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Doctor NerdLove is here to help you get your dating life in order with the best dating advice and positive masculine self-improvement on the Internet.
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Let's be honest: dating can be a trial. For a lot of men, dating isn't something you enjoy, it's something you endure. From trying to meet women, to getting a number, to actually getting women out on a date... it's more like pulling teeth than meeting a potential partner.
Today, I want to give you all some advice I wish I had gotten back when I first started dating. Because, if you’re checking out these episodes, then the odds are good that, frankly, you think dating… kinda sucks. And in fairness: you’re not entirely wrong. Dating for men can be kind of awful. But not for the reasons you might think.
In fact, the biggest reason why dating can suck is because of how much harder we men make it for OURSELVES and in the process, make ourselves miserable… even when we think we’re doing everything right.
So let's look at 5 reasons why dating can SUCK for men… and what you can do about it.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- Why men have a conflict mentality when it comes to dating
- The secret to passing women's "tests"
- Why so much of what you believe about women, dating and sex is WRONG.
- How guys get caught in a cycle of dating failure
- Why you're taking the wrong advice about how to meet women
...and so much more.
RELATED LINKS:
How To Meet Women, Effortlessly
What Men Need To Know About Attraction
The Truth About Casual Sex (And Where To Get It)
This Is Why Online Dating Sucks
The Fear of Being Invisible
The Love Gap
Faking It: The Lies Women Tell About Sex and the Truths They Reveal
What Do Women Want: Adventures in the Science of Female Sexual Desire
Simplified Dating
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The most magnetic, charming and well liked people aren't popular because of their looks, their money, or their bodies. People like them because of they make others feel and the value that they bring into other peoples' lives.
These 5 qualities will help you create stronger, more profound connections with others, teach you to be instantly charismatic and become incredibly well liked by everyone around you.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- Why genuine likeability and personal magnetism are rare qualities, even in Hollywood
- Why sharing the spotlight makes you more popular
- How triggering one emotion in people makes them like you, instantly
- Why passion is so attractive in others
- How authenticity and vulnerability make people want to spend more time with you
...and so much more.
RELATED LINKS:
These Are The Things You Only Learn When Your Friend Dies
Popularity 101
The Value of Authenticity
The "It" Factor
How To Be Charming
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Right now, we are living through the most stressful, even outright traumatic year that most of have ever faced in our lives. Even if you’re in a relatively good place, we’re all getting hit with bad news, more stories of police violence, political corruption, the continuing pandemic, even potential fallout from the election. It can be incredibly hard to have a positive attitude and solid confidence. It can be hard not to look around and say “how am I supposed to have the strength to keep going?"
But you need that emotional strength, powerful confidence and positive attitude more than ever. And the first step is to recognize the things that are stealing your happiness and sabotaging your life and learn how to build the emotional strength it takes to persevere, that appealing confidence and the positive attitude that can help build strong relationships and help you face and overcome the challenges in your life that seem impossible.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- Why one simple word can ruin your self-confidence
- How we convince ourselves that we're powerless... when we're not
- The mistake we make that makes us miserable... no matter what we do
- How we talk ourselves out of success
- Why your rivals can be your greatest allies
... and so much more.
RELATED LINKS:
The 5 Things You Need To Know To Succeed At Dating
What "Forged In Fire" Can Teach Us About Manhood
Unlearning Helplessness
You Are Your Own Worst Enemy
"Your Attitude Controls Your Dating Success"
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Have you struggled with relationships that were bad for you?
Maybe you’ve been in a toxic relationship with somebody who was always manipulating you into ways of getting what they wanted, leaving you feeling like a doormat. Maybe you had friends who treated you badly or would pressure you into going along with jokes at your expense or doing things that made you uncomfortable or went against your values.
Or perhaps you’ve had family members who would leverage guilt or reciprocity to make you do whatever they want, even if it’s a huge inconvenience to you or emotionally draining or even damaging. Or you were constantly being made to feel as though your interests, desires or wants were unimportant or inconvenient… even if it’s simply “don’t treat me like sh*t.”
One of the most important things you can do to ensure you have strong, healthy relationships — with your wife or girlfriend, your friends, your family or even your co-workers — is to have strong boundaries.
Today, I'm going to teach you how to build strong boundaries... and how to enforce them.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- What one viral video teaches us about toxic relationships
- Why abusers and toxic people prey on people with weak boundaries
- How abusers trick you into lowering your boundaries for them
- How to push back when people push against your boundaries
- The most important part of maintaining healthy relationships
...and so much more
RELATED LINKS:
What Will You Put Up With? Boundaries, Self-Esteem and Dating
Enforcing Your Boundaries
How Do I Avoid Abusive Relationships?
How Do I Get My Family To Respect My Boundaries?
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Growing up, I knew I was struggling with things that other people seemed to be able to do without a second thought. I thought I was just lazy, that I needed to be more disciplined and to take things more seriously. But it never worked, and I never understood why.
Now, after a lifetime of searching, I finally have the answers.
This week, I want to talk with you about my experiences with having been diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, how it can affect you and your relationships, and my experiences with getting diagnosed and getting treated.
Here's what happened.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- What people get wrong about ADHD
- Why so many people don't get diagnosed or treated when they need it
- How having ADHD can affect your confidence and your relationships
- Why people with ADHD have anxiety and depression
- How getting treatment has changed my life
...and so much more.
RELATED LINKS:
Overcome Your Fear of Rejection - https://www.doctornerdlove.com/overcome-your-fear-of-rejection/
Top 5 Dating Mistakes — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/top-5-dating-mistakes/
This is What Happened After I Tried Meditation for 30 Days — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/this-is-what-happened-after-30-days-of-meditation/
You Must Unlearn What You Have Learned — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/how-to-unlearn-what-you-have-learned/
When It's Time To Ask For Help — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/when-its-time-to-ask-for-help/
ADHD In Adults — https://www.additudemag.com/adhd-in-adults/
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The #1 reason why so many men struggle with dating is very simple: they don't know what it takes to be successful with women. Attraction isn't a checklist; having all the right "stats" isn't going to magically make you attractive to women. Learning to succeed with women isn't about having the right car or the right body, it's about learning how to become your best, most desirable self.
That's why this week, I'm going to teach you the 5 things YOU need to know in order to succeed with women, become the man you've always wanted to be and build the love life you've always wanted.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- Why the men who have everything women want still struggle with dating
- How to build your dream life... by working backwards from success
- Why attraction ISN'T about your body, your height, or your income
- How to escape the trap of your comfort zone
- Why your own brain tricks you into failing with women
...and so much more.
RELATED LINKS:
NerdLove Academy Merchandise
Book a Private Coaching Session
Level Up: Facing Your Dating Fears
How To Take Your Love Life To The Next Level
"I Took The Red Pill. Why Am I Still Not Happy?"
What Women Wish Men Knew About Attraction
The Value of Failure
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Rejection hurts... but the fear of rejection can often hurt even worse. In fact, when we give into the fear of rejection, we often set up a pattern that can affect us throughout our lives. Rejections we've experienced in the past can end up affecting us NOW. When we give into the fear of rejection, we can end up reliving that fear, long after it's happened... feeling the pain as though it's happening to us again, right now. When that happens, it becomes a way that we almost give up our free will; life becomes a series of steps that you take to try to AVOID feeling the discomfort and pain of rejection.
It's time to learn how to break the cycle and learn how to stop letting your fear control you.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- What science can teach us about rejection and rejection sensitivity
- How our brains work against us and keep us in a cycle of fear and avoidance
- Why rejection hurts, even years later
- How a fear of rejection can CAUSE the very rejection we're trying to avoid
- How understanding your body can help you conquer your fear of rejection
...and so much more.
RELATED LINKS:
Face Your Dating Fears
Overcome Your Fear of Rejection
A Man's Guide To Improving Your Emotional IQ
This is What Happens After Meditating for 30 Days
How To Deal With the Awkward
Rejection Sensitivity and the Defensive Motivational System: Insights From the Startle Response to Rejection Cues
How ADHD Ignites Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria
The Social Skills Survival Pack Playlist
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What makes one relationship last, while another falls apart? Why do you seem to have found your dream relationship, only to have it turn into a nightmare? Your partner may seem perfect, but it takes more than shallow commonalities to make a relationship work. Just because things are amazing in the beginning doesn't mean that everything is going to work out on it's own.
If you've ever wondered whether she's "the one", or you want to know if your relationship has what it takes to go the distance, then you need to answer these questions.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- Why people end up in cycles of relationships that SEEM great, but fall apart within six months
- How "New Relationship Energy" can hide relationship destroying flaws
- What you REALLY need to have in common to make a relationship last
- Why the way you fight may be more important than your "love languages"
- What sexual compatibility REALLY means
... and so much more.
