I shifted my purpose --- to care for my body so that I can be a 70 and 80 year old that does things, that moves well and that has more adventures in my older age than I did my younger age...
Podcast #442 100 Journaling Prompts and Questions to Boost Your Self-Esteem and Confidence
The practice of journaling, when done correctly, can change your life. Most people journal haphazardly or sporadically, and therefore don't get the mental breakthroughs and life-change that is possible. If you've ever struggled with knowing what to journal, how to do it, where to start or just feel burnt out on inspiration, this podcast episode with 100 journaling prompts for your self-esteem and confidence is for you. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/442
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're coaching on:
How to journal and make it a disciplined part of your thought lifeThe difference between deciding and hoping, and how to use your journal to create winning thoughtsMy best journaling prompts to inspire breakthroughs for your self-esteem and confidence
THANK YOU: PATRONS
Just some special love and deep gratitude your way for how you support the show. You are a small and mighty group and each and every one of your contributions feels like a big, warm, wiggle hug. Thank you.
Want to be part of the people who help keep this show going? Consider becoming a patron. Just go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Thank you for all your advice! 5-Stars, Lizz1689
I have been caught up in always trying to make others happy and people-pleasing. Always saying yes and having to over-explain my no's. I came across your podcasts about 2 weeks ago after searching "confidence." So far I have listened to podcasts #187, 189, 359, 261, 402,219, 421, 423, 433, 435, and 436. I am trying to learn that I do not have to have it all together and that I don't owe anyone anything. It's okay to not be liked by everyone.
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THE POWER OF JOURNALING
Journaling has the power to change your thoughts, and therefore your self-esteem and your confidence. The act of journaling can change how you see yourself and how you see your life. So why doesn't everyone do it? Because sometimes staring at a blank page of paper can leave you intimidated and not knowing what to write. Enter: journaling prompts. Specifically, journaling prompts for self-esteem and self-confidence.
When you journal, the act of taking a thought and putting it onto paper gives you the ability to really see it and examine it. This process neutralizes the thought from any extra emotions, or judgment it might be carrying and gives you the power to decide what to do with the thought. You can choose to keep the thought, to re-write, or rewire the thought to be similar, but more positive, or to push the thought away and uninvite it into your brain.
The act of taking pen to paper is perhaps the most life-giving foundational strategy for anyone who wants to master their mindset.
Another way to think about the above described process of journaling is that the act of journaling is like breathing for your brain. What you put on paper is an exhale of what's cluttering your mind, and what you write down in return, your compassionate responses and your guided new thoughts, is an act of inhalation.
There is no need to ever feel intimidated by a blank paper, but it's natural that there will be days when you just need a little inspirational boost to get your journaling juices started. (If you are looking for a daily journaling structure, click here to learn my 8-minute journaling method.) Journal prompts are like little superheroes to supercharge your mind to open up and explore the deeper level of your thoughts.
The more you can see your thoughts, the more you will be able to understand them. The more you understand them, the more you will be able to manage and direct them. The more you train your ability to direct your thoughts, the more you will master your mindset and have powe...
Podcast #440 Why Overthinking is Worse for You Than You Think and How to Change
Overthinking is worse for you than you think it is because it creates problems that aren't even there and keeps you stuck in place when you could be moving forward. If you have ever struggled with overthinking, whether it's ruminating on your past or worrying about your future, this podcast episode is for you and will give you 8 very practical ways to change your patterns. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/440
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're coaching on…
· Why overthinking happens
· What overthinking is doing to you
· How to stop the habit of overthinking and start trusting yourself with powerful thoughts
THANK YOU: PATRONS
Just some special love and deep gratitude your way for how you support the show. You are a small and mighty group and each and every one of your contributions feels like a big, warm, wiggle hug. Thank you.
Want to be part of the people who help keep this show going? Consider becoming a patron. Just go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Awesomeness. 5-Stars
Hooked off the first episode I heard on self-criticism! Felt like she knew me personally … and she's faith based!!!
WHY OVERTHINKING HAPPENS
Lack of self-trust
Lack of decisiveness
Lack of known purpose
Lack of prioritization
Lack of time management
Lack of confidence
Lack of boundaries (too many inputs, too many decisions)
WHY IT'S WORSE FOR YOU THAN YOU THINK
It teaches you to stay stuck.
It makes you believe you can 100% be certain.
It makes you miss the boat.
It keeps you in fear, not faith.
It causes you to second-guess yourself.
It makes you a whim to your whims.
It reinforces your lack of self-trust.
It creates paralysis by analysis.
Overthinking is best known as creating problems that are not even there.
QUOTES ON OVERTHINKING:
Rule number one is, don't sweat the small stuff. Rule number two is, it's all small stuff. -Robert Eliot· Don't get too deep, it leads to over thinking, and over thinking leads to problems that don't even exist in the first place. -Jayson Engay· You don't have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step. -Martin Luther King Jr.· Worrying about how things will go doesn't help make the things go right. Here’s an analogy I like: Overthinking is like using a chainsaw to cut out pictures for a scrapbook. Even though it’s an incredibly powerful tool, there are many times when it’s not useful and even makes things worse.https://nickwignall.com/overthinking/ What does your overthinking look like? -Ruminating on the past-Worrying about the future Reliving embarrassing moments in your head repeatedly?Imagining that someone doesn't like you or thinks less of you? Getting stuck in the "what if's" of life in your mind too much?Tossing and turning at night because you can't stop thinking? Reliving your mistakesRehashing or replaying conversationsDepressive ruminationAngry rumination
HOW TO CHANGE
1. Schedule time to worry / or a future thinking date
2. Write your thoughts out and compassionately write back.
3. Identify the actual emotions behind the overthinking
4. Be aware of your excessive emotional reactions (cognitive distortions and extreme statements, labels, etc.)
5. Stop identifying as just how you are
6. Go silent. (More prayer, more meditation, more visualization, less noise and scroll)
7. Practice micro-decisiveness
8. Do 10-minute worry appointments.
Remember, overthinking will lose its power and place in your life when you learn to be more decisive. Decisiveness reduces overthinking.
ANNOUNCEMENTS:
My life changed forever the first time I invested in a mastermind coaching experience. To be honest, I was scared. The monthly cost was intimidating,
Podcast #439 How To Believe You're Good Enough Even When You Keep Getting Rejected
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast and How to Believe You're Good Enough we're coaching on… · The sinking mud pit of "not good enough" and how to get out of it How to · How to reframe rejections and not personalize them but be powered by them· My favorite affirmations to deepen your belief grooves that you are good enough
THANK YOU: PATRONS
Just some special love and deep gratitude your way for how you support the show. You are a small and mighty group and each and every one of your contributions feels like a big, warm, wiggle hug. Thank you. Want to be part of the people who help keep this show going? Consider becoming a patron. Just go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast
REVIEW OF THE WEEK
Confident and Capable, 5-Stars by Emily C :) Rewind about 9 months when my friend first introduced me to your podcast. I was an over apologizer. I would say sorry at EVERYTHING. My friends at one point would literally pinch me when I said it unnecessarily to try to get me to stop. (I didn't even have the confidence to tell them to stop). To be fair, it would work temporarily but I always reverted back. I would listen to your podcast occasionally and I really resonated with a lot of the things you were saying. It wasn't until recently when things really started to click and I started to put more effort into myself. I've started allowing myself to take up space and have an opinion. I'm setting boundaries and speaking up for myself, and most importantly, I'm not apologizing for it. In one of your more recent episodes you talked about going back to undo your laundry or untying your toes. I now try to take that little thought with me everywhere. I say to myself "respect yourself' and set myself up for greatness. I've always loved making other people's lives easier and now I valued myself enough to make my own life easier and greater. I feel more respected and confident and I know that I am capable of hard things. This podcast has helped me achieve those things and I hope it find its way to those who need a reminder that it's okay to take up space and be confident doing it. You've helped me change my life. I know there's still work to do but I'm confident I can do it. Thank you.
THE SINKING PIT OF "NOT GOOD ENOUGH"
Not being good enough is a belief that you're flawed, mistaken, behind or constantly messing up. The overwhelm of how inferior you are to what you should be doing creates deep internal stress, personal disappointment and un-specifically identified shame, embarrassment or sadness. But you can figure out how to believe you're good enough. It begins here. It starts with a thought, and the thought snowballs more and more.Typically that first thought is a comparative one. It's worry that we aren't what people were expecting, that we aren't worthy of being remembered, that we disappointments because others can do something better or more efficiently than us. Always feeling like you're the one who doesn't belong or who can't keep up.Always in a state of self-pity, believing the story that everyone has it easier than you and that you have to work extra hard to just be whatever baseline of "enough" that you can manage. You're not good enough.You're not pretty enough.You're not smart enough.You're not successful enough.You're not funny enough.You're not engaging enough.You're not skinny enough.You're not doing enough. Even though it's a desire on your part to feel good enough for yourself, the problem is that our measurement of "enough" is based and biased by external feedback and affirmation that we are seeking --- feedback that is opinion based, which means fickle, fleeting and ever-changing. I realized that this voice was growing in my life the more I tried to prove myself or look a certain way on the outside to people's opinions.
Podcast #438 The Fear of Disappointment and How to Move Past It
The fear of disappointment can keep you playing it safe and staying small on the sidelines of life. You may think you're protecting yourself or being realistic, but really all you are doing is guaranteeing that your life as a whole will be less than you were created for, and that's disappointing. Disappointment is part of being human, and when you learn how to feel through your disappointments, they end up being tools to deepen your confidence, hone your drive and leverage what really matters the most. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/438
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're diving deep into disappointment, specifically:
The relationship of disappointment to self-criticismHow to process and feel disappointmentThe key to moving past it for good - and not being held back by the fear of it in your life
THANK YOU: PATRONS
Just some special love and deep gratitude your way for how you support the show. You are a small and mighty group and each and every one of your contributions feels like a big, warm, wiggle hug. Thank you.
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REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
ALWAYS something to learn from Trish! 5-Stars, by Jen Zumbiel
I find myself in aw that Trish has 400+ episodes all on the same topic- confidence. But every single time I am also amazed that she finds something new to speak to me about at just the right time I need to hear it. Trish is a force of good in a world that needs more people standing up in this virtue.
HOW DOES DISAPPOINTMENT DESTROY OUR CONFIDENCE?
Let's talk briefly about the relationship with disappointment, our fear of disappointment and self-criticism.
-Disappointment in ourselves
-Disappointment in others
-Disappointment in how our lives have panned out
-Disappointment in choices
Or even, the fear of
-Thinking you’re a disappointment
-Being told you are a disappointing
-The classic, "I'm not mad at you, I'm just disappointed"
-Telling yourself that you've disappointed God
Disappointment seems to sting deep in our character, burning us at the core of our identity where it hurts the most. But we are separate from our disappointments, and our disappointments can't and shouldn't hold us back from living fully.
I paused many years of my life because of disappointment. I thought by trying to control more things, play it safe, set smaller - more controllable goals, not get my hopes up, etc that I was protecting myself from emotions I didn't think "I could handle."
First - I didn't know that I can handle anything. Maybe you don't know that either. But it's true, you can.Second - I protected myself, that's for sure, but from a full, fulfilling and impact-making life. Third - Disappointment is part of being human; it's not something avoidable, either you let it make you miss out, or you embrace being willing to feel your feelings and move through them.
THE FEAR OF DISAPPOINTMENT
Quotes on Disappointment:
Disappointment opens our hearts to know what we really care about. Don't worry about the perceived closed door, focus instead on the open heart. More opportunity will come.
-Trish Blackwell
We must all suffer one of two things: the pain of discipline or the pain or regret or disappointment. –Jim Rohn
The principles of living greatly include the capacity to face trouble with courage, disappointment with cheerfulness, and trail with humility. –Thomas S Monson
If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment. –Henry David Thoreau
Fear of disappointment is a false sense of control and a disillusioned belief that we can avoid a basic human emotion.
YES, I HAVE A NEW BOOK COMING OUT.
It's called Straighten Your Crown: You're a Daughter of the King
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Podcast #437 Friends, How Many Should You Have
Friendships matter, but in a pandemic and post-pandemic world, we are more disconnected than ever. If you've ever wondered how many friends you should have, how to have better friendships or how to create life-long friends with confidence, then this coaching podcast is for you. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/437In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
Loneliness and how to fight against its pervasiveness in a pandemic and post-pandemic societyThe questions about friendship that you've always wanted to know the answers toHow to reframe your natural friendship nature to be positive and powerful 7 keys to creating good friendships
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Thank you Trish!!! 5-Stars, by Lemons&Love
Like so many other listeners, I think God so led me to your podcast! Like literally this podcast has been an answer to a prayer! Your episode have become a crucial part of my everyday and I relisten to some key episode for me especially when I find myself in my head and overthinking things! Thank you for doing this and being so authentic.
LONELINESS AND HOW TO DECREASE IT IN YOUR LIFE
What feeling lonely and disconnected does to us:
It isolates. Isolation defeats us, discourages us and makes us open for wounding. It victimizes us. Us vs. them.It convinces us that everyone has it easier. We feel misunderstood.
Resources mentioned on loneliness:
https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2020/01/23/798676465/most-americans-are-lonely-and-our-workplace-culture-may-not-be-helpinghttps://www.cdc.gov/aging/publications/features/lonely-older-adults.htmlhttps://www.campaigntoendloneliness.org/the-facts-on-loneliness/
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HOW MANY FRIENDS SHOULD YOU HAVE, AND OTHER COMMON QUESTIONS
-How many do you need and how many should you have?
-How to deal with conflict within friendships or friend groups?
-How to feel known and understand when you feel disconnected?
-How to be a good friend and find good friends?
-How to have confidence in your future friendships?
-How to heal from past hurts friendships have caused?
-How to know which friendships are toxic for you?
Friends for a season, friends for a reason, friends for life.
Release friendships with gratitude, MariKondi styleLack of interaction doesn't mean lack of love or careRealistic expectations of inner circle needs and the tribe you want in your life
Other questions that are very common:
Does longing for more friends make me a loser?
Why do I attract selfish friends?
How come everyone else seems to have a "group" and I don't?
Why do I feel so socially awkward all the time?
Is it possible to find friends who accept you for who you are?
REFRAMING YOUR GIFT OF FRIENDSHIP
Podcast #436 How Not To Care: Detaching From People's Opinions of You
Learning how not to care too much about what people think is possible, when you learn how to master your mindset and train your thoughts. This podcast episode will teach you how to detach from people's opinions of you, how to be free from all of the "what if's" that keep us looped into playing small with our lives, and the side effects of being a people pleaser or simply trying to be liked by everyone. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/436
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
Why we care so much and what it's doing to usHow to not care: 15 things to remember5 mindset shifts to help you detach from other people's opinions
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Equipped and Prepared to Thrive, 5-Stars by MotherofGrace
Trish's work has helped me in so many ways to clean up my stinkin' thinkin'. I am now lighter and less anxious because of the tools I have learned through her podcast and YouTube videos.
I am a big fan of using her methods of parenting my negative thoughts. It is so simple and massively effective.
Thank you, Trish, for all of the wisdom you bring! You are a blessing!
THE OVERCARING LOOP
I am someone who cares a lot. Inherently, that's a good thing. But it can be unhealthy too.
I had to learn how to not care, especially how to not care about what people thought of me. Detaching yourself from other people's opinions can be hard, because chances are, you're like me and have trained for brain for years, if not decades, to attach your worth, acceptance and security to these opinions.
My swim coaches used to try to get me to stop caring so much by telling me to just not care. They also told me I tried to hard, and to just "try to stop trying so hard." Ya'll. I found myself in a loop that I couldn't get out of.
"Trying to stop trying."
"Keep caring, but don't care too much."
It felt like I was trying to solve a riddle that had no answer. But then I figured out a new way to approach it: I had to learn to stop holding on so tightly to the false sense of control I got from all the caring and all the trying. And ya'll, it works.
You deserve the freedom that comes from the tools I share on this podcast episode. I can't wait to hear what you think!
WHY WE CARE SO MUCH AND WHAT IT'S DOING TO US
Raised conformists.The traditional path seems the safest.We're tribal and need people.We've attributed too much power to others.We haven't taken the time to be our own validation voice (#433)Conflict scares usWeird is twisted
Maybe you don't resonate with being a people pleaser, but maybe it's simply manifested differently, through wanting to be cool - to be influential, to be well-liked, to be included, to be powerful, to be a leader, to be popular.
It boxes us in. It labels us. It makes us beat ourselves up. It incites the voice of self-criticism.
I used to be the queen of beating myself up. Self-critical? Perfectionist? Yep. But I would just word it differently, like "Oh, I'm just tough on myself," and I thought it was okay, but it wasn't.
To be honest, it was such a daily part of my life and in how I thought about myself and the world that I didn't think there was any other way.
I was happy on the outside, but anxious, disappointed and always stressed on the inside. Beating yourself up all the time bruises you from the inside out. You can't always see the wounds, but they are there and they handicap you in a painful way.
It leads to overthinking, impersonation, playing small, tip-toing, self-doubt and the jerk-brain.
Haven't listened to episode #433, How to Be Your Own Validation Voice? Click here to listen:
www.trishblackwell.com/433
HOW TO NOT CARE SO MUCH
Remember no one is thinking about you as much as you think they are.Remember that everyone is weird. Remember that controlling opinions is like catching the wind.
Podcast #435 How To Change that Habit that's Keeping You Stuck
Do you want to change a habit that is keeping you stuck? This podcast episode is for you. In it, you'll learn why you have had a hard time breaking the habit and how to approach habit change with more confidence, and success. It all starts with getting honest about the habits you need to change, then setting new standards of realistic expectations for yourself, and then mastering the self-talk that will subconsciously get you to show up more consistently for yourself. These changes will make you proud of yourself, and will help you change the quality of your habits and life.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
How to set new standards for yourself in a way that really worksThe key to creating a new self-concept so that you rise up and change your habits naturallyBreaking down the process of habit substitution so that you can really change a habit that's keep you stuck
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
WHEW. Let's start with some honesty.
Here are some habits that I spent far too many years stuck in.
Compulsive, obsessive calorie counting.
Excessive exercise.
Binge eating. Overeating. Emotional Eating.
Overpouring wine at night.
Slopping nighttime routine.
Mismanaged morning routine.
Stress and busyness.
Workaholism.
Self-pity and scarcity mindset - life is hard concept.
Settling for relationships and friendships that tore me down instead of building me up.
Wanting to read my Bible more and do more meditation, but never doing it.
So much about our habits is a reflection of what's going on in the inside:
-Who do we think we are?
-What do we think of ourselves and our worth?
-What do we do to manage and work through our feelings?
-What are the things we tell ourselves?
-What is it that we actually believe?
NEW STANDARDS
Have you considered or ever written down your standards?
What standards do you hold yourself to?
I hadn't done this as an adult - only did it in college on sports teams or classes.
This is different than "Oh, I'm hard on myself because I have high standards for myself"
-that's lazy unrealistic perfectionistic fantasy and day dreaming
NEW SELF-CONCEPT
You have to see yourself as a new you.
You are not your habit.
You are not suck.
You are capable of change.
Create a line in the sand between the old you, and the new you.
To release your old self-concept, and old habits that went with it, you have to forgive yourself for it.
-Take ownership and be honest. Call it what it was. (binge drinking, binge eating, compulsive shopping, escapism, etc.)
-Describe the darkness and the state that you created for yourself
-Give thanks for the firsthand experience - experience is the best lesson
-Look at the time wasted as fuel in your fire to maximize all future life opportunities; now more than ever you have a more authentic desire to put life into your years
-Nothing is wasted when you are growth mindset oriented
Visualize the self-concept of you that easily executes things at a newer, higher, more confident and masterful level.
-Find examples to emulate
-Refuse to sink in self-pity (or "this is hard" talk)
-Break the ceiling of previous possibilities
HABIT SUBSTITUTION
Habit replacement. Not elimination.Micro-Habits.Cheer yourself on. Study evidence of people with sustained habits.Change your brain, one thought at a time.
You can learn how to make your brain work for you, not against you. And that's exactly what I'll be teaching in my upcoming mastermind, Done with Numb. DONE WITH NUMB MASTERMIND
READY TO CHANGE HABITS? CHECK OUT MY NEW MASTERMIND:
Applications are open.
Who is Done with Numb for?
You do more than most people but you never feel like you're doing enough.
You always feel like you should be doing more, but there's not enough time.
Podcast #434 How To Use Sleep To Skyrocket Your Confidence
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
The kindness of simply letting yourself be human, and how to hear yourself when you need to rest … and we're talking about sleep hygiene and sleep anxietyThe mind-blowing change that happens when you make the shift of giving yourself the sleep you need, and what to do if you aren't getting it The #Last90Minutes Routine and how it can change your life and raise your standards
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
One of my top favorite podcasts... seriously!
I’ve been listening to this podcast forever and was sad that I couldn’t leave a review because I listen on Spotify... turns out I can! Trish is so positive and uplifting. Her advice on changing your mindset is so motivating, and it makes it even better that she is a Christian and encourages us with her faith at the same time. It’s impossible to be in a bad mood after listening to one of Trish’s podcast episodes!
-carlyyrenee
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Miracle Nighttime Routine Challenge
This 5-day experience will help you
-increase your sleep
-reduce your stress
-minimize unnecessary nighttime eating or drinking
-create more time in your day
-connect more intimately with people you love
3 Most Common Mistakes People with Nighttime Routines
FALSE DESIRES
-Weak urges
-Lack of focus on true desires
POOR DESIGN
-Absence of structure
-Random approach
UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS
-Too tired, over-extenuated - miscalculation throughout the day
-Poorly structured tasks, that are just too hard for fatigue
REST IS KINDNESS
Let yourself be human.
Let's stop competing in the insane competition of doing more and sleeping less.
A unrested you is not a badge of honor - it's a declaration of mismanaged priorities.
I resisted this for years. I didn't want to be human. I wanted to burn the candle at both ends. I didn't want to have to say no to some things.
But when I tasted rest.
It turns out it was what I had been seeking all along.
I had to learn to break my own rules.
Sleep … boosts your immune system, prevents weight gain, increases mood, strengthens your heart, increases productivity, improves exercise performance, increases mental clarity, improves memory, reduces stress, lowers blood pressure, and heightens sex drive.
MIND-BLOWING CHANGE
You'll think better.
You'll feel better.
You'll look better.
Okay, but let's talk about sleep hygiene and sleep anxiety.
Sleep Hygiene
Make your room a sanctuary. Don't have a TV in your bedroom.Have an unwinding, last 90 minutesCreate a routine that it beautiful and alluringGo to bed to a made bed
Sleep Anxiety
Don't put pressure on yourself to fall asleep fastExplore sleep aids (fan, white noise, Moshi app, linen spray, melatonin)Journal, plan your next day and empty your brain before bedRest is still rest- don't stress about tossing and turning.Fight against the first thought of the day being a variant of "I'm so tired"
Literally, sleep can skyrocket your confidence.
Not to mention that by proxy, sleeping more will prevent you from
-overeating
-overdrinking
-comparison scrolling
-foggy thinking
LAST 90 MINUTES
Pick a bedtime. Let others know about it.Identify your last 90 Minutes.Segment and structure in 3x30 minute chunks
Raise your standards for yourself.
Challenge Invite: Miracle Night Routine Challenge
Bonus episode brought to you by the College of Confidence. We are the most encouraging place on the internet - and the joy and support just overflows. I couldn't help but give you a good Word to fill you this March. Today is a day of possibilities.Today is a day to reconsider your self-concept.Today is a day to step into who you are becoming. It is my passion to help set people free from self-doubt, small-thinking and self-sabotage - press in this year and possess this promised land of confidence and joy, peace and goodness for yourself. INVITE: NIGHTTIME ROUTINE CHALLENGE WEEK: Miracle Nighttime Routine Challenge 3 Most Common Mistakes People with Nighttime Routines
Podcast #433 How To Be Your Own Validation Voice
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about: Today we'll be coaching on…
Why what "they" think doesn't matter and how to stop depending on outside affirmationResisting fear and rewiring the critical voice default you've programmed into yourself 10 Ways to practice your voice of self-validation
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Inspirational by liqerish For the lonest time I wanted to write a review. I want to talk about what you've done for my daughters life. Because you have inspired her and pushed her to move forward with your voice. This review is not so much about me but it is about the positive impact you've had on my family. I appreciate the spiritual take on this podcast and how you share with us about God, and encouraging us not to give up and follow our dreams. Thank you for encouraging my daughter. Giving her strength to go out in the world and follow her dreams. You've changed my life too. By watching my daughter grow, it's given me strength to let go of hard things. I've always felt I wanted to be a good role model as a mother and after hearing what you've gone through it's empowered me to improve on myself. Thank you.
OUTSIDE AFFIRMATION WEARS OFF
Real confidence is having an identity separate from outside affirmation. Words of affirmation are like little jewels. When I get a compliment, or unexpected word of encouragement from someone, it feels like I'm rich inside. I thrive on outside affirmation, and always have. I'm a natural coachable athlete, teacher's pet, people pleaser, you name it, if it involved making people I admired proud, I was into it. The problem is that when all on my confidence was built on what others said about me, my confidence became about what I did, and people's opinions -instead of- being about who I am and my own opinion of myself. Real confidence is built from the inside out, not the outside in. If you are over attached to people-pleasing or getting your confidence from others instead of from within yourself, then it's time to get coaching. Check out my coaching page at www.trishblackwell.com/coaching to get on my coaching waiting list, or hop right into the College of Confidence at www.collegeofconfidence.com to get started with group coaching today.
RESISTING FEAR AND REPROGRAMMING THE CRITICAL VOICE DEFAULT
Decide if your life will be grounded on fear or on faith.Critical thoughts are fear based.
What if I'm not good enough?What if no one really likes me?What if this passion project doesn't make a difference?What if I'll always be alone?What if I keep breaking my promises to myself?
No life that is amazing is built on fear. Resist fear by:
Declaring war against itBeing like Finn - always be looking for that squirrelDo one thing every day that scares you - show yourself that you're the boss of your fearBuild faith around you: make it your goal today to make someone else's day better. Dare to dream about positive what if's
Make room only for belief in your life. Don't entertain or party with fear.Reprogram the critical voice by:
Paying attention to your thought workTaking ownership of your responsibility to manage your thoughts (re: #432)Be annoyingly positive and encouraging in responsePractice patience - you're in this for the long haul. A reset takes time, and tedium.
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Podcast #432 How To Talk Back To Yourself When Negative
How you talk to yourself determines so much about how you feel about yourself and how you feel about your life. In this podcast you'll learn how talk back to yourself when negative, how to take ownership of your thoughts, your responsibility with managing your mindset and also how to talk back confidently to negative people in your life. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/432
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
Taking ownership of your thoughts, and your personal obligation to manage your mindset5 Things to do to talk back to yourself when negativeA bonus note on how to talk back to negative or nasty people
THANK YOU: PATRONS
Just some special love and deep gratitude your way for how you support the show. You are a small and mighty group and each and every one of your contributions feels like a big, warm, wiggle hug. Thank you. Want to be part of the people who help keep this show going? Consider becoming a patron. Just go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Life Changing, by Traveler_18 I am so thankful for have come across your podcasts. My husband and I live in the Midwest and have been discussing the prospect of moving out west for many months now. It is a dream of ours to take on a big adventure and new city all on our own, but this means leaving my family behind in the Midwest. After listening to your podcasts for about a month now, I boldly and courageously told my husband that the move is a "go" and we are preparing whole heartedly for a move in a few months. Thank you for pushing me to follow my dreams and to use confidence in order to do so. If it's possible, I'd love for you to do a podcast on how to stay confident in who you are even when everything changes (aka moving / leaving family.)
MANAGING YOUR MINDSET: A PERSONAL OBLIGATION
Yes, it's hard.But double yes, it's worth it. You can think you're broken, or you can complain that it's not easy, but those thoughts don't help move you forward. You're human. This is part of being human. There will always be a battle in your thoughts. If you want to create a life you love, you must create thoughts that you love. It's time to take ownership and stop wishing for change. I wasted years hoping some of my habits would change, or that I would have more discipline to break some self-sabotage in my life. Hoping for change doesn't create change. If you want change in your life, you have to first believe it is possible. Once you believe it's possible, change becomes inevitable. I have a new free audio workshop on exactly how to work through this process. This workshop is available for a LIMITED TIME ONLY. It's for you if -You're ready to believe in creating change in your life-You're ready to "break the cycle" of habits that are keeping you stuck, in self-sabotage or in self-doubt-You're ready to change your life from being "good" to being "great" Go to www.trishblackwell.com/breakthecycle or hit the link in my bio to get started.
5 WAYS TO TALK BACK TO YOUR NEGATIVE SELF
Let’s face it. Life will inundate you with negativity and in the overwhelm of our lives it’s easy to feel unconsciously negative, discouraged and well, just blah. It’s time to talk back to negativity / fear and win in your mindset. Here are 5 simple ways that REALLY work
Parent your thoughtsWrite out what’s actually happeningActivate boundaries on negative inputAffirm new neuropathways you wantLaugh at your negative thoughts
https://fb.watch/3uMg_1QxD_/
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Podcast #431 How To See Yourself Differently Than You Do
I struggled for years with how I saw myself. If you've ready my book Insecurity Detox, you know that I had a season of my life where I had so much body image anxiety that I couldn't even look at myself in the mirror when I washed my hands. My struggle is not an uncommon one. In my years of coaching I have heard from hundreds of women that they struggle with something similar. It might express itself differently, but it's the same core issue: not being able to see yourself for who you really are. That's why I had to do an entire podcast episode on this topic, to help you start to see yourself for how amazing you are. In the show I'll share with you what I did to start changing, the kinds of prayers I prayed to God in the process and how to start the process of seeing yourself differently as well. If I can change how I see myself, I know you can too. The first place to start changing is by listening to the podcast episode --- > www.trishblackwell.com/431
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
How to start seeing yourself how others see youThe difference between You 1.0 and You 2.0A challenge that has the potential to completely change how you see yourself - that you can do today
THANK YOU: PATRONS
Just some special love and deep gratitude your way for how you support the show. You are a small and mighty group and each and every one of your contributions feels like a big, warm, wiggle hug. Thank you. Want to be part of the people who help keep this show going? Consider becoming a patron. Just go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast Guys, happy birthday to my beautiful 6-year-old Ellie.(Ellie lu, LuEllen, Lucia, Ellen story)Thank you to everyone still listening who remembers when I did this show before I had kids. I often think about my life as before-being-a-mom, and after-being-a-mom. And today is that day that divides everything for me. Happy 6th birthday to my beautiful Ellie! You are exquisitely kind, incredibly curious, courageously confident, attentively encouraging and delightfully creative. You being you makes everyone around you come alive. Thank you for expanding my heart and teaching me to look at life differently.
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ShaneilB, Thank you Trish Trish!!! I'm loving the podcasts. I used to spend my days being in my head, that negative self talk. I would think negative about anything that comes out of my mouth. This week I focus on saying, "well…anyways." It's going well so far. I feel so good about myself this week and I can't wait to start jouranling and finish up the other episodes while practicing everything in my daily life. Thank you, thank you.
SO, YOU DON'T SEE YOURSELF HOW OTHERS SEE YOU
"I wish you could see me the way I see you."-This is a beautiful, and frustrating statement.How do you get past it? How do you go deeper?
Realize that people aren't paying you lip service.Decide to stop being your own worst enemy.Make a list of what you bring to the table / why you rock.Find a way to celebrate / have gratitude for what you which you could change but can't (ie body type, your past, etc.)Create space in your daily life to think and journalAsk God to help you see yourself how He sees youBe mindful of inputsGuard your heart from comparison and coveting.Commit to making gratitude a prioritized spiritual practice in your lifeWork with a coach
DITCHING YOU 1.0 AND BECOMING YOU 2.0
Analyze and assess who you are.-Your behaviors-Your thoughts-Your actions -Your excuses-Your standards Create a vision of who you want to become-How you carry yourself-How you live-How you influence others-How much money you back-How you have relationships Envision and act.-Visualize the you that you are becoming-Do things differently-Obsess about the small things -Slow down and take note of how you change-Create a new circle of influence-Cheer your new self on BREAK ...
Podcast #430 How To Make A Good Life A Great Life
If you have a good life but want to make it a great life, this episode is for you. Most people settle for good enough, for getting through the week, for bland, beige lives that are mostly unfulfilling, not just for them, but for the world around them. You were created for more. God created you to desire abundance, to walk in greatness and to use the measure of talents and gifts He has given you to make the world around you better. Buckle up for a conversation filled with tough love and inspiration to help you make a good life a great life. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/430
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
Why you have a lot of good going on, but you feel unsettled at the end of the dayHow to improve your nighttime routine Unbelieving and believing greatness in your life
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The Clincher, 5 Stars by MadMakeup24
I'm not alone when I say I've struggled with anxious thoughts. It is an ironic turn of events for me when I think about where I am versus 3 years ago. Coming to terms with the fact that I am human and deserving of higher thinking was an uphill battle. When I first hear do Trish it was a moment in my life where I can say I drew a line in the sand. Perfectly imperfect.
Turning 30 rocked my world. Self imposed life threatening thoughts will tear up your soul and force you to live in insecurity. Because I wrapped my brain around others, I didn't have time to think about my God given powers. Because I've stepped into His light, I know that my temporary feelings are not who I am, but they are shaping me into the woman I want to be. To have the mental fortitude and tenacious attitude that Trish does makes her one in a million.
Because I took those steps into confidence with her I feel I don't owe anything to anyone but myself. I owe it to myself to be grateful! In those three years: I found the man of my dreams and he proposed marriage. We are buying a home together. I had the guts to stand up to my bullies at the office and now we're working together. I figured out my finances (which was a source of anxiety) and bought myself my dream car. I've become this unstoppable force of a woman who dreams big now. The clincher is that she was inside me all along. Trish gave me the shovel to dig her out.
QUOTES FROM GOOD TO GREAT
Good to Great: Why Some Companies Make the Leap and Others Don't
Jim Collins. Check it out on Amazon > https://amzn.to/2Yfw3R4
“Good is the enemy of great. And that is one of the key reasons why we have so little that becomes great. We don't have great schools, principally because we have good schools. We don't have great government, principally because we have good government. Few people attain great lives, in large part because it is just so easy to settle for a good life.”
“Greatness is not a function of circumstance. Greatness, it turns out, is largely a matter of conscious choice, and discipline.”
“For, in the end, it is impossible to have a great life unless it is a meaningful life. And it is very difficult to have a meaningful life without meaningful work.”
“Faith in the endgame helps you live through the months or years of buildup.”
“What separates people, Stockdale taught me, is not the presence or absence of difficulty, but how they deal with the inevitable difficulties of life.”
“Greatness is not a function of circumstance. Greatness, it turns out, is largely a matter of conscious choice.”
WHY YOUR LIFE IS "GOOD" BUT YOU STILL FEEL SO U...
Podcast #429 Why You're Not Doing What You Say You Want to Be Doing
You know what to do, so why aren't you doing it? If you've ever been stuck in this cycle of being motivated to change, but not being able to get started or sustain new habits, you are not alone. This is a common struggle and there are a 3 things that are probably keeping you stuck. This episode will help you break the cycle of frustration.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
The 3 reasons you are not doing what you want to be doingHow to break the cycle of frustration Re-establishing your inner locus of self-respect and self-trust
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Let's get you to 1K
Trish I discovered this podcast exactly a week ago. And I've been listening to you everyday, your voice is so soothing, your voice sounds so genuine. I'm writing this review not knowing what to say to you because there's so much, but you said just write a review so others can be reached and touched by this podcast. I've recently started going to church again, I'm currently on the Daniel fast. So I truly believe it's not a coincidence that I came across your podcast. Thank you for all of your teachings. I can't wait to join the College of Confidence to learn more. Stay safe. Love Maritza.
Note: Anyone Looking to Go Back to Church Here are My Favorite Online Church Communities:
National Community Church, with Pastor Mark Batterson Elevation Church, with Pastor Steven Furtik Transformation Church, with Pastor Michael Todd Vous Church Equip and Empower, with Christine Caine Joyce Meyer Podcast 3 REASONS YOU NOT DOING WHAT YOU WANT TO BE DOING:
I “know” what to do, so why am I not doing it Trish?
I get asked this all the time.
There are 3 main causes...
You don't think you'll get the results.You don't know that you are capable / you're stuck in your own self-conceptYou don't manage your mind as much as you manage your habits.
Build your confidence on a solid foundation and you will see breakthrough in your consistency and ability to show up for yourself. When you show up for yourself from a place of boldness and resilience, you will get results.
HOW TO BREAK THE CYCLE OF FRUSTRATION
Slow down.
Pick one of the causes - just one - and go deep into your self-coaching work to rewire how you're thinking about it.
Sometimes, we have to take a risk and take action; proving to ourselves that our efforts are never wasted.
Pray: ask God to show you who you really are. When we ask, He answers; but we must slow down and listen, because the answer is often in a whisper. Breakthrough happens in the quiet.
Create structure to how you manage your mind.
RE-ESTABLISHING YOUR SELF-RESPECT AND SELF-TRUST
Often we aren't doing what we say we want to do because our self-respect is tarnished.
If you don't respect yourself, you won't show up for yourself. The more you don’t show up for yourself, the more you will learn that you're not worthy of trusting yourself; and the vicious cycle continues.
The way out is to learn to love yourself.
Not through frou-frou self-love practices, because let's be honest: you won't do them consistently enough to get the results because well, you already struggle with consistency and you don't think that they work anyways or that you have time.
We need to dial into a deeper self-love.
And that's what I'm teaching in my upcoming live workshop in the College of Confidence. The workshop is this week, and it'll be recorded for you - but I'd love for you to come live to it.
Podcast #428 How to Not Feel Like You're Falling Behind In Life
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
Why you feel you're falling behind in lifeWhy you're not behind, even if you feel like you areThe 4 imperative stages of how to reframe your thoughts about being behind10 simple thought habits to ditch the feeling of feeling behind
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Laggie1018
The Complete Package!, 5-Stars
I first started listening to Trish's podcasts a little over a year ago. I cannot tell you how much it has positively changed my life! Trish has taught me how to have a more confident mindset and she does it with the ease and love of a best friend. She sprinkles in messages of faith and God to make this podcast unlike any other. I am still working o my confidence and my fear of what others think, but I am lightyears ahead of where I was before I found her. I recognize this as a life-long journey, on that I am CONFIDENT I will progress through with more and more peace. Thank you Trish for all your love, your wisdom, your faith, your honesty, and for just being so dang amazing.
YOU'RE NOT BEHIND IN LIFE, EVEN IF YOU FEEL LIKE YOU ARE
You are where you need to be.
In order to get to where we want to go, there are lessons in which we must grow.
You might be circling the same spot because you are stubbornly refusing the lessons. Or perhaps because the lesson is patience, perseverance and presence. But you're not falling behind in life. Life is not measuring you.
What is "behind" anyway?
Who are you comparing to?
Is what you think is "ahead" really actually better?
It's important to look at your flawed belief system:
Most of the time we assume that those "ahead" of us are happier than us, more confident than us, more worthy / valuable than us.One of the most courageous things you can do is to be honest with yourself about flawed thinking What are you assuming will be easier about your life once you get "there" or have "that'?Happiness and worth isn't something we chase, because you can't chase what you already have access to --> you have to shift what you're looking at and look through a new lens
THE FOUR STAGES TO REFRAME FEELING BEHIND IN LIFE
Get Honest About Where You Are.
Stop running from the truth.
Stop twisting the truth.
Most people want to start where they want to end without even starting. And then they're jealous of people who are where they want to be without having done any of the work. Grow where you want to go.
Get Brutal About Whose Opinion Matters
What timeline are you following?
What does it mean to actually be behind in life?
Says who?
Get Focused on Massive Gratitude
If you're growing, you're going, and if you're going you can feel gratitude.
Take something from everywhere you are and have been.
Look for the lessons you needed in each place
Get Committed to Massive Action
Massive action on a daily and simple basis
Know your priorities versus your preferences
Be willing to do something different than you've ever done
Put some skin in the game and commit at a new level for yourself
Other Podcast Episodes You'll Enjoy:
How to Think Like a Happy Person, Episode #424 www.trishblackwell.com/424
What Will "They" Say, Episode #423
www.trishblackwell.com/423
How to Stop Caring What People Think Webinar
www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
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Podcast #427 Hardship, Suffering and Holding onto Hope
Hardship and suffering are unavoidable in life, but how do you walk through them with faith, confidence and unwavering hope? Special guest and extraordinarily inspiring human being, Tony Nunez shares powerful insight through his experience as a young man with ALS. Husband, father of three young girls and youth pastor, Tony 's passion for people and his ability to see the good in life no matter what will change how you see your own hardships and suffering.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
Hardship, and how to endure with hope when suffering seems unfairALS and praying for miracles The power of pursuing people and community, and sharing in suffering with others
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REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Trish I do not even know where to begin, .You are an amazing woman and I thank you for all you do for me and everyone,. You were recommended to me by a dear friend in April of 2020. I was in a very dark place due to a divorce. You saved me. You gave me the confidence and strength I needed. My ex husband is a narcissist and the emotional abuse was insane. I was so scared to leave but I did it and I'm so proud of myself Trish may God bless you and I hope to someday meet you. Do not ever stop what you do. You are truly an earth angel.
- Charity Fellows
Thank you Tony Nunez for your light and your vulnerability.
Links Mentioned in the Conversation with Tony:
www.trishblackwell.com/als
Wisdom Nuggets from Tony:
"ALS does not number my days, God numbers my days."
"Pursue people, there is beauty in suffering when in community."
"God is not surprised by my ALS; there is still goodness in suffering."
LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:
I am 19 years old and I’m from small town Indiana. I started listening to your podcasts about a year ago. I was in my lowest place. My senior year had just been canceled, i was rude to my family and friends, I was gaining Weight, I could hardly even look myself in the mirror without feeling disgusted. It seemed like my whole world was falling apart, then I found you. And little by little everything started to change. It is now been two months since I’ve had a bad day (self hatred). I feel completely transformed. I am loving the new me.
I have some business experience from running my own nonprofit organization, DDOC (Dresses for Daughters of Christ). It’s a nonprofit that I started when I was 12 years old. DDOC provides dresses along with a relationship with Christ to little girls all around the world. In the 7 years DDOC has been a living Mission, my community and I have made and delivered nearly 6000 dresses to 13 different countries. Praise God! I have seen first hand women all across the world who need to be reminded of their worth and purpose. I know that I have so much more to give to this world.
You are incredible. Never stop being you.
With love,
Maura
https://www.facebook.com/dressesfordaughtersofchrist/
Podcast #426Never Second Guess Yourself AgainYou can learn how to never second guess yourself again when you learn how to manage the whirlwind of thoughts that swirl through your mind on a daily basis. In this episode of The Confidence podcast, we're talking about Mind Drama, Second-Guessing Yourself and Self-Coaching yourself out of the second-guessing spiral.In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about: Why we second-guess ourselves and what it meansThe mind drama that goes on behind the scenes of the second-guessing10 ways to never second guess yourself again (and one mega bonus thought)THANK YOU: PATRONSJust some special love and deep gratitude your way for how you support the show. You are a small and mighty group and each and every one of your contributions feels like a big, warm, wiggle hug. Thank you. Want to be part of the people who help keep this show going? Consider becoming a patron. Just go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Highly recommend!!!! 5 Stars v.AlissaI've listened to various podcasts and Ted talks about confidence and mental strength but this is by far the best! Trish's words are encouraging, motivating, and comforting, and if you practice what she teaches you'll realize how real they are. I have become my most confident, authentic self since discovering this podcast and I can't wait to continue my mental healthy journey with Trish as my guide. Keep it up Trish, you are a God send! SECOND GUESSING YOURSELF + MIND DRAMA Mind drama: it will always happen, but you don’t always have to get sucked into it. Second Guessing:Happens when we don't trust ourselves.Happens when we experience the phenomenon of mind drama What is mind drama:Ping-pong conversations with yourself.The knot of thoughts that you unravel only to find knotted again.Needing to reset your thoughts over and over Mind drama is normal:Managing your mind is part of living a highly effective lifeYou aren't failing if you need to reset and realign your thoughtsIt's normal to need to set your mindWe'll always have resistance pushing in on us Why We Second-Guess Ourselves in the First Place:We think the mind drama means we're out of controlWe're too attached to old identities (like we don't follow through)We have thorns of perfectionism still clinging to us (the desire for all circumstances to be just right) We care too much what people think SPONSORSHIP NOTE: BETTERHELPIs there something interfering with your happiness? Have you been wanting to start counseling, but not know where to look or start? BetterHelp will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. You get to connect in a safe and private online environment - it's so convenient, and of course confidential. Once you sign up you can start communicating in under 24-hours. Y'all, this isn't self-help, this is professional counseling. What I love about it the most is that you can send a message to your counselor at anytime. You’ll get timely and thoughtful responses plus you can schedule weekly video or phone session. Betterhelp makes it easy and free to change counselors if needed. It’s more affordable than traditional offline counseling and financial aid is available. Their licensed professional counselors specialize in depression, anxiety, stress, relationships, sleeping, trauma, anger, family conflict, grief, and self-esteem. I want you to start living a happier life today. As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting www.betterhelp.com/confidencepod How to Self-Coach Yourself Through Mind Drama:Make time and create space.Use pen and paper.Talk to yourself out loud.Peel back what you're really thinking and what it meansDetermine what you are believing Create a new dialogue with yourself about being your own coach Go back to an affirmation10 Ways to Never Second Guess Yourself Again:Rebuild your self-trust. Notice and replace thoughts throughout the day. Embrace risk-taking.
PODCAST #425 Why You Never Follow Through And How To Fix It
Do you find it hard to show up for yourself? Do you tired of never following through? Why is it that some people can follow through on what they say they want and some people can't? This podcast episode is going to dive into helping you understand why you never follow through and how to fix it.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
The secret to keeping your promises to yourselfWhy you keep breaking your word and what it's doing to your confidenceHow to really keep your resolutions this year and get massive results
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Just some special love and deep gratitude your way for how you support the show. You are a small and mighty group and each and every one of your contributions feels like a big, warm, wiggle hug. Thank you. Want to be part of the people who help keep this show going? Consider becoming a patron. Just go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast
REVIEW OF THE WEEK
Positive & Powerful. Mrs.Schlump If you're wanting to get rid of that voice in your head that's full of self doubt and self hate, start here! Trish gives you the tools to start digging a little deeper.
THE SECRET TO KEEPING YOUR PROMISES TO YOURSELF
Self-respect.Self-truthMicro habitsPatience
WHY YOU KEEP BREAKING YOUR WORD:
You think it doesn't matter.You think other people are more important to you.You don't believe that what you do will make a difference.You haven't prioritized properly.You aren't training your thoughts and thinking about what you think about.You are obsessed about the "how" instead of being committed to the "what"You are distracted and throwing hours of your time away watching other peoples' lives.You haven't worked your belief deeply enough.You aren't proactively practicing self-trust. You punish yourself for what you're not doing instead of taking note of what you are doing.You are hyper-focused on the finish line.You aren't willing to be bored.You are cycling in compare and despair.You haven't established solid life routines to set yourself up for success. You are putting too much pressure on yourself and have to-do guilt.You chase perfection instead of progression.You're too focused on what people think about you.
References:How to Stop Being a People Pleaser, Episode #421:www.trishblackwell.com/421
Tiny Habits: Small Change that Change Everything, by BJ Fogg https://amzn.to/35asCiyTo-Do Guilt:To reduce guilt and overwhelm, we have to decide what it is that we care about. If you stretch yourself too thin, then you are too thinly caring about too many things. Exhaustion results. The trick is to figure out what you care about and what will help you feel like you're moving forward, not being busy. How do we do this? By identifying 2-3 things daily - either in work or in what you do in your home - that feels satisfying.
HOW TO REALLY KEEP YOUR RESOLUTIONS THIS YEAR
Focus on tiny habits.Really know why you want to change.Believe that change is possible.Get ready to embrace boredom.Think of yourself as your future self-concept.Put a line in the sand for who you used to be with follow through.Get a coach.Surround yourself with other committed people.Take responsibility for your results and happiness.Get serious about how you think.Use powerful affirmations.Speak life over yousrself Bonus Resources for Affirmations:YouTube Video: https://youtu.be/HdFAdZh6NckPodcast Episode: https://www.trishblackwell.com/423-2/Downloadable PDF and MP3: https://trishblackwell.lpages.co/christian-meditations/ We have a new course soon releasing the College of Confidence on how to customize and curate powerful affirmations on your own. You don't want to miss this course, which will be exclusively available to College of Confidence students. Not yet a student? Click here (www.collegefoconfidence.com) to get started.
PODCAST #424How To Think Like a Happy PersonEveryone wants to know how to come alive and how to be happy, but so few people figure out how to do either. Your vibrancy, your happiness and your success are all contingent on how you think. Learn 10 ways to bring more life to your life and the foundational basis on how to think as a happy person in 2021. This is going to be the year that your confidence doubles, so let's get started! In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about: How to Choose Life in Your Life, and How Choosing Life Will Help Others Come Alive TooThe Real Way to Double Your Happiness This Year; 10 ways to be happier in 2021How to Think Like a Happy PersonAn Invitation to Double Your Confidence in the Next 100 Dayswrite a review on iTunes THANK YOU: PATRONSJust some special love and deep gratitude your way for how you support the show. You are a small and mighty group and each and every one of your contributions feels like a big, warm, wiggle hug. Thank you.Want to be part of the people who help keep this show going? Consider becoming a patron. Just go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcastYa'll, we hit #69 on the Top 100 iTunes Charts for Personal Development! Thank you!!! REVIEW OF THE WEEK Amazing. 5-Stars. Syd-pinkI've been listening to this podcast everyday for about a month now and it has already helped me grow so much. I started listening to Trish when I really took a look at my life and realized that I lacked the confidence and security within myself that I needed and wanted so badly. I will continue to make this podcast a part of my daily routine and I'm excited for the incredible journey that I am on. COME ALIVE. DECIDE AND DO THESE STEPS:Take life so others take lifePrenez vie, prenez vie, que les os prennent vie Prenez vie, prenez vie, que les os prennent vie Éveillez-vousÀ Sa lumière Prenez vie, prenez vie Je vais chanter aux os secs Jusqu’à ce qu’ils vivent à nouveau Et que les vallées fleurissent Comme une rose au soleil Come alive, come alive, come alive dry bonesCome alive, come alive, come alive dry bonesAwake, ariseInhale the lightCome alive, come aliveI'm gonna sing to you dry bonesUntil you're covered in lifeAnd the valleys bloomLike a rosebud in the light HOW TO COME ALIVEBe yourself.Focus your energy on good things.Build your self-concept with affirmations.Let your brain breath with effective journaling.Release yourself from perfection and pursue the processFind joy in every dayGround yourself in gratitudeSee yourself through God's eyesStop punishing yourselfThink bigger than you're comfortable doing - be courageous with your feelings HOW TO DOUBLE YOUR HAPPINESSHappiness is a thought, not a feeling.It is free from circumstances - it starts with a decision.I choose to be happy.I am responsible for my happiness.No one else can make me happy. HOW TO THINK LIKE A HAPPY PERSONTake responsibility for your thoughts.Know that your happiness is not connected to your circumstances.Do things that create beauty in your life.Create an atmosphere of gratitude and flexible perspective.Have purpose, know who you are and what you want Be okay with some mind dramaExpect good things to happen and trust GodLook for the good in all thingsLive a simple life - reduced input, reduced gossip, reduced worrySurround yourself with good people THE 100 CONFIDENT DAY CHALLENGEWill you join us!? What's the goal of the challenge?We have two goals. #1: To build your consistency and self-trust and #2: To double your confidence. The challenge will show you just how much can change when you show up daily for yourself and you train your confidence intentionally.To get in on the Challenge just enroll in the College of Confidence at www.collegeofconfidence.com Thoughts To Journal:What does coming alive look like in your life?If you were to put a number on how alive you are, where do you fall?Identify what is keeping your light dim - is it fear, it is caring what people think,
Words To Create A Beautiful Year Podcast #423 - Bonus Episode
This is a special bonus episode brought to you by the College of Confidence.
We are the most encouraging place on the internet - and the joy and support just overflows. I couldn't help but give you a good Word to fill you this January first.
Today is a day of possibilities.
Today is a day to reconsider your self-concept.
Today is a day to step into who you are becoming.
It is my passion to help set people free from self-doubt, small-thinking and self-sabotage - press in this year and possess this promised land of confidence and joy, peace and goodness for yourself.
We're launching the #100ConfidentDays Challenge in the College of Confidence
Confidence is birthed and strengthened from action, not from feelings.
You won't wait to feel confident to take action - you take action and then you'll feel confident. And this will help you create a beautiful year.
The challenge will show you just how much can change when you show up daily for yourself and you train your confidence intentionally. The goal is that by day #100 you will see that you confidence has doubled.
Join the College of Confidence to join the #100ConfidentDays Challenge here ---> www.collegeofconfidence.com
So, my gift to you is a 5-minute meditation with me - this is what I listen to every morning, and I invite you to save the episode for yourself to do the same. Stand firm in the truth - for the fight for your faith --- which happens in the battlefield of your mind --- is the most important fight you will fight every single day. These affirmations will help you to create a beautiful year. Get the meditation MP3 and full workbook at www.trishblackwell.com/meditations Watch the longer meditations video on YouTube at https://youtu.be/HdFAdZh6Nck
What Will "They" Say?
PODCAST #423
What will "they" say is often part of the internal self-talk that can keep you sidelined from your dreams. This podcast episode explores who "they" are and how to get their voices to quiet down and even go to "mute" so that you can get on with your life and go do big things. It's time to stop caring so much about what "they" think and this podcast pep-talk will super-fuel you to take massive action and to go be audaciously bold. Get the full show notes at ww.trishblackwell.com/423In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
What "they" voices are holding you back in life?What is it that you are so afraid they will say?What happens if you quit or if you stick to something with fierce determination? How to know which to do and how to make sure you quit the right things in 2021 and stick to the things you really want.
REVIEW OF THE WEEK
I have always struggled with my body image. Now I have a beautiful daughter I am so scared that if she grows up having a mom with poor confidence, that she may never see her own beauty. I went on a search for a positive message and found this podcast. I started from the oldest episode I could scroll back to and it took me exactly where I needed to be! I am a first time mom to a beautiful one year old baby girl, which is exactly where Trish was in 2016. I was thrilled to find out that Trish was also a faith based woman and love that she shares her walk with Christ. Since I have started listening on my way to work everyday I have also purchased her book Insecurity Detox. I love starting and ending my day with Trish's positivity and truth. Thank you for sharing your journey with us, you are truly an inspiration. -Kim Todd God's Perfect Timing. KimBTodd.
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What "They" Say About Me?
First off, who is "they"?
An elusive group of people that you can't nameA large category of people that intimate youA small group of specific friends / bullies from 10 years agoA collection of your own thoughts of self-doubt, small-thinking and shame
Are they really even talking about you?
Are you going to give them the right to reign in your life?
And, if they even do say something - so what.
Do you want to live cautiously or courageously?
Do you want to make an impact or protect yourself?
Do you want to come alive or do you want to live half-heartedly?
Prenez vie, prenez vie.
Feeling and Failing - The Two Things To Go After
If you're good at feeling, you'll stop self-sabotaging.
If you're good at failing, you'll stop procrastinating.
Feeling will give you resilience and self-awareness. Your increased awareness will give you higher quality thoughts and a better self-concept, enabling you to see yourself capable of things far beyond your previous emotional intelligence.
Failing will give you courage, perseverance and a stick-to-it-ness / scrappiness that results in the confidence that there is truly nothing that can stand between you and the results you want in life.
When Quitting Is Good
-Stopping something is powerful, not always weak
-Have the courage to do what is right for you - to pivot
-Break up with past behaviors
How To Stick To What You Want
Increase self-trustHave a higher standard of integrity (keeping your word to yourself)Start telling a different narrative about what "they" sayPut more value on what "you" say and what you wantStop worrying about how you look doing it and just do it
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How to win Against Imposter Syndrome Podcast #422
Imposter Syndrome is an expression of insecurity in which we are so preoccupied by what people think of us that we feel like frauds doing what we are doing. Imposter syndrome consumes you with self-doubt, overthinking and feelings of being unqualified. Often people who struggle with this put a tremendous amount of pressure on themselves and are always looking for external affirmation or qualifications to provide internal validation. This episode explores the Imposter Syndrome internal voice, how to win against imposter syndrome, and teaches you how to start evicting it from your self-talk. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/422
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
It's your thoughts that make you feel like an impostor, so breaking the syndrome is less about making you feel more qualified and more about thinking better quality thoughts. Why caring too much what people think is what is making you feel so insecure and struggle with all of the overthinking you're doing about impostor syndrome3 simple things I do win against impostor syndrome that really work
REVIEW OF THE WEEK
Invaluable Tool for your Toolbox
EMJEssentials
I'd heard about the podcast for a year years but it wasn't until a few weeks ago when I made time to listen. Wow- blown away! Trish almost always addresses the very things I’m wrestling with and uses the words and concepts that have made changes in my thoughts. I took time to join the College of Confidence and have been encouraged in my personal struggles and professional challenges by Trish and that community. We all need a toolbox to get through this life - this podcast is that really awesome multi-tool that addresses so many problems we contend with privately and publicly. Thanks, Trish for sharing your gifts!
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Better Quality Thoughts, Better Quality of Confidence
Planning for the new year - your thoughts are everything.
It's time to start trusting the thoughts you choose to think on.
The quality of your thoughts determines the quality of your life.
Go deeper on how to change how you think by listening to episode #420, How to Change the Way You Think(www.trishblackwell.com/420) or by enrolling in my online group coaching program The College of Confidence. (www.collegeofconfidence.com)
Quotes on Thoughts and Winning Against Imposter Syndrome
“If you realized just how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought.” Anonymous“Overthinking is the biggest cause of unhappiness.” Anonymous“We are a product of our thoughts.” Scottie Waves“Thoughts have energy. Make sure your thoughts are positive and powerful.” Anonymous“Thoughts become things.” Mike Dooley"Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will never go any higher than you think.” Benjamin Disraeli“You only have control over three things in your life, the thoughts you think, the images you visualize, and the actions you take.” Jack Canfield“Your life is a reflection of your thoughts.” Anonymous“You are not a helpless victim of your own thoughts, but rather a master of your mind.” Louise Hay
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27 Ways To Stop Being a People Pleaser Podcast #421
Trying to please others puts you on a hamster wheel of inadequacy, powerlessness and in insecurity. People pleasing makes us co-dependent and cautious with how we appear to others. It makes us addicts to caring what people think and keeps us stuck in a life of stagnant averageness - average happiness, average success, average relationships. You were made for more. This podcast episode will give you 27 ways to confidently start breaking the chains of people pleasing that is holding you back from all that God has for you. Stop being a people pleaser today. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/421
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
What is people pleasing, and are you doing it?Why is people pleasing toxic anyways?Why it's important to stop being a people pleaser 20 ways to stop being a people pleaser
Hello! 5-Stars, by Cocoa282133 Hey Trish! My name is Courtney. I just wanted to let you know, you've made a difference in my life. My life has been a roller coaster. I was a single mom at the age of just 16. I was married by 21. Divorced by 24. I didn't have ANY confidence in myself at that point in my life. One day I was searching podcasts and I feel like God led me to yours. When I say your podcast has CHANGED my life, I truly mean it. It's been really hard to date someone after being cheated on the whole time in my marriage. I had a lot of trust issues and just insecurities. Your podcast has helped me so much more than I could ever thank you for. God bless. YOUTUBE, COME BE FRIENDS
Hang out with me on YouTube at www.youtube.com/trishblackwell.
Recent videos released include: How to Use Radical Gratitude to Alleviate Anxiety Reduce Your Unhappiness at Work Create an Effective Journaling Habit Believing that You Actually Can How to Detox Your Mind Strengthening Your Self-Esteem Break Up with People Pleasing THANK YOU: PATRONS
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WHAT IS PEOPLE PLEASING AND ARE YOU ONE?
People pleasing goes beyond simple kindness.
It's based off a low opinion of yourself.
It's a need for others to like you.
It's hard for you to say no.You over-apologize, for everything.You're quick to agree and agreeability is a value. You struggle with authenticity. You're an over-giver.You don’t have any free time - because you give all of yours away.
