Emily Gaudreau How To Raise A Maverick: Recent Episodes
Emily Gaudreau
How to Raise a Maverick is a daily parenting podcast that supports and inspires the movement to parent kids that know how to work, have grit, show empathy. Emily Gaudreau interviews the top independent thinkers, entrepreneurial parents, and family experts. How to Raise a Maverick is for anyone with kids in their life that wants to see them grow into happy, resilient people that work their butts off and do the right thing. This Podcast was created for YOU, if you’re co-parenting, a single parent, a foster parent, a mom, dad, grandparent, teacher, counselor or youth pastor. If you’re looking for simple actionable advice for really difficult situations while you drive, work-out or take a break Emily will have it for you. Each episode gives you unique tools and resources that will no doubt change the way you engage with your kids. Listening to How to Raise a Maverick will prepare you for ANYTHING kids can throw at you. Parenting is a crazy job don’t do it without the experts.
In keeping with the spirit of not getting medical advice from Facebook, we brought in the excellent Jacqueline Jones, MD, to share her wisdom about the Coronavirus and what we can do to navigate the medical system effectively with our kids and adult children. In this episode, you'll learn: How to get a free 15-minute coaching session with me (Emily) Where to find the free DIGITAL-LOCKDOWN guide Meet the wonderful Jaqueline Jones, MD Author of Medical Parenting The facts about the Coronavirus and why you don't need to worry Kids are oddly not impacted by the Coronavirus What forms you need o have in place for your kids over the age of 18, so you can be in the hospital with them. How to set your nanny or caregiver up, so they're able to care for your child. Please take pictures of the forms and keep them on your phone so you have them when you need them. The #1 things parents do that drive proportions crazy. Keep kids in a warm moist environment to keep their nose healthy and prevent ear infections. Order Dr. Jones Book Medical Parenting at www.Medicalparenting.com
When it comes to raising kids that understand the value of money and know how to save, give and spend like a boss... John Lanza the author of the Art of Allowance and the Money Mammals will show you how. This is the second time we've had John Lanza on the show and I'm telling you that you will want to tune into this one for sure!
Fact: 1 in 5 girls are sexually abused. Fact: most will never get anywhere close to healing the complex layers of trauma. In this bonus episode, Myhriah Young shares her incredible story of extraordinary healing with us. https://www.myhriahyoung.com/
It is officially 2020! And OH MY GOODNESS am I excited. I want to give everyone a little bit more than just a "goal setting" episode, cause gosh we all know about how to set goals. Kelly Pietrangeli is the Queen Bee when it comes to helping people live their best life. So if you love the that New Years' feeling of getting a fresh start, your gonna love Kelly! In this episode, you will learn: How to effectively reflect on the past year. You'll learn about Kellys "word of the year" method. I can't want to hear everyone's 2020 words! And what Kelly Wheel of LIfe, Project Me and Project We are. Click here to check out all the free resources Kelly has to help you have the best life possible. Listen to the previous episode we did with Kelly last year!
Dr. Heather Maquire shares her wisdom on how to stop defiance from kids before it starts. In the episode, you'll learn how to:
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Catch your kids being good.
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Teach them how to respectfully negotiation skills.
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Give them choices before they act out.
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Get kids bought in on a reward system Check out her free guide to using an effective reward system.
Heather@prismbehavior.com @prismbehavior http://www.prismbehavior.com http://www.prismbehavior.com/freeguide http://www.prismbehavior.com/podcast
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Does it feel like you're always battling with your kids? Ann Kaplan is a fantastic, straight-shooting parenting coach that knows all too well about the power struggles that can happen when you're raising your little Mavericks. In this episode, you will learn the three elements to getting toning down the battles. 1. It takes two to tango! How to drop the rope and stop prevent the fight in the first place. 2. Make it more rewarding NOT to push away from you. 3. You can make the drive to push you away work to your advantage. Click here to get Ann's 'Getting Kids To Listen' free guide bit.lymomaguide or https://www.mommeexperience.com/freeguide https://www.mommeexperience.com/ To register for my free video mini-course "Powerful, Predator Repellant" click here http://emily-gaudreau.mykajabi.com/shop Let us know how these tips worked for you! All the best, Emily
Link to Quiz: https://howtoraiseamaverick.com/quiz Have a picky eater? I do! That's why I brought Jessica Gust on to share her wisdom on how we get these picky little buggers to eat. In this episode, you will learn: Why we should label foods good or bad. How we might be putting too much pressure on the kids while thinking that we are just trying to encourage them. And when we might have more than just a picky eater and when to call a professional like Jessica to help us out. She has great resources on her website and a few listed here below. www.elementnutritionco.com (What to do when your picky toddler doesn't eat) https://www.elementnutritionco.com/toddler-wont-eat-here-is-what-you-can-do/ Jessicas Free Resources: https://www.elementnutritionco.com/nutrition-freebies/ Her Instagram Link: https://www.instagram.com/elementnutrition.kids She also has a Free Facebook Community. They have some great conversations there. She also has plans to do some videos coming up to help with significant issues (a bit more of an intimate setting). https://www.facebook.com/groups/encocommunity You can contact Jessica via Instagram DM or her contact page here: https://www.elementnutritionco.com/contact/
Kids out of control? Think you need to see a therapist? Well, Stacy Jagger is giving us a sneak peek at her most powerful tool to bringing peace back into homes. Here new book “30 Day Blackout” even gets a Thumbs up from Dr. Sears!