RELATED LINKS:
Are You Ready For A Girlfriend? — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/are-you-ready-for-a-girlfriend/
Is She Right For You? — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/is-she-right-for-you/
5 Questions You Should Ask Before You Start Your Next Relationship — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/5-questions-you-should-ask-when-you-start-relationship/
Are You Sexually Compatible? — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/are-you-sexually-compatible/
How To Have The "Defining The Relationship" Talk — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/defining-the-relationship/
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It's very easy to feel like you’re forever going to be defined by your worst decisions or your biggest mistakes. But while you can't change your past, you can change your future. By examining one of the best redemption arcs in modern media, we can learn how Prince Zuko overcame trauma and earned his redemption... and find how we can learn to find our own in the process.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- How our response to trauma can shape our lives... and why it can transform us into different people
- Why a desire for acceptance can turn people into villains
- How to make a break with the past to build a new future
- Why it's so hard to make amends
- Why you have to let go of your desire to be "right"
...and so much more
RELATED LINKS:
How Do You Find Redemption? — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/find-redemption/
How Toxic Masculinity Hurts Everyone — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/toxic-masculinity/
Recovering From Failure — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/recovering-from-failure/
Why It's So Hard To Be A Good Man — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/why-is-it-so-hard-to-be-a-good-man/
Solving The Incel Phenomenon — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/incel-phenomenon/
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One reason why a lot of guys have a hard time meeting women is because they’ve put ALL of their focus on ONLY talking to women, and even then, only women that they’re attracted to.
The truth is that the most popular and socially successful men — the ones who do the best with women — tend to be the ones who talk to everyone. Part of the secret to their success is that they know how to connect with people and build relationships that lead to the results they’re looking for, whether it’s networking, making new friends or meeting and dating new and amazing women.
They’re able to start conversations and talk with just about everyone they meet. And today, I'm going to teach you how.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- How you can start a conversation with anyone at any time
- When you should approach people directly, and when you should use a more indirect approach to start a conversation
- Why asking a stranger for a favor helps turn them into friends
- How to get people to come talk to you
- What the most socially successful people do that makes them instantly magnetic
...and so much more.
RELATED LINKS:
5 Signs Women Want You To Approach Them
Never Run Out Of Things To Talk About
How To Get Women To Approach You
5 Secrets to Make People Like You
How To Be Charming
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What does it take to turn your life around? How can you learn to recognize negative patterns in your life that are sabotaging your progress? And what does it take to break those patterns and make positive lasting changes?
This week, I've invited my friend and coach Arden Leigh of The Repatterning Project to talk about how to recognize the patterns in your life that are holding you back and what it takes to transform yourself so that you can find stronger, healthier and more positive relationships.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- How we create and reinforce patterns in our lives
- Why certain patterns and behaviors keep you from meeting your needs
- What your moods and mindfulness can tell you about the patterns in your life
- How your social circle can help transform your life
- Why "Is this working for me?" is the most important question you can ask
...and so much more.
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About Arden Leigh:
Arden Leigh is the creator and facilitator of The Re-Patterning Project, a course in understanding the human operating system and repatterning trauma imprints and social conditioning in order to achieve creative freedom. Her certifications are in neuro-linguistic programming and TimeLine Therapy. She is also the creator and frontwoman of indie pop rock project Arden and the Wolves, as well as the creator and host of web series Peace Talks. She is currently at work on her next book.
Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/ItsMeArdenLeigh
Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/ItsMeArdenLeigh
The Repatterning Project — therepatterningproject.com
Arden and the Wolves — facebook.com/ardenandthewolves
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Women often say that they want a nice guy, so why do so many of them think that nice guys are THE WORST?
The trouble is that Nice Guy's behavior works against them; what they see as positive and respectful is actually pushing people away.
Here's why being a Nice Guy drives women away... and why it can be so hard to STOP being a Nice Guy.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- What "Nice Guy" behavior says about them
- Why "treating her like a queen" is actually unattractive
- How Nice Guys ruin their relationships
- The #1 mistake Nice Guys make that "bad boys" don't
- What it takes to STOP being a nice guy... and why being a jerk isn't the answer
... and so much more.
RELATED LINKS:
The Science of Nice Guys and Assholes
Developing An Abundance Mentality
Eliminating Neediness
Where Do You Get Your Validation?
What's Wrong With Being a Nice Guy?
FIND YOUR VALUE AND DEVELOP YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE! GET YOUR FREE WORKSHEET HERE: http://eepurl.com/dgn7c5
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Over the course of my career, I’ve dealt with a lot of people who haven’t had much dating experience — from people who’ve only had one or two girlfriends in their lives to literal 40 year old virgins.
They all had in one thing common: they had the same fears, beliefs and anxieties regarding dating and women that made them give up.
Here's how to break through your dating fears, conquer your anxiety and overcome your self-limiting beliefs.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- How we project our anxieties onto other people
- How self-limiting beliefs hold us back
- Why our brains trick us into giving up
- Why we give up control so easily
- How to let go of fear
...and so much more.
RELATED LINKS:
Unlearning Helplessness
Your Attitude Controls Your Dating Success
These Self-Limiting Beliefs are Holding You Back
Develop An Abundance Mentality
The Value of Failure
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This week, we have a special bonus episode: a live episode where my patrons got to ask me anything — from dating advice to moving to Austin to what shows I've been binging during the lockdown. Plus guest appearances from Mr. Senior Kitty!
If you want to take part in the next AMA, be sure to support the podcast by becoming a Dr. NerdLove patron!
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Sexting and knowing how to flirt over text is a skill that’s invaluable whether you have a friends-with-benefits relationship, a long-distance relationship, or if you and your partner are looking to keep things exciting.
In fact, knowing how to start sexting with someone the right way may be one of the most invaluable skills you can develop for keeping the spark in your relationship.
But you have to know how to get things started the right way.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- How to lay the groundwork to start sexting with your partner
- Why the right text can be sexier than any photo
- What to say to a woman over text to turn her on
- Why most guys FAIL at sexting
- What to say to start sharing pictures
... and so much more
RELATED LINKS:
How to Flirt over Text (Without Being a Creeper)
How To Look Good in Photos
What Women Want in Men
Take The Perfect Tinder Photo
F*ck Like A Gentleman
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How happy are you with your life right now? If you're like most people, you probably have a list of major changes you’ve wanted to make. You may even have looked at the current pandemic as your chance to work on yourself and get your life where you want it to be.
Now tell me, how far HAVE you gotten on that list? The odds are not very far. You probably attacked it like a man possessed… only to find your motivation and desire drained away. Now you’re basically back where you started, just more frustrated than before and wondering why you’re such a failure.
Except, you’re not a failure. Honestly, you were always going to end up in this situation. Because here's a secret: this was always going to backfire on you because you — like most people — were going about this the wrong way.
That's why,. Let's do this.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- What everyone gets wrong about self-improvement
- Why your problem isn't a lack of discipline or willpower
- How you accidently sabotage your own progress
- Why most self-improvement plans fall apart within weeks, if not days
- How ritual and routine leads to success
... and so much more.
RELATED LINKS:
The Dating Accelerator Program
Starting From Zero
How To Take Dating to the Next Level
5 Simple Ways to Improve Your Social Skills
Maintaining Positive Changes in Your Life
How To Improve Your Willpower
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Last time, we talked about the recent trend of folks reaching out to their exes, why it’s happening so frequently and why it can be comforting to try to rekindle an old relationship.
But it's far too easy to fall back to old patterns and old routines with your ex, which means you're going to make the same old mistakes that lead to new pain.
Today, I'm going to teach you the RIGHT way to get your ex back.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- Why the most popular ways to get your ex back DON'T WORK
- What you need to do before you try to reconnect with your ex
- How to reach out to an ex without feeling forced, fake or manipulative
- What to say to make your ex want to take you back
- Why so many relationships fall apart for the second time... and how to avoid it
...and so much more.
RELATED LINKS:
How To Deal With Your Ex
Why You Will Never Get Closure
How To Stay Friends After The Break-Up
Ask Dr. NerdLove: We Were On A Break
The 5 Things You Need To Get Over Your Breakup
When You SHOULDN'T Get Back With Your Ex (And When You Should)
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With the stress and the chaos of the COVID-19 pandemic, more and more people are reaching out to their exes for comfort, for connection and something more.
But is it ever a good idea to get back with your ex? If you're thinking of trying to get your ex back — or reaching out to them again — then you need to be able to answer these 5 questions first.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- Why we look to our past relationships when times are hard
- When an old relationship is better left in the past... and when it's worth trying again
- Why it's so hard to make a relationship with your ex work a second time
- How to avoid repeating old mistakes and reliving your old break-up
- Why your ex might be right for you NOW
... and so much more.
RELATED LINKS:
How To Deal With Your Ex
Why You Will Never Get Closure
How To Stay Friends After The Break-Up
Ask Dr. NerdLove: We Were On A Break
The 5 Things You Need To Get Over Your Breakup
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Self-isolation can be a trial for even the happiest lovers. Couples under quarantine are starting to feel the strain on their relationship. Relationships are rarely tested the way that they’re being tested now, and many people are discovering their relationship isn't as happy or as strong as they they thought. In some parts of the world, divorce rates are starting to skyrocket as soon as quarantine orders have been lifted.
Don't let that happen to YOUR relationship. In this free workshop, I'll teach you what it takes to keep your relationship happy, healthy, safe and strong, so that your relationship can survive the COVID-19 crisis.
Book a private coaching session with Dr. NerdLove
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The COVID-19 pandemic doesn't mean that your love life has to be put on hold. In fact, relationships are more important than ever. People are still meeting, dating and even falling in love during social distancing. The coronavirus pandemic has forced us to think about dating in new and different ways.
In this replay of the live workshop, Dr. NerdLove will talk about how dating has changed, how we can change with it and how the current crisis has the potential to make us more desirable dates, better lovers and incredible partners.
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Loneliness is one of the unspoken side-effects of sheltering in place. And yet, we need our social connections more than ever. How can you build and maintain a social life when social distancing is the rule?