WHY IS PEOPLE PLEASING TOXIC?
Because it's rooted in caring too much what people think.
It's a belief system that thinks - if I can just make people happy, then I will be happy because I will belong, I will be important and I will be enough.
It makes our happiness contingent on someone else's happiness.
We become victims to other people's whims and decisions. This is why it is important to stop being a people pleaser today.
(Need more coaching on letting go of what people think? Check out episodes #419 and #187 of The Confidence Podcast.)
Negative Emotional Results Experienced:
-frustration and resentment
-feel taken advantage of
-relationships that don't satisfy
-stress and burnout
-identity of worthlessness or contingent on results/achievement
-fear of being left out or not belonging
-past trauma
Rooted in Origins Of:
-self-esteem issues
-fear of rejection
-false control focus
-damaged self-concept
-misplaced belonging
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How to Change the Way You Think Podcast #420
You don't have to think the way you have always thought. In fact, our brains are wired to change and think differently when the right neurological strategies are applied. This podcast episode will help you intentionally think about how to change the way you think. No longer will you feel stuck in old thought patterns once you know how to intentionally change the way you think and train your thoughts. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/420
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
Why we get stuck in old thinking patternsThe differences between positive thinking and powerful thinkingHow to change the way you think
REVIEW OF THE EPISODE:
Love this podcast! 5-Stars. Willow_Lee
I began listening to The Confidence Podcast earlier this year and am incredibly grateful for the joy, peace and confidence I feel after listening to each podcast. Trish, you are a rockstar of an encourager and this world is lucky to have your passion and wisdom pouring into it. The way you guide using God's Word is incredibly refreshing and uplifting. Even in the short months since I discovered your podcast, you have taught me to better love myself and to show up for myself and all that God has planned for me. Trish, thank you for leading by example, for showing up, and for using your talents and experience to lift others up with you.
Hang out with me on YouTube at www.youtube.com/trishblackwell.
Recent videos released include: How to Use Radical Gratitude to Alleviate Anxiety Reduce Your Unhappiness at Work Create an Effective Journaling Habit Believing that You Actually Can How to Detox Your Mind Strengthening Your Self-Esteem Break Up with People Pleasing THANK YOU: PATRONS
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WHY WE GET STUCK IN OLD THINKING PATTERNS
We haven't considered another way.
We think changing is too hard, or won't work.
We don't know other people who have transformed.
We are stuck in distraction and stagnancy.
We haven't been challenged to rise to living life to the fullest.
We are intimidated by the emotions surrounding thinking.
We have self-identified as a hot-mess or a sub-standard self-concept.
We have a disorganized life, and therefore a disorganized mind.
We believe that we can't change the way we think, when that is not true.
I will have to give an account for my life - and for my stewardship of what I have been given or what has been within my control. This inspires me and challenges me.
Old thinking - and an attachment to old thinking ("this is just how I think," "this is just how I have always been," "this is just what everyone I know thinks") - is rooted in a pattern that once kept us protected.
But what once protected us temporarily can harm us long-term and keep us from our potential. These concepts grow mold and layers of dust telling us messages of
worthlessness
lack
overwhelm
powerlessness
averageness
To start this process, we first must come courageously face to face with our emotions and let ourselves FEEL.
The Feeling Tunnel
start, middle and end of feeling.
Feel whatever it is, and then move past it - telling yourself what you are in agreement with and what you are committed to making happen.
THE DIFFERENCES BETWEEN POSITIVE THINKING AND POWERFUL THINKING
I don't want you to be a positive thinker, I want you to be a powerful thinker.
Mindset Mantra:
I am more than just a positive thinker, I am a powerful thinker.
Journaling Prompts for Powerful Thinking:
How to Stop Caring What People Think - 2020 Update Podcast #419
The courage to be disliked is a mark of confidence. When you learn to stop caring what people think, you will unleash your fullest potential. Thankfully, this year has given us an unique perspective on how to stop caring what people think.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we'll be talking about:
How to leverage what 2020 has given us to help you unshackle yourself from the chains of caring too much what people thinkDangerous pitfalls of 2020 that could drive you into caring too much what people think if you aren't careful How becoming a "powerful thinker" can change everything for you in this area of personal struggle in your life.
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REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Love this podcast, 5 stars, by Nelli999 I listened to Trish about 6 years ago and loved her podcast and used a lot of what she said into my life and it changed for the better. I haven't listened to her in the past 3 years and finally came back to get confidence in myself again. A year ago I quit my high paying job because it was toxic to me and I was very happy to quit there. At that time I didn't know it would take me a year later to get a job. It's been a hard year interviewing having them tell you we like you, but you don't have a degree, or we are going to hire someone with no experience. Makes you feel like crap. Finally landed a job that I didn't think I would get because I didn't have the experience but told them I would do anything and work up in the company. I have learned so much at this job and it was a blessing that I got it. Anyways. My confidence was way down. Just listening to Trish in the past month has changed my confidence for the better. I have a lot of episodes to get caught up on but I am glad I am back. Thank you Trish.
HOW TO USE 2020 TO YOUR CONFIDENCE ADVANTAGE
2020 is a year of division, cancel-culture and polarity. If you can walk through this year and still think that you have control over what people think or that you can sway or convince people to like you, then you haven't been paying attention.
Give yourself a freedom pass to be okay not being liked.
How to Figure Out What You Want Podcast #418
If you don't know how to figure out what you want, then you'll find yourself drifting through life instead of designing your dream life. This podcast episode will help you figure out what you know, know how to take that idea and progress it into a dream, and then how to take that dream and turn it into a tangible, actionable goal. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/418
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we'll be talking about:
What's the difference between goals and dreams? And how about ideas? Why are we afraid to dream?How do you take your dream and turn it into a goal?
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REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Confidence After Abandonment, by Rachel_Noah88, 5 Stars
This podcast is exactly what I needed. When my childhood "best friends" began to ignore me and exclude me from gatherings without explanation, I fell into a very dark place. I began to blame myself for the loss of the relationships and I obsessively replayed every interaction I had with them, over the 20 year period, over and over in my mind. I not only lost all my confidence, but I became very insecure. It caused me to lose all my trust in my other healthy relationships in my life and I began to hurt those that loved me most. Then, I found Trish. Trish's encouraging spirit is beyond inspiring, and I love her ability to relate life situations to the word of God. She allowed me to gain confidence in my body image, my career, and most importantly, myself and my relationships with others. I would love to hear more on "how to be confident after abandonment," because although therapy and Trish have helped me a lot, I still have a long way to go. Love you, Trish!
WHAT INSPIRED THIS ON MY HEART:
And idea is where we all start.
But to take it to a dream, means we have to believe in it.
Then, to next level the dream to actualization of it, goals need to be put into place.
My job as a coach is to call you up to your highest self.
It is to tell you the truth and show you were you aren't being specific.
When we aren't specific, we will wander.
When we wander, we will get mediocre results and experiences.
Your Belief System matters.
Do you belief that you were created for more?
All Beliefs Create (ABC) something.
Believe that you matter.
Believe that you have purpose.
Believe that you can awaken passion.
Believe that you can be adventurous as you chase what you want.
If you don't know what you want, you won't know what to go after - and you'll live a life of average drabness. You were made for more.
---- > the number of people who come to me and simply don't know what they want or what they are passionate about is astounding. Do not be discouraged if you find yourself in this category --- culture has taught us to follow the check-boxes. It's time to stop drifting and to start taking control of what you are willing to dream and design for your life.
WHAT'S THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN DREAMS AND GOALS?
Goals are something you are acting on.
Dreams are something you are just thinking about.
Goals have deadlines.
Dreams are loosy goosey.
Goals have a cost.
Dreams are free.
Goals produce results.
Dreams don't.
Goals can change your life.
Dreams can inspire you.
Goals have a focus.
Dreams don't.
Dreams can inspire you, but goals can change your life.
Goals do come true.
Ideas?
How to Give Girls Confidence Podcast #417
Confidence opens opportunities in life. It helps potential flourish, and it enables activation of one's dreams. Being able to give confidence to others isn't found in just building people up, it happens by teaching the basics of confidence.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we'll be talking about:
How to Give Girls Confidence
Teaching confidence to others, even if you don't quite feel ready yourselfThe 5 stages of confidence - and where you are in the stages3 simple ways to start giving the girls in your life the base tools to be confident
ANNOUNCEMENT:
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REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Awesome Podcast! 5 Stars.
Clarisse Gomez
Trish, host of the Confidence Podcast, highlights all aspects of self-help and more in this can't miss podcast! The host and expert guests offer insightful advice and information that is helpful to anyone that listens!
TEACHING AND GIVING CONFIDENCE TO GIRLS (& TO OTHERS), EVEN IF YOU DON'T FEEL CONFIDENT ENOUGH YOURSELF
Teaching forces you to do. Remember, to teach anyone anything, you just need to be one step ahead of them.Sometimes, having to act as a leader in this area will help you connect your HEAD > HEART > HANDS
Doing creates mastering.
THE 5 STAGES OF CONFIDENCE
Be someone with clear priorities.Be someone who thinks powerful thoughts.Be someone who keeps their word to themselves.Be someone who is healthy and happy.Be someone growing and contributing.
To learn more about The 5 Stages of Confidence, sign up for my free masterclass at www.trishblackwell.com/freeclass
3 SIMPLE WAYS TO GIVE GIRLS THE BASE FOUNDATION OF CONFIDENCE
Be Yourself.Be Brave.Be Vocal.
Be Yourself.
-Be aware of wins (little things done well over time create confidence)
Be Brave.
-Take action.
-Be okay not being the best (life isn't a competition)
-Try new things and embrace progression not perfection
-Normalize being scared or nervous
Being Vocal.
-Speak loudly
-Seek to understand what you feel
-Spend time journaling
-Support others with compliments
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I can't thank you enough- please keep sharing! And, if you love the encouragement you find here, don't forget, I'm now showing up weekly on Thursdays on YouTube. And I’m just a baby-YouTuber, sooooo I need your support and your help.
Click here to subscribe and encourage me on my YouTube channel
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If you want more calm in your life, you need to cultivate it and create it. As the holidays approach that's exactly what we'll be doing as a community in the College of Confidence. Come join us now and get in on all of the live coaching we're doing this month … including a no-holiday-drama anti-stress coaching session. Yep. You want in on this.
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LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:
Laureine90
Hi Trish, thank you for getting me through a tough week at work. Your calming voice and broken down into digestible step approach is so refreshing! I've struggled with confidence my whole life! I've gotten promoted three times in the last 7 years and constantly think I don't deserve it. I'm excited to learn and grow as I start getting more and more immersed in your podcasts. I listen to them while driving to my appointments for work. They give me the strength to get out of the car sometimes. Thank you for being incredible. -Lauren
How to Stop Feeling Like You Have So Much to Do Podcast #416
Do you always feel like you have so much to do? Are you living in a state of exhaustion, overwhelm, and feeling like you can never quite catch up? Y'all, this is the state of the world right now - and it's killing our spirits and squashing our confidence and courage without us realizing what's happening. You are doing better than you think you are, and this podcast coaching session is going to help you learn how to change what you say to yourself so that you feel empowered and unstoppable, not defeated and discouraged.
Ya'll. Can we talk about being more calm? I don't know about you, but I want to live at the pace of Jesus. I want a slow, beautiful, cultivated life. Not a chaotic, frantic, fly-by-the-seat of my pants kind of life.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
What saying "I have so much to do" is actually doing to your heartWhat to say back to yourself when you hear yourself say "I have so much to do"What you can do now to start radically changing how you feel (10 things you can do!)
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Thank you! Seriously! We just ranked #76 for Self-Improvement Podcasts in all of iTunes in the United States. You have helped this happen - helping more people find this free, encouraging coaching by
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REVIEW OF THE WEEK
I listen to this podcast every morning while I get ready for work. It really sets the tone for the rest of my day and makes me feel unstoppable! Trish has inspired me with so much, most recently being my eBook I published on Amazon, The Legend of Ollie Daniels. Thank you Trish!
-Cfhved113
WHAT SAYING "I HAVE SO MUCH TO DO" IS ACTUALLY DOING TO YOUR HEART
“I have so much to do” = victim minded statement
It preemptively creates defeat, and overwhelm.It talks about your mountain, instead of talking to your mountain.It creates competing demands, exhausts you mentally and emotionally and emphasizes scarcity in your life. It makes you feel stretched thin and without power.
Realize that it's not the task or the list that you're avoiding, it's the uncomfortable feelings that come from it. Or, it's the missing motivation to do what you technically want to do. Don't wait for the motivation - do the thing and the motivation will come.
Fundamentally, having too much to do crushes your spirit and makes you feel a sense of pointlessness.
WHAT TO SAY BACK TO YOURSELF WHEN YOU HEAR YOURSELF SAY: "I HAVE SO MUCH TO DO"
Mountain, move.
Mountain, I've got you.
Trish, just do the next right thing.
Trish, create a small win.
I am confident, courageous and capable.
I can do hard things.
I will create order and take action.
I am a doer and I am not intimidated by what is ahead.
My job is to be faithful to what I can do, and to release what I can't.
My job today is to learn, to love, and to live well.
My job is to work hard and work hard to rest well.
WHAT YOU CAN DO NOW TO START RADICALLY CHANGING HOW YOU FEEL
Stop expecting yourself to be able to do it all right nowPick a high impact task to start focusing onKnow which glasses are glass and which ones are rubberWatch your wordsRemind yourself that you can do hard thingsRest in knowing that you will have the strength you need for tomorrow tomorrow - and so you can stay intentionally at peace today wit...
How to Exchange Your Anxious Heart for a Peaceful Heart Podcast #415
Anxiety, or overwhelm, can make your spirit feel crushed, and your life feel stuck. I know, I've lived that life. In this podcast episode we are going to pull back the curtain on what living with anxiety looks like and talk about some effective ways to help alleviate and manage the anxiety on a daily basis that has worked for me and for my students. God invites us into a life of peace - and He can take our anxious heart and exchange it for one that is peace-filled. Let's talk about how we can step into that together in this conversation. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/415
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we'll be talking about:
My anxiety story - something I've never really shared beforeThe differences between what anxiety says and what peace says5 effective daily habits that have helped my anxiety
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
StrengthSeeker, 5 stars
Trish - I truly feel that God led me to discover your podcast and your virtual friendship! In June I was struggling in a 25-year marriage to the father of our four kids. I couldn’t find the strength to make a change that could deeply impact our whole family. I also had a boss who had started marginalizing and demeaning me daily in my already stressful career. Between work and home life I felt like I was getting beaten down 24/7. It was exhausting and it was breaking me. Even thought I have strong spiritual life and great group of Christian friends I needed a cheerleader. I needed confidence. I "randomly" discovered your coaching and it was exactly what I needed. The first episode I listened to was "How to Have Difficult Conversations" and I was hooked. I was able to work with my husband to decide that divorce was the best thing for our whole family. We're in the thick of the process now and your weekly pep talks are getting me through. I love the way you blend faith-based statements with real life relevance. I especially like the way you provide a number of tips or steps to accent your coaching message. For busy women like me I find myself replaying those tips constantly. When I wake up on Tuesdays I’m always more energized - it's Trish Day! I listen to you on my commute into work and it sets the course for the rest of the week. Thank you for cheering me on! You are amazing.
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Quotes on Anxiety:
I just give myself permission to suck…I find this hugely liberating.
-John Green
No need to hurry. No need to sparkle. No need to be anyone but oneself.
-Virginia Woolf
“Stress is an ignorant state. It believes that everything is an emergency. Nothing is that important.”
—Natalie Goldberg
“Anxiety does not empty tomorrow of its sorrows, but only empties today of its strength.”
—Charles Spurgeon
“Anxiety is a thin stream of fear trickling through the mind. If encouraged, it cuts a channel into which all other thoughts are drained.”
—Arthur Somers Roche
“Just when the caterpillar thought the world was ending, he turned into a butterfly.”
—Anonymous proverb
“Do what you can, with what you’ve got, where you are.”
—Theodore Roosevelt
“Anxiety’s like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you very far.”
—Jodi Picoult
“Life is ten percent what you experience and ninety percent how you respond to it.”
—Anonymous
“People become attached to their burdens sometimes more than the burdens are attached to them.”
The Phrase that Confident People Use Most Podcast #414
There's a powerful phrase that confident people use that will open doors of opportunity, unleash your courage and up-level your resilience. The phrase sounds flippant, and simple, but that's exactly why it's so powerful. In fact, this phrase will help you stay present - not in the past and not in the future - for that is where the power for your confidence is most accessible. Let's dive into the phrase that confident people use the most.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we'll be talking about:
The Phrase that Confident People Use MostHow to use it for yourself effectivelyInner self-talk to help you take action on anything, face any fear or rejection, and to build resilience
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
God-fidence. 5-Stars, by kjenison
Trish, your podcast is one that I listen to and immediately feel peace like a good therapy session. I am inspired to show up just as I am and take chances just hearing all the struggles and thoughts you have that mirror what I feel. Your vulnerability is inspiring! Thank yo ufor going first and revealing God through your words!
THE 5 STAGES OF CONFIDENCE
Be someone with clear priorities.Be someone who thinks powerful thoughts.Be someone who keeps their word to themselves.Be someone who is healthy and happy.Be someone growing and contributing.
INVITATION:
Look, if you want to like yourself, give yourself and edge of confidence by understanding where you are in the 5 Stages of Confidence. If you've never heard my coaching on this before, now's the time to jump in. I'm re-offering my 5-star rated webinar on How to Have More Confidence. In it you'll learn the 5 Stages of Confidence, the Confidence Formula, and how to get from one stage of confidence to the next.
Sign up for free at www.trishblackwell.com/freeclass
THE PHRASE CONFIDENT PEOPLE USE MOST
"Well, anyways…"
As one of the most powerful statements help you move forward and just keep going.
What does it help? It helps you to….
-move on when you feel uncomfortable
-accept rejection and move forward
-let go of the past
-not obsess about the future or outcome
-be okay being radically yourself and not worrying about other people liking you
It roots our feet to the present.
Confidence thrives when we are radically present.
Being present eliminates future self-doubt, overthinking, speculation and stories, some anxiety and fear of the unknown. It also releases control to God and puts us into a place where we trust that He's in control.
HOW TO USE THE PHRASE EFFECTIVELY
In Business:
-I'm supposed to pivot and be creative with new things
-Failure is feedback
-I'm more proud of my effort than of the outcome
-You never know unless you ask
In Personal Life:
-I'm growing, and am supposed to have hiccups
-I release myself from beating myself up
-I am okay being different
-I'm committed to living my life with my heart all in
INNER TALK FOR SELF-COACHING
Inner self-talk to help you take action on anything, face any fear or rejection and to build resilience
I can face anything, because I am okay with uncomfortable emotions.I will be able to manage and move on from anything unknown ahead.I am not the one "holding it all together" anyways - I trust that God is with me and that whatever is ahead will work out for my good. And so what if that happens / if they think that / if it doesn't work….
OTHER EPISODES YOU MIGHT ENJOY:
411: How to Speak up For Yourself with Confidence
www.trishblackwell.com/411
413: Forgiving Yourself for Self-Destructive Behavior
www.trishblackwell.com/413
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Forgiving Self-Destructive Behavior Podcast #413
Forgiving self-destructive behavior keeps many people stuck in confusion and conflict. If you've spent a huge portion of your life stuck in self-sabotage, self-destructive or unhealthy patterns of thought or behavior, then this episode is for you. In it we're going to explore how to forgive yourself for being so harmful, for making poor decisions and wasting time. Forgiveness is the balm that will soothe your heart and give your mind the brain space it craves to walk and think with more confidence.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we'll be talking about:
Why it's so hard to forgive ourselves when we don’t struggle as much in forgiving others13 things you can do to start letting go and forgiving yourself for harmful things you've doneThe next steps to take in rebuilding your self-trust and self-compassion
Do you love the show? We've love for you to become an official supporter of The Confidence Podcast by becoming a Patron. We have 17 bonus episodes ready for you to unlock, all for just $5. Go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast to get started.
INVITATION:
Look, if you want to like yourself, give yourself and edge of confidence by understanding where you are in the 5 Stages of Confidence. If you've never heard my coaching on this before, now's the time to jump in. I'm re-offering my 5-star rated webinar on How to Have More Confidence. In it you'll learn the 5 Stages of Confidence, the Confidence Formula, and how to get from one stage of confidence to the next.
Sign up for free at www.trishblackwell.com/freeclass
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Best confidence podcast. Hands down.
Skrwzvh, 5 stars.
A month or so ago my friend watched a guy strut by with a posture and confidence that made her stop and say, "If I had his confidence I could rule the world." And I stopped and thought, "That's an opportunity for me. Why the heck not me?" I strive to be an inspiration and role model to my two young children and to be the person I deserve to be to be myself. This podcast has really opened my eyes and my mind and is helping me become stronger and more confidence everyday. I am so grateful to have stumbled upon your coaching and look forward to growing with you more. Thank you so much and please keep it up!
WHY IS IT SO HARD TO FORGIVE YOURSELF?
Self-forgiveness is not letting yourself off the hook, or being easy on yourself.
It's understanding that unforgiveness doesn't help, and holding onto things hurts your psyche.
Guilt is a long-term decision to feel miserable for a long time. And there are deep consequences. You'll be miserable, and you'll attract other miserable people.
Difficulty forgiving also leads to heart attacks, high blood pressure and depression.
What types of self-destructive behavior can be hard to forgive?
Any type that you have wanted to be free from - some examples of which are: over eating, over drinking, binging, compulsive shopping, gambling, scrolling, cutting, compulsive exercising, control, perfectionism, procrastination, smoking, toxic relationship patterns
13 WAYS TO START FORGIVING YOURSELF FOR SELF-DESTRUCTIVE BEHAVIOR
Take ownership of your mistake.
Articulate how you feel.
Identify the hurt
Understand what you want (peace)
Recognize unrealistic expectations
Stop living on replay mode
Apologize to yourself or your body
Put things into perspective
Allow God in
Replace guilt with gratitude
Renew your mind
Do a new thing (repent, change behavior, etc.)
Rest and trust.
Unbelief makes it hard for us to forgive ourselves.
-we believe in forgiveness for others
-we believe that God forgives in theory
-so why can't we forgive ourselves
NEXT STEPS IN REBUILDING SELF-TRUST & COMPASSION
…while also still maintaining and nurturing positive behavior change.
How to Actually Like Yourself Podcast#412
To learn how to actually like yourself, you have to first figure out who you are and spend time with yourself. This podcast episode peers into how to go deep in self-identity and how to trust who God created you to be. When you know that the Maker made you the way you are and that what He makes is good, then you can trust that He wants you to actually like yourself. The best part is that when you like yourself, you are more effective at everything you do in the world - from achievements to relationships, to just living life. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/412
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we'll be talking about:
Some of the reasons why we don't like ourselves (and what that is doing to us)3 ways to start liking yourself - all of which you can do right nowWhat happens when you actually like yourself
Do you love the show? We've love for you to become an official supporter of The Confidence Podcast by becoming a Patron. We have 17 bonus episodes ready for you to unlock, all for just $5. Go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast to get started.
INVITATION:
Look, if you want to like yourself, give yourself and edge of confidence by understanding where you are in the 5 Stages of Confidence. If you've never heard my coaching on this before, now's the time to jump in. I'm re-offering my 5-star rated webinar on How to Have More Confidence. In it you'll learn the 5 Stages of Confidence, the Confidence Formula, and how to get from one stage of confidence to the next.
Sign up for free at www.trishblackwell.com/freeclass
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Heart of Gratitude, kbdaffy, 5 stars
The confidence podcast was recommended to me from a friend and since my first listen, I've been all in! Living most of my life convinced I was a victim had me suffocating because of self-criticism, isolation, anxiety and depression. My own mind had been my most limiting factor - I just didn't know how to do anything about it. I wanted to believe I knew God didn't want these thoughts and feelings to rule my life but I had no idea how deeply rooted a lot of my limiting beliefs were. I never would have believed that listening to one podcast episode could impact my life so greatly. I'm now part of the COC and doing coaching sessions with Trish. I can honestly say I have never thought about the power of my own thinking as intentionally as I am now. I've never experienced true peace in God's love until this year. Trish, you are one incredible human and God knows I'm so grateful for you and the work you do. Keep on encouraging and being you! God bless.
WHY WE DON'T LIKE OURSELVES
-We're stuck in toxic comparison
-We think we'll like ourselves when…. (Conditional liking)
-We are so stuck on "there" that we don’t live in our "here"
-We don’t know ourselves - we are too busy to have a relationship
-We still believe toxic words from other people about who we are
-We put our identity in what we do, not who we are
Not actually liking yourself is a handicap in life.
It prevents you from showing up as your real self, as fully alive and as capable to play the role in the world that you were created to play. It positions you with a victim mindset - whoa is me, everything is hard, if only I were different - and it makes us passive to being able to embrace and control what we can. It poisons our mental wellbeing, driving us into more anxiety-driven behaviors, fear, hiding and self-sabotage.
HOW TO START LIKING YOURSELF
1: GET TO KNOW YOURSELF BY ASKING GOOD QUESTIONS
-Question what you have taken for granted and assumed
-Question those around you
-Question yourself, take personality tests
-Question what God has you on Earth for
-Question who you are supposed to help
-Question why you reject yourself
2 SPEND TIME WITH YOURSELF
-Through journaling
How to Speak Up for Yourself with Confidence Podcast #411
You have a voice, it's time to use it. When we don't use our voices, and don't speak up for ourselves or for what is right, the world suffers, as do we. It's time to start speaking with confidence, even if you have never done so before. This podcast episode will hold your hand and then give you the push you need to start speaking up and rising up with confidence. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/411
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we'll be talking about:
How we have lost our voice, and the desperate need for it in the worldHow to have a voice and to start using itHow to Speak up to Others (who intimidate you, who manipulate you, who look past you)How to Speak up for Yourself (to yourself, to your past and to your future)
Do you love the show? We've love for you to become an official supporter of The Confidence Podcast by becoming a Patron. We have 17 bonus episodes ready for you to unlock, all for just $5. Go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast to get started.
Ready to stop caring what people think? Join us for our free online masterclass -we have live sessions this week. Don't you think it's time to be free from being held back because of the stories you tell yourself about what others think of you? Get your free seat at www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Just started listening … wow.
Emma aaa
This podcast is 11/10. She goes above and beyond in each topic she talks about. I take her advice and run with it in everyday life. Success is ALWAYS guaranteed. Love you, love your word, love the show.
WHY HAVE WE LOST OUR VOICE?
Don't let what someone said steal your destiny from you.
It's time to stop aligning yourself with what people have said about you and instead identify yourself by what God says about you. (And He says that you have purpose, you are unique, you are his masterpiece, you are his child, you have specific talent, you are loved, and you are never alone.)
Typically, there is a moment in our past that we felt unsafe after using our voice.
-you got made fun of; told that there was something wrong with you
-you said something awkward
-you didn't have parents or role models who built you up
-you heard more prohibitory language than affirmative language in your house
-you felt overshadowed by another personality you grew up around
-you learned that the people around you weren't listening, so you felt like it didn't matter
-you spoke up, but an abuser in your life didn't listen
Speaking up and using your voice doesn't feel safe.
But it is less safe to stay silent and to sulk in the shadows of life.
What got me started?
I knew I had a moral obligation to start speaking up - through writing first, and then speaking. I felt the pull on my soul and in my desire, but it was too hard to do. I was tremendously uncomfortable and resistant with it - the thought filled me with shame.I saw someone else be brave and it inspired me. (after I spent years hiding the book)I wanted to be someone who did brave things, and I knew how much Roth had helped me, I knew I couldn't with good conscious stay silent and "safe" anymore.
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HOW TO HAVE A VOICE AND START USING IT
You'll feel the itch.
But you'll question your right to itch it.
Go on, itch it, it will relieve something deep in your soul.
We speak up and use our voice, not just for ourselves, but for those like us who still feel stuck and silenced.
Recognize that what you have to say matters.
Realize that your voice can help others.
Remember that words give life - and bringing yours to the surface births life.
Start practicing.
Know it will be awkward.
You will feel emotionally exposed and hungover.
HOW TO STOP BEATING YOURSELF UP Podcast #410
Beating yourself up?
Pull back the curtain of your heart and let's have a conversation about the pressure you put on yourself.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we'll be talking about:
How to recognize when you are beating yourself upThe 4 primary fears the drive the self-flagellation and guilt 4 strategies that are proven effective to help break the cycle10 ways to practice self-kindness if you struggle with beating yourself up
Do you love the show? We've love for you to become an official supporter of The Confidence Podcast by becoming a Patron. We have 17 bonus episodes ready for you to unlock, all for just $5. Go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast to get started.
WHAT ARE THE FEARS BEHIND BEATING OURSELVES UP
Beating yourself up seems like the most common way to tackle our problems but instead, it hinders your growth. Here are some reasons (aka fears) why you are beating yourself up.
Fear of not being enough.-over-attachment to affirmation and culturally defined success (Lack and fixed mindset!)
Fear of being discovered as defective.-speak about beauty, makeup, shame, etc, i just wasn't taught and wasn't built up in this way (Inadequacy and shame!)
Fear of not actually being motivated-what if you need the pressure and the inner-bully? lack of self-trust (Laziness!)
Fear of not being able to change.-I engaged in this behavior for years because I felt like I was letting God down, and then I felt overlooked by God because He wasn't healing me from my struggle in the way I wanted or expected; I was afraid I was broken and unable to change or be changed. (Guilt!)
STRATEGIES THAT HAVE BEEN EFFECTIVE IN MY COACHING Use these strategies to stop beating yourself up today. So What Strategy -So what, everything will work out just fine and now I get to pivot and learn Even If, I Will Statements -Even if this is botched and I'm behind, I will still be loved, etc. Journaling -21-Day Toxic Thought Freedom Journal, get yours free at www.trishblackwell.com/freedomjournal Becoming a Student of Life -Growth mindset, learning in everything, trusting God with your transformation, celebrating growth, letting Jesus be my teacher and learning to surrender HOW TO PRACTICE SELF-KINDNESS AND STOP BEATING YOURSELF UP
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Be a friend to yourself - slow down, be present, be nice.
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Put a higher value on kindness
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Remember that being mean doesn't work
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Focus on more positive self-talk
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Write out a daily truth or verse
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Practice patience with yourself and others
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Accept your challenges as opportunities
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Get an aerial view - there's no right way to do anything, there's always a pivot
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Surround yourself with people who want you to succeed10. Do a distraction detox
OTHER EPISODES OF THE CONFIDENCE PODCAST YOU WILL LIKE
How to Stop Being So Self-Critical, Episode #345 www.trishblackwell.com/345 Why Beating Yourself Up Doesn't Work, Episode #277 www.trishblackwell.com/277 ANNOUNCEMENTS:
Did you know that confidence is simple? If you follow The Confidence Formula in the way we teach in the COC, then it's as easy as (1). slowing down, (2). simplifying and (3) strategizing ... all of which we do right alongside you in the COC. We're thick into the Back-to-Basics Challenge, implementing the Confidence Formula in the College of Confidence and it's not too late to join us. It's back to school, back to basics ... something we all need.
I’ll be coaching you through the following categories, for a full week at a time.
Overthinking
Weight loss
Self-Sabotage
Stress
Comparison
Being Yourself
This is exclusively for students in the College of Confidence. It’s time for you to join us. Click here to become official so that you don’t miss out on these next 6-weeks of the transformational coaching, community, and challenge.
How to Stop Being Jealous of Others Podcast #409
Jealousy rots the bones, but it doesn't have to rot yours anymore. This podcast episode dives into how to stop being jealous of others so that you can get on with your own life and thrive where God has planted and placed you. Too often we don't call ourselves out on jealousy, envy or comparison, and it tarnishes our spirit, our joy and our confidence from the inside it. It's time to get serious about cleaning out our hearts so that we have space to live with joy, not jealousy. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/409
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're chit-chatting about:
The sneaky ways that jealousy shows up in our lives - and why we never call ourselves out for it - it's time to be honest, y'all!10 ways how you can start eliminating the impact of jealousy in your life right nowThe 2 ways jealousy can destroy a relationship: and how to make sure it doesn't hurt yours
FREE COACHING: One of the things that drive us deeper into jealousy is our obsession and distraction over what people think of us. You've heard me coach on this topic on podcasts before, but I want to go deeper than that with you - I want to invite you into my Masterclass on How to Stop Caring What People Think. We're re-launched it and I don't want you to miss out on it. There are classes being offered today and tomorrow ---- come on, I know you want to come to hang out with me beyond the podcast. Now's your chance! Sign up for FREE here >>>> How to Stop Caring What People Think: www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Life Changing!! By LizKU124
Trish and her podcast have changed my life. Her positivity, fresh perspectives, insight, knowledge and experiences have helped me to grow as a person and become less anxious and more confident. She adds in the perfect amount of spiritual content to supplement her teachings, and I know that whenever I start my day with The Confidence Podcast, it's going to be a great day. Thank you Trish for your ongoing encouragement that you share and for helping me to become a better, more confident version of myself!
HOW DOES JEALOUSY SHOW UP?
Comparison
Inadequacy
Dieting
Relationships
Low self-esteem
Feelings of insecurity
Uncertainty
Worth issues
Different statements that express jealousy that you might not expect:
I just feel behind ...
I should be doing more ....
They seem to have it all together ...
They know what they're doing ....
I wish I had it as easy as ....
Must be nice ...
They're so lucky ...
Jealousy turns our eyes outward - and sets our hearts up for a state of constant comparison.
Comparison detracts us from being able to be present, engaged and confident.
Bottom line: If you want to be confident, you have to ruthlessly eliminate jealousy from your heart
HOW TO ELIMINATE JEALOUSY
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Pay attention to where it pops up in your life.
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Call it what it is .... don't flower it up.
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Surrender your heart and pray for cleansing.
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Guard your thoughts - and parent your phone!
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Proactively give praise for all that you have and all that you are
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Understand that you have an isolated narrative
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Everyone has a story - honor yours and honor theirs
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Ask yourself, do you want to live with a heart of abundant joy, or of anxious lack?
Ultimately, jealousy can be minimized if you follow the tenants of The Confidence Formula
-Slow down
-Simplify
-Strategize
JEALOUSY IN RELATIONSHIPS
- Lack of Trust Problem of communication Problem of transparency Problem of confidence
- Lack of Teamwork Problem of perspective Problem of communication Problem of collaboration ANNOUNCEMENTS:
COLLEGE OF CONFIDENCE CHALLENGEIt's back to school, back to basics ... something we all need.
I’ll be coaching you through the following categories, for a full week at a time.
How to Appear More Confident than You Actually Are Podcast #408
Appearing more confident than you are is a decision, and there are a few small tricks you can do to hack this habit for yourself. Confidence is not a destination, but rather a journey - so it's natural for your confidence to ebb and flow. Thankfully, you don't have to always feel confident to be confident. This podcast episode will teach you how to do just that. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/408
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we'll be talking about:
How to appear more confident than you actually are or feel like you areThe secret to being confident, but not arrogant Building a confidence bank for your brain
Do you love the show? We've love for you to become an official supporter of The Confidence Podcast by becoming a Patron. We have 17 bonus episodes ready for you to unlock, all for just $5. Go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast to get started.
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Amazing Podcast, 5 Stars by Shelby Eichstadt
This lady has CHANGED MY LIFE. I have been listening to this podcast for the past two years and I cannot emphasize how much Trish has helped me in my personal growth/mental health/eating disorder recovery journeys. I have done YEARS of therapy and was in inpatient treatment for an eating disorder and I can honestly say this podcast has helped me in probably more ways than those other things. Trish speaks to me in a way that I feel like no one else can relate. Like half of the time I am like, are we like the same person lol. If you haven't listened, you NEED to. This lady knows what she's talking about and can give you PRACTICAL ways to deal with life challenges. I cannot say enough good things about this podcast. Thank you Trish for all that you do. You are making an impact in this world.
QUICK BONUS COACHING MOMENT:
We're going to go back to the basics here, and we're going to have a conversation around how to get your neurons firing together so that your brain and thoughts get wired in the way we want --- with a powerful, victorious mindset.
It starts with a base layer: belief. I believe I can do hard things.
Next, up the pyramid ...I will not avoid doing hard things, because I understand that hard things are part of life.
Then, the next ascending layer...I am good at doing hard things.
Finally...
I like to do hard things.
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HOW TO APPEAR MORE CONFIDENT THAN YOU ACTUALLY ARE
Do people that appear extremely confident really feel that way? Is it an act? Do they ever feel what I feel?
You don't have to be the best.
You don't have to know what you're doing.
You just have to be yourself.
You will appear most confident when you are most yourself and most relaxed.
How, so, how do you do that?
Smile.
Reassure yourself.
Get to know yourself.
Stand comfortably.
Have open posture and body language.
Do things and take action.
How do I do this? As a confidence coach, you might think I have mastered confidence, but I haven't. Confidence is a relationship - a spiritual practice almost - that I will be exploring and expanding my entire life.
I aspire to have a thick skin and tender heart.
I aspire to be the friendliest person in a room.
I aspire to smile more than anyone else I know.
I aspire to be consistently, openly and unapologetically myself.
I aspire to do the things that scare, intimidate or overwhelm me.
How to Stop Putting Pressure On Yourself Podcast #407
Putting pressure on yourself doesn't work. In fact, it's a surefire way to wreck your confidence, spiral in overthinking, and lose your joy to comparison and jealousy. Putting pressure on yourself is a false prophet that we have convinced ourselves will lead us to the success crave. But maybe our definition of success is skewed? Maybe there is a way to live free from the pressure, the guilt, the anxiety, the comparison, the feeling behind, and feeling inadequate? This podcast episode will dive into exactly that and more. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/407
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
Why we put pressure on ourselves in the first place, and why it's not just not working, but reverse workingThe connection between pressure and guilt5 things you can do today to start shifting the internal conversation in your mind
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
One Step at at Time - 5 Stars
Miss E Room 135
Trish1 I am a teacher and thoroughly enjoy the luxury of having summers off. However, as much as I look forward to summer break I always find myself in a weird place as it forces me to process my emotions and face myself. That began as reading my Bible daily and lifting weights consistently. Early on in June I stumbled upon your podcast and am SO THANKFUL for it. I binge listened to the first couple of weeks and now have made the College of Confidence and Tuesday podcast part of my weekly routine. I often say Amen girl! Am feeling so uplifted as I hear your words!
WHY WE PUT PRESSURE ON OURSELVES IN THE FIRST PLACE
We think we aren't motivated if we don't.
We think we're behind or not enough.
We think our feelings dictate ours lives, not vice versa.
We aren't doing the thought work we need.
We aren't making time to think and journal and be coached.
We aren't stretching our belief systems to believe in change.
Ultimately, we are in a constant state of dissatisfaction.
How do you know if you're putting too much pressure on yourself?
-you wake with anxiety
-you let your failures or fears keep you from trying
-you don't think you're good enough
-you feel stressed out all the time.
-you have unrealistic expectations
-you always want more or feel like you should do more
-you can't relax
-you think your life will be better when you just achieve the next thing
WHY DOES THE PRESSURE NOT WORK?
It chokes our confidence.
It directs us to chase the wrong definition of success.
It subconsciously communicates to us that we aren't naturally motivated - we don't trust ourselves.
It speaks more of pessimism than of optimism.
It makes us feel like we're behind where we should be.
HOW DOES IT ACTUALLY REVERSE-WORK?
It tarnishes the real definition of success - and our ability to live life well.Success is not found in achievement or accumulation - not even in status. Success is a state of the soul. It is the pursuit of living life, with all you have been given, faithfully and fully.
Pressure pinches the flow of our best life.
(Think about pinching a hose).
THE CONNECTION BETWEEN PRESSURE AND GUILT Guilt drives us to dark places of shame and stuckness. For me, with pressure, there was an innate message to myself that I had to go all in all the time otherwise I would fail or drift off course. The drifting scared me because I didn't trust myself. Therefore, the more pressure I put on myself, the more dramatic it felt when I didn't do things perfectly. Pressure communicates an unspoken expectation of perfection. So, when I wasn't perfect, the tsunami of guilt swept me up. Now, when I'm pressuring myself to be beyond where I am at the moment, these help:
Delight and distraction contradict one another. What's the rush, I'm not in a hurry? God, I trust you with my pace and my place.
How to Be Okay with People Not Liking You Podcast #406
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:
The fact that you are indeed likable, even when you feel like the odd-ball out or an only awkward oneThe reasons behind why we like some people and not others, and vice versaHow to be okay with people not liking you ---- and what to do about it
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Trish Blackwell is inspiring - 5 Stars
by HessMart
I can't believe it took me so long to find Trish Blackwell. I've struggled my whole life with self-confidence, I'm 45-years old. I am learning so many tips from her. She's teaching me how to love myself. I have a very strong Christian faith and she sprinkles in the word of God but doesn't overdo it. Even if you're not a Christian, you will adore her and will feel more confidence from the first podcast you listen to.
MOST PEOPLE LIKE YOU
First, let it be said that probably most people you know like you.
And then there are those people who you don't think like you, who really are just having a bad day or need a smile or an attitude shift. (Example - receptionist at new pediatrician, cold to me, irritated and short ... but with kindness, she became kind. - we've got to be patient and extend grace to people --- we never know what's really going on where we can't see).
The other percentage of people who maybe aren't overly "nice" to you are sometimes just:
-distracted
-busy
-self-focused
-anxious
-insecure
We often misinterpret people's distraction as a reaction and rating on who we are in their eyes.
Finally, there's the group of people that we self-assume don't like us. The people we feel different from that we convince ourselves that because of our differences we don't have commonalities. And this of course, couldn't be further from the true.
But - a note on being different.
We all feel different.
And it's a weird feeling - it creates a deep state of internal tension.
But, friend, please know, this is quite universal.
It doesn't mean you're weird. It means that you need to attribute new value to the word and descriptor "different."
Side note: in 2020 a lot of us are being different - each interpreting our situations, our priorities and our goals through mixed information. It feels awful, but embrace that place. I'm learning the spiritual gift of accepting being on the outside - on the fringe - on being different because it is forcing me to be okay with people not liking my decisions, potentially judging me or talking about me behind my back, or the like. It's okay to do life differently.
In fact, being different inspires me. I don't want to live like the world: stressed, behind, anxious, insecure, chaotic and seeking whatever next high will fill my soul. I want a hurry-free life. I want a slow life. I want a deep life.
I work with my entrepreneurs on this - lifestyle choices that are different are okay --- like having boundaries with your hours, taking a day of complete rest ---- let people have their opinion and you stick to yours.
PEOPLE LIKING OR NOT LIKING YOU IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS
What people think about you is none of your business.
What is your business?
-Your thoughts
-Your decisions
-Your actions
-Your purpose
-Your kindness
-Your showing up in this world
No one likes a busybody or nosey neighbor. So why do we think it's okay to be like that internally, even if we're the only ones who know it?
The more I've studied confidence, and the more I feel secure as my relationship with God deepens, the more I am coming to understand that if I live my life in a way that everyone likes me, then I am doing something wrong. It means that I'm not standing for anything - that I waver and cater to every opinion - that I'm building my life upon the sand, not upon a firm foundation.
Think about someone you know who tries to have everyone like them.
20 Good Things About 2020 Podcast #405
2020 is a year where your mindset - and your perspective - will make or break you; this podcast episode will help you have a winning perspective about what might be the most challenging year of all of our lives. Here are 20 good things about 2020 that you can apply to your life too. These 20 good things about 2020 will help you stay persistent, powerful, and filled with peace as we continue in the year. This just might change your perspective about everything. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/405
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're diving into a chat about:
The power of perspective - no matter your circumstances20 good things - for real - about 2020 How our feelings follow our thoughts - and how to train our thoughts
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Answered Prayer - 5 starts, by ItsMeBrittV
I had been kept awake the night before a HUGE event/opportunity for me because of my own anxiety and insecurities. I stopped in the midst of the spiral and prayed for help overcoming my own self doubt. I've always let my fear steal my joy in BIG moments. The next morning as I was getting ready for the day, something told me to search "Confidence" in podcasts ... and BAM. Here you were. A literal answer to prayer. Thank you for walking faithfully in your calling.
20 GOOD THINGS ABOUT 2020:
Slowing Down and Simplifying Life: less rushing, more presenceStripping of busyness and distractionIncreased dependence on God - a requirement of faith reintroduced into common conversationCloser connections with community - they are your connection, lifeline, and experienceDeeper sense of gratitude for basics and the people who serve on the front line of lifeTechnology, where it is and how it has pivoted to keep us connected - and how it will change and give us options we never imagined as a result in the futureMedical advances; we live in 2020, not 1820, and we have millions of medical workers around the world united in solving a pandemicDivisions that ignited unity and much-needed conversations about civil rightsReawakened appreciation for how we need one another, we need touch and we need small community interactions Advanced and widespread access of education, online courses, virtual therapy - no longer are there barriers (time, cost, lack of access) to many life-changing resources -- this is a year of personal development and growth Decreased stigma for the need of mental wellness and conversations about depression, anxiety, addiction, and the like.More personal understanding for what matters and what doesn't - what to spend your money, time and energy on, and what not to - how to let go of the little thingsPersonalized appreciation for access to foodRenewed gratitude for cleaning products, clean water, and basic human necessities Higher call to showing up in life for our purpose and to make a difference --- life is short, and we are all intimately aware of thisDeep appreciation for travel and freedom - the gift of missing what has been removed from what was previously normal New sense of wonder and awe for large gatherings - sports, music, theatre, festivals, etc.: we won't take this for grantedOpportunity to try on new things - new style, new goals, new pace of life, etc. - this can be a reset year we have needed and never dreamed to ask for Extreme character growth: this is the bootcamp of perseverance, patience, compassion, hope, trust, being in placeMore intimate relationships with close friends and family - the connection of going through something separate, yet together
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How to Be All-In On What You Want Without Fear of Failure Podcast #404
Going all-in on your goals feels harder than it needs to be - all you need to do is learn how to have confidence as you take risks and lean into the "what if's" of the unknown ahead. If you've ever found yourself self-sabotaging, stuck in excuses, or holding back over something, then this episode is for you. In it, you'll learn how to go be all-in on what you want without fear of failure. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/404
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
Why we hold back and why the "what if's" cause us so much fearWhat holding back and resisting is keeping from us, and why we are frustrated but might not have realized that that's where our anxiety is bubbling up fromHow to stop holding back and how to start going all-in again with confidence
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Love this podcast! 5 Stars, by Emma Mango :)
I've been listening to an episode like 3 times a week and it has helped me so much in my day to day life. I feel so encouraged to be myself and confident in my path.
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WHY WE HOLD BACK AND WHY THE "WHAT IF'S" CAUSE US SO MUCH FEAR
Fear is just faith in the wrong what if.
-Steven Furtik
What if's go both ways: they can be positive or negative.
When we think about what if, we typically camp out in the negative.
Where do you want to camp out?
Where do you want to set your tent?
Negative what if's are:
-Grounded on the soil of fear
-Sensationalized in our minds
-Self-limiting
-Anxiety-evoking
It's no wonder we hold back. The message we receive from the negative what if's are:
-I'm not good enough
-I will make a fool of myself
-I will be all alone
-I will be laughed at
-I will not be able to recover
-I will get hurt
-I will lose everything and everyone
WHAT HOLDING BACK IS KEEPIN US FROM
The deep sense of soul satisfaction
How to Be Confident in Your Relationships Podcast #403
Being confident in relationships is a manifestation of small, daily habits that everyone can do. Confidence will increase the quality of communication and connection you have with others. This podcast episode will dive into how to be strong, contributing, and confident as a partner in your relationships, how to date with confidence and how to be in a relationship that leaves a legacy. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/403
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
Validating yourself in relationships - without being co-dependentTrusting people, being vulnerable and putting yourself out thereHow to have more intimacy - and confidence - in your connection with your partner
This all stemmed from some College of Confidence members who wanted to know more about how to validate yourself in relationships without relying on other's affirmations to make you feel secure.
A relationship is a connection, but to have deep relationships, we have to be vulnerable. We have to take risks.
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REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Loveeee - 5 Stars by Mayeita Wow! I was looking for a podcast to seriously help my confidence and change my perspective on the world and I'm so happy I came across this. I love her and her positivity and how helpful every little sentence in the podcast is! I've sent it to friends and family and they love it as well. Thank you! I've changed and learned so much!
HOW TO BE CONFIDENT ON YOUR OWN IN A RELATIONSHIP
If you're a word of affirmation person, this almost seems like a contradiction, but I promise you, it's possible.
You must be willing to be yourself -and to be honest.
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Know yourself. Be yourself.
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Have confidence about what you bring to the relationship.
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Give yourself confidence - through journaling, through taking action, through coaching, through spending time with God, through challenging yourself, etc.
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Ask for what you need - and be honest about how compliments encourage you.I spoon fed my husband what he needs to say to encourage me.
How did I figure it out? I had to first know what I needed.
All relationships need time together and time apart.
Allow one another to go do their own thing - to fill their bucket, and then also prioritize filling your bucket as a couple.
Make your relationships baseline foundation open communication.
Communicate about everything - the more you communicate, the more confidence you will have. Be patient though, every partnership communicates differently.
Be willing to be emotionally brave - to talk about uncomfortable things.
Do you want a better sex life? Talk about it, it detail. Explore it together and be honest.Do you want more intimacy? Let your partner know ways to connect in this way - and that you are feeling disconnected.Do you want an unbreakable marriage? Put your marriage first. Make it your top priority.
And, ya'll, be ready to not only be on the communicating end of this but also the receiving end. At times, this will not just be hard but will hurt. Brandon recently said he missed me - he is often the one who points out that we are living side-by-side instead of intertwined together. I so badly want to brush it off, but he craves quality time - and it matters to make that my top priority.
TRUSTING PEOPLE, BEING VULNERABLE,
Health Anxiety? Here's How to Stay Calm and Confident. Podcast #402
Health anxiety or medical angst is a real thing, and it's becoming even more anxiety-evoking in the age of a pandemic. There are ways, simple ways, to stay calm and confident when you might otherwise spiral into health anxiety and medical worst-case scenarios. This podcast episode will give you tactical tools on how to have confidence in the face of health anxiety. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/402
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
My own story of health anxiety - and how I learned to change the voiceHow to overcome health anxiety and the "what if's" of medical angst5 things that will help you persevere as this pandemic continues
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Leira :) Your one stop for confidence growth - 5 Stars.
by Aimata Travel
I came across this podcast almost a month ago and I have not stopped listening to and consuming content from Trish and the College of Confidence. My life has changed for the better. I feel motivated and the positivity is so contagious. Thank you Trish for the incredible content you put out for us every week. Cheers for the next 400! I love this!
MY OWN STORY OF HEALTH ANXIETY:
I used to be paralyzed by health anxiety.
-I was terrified of HIV as a kid (sperm, orange juice story), germaphobe
-I was self-perpetuating my own mental health when I was young, and then even more as an adolescent when I did have mental health challenges
But I learned to change the narrative:
Shortness of Breath Story.
Baker's Endless Surgeries.
Health anxiety is perpetuated by stressful circumstances - and y'all, 2020 is stressful.
HOW TO OVERCOME THE WHAT IF'S OF HEALTH ANXIETY
Talkback to the "what if's" with "what if it doesn't's"Determine to keep your thoughts in the present - don's lose today over what-ifs about tomorrowEliminate the spirit of complaint from your heart. Complaining constricts confidence. Expectant faith - God, I can't wait to see what you're going to do.Go into a place of gratitude for modern medicineDon't give pain the place of reign in your heart ---- the fear of pain doesn't have to cause you pain in the current momentKnow where you're going when you die - think bigger picture than earth - this will give you peace about whatever worst-case scenario you might be fearful of.Work with a therapist or a coach (and let's talk about the differences, shall we?)
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How to Be Someone Who Oozes ConfidencePodcast #401 Confidence is something you can grow and strengthen, so becoming someone who oozes confidence is something that is available to you. When you have confidence that oozes over, it will invite people in, open doors in your life, and most importantly, pave your path with peace and power as you live out being your brightest and best self. You were created to be bright in this world - to rise above average and do something great - and getting your confidence to a state of the overflow will help you get there. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/401 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're taking our confidence to the next level.
The truth about my "oozing confidence" We're going to be talking about 10 ways to take your confidence to the next level Something to give you confidence when the world feels so uncertain How to be someone who can ooze confidence
REVIEW OF THE WEEK: 400 episodes and my go-to. 5-Starts.
by Nurse Rainbow Sparkles Thank you for 400 incredible episodes now! I hope you're celebrating with lots of bubbles and very celebratory "champagne moments," as any prosecco-loving Francophile should! Your voice is my favorite in the self-enrichment sphere: science-supported methods to change your thoughts and actual brain neural pathways, but practically delivered for implementation. I am a newer nurse working nights and when I get behind at 3 am and can feel myself on the verge of a breakdown and completely unraveling, I am choosing better thoughts (like "forward is a pace," and "I can do hard things," two fav Trish Blackwell-isms.) These are times I'm very tempted to beat myself up, and then go home analyzing all of the things I didn't do perfectly or even ideally or fast enough over the long night shift. (Or the self-judgment from the exhaustion and lack of "perfection" in my energy levels and task-oriented effectiveness lately at home) I always go to your podcast when I need positive insight and something encouraging - the perfect pairing for my walk with the dogs. Just - thank you, Trish! Congratulations on 400 episodes! Your words and insight mean so much to me and my brain.
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What I love about it the most is that you can send a message to your counselor at any time. You’ll get timely and thoughtful responses plus you can schedule weekly video or phone sessions.
Betterhelp makes it easy and free to change counselors if needed. It’s more affordable than traditional offline counseling and financial aid is available.
Their licensed professional counselors specialize in depression, anxiety, stress, relationships, sleeping, trauma, anger, family conflict, grief, and self-esteem.
In fact, so many people have been using BetterHelp that they are recruiting additional counselors in all 50 states.
I want you to start living a happier life today. As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting www.betterhelp.com/confidencepod
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Join over 1 million people taking charge of their mental health. Again, that’s www.betterhelp.com/confidencepod THE TRUTH ABOUT "OOZING CONFIDENCE" Ok, the truth?
It takes effort.
It's a choice, and also a trained default habit --- so the work you put in does in fact have a cumulative effect. 10 WAYS TO MAKE YOUR CONFIDENCE OVERFLOW 1. BEYOU365Be yourself all the time, every day. Strive for consistency and transparency.
- BOBABe obsessed or be average.
What I've Learned About Confidence in the Past Year Episode #400
Learning to have confidence is a lifelong endeavor. Every year that you commit to the training of your thoughts and being bold is a year that you will learn things about the confidence that you never knew were there. Every new level of success you reach in life will demand a new level of confidence that you must practice and learn. We're celebrating 400 episodes, over 7 years of confidence coaching, and we are excited to share with you some of the things we've been learning about confidence in the past year. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/400
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast...
We're celebrating!! I have my new AirPod Pros and a bottle of Veuve LeCliquot Yellow Label for release morning, so come on and hang out with me on social to say hi!I'm sharing the surprising things I've learned about confidence in the past year as a confidence coach that I want you to know - things I wish I had realized 7 or even 5 years agoWe're closing out with a bonus power-punch of 25 reasons you can feel confident right now to help you put some pep in your step this week.
We have a doozy of an episode today, which is on-brand, as we plan for this episode to help you just absolutely ooze with confidence.
7.5 Years. Ya'll. Thank you for being with me.
We hit episode #400 this week. Ya'll. Thank you.
That's 7.5 years of allowing me to be a voice of encouragement in your life.
That's probably about 300 hours of me coaching, teaching, preaching ... or, if you'd like to binge listen, you could listen to me talk for 24-hours straight for 10.5 days straight.
Whoa.
And it all started with a little idea.
The idea that I could help people.
After that, I just took consistent, small action and showed up every week.
So today, we celebrate!!!!
My thank you gift to you is that for the first time ever, I'll be offering complimentary Clarity Calls. Spots are extremely limited.
What are they?
15-minutes with me, really digging into your confidence goals and what your next steps are.
Who are they for?
Anyone who has been on the fence about investing in coaching, but not done it because they've believed the lie that they can't afford it.
Who's it not for?
It's not for you if you have no intention of doing something that scares you, stretches you, or really creates change in your life.
How to apply?
Go to www.trishblackwell.com/claritycall
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What you'll learn....
In this 20-minute webinar, you'll learn how to stop getting distracted from your dreams and purpose because of what people might think about you. When I finally learned let go of caring too much what other people might think the gateways of success opened! The tools I am going to teach you have allowed me to write 3 best-selling books, win the North Face Trail Marathon, build a solid 6-figure online coaching business, and reach millions of people around the world with encouragement
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Money Does Grow on TreesPodcast #399
The scarcity mindset destroys our ability to thrive and keeps us locked into fears of limitations and fear. If you ever grew up hearing "money doesn't grow on trees," then this episode was created especially for you. We're flipping that. concept upside down and on its head to help you reframe your money mindset. It's to confidently think with an abundance mindset. This is your first step - it's time to plant a money tree. Because money really does grow on trees. Get the full show notes at wwww.trishblackwell.com/399
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we'll be covering:
The Money Tree Project: How I planted one and what I'm teaching my daughter about moneyReframing scarcity into abundanceHow to see that money does grow on treesHow to 10X your future through higher-quality thinking
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REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
This podcast is like having a therapist at the tap of a button!! Wonderful! - 5 Starsby jake the man the legend.
Trish, Thank you so much for doing this podcast. I have absolutely loved it. The encouragement that you provide is the voice that I need to hear! I've struggled with anxiety for a long time and made some incredible gains lately. I started experiencing some anxiety again and then stumbled upon your podcast in the iTunes store. The power of training my thoughts is something that I no longer take lightly! My confidence continues to grow. each time that I listen and act upon your episode. I am focused on the victories and building myself up as I pursue my dreams of being a PT! I so appreciate you doing this and look forward to a new episode every week. Thank you!!!
PLANTING YOUR OWN MONEY TREE?
Listen, most of us heard this limiting statement: "money doesn't grow on trees" but it does. In fact, you'll learn just how money does grow on trees.
My experiment with Ellie: we planted a money tree.
And you can too!
Click here to watch the video.
Click here to check out Ellie's Snail Mail Lemonade website, the work of. a 5-year-old entrepreneur who believes in money trees.
Here's why Money Trees does grow on trees: -We can create our own opportunities -We can make something come from nothing -We have to believe something is out there in order to step into it REFRAMING SCARCITY INTO ABUNDANCE
There's nothing wrong with the lessons our parents taught us; but if you want to break generational limitations, you're the girl for the job.
What if they're wrong.
What if you're right?
I felt wrong for believing big for years when it comes to financial freedom.
Was it greedy?
Was it wrong?
Was I just dreaming?
Was I setting myself up for ridiculous disappointment?
But, the more psychology I've studied and the more I've learned about the limitlessness of God - and the limited, small thinking of my own mind, the more I realized that I was made for me.The money tree concept --- and the concept of abundance itself, is an act of faith.We access only that which we believe is possible.Knowing that something is available and that most people won't go all in for it, means that, if we're willing to put in 10X effort, then we can have confidence that we can go get it, we can open invisible doors, we can detox the pity-party subvocalization and...
How to Believe You're Smart Enough Podcast #398 Having confidence in your intelligence has nothing to do with how "smart" you are and everything to do with how you think about yourself and your brain. When you embrace a mindset of being a lifelong learner, reestablish your relationship with failure and stop worrying about what people think, you can learn to trust your intelligence and your ability to do anything you set your mind to.
In this episode, we're diving into:
How to believe you're smart enough The trap of intellectual comparison The trick to trusting yourself, your capability and your potential
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Our most popular episodes here on The Confidence Podcast are always around the same topic: how to stop caring what people think. So, ya'll, I'm going deeper on this topic than ever before.
What you'll learn....
In this 20-minute webinar, you'll learn how to stop getting distracted from your dreams and purpose because of what people might think about you.
When I finally learned let go of caring too much what other people might think the gateways of success opened! The tools I am going to teach you have allowed me to write 3 best-selling books, win the North Face Trail Marathon, build a solid 6-figure online coaching business, and reach millions of people around the world with encouragement
If you're ready to push play on your purpose with confidence and freedom, then this webinar is for you. In class we'll cover...