On December 1, 2017, Lou Apert along with the rest of the nation watched a video of her very pregnant daughter shooting up heroin in an Albuquerque alley. The video was recorded by a policeman who offered to adopt the baby. Lou gives us the raw unfiltered truth of what it is like to be the mother of an addict and how complex the opioid epidemic is.
Every once in a blue moon I get the chance to work with a healer that is so good... it's scary. Leslie Huddart is one of those rare, gifted practitioners whose work transcends far beyond the mere definition of a healer. If you ever get a chance to work with her...DO IT! She does not disappoint! In this episode, you will learn...
What Acupuncture actually is. The layers of the body.New research about the Mitochondria having its own DNA that is circular and passed down from the mother.What trauma with a big T and a little t means.What to do when talk therapy stops working.
Sleep is a BIG deal! As parents this is ultra-magnified. What if you had sleep apnea and stopped breathing thousands of time during the night? The effects that would have on your physical health, mental health, and work productivity would be extreme, to say the least. Some of you already know what I'm talking about. It's estimated that 22 million Americans suffer from sleep apnea. That's a ton of people functioning at 1/4 of their full potential. What if we could drastically lower that number by simply paying attention to the way our kids breathe? Of course, you would need to do more than just watch them, you would need to take them to an Ear Nose and Throat specialist like Madan Kandula, MD. Who is doing groundbreaking work to change the statistics and help children and adults with the basic need to... breathe. But It all starts with having an awareness to recognize the symptoms.
Today on How To Raise a Maverick we're talking about the drinking culture. Not the drink culture of the younger generation, we are talk'n 'bout parents. If you know me personally I love a good cocktail. So when Lisa Boucher starting talking about "when kids see you use alcohol as a way to cope with life... it's not a great message." Uhhm OUCH! I felt that one right in my "mommy needs a drink" tee shirt!Lisa who is a former alcoholic, the daughter of a formal alcoholic, mother of grown twin boys and has been helping folks with their struggles with substance abuse for 20 plus years... is calling for a "Wake Up!!" My favorite thing she said was "you can't raise a Maverick if you're a mess."#truthIf you enjoy a good mindset shift and wine... this is a good one for you!
Grandparents are the BEST! Except when their not :) How to deal with those fun issues that pop up when the generations mix.
It's nothing to brag about... ( no.. ready it's not a good thing) but I have had more than a handful scary life experiences that I BARELY made it out by the skin of my teeth and a prayer! I share two of these close to the end of this episode. Yes, that is my way of saying you had better listen to the whole thing!! ;)Pete Canavan is no stranger to these crazy life events himself, not only physically but digitally. So he dishes the dirt on best practices in digital security and holding your (and your kids ) own if push comes to shove.
You may think what has this got to do with raising Mavericks???? And I say EVERYTHING! In order for us to have healthy conversations about sex with the kids, we need to address our own sexual hang-ups. If you are like me, I was raised in a Baptist Church which for better or worse it didn't set me to have a healthy sex life right out of the gate. To say the least :)...
How the heck are we going to get these kids to hold their own "out there"?!? Before you think all is lost listen to what Mark C. Perna has to say about all of this! Not only has he written a best selling book 'Answering Why: Unleashing Passion, Purpose, and Performance in Younger Generations but he has made it his lives work to help parents like you and me, schools and employers. Showing us how to not only inspire but to also truly appreciate how incredible the younger generations they are. Thank you for tuning in and if you want to find out more about Mark be sure to check out his website https://www.markcperna.com where you will find great, free resources that will absolutely change the way interact with your kids and adult children.