In my latest live, free seminar, I talk about how to build and maintain those important social connections, meet new people and strengthen the friendships you already have.
Want to take part? The next seminar is on 4/7 at 3 PM CST. Join me at facebook.com/DrNerdLove and join NerdLove Academy at facebook.com/groups/DrNerdLove
DOCTOR'S NOTE: So since I did this over Facebook Live, there's a little funkiness with the audio. I've done my best to clean it up but some of it is baked into the episode itself. Sorry 'bout that, we're seeing what can be done for next time.
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How do you manage anxiety in the middle of a pandemic? How is living under quarantine affecting you? In my first LIVE teleseminar, I talk about how to manage stress and maintain your emotional health during the COVID-19 pandemic.
Want to take part? The next seminar is on 3/31 at 3 PM CST. Join me at the Dr. NerdLove Facebook Page and be sure to join the NerdLove Academy group!
DOCTOR’S NOTE: So since I did this over Facebook Live, there’s a little funkiness with the audio. I’ve done my best to clean it up but some of it is baked into the episode itself. Sorry ’bout that, we’re seeing what can be done for next time.
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The reason why you have such a hard time getting over your ex is because most folks have the wrong idea about breakups. The pain of a break-up is equal parts mental and physical. When you’re struggling with how to get over your breakup, you’re almost never handling BOTH halves of the equation. Getting over your ex quickly and successfully requires that you address both sides of the breakup.
So today I want to give you the 5 things you MUST do in order to get over your breakup and move forward.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- How focusing on the wrong parts of a breakup only prolongs the pain and the heartbreak
- Why it's important to let yourself feel the pain and frustration of breaking up with someone
- How breaking up changes who you are
- Why staying in contact with your ex is a mistake
- The secret to getting over the loss of your relationship... quickly
... and so much more.
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How To Survive Being Dumped — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/survive-being-dumped/
The (Positive) Value of Anger — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/positive-value-anger/
This Is Why You Can't Get Over Her — https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aevlnBwpEWw
"Cutoff Culture" And The Myth of Closure — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/cutoff-culture-and-the-myth-of-closure/
How To Protect Yourself From A Broken Heart — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/protect-yourself-from-a-broken-heart/
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This week: With all the talk about toxic masculinity, what does POSITIVE masculinity look like? Here's what we can learn about being better men from the hicks, jocks and skids of Letterkenny.
What Does Positive Masculinity Look Like?
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The reason why so many people struggle with dating isn't because of their looks, their height, their genes or their hairline. It's because they are caught in a cycle of bad habits and practices that destroy your confidence and sabotages your ability to improve.
Here's how you can break out of this negative cycle and build the habits that will improve your willpower, your self-esteem and help you find the dating success you deserve.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- How self-limiting beliefs cause you to fail before you've even begun
- Why negativity is so powerful and seductive
- How the training secrets of US Navy SEALS can improve your social life
- Why dreaming about a better life keeps you from achieving your goals
- How Brad Pitt and George Clooney developed their famous charisma
...and so much more
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This is Why Your Life Won't Get Better (And How To Fix It)
Getting Out of Your Own Way
Starting From Zero
Build Your Emotional Resilience
You're Ok, I Promise
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I’m answering your most important dating questions! If you have a question about love, sex or dating, then be sure to leave a comment. Maybe the next question I answer will be yours!
This week: Everyone's heard the "let's just be friends" speech from someone they've been attracted to. But how do you make a friendship work with someone you're attracted to? How do you keep sex from getting in the way of your friendship?
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The Secret to Being "Just Friends"
Why "Men and Women Can Never Be Friends" is BULLSH*T
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Do you know what women find sexy in a man? Not attractive, not aesthetically pleasing but what makes a woman want to peel a man’s clothing off with her teeth.
A lot of guys… don’t.
In fact, a lot of guys have the absolute WRONG ideas about what turns women on. If you want to be sexier than other guys, then you should know what draws a woman to a guy... and why she says YES to sleeping with one guy and no to the rest.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- What men DON'T understand about desire and arousal in women
- Why physical looks aren't the same thing as being sexy
- What your presentation says about your desirability
- Why women don't actually LIKE "alpha males"
- What all the great seducers have in common
...and so much more.
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How To Be Sexier
Why Women Say Yes To Sex
The Science of Nice Guys
The Truth About Casual Sex (And How To Get It) -
The Secret to Getting Laid (Without Losing Your Soul)
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This week: Valentine's Day is coming, and it's stressing people out. How can you learn to be happy when you’re single, especially when it seems like the universe is determined to remind you that everyone else is coupled up and you’re not?
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Here's something nobody will tell you about being successful with women: nobody is "naturally" good with women. Nobody is born with an instinctual ability to get dates. Everyone — people who seem to be naturally gifted and people who learned later in life — all developed their skills the same way.
That's why all the people who are successful with women have the same things in common. If you want to learn how to have the love life you deserve, then you want to master the four key components to developing the skill to meet, connect with and date amazing women.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- Why "naturals" don't really exist
- How people learned the right — and wrong — lessons about how to be good with women
- Why confidence is a vital part of success with women — but not for the reasons you'd expect
- Why most people fail when they try to get better at dating
- What makes the difference between someone who succeeds at dating, and someone who will never improve
...and so much more.
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Become Someone Worth Dating - https://www.doctornerdlove.com/become-someone-worth-dating/
Level Up: Face Your Dating Fears - https://www.doctornerdlove.com/facing-your-dating-fears/
Developing An Abundance Mentality - https://www.doctornerdlove.com/leveling-up-abundance-mentality/
Your Attitude Controls Your Dating Success — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/your-attitude-controls-your-dating-success/
How to Use Humor in Your Flirting — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/use-humor-flirting/
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I'm answering your most important dating questions! If you have a question about love, sex or dating, then be sure to leave a comment. Maybe the next question I answer will be yours!
This week: How do you keep your relationship from fading into boredom? What's the secret to keeping the spark making your long-term relationship feel as fresh and hot and alive as when you first met?
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We live more and more of our lives online, and that means that more of our relationships start there too. But most guys don't know how to flirt effectively on Facebook, Instagram or Snapchat. If you want to be the guy that women like to talk to and enjoy hearing from, not just another thirsty dude trying to slide into her DMs, then you want to follow these rules for flirting with women on social media.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- The three deadly sins of flirting on social media
- How to get women to want to respond to YOU
- Why what you say will affect how she sees you
- How to be attractive on Facebook and Instagram
- The right way to get slide into her DMs
...and so much more.
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How To Talk To Women on Social Media
5 Secrets To Make People Like You
Make The Right First Impression
5 Common Texting Mistakes Men Make
This Is Why You're Creepy (And How To Stop It)
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I’m answering your most important dating questions! If you have a question about love, sex or dating, then be sure to leave a comment. Maybe the next question I answer will be yours!
This week: What are the best pictures for dating apps like Tinder, Hinge, Bumble and OKCupid? And how can guys look more photogenic and get more matches?
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How do you find someone who's the RIGHT girlfriend for you... and how do you make sure that YOU are the guy that SHE'S looking for? We're going to talk about what you can do to turn 2020 into the year you meet someone who is your perfect match, and how to be the exact right man for her as well.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- Why online dating is the WRONG approach for trying to find the perfect girlfriend
- How men sabotage their own success when they go out to meet women
- Why even successful, socially skilled men meet the WRONG women
- How to let go of the self-limiting beliefs that are keeping you from unlocking your true potential
- How understanding exactly what and who you're looking for will help you meet the right woman for you.
... and so much more
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How To Find The Right Woman For You
How To Get Women To Approach You
5 Questions You Should Ask Before Starting A Relationship
What To Look For In A Girlfriend
Is She Right For You?
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One of the biggest reasons why people have a hard time flirting successfully is that they don’t understand how flirting is supposed to work. But when you understand the overall philosophy of flirting, you’re in a much better position to fine tune your flirting style to one that works for you and lets you adapt to whomever you’re trying to flirt with.
These three unusual tips will teach you how to flirt like a master.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- What guys get wrong about how to flirt with someone they like
- Why social calibration is THE most important part of flirting
- How to read someone so you can flirt with them the RIGHT way
- Why understanding how to set the pace makes you more attractive
- Why you should think like a cat to flirt more effectively
...and so much more
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The Art of Social Calibration
How To Use Humor In Your Flirting
Five Different Ways To Boost Your Charisma
What Is Chemistry Pt. 2: Emotional Engagement
Fix Your Flirting
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I'm answering your most important dating questions! If you have a question about love, sex or dating, then be sure to leave a comment. Maybe the next question I answer will be yours!
This week: How can you meet more women when you live in a small town? And how do you stop having a fear of missing out on the "perfect" relationship? Book a Private Coaching Session With Dr. NerdLove Transcript available at doctornerdlove.com
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What would you do if you weren't afraid of being rejected? How would your life change if you could approach people you were attracted to without the fear of rejection?
Eliminating your fear of rejection could create a profound transformation in your life.
You can do this. You can learn to be absolutely fearless when it comes to meeting new people.
It’s just a matter of making a very simple change in your life.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- Why a fear of rejection is about a fear of loss
- How a scarcity mindset leads to being terrified of being rejected
- What the most successful, rejection-proof men all have in common
- How embracing the Friend Zone can make you fearless with women
- How having more people in your life can destroy your fear of rejection
...and so much more.
