Together with Debby Podcast: Recent Episodes
Debby Joel-Taiwo
When we hear the word "nutrient", the first thought that comes to mind is "physical nutrient" which we need for optimal physical development but did you know that we also need psychological and emotional nutrient for optimal development? There is more to you than bones and flesh my dear friends and those other parts need their nutrients as well - which is why this podcast. Get ready to acquire research based techniques to empower you, educate you, and also reveal brand new ways to nourish your psychological health. Get ready to become Psychologically healthy.
Has it ever crossed your mind that maybe the cause of your psychological affliction isn't from one source, but instead from multiple sources? Comorbidity isn't a word that pops up in our everyday vocabulary and so it makes sense that we never consider it be culprit behind what ails us. To learn the role that comorbidities play in psychological health and illness, please listen. Enjoy!
Would you be able to recognize the signs of a psychological abnormality? Did you know that there are seven elements that are used to indicate the presence of a psychological abnormality in the United States and, do you know what they are? Oftentimes, we mistake being "different" for being "abnormal" but this is rather fiction than fact. To learn what these seven elements are so that you can empower, educate, and inform others, please listen because Debby has ones again broken down all the elements into digestible pieces. Enjoy!
Humor helps us lessen the pain and trauma of what would have otherwise been excruciating and dark. However, too much humor can prevent us from living in the present and staying grounded. For many, humor can be turned on and off, while others use it to put on a facade. To learn how to effectively use humor as an adaptive defense mechanism, please listen up. Enjoy.
Our ability to compartmentalize a perceived psychological threat depend on us being able to adequately isolate the threat, preventing it from bleeding into other areas of our lives. Failure to do this often result in endless cycles of chaos and contradictions. Debby discusses the importance of not only learning how to cognitively compartmentalize, but also how to emotionally and socially compartmentalize. Enjoy.
Ever felt like hiding under the covers after an embarrassing incident? Or maybe you felt like moving back home, to your parents' after a painful life event, when we do this, we are Regressing. We are reverting back to a habit or behavior or place that once made us feel safe, comforted, and loved. However, where and to whom we regress to can be either be healthy or unhealthy. Some people regress back into toxic environments, and people. To learn about how to regress in a healthy manner so that you can experience progress, please have a listen. Enjoy!
Once in a while, we need to relieve ourselves of toxic pent up emotions, but doing it without causing harm to others. However, this is exactly what we end up doing-redirecting that negative energy to an unsuspecting and undeserving person because we know they are less likely to fight react. Displacing toxic energy in such a manner only ends up causing more harm but luckily, Debby is here to save the day. To learn how to displace unwanted toxic emotion in a healthy manner, this is the episode for you. Enjoy!
To sublimate means to "channel", channel something from one form to another-from dark to light. The same thing goes for our unacceptable urges and desires because failing to sublimate our negative urges into positive actions will only end in two ways-we either end up hurting ourselves or end up hurting other people. To learn how to turn your socially unacceptable urges into positive actions, please listen. Enjoy!!
When we rationalize the presence or absence of a behavior that is socially unacceptable, we shut the door to any chance of engaging in introspection. Rationalizing behaviors is another way of giving ourselves permission to continue to engage in that behavior, because after-all, we have a reason for doing it and that indirectly makes it OK-but what if that behavior is harmful to us and others? To learn how to stop rationalizing and start introspecting, please listen. Enjoy!
We all project, and that is not a crime. Where things become dicey is when our projections alter reality, causing us to engage in patterns of thinking that lead us to self-sabotage-even make false accusations. To learn how to stop projecting our own negative traits to others and start interacting with our environment from a positive space, please listen. Enjoy!
Denying the existence of something or that it is happening does not remove it from our orbit. However, it does set us up for anxiety, depression, and traumas should we continue to fight its existence or further deny that the event occurred. Denial is the most common form of unhealthy defense mechanism that we engage in but it does not have to be that way. Luckily, Debby has again done the work for us. To learn scientifically backed techniques to accept and deal with unpleasant events that occur in our lives, this is the episode for you. Enjoy!
We all at some point have felt physically threatened by something or someone, leading us to either stay and fight of the threat or take flight by running away, but what about psychological threats? In our attempts to psychologically protect ourselves, we sometimes protect ourselves using the wrong tools. Fear not though because Debby has ones again done the work for us. To learn how to safely and effectively protect ourselves psychologically, please tune in. Enjoy!
Most of us are familiar with puberty because we've all gone through it and are aware of its "physical" life-changing capabilities but what about Emotional and Psychological Puberty? Yes, it is a real thing and just as powerful and life-changing as physical puberty but rarely discussed, even though they are the foundation that both our whole-being and well-being depend upon for survival. Luckily, Debby has done the work for us so all you have to do is listen because this might be what you've needed all along for attaining Psychological autonomy. Enjoy
Self-Efficacy refers to our ability to locate the resources that we need to accomplish a goal but are we efficacious enough when it comes to our psychological well-being? In this episode, Debby discusses the important of self-efficacy as it relates to us becoming psychologically autonomous. Enjoy
Maladaptive Coping Mechanisms are a set of behaviors that we engage in as a result of having experienced sudden or prolonged stressors. They are usually harmful, unhealthy, and difficult to undo but there's light at the end of the tunnel because Debby discusses how we can utilize those unhealthy behaviors to unlock the hidden traumas as well as limitations that drove us to engaging in those behaviors to begin with. Enjoy!