Parents LOVE to share photos of their kids. Kids are cute, funny and the grandparents want to see their every move. But is there a price to pay for letting the world have access to our kid's images...(and if you share them on any social media site you are sharing them with the world). YES! Here are just a few ... 1. 50% of the images used on pedophilia sites are stolen from social media sites. Often they photoshopped into very sexual images. Uhhmm creepy! 2. Digital kidnapping. This is where someone decides that they like your child, create a profile using their name and either pretend to the child or parent in the comments. Don't believe me.. check out #littlegirlrp (rp means Role Play, they are roleplaying that your kid is theirs) Many of the comments and tags are sexual and downright disturbing. 3. Digital DNA. This is a term that is now being used to describe your legacy and life online. Since facial recognition software is so commonly used now your child entire life will easily be searched by universities, employers and bullies alike. Let me know what you think... with me via our private Facebook page Maverick- Parents Hugs, Emily
Ever wish your life was ...better? That a magic wand could be waved and the quality of your life goes up. I don't have a magic wand... but I do have an amazing woman that has the next closest thing. 'Project Me for Busy Mothers: A Practical Guide for Finding a Happier Balance' is Kelly Pietrangeli latest book and if you want a better life... GET THIS BOOK! http://myprojectme.com/ http://www.myprojectme.com/projectwe http://amzn.to/2sQfMDF
Have you ever felt that your child was different and feel desperate for help? 'My Child's Different' by Elaine Halligan is an absolute must-read for any parent that has a child that is ..well "different." Today Elaine gave us a handful of simple ways we as parents can change our OWN behaviors to help bring out the best in all of our kids. https://amzn.to/2sYwkbz
Trauma-informed care is the latest and greatest in child care and parenting. But what about the parents. What does self-care look like for us? https://howtoraiseamaverick.com
How to turn the volume down on Christmas. How to talk to kids about Santa and teaching unconditional love!
What does LSD have to do with understanding child development... apparently everything.
What to say to kids about weed now that it is legally in some states? I'll be sharing our family's life-altering experience in regard to weed that is not to be missed!
The author of Good Pictures Bad Pictures, Kristen Jenson shares with us the 2nd edition of her wonderful book. This book is loved in our home and I highly recommend it to anyone who has kids and understands the dangers of porn and protecting young minds.
What To Say When Kids Talk About Private Parts In Public It's pretty much common knowledge these days that teaching kids the anatomically correct names for their private parts is necessary to protect the child from abuse. But what do you do when they pretend they have a penis at grandmas or yell vagina at the Thanksgiving Day table? Or another common question..."Is it O.K for fathers to shower with their daughters? and what age should they stop?" In this episode, I tackle both of these questions and give you a few tips on how to handle them eloquently.
Do you talk to your kids about their body safety rules? Today I completely cover what a quick conversation the car could sound like. Trust me this odd conversation is literally the difference between your child being a victim of abuse or not.
Comedy writer James Breakwell is dropping truth bombs and telling parents to chill the heck out! His sometimes controversial views on parenting are a breath of fresh air in a world overrun with "perfect parent pressure".
Why Is Halloween so Horrible These Days? It seems like Halloween gets more and more disgusting with every passing year? Is it just me? Or is it that way in your neighborhood too? Research shows that when kids dress up as their favorite superhero they perform way better on tests. So what happens when you dress them up bloody murders?
Rachel Ragsdale of Neuroptimize sheds light on how near-feedback can be used as a drug-free solution to psychological issues that are otherwise untreatable.
Intentional parenting is not easy. So, inspired By Chris Bruno and his spreadsheet I decided to create a simpler version, a worksheet for planning your intentional parenting year.
Divorce rates are down, How to get your kids to sleep in their own beds. Why you need to be having great sex NOW.
I Will Never Drink Lemon-aid From Kids Stands and Here's Why Here in Denver kids are now allowed to have lemon-aid stands. I am such a sucker for kids that are selling anything. I will buy what-ever they are selling but I will NEVER drink that stuff. Kids are DIRTY! God only knows how many buggers are floating in that stuff! HA! In this episode, I'm sharing my perspective on Bert and Ernie coming out as Gay and transgender kids transition and the suicide rates.
The Gut, The Eyes and the Plan By the age of 25, I had worked lived and traveled all over the world. Most of the places I ended up were also on the list of countries American should stay away from due to political unrest. I was often alone and not once was I hurt. Why? Well in this episode I will share with you the three things that I was taught as a kid to stay safe. My lessons were taught in the mountains but they are universal laws that everyone should know. Tune in and let me know what you think?