RELATED LINKS:
Leveling Up - Developing an Abundance Mentality
How To Get Women To Approach You
Finding True Confidence
Facing Your Dating Fears
5 Ways To Develop Your Social Skills... Quickly
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I'm answering your most important dating questions! If you have a question about love, sex or dating, then be sure to leave a comment. Maybe the next question I answer will be yours!
This week: Should you tell women that you're a virgin, or is it better to keep it a secret. And is dating your co-worker a good idea?
The Virgin's Guide to Great Sex
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Why did she stop replying to your texts? Why won't she text you back? Is time to panic?
When when stop responding to your texts, it can feel like she doesn't like you any more. But that's not always the case. If your text conversations are drying up before you can get her out on a date, then you may be having one of these common issues.
Here's why women won’t text you back… and what you can do about it.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- Why most reason why women won't text a guy back — it's not what you think.
- How you end up telling women not to bother replying to your texts
- What to say to keep a conversation flowing effortlessly via text
- Why guys who know this one texting secret go on more dates and have more sex than the guys who don't
- The text that is GUARANTEED to get a response, even from someone who hasn't responded in days or weeks.
... and so much more.
RELATED LINKS:
5 Common Texting Mistakes Men Make
How To Talk To Women On Social Media
How To Use Humor in Your Flirting
How to Be Instantly Magnetic To Women
How To Be Charming
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I'm answering your most important dating questions! If you have a question about love, sex or dating, then be sure to leave a comment. Maybe next week the question I'll answer will be yours!
This week: Why do so many women have empty online dating profiles? And what do you do when a woman's given you a fake number?
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Online dating sucks. Doesn't matter if it's Tinder, Bumble, OKCupid or Christian Mingle. Men get next to no matches, women get flooded with awful messages, bots, trolls and zombie profiles run rampant on most apps... it's like trying to find a diamond in a pit of sewage. Most dating apps seem designed to be frustrating to ANYONE who wants to date someone of the opposite sex.
But it doesn't have to bet that bad.
Here's why online dating is so awful... and 5 ways you can make it better.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- What science has discovered about how men and women use Tinder
- Why men match with women less than .6% of the time
- How to use dating app algorithms to your advantage
- Why you're using the WRONG dating app
- How The Cat Theory of Online Dating can improve your matches
- The biggest sin of online dating
... and so much more.
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Private Coaching With Dr. NerdLove
How To Master Tinder
Tune Up Your Tinder Profile
How To Get Laid (Without Being a F*ckboy)
Texting Mistakes Men Make
How To Write The Perfect Online Dating Message
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Toxic relationships can be hard to recognize. Are you being stubborn and selfish? Or is something actually wrong? Toxic people don't look like cartoon abusers, gloating about how great it is to manipulate folks.
Learning how to recognize the signs of a toxic relationship — and how to avoid them in the first place — will strengthen your relationships, improve your confidence and make you 100% happier. Learn to recognize these signs and how to drive toxic people out of your life.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- Why toxic relationships are so hard to recognize
- How toxic people trade on myths about love and relationships
- What red flags you should be watching
- Why "no" is your shield against toxic people
- How to enforce your boundaries — even when people think you're wrong
...and so much more.
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Is Your Relationship Toxic?
What Will You Put Up With? Boundaries, Self-Esteem and Dating
Why It's So Hard To Break Up (Even When You Need To)
Dump Your Toxic Friends
Enforcing Your Boundaries
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Why do women say they want to find a nice guy, but never seem to want to date them?
The answer is that what women are not saying is actually more important. Whenever a woman says “I wish I could find a nice guy”, there’s the unspoken modifier: “I wish i could find a nice guy… who actually excites me."
Here's how men can stop being so "nice", and start being amazing.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- What women REALLY mean when they talk about finding a nice guy
- Why women aren't attracted to "nice" guys
- Why being "nice" by itself isn't enough
- Why nice guys lose respect... and how to get it back
- How to develop the qualities women are REALLY looking for in men
...and so much more.
RELATED LINKS:
Why Being A "Nice Guy" Isn't Good Enough
Eliminating Neediness
What Bad Boys Know (That Nice Guys Don't)
Enforcing Your Boundaries
Do Women Prefer Dominant Men?
Dominance, Prosocial Orientation and Female Preferences
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Are you ruining your chances of meeting incredible women before you even start? Women HATE it when the guys they meet do these 5 things.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- How guys turn women off before they even say a word
- Why trying to impress women you're attracted to is the wrong move
- How to demonstrate REAL value and status when you're flirting
- Why you don't want to have TOO much in common
- How men manage to turn a win into a loss with this ONE mistake
...and so much more.
RELATED LINKS:
5 Signs Women Want You To Approach Them
How To Get Women To Approach You
5 Secrets To Make People Like You
How To Be Charming
Make The Right First Impression
How To Tell Amazing Stories
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Confidence isn’t about being 100% sure of your inevitable success, it’s simply feeling that you know how to handle the situation. Taking away the fear of social awkwardness helps build bullet-proof social confidence.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- Why your attitude is the key to your social success
- How you accidently cripple your in-person social skills
- Why MeetUps, mixers and networking is better for developing your social skills than cold approaches at bars
- How to block out social anxiety by avoiding the Spotlight Effect
- How to make it easier for other people to approach YOU
... and so much more.
RELATED LINKS:
Stop Being Socially Awkward Pt. 1
Stop Being Socially Awkward Pt. 2
Developing an Abundance Mentality
Face Your Dating Fears
How To Get Women To Approach YOU
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What does it take to be someone that women want to date? It's not about looks, status or money. It's about understanding the secret behind why we fall in love and with whom.
Show Highlights:
- Why guys focus on surface issues... and miss the most important parts of attraction
- Why women will reject you BEFORE getting to know the real you
- How guys turn off women long before they ever start talking to her
- Why you keep meeting the WRONG women
- What makes a woman decide INSTANTLY whether she will EVER sleep with somebody
...and so much more.
Related Links:
Become Someone Worth Dating
The Science of Nice Guys and Assholes
Why Women Say Yes To Sex
This Is Why Women Won't Date You
Build An Amazing Lifestyle That Attracts Women
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Does personality matter, or are looks the only thing that's important? Why do guys have a hard time understanding what makes a man attractive to women?
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- How much your physique ACTUALLY matters to women
- Why "attraction triggers" and evolutionary psychology give men all the wrong answers
- How we let self-limiting beliefs sabotage our dating success
- Why attraction is about more than biology
- How we confuse power fantasies for sexual ones
... and so much more.
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The Myth of What Women Want
What Matters More, Looks Or Personality?
The Subtle Things That Make Men Attractive
Do Looks Matter?
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Men feel immense pressure to look a particular way and they're breaking themselves, physically and psychically to try to get to reach those ideals.
As bodies are marketed to us as products and men are sold self-loathing, we have to ask: what does a REAL man look like?
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- How male celebrities are getting the body-shaming treatment from the media
- Why the idea of what makes a "real" man is always in flux
- How the "perfect" body has changed over time
- What men get wrong about trying to achieve the perfect body
- Why there's no body positivity movement for men
...and so much more.
RELATED LINKS:
The New (And Impossible) Standards of Male Beauty
The Fear of Being Invisible
The Myth of What Women Want
The Selling of Masculinity
What Men REALLY Need
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When Chris Morgan had a meltdown at the Bagel Boss in Long Island, he was tapping into real frustrations short men have in dating. Here's how short guys can learn to get the girl.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- How the body shaming of Jason Momoa and the Bagel Boss meltdown are symptoms of the same problem
- Why your height isn't the deal breaker you think it is
- What Tom Cruise, Robert Downey Jr., Donald Glover and Bruno Mars have in common
- Why women like tall men
- How to seem taller than you really are
...and so much more.
RELATED LINKS:
5 Dating Tips for Short Men
How To Get Women To Approach You
Finding True Confidence
Why You Should Fake It Til You Make It
What is The "It" Factor?
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Charisma and personal magnetism aren't about being the handsomest or most impressive person in the room. It's about knowing how to connect with people in ways that other folks can't. Understand how to build the right connections with people and amazing women won't be able to stop thinking about you... instead of someone else.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- What the story of one man's failure teaches us about personal magnetism and charisma
- Why your presentation matters more than your looks
- How your body language affects your connection with others
- Why intensity and authenticity is so important
- What most men get wrong about being cool, popular and desirable
...and so much more.
RELATED LINKS:
5 Ways To Be More Charismatic... Instantly
Find Your Swagger
The Value of Authenticity
5 Secrets To Being Make People Like You
How To Be Charming
5 Rules For Instantly Upgrading Your Style
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Now that Neon Genesis Evangelion is available on Netflix, what can we learn about love, life and loneliness from Shinji Ikari?
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- Why so many fans relate to Shinji Ikari
- How the End of Evangelion and "The Beast That Shouted AI at the Heart of the World" represent two paths for Shinji... and us
- Why our fear keeps us from making the relationships we most need
- How loneliness can turn to anger and violence
- Why we're (not) alone
... and so much more
RELATED LINKS:
Pacific Rim and Lessons in Positive Masculinity
Elliot Rodger and the Price of Toxic Masculinity
Where Do You Get Your Validation?
Captain America and Non-Toxic Masculinity
Why Your Life Won't Get Better (And How To Fix It)
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Incels are spending tens of thousands of dollars on plastic surgery to become Chads and they're still miserable. Here's why your life isn't getting better... and how to fix it.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- Why there are no external solutions to an internal problem
- How a micro-revolution can give you back control over your life
- Why you're stuck in your comfort zone... and how to escape it
- Why it's important to embrace The Pain Period
- How to change the world around you to fix YOUR future
... and so much more.
