Fuckeries in Dating: Recent Episodes
Rew Deng
Quietly laying claim to a potential partner is a recipe for disappointment and disaster. This played out clearly on Ready to Love's episode "Friends Zone." Dating is a delicate dance, and sometimes we step on toes when we don't use our words.
A brief chat on the "Good Girl Checklist" and why it would do better as a private journal entry than an actual Potential Partner checklist.
Men are challenged by trying to stay in sync with what women want, but that really shouldn't matter when you know what YOU want. This episode is a handy-dandy reminder to sync what you want with what she offers.
Media, film and TV (including porn) shape our expectations of real life interactions, and often precede woeful disappointment. Why? Because we've superimposed fantasy on reality and we're worse for the wear. This brief podcast is just wakeup water in your face.
Screening a guy before you get too deep into the weeds with him is helpful for avoiding heartache. This episode is a handy reminder of pre-date screening.
We still stumble as humans, but we're able to learn from each other even as we stumble. We all need that 1 friend who'll tell us we have spinach in our teeth, she's no good for you, a baby won't keep him tethered to you, or loyalty is worth more than a Birkin bag. This episode is that friend.
Before we make a blanket statement on the state of men we've experienced, we need to learn to identify our role in failed relationships as well as qualify and quantify the actual dating pools we've dipped our toes in. After all, we are our own common denominator.
Sometimes you have to vett a potential partner prior to going on that 1st date. Once you're on the date, what do you talk about? What don't you talk about? What do you do, and what don't you do? There's no hard and fast rules in dating, but we try to figure out a framework as we go.