One of the very more important skills you can teach your kids is money management. In the U.S parents give 41 billion dollars but only 53% of the parents are giving any allowance at all. John Lanza is expert of how, when and why we should be using allowance to get our kids ready for the real word. By using funny animal characters and fun tools he gets the kids excited and inspired to set goals and learn the differences between wants and needs. The Art of Allowance is Lanza's latest book guides parents on how to instill money smart skills with the use of allowance
What Does Sex Positive Parenting Mean?The practical side of sex-positive parenting means that you ...Start from a very early age talking about the sexual anatomy (including the external female anatomy) using the correct medical names. Being very matter of fact and relaxed when the kids have questions about sex. Talk about it like you would talk pizza .... check out this GREAT TED talk.... https://www.ted.com/talksal_vernacchio_sex_needs_a_new_metaphor_here_s_one Be positive, NOT complex.
How do you get those sassy kids to stop mouthing off? There are 4 reasons kids will talk back and you must sort out which of the four they are in order really nip that sassiness in the bud.
2 great things!! Kids are heading back to school AND if you are going to be in Colorado August 18th and 19th we are doing a crazy fun Mini- Maverick Photoshoot. You get amazing portraits of your kids taken by "yours truly" and All the money goes to educating single moms on how to keep three kids safe from sexual abuse. Spots are VERY limited! So book them now!!! https://calendly.com/emilygaudeau/photosession
Ellen Gendelman's book 'When Ice Cream is Not Enough' does NOT try to convert you to some crazy way of parenting. It does not try to convince you that our future generation is ruined because of your bad parenting skills. It actually does not tell you what to think at all! Refreshing right! Ellen Gendelman has simply and brilliantly presented over 20 snapshots of relationships, you get to hear from both perspectives and you never actually hear how the story ends. You are simply gifted two new perspectives. In a world that is striving to gain empathy 'When Ice Cream is Not Enough' is priceless! If you have a book club this is a wonderful book to spark conversations and create deeper relationships. Check it out! You won't be disappointed! Hugs, Emily
The Truth Behind Video Games The United States is the only industrialized country that does not have regulations on the sale of violent video games to minors. How has this fact affected the homicide in the United States? Well, you might have guessed... it's not good!. LT. Col. Dave Gross, U.S. Army (Ret.) has made it his mission to spread the word about the devastating effect video games and screens, in general, have had on our youth. Listen in for some amazing truth bombs and research-backed advice from an expert in the factors that enable or restrain killing. https://www.killology.com/ There is someone you know that needs to hear this podcast. Please share it!
Kim O'Malley is the powerhouse here in Colorado running and spreading the word of the Girls Leadership Programs. She lets us in on the amazing work these women are doing across the country to help girls and their caregivers refine their EQ (emotional quotient).
How do you deal with Narcissistic behavior in kids? Or perhaps your partner or what if you are are the one with narcissistic tendencies. Dr. Ramani walks us through what to do and not to do when you one of these tricky personalities in your life. Https://howtoraiseamaverick.com/donate
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Myth #1: Telling kids how they were "made" is a good way to explain the 'Birds and the Bee's'. Myth #2: "We use anatomically correct names for private parts..." Myth #3 - I'm fine; I have heard everything I need to know from friends who have taken body safety courses. Myth #4 - It's too early (the kids are too young) or it's too late (the kids are too old).
From Hot Head Mom to Calm, Cool and Collected For many many moons, I have had my skinny little toolbox of trick that I can pull out when kids decide to push ALL my buttons. BUT things have changed and I now have the ability to withstand the creative wrath my offspring can throw at me. What happened you may ask... well I have been working VERY hard for a year to acquire the skills of a "master Parent (if there is such a thing). While I am still a far cry away from a perfect mom I have had a major paradigm shift that has served me and this wild family of mine well. Here are the three shifts that have happened to me... 1. Positive time out... yes, you read it right... positive, NOT NEGATIVE. And this time out is not just for the kiddos... it's for you as well. I am officially giving you permission to lock yourself in the bathroom, check your phone, hang out with me on Instagram :) and get the anger and primitive brain to take the back burner to your frontal lobe. YES use your highly evolved frontal lobe to deal with your little (or big) spitfire child. And get them to do the same is a spot ( far from you) where they can chill the heck out). Once the rage is gone THEN you can decide how you want to deal with your parenting challenge. 2. Kids DON'T have to feel bad to change their behavior. This has been a massive shift for me because when I think if discipline I don't envision the kids enjoying it. but the reality is yo do what the kids to feel good about themselves or they will not do better. This is a hard shift for most parents to make (including me). 3. Connecting and recognizing feelings instead of shaming. If you haven't yet you should read "Love Languages"... find out what your kids love language is and connect with them that way. My littlest love language is touch, so hugs snuggles and tickles are her jam for sure. So after you connect, listen and really try to empathize as much as you can (authenticity).