RELATED LINKS:
Unlearning Helplessness
5 Reasons Your Life Isn't Getting Better
How To Take Your Dating To The Next Level
Your Attitude Controls Your Dating Success
The McGurk Effect
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Flirting with amazing women is far less complicated or difficult than people think it is. Here's the secret.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- Why we rarely recognize flirting when we see it
- The key to finding your flirting style
- What makes the difference between conversation and flirting
- How to make women become addicted to you
- An underused secret technique for successful flirting
...and so much more
RELATED LINKS:
How To Use Humor In Your Flirting
The Subtle Things That Make Men More Attractive
The Most Attractive Aspect of a Man (Isn't Looks or Money)
Fix Your Flirting
How To Tell Amazing Stories
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This common belief is ruining your relationships and making it impossible to find the dating success you want.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- How one simple change in your mindset means the difference between romantic success and failure
- How guys sabotage their own chances with women
- What Doctor Horrible's Sing-Along Blog teach us about Nice Guys and Bad Boys
- Why being wrong can help you connect with women
- Why women REALLY choose the "Bad Boy" over the "Nice Guy"
...and so much more.
RELATED LINKS:
5 Simple Ways To Jumpstart Your Life
What Bad Boys Know That Nice Guys Don't
5 Secrets to Fix Your Love Life
Why Nice Guys Lose and Bad Boys Win
The Truth About "Nice Guys"
The Politics of Dr. Horrible
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Millennials in general and Millennial men are having less sex than ever. Why? And what does this have to do with #metoo and the recent #sexstrike?
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- What the Economist gets wrong about Millennials and sex
- Why #MeToo IS to blame for the "sex recession"... kind of
- Why a "sex strike" is bad activism
- How our attitudes towards sex affects our ability to please our partners
- The REAL reason why men are having less sex
...and so much more
RELATED LINKS:
F*ck Like A Gentleman
The Unbelievable Secret to Getting More Sex
Can Consent Be Sexy?
Did #MeToo REALLY Ruin Flirting?
Is Masturbation BAD For You?
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You've been waiting patiently, and it's finally here! This week, the Doc - and special guest host Crystal Donovan - take your questions from the NerdLove Hotline and dispense wit, wisdom, dating advice and digressions into side topics.
Loved this episode? Have a dating question you'd like to hear answered on here? Call your question in to 512-522-6513 and leave a voice mail!
Show Highlights:
- How do you talk about being an older virgin? What about when your friends want to talk about sex and you feel anxious?
- How do you approach women during the day on a college campus?
- What's the best way to flirt when you're worried about running out of things to day?
- How do you approach an introverted guy?
- How can you manage approach anxiety?
- The time the Doc screwed up so badly the club closed down
... and so much more.
Related Links:
The "Problem" With Male Virginity
How To Approach Women During the Day
Overcome Your Fear of Rejection
How To Have The Awkward Conversation
Finding Strength Through Vulnerability
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Almost every man who struggles with dating, is holding on to these self-limiting beliefs: beliefs and assumptions about yourself and the world that hold you back from achieving your true potential. It's time to break free from the lies we tell ourselves and discover what we're truly capable of.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- How to understand what self-limiting beliefs really are
- How to recognize our own self-limiting beliefs
- Why our beliefs are a self-fulfilling prophecy
- What it takes to break free from the cycle
- Why compassion is the most important trait for self-improvement
RELATED LINKS:
- These Self-Limiting Beliefs are Holding You Back
- Your Attitude Controls Your Dating Success
- You Are Your Own Worst Enemy
- Starting From Zero
- The 5 Things You Need to Do To Fix Your Life
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Young men are having less sex than ever. But what's more important is how you respond to that information. Here's what's ruining your chances with women.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
▶︎ How "why are men having less sex" is the wrong question
▶︎ The #1 reason why men ruin their chances with women
▶︎ How your attitude affects your love life
▶︎ The problem with "women are too picky"
▶︎ What a toxic waste monster can teach you about attraction
RELATED LINKS:
▶︎ This Is Why You Fail With Women
▶︎ The Trouble With Incels
▶︎ Which Matters More, Looks Or Personality?
▶︎ A Man's Guide To Being Happy About Being Single
▶︎ Become Someone Worth Dating
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Why aren't more women interested in casual sex? What can guys do to find women who're interested in a no-strings hook-up? It's time to talk about the TRUTH about women, casual sex and how to find it...
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
▶︎ Why women prefer relationships to hook-ups and casual partners
▶︎ How the orgasm gap affects our relationships
▶︎ Why being The Cool Girl works against women AND men
▶︎ Why "casual" sex is BAD sex
▶︎ What men can do to find more casual, no strings hook-ups
...and so much more
RELATED LINKS:
▶︎ The Truth About Casual Sex (And Where To Get It)
▶︎ 5 Rules For Better Hook-Ups
▶︎ What Women Wish Men Knew About Good Sex
▶︎ Who REALLY Has The Power In Dating?
▶︎ Stop Calling It 'Casual Sex'
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"Just be yourself" is some of the worst advice that you can give someone who wants to get better at dating. It's also the most important. So here's how to quit being yourself and learn how to become your BEST self.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
▶︎ Why "just be yourself" is useless advice
▶︎ What we REALLY mean when we say "just be yourself"
▶︎ How you can learn to change who you are
▶︎ Why most people fail at changing themselves
▶︎ Why you should fake it 'til you make it
...and so much more.
RELATED LINKS:
▶︎ What's Wrong With "Just Be Yourself"
▶︎ The 5 Things You Need To Fix Your Life
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▶︎ How To Reinvent Yourself
▶︎ The Secret to Maintaining Positive Changes
▶︎ 5 Types of Dating Advice People Need To Stop Giving
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Many virgin men-- especially older virgins -- believe that no woman’s going to want to sleep with a guy who has no experience… but they can't they get that experience without having sex.
So let’s ruin any chance of this episode being monetized and talk about what anyone — even a virgin — can do that will make them an amazing lover.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- What women REALLY think of male virgins
- Why understanding YOUR needs can help you fulfill HERS
- The one thing men DON'T do (but they SHOULD) before their first time
- Why you need to use your tongue (but not like that)
- How to avoid being a "one minute man" in bed
... and so much more.
RELATED LINKS:
Sex For Beginners
Busting The Fear of Virginity
Be The Greatest Lover She's Ever Known
F*ck Like A Gentleman (pt.1)
The Virginity Paradox
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The power dynamics of dating directly affect your dating success. But who REALLY holds the power when it comes to dating? Why do so many people get the power dynamic of dating wrong and what's the REAL power when it comes to love, sex and romance?
Show Highlights
- How many of the "rules" about dating are self-limiting beliefs in disguise
- What we're REALLY talking about when we ask who has the power in dating
- Why women DON'T have it easier than men... and how that helps YOU
- How to control the interaction
- How understanding the power dynamics of an approach can bring you greater dating success.
Related Links:
▶︎ The Economics of Sex
▶︎ Why Do Women Have All The Advantages In Dating?
▶︎ Why Women Don't Approach
▶︎ How To Get Women To Approach You
▶︎ Yes, It's STILL Creepy When Brad Pitt Does It
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Did the #MeToo movement change flirting forever? Can men no longer approach women? What makes the difference between flirting and harassment in this day and age?
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- The two types of complaints about #MeToo
- The goal behind the meme that men can't flirt anymore
- How men are getting the point of #MeToo wrong
- The MOST important part of flirting
- How to avoid being yet another creeper
RELATED LINKS:
- What Does It Take To Be A Good Man?
- Perpetuating a Toxic Culture
- The Difference Between Flirting and Harassment
- Henry Cavill and Flirting in The #MeToo Era
- Treating Men Like Idiots Is The Wrong Way To Stop Sexual Harassment
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The American Psychological Association updated it's guidelines for the treatment of boys and men to say that toxic masculine ideologies are bad for men.
Does this mean that masculinity is now a mental illness? Or is this an acknowledgement of the difficulties that men and boys face in modern society?
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- How being a man leads to unique mental and physical health issues
- Why men have a difficult time receiving effective mental health care
- What the new APA guidelines say... and what they DON'T say about men
- How understanding toxic masculine ideas affects men and boys alike
- How MRAs hurt the men they supposedly want to help
... and so much more.
RELATED LINKS:
▶︎ What Is Toxic Masculinity
▶︎ Captain America and the power of Positive Masculinity
▶︎ Why It's So Hard To Be A Good Man
▶︎ The Broken Masculinity of The Punisher
▶︎ Reclaiming Manhood
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Tell me if this has ever happened to you: you’ve started off trying to make some major change your life. You want to get better at dating, be more social, learn how to approach women, flirt a bit more... but once you’ve gotten started, nothing seems to be improving. Maybe you’ve made some minor progress, but the major changes, those big, life-changing moments, just aren’t happening.
While any journey is easy at the start, when the going gets rough, most don’t don’t keep going. Here are six tips on how to stay motivated, to find the strength to get up and keep moving forward... even when it feels like there's no point.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- Why New Years Resolutions are mostly useless
- Why most people fail to make lasting, positive changes in their lives
- Why expecting trouble makes it easier to make changes
- How you are your own worst enemy
- Why journaling can help keep you on track
... and so much more.