The real issue and how to tackle it. You'll learn how caring too much what people think is so destructive to our happiness and why we get trapped in this toxic pattern of thinking. The first 3 things you can do right now to change how you feel. You'll learn 3 things you can start doing differently right away to get free from the restriction of caring what people think The easiest way to go after your purpose with total confidence. You'll get advice on the exact next steps to take to have more confidence and courage to go after your dreams without being distracted or delayed, by comparison, overthinking, or self-doubt.
REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Can't get enough! by mhammond2020
I found this podcast when I needed it the most. I moved to a new city and the pandemic hit. I've always tried to be more confident but gave up because I didn't know how to break the "I'm not good enough" thought cycle. Trish is the voice inside my head now! I really enjoyed just listening to her at first but to my surprise, I realized that I'm being kinder to myself now. Thank you so much, Trish!
WHY DO WE DOUBT OUR INTELLIGENCE ANYWAYS? What I've noticed:
High achievers often have the lowest sense of self-esteem with their intellect. Collecting degrees, certifications, and checklists don't make you feel any smarter. Everyone who struggles with this usually thinks they're the only ones.
What do smart people do?
They train their brains. They exercise. They eat a brain-healthy diet. They work with coaches, leaders, and teachers. They read and invest in their mindset growth.
We have 60,000 thoughts per day.
Intelligence isn't stagnant. It's perpetually in growth.
HOW TO BELIEVE YOU'RE SMART ENOUGH: First, it's imperative to know that intelligence is not stagnant. -It's fluid, and flowing, and changing, and expresses itself differently.-We actually only tap into about 10% of our mental capabilities. You are as smart as you need to be as long as you are willing to grow and learn something every day.You are as smart as you need to be as long you believe that you will find the teachers you need at the right time.You are as smart as you need to be as long as you trust the magnificent way God created you.
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HOW TO KEEP GOING AND HAVE CONFIDENCE WHEN YOU'RE TIRED Podcast #397
Knowing how to not feel discouraged when you're tired, and how to keep going when the going is tough, long, hard or boring, is one of the key elements of staying confident in the face of challenge. If your year has been filled with curveballs, or if you're feeling intimidated and overwhelmed with just how much longer you need to keep going, keep climbing and keep trying, then these confidence strategies are for you. Nothing will feel too big for you when you learn to think with confidence.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we'll be covering:
How to not get discouraged when you are feeling exhausted or something feels too bigPutting 2020 into perspective and pivoting with power10 ways to strengthen your confidence when something feels too big ahead of you
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Right now if you've never purchased Beautycounter, you can get 10% off as a first time customer. Just go to www.beautycounter.com/trishblackwell and start shopping!
DON'T FORGET: You can support the show, just click the button on the show notes, or go to Patreon and search for The Confidence Podcast. A special shout out of thanks to listener Marlisa Hostetler, our newest patron supporter, who went above and beyond the $5, and edited her pledge to $20. RIGHT, SO HOW LONG WILL THIS KEEP GOING? We don't get to know how long things will take -Choose to be responsive, not reactive -Choose to be accepting, not anxious -Choose to be growing, not grumbling -Choose to be without all the answers, not speculating 2020, what a year! -Keep a journal of the good things -Keep a historical record of what we're walking through -Keep a mindset of openness and flexibility -Keep focused on what matters -Keep your routine simple and habits high-level -Keep asking yourself what this now makes possible It's okay that everyone reacts differently -This is hard for everyone -Everyone hard is hard -You can do hard things -Not everyone needs to agree with you -It's okay to be different THERE'S POWER IN A PIVOT
What does this now make possible?
Go on, make a list for what you can now see are possible that weren't before now. (Maybe this is relation to 2020 itself, or maybe a broken relationship, a personal loss, a disappointing outcome, etc.)
10 WAYS TO STRENGTHEN YOUR CONFIDENCE WHEN YOU FEEL TIRED 1. Ground yourself in gratitude 2. Get excited about the growth potential 3. Fight for your faith - strengthen your mind against fear 4. S3: Super, Simple, Steps - focus on one foot forward at a time 5. Create micro-milestones to look forward to 6. Look ahead but not too far ahead: get an ariel view, but then go be where you are 7. Get outside more- Vitamin D - it helps with energy and happiness 8. Prioritize sleep - good sleep hygiene will not only energize you but will boost your metabolism and help you resist emotional fatigue and the onset of overwhelming sadness 9. Know that you are not alone in how you feel; talk to someone 10. Fill your soul with the substance that strengthens you
If today encouraged you, you'll also like last week's episode, #396 on Being Happy Where You Are and Not Feeling Behind, you can listen anywhere you listen to your podcasts or directly here at: www.trishblackwell.com/396
LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:
Podcast listener and College of Confidence Member Kimberley Guess.
ANNOUNCEMENT:
Next week, we'll be talking about how to believe that you're smart enough for what you want to do in life.
Ready to go next level in your mental happiness,
BEING HAPPY WHERE YOU ARE AND NOT FEELING BEHIND Podcast 396
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
How to claim confidence for where you are, and stop feeling so behind. 10 mindset shifts and tiny habits to help you be happier nowThe small ways you can start to change your brain (which changes your life)
SPONSORSHIP NOTE:
How to Stop Caring What People Think WebinarSave your spot at www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaringOur most popular episodes here on The Confidence Podcast are always around the same topic: how to stop caring what people think. So, ya'll, I'm going deeper on this topic than ever before.
What you'll learn....
In this 20-minute webinar, you'll learn how to stop getting distracted from your dreams and purpose because of what people might think about you. When I finally learned let go of caring too much what other people might think the gateways of success opened! The tools I am going to teach you have allowed me to write 3 best-selling books, win the North Face Trail Marathon, build a solid 6-figure online coaching business, and reach millions of people around the world with encouragement
If you're ready to push play on your purpose with confidence and freedom, then this webinar is for you. In class we'll cover...
The real issue and how to tackle it. You'll learn how caring too much what people think is so destructive to our happiness and why we get trapped into this toxic pattern of thinking. The first 3 things you can do right now to change how you feel. You'll learn 3 things you can start doing differently right away to get free from the restriction of caring what people think The easiest way to go after your purpose with total confidence. You'll get advice on the exact next-steps to take to have more confidence and courage to go after your dreams without being distracted or delayed by comparison, overthinking or self-doubt.
REVIEW OF THE WEEK
This girl knows what she's talking about! - 5 Stars!
by Sydnie Anne
New listener here! :) Your positivity, genuine care about others and passion for what you talk about makes this podcast worth the listen in and of itself. What I love the most is that you talk about training your brain. It's incredibly real for any skeptics out there! I've done it since I was a teenager after being diagnosed with a chronic illness and became quickly covered is psoriasis from head to toe. This past winter it was worse than its ever been before and my headspace got really dark and I was stuck there for a while. This podcast is helping me tap back into that mindset again and I'm excited to listen to all of them!
THOUGHTS TO GET YOU STARTED:
Being behind isn't possible. You simply are where you are.Feeling behind is a mindset you can choose to release.Our feelings are dictated by our thoughts (head, heart, hands) - do thinking, don't let thinking do you. Being present is the antidote to drinking the "I'm behind" kool-aid. Believing that you are behind is simply lazy thinking. You are not behind, you are where God has placed you for now.Peace is a proactive state of an engaged thought life. Change your brian, change your life.
YOUR BRAIN IS THE START OF EVERYTHING
Change your brain, change your life.
When your brain works right, you work right.
When your brain has trouble, you have trouble in life.
Things you can do now (tiny habits) that have big changes in your brain health and function:
-Work on being your ideal weight
-Flood your mind with positive things
-Rest well and prioritize sleep
-Eat well and pay attention to your gut health
-Get around positive people and healthy people
-Train your thoughts (your thoughts don't happen, they do)
FIRST OFF, BEHIND IN COMPARISON TO WHO?
We spiral and self-sabotage, or struggle with inner feelings of rejection, dejection or disappointment when we feel like we're behind.
People feel behind in all sorts of ways:
-Relationships,
HOW TO STOP THINKING ABOUT FOOD ALL THE TIME
Podcast #395
Thinking about food all the time is a challenging hurdle for most people who want to lose weight or who are fighting to create a healthy relationship and their body image. When you can learn to stop thinking about food all the time you are able to step into a place of freedom and balance with your diet and calorie intake. Ultimately, when we stop thinking about food all the time we are free, more confident and we have an increased sense of self-trust. Get the full coaching and show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/395
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
How to stop thinking about food all the time, and why we do it in the first placeWhat big feelings around food looks like and feels like - and why we get stuck there8 very practical things you can do right now to stop being controlled by your thoughts about food
SPONSORSHIP NOTE:
How to Stop Caring What People Think Webinar
Save your spot at www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
Our most popular episodes here on The Confidence Podcast are always around the same topic: how to stop caring what people think. So, ya'll, I'm going deeper on this topic than ever before.
What you'll learn....
In this 20-minute webinar, you'll learn how to stop getting distracted from your dreams and purpose because of what people might think about you.
When I finally learned let go of caring too much what other people might think the gateways of success opened! The tools I am going to teach you have allowed me to write 3 best-selling books, win the North Face Trail Marathon, build a solid 6-figure online coaching business, and reach millions of people around the world with encouragement
If you're ready to push play on your purpose with confidence and freedom, then this webinar is for you. In class, we'll cover...
The real issue and how to tackle it. You'll learn how caring too much what people think is so destructive to our happiness and why we get trapped into this toxic pattern of thinking.The first 3 things you can do right now to change how you feel. You'll learn 3 things you can start doing differently right away to get free from the restriction of caring what people thinkThe easiest way to go after your purpose with total confidence.You'll get advice on the exact next-steps to take to have more confidence and courage to go after your dreams without being distracted or delayed by comparison, overthinking or self-doubt.
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
By Kelsey VL
Trish, I just wanted to thank you so much for your podcast. I am going through a really hard time in my life with my career and feeling stuck and scared for the future. I found your podcast when I needed it the most. I am a struggling perfectionist and struggle wiht always not feeling good enough. Your podcast has helped me considerably to change my mindset and attitude! You have an infectious kind spirit and a genuine personality! I 'm so thankful I found your podcast and highly recommend for anyone struggling to find their way in life and with their capabilities. There are so many insightful and helpful topics you discuss! Thank you again and your story and background give me hope I can change my life for the better as well.
WHY ARE WE ACTUALLY THINKING ABOUT FOOD ARE THE TIME?
We buffer.
We have a distorted sense of self-care.
We have created unnecessary rules, fears, and restrictions.
We believe that the "good life" isn't available to us.
We are too busy for basic enjoyment of food and rush through it.
We are spiritually hungry for more and for meaning.
WHAT HAPPENS WHEN OUR LIVES ARE DETERMINED BY FOOD?
I can speak from first-hand experience, and from that of the hundreds of women I have worked with privately over the years ... it is like living in an invisible prison.
Your thoughts are consumed.
Your joy is conditional.
YOUR OWN WORST CRITIC? HERE'S HOW TO STOP.
Podcast #394
Being your own worst critic is a recipe for low self-esteem, heightened anxiety and a life of frustration. You can learn how to stand up to your inner bully and how to start talking back to the bully in an effective way. This podcast episode will teach you how to do just that. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/394
This week on The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
What is actually going on when you are hyper-self-critical or have mean internal self-talkHow to stop being so self-critical and your own worst enemy - 10 things you can start to do right away8 sample sentences that work when it comes to talking back to the inner critic or bully
SPONSORSHIP NOTE:
How to Stop Caring What People Think Webinar
Save your spot at www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring
Our most popular episodes here on The Confidence Podcast are always around the same topic: how to stop caring what people think. So, ya'll, I'm going deeper on this topic than ever before.
What you'll learn....
In this 20-minute webinar, you'll learn how to stop getting distracted from your dreams and purpose because of what people might think about you.
When I finally learned let go of caring too much what other people might think the gateways of success opened! The tools I am going to teach you have allowed me to write 3 best-selling books, win the North Face Trail Marathon, build a solid 6-figure online coaching business, and reach millions of people around the world with encouragement
If you're ready to push play on your purpose with confidence and freedom, then this webinar is for you. In class we'll cover...
The real issue and how to tackle it. You'll learn how caring too much what people think is so destructive to our happiness and why we get trapped into this toxic pattern of thinking.The first 3 things you can do right now to change how you feel. You'll learn 3 things you can start doing differently right away to get free from the restriction of caring what people thinkThe easiest way to go after your purpose with total confidence.You'll get advice on the exact next-steps to take to have more confidence and courage to go after your dreams without being distracted or delayed by comparison, overthinking or self-doubt.
HISTORICAL NOTE:
I live in Virginia, close to DC, and at the time of this recording, the cornavirus is hitting my area exceptionally hard, and the streets are flooded at night with both peaceful protests and violent riots. Conflict is everywhere - pain is rampant - people are trying to do the right thing and being upturned by opportunists who are looting and destroying towns. We are desperate for racial reconcilation and equal rights - for proper judiciary justice and for the abolition of racial profiling. Good and love are pouring out from all ethnicities - and in the same areas, those groups also have representatives spewing hate.
Hate destroys everything.
I record today with the thought of what bullying does - what hatred does.
Our world is groaning in pain. It feels like it's swirling and intensifying, making it easy to feel uncertain of how to move forward. I ache alongside you, and simply hope to offer a few notes of encouragement for you to tuck into your heart this week.
Confidence is the state of heart of being able to walk with certainty in a life that is filled with uncertainty. So, with that in mind, here are some simple reminders of ways to remain confident and secure no matter what swirls around you or what tomorrow brings.
The one thing that is certain is that we have absolutely no idea what will happen tomorrow, or next week or next month. To create certainty in your life, create habits and thoughts that make you better, and that makes those around you better.
Love wins, and the love you put out into the world is needed now more than ever.Repair the despair around you by living with an open a...
HOW TO ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT Podcast #393 Asking for what you want is a confidence skill that can transform every element of your life. Learning how to ask for what you want can be a key tool. The more you practice this 4-step process, you more proficient you will be at asking. Most people don't know how to ask for what they want because they don't know what they want and because they don't feel capable or courageous enough to ask. In this podcast episode you'll learn the framework you need to start feeling confident enough to courageously start asking for what you really want in life. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/393
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
Why we chicken out when we want to ask for what we want How to figure out what you actually want anyways 4 steps to start asking for what you want
REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Perfect balance of faith + self-help by LeahRKole
For those of us with inner demons that try to sabotage our potential, Trish is the voice and guide that cuts through all the lies and recenters you in truth. Thank you, Trish, for your unique perspective in all areas of confidence, success, sports + fitness, female leadership, and living the vibrant abundant life we were all made for. I have so appreciated your vulnerability and your confidence - especially in speaking about faith and the hope of heaven. It's hard to find speakers and coaches who walk the tightrope between self-help and Christian faith and you do that so incredibly well! If you need a pick-me-up or a life-makeover, Trish is your gal!
If you want to achieve greatness, stop asking for permission!
The first step to getting what you want is to have the courage to get rid of what you don't. -Zig Ziglar
Go for it now, the future is promised to no one. -Wayne Dyer
I'm a big believer that life changes as much as you want it to. -Martin Freeman
Not getting what you want either means you don't want it enough, or you've been dealing too long with the price you have to pay. -Rudyard Kipling
The most effective way to do it, is to do it. -Amelia Earhart
You can't just sit there and wait for people to give you that golden dream. You have to go out there and make it happen for yourself! -Diana Ross
The world needs dreams and the world needs doers. But above all, the world needs dreamers who do! -Sarah Ban Breathnach
The great secret of getting what you want from life is to know what you want and to believe you can have it. -Norman Vincent Peale
You only get in life what you have the courage to ask for.
We don't get what we deserve. We get what we design.
Confidence is at the root of being able to get what you want in life, in your relationships, in your career, and in your opportunities. WHAT HAVE YOU BEEN WAITING FOR TO HAPPEN? Are you waiting for permission? Are you waiting to be called out? Are you waiting to be ready? Are you waiting for someone to tell you you're enough? Are you waiting for the right time? Are you waiting for "other reasons?"
Other reasons ... -I'm not supposed to ask -Who I to think -Why would they discount that for me -Does that opportunity even exist -What if they think I'm pushy -Will I come off arrogant or ungrateful
Maybe you want to ask for a raise, an opportunity, for a chance, for a mentor, for a discount, for help, for support, for chocolate milk for breakfast ... you will only get it if you dare to ask for it.
Maybe it feels too hard, or you feel lazy, or you've convinced yourself that your "woe-is-me" storyline is just too strong...whatever it might be, you are only ensuring that nothing happens. STEP ONE: WHAT IS IT THAT YOU ACTUALLY WANT? Most people don't know what they want because they are so afraid of being disappointed that they won't even give themselves permission to think of all of their possibilities and potential. Be emotionally and creatively brave with yourself as you answer this question:
What is it that I actually want?
BEING CONFIDENT EVEN THOUGH YOU AREN'T YET WHERE YOU WANT TO BE Podcast #392 If you value progress more than perfection, then it's possible to feel confident and capable, even if you don't yet feel like you "deserve" to. Confidence has no finish line or destination. It is a muscle that we work and strengthen through how we choose to think about who we are and where we are at as we progress along the journey of life. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/392
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
The questions about being confident that I am most often asked How to really, really believe that you can do something and feel confident, even if you aren't "there" yet The 3-steps to progressing towards anything you want with more confidence
REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Just the best podcast ever - 5 stars
by Liv'in'progress
A long-overdue review here, I just wanted to express how grateful I am for Trish and her amazing energy, positivity, and ability to be inspiring every day. I sincerely look forward to my commute so that I can learn from Trish and get guidance for those tricky issues in life. Every time I listen, I immediately feel as though I'm entering into a "me time" moment that I don't want to be interrupted and I become centered and inspired to be a better version of myself. I frequently rewind over and over to re-listen to a little phrase that hit hard for me - there are so many. Trish feels like the friend that I wish I had, someone who will actually call me out in an effective yet nonjudgmental way. I just listened to an episode where she suggested that certain things or behaviors in life you have to realize that you've outgrown. This was a little reality slap that I needed today. I also really love the faith-based episodes. As someone who grew up with parents always bickering about their interpretation of the Bible, I really align with your insights on faith. Thank you, Trish, for showing up for us all - your love and goodwill is overwhelmingly evident. Much love.
Questions I am often asked:
How can I feel confident if I am not even close to where I want to be? How can I stay confident if I keep having these setbacks? How can I act confident if I know I don't have the experience that I wish I had? How can I remain confident if I fail visibly or embarrass myself? How can I walk confidently if I've gained the weight back or if my business regresses or must pivot? How can I be confident if I feel keep beating myself up or feel like I'm behind or making the same mistakes over and over again?
Ultimately, we are asking:
How do I have confidence in progression, not perfection?
We must change what soul ties we make.
We must pay attention to the agreements we make with our beliefs.
We must decide that since our thinking can change that we also can change. CONFIDENT ANTICIPATION
Mindset of optimism
-Looking at what could go right, not wrong
-Seeing your commitment, not the inevitable challenges
-Believing there will be joy and adventure along the way
Eagerness to learn
-Freedom from the belief that you need to know it all
-Release from the pressure to execute perfectly
Grounding in gratitude
-Gratitude is your propeller
-Gratitude journaling, flash gratitude
-Perspective flexibility CONFIDENT PROGRESSION
Simple steps and slowing down
-Forward is a pace
-Champagne moments and micro-milestones
-Resist the rush (why are you rushing anyways?)
Be completely where you are
-Release competition and comparison
-Repair rotting bones - rid your heart of jealousy or envy
-Protect your joy
Express joy and enthusiasm
-Celebrate others' prosperity and wins authentically
-Deepen your belief in your vision (and go next level by saying God, I trust you. I invite you into this).
-Grow in your understanding of your emotions, feelings, thoughts and, desires WANT TO HAVE MORE CONFIDENCE AND HAPPINESS?
37 WAYS TO HAVE MORE JOY AND PEACE Podcast #391 When you learn how to have more joy and more peace in your life, you will naturally begin to overflow with confidence. Here are 37 simple and practical ways to help you have more joy and peace in your life, starting today. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/391
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
How to get more peace in your life, more specifically, 37 ways to do so The shifts I have made that helped me turn my anxiety into joy Why joy and peace will make you more confident
REVIEW OF THE WEEEK: Time well spent! 5 stars, by Ashtyn C
This review is long overdue. Trish is an amazing source of light and encouragement! She gives practical advice and incredible insight. As an avid reader myself (and forever the knowledge seeker), I appreciate the work she puts into her content. This has been a podcast staple for me for several years now. Listening to her podcast is always time well spent! Highly recommend!
WHY JOY & PEACE WILL MAKE YOU MORE CONFIDENT: Joy is sustained, deep happiness; radiance, if you will. It takes something beautiful and makes it magnetic.
Peace is confidence. It is security, safety, presence, and an absence of anxiety, strife, turmoil, pressure, or anything that is typically related to insecurity or self-criticism.
The core issue of most confidence challenges is a lack of peace. I struggled with confidence because I didn't have peace in who I was, in my body weight, in my place in the world, in whether or not I was loved and belonged, etc.
You will live in peace and joy. The mountains and hills will burst into song and the trees of the field will clap their hands. Isaiah 55:12 37 WAYS TO GET MORE JOY AND PEACE IN YOUR LIFE Joy and peace are the opposite of how I would have described my life prior to my work in confidence coaching. They are not adjectives I would have ever chosen to describe myself.
I didn't have joy - I was focused and self-critical. I didn't have peace - I was always pushing myself harder. I didn't have joy - I wasn't sure how to be myself, or if I was allowed to be. I didn't have peace - I felt like I was behind. I didn't have joy - I thought life was supposed to be super serious. I didn't have peace - I worried that God was disappointed in me and He felt far from m. I didn't have joy - I was stuck in addiction and numbing, and didn't have full access to full emotions I didn't have peace - I didn't know how to accept love and be present
- Journal daily
- Intentionally detox my toxic thoughts
- Remember that if I'm growing, I'm going
- Mindfully choose peace, not pressure
- Spend more time laughing
- Sit on the floor more
- Frequent outside walks without technology
- Meditate and proclaim the phrase: God, I trust You.
- Gratitude journaling
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Flash gratitude.
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Less TV at night
- Established nighttime routine
- Consistent mental wellness with my therapist
- Patience by focusing on progress, not perfection
- Celebration of progress with champagne moments
- Permission to do less
- The daily goal of learning, not accomplishing
- Reduced exposure to things that drive comparison in my mind
- Writing out my prayers, increase conversation with the Lord
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Exercise to feel alive, not to burn calories
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Dates with family members - making time for people
- People over projects (needing to remind my self of what often should be obvious)
- Explore creative expression - dance, writing, songs, organization, coloring
- Hopeful confidence in what doors God will open (focus, not a feeling; focus on his faithfulness)
- More attachment to the process than the outcome.
- Renewed willingness to fail, fall or have a setback - because it's all ultimately a setup
- The enthusiasm that flows freely, without fear judgment (I uber-embrace the little things)
- Focus on faithfulness - trust that God will provide (Isaiah 58:11) 29.
390: OTHER PEOPLE'S OPINIONS: HOW TO DEVELOP A THICKER SKIN
You can learn to not be bothered or swayed by other people's opinions when you learn how to develop a thick skin. Developing a thick skin comes when you know who you are, how to be yourself, and from lots of practice of being in uncomfortable situations and learning how to have the mindset to focus on the right thing. You can develop a thick skin when you learn how to train your thoughts and your focus. This podcast episode will help you with exactly that.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
Why we care so much and how to start letting goThick skin ... how to get it, especially if you consider yourself a sensitive personHow to move forward and stop caring what people think
SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT: FREE WEBINAR ON HOW TO ACHIEVE ANYTHING
If you have a dream that God has stirred in your heart and aren't sure where to start, save yourself a spot on my newest free webinar. Unlike other online classes I have offered, this webinar will only be available the first few days of May, so save your spot now.
Go to www.trishblackwell.com/dream to save your free spot.
In the webinar, you'll learn
The 5 Secrets of Having Confidence How to Achieve Anything How to Know if Your Dream is Achievable How to Take the "Dream" and Do It.
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
An encouraging listen - 5 stars!
by Allimandy
I have been listening to this for a couple of months now. I can feel the difference in my mood shift when I listen to an episode. I love to listen on walks and feel encouraged after listening. I like that she is vulnerable enough to put herself out there and she challenges you to do the sam.e I would like to be a part of the College of Confidence one day! Than you for showing up Trish. I am encouraged to show up in my life every day.
OTHER PEOPLE'S OPINIONS
God never told you to impress other people, just to love them. So love them.
You probably wouldn’t worry about what people think of you if you could know how seldom they do!
– Olin Miller
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
– Eleanor Roosevelt
here is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.
– Aristotle
Other People's Opinions
There will always be conflicting opinions.There will always be an option for you: let them matter or don't.
Opinions change as often as the wind.
Opinions are not relevant - and they're fickle.
Opinions should never keep us chained or bonded from life.
What have you let other people's opinions take from you or keep you from?
For me...caring too much made me...
-get into wrong relationships
-say things I didn't want to say
-do things I didn't want to do
-spend money I didn't have
-put off writing my first book for a few years
-almost didn't launch my podcast or business
THICK SKIN: HOW TO GET IT
Y'all. I'm a sensitive person.
I'm the girl that likes to cry by intentionally watching sad movies.
When I was a kid I was the only emotional one in my family, and a black sheep because of it. I once cried so hard that my mom told me she might have to send me away.
Think about callouses, they come with time, pressure, and exposure. Now, I'm not trying to get my hands all calloused, but I do like a baseline of callous protection since I lift frequently.
I've had to develop a thick skin, and the truth is that the toughening of one's mental thick skin never ends or stops. Just the other week I had a deep conversation with an influential mentor and investor ... and I hung up the phone - not sure whether or not to smile or cry. I spoke to Brandon about it and he and I agreed that this person, knowing that I am a world-renown confidence coach, assumed that I had the confidence to take straight talk and open criticism. Which, technically, I do. But, that doesn't mean that I don't have to do the mindset work behind taking ...
BEING CONFIDENT WHEN LIFE IS FILLED WITH UNKNOWNS Podcast #389 It is possible to have confidence even when the future is unknown. Finding peace and confidence when life is filled with so much unknown, especially when life feels tumultuous, is the cornerstone of being able to have joy in all circumstances. In this podcast episode, we're talking about how to have confidence and peace when the unknowns of life feel too big and also how to release your need to know about what is to come in the future.
Comparative suffering and ambiguous grief - the unknown vortex we are in Can you really live with confidence and peace if life really is all unknown? How to release your need to know
ANNOUNCING: NEW FREE WEBINAR!!!! Have you ever wondered if you could write a book? Or maybe you're daydreaming about being a successful entrepreneur? Maybe you've got an idea for a charity stirring inside you or possibly a desire to share your art - whether it is your canvas, your words, your music or your voice - with the world?
I want you to know that whatever is stirring in your heart is stirring for a reason. I believe it was breathed into you by God and that when you show up and go all-in on where you're feeling led, that you will light the world up in your own important way.
You don't have to keep wondering if your dream is possible. You don't have to keep making excuses about why you're not "ready" to start. You don't have to believe the critics or the comparison that is holding you back.
You just need to learn how to believe in yourself - to really believe in yourself. I want to teach you the mindset behind how the most confident and most successful people think. You can think that way too, and when you do, you'll take that dream on your heart, and you'll start to actually do it.
Join my free, limited-time webinar today, I'll get you started on the mindset you need and I'll give you all the next steps needed to take that God-given potential and bring it to life.
Click here to save your free spot > www.trishblackwell.com/dream REVIEW OF THE WEEK: I love this podcast!!! [5 Stars]
by Deemoflowers
It's been a great topic and good encouragement. Thanks for sharing your ideas!
LET'S THINK ABOUT ALL UNKNOWNS THOUGH: Relationships, finances, the economy, health, whether or not people like you, what kinds of things your kids are interested in, the outcome of projects you pour yourself into.
COVID-19
Death toll counts.
Desensitization.
Isolation.
Guilt over happiness.
Desperation for life to resume.
Speculations - divisions, and unity. ULTIMATELY ... It's a giant unknown in the world.
If you want some positive perspective and haven't yet listened to the podcasts I have already don't specifically on how to stay confident and filled with peace during COVID-19, here are the direct links:
#381 - How to be positive during the coronavirus pandemic (not panicked) #382: Psychological immunity and perspective shifts for a pandemic #383: How to stay nice when you feel stressed #385: Staying motivated when you are sad or scared
I have found peace and release by learning how to let go of the outcome and become more interested in the process.
For example, I just poured my last six weeks - every free waking minute of them - to the creation of my newest program, The Dream & Do Project. I have big goals for how many people's dreams I want this program to launch and awaken (and how many I know it can help) ---- but ultimately I can't make you or anyone click the register button. I can do all the marketing and promotion that I know how to do and that the industry recommends, but ultimately, I cannot make someone take my program.
Therefore, I find my confidence and pride in the power and passion-infused into the program --- and the knowledge that when someone knows it's right for them, that then it will be life-changing for them. BUT, REALLY, THE SECRET TO BEING CONFIDENT WHEN LIFE IS UNKNOWN IS HOW TO TAP INTO PEACE. Peace,
Podcast #388 CAN YOU REALLY DO ANYTHING? Can you really do anything you set your mind to? And if you can, how do you "set your mind' and really do anything? This podcast will help you break down the behind-the-scenes of the mindset of achievers so that you can also learn how to set your mind and belief that you can really do anything. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/388
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
Can you really do anything? How do you figure out what to do and what not to do? What is the magic difference between those who achieve and those who don't?
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The 5 Secrets of Having Confidence How to Achieve Anything How to Know if Your Dream is Achievable How to Take the "Dream" and Do It.
REVIEW OF THE WEEK: This is exactly what you need in your life! 5 Stars.
I had been looking for an encouraging podcast to listen to while I run and this one is beyond perfect. I've listened every day for the past few weeks in hopes to increase my confidence. Not only has it helped me in my journey of growing confidence but it has also improved my overall happiness and relationship with God. It had made me realize that I'm not alone in my personal growth journey and thata God is with me every step of the way. He continues to heal my eyes so I can see my true beauty, which I have struggled with in the past, and guides me to love myself and others as much as He does. Trish is the perfect person to spend time with everyday to focus on myself and growth. She's such a positive light in this world and a true gift from God.
LIFE IS SHORT: LEAN INTO THAT DREAM ON YOUR HEART Life is precious. Thank you to my dear friend Amy for deepening my love for life.
Amy was relentlessly humble, private, and positive.
Cancer took her life after years of battling.
Amy, I pay you honor and tribute today. You will not be forgotten.
Amy, you have impacted my heart. I will live with an intimate understanding that life is short. I will not be afraid of what people think of me. I will not worry about being cheesy or too nice and I will reach out and love with every opportunity I get. I will stay centered, positive, and present the way you so valiantly demonstrated as I had the privilege of watching you live out your last painful, yet incredibly beautiful years. I will save the photos we have and the videos of the kids jumping in puddles in the pouring rain and the lazy afternoons we spent just intertwining hours of non-descript life-moments together. Those moments matter and I love them. I love you and I thank you for reminding me of the hope we have in Heaven. I will see you again soon dear friend in that beautiful place with Jesus where every tear is wiped away. CAN YOU REALLY DO ANYTHING? “To achieve the impossible, you must attempt the absurd” ― Jon R. Michaelsen
A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.
-Albert Einstein
You will never do anything in this world without courage. It is the greatest quality of the mind next to honor.
-Aristotle
We can do anything we want if we stick to it long enough.
-Helen Keller
If you're not making mistakes you're not doing anything.
-John Wooden
I never did anything worth doing by accident, nor did any of my inventions come by accident, they came from work.
-Plato
Yes, we can achieve that which we are capable of believing. To believe something, we must step into faith - and faith is active. Activated faith means work, commitment, resilience, and courage.
HOW TO HAVE DIFFICULT CONVERSATIONS WITH CONFIDENCE AND WITHOUT COWERING EPISODE 387 You don't have to cower from having difficult conversations anymore. This podcast episode will coach you on exactly how to be confident when having intimidating or difficult conversations. Learn how to have difficult conversations. No more avoiding, no more buffering, no more sweeping things under the carpet - it's time to confidently connect better with the humans in your life. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/387
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
How conflict can lead to confidence The 10 fundamental things to remember before having hard conversations Turning the table: how to have hard conversations with yourself How to have difficult conversations with confidence How to have difficult conversations without cowering
SPONSORSHIP: My partnership with Beautycounter. If you've never purchased Beautycounter before, this is the time to do so. This month only when you go to www.beautycounter.com/trishblackwell and opt-in to Beautycounter's email address, you'll receive a 20% off coupon code to use on your first purchase.
My family and I are rounding out day #24 of our COVID-19 quarantine, and since we live in Virginia, we know that we're in this thing for the long haul - until June 10th. I do appreciate how slowing down and simplifying have really brought the small things of life to light.
One small thing that just made my week was my Beautycounter delivery that just arrived. Getting packages right now feels wonderful, but getting clean beauty packages? That's next level loveliness. You better believe that I have a few hours of pampering ahead of me, thanks to Beautycounter.
I suggest that you might want to do the same!
Go ahead, indulge in something lovely for yourself.
Click here to shop > www.trishblackwell.com/beautycounter REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Thank you Trish! 5-Stars.
By Sophia abc. / I have been listening to this podcast for a month or two by now and DANG!!! It has helped me improve my everyday life by appreciating what I have and how to use it. Her wise words have helped me become a much more confident woman everywhere, every day and around everyone. I think that everyone needs a little Trish in their life so I totally recommend this podcast!!!
HOW CAN CONFLICT LEAD TO CONFIDENCE? Conflict > Conversations > Communication > Connection > Confidence 10 FUNDAMENTALS ON HOW TO HAVE DIFFICULT CONVERSATIONS
Value bravery. (Being emotionally brave is more impressive than being physically brave.) Remember conflict leads to connection. Honor other people's perspectives. Seek to understand and not always be understood. Release expectations (let go of trying to control their feelings and reactions) Use The 5-Second Rule (Mel Robbins) Speak from the heart and be humble. Listen as well as you talk. Seek connection, not your own resolution. Define a purpose (objective to be transparent, to express oneself, etc.)
HOW TO HAVE HARD CONVERSATIONS WITH YOURSELF
These are perhaps the most important conversations to be having in the first place. You don't have to go these alone - use prayer, and your journal to guide you. Braindump onto paper - and stop using the excuse that you're worried that someone will look at what you write; y'all people are not interested in what you're thinking about, you're safe. Pay attention to your own avoidances and what you are resisting. We all run away in our own ways - seek emotional maturity enough to look at what is actually going on within yourself. Each month I like to ask myself - what do I need to modify? What am I allowing or permitting that I need to pay more attention to? How can I be a better wife? How can I be kinder to myself? How can I be a more engaged and patient mother? How can I be a more present and encouraging human in my circles and comings and goings? For me one of the hardest hard conversations to h...
HOW TO EXUDE CONFIDENCE Podcast #386 To become someone who exudes confidence, you become someone who also becomes a magnet to success and happiness. This episode breaks down exactly how to train your confidence and thoughts about yourself in order to exponentially grow your confidence to that "exude" level that is contagious. Your contagious confidence has the power to encourage the world; it's worth the work it takes to get there. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/386
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
What makes someone exude confidence The fundamentals to being more confident - how to start exuding yourself (training) The difference between "capability confidence" and "character confidence"
You exude confidence - and I want to know how to have that.
The answer? It's a commitment to curiosity, challenging myself and congruency. SPONSORSHIP: My partnership with Beautycounter. If you've never purchased Beautycounter before, this is the time to do so. This month only when you go to www.beautycounter.com/trishblackwell and opt-in to Beautycounter's email address, you'll receive a 20% off coupon code to use on your first purchase.
My family and I are rounding out day #24 of our COVID-19 quarantine, and since we live in Virginia, we know that we're in this thing for the long haul - until June 10th. I do appreciate how slowing down and simplifying have really brought the small things of life to light.
One small thing that just made my week was my Beautycounter delivery that just arrived. Getting packages right now feels wonderful, but getting clean beauty packages? That's next level loveliness. And another way to exude confidence. You better believe that I have a few hours of pampering ahead of me, thanks to Beautycounter.
I suggest that you might want to do the same!
Go ahead, indulge in something lovely for yourself and exude confidence at the same time.
Click here to shop > www.trishblackwell.com/beautycounter REVIEW OF THE WEEK
Do yourself a favor - 5 stars, by Kirsten
Trish is the best!!! Always what I need to hear when I need to hear it. The enthusiasm, the encouragement, the positivity and different perspective she gives is such a blessing and so empowering! So grateful to have found this. podcast. Trish, you are so loved and appreciated girl! TRAIN YOUR THOUGHTS TO EXUDE CONFIDENCE How we think in general determines how we feel about ourselves and our capabilities. Which contributes to how we exude confidence.
Take the training of your thoughts seriously:
Journal Add openness to your life. Get a coach Read and study Notice and celebrate growth
KNOW WHAT'S NORMAL & WHAT'S NOT It's normal to have a little voice of self-doubt.
It's normal to care about the opinions of others.
It's normal to feel awkward and quirky being yourself.
It's normal to self-sabotage and create blocks in your own path
It's what you do with what's normal that makes you confident.
Don't allow these normal things make you freeze or not move forward.
"Being yourself" doesn't always come easy or feel natural - in the same way that starting a workout never really "feels good" - but it gets easier, feels amazing and is always worth it once you get past that.
The key to confidence is to take action no matter what.
Become an "action-taker" and you will naturally build your courage muscles, which lead to more confidence and capability, which renders results and which then ultimately perpetuates a new cycle of more action-taking, courage, confidence, and results. DEEPEN YOUR FUNDAMENTALS TO EXUDE CONFIDENCE
Love is everything. When you are loved you bloom. Love gives me all the acceptance I need. Love releases you from needing to prove yourself. Love inspires you to have courage beyond yourself. Love invites others in.
I was told I was loved most of my life, and when I felt it, my confidence shone. In the moments and seasons of my life that I disconnected mys...
STAYING MOTIVATED WHEN YOU ARE SAD OR SCARED
Podcast #385
How can you stay motivated when things feel like they're falling apart around you? If you're overwhelmed by the circumstances of your life, or learning how to process ambiguous grief or the uncertainty of the unknown, then this episode is for you. You'll learn how to stay motivated when you are sad or scared and how to make the most of what you have available to you. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/385
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
Ambiguous grief in the time of COVID-19 and how to process itHow to stay motivated when you are sad, mad or scared at this timeMaking the most of the hand of cards you have
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Blissful Encouragement - 5 Stars
by TravelerSB
Trish gives me such encouragement with her amazing energy and loving spirit. The content she provides shifts my mindset into a positive place, often when I need it the most. Thank you, Trish, for sharing your light and your gifts with the world in this way!
AMBIGUOUS GRIEF: GIVE IT SPACE
-Loss of control
-Upturning of big life events
-Balancing deep sadness with deep gratitude to be alive and healthy
-Feelings of unrest and wasted effort
Ambiguous loss is a loss that occurs without closure or clear understanding. This kind of loss leaves a person searching for answers, and thus complicates and delays the process of grieving, and often results in unresolved grief.
You might be experiencing ambiguous grief for the following reasons as a by-product of COVID-19:
Missed athletic championship, missed athletic season, canceled graduations, isolated Easter holidays, loss of a job, furloughed family members (and potential guilt for not being in the same position), uncertain global economic conditions, rescheduled vacations, postponed weddings, inability to connect with loved ones to mourn the loss of life, missed birthday plans, compromised family Spring traditions, closed gyms and training facilities, rescheduled major tests or opportunity for promotion, lost progress on financial goals, or just loss of general sense of normalcy.
ACKNOWLEDGE THE LOSS
Nothing is wasted - not your work, not your planning, not your efforts leading up to this point. Whatever it is that you are letting go of and grieving, allow yourself the space to feel what you feel.Journal and express what you feel into sentences; put words to your heart. Honor what is lost and decide what matters most to you moving forward. Remember that with loss always comes life and a gift of deeper appreciation.
HOW TO STAY MOTIVATED: DECIDE HOW TO MAKE THE MOST OF WHAT IS PRESENT
Enjoy - thrive - live today well.
Create a schedule - everything has a place: workouts, creative time, cleaning, food prep chill time, etc. Differentiate between weekday schedules and weekend schedules and identify what days you do certain things versus what days you don't. Identify your daily transition points- use music, fresh air, a Netflix break, a phone call to your mom, etc. to create a sense of daily normalcy; which will increase your overall productivity. Utilize social media effectively, not obsessively.Set time limits to your scroll, unfollow certain people and use apps that connect you in real-time socially with others. Ground yourself in gratitude.When you use gratitude effectively it reminds you of all the things that are going right and going well right now. Set monthly goals and micro-milestones.For me, April is a month of 8-hours of sleep. I have "connection" goals with my husband. I have quality time and creative goals with my kids. I have writing goals for my next book.
It's imperative that you remember that we are not on "pause" with life. This is life, right now, as it is. If you aren't sure where to start or what to do, you can pray a prayer I like to pray: "Lord, thank You for this new normal.
Podcast #384:GETTING THE RIGHT PEOPLE TO LIKE YOU In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about:
Getting the right people to like you is a result of learning how to stop caring what people think. This podcast episode will teach you how to let go of caring what people think about you. You'll also learn how to find and create the right friend group for yourself. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/384
How to get the right people to like you and how to The two major types of people and how to distinguish between them A challenge to help you let go of caring too much
REVIEW OF THE WEEK: 5-Stars - 5 Stars by jaylaBillions
This is an awesome podcast. It changed my life.
GETTING THE RIGHT PEOPLE TO LIKE YOU Well, we can't control people's opinions of us, but we can control whose opinions we esteem and who we spend the most time with.
How are you supposed to confidently make good friends with good people?
How do you break the cycle of trying too hard to get people to like you?
How do you learn to figure out who will be life-giving or soul-sucking in your life?
It all comes down to learning how to assess what type of person someone is. Or, more accurately, what season of growth they are in in their lives. We are humanly capable of being both types, but to be the type that builds great relationships and thinks beyond themselves, we have to do some soul growth and work. COVID-19 REVEALED TWO TYPES OF PEOPLE:
Self-focused people. Other-focused people.
This is non-age-discriminate, non-gender based and not socio-economically tied.
SELF-FOCUSED PEOPLE
Interested in self-promotion, in getting attention, in getting praise
Thinks about proving themselves and wanting to stand out from the crowd
Driven to be better than others because they want to be special or famous and noticed
Mindset of scarcity and competition - always thinking about what's next
OTHER-FOCUSED PEOPLE
Interested in making a difference, in having authority, in living out their purpose
Thinks about how they are loved and how to share that with others
Driven to have influence over others because they want to make a positive difference
Mindset of abundance and collaboration - working to be present and grateful THE "THEY'RE ALLOWED TO NOT LIKE ME" & GETTING THE RIGHT PEOPLE TO LIKE YOU CHALLENGE
Write out the names of 3 people who you worry might not like you Then write out what it would really mean if they didn't? Ask yourself if you even really like them, and why their opinion of you matters. Be honest - does their opinion of you challenge your overall happiness or life? Repeat out loud: people are allowed to not like me.
PATREON PODCAST SUPPORT: If this podcast show has blessed your life, this is my personal invitation to become an official supporter of the show. Did you know that it costs me approximately $400 to produce a podcast episode? This is my labor of love, and worth every minute I spend on it - whether I have one listener, or one million, I will continue to show up for you. You matter to me.
For just $5/month you can become an official supporter, a patron, we call it, of The Confidence Podcast. But hey, I don't take asking for money from you lightly - you better believe that becoming a patron means that you'll get extra bonus podcast episodes and other encouraging content from me. Yep, exclusive, podcast episodes that I call "faith takes," are released 2x/month for our patrons.
To start supporting the show just go to www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast MICRO COACHING SESSIONS FOR CRISIS MANAGEMENT If you've ever considering hiring a life coach, a mindset coach, a career coach or a confidence coach - this is the most important time, now more than ever to do so.
I understand that investing in yourself, particularly in a time of uncertainty, feels intimidating, and it might have you second-guessing yourself. But, I assure you, there is no better investment than in yourself.
HOW TO STAY NICE WHEN YOU FEEL STRESSED Podcast #383 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about:
How to not lose your cool - your confidence, your joy, and your sanity - while stuck at home or living a new norm in your work or home lifestyle How to not beat yourself up for the moments that you don't like yourself in how you react with the people close to you How to keep life engaging even if it feels dull, monotonous and isolated - how to not believe the fear that this will last forever.
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
HOW TO STAY NICE WHEN YOU FEEL STRESSED When things dramatically change in a short period of time, it's important to remember that:
-Adjusting to the new normal will take time, and comes with a learning curve
-Feeling an overwhelming and varying amount of emotions is normal
-It's natural to behave in ways that are less than your ideal
-Your people are on the same team as you - and working through their own adjustments as well
-Each situation is a learning opportunity for personal growth, you don't need to beat yourself up
-These are defining moments, they are growth moments. New temporary normal: My family unit of 4.
Extraverts, staying in.
Two people working from home.
Unpacking and cleaning new house.
No gym; working out happening at 6:30 AM
No friend time for my kids.
No doggie play dates for my dog. STIR CRAZY TIME CHEZ LES SYNANS Temper tantrums.
Kids jealous for my attention and fighting constantly.
Free time trying to organize new home and clean up messes left by previous owners.
Dog with anxiety at new transition.
Social life altered.
Family gatherings suspended. If you were my husband you would see: A woman waking up energized at 6AM
A woman feeling alive and filled with peace after time with God and journaling
A woman using music to lift the mood of the house
A woman motivated to create a beautiful home
A woman determined to have a positive attitude about the opportunity of this season
A woman thankful for curbside delivery and the gift of technology
A woman who sometimes cries out of frustration
A woman who feels shame when she breaks and raises her voice at her kids
A woman who hurts for her kids who see new friends they can't meet
A woman who feels conflicted for wanting to use screen time too much and also to do every mom craft that her friends post about
A woman irritated that she has to keep Amazon packages on the front porch to air out
A woman who hates having to wipe down what was purchased at curbside pickup My point, y'all? Humans are multilayered, multifaceted, complex and deep feelers. Now, throw us into unknown territory and uncertainty, take away any sense of control we ever thought we had and these natural ups and downs we are all inevitably going through makes sense.
Please look at the facts in every situation.
Please give yourself space to feel the feelings you have.
Please extend yourself - and others - extensive grace like never before.
Please get connected with a coach or a community.
Please remember that this too shall pass.
Please determine to ground yourself in gratitude.
Please be extra kind and encouraging to others. HOW TO STAY NICE WHEN STRESSED?
Put self-care at the top of your to-do list. Ask for help. Modify your expectations. Increase your communication. Get more sleep. Eat clean, healthy food. Limit alcohol consumption/sugar consumption. Make exercise a daily priority. Journal every day no matter what. Set micro-goals to keep you focused on what you can control. Stretch and do breathwork for 5-minutes/day. Refuse to be a victim - this is not happening to you; don't feel sorry for yourself - feel thankful for the strength you have. Don't overidentify with a stress reaction you have had. Drink more water. Use gratitude on the go as often as needed.
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PSYCHOLOGICAL IMMUNITY AND PERSPECTIVE SHIFTS FOR A PANDEMIC Podcast #382 Fuel your faith in the face of fear by paying attention to your psychological immunity and wellness. Here are 10 things you can do to build your psychological immunity and also the single most important phrase that can help you have a powerful perspective shift that will keep you positive, not panicked, during a pandemic or time of crisis. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/382
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about:
How to have faith and power during chaos Psychological immunity in a time of psychological overload The perspective shift that comes from saying: this is my time.
REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Amazing - 5 Stars, by MissCocoDerp
PATREON PODCAST: If this podcast show has blessed your life, this is my personal invitation to become an official supporter of the show. Did you know that it costs me approximately $400 to produce a podcast episode? This is my labor of love, and worth every minute I spend on it - whether I have one listener, or one million, I will continue to show up for you. You matter to me.
For just $5/month you can become an official supporter, a patron, we call it, of The Confidence Podcast. But hey, I don't take asking for money from you lightly - you better believe that becoming a patron means that you'll get extra bonus podcast episodes and other encouraging content from me. Yep, exclusive, podcast episodes that I call "faith takes," are released 2x/month for our patrons.
To start supporting the show just go to www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast HOW TO BUILD YOUR PSYCHOLOGICAL IMMUNITY This new normal of distanced, isolated and cautious living is filled with unknowns, but it is also seeping with opportunity. As we all tiptoe around one another, mindful of our physical immunity, it's important that we talk about our psychological immunity.
We are all going through this together, and so instead of focusing on all that could happen, why don't we focus on what we can control - and on what we can get from this that is positive?
Here are five simple things you can do right now to improve your psychological immunity:
Pay attention to your media input - don't get pulled into the fear-spiral of the news cycle. Put your heart at ease- fill it with peace with prayer, time with God, or uplifting music. Pursue thoughts that serve you- train your thoughts and use this time to mature mentally. Prioritize self-care at home - create a routine that promotes your mental wellbeing. Participate in a structured coaching program, like the College of Confidence, to keep your mindsethealthy and strong so you can be a pillar of hope for the long-haul of this new normal.
We can all mature in our psychological immunity. There is no better time than now to train your thoughts and master your mind. You don't have to do this on your own. Come alongside me and become a student at the College of Confidence. (www.collegeofconfidence.com)
I am so blessed that I serve my students virtually, and you can rest assured that I will continue to do so and to show up more than I ever have, in this time of global need. What a gift that we have a digital community that's permitted to meet socially online to connect and spread positivity and love.
Please enroll here (www.collegeofconfidence.com) and then check our virtual campus for the many added classes and coaching opportunities. Together we will get through this and come out stronger. 10 WAYS TO BUILD PYSCHOLOGICAL IMMUNITY
Create some structure to your daily routine, even if you don't leave the house Set up weekly group video chats with friends to maintain a sense of social normalcy Exercise every day, in some way - even if you have to get creative, move for 20-minutes. Make time to journal about your anxieties and fears to prevent any spiraling negative thoughts Limit your screen time outside of work - and consider putting a time limit (like ...
HOW TO BE POSITIVE DURING THE CORONAVIRUS PANDEMIC (NOT PANICKED) Podcast #381 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about how to be positive during the coronavirus pandemic and:
25 ways to be and stay positive, not panicked during the COVID-19 coronavirus worldwide pandemic A gratitude challenge for this season of uncertainty How to make sure that your social distancing and this new season of life doesn't isolate you / how to combat loneliness during this time Focusing on staying positive during the coronavirus pandemic
REVIEW OF THE EPISODE: Ann Brousseau - In Honor of International Women's Day! 5 Stars.
An inspiration in my life is someone I’ve never even met in person! Trish Blackwell is an online life coach/personal trainer who built and grew her coaching business from scratch, through persistence and grit. She now has hundreds of thousands of followers across the world. I found her on iTunes over a year ago, when I stumbled across one of her podcasts on how to live your life with more purpose. During that time, (probably not unlike others!), I was constantly “running”, juggling a corporate job, trying to stay healthy, remodel our house, be a good spouse, daughter, friend, aunt, dog-mom, God-mom, HR leader, you name it….and at times, felt overwhelmed in the day-to-day aspects of life. I never had enough time in a day, yet always felt I should be doing more. Trish explains how to “get off the busy-bus” and step into the gift of the present. She coaches on the power of “thoughts” and how to find happiness in every single day. Her recommendations not only opened my eyes to new ways of thinking - they broadened my perspective on life. She’s showed me how to slow down, act with courage, think bigger, find my purpose (work in progress), celebrate my progress and live my best life – professionally and personally. #BeYouBeFree
I think I’ll go write her a 5-star review on iTunes now…
25 WAYS HOW TO BE AND STAY POSITIVE AND ENCOURAGED DURING A PANDEMIC AND COVID-19
Will my children look back at this season and remember a time when their momma was walking in faith or will they remember this as a season their momma walked in fear? When it all comes down to it, we have one choice: will we choose fear or faith? If you prefer, you can make the choice of peace or panic. It's vital that we find ways to stay positive during the coronavirus pandemic
Here are things to remember and ways you can stay positive during the face of the coronavirus pandemic, not panicked:
Remember: Slowing down is a gift - there are things from this season that we would not have otherwise experienced without this global crisis - and a slower, more simple life that comes with social distancing and isolation is one such gift. Take Action: Reduce your media exposure - the fear is often worse than the virus - this is good life shift as the average social media user spends 2 hours and 33 minutes on social media per day. (According to TechJury.net) This is an opportunity to change fundamental habits that increase your life happiness. Take Action: Post only what is positive and be a leader of encouragement and light in this dark. How you speak matters and how you encourage others will be remembered. There is an overabundance of negativity in people's newsfeeds right now, so ask yourself how you can add sunshine or something of substance to it instead. Take Action:Connect deeper with yourself and make this a time of journaling and deep reflection. So many people stay so busy that they don't have time for basic self-care and also fundamental self-exploration. This can be your time to really get to know yourself so that you can learn how to be yourself - and when you learn how to be yourself, you can then start to fully pursue your calling in this world. Remember:You can be the anti-strand of anti-fear - your positivity is as viral as the virus. Do not underestimate the power of your positivity,
WHY HIGH ACHIEVERS BINGE EAT AND HOW TO STOP BINGE EATING
Podcast #380
This week on The Confidence Podcast we're getting vulnerable. We'll be talking about something often considered taboo and shameful, and my prayer is that by opening dialogue, it will remove the stigma and help set you free to pursue healing and hope, if not just for you, for someone you know. This week we talk about how to stop binge eating.
What is the relationship between high achievers and binge eating - and while we're at it, what exactly qualifies as a bingeHow do these stats relate on how to stop binge eatingThe real thing that binge eating behaviors are indicators of5 ways how to stop binge eating
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Humbling & Grounding - 5 Stars, by SustainingSara
I recently went through a lot of changes in life - a new job and a new city of residence. During that time, I lost a lot of myself and my relationship with God started to lack. I started listening to Trish and not only does she help me find parts of myself to fall in love with again, but also she reminds me to love God and his ever-watching eyes of grace. Thank you, Trish. Most of all, thank you for not being afraid to be honest and real about the struggle in life, especially not being afraid to remind everyone of God's greatness.
HIGH ACHIEVER: WHAT IS IT AND HOW DOES IT RELATE ON HOW TO STOP BINGE EATING?
Perfectionist, type-A, go-getter, someone striving, wants to be seen, eager to please, on-the-go, focused and disciplined. It's no wonder we fall into binge eating and want to know how to stop binge eating.
For me, I wanted to stand out, be exceptional - be worth being loved and seen. I was convince that I was forgettable - but wanted to be remembered and for me, as an athlete, being stand out meant that my body had to be stand out. I was the little girl with ab muscles that popped through her Speedo one-piece when she was 8-years-old; I got a lot of comments on that. If I wasn't her, then who was I?
EXCEPRT FROM MY NEWEST BOOK (IN PROGRESS)
It started with a comment from a friend. We were ten-years-old at our neighborhood pool. I was wearing my Speedo one-piece and she and her gorgeous twin sister donned skimpy string bikinis that I would never have been allowed to wear. Every boy in Lake of the Woods wanted to date those twins, I was happy to be friends with them to get cool points by association.
She didn’t mean to hurt me. But her words stung my heart in a way that burned deeply into my identity for over a decade later.
“Your brother is so hot,” she started. “You look nothing like him. Are you sure you have the same parents?”
Laughs were had. I waited desperately for the whistle to blow, the lifeguard being my salvation to escape underwater into the pool. I remember diving in, trying to run away from the shame. Everyone wanted to see and be seen with my brother. And, if according to her words, I truly was nothing like him, that meant that I wasn’t worth looking at.
I was embarrassed of myself and how I looked.
There wasn’t anything I could inherently point to either – my body was athletic, ripped actually for a little girl, and I was well-liked for being a good swimmer. But being liked for what I could do felt very different than being liked for who I was or how I looked.
In high school and college, I convinced myself that I was forgettable. Sure, my teammates, classmates, and friends knew who I was, but in general? I felt like I looked so average that I was easily confused with other people.
Since no one could see me, there was only one way to stand out: by doing everything in a way that I would be seen.
Perhaps you are like me. I believed I had value for what I could do, not necessarily for who I was. I desperately craved to matter, but how could I matter if I couldn’t be seen or if I was merely average and forgettable?
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Before you ever believe that God sees you,
HOW TO GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD Podcast #379 The secret to knowing how to get out of your own head, and how to stop your thoughts from spiraling negatively in your mind is more accessible than you might think. Even if you've had a lifetime pattern of negative thoughts, self-doubt, comparison, overthinking, or mental self-sabotage, you can be free and you can learn how to get out of your own head. This podcast episode will teach you some tangible tools on how to do just that, and we've brought on expert Jennie Allen to share her wisdom on this incredibly important topic.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
How to get out of your own head --- and the fact it can actually be done Expert Jennie Allen is on board with us today Believing in your ability to change and be changed
SPONSORED BY MY FREE WEBINAR: Detox self-doubt -- if you don't know my 5-step framework yet on how to take your thoughts captive, then you are missing an easy and streamlined strategy on how to get out of your own head and back into your real life.
Grab your seat today for FREE at www.trishblackwell.com/framework REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Christine Coughlin - Life Changing - 5 Stars
Hi Trish, I can't thank you enough for how much hope and encouragement you have been giving me. I started listening to your podcasts a couple of weeks ago and I haven't been able to stop since. No one has ever spoken in a way that resonated with me and encouraged my heart and my faith in such a deep way. I've been struggling with depression and body dysmorphia for years after an extremely traumatic surgery. But God has been faithful and He's healing me more and more every day. Listening to your story of overcoming trauma and body dysmorphia and now helping so many people through your pain has inspired me to fight even harder for victory over this struggle. I know I will use my story to help others like you have. Thank you for giving me the hope and courage to walk in confidence in the calling God has for me.
ABOUT JENNIE ALLEN: Jennie Allen is an award-winning and bestselling author of Anything and Restless, as well as the Bible studies Stuck, Chase, and Restless. The founder and visionary for the IF: Gathering, she is a passionate leader following God's call on her life to catalyze a generation of women to live what they believe.
Jennie's website:
https://www.jennieallen.com LIKE HOW MANY OF GOD’S BEST STORIES START I didn’t plan for this part of my life. I would have laughed if you told me years ago I’d be here blogging, writing, and speaking. There was a lot of wrestling with God at the beginning, questioning things he’d placed in my heart that I couldn’t seem to shake. I was caught between feeling like my life was already so full and not wanting to miss the “even more” God had for me.
As we get to know each other, you’ll learn quickly that I’m a catalytic leader and the type to take risks. Because God has an impeccable sense of humor, I married an even crazier, riskier leader- my husband Zac. Along came four crazy, risky dreamer kids who’ve never stopped surprising us. Even the one who grew in my heart (instead of my tummy) came hard-wired to rule the world. As a crazy, risk-taking family, we love God with everything we have and are on a daily mission to give that crazy love away.
With every word I write, I hope the underlying message will ring out loud and clear: God sees you. He loves you. He has invited you into the beautiful story He's written for this world. And, because He is a God of abundance, He wants to use you to bring more of His love into a world that desperately needs it. I’ve seen for myself the crazy and miraculous that Jesus does when we release the grip of control and step fully in. It’s never a mistake to step into where He’s leading you. Let’s do it together. You in? ABOUT GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD: Get Out of Your Head: Stopping the Spiral of Toxic Thoughts
Amazon Link for Book:
https://amzn.to/2TpsgxM
APPROVAL ADDICTION Podcast #378 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast
What is approval addiction and what does it look like? 3 ways to break free from the patterns Getting deep about approval - and how to have peace in being who you are without it
Approval addiction, or affirmation addiction, is rampant and a debilitating pattern to allow dominate in your heart. You don't have to always be stuck in this addictive, often negative and powerless place. You can learn to be free from the need to earn approval, get permission or be affirmed by others to feel like you're "enough." Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/378
FIRST OFF, HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MY BEAUTIFUL 5-YEAR-OLD ELLIE!!!! REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Love this podcast so far - 5 stars by _m4ggie
Her words are super encouraging and a delight to listen to
Ya'll, in life, the best advice I was ever given, is to ask for what you want.