Emily
Part 2: How to get tested to see if you will become violent or suicidal before taking medication that could cause involuntary intoxication. Then we talk about discipline and natural consequences. The pros and cons.
Is Anyone in Your Family on Antidepressants or Other Psychoactive Medications? -Before we dive into this I want to let you know that you can be tested to find out if you are susceptible to these side effects.- Selma Eikelenboom-Schieveld is M.D and a medical forensic expert who is examining the relationship between psychoactive medication (treating anxiety disorders and depression) and involuntary intoxication (which can lead to suicide, homicide and extreme violence). WOW is all I can say! If you listen to ANY of our episodes it needs to be this one. Consider it a public service announcement!!!
When Did Youth Sports Stop Being Fun? Screaming parents, crying kids, and frazzled coaches. You don't have to look far to find parents that take their kid's soccer/ baseball/football game WAY to serious. John O'Sullivan the author of Changing the Game and founder of Changing the Game Project brings some great wisdom to the reality of youth sport today. The three main takeaways ... The things that you think you are doing to help your kids may actually be hurting them. Coaches and parents need to work together... coaches are not the enemy (and neither are the referees). The chances of your child ever getting a scholarship are extremely slim, but the paybacks from playing sports are guaranteed.
Help keep HowToRaiseaMaverick going. https://howtoraiseamaverick.com/donate My gosh! Yet another school shooting! This week I explore the idea that what we are dealing with is partly the Werther Effect. Which is the backstory that explains copycat suicides and mass shootings like what we just saw at Santa Fe High School in Texas. I have spoken before about the fact that white males have the highest rate of suicide in the U.S and I have a firm belief that these shooting go hand in hand with the suicide issue. Listen in and let me know if you agree. NEXT... Neuro-Linguistic-Programming is an AMAZING therapy that I have just discovered. As a huge believer in counseling and therapying being the best parenting tool, there is, I am always looking to better myself and make sure I am in the best mental place to raise my kiddo. Cause God only knows I need all the help I can get!!! So I have done my fair share of sitting in a chair spilling my guts... but to be honest it seems like I'm not really getting to the heart of an issue. I just feel like a whining baby complaining about life and trying to find something worth talking about. BUT... NLP is completely different. You focus on a specific outcome that you would like to achieve. This sounds SO stupid... but all I wanted was to remember to take my supplements, morning and night. It seems like a silly thing to go to therapy for but it is a real issue for me and I HAVE to take them or I will get very sick (I know this from experience). Anyways, after just two sessions, I have had a complete paradigm shift and have been able to shift issues that are seemly unrelated. I am completely blown away by how well it works. If you live in Colorado the extremely talented practitioner that I see is Cheryl Breault. That is a wrap for this week! Shine On, Emily
The topic of authority and kids is a fascinating one for me. On one hand, we would love for our kids to respect us, but we don't really want them to be part of a mindless herd following an authority figure. This week is about how to navigate this tricky subject and teach our kids to wisely and critical follow those worth influencing them. These are the three main lessons that will help decipher whether to stay and be mentored or find a new path. 1. Appear to conform. Do what you are told even if you think/ know better ways of doing something. 2. Does it FIT? Teach them to (internally) question if what they're being told to do fits within their moral core. If not, they can respectfully leave the organization/group. 3. Be curious and observant. Watch and learn objectively. If you have an authority figure worth following you will learn and grow. Or you may find that their results are poor and their morals are low.
https://howtoraiseamaverick.com/donate Anyone else have a kiddo that is a scrapper? I do. Not that she gets into fistfights, but she loves to get me all riled up. When she sees that I'm angry she gets a little sh** eating grin. Some kids are a struggle because they want attention, some it's a power struggle, others are trying to get back at you and finally there are those that feel they are inadequate. The way we deal with each one is VERY different. In this week's episode we are talking about how to handle each of those personalities. If you are struggling to motivate your kids, then listen in for sure! There are some truth bombs that will be sure to help you get those kids butts moving :)
Donate Getting your kids to do what you ask without bribing or punishing!?!? Can it be done? Well, I'm going to give it my best shot. I will be applying the Positive Discipline system in my house and keeping you up to date with my experience. But first, let's explore the history of the theory and what exactly Positive Discipline is.
There are some funny similarities in train a puppy and raising a kid. Are we overcompensating for our girls? are the boys being left in the dust? What can we do today to give our kids "true grit"? No, I'm not talking about the movie! Https://howtoraiseamaverick.com/donate
The #1 Things Parents Need to Do in Order To Raise Grounded Kids... The more parenting advice we read and listen to the more confusing it can be. After years of raising kids and studying the research about each generation, I have come to a conclusion. If you want your kids to have a work ethic, grit empathy, and curiosity... SEND THEM OUTSIDE! It really is that easy. You don't have to come up with crafts from Pinterest, buy any new toys or supplies. Open the door and let them run free. Trust me they will find all the tools and toys they need. And no you don't need to have a playdate to make this happen. Some of the best experiences in nature are done in solitude.