RELATED LINKS:
5 Steps To Having An Amazing New Year
5 Ways To Jumpstart Your Life
The 5 Things You Need To Fix Your Life
How To Change Your Life (And Make It Stick)
How To Avoid Self-Sabotage
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There are the right ways of getting back with your ex. And then there are the wrong ways.
And then there’s what Offset did to Cardi B., which is one of the most astoundingly stupid ways of trying to get your ex back.
Here's why those "grand romantic gestures" aren't romantic at all.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
- Why it's so hard to let go of an ex
- Why "Grand Romantic Gestures" are actually creepy
- How public proposals backfire
- What Offset's "apology" says about him
- Why grand gestures are the WRONG way to win someone back
...and so much more.
RELATED LINKS:
The Wrong Way To Get Your Ex Back
The Trouble With Romance (According to The Movies)
The Problem With Nice Guys
5 Signs Your Relationship Is Over
Why It's So Hard To Leave (Even When You Need To)
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To fap or not to fap... that is the question. Are there health benefits to giving up masturbation? Is porn addiction a real thing?
And just what is the NoFap movement, anyway?
It’s time talk about sex with someone you love… yourself.
Show Highlights:
- Why the “dangers” of masturbation haven’t changed in hundreds of years
- The connection between testosterone and masturbation
- Why NoFap gives "super powers"
- Why stigmatizing masturbation can be dangerous
- Why the real problem is shame, not masturbation
…and so much more.
Important News:I'm taking answering your questions on the air! Call in with your dating questions at (512) 522-6513 and leave a voice mail or you can record it send the audio file to doc@doctornerdlove.com and put “For YouTube” in the subject.
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What Men Should Have Learned In Sex Ed -
The "Problem" With Male Virginity -
Did Porn Ruin Our Sex Life?
Porn and The Real World
What We Get Wrong About Sex
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Friends, do you suffer from uncontrollable longing for someone who barely knows you’re alive? Are you unable to get over that break up, even after months or years? Do you have the sinking feeling that nobody in the world could be as right for you or mean as much as she does? Are you afraid that this was your last chance for true love?
Then you may suffer from a disease known as Oneitis. Symptoms include heart palpitations, hopelessness, anxiety, terminal loneliness, embarrassing Spotify playlists, failed romantic relationships and a tendency to seek out pornstars that look like your ex. But there is hope! Stay tuned for a special offer that’s guaranteed to cure your oneitis… Today!
Show Highlights:
- Why it's so hard to get over an ex
- What we get wrong about Oneitis
- How to understand why you can't get over her
- Why you need to practice some radical forgiveness
- How learning to get over your ex can make your relationships better
... and so much more.
Related Links:
Eliminating Neediness
How To Develop An Abundance Mentality
Do You Suffer From Oneitis
How To Get Over Her
Getting Over Your Fear of Rejection
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How do you tell the difference between when someone's flirting with you and just being polite? And why are we so bad at telling the two apart in the first place?
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:
- How men and women both misjudge flirting behavior in others
- Why "Straight Dude Thinking" gets in the way of flirting success
- Why we mistake politeness and friendliness for interest
- How to recognize the signs that someone is flirting with you
- The number one key to recognizing that someone is interested... and not just being friendly.
RELATED LINKS:
- Ask Dr. NerdLove: What’s the Difference Between Flirting and Just Being Friendly?
- Read Her Signs (Without Reading The Tea Leaves)
- Fix Your Flirting
- How To Get Women To Approach You
- 5 Signs Women Want You To Approach Them
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One of the subjects I come back to fairly often is the idea of toxic masculinity.
It’s something that I personally feel is important to talk about because of how much it directly affects men and makes our lives that much harder and that much worse.
However, whenever we talk about masculinity in any form, there is such a regular response from people, in the comments and on twitter and elsewhere, that you can practically set your watch by it: “when are you going to talk about toxic femininity?”
And you know what? Fine. Buckle up folks, 'cuz we're doing this.
Show Highlights:
- Why nobody can agree on a definition of "toxic femininity"
- What we don't understand about toxic masculinity... and how that affects how we see femininity
- Who gets to define what is or isn't toxic behavior
- What are the differences between "toxic" forms of manhood vs. womenhood
- What is the source of toxic femininity
...and so much more.
Related Links:
The Selling of Masculinity
What is Toxic Masculinity?
How Men Make Women Feel Unsafe
Why Is It So Hard To Be A Good Man
Nerd Role Models: Captain America and Non-Toxic Masculinity
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When we talk about being more attractive to women, we tend to focus on the surface. We talk about how to dress, what to say, how to act. But that’s the polish, the sizzle, not the substance. It may get people's attention, but without any substance to back it up, it won't keep it.
Your lifestyle is what makes you more interesting and more desirable to women.
When you have built the right lifestyle, it will bring women into your life without effort.
Show Highlights:
- Why your looks, your job, your bank account or your style isn't what attracts women
- What we get wrong about attractive lifestyles
- Why most men live empty, boring lives
- How authenticity attracts more attention than "cool"
- How living an attractive lifestyle brings the right women into your life
...and so much more.
Related Links:
Five Reasons Your Life Isn't Going To Get Better
No More Magic Feathers: The Secret to Real Self Improvement
Developing Your Lifestyle
Five Simple Ways To Jumpstart Your Life
How To Meet Women, Effortlessly
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Success, whether in life or in relationships, doesn't come from having the perfect plan or never making a mistake. It comes
a mindset that strips away the things that hold you back and keeps you focused on what matters. You learn to avoid all of the ways you sabotage yourself and develop the emotional strength it takes to get up and win.
Whether you're looking for love or chasing your dreams, if you change your mindset, you change your life.
Show Highlights:
- Why success is born out of your attitude, not your actions
- How a self-limiting beliefs trap us in a cycle of failure
- Why we let the things we can't control ruin our chances for success
- Why an abundance mindset makes it easier to succeed in relationships
- How the way we choose to see the world can change our future
... and so much more.
Related Links:
Your Attitude Controls Your Dating Success
Developing an Abundance Mentality
Redefining Failure
Overcome Your Fear of Rejection
How To Build A Mindset for Success
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How often has the frustration of being single gotten to you?
How many times have you asked yourself: why aren’t you going to get any better? Why do other people find love and you don't? Why aren’t you able to build the life that you want to live and be the man you dream about being?
It's time to talk about the reason why so many guys won't find a girlfriend or lover... and what you can do to avoid their mistake.
Show Highlights:
- What is the Negativity Bias and why does it ruin your social success?
- Why so many men choose pain over love
- Why we believe that truth has to hurt
- How men's anxieities cause them to self-destruct
- How to build the strength you need to keep going
...and so much more.
Related Links:
What Is Toxic Masculinity? - http://www.doctornerdlove.com/what-is-toxic-masculinity/
Build Your Emotional Resilience - http://www.doctornerdlove.com/build-emotional-resilience/
Your Attitude Controls Your Dating Success - http://www.doctornerdlove.com/your-attitude-controls-your-dating-success/
The Only Thing In The Way of Social Success - http://www.doctornerdlove.com/only-thing-in-way-success/
Redefining Failure - http://www.doctornerdlove.com/redefining-failure/
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If you’re looking for advice on dating women, then you're going to find many, many self-proclaimed experts in the female mind.
The problem is that most of them are almost entirely wrong. Worse, they set men up for failure by insisting on an outlook that puts men and women in conflict.
It's time to talk about WHY men often have a hard time understanding and relating to women... and why it's so important, if you want to be socially successful.
Show Highlights:
- Why so much "advice" about women causes conflict instead of helping to resolve it
- How we convince ourselves that we know more than we actually do
- How the "Men Are From Mars/ Women Are From Venus" dichotomy gets it wrong
- The REAL reason men and women don't understand each other
- What the most successful lovers have in common
...and so much more.
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The Myth of What Women Want
5 Simple Ways to Jumpstart Your Life
Detoxifying Masculinity
Understanding The Dangers of Dating
How To Understand Women
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Over the last month, the nation has had one of many conversations about sexual assault and the affect it has on survivors. And as more women speak up, sharing their stories, sharing their pain and their rage, there are guys — guys who don’t want to be part of the problem, who want to be good men — who want to know what they can do to make things better.
And the answer is simple: men need to step up. We need to learn to be the men we were always meant to be and the men the world needs right now. We need to learn how to be better.
Show Highlights:
- Why men need to do the work to make the world better
- How the system we live in keeps men from seeing the realities women live with
- Why it's important to simply listen to women
- What #believewomen actually means
- Why we need to get comfortable with being uncomfortable
...and so much more
Related Links:
Nerds and Male Privilege
What Does It Take To Be A Better Man?
Reclaiming Manhood: Detoxifying Toxic Masculinity
Why It's So Hard To Be A Good Man
Captain America and Non-Toxic Masculinity
Straight White Male: The Lowest Difficulty Setting There Is
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There's a lot of bad advice out there when it comes to flirting. Advice that not only does it not work, but is actually a masterclass in how to creep women out and occasionally piss them off.
Meeting women can be hard enough without making flirting mistakes that’re going to backfire, messily and all over the place. The last thing you want to do is ruin your chances with a woman by making the wrong move. Women want to like you and for you to like them too. So don't screw it up. Learn how to avoid these common flirting mistakes that men make and women HATE.
Show Highlights:
- Why your attitude controls your dating success
- How flirting the wrong way just wastes your time
- The common mindset that drives women away
- How many guys ruin the attraction they've built with women
- Why status isn't the attraction switch guys think it is
and so much more...