You only get in life what you have the courage to ask for.
So I am having the courage to ask you to leave me some love. OK, LET'S TALK ABOUT APPROVAL ADDICTION Addicted to approval, what does this mean? It's the belief that it's possible to please everyone.
It creates a self-imposed prison
It's both people-pleasing and performing to impress. I was addicted to approval. What did it mean for me? -Wanting to be liked by everyone
-Wanting to be the absolute best at anything I did
-Wanting to be favored by teachers and employers
-Wanting to be in all social groups
-Wanting to be as successful as possible
-Wanting to be stand out physically - and hiding when I didn't feel that way
-Wanting to be built up by my parents in ways they weren't wired to be
-Wanting to date only the most attractive and popular people
-Wanting to appear like I had it all together
-Wanting to create the image of a perfect life (being more interested in appearing to have a perfect life than living one) Ways approval addiction can manifest: Lack of achievement
Lack of personal fulfillment
Low self-esteem
Reduced performance
Increased stress and anxiety
Increased pressure
Overcommitment of schedule
People pleasing Examples of Types of Behaviors: Changing your position because other people don't agree or approve
Giving compliments to gain attention
Getting upset if someone disagrees with you
Agreeing when you don't really agree
Losing your voice and not giving your true opinion
Doing what you don't want to do because you can't say no
Failing to complain or communicate over wrongdoing
Spreading or participating in gossip
Asking permission or waiting for someone to tell you that you are qualified
Consistently apologizing
Pretending to be an authority on everything BREAK FOR SPONSORSHIP Today's podcast episode is sponsored by Ariel Selwyn's upcoming new book, Though the Mountains Be Shaken.
You can find out more about Ariel and her work at: www.arielselwyn.com
You can find her book, Though the Mountains Be Shaken on Amazon or iTunes. COMING SOON FOR PRE-ORDER ON AMAZON. Check back for link to be updated!
What is the book about? In Ariel's words: Mine is a story of perseverance. For 10 years my family watched me struggle with pain, confusion, and symptoms without answers. All my dreams, plans and goals for my future seemed to crumble under an unexplained illness. I often cried out to God wondering, why me and became confused about my purpose. The many years that followed were tough, with endless treatments and tests, but I never gave up. I never stopped fighting to reach a level of normalcy again for me and my family and neither should you. 3 WAYS TO BREAK APPROVAL ADDICTION First, acknowledge the addictive behavior.
Give yourself your own approval. You have already been approved by God. Ask for approval from people who are trustworthy.
Then, after those things, most importantly, TAKE ACTION.
There's a reason I call my clients "action takers".
If you can embody this forward momentum mindset,
NOT GOOD ENOUGH: HOW TO GET THE FEELING OUT OF YOUR HEAD Podcast #377 Feeling not good enough doesn't have to be how you walk through life. Feelings of inadequacy can deeply disrupt our lives and keep us from our full potential. Not feeling good enough will rob you of peace and fill you with anxiety. This episode of The Confidence Podcast will teach you a new way to think, and how to detox those "not good enough" thoughts in the first place. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're chatting about:
Why we feel so not good enough - and how it is so pervasive in our minds The system of our beliefs is broken, but the fix is just a slight shift How to change how you think when you think thoughts of inadequacy
REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Love Trish - 5 Stars. by hugs71618
I love your podcast soooo much! You are my sunshine on the bad and not so bad days. Just listening to your voice with the words you speak makes me feel so good inside. There is a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow! Thank you Trish!
NEW FREE MASTERCLASS Because of popular demand, I've put together a new online masterclass to help you dive even deeper into these concepts. It goes live today ---> save your spot now at www.trishblackwell.com/framework
... even if you can't make it live, I'll be sending out a replay that you won't want to miss.
You'll learn the framework of being confident in being yourself.
SO WHY DO WE FEEL THIS WAY? SO "NOT GOOD ENOUGH"? -FIRST, SOME FACTS ABOUT THE "NOT GOOD ENOUGH" EPIDEMIC - CULTURE CONTRIBUTES
Comparison.
Competition.
Scarcity.
Media marketing.
Filtered online lives.
Loneliness.
Worship of success and productivity.
Busyness.
According to Business Insider, Fitness is a 100 Billion Dollar Worldwide Industry
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Suicide_in_the_United_States
And Beauty is a $532 Billion Industry
https://www.businessinsider.com/beauty-multibillion-industry-trends-future-2019-7
The suicide rate increased 33 percent from 1999 through 2017, from 10.5 to 14 suicides per 100,000 people (NCHS Data Brief No. 330, November 2018)
https://www.apa.org/monitor/2019/03/trends-suicide
Suicide: 1 person dies every 40 seconds.
https://www.who.int/news-room/detail/09-09-2019-suicide-one-person-dies-every-40-seconds
In the United States. In 2017, there were 47,173 recorded suicides
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Suicide_in_the_United_States
Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love, shared in a speech that no matter how charmed her life looks, every day she falls short of what she had hoped to accomplish. Then she has to consciously stop her brain from beating herself up for her shortcomings.
She ended by telling us to “Let go of the knife you are holding at your throat, the knife of shame, blame, fear and remorse.”
There was a long, deathly silence as her words hit home.
“Be kind to yourself,” she implored, “especially now. You must give yourself unconditional self-friendship.”
(https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wander-woman/201312/how-feel-good-enough)
There is a Loneliness Epidemic
https://www.forbes.com/sites/neilhowe/2019/05/03/millennials-and-the-loneliness-epidemic/#355208a27676
The Economist/KFF findings add to a wave of recent research showing high levels of loneliness. A recent Cigna survey revealed that nearly half of Americans always or sometimes feel alone (46%) or left out (47%). Fully 54% said they always or sometimes feel that no one knows them well.
Loneliness isn’t just a U.S. phenomenon. In a nationwide survey released in October from the BBC, a third of Britons said that they often or very often feel lonely. Nearly half of Britons over 65 consider the television or a pet their main source of company. In Japan, there are more than half a million people under 40 who haven’t left their house or interacted with anyone for at least six months. In Canada, the share of solo households is now 28%. Across the European Union, it’s 34%.
HOW TO LIKE YOURSELF IN THE MIRROR MORE Podcast #376 Being self-critical about how you look is one of the most surefire ways to feel deeply insecure and uncomfortable. You deserve better. God created you beautifully, and this podcast will teach you how to go from knowing that to actually believing it. You will learn how to see yourself with kind eyes in the mirror, how to change your internal self-dialogue and how to build yourself up instead of always tearing yourself down. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/376
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're chatting about:
The most important 4 things to start doing right now that will help you like yourself in the mirror more How to actually believe that you're beautiful (instead of just "knowing" that you should think it and believe it) The power of building yourself up instead of tearing yourself down
PATREON PARTNERS: https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast
The Confidence Podcast is almost seven years old and in that time we've mobilized a movement of confidence across the world. It has been my greatest honor to have the privilege of being a voice of encouragement in your life. With hundreds of hours of free coaching available with just the click of an episode, The Confidence Podcast has sown confidence and courage into over 2 million people's lives.
The launch of Patreon Partners is a celebration of how our community has grown, and a way that we can offer our most loyal listeners a real community and extra resources for just pennies a day.
Therefore we want to make this Patreon Partner community as simple as possible while obviously providing significant value in return for your support. As such, we are offering one tier at a set support amount of $5. And for that patreon support, you get the following:
Biweekly bonus episodes that we're calling our "Faith Take" Episodes. You'll receive 2 bonus episodes per month, available only to patreon partners. These are going to be extended conversations from particular podcasts released that month, but with a more Biblical take and faith-based perspective to help you deepen your confidence in your walk with the Lord. Weekly Episode Takeaway Cue Card, to help you carry that week's most important coaching. These will be pretty wallpapers that you can use on your phone or in your social feed and you'll have fun wondering what I consider to be the most important take away of each episode. Supplement Resources, When Applicable. Here's the deal, when you become a Patreon Partner of The Confidence Podcast, you'll be a VIP in our book, and so you better believe that anytime we find resources and tools that are aligned with what we covered in a particular episode, you'll hear about it and get exclusive access.
Final word: Asking you for money is something we take very seriously. We know it’s no small thing to commit your financial resources to something like a podcast and we deeply respect even your consideration of such a thing. But know that our commitment to you and this community is always to pursue a return on investment that greatly exceeds $5 each month.
Podcasts that Patrons will get this month?
5 Old Beliefs About Faith to Leave Behind How to Let God Change How You Think
Become a podcast VIP, become a patron --- > www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Tamgarz - Thank you, Trish! 5 Stars.
Thank you for teaching me so many things about confidence. I've been listening for a couple of months now, Lord knows how many. The body confidence episode is one of my favorites, and I've shared it with several people, including my children. As a part-time, 47-year-old fitness instructor (full-time insurance agent), I've already shared what I've learned with the members. I've gleaned so many good things from you! Keep it coming. What you're doing is much needed in today's world! I love you! Here's one more review to get you closer to your 1000 goal.
HOW TO BE YOURSELF & NOT CARE WHAT PEOPLE THINK Podcast #375 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
8 ways to really be yourself and step into authenticity 10 milestones that will help you feel more alive in being yourself 30 ways to not care what people think about you
Personality dysmorphia - a belief that something is inherently wrong with who we are and how we are at the core.
SPONSOR NOTE FROM NOEMIE www.hellonoemie.com
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o They cut out the middlemen to deliver exceptional fine jewelry without the traditional retail markups.
o Noémie designs and manufactures everything in-house and sells directly to consumers with a lifetime warranty and free shipping both ways.
o So you can save an average of 50% compared to other luxury brands.
Noémie is the only fine jewelry company offering such incredible quality at this price.
o Featuring solid 18 karat gold for the perfect balance of strength and purity.
o VS Clarity diamonds of uncompromising quality that come with an IGI certification card.
o You can personalize with engravings, and even order custom designs.
Usually, you have to “know a guy” to get this kind of a deal.
o At Noémie, everyone gets the friends-and-family treatment.
o Read the thousands of five-star reviews on their website and see for yourself.
If you’re looking for quality fine jewelry made to last a lifetime from a luxury brand you can trust, it’s Noémie.They have thousands of 5-star reviews online, we suggest you read some and see why people are raving about this company. Go to hellonoemie.com/CONFIDENCEto see their collections and get $50 your first purchase with promo code CONFIDENCE. h-e-l-l-o, n-o-e-m-i-e, dot com slash CONFIDENCE.
o And don’t forget to use promo code CONFIDENCEfor $50 off your first purchase. PATREON PARTNERS: https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast
The Confidence Podcast is almost seven years old and in that time we've mobilized a movement of confidence across the world. It has been my greatest honor to have the privilege of being a voice of encouragement in your life. With hundreds of hours of free coaching available with just the click of an episode, The Confidence Podcast has sown confidence and courage into over 2 million people's lives.
The launch of Patreon Partners is a celebration of how our community has grown, and a way that we can offer our most loyal listeners a real community and extra resources for just pennies a day.
Therefore we want to make this Patreon Partner community as simple as possible while obviously providing significant value in return for your support. As such, we are offering one tier at a set support amount of $5. And for that patreon support, you get the following:
Biweekly bonus episodes that we're calling our "Faith Take" Episodes. You'll receive 2 bonus episodes per month, available only to patreon partners. These are going to be extended conversations from particular podcasts released that month, but with a more Biblical take and faith-based perspective to help you deepen your confidence in your walk with the Lord. Weekly Episode Takeaway Cue Card, to help you carry that week's most important coaching. These will be pretty wallpapers that you can use on your phone or in your social feed and you'll have fun wondering what I consider to be the most important take away of each episode. Supplement Resources, When Applicable. Here's the deal, when you become a Patreon Partner of The Confidence Podcast, you'll be a VIP in our book, and so you better believe that anytime we find resources and tools that are aligned with what we covered in a particular episode, you'll hear about it and get exclusive access.
Final word: Asking you for money is something we take very seriously. We know it’s no small thing to commit your financial resources to something like a podcast and we deeply respect even your consideration of...
The real essence of personal development and deep growth isn't found in what you do - or how disciplined and awesome you are, but rather in how you think and how you live. True transformation and deep happiness come from changing how we think. That's why training your thoughts is the most important thing you can do. If you will, it's the new black. It fits everyone and makes everyone look better. This podcast episode on training your thoughts will teach you how to start doing it so that you can get the results you want. Get the full show notes on how to be yourself today at www.trishblackwell.com/374 This week on The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
What training your thoughts means and how it works How to be yourself How to consistently train your thoughts The secret to making time to think about your thought life
New music, new bonus podcast opportunities .... it's a good new year! REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Pages and pages of Trishisms and Notes! 5 Stars!
Trish, your words and tone and energy in how you speak and what you speak strengthen my confidence and builds my soul. I have pages and pages of notes of what I call "Trishisms" and sidenotes of how I can relate to them in my life. -Madison
PATREON PARTNERS: https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast
The Confidence Podcast is almost seven years old and in that time we've mobilized a movement of confidence across the world. It has been my greatest honor to have the privilege of being a voice of encouragement in your life. With hundreds of hours of free coaching available with just the click of an episode, The Confidence Podcast has sown confidence and courage into over 2 million people's lives.
The launch of Patreon Partners is a celebration of how our community has grown, and a way that we can offer our most loyal listeners a real community and extra resources for just pennies a day.
Therefore we want to make this Patreon Partner community as simple as possible while obviously providing significant value in return for your support. As such, we are offering one tier at a set support amount of $5. And for that patreon support, you get the following:
Biweekly bonus episodes that we're calling our "Faith Take" Episodes. You'll receive 2 bonus episodes per month, available only to patreon partners. These are going to be extended conversations from particular podcasts released that month, but with a more Biblical take and faith-based perspective to help you deepen your confidence in your walk with the Lord. Weekly Episode Takeaway Cue Card, to help you carry that week's most important coaching. These will be pretty wallpapers that you can use on your phone or in your social feed and you'll have fun wondering what I consider to be the most important take away of each episode. Supplement Resources, When Applicable. Here's the deal, when you become a Patreon Partner of The Confidence Podcast, you'll be a VIP in our book, and so you better believe that anytime we find resources and tools that are aligned with what we covered in a particular episode, you'll hear about it and get exclusive access.
Final word: Asking you for money is something we take very seriously. We know it’s no small thing to commit your financial resources to something like a podcast and we deeply respect even your consideration of such a thing. But know that our commitment to you and this community is always to pursue a return on investment that greatly exceeds $5 each month.
Podcasts that Patrons will get this month?
5 Old Beliefs About Faith to Leave Behind How to Let God Change How You Think
WHAT TRAINING YOUR THOUGHTS MEANS: Training your thoughts means that you are taking ownership of your life.
It, like fitness, is a lifelong endeavor.
It means that you are choosing to be a victor, not a victim.
It means that you choose a positive explanatory style, not a negative one.
It means that you are learning how to adjust your attitude and inner self-talk.
THE 5 OLD BELIEFS TO LEAVE BEHIND IN 2019
Podcast #373
Our beliefs about life - and our place in it - are a huge contributor in determining how our life goes, and how good we feel along the way. Chances are, there are 5 major beliefs you need to drop that are dragging you down and keeping you from being your best, most confident and effective self. It's time to think about what beliefs to leave behind.
This week on The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
How to actually substitute belief and change your thinkingThe 5 beliefs to leave behind this yearA discussion on whether or not you can actually disrupt default thinking
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Life-changing podcast - 5 stars. By mel1225
I highly recommend this podcast! It has been truly life-changing. Trish's positivity is infectious and motivating. My favorite podcast episodes are the quick faith episodes but I am enjoying them all and passing them on for others to give a listen as well. Thanks so much, Trish for sharing the love of Jesus to all those who get to listen!
If you missed last week, go back and listen to it today - it's a topic that resonates with us all ... how to reframe rejection and be able to see it as a good thing. You can listen directly at www.trishblackwell.com/372
HOW TO SUBSTITUTE BELIEF AND CHANGE YOUR THINKING
Decision
Direction
Discipline
Make a decision that your current thinking doesn't work any longer. You've outgrown it. Pick a direction in which to pivot yourself and point your thought patterns.Get disciplined about your mental training - journal, therapy, work witha coach, pour good resources into your mind, guard inputs and prioritize your emotional health with sleep and a pace of life that is sustainable and life-giving.
These are just some of the beliefs to leave behind.
PATREON PARTNERS:
https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast
The Confidence Podcast is almost seven years old and in that time we've mobilized a movement of confidence across the world. It has been my greatest honor to have the privilege of being a voice of encouragement in your life. With hundreds of hours of free coaching available with just the click of an episode, The Confidence Podcast has sown confidence and courage into over 2 million people's lives.
The launch of Patreon Partners is a celebration of how our community has grown, and a way that we can offer our most loyal listeners a real community and extra resources for just pennies a day.
Therefore we want to make this Patreon Partner community as simple as possible while obviously providing significant value in return for your support. As such, we are offering one tier at a set support amount of $5. And for that patreon support, you get the following:
Biweekly bonus episodes that we're calling our "Faith Take" Episodes. You'll receive 2 bonus episodes per month, available only to patreon partners. These are going to be extended conversations from particular podcasts released that month, but with a more Biblical take and faith-based perspective to help you deepen your confidence in your walk with the Lord. Weekly Episode Takeaway Cue Card, to help you carry that week's most important coaching. These will be pretty wallpapers that you can use on your phone or in your social feed and you'll have fun wondering what I consider to be the most important take away of each episode.Supplement Resources, When Applicable. Here's the deal, when you become a Patreon Partner of The Confidence Podcast, you'll be a VIP in our book, and so you better believe that anytime we find resources and tools that are aligned with what we covered in a particular episode, you'll hear about it and get exclusive access.
Final word: Asking you for money is something we take very seriously. We know it’s no small thing to commit your financial resources to something like a podcast and we deeply respect even your consideration of such a thing.
HOW TO REFRAME REJECTION TO SEE IT AS A GOOD THING Podcast #372 We all have felt rejection or exclusion, and we are all guaranteed to have more of it throughout the rest of our lives. There is no way to avoid this pit of pain, so, rather than dread it or allow it to be a reflection of our character, it's time that we take rejection into our own control. Rejection and closed doors don't need to get you down ever again.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about:
The universality of rejection and setbacks and what your relationship with them can be 10 ways to reframe rejection positively so that you can see rejection as a good thing Why I celebrate rejection and what gives me confidence that I will fail, but not fall.
REVIEW OF THE WEEK: A weekly boost! by Beast, sick, game yo
I so look forward to Tuesdays! Trish's content seems to always be spot on. She inspires her listeners to be productive, loving people. I admire how she has incorporated her faith into several of the episodes. Keep going Trish! You're making a difference. Gina in Idaho
OK, LET'S DEEP DIVE INTO REJECTION. REJECTION IS A GOOD THING.
It's all about how you think about it and your relationship with it.
As in all relationships, there's a reaction and an interaction element to how you interact with it. Take a moment and assess how your relationship with rejection is. Does it define you or does it refine you?
Rejection types:
jobs, sales, relationships, opportunities, friendships.
Why we're talking about rejection:
We all have felt rejection or exclusion, and we are all guaranteed to have more of it throughout the rest of our lives. There is no way to avoid this pit of pain, so, rather than dread it or allow it to be a reflection of our character, it's time that we take rejection into our own control.
Trial by fire:
Rejection is the first part of my professional career - Gold's Gym, trial by fire. I learned a lot in the process - mostly, that rejection is inevitable and not personal. Make it a game, play the game and use the game to strengthen your mindset. SPONSOR NOTE FROM NOEMIE www.hellonoehmie.com
Noémie believes that luxury jewelry doesn’t have to be overpriced.
o They cut out the middlemen to deliver exceptional fine jewelry without the traditional retail markups.
o Noémie designs and manufactures everything in-house and sells directly to consumers with a lifetime warranty and free shipping both ways.
o So you can save an average of 50% compared to other luxury brands.
Noémie is the only fine jewelry company offering such incredible quality at this price.
o Featuring solid 18 karat gold for the perfect balance of strength and purity.
o VS Clarity diamonds of uncompromising quality that come with an IGI certification card.
o You can personalize with engravings, and even order custom designs.
Usually, you have to “know a guy” to get this kind of a deal.
o At Noémie, everyone gets the friends-and-family treatment.
o Read the thousands of five-star reviews on their website and see for yourself.
If you’re looking for quality fine jewelry made to last a lifetime from a luxury brand you can trust, it’s Noémie.They have thousands of 5-star reviews online, we suggest you read some and see why people are raving about this company. Go tohellonoemie.com/CONFIDENCEto see their collections and get $50 your first purchase with promo code CONFIDENCE. h-e-l-l-o, n-o-e-m-i-e, dot com slash CONFIDENCE.
o And don’t forget to use promo code CONFIDENCEfor $50 off your first purchase. 10 WAYS TO REFRAME REJECTION AS A GOOD THING
Decide that you are going to like it, not shy away from it or personalize it. It's a sign that you're stepping outside of your comfort zone. Get some callouses - thick skin grows with time. It's okay to be an M&M - hard on the outside and soft on the inside Pump yourself up - hype it up Reverse the role: chase rejection instead of avoiding it.
HOW TO MAKE THIS YEAR THE YEAR YOU STICK TO YOUR DIET Podcast #371 Sticking to your diet is much less about discipline and will-power than you think it might be. Those who are successful in their health and fitness goals focus more on mindset than on perfect habits. This podcast episode will help breakdown the differences and will teach you how to have a banner year for your health habits ... helping you be successful with your weight goals this year.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about:
The mindset of successful weight loss and of those who have a healthy relationship with food What to do when you feel triggered and your confidence in your discipline feels shakey How to talk back to yourself and train your thoughts to guarantee yourself success this year
ANNOUNCEMENT: Do you get fearful sometimes, worrying what people may or may not think about you? Maybe it's someone close to you, or someone you barely know, but the potential of them looking down on you, judging you or making a comment about it is enough to make you play it safe?
If so, then I'll see you in class this week - I'm hosting something you don't want to me. It's my new free 20-minute power-packed webinar class on How to Stop Caring What People Think. I've poured all my creative energy into this over the past two weeks and can't wait to share with you what I want to teach!
I almost didn't write my first book, I almost didn't run my first running race, I almost didn't go on the blind date that led to my amazing husband, I almost didn't start my blog, or this podcast or my business ... I was worried that people would think "who is she to do _____" or "gosh, she's stupid"... but thankfully I had the right mentors who loved on me, pushed me and taught me how to just go be me - to go be Trish Blackwell and to not worry about what anyone thinks as I do. I want to teach you the same thing.
Grab your spot at www.trishblackwell.com/class REVIEW OF THE WEEK: @cdrinkwine - Never-ending Fountain of Motivation and Strength
I discovered Trish's podcast earlier in 2019 when I set a goal for myself to increase my confidence. While I don't consider myself to be painfully meek, I know that I can use improvement to help my professional and personal life. Trish's podcast put all other confidence podcasts to shame. Her positive attitude, full exposure of her own challenges and well organized and well-researched advice and guidance has helped me feel more confident and improve in numerous ways. For example, I love to swim but was always afraid of doing anything but a crawl stroke for fear of feeling embarrassed as I flopped around in the pool. By pointing out that other people are not worrying about me but worrying about themselves, I shed that fear and now happily splash my way through all strokes (and have actually gotten pretty good at them). I also don't hold back to speak up and share my ideas in meetings and stand my ground when I"m confident that my professional decisions are solid. I hope men and women who want to improve their confidence make the right choice and listen to Trish. I also did join Trish's College of Confidence and find that to be a huge bonus, adding to a wonderfully supportive community to the great content. Count yourself lucky that you've discovered this podcast and take advantage of the tremendous free resource with which Trish has gifted us. Thanks so much, Trish, Being me, being free!
COACHING NUGGEST FOR WEIGHT LOSS:
Breakthrough with food is less about what you do and more about your self-talk. You won't ever be the bodyweight you want until you are proud of the person you are on the inside. The more you hide from yourself, the more you will perpetuate self-shame - and the shame cycle of sabotage.
KNOW YOUR TRIGGERS Fatigue - or irritation
The wave of anxiety bubbling within me - uneasiness that is hard to pinpoint
Vulnerability or fear of unworthiness TALK BACK TO YOURSELF
USING POWERFUL WORDS TO CRAFT YOUR 2020 VISION Podcast #370
The power of words and how to change the quality of words you think Changing the station of your internal thoughts The difference between a goal and a vision - and how to make yours happen in 2020
ANNOUNCEMENT: Want a solid vision for 2020, but aren't sure where to start? I have all of my best goal setting and planning resources getting released in the College of Confidence this week. You're not going to want to miss out on these. Become a student in the College of Confidence today and get instant access to hundreds of hours of coaching content, structured confidence courses, our community forum - and personal support from me, as well as frequent live group coaching calls ... and of course, the planning tools you need for 2020 at www.collegeofconfidence.com
See you in class this week - again, that's my new free 20-minute power-packed webinar class on How to Stop Caring What People Think. I've poured all my creative energy into this over the past two weeks and can't wait to share with you what I want to teach!
Grab your spot at www.trishblackwell.com/class REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Heart full of Jesus - 5-stars, Your Minnesota Friend
Okay, Trish, I had to stop what I was doing and message you after hearing your review of the week the other day because wow. Not only did you have the guts to reveal to your audience a 1-star review, but you totally owned it. Everything you speak of comes from your heart. A heart full of compassion, kindness, and you said it, JESUS!!! And maybe that's not for everybody, but for girls like me and I'm sure many others, it's exactly waht we need in a world like this. A world where comparison, materilaism and hustling to the point of exahustion is all too common. Being a full-time interior deisnger, having my own photography biz and coaching college tennis at the age of 23 is a little crazy, I'll admit. It wasn't until this past July I realized I needed to slow dow nadn take care of myslf. Unfortunately, it took me being sick for amonty with mono for me to wake the hell up and make a change in my lifestyle. My competitive personality didn't know how to slow down until I was forced to. There have also been tiems where I felt like a failure because i didn't meet my own unrealistici expectations and it weighed on me more than it should have. The Confidence Podcast has helped me redirect my priorities that have been englected for too long and stand still in the love os Jesus. So Trish, THANK YOU for being transparent, sahring your story and helping me get back to the girl God created me to be. You are changing lives, but haters gonna hate. 10 starts. Blessings, your Minnesotan friend.
LET'S DIVE INTO OUR COACHING ON WORDS: A word that has changed my life this year is the word "freedom." And I just got it tattooed on my left arm - check it out by seeing the show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/370 or checking out my feed on Facebook or Instagram this week.
When I have a word on me, with me at all times, I feel it. It goes beyond just being a thought- it becomes part of me, part of my identity, and in my bones. THE POWER OF WORDS Proverbs 18:21
The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit. (NIV)
Words kill, words give life; they're either poison or fruit - you choose (MSG)
Words give life or death.
Word choice - even the difference between "I" and "Trish" matter:
Psychologist Ethan Kross of the University of Michigan led the work, studying the pronouns people use when they talk to themselves silently, inside their minds.
"What we find," Kross says, "is that a subtle linguistic shift — shifting from 'I' to your own name — can have really powerful self-regulatory effects." https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2014/10/07/353292408/why-saying-is-believing-the-science-of-self-talk
Koss decided to do an experiment to see what would happen if nonfamous people were instructed to try the same...
Podcast #369 DOUBLING YOUR DREAMS AND YOUR GENEROSITY, WITH MARK BATTERSON The bigger you dream, and bolder you are, the more impact you will have. We go deep into how to dream big, grow in generosity and see things beyond your wildest dreams happen - all starting with how you think, how you give, and how you flip your blessings in your life to bless others. This is a holiday episode that will bless you and challenge you for the new year to come.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
Generosity Big dreams What to do when the vision feels too big for you
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Life-changing - 5 stars, by harvmarv58257
Listening to Trish has been life-changing for me. God sent me to this podcast at a very rough time in my life and I"m so thankful for how I have grown through the words of Trish. Thank you and keep it up. I know there are many others out there like me who need to hear your message too. SPONSORSHIP NOTE: Ya'll. Exciting news. I just started teaching a NEW webinar. This podcast is brought to you today by this new FREE webinar: HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK.
I've been listening to your feedback and requests, and this webinar masterclass session is just that. You've asked for it, so you're getting it!
It's a 20-minute webinar on HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK, and you'll walk away with 3 strategies you can do right away to start being free from worrying so much about what people think --- because when you're free from all that worry, that's when you become equipped to show up with confidence and courage for your life. Here's to chasing your dreams and to living with peace and joy! But to get there, we've got to get free from caring too much what people think.
Grab your seat today -I'm hosting class all week, don't miss this. Just go to www.trishblackwell.com/class. You'll want to attend the whole class because we're doing a Q&A session at the end. I can't wait to see you there!!!! ABOUT MARK BATTERSON: Mark Batterson is the lead pastor of National Community Church in Washington, DC. One church in seven locations, NCC owns and operates Ebenezers Coffeehouse, The Miracle Theatre, and the DC Dream Center. NCC is currently developing a city block into The Capital Turnaround, the 100,000 sf space will include event venue, child development center, mixed-use marketplace and co-working space. Mark holds a Doctor of Ministry degree from Regent University and is the New York Times best-selling author of seventeen books including, The Circle Maker, In a Pit with a Lion on a Snowy Day, Wild Goose Chase, and recently released Double Blessing, Whisper, and Play the Man. Mark and his wife Lora live on Capitol Hill with their three children: Parker, Summer, and Josiah. Learn more at www.markbatterson.com. ABOUT THE BOOK: Double Blessing, How to Get It. How to Give It.
His discovery started with a simple experiment. Whenever Batterson received a blessing, he would give a similar blessing away. If someone paid him a compliment or gave him a gift or went out of their way to help him, he would return the favor by doing something similar for someone else.
We flip the blessing by blessing others in the way God has blessed us. That’s how the blessing becomes a double blessing. It turns giving into a game—one we can’t win because God will always outgive us! It’s an ancient truth found within the Abrahamic covenant: “I will bless you . . . and you will be a blessing.”
In other words, we are blessed to bless. The first blessing is receiving, but it doesn’t end there. The second blessing is giving it away! That’s the double blessing. And that’s where double joy is found.
In a day and age where the idea of blessing has been reduced to a hashtag (#blessed), Batterson challenges readers to pursue true, God-glorifying blessing and experience an exponential impact by participating in the double blessing.
Don’t settle for half of what God offers.
Podcast #368 HOW TO NOT BE AFFECTED BY NEGATIVE PEOPLE You can learn how to not be affected by negative people, even if that includes your own negativity. In this episode, we're going to be talking about how to handle negativity, from wherever it comes, and how to shift states and turn what is or could be perceived as negative into something positive.
Understanding negativity and the difference between negativity and realism How to handle negative people - 5 things you can do What to do if you're the one being negative (eeekkk!)
SPONSORSHIP NOTE: Ya'll. Exciting news. I just started teaching a NEW webinar. This podcast is brought to you today by this new FREE webinar: HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK.
I've been listening to your feedback and requests, and this webinar masterclass session is just that. You've asked for it, so you're getting it!
It's a 20-minute webinar on HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK, and you'll walk away with 3 strategies you can do right away to start being free from worrying so much about what people think --- because when you're free from all that worry, that's when you become equipped to show up with confidence and courage for your life. Here's to chasing your dreams and to living with peace and joy! But to get there, we've got to get free from caring too much what people think.
Grab your seat today -I'm hosting class all week, don't miss this. Just go to www.trishblackwell.com/class. You'll want to attend the whole class because we're doing a Q&A session at the end. I can't wait to see you there!!!! REVIEW OF THE WEEK: We're at 736 episodes, y'all. My BHAG is 1000, and it's still not impossible. Will you help me press in and press towards that, appreciating my vulnerability of how it is to share a public goal with thousands of people that you just might not hit?
Trish!!! Thank you!!!
I started listening to your podcast a few months back when I was feeling sort of stuck. Your words have changed my life! I have gotten compliments from my friends that I've gained so much confidence that they want that for themselves (I've introduced them to your podcast, of course!). My favorite episode so far is the A-Z guide to confidence. I have listened to this more times than I can count, so I finally wrote each letter out and taped them up at home. My goal is every day to just pick one letter and do that. Anyways, this is me showing up to help you reach that audacious goal and to let you know that you are truly changing the world.
Episode #302: The A-Z Guide for Confidence
NEGATIVITY, WHAT IS IT Negativity is any focus on what could go wrong, what is going wrong or what should be better than it is. The dictionary says that it is the expression of criticism or pessimism about something.
Negativity focuses only on lack, limitations, and criticism. Realism is less subjectively focused and is more objective.
Don't claim the cop-out, "I'm just a realistic" to justify your negative thinking.
Negativity is the brake for all dreams.
Negativity is where potential goes to die.
Negativity is the excuse-maker's language. WHAT NEGATIVITY WILL HOLD YOU BACK FROM It's hard to be negative and happy.
It's hard to be negative and to push past your comfort zone.
It's hard to be negative and believe in yourself.
It's hard to be negative and grateful.
It's hard to be negative and growth-oriented. HOW TO HANDLE NEGATIVE PEOPLE:
Be kind: understand that they are in pain. Be firm: have boundaries and coach with love, negativity is contagious - call them to a higher standard. Be patient: you can't fix people, they have to want it for themselves. Be optimistic: lead by example and demonstrate emotional courage, inviting them in alongside you. Be intentional: choose your words and thoughts with intention and be mindful of what you expose yourself to - via social media, TV, and music.
WHAT TO DO IF YOU'RE THE ONE BEING NEGATIVE Or if you've created a potentially negative situation or ...
HOW TO STOP PUTTING SO MUCH PRESSURE ON YOURSELF Podcast #367 Putting pressure on yourself doesn't get you better results in life. Pressure just increases stress and makes you overwhelmed. This episode will teach you how to be nicer to yourself and how to use positive motivation instead of negative pressure.
In this podcast episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
The ways in which we put pressure on ourselves, and what it does to us Why we put pressure on ourselves How to stop the pressure-cycle for good and have more happiness
If you haven’t yet gotten your hands on my morning journal, the Freedom Journal, there’s no better time than now to deepen your morning routine with God. This 8-minute/day process, which I’ll teach you for free, obviously, is the place to start. Get it now at www.trishblackwell.com/freedomjournal REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Keep on doing you – 5 stars by LoveyaLongThyme
Trish has been teaching me how to slow down and really pay attention to life. She is always opening my eyes and giving great tips on making the most of our time on earth. Her spiritual podcasts were my favorite! No matter what she talks about it somehow helps me and I highly encourage people to give it a listen! My only critique is I cannot hear her in my car because her tone is so soft and soothing. Thank the Lord for Trish and Bluetooth headphones. Keep doing you, Trish! WHY WE PUT PRESSURE ON OURSELVES Peel back the onion and don’t just use the cop-out of personality.
Some of it is our wiring, but most of it is a belief system.
As a little girl I believed I could fix my family’s problems if I was just good enough, just successful enough.
What about you?
Resource Mentioned:
Dr. Leaf www.drleaf.com
Dr. Leaf’s TED Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yjhANyrKpv8 3 MAIN TYPES OF PRESSURE WE PUT ON OURSELVES: PRESSURE TO BE PERFECT There is a difference between high achievement and perfection.
Desire to be a certain weight, or parent or achiever. PRESSURE TO BE SUCCESSFUL There is a line between a full life and an overwhelmed life
Desire to be impressive, to be admired, to be applauded, to be the best. PRESSURE TO BE LIKED. We are wired for connection, but trying to get people to like you is like chasing the wind.
Desire to be popular and praised, to have a guarantee that will never be lonely.
The main three lies we believe (part of the basics of Psychiatry 101):
I’m helpless.
I’m worthless.
I’m unloveable. PUTTING PRESSURE ON YOURSELF JUST DOESN'T WORK It fills your life with: Anxiety
Comparison
Competition
Overwhelm
Overcommitment And feelings of: Being less than
Being constantly behind
Being unqualified
Scarcity
Stress
The more pressure you put on yourself, the more prone you will be to the toxic cycle of self-sabotage.
We weren’t created to live in a pressure cooker – we are wired for wild adventure and encouragement.
[Podcast references]
How to Stop Being So Self-Critical, #366
www.trishblackwell.com/366
How to be Free from People Pleasing, #324
www.trishblackwell.com/324
How to Increase Confidence Through Self-Compassion, #321
www.trishblackwell.com/321
Those anxieties on your heart this morning? I hear them too. I know you felt them when you woke, and when you tossed and turned last night. I get it. Because I have them too.
Anxiety is part of the human condition, but it does not have to be the condition that reigns the directives of your life. It’s okay that you hear them shouting at you, but you need to know that their shouts are empty threats.
The fight for our faith is the most important fight in our lives. For me, as someone who battled anxiety for decades, the battle happens in my thoughts. I am victorious, not because I am strong, but because I am strong in the truth and promises that God has given me.
He has those promises for you too.
I have to revisit those truths every day, and you will need to too. Here are some of the ones that run in my brain,
HOW TO STOP BEING SO SELF-CRITICAL
Podcast #366
Being self-critical can block you from having authentic and life-giving self-confidence. You don't have to suffocate under the self-imposed pressure of self-criticism any long. Being self-critical is a learned behavior and often a passed-down thought pattern. This episode will help you begin to unravel the toxic wiring in your mindset that is making you suffer and stagnate from self-criticism.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about:
There are three toxic moves that are suffocating you: comparison, distraction, and busynessReestablish what you are living for and get clarity.Harness the tenants of a recovering perfectionist and be radically kind to yourself
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REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Amazing Life Changing Podcast - 5 Stars
by GolfGirly23
I absolutely love this podcast!!! I just happened to stumble upon Trish's podcast the other day and I'm so thankful that I did! This podcast truly has been life-changing. I have learned so much in just the short amount of time that I have been listening! I have been able to take what I have learned and apply it to my life. I have never listened to a podcast that has had such an impact on my life! I knew I was a perfectionist but I didn't realize the crippling effect that it had on my life until now. I also love that Trish incorporates faith-based episodes. It's always so good to have the lies that the enemy wants us to believe covered in God's truth! Trish thank you for opening your heart and sharing it with the world, and for speaking God's word over the enemy's lies. You are amazing and I am so glad that I found your podcast! Much love and blessing from a new fan! Sincerely, thank you!
REWIRING THE SELF-CRITICAL MINDSET
Identify first where the self-criticism comes from.
-A critical voice in your life? Was there a primary one or multiple ones?
-What does your self-critical voice say?
-What is the pressure you feel and why does it stem from being self-critical?
-I have a critical voice in my life - and I have to realign boundaries and expectations around them; I've learned that I will never get the praise or approval I crave from the person, so I have to let go. What do you need to let go of?
You are not a victim of your thoughts.
You are the driver of your thoughts.
You are not a victim to the thoughts or expectations of others.
You are the decider of who's voice matters.
“Remember, you have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.”
-Louise L. Hay, You Can Heal Your Life
“Our reaction to self-criticism is more important than the self-criticism itself. Paying attention to our reactions is very important because the only thing we have control over is how we react.”
-Yong Kang Chan, The Disbelief Habit: How to Use Doubt to Make Peace with Your Inner Critic
“Self-criticism, on the other hand, is anathema to self-compassion. Once we learn to stop judging ourselves, we can look upon our lesser talents with compassion.”
-Karen Rinaldi, It's Great to Suck at Something: The Unexpected Joy of Wiping Out and What It Can Teach Us About Patience, Resilience, and the Stuff that Really Matters
Comparison is toxic.
-We each have certain amounts of talent, some more, some less.
-We are responsible for what we have been given. Not that of others.
-Free yourself by being a good steward
Distraction will keep you dead.
-Busyness keeps us stagnant
HOW TO TO HAVE THE CONFIDENCE I HAVE
Podcast #365
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about:
The relationship between freedom and confidence?What my tagline "Be you, be free" means and how to tap into its powerHow you can learn to have confidence I have by pursuing freedom
SPONSORSHIP NOTE:
This podcast is brought to you by my free masterclass on confidence. If you don't yet know the three fundamental elements that make up The Confidence Formula, then you are seriously hindering your confidence growth. Get instant access to our masterclass replay and get the basics down so that you can really accelerate in your growth.
Just go to www.trishblackwell.com/freeclass
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Kara012994
I just started listening to your podcast and I truly believe God has sent me to you. Thank you for being so positive and brightening my day.
WHAT DOES FREEDOM HAVE TO DO WITH CONFIDENCE?
Noun:
the power or right to act, speak or think as one wants without hindrance or restraint.
BE YOU, BE FREE: WHAT DOES IT MEAN?
It starts with the most basic of all taglines - let's explore what mine actually means
It requires being emotionally brave to understand what you might be enslaved to.
"Be you, be free."
This is a tagline that settled into my heart when I first started blogging and podcasting. It felt right and it was simple and clear.
I had learned that when I was myself, when I was actually Trish, that I then felt the most alive. I think that the best word to describe that state of being absolutely alive is being "free."
Being "free" gave me permission to make mistakes, to fail, to be goofy, to be myself, to be daring, to be bolder in my faith, to be curious, to be human.
It let me be the Trish that I was when I was a little girl. Unafraid of rejection. Safe within the walls of my parents' love - even though their relationship was up and down, their love for me wasn't.
Previous, I was consumed and constrained. Restrained by the pressure I put on myself, by the cage I had put around myself in protection, by the complications and challenges of anxiety and self-sabotage I had set up for myself .... internally I wanted to be a child again, to be alive, to be unrestricted, to be joyous. My heart craved freedom. True freedom.
I believe that the key to freedom starts with identity.
BREAKOUT: GOING, GOING....ALMOST GONE
Currently, it sells for $397 and when we relaunch it in 2020 it will be a course that sells for $1997.
Get it for yourself now before the cost quadruples.
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HOW DO CAN YOU LEARN TO "BE YOU, BE FREE?"
Be You.
Figure out how to be you.
Best advice ever given to me: "Just go be Trish Blackwell."
How to Overcome Feelings of Inadequacy, Episode #269
How to Feel Confident About Who You Are, Episode #244
Laughing With Yourself + Stop Taking Life So Seriously, Episode #153
Be Who You Are, Not Who You Were, Episode #11
Be Free.
Get serious about freedom in your life.
Identify what is holding you back.
Look at the cage you've allowed yourself to stay stuck in and break out - you have the keys.
HOW TO HAVE THE CONFIDENCE I HAVE
Be you.
Be free.
Experiment with this and dare to do things differently.
God decided that, of all people in history and to come, that there needed to be a you.
You don't have to have all the plans figured out, because God has plans for you.
The thing that gives me the most confidence, peace and freedom >>>>
God promises me that I am not alone.
God tells me that He has a perfect, prosperous plan for me.
God has my life in His hands, I need not work to control it, plan it or be anxious about it.
God made me to be me, and I can trust who He made me to be - and the things He's refining in my heart as He develops me.
God hears me.
Jeremiah 29:11-14
BEING IN A HURRY TO GET THINGS DONE DOESN'T WORK
Podcast:#364
When you make time for growth, you make time for life. Real fulfillment and real confidence happen only when we slow down and actually live. The truth is, everyone has a life, but not everyone actually lives.
In this podcast episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
Why hurrying is detrimental to our productivityWhy hurrying is damaging to our happinessWhy hurrying is deadly to our purpose and plan
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Heart-changing - 5 Stars by sj12_faithfullyfit
Trish is not just a confidence coach, she is a life coach ... and now I know EVERYONE needs a life coach. As a kid I always had coaches in my life being involved in sports, but as an adult, I forgot what an important role a coach plate.d My only regret is that I didn't find Trish sooner!! Before I even realized it, I was trapped with unrealistic expectations for myself. I craved JOY or PEACE in my life, but instead, I was exhausted, frustrated and overwhelmed ... Trish has reminded me that it's ok to SLOW DOWN. She has reminded me that God loves ME, not what I do or accomplish. She has challenged me to grow in so many ways, yet it lacks overwhelm. When I take a step back and look how far I have come in the last year, it leaves me speechless. I. have unpacked and conquered so many things that I didn't even know was holding back or weighing me down. I have more work to do and nay more challenges to overcome, but I have leaned into the process and my faith to keep growing. From the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU Trish for putting yourself out there. I know it's not easy .. but what an impact!!! I will continue to pray God leads you to help so many more people.
THOUGHTS FROM A 4-YEAR OLD ON HURRYING:
Ellie's clip :)
My journey with pace and speed.
Podcast on "Forward is a Pace," How to be Happy With Where You Are On Your Journey" espisode from October 2018. Listen directly at: https://www.trishblackwell.com/289-2/. or below on the podcast player.
HOW TO BE HAPPY WITH WHERE YOU ARE ON YOUR JOURNEY
Remember - by paying attention to the words we use to think about our lives, we determine the pace and peace we will have with our legacy.
WHY HURRYING IS DETRIMENTAL TO OUR PRODUCTIVITY
We miss out on what really matters
We drink the productivity fulfillment kool-aid
We damage relationships - with others, with ourselves and with God
We live on an empty battery, like machines instead of humans
We believe the lie of multi-tasking and we spread ourselves too thin
We program ourselves to believe that we are valuable for what we do rather than for who we are
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Podcast #363
Always aiming for perfection might be the one thing that is keeping you from the results you want in life. What exactly is a perfectionist though, and how do you know if you struggle with perfectionism or not? This episode will reveal 10 signs to help you determine if you are a perfectionist and will coach you with 7 tips to stop letting perfection stop you. If you struggle with getting in your own way, or with being your own worst enemy, then this podcast episode is for you. Listen to the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/363
In this podcast episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
What perfection mindset really is and how to know if you are perfectionist or notHow to stop being your own worst enemy and stop the cycle of perfection (and what being your own worst enemy actually looks like)A major shift I'm making to the Confidence Podcast ... plus my newest course that will mobilize a new level of freedom and confidence in your life if you are someone who struggles with perfectionism
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Just Subscribe Already - 5 Stars!, by Legz79
I've been binge-listening to Trish's podcast for over a year now. Even though I have different spiritual beliefs, her insight and messages are for all individuals looking for some guidance and courage to live a more fulfilling life! Her energy is contagious and she breaks things down into manageable changes you can incorporate into each day . Life's a journey and I'm ready to step it up in my 40s with Trish cheering me on! Trish, thanks for being a rockstar confidence coach!
PERFECTIONIST? PERFECTIONISM, WHAT IT IS?
Definition of perfectionism:
Perfectionism, in psychology, is a personality trait characterized by a person's striving for flawlessness and setting high-performance standards, accompanied by critical self-evaluations and concerns regarding others' evaluations. (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Perfectionism_(psychology))
Is perfectionism a mental disorder?
Perfectionism is a risk factor for obsessive-compulsive disorder, obsessive-compulsive personality disorder, eating disorders, social anxiety, social phobia, body dysmorphic disorder, workaholism, self-harm, substance abuse, and clinical depression as well as physical problems like chronic stress, and heart disease. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Perfectionism_(psychology)
According to Psychology Today:
Perfectionism is a trait that makes life an endless report card on accomplishments or looks. A fast and enduring track to unhappiness, it is often accompanied by depression and eating disorders. (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/perfectionism)
WHAT ARE SOME OF THE SIGNS OF BEING A PERFECTIONIST?
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You never feel like you're doing enough.
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You strive for high-achievement, and unless it's the best you feel like you failed. (A+ versus A)
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You cannot accept and celebrate your success.
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You don't allow yourself any mistakes (and punish yourself for the ones you make)
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You put on a facade of everything being okay because you are really afraid of people's judgment.
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You stick to what you know and avoid challenges or uncomfortable situations where you might not be the best.
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You procrastinate and struggle with getting things done on time.
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You believe your likeability is linked to your performance or achievements or looks
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You feel unsatisfied with life, like you're chasing a finish line that is constantly moving
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You are hypercritical of yourself.
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HOW TO ASSESS WHETHER OR NOT YOU ARE "GROWING" Podcast #362 Sometimes if we don't know whether or not we are developing in personal growth, we can feel overwhelmed and it feels difficult to assess whether or not we are following God's plan for our life. You don't have to stress or feel the pressure of "being behind" or "not doing enough" anymore, because God is doing a fresh and new work in you, each and every day. This episode will help you have confidence and peace in the transformation that God is doing right now in you and in your life. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/362 Thought of the Week: God is doing something fresh and new in all of us.
Too often we get overwhelmed with how far we have to go, or how lost we feel, or how we compare to someone else. The only thing that matters is that we are not where we once were. The best is yet to come because God is doing something fresh and new in all of us.
Do you want to grow in love? Lean closer in.
Do you want to feel more joy? Lean closer in.
Do you want more patience? Lean closer in.
Do you want healing and more freedom in who you are? Lean closer in. Verse of the Week: 2 Corinthians 4:16-17
That is why we never give up. Though our bodies are dying, our spirits are being renewed every day. For our present troubles are small and won't last very long. Yet they produce for us a glory that vastly outweighs them and will last forever!
Truth: God continually makes us new. Every moment of every day brings a fresh beginning. Prayer of the Week: Father God, we praise you for the work you are doing within us and around us right now. Thank you for seeking to fully reconcile us to you, for without your presence, we have nothing. Without your love, we are lost. We confess that we get lost in our striving and in comparing our lives to that of others - and it brings us down into a place of overwhelm, anxiety, uncertainty, and fear. Forgive us for not trusting the great love and goodness You have for us. Fill our hearts with patience and confidence in the truth that what you have begun within us, you will complete. When we hold to that truth, we can walk freely in peace with the sound wisdom that our lives are in your hand. You have a plan for us and we praise you for the perfect way you are writing it.
Because of your love for us and your presence in our lives we can walk in confidence that we are growing. Thank you for the gift it is to not worry about whether or not we are doing enough or being enough. We yearn Lord for excellence and for the areas of life where we crave refinement to happen quickly, but we trust your hand, your guidance and the changes you are doing in our heart and mind. Pour a double portion of praise and peace into us this week as we walk in patience and with openness to see the things you are doing inside us. May we never take for granted the divine transformation you are doing, and may we rest in sure confidence that we are not who we used to be. Thank you for making all things new, especially for the newness in our lives and in our minds.
Thank you for doing something new and fresh in us each and every day, we praise you and thank you for this peace this understanding imparts to us.
In the life-changing name of Jesus we pray, Amen.
15 WAYS TO STOP CARING WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK Podcast #361 Caring too much about what other people think about you is the fastest way to play small with your life. You can stop yourself from being negatively affected by this psychological fear by learning some practical and proven ways to give yourself permission to not care about what people may or may not say and instead to just be who God created you to be. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're chatting about
practical ways to stop caring about what others think how to fire up your heart so that you take more action now to change than you ever have before
The Confidence Podcast is the podcast for high-achievers who crave deeper, more fulfilling success. In each episode, internationally acclaimed Confidence Coach Trish Blackwell will coach your mindset and your heartset to help you step confidently and courageously into your God-given calling. If you have ever struggled with insecurity, self-doubt, impostor syndrome, perfectionism, body image issues or overwhelm, you'll feel understood and encouraged by The Confidence Podcast. Learn how to create a life you love and love the life you live by training your confidence with Blackwell's faith-based teachings. Get FREE instant access to the Confidence Masterclass to learn exactly how to have more confidence with the 3-part "Confidence Formula" at www.trishblackwell.com/freeclass REVIEW OF THE EPISODE: A New Life - 5 Stars, by Ally Behling Wow. Just wow. This is the first time in my life that I've actually loved myself. I always thought I was this confident person but deep down, I really wasn't. I started listening to this podcast and it made me feel known and understood. Thank you for all of the encouragement and love! Trish, you've changed my life.
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Humanize others - everyone is broken and beautiful in diverse ways Know what everyone actually wants: love and acceptance Address your own judging eye and pride and work on it Embrace your awkwardness See where your pride is making you fall (pride can sometimes be displayed in the perceptions we crave for others to have of us) Get clarity on what you actually want - happiness or perceived happiness Explore yourself and learn to like yourself, when you like yourself it's okay when other people don't Relinquish your control issues Stop fantasizing that you can get everyone to like you or agree with you Remember, more than likely, the thing you are worried about people judging about you never crosses their minds Be thankful for all the things that make you you, and then do your best with them as a gift back to God Start doing bold things that you've always wanted to do Try new things and be happy not being good at them Become a master of your words, knowing how to use them to help you, not handicap you Stop hurrying - rushing your timeline is about other people, not about you
WHAT DID CARING TOO MUCH STEAL FROM ME? When you realize this fear steals life from you,
aPodcast #360:THE DAILY ANTI ANXIETY HABIT THAT CONFIDENT PEOPLE DO
Thought of the Week:
The flowers are more splendid than Solomon in all of his wonder
-Tell Daisy story
-God is so much bigger than we can comprehend
-Anxiety related disorders have now become the most common health concern in the United States with over 19.1% of US adults suffering from them (https://www.nami.org/learn-more/mental-health-conditions/anxiety-disorders).
Verse of the Week: Luke 12:22-32 Then, turning to his disciples, Jesus said, "That is why I tell you not to worry about everyday life - whether you have enough food to eat or enough clothes to wear. for life is more than food, and your body more than clothing. Look at the ravens. They don't plant or harvest or store food in barns, for God feeds them. And you are far more valuable to him than any birds! Can all your worries add a single moment to your life? And if worry can't accomplish a little thing like that, what's the use of worrying over bigger things? Look at the lilies and how they grow. They don't work or make their clothing, yet Solomon in all his glory was not dressed a beautiful as they are. And if God cares so wonderfully for flowers that are here today and thrown into the fire tomorrow, he will certainly care for you. Why do you have so little faith? And don't be concerned about what to eat and what to drink. Don't worry about such things. These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers all over the world, but your Father already knows your needs. Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and he will give you everything you need. So don't be afraid, little flock. For it gives your Father great happiness to give you the kingdom.
Prayer of the Week: Lord, Thank you for sending Jesus to teach us how to unteach ourselves from so many patterns we have picked up from the world. Your kingdom is one of opposites, where the first are last, and the last first, where true riches are unseen, not seen, and where the people who change the world come in some of the most unlikely of packages. Please continue to open our minds and hearts to see Your hand upon our lives and in this world, that we might learn how to live differently. Free us from our deep drive to compete, to prove ourselves, to earn treasures on earth that will tarnish and waste away and anything that we seek after that won't fill the God-sized hole we have within us. We confess our anxieties, our apprehensions, our lack of faith; forgive us for not trusting in your goodness, your perfect timing, and your plan. You are good and your plans for us are good. Let us learn how to be content with the unknown, for when we know that it is in your safe protection, and that we are immensely loved by you, we know that we have nothing to fear. We pray that peace would shift in our hearts this week in ways it never as before as we consider the birds of the air and the lilies of the field. May peace and comfort take root in our soul, that we would feel secure and confident in the certainty we have with you safeguarding our every step and our future. Forgive us for wanting to try to get too ahead of ourselves and for our suggestions to you on how to provide for us. You know what you are doing and we praise you for your power. Transform the way we look at the unknown, and wire our thoughts to see all uncertainty as an adventure. We are excited to see what you will do, how you will provide, and how the mountains in our lives will move. Thank you Lord for offering us this beautiful invitation of enoughness, provision and safety. Let our faith and trust be as bold as your promises and keep our eyes on you, not to be distracted by the noise and the things of this world that mean nothing and ultimately waste away. Our greatest wealth is in our hearts and we praise you for this rich life we are walking right now, today. In Jesus' Name, Amen
Podcast #359:
HOW TO STOP FEELING LIKE YOU HAVE TO DO EVERYTHING
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're chatting about
Why we believe that we have to do it all and be it allHow to stop drinking the toxic kool-aid of this perfectionistic gospel tenant10 tips to let go so that you can stop feeling like you have to do everythingHow to stop feeling like you have to do everything
REVIEW OF THE EPISODE
So Amazing!!! 5 Stars, by Helpful too
Trish really projects what it is to be a great human being and helps others to find that person inside! She is encouraging and uplifting and real. I'm so thankful that I found this podcast and the COC, I'm ready to be a massive Action Taker!
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WHY DO WE BUY INTO THIS "DO-IT-ALL"/"BE-IT-ALL" LIE ANYWAYS?
Anxiety.
Maybe you haven't considered yourself an anxious person, but if you peel back all the layers of the onion here, there typically is a grounded state of anxiety.
Anxiety over what?
Well, since anxiety is fear; fear or apprehension. It's defined as intense, persistent or excessive worry of what might come or is to come. It could be fear of not being enough, fear of not doing enough, fear of being discovered as an imposter, fear of not measuring up, fear of being too needy, fear of not being capable or smart enough,
One reason we do it all and try to control it all is because we are often afraid of being quiet enough or still enough to be with ourselves.
We keep ourselves busy with achievement, performance, productivity so that we can earn our worth, earn our place, earn our right to be loved or admired, etc.
A few reminders for you:
Your worth is not based off your performance.
Your worth is not what you do, how you look, how much money you make. Those things are empty and will fail you, no matter who you are.
Your worth was considered world-moving by God.
Episode #329, You're Not Just Average, Here's How to Believe It
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Episode #340, Deepen Your Confidence that Your Life Matters
www.trishblackwell.com/340
HOW TO STOP DRINKING THE TOXIC KOOL-AID
Be aware of your surroundings and of your priorities. Understand the voice perfectionism in your mind, and what it really means. Keep a guard on what you put into your mind. Challenge yourself to be honest about the self-imposed stress you feel. Dig deep to understand the role of pride, pressure, faith, fear, and doubt and where the come into this equation for you. Understand that if you don't get off the treadmill of craziness, you will run yourself into brokenness, emptiness, and dimness. Consider being in the world, but not of the world, and that the status quote just doesn't work.
Episode #336, How to Stop Using "Tired" As An Excuse in Your Life
www.trishblackwell.com/336
10 TIPS TO LET GOING OF TRYING TO DO IT ALL AND BE IT ALL
Acknowledge your actual state of stress and your humanity. Ask for help before you need it. Thrive by staying in your lane, and doing a few things well.Take pride in your free time and chillness. Stop worshiping productivity and performance. Give yourself permission to have boundaries. Confess your pride and power-tripping. Slow down and stop scrolling. Get support and a system, let go of being an island.Let go of seeking to impress or prove yourself, and accept the gift of love.
HOW TO FEEL CONFIDENT, NOT ANXIOUS ABOUT YOUR FUTURE [FAITH EPISODE] Podcast: 358 Being confident about the future is achieved by learning how to lean securely into sustained faith and hope. Thought of the Week: Can I keep this up? Can freedom feel this good all the time?
What if I get tired of journaling, of praying, of trying, of growing ... etc.?
What if the other shoe will really drop? What if this is all too good to be true? Verse of the Week: 1 Corinthians 13:13
Three things will last forever - faith, hope, and love - and the greatest of these is love.
Prayer of the Week: Lord, you tell us in Psalm 138:3 that when we pray, you answer us. You encourage us by giving us strength. And so today we humbly come before you as a community ready to awaken to the big calling you have on our lives to be light in this dark world. Fill our spirits each day with the confidence that if you are for us, no one can be against us. We have nothing to fear, and we certainly don't need to fear the wavering of our strength or willingness, as you give us fresh mercies and newness each and every morning.
And since we come to you through the blood of Christ, we have the privilege of being your children and to come into your presence ... with the confidence of a child going before their father, we thank you for the boldness you are firing up within us. Let us not push it away or be alarmed by the stirrings you are doing and give us the strength to stand firm against anything that would distract us or cause us to doubt the clear love you have for us and the power we have within you.
We praise You as you fill our lives with joy beyond anything we could have hoped for. For the seasons we walk in the valley, let us look high and see the light upon the mountaintops and not focused or be dismayed by our fatigue or the darkness that feels so real. We pray for holy power to push out every dark thought, every anxious fear and every doubt that wrestles with the shadows of our thoughts, that we might step boldly into the fullness, the everlasting fullness and sustainability of faith, hope and love.
Thank you Lord for answering our prayers, for being with us, and for the confidence that we have in you knowing that the best is truly yet to come.