Richard Feynman
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Researchers have found some amazing way to influence people with the use of film and movies. Curing them of their fears and shyness is just a small sample. So many parents are afraid to talk about porn with their kids... are you?
Celebrities are Not Our Pets. What would you do if someone grabbed your baby's arm? In the news today Blac Chyna got into a fight over someone grabbing her baby, as a result, she lost sponsorship because of the altercation. In my opinion, no mother should ever be condemned for protecting their babies! And this is a great chance to have a discussion with the kids that just because we see these entertainers on the screen/web they are not our pets. Their personal life and kids should never be negatively affected. They are just human!!!! In this episode, we also talk about sex-ed being taught at age 5 in the U.K. I'll list the books I recommend to start conversations about body safety and sex at an early age. Should babies be left in -5 weather to nap? In Stockholm they do. And last but not least I share my experience of "accidentally" teaching women at a detention center how to take criticism through art.
Google was supporting the sale of children for sex.. But they no longer will be protected by the CDA ( Communications Decency Act). For the past ten year victims of human trafficking were unable to hold platform like Craigslist.com or Backpage.com responsible for damage from them promoting and approving the adds to sell the victims for sex.
Details for The Madness of Motherhood Event April 7th 9-4 at Harbor Church 4490 Newland St, Wheat Ridge Colorado 80033
https://harborchurch.life/madness
Another amazing win this week was the decriminalization of Free- Range Parenting in Utah. You now can use your own judgment as to whether or not your child can walk to school or play at the park unsupervised.
Here is the link for the Let's Grow FreeRange pass that you can have your kids carry.
https://letgrow.org/letgrowlicense/
https://harborchurch.life/madness to buy tickets to the Madness of Motherhood event! In this episode ... As we enter into different environments are we fully aware of how our actions will affect those around us? Are we teaching our kids the same kind of respect for not only other people but animals as well?
How do we teach our youngest kids about the dangers of the modern world in an age-appropriate way?
In this episode, I explain some easy ways to start planting seeds about protecting our minds, understand predators and body responses. All while out in nature.
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What to do if you are a Christian and your kids comes out to you. How to unclog your energy drain and let money, emotions, and love flow to you. What if the stock market crashes and I lose all my money? All these questions answered and more.
We need to be honest with ourselves and our kids about money. Without it we have no freedom and limited power to do great things that can better other's lives. Wake Up You Need To Make Money!
Work Ethic, Grit, Empathy and Curiosity are the four pillars of being a Maverick or anyone that has the ability to change the world for the better. One of the best ways to be sure you don't raise a selfish child is for you to be selfish yourself. Listen in and find out why.
Think superpower, not learning disability. How to be there for your kids without hovering. What can you do to help someone who has Ulcerative Colitis sleep through the night?
White males have the highest rate of suicide in the U.S. Let's talk about what we are going to do about it!
After a very sad day that was meant for love... we took the day off to be with our family to eat chocolate and learn about dinosaurs. We hope everyone finds their peace today. Love Emily
The new Facebook Kids Messenger App and what you need to know. Where to start if you know nothing about investing in the stock market. What you need to know when getting a colonoscopy in you think you have ulcerative colitis.
Really!!! Have we all completely lost our minds!!! To empower women and support the #metoo movement Sports Illustrated decide to completely take away swimsuits and just go with full nudity!
Is it time to stop telling our kids not to fight? Are good old-fashioned fistfights better than the year of bullying and torment that can go on? Finally, advertisers are telling Google and FB to clean up their act or they won't advertise. Rewinding in the city? How to support someone who has Ulcerative Colitis? All that and more.
How is the market crash like raising kids? I'll show you in today's episode as we talk about being prepared for life crashes.
California is the latest state to put X as an option rather than just female or male on the birth certificates. Issues like this are not always what they seem. I'll give you what the real deal is with the new X option.
We Need to Bring Back Good Ole "Love Making" There is so much sex education out there and not enough talk about how "sex" is a physical expression of LOVE. More and more we see the media trying to tell us and our kids that violent abusive sex is love. WHAT!!!??? Movies like 50 Shades of Grey keep reinforcing the hype that like Beauty and the Beast that abusive relationships are not only OK they are sexy and normal. For all the women in Hollywood that are coming out of the woodwork with assault claims... you think they would be fighting to keep movies like this made.
