The Joy Bucket: Recent Episodes
Taylor Barnes
Stories from four men on how they apply their faith to overcome fear in their lives, and how it sets them up for success in the future.
When our relationship circuits are working well, we have a good chance of feeling God's presence.
Give some of these hacks and try when you experience the bad emotions. Get back into Joy as fast as possible.
Can you identify the bad emotions when they happen? It's important, so you can recover from them.
Many times we're just trying to communicate without seeing the non verbal cues in front of our faces. Are you aware how this relates to joy for you, and for them?
Scripture mentions six stages that define the
developmental roadmap for life:
1. Unborn
2. Infant
3. Child
4. Adult
5. Parent
6. Elder stage
The bad stuff is already imprinted in our brain for 8x longer than the good stuff. How can you pay close attention to the good stuff, and make it last longer?
Sir Ludwig Guttman
https://www.thehistorypress.co.uk/articles/dr-guttman-and-the-paralympic-movement/
Cartier Carey
https://abcnews.go.com/WNT/11-year-donates-22000-diapers-single-moms-lemonade/story?id=72888575
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When those values are not honored, we feel pain.
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We can often see what we value most deeply, by looking at the things that bother us or cause us pain.
- Looking at the opposite of that pain can reveal our deepest value.
- Sometimes, when there is too much pain, we act out of that pain instead of staying true to our heart.
- Learning to identify our deep heart values can help us live from them even in the face of pain and malfunction in ourselves and others.
Family (3 way) Bonds:
- Involve 3 faces sharing positive regard for one another
- Are best built upon a stable foundation of knowing 2-way joy. (two faces)
- Create community from having a third person perspective on our joyful relationship
- Build the highest level of our brain, the Pre-Frontal Cortex,
- This brain level contains our capacity to maintain three points of view simultaneously
- These bonds help us to develop our maturity
- They teach us to feel safe in a group
- Grow best in community where we are tender toward weakness
- Require the interaction of the strong and the weak together
- Are a part of God’s plan to redeem His people though loving communities
Daily practice with the feeling of Gratitude (Appreciation):
- Creates belonging
- Changes stress to contentment
- Makes social interactions more enjoyable
- Allows us to share packaged joy with others
- Helps us be aware of the good things instead of just problems
- Boosts our dopamine and serotonin levels in the brain
- Activates, trains and grows our relational brain circuits
- Opens us up to the presence of God
When we can share a mutual mind state that brings us closer, and lets us move independently as well, we are both satisfied.
Do you know how to quiet your mind and body? Do you know how to reach out to someone else who can help you to quiet if you can’t deal with what is going on inside or outside?
Lowering my own energy level so I can rest after both joyful and upsetting emotions, as I need to and on my own, makes me feel stable. This self-soothing capacity is the strongest predictor of good mental health for the lifetime.
Technical description: Release-on-demand of serotonin by the vegetative branch of parasympathetic nervous system quiets both positive and distressing emotional states.
Relational Joy grows into an emotional state as it is shared with people who express warm delight to be together. Joy is contagious and spreads when it is shared with at least one other person. (Chris Coursey, Transforming Fellowship)
Your Right Brain has circuits that help you to function as a relational person. Here's what you need to know.