Just because you have a genetic predisposition to something does not mean that it will for sure manifest. In fact, your genes need your active participation before it can fully express parts of itself and what that means is that you have the power to activate or suppress certain parts of your genes so that you can increase your chances of becoming psychologically autonomous. Debby discusses how; Enjoy.
Ever wonder what makes us become polarized? While polarization in itself isn't a bad thing, one wrong event can cause us to become negatively polarized, and the side effect of that is Continuous Traumatic Crisis. It is too late to "unpolarize" ourselves? Nope, and Debby discusses how in this episode. Enjoy!
To privately disdain but publicly support a norm out of fear of persecution is definitely inviting psychological stress with open arms. We do not have to sacrifice our morals and values just to maintain a group membership and most importantly, you do not have to sacrifice your psychological well-being just to be a part of a group. To learn how to handle Pluralistic Ignorance when it surfaces, Debby has done the work for you. Enjoy!
Part of the human experience involves having relations with other humans- events, relationships and behaviors connect us all- making us who we are. However, what then happens when we see relationships where non actually exists? This can kick-start a toxic cycle that can be very difficult to break. Debby enlightens us on the issue. Enjoy
When we think of sensitivity, the first thing that comes to mind is "food allergies" but what if sensitivity extends beyond food? In fact, it majestically journeys into our psychological well-being. Yes, it is absolutely possible to show sensitivity towards certain mental illness/disorders and Debby discusses how it all happens and what you can do about it. Enjoy
What if opposite does not only attracts but it is actually beneficial for your psychological well-being? In this episode, Debby discusses some of the ways that a lack of Cognitive Diversity at the work place negatively impacts our psychological well-being and also how to tackle this very evident issue. Enjoy!
Low self-esteem has its own set of problems but so does high self-esteem. However, the issues that accompany having a high self-esteem is hardly ever discussed because in most people's minds, having a high self esteem is equivalent to having a healthy self-esteem but this is just not true. Listen to learn the real truth about self-esteem and what it actually means to have a healthy self-esteem. Enjoy!
In this episode, Debby breaks down the "Self" into four parts to help us take a deeper look into who we are and how this "self" came to be. Get ready to go on a journey of self-exploration. Enjoy
Opposing views are almost never thought of as legitimate and it is because as humans, we are hard wired to view anything that mildly challenges our perspective as malevolent. But what then happens when opposing views turn out to be just as legitimate as ours? Debby explores this further in this episode. Enjoy
Do you know that you can schedule your happiness? Often times we hear people talk about how to "plan your pain" but what if you can plan your joy also? In this episode, Debby shares research based tips on how to safely and effectively not only plan your joy but what is the best time to do it. Enjoy
In the episode, Debby sheds light on the negative effect of anchoring ourselves toxic experiences and events that then causes us to behave in ways that negatively impacts our psychological well-being negatively. Enjoy
Schemas are what enables us to not only acquire knowledge but to also utilize them in our daily lives. However they "Schemas" can be both beneficial and hurtful to psychological well-being due to their nature. In the episode, Debby provides scientifically-backed tips to help you alter those unhealthy Schemas so that you can attain the level of psychological well-being that you some much deserve. Enjoy
Without healthy attachments to other humans, we might as well be zombies: And so on this episode, Debby discusses the importance of forming healthy attachments to other humans for normal social and psychological well-being.
You wouldn't step out in clothes that do not fit nor would we attend an event wearing a pair of shoes that are either two sizes two big or four sizes too small; however, do you know that you might be doing this psychologically? Goodness-of-fit measures our compatibility to our environment in order to identify certain stressors that pose a threat to our psychology well-being. This is an interesting episode..Enjoy.
Cogninize is the term coined by Debby herself. It means to be "cognitively organized". On this episode, Debby discusses the importance and benefit of organizing our cognition and she also why it is vital for attaining psychological well-being.
Perceiving an affordance makes our world bigger and brighter because they gently guide us out of our self-created prisons while smoothly moving us into a world where we perceive and interact with our environment in a multidimensional and beneficial way and Debby shows us how in this episode. Enjoy
Fixations aren't limited to the physical, they can be emotional as well as psychological. On this episode, Debby discusses some of the ways that Functional Fixedness hinders psychological well-being and also how to free ourselves from unhealthy emotional and psychological fixations.
A reservoir for psychological well being? Yes, and you need one. On this episode, Debby discusses the importance of having this psychological "toolbox" in our possession, along with the benefits and power that it bestows upon its owner. If you do not have one but will like to learn how to put together your very own toolbox, it is your lucky day because Debby breaks it all down step-by-step. Enjoy.
On this episode, Debby discusses the importance of anchoring ourselves in Practical Wisdom and also why Wisdom is one of the gateways to attaining Psychological well-being.
Who is Debby? What is her podcast about? Who needs it? What will she NOT talk about? Well, you'll have to listen. Enjoy