Kids Might Just Be Stronger If We Take a Few Steps Back When we stand close to our kids ready to catch them... they can use that as a crutch for their own development. Do we hover over them because deep down we don't believe that they are capable? What would happen if we changed that lens and looked and behaved differently towards them? ie changing our lens.
Rise to the top with simply being able to empathize. Your relationships, your work, your kids... will all make or break if you do not have empathy. 2nd Facebook founders are now speaking out against the app and we'll chat about what the stock market is and how you should feel about it being down.
We have expectations and things we "think" we need to live. Where do those expectations come from?
Marijuana, University and Ulcerative Colitis. Should you give your kid their college money that you have saved if they are spending $500 a month smoking weed and not going to school? How to get you kids a step up and ready for the "real" world. "My son has just been diagnosed with Ulcerative Colitis..."
How Do We Deal With The Millennial Problem? Start by recognizing that they are NOT the problem. Mike Miles completely turned my brain inside out with this interview. Are we wrong about how we perceive each generation? Are we in fact just jumping on the bandwagon that is using the generation before and after theirs as the scapegoat. I can honestly say that this is one of the most important interviews I have ever done. Be prepared to have your eyes (and ears) opened.
You asked for it... and here it is. Why should you listen to me? Who is Emily Gaudreau?
Stop Telling Us and Our Kids It's OK To Fail! Everywhere I turn these days there is the message... "failure is what achievement is built on". Humm no. That's actually incorrect. Statements like "Failure is NOT an Option" is what inspired true greatness. There are some people who say that they have failed and failed and that's how they got to the place they are now. No... they did not fail! They kept at the same thing until they made it. Keep your eye on the prize... your method might change, is that failure NO. It's called a pivot. You are not failing if you are still working toward your goal. You fail when you completely walk away from the entire mission. Show your kids how to commit to your vision and not promote your lack of drive as "part of the process". Choose NOT to fail.
3 Steps to Teach Empathy and Eliminate Risk of Exploitation "College Kids are about 40% lower in empathy than their counterparts of 20 to 30 years ago, as measured by standard tests of this personality trait." Says Sara Konrath, who is a researcher at U-M Institute for Social Research The biggest drop in empathy was is after the year 2000
Candace Joice who is the Education Director at i-empathize is tackling this drop in empathy head on. Today Candace shares with us the three elements that i-empathize teaches kids during their entertain events to build empathy, be open and proactive about their areas of weakness a.k.a "push points" and how to recognize the difference between a negative and positive pull.
[6:07] Nurturing Empathy: There are three natural human responses that humans can happen when we seeing suffering. 1. Apathy. A simple response of "I don't care" 2.Sympathy. "I feel really bad that I am watching someone go through this" For kids it might be watching someone gets bullied in the hall or watching someone come to school every day hungry. Sympathy is just a feeling and can be burdensome to carry it inside of you. 3. Empathy is an action and an empowering position because it is acknowledging the capacity you have to make a difference in someone's life.
[8:01] What happens when kids are taught to be empathetic? Their own self-esteem will be ignited along with their sense of empowerment by communication with the kids that they can make such a huge difference in the life of someone else.
[8:33] We are born with a sense of empathy. A baby who hears another baby cry will also cry because there is a sense of "someone else is in pain and I feel that". But over time if that empathy is not nurtured it will fade away. Nurturing empathy in kids is essential to weeding exploitation out of our cultural soil.
[9:27] Why are we seeing this lack of empathy and disregard for human life? Author Michele Borba who wrote 'Unselfie Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me-World' Says that we have definitely hit a new generation of the youth that is called the "selfie generation" and that social media is all about displaying and curating a certain kind of image, that can take over from what we hope would be the concern for others and what others want and need.
[12:15] What is a push factor? A push factor is something that is outside of your control that can make you feel vulnerable. For young people, it could be something like not enough food or a lot of alone time because the parents are out of the home. I-empathize whats kids to be able to recognize the things that make them feel scared or unsafe. Once that feeling can be translated and recognized you can find help and safe place to deal with it. Another way to look at a push factor is that it is a weak link, a place in the chain that is not safe.
[14:52] What are negative and positive pulls? After the kids identify a place that makes them feel unsafe, then they can start thinking about who could be a positive pull or someone that could help them deal with it in a positive way. Because of the fact that "push factors" are places that can be used against the kids and be used to easily manipulate them in a negative way. In the youth programs, they teach the kids how to recognize those positive and negative pulls so they can navigate their personal situation in a safe way that is less likely to land them in a place where they are no longer in control.
[17:35] My (Emily's) personal experience with a 'negative pull' when I was 16.