In Jesus' Name, Amen
HEARTSET: HOW TO TRAIN YOUR HEART TO BELIEVE IN YOURSELF Podcast #357 When you learn how to train your heartset you will also reap positive residual benefits for your mindset so that you believe in yourself with unshakeable confidence. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're going to be chatting about:
What heartset is, and the relationship it has with mindset ... and ultimately how these things relate to confidence How to train your heartset, in real-life, practical ways, and why you should do it Why training your heartset very well might give you the unfair advantage for success that you've been looking for, and then how to do it with structure and purpose so you get the results you want.
REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Beana0409, Such a helpful podcast! 5-Stars! I just finished my first coaching session with Trish and I feel so inspired! She is easy to talk to and made me feel valued from the very start of the call. I love the podcasts and have become a lifetime members of the College of Confidence. I feel like I was led to find this podcast at a crucial time in my life and am so thankful for the growth I feel from it.
SPONSORSHIP NOTE: You might have missed our 7-day Toxic Thought Journal Challenge, but you haven't missed out completely yet. I want to offer my 21-Day Toxic Thought Freedom Journal, also called the Freedom Journal, to anyone who wants to finally establish a healthy and effective journaling process in their lives. You can grab the journal for free, and also get bonus access to my 7-Day Journaling Coaching Video Course, which will help you successfully establish a productive new journaling routine. To get the journal and get started, go to www.trishblackwell.com/freedomjournal TRAING THE HEARTSET, DEFINITION: Showing up to do what you do with an open heart. Mindset is only half of success, heartset is the other half. DEFINITION OF HEARTSET: Heartset is the state of your heart and the atmosphere of your ability to believe in yourself or in something. Your hearset is a measure of your openness towards faith in what you cannot see and confidence in what you have not yet accomplished. EXPLANATION: Heartset determines your happiness. Mindset determines the thought patterns and paradigms of thinking in different situations, it is the structure of the mental realm. Heartset determines the emotional patterns and feelings that arise in different situations, it is the structure of the emotional realm. If the Mindset is responsible for the way we use our thoughts our Heartset is responsible for the way we use our emotions in different situations HOW TO TRAIN YOUR HEARTSET:
15-Minutes/Day of Free Time. Slowing down to have time for you to hear your heart. Engaging in things that make your soul sing. Showing up for what brings you life, even when you don’t know the outcome. Being intentional about being bold in your thoughts, goals, and beliefs. Mindfulness over your “state” and heart attitude. Get enough sleep – sleep deprivation and stress makes the state of your heart toxic. Go all in on abundance and generosity – where you heart is, there too will be your treasure Take the full course on Heartset (available within the College of Confidence) Get a coach who understands the difference between heartset and mindset and how to coach you on both
HOW TO USE BELIEF TO STEP OUT Life is a trust fall – but a safe one. Go through the worst case scenario and remember that you are okay. Your comfort zone won’t serve you or the world. Inspire yourself to serve others and make a difference in this world – and to do that you have to be uncomfortable. Let us not confuse belief with comfort or natural faith. Faith and belief are all invisible, non-tangible – things of the heart that you choose to hold to. Make daily affirmations that start with: “I choose to believe…” “I trust that …” “I am thankful for my courage to ….” “I am looking forward to learning something from …..” BEING IN THE 20% THAT STEP INTO THE 20%
HOW TO USE CONFIDENCE TO FIGHT FEAR [FAITH EPISODE] Podcast #356 We fight fear with faith, not with our feelings. THOUGHT OF THE WEEK: We fight fear with our words and actions, not our feelings.
Yesterday someone I loved asked me a question so simple that I can't believe I didn't know how to answer it. She asked me what I was afraid of. And to be honest, I wasn't sure.
We had been talking about some low-grade anxiety that had been on my heart and it was hard to shake or put to words. But as she wisely directed me to realize, anxiety always goes back to its root in fear.
Fear is something we all experience.
We combat fear with truth and action. So, as your sister who is walking alongside you this week, I invite you to walk with me in boldness.
Let us step into our full confidence that we were made for more.
Let us trust the guidance God is giving us and believe in His overabundant provision.
Let us keep our eyes on our own path and not that of others.
Let us leverage our thoughts powerfully and for what is positive and good.
Let us be bold, be believing and be brave. VERSE OF THE WEEK: He will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid, do not be discouraged. -Deuteronomy 31:18
Perfect love casts out all fear. -1 John 4:18 PRAYER OF THE WEEK: Father,
Your perfect love casts out all fear in our lives, and in this truth and the power of these words, we take great comfort. We confess though that our lives are still filled with fear, daily, and we recognize that fear is not from you. Because we live in a fallen, sinful world, evil exists, and the enemy of our souls preys upon our minds and hearts with the schemes of fear. Strengthen our resolve Father to stand firm in your truth and to cling close to Your presence, for where there is love, there cannot be fear. Where you are, the enemy flees. We confess our fatigue. We tire from the battle against fear, but You Lord give us the strength of eagles and enable us to stand firm. Pour your wisdom over our minds, that we might learn to protect our hearts and to fill our lives with encouragement, that the efforts to knock us off our feet and from the path you have set out for our lives might be futile.
You are our daily bread. We feel fear every hour of our lives, and we need you even more. Let us never grow tired or weary as we battle for what matters - for our faith, for our hearts and for our purpose of making you big and bringing hope and love to the world.
You have set our feet upon solid ground and we humbly pray that you fill the desires of our heart with more and more passion to draw closer and closer to you. We yearn to feel your love in ways that we have not yet felt and to expand our understanding of how unshakeable your love for us is. When we walk in your love, we are able to be love. Let us not be swayed into doubt of the most fundamental and important truth about us, that is, how much you love us, so that we can love and reach your children in the world who do not yet know or feel this love. Wake us up every day with holy reverence for Your presence and let us sleep sweetly each night in the peace and presence of your love.
Thank you Lord, in Jesus' name, amen.
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Podcast #355:
HOW TO FIGHT FOR WHAT MATTERS WITH VIRGINIA WALDEN FORD
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we’re talking with special guest Virginia Walden Ford about:
How to fight for what matters, especially against all oddsHow to have confidence for public speakingHow to take action, even in the face of crippling fear – and how to deal with the pressure you feel when you are fighting for something that matters tremendously Learning experience from Virginia Walden Ford
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REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
It's dks skandhssbsmxn - Love love love, 5-Stars!
Just started my first podcast episode yesterday and it truly was eye-opening for me! I personally struggle with being too self-critical when it comes to my goals. I saw a new light in how I should approach and set goals as well as learning that it's okay to have breaks or off days! It gives me peace of mind that I'm not the only one who struggles with this. I love the positive mindset you have and how you are helping others! Keep it up girl! <3 your new fav fan!!!
ABOUT VIRGINIA WALDEN FORD
“Being a part of this fight for educational excellence was hard — certainly something I had never thought I’d be involved in — but when I looked at my children and my neighbors’ children, I felt compelled to continue. It was scary sometimes, but I believed then and I believe now that it was the right thing to do… for all of our kids.” — Virginia Walden Ford
MISS VIRGINIA is inspired by the story of Virginia Walden Ford, a struggling single mother from a low-income neighborhood in Washington, DC. Affectionately called “Miss Virginia” and “the Education Lady” by neighborhood children, Virginia fought to create a scholarship program for her at-risk son and children like him.
And she won.
Virginia grew up in the deep South. Her world changed when the Supreme Court decided the landmark case Brown v. Board of Education, which famously concluded that “separate educational facilities” for white and black children were “inherently unequal.”
Three years after the decision, in 1957, the “Little Rock Nine” enrolled at Little Rock Central High School in Arkansas. There was so much resistance that the National Guard had to be called out to escort them into the school. But many others followed their example — including Virginia. In 1966, Virginia and her twin sister joined about one hundred other black teens at Little Rock Central. There, she was verbally abused nearly every day, and not just by the students.
Virginia begged her father to let her return to her all-black school, but he insisted she stay. Despite the racism and daily struggle, Little Rock Central offered a better education; plus, she was paving the way for future students of color.
As Virginia puts it, “Those days definitely firmed my backbone.”
When Virginia became a parent, she learned that the civil rights battle she had fought wasn’t over. Her son was stuck in a school that didn’t meet his needs and couldn’t even keep him safe. But she didn’t have the resources to put him in a different school. His entire future was on the line. Virginia was convinced—and still is—that if she didn’t get him into a better school, he would wind up in jail, on drugs, or dead.
Virginia’s fight for her son and other at-risk kids forced her to become a warrior. She had to overcome deep inner doubts about whether she ...
THE PERFECTIONISM CURSE [FAITH EPISODE] Podcast #353 THOUGHT OF THE WEEK: Perfectionism isn't an advantage, it's a curse.
We can't create our own perfect worlds. We fall short. We need God. We are loved, without performance. We can't do anything to make God love us more or to love us less.
Perfectionism is prideful, it is boastful, it is based on performance and proving something. It is pressure-based, and we were created for peace and fulfillment.
VERSE OF THE WEEK: For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast. Ephesians 2:8-9
PRAYER OF THE WEEK: Father, we worship You for the way you wired us and made us, each so uniquely and intricately. We thank you for the complex workings of our personalities and the fusion of nature and nurture that have created the way we think and we confess that our thinking is sinful, flawed and broken. We ask that you rewire our brain. Unroot that which is a stronghold and turn our weaknesses into strengths, not because of anything we have done, but because of You.
Forgive us for our desire for control and power. Forgive us for trying to earn love, earn worth and earn our right to be loved by you. How contradictory it is to your nature to earn something that you give so generously. You are love. We are loved. Always, and we confess our fears, our doubts and our insecurities to you. Our lack of belief and understanding of your nature has perverted our thoughts in a way that we struggle to know just how perfectly you love us. Thank you that there is nothing we can do to make you love us more, and nothing we can do to make you love us less. Help us understand this truth that we might walk boldly and freely in peace and love in a way that our souls crave and yearn for.
Coat our lives with a peace that surpasses all understanding, and deepen our ability to understand that You reign. You have all things in your control and we have the great privilege to walk in joy so abundant that it is uncommon. Make our faith bold and our lives brighter that we might be examples of the life of overflow and fulfillment that you have offered not just to us, but to all those who submit themselves humbly before you and are washed by the blood of the lamb of Jesus Christ. Though we have wasted years of our lives trying to earn our own redemption, we know our efforts are futile and now, more than ever we need Your forgiveness, Your rescue, Your power, Your peace, Your love. Thank you for being everything we need. Thank you that in you, we shall not want and we have nothing we could ever need. Equip us this week with a divine blessing to truly delight in our walk through our days with lightness, joy, freedom and the carefree wonder of a child.
In Jesus's Name we pray, Amen
how to journal In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're doing things a bit differently. We'll be chatting about:
How to know you are made for more How to journal for self-confidence growth How to get free personal coaching from me to help you show up for your journaling self and potential growth that is awaiting you
SPONSORSHIP NOTE: Grab a seat at www.trishblackwell.com/freedomjournal REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Life changing podcast! - 5 stars, by Lavenderpinkk I wanna say that I am better because of this podcast and I've only been listening for a week! I am a Christian and had looked into therapy for anxiety and depression and amongst another podcast I found Trish and this podcast is fueling my confidence in myself and changing the way I think. My favorite part is that Trish teaches valuable principles and incorporates Biblical truth which to me means everything. I recommend this podcast 1000 percent!
HOW TO KNOW YOU ARE MADE FOR MORE: You are. It's truth. If you don't believe me, listen to my podcast on this, episode #329, "You're Not Just Average, Here's How to Believe It," which you can listen to directly at www.trishblackwell.com/329 HOW TO JOURNAL FOR SELF-CONFIDENCE GROWTH: Identify what serves you or stagnates you. Know what is toxic or what is true. Understand the deep power of your mind and thoughts. Believe in the transformation of your mind. LET'S DO THIS TOGETHER: When it comes to doing a journal, we all need accountability to start. This isn't about self-discipline, it's about creating time and space, and understanding the priority and power that you have available to you. So, let's create a habit, shall we? ANNOUNCEMENTS: People sometimes ask me for what to do, how to grow and say they're going to join me in the COC "when they're ready." And here's the thing y'all, if you're not ready now, then honestly, I don't think you ever will be. That "not ready" attitude is simply a reflection of your belief that either my coaching doesn't work or that you aren't worth the investment. Sure, you might say you're too busy, but if you were 100% sure that making time for your growth would make your life 10x better than it currently is, wouldn't you make the time? You were made for more. And if you're listening and have felt your mind and heart and life changed from my free coaching content, then you can be sure that what I offer in the COC, my paid coaching content, will blow your socks off. Typically, I spend 10% of my creative energy on my podcasting content, and 90% of my creative energy on my paid coaching content - if that gives you some behind-the-scenes understanding of what would really be different. So, stop overthinking, stop waiting for the right time, stop making excuses, and just come join us, okay? Now is when you are ready - let's get you to that next level in your life, let's get bold, courageous, and confident > www.collegeofconfidence.com LISTENER OF THE EPISODE: Jodile35 from IG. "Hi Trish, I listened to one of your confidence podcasts this morning on the way to work. I just want to say it MADE MY MORNING ( was struggling this morning). Your words made all the difference and I wanted you to know that. :)
The difference between overachievers who change the world and those who don't is simply that the ones who do have learned to live out a healthy version of the overachiever personality.
HOW TO BE A "HEALTHY" OVERACHIEVER [FAITH EPISODE]
Thought of the Week:
In the world, but not of the world. Be different.
Traveling with my family - saw lots of people, lots of coming and going, y'all the world is big, and so is the number of people in it, and so is the rise of depression, suicide, anxiety and desperation to be someone of significance.
You are significant.
Don't buy into the hustle and bustle of the world. Be counter. You can achieve great and significant things without the mentality of overachieving.
Verse of the Week:
Romans 12:2
Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect. (Romans 12:2)
Matthew 5:13-16
You are the salt of the earth. But what good is salt if it has lost its flavor? Can you make it salty again? It will be thrown out and tramples underfoot as worthless. You are the light of the world - like a city on a hilltop that cannot be hidden. No one lights a lamp and then puts it under a basket. Instead, a lamp is placed on a stand, where it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your good deeds shine out for all to see, so that everyone will praise your heavenly Father.
Prayer of the Week:
Father, We praise You for giving us a different way to live. Thank you for the peace we have the privilege to walk in through the blood of Christ and for the purpose you have placed within us that guides us with meaning and significance all the days of our lives.
We confess we get caught up in the mundane and monotony of this world. We are pressed in on all sides with pressure, comparison, challenges, media and competition, and the stress can consume our souls. It steals of peace, robs us of joy and pushes us into places of anxiety you never intended for us. Thank you for leading us beside still waters and for restoring our soul. As you tell us in the Psalms, we have nothing we need when we walk with You. You are our provider, our supplier, our peace, our refuge, our comforter, our joy, our power, our everything.
Thank you for shepherding us and commanding us into a life of rest, trust and goodness in You, thank we might be in this world, but not of it. We believe fully that surely goodness and joy will follow us all the days of our lives, and we pray that You would use the light and love you are pouring into us to overflow into the lives of those around us. Let us be salty and bright, shining hope, peace, and open love in this world to all those who are struggling in hopelessness, stress, darkness and overwhelm.
We believe that you will continue to give us more and more boldness to stand firmly on the hill that you have placed us and let our light shine far. Equip us with continued wisdom as you grow us, prune us and transform our minds ... we praise you for the miracles you are doing in our lives and for the mountains you are moving. What an adventure it is to walk this life under your watchful and wonderful eye.In Jesus's Name,Amen
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're chatting about mindsets, more specifically:
Mindsets that keep us stuck (I've identified 12 of them!)5 mindset decisions that will make you more confidentHow to actually train your mindset, in real life
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And since I know you're all about your personal growth and your next breakthrough right now, you gotta jump into this!Grab a spot, we have a session with some seats still open today! Go to www.trishblackwell.com/webinar and register.
I'll send you a free workbook to go along with the masterclass, so check your email as soon as you register ... this is a POWER-PACKED PUNCH to your confidence. I'm convinced that this is the start of your next breakthrough.
REVIEW OF THE WEEK
Lori, Life-Changing Podcast, 5-Stars
I have worked with Trish for many years now and can't say enough about how much she has changed my life for the better. Her upbeat attitude and positivity are infectious. I recently joined the College of Confidence and am loving all the courses she offers for self-improvement. I am also really enjoying her new weekly podcast that is more faith-based. She has so much to offer and is the most joyous person I've ever met. If you want to start to move your life in the right direction, she is the person to seek out to make that a reality.
MINDSETS THAT KEEP US STUCK:
Mindset of comparison
Mindset of criticism
Mindset of scarcity
Mindset of fear
Mindset of inadequacy
Mindset of not-enough-time
Mindset of being behind
Mindset of ingratitude
Mindset of blame
Mindset of unawareneess
Mindset of business
Mindset of victim / the-world-is-against-you
MINDSET DECISIONS TO MAKE TO BE CONFIDENT
Mindset 1: I control my thoughts and my thoughts are powerful. -Know your power
-Know why you have been stuck in the past
-Know that it's your thoughts, not your circumstances that determine your future
Mindset: I am thriving because I am growing.-I prioritize my growth strategically and daily
-I don't need to compare myself because I am on my own way
-I am doing better than I have ever done, so I can walk in peace
Mindset 3: I am thankful for my mistakes and challenges.-I love growth and need resistance to grow
-I live with gratitude, not self-criticism
-I am free from the expectations of perfection and instead I show up in life
Mindset 4: I am where I need to be today.-I accept where I am with awareness and I lean into the future, I don't dwell on the past or stay stuck because I am distracted by comparing myself
-I bloom where I am planted, whether or not I like where I am
-I believe in the changing of seasons and that I'm being prepared for my next season
Mindset 5: I am who I am supposed to be and I am free to be me.-I thank God for creating me so uniquely and with purpose
-I accept the things about myself that I don't understand or wish I could change
-I don't waste time wishing I was someone that I'm not or being jealous
HOW TO MAKE TIME TO TRAIN YOUR MINDSET
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Prioritize it. It's as important as your workouts and eating healthy.
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Schedule it. Create a routine and a daily pattern.
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Be coached in it. Join a membership community like the COC.
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Track it. Journal and pay attention to your growth, the more change you see and feel, the more easily you will be able to keep making time for continued training.
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Share it. Share what you're learning with others - we learn most deeply when we teach and lead others.
ANNOUNCEMENTS:
I am cheering you on - if you've been thinking about getting a coach, or about taking this confidence thing / personal development thing to the next level, then I want to personally invite you to join us in The College of Confidence (www.collegeofconfidence.com).
Membership is cancel-at-anytime,
Podcast #350 HOW TO HAVE CONFIDENCE DESPITE THE UNCERTAINTY OF LIFE [FAITH EPISODE] Life can feel overwhelming. But we can have confidence in spite of the uncertainty of life by focusing on moving from victory to victory, and glory to glory, through the strength and power that comes from God. About A Confident Spirit, Our Quick-Hit, Faith-Focused Episodes: A confident spirit is our bonus weekly confidence podcast that is meant to bring you a brief, but a deep blessing to your confidence growth. In these micro episodes, you'll get a quick hit of confidence coaching for your soul. These episodes are faith-based and intended to help you with clear and practical ways to fill your soul with confidence as you grow in your relationship with God. For me, the core and essence of all my confidence comes from Him. It is God who freed me from my insecurities, who fills me with worth as a daughter of the king, and who gives me the gift to walk in peace and joy all the days of my life. If you want to grow a more confident spirit, these faith-focused episodes are for you ... let's dive in, shall we? THOUGHT OF THE WEEK: Travel with toddlers across the world ... embracing the adventure of life by creating an adventure.
Life is an adventure, even if you don't leave your hometown.
-flying back, the unknown
-anything can happen
-trusting God's goodness and sovereignty
-accepting our humanity and small understanding VERSE OF THE WEEK: 2 Corinthians 3:18 So all of us who have had that veil removed can see and reflect the glory of the Lord. And the Lord- who is the Spirit - makes us more and more like him as we are changed into his glorious image. (NLT)
...and so ... our lives gradually becoming brighter and more beautiful as God enters our lives and we become live him. (MSG) And we all, who with unveiled faces contemplate the Lord's glory, are being transformed into his image with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit. (NIV)
But we all, with open face beholding as in a glass the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the Lord. (KJV)
PRAYER OF THE WEEK: Lord, we praise You for the power of the Holy Spirit that you have placed with us. It is you, within us, and you have given us full access to your limitless power. The same power that raised Christ from the dead and that gave Christ the power to do miracles, is within us, through Christ and through you. Let us never forget that you are always with us and we will never be alone.
The world can feel overwhelming. We confess that we sometimes let the uncertainty of the unknown intimidate us, daunt us or keep us stuck. You want more for us. You did not create us to live in fear or anxiety. You have given us a spirit of power and peace, and we step into that through you. Thank you that we are never alone and that the story you are writing with our lives is in your hands. We don't have to have it figured out, we just have to trust you.
Thank you for the gift that you give us - that we can spend less energy "trying" and more energy "trusting." What a gift we have in this life you have given us - to look at in through the lens of an adventure, with you writing the narrative.
Surround us with your angels and protection everywhere we go. We thank you in advance for the people, challenges and circumstances that will come our way, and we pray that you would fill our hearts with peace, our mind with flexibility and openness and our perspective with a leaning towards learning and adventure. In whatever our struggle and challenge will be today, we praise you that you carry us from glory to glory, victory to victory. Keep our eyes on the next victory and our next step as we trust in you and your provision. You are our refuge, you are our safety, with you all is good.
In Jesus' Name, Amen.
Podcast #349 HEALTHY CONFLICT RESOLUTION: HOW TO DO IT WITH CONFIDENCE Communicating well through conflict resolution is a healthy manifestation of a confident person with congruent relationship management.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about:
How to communicate and speak up for yourself with confidence (and without being pushy or emotional) 8 Ways to navigate healthy conflict resolution The challenge of being in conflict with yourself and how to work through it
SPONSOR NOTE: MY FREE MASTERCLASS ON CONFIDENCE.
Here's what's different:
It's short and sweet. (30-minutes!) It shows you how to get your next breakthrough. (Um, amen, right?!) It's is free of any sound/tech issues. (Hallelujah!)
And since I know you're all about your personal growth and your next breakthrough right now, you gotta jump into this!
Grab a spot, we have a session with some seats still open today! Go to www.trishblackwell.com/webinar and register. I'll send you a free workbook to go along with the masterclass, so check your email as soon as you register ... this is a POWER-PACKED PUNCH to your confidence.
I'm convinced that this is the start of your next breakthrough. REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Joyful Living Spaces (www.joyfullivingspaces.com)
I cannot say enough about The Confidence Podcast. Trish is my go-to-girl, mentor, coach, motivator, spiritual leader, mom-friend, woman and friend. Her podcast provides me with shade in the heat, light in the dark, faith for the Lord and energy in the chaos of the life we all live and love. If you do not have this one on your daily list, you are missing out!!! 5 stars isn't enough!
HOW TO COMMUNICATE AND SPEAK UP FOR YOURSELF WITH CONFIDENCE Conflict becomes larger than it needs to be from poor communication.
Always be communicating (ABC)
Communication is an art form and something to practice daily and progressively.
Seek examples of healthy communication and look to healthy dialogue.
Don't apologize for your perception of something or your preferences - but communicate them fairly and with balanced emotion or expanded flexibility.
Remember - all relationships, from parent-child, to spouse-to-spouse, to friend-to-friend, to co-worker-to-co-worker, are growing. Communication waters a relationship and gives it life, lack of communication will make it whither when the sun shines brightly.
Seek to learn and listen as much as you seek to be understood and heard. 8 WAYS TO NAVIGATE HEALTHY CONFLICT RESOLUTION STICK TO THE ISSUE
don't add in other issues or overcomplicate
LEAD WITH GRACE
grace and positive assumptions
AVOID OUTLANDISH STATEMENTS
like "never" "always", etc.
WORK TO FIGHT FAIR
listen, take turns, give space, communicate, resolve to express love, always
KEEP A SHORT LIST OF OFFENSES
stand up for what is right, but learn to let go of what doesn't matter
remember that you are flawed too and have hurt others, keeping track of hurts doesn't serve anyone. it can help guide you for boundary setting, but shouldn't be held against people.
AFFIRM THE RELATIONSHIP
Affirm the relationship before clearly defining the problem. For example, “Our relationship is important to me. But when you don’t return my calls, I feel rejected and unimportant.” Avoid blaming the other person and saying, “You make me feel…” Instead, say, “When you do ‘A’, I feel ‘B’.”Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend, How to Have That Difficult Conversation You’ve Been Avoiding (Grand Rapids: Zondervan0 2005), 51.
PLAN TIME AND DON"T PUT IT OFF / LET IT FESTER
festered hearts are ugly, and though it's easier to sweep things under the rug, it will do more damage to you than to the person in conflict
WORK FOR A MUTUAL SOLUTION
there's never just one party at fault - it takes two to be in relationship and two to come into resolution THE CHALLENGE OF BEING IN CONFLICT WITH YOURSELF (AND HOW TO RESOLVE IT) What if the conflicting relationship isn't with someone else,
Podcast #348 WHAT GOD REALLY THINKS ABOUT YOU AND HOW TO ANSWER "DOES GOD LOVE ME?" [FAITH EPISODE] We are wired as humans to wonder "does God love me?" The way we answer this question is the most important thing about us. About A Confident Spirit, Our Quick-Hit, Faith-Focused Episodes: A confident spirit is our bonus weekly confidence podcast that is meant to bring you a brief, but a deep blessing to your confidence growth. In these micro episodes, you'll get a quick hit of confidence coaching for your soul. These episodes are faith-based and intended to help you with clear and practical ways to fill your soul with confidence as you grow in your relationship with God. For me, the core and essence of all my confidence comes from Him. It is God who freed me from my insecurities, who fills me with worth as a daughter of the king, and who gives me the gift to walk in peace and joy all the days of my life. If you want to grow a more confident spirit, these faith-focused episodes are for you ... let's dive in, shall we? THOUGHT OF THE WEEK:
AW Tozer quote Whispers of intimacy - to pull us closer, not to make God distant and uncaring Delight - He doesn't just love us, He delights in us.
W. Tozer:
What comes into our minds when we think about God is the most important thing about us.
The history of mankind will probably show that no people has ever risen above its religion, and man’s spiritual history will positively demonstrate that no religion has ever been greater than its idea of God. Worship is pure or base as the worshiper entertains high or low thoughts of God.
For this reason the gravest question before the Church is always God Himself, and the most portentous fact about any man is not what he at a given time may say or do, but what he in his deep heart conceives God to be like.
We tend by a secret law of the soul to move toward our mental image of God. This is true not only of the individual Christian, but of the company of Christians that composes the Church. Always the most revealing thing about the Church is her idea of God.
-A.W. Tozer, The Knowledge of the Holy (New York: HarperCollins, 1978), 1.
https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/justin-taylor/what-is-the-most-important-thing-about-us/ VERSE OF THE WEEK: He led me to a place of safety; he rescued me because He delights in me. (Psalm 18:19)
He led me to a place of safety; he rescued me because He delights in me. (2 Samuel 22:20)
PRAYER OF THE WEEK: Lord, thank You for choosing to create us, and for the love You have for us. It is love we can't fully understand, but Lord, we ask for You to expand our minds and hearts this week to understand it even more than we ever have before. Open the depth of our emotions and in what we see around us to experience Your presence in ways we have never previously considered before.
Forgive us for any time in the past when we have doubted Your presence. We confess that we struggle and we have turned to our own strength rather than that of what You have extended to us, with Your hand and arms always out. Thank you for whispering to us, and that your whispers are even more profound proof that you want us to draw near to you and that You love us. We thank you that, as you tell us in James 4:8 that when we draw near to you, that you will draw near to us. You are faithful and good, Lord.
Though it has been a journey to answer, we thank you for wiring us with the yearning for your love. Thank you for putting a God-sized hole in us, that it might pull us to your grace, your hope, your power and your love. We truly can do all things through Him who gives us strength. Thank you for igniting us with a deeper passion to know you and to know your love for us. Surround us with delight, even in the most mundane of details this week, that we might hear the songs of deliverance and delight that you sing over us and that we might feel the purpose and peace that you have placed in our hearts.
Podcast #347 CONSISTENCY IS KEY AND HABITS THAT WILL CHANGE EVERYTHING FOR YOU In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about:
What habits are and what they do for you
How to make consistency the key to your success
How to get habits to work better for you
Identifying which habits are keeping you stuck, and which ones SPONSOR NOTE: MY FREE MASTERCLASS ON CONFIDENCE. Here's what's different:
It's short and sweet. (30-minutes!)
It shows you how to get your next breakthrough. (Um, amen, right?!)
It's is free of any sound/tech issues. (Hallelujah!)
And since I know you're all about your personal growth and your next breakthrough right now, you gotta jump into this!
Grab a spot, we have a session with some seats still open today! Go to www.trishblackwell.com/webinar and register. I'll send you a free workbook to go along with the masterclass, so check your email as soon as you register ... this is a POWER-PACKED PUNCH to your confidence.
I'm convinced that this is the start of your next breakthrough. REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Hey Trish, here's the love - 5 stars.
I was going through some crazy. I was jealous in ways that I did not understand and I really just wasn't feeling like me anymore. I found your beautiful face and podcast in searching for ways to build my confidence because I believe a lot of jealousy stems from insecurity. I love love love your strong amazing effort towards helping all of us strangers in being better to ourselves! You have helped me climb out of the box that is my head and now I only feel like I only have one-foot int it! I think you deserve to know that you are inspirational and what you do really does matter! Thank you, thank you! I could tell a difference in how I feel on the days I do not listen and I always return. I recommend you in shameless ways to everyone I know! Much love to that lovely southern snowboarding lass!
WHAT ARE HABITS AND WHAT DO THEY DO FOR YOU? Habits are rituals and behaviors that we perform automatically, allowing us to carry out essential activities such as brushing our teeth, taking a shower, getting dressed for work, and following the same routes every day without thinking about them.
http://www.thepositivepsychologypeople.com/habits-to-happiness/
They automate our lives and give us the ability to use our willpower and focus on things that we want and need.
People who learn how to master consistent, high-level habits are people who are able to change the world, live beautifully and feel the flow of life. HABITS ARE PLANNED Repetition of the same thought or physical action develops into a habit, which, repeated frequently enough, becomes an automatic reflex. -Norman Vincent Peale
The law of harvest is to reap more than you sow. Sow an habit, you reap a habit. Sow a habit and you reap a character. Sow a character and you reap a destiny. -James Allen
Procrastination is a habit, and action is a habit. Which will you choose?
Procrastination is like a credit card, it is a lot of fun until you get the bill.
-Christopher Parker
Not about will power
Not about discipline
Not a reflection of how hard you can work
More of a reflection on how strategically you can think
Also a reflection of how kind you are to yourself
People who create high-level habits for themselves, and who follow through on them consistently, are kind towards themselves because they know how to make life easier. THE HABIT RESET PROCESS Identify
Rewrite
Repeat MY HIGH-LEVEL HABITS THAT HAVE CHANGED EVERYTHING Gratitude journaling
Exercising daily
Mornings with God
Worship as my weapon
Prepping the night before
The 90-Minute Morning
The Last 90-Minutes
Always working with a therapist or a coach / having a mentor
Choosing to assume the best in others and in a situation
Letting my heart lead with compassion and empathy
Tithing and giving ANNOUNCEMENTS - THIS WEEK ONLY, access to my Habit Reset Bundle, a $297 product worth over $497, yours today for just $97,
Podcast #346 HOW TO CAST YOUR CARES ASIDE [FAITH EPISODE] Cast your cares upon Him, for He cares for you. -1 Peter 5:7
About A Confident Spirit, Our Quick-Hit, Faith-Focused Episodes:
A confident spirit is our bonus weekly confidence podcast that is meant to bring you a brief, but a deep blessing to your confidence growth. In these micro episodes, you'll get a quick hit of confidence coaching for your soul. These episodes are faith-based and intended to help you with clear and practical ways to fill your soul with confidence as you grow in your relationship with God. For me, the core and essence of all my confidence comes from Him. It is God who freed me from my insecurities, who fills me with worth as a daughter of the king, and who gives me the gift to walk in peace and joy all the days of my life. If you want to grow a more confident spirit, these faith-focused episodes are for you ... let's dive in, shall we? THOUGHT OF THE WEEK: We are bombarded by reasons to worry.
How do we actually not live with the weight of worry? VERSE OF THE WEEK: Matthew 6:25-27 “Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life?” (NIV)
"That is why I tell you not to worry about everyday life - whether you have enough food and drink, or enough clothes to wear. Isn't life more than food, and your body more than clothing? Look at the birds. They don't plant or harvest or store food in barns, for your heavenly Father feeds them. And aren't you far more valuable to him than they are? Can all your worries add a single moment to your life? (NLT)
PRAYER OF THE WEEK: Lord, what a gift that You give us in Jesus, whose burden is light and yoke is easy. We confess that ours doesn't feel that way and we thank You for being our hope. Forgive us for letting worry steal from our lives and from our faith and trust in You. We let it go. We give it to you. Thank you for taking our worries, our anxieties, our fears ... all that is unknown in our hearts and granting us permission to walk in peace.
It is hard, Lord, to let go. Please hold our hands tightly, that we might be reminded throughout the day today of Your presence, Your power and Your plan for our lives. Because we trust in You we walk in safety, in the refuge, and in peace.
The world will continue to challenge us, distract us and pull us from You. We pray that You keep our hearts humble and our eyes fixed on You, that we might remember we are not responsible for the things bigger than us, the things out of our control, the things that are higher than our human thoughts. Our hearts hurt with the unknown, the fears and the burden, but Lord, we praise You for You are our healer, our salvation, our hope, and our strength. We know that you are a good God and a good, good Father and that you work all things together for those who love You. Give us faith to trust what You say and to turn our cares over to you each day, each hour and each minute. We thank You for the gift it is to walk with peace alongside still waters and green pastures with You by our side, no matter what is going on in our lives.
Thank you Lord, in Jesus' Name, Amen
Podcast #345 HOW TO STOP BEING SO SELF-CRITICAL Beating yourself and being self-critical is the more surefire way to ensure that you stay stuck in whatever it is that is frustrating to you about yourself or your life.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about:
Why we have convinced ourselves that beating ourselves up is effective motivation for change Why beating ourselves up doesn't work - and what it is really doing to you How to stop the crazy cycle of pressure and self-beratement so that you can actually create change in your life.
SPONSOR NOTE: MY FREE MASTERCLASS ON CONFIDENCE. Here's what's different:
It's short and sweet. (30-minutes!) It shows you how to get your next breakthrough. (Um, amen, right?!) It's is free of any sound/tech issues. (Hallelujah!)
And since I know you're all about your personal growth and your next breakthrough right now, you gotta jump into this!
Grab a spot, we have a session with some seats still open today! Go to www.trishblackwell.com/webinar and register. I'll send you a free workbook to go along with the masterclass, so check your email as soon as you register ... this is a POWER-PACKED PUNCH to your confidence.
I'm convinced that this is the start of your next breakthrough. REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Maria Bradley
It's about time I just take a moment and say THANK YOU and just write a dang review! I am so grateful I found your podcast. After listening for a while I finally became a member of the College of Confidence. I love having your happy voice at the touch of a button. It's like having a little bit of sunshine in my pocket. Things I love about this podcast: positive - encouraging - inspiring - life-changing. Seriously, thank you!!
WHY WE THINK BEATING OURSELVES UP IS EFFECTIVE Perfectionistic mindset - one of the toxic side-effects of believing our worth is based off our performance. "Why Perfectionism Prevents You from Being Confident" > listen to the episode at www.trishblackwell.com/335
We measure the wrong things.
Measurement by looking outward instead of looking inward.
It's a lack of belief and self-trust ... that we doubt our ability to show up, to follow-through and that our efforts can be multiplied. WHY SELF-CRITICISM DOESN'T WORK (AND WHAT IT'S REALLY DOING TO YOU) The more pressure we put on ourselves, the more poorly we typically do.
The art of freedom is to live without being restrained ... and pressure restrains us.
Personal example: Pressing myself and shaming myself to stop overeating and binge eating. The self-hatred I had about changing my body was the mean push I thought I needed to actually change. The harder I pushed, the meaner I was, the worse I felt and the more I swang in the pendulum. HOW TO STOP BEATING YOURSELF UP AND HOW TO USE THE STRATEGY OF BEING NICE TO YOURSELF AS A WAY TO ACTIVATE CHANGE
Be radical - dare to try something different.
-Admit that what you're doing isn't working.
Look for modules to emulate
-Be inspired, study their example
Desire congruency
-You're not actually a nice person if you're not first nice to yourself
Get comfortable with being uncomfortable
-It's going to feel weird, and like you're doing something wrong; like it shouldn't have been this easy and this obvious ANNOUNCEMENTS: I am cheering you on - if you've been thinking about getting a coach, or about taking this confidence thing / personal development thing to the next level, then I want to personally invite you to join us in The College of Confidence (www.collegeofconfidence.com).
Membership is cancel-at-anytime, you can come for a month or stay for years ... it's the Netflix of life coaching, all at the affordable monthly cost of $57/month. I'm so confident in the life-changing, mindset-transforming power of the COC, I offer a 30-day-money-back guarantee.
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Podcast #344 SLOW DOWN TO FEEL MORE CONNECTED AND CONFIDENT IN LIFE (AND HOW TO PROCESS TRAGEDY) [FAITH EPISODE]
About A Confident Spirit, Our Quick-Hit, Faith-Focused Episodes: A confident spirit is our bonus weekly confidence podcast that is meant to bring you a brief, but a deep blessing to your confidence growth. In these micro episodes, you'll get a quick hit of confidence coaching for your soul. These episodes are faith-based and intended to help you with clear and practical ways to fill your soul with confidence as you grow in your relationship with God. For me, the core and essence of all my confidence comes from Him. It is God who freed me from my insecurities, who fills me with worth as a daughter of the king, and who gives me the gift to walk in peace and joy all the days of my life. If you want to grow a more confident spirit, these faith-focused episodes are for you ... let's dive in, shall we? THOUGHT OF THE WEEK: Life is precious, fleeting and too fast.
We must slow down. Be generously kind and serve with our love.
Honor Miemo and Christina.
https://www.fox5dc.com/news/virginia-state-police-still-looking-for-witnesses-to-deadly-loudoun-county-crash VERSE OF THE WEEK: Psalm 39 and Psalm 138:8
Proverbs 9:11
New Living Translation Wisdom will multiply your days and add years to your life. (Proverbs 9:11)
New Living Translation The LORD will work out his plans for my life— for your faithful love, O LORD, endures forever. Don’t abandon me, for you made me.
PRAYER OF THE WEEK: Lord, we praise You for the gift of life right now. Thank you for the years you have added to our lives, for each day, for each moment, for each memory with another human being. There is so much unknown in this world - so many things that exceed our comprehension or understanding. Thank you for being bigger than it all. Thank you for holding us in Your powerful hands.
We have peace in our hearts because we are confident that you will work out your plans for our life. Thank you for reminding us of the fragility of life. And for the countless times your angels have protected us, surrounded us and wrapped us in safety. Give us eyes to live with a deeper gratitude and appreciation for the love you have for us and the ways you protect us. We will not live in fear or worry and we thank you for the hope you give us in your presence.
Teach us how to live with joy beyond explanation and to have a heart overflowing with abundance for life and each precious gift You shower on us.
We love you, In Jesus' Name, Amen
Podcast #343: WHY THINKING BIGGER IS SCARY BUT ABSOLUTELY LIFE-CHANGING Thinking bigger about what is possible in your life feels risky, but it's the most important thing you can dare to do.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about:
How to even start thinking "bigger" and why you should do it Why thinking bigger makes some of us freeze 5 ways to start thinking bigger
SPONSOR NOTE: MY FREE MASTERCLASS ON CONFIDENCE. Here's what's different:
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And since I know you're all about your personal growth and your next breakthrough right now, you gotta jump into this!
Grab a spot, we have a session with some seats still open today! Go to www.trishblackwell.com/webinar and register. I'll send you a free workbook to go along with the masterclass, so check your email as soon as you register ... this is a POWER-PACKED PUNCH to your confidence.
I'm convinced that this is the start of your next breakthrough. REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Maria Kench - Absolutely Amazing!
I have been listening to your podcasts for a few weeks now. Trish you are just absolutely amazing! I'm a mom with three kids and a hausband who works the midnight shift. So being able to juggle being a working mom, three kids and managing my household can be challenging. I have found your podcasts to be truly inspiring and I love listening to at least once a day. thank you for all you do for the community! You deserve 10 stars! Thank you for giving me that boost in the right direction to becoming more confident.
HOW TO START THINKING BIGGER (AND WHY TO DO IT) Some quotes to get you inspired to think bigger: “Believe it can be done. When you believe something can be done, really believe, your mind will find the ways to do it. Believing a solution paves the way to solution.”
“Action cures fear.” ― David J. Schwartz,
“Look at things not as they are, but as they can be. Visualization adds value to everything. A big thinker always visualizes what can be done in the future. He isn't stuck with the present” ― David J. Schwartz,
“Look at things as they can be, not as they are.” ― David J. Schwartz,
“The point is this: Big thinkers are specialists in creating positive, forward-looking, optimistic pictures in their own minds and in the minds of others. To think big, we must use words and phrases that produce big, positive mental images.” ― David J. Schwartz, The Magic of Thinking Big
Starting to think bigger comes from deciding to. Dare to live as thing can be - with faith and optimism Decide that you want to be a person of significance, not simply success.
Significance comes from thinking bigger than oneself. Book Recommendations: The Magic of Thinking Big, by David J. Schwartz
(1987, 6 million copies sold) > https://amzn.to/33EIVSb
Awaken the Giant Within: How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny, by Tony Robbins > https://amzn.to/2KD95xs WHY THINKING BIGGER MAKES US FREEZE Thinking bigger makes us freeze because it's
-vulnerable
-risky
-unknown
And it rises up thoughts and questions about
-our potential
-our power
-our worthiness
We freeze most frequently because we think "who am I to..."
We freeze because we are driven by comparison - either other people are more qualified and we write ourselves off, or we see other people as not having ambition and so we settle in for "good enough"
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who kno...
Podcast #342 HOW TO LOOK AT YOURSELF DIFFERENTLY [FAITH] Learning how to like yourself starts with learning how to see yourself how God sees you. About A Confident Spirit, Our Quick-Hit, Faith-Focused Episodes: A confident spirit is our bonus weekly confidence podcast that is meant to bring you a brief, but deep blessing to your confidence growth. In these micro episodes you'll get a quick hit of confidence coaching for your soul. These episodes are faith-based and intended to help you with clear and practical ways to fill your soul with confidence as you grow in your relationship with God. For me, the core and essence of all my confidence comes from Him. It is God who freed me from my insecurities, who fills me with worth as a daughter of the king, and who gives me the gift to walk in peace and joy all the days of my life. If you want to grow a more confident spirit, these faith-focused episodes are for you ... let's dive in, shall we? THOUGHT OF THE WEEK: We shrink from life and make ourselves small because we don't realize that God delights in us. He sings songs of love around us. He does miracles in our lives. And if we were able to see or understand just how loved we really are, then we would be filled with joy, confidence, and hope in all that we do. Song to help you remember that God is a God who is still in the business of miracles >>> This is a Move, Bethel Music with Brandon Lake and Tasha Combs
https://youtu.be/wLkHygFqQno VERSE OF THE WEEK: Zephaniah 3:17
New International Version The LORD your God is with you, the Mighty Warrior who saves. He will take great delight in you; in his love he will no longer rebuke you, but will rejoice over you with singing.
New Living Translation For the LORD your God is living among you. He is a mighty savior. He will take delight in you with gladness. With his love, he will calm all your fears. He will rejoice over you with joyful songs.
PRAYER OF THE WEEK: Lord, make the scales from our eyes fall. We are blind to how you really see us - as your beautiful, perfectly crafted works of art and creativity. More than just objects of your creation, you love us so much that you want to be in a relationship with us. And not just a friendship, sonship, a daughter-ship, a family relationship with inheritance, unending love and power and protection.
We confess our obsession with ourselves and the pride that trips us up over how we look and how we want others to see us. We know Lord that the only thing that matters is how You see us. And that you see us as perfect, through the blood of Jesus Christ. Our bodies are still under the weight and pressure of the world, and we fall prey to the pressure Father. Sometimes, we confess, we feel dead in ourselves - overwhelmed from the weight of not-enoughness and of comparison of ourselves to others. You Lord, are still in the business of raising bodies from the dead. Raise ours. Raise our spirit above the pressures of this world and far from the pressure of perfectionism that burdens us and holds us back from the calling and purpose you have intended for us.
Thank you for giving us new eyes, for filling us with hope and strength and for being our strength that we might never be weary as we run the race of our life. May we learn to walk from this day forth with powerful confidence because of a deeper understanding of your love for us and who we are in you. We thank you for this wisdom and freedom, and for the love that makes us absolutely beautiful, capable, powerful and enough, right now, today.
In the beautiful name of Jesus, Amen.
Podcast #341: THE MINDSET THAT IS REALLY KEEPING YOU STUCK, AND HOW TO CHANGE IT Your mindset is the narrator of your story and will determine the outcome and impact of your life. Change your mindset, change your life.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about:
How a mindset keeps you stuck and how to make a mindset change Which one is the most dangerous? The 5 most important steps to take to start thinking differently
SPONSOR NOTE: MY FREE MASTERCLASS ON CONFIDENCE. Here's what's different:
It's short and sweet. (30-minutes!) It shows you how to get your next breakthrough. (Um, amen, right?!) It's is free of any sound/tech issues. (Hallelujah!)
And since I know you're all about your personal growth and your next breakthrough right now, you gotta jump into this!
Grab a spot, we have a session with some seats still open today! Go to www.trishblackwell.com/webinar and register. I'll send you a free workbook to go along wiht the masterclass, so check your email as soon as you register ... this is a POWER-PACKED PUNCH to your confidence.
I'm convinced that this is the start of your next breakthrough. REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Shey11112222
"One of the most influential podcasts on the airwaves" - 5 Stars
It took me a long time to do this as I've been an active listener for almost a year but I have to say this. Trish Blackwell is one of the reasons I was able to take accountability and grab a hold on my life. Life can be so chaotic and unpacking all the layers can become so overwhelming. Having Trish's podcast is like having a therapist at the touch of a finger. No matter what you might be dealing with she has enough content for you to align with whatever it is you're dealing with. She has taught me so much about the importance of honoring your process and taking action with faith as your warranty. This does not necessarily mean "god" but more trusting that what is beyond you and your control with aligning with what you're trying to accomplish. Trish Blackwell is the reason why I stepped up and created my own podcast Vitamins for Breakfast, aiming to connect people through real-life conversation. Trish always expresses her real-life experiences and how she is using them to be a light to others. Knowing this, I decided to create a podcast that gathers people of all walks of life and allows them to use the bumps in their journey to serve a lesson for others. This is a concept that was born from me listening to Trish EVER.SINGLE. DAY. Now that I have created and launched my podcast I sit back overwhelmed with how far I've come and I have to come on here and honestly say Trish is a big part of this accomplishment. Trish, thank you so much for choosing this to be your purpose, God makes no mistakes and I'm sincerely and forever grateful.
HOW A MINDSET KEEPS YOU STUCK: Your mindset is either a key or a lock to your future.
Show me a mindset and I will be able to see a measurement of how far that person is capable of going or able to go.
Our minds create the atmosphere in which we live and narrate the story of our lives.
Which "mindset team" will you play for?
Powerful mindset teams:
Limited or Limitless
Pouting or Praising
Grumbling or Grateful
Victim or Victorious
Complaining or courageous WHICH MINDSET IS THE MOST DANGEROUS FOR SUCCESS? The "I am not doing enough" mindset. It makes you feel always behind and constantly overwhelmed.
It keeps you from having joy, being present, or successfully thriving wherever you are.
It drives comparison and scarcity deep into your brain.
It robs you from any chance to consistently progress towards what you want (because deems you incapable, shame-filled and busy)
Are you willing and ready to give up the hold you have on this mindset? Going into recovery will feel - vulnerable, scary, weird, wrong, unnatural, radical
What do you have to lose? 5 IMPORTANT STEPS TO CHANGE HOW YOU THINK:
Identify and take ownership of the thought or mindset.
Podcast #340 DEEPEN YOUR CONFIDENCE THAT YOUR LIFE MATTERS [FAITH] About A Confident Spirit, Our Quick-Hit, Faith-Focused Episodes: A confident spirit is our bonus weekly confidence podcast that is meant to bring you a brief, but deep blessing to your confidence growth. In these micro episodes you'll get a quick hit of confidence coaching for your soul. These episodes are faith-based and intended to help you with clear and practical ways to fill your soul with confidence as you grow in your relationship with God. For me, the core and essence of all my confidence comes from Him. It is God who freed me from my insecurities, who fills me with worth as a daughter of the king, and who gives me the gift to walk in peace and joy all the days of my life. If you want to grow a more confident spirit, these faith-focused episodes are for you ... let's dive in, shall we? THOUGHT OF THE WEEK Life is more than just getting through - we have the choice for something greater, for deep fulfillment and intimate purpose.
Knowing this can help give you confidence when you don't have it, feel peace when you're overwhelmed with pressure, and be joyful no matter the circumstances you are experiencing.
It's easy to get lost in the world, get distracted in comparison, and then wonder if you really matter or if there is any point to anything you do. Which is why it's imperative to know that yes, your life matters. Yes, there is something larger than just you in control.
Your breath is not accidental. Your purposes are God-breathed.
The Lord has no equal.
Who else has held the oceans in his hand?
Who has measured off the heavens with his fingers?
Who else knows the weight of the earth or
has weighed the mountains and hills on a scale?
Who is able to advise the Spirit of the Lord?
Who knows enough to give him advice or teach him?
Has the Lord ever needed anyone's advice?
Does he need instruction about what is good?
Did someone teach him what is right or show him the path of justice?
(Isaiah 40:12-15)
No, for all the nations of the world
are but a drop in the bucket.
They are nothing more
than dust on the scales.
He picks up the whole earth
as though it were a grain of sand.
God sits above the circle of the earth.
The people below seem like grasshoppers to him!
He spreads out the heavens like a curtain
and makes his tent from them. (v22)
Have you never heard?
Have you never understood?
The Lord is the everlasting God,
the Creator of all the earth.
He never grows weak or weary.
No one can measure the depths of his understanding.
He gives power to the weak
and strength to the powerless.
Even youths will become weak and tired,
and young men will fall in exhaustion.
But those who trust in the Lord will find new strength.
They will soar high on wings like eagles.
they will run and not grow weary.
They will walk and not faint. (v28-31) VERSE OF THE WEEK Philippians 1:6,9
And I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns. (v6)
I pray that your love will overflow more and more, and that you will keep on growing in knowledge and understanding. (v9)
PRAYER OF THE WEEK Lord, You are with us every day. We praise You for the life you put into our body. In this world that can feel aimless, overwhelming and beyond our understanding, we celebrate the gift it is that we can lean on You. We put our trust in You, for You are good, your faithfulness reaches the heavens and your love endures forever.
Fill our souls with confidence today that You will continue the work You have begun in us. What peace this gives us to know that we don't have to do this all on our own, because our strength is weak and our understanding is limited. We praise you with faith for the good work You are doing and will continue to do and we thank you for freeing us from the burden and pressure of hustle that we might step into abundance,
HOW TO NOT JUST GET THROUGH YOUR DAYS Podcast #339 We were created to rejoice in the days were we given to live, not to simply "get through them" or to live in survival mode.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about:
Training yourself to have a mindset "get to" versus "have to" Discovering a deeper purpose than just existing Finding delight in the daily and beauty in growth and setbacks
GET FREE COACHING TO GET UNSTUCK: Don't forget to sign up for our free "get unstuck" webinar masterclass at http://www.trishblackwell.com/webinar
In the 30-minute class you'll learn:
*Why you're stuck or feeling discouraged
*How to use different thoughts to get better results
*The next steps you should take to get your next major breakthrough
When you register, be sure to check your email. I'll send you a free workbook gift right to your inbox to get you prepped to get the most out of our coaching class. Bring your questions and be sure to watch all of the Q&A's because at the end of the coaching you'll get an offer to get over $700 of free confidence coaching! Here's what's different:
It's short and sweet. (30-minutes!) It shows you how to get your next breakthrough. (Um, amen, right?!) It's is free of any sound/tech issues. (Hallelujah!)
And since I know you're all about your personal growth and your next breakthrough right now, you gotta jump into this!
Grab a spot, we have a session with some seats still open today! Go to www.trishblackwell.com/webinar and register. I'll send you a free workbook to go along wiht the masterclass, so check your email as soon as you register ... this is a POWER-PACKED PUNCH to your confidence.
I'm convinced that this is the start of your next breakthrough. REVIEW OF THE WEEK: bbb20161 Thank you!!! - Five Stars
Ok, so I guess I'm taking some of your advice and just doing this review right away instead of waiting for the right time. I've only just started listening to your podcast (started last week) and all I can say is WOW! I knew I struggled with anxiety and confidence but for you to articulate the things I'm feeling in a way that I have never been able to put into words or to hear that the perfectionistic thoughts I have that I thought were just part of "who I am" or "what gives me drive" are in fact only negative manifestations of my personality, not my actual personality, and that I can actually work to ignore those thoughts and instead focus that energy in a positive way, has helped me tremendously. I have already recommended your podcast to a number of people in my life who struggle with the same issues. I thank you for putting yourself out there and talking about these issues to help other people in such an amazing way!
SHIFT YOUR ATTITUDE, SHIFT YOUR LIFE -The magic of "get to" versus "have to"
-Consider your unfair advantage (this will keep you from looking at everyone else's perceived advantages)
-The key to success is playing the hand you were dealt like it’s the hand you wanted. Kaitlin Walsh
-I always had a good attitude, but I never locked in on or really believed I could have a solid, unwavering base. I thought powerful thinking was a one and done, but it's not - it's daily training and hour-by-hour choices. GOING BEYOND JUST EXISTING -Refer back to episode #329 - you have a purpose, episode "Why I know You're Not Average"
www.trishblackwell.com/329
-Look around > the world needs you. Never underestimate the power of the butterfly effect.
-Ask God, wrestle with Him - seek for significance, look for wisdom
-Serve others; leave the world better because you were in it
-Do the DASH exercise
Link to 6-minute journal:
https://amzn.to/2N9KtOj FINDING DELIGHT IN THE DAILY AND STRENGTH IN THE SETBACKS Delight. Delight is deeper than a simple and passing feeling of happiness. Instead, it is what our souls crave. It is a sustained feeling of the soul. A deep satisfaction in a moment of life that expands that moment to take up more space than...
Podcast #338 HOW TO CHASE A DREAM WITHOUT BEING DISCOURAGED Discouragement doesn't have to derail you from your dreams when you focus instead of the delight of chasing the dream itself. About A Confident Spirit, Our Quick-Hit, Faith-Focused Episodes: A confident spirit is our bonus weekly confidence podcast that is meant to bring you a brief, but deep blessing to your confidence growth. In these micro episodes you'll get a quick hit of confidence coaching for your soul. These episodes are faith-based and intended to help you with clear and practical ways to fill your soul with confidence as you grow in your relationship with God. For me, the core and essence of all my confidence comes from Him. It is God who freed me from my insecurities, who fills me with worth as a daughter of the king, and who gives me the gift to walk in peace and joy all the days of my life. If you want to grow a more confident spirit, these faith-focused episodes are for you ... let's dive in, shall we? Thought of the Week: Delight is detached from the outcome.
It doesn’t need an objective, a finish line, or a planned element to it.
If you haven’t recently spent time with a two-year-old at the beach, allow me to paint you a picture of the beautiful disaster it is.
The entire objective is to tire your child out, while also keeping them alive and not getting fried by the sun. This is a delicate mission, as the best time of the day for this is midday, also the hottest part of the day.
You can forget hoping for a free minute to sit down, or the fantasy of being able to sit in the shade of an umbrella. An eternal optimist, I still always bring a book and magazine with me. Just in case, I tell myself.
But, truth is, with a two-year-old, you move the whole time.
Recently, during a four-hour jaunt on the beach with my son Baker I managed to rack up 22,000 steps in the sand alone. People compliment me all the time on how fit my legs look. Some of it is from running, and some is from being a parent to two very active kids. What can I say, I’m always looking for a silver lining to the things that inconvenience me or exhaust me.
Now, back to things that exhaust me: small kids at the beach.
My little guy has a system.
First, he would run full speed towards the ocean. Next, he would belly flop into a crashing wave, sometimes to successfully pick himself back up, and other times to be tossed around in the surf, needing rescue.
Clean and wet, he liked to run back up the beach to our stuff, grab his toy truck, and take off full speed towards every neighboring beach-goer peacefully reading a book.
Waving to the readers and garnishing the smiles of new fans, he would then push his truck full speed towards anyone nearby building sandcastles. Seeing a target, the truck gets abandoned and Baker becomes a Godzilla-like monster, rushing towards the delicate masterpieces, and me sprinting to get ahead of him to block the way.
Averted, it turns into a game of tag and chases with us, leading us back to his beloved and faithful truck. He pushes the truck for ten minutes, and then the cycle starts over. He pauses to yell out “boat” or “airplane” to anyone passing by and stops to show his truck to the constant flow of beach walkers at the edge of the water where he plays.
Baker’s truck captures his heart.
It has his full attention.
Except when a sandpiper shows up.
When the sandpipers arrive on the scene, everything gets abandoned and Baker chases them.
The way he runs is different than the way he runs after anything else. He runs with delight. The smile on his face is curious and elated, simultaneously convinced that he will catch said little sandpiper.
He obviously never does, but he never stops trying.
A little boy with an excessively expressive face not once does disappointment flash across his face. Instead, an ear-to-ear grin takes up most of his face.
When the bird flies away, he stops dead in his tracks. Looks up to the sky,
Podcast #337 HOW TO STOP SELF-SABOTAGE WHEN YOU'RE TIRED Self-sabotage is the biggest hurdle keeping you from the results you want. Breaking the cycle of self-sabotage doesn't come from "trying harder" but rather from "thinking differently" and with more clarity and confidence.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're chatting about:
Why self-sabotage happens The role shame plays in perpetuating self-sabotage 10 tips to break the cycle for good
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Thanks to this show and Trish Blackwell, I am a more confident person. I have been listening to past episodes every day for around a month and I have noticed a huge change in my mindset. I'm thinking more positively and openly. But, I have to say, the biggest change I have seen is my smile! I'm no longer fake smiling for pictures! I feel so good listening to someone who "gets" me and points me in the right direction. Thank you, Trish, for all you are doing! WHAT IS SELF-SABOTAGE AND WHY DOES IT HAPPEN? Self-Sabotage manifests itself in a variety of ways, including but not limited to:
Over-eating
Over-drinking
Over-watching TV
Over-exhaustion
It also can be expressed by mindsets and lifestyles of:
An attitude of giving up
Believing that it doesn't matter
Will-power exhaustion
Numbing through scrolling and comparison
Overwhelm over how far one has to go THE ROLE OF SHAME IN THE CYCLE OF SELF-SABOTAGE Self-Sabotage is Black/White Thinking ... All or Nothing Mindset and the pressure of perfectionism and perfectionistic thinking perpetuate the cycle.
It is driven by guilt and shame.
"I choose peace, not pressure."
Putting more pressure on yourself never works and never will.
To listen to coaching on exactly how to go into recovery and to enter "rehab" for perfectionism, be sure to listen to episode #335 of The Confidence Podcast on "Why Perfectionism Prevents You from Being Confident." (www.trishblackwell.com/335) 10 TIPS TO BREAK THE CYCLE OF SELF-SABOTAGE FOR GOOD:
Stop depriving yourself! (Deprivation sets us up for failure) Create a strong "Last 90 Minutes Routine" Camp out around the concept of grace Growth is everything - find gratitude for the lessons and nothing is wasted Overcome overwhem by not over-focusing on the finish line Get in the habit of champagne moments and momentum celebration Shatter your belief ceilings Choose peace, not pressure Be here, now (not in the future, not in the past, not in comparison) Recharge yourself intentionally and know your capacity
Real change doesn't come from behavior modification but from heart transformation. Our habits are birthed from the beliefs we have and hold in our hearts. ANNOUNCEMENTS: School is starting back up - Summer is coming to a close ... it's time to shed the things holding you back and to lean into what you anticipate is waiting you in the future.