Related Links:
Five Signs Women Want You To Approach Them
The Mistakes Men Make WHen Approaching Women
Privilege, Entitlement and Dating
How To Not Being Creepy
The Mistakes Men Make That Cost Them Dates
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Learning how to dress well is one of the quickest and easiest ways to be more attractive. When you start dressing up sharp, you look amazing... and most people don't. But it takes very little to stand out and be sharpest dressed, most stylish guy in the room… and without spending a small fortune in the process.
You just have to know the rules.
Show Highlights:
- The one style rule that matters above all others
- The celebrity secret to looking incredible all the time
- How clothes are SUPPOSED to fit
- The secret to upgrading your wardrobe for cheap
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How many times have you had a first date that you thought was amazing... but never lead to a second date?
First dates can be tricky and frustrating. A lot of guys are good at getting a first date, but can never turn it into a second or third date. No matter what they seem to do, they’re left with a series of first dates to nowhere with nothing to show for it. And the problem is that most first dates are just bad. If you want to get that second date, then you need to understand just what makes one first date boring and another date incredible.
Show Highlights:
- What guys get wrong about first dates
- Why women don't want to see you again
- What to talk about on a first date
- Why traditional first date ideas are bad
- How to plan a memorable and unique first date
... and so much more.
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When we talk about being attractive, we tend to think of it in terms of being physically good looking. But there’s a difference between being good looking and being attractive. People can be stunningly beautiful but have all the sex appeal of a block of wood. Meanwhile there can be people who are ugly as sin and yet have an almost mystical level of sex-appeal.
Being attractive isn’t about whether you have abs like whoah or cheekbones that you could cut cheese with. It’s not about your skull or your jawline; it’s about the way you present yourself and the effort you put in. Attractiveness is about the holistic person and the little changes that make you go from "nice" to "...niiiiiice".
Show Highlights:
- Why physical looks are only a small part of attraction
- The simplest and quickest way to change how you look
- One simple tip for an amazing haircut
- The number one way men kill attraction
- Why most men will never actually improve
...and so much more
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One of the mistakes a lot of people make is that they assume that social success is a binary. Either you’re good with girls or you aren’t and there’s nothing you can do about it. But the good news is: that’s not true.
Dating, being more successful with women, even just being more socially fluent is a skill that you can practice, and if you can practice it, you CAN get better at it. And you can learn to improve those skills quickly by breaking things down and practicing those skills individually… and integrating that practice into your day to day life.
Show Highlights:
- How to make practicing social skills faster and more efficient
- How to master making strong eye-contact
- The secret to learning better non-verbal communication
- Why practicing awareness leads to stronger social skills
- The secret to beating approach anxiety
...and so much more.
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Doctor's Note: There's a recurring audio issue with this week's episode that I wasn't able to fully eliminate. I've edited around it as best as I could but it'll crop up a couple times. Sorry about that.
The idea that women like “bad boys” or “assholes”, and that there a bright line between guys who get dates — the assholes — and guys who don’t — the “nice guys” gets kicked around in dating circles as though it were gospel truth. It’s one that feels true, especially if you’re someone who thinks they fall into the nice guy side of the equation. But the reality is very different.
The issue isn’t that bad boys are desirable and nice guys are unattractive because science or evolutionary psychology or anything else. It’s far simpler than that. It’s not about what those supposed ‘bad boys’ do. It’s about what the nice guys… don’t.
Show Highlights:
- Why nice guys buy into the myth of the bad boy
- How nice guys hinder their own success
- The simple, easy way to transform an average joe into a hot man about town
- How your attitude affects your attractiveness
- The one thing "bad boys" know that nice guys don't
...and so much more
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When it comes to dating, there is one common issue that men have that will kill any chance you have to build attraction or a relationship: neediness.
Neediness and needy behavior is the Anti-Sex equation. No matter what else you have going for you in your life — you could travel the world, you could be world famous, you could be a millionaire with a mansion and a yacht — neediness will ultimately make people nope the hell out of your life, whether you’re in a relationship, or just trying to start one. Neediness drives people away because it's that’s a sign that someone's just not ready for a relationship.
But overcoming neediness isn't about following rules like "only text X number of times" or "only see her Y times per week"... it's about addressing the source of needy behavior.
Show Highlights:
- Why women are turned off by needy behavior
- How neediness is a sign of other dating deal-breakers
- Why men with low self-esteem have a harder time finding lasting relationships
- How fear causes needy behavior
- Why most men never overcome neediness
...and so much more.
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A lot of men don’t know how to approach women in groups — whether they’re with other women or a mixed group of men, women and more. As a result, they tend to focus on that one person… and end up coming across like a hyena trying to separate a gazelle from the herd. Fortunately, it’s actually very easy to join in a groups, in a way that not only encourage them to accept you, but help you make a powerful connection almost immediately.
You just have to understand how to manage group dynamics.
Show Highlights:
- What men get wrong about approaching groups of women
- The common mistake that gets you rejected by groups
- How men send the wrong signal when approaching women
- Why talking to one person in the group is a mistake
- Understand the power of the 3:2 ratio
...and so much more
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Recently Henry Cavill gave his thoughts about flirting in a post #MeToo era during an interview with GQ Australia, where he claimed to be afraid that flirting with someone might lead to his being dragged through hell because… reasons. And while he has since apologized for his insensitive remarks, they struck a chord with many people: where do you find the line between welcome flirting and sexual harassment? Does it come down to “flirting is when women like you and harassment is when they don’t"? What are the rules that define what's flirting and what isn't?
Show Highlights:
- Why do some men get away with flirting with women when other men get called out for it?
- Why "Just Be Attractive" gets it wrong
- The crucial details that make the difference between welcome flirting and unwelcome invasions of space
- How to tell when someone wants you to flirt with them
- Why nobody is harassing people by accident
...and so much more
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The state of sexual education in America is appalling. If schools aren't required by law to only teach abstinence-only education, then at most we get a glorified plumbing lesson instead of what we really need to know. As a result: more and more people are turning to porn for lessons in sex and sexuality.
But what if there's a better way? If the educational system fails us - either through ignorance or design - can we take sex-ed to the people? Can we disrupt sex education and give people access to the information they need via their smartphones? This week, I talk with Juicebox app developer Brianna Rader about relationship coaching, what we get wrong about sex ed, the trouble with porn... and also what it's like to be condemned personally by the state of Tennessee.
And be sure to listen until the end; there's an exclusive offer for my fans.
Show Highlights:
- Why schools are falling behind when it comes to teaching us about sex
- How porn is filling in the gaps... and why that's a problem
- Why we have such a hard time communicating our wants and needs with our partners
- What it's like trying to fund a sex-based start-up today
- How independent apps are changing the future of education
... and so much more.
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(Content Warning: Sexual Assault)
On June 26th, Expendables and Brooklyn 99 star Terry Crews testified before Congress in support of the Sexual Assault Survivor’s Bill of Rights. As part of his advocacy for survivors of rape and sexual assault, Crews talked about his own experience of having been the victim of sexual violence. In doing so he challenged the narrative of what it means to be the survivor of sexual assault... and showed us how we fail male victims of sexual violence.
Show Highlights:
- Why few men ever speak up about having been sexually assaulted
- How we teach men to not trust other men
- How we treat male sexual assault as a joke
- Why the narrative of who can be a victim harms survivors of sexual assault
- Why rape and sexual assault isn't about sex
and so much more.
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Lots of guys get anxious about approaching women that they're attracted to. But what if there were a way to change that. Ever wished you were one of those men who had women coming up to them?
You can be... if you understand why women are willing to approach some men and not others. If you understand the secrets to why women do and don't make the first move, you can learn to be the guy that women notice... and they'll be eager to introduce themselves to you.
Show Highlights:
- Why women don't make the first move... and what you can do about it
- How most men make it impossible for women to approach them
- What you can do to make sure you stand out and be the man that women want to approach
- The secret signal that you can use to get women to come talk to you
- The number one mistake men make that makes women decide to talk to someone else
... and so much more.
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How often has this happened to you: you've got a woman's number, but you never seem to be able to actually get a date. You may be doing great at first, but then you notice that it’s taking longer and longer for her to reply and those replies are getting shorter and shorter until you get... nothing. And now you're left wondering just what happened... and why it keeps happening to you.
Texting may have been a godsend to shy, awkward guys who want to get dates, but you still have to know how to do it right. You may be used to talking with your thumbs like God intended, but that doesn’t mean that your texting game is all it should be. In fact, if you're regularly getting radio silence or have a hard time turning numbers into dates, then you're probably making one of these common texting mistakes.
Show Highlights:
- How texting changed the dating game... and how it made things harder
- Why so many men get ghosted after they get her number
- The mistake men make when trying to build attraction over text
- How even the most well-meaning men can end up ruining women's interest in them through one wrong text
- The number one mistake men make that costs them dates
...and so much more
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Men on the whole, and white, heterosexual men in particular, tend to have fewer friends than women and the friendships they do have tend to be shallower and less fulfilling. It’s really not uncommon for guys to look up and realize just how few friends they have outside of family members and romantic relationships. And by then… it feels like it’s too late. After all, it's easy to make friends when you're in college. But how do you go about making friends when you're a grown man?