[20:03] Candace gives us in detail what a lesson in "good pull, bad pull" would look during one of their events.
I'm a mountain girl at heart and there are a few plants that will save your life if you know how to use them. Yarrow is one of them.
We think that we are ruining our kid's life and setting them back because of hardships in our families. So often we want to soften the blow of divorce and other difficult things that have happened. But what if that hardship was where they will get their strength in the end, and trying to soften it is where the real damage comes in?
What can we learn about the effects of our media on kids from Ted Bundy? Is porn healthy sexual outlet? 2. Sex workers have the right to make money and can do what they want with their bodies. Is it just a sexual expression? 3. Does porn help marriages?
A great mindfulness practice to help kids understand basic etiquette of walking into a room.
Good Golly, I hope not! Well, all I can say is that in my house the moment you get behind the wheel of a car you had better have your "adulting" skills down pat!
Is our food getting to be too safe? With my history and being so close to the food industry, I have watched the FDA put more and more regulations on the food producers to create a cleaner and cleaner food. What could go wrong?
A couple of announcements. We now have a closed Facebook Group for all of you Mavericks. I despise Facebook and the general judgment that spews out of it. So this is a great place for us free thinkers to share and support each other.
In honor of the woman who raised 4 kids while partnering with one of the worlds most influential civil right leaders.
We Want To Be and Raise Dreamers. Once you understand the "path" or "journey " of a dreamer, The obstacles that will get in your way will be easy to overcome. So often our ideas and dreams get stopped by the naysayers, the "giant" and often by our own family. The best book I have ever found on the subject of how to follow your dreams is Bruce Wilkinson. His book The Dream Giver is hand down the best read for those given a dream.
Two Simple Ways to Teach Forgiveness
Learning how to forgive can take a lifetime for some of us. But what if we could teach our kids at an early age to forgive? Holding on to anger and the victim mentality has been scientifically proven to have negative effects on our lives and relationships.
Three Ways to Protect Your Child From Human Trafficking There are now over 30 million people in the world that are slaves or live like one. In fact, there are more slaves now than ever before in human history. There are also 800,000 kids, and young adults are trafficked across international borders each year. For not just sex slavery but labor slavery as well.
I am a hot head in the worst way. I have never been able to control my anger problem and when I became a mom, that's when it became a real issue.
What is a Cult Anyway? There has been quite a bit in the news about the Church of Scientology being a cult. Since have all watched the stories of Tom Cruise and any many other celebrities come to the surface as being members, it's made me wonder... What is a cult anyway? How do people get sucked into these things? How can we make sure that our kids' will be able to cut through any scam and not drink the cool-aid? In my lifetime I have seen first had a few smaller cults, watched the people in them and have come up with a list of things Mavericks need to be aware of. ~>Cults can come in the form of religious, corporate, self-help programs and political groups. ~>They usually all have one leader and use a "pyramid " style recruiting process. That means that the member that recruits you get the credit and discredit for what you do. ~>They are secretive about what they do. If you find that they have not been straight up about how they operate... that is a red flag. ~>Your money and time are theirs. If you are finding it hard to find time for your friends and family as a result of being pressured into activities and they are asking for more and more money. Working for free and needing to pay for services, books, and workshops that get progressively more and more expensive in order to "succeed"... look for the door and start running. This article is referring to a cult that witnessed in the UK. Cults "target vulnerable students" By Emily Sheffield In Greater Manchester, which has nearly 70,000 students, the union has discovered plans by the Manchester Christian Church, a branch of the International Church of Christ UK (ICC), to rent a room on the campus to hold weekly meetings in October. The controversial cult has already been accused of preying on students and there are fears the latest series of meetings held in the Deaf Centre, a campus building, have been specifically aimed at the city's students who returned last week for the start of the new term. Anthony Noun, welfare officer for the Manchester university Students Union, said: "We are aware of cult activities close to campus and would like to alert students. Followers sometimes even drop out of their academic courses because the cult takes up all of their time and they are asked to hand over part of their income." ~> Sleep and food deprivation are classic ways to weaken the brain and has been used to manipulate members of the cults. ~> Character defamation is a handly trick cults like to use. No one likes to be called out and shamed in a group so they use that power to create fear and motivate the other members to do more work harder and give more money. ~> Isolation. If anyone discourages you from contacting friends and family, this is (usually) a bad sign. That is unless your friends and family are cult members :) At the end of the day... just make sure your kids QUESTION EVERYTHING. Any group that doesn't allow questioning is suspect.
Let's Not Be Jerks Abroad. There are about 3000 Americans that get arrested abroad every year. Some of those people were doing "bad" things, and others were just being stupid.