You're busy getting everyone else ready for the Fall, but what about you?
Well, I've got you covered.
HOW TO STOP USING "TIRED" AS AN EXCUSE IN LIFE [FAITH EPISODE] Podcast #336 Thought of the Week: We live in a state of fatigue, and a tired life is not the type of life I want to live.
Striving detox. Goodbye party to old thoughts. Why we use tired as an excuse Performance, making my own way, being my own source, having all the answers - it's exhausting and never-ending. And we weren't created for it to be like that.
Verse of the Week: Matthew 11:28-30 New International Version (NIV) 28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”
Prayer of the Week: Father, thank you for your faithfulness. We praise you for pulling on our hearts, for whispering softly that we might draw near to you. Please forgive us for the distraction in our lives and for the things that we have allowed to rob of us what you want for us. You are good and you have good plans for us. You offer an abundant life and one with deep joy and peace - no matter the circumstances or challenges that come our way. And yet, we turn away.
We confess that we are too worried about what other people think. We are unhealthily focused on striving, on achievement and on making ourselves great. We want to make You great Lord, not ourselves. Let our lives be transformed. Teach us how to slow down. Deepen our trust in your providential provision in our lives. Give us the courage to step into rest, into the sabbath, into peace. Open our eyes to see ourselves for who we are - for how You love us - not for what we do, what we've done or what we hope to do. We are weary of doing this on our own. We want more, and we yearn for your wisdom to help us change. Thank you for the power of our thoughts and for the free will You have given us ... embolden us to shift how we use these gifts in a powerful, life-giving, soul-changing and world-influencing way.
What a wonderful promise we have in you and in your rest. Thank you Lord! This week, today, this very minute, we find our rest in you. We cast our cares upon You. We delight in allowing You to carry us, like Father would carry their child. Thank you for opening our eyes to see the opportunity before us, to deepen our trust in You and to be brave enough to be in this world, but not of this world. As we shift into a lifestyle of peace, we boldly ask for favor. May the changes we begin be completed by You and Lord use our small efforts to make a larger impact ... for turning our little into something large is your speciality. We open our lives to You, that your light might reflect brightly into the darkness that surrounds us.
We love You, in Jesus' Name, Amen. Bonus Verse to Think About: 2 Corinthians 4:16-18 New International Version (NIV) 16 Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. 17 For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. 18 So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.
WHY PERFECTIONISM PREVENTS YOU FROM BEING CONFIDENT Podcast #335 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about:
What is perfectionism and do you struggle with it? How to stop being a perfectionist The toxic relationship between perfectionism and low-confidence How to go into recovery with perfectionism so it doesn't hold you back any longer.
REVIEW OF THE WEEK: LeHumanite, "Thanks." 5-Stars.
This is my little contribution to your 1000 reviews goal. Thanks for all the work you put into sharing your thoughts with us. Whenever I'm feeling down or in doubt of myself this podcast comes to the rescue, helping me to find peace and joy. I'm not religious, but even those episodes which are lighten my heart.
SPONSORSHIP NOTE: Surprise!
I just revamped the How to Have Confidence Masterclass and made it even better than it was originally.
Awesomeness, right?
Yeah, I agree!
Here's what's different:
It's short and sweet. (30-minutes!) It shows you how to get your next breakthrough. (Um, amen, right?!) It's is free of any sound/tech issues. (Hallelujah!)
And since I know you're all about your personal growth and your next breakthrough right now, you gotta jump into this!
Grab a spot, we have a session with some seats still open today! Go to www.trishblackwell.com/webinar and register. I'll send you a free workbook to go along wiht the masterclass, so check your email as soon as you register ... this is a POWER-PACKED PUNCH to your confidence.
I'm convinced that this is the start of your next breakthrough. WHAT IS PERFECTIONISM AND DO YOU STRUGGLE WITH IT? What is Perfectionism? A refusal to accept any standard short of perfection. What about Perfectionists? In psychology, perfectionism is a personality trait characterized by “a person's striving for flawlessness and setting excessively high performance standards, accompanied by overly critical self-evaluations and concerns regarding others' evaluations.” (https://personalexcellence.co/blog/perfectionism/)
Moving finish line.
Perfectionism is a manifestation of comparison. Manifestations of Perfectionism: All-or-nothing approach
Extremely high standards
Being extremely hard on oneself
Excessive negativity or self-pressure
Refusal to start unless absolutely prepared
The character of inflexibility, control and judgment
It's all about the end result
Moving finish line of standards
Success is never enough
You're never doing enough
Hyper-critical of mistakes and details that others don't even notice
Fear of failure - lack of desire to start / avoidance
Unrealistic standards
Self-critical and low self-esteem
Frequent fear of disapproval
High level of anxiety My Relationship with Perfectionism: I'm currently in recovery, a recovering perfectionist
Attempt to control my life and plan my future
Expressed lack of trust in God's goodness
Warped understanding of love and why I was loved - for what I do instead of for who I am
Therapy helped me pursue the land of grey and the idea of excellence
I used to take great pride in being a perfectionism - it was a crutch for me, a crippling one. THE TOXIC RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN PERFECTIONISM AND LOW CONFIDENCE At its core, perfectionism believes that one's worth is associated with one's performance and ability to be as close to perfect as possible. Perfectionism is, therefore, a belief that you are valuable based on what you do, not upon who you are. Challenging Thought: Do you love the people in your life because of who they are or because of what they do? Perfectionism gives rise to low confidence because ... It robs you of your identity as a human
It pulls you out of the love of a God who is filled with grace and mercy
It puts you into a constant state of competition
It convinces you to not start or that you're not enough or ready
It focuses your attention on what you are doing wrong instead of what you are doing right
It traps you into a limited / set mindset instead freeing you into a...
I ALMOST DIED AND THIS IS WHAT CHANGED AFTER [FAITH EPISODE] Podcast #334 LIFE IS SHORT AND UNPREDICTABLE AND KNOWING THIS CAN HELP US THRIVE WITH CONFIDENCE AND PRESENCE IN THE GIFT THAT WE HAVE IN BEING ALIVE TODAY. About A Confident Spirit, Our Quick-Hit, Faith-Focused Micro Podcast Episode Series: A confident spirit is our bonus weekly confidence podcast that is meant to bring you a brief, but deep blessing to your confidence growth. In these micro episode you'll get a quick hit of confidence coaching for your soul. These episodes are faith-based and intended to help you with clear and practical ways to fill your soul with confidence as you grow in your relationship with God. For me, the core and essence of all my confidence comes from Him. It is God who freed me from my insecurities, who fills me with worth as a daughter of the king, and who gives me the gift to walk in peace and joy all the days of my life. If you want to grow a more confident spirit, these faith-focused episodes are for you ... let's dive in, shall we? Thought of the Week: Death is inevitable, unpredictable, and silent. Today is Baker's 2nd birthday, and it marks a miracle moment in my own life. It's funny, that on a day that I celebrate life, I also celebrate victory over death. My near death experience changed me. But isn't that what we can be celebrating each and every day of our lives? Life is a gift. And as Christians, we are brought back to life from the old things that gave us living death in life Verse of the Week: So teach us to number our days, that we may get a heart of wisdom. -Psalm 90: 12
She’ol (/ˈʃiːoʊl/ SHEE-ohl, /-əl/; Hebrew שְׁאוֹל Šəʾōl), in the Hebrew Bible, is a place of darkness to which all the dead go, both the righteous and the unrighteous, regardless of the moral choices made in life, a place of stillness and darkness cut off from life but not God because as per written in Book of Psalm 139:8 "If I ascend to heaven, You are there; If I make my bed in Sheol, behold, You are there." [1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sheol What more resources on how to have more confidence in your relationship with God, go to:https://www.trishblackwell.com/how-to-have-confidence-in-your-relationship-with-god/, or, for the quick link, go to > www.trishblackwell.com/god Prayer of the Week: Lord, God. We thank you for the gift that you have given us with the breath we breathe today. Give us wisdom beyond our maturity that we might learn how to live well. The days ahead of us are numbered, and we thank you that you have a plan for us within them. We confess that anxiety about what is to come can rise up within our souls and distract us from the present. Forgive us for our lack of faith and for our attempts to do things and to control our plans all on our own. You give us the ability to be in the world, but not of the world, and we feel your pull on our hearts today. Thank you for showing us how to be different, how to walk in peace and how to step into faith that you are in control. What a relief, that you are God, and that we are your precious children. How good of a Father you are, Lord. Your lovingkindness towards us is great. May we swim in the delight of your loving kindness this week. Remove from us any fear or anxiety around death. For to live is Christ and to die is gain. Thank you for reaching down from on high with your righteousness to rescue us. Thank you for the gift of your Son, Jesus, who gives us access to peace here on earth, and eternity in heaven forever. Thank you for putting to death things in our lives and hearts that were silently killing our soul and putting us in slavery; thank you for bringing us to light and life, that we might delight in the day we are in right now. For this is the day that the Lord has made, we will rejoice and be glad in it. In the beautiful name of Jesus, we pray, Amen.
HOW TO GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION TO BE SUCCESSFUL AND HAPPY Podcast #333 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're chatting about:
The Red Light, Green Light Game we too easily play with our goals and our lives How to give yourself permission to be successful and happy The Confidence Loop - How Action Begets Confidence and Confidence Begets Action Why Waiting for Permission is Keeping You Stuck
REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Banana_707, 5 Stars, The Key to My Confidence Issues!
I have struggled with confidence issues for as long as I can remember, but I had no idea why I felt the way I did. Not understanding my confidence issues made it impossible to work through my issues and step into the person I know God created me to be. However, after listening to just a few episodes of this podcast (I know, I'm late to the party), I am already seeing my mindset change for the better. The Confidence Podcast has acted as a catalyst for growth in all areas of my life. My only regret is that I did not find this wonderful community sooner. I'm signed up for tomorrow's masterclass, and I truly can't wait to learn even more about living in confidence. Trish, thank you! Thank you! for growing and leading such an amazing business.
SPONSORSHIP: NEW FREE WEBINAR! We've heard from you and are excited to announce an even better and more powerful version of our free masterclass, How to Have More Confidence.
Oh no, I didn't....oh yes, yes, yes, I did!
Surprise!
I just revamped the How to Have Confidence Masterclass and made it even better than it was originally.
Awesomeness, right?
Yeah, I agree! Here's what's different:
It's short and sweet. (30-minutes!) It shows you how to get your next breakthrough. (Um, amen, right?!) It's is free of any sound/tech issues. (Hallelujah!)
And since I know you're all about your personal growth and your next breakthrough right now, you gotta jump into this!
Grab a spot, we have a session with some seats still open today! Go to www.trishblackwell.com/webinar and register. I'll send you a free workbook to go along wiht the masterclass, so check your email as soon as you register ... this is a POWER-PACKED PUNCH to your confidence.
I'm convinced that this is the start of your next breakthrough. RED LIGHT, GREEN LIGHT Ellie started playing this game at school - and it has ignited some old-school reminiscing and new-school realizations.
Ever been behind someone at a red light who is clearly playing on their phone? The light is green, but they're still acting as if it is red?
Think about the breakthrough, the change, the thing you most desperately want to change.
-Now, what are you actually doing about it?
-Are you doing the same thing, over and over, hoping for different results?
-Or, maybe are you complaining about something that you can actually do something about?
It broke my pride when I realized years ago that I was giving myself my own red light. What kinds of invisible red lights are you waiting at? -Not qualified enough
-Not skinny enough
-Not clear enough on the path
-Afraid of what people might think
-Worried about messing up
-Poor time management
-Perfectionism What might the green lights in your life potentially look like? -Doing something every day that scares you
-Not waiting for permission
-Letting go of the need to know everything
-Deepening your faith
-Taking bold steps and more action
-Trusting that you can course-correct
-Starting
-Surrounding yourself with green light people
Here are some direct links to previous podcasts that we've done here on The Confidence Podcast that will help you dive deeper into some of the "red lights" that I mentioned:
How to Be Free From People Pleasing
www.trishblackwell.com/324
Are You Getting In Your Own Way? This is How to Stop Self-Sabotage
www.trishblackwell.com/317
How to Stop Letting "Not Good Enough" Get in the Way of Your Dreams
www.trishblackwell.com/312
Body Confidence in a Way You've Never Thought About ...
HOW TO MAKE THE WORLD A BETTER PLACE [FAITH EPISODE] Podcast #332 Our God-breathed wiring tells us that we are meant for more. But, in a culture that is so comparison-driven, politically charged and busy, how can we live our daily lives in a way that we can confidently say we are making the world a better place? About A Confident Spirit, Our Quick-Hit, Faith-Focused Micro Podcast Episode Series: A confident spirit is our bonus weekly confidence podcast that is meant to bring you a brief, but deep blessing to your confidence growth. In these micro episode you'll get a quick hit of confidence coaching for your soul. These episodes are faith-based and intended to help you with clear and practical ways to fill your soul with confidence as you grow in your relationship with God. For me, the core and essence of all my confidence comes from Him. It is God who freed me from my insecurities, who fills me with worth as a daughter of the king, and who gives me the gift to walk in peace and joy all the days of my life. If you want to grow a more confident spirit, these faith-focused episodes are for you ... let's dive in, shall we? Thought of the Week To Make the World a Better Place: How can we can confident that we are making the world a better place?
“To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; to know that even one life has breathed easier because you have lived - that is to have succeeded” -Ralph Waldo Emerson
Bob Goff:"Be Switzerland and Vegas" Seek to be the friend, not the friended. Be the change you want to see in the world. Your net worth to the world is usually determined by what remains after your bad habits are subtracted from your good ones. -Benjamin Franklin Verse of the Week Specific for Making the World a Better Place: Proverbs 11:25 The generous will prosper. Those who refresh others will themselves be refreshed. (NLT)
Other Versions of the Same Verse: Did you know that there are over 450 english translations of the Bible?
It is possible to give away and become richer! It is also possible to hold on too tightly and lose everything. Yes, the liberal man shall be rich! By watering others, he waters himself. (TLB)
The one who blesses others is abundantly blessed; those who help others are helped. (MSG)
The generous man [is a source of blessing and] shall be prosperous and enriched, And he who waters will himself be watered [reaping the generosity he has sown]. (AMP)
A generous person will prosper; whoever refreshes others will be refreshed. (NIV)
Whoever refreshes others will be refreshed. Prayer of the Week: Lord, we praise and thank You for wiring within our hearts a longing for more. Give us wisdom to recognize the unrest we often feel as the divine-calling You have breathed into us. We yearn for heaven; teach us how to bring heaven to earth through the way we live and the love we give.
Make us an oasis to those around us. That we might be trees that bear abundant fruit, provide ample shade and are an encouragement to those who feel like they are crawling through a desert in life. May our obedience to growth and to You ... to being the hands and feet of love, of Jesus in this world, be light. May the love you pour out through us make this world a better place.
Equip us to not feel overwhelmed or defeated by the incredible need, the daunting darkness and the sadness that reigns around us. You are king of everything, able to do the impossible and to use us beyond anything we could ever dare to ask, imagine or think. Humble us, that we might be mere vessels of love. That the work we do to make a difference in the world isn't about us, but about others. Give us opportunities this week and as we go forward to refresh others, to build them up and to encourage them. This is the work you have put before us, and what a mighty privilege it is that you allow us to take part reflecting your love.
Free us from the grumbling in our hearts,
HOW TO DETOX AND DEFINE OVERWHELM FROM YOUR LIFE Podcast #331 OVERWHELM IS A MINDSET THAT REPELS CONFIDENCE, PEACE AND HAPPINESS.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about how to define overwhelm:
Understanding why you allow overwhelm into your mind in the first place Defining overwhelm in the areas of your life The 3-part solution to detoxing and define overwhelm from your life Rehab moves for overwhelm
If you listen, you're here with family. We are the confidence family ... and family loves, lifts up, builds up, sees potential and just hangs out and spends quality time. REVIEW OF THE WEEK Briely - Five Stars, "LOVE THIS PODCAST"
The Confidence Podcast has changed my life! Trish always says exactly what I need to hear to fill my mind with truth and confidence to conquer the day and pursue my long term goals! Thank you, Trish, for giving me the tools to live a confident life! I am grateful for all of the time you dedicate to producing and releasing amazing podcast episodes each week. And I love the bonus spiritual episodes! I can't thank you enough, Trish!
WHY DOES OVERWHELM HAPPEN For a myriad of reasons, including:
Pride, fear, comparison, self-pressure, lack of priorities, superhero syndrome, imposter syndrome, insecurity, self-doubt, poor time management, resistance to help / shame
Most often in my own life and in my coaching practice I see we define overwhelm as:
A state of being, a characteristic of lifestyle choice, a victim-mindset, a deep desire for worth derived from the busy-badge, lack of self-trust, a faith issue
For an overwhelmed spirit to change, everything needs to change:
Ownership, humility, collaboration, self-worth beyond performance, slowing down, simplifying and strategizing
The world tells us to step into this ... it beckons to us, calls to us ... but I don't know about you, but I don't want to be like the world. All it takes is one glance to see that most people doing this aren't happy. And that's a key to define overwhelm What does it keep you from: Confidence, success, traction, healthy relationships, the ability to be present, results, happiness, joy, peace SPONSORSHIP NOTE - LOLA I have to come clean with you all. One thing I would never talk about publicly because I worried about what people thought of me, was the personal parts of my health care. I’m over that, which is why I wanted to tell you about my newest obsession, the 100% natural brand, LOLA. LOLA is a female-founded company offering a line of organic cotton tampons, pads, liners and all-natural cleansing wipes.No toxins, mystery fibers, or doubts about what’s going in your body. LOLA products are all gynecologist-approved and hypoallergenic. Major brands use a mix of synthetic ingredients in their products including rayon and polyester.
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ASSESS, ACKNOWLEDGE, ADDRESS This 3-part journaling activity requires a sincere focus to define overwhelm and desire for change.
Assess your life honestly.
Acknowledge your role in your overwhelm.
Address what needs to change, and start the change.
Write down the things that you complain about that you actually have the power to change?
Name off what you are resisting because it seems uncomfortable right now?
Identify your most common trigger phrase that you are ready to let go of?
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AFFIRMATION FOR YOUR HAPPINESS THAT WILL REALLY WORK AND HOW TO USE THEM Podcast #330 We're in the middle of 2019!
Knowing how to find and use affirmations, prayers or meditations can feel overwhelming, but it doesn't need to be. Affirmations can lead to more productivity and more happiness today! This podcast episode dives into some simple ways to start, methods to go deeper, and encouragement to create space in your life to have time to think, meditate and get that deep growth you crave.
A CONFIDENT SPIRIT A confident spirit is our bonus weekly confidence podcast that is meant to bring you a brief, but deep blessing to your confidence growth. In these micro episode you'll get a quick hit of confidence coaching for your soul. These episodes are faith-based and intended to help you with clear and practical ways to fill your soul with confidence as you grow in your relationship with God. For me, the core and essence of all my confidence comes from Him. It is God who freed me from my insecurities, who fills me with worth as a daughter of the king, and who gives me the gift to walk in peace and joy all the days of my life. If you want to grow a more confident spirit, these faith-focused episodes are for you ... let's dive in, shall we? THOUGHT OF THE WEEK Slowing down and making time to meditate with intention is what changes us in our souls and minds from the inside out. Affirmations that focus on your goals and your happiness can help lift you up.
For years I resisted affirmations because I thought they were idealistic, and little goofy. But they're not, they're actually Biblical.
But the question is: how to know what mantra or affirmation you need to be dwelling on? They can range from happiness, to prosperity and to confidence?
From a faith perspective, you can find this answer by spending time with God, and by camping out in scripture. And, I get it, the Bible overwhelmed me. And still does sometimes, but it doesn't have to read in its entirety to have life changing power upon you. In fact, one verse can change your life. The Word of God is living and active.
12 For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword,it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart. (Hebrews 4:12).
What I read in the Bible as an 8-year-old is different than what I read as an 18-year-old, 24-year-old, and now 36-year-old. There is no other explanation to me other than the truth that Hebrews 4:12 is true. It is alive.
So, how to find an affirmation for happiness that works for you?
Talk to God. Silence your heart, mind and life to be able to listen to Him respond to you. Make time to read the Bible and to journal. When you feel drawn to something, "camp out there." Make that verse your verse until you feel drawn to move on. Memorize it, write it, reread it. Milk it.
Now, how to really make the affirmation work for you and create that happiness today? 1. Memorize it. 2. Write it out. 3. Then write different versions of it. 4. Create a quick trigger to remind you of its power in your life. 5. Repeat it to yourself throughout the day, internally and out loud. 6. Look for signs of it manifesting. 7. Stay the course.
Isaiah 23:6
You will keep in perfect peace, those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you. Verse of the Week Psalm 119:15-16
I will meditate on Your precepts And regard Your ways. I shall delight in Your statutes; I shall not forget Your word. Prayer of the Week Father, Abba.
You love us with a faithful love, a love beyond our human comprehension. And you know us intimately. We come to you, humbled at your greatness and thankful for the ways in which you speak to us through our daily lives when we slow down enough to pay attention to your voice. We confess Lord that we are often overwhelmed. We yearn to hear your voice and to seek your wisdom,
THE MINIMIZATION OF YOUR GIFT FROM GOD IS A DIRECT INSULT TO YOUR CREATOR In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about:
Why you're not average and how I can be confident saying that about you without possibly even knowing you Tackle the feeling of "Why do I suck at everything" and how it's false What happens when we call ourselves being average or downplay ourselves 3 Practical ways to resist the overwhelm and ache of being average
REVIEW OF THE WEEK: By lillianglanton, "This podcast will change your life." Five Stars. I love this podcast so much .Trish gives me so much encouragement and confidence in myself every single day. I am so thankful that she shares her story with the world! Trish continues to show up every single week with pieces of wisdom that will change your life. I'm a young entrepreneur and songwriter (19) and I'm starting my own business in Muscle Shoals, Alabama. I have created my own songwriters festival, which is set for October 25-26, 2019 and I'm in the process of renting a commercial property building where songwriters can go to create music. Trish gives me confidence in myself to go for my dreams and never give up. Listen to her words and implement them in your life! I am so thankful for you, Trish.
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STATISTICS PROVE IT The danger of "average" feelings is that they cause us to downplay our true selves, our gifting from God and our unique position to matter in this world. Your Chance of Being Born: 1 in 400 Quadrillion to 10 to the 2,640,000th power. You may think “You say that to everyone!” We were not born by accident given the odds calculated by scientists showing the odds of you being born are at least 1 in 400 trillion IF NOT 1 in 400 quadrillions and most likely 1 in 102,640,000 So you're chances of "I suck at everything" isn't true, because the statistics will show that you have talents to share. NEVER A TIME LIKE THIS 7.7 billion people in this world ... don't you dare tell yourself that there aren't enough people who need you! Literally, nothing is impossible if you want to connect with others or inspire others. Resist the temptation to buy into scarcity thinking or to get distracted by competition or by comparing yourself to others. Resist the thought "Why do I suck at everything" and instead focus on the things that friends and family look to you for. "AVERAGE" DOESN'T ACTUALLY EXIST Experiences, perception, creativity, genetics, body type, preferences, relationships, hobbies, upbringing, education, emotional intelligence, curiosities, senses, tastes, vision, personality, communication habits, humor, goals, and intuition. So it would be impossible for you to suck at everything.
HOW TO MAKE TIME FOR GOD [FAITH EPISODE] Episode #328: THOUGHT OF THE WEEK: Time with God gives us a daily taste of Heaven.
Time with God is the most important thing It is a taste of Heaven When we draw near to Him, He draws near to us. Resistance is pride Acknowledge your pride, accept that you can't do live well on your own and humble yourself to need Jesus every day. Keep it simple - 8 minutes / day
Experiment with options -listen to sermons -pray and meditate -21 day journal detox -adult coloring Bible -YouVersion app -Google Bible verses based on what's on your heart VERSE OF THE WEEK FOR MAKING TIME FOR GOD: Draw near to God and He will draw near to you. -James 4:8
PRAYER OF THE WEEK TO MAKE TIME FOR GOD: Father, Pull us near to You. Let us hear Your whispers in the wind, and delight in the joy expressed with the clapping of the trees. We are weak and we confess we get pulled into overwhelm. We want to put You first. Expand our understanding of time and help us choose the right thoughts to walk into a mindset of abundance.
Your Word is alive and we thank You for it. We pray for direction and wisdom on how to slow down and listen for your voice. We crave a relationship with You.
Thank you for loving us. Thank you for being our friend. Thank you for knowing the number of hairs on our head. Thank you for teaching us that we have abundance all around us. Thank you for all that you are doing in our hearts, for what you are pruning from our lives, and for how you are going to grow our souls this week to be a brighter light in this world for You. Use us Lord to be lights of hope and love to those who are in pain, are afraid, are alone, are overwhelmed and are without hope.
In Jesus' Name, Amen
SAY GOODBYE TO FEELING GUILTY ALL THE TIME In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about:
How to turn feeling guilty into gratitude (and why) How to translate your "have to's" into "get to's" (and why) How to choose peace, not pressure (and why)
SPONSORSHIP NOTE– FREE MASTERCLASS HOW TO HAVE MORE CONFIDENCE This week’s podcast is brought to you by my new free masterclass, How to Have More Confidence. Listen, if you think the podcast is good, you haven’t been in class with me yet. I spent months curating the teaching I poured into this masterclass and I am so proud of how simple, clear and strategic the activation of confidence can be. In the class, you’ll learn what the three biggest mistakes people make with confidence are and what the three most important things you should be doing for your confidence are … what I call The Confidence Formula. Learn what stage of confidence you are actually in, and then how to get to the next stage so that getting to where you want to be and to how you want to feel doesn’t feel overwhelming.
TRISHBLACKWELL.COM/FREECLASS REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Amazing & Encouraging! -LeesaWhite Everyone needs to listen to this show! Trish Blackwell is so gifted at encouragement it brings me to tears at just about every episode. I've labeled myself a "people pleaser" for a while, seeing there is a good heart that goes with it, but not seeing/knowing how to dig myself out of the hole of anxiety that goes with it. Trish will be the first to tell you that you won't ever make everyone happy. Trish will teach you to stop apologizing to liking pink (hehe, mine is ugly olive green). Trish will teach you to stop caring what others think. Trish will inspire tangible steps towards the best "you" you can be in all realms (parent, spouse, friend, worker, boss). Trish digs deep into research to give you the best content every week and her transparency to share her own struggles is so incredibly powerful. I'm so thankful for her strong yet gentlefolks words as I commute to work. It puts me in a good mood to continue to "bloom where I'm planted." Give this show a listen if you care to give this world a better you! TURN GUILT INTO GRATITUDE INSTEAD OF FEELING GUILTY Feeling guilty?
What does turning guilt into gratitude mean?
Stop the cycle of shame > it perpetuates the cycle of self-sabotage
Instead, turn guilt into gratitude and into grace.
We can find gratitude when we look through the lens of learning.
As long as we are learning, we are growing.
As long as we are growing, we can feel confident and proud of ourselves.
As long as we feel confident, we will feel courageous.
As long as we feel courageous, we will take action.
As long as we take action, we will be consistent.
As long as we are consistent, we will never fail.
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COACHING TIPS TO FEEL LESS ANXIETY Episode : 326 ABOUT OUR FAITH EPISODES: A CONFIDENT SPIRIT A confident spirit is our bonus weekly confidence podcast that is meant to bring you a brief, but deep blessing to your confidence growth. In these micro episode you'll get a quick hit of confidence coaching for your soul. These episodes are faith-based and intended to help you with clear and practical ways to fill your soul with confidence as you grow in your relationship with God. For me, the core and essence of all my confidence comes from Him. It is God who freed me from my insecurities, who fills me with worth as a daughter of the king, and who gives me the gift to walk in peace and joy all the days of my life. If you want to grow a more confident spirit, these faith-focused episodes are for you ... let's dive in, shall we? THOUGHT OF THE WEEK: Feel less anxiety by stepping into love with more faith and intention.
-Simplify what matters-Love is all that matters-We feel anxious because we are too busy, too distracted, too concerned about fleeting things we can't control-We can detox anxiety when we slow down, pray for peace, seek wisdom and remember that the only thing that counts is faith expressing itself through love. VERSE OF THE WEEK: Galatians 5:6'The only thing that counts is faith expressing itself through love."
PRAYER OF THE WEEK: Father God, Reign in our hearts this week. Be the bread that we desire and the water we drink, that each day we wake we might be restored with life, direction and joy to live well. Blanket us with peace as we lay down at night to have souls at rest and prayer at work in the lives of those we love.
Expand our hearts, that our capacity to love might be beyond human understanding. As you have said in Galatians 5:6, "The only thing that counts is faith expressing itself through love." Show us how this looks. Spark direction in our hearts to know how to love more like you within the walls of our home, within the boundaries of our work and within our community around us. You have placed us here in the world, right now, where we are for a reason. Give us peace and confidence to be patient and present, trusting that we are exactly where we are supposed to be.
Deepen our desire for wisdom and growth, that we might thirst for it and seek it morning, noon and night. Colossians 3:15 tells us that "we were called to peace" ... help us step into that calling today. Remove from us our desire to compare ourselves, cleanse our hearts of jealousy and lift from our minds any weight of anxiety. Thank you Father, for holding our hands and growing us to see that, as we draw near to you, You draw near to us, giving us the freedom to step into that abundant life you have wired our hearts for.
In Jesus' Name, Amen
HOW TO BE CONFIDENT ABOUT WHERE YOU ARE RIGHT NOW Podcast #325 In this week of The Confidence Podcast we are chatting about:
How to Be Here, Now How to Be Confident Right Now The Secret to Feeling Confident About Where You Are Right Now Unplugging to Unearth Peace and Presence in An Overconnected World
FREE MASTERCLASSHOW TO HAVE MORE CONFIDENCE This week's podcast is brought to you by my new free masterclass, How to Have More Confidence. Listen, if you think the podcast is good, you haven't been in class with me yet. I spent months curating the teaching I poured into this masterclass and I am so proud of how simple, clear and strategic the activation of confidence can be. In the class, you'll learn what the three biggest mistakes people make with confidence are and what the three most important things you should be doing for your confidence are ... what I call The Confidence Formula. Learn what stage of confidence you are actually in, and then how to get to the next stage so that getting to where you want to be and to how you want to feel doesn't feel overwhelming. TRISHBLACKWELL.COM/FREECLASS
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
"Truth, Love and Inspiration in a Podcast!" - Lindzy B Been listening to Trish for years, and this is my first review (had to help you with my goals girl!). I love that the content keeps getting better and deeper, her personal experiences with changing her thought patterns and living each day with positivity and mindfulness has been so helpful to me in every way, especially when my anxiety flares up or in times of change when it usually does. I find myself listening to her podcast to not only be inspiring, making me feel like i got this and I have the power to change how I deal with this, but I absolutely love that she integrates faith, love and grace for self into her teaching as well. Anyone who's looking for a light in tough times, looking for ways to start making some positive changes in yourself or someone looking to be inspired to become more self-confident - this is your podcast! Happy listening! Keep up the great work Trish - you a have a greater impact than you may ever know!
HOW TO BE CONFIDENT ABOUT WHERE YOU ARE RIGHT NOW
The secret is found is being Here, NowI'm not the expert in this, I'm growing in this area, but I have to bring on the expert who is inspiring and challenging my soul, my new friend Kate Merrick. OK, INTRODUCING....KATE MERRICK!!! ABOUT HERE, NOW: UNEARTHING PEACE AND PRESENCE IN AN OVER-CONNECTED WORLD Do you ever feel like you just want to push the fast forward button on life? Do you feel like your current season is meaningless, or that it's tedious or too painful? Or maybe it's super sweet but you can't quite see the exquisite beauty because you're so distracted by all the things of life. In this book, I write about presence, contentment, and what it looks like to search for and practice those things. In my usual style, I use personal experience, scripture, stories, humor, and questions to lead the reader on a journey to discover of what that might look like in their own life. I dish about moving to Israel for three months, going off the grid, what I was doing the night before Daisy was diagnosed and more. Come explore presence with me, discover what it means to unearth it, practice it, and walk in courage in all seasons. I'm confident God has something for you here! AND STILL, SHE LAUGHS: DEFIANT JOY IN THE DEPTHS OF SUFFERING The official description: Kate Merrick examines the Bible’s gritty stories of resilient women as well as her own experience losing a child—a journey followed by more than a million on prayfordaisy.com—to reveal the reality of surprising joy and deep hope even in the midst of heartache. It keeps going, but you can read that description on the book retailer websites. Get the real scoop below... The unofficial description: I wrote this book for anyone who has been on this earth long enough to hit a roadblock,
HOW TO BE FREE FROM PEOPLE PLEASING Podcast 324 In this week of The Confidence Podcast we are chatting about:
The chains of people pleasing, what their weight is actually doing in our lives The deeper spiritual meaning we teach ourselves when we people please 10 tips to help you stop people-pleasing
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
AbbieWright101
Trish, I need to praise God for you and thank you for your obedience. I have been listening for a few months now, binging at least once a week and praying during each show that God would make all the things that you talk about true in my life. I am working hard to grow my business with my 8-month-old son and a husband who works full time and goes to school part-time, and the need for personal growth is huge! You are relatable and make all of these topics easy to manage and totally doable! Thank you and one day soon, I hope to join the College of Confidence. Your hard work has made so much possible within me and I can't even express the level of respect and appreciation I have for you! Thank you!!! WHAT IS PEOPLE PLEASING REALLY ANYWAYS? 10 signs that you're a people pleaser, from Psychology Today >>> https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/what-mentally-strong-people-dont-do/201708/10-signs-youre-people-pleaser
You pretend to agree with everyone. You feel responsible for how other people feel. You apologize often. You feel burdened by the things you have to do.
You can’t say no. You feel uncomfortable if someone is angry at you. You act like the people around you. You need praise to feel good. You go to great lengths to avoid conflict. You don’t admit when your feelings are hurt.
You may think being a people pleaser makes you a “good” person and is perhaps even a generous or loving way to be. Nope. It’s selfish to be a people pleaser. Why? Because being attached to pleasing others is really about you. You are the one who wants to be liked. You are the one who does not want to upset anyone. You are the one who wants to look good for others. You are the one who is not okay with other people’s reactions. You are the one protecting yourself from confrontation. And you are the one who is choosing to withhold expressing who you TRULY are. And by doing all of those things, you are keeping Yourself, your Light and your Love from the world – and that is selfish.
Remember this: what other people think of you is none of your business.
Obsessing about how to please others or be liked is a misuse of your energy.
From the HuffingtonPost:
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/why-being-a-people-pleaser-is-selfish_b_598fc39de4b0caa1687a60d0?guccounter=1&guce_referrer=aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cuZ29vZ2xlLmNvbS8&guce_referrer_sig=AQAAALqDY2XAR7yjKeg6OAeH2Z5V66LwTXlFjweTIfjYIxOURKXiKtIjBrxNhaeU-VybSojpUGw2SHsInFJmfckcj037QXtR4CtpHv8JmCm32Hp4ibI2arNiEZBailOHbst5JgAuT14f0ZXFbX-vTHw-2QQXxZrdVISaXb2VcHJMpU-a WHAT IS THE DEEPER SPIRITUAL MEANING? When we step into people pleasing, we step out of balance. We step into an over-focus on trying to control what we can't. We are giving ourselves over to be a slave to opinions. We are giving other people the power to rule our lives, rather than God.
When we prescribe to people pleasing, we sign up for our value to be based on what other people say, think or pay us. We lose our worth in being the human being we were created to be, and are worth get tied up in what we do, versus who we are.
When we are afraid to contradict or upset people, then deep down that means that we are fearful that if people knew us for the real us, they wouldn't like us. We convince ourselves through people pleasing that the reason people like us is because we are easy to get along with. I'm all for being easy-going and a team player in life, but if you people please, in many ways you talk out of both sides of your mouth and fail to stand for anything. You get blown around as easily as the wind, and allow other people to tell you who you are, versus being who you are.
THE GUIDE TO MORE CONFIDENT RELATIONSHIPS
PODCAST #323
In this week of The Confidence Podcast we are chatting about:
How to stop being jealous and insecure about your partner How to trust the nice things your partner says about you How to have confidence in the future relationships you will have
SPONSORSHIP NOTE: This week's podcast is brought to you by my partnership with Beautycounter. Look, I love all things clean - clean thinking, clean living, clean eating and clean beauty. I'm sure you're seeing my favorite clean beauty brand all over the news ... we were literally the top Googled beauty trend of 2018 and we are truly effecting change through beauty. If you haven't fallen in love with Beautycounter yet, you're the one missing out. Shop for safer beauty and let me love on you a little as a customer ... you can place your order at www.beautycounter.com/trishblackwell
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
From: JenniferLynn322 "My minds software update" Hello Trish, I started listening to your podcast about 2 months ago. At first, I was drowning so much in self-doubt I felt I couldn't even listen because "I wasn't ready yet." I now binge listen to your podcasts and often go through the notes online on the daily. I like to think of my time listening to you as my minds software update. Just as my iPhone needs updates often, so does my mind. I think that I pushed the "update later" button a few million-time s and now I am in a mass update and growing mode. I want to, of course, say thank you so much for all the work you do and how open and honest you are. I continue to learn every day and am working on many aspects of my mind and confidence thanks to your podcast. I wanted to tell you that the mean girl in my mind is now getting bullied by the confident and kind woman I am becoming. Thank you so much. Be you. Be free. -Jennifer Gil
OK, JEALOUS AND INSECURE? Confession, y'all. I have struggled with jealousy in my relationships. Not in the way you might anticipate, but let's face it, jealousy is jealousy. It doesn't serve us and it steals from our souls. Whether you are jealous and nervous about your partner looking elsewhere or you are jealous because you are throwing a pity party for yourself about how your life looks versus how he does (raising my hand here), jealousy is toxic. Jealousy is an indicator that you don't see your relationship through the lens of confidence ... as what it is: a life-giving, confident partnership. Not a competition, not a tit-for-tat, not a threat to you. For me, I've had to pop my pity party balloons. How? Communicating. Working through what I'm really upset about. Asking for more help. Getting honest about what I need from Brandon. Resisting with all my power and might allowing the weed of resentment to build between us. For other types of jealousy - get your story right. Set people up, and set your heart up, to have to give people the benefit of the doubt. This will not come naturally, but if you want the relationships in your life to be life-giving and soul building, then this is a core component to what all relationships need.
WHAT SEEDS ARE YOU SOWING
Questions I ask myself in my marriage: How am I being present? Am I pursuing my husband now as I did when I first met him? What would happen if I gave Brandon the benefit of the doubt? Does what I am doing sow seeds of a lifelong legacy? How is God using our union for the greater good?
HOW TO TRUST THE NICE THINGS AND BELIEVE THEM?
Chances are, if you're like me, you are like "compliment-resistant." Or, at least I used to be. I thought my parents, friends, relationships, coaches all said nice things to me because they "were supposed to." Because my past relationships include domestic violence, abuse, assault and general negative toxicity, I was very broken when I met my husband. He had to step through a lot of emotional landmines. And I had to learn to trust that what he said was true.
STOP CARING WHAT YOUR FRIENDS THINK Podcast #322 In this week of The Confidence Podcast we are chatting about:
How to stop the cray cray of caring too much Why we care so much anyways The real reason you might be stuck right now
SPONSORSHIP NOTE: This week's podcast is brought to you by my partnership with Beautycounter. Look, I love all things clean - clean thinking, clean living, clean eating and clean beauty. I'm sure you're seeing my favorite clean beauty brand all over the news ... we were literally the top Googled beauty trend of 2018 and we are truly effecting change through beauty. If you haven't fallen in love with Beautycounter yet, you're the one missing out. Shop for safer beauty and let me love on you a little as a customer ... you can place your order at www.beautycounter.com/trishblackwell REVIEW OF THE WEEK: From: Jdannireid
"Wow"
Trish, I just started listening to this week and wow. This is exactly what I needed. You are so real and passionate about what you do. You have brought me to tears several times already. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK Make sure you listen to the original coaching episode on this...How to Stop Caring What People Think, episode #187 of The Confidence Podcast. You can listen directly at www.trishblackwell.com/187
In that episode, we talk about ...
How to stop wasting so much emotional energy and effort worrying about and caring about what other people think about us 5 specific ways to start changing how you let people interfere with you living your best life yet and your full version of yourself – how to really live free as who you were created to be A powerful mantra to use when you find yourself sucked into the siphon of self-comparison and self-doubt that is birthed from worrying about what people think about you
More specifically, in relation to caring about what your friends think, I want to go deeper. The moment we begin to fear the opinions of others and hesitate to tell the truth that is in us, and from motives of policy are silent, when we should speak, the divine floods of light and life no longer flow into our souls. –Elizabeth Cady Stanton 5 WAYS TO STOP CARING ABOUT WHAT YOUR FRIENDS THINK:
Think about what you love about the people you love.
Act as if you only have 36-more months to live.
Be honest about what you have missed out on.
Stop being so afraid to be alone. Resist the desire to cheapen who God made you to be.
WHY WE CARE SO MUCH ANYWAYS We look at the wrong places to get our worth.
We compare and give ourselves a place in this world in relation to the comparison.
We were taught to strive for approval.
We yearn to fit in, yet to also be different.
We are afraid of being weird, left out, isolated, unnoticed, forgettable. THE REAL REASON YOU MIGHT BE STUCK RIGHT NOW Being in a place where you are caring too much will always keep you stuck.
It will keep you from hearing God's voice (because instead, you are listening for the voices of others) It will keep you from generating and stepping into self-trust, which is what you need to take action on an idea, dream, goal or life change that matters It will keep you striving to conform to being "enough" in the opinions of others - which are fleeting and constantly changing, meaning that your confidence will also be in an eternal state of flux and fluidity, leaving you exhausted chasing the finish line that always moves
ANNOUNCEMENTS: If this week's coaching resonated with you, then you're going to want to be more focused and proactive about your personal growth through a progression of the confidence stages. Learn what stage of confidence you are actually in, and then how to get to the next stage so that getting to where you want to be and to how you want to feel doesn't feel overwhelming. MY NEW, SYSTEMATIC APPROACH TO TEACHING CONFIDENCE: The Confidence Formula. If you're here,
HOW TO INCREASE CONFIDENCE THROUGH SELF-COMPASSION
Podcast #321
In this week of The Confidence Podcast we are chatting about:
The secret, often untapped power of self-compassion Why you definitely shouldn't be shrugging off self-compassion as something for "other people" Practical ways you can intentionally activate self-compassion for more confidence
SPONSORSHIP NOTE: This week's podcast is brought to you by my partnership with Beautycounter. Look, I love all things clean - clean thinking, clean living, clean eating and clean beauty. I'm sure you're seeing my favorite clean beauty brand all over the news ... we were literally the top Googled beauty trend of 2018 and we are truly effecting change through beauty. If you haven't fallen in love with Beautycounter yet, you're the one missing out. Shop for safer beauty and let me love on you a little as a customer ... you can place your order at www.beautycounter.com/trishblackwell
REVIEW OF THE WEEK: From: BarbellsAndBaking "My Absolute Favorite Podcast!" Hi Trish! I just wanted to let you know that I love your podcast so much! I know we have never met, but I feel like you're a best friend. I always look forward to Tuesdays when a new episode comes out. You have been such an inspiration in my life and have encouraged me to step out of my comfort zone and finally start my own blog...something I've been thinking about for some time but haven't done until recently because of what people might think or because what if I fail? Thank you so much for everything you do! You're amazing!
THE UNTAPPED POWER OF SELF-COMPASSION AND WHY WE NEED IT The toxic effects of my perfectionism and my eating disorder perpetuated for years long than it should have because I lacked a basic level of self-compassion. Self-compassion includes forgiveness, grace, patience and perspective. For someone with all-or-nothing tendencies, it felt impossible and out-of-character for me to ever experience. The cycle of self-pressure is toxic, and it is fueled when self-compassion isn't available. When I pump self-compassion into me, it feels foreign, because I lived most of my life without it, but it feels good; freeing. Self-compassion is the ability to walk in the grace that God already gives us. When I push away self-compassion, when I try to punish myself and just "do better" and "expect more" then I am saying to God ... thanks for your grace, and thanks for Jesus, but I'll just take full responsibility here to be perfect. I know I'm human - flawed and weak in my flesh, but I'll take help in all the other areas aside from this one. Ya'll, it doesn't work like this. We need it because we thrive when -we walk in grace -when we know that we don't have to be perfect -when it's safe to fail and fumble -when our growth comes from something bigger than ourselves -we don't have to live in a rush, on a timeline or in comparison WHY SELF-COMPASSION IS FOR YOU, NOT JUST "OTHER PEOPLE" Self-compassion isn't weak - it doesn't slow you down - it doesn't hold you back. Self-compassion is actually character strength, not weakness. Too often, we have been brainwashed to believe that we need to work, work, work, perform, perform, perform and sweat, sweat, sweat to be successful ... and that then, when we reach where we want to go, that then we can relax. PRACTICAL WAYS TO IMPLEMENT SELF-COMPASSION Active self-forgiveness Spiritual alignment each day Celebrating the progress Radically slowing down Practicing self-kindness Nurturing self with sleep, touch, good food Listening to your body Resting and talking back to the "not enough" voice Cutting back on obligations Getting help from others (housekeeper, etc, or modifying expectations) Being okay with mistakes (I am learning to embrace them) Seeing your past self with tender sympathy and love ANNOUNCEMENTS: If this week's coaching resonated with you, then you're going to want to be more focused and proactive about your personal growth th...
THESE TWO WORDS WILL MAKE YOU MORE CONFIDENT Podcast #320 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about:
The two words that will make you more confident instantly How to simplify your thinking so that you have better thoughts The process to really become more confident
SPONSORSHIP NOTE: Just a quick note to let you know how much I love all things clean - clean thinking, clean living, clean eating and clean beauty. I'm sure you're seeing my favorite clean beauty brand all over the news ... we were literally the top Googled beauty trend of 2018 and we are truly effecting change through beauty. If you haven't fallen in love with Beautycounter yet, you're the one missing out. Shop for safer beauty and let me love on you a little as a customer ... you can place your order at www.beautycounter.com/trishblackwell REVIEW OF THE WEEK Brenna Garcia
Trish, I stumbled across this podcast while searching for inspiration to better myself. I've spent the last 5 months taking little steps to become the person I'll be proud to be; turn my life around, and I have to say this podcast is the tool I didn't know I was searching for. A little about me: I served 4 years in the military, learning the life lessons that I wouldn't trade for anything in the world, but I also walked away with emotional and mental damage that I'm still working on years later. Just after listening to several episodes, I feel ready to tackle and get to the bottom of my issues instead of using the "fake it till you make it" approach. I LOVE the idea of women empowering each other, keep doing what your'e doing. Will continue to binge watch. :)
WHAT ARE THE TWO WORDS? "All well."
Why does it work?
Because it frees us from the pressure we put on ourselves
Because it frees us from caring too much about what people think about us
Because it frees us to make mistakes and be able to move on
Because it frees us from the holds of perfectionism
Because it frees us to take action without fear or overthinking
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You have to make a decision: do you want to keep doing what you've always been doing, and to keep getting the same results, or do you dare to do something differently, to think differently and to prioritize differently in order to get different results?
This has been tremendously challenging for me, but the biggest lifestyle and priority changes I have made have bee...
Podcast #319 THREE THINGS MOST PEOPLE DON'T KNOW ABOUT BEING CONFIDENT In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about:
The 3 things most people don't know about being confident The real reason I am so passion about confidence The Confidence Formula - how to really be and feel more confident, even if you're busy
REVIEW OF THE WEEK: "No more Limiting Myself - I can accomplish what I dream!"
Proverbs 31 Mommy of 3
Trish has been such a blessing to hear. All the adult life I've struggled with self-doubt and feeling unworthy. I finally reached a boiling point and searched for confidence podcasts and this podcast come up first! I was thrilled to see that you too are a Christian and your point of view comes from your confidence in who God made you, after all, shouldn't we all be confident in who God made us, because He never makes mistakes. I listen to you every morning and feel much more confident in myself. This podcast has helped me realize that my thinking and behavior patterns are what has been limiting me all this time. In essence, in sabotaging myself, and fear of success can be a real thing. BUT NOT MORE! In closing I just want to add that it's pretty cool when my kid walk in the bedroom in the morning as I'm getting ready for work and listening to your podcast, and I turn it off, and my teenagers either ask for me to turn it back on, or give feedback on what Trish said, which in turn leads me to turn you back on! Keep on blessing people Trish!
"Life changer"
KayKayFez
Your podcast is the pill I take every morning to start my day with presence and confidence.
SPONSORSHIP NOTE: Just a quick note to let you know how much I love all things clean - clean thinking, clean living, clean eating, and clean beauty. I'm sure you're seeing my favorite clean beauty brand all over the news ... we were literally the top Googled beauty trend of 2018 and we are truly effecting change through beauty. If you haven't fallen in love with Beautycounter yet, you're the one missing out. Shop for safer beauty and let me love on you a little as a customer ... you can place your order at www.beautycounter.com/trishblackwell THREE THINGS MOST PEOPLE DON'T KNOW ABOUT BEING CONFIDENT I have to listen to something multiple times to "get it"
(Sometimes an 11-day journey takes 40 years - but it doesn't have to) I don't always have that confidence voice in my brain (self-doubt never disappears, we just turn down its volume) I am good at making decisions not because I don't feel indecisive, but because I know the key to confidence is to make a decision and move on. (not needing to know if your decision is perfect is part of the process of confidence, 70% is my marker point to knowing that it's good enough) WHY AM I SO PASSIONATE ABOUT CONFIDENCE? Confidence is the key that opens us to the activation of the gifting that God has divinely planted inside of us.
My work in confidence is my calling - and I am a simple encourager, a cheerleader, a coach to help facilitate millions of others to live the lives God created them to live. I believe that, by coaching confidence, I am helping make the world a better place.
This is so much more than the "feel goods" or the perfect body or not feeling anxious or insecure. This is about stepping out of the shadows of shame and into the light and hope of freedom.
I am passionate because I know what life without confidence feels like. I know the deep regret of living incongruently and with a deep yearning for more in your heart. THE CONFIDENCE FORMULA -How to really feel and be more confident, even if you are too busy to work on your confidence or feel too overwhelmed and distracted by life to make changes that matter. MY NEW, SYSTEMATIC APPROACH TO TEACHING CONFIDENCE The Confidence Formula. If you're here, it means you're ready to create a life that is accelerated by your confidence, not limited by your lack of it. On this Confidence Coaching page,
36 LITTLE THINGS THAT TRANSFORMED MY CONFIDENCE Podcast #318 This week on The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about:
One reason every single one of us can have more confidence each day The 36 little things that transformed my confidence A new, systematic approach to the confidence I am excited to introduce
REVIEW OF THE WEEK: R + J
Amazing, amazing podcast. A couple of months ago, I began community to work and found myself looking for something to listen to on my hour to two-hour drive. I was not expecting to find something actually worth listening to: I was taken aback by Trish's podcast and find myself irritated when I have to stop listening once I actually arrive at work. She is so incredibly positive, upbeat and encouraging without being fake. She's entirely real and down to earth and simply lovely to listen to. Not only do I feel better after listening to every episode, I feel stronger, wiser and much more sure of myself and where I am headed. An absolutely life-changing podcast. This is a must-listen. :)
Ya'll! We're ranked #158 in all health podcasts. Total podcasts out there? 700,000 (according to podcasting insights and blubrry. SPONSORSHIP NOTE: Just a quick note to let you know how much I love all things clean - clean thinking, clean living, clean eating, and clean beauty. I'm sure you're seeing my favorite clean beauty brand all over the news ... we were literally the top Googled beauty trend of 2018 and we are truly effecting change through beauty. If you haven't fallen in love with Beautycounter yet, you're the one missing out. Shop for safer beauty and let me love on you a little as a customer ... you can place your order at www.beautycounter.com/trishblackwell HOW CAN YOU GUARANTEE YOURSELF TO HAVE MORE CONFIDENCE EVERY DAY? What makes me so sure that you have the ability to be more confident each day, even if you don't "feel" the changes happening?
It's one thing we all have in common: we are aging.
And with age, comes repetition - and wisdom, and perspective and, repetition again.
Y'all, this is my birthday week, and if you've been on brand with me for the past few years, you'll know that I absolutely love aging. Past episodes I've done around my birthday include:
266: 35 Power Mantras to Improve Your Confidence and Courage
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210: Aging Confidently and Beautifully
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162: 33 Unexpected Things to Be Thankful For
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www.trishblackwell.com/58 THE 36 THINGS THAT TRANSFORMED MY CONFIDENCE Real change happens in the littlest of things.
(Story about my mom and the dishwasher - let all that I do be done to the glory of God). Happy birthday to me, happy birthday to me, happy birthday to me ... happy birthday to me!
Gratitude journaling Getting a coach Therapy Focusing on champagne moments and progress Seeing myself as a new creation Compartmentalizing my past Slightly changing my name Letting go of trying to impress other people Journaling Running Chasing failure Eleanor Roosevelt Permission to be a student The color pink Making a fool of myself Doing things that make me very uncomfortable Learning sales by fire Worship music Keeping my word to myself Deciding who I am and giving myself powerful attributes Reading every day Going for B- work instead of A+ work Deciding to be the friendliest and kindest person in the room Stretching for two minutes every morning Having two c-sections Prayer - writing my prayers out, tracking answered prayer and praying for God's eyes My tattoo Stopped over apologizing (and people pleasing) Developing and training my emotional intelligence Deciding that I would be never too old to learn new tricks (example: figure skating) Knowing that people need encouragement (seeing them, praising them, remembering them)
ARE YOU GETTING IN YOUR OWN WAY? THIS IS HOW TO STOP SELF-SABOTAGE... Podcast #317 This week on The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about:
How to know if you're getting in your own way or if life is getting in your way Understanding the real root of self-sabotage 3 ways to stop getting in your own way
REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Emwarrxox
I am so blessed to have come across your podcast one day searching for something to help build up my confidence and I've been listening to it religiously every morning while I get ready for work to get in a good confident headspace. During your podcast, you mention asking for topic requests from your viewers and something I struggle with daily is that I find myself making excuses for people that treat me badly and accepting it. I struggle with standing up for myself and realizing when it's OK to stop making excuses for other people's actions and to stop over apologizing to those people when in fact they are the ones who should be apologizing. I just always feel like I'm in the wrong Trish, and I'm tired of it. I hope this makes sense. I love your podcast so much, thank you again for everything you do and for being so open and honest about your life and your struggles. I can't thank you enough - Em
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Where there is a will, there is a way.
We overcomplicate success, often driving us to get in our way.
There are a thousand ways we get in our own way, but here are a few to get your mental juices going > procrastination, poor time management, overeating, overdrinking, over-exercising, perfectionism, waiting to be more prepared, over-committing, overthinking, having mixed priorities, being too obsessed with control.
Be the man in the arena.
I would rather live life all in,
HOW TO DECLUTTER YOUR MIND AND DETOX OVERWHELM Podcast #316 This week on The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about:
How to Marie Kondo Your Mind (and organized and simple process) What overwhelm is actually doing to your confidence and your life The secret to continual tidying up of the mind
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Bambi K
Trish I just recently came across your podcast and I wish I had found it earlier. I instantly started binge listening to it and every single episode speaks to me. Being a perfectionist, recovering from an eating disorder from multiple relapses, and having no self-esteem or confidence, your podcast is changing my life. I started to challenge myself to dare to do things, to not care what other people think and it feels amazing. Even my husband keeps mentioning how (unusually) confidence I am lately. I am so grateful for you and we need more people like you in this world.
This makes me think about my girl, Lourdes from The College of Confidence who recently shared:
Hi Trish! My hubby of 39 years complimented me today..
“ You have become solid! I’m so proud of your progress!”
Thank you Trish, my sister, I’m having so many, many Mermaid Martini Moments! SPONSORSHIP NOTE: This episode is brought to you today by my FREE micro-course, the Quick Confidence Boost.
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With tidying up, come clean and open space and the ability to enjoy life.
“When deciding what to buy, remember that some things are easy to buy—but then we have to use them. If they're not used, they don't enhance our lives; they just contribute to guilt and clutter.” -Gretchen Rubin
The objective of cleaning is not just to clean, but to feel happiness living within that environment. -Marie Kondo
To truly cherish the things that are important to you, you must first discard those that have outlived their purpose. And if you no longer need them, then that is neither wasteful nor shameful. Can you truthfully say that you treasure something buried so deeply in a cupboard or drawer that you have forgotten its existence? -Marie Kondo
Have gratitude for the things you're discarding. By giving gratitude, you're giving closure to the relationship with that object, and by doing so, it becomes a lot easier to let go. -Marie Kondo
Effective tidying involves only three essential actions. All you need to do is take the time to examine every item you own, decide whether or not you want to keep it, then choose where to put what you keep. Designate a place for each thing. Marie Kondo What does your mind actually look like? Clean and organized?
Open and airy?
Cluttered and confusing?
Dumping ground and outdated? Simple KonMari Method for the Mind: Cut down on what you bring in.
Get rid of what doesn't bring you joy.
Have a daily system that works.
Respect your space and live well in it.
Do consistent tidying up daily.
Update and revamp your system as needed.
Analyze and assess every thought. WHAT OVERWHELM IS ACTUALLY DOING IN YOUR LIFE (It's bad!)
IF YOU WANT TO BE CONFIDENT AND HAPPY, YOU'VE OUTGROWN THIS... Podcast #315 This week on The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about
The things it's time to drop in your life How to drop them for real The deliberate lifestyle that leads to more happiness, more confidence, and better results
REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Katie Schroeder
This woman is beyond words. Her dedication, time and love she puts into her lessons are seriously life-changing. I've tried to jump into multiple self-development podcasts/books/groups and couldn't stick with anything simply because nothing held my interest. Then I found Trish. She has something valuable to say in EVERY single podcast. Her words have changed my way of thinking and my overall mental health in ways I'll never be able to thank her enough for. I have struggled with anxiety for years and worry about things constantly down to if my shoelaces look weird how they are tied. It's nice to be able to laugh at myself over that now but at the time it was the LEAST bit funny. It's been a tough road pulling myself out of that mindset. But I've done it! It's a learning process and I've come so far. This podcast and the COC is undeniably the breath of fresh air I've been looking for. After 2 episodes I signed up for the College of Confidence because I knew I wanted to dive in deeper with Trish's teachings. Since then I have looked at myself in the mirror differently, proudly, loving what I see. Gained happiness back that has been long, long gone and I never thought I would see again. I've found journaling again. I found a community of women who are cheering me on right alongside with Trish. Every day she shows up and has all of our backs. Every day she is your cheerleader. Thank you so much for everything you do! I love you, sister!
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Caring what people think Being in a rush Cluttered thinking
CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK There are different levels of breakthrough in this area, and each new level brings new levels of freedom.
Here are some thoughts and truths that have helped me step more into a place of freedom in this area of my life:
Every opinion is different, and it's not my business what people think about me. The only opinion that matters to me is God's opinion, and He created me. I expect people to have contradictory opinions about me. If I am not polarizing, I am not standing for anything of value. You can't please everyone. I want to spend my emotional effort living, not thinking about things out of my control. Trying to control what people think about you is like chasing the wind.
For an entire episode on how to stop caring about what people think of you, be sure to catch episode #301 of The Confidence Podcast, 33 Practical Ways to Stop Worrying About What People Think of You at www.trishblackwell.com/301 BEING IN A RUSH And I don't just mean for a time in your day-to-day, I mean in life.
Not believing you are where you need to be, and wishing you were "farther along" communicates a few things subconsciously:
1) that you don't trust God's timing in your life or His plan for you
2) that you are living in regret and disappointment, over-focused on the past and the future, unable to be in the present
How to stop being in a rush with the timeline of your life?
Realize that what matters in life isn't what you accomplish, but the meaning with which your life. It is not about how beautiful you can make your life look, it's about how beautifully you can live.
Remember that life is not a race. The right pace for life is "forward."
The turtle and the hare. The winners are the ones who stay locked in on their finish line / on what is meaningful to them, and then never stop moving forward.
GETTING THE HELP YOU NEED TO REACH YOUR GOALS Podcast #314 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're chatting about ...