Show Highlights:
- How men train themselves out of having close friends
- Why male friendships tend to be shallower than female friendships
- Why it's harder to make friends after college
- The Friendship Formula: what it takes to make close friends
- How to turn acquaintances into lifelong friendships
...and so much more
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Men, especially heterosexual men, tend to have very few deep, emotional connections, and of the ones they do have, very few of them are with other men. And that’s actually a problem.
Men are dealing with an epidemic of loneliness and isolation and it's literally killing us. But despite the damage that loneliness can cause, men have a hard time finding and fostering emotionally close and intimate relationships. Why are male friendships so shallow and transitory and what can we do to build the relationships we need?
Show Highlights:
- How loneliness is literally hurting men
- Why men have a harder time building closer, stronger social ties than women
- How society inadvertently teaches men to avoid close friendships with other men
- Why toxic masculinity prevents men from from building the relationships we want
- How the ways men try to bond actually makes it harder to actually become close with their friends
... and so much more.
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Everyone and their dog will tell you that confidence is sexy, it’s probably the oldest trope in dating advice besides “just be yourself”. And, in fairness… they’re right. Confidence is an important part of being attractive, and not having confidence is going to hold you back.
Of course, nobody ever tells you just how you’re supposed to get that confidence. It’s easy to talk about being confident when you already feel it. When you don’t… well, as far as dating advice goes, “just be more confident” is about as useful as telling someone “it’s easy to fly; all you have to do is throw yourself at the ground and miss!”
But what makes it even harder to develop your self-confidence is that a lot of people don’t understand what confidence actually is.
This week, it's time to break down what confidence is, what it isn't and 5 tips that you can use right now to unlock powerful, unshakable self-confidence.
Show Highlights:
- The mistake that people make that makes it impossible to build their own self-confidence
- Why even the most accomplished people may not feel confident
- What unconfident men all have in common
- How you sabotage your own self-confidence
- Why failure is the key to confidence
...and so much more.
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What is it that makes one person creepy and another person attractive? Why do some men set off women's Spidey-sense while other men can do the exact same things and be perfectly fine?
Guys - especially ones who aren’t the most socially well-calibrated - worry a lot about being creepy by accident. They worry that being a creeper, even if it’s entirely unintentional - will start be the start of a long process that begins with being called creepy and eventually leads to their dying alone in a cave because they’ve been kicked out of all society, everywhere. But what is it that can cause even seemingly perfectly normal behavior to make people feel uncomfortable... and how can you avoid it?
Show Highlights:
- Why being creepy isn't about who's hot and who's not
- How society makes it harder for women to trust their instincts
- The psychology behind why certain behaviors make women uncomfortable
- What behaviors trigger women's sense of danger and why
- The key to avoiding being a creeper
...and so much more.
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Recently, we’ve been talking about toxic masculinity and all of the ways that it damages men on the individual level and society on the whole. One of the enduring questions is: so what do we do about it.
Part of the way we start end the damage that toxic masculinity does and help heal some of the pain is to talk openly and honestly about some of the issues that come bundled in the toxic masculinity package. And one of the biggest issues is the topic of sex - especially how it affects men who aren’t having it.
A lot of people - men and women both - feel ashamed of being virgins, and honestly, the way we treat virginity is profoundly fucked up. And it can be especially troubling for male virgins because there’s a lot of cultural bullshit caught up in masculine identity and sexuality. Sex is a core component of toxic masculinity; your value and measure of a man is in how much sex you have and how often you have it. If you haven’t had any… well, are you really a man at all?
It's time to talk about the shame, the stigma and the frustration that comes from being a virgin when you don't want to be.
Show Highlights:
- How our brains drive our frustration with being virginity
- Why toxic masculinity is behind the shame of being a male virgin
- How society creates pressure to lose your virginity as soon as possible
- Whether being a virgin is a turn-off to women
- Why there's no such thing as "too late"
...and so much more
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Over the last couple of weeks, it seems as though the world has been talking about incels - people who refer to themselves as being involuntarily celibate. But while we are all bringing attention to the existence of incels, but there aren't many resources for people who want to stop being involuntarily celibate.
What is the real issue that drives otherwise good people to the incel community? How can someone who calls themselves involuntarily celibate break the cycle and escape the hate and misogyny that's inherent in the incel scene?
Show Highlights:
- Why getting laid and sex workers aren't the solution to the problem with incels
- How incels doom themselves to failure when they try to get better
- Why sex and sexual frustration isn't the root of the problem
- How the incel community deliberately makes people feel worse
- The key to fixing the real problem that's driving incels
... and so much more.
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The question of “how do I get out of The Friend Zone” is among the top Google searches out there when it comes to relationship advice. The idea of the Friend Zone as a sort of dating Stalag-17 has driven more people into the Pick Up and Red Pill community than almost any other topic.
For a lot of guys, the Friend Zone is the ultimate expression of the dating binary: you’re good with women or you aren’t, and there’s nothing that you can do about it. Guys find themselves in platonic relationships with women that they’re attracted to because they don’t really know what to do or they’re to afraid to do what’s needed. As a result, you have people who are understandably and legitimately frustrated by a situation that they don’t fully get, or know what to do about it.
So this week: there's no BS, no snake oil and no creepy, manipulative tactics. Just everything you need to know about why you're in The Friend Zone... and how to get out of it.
Show Highlights:
- What most men don't understand about The Friend Zone
- How you ended up in The Friend Zone in the first place
- Why the way most people try to leave The Friend Zone never works
- What you need to do to change the nature of your relationship from platonic to sexual
- The number one mistake men make when trying to escape The Friend Zone
...and so much more
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One of the long-running questions that men have tried to solve has been why women choose to date and sleep with some men over others — and, more importantly, how we could become those men.
This is something that a lot of men get wrong, in no small part because one of the mistakes guys make is that they tend to look in the wrong place. What women tend to find attractive isn’t looks or status or money, it’s value. Women who’re interested in men want to find a high-value man.
But the question is: what does that value look like and how do you become a high-value man?
Show Highlights:
- What men get wrong about what women look for in a man
- Why looks, money and status aren't as important as you think
- How to build and demonstrate your value
- How confidence and neediness affect value
- The difference between a high-value man and someone trying to fake value
... and so much more.
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Toxic masculinity doesn’t mean that that being a man is toxic, bad or even undesirable. At the same time non-toxic or positive masculinity doesn’t mean apologizing for being a man or trying to be as gender neutral as possible.
While toxic masculinity refers to behaviors and beliefs about manhood and masculinity that are lauded as positive and to be emulated when, in reality, they’re painful, detrimental or destructive to the individual or society as a whole, positive masculinity expands what it means to be a man - physically, emotionally or even socially.
But it’s while easy to talk about what positive masculinity isn’t, it sometimes can be hard to conceive of what it is. So let's examine just what positive forms of masculinity look like in the modern era.
Show Highlights:
- Why toxic masculinity isn't about apologizing for being a man
- How positive masculinity exists beyond Terry Crews and Captain America
- How Mr. Rogers' gentle, caring manhood influenced a generation
- Why sex is an important part of positive masculinity
- What it positive masculinity says about how to be a man
... and so much more.
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The Broken Masculinity of The Punisher
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What do Men’s Rights Advocates, popular self-help gurus, the alt-right and the movie Fight Club all have in common? They're all trying to answer the question of "What's wrong with men?"
It’s pretty undeniable that men are facing a tipping point in today’s society. Whether we’re talking about the changes inspired by Me Too movement, the fact that women now outnumber men in undergraduate programs across the country, the way the economy impacts gender roles or the ongoing question of just what does it mean to be a man now… men are in a state of change and flux.
And there are a lot of men out there who feel lost, confused, even a little scared. But there are people out there who use those anxieties against us. Why do men feel so disconnected and lost in this day and age and what is the answer to finding our masculinity again?
Show Highlights:
- Why Fight Club remains relevant today
- How MRAs, the alt-right and Jordan Peterson use a mythical "lost masculinity" as a recruiting tool
- Why men feel disconnected from being men
- Why the need for intimacy pushes men into hate movements
- How men use violence to substitute for connection
...and so much more.
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Normally when I talk about dating issues, I'm talking about issues that primarily affect men, from a man's perspective. However, it can also be incredibly useful to look at the dating issues that women face as well. Not only does this help overcome misconceptions that men often have about the dating experience for women, but also illustrates ways that our own misunderstandings about relationships and what women want can get in the way of dating success. So this week, I'm talking with Jenna Birch, author of The Love Gap: A Radical Plan to Win at Life And Love about her book, what women go through in the modern dating world and what straight men might want to know about dating from the other side of the equation.
Show Highlights:
- How men and women approach dating differently
- Why what we say we want in a partner and what we actually pursue are often so different
- Laser thinking vs. Web thinking
- How Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs can affect your love life
- Why backburnering may not be a bad thing after all
And so much more...
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This week we're doing something different. With the continuing progress of #metoo, #timesup and the questions about consent, there's no better time to talk about building towards a culture of enthusiastic consent. That's why I sit down with activist and writer Kitty Stryker, the editor of "Ask: Building Consent Culture" and talk about Aziz Ansari, what consent culture would look like, how society trains everyone to ignore their own boundaries and how to start examining the other ways we push boundaries - both our own and other people's.
Show Highlights:
- How we get consent wrong
- Why we find enthusiastic consent to be so scary
- Why everyone makes mistakes regarding consent and how to handle them
- How examining non-sexual consent makes it easier to talk about sexual agency
- What it takes to build a society that prioritizes consent
and so much more.
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Ask: Building Consent Culture
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