How to know if you need a coach or if you need a therapist Helping yourself and consistently coaching yourself The real secret to reaching your goals
REVIEW OF THE WEEK RMAnnJo
Trish's podcast is so uplifting!!! She shares wise thoughts on most topics that I am interested in knowing more. I would DEFINITELY recommend listening to her when you have a team. And Trish, God bless you for listening and abiding by His plans for you. :)
HELPING YOURSELF Identify your time slumps + your energy slouches
-Anticipate them
-Track your impulse control
-Set yourself up for success around these
-Temper your expectations
-Prepare in advance (coffee, shoes out, etc)
Identify your highlight times + best energy you
-Maximize them by having a plan
-Identify a daily highlight
-Have a mission statement to daily direct you and deepen your fulfillment and purpose COACHING YOURSELF Setting up accountability
Breaking down your breaking points and creating a better system
Journaling
Getting a coach for check-ins
Create arbitrary deadlines and achievements
Reward yourself more consistently
Create meaning in what you do and know where you are going
You are never doing this on your own, you're doing this with God
Watch out for infinity pools
Dare to be different (to not watch certain shows, to turn off social media, to not have tv in your room, to express your real feelings and preferences)
Know what trips you up (me, it's sloppiness in my slumps, so I have to create structure around this) THE REAL SECRET TO REACHING YOUR GOALS
To have a goal. To go for the goal.
Most of us think about goals. We talk about them. We imagine them. We wish them for ourselves, but we never really commit. We get afraid. We are afraid of failing. We don't want to look foolish. We don't want to be disappointed in ourselves.
The only disappointment you can have in yourself is a disappointment for never having tried. For only having gone through the motions of life, and never having actually dared to live. Know The Best-Case Scenarios Best Case - Success
Second-Best Case - Failure
Not Optimal Case - Giving Up After Trying Once
Worst Case - Not Trying at All or Procrastinating
The key to this all is action.
I have two major strengths in life: enthusiasm and action. So, listen, you don't have to have this all figured out. You don't have to do this on your own. That's why you have me, and coaching from me, like the coaching you get in The College of Confidence or by working with me privately.
Learning how to take action if you're someone who has never taken action before is less about discipline and will power and all about mindset, belief, and strategy.
I'll coach you.
I'll teach you.
I'll push you.
I'll catch you.
I'll help you get back up.
I'll celebrate you. BOOKS REFERENCED IN THIS PODCAST: When: The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing
by Daniel Pink
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Blessings,
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GROWING YOUR IMPORTANT RELATIONSHIPS WITH MORE CONFIDENCE Podcast #313 This week on The Confidence Podcast, we're chatting about:
Creating relationships in your life that give you confidence and that you trust The danger of "small offenses" in the relationships in your life How to grow the relationships that matter to you, and move on from the ones that don't
REVIEW OF THE WEEK: thanks, Trish :)
I randomly found this podcast while struggling with the public speaking portion of my job. Trish has been very helpful professionally and personally ... insightful, and worth a listen if you're looking for something but not sure what. She helps me compartmentalize my thoughts and have tools that help me with self-love and forward progress in my life.
CREATING THE IDEAL RELATIONSHIPS IN YOUR LIFE You have a relationship with everything and everyone.
the way in which two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected, or the state of being connected. Relationships are the foundation of a meaningful life. In a 2010 review of 148 studies, researchers found that social relationships improve lifespans. People in healthy long-term relationships are 50% less likely to die prematurely than people without them. Types of relationships: Familial, friendship, amorous, neighborly, acquaintances
We were created for connection.
Connection demands communication.
(Communication is the key to life - Tim Kelley, Davidson College) What do relationships give us: A sense of safety
A support network
A feeling of purpose
Longevity
Healthier and more balanced emotions
Healthy relationships bring compassion to that relationship space, which helps us regulate our emotions, calm our primal alarm systems and promote longer periods of health.
In healthy relationships, people learn that they can safely manage worries, fears, hopes and dreams. This capacity builds intimacy, closeness, and a sense of security that has a far-reaching impact.
(from Pro Psych Central)
Good relationships appear to protect our brains. "Being in a securely attached relationship is protective in your 80s. Those people's memories stay sharper longer," says Dr. Waldinger (Harvard Review)
According to Blue Zones (Dan Buettner), optimize your face to face relationships to optimize your health and your longevity.
While diet, exercise, and overall health all seem like they’d be the best predictors of how long you’ll live, Julianne Holt-Lundstad at Brigham Young University found that the following are three important predictors of longevity:
Drinking/smoking habits: Are you a moderate drinker? Do you or don’t you smoke? Did you quit? Close relationships: These are your closest friends, the people you can call on a bad day, the friends you know will support you in bad times. Social integration: These are the interactions with people as you move through your day and includes both strong and weak bonds. It could be the coffee barista you see on your daily commute, the postman, or the woman behind you in line at the grocery store.
The face-to-face interactions you have on a daily basis are one of the strongest predictors of how long you’ll live.
For the record - I used to be awful at relationships. I grew up in a family with constant fighting. I was homeschooled. I was a highly gifted athlete - which made me a loner. I had friends, but I didn't have a lot of practice. Boarding school helped, but then I had toxic relationships. It's never too late to get better at relationships ... and we do so with an open heart, vulnerable spirit and a deep desire to connect to others and to allow ourselves to be known and loved. Now - I love relationships because they make me slow down. Relationships are not "productive."
I can't check the box. I can't earn them. I have to live them. KEEP YOUR ACCOUNTS SHORT AND BOUNDARIES STRONG The biggest thing that breaks up relationships is keeping long accounts of small offenses.
The secret to strong relationships is short accou...
Feeling "not good enough" can not only slow you down as you chase your dreams, but it can make you lose belief in your potential completely. Listen to this episode to hear practical, tactical strategies on how to rewire your thinking against the onslaught of messages we hear daily that make us feel "not enough," "behind" or "overwhelmed." Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/312
Podcast #311 HOW TO LET GOD TRANSFORM YOUR CONFIDENCE In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about
How God is responsible for the transformation of my confidence My experience with personal development - doing it on my own versus doing it with God The tools I use on a daily basis to grow spiritually and to confidently live out my life with joy, happiness, abundance, peace and purpose, even though I never thought those things were available to me
REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Heatherdutko
Trish's podcast is not only uplifting and motivational but offers real, step-by-step ways to actually change your life for the better. So many positive changes in my life I can directly trace back to the advice and practices I've instituted because of Trish.
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Overwhelm and impatience.
Confusion of who to learn from and what was important.
Responsibility to do it all on my own. -ON GOD'S SIDE Presence and peace.
Progress and teamwork, to not be doing it all on my own.
Confidence that I would be guided as needed.
Freedom to know that I need to show up, and then to let God be God and do the rest. Why is worship music important to personal development? I used to be embarrassed to let people know about the central role of worship in my life. When I first starting dating my husband, I was worried he wouldn’t like how much I needed to have worship music on. He was a Christian, so I knew he wouldn’t be offended by it, but it still made me nervous to be vulnerable to the real role of worship in my life. It felt so nerdy and so weak. But I am weak. We all are. I need worship because I need God. I need to be close to Him, I need His strength and I need His truth. Worship connects me and fills me in those ways. Now my husband knows that worship music plays as the background in our house, and in the mornings, when the kids are both screaming at the same time that the dog is barking at a squirrel, I can see him smile at me, happy that we have a peaceful way to process everyday life without losing focus on what matters. (That said, as equally as I love worship music, you will also hear hip hop and reggeaton pumping through our walls).
I’m writing about worship and personal development because to me, a Christian life coach, they are interdependent upon one another. Over the past few years, I have received countless messages from podcast listeners, book readers and coaching clients wanting to know how I really found freedom from my anxiety, my eating disorder, my broken life. I’ve done therapy, coaching, journaling work and have read thousands of books. I have gone on retreats, gotten prayer, fasted and done cleanses. Those things are all good, but the single most powerful factor to my breakthroughs in my personal growth has been worship.
Worship and personal development are interdependent, cohesive partners that help us become who God created us to be.
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People report being impatient in their personal growth, wanting to move through the transformation faster than comes naturally. I get it. It’s something I used to struggle with too. For ten years while I held onto my eating disorder, I wanted to change, I knew how to change, but I wasn’t happy with the speed at which I was changing, so I would get overwhelmed with the process and just give up. Worship, when it comes to personal development, is my secret weapon.
5 SNEAKY WAYS SELF-DOUBT IS WRECKING YOUR ABILITY TO BE CONFIDENT Podcast #310 This week on The Confidence Podcast, we're chatting about:
5 sneaks ways self-doubt is wrecking your ability to be confident The antidote to self-doubt, belief, and how to activate more of it 3 solutions to silence self-doubt
REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Natural Beauty Fitness I subscribed to this show in 2016. I listened to it on and off until 2018 when I realize that the thing I needed the most to help in my goals and my life was my confidence. I have a tendency to be very hard on myself when I make a mistake. The Confidence Podcast has helped me believe in myself and see that God has a great purpose for me despite my shortcomings. I stand taller now.
THE 5 SNEAKY THINGS ABOUT SELF-DOUBT THAT ARE WRECKING YOU
Self-doubt makes you tip-toe towards what you want
Self-doubt swirls around the comparison spiral
Self-doubt creates stories that don't exist
Self-doubt squashes your ability to reach your full potential
Self-doubt keeps the doors to adventure, change and exploration closed off and locked.
Keeps you from sharing your passions with the people you love
Keeps you from exploring your beliefs and your limits, for fear that you might be wrong and embarrassed that you were wrong. Or for fear of offending someone else. THE ANTIDOTE TO SELF-DOUBT An obsession with belief.
Note: belief is more uncomfortable than self-doubt.
Self-doubt it easy. It is natural. It doesn't require anything of us or from us. Belief requires faith - in ourselves and in above.
Said differently, the antidote to self-doubt is a willingness to accept discomfort and uncertainty, because in many ways, that is what belief actually is.
Practice believing.
Believe you can change your attitude.
Believe you are doing better than you think.
Believe that a bad day doesn't define you (ice skating example)
Believe that your past performance doesn't narrate your future one
Believe that there is always something to be analyzed and learned, nothing is wasted
Believe that you can believe better than ever before. THREE SOLUTIONS TO SILENCING SELF-DOUBT
Become a student of go-getters and dreamers. Get obsessed with the positive points of failure. Put yourself around other people who are choosing to think and live differently
FINALLY, SELF-DOUBT FESTERS IN "NOT ENOUGHNESS" MINDSET Overcome that mindset with mantras that keep you in the present.
I choose peace, not pressure.
I choose kindness, not criticism.
I choose belief, not fear.
I choose gratitude, not grumbling.
I choose meaning, not pleasing.
I close moments, not more. ANNOUNCEMENTS: The College of Confidence is your simple way to confidently show up in your life with more courage. Create authentic traction towards your goals, silence the self-doubt that is keeping you back, and to tap into your purpose so you can make the difference in this world that God created you to make with our cancel-at-anytime membership. This is faith-based life-coaching in a personalized, supportive and affordable way.
Build your confidence in the truth that you are "enough" and are "doing enough." The College of Confidence will help you manage your mindset and to step into the potential that God created you to live out.
I truly believe that by joining The College of Confidence, your life will be better. That's why I unapologetically invite you each and every week to join us. Trust me, there's a reason I believe in what we are doing together as a community. Don't you think it might be time for you to check it out for yourself?
Get started now at www.collegeofconfidence.com LISTENER OF THE EPISODE Hi Trish,
I've noticed that you love to get feedback from everyone and thought I’d share with you how you’ve helped me.
I stumbled upon your show when I was going through a very “down in the dumps” time in my life. I am pretty similar to you, I swam competitively for most of my life and was so worried about what o...
HOW TO BREAK FREE FROM "NOT ENOUGH" SYNDROME Podcast #309 This week on The Confidence Podcast, we're chatting about:
How "not enough" syndrome sneaks into our lives and manifests itself What the whispers of "not enough" keep you from The shift from "pressure" to "peace" as the game-changing mindset move that can break you free from the shackles of the "not enough" prison
SPONSORSHIP NOTES: New sponsorship note! This episode is brought to you today by my newest, FREE challenge, the "I Am Enough" Challenge, a 5-day challenge to less stress and more self-confidence.
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Join the challenge now, it starts tomorrow, Wednesday, March 13th. Save your spot by going to www.trishblackwell.com/challenge REVIEW OF THE WEEK Mel_Mac123
Trish has literally changed my life! I was in my darkest hole and I found her podcast. I was like, why not? Maybe this is what I need? Because of her and her confidence boost daily (as I'm listening to ALL of the podcast episodes she has) I'm defeating post part because I'm learning how to take care of myself! She hits home on so many levels and gets in mentally somehow all at the same time. I recommend her podcast to all my friends! I'm so glad she's changing my life! FIRST WE NEED TO IDENTIFY "NOT ENOUGH SYNDROME" NOT DOING ENOUGH -Also disguised as "overwhelmed," "not enough time," "behind", "not on the right timeline" NOT CAPABLE ENOUGH -Also disguised as "not lucky," "slow learner," "procrastination", "not meeting expectations" "just hard on myself" NOT ENOUGH -Also disguised as "insecurity," "self-doubt," "who I am syndrome," "I don't matter", "I don't have anything to offer," "not skinny enough" WHAT IS YOUR CORE STORY? -The core story of the world is "more" EACH "NOT ENOUGH" MANIFESTATION IS A CHAIN LINK List out your "not enough" and pay attention to what your mind has told you.
Managing the mind is more important than managing one's health - because every element of physical health manifests itself from our mental state first. NOW, IT'S TIME TO BREAK EVERY CHAIN We don't do this on our own.
We do it in a community.
We do it by surrendering to God.
We do it by recognizing that what we've done on our own in the past hasn't worked.
We do it by daring to be different. KNOWING WHAT YOU WANT: PEACE OR PRESSURE To overcome "not enough" I meditate upon how I want to feel in life. I used to live a life of pressure and performance - and still do from time to time, but it drove me into a cycle of crazy and lack of fulfillment.
The opposite of what I have known is simple: it is peace.
In fact, the real benefit of confidence, real confidence, if you were to break it down, is peace.
Peace in who we are.
Peace in our place in the world.
Peace in our relationships.
Peace in our purpose.
Peace in our provision.
Peace in our body.
Peace in our personality.
Peace in our giftings and strengths.
Peace is acceptance and celebration.
It is freedom.
Freedom from striving.
Freedom from pressure.
Freedom from scarcity.
Freedom from comparison.
Freedom from worry and anxiety.
Freedom from proving oneself.
Freedom from not having value.
Freedom from "not enough."
Mantra to release yourself when feeling triggered:
"I choose peace." ANNOUNCEMENTS: The College of Confidence is your simple way to confidently show up in your life with more courage. Create authentic traction towards your goals, silence the self-doubt that is keeping you back,
BODY CONFIDENCE IN A WAY YOU'VE NEVER THOUGHT ABOUT IT Podcast #308 This week on The Confidence Podcast, we're chatting about:
How to use touch to get back in touch with your body What does body confidence mean Understanding what about your body is really tripping you up or keeping you down The switch that changed my stress-levels about my body
SPONSORSHIP NOTES: This episode is brought to you today by my FREE micro-course, the Quick Confidence Boost.
That little voice inside that's telling you-you're not enough? It's lying. It's mean. It's a bully. And it's keeping you from the life God created you to live. I say "no more!" My self-bully used to shame me. It kept me small, scared and in a state of self-sabotage. Then I got tired of it, and I learned how to stand up to the bully. I'll teach you the step-by-step process to start doing the same thing.
Join my FREE micro-course, a 7-day confidence coaching course, and you feel changes in your internal self-talk with these quick, 3-minute FREE coaching videos. I spent too many years of my life silenced by self-doubt. I will do anything in my power to help free other women from having to suffer any longer. You were created to shine light into this world, but to shine brightly we've gotta get rid of the bully that's keeping you from living muted. Start the FREE micro-course today at www.trishblackwell.com/quickconfidenceboost REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Swidz! "Obsessed with Trish"
I've been meaning to write a review for a WHILE now. Trish Blackwell is an absolutely incredible person and confidence coach. Whenever I am feeling down, I immediately turn to her positive words of encouragement and it immediately brightens my day. She is real and doesn't hold back from sharing her struggles from her past and day to day life. My sister found this podcast when she was going through a very tough time in her life and shared it with me. And I can say with confidence that this podcast saved her and I cannot thank Trish enough for that. Through tough days or good days, Trish is a voice to be listened to! She's a superstar and I am forever grateful for her. Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU! HOW TO USE TOUCH TO GET BACK IN TOUCH WITH YOUR BODY You are fearfully and wonderfully made. But are you treating your body that way?
Do you really appreciate your body for the miracle it is? For the wondrous things, it does? Touch and thank-you technique.
Touch a body part. Thank God for creating this part of you. Thank your body for being your body. Touch and say thank you specifically for how this part looks. Touch and say thank you specifically for something this part allows you to do.
Move onto the next body part. A few other touch methods.
Lotion and self-acceptance love
Two-hand heart touch + speaking to your inner child.
Stretch and touch with breath work. UNDERSTANDING WHAT ABOUT YOUR BODY IS REALLY TRIPPING YOU UP OR KEEPING YOU DOWN What story have you told yourself about yourself?
Do you really see yourself as others see you?
What would happen if you got a professional photo shoot done?
How would the people who love you the most describe your body?
What would happen if you just accepted yourself?
Are you afraid to let go of your own self-hate?
Do you feel like you're supposed to be dissatisfied?
How is not liking your body serving you? What is it doing for you?
Do you really want to change and to feel free, or do you like the comfort of having this be your main problem and main excuse?
What facade is your body image issue really protecting you from?
I didn't think loving my body or being healthy was allowed to be easy.
I felt uncomfortable liking my body, because what if no one else thought I was okay and I did?
I liked hiding from my real pain by numbing myself with body loathing. THE SWITCH THAT CHANGED EVERYTHING FOR ME Focus on what your body does and how it feels, not on what it looks like.
I want to snowboard when I'm 77.
OVERWHELM IS POISONING YOU - HOW TO STOP IT Podcast #307 This week on The Confidence Podcast, we're chatting about:
Overwhelm, what is it and how is it poisoning you? Finding the definition of overwhelm How does the poison of overwhelm work? 7 things you can do to stop overwhelm, starting today.
SPONSORSHIP NOTES: This episode is brought to you today by my FREE micro-course, the Quick Confidence Boost. That little voice inside that's telling you-you're not enough? It's lying. It's mean. It's a bully. And it's keeping you from the life God created you to live. I say "no more!" My self-bully used to shame me. It kept me small, scared and in a state of self-sabotage. Then I got tired of it, and I learned how to stand up to the bully. I'll teach you the step-by-step process to start doing the same thing.
Join my FREE micro-course, a 7-day confidence coaching course, and you feel changes in your internal self-talk with these quick, 3-minute FREE coaching videos. I spent too many years of my life silenced by self-doubt. I will do anything in my power to help free other women from having to suffer any longer. You were created to shine light into this world, but to shine brightly we've gotta get rid of the bully that's keeping you from living muted. Start the FREE micro-course today at www.trishblackwell.com/quickconfidenceboost REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Jo-Lee Woods "Where have you been all my life?!"
I went into 2019 with the goal of increasing my confidence. I didn't know exactly what would entail or how I was going to do it but listening to Trish has been the best thing God could have sent my way. She has made me start to really dig deep into who I am and asks questions to get to the root of where my insecurities lie Within the short time I've been listening I can see tremendous steps toward a living a life of confidence.e I've recommended this podcast to numerous family and friends after seeing how much Trish has been able to help me! OVERWHELM, WHAT IS IT AND HOW IS IT POISONING YOU? It's a victim mindset. A mindset that says things are happening to you, rather than you are living your life through a set of circumstances.
Overwhelm is fear-based.
It's a result of poor time management, lack of prioritization, perfectionistic expectations, people pleasing, performance-based-worth life theories.
It happens from not thinking intentionally - it's careless thinking.
It happens when we step away from faith and try to do it all on our own ... whether that is simply not asking for help from others and being a control freak, or if it means that we're not reaching out to the God of the universe, the all-powerful, all-knowing, all-present, all-loving God who created us and who wants to walk alongside us.
Take yourself out of the "I'm so overwhelmed state"
There will always be "things" to do - the option to "feel behind" or "not enough" will always be a choice. Most people choose this choice, but will you choose the road less traveled?
Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;
Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,
And both that morning equally lay
In leaves, no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
-Robert Frost HOW DOES OVERWHELM'S POISON WORK? It convinces you of time scarcity.
It makes you feel like an impostor and unworthy.
It makes you small and scared.
It makes everything twice as hard as it actually is.
It is an emotional arsonist.
GOD SAYS YOU ARE WONDERFUL: HOW TO BELIEVE IT. Podcast #306 This week on The Confidence Podcast, we're chatting about:
Why does God think you're wonderful in the first place? Is this really true? 5 lifestyle steps to take daily to activate this from your head to your heart How to believe that you are wonderful in an active, real-life, confident way God says this is true!
SPONSORSHIP NOTE: This episode is brought to you today by my FREE micro-course, the Quick Confidence Boost.
That little voice inside that's telling you-you're not enough? It's lying. It's mean. It's a bully. And it's keeping you from the life God created you to live. I say "no more!" My self-bully used to shame me. It kept me small, scared and in a state of self-sabotage. Then I got tired of it, and I learned how to stand up to the bully. I'll teach you the step-by-step process to start doing the same thing.
Join my FREE micro-course, a 7-day confidence coaching course, and you feel changes in your internal self-talk with these quick, 3-minute FREE coaching videos. I spent too many years of my life silenced by self-doubt. I will do anything in my power to help free other women from having to suffer any longer. You were created to shine light into this world, but to shine brightly we've gotta get rid of the bully that's keeping you from living muted. Start the FREE micro-course today at www.trishblackwell.com/quickconfidenceboost REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Mermaid13355
Before listening to your podcast, I was always the victim of my dramas, I was safely on the sidelines of life...outside looking in, my mind was stuck in my regrets of the past, or paralyzed with dread of the future. After years of listening to your podcasts, and becoming a recent member of The College of Confidence, I have a lot more moments of being victorious rather than a victim. I am more present in my moments rather than transpired to past or future. I have learned to say yes to events and people that sparkle my soul and say no to events and people that are toxic. I am giving back more to my world...and this feels awesome! Thank you, Trish...God has given you a gift to inspire others to choose joy instead of sadness in their lives! GOD SAYS ARE YOU WONDERFUL, WHY? Because you have a life.
Because He does not make mistakes.
Because this world needs light, love and of the 7 billion+ humans alive right now, there needed to be you.
Because there is no one who has existed before like you.
Because you are fearfully and wonderfully made - look at the science of biology and the chances of you being born. (1 in 400 trillion)
Because you are valuable and have dignity.
Do you realize what has to happen for you to be born, and the chances you came out as you? The odds of you being born as you are about 1 in 400 trillion, or more. OK, I GET IT, NOW WHAT? 5 LIFESTYLE STEPS TO TAKE DAILY.
Write out your power truth of the day. Have an active plan to detox negative, distracted thinking that doesn't serve you. (gratitude, old vs new me, action, breath work, anxiety) Live with a mindset of simplicity. (don't overcomplicate, reduce comparison, limit technology, track how you spend your time and know what you want) Spend time with God (ask for Him to show you what He sees in you) Get obsessed with the positive and with your ownership over your feelings (process your feelings, your thoughts, your perspective, your statements - "I'm so busy" > Hunter boots example, slow down, take action and prove to yourself that you aren't actually as busy as you think"
BELIEVE IT INTO AN ACTIVE PLACE Repeat, repeat, repeat.
Focus on progressive growth and micro-belief changes.
It's more important to believe hard than to work hard. Figure out what is keeping you from believing how you should.
You are important not because of what you do, because of how busy you are, but because of you.
Listen, this is radical. This is bold. This is unusual living.
But for me,
The thing that is keeping you from reaching your goals, from the relationships you crave to have, or from feeling completely comfortable and confident in your skin isn't as complicated as you think. It's self-doubt that is sabotaging your confidence. Self-doubt manifests itself at different times of day and in different ways for different people ... in this episode we cover all the ways it peeps its ugly head and discuss how to make positive and empowering changes. Learning how to silence self doubt can revolutionize how you feel about yourself and about what is possible for you in life. Learn how to turn down the volume of self-doubt and up the volume of self-belief in this podcast episode, get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/305
Podcast 304 HOW TO BE OKAY WITH THE RISK OF PEOPLE NOT LIKING YOU In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about:
How to be okay with the risk of people not liking you Some ways to dive into taking the risk of being yourself The most freeing question to ask yourself
SPONSORSHIP: This episode is brought to you today by my FREE micro-course, the Quick Confidence Boost.
That little voice inside that's telling you-you're not enough? It's lying. It's mean. It's a bully. And it's keeping you from the life God created you to live. 🏻 I say "no more!" My self-bully used to shame me. It kept me small, scared and in a state of self-sabotage. 🏼♀️ Then I got tired of it, and I learned how to stand up to the bully. 🏻 I'll teach you the step-by-step process to start doing the same thing.
Join my FREE micro-course, a 7-day confidence coaching course, and you feel changes in your internal self-talk with these quick, 3-minute FREE coaching videos. 🏼♀️🏻
I spent too many years of my life silenced by self-doubt. I will do anything in my power to help free other women from having to suffer any longer. You were created to shine light into this world, but to shine brightly we've gotta get rid of the bully that's keeping you from living muted. Start the FREE micro-course today 🏻 at www.trishblackwell.com/quickconfidenceboost REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
Almckinney
I was looking up podcasts that I could relate to and I stumbled upon Trish Blackwell's podcasts. Let me tell you how awesome she is. I can relate pretty much to a T with everything she talks about. She has a way with her words and putting analogies together to help people understand what she's trying to say the first podcast I listened to brought me into tears because I could relate so well with an email she read that a listener sent in. I feel like God dirtied me to listen to her podcasts to help me with changing my ways of thinking and my mindset. I definitely recommend listening to Trish's podcasts if you struggle with low self-esteem and body image. HOW TO BE OKAY WITH THE RISK OF PEOPLE NOT LIKING YOU Some things to know: The Rule of 50/50. Some people will like you, some won't. This isn't about you, it is about social statistics. Spend Your Emotional Energy on Your Inner Circle Focus more on the people who like you than the people who don't. They are the ones who matter. Embrace being a risk-taker. Anything in life that matters comes with risk. Position your self-view as adventurous. Listen to What You Really Want and Stop Creating Stories that Aren't Happening. Want to order pizza? Do it. You don't need to explain yourself to anyone. Everyone Just Wants to Be Part Of People aren't judging you as fiercely as you think they are. They are really actually more worried about you liking them than they are worried about what they think of you. People are Drawn to Authenticity Remember those people who are wild, themselves and totally inspiring, and remember thinking, gosh, I wish I could be like that? Well, you can be. It's simple, and it's the secret to true confidence ... not only will you free you but you will inspire others as you do. SO, TAKE THE RISK, WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO LOSE? If not being a risk-taker hasn't gotten you where you want to be, or gotten you the level of happiness or confidence you crave, then what do you have to lose by being a little more risky?
I was a rule-follower my whole life, and then I decided to do things differently. Because, if we want to see or experience change, then we need to do something to change what we are doing or feeling.
For me, a pivotal decision and shift happened by wrapping my mind and heart around the concepts of enthusiasm and adventure. I want a lifestyle of adventure - I want to make life a terrific adventure, and so I have to choose daily to be less serious, more risky and to have more fun. THE MOST FREEING QUESTION TO ASK YOURSELF What's the worst case scenario? LISTENER OF THE EPISODE: Hi!
Podcast 303 10 WAYS TO HAVE BETTER FRIENDSHIPS THAT MATTER In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about:
The relationship between relationships and confidence 10 ways to have better friendships that matter 3 surprising thing I learned about friendship in the past year
SPONSORSHIP This podcast is sponsored today by my online membership, The College of Confidence, the one-stop membership site for increasing confidence. Enrollment and access has been closed for months, but we are now opening the doors and inviting you to join us for the most affordable and engaging coaching services around. Join us for as low as $20 and get the coaching you need to equip you with confidence as you pursue your calling. Find out more and get started at www.collegeofconfidence.com
The College of Confidence is the essential resource for anyone at any stage of personal confidence growth. If you're still figuring out how to silence self-doubt or like the reflection you see in the mirror, this is the place for you. Or, if you're already pretty self-assured are just looking for ways to chase your dreams with more courage and gusto, then The College of Confidence can help you get to the next level.
With our extensive course library, monthly trainings, live coaching calls and exclusive ask-anything forum, you get the more affordable and accessible coaching support available online. The College of Confidence is a supportive, active community to help you along the way, with feedback, encouragement and advice. Memberships are available, specializing in self-confidence, social confidence and professional confidence and start at the affordable price of just twenty dollars.
It the perfect place to be for anyone looking to be free from the bondage of self-doubt or self-sabotage. It is the place where we coach you to step confidently into the calling that God created you to live out. Check it out and join us today at www.collegeofconfidence.com
And of course, y'all know I love me some Beautycounter. If you're into clean eating and tidying up your life, then adding clean beauty is going to be your jam. Go shop and see why I love it so much at beautycounter.com/trishblackwell REVIEW OF THE WEEK: haileyes
I started listening to your podcast. And since you every day on my way to and from work! I am backtracking on your episodes and trying to catch up! But I also don’t want to catch up because you’re so amazing! You have seriously CHANGED my life. I can relate to a lot of it is! You have helped me overcome my eating disorder. Yes. I can’t believe it myself after all these years trying to get help, if I only know that all I had to do was listen to your podcast. Not only that I’m an entrepreneur and started my own business and you give me all the tools I need to succeed. I could go on anon, I’m so grateful for you and this podcast. It changed my life. I recommend you to everyone.
THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN RELATIONSHIPS AND CONFIDENCE We are wired for connection.
We were created to contribute.
We feel oxytocin when we are in agreement with others.
Those feel good feelings translate to our own internal dialogue and give us a natural confidence boost as a result. 10 WAYS TO HAVE BETTER FRIENDSHIPS THAT MATTER
Prioritize connecting with others.
Practice being vulnerable.
Put communication high in your value system
Pour out kindness in small ways
Pass on judgements, grudges, gossip and criticism
Be the first person to say hi, to invite, to reach out, to follow up
Be yourself (and don't worry about being nerdy or awkward)
Be a good listener and remember what matters
Be honest and open about who you are, what you believe and what you care about
Be generous with your encouragement and compliments.
FOUR SURPRISING THINGS I LEARNED ABOUT FRIENDSHIP IN THE PAST YEAR
I need intentional, undistracted social time as much as I need undistracted, prioritized work or business time.
Podcast 302 THE A-Z GUIDE FOR CONFIDENCE In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we are talking about:
The importance of fundamentals in your personal growth How to not feel "behind" in your confidence journey 26 ways to have more confidence
SPONSORSHIP This podcast is sponsored today by my online membership, The College of Confidence, the one-stop membership site for increasing confidence. Enrollment and access has been closed for months, but we are now opening the doors and inviting you to join us for the most affordable and engaging coaching services around. Join us for as low as $20 and get the coaching you need to equip you with confidence as you pursue your calling. Find out more and get started at www.collegeofconfidence.com
The College of Confidence is the essential resource for anyone at any stage of personal confidence growth.
If you're still figuring out how to silence self-doubt or like the reflection you see in the mirror, this is the place for you. Or, if you're already pretty self-assured are just looking for ways to chase your dreams with more courage and gusto, then The College of Confidence can help you get to the next level.
With our extensive course library, monthly training, live coaching calls and exclusive ask-anything forum, you get the more affordable and accessible coaching support available online. The College of Confidence is a supportive, active community to help you along the way, with feedback, encouragement and advice. Memberships are available, specializing in self-confidence, social confidence and professional confidence and start at the affordable price of just twenty dollars.
It the perfect place to be for anyone looking to be free from the bondage of self-doubt or self-sabotage. It is the place where we coach you to step confidently into the calling that God created you to live out. Check it out and join us today at www.collegeofconfidence.com
And of course, y'all know I love me some Beautycounter. If you're into clean eating and tidying up your life, then adding clean beauty is going to be your jam. Go shop and see why I love it so much at beautycounter.com/trishblackwell REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Meghan1978
THE A-Z OF CONFIDENCE A Always be the first to smile. B Breathe with intention, especially when you feel anxious or nervous. C Cultivate courage with every opportunity that presents itself. D Detox comparison of all types from your life. E Explore life as if it were an adventure. F Focus on love, always. G Ground yourself in gratitude. H Help others. I Invest in your personal growth. J Joke around more. K Keep your mind focused on what matters. L Let go of who you think you should be and be who you are. M Make time for self-care as a priority. N Never compare yourself. Not to others. Not to expectations. Not to your past. Not to where you think you should be. Comparison steals your joy and your ability to be in the present, and it is impossible to be confident unless you are walking in the moment. O Organize your priorities to prevent overwhelm or feeling "behind" P Permit yourself to be yourself, you have permission from God to be so, so why would you ever doubt it Q Question the status quo. R Reenergize and recharge yourself with daily self care and self-kindness. S Stand tall, smile broadly, speak loudly. T Take yourself less seriously than you do. U Understand that you are made with purpose, and to for fill that purpose and make a difference in this world, you need to choose to show up with confidence encourage every day. It is a choice to show up, not something that will come naturally, rather it is something that is done intentionally. V Vulnerability is your greatest guide to authenticity, and authenticity leads to to the confidence flow. W Walk into a room with the intention of making it better because of your loving and encouraging presence. X X is a mark a confident person uses to create boundaries, removing business and over commitment from their ...
Podcast #301: 33 PRACTICAL WAYS TO STOP WORRYING ABOUT WHAT PEOPLE THINK OF YOU In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we are talking about:
How I've struggled with worrying what people think about me in my past (and how I've learned to move past it) Sign to help you know if you struggle with this 33 practical ways to stop worrying about what people think of you
SPONSORSHIP This podcast is sponsored today by my online membership, The College of Confidence, the one-stop membership site for increasing confidence. Enrollment and access has been closed for months, but we are now opening the doors and inviting you to join us for the most affordable and engaging coaching services around. Join us for as low as $20 and get the coaching you need to equip you with confidence as you pursue your calling. Find out more and get started at www.collegeofconfidence.com
And of course, y'all know I love me some Beautycounter. If you're into clean eating and tidying up your life, then adding clean beauty is going to be your jam. Go shop and see why I love it so much at beautycounter.com/trishblackwell REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Mrs. ZQD
I started listening to Trish's podcast after going through a really tough time in my life, mentally. Trish's podcast along with her book have allowed me to work through that in a possible way. I love the different tips, and "homework" she gives you. This par helps the most because you get to journal about your feelings and really think about what you really do want in life. I also LOVE how it is all connected to God. Trish makes you feel comfortable and she doesn't make you feel alone, she is in this with you! I definitely recommend giving it a listen, you won't regret it! HOW I HAVE STRUGGLED WITH THIS IN MY PAST
The first time I heard "I beat Trish Blackwell" in the locker room - I realized people talked about me behind my back I wanted people to think I was special - a superstar in swimming; I wanted to be someone people talked about positively Friendships; being an elite athlete, and also homeschooled made me different, I was desperate to fit in and have people like me so I turned into a huge people pleaser. High school; I was the poorest kid in a prestigious boarding school. I relied on kindness and my social leadership skills to be a "social floater" and it worked - everyone "liked" me, but it all felt superficial and I spent enormous amounts of energy managing these relationships, and more importantly, my image. College; wanting to be cool and to be the perfect balance of a Division I student-athlete sorority perfect student with both party friends and Christian friends. Scholarship pressure; fear of not deserving it, impostor syndrome, pressure to perform, worry that people would think I didn't deserve it. Adulthood; dating the wrong men because I wanted status (models, pro athletes), and compromising my values in the process. Partying and acting out someone I wasn't in order to have the respect of cool adults - I wanted the status and image that I was carefree and successful. Body Image; thinking that if I had a perfect body - in high school, college and also as a trainer in my career - that then people would think higher of me or have more respect for me, and for the times (which was most of the time) when I felt like I failed living up to that image, I want to hide from the world and felt like a failure. Hair; my natural insecurity with hair (stemming from a moment I was too sensitive with something my mom said) - fear that I am not pretty and that people are judging me by my hair. Business and my first book / building my brand; putting yourself out vulnerably is terrifying, but in order to help people and serve the audience I felt God was calling me to serve, I knew I had to get over my fear of what people where going to think. I had to focus on who I was helping and put blinders on to the rest. Comparison in general - we can always find people who are "doing better...
Podcast #300 HOW TO FIND WINS IN YOUR CONFIDENCE GROWTH In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
The secret to learning how to really believe that you are doing better than you think you are and how to celebrate progress, not perfection as you pursue excellence in your life How taking more risks leads to winning more Special Milestone Celebration FREE Coaching Session Announcement!
REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Rebecca9496, "My Favorite Podcast!"
I have been a faithful listener for a while now, I originally discovered Trish on 104.7 The Fish and immediately looked up the podcast. I have found so much encouragement, insight, inspiration and just love this podcast so much. I highly recommend it to anyone who is looking for not only a life coach but someone that they would totally go and grab a coffee or a glass of wine with. Trish has helped me to uncover so many things in my own life, change my perspective on things, and given me inspiration to step outside of my comfort zone when it comes to social confidence. Thank you, Trish, for providing such outstanding content, for consistency showing up for us, and just for being you. SPONSORSHIP NOTES: This podcast is sponsored today by my online membership, The College of Confidence, the one-stop membership site for increasing confidence. Enrollment and access have been closed for months, but we are now opening the doors and inviting you to join us for the most affordable and engaging coaching services around. Join us for as low as $20 and get the coaching you need to equip you with confidence as you pursue your calling. Find out more and get started at www.collegeofconfidence.com
This podcast is sponsored in part by my partnership with Beautycounter. Beautycounter has single-handedly transformed my relationship with my skin, with beauty and with my confidence in my self-care routine. More than that, Beautycounter is a company that puts health first and is a company who is making waves in the US and Canada at demanding that other companies do the same. Shop for your own Beautycounter and become a customer of mine (and yes, I love to love on my customers, so you'll hear from me with overwhelming thanks!) at www.beautycounter.com/trishblackwell HOW TO FIND WINS You're happier and more successful than you might think. Happiness is a state of mind, not a state of conditions.
Winning is a mindset shift.
Happiness is not far away - but available right now.
Believe that you are already winning.
Celebrate progress.
Proclaim who you want to be - I'm a winner, I'm happy, I'm an action-taker, etc.
Practice giving yourself credit for doing better than you think you are .... practice this by looking for champagne moments! LOOK FOR CHAMPAGNE MOMENTS Find them in all areas of your life.
Champagne is a mental status, a mindset of excellence and optimism.
507 reviews, we are celebrating our 300th episode! (Let's go for 1K reviews!)
Almost 2 million downloads. Listener champagne moments: Eating disorders healed
Major speaking gigs landed
Businesses started
Debt cleared and financial freedom reached
Books are written
Podcasts launched
Marriages rebuilt
Toxic thoughts detoxed
Marathons run
Self-Kindness and self-forgiveness learned
New hobbies explored
Friendships improved
Career paths decided
Charities launched
Anxiety and overwhelm quelled
Oh, and, as a community, just in the past month, we forged together to give $2,575 to Faith Aid and helped 10+ impoverished children in Africa. Because of your generosity and your willingness to take action, this podcast community is changing the world, in ways we never imagined we would. BE A FRIEND TO YOURSELF Speak words of life
Know your value ($50 bill example)
Train your brain and make it a priority - not a nice-to-do, but a -must-do
Make self care a priority
Don't compare
Show up for yourself
Take your wins and champagne moments TAKE MORE RISKS Sitting and wishing does no one any good
10 THINGS TO MAKE THIS YEAR THE BEST YEAR YET PODCAST #299 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
10 things you can do to make this year your best year yet What I'm doing this year that's different than I've ever done before A sneak peak of what to expect for our celebration of the 300 episode mark!
REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Shelby.Eichstat
BEST LIFE-CHANGING PODCAST I HAVE EVER LISTENED TO! SPONSORSHIP NOTE: This podcast is sponsored in part by my partnership with Beautycounter. Beautycounter has single-handedly transformed my relationship with my skin, with beauty and with my confidence in my self-care routine. More than that, Beautycounter is a company that puts health first and is a company who is making waves in the US and Canada at demanding that other companies do the same. Shop for your own Beautycounter and become a customer of mine (and yes, I love to love on my customers, so you'll hear from me with overwhelming thanks!) at www.beautycounter.com/trishblackwell 10 THINGS TO MAKE THIS YEAR THE BEST YEAR YET: 1. Get a Focus Word -Word of the year
-Feeling of the year
-The power of power statements and written truths 2.Get a Goal -A goal is a dream that has a commitment - it is a dream being chased
-Know what you want, and what you don't want
-Dare to share your goal 3.Get a Plan -Take your goal and make it manageable
-Set up champagne moment celebrations
-Write the plan out and create a system 4.Get Grateful -Make gratitude a daily practice
-Review last year with gratitude lens
-Recognize that gratitude separates you from the past you 5.Get Progress-Obsessed -Progress, not perfection
-Frees you from overthinking, just gets you to take action
-Keeps you in your lane, celebrating baby steps and champagne moments 6.Get Boundaries -Social time, work time, fitness time, family time, admin / life time
-Seasons of focus throughout the year
-Start saying yes to what you want and no to what you don't 7.Get Connected -Better relationships, better conversations
-Deeper rooted into your community
-More present with your family 8. Get Disconnected -Be mindful of technology distractions
-Turn off the TV and social media at specific times
-Detox the comparison feeding machine 9.Get a Coach -Coaches help you make yourself value, give you radical follow-through
-You aren't on your own
-Everyone needs strategy, guidance and encouragement. You can't afford to not get a coach! 10.Get in a Mastermind -We become who we surround ourselves with
-Personal growth and dream chasing doesn't have to feel so lonely
-The College of Confidence is the perfect place to start! WHAT I'M DOING DIFFERENTLY THIS YEAR I'm slowing down - stressing less, sleeping more, simply being present.
I'm challenging my mindset limitations.
I'm praying through the concept of "being enough" and "being loved."
I'm deciding to be different than the world around me. ANNOUNCEMENTS: Annual Guidebook! Get your growth with a guide and take some of the guesswork out of it for yourself, for FREE! Download your copy of the 2019 Guidebook at www.trishblackwell.com/guidebook DRUM ROLL.....NEXT WEEK! Join me for a live workshop on Facebook, How to Silence Self-Doubt 2019!
Save your spot for FREE at www.trishblackwell.com/silenceselfdoubt
College of Confidence!
Our doors are open again!!! Go to www.collegeofconfidence.com and enroll today! LISTENER OF THE EPISODE Thanks for the motivational email I am at a stagnant stage of my life where I feel whatever I do is to no avail. I have tried to have a business but due to lack of financing it was never possible as I am writing I am depressed because I feel like my life is destined for failure I am kind help people but no one seem to want to help me even my husband will help but if things don’t work out he will remind you of how you used his money and wasted it!
I am at a roadblock I would like to have my own clothing shop since I love seeing people look good and not only a c...
HOW TO SET GOALS SUCCESSFULLY FOR THE NEW YEAR PODCAST #298 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
Successful goal setting How to follow through with more consistency than ever before What to do to make sure you succeed this year
SPONSORSHIP NOTE: This podcast is sponsored in part by my partnership with Beautycounter. Beautycounter has single-handedly transformed my relationship with my skin, with beauty and with my confidence in my self-care routine. More than that, Beautycounter is a company that puts health first and is a company who is making waves in the US and Canada at demanding that other companies do the same. Shop for your own Beautycounter and become a customer of mine (and yes, I love to love on my customers, so you'll hear from me with overwhelming thanks!) at www.beautycounter.com/trishblackwell REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Dani528<3 Inspirational 5Stars!
Tris is so uplifting and encouraging! It is evident that she cares about her listeners and empowering other women. I love listening to her podcasts on my commute on the way to work or school in the morning. It works to set a positive vibe for the day to come. Thanks for all of your dedication and advice Trish! BE SINGULARLY FOCUSED Pick one goal that matters the most to you. Write it down every day. Bonus - You can think about one major goal for every area of your life. How to not get overwhelmed - Set up accountability
Simply and don't overcommit
Create a schedule, break it down into bites
Identify how PROGRESS makes you feel - and that progress is happiness. Personally - I love a word of the year.
I love doing my Annual Guidebook.
I love setting categories.
I love creating an image for myself to see.
I love having a main goal for each area of my life.
I love having family specific and travel goals.
I love and hyper focus on my experience goal - my soul goal. SEE YOURSELF AS YOU WANT TO BE + DON'T OVERTHINK IT! -Pull-up story
-One singular goal - that made me uncomfortable
-Wrote it down
Thinking affects our physical performance by 50%
Use descriptive words that move you and change you - that speak to the person you are becoming
Speak to those you love as the person you see them becoming too - practice this on others as you do on yourself STEP OUT OF THE SHADOWS YOU HAVE PUT YOURSELF IN What do you need to change about yourself this year?
What is non-negotiable?
What have you continually used as an excuse that needs to go?
Why aren't you allowing yourself to grow?
I was scared for years - I stayed in my disorder because I didn't know what life would be like without it.
I had fear over not knowing what to do next - but remember, God always brings the teacher when you are ready.
You are not alone. You do not have to figure this, life or your next step out alone or on your own.
You are not defined by how many times you haven't succeeded. ANNOUNCEMENT: Annual Guidebook! Get your growth with a guide and take some of the guesswork out of it for yourself, for FREE! Download your copy of the 2019 Guidebook at www.trishblackwell.com/guidebook LISTENER OF THE EPISODE: Cindy Wasmundt
Dear Ms. Blackwell,
I’ve just found your podcasts and I believe you creating these are an answer to my prayers. There is so much I could say, but I won’t at this time.
OUR FATHER IN HEAVEN ANSWERS OUR PRAYERS!!!!
I plan to continue listening.
I was married for 25 years and the majority of it was a nightmare. Remarried now for 3.5 years. JESUS IS PERFECT AND HE HAS BLESSED ME IN EVERY AREA OF MY LIFE!!!
I’m 54 years of age. I am sharing your podcasts.
THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR PODCASTS, and I will add you to my Prayer List.
Love,
Cindy
HOW TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN THIS WORLD WHEN YOU DON'T FEEL READY PODCAST #297 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about:
How to make a difference, even when you aren't sure how your little will help The secret to not being overwhelmed when you are trying to help others Where to start when you have a dream to make a difference
SPONSORSHIP NOTE: This podcast is sponsored in part by my partnership with Beautycounter. Beautycounter has single-handedly transformed my relationship with my skin, with beauty and with my confidence in my self-care routine. More than that, Beautycounter is a company that puts health first and is a company who is making waves in the US and Canada at demanding that other companies do the same. Shop for your own Beautycounter and become a customer of mine (and yes, I love to love on my customers, so you'll hear from me with overwhelming thanks!) at www.beautycounter.com/trishblackwell REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Lottie6789753
I am a new listener, and Trish has already helped me so much. My favorite podcast episode so far is 293, since I have listened to it I have been trying to replace my negative thoughts with positive thoughts. Thank you so much Trish!
What is episode #293? An episode on GRATITUDE. "Gratitude: The Gateway to the Good Life." You can listen at www.trishblackwell.com/293
We have a special guest, my good friend Lauren Fraher, on today's show, and Lauren will wow you with her and her husbands' story on how they started to change the world, one child at a time. FAITH AID: MOVE MOUNTAINS www.faithbasedaid.org
No child should die from treatable conditions. QUESTIONS ANSWERED BY LAUREN: 1). How did the idea of FaithAid get started? How did you and your husband decide that you could make a difference, that you could be part of moving the mountain of unnecessary child mortality on a different CONTINENT? Tell us more about The Under Five Initiative and about how your belief that all children deserve a chance at life motivates you.
2). Now, real life questions. How did you not feel overwhelmed? Did you all ever feel less than or underprepared because of your age or because of where you lived? How do you stay focused on one child at a time when you know you have millions to help? How the heck do you time manage running a non-profit on another side of the world while raising three kids three and under?
3). I love the statement you make on your website: "Because behind every suffering child is a family praying for a miracle." You see these families yourself, you interact with them, you have their photos on your phone, intermixed between your own children's photos. .... could you share how your process of selecting who to work with and how to fundraise works for Faith Aid? How can someone give and/or get involved?
4). Faith Aid is such a shining light of an example that we all can do so much more - that every though we can each find 1000x reasons why it might not work, why we aren't ready to show up for our calling, why we are afraid to try or to put ourselves out there, why we short-sell the difference we can make by making a difference in the life of even just one person ..... what advice / encouragement could you offer to someone listening who knows God has put something on their heart to do in this world, but who don't know (1) where to start (2) how to have the confidence that they really can make a difference and (3) how to really rest in the truth that God doesn't call the qualified, he qualifies the called? ABOUT LAUREN: Lauren Fraher is mom to three wonderful kids. She studied English at Creighton University where she met her husband, Jacob. Together, they run Faith Aid a nonprofit that provides access to life saving medical treatment for impoverished Kenyan children. GET INVOLVED: Between now, 12/18 and 12/31, I will be personally matching all listener donations to FaithAid up to $1,000. If you have it on your heart to give,
HOW TO STOP STRESSING YOURSELF OUT WHEN LIFE IS BUSY PODCAST #296 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about:
Stress and how to reduce it in your life How to be rebellious - in the good girl kind of way that will make you healthier and happier Deciding who will have the louder voice in your life: you or stress
SPONSORSHIP: This podcast is brought to you by my FREE online confidence course, Quick Confidence Boost, the perfect mindset reset for you to close out 2018 with as you prep your confident mind for all that is to come in 2019. Get the free coaching course now at www.trishblackwell.com/quickconfidenceboost
It is also sponsored by my partnership with Beautycounter; Beautycounter is a beautiful B-Corp company committed to getting safer products in the hands of everyone. If you are passionate about your health and about wellness, but aren't using Beautycounter products yet, then you're missing a huge part of the health equation - that is, making sure that the products you use aren't filled with harmful ingredients. Shop for your first Beautycounter at www.beautycounter.com/trishblackwell REVIEW OF THE WEEK: eeyore4evr
LOVE this podcast. I found it by searching podcasts on the app and I'm so glad I did. Trish is inspiring, confidence-boosting, and is that encouraging coach everyone needs to propel them to action towards achieving their goals. I feel so inspired every time I listen to an episode! STRESS + HOW TO REDUCE IT Reference #257, Stress Podcast, listen to it in full to supplement today's show at www.trishblackwell.com/257
Overwhelm happens when we succumb to a stress overload.
Decide to live "stress free"
If there was one thing to do to improve your health in 2019 it would be to reduce stress completely from your life.
For me, detoxing stress from my life is an act of surrender.
I have to protect that surrender - it is constantly challenged (by my mom, by old thinking, by the pressures of society, etc.) HOW TO BE REBELLIOUS - IN THE GOOD WAY DECIDE TO GO UPSTREAM
-Understand that by saying no to stress, you are going against what's normal
-What to expect when you go against the flow (resistance, second guessing, leadership)
-Really lock in on what matters to you and on what you want from life
-What one area of your life isn't flowing WHO WILL HAVE THE LOUDER VOICE IN YOUR LIFE Love or Fear? LISTENER OF THE WEEK: Hey Trish,
I just wanted to take 5mins out of my day to touch base with you. I have just read this wonderful email and it really got me thinking - as it really hit home with me.
I am 25 years old, and I have spent 24 years of my life feeling like I wasn't enough - hearing those exact things that society constantly speaks to us, "you're not smart enough, you're not skinny enough, you're not pretty enough, you're not achieving enough". As you say, we hear things like this so consistently that it's a huge battle to break the cycle and realise that there is actually a whole different way of living your life.
This year has been a game changer for me, 1 random post on Facebook began a massive change in my life. That post was either from you or about you - one way or another it lead to me finding your podcast and downloading every episode available on iTunes and starting from the very beginning. You have honestly opened my mind not only to a new way of thinking, but also made me realize that there is a whole other world that I can choose to live my life in - a world that is educating, positive and uplifting and full of great and special people, like those involved in your community.
There is no way to describe the changes you have made to the life of a fairly average 25 year old girl living at the bottom of New Zealand. It's also hard to know how to thank someone who has been so monumental and pivotal in your life. But I wanted you to know, and I just wanted to THANK YOU and hope you can understand that you have turned on the sun for me in a life that was doomed to be...
THE MOST ASKED QUESTIONS ABOUT CONFIDENCE PODCAST #295 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about:
The most frequently asked questions about confidence in general The questions I am most often asked as a confidence coach about my own confidence How to have more confidence more consistently
SPONSORSHIP NOTE: This podcast is brought to you by my FREE online confidence course, Quick Confidence Boost, the perfect mindset reset for you to close out 2018 with as you prep your confident mind for all that is to come in 2019. Get the free coaching course now at www.trishblackwell.com/quickconfidenceboost REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Elizabeth727
I'm a fairly new listener ... but I"m going through some rough times in my life and this podcast always provides a positive light and create advice, positive and just so much more! Will definitely be continuing to listen! Update - I've not been listening to Trish for over a year! She is one outs a few podcasts that I listen to regularly. She never fails to provide amazing value and messages that are so relatable and applicable to my life! Trish teaches us how to apply her message and love our best lives! So thankful for you Trish! THE 5 THINGS PEOPLE WANT TO KNOW ABOUT CONFIDENCE
Does being confident mean that you never felt self-doubt? Do you have to be extraverted to be confident? How do you become more confident? How long does it take to create real change with your confidence? What's the biggest threat to confidence? (self-bullying + comparison)
THE 5 THINGS I AM MOST ASKED ABOUT MY CONFIDENCE AS A CONFIDENCE COACH
What do I do when I am feeling insecure, anxious or filled with self-doubt? How do you and your husband communicate so well together? What does my day look like / how do I manage my time? How did I learn to stop beating myself up and really let go of perfectionism? How do I convince myself that enough is enough when, by nature, I am programmed to do more, more, more?
LISTENER OF THE WEEK: Hi Trish,
I hope all is well! I am a big fan of yours and hoping you can give me some advice. I admire the way you created your own business doing what you love to do (help others through podcasting, writing, creating confidence programs, etc.). I also enjoy self-help and recently started my own blog. I'm at a difficult point in my career as a teacher and often question whether or not teaching is what I want to do. Sometimes I think about the idea of creating my own business blogging and creating self-help material. I'm scared that my business wouldn't be successful, especially since I have very few blog followers right now. How did you get to where you are now? How did you make the choice to leave the career field you were in before you started your own business? How do I know if I should leave what I know and used to love to try something I might like? Please let me know if you have a podcast episode about this already and I'll definitely check it out. :)
Thanks, Kaitlin
HOW TO FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT PODCAST #294 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:
How to fake it till you make it The difference between bad faking it and good faking it How to step into being the person you've always wanted to be
With special guest, someone who has made a significant difference in my own personal life:
Caroline Lotinga, Client Strategy Director, MOI Global REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Cara Chavez
Trish done a wonderful job with bringing real life issues to the table. Being a person who really has negative thinking about herself, especially coming into adulthood, Trish has and continues to help me process the daily struggles. She has helped me change my perspective and is teaching me to give myself permission not FORGIVE myself and those around me. I am still on the "struggle bus" but with the help of this podcast, I am slowly getting off that bus!! Go me! INTERVIEW WITH CAROLINE - TAKEAWAYS: Decide who you want to be, and then have the courage to be that person.
When you step into confidence and into your best self, not everyone will like it - that is the guidance you need to know who to keep in your life and who to let phase out.
Look good, feel good, be good.
Speak up and act your way into confidence. ANNOUNCEMENTS: This podcast is sponsored in part today by my upcoming Momboss Mastermind group launching in 2019. If you are a mom and you are an entrepreneur, and you want to double your income and double your free time in 2019 so that you can do more of what makes you happy, then this group is for you. Apply today, applications are closing soon and I don't want you to miss out. Go to www.trishblackwell.com/mastermind for more details! LISTENER OF THE WEEK: Marlisa Holester
Hey Trish!! Thank you so much for all your amazing podcasts! I have been a faithful listener of yours for several years now and am so incredibly encouraged and motivated to keep growing. You are one of the most consistent voices of truth in my life and have helped me overcome/continue to work through disordered eating habits, abusive relationships, and self-sabotage as a result of hating myself. I have come a loooong way over the past 2 years but still have such a long way to go. I’m excited to see how God will continue to grow and heal me though. One really exciting thing I absolutely had to tell you about was me and my husband’s newest venture we just finished. In March of this year we set out to hike the entire Appalachian Trail from Georgia to Maine and have just completed it on the October 14th. What a crazy hard but amazing adventure it was and it was so special to do it together with my husband who is the best man in the world and has been such a strong rock to me through everything. We celebrated our 5 year anniversary out there and are so blessed to have such a happy beautiful relationship and to also be able to complete this epic hiking journey. I want to thank you though for your consistent truth you speak over us listeners on taking action, doing hard things, and taking control of our own success and happiness! I did such a 180 turn in my thinking once I started listening and I just want to give you some of the credit for me completing this hike and say a big THANK YOU to you for all you invested in my life through your podcasts. I had down days sometimes on the trail and if I needed a little encouragement, I popped my earbuds in and turned my Trish podcast on! it worked! Thank you for all the time you put in each week to deliver us listeners an amazing podcast and for faithfully showing up and using your gifts and your stories to bring truth and love to the world! You truly are making a beautiful difference in so many lives!️ -Marlisa
P.S. I know you have a full life and not a lot of extra time in your day but in case you want to check it out here is my blog on our Appalachian Trail thru hike... mindoverblazes.com
GRATITUDE: THE GATEWAY TO THE GOOD LIFE PODCAST #293 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, as we celebrate Thanksgiving this week in the United States, we're talking about:
What is the good life anyways, and how can gratitude really get us it? My gateway moments, my life-altering crossroad moments that have come from gratitude shifts. The practice ways in which I infuse gratitude into my life on a daily basis.
SPONSORSHIP: This podcast is sponsored in part today by my upcoming Momboss Mastermind group launching in 2019. If you are a mom and you are an entrepreneur, and you want to double your income and double your free time in 2019 so that you can do more of what makes you happy, then this group is for you. Apply today, applications are closing soon and I don't want you to miss out. Go to www.trishblackwell.com/mastermind for more details!
It is also sponsored by my partnership with Beautycounter; Beautycounter is a beautiful B-Corp company committed to getting safer products in the hands of everyone. If you are passionate about your health and about wellness, but aren't using Beautycounter products yet, then you're missing a huge part of the health equation - that is, making sure that the products you use aren't filled with harmful ingredients. Shop for your first Beautycounter at www.beautycounter.com/trishblackwell REVIEW OF THE WEEK: DarcaJean (Darcy), 5 Stars.
If you're trying to be a better person, this is what you need to listen to. She's real and honest, it's refreshing. WHAT IS THE GOOD LIFE? What does it mean to you?
What does it mean to me?
To me, the good life is a life of being fully alive.
What does fully alive mean?
Descriptions that resonate with me are: present, fully engaged, filled with life, overflowing with love, beating with purpose, connected in relationship, growth-oriented, adventurous, courageous, difference-making, warm and wonderful.
Equally, I need to know what the good life isn't:
It isn't defined my money. It doesn't include a weight, stress, achievement, anxiety, comparison, overwhelm or busyness. MY GATEWAY MOMENTS FROM GRATITUDE -Being thankful for my own body - gateway to body confidence and eating disorder healing
-Being thankful for the quirks of my family - gateway to forgiveness
-Being thankful for my weaknesses - gateway to humility and daily reliance on God, also, to taking the pressure off myself
-Being thankful for closed doors - gateway to truth, walking in faith, and expecting miracles
-Being thankful for my broken heart - gateway to getting to know who I am, what I deserve, and what I wanted in a husband
-Being thankful for my worst fear coming true - gateway to appreciating life, for not taking anything for granted, for empathy, for being limitless
-Being thankful for my eating disorder and mental illness - gateway to surrender, to understanding the psychology of belonging and acceptance
-Being thankful for my son's health issues - gateway to savoring life, to celebrating the gift of modern medicine, to the preciousness of breath
-Being thankful for my anxiety issues - gateway to savoring peace and presence and what really matters in life
-Being thankful for my loneliness and years of feeling misunderstood / not thinking I had a soulmate - gateway to perfect timing to meet Brandon
-Being thankful for my weird passion for language and words - gateway to God's calling for me to use words to help people learn how to think better and to learn how to manipulate and use their words HOW TO INFUSE GRATITUDE PRACTICES INTO YOUR DAILY LIFE Gratitude Journaling
Thankfulness Pumpkin
Gratitude on the Go
Worship music
Intentional compliments, writing reviews, etc.
Gratitude chats at night
Family expressions of appreciation and thanks LISTENER OF THE EPISODE: Mollie Miller
Thank you for responding. I’m not entirely sure if you will read this or if it’s just an automated response. I am hoping for the former, the best case scenario :)
Your weakness is a good thing, really. God does miraculous things with our weaknesses, turning our struggles into strength, our messages into our message. Catch this heart-changing interview with Mike Foster and be inspired about what God is going to do with your weakness. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/292
Learn how to speak up, make your voice heard and have confidence behind what you think and what you belief ... this all comes when you learn to start trusting your voice and the place you have in the world. Once you leverage your voice with confidence it is then that you can create and sustain positive changes in your life. If you want to have more of a voice in this world and if you want to really change something in your life or in the world around you, this episode is for you! Get the full show notes at > www.trishblackwell.com/291
PODCAST #290 SELF-CONFIDENCE SECRETS I WANT MY DAUGHTER TO KNOW
In this episode of #TheConfidnecePodcast we're chatting about:
The self-confidence secrets that a confidence coach wants to be sure she is passing down to her daughter An inside look to how I am raising my daughter to learn and master these secrets How to master some of these secrets for yourself, no matter your current age
This podcast is sponsored in part today by my newest program, The Donut Diet. It’s time to stand up to the bully of shame around food and around your body in your life and to taste the sweetness that life (and food) have to offer! The Donut Diet is only available for a few weeks, so if you are ready to be done with emotional eating, then get started now at www.thedonutdiet.com
It is also sponsored by my partnership with Beuatycounter; Beautycounter is a beautiful B-Corp company committed to getting safer products in the hands of everyone. If you are passionate about your health and about wellness, but aren't using Beautycounter products yet, then you're missing a huge part of the health equation - that is, making sure that the products you use aren't filled with harmful ingredients. Shop for your first Beautycounter at www.beautycounter.com/trishblackwell THE SELF-CONFIDENCE SECRETS I WANT MY DAUGHTER TO KNOW Be proud of the space you take up in this world.
Stand tall. Be the first to say hello. Lead with a smile. Don't apologize for who you are. Know that you are here for a reason and pursue that purpose.
Speak up, always.
For yourself. For how you feel. To yourself about how you feel. For others. For what is right. For what you want. For your needs and desires.
Push the limits.
Stretch your beliefs. Always think bigger. Believe in yourself beyond what seems normal. Speak up and always ask for more. Expect the best. Anticipate a terrific adventure. Work hard and be proud of yourself for your committed ethic.
Love people extravagantly.
Be proactively kind Remember that people need your love Recharge your love by plugging into God daily as a source Love does and wins; the answer is always: love everyone, always. To love others you must love yourself.
Shine, baby, shine.
Pursue your interests, unashamedly. Laughter is a gift of yourself to yourself and to the world Have an internal sense of self worth and self-respect Remember that other peoples actions and opinions aren't your responsibility Control what you can control (you) Have clear goals and embrace risk and failure Do one thing every day that scares you Never settle for less than you deserve, but always be grateful for what you have and for doing your best Most people are more insecure than you think: love on them. Build them up.
AN INSIDE LOOK TO HOW I AM PARENTING THESE SECRETS INTO MY DAUGHTER'S LIFE We have conversations around failure.
We are a household that celebrates humility and forgiveness.
We wrote out our family values.
We encourage adventure.
We open up space for a voice to be heard - even our 1-year-olds and our dog's.
We do not tolerate limited thinking - we challenge out of the box thinking.
We lead by example - we do things that scare us and talk about them.
We make all emotions okay to talk about.
We do family gratitude sessions before we pray together.
We talk a lot about the need for love in this world.
We promote acts of kindness and social leadership.
And yes, a three-year-old can catch onto these concepts. It is never too young to start, and never too old to learn these either. HOW TO MASTER THESE SECRETS FOR YOURSELF Pick two of the ones listed that most jump out at you and get obsessed with them.
Practice them.
Write them.
Invite a friend to practice them in their life too.
Keep it simple, and then move on to the next two that resonate with where you are with your growth.
Get a confidence coach. ANNOUNCEMENTS: MOMBOSS MASTERMIND
PODCAST #289: HOW TO BE HAPPY WITH WHERE YOU ARE ON YOUR JOURNEY In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about:
How to stop comparing yourself to where you think you should be Putting yourself in triage for support from being a self-abuser (disguised as "just being hard on yourself" or as "having high expectations" Figuring out what you really want in life and what will fill you with happiness (and how to get it)
This podcast is sponsored in part today by my newest program, The Donut Diet. It’s time to stand up to the bully of shame around food and around your body in your life and to taste the sweetness that life (and food) have to offer! The Donut Diet is only available for a few weeks, so if you are ready to be done with emotional eating, then get started now at www.thedonutdiet.com HOW TO STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO WHERE YOU THINK YOU SHOULD BE
Challenge your preexisting definitions of success Get clarity on what you really want in life Perspective shift to a larger lens Ask yourself what really matters Know that you are enough, right now, today, because God says you are
RACE REPORT FROM THE CHICAGO MARATHON
Guidance goals Victory lap Forward is a pace The mind can do immeasurably more than we think it can No one cares My moment of self-betrayal (of turning my back on my pre-programmed self-abuse)
PUTTING YOURSELF IN TRIAGE FOR SELF-ABUSE
Being a jerk to yourself needs to come to a stop at some point. Does it really serve you? What are you getting from it? (False sense of effort or control?, Blame? Excuses? Pain? Distraction?) "I'm just hard on myself" or "I have high expectations" aren't justifiable anymore if you want to live a happy and fulfilled life of meaning Abuse is never okay - so why it is okay to do to yourself?
FIGURING OUT WHAT YOU WANT IN LIFE - AND GOING AFTER IT
My life shifted when I realized I wanted meaning and happiness more than I wanted applause and praise. That said, I am continually reevaluating my goals with money and my business to stay in alignment with what I know I really want because it is easy to get pulled away and to chase some arbitrary measurement of "success". Success is a feeling; a decision you make for yourself, not a measurement or evaluation given to you by someone else.
SUCCESS ISN'T ALWAYS MEASURABLE Give yourself permission to redefine what success really feels like
What do your best days feel like? What matters to you?
Success for me is often the opposite of what I originally thought it to be.
-It's kicking the status quo.
-It's being unapologetic for my truth and beliefs, for my love of the Lord
-It's being ridiculously me
-It's sitting with a book and laughing with loved ones, being present
-It's finding words to describe my feelings and thoughts
-It's having freedom - time, financial, body, self-expression PRACTICE SEEING YOURSELF AS SUCCESSFUL Give yourself opportunity to be uncomfortable
Keep a champagne moments journal
Expect the best, not to be confused with having high-expectations
Push yourself to believe that life is beautiful, and to live it beautifully ANNOUNCEMENTS: MOMBOSS MASTERMIND My high-level mastermind for motivated mombosses is now open! I am limiting the group to 8 people and it will be an application process only. Applications are now available atwww.trishblackwell.com/mastermind.
The mastermind will include individual and group coaching, online as well as in person, with the goal to help you double your revenue and double your free time at the same time so that you can be both a better, more present mom and a better, more productive entrepreneur. I’m already dreaming about what the retreat weekends are going to look like for us and can’t wait to make this happen – it will be lifestyle changing and business changing! Qualifications: you must have clear revenue business goals, you must have clear lifestyle goals for you and your family,
PODCAST #288 AN UNEXPECTEDLY SIMPLE SOLUTION TO BETTER BODY CONFIDENCE In this podcast we're chatting about:
How to proudly and confidently take up the space that your body takes in this world without apologies, excuses or insecurities. A pyschotherapists take on simplifying the body confidence equation Some suggested next steps for anyone who feels stuck in a tumultuous eating relationship or toxic body image conundrum.
This podcast is sponsored in part today by my newest program, The Donut Diet. It’s time to stand up to the bully of shame around food and around your body in your life and to taste the sweetness that life (and food) have to offer! The Donut Diet is only available for a few weeks, so if you are ready to be done with emotional eating, then get started now at www.thedonutdiet.com PARTNERSHIP WITH BEAUTYCOUNTER You are beautiful, and you are mindful about your health and wellness in so many areas of your life already, right? Like with working out and with what you eat? So, isn't it time that you consider the importance of the ingredients in the products you use for your personal care and cosmetics too? That's why I'm obsessed with Beautycounter; Beautycounter has the strictest standards of safety in the industry and it is a company for good that does good. Get your own Beautycounter products at beautycounter.com/trishblackwell. If you have been looking for a way to make an income and an impact at the same time, then you might have just found what you are looking for with Beautycounter. Message me and let's chat about how I could personally mentor you to grow a Beautycounter business of your own. ITUNES REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Butterflyd
I'm so grateful to have found this podcast! Listening to Trish has changed my life! ABOUT OUR GUEST SARAH PANNELL: Whole Embodied Psychotherapy
https://www.wepsychotherapy.org Come as you are. All of you is welcome here. Life can be painful. Pain comes in many shapes and sizes, as do the ways in which we have coped. If the struggle is anxiety, trauma, relational difficulties, depression or struggles with your body or with food, the pain is real and it's worthy of the attention and care needed to help you thrive once more. While you may feel like the only one, you are not and you do not need to face these struggles on your own.
Specializing in the treatment of trauma, anxiety and eating disorders, first and foremost, Sarah Pannell is a friend of mine. Sarah is licensed as a Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) in both California and in Georgia.
Sarah uses an integrated approach to therapy which includes exploring the biological, psychological, social and environmental aspects which are impacting the client or family. Her training in family systems allows Sarah to not only see an individual’s context but the larger picture of family dynamics and societal influences.
Sarah has experience working with clients struggling with issues related to anxiety, trauma, eating disorders, disordered eating, body image concerns, depression, mood dysregulation, substance abuse and relationship issues. She works with clients from 12 years old through adulthood as individuals, couples or families.
Sarah has experience working with clients from a wide range of backgrounds, ethnicities, religions, genders, immigration statuses, sexual orientations, ages, body sizes, etc, and welcomes the opportunity to work with any human being. She has also had the opportunity to live abroad in various countries, she recognizes the importance of cultural sensitivity. Sarah believes that all humans, and all bodies deserve respect, and practices from the philosophy of Health at Every Size (HAES).
Sarah is the former Executive Director of the Eating Disorders Information Network and currently serves on the organization's Medical Advisory Council. She is the treasurer of the board for ASDAH (Association of Size Diversity And Health). Sarah is also a member of EMDRIA (EMDR International Associa...
PODCAST #287 HOW TO GET RID OF SOCIAL ANXIETY AND SELF-DOUBT Today on The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about
The classifiers and fine points between social anxiety and social confidence The difference between humility, pride and self-assurance 7 simple ways to silence your inner self-doubt
This podcast is sponsored in part today by my newest program, The Donut Diet. It's time to stand up to the bully of shame around food and around your body in your life and to taste the sweetness that life (and food) have to offer! The Donut Diet is only available for a few weeks, so if you are ready to be done with emotional eating, then get started now at www.thedonutdiet.com QUOTES ON SOCIAL CONFIDENCE: Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. ~Dr. Seuss
Whether you think you can or think you can't— you are right. ~Henry Ford
The best way to gain self-confidence is to do what you are afraid to do. ~Author Unknown
Everybody ought to do at least two things each day that he hates to do, just for practice. ~William James
“Self-consciousness is the enemy of all art, be it acting, writing, painting, or living itself, which is the greatest art of all.” ― Ray Bradbury THE SMALL STEPS TO SHIFT FROM SOCIAL ANXIETY TO SOCIAL CONFIDENCE Put yourself in everyone else's insecurity
Focus on love and kindness
Realize people are thinking less about you and more about themselves
Stop waiting and start leading - opening conversations
Remember that everyone is holding their breath and waiting to be "part of" WARBY PARKER SPONSORSHIP One of the things that has been giving me social confidence recently has been my transition to glasses. For real, as someone who never wore glasses in their life, but recently found out they needed them, I couldn't be happier because I absolutely love how stylish my look has gotten, and you better believe there's only one company I trust to do that: Warby Parker. First off, let's face it, buying glasses can be expensive, annoying, and overwhelming. Warby Parker has the answer. By cutting out the middleman, and selling directly to customers online and in their stores, Warby Parker is able to provide high-quality, great looking eyewear at a fraction of the usual price. The prescription glasses start at $95. This includes frames, lenses, and coatings. Ya'll, did I mention that they're stylish and that I get compliments every single time I wear mine?! The people behind Warby Parker feel that glasses should not cost more than your phone. You might be thinking how you could possibly buy eyeglasses online, well, with Warby Parker that's like the best part. Warby Parker has a completely free at-home try on program, you can order five pairs of glasses online and have them shipped directly to your home or office. You then have five days to try them on and show friends and family for an honest opinion on what looks best, and then you just use the pre-paid free shipping label to return the samples. It’s 100% free, really easy and actually super fun. Go ahead, upgrade your glasses style and confidence and go to warbyparker.com/confidence and order your part favorite pair. (By the way, they'll even call your doctor if you don’t have a prescription handy go to worry – that’s WARBY Parker.com/confidence to get started with a free home try-on.) THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN PRIDE AND SELF-ASSURANCE The prideful person doesn't: accept help or admit to needing help
accept that they can be wrong
accept that they are obsessed with self-glorification
take others into account
focus on building others up
wants to be the best / obsessed with competition instead of collaboration
goes alone at everything
accept criticism or critic openly
believe in growth mindset The confident person does: seeks advice and counsel
works at collaboration
is mindful about their flaws and is growing in those areas
focuses on their own lane - at expanding the gifts God has given...
PODCAST #286 WHY EMOTIONL EATING HAPPENS AND HOW TO STOP IT In this podcast we're chatting about:
What binge eating is and why it happens, and my personal story with it. How to step out of shame and into strength with your eating habits Three next-steps to help you be free from the unpredictable tyranny of food
PARTNERSHIP WITH BEAUTYCOUNTER You are beautiful, and you are mindful about your health and wellness in so many areas of your life already, right? Like with working out and with what you eat? So, isn't it time that you consider the importance of the ingredients in the products you use for your personal care and cosmetics too? That's why I'm obsessed with Beautycounter; Beautycounter has the strictest standards of safety in the industry and it is a company for good that does good. Get your own Beautycounter products at beautycounter.com/trishblackwell. If you have been looking for a way to make an income and an impact at the same time, then you might have just found what you are looking for with Beautycounter. Message me and let's chat about how I could personally mentor you to grow a Beautycounter business of your own. MY STORY:
Binge eating starting in high school; result of extremely restrictive diet and out of frustration over body changing and athletic performance declining. I felt and experienced silencing shame and self-hatred as a result of my binges. Certain seasons of my relationship with food could be classified as binging, certain as emotional eating; both seasons carried deep shame and isolation / fear. These patterns made me feel unworthy, ugly - inside and out, and small. Freedom from therapy, prayer, and the final decision to take a chance on creating new patterns. I faced my real fears and gave myself permission to be seen - not for how I perform, but for who I am. Sometimes that still feels scary, but I have learned that if you lean into the fear, the fear becomes quieter and you become stronger in who you are. I had to learn that I didn't need to be bound by shame, and that my eating habits weren't embarrassing or "bad" ... I had to rework my entire approach and view of food and of my body. You can read more about that journey of transformation in my book The Skinny, Sexy Mind.
WHAT IS BINGE EATING VS. EMOTIONAL EATING: What's the difference between binge eating and emotional eating?
Binge eating: the consumption of large quantities of food in a short period of time.
Emotional eating: using food to make yourself feel better; eating to satisfy emotional needs instead of to satisfy hunger
An invisible illness - a secret shame.
But really, it's not bad - it's just a red flag that change needs to happen.
Impacts MILLIONS of people; 30 million in the US alone with eating disorders. It is estimated that 5 million women and 3 million men suffer with binging. National Eating Disorders Association: https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/blog/beyond-hunger-struggling-binge-eating-disorder
We need to get the word out that binge eating disorder is a real eating disorder that does not materialize from one’s lack of will power. BED is a psychological disorder and getting appropriate treatment is key to recovering. Early intervention is important for increasing the probability of a successful recovery.
If you recognize the following warning signs in yourself or a loved one, it may be time to reach out and receive the help you/they deserve.
Feeling guilty, disgusted or depressed after eating or overeating Desperation to control weight and eating habits Feeling stress or tension that is only relieved by eating Hiding or stockpiling food to eat later in secret Inability to stop eating or to control what you’re eating Feeling numb while bingeing—like you’re not really there or you’re on autopilot Rapidly eating large amounts of food Eating even when you're full Eating normally around others, but gorging when you’re alone Embarrassment over how much you’re eating
PODCAST #285 HOW TO STOP USING PROCRASTINATION AS AN EXCUSE In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about:
How to stop procrastinating A flip of the lens on how to look at your time management Strategies on how to stop lying to yourself about your motivation and follow-through
PARTNERSHIP WITH BEAUTYCOUNTER You are beautiful, and you are mindful about your health and wellness in so many areas of your life already, right? Like with working out and with what you eat? So, isn't it time that you consider the importance of the ingredients in the products you use for your personal care and cosmetics too? That's why I'm obsessed with Beautycounter; Beautycounter has the strictest standards of safety in the industry and it is a company for good that does good. Get your own Beautycounter products at beautycounter.com/trishblackwell. If you have been looking for a way to make an income and an impact at the same time, then you might have just found what you are looking for with Beautycounter. Message me and let's chat about how I could personally mentor you to grow a Beautycounter business of your own. HOW TO STOP PROCRASTINATING: To stop using procrastination as an excuse we have to first understand why we procrastinate in the first place. Some of the reasons why we procrastinate:
Lack of structure.
Time scarcity.
Mismanagement of priorities.
Laziness.
Avoidance of unpleasant tasks.
Anxiety and worthiness misconceptions.
Confidence of capability.
We create our our pressures.
The lie of time.
The Tetris effect - putting our focus on why we can't do something perpetuates the limitation that we have falsely created
Procrastination is not your safety net.
It will not keep you safe, so stop pretending that it will. TIME MANAGEMENT TRICKS TO MINIMIZE PROCRASTINATION Time allocation exercise. How will you spend your 24 hours?
What does an ideal day actually look like for you?
Use your timer on your watch to set time limits to your activities and to your to-do list. The things we have to do expand or contract into the amount of time we allot for them, so remember that you are in control of your time; time is not in control of you! HOW TO FOLLOW THROUGH MORE AND PROCRASTINATE LESS: Get fired up - have purpose
Stop selling yourself short.
Refuse to play small.
Recognize that procrastination is actually selfish.
Don't be a jerk to the world.
Know what you actually want.
Delegate what you are putting off, or put on your britches and just get it done.
Stop overthinking - don't create mountains that aren't there.
Remember these things:
You have more than enough time.
You can do hard things.
You aren't suffering as much as you think you are. MOMBOSS MASTERMIND I’m unofficially starting to launch a high-level mastermind for motivated mombosses. I am limiting the group to 8 people and it will be an application process only. We will be starting late Fall or early 2019, but I will be taking applications starting in September, so if you are interested in applying, email me at trish@trishblackwell.com. The mastermind will include individual and group coaching, online as well as in person, with the goal to help you double your revenue and double your free time at the same time so that you can be both a better, more present mom and a better, more productive entrepreneur. I’m already dreaming about what the retreat weekends are going to look like for us and can’t wait to make this happen – it will be lifestyle changing and business changing! Qualifications: you must have clear revenue business goals, you must have clear lifestyle goals for you and your family, and you must be willing to prioritize this mastermind with a year-long commitment. ANNOUNCEMENTS: We are closing the doors to The College of Confidence this month ... and they won't reopen until 2019, so if you know that you want more support, more Trish, more growth in your life, then stop what you are doing and come join us today.
HOW YOUR COURAGE CAN CHANGE THE WORLD PODCAST #284 Headbands of Hope, Jess Ekstrom In this episode of #TheConfidencePodcast we're chatting with impact-maker, dream-chaser special guess Jess Ekstrom from Headbands of Hope about courage. Specifically we'll be chatting about:
How to start thinking about yourself as courageous, even if you feel like a chicken or scardy cat most of the time The secret to staying motivated through the small efforts you make even though it can feel overwhelming as you make efforts to change the world for the better Overcoming the whispers of imposter syndrome when you have big goals for yourself, your life and your legacy in this world
PARTNERSHIP WITH BEAUTYCOUNTER You are beautiful, and you are mindful about your health and wellness in so many areas of your life already, right? Like with working out and with what you eat? So, isn't it time that you consider the importance of the ingredients in the products you use for your personal care and cosmetics too? That's why I'm obsessed with Beautycounter; Beautycounter has the strictest standards of safety in the industry and it is a company for good that does good. Get your own Beautycounter products at beautycounter.com/trishblackwell. If you have been looking for a way to make an income and an impact at the same time, then you might have just found what you are looking for with Beautycounter. Message me and let's chat about how I could personally mentor you to grow a Beautycounter business of your own. ABOUT HEADBANDS OF HOPE: Inspired by a summer internship at a wish-granting organization, Jess saw a lot of kids loved to wear headbands after losing their hair to chemotherapy. She did a Google search and realized that there were no businesses donating headbands to kids with cancer, only wigs and hats. Jess started Headbands of Hope out of her dorm room in college with two headbands, her computer, and a burning passion to help these kids (and a lot of coffee).
Today, Headbands of Hope is carried in thousands of stores across the world. They've been featured on the TODAY Show, Good Morning America, Vanity Fair, Seventeen Magazine, and even supported by celebrities like Lea Michele, Lauren Conrad, Kelsea Ballerini, Lili Reinhart and more.
But more importantly, Headbands of Hope has donated headbands to every children's hospital in America and 15 countries. When you order a headband, you'll even receive a donation confirmation stating the exact hospital your purchase benefitted. ABOUT JESS EKSTROM What Jess is Really Good At:
Running Headbands of Hope, her social enterprise that impacts hundreds of thousands of kids with cancer around the world Speaking about creating meaning in your work and navigating failure with purpose Making people laugh (one of her most consistent praises in testimonials!) Ping Pong Playing with kids and dogs Coaching women to share their story as a professional speaker Making inboxes more fun every Wednesday
What Jess is Working On:
Using her GPS too much Trying to stop dabbing Sharing food Stretching so she can touch her toes one day Toning down her competitive spirit Reading celebrity gossip Talking about her dog too much
LINKS YOU WANNA KNOW ABOUT! DISCOUNT CODE: Use the code "confidence" for 20% off at www.headbandsofhope.com
LINKS:
www.micdropworkshop.com
www.instagram.com/jess_ekstrom
7 day positivity guide: http://www.jessekstrom.com/weekly-wink.html QUESTIONS COVERED BY JESS IN TODAY'S SHOW: Have you always thought of yourself as confident or courageous?
At what point in your Headbands of Hope journey did you realize that it was growing into something mega big that was going to change lives - like, lots of lives?
What does daily courage look like for you as you grow your businesses?
Do you ever get overwhelmed with the number of people you want to help and then feel helpless? If so, what do you do to get out of that funk and to take action anyway?
PODCAST #283 HOW TO BE FREE FROM CARING WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about:
10 Ways to Care Less About What Other People Think of You The Power Behind "Being You" How to Figure out HOW to "Be You"
PARTNERSHIP WITH BEAUTYCOUNTER You are beautiful, and you are mindful about your health and wellness in so many areas of your life already, right? Like with working out and with what you eat? So, isn't it time that you consider the importance of the ingredients in the products you use for your personal care and cosmetics too? That's why I'm obsessed with Beautycounter; Beautycounter has the strictest standards of safety in the industry and it is a company for good that does good. Get your own Beautycounter products at beautycounter.com/trishblackwell. If you have been looking for a way to make an income and an impact at the same time, then you might have just found what you are looking for with Beautycounter. Message me and let's chat about how I could personally mentor you to grow a Beautycounter business of your own. 10 WAYS TO CARE LESS ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK OF YOU
Learn to value what's important to you. Simplify your thinking / Know when you're overthinking. Get the right tribe. / Surround yourself with good people. Stop apologizing. Remember that no-one really cares. You can't please everyone, so stop wasting your energy trying. Practicing putting yourself out there and being your true self. Do one thing every day that scares you. Accept help (seek coaching, therapy, books)
10.Be your own friend / learn to like yourself THE POWER BEHIND BEING YOU Be you, be free. There's a reason why that's my tagline.
I spent years not being fully me - out of fear, and it kept me sidelined.
Sound of Music mountaintop freedom - how do you make your hills alive? HOW TO FIGURE OUT HOW TO BE YOU -Identify exactly who and what are holding you back
-What story do you tell yourself that people say about you or will say about you?
-Identify what makes your heart sing
-Respect that we all have different opinions
-Realize that people are thinking less about you than you think they are
-Be someone who consistently contributes (kindness, helpfulness, compliments, encouragement, etc.)
-Living by other people's expectations will leave you empty
-If it's important to you why does it matter what anyone else thinks
-Figure out who you are - who the 4th bucket it - and then do what you need to do to fill that bucket. Filling the bucket of other people's expectations is like filling a bottomless bucket - never ending.
-Control what you can (which is never the opinions of others!)
-Stop expecting to get what you need from people who can't give it to you (affirmation, etc.) MOMBOSS MASTERMIND I’m unofficially starting to launch a high-level mastermind for motivated mombosses. I am limiting the group to 8 people and it will be an application process only. We will be starting late fall or early 2019, but I will be taking applications starting in September, so if you are interested in applying, email me at trish@trishblackwell.com. The mastermind will include individual and group coaching, online as well as in person, with the goal to help you double your revenue and double your free time at the same time so that you can be both a better, more present mom and a better, more productive entrepreneur. I’m already dreaming about what the retreat weekends are going to look like for us and can’t wait to make this happen – it will be lifestyle changing and business changing! Qualifications: you must have clear revenue business goals, you must have clear lifestyle goals for you and your family, and you must be willing to prioritize this mastermind with a year-long commitment. ANNOUNCEMENTS: We are closing the doors to The College of Confidence this month ... and they won't reopen until 2019, so if you know that you want more support, more Trish,
PODCAST #282 HOW TO HAVE LESS SELF-DOUBT AND MORE SELF-BELIEF In this episode of TheConfidencePodcast we're chatting about:
How to have less self-doubt and more self-belief The happiness habits that create more self-belief that you can easily incorporate into your day and your lifestyle, no matter how "busy" you are. The secret to not getting sucked into comparison and doubt ... or, in other words, how to really buy into this truth that you are growing and that that can fuel you with confidence
QUOTES ON SELF BELIEF: “Believe in yourself. You are braver than you think, more talented than you know, and capable of more than you imagine.” ― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart
“Life is too short to waste any amount of time on wondering what other people think about you. In the first place, if they had better things going on in their lives, they wouldn't have the time to sit around and talk about you. What's important to me is not others' opinions of me, but what's important to me is my opinion of myself.” ― C. JoyBell C.
“The person in life that you will always be with the most, is yourself. Because even when you are with others, you are still with yourself, too! When you wake up in the morning, you are with yourself, laying in bed at night you are with yourself, walking down the street in the sunlight you are with yourself.What kind of person do you want to walk down the street with? What kind of person do you want to wake up in the morning with? What kind of person do you want to see at the end of the day before you fall asleep? Because that person is yourself, and it's your responsibility to be that person you want to be with. I know I want to spend my life with a person who knows how to let things go, who's not full of hate, who's able to smile and be carefree. So that's who I have to be.” ― C. JoyBell C.
“Believe it can be done. When you believe something can be done, really believe, your mind will find the ways to do it. Believing a solution paves the way to solution.” ― David J. Schwartz, The Magic of Thinking Big HOW TO HAVE LESS SELF-DOUBT AND MORE SELF-BELIEF What are the Doubt Messages You Hear?
Where Do You Stand? / What Do You Know to Be True / What Will You Decide to Be True?
What Do You Really Want and How Bad Do You Want It?
Why Are You Really Playing Small?
-fear of success
-fear of change
-fear of what someone might think
-fear of "they" being right
What Do You Really Have to Lose? HAPPINESS HABITS THAT PROMOTE SELF-BELIEF
Segmenting life by 2-4 minute increments. Listing out your happiness habits. (dancing, gratitude, stretching, making the bed, laughing, fresh air, pretty pens, organized scheduler, headbands, making time for makeup, reading) Decluttering your life > Less TV, more books. Less stuff, more joy. Less comparison, more being present. Less to-dos, more being. Less productivity, more prioritization.
HOW TO HAVE CONFIDENCE / BELIEF IN WHERE YOU ARE GOING Confident people aren't confident because of who they are, but rather, they are confident because of who they are becoming.
By focusing on your growth - by getting obsessed about your baby-steps of progress - you can live forever in the land of self-belief without being shaken.
Belief Must Be Grounded and Grown
-Gardening Example
-Prep the soil
-Shade and sunshine
-Work the field
-Be patient in each season
-Plant what you want to grow
-Pride in your own harvest / not looking at the harvest of others
-Community sharing - sharing harvests
What are You Willing to Believe is Possible?
-A beautiful marriage?
-An impact that matters?
-Love that moves the world?
-Financial abundance?
-Eradicating pollution?
-Prayer that is answered?
-Happiness?
-Being understood and growing ANNOUNCEMENTS: We are closing the doors to The College of Confidence this month ... and they won't reopen until 2019, so if you know that you want more support, more Trish, more growth in your life,
HOW TO BELIEVE THAT WHO YOU ARE AND WHAT YOU DO MATTERS PODCAST #281 In this week's episode of #TheConfidencePodcast we're chatting about:
Silencing self-doubt and the fear that you're "not enough" or that you're not doing enough How to unravel the spiral of emotions that got you to a place of self-doubt or "not enough" in the first place One simple, very easy way to find freedom and fuel up your confidence
SPONSORSHIP NOTE: In light of the impact that making a dive into entrepreneurship can make, this month I am hosting a special mentorship offer for anyone who decides to turn their passion into profit by joining arms with me and Beautycounter. If you are passionate about the environment, about beauty, about health and about demanding for better regulation about product safety laws, then Beautycounter has been waiting for your voice. I'll personally help you leverage your passion and help you make an impact, and an income at the same time. Plus, this month, when you join forces in partnership with me, I'll be investing in a special way in you - it's so exclusive that I can't even mention it on air, because I think too many people would jump in. This offer is for my go-getters, my action takers, my hustlers who want more and are ready to do it ... shoot me an email at trish@trishblackwell.com WHY DO WE NOT BELIEVE WE HAVE VALUE IN THE FIRST PLACE? I think we lose sight of our value for multiple reasons:
comparison overwhelm purposelessness / underwhelm
HOW IS IT THAT WE CAN SO EASILY FORGET WHAT REALLY MATTERS IN LIFE? We get distracted.
We forget to prioritize what matters.
We lose ourselves in comparison. How do I fight these things? I work at it.
I work at simplification.
I work at slowing down.
I work at filling the buckets that matter to me every day.
God / my soul Brandon / my Marriage Ellie and Baker / my children Me / my Health (physical, emotional, intellectual, social) Others / my business, my neighbors, etc.
Said another way I ask myself -Did I fill my soul today?
-Did I fail today?
-Did I grow today?
-Did I learn today?
-Did I show up today?
-Did I laugh today?
-Did I love today? Said yet another way - Did I learn, did I love? Said yet another way - Did I read a book?
Did I spend time with God / worship / give thanks?
Did I write?
Did I laugh and love with my children?
Did I spend quality time with my husband?
Did I engage my creativity and heart in my business?
Did I help others or encourage anyone?
Boiled down, for me it's really: loving and learning.
I wasted years doing what didn't matter; I want to live differently. I want to live in such a way that is a terrific adventure. A life that makes a difference. A freed soul.
Here's what I know: love is all that matters.
Live and lead with love - in your personal life, in your business, in your fitness / health pursuits, in your relationships, etc ... in everything, and you will never feel unfulfilled. Love never runs out, it multiples. TO BELIEVE THAT YOU REALLY MATTER, I SUGGEST THAT YOU GO BACK TO WHAT REALLY MATTERS: LOVE. You were created in love, by a being who is love, and for love.
Our hearts are filled when we spread love; when we walk in our calling / when we show up as our best selves and we shine light into the places and lives in this world that need hope and encouragement.
So, you don't matter because of what you do, who you were born to, where you live, what you have accomplished, how much you weigh, how funny you are or not, how many friends you have or how much money you make (or how "successful" you are, because what is success really, who measures it?); you matter because you are loved and you have the capacity to increase the light of love in this world by simply shining.
-share some of Baker's experience
-the love of strangers
-you never know someone's story
-little things have an impact and you never know when they have a small impact or a colossal one
-the nurses i won't forget
HOW TO AVOID THE LONELINESS PITFALL AS AN ENTREPRENEUR EPISODE #280 In this week's episode of #TheConfidencePodcast we're chatting about:
Understanding why we get lonely or feel overwhelmed as we pursue building our dream businesses Avoiding the stagnating pitfalls that can come with loneliness and knowing your own personal triggers Taking strategic action to avoid the loneliness pitfall and to connect in more authentic ways
SPONSORSHIP NOTE: In light of the impact that making a dive into entrepreneurship can make, this month I am hosting a special mentorship offer for anyone who decides to turn their passion into profit by joining arms with me and Beautycounter. If you are passionate about the environment, about beauty, about health and about demanding for better regulation about product safety laws, then Beautycounter has been waiting for your voice. I'll personally help you leverage your passion and help you make an impact, and an income at the same time. Plus, this month, when you join forces in partnership with me, I'll be investing in a special way in you - it's so exclusive that I can't even mention it on air, because I think too many people would jump in. This offer is for my go-getters, my action takers, my hustlers who want more and are ready to do it ... shoot me an email at trish@trishblackwell.com QUOTES ON LONELINESS: Loneliness is the poverty of self; solitude is the richness of self. (May Sarton) Negative emotions like loneliness, envy, and guilt have an important role to play in a happy life; they're big, flashing signs that something needs to change. (Gretchen Rubin)
We have all known the long loneliness, and we have found that the answer is community. (Dorothy Day) FIRST, UNDERSTAND WHY WE GET LONELY IN THE FIRST PLACE This can be multifaceted.
1). No one "gets" our vision
2). We work alone or we lead others and don't feel like we have peers.
3). Leadership and pouring into a dream can be emotionally exhausting (we need to recharge with more intentionality than most people) SECOND, KNOW WHAT LONELINESS DOES TO YOU For everyone it's a little different, but some of the ways loneliness expresses itself negatively is:
-Lack of motivation
-Procrastination
-Isolation
-Loss of passion
-Feelings of inadequacy
-Boredom
-Feelings of overwhelm or underwhelm
-Self-induced pity-parties (no one works as hard as me, I'm the only one who doesn't get this, etc. / pity self-isolates) FINALLY, BE PROACTIVE ABOUT FIGHTING LONELY VIBES Don't be embarrassed that you're lonely. It's a natural human experience. Take action on what you can do and know that in doing so, you are better equipping yourself to thrive through your work.
Get out and connect with others.
Outsource and delegate when and where you can.
Work in public spaces.
Create real relationships online.
Invest in deep relationships in person.
Get involved in a mastermind.
Hire a coach.
Share your dreams and wins/whoas with your partner.
Know your WHY to why you do what you do.
Focus on the people you are positively impacting, even if you can't see them. Every number is a name and every name has a story.
Read and connect with stories that spark your imagination and your drive (both fiction and non-fiction)
Be a good neighbor.
Focus on real connection.
Focus on slowing down and creating margin.
Focus on abundance. ANNOUNCEMENTS: We all need community. We all need a coach. We all need to be pushed and held accountable to keep showing up as our best version of ourselves, and well, you've found all that you need in The College of Confidence. Listen, you might be surprised to hear that more people "think" about joining the COC than actually join. I get it. It's hard to take the plunge into a coach and a community, but seriously, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain .... you can think about the COC as an online mastermind for go-getters who want to share ideas, be coached, be cheered on an be challenged. And,
You don't need to have perfect courage or perfect confidence to start activating your dream in a way that moves the world ... it's the opposite actually, you just need to be willing to show up and start. Imperfect courage is all you need and you can learn how to lean into it with special guests Jessica Honegger here! Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/279
We have so much light to shine in the world when we follow the passion God has put in our hearts ... but, in the process of living out your purpose, we can get discouraged by worrying about what people may or may not think of us. Here are 5 practical strategies on how to let go of caring so much so that you are lead and inspire as you are called to do! Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/278
Being self-critical and having "high standards" can be crippling to your happiness, confidence and success. Learn how to think differently and how to stop being your own worst enemy / your own bully that is standing in your way. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/277
Happiness is less evasive than we think when we realize that we can control it for ourselves, no matter how we feel or what our circumstances might be. This week I share my darkest story / how my worst fear happened to me and how I took responsibility for my happiness through my pain and fear and how you can do the same. Get the full show notes > www.trishblackwell.com/276
Stop stressing about being a mom and trying to run a business ... learn a better way to do it all while not actually doing it all. Stress free and gratitude-filled is the life of a really successful mompreneur! Get the full show notes at > www.trishblackwell.com/275
You can feel free and beautiful in your body, right now today with this "body confidence hack." Learn how to be thankful and live in gratitude for your body, even if you've spent the past 10 years beating yourself up over how you look. And...a special coaching session on all of the food / body questions you've had but never known anyone else was thinking too! Get the full show notes > www.trishblackwell.com/274
Not everyone is naturally optimistic, but you don't have to be in order to activate a great deal of happiness in your life. Get happiness tips in a way not often approached in this episode which will challenge what you think is possible for you in life and in your level of happiness. Full show notes can be found at > www.trishblackwell.com/273
Take the pressure off yourself and start trusting the impact you can make through what you do by activating these 7 confidence hacks for the workplace. This episode is for entrepreneurs and anyone in a traditional workplace setting who want to stop overthinking, get paid more and enjoy what they do with less stress. Get the hacks and the full show notes at > www.trishblackwell.com/272
You aren't "failing" at food because of your willpower or your lack of discipline. You might be surprised at what small thing could make all of the difference in your relationship with food and with your relationship with your body. Get the full show notes > www.trishblackwell.com/271
When you can see failure as not just opportunity, but as necessary to growth, your opportunities for success will abound. Reframe how you think about the role of failure in your life with these five major strategies; get the full show notes > www.trishblackwell.com/270
You can learn how to overcome feelings of inadequacy with some simple mind shifts and these power phrases. If you have ever struggled with feeling "less than," "not enough," or with "imposter syndrome" then don't miss this episode! Get the full show notes > www.trishblackwell.com/269
Learning how to really live beautifully reduced my stress, increased my happiness and helped me maintain my natural weight more easily. Learn how to live out "la vie est belle" for yourself with these simple and practical tips. Get the full show notes > www.trishblackwell.com/268
Master your mindset around money with tips from industry-leader Jamie P Hopkins on creating abundance in the present while building abundance in the future for your retirement. Get the full show notes at > www.trishblackwell.com/267
I'm turning 35 this week and I am extending the celebration to you, offering an awesome BIRTHDAY BONUS and my best 35 power statements that have brought my life more beauty, courage and confidence (and appreciation for the beauty of aging)...get the full show notes at > www.trishblackwell.com/266
You do not need to live in a state of overwhelm, overthinking or stress - often all ignited by self-pressure and perfectionism. Learn the 13 strategies that I have used myself to reduce overwhelm and detox it from my mindset in this episode. Get the full show notes at > www.trishblackwell.com/265
Transform your confidence by changing your relationship with food. You can have more joy, more freedom and better fitness and physical results when you implement these three revolutionary ways to think about food differently. Get the full show notes at > www.trishblackwell.com/264
You can learn to feel more confident about your choices - even though there's always an element of chance to choices - you can always make the best choice. Learn how to trust yourself and your choices with this confidence conversation; get the full show notes at > www.trishblackwell.com/263
Caring too much about what other people think can be debilitating in life. Find freedom what caring too much about other people's opinions by listening to this week's coaching conversation; get the full show notes > www.trishblackwell.com/262
Often we make reaching a goal harder than it needs to be. Stop self-sabotaging or getting in your own way with these tips and techniques. Get the full coaching conversation and show notes at > www.trishblackwell.com/261
Celebrate our 5th Anniversary as a podcast community with giveaways and 70 simple ways to increase your happiness! Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/260
Life is a terrific adventure, and special guest Bob Goff (quite possibly the most inspiring person in the world when it comes to loving other people radically), shares how to stop avoiding difficult people and just love everybody, always. Get the full show notes and grab a copy of Bob's new MUST-READ book ... it's heart and life changing > www.trishblackwell.com/259
When you keep your promises to yourself, you will make reaching your goals (and breaking bad habits that are holding you back) way, way way easier on yourself. It's time to start making things easier on yourself - it's time to start keeping your promises to yourself, learn how in this episode chat. Get the full show notes at > www.trishblackwell.com/258
Success doesn't have to be as "hard" to reach as we make it out to be - stop overcomplicating your own success journey and definitely make sure you aren't doing the main thing that keeps people from success! Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/257
Courage opens doors in life, and you have untapped stores of it within your heart that can change your business, your relationships and your happiness. Work your courage muscle with these 5 easy and simple courage tips and these 10 courage mantras. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/256
Overthinking will get you nowhere; and it's hard to break free from once you're stuck in the cycle. Listen to this episode if you want to be free from being stuck and learn 3 simple ways to stop overthinking for good. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/255
Stress takes us away from our goals instead of towards them - taking the pressure off ourselves isn't always easy, but it is possible. Apply these 5 unexpected, yet simple strategies and eliminate stress in your life so that you can take more action, be more effective and have more fun. Get the full show notes > www.trishblackwell.com/254
Tap into your inner-fun side and get the benefits of feeling less stressed, more engaged and more confident professionally...all through the technique of having more fun. Join this episode to chat about how to stop taking yourself so seriously, how to take the pressure off yourself and how to have more fun and make more money as you do! Get the full show notes here > www.trishblackwell.com/253
Learning to like what you see in the mirror - learning how to see how beautiful you really are - can change everything about your confidence and your ability to go courageously in the world. Learn how to see yourself with more kindness; get the full show notes > www.trishblackwell.com/252
Don't lose your way in the mess of transitions in life - let your passion guide your way and never lose hope or confidence using these tools and tips. Get the full show notes at > www.trishblackwell.com/251
Eliminate the negativity that is holding you back in life - learn how to shift energy fields in today's coaching podcast and start living a more positive, more empowered life. Get the full show notes at > www.trishblackwell.com/250
Learn 5 easy and simple ways to start having a better relationship with food PLUS hear Trish's coaching insight on some of the top most asked food and body image questions in an open Q&A. Get the full show notes >>> www.trishblackwell.com/249
Being alone can be hard. Sometimes we choose to be alone. Sometimes it's not by our choice. Sometimes we feel alone even when we are surrounded by others or are in a relationship. I want you to know that being alone isn't always bad. “Being brave enough to be alone frees you up to invite people into your life because you want them and not because you need them.” Get the full show notes > www.trishblackwell.com/248
You are the boss of your habits and you have the power to successfully substitute all of your "bad" habits that hinder you with "good" habits that serve you well and help you be more successful. Learn the techniques on how to do that with this episode - get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/247
We all know that life is a gift, but this episode teaches you how to actually live that out in a practical way. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/246
Doing less will ultimately help you do more. Learn how to break free from an overloaded schedule and how to substitute stressful living for satisfying living. Stop surviving and learn how to really thrive. Get the full show notes here > www.trishblackwell.com/245
Being confident in who you are is a three-step process: knowing who you are, accepting and celebrating who you are, and rocking who you are. Wherever you are on your confidence journey, this episode is for you and will help you elevate how you rock who you are to the next level! Get the full show notes at > www.trishblackwell.com/244
You are more victorious and powerful than you think you are. You might be battling perfectionism, anxiety, overthinking, self-doubt, negativity, a bad relationship or countless other possibilities - whatever your battle, you are capable of winning. Get strategy and mindset coaching on how to have a victorious mindset that will carry you through the battles of life in this week's episode. Access the full show notes at >>> www.trishblackwell.com/243
Transform from being a "wannapreneur" into a successful entrepreneur with these strategies and tips from network marketing rockstar Morgan Rasmussen! If you have business goals and are juggling your biz dreams along with your family obligations, you'll want to catch this episode! Get the full show notes at >>> www.trishblackwell.com/242
Master the art of doing what you say you are going to do by learning how to truly finish what you start. Get the full show notes at >www.trishblackwell.com/241
HOW TO HAVE CONFIDENCE WHILE YOU GROW A BUSINESS PODCAST #240 In this episode of Confidence on the Go we're chatting about:
Why some entrepreneurs succeed and why others don't How to have more confidence as you grow your business A business mastermind on confidence from The College of Confidence
Also – I have a new free video series, a #QuickConfidenceBoost I put together to celebrate this awesome community milestone together! Grab the videos now and start your #QuickConfidenceBoost! Grab your #QuickConfidenceBoost at www.trishblackwell.com/quickconfidenceboost
As always, a quick hello to all of my Keep the Faith listeners, thanks for being a part of this extended community of contagious encouragement. SPONSORSHIP NOTE: I am proud to be an educator and consultant for Beautycounter, a B-Corp company on a mission to get safer products into the hands of everyone. The lack of regulation in the personal care and cosmetic industry is astounding and it is harming our health in very serious ways. We need more voices to join up on our mission. If you want to put your passion to purpose while being generously compensated, then I would love to start a conversation with you about what it means to be involved in the #saferbeauty tribe that is Beautycounter. Join the movement of #betterbeauty and message me via email to make your voice really resonate for a cause. Shop for your own Beautycounter collection at www.beautycounter.com/trishblackwell
LET’S TALK ABOUT WHY SOME BUSINESSES SUCCEED AND SOME DON’T: 1). Confidence
2). Clarity
3). Courage HOW TO HAVE CONFIDENCE AS YOU GROW A BUSINESS Know why you are doing what you are doing.
Know what matters to you.
Know that people care less about you than you think.
Know that you can achieve anything that you want.
Know that abundance is real and available.
Know that you have the perseverance to hustle consistently.
Know that your business matters and can move the world.
Know why you are so driven so that when the going gets tough you stay tough REPLAY OF THE COLLEGE OF CONFIDENCE OPEN BUSINESS MASTERMIND CHAT: Topics covered:
👉🏻 Should you start a podcast?
👉🏻 Tools needed for a podcast?
👉🏻 How to be confident you know enough.
👉🏻 Managing a schedule to “get it all done”
👉🏻 Bilingual podcasting?
👉🏻 Monetizing YouTube / building your brand with YouTube
👉🏻 Public speaking confidence tips
👉🏻 Discounts / offers for customers / when to do it or not
👉🏻 Trusting that you have enough knowledge
👉🏻 Creating consistency in value you offer to others
👉🏻 Do you have to be a certified life coach to start coaching others?
👉🏻 How to have confidence in your programs you put out there?
👉🏻 And more!!! READY TO JOIN THE COLLEGE OF CONFIDENCE? It takes just two minutes, just go here >>> www.trishblackwell.com/college LISTENER OF THE EPISODE: Hi Trish! My name is Isabela young and I am a huge fan of you and your work! I wake up everyday and listen to your podcast. I would absolutely love to be a part of this movement because I believe more people should listen to the message you spread and and learn more about self love. I don't know if you have a team but I would love to be a part of it and be mentored by you. I have always been so passionate about beauty and being the best version of yourself. I struggled for a long time and still struggle on my bad days but I can truly say you have turned my life around. I want to help other people the way you have helped me and would love to be a part of what you do so I thought I should finally reach out. Thank you for everything you do and I would love to hear back from you!
ISABELA YOUNG
It's time to learn to accept your body with more confidence and peace than ever before. In this episode we dive into affirmations and strategies to help you feel confident in the skin you're in. Get the full show notes here >>> www.trishblackwell.com/239
Savoring the season of life is all about blooming where you are planted. Check out this episode if you want to learn how to have a better attitude about life and about your business, no matter the circumstances. Get the full show notes > www.trishblackwell.com/238
Loneliness is rampant even in our super connected world; learn how to feel more love and connection in a busy and isolating world through these 14 strategies - and also how to prevent loneliness if you work from home! Get the full show notes at > www.trishblackwell.com/237
Think your way to greatness no matter where you are in your journey of personal development by employing these nuggets of wisdom from the great James Allen. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/236
Living an extraordinary life means being able to see the extraordinary in the ordinary. Here are 10 simple ways to do that and some bonus strategy on how to really live and create beautiful life that creates an impact. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/235
Perfect timing doesn't exist, so here are 7 ways to create perfect timing for yourself. Get the full show notes here >>> www.trishblackwell.com/234
If you can learn to never lose focus or be dissuaded by distraction then you will always be moving in the direction of your dreams. Learn exactly how not to lose focus in the face of distraction in this episode. Get the full show notes here >>> www.trishblackwell.com/233
You can take your success and happiness in life up to the "next level" when you start using these high-productivity habits to next-level your living. Get the full show notes at >>> www.trishblackwell.com/232
There are three foundational habits of confidence that can pave a strong base to all that you do - make sure you are doing these three habits consistently and you will thrive. Get the full show notes at >>> www.trishblackwell.com/231
WHAT MATTERS MOST PODCAST #230 In this episode of Confidence on The Go, we’re chatting about:
How to stay focused on what matters the most How to know what matters the most How to leverage what matters to make it work better for you in all areas of life
HOW TO KNOW WHAT MATTERS:
Know your values Know your priorities Know what you want Know what lasts and what will pass Know what brings you joy Know that God loves you and has a plan for you Know that worrying doesn’t change the future
HOW TO FOCUS ON WHAT MATTERS
If it won’t matter in five years, don’t waste more than five minutes on it.
Learn to let go, let little things be little things, refuse to give into fear or anxiety or comparison
Put reminders where you will see them and keep reminding yourself of what you value and of what matters. Slow down and actively spend time doing what you say you want to do – do what brings your soul joy and fills your heart with warmth. Write about it and document it – writing is the best way to focus anything.
HOW TO LEVERAGE WHAT MATTERS TO MAKE LIFE WORK BEST
Keep simple daily expectations of yourself – create a morning mantra around what matters most to you.
I am beautiful.
I am loved by God.
I am loved by my family.
Today I will love others.
Shed the distraction and the fluff, lighten your load
When you know what matters to you, you will more clearly know and see what doesn’t matter to you.
This will enable and empower you to say “no” more often
This will help you make your yes, yes, and your no, no.
This will keep you from paralysis by over analysis. LISTENER OF THE EPISODE My brother Nick :)
Mantras can create a foundational strength that can power you to a new level of confidence and living. Master these Confidence Mantras and increase your courage and your confidence starting today. Get the full show notes at >>> ww.trishblackwell.com/229
There might be one small mental mistake keeping you from success - make sure you're not making this simple thought pattern mistake! Get the full show notes at >>> www.trishblackwell.com/228
Monitor your emotional hygiene habits to elevate and heighten your personal happiness and success. Here are five simple methods you can do right away. Get the full show notes at >>> www.trishblackwell.com/227
Your small actions have a big, compound impact ... never underestimate the power of small! Here are active strategies for you to really master the mentality of small victories so that you can live a life of major, big victory! Get the full show notes at >>> www.trishblackwell.com/226
If you have ever overthought about food or felt guilty about eating cake, then you don't want to miss this interview with Isabel Foxen Duke. Do not miss out on her FREE coaching video series which you can get at >>> www.trishblackwell.com/isabel ... and for the full show notes, check out >>> www.trishblackwell.com/225
You can become a happiness magnet in life, attracting happiness to you by following these 15 simple "happiness habit" suggestions. Get the full show notes at >>> www.trishblackwell.com/224
The biggest liar in your life is Impostor Syndrome - convincing you that are are not good enough or qualified enough, making you fearful that you are a fraud or a fool and about to be "found out." Employ these 7 simple ways to overcome the liars of Impostor Syndrome and transform your life powerfully. Get the full show notes at >>> www.trishblackwell.com/223
When you know that your voice matters everything in the way you live changes - for the better. Catch this episode to find out how to really believe that your voice matters and to let it resonate loudly and confidently. Get the full show notes at >>> www.trishblackwell.com/222
Leverage your personal independence in life and you can leverage your happiness. Listen to find out how and also to get the 5 most powerful affirmations for independence and confidence. Get the full show notes at >>> www.trishblackwell.com/221
Rejection is part of life, and it can be a good thing. There are 5 specific reasons why rejection might be the best thing that could ever happen to you. Learn more and get the full show notes at >>> www.trishblackwell.com/220
Part Two of "Ask Trish Anything" Open Q&A ... we cover business growth, eating disorders, how to let go of anger and more. Get the full show notes at >>> www.trishblackwell.com/219
Part One of "Ask Trish Anything" Open Q&A ... we cover weight loss, business goal setting, mindset training, how I started confidence coaching, following your dreams and more. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/218
Dive into new waters of confidence and self-esteem by destroying self doubt in your mind with these 5 very practical strategies that anyone can do right now. Get the full show notes at >>> www.trishblackwell.com/217
Don't wait to be happy - you can't afford to - happiness is an inner wealth that you can tap into right now, no matter your circumstances. Listen for the 10 ways to be be happy right now. Get the full show notes at >>> www.trishblackwell.com/216
Moving on from and through big life changes can be easier than you think when you employ these three simple strategies and you start to see that the disruption can lead to a discovery. Get the full show notes >>> www.trishblackwell.com/215
Becoming a time management master is possible for anyone, just follow these 5 simple steps and watch the quality of your life transform. Get the full show notes at >>> www.trishblackwell.com/214
There are many ways to grow in confidence and courage, but here are 17 insanely easy ways to boost your confidence that you can do right now, starting today! Get the full show notes at >>> www.trishblackwell.com/213
Love heals everything, and when you feel disconnected from yourself, you will find joy and happiness again - connection again - when you start with love. Get the full show notes at >>> www.trishblackwell.com/212
Disappointment is part of life, but when you learn to process it and power ahead because of it, you can change how you experience it and leverage it well. Get the full show notes at >>> www.trishblackwell.com/211
Aging beautifully is an attitude and something we can all do, as long as you know these eight keystone habits of beautiful aging. Get the full show notes at >>> www.trishblackwell.com/210
Self-belief is a skill, a mindset, and it can be trained. Train and increase your self-belief with these 8 tips...get the full show notes >>> www.trishblackwell.com/209
We practice patience not simply for the sake of patience, but the presence of peace in our lives. Get the full show notes at >>> www.trishblackwell.com/208
Everyone can write, and writing is the secret number one tool of personal development. It opens you to discovering who you are and who you can be. >>> Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/207
Abundance isn't something you acquire, it's something you tune into and our best moments to lean in are moments that challenge us with scarcity thinking. Get the full episode notes: www.trishblackwell.com/206
Stop doing what isn't working in life - change the loop pattern you are stuck in and break free to design the life you dream of living. #podcast Get the full show notes >>> www.trishblackwell.com/205
Numbing yourself doesn't work - it actually brings on more pain in life than the pain you are running from. Make friends with your feelings & find freedom. Get the full show notes >>> www.trishblackwell.com/204
Emotional intelligence leads to 80% of your success in work and in life; learn how to work increase your awareness and growth in this area, listen now! Get the full show notes >>> www.trishblackwell.com/203
Emotional intelligence leads to 80% of your success in work and in life; learn how to work increase your awareness and growth in this area, listen now! Get the full show notes >>> www.trishblackwell.com/202
Clothe yourself in love and it will bind you together in perfect harmony. Listen for 21 ways to amp up your love in life and for live! #confidencecoaching Get the full show notes >>> www.trishblackwell.com/201
Rising up is your calling - you have obstacles to overcome, and in this celebration episode we are sharing 20 tangible ways to rise up in life. #podcast Get the full show notes >>> www.trishblackwell.com/200
Rising up is your calling - you have obstacles to overcome, and in this celebration episode we are sharing 20 tangible ways to rise up in life. #podcast Get the show notes >>> www.trishblackwell.com/199
The words you think and say give life to yourself and others, so up your verbal generosity and watch the contagious joy you spread through compliments. Get the full show notes >>> www.trishblackwell.com/198
The words you think and say give life to yourself and others, so up your verbal generosity and watch the contagious joy you spread through compliments. Get the full show notes >>> www.trishblackwell.com/197
The words you think and say give life to yourself and others, so up your verbal generosity and watch the contagious joy you spread through compliments. Get the full show notes >>> www.trishblackwell.com/196
Changing your set points of belief about what you can accomplish and be in life will change everything about how you can accomplish and achieve your goals. Get the full show notes >>> www.trishblackwell.com/195
Doubt kills more dreams that failure ever does... give your dreams life and power by squashing self doubt with these 7 tips and approaches. #podcast Get the full show notes >>> www.trishblackwell.com/194
Doubt kills more dreams that failure ever does... give your dreams life and power by squashing self doubt with these 7 tips and approaches. #podcast Get the full show notes >>> www.trishblackwell.com/193
50 Questions to Maximize Your Year > The quality of your questions about life and openness to answering them honestly determines the quality of your future. Get the full show notes >>> www.trishblackwell.com/192
50 Questions to Maximize Your Year > The quality of your questions about life and openness to answering them honestly determines the quality of your future. Get the full show notes >>> www.trishblackwell.com/191
Loving through loss and seasons of grieving is a beautiful way to honor the light and life of anyone you have lost. Learn how and how to comfort others too. Get the full show notes >>> www.trishblackwell.com/190
Internal success vs external success podcast on the fundamental differences in these types of success & how to marry them together for soul filling success. Get full podcast shows >>> www.trishblackwell.com/189
Internal success vs external success podcast on the fundamental differences in these types of success & how to marry them together for soul filling success. Podcast show notes >>> www.trishblackwell.com/188
MAGICAL MOMENTS OF MOTHERHOOD CONFIDENT MOM PODCAST #018 My mother was the most beautiful woman I ever saw. All I am I owe to my mother. I attribute all my success in life to the moral, intellectual and physical education I received from her. – -George Washington
Today, on The Confident Mom, we’re chatting about:
Slowing down when you’re super busy with the 4-minute pause Fighting self-comparison Saying yes to more magic in the madness of motherhood
MAGICAL MOMENT: THAT LOOK www.trishblackwell.com/thatlook SPONSORSHIP NOTE: I am proud to be an educator and consultant for Beautycounter, a B-Corp company on a mission to get safer products into the hands of everyone. The lack of regulation in the personal care and cosmetic industry is astounding and it is harming our health in very serious ways. We need more voices to join up on our mission. If you want to put your passion to purpose while being generously compensated, then I would love to start a conversation with you about what it means to be involved in the #saferbeauty tribe that is Beautycounter. Join the movement of #betterbeauty and message me via email to make your voice really resonate for a cause. ANNOUNCEMENTS:
Want more confidence and inspiration in your life? Make sure you come like my Facebook Fan page at facebook.com/trishblackwellfitness and go check out my other top-ranked podcast show, Confidence on the Go at www.trishblackwell.com/podcasts Tell someone else about this show! Excited about this new show? Help me know that by writing a review in iTunes. I promise I personally read each review and that reviews are like little love letters to me.
Now go out there and be more of who you are, be you, be free,
be the confident mom that you are meant to be.
When you stop caring about what people think you can find freedom to take the narrative of your life back & live life to the fullest with peace & confidence . Get the full show notes >>> www.trishblackwell.com/187
Everyone has the ability to THRIVE in life, you simply need to learn how to make that choice - survive or thrive, which will you choose? This will help... Get the full show notes >>> www.trishblackwell.com/186
The worst day of my life changed me forever – and it changed me in a beautifully redemptive way. Hear my story in this week’s episode of #ConfidenceOnTheGo. Get the full show notes >>> www.trishblackwell.com/185